What are the general problems faced by a girl after marriage?
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remembering to sign a new last name.  saying 'we' instead of 'I'.  Relinquishing all control over any and all electrical devices, esspecially the remote's.  Getting used to having to answer to someone else again about where you've been, where you're going, who you'll be with, and when you'll be back, and why.....just like dear old dad!  Having a whole other set of family member's (in laws) to send Thank you notes, Birthday and Christmas cards too!  If you forget, it's always your fault and not your husband's, even though it's his family.  You must get used to washing, drying and folding your husbands underware, careful to overlook and never touch the huge brown skid marks!  (Women never get these, why do men?!)  You must clean yellow stains off the toilet rim and around the base of the toilet, only to put the seat down before going, or you may risk falling into his unflushed mess!?  Be prepared to be treated more like a sister and less like a lover!  No matter how much your husband cooked, cleaned or did laundry before you were married, he suddenly will have no recolection of how to complete any of the above tasks!  Sex becomes WAY less frequent and exciting, for men, more about the destination and less about the journey!  Conversation becomes replaced with a series of 'uh huh" responses while he pretends to pay attention to what your saying, while playing his playstation 2 or X Box.  Once children enter the picture, be prepared to be a slave, never having time for yourself again!  Doesn't it sound wonderful?!  Well it must be, cause everybody's doing it!?  Come on!  Jump off a bridge!!\nI guess it beats living with a bunch of cats!?!?  ...debatable!  LOL!!!
109508
Funny, you should ask that. . .my husband and I are having this problem now.. . .it is not women don't want to have sex. . . being married adds alot of stress its self. .. there are alot factors that add stress such as ex's(jealous ones who are plotting);finances and etc.  These things had me so stress after getting married, all I wanted is a good night of sleep. .. If you are in a marriage and there are no problems, there is a bigger one simmering. .. .remember pratice makes perfect. . .eventually, things change and stress was lifted. .. my husband can have it when ever he wants it, and I appreciate him more for understanding. . .Ask her why and then you will know where to go from there. .
1185610
I think it can last. It is time for you to set some limits. You cannot\naccuse her of cheating, although the appearance is glaring. That is the point. Its time for her to grow up and quickly. That behavior is suitable for single women with no attachments. She is not there. In order to work on your marriage she needs to be home well before the bars close. The girls weekends in Mexico ,or elsewhere have to stop. She does not consider herself married outside the city limits. If that's what she wants she's going to have to leave. She MUST understand, she does not get to be single when she wants. She has a family, she's being provided for, she is married.  Put the limits on. She will protest. She will protest as if you are her father telling her she has school tomorrow. If that keeps up she'll need to leave. Hopefully your\nsetting some limits will deliver the wake up call. You cannot let this continue, for your own sanity. Sadly, she's taking advantage of you. You'll be better off taking over a little more. If she figures out you will not put up with this anymore she will either modify her behavior or you will have her answer.
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The consequences of sex are more serious for girls, e.g. pregnancy. Guys can potentially impregnate as many girls as they can get their hands on, but girls prefer to be selective about who impregnates them, i.e. they prefer quality over quantity. Also if a girl develops a reputation for being easy, it can hurt her marriage prospects, as potential husbands might think she would be an unfaithful wife. It's harsh I know. When white sailors first landed in Tahiti though the local women greeted them warmly and invited them to make love to them, so maybe you want to consider relocating?
96771
1st - DO NOT MAKE THIS DECISION WHILE HEAD OVER HEAL IN LUV!\n\n2nd - What is marriage to you?  What have you defined marriage to be?\n\nWhat will happen 1 year after you're married.  Do you want to be the provider and have her stay home? Do you want both of you to work so you'll have a great home? Do you want kids right away?\nWhat do you want in 5 years into the marriage? \nWhat do you want in 10 years into the marriage?\nWhat do you want in 20 years into the marriage? \nSit with yourself and ask these tough questions.  Then re-ask these questions in a week.  If you feel confident that you're honest with yourself, then approach your girl. If you're not quite satisfied with your internal question, keep asking and answering yourself untill your confident.\n\n3rd - When you're confident in what you want ... Ask these same questions to your girl friend.  BEWARE ... She'll freak and probably start crying thinking you're asking her out!!! Make it clear that this is a discusion only, and you're trying to figure out the "Next Step".  Then ask her several times after the first questions <Just like you did with you>. \n\nIf you've evaluated the situation and feel that for the two of you to form a union, you can then you can pre-pair that special occation with the ring, and the right setting to ask for her hand in marriage.\n\nBest wishes.
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It depends.  \n\nDo you love her, or do you just want to get married?\n\nWhat about marriage frightens her?\n\nPremarrital counseling sounds like the best option, if you can get her to go.  She may have some solid reasons that could be resolved in counseling.  It would also help you to know if you are really ready.
33540
What a girl wants is up to that girl and only her. Everyone is diffrent, and we all want diffrent things. The best way to find out is ask specific questions, and most importantly listen to the answers. The biggest problem a couple has is the block of comunication. I can tell you a couple things that all people want tho, both male and female. Love, respect, susport, security, and friendship. Good luck.
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I think u should speak to a trusted family member or a marriage counsellor (try for one of ur own religion).\nJust be sure u ask someone with a happy wife (or husband, if ur asking a woman).\n\nAnd yes, if u and the girl are from a conservative community, then she will probably be shy. Be patient with her.
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a few possibilities might be happening:\n1. She's want u 2 be the she marries, she's taking things slow. Most Relationships started from friends\n2. U'r not right for her... u might wanna improve urself.. physically fit, more intelligent or having better personality. she'll change her mind (dats how i got my gf) =P\n3. U'r not in her priority list... maybe she wanna hava stable career or solve other problems 1st b4 having a relationship.\n4. She might be friendly to everyone. but if u want he badly, better do something about it, but dun Rush.\n5. Other factors dat she might not wanna disclose~ if so, dun find out directly from her.\n\nMy best advice: Learn more bout woman, improve urself in every aspect & have a good heart. =)
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Well, if you have tried flowers etc, then maybe it is time for you to see if her parents or a friend of hers can help you with this. Sometimes it takes more than one person to make someone understand what you've done wrong and that you feel badly for it. Get some help, get her mom or a sister or her friend to talk to her for you, tell them how sorry you are and that you want to do right by her. Then maybe you can set up a meeting with her and talk to her about it. I hope it works!:) I would suggest if she does take you back to go to a premarital counsellor, to help with things like constructive problem solving and how to compromise. It has really helped my marriage! Good luck and Peace:)
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I've been married for 17 years to a wonderful man.  We've had our ups and downs, been through financial feast and famine, illness, the deaths of our parents and grandparents and a dozen other little trials I can't recall.\n\nThe biggest "pro" to being married, I think, is that you have someone to share your thoughts and feelings with.  You have someone to lean on and support you - and someone who will appreciate the support you provide.  After you are married for a while, you develop your own "couples" sense of humor.  There will be things only you two find funny.  You will take road trips together in the car and play silly car games.  You'll lay awake in bed at night and giggle about nothing.   You develop a sort of empathic sense about the other person so you can sense their feelings before they even speak sometimes.  I appreciate my husband more and more the longer we are married.  You just don't get that kind of companionship outside of marriage.  \n\nThe drawbacks, I suppose are the same mundane drawbacks that come whenever you share physical space with another human.  They aren't always neat (but neither are you), sometimes they smell, sometimes they are selfish and intolerant.  But who isn't?
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It depend on the respect  accorded to marital obligations by the spouse. It also depends on respect shared in the marital home.\nTwo big issues that causes problems in a marital home are finances and sexual obligations. One spouse with holds sex to get what she wants. One spouse with holds finances to get what he wants.\nFor a happy home that need not be tensed there should be trust and respect for marital obligations. A lot of spouses do not know the meaning of marriage. Unfortunately a lot use marriage as a tool for what they want.Essence of marriage is happiness under the foundation of true love. Most marriages are loveless\nI wish any one wishing to marry should first read this book HOW NOT TO MARRY A JERK
933701
It will only get worse once the relationship is legal.  Talk to her about it, and either she changes or you leave. plain and simple
915240
Every marriage-  married young or older will change and get boring @ times If you let it\nYou both need time together away from the problems, worries, kids to reconnect\nYou need to date your spouse all over again
352239
So, whats the problem if he is? Your marriage is finished anyway.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
927058
Do they want kids? How are you going to handle finaces? Do they have any doubts about you two? No stds! How far would they go to stay together (counsling, etc.) What are their goals and carear plans. The rest you should know before you think of marriage