Parents are restricting me with bf! (details below)?
549593
Maybe if you quit whining like a 5 yr old who isnt getting her way...and talk to them like an adult, they will let you spend some time alone with him. Explain that you two need to get to know each other "one on one" Not to screw each others brains out...but to find out what the other one likes and dislikes etc.. If you come to them as an adult, you will earn their respect and they just might let you two go out alone.
419656
if its your parent well they are not ruining your life they just want to give you the best. but if you see your parents are doing something wrong and that you dont like it well talk to them nicely and tell them that you want to do work with your own tym and dont tell them that they r ruining your life (that really hurts) coz you myt might hav a son or daughter who say more hurtful things to you :).\n \nif its a freind who comands you to do stuffs then s*rew them! they'r not your friends they are users. but if they ask politely... then why not ? just make sure of wat they do is something that does'nt deal with damaging your health and the way you treat yourself ok? :) \n\nand trust me i think your parents reall love you :) i can see they care for you coz here it is .....\nthey tell you to go to sleep early because it makes you prevents pimples stress and lack of energy and headache :)\n\nthey tel you to eat at a certain tym coz they want you to stay fit and wants you to avoid getting sick and want's the family bond a bit while eating. \n\ntym to talk w/ your boyfriend? ahhh... i'm not sure with that but it depends (for me) if your the one who call well better make it shorter in chit chat coz you'r parents will be the one paying the bill not the BF. but if its the guy? well.. if your parents told you to stop and do your home work well.... just make sure you did all your chores before talking w/ your BF so that you can just say that your finish and that well..(just my sudggestion :P) tell them that your studying w/ your BF on the phone hehehe :P \n\now yeah they want you to do your homework because homework helps you learn faster and you can get good grades easier :)\n\nanyway how to deal with it ? well have a conversation about it and ask nicely. always complement them (you look grate today and stuff) and dont ever shout at them coz the more you do that.. well the more they will give you headache :P
594692
If you're a teenager, tell them and let them deal with it. It's not like they have that much control over your anymore (or, if they do, it's not healthy). If you're preteen, you probably shouldn't be going on a date, but just tell your parents your going out with a friend, and make sure they thing you're just their innocent child.\n\nJust as parents like to "put their children in place", parents also occasionally need to be reminded of what their proper place is. If you can't honestly tell your parents that you are dating, you will have a really poor relationship with your parents. And just immagine telling them you're getting married or are having a kid.\n\nBe honest and if they have a problem with it, that is their problem. But don't make it a bombshell like, (as said from a 14 year old boy) "Dad, you remember my best friend Mike? He's not really my best friend. We've been meeting up for gay orgies for the past 4 years. Oh, and I used your icepick to give myself a Prince Albert."
1018993
just remember that your parents are scared and shocked and dealing with alot of things right now. you didn't say how old you are and that makes a huge difference so adding some details will help, let them come around on their own and be willing to talk to them about it. also make sure you are practicing safe sex EVERY SINGLE TIME!
345682
i dont give bout my parents if dey dont like my gf **** dem.\nnd ye try makin his parent tak 2 ur parents
608639
Time is the only thing which will provide answers for you. Perhaps your mother does not deserve your trust, repect and honour, and if that is true, I am sorry. Your mom is supposed to be the one to provide guidance to you, but for some reason you aren't listening to her. If your bf does not have legal status in the USA, you don't want to endanger him, so moving in with him would make him vulnerable. I suggest you stay with your mom for the present time, and take the time to figure out how to make things work. Maybe you can help you bf get legal status without marrying him. It is very difficult to obtain status through marriage now. Good luck in your future......just give it a little more time.
697783
I was in the same boat.  My advice is to keep them happy, and tell them how much you're trying to get that job, or work hard at uni.  They wont stop, but at least they dont have too much of a reason to pester you.  After all, they are your parents and they probably just miss you - try not to cut them out of your life.  A sit down and chat session is reccommended: i had to sit my parents down and explain to them that im a big boy now, and to trust me to keep myself out of trouble and work hard.  They said they understand, but felt that they still needed to be parents to the baby of the family.  Keep your cool with them, they're only doing it cos they love you.
759533
What does your mom say? If shes on your side, then maybe the two of you can both talk to him.\n\nDoes your bf still live at home? Even if doesn't his parents could still talk to your dad.\n\nI don't think you should disobey him, even though you are old enough to be on your own, you are still living is his house.
726723
listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
980453
I think that you might have pressured him a bit too much, my friends like to pressure me into going places that I didnt really want to go because my parents were against it. It was really stressful and annoying, your boyfriend is probably pretty torn right now, because if he stays he hurts you, if he goes he hurts his mother. And dont write " so  that my BF could spend thanksgiving with his mommy..awwwww..." that makes it seem as if there is something WRONG with that. You obviously dont understand a mother's feelings. Anyway, thats just my opinion. Also, you said that your father changed the vacation dates for him, well maybe he should have done that AFTER he figures out if he was going or not. And well, wether you should just let him stay or go. Just ask him what he REALLY REALLY wants to do, ask him to be totally honest with you. Also, there are plenty of times that he can meet your family, what about Christmas?( I do not know your religion, but its just an example) Hope this helps, good luck! ^_^
633327
a year and a half? Your parents can't be that upset, you both are mature young adults (I hope) and you shouldn't hide the fact that you care about someone.\n\nGood Luck
57978
OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.
1131817
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
26680
well the respectful thing to do is not override your parents rules! let ya boyfriend no what they said him being your boyfriend will understand and try and go out saturday or next week
1135218
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
29663
Try to find a way to work it all out. Maybe your bf could help with the moving expenses. Surly your parents have some money saved up, they could pitch in. You could always get different jobs, in a different field. You could visit one or the others parents, instead of moving them around.
724727
well, parents are really overprotective, especially if your the only child, or the youngest and you have older bro's/sis's that have gotten into trouble and they are just cracking down on you. but let your parents know that if they are too overprotective, that its not gonna keep you from doing things they are against, its going to make you want to do it more. Sit down, and talk to them, ask them why they are treating you how they are, and let them know how you feel because if you never express your feelings with them, they will just keep on doing it. If they do not stop, just try to stay away from home, i dont mean run away, but after school go hang out at a friends house, go shopping, go somewhere for a while so when you get home, all you have to do is do homework, then go to bed. If your almost 18, you only have a little longer to put up with this, but seriously NO parents should blame things on you if you didnt do them. Let them know how you feel, and then work from there. Good luck!