why we become revengeful after a break up?
548175
Because it's part of a healing process for some people. You feel that you need to get revenge so that the person hurts as much as you are. Some people do it so that they can move to the 'hate' stage so it doesn't hurt as bad. And some are just jealous that they have moved on with their life and are happier yet you are still stuck in the past and are lonely (even if it was a dysfunctional relationship).
1021323
"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
122420
Anger, resentment etc. all these negative emotions are only temporary. Love is forever. Love is shining through us no matter how bad we may feel about ourselves. Let go and be the love, revenge and retribution are totally unnecessary. Love can burn away all past transgressions!
494709
It's clear that your ex is very jealous or wants to revenge or something like that and wants to brake your relation with your actual girlfriend. The best weapon u have is YOUR GIRLFRIEND. If you really love each other speak all things you re feeling now about the situation and give her an example with the same situation but with the players inverted. If she really loves you she will understand and will stop your ex.
97325
My friend.  you're going to hate yourself afterwards.\nI had a trophy girlfriend too.  We were hot and heavy for about a year, but I knew she wasn't the one.\nHowever, I stayed with her for three more years seeing how hot she was.  I could have easily cheated on her, but I didn't because I just wasn't the type.  Eventhough other girls were yearning for me because of how hot she was; that I must be doing something right horizontally *LOL*\nShe eventually started treating me like sh+t too, and I simply "took it" thinking I couldn't do better.\n\nI wish I had broken up with her after the first year because we would probably still be friends now and perhaps with benefits.  But we learned to hate each other within the three year's time and we went our separate ways not in good terms.\n\nI know you'll never find someone better, but I hope you don't waste the time holding on to something that's not there like I did.\nFortunately I was willing to forgive her and myself and moved on.\n\nI wish you the best.
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I guess the answer is WHY are you breaking up.  Are you just wanting the attention that a fight provides?  If that's the case you need to do some serious sorting out.\n\nIf you just can't get along and are getting back together because you don't like being alone then do yourselves a favour and end it so that you can both move on.
200256
Your ex is your ex for a reason.  Why ruin what you say is a great relationship by letting old feelings from your past interfere?  You have been moving forward without your ex just fine so why go back now?  It is normal to have feelings for your ex but you need to store them away and concentrate on what you have now.
995277
revenge is for the weak.  Move on, learn from it, and look for something to make you happy again.
772404
Revenge is empty and it won't make you feel better, it will make you feel worse. Don't do it. You just have to find a way to move on and realize that there are other people in the world that are better :).
854836
NO, wait until your anger subsides to decide if revenge is the best answer. You do not want to do anything you will regret later.
1163901
There is a time after a breakup where the pain of parting is greater than the need for someone new. The more you cared for them, the longer it takes. The trick is knowing when to move on.
584458
The best revenge for an ex is to move on with your life!!! The new girl is always gonna be super protective and act like she is just the s*** because thats how spiteful women are. I think you should listen to\n\nHe wasn't man enough for me\n\nBy Toni Braxton...lol\n\nForget him...Find a guy who would never let anyone talk to you like that! Stupid biotch!
278965
Why do you want to call my ex?
525609
The answer to this question depends on the reason for the break-up. Your break-up sounds like it was nasty.
102169
Why would you want to?  You're obviously not a priority for him, so don't give him the ego-boost that would come from you crawling back to him.  Living well is the best revenge; go find yourself a better man who will put you first and foremost in his life.  He's moved on - it's time for you to do the same.
56807
Keep thinking about something else.  Keep occupied.  Keep busy.  These feelings will go away with time.  Pray that these wanting to get revenge feelings will go away even faster.  I know it is hard but we are all human & had to go thru this.  Reflect to yourself remembering your good qualities and then compare them to what you don't want to be like in this other person.
917462
i kicked my ex out after taking to much of his controlling ways, lies and unreasonable behaviour in hope he would realise his mistakes, he acted differently for a few weeks, i took him back to discover one week after the split he jumped in bed with a nasty druggie who lived on the next street for two weeks +. we stayed together after that for almost a year but things were never the same, i wasn't turned on by him anymore as i saw him as 'dirty' which made me feel unclean. we have now permanently broke up and i can't wait to get a nice healthy sex life back on track with next man!