how to cope with unhappiness??
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e-mail me jackro76@yahoo.co.uk
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Choose to be happy.  Get out of bed and decide right then that it's going to be a great day, even if it might not be.  I bet your attitude will change and life will begin to be happy as a rule.
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"HUG" look after yourself. so many people care about you, even if they dont show it. and if they dont, i care. i became really depressed in the middle of the year.. :( and im a bit depressed now. i didnt get really bad tho.. but u have to be strong. no one can really get u over depression except yourself. be true to yourself in life and there are always ups and downs. i guess... everything happens for a reason..\n\ni hope this helps! be strong and dont listen to those other uncaring sons of bitches that say shoot urself or something ok!\n"hug" good luck!!!! suzie
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maria -\nYou don't need to get over it as other people have said you need to. As long as you don't end up hurting yourself you can deal with this however you want. You don't always need to feel happy but you don't need to be sad all the time either. You don't even have to know what you are feeling, as long as you are ok with that. If you don't know what a feeling is and you want to then talk with someone and figure it out. People will listen to you, trust me. Just do what you need to do. If you feel like you need to get up and exercise then get up and exercise, but if you feel like all you can do is stay at home and watch movies that's fine too, as long as you don't let it get to an extent where it is taking over your life. Remember: people can't tell you what to feel, it's up to you to do that. Others can only help you tell yourself what to feel. It's going to be hard, and no one knows that better than you right now, but you can pull through if you want to do so. People are there for you, remember that.
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nothing, everyone feels like this sometimes, just live trough if for now, it will get better =]
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I found talking to a therapist very helpful.  There you can express your feeling and not be judged.  But the only way for things to really change is if you change.  If life feels that horrible, change your life!  Change schools, change friends, live with other relatives.  Sometimes a major change will help you see the world differently.  And remember, no matter how much life sucks sometimes, it's better than the alternative.
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I was out of work for a while and it was awful. I was so broke and so bored. I hope you will find something soon. Just don't give up and start hanging out. That is the slow road to more unhappiness.
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Be true to yourself and make the choices that you think will make you happy! Don't waste time on things you can't change and concentrate on what you can improve! \n\nLife is short so enjoy!
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I'll tell you the problem. It's your age. It is fairly well known that people all over the world get a little depressed at this age.\nTry a foreign holiday. Without anyone. Summertime is good, go now. Flying is exciting - and cheap. Try areas that you can speak the language fluently. Get as much beer as possible ( spirits may harm ). Travel light; take minimum - in most countries laundrettes are plentiful. Take change of footware. Write  home. Telephone only when happy. Talk to as many girls as makes you happy. Ignore all males - they are not natural nurses.\nJoin in what you are good at only when happy. Eat less, drink more. Do not worry about spending too much. Take all forms of obtaining money. Walk more. Think of evil things to do to your enemies. Put those off until they are legal. Do not insult the locals. Smile more. Be glad you are not working. A month works for me. Grit your teeth - it's everybody else that's the problem.
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Sometimes life is like a roller coaster... not just the ups and downs, but the feeling you have just before going straight down.  It is so difficult to comprehend that\nwhat you are going through is temporary.  A smooth sea doesn't make a good sailor... all the rough times will \nbenefit you in the long run if you stick it out.  It's\nnot the problems in life, but how we deal with them.  \nTry getting involved with something you can do to escape\n(art, music, reading, volunteering, etc.)  Focus on the \ngood things about yourself and your life.  Try to be \npositive even when you don't feel positive.  Remember,\nnot too many people will be concerned about your problems\nwhen they have problems of their own.  Relax.  Smile.\nThe sun is still shining and in spite of Chicken Little's\nrumor, the sky is not falling.
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Find something that alleviates stress like running and playing an instrument. Cry when you need it and dont convert sadness into bitterness.\n\nGoodluck it's common....\n\n\nhttp://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/
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Don't Worry...Be Happy!\nWell, just calm down, if you spend all your life worrying,,, you will never really get to live!
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Oh wow - that is so sad.  I am really sorry that you have gone through SOOOO much in this recent past.  I am sure it must feel like your world has just about crushed in around you.  :(  \n\nI can really see now why you wish you could just have it all be over with.  What you are feeling is completely normal.  I wish there was a quick fix for the way you were - but there really isn't.  :(   \n\nOne thing that you may or may not be into doing is this -  exercise... I know that you may not want to at this time - but it really is good for you - it elevates the endorphins which in turn helps to elevate your mood.  So while it won't make everything better - it can help you to cope with it a bit better than you might be right now.  \n\nI will keep you in my prayers tonight and pray for that "hole" in your heart to be healed and filled with the Love of God.  I had that "hole" at one point in my life... It is lonely and sad - it makes you feel like you just have no reason to exist... "what is the point of it all" I would ask my self all the time.  But I have survived that time.  Life has improved and I have seen the blessings of the Lord in my life. If I had died or never existed I would have never known what I know now -  I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason - both good and bad things.  We Learn from the bad in order to be able to help others to the other side... to be a shoulder to cry on - or to gain wisdom through it.  \n\nKeep truckin' along - you will get to a better place - it may take a long time - but you will get there.  Keep your eyes on the blue sky and try to look at positive things in life.  I know they may seem like few and far between, but they are there... take the moment to look at the beautiful pink or yellow blossom as it blooms into the new spring of this year.  Take the time to look at the white fluff clouds as they float around the blue sky and a lady bug lands on the leaf - or a butterfly flutters by.  Take joy in these small things... small improvements will help you.  \n\nWhen you have negative feelings try your hardest to push them out and possibly pray at that time if you have a relationship with God.  Ask for help and peace in this difficult time.  \n\nyou will be happy one day Hiedi23\n♥
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sometimes, i feel like i'm not worth it. there comes a point in everybody's life where they will feel like that. but honey, everybody is worth it in their own right. you may feel like this but if you look on the bright side... i know, it may be difficult to be optimistic but it won't hurt to try. if you could change your perspective on how you see things, you might be able elevate yourself from your problems and insecurities. change your outlook on things. try something new. take up a new hobby that can involve your child so he won't have to be lonely. just find something to do that can at least mend that broken smile...\n\nif what i said doesn't help... well, good luck with everything. i do hope you can find happiness. nobody deserves to be sad. i should know... i hate being sad but i am in real life.
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Seek the help of a counsellor.\n\nThey will help you get to the bottom of why you are kind of unhappy with your lot in life.\n\nGood luck - I've met depression and I want to keep him away.
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hi... \n  i've had the xperiance like u... i know what it feels like... this is the advise one of my frnds had given.... never think of past mistakes...they cant be changed... each day is a new day.. so whenever u feel sad think of something nice that had happened or just try to divert ur mind  from ur melencholy.. maybe surfing the net or chatting would help... or else jus do ur fav thing or if u like reading read ur fav book.. believe me it works....\nkeep smiling.
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Keep a list of good things to refer to when you are feeling down - things that you have achieved or that make you happy. Be your own best friend, who reminds you of what's best about yourself. \n\nDon't stay in with the computer all the time - go out, get fresh air, smile at people, be part of your community. Also, have a proper routine for the jobs that have to be done - cleaning, self-care, paying bills, etc - you will feel better for being on top of them. You can give yourself a reward for each job completed....\n\nThink about the activities you enjoy most or are best at and plan more time for them in your life, and in ways that involve other people.\nSo if you are a good cook, cook good meals for yourself, but also volunteer to cook for a local project. If you enjoy singing, join a choir. If you feel you have no particular skills, why not take an evening class to learn a new one. \n\nExercise is good for your self-esteem as it makes you fitter and better able to cope with stress, but it has to be the right exercise for you. If you are not into team sports or the gym, consider walking, cycling, jogging or dance.\n\nImagine that you are a photographer or journalist with an assignment to record something beautiful or joyful every day. This will make you go looking for the positive things in yourself, in other people, in nature and in the world around you.\n\nBudget for a small treat each week, whether it's a magazine, a movie, a bright scarf, a new picture for your wall, a manicure, whatever you enjoy.....\n\nMake a list of ten things you would like to achieve or experience in the next few years, and start doing them! Don't get anxious about things you have not yet done - you still have them to look forward to.\n\nDon't give into negative thoughts about yourself or other people, or guilt about the past. Treat each day as a fresh chance to do some good in the world, to look for the best in other people and in yourself and to enjoy life.\n\nGood luck!