How do people become gay?
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Gay people are gay, just as straight people are straight.  You can't "become" either.
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coincence. \nno one has a destiny to become gay, it's a result of their choices.
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Men do not GO gay. Homosexuals are born that way. There are no more or less homsexuals living in this world then there were 100 years ago. They are in all countries. People just had to hide their sexual preferences a long time ago but thanks to a wider understanding of homosexuality, most no longer have to keep it a secret. It's 'out of the closet'.
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Well, if people would use common sense, they would realize that being born "Gay" isn't logical. Why would a species be born attracted to the same sex? Can they reproduce? \n\nMost species on this earth, are born to reproduce and create others like themselves. In order for this to happen, there needs to be a Male and Female species and a attraction to the opposite sex. This is how every species on this earth is created. \n\nI have heard thousands of people talk about genetic research and how it proves that Gays are born Gay. Genetic research also proved that cloning was possible, and look how that turned out.\n\nI have also heard many people talk about how their cat or dog was seen having sex with another of the same sex. I've also seen a dog eat it's own waste too. Animals can become confused just like humans, although I assume that Humans should have more sense. \n\nSo why do we have Gays and Lesbians? Well, actually it is very simple. Things that happen to a person, wether it's at a very young age or in adulthood, reflect on how that person thinks. Many have been abused in some way or another. Either by being molested as a child, or treated as an outcast when they were young. Many grew up in broken homes and were without one of their biological parents. Many were not taught how someone of their gender should behave. There are many different reasons, and what usually happens is this. Individuals who have not had the so called "Normal Life" will seek acceptance from those who are similar to themselves and this is normally the same sex gender, because they easier to relate too. A bond is created and the trust and affection they feel towards each other for accepting one another, becomes Love. This kind of Love is stronger than most people realize, because it fills the void that someone in our society has created. Someone, Sometime, Somewhere has done something to each of these "Gay" people and caused their lives to change forever. \n\nThis is where "Gays" and "Lesbians" came from, and there's nothing we can do to change it. There will always be different types of people, but our society created this one. \n\nA Gay person can chose to live a Straight lifestyle and be happy. A Straight person can also chose to be Gay if they want to and live happy also. How? Because they are both Human Beings with feelings, and feelings can change. If feelings couldn't change, there wouldn't be any such thing as a divorce. \n\nI have also heard the remark many times about why would a person chose to be "Gay", since our society hates "Gays" and "Lesbians"? The answer: Many didn't chose to be "Gay". Situations in a persons life can alter their feelings towards certain beliefs. For example: Would you chose to be with your abusive biological family or a loving adoptive one? Your instincts tell you to stay with your biological family but your feelings tell you to go to the adoptive one because they won't hurt you and will love you.\n\nI'm sorry this is so long, but it seems that there are so many people out there that don't look outside the box or they refuse to see beyond their way of thinking. Hope this helped you to understand in some way why the world has Gay people.
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Its a little of both. Genetics and envionment. Some studies have shown there is an actual homosexual gene that is passed on only through the mother (X chromosome). Even though you have the gene, doesn't make you homosexual. You need to be put in the correct enviroment. And there are epigenetic (if you don't know this word. look it up on www.wikipedia.com)factors also.
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I don't think people become gay because of the way they look on the outside....\na choice of sexual preference comes from the inside--the way you feel--not the way you look.
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First, you have to be ready for others to know you are gay.  You have to know it in your own heart.  Then, take your time and be selective about who you come out to.  It's not necessary for everyone you know your business.  As your personal life comes up with friends, YOU decide if you want to share this with them.  OR, it can be great fun when you are in love with a great guy (gal) to discuss it with your new love and introduce them to your friend or brother, sister, whomever.\n\nJust be honest and be yourself.  Your true friends will still love you and deal with it sooner or later.  Some people need some time (especially family) to get used to the idea.  Good luck.
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Sweetie you have to be who you are...you can't be what people want you to be.. It's a tough lesson..but your friend has to understand that it's not your choice to be gay.  You can't change your sexuality so you will have to learn to accept and like who you are...it's not easy...but the end result can be really great..
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First you need a mirror.  Go up to everybody you see and hold the mirror exactly 1 & 1/4 inches from their face.  If you don't hold it that exact distance, they might be able to fool you.\n\nIf you hold the mirror up just right and they don't have a reflection, they're GAY!\n\nYou have to hold it REAL close though.
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Go on and ask him. He's very open to the idea of being gay. You guys should help each other discover your sexual orientations and preferences. But don't rush into things that fast because you guys are still young. People switch teams all the time. Just take things a step at a time. Focus on discovering who you really are. G'luck!
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"how to make some one gay" This is a stupid question, you can't make someone gay. And why would you want to know that? Are you gay and you want someone else to be gay too? well just ask them if there gay, or stick your finger up them and if they don't punch the crap out of you then the are gay ;)
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I think that some who can’t come to grips with their sexuality think that by becoming a priest or pastor and dedicating their life to serving God they can overcome the urges. \n\nYou can’t be somebody you’re not. Makes your entire existence a lie.\n\nWhat’s really sad is that even though they probably know in their hearts that they were born gay, they continue to call it a choice, thereby influencing countless others to live a lie.
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Its up to the individual. Coming out of the closet doesn't mean you have to come out to everyone, or wear a T-Shirt which reads "I'm gay/bi and proud of it". Some people are selective in coming out i.e. they come out to friends/family but not work colleagues.\n\nThe process of coming out to other people is considered by some to be a final resolution of coming to terms with sexuality. One no longer has to put up with parents/friends constantly saying "when are you going to get married/have children?" nor do they have to worry about being spotted by a member of family should they go into a gay establishment.\n\nYou don't have to come out if you don't want to, or are not ready. Another thing about coming out to someone is that it becomes easier each time you do this, and gain supporters.\n\nIf you don't want to come out to friends/family, then at the very least come out to yourself and the LGBT community (so you can make friends in that area) - but only when you're ready and comfortable.
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First stop calling yourself Gay or Bi. Then stay away from gay people or at least from their organs. Do away with the gay mannerisms. Become who it is you want to be: A MAN! Your a man now and you want a woman to keep you warm. Go to the STRAIGHT bars. Buy a woman some drinks. Make sure she sees all that money in your wallet. If that doesn't work out, go to the next woman and so on. Think of it as training. You'll find the woman of your dreams and have fun finding her. Have fun. Be happy. Just don't be GAY! \n\nOh, and Tessa...Our sexuality is in our minds, not our genes. Because if it was in our genes, we'd find the gay gene and ERADICATE IT!
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Coming out is a continuous process.  Soon most of your friends acquaintances will know, then it's not an issue...  but every once in a while you'll be faceed with that weird situation where you have to come out again!  \n\nPeople somehow seem to know I'm gay...  they were telling me I was gay before I knew what gay was!!!  Not that I'm a flamer or anything!  Somehow it just comes through.  It makes it a little easier!\n\nMost people are cool.  You shouldn't run into too many problems!\n\nThe whole experience of being gay  I recently learned is for everyone to learn tolerance!  That's putting a spiritual spin on the whole situation!  If you look at it that way, it gives you a sense of purpose!\n\nGregory
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I don't believe that it makes you gay. But, it also depends on what your definition of Gay is.  I do believe that you have homosexual tendencies.  That means that you may not be actually having sex with or being sexually intimate with men right now.  But, if the right situation presents itself, you may become involved with a man sexually.  Now, whether you will just like guys then or not, I don't know.  However, anything is possible with anything.  Just take you time and find out what makes you feel good as a person and what makes you feel good intimately and that will be your answer.  Don't worry about the label too much.
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Well, if you know for a fact that the person is gay, start a conversation with them. Get to know them, and what they like and stuff. There is a great website to go to. Its adam4adam.com You can meet alot of guys there. Thats where I met my current boyfriend, whom I love soooo much.