how does someone become gay?
553019
"becoming" gay does not sound correct. Either you know inside that there is something different when you look at either a male or a female which ever one you prefer. You can't just become gay,,,you actually feel the desire to be with that particular sex...now what you do afterwards to either keep it going or difuse it is totally up to you.
269489
Become Gay.... Other Wise Get Used To It
321178
it came from your body so ya cant be gay..unless ya wanted to try another guys
673921
There really isn't any way to know for sure..  \nMost of the time we kinda have an idea if someone is gay but there are some individuals that are very good at hiding their "tendencies".    You should try to become their friend, strike up a conversation about a book, movie, the weekend coming up, etc, etc--  Try to get to know them as a person.   There are many people out there, specially in H.S. that just because they don't like a person, rumors/lies are made up!! I'm pretty sure u have heard some rumors about yourself that you know are just lies!!!  So don't believe everything u hear.
142270
He didn't "turn gay".  He was gay all along but in denial. I'm sorry that happened to you.
27337
First you need a mirror.  Go up to everybody you see and hold the mirror exactly 1 & 1/4 inches from their face.  If you don't hold it that exact distance, they might be able to fool you.\n\nIf you hold the mirror up just right and they don't have a reflection, they're GAY!\n\nYou have to hold it REAL close though.
171314
In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
318224
nothing you "do" can ever make you gay.  gay is just something that you are.  you can do everything sexual with girls but if you're still not sexually attracted to them, then you're definately not gay.\n\nbesides, if you're comfortable enough with your sexuality to actually be alright with having a threesome, then you should be secure in the fact that you're either straight, gay, or bisexual.  don't let other people tell you what you are just because of something you did.  you will know if you're gay.
928901
only if it is possible to turn a straight guy gay.
1019982
I don't believe that it makes you gay. But, it also depends on what your definition of Gay is.  I do believe that you have homosexual tendencies.  That means that you may not be actually having sex with or being sexually intimate with men right now.  But, if the right situation presents itself, you may become involved with a man sexually.  Now, whether you will just like guys then or not, I don't know.  However, anything is possible with anything.  Just take you time and find out what makes you feel good as a person and what makes you feel good intimately and that will be your answer.  Don't worry about the label too much.
1113431
First you have to be sure about yourself, once you have accepted the fact that you are gay and there is no way of changing the fact then you have to be strong, because over the years to come you will hear all sorts of jokes and comments that are cruel, but are based on ignorance. You have to understand, that you have had time to become used to the idea of being gay, and probably have for some time, but when you come out to your family, this will be the first time they have had it confirmed and it will take them time to get use to it. First level with them, just sit them down and level with them, don't do what most gay people have done in the past including myself and that is to try and hide it, because you can never get away from it. The next thing to do is to be the man that you are, being gay doesn't mean you have to be a pansy, you can still be the man you know you are and the man they thought you where going to be. Move out as soon as you can and avoid contact with them for a few months, this does two things. 1. it gives them time to discuss, fight, backstab and blame each other, without yuo having to hear it or feel guilty about it, because you didn't choose to be gay, you where born that way, and anyone who says other wise is a bloody idiot.\n2. This gives you time to explore your sexuallity without the fear of being caught with your pants down by your parents.\n16 is young, but at 16 I knew I was a raging queer, but it wasn't until I was thirty that I levelled with my family, during this time I explored straight relationships, gay one night stands, sauna's etc... But in the end I faced my fears and relized if I didn't level with my family, I would never have a chance of being happy with my own life and to me my life is the more important that the embarassment I caused my parents. For ten years I have lived in a gay relationship and now my family accept my partner as a part of the family, they now accept that they are not going to get grandchildren but now they have had the time to relize that I hadn't change, I was still the son they had 42 years ago, good luck kid, but careful there are some crazy mother----- out there, but be happy and have fun
550992
I don't know. For one thing, at that stage in life, their bodies are still developing, and a lot of people go through stages of having crushes on BOTH genders. However, at that age, it's not like they're actually going to DO anything, so I don't see why they bother proclaiming themselves as bi or gay.  I mean, they probably get a small crush on someone of the same sex, so they jump to the conclusion that they're gay. And since it's almost becoming kind of trendy to be gay, they openly declare it, to get attention or whatever.\n\nI think that until you've actually finished developing physically and emotionally, there's no point in declaring yourself homosexual since it could just be a phase.
205777
I don't think people become gay because of the way they look on the outside....\na choice of sexual preference comes from the inside--the way you feel--not the way you look.
994411
you cannot change your sexual orientation despite how many morons told you otherwise. Trust me they are many gay men would have just switch under pressure just like that...if it's a choice there would not be that many gay men left in this world.\nIf it's not being gay , it can be fat , ugly ,short , skinny, race, religion. There are many bullies in these world would just pick on you regardless what differences you have. But your existence does not depend on them. You exist for yourself. Until you take care of your self, appreciate yourself and ignore what these bullies said you can't begin to face the world.  Life is not a popularity contest, you do not have to please everyone to gain votes. In reality some people gonna hate you without you having to do anything. The more you react to these bullies the more they gonna pick on you.... feel indifferent, ignore the rest just be who you are.....What can't kill you will make you stronger cause you need it ...there might be time in your life the challenge can be much tougher. See it as your early challenge to overcome.....Check out your local communities support group ...should be listed under gay and lesbian. ask for youth counselling or peer support group...they are many out there just like you facing the challenge. many can help you overcome these obstacles....Have you by any chance watch any of the Xmen movies?  What do u think the message is about? The first two were directed by Brian Singer a gay man himself. They are many sucessful gaymen in this world from all walks of life that I can't even begin to tell you. Instead of seeing it as a hindrence in your life ..use it as a catalyst to propel you to do great things with your life that could influence the society!! You are 16 and the world is your oyster!!
1135608
Well, if you do this at a young age, know that you will lose a lot of friends and will maintain only those who really honestly truly are your friends.  Be prepared to spend time being made fun of and being ridiculed and harassed, this usually lasts during High School plus anyways students always find something to torment each other about.  \n\nThe "light" is, you are honest with yourself and you will make new friends and meet people who honestly like you for you.  You can move on with your life and learn to become more adapted in your shoes.\n\nKnow that being gay is not about sex and don't fall prey to older guys who will take advantage of your new found sense of self.  Join a group for gay youth and check on the Internet for religious gay youth groups too, ones that will focus more on your spirituality and realtionship with God rather than on your being gay.\n\nBeing Gay is not a bad thing or a sin, it is who you are and you will have to learn to be Happy with yourself in spite of the people who will try to bring you down and condemn you, remember God loves everyone, man hates and creates hate, there is support out there for you, but don't be taken advantage of.\n\nAs an athiest you dont have to believe in religion and don't believe in God but think of all the good things on earth and spiritually find yourself, don't abandon that,  it will keep you focused and give you comfort when you need it.\n\nGood Luck.
483038
Wait...he's not getting a sex change so that he can be gay, is he?  If so...don't worry about it.  I imagine sex change operations to be quite expensive, and I highly doubt someone would go through with the experience just to be with a girl that isn't attracted to males.
272501
You can't "turn gay".  You can choose to accept it or deny it.