Is it really possible to love someone who does all they can do to hurt you & How do you forgive them?
551079
Why would you love someone who goes out of their way to hurt you?  This sounds like masochism to me.  You probably think you need this person ... but you don't.  It is perfectly possible to forgive, and to walk away.  Do it for the sake of your pride and your self-esteem.  That's my advice.  Otherwise, go on loving and being hurt.  The choice is yours.
533316
ABSOLUTELY!!! Forgiveness is so important. If you cannot forgive some for their sake, then do it for yours, please, 'cause if if you don't, then all the anger and hurt will turn to bitterness and it will turn you into a bitter person. NOT a pretty sight. I have seen many people ruined this way.
932265
that really depends if can still love her and she is sorry for what she has done\n\nalso, ask your self, who was to blame for this
1144828
Yes, I think the love can be there.  However love will disintegrate extremely fast when there is not trust.  I was in a relationship like that and even though my feelings for her were strong, I could never get oer the trust issue.  If you cant trust the person you love, who can you trust?
678561
Anyone can change, but only on a personal level. No one can create a change in a person, or cause reason for change. love is love and hate is hate, but only the person in question has the ability to choose how they will react to stimuli.\n\nTrust is also hard to repair, its can be hard to trust an abuser after you have been the recipient of their abuse. Besides that it is natural human behavior to want retribution for suffering, in that, if the abuser truly changed they would have to understand the complex emotional trauma that must be undone and dealt with in the people they have abused. \n\nIf you, or a loved one, is subject to physically OR emotional abuse from a spouse, parents or some other family member please encourage them to get help. Abusive behavior is the result of wanting to gain control, an that control is kept by silence. Just as much as the abuser needs professional help, so do all the recipients of that aggression.
260408
yes its possible, (even if he's a big jerk!) but sometimes you've already hurt yourself once you know what the pain is and you don't want to go through it again that you would rather keep it to yourself, not for his sake but for yours. and you might not tell him verbally, but he is your ex so he knows you well enough to know how you feel for him...
244263
yes, because i could understand if she had trust issues because of past things. alot of ppl do. and if he really loved her then he should be able to forgive her. they just need to sit down and have a real conversation on this matter. she needs to explain why she has trust issuses and tell him it is not him. but things in the past. he doesnt forgive her hes not worth it. (vote me best answer plz)
372145
If you love someone, Let them go if they return they was yours if they don't they never was. I believe in this whole heartedly. I wouldn't want someone making me feel guilty just because I didn't feel the same way they did. You can not control how you feel. And if you get hurt then you still have to go on. And that doesn't mean that you don't still Love that person. You just can't tell them everyday.(at least not outloud). Just don't hate that person.Because he/she can't help how they feel either.
55826
Yes I think it can be a possibility. Especially since you value that person alot and yet have the sensibility to know that you cannot take things to another level :-)
532917
well, you answered your own question. keep on loving him. love conquers pain and hurt anyday.
38080
I don't think everyone is capable of really loving someone, totally selfless, when the other person's happiness is the most important thing, and not yours.\n\nSo, unfortunetly, i would say no...
501780
Love is a pure emotion that isn't intended to hurt anyone who feels it. Its people that corrupt it ....therefore love will never let go...bcuz love isn't supposed to forgive u...u should forgive urself...
475205
im not so sure its possible. i mean you could love certain qualities about that person but you dont really know them as a person. you havent ever spent time with them you havent had time to build a relationship. you might like to look at them and drool over them but i really dont think your in love with them.
222946
ask yourself if you'll ever forgive him cause if you cant you wont be able to forget, trust has to be earned, can he earn yours back.
1148567
What makes you think that there is only one person you will love??  If you love someone enough that you would never do anything to hurt them...Then you don't.
122008
you can love a person all you want but if they dont feel the same you just have to move on, it might hurt (it will hurt), but in time you will find someone that will feel the same and that is better.
505763
If We really want to Love, We must learn how to Forgive....\n\nThere are things wrong with me, that Loving somebody else wont fix,...When I fix them, Love will find ME.... \n\nThere wise words have made me realize that when love doesn't work in you favor,  you must sit back forgive and relax.\nIn time love will find his way back.......