Should you stay with someone b/c you have a son together?
540576
If your unhappy get out... Make sure you have enough money saved up to live on for 6 months because you need to have a new place to live and take care of your child... YOu then file for child support and set the visitation limits... everyother weekend should be enough... Best of Luck to you
61601
It is better to have someone who loves you than the one you love.\nHe'll look after you in the best possible way.\nHowever, it is you who have to decide finally. Take the best decision.
113964
I think you should leave your boyfriend.  If you are not happy with him and he doesn't make you happy, then leave.  You think alot of your child, to want to stay, but your child will see that you are happy, once you leave and the child will be happy also.  As for the ex, you shouldn't get back with him, unless you are sure it was meant to be.  You have your child, who needs you more than any man.  You will know when the right one comes along.
94821
No, you don't love both of them.  You may like both of them but you don't truely love both of them.  The fact that he is your sons father shouldn't play a role in this decision because your not currently together.  So do what is really in your heart and what is best for your life.
232357
Don't leave. It can be used against you later to keep you from getting even partial custody. Stay for the sake of at least visitations. I know, I had to go through the same sh!t.
333244
if he leaves becasue of your sons... then why not have you along?\nwell, hire a detective to follow him 24/7... and you will get your answer... if he is cheating or simply falling out.
651999
I had a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years in which the guy I was seeing (and was supposed to marry) had a four year old son when I began dating him. The mother had abandoned them both a year earlier. I raised the child as my son - he even called me Mommy. His father worked two jobs for a while, so during that time, I was actually more like a single parent to his son - I did all the baths, all the homework, all the cooking, all the quality time, all the bedtime stories and all the discipline. I loved that child like he was my own, and I still love him. \n\nThe relationship went south, and I stayed because of the child for a long time. The mother eventually got custody of him (MESSED UP!), and took him halfway across the country. I didn't have a problem with him seeing his mother and knowing his mother, in fact, I WANTED him to see and know her, but I also felt that he was my son in my heart. When we had to tell him that the judge said that he had to go and live with his mother, he said, "But your my mommy, too, so that means I can still live with you!" Heartbreaking.\n\nI couldn't see him anymore, I couldn't protect him anymore, I couldn't be there for him anymore, because I had no right to legally. That was the absolute worst thing I've ever had to go through as a result of a relationship - and the relationship itself was pretty darn bad. \n\nAs a result, I won't get involved with a man that already has kids anymore. I am too scared to love a child if all the rights I have to that child are in someone else's hands. That may be irrational, but it's too much of a risk for me. Been there, done that.
1087103
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
796055
Benefits are that he will no longer be cheating on you, but will in all probability cheat on this new woman that he is moving on with eventually.  Another benefit is that you are capable of finding a new person to share you and your son's life with someday.  A third benefit is that your child does not have to live with the tension that most certainly he was feeling prior to you and your husband splitting.  And finally you can now feel good about yourself now as there are many new horizons awaiting you when you are ready.  Best of luck to you and your son.
651402
Move on. Having a non standard family is very common nowadays, and as long as your son knows he is loved then its ok to date. It is worse for the child if they grow up in an environment where the parents are not happy together, so as long as your sensible about it then go out and date to your hearts content.
1109151
Do what's best for yourself.  People will come and go all your life, but you'll always have you.  If you think the relationship is stronger with the one who is leaving, that's who you should stay with.
1181519
If he treats you badly , he doesn't have any respect for you and with no respect there can never be a solid relationship between two people.  You should however maintain a "friendship" for the sake of your son but if I were you I would  focus on something other than being with him. I understand that you still love him and break ups are sometimes hard to get over but if he has already moved on than that should tell you that the amount of love and respect he has for you is very little if not non existent. You need to set your standards higher in your next relationship because you deserve someone that will love and honor you and when you do find the man that treats you like a queen you will think back to him and realize that he wasn't worth the love that you felt for him. Remain civil with him for your son's sake and never , ever show him that you are weak.
1085487
That all depends on your actions after the divorce and whether or not you're mature enough to continue to remain friends with your ex and strive to keep continuity in the lives of your children. \nI've been divorced from my sons' mother since 1989, they have both lived with me since then and to this day their mother visits here regularly and they see her constantly. She and I have remained friends despite our differences and as time as passed the wound of a failed marriage have healed and our children have grown with the feeling of a mutual love from both parents.
331423
My first question is if you two are together and have a kid then why are you making seperate plans?  You need to figure out if you're staying together or not, first off.  Then you can think about other things, like moving.  Also, if there is s baby involved, it's probably better that you don't have roomates other than the two of you.  It's also better to stay close to family if you have such a young baby.  It will help with babysitting and your child will have some sort of family around that way.  Do what's best for you and your child.  Don't worry about your BF because he doesn't understand that your child needs to come first.  Enjoy your little baby , take good care of him/her and good luck.
591217
Absolutely whether you like them or are still with them. you should always respect her for being the mother of your child. One day out of the year show her how much you apreciate what she does for your child.
257408
I believe that if you have not been married for 2 years that he cannot keep his spousal visa. He may at a later date be able to come in as father to your son. When your son becomes 18. I think it is good that you make the decision now to stop the relationship. It is never a good thing to stay with someone that is mentally unstable.
666800
This is a tough question. If you let your son make his own choice you may not always like the way his father raises him, However if you make your son stay with you he may resent you. I'd say the best decision is to let him make the choice but for you to stay very active in his life as well. If you notice things aren't right with him or that he isn't in the best possible situation then you can choose to say something then. As long as his dad is a good provider, and is a good loving dad, it's ok for him to be his friend sometimes. \nDon't worry so much he will be fine! Just do a lot of praying, that always helps! \nMaybe just maybe it's more that you will be lonely without him??? ;o) I feel for you!