is there a side effect in being a virgin at 30years & above?
541783
nope.  i use to think that after a certain age it was unhealthy and unnatural.  then i thought about people with no libido and self imposed celibacy.  these people are vital, functioning and just as sane/insane as the rest of the world.  sex isn't everything to everybody.
872575
i am an 18 yr. old female who is still a virgin as well, and i totally charash it. it is the most preshes thing to me. being a  virgin(keeping your verginity tell your married) is very rare now days. and trust me i have had many chances to brake it several times, but i just cant do that because i would be just like all the other people. i might even end up with an unwanted pregancy, std's, aids, the shame of loosing your verginity to someone who you really dont love and care to spend time with every day of your life, for the rest of your life, ect..... i could go on all night and day listing things but i wont.\nI also agree with you. i would charish it tell your married and have that be your first time. hopefually that will be her first time too. and that way you both will have something special to look forward to, and you wont really have a clue if your bad or good the first time. stay strong and keep your virginity. i know that it's hard but its possible. dont let people bolly you into it. I personally would prefure someone who is still a virgin when i marry him. best of luck. remember if you have sex just one time their is no being a vergin again.
609356
Bravo! You have done something that is very very difficult to do at a time when peer pressure, media and other factors would have made you loose your virginity earlier. \n\nTo my knowledge, there aren't any medical side-effects of maintaining your virginity. In fact, think of all the diseases you remain unexposed to? Read a book once (I forget which one in particular) that had a statement to the effect that being on the net (even with all the software to protect yourself from viruses and things like that) is like having protected sex. No matter how careful you are, eventually you catch something - that made me laugh. \n\nSecondly, you have to realise that people's standards (moral) are different. While in the modern society, it has been accepted that the younger unmarried society are indeed sexually active, parents will still try to instill to their children the importance of remaining pure before marriage (at least my parents tried - and failed miserably).\n\nMy third point, once it happens, it's a bit difficult to go back. Not only because of the hymen breaking - I also understand that can be fixed by surgery. But something in you will be awakened, and you WILL desire it. (hoping that the first experience will be good). \n\nDon't loose your virginity because you think you have to. I lost mine because I thought it was a burden at the time. You have the maturity at least to judge when would be the right time, you're not a teenager and hopefully not easily fooled. I admire you, really, there is nothing wrong with you.
314044
Virginity is as the most precious gift you have to give, so it should be highly valued.  Think about it: It is the only thing about you that you can give away just once.  So you should be extremely particular about that.  I wish now at 39 that I had been more particular when I ws 20!
594876
Your asking quite a lot of questions on this subject, there is not a problem if you want to do it, carry on have fun, i do it regular as well as have sex and i'm 56, done me no harm.
1167630
No but it will cause your sperm count to dramatically decrease, causing no ejaculation, which in turn as you grow older and you won't have normal kids. You know they will be like you. lol
113060
I am still a virgin, because I am not married. It annoys me so much that people now think that marriage is an option before having sex.
1066654
Wow, if someone actually waited til their thirties now a days, I'd respect them imensely. I honestly don't know if it'd be better or worse. "Down there" would still be a treat because you'd be thirty and still tight. And I don't think it really matters how old you are, your first time is always a thrill. :-)
654589
I've only had sex twice at age 31.But I'm a guy I think a lot of girls like a guy with expirience that's why it is such a big turn off. Some girls will say that sweet or I wish I had waited.But deep down inside it turns them off either they feel guilty or they want a man who know just what to do. As for my own preferance I wouldn't say it's a turn off if a woman was a virgin at 26. But I would say a woman with more expirience is far more interesting to me.
1075463
non virgin but act like a virgin ..
379159
Don't feel bad, hey. It's not the most appealing thing as a girl wants to feel like she has someone who knows what they are doing. What you need to do then, is spend all your time making it good for her and be willing and you will be fine. I slept with a guy who was a virgin and he was 24. I got over the fact he was a virgin cos I thought he was the most hottest guy I had ever been with and I loved his personality. What killed it a bit though, is he was pretty nervous which is understandable, but he wanted me to do everything. Just act confident, and if the chick knows you are a virgin she will understand it will get better and better. If you have casual sex, lie and say you aren't a virgin. Be confident, and she'll be none the wiser. Be honest if you are actually going out with someone. Don't worry matey, it wouldn't turn me off you.
474643
I waited until I was married (when I was 27) - and wow was it worth it!\n\nBut unfortunately (in my opinion) too many people are engaging in sexual activity at a younger age - I'd be surprised (by hey I am old) if it was lower than 14.\n\nThis has been linked to the rise of sexual transmitted diseases, abortions and loss of fertility (due to chlamydia).  I also believe (from friends who work in counselling) that it has a knock-on effect on people's self-esteem.  But I'm sure people will rubbish me.\n\nThe real question isn't "is this the norm" but "what is the best".
1152542
Yes I was.  I was a virgin until I was 22.  I don't regret waiting at all.  But I wait because I wasnt ready to have sex with anyone that I had met prior to that point.
278533
There are a few... though for me, the biggest would be, losing virginity to someone who is not my spouse. Part of the whole wedding night experience is finally being able to strip away one's virginity to one's soul-mate. Then of course, for the other negatives, there is: unwanted pregnancy, STDs, HIV/AIDS, loss of intimacy/trust if that relationship goes sour, guilt, shame, and a host of emotional stresses. You owe it to yourself, and your future spouse to wait. It's not as hard as most people think nowadays. It's takes patience and commitment.\nGood luck.
1105306
It's a good thing, and not just for how your future husband may or may not feel about it. The fact that you also recognize the dignity aspect speaks well for you. There is also a trend in SOME females to become more cynical about sex when they have given their virginity too early. Instead of being able to enjoy and fully realize the true emotions of making love, for many it's just sex. Which is much the same as a banana split JUST being ice cream. There is so much more to making love than just sex... sad that for many those bonds aren't there..... Good luck!!
442696
Hey there!\n\nTo answer your question, no, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at 27.. infact, contrary to popular belief there's everything right with it. you know, your virginity represents your innocence, and it's the best gift you can give to your spouse when u eventually marry. i know a lot of people have different opinions about this, but the truth is, sex is a sacred thing, and shouldnt just be done with just anyone whenever one feels like it. God created it, and made it in the context of marriage.. not out of it.\n\nso, dear, if you're 27, and not married, and you're a virgin.. rejoice! at that age, probably more than 8 out of 10 people aint virgins anymore...  And you'll see.. when u do get married, your spouse will treasure that gift of innocence you've given them.. and so, treasure you.\n\nGood luck!!
419490
I'm 43 and i found that i lasted longer because i'm more in tune with my body. It helps to be with the right partner someone you have feelings for. I can't just have proper sex with people i don't really know anymore. What i found that effected my performance where: alcohol, smoking, guilt, worries, nervousness and depresion. I had to clear the reckage of my past and get in touch with myself. The calmer and peaseful my life is, the better my sex life is. I hope this helps you and good luck.