My ex-wife is seeing my next door neighbor...what can i do?
536498
It's out of your hands, she is no longer with you.\n\nDon't dwell on the past as it only sets limitations for your future.
118931
Send her a certified letter about your intentions of picking up the kids. Actually show up at the designated time and have a witness.  Bring your written visitation decree along with you and notify the local sheriff's office of your intention to enforce the divorce decree.  Keep a written book of all of your attempts to visit your kids. If you find her new phone number, record all future calls.  Gather your child support receipts in a shoe box if you don't pay through the Court.  File contempt of court charges.  If you can't afford a lawyer, be willing to represent yourself in court.I spent $40,000 to get visitation for my husband.  I was the new wife and I kept good records and tape recordings and if I had to do it again, I would have represented him myself.  After 2 years he won visitation and it was very complicated...Don't stop paying child support and read the Book of Psalms in the Bible....
355985
I'm sure leaving her alone isn't the answer you're looking to get, but continue to be her friend, and if she wants to talk, be there to listen to her. I wouldn't push the issue any further regarding her getting divorced, or the two of you getting together. Just hang in there and see how things progress on things going on in her life.
293039
First of all, when you DO see each other, make sure that any "feelings of attachment" are clearly communicated.  For example, if you are still friends and wish to remain "friends," set the boundaries straight.  As long as both of you have a clear understanding that the friendship can grow in spite of the divorce, then seeing your ex-husband should not pose a dilemma.  Sometimes ex-lovers make the greatest friends!  I should know, I'm still in communications with my ex-boyfriend who recently got married.  Although I couldn't make it to the wedding, he still considered me as one of his friends by sending me an invite.
778090
sound like the twin of my ex mother in law. I am assuming her hubby isn't around to torture anymore. Hubby feels like she is protecting his interest. He needs to be reminded of who his interests really are. Ultimatum time. Don't let this unhappy person get you down to her level, where she will be more comfortable with you. Move away. Find her a Hobie, like "find your way home"
812236
Id like to say good luck and that it will.......BUT....you need to remember that you dont know what things are like on the otherside of the fence.....how is it possible that everything is her fault.....i dont honestly think it is, there surely must be reasons why she has moved out on him so many times.....i think you should ask to meet his wife, to understand all aspects of the relationship.....if not for anything, but your peice of mind to know, that things are really as he says.....
613185
That is pretty tough to deal with.  I had something similar when I dated a neighbor for a time.  The best thing to do is try to move on.  Get out there and meet some new people.  The worst thing you can do is dwell on the ended relationship, it will only make you feel like crap.
356110
How do you know who the person is?  If your neighbor is sure about who it is, go to the cops again and INSIST for some action.  I'm not sure who you'd go to after that but maybe you could ask your state assemblyperson to help you (tell you where to go next).  You'd be suprised how helpful these people are.
807174
Seems a little strange that you would post that. Agree with first answer seems like more than a question.  Did you just want to tell the world that she lives with a 39 year old...well you just did.  Hope if she finds out that the 39 year old is not an attorney or knows one because this could constitute harassment. Just a little friendly advice.
1036991
Go over to her house with a box so you can get your stuff...\nShe'll get the idea that its over from that. \n\nIf you get froggy you can tell her that you know about the other guy before you walk out of the house...  and don't turn back.
945268
sit down with your girl friend and explain that your ex wife has realized that she still has feelings for you although you do not have feelings for her any longer... explain that you do not want to cause your exwife any more pain than she has all ready caused herself... tell her that you would respect her feelings in the same situation... ask her to be patient for a while longer\n\nyour girl friend is probably still very unsure of herself in this relationship even though you co habitate... do your best to re assure her of your affections\n\nif this problem persists you might also try sitting down with your ex wife and explaining that your girl friend is not happy with the situation and ask her if she will consent to one meeting... for a few minutes only\n\nyou are being pulled in two different directions by the women in your life... you seem to be handling the situation well...  trying to be considerate of both women's feelings... in this case one of your ladies will have to give... or you will have to take matters into your own hands and force one of them to back down... but be very careful if you choose to do that... you may cause hard feelings in someone
758438
I understand you have a connection with her kids, but sorry guy your wasting your time.  She keeps coming back to you even though she walks all over you...she knows you will be there and relies on you to be there.  You need to put your foot down and tell her you are not her doormat_
526708
Girlfriend you are a true Christian, but come on. You are going to have to confront her and let her know that she really needs to increase her circle of friends. It is commendable that you open your heart and home for your husband's ex, for the sake of your step daughter but you have to set some boundaries...because she is totally taking advantage of you. I would take her aside and  tell her Enough is Enough! You would rather her take the responsibility of dealing with the child as a parent. While you want to be there for the child you are in essence enabling this woman to pawn of the reality of her personal responsibility off to you. She obviously knows not to engage your husband so she gets in any way she can.  Think about it.
378481
Couple of really good answers here.  So nice to see an intelligent question with intelligent answers.  \n\nOnly one thing to add: restraining order.\n\nPerhaps you don't want to involve the police - after all, that does tend to elevate the situation some and depending on how long you and your neighbors have to live with one another, that might not be a good thing.  Here's what I would recommend:\n\nTalk to your neighbors again.  Explain to them that you really don't want to involve the police and that you'd like to be able to live in peace next to them.  Explain that if they can't keep the stereo at a reasonable level (and you ARE being reasonable about this, aren't you?), you'll seek a restraining order against them for disturbing you with the noise.\n\nIf they refuse to cooperate, get yourself tape recorder and put it on your porch or wherever you might stand that's close to your house.  Don't go stand at the edge of your property that borders them, put the recorder right up close to your house, by a window or something.  Yes, you can legally record this.\n\nAssuming the noise continues, keep a diary for a week or so with the dates/times of the noise and associate each diary entry with a recording (separate tapes, or whatever).  Now it's off to your local county courthouse.  Pick up the paperwork for a temporary restraining order for civil harrassment.  Fill it out, turn it in, go to the hearing when it's scheduled.  Bring the recordings and be prepared to play them for the judge.  \n\nAssuming the order is issued, have the neighbors served (you can't do it).  Then, if the noise continues, go back to the recording system and after another week or so, get yourself back down to the courthouse and tell the clerk you want to be put on calendar because the neighbors have been violating the order.  Show up, tell the judge what is going on, and let him decide how to handle it.  Judges do not like people who disobey their orders.\n\nThis is not a quick fix.  It may take you a month to get any satisfaction.  It will leave the police out of it, though, and that really might be best.  If you want a quick fix, do this:\n\nGo back to the neighbors.  Tell them you've had it, and the next time you hear their stereo you're going to call the cops (safest is to make sure everyone who lives there knows your position and intent).  The next time the stereo is too loud, record it and call the cops.  When the cops show up, tell them you want to make a private person's arrest of the person responsible for the noise...assuming it's the same person you told to knock it off.  They will probably end up with a ticket at that point, and the officer will refer the whole matter to the DA's office.  If the DA does not choose to prosecute (and that decision can take months), you're dead in the water.  The quick fix part of this is only that they've probably been cited.  The rest of this may take months.  This is why I recommend the restraining order process.  \n\nMost importantly: I've handled more of these calls than I can count.  Sometimes, the "victim" just isn't being reasonable over the level of noise.  If you have neighbors, you have to expect some amount of noise.  The law says people can't, "maliciously and willfully disturbs another person by loud and unreasonable noise," so the noise you're complaining about has to be loud *and* unreasonable.\n\n"Unreasonableness" is always open to interpretation.  \n\nGood luck.
141135
Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
451228
Just press charges against her.  Have her arrested.  and Maybe see a divorce lawyer if you don't see no future with her
42052
ask someone else who has a business next door...