what are the best approach to introduce my guy to my parents where they dont approved of his religion and race
544122
Do not just pop over with him and get their raw reaction. That might not go so well. I would break them in slow over a few weeks - start with telling them you have a boyfriend, explain how much you care about him...no details at first. Then pepper in a few hints about him that would give hints about him, then maybe put a picture up or have pictures of you and him together. Give them time to take it all in. Then bring him over so they can find out how good a guy he is.
840970
keep on advising him with any way u can,but don`t be too pushy cause it might have an opposite effect\nin the end he has to open his heart, cause alhedaya can be only obtained by him opening his mind ad heart to islam , and to the light of islam
427814
i have the same problem except the religion thing. Well if u really like him that shouldnt matter, just telll him how u feel and that yalls religion shouldnt matter, then if ur parents get in the picture talk to them and tell them how u feel about him, and if that doesnt work, ur parents dont ALWAYS have to know who ur goin out w/!!!LOL
1008264
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
334247
Let them see what he does for you.  Set down physical boundaries when you're around your parents i.e., no touching except hand-holding,no kissing, groping, making out, pinching, sneaking off, etc. let them see what a gentleman he is. In turn, show them you REALLY love him, and nothing will stand in the way of that.  But since you do want their blessing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  You respect them (even if they say quit seeing him, respect their wishes, they'll see you're sad, if it came to that.  Just remember you can't hope for them to like him. He has to be a good guy, and work at it.  It may also just take time.
419360
compromise with your dad, meet someone that is mixed (half white and half black)
578493
I married a man of another race.  My family has been pretty accepting of him, thankfully.  But I have also seen a good friend of mine struggle with her dad for years to accept her boyfriend of another race, and he never did, and they eventually broke up.  Her dad was afraid of how other people would treat my friend and her boyfriend, and their children someday.  I think the generations before us have seen people do really mean things because of racism, and sometimes they are scared of that stuff happening to their kids.  You are in a tough place.  I hope your mom can get to know your boyfriend and see him for what you see in him.
1068853
You go up to them and say Mom, Dad I'm in love.\n\nPlz give some details.\n\nAre you a minor?\nWhat exactly happened?\nWho are you in love with, an older/younger person?\n\nOK, now I understand, You are more worried about your Father's reaction to him being black than your Mother's. \n \nI can tell that you truly love him, and that you want to have a future with him. I know it's hard going against your parents wishes, but since He's who makes you happy, it shouldn't really matter whether or not your parents/any other family member/s accept him as a member. Regardless of the ramifications I still believe that you should invite him over to your house, tell your parents that you both have something very important to tell them. Then just come right out and say it, "Mom Dad, we're in love."\n\nOf course, you do understand that your parents love you and only want what's best for you, therefore you must make them understand that he's who's best for you.\n\n CONGRATULATIONS! on finding true love, and I hope that things go the way that you want it to go.\nBest of luck!
606493
First of all, religious differences are a major concern. If his religion forbids marrying out, you won't have a happy marriage as far as his parents go... Take that into SERIOUS consideration.\n\nNow the way he treats you, I mean, I know you love him but he really doesn't seem that interested in you. Why would he want to wait for five years? He thinks his parents will somehow approve of you in five years and now they just can't see the situation clearly?\n\nSend me a private message if you want to discuss this further. Just give this some really serious thought, marriage is forever and the last thing you need is a divorce a few months after getting married AFTER waiting years and years!
1088865
just do it behind their back. ur parents sound prettty strict. when you go out just meet up with guys. simple.
1074219
The main thing is that you want to be accepted by his family.\nNow that would not be hard for you I can tell you are a nice girl.\n1. Show a lot of respect for the father. \n2. The mother is the main one you need to win over smile at her when she looks at you .Tell her you are nervous . That will make her go easy on you. Say something nice about her. ( hair, eyes, dress, what ever you like but find something. Just her not the father.)\n3. As for boyfriend just show lots of respect for him like I'm sure you do everyone. \n4. If they ask; Do you love their son say yes if you do, they will like that .\n5. Talk to boyfriend about subjects that would cause problems beforehand.\n6. Nothing to low cut.\n7. Don't worry so much, conversations, money is not up to you you are the guess, they will pay. \nSlow down and you won't spill thing OK.\n\nGood luck I think they will love you.
11652
No, absolutely not.\nIf the guy is not good enough to introduce to your parents, then he's not good enough for you.
69100
My parents wrote me a letter once where they told me how much they loved me had planned for me and how much they pray for me, I also went on a retreat. They told me they were proud of my achievements and that I deserved evrything the world has to offer. As far as being assertive its going to be very difficult b/c he is still a teenager and at that age you want to belong to something, but keep talking to him, tell him not to be afraid to stand his ground on what he believes is right.
765878
I'm an african but i know a little about muslim marriage.He has to introduce you to his family,then he'll make his intentions to his family,thats to marry you.Then he will come with his family to meet yours.The lady's family does not go to meet the guy's family.it is isn't done anywhere.Just be patient.when your guy is ready he'll tell you when he's meeting your family.
244381
i have racist parents, and i waited to date outside my "race" until i got out of the house. if i had "fallen for" someone they wouldn't have approved of before that, i think i just would have dated the person without them knowing. (and i would tell the guy that your parents have issues, so he knows why you're not taking him home to dinner first thing.)\n\nafter you've dated for a little while, and if you really think it's "serious," then you can introduce him to your parents, after you make it clear that you waited to tell them because of their racist attitudes, and are only telling them because it's more than just a crush. prepare for a big argument. tell them first, BTW, so they don't make asses of themselves. surprise is not a good idea here. \n\n(and sorry you have to deal with such silliness. at least i hope it's just silliness.)
732362
tell him the truth..then he will know its not you that is rejecting him but your parents and THEIR rules...and he will feel better about things and you can then both commiserate together and can blame your uptight parents...btw,your parents are also imposing these rules on you because they love and care about you and want to protect you from EVERY nasty aspect of life(not possible though but when you have tin lids of your own you will worry about exactly the same things...)
1037604
You both should respect each others religions. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. You should also explain to him how important your religion is to you and how you don't like him saying those things about your beliefs, he probably won't like you saying those things either. Even if he doesn't like your religion he should respect your beliefs.\nI also think you two should also discuss in what religion you'll raise your children.