what to do when u have baby daddy drama?
546115
you made your bed, lay in it. you shouldn't have had sex b4 you married.
481120
My heart really goes out to you, I can't imagine what you are going through with your daughter. It sounds like you have made a great start with the day to day stuff and i think this is the best thing to do -concentrate on each day and don't look too far ahead. Rely on your family and friends and don't stop talking about it, play with your baby and wait. The waiting is the hardest part, but if you take it slowly and don't set a time limit - don't say for example that by next week you will have stopped crying, or that by next month you will be over him and don't judge your own 'get over him' time by someone elses, everybody does things in their own way. But i promise you that if you keep doing what you're doing it will go away, it really will, you just have to wait. Wishing you all future happiness xxxx
383181
Leave. Pack up the kids for a little vacation and leave him a note. Leave a note saying something like, "I am very serious. This is what you are going to come home to one of these days if you do not make some changes. See you Sunday."\nTell the kids you are just taking a mini vacation and Daddy has to work and can't come. Just go away for one night and see if it wakes him up.\nJust a suggestion.
993255
take him to court to, get full  custody ,and point out the:\n no support and no contact of several years and now sudden contact. and joint custody becaues you want to move and get married. the baby`s sperm donor is being spitful. and does not want you to have a life of your choice..you can provied a better life for your daughter..
804046
Stop text messaging.  Ask him if he'd like to be more involved in more parenting.  If not, time is your best friend and leave it to "what-ever-happens-is-for-a-reason"
425017
you need to sit back down with daddy and let him know that although you may have put yourself in the relationship.. no one has the right to hit another. people always have the option to walk away.  tell daddy that even he has made mistakes in his life.. so it is unfair to judge you so harshly.  now you have to be more careful in choosing someone.. and you also have to make sure the ex.. is not around watching you.  you must stay safe. most importantly.. it is not your fault. now if you seek out the same type of man..again.. then i might blame you.  smile. look for the warning signs.. a man who wants to separate you from your family and friends.. a man who wants total control.. a man who is too  good to be true.  a man who calls you constantly and is jealous over everyone you come in contact with. a man who wants to question everything you have done in life. and remember there is mental .. physical and verbal abuse.  do not take it from anyone.  good luck
101220
When he is acting like a baby, just tell him that he needs to be more mature. Don't mention the baby part.
1009863
Just let him talk to his dad on the phone about anything. There's not much you can do. Tell him daddy's at work for a little while. You're not lieing, he does have to work to get some money to come back. Oh, and did you ever think that your husband is lieing to you? Ya'll are having problems and he did leave before, have you thought that maybe he isn't comming back? You have to face reality, he might have found someone else. I know that's not something you're ready to think about, with a son and a child on the way, but some men are azzholes. It might be hard, but you have to do what is best for your children. A: You can sit at home all day and you and your child do nothing to move on with you life waiting on your man. or B: You can get up and do something. I know you're pregnat so maybe right now you're not able to get a job, but you can still take you son to the park, or swiming, or any activity. Something to keep his mind off his daddy gone for so long. And if your husband does come back, then everythings great, if he doesn't come back, then you've already started on taking his mind off of his dad, and you have built a good relationship with your child. And remember, what ever you're feeling with your emotions you're unborn baby can feel them too.
202865
If the baby daddy acts like he doesn't love u why wast your time. I say get rid of him, keep the affair and the rite one will come along oneday. you're still very young. The main thing is that you don't want to marry if ur not happy.
1067652
Let the child be with daddy as much as possible.\nEspecially if dad wants him/her around. Children\ndon't understand the problems that cause parents to\nbreakup. Love the child, let daddy play a big role in life,\neven if it cause you discomfort. The child will love you more\nfor it and when he/she grows up your child will understand\nthe sacrifices you made and be also more understanding.\nSorry, I am assuming you are separated from the child's dad.\nIf not, be thankful that daddy is such a great guy and is loved\nby this beautiful child.
829973
Make the choice for him and leave. Tell him you'll come back when he seeks therapy. You don't need this drama in your life.
570448
just ignore them. u have a beautiful healthy child & she is yours. ppl will say a lot of stuff sometimes just out of curiousity & sometimes just to annoy u. it's no big deal really. enjoy being with yr daughter =)
43786
you can drag out the relationship but if he makes those kinds of comments now they won't ever go away. don't tell yourself you can just deal with it either because you don't have to and if you do it will blow up in the end anyway. not to mention, you're going to have a child to consider too. do you really want to raise a child in that atmosphere?
255032
Get a restraining order!  Sounds like a stalking situation to me!  I know he is your babys father but let him know- LEAVE ME ALONE its not gonna happen bubba!  Good Luck with your new man!  were u two married or just a boyfriend?
329967
Out of respect for his baby and his wife... leave him alone. You will always be number 3. He is using you and betraying you. How could you allow someone to treat you like that?
153732
First off, you need to ascertain what is the root of the babymama drama and is it actually drama or just normal interaction?  If it isn't real drama, then you don't have to 'deal' with it, you just have to learn to quit worrying about it. \n\nIf it is in fact drama, then what is the cause of the drama? Is the mother making unrealistic or unfair demands of your boyfriend? Is she rude and impolite to you? Maybe she is just outright nasty? If she is just impolite, then shame on her, but you are dating and true or not, in her mind sleeping with a man she once had feelings for. You will just have to learn do cope with her OR you have to get out of the situation. Those are the ONLY two viable solution.  Being mean back will only make things worse. Remember, using kindness to cancels out negativity usually works...eventually.  Using negativity to stop negativity NEVER works. \n\nIf the babies mother is making unrealistic or unfair demands on your boyfriend. Does she get upset if she calls unexpectedly at 6:00 PM on Friday asking him to come take the child because she wants to go out and then gets angry because he refuses? Does she get mad because he won’t give her more money then the state requires him to? If she is one of these woman, then again, you have two choice... learn to live with it or leave your boyfriend.  If you are going to stick by his side, then you may want to keep a note book of all the unreasonable things she asks. Every time she causes drama, I would right down the date and time as well as a brief description of what transpired. This way, if she gets crazy and decides to go to court over something, you have a full record of EVERYTHING. \n\nNow the tough question... Is it your boyfriends fault that this is going on?  Does he pay his child support? Does he pay it on time? Does he show up for visitation when he is suppose to or is he always late? Does he take care of the  Child properly or when he drops the child off with the mother is the Childs cloths always filthy, hair a mess or diaper in need of changing? If you think the babymama drama is at least partially his fault, then keep in mind that what you see him doing now COULD be what you will be experiencing in the future.  Remember, abstinence is the only 100% way to be certain you will not get pregnant. Even if you use the pill and a condom combined there is always a slim chance you could still get pregnant and then you could be the next round of babymama drama. \n\nJust keep in mind a few simple points:\n1- The way he treats his current child is a glimpse of how he could treat your child is the relationship develops further. \n2- How he treats his ex could be how he treats you when the relationship gets old or is over.\n3- Not all woman are ideal mothers. So don't assume that just because the babies mother complains all the time that it is your boyfriends fault.\n4- <IMPORTANT> No matter what the mother or father do, it is NOT the child's fault. \n5- <VERY IMPORTANT> When you enter into a relationship with someone who has children, you are in essence agreeing to deal with the complications of that situation. If things get tough, you ultimately have three choice. 1) Get out! Leave the relationship and don’t look back. 2) Ignore the problems and pretend as if they do not exist. Who knows, they may go away. (I wouldn’t count on it though) 3) Stand beside the person you care about and help as best as you can.  (Just make certain that he is in the right.)  What you do is your choice. \n6- No one is responsible for your actions but you. If the babies mother annoys you, it's because you allow her to get to you. If she makes you mad and you say something hurtful, isn't not that "She made you." It that YOU CHOSE to. If you stay with you boyfriend, it's because YOU chose to be with him. If you leave him, it's not because of the mother of his child, it's because YOU CHOSE not take the drama any longer.
635279
just try to creat some small talk about things at home, neighbourhood etc. if he's mad, and you are at fault probably you should apologise. sometimes even its not completely your fault also probably you need to apologies as well. all dads are quite alike, they just want the attention and respect when they come to that age regardless of whether they really deserve it or not.\nif all your effort goes down the drain, let him cool off and try again another day.