having sex with a friend wrong?
537026
Although it is rather common having sex among friends in this era, do not ever assume that because this guy has a sexual relationship with you that he will end up having intimate feelings for you. It is interesting how you think that he is "a good friend," when in reality, this guy might not have concern about you as a person, other than just a friend, or how his behavior is going to affect you later.\n\nYou have to be able to involve yourself in a real relationship with someone who is actually to have true feelings for you, to see you as someone to spend the rest of his life with. This is not a good situation for you and it certainly will not turn out the way you would want if you had sex with your so-called good friend.\n\nThe only way to see in this situation is your friend gets in for the sake of having sex with you, and chances are never become emotionally involved. You can have fun for a while, but the novelty of having a "sexual buddy" starts to wear thin. You may begin to get upset after you and he get physical, because he may not be able to give you the emotional part of sex that you deserve. \n\nI would suggest to hold on to your urge of having sex with your friend, rather than heading for an unknown disaster in the future. You should cherish your friendship and not salvage it for sex.
86409
NO ITS NOT OK! THATS LIKE CHEATING ON THE OTHER PEOPLE, AND YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH SOMEONE, EVEN ONLY FOR SEX, IF THEY ALREADY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE. WHAT IF SOMEDAY YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE, BUT LIKE REALLY FALL IN LOVE, AND U FIND OUT THEY ARE HAVING SEX WITH THEIR BEST FRIEND, YOU WOULD NOT LIKE THAT. AND EVEN WORSE IF YOU DONT EVEN KNOW. YOU EITHER DONT LOVE THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH, OR YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOUR BEST FRIEND AND DONT KNOW IT. YOU HAVE TO THINK OF THE CONSEQUENCES, IT MIGHT BE GOOD TO DO IT NOW, BUT IT CAN COME WITH A HIGH PRICE IN THE END. THINK ABOUT IT. HOPEFULLY MY OPINION HELPS.
473923
Apologize, your friendship is worth more then the sex, think about that.
1013325
If he is your friend then he wouldnt be involving you in this. You need to report him ASAP. If you begin to question your self  on the morality of turning him in think about this.....if he has sex with someone and then coincidentally you have sex with that same person now your at risk.... there are condoms in this world there is no excuse to pass on HIV to anyone. He is being selfish and is ruining many peoples lives in the process. How would you like to be one of the people he has sex with? even if you dont end up with HIV the trauma of worring that you might have it is enough to ruin anyones lives. If the friend passes it on then he is in a sence murdering that person ...its just a long needless painful death....do you really want to have friends that are so thoughtless?
387058
Yes I would be kinda scared off to! Dont tickle fight with her any more,seems like she has a big issue to deal with!Maybe your friend needs to find herself a sex partner to relieve her,but if thats not what she wants,Id have a serious talk with her before she gets the wrong impressions!!
966410
Not wrong at all.  Two consenting adults that wish to engage in the act should be more than welcome to, regardless of sex.  If that's what you want to do, do it.  Who are we to judge?
703262
You have already answered your own questions.  You are the only one that can tell you to have sex.  Good for you for not wanting to just have sex to "get it over with."  \n\nYour friends (and even your family members ... FOURTEEN????) are stupid to just haphazardly screw around!  Aside from the potential for getting pregnant, lets not also forget the disease factor!  Stupid to fool around so irresponsibly.\n\nThe bottom line is, you need to tell your critics (because they're not peers or friends when they're telling you to do something stupid that you KNOW is stupid and you don't want to do) that its your body and your choice and they need to mind their own business.  \n\nThere is NOTHING wrong with waiting to have sex...and you're doing it for the right reasons.  Tell your "friends" to shut the hell up and live their own lives.
231569
well odds are she is lying and they did have sex (same thing happened to my best friend, caught her boyfriend in bed with a girl, they were both asleep in their underwear but claim nothing happened, yeah right)....tell the jackass to hit the road...
724069
I would say its a bad idea. If this person is your friend then going after someone they were with is just bad karma. The best thing I can suggest is to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
450349
YES! This is a no go area, if you are calling this person your "best" friend rather than just a friend you already should know that this person is not like other people you hang out with. It will be gone forever and you will have a relationship, and there is no taking it back. It's about self control and being honest to yourself, if you want a best friend steer clear of that, if al lyou want is sex or a relationship then think hard about the friends you make because it can be a world of hurt
330157
It was wrong for you to pass the information for these reasons :\n\n1. what someone tells you about themselves should be kept confidential by you....it is a trust\n2. you have no first-hand knowledge of the validity of J's assertion. She could have just made the story up.\n\nThe correct thing for you to have done would have been to confront J about endangering/infecting another person, because that is a selfish, vile thing for her to do. If she doesn't take heed to your advice, you can inform her that a civil suit could be brought against her. \nSecondly, you should have told K to ask J herself. You should not have been asked to be put in the middle.\n\nAs for J, there is no cure for her STD. K is not the only person who will be caught in this snare. You will not be able to warn all of your friends who will be at risk in the future. Casual sex has serious consequences, because some people (like J) are unidisciplined, indiscrimnate and conscienceless.
840510
I realize that you dont want to hurt this guy and I do know where you are coming from (I recently lost my guy to a friend of ours). Now I know that you say that you dont want to date him, but why? You are single and I dont think the question here should be will sleeping with him hurt him I think you need to think about you, if you dont like him enough to date him then why would you want to sleep with him? Why not take the chance and see if that friendship could turn into something else, I mean you are already talking about sleeping with someone who cares about you so you must feel that he is sincere. One thing I have learned from experience is that the best relationships I have been in were when we started out as friends first. No I dont think it will hurt him I think it will hurt you especially since you say that youve been used by every guy that you have slept with. No I dont think that he will be hurt in fact it sounds like he is already enjoying hisself by making out in front of his friends "for some fun" and it "would make us stronger". It sounds like this guy already considers you his girlfriend. You need to look at the situation very closely. Either go out with the guy or just be his friend but whichever you decide stick to \nyour decision.  If you decide to be just friends then no more making out in front of his friends - okay? SLP
913844
You're not ready for sex. Nothing wrong with it, in your own time and space you will be. I think you feel fear because you're rushing into this cos your friends have done it and you don't want to seem left behind. Forget about everyone's need for a change and start focusing on your own. Say no and if they cannot accept it, they are not worth your energy.
1145895
I have been in this situation also. I was having deep feelings for a man that I was in a friends with benefits relationship. The best thing to do is sit down and talk with the "friend", honestly and open, and Not in the bedroom. You might get hurt, if they don't feel the same; But not as hurt as you'll be if you continue to really care for that person when they just think it's sex with a friend. \n\nI wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out in your favor. Good luck.
1071147
He doesn't need help. It is you that clearly needs help. Who HASN'T had sex with waste before?\n(But I think it's a tad bit rude of you to just automatically assume it's a human's waste. You should be accepting of your friend and his taste for perhaps-animal waste.)
538191
I've done this, did it a couple of times, actually... Never worked.\n\nI did have one friend who kept doing it to one of her ex's. However, she would constantly sleep with him again, and then assume the relationship was back on. Don't get me wrong, he's a good guy, but he's not going to turn down sex, especially since he didn't know what was going on through her head. If he did, he never would have slept with her. \n\nNow, if you're not in communication with the ex, and you try this, keep in mind that you may not like what you see. That happened to me, and I'm not proud to say that I crawled into a bottle immediately afterwards. \n\nBut hey, it can be interesting, so why not try it! Just bring along a friend to share in your joy or pain. And let them drive.
812203
I think if this question really is a true question.. you are not doing the correct thing by cheating like that... You will loose your girlfriend if you tell her whats going on. You need to stop this fling with your friend if you want to stay with your gf.. you should be honest with yourself and ask your own self... maybe you are not"gay" but bisexual.  Maybe you should not be in a serious relationship right now.