what do you do when your man can not make you happy in bed, but you don't want any one else?
540425
do yourself ,make him watch ,show him how to do you properly ,tell him how u wanna be done
371836
You need to evaluate how you are choosing men to sleep with and why you dont feel good about yourself. You need to be in love with yourself in order to love others completely.
678529
if he's being moody, back off and give him some space. if he continues to be moody, BACK OFF COMPLETELY AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE
146650
That is a tough one.\n\nYou can't make everyone happy, only yourself. If it's time to move on then that's exactly what you have to do. while he may not understand now, he'll eventually move on too.
505026
Seriously, take a break from sex, for now. Get a book on massage, or something, and work on being intimate without the sex. But don't back him into a corner because he's trying to be honest with you, without hurting your feelings. (Like all men, he's obviously very bad at it.) Don't take it personally, either. I used to take it very personally because my ex didn't want sex, but when I look back, I realize we had a great sex life, and he probably was just tired!
296089
#1 quit acting like a whore sleeping around with one guy for 4 years now you want to jump in bed with somebody else. U should have more respect 4 urself because you owe it to yourself.
502689
Hold him off and caress him, talk to him and tell him about your concern. Dont just lie there when he enjoys himself and you dont.
565152
You can't make anybody love you, honey! All you can do is be someone who can be loved.  The rest is up to him!
1153256
If you are not happy - then leave... why would you try to make him feel good when you do not feel good? It is YOUR JOB to make you feel good- not his.... you cannot control how others feel, can only control your own feelings
796036
Stop trying to *change* your man! If he does something that you do not like you either have to accept him, or let him go, but you CANNOT change him!
13319
To please your man in bed, is not to listen to the public and what their opinions are but to listen to what your man has to say. Listen to him, ask him his fantasies, try new things everyday and when you notice him taking a liking to those new ideas keep a log to what he likes and dislikes. But always remember the most important step, listen to him and not other people's opinions...
817123
Date him, sleep with him, move in with him.  If at any point you feel that it isn't working out for you, tell him and leave him.
801307
it's not bad because you are in love with this man..and we all have been there at some point or another..I know I have....I knew that he liked me and didnt want anything more but just sex..because I loved him I stooped so low..I gave soooo much of myself to him..did want ever he wanted in bed..and after I did not feel soo good about myself...I would often cry at nights wondering why he cant love me the way I loved him....and how can I get to love me and want me...I was so in love with this man..that I almost had a threesome because thats what he wanted..thank god I did not go through with it...eventually you will wake up..and you will not want to be used like that anymore..when the love wears off you will see everything more clearly..I know that it is hard but take it from me..it is not worth it..but its something that you will have to come to terms with..\n\nI wish you the best of luck..because I have been there..and it is not a nice feeling..after I left that guy or after we came to the conculsion that we should just be friends without having sex..I spent a year by myself..trying to love myself and start feeling good about myself again/..so in time you too will realize it...
425794
You've got a simple case of wanting what you can't have!  You don't really want him; you just want him to want you.  Once you realize that's your problem, you can move on and have a healthy relationship with someone worthy of you.
600383
I think this is very risky business, it can make someone feel so jealous and insecure. If he just keeps asking to have anthoer person in the bedroom it would make me feel that he's not happy with me sexually. I think if this is something that your going to choose both of you better agree its a one time thing, and also it better be with someone that you will never see agian.
779479
Love is about a two way lane, u get respect u give respect. In order, for you to respect other people , in this instance your husband you need to first respect urself. Man in their own ways, tend to subject women to sccumb to such ways, as they know the weaker sex usually gives in. But be firm, tell him gently you are uncomfortable. He has to love you and your self dignity beyond just your body alone...he has got to realise that his actions will get him nowhere but trouble. I guess, maybe you need to help him out, as it looks like he may have an addiction, so maybe proper counselling may help him get thru this. If you outright reject him, he may in worse situations seek attention elsewhere which may further strain your relationship. You need to handle this with care. Just try to indulge in doing other things together sometimes, and when he brings up x-rated stuff, tease him instead, yet maintain your stand. A healthy relationship, includes good sex relationship, but it should be the be all and end all of it.
600404
The relationship you have is like an addiction. The longer you wait, the more it is going to hurt coming off of it. Bite you lip and end it. Sex can not be the primary focus. Find a way to focus your energies and time toward something a little more beneficial and find a man that wants more from you then just hitting the bed. Don’t you deserve better?