How long does a widower should wait before start dating again?
552682
Please accept my sympathy for your loss.\n\nI think it depends on the individual as well as the circumstances of the death.  Some times if the deceased was sick for a long time the widower can sometimes move on a little sooner than someone who was suddenly and unexpectedly widowed because they have had time to prepare.  The main thing is to have peace in your heart and not to get involved only to find you weren't ready and then hurt someone.  You also have to factor in your children and their ages.  It might help to talk to them before you start pursuing the dating field again and make sure that they understand if you find someone you like they won't be "replacing" their mother.  The fact that you are asking makes me believe that you yourself think you are ready but are worried that other people may think its too soon.  True friends will be supportive no matter what and should be happy that you are ready to attempt to find the second love of your life.  Don't worry about other people. Do whats makes you happy and what's best for you and your children.  Good luck!!!
410890
As soon as you are ready.  I started dating the same month that my Ex moved out.  I never regreted it and I found a wonderful man.  Go for it.
982033
depends. i would probably wait until he surpised me or something. and the moment was right. depends if he is just a f*ck buddy for someone you might see you spending time with alot.it just depends.
1160812
You should start when you feel comfortable dating again. When you meet someone that makes your heart skip a beat and makes you forget about the ex.. it is time!
521842
There is no set time limit, if you want to start dating, go for it. Don't worry about what other people think, god will be our judge in the end. You only live once. I'am a married mother with children, you have fun and live like you are dying.
165144
It really depends on the situation at hand and the couple as to whether or not it is too fast. I knew a couple who married after only about 6 months and neither was financially stable which caused problems in the marriage etc. and it ended in divorce because they were both pretty unhappy with the situation. Another couple I know dated for 3 months and then married and they've been married for almost 30 years. They were financially secure. I think being financially secure is a main thing to look at. you dont want to put any extra stress on the relationship because right after you are married is supposed to be one of the best times of your life and the most enjoyable. \n\nOn another note, dating long term doesnt hurt anything either. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now.
726517
Oh course you have to wait. He's getting divorce and doens't matter how bad things were in his marriage, getting divorce is never easy. Let him feel free again. Let him enjoy himself. Give him time. I don't think he's ready for another relationship
1146702
The idiots always tend to answer first.  \n\nLife WILL get better.  I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife.  Speaking from some experience, I am "seeing" a widower who was married to his wife for 20-something years.  I did not know him or her when they were married and it will be one year this month since she passed away and he has two teenage children.\n\nIt will be hard and it will probably get harder for you as holidays come and go but you have to hang in there.  You should be so thankful that you met the love of your life, many of us never get that chance.  My guy never thought he would be with another woman, never wanted to.  It is still difficult for him at times and I have difficulty dealing with it at times too.  He pulls away from me to deal with it and I kind of freak out (read my posted questions).  He tells me that it is kind of hard for him to believe that his marriage is over and he sometimes feels like he is cheating.  Give it time.  Time is the only thing that will heal your pain.  Hang in there and live life for that baby of yours, she needs you to be happy.  If you need to talk, feel free to contact me - I kind of understand.
456109
be calmly persistent.  My husband was and we have been together for 11 years.  Just be there for her/ be a friend first
495964
Just take it slow...When I got divorced I met a lot of women through the internet, and by going out to the bar and various events around town.  I learned early on that it was best to go slow and get to know a lot of different women rather than rush back into a relationship.  Remember, there is nothing wrong with dating around as long as everyone is clear about what your doing.  If you place an ad on one of the dating sites be honest and don't lie.  If there are things about you or that you really want in a relationship state them directly so that it is easy for people to decide quickly if you are a potential match for them or not.  And above all else, take a few chances along the way and don't let the possibility of getting turned down stop you from at least trying to meet someone your interested in.
515725
You should give yourself some time before dating again because if you rush into another relationship it could be disastrous for you and the other person.Give yourself some time to figure you what you're looking for in a relationship and tell your future partner what your expeditions are if he can't deal with them,don't waste your time.
304394
I'm very impressed by your input on the situation! Why? Because I'm a divorced father as well, and yes - after a divorce you are somewhat at the mercy of the ex, and at least for me - it's much better to take things slow. I'm a lot more cautious now than I ever was before when it comes to dating!\n\nI don't think he blew you off at all! And for you to suggest fishing? Where can I find someone like you? Got any sisters? (Kidding)\n\nSeriously, be patient, maybe you could even do something as simple as enjoying lunch together somewhere? Take it slow - if he's anything like me, it just takes time.\n\nTry to suggest planning far enough in advance, and see if he can get his ex to be agreeable on the date you've chosen. Sometimes a planned schedule far enough out is the best way to make certain it will work.\n\nGood luck with your situation!
804926
I guess talk to her to set dating guidelines. But if you have established that the relationship is over then she is allowed to date &  you just have to accept that. I'm sorry. If there is a chance of getting back together, than you need to discuss this with her rationally. If you have children than it's important that you two can still communicate.
370173
I am sure that most people would need a recovery period emotionally before dating after a spouses death.\n\nMy mom didn't date for several years after my dad died when she was 39.  She remarried in 1995, 8 years after my dad died.
132474
There's no specific time that one should wait after 6 years of being with the same person.  I would suggest you take time to focus on you for a little while.  Don't be in a big hurry to jump right back into dating.  Use your time now to get your life together and do things that you enjoy.  Mr or Ms Right will come along eventually.
54257
5 years after marriage. or 8, if you're not married.
46763
It depends on the two of you. I know a ex married couple that stayed friends after 24 years of being divorced. Thats a long time and a rare occassion. They are my parents lol. Now if you ended on bad terms and are trying to get along then probably not. Or maybe he is still into you and just wants to end it before he gets caught up into the feelings all over again knowing that you can never be together.