How do you keep a man from changing?
543376
Find a good time to tell him how you feel..Sometimes they dont realize how their career affects a family situation..You cant actually change a person you can only try to influence them for the better..Its up to them to take it to heart..Hopefully he will see your side of this and comply to your wishes for the kids sake..good luck!
618580
He does this becasue he has already discovered your weaknesses.  When you stop this, he will then realize that he does care for you enough to stop mistreating you or he will find some other person to manipulate.  When you put your foot down to this and make him think that you DON"T need him and deserve better...AND stick with it...You'll see him change in one way or another, be patient though because he will likely call your bluff, thinking you'll call him or look for him.  Make him think you're already over him and looking forword to your new life with a cool guy who will show you what friendship and love is really about.
306172
Unless he changes other things, including his hang outs rutine, friends, etc. he probably isn't going to change or if he tries he probably will end up going back to it.  Kinda like if you quit smoking and you hang out in bars and with smokers all day how long before you start again.
907127
the trick is to make them think they have control---you never really give it to them!!!!!\nif a man is unfaithful and wants control-good sign--red flag he is or will be an abuser---run for the hills now!!!
1131820
How 'bout a little advice from a guy who's been through this from both sides of the fence. First of all it's something you'll do naturally and it's really difficult to control yourself especially when the other person does the same thing. The problem is that one of you changes before the other one does and they get annoyed by it. If you try to avoid it, they'll get mad cause you don't call enough. I think the only way to prevent this from becoming a problem is to have your own life and do stuff all the time and make that a habit. When the new guy comes along (hopefully he will soon) you need to keep doing that stuff and seeing him and calling him on the off time. Just stay busy and do things you really like to do, and it will happen naturally. But for people like us, it takes practice. (Besides, I wouldn't expect you not to be clingy after your recent new experience ;) it was special right?)\n\nbye =)
1129295
assure him that he will never loose you to that guy or whoever comes along...tell him that you love him so much that he should trust you..just make sure that you'll keep your promises and don't do anything that will make him think that you are not trustworhty..always answer his phonecalls and call him or email him often and tell him he's always on your mind every minute of the day, but you do know that it should work bothways right?
259559
Guys like to hear that you trust them. Tell him you trust him, but be very watchful of his behvavior. If anything suspicious occurs, then talk about it; if things get worse -DUMP HIM! BUT, often times, guys don't change over night, and no matter how pretty you are, they still won't change for you - so you could save yourself time, and get rid of him now - but, the choice is yours.
1115655
you make him stop lying to you by leaving him.... if you arent there anymore he cant lie to you. If you think staying around will fix it you are wrong. If he compulsively lies to you he will continue to.
690735
Men are not afraid of change. They just don't want to do it and you should not ask them too. Accept them for who they are and if you do not like it then find someone else.
456920
It's the stubborness. And I'm sure every man has it. Wouldn't admit even if they're wrong. A disability to listen. Answering without listening the question. Later be surprised as the first time to know the question...and for giving the wrong answer. Happened all the time, with all the exes and guys friends. Doubt it can be changed. It's in the blood.
565369
Notify the police and have a protection order written against him.  A women's group can do this for you too.  A piece of paper will not stop a man.  You may have to get an answering machine or change your phone number.  Lock your doors.
864146
Yeah get out of there! you have to do it slowly stop calling him and contacting him and he will soon take the hint. Don't fall for the I'll change routine...men like that never change.
426592
Perhaps you aren't important enough to him for him to WANT to change anything about himself.  \n\nPeople are who they are... they deserve someone who loves them just as they are.\n\nIf a man WANTS to change something in his life, that's fine - but he has to do it because he wants to for himself, not because some nagging girlfriend tells him he should.
64895
you can't get a guy to break his habits if he doesn't want to.  you're not keeper so therefore you  can't make him stop.
1058043
be yourslef and dont change for him. go with the flow. follow your heart
427511
it think this is just a man thing...regardless of upbringing.  i tried the first 5 years to get my husband to contribute to the day to day to no avail and i just ended up angry and frustrated.  i've learned that its easier to 'just settle'...you'd be surprised how when you lower your expectations to '0' any little stupid bit thing will thrill  you.  i know this is totally outdated thinking in today's pop psychology world, but its impossible to change a man...the only person you can change is yourself.  so really, you have three choices, 1.  try to change him and only end up frustrated, 2.  settle for less or 3.  leave.\ni'm sure a lot of women out there are angrily shaking their heads thinking you should be able to have it all...but i encourage them to have an honest look at their own marriages and their happiness...
527763
tell him to stop acting like a woman...and if he doesn't get over it he's a big puss.