a guy doesnt know the value of being a housewife, how do u convince him it is, he thinks>>more info?
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I have had to go out of town for a few days leaving the kids with my husband.  He thought he could do it just fine.  When I came home he just hugged me and said "how in the hell do you do it??"  I just laughed at him.  he never took my job for granted again.  Now when he gets home he cooks and lets me sit and relax because he knows I am exhausted.\n\nSo to answer your question, I say go out of town for a few days and see what he says when you get home.  This is something that they cant understand till they are in your shoes.
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I think people are misunderstanding what you are trying to say. Perhaps a language barrier yes?\nYour husband is smart, but you are smart also.\nI know you are trying to say you are being a faithful\nwife and you want to be a perfect wife for him. Also you may be trying to say he should not be suspicious because you are trying to be the best wife.\nThose are real feelings you are experiencing.\nA thing called a womens intuition. Sometimes if he is suspicous of you its because he is a suspicous person himself. Your are married only one year to get to know him.\nGoing out 3 years does not give much of a chance to really know a persons habits. Age is another factor too. Let him go his path for now. He is not in the building stage of your relationship. He is not doing things to make you both grow as a couple. He as to value marriage. He has to change his ways now. You have to encourage him to not let it continue to go his separate way. It is not the same path. If you suspect him more you have to say to him not to bring home social disease. Get it out now and begin healing and loving. Ask him why did he marry if he still needs to stray (wonder like a cat).\nYou value marriage and you want it to work out, patience is most likely one answer. Good Luck.
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Being a housewife can be a great thing. It is wonderful to be a housewife if financial situations and everything else allow you to be a housewife. Housewives almost started to become a dying breed. Stay-at-home mothers are a value to society. When I became a housewife, it was a happy day.\n\nI have been to a few colleges and a university. College is great, but it's expensive. One day, a musician friend of mine pointed out that he noticed I was always going to the library and reading. He emphasized some people are smart enough to read and comprehend and learn all kinds of things that go beyond what people learn in school. I agree this is true. Mostly, I was just wanting to go to college to learn. I would be a lifetime student if I could afford it, but I cannot afford it.\n\nIt took a long time for me to become a housewife. Before that I worked and in most of that time I made enough money that I would not complain about having never completed a degree. Most of the money I made had nothing to do with any of the education I had attained.\n\nThings change though. There are a lot of jobs that I have skills for now that want someone with at least 2 years college. That college experience may have little to do with the employment being offered, but people see it this way: a person who has willingly put themselves through and completed a structured education program has the willingness and ability to learn and progress, they are capable of meeting deadlines, they are capable of following detailed instructions.\n\nNow, (about 20 years later) I have my eye on going back to school and earning some paper. But that's just me. I always wanted to be a professional student anyway.\n\nIf you don't feel the desire for school, then it is a waste of time and money. Just remember, one way or the other we all have to work.\n\nAlso, you know you must be still very young & MAYBE God is NOT leading you to college. Life is a crazy path, girl & it can take you many directions and detours you never dreamed of at your age, so always keep your options open.
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Handyman jobs can help.  If they own their home, the work he does on the home will increase its value and be as good as actually working for someone else.
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The man in the relationship wants to feel like the bread winner. Well thats what society tells all men... because they are petrayed as the hard workers who can keep the roof of the women and children's head. they are the stronger human being... As for wives... we are sensitive, we keep things nice and clean and the children bathed and fed... for one week tell your man to take off work for vacation... let him stay home and take care of children and clean house. you go so where for 8 hours or 10 hours aday... even if you don't have a job... and then come home.... I garuntee you the first day will be ok for the man... then the second day it will get harder.. then by the third day... the kitchen will be a dissaster, the kids haven't had their morning bath, they have food stains on the floor or carpet. they still have their pajamas on.... I'm telling you this because I have been there... now I work everyday for 10 hours a day and so does my husband... now when I pick up my children from the sitters house.. my husband has beet me home... dinner is cooked the house is clean... becaused I got fed up... and I told him about his self... my point is all men are on a ego trip.... they think women are supposed to do certain things... and men are just supposed to work.. watch the game &  have some drinks maybe go to the club and see strippers, eat, shower, go to the bathroom, have sex and go to sleep and do it all again the next day... Now when I pulled his daily routine, you better believe he had a lot of anger and things to say.... and I said to him why is it ok for you to do that and I can't... you know what his awnser was because you have to stay respectful to me and your children... I was like hold up. so you sayin you don't respect me and the kids... he didn't have nothin to say. I put him in his place... now he doesn't think a woman should stay home all the time. He wants me to keep working because he understands what ever I do, if I work or if I stay home... I still love him and have mad respect for him... he's learning
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You know your husband, so if he means what he says then forget about it. If you have some doubts about his claim, forget about it. Either way, bringing back up can only make the matter worse. IF and WHEN he wants to discuss it, it'll happen.
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First of all you have to have a talk with her about this and how keeping your home neat, tidy and nicely decorated contributes to your happiness.  You'll have to ask her if she is willing to make the effort to be a "Stepford wife" (of course that standard is an exaggeration).  At this point, giving her hints won't help.  YOu have to ask it straight out.  I do hope she makes the effort though but in most cases, those are interests that have to be cultivated early on in life.  You're talking about a person's standards on quality of life there and if she doesn't want much out of it but fastfood and tv, you'll have to try getting her to desire more than that.
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you tell him in straight forward manner. You expect rent, utility, and food money. If he disagrees, tell him that it is not your responsibility to take care of him. Treat him like an adult and be firm. If it gets to be two on one then its time to move yourself out.\n\nADDED\n\nif its your house then you can tell then its your way or the highway.
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Be honest, if he doesn't understand he's not worth it.  If he loves you he will support you and respect you for trying to improve yourself.  Don't ruin your future for a man!!
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No, as I have no idea who you are.  A man's money, or lack of it, doesn't matter to me when I first meet him. His willingness to improve his financial position, for his own self-respect, does.  Women usually marry to have children so it's better if the man is able to contribute towards the family.  \nThis is such an odd question, I can't help but think that you are either desperate or else you are a wealthy guy who is trying to ferret out golddiggers in some way.  Good luck anyway.\nP.S.  Ultimately, character traits like honesty, integrity, faithfulness are much more important than how much cash a man has.
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Hahaha, is your husband asking your for a cost benefit analysis for a proposed salary? I think housewives should not be paid salaries but should instead be given an allowance for personal needs separately from the household budget.  It pretty much works the same way as a salary but denoting it as such is just not right.  A wife does the things she does out of love and because she wants to support her husband.
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Having a set of values is not childish it is entering into adulthood. If he wants a committed relationship with all the benefits of true love he needs to be a one woman man.  I hear this so often about woman who are gorgeous and they feel they must do what ever it takes to keep the man even let him cheat on them.  You have more power in the relationship dynamic. It’s not a game to play or control but you need to know your own self worth. The other thing is if a man says his carrier comes first that strikes me as immature and self absorbed. They typically use money to control a woman and the woman play a game using sex to control them back. Love is no game.  \nMature men can balance there vocational and relationship at the same time. If they are using woman as a rental car or hotel room they can pick up at as needed than you really not going to want this kind of relationship. Mature men realize a woman can give something to them they can’t get from work and can’t get from objectifying a woman. When I say Objectifying I am referring to the rental car type of man who likes to try all the cars in the parking lot just because he can and has the money. You don’t want a man that does not know what he wants he is the childish one.\nI am not hard on this guy he seems to be typical and smart man because he found you. Don’t prove him wrong by letting him take advantage of you. He likes you cause your one of a kind and can bring balance to his demanding work style. He needs some one to come home to after a hard day’s work that can bring him balance and joy. When you give into his “rental car” mentality that you’re not giving him what he needs and eventually you both lose out. Your more like a Lamborghini (a very expensive car that is design for one owner for life) http://www.lamborghini.com/eng/lamborghini.html  hand made just for one man. You’re like a Lamborghini cute, sweet, decent, nice, and cozy.  You can get one for around 175k to 350k so if you picture your that kind of woman with the full package he is the one who should be clinging to you.
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Because genetically women GENERALLY are looking fora good provider - - so years and years of training has caused men to attempt to prove they can be a good provider, and to do this they brag on the possessions they have acquired.\n\nWhat you might consider is peeling the onion.  Rather than dismissing a man simply because he took the wrong route to get your attention attempt to redirect his focus.  Don't be so callous as to dismiss him but ask him questions about things that interest you.  \n\nI promise being understanding and nice and kind doesn't hurt at all.  You might find it to be useful, unless you plan to live the rest of your life alone and angry.
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Every guy is different on this one.  Listen to him.  Does he have any hobbies?  If so, get him something to deal with that.  Have you heard him mention really needing a new something?  If it's in your budget, get him that.  Show him your listening.  Also, fixing him dinner could go over well, if you know something he really likes in terms of food.  If he isn't giving out any indicators like that, the best last resort is to buy yourself some new lingerie & give him a lap dance.  It isn't sex, but it's close enough to that realm that he'll definitely appreciate it.
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Sheesh, want to switch with my wife she never lets me tell her what to do. I am 6'3" and she just a tiny 5'2" but she is the boss. No really your both adults, work it out, talk, communicate, tell him what you want to do and why and listen to his answers. Maybe he feels guilty that the first house you bought wasn't as big or as nice as he thought it would be. I don't know, but without talking to him, you won't know either. Talking to people on line is not going to get it done either. Sounds to me like your tired and frustrated and will continue to be until you two talk it out. There are no stead fast rules or anything on what you are allowed and not allowed to due in most places in the U.S. and I  have to assume it is not a religeous prohibatation as your talking about it on the internet. Talk to him, if you can't talk to him, write him a letter. If worse comes to worse neither of you will be happy.
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Gah, that could never get answered here man.  But on a high note, i'm jealous, u got most mens dream lady.  Most likely, if u tell her what u just told us, she would get a kick out of teaching u, that would be the best advice.  Anything u get told on here could easily be coming from a 40 year old virgin with a wild fantasy life and be disastrous for u.
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I think they have a right to their opinion esp if it's their own house. The guy has to live with everyday. (If your just dating) but if your married give it up guys your pretty much screwed.