Why would my boyfriend lie about cheating but take his ex wife out of town with him?
547198
I say if he is hangin out with her like best of buddies, then something is going on.I talk to my ex but I don't hang out with him.TEll him how you feel, if he defends her then you don't need him because she will always be in the way.The only reason they should be atleast talking is if there is kids involved, otherwise there should not be any reason for them to be hanging around eachother.Good luck !!
688726
Once a cheater always one, believe that for alot of reasons.  Biggest one is they feel it's ok to do it, or they wouldn't have done it.  second is that the trust is gone, and it will affect the relationship, and therefore, giving them more reason to go out and find someone else.
532189
Cheating. "they are on a business meeting", hope that was the answer. If not then cry for he has gone to or will go to bed with that girl. The bitter truth
683242
Yes, you had no right calling him.  Just because it was a guy that she was talking to doesn't mean she was cheating on you.  I can relate to this because I broke a 5 year relationship because of something like this.  My ex was accusing me to cheating on him with someone that was over 300 miles away because I talked to this person everyday.  I asked him to leave over 3 months ago it was hard to break it off with him but I couldn't live with him always looking through my stuff.  Now he says that he shouldn't have gotten into my stuff and acted like he did...but he did it himself over nothing. SUCKS THAT MEN ONLY THINK THEIR GIRLS CAN ONLY HAVE OTHER GIRLS TO VENT AND TALK TO!!!!
646505
The reason is that he is probably still cheating on you. And thinks you maybe doing the same. It's called a guilty conscience.
197843
If you think it, usually your right.  You could try to prove it but you might be wasting your precious time.  Just back off and leave him alone and go your own way......one day he will wake up and say,  what happened to that great thing I had?  Where did she go?  And he will miss you and come looking for you.  But you have to act like you don't care.  If he's cheating on you, he's not treating you nice.
704166
They don't all lie.  There are lots of guys who are honest.  \n\nJust me, but I figure if it's a little thing, then there's no point in lying about it unless the liar is looking for control, amusement, self-aggrandizement, or is just a compulsive liar.  If it's any of those things, how does anyone possibly trust him?  Without trust what kind of real relationship can you have?  Not much of one, for sure.\n\nIf it's a big thing he's lying about, the fact that it's a big thing is all the more reason to tell the truth!\n\nThe issue is much deeper than lying and it's not something you can fix.\n\nThere ARE guys out there who are honest.  As long as women continue to date liars, they'll continue to lie.
82127
Ouch this a hurtfull situation. But first you need to confront him and find out whats going on and dont let him play you for stupid. You next person to confront is her! She needs to know what she is dealing and find out what she is doing. He may think its harmless but you guys have 2 kids together and it sounds like he is pretty seriously committed to you. He should have no reason to call her and break up a happy home. You seriously might want to rethink the whole relationship. Maybe even give him a scare and say you are leaving him because you found out he was talking to "that girl" if he loves you he will stop and wont ever do it again. And seriously think about it he has already cheated on your with this girl and she is obbviously still on his mind. You should have cut it off when he first cheated.
66397
He is a liar and a cheat. It happened to me, 'cept that my bf went to a movie theater and hosed somebody off. I got mad, but unfortunately, i was also forgiving. And now, I am paranoid that he might still be doing it.
1152321
I think its cause he has already cheated & you dont trust him anymore....DITCH HIM....trust is already lost!
233229
Ask him if he's seeing anyone else. If you love him and trust him you will probably believe him. If you don't trust him, even if he's telling the truth it won't matter.\n\nIt could just be that your boyfriend is a shameless flirt! I know I'm dating one. He has more female friends than I do but it doesn't bother me when he hangs out with them or talks to them on the phone because I trust him.
669745
Are you ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that your "boyfriend" and the "ex" are split up or are they still TOGETHER and he is lying to the BOTH of you?!?
1024572
Babe, \n\ni must say as a woman myself i am surprised you took her back. If i ever cheated on my boyfriend i would expect him 2 finish with me. \n\nIf she cheated on you once there is a reason for it and alcohol's  not an excuse. And do you honestly think her mates would not lie for her?? come on you have pals you know how it works. They always say when someone cheats once they will most definitely do it again.\n\nMake a break, stop driving yourself mad the trust is obviously gone.
685436
You have a right to be suspicious but the good news is that he didn't try and tell you he did get a haircut.  Keep and eye on him, but don't assume he is cheating at this point.  You are in a different relationship with this guy than the one he had with his ex and you knew what was going on there and have trusted him this far.  Don't let your fear ruin what you have without proof he is really doing something wrong.
613871
If it hurts you that he is talking to his ex, and you have told him this calmly and rationally, and he is still doing it - there is something wrong.  In a healthy relationship, he should understand your insecurity about it and possibly decrease or eliminate contact with her until you feel better about it.  \n\nSeek some sort of couples counseling to \nA. Find out why he would do this\nB. Work out your trust issues from your past relationship.  \n\nIf you don't address these issues now, they certainly won't magically disapper once you are married.  Take the time to solve them now so that you have a clearer plan for your future.  \n\nGood luck to you.  : )
395347
Lying is just plan WRONG!\nThe best thing that the ex-husband and his new love can do is file restraining order to keep her away from them and a peace bond to keep her off their property. I the ex did not start the whole thing, people will realize it soon enough. And if she is lying, what comes around goes around. She will get her just due in time. It is part of life.\nI had a Motor Sgt. came in new to a unit where I was stationed. Before he got there I had 1 counseling over 4 years, in 6 months he wrote me up 2 or 3 dozen times. He tried to get me burned and failed. I finally move on to another duty station. Several years later I saw him, he was taking an early release from the military because his wife was divorcing him and his boy was in prison for drugs. If he would have just treated people with respect, What could have been!!!!
1180366
From the information you have provided I suspect you may be imagining things.\n\nYou have been together for 4 years but are still not married or living together. Is this yours or your boyfriend's choice? If your boyfriend's then perhaps his lack of commitment to the relationship is prompting these feelings that he is having an affair.\n\nYou have only given two examples of his suspect behaviour, the second of which is extremely weak. There is nothing in the SMS message that indicates it was addressed to a woman never mind a women he is having an affair with. The fact that he referred to you as his girlfriend makes me sceptical that it would have been to a woman he is romantically involved with.\n\nCatching him out in a lie about his meeting is a little more worrying. However you indicate that he had an excuse - was his excuse reasonable?\n\nPossibly your woman's intuition is just your subconscious telling you that you are no longer satisfied with the relationship and your boyfriend's lack of commitment and you are looking for a way out.\n\nDo you have any close friends that you can talk to about your concerns? They will probably be able  to give you a better opinion than anyone here.