How should i tell my parents and other family i am?
553742
I guess you should have considered this before you got married and knocked up.  You are in a real pickle honey.  They have to know the truth so you might just as well get it overwith.  They are going to have to deal with it.  Doesnt sound like they have much choice now.  Maybe from now on you shouldnt hide things for so long.
152058
If he's been living with you for all these years, i think it's best if you tell him. Hearing you're adopted is tough enough.. hearing it from strangers that are actually your birth parents would be terrible. Tell him, let him know you love him no matter what and tell him if and when he's ready, then he can meet the other parents.
670148
pick your numbers from the birthdates of your parents and all in your family. good luck!
902707
Its something which you have to sit down and explain to them. If you are uncomfortable about addressing the whole family, then speak to them one/two at a time. If you are uneasy about your family, then get some LGBT friends and come out to them - knowing that you've got people on your side will make it easier to come out to other people (including your family).\n\nYou're probably feeling uneasy because you lied to them. Chances are, you also lied to yourself. You need to explain this to them, and mention how difficult it is coming out in a homophobic society. You only have to look at the amount of LGBT counselling resources to appreciate the difficulty LGBT people have in coming out.
1182558
You should tell your parents first----just say it like it happened, no guilt or sadness, but with an attitude, "we are here, how do we move forward in the best manner possible? ". You are going to need their support as much as your BF's, and not knowing your financial situation, definitely you may need that as well.\n\nTell your BF later--if things don't go as you hoped, you will need a fall-back, and that is your parents, even though you are an adult.\n\nAs to baby's name: Michell\n\nGood luck.
113617
really quick?... none, sorry. Not only to your parents but even other people, \nhow would you trust someone? its that simple.
627679
Someone in your family will know....your mums mum, or mums sister or cousin...there is probably a female family member that she confided in at the time....or maybe even your "dad" would know...
320251
There is absolutely no easy way to tell family these things.  I think it's easiest just to be honest.  Ultimately, the decision is yours not your family's.  \n\nDon't be nasty about it and say something rude.  Just ask that they give you a chance to tell them how you feel about this person.  But remember to let them share their feelings as well.
606632
First, you know you parents. If you feel that you shouldn't tell them until a month before, you obviously have your reasons. But I don't think I'd let  them know that we'd known it for too long beforehand....\n\nI think you should invite all the parents out for dinner. Tell them you have exciting news. \n\nWhen you tell them, make sure that you let them know that you and your husband are starting a new chapter in your lives, and that you are going to brave an exciting new opportunity that has opened up for you. And since change is not only exciting, but also intimidating, that you are really counting on each of them to give you the emotional support you'll need to leave your lives here and start your new lives in your new town. If they understand that you need them on your side, they'll be less likely to be negative about it, or try to talk you out of it.\n\nThen, if they're the kind of people who want to help, tell them exactly what you've already planned, and whatever else needs to be done so you can leave.  Mabie even take them with you when you go to sign the rental agreement, so they know what your town looks like. If they can be involved, they won't feel  so deserted.\n\nAnd make sure you underline your plan to keep in touch. Research cell phone or regular phone plans, or talk everyone into getting headsets and a pc to pc phone plan, mabie with internet cameras, so they know you plan to stay in touch, and that they arn't losing you.\n\nRealize that this move will help your marriage to grow. My family lives 700 miles away from my and my husband's families. Being so far away from help means that we have to depend on each other, and we're very close because of it.
390299
Unfortunately, even though it is wrong to reject family members for that reason, it happens alot. But tell them anyways. Don't ever hide who you are! Don't ever feel like who you are is wrong because they do not agree or approve! You never know, they could be cool with it. You can not change who you are and if anyone, family member or not, can not except you, then it is better off that that person is no longer in your life. Good luck!
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
878558
Goodness, but you are busy!  Things to tell, things to hide, ten friends, dad's girlfriend - mom.\n\nYou don't need to worry about telling anyone!  If the ten friends, dad's girlfriend and by now you - haven't told enough people for it to get back to your Mom then just give it a little time and relax.\n\nSlow down.  Breathe.\n\nCourage is a wonderful thing but often misunderstood.  Just because you don't rush right out and blurt out about your private life to your family doesn't show a lack of courage.  It shows wisdom.\n\nA lot of  people have been killed because they confused stupidity with courage.\n\nJust live your life and let the future take care of itself.  You will tell them when you want to and when you want to you will just find the way.  Easy.  Simple.  Less drama.\n\nWhy the rush?  Really, the people you want to be sexually active with - you won't have a problem telling.  Why do you have to tell your parent's anything right now?
616776
Be genuine to them! Don't over show about anything.Be down to earth..Show your belief in the family institution before them.And one more imp thing......try to make them laugh!
231174
Be honest and open. I know it's easier said than done though. It took me 4.5 months to tell my dad's side of the family that my bf is white and from another country. They still don't know that he is Muslim and we've been together 6 months (they're black Christians). It takes time.
692180
Turn the knob, open the door and walk out! lol, just kidding. Only tell the people closest to you for one thing. No one else needs to know... well maybe except for the one you have your eye on. You can choose to invite them all over for coffee and tell them all at once. Or talk to each person privately one at a time. I would prefer to get it all out at once. I have a very open family.... and community for that matter, so it wouldn't be a problem for me. Heck, I live in the Lesbian capital of America! I'd fit right in if I decided to go that direction!
1014877
The easiest way to tell your parents is to simply sit down and ask to have an adult conversation with them. It's best not to sugar coat anything, just keep it real. Tell them you have a boyfriend and it might be nice if you tell them that you would really like them to meet him and get to know him. That way they feel like they are involved in your life. Whatever you do don't put it off any longer because the longer you wait the worse it will be when you tell them.
80086
You should definitely tell your mother that he has children. She's going to find out anyway, right? So sit her down and have a heart to heart with her and explain to her that you're very much in-love with this man AND his children, then ask her to please accept your new family into her heart as well. Most parents want their children to be happy. I'm sure that's all she wants for you.