why do ppl say that they are bi and gay in middle school?
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I don't know. For one thing, at that stage in life, their bodies are still developing, and a lot of people go through stages of having crushes on BOTH genders. However, at that age, it's not like they're actually going to DO anything, so I don't see why they bother proclaiming themselves as bi or gay.  I mean, they probably get a small crush on someone of the same sex, so they jump to the conclusion that they're gay. And since it's almost becoming kind of trendy to be gay, they openly declare it, to get attention or whatever.\n\nI think that until you've actually finished developing physically and emotionally, there's no point in declaring yourself homosexual since it could just be a phase.
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Dear vBoy,\n   Many people who are primarily attracted to members of their own sex have gone through a period of confusion during which they tried to form a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.  Perhaps they felt a need to live up to the expectations of others, family, society at large, etc.  But if the attraction is almost exclusively toward the same sex, these people eventually may decide to identify themselves as gays or lesbians.  Sexuality is quite fluid and diverse, however, as Kinsey explained.  For example, in Italy it is quite common to meet handsome young men who have relationships with older men, primarily for financial benefit, but later the young men get jobs and marry and have a family.  Are these men gay?  Straight?  The question is irrelevant.  Sexuality is essentially behaviour.  Even those who have early on identified themselves as gay may at some time have relations with the opposite sex.  It might be situational, or it might be out of pure physical and emotional attraction.  If you desire to know more about such matters, there are many groups who can supply information.  PFlag is a good start.  Look up a local chapter of Parents and Friends of lesbians and gays (PFLag).  I hope my answer has helped.
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Its happened to before, and ive done it before. When I did it it was a time in my life when I hadnt accepted my homosexuality, and considered my self Bi but to my freinds i was straigh, Did it to protect my identity. After i came out, and guys try that shiznit, it was easy to see through. Or they are cheating and if you saw them out elswhere and called them by the wrong name they gave you they can play that off as youve got the wrong person kind of thing.
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I have no idea..I think it's because their gay
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You can't really determine your sexuality untill around the onset of puberty, but when that time comes and you're staring at the same teachers that the opposite gender is.,.. there's a clue that maybe you dont swing the standard way.\nBut let me ask you this, if they cant be born gay, that means you couldnt have been born straight, and was there ever a time when you were thinking hmmm, girls or boys, girls or boys...?
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because people are cruel and want to target someone that is different then them. I wish everyone would just leave gay people alone. They are also human beings with feelings!!
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Back when I was a teenager, a lot of the little sisters of my friends had crushes on me or other friends of their older siblings. Their interactions with us influenced their sexual identity a lot. (And, no, I didn't do anything inappropriate.)
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Many people associate homosexuality as something negative, thus they use the word "gay" as a general perjorative. Anything they dislike gets called "gay" not because it's homosexual, but because it's bad.\n\nThat's a very immature way of speaking, but it's out there.
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They are scared or do not think it is natural. Not me, though, I love gays! I actually do, lots of gay people are funny and nice, maybe because theyve been through a lot (plus the gay boys are sensitive and can help me with my shopping!)
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I may get yelled at for this but...\n\n...there is a Freudian explanation that says that people are homophobic because they are surpressing their own erotic feelings towards the same sex.\n\nThe other explanation is that they are narrow minded idiots ;-)
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I go to college, so they're lots of people that I know that are gay, bisexual, or lesbians. I am straight however.
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No, boy scouts are not gay. It's just a after school activity or something fun they enjoy. THat's like saying girl scouts are gay. Is that what your saying?!!!
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First, do you think most people know that you are bi or gay?\nOf course not. So, the guys that you believe are straight, could very well be bi or gay. Keep your chin up!!!
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Wow i'm gay and i don't ride a lot of poles. GAY = Attracted to members of the same sex. BI = Attracted to both Male and Female.
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I wouldn't say I'm proud to be gay(bi in my case), I'd say I'm proud of who I am.  Sexuality is only a part of that, not the whole.\n\nAlso, who told you it was a choice?  I was born bisexual, and I will always be bisexual.  It's the way I am.
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The bisexual women that I know, my wife included, generally stick to the heterosexual thing because it is easier in society, so spotting them can be a little difficult, but there are a good deal of them around.\n\nIn a sense, bisexuals "coming out" to other people is kind like elementary school relationships. It is not as socially acceptable, so it is hidden, like it is with 8 or 9 year olds. I know this sounds insulting, but actually the stakes are greater. In elementary school, all that is at stake is a little embarassment, in the adult world, your livelihood could be at stake.\n\nThey are out there. Who knows, they might be your best friend and only a drink or two away.
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Your close friends might not know that you are gay, but they might not be surprised when you come out of the closet to them.   \n\nHow do you know someone is gay?  You see them sleep with people of the same gender.  \n\nAre you in high school?  That is a hard time to be different in any way shape or form.  You should join a support group of some sort and make some gay friends, it might make things a bit easier for you.