How Can I Get Over Someone From My Past?
540406
You have to remember that it was really a one-sided relationship which is actually a contradiction in terms. It's not like you actually had a long term relationship with her. Most of it took place in your own heart and mind.\nYou've tried to get over it, but maybe you're trying too hard. We've all been there. If you keep obsessing on an illusion, you'll miss every opportunity you have for a real relationship now. Chances are you may have had someone right under your nose but missed out because you're so mesmerized by this other girl who didn't feel the same way about you. Ask yourself if this is really the kind of future you want. You're 28, you sound intelligent and romantic and fun. Don't waste all this on a person who can't love you back. And don't blame yourself for it.It's just a fact of life that chemistry doesn't exist between everyone. Write her a goodbye letter but keep it. Then get out and start living. Life's really too short.
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
573556
Everyone has a past, even you, don't choose to dwell on the negative.  There is a reason this person is with you now, and if you want to keep this person with you, you must realize that anything that happened before you was BEFORE you.  Y
713109
You might never forget, i still think about someone from 15 years ago. Unless they were total a__holes why forget? Keep the good parts and look for someone that has those parts in them as you move forward. Relationships and friendships come and go, but you need to be able to talk it out with someone to at least start the healing. The mind and heart suck sometimes!
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.
791297
You can't move forward if you don't face your past.  Be brave enough to follow your dream, go to the university you want, and disregard your ex-girlfiend.  It's your life after all...don't let someone else control it, even if indirectly.
152026
hi. i believe with all my heart that any time you love someone you never get over that person. you have given to that one part of you so you will miss that part of you yet do not worry, as time goes you shall find another that will light up your heart and spirit. the one who will cause past boyfriends/girlfriends to fade a little into the background.\nyour ex will no longer take up most of your thoughts. someone told me this once, it takes only a minute to meet someone,hours to get to know someone and a lifetime to forget someone. time does heal what has been wounded.new love outshines old love.soon when you think of him, you will smile at the good times and move on to the next advanture. be blessed. i am glenna(wolfwomanreturns)
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It's really hard to forget someone that you love. But you've got to move on. Try to make yourself busy. Hanging out with your friends, doing exercises, and meeting new people. Remember do not stay alone! It'll make you feel upset and think about her again!!!!!!! Good Luck!
696751
find another guy! cut him off completely.. thats the best way to get over someone. and also finding other guys to keep your mind off him. but dont talk to him. or feelings will just come back. CUT HIM OFF!
120948
Realistically, you can't completely forget someone you used to love. At least, I can't. Everyone I've ever loved will always be a part of who I am. They are part of the influences in my life who have made me a better person. Even if they were horrible people, I've become better by the lessons learned. Don't try to forget...just open your heart to yourself and your own strength...and allow your life to "absorb" the hurt. Then the moving on will happen naturally, without the effort...and you will be a finer person for your experiences. (if you choose to be)
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By taking it one day at a time. and working on the things you can control. \n\nWork on dating new people, and learning what you like in women. She has left you and is not comming back so you might as well move on also. \n\nIt's your choice you can pine over a lost love or work on making new memories with someone new. the choices are up to you. \n\nI would suggest reading the book\nWho moved my cheese it's small and oh so wonderful for helping you look at your life with a critical eye. \n\nThen I would suggest readong smart love. \n\nMay God Bless your life.
1048244
Well, unfortunately you can't erase the memories of past relationships. There is always going to be something that reminds you of that person. A good way to bypass the baggage is not to use it against the new love.  They don't deserve to be compared to or treated as if they are going to be the same way. Not everyone is the same way. Have a positive outlook on any new relationship and learn from the previous ones.
338201
I think the best course of action is to have no contact with her if possible.  It's hard when your heart still pulls you towards someone even though you know there is nothing but heartache there.  Do your best to stay occupied, filling your time with other friends, hobbies, work, etc so that eventually not thinking of her becomes more of a habit.  OR...as my 77 yr.old grandmother told me during a breakup..."the best way to get over one...is to get under one!" ;-)  Good luck!
480948
Get out and do things that won't remind you of the ex. Go with friends and have some fun and when you think of him or her think of the reason they are the ex...............
1179410
JUST DO IT! forget about everything and once they know , you will feel better than if you never did anything about it, if you dint you might still be thinking about that person for another 10yrs.
242969
1.Get yourself involved in some other activities to help get your mind off the person.  \n2. There are other fish in the ocean, and maybe by getting involved in something, you can meet someone special that will heal that broken heart.\n\nThe main thing is you got to move on or nothing will happen.
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You need to move on. You can't get over your ex because you keep listening to the love songs that you listened to when you were with him. You need to realize that it is over and tell yourself that you will never be with him again. Listen to some different music. Music that sings about a women getting out of a bad relationship and moving on with their lives. It won't be easy. It will take some time but, eventually you will get over him and find someone else to love. Maybe when you are over him, you can become friends and that spark might rekindle and you will get him back. But, for now except that it is over. Allow yourself to get over him.