Why do so many people (singles)stay on the computer personals  for yrs and yrs and never find anyone,WHY ?
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I have my theories on this, and it is SUCH a good question...\nI think that people who are playing the field online are mostly people who are relationship addicts and people who avoid true intimacy...let's face it, people...how hard is it to meet someone in real life, really?  If you open your eyes and your heart,  if you are TRULY looking to date,  there are interesting people out there EVERY SINGLE DAY who are AVAILABLE, in REAL LIFE...and totally local..I think that a lot of these people on the single's sites are maybe even married and are looking for a thrill on the side...at least a cyber thrill...which is TOTALLY lame, in my opinion.  I tried internet dating for an entire MONTH...but I found I need a real connection...the best place to find people is in places where people are doing things that you enjoy...I personally love bookstores and the library...\nwhat a cool question!
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because you lose some of your social skills when you have been with someone for a while. maybe you have gotten older and are no longer in your late teens or early 20's, when you still had a lot of social things to fill your time?\nemployment plays a big part too and when you have a job, it is harder to muster strength to even go out and meet someone.
920942
Apparently it does.  Mostly because a lot of these people are immature weirdos with no lives.  Don't take it personally.  They probably live on their computers and won't amount to much of anything.
909949
yes a lot of people do i can never find any one either. im sandra   who r u
588623
I have done the on line dating thing and I will say I have met a man that I am very interested in.. but the majority of them seem to be looking for something that they don't even know what that is... and they continue to look for years not giving individual people a long enough chance to get to know them before moving on to the next and the next .. its an endless cycle...seems to me that it would be rare to have a connection that is lasting... but could be wrong ...
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I AGREE WITH YOU IAM 25 AND A SINGLE MOTHER AND LOOKING FOR A MAN TO BE WITH ME THE REST OF MY LIFE BUT I TOO SEEM TO HAVE THAT PROBLEM I BELIEVE THE BEST THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT.  YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.
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Most of the guys on these dating sites are the same ones you'll find in any lameass club--you know , the jerks who hang together and always go home alone!!! Ha! Ha! I also think that alot of them are just playing around on the computer anyway. Good luck, tho. :)
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Of course technology leads to social isolation in some situations. For instance, the people holed up in their houses for days on end with game systems. Being on the internet constantly...I could go on and on. I have though of it before, and the impact on our society as a whole, but we have to change with it. There are positive aspects, too, such as making deadlines at work via working 'over' at home, e-mailing and IMs to people who you wouldn't normally be able to contact due to high long distance costs, etc.
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I think most people (not just gays, though we certainly do have less of a chance of actually finding someone) have this problem. It'll be okay though! Just keep up good spirits and you'll find someone sooner or later.\n\nAnd I'm always free to chat through YIM at SpookySickness or at bluesylvia@hotmail.com
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alot of normal people are on personal sites... even married people...its just another way to connect yourself to the world...just be careful, jerks are on those sites too...most people think that they will appear desparate or something but it can be just the opposite sometimes....real people with real feelings are looking to meet others with same interest..if it works for them then its worth it in the long run
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it is pretty obvious why we need to find mates, it is because we are social animals, and also we need to further the race.  I do believe it is posible to live a single life, thou it would require a lot of discipline and character,  not to mention great passion for something else to keep ur mind occupied,  but then again i think that would turn out to be a rather pathetic, miserable and boring life.  SUAE
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well, it could be just them.  Or that computer emit radiation.  So, some peoples' bodies cannot take it.  To be honest, its very very little.  So, some people can be on computer for years and not have a problem.  Some cant take it after a while, and their body gets tired from the radiation.  Some people people okay and dont have a problem.  Once they see a problem, then every time they jump on the computer, the problem arises right away.  That is because the person's system has given up on fighting that certain element.  But, this is going way too deep because there is very very very little radiation that is emitted from the computer.
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we "modern humans", both men and women, i have seen have started getting such tendencies to seek a relationship outside even if they are satisfied .\n\neven in countries like mine - India - which is much more conservative and where marriages are by and large done once in a life and they survive till both die\n\ni attribute 2 reasons for it - greed and the need for change.\n\nGreed because man & woman want more and more out of life in the area of sexual and emotional fulfilment. Meaning they want such things from more than 1 people\n\nChange because like every other thing, many people have started taking relationships as a commodity, which should be changed frequently. Instead of understanding the partner, they just live them alone for self-good.
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I actually found one this way...and he became a boyfriend for a while.  I think a lot of people that go on there are chicken or are just trying to see if anyone's actually interested in them.  I used adultfriendfinder.
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Try People Finders.  Most folks have great success using them.
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I am wondering how many people who do online dating are\n1-already married....seen lots of guys do this\n2-been married and divorced many times over\n3-players who just want to have sex and nothing more
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A lot of people have had much success with meeting the love of their lives online. So I guess it really depends on the person and how hard they are willing to find that special person.