Is an intimate SEXUAL  RELATIONSHIP easier with the same sex or is it easier with the opposite sex ?
553295
I've been wondering about this lately too.  I've never been in a same-sex relationship (yet)...but I'm convinced that men and women are soooooooo different in their priorities, ways of communicating, and needs that it probably would be easier to be in a relationship with a woman.  Unfortunately, I am MOSTLY attracted to men...and obviously, pro-creating would be much more difficult in same sex relationships!\n\nI think the real answer is for both sexes to try harder to compromise and understand each others' needs better and that might help.  But it still seems impossible sometimes for couples to make it in the long run.
137254
I think it is. I have men friends. Just because you are friends with someone of the opposite sex, doesn't mean that is has to be sexual.
422950
Absolutely! Here's the simplest answer : Men and women can be friends without any kind of sexual tension if neither is physically attracted to the other. Make sense? I mean, there's going to be sexual tension if one (or both) is attracted to the other.\n\nAt worst, it's being an acquantaince. At best, Platonic love.
606694
I would say in my opinion men would be.  Women are more comfortable with their sexuality from what I have seen.  Two women being together is such an open thing, that men find it as attractive.  Women can be more open and know that they could go and kiss another women and it not mean anything.  Men seem to be a little less comfortable with sexuality, and I think that when a women thinks of it it is just thinking of sex and relationships being done a different way, and to men thinking of it is like putting something somewhere it shouldn't be going.  I would say Men definately.
536478
Have sex with somebody of the opposite sex to see how it feels?
641205
Of course; It is called male bonding in the popular press. Many guys feel that its easier to connect to another guy coz there is no sexual undertone and they can understand each other much more easily
594783
I'd say sexier. No, that does not make me gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that!
927380
That's probably the best relationship question I've ever seen asked.\n\nAnd I don't know if I can give a good answer that's universal, and I don't think anyone can.\n\nBut... at the root of it all, is that a straight or bi-guy, and a straight or bi-girl will always have that hormonal thing going on between them. Pheromones in the air will always in some way impact any relationship (at least in person) between male and female (not sure if both are gay though... that might be the exception - where guys and girls can be just friends...).\n\nAnd socially/mentally I think even online there is some element of sexual tension invariably lurking in the background. At least when you *know* the gender of the person you're interacting with.\n\nOddly - I'm not sure which is worse - knowing, or guessing the gender of the person I'm interacting with.  I think many, maybe all of us make assumptions.\n\nLike I just realized I assume that you are a straight woman asking this. And that's ironic, as I started writing this up I wrote clinically - gender and orientation independent as it were... \n\nI think for me at least - there is a special element of love for my female friends that is very different from the relationships I have with my male friends. And to be clear, I'm a straight male - and that may significantly impact how I've responded. I don't know.\n\nBut again - great question - look forward to reading replies.\n\n-dh
391366
Honestly, I think some people simply don't explore that option because they're happy with their sexuality, even if the same sex may seem enticing. I look at other women and of course I am capable of acknowledging an attractive one. I've even contemplated a three-some between my boyfriend and one of my friends. It is an interesting topic, but I personally think that despite what others may tell themselves, I'm pretty sure most people have thought about exploring this option of flirtation between the same sex.
379964
As a bisexual woman, I personally find that I can relate more to another woman than I can with a man. We tend to be more tender and caring. Most men that I have been with just think about sex, sex, sex 24/7. They don't seem to be able to differentiate between love and sex. Women on the other-hand, understand that we can love and care for one another without having sex on our minds all the time.
674162
Think about this:  Are you more likely to be content with someone you know you're sexually compatible with but find deficient in intellect & character, or with someone with good intellect & character, but maybe not the best sex you've ever had.  Only you can answer that.\n\nOr how about this:  What's a guy more likely to learn over time:  intelligence, or sexual techniques?\n\nAlso, if you weren't attracted to him, you wouldn't be asking the question in the first place!  You just need to figure out whether the center of your universe is inside or outside the bedroom.  Hope you figure it out before it's too late.
805308
It's been my experience that guys tend to be more activity oriented, they want to be constantly doing something.  In lovemaking, it's all about the orgasm.  Women tend to be more relationship oriented, I've spent wonderful nights with women where there was no sex, just talking and cuddling and being together, I've rarely had that with a man, and then only when they were also bi.  It's an old saying:  "Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love."  There are exceptions, obviously, but it's what I've seen in the majority of cases.
598442
it is ok, but having sex with a woman is better
636838
Gay and Straight are very limiting labels.  I tend to think of things on more of a continuum.  If you tend to be attracted ONLY to men romantically for lasting relationships.  Then I would consider you mostly Homosexual.  \n\nIf you are attracted ONLY to females romantically for lasting relationships I would consider you mainly Heterosexual.  \n\nAnything else,  liking to be physically sexual with men or women, being mildly attracted to men or women, somewhere in the middle.  I think most people are bisexual to a certain degree.  People just tend to lean more to the hetero or the homosexual side.
971951
Being male doesn't make flirting with women any easier. If you thought it would, I'm sorry.\n\nI'm bi, and have had a hard time with shyness my whole life - with women and men.\n\nFor me, I do best around people I've known for a while. Almost every relationship I've had, started with someone I knew and had been around for some time. I've never been good at meeting or picking up people. Some of us just don't have that type of personality.\n\nAs far as who you wish to try and hook up with, that's a little more of a problem. Lesbians aren't gonna be attracted to a guy (even FtM) and many straight women are gonna have a hard time until you have all the surgerys (and we both know the poor state of FtM surgerys, at this point in time).  Right now, bi women are your best bet. Most aren't butch. I can empathize though, I find butch women very attractive.\n\nMy last boyfriend was FtM. I wish you luck.
144812
There are some guys out there that just do not feel comfortable when it comes to the opposite sex.  It is not that they are gay, but they are not wanting to offend the person they really care for.  There is nothing wrong with taking a relationship slow.  A relationship is build on trust.  The more trust there is in a relationship, the longer the relationship will last.  Good things come to those that wait.
989913
Yes, it depends more on the people involved rather than their respective genders. What would be any different about your boyfriend having a gay male friend or you having a lesbian friend? Real relationships are based on trust and center on more than sexual attraction.