I am married, but don't get sex due to health probs. I need a womans help?
544538
First, you need to speak with ur wife.  If you love her you do owe her honesty and the opportunity to be involved in finding a solution.  \n\nIf at this point, you'd rather just keep it private from her because you have rationalized it as not wanting to hurt her, then...\n\nDo what a lot of guys are doing.  It is sleezy, but it works.  Set urself up on yahoo personals or myspace.com or adultfriendfinder.com and meet women that way.  DO NOT write u seek a f u c k buddy, cuz it will chase away all prospects including those who may seek relationships like that.  There is a certain dance that we as humans must do to get the sexual attention of another.  Don't seem desparate or like a player.  Don't mention ur wife.  Women are disgusted by men who use the "wife" excuse for a poor sex life.  Valid or not.  Be willing to take her out, work a little.  But honestly, most women on the net, if you get them out on the date you don't have much work left.  \n\nIf you are not stunning, be generous.  If you are not charming, read up on something and fake it.  Be cultured and refined.  \n\nNever set up encounters in ur city.  Try to call her, private.  Say it is a work phone.  Lie about ur last name.  Never leave her alone in ur vehicle.  Other than that seem very open and honest.\n\nHope these help you.
1082419
It's never okay to make that decision unilaterally.  Get thee to a counselor, both of you.  If she won't go, go alone.  Get her to a gynecologist that specializes in sexual dysfunction.  She may have some physical/mental problem that has made her libido drop off the charts.  If she refuses to go to the doctor for fear that something might (or might not!) be wrong with her, you need to ask yourself if you want to stay in a marriage with someone who thinks so little of your needs that she's willing to end your marriage to keep from meeting them.  Of course, you need to involve her in that discussion.  Assuming you have talked to her about it, and she's not budging, then it might be time to face the fact that she doesn't want to be with you any longer.
458702
I see nothing in your words that refer to "love".  All I see is that you aren't "gettin" as much as you used to.  If that's all love means to you then I suggest you go your seperate ways.  If, however, the reduction of sex is just one part of your problems, then seek some professional help.
1179177
I DONT KNOW GET MARRIED HAVE SEX AND STOP BEING HORNY? I DONT KNOW SEE A DOCTOR...GET A VIBRATOR LOL.. IT WILL HELP IF YOU DONT HAVE A BF OR ARENT MARRIED LOL..
771877
Something is wrong if she doesn't want to have sex with you. There is something wrong with your relationship. I would call her doctor and check out her excuse.  Then I would confront her about what the real problem is and even offer to go to marriage counseling with her. Good luck.
518416
perhaps see a urologist for advise on the penis erection problem or u and your wife can try sexual foreplay before having sex.
723725
i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
47754
That you are in deep, bad trouble and need to see a professional, ASAP.  You could have anything from a yeast infection to gonorrhea or another STD.\n\nPlanned Parenthood can steer you to someone in your area for women's health.  Also your local county health department.  Get going.
636470
She's not cold to sex, she's cold to sex with YOU!\n\nTake her out, give her a massage, and cuddle.. If she's not up to that, you may want to go to a marriage and family counselor.  She's having issues within the relationship that sex just won't take care of.
1170697
Try looking at the situation from her point of view.  If she was a virgin when you married she, obviously, in inexperienced in sex.  If she had a strict upbringing she may have been told old wive's horror stories of "being with a man"; she may have been taught that the only "proper" way for a wife to have sex with her husband is the missionary position and that women aren't supposed to enjoy sex;any other form of sex would mean she was a whore.  She may be afraid that she would hurt you or that she might not "do it right".  Explain to her what you want to do and that she won't you and that it would please you very much; that wive's are allowed to enjoy sex and try different things with their husbands. Get her a "pillow book" and read it together.  \nGood luck!!!
42098
I'm married and have not had sex in a year! (Idiot for a husband) Actually, it varies from person to person due to psychology and hormones.
874931
I think it's pretty common for a woman in your situation to have a lowered sex drive, but I think it's good that you're concerned and want your groove back! Talk to your doctor, there may be something simple you can do. It could be as simple as a vitamin deficency. Most likely, you're exhausted....or maybe you've got some resentment feelings toward your partner that you haven't wanted to explore...Try to think about that and if you have some, talk them out with him. That may make all the difference! Also, sex leads to more sex...the more you do it, the more you want to do it, so have fun and go for it!
690542
Aww come on dude, a woman needs to feel loved (love not sex)I am always there for my wife, I talk to her, I listen, sometimes she only wants to talk out a problem and does not want me to provide the answer. I take my share of cleaning the house (I work full time to provide the best for her as well).\nShe says she feels warm and contented when with me. I spend as much time as possible with her.\n\nI know what you are worried about, if you get everything else right, then sex will never be a problem, for me it is awesome.
566714
Dear lady,\n\ni really simpathize on you! one-  what did your husband tell u if he is not fit for intercourse did he just keep quiet ignore or suggested you of something? second- talk to him  about your feelings and more over its your life and u have a huge life in front of you don you wanna have children in future how will u b satisfied without sex... just by being with his family and him, unless you are not at all interested in it u may continue,if u think u break this marriage can u support yourself instead of being on yr parents if yes go ahead support yr self then marry someone else coz this is no good to b with a person where there is no future. your inlaws are very good bcoz they cheated u and yr family hiding their sons fact...and so they will remain good. If you wanna continue u may with him being a nurse yr whole life. If not have an extra affair to fulfill yr needs talk to him about it. or just hide it..
895474
Stress is the #1 cause of this...  The best way to help is to exercise and maintain a healthy diet, and make sure you are getting plenty of sleep.  They say you should force yourself to have sex as much as possible, since the more you have it the more you want it...you somewhat have to retrain your brain!
722366
Let me impart some advice to not so much you especially as your husband...See a doctor man!! That's the remedy.
1065216
You are a lucky man. If you were married to me,  we would only be having sex 4 times a month. LOL