I think most of us do not give respect to wives and understand their feelings. I think they deserve more.?
540949
Hello!!! Most of us work a full day , come home and take care of the kids , fix dinner , atleast try to clean the house a little--" you men are a big mess " We are more the ones i would say in charge of mowing the yard , because you guys tell us crap like your allergic to grass . We take out the trash alot more than ya'll do . We run the kids everywhere they need to go , and check up on them to make sure that they are safe.When kids are sick , most of us stay as much right by thier little sides as we possibly can ! And then we take care of you guys , however you wish us to . We loose sooo much sleep , everyday to make sure that it all gets done--> or atleast 1/2 of it. And don't forget , that when you all are sick , we are right there for you guys too! Us good ones , don't cheat , and try hard not to do anything that we would need to lie about . We work hard , to make sure that our family lives are not going on without us , because we want to be there for it all--> to enjoy it all !\n\n  And the most we ask of you , is to work of course... And we would like to discuss any problems that might come up, we want respect--> but don't demand it sooo much , we want you to really love ( faithfully ) because we have no problems doing that for you ! HOld us when we need it , offer your emotional support , be our partners through this life ! We try to do it all by ourselves , but we really need you guys to help keep us in check! And the only real way , that we can keep on going like this , is if we think that you are atleast appreciative that we do do all that we do...... Just remember , it takes two !
1126161
Who? Where?\n\nWell they are not Man enough, so they prefer that their wives atleast are satisfied.\n\nOr some man get excited when they see their wives having sex with other men. To each their own.
134022
i think they feel more appreciated. older women are more appreciative of little things than younger women, and they understand a little bit better what it takes to be a good gf/wife than a younger woman might. This is just a guess, of course
991611
I don't know why some of us are like that, I know sometimes I get mad, but we all do. I don't believe that women are not supposed to deal with guys getting mad, they should be able to voice their opinion, but truthfully, sometimes that doesn't solve anything, it makes it worse, and really it depends on the situation. Men are supposed to be the head of the family, the bible says that, but it also says that the husband is suppose to love his wife like he loves himself, and not to be harsh with them. So, sometimes when we lose our cool, we are just blowing off steam, and that is a time where we want to be left alone, but not all men are like that. I know it helps me when a woman tries to help and be encouraging, but we all are different.
403028
That Bible does teach that, it can be a bummer if you aren't married whether you do or don't.  If you do, you feel guilty (at least I do) and if you don't then you are frustrated.  I would rather be frustrated (but, not always).  I am still working on it and as long as I am not seeing someone I am in the clear.
1061934
Many answering your question have said that they feel sorry for us muslim women. So, first, I want to address those people and their hateful remarks ("oh, i feel so SORRY for those women!")\n\nStop worrying - you've been lied to or misinformed. Our rights granted to us in Islam are far superior to your rights as women. \n\nWe are respected and protected. You are exploited and used. \n\nWhile your religion tells you to cover your head out of submission to your husband, ours tells us to do it only out of submission to God/Allah and as a means of protection and modesty. \n\nWhile your religion tells you plainly that you must "stay silent in the church", our religion tell us no such thing. Many great women have narrated many traditions, relaying very important aspects of the religion on to generations to come. \n\nWhile your men are stripping you with their eyes, even in your house of worship, we are granted privacy and kept away from the annoying glances of men that we already aren't the least bit interested in. (if I already have a husband, why do I need attention from yours? and I'm not left to the wolves to get a husband in the first place)\n\nWhile your men tell you to undress to get "respect" (LOL), our men preserve our honor and treat us like a precious pearl. \n\nWhile your men pressure you for sex, ours marry us. \n\nWhile your men finally marry you after trying you out first... and often have dirty affairs in which they lie and deceive...... our men may take a second wife and treat both wives with dignity, divide their time equally, give them each their own house, and create stable environments for everyone involved... Or, our men realize that it's such a big responsibility to have a second wife, that they choose not to approach other women at all.\n\nThe only time our men mess up is when they TRY TO IMITATE YOU.\n\nI'm sorry, but you need to realize how ignorant, smug, and insulting these "oh poor them" comments are.\n\n--------- Now, back to the original question:\n\nPeople often confuse the PEOPLE with the RELIGION (way of life). \n\nThe religion is pure and beautiful. There are good and bad Muslims, obedient and disobedient, to varying degrees. \n\nSo, always be tolerant of the RELIGION. But tolerance with any MUSLIM is taken on an individual basis.
1075718
Mine was so jealous of my standard of living, that she sabotaged my marriage. I don't know really. Maybe it's because they will always be an outsider that they feel the need to be part of evrything that's going on whether they're welcome or not.
452782
Ask they how they would feel if the Western World said "yes" but it had to apply both ways?\n\nI suspect that might not be as acceptable :-)\n\nBasically folks should follow their own paths - most versions of polygamy that I have seen described are one-way both in gender and in the purpose of it (the 4 wives description above is quite telling).
226374
Yes all women feel this way.  And secretly, all men believe that there wifes should sleep around so they are sexually charged all the time.  \n\nIf you are married you should tell this to your wife.  That she should have intimacy with any one she wants, male or female, and that would make you love her more.  \n\nIf you are not married, help a friend. \n\nYou should find the married couple that are your closest friends and talk to them about this.  Suggest that you are such an excellent friend that you would be willing to help them with this conundrum and better their relationship.  In fact, having sex with the female of this couple will bring them closer together and have a much fuller marraige and relationship. This will be a great experience for all three of you and the most unselfish gift you could give them
930820
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
676874
I believe thats partly the problem in todays society where it seems no-one has RESPECT for anyone or anyones feelings anymore.. marriage or relationships henestly mean nothing like they use to... easier to get out of it rather than work at it, majority of people are all conceited and only think of themselves, so in other words, nobody cares!!
1105439
Yes we are!! I think it's because they lack respect for women. I think they were raised with "old school" traditions when women "knew there place". They can't handle the fact that women have stepped up to the plate where they have failed miserably. When they encounter problems they whine about it while we deal with it. They resent us.
29306
I think some husbands cheat on their wives for the same reason why all men cheat... they want to see if the grass is greener in other pastures. They may not be getting the attention they want at home or they may simply just be jerks and not care about their wive's feelings.
686444
I don't know how they can share their husband. Me personally I couldn't do it.I think these women have low self esteem and don't value themselves.I would be jealous and would constantly question his love for me. Guess, I wouldn't have survived in Biblical times...lol
1111203
I like to serve my husband but NOT because he tells me too.  It is great feel so needed but I would never consider myself submissive... why would you even describe your self that way?  The reason why people look down on submissive wives is becasue no one deserves to be bossed around and treated like a slave, so when you see someone doing that you have to wonder what the hell is wrong wit them?  Do nice things for your man becasue you love him..not becasue he makes you!
942682
I dont feel bad. They probably make their wives mad on purpose so they get divorced and like half of their money. Jerks, smart, but still jerks.
723161
No, it doesn't mean you don't really love him. Some of the things my husband does embarasses me. If I think he could be a 'better' person, then I suggest to him about changing. Sometimes I just live with it. :-)