Does it really matter if in-laws are different and from different worlds?
540721
it  really doesnt matter. \n\nas long as they like and appreciate you.\n\nyou are good to go.\n\ndifferent how?\n\nbe happy that they are different, or you would be so bored with the same old average in-laws
158673
No. There is always something they are going to be conected by, their child whether you like it or not. They will have a lot of issues as parents that they need to talk about. If you love his child at all, you will be greatful for that because the child has both his parents in his life and they get along which is even better.
878301
I didn't realize that this was such a big issue.  My husband is bi-racial and so is my 1st son.  I think that that's how the media banks off of things-----creating and building on stereotypes.  If you want to get together with another bi-racial person, go ahead on.  It doesn't make a difference one way or another to me....
1050676
Have you talked to you mom about this?    Family is about love not color.  MY family is mixed to,we have 6 kids..  my daughter is African American,Indian,Italian. I married a Mexican. so we have alot of mixes we call it his your & ours. Is someone making you feel different or left out?  I would try to talk it out with my family or talk to the person making me feel like i don't belong. FAMILY is about love and caring, if they give that to you your half way there and maybe you need some time with someone from you dads family to get to know your afican amercian half.
865556
Mom in Law is experiencing a new life and as everyone else goes thru it, it'll come as being routine in time as well.  Things will settle down and she'll see the light again.  Give her a chance to live a little..... life's too short.  You sound a bit selfish, sorry to say. Most people WANT their inlaws out of their business. What's wrong with the brother fixing up her house? Nothing. Not to be critical but you remember how it is when you feel so alive when you first start dating someone? Well?  It's your mom in law!  She is feeling alive and beautiful.  She loves your children I'm sure and in a couple of months when the newness wears off she'll be back. :))))  Take care!
460695
My dad has always told me that if it will be, it will work. Maybe you can ask her family what they think about you(son-in-law material)I hope I've helped.
130230
mine are, didnt fight i switch back and forth, they live in same city...i could care less for them being divirced its nice being with jsut 1 at a time...its jsut the step familys that are horible.
70376
Thats a funny question to me since I am white, married to a hispanic and our son-in-law is black.  In our neighborhood we have all races and get along just fine.  You will have difficult people in all races.
731698
why don't you start with this:\n\nhttp://genealogy.about.com/cs/adoption/a/adoption_search.htm\n\nWe just found out my mother in law had a baby in the late 50's.  She was contacted by her son (who lives in Australia) and they've been corresponding ever since.  She was 'forced' to give up her child, and no one knew about him except my MIL and her siblings.  It was a very scary thing for my MIL to 'confess' to her family there was another child before them.  But it's a great weight off her shoulders.  She is happy to know her son had a good life and is not angry with her for giving him up.
519415
If you love each other truely then you should not hide your family background.Because the love knows no bounds and I am sure if you tell her everything then she will accept you as you are ofcourse,if she really loves you.
958644
I understand your dilemma; however I thinks cultural differences are good for a marriage.  I am African American and my husband is of Yemen descent.  He was raised in Tanzania.  I think he has chosen to follow his heart and look at people for people.  We sit and create our own world and not let family, culture or society dictate the love we have for one another.  I love him with all my heart and despite the approval of my mother and sister, because of his Arab background.  He stands by me and I will for him. If you stop looking at her as a Hungarian and start looking at her as the women Allah gave you; then everything will work itself out.
241347
Not at all, your wife should be understandable enough to think, oh yah its your brothers wedding, her future brother in law ish or something like that lol, and think its all family, no problems, go have a great time, enjoy yourself buddy
303723
Yes it can if each partner respect the other and their families are understanding.. My mum wasnt a msulim when she married my dad and shes from a totallly different culture(my dads arab, shes british) but things worked out fine.. my mum actually knows much more about our culture than i do.. my dads family LOVE my mum.. my mum was so happy with all of this that she began seeing what true muslims are like and she converted to islam.. and she says she couldnt be happier.. but i also know of many other non muslim women who have married muslims and it all depends on the families,  alot of them have bad relationships.. it depends
1117709
I am friendly with all different type of people - no difference which ethnic group they belong to, but for marriage I think people should try sticking to their own race - it's easier for you and your kids.
1095562
All things change. That is the nature of life and reality.  The question is whether they grow or die. The difficulty in a relationship is that all parties are changing but are they changing in the same direction or in other directions. Learn to accept the change in yourself before you try to meaure the change in another.\n\nIt is not only possible but probabe to affect a change in another person. The impossibility is to intentionally direct the change of the other person. Even in the rare cases where someone allows themselves to be changed and guided like sheep will eventually rebel against the leash. A good example is adolesence. WIth multiple infuences telling a person what and how they should be, eventually they strike out on their own and become an individual as opposed to a sum of their influences (not that their influences will have no effect but less of one). I'm sure we all remember this point in our lives.\n\nThe question "why would a husband/father seperate themself from the family?" needs more clarification. What part of the family is the h/f seperating themself from? A quit from the family in entirely (dissapearance) is likely the h/f seeing a fault in themself that they cannot tolerate another to see. A h/f seperating themself from a specific member of the family likely shows that they see a fault in the other that they cannot tolerate.\n\nWhy would this situation result in that person blaming others? First and foremost, could the others possibly be to blame? You are obviously blaming the h/f for seperating himself from the family. Is it possible that they are driven away? Is it possible that the h/f has felt the leash of guilt to the point wher ethey are rebeling and trying to create their own idenity seperate of what you are trying to change this person into. You obviously accept no responsibility for the situation yourself which may be the reason this h/f is seperating themself not from the family but from you.\n\nBefore I am accused of trolling, know this, I am the accused husband.father in question. How dare I invade my wife's privacy, you ask. QUite easily when it is left on the screen of the computer for me to find and close when I return home from work. How dare I make our private issue so public? Because it was already done so.\n\nUp until the previous paragraph was a reasoned argument that I would give to anyone with the smae question. Here begins my diatribe.\n\nThis is the forum upon which I have had the most capability to speak to my wife about these issues so I will take thsi opportunity to do so. Why? You ask. Because we see each other for upwards of 40 minutes most days with the exception being the days one of us has off work. Our days off have rarely cooencided leaving us between 6-10 hours to grow together.\n\nHave you changed me? Most certainly. You have changed me to a man who sleeps on the couch ost comfortably (the most recent couch was even bought with this in mind). Did she kick the scoundral out of the martial bed? No. While I had found several couches to be comfortable previous I had never set up a permanant residence on one until now. I almost never sleep in the bed even when you're out of town. It began thus (from my perspective of course since I haven't got another): \n\nI snore. kill me now. I snore so bady that my wife would leave the bed and sleep on the couch. I snore so badly that my wife would even leave the bed complaining of snoring even beofre I fell asleep. Despite my wife's statement that she didn't mind, I noticed that she was looking more and more tired. So I stopped sleeping in her bed.\n\nWhy have I not changed in the ways you want me to change? Because the times that I have changed for you (you'll of course have forgotten them all) I have still never gotten the feeling once that you ever loved me back. I have never once gotten the feeling that you have accepted me mutch less loved me. Accept one of my faults, ever, and I may accept
960061
yep... Being married means you get inlaws. Luckily for me, mine are great!
601118
Ask your wife what she thinks when your In-laws "let down" on you.  This should open a conversation that will allow you to tell her how you feel as well.  She should understands why you are not at the same financial level as her older siblings.  Work together making your financial goals.  Check the progress often together.  She can set her parents straight if that's needed.  No one likes to be put down and should they keep up this behavior, I would make the contacts with them as minimal as possible.  (The natural consequences for people who are jerks...no one wants to be around them.)   Hope this helps!