why is this happening to my family?
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You must feel pretty much at rock bottom - and I am sorry to hear that.  But, from rock bottom, there is only one way to go - UP.  Every day you cope with this will be one day nearer to getting over this, one more step in an upwards direction.  I try to learn something from every bad experience I have, because experience is what you get in life when you don't get what you want from life.  In the future whatever happens, you will know you can cope, because you will have coped with this.  Talk to your parents, they will be concerned for you and want to help.  Even though they have split up, they still both want the best for you, and hopefully can put aside their differences and be able to work together with you so that you all come through this.   Time heals - I bet you find it hard to remember what worried you 6 months ago, 1 year ago, 2 years ago, so although this is a major crisis in your life, you will come through it I am sure. I hope this helps.
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It's called compromise.  You do a self-evaluation to determine what is important to you, and change your priorities.  Before I just had to look out for me, now I have to look out for my family.  Different priorities.
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you really can't prevent these things from happening.  a lot of it has to do with your genes and family history.  while there are some things that people believe will help (like taking vitamins and such), if it runs in your family, your chances of getting them are much higher.
594300
you should explain to your regular doctor that this is causing you and your family extreme distress and get him to recommend a good reputable specialist.
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Get help.  If you are in an unsafe situation contact the police immediately.  \n\nPlease understand that you are not the only person that this is happening to.  \n\nYou should speak to someone you can trust.  I would start with your mom and then move on to your grandparents, teachers, pastor.\n\n\nPlease comment and let us know if you are okay.
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You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
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my family and animals
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try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
700578
sounds like you have a blood clot or some kind of circulatory problem. With all the health issues in your family sounds like you need to be getting full exams regularly.
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I am spending time with my family with them.
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My mother had the same problem. I think this is normal
60923
Sorry about the tension. That's a pain. I too have a relative that is very different than the rest of us but I have concluded that there was some sort of genetic mutation and leave it at that.
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family in some of the people u been around
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it may be a medical prob. check with your family physician.
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You have to get away from them as soon as possible.  Your physical well being is at risk.  Your heart palpitations is a sign of high blood pressure developing, it can cause a stroke or heart attack.  \n\nYour family will never stop being mean to you. They think you are worldly because of your education and that you may marry outside your religion, class or race. They are a hateful bunch and they enjoy hurting each other.  You are different.  Sometimes we have to leave our family because it is better for us.\n\nGet your own home in another town, when you are settled go back get your pet bones.  You can keep it in plastics and a box until you can bury it again. If you cannot get the bones, get another pet.  Leave that house and be happy.  You will not regret it.\n\nGood luck.  I'll pray for you.
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Sounds like Undifferentiated Schizophrenia and/or a severe case of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) given the severity of your family member's situation and the longevity of same.  Please know, I hope your family member can get some help; however, you cannot make that person seek out professional assistance.  I really feel for those who have such hoarding issues along with extreme social isolation...this person cannot be happy, and your family member sounds very "trapped" in her/his "illness".  Good question, and it's nice to know you have concern for your family member as most of society would shun this person due to the uncleanliness and social withdrawal.
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How can anyone tell you the reason without knowing anything about you.  What care is it you need?  Are you handicapped or something?  Are you very young?  \n\nOr do you mean "care for" in the sense of "care about;" love you, want the best for you, etc.  An emotional thing.  The most likely explanation then is that there is something dysfunctional about this family; is there drugs or alcohol?  That catch-all term, "mental illness"?  Or is it physical illness, with no one who is physically fit to meet your needs?\n\nOnly you know why.  But do be grateful that there are other people who do care.  No matter how you meant it.