If an ex-military recruiter wanted to apologize to the families of his recruits would he be shunned?
540866
Nope.....not appropriate.  My recruiter in no way affected/effected my decision to enter the military.  I doubt very much you did either to ANY of them.  All you did was act as a middle man.  \n\nBe honest....most of the wide eyed children who passed through your office had already made up their mind.  Either by force (Mom and Dad) or beligerance (get away from Mom and Dad).\n\nAs we mature our views change.....are you going to post that in the paper everytime that happens?\n\nYour heart is in the right place....that in itself is admirable.
1010067
maybe he feels bad about how it all went down. Accept the apology and move on
339575
It depends on who they are and how much you know about them. If they are family, you can ask for a welfare check through the Red Cross if you haven't heard from them in a while. This only works for family, because you have to have a lot of information (Social, DOB, Last known location, etc). Also, know that he/she will probably get scolded by their commander for not keeping in touch with their family once the message is sent. \nIf it is just an old friend, do you have any idea where they were stationed? I know that with Air Force personnel, you can usually get e-mail through to them by using the following format:\nfirst.last@basename.af.mil\nI don't know if that also works for other services. Otherwise, if you know what the person's job was, and what their last base was, you can try calling to the base operator at that base, asking for their old unit, then see if anyone there knows them. If that doesn't work, you might try calling the base's public affairs office and ask them to look for the name in their "alpha roster." That may or maynot work, depending on how vigilant the person you talk to is. Last ditch effort, get in touch with the person's family back home. They usually know where their soldier is.   Hope something in here helps.
1036008
If I'm in the wrong, I definitely say sorry. a stupid thing like pride shouldn't get in the way of someone admitting they were wrong. People have fallen out for years over the person in the wrong refusing to say sorry. It's not worth it.
647160
will forgive him to not act in the way we dont think thats idiot....by repecting for all the things he did and he does for me.....Dear friend...our parents sometimes do somethign what in our opinion will refused or as u said idiot action....u can talk to him or just lt that pass
500516
If you're in delayed enlistment and have already taken the Oath of Enlistment you are technically obligated to 8 years of service (typically 4 years active duty and 4 years active or inactive reserve) and could be forced to report for active duty on the date on your contract.  \n\nAs a practical matter, if you go to the recruiter and tell them you want to back out you'll normally be allowed to do so.  That's not to say that they'll be happy or not give you a ration of sh*t but they'd rather let you go than get dinged for having recruited someone who "failed to adapt."  Please note that this is NOT a guaranteed outcome!\n\nIf you simply failed to report, you'd be AWOL and would be subject to arrest and return to military control.\n\nAn old NCO (me!) once said, "I can't MAKE you do anything, son, but I can DAMN sure make you wish you HAD!"
849754
I personally wouldn't  do it.  He's past history, and he hurt you badly to boot.
355356
I think any honest conscientious objector should be respected. Many are subject to derision. If they are completely honest as to their motivations for objecting- for instance, not as an excuse for cowardice- they should not, in my opinion, be released from service, but perhaps transferred.\n   However, I think anyone who is completely serious would anticipate the possibility of serving during war when they enlist. It is, after all, the military. People who feel that strongly should not have considered becoming soldiers.
1160376
Not sure if this apology includes me (so it would be presumptuous for me to accept it) but no offence taken anyway because, luckily, your suggestions about my possible past were off the mark. I could also appreciate that you had perhaps misunderstood a generalised answer I gave (that I hadn't actually applied to your own situation).\n\nFor the record, I don't think I'm an idiot either but, of course, that's just my subjective opinion! ;-)
861058
Thankfully no.\n\nI HAVE been berated by a family "friend" for being a godless heathen... but that was years ago.  He has since abandoned his vituperation for civility and I've not faced any serious problems since.\n\nI'm one of the LUCKY ones, though.
656005
Contact your state representative office, senator,i have found that they will get involved with these kinds of matters. While in the service we knew if we had a problem that was being ignored we would go to our state representative, all the sudden the problem got more attention than those trying to hide it or ignore it,so problem got fixed, took a while. it is sad though that army is ignoring this problem, this is not the kind of attention they need and the PFC needs to spend some time in military prison for his behavior.
869624
I dont see why he needs to apologize to anyone other than the heckler , if he feels bad about it . I think the "N" word is over dramatized anyway. I would not use the n word unless I meant it , then anybody that didn't like it can kiss my azz.
223298
Tell him most people have regrets in life - his are probably worse than most people's.  But, it is not healthy to dwell on past history.  No purpose is served.
823191
If the invitation was sent to someone else to get made, I wouldn't blame them, but if it was personally made and they can't get your name right after 15 years I think both of you should not go because that is just plain disrespectful to you and he should agree and stand by your side.
1020349
Jericho.. you should be ashamed of yourself, willing to violate PERSEC like that.  you have NO GUARENTEE WHATSOEVER that the question asker is legit.  NOR do you have the right to abuse your access to the system and go snooping around looking for somebody's contact information, let alone passing it on without their knowledge or permission.\n\nTo the OP:  if you are close with your father and he just got there, be patient.  sometimes it takes a while to get an address or email account set up.  he may not even HAVE regular access to communication.  He will contcat you when he is able.  If you are not close, then you are TOL UNLESS you can provide the American Red Cross with his full name, rank, duty station and last known location.  IF they can find him they will do a Welfare check which basically lets him and his Command know that someone is looking for him, but they CANNOT nor will not force him to contact you in any way if he tells them he doesn't want to.
911576
doubt you can do that.most are already retired and i'm guessing the rest already might have tried to serve in the armed forces and were rejected for some reason. Or maybe they served already and didn't renew their service contract,so they shouldn't be forced to serve if they don't wish to.unless of course congress does reinstate the draft and then everyone is fair game.
841784
It shouldn't.  I had a brother that has been in and out of jail so when i joined i had a few questions myself.  There is a great forum at www.honorfirst.com that will answer pretty much any question that you have.  As long as he's honest about it it shouldn't be a big deal.