I am in the 5th grade right.I am worried that I might get raped.What should I do?
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Honey, please don't listen to what the first person wrote. You are not required to dress "conservetly" in order to have an expectation of being free from rape. It is not how a girl/woman dresses which determines if she may become a rape victem, OK? Nothing you do or don't do would make it your fault some sick perverted A-hole rapes. Rape has nothing to do with sex, but everything to do with power and controll.\n\nNow, if you have real concerns about somebody hurting you at school, home or in your neighborhood, I suggest you go and talk to a school official right away. The school counselor would be a good person, or a teacher who you feel safe with or another person you have trust for. If you are safe at home, then I suggest strongly you discuss your fears with your parents. If you have good, decent, hardworking and loving parents, they would want you to take these fears to them. If you were my daughter and had these worries I would want you to come and talk to me.\n\nIf somebody has already touched you in a way you know you should not be touched, it is not your fault. Often those who do things wrong want those they did it to thinking they are responsible for what happened. This is to get you to stay quiet and not tell anyone what happened. Sometimes they will even threaten more harm to you or to harm your family. This is 99% of the time just a threat to get you to stay quiet. If you stay quiet though, they will think they can do this to you again, and maybe do more the next time.\n\nIt sounds like somebody has already done something innapropreate. It sounds like you need some help in getting away from this person. I really srtongly advise you to go to your parents or somebody in charge at school right away. I mean as soon as you read this. \n\nIt is NOT your fault, even if you kept quiet for a time or if you did not scream, or even if you were curious what it might be like. You are a young kid and anybody who would do such a thing took advantage of your young age. That is NOT your fault. It is normal to be curious, all kids are, but that is why it is so wrong for older people to touch kids in innapropriate manners. It is taking advantage of a normal curiousity kids have, normal developmental curiousness. While it is OK to be curious it is NOT OK for anybody to do anything innapropriate with a girl your age. OK? So don't feel any shame if something already happened. Just go and tell somebody so this person can't do anything more to you or to anybody else your age. You need to be reasrred that ALL the fault lies with anybody who would do anything remotely sexual with a girl your age. You are way too young for this sort of behaviors. You are an innocent kid and do not deserve to fear anything or anybody. \n\nI seriously believe something has already happened or you would not be so afraid of rape at your age. Kids your age just don't go around fearing rape for no reason at all. Unless somebody older in your family has put this fear in your head. If so, I want you to understand that there are not really that many bad people in the world. \n\nI will not tell you there are no bad people in the world. You know very well there are. However, there are just way more good, decent, kind, caring, hardworking people than bad people who hurt kids. Even amoung bad people, people who hurt kids are thought of as the worst sort of bad person. Even amoung bad people, people who go to jail for doing bad things, dislike those who would hurt kids. Those who hurt kids have to be kept away from the other people who did bad things, or those others will try to hurt the bad person who hurt kids. So, while there are people who break our laws, people who do some bad things, the number of them who hurt kids is much smaller than you think.\n\nNow, this does not mean there are not people who hurt children out there. There is. But if you take some safety percautions you should be fine. OK? If you don't go out after dark by your
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All threats MUST be taken seriously.  Tell your parents.  Tell the principal.  If no action is taken, call the police.
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I agree you should Tell your school counselor, Or if it gets really bad call the cops!!! Especially if it get worse then verbal!! \n\nAlso sarcastic had a point, put it in a different category but I'm sure there isn't to much rif raff answering 360 questins but I'm sure we're not experts as much as the right category would be.
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Nothing is worth giving up your life.  \nSeeking counseling is a good idea, there are many places where you don't need parental permission.  If you are entertaining suicide you need to do this ASAP.\nDo not have sex with this boy...he is taking advantage of your feeling bad about yourself.\nTalk to the teacher...explain that you will work on your performance and do better in the future.  Be bright and brief.\nMany kids have trouble dealing with adolescence, it is a hard time.  It will get better, believe that.  In the meantime, don't let people take advantage of your hard time.  Take care of you and the rest will take care of itself.
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first off how old are you? and the answer is always going to be if you feel ready to do something then go for it never force yourself to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable!
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I wouldn't know, I was raped when I was a little girl & so my first time at 16 did not feel like it hurt. That's too bad to have had that taken away. Oh well, life goes on. I'm sure it hurts though, and the anxiety of the moment probably doesn't help either.
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Watch out for the blonds. You have a right to be afraid. They are really, really dangerous. Careful.
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No\nJust do what your comfortable with. Don't let other people pressure you into stuff. IT wont be long until holding hands turns into being pressured into other things.(worse things)\nI wont go into detail because i thing your about 12 years old and you don't need to be on this website because there are too many child molesters about.\n\nMay god bless you in all that you do.
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Tell your parents.  Something more serious then detention needs to happen with this kid.  Obviously, all the parents are going to have to demand it.  Maybe they need to go to the school board.\n\nIf you are attacked, defend yourself.  You do not have a choice.
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The first thing you need to do is call the police. They will need to interview you and to take some evidence and they will make sure you get medical care.  Don't have a shower, or if you have, make sure you keep the clothes you were in.  The police should help you to get in contact with some victim support.  Is there someone close to you who you can tell, like a parent or a good friend?  If you are scared, it can help to have someone like them close by.\n\nNumber one thing to remember - this isn't your fault.  You are going to get through this and a lot of people will be praying for you and wishing you well.
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I don't think that is good advice to give a 13 year old in this day and age.  Kids have way too much going on in their heads to think that something like what you suggest might occur for them.  \n\nYou may have had a good experience, but I'm sure that is the exception rather than the rule.  \n\nAs a teacher, I would think that you would exercise more restraint in these matters. \n\nDon't mean to be harsh, but you did ask our opinion.
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I think you should be careful about the questions you ask on this forum. There are alot of dangerous people out there.\n\n\n11 is too young for you. What would your friends say? :-)
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your parents may have him arrested if they believe you are sexually involved for statuatory rape and he can still get in trouble until you are 18,\nthis is not a black and white issue except when it comes to the law.some girls at age 16 are more responbible and mature hang out with 19 and 20 year old females as peers and some guys can be immature and act closer to your age but for the most part the concern is that the younger person will be at an emotional,mental as far as experience and the way you percieve the world advantage and can be manipulated much eaier than someone closer to their own age ,so someone ends up using his or her influence- to raise them how you like them (common phrase) or that the older person takes advantage of the fact that the minor must go to school fulltime and be home at night evry night in bed by a decent hour so the minor is a convienient sex toy and your girlfriend or wife wont have to know,it is easy ,you understand them because their parents are emotionally or verbally abusive or alcoholic or whatever drama,nobody else understands or is so supportive and they say you are so smart because this is what you want to hear ,you would probably be more likely to feel like a piece of meat if you heard you are so beautiful everytime,and then theres the possessive abusive type that wants this younger person who is easier to train and erode their self esteem to ensure long term ownership,these predatory types is what people have problem with and sometimes that is not the case and love does not do age discrimination and there is no rhyme or reason why age is more than a number when it comes to love
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you should worry less about ur fantasys with ur friends and pay attention to ur english teacher...
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whatever rocks your boat, hun. I mean you are extremly young to be even thinking about sex. If you feel that you are ready and safe, then just be yourself. Don't care what nobody else think of you.
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That sounds very traumatic. I would've used my kids as witnesses but that's just me, in that case nothing is wrng or right it's your life.\n\nAnyways, in my opinion I would find a guy that is caring enough to understand your feelings. Because no guy can ever understand what it feels like to be raped. They either understand or they don't. And your particular rape situation is terrible. Having that seen in front of a 2 and 4 year old. That is terrible. Just be happy you survived.. and maybe if you can, try to find a more caring boyfriend.
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Call the police. If he has raped you press charges. Just because you are married to some one does not give them the right to force sex on you. And your children will understand when they get older. The guy sounds crazy, you need to protect your family. You really need to talk to the police and see how they can help you. And turn to the Bible for answers as well. You do have scriptuall grounds for divorce and re-marriage. You really need to change your situation. Hope everything gets better for you and you children! I'll pray for you!