How do you get your kids and boyfriend to clean up after them selves?  HELP...I'm about to go crazy!!!!?
537325
I feel you very much on that one.but i think your the one who is on the fault you have got them so use to you picking up after them now they dont care you should have made a routine from the begining.sit and seriously tell them its not right and they need to help you out.i am sure they love you and they will understand,
955774
Don't bother. It's not your problem. You need to get rid of your boyfriend. If he is going to take a crack heads side over yours it's not worth it. Get them out of your life and let them deal. Cut your losses and move on. If you're bipolar you have your own issues to worry about rather than crackheads and crappy boyfriends. Call CPS, they will investigate and take her kids away (hopefully). Then tell them to f*** off and move the f*** on.
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
857790
I am supposed to be cleaning this pit of a house in time for my husband's relatives to come over for Thanksgiving. This, I hope you realise, is no mean feat due to the fact that it is such a mess that if burglers broke in, they would think the place has already been burgled. Since I am not American and only my husband's family are coming over (none of my realtives) and I get stuck cooking the meal (by relying heavily on a cookbook) I say "Sod It, let my husband clean the house!" Hence I am most certainly procrastinating!
771974
You not only did the right thing for your son, but you did it for yourself also. Dont worry, just be strong. I've been thru the break up make up over and over for 4 years, and have finally left for good about a month ago. I also have a child with this person... but I know I have to just worry about me and my daughter now. The worst thing to do is to give in when you are emotional like this and find yourself back in the same situation... possibly with one more child. So stay strong and take care of you, and stick close to family and friends for support if you are fortunate enough. Good Luck mama
677063
Make an arrangement with him, that he does the dishes certain days, (and to never assume that you did them. He's jsut being a lazy unreliable kid) and on certain days you will do them. Do that with all the chores, if you want. And if it doesn't do them, its supposed to, no naps or movie watching.
515943
Gosh - this is serious.\n\nOK - I guess you need to have a chat with your boyfriend about this and tell him how it makes you feel and ask for his permission to discipline them in order to protect you own children.  It is your place to ensure your children are safe.  And they need to learn what is and what is not acceptable.\n\nPerhaps it would be best if you both agree appropriate ground rules and suitable course of action beforehand.  \n\neg be nice to your children, do not go in your room.\n\nThen make clear to them when they next come what will happen - they will get one warning and then if they do it again there will be consequences.\n\nThey'll soon wake up if (for example) their misbehaviour results in them losing treats (or if it's your house) being put outside until they're prepared to apologise, or being sent back to their mothers early (unless that's what they want).\n\nIt is important that you do act on this because the longer you wait the more they'll believe that you're inaction means that you agree with their behaviour.
164350
I am the same way, but I live with a pack rat.  I throw everything out and I just love the feeling of organization and clutter free living.  I don't think I am OCD.  My husband is OCD and he cannot stand when I chuck everything.  He is soo OCD that he even washes saran wrap, checks the windows and doors 2xs to see if they are locked everynight before he goes to sleep or before he goes somewhere and washes his hands way too much amongst other things.  I don't think your "throwing out" is all that much of a concern.  I would look at the other problems you have first.  They might be more OCD.
77990
one box/drawer at a time, get a routine going as far as cleaning house. Do two loads of laundry a day,this way you never get behind. throw out or donate anything you don't use anymore. WALK...everyday!! get up early and go walking(take the dog/or a friend), be home before the kids are off to school. Plus you will have lots of energy the rest of the day.Make a list everynite of what you want to accomplish the next day and STICK to it!! Good Luck...You can do this!! =)
944465
Leave your dirty washing for them to clean up and make it messy when they use it and see how they like it !!!!
206765
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
1182359
First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!
472725
Kids do those things...just talk to him in private and tell him that it is rude to do that in front of guests and decide on a punishment in case he does it again...that way he knows the consequence ahead of time.  Good luck!
1052117
Ask a family friend or relative to watch your kids over night. (or even hire someone!)\n\nTake a long hot bath. Light candles, use your favorite bubble bath, listen to soft music, and even read a book in the tub if you wish.\nThen get 12 hours of uninterrupted sleep! You'll be amazed at how revitalized you are.\n\nDo this periodically. You'll restore your sanity, I promise!
248337
That is crap. If he need to hide it something is SOOOOO wrong. My boyfriend would "magically" need to go get a soda or need to get gas out of no where. I'm talking 10 o'clock at night, or 1st thing in the morning. The funniest was when he would "need a newspaper" but he doesn't read the newspaper. It would take him an hour to do what should take 20 min. we live in a apartment and the dumpster is about 8-10 yards form the back door.When he took the garbage out he felt the need to put it in the truck and drive it around the complex where the dumpster sits in a parking lot. Took him a good 15 min. So a lot of times she(his ex wife) would call him as soon as he walked back in as to say she forgot something. Sometimes I would here him say, OH, I JUST CALLED TO CHECK ON THE KIDS, so I know he had tried to call. I would ask him about it and why he felt the need to leave to call for that and he would say it just happened that way. B/S. Every time he was there and she called, he magically could get no reception on his cell phone. Even if he had just talked to someone else 5 min before with no problem. I got nosey and checked his phone once, and it turned out he was calling her and she was calling him several times a day, for 15 and 20 min conversations(or longer) at a time. When I confronted him, (not only was he pissed) but he claimed he was only "checking on the kids". In that case he was checking on them while they were in school and sleeping etc. By the way, his kids were 11 and 14. Long story short, he is a raving idiot who wants to be with her but can't so he keeps me for comfort. And yes, he slept with her on a regular basis. HE TOLD ME THE SAME THING, THAT HE WANTS ME NOT HER. And he left me to get back with her and came crawling back a week later. But the same crap kept happening so i kicked him out and he tried to get back with her again, but it did not work. PLEASE dont be stuipd like me. i have wasted almost 2 years with this crap. Learn from my mistakes.
857451
►They must know that you are doing it from the heart not the pocket.\n\nGet a nice card and attach an invitation to cook them  dinner at their house ( you will provide the groceries) ask to give you a couple of days advance notice to coordinate. Put choices such as:\n\n♥Romantic Dinner ( you cook decorate and leave)\n☺Family BBQ \n║I need your help dinner\n\nAlso the mess you make you clean.
915844
Yeah, it's pretty silly.  I don't know why we do it.  Sometimes I think it's human nature, until I go to someone else's house.  They're not super clean, but they're not dirty either.  It dosen't bother me if the house is not as clean as mine, but it bothers me if mine isn't clean.  It might me the way were brought up, or???  Anyway, my granddaughters birthday is this coming Sunday and we've got a lot of people coming over, so we've got some cleaning to do.