i love my supervisor but i could not say that?
540129
Yes, he's your supervisor in the four corners of your workplace, but saying what you feel in the right place at the right time (like After work hours and far from his office; a coffee shop a block away will do) would give you peace of mind. Just make sure that you can still maintain your Professionalism towards him no matter what his response, if not, it's better to keep it to yourself and hope it's just a CRUSH that fades away in a day or two. Well, it's just my opinion and I'm sure it's different from the others. Good luck!
439201
I can imagine how complicate it is to have such a person in your environment. Sometime it could be a member of your family, your spouse, and then it is much more complicate. \n\nIf you have such a person in your workplace, just remember one important thing; DO NOT feel sorry. \n\nHe/she is not so poor and weak and self-victimizing persons survive in this world very well. They use their "victim position" to manipulate with people, to emotionally and morally blackmail them, what is very exhausting. People in their surrounding usually feel confused, guilty, exhausted. They feel like they cannot help them, cannot do or say the right thing...\n\nDon't let him/her drag you in his/her vicious circle. If you find yourself feel sorry or sad, stop it. Don't empathize and don't try to help or offer the solution. Try to concentrate on your work and let her know it from the very beginning of your working day. If she starts to talk about problems, listen to her politely to some extend, then show her that you "accept" and "understand" what she told you and then either change the subject or tell her that now you have to concentrate on your duties. You can eventually tell her that she is the one who has to resolve her problems and that you cannot help her, but don't let yourself be a part of her problems. And don't be surprised if she reacts on it as if you are not empathic enough, you don't understand her or something like that. This is a usual strategy to make you feel guilty, because SOMEBODY HAS TO BE GUILTY, for her. Stay out and remember that it is not easy. If nothing helps, talk with your superior to eventually move you to another office.\n\nadditional details:\nYou obviously know him very well. You said that those persons are like chameleons and are very good in that. That is exactly the characteristic of manipulator. Don't blame yourself for feeling sorry and offer a support. It is normal human reaction and every normal person would do that. But if you feel permanently guilty and exhausted in communication with him, stop it. YOUR guilty feelings and exhausting are sure signs that you have a problem with manipulator. NOBODY HAS A RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THAT.
480489
First, replace the "To Whom" with the name of your supervisor.\n\nSecond, letters such as these should be short and to the point.\n\nFinally, "Don't think of a white polar bear!"\n\n\nI'll be you are thinking of a white polar bear.\n\nAvoid using "no" and "Not" in business writing.  Instead of "I do not want this to tarnish" try "I hope we can stay in touch on a professional level as I have enjoyed the professional relationships that I have developed here over these past two years."
823986
If your new wait a while to see if she acts that way towards u again... if she does put her in her place especially if she just your co-worker and not your supervisor!!!! don't cry to management yet they may see this as a sign of weakness and let you go!!!
582449
i dont tell people i love them unless i mean it. one of my x bf told me he loved me and i didnt say it back because i knew i wasnt going to mean it or feel the same way.
421921
its rather infringing on the rights of your senses especially your nose, but a straight forward honest and non disrespectful comment or hint to that person may just turn them into a good mate of yours, tell her you telling her this cause people in the office is talking about her and you thought she may like to know.
739833
Say something to who?  Her boss?  Better to let it slide I think.\n\nIn the end, nobody can hurt us without our permission.  If her comment hurt you it is because you let it.  If someone said that to me, I'd laugh.  It is only rude if you decide to take it that way.  How she behaves has nothing to do with you.  It is purely a reflection of her.\n\nBest of luck!
1180798
Just tell the supervisor you have a ton of things to do and need a personal day.  They will either understand. Or they wont.
1173277
I love my boss I have known her a very long time and she has become more than a second mother to me. I adore her and her family.\nMost of my coworkers are ok...some of them I could do without but that is how it is in any situation you are just not ever going to like everyone!
913785
If it is way too personal it might be sexual harrassment, if you are young please go to a school counselor about it.  If you are at work, an adult, Ask yourself, is this a pattern?  Do others experience this?  Again, you can discuss it with your personel department.  If all this is too risky, there is a way to avoid questions like this, without lying... for example, you could say "Why do you ask?"  or "Actually, I have a man in my life" (a pet, perhaps?), or maybe, "I'm sorry, but I make it a practice of never discussing my personal life at work.
1070426
well first off...there's no such thing called a polite way...you don't have to worry about that...as long as you are clearing a point that is making you UNCOMFORTABLE then it's totally OK...cause in the end you don't wanna have to deal with the same thing that is bothering you each day at work...right!!!\n\ntell her what you just wrote to us..."that you don't feel it's appropriate to discuss these matters with her"...see, I'm quoting you! there's nothing wrong with that...cause you are totally right..cause it is none of your business...you can tell her that you really feel uncomfortable and that you know she's a great person and that she would understand!\n\nbelieve me it might not be a big deal as it seems :) you are not being not nice...you are being diplomatic!
722388
You are in a difficult situation and your reaction is totally understandable. If you have tried talking to her and feel this hasn't improved, there is not much you can do. Usually people react like that (especially people higher up then you) when they feel threatened. This would highly seem the case as she seems to get along better with people who are not as academically qualified as you are.\n\nThe way I see it, you have three options:\n1) you continue on and talk to her again to try an understand why she is like that\n2) talk to her supervisor about your concerns and see if they can do anything to help\n3) look for another job either in another department or in a completely different company.\n\nHope it all works out for you in the end you should work to live not live for work!
786116
It's not taboo but it is almost always a bad idea, especially if you work closely together or are in supervisor role over her.  Besides how uncomfortable things would get if things went badly there is the potential for law suits.  Proceed with extreme cation.
269715
Personal beliefs in the workplace are a touchy subject.  I personally think that open-honest communication is best.  Most people really do not want to be offensive.  I'd say try talking to him first.\n\nIf it continues, simply inform your (or his) supervisor.  Don't get ugly.  Just be honest that it bothers you.\n\nNOTE:  Anytime you are talking about a possible subject that could cause retaliation to you in the workplace, I recommend recording the dates of the conversations, what you said to voice your displeasure and what the reply was.  If someone tries to be vindictive, you will have proof that you were just trying to be professional and they weren't.\n\nPS  I was working in a hospital and a fellow co-worker was talking about abortion being wrong (in front of patients).  I pointed out that this was a controversial topic and that there was more to it than it being "good or evil".  He called me a baby-killer.  I was totally floored.  I stayed polite and professional, but he just got worse and worse.  I told him that he was being inappropriate, rude, and was embarrassing both of us in front of patients.  That calmed him down.  \n\nA few days later, he realized he had gotten totally carried away with his beliefs and his preaching and sheepishly asked for forgiveness.
518290
I feel your pain.  My resolution?  I tell the individual that I am too busy and he has to do it himself.  I don't do his work anymore.  When my supervisor complains; I tell him "not my job".  Good luck with that one.
212991
He can't tell you who is saying it but you can ask him to talk to this person.  Perhaps they have a personal vendetta against you.  Your boss should have enough experience to help this person get over whatever it is they think is wrong. Just let your boss know that you feel attacked by all of these false charges and that you want people to take the open door policy more serious, not just complain whenever they want to.
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It's obvious that this man is no longer your "friend". \n\nThere's not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. You cannot control what he says/thinks/feels. You can control, however, your own feelings and reactions. \n\nMany people react this way because they feel that you're a threat (perhaps you got a raise and he didn't, or you received  an employee of the month and he didnt). Maybe you've done something in the work area that has hurt him in some way. \n\nRegardless of what the situation is, you can't control his action, ever. Don't deal with it. Ignore him if that is possible. You can also speak to your boss about the situation and ask that either he be removed, that you work different shifts, or that you work in different areas. \n\nRemember that the more you react, it's likely, that he will continue to be immature and will continue to spread rumors. Also remember that the more you react, the more your co-workers will begin to believe him, or will begin to dislike you because of rash behavior. React calmly and let your boss, "friend", and co-workers know that you are the more mature and that none of this is true or your fault.\n\nI hope this helped, best of wishes.