I left my husband  and he filed for divorce and said he is leaving me for the reasons I left him, how do?
551386
Just tell your lawyer...thats all that you can really do.
489150
Good riddance to him. He is not a supportive husband. He is useless. Don't regret what you have done.
213063
Hey, I know how you feel. I'm the one who told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce and it took him 2 years to get up off his lazy butt and have it finalized. As for why your ex-husband still acts bitter, I really don't know. MEN!!!
573235
I suspect that the two of you were not telling the same story, although you think you are. But this is immaterial. Why listen to advice from other people? If you have both decided that divorce is the best way forward, then this is what you should do. Forget other people's opinions. These just muddy the water. Just be thankful that the two of you have made this decision and can still be friendly towards each other.
1027662
you need to file yourself and get this over with...do not wait on him...and let him go, you may still love him but why? why would you want someone back who has left you and treated you this way...get this over with, the sooner you do the sooner you can move on
384771
There is no room for being wishy washy here. This is not a dalliance. Bigamy and a child by another woman are too big for a marriage to overcome. You must do the following:\n\n1. Get an attorney. today.\n2. Secure your assets. Determine what major assets you have (bank accounts, investments, savings, retirement accounts, real estate holdings, etc.) and work with your attorney to keep him from draining the accounts and taking off with them. If you're not sure what accounts he has, you may be able to run a credit report on him to see what accounts he has outstanding. Again, use your attorney here.\n3. Immediately kick him out of the house and have him conduct all communication through your attorney.\n\nOn a personal note: this will be hard. In fact, it will be awful. However, many women have been cheated on and support groups do exist. Your attorney may have some referrals for you. Also try lookign up "divorce" in the yellow pages - I bet divorce support groups are listed there. Yours is a harsh case, but I'm sure you can find kindred spirts through these support groups. \n\nAbove all, be prepared to be stong when facing him. He'll be very sorry, no doubt. He may try to convince you to take him back. this is, of course, your choice. however, unless you want to live the rest of your life with his other ex wife and her child in your life (you can't ever get rid of a child) you should cut ties. It may be embarassing, it may hurt, but you can do this. \n\nGood luck and I'm very sorry.\n\nFollow up: As for $, talk to the lawyer. Your husband may be forced to map attorney's fees since he will be found at fault in the divorce.
97796
Divorce is hard. I wish I knew the answer to that one. I am facing a divorce...K
18622
Just explain to him that your x has nothing to do with your marriage and you and your x got a divorce for a reason.
461970
Well, if you're willing to leave her and can manage on your own, or have someone who can help you, you can file for divorce. Only you know if the pain is worth the wife and what she offers. However, I think she's wrong to do this, and if she ever blames you, because of your condition or something, she married you like this. she knew what she was going to be going through.
322075
Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.
724262
He is just trying to make you take the blame for his behavior.  That is how abusive men work and make you think it is all your fault.  He obviously does not care about you that much if he just up and leaves and puts all the blame on you.  You are better off leaving him and getting your kids away from a man like that.  They will either be abusers or take abuse from someone else.  He walks all over you and guess what, your kids will to as long as you keep them in that environment.  Your husband is a horrible role model and so are you for putting up with him.  You can't save your marriage because he does not respect you enough to stick around and work things out.  GET OUT NOW!!  I pray that you will take people's advice and put you and your children first.  I get mad at my husband all time but he does not treat me they way your man does.  Think about all the healthy relationships you know of and compare yours to them.
834875
1. why did he leave you and your children?\n2. have you been intouch with him since to sort out your issues\n3. You shoud never try and win someone back\n\nI have been in this situation before and its so hard to get back on your feet again. But when you see your children you know something has to be done for their sake, so sorting out where things went wrong and coming to some kind of compromise is a start. How you do it is up to you, this is the hardest part because it means you have to face him after he hurt you and your children, make sure your children are not with you for this part they don't need complications, and make sure he is alone, make him make time, after all he turned his back on you, so demand it.\nFriends and family are the best company of course you'll have their full support, surrounding yourself with good positive energies is good for you and your kids.\nMoving on is hard also, but make it a priority, you and your children deserve happiness and so shall it be, bring on the good times, when he sees that you are moving he'll realise that "Hey she can live without me" and maybe then he'll turn towards you and your kids. But don't try and win him back, he'll think you're being desprite, and probably even have a bit of a laugh, maybe even play on it for  while, you don't want that it will prolong the agony for your children, and cause you more energy than he should be for you.\ni hope this all helps I have been there and  when children are involved its important to get it sorted....
308556
divorce and break up!!
1024304
oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!
1052511
It sounds like he has abandoned you.  Confront him on it.  If you can talk to him on the phone about it, that will be better than text messages and e-mails.  If he is not helping you financially, he is not acting like he's married with a child.  You are both supposed to support each other and your child.  Is he keeping all his earnings to himself?  Do you have separate finances?  That's not a marriage.  Talk to him in person or over the phone, not through e-mails and text messages.  Tell him what you suspect.  Stay calm and don't yell.  Listen to what he has to say.  It may turn out that the marriage is over and you need to move on, or it may be that he is clueless and doesn't know there's anything wrong.
293973
You had (have) marriage vows with HIM, not her. Wanting to press charges on her is your pathetic way of taking the focus off of the fact that he (at least for a while) chose HER over YOU.\nI don't mean to be mean...but it isn't her fault he chose to abandon his vows to you.  It is his fault.
671560
Talk to your divorce attorney.  It is a simple matter of filing the paperwork.