what would you think if you were engaged for over a year and He avoids making wedding plans?
546980
i am not sure but. ask him and learn the reason.\ni am in opposite situation with yours. we engaged about 5 months and she afraids. cause we met over internet...
919812
I think he's nervous about the next step. Sure he's desperately in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. But, maybe he's just nervous about what the future will hold for you too. It's not uncommon to be nervous about proposing, and as far as the holidays... he might be waiting to surprise you, 9 out of 10 women say that they expect to be proposed to around Christmas, New Years, or Valentine's Day... Maybe he's just going the extra mile to make it extra special. Don't give up hope :)
448660
People make mistakes. If this is still bothering you after a year of being together then you should talk to him about it. Express your feelings and concerns. If you don't feel comfortable talking to him now about your concerns do you think this will change after you're married?\n\nI'm not saying you should or shouldn't forgive him. That's up to you. I do think you should talk to him about it.
1061010
Ok this has happened to me Men do things like this for a number of reasons: they feel they are not getting enough attention, they are bored and restless in the relationship or you are having trouble getting along,,,but whatever the reason this is UNACCEPTIBLE! \n\nConfront him ASAP tell him how you feel about him and how much this hurts you, find out what prompted him to seek companionship outside your relationship.\n Perhaps its merely sexual reasons. If this is the case try to spice it up a bit. If he refuses to communicate I would reconsider setting a wedding date
396600
may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
299311
he,s afraid of moving to fast for you!tell him the truth about your feelings!I,m from the old school, bf or gf don,t mean a thing til the wedding is planned, so take your time,relax,slow down!
386061
Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
903582
Leave him, if he never told you he was married then he was probably never really serious about you to being with and more than likely doesn't plan on leaving his wife.
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
539767
i do not want my ex to propose to me! but if he did and i had a fiancee i would just tell him no, cause i have a better man in my life- just to see his face when i'd tell him this. am i a bad person?
321265
If you and this boy went together for a year and all of a sudden he stops calling?\nIncomplete question.
305925
why get involved with a man who's been engaged for 8 years... if he changed his mind about her how do you know he won't change his mind about you too? but if you really love him you have to give it a try because otherwise you'll always regret not knowing if it might have worked.
218488
I am not married, but I wouldn't stay married out of convenience. Instead, I would try to make the marriage work. I would try to identify exactly which of my needs (and my partner's needs) are not being met and how to fix them. I take marriage vows extremely seriously. I would never tell someone I would be with them until death do us part, for better or worse, unless I truly meant it.
229046
i would say give him a little more time cuz i understand where he is coming from getting married after a divorce is scary. every relationship you have your afraid that it will turn out like the divorce. dont leave him becuz he wont marry you explain to him you wan tto be married and you'll give him say another year and if he can't marry you by then you need to go your seperate ways. if he doesn't understand or appreciate where you are coming from then it wasn't ment to be. sorry i hope i helped.
308385
If you are intent on marrying him, or at least getting an answer from him, you need to simply take charge of the conversation, and sit him down, and find out why he isn't committed enough to you to marry you. If you've been together for 4 years, and you have a child together, he would seem to have an obligation to hang around and (I would think) to do the right thing by marrying you. If he avoids the topic altogether, he may just be perfectly happy with "getting the milk without buying the cow" so to speak, meaning that he has you, and he has the child, but no legal responsibility to either of you, so he has the freedom to leave when he chooses. This, of course, is not fair to you, and he needs to show some responsibility.\n\nI say sit him down at a time when you can get everything in the open, and simply don't let him walk away from the conversation any more.
1042040
Instead of him telling you that if that's what YOU want then go ahead and do it, which doesn't sound very convincing on his part to me, he needs to actually say directly that yes that is what I want to do too, not if that's what makes YOU happy because he isn't including himself in that equation and that kind of leaves him room to get himself out of it if he up and decides to take off before hand. So no I wouldn't make plans just yet not til you hear him say He is ready and wanting to and he buys you an engagement ring. Then if that happens you can probably be more sure of it being a true thing.
929217
You should be dating at least a year before you get engaged - you need to get to know each other better, go through holidays, spend time with your families, etc. With more time, also, you and him can save up your money for the wedding, since you should be mature and paying for it yourselves.