My boyfriend is always looking and staring at females till they look at him, is this bad?
546999
Sounds like he was not held enough or breast-fed enough as an infant. Missing mother love. Well, you can make an issue of it, but I doubt that he will change. He was like that before he met you. You have to decide how bad it bugs you. If it is too much, then guess you have to find another boyfriend who is a bit more considerate. \n\nAll men look at women. They seem to be judging whether or not the woman is attractive, worthy of more of their attention. Hormones, mating urge, I don't know. Men look. We are visual creatures. Women look too. Maybe they are more discreet. \n\nAgain, your decision on how much it bothers you.
286462
PERHAPS HE CARES FOR YOU SO DEEPLY,HE FEELS YOU MIGHT GET "CONVERTED" OR "CORRUPTED" BY THEIR LIFESTYLE...OF COURSE,YOU HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN AND THE WILL TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU DO...MAYBE HE IS SIMPLY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE THOUGHT OF OTHER WOMEN EYEING YOU--AND LOOKING YOU UP AND DOWN. IN ANOTHER WAY,HE'S SAYING,"YOU ARE SO PRETTY--THEY MIGHT TRY TO MOLEST YOU!" TAKE THAT FOR WHAT IT'S WORTH, OH DIVINE MISTRESS....
888192
But...but...but...why would you want someone like that?  Once he's with you, he might still be attracted to those "taken women" still?!  Please reassess....you might be just heading for a lot of frustration and heart ache!
380619
Your problems go deeper than just him wanting to look at other women.  This is not usually a serious problem as most men appreciate looking at women, even if they have no intention of doing anything with them.\n\nYour basic problem is your own insecurity.  If you had spent more time communication with you boyfriend instead of nagging at him, things might have taken a different path.  Communication is the key to a good relationship.\n\nIf you are ever going to be in a relationship, then you need to get help.  You obviously cannot deal with this problem on your own.  It will just keep getting worse until he gets fed up and then starts doing more than looking.\n\nYou say that you love him, but love is based upon trust.  You seem to be unbalanced by his "looking" because you do not trust him.  By nagging at him you are forcing him away.\n\nGet professional counseling.  Work on your self esteem.  When you know that you can form a long term relationship and trust the other partner then you will stop this destructive behavior.
531989
My BF looks and he is not subtle about it at all!!! It bothers me with him which is weird because it never bothered me with other guys. But I think it is because he is not subtle about it he cuts off in mid-sentence to look at some girl, I haven't figured a way around him looking or my jealousy over it. Sometimes I say outrageous things to get his attention but it hasn't worked so far. I think I will just buy him some dark sunglasses so at least  I won't notice as much.
630326
Yes lawd! It's a natural and healthy feeling. Just think, if you were with your ideal man...would every other man in the world be unnattractive to you. I'm not completely sure what your exact question is, but maybe you're asking more along the lines is "Is it acceptable for my bf to find other women attractive?". The way he reacts to the presence of another woman would answer that. If he responds in a way that is derogatory to you...then it's highly unacceptable. But if he finds a feature on her that attracted him to you..for instance...nice eyes. Then he is checking out other women, but paying you a compliment as well...not being rude and not lying or covering up his actions. And the way you react plays a part in it too. If his reaction is a positive one and you show the same...then I think it's okay, but if you cut him a wicked look (not in fun and play) then he'll be scared to react with other women present bc of you. It goes both ways thougth miss lady...if you see some eyecandy you like, be a woman...let it be known but still be classy and respectful to your man.\n\nHope this helps in some form or fashion.\nFlirting can be so dangerous these days if taken too seriously.
356468
Gawking..is beyond looking or staring..  it's openly and obviously "staring" continuing even after the other person becomes aware of it..And yes it is creepy..Are you sure you don't want to dump Mr. Creepy for someone who will at least curb his lust for other women when you're around.
631936
no! of course not. Guys look to & get a glance to sexier girls even if their girlfriend is at their side with them!
260825
you need to let him know that him checking out other gurks makes you feel insecure.he is a man he know no better. but he needs you to let him know what bothers you. i truly think he does love you. i dont think he tries to upset you, but he probably doesnt know he is hurting you. you need to let him know that you do so much for him and in the end it feels like he is disrespecting you and doesnt appericate what you do for your relationship. after you talk with him face to face im sure things will get better for you two, if he truly cares. just dont let him keep treating you bad because he will take it for vantage.\ni hope things work out for you hun and hope i hope my advice worked for your relationship.
872465
I would find some else because this person is not loyal to his own girlfriend,and he sounds like what we call "a two timer" which means he likes to see more than one girl, and if you do see him, a big chance he'll do the same behind your back, so don't fool yourself and get hurt later on....so find someone else who is himself not someone who wants to flirt and show off in front of other people to get your attention....thats being childish on his behalf....seek a guy who likes who you are as an person not what you are....the relationship will go a long way.....
154955
Some men go to porno sites and some buy magazines with nude girls. Of course, some women do the same. It is one of those things where they honestly cannot help themselves. Just make sure the ones he is admiring are not children, if that should happen cut his dingy off. \nIt is natural. Hurtful to you. He is sorry and loves you much. Pray, pray, pray.
367621
Honey...sorry to say this but this wonderfull boyfriend of yours does not respect u or the realationship that he has with u..just by reading what u wrote i can tell that this kind of behavior from him breaks your heart...u shouldn't put up with this at all...if he is staring at her in front of u..god only knows what he does behind your back..it doesn't matter what any of us post here to say to u...But if i was u i would move on...get your things when he is not around and get out of this relationship...think about it this way...if i was your sister and i told u what u are telling us...what would u say?...see what i mean?...there are some wonderful guys out there that u havn't even met yet that are dying to meet u
584882
Its a fact that men are visual creatures.  We look, even when we sometimes shouldn't.  It doesnt mean that shes hotter than you or that we'd rather be with the other girl.  it just a natural thing to look if you think someone or somthing appeals to you.  As long as you boy/man aint acting on these things, approaching other girls or just or stalking them aroung the local mall there nothing wrong with it.  It unrealistic to believe that just because you've entered into a relationship that you've gone blind. and be honest when you out with him, and see a guy you think is attractive don't you look?
414930
First off, you are allowing him to look through your stuff, big mistake!  Obviously he was gifted with the jealousy gene and you with the "let him do whatever he wants" gene.  So my first piece of advice, stop letting him do whatever he wants.  Trust is a two way street.  If he wants to see what you have in your junk, then he should be showing you what's in his.  However, it's very common for an unfaithful person to try and hide their guilt by trying to find something to blame it on with their signif.  So what should you do?  I'd dump him and get someone who's got self confidence, maybe it will help you get some too.
683716
I assume by the question that he used to look at you, but now he doesn't, is that correct? Has something changed? Is there a reason for him not to want to look at you? My response to the question is that if he's not into it enough to look at you, and look into your eyes, then you need to find you a different boyfriend........one that WILL look at you, and really is "into you". Good luck!
1097507
sometimes guys just look at other woman but it doesnt mean that he would rather be with her...  I dont think that your boyfriend is lying to you. alhough he might not be able to stop he really cares about you
755789
It is a bit loutish to truly ogle. My interest in other women's appearance did not stop with my marriage.  Some of us are people watchers who prefer to watch women. I often try to put a story with the face. I also like art and photography galleries. this is innocent study of human behavior. So if he is not turning to you and saying crap like "I wish you looked like that" or " Did you see the gams on that one,Ay". Maybe cut him a bit of slack. \nTruth is, when he loses interest in looking at other women he is probably not looking toward you either.\n\nIt never hurts to read the menu  even if you can't afford the entree.