Can my inability to share my feelings openly ruin future relationships?
541676
I think so.  There is nothing more special than being able to communicate to your partner how much you love them.  Whether you do it verbally or physically, it's very important.  You just need some practice.  Try writing your feelings down, get the "words" right. And say them out loud.  Make it real, and let it come from your heart.
665332
Because you still have feelings even though you don't want to admit it. Also, jumping into another relationship right away will not be good for you or the other person. Take time to sort your feelings out, and when you are ready, you will not feel like that.
629680
Probably same as me.  Unable to open up completely to someone.
760301
Feelings can sometimes be misleading. You need to be as open as possible, no matter how frightening it is, and bring it up in a calm casual manner. Know your options and then discuss it in a casual environment and see what the outcome is. Good luck!
376258
He is selfish, and doesnt care about your feelings, because you have strong feelings for him, you cant realize this.\n\nSo unless you can get a hold of your emotions, and your feelings you will be destined to re-live this scenario in future relationships...
571599
If it feels so right, nothing will scare you, you will have a connection that you will both feel. The problem is whether you both will be prepared to admit to them. And if one of you 'is' scared off, it simply wasn't meant to be. Trust your heart, its a very useful tool.
591291
That is a hard question. I myself had the same problem so instead of showing or telling that person how i truly felt i started dating someone else to show him(to mainly show myself) that i could live with out him. Well it backed fired on me. The truth is he had feelings about me too and was to scared to tell me. To make a long story short we don't talk anymore cuz i screwed that up and now he is married and could have been me that he is married too. Do what your heart tells you. Don't do whatever body else tells you to.
1123
I'm generally a quiet person, and I was very quiet around my now-girlfriend when I first met her. I think that likely drove her crazy... because she couldn't tell how I felt about her. After we hooked up and started seeing each other more often, my feelings just came through. I couldn't hold them to myself. There was a need to share them with her that I just couldn't imagine keeping inside.\n\nBut that's me - and not everyone is the same. Some people are emotionally sheltered and prefer to keep their feelings hidden away. Body language, gestures, and general mood and disposition toward you can give you clues as to how your significant other really feels. The question you need to ask, when you're finding yourself actively looking for attention like this, is whether or not you can be happy in the long term under these circumstances.\n\nPeople are tough to change, and if this is something you need, and your significant other is having a hard time dealing with that... you may need to re-evaluate your situation, or have a long and frank discussion with them regarding this.
467698
No, its not wrong. You cannot control who you have feelings for. You have to let that person know how you feel, and see if possibly they are wrestling with the same problem.
882078
No, you are not wrong for feeling the way that you do.  You have two options here.....First, you can try to talk to her again and tell her that you would rather her not tell other people things that you have told her, even if they aren't things to be kept confidential. OR you could just not tell her things that you wouldn't want other people to know.  Find yourself a new confidante, someone that you can trust, and share with that person things that you would rather not have everyone else know.
786903
This is a very serious situation. The decisions you make today will play a vital role in everything tht affects you tomorrow. Who can know what you might feel down the road? Be fair in all of your judgements and open and honest. Anything gained while underminding someone else is not a sweet victory. You should seek professional counsel for this situation. Also Remember, sometimes we are in love with the idea of the forbidden. Sometimes it's simply the idea of change that intrigues us. But you are holding hearts in your hand that can be broken for life. Be careful of your next step. Remember too that love is selfless and builds up a person and doesn't destroy someone. This agony you feel doesn't stem from the root of love. True love doesn't agonize. God bless you dear and good luck. Please do get counseling.
495096
Catching strong feelings? You make it sound like a cold! If you don't want to feel all lovey then I suggest not being in a relationship, you're obviously not ready.
338746
dont keep them to yourself you might miss out on a great relationship....if you guys already know how to be friends thats a good start on having a relationship...the only bad thing is that if it dont work out you guys will probably loose your friendship...but you have to decide that one on your own...is it worth it...can you actually see yourself being with this person and it actually working...or is it to far fetched for you two to be togther..at least you will still have him there for you as a friend in the end..talk to him about it...the worst he could say is no i dont want to ruin our friendship...but atleast you dont have to hide your feelings for him and he'll know...whatever you decide i wish you the best...good luck
1038374
It's okay as long as you don't bring up feelings and emotions. This is when I freaked out when she started saying she loved me and asking me how did I feel. When you're friends with benefits you don't expect anything, you don't want to hear none of that moo-shy woo-shy stuff!
1052213
i don't think you can that would just hurt the other ones feelings way to much,even if you don't tell them they'll know
441335
I can see where you're coming from...and I feel your thoughts.It's perfectly normal & quite fine to have those type of emotions for her.Although,to act on those feelings may "loose her trust" as you say.Also,she may begin to feel uncomfortable around you causing her to clam up.On the other hand,if she has any feelings or interest in you,that would be different...but still,there's always a possibility that a closer relationship may lead to the other baggage that turns relationships sour,and in return may cause you both to lose concentration and possibly unwanted publicity .Eight yrs. apart isn't bad,especially if she is in her mid to late twenties on up.However,if she is still young,give her some time to develop into a more mature lady(one that truly makes her own decisions).It's not a good idea to seek a girl that always asks her friends "hey what do you think?".My advice for this situation would be let her come to you...she may/may not.Be the professional you are and just hold back my man...good luck.
792556
Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't.  You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.'  I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself.  Do you really not want a relationship?  Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship?  What is it?  If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it.  You're not a lemming.  Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to.  Also, are you fairly young?  If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet.  Don't worry about what other people think.  Worry about what you think.