What is the best solution for the marriage is your husband keeps on beating you? is devorce the solution?
537654
The best solution is for you to find a safe place to go and get there!  He needs counseling and a little jail time.
813755
Just remember that you always have control over your own situation.  If you are in a bad marriage don't be afraid to leave.  Get out of that comfort zone and don't let fear of the unknown stop you.
658073
.\nMy friend has lived with a husband who was schizophrenic. She used to get a daily dose of kicks, abuses, curses and insults. Yet she did not leave him.\n\nAnd now he is old and helpless and he no longer beats her although his tongue is still sharp. I have not seen ANY change in him.\n\nWas it worth it to have wasted her life. And why did she do it. Another friend of mine is a psychologist and has completed her thesis on "Wife Beaters". According to her research, she says that there can be NO change in the man who beats up his wife. He will continue to do so till he dies.\n\nAre you willing to sacrifice your life? If  "LOVE" is not there anymore, then the marriage is a very painful relationship.\n\nI don't think that it will help you to remain in this situation.\n\nYour life is yours. You have a right to live with dignity and self respect which he cannot give you. You will develop low self esteem if you stick to him.\n\nGo--- Find your own happiness--- but this time don't get into another trap easily
273465
Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
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As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
637139
LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Get out of that marriage.  How can you let any man verbally abuse your child?
775910
This is really sad! I realize that you are a Christian so your first priority is to try to make your marriage work but, God doesn't expect you to stay in a relationship that could be devastating not only to you but to your child. First, if he's admitted he has a problem get him to counseling immediately!! You should probably get some type of counseling for yourself too. You've been through alot and I'm sure your self esteem has been compromised in all of this. After you have tried counseling & he continues to act this way, you have to save yourself & your child. You shouldn't allow this man to ruin 2 more lives.Think about your child & their future.
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Marriage only get's worse when the people involved stop doing the things they did to build the relationship. \nFor instance if a relationship is based on Lust. how long to you think it will last when you both stop being creative in bed. \nNow if it's based on communication the same thing applies. \nhow long will it last when money is tight and your both working to pay the bills, then have a child or 3 and they demand your attention due to the care they require. How often do you think you will have those long heart to heart talks? It's the loss of each person "5 basic needs" that triggers things like affairs, marrital abuse and the empting of your love bank.\n\nRead a few of the books I listed below. They can really help BUT you need constant work in a marriage. just because you said I DO does not mean it will get easier. in fact that is when the real work begins.
953561
I have been married 9yrs, so I'm still learning too. Marriage is a constantly changing thing. It is important to remember that you are all still adjusting to something that is new & exciting & even scary. Some people handle this differently than others. Keep telling him how you feel. It's crucial that there be no secrets in a marriage. If you are truly concerned that this is not just an adjustment issue, you should explain to him what it is that you want from this marrauge. He can't possibly know unless you tell him. You need to keep the lines of communication open. Without it, a marraige cannot possibly survive. Good luck
988583
Well, this is kinda hard, but there is hope. I had a similar problem. I didn't used to know how to deal with my anger. I hid it and covered it and blew up at stupid times, until finally I did something I really regret. My gf hit me so I hit her back, and I went to jail. She could have left me, I deserved it, but she stuck by me. She helped me turn my life around and now we are happily married with a beautiful baby boy, 4 months old. we've been together for 5 years, married for 3, and it's great. But it wouldn't have been if I didn't go to counseling and get the help I needed (that took some time to realize too, over a year of meetings once a week for a few hours in group therapy), and if she wasn't strong enough emotionally to deal with it. We've proved our love over time, and we've never been happier. So stick in there IF he's willing to fix how he handles his emotions (anger is a motion, just like happiness or sadness, etc). The number one ingredient that has made the long term difference in all our problems/challenges, is having God at the center of our life. Without him, we both have been too weak at times, and would have fallen apart. With him, our love will never fail!
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Your situation sounds very similar to my life story.  My wife and I got married very young, and I was not always very nice to her.  I drank a lot, and though I never physically abused her, I did emotionally.\n   She ended up becoming distant and looking for emotional relief in other men.  Never physical, but emotional hurts just as much.  I ended up meeting a woman, straying, and falling for her and it almost destroyed my life.\n   My wife and I go to counseling, which I suggest for you, and are working extremely hard to repair our marriage.  We are doing a good job, and things in many ways are better than ever, but there is still work for both of us to do.  In the end, ideally, we will have both grown stronger and love each other all the more because of all we have been though with each other.\n   This man is probably more of an infatuation than love because you are feeling things that you have missed.  Devote yourself to your husband, and him to you and remake better than before the love you had.\n   Get counseling, work it out.  Find you flame again.  If this does not work, than the only option left is to divorce, but this should be your last option, not your only option.\n\nGood luck.
997536
have you tried going to counseling? there are more was to abuse someone than just physical, there is emotional and mental.  so you feel he is being that way to you? i am divorced also,i did not give up on my marriage until he did not want to be there.  he didn't want to be there because i started fighting back, he had gotten physically and mentally abusive.  i had two small boys at the time and they were effected by his behavior also, even though it was not directed at them.  it was my son was 4 years old made the comment that we should live elsewhere, that i realized everything was over.\ndo i regret getting divorced, no, because i felt i tried everything to keep it together, and was hanging in for the kids sake.  when that was said to me i realized it was better to get the kids away from him.  if you can leave with a good conscience than do it.  no one has the right to take away your self respect or self esteem.  good luck in whatever you decide.
696397
Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.
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Divorce can be the solution \nbut are u sure that u don't love u husband and  do u have children ?... because children will suffer in all that
937593
i would talk to him and explain your feelings. My husband and I used to play fight and when things gor out of hand I think he thought I was able to handle the come back, because I was willing to play. Men often forget how strong they are. Once I explained to my husband he was hurting me everything changed.
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You don't need to be in that kind of marriage, you can do better than that, take pride in yourself, and get out, get away from him, because he may be emotionally abusive right now, but it can turn to physical abuse later, and then it may be too late to get out except by way of a coffin, please, don't make the same mistake I did, I left only after my ex- cut my throat with a piece of barb wire wrapped around my throat, and shot a double barrel shotgun off by my left ear(hard hearing in that ear now) in front of our children.  I thank God for nosy neighbors, that heard everything and called the police, so, I send out praise to all the nosy neighbors in Manchester, Tennessee.   Get out now while you can, ask a friend to help you get out, or you can call the domestic violence shelter, and ask them to help you,, don't become a VICTIM of domestic Violence, be a SURVIVOR.  Best of luck to you and God Bless, I will keep you in my prayers.
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If there is some type of abuse, get away.  Your safety should be your #1 priority.  If this is the problem, and your spouse seeks help for his problem, then I would say that you should not consider ending the marriage.  Seek counseling and hopefully your spouse will seek counseling.  However if your spouse doesn't make any changes, then cut them loose ASAP.  \n\nNow if you been hurt over something else, talk to your spouse and seek counseling together.  If they are not willing, get it for yourself.  Work on making yourself happy and understand it is O.K. to have strong feelings for you spouse.  But it may be the time for you to have strong feelings for yourself.  That is what counseling can help you with.\n\nWhatever you do, take care of yourself.  It is the most important thing you can do.  But don't rush to end a marriage just because things just don't look right.  It takes to and if your spouse is willing to make changes, be willing to look deeper into your problems.  It can work out.\n\nGood luck and I'll pray for you\n\nWT