my girl left me and went back to the rich bastard who was abusive in everyway what should i do?
536304
let her be. she is a big girl.
442901
u have to try to be strong...think about why she broke up with u if u dont know ask her. try to stay on her good side and fight to get her back but dont allow her to see how hard u r tryin if she is takin u for granted cuz she will never take u back she will keep playin with your emotions but if she needs to see how hard u r tryin to get her back let her see. if there is no way u can get her back then seek help from a pro. meanwhile talk to someone about it cry if u have to and make sure u think about the good times and not the bad cuz that will make u feel worst. if u really love her then i think u should put up a fight its better than not tryin at all. as time passes u will start feelin better u will not see it now bcuz she just broke up with u but as time passes u will see things gettin easier. its not gonna happen over night at all this is a healing process. if u wanna talk further about it ill be there for u. email me at jbhola87@yahoo.com...till then feel better. PRAY!
138991
Well, I just left the guy that I was with.  At first I had a really hard time dealing with him.  He made my life miserable and he f'd up a lot of opportunities that I had.  I hated him so much, but I practiced a lot of restraint and didn't let my anger take over the situation because we had a child together.\nIt sucks that she is being so hateful toward you, especially since you have a child together and you'll always have to deal with each other.\nI do not know what happened between the two of you, but here is what I would suggest if you really want to help things smooth out between the two of you so that you can sucessfully co-parent together.  I would say:\nI am sorry for the things that happened between us, that things did not work out, and I respect that you have hard feelings and that you are angry with me.  I want to give you the space that you need to work through this and I will be willing to talk if you need to.\n\nThen from there, you really have to be willing to hear her out and don't interupt her when she tells you how she feels about you or what happened, don't try to justify anything, just let her vent.  It will help her to move on.  You guys are obviously not going to be friends anytime soon, but that's not the point, just make sure there is ample opportunity to discuss anything child related and leave it at that\n\nMost likely she is so mean because she is hurt that the relationship is ended. She resents you and with time it will hopefully get better, but unfortunatly there are women out there who never let it go and the best thing to do is to let them think they are right.  Remember, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...\nJust be the best father you could be, your kid is all that really counts anymore.\nDon't let her drag you into arguements about anything because if things get nasty, anything you say could later be brought up against your nature if you go to court over custody.\nBe the better person.
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I've been in your shoes and you have stated in your question exactly what the problem is. "I gave up everything for her all my friends and everything" The problem is just that. You gave up everything. Now you have nothing left, not even yourself. You invested everything in her and she took it and ran. The best I can tell you is that it's gong to take some time. This might sound crazy to you right now but it will make sense later trust me. First forget her!! This is the hardest part. Constantly remind yourself that you deserve better.  2nd forget dating others for awhile. The last thing you need it to jump in a relationship with someone when your still hurting over the first one. Your pain clouds your judgment and you may get into something you wish you hadn't. 3rd and most important, try to get back the things you gave up. Find your old friends and make some new ones as well. Start doing things that you enjoy. Find yourself again. It takes time man but we have all gotten through it and you can too.
842092
My advice to you is DO NOT give him any money. Hang up the phone when he calls. If he has been beating you notify the police in your dity or town and get a restraining order on him if possible. If you feel threatend by him you might consider going to a women's shelter. You can find numbers for them in your local phone book. Don't let this crazy ruin your life. Do whatever you can to take charge of your life and stay away from him. Men who beat their wives cannot be trusted. Do not believe him when he tells you he will not do it ever again. He will. Get to a women's shelter AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Do not tell your friends or family where you are going just go. These places have all kinds of resources to help you and to get you moving in the right direction. You need to get your life back don't let him ruin you or your life. Please do this for yourself you do not deserve to be treated badly just because you married this guy.Please get help TODAY!\nLL
679033
I GUARANTEE that you did the right thing.  I have been there, done that.  If he really loved you, he would not have treated you that way.  Who is more important to you, him or your baby girl?  Do you want your baby girl raised in that type of environment?  Your daughter is your life at this moment.  She comes before ANYBODY, even yourself.  If you love your daughter, think of what is best for her and you will know in your heart that you did do the right thing.  I strongly commend you for getting out of the hell you AND your daughter were in.  NO MAN IS WORTH THE VERBAL, PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ABUSE.
276766
I dumped her!! BIg mistake on my part but you can't go back some times
1076798
Try to stay with some close friend or relatives.  Even if you don't have anyone that lives around you - contact your family that lives out of state and tell them your situation and that you need to get out.  Most people are pretty understanding when it comes to physical abuse -especially of a family member.  Stay with a family member for a while until you can get on your feet.  \nIt will be hard for you to leave, but if he's abusing you - you need to get out.  You don't want your daughter growing up thinking that what he does is ok, and you certainly don't want him hitting her.  Get in touch with any family you can and get out of there asap.
834103
Leave him. I'm sure you are a beautiful person who could do much better and find a more loyal man for you. And as for him and the whore, they'll get there's.
865888
First of all you ask for forgiveness and then you move on.  Do not keep beating yourself up for something you can not undo.  Then you need to make sure that you do not get involved with him again.  He may try to restart this toxic relationship up again because it worked for him.  You were used, keep reminding yourself of this so you don't go back to him, I have been there.  Everytime you try to justify all the good things he did, remind yourself of the pain he has inflicted on you and his family.  Stop beating yourself up...You will get thru this.
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Absolutely NO ONE deserves to be abused, no matter what the abuser says. Get out ASAP before things get much worse. Go to a shelter. Go to your parents, if you can. Go to a friends place, if you can. Go to your church, if you go to one. If there are kids involved, take them to the shelter with you because without you there, he could abuse them in your place and blame them for you leaving. There are always ways to get out, with or without money. There is NO excuse good enough to stay in a relationship where there is abuse. I know. I have been in that situation.
306054
Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
212180
If you want her back, apologize and promise to be good, and keep that promise. Otherwise, get out in the world and start dating again. You'll find someone new to care for.
831110
i think you need to get out as fast as you can.you deserve so much better, and he is just a waste of your time.
1158787
sell he's things on ebay... burn he's clothes... pay a bum 50 dollar to kick the shit ot of him... Then pt drugs in hes pocket and ring the police and say he hit you... Then break up with him because he is a looser... Take Care I wish you all the happiness in the world but get rid of him... It's only money... Good Luck... I will give you a hug if you need one... i feel sorry for you...
1149976
Sounds like he's doing drugs.\nIf he has been physically abusive it is time to get out no matter how much you think you love the guy.\nThere is someone else that will treat you better.
1016435
Oh my GOD!!! That has to be the saddest story that I have ever read on here. You poor poor fella. This is for you *A great big hug* If it helps I have some nice boobs. I hope the best for you, and you have to remember that Tomorrow WILL BE BETTER!!! It has to be. You should think about dumping that skank of a ho girlfriend You deserve a lot better and you know that you do, and you should think about going to the doctor and if you need a little help there is no shame in it, I too have been cheated on and it is the worse and most horrible feeling, I had to go on Zoloft, but the good thing is that it helps and once you can come out of the fog of depression you can see more clearly. You deserve better! Get you a plan of action and figure out what you need to do, Evalute every aspect of your life... is it time for a lifestyle change... change of job, if at all possible kick her out because adding a move on top of everything is going to be more stressful, and what a B*tch to laugh at you after what you went through, find a safer jogging route... and did you ever think that maybe that guy punched you because she is banging him? I kinda wondered that when I read, because that is just too strange that a guy would punch you for NO reason, and then she laughed on top of it... Go out with some friends or family, if you don't have any... make some, you need to surround yourself with loving and caring people. Best of luck to you, and I hope that your nose isn't broken a nice guy like you doesn't deserve that. *Another big hug and maybe a  little kiss on the cheek*