My child has ad/hd and I was wondering if anyone has any idea's on how to discipline her.?
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DR PHIL SUGGEST TIME OUT IN THE LAUNDRY ROOM OR A TOTALLY BORING AREA OF THE HOUSE AND IF SHE HATES CHORES LOAD HER UP OR TAKE SOMETHING SHE LOVES IE. TOYS,VIDEO GAMES,OVERNIGHT AT FRIENDS ETC. TRY TAKING HER TO CHURCH ALSO , HAVE HER INTERACT WITH OTHER CHILDREN THAT ARE GOOD INFLUENCES ON HER AND ARE CALMER IN NATURE. EVEN IF U R NOT RELIGIOUS IT HELPS
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I was hoping you could provide a little more inormation as to what you are looking for.  If you are talking about time limits at mealtimes, I may have some good suggestions.  \n\nTransitions are hard for a lot of kiddos with Autism.  Warnings, and slow transitions, can work well.  An auditory cue (timer with a bell could also work).  Set the timer, and when it rings the first time, let the child know there are 5 more minutes, then reset it.  Be consistent...when that bell rings the 2nd time...it's over.\n\nI am not sure if this is what you were asking.  Please post some more info.  That would be helpful.  Best of luck!
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Some effective ways to get a child to behave is ether to put them in time out, don't let him/her play with the other kids for a period of time(same as time out i know),have a good behavior chart to put stickers on only if they're good and if they get a certain # of stickers they get a prize out of the prize box ooooohhhhhhh......,or talk to the childs parents about the problem.
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1) check yourself and your husband (I am assuming you are married). Do either of you have the same problems? Can you please answer us...\n2) There was a great audio tape by Dr Dobson "Dare to Discipline". http://www.family.org
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I have a 5-year old with autism.  My wife and I have been successful getting him to talk to us only if it's requesting food or certain play activities.  I'd say about half the time he asks on his own without being prompted.  We expand his vocabulary by offering him more choices or making him make more decisions.  For example, instead of putting in the video he hands us, we'll pick up another and make him point and say the title of the video he wants.  Eventually, he'll ask for the video by name right away.  It's only been the last few months that he's been doing this, so I'm optimistic about how he can grow from this step to more difficult social interactions (even if it takes a few years).
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Your child's school system should have some programs in place to start you out. Do not hesitate to go to the guidance counselor,school psychologist or social worker, his/her teacher, and the principal---they have a vat of resources before them. They will probably recommend that you consult your child's pediatrician who will place your child on some sort of medication to start managing his/her behavior. \nIf you have found that you are getting nowhere in the education arena, don't give up---your child can get help elsewhere. The Easter Seals Society, a local Child Study Center, the Mental Health/Mental Retardation(MHMR), your county hospital and any disabilities assistance program in your state are good sources of help. Also, don't leave out websites that address these conditions--just type in bipolar, or obsessive compulsive disorder into the search box and it will lead you somewhere. Don't give up, it is a long road, but you can get the help you need. I used to work with teens who had emotional disorders, and although it was difficult, they were getting help through the program they were in. It does take a lot of footwork, however. You can get to the place of normalcy,it just takes time.
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I have a son with ADD/ADHD.  Sometimes it is tough but you always love your child.  Honestly, I see my son for the wonderful kid that he is because he might have ADD/ADHD, it doesn't have him.  He is on the honour roll at school and he is active in his youth group.  Everybody loves him!  As for lax parenting, not a problem, I have a background in Psychology...Personality Profiling so I know how to get him out of his episodes.  I recommend to you to volunteer at a children's shelter or a mental hospital and make your own observations.  You might be suprized what you learn.  It's a real disorder and 96% of our population lives with a mental health disorder.  What mental health disorder are you living with or are you 4% of the population as a product of lax parenting yourself?
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DON'T WAIT UNTIL HE STARTS SCHOOL!\n\nEarly intervention is key in cases of Autism Spectrum Disorders and Nonverbal Learning Disorder, and delayed speech.\n\nPlease ask her to take the following steps immediately:\n\nFind a pediatrician that specializes in children with developmental disabilities.\n\nContact the school system for a complete evaluation (this is free, and could have been before the child trained 3!).\n\nThe school system will choose a team of professionals to evaluate the child, including, but not limited to a speech therapist, an occupational therapist, a physical therapist, a school adjustment counselor, a school psychologist, a teacher and an expert in special education.  His parents  will be part of the team, and they may bring any experts they so choose to the team meetings.\n\nThe child's new pediatrician will submit a recommendation for the services the child needs.  The child may require an independent evaluation by additional specialists (pediatric neurologist, etc. to develop a treatment plan.\n\nMake sure that the team adopts the recommendations of his pediatrician and specialists in their entirety; appeal the team's decision, if necessary.\n\nThe team will develop an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) that specifies the services to be provided and the frequency of the provision, as well as the modifications that will be made to "regular" education to accommodate him.\n\nHis parents have the right to accept or reject the IEP, in whole or in part, and appeal same, in whole or in part.  If they choose to appeal and another, independent evaluation is required, the school must pay for the evaluation.\n\nThe school system is required BY LAW to provide early intervention services beginning at age 3, so he will probably begin in a special program, immediately.\n\nThis is a very complex subject not easily dealt with in this forum, however the above is a start.  DON'T WAIT!
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Good Luck! I have a 15 yo with the same problem. He is ADHD with severe impulsivity and it has been a continuous battle to do any kind of school work. He would come up with all kinds of excuses about not doing his school work. I also didn't know what to do. So I started NOT letting him do anything. No TV, no video games (on TV or portable), no friends over, no going anywhere, nothing. He finally got the message. He told me he was going to give me "The Mean Mom" award because I wouldn't let him do anything or go anywhere. The thing was he knew most of the work, just had a hard time putting it on paper. He is in high school now and being homeschooled (which really works out much better). But the 'doing nothing' still stands if he doesn't do the work. He still has a problem with taking it out of his head and putting it on paper (he can tell you anything you want to know about his subjects, orally). But he has to put it on paper. But now he will sit down and do the work. I told him I was not having this foolishness anymore, I know he can do the work and if he wants any free time he'd better get it done.
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I just emailed you! Lol! I have a 7 year old with autism who is on a gluten free/casein free diet. He is EXTREMELY hyperactive. Before I put him on the diet (he was almost 3) he would be even MORE hyper after eating foods with milk, and would have these crazy laughing spells. He already bounces off the walls, but it was obviously more so with the milk products, not to mention the stools he would have after eating them. I was changing like 10 pull ups a day. He would not even touch milk after I took him off of the bottle but he was addicted to cheese, and cereals/crackers with wheat in them.  AFTER I put him on the diet, within a matter of only a couple of weeks, he just stopped peeing on himself. Period, including at night. So to me I related that directly to the diet. I have wanted to give up on the diet sometimes, but you know, every time I let him have some foods which he normally doesn't have, he acts even more hyper than usual, and if you knew my son you would find that hard to believe! Lol! I have considered Feingold as well as vitamin therapy(B6 and Magnesium), but with my financial situation and stress level, any more changes would just be really hard for me to enforce right now. I also had completely takem him off of sugar for a long time, but I have caved and so he has it every now and then. I can't really tell if it affects his behavior or not. I am still looking for a solution that works, I am just kind of burned out by the trial and error of it all!
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Sounds like you need to seek professional advice of an counselor. Other than posting the question on here. \n\nJoin some support groups for parents that have kids suffering from similar conditions. I'm sure by participating in the groups will show you that you are not alone, and you'll probably learn what other parents do to deal with their situation. Or just being able to talk to someone that is going through the exact situation.\n\nYou have access to the web, search to see what your city offers, or school counselor, community, church can refer you to. \n\nAlso, know with ADHD, can be control be avoiding certain foods with dyes which triggers the behavior. Again, do your homework  research, research and research....Changing the diet, will allow you to see some relief with your children with the ADHD\n\n I'm truly sorry to hear of your ordeal...
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There are different computer programs.  Some capture every keystroke and will print out a log of all communications.  I agree that you need to communicate with your daughter.  I wouldn't say you are a horrible person, or a bad parent, but talking might help the situation.  I understand that there are some kids, that are so stubborn and head strong that they must make mistakes before they will listen.  Those mistakes can potentially be fatal.  Talking is the first step, but if that doesn't get through and you are genuinely worried about what she is doing and feel she is putting herself in danger, it seems like the responsible thing to do is first put the computer in an open space like a living room, and if that doesn't work, look into the programs.
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they do it there own time, just don't give him what he wants till he asks for it in real words. help him when he wants a drink tell him to say drink or baba whatever word you use. when he is speaking giberish tell him that you love him. ask him where his nose is and point to it.  do the same for the rest of his body. when you give him a toy tell him toy or ball or rattle, say it over and over till he says it. don't respond to tantrums or anything like that. it takes time but it works. my 18 month old is speaking well and this is what we did for him.
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First, I'd talk to his pediatrician and/or see a neurologist (I'm sure he's had one in the past with this sort of problem).  Second, ask the doctor (or look into it yourself) about enrolling him in sometype of therapy-- I'm not sure what type would be appropriate- in addition to typical therapy (emotional type- to help him find better coping strategies)also maybe you could enroll him in something like physical therapy or occupational therapy-- where at least they could maybe fit him with some type of helmet or device or install something on the walls to protect him.  Not sure if you live in an area where this is available or how affordable an option it is (I'm from a small town where these things just don't exist) but I would strongly recommend seeing the doctors and considering some sort of therapy.  I truly wish you and your child the best of luck.
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Doctors diagnosed me with ADHD when i was a kid  for the same reason. Its a phase most likely cause she might get her way with her father when she acts out like that so she automatically thinks everyone else will give her way when she is like that. My suggestion corner or worse help with household work kids hate doing both and its way worse then a spanking. But do not give in to there temper tantrums ignore them or set them in the corner. She will soon realize her actions have consequences and will stop eventually but children will always look for alternative ways to stump you. Beware of the pity face and the Innocent looks there dangerous ignore them at all costs. Try taking away a favorite toy if the corner doesn't work or taking a privilege that she likes. like plying with her friends or cartoons. Let her know that newtons law for every action there is and equal or opposite reaction to every action is a true statement be the PARENT and not the child?
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Help her relax.  Let grade go.  If you think about it, they are so little in the big picture.  You want her to be healthy and happy.  So let her know if she does her best and then flunks everything, it's okay.  In fact, make doing your best the goal -- not good grades.  Get around her -- make her world as safe (emotionally) as possible.  You might want to do this by creating a safety ritual.  Me and my son have a saying I ask him, "What could make me stop loving u?"   I answer, "nothing -- never"  he knows that I may be disappointed with some of the things he does but never stop loving him.  So he can come to me no matter what.  Let her be a baby if she needs to -- we all need to sometimes -- hold her and help her come back to here and now by gently assuring her that you are there and won't go anywhere.  \n\nTalk to the school councelor and tell her the "Flag" will be removed.  It borders on illegal -- she should not be labeled without going through very specific channels.  If they don't, walk in with a lawyer.  Schools should not be doing that to kids, they should be about the success of the child, not tracking and labelling.  \n\nContinue with the therapy.  Get her involved in a fun non-competive activity -- skating, bowling or something she can do with you and/or friends. \n\nDon't give up.
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I am not in that state how ever a call to the clip board types at social services would be a great place to start! Understand they are buried in people problems but if you  mention the word "intervention" they just may jump and give you a hand. How ever and I dont want to put this spin on it for you if the person in question does not want help all you may be doing is just pushing the time till they hit bottom back farther. I have found that it takes a fairly truamatic event and or some serious faith to change this. the upside is most drug seems to be easyer to with draw from than alcohol with some exceptions. And more than likely the drugs are not the real issue but some thing on a mental health side of the house maybe a few some things not just one. Good luck and it is very cool you are doing this for your child I have met parents who just go up in arms and wish it away.