Why would a healthy 21 year old male not want to have sex with his wife?
547030
Make him take the Homeopathic Remedy PHOSPHORUS 200 three drops in a sip of water once a day for a week and let me know if it made a difference !\nTake care and God Bless !
345798
If your a man trying to have sex with your wife/girlfriend. you will need to be more sensitive to her feelings, by not ignoring her and watching ESPN and playing video games and hanging with your boys all day. Then when your feeling in the mood u now all of a sudden know her and want to have sex. Men, let me tell u something.Sex is the last thing on a women's mind if she has been working, cleaning the house and taking care of the kids all damn day. So if u want some EVERY NIGHT why don't u cook so she can take a bath. Fold some clothes. You can miss one game (ESPN does have highlights). If life wasn't so stressful we'd all being making love every night.
1166358
whats wrong with this picture? 1st of all, what is a "sex friend" relationship?? 2nd of all, you know he has "random sex" with a "few girls"and thats cool with u?...whats up with that?  3rd,  I wouldn't get my hopes up too much just because you spent a little QT around his parents. that doesn't mean as much to him as it means to you. 4th you are falling right into his game to keep you sprung! this dude is saying and doing all the right things to keep you around. lets see: free sex, no commitment (marriage), willing to accept me seeing other women, and pretty, what man wouldn't take you up on that offer?    \n\nto answer your question yes he has feelings for you.\nits impossible to have sex with someone over an extended period of time and not develop feelings for that person.\n\nsex is very powerful, it was designed to take place between husband and wife to make the marriage bond stronger. you are actually becoming one with that person when you are having sex. why do you think it hurts so much when you break up with someone after you have had sex with them?  it's not natural to try to have sex without getting emotionally attached...\n\ndoes he have feelings yes, now is he looking at you as a potential mate/wife? no, a man will let a freak be a freak but when he gets serious about a relationship he will look for a woman that has standards and some respect for herself.
404833
The most honest answer i could gues at would be that maybe intimacy in other ways is far more important than the actual act itself.  Maybe he respects you enough not to either desire you or its the fact that for a medical reason he has lost the desire to want it.
56618
Yes you can but you may want to delve a bit deeper into why there is no interest. There is no such thing as unhealthy love in my opinion, as for a loving friendship I would hope that is why you married your wife in the first place and not for sex
574424
Assuming that you are not having sex because she wants to wait until marriage(but maybe I am wrong in this assumption): I think even for someone who is planning on abstaining before marriage sexual desire is there.  Abstinence is not an easy thing because the person still has the desire.  If she does not have the desire maybe she is repressing herself or just isn't attracted to you.\n\nI'm sorry.  :(
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He needs to have his testosterone level checked some men especially those over 45 have low testosterone levels whichis the direct corolation to the sex drive.\nThis is the absolute first thing that needs to be checked b4 anything else. No testosterone = no drive\nAnd if thats the problem its a fairly easy fix
450107
i'm a spouse and i think that sex is very healthy for the marriage. And when you get married it should get better because there are no rules , you are married now and you should do more than you used to because thats you partner for life in the eyes of God. And God says that when you get married the bed is under file nobody's watching and you can get nasty and dirty as much as you want, thats the beauty of beeig married, there is no sin in it.
516220
yeah, if he's married then it's probably because he values his wife and doesn't want to jeapardize the marriage.\n\nhe may be one of the good ones, but sorry hun - he's taken.
123972
I think both are extremely wrong.\nPre-marital sex and Adultery is one of the reasons why we have AIDS and HIV rampant all over the world. \nOnce a person has premartial sex, he or she starts the ball rolling, and many move on to Adultery.\nWhy?\nAfter having sex with different people, some even with strangers, will he or she appreciate his or her loved one's body? Will the temptation of no strings sex lure them into having an affair?\nThere has to be something sacred in marriage and in a person's body and that's his and her virginity. This may sound antiquated but would you, want your boyfriend and girlfriend to have had sex with 10 people and marry them? \n\nWould you appreciate this person more if you knew he or she fought of temptation EVEN BEFORE they met you because they are governed with such strong belief and respect for their future spouse, in all seriousness, they knew the marriage up ahead would be no joke, a lifelong commitment where both would share mind, body and soul?\n\nThis is not to say it should be a law where pre-marital sex is forbidden, but it should be a personal choice made, to have self-discipline and self-control, not to let loose like a crazed animal in heat.\nAll this gives rise to disgusting sexual conduct like bestiality and so on, because no one appreciates, or respects sex as a sacred act between two, married, committed people.\nIt's not a game, it's not something you can play with.\n\nThat's why our world is full of horrible pornography where women are humped and co-erced into sex, treated like animals by the men.\nIt's disgusting. And before someone tells me, how would you know the person's sexual preferences before meeting them, or he or she has the right to do that because they are two consenting individuals - \n1. You wouldn't know your own sexual preferences if you hadn't had sex. That's why marriage is so wonderful, two loving, innocent people can explore each other legitimately and their sex lives and preferences evolve together as they live their lives together.\n2. It's true. Two consenting adults, go ahead, do it. However, wouldn't the two of them appreciate each other's deeds and thoughts of them? Wouldn't they know how commited and how thought out the person's beliefs were because this was already thought out before they met each other?\nCan a man feel comfortable hearing about his wife's ex-boyfriends? He prefers not to hear it and pretends it doesn't exist because he can't look at his lady knowing she has been with another man! And a woman, can she accept that her boyfriend or husband is a cassonova in his days of youth, can she absolutely say she knows he won't go out where his lust leads him? Temptation is all around, look at the amount of sexually permissive people around the community, the world, even, and say you're sure. Would you love him better knowing he has saved himself for the ONLY woman he'll ever have sex with, knowing how sexually active men are? This deed itself presents so much to appreciate and love in your man.
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Sex is a wonderful, and integral part of a marriage. If one party is no longer interested, there IS a reason. Seek counseling and get to the bottom of it!! My (now ex) wife would not, and we had sex 4 times the last 6 months we where together.. Or I should I had sex 4 times, she had it a lot more, so I found out later.. Like I said, something is wrong.. .Depression, cheating, resentments, physical illness, something!
527025
Husbands do want sex after 10 years.  If one doesnt there might be several reasons, he could have lost interest due to falling out of love, weight gain, health problems, etc...  You first need to find out the real problem before you can start to fix this one.  The only reason he shouldnt want sex is if hes 90.
805630
yes that is normal for you not to be attracted to your wife she has now become a fat cow and that isn't what you married, just try and deal with the next two months, the 18 year old will get you into trouble because by the sounds of it you are a lot older and that normally spell trouble
316117
you got it. Its a cultural thing. Its a sin to indulge in pre marital sex. for 18 or more years they are told its wrong to have sex before marriage. You cannot convince them over a few months to change such an instilled value. Unless they agree on their own. And don't you dare go on forcing yourself on them because its not your right to do so.
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Its a sad world that produces such consistently narrow minded responses as the ones above.\n\nEvery single one of the above repondents equates Marriage with Sex, not Love.\n\nSex plays an often small if not non existent part in many marriages.   It is inevitable that in some marriages one partner may have a strong sexual urge where the other doesn't.  \n\nThe nature of an individual's sexual urge or even orientation may change over time whilst not necessarily affecting the love one has for a partner.\n\nIn such circumstances an otherwise healthy loving relationship may be put under strain if there is not an outlet for those urges.\n\nInfidelity is commited by the heart not the loins.  \n\nThere are many avenues one can explore to find a sexual release that is emotionally limited.   These avenues, USED SENSIBLY, can fill a gap in your life and relieve an itch before it consumes both yourself and your marriage.
345695
First I must ask you. did you marry your husband out of Love? Second and I'm asking this because I was raised LDS(Mormon) And sex was very forbidden but we did kiss Didn't you ever Kiss? If you did didn't you notice his lack of arousal? It sounds as if he has no physical problem, but a mental one. I say that because I know how it is to be raised in a religion that believes sex is bad, It is a sin to want to make love to a women unless it is for procreation and therefore it is wrong to let yourself succumb to natural desires. My Father was a Mormon Bishop (God rest his soul) We had this discussion over sex many times. I asked him how God felt about it and his answer was always, What goes on in the bedroom between husband and wife stays in the bedroom. But you have not said if you and your husband ever talked about having children. Maybe he he is afraid of that or maybe and excuse me for saying this, but maybe he is Gay?  I've given you my answers and I don't think you are wrong for wanting to get out. A man and a woman need to have the same goals. It sounds like the problem is with your husband even if he can't get an erection there is other ways to please you. I tried to not be to gross. Hope I was able to help. God bless and you take care. Reed wrwoodall@yahoo,com
1046697
I haven't met many men who were disinterested in sex, no matter what age, however, performing is another subject.  Many women also experience a decrease in libido as they age,  there are other ways to satisfy ones sex drive that are perfectly normal and do not break the marriage vow.