how can i be more outgoing without being shy?
535146
I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
540885
Lots of people talk.  Learn to ask intelligent questions and listen and you will find friends pretty fast.  And after they are your friends your shyness about talking will start to fade as you get to know them.
124678
I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
50305
be your self and dont be shy
170302
being shy and passive...I think things would be totally different for me if I wasn't so shy. I'm starting to grow out of the passive thing.
218916
Unless it's taken to extremes, being an introvert is just as normal as being outgoing and extroverted.\n\nIf you want to be less introverted, find activities that you are interested and feel comfortable with (caving, science fiction, opera, heavy metal, woodworking - whatever) and then look for local and online organizations of people with similar interests.\n\nGood luck!
232466
Socialization.  The shy person must try to stablish conversations with people how like to do the same things for example, you like to read, you must visit a library and start talking with the employers then compare books with someone, ask for references...if you like shopping, ask for details of what you are going to buy...if you are in a party talk about the person how invite you but with others person in the party, avoid answers like yes or no...try to be more detailed in the conversation...I used to be shy and nobody can believe me...good luck, start talking
690005
Shy is really sweet, unless it becomes an obstacle to conversation.  I've been with people with whom casual conversation is like pulling teeth, and it gets tiring.  Those of us who enjoy conversation appreciate someone who can help hold up the other end now & then!  :)
838290
u know what? u dont have to do anything like thta to get someone's attention. all you have to do is be yourself...if your a jolly and funny person, good. but if ur a quiet person, so what? people will like you for who you are...even if u dont utter a single word. so cheerup! dont worry about not having anything to talk about because if you're with someone ur comfortable with, you can talk about anything under the sun. =)
982354
just start talking and then you will become more relaxed.  i am shy too and once you start talking it will come to you and you will be fine.  it does not matter what you say to start it just start talking.
1100223
Personally, I think the sort of person who is immediately loud and outgoing with someone they've never met is a nuisance.  I start off quiet and gain confidence and a develop a rapport with people over time.  If you just jump in there and talk to them like you're best buddies, people (English people anyway), find it irritating and intrusive.\n\nIf you feel shy or awkward in social situations and don't feel you can join in, then maybe you would benefit from being more outgoing.  But you can't just flick a switch and suddenly be more relaxed with people.  When I was at college, I was painfully shy.  As you grown older, you are thrown into situations where you have no choice but to ignore the impulse to hide in the corner.   If you don't, then you'll end up with no friends, no girlfriend, a crappy job and a dull life.  The worse part is that people mistake shyness for rudeness, so as well as feeling isolated everyone will think you're an idiot!\n\nAs you get older, you realise that your life is defined by your relationships with others.  No one lived a happy, fulfilling life by avoiding human contact.  If you're shy, then the first part of building a relationship with others is mostly about acting more confident that you are, asking people questions rather than silently ignoring them, and being friendly without being pushy or presumptuous.  It'll soon come naturally.
1079186
First, make the decision that you are not going to be shy.  Believing that you are shy, or somehow not as worthy as others around you will make you continue to be shy.\n\nSecond, start slowly, by giving yourself an assignment.  Try making small talk to one new person.  Practice at home when you are alone, so you have some things ready to say.\n\nThird, try finding an activity that interests you, so you will meet people with the same interest.  Then you have a topic to start talking about.\n\nThat is how I overcame my shyness.  (It also helped when I turned forty and stopped caring what other people thought about me!)
1154469
I used to be very shy. Extremely introverted to a point of being a pain....\n\nThen, my cousin invited me to Church.  It was through there that I learned to have "fun". To be more outgoing. \n\nI grew to have an "extended family", and they cared a lot about me, and helped me in ways that my "regular family" couldnt understand.\n\nThe more you get into fellowshipping, the more you will get involved with the Church and want to "do" more, and volunteer more and get to know all those around you!  Who knows, you may meet your future "mate" there :)\n\nBut, I would invite you to go to Church and be "uplifted" in your Spirit, and find CHRIST!!\nBecause after that, the World will no longer be a place that will hold you...\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
626742
Just speak...even random things....talk about the weather, or just start up a conversation. Are you shy? Or do you just not know what to say? I used to be shy..still am....but you gotta gotta learn to come out of your shell. Like I said...strike up a conversation no matter how hard it is...believe me, it works.
173466
I use to be really really shy too! But one day it hit me that when people firts meet you they have NO IDEA who you are, so you can make yourself who ever you want to be weather its shy or outgoing. And I attempted it one day and made myself an outgoing person by taking the first step in asking all kind of questions (believe me I was soo nervouse because of my shyness) and by the time I knew I was able to talk to those people with no probelms and people would refer to me as a social butterfly but little did they know I was very shy. Well in time I really did become the social butterfly it just took some time and it took some working at. Be patient but learn to take steps. And those steps could be your the first one to speak up or out. If you always the first to do something you will overcome your shyness thats why I did and now I am leader. Good Luck and dont let shyness overcome you.
271019
well, it is not so bad to be shy, many girls like guys who are shy and who are not pushing it too hard. but if you still find it a problem maybe you should practice, at first try it in front of the mirror and then maybe on some girl who you are not attracted to, also try to be more talkative with your friends, that will help you to develop your speaking skills and after a while you could easily talk with girls (at least i hope so!)
619376
outgoing. opposite of introverted which is me ;)