my love life is messed up.why does it have to be this way?
545326
Hey,\nI've been in this situation b4. The best thing to do is to give yourself some breathing space . Take your mind of this. Try to relax and distract yourself. If you feel that strongly bout your ex, the best thing to do - confess it 2 him. Maybe he feels the same way. Maybe he's just not wearing his feelings. Always b optimistic. The glass is half full........... Frm wat i have read u r  strongly in love with this guy.........express it! Best of luck
118233
your behavior seems very irresponsible.  look at yourself.  take responsibility for yourself, your feelings, your actions.  Learn from your mistakes in this relationship
1094098
Hmmm most people change for the better, but, with your love sickness its not doing you any good.  \n\nLet her know your intentions and get it over with. Either she will like you or reject you.  \n\nIf sh does like you, then your in, if not, get over it, because its ruining you life...\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
295559
Well you need to consider, is your love worth maybe having to clean up after him all the time.  Also, if he is not willing to change on small things, what happens when bigger issues come around.  You either have to decide to stick it out or cut your losses.
705799
FWB is a curse. Your unhappiness is a result of not being true to yourself.  Your heart tells you it was a loving relationship, but you played like it was a convenience relationship. I hope you learn from your pain, and gain an appreciation for fundamentals in human loyalty. Demand it, and give it in return. Love can come back, but only after you change your expectations.
726093
You sound like a smart, caring, compassionate woman.  You're in love!  Savor it!  Your friends are probably not saying anything because they respect what's going on.  In time, you'll be calling them to set up social time again - but right now - you're enjoying being in love - and spending time with that special person. \n\nThe fact that you're aware that it's going on - and asking if it's wrong says a lot about you.  You know that balance is important.  Maybe you should start to consciously make a little more time for your friends now.  Don't shut them out.  Love is grand - but friends are a VERY important part of your life too!
1073259
If a relationship is not making you happy you need to throw it out of yur life. Things always dont work out on your terms. But then you dont always have to suffer. This guy is doing you no good. Get a life move on.
877499
Yes It was incredibly hard. If you know that it is bad deep down, you'll never be happy.It takes time but when you meet the person you were meant to be with it will all be worthwhile. Break it off, find yourself and embrace your future
29288
I dont want to burst your bubble But none can really answer this Question for you.\nPeople Claim to have all the answers to life and your problems. They Dont. The only One who really knows about this is yourself.\nMost people try to hard to find someone to love and live with but you need to understand love will happen when it happens. It will happen maybe not today but it will.\nIf you go out and look for someone Like your a dog in heat sitting in the corner of the bar you will not find her there. You need to be yourself and the right person will see you and like you for yourself.\nI see so many people that worry about this that they forget to live. they wake up get dressed and try to look like a million bucks. and for what? Be yourself Love will find you.\nRemember this also you CANT make someone love you. They will or wont Though you can make someone think they love you but it wont work in the end. \nBe yourself dont say to your self this lady is a nice person but she does not like this and that so im gonna change everything I do. Let her love you for who you are.
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i don't know what to tell you...this is a touchy situation...i understand the situation you are in because i have experienced similiar things....it's hard when you love someone and they act like that...you know deep down in your heart that sometimes it's best to go on with your life without this person and never look back....but it's so much easier to say then do.. you have to just take one day at a time and look at things and ask yourself...Is this what I want to go through for the rest of my life?  Weigh your options...look at the advantages of your relationship with him compared to the disadvantages of it...this is something nobody can tell you what to do...you have to not only follow your heart on this one but you have to consider what your mind says too...
202821
Your friends are right.  You need to break this cycle and stop living your life waiting for something that may never happen.  You deserve a man who will choose you first over all other girls and not one that can't make up his mind and picks you only when it is convenient.  This guy is just playing you and keeping you around for when his other relationship has problems.
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That's a pretty messed up person u're talking about...u're obviously so in love with him...u need to decide to stop loving him...and getting on to better people who deserve that kind of love..\n\ndo not assume u know what he wants deep down...plus u being available to him now...will make him want to go back to u less...if what u r saying is true u need to be unavailable so that he has to break up with her to b with u again...and try to relate what's going on with the reason he broke up w/u in the 1st place
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If this guy was playing with you, why would you want to live like that.   You are a beautiful person, don't let someone bring you down and try to mess you up.  He's probably really screwed up and don't know how to treat people and "Misery Loves Company"\nLet him go and get on with your life.  You will find someone else in time who will treat you the way you should be treated.  God Bless
278706
I don't think you are cold hearted.  I don't think you have met the right one yet, and who knows you may not.  If you love someone, there should be some lust mixed in with it. I mean how can you live with someone for the rest of your life and not want them?  I don't think you are ready to settle down yet, you have your whole life in front of you, don't rush things and to tell you the truth, there is no "norm."  Just have fun, stay safe, and be careful.
523071
It sounds like you are there.  It's called tough love for a reason.  Sometimes people just need to hit bottom, and hit the bottom bottom of that bottom before they really truly get it.\n\nYou tried.  I hope you find peace with your decision, you need to take care of you.
368455
what a tragic story! you should just leave them be if they seem so happy. if i were you, i would try and be happy for her. you can't force a guy to fall in love with you, it's almost impossible. try writing a letter to him about how you feel [don't send it of course], i guarentee it'll help ! you aren't being punished and beaten up everytime you turn around, life is just pieces of a huge puzzle and you've just placed the wrong piece in the wrong place. take it out and look for a place where it fits =]
314214
We were just born at different times and different places that kept us apart.  Everything you described about yourself is qualities that I find very attractive.  I like someone who is open minded and opininated and independent.  You have awesome qualities.  When you are opininated that means you believe in what you are saying.  I have restored my own house and totally independent and can fix pretty much anything.  I cannot find the right girl to save my life.  Most girls are so boring it kills my spirit.  There are guys out there who would love a girl like you.  I think you need to move out of the city you live in and start fresh.  I think your life would change for the better in no time.  On the inadequacy and shame, see a therapist, they can get those things out of you.  We were all wounded in some way as children.  You have to go back in and reopen the wounds and let them heal correctly, otherwise they will fester for a long long time.