how can people forget father?
541379
u know this is a very serious question, i was raised without a father and i also wanted to have him but never got to now my kids are being raised without a father, why because he left us and wanted to go raised other kids that aren't his and he also had another child w/ her so u see it is hard forgetting u have a father is not our fault is the father who wants to be forgotten.
925756
This person will always be a part of you. \nThe Best ways to forget is meet other men.\ntalk and have a friendly relationship \nit may grow into a serious one . if so . you may be ready or you may not be. but try to do different things . \nWhen you start to think about him. stop . think about things you need to get done . call a friend . go out ..dis tract your thoughts from him..
969534
Know that as time passes by the pain will lesson. You always feel the void and nothing will fill its place but the pain is lessened with time. Allow grief to be. Allow memories to flow. Remembering can hurt but also help you heal. Talking about your parent will hurt also but will help you to keep their memory vivid. Don,t fear your emotions but know that they are normal. Keep yourself busy because when its somethings that's hurting you too much thinking time can be harmful. Remember that you are not alone in this emotion.
1095797
no.   If someone does something that hurts very much, it is absolutely possible to NOT forget or forgive for the rest of your life.  I'm living proof.  I have not forgiven my parents for something they did, and I have not spoken to them for 8 years.  Also, I do not forgive any one who has hurt me over the years.  If what someone does , hurts so much that you can not forget it... then you can't forgive it.  It is their problem... not yours.  Go on with your life and forget about them.. Why have someone in your life that hurts you ?
801754
Honey, my Daddy died a year ago in october.  It is so hard to get use to them actually being gone.  Dont call yourself a crappy daughter.  Remember him!  Love him! Cry laugh and do what ever you want to if it is helping you to grieve.  Talk about him as much as you need to.  Nothing can replace the father figure in your life so I think you still need to grieve.
289981
Born to be forgotten.
393141
why don't u forgot him?
132993
none.  However, the %age that grow up without knowing their fathers or having contact with their fathers is probably far too great, as it is in most parts of the world.
225953
I believe anything can be forgiven in time.  Even 21 years of abuse from a parent (which I dealt with) was forgiven, albeit because the man died and I had to learn to cope with it all, but I still forgave.  Just remember that forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting.
449178
I lost my father 5 years ago and there is never a single day that I do not think about him.\nAt first I was devasted and wondering how I would get over it.\nThen someone who had been through the same experience gave me these simple words of wisdom: "You never get over it. You just get used to it".\nNow I can talk about my dad and nrelate funny or special moments we shared when I was growing up, and it doesn't bother me. In fact, it is quite therapeutic.\nI feel for you and KNOW that things will get easier.Good luck. Kevin UK.
120948
Realistically, you can't completely forget someone you used to love. At least, I can't. Everyone I've ever loved will always be a part of who I am. They are part of the influences in my life who have made me a better person. Even if they were horrible people, I've become better by the lessons learned. Don't try to forget...just open your heart to yourself and your own strength...and allow your life to "absorb" the hurt. Then the moving on will happen naturally, without the effort...and you will be a finer person for your experiences. (if you choose to be)
863787
You can stop when you stop checking up on him. As long as you dig around to see if he is okay or listen to stories about him, you are feeding your fantasy/dreams/neurosis.\nStop all check/sightings/following. Then when you start to think of him, repeat the mantra "I distinctly remember forgetting about him." This will help reprogram your mind.
178566
I wish i could tell you... you can't forget some people in your life, and will always care for them. Sometimes, we run to another, adn hope somehow they will replace them, but more times than not, they don;t,...
643665
I recently lost my father, too. He always wore a blue baseball cap, and I have the one that he was wearing up until the day he died. It still smells like him, and I keep it in a fireproof box. I imagine that if anyone were to look in that box and see an old hat, they would think I was nuts - "Of all the things of value she could have put in this box, there's a hat..." That's how much it means to me, though. All I have to do is hug that hat to my chest and close my eyes, and I'm hugging him again. Everything that he left to me - I don't care... it could all be taken away as long as I still have that hat. \n\nIt's strange what we end up finding valuable when someone we love dies. I have so many things that remind me of him. I have pictures, letters, songs, books, etc. I even have a book that was made for fathers and daughters - it has all these questions in it with space to write answers, half for the father to his daughter, and half for the daughter to her father. I treasure that almost as much as the hat. \n\nI suggest that you keep whatever you come across, and when you find the thing that means the most to you, you will know it. In the meantime, you can also make things. Get a locket with some of his hair or a picture of him. Make a scrapbook about you and him. Burn a CD of songs that remind you of him, and one for how you feel about his death. \n\nMy thoughts are with you...
121050
Listen, be there for him. I just lost my dad, and the best thing for me is to keep busy. Try to get him back into his routines. Too much time on your hands makes you think too much, although he does have to grieve in his own way.  It would be nice for him to have some of his friends visit or call. Just make sure he doesn't withdraw too much. You sound like a good friend. I hope this helps.
394287
Just try to stay neutral when the kids ask why daddy isn't there.  You don't want them to remember you "bad mouthing" their father, even if what you say is true.  I do not know how old they are, but as they grow up, they will see and figure out what is going on.  Just always assure them that it is not their fault, and that you are there for them.
123228
if you think its best to forget him, then you need to get busy, and stay busy. the best way to get your mind off of something is to put your mind on something else. although i dont believe you will "forget." forgetting is something we rarely achieve.