How do you get your husband not to want to have sex with you all the time?
540297
girl i have the same problem just talk to him in my case it dosen't work.  We have four kids and he still wants it all the time we have been together 8 years.  Don't  take it wrong i would like to do it every other day but not EVERYDAY  just try talking to him \n\nGOOD LUCK
639359
My hubby will give me oral all the time and never wants it in return! Hey, it just doesn't do it for some guys.\nWhat does he like best sexually? Give him that and don't worry about what he doesn't care for. Make sure he does the same for you too!\nGood luck!
228439
Your husband is lucky for starters, but there are no normal amounts of sex. Sex is like a good marrage, First you have to be honest, open, try everything and you both have to work at it.Try diffrent things eg dress up, play games, ask him what he likes, give and take, but the most important thing is just to have fun.
345798
If your a man trying to have sex with your wife/girlfriend. you will need to be more sensitive to her feelings, by not ignoring her and watching ESPN and playing video games and hanging with your boys all day. Then when your feeling in the mood u now all of a sudden know her and want to have sex. Men, let me tell u something.Sex is the last thing on a women's mind if she has been working, cleaning the house and taking care of the kids all damn day. So if u want some EVERY NIGHT why don't u cook so she can take a bath. Fold some clothes. You can miss one game (ESPN does have highlights). If life wasn't so stressful we'd all being making love every night.
900734
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
560150
It would depend on which way the ball's rolling.  Is it that YOU don't feel the spark for your husband, or He is no longer attracted to you?  If you don't want to, it could be from being tired from your duties as a mother, in which case you need some rest and some time off, maybe a night or two away with your husband.  It could be from post-partum depression, in which case you probably need to see a Dr. (don't ask Tom Cruise).  If HE is not attracted, walk around the house naked.\n\n(added later) I like opyankees idea, about the panties at the dinner table.  Awesome.
317211
First you have to make sure it's an addiction. Can he stop it if he wanted to? Does it take over his life? Does he get the shakes if he doesn't do it?\n\nThere are addictions...and then there are hobbies. Maybe your husband just genuinely enjoys the challenge of finding things and getting them at E-Bay.\n\nHowever, if it's affecting your relationship then you should bring up the issue with him in a reasonable manner.\n\nIf that does not work withhold sex. He will get the message.
300235
If he won't let you get a toy, tell him that you are having some slight back pain and could you get a wand massager (the kind that plugs in).  Get the Hitachi Magic Wand Massager and when he is around use it for your back.  When he isn't around, use it to get off.  My wife can have an 0rgasm in under a minute with this thing, it is so strong.  And she keeps really, really happy with it.  \n\nOr just really tell him how you feel and that it isn't cheating, just that he never gets you off but he gets to have his 0rgasms, so it is very unfair.  Just tell him you'd like one small di1do, or a magic bullet, or the wand massager I mentioned above.  \n\nI wish my wife could be more horny like you, she never really wants sex with me, even before I got her toys.  I want it several times a day.  Such is life, eh?  And we are 28 too.
437633
I don't think I can ever get enough sex, wish my hubby would stop being a prude 2-3 times a month doesn't cut it for me.  There are other girls out there like me who crave it all the time, what are you waiting for start looking for one lol!
525295
Primal sex is quite often a fantasy of most guys, if I were you I'd have a chat with your hubbie, theres a good chance he will be happy to help you, as long as your not asking him to hit you or anything like that, just tell him that you want him to come home from work and with out saying anything to you, throw you up against the wall, hike up your skirt and rip your panties off and have at it right there on the kitchen table...I serious doubt he will have any problems with that. Talk to him thats the best advise I can give you...Hope this helps, IM me n let me know
545691
The fact that your hubby doesn't want to have sex is a SYMPTOM of something else. You need to figure out the cause. It could be a PHYSICAL problem. There are herbal pills that you can look for at health shops which are safe and might help if he needs a physical/hormonal boost. Read up about Damiana and see if it might help. Then, it could be something like an EMOTIONAL problem. Something could have happened to him when he was a child. Often people who were abused are very sexual before they get married and then after they get married they don't want to have sex anymore. If this is the case, you need to be very supportive because they have feelings of guilt and low self-esteem. If it's not something that happened in his past, then it could have something to do with the INTIMACY between the two of you. Maybe he has an unmet NEED. STRESS also affects a man's libido!! Mabye his work is putting too much stress on him and he needs to do something about it. You need to find out the source of the problem. Counselling can help you.
715749
He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.
360018
Aside from the standard knee-jerk "eeewww" type reactions you received, there was some good advice given.\n\nI'll add my 2 cents.\n\nI doubt that your husband finds you boring in bed. My wife and I consider our swinging adventures to be extended foreplay, not a replacement or a "spicing up". By the way - 5 times a week! Your husband is my hero! :}\n\nThe very first thing you need to know is that just because you attend a swinger's event, there is NEVER any requirement that you participate in ANY type of sexual activity with ANYONE.\n\nThe golden rule in the swinger's world is that "No Means No", if you are asked to do anyuthing that makes you feel uncomfortable just say no, and almost everyone will thank you and drop it. If you get annoyed by someone who decides that if they pester you enough you will give in - immediately go to the host of th eparty and tell them - I'll guarantee that the annoyer will be warned to stay away from you and thrown out if he/she continues to annoy you.\n\nThe other thing you need to know about swinger's events is that you have to prepare yourself for sexually frank conversations - it is really quite ordinary for a near-total stranger to approach, engage you in conversation for a moment and then ask you what you like sexually. Don't be offended, they are simply trying to learn if your wants are compatible with theirs. \n\nIf you are uninterested, simply thank them and tell them you are not interested.\n\nNext. You and your husband need to have a LOT of discussion before and after the event. You need to develop code words and signals to let each other know that you are interested, that you are not interested, that you need to talk, and "HELP! GET ME OUT OF HERE!". As an example, one of the code phrases my wife and I use is "Hey I need a cigarette" - that means "I want to talk to you" and one of our rules is that when one of us uses that phrase - no matter what the other one is doing - we stop and go talk things over.\n\nYou will also need to develop non-verbal signals, you may be in a non-smoking environment for example, so "I need a cigarette" won't work, one of our non-verbal signals is a quick double squeeze which means "Let's talk".\n\nYou will need to include rule setting in your discussion.\n\nRules are CRITICAL for enjoyment and avoiding stress and jealousy.\n\nPlease review the articles on how to set and manage rules effectively located at:\nhttp://www.swinglesonline.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=1\n\nIf you cannot agree on rules, you are not ready to become swingers.\n\nGood luck, have fune and play safe!
910017
Why involve your husband?  Handle it yourself.  Tell these guys that you are not interested in adultery and that if you change your mind you will let them know, and until that time arrives please keep your come-ons to yourself.  That tells them in no uncertain terms that you don't want their attention.  If they persist, then call them out on it at the dinner table.  Things will change pretty quick right then and there.
298650
try not having sex till you are married. and then learn your ovulation cycle as well as use condoms. \nor you can just have your man pull out every time. \nI've learned my ovulation cycle and been active for over 2 years with no baby... I still use condoms though
889300
Just do it....Your husband is one of the maucho guys that wants to be the pursuer and is turned off by the female that is the aggressor in the equation of marital bliss.  \n\nIf I were you----I would do the tease thing---the sexy lingerie flaunt it in his face routine and then give him the turn down treatment when he WANTS what he WANTS!-----  Let him see how it feels to be rejected for advancements.  \n\nYou should really communicate what you want in your marriage relationship----Open up to your spouse and tell him of your sexual frustrations---"IT LIKE HELLO---MCFLY are you home"\n\nPleasuring yourself is healthy don't feel guilty about it....It's a great stress release ----Maybe you should watch an X rated movie when he's not home and just get the feel of yourself.  Sometimes those kinds of movies are necessary to stimulate the brain!
698861
First, he should wash after sex and use lotion.  Next, some men don't have a high sex drive.  Why do you even bring up cheating on him.  If you really love him this would not even be an option that you'd have thought of.  Yes, you are too young but there are people younger than you married so- give him some space.  Lots of men when they are stressed out have a hard time even thinking about sex.  Communicate!!!!!