What do you do when your employer is verbally abusive,and very demanding?
543428
Every job is a compromise. Do you get more from it than you have to take? Is it heading you somewhere you want to go? People don't really change much in their treatment of subordinates once they have established a relationship pattern. I don't think you can stop it, but you can probably get yourself fired. If the negatives of your job outweigh the positives start looking and leave (on good terms) as soon as you can. If the positives outweigh the negatives, learn to live with it. You probably can't change it.\n\nThere is a level of abuse that is actionable (you can take legal steps to protect yourself and get your boss punished). If you are talking about this level of abuse see someone at your state's department of labor or call an attorney.
302070
I would speak with HR.  It sounds like your supervisor is in need of some social training about respecting people.
31225
I think:  1. Document the date and behavior. 2. Talk to someone in human resources.  Depending on the workplace, there may also be an outside consultant who acts as the "ombudsperson" for gender and equity issues. 3. Keep a record in case you need to go to the EEOC (Equal Employment and Opportunity Commission).\n\nI would not talk to colleagues about the offensive behavior because I think that could only make the situation more confusing and possibly worse.  This is something that needs to be handled quietly between employee and boss, but the situation definitely shouldn't be ignored for important reasons.  First, it creates an uncomfortable and possibly hostile work environment for the worker, and she could suffer emotionally and psychologically as a result and her productivity may go down, too.  Second, the boss may have a pattern of sexually harassing his employees, and that needs to be addressed.  She may not be the first person.  Harassment is an issue of power, not of sexual attraction.\n\nGood luck regardless.  It's a tough situation.
1009339
Yes.  First steps is to ask the person to "stop" (this puts them on notice that their behavior is unacceptable).  If you've done this already - great.  Next if it continues, report the request for it to stop.  Next go to your manager and report it.  Go to HR and report it. Find out what steps you have to take to officially file a complaint with your company.  A work environment should NEVER be hostile, EVER!  Good Luck to you.
1094189
This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
733440
Report this to your immediate supervisor verbally and in writing. Use words like "profanity", "hostile workplace", "sexual harassment", "neglect", and "elder abuse".\n\nAsk the patient's family to advocate on her behalf regarding a set bedtime and to not have those employees in her wing.\n\nRequest that the guy has his shift and wing changed so that you do not have to work with him.\n\nGood Luck! This seems like a pretty bad situation for everyone involved. I hope everything works out.
643103
Boy, do I identify with this - no one should have to put up with this - you need to go directly to the human resources department with a complaint - when you do, remember that the government doesn't want to have to deal with a lawsuit or bad publicity - describe the supervisor's behavior and use the following phrases in your description "I feel harrassed by this supervisor" "she belittles me and harrasses me in front of other employees" "she creates a hostile work environment" These are phrases that come right out of the human resources handbooks and are phrases that are used by lawyers when they bring a lawsuit against companies. The human resources department will absolutely know that you have been coached by someone with a legal background when you say these things - but that's a good thing. It will make their ears perk up and they will take you seriously. When you make this complaint you will most likely find that you are not the only employee who has complained - people like your boss are bullies and they have many targets for their unprofessional behavior - You may find that not only will you not have to leave your job - but your supervisor may find herself without a job. If human resources doesn't take care of this - or if you end up with the supervisor behaving even worse after you talk to human resources - get a lawyer and sue them for harrassment.
493706
There are 3 ways to handle a problem like this:\n\n1.  ignore it.  If it's minor, this might be the best option.  There are no consequences for ignoring, except the behavior may continue.\n\n2.  Speak up about it.  You have your choice of speaking directly to your coworker, or to your boss.  The risk of speaking to your coworker is they may become offended and the behavior escalate.  It's best to find a quiet time to speak to them.  If this doesn't work or you feel you can't confront them, speak to your boss.  If it's your boss causing the problem, speak to their supervisor.  I would do everything possible to resolve the situation without involving lawyers.  Using the law should be a last resort.\n\n3.  Quit and find another job.  Use this tactic if you can't resolve the situtation, or if you can find a better job.  Remember that you might want to use this position as a reference, so don't burn any bridges on the way.
952029
Be careful if you want to stay in your job, as it sounds like you are clashing with quite a number of people at the moment.  If you are not careful, your upper management will notice, and start to think that you are difficult to work with, or not a team player.\nNext time, address it directly, face to face with the other employee.  If they repeat, then its time to escalate the issue.  Speak with their manager about their non-performance.  Its something I have to do occasionally, and its never fun to go over someone's head, but sometimes, it just has to be done.
889182
Just tell her the truth and if she begins to go off, just leave.  You don't have to worry about seeing her anymore if you quit so who cares what she thinks.  Or you can stand your ground and when she begins to go off just say, "Look!  This is exactly why I am quitting.  I deserve to be treated with respect and any manager that runs a respectable business would know that it is inappropriate to humiliate an employee in front of other coworkers.  As for you constantly accusing me of theft without any proof...some people would consider this harassment and grounds for your dismissal."  That should shut her up.  Good luck.  I've had one too many bosses the same way.
606397
there is such a thing as verbal abuse sounds like that's what you're getting from him.tell him straight up help or get out.
931732
fire him and get a different one. and always listen to the voices in your head.
238330
Complain to management.\nI sympathize.  You are working in a poisoned workplace.  The stress from this kind of person can be crushing and take all the good feelings of accomplishment and interest out of the workplace.\nI worked with a great team of people at one workplace and one of these people was hired.  Within a year, half of the people quit.(myself included)  The person was fired right after I left.\nPeople like that are usually VERY good at manipulating managers.  If you wind up having to quit, make SURE to specify the bad behavior as your cause for leaving, in terms that relate to those actions hindering your ability to do your job.
920654
Look up 'hostile work environment', get a lawyer.
560255
Honest answer? Sue the guy for sexual harrassment. He needs to be shown he can't treat people like that, you may have to leave the company but there are other jobs, plus do you want to work for such a sleaze? Also, you need to make sure he can't do this to anyone else.
451592
Who cares? He has a terrible attitude and isn't worth your time of day. However, this is abuse that should not be tolerated in the workplace (thought it often is), and you should go to your compliance officer/human resources liaison immediately. If you want to be nice, tell him to knock it off, grow up and be professional. If he doesn't, then take it to the top.
1010809
The 'rude' thing is one matter--that should be something that your boss can settle if they're any kind of boss at all--let him or her know that this has been going  on for some time and it is making doing your job really difficult-------It's this "grabbing"thing that is soooo out of line that it reeks--when someone touches you without your giving the liberty THAT my dear is unlawful--and it is so whether the jackass is male or female and needs to be dealt with as such---and if this "grabbing" has sexual overtones--it immediately ups the antee to a whole new level and can be considered assault if not sexual assault or even sexual harassment---don't let it slide--report it and end it NOW--whoever this squirrel is --they do what they do because they've been getting by with it and sooner or later someone is going to be hurt big time--I personally know a couple of gals that would send this girl to Jesus