my sister is causeing pain in my family accuseing my husband of hiting her can i get her done with slander?
541933
I think firstly, you need to make absolutely sure there is no truth in your sisters claim, as it is a very serious allegation ,and all the more serious for the fact that the police are involved. \n\nSecondly, you need to ask her, if you are convinced she is lying, why she would say such a thing. Ask yourself rationally, why is she doing this? There must be some reasoning behind it, no one would make up such a story without some sort of motivation. Discovering her motivation will give you a lot more help in working out how to deal with it. \n\nAt the end of the day, doing her for slander isn't going to resolve much in terms of your relationship with her. It is playground ethics really isn' it.. (not that I am calling you childish). What I mean by that, is the psychology behind it is 'well, she hurt me, so now I'm going to hurt her'. Sometimes this can seem like the best thing to do, but I think you'll discover that actually, the revenge will feel a lot less triumphant than you think. \n\nAct with dignity, make sure your trust is with the right person, and good luck to you, it sounds like a terrible situation.
1134723
Having Epilepsy myself, I can tell you that your sisters problem with insulting family members and then getting defensive is ALL her.  It has nothing to do with her having Epilepsy!  She must have some issues with the family that she needs to address.
263501
Regardless of who does more, be mature about this and don't tell everyone or tease her about it.  I'm sure she is already humiliated and you don't need to permanently damage your relationship with your sister over it.
914506
There is nothing you can do to stop your sister-in-law from talking.  But the more she tries to defame you, the more she will make herself out to be a liar, as hopefully your other family members know you too well to believe her.
882947
I would let your brother deal with her since you don't want her to come between you two.  That could potentially happen if you confront her directly and your brother picks her side.  Talk to him about what he is going to do about his wretched wife.  In answer to your other question people do sometimes change for the worse but usually they were bad to begin with and just hid it until they were comfortably ensconced.
557231
I was kinda in the same situation your half sister is in.I was seeing and moved in with a man everybody was warning me about.The more they said to me about him , the more I tried to make it work.It didn't take long for me to find out they were right and I left him one day while he was at work.I packed everything I could get int my car and left.If this man you are talking about is really a bad person, your half sister will see it. Just back off and let things happen.Nobody wants to hear "I told you so" That might be what's pushing her into the relationship.If things get out of hand with the kids and you KNOW he is hurting them in any way, maybe you should turn him in and let the law handle it.If he can't see his own 2 kids there is definitely something wrong there. Good luck!!
882363
file an unruly on her , that way if any violence happens they will see that you are trying to get help for her. they will place her on probation, give her community service and send her to anger management. hopefully she'll learn that there are consequences for her actions and some sense of responsibility on how to deal with other people. if she goes out in the world with that attitude she is going to get hurt or wind up in jail for hurting someone else. you also may get some counseling established so they can find out why she has so much animosity towards you and you can gain control back in YOUR household. good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.
883222
Well if you know such a woman,please report her to the authorities/This lady needs help.Before she causes catastrophic harm to one of her loved ones.Believs me this is a medical condition.She needs help,not derision or name calling Help her and you'll be helping the family
150324
Tell him to leave you alone because your sister means way more to you than he ever could.  Then decide if you need to tell your sister.  I vote yes, but it is tricky because she may be hurt and blame you or not believe you.  Regardless family first...
1040641
This sounds horrible, I would be livid.  Say something, let your sister know that if she is going to come by she needs to clean up.  Have you discussed this issue w/ your parents b/c all of you may need to confront her about this.  There is nothing worse than a trifling visitor.  But do not keep your feelings about the situation bottled up.  Or beat her at own game, go to her house and mooch off of her.
1096832
Yeh, run an ad in the  newspapers announcing you are severing ties with your siblings .......place in their names and social security numbers. Send a notification card to all relatives and friends about it. See lawyer for better clarification.
932181
You need to tell your dad all of what you've written here and then your mom and her gf need to be investigated by child welfare.  You're a child and shouldn't have to take the responsibility of protecting your sisters -- that's your dad's job but he can't do what is right if he doesn't know what is going on.\n\nADDITIONAL THOUGHTS:\n\nWhy have criminal charges not been brought against those who perpetrated abuse against you?\n\nIf you have already reported this to the police and child welfare and your sister's deny that anything is happening, then there is very little you can do.  At some point your sisters may get fed up with the abuse and report it themselves.   All you can do is let them know that should they need you and Dad in the future, that you'll be there for them.  But no, I don't think you should stay home from college to protect them especially if they don't want your protection.
1164933
Get a lawyer - some will take your case & get payment from your husband plus attend some type pyschological counseling.  You  are being screwed here.   You are entitled to  spousal support; plus visitation.  File an OSC & ask attorney to go ex-parte to get  you temporary financial support until the hearing.\nYou can also fill out paperwork online if CA,,, use this website \nhttp://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/  \nChild needs counseling & when you go to court demand child get it.  No child has the right to pysically abuse their parent & you as her parent should not be penalized by losing your home or the other daughter.\nSeems husband is not doing right by you...  you need to get angry & start standing up for yourself &  your rights
855568
Ok, I've read your history of questions. First you mention your mom doing something similar to this situation. Now your sister. I'm not sorry to say that I don't believe you for one second. You need to get off of Yahoo Answers and get a life.
67927
Yes, you need to think, if your husband was cheating on you, how would you feel if your sister knew and didn't tell you.  You need to have enough evidence to prove that you are right about the accusations so that you aren't saying something that is not true.  Then you sit them down and explain what you know.  They won't take it well, who would, but at least you kept them from being dragged down even more.
881813
Sometimes, blood is NOT thicker than water. Your are his wife, and now become #1, in his life, along with children, if you have any.\nGoodness, what going on, it's a wonder that you both have not just said\n"enough is enough", and shut them out of you lives. Your husband is in agreement with you.\nWhy not discuss it with you husband, and tell him how you feel.\nYou do have to be rude to his mother, and stup to her level!\nSure, they keep ringing......They want you both to help them now.....\nWhat were they thinking before...that you both would just forget, and forgive?\nAsk you husband, if you can politely say.....Thank you for the birthday wishes,\nhowever, we have a life of our own now. I am sorry, but our hands are tied,\nand we cannot help you in any way....something like that.....\nLet your husband speak to them also.  No way, you both have made a life, without them,and put up with all the abusive language from them....\nTell them to move into the property that was put in the daughters name.\nDo not feel guilty!!!!  and do not change your lives, not with that kind of in-laws.\nGo girl, and your husband.....do not put up with it....you both only live once, and its Your Life and Your husbands!!!!
778553
The whole situation doesn't really make sense.  Ask yourself what you did to make her call you that.  The other posters are right in that you should have respect for your mom and not call her names but she should also be teaching you respect by not calling you names.  The two of you need to talk about this and resolve the underlying issue.  Whatever it is that you did to make her call you what she called you, that's the root of your current situation and that needs to get addressed.  Why did you do it?  Why was she so angry at you that she forgot you're her daughter and call you names?  You reacted to her calling you what she called you but something precipitated that situation and you two need to hash that out.  Then, you have to apologize to her for doing what you did and calling her what you called her.  Only then, you can then tell her that you didn't appreciate what she called you.  It's not right, but she is your mom and she's going to look at you as the less powerful of the two as long as you continually act like a child and react and cause her to react.  If you talk to her like an adult, woman to woman, in a calm, assertive, respectful manner, hopefully, she'll see you maturing and mature herself.  Then you guys won't be calling each other names and you won't be grounded.  However, if that doesn't happen and in some future point she does call you a name, you take a deeep breath, DON'T say anything, turn around and walk away.  She's your mom and you have to learn how to deal with her in a respectable manner and if you want respect, you have to demand it by treating others in the way you want to be treated.