Why can't I hate my exwife...?
550098
why do you still love her? How long have you been divorced? If you loved her dearly, and your devorce was mutual and you have children together, maybe thats it. I need more info to give you an educated answer...
649191
Some people are filled with hate for themselves and that spills over onto other people.  You can still love her despite her own issues.  Rise above, dont let her hate define you.
841373
Yep... it wasn't such a good thing to do... & you will have to learn to forgive yourself long before anyone else will. I would suggest writing to your (I'm assuming) ex-wife & tell her all these things that you're saying here. Apologize for your actions, for hurting her, for straying. You can't do much else past an apology. Your ex is trying to figure out what SHE did wrong, to cause you to stray from your marriage in the first place. Perhaps you can help sort that out for her. Being an outsider here, you are taking responsibility for your actions, but she needs to know that you realize what you did was wrong.  \n   Remember always, hind-sight is 20/20. Don't do anything you think you might regret later, because regret is a horrible thing to have to live with.  Once you learn to forgive yourself, time will take care of the rest. Your guilt shouldn't keep you from living your life.. it should prevent you from making mistakes in the future, by causing you to stop & think before you act.
205016
Ummm.  If you hate her, then is she really your best friend?  Seems contradictory to me.  \n\nWhy don't you just hang out with people you actually enjoy spending time with? \n\nGood luck.
177709
Well, did her ex say something to piss you off, or do you just have anger issues? It can be irritating to think of the past relationships of our mates, but just because he dated her doesn't mean he deserves a beating.
1038442
Do not write her back, don't try to get any more information about her, she is your past. Your life with her is over, you said you ARE happy!  If you are happy do not change things. Who knows why she tried to  contact you, maybe that was before her boyfriend  had found his murder victim!  I know that there is a school of thought around here to tell you to be nice or try to help her. Forget about it! Don't go near her, or drag the likes of her around your new wife and child! She is probably on dope, and if she isn't and you don't want her back I think it's still a bad move to be anything but an  "ex" to her.  She already knows your address if you want to hear the death knell on your good marriage, then let your first  wife (the doper) into your lives.  Are you sure you are finished with  that woman (after the way she has treated you in the past)?  \n\nNo, I don't think you should be celebrating because her life is in the toilet, but if anyone deserves some "bad luck"  just because of her own poor choices (and not all of it is luck either, much of your ex wife's misfortune can only be traced in origin right back to her  own foolishness)!  She could have made the choice to keep you and remain your loyal and loving partner, but SHE gave that up, so  there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be a victim of her's again!  \n\nYou are free of this person from your past, and if you write back to her, you are opening the door for her,  (you may as well  make sure your new wife knows that you are considering contacting her again, because you "feel sorry for her"). I sure would not do anything for her (including writing to her or anything) without talking it over with the woman who is your wife now!\n\nThe best outcome you can hope for is that she doesn't persist in trying to contact you!  In this life sometimes it's best not to look back,  and  I really think it's a mistake to "look back" at her.  I am sorry if that makes me seem cold, but please take my word for it, the last thing you need in your lives is a dope addict  with a sad story and history with you!  Dear Man, please do not go there!\n\nGood luck, and the less you know the (about her) maybe the best, if you want to help her then maybe you could pray for her if she is on dope, sometimes that's all you can do for a doper anyway.
208426
You evidently don't love her either, how about leave her husband and her alone. Glad your'e not my sister or cousin.
242239
Think to yourself...Is casual sex with my wife's best friend going to hurt or enhance my marriage? You must hate your wife to even consider doing something that would cause her nothing but heart-ache and embarrassment
945268
sit down with your girl friend and explain that your ex wife has realized that she still has feelings for you although you do not have feelings for her any longer... explain that you do not want to cause your exwife any more pain than she has all ready caused herself... tell her that you would respect her feelings in the same situation... ask her to be patient for a while longer\n\nyour girl friend is probably still very unsure of herself in this relationship even though you co habitate... do your best to re assure her of your affections\n\nif this problem persists you might also try sitting down with your ex wife and explaining that your girl friend is not happy with the situation and ask her if she will consent to one meeting... for a few minutes only\n\nyou are being pulled in two different directions by the women in your life... you seem to be handling the situation well...  trying to be considerate of both women's feelings... in this case one of your ladies will have to give... or you will have to take matters into your own hands and force one of them to back down... but be very careful if you choose to do that... you may cause hard feelings in someone
156309
Yes, emotions really run rampant after a divorce. I even contemplated killing myself after mine. It just takes time to get back into a comfortable groove. Just give yourself time. Spoil yourself!
663176
Why on earth should what your Ex Wife does with her life affect what you provide for your child??Her remarrying does not change that you are that child's Father.
528147
Of course you can move on.  And for your sake, I hope you do it real soon.  You were a whole person before you got married, and you still are a whole person now.  Depends on who has custody of the kids, as to how much you can change her bad mouth.  If you have custody, than head for the court, again.  If not, you are just going to have to "suck it up".  \n\nYou might check with a lawyer (yuk! hate to say that) or get legal advice, to see what your options are.\n\nMain thing is to be glad that she is living somewhere, and with someone else.  Let him enjoy her wonderful company, until she screws around with a new man.\n\nI have to say to you, be glad this jerk is gone.
1133593
me. why won't she go away????
881413
Yes it can it can totally make you begin to dislike them and even start to hate to be around them. This is a very serious situation and she needs to start taking you more seriously. It seems like this is making serious problems in your marriage. If this does not worry her then maybe she isnt concerned about losing you and her marriage. Try talking to her again and if she is still acting the same way leave it alone. she will see when she looks up and you will be gone
311077
You SERIOUSLY sound like you have major issues with your wife, from seeing all the questions you've asked. For one, get a life or, two, for God's sake, get a divorce or something instead of just bantering every hour uselessly about your wife.
59717
Actually, my ex-husband was my friend for years after we got divorced. The bad thing is, he has a new fiance, and he knows that she and I are arch enemies because of accusations she made about my son 8 years ago. Now that he is with her, we totally do not get along at all. I believe he only started dating her because I got married 3 years ago to someone he didn't like. (Childish, if you ask me, because I'm very happy). It's a jealousy thing, but I'm not pressed. But anywhoooo..yes, you can be friends with your ex. Just make sure it's for the right reasons. If your ex has an alterior motive, it will only cause problems for you later. Hope this helps!
217765
Why are you help your ex wife???