what do you do if your husband hides things from you and lies constantly?
552851
I would first confront him with it and then tell her I knew about the affair just to see what she would have to say about it. Trust is an important part of a marriage so if you don't have that you need to think about what you want out of life...............
343054
I don't think you can hide something without conciously knowing you hid it. I suppose you could forget something, but then it probably wouldn't be 'in your eyes' as he put it. If you truly aren't hiding anything, but he thinks you are, then the problem isn't you, it's him. He's got a trust issue that you two need to talk out. Whether it becomes a huge issue or not is up to you two. As for why someone would hide something...sometimes it's because they hope something will just go away, or they're really afraid it would end the relationship. But again, if there is nothing you are hiding, then you need to sit him down, remind him of how you feel about him, and assure him that you are hiding nothing. If he can't accept that, then it's going to put a strain on the relationship. Ask him why he thinks it past the look in your eyes, and if there's anything he's unsure about, worried about or experienced in the past that would make him think it. If you love him, and he loves you, then you'll work through it. Just go in knowing there's nothing hidden, and positive that you'll smooth over a minor wrinkle.
173628
Well Sandra either it is your husband or your boyfriend? which is it? By all means tell him and get it out in the open. he will find out sooner or later im sure from someone and then you will be in deep shit. So tell him and blame him for leaving you alone if you want maybe that will help his attitude when he hears what you did.
456531
Unfortunately, I don't think you can stop him.  My wife has bi-polar mood disorder and when she is at her worst she will lie beyond belief.  When confronted she sticks to the story and demands proof.  Even when confronted with the facts and proof she either sticks to her story or tries to twist the facts to fit her situation.\n\nAs I said, I know she has a mental condition and I understand sometimes that affects it.  However, I have found out that very fortuantely we can't do much about liers.  Instead, either learn to live with it, work around it, or move on.
263393
-He lies about where he's been\n-Leaving the room when he's on the phone\n-Strange people calling \nwhen you know the person is cheating and you have some proof that the person has lied, confront them by saying that someone you know saw them with another person at whatever loctaion you are aware of it happening, when they deny it pick up the phone call the time and temp number and pretend to have a conversation with somone about what they saw. It works with almost any lie as long as the person is the type to get defensive and angry  they will want to know who told you.
1019958
have you ever considered putting a tape recorder in his vehicle underneath the seat, i mean we all talk on our cell phones when we are on our way to and from work right, what about following him, there are ways for you to find out trust me, you just need to be smart and opened minded and think of things, when he tells you he going somewhere follow him after he leaves, start asking questions about everything, check his email, his wallet, his call log in his cell phone, sonner or later like useal the truth will reveal itself no matter what, I do think if he was cheating you would have all the signs already and just simply have this unbarable gut feeling inside of you, if you feel that then he is, of course you will feel the distance, his lying, his comeing home late, him turning off the cell phone, all the normal things, if your really worried about hire a private investgator that way he can be on you side if you should have to ever file for divorce or for custdoy becuase these days whoever is the cheater and they can prove he cheated the women gets everything from him, childsupport, alimony, he may even have to continue to par your car insureance and your health insurance i know this for sure, good luck and i hope you find everythihng that you looking for, just prepare yourself for the worse as it may really break your heart to find the truth
891528
well coming from a man, im not saying he isnt lying, but usually when we lie its so we dont hurt the person we love, or because  our spouse will kick our ass!  we're made from a different cloth, some smooth some rough,but you have to take the good with the bad. sounds like he needs to grow up a little though.
99302
In all honesty, if he planned to stop, i'd tell you to keep it a secret because you could ruin their marriage...but since he's gunna keep doing it, you have to come clean to his wife.  He's being disrespectful to her and he's being an idiot.  If he loved her, he wouldn't need anyone else and he's probably not even worth being with her...tell her the truth and let them sort it out
1153372
By this point it sound pathalogical, he lies without even thinking about it and if it goes on much longer he could even beging to believe his lies. It will take time to correct this problem but with the right help you and him should be able to make it through it.
559354
You are not responsible for his emotional state, and it is not fair on you to stay with him to protect his feelings.  Besides, lying makes it much worse for him, because lying usually comes out in the end.\n\nHard as it may be, honesty has to be the only way forward.  It will hurt him, and he may have a nervous breakdown, but you can't put your life on hold for him.  He is the only one who can get himself help if he needs it.  You are not his mother - you are his girlfriend.  If you need to get out of the relationship, do so.
839499
I think you already know what you have to do.  You have to confront him.  It's scary because he might admit to cheating, but then you will know what needs to be fixed.  If you don't talk to him this will eat away at you and your marriage, and worst of all that will affect your kids.  Don't mention the evidence at first.  Just ask him if he has been cheating.  Then if he denies cheating, bring up the things you found.  This will leave him no time to think abou the answer.\n\nOn a personal note:  I wish you the best of luck.  I hope he isn't cheating, for everyone's sake.
194326
The usual signs: avoiding you, acting suspicious, being secretive, lieing.  Ask your mte about it.  He will probably want to come claen with you.  My husband always does.  He is relieved after i find out.
470217
he is cheating on you but may be even he is not willing  to accept it somewhere in his heart.\nhe might have felt rejected by you and is now using these ways you take  revenge of that rejection.\none thing is certain that he do not want to loose you and thats why on being cought he is trying to cover it up.\nhave passions but be careful, \nmake it clear to him that you are not going to tolerate it anyfurther. get rid of computer or make sure that you r there when he is working on it... \ntackle the situation in a balanced way, \nlisten to him and show him that you care ...\nprovide him security and ask for the same in return\nbe with him  as your child needs both of you...\nmay you get your lost love again...\nmay god bless both of you.\nforgat it as a bad dream. forever...
614928
if you tell him it will probably cause him to mistrust you. funny thing, if his wife's a good liar he's GOING to believe her. YOU NEED PROOF: something so good that she can't lie her way out. if there are kids involved he will keep the best part of his family in the divorce.  family looks out for one another, it's your duty to find the proof
867706
I've just been through a similar situation, leave leave leave.  I found out that not only was my husband doing the on-line thing, that he cheated on me before we were even married.  You have found out that he lied to you, then you can never believe him again.  If you do stay it will be a long hard road to happiness let me tell you.  Hes playing you for a fool if you believe his pathetic lies.  My husband was chatting on-line and talking to one women on the phone (he fessed up that he's known her for 10 years for god sake, didn't think to share that little bit of information did he) in our home while I was there!!! Incredably my husband didn't even think this was an issue - its called having an emotional affair - its still an affair just not physical but its still a violation of your marriage vows and that shows he isn't committed to you what so ever
566785
That can add up to a lot in one month. If he is hiding or even lying about anything he is wrong. There should be no secrets between you and him. If he does this about gambling just think if there is anything else he is hiding or isn't telling you. You need to nip this in the bud as soon as possible. If you all can afford for him to do that then let him do it. If you can't afford for him to do that then let him know he needs to stop. That money could be used elsewhere especially if you all have children. Communication is best here. Good Luck!
130569
If he cheated on you, get the locks changed and get a restraining order.\n\nIf he just needed some time/space you need to sit down for a good talk. All men have to flee for space now and then. Sucks, but we're just not as together as women are when it comes to being compressed into family life and relationships.