When you got married did you realize how much temptation there really was out there?
537565
NOPE! AND IT DRIVES ME CRAZY DAILY.
582548
Hi.I know how you feel. I am married to a guy and i only have to look at him or when he kisses me he makes me crazy.You can never have too much of a good thing.
394880
If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////
521206
The way my husband did.  He informed me we were already married (we were intimate.)  We argued for 3 weeks until I believed him.  God had already married us without us knowing it.
39196
I highly recommend living with the person before marriage. Personally, it kept me from making the  mistake of my life! You really get to know the real person behind all of the magic that you see from each time you get to see them. What kind of partner they will be in house chore situations, when money is tight, their ability to take and deal with certain responsibilities, all of the important components that make a marriage work well. I know that alot of people aren't keen to the idea of 'living in sin' but it is your life, and thank goodness society has changed a bit. Hopefully this helps.
564531
Not all do.  While you can't necessarily control which thoughts or urges you might have, everyone can control which thoughts and urges they give attention to and, more importantly, every choice they make.  That said, I can honestly say that my mind strayed more as my needs were increasingly not being met.  So I can understand the concept of the relationship between temptation growing stronger in proportion to dissatisfaction in the relationship.
831145
NO...\nI made a sacred vow in front of God, my family, friends and neighbors to love honor and cherish my wife. I take this vow very seriously, and can honestly say that I love her even more today than I did all those years ago.
629090
Yes!!! My husband and I worked and worked at our marriage for years....we refused to give up even at times when thats all we both wanted to do. We fought for our marriage and we finally won!  We are much stronger and so much happier than a lot of people who we know that just give up when things get hard.
585275
I would have to say that I have a tendency to expect too much, too fast. I am of the age and mind set that I want to be married, and unfortunately I almost lost the man that I truly love because of this. We are happily engaged now, but my insistence on knowing exactly where we were in our relationship caused him to pull away. That was my wake up call. We have since come to a compromise regarding boundaries, and are much, much happier and comfortable with each other. I never would have categorised myself as a pushy person, but I found out that when faced with losing something that I had never had before, I could step back and see the bigger picture. I give advice often about noticing the needs of your partner or spouse and accepting those needs without question, I just wished I would have taken my own advice a little sooner than I did. Peace.
438826
I just recently got married myself, and I don't think it is anything you can plan out. Just remember to keep each other happy. There is a ggod book I just finished, its called Power of a Praying Wife, it has helped me out a lot.
755820
I think it's better to be happily divorced than living a lie married to someone who treats you badly, like i did stupidly for 17 yrs, til one day i woke up and realised that actually i did deserve happiness and staying married to someone just because i had got married in church, was wrong, especially as really the way i had been treated, my ex had already broken his vows in the first year i married him!
374749
Never, I took my vows seriously, unfortunately not too many people do anymore, divorce is a cop out..
293793
No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K
376722
When I met my husband, 1988, he was just falling away from Christianity, and I, being at that time a non-Christian, pulled him even further. We got married in a registry office (Gretna Green, Scotland), and after being married 6 years or so, things weren't great between us. Then God virtually hit me over the head one day, I had a shock revelation that God was real, and I became a Christian. My husband was adamant that I was being a fool by believing in all that, but 2 years later and after much prayer, he came back to Christ, that was a year ago. Now we have a great marriage, we lead a house group together. Our marriage may not have survived had I not believed that God wanted me to stay married (it says so in the Bible.) There are faults in all marriages, whatever faith you have, but for us, seeking God's will together has put all our troubles in perspective, when we have money problems we know God is helping us through so that cuts out much stress. Also raising our kids to know Jesus makes parenting easier as there is a higher authority to refer to.
1100145
i was married but not anymore.....thank god....
409491
I can understand whrer you are coming from.  My wife and I did it beore we got hitched but we made the decision not to do it again after we were married.\n\nIf you take your vows at church under the witness of God then you shouldnt do it.
306976
Those of you that have said no to this, but have commented on why people cheat, and judge those that do, have really got no right to judge/comment unless they have been there and done that themselves or have been on the receiving end. As for me, yes I have cheated. Nearly 5 years into my marriage, we started having alot of problems. We weren't spending quality time together or communicating and there was no sex. When I tried talking to him on a deep and meaningful level, I got no input from him. I told him repeatedly that I was unhappy in our marriage and even to the point where I asked him if he would come to marriage counselling with me. He refused! I spent more and more time on the internet chatting to my friends until I got talking to a guy from Germany. Eventually, I was telling him about my marriage problems and how unhappy I was. From what started out as a friendship on the net and someone to talk to once or twice a week, ended up developing into something more and talking every day. It got to the stage where I hardly spent any time with my husband at all and he knew I was chatting on the internet. This guy from Germany told me he had developed feelings for me and was flying down to Melbourne to meet me. I kept it quiet from my husband and told him I was going away for a couple of weeks and that we needed the break. I picked this guy up from the airport and we drove interstate together and holidayed for two weeks. Yes, we had the most wonderful time together and when it was time for him to leave, he wanted to come back to Australia again and visit me. I felt so guiltly for cheating on my husband that when I returned home, I told my husband and also told him it was over between us and I moved out of the house. The guy from Germany and myself continued on with our relationship for about a year. The second time he came here, he spent a month with me in Melbourne where I was living at the time. Sadly though it didn't work out because long distance relationships are just too hard to maintain and there was no future for us because I found out in the end that he had no plans to marry and live in Australia. Some people think that people who cheat on their partners are scum, well most often than not, the people that are the cheaters, suffer as well. I'm not condoning cheating and I'm sorry for what I did but I not only lost my house (I left it to my husband)and security, but I nearly lost my family as well because they didn't agree with what I had done and my brother-in-law disowned me for awhile. If I could take back what I did, I would, but as the saying goes, what's done is done and my advice is to anyone that is thinking of cheating on their partners, don't! He'll end up finding out and if he doesn't, you'll have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life (if you have a conscious). For 2 to 3 years after I left my husband, I was an emotional mess. I cried constantly for the hurt that I brought upon my husband and also my family. If your marriage is in turmoil, communication is the key to a long and lasting marriage, so try and talk things through, seek a marriage counsellor if you have to and if all else fails, tell your partner you are leaving before you do something you will regret later! Life wasn't meant to be easy and you have to constantly put the time and effort in to make a relationship work! I learnt the hard way.....