I been slim all my life have a son and self esteem is low help me?
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Whats wrong with being slim?? Slim is great!  I have been big all my life.... not hugely fat but definitely overweight.... it has been a constant struggle to lose it.  Be thankful for being slim, you are one of the fortunate ones.\n\nAnd you have child... many people cant even conceive at all.  \n\nSo far you have 2 very good reasons to feel very blessed!!
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Dear, I used to have low self-esteem over my weight too. I ballooned like a hot air balloon when I was a little younger.\nIt mattered so much to me because I was worried what others might think of me, that others would laugh at me and looked badly at me.\nIt mattered that I had a crush on one of my classmates once - I never told him nor took it any further than just treating him like eye candy and a good way to get motivated for school and my studies, but I was so self-conscious whenever I was around him I tried to basically time and 'control' every move I made, everything I said according to how I'd be perceived by others.\n\nAs a result of that, I became like a clown. Do you know why? Because instead of letting my inner beauty and personality shine (which many of my friends have complimented me about - isn't it a suggestive hint?), I made myself like a sideshow freak, doing whatever I thought would gain the approval of the people around me, to gain their acceptance. I even tried to go on a diet, not because I wanted to lead a healthy lifestyle, but because I thought he'd prefer a slimmer girl!\nLater, a year or two later, I became frustrated with what I was doing. Before this crush, I had been self-conscious of myself, but I was also a loner and an extreme introvert who went everywhere alone and did everything alone. Because of that, I never had to 'pretend' to anything or anyone as there was nothing to pull a facade to!\nThat freedom was very fulfilling in a sense. But I wanted to have a small network of friends I could rely on too, and as I matured I realised that keeping completely to myself and shutting myself out from the rest of the world wasn't going to do me any good in the future.\nSorry for digressing, as I was saying, I felt so frustrated, what was I doing? It was so exhausting to just go around pretending to be something I didn't want to be! Hell, if I wanted to say 'screw you' to someone I didn't like what should be stopping me? Because I don't want to look 'bad' in front of others, or because it's impolite?\nInstead of focusing on what others think, try to focus on yourself.\nWhen I became less self-conscious, and slowly, (don't have to rush it, do what's comfortable for you), added more of my own personality, myself, to show everyone, did you know what happened?\nI realised that others thought I was "cool" despite being a little chubbier, because I was nice, but I had my own attitude, my own 'thing' going. That people admired, because that's the same shackles (being self-conscious and having low self-esteem) many of them are stuck in!\nI made more friends. I knew who were the good ones and the bad - usually they're the ones who stick by you in times of need and not hang around hoping that being around you would earn them brownie points with others.\n\nMy crush never confessed that he liked me, but close sources to him (I had lots of guy friends.. they help to infiltrate the 'guy world'. Most of the time, the guy world is men only. Even if they'd like to admit me in it'd break the rules cuz I'm a girl, haha :P) and myself leaked to me and it turned out he HAD developed a crush on me, but he was too shy.\nHe was a popular guy in the school.\nLater, he kept giving me glances, kept 'bumping' onto me during the strangest times (I was a weird kid. I hung around after school hours just 'haunting' the corridors, taking in the scenery from the balcony, thinking of new ideas to write a story or draw something, sat in the classroom after school to draw/study/write, etc. Very reclusive. But I enjoyed it.) because normally, after school hours, there'd be a stampede to get out of the school. AND he was never known to actually stay back for anything.\nHe found a zillion ways to talk to me and joke with me, and we became friends. He's still a friend, but of course, the old crush is gone
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Self esteem can be gained with encouragement and nurture from one to another, however the person lacking such must have the will in which to attain it. It is possible at any age...depends upon how many knock backs the person has suffered and how much they are taken to heart. Take the person out somewhere and away from overbearing situations to begin with and then gradually introduce them to a problem solving situation and go with THEIR idea and see how it works....just a thought, good luck :-)
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Here are some suggestions for boosting your self-esteem: \n\n"Be positive about yourself and accept compliments that point out your strengths and abilities. \nBe realistic about what you can do. Trying to be perfect and comparing yourself with other people can damage your self-esteem. \nRecognize that everyone makes mistakes. When you make a mistake, do not put yourself down. You can learn from your mistakes. \nListen carefully to others, without judging. \nRespect people's differences. Recognize their strengths and\naccomplishments. Acknowledge the things others do that help your family, your workplace and your community. \nSupport and encourage other people's efforts to learn new things. \nGive people in your family unconditional love. For example, when a child does something wrong, make it clear that you dislike the behaviour, but you still love the child. \nSpend time with people who make you feel good. Do things that make you feel worthwhile."  Hope that helps. \n \nI got that info from site listed below.
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i think you just need to keep saying so. Some people are just naturally lean. Or maybe you dont have as much of an appetite as others. \nI guess it doesn't matter whether you are skinny or fat they will always find a way to judge you. You just need to tell them where to shove it. Certainly your family should love you for what you are as a person. You are beautiful.
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Just try to make yourself stronger. don't think of poeple talkings much and improve your self confidence.\nI was like this when I was younger but I released being sensentive too much is not worth at all.
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your not fat dear.Ever think your mother may be jealous of you a little? mothers can be harsh now a days.  your esteem depends on the person you want to be,not some fallacy someone else has in their mind.if you believe your esteem relies on others compliments,you shall not have ahappy life.
690832
Honey, you are not fat. Your weight is right for your age and height. At 13 you may be feeling a little sensitive about your looks which is totally normal for a teen. Don't ever let another person make you feel bad about yourself. And the person who called you that ugly name is probably just feeling bad about himself. You will be surprised what 4 or 5 years can do for your looks also. You will probably be a real knockout in a little while. Best of luck to you.
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play this self-esteem game\nhttp://www.selfesteemgames.mcgill.ca/\nor\nhttp://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v3i2/selfesteem.html\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html#anchor1643790
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lack of self esteem  such a poor man
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if you feel good about the way you look then to hell with "everybody"  if you think you really are thin...have a snack!  good luck
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There are self esteem issues you need to work out with a counselor. I have plenty of really skinny friends that they still rag on themselves for not being this and that and not liking how they look in clothes or bathing suits. Just because you are skinny don't necessarily mean you are going to be a happier person. You will be happier with getting more attention but just going on looks likely to be more negative attention. You need to be happy with yourself no matter what size you are! But, you also want to make sure you keep yourself healthy. Just eat right or just moderate what you eat altogether don't go on this diet food kick and if you can try to get out and walk around the block or if you can afford it join a gym. They have new classes like belly dancing, exotic dancing and jazzercise to make it more interesting. Try to look at it as being more healthy and making healthier choices not just as being skinny. There are skinny people that are out of shape and not healthy that can end up having the same health problems as someone who is overweight. Hope this helps.
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i dont want to be rude, but the only thing that helps is maturity, if your weight is the only thing u think about, then u have a maturity problem....you are beautiful just the way u r, and u need to realize that.....every girl goes through this, so ur not alone....but u have accept yourself, good luck
572240
The best advice that you can get in a situation like this is going to come from a trained professional--a therapist.  It just might help you find a way to excel on your own, and find the confidence to be anything that you want to be.  Gl, be strong!
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Forget what you were, and start living a new life. And read a lot of books on any subject under the sun to keep your mind occupied. As you relax, over a period of time you'll get over the low self esteem bit.\nAll the best!\nst
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I was a wee skinny thing when a bit younger. What I eat has very little relation to my weight. However, I lose weight dramatically if I'm stressed or ill. So my advice to you is to find ways to be more contented - like a cat, you'll get smug and plump when happy with your lot. Sort out any problems that are lurking, make sure work/school makes you happy, find a wonderful partner to love and spoil you - and just be content that you have a figure so many would kill for. I know it's hard to be skinny when everyone is jealous and feels they can comment on it, but be happy with the way you are, dress to impress, and smile 3times more than you do - it really works to make you feel better!\nBest of luck x
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Good usually but i have self-esteem issues from time to time like everybody else!