i want to ask this guy out, but i get so freaked out in front of him!! help!! How can i get over this fear??
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Is there a boy that you totally love but are just too shy to tell him? This tells you how to get him! \n\nSteps \nListen to him. Some people might call it earwigging, but he is having a loud conversation right next to your ear then its hard NOT to listen! He could be talking to a friend about his favourite music, hobbies, whatever, its information you can use! \n\nFind out if hes got MSN. You could do this by asking one of his friends, or casually asking people if they have his address. If he has, great. Use the info from what you have heard now! If you found out his favourite band, put some of their lyrics on your screen name! \n\nPay close attention to everything he says to you, it could just be a clue to what kind of girls he likes! For example if he says 'Aren't Chantelle and Paris Hilton cute?' You will know that he goes for blondes! \n\nLook at the people he hangs around with, especially the girls. See if he flirts with them, then see if they have anything obviously in common. Once again, if they are all blondes, you are one step closer to finding out exactly what he likes in a girl! \n\nLook at his clothes. Decide what kind of person he is, i.e goth, grunge, emo, chav... then see if he likes the same sort of girls! Once again, glance at the girls he flirts with and see what they are wearing! \nTime for the transformation! Think about all the things you learnt about him. Straight hair or curly hair? Goth or chav? Girly or tomboy? Go shopping and pick out a few nice outfits that you know he would like on a girl. Don't go all slutty and don't go completely away from your normal look, just maybe buy one top thats a bit different, or one pair of shoes. DO NOT CHANGE YOUR CLOTHES SO MUCH THAT NOBODY RECOGNISES YOU! \n\nNow its time for your hair. If you have black hair and he likes blondes, get over it. Don't cry yourself to sleep cos thats not gonna get him! Make small changes, get lighter streaks or playa round with hairstyles! If he likes curly hair and you have yours poker straight, maybe try having loose wavy curls for just one day. You can totally decide whether this is for you or not, and you never have to do it again if you dont want to! \n\nNow your face! If he likes a lot of make up on a girl and you dont wear any, bring some in gradually. If you think that lots of make up is trashy and doesn't look nice, do not put lots on just for one guy! Try wearing a tiny bit of eyeliner, some mascara and some lip balm! \n\nNow show that you are interested! Light flirting will help, maybe just brushing his arm when you talk to him or smiling more than usual! Be nice! \nIf he still isn't showing any signs that he likes you, forget about him! If you were totally in love with him, its gonna take time for you to realise that its not going to happen. really sorry if this is how it ends, but there's plenty more fish in the sea and if you have gone to the trouble of changing to get this guys attention and he is still giving off no signals, hes not worth it! \n\nTips \nRemember that you are your own person. It's nice to have something in common with the guy that you like, but don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, even if it means losing the guy. \n\nWarnings \nThough you like this guy, you have to be realistic. If he treats you like dirt, or if he's rude to you when you talk to him, you don't need him. It's his loss. You are beautiful in your own way, and if he can't see that, he's not worth chasing.
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oh lord. I know what you mean. been there done that. and let me tell you girl.. unfortunately.. it's always going to be awkward at first. there's no escaping it really. I mean you can make a list of things to talk about.. and though it is quite helpful.. it's not going to make that anxious feeling in your stomach go away. but that's the beauty of conversation. it's like writing an essay or a story.. once you get started it's easy as pie. keep in mind that the guy is prolly nervous himself, but you're never going to get to know anyone by avoiding them. just be chill.. try not to show you're a lil scared (I know yeah right huh? lol) and keep that list near by. \n\nhope I've been helpful!
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OMG, your so cute!  You sound so adorable, I sometimes get vibes off of what people write and your vibe is very refreshing.  I just had to say that.  Anyways, I think you have already been noticed, especialyl if he's playing around with you.  Why don't you ask him his name, then he'll ask yours.  While he's playing drums on your head just turn around and be like...your playing drums on my head and I dont even know your name..make it a joke and see how quickly he will ask for yours.   best advice, continue to be yourself and Im sure he'll be asking you out and if you get impatient jsut ask him out...hey it's 2006, women are aloud to do the asking.
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well this guy is a pefect carbon copy of me.\n\nSo if you make a move on him he wouldn't look you down or anything, but as he is a man/guy he prefers to make the move. So what you basically need to do is to make it very easy for him so that he feels very comfortable to ask you out.\nI would say it wouldn't hurt if you become a bit bolder and show some confidence yet at the same time asure him that you are not embarrased by his shyness and you want him to ask you out. \nI know there are ways of doing this without talking much. I can't tell you since I am not a girl. But show him something. If you get the chance touch him ,like on his back or something. And show a lot of smile. The kind of smile the says " Come here baby, I want you" \nI still do believe he should make the move.\nI don't know this is exactly my problem. What I told you is what I think best if a girl acts in a way so that I would feel conmfortable talking to her.\n\nGood luck.
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You really have to be an extrovert around shy guys and bring us out of our shells. We may have the major hots for you but unable to articulate that emotion into anything less than senseless jibbering when you are around. Ask the guy out- be bold, go do something together that puts you in close proximity without feeling like there is alot of pressue. Some guys will respond and there is room to grow and some guys might not. Believe me, if he likes you you should start to see him melt-but keep at it if the feeling is returned!\n\nGood luck!
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Oh...I know how you feel.\nThis is what you do:\n1.Send a note to him and tell him not to get the wrong idea.\n2.Send a note to him and tell him to be friends first.\n3.When he agrees, ask him out, but you must have an excuse for asking him out, or else I dont think he will agree.\n4.Ask him to go out to teach you school work or just hanging out.\n5.On your first date ask other people along, so you both wont get nervous.\n6.Dont bring 2 other friends that are dating because that would be a double date!\n7.After being good friends, you will then ask him for his address, email, and etc. etc.\n8.Contact him and ask him to hang out sometime with you- alone- I mean after a few weeks of hanging out with a few of his and your other friends.\n9.If you act natural and get him to know your background more and you know his background more, he may be able to accept you!\n10.You will be together forever- I mean not forever lar...LOL.\nOk. Thats my reply on your question.\nTry it out!\nIt happened to me once but I didnt use this method.\nI hope you will succeed.\nRegards,\nnyla
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Hey, I had one of those myself! \n\nI ended up asking him out on a group date to the movies, bad idea, he spent the whole time talking to everyone but me, the only interaction we had is when he passed the popcorn...\n\nIt makes it too hard with those feelings going through you to even talk to the guy as you do go all hot and fuzzy and weak at the knees as they say.\n\nSo dont take those feelings to serously as the guy probly doesnt know you exist! \n\nGet one of your friends to maybe ask him if he likes you just to sus the situation out, but good luck and I hope you do a better job than I did with my crush!
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No offence.. but maybe it's cuz of your English?\nMaybe there is something bout the way u approach the girl that scares them off.\nDon't jus go up n say, hi i wanna be your bf. \nMake frens for awhile n make sure she has a bf or not first then only make your move. Dont jump the wagon, man
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try arranging to 'run into him" kinda. find out someplace you know he might be and try to show up at the same time. " oh, hey. what are you up to, i know it's been a minute since i said what's up, but, um, what's up ?" just try to be confident, don't be too nervous or you'l fer sure slip on the dufus rag. good luck, man-and remeber this-no one is out of anyone's league. I don't know what you look like, and it doesn't even matter. if YOU believe in you, most everyone else will, too. If YOU do evrything you can to FEEL attractive, most people will think that you are, too.i hope you rope yer cowboy, hun. good luck.
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I think that he is interested in you, play it cool and let him ask you out. He's probably just as nervous as you so give him a little time.
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I think the same way about myself, and I'm shy too. Just go up to him and make friends. If thats too hard, at least try to talk to him sometimes. If all of that is too hard ask yourself if you really want to be with him, that will get you going.
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if you are to scared, write a note to him, give it to a willing friend, and write in it like "meet me after school" or "I really like you, will you go out with me?" ect. or you can talk to one of his friends to do it for you it worked for me ^.^
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Well u can't really get him to like u. All u can do is stalk him & hope he panics & gives in ( JUST KIDDING) the best thing to do is be honest. Ask him out..the worst that cud happen is that he'll say no. At least you'll know he's not interested instead of clinging to false hope and maybe even saying no to someone who might've made u happy. Sorry about the joke.. i know how it is to have feelings for a guy and u have no idea what to do.
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All I can say is don't be afraid. If you are, overcome it by spending more time with him directly (like studying with him) or indirectly (like hanging out with him and his friends) etc... get to know him better, let him get to know you better and move on from there.\n\nIf you aren't afraid, then what are you waiting for? Just invite him to a party or something. If he likes you and wants to take it a level higher, he'll make it clear.\n\nGood luck!
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It always freaks me out when guys do that, because I never know if they like me or not. I also don't know if I like HIM or not.\n\nCheck out his body language. Know if he's single/taken/whatever his situation. FLIRT BACK. That is key.\n\nSmile, be adorable and irresistible. If he doesn't make a move, maybe he's shy. And I love a shy guy. They're so cute. So in this case, take a shot. You never know, he most likely DOES like you back, and you could be missing out. Trust me, I know from experience. \n\nIf it doesn't work out, so what? take it easy. There will be others. and if it's awkward after that, just gradually start talking again.
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thats because hes shy and hes scared of a rejection, make him feel confotable with u that way he will gain enough confidence to ask u out!!!
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Yup, I am, and I think there are many, many people in this world who are like you. Don't forget the person you could be asking could also be in the same position...they would love to go out with you, but are too scared to ask themselves, for what the answer might be. Don't forget the worst thing that can happen is they say "no." Don't let your fear blow up out of proportion.