should i tell my cosin that her mom has cancer or let her know it her self in the end?
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you should let your aunt tell her
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yes .. you have to tell her , right now .. pick the phone and tell her ..\nshe won't like it later when she finds out that you knew that he is a cheeter !!
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Be as honest with yourself and others as soon as possible... I know it is awful to be where you are at right now, but telling someone in your family or hers that you have the best relationship with is going to be your best bet long term.  You need support.  Since you are both minors, it is unfortunant that you have this in front of you, but I don't think it is a crime... If one of you were an adult that would be a problem.  Be as strong as you can.  This will get better.  There are other choices.  There are many families out there that wish to adopt a child.  But still at least be there as her friend and make sure she gets the proper medical care and emotional support.  Please don't wait any longer to tell an adult... Time will make matters harder to deal with.  I suggest not to break up with someone because of her medical condition.  She's got to be emotional too right now.  If you have other problems than the pregnancy, consider doing so because of that.... But you should really be there for each other since you both created the dilema.
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Why would you tell his mother? If he is of legal age, he can make his own decisions. If he wants his mother to know, then he should tell her. If he doesn't want his mother to know then you should respect his decision and leave it alone.
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Well Sweety, honesty is in most cases the best policy. Don't you think that she will find out one day? I would sit down with her and tell her that you need to tell her something that she might find shocking or that she might be upset about. Then, tell her, "Mom, I want you to know how much I love you and what a good mother you've always been (if this is true), and I need you to hear me out and try to stand by me, because I really need you now." Something to that effect. You may want to pick up some literature on parental understanding and support for parents of gay children. There's no real easy way to do it but I can tell that it's something you must do for your own peace of mind. I'm a mother and I can tell you that for most mothers, there is nothing that will change their love for their children, even if they are upset. The bond is so very strong between mother and child that I'm willing to bet that she will not stop loving you. She may be upset and unaccepting at first but if you keep the lines of communication open, you will work things out. Good luck, Honey. Here are some websites that might help you:\nwww.gayfamilysupport.com\nwww.outproud.org/brochure_for_parents.html
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if she wants you to know,she will tell you.you know we all have skeltons in out closets.maybe she likes to forget about the bad times.well if she brings it up and ask you what you think,then you should tell her,but be nice about it.just dont go digging into her past and telling everyone you meet,thats between you and her,and not anyones elses business.
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Tell her if you don't want to worry about this issue popping up later. Things might get nasty.
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I pray that your mother's results will be ok, and that she does well. The reason I am writing is because you reminded me of the time I was waiting on my Mother's biopsy, she has breast cancer. My advice for you is to expect the worse, although we are surely not aiming for it, this way whichever way the result goes you will not be affected. Also try not to have any expectations before you understand the full picture.\nI hope all goes well. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
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I would be afraid, but if it was suggested to me by at least three different doctors, I would be inclined to do chemo.\nI am so sorry to hear of your mother-in-law's passing.\nIt is important to remember, though, that cancer is, indeed, a SILENT killer.  Even with all the technology and knowledge of today, doctors just aren't infallible.  They do commendable work, but they just can't hit the nail on the head every time.\nSo, so sad.  Continue being there for your husband and I sure feel badly for the loss of his mother.  I lost my mother from cancer and think of her EVERY SINGLE DAY, so I understand the "place" your husband is in.  It's the PITS.
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You need to tell her family.. Your friend needs mental help before she does something too extreme, and dies. Tell,...because you care, you know you do or you wouldn't be posting this question if you didn't. But tell someone that can HELP. Good Luck.
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Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
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The best thing I think you could do is find out alternative ways to help her and learn more about cancer. Th site below is very informative.
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As I lost my husband to cancer and having adult children, I must tell you that your mother does need you. Your husband will and should understand. No matter what anyone says, to hear that he will be in a better place once the battle is over, will be of no comfort to your mother. It will not lift her burden of taking care of him for all this time either. It's not a burden when you love someone. I'd rather have my husband here. Yes, he's no longer in pain, and yes I'm happy he's not, but when that loss finally happens, you'd rather have him here regardless. \n\nYour mother will not be prepared for the loss when it happens, just as you won't. It's impossible to prepare for that even when you know it's inevitable. I was exhausted from caregiving, I felt alone. You find it hard to talk about your fears to your children, and you find it hard to relay these fears to the person you're taking care of. Your mother needs caregiving too, and she will need you there after your dad loses the battle he's fought so hard in. You will need comfort too, but realize how big of a loss this will be for your mom. You will get that comfort from your husband, but your mom will no longer have her husband to comfort her, she'll need it from you. You don't have to put on a face. Your mother knows it's ripping you apart too. Share that with her, listen to her and reassure her just as she would reassure you. \n\nI feel your pain and your mom's pain. My thoughts are with you.
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i think you should still talk to your mom. i mean, she's the one who bore you when you were a baby and i think it'd be the best if you talked to her instead of anybody else. and you're going to have to tell her eventually, because you can't live for, like, five more years without her finding out.\n\nbut if you're really reluctant..\n\ntalk to your friends, the school nurse, or any other female you can trust.
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I think you should tell your friends. You need their support. Most friends would want to be there for their friends and help. I would be upset to hear a friend was really sick and didn't tell me.
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Do you remember your wedding vows in sickness and in health? You know if my spouse wasnt taking care of me and showing the love and support I needed I might just pack my things and say ADIOS! I mean given you need help if your mother is there to help you then take what you can get. If she isnt being a wife or partner at all then what is the marriage about? Sounds like a house full of misery to me. Thats the last thing you need you need some love and support regardless of the mistakes youve made. If she cant trust you or get over the things that happened maybe you guys should get some help with your marriage. Otherwise if she cant get over it, I think she isnt going to change how she feels and maybe the marriage is over. I think if I was sick with cancer Id want positive things in my life and if someone is dragging me down Id either talk to them about it and work it out or like I said if that doesnt work and youve exhausted other options, stay with your mom. You need positive reinforcement right now to help you get through. Good luck.
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it's sad to know that the spread has already begun to the rectum....i just lost a friend to this malignancy....am really sorry to say this....but HOPE your friend will be able to fight it out. let her go in for the next operation/surgery. If you feel Her condition is deteriorating and is definitely not gonna make it....All you shud do instead of agonising her with more Chemo & Radio (consult her doc and ask for percentage of survival) is to try and improve her quality of life. Try to engage her mind into stuff she always wanted to do.. as in Singing, Painting, Music etc. Keep her surrounded by cheerful people always so that she does not sink into depression.. Sometimes this gives a boost to her immunity and she may be able to fight longer. Give her the best that you could before she leaves......SORRY BUDDY.....BUT ALL THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FRIEND.