i want to have sex and i dont know how to tell my boyfriend what should i do?
546519
listen, if you don't know how to tell him, then that right there is a sure sign you're not ready. you need to feel comfortable talking about it, including birth control & protection. make sure you're really ready and that includes talking to him. just my advice.
1012221
Just say NO!\n\nTell him that you are not ready.  That love has nothing to do with it.  You love him, but you are not ready to have sex with him.  Tell him that if he loves you, he will stop pressuring you, and respect your wishes.  If he insists on persisting, then ask him to take you home.  Tell him that he would be committing rape, and he will go to jail.
78275
If you "do it" with him, do not have any false expectations that he will become your boyfriend. You will be disappointed and you will not feel any better about yourself. You will feel used. Better to find a real boyfriend who likes you for something other than just sex.
1185359
ask hem if he would like to try same thing new in your sex life but if he doesn't than ask why but don't get hem mad make hem feel comfortable and allow hem to express himself just don't get mad because this is what you ask for if he says no than he feels insecure of this relationship and whats it only to be between you two because he doesn't what to lose you
507734
My advice to you is be honest and open with him, You can please yourself while he is making love to you. Communication is the key here. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't.
681549
YES, there are plenty of ways you can keep your relationship going. Just do lots of stuff together, go out to movies, go on walks, to restaurants - you should keep ACTIVE which will keep your relationship and friendship alive.\n\nHOWEVER, I do not mean to be crude in any way - your boy friend will have lots of sexual urges and sexual needs... if you don't have sex then there will be something missing in his mind.\nHe will want to have sex because you will be connecting on another level.\nNot having sex will feel like a standard friendship, and he will want to be intimate with you. He will want to pleasure and be with you closer.\n\nYou should probably consider having sex, but only if you are comfortable with it - but remember sex should be enjoyable, don't take it too seriously as its just an act of pleasure, and enjoyment between two people who like each other.\nYou should tell him that in the past you haven't had good experiences, ask him to go slow the first time, you should give him direction in order to pleasure you.\n\nGood luck!
1122297
Sit him down and develop a clear line of communication with him. You have to tell him how you feel and establish boundaries for what you are willing to do. You might want to give in to some of the simpler ideas, but he needs to understand that you don't want to be a human sex pretzel. Clear communication is what you need. If he can't understand have him take a good long look at your cast again. He needs to accept your feelings the same as you need to accept his, after that you compromise. That doesn't mean you give in, that means you look for an area in between that will work for both of you and go with that. Sex should NEVER result in broken bones!
1053128
I would tell your boyfriend!! Actually it seems like you're not ready to marry him if you're out having oral sex with another guy, your neighbor!! I'm sure you're boyfriend will be angry but you'll feel better because he'll know about it. If you love your boyfriend and your positive it was just a one time thing then talk to him about it and don't sneak behind his back. If you're not happy in your relationship with your boyfriend, now you have a new one!! Whatever you choose Good Luck!!
182803
Strongly tell him that it's out of the question.  If he persists, stop hanging around him.  You might need to get adults involved soon.  You don't want to ever give him the opportunity to hurt you.\n\nYou're TOO YOUNG to be having sex.  Find a trusted adult to talk with.
528618
it will come naturally (excuse the pun!) no one knows what to do when you first do it. YOur boyfriend will make encouraging noises if you do what he likes - or just ask him, Its nothing to be embarassed about.
520144
it seems you also like him and want to have sex with him. otherwise this question could not have arrieved.\n\nforget everything and enjoy it. proceed further
863527
Definetely tell him if you aren't ready. If he pressures you when you don't feel ready, you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with him. If he's a real gentleman, he'll realize that you're worth the wait and not force you to do anything.\n\nAs for the fact that you lied, it would be a bigger deal if you had lied about being a virgin when you weren't. But, since that's not the case he shouldn't be too mad, and if he is, he is overreacting. \n\nGood job on sticking to your morals and not having sex whenever, wherever, you should be proud of yourself and don't let others eat away at your self-esteem. Doing something just because everyone else does it is rarely a good reason for anything. \n\nPeace and good luck!
726776
You are in a tough situation. Its hard to change peoples ways who are sat in them. But if he loves you he would be open for new ideas. Try to get him to do a little kinky stuff each time you all make love or show him what you would like to have done to you do it to him. Make it feel good to him and then he will know when he try it on you that it will feel good to you also. TURN HIM OUT GIRL MAKE HIM YOUR PERSONAL FREAK (only in the bed and behind close doors.) There is nothing wrong with a couple experimenting with each other it keeps the fire burning that way nothing will get old and you all will look forward to having sex because it will be something different each time.
993189
You should tell him your needs.How is he suppose to know what you want if he doesn't know what you want.Maybe when your in bed you should guide him while your having sex and if things don't change after that then I don't know what to tell you other then leave.Good Luck
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
531616
Openly talk about this with him, what kind of relationship do you have if you can't talk about sex, if you both can't talk about it then one or both of you aren't ready for it.  If he wants to wait, learn to masturbate.  If you aren't happy after this, dump him, why waste your time in a relationship if you aren't happy with it.
883746
talk to him.  toys are great.  and remember the more you are turned on and into it the more he will enjoy it!!  express your self on how you feel verbally,  moans or telling him that you like what he is doing to you.  be aggressive.  don't always do it at the same time, be spontaneous, don't always do it in bed, be adventurous