Currently married 3 yrs, new wife has kids.  Divorce xwife does not know?
548960
Interesting you could keep the news away for three years, but better late then never. When they find out from some one else, would your kids love you or hate you, would they trust you? So do it like maybe yesterday. Explain your fears for not coming out in the open before this. Apologize and make amends\n\nAll da best!\nts
767424
That is just an excuse.  A good parent will see thier children regardless of the reasons for the divorce.  It is just an excuse to not be responsible, which way to many parents do!  I wouldnt care if i got yelled at, called names or anything my kids are first and i would put up with whatever i had to in order to be with them!
315198
I have shared custody with my exhusband with our sons.  I can tell you right now that as long as he pays child support and its in their court papers she will have to let him visit with his kids.  She cannot deny his rights no matter how much she wants to.  There is a thing he needs to know about called father's rights.  There is an organization for the rights of fathers.  With my situation my exhusband shares custody and we have always talked about it with our kids because they are involved with this too.  There is something he can do too because i could not keep my exhusband from seeing his sons.  Of course now he chooses not to see his sons because of his retarded alcoholic girlfriend.  Sometimes if you step back and let things happen the way they do it works out better than what you think.  The more he argues with her the worse off she will become.  My advice do like i did let the courts handle it dont fight the decision and let things take its course.  Also keep in mind that since he is still married and he is living with you that can count against him.  I hate to say that but its true.  She can hold that against him in court.  I know about all of this my exhusband was not allowed to live with his girlfriend until after our divorce.  In the divorce is where all things should be stipulated and rules set forth.  If he pays childsupport she will have to let him visit with his sons no matter what.  Don't let it stress you to the point it gets out of hand she is using the kids as stomping ground for him.  She is mad because he has decided to move on without her see what i mean?  After awhile things will work itself out.  I promise on that one.
113311
It is a matter of public records . . . all you need to do is find out which county they filed for divorce in . . .
436816
Stop jumping half-cocked.  Did you push your husband to have an arguement with her . . . because it sounds like something a woman would do . . . fight with an ex- when they had a semi-descent relationship especially with the kids.\n\nBy having you husband confronting her . . . (on your behest) . . . she turned it that you two don't love his kids, whom she has major custody of.  I know it is untrue . . . but that it what it does look like by doing that . . . both to his kids and to the neighborhood.\n\nYou gave yourselves the black eye . . . \n\nWhat to do . . . live and let live . . . do not get overly involved with her . . . but since his kids are closer . . . maybe it is time for him to take a more active role with his children lives . . . . use the opportunity to repair the damage you both just did.\n\nShe could have thought . . . If I move closer to the children's father . . . maybe he will be more willing to see them . . . apparently not . . . with your reactions.  \n\nSelfish.
1050776
(A friend huh? )  Why is it that when ever someone on this site wants a "quickie divorce",or wants to break up with someone,the first thing they say is: "It's not me-it's for a friend?"\n\n(1) First of all,why waste your time trying to get answers to your friends problems? Is he/she not capable of taking care of this him/herself?\n( 2) Do you think people on this site are able to determine why this marriage should end,without details?\n(3) Stop Lying!-Your the one who wants the " Quicky divorce" (wink,wink!). You probably got married just as quick,and as a matter of fact,you probably do "everything" quick (wink,wink). (Anyway) stop trying to do everything so "Quickly". Pay the cost to end the marriage,or prove to the Lawyers,that YOUR WIFE is capable of footing the bill!. \n\n(PS) Just to let you know,there is no such thing as "breaking away clean",from a divorce. Everyone will pay,suffer,or whatever in the long run. Don't forget about Alimony,and paying any bills she has accumulated over the years. Good thing there's no kids involved. (Good luck)
924786
I am dating a woman who has kids also from a marriage. If she really loves you and is comfortable with who she is, she will explain and defend her life choices to her children no matter how difficult. I understand that could be very difficult for her, but she must make an important decision. If she isn't strong enough to live this life, she might consider living a different one.\n\nAs for yourself, you should decide how much you are willing to deal with this. If it continues this way, I am sure you will reach your limit soon. Your hurt will grow and grow and grow until one day you will say you cannot take it anymore! Take it from me, I have been there!!\n\nHave some serious discussions and trust your heart!
755041
=you did not say if children were involved.  I assume NOT.  How can you possibly say that you are satisfied with your wife?  Shame on you.  Either work it out with your lovely wife or get a divorce and set her free.  If this is for real you both need to move on.  God bless both of you.
332464
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
911941
As long as your new husband is not abusing the kids, everything should be fine.  Just give the kids some time to get to know him.\nMom of B & D
981744
They need to question the spouse - you should expect that! There is no way for them to know you are not involved until you talk to them. Just be completely honest and everything will be fine. If you really aren't involved and didn't know about it, they'll see that. Don't worry!
697096
Now yours is a typical Indian case. You are unable to decide if you want to give her divorce or not. As far kids are concerned you have to explain them what you are looking forward i.e. divorce from their mother. How good are your kids relation with their mother this is also important to see. after your divorce who will keep the  kids i.e their custody has also to be decided. After or even during the pend ency of the divorce/judicial separation petition you will have to provide your wife & kids with maintenance the amount as decided by the court. These are all the points which are related to the matrimonial disputes. Even though you are not having any physical relation since 8 years & you can take it as a ground of desertion along with cruelty but this will allow you with judicial separation under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 & you have to wait for 1year after getting the decree of judicial separation to apply for decree of divorce. All these procedures will take many years by the time you ultimately get divorce you will be crossing 50years of your life. Keep all these things in mind before you take any action.
286723
Yes because he did not represent you or did your paperwork for your divorce.  If her current husband is a judge, that would be a different story.
1071635
She can especially if she never tells them she is the ex now.  Now if they are for children you will have a hard time with that unless you have it stated in the divorce decree that you are not responsible for medical bills.  But if she is charges doctor bills of her own, you can get those change into her name (but you will probably need to show them a copy of the divorce decree).
1106675
I watched another woman and my (ex) husband break up my marriage. She tried to control and manipulate my kids, as well as my in-laws. After our divorce,they got married. As the years went by, my kids began to hate their step mother, and realized what I had said about their step mother were true. I ran into my ex-husbands wife after she went on vacation (without my ex). She told me that she wished she hadn't have came back, and also wished she never married my ex. From what my kids say, my ex is miserable with his wife. They've been married for 18 yrs. He won't divorce her 'cuz he knows she'll take him for everything he's got. She's told the kids that if she divorces their dad, she'll take him for everything he has.  Karma is a wonderful thing!
617050
i think she is married, not sure bout the kid though
1006768
Absolutely not but it depends on what effects you anticipate the kids having because that's all up to how you handle to breakup and divorce in the first place.  If you and your husband are constantly fighting or your constantly miserable your kids already know that are are already being affected by it.  If you can't work things out and divorce is the only option then try as best you can to let the kids know that it has nothing to do with them but you understand that the consequences of your decision will effect them and your hoping to make that as easy on them as possible.  I was lucky.  My ex and I were able to salvage the respect we'd had for each other in such a way that we do share the kids and the kids don't feel torn.  It took time but now he and I are even able to enjoy each other's company now like we'd lost the ability to before the divorce.  We're no longer lovers, or in love, but we worked hard to retain some of the friendship we shared and our kids know and appreciate that.  NUMBER 1 RULE:  At all cost try not to belittle their father in front of them.  NUMBER 2 RULE:  Don't compare them to their father when they've done something you don't approve of.  Last, if at all possible, get your husband to go with you to discuss the terms of divorce and agreements regarding the kids with a counselor or mediator rather than a lawyer.  Then when it reaches the point of going to court you can both tell your lawyers this is what we want.  Don't let them play one against the other as they are prone to do.