Is it normal to get intimate with a guy for the 1st time and have intercourse?
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do you mean on the first date? if you do, don't expect him to call you back.\n\nit depends who you have sex with. it can be really bad if you're not careful....and wait till you good and ready, not when he is
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I agree with Lovebug.  Sorry honey.  If he wanted to call you or write you or see you, wild horses wouldn't keep him away.\n\nIt sucks that it was your first time, but don't listen to those unkind Christians telling you your virginity was a "precious flower you can never get back."  What a load of crap.  The first time you experience sex with someone who respects and adores you will be a "first" to remember- and the fact that you broke a bit of biological tissue last weekend won't take away from the magic when that happens.  \nBe mad, cry, talk to your best friend or mom or priest or shrink or mentor or whoever it is you go to.  Just remember to forgive yourself.  You were younger last weekend than you are now.  If you had known then what you know now, you would have acted differently.  Forgive yourself- because there's nothing to forgive but youth.  Being disappointed, being taken advantage of- this is a part of growing up.  Remember, all experiences have the potential to make you stronger or weaker.  Choose to become stronger from what you've learned.  \n\nAlso- don't talk too much to others at college or in your social circle, because as you've seen just on this forum, people can be cruel, and you don't want this story to follow you around once you've grown beyond it.
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It's different for each person.  I assume by your avitar that you are female.  If that is the case, it will probably hurt the first time, maybe the first few times.  \n\nI would recommend waiting until you are married, it is definitely worth the wait!  It's also nice to know that your first is someone who is planning on sticking around.
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Hey dude. Sex is the most pleasurable moment in a persons life. Since this is going to be ur 1st time. I wud suggest you not to get carried away woth it. Bcoz often it has been people who have been deprived of it try to make the most of out when subject to opportunity for the 1st time. Its a flavour which u need to taste in due course of time and can be enjoyed over longer and extended periods of time. For the 1st time I would suggest you to please try oral sex. Kissing, fondling with private parts, Intense kissing. Then when both u and ur girl are confident and cant hold it long. Just try watching some Soft Porn movies like "Body Shots", "Wild Things", "The Lover". These movies will guide you exactly how to go about sex @ the 1st shot.  All the best and Good Luck !!
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you should be more specific about what you want to know.\nsex is fun, and good excercise, and an all around good thing! the first time can hurt, usually does, it can also be scarry! its something new for you to experience. just relax and let whatever happens happen. its a natural thing, and is not something to be ashamed of.\nyou might try looking it up in the dictionary or googling it!as to get more information.\ncongrats on your marriage!
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Believe me I think plenty of us have done this at one time or another.. It is nice to have somebody there to get intimate with.. And it is not awkward because you have been with him before.. Is it a good idea? No, it is time to move on and find somebody else to build a relationship with...
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when the time is right and you meet the right person who wants to do it. *winks* I have a friend who loves being the first with a virgin.
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lier lier is all i can say.. even for a guy when losing his virginity it is kinda a nervous-ish experience. i am sure not as indepth as the ladies BUT STILL AN EXPIERIENCE..why? well there is a stereotype for guys and this dude you speak off seems to be exemplifying this stereotype... more than likely his first time was shorter than that.. maybe 5 to 15 minutes the most... why well even if he was with an experienced female... she probably would have orgasmed by then... with me and my virginity it was like 5 minutes.. i didn't have an orgasm and the primary reason for the above turn out was because i was doing it with my girlfriend and it was her first time as well... in all honesty after like 30 seconds of actual penetration and trust we stopped because it was painful for her... the first time usually encounters physical obstacles... the pain of your hymen breaking... I have had this same experience with 3 more young ladies where they were losing thier virginities. A couple times went by like this until they had healed up, gotten over the psycological fears of pregnancy and all that.. and actually got into enjoying the feelings actually generated by the act of intercourse/making love...after those initial 2 to 3 times ...well it's all climax from there!!!! no pun intended.. hoped this helps.. \n\none more thing.. don't be in such a rush to loose your virginity... it makes a big difference in your life... i guarantee it.. picture yourself at 21 or 27 and a friend asked you about your first time... the answer can either go one of two ways.. ohh its something i'll never forget cause it was with a great guy.. boyfriend of mine where we had a good and long relationship OR i regreted my first time... it was wack... i didn't really feel anything (emothionally or otherwise) i don't even remember that guy. i wish i had waited longer...  when that time comes.. i guarantee you'll remember The Thinker!
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Give him sex first ,then ask him after....
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Wait until you are positive you have fully matured mentally and have made every effort to think through it, then wait a few months and seriously think about it again.  Then make up your mind if you are ready.\n\nSome things to consider:\nMake up your mind about what you do and do not want to allow to happen before being with someone.  Set a line and don't cross it just because it feels good.  You set the line for a reason.  Maybe set another line for if you get really passionate and want to go further.\nAre you thinking this through while calm and not horny or around the other person?\nDo you want to marry a virgin?  If so, you might think about being one too.\nDo you want to risk STDs, some being incurable or causing death?\nDo you want to risk pregnancy?\nDo you want to risk sex becoming a big issue when deciding your emotions toward a person or whether you should stay together?\nHow will you feel if you break up with this person after having sex?\n\nI'm not saying sex is bad or wrong (it can be a great thing), but it is a serious issue that must be thought about appropriately.  Don't think that you have to have sex as soon as possible, it will still be around when you get older.  You can only have your first time once.\n\nAlso, discuss any boundaries with your partner so that he or she is able to respect them and help you keep them.
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The first time, it pretty much hurt.  And did for the next couple of days.  But after that, it just got better and better.\n\nIf the guy knows what he's doing, and really cares about how you're feeling, it's pretty amazing.  It's definately one of those things that you want to do with a guy you trust and love.  If you have doubts, better to wait.\n\nOh, yeah, and use protection.  Even if you're on birth control, use a condom.  It's safer that way.
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It's normal to be nervous! God knows that I was. But it's not as bad as all my friends tried to make it out to be! The first time he enters, it's going to hurt a little bit, but after a couple of minutes, it's fine... Or it was for me... Just try to relax, have fun, but make sure it's with someone special and not just a one night fling. That will make it much more memorable for you!  So relax, have fun, but also, be safe!! Cheers!!
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Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
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No you don't need to know sex moves for your first time, it will hurt too much, wait a while before experimenting any moves.
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letting your nerves take over is your worst mistake. just be yourself, explain to him that it's your first time and let the mood take you from there. dont forget the protection!!!!!!
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Yes some times physical and mental.  If you're a virgin than the first time it might hurt.  The guy should be attentive to this fact and go slow and easy.  And if u tell him it hurts he should stop.  But everything that is good will hurt some some time but not all the time.  U should be able to enjoy sex without hurt.  So girl if you're a virgin go easy.  And if not and u like it fast and hard I'm your man.  Either way I will help u.\nCHUCK\n:--# )
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I'm not a guy, but I have to speak up here.  I think that down the road, you will regret having sex for the first time with someone who means nothing to you.  However, I suspect you don't believe that now.  My advice, if you go through with it, is use a CONDOM!