Is it okay to date my best friends ex-boyfriend?
552216
Well, I don't think it's a good idea to date her ex-boyfriend if you remain friends with her.  She may end up being jealous or if not jealous and she doesn't care, then she probably thinks he's a jerk anyway and let you find out for yourself.
802742
Don't do it!\n\nFriends are really important. Dating their exes is not a good idea because it can make things really strange between you. (been there...it's really not nice) and it can be really awkward if you bring him along to something where your friend is too.
830627
how the hell would we know. we dont know what either of u look like, but i can tell u this, neither of u should go out with him, bc its not right for him to do that to either of u, ur friends. and no boi is worth loosen ur friend over. i just see this guy as being a problem for both of u.  bc if u or ur friend date him, one of u will get ur feelings hurt, or try to take him away from the other, and oh boy just a big mess.
364892
Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
932749
It depends on how serious they were...If she was really into him, and is still hurting from the relationship, then obviously, No. But if they have moved on and have remained friends, and can look back at their relationship and laugh, then Yes. I was in that situation and my friend actually suggested that I get with her ex, because it was so obvious that we had chemistry. Sometimes girls fall so hard for guys that we become blind to others feelings though, so make SURE your friend is okay with it. But even if she isn't, if it's meant to be with the guy, it will be.
421388
I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
53252
Why not? hes your best friend. My best friend and me are closer than her boyfriend.  Its best if i know other issues involved but for the question alone, i dont sense any reason why not go out.
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
303873
I would hope that your best friend would have enough respect for you to not date any of your ex-girlfriends.  Women come and go (same as men), but 'real" friends don't.  But, yeah, I would be a little upset.
559892
chicks before d.icks sweetie. \n\nMost likely you wont be with this person forever, but you have a much better chance of being with your friend forever. \n\nA few years ago I would have told you to just ask her if it is okay...\n\nbut I did that once with my best friend and I dated him for a year. it was a horrible relationship so not only did I go through a year of pain and hurt with the boy, but I lost the only true friend I had, even though she had said it would be okay.\n\nYou know in your heart what you should do..\n\nso follow that.
1078510
Well I think that depends on their relationship before they broke up and their relationship now.If he is still interested in the ex then no. But if he genuinely just a caring person who wants to be friends with his ex because that is the type of person he is and it is not coming between your new relationship then yes.
408735
Yes. It is normal and should be a rule never to date any of your sisters ex boyfriends. For that reason. Once you were ever involved with someone..that should always be yours and sisters should never tress pass onto your territory. Even though you are not involved with him any more..it is your memories not to be shared with a sister in that way. If my sister was to get with any of my ex's..that would be to uncomfortable,with good reason.
190121
There's no hard-and-fast rule.  The consensus seems to be that it's not a good idea because of the harm it may cause your ex and the awkwardness it may create in the new relationship.  However, if your ex is out of the picture, and it's unlikely you'll see him again, and his status as your ex doesn't pollute the current relationship, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't explore it.  If it's inevitable that he'll find out, and you've been with him for a long time, you should wait a while before pursuing his friend, and you also should consider letting him know your intentions.
56592
TO answer the question is it okay . . . I would say if they never officially DATED and it was just known that she liked him, I would say yes, it is okay, BUT--------\n\nyou have to be prepared that she will be hurt if she still has feelings for him. How solid is your friendship. Be prepared for her to ask how you got started on this path-- I watched a love triangle like this  before, and it was not pretty, but in that case the friends had been boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't have that problem here. \n\nTalk to your friend as soon as possible to break the news to her. WHateer you do, DON'T sneak around with the guy. A year is a good amount of time to have passed. \n\nGood luck!
1104265
Ask your friend. I know you said ex-bestfriend but you r still friends right? If you arent then I would think you can go ahead and pursue her but if you are still friends then talk to your friend and find out how he feels about it first. Remember, friends sometimes last a lot longer than gf/bf relationships.
659502
Your probably looking for someone to tell you its ok. Well I'm not going to lie to you.  Guys have this rule bros before hoes.  Its totally wrong for you to go out with his best friend.  Even worse if you sleep with his best friend he will eventually tell your ex everything you guys do.
393815
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x