I am dating a married man, i want to get out of this relationship but I love being with him.Help!?
551470
Eek...I've been there done that...actually quite a few times!  you know it's wrong, and I bet that when you're at home by yourself you get really upset thinking about how wrong it is...and then you're with him and all of that flies right out the window, right?  That's what always happened to me.  It never worked out in my case, he never left his wife no matter what he had told me...and in once case, I got pregnant and he still stayed with his wife.  I don't regret it because I have a baby, but it's hard to do it on my own...so just keep that in mind as well.  You'll have to reach a point where you just get fed up with him being with another woman (his wife).  I hated to share him with her...but to make it stick, you'll have to break it off when you're really ready.  Good luck...and e-mail me if you want.  I know what you're going through!
322075
Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.
529365
Here's a little trick. Picture yourself married to him, doing the things married couples do, meeting his friends and family, facing problems together, etc.. Do you like what you see? If not, give yourself some more time to know him better and do the mind excercise again. If you don't like it still, stop waisting your time and find another guy you can be comfortable with.
632435
Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
810216
You should not even have gotten started with a married man...\nQuit whenever you get tired of it...
1091399
well there are people out there like that. If you want to stay with him then get use to it but if you feel you need more out of the relationship then get out. also was this a sudden thing or was it always like that? if it was sudden then you need to do some PI work but if it was always like that then you knew what you were getting into. good luck
1088462
Being in this situation is not fair to either of you.  You need to search your heart and figure out what you want.  Then find an appropriate time to sit down with him and honestly share your feelings and concerns.\nI was in a similar situation and getting out of it was the best for both of us.\nIf you need to talk I am nephthys_tombguardian on YIM or email me @ SusanASarandon@hotmail.com\n\nPridefully Loving Women,\nAmanda
940346
continue being in the relationship I am in now
361335
i guess you better let go that person, even though you love him/her because he/she is already married and from that fact, you can't do anything about it. i guess that person is already happy with his/her married life life and i think it's just right not to spoil such relationship. Love really hurts, especially in your case (or in your question) but the best thing to do is be happy for that person and wish him/her the best. Move on and after a while you also find the one that is really meant for you or the one that will give back your love. That would be nicer than being "the-would-be-third-party" right?
517148
Girlfriend, your like me caught up in the rapture of uncertainty. We want to leave but afraid deep down inside to make that move. Our insecurities allow us to not be more clear in our train of thoughts and we make sudden decisions without thinking them through. You are scared to let go but at some point you have to realize it is what it is, he is a cheater and he's possessive and somewhat controlling. You left and that was the first  step, now move on.\nMEN ARE LIKE A BUS ONE COMES EVERY 5 MINUTES YOU CAN RIDE THE BUS TO THE END OR DO AS YOU HAVE DONE GET OFF AND CATCH THE NEXT ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
502623
Sounds to me like you need a break, at least for awhile. You need to re-assess where you're headed in this relationship, and whether or not , that's where you WANT it to go. Take a while off, and get away from him.....see if you really want to continue....or not!
1049717
By the way you describe your relationship, you want out. I know that you are feeling stuck, confused, and completely stressed because you feel like you are in a relationship where you are being suffocated and you don't know where you will be if you get out of something that you are so used to. I don't need to tell you you need to get out, you basically said it in your question. If someone is holding you back from your goals and dreams for their own selfish motives, why stay? Also if the bad out weighs the good what do you think that does to your happiness? Life is not meant to live it unhappy, you make make what you want of it. Also each day that passes is a day that you will never get back, and to live them miserably is not worth it. You seem to be looking for excuses not to get out because you are afraid to be alone. Loneliness is not a fun thing, but it's almost if you have been alone with this guy who does not support you. You have your daughters and you have your ambition to progress in life. You can definitely love again! Then are BILLIONS of people in this world, I'm pretty confident that you will find love with someone who will treat you how you want to be treated and support your ideas. It could just be one of those co-workers or friends that have been complimenting you. Good Luck!
1146924
Forget the other guy.  The grass is always greener...until you divorce this man and marry the new one.  Then you will find yourself feeling this way again in 15 years.  Marriage is about commitment to one person.  A partnership.  You don't trade a good husband in for a new model, like you do a car.  You may learn the hard way if you leave just how hard good men are to find.  And trust me, someone will be more than happy to take your place if you leave.  I know a woman who is crying herself to sleep every night because she cheated on her husband of (ironically enough) 15 years.  He divorced her and she went off to live her "dream life".  Now she is miserable and realizes she made a mistake, but guess what?  He met someone new and is in love with her now (me).  I will never leave him, he is a dream come true!
718828
Get the hell away from him... He's bad news... He either likes to flirt or wants to seduce you into an affair... He probably has no intention of leaving his wife... You need to find yourself a nice UNATTACHED man... This loser is not worth your time...\n\nRemember, if you do get into a relationship with this man and he leaves his wife for you, whats to stop him from doing it to you??? Once a cheater, always a cheater...
856384
let me ask you this, how did you get into this position? how did you let this other man maneuver his way into your heart?...\n\ndo you beleive in the sanctity of marriage? if so, do what you can to get this other guy out of your life...\n\ndoes this guy know you're married? if not, that you're fault...if so, would you want to marry a guy who doesn't have respect for a married couple?...\n\nplease do the right thing and be more responsible with who you get close to...
1025263
Take it from someone who has been there, no matter what the background story on his marriage is, he is still married. And he is playing you for a fool. You've been with him for 7 years? For you it may be emotion, but for him it is 100% the thrill. And I'm sure he is the sweetest guy, but he is still using you! Please end it, before you get hurt even more. You deserve someone who puts you first and doesn't look at you as a second choice.
559327
Girl....get out while you can.STrong feelings or not he is no good. There are so many better men out there that would not only not do that in the first place but would atleast show you some respect in conversation. Not only that but feel some remorse and not put it all of on you! Dont let this happen......it will kill your spirit. The longer you wait to end it the harder it is. Trust me I am married to a loser like that and it gets no better only worse. DIgging my way out as I type!