Men: Are you in love with the woman you are in a relationship with, but still fantasize about other women?
548545
I am a woman in a great relationship and I hope if he's ever thinking of someone else I never find out because I'd be very hurt to know this.
1149864
the only way to find out is to ask him at a relaxed time when you are just talking about other things.  \n1) he may not want to, considering it not something he is interested in doing.  depends how his fantasies go.\n2) it runs the risk of him becoming attracted to the other woman and visa versa.\n3) it may be all that your fantasies have made it to be.\n4) remember that fantasies are still fantasies as long as they are not acted upon.  some are great for thoughts while making love to your husband but are only thoughts.\n5) have you thought fully how you would feel afterwards? no jealousy? \n6) if it is decided, make sure the ground rules are set up ahead of time about how it would work. discuss details, if he is interested of how it would work.\ngood luck, smithsjim05@yahoo.com
267077
yes !\nyou vowed to love and be with only your wife !\nhow could this not be a form of cheating in a way ?
604800
Once the women your with falls in love with you... You wont have to do anything else..
1009678
I used to when  I was in a relationship I was no longer happy in.  I don't fantasize any more.  I love the man I am with now.
43599
Fantasizing about the same-sex for women is quite common, and a "true lesbian" would be the easiest to experiment with.  I still love my ex-husband very much, but I am supposed to be with a woman.
298855
He may find these women exotic but it does not mean he'll leave you for one.  I see a lot of gorgeous women that I am attracted to but it doesn't mean I'm going to leave my wife for one of them.  It also means I would never settle down with one.  There are qualities about my wife that I found to be more suitable to spend the rest of my life with.  Men are very simple creatures.  After they have sex, sex is off their mind and what's left is reality, a woman you love for her being her or the woman you're done with.  The fact he's with you says he loves you for being you.  What is in question here is his respect for you.  Talk to him about it.
1127914
i think u will be happy when you are with her and when u think of her i would ask u a question could u love another girl?if u are able to do that i doubt u are in love and i think when u are in u will spend all the nights thinking of her soooooooooo good luck
707380
wow some deep thought there, well from some past experiences i can say that what you said is true, but at the moment i'm in love and it feels just right, i believe i have found a good woman, we have differences yeah but in the end my love for her is stronger, so maybe what you wrote here is because you are going thru a tough time in a relationship i guess
463042
Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
222730
I am very attracted to other women, they are sensual and passionate.  Being with another woman sexually is an incredible experience.  I have only been with one woman but the passion and the emotion that was involved in sex was incredible.  I have never been with a guy that I have felt that way with
491263
Yeah I fantasized but no with no woman. I love man way too much. I even called my BF the other dudes name.
132502
Have you ever considered polyamory?
629821
so????  You are just looking right, no harm in that.  Even fantasizing about him while with your hubby is fine, might make it more exciting (I am sure he is thinking about a Pam Anderson or a Angelina Jolie some nights), as long as it's not physical you are in the clear!
826639
Fine -- you can't control your feelings.  But you CAN control your behavior.  Feel whatever you feel, just don't touch this other woman.  Go to counseling like you had the idea of doing, and figure out how to fall back in love with your wife.
642206
It's possible, but you're making yourself sound like a cheater. If you love someone else while you're already in a relationship then that's bad. It's better to be in love with two people when you're not with one of them already. If you love someone else while in a relatonship then it means that you want the other person who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend. \n\nTry asking yourself what you can get from this person 'on the side' that you're not getting from your significant other. If the reasons outweigh the reson to stay with the person you're currently with, then maybe it's time to end the relationship, hm?
786487
In a biblical sense, having lust for another woman is adultery.  Getting that out of the way, I do not believe noticing an attractive woman is cheating.  I can say that I truly solely desire my wife.  That does not mean I do not notice an attractive woman, nor does it mean I am not attracted to other women.  It means that I do not want to have sex with anyone other than my wife.