How do I know if my boyfriend really cares about me or if he's just using me for sex?
534823
yaaaaaa\n\nyou're getting used\n\nbig time\n\n\nif you couldnt come up with that on your own then you're in trouble
1080976
If you just started dating him 2 months ago, sex shouldnt be the first thing on your mind. if he tells you he loves you, look into his eyes and see if he means it.
505432
I think there are several ways:\n1) by how often he calls you\n2) if his friends know about you (as his gf)\n3) if he has introduced you to his parents\n4) if you have met his friends\n5) if when you ask for things, he doesn't think too hard about helping you out (unless it's something crazy)\n\nI think those are some easy ways to tell if a guy is serious about you or if he is just messing around.
1178806
That makes sense to me. Spend some time with him. See what it is or isn't turning into. If he really really likes you, it wouldn't be JUST for sex. Make sure thats the case. Its natural for BOTH man and women to want sex. Also, I think why lose respect for people for wanting good healthy sex. Either way. Your caution makes a lot of sense to me considering that it sounds like maybe you dated some jerks. Maybe too many.
517612
You cant tell. Well, try to talk about your relationship and see if he gets all soft on how he loves you and such.
299911
He might just have some respect for you and not want to rush into anything.  He might actually be romancing you, taking things slow, getting to know you, letting you get to know him, and developing an actual relationship before taking things to the next level.  You can't take sex back.  Sex changes things... you can't help it... it just does.  You could always ask him if there's any particular reason why he hasn't tried to go all the way in the bedroom and see what he says.  Also, since STD's are on the average 1 in every 5 people he could be a carrier and struggling with a way to tell you before enganging you in sex.  The best thing I can tell you to do is to just ask.  Wondering and guessing will drive you bonkers!
51066
I agree with the previous response. There should be something more to this relationship than sex. When you guys aren't sexin' what's his conversation like? Does it go beyond sex? If you're trying to be with this guy in the long-run you've got to look at when all the sex dies down & Viagra isn't working--can he entertain & please you mentally? Can he love you without the sex? \n\nOther things to look at is if he seems bored with you if you're not giving him sex? Does he take you out in public? Or is this strictly behind the scenes? Does he call you just to talk or check-up on things? Or does he only call when he wants the booty?? There's a lot of things to look for in a man to tell if he's strictly about sex, but you've just got to open your eyes & see. I waited almost 1 yr. before I gave up any sex, becaue I had to be absolutely sure my man loved me for me. Not for my puss puss.
296541
Well, how long you've been in the relationship has a big factor in telling if he loves you. Also, go on our feelings, but don't let them take over. I myself have an extremely active imagination...\n\nBut sweetie, you also have to trust him. If he hasn't done anything in the past to betray your trust, that you know of anyway, then chances are he won't and is a genuinely good guy. And also, does he tell you he loves you a lot? Is he affectionate to you? How much time do you spend together, etc. If he rarely sees you, it would make a little more sense if you get a little worried, not that it has to mean anything. Just talk to him. If he does really love you, and respect you and your feelings, tell him you love him so much you don't want to be hurt by him, and want to really know his feelings for you. If he really loves you you will know it. Just don't ask him too many times because if he is true in his intentions, it will upset him to be questioned so much. Good luck!
175519
make sure he isnt an imposter, get engaged and let him have sex with u, if he really love u n respect u then he will wait for your 'yes' and wouldnt pressure u.\nu as a person in personal life can take few steps to measure him right. best way is discossion, talk a lot get deep about each other. then he can understand ur concern about sex n its importance.
422100
Well, if your looking for a guy for more than sex than don't give him any until you get to know him.  You'll see his intentions if you hold out for a while. Then when you think this man is true to you, then you may want to proceed to another level.  \n\nAs women, we usually have good insticts about these things so if it feels like a guy just wants to use you for sex...DON"T DO IT!!!  YOU HAVE A SAY IN IT TOO!!!  \n\nDon't use sex as a tool to keep a man....if he want's to be w/ you he will stick around.
533918
ask him it is your best bet to the truth let it all out and tell him how you feel and if he is just using you move on...
595748
His actions will tell you.  Love is a verb and requires action.  Does he keep his word and promises. Have you met his parents, friends, co-workers.  Do you spend quality time with you and does he call you frequently.   \n\nWhat are his actions like outside the bed room.  This is how you can tell if he loves you.  If he is only attentive during sex....don't count on it being love.
343105
He is using you. You tell him how you feel yet he doesnt reply but he will reply with sex. What is that telling you. He is using you and taking advantage of your "love". And you in return are thinking that he might love you or fall in love with you if you give him sex. Dont sell yourself short honey. MOVE ON QUICKLY before you end up pregnant and alone. You will be alone because he only wants you for sex and when it gets too complicated he is gone.
611743
I kind of think that if you have to ask yourself, "Am I being used?" Odds are, you ARE being used.  If someone does not make you feel your full worth, and if the energy he is putting into your relationship does not match your effort, then you should seriously re-evaluate the situation, because honey, you deserve one hundred per cent and no less. We all do.
163070
A a guy, I can tell you all men at first think they just want to have sex with you. But if you allow enough time to pass before this occurs, you and he will know if there can be more to the relationship than that. I would give it several months at least to be more sure he enjoys seeing and knowning more about you, and not just want sex, before you allow things to get physical. In otherwords, time will tell in ways your heart at first can not.
1116539
Sounds like you feel he doesn't love you and just using you for sex.  You may have that feeling because he is.  If you feel that way you can't be enjoying your time with him , so do something that you can get into with him. Just spend some time together going out to diner or movies you may need some quality time together and rekindle your relationship.
21011
hey girl, its alright. the easiest way to find out is to just ask him. use your woman's intuition to judge his response. i got other ways if you're REALLY concerned.