y do tennagers  decide to suicide?
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islamic point of view here is a Question asked to someone on a family member committing suicide:\nQuestion : \n\n\nMy younger brother died by hanging himself. He was only 25 yrs.old. The problem was a small tiff between my mother and himself. We are all deeply shocked and very much grieved. There are so many questions that I would like to ask you regarding this situation. Firstly, why did Allah choose this kind of death for my brother. Secondly, my father is 65 yrs old and he is very pious and my mother is extremely kind and gentle. Why did Allah show this day in their lives? Thirdly, how can we help him (my brother) who is no more? How can we see him in jannat? Can we convey our salam to him? Will our salam reach him? \n Also, after we did autopsy we found out that his death was not because of strangulation but because his spinal cord broke. Actually what happened was, there was a swing made out of a cloth for my kid in the room. My brother he took a stool which was nearby and tied it around his neck saying i will take my life. My mother was in the same room, praying. We feel it was not suicide, maybe it was his anger which made him do this. \nHis friends tell us that he was not the kind to commit suicide. In fact he used to advice his friends against it if they mentioned it. \nHis funeral was also good and his face did not look like he was suffering or anything. It looked like he was sleeping and we just had to wake him up. Does this indicate   \nPlease reply to this as we are very troubled by this sudden demise. \n\nAnswer : \n\nPraise be to Allaah.   \n\nIn dealing with these questions we must note three things, which are: \n\n1 – Everything happens by the will and decree of Allaah. Everything that happens in this universe, good or bad, happens by the decree of Allaah, under His control and by His will, for there is no lord except Him and no controller besides Him. \n\n2 – We must believe that He is wise in all that He decrees, for His is the utmost wisdom in all that happens in this universe, whether we understand that or not. Indeed, much of Allaah’s wisdom cannot be comprehended by the minds of His slaves. So we must submit to Allaah, by believing that His wisdom is perfect. It is not permissible for us to object to Him, whether that means objecting to His laws or to His decrees. \n\n3 – Suicide is a major sin and a bad end. The one who kills himself in order to escape calamities or poverty or the results of distress or anger has, by doing that, exposed himself to the punishment of Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): \n\n“… And do not kill yourselves (nor kill one another). Surely, Allaah is Most Merciful to you.\n\nAnd whoever commits that through aggression and injustice, We shall cast him into the Fire, and that is easy for Allaah”\n\n[al-Nisa’ 4:29] \n\nAnd it was narrated in al-Saheehayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron, that iron will be in his hand and he will be stabbing himself in the stomach with it in Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with poison, that poison will be in his hand and he will be drinking it in Hell…” \n\nWhatever happened in this case, we must refer the matter to Allaah. What appears to be the case is that what happened was suicide, because he hung himself, i.e., he tied a rope around his neck and strangled himself. So either he committed suicide or he wanted to commit suicide. And Allaah knows best. \n\nAs for the righteousness of the parents, this does not mean that Allaah will not test them with some calamities, so as to show their patience and so as to erase thereby their sins. For the believer’s whole affair is good: if something good happens to him he gives thanks for it, and that is good for him, and if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience, and that is good for him, and this applies only to the believer. So being tested with calamities does
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I am trying to understand your question.First thing, people who call their friends and hint that they want to end their lives do not want to die. your friend is hoping that you will stop her.(got the feeling it's not done yet,I hope,seeing she has done this before) \nShe is calling out to you for HELP.\nHere is something from Module 6-Counseling 11, from when I used to do Crisis Hot-line .\nThe decision to commit suicide is usually the result of a long-term,gradual erosion of the person's ability to cope with negative emotions.She may feel overwhelmed and hopeless;suicide may seem to be the only option.\nStudies have shown that majority ofsuicidal people do not want to die. A number of warning signs can indicate the possibilityof suicide,including:\nsuicide threats, depression, apathy,or withdrawal, giving away prized possessions,making a will ,abrupt changes in behavior, the recent death of a loved one,family history of suicide,family disruptions such as divorce or the break-up of a relationship, and a clear reduction in the fear of death.Many people report that before a loved one committed suicide, he or she seemed "better". In fact , a sudden lifting of sadness, depression, or withdrawal may indicate that the decision to commit suicide has been made. Person may seem calm and at "peace" At this point,the suicide risk is often very high.\n\nHigh risk\nSuicidal feelings seem to be growing stronger, and  a plan has been thought out,but the details have not been worked through.Previous suicide attempts, af any, may be more recent, with higher lethality.\nyour friend seem to fall in high risk category. She has attempted this before. \nShe is looking for a way to end the pain and stress she feels. \nKeep her on the phone if you can , you might have to intervene for your friend, by calling the cops, telling them where she lives, her telephone number, if necessary. \nRemember whatever, happens you have done the best you can, and you might have to seek support for yourself.\nI do not know where you are but here is a 800 info -line \n(800) 203-1234  this is a state wide suicide hot-line that can be called 24 hours a day. There may be options in your area, or her area. Let your Mom know what is happening.\nHope I was able to help.
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Tell an adult, counselor, teacher, parent.  Break the trust, its time.  Suicide is no joke.
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They cut themselves for the same reasons you do - to stop the interior pain.  So some of them have a clearly identifiable event that happened, that does not lead directly to a desire to cut themselves.  It's not the event, it's the pain they feel.\n\nReality is what YOU perceive it to be.  That's their reality.  Counseling is still the best bet here, and I think you know that.  Be well.
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Talk to someone....call a free help line. Talk to someone before doing something drastic. Suicide is a selfish choice - look at all those that you would leave behind. I strongly urge you to talk to someone...give it a shot. It takes no effort to make a call.
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They eventually die, either by suicide or depression which leads them to stop taking care of themselves and sometimes self destructive  behavior such as drunkenness and drug abuse and is just a slower form of suicide.
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I don't know.  I have been to the point of suicide.  I used to say how dumb could a person be to even consider such a thing. People that haven't been there don't truly understand.  I don't know about a truly painless method;but I do know the true pain; hurt; despair; and feeling of emptiness when a person deems suicide is the only option.  I took a lot of pills thinking I would just drift off to sleep-seemed easy enough-didn't work I woke up sometime later.  I am diabetic I have stopped my insulin and ate sugar-undying stomach pain and vomiting.  I don't believe there is anything easy or painless about suicide.  Even if one was to succed with a painless method-what is waiting for us after our self affliction.  There are many different opinions on the religious viewpoint as to life after death of a person who takes their own life.  I'm sure many people disagree and most that do probably have never been suicidal;for what it's worth my personl opinion is a truly suicidal person is not responsible for their actions.  Their mentality is not of their norm;if it were than why are their actions and personality straying from happy times in life.  If you are considering suicide-talk to someone please.  For some reason I am still on this earth; I simply believe its not my time or I would be gone.  It's a struggle sometime but life is worth living.
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Why? Are you trying to kill yourself?
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Many people think about suicide when they are hurting. They just want the pain to stop, be it physical or emotional. I haven't done this myself but I once watched a friend try to kill herself without being able to lift a finger to help! She ran across two lanes of traffic than got down on her knees and sommersaulted across the meridian and two more lanes of traffic. When she got to the other side (thank god!) she turned around and sommersaulted her way back again. There were too many cars passing for me to do anything but grab her before she could try it again for a third time. She had a guardian angel looking after her that day. They say God takes care of fools and drunks and I believe it now! I swear I lost five years off my own life that day, watching her go! She was horrified at what she'd done when she sobered up of course. Friends should always stick with friends when they are trying to drown their sorrows. You never know what they might take it into their heads to do while they are intoxicated. Not that I was much help at the time! It all happened so fast that I was caught flatfooted. You are lucky your friend was there to help you and I'm glad that you appreciate it, and that you are both still good friends. Many people avoid others after displaying such abberrant behaviour in front of them. That's what happened with me and my friend. I reminded her too much of what she'd tried to do and she was ashamed. Not that I said anything mean to her about it, but she only had to see me to remember everything and she didn't want to be reminded.
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I don't think a person is selfish for committing suicide.  How can a mentally ill person be selfish?  They are not able to be selfish because in their world nothing is real.  It may appear to be a selfish act, and/or it might be that those of us left behind, have to label the person as selfish as it is our only way of coping with the grief.  People who turn to suicide either didn't have the help and support they needed or their mind just couldn't cope any more.  Not a lot different to a person who dies of a heart attack.  You can quit smoking, lose weight to prolong your life but what do you do when your own mind has turned its back on you.  To turn to suicide means you think there is no other way out.  It's a sad fact of life.  You can only feel sorry for these people.
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Yes there is and it was in the news a lot some months back because of such pacts. It's a person's right to commit suicide but if they need support to do it, then they are not ready. Suicide should be the last resort - it affects so many people who are left behind. The family carry that burden for ever and those who feel that they could have helped feel terrible guilt. In fact, many cannot cope and end up with depression and mental health issues themselves. Suicide is an easy option when the going gets tough. It's much harder to fight and beat depression but once you do, you will never want to go back to that black place.
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I myself know six people who've committed suicide...all men. No, not men I dated....3 relatives, 2 high school friend and one friend from college. I think that everyone has a different method of coping and everyone's method isn't as good as others. And I also think everyone has limits to what they can handle and if people haven't learned how to cope with life's struggles, it's easy to see how they can succumb to suicide.\n\nI've forwarded the following link to friends and acquaintances many times who've said they've reached their limit. I tell them to read just page 5, if not the entire book.\n\nhttp://www.hopeline.com/docs/suicide.pdf...\n\nIt's a PDF, so you'll need Acrobat Reader to view it.\n\nThere was a time more than a dozen years ago when I reached my limit and someone who could tell, saved me by asking me to read only page 5. I ended up reading the entire book. And I'm still here, so it must be good stuff.\n\nAnd luckily after surfing the Internet one day I found the book, now free on the Internet as a service to others.\n\n:)
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I think anytime anyone MENTIONS suicide, then they at least are thinking about it.  Whether they are "trying to get attention" or not is NOT the issue.  Maybe they NEED the attention.  If a person is depressed constantly, starts giving up on things, eating habits can change, starts giving things away.  Or if a person is depressed and then all of a sudden happy - that they came to the decision they won't be in pain anymore.  ALWAYS take suicide seriously. I have a friend who's son committed suicide at 16 about 12 years ago and it did her in.  She said there were no signs and that is possible.  I've been to that deep dark place myself and it's not a good place to be.  When you are "there" you CAN'T think about others because your pain went that much deeper and your brain functions differently.  That is why - when people say "they are selfish by com. suicide" -- I get angry because until you walk a mile in someone's shoes.........don't get me started.
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Don't you dare take your life. I'm sure there are many that have time to help you. Are you willing to accept help from others is the question??
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Maybe you can check into the new information that suicide attempts are actually caused by illness.  There was a report in the science news that it is actually a chemical imbalance that causes a person to want to kill themselves. You could research that as opposed to people thinking it is a moral issue and that people are being selfish by killing themselves.  Speaking from experience..  I had a suicide attempt from being very depressed from unrelived chronic pain and depression caused from that.  It was not due to selfishness.  I just wanted out of the pain and could find no other way even tho I was taking medication and going to a psychologists.  You could also do a thesis on unrelieved chronic pain and suicide.  There is  a ton of info about this and it is a horrible thing to have.  Good luck hon
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It's a form of natural selection. The strong ones survive, the weak write bad poetry and commit suicide.
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I dont know but I think people in general frown upon suicide because at one point we have all thought about it but we choose to fight instead.