what can i do to make myself more outspoken?
546122
Have you thought of counselling? That may be the 'easier' road you are looking for. Ultimately though, you will have to talk to others in social events to be able to learn to do it with confidence. Experiencing life like travelling, can be a good way to build your confidence, for the more you know about something, the more you can talk about it with passion.\nGaining a better view of ones self (self esteem) can also come when presented with challenges that one overcomes, so challenge yourself-give yourself tasks that you know are hard, but that you are able to overcome. Do you have a fear of spiders for example? Overcome that and you will certainly want to tell people about it! I did!!\n If you would like to chat more about it, feel free to email me from the link at my avatar and I'll try to help.\n\nbest of luck
391378
smile, be a good listener, don't get into peoples personal space, have empathy, don't spread gossip, be genuine, do not put on airs. a few  examples that will help.\ntake your worst personality trait and replace it with a good personality trait.
115187
if you wanna stop being shy, socialize as much as you can! you'll observe others, imitate them at first, and in time get enough courage to do whatever you wanted to.
449208
Great communicators/conversationists know how to ask questions and LISTEN with interest to the answers. If you are quiet by nature, you are ahead of the game, unlikely to be inclined to blubber idiotically. Stop trying to overcome your 'shyness' and stop worrying about what YOU have to say. It's the fear of being rejected that trips you up. \n\nLearn to listen. The right words --- the ones 'outgoing' people usually can't utter --- will come when you stop worrying about what YOU have to say and just listen quietly. Try it out and tell me it doesn't change how you view your 'social self.' \n\nGood luck!
762956
first thing first you need to be yourself n stop trying to be wht you aint some ppl are like u not to talkative they like to stay in the back ground and look and listen you learn more believe me and then you will know when is the right time to come out when you look listen and pay attention to wht ppl is talking about you will know if you need to say anything and make sure it is the right thing and not the wrong thing. good luck
1099092
clearly, you have to speak well. No horible accents or lips or anything. Also, you cant be shy.Public speaking is not for the faint of hear.\nLastly, it helps if you a) loveable or b) hot.
503463
I dont know how old you are but i went through a phase of not having a lot to say i was happy to just listen.\n\nMy parents interpreted this as me being rude or a sulky teen. But i felt that where i didnt have anything particularily constructive to say or add to a discussion, there was no point.\n\nJust be yourself when you are comfortable enough and confident then talk if not, just enjoy life as you please.\n\nAt the end of the day it its your life. You are NOT boring you are a thoughtful individual with your own ideas.
1153479
You need to open yourself up. Say what you feel (as long as it's appropriate), and be confident. Really listen to people and try to establish common ground. Ask questions to get to know people on a more personal basis- like where they grew up, their career choice, their opinions about whatever. Stay in contact w/ people and don't be silent or bored- have fun.
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I encourage YOU to get to know the real you.  Find something you are passionate about and great at.  Begin doing that thing.  Are you a good singer?  Consider joining a choir.  Are  you great at math?  Join the math club, or sign up to be a tutor.  When you begin pursuing whatever it is that really drives you, you will meet people who are interested in the same things.  Most likely, they'll notice the real you first, and then your personality will shine through.  I also encourage you to laugh at yourself.  So what you are "ditzy".  You can't change your personality!  You sound like a fun girl.  Don't harp on yourself...  I do stupid things all the time, but I have so many friends because I know how to laugh at myself.  Good luck!!
969000
Be a good listener,  and let people talk about themselves.  They love to.  But the real important thing is to really pay attention to what they say and try to see their point of view.  Express yours only if you are really sure about it.
698666
You must have a few things your interested in.. Go to a group, and be around others that share that interest.. Just listen at first, but once in a while, share something with them.. If you can't make yourself share, do this in the mirror at home. See yourself in the group, and something comes up that you know something about and you enthusiastically say it, quite loud.. Do it, see it all by yourself. Then go out and re-play your "acting," in real life. This will work !
186097
would of been more out spoken and talkative..i was always the shy one..now i have a big mouth...
1079186
First, make the decision that you are not going to be shy.  Believing that you are shy, or somehow not as worthy as others around you will make you continue to be shy.\n\nSecond, start slowly, by giving yourself an assignment.  Try making small talk to one new person.  Practice at home when you are alone, so you have some things ready to say.\n\nThird, try finding an activity that interests you, so you will meet people with the same interest.  Then you have a topic to start talking about.\n\nThat is how I overcame my shyness.  (It also helped when I turned forty and stopped caring what other people thought about me!)
770580
Do some self assertion classes, they really help you cope with shyness...;\n\nSteer clear of the alcohol suggestion, you could end up with more problems than just shyness!!!
403000
Do something and increase your self confidence.When talking don't too fast take your time and let the words come out.Those who laugh at you aren't worthy of being called friends.I know I had this problem too,still have it but not so evident.Hope this helps.
894393
I would suggest just start asking people questions about themselves.  Generally people enjoy talking about themselves.  You want people to be more "open", but you need to respect their boundaries.  At my job, we talk all the time and share our lives.  But it is a very professional atmosphere.  There can be a good balance struck.\n\nBest plan of attack is to be a great communicator by listening.
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i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.