why would an exgirlfriend of 2yrs be calling me to vent about a current relationship?
545441
She obviously think you give a damn.
1067050
Ouch, you have been 'regulated to second man' and that sucks-big time. I wouldn't let it faze you too much because you didn't have any real emotional attachment ot Jane. \n\nIf she has done this to you it is an indication of her true personality. Someone who brushes you off like this has no regard to you as a person. Even if she just wanted to be friends by calling you up, she has shown little respect if she treats you like this during the hang out. Even friends don't ignore each other.\n\nI know how you feel-believe me (all guys have horror stories like this) and the best thing you can do is forget about her. Better yet, if she ever calls again, say  your too busy to talk. \n\nNow repeat after me: 'Be gone evil woman' and move on :)
672690
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
304705
She wanted to get back at you because you missed her call the night before.  It happens.  No big deal, get over it.  If you can't get over it, you need to date someone less cool.  Cool people need and give space.  They don't call each other every night for two hours.  They don't play phone tag games.
924384
It sounds as though the two of you really need to sit down and talk, tete-a-tete.  The fact that you have been off and on for a couple of years, he's texting you now after a recent breakup, taking you to lunch, etc. and now you don't know what his motive is - just try to talk about it.\nI think that's the only way you are going to be able to truly get to the bottom of your dilemma.
39094
The question, is not how to, but why.  Think about it.  She's in a relationship, and she meets a charming new guy.  A guy who sweeps her off of her feet,a "grass-is-greener" kinda deal(ahem, that's you, ahem)and she leaves her man for you.  What do you think she's gonna do the SECOND you BORE/ANNOY/TICK HER OFF??!??  That's right.  She's gonna lay down and luxuriate in some REALLY GREEN grass.  Dude, really.  Girls that you can TAKE, you don't want.  Believe me.  Chalk this up to a lesson learned, and keep on lookin.  Ex-girl to the next girl, that's what i says.
841353
If she can't let go of the things in the past because yall have a history together, then maybe it's time to find someone new, whom you have no history with and they cannot yell at you for your past faults. Maybe you won't mess the new relationship up!
862268
I think she is just taking advantage of a very good thing.  If she's only contacting you on rare occasions (when SHE needs something) that should be a clue. It sounds to me like she only keeps you around to keep herself happy and doesn't take you seriously enough to dump her other "male company" and get with you "full time" because she thinks you're just a friend (or..... something.......) I am sorry that someone would treat you this way.  Truly I think you deserve so much better - someone who can appreciate your gifts and dinners for all they're worth and return the favor.
177709
Well, did her ex say something to piss you off, or do you just have anger issues? It can be irritating to think of the past relationships of our mates, but just because he dated her doesn't mean he deserves a beating.
538512
This person is no friend.  She might be harboring some jealousy issues.  Don't let her get you down and just quit calling her.  She isn't your spouse and you are letting this become your problem, when it is clearly her problem.  Friendship is a lot of give and take, and it sounds like you are doing all of the giving.  I wouldn't ignore her phone calls, but I would be busy if she tried to call back and make plans.
323113
Maybe she's waiting for you to say something first..Go for it and tell her.  If she's been hanging around with you for 2 years, she's not going to freak out and run...unless she's crazy.
171468
I agree with skull22, why are you giving her anything if she is your ex, please add some more information please.
258533
Thing is talk with her . . . not to chat . . but the next time she called . . . asked her . . . \n\nYou broke up with me . . . telling me that you want to be left alone . . . and not to bug you . . . yet you call me periodically on the way home.  What the f*** is going on?  Until you are able to tell me the truth . . . don't call me again.\n\nDon't worry she will call . . . because you called her out.  But now she will have to explain herself.\n\nDo not give in to her . . . and tell her how it felt when she did all what she did to you.  Odds are she will probably respect you more . . . because you stood up for yourself . . . instead of acting like a p***y . . . you have been.\n\nIn my opinion, take control of the situation . . . and don't let her boss you around . . .
973345
No way this is normal. You need to put a stop to this-pronto!   There is a reason she is the "ex" so you have every right to remind him of this. He should be over her by now and have made the commitment of being with you. He's married to you now so he hasn't any reason discussing anything with her or being under her control. With exception of talking about the kid anything else concerning the two of you is is none of her business. He's out of whack for communicating with her like this. Time for a reality adjustment. So get up close in his face and tell him in no uncertain terms to shut that big mouth of his. What a lot of nerve. If you're wondering about what I think I think it sucks big time and is callous and disrespectful toward you. That shrew of an ex needs to be put in her place also. Who cares if she went "nuts". She's nuts if she thinks she had any say about the two of you being married! Who the hell is she anyway? Tell her to butt out of your lives. Share a relationship with the ex? God no!! So put your foot down unless you're considering becoming another ex.
240982
No, I don't talk to any of my ex's.. but one thing I would do is ask the ex what his intention to get in touch with oyou after so long is.  He is probably unhappy in his relationship and wants to bring you into his life for some reason.. If he was single, I would think his intentions were okay.. but since he IS in ANOTHER relationship, he needs to break up with his current GF and then pursuit hsi ex's.  Word of advice for you-- tell your current significant other!  He should know from you then ever finding out by accident.  Good luck with this sticky situation!!!
299537
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
866558
It sounds like you are separated and she is an ex, so that part is good .. .\n\nNow you have your anger to deal with . . .\n\nTry seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . .it might help you clear out some of those emotions, and you will be ready for a new relationship sooner . . .