How do I get my lover to leave his partner?
547400
this sounds like there are a lot of emotional issues that need to be looked into. I think you better have a straight forward talk with your friend, you are right, no one should be abused in a relationship, but it sounds like he has issues if its been two years , he has someone nice and he still stays with this other one. who pays the rent? is he a kept man? alot of questions to be answered.
601723
Stop doing se*, stop looking se*y films, stop talking se*y chat,\n\n   Then 1 fine day start doing se* with ur partner after 10 days, DEFINITELY YOU WILL ENJOY AND GIVES MORE PLEASURE TO YOUR PARTNER.\n \n           "HAPPY SE**"
958487
ummm..leave him.   you needed an asnwer to that?!?!?!?!
351687
Get pissed off and fuck his brains out, then do not call or talk to him for a while.  If he knows whats good for him, which is only you, he will stay with you and drop the other one.
430982
Sounds like your man is just a Neanderthal - if he is not willing to at least listen to your hopes and ideas then he is not worth the time and emotion that you are putting into the relationship. \n\nIf you can not leave him you are going to put yourself through a life time off submissive behaviour that will eat at your personality until you really don't have one, just a bad reflection of your partners egotistical ideas of what a wife should be. \n\nYou have to force him to listen and if he still refuse leave him - if he loves you at all this will cause him to come to a realisation that he does have to listen to you. if he is still not prepared to listen to you, then he does not love you but wants to posses you like he would a car, house ect and you are better of without him.
123076
Just tell him you don't want to be together anymore.  Then leave and start your new relationship.  If you are married you need to file for divorse then move on.\nYou need to have time on your own it sounds like.  Make up your mind on what you want.  Then start thinking of who you want to be with.
1032033
The most important thing for you is to stick to what you say you will do. That is, if you finish with him, you must finish. No going back or he still has you but gets to keep you at arms length. Tell him you want 100% or 0% and stick to it. If he begs after you tell him its over,and you want him back, you would want to see a VERY big change in him. He needs to back up his words with action. Be strong and stick to your guns. Good luck!
81816
IF THE PERSON IN QUESTION IS CONTROLLING YOU IN SOME ASPECT'S, THEN YOU NEED TO LEAVE THAT PERSON BECAUSE THE PERSON'S GOING TO WIND UP HITTING YOUR OR POSSIBLY WORSE.\n\nIF YOU'RE STAYING JUST FOR THE KID'S, THEN GOTO  AN AGENCY THAT WILL HELP YOU AND THE OTHER PERSON WITH THE PROBLEM'S THAT YOU BOTH ARE HAVING DUE TO THIS NATURE!\n\nTRY TO GET THEM TO GOTO COUNSELLING, MAYBE, THAT'LL HELP FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO GET BETTER AND BLSSOM.
184423
Then leave, its that simple.  If you are not happy and neither of you are going to change, you will never be happy with him.
716651
pretty interesting. I know that they will follow people from one place to another. If you want him to leave, you may want to try telling him that he is not wanted there, that he needs to go back to his house, or even encourage him to head for the light.  there are people that could help you find out what he wants. check with a medium for what to do...\nI know some people think this is crazy, but they piss-on stuff they do not understand, because they have tiny little closed minds!
1104965
Well you can throw a hissy fit about him leaving and make him feel so bad that he stays but you feel guilty and he'll never know what he could've done if he would've left. Or, you can let him go and be totally supportive!! I choose choice # 2!! Letting someone go is really hard and no-one really wants to say goodbye to anyone.. especially their significant other!! Let him know how you feel about him moving but if he is going to move and you can't stop him, show him that you're the kind of girlfriend he needs in his life. A supportive and down chick!! Good luck hon!! i know how hard that is!! Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!!
624349
Try compromising.Relationships change with time. Just go with the flow.
294084
There are no best ways to break up with a partner, specially when he's gonna suffer more than us, it will definetely hurt!\nBut I guess a good way to break up would be to be really honest, to say the truth in a polite way, not to try to make him think things that aren't really true, I mean, not telling him that U don't have someone else if U know that U have him, or not telling him that U still love him but want to be alone for a little while, if U know U don't love him anymore.\nSo... as hard as it is... THE TRUTH is just the best way to make it a little easier for both of U.
272578
my god....\nwhy dont u clearly talk to him.\nask him to stop jumping around. he isnt loving u but taking advantage of ur love just keeping u as backup for bad time of his. \nu r a person, u love him, u too get hurted. u too have value. make him realize this. have a serious talk on this.\n\nif he dont love u, then dont let him messup wth u again n again. be clear, it will hurt u but its better than being victim. tell him either he can be wth u totally loyal or just stay away from u. he is confused in his life, he dont know what love n whats value of it. good serious talk can make him undertand this, n if he is really a good person them he will value u or wont hurt u more. otherwise he is crook.\nlove is from both sides, both have to give n take. i can understand u doing him for pure love, but have value for urself. i guess u r treating him very softly n freedom, u r letting him do any thing he wants. he has to realize that u love him so he cant jump around. when its love then its wth just wth 1 person.\n\ni understand u love him, ur heart melts for him n it makes u accept him again n again though he is doing crap. u cant do it forever, talk n decide what he actually want u or anyother.  if he REALLY dont love u then bear wth some pain n keep him away. just give him a option that he come to u only when he is very serious n forever.\nkeep ur door open to him, but dont let him just taking ur advantage. be strict n let him come to u wth a condition that he wont leave u again. be strict, be lil over emotions u can accept him any time becoz u really love him, be proud of it. but be strict to value urself as person. u r not just a thing to play. be strict so it will save u from emotional n mental damage.\n\nwhen he comes to u agian, make sure he got everything clear n he is loyal, he has his mind set on u tatally then accept him.....be happy that u got ur love forever.
803721
Get rid, I don't think anybody should be controlled. Find somebody who loves you and is genuine. Just because he is sweet it does not mean he can't be nasty. He's shown his true colours. No women deserves to be manipulated and grounded. Good Luck
49360
you cant...however if this person pushes you away constantly, tell them how you feel, if that doesnt help, leave them be, sooner or later, they will come to terms
756751
He cant decide himself. It seems he dont really love you. But he want to keep it warm. It seems also that you cant be consequent. This leads to an neverending vicious circle. In my opinion (please ask very lot people and compare) you should quit definitively. Cause your "lover" knew he can do what he wants you will take him back any time. It is also your fault. You let him do this. Dont let you sell at less than fair value. Tell him that you are not his baby anymore and make yourself scarce. Or bether forget him. There are other mothers with nice sons. Because he will not change. He will also not notice your value. And you will also not learn to be consequent so fast.\nSorry about my englisch hope you can read it.