What are my options if I'm a spouse considering divorce, but I'm unemployed?
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If you have not worked since marriage, or since the baby was born, you will probably qualify for alimony (money for you) as well as child support (for the child).  Doesn't  matter that your husband refuses to support you...the law is on your side.  No father can skip his responsibilities.  Get yourself an attorney...chances are good that he will have to pay that bill too since you are not working but an attorney can tell you how it works in your state.
663444
Divorce can be the solution \nbut are u sure that u don't love u husband and  do u have children ?... because children will suffer in all that
908474
If your wife didn't live in your household at any time during the last six months of the year, from the info in your question you'd probably be eligible to file as head of household, which would be much more favorable taxwise than married filing separately.\n\nIf she did live there at any time since July 1, then your choices are married filing separately or married filing joint.  Filing separately, you lose money on some things like child tax credit and any child care expenses if you have them.  Filing joint might be an option if you're on reasonably good terms, but if not, could have its own problems.\n\nGood luck.  Sounds like you've got your hands full.
916269
You have a right to be upset with him since things are no longer "just about you" or "just about me". Marriage means decisions effect both of you. You're also allowed to be upset that you can't get a job that might be better for you until after this is settled.\nHe should have been more patient or at least come home and discussed it with you before he quit. Leaving like that and losing that source of income jeopardizes you both. This is something he should have considered. On one hand, you want to be happy in your job and you want to have coworkers that appreciate you BUT, you also need to have a job before you leave one.\nAs for being selfish- you both are to an extent. Its not something to be completely ashamed of- just because you're married doesn't mean you can't think about you...it just means you have to keep you both in consideration.\nWhatever you do, the best thing to do right now is just to be supportive of him. Let him know that it upset you that he didn't talk with you about it first but, don't place blame and don't discard the fact that maybe he really couldn't stay any longer. Good luck
1047985
If you think it will affect the divorce, wait until all of the papers are signed. You can expedite the process by filing for divorce via adultery. It's still considered adultery if you are married and separated. However, if you start dating before the divorce is final, then you will not be able to file for divorce on those grounds. Do not get back together with him at any point in time after the adultery either. In both cases, it would represent your endorsement (or lack of condemnation) of it, which the courts would reject a divorce on those grounds then.
670117
I understand that you say you don't want to get divorced right now but this situation is not only bad for you but also for your kids. You need to get away from that. Yes, you should definitely document what's going on. Go get a lawyer and find a counselor or a shelter. Don't let him control you like this. Do you have familty you could go to or at least talk to? How about someone in your synagogue (sorry if I spelled that wrong)?
704185
It sounds like you're already doing the right things - you have moved out, you have initiated divorce proceedings.  Go through with the divorce, and then look to the future.
237036
Not a very easy question.  Unfortunately, I don't know what his reasons are for now wanting to move.  Obviously having a job could be a big deal.  Moving is a huge thing and it isn't just as easy as saying that is where I want to be.  There is a lot to consider.  I think he should care enough to talk to you about it and let you know his feelings and reasons.  As for advice, well you have to decide if you want to move or if you want a divorce if he won't listen to you.
14344
you HAVE to answer to the papers that were served to you.  if you do not, all odds are against you, because it will appear to the judge that you simply do not care.  this requires filing a response with the county clerk, which usually costs a fee - call and find out how much in your county.  if you have kids and are interested in keeping them, you should really use an attorney - the courthouse sometimes has referrals that will go on a sliding scale based on how much you earn, or maybe they will have a payment plan since you are unemployed.  \n\nat this point, assume everything is not in your favor.  everything depends on your particular situation.  was he abusive?  were you?  who has been the primary caretaker of the children, etc.?  judges are mean - they will laugh in your face sometimes if you appear pro se, but i think it's worth it, especially if you win.  also, is there material involved, i.e., houses, cars, etc.?  who wants what?  i would attempt to talk to him if possible and find out what he really wants, i.e., kids - joint custody, or weekends only; house, etc.?
12995
at your local court office you can get a divorce packet,both of you take it to a parralegal have it filled out before you and stipolate a agreement,noterise it and enter it into court, as uncontested ("both") parties .you should receive a short wait for a court hearing, if both parties are still in agreement the judge can order it "so" there and then.just make shure that you are inagreement , whith all issues , such as children ,money or holdings, and dedts.
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One (or both) of them may be leaving the door open for a future reconciliation. The person doing this may not even know that this is the case. When I left my first husband, he said he wasn't going to file since I left him, I was the one with the problem, and there were financial issues as well. This went on for several years. At one stage, I did go back to him, and he dumped his girlfriend like garbage. I am not proud of this, she was a nice girl, but I think I did her a favor since he went on to drugs & crime. After going back & finding out for sure he was wrong for me, I did file for divorce.\n\nThis is NOT to say that this is the case with you. But it could be possible. Maybe she thinks in the back of her mind that he will come back. Financial complications are easily resolved by lawyers, ask him to see one. A married man is a married man, whether he lives with her or not. Neither the law nor time is on your side. Good luck.
270981
Go to court.  If your wife is healthy and able to work you have a good chance of getting the amount you pay significantly lowered.  These are different times.  As a matter of fact my ex and I have joint custody but I pay him.  Because I am capable to work.  Even when I wasn't currently employed.
230539
Yes you can, but make sure you get child support from him. Also if you are in a state that awards alimony I would go for that also.
168749
No. Sometimes people change and circumstances require divorce that is best for one, hopefully, both parties.  It just makes you wiser and experienced.  Good luck & never give-up!
61060
It depends on where you live.  Most states have pre-printed forms for most of the divorce process.  You should also look for free or low-cost legal assistance in your area if you can't afford an attorney.
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I'm sorry to hear about your marital difficulties.\n\nI'm a divorce mediator and an attorney.  I will tell you what I would tell prospective clients:  \n\nPlease do not think of mediation as a substitute for legal advice.  It is not.  You have questions right now about the legal consequences of moving out of your house and leaving your children with your husband.  A mediator cannot answer that.  \n\nOnly an attorney admitted to practice in your state can provide you with the independent legal advice you need in order to make fully informed decisions about the issues your question raises.    \n\nYes, mediation can be a helpful way for people going through separation or divorce to sit down together and have a productive conversation about the decisions they will need to make.  These can include things like creating a workable parenting plan for the children and to make decisions about issues like the division of property or planning and paying for college.  \n\nMediation works best when both spouses are clear about what they want, whether it's divorce or separation.  Contentious, highly complex cases are probably not suitable for mediation.  \n\nWithout knowing more about your situation, it's impossible to say whether mediation is appropriate or not.  Only you can answer that.  Discuss your case with an attorney to help you decide that.  Also contact family mediators and talk with them.  Most mediators take care to rigorously screen cases before accepting them. \n\nEven if you eventually do use mediation to help you and your husband work out an agreement together, you should each still consult with your own separate attorney before signing any agreement reached through mediation.  Mediators themselves, even if they are attorneys, cannot provide you with legal advice.  \n\nAgain, mediation is no substitute for legal advice.  And this web site is not the place to get the professional advice you need.  Most respondents are lay people who are not in the best position to answer an important question like this.  You wouldn't ask for help diagnosing a medical condition through a forum like this.  Please look for your answers from trained professionals who are qualified to help you.  \n\nBest of luck to you and your two sons.  I hope you're finding ways to get the support that you and they need during this difficult transition.
213507
check out your divorce papers \nmaybe your custody papers \nif there isn't either you need to file a custody suit