how dyo no wen u can trust a personn n do ppl deserve 2nd chances?
536853
you can only know that you trust someone unless you feel it in your heart if you know for a fact that they havent broken a promis or lied to you then you should be able to trust them but watch your back cuz ppl do change and i believe that ppl do deserve a second chance cuz everyone makes mistakes and they learn from them "sometimes" but after they break there second chance then they are no good and you dont deserve to trust them watch and listen for bullcrap lies if someone is telling you something and you dont really feel it in your heart and if something is telling you that something isnt right then usually its a lie so just be carefull and listen to your heart dont let anyone fool you and dont let your mind interfear with your heart and LOOK OUT FOR LIES!!!! and you sould be fine\n\nhope this helps\ngood luck
247795
If i was you id give her that second chance, but lay down the law and say 2 her that if she does it again, you r leavin her and defo not comin bak 2 her no more b/c she cant keep puttin u through what she is puttin u through, and also ask her 2 find another job if it gets 2 bad and if yous want it 2 work. The trust will come bak soon or later :)
751551
I agree with RaRa. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Who needs to worry everytime you are not with him that he may be up to no good? Be with someone you can trust!
781788
Trust is earned, never freely given.\n\nBeing burned a few times myself has made me very cautious about who I trust, but relationships are built on trust.  So, what does one do?\n\nWell, it is a kind of process, I have found.  One only metes out trust a little at a time, starting at "friendly."  From there on, it is a gradual process where one observes what they say and do to see if the two match.  After a while, one learns to trust the other when it is shown that they are trustworthy.\n\nBe friendly, mete out your trust a little at a time, and always be observant and pay attention to any "red flags" about the guys behavior.\n\nOne admonition: the road goes two ways.  Be a person who is fair, honest, and trustworthy yourself.  He'll probably be watching you as well!\n\nGood luck!
571510
How do you learn to trust again?\n\nSlowly, and cautiously. Use time to both heal your wounds, and give him opportunities to prove he is worthy of your trust. It's alot like that whole "first kiss" thing. No one can tell you when the right time is. Your heart has to let you know "Ok, it's fine", and that may or may not be right away. So you have to constantly ask yourself how you feel about it.
222946
ask yourself if you'll ever forgive him cause if you cant you wont be able to forget, trust has to be earned, can he earn yours back.
984025
Trust just like respect is not something that is handed to you in a relationship it is earned.  This is your proving ground now, a second chance in a sense, you earn trust by being trust worthy.  Show her you can be trusted and won't lie again unless you want a nose like Pinocchio!  : ^ )
160473
Basically in life, everyone lies. If not they aren't homosapiens. To trust someone is a very difficult thing to do. Before you can start trusting someone, ask yourself this question, "Do I trust anyone in the first place?" You must sacrifice something in order to gain something. You are afraid that someone lied to to you. Is the matter a big one or a small one or it's just your feeling? The best way is to ask the person directly in a gentle manner. People lie but you must never keep that anger/worry in you. Learn how to forgive and forget as it could be the best remedie in living a happier life!
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
1011925
You cant mate - in business its hard enough trustin people you know!! You will find out in life that the only person you can trust is YOU - and some people cant even do that!!!!!!.
350968
..you probably dont think you can trust him because what has happened before..and i know exactly how you feel i havent been able to really trust a guy in over a year and im workin on it really hard and anytime i started to get somewhere with a guy all that i can think about is how much that other guy hurt me but i have to let go of the past and im tryin to figure out a way to do that too..but you are just goin to have to try your hardest to get over what has happen before..you might think you are completely over that but your probably not because you belive your boyfriend now..you just have to let your guard down with the chance of you gettin hurt again but sometimes its worth it/
552738
Once you loose the trust of a person it is not so easy to regain it, if at all!
656154
Has this person ever hurt you before? Lied to you? Gone after something that was yours? Taken something that was not theirs to take? Cheated and you knew about it? Shared a secret you told them? Gone behind your back and told something about you?  If the answer to all these questions are no, then you can pretty much bank on the fact that you have someone you can trust. If the answer to any or most are yes, look very carefully before you leap!!
807613
ALL people are selfish but to different extents\n\nif somebody let you down it doesn't mean you should completely stop trusting people - just be more careful who you trust next time
112931
I could forgive but I wouldn't stay with someone who had cheated on me. A good relationship has to be based on trust and love. Without the strong foundation of trust, the relationship will crumble. After someone has cheated you would always have to wonder and worry. Each time they were late, or didn't call, or acted differently you would wonder if they were cheating again. You can't have a good, loving, trusting relationship under those circumstances. I would also strongly doubt their love for me if they cheated. If someone truly loves you, then they wouldn't want to cheat on you. In their mind there would be noone better than you and they wouldn't risk the relationship with you for something as superficial as sex with someone they aren't in love with.
200914
I gave one guy a second chance and he did it again.  Proceed with caution.  If you're faithful you absolutely have the right to expect the same from return. He's accusing you because he'll feel better if you both did it.
425543
It wouldn't really be a second chance if you hooked back up because you will make him pay for his mistake until you get even.If he endures the punishment because he loves you so much you can live happily ever after.