Is it OK for my wife to always spend her monies on personal items and depend on me to pay all the bills?
546445
It depends. If you make more money than she does, and she has a job and then has to come home and cook clean, etc. Let the poor woman enjoy her money.
822220
I think you have a problem. You have already made the comment that she owes every credit card company, and likes the expensive stuff, etc. Does she have a job, a way to pay for this stuff. She is spending more than she is making. From what you are saying on here, she is after your money.\n\nDo you your self like the down to earth type of stuff? Well try this and see what happens: Take her out to eat at McDonald's once in awhile, take her shopping to Wal-Mart, go for walks in the park, set at home a few times and watch a movie together on the sofa. What I am saying here is have fun and do "fun" things BUT very cheap fun. Ask her is she cooks at home or goes out to eat all the time. Ask her if she has ever worked in the garden or yard, that is a good sign there to see how she will react to that. If she ever makes a comment about doing some of the finer things in life instead of doing this cheaper stuff, then I would say that she is after your money and how sad that would be.\n\nWith me I am satified with the cheaper stuff and staying at home, working in the garden and yard work. As a matter of fact, lets say that I did met someone that had "money" so what, I would rather live the cheaper life and grow things in a garden, go to McDonald's for a .99 burger, buy a pair of jeans at Wal-Mart for 9.99. I can make money stretch, and have fun too. Don't get me wrong, it is nice to have money when you do need it. Like if some thing brakes, you can either get it fixed or get a new one, but that is different.\n\nWell I hope I have been of some help to you with this, heck, I'm just a good old country woman myself. I don't need the finer things in life. Money don't buy love, it don't keep you warm on a cold night.
845659
I do think she is being a little bit unreasonable if she doesn't work. Do you have kids? Now kids and housework can be exhausting. Maybe you could without her having to ask clear the dishes, take her out for dinner occasionally so she don't have to cook that night, take the trash out. Little things like that without being asked to do them. But to do half I think that is unreasonable personally.
853820
i imagine he has a right too.. i because how much debt you have affects him too believe it or not... he probably doesn't want to wreck his credit rating with your spending habbits..\n\nperhaps you need to talk to him.. and figure out how much you can both spend as free whatever i want to buy cash.. and just use cash to buy stuff..\n\ni dont think you have a right to mad.. as being married its a partnership.. everyone is equal.. and he probably feels your spending to much
695031
My husband and I both have our own separate savings and checking acct as well as one joint acct we both contribute money to as we're both employed.  All the household bills and mortgage payments are taken out of the joint acct.  Personal spending is taken out of our own accts.\n\nThe reason ours is set up this way is because my husband is the bigger spender between us two and we want to have emergency money for "just in case" as u never know if something will come up.  This was an agreed upon arrangement prior to getting married.
171567
I have not but my Husband will buy coins  no matter what bills are due
739821
after i spend all her money
608399
Gone are the days when man used to earn more. Do not feel inferior that your wife is earning more than you do. Do with whatever amount that you can earn without having to worry and get along with your life. You will gain more request form her if you are prudent in the manner you manage with the little that you have got.....goddammit she is your wife man.
454467
I hope you are not jealous! Personally if I had money to spend like that I would enjoy watching it add up in the bank for a serious occasion or in my son's college fund. Some day she will find out spending money like that doesn't always work :)
1157649
Sounds like you have some talking to do... and from that decide whether to 'take it' or leave it. However you are married now, and that is supposed to be for better or worse. As her husband, (now) its really up to you to support her emotionally as financially.
208097
i think it is something around you can afford and her monthly allowance. now, if she is realy close to you and she seems to like to buy something pricey and you feel generous, you might consider this. but if you feel you are giving her quite an amount, you can also consult your sibling (her parents) about the amount.
232595
You're married...so there shouldn't be a distinction between the two of you. If she helps you buy a house, you're helping yourself. If you're still having "your stuff" "her stuff", get counseling before buying a home. You should have gotten counseling before getting married, for that matter.
735140
If married no problems but if just living together DO NOT have a joint bank acct,,,,Keep your money in your name and protect your butt,,,everything should be  split, 50/50 including sex,,,,smiles, Good Luck ps Money causes more problems than  any other subject and mode of living,
122647
You already answered your own question. Sorry, but if she wants you to spend all of your money on her, what does that say about her? It IS your money. I'm not saying don't spend any money on her, just don't spend ALL your money on her.
749624
The term "allowance" is usually used, in the US, to describe money parents give their kids for pocket money -- to spend on video games, save up for toys, or buy soft drinks and snacks when they're out with friends.\n\nThis may explain some of the shocked reactions you've received to your question -- it's not common for adults to give each other allowances.\n\nNow, having said that, it's a VERY good practice for married couples to have three accounts -- his, hers and ours.  (This can be easily set up with the payroll department at your husband's work, to have the money automatically deposited in whatever amount you guys work out.)\n\nHere's how it can work with a single-paycheck family (that's been us, for most of the last 20 years).  The majority of the money goes into the "ours" account, and that's used to pay for common expenses -- housing, utilities, food, school supplies for the kids, gas for the car, etc.  \n\nThe rest of the money is split -- according to a scheme that works with your budget and income -- between "his" and "hers."  Once money is in one of those accounts, it's yours to do with as you see fit.  If he wants to donate the money in "his" account to a political cause you disagree with, you can't stop him; if you want to save up for months and buy a wildly impractical and ridiculously expensive pair of shoes with the money in your "hers" account, he has to accept it.\n\nThe good thing about such a scheme is that it gives each of you the freedom to have a certain amount of money that's ALL YOURS -- there is nothing like having money that nobody can tell you how to spend. \n\nNow, how much should that be?  That varies with your income, expenses, and goals.  If you're just starting out, and especially if the "ours" account covers housing, food, utilities and the rest, then 3% may be all you guys can afford at the moment, especially if you're trying to save for a house or some other major expense.  I encourage you to save as much money as possible, putting it away either for major purchases (like a house or business), as an emergency fund, or of course for retirement.  (No, it's not too soon to start saving for retirement, no matter how old you are.)  If you have a little more flexibility, you might consider working up to putting 10% into each of your "his" and "hers" accounts, and putting the remaining 80% into the "ours" account.  \n\nThe key, though, is as several other people have said: communicate about your goals, your needs, and the reality of your situation.  If all your financial needs are being taken care of out of the main account, or if you are aggressively saving for the future, a 3% "allowance" might be just fine.  But don't be surprised if your American friends give you a funny look when you talk about your husband giving you an allowance.
251502
If you live with him it is the courteous thing to do as far paying the bills are concerned. About the kids, you should sit down and talk to him about that and see where that gets you.
1124701
I think it depends if the mother is a single mother or not. I have been paying my single mother rent money to help out for bills, mortgage, groceries etc. But my mother never forced us (my sister and i) to pay her but just to help out a little. If the she's married and you think the mother/father could afford to support their family then i would agree with you. on the other hand, i wouldn't let my kids pay either. :-)