should i stop smoking just because my girlfriend wants me to quit even though i love doing it?
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Yes! All smokers LOVE doing it. It is probably your deepest love second only to a few loved ones. The diferrence is that this one is killing you slowly. One day you'll have to quit, when it will be more difficult and would have already done more damage to your body. So, here are some tips: \n\nJanuary 1, 1987 I had my last cigarette at 1am, after smoking a pack-a-day for over 20 years. Try the following. It will work. You don't even need good luck.\nLocal hospitals offer week-long programs to make you quit smoking. Then you'll need this trick to not go back to it: Don't have that one cigarette for the rest of your life!\nPeople buckle under the intense urge for a cigarette and think that their problem will go away with one cigarette. But that just makes the problem go away temporarily, only to come back with a higher intensity.\nQuitting smoking feels like a loss of a loved one because to the brain it is just that - a loved one. So be prepared for the longing and the pain. Just endure it. It won't kill you. Actually, it will make you live longer.\nAdapt a new lifestyle i.e. eat fruits, go jogging, etc. Do whatever, but once you have gone through the week-long quit-smoking program, DON'T HAVE THAT ONE CIGARETTE NO MATTER WHAT. If you have that one cigarette, you fail and if you don't then you succeed. It is that simple. You do need that week-long program to launch yourself into the wonderful world of non-smoking though. \nOne more thing: you may need to keep the company of non-smokers for a while i.e. at least one year.
181070
you started on your own no one to help you pick up that first one and Now the only way to stop is to STOP... I quit 9 weeks ago and feel great I tried the commit lozenges, the patch and all of it was an excuse to need one more cig. Finally one night in my EMT class this girl looked at us when we came in from break and said why do you do that yourself and your children... I quit I am not saying quit for someone else that won't work, but find something in your life that would be better or happier if you would quit and QUIT the first 3 days are rough, but trust me you make it through those 3 and your are GREAT....
668763
i presume you mean he is not just smoking ciggies....he is a big boy. you should let him know how you feel but at the end of the day it is his decision
517003
he is being completely unfair and trying to push you into having a cigarette so that he can feel better about himself, dont do it, be strong, u dont need to say anything, just dont have one. I'm not saying this just off the cuff, I smoke, I dont want to stop right now, but you and me both know the tricks ''if he has a cig first, then it's ok for me to have one too'' etc etc. If you want one, have one, if you don't, then don't. U know the first one will only make u feel dizzy and sick and then guilty and pissed at yourself, keep going you CAN do it xxxxxx
418062
no no no no, it's another scam.. you must use an alternative to smoking if you can't quit by will.. Get the gum first, shew as much as you want at the beginning so you don't crave cigs, give it time, you can't quit in a week or a month, use it for 3 months then alternate between nicotine gum and regular gum to phase the addiction out. this will rid of your psy addiction and then physical dependancy. It's cheeper to start with.
311666
Cold turkey. I did and yesterday was my 3 year anniversary with no smoking. My sister has tried with the patches and gum, but since it keeps giving you nicotine, she can't quit that way. It really isn't that hard to stop on your own, the cravings will stop after four or five days. Have confidence in yourself!
684095
That depends on what it is. If it's a relationship and you are the only one trying, you may have to give up. This doesn't make you a quitter though! It just means that this wasn't meant to be and you need to go on to better things where you won't have to give up on it.\nI hope this helps you.\nGood luck!
126124
Why would you want to quit thinking about it, if she makes you happy then I say think away. It is better to have happy thoughts , than no thoughts at all. Let the feelings ride...It's part of living and having relationships.
840044
Theres no right or wrong answer.  If you like her, and you obviously seem like you do... you could consider reevaluating your view on drugs.  And you could consider that its possible if you two got more serious, and as things changed in her life, she may stop doing that.  For instance, if you two were to get married, she prob wouldnt still be smoking pot.  But if its the idea that she would even do it that bothers you, maybe thats not something you want to compromise for.  But it wouldn't be a bad thing if you reevaluated how you looked at drugs.  Weed is probably the least addictive and least harmful drug there is.  So.. it's up for you to decide if you can accept her how she is, because you certainly couldn't expect her to change.   But whatever you decide, I would say you should encourage her to continue to be open with you.  And you could always ask her casually if things got serious between you would she consider quitting?   :)
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I found myself in a similar situation with my fiance.  I couldn't make him quit. Lucky for me, he chose to.  I didn't want to leave mine either but if he didn't quit, I was going to.  It was dragging me down.  I can say this, I had to be supportive and quit with him.  I didn't want to because I felt like I was responsible with it and he had the problem.  But, I see a counselor and talk to my mom a lot and they both felt that it was something that was right for me to do.  When I thought of it the other way around, what if it was me that needed to quit, I would want him to do it for me so I did it for him.  But, he still didn't quit for me or because of me and my quitting wasn't any part of it.  He quit because he chose to because he knew he needed to.  We talked a lot.  I told him how I felt.  But, he did it for himself.  People don't change permanently for anyone but themselves.  Yours will have to quit for himself and if he doesn't want to or chooses not to, you have to decide if you will stay or go.  Don't give him ultimatums either cuz that doesn't work and the only thing worse than him not quitting is him saying he will do it for you and then be sneaking around behind your back and he will if he says he will quit for you.  Just accept that you have no control.  You can talk to him but expect nothing and don't try to force.  Make your decision for you based on what he decides for himself.  Good luck and God Bless!
564354
Don't do it. I started when I was 7... and got progressively worse as I grew.. for about 10 years I could stop and start anytime I wanted but then I became addicted, not only to nicotine but habit... the habit is the first addicting thing to it.. I got upset.. I smoked. Someone said it was cool. I smoked. I was bored... smoke smoke smoke  I quit about three months ago. I just got so sick of it. You need to talk to a counselor so something and talk about why you want to try it. It may be a more deep seated issue than just the smoking.. or you could be bored. Find a new hobby.
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The wish to stop smoking has to come from inside. Nothing you do will make your mom stop if she doesn't really WANT to.\nYou can, however, keep telling her how much you love her, how you want her to be with you for many years to come. Never fight, never confront her: just let her know.\nI was a very heavy smoker (three packs of cigarettes a day), and I quit 14 years ago after various unsuccessful attempts. What worked for me was the nicotine patch.\nI do believe that, when you are a smoker, your body becomes addicted to a certain amount of nicotine in the blood. The patch took care of that addiction, and then I only had to fight the sensation of not having something in my hand or my mouth. That is easier to fight than the physical addiction to the drug, because that is what it is.\nIt was not as excruciating as I thought it would be, and I have gone through very stressful situations in these years without resorting to a cigarette for comfort.\nI am so proud of my achievement that I dare put myself as an example in this matter.\nThere are many new products she could try: patches, chewing gum, ask around. Quitting cold turkey is extremely hard. I know I couldn't have done it.\nShow her my answer. Let her know those things do help. They do.\nI hope you will all succeed. The smells, the flavors, the deep breaths you can take without coughing, the stairs you can climb without suffocating, it's all worth it.
120981
Depends on whether he smokes or not.  A boyfriend once told me, "Kissing you is like licking the bottom of an ashtray."  I quit not long after that!
845082
Well first ask your self are you doing anything to make her think your doing something rong??? If so you need to stop.. \n\nWoman are usually right with that gut feeling .. but if you are not doing anything rong then tell her .. hey i care about you but this is not going any were if you dont trust me.. so i need you to quit or leave if your not happy.. usually that works :)
59010
Talk with your physician.  It may be that you need to go "cold turkey"  or more slowly with lesser dosages.  Your physician knows you best and could recommend the healthiest way to quit.
275935
Yes!  Go to a website called WHYQUIT.COM  I smoked for over ten years and I really wasn't even ready to quit.  I met someone who was a smoker and he had used that website and shared it with me.  It is not easy; I tried gum, celery, chewing on straws, everything...you have to WANT to quit.  Go to the website and read it!!!  It is true and inspiring and helpful!  \n\nIt is worth saving your life!!!  Good luck!
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Try counseling first if you want to stay together.  If she can't quit leave her unless you like it.