Whom should u marry:the one u love,or the one who loves u,when love is not reciprocal?
540960
Optimally, neither.  But if I were forced to choose, I'd pick the one who loved me.  I'd be less likely to be taken advantage of.
218355
I think we are in love with both.  You fall in love with a person because he has the potential to make you happy and loved.  You will never be sure if he can pull it off though and that's where the leap of faith enters the picture.
884444
I believe that either of them is good. People should avoid emphasis on forcing it on a particular gender to propose to the other one. The bottom line is for the proposing to be done and a relationship deeply rooted in love be established - regardless of which of them started it.
633818
Hard question because we love someone for different reasons. ..........
151079
The one who loves her more than she loves him.  He will stay with her and most likely will not cheat on her.
198250
BOTH!   HOW?\nwhy not marry someone who won't mind u following ur dream?\nor marry someone with the same ambition to help!\nCongratulations!
540317
He is the One: only your heart can tell you, usually there is no question. In other words, when it happens you will know.\n\nGet Married: a whole different ball game. You get married if he has his own finances, is qualified for something, doesn't have idiotic habits that will only have you gritting your teeth / dying of lonliness / frustration later...etc....etc...\n\nYou can marry someone who is *not* "the one" and still have a great marriage. But God help you if marry "the one" and he is an idiot.\n\nThis thunderbolt blitz which happens with "the right one" has absolutely *nothing* to do with the happiness or success of the marriage.\n\nMarriage is for: long-term, happiness, companionship, intellectual compatibility, financial comfort, raising children, doing things together without it having to be a big ordeal.\n\nThe Blitz: well - if the guy who gives you that feeling is suitable for marrying, go for it. If he doesn't qualify for the marriage criteria, then live with it...heaven doesn't "make" the union of 2 ppl, logistics do.
278510
i think love is better for marriage,no one can tell you to love someone in an arranged marriage,you are put with who your parents think best,but you need to really love the person to make it work,not just tolerate or stay for money. this is my opinion,i am from USA robin
1171389
i would say love marriage. because you get to know the person before you actually fall in love and then married them. \nArranged marriage you are stuck getting married to someone that you dont even know.
1123866
I chose my spouse based on other criteria and, while we are diametrically opposed on the issue, I still love her for who she is and for all the reasons I chose to marry her.  She is an individual who is entitled to her opinion and she has her logical reasons for her view as I do for mine and I respect that.  We agree to disagree.
91331
i would rather be loved by the one i love..in any case love is great ;D
886615
Unconditional love is just that, unconditional.   Whether she ever returns the feelings or not isn't a concern.   If you love someone... then love them, regardless.
266557
If someone asks you to marry them, you had better be in love before you accept. And if you Do love this person, and that person loves you, you have no need to change each other. You accept each other for who, and what, you are.  Now, after you marry, either of you might change  in some ways that might cause  discomfort in a relationship. And that needs to be worked out. But don't try to force change on each other, It will not work.
470645
Well my fiance has always told me this and its so true, the person you marry should be your best friend. When everything starts to go wrong, with bills and work and all the stress of life, your best friend will be there. My fiance is my best friend, I can open up to him about anything, he knows every aspect of my life, past and presently. Marry the person that is your very best friend, I promise you it's going to make for a  better relationship.
590607
Enjoys the one who wanted this relationship more\nthan the other :)
209018
you can love someone and not be in love with them, but you can't be in love with them and not love them . You love a person for what they are , you fall in love with a person for who they are.
204910
the one whom i love...because i can't love someone whom i can't really.....