How do I get my ambition,my dignity,care about my life ,love back for myself? I can't seem to get it?
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Agreed with the 2 people before me. He never fails. I was in a low point in my life and I heard the word and how much he loved me when I was so unlovable. Anything I could do wrong I did in the sight of others But the Lord overlooked all my faults and failures and loved me. When I think about the extremes God went through just so that I could be here on earth. He created everything for you and me.God is a permanent solution to your problem, everyone will always fall short.I couldn't face myself in the mirror even though I am beautiful on the outside complements could not pull me up out of the pit of depression and then that's when I found a relationship with Jesus and he will touch your heart and give you peace and inner beauty and with the love that he has for you will help you face another day.
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Hello,\nWhen I was younger I had this same problem.  I looked for my relationships with OTHER PEOPLE to validate my worthiness.  Geeze did I find out I was doing things backwards.\n\nFinally I found the receipe to loving myself in the right way.\nNo one, look around is perfect.  All though many women and men have cool talents, and neat things about them that make them special, look deeper NO ONE is perfect.\nIf you have spent many years trying to BE perfect, you are probably way in front of the crowd.  But even if you haven't, LOOK AT YOU, you have talents, OR the ability to get specific talents that many others will never have.\nBegin to think how our diversity is wonderful.  We're all different, each with their own talents.\nSo, with this new perspective on yourself and others, sit down, and write out a list about yourself of all your good points.\nStudy that list...is that person likeable? loveable?  of course s/he is!!!\nIf you would like to have that person as a best-friend, then DO EXACTLY THAT:  \nBecome your own best-friend.  Never ever belittle yourself.  Take up for yourself.  Compliment yourself when you do well.  \nLovingly admonish yourself when you goof up.  \nForgive yourself, and promise yourself to do better in the future.\nThen VERY IMPORTANT start doing good things for yourself...what do you like? do that for yourself !!!  Buy yourself flowers.  MAKE SURE you set aside part of every day for YOU.\nGo places YOU like to go, even if you have to go alone...you will be surprised how great it can feel !!!\nAnd MOST important, don't tolerate any one else beratting you EVER.   Now, if someone is, or has done that to make you feel bad about yourself (get it in your head) that was emotional abuse.  That person is pitiful...YOU are ok, or you can fix yourself.\nIf someone's else's opinion of you is UNjustly low, then KNOW that you can NOT fix that person.  Dismiss their unjust opinion, and talk to yourself, as your own best-friend and bouy yourself back up.\nIf you're not feeling good about yourself, there's a real good chance your posture has suffered.  You CAN fix that, and you'll feel better when you exercise good posture too...(science tests have proved that to be true...something about endorphins).\nSomeone once told me something I practice EVERYDAY of my life: \nFirst - Look good.  Get up fix yourself up clean and neat.\nTHEN - you'll feel good\nTHEN - you'll DO good\nAnd then you can have a BETTER day everyday.\nFirst thing in the morning do combed hair, wash, make-up if that pleases YOU, clean shoes and clothes, and straight back.\nAnd most important of all PASTE a smile on that face.  Share it with others and watch them smile back which feels good for both of you.  \nSpeak softly and kindly to others.  Give up the thing you want most, and that is a little love.   It WILL come back to you so quickly you'll think it's some kind of miracle!\n\nTo make a  friend, first BE a friend\n\n  Love each time like it was the first time\n\n      Love each day like it was your last day\n\nLove others deeply, and remember to Love yourself too.\n\nThat's enough to get you started loving yourself in the right way.  Everything else will fall into place after that.  You will find that some family that has been a bit stand offish will remark that they like the change in you (and that it was too long in coming).\nHope this helps you as much as it helped me, and keeps on helping me everyday, every hour.\n\nI wish you LOVE\nSTW
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Come on! get your head down and get stuck in.Part of the formulae of being a man, is to finish what you started, see it through to the end, take responsibility for your life. There will come a day when you are on your own in life, with only yourself to count on, it's then up to you to show your true character and do it for yourself. you will feel good when you succeed in your goal and people will have genuine respect for you, this is part of life, there are no exceptions or excuses, you can't blame the people around you. THE BUCK STOPS WITH YOU!\nGood luck!
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It's going to take some time. But, meanwhile spend lots of time with friends and family. Constantly remind yourself of how wonderful you are and spend time doing things for yourself. You know, pamper and spoil yourself. Keep your head up and be encouraged. Sometimes bad things happen to good people for no reason at all, but it's during those times that we've got to use those situations to make us stronger not weaker. Good Luck!
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Where do I start?\n-Love (I dont think I love the person I'm with)\n-Money (I never seem to have enough)\n-Comfort (Nah I just dont feel it)\n-Security (I feel as if everything has been rented out to me)\n-Happiness (What's that?)\n\nI'm truly sorry Lord to complain but really these things are missing in my life. I'm still praying though for better days to come.
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* Never give up your inner self for anything.\n* Be honest.\n* Never give up your ideals for money or fame.\n* Never forget that you are free.  Do not let others or situations dominate your life.\n* Your main priority in everything you do should be Love energy.  Forget about the other ones...hate, envy, anger, lack of temperance, etc...\n\n* Faith if yourself and in your inner self.  Not just believing, but KNOWING that it IS.
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Get a self-help book. There are specialists in this sort of thing. Do the exercises. Remember it's your life - don't be scared to participate. And don't be too cruel on yourself; being human is HARD. The Buddhists (for example - not recommendation) have three truths they live by. They call them the noble truths. The First one, the one they have to understand at a deep level before they start to progress 'LIFE IS HARD'\n\nP.S watch the love yourself bit.
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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Be very kind to yourself.  Let yourself be sad about how things didn't work out, but after a reasonable amount of time, start to distract yourself from your sad feelings.  Be around friends that make you laugh, do nice things for yourself, take time getting to know yourself again and what you want out of life besides what you don't have, then start taking steps to make all of your dreams come true.  With time your heart will heal.
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LIFE IS A RISK, A JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES STARTS WITH A STEP.\nTHE BEST WAY TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF IS WHEN YOU ARE TRUELY FULLFILLED, NO MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO DEPRIVE YOU OF HAPPINESS,,,,,,.\nRIGHT KNOW YOU ARE FEELING LOW, BUT GUESS WHAT, DIG OUT YOUR SELF ESTEEM FROM WHERE EVER YOU BURIED IT AND MOVE ON. YOU HAVE YOUR LIFE TO LIVE, DON;T ALLOW NO MAN BRING YOU DOWN. NOBODY IS ABOVE EDUCATION, OR BETTER STILL LEAERN A TRADE! YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE HAPPY GIRLFRIEND.
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Hi,get back out there don't put your life on hold and waste anymore time with men if they don't do it for you,you need a boost of confidence go out with your mates and have a laugh, find out what you want and need in a partner then go and find her,you only live once so keep it real and above all stay true to yourself!
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start taking care of yourself. Why should anyone have to help you when you can help yourself? \n\nWAKE UP and take a look around you! Life can be very unkind, and unless you hit back and make the most of it (without depending on the help of others) you are going to be stuck in a "miserable" life.
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First of all you have to love yourself and apparently you don' t at the present moment. This is  a problem that has stemmed from what you have been through in life. I think that you really need to talk with someone professionally because it seems that you can't work this problem out on your own. \n\nYou can't accept someone elses love of you don't know how to love yourself, thats the first step in your transformation. Your father took your pride and dignity away from you and now itsy time for you to get it back. Let this man help you, let him uplift you while you are working on yourself at the same time.\n\nRemember you are beautiful no matter what once you make that up in your mind you can go further in this process.\n\nI wish you much luck in your journey!!!! Keep your head up and be blessed!!!
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Well, it's not really what I want to accomplish, but how I lived my life. I think, like you, I want to travel, but not too often. I am morre concerned with having a family and taking care of them. I want to fall in love with the perfect guy, get my heart broken. Maybe a few other things, but mainly I want to know that I   lived my life well and took every oppurtunity that came my way. I want to have made a greaat influence on my children and maybe on the rest of the world.
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The good thing about life is that as long as you're living, there's time to start over.  It sounds like you're doing that.  Be patient, persevere, and go after your goals no matter what it takes.  Good luck.
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Decide on three MOST important qualities that you are looking for in a woman and then often go to places that these type of women are likely to be in. For example, if ur priority is a woman with a beautiful body, you might wanna get a gym membership, if you want a woman who is can appreciate good art and music, go to museums etc. Finally, be sure that the woman u dream of will want to be with u, so make urself THE man by improving where u think ur weakest areas are (the ones that might be stopping u from getting a good woman). And just remember that love hits u and the most unexpected time. Good luck with finding the right one! ;-)
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There are two things you need to consider.  Do you love your self? Honestly. Then look at your possible candidates, do they love themselves?\nI dont mean shallow, but I mean this.\nIf you truly understand your self, you will understand others.\nIf you truly value your self, you will value others.\nIf you truly love your self,  only then will you be ble to love others.\nIf your future partner is not taking care of himself, he will certainly not take care of you.  Even if you think he will, when he realizes that he needs to take care of himself he will leave you. Trust me im a guy and i have hurt people like this in the past.