how do i get a woman to realize that i still love her as much as i did almost 34yr ago?
548168
make a list of all the things that you find so wonderful about her - maybe the way she smiles or the way she chops a tomato...and then write this list out in a nice handwriting (or use a nice computer font) and put it on a good quality paper...wrap it in a ribbon and give it to her with her favorite flowers/chocolate/wine...on any normal morning. She will believe you : )
164783
Do the things you did when you were first in love with this person.  Maybe something that you haven't done for years but have fond memories of doing when you were young and inl ove.  Whether it's dancing, enjoying a candlelit dinner, surprising him/her with flowers, or strolling along the beach, just try to show this person that the love and magic and chemistry you felt 25 years ago is still there, and even stronger.
492684
Ahhh, I`m the same way. You are blessed. Make her your friend. We have been married 35 years and we are best friends. I am so glad for you.. Good luck and God Bless,... {:-)\n\n<><\nHave fun. Life is short.. Be honest with each other and show each other the same respect for each other that you would anyone else..
696924
Before you talk of love, you need to get her into a romantic setting.  Her willingness to go with you into a romantic setting expresses her interest in you.  So invite her to a nice place for dinner, and talk of who you are, listen to who she is, take your time, and see what sort of reactions you are getting.  Talk of love only after you can tell from the way she is acting that she will not laugh at you.  \n\nDon't let the age difference bother you; it's not excessive.  A man of 30 is very close to at the peak of his powers, and a woman of 21 is almost exactly at the peak of hers.  So you two should make a terrific couple, with education and interests you share.  \n\nGood luck!
478191
GIVE HER A CHANCE SHE STILL CARES 4R U..OLD LOVE NEVER DIES
297786
There is no "simple" answer for this one because it's a complicated life issue. For example, there are two other concerns you (and your former lady, too) may have easily overlooked.\n\nOne, although opposites attract in trelationshipg, it is "like-minded" people who experience longevity. Meaning, unless a person is like you, at the core, too many differences will need to be overcome. Eventually such a relatinship finds its natural path toward separation.\n\nIt does not seem that you and your lady are actually and really, two "compatible" personalities.\n\nTwo, regardless of the above, it still stands to reason that it takes an "inwardly happy" person to be able to appreciate and share the happiness of someone else. That is, you attract only what you are inside.\n\nFor example, it seems that you showed your lady in the beginning that you were not completely happy with "yourself." Upon her seeing this, she decides that it is truly better to be without you.\n\nIf you really want to get her back, and keep her, and do it all "successfully and happily," you must enhance your own inner self-contentment.\n\nHow do you achieve that? It's your decision, but you must do it because your peace of mind depends upon it.\n\nOne suggestion is "self-talk." That is, asking yourself bottom-line questions about what truly makes you happy... and developing the courage to follow up, even when the answer is "not" a positive one.\n\nOne of the very best ways to "give" happiness, is to "be" a a truly happy person, satisfied both with your talents and your inadequacies, as well, but still content with peace of mind, no jealousy, no envy, no resentment, and especially, not feeling sorry for yourself.\n\nIt truly sounds like, at that time, you were just too self-absorbed with your own problems, to be able to really appreciate her and give yourself to her without reservation on your part.\n\nIt's never too late to be a better person. And, once she recognizes this quality in you, she will want you more.\n\nHopefully, she will still be available for you, once you arrive at this point. However, even if she is not, you can take such wisdom and peace with you, wherever you go, and it sill boost your relationship's happiness in almost any circumstances.\n\nHope you find this helpful.
754148
FIRST PLEASE USE LOWER CASE.\n\nMen don't focus on the past as relationships as much as women.  \nYou should focus on the "here and now" and not the "what if".\nHe chose to work things out and so did you.\nSo work on what will makes you two happier with each other and stop trying to drag him and yourself through the mud.\n\nNot every question should be answered, that's life.\n\nFYI, the more you ask about her the more he thinks about her, because you are forcing him to with your questions.  If you let it go she will become a memory and nothing more.
832676
you know her better than anyone. go get her, but your powerless if she has stopped loving you. :-(. what a sad situation for you, i hope it is all a mid life crisis and hope she comes to her senses and realises how much you miss her! good luck! if you know where she is write her a letter
331020
IT DOESN'T MEAN SHE DOESN,T LOVE YOU. SOMETIME WOMEN JUST LOOSE INTEREST, IT COULD BE A  HORMONAL THING. WHICH HAPPENS WHEN WOMEN GO THROUGH MENOPAUSAL. I HAVE BEEN IN THOSE SHOES. SOMETIMES PEOPLE DON'T HAVE AN EXPIATION JUST A FAZE IN THERE LIFE. JUST HANG ON..  GOOD LUCK..
1072610
Open the lines of communication with her. Start by listening to her more (not talking more). \n\nAsk her about her hopes and dreams, about what she thought her life would be like when she was your age, ask what she thinks her best qualities are and what she thinks your best qualities are, ask her about family traditions and stories. \n\nShow her that you love her, that you are invested in your relationship with her, that you take her/her words seriously, and that you're capable of thinking for yourself but can appreciate her wisdom. \n\nAfter a couple of weeks, hopefully she will begin to be more open with you and will start asking you questions in return, and then you can tell her about choices you've made, your feelings about those choices, and how you think they may impact your dreams/plans for the future. \n\nAlso, be willing to consider asking her for help in quitting smoking. There are few things that will make your adult life more difficult than being a smoker (tobacco costs are rising, few public places allow smoking, the smells associated with smoking are considered especially unattractive for women, the money you spend on tobacco supports corrupt politicians that make major decisions that hurt your life, it's harder/more expensive to get health and life insurance as a smoker, smoking increases your medical bills as it makes you more prone to upper respitory infections in winter and cancer in middle age, etc.)
1815
It kind of depends on what you were not able to compromise on and if you are willing to give it a try her way.  As far as try to get her back start doing little things for her.  It sounds like you still talk and you must have some idea what kind of things she like.  Surprise her make her feel like she is the best part of your life.  Good luck...
1024629
You won't unless you ask him.  You wouldn't want to be asking the same question in 30 years.  Believe when I tell you, it could go on for 30 years, I've been there.  Always to afraid to ask because I'm afraid he will say something I don't want to hear.  It's crazy.  Although, on my 30th birthday I had this big bash and he came alone because he knew that's what I wanted.  I got really wasted (it was birthday) and I got really bold and after 18 years (I met him when I was 11) I asked him had he been in love with me (past tense).  His response, suprisingly, was yes.  I asked why he never told me and he said because I thought you knew.  Long story short, I was engaged, he was engaged so we let it go.  We are still holding on the this "Friendship" maybe one day we'll get it right.  We keep looking back and not shutting the door.  I know after all this time, we need to stop coming in and out of each other's lives, but the lie we tell is "we're just friends"...\n\nDon't let this be you.  Find out now and if he doesn't feel the same way, you can go on with your life now and not look back.  \n\nI hope this helps.
1050440
You have to gain her trust. You have to show her you changed, not tell her. You have to consider her feelings. If she tells you top leave her alone, do it. Give her some time, and then get back to her.\n\nGoosd luck.
1013419
Yes I meant it. 12 years of a not so great marriage, but now it is better than ever. I am glad I have the commitment and morals that helped me hang on for 12 years to where things are better. You are a great guy don't sell yourself short for anyone. Keep your morals and you commitment, you may not know it, but, they mean so much to you and always will.\nCongratulations and keep up what you have.
1076747
look here bud im 30 and ive been married b4.....but i screwed up and took for granted what i had. i am involved with someone new now and i have truely learned what not to do to jepordize this one.....who i am also planning on marrying in the future. just do what feels right....but when you do get married treat her right and make her feel loved everyday no matter what. hugs and kisses everyday no matter how pissed she makes you. if you can swallow some pride every now and then you should be ok.
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You don't seem very keen on her any more.  I'd suggest you go to relate or some sort of relationship counselling.\n\nYou could try making a new start: tell her you's like to reignite the spark of your relationship, that you think you've been taking her for granted.  Ask her if she wants to work with you to make things better.\n\nStart eating meals together and going out together.  Restart physical contact without expecting it to lead to sex - cuddles, kisses, maybe rub her shoulders.\n\nNotice if she looks good and tell her.  Take it in turns to cook and compliment her if she makes something you enjoy.\n\nDon't expect an overnight change.
105995
from a mans stand point! you know your wife more than anybody! sit back and think of some of the thing she has talked about. love is something money cannot buy. give of youself, do something for her. make her feel like she is the only woman there is.