About My marriage problem?
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He doesn't know how to deal with frustraition. Is he an only child? That would explain why he's used to getting his own way all the time.\n\nThe art of compramise. It would start with not sulking on the issue but drawing up a pro's and cons list. Untill you learn to do in your head, it helps to write things out so you can see them.\n\nAnger should never be an issue in your bed. Don't go to bed angery. Talk it out untill both sides are well seen.
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hun...if you believe in GOD, it shouldnt be such a problem.\n\nmarriage is not always about money...once you both married, GOD will lead you both to a better life! believe in that!\n\nlike my self with my husband now,, he didnt have any job yet and still looking...but a week after we married, a job called...and now we're living our life better.\n\nand your relationship has been going too long...its about time for you to step to the next level!\n\nfear is normal...but the only way we can get tid of it is by facing it and go on with it.\n\ndont mentioned this reason to your couple, he might get offended...but being supportive and always pray will give you both a way.
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My advice to you:\nAll you have to do hun, stay truthful, honest, and love your man. And hopefully he does the same for the rest of your lives. There are no precautions you can take to avoid divorce. Fate brought you 2 together, and your fate lies with you 2. Let it take its course. If youre unsure of this marriage, do you think you should or are ready to get married? Make sure that you guys are 100% ready for this. Get some pre-marriage couseling if you'd like. Like meeting w/ your pastors. Usually that is the first step b/4 getting married anyway. You cant avoid the unavoidable. If its meant to be, it'll last, if its not, it wont. But best wishes to you. And a lifetime of happiness and love!!
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The problem is a lust problem.  I do not care if it's with the same sex or not.  What you're desiring is outside of Gods commandments to you.\nGet counseling from a pastor or other leader.
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I think u should speak to a trusted family member or a marriage counsellor (try for one of ur own religion).\nJust be sure u ask someone with a happy wife (or husband, if ur asking a woman).\n\nAnd yes, if u and the girl are from a conservative community, then she will probably be shy. Be patient with her.
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Hey I don't really have advice for you as you know from answering my question I have marital problems. BUT.... We did get this book called Rekindling the Romance by a husband and wife team Dennis and Barbara Rainy. It's a real eye opener it is Christian based and I 100% am a believer that the only way to be truly happy in all areas of your lfe is to live by the Bible. Do what it says. Go to church live your life for God. The problem my hubby and I had with this book is how to rekindle something that was never there? I was or I think in love with him at one time but he was always an a** and finally I just decided to deal with now he's different and he regrets everything he has done. Maybe you can help with this one. How do I get over the past? I know I need to get my life right with God that would help 100%. But anyways I am rambling Hope this helps. The link I am gonna leave is the website where you can get this book Click on online store and do a search for the title. I also encourage you check out the info they have I don't know where you live but you should see if they have their radio station near you it really helps me!
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For the sake of your children and keeping your marriage, I would see someone.  This is deep seeded and if you don't seek counseling I'm afraid more "stuff" will push you into that black hole you won't be able to crawl out of and cause you to do something your family will suffer for later.  Go seek counseling BECAUSE you love your family.  I'm sure your husband will support you if he is a good man.  Best wishes to you.
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Relegion is a big part of your life aparently, and you should communicate with her and get her thoughts and feelings about the subject.\n\nI do wish to congradulate you on exploring ccompatability and your future with her BEFORE you are married with children.\n\nTake care and good luck
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This is serious matter. You need to refer to a marriage counsellor, he can guide you through the whole process and refer a good divorce attorney, if required.\n\nTry to contact some government agencies in the area you live, which deal with family matters.
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go to counseling together a few times before you marry him, just to be sure he doesn't have some deep rooted problem...the counseling will give you an insight to the problem and show you if you can deal with it....
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That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.
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hmmm ... from your question, if you are married, I guess its time that you and your wife visit a marrige councelor.\n\nCheers!
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Wow, that's tough.\n\nFirst off, are you having problems with your husband? Because the grass always looks greener if there are issues. If you do have issues with your husband I would suggest counciling, if problems are resolved then see how you feel about the other guy then. Concentrate on your marriage first, if you really love your husband then I would try to fix what you have and see where it goes from there.
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You need to pray my friend! Prayer is very powerful. Read "Power of a Praying Wife"\nGo to a Christian church and ask for prayer. It is free and best thing you can do for yourself. Trust me I know. Prayer has restored my dying marriage. Praise the Lord!
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Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
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you have to try and communicate with  him and tell him how you feel without getting into an argumentlet with him be wrongedif it helps, it is not that important to be right is it, after all this is the man you love,and marriage is about giving in to each othera nd if you give in  few times I'm sure he will too,any marriage can work if the couple is willing to work at it!if you really love him then try to work it out with him but try to stay calm and refuse to argue even if you have to be wrong!tell him how you feel try to talk to him calmly and hopefully it isn't too late. I hope it all works out for you the other thought I would have is pray to God for help he will help if you ask himin the name of Jesus, because God as the originator of marriage hates a divorcinga, nd if your aim is to save your marriage what better aley can you have than God himself?anyway wishing you the best success, and may God be with you
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Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.