I'm 42yrs old .Is my ex-wifes 30yr.old niece off limits for me to be with?
550170
Does your Ex-Wife own a shotgun?
677818
WOW...I think you guys just need to share the time with her..I do  not think you should just take her that might cause trouble for you and then you will never get to see her, my brother in law is going through the same thing right now and his girl is a nut case\n\nI feel for you..
503666
You handle him by being polite, but firm in your rules regarding your children.  But don't make it a drama on your part.  You might be surprised to find his brother a very charming individual, and you may choose to bend the bed time rules by 30 minutes or so.\n\nHowever, the tone of your question sounds more like you are using the bedtime rules to avoid doing something YOU are unsure about.  This is really wrong, but it does come in handy if you need to extract yourself from an uncomfortable situation.  So, again, don't make it a big dramatic issue.  Just start with 6-8 and then you make the call from there.\n\nRemember also, how would you feel if your favorite Aunt were coming to visit for the first time, and your husband decided HE didn't want to spend any time with her.  Family peace is mostly what you make it.
417877
If it was an older man and younger woman no one would bat an eye.  I say if your both happy, enjoy it and ignore everyone.  Life is too short.  Tell her if she doesn't let you see the grandson, the courts DO give visitation to grandparents.  Good luck to you.
1038069
$100 sounds reasonable to me.  She is the one that chose to have the child.  It is certainly not your obligation as an Aunt to watch her child for free 40 hours a week.  I don't think it is fair for her to even assume you would do it for nothing.
1173592
well, i'm only 13 yrs. old, and i'm kinda not married, but i don't see anything wrong with that either. unless you had kids with your ex, you should be fine.
1066032
He is expected to be close to you.  Tho it shouldnt be a contest.\nShe is his mother and should respect you for his wife.  But apparantly, she's not interested in her husbands concern, but rather her own selfishness.  Does she not have a husband?  Is he her only child/son?  \nAt any rate, I'd stay clear of her at all costs.  He's welcome to visit her.  But I dont see any reason for you to visit her.......OR she to visit your home.  I would discuss this with your mate, and than make it perfectly clear to her....UNLESS she is able to treat you with respect, she's no longer welcome in your home, and you have no desire whatsoever to go to her home....End of discussion.  Might as well resolve it now. It will only get worse once you begin to have children.....
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As long as she is of legal age it is none of your business.  \n\nYou don't know what the girl needs sexually or if your uncle can do the job, and it does not matter.  Sometimes young women like old men because of the size of their wallet, not their penis.  Also, they might really like each other.\n\nIf his heart is broken, oh well. That is life regardless of age.
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You should not have added the part about you being 29 and your wife being 16 as that totally put me off - you are way too old for her.  She is still a child.  I was fine with what you had to say until you got to that part.  If you had waited until she was at least 18 or 19, I would have felt a little more okay with your marriage, but no, not when she is only 16 and you are 29.  Everything else, I was okay with - yes, I think gays should be allowed to be together as their relationships don't hurt anyone and, yes, smoke pot in your home, doesn't bother me.  You lost me with your wife being only 16 and you being 29.  Maybe if you were also 18 - 21 or so, but 29 - you are too old for her at this point in her life.  I have a 23 year old daughter in love with a 33 year old man - even their age diff bothers me, but at least she is an adult.  I also have a 29 year old son who is marrying a 32 year old woman and I would not be at all happy with him being with a 16 year old girl.  One of his stepsons to be is 15 years old.
716493
Odds are your sister told her daughter not to talk to you but it's not your nieces fault, it's her Mother's, remember that. As far as the sibling rivaling there's no age that that's not possible. What caused this? Were you two compared to alot growing up? Gosh, I hate to go her but I will. My sister and I are both in our 50's\nand she has always hated me with a passion, we haven't spoken in over 2 years and she has instructed her 30 year old son that if he talks to me even at family gatherings she's through with him, fortunately he told her he loved her but I did nothing to him and he will have a relationship with me. Anyway I love our Mother but I blame her, she always compared us and that's not a fair thing to do. I even started to go to counseling over the whole thing. I've come to realize that it's okay if she doesn't want anything to do with me, I still love her and I'd be there if she needed me, I can't make her like me and I can't change things. It's her loss that we aren't in each others lives and with or without her I will go on and I will be happy. I will not let it ruin my happiness or my life.
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Children of any age resent any "outside" interference from sources such as yourself in their lives.  They always consider that maybe, the parents will return to each other and they will be "one happy family" once again.  And, if by chance, your "man" was widowed, the kids think of you as the "Wicked Witch of the West" trying to replace their mom.  After 2 years, I would think you'd have a better hold on everything, but it appears maybe you and the "man" hasn't really sat down and discussed these matters for the future. But you state, its "your feelings toward the children" that you fear, not their feelings toward you?  Evidently, you can't accept the children and only want kids between you and your man.  Now that's a major problem and if I were you, and can afford it, I'd seek professional help on this matter.  And if you can't afford it, maybe the welfare people in your state might assist in financial matters?  I'd find out ASAP and get this problem either corrected in my own mind, or split with this guy knowing you will never accept his children as yours.
1052599
She would probably be very happy if you let her have her life the way she wants it.  Forcing a situation may strain your relationship with her.  If you are set on this, find an event you two could attend together where there would be a mix of people including men her age.  That way it doesn't look like you are forcing anything but rather giving her an opportunity to meet people.
748450
I THINK THIS YOUNG LADY IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU\nI UNDERSTAND THAT BOTH 0F YOU HAVE THINGS GOING\nON IN YOUR LIFE.BUT TI SOUND LIKE SHE NOT REALLY\nTHE ONE FOR YOU. ALSO THE FACT THAT SHE 24 ,MAY\nHAVE SOMETHIING TO DO  WITH WHAT GOING ON WITH\nHER. ALSO SHE MAY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE PICTURE\nAS WELL.
807174
Seems a little strange that you would post that. Agree with first answer seems like more than a question.  Did you just want to tell the world that she lives with a 39 year old...well you just did.  Hope if she finds out that the 39 year old is not an attorney or knows one because this could constitute harassment. Just a little friendly advice.
744701
You could ask her straight out what she is looking for.  If you're not willing to spend some quality time at home with her to get to know her, you may want to move on.  You know what it's like to have children so I'm sure you understand how difficult it must be for her to raise two children on her own and why she is busy and can't get out much.  Her children will always come first or, atleast they should.  Perhaps you should rearrange some things in your life if you truly would like to get to know this woman.
989662
U should be happy that a 5 year old looks at u as a mom. Her mom is not doing so well and u don't want ur niece to turn out like her so I would take resposnibiltiefor her much more and take her under you wing. Care for her andmake sure nothing bad happens. Kepp up te good work
370315
not if she is his daugher in law, daughter or aunt.