is there such thing as 'forgive and forget?'?
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It takes a strong person to truly forgive and forget when it is over something major.\n\nTo me, the phrase means that if I forgive and forget, I won't bring the "forgiven and forgotten" offense up in future arguments, I won't dwell over what can't be changed and I won't seek revenge or continue to mull over the experience.\n\nI may not truly "forget" what happened - but saying that means I am willing to move on and not waste any more precious time worrying about the offense.\n\nOf course, there have been things in my life that I haven't been wiling to "forgive and forget" but in those cases I have chosen to give up my relationship with that person rather than try to heal the friendship. Usually a relationship of some sort is at stake when forgiveness is involved and it is a matter of choosing between the offense and the relationship.
1063127
When you realize that all that has happened, is just about the only way it could work out, then you can accept the past, and begin to forgive, and forget. It sounds dogmatic, and implies predestination, but it's true. Go in peace...
1170887
It depends how much she hurt you and with what.\nI do believe we can be forgiving and forget but some people think we should   be like them and forget in a second all their agravations.  Some times sorry erases nothing because they do it again.     If she is that way when she gets mad continuously, she will hardly change; or change for a short while but then go back to the same old habbit.\n\nGive time apart to heal and then decide weather or not she is worth of continuing a friendship; forgiving is good for you; not just for her but for you speacially.\n\nIt all is your personal choice but I know by experience that abusive people really do not change that and if they think we can easily forget offenses then they are cruel.
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be true to yourself.  come clean and make amends if you can.  When that is not possible, write down the things you've done that bother you on little pieces of paper and say goodbye to them as you bury them in your garden, or toss them in your lit BBQ. then forgive yourself and forget about it.
1186639
Yes, we should forgive...but we never, ever should forget.
425057
Yes, I did.  It worked for a while. But, in my opinion it is too hard to forgive and when there are problems, you immediately think it was better withou them.\nI am all for staying together and reuniting. But start from the beginning to see if you love her or him or are IN LOVE.
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You can always forgive, there are no limitations there. You can never forget because once something has been done the memory will always be there. The real question should be should you forgive and that will depend upon a lot of factors. Is this a constant reoccurring problem? Is your friend hurting you intentionally or is s/he just not tactful or too bright? If the hurting is intentional I would point that out to the friend and tell them that if they value your friendship their behavior will need to come to a stop. If they refuse to stop they are not a true friend and you would be better off not associating with them anymore.
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'fool me once shame on you. fool me twice shame on me'\n\nbut this all depend on the gravity of the mistake. if its about not putting the toilet seat down though i asked my husband to do so, is quite forgivable again and again. but if it concerns cheating on me or something like that, i might forgive the first time (totally depends on the situation. i might not forgive the first time also), but for sure will not forgive when it happens the second time.
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I have pondered this same thing..\n\nI can forgive someone for treating me poorly, but I will never forget how I felt when that happened.. \n\nI think it has to do with a little self preservation, and more to what you want to surround yourself with, and  not wanting to put yourself in a position to face the same types of offenses.\n\nForgetting it a very hard thing to do, because you naturally associate some things together.. like a favorite song from high school that instantly makes you feel a certain way when you hear it again, or the first time you laid eyes on your first born, or the first time your heart was broken.  You retain this data (I think) because it's all a learning process that later will help you value what is and isn't important. And the emotions tied to those things are memorized with your heart.
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I believe anything can be forgiven in time.  Even 21 years of abuse from a parent (which I dealt with) was forgiven, albeit because the man died and I had to learn to cope with it all, but I still forgave.  Just remember that forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting.
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forgiving is hard sometimes but in the BIBLE forgiving is what God did for us But i don't think that you can forget some important things in your life depending on what u r trying to FORGET.
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Forgiveness is tough, but it liberates us in the same way that God's forgiveness frees us. If you never say "I forgive" then you will never let go of the hurt. The past will haunt your present and your future. Forgiving does not erase the hurt, but it will free you from the threat the hurt will stick with you for life. You can pray this prayer "Help me learn from you, dear Jesus, how to forgive, so that I might live fully and freely. Amen"
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I think so. I have such a hard time forgiving myself. I still think of things that I did or said as a little kid. And yet I can forgive whoever of whatever and almost instantly forget about it.
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It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.
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Be there, forgive and accept.
53864
Yes.  Maybe later than sooner but yes.  Even the real BIG things.  My mother told me once, if I can't forgive, how do I expect God to forgive me.  That pretty much grounds my decisions.  It may take a long time.  It doesn't have to be instant but, it does have to happen.  And once you forgive them.  DROP IT.  Have you ever made a mistake and someone reminded you over and over and over and over and . . . it gets old.  Take your time and your space to work things out for you.  Don't be manipulative, it's not worth it (it may be a bit fun but not worth it).  Good Luck
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yes, forgive him/her if he/she is sory of what she/he did...\n\nif God forgives us for every day we do wrong (sin), so we too...