My exhusband isin the navy we have joint custody and he estranged me from  my 2 children?
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Get in touch with the Navy's Judge Advocate; you can visit your local navy base to get the ball rolling. The Navy does not take this kind of thing lightly and if you are supposed to have joint custody, they'll make it happen.
296010
Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.
75646
He sounds like a dirtball. Sorry to hear it. Get a good lawyer and take his a*s to court again. DONT listen to friends and family...get a lawyer. Your kids well being is worth it. GOOD LUCK!
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Hi chrismarie1511,\nDo you have joint custody? You need to contact a lawyer. Look in the phone book for a lawyer who gives a free consultation in person or over the phone if you cant afford one. Good Luck: Blueladybug
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Hey girl...this sucks.  Been there done that.  Questions, questions, questions...  You should always know that when you date a guy that has baggage like that to be prepared to sacrafice.  I am impressed with the fact that he was still into a relationship with his x and kids because that shows his willingness to still let the kids have some normalcy.  I can understand how hard this was for you, and maybe it just wasn't meant to be.  Now, if he was just keeping in touch so he could be close to his x, then you are much better off pulling out of that fight, than staying and losing, which would've happened eventually.  Maybe you should give him a call if he is as great as you say he is, and thoroughly explain to him what's been bothering you.  Tell him exactly how you feel about him, and THEN, go on to how you were feeling when you broke it off. If you guys try to repair the relationship, ask if maybe you two could do some things with the kids alone...no x involved.  Start building a relationship with them.  The kids are going to be there always, and the x too at times.  But, you two should be building a relationship outside of the x with the kids. That is respectful to you, and your relationship with the father. I believe in honesty.  It has bit me in the rear a few times, but at least I could sleep at night.  Best Wishes.
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Listen honey...I was in the Navy for 6 years, and went through my own relationship issues.\n\nYou have to look yourself in the heart: do you love this young man? If you do, he will return, and all of this will be forgotten.\n\nIf you separate from him, AND you still love him...I just don't see the benefit there for you.\n\nI am sure you already know this, but those who serve in the armed forces are very passionate for what they believe in...is this so bad to have in a bf/fiance/spouse? He is patriotic, and after his time is done he will be a hard working provider. Are you sure you want to say no now? You may find better...but since I don't know him...that is for your own heart to decide.\n\nWHATEVER YOU DO: don't send him a Dear John letter while he is overseas. Break cleanly before he goes...or wait for his return.\n\nGood luck in your decision. It is your life...but him being in danger every second of the day says something about his personality. It is stressful. I know. When I married my wife we were actually both in the Navy, and I know neither of us was in danger like your hon, but still...separation breeds anxiety. Think about this: if something happens to him...and you split up with him before he went, would you feel any less pain? If you are the person I am taking you to be, I bet not.\n\nTake care.\nJust remember...make sure your decision comes from the heart...not the brain. Sometimes our brains think too much!
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The best way to deal with this is to take your self out of this situation. By completely cutting yourself from any contact or relationship with your ex, even money.  My ex husband has done the same thing. I avoid him as much as possible unless I absolutely have to talk or see him. Which is usually during holiday visits. And these usually end up with like you said, him disrespecting me.  I don't ever call him or communicate with him. Also the best thing I ever did was avoid the child support issues.  I believe most of the fighting with ex's are over money issues ie child support.  I think this saved a lot of pain for the kids sake.  As they got a little older, the subject was brought up but then the fighting started, We both said, its not worth fighting over.  My kids emotions are more important then money. What we did is set up bank accounts for the kids, if my ex wants to put money in there, then its between my kids and him. It saves so much emotional games and the kids win. BTW: When the kids become teens, your relationship will probably get better,  the both of you will realize your resentment for eachother will be the last of your problems. The teen are going distract you from those emotions. Its happend to both my husband his ex, & me and my ex. We actually HAVE to talk now, but its all business, and has been civil. For the four of us. Good Luck
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you have 6 month from the time your divorce was filed here in ca.  If I were you, I would consult a Lawyer.  He has no business being a father.  He sounds very unfit.  Sounds like you have very good grounds.  First though what I would recommend is documenting. for example, I keep all emails I send to my ex that way if need being I have the written proof for the court.  basically say to him, that he was scheduled to pick so and so up, but you got a call from the school saying no-one pick her up.  something along those lines.  without documentation, you won't have a chance.
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Any local attorney will be willing to give you a free consultation and can help you to find an afforable attorney and even work with you to get affordable payments. Good luck. If he took your kids to Florida without your permission then you should press kidnapping charges against him.
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Go to your county's Child Support Agency. It's in the phonebook. Call or walk-in. If the children are in your care for more than 1/2 the time, he will be required to pay child support. As far as him seeing them, you may have to go to mediation which cost me $100. I didn't request it, he did. Actually, he requested it 2 times. Do your best as far as that goes. You do have to cooperate with visitation but only if he's looking for the best interest of the child. Which is what the mediator does. However, the mediator will believe what he/she wants from both sides. Be polite. My ex started to get rude and it effected the outcome. I just stayed quiet during his little fit. I hope this helps. Good luck! Don't let him bully you out of this either. You're fighting for your children's rights.
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I hate to say it but I believe you have a reason to be concerned about your soon to be ex-husband's visits to your son even though they are supervised.  \nMy suggestion would to make sure your attorney has the information.  Due to his past history make your request for supervised visitation be a non negotiable point in the divorce.  Make sure your attorney brings it up to the judge.  Usually at some point the judge will ask you if you have anything to say.  Tell him/her yes.  Explain the abuse and drugs and so on to the judge.  Have it written down at least the key points so you remember everthing you want to say to the judge that way you don't leave anything out.    \nAlso for your peace of mind, I would suggest you talk to a therapist or member of clergy to help you deal with your feelings about him and his behaviors.  \nSomeday you will find that special someone who will love you and your son.  He will be the best person for you and your son.  \nBest of luck
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As a military wife, I learned very quickly that, frankly, the US Military doesn't care about me.  It's kind of a running joke between most of the wives and their husbands.\nUnfortunately, for your friend, it's no laughing matter.  The military is not going to help her at all if she is divorced.  \nShe needs to get a lawyer who is well versed in custody agreements AND military issues.  As far as I know, if the military says you're going somewhere, that's where you're going.  I don't know if a court agreement of joint custody changes that at all...I doubt it.\n\nI wish you and your friend luck!
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I wouldn't think you have much to worry about. I have spent many years in custody court. Usually fighting for child support. First off, depending on the state, usually the courts like to keep children with their mother unless she is really unfit. Second off, he is living with his parents. Shows he has no way the keep himself let alone 4 kids up. If he really wanted the kids, he would have to have a home for them, with enough bedrooms, and beds, and be real active in their lives, school, church, activities, etc.. Then he would have to show the judge why they shouldn't be with you, EX.. you are unfit, never home, alcohol or drug abuse present, and that the children are in iminent danger staying with you. From what you have said sounds like you have the kids best interest at heart. Trust me, judges have seen and heard it all when it comes to just using the custody hearings to upset the mother. Be calm and tell the truth. It does work! Hope this helps you!
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Sorry but unless you called the police and reported the abuse when it was going on you are out of luck. Joint custody is the way it happens now.\n\nIf he is abusing the child and you can prove it (your word is not good enough) you can obtain supervised visits.\n\nIf you are not married and no custody order is in place move to another state
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Try to contact his FRG (family readiness group). They can keep you up-to-date with what is going on with the unit. However, some units have restrictions on who can receive information, and there may be certain things they can't/won't tell you (since you are not married yet). There should be some people who you can make friends with and talk to though. If moving is an option, move near his base so that you can really be near the FRG and also be there when he  gets back. However, you cannot live on the base until you are married, and the military will not pay you an allowance to live off-base, like they would if  you were married. \n\nWhen you think you can't take it anymore, remember why you love him. It sucks when he's gone, but it will be so worth it when he gets home, trust me.
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Are you not wanting the children?  My exhusband spends no time with his children and well as upset as I was about before I am no longer upset.  Full custody... physical custody or sole custody?  I would go ahead and sue for sole custody removing him of rights to the child so it is no longer sparatic and emotionally draining or damaging to the child's self esteem and well being.
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Yes!  Your first priority should be to your kids.  They aren't safe with your husband and you need to get them away now.  Call legal aid or see if you make payments to a lawyer.  Or see if in your state you can file on your own.  Make sure you have proof of whatever accusations you are going to bring up in court.  Document everything, it will help you later on.  Also depending on the ages of the kids, I would ask for supervised visitation due to him still talking to the perp.