Does anyone experience or know about  Borderline Personality Disorder?
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) includes a pattern unstable relationships, impulsiviity, and problems with self-image and emotion. You may engage in several behaviors or experience different emotions, including:\n* Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment\n* Pattern of unstable and intense relationships\n* Identity disturbance and unstable self-image \n* Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (spending, sex, reckless driving, etc)\n* Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior\n* Emotional instability \n* Chronic feelings of emptiness\n* Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger\n* Occassional stress-related paranoia or dissociative symptoms\n\nOf the people with Borderline Personality Disorder that I have met and worked with, I have noticed a couple of other behaviors, not included above, such as attention-seeking, catastrophizing, self-sustaining depression, and drug/alcohol abuse. \nPersonality Disorders are rarely diagnosed alone, usually there is also depression, bipolar, anxiety, or psychotic disorders present. Medication doesn't really help with BPD, because it is due to how you perceive and behave. If medication is prescribed, it is for the disorders listed above. \nDialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is designed specifically for the treatment of BPD. \n"Clients receiving DBT were significantly less likely to drop out of therapy, were significantly less likely to engage in parasuicide, reported significantly fewer parasuicial behaviors and, when engaging in parasuicidal behaviors, had less medically severe behaviors. Further, clients receiving DBT were less likely to be hospitalized, had fewer days in hospital, and had higher scores on global and social adjustment."
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Assuming you mean OCPD and not OCD (as they are distinct diagnoses), there is no real treatment for the personality disorder, however your specialist should be able to advise you on how to deal with the effects so that you are able to focus on overcoming your other problems and maintaining a healthy and happy life
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ok - first of all he needs to be in treatment if he isn't.  if he doesn't start getting help - leave him.  and when he tells you he'll kill himself if you do - tell his parents that you are breaking up with him and he is threatening suicide.  i spent years dealing with people with BPD - they can be the most engaging and the most infuriating people you will ever meet.  take care of you.  you need to protect you.  borderlines will suck you dry and leave you an emotional wreck.  you might also want to see a counselor and deal with this in there.  you are right - with borderlines you are either good or bad and if they continue to manipulate with their threats and emotional drama - you will be the loser.  not them.
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Try reading a bit on both Dependent Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder; along with Anxiety Disorders as these (the varied anxiety disorders) address irrational beliefs/fears.    Your question, based upon what you wrote afterwards, sounds less about "creating fear" and more about "filling a void...a hole in our soul" so to speak.  We need to learn to tackle our fears in ways that are not destructive to ourselves or others, facing them, journaling about them, talking to someone we trust and feel very safe with.  A direct answer to the question you posed, in my opinion, would be, "Yes.  We can obsess over our fears of impending doom or losing someone, etc.  That obsession can then immobilize us with overwhelming fear and anxiety."  Hope that helps.
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Therapy and medication if your therapist and you decide that is the route to go.  You are not alone in your diagnosis.  At least you know what the issue is, continue with therapy as long as you need to and don't feel bad for having BPD - it's nothing  you asked for, and nothing YOU can control.  God bless!!!!
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I know many people would be delighted to answer your question, but we need you to be more specific. What is your personal experience with whatever is troubling you, and what exactly are you talking about?
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Yeah I think I have a borderline attachment disorder! lol. I have commited in the past, it's just that I don't want to at the moment. I value my freedom and my life so much, that it would take someone very special for me to want to settle down and sacrifice all that.\n\nYou just have to be willing to make a few sacrifices, and able to drop the fear that goes along with commitment.\n\nGood luck :)
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As a schizophrenic I can only nod my head as I read your post and that of the others. There is a forum you might find very helpful...\n\nTo answer your question...yes. Right now. During an incident of violence. I am learning to deal with it, yes. Miles to go before i sleep. On some days the best I can do is simply zone and zone and zone...waking up briefly to places I know I am supposed to be...taking care of buisness with only a vague sense of being present. Trying to awaken from sleep sometimes is a horror show. It is at those times I can feel how little connected I am to me...and sometimes i cannot get through the grey suffocating cotton to get from sleep to awareness and I get trapped there and all I can do is struggle in terror and panic and then finally awaken to this dull grey world.\nBut every day is not like that...and every day does not suck. Medication slays me...Ihave schizophrenia and bi-polar mixed into one disease...believe me I have tried medication From Halidol and Cogentin to Risperidal and Zyprexa. I am medication free as of the last five years. I don;t take vitamins anymore. I take Chlorella and Spirulina...in capsule form (never tablets) and any kind of sea weed and/ or chlorophyl saturated capsules .\nI drink lots of water...I don't watch the news. I don't read newspapers. No caffeine, sugar, processed foods(sausages, cheese, candies) no soft drinks(the carbon dioxide wreaks havoc with your ability to digest foods.) and I drink everything at room temperature...nothing too hot or too cold. System goes into shock as soon as those extremes are introduced into it.\nThese things help me deal and as time goes on I feel badly less and less and the frequency with which I feel disconnected and out of my body whilst stuck in my body, lessen.\n\nThe therapy I use that has saved my life is Dialectic Behavioral Therapy. Originally created just for borderline personality disorder. It was later found to help people across all lines of disorders and Axis 1's. Rather than explain I will send you links.\n\nThe Chlorella and Spirulina are for energy during the day, and help me sleep at night. The DBT therapy is for my sanity...keeps me from going mad...and helps me begin the process of reintegration so I can meet myself one day and get to know me.\n\nFirst link is to the Depersonalization / Derealization Community Forums. Peace and blessings.
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Borderline Personality Disorder.\n\nIts symptoms are generally in the area of not being able to maintain healthy relationships with other people, to the point that jobs, friendships, romance, even family life is disrupted.  There are other symptoms you can look up online.  If you received this diagnosis, you should be working with a mental health professional.  There is treatment, but it does take time and commitment.  If you know someone with this disorder, do what you can to make sure he or she has professional help.
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No disorder. It is common, however, especially in certain personality disorders (especially borderline pesonality disorder).\n\nFeelings of affection towareds your therapist can fall into the category of "transference." This is where clients transfer onto the therapist emotions (good or bad) about another significant person in their life.\n\nIf you are having feelings for your therapist that are interfering with the therapy, you need to discuss it with your therapist. Nothing can legally come of your feelings, since it is illegal in the US for mental health professionals to have relationships with their clients outside of the therapy room.
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DID does exist.  However its not really like what you see in movies or on soap operas. . .\n\n"People with Dissociative Disorders may experience any of the following: depression, mood swings, suicidal tendencies, sleep disorders (insomnia, night terrors, and sleep walking), panic attacks and phobias (flashbacks, reactions to stimuli or "triggers"), alcohol and drug abuse, compulsions and rituals, psychotic-like symptoms (including auditory and visual hallucinations), and eating disorders. In addition, individuals with Dissociative Disorders can experience headaches, amnesias, time loss, trances, and "out of body experiences." Some people with Dissociative Disorders have a tendency toward self-persecution, self-sabotage, and even violence (both self-inflicted and outwardly directed). "
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I have the most severe form of Bipolar and have been on lithium consistently for the last 18+ years.  The latest reading I've done says the therapeutic level is 0.6 to 1.0.  There are so many factors that can affect what your level is at any one time:  illness, increased activity, heat, pregnancy, among others.  It's a very narrow range so you need to have your blood tested regularly--and ask the doctor for the reading after each test--and keep track of it yourself.  Lithium does have side effects that aren't pleasant, but if you're aware of them you can prevent a major toxic reaction by alerting your doctor and stopping the med.  A lot of people say it doesn't work, but give it a chance.  You may need to work with your doctor to find the appropriate dosage.  It's not an overnight cure-all.  Bipolar disorder is a chemical imbalance in the brain and subject to every variable.\n\nYou need to read as much about the subject as you can.  Maybe a support group would help.  Have you checked out the possibility you may have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?  There are many similarities.\n\nYou need to have candid talks with your therapist.
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I think it's great that you are reaching out and I can tell you that there is nothing to be embarrased about.  BP disorder is a very serious mood disorder that effects nearly 3 Million Americans.  If left untreated, the disorder can be disabling and distressful to those who live with the afflicted.  There is a high suicide rate attached to those afflicted, where nearly 30% attempt suicide, compared to those with Major Depression at 12%.\n\nI'm 26 and have recently been diagnosed with BP.  I have it under control through an intensive medication management plan and psychotherapy.  I have two very good Dr's that I work with (Psychopharmacologist and Psychotherapist who specializes in CBT).\n\nThis may or may not apply to your condition, I am not a Dr and cannot diagnose.  But if you are BP, it's imperative that you get it treated because of the potential consequences.\n\nI didn't just wake up one day and decide I needed help, I got into a lot of trouble and put my friends and family through a lot of pain, especially over the last two years, where I experienced rampant manic episodes.  In addition, I was hospitalized twice for two suicide attempts.\n\nOne of the common effects of the disorder is substance abuse; where someone who feels manic will often ignore the consequences to their actions and engage in high risk behavior, with exagerated optimism and improved flight of creative thoughts and ideas, feeling authorotive, oftentimes verbose and overwhelming.  All the meanwhile, this person feels as if they are in their best mental state.\n\nI had three long years of hardcore drug abuse, putting my life at risk by sleeping around, experimenting/mixing drugs.  Half the time I was blacking out and who knows what I was pulling.\n\nIn the last 6 years, I've gone through 3 jobs, 3 girlfriends, 6 different apartments and proceeded to create and distroy more relationships than most people make in a life time.\n\nI don't know if you've gone through anything similar (I hope not) and if you are bipolar and start treatment now, you can avoid it.\n\nMy first recommendation would be see a Psychiatrist who specializes in mood disorders.  Oftentimes it's difficult to find a Dr. you are comfortable with on the first try.  You may have to interview 3 - 6 Dr's before you strap yourself in and start working the therapy.\n\nAfter you find a good Dr. work towards getting a firm diagnosis so you can get treated properly.  It's imperative that you do not get misdiagnosed with Unipolar Depression vs. Bipolar Disorder.  If you're misdiagnosed, the Dr. may prescribe an SSRI (common antidpressant) which is a NO-NO for those with BP and will make things worse, which is why it's more important that you find a Dr. that "specializes" in BP.\n\nIf you're having trouble finding a good Dr., refer to this link and take a shot.\n\nhttp://www.dbsalliance.org/referral/\n\nAfter that, I would spend as much time as possible educating yourself on the disease and treatment plans.  You're going to have to be an active participant in this process, as it's not as easy to treat a mental disorder as it is a bactereal infections.  It's important to understand why you are feeling a certain way, research it, communicate with your Dr. and understand why you are wired a certain way, so you can keep it under control.  I strongly recommend that after you get leveled out with the meds, you start participating in Psychotherapy.  Your Dr. will certainly be able to refer you to a good Psychologist and will work in tandum to assist you better in your treatment and containment of BP.\n\nHere are some good links for info on meds and BP\n\nhttp://www.dbsalliance.org/info/aboutmood.html\nhttp://www.crazymeds.org\n\nIf you are BP, maintaining the condition will be a life long process.  Better to getting aclimated sooner, which will make it much easier for the rest of your life.\n\nI wish you the best and please email
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Borderline Personality Disorder.  \n\nEver seen "Fatal Attraction" with Glenn Close and Michael Douglas?  The way she clings so tightly, then practically spits venom at him?  The fact that she became so intensely involved emotionally with him after such a short period of time?\n\nI suggest the movie as a good example of a person exhibiting the behavior.  A professor I had as an undergrad recommended it, and it really did paint a not-so-pretty picture of it.  And knowing so many folks with it has certainly given me some perspective on it.
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What a great question!  You have a way with words as you describe the situation that you're facing so well.  I couldn't have done it better myself.\n\nI'm 26 yrs old and have been diagnosed with BPII/BPD and have have major substance abuse problems.\n\nI can completely relate as I've been struggling with the same issue with my father and I appreciate you sharing this with us.  \n\nIt's difficult to have other people see you while you're dysphoric and at your weakest.  This is a time where you expect compassion and when you're parents don't only fail your expectations, but go completely against them, it can be very hurtful.\n\nWhen things blew up with me, I got my a$$ handed to me by my folkes, because my behavior was simply wearing them out.  With the drugs, the police, the hospital visits, I was becomming a huge source of stress and anxiety for them.  They never took the time to understand.  That made things a lot worse for me, I was sad to be in the house, but didn't have any where else to go at the time.\n\nI knew I needed help and I didn't want to be complacent, so I reserached treatment options myself, they wouldn't lift a finger.  The dynamic in the house was as if everyone was walking on eggshells.  It was very uncomfortable.  I was very hurt that I couldn't get the support I needed and built a very strong resentment towards them, I was ready to write them off.\n\nThe emotional pain and quality of living was getting worse, so I had to do something.  I reconnected with my Psychiatrist, got my meds straitened out and began attending Pyschotherapy, support groups and getting support from people outside my family.  For the last three months, I've worked really hard in regaining stregth and my sense of self and it's done wonders for me.\n\nJust recently, my father was talking to me about his best friends daughter, who is suffering with mental disorders and receiving therapy.  He went on to say, that she was extremely needy and fucI(ed in the head - which was his way of taking a shot at me, as he is fully aware I'm going through the same thing.  Next, he talked about quitting smoking and I told him about Zyban, he said that his mind is strong enough to quit addiction without meds - ohhhhh another shot to your son who is in recovery, taking meds no less.   A few months ago, I would have left the room in a fit or put him in his place right then and there.  \n\nSince I leveled my moods out and get support outside the house, I was feeling really good about myself and sat there calm and collected.  I thought about how I was going to respond, I know that he's old school, he didn't grow up in the information age, he thinks psychiatry is a pseudo science and associates looks at it with the stereotypical stigma attached to it.  I also thought that this was his house and I'm not going to lash out and cause any trouble.  That was the last thing I needed amongst the scheme of things.\n\nI responded quite calmly, "Why do you think she's needy?  Do you think she's faking it or that she's using it as an excuse for attention?"  He didn't respond with any logical type of answer and changed the subject, but I stuck with it.  Then I asked him, "I'm under intensive psychotherapy right now and take meds and it's helped me a great deal.  Do you think I'm needy as well?"  He said no, he actually said he noticed a difference in my behaviors and he was proud of me and knew that I was working hard to get better.\n\nI think he feels really guilty inside for going off on me.  I think deep down inside he was scared and didn't know how to deal with me.  I think my parents paniced and saw flaws in me that live inside them and their natural defense mechanism is to take it out on me.  It's the age old habit of self loathing.\n\n I'm still not over it and he knows that and I can see it in his eyes that he was sorry about what he&
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personality disorder and being bipolar are closer then most ppl think. With BP you have very Hi emotions for a few days (sometimes a few hours) and then crach in to a very dark depretion. A personality disorder is more like a social disorder.( I don t know much of it tho)More like being withdrwn due to Anti -Socializum  and having a pproblem showing true emotions and personality.It is a hi and low game also depending if ppl are around ,who thay are, and if you are by your self.Were BP is NE were and Every were you are.
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you know a lot of people answering your question probably don't really know what they are talking about, although some seem to be more informative. My answer to you is that it is hard to determine whether or not you have it just by your question. You definately show signs of it, the agression and mood swings and the fear of abandoment. However only a therapist can know for sure. I strongly encourage you to seek help and get answers to your questions by a professional. I hope that you get this taken care of and wish you all the luck in the world.