5 years of guilt...and counting....?
542014
Don't hurt him if you do not have too. It sounds like you have already turned your life around-you do not and have not cheated for a long time. You have already changed.  A past mistake (we all have regrets) is haunting you-it is ok to feel regrets. If you were still cheating-I would say you have a problem-but you have corrected that behavior. You are a different person now-enjoy this person and hopefully you will not revert back.\n Hindsight you have already paid for that mistake-years of guilt. And you already know the hurt it could bring. Now work on making your life the one you want to be. Do you want to be the cause of pain to someone now? Admitting this without cause will create much hurt-don't do it. Is there a reason for this?  Move on and be the person you really want to be, the past is the past nothing can change that-not a thing.\n Rather you believe in the Bible or not-there is a man named Paul(Saul was his given name-change to Paul)-who in the beginning killed many Christians-later he change and became a very strong Christian. Did he have regrets-many-but he worked on a better man-and continue on this way-few mention his past mistakes-but many remember his good works. He didn't boast or bring up his past sins-but continued on a fine course. And I bet it help him in his dealings with those who did error. \n Get busy(and stay busy) with proper actions and thoughts-there is plenty to do there. Best Wishes
911488
!. What are you willing to do ??? BE VERY  CAREFUL:   Who might be ashamed/regretful either now (our 1st thought) or maybe 15-20 or more years later when all the things wished for now come back to haunt you through the way you got them!
430622
Your words imply guilt. Have you convicted her? If so, on what evidence?
1167222
I spent 10 years with my first love who did NOTHING but accuse me of cheating. Even after two kids and finalizing my faithfullness with MARRIAGE (which I regreat every day of my existance) YOU dont have to do a DAMN thing to prove that you are what you are, faithfull and a proud mom. Look at how awesome you are with providing for your kids no matter what curve ball life throws your way. It took me to 6 years to stop my putting up with his claims and accusations that I finally dusted myself up one day and realized, (1)How the Hell am I going to keep on putting up with this and (2) why would I put my kids through this? They are such incredible sponges and you are their role in relationships, family and love. My last straw was relationship counseling, that brought out alot of hidden insecurities that I never knew he had as well as shed some light onto several of his accusations. He actually WAS cheating for awhile and guilt wouldnt let him life it down. After 2 months of "trying for the kids" I left. Me and the kids got our stuff together, I fought for full custody and I havent been happier in a long time. There is a sole mate out there for you and HE will FIND YOU, not that you have to force it to happen just because you had kids with the guy. That is the worst reasons. You are making it alone (emotionally, and financially) you can do it without the added pressure of his stupidity. I have all the faith and prayer in the world on your side and you can get through this. You wont be alone, You will be Happy and Stress Free With Your KIDS. They need you. How old is your youngest? How old is your oldest? Dont hesitate contacting me for questions or advice. My heart goes out to you. PrncssNiki@yahoo.com
1103294
Been there.  The guy usually goes onto other things and is not sure of himself.  Let him go and wish him the best.  I know it's difficult with the feelings/thoughts even 5 years later, but if it was meant to be it would have already happened.
741315
Say not guilty and explain the situation.  If that does not work, work on a plea deal that will get it expunge after 6 month or a year of not getting into trouble.  Yes get a lawyer
267595
I know how you feel. There is one fellow from a long time ago who was tormented as a child as I also was. One time, our collective tormentors goaded us into fighting one another, promising to end the torment of whichever one of us won.\n\nI have felt badly for years that the one I should have had the most empathy for was the one I ill treated, not our tormentors. \n\nBut does finding that person and apologizing make them feel better - or you? I asked myself that question, and realize that it would be of little benefit to the person I feel accountable to - it would only assuage my guilt. All I would be doing would be bringing up a long-past horror I know I don't care to remember. \n\nIf this person was ever going to forgive you, chances are they already have. Don't make them relive something simply for your benefit. Unless you were actually planning on reestablishing a relationship with  this person, take your lumps privately. It is the only decent thing to do.
309629
where have you been hiding for the last 5 years?
722953
5 years older. A better person to those around me
772822
Under marriage & divorce - we can only assume you cheated.  It will probably go away in time...who knows how long...only you can say.  Hey, it happened for a reason...maybe he did something unkind to push you into it?  It may not have been all your fault?  \n\nDon't tell your hubby, that will only make matter worse and then he can bring it up years from now during an argument.  Confessing to him may make you feel better, but it will definately make him feel worse.  Short term it may work...long term it sucks.  \n\nThe good new is that the guilt will fade away a little more each day.  If you really need to share this with someone, then go to a church and share it with God.  Good luck.
887539
I believe there is an exemption from the statute of limitations in cases of this sort.  You absolutely have the right to do this and it may bring you some measure of healing and closure.\n\nGood luck.
1127930
Perjury is lying to a jury/judge.  I believe it is 2-5 years.
345636
You have my sympathy.  But I suspect you need to listen carefully and try to understand what you are told.  It may be that the lawyers you talked to over the five years were telling you that 1) you have your facts wrong, and 2) you have no case, as hard as that may be to accept.   The people here can't help you, and you should instead take the advice of professionals with whom you have consulted.
571170
ooh there r many of this NO, NEVER, DONT FORGIVE HIM...\n\nwhat do u think ur partner is really ashamed of what he did. i wont tell u that try to be at his place n than think coz its not practical... there r many things for u to decide in this n many be there is only one correct decision... so just think agian before taking any decisions... u have to choice forgive or punish... before chosing punishment i mean leaving him think again that this gonna punish him olny or urself too... n before chosing to forgive him make it sure again that its a mistake which will never been repeated...\n\nbefore taking any decision remember its gonna affect not only his life but ur life too...\nwish u BEST OF LUCK
314242
I have been divorced 7 years and have received about $1000 dollars from my ex-wife. I have raised my son and daughter since they were 12 & 6. My son is now on his own and of course my daughter is still home. I have taken my ex to court 5 times and she still won't pay (it has cost me about $1,500). I have taken the action on my own since she doesn't seem to care. I made up excuses why they couldn't go over but soon relized that she didn't want to go to jail so she didn't do much. It is up to the courts to decide the ultimate outcome. Your children will figure out what is going on as they get older. I found out by speaking positive things about their mother all these years helped me not look like the bad guy. My children now understand what kind of person their mother is on their own. I pray for people like us to prosper in all ways despite having a parent not caring for their own children. GOD BLESS
801434
Yes I did.... I was 19, he was 42. It lasted 11 years. He didn't work regularly, was abusive, unfaithful, and couldn't tell the truth about what he ate for lunch, let alone something important. BUT, he gave me a gorgeous, intelligent, sweet child. So, I have what I have and I am who I am, in part, because of that relationship,...so no, not one single regret.
54257
5 years after marriage. or 8, if you're not married.