I had an Aunt called Gay, my first girlfriend was Alice Gay, now I'm a gay man , Is this God's plan?
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coincence. \nno one has a destiny to become gay, it's a result of their choices.
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hey if she is gay then tell her but i mean if you are gay and someone was TRYING to make you like guys , do you think that is rights , do not force people to what you want , come on , all that you will get is to make someone give into hate , and become a homophobic because you try to force her , Do you think that is what the world needs ,\nRESPECT WHAT SHE TOLD YOU , DO NOT make assumptions just because you want them to be real ,all that you will gain is someone hating you , is that what you want  COME ON GAY PEOPLE ARE BETTER THAN THAT \nTHINK WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IF IT WAS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE SOMEONE WHY ARE YOU WITH A GUY  THEN
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Thas not true.  I am neither one of those but I can tell you that God says no sin is greater than the other.  Wether you murder your parents or do a man when your a man thats still sin to him and every soul may seek forgiveness.  You may not be correct in your actions, you may not follow all the laws of god, but you can still believe.  God says that taking the same sex to bed together is a sin and he also says that gossip is a sin but nine out of ten times i bet you do that, so what makes you or anyone else better than the other.  If you are gay or a lesbain, to me, that is your sin, you will answer to god just like me for my sins.  Which is greater?  How can god put a scale on how bad you hurt him?  A sin is just that, a sin to god.  Worldly pleasures are just worldly pleasures.  Just try and live your life as correct as possible for god and it shouldn't matter if you're gay or a lesbain.  Just let him know you believe and ask him to live in your heart.  If you truely except him than the lord will help you discover who he has planned for you to love.
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i don't really know but once a gay always a gay
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I've changed sexuality (or rather my perception of it) First I was straight, then I was gay, then I was ashamed & scared so I thought I'd be straight...\n\n...I was in my twenties before I realised I was Bi - would I change it? Not on your nelly.\n\nI hope you have a fantastic time in college - but remember you're also there to study LOL!
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No, but I did know a guy once that after I had sort of fooled around with him (we didn't do very much) that we were talking and in the middle of some conversation he mentioned that he had a girlfriend and that he was bisexual. I think he actually thought that if he came clean and said he was bisexual that somehow that made it okay, but when I asked if his girlfriend knew he said no he didn't know how to tell her. And I remember being a bit sarcastic and saying something like "You just say, hey I love you very much, but I want you to know that I'm bi." I think he just laughed and said it wasn't that easy. I asked him if he loved her, he said yes. Then I asked why he was out having sex with guys then (since earlier he had told me that he had met this guy and they did this or he met this guy and did this, etc). He said because he liked having sex with guys. I remember kinda scorning him a bit about not being faithful to his girlfriend to which he simply replied "But I'm bisexual". I remember saying very clearly "That doesn't mean that this isn't cheating. If she doesn't know and she hasn't said it's okay for you to sleep with guys or even to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, then as far as I'm concerned this is cheating." Ironically he had the nerve to contact me a few years later to tell me he was going to marry her. I asked him if he was still having sex with guys, etc. He told me he wasn't. Then I talked to one of my gay friends who was talking about a guy that sounded familiar that he had sex with a few nights before. I asked his name and sure enough it was him. I went to his work and confronted him about it and he admitted that he had had sex with my friend and then casually mentioned a few other guys I also know. I told him he better tell his fiance, since he still hadn't, or not marry her if he didn't want to do that and that if he didn't tell her and was still going to marry her that my friends and I were going to tell her. I guess that was enough because he broke off the engagement and eventually a few years later did tell her that he was bisexual. To which she calmly replied "Oh neat!" And from conversations with her about it she said that it wouldn't have bothered her if he had wanted a boyfriend, too, so long as the boyfriend was bisexual and it was okay for her to sleep with that guy, too. (to each their own I guess) The point was that he was scared to tell her and in the end she would've been fine with it. Last I checked, he hasn't even dated or been with a girl in a long time and is actually now in a long term relationship with a guy.\n\nAs for me, I'm in a committed relationship myself. I don't know too many guys that have been with girls and slept with guys. I have met atleast one or two straight guys that occasionally like to get a bj from a guy (I know because they often went to some of my gay friends to get them....which at first shocked me, but once they explained that it was better than masturbating and that really it would be better if they could just find a girlfriend but that you take what you can get....oddly many of them are now married and they met those girls through us gay men who with our help usually introduced them and everytime I see them they seem very happy, one that I know even has three kids already...and according to the girl, who was a friend, they have a very healthy sex life)
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Well, chances are that most people who love you already know, you just haven't confirmed it yet.  Stay calm and think good thoughts.  Being gay is not terrible, but some people may need time to accept it.  Try setting aside time, free from distractions, and tell the person.  If it is a friend and they react poorly, don't push it, let them figure it out.  Continue to be a good friend, but if they choose to not be  good friend, consider yourself lucky to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff so easily.  Your family will love and accept you- you are family.  It is better to be honest and true, living your life fully as a good person, that force yourself to live in fear, lying.
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As hard as it seems right now you did the best thing. This man didn't respect you at all. Yes God does have a better plan for you but in his time not yours. Keep the faith and he will carry you through this...K
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With your detailed story I feel that your dreams have made the whole story into a love relationship and your faith in God is so high.......Do you really think that God was fulfilling your desire or is it a coincidence.......I wanted to know more details but I think you didn't have space to write more anyways............If God is with you who can be against you..........Just hang on  buddy you will come with flying colours and as you say she isn't so handsome or beautiful then how do you still love her........It is surely a spiritual business. It is a triangle between You, girl and God...........
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I had a friend in high school who had a crush on me on me, but I didn't want anyone to think of me differently.  So, when she asked me out, I refused.  I wasn't even sure if I was 100% gay at the time or ready to come out for that matter.  So, I told her I wasn't gay.  \n\nI often wonder what might have happened if I simply gave in to my heart instead of my head.  Now, she lives in another state and is married.  I will probably never see her again in my lifetime, and I am content with that.  We both have gone on our own paths.\n\nBlessings
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Yeah sure. What are you going to do when all her friends accuse you of being gay?
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told him what and i am confused he dumped you and she told you your avatar is a guy are you gay is he bi is she a guy too i have a headache
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No, darling, I really don't think anything "made" me gay. I was rather sexually ambigous at the time when I met my partner. She was the soul I was waiting for and she just happened to be in the body of a woman. We've been together for 26 years and I adore her. \nI'm very sorry to hear that you and your friend. No, a person has to make their own choice about their sexuallity and nothing will make them *change* until they're ready. It's not you. He loves you for who you are but you're just not the right sex. My cousin fell in love with a gay man and unlike your gentleman, he treated her very badly so much so that she has chosen to live alone for the rest of her life. Be happy that you and he can love each other. Blessings on you both.
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I am the mother of a very confused 12 year old boy.  I have had several conversations with him on this very subject.  I am a very strong Christian, and I know that most churches, even mine, are against homosexuality, but we are talking about my SON.  No matter what happens, I will always love my son.  I can separate the person my son is from the things he does.  Some parents, like mine, cannot.  I refuse to reject my son, no matter what he chooses.  I may not want to hear about his first boyfriend, but I will always support him emotionally, spiritually, and financially the best that I can.\n\nWhatever happens with your situation, I wish you tender hugs from all who love you, parents, friends, and any other support people you may have.  Plus, if you are not already seeing someone, I hope you would consider seeing a therapist or attend a gay/lesbien support group before you come out to everyone, especially your parents (if they seem to be a bit dodgy about the subject).
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It sounds like he is really confused right now. He may need space to think things out. Alot homosexual people struggle with their feelings. It is natural for him to feel torn between his feeling and longing for a sense of normality in his life. Alot of gay males try the straght thing thinking that they can have a natural family and be accepted by society but then realise later that they are trying to change themselves. He may be going through one of those times right now. If you have seen him on the gay dating sites that is a bit different. Are you sure that those profiles are not old? some people continue to check old dating accounts just to see who responded. Ask him about them. If he gets defensive, then you may have a clue. Just give him some time to sort things out and if what you guys have is worth saving he will realize it. for now be his friend and help him find hisself. And dont listent to any negativity on here...we dont choose who we love
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yes, but mine was more, I loved him for 15 years, only to find out after finding him again that he is gay. That hurts big time.
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He didn't "turn gay".  He was gay all along but in denial. I'm sorry that happened to you.