what do you think about a women that doesn't want to get married and have kids?
552831
do what makes you happy and fulfilled, you don't have to please anyone else or society anymore.  I am 39, never married & no kids and I prefer that over ever being divorced and putting kids through hell because of my own not so good choices.  I desire to be married someday, just not to the wrong one.  It's cool to be unique and different anyway.  Follow the road less traveled!!  & your heart!!
788130
In this day and age, I would love to say no, but sadly, I think if a woman is childless, society still thinks she has not reached her full potential as a female.  I'm a 'western' woman, and I had my first baby last December, and he's the best thing in my life, but before I had him, people would always ask me 'when' I am having children, not 'if'.  It is so expected, in most quarters anyway.  Now I have a child, I can sense that I'm treated differently, not pointedly, but as if I'm now a 'real' woman, and I have to admit, that having my baby has made me a much more confident person.  I remember reading about the 66 Romanian woman, who had a baby girl last year, and she said "A woman who has not had a child has not lead a complete life".  In a sense, I sort of agree, but I don't think women should be judged on this, yes, they haven't experienced what it is to give new life, but it does not make them any less a person.  Interestingly, what do you think about men?  What does society think of childless men?  Anybody who doesn't procreate?
851922
There are some strange guys that think having children is a sign of their virility and of their dominance over women.  Like I said, strange.\n\nThere are some guys that think family (and that means kids) is great.\n\nThere are some guys that don't understand the connection between sex and kids; oops, she pregnant agin - how'd she do dat?\n\nSome women want kids more than some men.\n\nThere are guys who don't want kids.  They're out there. You just have to mean it when you say it; chances are, if you're young, that you'll start wanting kids when you get older.  So, like I said, you better mean it when you say it.\n\nYou don't really need to get married if you're not having kids.  That doesn't mean that you can't be in a committed monogamous relationship; but until you are older and sure that you both don't want kids, why get married?
891070
Sounds very selfish. Someone who would do that doesnt care about providing the optimal home enviorment for the child. There is obvisouly no commitment between the parents. My question is What is the reasoning for not getting married? So if things don't work out one of them can walk away? What kind of lessons are you teaching that child. Can one person raise a child? Yes, Would two people be better? Yes, Would two people who are in a legaly binding commitment be better than that? Yes, Would a Mother and a Father in a legally binding commited marrige be better that that? YES!! Why would you want anything less than the best for your child? Where have standards gone??
161206
why would you want to be with someone you don't want to marry? Your wasting your time as well as hers. You should let her find someone who will want to marry her.
31418
Some people just dont want to deal with other peoples kids----I think that it would be better to find someone that already has kids--they will understand u better than a person that dont have kids.  And also the fact that the kids live with you--alot of women are bothered by that.  \nBut the best advice I can give is that--u obviously havent meet that special person--because if you had--she will love you and accept you even if you had 10 kids---so just keep looking--you will find that person.\nGood luck.
1047983
Not if he can afford it.\nI'd make sure he has enough money to cover taking care of his other 2 kids before he has any more.\nThen I would also find out why he isn't with either of those women. Make sure he isn't a player of women.\nDon't be afraid to ask them. If they know he is considering marrage then they will be honest to you for sake of the kids.\nGood Luck!
689150
You can't have everything.  If you don't have children, you are free to do other things.  And there were many things I wanted to do but couldn't because I had decided to have a baby.\n\nDo I wish I didn't have him, absolutely not. He is a big part of my life and so many things that I could have done, would have been long forgotten by now.  For me, it was the right decision, but it would not be for everyone.
170143
Trap?  That's kind of a broad generalization on all women, isn't it?  Marriage was a very serious decision for me and my husband both, and we certainly didn't rush into it.  We were together for 3 years before deciding to get married, and afterwards we waited 7 years before we decided to have a child.  It was all a mutual decision, based on what we both wanted, and I personally wouldn't have wanted to marry a man who wasn't 100% wholeheartedly into being there.
713099
I made a personal choice that if I didn't have kids by age 40, I just wouldn't at all. Mainly because of my health and possible health risks to the child, and because of what I felt would be fair to a child.\n\nI think it's a matter of health and also a matter of having the energy and time to devote to a growing child. I know some people over 40 have no problems with it.
673190
Would it ever occur to you that some people DONT WANT TO have kids? Not everyone is out there wanting to just be a baby machine. Some people want to have a career or travel and have other priorities that do not include having children.\n\nAnd just because you decide to not have children does not mean you should stay single. Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy?\n\nNot everyone should have children - should someone who is addcited to crack (but is married) have kids? Uhhh probably not.\n\nDon't be so closed minded.
400261
That depends on what you're comfortable with. I would never date someone who had a kid myself. Also what kind of woman is she? Some women take advantage of guys and try to get them to support children that aren't even theirs. I'm not saying she's like that, but some of them are, especially if they're feeling overwhelmed. Also keep in mind if you get married and you go through the teen years with them they'll go through the oh so painful "you're not my daddy" phase. Just think carefully about what you're getting into.
458794
I think that if it were me... You would be the better choice... less numbers in the equation. your kids and hers wouldnt have to get along since you dont have any. the only thing i can think of is that she might not want to have anymore children and you do. Just talk to her and tell her you want to be a stable father and husband. IF your not to that point tell her what you feel about everything and i mean everything write down questions and answer them and talk to her about them to see how much you have in common.
1038796
I'm ready to get married. I have finished two degrees (BA and Masters), and have a clear plan for what I feel the rest of my life should be like - the pursuits, the activities, the financials, etc. I am tired of casual dating, and want to connect with someone on a deeper level. I am considering a child, but I am really undecided on children - STILL - so it's NOT the biological clock thing. It's not a factor at all.
744701
You could ask her straight out what she is looking for.  If you're not willing to spend some quality time at home with her to get to know her, you may want to move on.  You know what it's like to have children so I'm sure you understand how difficult it must be for her to raise two children on her own and why she is busy and can't get out much.  Her children will always come first or, atleast they should.  Perhaps you should rearrange some things in your life if you truly would like to get to know this woman.
268401
I think the decision to have children or not have them is a personal one, and it is only right or wrong to the person making the decision.  I have no children, never wanted children and do not ever want children.  I know people older than me that never had children (by choice) and have no regrets about their decision, it was the right one for them.  I also know people that didn't really want children, but had them because they felt pressured, people told them it was "their duty" to have children, and they were never really happy once they were born, and have said that if they could do it again, they would not have had the kids.\n\nBasically, I think it is better to not have children if you know you do not want them than to have them even though you do not want them, because eventually the children do pick up on the fact that they were never wanted, and it just brings unhappiness all around.
604331
You really have to follow your heart on that one, my friend!  Before I met my husband, I opted to stay single for MANY years, because I just couldn't be bothered with the bs of the dating ritual and all the games that go along with that ride!!  Usually when you are not looking to fall in love is when it hits ya right between the eyes!!  Don't worry about what is right or wrong (or "normal"-whatever the heck THAT is!!) in the eyes of others...as long as YOU are comfortable with your choices, then right on!  As for choosing not to have children....I believe that it takes a more thoughtful person to decide that they do not want to raise children!  Soo many people have children for all the wrong reasons and raising a child is NOT to be taken lightly..it is a lifetime commitment full of many ups and downs.  That is a personal and very private decision that a person makes. I have alot of respect for those who know what they want (and not what they think others want for them)! Good Luck!!