What if you totally love someone but you are married and your spouse threatens suicide if you leave?
534893
No.  The thing is this...once you have kids, your life is not your anymore.  You honestly should have left when things started to go south in your marriage.  Uprooting your kids and taking them away from one of their parents while still in school and moving them 450 miles away with a person whom they will resent is not only selfish but you will end up paying the price.  Think of the people you would be hurting.\n\nIf the love is meant to last, then it will still be there when your kids graduate.\n\nWhat you should do is move out with your kids within the same town and have a long distance relationship with this person, keeping your kids first in mind, not the relationship.  They may be in high school but believe me, they are still kids and this is till tramatic for them no matter how adult they seem.  \n\nRegarding your spouses suicidal tendancies, contact a mental health pro about this simply for your childrens sake.  the last thing they would need after all this turmoil is for a parent to commit suicide.  Most likely your spouse will not do this, but just is case, it is advisable.\n\nDo you reallt hink this guys good paying job is worth tramatizing your children anymore then is already happening?  Believe me, it will bite you in the ass later.  They will resent you for this and will know that you chose this man over them.  Do the right thing and make him come back to your town until they graduate and do not live together until then.  Your kids should still be nnumber one in your life and should know that.  No amount of money is worth hurting my kids over!
986093
i would have left my spouse
293937
Your name fits you well.  Why would you want to ruin someone's life. Not only would you ruin his but his wife's as well, not to mention your's.  Why go after a married man?
329819
No. It's not fair to the person you are married to. Why not be with who you want to be with and let your wife find someone who truly loves her. She'll be upset at first, but you will all be happier in the long run.
134725
Probably not.  Even if they got married and stayed together, chances are one will eventually die before the other.
526695
only if you commit suicide
449401
My opinion is ; If your spouse wants out of the marriage then your spouse should go, but  how will you manage ? If by chance your spouse was the sole provider of the household there may be grounds for some support. But the bottom line is you should consider becoming a more independent person GOD bless the child who has his own. Finally it sounds to me that your spouse is your wife is that so ? There's a few other things that COULD be said but I'm sure you've heard them already
542952
yes it is funny but....... you can love someone with all of your heart and still not like them for the things they do.the things they say.you stay hoping things will get better and you stay to the point that drives you crazy and when you feel that the husband or wife dont care any more.\nand are not doing anything to help the problems then you leave.
405565
Why would you stay if it is that bad? This doesn't make any sense to me. If the marriage is bad then take yourself out and live your life in peace...Lady
98192
Tell her you love her however this is your life, you will make plans for it!  Love the invitation it's just very inconvenient and if she threatens suicide take her to a doctor or therapist...she is an adult...and that is a very sick and hurtful game!
920223
i would leave her if she can't keep to you for five years then what if you get married how do you know she wont do it in the future or right now. You never realize how much you like something till its gone but for her i think she is just gone
1028847
Naturally, the choice is yours.  But, whichever you choose, you will have to live with the consequences of your choice.  If you were to choose the unsaved guy, you will be unequally yoked, a direct violation of a Scriptural command.  There will be consequences.  This is especially true if you later get married.  I can't begin to count the number of unequally yoked spouses that have been counselled because their marriage is in disarray.   Why?  Because the husband objects to the wife's standards or commitments.  (Or vice versa)\n\nIf you go with the saved guy, it is a better choice, Scripturally speaking, but he may not be the one that God wants for you.  I recommend that you pray for the Lord's will, and have Him make plain to you who He wants for you.
520253
This is not a good situation.  You need to take a step back and take a look at what your kids need.  It doesn't sound like they are growing up in a healthy atmosphere.  If they are exposed to this in any way it will cause harm over time and affect their own relationships as adults.  If you have made efforts to communicate with your husband and he refuses to work with you, you need to make a hard decision for yourself and your children.  You need to talk to a counselor yourself to sort everything out.\n\nIf you choose to leave your husband it is okay.  Do not be manipulated by threats of suicide.  He needs to get help.  It souldn't be the reason to stay in a relationship that is damaging to yourself and your children.
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You need to empathize if they threaten, but be firm and don't let it keep you from breaking up...that's their attempt to keep you.\n\nIt's probably being done pathetically...but in all honesty, any suicide threat/talk is worth telling someone about.  You can't just poo-poo it off, encourage them to talk to their parents/friends/pastor/doctor/school nurse/teacher, etc.
1081449
I WAS married for a long time and it took me a long time to get the strength to leave him. I should of done it sooner. If you are scared find some sort of support group or email me. \nOnce I was away from him, I realized how crazy things and it was way worse then I ever imagined. I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment. But, it can be broken if things are bad enough.  Find a friend who you can depend on to do what you must do. If you have exhausted all hope of improving things, then you need to gather your wits and be strong and do what you need to do. I stayed way to long and it really harmed my two youngest children. They paid a huge price.
14044
that depends on weather you want to end your marriage or not. if you are unhappy you should talk with your partner. if they are not willing to listen then follow your heart, but remember that once you cross that line there is no turning back
253177
I've always wondered this myself. If I am going to be marrying someone that I plan to spend the rest of my life with I am not going to be thinking about the dissolution of our marriage. Also, if I think he is going to try to take me for all that I have upon our divorce, well, I didn't know his character all that well anyway. So, the moral is, know someone totally before you marry them. :)