Im currently in a relationship and she says shes not turned on by me anymore. Help?
546948
Assess your relationship. See what's changed and what needs to change. Sex and romance almost always go hand in hand with women. DO you talk anymore (bond emotionally), do you go out on dates and do nice things for her or buy her gifts anymore? If not, that's a start. Arrange a special weekend for her. Make her dinner, chill out with her. Buy her something small like flowers and chocolate. Talk to her and ask her what's different. If there's nothing wrong, then maybe she just isn't that into to you, or she's in love with someone else. Best of luck
848384
She has moved on with her life.  It is time for you to do the same.  She is clearly not interested in a relationship or trying to patch things up.
188647
Have you tried talking to her about this? Is she aware that things have changed?  You both may want to talk to her doctor to see if you have any options on a medical point of view.  You may have to make some changes as to the way your sex life used to be while she is going through this. Let her know how much you love her and how she makes you feel and let her know that even though you don't understand what she is going through you are there for her. I think it is wonderful how you described your feelings for her. You also may want to do some research on menopause. It doesn't effect every woman the same way. If she is having hot flashes she may want to try Remifemin, which is over the counter. Of course, she should ask her doctor about this first. If he says it is okay to try and she would have the need to use it you can go to their website and they will send her a free sample. I believe it is enough for at least 2 weeks. It really helped me.  Good Luck to both of you.
276267
Okay, she doesn't love you.  If she did she'd be able to say it.  She'd also be willing to leave her primary relationship.  You appear to be merely a plaything on the side.  She probably is getting a major ego boost out of you being her puppy-dog.  If you're willing to be second-best then by all means continue the sex part of the relationship but don't expect her to tell you she loves you anytime soon.
1041352
I'm know I'm not a lady, but she most deffently isn't testing you or playing hard to get... shes probly found someone else or just isn't interested in you for whatever reason. Sorry.
522472
are you kidding?  seriously you need to dump her - not because she's mad but because you're really just not into her enough.  if you were, you wouldn't need sorry excuses.  she'll find someone that likes her better than you do.  free her.
697253
well, i would say that she is just not interested in you, no offense but, if she was never like this before then i would say you two need to get into counseling to help her to want you.\nWhat takes away 95% of  a women's sex drive? Wedding cake
1163469
WELL, RIGHT NOW I WOULD TAKE THINGS REALLY SLOW.... SHE MAYBE HURT AND IS VULNERABLE RIGHT NOW.... I WOULD GIVE HER SOMETIME TO FIND HERSELF AGAIN AND TO HEAL.... IF YOU ALREADY HAD THE CHANCE TO BE WITH HER.... EXPLAIN TO HER YOU REALIZE YOUR FAULTS AND WOULD LIKE THE CHANCE TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT.... SHE MAY COME AROUND.... AT THE MOMENT SHE MAY SEEM BITTER AND IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.... SO DON'T THINK SHE DON'T LIKE YOU ANYMORE... SHE NEEDS TIME.... ALL WOMAN DO....
575761
ok you have been together for a really long time..you should try couples counsilin before you decide, take a trip to somewhere romantic and try to work it out. If after that your still decided to call it quits then at least she got her chance to make things right.\nLet me be honest with you, women these days are not what they were back in the day..its not gonna be so easy to find a young lady that falls in love with you, I sense that's what you want...but you and I both know its not piece of cake...even if your the hottest guy in the world or girl, its so hard to find great people to have as boyfriend or girlfriend. Good luck! :)
583909
You like her more than she likes you.\n\nTry and find someone else.  It isn't just the lack of sex, it sounds like she doesn't even really enjoy your company too much.  Life is too short to put up with that.  Find someone who will really love and appreciate you.
1098760
Maybe she is having a low sex drive right now and do you spice things up in the bedroom and make things exciting for her???? Talk to her and see why she feels this way and also suggest to her maybe seeing a doctor or sex therapist. She could be having affairs too!
685791
I dont think that its over. I think you want it to be over by giving up so easily. You have to persever babes. Nobody is gonna give you what you want on a silver platter. Shower her with gifts and affection. Give it a month or 3 weeks for the least. If nothing has changed then you should call it quits. By the way the longer you persever this chick will see that you are really into her.
127514
Girl, I know how you feel. If this is occuring on more than one occassion then slack off. Don't hound about it. And first and far most PLEASE YOURSELF. You deserve that first of all. Take the time off to PAMPER yourself and then he/she might take notice. If that doesn't work then it is some questions you need to ask about your relationship and where it is going.  I feel you should at least have or get an answer so you can better understand and deal with this issue.  Peace
731635
look I'm a female so I really don't agree with what your trying to do. If you are no longer sexually attracted to your gf then break it off. she has feelings and for you to cheat on her after 1 1/2 yrs you will be pathetic. she trust you and she knows that something has changed that's why she is trying to get the affection from you or put it back into your relationship. sex isn't everything if you don't have someone you love to share it with. I think you really need to think about what your saying and trying to do. If you think your relationship is done then break it off and leave it at that. But if you just want to have sex u and ur gf should do role playing. It will increase the excitement in your relationship and hopefully stray u away from other interest
352840
Gosh NO!  How desperate are you?\n\nYes she can get bored & tired of it.  If she says no, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings, or she's scared of losing you if she sets boundaries, or she's just really immature/insecure.\n\nDoes she never pursue you?  HOW BORING!  Do you not want your girl to show initiative/attraction to you?  Do you only ever want her for sex? Does it not bother you that she doesn't get a chance to show that she wants you because you keep hogging all the attraction communication?  If I were her, I would put you on ice for a month (refuse privileges) until you could see me as a person, not just a humping machine (unless of course I just dumped you right away), and so I could have a chance at the flirting fun too.  \n\nAre you 18?  If not, you should be able to control yourself for at least 48 hours, gee.  \n\n"Please please can I have sex?"  "Oh sure."\nThat's what it sounds like you do twice a day from your question.  D E S P E R A T E men don't keep their women long.\n\nNow, having said all that, you have not given sufficient information to answer your question without assuming the worst possible scenario.  So considering your "every chance" might be once a week if you don't see her much, you might then just want to make sure you communicate that you value her as a person, and if she knows how important sex is to you, she will indicate it through inviting you inside, or    initiating a kiss, or whatever, you should NOT have to beg or ask continually.  Just kiss her, treat her like you want her to feel like the amazing woman she is, and if she is open for more, you will feel it in her body language and you can move in.  Stop asking like a begging dog.
478987
I suggest sitting down and talking to her about it candidly. Try new things, buy her a new "toy", something sexy to wear to bed, a little porn (it works, for either arousal or a giggle sometimes, I swear) a makeover day...Chances are she's not sure how to change the same issue you're not sure of either. You both probably need a change, try something you never thought you would, and I bet the spice comes right back!..GL;)
532318
Talk to her and let her know how you feel.  It sounds like she's starting to weigh you down.  It's obvious you care about her but, this might not be the right person for you.  You have to ask yourself if you are getting anything positive out of this relationship and if they are the things you want in life.  If you're not, then it's time to move on.