how to come out to family??
540848
Strike up a conversation about someone who is gay and see what their stance is. Then tell them if it isn't too terrible.
1004898
just tell her the wuts up tell her that ur not gay and that she is ur sister in law and u dont want to be an imbred
835336
I think if it were me, I'd open a Word document and start writing. When I had it all down the way I wanted, I'd then hand-write a letter to my sisters.  \n\nYou say your oldest sister has always been nice to you, so she'll probably understand why you've been out of touch and how scary this is for you. Hopefully your other siblings will as well. \n\n\nI hope that you're getting some support from a group that is LGBT-friendly and a counselor who is familiar with the process of coming out.
906174
Oh, my...That's tough.  I knew I was queer when I was 11, though, didn't have language for it yet.  I came out when I was 17, but I have a pretty easy family.  If you think that your families are going to completely flip, be careful but get support outside your home.  Do everything you can to get reassurance that your love for each other is a good thing. It might be helpful to find a queer youth organization in your community so you can find others to talk with.  There are a lot of folks in similar situations.\n\nGood luck...And ignore the person who said you're not old enough to know if you're gay.  Homophobic baloney.  They never tell heterosexual teens that they're too young to know they're straight.  ;-)
298460
Telling someone that you're gay can really help a lot, just because you don't have to carry around your secret all by yourself anymore. Probably the best person to tell that you're gay is a female friend, since they will likely have less problems with it than a male friend. If you're gay, chances are that you'll have more girl friends than guy friends. However, pick carefully! Don't tell it to someone that you've had a fight with recently or that you're not totally comfortable with them knowing. Think about whether this person could use the information to get back at you for something. It's your choice and depends on your family, but maybe you want to tell your parents. However, if you think that they'd react badly and still depend on them, give this some thought. Parents can react better or worse than you'd imagine. Another option might be a sister, if you have one. Be very careful before telling people at work or school. And before telling anyone, ask yourself: a) Is this person a religious fanatic who would be violently opposed to gays and set me on fire with kerosene? (If so, not a good choice) b) Would this person use me as their 'gay friend' to go shopping and get fashion advice? (If so, and this might be surprising, also not a good choice. You need a friend that will love you for you, not for your gayness). The people you tell should be people that will just say 'okay' and you can move on with your lives and you can feel better about it.
817958
That is his decision.  Support him, respect him, and let him still be a father to his kids.  Easier said than done..but it was not probably easy for him to come out because he knew that he would hurt people in the process.  Just try to be there and be understanding and keep the communication open.
312875
there is no easy way to tell them. If you know for sure that your parents will accept that you're bi, then it should be a problem telling them. They probably already know and just waiting on you to say something.
281001
whoever is closest too you and mean the most to you tell them first......bear in mind go gentle when you tell them...as when you do they will never ever forget that time and day.......but you need to tell those you love at least first........it will be easier for you too. and you can also talk it over with loved ones too. \ngoodluck, \nmay god be with you,\njp
982201
Hey fella I'm speaking from experience if i were you i would leave it a bit longer don't be to hasty by the way your describing your dad i think he may well suspect but don't confirm those insecurities hes got, not yet anyway dont feel pressured to come out (it took me till i was 22 to do it and that was only with a liter bottle of vodka in me ) but when you feel you are ready then maybe have a friend with you when you break the news (this is what i done) as moral support you might find like me that no-one in the family bats an eyelid at your earth-shattering news I hope this is the case for you as it was for me I'm in the UK by the way so attitudes may be diffrent than the USA but please don't do what i done and tear yourself apart about it most of all don't live a lie it only brings heartache and anguish be true to yourself and you will know when the time is right to come out maybe get yourself settled in a steady relationship first (which is what i done) and if your dad reacts the way you think he will you have always got your fella to fall back on for moral support and strength hope this helps and i hope things work out for you good luck Steve
481760
just come out and tell him
748346
When I came out it was very difficult but only because I was afraid that I wouldn't be accepted anymore. \nBut that all changed. I first sat my mother down and explained it to her and waited for her reaction. She hugged me and kissed my cheek and said "Whatever makes you happy, makes me happy." \n\nAlthough I don't really care what other people have to say to me - my family is a major part in my life and I just wanted to know that they were behind me with my choices. They love my current girlfriend and are happy that I have never been happier in life! \n\n\nAfter having my mothers approval, I went on and told the rest of the family and got the same reaction from all of them.
560121
Well, this thing is sensitive. Since you want to start out clean with your family. Start it slow . Step by step. First you sit with yur most confidential member. This will make it easier. Try bringing it up by mentioning life and guys and how some guys like you. Try to come closer and closer by mentionioning your classmates, colleagues, etc. and say that ur friends go out with boy. Ask them why they hate the idea and try to convince them of your point of view without getting into a fight. Since my dad is close to me I have no problem (i'm a girl) but try and I hope you succeed.
313359
Friends aren't too hard - you just mentally prepare yourself for the possibility that they may reject you.  Family is harder.  Make sure you're all financially set and have a place to stay and everything if they reject you...and make sure you're emotionally prepared for that possibility.  Then you just tell them.  You might want to have some support information to hand them if they stick around but don't take it too well - like the number to PFLAG or a book on how family and friends can cope with their loved one's choice.
582670
Wait until the time FEELs right. I think you are still exploring. Nothing wrong with finding out who you are before announcing it to the world. or your parents. you will feel more natural in it as you delve into it and your emotions. maybe try living on your own first and making your own life, then telling her will seem more safe?
792349
Well, chances are that most people who love you already know, you just haven't confirmed it yet.  Stay calm and think good thoughts.  Being gay is not terrible, but some people may need time to accept it.  Try setting aside time, free from distractions, and tell the person.  If it is a friend and they react poorly, don't push it, let them figure it out.  Continue to be a good friend, but if they choose to not be  good friend, consider yourself lucky to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff so easily.  Your family will love and accept you- you are family.  It is better to be honest and true, living your life fully as a good person, that force yourself to live in fear, lying.
312702
If you think that you'r family would understand tell them, if not don't. But it is not good to live in lie. They wont probably understand you, but if they love you they must understand you. and you must understand that it may be hard for them. Remember one simple thing : YOU CAN NOT DENY WHO OR WHAT YOU ARE ! And the fact that you are a normal human being, loved and wanted by God (even if you are an atheist)
443009
This happend to someone I knew.\n\nwhat I suggest is keep on truckin' and be who you are.  Unfortunately in our society there will be people who will not accept for who you are, family included.  \n\nSometimes its too hard on them when they see you as a woman, some families prefer to just turn a blind eye and pretend that everything is alright.\n\nHopefully you have an open-minded family.\n\nClose-minded religious folks + GLBT is like oil and water.