He says he has a problem with cheating but he loves me and wants to make it work. What do i do?
539150
Girl, please move one. Run, run to the hills. the truth of the matter is you can never change a man. Sometimes I think deep down inside we know the answer, its just we dont want to hear it and its been clouded by our emotions. You love him, so let him go. If he really loves you he will come back a reformed man. Give yourself more time and space. It seems loving this man is bringing you more pain that joy,and love aint supposed to be that way!
547965
Tell him you love him and that you woudn't cheat on him and that it hurts you. Tell him that if he won't stop, he would lose you 'casue you can't have a realtionship without trust!
645675
You just got played! No one made him do anything he didn't want to do. He cheated on you. Period. Can you live with that? Your answer to that question should tell you what to do.
28357
First I would validate that s/he indeed is cheating.\n\nS/he might have other issues that you are not aware of.\n\nConfront the person if possible, in a non-hostile manner.
383818
this is so hard for you both, trust is going to take a long time to build and you will wonder where he is what he is doing, if you truly want the relationship to work you both have to work together give and take talk about each others fears and expectations of one another and do not throw it in each others faces in a row, your relationship can work if you can forgive but the trust will take the time
192863
I say that if you are going to marry this man than start off with a clean slate. Do not judge him for some thing that he did when you were not around, and I'm assuming that he did not cheat with you. Give him all of your trust until he breaks it.
703133
Let him have real love, and let him go.\n\nYou obviously don't love him enough. He needs something more. Get out so you both don't end up cheated in the end, I'm dead serious.
228749
Leave him.  I'm normally not into giving flat-out answers, but this time I will.  The relationship is clearly toast.  If he can't get over it, then your cheating basically ended the relationship, and once the trust is gone, the relationship is gone.  That's one of the few laws of relationships- no trust, no dice.  Just let it go, start over, and don't mess up next time around.
62558
If he truly wants to be with you and you want to be with him, you should be able to work out whatever his issues are together.  Move on!
116127
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.
981481
Oh my gosh. That cheating little....!!! is how most people would react but be above that. Sit and talk with him and if he truly loves you then he will let HER  go to be with you. You are probably better than her anyway but keep level headed and you will most likely steer clear of trouble. Good luck and I wish you the best.
945260
i think you need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk. ASk him if he is happy with you or tired of you. don't want to scare you but from experience, sounds like he is cheating on you.   Good luck and God bless
127026
I'm sorry but if he is constantly cheating on you then he doesn't love you. You wouldn't hurt someone u love. I am assuming that his cheating hurts u.
779022
Well, if he already cheated on you once, there is a possible that he could be doing it once again. But you never know, sometimes that is not the case. Well, also, it's ok for you to have lost the trust that you had in him because of what he did. I think that you can either wait and see if more things are weird or you can talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication and honesty is the best thing in a relationship and maybe that will work. About being concerned, I think you should be if he is trying to go on with that plot. (Which I really doubt). I think that you need to keep calm unless you see more wrong things but still be cautious.
928564
You STOP now....he has crossed the line by revealing anything to do with his marriage.\n\nSecondly, he may be a predator, the tactic of playing on the emotional "mothering" instinct of a female is a classic move to get some on the side.\n\nIf you decide to continue this relationship you are becoming the "other woman" and a home wrecker.  Cheating is a choice, you making the choice to enable his cheating is just as bad.\n\nWhat he has told you is he isn't leaving, but he will have sex with you.  Lust is different than love....and he doesn't love you enough to get a divorce.
138079
i think he's gotta commitment problem. if u go w/ him, he shows signs of being a potential cheater. go 4 someone else! u can do better.
309031
I think he's going to end up cheating on you again.  He continues to lie, and obviously still has feelings for this other woman.  Knowing that you both have been unfaithful makes me think that there are some serious problems in your relationship that you just aren't willing to address or work out.  I know that being with someone for that long can make leaving them all that much harder, but you need to step away from the relationship.  Yes you were both wrong, but that doesn't mean he can't forgive you and stop holding your actions over you head.  Have you forgiven him?  There really is no trust in your relationship anymore and I just don't see a realtionship working out in the long run if the partners can't trust each other.  Hope this helps, good luck!