Do you think that it's fair for poor people to have children and raise them in poverty.  I feel that if your
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I agree! It's not fair to the children...
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It's  your question that's not fair. \n\nWhat would be fair would be to ask that same question to all those neglected children, all those who have grown up in Ghettos and poverty, whether or not it was fair that  they were born. \n\nYou could also ask them if they would please consider ending their lives, so life would be more fair for you, and  you wouldn't be pissed off.\nReply to IV...98 re comment\nOK..I agree there is something to say for responsible parenting...but the issue of having children...the consequences of whether to bring a life into this world or not...is a bit overwhelming when you imagine yourself speaking to one of these children who 'should not be here' if their parents had been  responsible citizens. That's what I meant. I think a more appropriate question is "why don't people take better care of their children?"
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No, it should not. I think it should be conditional for EDUCATION. It has been proven, especially in the usa, that people who are more educated have fewer children.
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Your tirade has some merit my friend. I don't think necessarily that people want our 'pity', but I do believe we have engaged and supported a society of people who have become lazy and unwilling to push it to the limit to ensure they are working, able to support their families and care for their young.  I teach 8th graders and I can't believe that I see in them the same attitudes you are speaking of.  They are getting this 'spoon feed me attitude' from their parents.  I have watched as a young man of 31 I know - who has been drugging for 8 years, go through one marriage, a relationship of 5 years and now is hooked up with a 2 time looser of a mother of two kids she does't even raise(fathers in jail) and has her pregnant with his child (maybe), It's the children I feel sorry for because they are probably going to be the ADHD/Bipolars in my class in the next 5-10 years.  Yes, personal responsibility and accountability has much to be counted in these cases.  All we can do is pray for them and hope that education and exposure to programs to help raise the level of self-esteem will help the next generation of people.
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Yeah, remember money is the root of all evil?!  Our society has taught people to totally be into status and things, possessions, including one's home.  People feel no guilt whatsoever putting their children in daycare possibly with adults that don't even like them, as long as they can continue to drive the nice car and live in the nice house.  Personally, I have an education but have chosen to let my husband make a worthwhile living, while I stay home and make my family's living 'worthwhile.'  Not everyone has that opportunity, guess I'm lucky.
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I would think, "is that your baby daddy in dat photo an why aint he given you some his money?"\n\nThan I would think well I came from a very well to do family, well my grandparents were very wealthy, however, because my Mom had a baby out of wedlock and he happened to be by a black man she was forced to use the welfare system, so I would say use it for what it is and get back on your feet and do well by yourself, welfare is there to help you when in need so no judgments there just getting the help you need.
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Lack of education and understanding. I feel our schools and society fail miserably to prepare students for life on the outside. When I finally got out on my own I didn't have a clue how to obtain an apartment, phone or utilities. I didn't know how to shop for bargains, balance a checkbook or manage my money. I was raised to beleive that if you work hard you will do well. That is not necessarilly the case. Life is competitive. You either choose to compete or you don't, however, we are not all endowed with equal abillities. Handicaps are not always visible. Some people seem to have been born with everythiong going for them. Others seem to never get a break. I am a healthy middle aged individual. All I have ever wanted is to be able to earn a moderate living. This I have accomplished but it is not a secure living nor is it moderate to everyone's standards. According to most people I have a moderate house, 2 used cars and the abilities to pay the bills and still have a little left over however I make twice as much as the average individual. There are many things I could do without, such as the second car and all expenses incured by it, my multimedia system including my computer, tv's, vcrs'dvds, cell phones... And then, there's all my other belongings such as boats, bikes, fancy clothes, toys, gadgets, dining out, nightclubs and all the expenses incurred therein as well. All this and I live alone! I know many familys with four generations living under the same roof just to survive. Now, here is the point, would I be willing to share it all if I knew I could get a family or even an individual off the street? Would you?\n I think the biggest cause of poverty is a lack of understanding, a willingness to turn a blind eye.\n Laziness? Yes, I feel laziness is the root cause of poverty, not on behalf of the impoverished but on behalf of all of us who continue to allow it to go on, all of us who feel someone else will do something about it.\n How do we fix it? Seek those who have not, find out why not and help them to overcome.\n Put and end to beurocracy, pork barrel programs, illicit foreign aid, tax evaders and gougers so we can have the money it will take to help.\n Teach our schools to focus more on 'Life Economics' and make it a requirement. Identify the individual talents of children and guide them along the right path for them. Don't penalize and ridicule them because they may not be good at math, taking tests or sports. Stop being so damned two dimensional and realise there is a universe of possibilities awaiting all of us if we could only recognise the abillities of all individuals istead of a stereotyped few. Please forgive my longwinded answer but your's was a question worthy of the time. May we all prevail.
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Yes, because they actually want to have a child, and will raise them with love and support. Unlike people who become parents everyday who don't want children or who don't have the skills to raise them right.
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Listen I have two children and if one is sick and the other needs lunch money I am not going to ignore the one that needs the money,and make him go without so I could tend to the other.When you have children you look out for all of them not just the one with the biggest need.
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I suppose they think it's acceptable because if the government is going to pay them for having babies, why not?  Of course, I do believe that it's unfair to lay all the blame at the women's feet.  No one forces the men not to wear condoms.  It takes two to make a baby and both should be held responsible.\n\nI think that, instead of rewarding people who have all of these illegitimate children, the government should penalize them.  I know that sounds harsh, but the system is being taken advantage of.  I think that people who have no children or one child should be rewarded with a larger tax refund each year. People with two children should get nothing more, but nothing taken away and people with three or more children should be taxed more.  (Of course, if a law like this were passed, I'd say that people who already have three or more should be grandfathered in and be viewed as people who have two children.)
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Yes, I think you should be upset!\nIf someone is getting back more than they pay in... WE have to pay more than we should. \nThat certainly pi$$es me off!!! I'm not responsible for their 9 kids, or their low paying job, so why do I have to pay more??\nIt's just like illegal alliens collecting welfare....NOT RIGHT!
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I believe in it to TEMPORARY help families but I'm tired of seeing people abuse it.\nLike the people that get it and never work and they keep having babies with different guys etc.\ni see people on welfare that have better shoes and clothes and jewelery then I have. That makes me mad.
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People of society can help those who are in situations where the person has ended up with more children than they can afford (for whatever reason).  Churches and private organizations have been doing this for years in an effort to help the children grow to become responsible members of society. \n\nIt is unfair that one can turn to the government and the government forces its citizens to help support people who have ended up in these situations. It's a matter of choices of how to help and where you can do the most good. Government seems to want your money without consideration of time or talent. Where as private organizations ask for money but are more than willing to also accept your time and talents to help out.\n\nWe short change ourselves in this area all the time. I really wish people would see the benefits of real charity and not in thinking that throwing money at it through taxes is going to be good enough. It just isn't good enough.
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Some do. Here is my opinion though I was homeless when from the age of 17 till 19 thats two years it was because my father was abusive and I didnt want any part of it so I left I prefered to be on the street rather than live with someone who beat me everyday and yes there was the option for me to live in a group/foster home but when I tryed that people where just as abusive and so I chose the life of the streets. I did use my time wisely though I found a job and worked my butt off and did nothing but safe my money I didnt spend a penny unless I really really needed something. I save my money till I had enough to rent a studio. I never dreamed i'd have the luxarys I have today. I have a 2 bedroom townhouse with everything ive ever dreamed of and I am never hesitant to give out money to others in need, because i've been there and I volanteer my time to the local shelters as much as I can because I know how bad it is and I am just one of the lucky ones to get myself out've living on the street. I think more people need to help the homeless not just giving money or anything but you can donate your time to help those in need or something. I feel though that i've you dont try to at least take yourself out've poverty than I dont want to help you. I feel for the homeless children out there especially because I know just what its like and NO kid out there no matter what they've done or whats being done to them should not be out on the street. Gosh I could go on and on about this topic I give you a thumbs up for this topic.
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Unfortunately, there is strong and heated debate with little headway.\n\nSome would argue that this country supports poor ( needy ) families that seem to bring more children, and needs upon themselves.\nMany of these families make a strong case against themselves when they abuse help programs by claiming more children than they have, working cash jobs and collecting, selling food stamps for drugs while their children are not fed.\n\nStill others will claim that it is not ethical to suppress a humans most inherent instinct, to procreate.\n\nThere is far too much drug abuse and careless sex, resulting in unwanted or unmanageable pregnancies. Still many of the young expectant mothers are entitled to aid, especially when a child is involved. The new parents find there is income with the child and keep it. Far too often the income does little or no good for the child.\n\nI do not think you are crazy, I do think we need far more sophisticated checks and balances.
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no arguement there, but some women need the help to raise the child. It is wrong that the fathers dont have a choice whether or not the woman can abort a child. I only think child support should be forced if the mother doesnt have the means to support the child, but for women out there who make good money the fathers shouldnt have to, that doesnt mean you shouldnt want to support your child. They are your child/children.. you helped create them you should by moral standards help support them... to many guys think that they can just screw whomever and if they get them pregnant they run off and dont take any responsibility for taking care of the child. Its very hard for single mothers to raise children on their own especially when they can't get the best jobs. I know many women who have struggled to raise a child on their own without the support of the father. It is your responsibility, and I do think that the court should not appoint child support unless the woman is proven to be low income... Many guys who get appointed to pay child support dont for their children and I think its sad. That they dont love their child enough to help in their care. The child isnt just the mothers its your child as well.. But yeah I agree with you to a certain extent and I do think the father should have a say in whether or not a child is aborted... But if the mother doesnt want the child and the father does then the father should be the one to take care of the child... I think its sad that abortion occurs anyway. Just because many women can afford to take care of the child or have the help, and Im not talking about the raped ones and children having children. Im talking about twenty year olds and up just having an abortion because they screwed someone and didnt use proper precautions and then tried to just get rid of the baby... its selfish... anyway I concur with your opinion, and recognize that you have some good points... but there are way to many dead beats out there who wont help when the women really need the help... It takes two to make a baby... ps. I think its great that you are taking responsibility for your child and helping to support them.
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All the time, when i was a kid i thought i was going to be something big when i grew up, but now I'm poor, married, and already have a baby. But i would not change it for anything. I love my son and my husband, But i do wish i had more money.