when do you know that it's time to leave a marriage?
540240
when you no longer love one another
785858
I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
1043571
hmmm ... from your question, if you are married, I guess its time that you and your wife visit a marrige councelor.\n\nCheers!
1158219
At the point you realized that relationship was "bad".  The moment you admitted the truth to yourself, is a great time to end the relationship.  Only you know what is really happening in your relationships, so only you can decide when is the right point to end the relationship.
578693
I guess it depends on the stage of one's life.  I am having a hard time accepting that my husband wants to seperate and probably divorce and I think I need him more.  It is pretty obvious to me that he does not need me otherwise he would not be able to ask for this.
7994
Not to sound arrogant, but I can speak from experience here.  My wife and I have been married for 14 years (15 in April, 13th to be exact...I always remember it).  We started dating when I was 17, and married when I was 20 (she's 3 years older).\n\nI went through the EXACTLY the same thing you are currently going through.  From the day we announced our engagement many, many people said "You're too young." or "You should experience life before you settle down."  I wanted to experience life with her.  Only one person at my office offered any support.  She actually encouraged me to get the child rearing years over with early, when we still had the energy (she was in her early 40's and had a two-year-old that wore her down).\n\nSuffice it to say it's worked so far.  There's been rough spots, but no more than any other married couple (even supposedly "mature" married couples) experience.  The main difference is not so much in your feelings for your fiance/spouse, but in your behavior.  If you behave in a loving way every day to the person it's not very likely you'll "fall out of love".  Talk, listen, offer support, discuss (don't argue) your points of view...basically treat each other with respect.  Realize that he's going to do/say dumb things, and you'll do the same.  Have room for forgiveness.  Mostly, have fun.\n\nMy only advice, to save yourself any misunderstanding in the long run, is spell out your feelings to each other about all the uncomfortable or boring stuff, like sex (all aspects, even the "non-traditional" ones), children (definitely separate topic from sex), money, goals, retirement, career plans, dreams, chores/responsibilities, which way to hang the toilet paper rolls (top or bottom), etc.  Basically a pre-nup without the legal formality.  As hard as it may be DO NOT JUDGE any responses each other gives.  Leave your emotions at the door.  As much as you (both of you) don't like something the other may say, do not let anything hurt your feelings.  Be as dispassionate and reasonable as possible.  If disagreements arise, talk them over.  Do not argue..the point is not to debate, but to understand.  If something arises that cannot be settled and is a deal-breaker when it comes to the marriage, better to find out now.  Talk over compromises, but do not try to force a compromise if the other person feels strongly enough about the topic that they will not budge.\n\nAs much as I love my wife, most of the marriage has been very much like the experience you'll have if you follow the suggestion above.\n\nOn a side note, my brother and sister-in-law started dating when he was 18 and she was 17.  They dated for about six years, and have been married for about 12 years now.  However, two of my sisters married young and both were divorced within two years.  Another brother married recently but they started dating about a year after my wife and I married so I don't think much will change.  All of us started "young" and it's about 60% so far for the family.
1058963
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
428958
Please reiterate your question . . . to . . . I called it quits this morning?  Because he want to try to make it work . . . and you are trying to decide yes or no.\n\nI have a few questions about this . . . \n\nWhy did he cheat on you . . . . ?  There is always a reason.  Did you two marry too young?  Did you change?  Did he change?\n\nIf you feel that you can not trust him . . . then end it . . . and tell him why.  He may still love you . . . but the thing is . . . he might have felt that you kept pushing him away . . . and he felt lonely.  And guys has needs . . . so instead of bothering you about them (because he felt that you possibly didn't care) he went elsewhere.\n\nThe most basic reason why some people cheat . . . is because they felt pushed away.  I know that is not a good reason . . . \n\nPlus if you stay married for at least 10 years . . . he will have to pay you alimony for the rest of your life or until you remarry.
1081449
I WAS married for a long time and it took me a long time to get the strength to leave him. I should of done it sooner. If you are scared find some sort of support group or email me. \nOnce I was away from him, I realized how crazy things and it was way worse then I ever imagined. I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment. But, it can be broken if things are bad enough.  Find a friend who you can depend on to do what you must do. If you have exhausted all hope of improving things, then you need to gather your wits and be strong and do what you need to do. I stayed way to long and it really harmed my two youngest children. They paid a huge price.
810992
You need to talk to him on a serious tip and let him know how you feel and tell him that it is time to change cause it is not cute any more and that you love him and that if there is something you  need to change you would for him cause that is what marriage is about.
680869
First and foremost, did you talk to her about this? If you have done this and many other things to save the marriage but nothing has changed, show up with divorce papers and tell her you want a divorce. But I suggest you talk things over first.
548249
Separation isn't really the end. It doesn't mean a divorce is headed your way. Separation is actually what saved my marriage. The time away from each other is what we needed, and made us realize that we didn't want the divorce. We're happier now than we were before. Separation is a time to see if a divorce would be right for you. If it isn't, talk it out with your husband, see where he stands on it all, and take it from there. One thing married couples need to understand is that no all marriages are perfect, you'll have your ups and downs but when it comes down to it, you still love each other. My husband and I have the most dysfunctional marriage I've ever seen, but it just works for us, and we really are happy.
1113080
As much time as you need.  Only you will know when enough is enough.  Allow yourself the time, get some help if you need it.\n\nHang in there
534209
So what are you asking, my advice is if you are not ready to give up your marriage you better chill out
1167238
You weren't very serious about your marriage vows, were you? Five months married, and you are ready to ditch the minute some has been rings you. Divorce your husband. He doesn't deserve to be married to you.
653278
Break It off.  If you are unsure and she won't wait then you should break it off.  It is not good to go into a marriage unsure of your feelings.  If your to-be wife won't respect your feelings then maybe she isn't the right person for you.  Better to end it now then find out in six months what you already knew.