Why did my best friend betray me?
545505
She is jealous and insecure.  You seem to be having success that is eluding her.  So she strikes back by being mean and trying to diminish your accomplishments.\n\nIf you want to give her another chance but not be hurt any more, you will have to tell her that her current behavior is unacceptable.  You don't need friends like that.\n\nBut if you've decided that she is not the kind of friend that you don't want to have, you will have to be honest with her and tell her that you don't need friends who are constantly critical and mean.  You owe her the truth for the sake of your past friendship.\n\nWhatever you decide is really up to you.  But if you just want to know why she did all this, it's jealousy and insecurity on her part.
750713
This guy is a problem and I doubt he is worth you and your best friend having a falling out because he is trying to divide and conquer. \n\nFind a situation where you and your best friend are together, and he is there also. Make it appear the two of you are comparing notes and that you are talking about him, and watch him show his true colors and scramble for cover. \n\nSounds like this guy is extremely immature and is looking for any port in a storm. \n\nPick the one who is interested in you, because of you, not because he is playing some game using you and your best friend as chess pieces to get what he wants. I repeat, do not allow this immature boy to come between you and your best friend. \n\nHe is not the one for you, . . . . . . . .you deserve much better.  \n\nDarryl S.
1097926
you should'nt forced yourself to be friend with someone you don't liked. Your bestfriend would understand if he care for u.
617859
I want to say that your friend is wrong for going about it the WRONG way. She should have been honest and maybe it wouldn't feel so bad when it's happened. You have every right to feel betrayed because she was not completely honest with you. Nevertheless we all are humans and as the person before me stated, people act on their instincts. She had a crush on him, or maybe she thought she did or whatever it may be, the realization is that they're having that special thing while you're hurt from it. What I would do is move on. I'd give her my well-wishing and if I could handle being friends with her, I'd maintain contact with her. Don't fall for the "third-wheel" plots, I hate those, make sure to avoid them because you may find yourself becoming extremely angry at your friend and her not knowing it. That's all I can see myself doing in this situation is just moving on. Good luck with this.
191715
The best friend is a human being, so he thinks, feels and maybe some times he judge you and he don't always say what he think. \nIn my opinion, there are situation when you can't trust him. sicerely, i don't have a best frind because it's better to have a small circle of good friends. But it's good to have someone who can help you when u have a problem.
463138
Your friend is very insecure- if she can make you look bad she feels superior.\n\nYou need to find another best friend because if she were truly your friend she would not do the things she does to you.\n\nWith friends like her you certainly do not need any enemies
140344
Only time will tell. A while back my best friend went behind my back and lied to me about dating my older brother, later finding out the reason she kept it a secret was because she was cheating on him with a guy from school. We didn't speak for awhile, nearly six months, but when she was dealing with a big emotional problem the only person she knew would understand and not judge her was me. And so she explained her problem and since we had such a long history and prior good friendship I couldn't turn my back on her and to this day we are still very good friends and now even our daughters are all friends and like to play together even if they are only between the ages of 1 month and three years.
190378
Lies are always the worst course of action, ALWAYS.  So, what do you do?  You have to accept it.  You lied to her and there's no way to erase it.  Apologize to her.  Tell her you know that it was wrong to lie to her and that you're very sorry.  Try to explain to her why you lied.  Don't make it about how you were afraid of her reaction -- make it about how you were too cowardly to stand up and be honest.  She'll appreciate that more, but if she doesn't want to hear it don't force it on her.  Tell her that you understand why she needed to break off the relationship, but that you still love her and you will do everything you possibly can to rebuild the trust in your relationship, even if it is just to have the possibility of having a best friend in her because she is worth it.  Then DO it.  Let her vent to you about if she needs to... if she snaps and says something cruel and hard to take like, "It's too bad you're such a liar..."  Even though it makes you feel indignant and unfairly judged, don't react to it.  You broke her heart and to her heart, you are a liar...   Apologize if she does that, and tell her you never meant to hurt her, you were just afraid you weren't up to her standards... \n\nEtc, etc, etc...   Oh, and don't do any of this if you're not genuine (i.e. a liar).  She doesn't deserve any more heartbreak...
242858
My best friend screwed me in the worst way ever. He tried to have me arrested on false charges.\n\nI just walked away from him, I know the worst thing I can do to him is not to tell him what he did, and why it is wrong, he will be an as-hle for the rest of his life and he will screw himself.\n\nI haven't seen him since then, I will not see him in the future. He was a friend until he demonstrated his kind.
458476
Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
247475
it all depends on what you have done. some things are just not forgiveable or atleast forgettable. i messed up on something with one of my best friends now i am lucky to see him maybe a few times a year and that's usually like in the park becaue we both go there. He don't come by he rarely if ever calls. If i call him sometimes he might call me back but thats the price i guess you pay for screwing up. i mean i know i messed up and i have tried so many things to prove that i know i messed up and it wont happen again but its their choice. when you have been hurt by someone close to you even if it wasn't on purpose and they are sorry its hard to ever trust them again. give it time. keep showing ur friends that you sorry and it wont happen again. but in the end its their choice they were hurt and not everyone is going to risk it again even if you really are sorry. you have to live and learn. learn from your mistake and dont let it happen ever again to anyone.
830812
Well, you kind of confirmed his suspicion that you wouldn't take it well with your sarcastic email, didn't you?  Perhaps they found out that they both really wanted to go to the same place, it was cheaper to go together and since 1.you'd been split up for over 6 months and 2. he wasn't your best friend anyway, there really was nothing morally wrong in what they were doing.  You could look at it as a compliment that they thought enough of your feelings not to want to hurt you and that's why they didn't tell you.  Yes, it would have been a courtesy to let you know, but really, you don't have any right to interfere in the lives of two people you don't have close relationships with.
974808
Your old friend is probably feeling betrayed by you.  She thought that she was doing a good thing by being nice to the 'new girl' and in turn has lost her best friend.  \n\nyou probably need to make it known that she still means as much to you as before and that you dont want another person to come between you.  Good luck and let me know what happens
743927
Well you could tell your best friend that it was not nice of her or him to say that to you. cuz you are not stupid. and onone is stupid. And just say to yourself that   you know that you are not stupid. So sorry that your best friend said that.
1006611
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
1049115
It really depends on you and the situation. There are a lot of questions to ask yourself. Did she do this on purpose and why? How important is this friendship to me? Is this the first time she has disappointed me? It's good to forgive, but if this is the type of person that will keep hurting you, it might be time to rethink the friendship.
975215
you didnt do anything wrong, it was good that you were honest about your feelings. he is your best friend, and best friends are suppose to care about each other. you might want to have a talk with him, maybe there is something wrong going on in his life that he hasnt told you. but if he is a bad friend in other ways, you might want to stop hanging out with him so much.