how can u tell a family member there not doing a good job with there kids?
548485
You can't, Honey..  No matter what you say or how you say it, they will become defensive and tell themselves that you are just interfering.  You can be there if and when that family member needs you.. and sometimes they will need to talk.  If they ASK your opinion, feel free to give it.. but know that often times, people will ask even though they aren't prepared for the answer.
348846
Do what's called the Broken Record thing...every time she starts in--think of something like.." I appreciate your concern, mom, but we have it handled."..........say it Every time...and she Will stop---it worked on my dad...see...when us mom's spens at least 20 yrs rasing kids..and being needed...and then we find one day that the kids are grown..living on their own--meaning we did our job well...suddenly we have nothing to fuss over..and that can be a lonely feeling.  I'm not saying it's okay for her to over step her bounds, just have a little understanding and compassion ... cuz, one day, you, too will have worked yourself out your job..\nhang in there
29472
Make sure to be honest and starightforward.  No parent wants to hear that something might be wrong with their child, so it will be difficult.
1142808
We have to parent our parents, it's an odd situation.\n\nI think the best way is to show your perspective, to be involved in the "misbehavior". Ignoring it makes it 'natural' to the person.. it becomes ritual and automatic. Show how it need not be so. Ask: is it the employee's fault? how much does the employee get paid? what kind of training do they provide? what should they provide? where is the employee from? is getting angry at that person a sign of their poor performance... or is it because of your frustration to make the situation better?\n\nAnd importantly not to nag or judge her, to try to involve the persective of the employee.. to be a mediator.  Your mom may have many reasons as well that you can learn from. Just open yourself to the crisis instead of hiding from it.
211771
throw one out of the house lol! How about reminding them that someday, when their parents are gone all they will have is each other.
1028512
Tell them the movies shes watching,and hthe rating of the movie and how it is not suitable for her to watch nevertheless put your self in the situation saying if my sister told this thing to you about me you'll would have totally taken action but how come its different with me?\n\nI totally hope you understood that lol,keep on at it and even show the ,movie to them if possible,show her that she cant get special treatment as she is doing something wrong.\n\nAnd when u scoold ur sis and she complaints somehow bring her major faults into it showing that she is a hipocrit(i know i spelt it wrong lol)..keep on at it and ull win sooner or later im sure they'll get tired of it and just to please u they'll take action lol
591430
That's a hard one.  You have to just try and get them to see if they are negative, why they are negative and try to show them how to be positive.
683269
buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
106087
Oh Lordy..Lordy...Lordy. \n\nGirl children will do that to you.  \n\nWhat you need is a break away from your kids, if nothing more than for a day or two. \n\nDuring that day, pamper yourself. Spend time ALONE.  Do something you love. Indulge. Appreciate yourself. Go to the beach. Take a dance class. Whatever makes you feel good.  You need to reenergize yourself.  \n\nThen while you're alone spend time praying and reflecting on who you are, what you want, and the type of parent you want to be. \n\nFocus more on the behavior you want to exhibit, instead of focusing on the things you're doing wrong.  Be positive.  Stay positive.  \n\n         "I will be patient and kind to my children because they deserve it." \n\n         " I will establish clear rules and a schedule for all to follow to keep order in my home" \n\n         "I will praise my children often and be involved in their actities"\n\n         "I will take good care of myself, by eating right, getting plenty of rest, and taking care of my health.  When I feel good, I am at my best" \n\nThen when you get back with your family sit down and have a family meeting. \n\nApologize to your children for yelling at them.  Let them know that you know this does not make them feel good and you will do everything you can to avoid yelling.  \n\nGet them to agree to help you work on this.  Do not blame them for your behavior.  Set a good example and accept responsibilty, but let them know that you have to work at this as a family.  \n\nA good book to read on this is "The Seven Habits for the Family" by Steven Covey. \n\nBest wishes to you. \n\nBe blessed.  \n\n:o)
1033573
Take responsibility for them, stop plunking them in front of the cpu as a baby sitter. If they keep on finding it, you take the cpu away. I know, then you will have to do actual parenting, but the results will be fabulous.
587506
If they are only good for arguing fire their sorry a$$es and find some new parents. Better yet get a job, move out on your own and support yourself.
35064
Offer your sympathies to the family and offer to do anything that they need. Then follow through since some people have a hard time asking for help. Making sandwiches, snacks, or a casserole is also nice.
1108582
Turn her a_s in. By doing nothing you are feeding the problem and by not ratting her out you are allowing one more bum the ability to dig into our pockets. The fewer people we have to support the more we get to keep for our families. Let the Welfare fraud line know that she is living with a man that makes enough to support her and her 3 kids; they will investigate and act if necessary.
1122726
Sounds like it is(and no offense) but dirty laundry that the gov doesnt want brought out. Keep writing..bring that family some closure.
334926
Truthfully, you can tell her everything and she may not change a thing.  Let her know that you care for her and you want the absolute best for her.  Seeing her unhappy is breaking your heart.  Let her know how you feel without making judgements on her decision.  Ask her if there is absolutely anything that you can do for her to help her and her family out.  Things won't change unless she wants them to change.  All you can do is support her and be there for her.  She needs the strength to see if being a single mom is the best for her children and if she can do it alone.  Its easy for outsiders to express how they feel about the situation but its different when you live it everyday.  Help her be strong.  I hope all goes well.
167497
Tell them what they doing wrong r talk to them that inters them.
188600
It is not possible to say that you have been a bad kid, especially because of the way you have expressed yourself here in your question. I think sometimes you should have been trying to help them out when they needed or asked for your help. That would make them happy. Just because you are not bound to do something does not mean that you can never do that. Of course you should try to make your parents and siblings happy. They were always hurt by you because each time they needed you beside them, you did not allow them to have you. That is why they got used to think about you in this way that you have had been a bad kid.\n\nDo not worry about the past! If you are willing to make everything alright now, you can do it by telling them all of your words those you explained to us. Try to make them feel your words, feel you heart and that will help to make the situation better.\n\nBest of luck!