I'm engaged to a man who has a son who is gay.and my 14yr old isn't excepting it what do i do?
547365
your son shouldn't be accepting because homosexuality is WRONG. i say u call off the engagement. maybe you can continue to date the guy but what the F. is the world coming to when we feel as though we are not correct in shunning things that are unnatural, blasphemous, and disgusting!!
51623
If he's living with you and hasn't offerd to marry you, he's keeping his options open just in case someone better comes along. She may be prettier, cook better, be more willing to let her life revolve around his son, or just look better in a tight sweater.\n\nOnce (if) you are married, you've got 6 more years of coming in second to his son. Once the son turns 18, he will go live on his own, unless he doesn't.\n\nThis guy must have SOME good features or you'd have left him long ago; that or you are desperate.\n\nTake a deep breath, remind yourself that he isn't going to change, and ask yourself if life with him (an UNCHANGED him) is better than life without him. \n\nIf so, learn to live with it and stop complaining, because - guess what? he isn't going to change. If not, leave him.\n\nBoy, other people's problems are easy to solve, aren't they?\n\nYou have any ideas about an 18-year old daughter who considers me evil because I eat meat?
602716
At 14, your son is still trying to sort out the divorce and loss of his Dad. He is young to understand that Mom needs somebody to love her. He has a lot of things going on in his own mind with puberty and hormones himself, so it's not easy for him right now. If I were in your shoes, I would sit down and talk to him rationally, and tell him that you love him and all your kids, but at the same time, you also have needs in your own life. BC fills those needs very well , and makes you happy. You might be surprised to find out how mature he really is. Do not try to "force" BC on him....he will fight it tooth and nail. Just assure him that he is loved, but that your heart is big enough to love more than one at the time. Good Luck! Patience is the key here!
1065397
He dont even know who he is himself yet, and he wants to educate people on how to live. Classic. \n\nWould be better off asking my teenage son, who isnt gay, because at least he knows the basics of relationships. Man and woman.
1080521
If you love him and he loves you, you will overcome this. The families will learn to except you , or they will loose there son. A real man would tell there parents,,,this  is who i love and i will marry, except my wife, or i wont be coming around no more, i have a new wife , and that,s my family. But it takes a real man to stand up for his wife / women. Once that happens, things will fall into place. But don't have a man do all this for you,,,if you don't truly  love him. That would be so cruel, never lead a man on. Be sure of what you want before you take that step together. My Thoughts are with you. ~*~*~*~ Peace.
271438
Im sure they r aware of your past with him if not let them know!  I as a aparent only want happiness for my son and i know if he comes to me and tells me he loves someone and is getting married then I want only his happiness.  Go for it girl do not let love get away a second time around life is too short and love too hard to findCongradulations!
1087103
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
1008264
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
550225
I was in love at a young age too and my guy turned out to be gay. We're still friends, but it is just an example of how much can change. I'm now married to a great man I would have never met had I stayed with a guy while I was your age. Keep you options open, but stay with him as long as you are happy. Just don't make any perm. decisions till you are older. You both still have a lot of changing to do. Tell him you love him too, but you don't want to promise a life together just yet. Not because you want to be with someone else, or someone better, but because you both could change and you don't want to make mistakes.
787612
I would think any child that is not you sons would be hard to accept. If they are back together tell him how you feel and have him talk to her. If he wont talk to her then you tell her and tell her that you will not be a part of this child's life if she doesn't stop acting this way. If they are not together then you don't need to accept the child and it doesn't need to be in your life. Sorry to say it that way but it is true. Also I think once you see that beautiful baby it wont matter anymore. GOOD LUCK.
982338
Your son is almost at the age of consent. Sit him down and let him know that you are not confortable with this situation. If need be, approach that young lady, politely, pull her to the side and let her know your feelings. Descretely and politely, let her know that your son is still under that age of consent and she can be arrested. Yes, this is a threat, but done correctly it can come across more as a concerned parent.
820544
Sweetheart listen, \nI was in a relationship for thirteen years with someone that 25 years later still makes me weak in my knees and I let my family screw it up, but now I am married with 2 great kids and we live hundreds of miles away. My ex-lover and I still talk and I can not tell you how bad it hurts not to be held by her at night and the guilt I have for actually loving two different people so much and for different reasons. My mom would say "you are not gay" and I believe that you can't help with which person you fall in love with, and sweetie here is the deal if you are in love I mean really, really in love then love this person regardless. I know how hard it is to not fit into society but take it from an old broad love who YOU are and love the one you are with.
1115631
uve got a son and ur 14? and ur sons friend wants to know? think bout what ur typing b4 u do it
524060
Leave her alone, let your son and future daughter in law get on with their lives. If she is having an affair, that is really your son's problem. If he's asked for you to snoop, then tell him that one should never marry a person they cant trust.
270653
Morally, you are obligated to tell him.  This child is not just your child.  This is something you both created.  You must BOTH make some life changing choices.\n\nAbortion to me is totally out of the question.   I think the baby needs a chance at life rather you can do it or not, there are many families willing to adopt.\n\nMy preferance is this:  If you are old enough and both of you love each other for what is inside, then get married and start a real life for this child.  ALWAYS communicate, and NEVER goto bed mad.  Even if you have to be the first one to appoligize.\n\nNow if he is not man enough to take on the responsibility, then maybe your parents can help you make the choices you need to make.\n\nGood Luck!\nJames McDowell\nFather of 3 wonderful kids. (I was once in your shoes)\nMarried to thier mother for almost 17 years.
994504
ooooooo bad problem you got there. i would just forget the woman and pretend you arn't gay. nah sorry that isn't very good advice. but the thing is do not get into a relation ship with the woman or any woman. if you really are gay and you are not happy in your relationship with your partner then i would let him down gently that you do not love him any more and you might think that you are gay. you never know he might be able to help you. no.....actually he might take it the wrong way. i seriously do not know. i am only 15 so don't listen to me. maby if you have family around you you could maby get some advice of them. they should be supportive to you. i really hope you work things out in time. best wishes and good luck. x
1085862
If you are over 18 you can do as you please. However, your parents will be very upset and may disown you. Let them meet him and his family. Maybe they will arrange a marriage with him for you.