what should i do with my lack of sex in my relationship?
541256
I think some people get to a point in a relationship that they aren't worried about sex, they're close enough without having so much of that type of bonding. That's one possibility.\nAnother could be, sorry if I hurt your feelings, that she isn't attracted to you anymore, or she could be tired of the "same ol' thing". Do you guys spice it up in bed, or is it the same old missionary position. \nMy boyfriend and I had this problem, we brought toys in the bedroom, and its never been as good as it is now.\nJust ask her, I can keep giving o you ideas about what could be wrong, but I don't know what going on in her head, and I'm only getting one side of the story. Just talk to her, if you know or have a feeling that it might be she tired of the same thing, ask her about trying some new things
458702
I see nothing in your words that refer to "love".  All I see is that you aren't "gettin" as much as you used to.  If that's all love means to you then I suggest you go your seperate ways.  If, however, the reduction of sex is just one part of your problems, then seek some professional help.
395443
well one of 3 things could be the source of the problem 1. he doesnt actually care about sex all that much and is just happy being with you 2. feels insecure in bed 3. just might not beable to keep up with or sex drive. just let it lay things will change plus only 4 months in a relationship dont let sex rule the relationship cuz then it will fall apart
1037148
It sounds like your man has low testosterone. This is very common for a guy his age. He can get a blood test by his doctor to see if he suffers from low test. This can be caused by lack of exercise, bad diet, overweight, lazy, and just age. He could try over the counter natural formulas to get him back in the saddle again like enzyte. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Many young people in their upper 20s are going through the same thing now days. I would get him started with finding out what is causing the lack of wanting sex before trying to get new positions established.
598304
Well if your not having sex, unprotected.Then you have nothing to worry about.Have someone go with you and be your comfort.Its not as bad as you think.
607541
I'm assuming you mean that sex isn't as much a part of your relationship as it used to be? That's the way it goes with relationships, at first you can't keep your hands off each other, but after a few months that calms down. The only way to keep that "new love" frequency it to get a new love every 4-6 months. Your alternative is to stick with the love you have now, and be happy that your relationship is morphing into something more substantial than mere physical desire.
464976
It seems that you do not love your girlfriend and should break up with her.\n\nFirst for someone to be intimate with you, you have to make it comfortable for them.  If she is doing nothing, it means that you have not done your job properly.\n\nObviously you are not for her, since you are planning to leave her because she is not having enough sex with you.  Do her a favor and leave.  She is not comfortable with you and you don't love her.
425138
chocolates, seafood and all sorts of things can be recomended to you, but what i recomend the most is your partner himself! I would suggest you do more kissing and more fooling around! light touches everywhere , try not to use your hands , only your mouth and tongue. tell him to do the same to you, let him know your body more! let him explore it again like when u got married, maybe you dont feel that sex drive cause things might have gotten a  little repetitive! do something new! go out of the house if you have kids or teens or whatever and go to another place and make love ther, or use sweet things like cream or chocolate, try to get some scented candles for your room and rose petals, or in the bathtub! \nANY PLACE IS GOOD FOR LOVING WHEN YOU LOVE!!!!!\ndont be afraid to explore new things! kiss his nick and then blow over it ... its nice lol \nand senses tend to react more to light touch! let him kiss you everywhere and do the same give eachother a  massage before making love and dont rush to have sex... its a  gradual thing! \nhope that helps\n\nAlinne
1099406
Sheesh!\nYou need to abstain from sex if it is draining the life force out of you.\nYou've got to stop enjoying yourself so much and start navigating this hell we call our lives. \nSmarten up and get happy, damnit!
211319
i totally agree with you. people think that you have to have sex if you are in a relationship, but it's not true. i was with a guy for almost three years and we never had sex. im proud of myself for that because i proved to myself and other people that you can be in a relationship and stay together without having sex. Good Luck!
811346
Sounds like you've done everything I would have suggested. I guess just keep talking and try to figure some things to make things interesting. Maybe try creating a different type of relationship for awhile. Try not having sex for a year or so and engage in activities that may remind both of you of sex but are in no way related. Go talk to a sex therapist. Sorry, that's the best I got
583909
You like her more than she likes you.\n\nTry and find someone else.  It isn't just the lack of sex, it sounds like she doesn't even really enjoy your company too much.  Life is too short to put up with that.  Find someone who will really love and appreciate you.
555710
Until you said "When I am more than willing to have sex and try new things all the time?" I thought I had the solution for you.  If he's not fulfilling your sexual needs you need to drop him.  Let him play in cyber land and find someone that can appreciate a real woman.
86350
Tell him that sex is a key aspect of your relationship.  Be completely honest with him (and yourself) about how important it really is to you.  My husband's doctor told him that ED is VERY common.  He should know it's nothing to be ashamed of.  If he still doesn't come around, you may need to make alternate arrangements down the road.
552534
You have to decide is this forever problem.. or a "Im just not feeling it" problem.\n\nIs the root of the problem.. you.. him... outside inclunces.\n\nIf you are not feeling it.. and then not being there for him in the bedroom.. things will become damaged.\n\nMen very very often equate love to sex.  Right or wrong.. its a reality.   If you are able to share yourself with him, then you will at least give him a belief that things are ok.\n\nIf you think the problem is not a forever, then I would recommend having relations..but also let him know there is a problem.. and try to work with him about it.\n\nIf you think its all over, then stop the sex and get yourself out the door to move things to where youw ill be happy.\n\nIts better for him and its better for you.  You don't want to be feeling like a "whore" having sex with someone you do not love just for a life.  (Please understand I am not saying you should feel like that.. but that is the natrual next feeling).
253737
Sex is important in a relationship and obviousley most people would not get married or stay married if there was no sex involved. I would not marry someone who did not give me sex either. I do not think it is offensive to think like that. I just think you should tell her and see if she will change, ultimately you might not get what you want and you might and up divorcing her but would it hurt to try and make it work first.
809991
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.