i cheated on my soon to be husband how do i tell him i cheated on him with my ex??
544001
you probaly cheated with your ex cause you still had feelings for him. maybe it was just to see if there was anything there. i dont know maybe the sex is great. whatever the reason is you did it. and your soon to be husband will never forgive you and you will have it thrown in your face everyday for the rest of your life. im sorry just either tell him and leave or take it to the grave. im saying this cause the same happend with me. i cheated and he said he would forgive me, but it was a never ending fight. we are seperated now.
93030
Have some class and tell him.  The more you pull back and hope he gets the hint, the more he's going to want you and annoy you with his wussy love-prattle.  If you tell him directly, leave no room for error. If he's some sort of psycho he'll try to keep you in his world, if he's normal and cool then just agree that you both keep the break-up details a secret (nobody dumped anyone, it was mutual).
652185
Just tell him, you have wasted such a long time, tell and and get together and be happy. It will make your exspouses real jealous though, trust me
358384
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't go accusing him yet. If he does happen to cheat on you while in New Mexico, then he isn't worth your time. You can only forgive someone so much. When he gets back, talk to him about it. Tell him that you don't feel safe when he's around his ex. If he is the right guy he will understand.
839398
Sorry for you. You should have enquired about his incidents before marriage. But now its too late. Anyhow you must write to him letter asking him why he has cheated you & lied about himself. Keep a copy of this letter with you & send this letter through courier or registered  post. Any reply if you get will be a piece of evidence that you can use in future. If you dont get any reply it will be also a piece of evidence which you can use regarding his cheating & lies. Now bring in some marriage counsellor to settle your matrimonial dispute. This will be another piece of evidence for you. If everthing fails move the family court for judicial seperation on the basis of cruelty if your actual seperation has not completed 2 years. Since irrepeareable break of marriage is not a condition of judicial separation or divorce you have to cover your case under ther the clause of cruelty. If you succeed you can get divorce from this guy after 1 year of passing of the decree of judicial seperation. You can always get maintaince from him for yourself & if you have your kids.
308882
I went through this, but the guy cheated on me. I still have anger for him, which happened a little over 3 years ago, my current boyfriend though the same way your girlfriend is think about the anger. You need to tell your girlfriend that you have anger built up towards her because what she did was wrong and you can't forgive her for that. But one thing I do suggest is that when your around your girlfriend don't mention anything about your ex cheating on you, pretend you don't even know who she is now. It is hard but trust me it pays off in the long run. I know don't even think about my ex cheating on me, because I love my boyfriend now and I'm happy with him. Just talk to your girlfriend and tell her exactly how you feel about the whole situation.
283086
Just be open and honest.\nImagine it was the other way round, woudn't you rather someone was honest with you?\nYou will both be mortified but once it's said it's said.
106529
Depends on what you want to tell him. What part of your past? I read in a advise column in the newspaper about this husband who after many years of a wonderful and loving marriage found out from someone else his wife had an affair with a married man before marrying him. He went nuts and now thinks of her as dirty, not good enough for him. Watch what you want to share with him. If you have had previous lovers or such, I 'd say no.
466209
just sit him down and tell him.\nit makes it easier that u guys have been together recently, that means he too is willing to come back. tell him u love him so much and u think u guys are good together but u must also discuss the reason u split if not it may happen again. but try not to act too desperate, like ur world fell apart when u guys split cos that could turn him off, ok?\ndont act like it didnt happen, if he did it once and doesnt see why he shouldnt do it agian, u just might split again...\ni really want it to work out fine for u especially since he is the father of your kids...\ntell us how it goes... cheers!
1127634
No...you shouldn't tell him, nor should you be involved or get involved with him. So long as he is married there is that chance no matter how slim that he could reconcile with his wife, and you shouldn't be there to make that impossible or harder for him to do. You are also only opening yourself up to hurt by being involved...best to stay away.
61492
Just tell him the truth.  I think the best way to do this is start off with a talk.  You tell him how you fell and he will tell you how he fells.  Please don't jump the gun.
720004
i've been wanting to tell my husband that i am having an affair & i want him to help me to get out of it before it's too late but i can't tell him that 'coz it would really hurt him so much & i don't want to loose him & so i am trying my very best to get out of this mess...  = (
169791
Read the writing on the wall. If it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck, it's a cheating husband. You are lucky that he is an ex now, though. If you feel like he cheated, then he DID. Plain and simple. Trust your intuition, a female's intuition is a very powerful thing. Getting over the hurt? Well, that is a hard one. . .You've been betrayed. Lean on the support of friends and family ALOT. Talk about it ALOT to people who will actually listen. Buy a little notebook and spill your guts out and cry as you write in it every night before bed. A therapist can help, but if you have good friends and family, then why waste the money???
1127746
do what you did with every other guy in the past..or just pretend you are cheating on him
836277
Tell her. Explain to her that you did not know that they were together and that you wanted her to know before she walked down the aisle with this jerk. \n\nImagine how she is going to feel if you don't tell her and a couple years down the road they have kids together and he is still cheating on her with other girls.
322718
My soon to be ex husband.  LOL
865831
You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.