Girlfriend wants to get married but I'm not so sure?
535989
you are probably just nervous. the wedding jitters?? everyone feels like that. if you really love her then go for it. youve been with this woman for 7 years already.
39855
you have asked this question three times. i know you kind of want a yes, you should. but listen to us. think first. talk to her about it. there can be complications. can you live with her? would your parents be happy? could you guys marry, and still have money to live on? think first.
1113530
You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
1089625
Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
1133325
no, i don't think she knows what she wants. i really wouldn't live with someone until i know we are for good. i'd probably get married first anyway. if you two break up, which you probably will if she continues to shy away from building your relationship, co-inhabiting with an ex is hell, and moving out is hell, it's all like one big divorce for nuthin. i'd hold off, please for your sake if not for hers! her thinking is naive, you'll both get hurt.
574390
I think that you should take it slow.  Hint around about marriage like ask her if she ever wants to get married and ever wants to have kids.  Beat around the bush and ask her how she feels about you, when she asks you how you feel tell her.  You will know when the right time is to "pop the question."  If you two are such good friends then it should build more of a foundation for the future for you two if there is any possibility that there will be one.
354092
It depends.  \n\nDo you love her, or do you just want to get married?\n\nWhat about marriage frightens her?\n\nPremarrital counseling sounds like the best option, if you can get her to go.  She may have some solid reasons that could be resolved in counseling.  It would also help you to know if you are really ready.
830879
I suggest you talk to her about it. Decide whether it is something you two can work through together, if it isn't then seriously consider calling off the marriage. You shouldn't accept that from anyone you are worth someone who is faithful. But people also do make mistakes. The question is can you ever forgive her? and is she someone you want to marry?
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
1176141
Obviously he doesn't want to marry you.  Most likely it has nothing to do with you.  He is probably not man enough to tell you how he feels so he just keeps delaying.  Ask him if he wants to rethink marriage for a while and see what he says.  If he jumps all over the idea, there is your answer.  If he still insists you get married ask him to set a date and keep it.
457298
Instead of focussing on the fact that she's mentioned marriage, ask her where she sees herself in five years.  I think alot of young women feel pressures from family and soceity to be the "full package", where they have a family and their dream career.  Maybe she's just trying to get a guy's point of view about getting married at a young age.  Let her tell you about what she wants out of life, and if it happens to include marriage in a few years, don't freak out!  If you're interested in the girl, ask her out and see how things go.  I think it would be weird to start a relationship with someone if you didn't think that sometime down the road you may want to spend your lives together.  Unless you're looking for a fling, most people go into a relationship hoping that things will work out for the long run, which eventually means marriage for some people.  The bottom line, talk to her and let her tell you how she really feels about getting married young.
247218
If you are wanting to ask her to marry you - do it romantically and in a unique way!  Find out what her dreams and fantasies are!  Try to play out one of her fantasies! \n\nHere are some ideas that are out there on the web:\nhttp://scripts.lovingyou.com/mdb/search.cgi?mdb=ideas&cat=proposal\nhttp://www.diamondhelpers.com/loveandlife/romanticideas/engagement-ideas.shtml\nhttp://www.love-sessions.com/more_proposals.htm\nhttp://marriage.about.com/cs/proposals/a/proposalideas.htm
374468
no, it just means that the other person is not ready yet.  Marriage is a HUGE commitment on either parties part. Of course you want both parties to want to take on the commitment that is ahead of them first.  I would talk to your g/f or b/f and just let them know that even though you feel this strongly about them, you are willing to wait until they are ready to take on such a serious commitment. There is not a rush to marry, and there is no rule that you have to break up if someone says no to a proposal...just make sure that they still want to be in the relationship in the first place.
1004869
You need to use this time for reflection, love does not disappear that easy! Communication is the key, maybe she is afraid, the best thing you can do is show her that you support her and care. Take it slow and both of you need to rememer the things that brought you together in the first place. If after all this she still does not want to marry, LET GO...
229887
If she has to think about it then she is in doubt or she just doesn't wanna be with you. If she truly cared about you she would know how she feels. I think you should tell her how you feel and what you want from her and see what she says.., you might be surprised. Good Luck!!
396225
Accept her decision if you sincerely care for her. If thet time is right things will happen for the two of you. I also think that you should really think this realtionship through! You say you have been together for three years yet you have only seen her for a total of six weeks thats not healthy in a realationship. Did you ever think that she might have someone in her country? Just think it over and if she is still the one ask her to marry you. Good Luck!
533329
If you aren't ready for marriage, then you aren't ready, but you should be prepared (and supportive) if she decides to move on, as hard as that might be. \n\nSometimes loving each other, sadly, just isn't enough. She wants something you don't. But because you love her, you want her to be happy, right?\n\nSo, you 2 need to sit down & have a long talk about the issue. Make sure she knows where you stand, and that you really listen to her.\n\nBest of luck.