My husband says no to Baby , but i want it , i am desparate. Is pregnancy by accident , a good option ?
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Don't do it. Respect your husband's wishes. If you try to trick him, although he will love the child, he will know that you tricked him and he will NEVER forgive you or trust you again. Indeed, he may well go off and have a vasectomy if you do this, which will mean no more children after that first one - do you want that? Think very long and hard before taking this step because it will almost certainly backfire on you.\n\nIt makes no difference if you get pregnant now or 6 months from now - there will still be a baby at the end of it. He is not saying absolutely no babies. He is saying no babies for the next few months. If you only married recently or you are both young, I can understand why he wants to wait. \n\nTry to still your impatience. Instead, use the time to prepare your body for pregnancy. Eat well. Exercise and lose weight if you need to. Get yourself onto a really good vitamin programme so that when your husband is ready for a child, you maximise your chances of conceiving and delivering a healthy child. Most of all, enjoy the time the two of you get to spend together without a child because once it comes, you will get NO PEACE for the next 20 years.
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Yes you can get pregnant, but personally I think you're just freaking out. Sounds like more of a mental than physical issue with you.
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You should be more specific.  Are YOU having trouble or your other half.\n\nBeing pregnant can make a lot of things go through both of your minds.  Sex is no problem unless there's a complication and you should ask your doctor.  For a man it can be a problem just because of the psychological part not wanting to do any harm to the baby.
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After 30, it is best healthwise to avoid having children (I don't care what the quack doctors tell you). Why does he want more?? Addition of children taxes the family budget and time. It is your body, and you have the right to not want this. Motherhood is an acquired taste, and it sounds like you have had enough of it (at least the pregnancy, diapers, loss of sleep, etc..) Is your husband willing to bear a part of that load - if not, this should be no contest. If he is willing to follow through with needed help, then it is up to you since you will be in misery for about 9 months. Either way, you both need to want this because negative effects will come if you don't buy into it. Be truthful when you talk to your husband, but be firm about your stand. He may deep down want a son of his own blood, but that is not a good enough reason to tax the family, and there is no guarantee of the sex of a child. My wife and I tried three times to have a daughter, but we ended up with three sons (I do have a precious granddaughter now). Anyway, good luck on resolving the standoff.
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The last thing you want to do is pu him in a situation where he is uncomfortable to have a child.  don't push him.  It will come in time.
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I am pro-choice too but if it's not your choice then it's not the same. You can't let him make you feel pushed into this. It's a big decision. OK there's a risk that it will be still born of miscarry. But if there is any chance that you will have a perfectly healthy baby then You should do what you feel in your heart is right. Sit him down and explain how you feel and maybe he'll see where your coming from. You need top think about yourself and that little child inside you. If you do abort it, you'll always be wondering if it might have been OK.After all you have already got one perfectly healthy child, who's to say you can't have another? Just don't make any rash decisions. There's too much at stake.
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Honestly it is your body ... your choice!\n\nYet be responsible if you get preganant ... it is no longer you alone we aretalking about ...\n\nHow to get him out of His pants ....\n\ntell him upfront ... " Baby ... I know you respect me and stuff ... But I am only human ... I need you .. (inside me)."
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Angel , on 12June if u have conceived...sure u r in hurry and anxious to have a baby...but its not 1+1=2 its more then that...just doing it is doesn't make u conceive every time...just relax and leave it to god..don't get too optimistic it will only put pressure on u..which is not at all good to get pregnant. wishing u good luck
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Look if there is anything That I have learned in this life it is that you always go with your gut feeling it is a six sence that all women have and if it is telling you that something is not right, then something is not right. now I will not tell what to do with your life but my opinon is that you take your baby into consideration okay,ask your self a few questions \n1.Do I really want to raise my baby in a houehold with a man that i cant trust and baisicly teach my baby that this type of crap is normal? and this can screw this kid up later in life when it comes to relationships if you have a boy(all staying will do for him is show him that it is okay to treat women like that and lady you know thats not right!\nand if you have a girl then all you will be showing her is that it is okay to let men treat her like door mat and walk all over her because she is going to look up to you and see that you are baisicly doing just that letting your husband use you like a door matt! and do you reallly think staying is the right thing to do?\n\n           Now no matter what that man tells you, he can not take your baby from you if you leave him if you do things to improve the well being of your child,find a you aplace to go when you are ready to leave him such as a friend or a close family member,then go to to your local department of ecinomic security office and you apply for help foodstamps, welfare,and they will set you up in some kind of work program and or if you want to go to school they will help set you up for grants and all kinds of stuff to help better you self  okay hell they will evenhelp you find houing and provide child care free .If that man trys to take your ass to court and tells a judge that he wants full custody you can then inreturn show the judge all that you have done in order to provide a safe living enviorment for the child they will see all you have done,they will not give the man who broke his vows and committed adultry.he is only saying what he can to make sure you stay and will say just about anything to intimidate you dont beleave everything he says just look in you phone book and search the web when he is not at home. \n   as for that friend of yours that hooked you up with him and is flirting with him and what not you tell that little home wrecker that she can have that the two are ment for each other.and drop her from your life cause with friends like that who the hell needs enemys!
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You are breaking my heart.  I don't know whether to believe you or not.  If you are being honest, then you have some real issue to deal with.  The main issue is your pregnancy.  The minute you became pregnant, it stopped being about you.  Go to an adult, figure out what you are going to do, and do it.  You no longer have the luxury of being young and stupid.
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I will take the assumption that you don't want your boyfriend to know because he might talk you into an abortion by yelling, hitting, or intimidating you.   He probably has already told in in certain terms that a baby would ruin his life; or you've assumed this.  Are you younger than the typicall mommy?  If so, You can't do this alone, find an adult you trust.\n\nI wish you strenght to get through this.  You need to find value in yourself.  If any of my above assumptions are true, then you need to learn to love yourself.  Take the love you were giving your boyfriend and turn it to yourself. How can your baby come into the world without a self-loving mother.  Once you've found self-love, then you should have the courage to tell this man that you've had his baby (I'm guessing it'll take you longer than 9 months to find your fullest strenght).  Only after you're strong tell this boy/man.  Make sure you have support like a friend, family member, councelor (priest, pschologist, or even planned parent hood) to be there for you when you tell him.   \n\nI disagree with those here who say you should tell them right away.  I've done that, only to realize that my men never loved me, and my self worth went down.  I regrete not finding my own strenght before I told my partner about my situation.  It sucks realizing love never existed where I thought it did, but was a life lesson that I've experienced.\n\nIf this man is your husband, YOU MUST TELL him.  After all, you both made a commitment.\n\nIf you're just a baby having a baby,  again, find that trusting adult to guide you through this journey.\n\nAbove all respect yourself, I know in your heart you want things to be ok, and in time they will be.\n\nRespect Life.
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This all depends on the 2 of u! Tell him that ur not ready to be a mom and if he cant accept that then u need to work out a timeline for when you are ready. No, 25 is not too young to have a baby. I had my last child at 25 but was married for 6 yrs before that happened. We started our marriage w/ a 2 yr old (not his) and a yr after we were married we had #2. Best of luck
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Hey, that's a good question. I'm pregnant too and I'm the same way. I don't like having sex very much anymore either, I'm never in the mood. As a matter of fact, I don't even really like cuddling! Our horomones are very messed up right now, it's not us, I've already asked about this. Don't fret, and try to explain that to him.
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A baby will not only change your marriage, it will change your life!\nYou can't "save" a marriage by having a baby, but if you have a good marriage a baby is a blessing!\nGod bless.
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unfortunately it is a normal thing for all marriages to go through exactly what you are describing to us here.\nI say unfortunately, because we all have this GRAND idea what it is to have a baby, but when it actually happens and it is JUST like you described, we all flake out and act like you do..Yes even some dads feel the same way..\nyou need a good support unit around you.\nDO you live near any family at all. they NEED to be brought in to help out... at some time in the day tiem for you, so you CAN go to the gym and have some time to yourself..you NEED to work out for your body ..but also for your mind..this way you will met other girls and talk to them..new friendships, others with the same things going on..or just meet people and talk...\nat night..so you and your hubby can do what ever ( wink, wink ) or go and watch the sun go down then go out to eat...or a movie without worrying about the baby..or the baby interrupting you two at those moments..\nPlease listen to me and do what I ask of you..\nnow if you do not have any family near you..you need to find reliable people you can really trust with your baby for the times I suggested to you..and let them take care of her for you so you can get back on track..\nlastly,maybe you should go and talk to you doctor if after you do what I am asking you to do does not do it for you..\nnow really last..you also need to dress up at home..yes dress up at home for you, but more for him...he needs to see you looking GREAT when he is there..makes him hot for you.\ngive him special attention ( you know what I mean ) you know how guys are..they need more attention than girls do....but do not admit it..\nbuy him a flower, give it to him when the baby goes down for a nap..then..well you know what..make him feel so fantastic ..he will start giving you it back..the ball goes round and round..what goes around comes around..even if you have to work a little harder than normal to get him happy..in the long run he will give you more of what you want and need.\nGood Luck\nand God Bless the three of you
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Tell Him you only had sex with the only men you love, tell him you are pregnant and you will  keep the baby, he will probably not merry you and that's okay because you don't love him anyway, but when you tell him make sure there are people around you don't want to get hurt.\n\nPS I was going for immacul......conception but i don't think is gonna fly
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Oh sorry I missed it last time but I'll say it again. If your husband gets pregnant you may want a divorce. Get a good lawyer...