Is it wrong to give your kids gifts that you gave to the other sibling two birthdays in a row?
552404
Yes, it's wrong. Your son deserves his own new presents. If you want to pass on the older stuff to him, do it, but not as his birthday present. He's going to feel cheated and resentful. As well he should!
514844
You should listen to your mom. She's the one who will have most of the responsibility that a new child would add to the family. Two children is not an unreasonably small family. Financial concerns, housing accommodations, quality of time to devote to the children---these are all things that are considered beyond your desire to have more siblings. She may also be looking toward the future when you and your sibling are grown and on your own. This isn't selfish---being able to reconnect with your dad with just the two of them while they are still young enough to enjoy themselves (and possibly grandchildren) is a real blessing. More children is something your parents need to agree on. Be happy that you have your sister.
848504
Same boat and it hurts. Big hug from me to you. \nWell I wouldn't spend alot, but yes have something the kids can open and play with. They're gonna want to take the gifts with them too. You can't do anything about the parents. \n\nDo any of them understand that we won't be here forever.
408566
Um, if they're living in the same household, then it's only courdial to invite everyone.  Yes, it is your day and it should be planned out to your specifications, but think about the "bad-blood" that could be created or spared based or your decision to just let someone show up and hey....maybe give you an extra gift.  It's worth it to me to suck it up.  Besides, there will be so many other people there, it isn't like you have to sit and hold hands with him/her the entire time and be like "look who I invited, right here, uh huh, see who came, blah blah blah."
874808
Marcia and the mother were wrong, and this is not what etiquette has come to.\nNo matter what the gift, you should always find a way to express your appreciation of the gift. Even if Sara just called you or sent a free ecard, you should have gotten some thanks for all the time, effort, and thought you put into her gift. \nAnd it's not tacky to give a gift not on a registry. Gift registries are a fairly new idea, and it's only a suggestion of what gifts to buy. It's not a requirement, nor should it be treated as such. The couple selected things as a "wish list" for their wedding, and no one is under any obligation to buy off of that list. \nYou wouldn't think it was rude for a relative to buy things that weren't on your child's Christmas wish list, nor would you tell your child it was acceptable to not send a thank you (card or even a phone call) for the gift. Same thing when you get down to it. \n\nBTW, your gift really showed how much you cared for her. You knew her well enough to know that she was devastated by the loss of all her personal belongings, and wanted to help bring back those memories. I think that by far it was one of the best gifts you could have given. Material objects can be bought at any time, by any one, and a registry doesn't take any thought to buy off of. What you did was a beautiful thing for your friend, and it's a crying shame that Marcia and Sara's mother couldn't appreciate what you did for Sara. Hopefully Sara doesn't share their greed or rudness.
673195
With my 3 kids I give them money or with the youngest one I give stickers and when he gets to 10 stickers he gets a surpise..it works with mine..but they are only 3, 4 and 5 years old.
13421
why wouldnt you want to???? I sure would, besides think about how your son/daughter would feel if you have a picture of thier sibling in your wallet and not them, \nand just becuase kids are "Identical" doesnt mean they are... remember each child is thier own person identical or not. they may not have the same birthmark in the same place, thier eyes may be anothe color, but the look the same, or one might be taller then the other, so would you take a family photo with out one of the kids in it? i wouldnt.
740920
well i have step brothers and sisters and each year we shop for eachother andhe got me a book and put some money in it \nand so this year im buying him a wallet and putting money in it or u can buy a good dvd and put the money on the case (2 gifts in one) or simply just buy a cd case and put like 50 one$ bills in ittry to put each $ in a seprate cd holder for more fun.....gimme a break tho im only16
1176271
I think give them to her when you first see her.  \nI have a five year old and three year old, and I haven't seen some of my friends for a long time.  They don't have kids yet.  I would want to know that they were interested in meeting my kids, or okay with me bringing them along.  Giving a gift is a great way to show that you support her as a mother and you're totally okay with her bringing the kids around.
982389
Yes they should.  If rules are good for one, they should be good for all.  But the two of you need to sit down and discuss, first, what kind of rules you have for each set of kids.  Compromise on some if need be.  But make sure all the kids have the same rules or it could look like a game of favoritism is being played.
877797
no, thats not why i give presents.\n\ntomorrow, me & my friend might go pay my somewhat-bf and his friend a visit at the mall. we turned down an offer to go see a movie with them, but we got the idea to maybe surprise them for fun. \n\ndoes that count?
792915
You should include  your BF in the number of people coming from your family in the  RSVP.  I think I would have been offended  if my good friend  invited my sister but not me personally  in the invitation. why did'nt she send it  to you and  include your sister in the "  rest of the family"?  I'd just let it slide though and just wish your friend and her hubby wishes for a long life together.  This is'nt  bad enough to ruin your friends day over.Yes,you should buy them a gift too.
893235
One year for x-mas maybe when i was about 10 and my sister was 8, she gave me a piggy bank for x-mas. But it wasnt any piggy bank. It was my piggy bank.  She had stolen it from me a week or two earlier to be mean and gave me my own bank for xmas. I guess she felt guilty.\nAnd at least she left the change in it.
802441
You can invite him for dessert. It would be a polite thing to do and also a good example for your kids. When they are older they will appreciate this kind of gesture.
330260
I'm the youngest, and yes babied more than my older brothers and sisters.\n\nSometimes it's good, because everyone wants to help me and buy me things (I get more at Christmas than everybody else, and I'm not a child anymore).
937097
I am a foster parent. These kids get a set amount of money for Christmas, one thing I NEVER do is spend the exact amount if I did these kids would have very little. People are always donating money and gifts. I feel if you can make one child happy it is worth it. Ionce bought a kid a cd walkman for his birthday the expression on his face  made me cry. It was something so simple that did it and it meant so much to him. \nThe second link is where you can make a donations it is also on the site of the first link. Thank you in advance if you decide on the site I gave you!
707693
Have you talked to your local Mothers of Multiples/Mothers of Twiins Club?  I know that our club has a charity fund.  I'm not from the Boston area so I don't have any specifics.  Also, remember that at 2 years old they won't fully appreciate Christmas gifts.  My cousins kids always end up just playing with the boxes and gift wrap!\n\nGood luck from a mom of 10 month old twins!