what do you all think about people today haveing children with out being married?
543876
I feel very sad about this as a child needs a secure environment to grow which i dont think unmarried parents can justify. i want my kids to grow in  a safe n secure family as environment surely affects a child's psychology. Children are a God given assignment to parents.Its our duty to give them all the love they deserve n i feel that only commited parents can ever justify that.So what i think is that people should get married and then only have children. its good for both kids n their parents.I had a happy childhood only coz my parents were married.It counts a lot.\n\n\nWhy do u people who answered associate marriage with bitterness n hatred that would ultimately lead to divorce??
1066782
I totally agree with you!! I don't understand people who have children and then don't actually take the time to raise them right!! It seems like alot of people either have no common sense when it comes to their kids or maybe just too lazy!! I will raise my own son, thank you very much!!
180307
Do I think it's wrong ?  No.  I think a child exposed to many cultures and places is a good thing .  I think a child cared for is always a good thing no matter where they might be at the moment.  I think a child feels home is more about the stability of the key adults in their life then about location.  I think it's great that Brad and Angelia are using their resources to help children who may otherwise have very bleek futures, it's commendable.  I also think everyone is angry with them for hurting Jenifer who was like Princess Diana "down to earth" a common soul.  I think for this reason attempts are made to make them the union of Sodom and Gommorah.  The reality is those buying tickets to the firestorm from heaven may as well get in the refund line.  It's not happening.  I think traveling with children is the least of the worries for this couple.  Now let's get outraged about B.Spears and her baby in her lap not buckled in.  Here are two people caring for kids who wouldn't have many options apart from them and maybe they will marry, maybe the won't but they've both stepped up to plate for other peoples children.  That's more then many do for their own children.
179537
Maybe the payment to married people is to pay them to put up with the other person... But ya I like the idea of it going to  people with children instead.  Although it bothers me when people have kids just to get money from the government then starve their kids... So it has its drawbacks.
283274
The parents need to work that out together.  They should still be a team when it comes to parenting even if they are no longer married.  That is part of being grown ups and parents.
590156
NO BECAUSE CHILDREN SHOULD COME FROM A LOVING MARRIAGE.
1042167
I hate people like that, dammit. Well, I think it's funny that opposite sex marriages are held up to the norm when heterosexuals aren't exactly doing well on the marriage floor. What is there left to ruin when most couples divorce these days?\n\nAnd also, what do they mean we need more people to reproduce, if 1/100 people are gay, that leaves 99 people to add to a 6 billion, plus population.
497923
I was a kid in the 40's and 50's and it was a strong family society.  Marriage was a commitment for life.  Today, people live together and have sex before marriage, have children out of marriage, depend on the Government to take care of them, and have no strong ties with other family members.  Education is down the tubes.  Kids leave school without being able to read, write and spell; look at the "Answer" question and answers sometimes.  If we don't stop the illegal immigration we will have a group of illiterate adults who have no skills to do the technological jobs.  If we don't stop the growth of the Government, we will have more than half the people working for the other half.  Society has changed from when I was a boy and it is scary.  I think we are headed in the wrong direction socially.
960061
yep... Being married means you get inlaws. Luckily for me, mine are great!
351164
No we all don't do that anymore, but it would be nice if we all did. I think that is why so many people divorce because we don;t do things as a family anymore................
383071
Yes, because they actually want to have a child, and will raise them with love and support. Unlike people who become parents everyday who don't want children or who don't have the skills to raise them right.
178287
They do this in part because they are not mature enough to deal with the real world.  I'm not being critical of them. I have too many problems of my own.  These "kids" were not taught a great deal of personal responsibility as children.  That rests squarely on their parents shoulders. Now they are having children and have less chance of teaching their own children responsibility.  It will likely get worse before it gets better.  Some day maybe parents will step up to the plate.
341901
As long as you are just dating, yes, the child gets more attention and love.  However, in a marriage, the spouse MUST come first.  This is the main problem with marriages today - putting the kids ahead of the spouse.  Why should you stay with someone who doesn't care about you and pay attention to you????  I love my children dearly and hope one day they have wonderful, sucessful, loving marriages of their own.  This will make my husband and I happiest - to not sacrifice our marriage for our kids sake.
663465
I agree with you 100%. It is very sad to think that these people are missing out on the privilages of marriage just because of some moral objection to their lifestyle. I was under the impression that there was a separation of church and state in this country.
455880
Legitimacy is no longer an issue. Children are treated the same, whether born in wedlock or not.
536693
lol tell me about it. I thinks it's a self-preservation thing for the unhappily married ones.
1001631
People don't take marriage seriously anymore.  To them, it's no big deal, if it doesn't work out they can just get a divorce.  People also marry for the wrong reason and a lot of people are too selfish when they get marry.  They aren't ready to put their spouse first.  It's a very sad but marriage is becoming less and less important to the majority everyday.  I hope something happens to somehow change that fact.