My husband left for bootcamp on Friday and has called me 7 times.?
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He's inprocessing right now.  There is no inprocessing on the weekends.  That being said, that's a lot of time off, free time.  Since inprocessing is not Basic, it's just what you do before you get to basic, the Drill Sgts are a lot easier-going.  Phone calls are given much more often.\n\nHowever, as the week progresses two things will happen.  First of all he'll be busier and won't call near as often.  Second of all, he'll arrive at his Basic and he'll probably get a 5 minute phone call once or twice over the next month or two.\n\nDon't worry, it'll get better.  Letters are a lifeline, but remember, he'll have very little time to write, but they're greatly appreciated in Basic, so don't stop writing even if you don't get much, they'll mean a lot to him.
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That is crazy! Don't talk to him every again. No normal person should ever call anyone that many times and leave so many messages, especially if they HAVEN'T met you yet.\n\nIf he was nervous or unsure then he's TOO nervous and unsure. Ugh, what a freak.
344243
sounds like the first logical thing you've done so far. good job, it will be hard, but just keep thinking about his responses when you want to call him
665346
my husband is over there. been over there for 9 1/2 months. and it really depends on where you are, but for the most part i get to hear from him every day, although where he is the phone conversations are allowed 20 min each to allow other people to get on, so then he has to sign back on, and so on. sometimes a soldier or marine will die where they are so they have to shut down the phone lines until the family's notified, and when they're really busy he can't call. when he first left they were really busy setting everything up, so if you don't hear from him in a while, try not to worry! I know it's hard not to! :) stay strong!
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Wow..You've got a long hard road ahead of you hun, yes, you do go where he will be stationed but, you don't deploy with him. I have no idea what state you live in but, you need to contact base houseing and ask them to put you in touch with a K.V ( Key volunteer) these are Army wife's, they can answer any question you have and be there for you when your husbands gone. Feel free to Email me if you have any other questions or just to chat. lvn3814@yahoo.com\n\nBy the way, I'm also a Military wife\n\nStay Strong
357843
hmmm. Call him. Maybe he is busy.
129666
That is tough.  At least he called.  If you don't sweat him and give him the space he needs, he will find his way back to you.
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I'd get ticked off. I would not answer the phone when they called back. Make them deal with it for a bit. I also wouldn't be the first to call after I was over it.  If your spouse did hang up on you she needs to do a lot more Looking at the question you answered about being someones playful playmate, and providing your contact info. You are sleazy if you are married.
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Dont call INS.  He'll be back in a week, and he'll be mad.\nTry to work something out, or get out.
691992
Sweety you're mad because you do not know or understand what is going on with him. It very well may be that he is trying to pack and work at the same time and trust me it is not easy.I did this one day and the next thing I know there was a female officer in my face in the middle of the night because I did not hear anyone knocking at the door. My boyfriend at the time had them kick the door in so that he could see if I was okay. Personally I think it was something else. Plus, I had children to take care of.
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It just depends on how much you are willing to take from him.If you can't take anymore then leave.He obviously isnt going to quit doing whatever he keeps doing. Its been 5 times. Maybe you should seperate for awhile. Just to get away from the crap. I
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Sounds like he'll keep doing it until you stop taking his calls and accepting his messages.  If you want him to back off, you need to NOT respond to him.  It's just that easy.
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Write letters OFTEN.  It seems like one or two a week is a lot, but when mail call comes and your name is not called for just one day, it's a let down.  Send pictures of home.  Don't get mad if he doesn't call you everyday.  With the time zones he's calling you in the middle of his night.  And most likely standing in line for an hour to do so.  I knew a lot of guy over there who were practically walking zombies because they spend three hours when they should be sleeping calling home.  Don't fret irregular calls.  If he's calling, he still cares.  Let him get some sleep as well.  He needs it.
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i say go with your heart dont accuse right from the start ask questions over and over and wait for him to slip if hes cheating hell slip sooner or later what ever you do dont come out and say i think your cheatin ask more direct questions like why did it take so many phone calls before you returned one or where were you on tuesday at 7 etc
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If he didn't leave you a number in which to contact him while away, sounds like he's up to no good....and the people he either works or socializes with have probably been covering him, so I think you will have to wait until he returns ....at which point, I'd set him down for some serious talking...good luck!
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I'm not one to really talk since I've been divorced twice, but still, I think that unless he's abusing you or your kids, give him a chance to remind you of why you married him in the first place. "For better or worse" There is nothing worse than regret, and if you decide to end the relationship without serious counsuling or prayer (if you're religious) that you may wind up regreting leaving the man whose stood by you all those years. And 9 is a big number, so unless you've been lying to yourself and him for that long, you're marriage deserves a lengthy examination.
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be firm and dont waiver. stand your ground, do not return phone calls, do not "go out with him"