Is grounding your 14 year old the same thing as "cutting off your nose to spite your face" ???
535133
It can seem like it sometime.  I have read your other answers and wonder if any of them have had to be in the same house with a teenager that you are punishing.  Good luck...this to shall pass.
1180860
Yes!!  I'm 28 and I remember kids calling generic shoes buddies.  They would use that term when they were making fun of someone's lame shoes.\n\nKids are mean....but it's funny you reminded me of that.
281403
you know what...i had a whole paragraph written about how immoral it was and what kind of sleeze you were, but then i erased the entire thing (and wrote this).  i feel like i need to pretect this sixteen year old girl and give her advice...but when i think about it, it is really up to us girls to do what is right.  we cant' rely on guys because many like you don't give a f*** about us.  when girls cry and complain about guys being like you, we really need to take all of the blame because we are letting guys be jerks.  we want so desperatly to be loved and admired that we give all we have and end up with nothing.  she is "down for it"  because you made her believe she is.  and she is dumb for letting you tell her she is.
709721
Someone is going to punch his face in. He is looking for trouble. Even though he is your cousin, you should stay away from him as much as possible. He is rude and ignorant.
88840
No. NEVER admit to it by apologizing to it! Look at the person to your left/right and wrinkle your nose delicately.
688928
Our moms used to tell us to say this when people where being mean to us.  Sticks and stones thrown at us will break my bones and hurt me, but supposedly if we ignore their words, they won't hurt us.  The reality is that words do hurt and will last a lifetime.  Now parents teach children to use their words for helping and praising and not for hurling insults and hate filled remarks.
911150
The more you show him that this word upsets you, the more he'll say it. He knows it pushes your buttons. Hey, he's a little brother. That's the way they are. It's their job to snitch on you, copy everything you say & do, and find words that annoy you. Unfortunately, if he's not listening to your good counsel about keeping his yap shut, someone will do it for him, relieving you of all responsibility. So, if you've told him, and you've told your parents, your job's done. Let the chips fall where they will. And don't allow him to see that it bothers you. This works well on all the other stuff that he's been annoying you with too. How do I know this? I'm a little sister, though grown up now. <*)))><
796948
when i was like 8, we did it all the time. like when you swore to do something. we would both spit in our palms and shake on it. pretty gross thinking back on it.
966380
My 14 year old daughter, who I feel is a normal, well adjusted teenager sometimes has an attitude, is sometimes taken as rude, but is really not being so. She will say things like, "Gah Mom, you're just so off the chain, DUH!"  and while I know what she means, but some of my friends take her as rude. She's a straight A student, is on the Varsity tennis team, is on the Pom Squad, has gorgeous long blond hair that is dyed bright pinkish-purple, her navel is pierced, and she sometimes dyes her hair black and goes with the Goth look.  She is not allowed to have a boyfriend and I know where she is 24/7... when I call the land line she is supposed to be at, she is there... I don't go for checking on her with cell phones.  She gets pouty when she doesn't get her way, and whines and mopes, just like all kids do, but if I squirt her with a water bottle, she straightens up.  I think for the most part, teenagers are good kids, they are just taken on face value and are not really understood.   I was an 80s kid, so maybe I just see kids differently, I know what's under those grungy clothes.. just kids being kids.
317788
Yes a few time....some kids played it off (tickle By girl used to be considered affection maybe but when the tickling is harassment/non warranted only the ignorant would laugh.  It's like demeaning the kid, trying to dominate another thru himiliation and thats plain bulling...In the grow up world it is call Abuse.  I Remember playing hero once whe I saw a kid from school being tosssed aorungd a tickle cirle by the bigger boys and he's already had an accident. I skipped up to them and stareting talking over bullies heads and distracted them enough that we got a great head start.   Oh and left 2 of the Big MACHO's standing in the middle of the park bad set of Woodies. and a bag of skittles in there hand.
1029649
Well if the Doctors  cant help you. Its unlikely that some nose picking  14 year old on here will be able too.  Find another Dr Or check with a specialist.
570989
I agree.  I'm not talking about a little slip either.  Kids who walk along cussing up a storm.  They think it makes them look and sound adult/cool.  Little do they know adults think of them as immature children.  One of these days, I think I'll start walking beside them and cuss up a storm of my own to let them know just how cool it really is....better not, they'll probably just beat me up.  Let me think about it for a while.
1116466
ROFL !!!!!!!!!!!sorry but I have raised 3 of those little tigers....... and yes a beating is a natural reaction on your part, but I do not think it would work..... it would prob make it worse......  you have a boy that is turning into a little man right before your eyes...... the hormones , mood swings the talking back are all NORMAL things..... don't let him get to you sister !!! the more you react to it the more act he will put on for you..... they have a job to do, and that job is to drive us crazy or as close to it as they can get....... write down the house rules on a board along with the punishment that goes with each rule if broke.... explain it to him in adult language, that is what he is needing, to be treated as a young adult, remember he is between worlds right now.. so tell him you will treat him as he acts...... he acts like an adult he gets treated as such....... if he acts like a child he gets treated as such...... do NOT argue or yell or show fear or anger.... they are like wild animals at this age....... ROFL, sorry again, but I just had a flash back, and it is NOT from drugs !!! take a deep breath and plane your strategy, and get Dad involved if possible... a united front is what is needed here............ a big hug and a bigger GOD BLESS
286434
"You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose."\n\nSometimes there's just nothing to be done about it. It's like someone inside your head is screaming out at the top of his lungs, "Pick it! Pick it!" So, well, one does.\n\nI live in NYC, & one of my neighbors & I have too good a view into each other's apartments. I swear, that guy picks his nose all the time. When I noticed that he does, I got very self-conscious & have tried to curtail my own picking.\n\nIt's curious that the whole world isn't covered by flecks of booger about 10 feet deep, since people are picking and flicking 24/7.\n\nThanks for the question. I can breathe easier.
1072904
This is something mothers have done for decades, but is officially frowned on. I think it would burn if the area is raw from the cold. Anyway, you don't put it in your nose so much as around the nostrils.
741965
It is the child equivalent of get stuffed. If someone pokes there tongue they are basically disrespecting you. Usually a quick slap under the jaw will end that habit.
289410
Assault and Battery @ 14 years old\nUnlawful Entry @ 14 years old\nUnderage Consumption @ 14 years old\nViolation of Curfew @ 16 years old\n\n\nI've come a long way since then.  I'm now going on 24 and I make more money than my parents do, and I'm working on Associates in Applied Science for Veterinary Technical Science...\n\nAnd they said I'd never amount to anything!!!