How come gay guys are so mean especially to each other?
540037
As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....
728711
Look dont drive yourself crazy with this stuff. They hate because they got no brain. And they hate to make themselves feel better. I used to hate gays and i NEVER KNEW REALLY WHY! Until I got to know some in a nonsexual manner. And you know what ...their just like YOU and Me. I used to be like them. I was ignorant so I guess the answer from me is... their ignorant. Live and let...
1126278
because people are cruel and want to target someone that is different then them. I wish everyone would just leave gay people alone. They are also human beings with feelings!!
258928
Okay for men to like men? Must all men hate each other? Men should like each other. Can't we all get along?\n\nUnless you mean in a homoerotic way. Because if that's where you are going, Don't go there. Not acceptable. Choose to be normal dude, cause it is a choice.
297608
I think this has something to do with being branded gay themselves.It's stigmatic, although very narrow minded, it's still out there all over the world. People are afraid of anything, or one in this case who are different and make quick assumptions.Hey, I had two great big trucky guys living across the road from me, both looked like rough rednecks, but they where very gay.Lovely guys though. Men are very egoccentric when it comes to their own manhood.
32347
they might not know they are being insensitive. girls can be hypersensitive, and boys don't understand why. maybe he's saying things that sound good in his head, but come out wrong. maybe he's doing it to look macho in front of his friends. there are a multitude of reasons. unless they are emo or gay (or dr. phil) there is no way a guy will be able to know exactly how you want him to respond to anything...therefore he doesn't respond right, and you label him as insensitve.
723009
I think by using the words "boys" with the punctuation, you are meaning men here who act like boys.  If so, I agree.  Men who are insecure build themselves up by put downs against others, sometimes women.  Perhaps they had fathers that modeled the behavior for them.  Or perhaps they hate women b/c they were mistreated and/or abused by their mothers.  Who knows?  I know one thing...many of them go home to their wives/girlfriends after a day of acting "macho" and cry like helpless little babies they are...believe me its true.
232858
this is what gets me woundering about gay/ lesbians...if a guy is gay he says he dont like woman....but he dresses and tries to look like a woman....then there are lesbians says i cant stand men but the get the short hair cuts and dress like a man work out like a man and try to be like a man...so if someone dont like the oposite sex why do they try so hard to be just like them.... i do agree with you its just nasty.....my comment on the subject,,,
22478
Guys, and also girls, can be mean sometimes. However, You are responsible of the way those guys are treating you. If you project a personality of zero tolerance for disrespect of your person, your time, or your property, those guys are going to react and start treating you well.
681988
Unusual, yes, most straight guys I know are freaked out by gay men.  I wish I could find a straight man that is comfortable around gay people.  My best friend (whom I live with) is gay and I would love to find a man that would be comfortable with my best friend .
23537
Believe me hon, there are plently of ugly and mean gay guys too.  Just wait, there are plenty of nice, attractive, straight men out there.
11715
Becuase that is insulting, and rude, Thats like walking up to a person of another race and using "hate" words to them, like racial slurs etc. its the same concept. It offends them. And maybe they aren't completely out of the closet, and have only told a few people, and you calling them gay is sending a signal, to them that they can nont trust you.
503039
They can insult each other's manhood in the same way straight men do. Just as there are plenty of effeminate straight men there are a lot of masculine gay men. Insulting one's manhood is even more prevalent in the gay community since your sexual orientation has already knocked you down a point on that. So they make it up by being even better than the other boys. It is an insult for a gay man to be compared to a woman just as it would be for a straight man.
1034271
Because being a bad boy means you are a CHALLENGE baby! Nice "sweet" guys often come across as predictable and boring, and that is why even I am not a "nice" guy. \n\nTo sum up, dump those losers and come roll with me - but I'm picky! lol
850136
If you look at the homophobes, many are doing it out of fear. I suspect that most of those who spout anti-gay or homophobic insults are in fact gay themselves, but will not admit it. Just think about how many scandals there have been lately where someone who is vociferously anti-gay has turned out to be gay themselves!
883656
Because these guys don't start out disrespecting them.  They usually treat them like princesses in the beginning... and these guys add an excitement to the relationship that you don't get with the nice guys.\n\nBy the time they start treating the girl like crap so she's so far in she doesn't really realize it.  This is also how girls wind up in abusive relationships.  Even the strongest of women can fall into this pit of despair.\n\nI've had happen to me.  Bu I ditched that jerk after a year and am now engaged to a sweet, loving man.  \n\nWomen just have to figure it out for themselves.. Unfortunately.
622467
Honey,\n\nIt's not that you are gay.  Most people use gay as a synonym for quiet (Beta in anthropological terms if you would) and attack bois that they perceive as weaker than themselves, in order to build themselves up.  This reduction of the humanity of other males perceived as weaker than the self dates back to ealier times -- when commonly the males of a victorious army raped the losers, not because they were gay, they weren't -- but rather because it demeaned those raped and clearly demonstrated their dominance (it is the same mentality that prevades prisons).\n\nYou are not picked on because people really think you are bi or gay -- though you happen to be, most of those who call you a faggot would be extremely surprised to discover you are actually homosexual.  You are picked on because you are thought of as weak.\n\nPity those who do this.  The fact that so many males of our species have not evolved past that point is truly pathetic.  Be yourself, and don't worry about hatred of fools.  If you need to talk to someone, email me at believeinyou24@yahoo.com . \n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\nhttp://www.rebuff.org