If your forced to have sex with a man but don't like it are you gay or bi?
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Dear SadnService,\nit is rape, no less. You are definitely not bi as you don't like it.\n\nI was very much saddened when I read your Qs and As. Still am. It is hard for me to imagine what you have gone through from young till now. I only hope that you will find the courage to choose a better partner to be submissive to, one who will not subject you to rape or extreme pain. I fear that one day, you will not survive your ordeal. I do not know much about the lifestyle you are in right now. But I do know that there are limits in everything. I pray that you will find a better partner who you can choose to be submissive to the extent you are comfortable with if that is really the lifestyle you want - not to be raped or beaten so badly. You see, you do have a choice to choose as such. Please listen to what OGreatWiseOne said in one of your questions. I cannot agree more with her when she said that even people who have chosen this lifestyle, can be abused, and deserve an escape route to live in safety. Please do find a counsellor specialising in this kind of special problem.\n\nMasturbation is normal & common. You were much dominated by women from young from what you have said and were humiliated by the women in your life. I cannot imagine what else you had to endure when you were growing up. I think that probably accounted for your low self esteem. As a result you said that you hate your gender and yourself. If you say that, all men and women on this earth would have to say the same too. That is how common masturbation is. It is a normal human reaction. Please know that God doesn't hate you and that you are not ugly and worthless. You are not born that way. Your negative experiences when growing up had a huge impact on your personality. You and in fact all of us are a product of our environment. How we turn out is directly related to our environment. Please do not think that you do not have a choice at all. You do have a choice, that is something God gave all human beings. You can choose to take a first step to stop this rape and torture. You see, you are seeking answers here and that is a choice you made. And you are asking how to stop this rape and torture. It tells me that the extreme environment you are in is not one which suits you at all, submissive or not. You are incompatible with that extreme environment.\n\nI do not have knowledge of this kind of lifestyle nor am I any professional to be saying things. However, from what you have written, I would urge you to seek help first to get out of that extreme environment and counselling to find out who you really are deep down. Are you a real submissive or were you subjected to factors which ultimately led you to this lifestyle? Under entirely different circumstances, it may be likely that you would not be a submissive. My instinct is that you're really not a submissive, and that you think you are one and you have no choice. You do not embrace the torture and as such I honestly believe that you are not one. Or it can also be that you are a mild submissive by nature and extremes will never suit you. If that is the case, do find someone who is also mild & not extreme in that kind of lifestyle. It is never too late to turn yourself around if you do find that you are not one or turn out to be a mild one. Do not hate yourself in spite of the extreme humiliation & torture you were put through. Courage is something admirable, but it is not something everyone has, especially those who were put down constantly when growing up. Even those who grow up in a normal environment never possess courage all the time. We are afraid at one time or another. I suspect that you were put through many other ordeals. You are a product of your environment and you're not born that way. But if you change the environment, you can change too. It is easy for people to criticize and hate, but if I were in your position and underwent what you did from young till now, I would be too afraid to be coura
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Ummm, why are you asking this in the gay and lesbian section?  Are you BI?
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No crap, how gay are you?
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No!!\nI think you're bisexual and that's why you're asking this stupid question.
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Do you attracted to people of the same sex?  If so, you are probably gay.
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being gay is not a choose.  If it were a choose I would be straight, when I was growing up I prayed everyday for God to make me straight but now I;ve learned to be happy with myself and who I am.
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The assumption is that you are straight, but have fantasized about having sexual relations with those of the same gender.... if you're curious about homosexual acts, but you are sure that you enjoy heterosexual acts, then you are Bi-curious.\n\nIf you engage in and enjoy both hetero- and homo-sexual acts, you are no longer bi-curious, you are confirmed Bi-Sexual :)
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There are no tests parse.  It is what a guy feels.\n\nIf a guy is turned on by other guys and not really by girls -- particularly when he is masturbating -- then he is gay.\n\nIf a guy is turned on by girls and not really by other guys -- particularly when he is masturbating -- then he is straight.\n\nIf a guy is turned on by both, then he is bi.\n\nAll of this presumes that he can accept himself however he is and is not trying to force himself to be one way or another.  If he is trying, for example, to force himself to be straight, then he can suppress his homosexual feelings for years, but they will conquer eventually if they are there.\n\nIf you have further questions just ask.\n\nKind thoughts,\n\nReyn\nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
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you arn`t going gay.you definitelly are GAY!
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wtf? are you a man or woman?  straight or gay?  i need details
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If you have any type of sex with men, you are gay.  If you wear women's clothes, you are a sissy but not gay.  Whatever the case, if you're not hurting anyone - DO WHAT THE F*CK YOU WANT AND DONT' WORRY ABOUT WHAT SOMEONE MAY THINK.  free yourself...
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Well, not sure if you're bi or lesbian, but I do have lots of friend who are gay/les/bi and you have to go with how you feel inside. My ex is bi and I noticed often that she was more sensual with girls but was rougher in bed with me. It was good trust me.
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are you gay now or what?
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Well, since I'm gay, I would have to say a gay male.  I've tried straight males, they're not very good at it.
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Depends on if you are having sex 4 times a day with the same sex (in which case I'd say, yes, you are gay) or the opposite sex (in which case, I'd say no...you are definitely not gay).
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Elaborate on the facts please.  Are you bi or really gay. Or do you mean boyfriend in platonic sense?  Or are you just putting some BS into the mix because you are bored?
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I don't believe that it makes you gay. But, it also depends on what your definition of Gay is.  I do believe that you have homosexual tendencies.  That means that you may not be actually having sex with or being sexually intimate with men right now.  But, if the right situation presents itself, you may become involved with a man sexually.  Now, whether you will just like guys then or not, I don't know.  However, anything is possible with anything.  Just take you time and find out what makes you feel good as a person and what makes you feel good intimately and that will be your answer.  Don't worry about the label too much.