self anger management?
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Remove myself from the situation, take a walk, take a drive, if you can't go anywhere else, just go to the bathroom, shut the door, wave your arms and scream silently.  Take deep breaths.  Listen to your very favorite music.  Everyone has to find their own combination for what works.
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ok everytime ure angry just  close ur eyes real yight sing a song in your mind or maybe count!!!\n\nor try this talk to a person u really love but is veryirritating u wont shout at the person u love and eventually u'llstop freakin out about little things\nor better yet just talk to yourself in your mind when you are angry try to know  why ure angry and just analyse urself
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Find a good counselor and have them set you up with anger management training.  Once you figure out how to control it then you can figure out why you get angry.  Anger is a secondary emotion, so there is a good reason, not as you say.  You just haven't figured out what that reason is yet.\n\nI was angry for a long time as well, and I figured out why and now I have no reason to raise my voice.  I have learned how to listen to my inner self and I know what my triggers are and the more important lesson is that if I act a certain way I will damage the relationships of the ones I love.  GL
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Beyond reframing the experience, the two anger management programs Lochman has worked on use three techniques to defuse anger once it develops. \n\nDistraction. "If you feel yourself start getting angry and recognize that it's a problem, you focus on something else, such as what you're doing later that day," Lochman says. The classic distraction, counting to 10, actually seems to work.\n\n\n"Self-talk" or "self-instruction" can be repeated silently, carrying a message like, "I'm going to keep cool, I won't let this person get me into trouble." Self-talk can act like a little recording, he adds. "We do role plays, they practice being taunted and teased." \n\n A limited version of relaxation technique. \n\nVR
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Well, it's hard to say -- I'm a Anger/Rage Councelor and grew up with Anger/Rage issues and in a home with the same issues so I completely understand -- So it depends on the degree of the anger -- Is it anger or is it a rage? -- People always tell you that anger is wrong -- First of all it's not wrong, it's self defense -- Anger is not evil and it's alright to be angry -- It's what you do with the anger that creates the problems -- When a person is in full blown rage that rage has to be directed somewhere to begin with until it's learned response to control, which will come in time and with age -- I used to go and beat the heak out of pine trees (I hate pine trees) until I come down off the rage high -- And anger/rage does produce and give a high -- And those harmones have to be directed and dealt with -- Just having someone telling you to get over it only makes it worse (always made me worse because I had every right feeling the way I did) -- Then I learned how to identify the factors that would uncontiously lead me to those fits of anger -- I didn't know it at the time, and would have sworn nothing was causing it, but there was -- Frustration from other areas of my life caused it -- Not feeling in control of other areas of my life or things happening to me or to my family or in my family -- Things I couldn't control and things I'd never be able to control -- All I could control was my actions and reactions to things around me -- I could go on and on -- But I would suggest to get a book called "The Anger Workbook" and it will help you start identifing your anger stressers -- And if you would like to talk further you can contact me for free at theangelknight.com -- I have 25 years of counceling experience and a Bachelors Degree plus I'm a State approved Therapeutic Foster Parent -- Helping those with Anger/Rage issues is what I do -- Hope this helps -- Good Luck and Take Care --
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I went through the same thing with my husband.. you might try anger managment counseling or taking a trial seperation. Just remember that when you feel yourself getting to the point of explosion that you have 2 feet WALK AWAY.
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I go away from place place of anger.  Try to find a sitting place, close my eyes, drop my head and relax.  But of course in extreme case, i share my piece of mind with the other person or who ever is available.  After All am a human, one cannot always control his / her anger. :)
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ANGER MANAGEMENT 101\n\nWhen you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know -- take it out on someone you don't know. \n\nI was sitting at my desk when I remembered a phone call I had forgotten to make. I found the number and dialed it. \n\nA man answered, saying, "Hello." \n\nI politely said, "Could I please speak with Robin Carter?" \n\nSuddenly, the phone was slammed down on me. \nI couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude. \nI realized I had called the wrong number. I tracked down Robin's correct number and called her. I had accidentally transposed the last two digits of her phone number. \n\nAfter hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again. \n\nWhen the same guy answered the phone, I yelled, "You're an a_s_s_hole!" and hung up. \n\nI wrote his number down with the word 'asshole' next to it, and put it in my desk drawer. \n\nEvery couple of weeks,when I was paying bills or had a really bad day, I'd call him up and yell, "You're an a_s_s_hole!" \nIt always cheered me up. \n\nWhen Caller ID came to our area, I thought my therapeutic 'a_s_s_hole' calling would have to stop. \n\nSo, I called his number and said, "Hi, this is John Smith from the Telephone Company. I'm just calling to see if you're familiar with the Caller ID program?" \n\nHe yelled, "NO!" and slammed the phone down. \n\nI quickly called him back and said, "That's because you're an a_s_s_hole!" \n\nOne day I was at the store, getting ready to pull into a parking spot. \nSome guy in a black BMW cut me off and pulled into the spot I had patiently waited for... I hit the horn and yelled that I had been waiting for that spot. \n\nThe idiot ignored me. \n\nI noticed a "For Sale" sign in his car window, so, I wrote down his number. \n\nA couple of days later, right after calling the first a_s_s_hole ( I had his number on speed dial), I thought I had better call the BMW a_s_s_hole, too. \n\nI said, "Is this the man with the black BMW for sale?" \n\n"Yes, it is." \n\n"Can you tell me where I can see it?" \n\n"Yes, I live at 1802 West 34th Street. It's a yellow house, and the car's parked right out in front." \n\n"What's your name?", I asked. \n\n"My name is Don Hansen," he said. \n\n"When's a good time to catch you, Don?" \n\n"I'm home every evening after five." \n\n"Listen, Don, can I tell you something?" \n\n"Yes?" \n\n"Don, you're an a_s_s_hole." \n\nThen I hung up, and added his number to my speed dial, too. \n\nNow, when I had a problem, I had two a_s_s_holes to call. \n\nBut after several months of calling them, it wasn't as enjoyable as it used to be. \n\nSo, I came up with an idea. I called Asshole #1. \n\n"Hello." \n\n"You're an a_s_s_hole!" (But I didn't hang up.) \n\n"Are you still there?" he asked. \n\n"Yeah," I said. \n\n"Stop calling me," he screamed. \n\n"Make me," I said. \n\n"Who are you?" he asked. \n\n"My name is Don Hansen..." \n\n"Yeah? Where do you live?" \n\n"Asshole, I live at 1802 West 34th Street, a yellow house, with my black Beamer parked in front." \n\nHe said, "I'm coming over right now, Don. And you had better start saying your prayers." \n\nI said, "Yeah, like I'm really scared, a_s_s_hole." \n\nThen I called A_s_s_hole #2. \n\n"Hello?" he said. \n\n"Hello, a_s_s_hole," I said. \n\nHe yelled, "If I ever find out who you are...!" \n\n"You'll what?" I said. \n\n"I'll kick your a_s_s," he exclaimed. \n\nI answered, "Well, a_s_s_hole, here's your chance. I'm
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You should consider going to anger management classes. My ex would say really mean things to me when he got mad and we thought about going to couples counseling and anger management classes, however he went to boot camp and that changed everything.
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The first thing is, you need to recognize the problem which you have. \n\nI used to struggle with that too. I had a lot that went on in my life that was no good. I talked to a counselor and told him that I am an angry person. He told me that I am a good person, but I need to get my anger under control\n\nHe told me to remember that we choose our emotions whether we know it or not. He said that there is no point in getting angry over something that we have no control of and it is especially important that we don't not lash out at our loved ones. \n\nMaybe you should try counseling for a while. \nI feel for you and I think it's awesome that you are willing to admit that you have a temper problem. A lot people don't have the guts to do that. THey think that everyone else is the problem
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Walk out of the situation before the anger takes control of you. Like 'babygirl' said, it will give you time to cool down & think through the situation sensibly instead of causing harm, whether physically or verbally, to the other in a fit of rage.\n\nThat's what I do, just walk out on the person or just don't talk. I am known for a vicious temper & that's how I deal with it. :)
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Go for a walk and just have time on your own.  Talk to yourself about what got you so pissed off, what you should have said, what you are going to say, but without screaming or yelling so they could know that you really mean it and that you are not just talking because you are mad.....  I think that is the best as it will prevent you from getting physical with the person who caused you to get the way that you are and you will avoid saying something that you will or may regret....
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I once punched a kitchen counter when I was 16 (by accident--I was aiming at my kid brother!) and broke one finger joint open to the bone!  That was our last fight. \n\nFor stress relief (immediate) try KICKING the door, esp. a hollow core one...it'll break & be cheap to replace). For long-term anger management, I suggest a baseball bat and a non-endangered tree, or if you're more genteel, a tennis racquet and a couch pillow.\n\nFailing that...get some counseling for whatever is making you so angry! That's what I'm doing. We'll see if it works...RRRRGH!
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Don't sweat the small stuff.  If you do then alot of times it turns into big stuff unneccessarily.\nFor the real anger:\n1) Realize what triggers anger in you - a feeling of inferiority, personal injury or humiliation, not being able to be heard, etc.\n2)  Realize when you begin to get angry - thoughts begin to race, focus is not on what the person is saying or doing anymore but how to get back at them, not listening but instead waiting for your turn to talk, bringing up irrelevant things to the issue at hand, etc.\n3)  Realize when communication has completely broken down - again most of what is in #2.\n4)  Take control of yourself instead of trying to control the situation - don't be afraid to take a time-out and revisit the issue later (this requires an agreement with whoever IN ADVANCE)\n5)  Always respect the other person as you would want to be respected, even if they are not doing the same for you!\n\nAll of these points take work, but practice makes perfect.\nGood luck!  These steps work but you must want to change.
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you shouldn't cut yourself.\n\nAre you doing it for attention?\n\nIf you're doing it when you're angry, you need to find another way to control your anger.  For example, get a punching bag and go crazy on it (or just a pillow works too).
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I try to figure out why I am angry.  Sometimes what I think I am angry about is not the real reason I'm angry.  \n\nAfter I determine why I'm angry, I try to understand what all my options are for changing the situation that I reacted to in anger.  I will prioritize them by the likely hood of their helping to relieve my anger.  \n\nThen I will set out to try to do all I can do to change the situation, and also, to dispel the physical aspect of the effects of the anger.  (Drumming works well, as does walking, writing, talking with someone I trust about the problem, etc.)\n\nGood luck to you.
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wen ever u get angry, start counting reverse from 10 to 1, second method, if u are so angry that u wanna fight with that person, or may b u are just too disturbed, say to urself "that i"ll manage it after 10  minutes, after 10 minutes say after 1 hr, and so on", this might help. But these are the situations wen u get actually angry and then want to control the anger. Just to keep ur temep in check, try meditation, i keep fast once a week, and that day resolve not to get angry and it really helps, i am trying to keep my temper in check as well. Over the time, i have realised that it is a very CONSCIOUS effort, tell urself that u"ll control ur anger now onwards and this shd help, this has helped me as well. good luck!