What are the secrets of moving on an ex?
537878
finding a new partner, going out and meeting new people. try not to cooped up in the house. it takes time but u will move on! we all do! see it as a blessing in disguise, whatever u do, do not call that person. good luck!!
441424
Wow, that person with the whole exes are like poison has some serious issues.  Trust me, I've never had an experiance like that in my life, so I think he's just a little bit out there.  Re-infected every time you talk to an ex?  WTF?  Can we say "can't move on"?\n\nI've been able to remain friends with many of my exes, but I think part of that is because most of my break ups were mutual.  I think that if you got dumped by her, it might be harder.\n\nI would suggest writing her a letter or email with whatever you want to say.  Tell her that you were really hurt when you broke up, and you just wanted to say that you've made your way through it and would like to see if a friendship between you would be possible.  Then the ball is in her court, if she doesn't respond, then don't push the issue further.  If she gives you a call or send you an email back, have coffee together and talk about what has been going on in your life since the break up.\n\nJust don't have coffee and re-hash the break up, I doubt your ex wants to do that and while it might make you think it will feel better, in reality it will probably just make both of you uncomfortable.  If you start feeling like a friendship is making you feel worse, then its not the right thing to be doing right now.\n\nWork on building a new friendship with an eye on the future, not on the past.
941054
So let me get one thing straight does your ex think youre gonna be with the guy till the end with him or is it the new guy I think you mean the new guy  just tell him straight forward how u feel\ndont beat around the bush! be sraightforward with your feelings!
744034
Make yourself hate him, or try to remember things that he had done to hurt you. This helped me a lot to forget my exbf. \n\nAnd it took me 6 mths to move on and many years to let go of him. But at least it helped tremendously.
587671
Hello!\nGive it time and keep yourself busy.  When you start to think about your ex, redirect your mind--call a friend, go shopping, go workout, have your hair done, whatever you want! Surround yourself with friends and enjoy yourself.  It'll get easier--hang in there!
558833
First, you have to have self control and set boundaries. Mention about your current boyfriend, if possible, have him join the camp as well, if not, call him at least once a day to help you focus on him. Try not to get into the same group as your ex, dont share too much details about your current life, that will get you emotionally too involved with him. That's how I used to handle it when my ex and I went to a retreat site and I had a bf.
1078735
The BEST thing you can do is go back out there and meet new men.  Date them, laugh with them, have fun.  You will discover that you're a much better catch than your "ex" made you feel.  It will take time, but you will get over him.  If you can force yourself into going on at LEAST three dates in the next month, you will help yourself far more than you may believe.  It's not about him anymore, it's all about YOU.  You're special, you're desirable, and the right man will KNOW it.
543287
I think it is difficult for you to let go because you have children from the relationship and land up meeting him. Assuming you want to move forward, do minimize your contact with him else it is difficult to let go of him. To answer your question, I believe you need both - soul searching and activities.\n\nWhen you close a relationship, we tend to think of the "could haves" "would haves" and "what if". If you are doing that, please stop yourself. To really move forward, you have to shutdown the past, and have to tell yourself "Life goes on" and believe in it and think forward. \n\nSoul searching is very important becoz it will help you identify what you are and what you need from your partner. It might even help you reason out why the previous relationship ended and help you come to terms with it. This knowledge about yourself will also give you peace of mind, mental strength and confidence in yourself to move forward.\n\nActivities are very important too in order to live your day to day life and put the past behind. Doing activities you like to do will help you relax and make you happy. It will also help you connect with people who like to do the same activities you like. Thus it will help build network of friends and possibly help you find the right person in your life.\n\nSo, soul searching is required to understand what you are and what you need from this point on. Activities are important to have fun and enjoy the present.\n\nAdditionally I would say: 1) Workout more often becoz it helps reduce stress and makes you feel positive. 2) Stay around people and friends that have positive energy/attitude - it will really help feel positive. 3) Yoga and Meditation really help a lot too.
61715
just think of the future,not the past.the past really doesnt matter if there is/was pain.always look ahead and never look back.to get over an ex just try not to think and talk about him.think about who can be your next stop.
1008405
If you still have feelings for an ex, don't lead the person you are with on, it maybe early days with this new someone and its only natural to think of past loves when you start seeing someone new.But it is also important to not let any emotional baggage get in the way of a new relationship. Try and distance yourself from your last relationship, don't make comparison's. You owe it to yourself to take thing's slowly really get to know this person you are with who could be an absolute gem.
537486
Move on. if your ex has already moved on then you should too!
706519
The best way to get an ex out of your head is to erase him.\n\nDelete his number from your contact on your phone.\n[so you don't think about him when you are scrolling through]\n\nDelete/destroy emails/letters he has sent you.\n[Reminiscing in the past is BAD]\n\nGet rid of photos\n[The less you see him the less you will think about him.]\n\nJust start over. Like life was before you met him.\n\nSoon you will think about him less and less. Then move on.\n\nIt is easy to hide your feeling from someone that doesn't exist to you anymore.
1089342
The new girl isn't going to fill any voids - she might keep you preoccupied for a little while, but thats about it.  You need to let your feelings for your ex come out - and you need to deal with them in order to really move on.
878068
How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
610723
you don't do nothing, case closed, if you have moved on, and you have no feelings for your ex, leave it alone. you can't help who likes you in your lifetime, just don't do nothing to act on anything that will mess up your current relationship.
964660
What I would do,  -and what I think you should do-, is take it very slow with the new girl involved. Honestly, it probably wasn't the best idea for you to get involved with her, but I wouldn't say to completely break it off now - that isn't realistic, and it would just hurt her because she would get your feelings twisted. \nYou have baggage. You can't make genuine transitions from person to person while carrying baggage; it'll hinder you. You'll always carry what was left from the old relationship into the new one, so forth, and so forth, and it isn't fair to the present person involved that your own issues are unsolved. It isn't a problem that you still think of your ex; it's actually very normal. You've completed an important step by acknowledging that your last relationship couldn't work, so now just prove to yourself why you deserve to move on. \nEver heard the song 'Bag Lady' by Erykah Badu?......that one goes out to you, lol.... Good Luck and God Bless.
1005379
No, neither. You're just holding onto the past. Obviously, you still have feelings for your ex. Time to let go, push her and any feelings away. Be with your sweetie, show her how much you love her. Because if you hold onto those feelings, they will get in the way of the relationship down the road. Set the past free.