Have a serious question about a decision I need to make. Please help if you can!?!?
546608
I can relate, somewhat. I live on my own with my 3 children, but my parents are ALWAYS commenting on buying a house together. They do alot for me, so it's hard for me to tell them that buying a house WITH them is not my goal. When they suggest buying a house, it makes me feel like they don't think I'll ever find someone to love me and my kids, and eventually marry me. I'm young and I had kids young, but I'm not going to die alone! They always try to make it more appealing by assuring me they will stay out of my business, but it's never that simple. Try saying it like this....\n"Mom, we love you. Please know that I appreciate all you do for me and how much we love spending time with you. You taught me so much and one of the most important traits you passed on to me was independence. I know you want us to be happy and I know it makes you proud to see me accomplish things all on my own. And I am proud when I can tackle things on my own as well. I'd love to buy a house someday, but I'm not going to do it with you. It's gotten a little "tight" around here for all of us. We're too close to realize sometimes that living with a complete stranger is less stressful. Especially since I don't have to worry about that person, like I do you. I appreciate your concern and wanting us to stay close physically, but it's really for the best. I value our time and memories together more so when we are not together 24/7. Again, we love you but I need to do this. And please don't take me getting a room mate as a reflection on you. I need to feel like I have a life seperate from yours sometimes. I know I can do this."\n\nGOOD LUCK!
441710
you always have to make decisions.you can never have the two (whatever you have to choose between) it is your choice and no one else is responsible for your choice.so make your choice.
331805
I am very indecisive, but someone once told me a good way to make up your mind. Ideally, stand in front of a mirror. Think of the options, one by one. Whichever option brings a smile to your face, choose that one. (Thanks  for the advice, Netzer!)
1164980
pick and choose and make a DECISION
285480
Everyone is entitled to their opinion and will give it even if it is asked for or not. do what your gut tells you...follow your own instinct and heart. you will know what is right. and every decision is a risk, your not if it was the right one or not, but you have to make them for you and not what someone else thinks you should do.
706284
If you already started one job, and quit suddenly, what would those people think that hired you and you quit?  They wouldn't hire you at all in 4-10 years right?  So you need to find out which job is more important to have right now, because you are living in the now, not 4 years. If the other job is better, and is more promising for your future, you have already started, so it's too late to quit that one. You already made your mistake so you've got to live with it, unless you really think that other job is so important that you should not leave it.  All I'm saying is that you need to put your all into one job, not be divided between two jobs. If you don't quickly decide and follow through you might end up with no job. Why did you take another job unless it's better paying or better for you?
778957
What do you want out of life? You have a lot of thinking to do, and we can't do it for you. Grow up and take ownership for your life and your family's well being. Murdoch sounds hard hearted, but I have to admit, if you can get this kind of offer, you should be able to decide for yourself what is more important, your career, your family, or a balance of both. It's not easy. It's the toughest part of life, but once you decide with your heart, it gets much better!
92159
If the other job still provides enough money to pay for your home and necessities, then yeah, I'd do it. If taking the job will keep you from being able to buy a home or will keep you on a diet of Ramen noodles for years to come, I'd have to think long and hard before I took it. \n\nGood luck with your decision!
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It's a big decision.  I live in Eastern North Carolina.  It's not by choice, we're stationed her for at least the next 2 years.  I love it in the west part of the state.  Anyway, I moved alot growing up.  Every three years we had to pack up because momma and dad were getting stationed else where (Navy).  We always got to help decide where, we usually had three choices.  My advice to you is to make a pro & con list, it takes the emotions out of the decision.  Also try and do as much research on line and even start looking at houses in the area you may be moving to via the internet.  Good luck in your decision.
2293
Use the Wish-o-Matic...it will help you decide.
715283
OK, I have a lot to say about this, so please give this a read. \n\nI have three college degrees. One is an associate's (I went to a community college), one is a bachelor's, and one is a master's. I didn't decide on my major until my junior year of college, and even then, I wasn't sure if I made the right decision. \n\nDO NOT let anyone tell you that you have to decide right away. You don't. Declare yourself a liberal arts major and take as many different classes as you can. Take what sounds interesting. Take internships. Take as much as you can! The only way to find out what you want to do is explore and experiment. \n\nAnd you don't have to know what you want to do for a living right out of high school OR college. I'm 28, and I've just decided what my "calling" is. It took me a long time, but I finally made it. \n\nBut I also want to go back to school for more education in areas where I didn't get to take classes. So, please, explore and don't let anyone pressure you into choosing a major.\n\nBy the way, I majored in English, and the only reason I did it is because I love to write. I didn't make the decision for careers because I'm certainly not making a lot of money off of my writing. :)\n\nGood luck, and my best to you with whatever decisions you make!
572024
well.if it is abt choosing btwn whether to tke white colord pant or blue then u shud go for the first thought which enters ur mind..tht comes frm U...n abt things like taking major decisions in life like career change..having kids..n all decisions which not only affect UR life but ppl around u too(especially ur family),U need to and u generally think twice..its good to think twice so that u analyze the  thing more and then u get a clearer picture of it and  it becomes easy to take a decision..as 'knowledge gives u clearity'so think wisely..and be successful!
972066
I am not very sure. Is a very difficult choice.\ncould be a selfish one or one for the world.
893402
Why do you want to? If you have a valid reason then ok, but if it's worth staying for then stay! Think, you get paid for it and it is nearly xmas!
452094
You never really know if you are making the right decision-just use ur common sense and follow ur heart and always be honest with urself-there will be times where life will throw a curve ball and believe me they can come out of no where but just believe in urself...
806447
I would suggest that you employ the services of a business consultant who will conduct a fesibility study to determine if this is the move that you should make. All the best!
362137
i think you should spend some one on one with each of them. don't be in a very big hurry to choose or you could choose the wrong one. if they don't understand that you need to make the right decision they should understand and give you the space you need.  good luck and, god bless you!!!!