my step sister well kinda my mum has not married her dad yet but she keeps on coming onto me what should i do?
551556
hmm.. scary situation! do you like here?  if you do, better make it clear to your dad and your mom that you like her.  If you don't like your step sister, then better tell her to back off.  Having a sexual relationship with her won't do all of you anything good.  Plenty of girls out there... Get out of your house!  Bring other girls back! Date! Date! Date! Take your mind off her! Get out before it's too late! She's not worth it! Plenty of fishes in the ocean!
826737
Your sisters are not your responsibility - the parents are the only ones responsible for them. I seriously believe your wife and yourself need to have your own place to develop your own relationship and grow your own family. Having extra women in the house will cause all sorts of problems & possibly kill your relationship. You are an adult now so you just need to say NO, you don't need to give a reason. Suggest your sister gets her own place and say you will look out for her to keep mum happy, but do not let other people move in.
1151163
Well maybe your step dad is doing a lot of things your real dad dosent do. Also, if you spend more time with your step dad then thats probably part of it. Think of it this way, atleast you like our step dad. Some people really dislike their parent(like me). So the fact that you love your Dad and step dad is something really good. Just stay optimistic.
557231
I was kinda in the same situation your half sister is in.I was seeing and moved in with a man everybody was warning me about.The more they said to me about him , the more I tried to make it work.It didn't take long for me to find out they were right and I left him one day while he was at work.I packed everything I could get int my car and left.If this man you are talking about is really a bad person, your half sister will see it. Just back off and let things happen.Nobody wants to hear "I told you so" That might be what's pushing her into the relationship.If things get out of hand with the kids and you KNOW he is hurting them in any way, maybe you should turn him in and let the law handle it.If he can't see his own 2 kids there is definitely something wrong there. Good luck!!
419187
sometimes it seeems worse then it is, have yout tried talking to your father about it, maybe there is a school counsellor that can offer advice if you dont have extended family to go to. if you live with your mum then you probably dont have to see much of your dads girlfriend.
501619
Tell your mum she can't date this girl. :)
15149
A job and a boyfriend?  Seriously, you sound like her little brother, and none too pleased about it.  Unless you can convince the parental units that having Sis remain there is a danger to your development, you may be stuck.  You could try talking to her to see why she's there.  Maybe she wants to leave but can't figure out how.  The worst she can do is blow you off.  There's always a chance she may ask for help or advice.  Stranger things have happened.
740711
You are an adult so why are you allowing your mother to dictate to you whether or not you have a relationship with your father?  I have been in that situation too and although my kids dad was NEVER involved I didn't stop her from seeing him when he finally decided to remember that he had a child.  A mothers true love is unconditional and if your mother has that for you then she would not hurt you this way. Your fathers other children are your brothers and sisters and you shouldn't be forced to stay away from them because of your mothers bitterness. You should see your father and give your mother her time to accept the fact and if she can't then there's no unconditional love for you.  You have to live your own life now and it's her choice whether or not she's in it.
363619
SHE IS YOUR SISTER YOUR MOTHER AND FATHERS CHILD YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD SHES PART OF YOUR D.N.A. SHE IS FAMILY. WHY WOULD YOU ABANDON HER WHEN SHE NEEDS ALL THE HELP SHE CAN GET. DON'T LEAVE HER, PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES, AND THINK ABOUT IT. THANK YOU
531822
If your mums in denial like you say then it doesn't sound like she is in love with him anyway. She may just want him for a companion. You gave her warning so now let it go and be there for her when she catches him in the act. Maybe she doesn't want to see that he's like that so she turns her head. She may just need him to keep the loneliness away.
939668
Stop listening to your sister and start trusting your own judgement.  If your man is true to you, you'll know it by his own actions.  If you have too many opportunities to be unsure of what he says, that gut feeling is probably right, and if you get to that point, you don't need proof, you just move on.  Someone who makes you wonder repeatedly, isn't giving you what a relationship is supposed to be about. If you have no reason to doubt him, you'll feel that too.  Stay in touch with your sister, but if she's an instigator and frequently negative, tell her you don't want to hear that stuff and if she continues with it, hang up.  You only get one family.  Don't shut your sister out but just don't buy into gossip or games, and learn to trust in your own judgement.  It's usually the best guide.
76252
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
640640
some times the best thing to do is just let her talk to whoever she feels comfortable talking to.  after she talks to her stepmom do her problems seem to be taken care of, or are they made worse?  maybe that should be your focus.  if she seems calmer after talking to her ex-stepmom why is there a problem.  if she seems worse after talking to her then maybe there is a problem.  your daughter is probably reaching out for someone who she thinks understands her and her situation in life.  maybe you should look at this woman as someone who could mentor your daughter instead of seeing her only as your ex husbands ex wife!!  all in all if it is good for your daughter then let it be.
1133121
Remember this is a five year old we are talking about.  One who is probably very jealous about this "intruder" who is coming between her and her daddy.  She may have a fear that her parent's break-up is her fault or that her father will not want to be with her like he and her mother don't want to be together.  There are a lot of things going on here.  It also sounds like there's a bit of jealousy on your part too, either for the child or for the mother for having given your husband a child. It's hard to be a step-parent especially when a child is young; but don't try to be her mother it sounds like this five year old needs a friend. maybe if you approach her from that direction, you can make her understand that you aren't a threat to her and you can get to know her better at thew same time.
489577
Try to be kind and understand that she loves your dad and wants to live a happy life.  She can be a great ally.  Being a step-parent can be horrifically difficult, she must really love your Dad. Ask her advice from time to time and really listen.  That does not mean that you have to take the advice, just that you value hearing her opinion.  It can really open up the relationship.  Take it easy, no need to rush.  If you rush, it is easy to make a misstep and get hurt feelings that can harm the relationship.
104940
Has your sister fully moved on? Maybe explain the situation to her, and your feelings.  She may be a little hurt at first, but it would be better to be upfront then sneak behind her back
1026325
To be honest no body really knows how it feels unless they are actually in the situation because when it comes to talking in terms of advice, any1 can do it ... i know it must be hard on you but you can still keep intouch with your stepfather and you should accept your mothers husband as her husband just beacuse you love her so much and you want her to be happy. She wouldn't want to see you upset beacause of her.  At the end of the day every1 grows and moves on in general... your step father must love you very much and the best thing is that you can still see him and talk to him you are not forbidden to do so ... but you have to accept that maybe your mother wasn't so happy with her husband as you were with your new father... your mother deserves to be happy and so do you ... \n\ni wish you all the best and God Bless