My husband is transffered to other state, in-laws are also with us .They would not like to go . What shouldido
538360
pretty simple move with your husband and leave in-laws there!! why would in-laws go with you any way?? are you married to them also, or what- that was the weirdest question I've seen in a long time!!
17284
Well if you are invited is acceptable to go, and the party is not for your sister in law it is for your mother in law and i think your mother in law is the one you are honoring when you go. If she is nasty to you just turn the other cheek, and explain to your children that you are going for your m-i-l and not take anything that your sister in law says to you to heart. She might be jealous of your relationship with your m-i-l. In the end it will all smooth over, trust me from a person who knows.
790360
I am sorry to say but i agree with him. You got yourself in a family relationship. Our kids come 1st and we always travel with them. Try to comprmise and bring a sitter so you guys can go off and do stuff on your own
593729
check with your lawyer before going. i have family that are divorced and they have to sign forms allowing their kids to leave the state even for a short amount of time...be safe.
479966
Talk about role reversals, they are being childish about this and your being cornered to being the parent of their situation.  In your daughters situation I would simply say you are both welcomed to visit when ever your available, if you don't want to be around when they other is then you settle that between yourselves, your both adults!  As for other arrangements that require you to schedule time for each because they no longer live together...that will have to be dealt with on a individual basis or for the holidays ...birthdays...have the festivities at your place and welcome both...that gives them equal opportunity to spend time with you and your daughter...not to mention being a family for family sake.
628107
You could try writing them a letter if they wont see you. In the long run though, it comes down to this... You're marrying HIM not his parents. If they want him in their lives they'll come around. He needs to make it clear that he loves you and wants to be with you, even if it means not seeing his family. My guess is they will come around after a few weeks. Hope this helps.
761878
Go to your husband's parents!\n\nFailing that, go to your own, so they will not be by themselves.
149996
Move out. Tell your hubby it is me or mommie. no one needs to exist where they are slaves to thier inlaws. I cook I clean I work my butt off sounds a lot like cinderella except there will be no prince charming to help you out.
176417
Go to their homes and/or invite them when he's not there.  You really need to discuss the issue with him if it's that important (yeah i know, easier said than done).  Maybe marriage counseling, if this marriage is worth it.  If not...
923437
Well, I completely understand where you're coming from. You want to be loved and welcomed, but unfortunately, not all in-laws work out that way (no matter what the race, religion, etc.). My grandmother's mom HATED my grandfather for years, and he wound up eloping to marry her.  They are both the same exact religion and ethnicity too. Eventually, the mother grew to appreciate and respect my grandfather and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. \n\nThing is, you shouldn't have to deal with going someplace where you are "tolerated", but again you don't always have control over that. All that you can do, is just suck it up for your wife, kids, and be the better man. Eventually, I would say talk to your wife about having your OWN holidays though and if her parents want to visit YOU then that's fine, this way they are on "your turf" now so to speak and if they disrespect you, you can ask them to kindly leave your home.
705724
For a very long time if it means staying away from the in-laws.
367511
Well you could write them a letter about how you feel and leave it at that! And then go on with your plans together. They will either learn to live with their son's decision or they won't.\n\nThe parents aren't the ones in this relationship and if you both love each other, do what you need to do to be together. DON'T NOT be  together because of them. they are not in this relationship you both are, and you two should be happy. They'll get over it, it may take years, but at least you won't have to worry about your mother-in-law butting into your business, right off the bat.
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
248916
When you marry someone, you marry their family, like it or not.  Have you tried talking to your mother in law directly about the intrusiveness of her visits?  Perhaps explaining to her that you need some family time with just your wife (and kids?) will help her to understand and minimize her visits.  Do you ever visit her house?  Perhaps that's why she's always over at yours.\n\nInitiate a visit or dinner with your MIL - that will show your wife that you aren't rejecting her mother (btw - "getting rid of her" is the exact kind of wording that will get you into more hot water), but simply trying to maintain some family boundaries as well.\n\nGive a little and get a little.
429232
Wow!  I know how that can be stressful.  Take them to a quiet restaurant where there won't be too much noise, maybe call ahead and see if you can get a quiet corner reserved.  Or, plan to get take-out from a nice place, lots of them have curbside service now, and have dinner in your parents' or the new in-laws' house (not sure who's coming where) that way you won't have to cook, but the environment is just you guys.  But the good thing about being at a restaurant is if things are kind of akward, you have a natural ending time, at the end of the meal when its time to leave, and no one has to feel weird about kicking anyone out.\n\nGood luck, hope it goes well.
479426
tell your hubby how you feel. If your not comfortable living there anymore, tell him. Let him know that you have nothing against his mom, but you've also got your lives to think about. You two need time to yourself, need your own privacy, and need your own space. Tell his mom, that even though it's her house, you have rights to, and need your space. You could always move out to a place of your own, maybe your hubby will follow, maybe he just wants to support his mom for the rest of his life. Talk to him, he might have things on his mind about the situation to
572150
Send a buddy you have in you're town to have a little "chat" with him and have him tell him when you come back, you'll be "visiting" him too. Maybe your wife can file a complaint somewhere, so they get rid of him, or she can go somewhere else then. that stuff pisses me off! I don't even know you, but Id go there for you at a drop of a hat! Take care over there, watch each others back and come home safe.