If men and women are meant to be together...why do you have to work so hard to keep a relationship together?
541770
because people are different and have different ways of dealing with things and living together makes all of that come out more, on a daily basis. some people have less issues to deal with than others tho, i have noticed. some dont have to work 'so hard', but also some relationships arent meant to be and then there is a lot of work to do if you want to try to keep it going.
534976
Men do lots of sweet, romantic things at the beginning of a relationship to impress women, so that they will consider them as relationship material.  They know women love to be treated as special.  The things they do (cooking lovely meals, massages, buying impromptu gifts) are occassionally at much inconvenience to themselves.\n\nSo once you are already in a relationship together, many men are unable to maintain this behaviour and moreover feel there is no need to continue.  This is short-sighted , however, as it fails to consider that if he uses such behaviour to win the woman, the said woman is going to expect the treatment to continue, and may be a significant reason why she entered the r'ship in the first place.
1083098
1) it's a pride thing\n2) it's kind of caused by biology, too.  Men are supposed to be the providers, and to take care of their mates.  How can they do that (or find a mate) if they don't even know how to get around?
556739
please do not be so rude on us ..we have a hard time trying to understand women but that is the beauty of all, two different beings in a relationship..we have problems to express love verbally or publicly...with exceptions ..when we love a woman the best moment to express love is intimacy and that does not mean to get in her pants....of course we love that....but we were raised to act on rational thoughts and usually try to leave emotions apart that is why we need women to fulfill the other part in us ...feelings ,emotions..thanks God he created women the way they are....my wife will tell you sometimes I want to have her disappear...but even though in those moments I need her...we(men) are difficult to understand but we think the same about women(mystery of the universe) but when we learn to accept each others differences we start to love being together\n\nmay God bless women\nI am sure there is someone out there waiting to love someone like you
380466
Depends, are you the girlfriend or the wife?  There are many reasons that people get involved with others. The number one reason is because they are dissatisfied or unhappy with their relationship.  No matter if your the girlfriend or the wife, make a decision to move forward with your man or not.  And then talk to him about your decision.  It will work out better if your both completely honest.
10767
Basically, we're screwed up! WE're clingy, dependent and want the fairytale. We always think we can "help" someone and that they will change or what ever. By science, since we as women want to spend so much time with the guy we like, it is normal to eventually come to love that person.Just the act of being around someone, can cause you to fall in love. They actually did a study.
288586
Why do say MORE difficult?? Have you ever tried forgetting a woman? Let me put aside the idea that you're bisexual...\n\nMen are hard to forget simply because they are different from woman (obviously, i know) and once we've captured them in our hearts, we are hooked.\n\nMost women who have a strong relationship will feel wanted and needed by their lovers. And unfortunately, women crave and hunger for that type of attention. And once we have it, we're trapped.. and most of the time, blinded. That's why it's tough to forget and let it go.
366883
It all depends on the man. Some men are built for marriage and commitment, some men just aren't. More and more our society is encouraging men to nurture their anti-commitment tendencies. Even empowerment of women (something I think is great) is having unintended effects in this direction. As more and more women are feeling it's okay to be promiscuous and casual in their relationships - men get even more reinforcement that this is the best way. It surprised me, but I've even had the thought "where can I find a woman who wants to settle down?" run through my mind.
509056
I think because marriage is the ultimate committment (or its supposed to be!). You're pledging to love and stand by your significant other for the rest of your life...its a big deal and it is something women have been trained to want and dream about!\nPersonally, I have no idea when I'm going to head down the aisle, as I'm currently single. I'm in no rush though, there are so many things that will be harder to do while in a committed relationship!
245160
I think the main reason that people can't or don't commit to relationships is immaturity and selfishness.  They often want to keep playing the field or go out and play the field.  There is also the fear of being hurt and the fear of what a commitment to a lifelong relationship entails.  I think another problem is their not knowing what they want or what is best for both of them.  I had one friend who dated a girl for about 8 years until he felt that God wanted him to marry the girl.  That girl was frustrated beyond belief.  She had 4 other roommates in the house, including my future wife, and all of them met and married guys after the two of them had started dating.  It really is a tough thing to do since the onus seems to be placed upon the male to ask the lady if she wants to marry them.  Heck, it is hard enough asking a woman to dance with the fear of rejection!!! ;)
216096
men dont like the whole relationship thing simply because they get a tied down feeling....i think its alot like getting old,.... we dont want to do it mainly because we know there are things we have to give up.   maybe because we are not able to do them....
1169331
Girls tend to me more emotional and clingy than men.  Just out of observation, women and men tend to get almost closer once apart, as they tend to feel a bit more comfortable sharing more personal things than they did when they were once together.  That is of course if they ended on positive notes.  Couples tend to have a hard time conveying honest feelings to each other, but someone they know pretty well (such as past boyfriends) make an easier outlet for someone to talk too.
552875
Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
236167
No the only way to have a lasting relationship is for both people to be completely open with each other. If their not open it shows lack of trust and their is no relationship unless their is trust.
257399
All relationships require work from both ends and if that doesn't exist then they eventually fade away.  It is often better to let them fade away than to be angry over what you can't control.
292941
It's either the trust issue or something deeper. Do you bury or repress fights when you are together? How do you fight when  you are apart?\n\nI've heard alot of terms for this, passionate, full of emotion, whatever. In the end if two people can't get along, it's best to part ways.
404653
Men want to be acknowledged, loved and admired. They also want a woman to be open, loving and kind.  A man will stay with a woman who respects herself.  Most relationships fall apart when a woman gives up who she is to please their man, she'll usually get taken advantage of and will be disrespected for it.  Staying true to yourself and yet respecting the good things a man brings to the table - they usually eat it up every time.