Would you MARRY your friend's EX-wife / husband?
538626
Yes if we truely want to be together then they should understand and respect us, besides we're all grown up now and theres no need for childish remarks.
994766
Well, I can't speak from the perspective of a mother dealing with an ex's new spouse.  But I did have a stepmother, and our relationship was more like a friendship than mother-daughter.  Personally I preferred it that way.  I was a teenager when my dad married her, and it would have been inappropriate for her to try to be my "new mom".  I would suspect the same is true of your children, who are old enough to engage in friendships with adults.  If you feel your ex's new wife is overstepping her bounds, you should set the boundaries.  Ideally with your ex, his wife, and you in a meeting together to agree on each other's roles.  Let her know what you do and do not consider appropriate in her relationship with your children.  She should respect your decisions with regard to the children. As to a relationship between you and her, it would be ideal if you two could be some kind of "friends" but it doesn't always work out that way.  If she ignores you, so be it--as long as she abides by your ground rules.  She may simply be trying too hard to win the friendship of your daughter, but you would be the better judge of that than I.  I wish you the best of luck--it's never easy when spouses remarry.
1167349
If you can't be friends with him without "wanting" him you need to back away and respect the woman who is now his wife.  He chose her not you and the bond that they have now is sacred.   \n\nYou will find someone else to love you and treat you right but first you need to get over what you can't have and learn to love yourself.
338957
hey, the same thing kinda happened to me! except, he never wanted her sexually...but i was friends with her (probably during a time when she dated him), way before i ever met him...we lived in different countries, so i think she may have dated him after i met her...anyway, she used to come over and hang out all the time after he and i got married...they're just old buddies and well, what they used to have is now long gone...\nso, if you feel that you can trust BOTH of them, why not?
1075792
You both need to decide what you want.  He should NOT under any circumstance marry this other girl if he is telling you he loves you more than her.  I understand she is pregnant, but in the end I'd rather be pregnant and alone than a divorcee who's ex husband cheated on me because he still wanted to boink his ex.  When you still love someone who has found someone else it is hard, but you will eventually get over it.  Keep your hands off the guy though, she may be pregnant, but I'm sure all 5 of her closes friends aren't, and messing with her man might entail an ass beating.
586386
no, I don't think you should. If they are unable to remarry at this time, they are not dating material. Just my opinion. You could be setting yourself up for a disaster.
82235
I agree with most everyone here about one thing. You need to remove yourself from the situation NOW. If their marriage is going to fall apart, it will do so without any help from you. Give her a chance to see things for herself without your infulence whatsoever. This will undoubetedly be difficult for you but it is the best interest of all involved. Should she wind up divorced (which it sounds like just may happen) then you can be there for her, be her friend, confidant and maybe even lover. Trust me....she will not know her true feelings for you until she has rid herself of any bad relationships. The last thing you want is to find this woman seemingly falling for you simply because she's unhappy now and you just happen to be the "fall back" guy. She may be looking for an "out" and you are the easiest way for her to accomplish that. Let her get out on her own, be her own person, make her own decisions, start a new life for herself and then, and only then can you be absolutely sure that it is truly you she wants and needs in her life. All things happen for a reason, so allow them to happen all by themself. If it was meant to be....then you two will be together. If not, then at least no one got hurt very badly. I know what it feels like to be in love with someone who is off limits at the moment. Follow your heart and instincts, but also listen to your head. Good luck to you my friend.
488114
It depends on the situation. If you were still dating him when they got together, that's messed up and that's not a friend. But if it was an ex boyfriend, I think that's okay. As long as she comes and talks to you first about it. Not asking for permission, just letting you know what her feelings are. That's a true friend. I don't see anything wrong with friends dating other friends exs but they have to remember that friends come first
539653
as long as they are happy it shouldnt matter what other people think.\n\nin fact...it sort of makes sense why they got together so soon. they both lost the same loved one so not only do they understand what the other is going through, but i'm sure they must both have similar qualities as the deceased (ie: instrests, humore, stories etc)\n\nnot to mention that since he was friends with her husband they most likely saw each other a lot. it probably makes her feel like the friend is someone whom her husband would "approve".\n\ntell your friend to remind people of these facts and if they have a problem well then its a good thing they (the accuser) arent going out with her (heehee)  :-)
1082192
ive met a lovely lady on here, she is my soul mate and we have hundreds of things in common, i never thought i would meet someone so perfect in my lifetime (well 99.99% perfect, she's from Wales lol), she has given me a breath of fresh air in my life, and a new belief that not all women are as so shallow as my ex, \n if we met years ago i would of asked her to marry me, but circumstances now mean we can only be friends, which im very happy to be, as i am so lucky to have such a great friend ive never had a 'best' friend in life,  but she is the 'best' thing to happen to me in years. i hope i meet her in our next lives as she truly is a great person. i love you ----
1078206
yes he have a girl friend &he married
617200
Yes.  My wife is by best friend.
1170335
You are wrong. A friend isn't going to go after a friend's partner. The people who do, are not friends.
421608
I am married to a friend of my ex-boyfriend. Give him a chance if you think you can like him.
446494
I was the other woman, but didn't know it at the time. When I found out, I immediately ended the relationship as not to destroy a family. I didn't tell his wife, but told him that he should. Of course, he didn't. \n\nI just wouldn't want that thought on my mind, that I had been the cause of ending a marriage if it ever came to be  and I definately wouldn't have wanted it to happen to me if I were married.  No person deserves that kind of hurt.
488290
Well it depends. How long have you know the other half? If you just met the other half then I wouldn't but if you have know him for a while then....I don't want to sound mean to you but sometimes we all have to do things we don't want to do. If this friend was a true friend try to talk to her about it. She should understand. \n\nOn another note.... CONGRADULATIONS! I hope the best for you and your future spouse!
781727
you can't "divorce" your friend...because you were never married to be able to do so. you can "drop" a friend which in this matter means stop being friends with them but divorcing them would only be capable if you were married to them. anyways you don't have a good friend and should "drop" her...lol.