Hey, what's an alternative to spanking?
539121
Grounding, extra chores, tough love, natural consequences, etc. There are lots of them. I personally prefer natural consequences. This way the child will always link the consequence to the error. This works for kids of all ages, from 3 until 18.\n\nI am pro spanking as well, by the way.
511994
I alwys like to start off with a hand-spanking - it warms the girl's bottom up perfectly and feels so good for both of us.  Also it lessens the risk of bruising.  But once her cheeks are hot and rosy, it's fun to move on to various implements, as each one gives a different kind of sting and elicits a different response - yelps, wriggles, gasps, purrs, etc.\n\nSo many options to choose from - leather paddles, wooden paddles, slipper, ruler, tawse (leather paddle with split ends), hairbrush, strap, belt, martinet (multi-tailed flogger), wooden spoon, razor-strop.  The best plan is to experiment and find out which you both like the most.\n\nAnd of course there's always the cane - but that needs to be used with a certain degree of skill.  Well handled, it gives an exquisite sting.  But misused, it can cut - so get in some practice first.
410723
Some like it, some don't. I like gentle spanking, I don't like hair pulling at all. (I'm not into pain.) The variations on what people like are very surprising.
606301
Well, usually a small spank on the butt works really well, it doesn't have to hurt or be really hard, the idea hurts them worst than the spank, after a few times they learn.  TAking away toys and time outs work only if that means anything to the child (which to my daughter didn't mean a thing)  A little pain is a different story.\nAnd to the ones that will have a duck over what i just said, i didn't say beat the child black and blue.  Punishment and child abuse are different things.
184453
A suggestion - get another hobby.\n\nSomething that doesn't involve animal cruelty maybe?
957791
I think you should spank her
726724
Amen to that. You have to get the upper hand, and spankings (not love swats or pats) will get the job done. I have raised three boys and four grandkids, and I have spanked all of them at one time or another. It is amazing how much good to correct behavior a spanking will do. Too many "parents" today are just going through the motions and not taking care of business. I see them in the stores every day. Moms or Dads will be there with a child (spanking age) throwing a fit, crying, making noise, and all they do is just say, "Now, Junior, you quit that and be nice." I have to bite my lip and go to another aisle. Time outs and verbal threats do not work well. America is raising one of the most disrespectful generation on the books - that is the reason that we have school shootings and all of the teen suicide, etc.. Parents beware - do your job or all of us will reap the "benefits" of our untrained undisciplined young people.
385932
No, it is NOT appropriate to spank a 14 year old. go see a guidance counselor at school so that you and your family can get some help. Good Luck, sweetie.
837135
May be cause I need a spanking.??? Beats me..lol
1058798
Not as long as it is a 'spanking' and not physically abusive, leaving marks and/or bruises.
420239
Yes Spanking with a belt is abuse because if you leave a mark on them that is abuse.\n\nDefinatly abuse. Use other means of punishment or report it. Millions of children are killed because of abuse.
430393
First, I will second the young lady above me on the "Sleeping Beauty" series, written by Anne Rice under the pseudonym AN Roquelaure. Also, The Art of Spanking \nby Milo Manara and SO SPANK ME!: Tales of Blistered Bottoms\nby Jay Lawrence.\n As far as websites, I personally recommend fareastmedia.com for spanking videos (I am biased, my finace is in one of there vids!), but there is a ton out there from extreme softcore/informational to XXX.  \n Also, check out adamandeve.com and bettersex.com for many good links.\n Good luck and happy spanking!!
504136
A spanking.\n\nOh wait...did you say yur boyfriend?
265668
No and yes.  I didn't get bare bottom spankings, but I did get spankings.  Hard ones from my dad.  I hate him and probably will never be able to get along with him...\nHow can a person teach a child not to hit if they hit them?
58354
Common sense..... well that went away at about the time it became unpopular to spank you child as a way of showing them right and wrong,which led to small children manipulateing their parents in public by screaming 'your hurting me" when they were not even being touched......self respect, oh there lot of self respect out there maybe just not enough respect for others.....common courtesy.......let see.... we are now in the "whats in it for me age" well there is absolutely no reward other than emotional in being nice to others....i sometimes wonder if we will get to the point of being deliberately mean just because we can (you know like slamming a door on someones face) I already say "was that truly necessary" alot more than i want to.
456103
Sure.  There is no federal law banning corporal punishment in schools, it is up to the states.  Most southern states still practice spanking on kids for disciplinary violations.  It is also possible for schools in states that have taken a stance against physical punishment to get waivers that allow them to do it with parental consent.  This is not likely to be addressed federally any time soon.
503570
Definitely!  When  I was in school there was corporal punishment and in my opinion it worked great.  Kids had respect for their elders.