help please, friend might be killing herself?
543302
One of my friends used to be anorexic. She went to the doctor one day for headaches and come to find out, she had a brain tumor because of it. If you are still in school, go to the guidance counselor or talk to her parents. Definitely not healthy.
64294
have you talked to her since? she needs your support now more than ever! make sure to talk to her alot; she doesn't necessarily need to respond. ask her about her problems...make sure she knows you care. DON'T give advice to "fix" her problems; just show her that there's more to life! AND remind her of the people she'd be hurting (mainly you, other friends, parents, and siblings) if she decided to do it again. suicide attempts are always a very sad situation. get together with her and other friends; go walking, swimming, read a novel aloud to one another, watch a funny movie together, look at photo albums! make sure to spend QUALITY TIME with her. the next attempt she has may be interrupted by your phone call to hang out with her! good luck and keep it up! -sudo psycho...logist
375154
first of all why is she your friend? second ignoring is the best weapon always. just ignore her. her threats to commit suicide is just the weapon to control u. trust me she won't do anything, or if she does she certainly will fail with her attempt.
899891
whoa NELLY! You need some help dude. Seriously! CALL AND GET HELP NOW. Im worried about you! SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER! PLEASE DONT DO THAT!
447149
The poor thing...  She is lucky that she has you as a friend who really wants to help her.  I dont blame her for not wanting to talk, she must feel terrible.  I think the best thing to do is to go somewhere with her where there is no-one else around you guys, like the beach or a park or go on a bushwalk, or just do something that you know she loves.  Make sure no-one else is around (especially not the people who are making fun of her) and try and get her to relax and not be afraid to speak. \nIf you cant get her to go anywhere with you straight away, try sending text messages to communicate or write each other letters.  Buy her a diary to write down all her feelings in.  \n\nShe needs to know she has support.  Try talking to her family (as long as they arent the ones who are laughing at her).  If you dont help her now, (or get someone to help her) she could end up developing social disorders or agraphobia (where she will be too scared to leave the house).  You are a great friend, she is lucky to have a friend who cares about her and doesnt make fun of her.  Just help her through it as best you can.. And as for the people laughing at her, how pathetic.  They must be really horrible people to make your friends life hell. Good on u for sticking by her.
1038366
Call the police and tell them the story.  They have to go to her home, make sure u mention shes intending to harm herself.  They have to come out. If she is under 18 call Child protection Service and she can be removed from home.  Or if u are able to kidnap her and take her to the ER.  (use to work in one and u would be surprise how many are brought in for suicidal tenancies) They have to treat her.  They can not refuse to take her in.  And ask UR parents for help.  U might be surprise what ur parents could do for as well.  (well I hope they are like my parents willing to step in for a ur friends)
171401
If you're really that worried, hiei4212, ring 911. Tell them it's a possible (preventable) suicide or self-injury. I can't believe people haven't said this already. Gee! Call now!
278746
Listen, this is very serious. I'm a counselor, and your friend is in real danger of hurting herself. Take her very seriously. You are too young to handle  this. You need to talk to someone you trust, whether it be your parents or another adult. I'm sorry if I'm scaring you. There are counselors who can help her. There are suicide hot lines.Look in the phonebook. There should be a listing in the front under emergency services. The burden of this needs to be put in the hands of an adult. A part of what makes this serious is the Moms abuse issues. Your friend has probably been exposed to this all her life in some form or another. Who ever you choose to help, hopefully your parents, will talk to you, and guide you. Answer me back when you can. I'll look for your message. Use the heading, I found an adult to help. Good luck honey.
1121974
I am a recovering cutter myself so I can tell you that you cant do anything to make her stop. You can, however, help her by letting her know that you truly care and want to understand. Make sure she knows that whenever she needs to talk you are always ALWAYS available to listen to her. You might try asking her to call you whenever she fights with her mom or whenever her mom hurts her instead of cutting herself.\n\nPeople who cut themselves do sometimes have suicidal thoughts, but the act of cutting is not a suicide attempt in itself. Self-mutilation is a coping mechanism that people use to try to comfort themselves because "normal" coping mechanisms like running, writing, "take a deep breath", etc doesnt work for them. Because of this make sure you never refer to her cutting as wrong or bad or abnormal because its her last resort to deal with her pain.\n\nAs far as telling someone, I would advise you dont tell anyone just yet. Before you tell someone you need to talk to her about it and suggest that you can be with her when she tells someone. If she refuses to tell someone no matter how hard you try you need to tell her that if she doesnt tell someone then you will. Like someone else said, cutting is often a sign of some sort of mental health disorder and can be treated with medication and/or therapy. \n\nGood luck and if you have any more questions or your friend needs someone to talk to who's been through all this PLEASE dont hesitate to IM me on AIM at HeresToGoodnight. Or you can email me at my yahoo email adress and I will be more than happy to help you guys out. Good luck!
981199
go to a school counselor or a teacher and tell them what is happening. They can take it from there. Your friend may get mad at you and never talk to you but will have you to thank for it later when she has a life. She can be doing a lot of damage or could kill herself from it. Be a true friend and seek help for her.
195410
The only way she can be helped is if she wants to be....I don't think it matters what you do or say she's the one that wants to be helped..i think it's OK to talk to her and tell her how you feel about this and let her know that when she's ready for help you'll be there...at that point you can find her a group to go to or a hospital to go to...till then just be a friend.
123856
Many people who self harm are misunderstood. Obviously your friend needs help and perhaps that is his/her only way of letting people know about it. If you can, convince your friend to take up counselling or let someone who can do something about it know.YOu also hang in there. It must be hard to be close to someone who is hurting.
962332
Wow that is a hard one, I think that your friend should tell her mom that she found the stuff and that she is upset that she is doing those kinds of things. I mean maybe she can get her to go to get help and talk to someone. Maybe your friend can also tell her mom that she is afraid she will die and she will lose her. A little bit of a guilt trip on mom.. Good luck both of you
744085
Unfortunately, you're not going to be able to "do" anything but support her when she's trying to recover.  There is more to anorexia and eating disorders than just eating.  It's a control thing and she really needs to be in counseling with a professional and groups...all of those things she's getting.  You can encourage her to go.  Maybe getting her to volunteer with sick kids (those with cancer) might help her realize that her life is precious.  In other words, get outside of "herself" and give to others is very healing.  God love you for being a good friend.
1010790
If he is talking suicide, then you need to get him help. You could call the cops in the area were he lives to go get him and take him to a local ER. The ER doc will evaluate him and committ him if needed. I hope the best for the both of you.
797771
Please refer her to a psychiatrist or social worker, pronto! When she's emotionally so far gone, the best thing is for an experienced professional to help her deal with things. Even an anonymous helpline can go a long way to helping her. If her family is involved, everyone around her can make a concerted effort to be supportive and even force her to do what's best for herself. She needs to know life is still worth living, and the best way is for those who love her to assure her and help her, no matter how difficult.\n\nPeople suffering from depression can be REALLY hard to deal with, but we must remember that by the time they're suicidal, their sense of logic has already taken a turn. Telling them they're selfish will only do more harm because it will make them feel even more worthless.
223549
Dear Looking For..,\n There are many selfish people in the world that think 'if you are their friend you can have no other friends.' These people are insecure and they're probably some of the most depressing people you could choose to be around. Your 'suicide thoughts' might be because of this person is making you feel trapped and posessed by them (her). I advise you to get away from her and make new friends. She can grow up and except it or be lonely, but don't let her bring you down anymore! You aren't her property! \n\n If you have anymore suicide thoughts, Honey, go talk to your Mom or your school counselor, because you may need medicine to help you with depression. \n I wish you happiness and many new friends.\n           Hope_I_Helped!