I have truly loved a girl for 8 months now but she has been hurt in past so won't commit-what do I do?
540740
give her time let her no how you feel
295106
SOMETIMES WHEN A RELATIONSHIP REACHES A POINT, THERE IS NO TURNING AROUND.  YOU JUST HAVE TO KNOW YOU WANT THIS AND FORGET THE PAST AND MAKE A COMMITMENT TO MAKE IT WORK.  JUST FORGET ALL THE MUMBO JUMBO AND START FRESH.  DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED THEN, LIVE IN THE NOW.  IF YOU CAN'T STOP FOCUSING ON WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST, IT WILL NEVER WORK.  AND IT IS POSSIBLE TO START NEW WITH A RELATIONSHIP.  I SPEAK 100% FROM EXPERIENCE.  I KNOW THIS IS A DIFFERENT SITUATION,  BUT LISTEN TO MY ADVICE.  IT WORKS.  JUST ASK HER IF SHE WANTS THIS OR NOT.  IF SHE HAS ANY DOUBTS, THEN SHE DOESN'T.  SHE MIGHT EVEN NEED SOME TIME JUST TO SORT THINGS OUT.  SIT DOWN AND HAVE A NICE LONG TALK TO HER AND DON'T BRING UP THE PAST; ONLY THE NOW AND THE FUTURE.  GOOD LUCK.  IF SHE LOVES YOU, SHE'LL STICK WITH YOU.
507321
I guess it's something that ppl hav 2 deal wif..u might probably feel alone,confused..And all you think about is to try to move on but the real thing is, you can't..I went through the same problem too.Fact, I'm actually still stuck!It's hurtful and so confusing realli.It suxs to rejected...Most ppl would say move on...she's not worth it..and realli, she's not. U can't wait for her to accept u..the longer u wait, the deeper u'll go. I mean, she might not feel the same way about u like the way u feel about her. And that's not love. U didn't do anything wrong, it's realli something u hav to accept in life so, at least, try to keep ur mind of her and u may actually realise that there's someone out there which is so much better and will love u like the way u love her...i realli hope this helps..
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unrequited love sucks ass!!!!\ni too am in your boat all you can do honestly is try and stay friends and if something happens which it could quite possibly  could let it happen but remember dont throw yourself out there untill you know she has fallen for you.\nbe yourself and lets hope it wotks out for both of us.\nhope is a great thing my friend and anything is possible
801313
we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
564676
Ask yourself whether you're really in love with her? THink about it. What comes to your mind when you feel that you love her? Could it be that you just miss the times you've spent together. In that case, keep those precious memories but do not let that affect you.\n\nCliche it may sound, but truly loving someone would mean giving happiness to that person. Perhaps she's happier with someone else.\n\nYou know what! You could also maintain a healthy, platonic relationship with her... Be her friend. If you truly like her for who she is, this is a very good way to continue a relationship.\n\nCheers... :)
233156
If it was meant to be than you just need to be yourself, show respect and self-respect and treat her as you would want to be treated.  If she cares any for you than you will know and if it's suppose to happen it will.  If it doesn't than move on and don't look back, always forward.
991908
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
508673
seems like you never let yourself move on...is she willing to move with you? does she want to begin a relationship? you need to speak with her and see where her head is at and make sure you both want to make this work
816916
Enjoy it! It's so sweet. It seems you have fallen in love. I don't know if I would help you if I could. I guess try really hard to focus on what you're doing. breath.. focus.. and get addicted to the work/thing you need to do. You can keep thinking about her after you're done.
177376
I'm sorry that happened to you but maybe she finally realized what she felt for you and that it wasn't enough to take it into the future.  You also don't know if she found somebody else and this could be a possibility.  Please try to move on and consider this a blessing in disguise.  It's better that you found out sooner than later.
373889
Share your feelings with her. Then listen to what she has to say. If she says she loves you and wants to be serious, then it is time to evaluate her actions. If she does what it takes to make you feel loved, and she accepts your love in return, there may be a future for you and her.
485885
How about for now just let her have her space,you cannot force a girl to love you,but you could be kind to her,be there for her when she needs you and then she will slowly start to relize how she feels,also,don't just stick with her,there may be someone else for you,you never know,for now just keep in touch with her and tell her she will be in your mind while you are in London,hopefully she will feel the same way for you in the future,good luck.^^
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hey, leave it out guys he wrote "in love" he's distinguishing between saying he loves her and being "in love". so u say she's great and u must be feeling the butterflies in your tummy and everything.. i know that feeling, i'm still feeling it after six months and loving every minute of it..and i'm glad i took the risk...i wanted to bail at the start because i had been burned badly in the past and was afraid of the really strong feelings i was feeling..afraid of being hurt again\nbut there's no fun without the risk...and there's never a guarantee\n\ntake the chance, enjoy your time with her, if she's as great as u say she is then she won't treat u as a doormat and take advantage of u, love is a two way street... she'll be thrilled to have found a partner who's not afraid to show his feelings!\n\nand it'll work out...\n\nand if it doesn't be glad of the time u had together, of the feelings u felt.. i never thought that i'd be able to open up and let someone in.. but i could and i did and it was the best thing i ever did..\n\ncut the girl some slack, sounds like she's worth it...enjoy the time and good luck :)
366542
The question is does she love you back?  How long were you dating before you broke up?  Me?  I had a relationship for 7 years and I still love him but we grew apart.  I realize now that I love the idea of being with the person I once knew.  If you have not spoken to her in 2 years, she is probably not the person you fell in love with anymore.  I would err on the side of moving on!  Nothing will ever be the same as the relationship that you had with this person.  I guarantee it.  But don't let that close your heart to new and better relationships.  Use what you had with her as a learning experience.  Don't compare her to the other women you date.  That is a fatal mistake.  I know its hard ,but you have to move on with your life in your mind, your spirit and your body.  Please don't hold your relationship with her on a pedestal.  Clear your heart and keep moving!\n*Muah*
272154
tell her exactly how you feel. if she still wants to then yes. establish that you are not interested in anything more serious.
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sounds to me like you're looking for an excuse to wander. if you have to ask why love and loyalty have to come together then i seriously question whether you have ever really felt true love. \nif you feel like you have to "force" yourself to be committed to anyone then you really aren't ready for that committment. that's not wrong. its ok to not be ready. just let her know that although you have strong feelings for her you are still not ready to settle down. just let the girl know that you don't plan on being physically faithful. that is a matter of health as well as heart. if she chooses to stick by you while you make a more firm decision, hurray for you. you found someone who really cares about being with you. \nyou can't be blamed for wanting to explore more of what the world has to offer. i encourage every male AND FEMALE to explore heavily before making a decision to be with that one person. just please let everyone involved that someone else is involved. \nand WEAR A CONDOM.