My daughter has a hard time with being teased at school and she asked me to get some advice for her?
540282
my friend is going through the exact same thing. she's around 14...so my advice to her was just to seperate herself. she wont' be with those kids much longer...and be confident in who she is! pray through it...that would help too. God bless you and take care!
852994
lay down the law with her. tell her that for not getting good grades or not doing it u can take away priviledges. that should persuade her. if not, tell how much it hurts u to see her get bad grades. tell her u want to see her succeed in life and that she cant do that without doing her homework.  also, dont just take away priveledges, set aside time to check up on her. if she is doing badly, lower her allowance or take away more valued priveledges, like friends or phone. then again u dont want her to hate u, so dont come down hard on her the 1st time. but if the bad behavior and grades continue, start getting stricter. she needs to know you mean when u say it. if u say 'the next time you get a C or lower, your grounded', when she gets a C, follow up on it. she'll probably remember those words and say to herself ' moms not serious about this grade thing'. ur words need to be powerful, but not overwhelming.
348302
Talk to her teacher. She is obviously very young, I think you are worrying about nothing, take a small step back and enjoy watching her grow.
774532
As a mother, I certainly think you're on the right track with all the efforts you've been making. Does she have a lot of adults in her life? It may sound strange, but kids expect their mothers to like and accept them, but an adult friend of the family or another adult role model may be able to give her praise and encouragement if she helps him/her with something (gardening, for instance). Once she realizes that not all "strangers" are going to criticize or bully her, she may begin to open up and have more confidence. Poor thing. I hope this is resolved soon. She's at a critical age where not only is she surrounded by peers who are judging her, but she is probably very hard on herself, as well. Good luck to you.
603658
The teacher may feel uncomfortable knowing what you told them and not sure how to help.  Just remember, teachers are humans too and make mistakes and have problems.  Sometimes it's best to go to a guidance counselor with problems because they have to keep it confidential and have a background in helping.  \n\nI would not worry so much if she hates you, because if she felt really uncomfortable she would either tell you, completely avoid you, transfer you to a different class, or start being a lot harder on you than the other students. \n\nThe best thing to do is just ask her.  Tell her you are feeling uncomfortable since talking to her and you want to know if everything is ok and see what she says.  \n\nWithout knowing what you told her, it's hard for us on here to give great advice.  Hope that helps!
201299
quite honestly, i think that is very difficult to do.  if you stop and think about the problem though, i think you'll discover it is because she has a lack of confidence in herself and doesn't want to appear "stupid" in front on someone else.  \n\nbest advice i have:  reinforce her confidence
713265
mayb shez gt some prob u don't know abt. don't shout at her or scold her. just b cool n ask her what was wrong at school when she feels better to tell u. be a gr8 frnd not one jus who wants frnds 2 njoy with u n not know their probs....BOL gal.
98697
U should talk to her with her parent(s) about a solution 2 her problems.Tell her 2 at lease get her high school diiploma its very important have . These days thats not even enough 2 get some jobs.Do what U can 2 stop her from making a huge mistake. GOOD LUCK !
238590
Welcome to pre-teen angst. Just bear with her, I know its hard, but her body is changing so fast right now she probably doesn't even realize how terrible is being. Discuss her weight gain with her doc, there might be something they can adjust to help that. Counselling isn't a bad idea, but you should go too, it helps if there is someone else YOU can complain to about her attitude instead of her. She probably feels defensive after you confront her about her actions. Make sure you have "safe zones" from each other where you can both go and get away from each other, it helps.
86474
Talk to parents.  I know it's hard but try to ignore her by not being around her.  Sounds like she is very unhappy and becoming a bully.  Try to talk to her about how you feel too, but definitely let parents know of her abuse.
824981
ask the school if she could do more advanced work in the class room and if she continues to improve see if they can help you get he moved up a year or into a special school which would help develope her further\n you must be very proud of her just keep helping her at home also
1038031
you created your daughter so why would you compete with her....the mom seems insecure to me.......she needs help maybe she feels that she is losing her touch....
987019
If this person is your friend, you should be able to tell him/her that enough is enough already, and to stop. \n\nIf he/she doesn't stop teasing....\n\nDo you know your friend's parents?  Let THEM know what's happening.\n\n"I always felt _____ and I were friends.  But when I started this special PE class because I've got health/physical problems, he/she started teasing me a lot, and I wish he/she'd stop."\n\nIf you don't think his/her parents will help, or you don't know them, say the same thing to your case manager or a school counselor. Hopefully, both you and your friend will get pulled in to a meeting together to deal with it.\n\nIf you don't think any of these things will help, then the person is NOT your friend.  Report them for bullying (that's what this sort of teasing really is).  This person is making the choice to bully, so he/she should have to deal with the consequences.
470652
You could tell her to leave you alone, but I doubt that would work seeing that you're going through the trouble of posting a question. Hitting her will put you in a worse off position than you're in right now, besides, there are far better looking women outside Juvenile camp or Jail... even if they're getting on your nerves.\n\nHere are 2 ways to fix your problem:\n\n1) Tell her parents that you're being harassed by this girl\n\n+Ouch, ain nothing like parents saying "my daughter did what?!" haha\n\n2) Tell your teacher about the situation and urge her to talk to the girl privately as to not put your business in the hallways\n\n+This is risky because if she's a bully she might start teasing you about going to the teacher, but if she's just an average problem child go right ahead\n\nIf you're serious about getting rid of her, I'm sure this advice will work for you. Good luck.
361263
don't let her bother you. what grade are you in? eventually everybody matures, and for those that don't, the rest of the kids will realize what a bitc* she is. Just ignore her completely, fly under her radar, but don't do anything that will make her feel like she's controlling you. \n\nJust take it with a grain of salt. Eventually she'll get her commuppins, and you'll be all the better for it. \n\nThis is probably the answer you don't want to hear because it's not easy to do, but the harder things are the more they're worth doing. Good luck.
757947
It appears you have been very professional in dealing with this - good on you!  Do you belong to a professional organization of teachers?  They should be able to provide more support.\n\nInterpersonal relationship advice.....why does she have any power over your students?  You've done very well in modelling appropriate behaviour - good on you!  Is there another teacher who could give your students peer partners?  That would give another opportunity for appropriate modelling.  Ask her students about their motivation:  What do they get from being mean to the girls?  Until you understand the underlying fears of the people involved, you won't be able to determine their motivation.  Sometimes we just have to work with jerks - realize her limitations and work around them.
387432
you may want to respect her wishes and let her handle it. i know it has to be hard for a parent to do-- but consider your daughter's perspective. ( i was the kid who got eggs tossed at her, so i know how cruel kids can be...) 14 year olds....think they sprouted from the ground. any parental involvement is generally discouraged by them, and it really may cause her more embarassment. this is an age where kids want to show that they can hold their own.\n\nthe best thing you can do is let her handle it, but be reassuring that it's not her "fault"-- a lot of girls feel that if there were something that they could change about themselves, thigns would be better. let her know that some boys are jerks. chances are, she is not the only one he did something like that to, and he probably has a reputation for being a jerk. \n\nif your daughter is willing to let it go, let it be. however, if this is a part of a pattern of how she's been treated at school... you may want to consider options to intervene.