My fiancee is self conscious!?
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Just keep telling him how happy you are with him, and how good he makes you feel.\nI bet that he had an ex in his life that actually otld him it was small, so he is looking for someone to help biuld his self esteem again. \nIf you make a lot of noise during s-x that might help him too; so he is actually making you feel GREAT.
161996
Give her an extra unexpected compliment. I believe some of the best compliments come from a look, a touch, or even a naughty smile when she has on less clothes and may feel less pretty. Men lose weight faster then women anyway so the both of you should find something she can do that may help speed up her weight loss. Be supportive, but let her know how you feel and that you are in this together, it's not a race and in the end you both will be winners. At this point you are starting to look different and she may not be at that point yet. It's hard for the both you, talk and try to make things eaiser.
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TELL HIM NOT TO PANIC.ASSURE HIM THAT TODAY IT CAN BE SEXY TO BE BALD! MEN WITH SHAVED HEADS LOOK A LITTLE EDGIER- IT'S A TURN ON. LOOK AT MICHAEL JORDAN, BRUCE WILLIS, ED HARRIS, PATRICK STEWART AND SEAN CONNERY. THEIR ALL SYMBOLS OF VIRILITY. IT'S IMPORTANT FOR HIM TO UNDERSTAND HIS HAIR LOSS DOESN'T DEFINE WHO HE IS AS A PERSON. REMIND HIM OF HIS GREAT ATTRIBUTES. LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE AND EMBRACE HIM, HAIR OR NO HAIR. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY TELL HIM THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS SEE HIM WITH THE EYES THAT MADE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM.
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Are you noticing a pattern here? All the people answering this question are women!\n\nI especially like the one who says…”Why do you care? If you love your wife and enjoy her pants area, don’t worry about it.”\n\nThe reason he cares is because he didn’t sign up to be married to some bovine beast in a sack dress. Do you really think he is “enjoying her pants area” if she has eaten her self to the size of the Goodyear blimp? \n\nWhy shouldn’t this hag make the effort to be at the same weight she was when she got married? Why do women think that once they snag some poor slob they can just start pounding ice cream down their gullet, slathering their meals with gravy, and dress in nothing but moo-moos? There is a reason that hideous sack is called a moo-moo ya know….it’s because it’s the same sound a cow makes!\n\nA couple of people pointed out that black has a “slimming effect". NONSENSE! The only thing that has a slimming effect is pushing your self away from the dinner table before you’ve stuffed your gut to the breaking point.\n\nBottom line here pal, if your wife is asking you if she looks fat, THEN SHE IS FAT!  And the next time she asks you if something she is wearing makes her look fat, tell her to shut her festering pie hole and get on the treadmill!
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I dont think that sounds normal no! I am very shy person ex. they had to cut my underwear off to give birth to my daughter. lol (i can see the funny side of it now)\n\nMy first relationship was physically, emotionally and mentally abusive. I still have bad memories of that! It still affects me even till today! ex if someone walks towards me and moves suddenly I cringe!\n\nI have another partner now who is wonderful. Hes been my best friend for years. I am not use to being treated like a queen. He showers me with gifts and tells me a hundred times a day he loves me. At first I was embarassed and didnt know what to answer him. He perservered! Now I am proud and have no problem in telling him I love him in front of anyone! My friends wish they had him for a partner because hes such a beautiful person. They actually envy me! lol\n\nThis woman is your wife! Did she have trouble saying yes I love you (I do) in the wedding ceremony?? I think not. Obviously because yous are married!\n\nI seriously think she has no excuse for this other than maybe some of her so called friends are male and dont know about you ;) or that her feelings for you might not be as genuine and she tells you at home to shut you up. Sorry this might not be something you want to hear!\n\nI think your best bet is to ask her straight out and ask her to promise you to be totally honest with you!\n\nGood Luck with everything!
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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You are placing too much importance on it. You make ME feel uncomfortable about it, and I'm a guy.\n\nObviously, you need a refresher course in 'No'. \n\nMaybe you need to be more slow, gradual, and patient. You can cause tremendous discomfort if you don't do it right, and stop chewing on her like a cheeseburger !!!\n\nor maybe she is afraid she might pee....\nso, stop assuming.
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Your spouse isn't paying you enough attention!
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The first time I shaved was because my bf likes it that way, and now I keep It that way all the time because I feel so much cleaner that way! I don't see why your gf wont tell you why though.. There should be no reason to be embarrassed about it.
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Excuse me!!!!!!!!!! I know that you are concerned about her and you want her to be healthy and look better, but IT'S HER BODY!!!!!!!! not yours.  If she's not asking for your advice, leave her alone!!!!!!
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My sweetheart is in the same shoes but since i met him that way and began dating him that way I have accepted it but YES, it is the good thing to do to try and help the ones you love.  HOWEVER, overweight people are extremely sensitive about their weight and are very conscious indeed.  They are sensitive to people's piercing stares and inconsiderate comments.  Before you say anything, you must be aware of this sensitivity and DO NOT USE THE WORD FAT.  Try starting the conversation like "name of friend here, you have been a great friend to me and i really care about you.  I hope i have you in my life as a friend for a long time.  There is something that I am concerned about and wanted to talk with you about it though.  I noticed that you've put on some weight since college started...is everything ok...I think you are a beautiful person just the way you are and this has NOTHING TO DO with your LOOKS, but I am worried about your HEALTH.  I just want us to be friends for a long time to come.....is there anything I can do to help you?..."  Be supportive of her and let her know you are just trying o help.
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Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
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The more comfortable your woman is w/ you the more apt she will be to try new things.  I used to be very modest in the bedroom until I met my boyfriend. Women tend to be modest b/c they are afraid of what men will think.  Chances are...you girlfriend does want to try new things.  But it is your job to make her feel at ease. Also talk about it.  How will your woman ever know if you dont tell her what you want.  We are not mind readers :)
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She may be depressed, so consider that possibility when you approach her about your concerns.  Realize that she may have resentment about the situation, too, since you're so busy with your current professional burdens.  It doesn't fit the dreams of newlywed bliss she may have had, which actually happens for many women in today's society.  Make it clear beyond a doubt that your love is truly unconditional.  It sounds as if you two chose a difficult time in your lives to get married; but there are no "do-overs" in life, so what to do now?\n\nRemind her that the certification process will be over at some point by talking about the positive effect it will have on your life (e.g. higher income, new job [maybe closer to home]).  Help keep her aware that you are doing what you do for your future TOGETHER.  Also, talk about things you'll be able to do with the time you'll have when you've completed the certification.  Try to use "us" and "we" more than "I" and "me" in your statements.  \n\nIf she's not happy about her weight gain, she probably isn't feeling very "sexy" and may be too self-conscious about it.  If you don't mind it, maybe say that you like her "curves" that it makes her more womanly.  Be flirtatious -- foreplay happens all day for women, because it's about feeling confident and desirable, as well as safe and comfortable.  So make sure she knows you still want her.\n\nWith the little free time you have, try doing physical activities like hiking or riding bikes.  Of course that will depend on what you both like to do and where you live, but you get the idea.  Since you are both cooking together, maybe suggest healthier meal selections.  Maybe there's a place on your way home from work where you could run in and grab some fresh veggies.  If she's a full-time student, she should have access to the gym facilities on campus - encourage her to spend some of her alone time there.  Or maybe she could get a part-time job or do some volunteer work to help improve her sense of self-confidence.  \n\nMarriage really is a commitment, and yours is already being tested.  Hang in there, and keep your priorities straight.
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if he's yr fiance you should be able to talk to him about it...Has it always happened, if it itches or does he still feel like he has to pee after he's done peeing? Talk about it... and humans can contract things from years ago and they just don't feel it's THAT bothersome so they live with it and it can become "Normal" for them.  But you need to have it checked out for both of you... You want to be healthy and you want yr man to be healthy!  No blaming, no accusing (like some of the responses  your gonna get)
201299
quite honestly, i think that is very difficult to do.  if you stop and think about the problem though, i think you'll discover it is because she has a lack of confidence in herself and doesn't want to appear "stupid" in front on someone else.  \n\nbest advice i have:  reinforce her confidence
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from your question you have obviously already decided that you are going to give your fiance an utimatum.  talk to your fiance about her feelings about this - and grow up a bit mate