my husband is doing things to stress me out and also he acts like he doesnt care what should i do?
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WELL IF HE WAS ABUSE AS A CHILD THEN ITS SAD TO SAY THAT IS WHAT HE KNOWS BUT DONT KNOW WHY. GET HELP SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO STICK BY HIM BUT HE HAS TO GET HELP IF HE DONT WANT HELP THEN DONT STRESS LEAVE HIM BE BECAUSE WHY SHOULD YOU BE UNHAPPY CAUSE ONE PERSON DONT WANT HELP EVEN THE BIBLE SAYS SO GOD WILL HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEM SELF SO NO NEED TO TRY AND PUSH HIM TO DOING SOMETHING HE DONT WANT MOVE ON AND BE HAPPY I WISH YOU LUCK
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Honesty is the BEST policy...\n\nTalk to him about what's bothering you...otherwise...what is he suppose to do? He can't read your mind. \n\nMy husband works his butt off too and comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...gets up the next day, goes to work, comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...and so on.\n\nI feel the same way you do at times, but we need to understand, (which we both do) that he is tired and drained.  This does NOT interpret that he does not love you or find you unattractive...he's just tired.\n\nTry scheduling something for you and him on his day(s) off something special to do...don't wait for him...just do it.\n\nPray for courage and uplifting...\nTry to get some sleep... :)
812277
Try talking to him first if U havent already,both of you handle this right and you will be happy rather than a leach (lawyer).You may save enough to pay your bills with less stress.
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You might want to talk to him about it and let him know that it bothers you.  You and he can make an agreement about what he will do in future similar situations.  If he's not willing to do what you want, you'll have to decide how you feel about that.
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Your first option is to ask him.  Make sure you don't do it as an attack, or he'll probably cover it up.  Also, if you do it as an attack, and he isn't cheating, then he'll feel resentful and feel like any trust you two had, is gone.  Another option is to ask a friend {or PI} to watch your husband for a while.  Call him at work to see if he's there, find out what he's doing if he's "working extra hours"  Check emails, internet history, phone calls in and out, and so on.  Don't be afraid to pop in at lunch to surprise him with a home cooked meal.  This will give you extra time with him, make him feel special, and also thwart plans if he's trying to cheat.  Also, see if there are people that are with him often, that you feel you could get an honest answer from.  But honestly, I think asking him first, in a very soft and subtle tone, is your best bet.  But remember, never ask a question you can't handle any answer too.  I don't mean don't get angry or mad, but make sure you're at a place with yourself that you can hear what he has to say to you, no matter what his answer is.  I wish you all the best, insecurities, whether real or not, always hurt.
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Probally cause you have a anger and control problem, before you loose him I would consider going to the people who can help you deal with this and get some counseling. Onedeay he may get tired of your crap and leave you, then you will be misserable.
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Talk to your husband and ask him what it is he wants to to change if he is being reasonable take his suggestions into account and try to implement them, but don't go out of your way to make him happy at the expense of your own happiness. You love each other so you can work though this to make it work.
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Relax, you don't know each other that well yet, particularly since this in an arranged marriage.  If he takes offense to this, wait for him to calm down, apologize and explain to each other those things that you can't tolerate.  Maybe he doesn't like being told to shut up.  You have some things that cross the line with you I'm sure.  This situation is particularly tough, but you'll get used to it.  Just give him some time to cool down and quit freaking.
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Read your first 2 sentences.  Your husband wants you to open up to him more.  Then he does things that make you angry.  \n \nHe is doing these things to elicit a response from you that reaffirms your love for him.  It's like a cat & mouse game for him.  He's doing what he wants to do, while you wait & worry for him.\n\nTurn the tables...go out with your girlfriends; don't call him back; tell him you'll be at one club, but go to another in case he tries to find you.\n\nThen later, when he's pissing & moaning about how you mistreated him, tell him "Now you know how I feel when you do this to me".  Sometimes guys need this to open their eyes.
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The scorn that 'The Pilot' has just poured out on you in unjustified.  Your husband made marriage vows, you have needs, if he were in your shoes he would probably have done something about the situation long ago.  I think you need to take a complete break from routine, say go to a hotel, order in dinner, and talk to each other.  Remind him of the times he chased you around, tell him how lonely you are, how hurt you feel, how you need more than the nothing you are being given.  With his health problems, I'd be bothering my wife as if every day were my last!\nYou deserve to be loved, more than the love for a piece of furniture, which is all he is showing you.  He loves having you around, wouldn't know what to do without you, etc.  It's very difficult to think of leaving someone you have so much history with, and who is in poor health, but DON'T let guilt keep you unfulfilled.\nTALK!
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U R IN A VERY VERY DELICATE POSITION.I FEEL HE IS "ACTING" CHILD LIKE. IT WOULD BE BETTER IF U LIVE SEPARATELY FROM UR IN-LAWS IF IT IS AFFORDABLE
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I am in the same situation honey.  I would say to be completely honest with him, and be ready to compromise.  The best way to get through this is to talk with him about how you feel, and then try to find a solution together that suits both of you.  It may still be hard, but it will be easier if there are a few things you can both agree on.  The other thing you need to ask yourself is what is really bothering you?  Are you upset because you feel he is ignoring his resposibility to you, or do you think that you may be insecure about your relationship and worried that he's doing more?  Once you figure out exactly why you are upset, it will be easier to fix.
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sounds like he is realy stress out.that symptoms come from a lot of stress
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I think you and hubby need to have an open, honest heart to heart. When he complains about your "cool" behavior tell him, it's easier for you to be more attentive and affectionate when he is treating you with the same loving care. It is possible that he has some under lying problems that he needs to talk about, there may be some changes that he is looking for in the relationship....Just go to him and listen with an open mind. Find out what both of you are missing from the relationship, and make good effort to be sure to do those things...spend some one on one time with each other, doing things you both enjoy, maybe even discover a new hobby together....enjoy loving each other again. We all hit rough patches in our marriages, we just have to work through them.\nGood Luck....you can email me if you need someone to talk to .\n\n\n**** wanted to add after seeing all the cheating answers that yes, they might be a possibility, but I think there would be other signs if that were going on....and This type of behavior doesn't always equal cheating!! Like I said he might just want a little change in the relatioship, or have other problems he needs to work out or talk about.  **** DON'T JUMP TO ANY CONCLUSIONS that could make matters worse, but keep your eyes open. ****
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It sounds as if he is displeased with the state of your life together.  You are both working way too much in my opinion.  You should both cut back.  Then he'll have plenty of time to sleep and you'll have more time to spend together.
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I can't stand how he always asks me, What's wrong? when I tell him nothing, he thinks I'm lying even though nothing is wrong maybe I'm just tired of stressed out thinking about things that are going on at the moment or whatever. He always acts like I am mad at him or something and I won't tell him what he did wrong.
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Really difficult.......it sounds to me that he is fighting you all because it's easier than trying to get along for him right now.  I would sit him down and without getting angry just explain that there are going to be rules in your household from that moment on.  One of them being that no bad language is used.  I wouldn't give him random jobs to do but set a weekly agenda so he knows exactly what is expected of him.  Also have job lists for the other children.  Get them all to agree that they will complete there tasks, then he won't feel picked on the moment you ask him to do something.  You will just have to accept that his time spent in his other home is going to be his 'fun' time because his girlfriend etc is there.  Don't allow him to use this as a stick to beat you with.  The facts are he lives with YOU in YOUR house and must obey the house rules.  \n\nThe sitting in his room alone sounds a little worrying.  I think he wants people to come in to try and coax him out - it may be for attention or it may be that he just likes sitting on his own doing his own thing.  If there is someone in the house that he gets on the best with then send them into him occassionally to just chill with him for 5-10 minutes, stick your head around the door and just ask if he's OK.  \n\nHe is proably unhappy about his situation - every kid would prefer to be living with his real mom and dad.  He will get used to it but the more you fight with him the more you lose!  Set the rules and stick by them - not just for him but for everyone.  Good Luck.