I have a boss who feels insecure in everything that I do and seems am a threat to him. What will I do?
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Your boss is simply feeling this because, he may have misunderstood your activities. \n\nSimply try speaking to him. Always, try to keep things calm and clean. Documents, keys, identification cards/devices, computers and much more are subjected to your bosses examination. If you've mishandled anything please inform that to your boss, and apologize to it. And affirm that you would not let anything similar to this nature happen in future. \n\nSince he feel insecure, try requesting for certain guidelines. These guidelines may be part of his personal principals, experiences and much more. This is a great way to learn!\n\nBosses are always known to be bosses. Try to keep things in control. Never ever depend on any other, for your work. You should do your own work! This will create a greater explanation for the prevailing situation, and your boss's perception would be edited during the course of time.\n\nIf all these are not working already, then its simply personal with him. He is not liking you as an employee, under his operative vision. You haven't claimed at what level he is a boss to you. Is he is a director/or simply some sort of a head for a department. If he is a head for a department simply try to get a transfer. This will help you with your mentality and indeed working excellence. You'll need not worry about anything! \n\nHope these helped.\nGood Luck. Take time and observe and decide!
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I feel like that every day I leave my office and head for home when I work with the one boss. Sometimes it can be anxiety over so many things going on at once, at least that's what I've pin pointed it to in my situation. When the one boss is here he is crazy running around like a chicken with his head cut off, a huge tornado of chaos. It totally drains me after he leaves. Any other day I am fine, I think his chaotic manners suck my energy right out of me. I've tried just bracing myself for him to be chaotic and then when he leaves reorganise everything back to it's original spot,  also I ignore him somewhat, act really absorbed into my work and then he doesn't really bother me.
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I think this situation would be difficult for most everybody.  You're probably right about resigning quickly.  You might just end up with another bad job out of desperation.  \n\nYour boss screams and shouts because deep down he (I'll assume it's a he) feels powerless and needs to be aggressive to get his way.  Try to remember that he does this out of weakness and not strength.  Genuinely strong people don't need to act this way.  If you can view it as his problem then you won't take it as personally.\n\nTry to document all that happens that is inappropriate: words said, body posture, tone of voice, etc.  Keep dates, times, locations, etc.  In case things go badly you can have this documentation to back you up.  Your boss probably isn't doing this so your case would be stronger.\n\nAcknowledge what your boss says but ask that he say it in a more polite manner.  You may have to keep reminding him of this one :)  If you're able to stand up to him in a firm, yet nonconfrontational way my guess is he would change.  Bullies respect strength.\n\nIf nothing changes, count it as a character building experience and move on!  Hope that helps.
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If the email truly was as bad as you indicate, then I don't think that your boss actually thinks that you are sensitive, despite what he said. He probably feels a bit of responsibility for not dealing with the situation earlier, and now feels compelled to justify his lack of action. He may feel that by labeling you as "sensitive", then he is off the hook for not taking corrective action earlier, because he "didn't think it would bother you". I have a feeling he is trying to say "Wow, I failed to realize that this was a situation worthy of my intervention, and I'm sorry that my lack of action caused you suffer." The first part came out as "The guy is an a**" and the second part came out as "I didn't know you were so sensitive". This boss is just a poor communicator and is looking to defend himself. I wouldn't worry about looking like a "composed professional" in his eyes, as he is not acting like a true leader anyway.
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It all depends on your boss.  does he know that he is ineffectual?  If so, you can feed him ideas.  Use social engineering to help him on his way.  Having no backbone is a common trait in state jobs.  No one dares make any waves!!!  If they are kind to you, dont force them to be the wave maker.  You don't want them to stress about job security.  Read dilbert cartoons religiously.  Pay tithe to Scott Adams, for the ideas expressed by his cartoons will only help you on your journey.
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The only thing and the best thing u can do if u dont want to leave ur present job is that u have to ignore her(him).  I guess u dont have any other option other than this.. Just have a good professional relationship with her and nothing more.. Dont let her antiques bgo to ur head coz otherwise it will harm ur performance. If ur boss gossips abt u then u canm politely clear the things out with her and say her whats the truth. And for the sleeping part, u cant do much!\n\nBut if u r ready to leave this job(provided u have secured  some other job) then u can do loads of stuff...fun stuff.. U can mess up her papers :) get mad on her if she does something to u.. Tell people that ur boss is a deperate bimbo..etc..i m sure u can make such stuffs happen..\n   But again i know u wont leave ur job.. so..
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Maybe he is afraid of making his wife jealous.  I had some trouble with my wife when I hired my assistant.  She is pretty and I hired her because she is very intelligent and goal oriented.  All the things my wife needs to work on.  Could be your boss wants to ease her into getting used to you.
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Both men and women can be threatened by someone else in the workplace.  I think they are just insecure.  Do the best you can and it will work out for you in the end.
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Let's see.  In work, you usually have to put up professional appearances.  So, I would say don't go there.  If your ex-boss cannot be professional with you at work..what makes you think he will be a nice guy outside of work?  \n\nWhat you just described..is a case of displacement..or kicking the dog once you get home.  He was frustrated..so he took it out on you..and you yourself said you couldn't take it.  I don't think this would bode well for a real relationship.  Think about it.\n\nAlso, I think you may just be feeling sorry for the guy..its true businesses can go bad...but thats life.  Many businesses fail..and he probably just hurt his business ...by treating you badly and hence..you leaving...\n\nLet go...and try to enjoy your new job.
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be the bigger person and say nothing, just deal with him. as u get older u will learn that in the workplace its basically the same , there will probably be somebody that u don't like but u have to deal with it, don't let him get the best of u and u will always come out the real winner
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If that person truely is mentally impaired,then be compassionate that they really don't mean to be a problem for you, they are just trying to fit in the only way they know how to ...oddly.  If they ask weird questions and you have the time to listen ask them what they mean and to explain why they thought what they did.\nIf this person is just plain ignorant of his responsibilities, then I'd talk to the manager about giving that person a less complicated job, preferrably not right next to you, but even so if he a success he'll be less a problem, and every now and then tell them they are doing a good job. that will be worth more than his paycheck.. because no matter how awkward that person is.. they can always find a way to make money, but getting approval from their peers is always where they have lacked, you may find this person will want and thrive to do the best job for you just to be rewarded with your praise of a job well done.
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Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.
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Honey, DUMP that loser.  \n\nYou don't deserve that crap.  He thinks you'll just take it, but that's abuse.  If you're that bad, what is he doing with you?  \n\nHe just feels so insecure that he is putting you down.  This is NOT your problem.  Get rid of that dork!
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because you are feeling threatened and fearful of your job, yet you want to assert yourself, too.
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Well, I'll admit that I have done things for my boss that weren't in my job description. While at first it seemed like I was just helping him out, I began to realize that there was no reciprocation on his part. Questions that begin with, "Would you mind doing me a favor..." or "Since you're going that way could you..." can be hard to navigate.\n\nIt can be difficult to know how to handle a situation like this, especially if you feel as though your job is being threatened. Telling you to just go straight to the HR department is the easy answer, but it's not easy to do. Filing a report can cause a lot of stress for you and those you work with.\n\nYour personality will play a big role in how you deal with it. If you are a person who does not mind conflict, then I would tell you to go to HR and report the situation. However, it may be wiser for you to just back out quietly. Unless you are very invested in the company, I would say that it's not worth the effort to wave your arms and call in the law. Who's to say you wouldn't run into this situation with others in the organization? Things like this often indicate a weak upper management.\n\nI think what you need to decide is how important your current job is to you. If it's important enough to begin a legal investigation, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd just disentangle myself as quickly as possible. I can't help feeling sorry for the person who will take your job if you do decide to leave.\n\n(My decision was to quit and get a job elsewhere.)
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People are like a string.  If you push one end it just bunches but if you pull one end it will follow.  \n\nFulfill the needs of your bosses insecurity and then you will be able to lead him your way. \n\nFor example:  If he has a quench for power let him know in a subtle way he is in control.  Ask for his advice or mentoring then you will be able to insert your ideas along the way.
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Write a nice letter to your boss, then go in and give it to him/her and sit down and have a chat. Explain how much you've enjoyed working with them but say that, as in life generally, sometimes you have to move on. Keep it friendly and stress what a good boss they have been and how much you have learned. Also offer to help with recruitment for your replacement. It's very hard and I've been in the same position - you feel personally responsible for letting them down - but try not to feel like that. It is only a job after all. Good luck and enjoy your new job!