Why is my husband so moody and how can I make him stop interrogating me?
539487
all you can do is talk to him. If you don't know why he is moody then you obviously havent talked to him. Noone but him can tell you what the problem is.
898378
Just try to keep your problems to yourself until you two get more serious. Life has a way of working itself out and this guy might be the person that can get you out of the funk your life is in right now.  Don't ruin it by being moody around him. Let your worries go and try to be fun and outgoing and you will see that you won't focus on your problems as much when you keep yourself busy with other things. You might want to go to your Dr. and see if he can recommend a RX. I take Xanax every day and it helps.
546567
It is very clear that he has a short fuse. He doesnt handle responsibility at all and he feels like you dont do much. You should probably explain to him in a nice clear firm voice what you are feeling like and what you need from him and you may want to ask him if there is something that you are doing to make him act this way. To every action is a re-action. You both have to be willing to work at the relationship and you will always be working at it. All you can do is make sure you are doing everything you can to make him happy and make sure he really fully understands what your needs are from him. Then you go from there, if he doesnt listen to you and your doing everything he needs from you and he comtinues then you need to go to the next step which would be counseling. Basically if he is not willing to put forth any effort to make your life better and happier then you really do not have a marriage there. And then at that point you may want to play the hard role , if all else fails you can just act as though you dont need him. Start going and doing things on your own and with the kids and do everything else as far as the household but dont pay as much mind to him. ( Start moving on with your life) That may very well stop him in his tracks. Start doing to him what he does to you and if he really does love and care for you he will see it and just tell him "thats what you've been going through and you only done it to make him see it first person."
569515
Forget subtlety.  Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband.  He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.\n\nProtect your marriage, protect eachother.
1170935
There are lots of things to consider here and I'm not about to counsel someone we know nothing about.\n\nThere are so many questions that need answers before advice can be given.\n\nSo, here's the cliff notes version:\n\nDo you have regular romantic intercourse?\nPassionate men often turn violent when they are robbed of their intimate other's attention.\n\nWhat has changed since you got married?\nHe may resent you for something you didn't do.  Men sometimes want to please their wives so much that they deprive themselves of other activities.  For instance, has he been out with his friends much?\n\nDoes he have secrets???\nGet a sample of his handwriting and look at the "o".  If his o's have two loops at the top that intersect, he has the liar trait and is keeping something secret from you bye lying.\n\nReason I tell you this, is often, men turn violent when they are lying about something.  The tension from trying to keep it a secret and the unhappiness from not being able to live the way they want makes them crazy.\n\nHe gets mad when you cry because of his own insecurities about the relationship.  He sees your tears as weakness.  Perhaps you need to stand up for yourself.  Shouting and argueing do very little, so take action.  Make rules and make them stick.  (you may want to experiment being the agressor in the bedroom.  grab him, force him, make him the submissive once in a while.  He'll see you as an equal then)\n\n\nI know, from my own experiences.\n\nCheers darling and good luck.
646678
Just listen to your heart. If he makes you happy constantly, that's a good thing, but does he make you mad for good reasons, or is it just terribly hard to get along with him? Talk to him about it. Try to figure out what's going on. Good luck!
79522
Have a read of http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/sh11.htm and if it makes sense to you, why not ask your father to read it too. It may help him locate the source of his mood swings.
696347
Ok first off it doesn't matter WHAT he has, he needs to talk to a psych as he's obviously have issues. No one on this board can tell you want he has. Especially because mood swings and frenzied activity can be symptoms of any number of disorders and conditions. I'd also suggest you offer him an ultimatum. I have a friend whose husband told her if she didn't see a psych he'd divorce her. She had thrown a family size can of creamed corn at his head, amongst other things. She saw a psych, got the appropriate meds, and they now live happily ever after like normal people. You don't necessarily need to move out...just make it clear that his behavior isn't to continue and he's GOT to see a psych.
1018636
Relax, you don't know each other that well yet, particularly since this in an arranged marriage.  If he takes offense to this, wait for him to calm down, apologize and explain to each other those things that you can't tolerate.  Maybe he doesn't like being told to shut up.  You have some things that cross the line with you I'm sure.  This situation is particularly tough, but you'll get used to it.  Just give him some time to cool down and quit freaking.
7823
Be direct and tell him that it's great that he chose to quit and that U R willing to put up with the mood swings. Enlighten them with harmless comments and try to laugh about what kind of an ass he's become he will eventually laugh along with U.\nBecause let me tell U after he is over those moods he will become one of the most annoying people to all his friends that still smoke and friends will be a little less tolerent than a loving wife. \nGood Luck
456531
Unfortunately, I don't think you can stop him.  My wife has bi-polar mood disorder and when she is at her worst she will lie beyond belief.  When confronted she sticks to the story and demands proof.  Even when confronted with the facts and proof she either sticks to her story or tries to twist the facts to fit her situation.\n\nAs I said, I know she has a mental condition and I understand sometimes that affects it.  However, I have found out that very fortuantely we can't do much about liers.  Instead, either learn to live with it, work around it, or move on.
208562
To be treated like a child is definitely not fair!  The typical first response is to confront him and to retaliate, that is pretty much what everybody else has said here.  However, rather than creating conflict, I would try a more discrete tactic.  First of all, thank him for the notes, he will be dumbfounded, and you will definitely get his attention, but there won't be a conflict.  Secondly, try do more that what he writes down on the list, that will definitely impress him, and make him question the necessity of the notes.  If you can't think of any additional things to do beyond his list, then call him up and tell him that you are done with the list, and if there is anything else that he could think of that needs to be done, if you can't call him, then ask him when he gets back home!  Basically this will show him that you are proactive, and want to have things done just as much as he does, and even more by doing additional things or asking him for additional things.  I realize that I am not giving you an easy answer but in real life there is no easy answers, and no easy people to deal with.  Life is hard, and it's a struggle.  And unfortunately marriages have to be built, and rebuilt, and worked on being improved and enjoyable!  The good thing that your husband has going for him, is that the has you for his wife, he is very fortunate indeed!  Hope this helps!
678529
if he's being moody, back off and give him some space. if he continues to be moody, BACK OFF COMPLETELY AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE
990687
I am not a marital expert, or a couselor, or psychologist... But I presume you both are on a threshold, the 2-3 years perhaps and that something in yours or his behaviour patterns have changed dramatically -- something that you/he were/was doing or just started doing... I would also presume you are a bit impulsive in nature... First of all, make sure that he loves you back; on offense, but it could be that he's looking to somebody else. DO NOT CONFRONT HIM !!! Just observe him at work, with friends, when alone... Do it quietly, on the background... If you can establish reasonably that there's no such threat, I recommend you a trip back in time: make him fall in love with you as he did the first time, only more deeper now. Love in marriage must be "refreshed" periodically -- it's about those dreadful thresholds or deadpoints -- you need to refuel the flame of passion... if this doesn't work, try talking to him as adults (no forceful positions, emotional blackmail, inflexibility...) Just make him understand that if he continues behaving badly, he will ultimately loose you.\nOne more thing: are you sure you don't do something that makes him wanting to get even? Carefully check your conduct... If there's nothing to provoke him, then he's the problem...\nAnd as a personal note: I detest the idea of controlling one's emotions (by controlling usually people understand hiding). I tried it and it nearly destroyed me. Feelings are ment to be expressed, especially in a relationship, no matter what their nature is. I'm not saying you have to bash his head with the pan; but yell, even break something, if you have to. Goodbye and good luck ! I hope I've said at least one thing you'll find useful, in all this mambo-jambo...
1127693
Ok, I think I understand your question.\n\nThat is not cool for you husband to joke around like that. ~ Not during your most intimate and private moments together.  It is possible, if that is the kind of sense of humor there is in your relationship, that he was innocently joking.  But, I sense that you don't feel that way and are confused and rather offended that he makes any such comments.  The humor in a joke often stems from the truth of it...  You really need to sit down and talk with your husband and lay out some quidelines and expectations for your marriage.  What I would do, is tell your manboy husband that this kind of "joking" is hurtful or bothersome to you and you would rather he did not talk like that.  You may want to look into some counseling in order to get an outside perspective and some support.  Be sure and give your husband all of the things you would want yourself in the relationship, such as Trust, Compassion, Respect, Honesty and of Course good ol' fashioned L O V E.
477375
Sweetheart, you are getting a lot of advice.  Filter it carefully - including mine.\n\nIt's obvious that you care about your husband a great deal. What happened?  When did he start to mentally check out on him?  Are you two still interested in the same things?  \n\nThis happens a lot when husbands hit depressions and just don't know how to deal with.  Or there is unresolved conflict that is brewing underneath the surface.\n\nRemember that there is always a root.  You need wise counsel now.  Does he still love crawling in the sack, mounting you and rolling off going to sleep?  Because if he does, you need to have "the talk" with him after you screw him to the Third Heaven.  \n\nCommunication is the lifeblood of the relationship.  If you fear that you will be too emotional when you talk to him, write him a letter not accusing him (e.g. You should do something and you don't), but using the "I" language (e.g. I love it when you hold me or when we go for walks. Can we go this afternoon, etc.) \nattach it to a G-string with your best perfume and put it with his lunch or coat pocket...\n\nI don't know how long you've been married.  You also need to arm yourself with knowledge.  The book "His Needs, Her Needs" is an excellent start.  E-mail me if you would like a list of other resources.
855544
hi, he may just be over doing things and tiring himself out...may be you should ask the doctor about certain vitamins may be he is lacking some essential vitamin or just needs a boost it is worth a try...if he still carries on being tired look out for other symptoms you could have missed and go back to your doctor maybe get a second opinion, even if you think the doctor will say you are being silly...it is better to look silly and have your mind put at ease then have your husband poorly and tired...good luck i hope he improves.