i have a boy whom i love very much but i dont think the mom approves. should we go on?
552704
if your 18 and taking care of your self then its your business but if not then you need to Liston to  your parents they know whats best for you and they are only making sure you have a great life. cause when your young things are not what the seem like
289549
Trust your mother on this one - she's only got your best interests at heart.  If you love this guy then the fact that your back home with Mum won't get in the way of your relationship.\n\nFrom a legal point of view your Mum's in the right.
517678
I would. I will do anything for my daughters and my son and I know there is no chance of us getting together. Now, I know that's not what you meant, but the type of love you have for this person needs to change to the same type of love that you would have for your family members. I say that because I don't want you to miss out on having someone love you the way you love them and it sounds like you love this person very much to put their happiness over your own. But don't you think there is someone out there that deserves that type of love? And more importantly, don't you think you deserve to be loved like that? Continue being there for this person, but keep your eyes open for that other person out there that's waiting not only for your love but to love YOU in return....
613201
My mother never liked my boyfriend and unfortunately I do not speak to her now and she doesn't know that I am married to that boyfriend. I'm not suggesting that this will happen to you but I think that you should be firm and stick by your husband because your mother has to stop dictating your life when you reach a certain age.\nMothers always believe that they know best but I am very happy - my mother was proved wrong so you should have faith in your own feelings.
1014558
Your son is your #1 priority, despite ANY pressures you are getting from your family. You are a grown man and if you love this woman and you want to be a good father to your son, you stay with them.  It is NOT your family's choice as to what you do with your life.  It is also not your family's place to judge the woman in your life. Who do they think they are? GOD?
335798
well hon I'd say mom is just a bit leery of her little boy dating someone. Most moms are not gonna be overly excited about the prospects of their baby dating seriously.  Try a couple of different things, find out what she is really interested in and try to conversate with her about these things, show an interest in her and not just her son and maybe she will take to you on that point. And finally dress conservatively, if she gets the wrong impression of you by the way you dress then she's not likely to accept you at all.  You could also try talking to her about it, see what her comfort levels are, my MIL is really quiet by nature so it's not me necessarily it's just she isn't comfy talking period.
243116
I've been in this situation a few times. No matter what you do or don't do your BF's mom will think you're not right for him...at first. Give her time to get to know you better. Once she realizes how much he likes you and that your not out to break his heart she'll back off. Try asking you BF to talk to him mom.
748631
Yes you skinflint!\n\nForget legalities, do whats right by your son. You should want to support him and not leave it all up to his mother!
958941
Your feelings are normal- he is not your biological son, and I assume you do not have any children to compare your feelings to.  Not everyone is capable of loving unconditionally- which is what you would have to be capable of doing for her boy- just like if you adopted a 7 year old boy.  This is not to say that you will not "grow" to love him- and you already do, but in a different way then you would a child of your own, which is okay.  Enjoy your relationship with her and him, and dont sweat your feelings for him- he's probably just happy to have a "step dad" in his life that he can relate to.  Good luck, and dont worry.............
713486
Excellent question.  It is hard for him to let someone else take an active role in his kids lives,  that's just how it is so tread carefully. You really have to be a selfless woman (and if you have a brother who is single and just like you, send him my way please !) You have to think about how you see yourself in the future. Do you want kids of your own? If so, stick with him, you all will be fine, but your relationship needs to be built on solid things like marriage in the future, you definitely being a mom to those little darlings and wether or not you have both really found yourselves. I wish you the best but the worst thing you can do to a single parent is lead them on. I think that if you broke it off like, NOW, he would still understand. Oh  and dealing with the mama drama is only what you make it, if you show respect you'll get a degree of respect and it wont just be from her but him also.\nTread carefully.
125143
Think about this were do u want this to go.  Long term would u realy wonna take her home to mom, heck would u want her to be the mother of your children.  Short term lucking for some fun, go for it.
544360
Looks like the guy is a mommys boy?!! If hes from a single parent family especially, drop everything cut ur losses and run like the wind dudette!  on a serious note, I understand you must now be feeling like you cant ever go on with  out him and that your world will end. trust me it wont, you are best to put an ultematum (is tht how u spell it? oh who cares!) to him and say either u marry me or stay with the mom.  Also dont be a martyr and live with them, live separately even if its a yard from his moms home.  If he wont leave his mom, u have to leave him and look onwards, it may not appear so right now, but you will meet someone else who deserves all your love and will reciprocate unconditionally without a mom for free!
367511
Well you could write them a letter about how you feel and leave it at that! And then go on with your plans together. They will either learn to live with their son's decision or they won't.\n\nThe parents aren't the ones in this relationship and if you both love each other, do what you need to do to be together. DON'T NOT be  together because of them. they are not in this relationship you both are, and you two should be happy. They'll get over it, it may take years, but at least you won't have to worry about your mother-in-law butting into your business, right off the bat.
1115332
When I was 16, my boyfrind was 20 ...and my parents said the same thing...but I stayed with him...they still disagree, but now im 19 (and living with him)and hes going on 23...its not as bad as parents think. As long as you are with someone you care about and he doesnt hold you back at anything, then i would say you are fine. I have been through the same thing. And am still going through it. Parents will be parents i have come to find out. Just go with your heart feelings and dont let anyone take that away from you-ever....if u neeed to talk you can im me or email..either way. i'd love to pass on some advice...
382497
Be grateful that he isn't a deadbeat daddy for one thing! Talk to him about how you feel. I don't know the specifics about your relationship, but think about WHY you feel he is obligated to his baby's mother. Of course you should understand that he has a responsibility to his son.
763579
NO!!\n\nMy little boy is mine, and nobody could give him a better life then his mummy...\n\nHis future will shine anyway - he is a handsome lad with a great personality, and he doesn't need famous connections to get him where he wants to be!!!\n\nWe've got enough money to give him a good life without lacking anything - as much as any child needs and wants.\n\nTheres nothing like a mother's love!\n\n;-)
683862
If you love this man then by all means marry him. If you allow your mother to rule your love life you will be miserable for the rest of your life.\nMy mother hated my boyfriend. I met him when I was 13, we got married when I was 19 and have been married 10 years now and together 16! My mom still isn't too fond of him, but has learned that he isn't going anywhere and she just has to deal with it. \nGood Luck.. hopefully your mother will come around and see that he makes you happy.