What's it like to be "the other woman"?
548735
Well I never been "the other woman" but it would seem like it is lonely especially on the holidays when he's spending time with his family and you're wishing "your man" was with you.  I couldn't see myself being with a married man and than the woman is left holding her pillow tight at night because "her man" is at home snogged with his wife. lol
774886
Actually, many of us *do* know, because we were there.  I'm missing out on feeling guilty because I love another woman who is, like, the other half of my brain, being told to avoid enjoyable media, and being told how to vote.  I'm missing out on having to treat potential friends like dirty rotten sinners who need to hear my "Good News."  I'm missing out on spending Sunday morning in pantyhose and coming home after the race started.  The door, as I told my younger cousins, swings both ways; many of us swung out because we used our brains.  Which, after all, you and I (I'm Pagan now) agree that our Creator gave us.
46024
I live with two incredibly gorgeous and endearing women, and not to toot my own horn, but I'm a fairly attractive guy.  We've been friends for the better part of ten years.  Although I admit I fantasize about them every now and again, that doesn't really make them any different than any other attractive females.  I know I'd never want to complicate what we have as friends.
119270
Yeah... I'm really anxious to meet my other self, considering that I've met people on the streets who actually mistake me for their friends - so I'm really just as curious to wondering what this guy actually is like...
151994
Gotta be honest, I think your being played.  How do you think she would react if you asked to spend two weeks with another woman???  She's already made up her mind and is just stringing you along.
1088979
I am 29 and in the process of reinventing myself so this is a great question for me. I will tell you how I am doing it....\nReinventing myself to me means changing what isn't working in my life. I have a degree in education that I am not using, a controlling boyfriend , and feelings of restlessness. I know that "the old" Jen would stay here. I would have built resentment at my boyfriend until we hated each other. The new Jen is changing that behavior. I am moving out before we hate each other. I am changing my life before it hits a bottom. I hated being a teacher because I got sick of being broke and having to work two jobs. So I am saving up to go back to school. That is reinventing yourself. I am changing not the outsides, but the insides of me. My behaviors, relationships, jobs, and attitudes that no longer bring me closer to who I want to be. It is all rooted in awareness of what isn't working. I have found great support from therapists and friends can aid in huge life changes. Good luck!
237982
I don't get jealous of other women that have nice clothes on.  I do, however make comments about other women when they have trashy clothes on and tend to let their assets hang out... and they aren't very nice comments.  But I don't do it out of jealousy... I do it because they look like street walkers.
245884
Because drama and exaggeration are part of my privileges as a woman...get used to it. Welcome to our world!!!
704648
What really matters in all this is you're feeling insecure and that's an awful place to be.\n\nWhen you're the other woman you will always wonder if/when it's going to happen to you.\n\nI think if he did it to her...he'll do it to you...why wait around to see when it'll happen.
222730
I am very attracted to other women, they are sensual and passionate.  Being with another woman sexually is an incredible experience.  I have only been with one woman but the passion and the emotion that was involved in sex was incredible.  I have never been with a guy that I have felt that way with
873291
think about someone else
773556
yes i have with another girl and a guy and with two guys. Thing was i was not dating either of these people. It can really mess with the relationship so if its something you do agree on do not have a mutual friend join you it can make things very awkward between you two as well the two of you and your friend. Also talk about what the boundaries are for you both. What shes okay with you doing to the other woman, what shes comfortable doing with the other woman, and what is going to far. Having a bit of sexual play is good for a relationship, but if its a relationship you want to keep make sure you respect each others feeling on the matter.
1039447
I woke my wife up one morning with a shrug on her shoulder as we both lay  in bed.  She asked me if I was going to speak to her that morning.  She was referring to my ability to shut down from angst and misery, both what I consider a byproduct of poor choices, and my inability to admit It wasn't for me.  She was right.  Snide, but right.  It was a long time since we spoke.  You'd think we had been asleep for years.\nBut I did answer her.  \nI said, yes I am, I'm leaving. \nI said, I'm miserable can't you tell.  Do I even remotely resemble the man you first met?  You deserve to be wanted, not just a compromise.  \nThat was Eight years ago and we are very close friends.  Oh, she is still a bitch, just somebody elses.  I am happy.  She is too.\n\nI hope this answer just changed a life.  Peace.
607121
no, its great, i like the feeling of being in her a-- very much and there is no way i see her as a whore, but i will think she is very confident with herself and her own body. I try to encourage girls to do it but some just cant handle the idea, so one that can is a treasure!
997986
been into that situation. i can relate. well. that was a long time ago. letting go of sumnbody is the craziest thing that i did, i regretted. But i also think it the only way to assess myself and know my true self.\n\nthere will always be trade offs.
51254
I think about this almost daily, as I am currently going through a divorce myself, because of some unbeliveably UGLY stuff my husband has done.  I, as well, consider myself wounded, possibly to that same point of no return---from that hardened heart.  Only, I ask can any MAN be trusted.  When I read your question, it just hit me:  I know I, a woman, CAN be trusted.  Obviously, you feel that you can.  So, YES, we are out here.  We made bad choices in allying ourselves with the people we married--people unworthy of trust.  That does not mean there are not wonderful persons of integrity in each gender out there.  Let's try to move forward and treat people as individuals, rather than representatives of the worst common denominator of their gender.  After all, how would either of us feel if we were dismissed as capable of the UGLY?  ...but I am with ya.  I mean, it's all well and good to say these things to myself, but getting to the point of feeling it in my heart is different.  Good luck to us both/all!
512637
I can sympathize with you. I am and always have been female through and through but it must be very difficult for you.\nI would love to hear sometime what is feels like to be in a male body yet feel like a female. It is hard to imagine.\nIs it just a craving to wear woman's clothes and makeup?\nI just have no frame of reference, since it was always my body, changing, cycling, having hips and boobs, and my love of flowers, colors, furnishings, men, and animals, that made me think like a woman.\nI wonder if it isn't just a desire to be seductive the way a woman is that is the appeal of it.