How to stop arguing with my bf.?
535145
You can stop by picking and choosing your battles. Reserve some of that energy. But if you simply need to have a arugment make sure you understand his side too. Its not healthy to fight because it kills the love and dampers your view on your bf. Talk to him and try to be rational.\nBut if its too much, hun move on
381068
Sometimes it's easier pointing out our partners flaws then our own.But we all have them. Tell him that the situation opened your eyes on seeing how he felt towards it and ask him to forgive you. In the end he'll do the same even if it takes a while. Just note that every time you have an argument remember whats important like when you first met and how you would get those butterflies in you stomach and just reminisce. It really helps ease the situation and it reminds you that arguing with someone that you care that much about is stupid.
383881
You can't.  Period.  Sorry, but if you went into the relationship thinking you could, don't ever do that again.  Let him know that you won't tolerate being controlled, and if he can't live with that, than walk away as soon as you can.  He could turn violent.
220719
Its so simple. Just tell him frankly & truthfully that u r not interested in him anymore and r inclined to continue ur relationship with ur x one. If ur present bf is sensible, he w'd surely get out of ur way.
610428
just chill out and pick your battles wisely. there is no sense in beating a dead horse over something that isn't worth arguing about anyway. life is way too short.
168969
The next time you are NOT fighting say the same thing to her that you have just said to us.\nAnd then jsut listen. And also when she is upset just stop talking completely. Do not say one thing. This is a great trick. Say not ONE WORD.\nLet her be on the defensive for a change, let her do the apologising. It is a great feeling. Stop talking to her, use all your strength to do it. Even if it takes several days, stop talking to her and let her start wondering what she can do to make things right. Put the ball in her corner and let her see how it feels. You will be doing her a favor by teaching her a valuable lesson and you will help your self esteem which needs  a lot of help, I can tell.
19053
i think the arguing is a clue that there is a lack of love somewhere. remember actions speak louder than words. only you will know if he truly loves you or not
440371
Hi try walking away when the fighting starts and cooling down, when you both have a minute 2 cool down try and talk about it this has worked for me and I think it can help you
793649
couples have arguments all the time.  Especially after a year of seeing each other.  Don't worry and call him.  Let him know you still care for him and want to work out whatever it is that you disagreed on in the first place.  That is, if that is what you want.  If not move on and find another guy.
221661
So stop it already! Hurting your feelings with what??>....um,.. lemme guess, words? Are you certain that he is doing it intentionally, or do he think he is not. \n\nFeelings get hurt only when we allow ourselves to feel that way.  I strongly believe that you can also choose to not let whatever it is he says hurt you by ignoring him, not taking those times so seriously and tell yourself he is just messing with you, and blow it off- give him a taste of his own medicine and see how he reacts. \n\nBottom line, you control emotions, get upset, feeling hurt,     are controlled by you. You decide what will piss you off and what hurts. Change the way you think and perceive things, don't take things so personally, remember freedom of speech?   \n\nYour bf probably gets a kick watching you get all upset. Dont let him see you hurt or upset, don't let it faze you, like you never heard him, I bet it will stop. \nMaybe you are just being a cry baby? Maybe blow his mind the next time he is hurting your feelings and just crack up laughing hysterically then stop, telling him he is so hilarious. Well, at least you will be laughing, that feels better than feeling hurt, or sad or upset. Is this making any sense at all?\nI hope you understand my point, and you find your way to toughen up your sensitivity.
1138084
hmmm.......... i have been giving suggestion in this regard to a lot of people and i guess they liked it also...\nthe problem here is there is a monotonous life schedule which is going on..... you have a routine life and people do get bored out of their routine life.....\none thing i would suggest is stop bitching about each other.... this is the worst thing to do in a relationship.... ater all this, you two are together for 5 years means that there is something which is still there which is binding you two.... it can love, it can be lust......\ndo these to spice up your life.....\n1. give him a surprise party..... without any occasion\n2. always be a pleasant surprise for him.... keep him guessing what will be your next move... that will interest him...\n3. Perform a striptease in front of him... totally unexpected...\n4. for once, dont bitch back..... arguments leads to arguments......\neven though he does, you have to keep your calm, and try to love him, even though he might be busy bitching..... put your arm around him and kiss him on his lips.... the words come out.....\n5. don't hear whatever he says, when he is bitching.......\n6. give your love to him...... it can bind/heal/patch almost any kind of relationship.... it can cure the bitterness between you two......\ntake care and good luck girl
992809
think for yourself, does your boyfriend worth you or not. you are the judge here. don't let your pal say things to you, because what will happen is that you and your boyfriend will end up yelling at each other over nothing. trust me, think for yourself. is your bf good or bad. you decide.
815050
If anyone ever tells you that they do not fight in a relationship...do not believe them.  As long as your communication is there and you work through the arguements - you will be fine.  Just do your best to not bring up the past, no name calling, no physical abuse, no destroying property.  It's OK to argue just do it constructively.  You both need to listen to what the other is saying.  You will be fine.  Good Luck!
173676
Try changing your daily routines... Sometimes, just being in the same old place with the same old people can drive a relationship to the point of arguing over nothing. Maybe go out to an art exhibit, take a cooking class together, or even volunteer at an old folks home. You never know, if you are focusing your energy on something else together, you may find that you don't have anything to argue about!
663986
Ohh god u really need some help. Firstly dont be scared for whatever he says, he knows u r decent enough and tolerate whatever he says for the sake of good reputation. So just make him look like a fool to himself. Do this step by step. Firstly when he scold u just say how much u want to scold me just do it, and l am just keeping my phone on my desk and do my work when u finish just hang out. Like this will make him gradually feel stupid. Always be nice with words to him this will make him clam down coz from ur question l feel making him angry is no use at all. Finally having a bf like this for ur future will be a big problem, so slowly get out from him even u loves him. This will be a big problem to u in future as no  trust nor any support to u from the man.
550527
Go for a walk and just have time on your own.  Talk to yourself about what got you so pissed off, what you should have said, what you are going to say, but without screaming or yelling so they could know that you really mean it and that you are not just talking because you are mad.....  I think that is the best as it will prevent you from getting physical with the person who caused you to get the way that you are and you will avoid saying something that you will or may regret....
1120218
OH MY GOD !!\nDeja Vu, You remind me of me and my ex girlfriend. \nWe were together for 3 plus years. We used to fight so regularly that in the beginning our friends used to be shocked by the anger and in the intensity. But we used to end up kissing and making up. But as we moved on, our fights became a forthnightly event, and our friends just ignored it like it was a 'normal thing'\nBut I used to do all the things, you mentioned in your Q. Go in front of her house, we used to give each other missed calls and sometimes prank calls, we used to have our friends call eachother and find out how the other person was doing, and so on a so forth.\nBut fights in a relationship are NEVER healthy and mind you, it will get old and you will sometimes cross that line of sensitivity, therefore inadvertantly hurting the other persons more than you thought you would.\nHe (like my gf) might be of the false impression that fights are 'normal and important' to keep the love in a relationship.\nTry and convince him that this is not normal, NEVER.\nYou should set some ground rules and learn not to overstep eachother.\nI understood we fought as often as we did, because we lacked trust and respect for the other.\nTake one day at a time. You will never go wrong.