How do I suggest to him that I am ready to be married?
536664
I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
629472
Honestly?  If you are having to ask this question, you are obviously not ready.  There is nothing wrong with not being ready.  Marriage shouldn't be "disposable".  You shouldn't marry thinking, "Oh, well, I can always get divorced!"  That shouldn't be what it's all about.  Marriage is difficult at times, and you should only marry someone you love, and someone with whom you would love to have a family with, and with the intent of growing old with that person.  It isn't always romantic, it's about washing underwear with brown streaks on them, it's about supporting each other through the worse possible moments, it's about letting him see you without your make-up and you taking care of him when he's all sick and nasty...if you can honestly say that you would be there through EVERYTHING, then you are ready...if not, you are better off waiting.  If it is meant to be, it will be, no matter what!
390804
Take your time. There is no hurry to get married. If he isn't ready what good will that do you?  I can understand him wanting a job before he marries you. It makes him a good man not wanting to live off you. Slow down and enjoy your time with him right now, it will all work out okay........
1143605
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
1140008
He is just saying that to keep you, he knows thats something YOU want. He most likly doesnt want to get married and if he does not right now. Either you keep letting him ignore you or tell what you want  and follow through dont except anything less than what you deserve, but pressuring him would be the wrong thing to do. I think you should just let him know how you feel and then determine if he is worht waiting for, dont let him slip away if you know he is a good guy.!!!!
442962
Don't rush him into it.  Give him time.  I'm sure he'll propose soon since you said that you all have discussed marraige.
360545
You would think you should start meeting people and getting ready.  Have faith, and don't be afraid to fall in love.  God's waiting for you both at the bottom.  You're joining together as one, working as one, creating as one a life, and a future that chances are, might hold a family.  It's perfectly okay to be married, as it is perfectly okay to be single.  God's timing is perfect, and His will is also.
1161981
ask someone to marry me
525976
Your parents have no say about it, as long as-\nyou are of legal age, and are READY: \nemotionally, (stable or consistent enough to stick to marriage)\nmentally, (ready for what marriage is all about)\nsocially, (you've met enough people to know for sure that you want to be married to this person)\nand personally, (you've done what u want to do for yourself and have reached goals you want for yourself, this is important, coz in marriage some sacrifices would be made regarding personal goals and pleasures)\n...then go for it!\n\ndo assure your parents of your love though, and claim full responsibility for this decision.\n\nbest wishes, pastor's wife\nhttp://mwfrc.blogspot.com
56578
Listen very carefully...\n\nShow him what you just asked us...\n\nAnd then ask him what he would like...\n\nBut I have a pretty good feeling he already knows how much you love him and doesn't need a reminder...
387243
Honestly and softly.  If you love him, let him know that.  Either way, be honest and just tell him the truth... you are not ready.  \n\nDo NOT take his ring and promise him anything that you can't or don't want.
1068246
to be honest with you, i dont think you can fully be ready for marriage! i am a newlywed 1.5 years married and i  thought i was ready. we both are saved and in church, we've been through premarital class. but i can honestly say that marriage is a challenge and requires a lot of personal growth. i say this because you have to deal with your own issues as well as your spouse's issues.... 2 sets of issues coming together can be a headache!  \ntake your time choosing your mate. dont ignore the warning signs (anger, trust, jealousy etc)   pray that God will lead you to the person for you, read books on being single and on the opposite sex. get ready to hang on and enjoy the ride!
354589
It sounds as if he is not ready to marry just yet. If this is okay with you than stick with him, but if you want to marry and start a family you might have to come right out and say hey we have waited long enough and if he gives some excuse then it might be best to re think the situation...Cejay
1042040
Instead of him telling you that if that's what YOU want then go ahead and do it, which doesn't sound very convincing on his part to me, he needs to actually say directly that yes that is what I want to do too, not if that's what makes YOU happy because he isn't including himself in that equation and that kind of leaves him room to get himself out of it if he up and decides to take off before hand. So no I wouldn't make plans just yet not til you hear him say He is ready and wanting to and he buys you an engagement ring. Then if that happens you can probably be more sure of it being a true thing.
727506
Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
934988
It all depends on your and his age.\n\nIf you are younger than 25, you are too young to be thinking about marriage.\n\nOver 25? Start looking for other guys if marriage is what you want, and your present guy has said he is not ready for marriage.\n\nIn either case, do not give an ultimatum or pressure him. That will only scare him away.
328474
explain to him that you feel you are ready to try taking your relationship to the next level to see if your really ready. thats what I like to hear though, that a girl will set a boundry thats cool.