Help me resolve my relationship!?
545960
Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again. \nMake a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times. \nThink ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention. \nKeep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through. \nOnce on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside. \nCut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again. \nTry not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight. \nPrepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop. \nRemember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person to are interested in. This will help it from happening again.
533101
Just be honest and tell him how you feel. Be alone with him and tell him that you really love him and don't want to loose him. Ask him to forgive you and to try to leave it all behind and start over but this time instead of fighting, you guys need to learn to communicate and take things slowly. Don't jump into conclusions because that just makes arguments. Remember communication and trust are the key things to a communication. Trust in him and be honest about how you feel. It will be okay. All couples go through this don't' take it to harsh.
850123
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
835628
you have to come on here for an answer??? Leave the relationship behind if it isn't what you want anymore. Move on.
290197
If you both still like one another than talk it out and fix what ever was wrong.\n\nHope this helps
815669
Try to see if he will commuicate with you.  If he isn't will to at least listen  to you or  try to work it out then he isn't woth having.  One of the key things in a realationship is communication as well as compromise.  If he can't give you that then you need to let go.  I know it will be hard.  Breakups always are.  But just remember there are other fish in the sea.  You need someone who will respect you as well as be able to compromise and communicate.
1113393
Continue with this relationship and see if it gets better.\n\nI wish you love\nstw
771647
If this relationship was a long one it can be particularly hard to overcome. My advice to you is when we walk the path of life with another very often when they leave a huge hole is left in our lives. I would suggest you allow that hole in your life to heal rather than try to force someone else in what is and will become a poorly fitting gap. Lots of people make this mistake and compound often minor mistakes in doing so. This can lead to tragedy and heartache for both parties involved. Get used to walking the path of life alone again before you think about walking with anyone else. this isn't a race, In the end your heart will thank you.
666815
I don't know how old you are.  It sounds like you are in high school.  It is really hard to be in a relationship with a person who doesn't know what they want.  It isn't right to do that to you.  You need to talk to him.  Tell him that he needs to make up his mind (don't yell at him and phrase things nicely, and argument is the last thing that you need).  I was in a relationship with a girl that didn't know what she wanted.  It would have saved me a lot of time if I would have just ended it.  We are still friends though so we are okay.  If you have to end things, do it nicely.  Don't make any personal attacks against him.  If it is "meant to be" (wow that sounds cheesy), he will realize that he really wants you after you two are broken up.  So, if you got back together, he wouldn't have this indecisive problem anymore.  Handle this maturely.  It sounds like he is struggling to figure out what he wants, so you have to be the calm one in this situation.  Girl drama doesn't help guys at all.  All girl drama will do is drive him from you.\nDon't worry about being alone.  I guarantee that you would be okay.  I hope you work things out so you won't have to end a relationship.  Your situation isn't in to terrible of shape, so you still have a lot of hope.
305600
talk to him. explain to him what went wrong. if he truly loves you, he will understand you!
1177456
First, talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and what you think could be better. If he's really serious about the relationship, he'll be more than happy to work on things. Don't out it all on him, you both should work things out together, even if it's on his part.
158811
Well if you cant resolve your problems you should get out of it.There is someone out there who will love you the way you need to be loved .Dont risk missing out on that by staying with someone who makes you miserable.
163007
i know the feeling, it sucks! we've been together for 5 yrs now & im secretly apologizing to him at the back of my mind... take your time to listen to whatever it is that's bothering you right now, a little time off perhaps,so you can figure it out? \nlife is too short for slip ups in relationships. at least you won't be where im at cuz it really sucks!
39670
Well, the only thing you can do is be yourself. you guys need to have some common ground and you both need to want to be in the relationship. please dont hold on to something that has already fled the coup. good luck!!
1166692
Just make it clear that there are conditions to getting back together and that one of them is that the past is the past and that you two are working on a future.  If the past becomes an issue then there is no relationship.
770203
just explain to him that your trust for him is minimal, you can only help him out if he promises not to hurt you again, explain to him how you felt back then and maybe you will both be able to move on and have a great relationship. good luck xx
1106463
you never should stay w/ someone who hurts you..talk to someone..you shouldn't stay in that relationship...!