how do you know he is the one and when you should get married?
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He is the One: only your heart can tell you, usually there is no question. In other words, when it happens you will know.\n\nGet Married: a whole different ball game. You get married if he has his own finances, is qualified for something, doesn't have idiotic habits that will only have you gritting your teeth / dying of lonliness / frustration later...etc....etc...\n\nYou can marry someone who is *not* "the one" and still have a great marriage. But God help you if marry "the one" and he is an idiot.\n\nThis thunderbolt blitz which happens with "the right one" has absolutely *nothing* to do with the happiness or success of the marriage.\n\nMarriage is for: long-term, happiness, companionship, intellectual compatibility, financial comfort, raising children, doing things together without it having to be a big ordeal.\n\nThe Blitz: well - if the guy who gives you that feeling is suitable for marrying, go for it. If he doesn't qualify for the marriage criteria, then live with it...heaven doesn't "make" the union of 2 ppl, logistics do.
260166
when you are married.
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You may never get the question - does he know you're waiting for it?  You may want to find out his feelings on it - and on kids and money and a bunch of other things that can be dealbreakers down the road.  \n\nEven then, you have no guarantees. I dated a guy for 5 1/2 years and he never asked (his mom didn't approve).  He said we'd get married eventually but he never got around to it and I gave up on him.\n\nHappily the gods of good fortune were keeping him from proposing so that I would be available when I met my future husband.  I dated my husband for less than a year when he asked - and we've been married for nearly 7 years.\n\nThings have a way of working out for the best if you don't force a square peg in a round hole.  Also, see if your parents like *him*.  When I told my mom I was dumping the momma's boy, my mom said "Well, I knew if you gave him enough rope he'd hang himself with it".  And when my parents met my future hubby - they were *so* excited it was like *they* were dating him. LOL.\n\ngood luck - and don't rush into anything - make sure it's a perfect fit!
136983
When you know you are ready to be married and that you love a person you won't have to ask yourself if your ready to be married or if you love that person. It's just something you feel.
291528
You should talk to him about it. Ask if he sees himself marrying you in the future. Time doesn't matter always. I've been with my boyfriend for almost six years and we're in school and life is happening so we're waiting. Besides, the longer you date the more you learn about each other before you get married!
636970
You'll just know when the time is right with the right person.  Nothing you can really know before the perfect moment just happens.  As soon as it does you'll understand that time.
464789
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
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if u have to ask then i dont think your ready to marry this guy. dont give up on him though. everyone says you just know, thats true but its easier if the feelings are explained.when you can look at him and know that you would give up your life for him and if a bullet was going towards him you would be the one to jump in front of it then you know.when you know that his face is the face you want to wake up to for the rest of your life then you know. when you can look into his eyes and know that you can trust his word no matter what then you just know.
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As long as it takes for you to truly know someone. Which is not a small task. My general rule of thumb is that by the time you've been together two years you should know if you want to be married or not. Two years has a lot of days in it good or bad and if you can make it through those, then you might need to consider being together on a long term basis, but only if the relationship is healthy for both of you.
568196
when you meet that right person it is jusst a feeling that you'll know if he or she is the one. i thought that i would never find someone that would love me for me but when i wasn't looking he found me and i knew when i met him he would be the person i would be with for the rest of my life and we've been together for going on 14 years now
8427
Why in the world would you agree to this?  If he is worth marrying he will wait and you should wait.\n\nResponding to youknowit below:  All the more reason to wait and have a nice wedding.
283943
get married? do you mean a steady boyfriend, maybe when you get one you like make it apparent you want to be exclusive then just treat him the way he wants to be treated (in accordance with your morals of course) and it should be all good.
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I don't believe in soulmates, so I don't believe that you can know that. On the other hand, I believe that some people are meant to be together for this life. That's determined by God, so I don't think there are any predictable signs that you can look for.\n\nSince you are already married to him, the question should be moot to you. Both of you work to make it better every day, and no soulmate could make you happier.
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I agree, it's probably not the most logical place to ask "is it a good time to get married"... only YOU can answer that.  well, you and your boyfriend.\n\nYou are on the right tracking thinking about finances and feelings.  Continue to discuss things with your boyfriend.  Where will you live?  Does he have a stable job?  Does he have or want children? Do you?  When?  Who will care for them?  How will you raise them?  Discuss reglion.  How will this come into play with children.  Have your families met?  Do you have the same goals and values?\n\nMarriage is awesome!  It's important to really think about it and plan for it.  So while I may have teased you a little for asking "should I think about marriage"- I think it's good you ARE thinking and planning.  Go with the flow and let things happen naturally.  If it's the right time to get married/engaged, you and your boyfriend will know it.  In the mean time, start talking about goals and longer term plans with him.
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Everyone always told me that when you find the right one you will know it. Well, I tried to make this one the right one, then that one the right one, and it was never the right one. When he did come along I thought...OH! This is what they were talking about. I luckily found mine. It is a miracle, and believe me honey, you will never have to question it. We have been married for five years and both knew it the first night we met. It is a feeling that you cannot describe. The only person who would understand is another person who has found their's as well. I fell sorry for all the people out there who are with someone thinking that it is love and it is not the one meant for them. Keep looking. You will find your's. Good Luck!
919871
your heart will tell you when it's right...but then definaltey marraige!
1184745
True love is a magical feeling. Of course, I can't tell you because I haven't found true love yet. But I believe something in your gut will tell you "he's the one." NEVER go looking for true love because it'll come to you. Just feel it in your gut that he's right. If other people tell you you're made for each other they might be right too because other people see things without biasm. But mostly listen to yourself. Good lucK!