have apathy is a sing of depression & could you tell me how to help my friend?
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Get them to realise the joys of life. \nThere's only a limited time slot for her to enjoy it.
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Well from personal experience, be a good listener for them.  Encourage them to talk to you or anyone that they can trust about what is bothering them.  Above all don't let them fall through the cracks.  Encourage them to keep doing the things that they need to like go to work if they have a job or go to class if they are in school.  If they stop doing these things, matters will only get worse.  For example, if they get fired because they haven't been going to work that will add to their depression because then they feel like they are worthless, so to speak.
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IF you really wanted to know ?\n\nI lost a friend a long time ago.\n\nA female friend of mine.\n\nWE were classmates.\n\nDuring the school vaction. She went on holiday with a parents in malaysia.During the bus trip there, she took a nap and never woke up. The doctors found she had died in her sleep. SHe died!!! SHe had a hole in her heart.I lost a friend that day, i never forgotton her.\n\nI am sharing with you this because i want yuou to treasure your friends. DO try to understand them. There is a reason behind all of it.Do not try to feel angry but try to find a sloution behind it. k. INvite them to your house to hang out and do something that all 3 of you like then you can start it again.\n\nDont lose your friends.\n\nTake Care.
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When depression strikes, the depressed person isn't the only one affected. Everyone around them -- family, friends, and co-workers -- feels the impact.\n\nHelping a loved one cope with depression can be key to his or her recovery. But it isn't always going to be easy. Here are some tips.\n\n\n\nGet the facts. The first thing you should do is learn more about depression. Read up on its causes and treatments.\n\n\nGet other people involved. You can't do this alone. Your friend or loved one may want you to keep his or her depression a secret. But that isn't healthy. It puts far too much pressure on you. So try to get a small circle of family and friends to help. That way, you can help look after your loved one together.\n\n\nAsk what your loved one needs. Be direct. Unless you ask, you just won't know what your friend or loved one wants from you.\n\n\nDon't try to solve the problem on your own. Your loved one needs professional help to get better. Depression is a real illness. You wouldn't try to cure a friend's diabetes on your own. You shouldn't try curing depression either.\n\n\nOffer to help with the practical things. People who are depressed are easily overwhelmed. Everyday stuff -- dressing the kids for school, grocery shopping, or laundry -- may feel like too much. So pitch in. Sometimes practical help can make a big difference.\n\n\nTake time for yourself. Taking care of someone who is depressed can be overwhelming. So it's key that you set aside time for yourself. Do things that you enjoy. Get out of the house on a regular basis. Take walks or go to the gym. Catch a movie or dinner with friends.\n\nGiven what your loved one is going through, you may feel guilty or selfish for thinking about yourself. But taking care of yourself is crucial. If you don't, you'll burn out -- and that won't help either of you.\n\n\nKnow your limits. There is a lot you can do to help your loved one. But you can't do everything. You can't make your loved one well. You can't watch him or her 24 hours a day. These things aren't in your power. In the end, your loved one has to want to get better, too.\n\n\nTake threats seriously. Suicide is a very real risk of depression. If your friend or loved is threatening to commit suicide, take action. Don't leave the person alone. Remove any weapons or large amounts of medication. Call a suicide hotline or your loved one's therapist. In a crisis, don't hesitate to call emergency services. You can't keep something this serious a secret.\n\n\nI hope that helps, all the best to you and your gf!I went through a bout of depression, but didn't really tell my friends: I knew that they would say 'just cheer up!' or 'just don;t think about it' or 'snap out of it'... Those are actually the worst things you can say to someone who is depressed, as it makes them feel even worse that they cannot make themselves 'snap out of it'. I would advise you just to be there for her to talk to and do things with... and don't give up on her!
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IT'S VERY EASY FOR SOMEONE TO TELL YOU TO LIVE YOUR LIFE AND WATCH MOVIES TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. THE TRUTH IS WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU THAT, THEY DON'T CARE AND DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED WITH YOUR SITUATION. IT'S REALLY HARD TO SAY HOW TO GET OVER DEPRESSION,BECAUSE ITS LIKE CANCER VERY DEADLY.MY BEST ANSWER TO YOU IS, TALK TO GOD AND BELIEVE IN HIM THAT HE WILL HELP YOU. NOTHING NOR NO-ONE IS TOO MUCH OR POWERFUL FOR HIM.GOD CAN HEAL ALL THINGS,ALONG WITH DEPRESSION. ASK HIM TO LIFT THAT FROM YOUR BODY,MIND,AND SOUL,AND YOU WILL BE HEALED. TRUST HIM AND ONLY HIM AND HE WILL MAKE A WAY.
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We are all victimised...\n\nI love those answers from pseudo-psychologists who say they need more info to be able to help you! LOL\n\nHow the hell can you help someone that is obviously feeling down and depressed,,, you will supply them with bullshit psychobabble that you've learnt through your "life-experience" that will probably add to their psychoses...\n\nListen mate,,, go to your doctor.. they know you best and also know how to help... if not... talk to a mate at least... but DO NOT rely on amateurs on Yahoo Answers
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Pray......ask someone to pray with you.........i'll say a prayer for you!\n\nOtherwise.....get together with some positive and uplifting friends.....go do something fun......\n\ndo something good for someone else.......its odd how that will boost your spirits........\n\nsmile at someone!\n\nif it gets too bad.....see your doctor about a possible antidepressant to get you through a slump......or maybe a counselor to help you resolve whatever is making you so unhappy\n\nMay God bless you with His love and happiness!
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It sounds like your friend is depressed! I would suggest that you help her find a religious counselor or someone that she can trust who does professional counseling. Once she has addressed her depression, have her go to legal aid, and see what her rights as a single mother of 2 who has been deserted so her husband (and the father of her children) can pursue an adulterous relationship and how much she is entitled to get legally. \n\nShe may need to join a support group for single mothers, she can learn from others in her own situation. She will get the answers to many questions, there will be others there that will teach her that she MUST attend to basic needs BEFORE she considers tuition to a private school. The money must go for household expenses and bills and food. Then whatever extras that can be afforded (while still trying to hold on to some "emergency money"). There should be health insurance for both of the children and her too, and that can be negotiated in the divorce settlement. If the man is rich, then she should be in good shape once she begins to get her full support and alimony payments, and she learns how to budget her money. \n\nPlease do not be too critical of her failure to be able to pursue her education with enthusiasm right now. Your friend may be in some real trouble emotionally. She may need to talk to someone who deals with people who are depressed.\n\nGood luck, and remember if your friend needs inspiration sometimes the best place to find it is in faith! Learning to trust in herself and to believe that she can do what needs to be done, is something that you cannot buy for her. I believe if you are a good friend, you can help her find the right path, you cannot do it for her though. When you do things for her, she does not have to do them for herself.\n\nGood luck, and my prayers for you and your friend. She does have 2 excellent reasons to live and to heal her broken heart and bruised feelings! Plus she is really blessed to a good friend like you! I am sure that means a lot to both her and her kids too!\nruthie~
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well i cant exotically,say,i know how you feel,..but,Ive been and threw going threw a depression,.i feel like i cant do nothing right,.and when i try i get minimized back feel me,.but what Ive been trying to find my self ,..by,..xploring my talents i didn't know i had,let to re leave my stress or sadness,Ive,...tarted drawing,..and now,i draw scenes of how i feel,and Ive experienced now with poetry,..and rhymes,...and now i can put a barrier on whats how i feel and how I'm supposed react and cope,..it all depends how you deal with it,..its only up 2 you hope to cope,..i personally am 21,..and i just did a year in jail,..because i couldn't deal with my depression,..and hung my self on a public bridge got lock up, 4 public disturbance and breech of peace,..so that's a bad example,of how not 2 let it get the best of you so,you need to go explore your self,..remember  time in life that Mae you feel safe and Happy,.and let you mind drift ,,..and don't yous it as longing 4 the past but,..a me-er reminiscing,..to alleviate you stress,..try to associate,with peeps that gonna up lit you ma truss,..cuz you don't want any friend that's gonna make you feel ls then a woman,..you need love from your family,friends,ma bey try dating,..and try not dwell on the sorrow, pre-occupied your time with some thing new,..and make sure he,..treat you like a Queen cuz you been threw alot,..you don't need no more drama,..and if need some1 2 holla at to talk I'm here,..I'm onyx,....  only1pain@yahoo.com
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Maybe your friend is trying to reach out to you because he or she feels bad.  It is possible that the friend is depressed and needs someone to talk with.  Ask if your friend is feeling okay.  Maybe your friend needs to see a therapist to see if he or she is suicidal.  Please make sure your friend gets some help just in case.
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Depression is like a downward spiral where the person cannot stop thinking in a negative pattern, this feeds on itself and can become crippling to the point where the person can hardly function.\nTelling the person what they need to do will normally not help, in fact it sometimes makes the problem worse because they may feel that blame is being added (like it's their fault they are feeling this way).\nPersonally, I would do my best to be a good listener, remind them of their good qualities and encourage them by mentioning some positive things through the conversation.  They won't get better overnight, it will take some time and a number of talks.
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If someone is suicidal or/and depressed LISTEN TO THEM. Do not tell them it is all in there minds. Don't say that there lives are so much better than everyone elses.\nDo not ignore them. listen and take them seriously.\n\nYou humans have a lot to learn...
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My son, who is age 16, didn't go as far as your friend did. He just recently got out of a special hospital here that deals with this type of situation. I honestly know how you feel, but mine goes deeper because it was my son. His depression started when he lost his best friend to suicide, and I've been helping him try to cope with this, it happened in March. Then, the next thing I knew, we went for a regular checkup at the doctor's office. And then I heard him say he tried to cut his hand off when he was at his dad's house, but a neighbor stopped him. That's when the doctor put him in the hospital. Now, he is on medication to deal with his depression. We both get counseling together with a therapist and separately we see different psychiatrists to help us both cope with everything. You don't say exactly how you caused him to flip out and get depressed again. But, I have learned that I wasn't the blame for my sons actions. I felt that it was my fault, that I had said the wrong thing to make him upset. He was depressed from not only his best friend committing suicide, he was getting pressure to do things from friends his age, alot of things was building up inside his mind that he couldn't cope with the world around him. Your friend may have already had problems built up inside that whatever you said may have just triggered past emotions. Not what you had said in that moment of time. You mentioned that everyone cuts ourselves, I'm sure that you meant that when we peel potatoes or apples, that sometimes we may cut our finger by accident. We don't purposely do it. The best advice I can give you is to stand by your friend because he needs all the support you can give him. I'm sure the doctors will give him medication to help his depression. It may take time for the meds to work, but you seem to like your friend very much. Even if you can go to a support group, which several places have free support groups to help cope with your friends depression and it may help you understand that it isn't your fault. Good Luck and if you need to talk to someone, you can get to my email by clicking my name. The email address is hidden.
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I agree with you, I also know how you feel. I used to be a cutter because of my depression but i have found better ways of dealing with the pain and sorrow. Write poetry or listen to music, try to go hang out with your friends and have a good time with them. Just keep moving on and remember that its his loss and your a strong woman/girl/lady ( i don't know how only you are so yeah.) I hope this helped.
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Please...I dont suffer from depression, but my boyfriend does....I want to know how to help him...any kind of tips or advice is appriciated...
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It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
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If you have a history of depression, you may want to consult your doctor, but if you're just having a down day, get in your comfiest pj's, grab a nice blankey and a box of kleenex, and cry it out honey!\nFeel better! =D