does anybody deserve a third chance in relationships?
542784
If you keep staying with her or taking her back after she cheats, do you really think she's going to stop?  Obviously, she didn't learn her lesson after the first time, if you caught her doing it again.  She thinks that you love her, and let her get away with it before, and because you love her, you'll keep forgiving her and taking her back.  Time heals, and you'll find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated.
526960
Yes, I think there is always hope and a possibility, but that depends entirely on both people.  First, as hard as it may be, the first round is accepting what happened as real.  The second round is understanding what and why it happened.  More often than not the real reason one person cheated on another is due lack of attention, meaning the needs of one person were not being met by the other.  As busy as life gets in the world we live in today, there is often not enough time to pay attention to and meet the needs of a partner.  That is why it is said that the quality of time is more important than the quantity of time.  The third round is the hardest, but this is the process of forgiving.  The only way to start over or to repair any damage due to unfaithfulness or infidelity is to forgive.  There are couples that are willing to and able to forgive each other, but then that depends entirely on the two people involved.  Is that what they want?  What do they want? Etc...etc...etc...
436991
Sometimes.  However, you have to really think about whether you are dating the person for what you have together now or what you had in the past.  It is also important to examine why you broke up in the first place.  Is that issue resolved because if it isn't, then, chances are the relationship won't work the second time around either.
1000354
I agree that she could have done with somebody better, but it doesnt really matter who she is with, its as long as her boyfriend keeps her happy.
963089
i thinks its a good idea becuase your probably tired of getting hurt and tired of wasting your time on people who arent really worth your time and listening to there lies\nThats what i have been doing and u see both sides of the person because u waiting to see if thats the better person or a person thats not worth your time
121104
Go for it... You already missed one chance... You don't get a second chance everyday!!!
188979
Did he actually meet the other person? If so, what did they do? The severity of his actions should give you a good indication of what you should do. If you feel that his actions were not severe enough to break off the relationship, then don't.  If you feel otherwise, then sever ties. It all depends on how you feel, because we (the answerer's) don't really know the situation you're in and the things you're thinking/feeling. \n\nWorst case scenario? You dump him, realize he was your soul mate, never get back together, get depressed, never date, and die alone.\n\nBest case scenario? You don't dump him, he is eternally grateful, both of you work things out, and you live long and fulfilling lives.\n\nAs you can see, there is quite a bit of swing in the spectrum. If you feel that he deserves a second chance (i.e. he's been faithful [until now], treats you well, is respectful, and didn't go through with the deed, then you might want to give him a second chance.  After all, it seems like he realized his mistake before anything *bad* happened, and both of you can learn and grow stronger from this experience.
353969
Nope. And I'm glad I'm not. I'm really happy with my current girlfriend, and my first girlfriend was one of the biggest idiots I've ever known. But that's just how it worked out for me. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there whose first relationship was the right one, and hey, more power to them.
68228
Yes, people change all the time. if no one gave people second chances , then 90 % of the world would be in the crapper. Life is full of second chances, it just depends on how you handle it..in your case, you spiffed up your life and should stay positive about finding someone to spend your life with. When we get our lives in order after making such mistakes, then it is not to long after that we will find that better things come our way. Good for you for turning your life around.. I wish you luck.
341349
Dont go backwards. History has a way of repeating itself-move forward is it really worthwile putting yourself through emotional turmoil again? She wants you and someone else???? You are worth more.
543666
Using someone to get over another is not a good idea. You can't expect someone else to make you happy, that is something you have to be responsible for.
863255
Yes, but it takes time and a huge commitment on both sides to make it happen!\n\nIf the person who cheated is willing to rebuild the trust they destroyed and the one cheated on is willing to work on forgiveness, than it is possible.  Difficult, but possible!
462832
Generally speaking if your relationship didn't work before it won't work in round 2.  Old feelings, problems, resentments and other issues will creep in and ruin things.\nThere are over 7 billion people in the world...roughly 50% of them are the opposite sex.  You can and will find someone else.  Just move on.
1147302
Yes, when they are in denial, trying to numb the pain. When they realize they have a problem they should leave the new person immediately so as not to do any further harm. If the person they still love is not psycho and also single, they should jump back on that bandwagon, if they will be accepted. It is not easy to trust again once that line has been crossed, and should not be expected to be forgiven. If they are forgiven, they should be sure to kiss boots for some time until trust returns... lol
495411
Depending on how it ended... If badly I proably would not go back to him. What went wrong would always be in the way, and if we argued, then it would be the first thing that was brought up. ... \n\nIf it ended on a good note (which is very rare, but does happen!!) I might give him another chance. Unless I was with someone else, and in love with someone else.. In which case, I again would let it go.... I might regret it later.. But sometimes the past hurts too much to bring it into your future.
959175
We are all human and make mistakes.  You might want to look deep into your own heart/mind and ask yourself what caused you to separate.  If there was some behavior which you could not tolerate and the other person has changed (for himself, not just for you), then a second chance might be worth it.  Sometimes people make rush judgements instead of rational decisions.  If your company offers some free counselling sessions, it might be worth it to go and maybe you'll have a better understanding of yourself...your wants, needs, desires.\n\nIt would also be good to know if the other person is really wanting you or is it because he has nothing else going on and coming back to something familiar.
692018
No, because no one is perfect. Part of every long term relationship is coming to terms with that - including the fact that you are not perfect yourself, and others have to come to terms with that.\n\nIt sounds as if you are talking from personal experience, and it sounds painful. I would say that if someone has done this to you then you are better off without her. If this is the case, I hope these answers will help to heal the hurt. When you've had some time to get over this, I hope you will find a deeper loving relationship. Good luck!