I have a friend who takes me for granted... I need advice?
544374
In my experience you really should not have people in your life who do not give you the importance that you feel you deserve. It is obvious that you do not feel that you are receiving what you deserve from this friend. Usually when people feel this way it is because they aren't in the position that they know they should be in. In other words you worth more that what you are getting from this "friend".\n\nMy advice is for you to do two things. First, stop being the one who is after him, keeping the friendship alive. All relationships are composed of two or more people and should involve equal effort in maintaining it. Second never forget that you are worth as much as you believe. So take a stand and do let permit this person to be that way with you.\n\nYou've already talked about, with no results. You've taken the first step. Feel very proud of yourself for that. But now is the time for action. If you still do not see any changes, then you really don't mean so much to him as he does for you.
1020579
When that happened to me many years ago, it was devastating to loose a friend who I thought was "a friend."  Now, as time passed, I figured that she was an acquaintance, some one who comes & goes in your life time.  If she was that weak minded to just take his word for something as important as that without consulting you to straighten it out, then she's not your friend.  Get a new one who values your friendship.
903099
Accept your part in the situation she can only take over if you let her. Friend talk thing out they don't  just dump on another. Maybe she has confidence problem and being in charge make her feel good about herself ,express your feelings, what you feel is important and should not be ignored
942025
That was hurtful that he did not respond to you when you needed his comfort!  He sounds egocentric and such people drain energy from others.  Decide whether the energy drain is worth it to maintain your "friendship."  How important is it to you to be "needed"?
809793
YOu need to find a way to show your friend that you are there for them and that you actually care. First of all, you could tell them that but that doesn't mean they will believe you, so you have to look for any oppurtunity to show them that you are a "true friend" that can be trusted.
689093
talk to your friend about this    she should understand if shes a real friend.
1122762
If i was you id be there for her, but also learn from past experiences, carry on with your plans. May sound bad, but trust me she sounds like shes good at using people. DOnt let her use you.\nyou deserve more. And she shud learn not to treat people so short and then expect to forget everything in a moment just coz she needs you. Selfish bitch
804643
if she's a friend that cares about you as much as you do about her, then she would be willing to help you get your marks up as hers. you dont have to be jealous, even though it sucks that she's now doing better than you\n\nas a friend, you should be happy for her, not jealous. and for her she should be willing to help you get just as high marks as her. if either of you are not willing to change your attititudes, then its questionable how much of a friendship that really is...
820034
It sounds like your friend is absent minded like mine is... Don't sweat it when she claims an answer you gave her a long time ago. Just remember that you are the one that told her in the first place and be happy she remembered it. Or, if you can't handle being a mentor, simply stop telling her anything. But I hardly believe you would do that since you Are friends.
1187801
This friend of yours is not a good person. She is definitely simply leeching out favours from others. Just leave her, don't talk to her. She'll definitely come back for more assurance. I think she needs some counseling.
483101
Talk to her and agree to meet on middle grounds if she thinks it's not fair that she always has to be the one coming to your place. If she's a good friend, she should understand your situation and try to help you with it.
839376
These feelings that you are having toward her are going to keep building and building; if you don't go ahead and discuss them with her, you might lose your cool one day and really go off on her and say things that maybe you did not mean to and cannot be taken back.  It sounds to me that she is indeed taking you for granted and will continue to do so until you tell her how you feel.  Some people do not realize that they do this to others until it is brought to their attention.  Then again, on the other hand, some people are just like that and down right rude.  If I were you, I would tell her exactly how I felt about everything, but try to do it in a nice way.  From the sound of the narrative you wrote with your question, it seems as you are a good person and would handle this way.  Hopefully, once you confront her, she will see the "error" of her ways and change her attitude.  If she doesn't, at least then you will know that you tried and you will not fell bad when you tell her no the next time she wants something from you.  Good luck.
1026921
Have a heart to heart talk with your friend to bridge the gap that is growing between you. There's nothing like a good communication, it's the friction that lubricates the friendship. Good luck.
713726
Friendships are just like relationships. Your both two differnt individual people, with different personality, opinions, goals, and outlooks on life. If he is a true friend that you don't want to loose you just need to sort through your differences and make the best of things. Just continue to be his friend and mentor him on setting, creating, and following though with his goals. Try digging deeper into the problem maybe he doesn't have much self esteem or think he can accomplish anything in life, or maybe he hasn't matured as much as you have.\n\nI take it he's a friend worth keeping since your setting out to try and get help on what to do in order to keep your friendship going and strong, but you can't change people or the person he is. You as a friend can only help him by giving him a little "push" so he can make the change on his own because he has to want to make that happen. And who knows by him seeing you going on with your life being successful, he'll get what you were saying and make a change a lot quicker and without a fuss
888406
i wuld be real honest with her but also remember to be kind.it's alot harder to do then say i know.i am in a similar situation & it's never easy when it comes to ur friends.it culd be that ur friend is having a hard time & need sometime right now.she knows ur there & that's good.that's what friendship is.\ntake care,\nang w.
40634
ok this seems to be a particular case of jealousy !! so id say talk to your friend and say how much he means to you .. tell her that she has been a friend all your life and that u dont want to lose her .. now if she understands this she wont interfere further .. now if she doesn't understand let him talk to her .. she will be angry and it may cause some friction between u and her but things will work out fine !!
970912
dude stop worrying about the small stuff in life. \nthere are other things out there to worry about. \n\nnothing wrong with you loving your friend in a brotherly way.