my fiance's getting sued by ex for support of 2 non bio kids????
548882
It hardly seems fair. One would have the right to expect the bio father to be chased up or tracked down for payments. That's very strange. In Australia I think that would only happen if he had legally adopted them. My ex brought my son up for 12yrs before we separated but never legally adopted him and even though we did have the first step of adoption done, ie a legal name change, he didn't have to pay a cent toward him because he denied him, and the proposed adoption. My son was devastated. In your situation I'd be seeking legal advice and see perhaps if there is or has been a legal precedence in relation to the situation. I hope your man is done havn kids...I know five is enough for me...lol
167975
You should let Child Support Services take care of that for you. They can obtain the information legally, and you can't be held liable for anything that your ex might want to use against you. If your caseworker doesn't seem to want to help, go above her head to her boss! Trust me..ex's can be cruel! Just cover your arse! Good luck!
583278
this is one of the problems you encounter when you get involved with a guy that has an ex and kids. not much you can do. you didn't say how many kids he has but..she won't be able to get away with it forever, plus when he goes to the hearing he needs to let them know how much of a hardship she is creating for him. as far as child support goes they fill out financial statements etc. eventually the divorce will be granted whether she signs or not. aside from that, who cares what she is blaming it on? that doesn't change the reality of anything so don't even worry about that, it isn't worth the energy. if you really love him very much you won't let this come between you, you knew his situation when you started dating him, no point in complaining about it now, just deal with it the best way you can. she will eventually get over it and move on, it could be a long road though so just buckle down and hang in there and make sure he fights for himself and doesn't just hand her whatever she wants out of guilt. good luck to you, it will get better!
835175
Been there!!! Whew!! Talk to the lawyer who set it all up! Usually your ex would be right. Are you two talking it all out nicely? My ex and I switch off every other year now. Works out better when You get used to it. Or we do 1/2 and 1/2 when he or I are working or something comes up. So many ways to have your kids share both lives with you 2 that is all that counts.
208788
My husband in in a similar situation.  His ex we wants him to pay child support for a child that may not be his.  We are taking her to court for a DNA test.  Because you signed the birth certificate you have the right to have a DNA test.  If the mother will not cooperate go talk you prosecuting attorney for way to achieve that.
442546
Agreeing with the girl above.  Esp. about the journal.  Keep track of EVERYTHING.\n\nMy guess is also that it is a scare tactic.  Instability??? Please, is PRISON stable??? \n\nIf he has not supported the child, seen him, etc., you have nothing to worry about. Forget the joint custody the girl above mentioned, I would fight for supervised visitation if he gets to see the child at all.\n\nI am wondering where he got the $$ for any atty.\n\nHere is where you can also find a little comfort in the fact that courts like to keep kids with their mothers.\n\nYou do need to get a lawyer.  If you cannot afford one contact your local bar assocaition or pro bono program.  If you cannot get a lawyer fast enough, go to the court and file for a continuance.  DO NOT GO TO COURT ALONE!!\n\nBut as far as having any concerns about losing your child, I certainly wouldn't sweat it.  I know its hard not to worry, but if you are telling the whole story, he doesn't have a chance...
1097289
First, I'm going to say... call an attorney in your area that practices primarily in family law.\n\nYou may have a right under your state's law to request an expedited hearing on the matter (again... ask an attorney).  The order was obviously signed ex-parte (without a hearing).  Usually, an order like that is signed only if the person requesting it alleges more than one occasion of abuse or neglect, and a reasonable fear that it will continue.  \nA judge will sign an order like that because of the potential danger involved in waiting.  If he or she thinks (even for an instant) that there is the slightest chance the allegations are true, then they will sign the order.\n\nAgain, call an experienced family law attorney in your area.
799258
I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
800616
"Who can advise me on child support issue? i go to court take the dna test come out that i'am not the father of this baby n now the judge refuse to give back the money they took from me why...."\n\nThe quick answer to your question is "Courts don't take candy away from babies."\n\nIt sounds like you voluntarily paid child support thinking that you were the child's father.  \n\nBut you didn't have to.  You could have immediately sought to have paternity established by going to court and asking for a DNA test to be administered.  That would have made it obvious that you weren't the responsible party and kept you from having to pay support.\n\nSince you voluntarily paid the support-- you did it of your own free will and the court isn't going to just give you the money back because you were a decent guy who did the right thing and ponied up the dough when he thought he should-- even though he didn't really have to.\n\nThat said, depending on how the woman convinced you that the child was yours, you might have a case for fraud.  Depending on the amount of money involved, you could take the case to small claims court.  But again, unless the woman lied to you or actively participated in some deception that caused you to believe you should pay support, you won't get very far.  Your voluntary action not induced by deception is just something you have to live with.\n\nAnd I'd suggest you take pride in it.  Even if it wasn't your kid, stepping up to provide support for a child is an honorable thing to do.  Some fathers try to avoid paying support for their own children.  And here you are-- not even related to the kid-- and you put up money for support.  Don't look at it like you got duped-- I sure don't have a higher opinion of the mother now-- look at it like you were the guy who did the right thing because you chose to do it.   The world needs more guys like that.\n\nEdit on Additional Facts:  It sounds like some sort of fraud might have taken place.  Get a complete copy of the case file and at least a transcript of the court hearing in which the default judgment was granted.  You can try filing a separate action for fraud-- where you'll show she lied in order to obtain the judgment and should now owe you the money.  Alternatively, you could try going before the same judge that gave the default judgment to prove the same fraud and argue that she should have to pay you at least back to the time you filed for the paternity test-- since no support payments that were taken from you after that were in anyway vested as they were clearly in dispute. \n\n[This is not legal advice. You should consult a licensed attorney-at-law for legal advice or representation before making decisions that may affect your legal rights.]
353654
In all honesty, I hope that for the sake of the kids, you make the right decision. Being that you have two of his off spring, your decision will be one that will not only affect you, but him too, and most of all it will affect the two boys when they get older, but also at the same time as a mother your first order of conduct is to protect your children regardless of whether he wants to be with you or not, in addition, if he loved you that bad to tell you that you should of stopped him, then he should of never left in the first place.\n\nAlso being the fact that he has children from another woman and is married to her, then I can honestly tell you that she will probally be the one to keep him and until he leaves her you will have a major problem getting any kind of support from him to help with the raising of the two boys.\n\nIf I were you I would forget about getting with him, regardless if you love him or not, as I said earlier, your first responisibilty is your two boys, for their sake and for yours too, you should file for sole custody of the two boys and also file with your county for child support, in addition to that you should find yourself another man, one who will accept your children and you too, there are plenty of men who can not have children and are always looking for females that have kids already.\n\nI hope and wish you the best of luck in this matter, and if you would like I would like to stay in touch with you to give you moral support, in addition to that I can also give you my friendship, and see where it goes from there.\n\nplease email me back and let me know how things are going for you from time to time.\n\nrichardaguilar402@yahoo.com\n\nGood luck and Congradulations on your two boys.....
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You should talk to a family law lawyer.  They might be able to give you some free advice.  \n\nI think you could go through classes to be foster parents, though, and that would help your case.\n\nIf non-biological dad ever adopted, there is no problem.\nIf not, it will also probably be considered how long he has been in the child's life.  \n\nThe courts do TRY to do what's best for the child.
78593
Maybe you should try to get custody of the kids, and then make sure that she has to pay just as much as the court says you have to pay. I think that it can no longer be dropped, because it is money to support your kids.
213068
Write up your own power of attorney and have her sign it in front of a notary.  It will hold up for school and Doctors and it won't cost anything.  If the children are suffering, why wouldn't you do something legal, call children's services and ask for emergency custody have a case worker look in on those kids- that should be first and foremost.\n\nsevere hair loss can be from nerves/stress  disease like ringworm or malnutrition I don't know why that isn't enough to pull them out of her custody.
987389
I have 3 kids by my ex and he went off to Australia with his new wife. He stopped paying and I am fighting him in court (at great cost to myself) but now he wants to see his kids for 4 weeks this Christmas. I KNOW your feelings totally. But you have to carry the burden because children are better off if they have a relationship with their dads. Just dont compete. When they get older they will realise what went on. But equally dont put up with their lippyness. Dont let it go on. Make your ex look after them sometimes so you have some time to yourself. And get on with your own life. Your boys need a possitive male rolemodel in their life (your dad, or a brother or a new husband) Get on, get your life back into shape and make some time for yourself. You need it and so do your boys.
47427
I wouldn't think you have much to worry about. I have spent many years in custody court. Usually fighting for child support. First off, depending on the state, usually the courts like to keep children with their mother unless she is really unfit. Second off, he is living with his parents. Shows he has no way the keep himself let alone 4 kids up. If he really wanted the kids, he would have to have a home for them, with enough bedrooms, and beds, and be real active in their lives, school, church, activities, etc.. Then he would have to show the judge why they shouldn't be with you, EX.. you are unfit, never home, alcohol or drug abuse present, and that the children are in iminent danger staying with you. From what you have said sounds like you have the kids best interest at heart. Trust me, judges have seen and heard it all when it comes to just using the custody hearings to upset the mother. Be calm and tell the truth. It does work! Hope this helps you!
973242
I would go ahead and ask the IRS to open a dispute proceeding, and explain what you've provided here, but in greater detail.\n\nSince your joint daughter is not the issue, and I am assuming you were not married during 2005, these are the rules for your ability to claim your ex and her daughter.\n\nYour rights come as a result of the dependency tests under the Qualifying Relative standards under IRC §§ 152(b) and (d), as opposed to the Qualifying Child standards many people refer to that came to be from the Working Families Tax Relief Act of 2004 and the Uniform Definition of a Child. To meet the qualifying relative standard, each dependant must have lived with you for the year and been a member of your household, each made less than $3,200 in 2005, each be a citizen or resident, and each must have received more than half their support from you.\n\nFrom your dialog, it sounds as thought these conditions were true, you filed a return after the end of 2005, then you broke up, and her new boyfriend subsequently filed a tax return.  If so, then you have a winning case.  If you broke up during 2005, your case will most likely come down to dollars, who spent more.\n\nThe identifying infomation the IRS is looking for is first to identify who we are talking about, and that this was not a processing error.  Once that is resolved, the IRS will ask a series of questions and want evidence to support the standards I explained above.  Evidence includes all the money you spent supporting your ex and her daughter, including meals, medical fees, insurance premiums, housing, schooling.  Pull all your credit card records and cancelled checks, and start totaling.  You need to prove support and that they were members of the household.\n\nThe dependancy deduction does not revolve around immunization records and school files.\n\nThese cases are won on an accumulation of evidence for support, which means the winner has just slightly more support than the loser.  If you have a winning case, then you should feel confident going into dispute resolution.\n\nYou should be aware that in all cases where the IRS cannot make any determination as to who should get the exemption, it is lost to all parties.\n\nYou should also be aware that your ex could have claimed her daughter on her own tax return in order collect the earned income credit, and her new boyfriend could be uninvolved in this.  If so, your chances of success are significantly reduced.
1039072
My ex pulled stuff too. Your ex will probably get away with it. Just concentrate on the custody. People like your ex will find a way of getting out of paying and you don't want someone like him raising your child.