how can you tell if your girl is a dom or a sub????
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depends on how dependent on that part of ur sex life you are to be happy.  if it revolves around the dom/sub routine, that its not the best match.  if not, it doesnt matter.  i find it esp hot to make a strong dom woman submit anyway.  you could also dom other people together.
628357
It's a fetish. If it doesn't bother you, then play along...if it does bother you, tell her and compromise on another way for her to indicate she is in the mood.
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For many, it isn't about choice. Its about an innate need. It is hard (for me at least) to describe or explain the feelings. I am submissive, I crave domination. It's something I have felt since the age of 14.
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first and most imporant, take a shower!!! scrub that puppy if u must but make sure it's clean, maybe take a shower together, get out blind fold her and get in the 69 postion and while she's enjoying your "services" try ****gently************ pushing her head down or raising your "member" to her lips. . . don't get too exicited!!
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If she likes being spanked hard, go ahead and do it.  She'll be thoroughly turned on and the sex will be fantastic.  Don't worry about doing her any lasting damage - female bottoms are well padded and can be spanked long and hard without causing anything more than temporary discomfort.\n\nIf you don't like causing bruises, try starting out with a fairly light hand-spanking, gradually getting harder until her bottom's glowing red and well warmed-up.  After that you should be able to use a paddle, hairbrush or whatever else she likes without risk of bruising.\n\nRemember, she's showing you a lot of love and trust in asking you to hurt her in just this one special way she likes to be hurt.  And if you don't do it, she'll never be fully satisfied.  Make a game of the whole thing if that makes it easier for you.  With luck, the pleasure she gets will soon make it easier for you to start enjoying it as well.\n\nGood luck!
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Pay attention to the "spots" on her body.  It's very psychological as well as physical.  clitoral stimulation while performing is a real good trick.  If that doesn't work then simply ask her.  If you are open enough to have sex then you should be open enough to talk about what the needs and likes and wants are.
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man you really have probs...ill bet i could get u a nice Dom to supervise you!!
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Girls are always possessive in nature. If she try to dominate you,I think there is no harm untill you dominate her in bed.
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greetings krys....\n\nA few more comments since you have a second copy of this question. These comments are based on your addendums.\n\nYour first type is the mundane sort of man who is so socialized away from being a Master that he will probably never be one and will fight against what you want to do. The best thing you can do with them is to move on as soon as you can.\n\nThe second type are the ones who are doing it either to please you, not because they have the real ability to master you or because they are used to dealing with subs and not slaves and don't know how to command and control a slave versus the ones they have to cajole into doing what they want outside of a scene. Some of these men can learn the difference. First they have to learn to be men. \n\nThe third group is often similar to the first group except that they overcompensate to the opposite extreme or they are BDSM sadists who find would be kajira easy prey and then unleash their real desires after they think they have someone who will do anything for them. You usually will not spot these until they relax their guard or think they have you where you can not get away. Or...they just get impatient or angry. \n\nAs for your last point, a girl is submissive until she is actually enslaved and that enslavement is mental and emotional more than physical. A Gorean Master will usually not intentionally mistreat or abuse his slave. He may be hard or soft with her as he chooses or may punish her if he feels a need to do so but they are not into inflicting pain on others. No...your actions and desires are not appropriate to mainstream society and we both know that. They are appropriate for what you wish to be. \n\nHow can you get a Dom to appreciate you? Be the sub or slave he wishes you to be. However, Doms are not Gorean. They are BDSMers who are usually more into it for the sexual gratification and often infliction of pain on others. I have summed it up this way. A bottom is interested in what the top can do to her. A sub is interested in what the Dom can do with her. The Gorean slave is interested in what she can do for her Master. \n\nI would not try to force someone into something they do not wish to be or can not be. You will only be disappointed. If you find someone close to what you are looking for, you might be able to give them a push in the direction you wish but there is no way to be certain if they will go there or not.\n\nbe well....\n\nMalkinius
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I'm in the process of finding the same thing with my guy. I honestly dont know but I'll be looking out for answers. Plus to those who always reply with 'ask her/him' thats not always as simple as it sounds.
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Whatever type of sexy you decide to engage in, it need to be mutually enjoyed by both.  Some girls don't like giving oral sex while others love it.  To be safe, don't force her to have oral sex with you or she may bite it off.  OUCH!
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Please dont do that the first time you have sex with her... That will scare her especially if she doesn't have a lot of sexual experience. Find out how much sexual experience she has had.  Ask questions and snoop (kinda) "what the kinkiest thing you have done" or "whats the freakiest thing you would do or want to do" or  when your out at the mall somewhere and pat her but and see how she reacts... If she says OOOOOhhhh and kisses you then maybe its a good idea if you do it and she says what are doing and gives you a crazy look.... Please don't spank her...\n\nHope this helps
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• Why even question something dat's goin' so great?\n\n...then again, I can understand da fact dat u're tryin to b considerate of ur man as well. Givin oral can b (believe it or not) pleasurable for da person givin it. I sometimes get a bigger turn-on by seein how my girl enjoys it while I'm pleasurin her. \n\nIf u'd like to know how he really feels, but u don't wanna just come out n ask him, try askin general questions or have an open n friendly chat instead. Havin both of u talk about intimate things will not only help him open up n tell u how he really feels about oral(without u being direct about it), but it'll also help him understand what u also like n dislike as well. Its a win win dontcha think?\n\nI once found out about a real cool (n kinky) fantasy my ex had just by talkin about da things we love to do in bed, favorite positions, fantasies etc. So I surprised her one day n made two or her fantasies a reality. How cool is dat huh?\n\n...good luck to ya!
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You don't set the list, supid slave, she does!  Find a sexy story about domination and let that feed her imagination.  There's a ton of manuals at Amazon.com and online sites with suggestive domination toys.\n\nThis list business suggests she's not really interested at the outset or she could make her own.  If sexy stories etc. don't arouse her or at least amuse her, then it's a bad idea to force it.  Leave the door open for later experimentation.
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NO! Would you like your girl to do that 2 you. IF they have an understanding(and you should find out) IT doesn't matter. Don't mess with it!
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I would just try it during sex and see what her reaction is.  I don't see why she wouldn't like it. As long as your not hurting her and it's not a bunch of times she should be ok and if she see's it turns you on, then I wouldn't see why she should have a problem with it!  But I would wait til a night when you are both really into it and getting a little kinky.  OR you could try ahead of time while playing around while dressed and say something to her about "what if I spank you? woudl that turn you on?" and kinda do it to her while dressed and see what she says!  Good luck!  I hope you get the good sex you want!!!
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Your question is very complex. I'll try to make the answer simple.\nFirst, I'm rather a BD (bondage/domination) than a SM (Sado-Masochism). The first problem is that BDSM mixes too many fetishes. Type BDSM in Yahoo!, and you'll get answers that go from classy esthetical and sophisticated bondage and fetish games to highly degrading and pervert stuff. Rather confusing.\nIf you stick to BDSM as an intelligent and creative sex game, in which playing dominant or sub brings a lot of intellectual pleasure, then I'm definately a big fan (and lucky enough to play such games in real life). When bondage and domination are seen as an art, it's really something interesting.\nOf course, the stereotypical images that you mention are pretty funny. Like the guys calling them "Master" or "Lord", who should know better that the sub is in fact giving the tone of any good "session".\nI don't know what you mean with the "functions in modern society". It seems in fact that our society is getting more and more fetish oriented (see Jennifer Garner in Alias, or movies such as Underworld...). So I guess fetish oriented people play a role in society, as they always did.\nThe only thing I hope is that all the people who are interested in such games, you maybe, will find the right partner. And that rather than trying to respect so-called BDSM rules, they live BDSM as something that makes their life better. As long as there is respect and love, it's all fine.\nHope this helps! (English is not my mother langage, so I hope I was clear!)\nLove and Kisses from France