my dad has a son with another woman.the boy (he's only 7) stays with us.?
534984
Your feelings are justified, just remember, that it's your dad who hurt you and your mom, not the 7 year-old, he's just an innocent bystander
416354
No, there is nothing you can do, just be there for both of them and don't make the mistake of blaming either one of them for the situation... but hey, you have two great parents who are really trying to keep it together and their attitude is really promising, so don't worry, they will get there and it will be fine, just give them the time they need...
504467
do you have an attorney? i do know that in the state of TX you can ask him be given supervised visitation where you can designate someone who has to be there every time he has the child and in some cases you can even say where he has to be during that time i went through something similar with my daughter in the end he gave up all rights to her so it is OK now but there are options you will just need a good attorney to make sure that you are utilizing the system to your advantage
439639
Don't you think it all goes back to the parents, and how they raised their child?  Obviously, since your son is still alive, you, yourself, are on the right track.  RAISE UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO, AND HE WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.  Does that sound familiar?  That's exactly what you have done, and I congratulate you for it!
635120
Unless she is seriously a bad mother and you can prove it.  You are probably not going to do well with this.  The only way I could see this working would be to take the kid and leave the country.  It's a bit drastic, but otherwise you'll just have to accept that the boy will live with his mother, probably as he should.  You can visit and try to stay connected, while you pay child support.
936601
When I left my first husband, he chose to punish me by refusing to visit our son. Our son is 22 and his dad hasn't seen him since he was 18 months old. You can't force the dad to suddenly becaome a good person when he isn't, but you can affect your son psychologically by how you deal with it.  I guarantee your son doesn't care about the paperwork. If there is a man who is treating him like a son, that's good enough for a healthy self-image. Even if there isn't, you can keep him healthy if you keep a healthy attitude yourself. Be very careful that signing over parental rights isn't about YOU punishing your ex.
1163862
do what is best for you and your child...i was with my older sons dad for 9 years and he was a cheater and a liar too... i finally left when i found someone i thought i wanted to be with.... it didn't work out in the end.. but life is funny.. it always works itself out .. i never went back to the kids dad i was much better off without him....and much happier on my own.... don't stay because of your child... you will be a better person and mother if you are happy. follow your heart and don't look back!  things happen for a reason... i believe that.
836970
Not the proper way of handling the situation , try divorce first as you may be open to a federal charge for taking the kid across state lines . The father has rights also in spite of your differences.
1087418
Does she know you have children? If so, then anytime would be a good time. Try to make sure the situation isn't so akward for your son or your new partner that they want to get away. Your goal should not only be making a proper introduction, but also trying to set up a certain level of comfort for everyone involved so that you, your son, and your girlfriend can all get used to and closer to one another.
252367
Everyone grows up sooner or later.  However, that he had nothing to do with your child for seven years raises a big question in my mind.  Will he be there later?  Is he here to stay?  He owes the answers to your child and to you.\n\nObviously you have had a thing for him this whole time, and he for you.  People don't stop speaking to each other because of indifference.  \n\nGive it a chance, but make sure you know the answers to those questions.  You owe it to yourself and your kid.\n\nGood luck!
231368
They do and if the attorney you are using does not seem to be helping, fire that one and find another. Unfortunately it sounds like you never adopted. However, if you supported the child for seven years, you have a strong case for either reimbursement of expenses, which could be used as a weapon against the father to get her back. I know that sounds crappy but you may have to play dirty to get the best interests of the child met. Check your states judicial website, most states have them, and prepare for a lot of research and find what the laws are in your community. Most of it is pretty cut and dried. You can get visitation rights at the minimum, especially since she spent so much of her life with you. Start making phone calls and pleading your case for advice from folks who deal with thiese issues regularly, social services, free legal services from your county etc. Plan on being creative and doing a lot of soul searching. Best of luck to you and to her.
1144619
Sounds like a confusing situation you are in.  As for him, unless the court says you cannot be around during his visits she and he cant do anything, his visitation time is just that, his.  As long as he is around and wants you to be a part of his child's life and no Court has denied you being there, you can.  \n\nA court can deny you being there if you've got a bad record and she requests it directly though.... and the child doesnt stay overnight in your home, especially if you are trully married.  But honestly it doesnt happen that much.
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
621855
The best way is with honesty,integrity and respect.I don't know how you feel about her, respect wise, but you owe it to your son. She still is the mother of your child. You will be forever connected it that respect. \nThis what I would want/expect ( I have a 15 month old son too). \n1.I would want to know if my son and I had a place to stay\n2. Can I support myself and the baby without you, and if I can't would you help me?\n3. Will you continue to be in our sons life after the move?\n\nI know that it's much more complex, but that is the basics. Whatever you decide, please remember that you have a precious baby.\n\nIs it possible to work it out?\n\nDoes she know how you feel? Don't lead her in the dark. If she has to take care of that precious baby, she will need peace of mind so that she can concentrate all her energy on him. She needs the patience too. It's harder to be patient when you have so much to think about. Remember that whatever you do to her, you ultimately affect your son too.\n\nGive her the heads up so she can prepare her life  without you.\nTreat her with respect, even when you don't feel like it. She will probably be taking care of your son most of the time. The more civil you are to each other, the better for everyone.\n\nIf you cannot get along with her, just try to be civil.\n\nI hope that whatever choices/decisions you make, you have you son's best interest in the forefront.  He is afterall, the innocent one.\n\nBest Wishes.....
984045
Usually, the child can "choose" which parent they wish to reside with when they are over 12 or 13.\n\nHire an attorney -ask him if he can do an emergency ex parte motion for your husband to have full custody and/or remove her from her mother's home, or guardian ad litem; and a temporary restraining order.  Remedies should exist via the family court system.   \n\nYou may want to contact her doctor and tell him what is going on.  He perhaps has pull with CPS to quickly remove her from this environment.
839104
No since you are married, you have suitable care for your son while youre away. If questions come up tell the court its only temporary til you find another job. Not alie as no job is permanent. But I see no problem here.
1142880
i don't know of any kind of claim she can file. just help her out financially, well make your son work and help. sounds like you should have a family meeting with both sides. nothing can be resolved if you cant talk. its not your fault your son and his girl was having sex i am sure he was educated about it by you. let her family know that you and your family are willing to help out and that your son will step up to the plate as take on his responsibilities.