if u were a parent would u be mad if ur 20yr daughter left to vacation in another country?
553684
I would be upset cuz i like to know where my kid even at the age of 20 (hehe thats my age) just left with out telling cuz i'll be worrie bout her in til she told me. I would like the heads up first
1013800
I would probably get very stressed out at the time but children are extremely resilient and cope well with most things. Getting angry about it as a teenager is normal and your mum and sublings should understand almost any way you cope within reason. If I was a bit older, I would probably want to track my dad down though, and give him a good talking to about how abandoned I felt and the impact it had on my life. After that I would probably want to just  talk it out civilly
273706
If you are unhappy then why stay I don't believe in holding a marriage together for the children it only makes the children upset to see what is going on between mom and dad.Just because you're not happy with your wife doesn't mean you don't love your children or that you cant be a part of their lives.This long distance love you have for someone else is it why you are unhappy? and how well do you no this person,sometime the grass isn't always greener on the other side as you think it will be.If you have thought this through and this is what you really wont and its worth you leaving your marriage and theres no saving what you and your wife once had then I say sit her down and tell her and if your children are old enough to understand tell them as well but let them no it has nothing to do with your love for them and they have done nothing to cause any of this reassure them you will always be there for them .Just tell them sometimes Mommy's and daddy's do things like this but you both love them ,and I hope you or the mom will put each other down in front of the it will only hurt them more.Those children are the most important issue you both need to do this in a pleasant manner if mom wont's to yell and scream just leave the kids will respect you in the end. good luck to you all
580304
I would authorize the INS and the Consulate in Brazil to allow my daughter-in-law and 4 yr old grandson to come home immediatly.  I miss them so much
1084603
I think he is a piece of crap and you daughter has gotten herself into a bad situation.  Unfortunately she is old enough that she can make her own dumb decisions, but things like that make me wish I had a bag of common sense that I could use to beat the crap out of people who do dumb things.
780286
I'm ok, and I had an awful childhood.\nGranted, It's taken years to get myself balanced and to be able to accept my past. But from the day I went into care at 14, I decided I didn't want to be like the others around me... I had a rocky lot of teenage years. but who doesn't?\nI am now 24 and Mother to a beautiful 4 and a half year old girl.\nAnd even if I say so myself, I am a good Mum, my daughter is polite well mannered happy and loved. I think that one of the reasons I have done well with her is because, I swore that I would never do to her what my Mum did to me... I had to live with the consequences and it wasn't pleasant!\nSure, I'm not completeley un-affected by my past and even now I get stages where I don't understand why, or feel upset or betrayed. But I DO understand and know, that I will be the best Mother I can for my little one. And feel lucky that I was shown how bad things could be, so that I can break a cycle, and give my Daughter the future she deserves.
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Sounds like the best thing would be all of you have family counseling together, especially to support the teenage daughter.  If you move, who's to say the the ex won't move also?  I also think it depends on how old the teenage daughter is........it is sad that children have this magical thinking regarding a parent that is unable to give them what they need.  They give them way too much power when it comes to their feelings.....very sad.  The child might be at the point where she says "No thanks" to whenever the mother feels the notion to see her.  I would suggest the family counseling and get feedback regarding the idea of moving.
724711
Your ex sounds like he is the core of what your daughter is experiencing with regard to her problems. A girl of this age needs her mothers involvement as well as her fathers. \n\nYou 2 need to agree to disagree without it harming the childs emotional state of well being. \n\nAnother thing; Nothing would put me in another state if my child was living in another. You need to be living within a closer proximity of your daughter. \n\nForget about the ex and concentrate on your daughter. I also have to wonder why you don't have custody of her? \n\nToo many issues here and with all due respect, your only issue should be the welfare of your daughter. Period. I would not compromise myself with demands set forth by my ex where my children are concerned. GO there, stay with his mother if she wishes; but for one reason, to be there with and for your daughter.
1150378
Probably.  But if your parents don't know about it, you could be sent back to where you started out from.  Plus in order to go overseas, one needs at least a passport, and sometimes a visa as well.
215312
NOOOOOOOOO! it is not your obligation. you need to have some tough love with this child! Lay down the rules, and tell her that if she can't live with these rules that she is 20 years old and is free to move out. You are babying her! If you don't help your daughter find confidence in her abilty to take care of herself she may live with you FOREVER!!! or at least rely on you each time she is "down and out"
753502
I would have alot of mixed emotions to go through before I could make a decision to stay,or go..I honestly don't know & won't unless it were to actually happen to me..excellent question lil' lady! =)
603547
I would go without a doubt. I love my daughter and if that is what it takes, man I wouldn't think twice. \n\nMany people come into the US for that same reason you are asking. Their children are dying of easily curable diseases because of lack of money. \n\nIf you ask the ones who come here looking for a better life, they will tell you the truth. God knows what they have been trough to be forced to come into a foreign country where no one speaks your language just to find some food for your children. \n\nThe people who don't have any children won't understand me, but the ones who do, would do anything for their children. I would do anything, anything for her.
47183
let yer parents do wut they want and be greatful for their caring attitude because some of us dont have parents who care and u will miss it when u go off on your own some day.
749176
That is horrible! I understand how you feel being a parent myself.\nI would be really mad. Perhaps you could send a letter to their important clients:) I would do this. \n\nGood luck!\n\nBob B.
963150
if my parent tried to take my kid i would probably DEEPLy dislike them for the rest of my life.  ....just a thought.
883835
Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.\n\nI would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
983463
yea\nif i had the chance, i'd go ;-)\nit might be hard to adjust to the new country's cultures and customs\njapan, for instance, has very strict customs- if you forget any of them, they would think it was an insult