how do you make a realationship work when a spouse is over seas?
554228
It isn't easy. You really got to love them to wait around but hey what else is there to do right? I mean you get to talk a couple of times a week and swap email. I take it he is deployed or you would be with him if he was just stationed at a base over seas somewhere. Take it from an ex Army man, it isn't easy for either of you and it can get boring and tempting to stray. Try and stay busy if your on post some place there has got to be a lot of other gals just like you waiting so hook up with some of them for someone to talk to they are in the same boat.\nGood Luck!!
717781
Communication is the key, I know it's hard to have someone who is so far away, but if the love, trust, and communication is there neither of you will strsy. We all get urges sometimes and want someone else to physically be there to comfort us, and you can do that but don't cross the line with it. I speak from experience. If you need a more elaborate answer don't hesitate to ask.
1177674
Yes! Long distance relationships CAN work out! It is A LOT of hard work. I don't know what country you are from and what the customs are there, so I don't know how relevant or plausible my advice will be.\n\nAlways tell her your true feelings. Let her know your worries. Don't forget to tell her how much she means to you, OFTEN!\n\nAlways treat each other with honesty, trust, understanding, respect, and be willing to compromise and to communicate thoughts and feelings openly. This is the basic foundation of a relationship that both people need to work on to make it work, especially for a long distance relationship.\n\nIf you've both been waiting for each other six years, I don't think there's much to worry about. Once you have earned the money, go back and see her. Tell her and show her how much she means to you. Talk about both of your futures.\n\nFight for your relationship, but also be realistic. Sometimes no matter how much both of you care about each other, there are other things that get in the way, such as time and physical distance. Long distance relationships can work, depending on how willing both people are to put hard work into the relationship.
1003178
Long distance relationship are a real challenge.\nTrust is a must. It sounds both are trying to test each other by means of jealousy?
1017042
Reconcile your your self to the fact that this is his job, by all means keep telling him you miss him, but don't try and stop him doing his job, or make him feel guilty over not being home all the time.\nI worked overseas for 15 years starting in Saudi, 4 months on and 2 weeks home leave, After a year of that I started getting better leave cycles in different parts of the world, my wife and children some times came with me.\nI went where ever the work (and money) was!\nI always managed to keep in contact with home and at times felt guilty, but my wife and kids knew the score and supported me in my work.\nSo all I can suggest is do not make him feel guilty , if he ever has to make a choice between you and work , and he chooses you it will always be on his mind.\nSupport him he probably doesn't want to be away, its no real fun being away from home even if it sounds great!\nBut whatever, good luck to the pair of you!
1088008
as long as your wife feels OK with the idea then just hang lose. just remember the man up will really disagree. your marriage to your wife not to the colony. just think about it we are not in the days to be exploring in life and letting our Love's hang around other people that may have more life in them and take away your wife.
1149224
The others are right, keep communicating is the key, and it takes two committed persons to do it. It won't be easy, but if you love each other, a few months is nothing. I was in long distance with my fiancee for over a year before we were together. Now we'll be getting married next month!\n\nMake sure you keep an interest on what's happening to each other while you're apart (who you're hanging out with, what's stressing you out, etc). And try to cultivate some common interest so you don't run out of things (sports, movies, tv shows, etc) to talk about. If you both like to write, I found writing long emails a great way to keep in touch. It takes a little more effort but it can be well appreciated.\n\nBest of luck to you both!
987331
It's really difficult to make a long distance relationahip work. It takes a lot of time, effort, sacrifice and money. My friend was living in London, had a boy-friend in Canada and parents in SE Asia. She was constantly having to answer and make phone calls to all aspects of the globe at really odd times. She also had to deal with life in uni. It was really hard for her get much of anything done besides talk on the phone or send emails. Eventually though she decided to stick with the boyfriend and got transferred to an uni in Canada to be with him. She loved him too much to give him up. That's eventually what all long-term relationships come down to. If you really truely want to be together then you'll find some way to amke it work. If you are not that committed it's best to break it off before one of you inadvertantly does something to hurt the other.
414186
Go out and make friends with other navy wives. Join their clubs and ask them the same question as this one and see how they cope when their husband are overseas
185880
With today's technology, you can easily keep in touch with someone even when he is away.  I have done this for years, and now we are married.  He is away for law school right now and it works fabulously.  First, you have to have enough trust for the person and give them room to breath.  Second, you have to understand that they may not respond to you instantly if you e mail, call, or text.  There are many free internet phone services, such as Skype or other video internet phone services that are very useful.  Good luck to you.
814505
Communication is the most important thing in a realitionship like that and the second thing is trust. If you don't have those two things it makes no sense to try.\n\n\nI have been in two LDRs in my life, the first lasted 2 yrs. I was in Jamaica he was in the US for a part of it. We both ended up having to move, I moved to the US and he moved to England. \nWe kept that relationship alive through e-mails, letters, IMs Random phone calls. \nThe second lasted almost 2 yrs and probably would have lasted much longer if communication didn't break down. I used to see him every 3-4 months for month. I was in the US and He as in SA. (don't ask). \n\nIn neither of the LDRs did i find myself in a fight b/c of the distance but it's possible. Try to talk more remind him that each day a way is one day closer to seeing you again. When you do talk try to talk about things other than "I love you" and  "I miss you" or anythign related to that. It makes life harder. Try to talk about things which interest each of you. Simple things liek how your day was. Or random none personal things like politics, books, just stuff.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps. one thing I just to do send a puzzle ( a gift that i was sure the guy couldn't figure out) it had to relate to either a memory I had of him or somethign related to the relationship. Once he got it generally sparked a conersation and not make him miss me as bad as he did.
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I happen to agree with cuteiepie. Keep it alive by phone, emails, snail mail...keep all communication channels open. If you have serious intentions for the future with that person, it is most important to physically spend time with each other at least once or twice a year. I think long distance relationships only work for so long. At one point or another you have to make it a "no distance" relationship. Good luck!!
852086
Long distance relationship hardly works.
843107
Yes if the feelings for each other is sincere and everything else is in place, surely you can't knock someone back because of where they come from. Except you are saying it might be a problem because of the distance, I can understand that but then you can work round that provided both of you are committed to travelling and ensuring that the relationship works. Finding true love is not something that happens everyday and as such if you are lucky to find it,  enjoy it.
740562
I myself have a long distance relationship. I'm in Canada and hes in Georgia, USA. People say these tpyes of relationships can't work out because of such the long distance, but I tell you they're wrong. We talk every night  on the phone and use our webcams to see eachother as much as possible. We get to see eachother in person every other month or so for up to 3 weeks at a time. Just being able to talk to him and see him on cam helps so much when we cant be together in person. I don't know what else to tell you as far as to make it easier. I know how hard it can be, but really, thats all the advice I can give you. Hope it helps!
192739
i really hope and wish you good luck... although rarely does it work.... it is definitely different if you met each other & then he started living abroad.. but abroad from point Zero is hard............ still good luck
347218
Well the first thin is is that you both need to be able to:\ncommunicate\ncompromise\ntrust\nbe honest \ngive as well as receive\nbe able to be patient and understanding\nbe able to allow them to have a life away from you as well.\nto want to do things special for one another once in a while. like:\nplan a walk at the beach and have a pic nic\ncall them up on the phone jsut to say "i love you", "i miss you" and/or "I'm thinking aobut you"\nplan a candle light dinner at home\nhave a nice warm bath waiting for their return possibly with( candles, music, oil or bubbles and/or rose petals in tub)\nOn your partners day off, play hooky to spend time with them on cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking.\nIf you two can do this, seek a marriage counselor, counselor will be able to bring up some other importatnt things to thik about, that most people don't seem to think about.