ls it  possible to forgive and forget?
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To err is human to forgive is Divine. In the Bible it is written..."how many times I will forgive my brother?,Jesus answered...I tell you more than 77 times.Jesus Christ is the ultimate example of forgiveness. That's why it is said that focus in you eyes in Him. It is not easy to forgive nor to forget, sometimes we want to screw down the people who hurt us or we wish that they suffer more than we suffer..sometimes we hope that what they do against us will come back against them....but in this character..we plant hatred and vengeance in our heart which produces more conflicts in our lives..more complicated situations and which result to our own destruction...It is not easy to forgive and really forget but sometimes when you think or do the things that is impossible for you...we can also find forgiveness in our hearts. I do not blame people who can't forgive nor forget yet it is so possible to forgive and forget...It only matters on each of our hearts. Forget the past and strain forward, when your still dealing on your past,you will not grow up...Go ahead forget what is behind and you will discover for yourself the forgiveness in your heart.
454880
Forgiveness is tough, but it liberates us in the same way that God's forgiveness frees us. If you never say "I forgive" then you will never let go of the hurt. The past will haunt your present and your future. Forgiving does not erase the hurt, but it will free you from the threat the hurt will stick with you for life. You can pray this prayer "Help me learn from you, dear Jesus, how to forgive, so that I might live fully and freely. Amen"
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You can't simply erase the past, or stop thinking about it, unless something goes wrong with your memory, because the past is part of the present. What I recommend you to do, which is I am doing now, is trying to live with this past even if you didn't like what happened. We can't change the past, we can't go back and fix the mistakes we've done, others have done or circumstances brought; but for sure we can start new everyday and change the things we're dealing with now.
100997
It is quite possible that she really does regret her actions and will never do it again, especially since she told you.  But, having been in your situation before, I've found it extremely hard to "forgive and forget."  Both of you have to be really committed to make the relationship work after a major setback like that, but if she is truly sorry and you think you can trust her again, it should all work out.
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ask yourself if you'll ever forgive him cause if you cant you wont be able to forget, trust has to be earned, can he earn yours back.
41703
I wish I could say "forgive" and forget. But "once a cheater-always a cheater." Actually, if you will listen to the wisdom that is inside of you, you already know what to do . . . \n\nThe reality is that being able to cheat is a huge character flaw. It means that person does not respect you or themselves. Plus, that person is able to lie and not feel guilty enough about it to break and tell the truth. I am no kid ~~ and if you are young, please learn from those of us who have been around the block and few times ~~ respect yourself and without a lot of drama -- tell the guy goodbye.  \n\nAre there ever cheaters who change? Yes, but you will find that those who have usually had a deep life-changing religious experience. Those who are "sorry" and say "they will never do it again" without a deep internal overhaul, are the ones who cheat again. \n\nI have experienced it all. I have been cheated on, I have been hurt until I didn't think I could hurt any more, I have forgiven, and I have been hurt right back again. This is not a vindictive response. This is a word from one older sister to a younger one -- stay away from the cheaters. They will only break you heart.
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:) forgiveness. it is not gonna be easy. but if you love him, it is possible. concentrate on your own life, live your life beautifully and earn back all the confidence, trust through yourself before you try work things out with him again. you definitely need time to make it happen. and if you were to always remind yourself about that lie, you'll never get over it because you have made it a part of your life. I've experienced unfaithfulness of my boyfriend, it happened about half a yr ago but everytime i think of it or when i see the girl, i can feel the hurt so fresh. it won't be healed fast but i believe that you have to start with forgiveness then only you can try forget. don't remind yourself about it, when the thought comes, push it aside. you don't need to familiarise it to help you to forget.
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Time will ease your pain, it isn't something you can't change over night, it took me 3 years to finally forget about a past love. We shared a lot of things and to get over home it is hard, I was married for two of the three years it took me to forget about him, it is part of the normal healing process. But remember, nothing is gonna change your situation. Life doesn't stop and wait for you to live it it keeps on going, so you are only missing out. The best remedy is to keep on living. It was better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.
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When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
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I believe anything can be forgiven in time.  Even 21 years of abuse from a parent (which I dealt with) was forgiven, albeit because the man died and I had to learn to cope with it all, but I still forgave.  Just remember that forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting.
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Well it's not realy that hard. I also got a lil problrm that i am in with my friens but I will tell u what i think. If they are realy true friends they will forgive u no matter how big ur lil problems are. I know it is sometimes hard to admit that u might be wrong or that u were or are wrong but soetimes it is the best thing to do. But yea anyways alway forgive but u don't have to forget.
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You can always forgive, there are no limitations there. You can never forget because once something has been done the memory will always be there. The real question should be should you forgive and that will depend upon a lot of factors. Is this a constant reoccurring problem? Is your friend hurting you intentionally or is s/he just not tactful or too bright? If the hurting is intentional I would point that out to the friend and tell them that if they value your friendship their behavior will need to come to a stop. If they refuse to stop they are not a true friend and you would be better off not associating with them anymore.
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It's absolutely necessary to forgive yourself.  If you don't, you'll carry the guilt around.  So, yes, you can do it.\n\nIf you're having a hard time being able to do that, I would seek out a good pastoral or therapist referral.  Forgiveness is critically important in all aspects of life.
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I think it is possible to start over. That's the beauty of love, it can stand the test of time and many hardships. Not to say that it wouldn't take a tremendous amount of effort on both sides whether it was asking or granting forgiveness. If two people are meant to be together then even the worst experiences and longest separations cannot keep them apart, or I would like to think that.
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It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.
575416
You can't! You blew it! Time to move on. A woman will forgive, but she will never forget. Neither should you and next time you meet someone you really care about, consider not doing things that will make her not trust you.
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I tend to forgive - even the worst things that have ever been done to me because people don't realize that moving on takes forgiveness. Even when it seems impossible to forgive those who may have done horrible things to us in our lives, we should forgive them - not so much for them as for our own sanity and well-being. It takes courage but it is possible to forgive even the worst things that have happened. It helps me get some kind of closure and peace inside which holding onto things never provides. Holding on and never letting go makes everything stay ao alive - so real and so unforgettable.\n\nOf course, there are those things that I cannot forget - unfortunately... words said, things that have happened. The human mind just does not seem to forget these things no matter how hard you with it would - we remember... I remember. And that is why the forgiveness is so essential - because we remember and everytime we do, it is not healthy for feelings of hate, anger, or sadness to overwhelm us. It is living in the past and that is not good for anyone.\n\nI was never the one to hold onto things, never apologize, stay in an arguement, etc - it is just not in me. I do not cope well with any conflicts so I am the one who apologizes even when I am not the one who should.. I just can't stand tension - escpecially with those that you know you love and who love you.. I see it as so pointless and such a waste of time - I always did. And I think I forgive people too easily sometimes perhaps.. just so we can move on and so no one stays hurt any longer. I am just that kind of person. \n\nSo, I don't forget - because I can't. But - I do forgive, sometimes just for my sake - to ease my own pain and to try to let go and move on.\n\n:o)