what do you do when you have a man who does any and everthing for you?
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Quality time is a matter of opinion.  It really comes down to what YOU need and what you consider quality time to be.  Sometimes the man in our life feels that he is giving us quality time and doesn't realize that it just isn't what we are needing.  Sometimes it really isn't quality time that we want but quantity time.\n\nMy first love was a wonderful young man.  He was generous, great looking, spiritual, kind to everyone, fun, athletic, everything you could ever want in a man.  When we were together we got along wonderfully, but unfortunately, we were not together very often.  I wanted more of his time.  I wanted him to put me above basketball.  It wasn't just a hobby for him, he was trying to make it his career, so it was very time consuming and important to him.  Unfortunately, this was not what I needed.  We had to let each other go.  Though to some people, I am sure it sounded like a selfish decision, it really wasn't.  We both just couldn't be who we were with each other.  \n\nI cannot suggest whether or not to try to work things out or break things off because every situation is complex and different.  What I can tell you is that it is important to be real with yourself.  Discuss your feelings openly with your man.  Don't be selfish and stingy expecting him to drop everything for you.  Of course, there is a time and a place that you should be number one.  Make sure you give as much to him as he gives to you and then give some more, but make sure that you get what you need as well.  \n\nI know nothing feels worse than not getting the attention that you feel you deserve and that you are craving.  We all need it.  It is not selfish of you to ask for it.  Don't expect him to read your mind.  Make sure you let him know what you need and how much you need and when you would like it if at all possible.  Don't be afraid or shy to be specific.  Sometimes men need things drawn out for them very clearly.  When they know exactly what you need and want, frequently they are happy to oblige.
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then you are not married. he is using you and you are letting him. you are doing everything and he is taking atvantage of what you are letting him take atvatage of. dont let him do this to you, dont give him any money, dont give him any love, dont give him anything. let him work hard like you do. let him cook his own food, let him go out with his friends if he wants.let him do what he wants but change the locks on the door. if he wants to be with his friends then let him live with them.he doesnt help you or be resposible then you dont need him.why would you want to take care of him like he is your kid. he is suppose to be your lover not your kid that you have to take care of, he is suppose to be caring for you, how can he care for you when he isnt home.you dont need himgoodl uck.
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Do what feels good.  Do what your partner responds to favourbaly and dont do what they respond to badly.
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My man spoils me as much as I spoil him. There are so many ways we spoil each other, but the best things he does for me is when he brushes my hair while we watch TV. He knows how much I love that and he will do it just because.\nI usually will give him a massage from head to toe. We have very little time for each other normally, due to our jobs, but we make the most of the time we have!!
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if he is willing to do it FOR you he is willing to do it TO you. \nchances are he will do this if he is your boyfriend (or worse) i would ditch all feelings for him and find another love intrest.\nor, you could talk to him and tell him how you feel and see how he feels about you and go from there. just remember the very top of my post.
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let  him know you are here for him . you believe in him in all his hopes , dreams and everything the touchs. you are always loving him                         *
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Little things truly mean a lot!\n\nWhen your setting next to him, take his hand and massage it.  While watching TV, sit behind him and massage his back, shoulders and neck.  Leave him alone when he wants to be alone.  Bring him his favorite drink when he's relaxing on the deck.  Don't nag him, communicate with him.  Fix his favorite meals at least once a week.  Give him what he wants sexually.  Listen to him when he wants to complain about a co-worker or boss.\n\nYou know him better than anyone.  There's probably other little things that he enjoys that only you know about.  Use that knowledge and it will bring you both closer to each other.
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My husband is very appreciative. He tells me daily how much he loves me. How great of a mom I am and how proud he is of me. He treats me like I am the greatest thing to ever walk this planet. (I don't agree with him) In turn I do the same to him, but he really is the greatest ever!
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Everyday. It's hard not to when you invest that kind of time with someone you truly loved, (still kind of do). I just hope that he is happy now and found whatever it was that he was looking for. It's hard not to wonder "what if", you know? But all you can do is move on and make your life what you want. It made me a much stronger person, and I have to thank him for that.
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He puts your interests, needs and wants far above his own... Even when you're not around him. His thoughts and plans are with you in mind. He makes sure that he won't ever hurt you..
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I submit to my husband,I cook and clean my home. I take care of our kids, I rub his back or feet when asked, He provides for our home,He works  a Lot,We both respect each other,He pays all the Bills
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Do you want to spend your life pleasing him, sacrificing your own wants and needs?  Do you want to be walked all over?  Stand up for yourself, be yourself.  He doesn't accept you for who you are or what you do, someone else will.  Enjoy life the way you want to, don't let someone else shape you into something you are not.  Would you ask him to change three things?  What do you think his response would be?  One sided relationships ALWAYS fail.
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Go tell him that you love him.. and that you will do anything for him!! Not speaking through experience though..
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Stop doing everything for him and give him a taste of what it would be like if you weren't around.  He is using you, wake up!
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I do so much for my love, and its everyday things that cant help be just one. for example: i do his laundry every week, i cook him dinner at least 4 times a week, i take him out to the movies when i have the money, im currently paying off his PSP from layaway, i kiss him goodbye when he goes to work, i keep the house clean for him, i give him my time and undivided attention.\nIn turn he does things for me as well: takes care of my kids on the weekends so i can go to work, works his butt off to feed us and pay the bills, puts the toilet seat down, cooks dinner for me once in a while, bought me a car, takes me out to fancy italian dinners when we have extra money.\nThe point is we both do things to make each other feel good about ourselfs and our relationship and i think that is almost as important as trusting each other.\n\nSad thing is thou there is one thing I wouldnt do for him and that is die for him. my reason for that is because i dont want my childrens lifes ruined by thier delinquent and nonexistant father and it makes me sad that i brought kids into this messed up world.
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do whatever he wants to
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Take it one day at a time.  If he is a good man, he will show you over and over again that he truly is.  Let him in a little at a time.  You'll be just fine.