How do u deal with an arrogant colleague who's got de bosses ear and gets away with whatever he does?
549777
It depends on what it is about him that is causing the tensions and the size of your company.\nIf you are in a small business, and one have one boss above both of you, your only solution is to say your peace to your boss and part amicably.  \nIf you are in a medium/large company, they their should be proper chain of command procedures which allow you to air greivances, whether it be a secondary supervisor or human resources.  If the problems are related to work ethic, bring it to someone's attention, and point out areas of concern.  If the problem is you doing their work or they are hindering the teams ability to complete a project, don't do their work and notify your supervisor that you can not complete you project without their work being performed.\nLastly, if it about the other employee's personality or behavior, confort the employee and tell them "I don't like the manner in which you speak to me; this needs to be mediated immediately, let's go speak to (enter bosses name) right now", turn around and start marching to the bosses office.  The solution allows you to confront his behavior, and take them to task.  9 out of 10, the employee would rather discuss this with you privately then mediate with the boss present - --- Good Luck
249824
It depends how bad you need the job, but if you have options, call him/her on it.  When he is cruel, tell him you do not deserve to be treated that way.  When he is self-serving (show me a boss that isn't), don't make it easy on him.  When he is lazy, tell him you are simply too busy to do trivial tasks and ask if he could please do it.  Bottom line:  Stand up for yourself!  He will respect you more if you stand up for yourself then if you roll over in submission.
758215
This a deep office ethics verus common morality.  Confronting your co-worker verbally in private maybe taken as show of strength perhaps even agression.   A good course of action would be to confront her in front of your co-workers in calm and even tempered logical manner.  If she doesn't like you and spreads rumor she'll come out as agressive or defensive.  The calmer your stay saying comments like "Your behavior lately has been childish and unprofessional."  and "Such action is unwarrented, if you have greivence against me bring it to my attention and we can work it out"  Nine times out of ten the other person will come out with defensive remarks making them look bad.  They might even reveal their problem with you.  Good luck  and stay calm rumours can only bring you down if you sink with them.
901594
quit your job or tell your boss to piss off!
637120
Each person is different. Be very quiet around the person until you size him/her up. I once worked with the most gruff person in the world. He was superior to me, as he was in a management role with the company who owned the company I worked for. He was always chewing people up. I was in my early 20's. One day he called me and said "I am going to come down there and break your G.D. arm off". (because he thought I made a mistake on our payroll). I was tired of his behavior and I said "you come down here and break my G.D. arm off, and see what I break off of you". He was really quiet for a second and then burst out laughing. Apparently, no one had ever talked back to him like that. He decided he like me, and we remained friends for 20 years until he passed away.  \n\nSo don't give up, make it your goal to turn this person into an advocate versus and enemy.
562609
Stand up to them and refuse to be bossed over. Most of the times these bossy goons get scared as soon as you confront them.\nThe worst scenerio is that you may loose the job and u r contemplating that anyway. So if you hae to go out , go with a bang and not with a whimper.\nIt might help to do a bit of lobbying beforehand to make sure you have support from your colleagues.\n\nAs Votaire said, "Of course u can kill a flock of sheep by chanting incantations, but there won't be any doubt if you feed a bit of poison beforehand."
813094
Report him to the corporate office.  If he owns the business, then no you can't really do much of anything.  Just spread the word that he's awful to the employees and don't support his business.  Maybe he'll shut down.
993078
Re-evaluate your job and what you were hired to do.  Just do your work, do it well, stay out of office politics.  Stop chatting so much, because whatever your talking about, it's controversial and provoking others to snitch.  A competent boss may one day decide to rid the office of the both of you, just to serve as an example to others to "just do what you were hired to do and save the cattyness for your off duty hours".
424258
quit, find a better job with a better boss or where your the boss!
1169392
That is a no win situation.   No matter what you do, you are not going to come out ahead.   A bully doesn't listen to reasoning.  Assertiveness doesn't work on a bully boss.   I would advise you to quit that job and go somewhere where you may be respected.
711539
through lucidity---if he is as you describe, he has hang ups...and in that case, all you have to do is expose your casual and regular personality...so that when he tries to put you down, say...you take it as if of no importance (effectively ignoring it and not caring)...this, as you will learn, pisses THEM off...because you expose their hang ups of trying to put others down...and their NEED and importance to do so...because inside they are insecure...\n\nif you just don't  care about it, and just do your job, as long as he does not disrespect you or make you do something that could be concidered disrespectful (in which case you should beat the shit out of him and quit your job)...you should just do your job to the best of you ability, and not give a shit or care about what he does...\n\nyou just go home and have fun with friends or co-workers--no biggy. \n\nIf he is "uncivilized" --I don't know what you would mean by that--I guess, in my case, I wouldn't  care---he's uncivilized, its apparent, its his problem--and most people will look down upon him for it, and laugh maybe if its really bad (say he farts a lot in public)-- there is nothing I can do--except educate him if he is willing so people don't laugh at him--otherwise, just don't care--\n\nsay, if he starts picking his nose or farts a lot, you don't have to 'tolerate' it...you just don't look or be near by him--end of story. \n\nif he is rude---just make it apparent that he is being rude and just do your job...\n\nwhat you have to realize, is not to let it get to you, imagine him as made of cardboard and electronics...he's a peice of crap--if he "subtly insults you" or pushes your buttons--you don't give a fuck--unless he goes to far, and then you make a point of demanding respect, in extreme cases ,this requires you to quit your job..\n\nOtherwise, don't be so 'finiky' I guess is the only advice I could give you.
257699
Point it out to your boss.  Your boss should take the initaitve to watch him and fire him if he is out of line.
214350
Get his ass fired he can't treat you like that. Unless he is your boss or the manager. Tell your boss or manager how he is and ask them to please talk to him, and that will probley work. If not  keep bringing it to there attention.Eather he will get fired or he will treat you alot better. I know trust me.
645909
Just tell him to stop and if he doesn't, go to your human resource department and file a complaint against him.
287635
i work in a prison so i know scum but you could ask him to try and leave work there tell him it bothers you [remember communication @love can over come anything]
1064293
Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
776554
Arrange a meeting with her. Explain that you find her manner unprofessional and inappropriate. Just because someone is the boss does not give them the right to be (as you put it) an SOB. Every time your boss berates you or behaves in an unprofessional manner, be sure to point it out in a mature, calm way. \n"I'm sorry, but I find your tone offensive/unprofessional/rude/ out of line/etc. Do you think we can discuss this in a more productive manner?"\n\nHope this helps, good luck