can my daughter,hubby&me move out of the U.S. with the army if daughters real dad is in U.S. still?
550995
You need to check with the court and your custody agreement. He could contest your moving out of the country, even out of state, assuming the two of you live in the same state. Look into this before you do anything. You may have to revise the agreement, or if he still has rights to your daughter, he could stop you from moving out of the U.S. Good luck!
886651
You shouldn't have a hard time getting back to the states. Just might ask you why because of security reasons. Make sure your fiancee goes with you to back up your story. Also being married and having a different last name does not erase your history because passports require that you provide them with your maiden name. Coming back as a dependent will take time because the Army will have to make you a command sponsored spouse, you will have to wait for your command sponsored passport which will take a few weeks, Also make sure your husband to be will be staying here because of the base reallignment and all. Go home as soon as possible because Germans really hate people utilizing their benefits and good will.
906622
NO -- Orders are orders.  We can request certain duty stations, but when the orders come down, we, the servicemembers, do realize that we serve to meet the needs of the service, and not the other way around.\n\nIF you do marry him, then you need to prepare to go back to court and get YOUR divorce orders and custody orders modified yourself.  That is your responsibility.
877637
You can go through the Adopt-A-Soldier program. I linked it below.
945654
Regardless of what state you currently live in, your husband would have to adopt them.  Then the birth certificate would be ammended to reflect him as their father.
844046
i have been a navy wife and i have been an army wife.  it depends on where you end up being stationed for either on what it's like.  when you are in your home city (or close enough where you don't live on post or deal with the FRG) you're only real source of what's going on is your husband - which is actually helpful as you don't hear 40 different things - none of which are right, and you don't get 4 billion emails about crap you don't care about, and you don't get stuck in the damn rumormill.  \nit was fine in the navy - when he left, i stayed with my parents in san diego because that was where he was stationed.  we are abroad now and we did the blue to green so we are now army.  it's a wonderful experience, but at the same time totally frustrating!  my FRG (i'm sorry, FRG is Family Readiness Group and you refer to the leader as the FRG) never  sends me any relevant information about my husband's unit and yet i get all this useless information that i don't care about.  there is supposed to be a POC (point of contact person) who calls at least once a month - i've been here 6 months, 2 months with my husband gone and she has never called - i don't even know who my POC is!  granted, i don't go to the FRG meetings - but why would i go when they don't do anything that is relevant to me and they make it difficult for me to go with a 14 month old?  \nalso living on post leaves you very vulnerable to the rumor mill, it seems especially the higher ranked enlisted wives do it.  they also tend to wear their husband's rank - abosolutely unacceptable!  myself and the 3 ladies i have made friends with are the wives of an E3, an E5, and 2 E6's (one E6 is only friends with me) so we don't care, and that's the way it is supposed to be in housing.  your rank does not go with you when you are out of uniform.  everyone gets the same respect out of uniform and since wives are never in uniform... yeah.  but it tends to not work that way.  there is this whole web of crap to deal with.  i tend to not.  i have also already made it clear that if i am included in this rumormill i will take them to court on charges of slander and defemation of character - i won't put up with it, but most wives will and that's why it's so widespread.\n\nif you are going to be stationed abroad, don't expect any help from the army to get you to your husband quickly - it was 6 months for all the paperwork to go through because no one could tell us everything we needed to do it so as we got one thing done we were then told another thing we needed to do and since he was already in europe and i was in arizona it was very difficult.\n\nother than that, it's fine.  you get to meet new people, have new experiences - if you live on post it's like it's own little world... kinda wierd to me, but you may like it.  and depending on your personality and what your husband does in the army you may not ever notice the rumors spreading like wildfire.\n\nmy tips, make friends with your housing person before you get a residence on base, find out where everything you NEED is at on base (they give you lots of useless info you have to sift through) and try to make friends with your neighbors, they are going to be the people you see most.
464021
I am currently a military spouse and if I could do it all over again I would have told my husband to just get a job in his major and not the Army.  The Army takes care of us, they have some great benefits probably the best in the world.  But none of that is worth risking your life for.  I'm not anti-Army, I'm just living the life supporting my husband.  We have a 3 year old, and he just came back from a deployment in Dec and possibly will be leaving again within a month.  Imagine a 3-year old asking for his daddy everyday while he is fighting in a senseless "war".  If you can't, it's pure hell.  I don't recommend military life to anyone unless you are single and times are REALLY hard for you financially.  There are alot of sacrifices you have to make in a military environment.  I have some research for you, go and find out the divorce rate for military servicemen, its beyond the means of high.  I think I just told you the reason why!!
639661
I married my wife (German) while we were in the US.  This was in 1987, so some things have changed. *L*\n\nHe will have to get a VISA to enter.  Contact your Personnel Center, or the Consulate, to obtain the proper paperwork.\n\nOnce you're married, contact INS and see if he can apply for his Temporary Alien Resident card while you are still stationed overseas.  If so, do that IMMEDIATELY!!!  If you have the Resident Alien Card, you may not require a Visa.\n\nGood luck and congratulations.
850032
How long is he going to be stationed there?\nCan you go with him? It is in the States afterall.\nThis happens to alot of married Military.\nsome stay home because they don't want to move and they know that their spouse will be back in a year. but if it is for a longer period of time and you own a home you could rent it out and then rent a place where he is.\nIs moving out of the Question?\n\nGood Luck to you, i hope your dilemma gets resolved.
848972
Hi, I'm an Air Force wife.  So far I have been very lucky not to have my husband overseas at all.  The longest he was ever away from me is 6 months.  Now most of the time it is just for a couple of weeks at a time.  Stay strong and I'm sure you can get through it, I'm sure he is worth it.  At least that is how I feel about my husband.
1026322
If yes, what's your current address, phone number, and place employment?................  There's gotta be a law against military desertion. Otherwise, before any conflict there'd be a rush of servicemen leaving. Flipping a burger/pushing paper's different than being shot at.
381134
The first guy is right.  I mean everything depends on your personal custody arrangement, but as a general rule you cannot move out of state or, like the 1st guy said, anywhere that will alter the current visitation arrangement.\n\nHOWEVER, if you have sole custody and the father does not regularly visit the child, I would challenge him to take you to court over it.  If he is not an active part in the child's life, he won't get to put his foot down and interfere with your life just to be a jerk.  So if that is the case, the answer will be yes, you can.  The court won't stop you.
497901
Well its really up to him and how he wants to do this. I hope he isn't doing this just because his soon and maybe to be father in law was in the Coast Guard. The military is just like any other job. You have to enjoy what you are doing. The Army and the Coast guard are two totally different branches of the military, and they are on opposite ends. The pro's would be of course the "title" the benefits healthcare wise, housing, medical benefits, the 20 year plan, (thats the big retirment number). Salary...is Ehhh...once he hits the high E-5's and 6's he'll be making the better money kind of. Cons...boot camp..being deployed to Iraq possibly, Kuwait. He will be away from home a lot...so unless his girl friend and him decide to get married...she will be stuck at home...with the baby of course. And its a lot better if he gets married before he joins up (from experience). And as for you mom...be proud of him in whichever way he chooses. He's a grown boy now...and he has to learn how to make a life of himself and he has to define success through his family and through his career. Whatever he may choose. College, or the military, he is your son. Be proud. If he does join up. Be proud that you are the mother of an American Soldier.
84303
Nope. Especially if he is El Salvador. Salvadorean laws do not allow cross border funds transfer from El Salvador to the US.\nPlus and more imporantly, if he is El Salvador, how do you expect for im to pay child support ???? He obviously travelled and entered the US illegaly to get a job...
754630
The best way to do this is technically adopt a Soldier - you can choose who you adopt. They post a 'want' list of different items. I had a few Solier's Angels while I was deployed and they were awesome - and became good friends since. The website is posted in my sources - GOOD LUCK!
669659
I am an Army brat. My dad is now a retired Lt Col. I've been to Ft. Meade in Maryland, El Toro in California, Keflavik in Iceland, Ramstein in Germany (which I am now at stationed in the Air Force), Mildenhall in England, and Ft. Lewis in Washington. I'm glad that your dad is coming home to you soon. Hope he enjoys his short break from the desert. God bless!
263823
ok well i am not a spouse yet but i have been with a military man for 3 years now in that time he has gotten out and then back in...we moved to his home state where his parents were and just couldnt make it so he got back in...once you are in its hard to get out and make a living for yourself...and when someone does i give them all the credit in the world because we couldnt