Is it harder to be gay or lesbian?
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I'd say it's harder to be gay than lesbian, only because there seems to be more prejudice directed towards gay men.  And there are so many straight males out there who think two women together is sexy, but for some reason two men together is disgusting and wrong.  \n\nThere's also the issue of sex and sexually transmitted diseases. Most lesbians I know don't practice safe sex, as the likelihood of contracting STD's is much lower than gay sex or heterosexual sex.  \n\nSo yeah, for sure it's easier to be a lesbian!\n\nHey mresl2005... thanks for your comments :)  Are you saying that lesbians are more likely than straight couples to contract herpes, chlamydia etc?  If so, I take back my comment... didn't do my research, did I?  But it's given me an idea for a new question!
16045
it takes a gay to know gay
738121
no.. i dont think being gay is in the hormones or is in the genes of a certain bloodline. i think its all about the environment of the person that she/he is with which triggered her/him to become gay.
688105
The possibility is there, yes. It happened to me when I was a bit younder that everytime I saw a naked female I got all horny. I didn't and I don't want to be a lesbian so I prayed to God and finally my question got answered after a very long time. So if you want to be lesbian you will probably always get horny but if not you have a choice to fight it. It's more fun to be with a guy you know.
1148690
I would still deffinately be a woman. That is the biggest misconception about gays and lesbians. That the reason we like the same sex is because we truly want to be the other gender. I had a friend who was a guy who used to always say, "I am a lesbian stuck in a man's body." My first reaction was, doesn't that make you straight? I was wrong. He felt like a girl. He felt he had the wrong body, but he still liked women. It was eye opening for me. But it works the other way too. Just because we like the same sex doesn't mean we want to change to conform to what society want's us to be.\n\nI mean sure women have their "women problems" but hey, at least the whole world doesn't know when we are excited.
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Depends on where you are. In the US, especially in larger metropolitan areas out of the South, it's fairly easy to be gay and not get grief from others.\n\nIf you're in a society that's dominated by fundamentalist religions, like the US South or Iran or somewhere, then being out and gay isn't necessarily the easiest thing to do. In both places, it can potentially get you killed.\n\nNotice that it's never the gay people killing the fundamentalists...yet somehow, the gays are supposed to be in the wrong?
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I would say that gays tends to be more sensitive on relationship. Your lady friend may find the need to have someone who are sensitive to her. \nI have to admit too, most gays are rather attractive as they know how to take care of themselves. But, a gentle reminder though, gays likes guys. She might not find true love on that path...
272501
You can't "turn gay".  You can choose to accept it or deny it.
466622
there's no way to become straight just like no one can become gay.  It's just a matter of finding yourself and accepting yourself for who you are.  I know it can suck right now but trust me in the future you'll be okay with who you are.  if you're still young it probably sucks but it will get better.  Trust me.  Good luck!!
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Genetic make-up dictates everyone's sexual orientation.  Environment or family life growing up have nothing to do with it.  Some studies suggest it is the amount of hormones (testosterone or estrogen)in the body during the early development stages.\n\nPhysical or emotional trauma as a child can create problems for a person later in life, but it will not change someone from being straight to being gay.
581195
between a bunch of gays instead of women?
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I think the both are equal. There are pro and cons to both gender. Too actually say one is easier than the other is not fare. I think it all comes down to the person and what kind of life they have. What they have been through or what makes them or break them. Life is not easy sister.. whether you a female or male...
522359
being gay? no.  you are,or are not.\n\nacting on same sex attraction?  yes.\n\nnot acting on same sex attraction to please others, rather than living the way you're built to? also a choice, but a stupid one.
994411
you cannot change your sexual orientation despite how many morons told you otherwise. Trust me they are many gay men would have just switch under pressure just like that...if it's a choice there would not be that many gay men left in this world.\nIf it's not being gay , it can be fat , ugly ,short , skinny, race, religion. There are many bullies in these world would just pick on you regardless what differences you have. But your existence does not depend on them. You exist for yourself. Until you take care of your self, appreciate yourself and ignore what these bullies said you can't begin to face the world.  Life is not a popularity contest, you do not have to please everyone to gain votes. In reality some people gonna hate you without you having to do anything. The more you react to these bullies the more they gonna pick on you.... feel indifferent, ignore the rest just be who you are.....What can't kill you will make you stronger cause you need it ...there might be time in your life the challenge can be much tougher. See it as your early challenge to overcome.....Check out your local communities support group ...should be listed under gay and lesbian. ask for youth counselling or peer support group...they are many out there just like you facing the challenge. many can help you overcome these obstacles....Have you by any chance watch any of the Xmen movies?  What do u think the message is about? The first two were directed by Brian Singer a gay man himself. They are many sucessful gaymen in this world from all walks of life that I can't even begin to tell you. Instead of seeing it as a hindrence in your life ..use it as a catalyst to propel you to do great things with your life that could influence the society!! You are 16 and the world is your oyster!!
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It shouldn't matter to you whether or not genetics or birth order play a role in determining sexual orientation if you have never had any such feelings towards people of the same sex. All you have to go on and all you need to go on are your own feelings. In any event, birth order only seems to be a factor in sexual orientation among males, not females. As for your genes, they are what they are and they can't change, if you haven't been attracted to other women by now you probably won't ever be.
85796
I think straight men are much more concerned about being mistaken for gay than straight women are about being mistaken.  Also, it is true that women do not think of it as a sexual thing at all.  Or, to be more accurate, did not until the modern emphasis on sexuality.  That makes me sad, because now we straight women may indeed become more inhibited.  I am already less comfortable with the "California hug," which is my term for the fact that many Californians tend to treat a hug as the standard greeting.  I prefer to limit this to my closest friends, but I do wonder if it's not because of being concerned about being labeled lesbian.
980830
i could never understand how hard it must be....God has to know how hard it is. No body can live up to the expectations of the bible. No one fits in 100%. Its way to much to live up to. I believe that you want what you want because someone made u that way. I had a best friend that was gay and he killed himself last year. He was the funniest most amazing person i knew.  Its hard enough dealing with life as it is ...and its so easy to say well just dont listen. I just want you to know that not everyone feels that way. Not everyone hates just to hate. Just be strong even though its hard, the worse thing you can do is be someone your not.