My Friend just told me they have cancer, what should I say to them?
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The best thing u can do is just be there for them.  Dont push it too much, let them know you are there to listen and wait for them to tell u how they feel.  It shows that u must be very close to them as they obviously trust you with their secret and are probably in shock about it themself still.\n\nMy ex-boyfriend had cancer and I know it can be a very very difficult time, not just for the person suffering but also for those around them and close to them.  Your friend is probably feeling a range of emotions at the moment and maybe just needs someone to confide in.  People can sometimes get very angry or very quiet when they find out something like this, so if your friend starts acting wierd, try to not to take it personally.\n\nI really feel for your friend because I know what a hard time it must be for them.  You also need to look after yourself too, its not easy news to hear and although u may not be experiencing it physically, u will prob feel just as emotionally upset and shocked.  The best advice i can give is just to be there to listen and keep their secret.  There is nothing that you can say that will change what has happened. Sometimes if u really want to help them and get them to talk, just talk about the facts of the illness (eg.what type of cancer/treatment/stage of progression etc.. )sometimes by the person talking about the facts, it helps them to come to terms with it themself and also brings out their feelings.  \n\nHope this helps you in some way
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I feel so sorry for you, I couldn't even imagine what it would be like loosing someone to cancer.. here's a site i found witch might help you get an idea. GOOD LUCK\n\n\nCancer is evil we all know this is true\nBut there isn't much you can do\nPeople die and people cry\nFamily will always be there by your side\nLook for the future and wish for the best\nNever give up and fight with the rest\n\n\nYou never thought it could happen to you or a loved one\nBut when it does everything changes\nWinter comes faster\nAnd summer fades away\nOh, I hate cancer's pain
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I will pray for you.  You have my sympathy.  I have bone cancer, and it is terminal.  I focus on what I CAN do, each day.  Some days all I can do is lay in bed.  Other days, although rarely, I feel almost good. I believe we send messages to our bodies, subconsciously.  If we think the worst, the worst will happen.  I am a registered nurse, and even though I could easily look up every aspect of my disease, I choose not to.  Only God knows when our time is up.
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I'm dreadfully sorry to hear you are ill.\n\nGet all the treatment you can, assume a positive attitude towards your condition. I'm not saying you should enjoy it, but you should approach it from a standpoint that you are going to survive it. Choose life.\n\nDepending on the type of cancer, there are really good therapies and medication available. Talk to your doctor, find out everything you can about your disease, search the internet there's tons of information out there, and do not be intimidated by doctors. Ask them what they mean when they give you jargon, do not be afraid to get a second opinion.\n\nGood luck!
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One sign of cancer is a sore that does not heal. Do good mouth care through out the day with a good antiseptic mouthwash, and brushing your teeth after every meal. And Gargle with salt water, 1/2 teaspoon salt to 1 Cup of water. Make sure you are eating a good healthy diet, and should take a natural multi vitamin. If the sore is not gone in two to three days, go see a doctor.\nCheck out this great healthy living web site with a lot of good information.\nhttp://www.recipes-for-a-healthy-home.com/index.html
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I'm not a good talker,but when i met my friend on the sick bed,i told her to be strong and and gave her a good head massage.Tell her/him that your love is there and you'll always be there if she needs you.The sickness will go,but your love and care are forever.
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there's no really easy way to tell it. But best to tell it now, they deserve know this matter really,, I hope that time left will be utilized,.. no need to plan on how to say it to them, how hard you plan it,its better to have the problem shared..
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i am so sorry:(, i dont know anything to tell you except be there for them, tell them they can call you anytime to talk, or if they need some time away, they are always welcomed at your home, and pray for them. GOD BLESS.
506546
I say just tell them what you have been feeling. I hope every thing goes the way you want it to. If it doesn't there is always some one out ther who loves and respect you for who you are good luck :)
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Just tell them the truth. That's all you need to do. Have a great day :)
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At first I think I'd go along with it and remind them they need to cover their head and limbs also. \nAfter you got a good laugh tell them they are actually good for you, that they breakdown chemicals in our bodies and turn them into something healthy. \nIf they believe one thing they should believe the other too. I wish I had a friend like that they would be alot of fun.
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I hope you have cancer.
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Above all, do not respond with pity.  Pity is pointless, degrading, and embarassing.  Pity often masquerades as concern, though, so be careful in not just *what* you say, but *how* you say it.\n\nAlso, simply replying with "So?" diminishes the person's possible "struggle" with working up the courage to tell you.  If you wish to show that it doesn't matter, try responding with, "Okay." with the same inflection you might have if he just told you he changed his hair color.\n\nSince he told you, he obviously wants you to know.  Accept that knowledge but don't diminish it.  You might follow up the initial "Okay" or other non-pitying response with, "Do you want to talk about it?"\n\nAlso, if you don't know much about HIV and AIDS, admit that fact.  Say, "I don't know much about it."  And then, get yourself some good education on the subject.  Visit various web sites such as www.poz.com, www.cdc.gov/hiv, etc.  Learn about the condition.\n\nAnd then, let the knowledge that your friend wanted you to know about a potentially fatal illness he has grow your friendship.\n\nBut, don't pity him.
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There's nothing anyone can say right now that can make you feel better.  Know that's she's no longer in pain, and that she'd want you to carry on.  My deepest empathy to you, take care of yourself.
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Tell him: "I am really sorry four your loss (insert name here). Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or your family in your time of need, or if you just need a friend right now." This is kind, and formal, yet personal, and shows you truly care for your friend, and feel for his loss.
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Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
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If she brings it up than yeah! ask her questions.  this is probably the best time to support your friend, and she needs your help right now to be there for her if she needs someone to talk to.  Don't be over the top with it, just say how happy you are that she's seeking help and that you're there for her every step of the way.