My wife is very upset about my relationship with another woman.I've decided to sit them both down and say?
540296
your a sick dog thats no way to treat no woman
347789
My advice is to sit down and talk with your wife. Find out why she left you and try to resolve the problem. If you do get it resolved, your kids will listen to you and your wife. If it doesn't, talk to your kids. Find out why they went to stay with your wife and inlaws. Agian, try to resolve the problems. If those problems can't be resolved peacefully with your wife, get a lawyer so you can have time with your kids too. It's not fair to you to  have to sit and miss your kids who you love while your wife gets to see them all the time. You should both have equal rights to see them.
994552
everyone here is bashing the wife. we don't know for certain that she has cheated on him. i don't think she has. how many of us been hurt by a boyfriend or husband who has cheated on us. it sounds like that she forgive him and he done it again and again for his own reasons. right now she is hurt and mad and she feels betrayed by you. sounds like you really hurt her and her world is turn up side down and their is children involved then maybe she trying to figure how to handle this but i think there is more to this story then you are telling. if you love her so much why did cheat on her again and again and now u want forgiveness and win her love back. was you thinking about her when you was cheating on her? did you think of how she would feel when she found out? she doesn't feel good about her self right now and you caused that. now you feel insecure. maybe right now she feels insecure about herself and maybe she is trying to figure out where she went wrong in this and I'm pretty sure you blame her for all of your affairs right? give her time she is going through a lot right now. sounds like she was a very good wife to u and u throw it all away for some one night stands or relationships. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but she has every right to be mad and upset.
461570
You are not wrong, you need to confront her about this. It's inappropriate for her to be spending all her time with another man who has feelings for her.
215602
Yes it is,and I think that you know it is.However,it doesn`t seem to be as serious as if you had actually touched the other woman.But I think that even looking at someone else with dirty thoughts is a form of betrayal.Since there was no physical contact,and if you really are sorry for it,then I see no cause for you to tell your wife and hurt her.Just don`t do it any more,and don`t mentally abuse yourself over it.Learn from it,ask God to forgive you and go on.
1082122
shes victimizing you... she shouldnt be putting you in the middle of her problems and that makes her a poor excuse for a friend... what im trying to say is, do you want to be the one who conspires and allows her to cheat on her husband or do god knows what? Think of the husbands feelings in this situation... While you dont want to be the cause of them splitting up you have to know that if you told you wouldnt and couldnt be held responsible, your friend decided to do this to her husband and she should have to face the reprocussions. Do you care about this girl enough to actually lie on her behalf over something that could split them apart? I think its the husbands right to know whats going on, in my case I think I would not tell the husband where she is but if you know his friends or family tip one of them off and possibly they will tell them... its complicated but you cant be incriminated because you didnt tell her husband where she was, you tipped someone off and they told, but i think its the right thing to do in letting the husband know in one form or another that his wife is lying to him and may be doing more... hes a human being and has feelings to, and she is digging her own grave... It was wrong of her to ask for you to lie about her because she is putting you in the middle of their problems and asking you to conceal the fact that she is destroying her marriage. If I was you I would tip someone off and then let them tell the husband,  either way theres nothing you can do to come out of the situation without getting hurt because if the husband figures out that you have been lying to him about something that is ruining his marriage then  hes going to hold you partially responsible... and think would you want to be in that sort of situation as well. would you want your husband to secretely be doing god knows what and you to be completely oblivious to it and how would you feel about it if he asked a friend to lie to you for him? you have to put yourself in the victims shoes, and honestly you both are the victim to her lying ways
941274
This is a very unique question.  it sounds like your wife is a BIG GAME PLAYER!  But at the same time you don't want her little game to ruin your life.  Who knows what she'll do.  I'd tell her to go find another round of friends, and you're going to live your life.  She will keep you going through this bull crap for life if you let her.\nSounds to me like she's wore her welcome out where she just came from, and is running back to her rock that's you.  Well sometimes rocks crumble.  I would let her go, you're not responsible for her irrational behavior.  And in no way are you to blame for her actions.
1160198
Say...BYE  BYE.......Shes gone........Maybe during you're " confusing emotions about you're marriage, and  " figuring out what to do", You should have done them.......at home, with the actual person....You-re wife, The solution was between you and you're wife, not some other woman. Just be glad you don't have any kids dragged in.
489158
Yes. You are not doing your marriage any good by chatting with other women. How would you feel if your wife did that to you.\n\nInvest your time in your wife and family and stop looking over the fence. The grass is not greener and you will be sorry if you lost a good woman.
1051261
your unhappy, you already "resent" him and are taking out your anger on him. eventually it will turn to bitterness. its a very difficult and gut wrenching decision to divorce *i know*, but if your unhappy your cheating BOTH of you out of finding someone you both can be truly happy with. \nthe best thing to do is to sit down with him, tell him this is a serious discussion and tell him...everything...how you feel. that you absolutely think he is a wonderful man, and that you value him as a person, but that you don't feel the way a wife should about her husband. its not his fault *or yours for that matter*. ask him to respond to that...if he gets upset...well....what can you do. you've told him how you feel and he will need time to digest it. \ntime heals all wounds! and as horrible as it all feels now, it will become a sad distant memory in the future.  \ngood luck!!!
616887
That is a very sticky situation. It may work out if you do that.  But it also may end up with them both mad at you for interfering.  I would just be there for both of them and talk it out.  Hopefully with you there listening, they'll work it out on their own.
654735
Break back up. You'll be much happier. Its not like you are married to her. Who wants to be stuck with  a bitter, whining person? Move on, you'll be glad you did.
324567
Firstly: tell your wife if you are certain now. You don't want to try to figure this out alone. I wonder why if you told your wife about her friend's behavior your wife didn't respond well... Odd. Secondly: Are you SURE that she wants to get with you? Maybe you're misinterpreting her. But if you're definitely sure, then, after telling your wife, just avoid the other woman. \n\nAll of the above is assuming you don't want to cheat on your wife. If you do, then....I guess you don't have any problems then, do you?
167870
I agree with you and you have a very good reason to be upset about it.  A couple things you can do is get a lawyer and see what your options are with this.  There should be a legal route to stop this because it does sound like it constitue harrassment.\n\nBut your husband needs to draw the line with her and make it clear that this behaviour is unacceptable. Keep telling him what this is doing to you and maybe it will stick.  Also,you may want to go to a marriage counciler.  That could help you work your way through it.
906318
If working on your marriage is out of the question then set her free.  She made her choice.  I know u don't want her to get hurt by the other guy but it looks like she will just have to find out the hard way.  What more can u do?  Like I said, she made her choice.
1142942
OH BOY. THIS IS NOT GOOD. BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE? WOULD YOU CONSIDER TELLING HER THE TRUTH, OR SIT WITH IT? WOULD YOU BREAK IT OFF AND LEAVE THE SITUATION ALONE? IS THIS A LOVE THING? MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO COME CLEAN ABOUT IT ALL. SORRY, I HATE GUILT.
611092
Tell the wife everything. Be prepared for her to hate you. Let her know about the kid, how you found out about her and when, and how long you've been with him. If she wants to, then the two of you should confront him together and see what he says. I don't know how you didn't know this when you've been with him for three years, but that's not the point. It doesn't matter if he knows it's you. He SHOULD know it was you who told. he had no right to play you the way he did. You never signed up to be the other woman or a homewrecker.