Is it odd that my husbands boss acts like his mom/wife/friend/boss?
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I'm going to say YES!!! I think his boss feels like she & work should be his first priority. She is jealous of you.If it continues or escalates to sexual harrasment your husband should report her or put in a transfer request.Be Blessed!! Monica
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The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
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It is a funny thing, they say, about bosses.  What they say is seldom what they mean, even if they mean what they say.  \n\nAsking a person for an honest opinion is still in hope that the opinion will be good.  \n\nWhat I would encourage you to do is be honest, but be positive.  I would focus overwhelmingly on the positive attributes, but be honest about ways to help his business succeed (assuming he owns the business), or ways to become an "even better boss".  Feel free to add in a touch of humor, if that will lighten the mood, (such as, "I know you have it tough dealing with an employee with me, but").  \n\nIf there are some tough things you really want to say, let him know your intentions in answering the questions upfront (I have grown to appreciate and trust you and your wife, and will answer as honestly as I can in hopes of helping you get ahead).  That would mean a lot to me if I had handed you the questionnaire.
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As long as your man isn't getting in trouble with the law also then it really creates no problems.  Sad truth is though that people judge others by the company they keep. Therefore your man may be gaining a reputation that he neither deserves or has earned as some may look at him and say "run with dogs you catch fleas".  Speak with your husband and tell him of your concerns and how you are afraid that it may affect your children by his choice of acquaintances.  Best of luck and I hope that it is just a phase that your husband is going through and that he outgrows it for everyone involved soon.
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Maybe he is afraid of making his wife jealous.  I had some trouble with my wife when I hired my assistant.  She is pretty and I hired her because she is very intelligent and goal oriented.  All the things my wife needs to work on.  Could be your boss wants to ease her into getting used to you.
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maybe they have something going on in their life at home and they are bringing it to work.Try being extra nice.If this doesn't work just avoid them.
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I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
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My brother in law works for John Walsh!  So, he's seen him...lol...not the men/women he tries to bring in.  YET!
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U R IN A VERY VERY DELICATE POSITION.I FEEL HE IS "ACTING" CHILD LIKE. IT WOULD BE BETTER IF U LIVE SEPARATELY FROM UR IN-LAWS IF IT IS AFFORDABLE
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Before examining your wife, lets take a look at this dude.  If he was a friend of hers, he wouldnt be making underhanded comments about you, doing things behind your back, etc.  If he was a friend of hers, he would want to be friends with you as well.  I mean, he is a dude.  He knows it is shady to do things behind your back.  Plus, he is putting your wife, his supposed friend, in a compromising position.\n\nNext issue, it is 100% your wife's responsibility to do the right thing.  You probably have a hot wife so you cant blame dudes for wanting her, but you can hold her accountable for doing the right or wrong thing.  She is the one that is married.\n\nSomeone else said this and it is absolutely correct, approach your wife with your feelings in a nonthreatening or emotional manner.  You gotta tell her how you feel and let her know that dismissing your feelings as jelous or irrational is not acceptable.  If this guy is truely a friend, he would hang out with both of you.  Tell her that you trust her and thinks its positive to have lots of friends of both genders, but texting, meeting behind your back, etc. is not something that wives and random dudes do if they are on the up and up.  If they are such great friends, he should come over to your crib to eat steaks and have beers with both of you.\n\nDont accept her acting shady.  You know as well as I do what is going on if she is shady.  Also, don't bite your tongue and be permissive because others tell you too.  You know in your gut if you are right or wrong.
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Does your husband do little things for you out of nowhere?  Like coming home from work with something to eat for him and getting you something, too.  Does he treat you just as good when you act wierd or...in your eyes...like a b****?  My boyfriend is like this with me.  I've talked and acted bad in the past and his feelings towards me never changed.  He never lets me say anything bad about myself no matter how small it seems. If your husband is anything like that then it's for real.
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It's my dads boss. He is an auntropounewer ( i have no clue how to spell that) and he works for all these dif car componies. It is a multimilionair thing i think.
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I have had 2 mothers in law.  I was equally nice to both at the beginning.  I wanted to make a good impression.  The 1st one HATED me.  But then her son was a spoiled cry baby and she never wanted to give him up.  He's 40 and still lives at home.  The 2nd one LOVES me.  Her son is a MAN.  He treats me well and we have a lovely family.  I think it depends on several things.  Whether the mother has any intention of ever giving up the son.  Whether the son has enough spine to stand up for his wife.  The wife needs to accept "helpful advise" in a kindly way.  Say "Thank you, I'll consider that.  I appreciate your help".  Treat your mother in law how you would wish to be treated.  I think it comes down to what type of person she is.  I thank God for my new mother in law.
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Speaking from experience, my current husband (32 yo) is the same and his mother....well I'm sure you understand .... bascially, it's not his mother, please listen when I say this...IT'S NOT HIS MOTHER....IT'S HIM! If he doesnt want to an adult and think and do for himself as an adult....he WILL NOT change. Do yourself a favor......move on!
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Well, you've got to do what you've got to do, but be prepared to alienate (at least) your brother-in-law and his wife.  It sounds like he is very self centered and, I would bet, the boss in his family (strong type A personality).  I don't know where it will stop, but there will be a lot of really stinky stuff floating around-and may never dissipate.  A person with his personality will definitely blame you for the problems that arise.  From what you have said he thinks his time is far more valuable than others and, therefore, will not understand your anger.
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YOU KNOW I HAVE HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME ALOT. ITS JUST JEALOUSY. THEY ARENT HAPPY WITH THEIR LIVES AND THE RELATIONSHIP THEY ARE IN. THEY SEE THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT THEY WANT SO THEY MAKE UP THINGS ABOUT YOU SO THAT YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP. MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUBBY SHOULD CONFRONT THEM TOGETHER AND SEE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY THEN. USUALLY THEY ARE DUMB FOUNDED AND CANT SAY ANYTHING. BUT DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM. AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE RUMORS AND NOT TRUE YOU SHOULDNT WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING.
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Yeah! These people are aTTACKers, aren't they...but helpful, too. Don't delete your question because I'ma watchin' it, girlfriend!\nWell, I say if he has the NERVE to check you on YOUR DAILY WORK, then you can get that same nerve.  \n\nThat is the trade-off, right.  And he wouldn't want to switch with you.  Tell him on a Saturday morning or a day off to track what the heck he does all day! Projects take longer than men think.  I like to get everything done in the 1st two hours of of the morning hustlin. Then, no matter what I do it's just done and the happy husbands off\nmy friggin' back.  \n\nTell him if you spent as much time cleaning up after HIM as you \ndid on the other household, necessary daily chores, he'd HAVE\nthe neat, sparkly perfect home he desired.  He'll get mad, that's just that tender little species of fragility and gentleness called\nTHE MALE EGO.\n\nTo those people who are working do NOT assume SAHM is\na dream job.  Its not for lazy bums.  Not the hardest work, \nbut important and challenging, more than you'd think.