Why won't my husband help me?
537165
Not a male thing, from a male. I watched the kids cooked took care most the house while I work overtime to help pay to send my wife threw Nursing.. I'd have to say lack of Love or just not a good mate.
396600
may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
900734
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
968583
yeah...myhusband nags more than i do, and im the woman!  he gets mad about EVERYTHING.  helping me with the garbage, with dishes, cleaning, always looking over my shoulder and asking my why im doing what im doing and getting mad because i tell hi to leave me the hell alone or dont answer.   whats up with it?!
816869
Hi, has he always been like this or is it just the spell you've been arguing.\nMarriage is hard work and needs constant nuturing from both sides to feel loved by the other side.\nSome people (men and women) have difficulty in expressing themselves, is this your husband?\nIf so, maybe you accepting this as him and noticing the other ways he does express love will help, but there is nothing like a hug and hearing how we are loved so do understand where you are coming from.\nA husband and wife will either knit together over the years or move in opposite directions (like my ex and I) but for it to work you must be moving in the same direction. \nTalking to him and continuing to express yourself, your love is all you can do really, and hope he hears you before you change, because you will in time.\nMaking time for those special moments will also help, there is always another little trick we can pull out the hat to surprise him, reveal another mystery about yourself-try it-remind him of why he got with you. ;)\nJust keep trying until he either wakes up or loses out with the woman he fell for and married, I wish you both luck xxx
542157
I think you shouldn't be worried about why he wouldn't drink the coffee you made him. But why is he acting in this manner?? What is wrong? Why haven't you tried to ask him if everything was ok with him? Instead of trying to pressure him on drinking his coffee. There must be something terribly wrong going on in his life for him not to even acknowledge you. That's what's more important... Talk to him and see if everything is ok with your husband!!!!!
1148210
Sit her down, and ask her nicely to take a different approach when asking for help! I used to nag at my husband to help me get things done. I eventually learned that when nagging at a man, it just pushes them away. They soon begin to just tune you out. Make her a promise that if she takes a different approach such as, calmly naming off the few things that need to be done that week. You will make your best effort to get them all done. Then you must do so. Just remember it's a lot better then going back to her nagging at you all of the time. It will get better..:)
120347
I agree with one of the other answers.  Since he doesn't like you asking your male friend for help, then call your husband.  When the bike seat comes off, call him at work.  When the sink clogs, wake him up.  When the lightbulb blows, make him come home.  I'm not saying it to be mean, but it seems that he wants to do everything.  Let him.  As for the workmen wanting you to be home when they come by, that's normal and your husband knows it.  But when they call, call your husband and tell him you need him to come home to sit with you while they work.  Either he'll love it, or hate it.  But in the end, it's what he's asking for.  P.S. Be careful.  I don't know your situation, but I've known similar situations between husbands and wives that have gotten dangerous.  At the first sign of an out of control temper, STOP!!!!  And Reevaluate the relationship.
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
381186
If my husband doesn't come home for a week without a valid reason then he is a dead man. But I will calmly accept him maybe he was stuck in an elevator or had an accident and couldn't call or could be in a coma in a hospital somewhere. You should be worried really before you jump to conclusion, know the reason first.
372640
Was he that way before you married him? If so, why would you expect it to be different now?\n\nIf he wasn't, then--as said above--you've probably run rampant at home and he doesn't feel the need, or is trying to "balance" the situation. Could also be med/psych reasons too.
467129
HAving a spouse who is more successful threatens their masculinity. A lot of men feel that they  should be the provider and if the wife is earning more this can make them feel like they're a failure.  Sounds like your husband may be feeling resentful of your income and success and is trying to sabotage that - you need to have a long honest talk with him, maybe draw up a budget and set some ground rules on spending.
836183
Well, trying to tell his family that you have a problem sometimes may be a lost cause.  Why don't you have a serious talk with your husband.....\n\nMore importantly, I would distance myself from your BIL.  And, don't let him IM you and you don't IM him either.
478291
Well in my opinion he already knows that his commander is a d*ck, but nothing worth doing is easy. I would want my wife to support me, not let me know how crappy my position is. I know that already. Give him something to look forward to and cherish the time you do get with him. Many other women have bigger problems than "my husband works to much." You have your whole life ahead of you two to spend time together, let him get ahead in life now so that you can grow old, happy and rich together.  Support him he sounds like a good one.
388161
I wish I could tell you how to get him to listen.  He sounds like my late husband.  We were married for 40 years and he never really listened to me.  Once we were at a marriage counselor and I talked for about 5 minutes about how my husband didn't listen to me.  Then the counselor looked at my husband and said "what do you have to say about that"  and my husband responded "I wasn't listening"\nso going to a marriage counselor doesn't always work either.\n\nIn the end I began to think that my husband was frustrated by other people in his life and took it out on me.  He couldn't ignore his boss.  He couldn't tell his co-workers that they didn't know what they were talking about so he came home and did it to me.\n\nThe really bad part is that I came to believe that I was stupid and incompetent.  I put too much value in the way that he treated me. \n\nI took course on how to communicate.  I was told that I shouldn't say you did whatever but I should say I feel whatever.  He turned this against me and told me I was self-centered and I believed him.\n\nSo I can't tell you how to make him listen or how to communicate with him, but I can tell you that you must guard against feeling that something is wrong with you.
876471
It's not easy, usually us guys tend to think were bothering you, we usually won't call unless we have a reason for it. Just give him a reason to call, borrow something, need help, etc.
110962
maybe he wants to be able to try and do things for himself now that he's better.. and not feel like an invalid.. some men don't like to feel they can't do for themselves..you cared for him and nursed him back to health, just because he doesn't need or want your assistants as much don't mean he doesn't love you.. and if he's not so compassionate, maybe be you are overwhelming him with wanting to do for him so much or getting over emotional about it.. you should try to stop nurseing him and help him along with emotional support, love and understanding..when he needs your help, he'll ask for it.. Good Luck.. it's time to take care of yourself now..