my g.f is afraid of having sex with me. what to do?
542846
Try not to push her into it but do what me and my BF did, go very slow and get her used to it.  Slowly go in and out with out going all the way it so she can see its not as big as she fears.  Plus less bleeding this way if she's a "V".  Go at her pace not yours. weather you like it or not you might get excited and want to speed up, just keep looking at her eyes and remember that it's for her too.
706814
If you want to date her, you should not have sex with her.  I know that is an unexpected comment.  For her to invite you to her apartment, she is sending you a sign saying that she is willing to sleep with you.  But impress her by respecting her (or not sleeping with her).  Make sure you let her know you enjoy spending time with her though.  That way, she will take you more seriously, thus, a chance for the next date will come up.
373957
Her confidence is probably already destroyed. This is the reason a lot of women sleep around. They need love and affection, as everyone does, but they've never gotten it and are still not getting it. They believe this is the only way they will get it. She may seem happy and proud of her sex life but that is not always the case. The only thing you can do for her is let her know that you care and you are worried. Tell her why you care about her and why you're worried about her. Then, continue to be her friend. If she can not or does not want to change, she is still the same person you've been friends with. Good luck. :^)
1058621
u dont want to pressure her- dont listen to they guy who said "bed" cause she doesnt even know u much or well enough!!!!!! take her to a place where u can talk and get to know eachother! she would really enjoy that. like i said dont make her do something she doesnt want to do so take it easy. make her feel relaxed in w/e u decide to do.\nif i were u i would take her to \n1. movies and a resturant\n2. a small park where its peaceful
975639
Beats me but here's what works...guarenteed. The more you pretend to not like sex the more she'll want to have sex. See if you give her the impression  that you don't want to have sex with her she'll think she's undesirable and there's something wrong with her. So she'll need to prove to herself that she's desirable. Got it?
377785
First off all, grow up and learn that spelling things improperly dosn't make you cool. Second, if you don't trust her well enough to take her word for it, then you are not yet close enough to have sex responsibly. If you can't ask, then you aren't mature enough.\n\nIf you really are worried about it, ask her to get tested, you should get tested as well to reassure her. \n\nEither way, condoms, if properly used, are something like 99.9% effective at preventing the spread of STI's.
306376
try not having sex with her for a month, then tie a bow around yourself and stand there naked, but don't initiate anything, just stand there and tell her "I'm here if you want me" and if she doesn't initiate it then i think you should sit down with her and discuss it.  Women often initiate less than men, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.  Maybe she could make suggestions to you that will help her enjoy it more.  Listen, don't preach or judge, just listen.
521777
Listen, the only thing that you can do is sit there and listen and prove yourself worthy in one situation if she needs you she will come to you if she is aware that you are willing to be there and listen. There is no use trying to push her into trusting you when that is probably what she is really afraid of.
1176735
You got a gf? Then get her to "give you a hand". Or better still, a BJ. \nAnd don't forget to return the favour.
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
472452
uh...she probably doesn't want it if she's sleeping!\nHowever, if you must, try gently touching her, kissing her cheeks and neck.   But don't get on top of her of anything.  Try spooning or something.  But if I wanted my sleep, I really wouldn't want my boyfriend waking me up for sex, even if he was incredible in bed!
142462
THERE CAN BE TWO REASONS FOR THIS. 1 EITHER YOU SUCKED IN BED, AND SHE IS BITCHING CAUSE SHE DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX W/ YOU ANYMORE, BUT DOESN'T WANT TO COME OUT AND TELL YOU, OR 2 SHE REALLY LIKES YOU, AND IS AFRAID THAT YOU MAY GIVE THE GOODS AWAY TO SOMEONE ELSE, WHICH MAY CAUSE HER TO GET JEALOUS, AND BEHAVE THAT WAY.  TO FIND OUT IF IT'S #1, THE NEXT TIME YOU GUYS ARE ALONE, AND GETTING ALONG SLOWLY APPROACH HER, CARESS HER, STOKE HER HAIR, GIVE HER A KISS ON THE FOREHEAD, THEN ON THE TIP OF HER NOSE, THEN HER MOUTH, THEN MAKE YOUR FINAL MOVE!!  IF SHE PULLS AWAY FROM ALL THAT SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOUR MOVES IN BED.  WHAT WOMAN WOULD TURN AWAY FROM THAT???  I KNOW THAT GETS ME IN THE MOOD FOR SURE.  GOOD LUCK
1143241
Be responsible. Think clearly. You should study the consequences surrounding sex. I know you're a minor, but that doesn't stop kids from doing the deed, so if you feel that you must -- which is not advised, do your research man. Make sure you aren't passing anything along to her, or that you aren't going to get her pregnant and put both of your lives on hold. Make sure that you know what can happen as a result of doing anything beyond kissing and hugging. It leads to sex, which is what I'm thinking you might want to experience. Trust me, it can wait. You will not die and of course you may be picked on by the fellas who have done so, but some of them will even be lying about it. Your girlfriend won't be ready, I can tell already, she is still getting around the stage of getting to know you, you've been dating for a month. That's why there are different types of diseases out there because people don't fully know the people they're dealing with, shoot, there are 30 year olds that don't even know their spouses. But in any case, I wish you luck and hope that you will consider waiting to experiment sexually, because if not you may deeply regret it later on in life, and also by waiting you won't freak your girlfriend out either.
124816
Don't be afraid ,She is nothing but human. \nIf you got any psychiatric problem about opposite sex, Deep breath could be helpful.
1102460
she is very scared and keeping you at a safe distance for her......until you make her feel safe this is what you will get....do not smother her and let her pursue you for now.
1127540
do not have sex with her \nlet her have it with you
409961
tell her that you don't want to have sex with her because it's weird and ugly because you're cousins. if she still insists, leave and tell someone close to you about the situation. tell your sister or your friend. \nalso, try to video the scenario. just in case anyone wants evidence,, or something to laugh about later