How to make ur grandparents relike ur boyfriend?? HElp!!?
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Are you sure that he isn't like he used to be?!\nMaybe your grandparents are right and maybe you should listen to them! I am not saying that you should just broke up again, but at least try to understand the old people, because no matter what else, at least they have already passed the things that you are just in the beginning of facing them! Be more open-minded and keep your eyes wide opened on what is around you! Don't believe too much to the people, keep your pride and believe me, it will work!
502349
congratulations! make him a scrapbook of pics of u and him. include pics of just u if u want. write poems or just write a memory of doing something fun together that meant a lot to u. make it however u want to. leave blank pages so he can put more pics in if he wants.i did this for my bf on our 1 yr and he loved it! go spend time together that day-it doesn't have to be somewhere that's expensive either. go to ur fav park or just spend time at one of ur houses. just make sure he knos u love him-that's the greatest gift of all!
1142242
First, get counseling.  Figure out whether you love the idea of being married or if you love the man.  Figure out exactly what changed from courtship to unhappily married.  Figure out if he really is not the man you married or if your expectations of married life are unrealistic.  Are you the woman HE married?  When you can answer most of these questions with withering honesty, then you will be hard on the heals of knowing how to deal with this one.\n\nAs for Grandma's unpalatable dish, either have the self discipline to eat it yourself (with a smile no less) or develop the spine to say "No thank your, my plate is full".  I have had a similar problem and alternate between the two approaches depending on the dish and the occasion.\n\nBest of luck as you work things out.
784421
Hi there.\nyou can't make him like you, just let him see all the good things in you, and let it happen naturally,its the best way..good luck :)
555824
I have the same problem with my family.  It got to the point where I wasn't even talking to my own mother.  You need to tell them that this is what makes YOU happy.  Maybe you can slowly start bringing him around (for dinners, b-days, etc).  This will show them what type of guy he is.  Most importantly, they need to see that he is a real person, not just a "black male."  Have him send your mom flowers or something-- just to show her how sweet he can be.  Don't sacrifice your love for their ignorance.  Good luck!
923437
Well, I completely understand where you're coming from. You want to be loved and welcomed, but unfortunately, not all in-laws work out that way (no matter what the race, religion, etc.). My grandmother's mom HATED my grandfather for years, and he wound up eloping to marry her.  They are both the same exact religion and ethnicity too. Eventually, the mother grew to appreciate and respect my grandfather and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. \n\nThing is, you shouldn't have to deal with going someplace where you are "tolerated", but again you don't always have control over that. All that you can do, is just suck it up for your wife, kids, and be the better man. Eventually, I would say talk to your wife about having your OWN holidays though and if her parents want to visit YOU then that's fine, this way they are on "your turf" now so to speak and if they disrespect you, you can ask them to kindly leave your home.
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First of all, my condolences go out to you. Try remembering fun things you did with your pappaw. I do it quite frequently, as my grandfather passed away just before Chritmas. Did you fish, go to the movies, go to the park, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, anything memorable with him. If so, try to think about the most exciting things you did together. If you are religious, try prayer or meditation, depending on your religious preferences. If he was suffering before he passed, think of how comfortable he must be now that he is not suffering. If you have a pastor, mentor, or close friend, try talkin about your feelings with them. I truly hope you gain some comfort in the time to come.
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Put together a video of their lives. My mother did that for my grandparents using scanned photos from their entire lives and made a really touching slideshow video. If you don't have the time for that try to get him something that applies to a hobby of his.
850543
Lucky you to have a GREAT-GRANDSON! Okay, you're not going to make any kind of impact on him with money or a gift, because he doesn't really know you. But SHOULD he know you??? Yes! How many great-grandparents does anyone get? Try this: Get some pictures of him - all kinds. Make a photocopy of them and cut him out. Next, go through magazines and find neat pictures of people and animated characters doing crazy fun stuff. Glue his head (body and head, whatever) into place. Do a photo montage - heavy paper and stick glue's all you need.It would be nice if you had pictures of you and your hubby at any age photocopied so he could be interacting with you in those. Too much trouble? Well, it's rewarding, and you could do it for every g-g-child or just him, for every occasion. He probably already has way too many toys.
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Do not just pop over with him and get their raw reaction. That might not go so well. I would break them in slow over a few weeks - start with telling them you have a boyfriend, explain how much you care about him...no details at first. Then pepper in a few hints about him that would give hints about him, then maybe put a picture up or have pictures of you and him together. Give them time to take it all in. Then bring him over so they can find out how good a guy he is.
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I would make a list of things that I like to do and just do them or I would hang out with my family.  You can send an ecard to him and express how much you miss him. You can't be together all the time and this should be good practice for you. Also, I would start planning for the night he gets back home. Dinner? Movie? Lingerie? Use your imagination!
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Wow, that's pretty shallow of your parents.  You think he's fabulous and they want you to discard him because he's not handsome? \n\nKeep telling your parents how wonderful your man is and how lucky you are to have such a wonderful man love you too.
896666
Be aware of your differences, ask BF to teach you about his culture, be respectful, open minded, and celebrate the differences. And teach him about yours.\nI know most parents would pick someone culturally similar to their child, but more and more, parents just want their child to be happy. Ask the BF how he thinks his parents will react to your dating. It will give you a little insight about how he feels about you, too.\nGood luck.
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When your a teenager you'll definitely do this. I know I did when I was a teenager. I only had one boyfriend my parents really didn't like, and I wish I would have listened to them when they were trying to warn me about him. He turned out to be a very abusive guy. Sometimes parents see what we don't see and are just looking out for you. At other times they just simply might not like the guy and he could really be a cool guy. Just make sure this guy is respecting you above anything else.
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if your never alone with him somthing has gotta change.\n      im not saying break up with him but scheduale somthing.\n\n      do somthing wild like have him sneak in a girls washroom to kiss you. win your parents a vacation or somthing. occupy thier time so they cant be so darn protective.\n\n      play a joke that involves you 2 kissing. for example on the movie "save the last dance" this white girl and this black guy were on a train together this old women was looking at them like wth!? and they started getting all close and stuff and she left and they started laughing. although they didnt kiss you could play a joke or somthin. \n\n      note it doesnt have to be interracial. you've got a brain, think of somthing.\n\n      I hope my advice helped and if it did please promise me one thing. \n\n      dont post a question on how to have sex, their your on your own lol
450866
I've been in your same situation when i was younger. with my parents i told them some of the nice things that this guy did, that let them know that he was nice. Ask this guy to meet them. Not really at the house at first, but maybe at a park or a school activity. Then he won't be so nervous. Tell your mom first. Mom's are always easier. Dads will understand eventually. Don't say date or anything yet, say hanging out or something like that, then after a while say casually in a conversation with your parents how your friends think that you and _your guys name__ are such a cute couple. or something like that. that will be easier. if they are really strict just say that this guy is your special guy. hope i helped!!!
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honestly...be polite to him and try not to say anything horrible to your boyfriend about him...that would only make your man realise that he's dad is right...\n if you keep up your appearance i.e look respectable and nice and make sure you don't go out of your way to impress him..i'm sure he'll come to terms with the fact that...his son loves you and he can either accept it or you know....he should shut the door behind him!