What happens if there is marital problems in the bedroom?
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You have to decide is this forever problem.. or a "Im just not feeling it" problem.\n\nIs the root of the problem.. you.. him... outside inclunces.\n\nIf you are not feeling it.. and then not being there for him in the bedroom.. things will become damaged.\n\nMen very very often equate love to sex.  Right or wrong.. its a reality.   If you are able to share yourself with him, then you will at least give him a belief that things are ok.\n\nIf you think the problem is not a forever, then I would recommend having relations..but also let him know there is a problem.. and try to work with him about it.\n\nIf you think its all over, then stop the sex and get yourself out the door to move things to where youw ill be happy.\n\nIts better for him and its better for you.  You don't want to be feeling like a "whore" having sex with someone you do not love just for a life.  (Please understand I am not saying you should feel like that.. but that is the natrual next feeling).
894953
Not sure.  I'd feel pretty heartbroken, and probably would be very near to ending the marriage.  It depends on whether or not my husband was sorry.  Haven't had this happen to me, so I don't know.
36867
It is hell on earth.\n\n1. You live with someone but never have sex\n\n2. You can't, can't, can't just simply walk out the door after a fight. \n\n3. Wives become nags, husbands become lazy slobs\n\n4. Both you and your spouse will end up putting on an extra 50 lbs, just because you can.\n\nIn other words, don't bother. You can still have the sex and the joy of a relationship without complicating your life.
313885
Married couples fight. It happens. One thing you need to do is never go to bed angry at each other. I don't know why you had a fight and I don't want to know. You guys have to find a way to have a civil conversation without losing your tempers. I love my wife and I respect her as woman as well. I am nothing without her. I wish you luck
884386
Sex is part of a healthy marriage. It is important that a wife makes her husband happy and a husband makes his wife happy. If you start to lose your sex life, you might look for sex other places and lose your marriage.
792891
He shouldn't have to deal with it.  He needs to move out.\nI lived like that.  And the effects in the future are horrible.\nKeeping a relationship will be difficult.
352239
So, whats the problem if he is? Your marriage is finished anyway.
803616
I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
461533
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
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Laying out expectations and preferences before you move in together, or as soon as you do can help ease a lot of conflict.  \nIf we're talking college roommates, issues such as your sleep schedules, thoughts on overnight guests, level of comfort with alcohol or other substances being consumed in the space, and cleanliness may all come up.  \nBe honest.  Don't be afraid to bring something up if it bothers you, because the longer you let it go the more likely it'll blow up.
1073306
As long as there is some sex during the week, it should be okay. Sex is not the main thing in a marriage, I know, but a complete lack of it indicates something very wrong.
451124
Studies routinely show that it's bad for the marriage.  Usually, the problems have to do with jealousy or one spouse wanting to do it again (more than the other does).  So... if you're not involved, there is the possibility of you feeling left out.  She may want to see more women, which could make you jealous.  You may want to experiment with other things which she says "No" to, which can cause bad feelings because you allowed her this fantasy realization.\n\nIf your relationship is strong, and she's absolutely loyal and in love with you, there should be no problem.  However, if there is any possibility it could get out of hand... you might want to rethink this before you actually do it.  Remember... 3-somes are like Pandora's Box.  Once opened, that box can't be UNopened ever again, and even if you do manage to close the box and clean up the mess, the damage will have already be done.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
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Wow I would think the opposite would be the case. More interested. \n\nI can affect your marriage especially if he wants to try things your not comfortable with. \n\nIt also sounds like your husband has 3 things you need to learn how to deal with. \n\n1) highly visual in regards to sexual stimulation. \nthis shold be a fun one for you. learn to teash and fill his (voyeristic side) it's actually common for men. after all our ("NEED" for sexual fulfillment) is based on our (Physical) responce to stimuli. \n\n2) Unmet "NEEDS" in the marriage. ( His Needs, Her Needs) at some point you started ignoring one of his 5 basic "NEEDS" when that happens he begins a process of withdrawing from the relationship. \nhis need went unmet so he withholds one of yours. now your upset and withhold another and he responds. \nonce one of either of you "LOVE BANKS" become empty your now suseptable to an affair. mainly because some external "person" began filling one of the "NEED" not being met at home. the problem can be fixed though after an affair it then will need professional help to solve. \n\n\n3) The books listed below can help you understand each of your 5 basic "NEEDS" as well as help you understand his unique "love language" ( the 5 love languages) which is basically words or actions that he accepts as messaages of love from another person. during dating you sends this messages uncounsiously. but after marriage we forgot what we did while dating and stop sharing the message of "LOVE" in a format he would understand. more time then not your sending signals in "Your own unique language" but he forgot the code also and no longer understands your language\n\nI hope that helped. if you have questions send a shout. \nI listed the books below that I quoted from. \nMay God Bless your family and help you find reconsiliation.
498320
sex.  if your sex life falls apart you have serious problems in your relationship..  your communication is not working...among various other things... think about it.
924024
This is of course all a matter of opinion.  I say as long as both parties are adult about it and keep work out of the bedroom and the bedroom out of the office I say no problem.  Communication is always key and so is being very mature about it all. But I say it's no real problem.  The only problem occurs if one of you screws over the other one and you still have to work together.
575657
Hey girl....i went through about the same thing, My opinion is...if your relationship isn't working in the living room....it isn't going to work in the "bedroom"....i told my husband i wasn't sure if we were "in love"anymore...., It kick-started him, and we are getting along much better now.....i dont mind him touching me now....i dont feel "used" now.      Good luck!