how do i stop loving my first crush ?
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find another crush..!
492986
I think the best way to deal with it is to convince yourself that you dont like her. The more you think of her as just a friend, the eisier it is to talk normally. Everyone gets ally shy around crushes. Its just normal i guess.
1128350
u wont...believe me!!!coz,\n\nit would take a minute for u to had a crush on smone,\nit would take an hour for u to like smone,\nit would take a day for to love smone,\nbut...it would take the whole damn life for u to forget smone!!!\n\njust go on with ur life...n make da memory of u n ur ex as a part of ur life!!!besides, its one of da best thing, at that particular moment, that happen to u,right?so, why wanna tossed it away?!!
108226
just try to be away from her.\nthe day u fell u cannot do that\nu r in love.\n\ncheers!!
500652
hey sweety,i know how u feeling.. how to move on? think about yourself! u deserve so much joy, ur killing yourself with the anxiety. fight it, keep that friend connection. grow as an individual, improve n develop yourself in the mean time. sounds to me like u will get back together!! wake up each morning n look in the mirror tell yourself that ur the best thing on the planet, dance n hear James Brown wen u walking.. Aaah, feel goood!!!\n\neven if things arent the way u want them, so wat? live life the fullest n enjoy yourself each moment. stop pinning away, be optimistic about yo ex- u will get him back!! relationship issues need time, be patient n it will come to u!! maybe your differences are being worked out by the space n at the same time look yummy for him (eat yo heart out, dude!!) n any other guy out there. u never know..Morris Chestnut, or Brad Pitt (ha!!) maybe watching!!!\n\nlove yourself to death, ur beautiful, talented n he thinkin of u twice as much! why else wud he keep in touch all this while?don feel sorry or wrong, u were right to discontinue yo relationship-u did say twas inevitable, ain it? so enjoy life girl!!\n\nu can do it!!! don u know u unstoppable girl??!!! hey- u got a cute smile..do that often!! smile, i mean!!
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I WOULD RECOMMEND YOU TO BECOME SOMEHOW FRIENDS WITH HIM.  START WITH A SIMPLE CONVERSATION, ETC.  BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T EVEN TRY TO LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON HIM, HE MIGHT GO AWAY.  BESIDES THAT, TRY TO BECOME CLOSE TO HIM AND MAKE HIM FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU...
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I think you are obsessing about this girl.  It's not uncommon, we all did that...I know I did, boy after boy after boy when I was young!  The reason you can't sleep is you can't find an outlet for your feelings.  The only way to get rid of your restlessness and obsession is to let your feelings out or to act on them.  You know I bet if you were to talk to an adult about this...to a school counsellor, someone you trust to hold your confidence in this matter, they could help you.  Someone who knows you both could actually even pull you together, at least close enough so that you would TALK to this poor girl who is likely clueless to your feelings towards her.  \n\nWhat do you mean it's "a crush on her personality".  That sounds like you really admire her and have a great deal of respect for her, that she has qualities that you either like in a girl or would want for yourself.  Sometimes we obsess with people because we want to be like them.\n\nYou should try to get involved with her somehow, in conversation, in class, in a sport or event.  If all else fails you could write her a letter and tell her your feelings.\n\nJust say, hey, I have to get this off my chest because I can't stop thinking about you and I am very shy, but I think you are terrific.  I don't want you to panic.  I'm not going to stalk you, but I just had to let you know that you are the epitome of a woman and you just had to let her know....something like that where you are not saying I LOVE YOU!!! or making her feel scared or threatened or self-conscious. \n\nYou know even if you write these letters and never give them to her, you will do yourself a favour.  But you can't go on the way you are obviously...so one way or another the story has to end...or begin...the point is something will change when you make a move forward, maybe for the good, maybe for the bad, but at least you won't be "stuck"...which is the worst thing in the world...I know I've been there and sooner or later you gotta take the risk.\n\nYou sound like a really nice boy.  My daughter is goign through this phase in high school and I think girls like it when guys just be themselves and make a move and do anything...like this boy threw leaves in her hair today and she's telling me about it and yesterday he told her she looked goth with her hair the way she styled it...it's little baby steps that get you there...say nice things to girls...they like that...just be yourself as you would with any of your other friends and you're already friends with her brother...so let her see what a great guy you are when you're with him.  You're already IN there...get over that shyness boy! :~)
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LOL@gomez_leovinus! Anyway, only time will help you get over him. Enjoy fun activities in the meanwhile. Go out with your family, female friends and enjoy life. He is not your everything. Forget about him. Trust me, you are NOT the only person that had to get over someone they really liked, it's a part of life, it's natural...deal with it. We all had to get over it as well and have to live and learn. You can't force him to like you. That will never happen therefore, the best thing to do for yourself is forget about him. He'sa waste of brain space lol. You'll find someone else that actually likes you back and appreciates your company. Time will heal your saddened heart :) You need to try though. Good luck!
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Sadly, stopping to think about him is one of the hardest things to do. There´s no way to just stop. And you´re doing it cause he´s obviously a really important person in your life and you really care about him.\nSuggestions:\n1- Go for it! ask him out.. get a friend to set you guys up... or at least hang out with him more so he can see the great person you are\n2- Find someone else that wants to be with you... unless you´re in Love with this guy you´ll forget about him\n3- Wait... a long time... i don´t suggest this that much because you´ll go pretty insane. Either you´ll end up liking him less or just getting use to the pain and the obsession. But i really suggest either trying to be with him or going for someone else
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If you fall in love with someone, you know when your heart pounds when they enter they room. They make you feel jitterey inside. If all of this is true, you really are into true love. I've had experiences when they don't love you back. Be patient.\n\nIf you can't wait to find out, ask them. Think about it. The worst thing they can say is no. After, ask them if you and he can still be friends.\n\nIf someone else loves you, and you don't love them, the oldest thing to say is tell them that you're sorry but you don't love them back, and can you still be friends. Maybe your crush will turn out to be a jerk and you'll always have this guy to give another chance. It could be the perfect romance.
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You don't!  You ignore him.\n\nWhile he grows up, you'll find other boys you like for other reasons.
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Not Instantly, but it helps! Do things to get ur mind OFF of him/her. At first, you'll spend the whole date comparing them. And then eventually you'll have a whole hour without thinking about them, then a day, then two. It gets better. Do stuff you like. Remember your life before you met them. Good luck darlin, You will get over it, It just took me some time.
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i know its difficult to get someone out of ur mind once you start liking them...or say loving them.you get so attached and so involved that they become an integral part of ur emotions, dreams, life. but guess  they never were worth our love and trust. so move on..live ur life.
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crush.. i believe nothing ever comes of it its just great thought you have of person whom you want to be with.. child hood love " teen " young and its the first love you have ever known.. everything is new and you learn a lot from each other like sex, and things you like and dis like in relationships... love.. hm mm well maybe by the time your 19 25 ish around that age you should have met someone that you truly loved even the bad things about them... you always have to take the good with the bad and when you truly love someone than the bad is OK to handle.. like my current boyfriend dips... "yuck" but i truly love him and so it do sent even bother me now... your fights are about real things when you truly love someone cuz the Little shit is obsolete...
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Hey I am glad that u feel this way about your First Love!!. \nNo really I am !!\nIts very good that you still remember your first love...you actually should be proud of your self! Which again makes u worthy to be loved by another amazing man. But your'e in a dilema that if its ok to feel first love is incomparable? May be bcos ur feeling a little bit guilty as the man u r with now, is treating u exclusively well .\nAnd also this is 'THE 'question of your life! and you expect somebody to answer in a paragraph.....? well let me give a try.\n\nYou see if we put this question to different sorts of people the answers would be in their terms ,not your's.For example a scientist may explain its just a chemical and hormonal reactions, a  poet may say it's an inspirations for his lyrics and so on. \nBut what The first love means to you and How much it means to you\n- You decide it.\n If you start to compare its gonna lose its value. \n\nIf I ask you to close your eyes and imagine the picture of " A MOTHER " -without fail u r goin to imagine ur own mom( Not victoria Beckham with her 2 toddlers!)\n Now why is that? Is that bcos ur mom is the hottest mom in the universe ...? No, its bcos she means the word 'mother' to u. \nShe is the live example of the meaning of that word.She gave u this life and u become the new meaning for her life. Now u cannot accept anyone else in this life to replace your mom, no matter how much love they offer and neither she could accept anyone to be a replacement for you. Well if this is the case than how it could be different with Love. As a child u were a posession of ur mother. Now as an adult u want to possess and offer your love to some one else..\nAnd than u meet that some one and they become special to u.\nNow, 'he' bring the meaning of the word 'Love' to u. So when u hear the word love, now u relate it to that 'Meat head' aka the darling  ..lol..\nLike the same way u relate the word 'mother' in ur head. \nAnd so the first love becomes the 'First love' and get nailed and carved in our heart, and u just cant get it out. \nIt's what made you who you are now. It s became a part of you now. U cant seperate it from your body and mind. Only, you can decide whether you want some one that YOU loved ? or some one that LOVES YOU ? (provided there is still options).\nBut to my understanding if its so clear for you , than u wouldn't be here for an answer right. I think u felt morally compelled and u want to know what every body thinks...\nListen forget all of us, alright!\n U know what is right. I know u'll be confused like mad, but be confused ,only than u know where u stand and u start to see clearly.Well some people  telling you to forget it all and move on ...which I believe is a mistake!\nIt s like loosing ur core value..its like forgetting a part of u.\n I am not telling u to get obsessed  and dwell on his thoughts forever. I am telling u to deal with it. Get used to it. Like the way u get used to be with ur flat nose & big lips..etc ..lol....\n But we have to grow from that. \nu try not to forget him>>bcos the more u avoid his thoughts the more u gonna think about him and it goes on and on. \nIts nothing like he is the most perfect man for u..but the love which u had for him makes u to feel that way just the same way like ur mom.\nwhen u start to accept the fact that love is a VERB.. and the feeling of being in love is a fruit of that verb ..\nthan u have matured in love. And you would be able to open up to some special person again and accept and reciprocate love. \nBut this time it will not be completely emotional based but  u start to incorporate wisdom now\n ITS NO MORE FALLIN LOVE BUT STAND IN LOVE!.\nSo when u reach this stage of life u know how to love and how to be in love. And than after a couple of years from now , u turn back and can recap about it all with an exclusive pride and smile in ur  face while r
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even though your question is targeted toward other women here, i would like to put my 2cents in.\n\ni think the only way to find out if your crush is "Mr. Right Guy" is to get into a relationship with him. that way you will see the other side of the coin, and discover a lot of things about him that you couldnt otherwise. \n\nIF you  find out that he isnt THE one and the relationship doesnt go well, you can end it at anytime. i dont know how you think of relationships, but i personally dont emotionally commit to new relationships until i am pretty sure that its gonna be good. i dont let such a relationship have any negative effects on me. thats why i dont care about rejection.\n\ni think ive gone astray. anyways hope you get your answer.
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Boy thats a tough one! I had a similar problem with my first love. If I were you I would try and think about why he was with you in the first place... what made him need you. Possibly show him that you two were good for each other that you brought out great qualities in one another. But sometimes people just lose touch and intrest sad as it may seem. Just be careful not to put yourself out there too far, you have to respect yourself before anyone else will.\n\nIf your ruthless a good dose of jealousy might work too ; D