Why can't my friend see me online on AIM, until I IM her?
544235
Do you have yourself logging on as invisible? And did she actually add you on to her Buddy List as opposed to just appearing on it when you IM her?
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it's impossible for aim to still work if your internet connection doesn't since aim needs the internet to work! try uninstalling the aim program. how are you connected to the internet? try doing a system restore (start, control panel, performance & maintenance, click on system restore on the left side). if that doesn't work, i would try reinstalling your internet software (like the cd-rom that came when you signed up for internet) or call your internet service provider.
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k, what u want to do is keep them on ur list and goto ur strangth list (right click on the name, go to strangh, go to put person on the show me offline to this person) this way u never have to go to the invisible mode.
633533
leave yahoo messenger behind and use AIM. Yahoo has always had problems with me and i have never had one with Aol Instant Messenger (AIM)
618865
you can both have mesanger just not on at the same time.\n\njust download msn once and login depending on who is on the comp you or your sister
437500
What IM service are you using and do you have a firewall?  Did this suddenly start happening?  Important info.  IF you have a firewall program it maybe blocking it.  If you updated or installed a new IM program you may have to reset-up the profile.  Also, if you have a internet filter program (like Cybersitter)it maybe blocking it.  Let us know and we can help further.
5585
You have to have AIM to talk to people with Aol. If your using Yahoo Messenger you cannot chat with your friend. So i recommened you download AIM here www.aim.com
1146818
Make sure the both of you are using the same yahoo. If they are using an older version that could be the problem. Hope that helps.\nAlso look under the help section on yahoo messenger that may have something there.
627985
Are you using AIM Trinton? (The newest version of AIM). If so, first, right click on a buddy, hell, let's use my sn. \nEXAMPLE\n•••BUDDY LIST•••\nX teh pwnerer   <--- right click and select "Edit Buddy"\nYou should be able to type in a first and     last name but you can type in one or the other. For example purposes, you would type "Claire". Then, click "Save". Then, up at the top right hand corner of your buddy list window, click "View" and select "Friendly Names". My name would then show up as "Claire", and yes, it would have the " " surrounding the name.\n\nHope this helps!
656003
you need to have yahoo messenger open\nbut the name that shows here might not be the same
686710
There isnt, unfortunately.  But you can go to your preferences in IM and determine who is allowed to see you when online.
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Hi,\nUse buddy spy to find out who are online.. its applicable only for Yahoo Messenger.\n\nBye,\nCreativity
129004
Most likely the reason is that she is behind a firewall, probably at work, if she can look at her Internet Explorer Proxy settings she may be able to plug that info in Yahoo proxy settings and successfully use messenger.\n\nBut if she cannot see her proxy settings that also maybe a policy applied via the work servers.  \n\nBe nice to one of your support technicians and ask them if its possible to do as there are various solutions just different depending on her senario.\n\nGood luck,
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It depends which one all your friends have.  I hate AIM, but all my friends are on AOL and AIM so I basically have no choice.  If I signed on to another instant messenger, I would have nobody to talk to!  So yeah, choose the one all your friends have so you can have people to talk to.
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This happens to me as well, and I hate it because I want to play games, NOT CHAT!\n\nSo whenever I play, I have Yahoo IM open, but remain invisible. \nIn Messenger, click on "Preferences", and select "Privacy". Uncheck the "Allow Yahoo web sites to show when I'm online."
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Don't let Yahoo hear me say this.......but, if it is working on MSN and AIM and not yahoo, maybe its not your cam but yahoo. (*bites her tongue*) Have your friend download MSN to talk to you there instead. Kapeshe? ;)
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Umm, hard to tell. Anything could be going on. She is perhaps *already* talking to someone and doesn't wanna be distracted (that happens with me sometimes...coz I can handle only one person at a time) but at the same time, she doesn't wanna say "Oh I am sorry, I can't talk now" (coz, lotsa people get a bit offended or hurt if you tell them u r talking to someone else and u cant talk with them), so she feels bad and perhaps e-mails you. \n\nOr it is possible she has just been too occupied with other things, even if she is online on msn. \n\nOr, ofcourse, she *could* be avoiding you, but, surely, she doesn't wanna hurt u and is being nice by e-mailing you. \n\nAsk her when u and her can chat next. \nIf she seems to be continually avoiding you, then perhaps she isn't too keen on the friendship or anything more..