how can i get my mom trust me 2 go 2 my b/f's house i am jus gona hang out it isn't like im goin 2 get pregnan
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First of all, you should always respect your mother, secondly, you being 14 should not be having a boyfriend to begin with. I am siding with your mother. but against it because you shouldnt have one. You should be no where near his house alone. Understad how she feels and abide by her rules. I know it may seem unfair now but you will understand when you get older. trust me. and let me tell you this, once you are alone with him, he is going to want to do something. DONT DO IT.
287865
Go and buy her a pregnancy test  they are at the dollar store and tell her that pretending that your not pregnant does not make it go away
726884
Tell her that you both be on your best behaviour and perhaps even suggest that you two mate will prepare supper and/or breakfast for her.  Be honest with whatever promises you make to your mother and perhaps she will allow this to happen more often.  Good luck and I hope you are able to get your way and have your friend spend the night at your house.
844836
hi i think i may be able to help you becuse i am like that with my mom i don't like to stay at other peoples houses becuse i'm afraid that some thing might happen to her or that she may be lonely.  the only thing you can do is give her time don't push her give her time when she get's older she will see cute guys and she will still be close with you but she will be able to function  like all teens do . i hope this helps! God Bless!
412093
You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
563926
Yeah....give her mother sometime. i hope ur gf is backing you up. a day will come when ur gf's mother will realize that u were a real truthful guy. talk to her after few days in a polite manner. dont lose ur temper
260589
she loves and cares! enjoy! sometime u'll get a freedom of being not dependent from your mom and her opinion what to wear and u'll miss it with a smile :)
97513
if you want your mother to trust you (vital for dates in the future) you have to show her that you WILL NOT lie to her. Tell her you got the funds from your dad. mom might be afraid you are stealing. then promise not to lie again. it is hard but if you keep this from her, it will get bigger and harder to tell the truth. nothing beats honesty - especially with your parents.
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Try having a conversation with (and yes i am serious) Mom. Just talk to her and find out why she calls him all the time, don't be rude or ugly, just talk to her and find out more about their relationship and what his childhood was like. Could be that there are some reasons for her overinvolvement and maybe she is just as anxious to help him become less dependent on her too. If nothing else you might be able to get to know her well enough to ask her as politely as you can to relax a little. You might learn that maybe Mom isn't the clinger  and the guy is and the two of you can work on him together, and if she likes you and thinks you respect her enough to come to her with your issue instead of running to him and complaining you will earn her respect and maybe even her blessing. And while that might not matter at all to you I can assure you that it does to him.
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First of all, there is other help out there.  I really pray that this does not cut you off from your mom, but if she seriously kicks you out, there are lots of women support groups and housing.  Call bigger churches and see if they have any ideas.  \n\nNext, even if you do leave home, don't stop communicating with your mom.  I've heard story after story about parents coming around to really loving their grandkids after the baby is born.  \n\nYou really need to do some serious thought about whether you are going to abort your baby because someone else tells you to- even if it is your mom.  This life that you have inside you does not belong to you or your mom.  There are lifelong reprocusions from abortion that you are going to deal with- not your mom.  Yes, there is forgiveness in Christ if you are trusting God with your life, but that doesn't mean that there still won't be consequences.  \n\nThere are dozens of people just waiting to adopt a baby.  You won't find any shortage of help if you want to let someone else have your baby.  \n\nMaybe take your mom to an ultrasound.  My mom really came around to loving my first baby when she came along with me and heard the heartbeat.  \n\nI have already been praying for you.  You can do this!!  There are people out there who are loving, non-judgemental  and want to help you.  Find them so that you are not alone in this.  You can call Focus on the Family at 1-800-A-FAMILY to talk with someone in thier counseling department.
300614
Move in with some other family members but ask her first sounds like you both may need a copy of days apart. But you tell your mom don't fight with her, Moms love there kids but you to young to see this.\nYou will one day.
1128272
Maybe you should talk to her about the dangers there are to sleeping around with people and keep talking to her about it. If she insists with doing it make sure she has condoms with her so that at least there's less a chance at catching something. Also keep those pills that stop you from getting pregnant so that doesn't happen either. I don't know if this will make her think before she gets herself pregnant, but this is a story that use to be on the internet that my mom had:\nTHE UNBORN CHILD'S DIARY\nOctober 5\nToday my life began. My parents do not know it yet, I am as small as a seed of apple, but it is I already. And I am to be a girl. I shall have blond hair and blue eyes. Just about everything is settled though, even the fact that I shall love flowers.\n\nOctober 19\nSome say that I am not a real person yet, that only my mother exists. But I am a real person, just as a small crumb of bread. My mother is. And I am.\n\nOctober 23\nMy mouth is just beginning to open now. Just think, in a year or so I shall be laughing and later talking. I know that my first word will be: MAMA!\n\nOctober 25\nMy heart is beginning to beat today all by itself. From now on it shall gently beat for the rest of my life without ever stopping to rest! And after many years it will tire. It will stop then I shall die.\n\nNovember 2\nI am growing a bit every day. My arms and legs are beginning to take shape. But I have to wait a long time yet before those little legs will raise me to my mother’s arms, before these little arms will be able to gather flowers and embrace my father.\n\nNovember 12\nTiny fingers are beginning to form on my hands. Funny how small they are! I'll be able to stroke my mother’s hair with them.\n\nNovember 20\nIt wasn't until today that the doctor told mom about me living here under her heart. Oh, how happy she must be! Are you happy, Mom?\n\nNovember 25\nMy mom and dad are probably thinking about a name for me. But they don't even know that I am a little girl. I want to be called Kathy. I am getting so big already.\n\nDecember 10\nMy hair is growing. It is smooth and bright and shiny. I wonder what kind of hair mom has.\n\nDecember 13\nI am just about able to see. It is dark around me. When Mom brings me into the world it will be full of sunshine and flowers. But what I want more then anything is to see my mom. How do you look, Mom?\n\nDecember 24\nI wonder if mom hears the whispering of my heart? Some children come into the world a little sick. But my heart is strong and healthy. It beats so evenly: tup-tup, tup-tup. You'll have a healthy little daughter Mom!!!\n\nDecember 28\nToday my mother killed me.
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Livi, I have a daughter, she's 21 now.  I would be heart broken to know that she was hurting and confused.  And if she doesn't even know you got your period, then honey I think you need to skip the boyfriends for awhile and get to know your Mom.\n\nI remember when I was in the seventh grade, you are going through a lot of emotional stuff right now.  A Mom you can talk too would be great.  Can't you see yourself sharing some of this with her.  Please try.\n\nNow, about this nineth grader.  If you really really like him, then talk to him.  Tell him up front you aren't going in for no kissing and no touching.  If he can't deal with that, then drop him.  If he's truly interested in you then he will give the chance to be comfortable with the idea of kissing him.  My daughter broke up with a boy because he started smoking again.  So, you be careful with young man.  I don't want to read on here later on that you went out with him and now you are pregnant.  \n\nKissing, touching, and even sex is fun stuff, I am not going to lie to you.  But with it comes other stuff that's not so fun.  You don't sound you are ready for this kind of relationship, and if you don't want to sound like a "baby" or not cool, then tell him you are grounded.  Or tell him the truth that you haven't gotten permission from your Mom, and she would ground you for life if you went out with him without her ok'ing it.\n\nLivi, please see if you can speak to your Mom.  Give her another chance.  We parents don't always don't know the right answers, but we do care.\n\nGod bless us all..........
420009
Let her talk to the parents. If you have nothing to hide, then that should not be a problem. But also explain to her how important this is to you. My mother refused to allow me to go to a party after graduation. I am nearly 50 years old now and I still harbor resentment for that. Be honest with her and with yourself. But also respect her. She has her reasons for wanting to protect you. You will only understand when you become a parent yourself, as I am now.
943733
Maybe you could talk to her about it and tell your friends they can't come over so much?  Hopefully your mom will be sensitive to your feelings and put her children's needs first, which is how it should be. It's perfectly natural for you to feel how you're feeling. Parents are supposed to set healthy boundaries between their children's friends and themselves.  Good luck to you, sweetheart.
158779
It all depends on weather your going to be uncomfortable or peer pressured when your there. And if ypur mom is very strict. So think about the situation and if you know it's not a good thing. Let your mom know, that's if your close to her. If not just have fun with it but don't let your guard down.
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You should not rely on your mother and your mother should not rely on you, it seems like both of you need help.  You have made the first step you have asked for help, but now you need to ask the right person, go see your doctor, he/she will be able to put you in touch with the right person, good luck