What to do if you fall in love with your closest male friend?
540263
u can mail him and propose him but... if he refuses i know u can carry on with someone else.\nGOOD LUCK!!!
195825
if you love him/her, accept it, but if you aren,t you can tell him/her, he/she is friend for you couse this is the best relationship for you and her/him now. tell him/her if it become more than friend may be your relationship become not close again!
85906
Just tell him that your really good friends with him and you dont want to harm the friendship. Or even better you could tell him that you dont love him you only see him as a friend and nothing more.
253081
U KNOW HONEY I HAVE A SOLUTION OF UR PROBLEM, SEE U LIKES HIM A LOT MAY BE RIGHT NOW U THINK THAT U LOVE HIM TO BUT U KNOW ITS A PERIOD OF TIME THAT CAN BE ATTERICTION ALSO , THE BEST WAY IS U BECOME GOOD FRENDS OF EACH OTHER 1 IF U CANT BE A GOOD FRENDS THEN U CANT BE GOOD LOVERS, LETS BE GOOD FRENDS 1 THEN THING FOR THE FETURE , IN FRENDSHIP U CAN SHOW HIM UR FEELINGS AND FRENDSHIP IS ENDLESS , SHOW HIM UR ALL LOVE AND UR FEELINGS AND THEN SEE DO HE GIVES RESPECT TO UR LOVE AND UR FEELINGS AND HE REMAINS SWEET TO U AND HE LOVES U THEN GOVE FOR A FURTHER STEP .CCC IF IN THE RELAION SHIP IF U COME TO KNOW SOME BAD THINGS ABT HIM THEN U MIGHT DONT NEED TO TELL HIM THAT U LOVE HIM IF U LOVE HIM THEN LOVE HIM AND IF U DONT THEN U WILL HAVE A GOOD FREND WITH U .
476069
It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
213658
I know what your going through because i still am im in love with my best friend and before you decide to tell him or not to just relize it sticks with you dont tell him  that your in love with him if its just a crush because it could ruin your friendship maybe not ruin but change it thats how mine is with my friend now  i told them how i felt and was told me they didnt like me as more than a friend,im not discourageing it i think that if you really like him and its not just a crush that  it will have  ruined the friendship even more because when your in love you never just want to be friends cuz it hurts so remember either way you choose if you dont tell him you know youll regret it if he felt the same way about you.Good Luck
16529
well search your heart and find out if you love him or you want to get down with him.  its very goood to clear things out of you or you will hate your self if you don't express your self or you will blow up. but if you love him then this is a way to tell him:\n"i really like you and you have been such an inspiration to me.i don't know if you feel the same way and i hope what i am about to say dosen't ruin our friendship because i like being your friend. i don't know how to put this i find you very attractive and i think i begining to fall in love with you." what about that. sorry i could not help much
597284
Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
627482
u r nearly love with him.do u know a fact about a good relation is "when u r very close to some body then you tends to forget his importance but when he is far from u then u realize that ,yes! i m close to him". so sit with him and explain u r problem as he is ur close friend he will understand it better than any body else.
807571
Hi Friend...that;s wonderful for you!  Nothing sweeter than falling in love! Okay...is he just shy or mysterious? If mysterious...then solve the mystery first which will help you know him better and also will not give you any shocks later! But then again...mysterious is always attractive they say. Anyway, if you love him so much and if you feel that he is the one for you...dont doubt whether you can win him or not! After all, he is your friend and you should know him well enough to tell him your feelings without losing the friendship! It's okay to be scared and have doubts but is never okay to let the moments go by lest someone else grabs him. Tell him today how you feel about him....go to the movies or go somewhere both of you are relaxed and enjoying it and then open your heart. Well, in the worst case, drop him a nice sweet loving card...but it's not that fun! Nothing like expressing your emotions face to face...for good or for the worse, still it's worth it! And if you feel that you would prefer to win his love first...then as a good friend, you would know what he likes the most and what his passions are and so go out of the way to make him feel that you have something for him..and if he feels the same about you which we all wish for you...Bingo! Good luck my friend...wish you loving stars all the way...
612435
if you guys are friends then you both need to talk about it...i went through the same thing....me and my best friend have been friends for 10 years...and we were closer then ever before we both got into relationships...but once love found its way into our lives things changed...alot of things changed...and thats to be expected if you are going to start a relationship with a man....he becomes one of your closest friends as well....its hard...but you both need to sit down and talk and let eachother know whats bothering you...and come up with a way to fix the problems....thats if your friendship means that much to you....make sure that the both of you take time out to spend with eachother every now and then...because ever girl needs to have atleast that one girl friend that you can go and have a cup of coffee with and laugh about the good, bad and sad times in eachothers lives...well i wish you the best...and i hope that you both can sit down and talk things through and try to come up with a way you can maintain your friendship with one another....friendship is a beautiful thing...
662849
There are a lot of factors you have to consider.  Where do you see your relationship with him another year down the road?  Can you go with him?  The other question to be answered before you can make your decision is "Do you love him romantically, or more like loving him because he's become one of your best friends and are way close?"  Good luck, but you have to search your heart and soul.
441940
i think you should take the risk...i started going out with one of my good friends, and we ended up falling in love.  since you guys started out as good friends, i think no matter what happens you'll always be close.  who knows, maybe he'll be your true love
511127
it depends how much u like him if you love him sometimes you have to do what is right for you but if you dont love him you probably should think about the saying friends before boy friends (or in this case your almost boy friend) but believe me if he starts going out with your friend it is ok i know how it feels the guy i liked all year asked my best friend out but what hurts even worse is that she knew i liked him but still said yes. anyways this is about u well good luck remember do the right thing.
905069
Oh tough one. No wonder you are in a state of confusion.  If he is a close friend of yours anyway have you thought about suggesting outings and activities that are just for the 2 of you rather than with a group of friends. Spending more time alone with him should help you to gauge how he feels. He could be feeling exactly the same as you are and equally scared to say anything. Be patient. If you are meant to be together it will happen in the end but don't expect him to pick up on hints. In my experience men are remarkable dim in that department.\n\nGood luck.
501872
you should tell him i 'm in (love) with my best friend to you can't stop thinking about him you feel safe around him and your always smiling when he is to. you were probably scared thats why you said no and if it s the end of the year tell him the last day giv him ur # and then you won't have to deal with g/f the hole summer
1181262
yes, I have and honestly unless if he shows some interest of being more than just your friends. If he dont leave it alone, you always fall in love more then once and men come a dime a dozen,,you will get over it.. I am sure that if he does not feel the same and he tells you , you are going to get hurt and ur friendship will never be the same and if you and him do something that may lead you to think that he loves and really he dont then you may mess up ur friendship, and im sure that you rather have him as a friend then not have him at all..just move on and find someone else. Trust me it really isnt that hard, though i am sure that you think it is. but i have been there b4 and i thought that i would never love again,,and boy was i oh so wrong.