im 19 and my bf is 26 how can i catch on to his mind?
543879
wow, that is a huge age jump. Its hard to span that much age, hon, especially at that age. Just play it cool, remind him you love him, and thats about all you can do
1154572
You need think of yourself and love yourself and put yourself as number one on your priority list, because he has made it VERY clear that you are not number one on his priority list. You're 48 years old, you need to be with someone that can love you for the beautiful person you are and not someone that acts like they're 12. You need to make yourself Plan A, because he only thinks of you as Plan B. Good luck and don't be embarrassed- he should be embarrassed that he doesn't have what it takes to love you the proper way.
506695
Try to remember that he has a life as well as you do. If you want to see him more often, talk to him about it. I don't know the specifics on your relationship, but communication will help you figure it all out. Remember to listen to each other.
344180
Focus on the intellect piece. I would just tell him how much I have learned from him and that you want him to mentor you. Older guys really strive to lead by example. Focus on the Physical is so common nowadays, so try alternative approach. It works...\nI would not focus on expressing my feelings directly because they may take it as just a temporary infatuation and younger girls do have tendency to look for a "father figure". and it does come across as just a crush. so if you want more, you need to show him that you are actually interested in having intellectual discussions with him and it will just grow from there.
869839
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
135698
I personally find it ok since I am 22 and my bf is 32, so I pretty much know something about age difference. Loves doesn't understand of ages, that is true, but assume that people will think they have the right to judge your relationship all the time. At first is difficult for parents, friends... to undertand that the person you love is slightly older than you, but trust me, if you love eachother everyone will see how happy you are together and will realise there is nothing wrong in your relationship. If you love eachother that is whats important.
1079788
do something special to you...think of something that you two have a connection by and go from there...most of the time, the smaller things are more important than the big things...do something from your heart that lets him know you think about him all the time and he is the one for you right now
116200
just tell him straight up that u think about him all the time that u cant stop thinking about him.....theres nothing wrong with thinking about your bf all the time
95318
thats perfectly okay. i am 17 soon to be 18 and my boyfriend is 21 soon to be 22. i love him with all my heart. older boys are hotter more experinced and know how to treat a girl. i'm his little princess. but tell your friend to be careful some boys are in it for the booty action. so i wish good luck to your friend.
96345
First of all age really is just a number as long as he is over 18. If he only pays attention to you and would rather spend time with you than those other women his own age than I would say give him a chance. I have a friend who is dating a younger man too and they seem to be getting along just fine she is 29 and he is 23. Give him that first date then you'll find out if his feelings are real.
378783
No this isn't a big difference I'am 17 now and my b/f is 21 now, it really isn't that big deal , it's not all about age, if u guys love eachother u shouldn't care about ur ages just follow ur heart.
1136959
start small... just pay attention to him and be there for him.. he will be gone before you realize it ... take advantage of every opportunity to interact.. you may have to initiate the connections. Understand that he may not know how to talk to you either... He is a dad, not a mind reader.
392047
"To thine ownself be true" i think that you are young and need to do what you think you need to do. If older men are attractive to you, then by all means go out on a date with one, or have a sexual relationship with a few of them. You don't want to stay with your b/f if the only reason is because you two have a long history, or you are afraid to hurt his feelings.  You have to do what is right for you.  And you are still so YOUNG! you have plenty of time to find that special someone. Go out and have fun so when you do end up with the person you are suppose to be with for the rest of your life you are not looking back and having second thoughts about what you should have done. Life is the ultimate experience, live it up, because you only live once.
1061416
follow your heart and remember to stand firm on your beliefs. What a precious gift to give someone you truely love. I would definately talk with him again. Sometimes young men that age think if you don't go farther in a relationship that you don't really love them or you have doubts. That simply isn't true...wouldn't he rather you wait until you can fully give yourself to the person you are gonna spend the rest of your life with. You are a very smart young lady to realize that you are to young to proceed further. You only get one chance to be young and innocent. Don't let him pressure you into doing ANYTHING you are not fully ready for mentally or physically. It's a gift you can truely only give once. Be safe sweetie.
964167
Ive been with my b&#92;f for 7years now.I'm 23 now,he's 7yrs older than me.For the first 4 years our family's had issues with us being together.we moved in together only 3months into it while i was living with a girl friend.its had its up and downs but has been a great life.my advice to you would have to be,that you continue strong in the relationship that you have,don't worry to much about the negativity that continues to linger around you and your man.If he makes you happy and you know that he is all good for you,then you have nothing to worry about.wish you all the best....
494750
As long as two adults find a common ground, relationships work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him.  We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I love him for so many reasons - he is genuine; he's not out to find the next party or club, stay out all night with friends or worry about how fast he can get his car to go. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
750903
Be sweet and be yourself at all times. Don’t talk about marriage unless you have been going out for a long time and are well into your 20’s. And then only do it if you have some idea it is on his mind too. If it is meant to last it will last. ♠