Was it right for me to let my emotionally stressed friend's parents know that she was doing drugs?
549532
You most definitely did the right thing. After she gets help and cleans up she will eventually realize that you were looking out for her. I have been in a similar situation only I was in the position that your friend is in. I was furious at the friend that ratted me out and I reacted the same way. After I cleaned up my act and got counseling, I realized my life would have been ruined if it weren't for the one person that truly cared enough to tell someone so I could get help. Give her time and space and when she calls (and she will) just offer your friendship again and give her all of the love and support you can. Good luck!
536731
It's not a big deal...I mean it's strange he shows up outta nowhere and wants to call the welfare, but if he does and they do come and there's nothing wrong...they're just gonna go away. They will say it was an unfounded call and be done, just like that. If you have nothing to hide and only to prove you're right, don't worry. Perhaps he's talking about calling the welfare because the mother doesn't seem to be taking proper care of the child. They might want to hear from you how many hours your keeping this child and what kind of lifestyle you know her mother has her living in. Don't feel shamed if they do show up...quit worrying about what the neighbors think, like I said, if you're doing nothing wrong, there's nothing to worry about. I have a drug addicted, psycho sister who is currently in jail. When I had my first child and I didn't wanna listen to her crap all the time about drugs and money and so forth she'd call the welfare on me and blow them some wild story...knowing full well when they checked it out they would find nothing. I went through this 4 different times!!!! Each time they would come, they would ask me about what the supposed report was about, check my house out and my daughter and say I'm sorry mam for having to come over like this, I'll document this as an unfounded case. I understand your anger about the situation. I would probably withdraw myself from the mother and child as to not be involved with anymore of their issues. Good luck!
665260
If you're a true friend, you should tell her parents. You know why? A friend would just shrug her shoulder and think, "well, it's her life she can do whatever she wants" however if you're a true friend you are concern about her safety, her welfare too. Chances of getting sexual transmitted diseases are high to having many partners and of course pregnancy. Your friend may not talk to you or even be mad at you after she will know that you tell her parents but someday, as she learns more wisdom in life of what's right and wrong, she would even be grateful to you because you did the right thing for telling her parents.\nAlso, I hope her parents are a kind of loving and caring parents who care for their daughter's welfare because if not, then your friend would just need a lot of support from you in the future, emotionally especially.
706573
It sounds to me she is not your friend at all.  Just because your parents are friends doesn't mean you have to be friends with her. Tell your parents what she has been doing.  Don't carpool with them anymore, distance your way from her.  You don't deserve that.
164262
Convieniently sneek one of the pictures and leave it where the father can find it.\n\nNo..that would be wrong. \n\nAll you can do is listen. A really good friend is a listening friend. If she actually starts making plans to follow through, then a really good friend is one who protects a friend from themselves. Tell the parents yourself.
962332
Wow that is a hard one, I think that your friend should tell her mom that she found the stuff and that she is upset that she is doing those kinds of things. I mean maybe she can get her to go to get help and talk to someone. Maybe your friend can also tell her mom that she is afraid she will die and she will lose her. A little bit of a guilt trip on mom.. Good luck both of you
1092013
Having been charged and convicted are two different things. If I knew for sure that someone had been convicted I would delve in to the matter a lot more. At one time, I would have said mind your own business, but in view of all the horrible things that have happened to children, I would have to bring it to social services. Please do not proceed unless you really have something solid and well founded. This little girl has obviously been traumatized a lot being taken away from her parents. Depending on the charge, some people can change. Did you read about this person in the newspaper or did someone gossip about this situation? Which ever way you go, let your conscience be your guide.
720132
definatly tell her, you'll regret it if you dont, trust me i know from experiance. your friends will eventualy get over it even if they do harrass you for a while.
623700
hey,\nyou should not pose judgement just because of something you've seen...especially so soon. from what i gather, you don;t really know her that well. get to know her and talk more. eventually she'll open up to you and you will find out why she's so stressed and resulting to drugs (any substance that alters her mind state). If you like her that much, give her a chance...be the life-altering factor and most importantly, let her return to her "natural" self with you supporting her. Trust me, she'll respect you and love you for that. On the positive side of things, look at it this way, you already know her weaknesses and if y'all were to hook up, you have no need to worry about how she reacts when she's stressed:)\ni hope this helps you out bra'.\n\nR,\n\nPGLEX
329899
Yes.\nRight after you tell her you slept with her best friend...or, that thing about 'restraining order'....while on the can isn't that bad, folks.
633528
If you relly like him tell him so and say that you do but you dont want a relationship with someone who is risking death and personality destruction. Tell him that you will tell his parents with his agreement if he wants to get off drugs and that that would be a truly heroic fight tell him if oyu woudl make a committment to seeing him through it or if you will be there when he is clear. Mostly as others have said look after yourself but dont manipulate him as that woudl be disempowering and he is in enough of a state as it is.#
539647
I think it is better this way,do you want your son to get caught having drugs?This is just helping the investigation to catch the drug dealer and the people above.If they caught the drug addict,they'll get to drug dealer and the rest.Malaysia is trying to bust all of drug,but some crazy making money still selling them.I feel a bit disappointed in those people. Anyway,you shouldn't feel humiliated,you are helping the investigation,although nothing has came out from it.well done!
199826
I think it might be a good idea to first find out if she is drinking or using drugs. Usually the first sign of drug addiction is a change in behavior. If you have ruled that out then it might be a good idea to get her into counceling the only way to know for sure is to tak to her. \n\nShe might get so defensive because she feels threatened or confronted. The best thing to do is just tell her you are really concerned for her let her know that you love her no matter what is going on and that you think she might need help. It is important not to make her feel like you feel sorry for her or that you are mad at her because chances are she will close up. If your aproach is one of concern she will probably be more likely to open up.
234804
You can not make anyone tell you what you want to hear, even if you feel you "deserve" it.  This situation seems to be controlling you.  I'd suggest you back off and find something more constructive to use your time on.  A person who takes drugs and drinks may not even know what the "truth" is and what he/she knows or remembers may not be the same as what you know or remember.  Why do you need to hear this from this person?  It almost sounds like you know what the truth is already and you just want to hear it from his/her mouth.  If this person can not be trusted, then distance yourself from him/her and move on with your life.
228992
Honey, it's none of her business, really. If it was as violent as you say, and only close friends/family know what happened...I say you might want to keep it that way. This is a personal and tender issue that she needs to not be a part of. My best friend was murdered when I was a teen. Only her family and a few of us who hung out w/ her at school, knew the real details. We had to keep it quiet due to a gag order so we didn't compromise the case. You know, you could use this excuse as well. That way, you won't feel obligated to tell anyone anything because legally you can't. If after that she still won't respect your boundaries, talk to your supervisor about what you expect in the work place to feel safe and comfortable. You have the right to not be harassed in any way.
1033657
You're doing the right thing by not sharing too much info. It shouldn't be with just your grandaughter's mother that you are doing this with but with anybody. You've learned something....just when you think you can trust someone you find out they're not this trustworthy person that you thought they were. NEVER tell someone something that they can use as ammo against you.
845683
You should tell her that it really pissed you off and if she wants to be a friend then she needs to not tell people your private things you share in confidence.  If she disregards your upset or request than don't waste your energy on her and  know that you can not tell her anything you don't want others to know.