What are some of the most common misconceptions about race/gender that you're bothered by?
541950
I hate it when a black person assumes that because I am white I support slavery or ever had an ancestor who had slaves. They seem to forget it was blacks who sold them into slavery and white's who fought to free them. Not all whites supported slavery!  I think it was horrible but I am also sick of them thinking they are entitled because of it.  What about the jews? They were wronged too, what do they get?  The Indians we stole this land from were wronged, what do they get?  I think it is unfair that they can have all black beauty pageants, all black colleges, all black scholarships, we cannot have an all white anything or we would be in big trouble for discrimination, not that I would want to anyway, but how fair is that????!!!!!  I think everyone should have the same rights and I am sick of hearing how they think they have less rights when they actually have MORE.  They will get a job even if less qualified and I have seen first hand how they can sit around and do nothing and cannot be fired, by law, because company would be in trouble if they fired them.  I like black people, but it angers me to no living end that they get away with stuff like that!  I have black friends and have heard them make remarks about getting retribution one day.  That is a real pisser offer for me!!!!  I have done nothing wrong to them!
880405
actually I find almost all stereotypes offensive...\n\nGoth- so depressed, wears black, too deep--no not really!\n\nEmo- cutter, poser, funsucker---well kindof, but not all the time!\n\nprep - dumb, sl*t, whiner, daddy's girl---well, this is almost true, but not all the time\n\nand well there's just a whole bunch more! The thing I hate the most is against the black community, just because I am an african american young girl doesn't mean I will, 1)shake my butt for you 2) talk "ghetto" 3)be loud 4) have and attitude all the time!\n\nI think that's the worst, specially when people say oreo (black on the outside white on the inside) that really hurts too.\n\nwe could stop this by getting to know each other without judging first. You could really find out some stuff about different people if you just give them a chance. But, society sucks, and this will probably continue on for years.
1033512
I actually think it is! I have seen black people who are racist against blacks (there was some talk show on it a long time ago), so it could be that someone is sexist against their own gender. For example, some man may feel that men are inferior to women because they are unable to bear children. Odd, but it could happen!
1006093
Many people fear the unknown (races different from their own), they don't recognize the fact that our bodies are just the shells of our beings and certainly don't define who we are inside, they're ignorant, small-minded, prejudiced, or racist.  \n\nOne thing that has always bugged me is when an ignoramous will defend racism by giving this example, "Look at the animal world -- dogs don't mate with cats.  They stick to their own kind."  But black dogs mate with white dogs or with dogs that look a LOT different from themselves.  As humans, we ARE sticking to our own kind -- our own kind just happens to be composed of all colors and looks (just like dogs).
487079
No. It should not matter one bit. Some people have a problem with race..they're mostly not educated and their opinion should not influence you.
1079684
Well, I don't like the term "coloured" for people that have dark skin. It's rude and it's wrong. Then what does that make me, clear? Invsible? Why do we have to pay so much attention to people's skin colour? Why can't we see people as people? We all breath, bleed and breed the same ways. I don't see a difference. I just see people.
296895
If anyone lives in a diverse community they are bound to be discriminated against. I have had blatant discrimination, which shocked me, then angered me. After I forgave the ignorant attack and realized others endure much more, much more often than I do.\n\nI have a lot of friends outside of my race, I am perplexed often by their(some not all)preoccupation with race (mine and theirs) and how their identity is so wrapped up in being Black, Peurto Rician or Dominican etc. I generally do not think about my race, I'm white and I think in general whites do not allow race to identify them, unless they are racists. I actually get uncomfortable when I am introduced as Italian-American ...I am not uncomfortable with my heritage, just being labeled in a way that makes being Italian-American seem like the second most important thing for someone I am introduced to know about me.
240241
metamorphasis...\n\ni hate it when somebody beats me on easy questions...
1044235
ignorance and racism.
1175479
Racism is drawing negative conclusions about another person's traits, ethics, worth, ability, etc based solely upon that person's racial origin. And then acting upon those assumptions. \n  I think we all have "stereotypes" or "preconceptions" to 1 degree or another. Whether we like to admit it or not. A racist is usually aware of, and willing to act on these preconceptions.
1072081
thought you were a female ?
834371
It's not really a sexual orientation issue; it's a gender issue. \n\nPeople who identify as women want to be recognized as women. People who identify as men want to be recognized as men.  It is insulting and actually hurtful to be mistaken for the opposite gender.\n\n(I am even careful now when on the telephone with someone I do not know -- until they give me solid, verbal cues as to their gender, I respond to them in a neutral way.  Example: some women have deep voices and some men have high ones.)\n\nAs a guy, I'll use your long-haired guy example:  Some guys as adult men really have nice hair -- they were blessed in the "hair gene" department. People have commented on their hair and they are fastidious about it, sometimes wearing it long.  They are "accentuating" a very positive and good-looking part of their physical appearance.  When people mistake them as women, let's say from a distance, that makes them feel bad because the very reason they have long hair is to make themselves look good or feel good.  And often men, when hurt, will show feelings of anger instead of hurt or sadness.\n\nSo we all have to be careful.  We have to validate everyone for being a male or a female -- that is a very important responsibility we have to our fellow human beings.
519753
It's not racist in and of itself to identify a person's race when describing them, but it is a signifier that you interpret their race/gender to be out of the ordinary for the situation. for example if you say "the black judge walked in" or "the woman judge walked in" rather than "the judge walked in".\nI suppose you can determine someones comfortability with race/sex relations when they use these signifiers to describe their personal relationships, i.e., "Some of my best friends are Black/White/Asian/Women/Etc."
347268
Because they shun the unfamiliar and critiize anything that is abnormal.  It's not just the "unusual" but in the past it was race.  Unfortunately, the stigma never goes away.  There will always be cruelty to things that people believe are unfamiliar and abnormal.
806088
there is "some" truth to all stereo types, thats why they are stereotypes. but it is wrong to judge everybody based on them because even though a large enough cross section of a certain group may in fact fit the stereotype, not all do. we need to evaluate every body based upon their own individual identity
559715
Having friends and familly from every race, I find it hard to believe that racism can exist if you take the time to meet someone different from yourself and to respect those differences.  You are right, there is a lot of emphasis put on racism.  I am always amazed that people who consider themselves good people think nothing of making some of the comments that they do when they either think that they are with like minded people or when they can do it anonymously as in this forum.  The definition of racism is to believe that one race is superior to another simply because of race.  I can only believe that people who have this belief are truly missing out on some great friendships.  To think that you are better than anyone simply because of race is the epitomy of arrogance.
1185794
i date outside of my "race" all the time...in fact, most of the time i do. i don't let racism stop me at all nor do i care what my family thinks. besides, as far as i'm concerned...there's only one race and that's the human race.