why dont i feel anything during sex?
542005
Sex is so much more than the act itself.  You don't feel anything because you are just having sex to have sex...maybe because that is what you think you are supposed to do.  Sex becomes amazing when you are with someone you love who loves you back totally and wants to know what your desires and turn ons are and then together you can make sex good...great...fulfilling!!! This usually occurs in a marriage relationship where each person WANTS the other person to be completely satisfied.
675920
What you are going through is not weird and it's definitely normal! i had the same problem...I had sex hundreds of times but I could never have an orgasm. I always thought something was wrong so I just faked it all the time. My boyfriend now and I have amazing sex and by experimenting I have found the only position that I can have an orgasm! I hope this isn't too graphic but here is what we do...\n\nHave him lay on his back and you climb on top. While he is inside of you move your legs to the inside of his and make sure they are straight. Slide yourself up and down this way and I can almost guarantee you will have an orgasm! This position rubs me the right way everytime! It's the best feeling in the world when you have your first orgasm during sex! Good luck and I hope this works!
296471
Well, let me tell U that I was in your shoes for many time, I had sex and it always felt good, I had orgasms but not during sex, I was so desperate, and frustrated, but one time I had sex with my bf and nothing happened that time, still he didn't give up, and continue doing things to make me get the orgasm.  After three months of having sex with him, and we had tryed almost everything, he told me that I needed to focus on the point, I mean, when I was doing it, I always was thinking in something else, and that didn't make me feel good.\nI found that the way to get the orgasm was being on top, so I did it, in the beginning it was really difficult, but at the end it happened.\nSo, my advice is: focus on the point that U're gonna get it, think that U can get it, no matter your past experiences, if U trust on yourself U'll be able to experience it.\nI'm telling U this, because now I can enjoy it, I have an orgasm during sex and in other situations, like o.r.a.l. sex, been m*stur*b*ated by my bf or myself. and it feels really great.
503871
You need to masturbate.  No joke. It will get you in touch with what feels good to you.  Once you get that down, I suggest that you start riding him so that you can have more control over what gets you feeling something.
238164
Only if you are doing it wrong. Sex is supposed to feel good!\n\nUse plenty of lube, take your time and don't do anything that doesn't feel right.\n\nIf you are the guy, pay attention to her signals and ask her how she is doing.\n\nHaving said all that, some people do have painful intercourse, but this is a medical problem that should be seen by a doctor.
639149
Head to Priscilla's or Adam and Eve store and get a "toy" bigger than your partners. Try it out and see...you probably are not numb. Also Kaegal exercises may help when you have sex with your partner. Its when you can stop urinating mid stream, the muscle responsible for stopping urine flow. This is an exercise you can do anytime without anyone knowing. Its tightening and releasing with a count of 10. It will strengthen your vaginal walls and this may help if the problem is your partner's size.
695041
Hey man,\n\nSex is really not that simple.  Theoretically, yes.  But in practice not at all. \n\nIn order for the woman to feel an orgasm, she must be turned on.  This is best done by foreplay.  For me, foreplay includes a nice dinner that I cook and a nice bottle of wine to follow.  This sets the mood really really well.  \n\nKissing before sex is also a MUST.  Don't be afraid to do explore her mouth.  Suck out her bottom lip gently.  Bite on it gently.  French her.  Do whatever, but you have to kiss and get each other turned on.  \n\nTouching and exploring her body, both naked and clothed, is also a must.  I can't tell you anything specific really.  Just explore her curves and face and legs and wherever else you want to go with your hands.  A good lover's hands never stop moving.  \n\nNaked massages also get my woman REALLY turned on. \n\nAlso, mutual masturbation is very hot before sex.  It is an amazing sensation to pleasure your partner with your hands while they do the same.  \n\nOral is optional, but in my opinion is really nice.  \n\n\n\nI guess the biggest thing is that your partner needs to feel like you think she is sexy and that you really care about her in order for sex to be "good" for her.  Also, sex is not like Porn, where you walk up to her, bend her over, and f uck the shi t out of her.  You have to show her that you care about her.  And if you don't you shouldn't be f ucking anyway!
735420
It's because you've only had sex a few times.\n\nIt's totally normal.\n\nYou have to get used to the burning sensation though.\n\nYou may want to use a cleansing gel for women's intimacy.\n\nA lubricant is also a great help for relations.\n\nPut it beforehand and it will make it easier.
1122801
ive SKYDIVED A FEW TIMES,AND ITS LIKE BEING REBORNE ITS THE MOST AMAZING FEELING YOU COULD IMAGINE,IT MAKES SEX FEEL LIKE A SLAP IN THE FACE,YOUR STOMACH GOES INTO YOUR BRAIN EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE IS FORGOTTEN,I SUGGEST YOU TRY IT...WANNA CHAT  mr_millhill  AT YAHOO.COM
731616
This is normal. It's called arousal, which is essential for enjoying sexual activity! It's not an impulse, it's a normal function of your body preparing itself for stimulation.
881106
maybe nerves.\nTry something.\nNext time you're with a girl, do not focus on sex. Focus on intimacy instead. Start by giving her a backrub. Make sure you've got some massage lotion. Then move on to her arms, her hands, her butt, her legs & feet. Make it slow & sensual. Don't forget her neck & face! Even get a few scented candles & put some instrumental music on in the background. \nAs you do this, you'll be focusing on intimacy. Your ability to relax with increase as you're talking...touching...getting to know each other. Both of you be nude. But keep it focused on her being pleased & you being relaxed. Maybe go down on her, but you refrain from getting off until you feel comfortable.
1007586
sometimes a burning sensation during intercourse might mean that you have a vaginal infection of some type, you should contact your ob/gyn because he/she might need to take some cultures from you to find out the cause of the burning. I have one other suggestion, before you have sex try using a lubricant of some sort like KY jelly or astroglide you could be very dry. and avoid scrubbing with scented soaps down there that can also cause dryness. So try using a mild soap without the harsh scents.
691634
Some find it easier than others, but beats me why..... some cases it could be the partner isn't stimulating the right bit... other cases it could be the woman is too tensed up wanting it to c*m, in which case try relax.... forget about trying to c*m, enjoy & lose yourself in the sensations of being stimulated, and just let it c*m when it's ready (though trying to hold it back longer just as it feels like it's gonna blow can be a pretty good trick to make it feel bigger when it does).\nOther cases it could just be weak muscles down there, in which case give this a whirl: http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/Spa/4502/vagex.html 0:-)
762704
Maybe they are just not doing it right. You should feel something if there is no feeling at all then see a Dr.
1115827
If your question is a serious one, I will attempt to answer it.\n\nAll of your sexual reactions are in one way or another are controlled by the nervous system in your body. The sexual stimulation within the nervous system is much greater than that of hearing or eyesight.  All nerve activity is a chemical release within an area of a nerve pathway.  With sexual release there is a sudden gush of these chemicals into your nervous system creating an overwhelming [but very pleasant] stimulation. The shaking is a result of this sudden rush of chemicals [called neuro transmitters], and takes place after the orgasmas, kind of a coming [no pun] down from the stimulating rush.  If you can remember the last time you were really scared, you may realize you had the same shaking sensation after that expierience.
920510
I assume that the first time that you had sex with your boyfriend was the first time that you had had sex ever - so if this was the case and you was losing your virginity to him then it is normal to feel some discomfort at that point. \n\nNext time should be better, as your hymen is now broken and the discomfort (and in some ladies out-write pain) should be gone. \n\nMake sure that you are turned on and 'wet' before he tries to enter you as this will make the experience more enjoyable for you both.  This will mean a lot of foreplay and ask him to perform oral sex on you as this should get you really moist down there and may even lead to a pre sex orgasm. \n\nFailing that go to a chemist and buy some lubricant to use, apply a small amount of this prior to entry and you shoudl feel that everything slips in fine and makes the whole experaince more enjoyable. \n\nI would suggest always using a condom as a way to prevent pregnancy and STD's and it should not feel a great deal different to you than sex without a condom. \n\nAs to how a  man feels with/without a condom.  Without a condom increase the pleasure, however although this feels better in the begining it can also lead to a shorter period until he climaxes, which shortens the period of sex.  So although you can say initially that it is better as it is normally a shorter performance then this has to be taken into the equiation too.  \n\nI find that as i use a condom i last longer, which is great for both me and the lady, also i am not worried about her getting pregnant, which is great for my security as i know that i will not have to support a familly and that i wont be catching any nasty diseases - so with or without for me?  With everytime! \n\n\nGood luck and enjoy
721944
Understand one thing, my friend: For alot of women, sex is more then physical. It's emotional as well. For us guys, it's mainly physical. That's what's happening.  She letting her emotions go. Don't make an issue out of it with her.  She may become self-conscious about it. Enjoy it! She obviously feels emotionally connected to you.\nI know I'll take some shots from some guys for this one, but the two of you are making love, not just having sex.