What to do about my mom??
550704
Wow...\nwell id really have a talk with my mom about this pretty selfish and such a sin... \noh well I wish you the best\n\nGood Luck
601494
Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
194512
Well, lets examine the real issue here.  What is your relationship with your mom like?  Answer this, and then you will know the truth to your question.
644546
She's still your mom, right? If she's being too affectionate with someone in front of you and making you feel uncomfortable, tell her. I'd tell you the same if she were dating men. Talk to her about what you need and how you feel. Just don't try to change her because she's a grown woman who can think for herself.
186885
Hey thats terrible that she is upset on mothers day. Could you get her flowers and cook her a meal. Get out the family photos and sit down with box of chocotates. Go over all the funny things and have a great old laf and remember the good old days.  And most of all remind her that she is the best mother in the whole world
815327
Be there for her. Listen to her when she complains, help her understand that its not her fault. Try not to make judgements on the family. Support her.
1099922
yeah sure it looks that way. just don't jump the gun and get mad at your mom. this could all be unavoidable. just tell her you really want to come up and for her to not make any plans to prevent your visit. If she still continues to have excuses...i dunno, try talking to your dad about it. maybe he'll talk to your mom about the way it's affecting you.
85742
Ask your mom how her friends are.  You might find out that they have done something to hurt or anger her, which is good because then you don't really have to worry about your mom not being "ok".  Maybe she has new friends that are kinder or more fun to be with.  \nDuring this conversation, you should be able to get your own read on your mom, so you can see for yourself if she seems to be her normal self to you or not.  \nIf she does not seem normal, then you should pay her a visit.  Make sure she is not depressed or something.  If needed, help her find the help she needs (just like, I hope, she took care of you when you needed it).  \nGood luck!  I can tell you care about her.
1076649
Your mom isn't going to change now. She is not going to change unless she wants to. I think you realize this. You need to step back and deal with your own life. She isn't good for you, just because a mother gave birth doesn't mean you have to have a friend in her.
81454
keep in mind that she has your best interest in mind when she says no to your requests.  \nI think it is awesome that you realize it is a problem and that you want to change.  It shows you care about her and want to have a good relationship with her.  \nMaybe you could try making a list of all the good things she has done for you in the past week, and then make a list of all the good things you have done for her in the past week.  \nIf your list is shorter maybe you should go make her a cup of hot chocolate and tell her you are sorry.\nThis may sound weird, but she is, after all your mom and knows an awful lot about you, why don't you ask her why she thinks it is that you yell at her..  and tell her you want to get along.\nIts never easy to apologize, but doing so will show her you are growing up, and possibly you will earn some privileges by doing so.
653421
kill her and hide the body!!! LOL just kidding, it is hard, the best thing you can do is have your husband talk to his mom, other than that you are sol. it is a funky little sitch because if he is not ready to cut the strings and you push him he will hold it against you, stupid i know but that is how it is. if you say anything to the mom she can easily manipulate it to drive a wedge between you two. only move if you have to for a job or something, because the phone can easily still work no matter where you go. so have your hubby talk to her first, then maybe sit down as a family to work out some rules or something. good luck on this sticky wicket!
977310
im sorry =(    best wishes to your mom... i dont think theres much you can do besides provide her comfort and let her know your there for her.
636283
i think you should hust give up on her and if she walks by petend  you can't even see her. tell uour mom.
1063899
be honest with her but say it in a nice way.."mom, please..i don't wanna talk about it anymore.." even if she gets mad, eventually, she'll know you really don't want to talk about it.
61013
First let me say WOW! First your mom should know that you love her and that you always will. You should be totally honest and let her know how you feel. You are her daughter and blood is thicker than water. Her boyfrind can leave her tomorrow but you will always be her daughter. Your mom has to find to courage to tell this "douche bag" to take a hike. all you can do is support your mom and be there for her. you are a good daughter and you deserve a hug
403299
It sounds as though your mom likes to have fun... so find a new way for her to enjoy life. Drive down to see her cause I am sure that would be the best gift of all.