Anybody ever plan an "accidental" situation in which you would run into an ex, just to testt he waters?
538191
I've done this, did it a couple of times, actually... Never worked.\n\nI did have one friend who kept doing it to one of her ex's. However, she would constantly sleep with him again, and then assume the relationship was back on. Don't get me wrong, he's a good guy, but he's not going to turn down sex, especially since he didn't know what was going on through her head. If he did, he never would have slept with her. \n\nNow, if you're not in communication with the ex, and you try this, keep in mind that you may not like what you see. That happened to me, and I'm not proud to say that I crawled into a bottle immediately afterwards. \n\nBut hey, it can be interesting, so why not try it! Just bring along a friend to share in your joy or pain. And let them drive.
663114
I promised this guy friend of mine that I would take him on a picnic.  He's a bit of an odd duck and I didn't know him very well when we jokingly talked about a picnic, and the next thing I know, we're seeing more of each other and now it's a promise, but I keep blowing it off or coming up with some excuse...and then he died.  \n\nI'm going to find out where his ashes are and go have a picnic with him there.
1083320
I would almost be tempted to open myself a new account,therefore avoiding him altogether. O.o
713164
Erm...ask him instead?
419843
I saw a guy do it about a month ago while I was sitting on a bench outside the mall with a little old lady.  She turned to me and said she was going to go home and try it.  I always wonder if she did.
755002
Yes - unfortunately, I have.\n\nI tend to get obsessed with women I can't have and I can't figure out how to back out of the situation gracefully. Unfortunately, this means that I end up getting embarrassed, and getting my feelings hurt.
907902
Yes. I have. For instance there was this guy that I really liked ( i knew him)  who had moved away for college and I started flirting with his sister instead. The whole time I pretended she was him I don't know why. But I did.
1101875
Yes i sure would and i would give him another chance.. I would date and hit on him big time lol.... This is not stupid at all. You also can go to http://www.marriagetoday.org that is a great site and also http://www.crown.org and they are a great help for finances and things like that.... Hope this helps you some and i hope and pray that someday you and your ex can reconcile your differences and rekindle your love and marry again! I love it!!! You go girl:) I am so happy for you and for him... Wish more people were like this. We all could learn from you!
37913
I've had times when i've wanted to go out with someone and i really didn;t think it was going to happen. Take my x bf for example- i had a huge crush on him and always thought he was too far from my reach, then we hooked up. All i'm saying is anything is possible. it could work but both of you have to be willing to put in your part 'cuz a relationship is made of two.
235473
Why would you waste precious time trying to prove something to someone who is a ex? I would have to guess if your trying to do this you still have feelings for him...K
348218
i've had my share of moments like this.  Just pretend it never happened and see how he acts.  if he is intrested, he WILL make a move.  If he is NOT, then he won't.  but if it was me, i would just pretend like nothing happened, and see how he acts.
573647
I CAN.....CANT SAY FOR THE REST...DID U EVER TRY OUT BEFORE ASKING??
862795
Sounds like you want to use the other guy to get back at your ex.\nWell here is what i think. You ex is going to think that you are crazy. He may think that you hooked up with the guy just so you could be close to him. Do what you think is best hun. I think that until things cool down you have to stay away from the ex. Even if you want him back you do not have to come off as looking desperate and crazy.
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yyeeeeeeeeeaaaa\nim in the same situation baby!!!\ni sneek around w/ him..i find it kindda exciting...\nlol\nlike wen i sneek out to meet him, and i come back home..its a lil rush thinking omfg am i gonna get caught???\nand wen i dont..im like oohh yea baby lets do it again lol
874284
This happened to me one time.  A co worker seemed really interested in me and he started asking me personal questions.  I got the hint and told him I was already involved, then he said "Hold on baby girl, you got me all wrong...."  I felt like a fool to have thought he was making advances toward me, but I still believe that was his true intention no matter what his explanation was.  I think he was trying to save himself the embarrassment so he tried to make ME look like the fool (in which he did).  I just shrugged off the whole situation.  We still talked a little, but not much.  And eventually communication just completely taperred off.  I still don't appreciate how he tried to make me look stupid, but I knew what he was doing.
1031963
How about a bad break up story? \n\nI was waiting for my b/f to bring me my boom box to teach a dance class. He was supposed to be there by 8pm. We waited and waited for him. At 2am when the place closed, I walked out with my students and friends to find a note on my car. He said that he had waited for me but since I didn't come out (like I was supposed to know he was outside!), he had to leave a note. What it came down to was that he was a coward and couldn't break up face to face and in front of my friends. \n\nAnyway, after telling me that afternoon that he loved me, he told me in the note that it wasn't working out........what a loser! I am better off without him!
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falling for someone who was out to hurt me