Is it ok to fall in love with an ex-friends ex husband?
535671
That all depends. How long has your ex-friend been your ex-friend--what caused them to be your ex-friend? How long has your ex-friend & ex-husband been ex's? If they have been ex's for a few months then go for it.\n\nThe reason for some of the questions that I have asked, is did they split up because of the ex husband and you being together or some other reason? If it was because of you 2, then it might be a bad ideal for you 2 to get together. If that is not the case, like I said give it a few months and then start off being even better friends than before, just work your way into it slow and easy and see what happens, if it was meant to be it will happen, if not it won't happen.
1098677
You need to just back off. if you are comfortable in your relationship and with your man it will all be ok. \nI am almost best friends with my husbands ex (I took him from her twice) and it is a great relationship. The two of you have at least one thing in common.\nRemember that they broke up for a reason just let it go. He is with you now.
932749
It depends on how serious they were...If she was really into him, and is still hurting from the relationship, then obviously, No. But if they have moved on and have remained friends, and can look back at their relationship and laugh, then Yes. I was in that situation and my friend actually suggested that I get with her ex, because it was so obvious that we had chemistry. Sometimes girls fall so hard for guys that we become blind to others feelings though, so make SURE your friend is okay with it. But even if she isn't, if it's meant to be with the guy, it will be.
379854
its fun to date their ex's friends. I feel like I grow a connection with my boyfriends friends so it just feels natural to go for their friends.
686096
Most people I've spoken to believe that dating a friend's ex is off limits. Others feel that it is acceptable, as long as you clear it with your friend before anything happens. Even so, it is almost always a problematic situation. If you are really interested, you should certainly feel free to discuss it with your friend. and thats wat ur friend didn't do,she shud have discussed it with u.but anways,u need not worry coz she will b regretting what she did soon.........
561650
Well in my mind. If this 'friend' knew you were still in love with your ex husband, she should never have even gone on a date with him. I feel you need to tell her how you feel about it, it things are not so serious between them she'll finish. If things are serious and they are in love, then I think you'd be best to cut all ties and move on.(which will be impossible if you have children with your ex) Just remember that true love means wanting the best for the one you love and wanting them to be happy. Sometimes you need to let them go. Try to get out more with other friends and get ome hobbies. This will help keep your mind off what they are getting up to, and before you know it. You'll not hurt so much. Time really does heal with this kind of thing. I'll be thinking of you!\n\nD*
853045
I guess what you really need to ask yourself is, why do you need your ex's friendship so bad?  If you love your husband, then you would not do it because you know it will hurt his feelings.  Believe me, I just went through  a sitaution VERY similar to yours.  I don't know what the realationship is like between you and your husband, but if you can't let your ex go, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your marriage and find out who you are first and what you want.  You need to think of what is better for you in the long run compared to what sounds nice right now.
1091596
It's good to fall in love with your good friend and there is no problem in it.  Just go ahead, what a better love than to love ones good friend.\nI actually fall in love all the time and never regret it. Go ahead and enjoy.
662426
She is married so it would be wrong to pursue a relationship with her. If you did pursue it the consequences could turn out bad. It could not work out and you could lose her as a friend. Friendship is the most important thing you could have. You wouldnt want to lose that. And you got to think about her husband too. You dont want to be the one who breaks up a ten year marriage. So all in all my advice is to keep her as a friend. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
425964
Exs and crushes are off limits for best friends. She is not your best friend if she did that to you. \nI suspect your ex doesn't feel the same way if he's dating your best friend. I'm sorry, but it seems like you need to find a new partner and a new best friend.
46763
It depends on the two of you. I know a ex married couple that stayed friends after 24 years of being divorced. Thats a long time and a rare occassion. They are my parents lol. Now if you ended on bad terms and are trying to get along then probably not. Or maybe he is still into you and just wants to end it before he gets caught up into the feelings all over again knowing that you can never be together.
347838
Yeah... I know how this feels. If you think you truley love him then you should be care full and tell him in a time that you feel is right. And don't judge him by his past. I mean his kids could be great and just because he can't get over his ex dosen't mean that he still dosen't love you back. Good luck ^_^
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
616801
who cares we are no longer together and he is my EX but as for my friend I would rethink our relationship because she may have wanted him long time ago--leave the past in the past and do what you have to do for you and take care of you let that go
815506
Well, if he can't get over his ex, then he obviously still has feeling for her.  It's definitely not a good idea to get with someone in that situation.  You really can't do anything about that situation, because that's his problem, not yours.  You and your friend probably will have to wait for that situation to die down if either of you want to make a move on him.  \n\nBetween the two of you, you need to be honest with your friend about your feelings.  It's only fair that both of you know what's going on before mixed feelings comes up if either of you hook up with that guy.\n\nGood luck!
320746
It sounds like you really already know in your heart what you want and what you need to do.So,do it.Life is to short to be unhappy.You truly are in love with your ex,so that is where you need to be.I know it would be hard to tell the other person in your life,but it needs to be done,and it can be done in a nice manner.Like you just are not ready for a relationship with him,and you would not be fibbing,because you are not ready when you have such strong feelings for your ex.Also,this isn't fair for them nor for you all,and in the long run,it would be much harder to end as the more time that goes by.I say go and follow your heart.Good Luck to you!
82235
I agree with most everyone here about one thing. You need to remove yourself from the situation NOW. If their marriage is going to fall apart, it will do so without any help from you. Give her a chance to see things for herself without your infulence whatsoever. This will undoubetedly be difficult for you but it is the best interest of all involved. Should she wind up divorced (which it sounds like just may happen) then you can be there for her, be her friend, confidant and maybe even lover. Trust me....she will not know her true feelings for you until she has rid herself of any bad relationships. The last thing you want is to find this woman seemingly falling for you simply because she's unhappy now and you just happen to be the "fall back" guy. She may be looking for an "out" and you are the easiest way for her to accomplish that. Let her get out on her own, be her own person, make her own decisions, start a new life for herself and then, and only then can you be absolutely sure that it is truly you she wants and needs in her life. All things happen for a reason, so allow them to happen all by themself. If it was meant to be....then you two will be together. If not, then at least no one got hurt very badly. I know what it feels like to be in love with someone who is off limits at the moment. Follow your heart and instincts, but also listen to your head. Good luck to you my friend.