my husband and I have agreed to seperate?
548249
Separation isn't really the end. It doesn't mean a divorce is headed your way. Separation is actually what saved my marriage. The time away from each other is what we needed, and made us realize that we didn't want the divorce. We're happier now than we were before. Separation is a time to see if a divorce would be right for you. If it isn't, talk it out with your husband, see where he stands on it all, and take it from there. One thing married couples need to understand is that no all marriages are perfect, you'll have your ups and downs but when it comes down to it, you still love each other. My husband and I have the most dysfunctional marriage I've ever seen, but it just works for us, and we really are happy.
994531
My husband and I have seperate accounts kinda. But we do have eachothers name on our seperate accounts.
413798
YEA DIVORCE OR SEPERATION
710879
I don't necessarily agree with a "time out".  If it's problems in the marriage, you should both be in agreement to work it out...together.\n\nPerhaps a better solution would be to agree to work on issues together.  Set a time for resolution, say 6 months to do a relation check to see if you really belong together or not.
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I think "trial separations" are another way to say "I don't want to break your heart all ant once and get it over with, I want to drag it out for months, maybe even years". Time apart means less time for communication, which means more misunderstandings and more hard feelings.\n\nThe only way you are going to make your marriage work again is by making time for each other, talking about the issues and working thigs out together.  Find a good marriage counselor. If either of you are not serious about it, though, don't drag it out, just get it over with. \n\nIf I may suggest, if you have the money, one of you move out and plant to "date" each other again. Go steady for a few months, find the spark again. But don't "separate" it is just a preparation for "divorce".
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You need to quest yourself for following :\n1. Is your (both of yours) feeling same like earlier (or may be more intimacy)\n2. Is the reason making you separate (which U've not mentioned) is really resolved.\n3. Does he really feels and cares about you and if to live without you will be painfull for life?\n4.  Has he back with immidiate requirement of physical togatherness or the feeling has brought him back.\n5, And the last but most important, take some time of your own and ask to your heart without involving your brain. You will be getting the best answer!!\n\nAll the best. kindly let all of us know  (who has answered your question) about your decession and also in future about your happiness on these decession.
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It sounds like you 2 want to be together, seperation doesnt do any good, if you dont go to the problem,and come to somekind of middle ground of ageement on the problem truthfully, you will always come back to the answer to seperate not ever solving the problem, be honest with each other no matter how each other will respond. and remember dont answer by your feelings only by your heart which is not a desire, feelings,and desire are controlled by your flesh, your heart is controlled by your will.
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flew to another country to be with him then we split up
704185
It sounds like you're already doing the right things - you have moved out, you have initiated divorce proceedings.  Go through with the divorce, and then look to the future.
835175
Been there!!! Whew!! Talk to the lawyer who set it all up! Usually your ex would be right. Are you two talking it all out nicely? My ex and I switch off every other year now. Works out better when You get used to it. Or we do 1/2 and 1/2 when he or I are working or something comes up. So many ways to have your kids share both lives with you 2 that is all that counts.
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I am currently in the same shoes as your husband.  It is tough when a man sincerely makes a change and tries to make good on promises especially if he hadn't in the past.  It seems that everything that is done in a positive manner is viewed as way of trying to influence the wife into coming back.  \n\nIf you can truly see that he is trying to change, but you are afraid of the pain then that is understandable.  Your feelings and "sanity" should be considered.  Here is the thing though, what are you doing to change???  Alot of times when someone is "done wrong", they feel that they didn't have a role in it.  Maybe you are the perfect wife, but I suspect that something that about you has played a part in your separation.  Not knowing your particulars, I would say work on making yourself a better person.  The change in you may make you understand the change in him.\n\nI sincerely hope that your husband has changed.  I hard when someone you love does not believe in you and the pain that is caused becomes unbearable at times.  But if he is fighting through all of that, maybe there is something about him that is redeemable.\n\nGood Luck and I'll pray for the two of you.\n\nWT
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Enough is enough...I find nothing wrong with protecting your marriage, why wait until its gone to far...not really knowing all the details but that he did break it off tells me that you had good reason to snip this at the bud...and that in all fairness he wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot...I'm glad for the both of you.
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Well, I will first off give my opinion. I have helped a few female friends with divorce. For either party to try and take more then they actually deserve is complete and total BS. People tend to try and screw people over for some sort of revenge. Fact is, you both are going to be happier apart so how can you put a price on your happiness? \nAs for as legally... If the seperating is one that was done legally then nothing from that point on can be divided up. If it wasn't then everything is in the open for attack. However, if you've been seperated for that long... Why in the world would you want to take things that you truly know deep down you have no right to take. I say, you split whatever it was that you two aquired while you were together. That is up to the seperation. After that you dont really have a right to anything else. Do you feel he has a right to your things since the seperation. If so then everything on both sides should be split down the middle. If you cant come to some kind of agreement... All assets should be sold, money made should go to pay off debt collected as a couple and whatever is left if anything should be split evenly.
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He obviously understands your feelings, and you understand his, now is there room for both of you to compromise.  Maybe set a date for a few years from now or just get engaged and not set a date yet.  I don't think it would be fair to either of you if only one of you made concessions.  It wounds like you are the one doing it now.  Talk to him about a compromise.
988320
The rights between you and your partner depend on the details of how you hold the property and what agreements you have made with each other. \n\nI hope you can work out your differences with your partner.
657563
Maybe you should continue to stay separated but start "dating" again and work on your issues. Having children in the relationship I feel it could be detrimental to them to have him continually coming and going into the home. I would continue being involved in your church, praying for him and your marriage and continue marriage counselling. If after a few months and giving it 100% there are still no changes in him/willingness from him to work on his issues then I would sit down and seriously contemplate if this situation is right for you and your children. But hopefully with prayer and God in your life you will see some changes. I definitely think baby steps is the way to approach this situation. God be with you.
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So, he doesn't agree...big surprise, right?  No way to get your message across, then you'll have to send the message by actions, not words.  While you've been talking and he's not listening, that's all it is...lip service.  What have you done to show him that this marriage was a mistake?  Nothing.  If you are going to end it, then end it.  Move out and leave a note.  Explain that you made a mistake by rushing into this marriage and upon this realization, you need to go.  File the papers and in 3 months or so, you'll be free to live as an independant woman again.  Until then, just lay low and don't listen to his crying and persuations.  Just cut the cord and make it short and sweet.  It'll be easier and less painless in over the long run.