What's the best way to tell a slovenly roommate about their bad habits?
554277
You have to be direct. Let him/her know what is a minimum standard. If you are a neat freak, you may have to give some concessions. \n\nI would suggest a chore list in writing..if that doesn't work..you only choice may be looking for another place. If this roommate is your spouse, then man crapaud smoke yuh pipe...
236682
Ways To Annoy Bathroom Friends   \n \n  1.Stick your palm open under the stall wall and ask your neighbor, ''May I borrow a highlighter?'' \n\n2. ''Uh-oh, I knew I shouldn't put my lips on that.'' \n\n3. Cheer and clap loudly every time somebody breaks the silence with a bodily function noise. \n\n4. ''Hmmm, I've never seen that color before.'' \n\n5. ''Damn, this water is cold.'' \n\n6. Grunt and strain real loud for 30 seconds and then drop a cantaloupe into the toilet bowl from a high place and sigh relaxingly. \n\n7. ''Now how did that get there?'' \n\n8. ''Hummus. Reminds me of hummus.'' \n\n9. Fill up a large flask with Mountian Dew. Squirt it erratically under the stall walls of your neighbors while yelling,''Whoa! Easy boy!!'' \n\n10. '' Interesting....more sinkers than floaters'' \n\n11. Using a small squeeze tube, spread peaunt butter on a wad of toliet paper and drop under the stall wall of your neighbor. Then say,''Whoops, could you kick that back over here, please?" \n\n12. ''C'mon Mr. Happy! Don't fall asleep on me!!" \n\n13. ''Boy, that sure looks like a maggot'' \n\n14. ''Damn, I knew that drain hole was a little too small. Now what am I gonna do?'' \n\n15. Play a well-known drum cadence over and over again on your butt cheeks. \n\n16. Before you unroll toliet paper, conspicusly lay down your ''Cross-Dressers Anonymous'' newsletter on the floor visiable to the adjacent stall. \n\n17. Lower a small mirror underneath the stall wall and adjust it so you can see your neighbor and say, ''Peek-a-boo!''
624043
I have been in this situation before.  1. you really need to stay out of it.  2.  make a list of all of reasons bad roomy should leave.  3.  the roommate that gets kicked out deserves the better half on the items so it will all go smoothly.\nThe reason you should stay out of it is your probably going to come off as being pushy and will more than likely cause disagreement between you and your bf.
409562
Do it in a mature and dignified way.\n\neg. "You know, Zakk, I don't really care for your friends."\n\nIf he's a doofus he'll say, "So" or "Do I care ?"\n\nPerhaps he'll ask you why....be prepared to tell him the truth.....and also be prepared to accept that perhaps you just don't know them very well !
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Go ahead, use force and then they can sue your friend, and then he won't be your friend any more. \n\nAre they really trashy, or just poor?  If they pay their rent, then not having furniture or hanging blankets in windows is not an indicator of trashiness.\n\nHow about this?  Does he keep the plumbing up? Does he flake out and pass the water bill over to his tenants even though there's only one meter and originally he was going to cover this by charging $50 extra per month in the rent?  Now the upstairs is still owed 50% of the water bill by the downstairs?  Does he refuse to get the upstairs people a mailbox?  Does he move marijuana smoking punkers downstairs that are up till three a.m. playing their music and then yelling at the normal people for being awake in the daytime?  Does he care to fix a dishwasher which is leaking into the downstairs apt, which he promised to fix on day one, along with the tub plumbing that's starting to make a huge spot on the ceiling downstairs?  It's the only bathroom, are the renters supposed to not bath indefinately while paying twice the rent of comparable units in the are? Does he insist the upstairs people take care of the gardening, without covering the cost of gardening tools?  Does he refuse to put in writing that there is a refund for the person who is paying 100% of the water bill for both apartments and covering the gardening efforts with her kids?  Did he offer to sell the entire house to both tenants before they even signed a rental lease and cause the one downstairs to go into fuedal mode because of this?  Could the fact he's not fixing anything be because he wants to sell the house right away and never intended to be a real landlord.  If your friend is anything like this, then HE is a slumlord. You're both more trashy than the people you want to kick out.
184113
Make a list of their bad habits or traits that irritated you so much...\nRemember all the bad things about them and be glad you have another chance at happiness in life...\nThis is a blessing in disguise...\nI have been there and done that...\nIt seems terrible at first, but later on, you look back and think, what was I worried about...\nAnd you find yourself in a better place than before...\nBest of luck...
1040216
find a new place, leave the roommate with no warning, just pack up and move on, screw them!
471747
Subtle messages like telling him you will make a drink and need to have a bite to eat but not inviting them to share, don't even make them a coffee.\nStart doing the hoovering/vaccuming shortly after they turn up.
723987
Hand them a bar of soap when they walk into the joint.  Put a background picture of a pile of dog crap on their computer Desktops.  As a last resort, you can wait until they sit down and drop one of those green car air freshners shaped like a tree around their necks.\n\nThere's no excuse for fat lazy slobs not bathing.\n\nFor the nerds: Don't let them in.  You don't need those repulsive people in your place - they'll drop your "cool points" quite a bit.
651252
turn the tables lady!!!!wait till this person is "comming down" from their binge....that's when to move in. when this person is physically drained from hitting the crack pipe one too many times, he or she is vunerable!!!! use an air horn, balst real close to their head for....30 seconds(don't wanna give 'em a heart attack and kill them now!!)then start banging their head into the wall over and over again while insanely screaming..."LEAVE ME ALONE YOU WORTHLESS, WASTED COCKROACH!!!!I DON'T LOVE YOU, AND YOU BETTER NEVER, EVER LOVE ME!! then blast the air horn again for good measure. that outta' make em' think twice before crossing your path again!!!!!
940151
You can discuss pet peeves with your mate.  More often than none, people with annoying habits, don't realize they are doing it.\nIt just comes naturally to them and they do it without a thought.\n\nTalk it through. It's not worth giving up a potentially good relationship based on the petty things
153010
There are two ways you can deal with this situation, your choice depending on your own view over your relanshionship with that person, or your personality.\n1. You can confront her in front of the other housemates (not speak bad things about her behind her back) but rather say how bad she's been treating you, in front of everyone so she'll feel ashamed and possibly not do that again. If you feel you haven't won the confrontation in the end just say (be sure your other friends are there) "You are such a b**ch, you know that!". This is only if you feel extreme pain at what she did to you, and want to get back at her. BUT, if you're willing to forgive her, and you care about her very much there is another way to handle the situation:\n2. Usually this things occur when one person feels frustrated with himself for one reason or another and then she takes it out by lashing at other, let's say more "timid" persons, in this case you. It is possible that, that person has love problems, or other problems. If you know of her having one such major problem, you should confront her in private and talk about her problem, try to listen to her and be suportive. Try to find out if she has a problem from her other friends, If no one knows about it, it doesn't mean she doesn't have one (it means only that she keeps it to herself and because of this she becomes incresingly frustrated). So, if no one knows about it you should confront her and ask: "What's wrong?". Her first answer will be "Nothing", but you have to continue "Oh come on, I know something's wrong" and give your reasons "You have been acting strange all the time(for example)".\nSo, you have two ways to deal with this. You either can be caring and gentle, or you can be agressive and stand up to yourself. From here, it's up to you, and how you feel in your heart you should act :). Good luck.
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Yep. been there done that.  Try talking it out & setting house rules.  If you don't it could likely end up being a much worse situation.\nMake some areas of the house "general" areas.  = Front room - no personal stuff.  that way there is no Junk.\nIf all else fails & you don't mind "stooping to their level" start doing the same exact thing.  After they complain, explain that they have been doing the same thing & you are only trying to get a point across of how much it is bothering you.  Although - the fight resulting may not be worth it.  You will be better off getting a new roommate if the "house rules" do not work
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You have to say what you feel. Say to her without swearing or yelling that you don't appreciate her in your room getting into your things. If she puts up a fuss or her feelings get hurt that is her problem. You said it the best way you could and if her feelings are hurt that's too bad. You have to stand up for yourself.
866415
i sympathize with you. i am living with a slob. she will fill an ash tray to the top before emptying it.  I started emptying the ash tray and washing it. then i started putting all her [on the floor] stuff in the floor in her closet. then i started placing the broom in the kitchen door to bug her. we laugh a lot about my antics but it is starting to work . you don't have to yell or even look angry. just send the subliminal messages along and if he has a brain he will get the message.
69199
Let your friends know that you expect them to respect your space. If it happens again wake them up and say go sleep in your own room, and tell them they are not very respectful.
171902
buy them soap and tell them they stink...honesty it is always the best policy\nOr you can quit your job.