Why I feel like i am betrayed by every woman on earth?
535012
Well, of course your going to feel this way. Having someone take advantage of your good nature would naturally scorn anyone's soul and heart. How long has it been since the divorce? Your just going to have to have time to heal. I would suggest though going out to put your mind at ease, but don't rush into another relationship quite fast.  Trust is something your going to just have to build with women again. Look back at your ex-wife were there signs that she was out for just money? If so use those signs to your advantage and beware of such signs in future relationships. DON'T EVER TELL SOMEONE YOUR DATING THAT SHE WAS A GOLD DIGGER. This may lead them to believe you could easily manipulated and taken advantaged of regardless of how long the marriage was. Simply say it was mutual and you rather not discuss it. Besides it's no body's business regardless of whom your dating or not. If there were no signs then be even more aware don't be to harsh w/ us women NOT all of us are out for money. I will pray for you strength to get back on your feet. You pray for a good Christian woman to come into your life and to be able to learn to trust again. Good Luck & God Bless. When you decide to become involved with someone again don't continue to be on the defensive either. You choose to date the woman so give her a chance, but just be aware of signs. Trust her, until you have proven it to be other wise or it's broke.  Don't allow your insecurity from a previous relationship or your ex-wife to ruin your chance for happiness.
977767
I know how you feel. I've been there and its really a bad way to feel. If you want you can e-mail me. eula_hill7@yahoo.com I would be happy to be your friend.
164030
I hate to say this but I hate it when one person speaks for all. ALL WOMEN are different the same as all men are different. I am a woman who looks for the sensitivity in a man as I appreciate that. I do believe as a society we have come to look at emotions as being a weak thing but I don't agree. I can agree with self resolve though too. The answers are within and we must seek to find them. No one is an authority over us so why run to other people as if they are.
878215
It could be hormones or depression, which is linked to hormones, that happens to me alot, I would go to the doctor, they might be able to find out what exactleys causing this.\nBelieve me your not the only woman going through this, sometimes I feel like doctor jekel and mr. hyde.
821267
I fit your description.  However, I now have a serious problem and am in therapy.  I have never cheated on my wife nor do I want to, but the urge to go do someone else is so intense it is disrupting my life.  \nI had a fairly attractive woman very openly hit on me at a restaurant today (a rare occurence) and holy smokes it took all my strength to not play along.\nIf you are feeling this same way you are not alone.  Therapy will likely help you.  If you don't address it, it will eat you up inside.
258199
Been tru some crap myself.... people use you and just treat you like a sweet wrapper.... Dont bother going out with those girls anymore, they sound mean and sorry if its harsh but you need to get to know yourself. Know thyself and you will then know that you are better and worth more than a million of those girls..\nSpend time reading or journal writing or spirituality. Spend quality time with you, focus on a hobby... anything. By the way I am 25 and not some old granny trying to give you wholesome advice.\nI have been in this situ b4 so when I started telling my so called friends that I couldent go out or do that favor (for watever made up reason.. my dog is sick, I have an appointment, my car brokedown, ) I began to realise the reason I felt so bad about myself was because they manipulated me to feel just that in their own twisted way.\nAfter some time of spending time with you or people who only judge you by your standards you will see that you are worth so much more and have lovely qualities and attributes that are highlighted by those who love you. Thos girls bring out the worst in you. Dont give them that chance any more. It will take some time and you will get frustrated by lonliness but come on , dont suffer these fools gladly... Best of Luck xxxx
293952
Every man feels the same at some point of time.well maybe your luck is to be blamed,but we usually are the reason for getting treated wonderfully or horribly!Keep in control, love them,be truthful.. that should(& would) help!
237450
You've experienced the good days with your girls at the past. And you liked it. However, losing something that you really treasured always gives disappointments. The reason why you are lonely is that you feel embarrasing when you think of the nice things that you had in the past but you lost in the present day today. You notice the big difference of the past days compared to these days. Because of that, you tend to feel disappointed. You want it back. And because you cannot get what you want, your brain is being tortured because of the lonesome you feel and makes you feel stressed. You have a good profession. You have a nice job to brag it to women. And with that, you may use your profession as your appeal to women in order to have a successful proposal. You may also start entering the gym to restore your lost nice looking body.
505881
You just do. Maybe you feel guilty after your betrayal, of 1.50 to 10 years ago, and can't stop thinking about the person you betrayed, and can't stop feeling guilty about not getting married sooner, nor about not giving your child a father, which is what all good mothers would do. Then you're ready.
1081856
Girl, It happens all the time. You might not know it but even married women have thesame feelings sometime. I guess it's the feeling of being used. I know it's very hard not knowing what to do, it goes with being young. \n\nI have been in that situation and it took me 7 years to get over it. After that situation I acted slutty because I thought I was a slut anyway, so why not just act that way. Then I went in to this stage where I had sex with lot's of guys just to keep convincing myself that I am on top of them! That I have the right to use them too. But nobody has the right to use or abuse anybody.\n\nTill then even though I had a family of my own, I still thought about it and how much it hurts me. Then I realized, you know what, things that I have done in the past made me who I am right now. But I don't want it to make me a bad person. \n\nI hope that you realize this too. It happens to people everyday. Hang on to yourself. You may feel angry, regrets and shame. Forgive yourself for not stopping when you felt like it, you must understand sometimes we can get confused. But keep thinking, you are a special person, and "ish" does happen time to time, to a lot of people. Just make sure it doesn't happen again. Don't let "ish" get you down hun. Pray to the Lord for strenght and guidance. Take charge of yourself, your life, ok. \n\nIf you have anymore problems, just email me. you take care.
582269
You don't say why you feel you are a big disappointment to everyone in your life.  Personally, I don't truly believe that.\n\nYou are being harsh on yourself - you need to lighten up.\n\nWe are put on this earth, not so much to please others, but to please ourselves.  We can only do the best we can and that is all that is asked.  We are human beings - not perfect.\n\nStop believing that you are a big disappointment - because you are not.\n\nBetter days are ahead.\n\nGood Luck!
343517
hi im not a big expert, and i dont know u, but as far as i understand u feeling this way is quite normal. no offence but i ges its normal for women to go throu this. i know loads of them who sunddly get in to this phase... so dont worry about it too much ok, its not a big problem its just a part of growing up. u sound pretty smart so i ges u will do the correct thing. stick to your studies. u said that u have never met him ! i dont think its really possible to love someone without really knowing that person. but i wont get in to that cos its cool. All i will say is the way u feel is quit normal so dont worry about it. its all about growing up so just take your time and enjoy it ok, it will pass, and please continu your studies trust me u will never regret it. hpoe things work out take care god bless.
51254
I think about this almost daily, as I am currently going through a divorce myself, because of some unbeliveably UGLY stuff my husband has done.  I, as well, consider myself wounded, possibly to that same point of no return---from that hardened heart.  Only, I ask can any MAN be trusted.  When I read your question, it just hit me:  I know I, a woman, CAN be trusted.  Obviously, you feel that you can.  So, YES, we are out here.  We made bad choices in allying ourselves with the people we married--people unworthy of trust.  That does not mean there are not wonderful persons of integrity in each gender out there.  Let's try to move forward and treat people as individuals, rather than representatives of the worst common denominator of their gender.  After all, how would either of us feel if we were dismissed as capable of the UGLY?  ...but I am with ya.  I mean, it's all well and good to say these things to myself, but getting to the point of feeling it in my heart is different.  Good luck to us both/all!
673501
I feel sorry for you.My advice is, identify the reason why she did it,also ask your self I am faithful and am I the person who she feels comfortable and secure?After you answer these questions, you can decide.If there is any weakness on your side,(I am not talking about the sexual thing) you better forgive her from the bottom of your heart and leave peacefully.
170871
Hmmm...good question. I remember feeling the same way with an ex-girlfriend. Unfortunately that did not end all too well. Now, I don't actually mind if my girl were to talk to other guys, for the fact that if she were to ever do anything, then you should know that it is not the end of the world. There are many women out there my friend, and if she were to ever cheat or do anything to hurt you, then she isn't worth a lick! Just try to stay calm, trust her and trust in yourself that whatever happens, you will come out ok...
503840
You know what?  A lot of us women have this fantasy that goes something like this - \n\nIf we confront the people in our lives and ask them HOW they could do that to YOU and WHY did they do it - do you believe that they will answer you honestly?\n\nDo you expect an honest answer, and that they will be very sorry?  Do you feel that this is the only way you'll feel validated for the pain and suffering you've endured?\n\nSadly, it is all a fantasy.  They will NEVER admit WHY or HOW COME they did anything at all.  They will LIE and LIE to you.\n\nBut, seriously, DO NOT believe the lie that they put into your head.  It is NOT your fault and it is NOT anything YOU did to MAKE them do what they did.\n\nThey are poor sorry excuses of human beings, and they do not deserve any happiness.  \n\nYou are a very deserving young lady who got caught in a bad situation.  But, thank God you found out early, and that it ended sooner than later.  You want a marriage on a foundation of honesty and not such blatent disrespect and lies.\n\nIt will hurt for awhile, but, you'll realize that YOU will be alright.  It's not okay what they did, but you are stronger than their lies.  You will be alright.  \n\nDo not waste another minute about them.  Spend EVERY minute taking care of yourself - grieve, mourn, cry, scream!  But, then, take time to be kind to yourself and heal.  Pray.  Restore balance to your spirit so that you feel in harmony again.\n\nEnjoy life and be grateful that they didn't ruin your life anymore than they tried to!\n\nFind professional help and may God bless!  Good luck!
258091
Yes I have and probably will again, being only human. It usually happens after I've done something that makes me feel like a complete fool everytime I think about it! Whatever has happened to you probably isn't as bad as you think it is right now and you'll live through it one way or another, Talk to pinkstealth there. She looks like she's got her ears on and waiting for you.