How to "uninvite" someone without making a big deal?
541760
Don't worry about being subtle - just make a suggestion that they disregard your last suggestion.
815999
Your in a tough spot and I don't agree with unwanted guest.  BUT it is the holidays and you don't want to seem like a complete jerk by saying they can't come.  At least this time it is family his sister right?  So holidays are about family and sharing so your going to have to accept her 'partner' as part of your family.  If you keep pushing him away he may make your mother start spending the holidays away from you...since his family is excluded.  Do you see my point?  \nSo to keep the peace just suck it up and set out two extra places and try to keep the holiday spirit in your heart even though you want to strangle him!!
995489
Delete what they have requested, make it where they cant get in, or just politely say no thank you and make them go away!
1120258
Just make it increasingly uncomfortable for them - they'll get the message.   I've seen that happen (to me) and it didn't take long to figure out that I wasn't welcome... I moved on to greener pastures. \n\nYou might start by turning over a new leaf and changing a bunch of stuff around - then just keep on mentioning one more little thing...    \n\nLeave some apartment finder guides around the house too. \n\nCheers!
1082081
You shouldn't invite them. If they arn't your friends then who cares what they think and who cares if they get mad.
45235
This is indeed an awkward situation. I also never know what to do because sometimes it would be an insult because they don't want to be treated the same as the rest of the staff because they own the place, and so because of that I usually don't!
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
782252
Depending on the amount of time you have you can meet with these people more than once. Have a questionaer for them to fill out. LEt people know ahead of time about doing there part in cleaning the place up and keeping it that way. Have them sign a "will not be a slob" contract.
141487
I'd say that you'll have to be strong on this one with your grandmother. If it's too hard to say that you only want to invite certain people and not all the extended family, see if you can pin it on the place where you're at (room to small, already committed to the head-count). There used to be a time when you could invite some people and not others and no one took offense to it. But nowadays in this "please me" society we are ever more careful not to offend. If questioned by relatives as to why they weren't invited to the party you can respond "I regret that we weren't able to invite every person we thought of!" and leave it at that. You owe no explanation beyond that. Hope that helps - have a great party!
350801
BAD idea. Invite her. If you two do not get along, chances are she would not come anyway. If you don't invite JUST her, word WILL get around. If not before the party, then after. Someone will slip. It's not fair to other co-workers to ask them to keep quiet about the party. Invite her. Be cordial to her at the party if she shows up. Don't let her ruin your party by being miserable all day.
14852
Do something really rude to the guy(not to yourself)
872754
Just say you can't make it on such short notice; you have other plans.  It's obvious that you weren't on the initial guest list and she's just trying to fill the empty seats of people who declined.  SO I wouldn't worry about hurting her feelings.
779821
Go ahead & invite him. Try telling him he can bring a friend. Remember he might be nervous  to go too, so that should make things easier if he knows he can bring someone. If he doesnt show up, its not the end of the world. There will be more times you can be around him. Definitely dont take it personal, he might just be busy.
429786
start by not following him everywhere.if they ask you before goin out if you wanna tag along just say no thanks and don't call to check in on him
1135800
If you've told them how you feel and they still insist on having people there that you don't really want, then there isn't much you can do.  You can try talking to them again and reminding them that this is your graduation party and you would appreciate it if they would respect your wishes - but that doesn't mean they will listen.\nIf you have to deal with the unwanted people then just do it - it will only be for the evening and it might not be so bad.  Maybe have a couple of your close friends sleep over that night that way you get some time to hang out with them alone.
380158
NO! It's rude to invite people to just the ceremony and not the reception to begin with UNLESS they are not having a reception.  If they are not having a reception then they probably don't expect a gift anyways.  I wouldn't even go-the whole situation is really rude.
734471
tell him your not trying to be mean, but you really don't want to have anything to do with him. That you don't feel comfortable around him.