Is it wrong or weired to want to be a stay at home mom?
543704
What about a compromise? You admit that outside child care has had upsides for your daughter though she tends to be more exposed to illness which is expected. You also seem to enjoy the fact that you have the ability to be out of the house, working at a job you hopefully enjoy and I'm sure this aspect has left you with a feeling of a more direct contribution to the home in terms of finance. However you do say that now your husband makes more money than when you were a stay-at-home mom before so that wouldn't be an issue.\n\nSo, all things considered and while the money wouldn't be an issue, I think the real question comes down to your mixed emotions about full time mommy and in doing so giving up what's become a sort of escape in having a job outside the home. This is where maybe a compromise might be an alternative. Day care (4) days or so a week and a part time on those days (minus 1). The minus one day could be the day you spend in your home doing the things you both need and enjoy doing to make your home comfortable and clean for you and your family.
506279
Yeah, remember money is the root of all evil?!  Our society has taught people to totally be into status and things, possessions, including one's home.  People feel no guilt whatsoever putting their children in daycare possibly with adults that don't even like them, as long as they can continue to drive the nice car and live in the nice house.  Personally, I have an education but have chosen to let my husband make a worthwhile living, while I stay home and make my family's living 'worthwhile.'  Not everyone has that opportunity, guess I'm lucky.
1114385
Id rather be a wonderful mother and raise my children. Family as well as God comes first. Nothing is more important than those two things. Besides when the kids are out the house and on their own why not be a successful business woman then?
125143
Think about this were do u want this to go.  Long term would u realy wonna take her home to mom, heck would u want her to be the mother of your children.  Short term lucking for some fun, go for it.
896398
I have a Bachelors Degree in Education. But since I've received an education I no longer believe in the whole "women in the work force" movement and have regressed back to the "homemaker" concept. I have chosen not to make any money, let my husband be the provider and stay home with the children. Having a mom at home is more important than money, in my opinion.
1135731
It seems like that through it all you really want to be there for your kids whenever you have children, which is good. I don't really know what I would do if that was the focus for me because both of them have their pros and cons for instance. If you are the fashion designer you can choose to work out of your home and you might even make clothes for your children, but if you did become famous doing that you might have to take time away from your kids to dress someone famous which they would learn to appreciate when they were younger also it is not the most secure job in the entire world. If you were the child psychiatrist you would have to deal with kids problems all day it would be great for being there for your kids but they might resent the fact that you may always give them a doctors opinion on the situation. Which ever one you choose though you will be great at it and as long as your future kids know that they are loved i am sure they will accept whatever it is that you do good luck.
94407
It is definitely OK -- in fact, more than OK. If it works for you and your wife, and you are able to support your family that way, then more power to you! Don't listen to anyone who suggests that this will be harmful to your kids (or future kids, if you don't have them yet), or that it implies you are a lazy man, or that your wife is a soul-less, ambition-driven-only woman. Those ideas are very narrow-minded!\n\nThe thing is that individuals and situations vary greatly. Not all women prefer to do housework over working outside the home. Not all men want to work outside the home. I know several men who are better at domestic duties than I will ever be. I know women who would die of boredom if they are in the home all day, and whose potential is much better put to use in an office or in their careers. \n\nMy husband's dad was a stay-at-home father. At one point, he and my mother-in-law both worked. But when her career really took off, it became much more logical financially for her husband to tend to the house and the kids, instead of earning a lower salary and then paying for someone to help out with the house. This way, a parent was home with the kids, and my husband turned out wonderfully. He never witnessed sexism in the home. He grew up thinking that women and men are equal, he wasn't biased with any stereotypes, and it wasn't until he got to school that he learned that people thought girls were "weaker." In fact he always viewed women as the more powerful and intelligent of the sexes, ha! And, may I say that he is so hard-working and has a great career. His parents are also very happy and still together. They are two of the greatest people you could meet.\n\nI think it takes a very special couple to work out this kind of arrangement -- the man has to be very confident in his masculinity and his choices, and the woman has to be assured in her knowledge that her working outside the home doesn't make her any less of a woman. If this arrangement works for you, I think that's something to be proud of, not ashamed of!
878347
have you thought about working online?\nas a stay at home mom i do and i love it check out http://atafolla.qhealthbeauty.com/Default.aspx then click on opportunity they also rated great with the www.bbb.org \nhope this helps
393442
I have been a stay-at-home mom for over a year, and we are doing better financially than when I was working. Granted, every family would like a "little extra," but she needs to not only look at their expenses now, but the expenses she would accrue going to work, i.e. DAYCARE, gas (especially with the current pricing), changes in auto insurance (going from personal use), food and clothing allowances for work, and a few others. If she wants to sit down and add all of their current expenses and compare to those extras, she might just consider cutting back. If she needs solutions on cutting back, have her e-mail me. I have done it!
110353
From what you have said, I would say no.  If he can support your family adequately, then it's great that he wants you to spend time with your children.  There's nothing wrong with raising a family without having a career.  Most women think that this is the only way to have a family.  Really women who have the career as well as the family are similar to Wonder Woman.\n\nHowever, if you see other signs of controlling behavior than you may want to look at this a bit closer.  We don't know all of the details, so if he shows signs of other weird controlling behaviors than look into it.
251609
Good Lord No way!!!!  My poor hubby works 12 hour days as well as Saturdays.  He comes home so tired and worn out but he still makes time for me and our son.  Sundays he spends mowing lawns, and weeding, and working on our vehicles.  My poor man goes thru torture every day just so I can be a stay at home mom!  If I did switch places it would be so he could stay home for a day and relax on the couch watching Dr.Phil!!!!  He deserves it!  I would not want to have his day!!!!
341099
I would say yes, in an ideal world.  However, because there are parents who cannot take care of their own children;they are forced to work more than 10 hours a week to provide for themselves, if not for a family.
554464
yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.
45568
It is not against God to do such a thing. However, it is NOT the best thing for your children. It is appointed to the parent to train up a child in how they should live, not someone else.\n\nIf you are having financial troubles, make sure you are tithing out of obediance and ask God to take up the slack of the finances for you to stay home. If God wants you to stay home, He will provide.
223774
I'm 28 and just became a mom - my goals haved changed a bit - but I'm more motivated - I want to run my own bussiness selling baby items that I make - and I plan to write children's books and get back into singing and writing songs - I also have a ton of ideas for some inventions I'd like to get out there- I've been sort of a slacker and party-er in my twenties - now its time to get serious - I have a daughter, a step-son and Fiance' to think about - I want us to be able to live life to the fullest and that's exactly what I'm going to do -I dont want to have to struggle like my folks had to from time to time and niether does my Fiance'- I know my family (not just me ) will be a success. And I plan on becoming the most amazing ,loving and fun mommy ever
191547
my heart is with you!!! i LOVE being stay-at-home mom, nothing can bring more joy in my life and it IS work. if we don't take finances into consideration i wouldn't even think about working. but sadly money rules. yet i'm still at home and want to stay as long as possible
1004900
of course is better to stay at home, i ve worked all my life and was so tough, thanks God i married a good man and i dont have to work anymore, i stay in the peace of my home with my son and my husband that is a real blessing.