My fiance does the most annoying things.what can i do to not get so irritated with him?
551138
thats hilarious... look at it this way... would you rather be with someoen who is spoiled and acts like a roughneck, or someone who is violent? Look at it this way... its not just what you like about a person.. its the crap that you are able to put up with... if you can put up with him and no problem than go wtih it... if not and you think you will find someone else wiht less annoying qualities then go for it....
663587
ohhhh!!!\nu can talk to him \ntell him that u don't want problems but he is going too far!!\nremind him u r married\ntry and get him a girlfriend so that his attetion is directed at her instead of u \nGood luck
643048
some times being blunt is the best way to do things just tell him that what he is doing is making you unconfortable and if he please could stop
745508
follow your heart but communcate that with your husband...and for god sake stop worrying about this stuff and consummate the marriage..its been long enough and im sure hes irritated.
1044696
Dear asker,\n\nYou have to stop dragging your bagagge into your new relationship, he is NOT your ex-husband nor he has to be punished for what someone else did to you. It's not fair.\n\nYou have to put your guard down. He probally doens't know the details of your marriage and doesn't know what is most sensitive to you. You have to communicate and don't hold on to a grudge because youa re goingto explode, make a dramatic scene and drive him away.\n\nWhile is natural for you to feel tempted to walk away from a relationship because you are not going to take any more crap from anyone, I think that you are overreacting because probally your boyfriend is not doing nothing to you that merits such display of rage and emotions. Tell him about what makes you angry and sad and what subjects are better left untouched so it won't trigger your defensive mode, \n\nIf you want to try to be in a relationship, you have to learn to trust again (easier said than done) and let go of your bad experiences so you can freely enjoy love the way is supposed to be.\n\nBest of luck to you
369343
when they are rude, and cheat on you,those who talk too much or not at all! Men that are annoying  drive me nuts!
1164160
Nope.  Frankly, I'm the same way.  My gf let me know it bothers her, so, I'm trying to make adjustments.  But, if you keep asking him, it'll just take longer and make him more irritated, maybe to the point where he can't deal with it anymore.  I'd let him know it bothers you, and leave it.  If he's going to change, he'll do it on his own.
37598
You might want to talk to him about it and let him know that it bothers you.  You and he can make an agreement about what he will do in future similar situations.  If he's not willing to do what you want, you'll have to decide how you feel about that.
566300
I find everything about my husband's boyfriend annoying
968583
yeah...myhusband nags more than i do, and im the woman!  he gets mad about EVERYTHING.  helping me with the garbage, with dishes, cleaning, always looking over my shoulder and asking my why im doing what im doing and getting mad because i tell hi to leave me the hell alone or dont answer.   whats up with it?!
155108
I won't tell you to slap him, because that would be wrong. ;)\n\nMaybe yelling at him as loud as you can when he's bothering you?
1104864
I would tell him that hes pissing me off and upsetting me by saying those things and talk to him about it. see if he will agree to stop it. then if he keeps on, i would just dump him and move on. there are PLENTY of guys who will make you feel special... you dont need one who tells you that you need to change just to suit him.
422284
I really hate to break this to you but its not good.  He sounds very controlling.  My recommendation is that you both go through pre-marital counceling or split up.  If he is doing this, this early on, he is sending you very strong clues as to what he will be like once the papers are signed.  Please, postpone the wedding if its set or stop the engagement.  He has to want to change.  You cant make him do so.  At the same token, you dont deserve to be belittled at all by ANY person.  That is called verbal and emotional abuse.  And, when there is abuse of any kind this early on, it tends to escalate later.  You are not his property.  He can not tell you what to do.  I know this will be so hard for you because its obvious that you still love him but you have to believe me on this one.  I was married to 2 men that did very similar things to what you just discribed.  It dam near ruined me.  \n\nPack your stuff if you are living together and leave.  Tell him you will return once he has gotten counceling and not before that.  Dont take his appologies because abusers will appologize, be good for a SHORT time, then do it all over again and each time will be worse.  I speak from experience.  And I pray for your sanity right now.  I really hope you do the right thing.  This time, listen to your head and not your heart.
1058897
How about "I'm breaking up with you because _______. Bye.". Then click the ignore button to prevent any further annoyances. You don't want him trying to convince you he's what's best for you, do you?
295656
nothing is more annoying then someone trying to force you to talk about something when you don't want to.  You dont have to do anything just be around. Don't try to cheer him up (theres nothing to be cheery about), don't feel sorry for him (he dosen't need pity) , don't try to get him to open up (its his problem and he will deal with it his way for better or worse). Don't act like you know how he feels (even if you do know, its not about your feelings).  Just go through it with him. its clear you care and thats all you can do. you can't fix this problem for him \nOne quote from bob dylan that always rings true during my tough times "It always means so much Even the softest touch" a gentle touch can convey more then a 1000 words
744137
i dont know he'll be annoyed. just dont call again until tomorrow night. and if he calls you dont answer for as long as possible before you think he'll give up. trust me :)
73732
Pray for Him ( if you pray ). Also, tell him he's annoying. He deserves honesty about how his ridiculous behavior is annoying everbody. After all, If no one is letting him know he's ridiculous, he may think everyone likes him. Tell him he sucks at singing if he does, but if he's a good singer, tell him he's a good singer but that doesn't give him the right to touch everyone. It's very couragous to be honest to people. It is so much easier to follow the herd and gossip. This guy has a family somewhere you know, so treat him like you would want your dad or husband or son to be treated at their work.