how is it possible to make love to the one u love but feel empty after this?
543359
probably because you regret it. you should have waited till you were married. your virginity is suppose to be a precious gift you give to your spouse on wedding night. now you don't have that. GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!
775283
It's natural to feel this way and with time you'll feel less and less of this compitetion.\n\nOnce you move on you'll forget all about it.\n\nGood luck!
691156
Beleve me...you'll know.  And if you doubt whether you did, you probably didn't. Get in touch with yourself!  What it feels like is something that can only be experienced. Even more amazing when you really love and appreciate your partner. There are no words on this planet for it...in fact an orgasm almost takes you to a different one.
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you two have been developed a mutual understanding which more likely you both feels the feeling of a couple or bf&gf. becuase you've been start as a very good friend and probably a best friend but you didn't realise that you have developed a relationship already through mutual understanding. but you both will feel awkward of your real feelings as you still thought that you are just friend and nothing else but behind there's already a special feeling that been developed. There's a possibility as well that one of you scared to feel this special feeling otherwise your relation as a friend will be broken, but i'm pretty sure there's a LOVE hanging in the air already between the 2 of you. sometimes denying of the real feeling make things confused and weird..wish you luck!
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In my case everything went really good:D of course at the beginning you may feel emabarrassed but I think that if you focus on things that are happening, on the fact that you're going to experience something incredible with your beloved you forget about everything else. It's just You and the person. Just close your eyes and let it flow... this is how it went for me:) undescribable experience when you forget about everything that surrounds you but The Person and what's happening with your body:)
683071
sometimes you cannot, depending on what happened and how in love you were, but time and someone to fill tha void will help
518702
I am in the same boat as you.  Trying to figure it out.  What cannot be cured must be endured.  Keep strong.  Looking at your life without that other person there feels so empty and cold.
30793
well the answer is: DON'T.\n\nIt's hard, but If you truly cannot be with someone you feel this way about, then loving them will only bring pain.  Moving on is the only way.  Spend time with friends.  Go on a trip.  Spend time on a hobby you enjoy.  These won't make you feel better right away.  But it's all you can do to occupy your mind with something other than the person you cannot be with.  Someday, someone else will love you and it will be someone who you CAN be with.
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if shes not with you, its not true love...your true love will love you just as much with no hesitation. youll probably feel that way for a long time, but just dont sit a nd mourn for her, because shes probably getting off on the fact that you are miserable over her....find a suitable rebound lay.
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Something similar happened to me and I thought that the other man was the love of my life.I still love and care for him and can't get him out of my system, but I wonder if I would have felt that for anyone who was there for me at that moment,being that I was so needy emotionally.It is a tough thing to deal with and very unfair.I want to tell you go with your heart,but understand that isn't easy sometimes.\ngood luck and I will pray that the universe leads you in the right direction.Be open and honest with yourself and remember you deserve to be happy!
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When you are in love that person is constantly on your mind.  You wish they were always by your side and when you are close to that person you get butterflies like if it were the first time. When you are feeling down just thinking about him or her makes you smile.  The empty feeling you had before is gone.  What makes all these feelings have true meaning is when he/she is in love with you too and the feeling is mutual. I think its not until then that you can really experience love.
961697
I can relate to you. I have felt this way before but I have realized that if someone hurts you, then they do not like you in the same light in which you like them. You call this first person as a substitute for being with your soulmate, but no one can really be with someone who has no feelings for them. On top of this, no one can be with someone when they do not feel it 100%. I hope my advice helps you, and I sincerely hope you can get in contact with your soulmate. Best Wishes.
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If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.
77616
Break this separation!\nHave a brave, and ask some nice girls.\nBecause its separation, girls are also feel alone as you feel.
1152001
You deserve more. Find someone that makes you feel happy, not confused and sad. Is this only a one -time thing.....?
1045017
you can syill be in love with someone, but the physical urges may wane. its not just about sex. love is a deeper feeling, sex is a bonus
383443
If you have these feelings after sex, it means you have emotional problems that need to be treated by a professional. Sex is a beautiful act that should be performed between people that love each other, and would never leave you "sick and empty." I hope you seek help because this reaction is not normal.