Dont you hate being obligated to go to a distant family members wedding ?
545573
then you send a gift or card with money and your regrets as the gas prices are so high...blah blah..i dont go to the out of towners weddings.
890243
I know how you feel- no relaxed visiting- just a mad dash to make it to the next get together.  Its nice to be invited to more than one place, but it is a strain and really no fun to have to rush through a visit or dinner.  \n     You have a good idea, I think if I were you, I would go ahead and separate for the day to each family.  Especailly since you have family that you only see this time of year.  That time is precious- and you won't get the time back.
313002
Nope, nor will I ever. \nI am dead serious about the vows I made to my Hubby. My marriage and family I have acquired through it mean the world to me. Why jeopardize that?
766920
OMFSMG!!(Oh My Flying Spaghetti Monster God) I sure hope not!  I'd rather fly a couple states away and have a great time with a non-relative!
738651
If it is a groovy suit with a sparkly tie and nice hanky for a laugh. Ages since I have been to a good family wedding without even mentioning the catastrophe of my own - first they weren't going, then they bloody were, and then we had to get married in a fecking registrars and the head housekeeper or some old titt or another, said she would do all the nosh - I mean I don't mind some homemade pies and offal when out hunting, but oh God the food was like school dinners (they love muck like that as they don't have much teeth through inter breeding) Anyway, I said bugger this, I'm off for a fag and drink and then all hell let loose.  I escaped with a half bottle of grouse and half of gin and slept like a kitten.   So, the moral of the story, is do what you like as it will offend someone.
1157562
Uh, well, I find brides annoying period, no metter the wedding budget.\n\nYuck, they are nasty self centered Beotches
850652
If your family can afford the trip then I think having it in NC is fine.  Remember you can't please all the people all the time.  If you start making unreasonable compromises now, then you will be destined to a life time of just that.  If your family can't afford the trip then maybe yo should be prepared to pay for them your self, if you can.  \nIf money isn't an issue with your family then you have nothing to worry about, It is YOUR and your husband to be wedding, don't lose sight of that.  Let them know ASAP so they can plan accordingly.  I have a son and daughter that are of marrying age (wish they would hurry up and do it!!!)...lol...but to the point, I would never expect them to have their weddings to convenience me, in any way shape or form.  \nTry not make it too complicated, just tell em you can't wait to marry this man you  love and the wedding is on such and such date and that you wanted to let them know early so they could make plans!!!!!!  good luck and have a great life!!!!
33494
why are you going to the wedding??
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I'm personally all for eloping, but in your case, it seems it might cause more problems than solutions.\n\nYou and your fiance need to have a clear plan established for how you are going to handle his controlling mother.  If he feels 'loyalties' to her now, he will when you are married.  And in-laws can be a great source of tension in new marriages.\n\nHow much would it really bother your parents if you eloped?  Mine know I plan to do that, and it still hurts them a bit that they won't be there.  Make sure you won't be hurting them outwardly.\n\nHow about a compromise, go to the courthouse with your immediate family members and get married.  Then in Sept you can hold a celebration party.\n\nGood luck.
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It's actually very tacky to ask for money.  It isn't necessary to have a big expensive extravaganza wedding.  If the couple cannot afford a large wedding, neither they nor any relatives should be forced to go into debt to provide one.  If either set of parents wish to contribute, that's fine, but the couple shouldn't be asking for a handout.
294894
Before wedding you feel you are doing some thing that you should not do so but After wedding you feel its your right to do how you like
254135
No! I would see that as a slap in face saying "I want presents, but I don't want to pay for your meal or trust you to behave like an adult on my special day." The only time i would do it is if the friend is really close to me but cannot make the wedding due to a major plan, like moving or taking a big vacation. Unless you want this to be the last time you see the person, it would be better to just have a little event, like seeing a movie or having dinner to celebrate, since such things don't oblige presents.
915399
Shame on you, wanting to marry for convenience and not love.
69484
I'm sure your mother means well, but she doesn't understand the hurt and pain that you are going through. It's easy for her to say "Put it away" because she's not the one who was betrayed.\n\nWhether or not to attend the wedding should be entirely your choice. Don't let anyone else guilt you into going. If you are still working through the hurt, you have to do what's right for you. Everyone has the right to set and maintain their own boundaries and to work through their pain on their own schedule.\n\nDo what you know is right in your heart, and don't let anyone else make you feel bad about it. You don't owe an explanation or justification, either. Stick to something simple: "I just don't feel ready to do that" should suffice.\n\nHopefully someday you'll be able to work through this and have a relationship with your sister. But that's something that cannot be rushed, and no one else has the right to push you.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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This is an outdated custom from before the time of instant communication.  It used to take a long time to travel to wedding and you might not have time to speak to the families and voice your objection before the actual wedding.
513050
I don't think it's nasty at all. I do think it's important to decide what about your younger sister getting married is making you jealous. Getting caught up in the wedding details can be pretty exciting, I too find myself wistfully looking through Bride from time to time. It's important to remember that everyone must live life accoring to their own timeline. If she feels she's found her life partner in 18 years then I wish her the best of luck. If you're happy with where you are right now and who you're with then don't sweat it...enjoy your guy, help pick out the cake, and enjoy yourself. If nothing else you'll know better how to get prepared for your own wedding after all this. =)
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Yes, I do. I have a sister in law that is like that. She can be a very nice person, but she cannot stand it if she cannot have her way . People like that bring out the stubborn nature of me. I know what they are doing and I will not budge. She hates when I do it, it really makes her mad, but she learned to have respect for me.