did you lose your virginity in high school? i'm waiting till marriage, but i wana know how many kids are activ
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You are freaking SMART!  I am no kid but, I just admire you for holding off until marriage!
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yes i am still a virgin. and i'm intending to stay this way until marriage ^_^
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sure it is cool.\nbut in America it seems like u miss something if u dont loose your virginity...i can see from the movies it is like a tradition to loose it before the students finish thier high school...
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I've spent the majority of this week looking over surveys and reports of behavioral research dealing with sexuality, and specifically dealing with virginity and virginity loss. I would estimate that I've gone through six hundred pages of written material, give or take a bit. I've examined statistics from the USA, Canada, Ireland, the UK, Finland, France, and Germany, and from the 1950s to the present.\nHere's what we know, in a rough outline, about virginity loss (NB: when "virginity loss" is defined as "first experience of penis-in-vagina heterosexual intercourse) in the industrialized West, with an emphasis on the USA (since that is where the lion's share of the available researches have been carried out):\n\n\n\n\n-- A relatively small proportion of people experience sexual debut prior to the age of 15, but percentages vary distinctly by population. Males are more likely to have intercourse prior to age 15 than females. In the USA, African-Americans of both sexes are disproportionately represented in this group, with males outnumbering females handily. Both in the USA and elsewhere, girls and boys from poorer families are more likely to experience earlier sexual debut than those from wealthier ones.\n\n\n\n-- Socioeconomic status of families is directly linked to age at virginity loss in general. The higher the family's socioeconomic status, the more likely the daughters of those families are to lose their virginity relatively late. Males of high socioeconomic status families, however, are not likely to have a delayed sexual debut, but it is also not necessarily likely to be earlier than the average.\n\n\n\n-- The vast majority of people lose their virginity somewhere between the ages of 16 and 20. There are some local variants on the average age, for example, in Ireland, the average age for women to lose their virginity hovers around 19, while in the USA, it hovers around 17.\n\n\n\n-- About 50% of US high school graduates have had sex at some point prior to finishing high school. This rate hasn't changed substantially since the early 1980s -- it has hovered between 50 and 55% since 1984, depending on what survey one consults.\n\n\n\n-- More of the US under-20 population, percentagewise, was sexually active in the 1950s than is sexually active today in the same age group. The difference? Marriage. During the decade 1950-1959, the United States had the highest 20-and-under marriage rate in the West. Since 1960, however, the average age of first marriage has gone up and the number of under-20 marriages have gone down, as well as the overall rate of marriage declining by close to 10%. Whereas in 1960, the average age of marriage for first-time brides was 20, it is now 26; for grooms it has gone from 23 to 27. In short, the ages at which people begin having sex haven't necessarily changed, but the ages at which they are likely to marry (if they marry at all) have changed quite a bit. It is now common for there to be a gap between the two, whereas 45 years ago, that gap was far less commonplace.\n\n\n\n-- As of 2004, it is estimated that throughout the industrialized West, approximately 90% of heterosexuals who do marry will have experienced penis-in-vagina intercourse prior to their marriages. This appears to hold true across all demographics.\n\n\n\n-- Women whose first experiences of penis-in-vagina intercourse happen before they are 15 are substantially more likely to have sexual partners who are 5 or more years older than they are. They are also substantially more likely to describe their first experiences of sex as being coercive. Their first sexual experiences are less likely to involve the use of contraception or safer sex practices than are the first sexual experiences of women who lose their virginity at fifteen or older. Women who lose their virginity before age 15 are at higher risk of unplanned pregnancy or STD infection. Women who lose their virginity before age 15 ar
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Yes, of course. I am willing to wait until I get married. A lot of my friends have lost their virginity two years ago or when we were 14/15/16 and they definitely regretted it. I told them not to but they didn't listen. But I guess it's just that most teenagers just do it to express themselves or release anger/frustration/sadness/whatever and they don't care what they are doing anymore.
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Unfortunately it is not uncommon for 13 and 14 year old girls to be sexually active. Too many young people believe that they are mature enough for sex at that age and they are not. The best thing is for both boys and girls to wait until they are adults and married before engaging in sex. They need to be taught how precious it is to be a virgin on their wedding night. That God gave us sex to be an intimate expression of love between a husband and wife, not something to do for recreation outside of marriage.
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Did you not learn anything from sex ed.  It's girls like you that make this country what it is, it's too late to think of the consequences girlie, you made your bed now sleep on it.  Don't you wish you waited to have sex after you got married or had a steady life, sucks to be you.
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I am 36-I was 16 when I lost my virginity-I have slept with 5 men and about 15 women. I give no opinion on how many people are too many. I believe sexual expression is a good thing as long as you are safe.
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hehe, you're about as much a virgin as the highschool ho.
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Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!
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I only ever had sex with one virgin.  Married her 7 years later :)
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when i was in high school i thought i would be married and a couple of kids myself...now i am 42 ( just turned it the other day (i do have 2 daughters..not married.)living with a boyfriend for the past 5 yrs with 2 dogs..alot of adventure has happen to me...good thing is i am not in jail and not in debt..but god knows what tomorrow will bring
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Im glad to hear that there r  some more smart girls in the  world than i thought!!! i live in europe and rare who loose virginity being 16 or earlier there. I know in US there is different.  Congradulations!!!  Dont be affraid...U know when i lost mine? Last  year, being 21. And im very glad about that. Cause  i found that guy who i want to be with all my life...  And  i am so proud i could had that  moment with him only.  im not sorry   i have been waiting till this moment so long. I remember the minute, wheh i told him i am still a virgin. He was. liek "wow...  im proud.."  trust me, he adores me now, cause  nowadays it is so  hard to find virgin girls..  We r going to get marriage in the future...  And i am so happy :))))))\n\nSo dont   be affraid..If u feel  this is a man u wanna be with,  of course tell him, he is going to be first. I odnt see anything u should be shame of... What going on with the world today...   Why we r trying to get adults so fast..  There r so many pure things, which we r forced to be shame of...\n\nI am with you!!!!\n\nSo wish u luck  on sharing that special moment with a guy u love and wnat to be with.   U will always rememebr that moemnt :))))))))\n\nps. sorry, if my english is not as perfect as i wish it to be :))))))))))
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I lost my virginity at the young age of 14...If I had the choice, I would take it back...There's no REAL love in just sex...& yes, I agree w/ you, losing a virginity at a young age is wrong...So I have to say, that, whatever I say or anybody else here, won't matter to you if you want to do what you want right?? Here's my opinion, if I were you, I would wait until you're married...I didn't & I wish I would have waited for my husband...I took that away from not only me, but my husband too..
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Sex before marriage is a total no-no for me. Virginity is the most prized possesion for a women and the most deserving man can get the most prized possesion.
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Awkward.  I started high school at 13; I started a new school without all my old friends so I had to make new ones; I didn't have anyone I could talk to about all the things that would be happening hitting puberty (I was never close to my mother so I could never talk to her about the girlie stuff). I couldn't talk to any of the other women in my family either about anything so it was so hard hitting the teenage years!
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Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.