Can't get over what my sister has done to me and she lives with me.?
546826
Frustrating isn't a strong enough word for what it feels like to live with an addict.  Your sister needs professional help.  It is unfortunate, but your allowing her to live with you may be enabling her to continue destructive patterns that are keeping her from moving forward in her life.  You didn't mention your ages, but it would appear you are both well into adulthood.  Are your parents living?  Do they also have issues, or did they, that may have contributed to your sister's problems?  \n\nYou cannot save your sister, and you are not obligated to take care of her for her whole life.  You should see a counselor yourself to get guidance and referrals to resources in your area for dealing with the types of psychological issues your sister is facing.  \n\nIt is going to be tough, no doubt about it.  You should seek a support group to help you with your feelings of guilt and obligation.  You are NOT responsible for your sister.  I hope this helps.  \n\nTake care of yourself.  God bless you.
281824
'I know where you are coming from except my sister does not live with me.It sounds like she has some issues of her own.she could be using drugs and she really has no self esteen.All you can do is try to talk to her and be there for her when she needs you.I don't think you need to treat her in any special way. she will start to take advantage of you if you do.P.s. my sister use to 2 my best friend too.
121642
Wow that sucks, my sister's the same.  Act the same way as you would with the person you were with previously.
552423
Wow, you've got to get the heck out of that house. Is she your legal guardian or something? Call DHS and tell them what is going on. If you're an adult, then find a friend or other relative you can stay with for a while. \n  If you cannot leave, and I do understand how it's hard to fully grasp someone else's situation... then ask a neighbor if you can use their address for job applications. Just tell them your sister isn't right in the head and you have to get a job to support everyone. Then do NOT put your number on job applications. Maybe the same neighbor will allow you to use their land phone number and they can pass the message on to you and you can call them back when your sister is sleeping. Either way, you sis needs some serious help. Call mental health facilities and see what can be done.\n  Best of luck to you.. and stay away from pork and eat lots of fresh garlic until you can get back on your meds.
560161
I am truly sorry for you and your sister, but sometimes the only thing that can be done is to wait for her to hit rock bottom, and ask or accept your help.  It may come soon or never, all you can do is be there for her, try to keep her fed, but do not give her money for drugs or a place to stay until you know she is clean.  I am also sorry to say but when you see her you need to make sure she is not holding any drugs, because if you get busted your life will become really crappy, real fast.  Good Luck, I know we never met, but I have strong shoulders so if you need to talk e-mail me, just click on the avatar and my e-mail is there.
1126110
Keep trying to communicate with your sister. everything happens for a reason whether you did or did not steal the money she should still remain in touch with  you.Remember GOD does not allow us to go through nothing that we are not capable of handling.
871057
Get to a doctor and seek counseling.  Her past is in the past let it go.\n\nShe is your family now.  Her family of origin is a temporary inconvenience.\n\nYou need to work together to help each other.
528883
i was a spoiled little sister, cant do much, youcan beat her kick her and all that others are saying. it wont get you anywhere b/c she will screamm bloody murder and get away with it. if my sister barely touched me i'd scream and yell and my dad would come running to punish her. i feel bad now that i am older.just try and deal with it for now , hopefully she'll change when older . good luck.
780033
Being that I have a sister that does the EXACT same thing I can honestly answer "yes" you/me have been used.  All the things you've explained are very familiar sounding.  The problem lies in them being spoiled rotten and getting everything given and done for them.  Do what I did and put your foot down, enough is enough eventually he'll realize what is going on and the shoe will be on the other foot.  It got to the point where my sister was monopolizing all of my time and resources that my own family was going without, and that wasn't happening anymore.  It's called tough love and unfortunately it has to be done.  Good luck and I'll be thinking of you because I know how painful it's going to be.  But to answer your question...yes of course your brother loves you.
557224
You need to really sit your sister down and have a long talk with her...  Why does she do that to you?  Jealousy?\n\nYou need to tell her that you love her, but that you don't appreciate and are very hurt by what she is doing...  Give her an ultimatum..  If she doesn't stop, you are going to cut her off of your life...  It's mean, but maybe she will learn her lesson, if she loves you, she will stop....
985130
No, he shouldn't brake up with you over this, but you do need to repair any damage that might have been caused between you and your sister. Sit her down, apologize to her, and ask her if she could give you guys a little more alone time together. I'm assuming she's younger, but she might just be reasonable about this. \nRemember friends will come and go, but she will be your sister forever.
614453
maybe try a family intervention. u know, get her in the room with u and the family members she respects most and just confront her about it. it sounds pretty serious, so the sooner the better. tell me how it goes when u resolve the issue. GOOD LUCK DUDE!!!!
174055
wHY should life be this horrible....I was mugged and almost assaulted and I was with my sister,that experience lives with us till today.There is nothing you can say,all I wanted was to see my Mom and just run into her arms and just not be anywhere ese.She just took me into her arms and kissed me on my forhead,and held me for a while like she used to do when I was a baby.It felt so good and so cleansing.She gave us (me and my sister)time to just let it sink in,but we also kne she will always be there for us when we were ready to talk about it.And she was and all she did was listen.\n\nNobody deserves to be in that situation and I hope your daughter recovers from the trauma
377506
What's done is done. You can't change the past, so don't dwell on it, you only waste your own time and energy. Take it as a leason in life to not expect soo much from other people. Deal with her as you have been before the incident, just be a bit more cautious.
653465
I wonder the same thing. I try not to think about my sister hating me but it is really hard. My sister has caused problems between me & my mother just by doing things like you said: she would pick everything just to hurt you. I have shown my mother proof from my doctor that I am really ill & that I am dying but oh no my sister tells her that I am lying so now my mother refuses to talk to me. She says I made everything up even the letter from my doctor with his signature & the letter was written on letter head paper. Go figure. I made it all up. I wish that I wasn't dying. My sister says that she can't deal with my illness. I passed out one day asked her to take me to the hospital, says she can't deal with me. I don't know why she hates me. and I don't know how to handle it except for focusing on one day at a time. I have my husband and my daughter with me. She even told my husband something that my daughter did at her home, she was grounded for 8 months and then 2 months ago I found out from one of my other sisters that it was all a lie. she wanted to cause problems between my husband & I. She thought he would leave me over it. She has major problems. She has 2 daughters by her 4th husband. but actually the 1st one belongs to his brother but she confided in me not to tell him and I haven't. It has been 7 years and he still does not know. I don't cause her problems why cause me problems. Why can't she just love me? I love her with all my heart. I wish your sister would love you too. Maybe they are having emotional & mental problems and they have focused on us to take it out on so that they can live with it. I wish  you the best of luck in working things out with your sister. I am trying but to no avail.
234744
Listen to Sassy.Also you can look on your own.\nIn the meantime try to control yourself,don't lash out at her when she makes one of her digs. It sounds like you are\nboth decent people stuck in a tough situation. Don't let\nwords be spoken that can't be taken back-suck it up,take a deep breath,leave the room if you have to.When you have your\nown place it'll be easier to get along and repair the damage.Good luck and remember you're both human.
419557
There's definitely something going on and I'm sorry to say but she's no good for you. Obviously she's not really caring about how you feel about anything and is using you for financial support. And if she really loved you, she wouldn't get mad about you confiding in your brother. At least you didn't confide in another woman's vagina...for crying out loud. You have your freedom to do confide in anyone you want. Not only is she restricting you but she's also using you. You need to step back and re-examine your true feelings for her. Perhaps you're just in a comfort zone and that's why you want her back. Agree on the break and go out and clear your head. I'm sure that you'll find what you really want...listen to you heart. It knows exactly what it wants...are you listening?