Is it realistic to take a "break" from a relationship without actually breaking up?
535101
no, when someone says that they are going on a break. it usually means that they want to brerak up, but don't know how to say it.
378423
Look at this way...absence makes the heart grow fonder and it also creates some other fun things when you can finally be together.  Stick to being true to one another because it will be worth it when you finally can be together.  For now take things into your own hands.
513919
I think there has never been a concept of 'right time' in break ups. You just say it and he takes it as a man. There are few exceptions such as that he loses a loved one or his job and is devastated, it is better for you both to wait a little!
514617
Well.....definately you have to do it in person, trust me....I'm not ashamed to say that I've been dumped through the phone, and trust me that hurts like a b**ch!\n\nWell, there isn't a way to break up with someone without hurting them, if they care about you of course they're going to get hurt, but they'll understand, if you give them good reasons for wanting to break up, and if you're dealing with an understanding person, I'm sure he or she will understand! Just try to talk to the person and be completely honest! Think of a way you would like someone to break up with you and try to follow it with the person you want to dump, you know what I mean? Well, anyway, just try to be sincere and try to be soft, you know? I hope that helped you! Good Luck!
570981
if he's not holding onto tight enough to let you go for the summer, he's obviously not scared of losing you. i don't think this relationship would have the potential that other relationships have. it really depends how old you two are, how long you've been dating and if you've talked about marriage. but generally if he wants a break... give him about 2 weeks to change his mind and come back to you, or screw it and find someone who will want you by their side.
224511
You decide on whether or not love in life is worth it. Your answer will most likely be 'yes, it's worth it'.\n\nHeartbreak is the risk that we all knowingly take when we start seeing somebody. We cannot live in fear of what may happen, for we will miss out on many opportunities.\n\nIt is important to take risks, and in this case, it often pays off.\n\nWithout the risk that I decided to take, I wouldn't be with my girlfriend now. She is my world, and somebody I can easily picture living the rest of my life with. Saying that is somewhat scary, but the realism is there.\n\n'Destruction leads to a very rough road, but also breeds creation.'
33689
Sure. It can take some time, though, if you usedto be in a relationship with this person and no longer are. Friends after a break up is possible as long as you really do display the traits of a true friend. If you haven't been in a relationship with this person and are trying to avoid one, I think you are choosing a more posative option than cutting off all contact and obligations. This person means enough to you that you want to have a relationship, just not the same as it was or what the other person wants it to be. Just remember that this may take time, and that it is on the other person's schedule, so try not to get discouraged or have your feelings hurt if they aren't automatically ecstatic about the idea.
449675
Its probably a temporary move foe modelling, right?  I would take it.  You will always wonder what if, if you don't.  Also it will be a true test of your relationship if you can survive being apart.
787192
I dont think its a cowards way. It depends on the situation. I told my wife that, but it was because we were in an "angry relationship" in which the love had faded away. I was honest with her. I said I want to leave to see if I will miss you I dont expect you to wait but its something I have to do. I didnt go searching for someone new, I was still hurting...I just wanted time apart to see if I would miss her or want to be with her again....so in my opinion sometimes it is what it is.. a trial to see if thats what you want. just like test driving a car to see if you like it.
905948
I think that its good to have time away from your partner... it gives you time to miss and appreciate him. But its not wrong to want more time with him and to ask for more affection.
284674
sorry sweetie, but that's a guys nice way of saying he wants to screw around but still have you as a back up to come back to.  i've never had a sucessful "break" period with a guy.  good luck hun.
790107
At the end of the day, you have to put yourself first. That can be easier said than done, but you do yourself no favours by staying in a relationship that causes you unhappiness. When you do eventually walk away, you will soon realise that it was a good decision, and you will feel better for it. In fact, you will wonder why you did not do it before. No good person wants to break a relationship, but no bad relationship is worth the suffering of a good person. It is your goodness that he is exploiting, but he probably does it unknowingly, because he is not well. I imagine that he needs help, but professional help, and that there is nothing that he will let you do for him. Maybe your departure will alert him to his defects. Let's hope so.
47524
When you realize that the relationship isn't meeting your needs and conclude that it isn't going to any time soon...\n\nMany relationships are "dead" or go nowhere, there is no definitive "line in the sand" that is crossed. The line is really internal, a realization that continuing is pointless.
1017707
Yes it is normal to feel a little sad when you break off a long term type relationship.  You did the right thing if you were feeling overbear-ed.  Just have to do things to keep your mind off him.  Hobbies, video games, hang out with friends a little more just keep you mind off the break up.
367660
Yes you should. Actually, you seem like you could use a break. :)
984509
i think that me and my boyfriend may be breaking up today. i'm really nervous and not sure what to do.  don't call him, just let it all go. that'll be the easiest thing to do.
807908
I think time and space are important right after a break up....at least a few months.  Trying to be friends right away typically makes it seems like dating again almost, or at least in my situations.  Then when one person starts dating someone else or decides it's not a good idea, it's like a 2nd break up all over again.  It sucks because if one person wants to be friends and the other does not, post break up, that's that.  You have to accept that the person may not want you to be in his/her life for a while...as much as it sucks, you must not be selfish and just move on