my wife is not satisfied with my sexual appeal,how can i improve me?
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Go to library and get the book "Sex For Dummies".  Watch porn will help you with different positions.  Go to the adult store and buy some sex toys.
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Then focus on her first and make sure she is totally satisfied before doing what satisifies you. If all else fails theres numbing lotions and rings to help. Good luck!
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Try to compromise with ur wife to make up sometimes for sex as u need it.
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My wife is not dominant, but she uses toys on me. Want details?
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I think you should talk to your wife and explain to her how important sex is to you in your relationship.  Tell her you need to have sex in order to make you happy and even keep you there.\n\nAlso, ask her what are her feelings and views on sex and why she turns you down.  Try to figure out if there are things you can do differently (don't automatically assume she is satisfied) and most importantly, encourage your wife to explore her own sexuality so she will feel comfortable opening up to you and having sex with you more often, not simply out of her obligation to you, but because she enjoys sex and enjoys you.\n\nIt takes time to build a healthy sexual relationship with someone and you both have to explore what sex means to you individually and together.  It seems you want a more sexually spontaneous wife and there isn't a thing wrong with that to me.  Life is to short (or too long) to go without something vitally important to your happiness.  Most women don't grow up with a healthy sense of their own sexuality and it sounds like your wife doesn't have a sense of her own and she needs to work on that within herself.\n\nAfter all that, if things still don't work out, you need to realize that sex is important to you, there's nothing wrong with that, and you might not be able to sustain your relationship with her if you can't work it out.  \n\nDon't have an affair though, you need to learn how to work with a woman you actually love to learn how to sustain a healthy sexual relationship in the long term, affairs are only short term solutions and never deepen a sexual experience, just distract you from dealing with the hard stuff.
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First of all you dont always need to ask the Ladies a sex question. Ok here I go.... my wife and I have been together since 1997 So I know what you meen about old hat lol. \n\nWhen my wife and I were dating I ready and looked up so much crap online and in books on how to find all the right spots. She never complained one bit....\n\nSomething new.... have her learn Kegel exercises. Doing this will give her the abilaty to squeeze in whenever she wants to giveing more pleasure to the both of you.\nHave her do it everyday it will be good trust me. \nFind her g-spot curve your middle finger uppward about 2 or so inches inside and press firmly making circular motion with your finger. She will let you know when you found it. While you are doing this now that she has been doing kegel exercises have her squeeze in on you as your fingering her spot. After a short bit she will get so tight that you can barely move your finger... pull your finger out 9 times out of 10 she will have a female ejaculation "she will squirt or gush" Totally differant from her normal orgasims. If you havnt already get into sex toys. \n\nNow she might say no you are all I need yadda yadda. Do it anyways In no time you both will be having fun. Check out Xandria.com or Hustler store online. you both can shop together just doing this will excite you both just thinking about what you will be doing. \n\nTry public sex.... Go to the park walk the trails take a backpack with a blanket and towels and find you a nice spot. Go camping just getting out of the norm will help out alot. Hope my rambling helps\n\nAny other questions just ask.
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Physical apearances can affect relationships deeply. You don't hate your wife you just hate what she looks like.If you want her to change you should show her that you will change for her. What is it the thing she dislikes most about you? work on it and she will do things to make you happy too. \nMay be she wants to look better but she can't go the gym. May be she is one of those who eat when they are unhappy and she is just unhappy all the time. She will only change if you start being nice to her. She will not change if you tell her words that hurt her, will only make things worse. If she ever knows that you are cheating on her you will look more than "a fat ugly slob" in her eyes. \n \nHow about dancing classes? I know it wouldn't be fun at first but she will:\n- know you love her and want to go out with her.\n- excersise.\n- dress up nice.\n- take more care of you \n\nand she will not be hurt.
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Have you tried a sensual massage? \n\nPlan a romantic night dinner, candles Oh and slip her a note 1 week in advance to have her book the apppointment. \nDont tell her any thing just make sure she will be there. \n\nKeep slipping hints all week long. leave a rose on her desk at work and don't let her see you do it. \nSend her an Email greeting card with naughty idea's \nsend her a blindfold the day before dinner. \n\nthat day leave some oil in her purse with a note. \n"DON"T LOOSE ME YOUR GOING TO NEED THIS" \nThe little hints all week long should have her wet in anticapation. \n\nThat night greet her at the door with a glass of wine. dress up really nice. wear a apron for visual effect " AND TO HIDE YOUR HARDON" have her come into the house and relax. ask her how her day was. maybe have her sit down and while your talking gently rub her feet. \nafter about 15 to 20 min. excuse your self and serve dinner. make it romantic. \nAfter dinner have her go sit down and you go clean up the mess in the kitchen. then go prepare the bedroom. I suggest puting padding on the floor and ALOT of candles around the room but it's up to you. \nNEXT fill the tub with a nice warm bubble bath. try using her fav if possible, if not visit the store and ask a female clerk. just about any thing would work. \nonce the bath is set. go back into the Living room and collect your wife.\n(( first blindfold her)) Then slowly start removing her clothes. DON"t let her help you. take your time and caress her skin, as you remove an item of clothing explore the area with your hands, lips or even use the hair on your head. place gentle kisses on it. After about 30 Min of caressing her lead her into the bathroom. and help her enter the tub. Try to leave the blindfold on if possible. \nNext use a laufa sponge and gently clense her body. make sure you rub it every where. Work on the legs and feet especially. And on her back, but and scalp. Hopefully the water will stay warm for about 30 min. Spend 15 min. washing her down. then let her relax for the next 15 min. in the mean time warm up the OIL. and prepare the room for the massage. make sure the tempature is above 80 degree's for her comfort. OH and have wash clothe handy siting in cool water.  \nnow go back to the bathroom and collect your wife. dry her off and leave the blindfold in place. or replace it with a dry one. =) Gide her into the room, and have her lay face down. warm your hands up and place them on her back for a moment and just pause. count to 50 slowly and just focus on the though of relaxation. \n\nNOW place some warm oil in your hands gently spread the oil to cover her back. work slowly and gentle into the muscles. Do not put any pressure on her spine this only hurts instead work the muscles next to the spine. and along the shoulder blades. The move to the feet and work up the legs. \nas you reach the hips. gentle caress her eroginious zones, then move back down and slide up slowly again. once you have worked the leg work on the Butt area of that leg. \nbe careful with the oil. around her vagin* but feel free to touch her around the *nus. GENTLY at this point "LISTEN" to seee if she is comfortable or does not like this. DO NOT insert your finger into the *nus just rub around it. Now move back to the other leg and repeat the same sequence. \n\nonce finished have her roll over.\nRemove the blindfold and place the cool clothe on her eyes\nnow work from the legs up. once you reach the "Y" stop and work the other leg. then move to arms into the breast. and finish with the stomach. and vagin* \nAllow her an orgams now and once she is finished move to her head and give a scalp massage. this will allow her to calm down. \n\nAfter this see what happens. \n\nGL mate\nGod Bless
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there are sooo many things to do to increase your sexual drive... if that's the question... \n\ngo to a sex shop. they have fun games (not necessarily vibrators), and lotions... and things that tast good, and warm up that you can put on her body... find out what her needs are, or what she wants that you dont do for some reason... try something new... and make her body feel like the sexiest and beautifullest body you have ever seen or touched.
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Talk yo ur partner about it and find ways and means of improving the chemistry between u both\n\nand i wanna tell u this, young man that if u truly love ur wife , u will surely enjoy the act and never get bored of it. first start loving her even better than what u are doing now. and then u wont even think of the term bored\n\n how would u feel if ur wife had posted this question thinking that u bored her . think again and learn to love. Feel ashamed of urself.\n\nsex is not a routine- it is just a part of LOVE  making.
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Women think more with EMOTIONS.  Men react by the physical like a naked lady!  lol  Wome need to feel emotionally connected for it to be awesome sex!  Try treating her like a WOMAN instead of a WIFE!  Buy her a basket at Bath and Body filled with bubble bath,scented soap, oil beads,scented candle, and throw in a bottle of wine or champagne.  Then when she is in her hot steaming bubblebath with candle light she will REMEMBER who got this for her and she will be thinking of u when she is wet and soapy!  Then be sure to put a towel in the clothes dryer so she has a toasty towel to wrap her naked body in!  Use her new lotion to give her a back rub.  Next time u r in the middle of Walmart- stop the cart and pull her into your arms and lay one hell of a lip lock on her!  When u go to a restaraunt and they take u to a booth- DO NOT sit across from her- slide in right beside her so that during the meal you can whisper in her ear and use the occasional leg caress while your at it.  While driving down the road- stop and pull over the car- make a mad dash thru traffic just to pick her some wild flowers!  She must be with u so she can see this!  Write on the shower tile " I LOVE YOU"  Write on the bedroom mirror" God u r sooooo beautiful- just look".  Women need emotion women need to feel like we r the most beautiful and sexy woman on earth in our mans eyes.  And its up to YOU to try and make her feel this way!!!  There r sooooo many little things you can do to make her feel special and most of them do not cost a single penny!!!  Treat her like a WOMAN instead of just a wife!  Good luck to u
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Good grief, doesn't anyone have a REAL answer for her?\n\nTo enjoy it more yourself start by finding out what touches you like best; develop fantasies that arouse you; if you're of age, check out some story sites like literotica.com and find things that make you hot & bothered, use those things when playing with yourself; find toys you like.  Vibrators are good.  There are all kinds.  If you're self-concious about going into an adult toy store, go to Wal Mart or some place and buy an electric personal massager.\n\nMost importantly, make sure you have time and privacy to do it.  Nothing is a mood killer like wondering if someone is going to walk in on you.
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Definitely not, talk to your spouse and let them know how you feel. tell them what you want and need to be satisfied. If they love you they will try to make things better. At worst, go to a counselor and try to improve things by going that route.\nGood luck.
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You probably got married at a young age and didn't explore your sexuality enough..\nI do not believe in devorce,so I can unfortunately not give you any advice..\n\nYou need to spice things up with your marriage..\nJust talk to her..
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Sorry but you cant increase her sex drive.   What you can do is, encourage her to want you more often.   Heres a few suggestions.\n1) Set the mood.  Maybe cook her a meal, light some candles etc\n2) Give her a sensual massage (massage everything)\n3) Let her know how beautiful you think she is.\n4) Be sensitive to her needs, as well as your own. \n5) Surprize her.   May a picnic, a movie,etc.   Just something you know she will love, and you wouldnt normally do.\n\nI hope these help.   Good luck
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The sex online will get old pretty fast. You need to try and work on what's real.....your wife and mother of your children. Maybe she doesn't like sex because you don't approach her the right way. Begging is such turn-off...try some real passion. If you give some true effort and things still aren't working than leave! Nothing is worse for children than growing up in a loveless home.
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From the rear.\n\nSorry. Seriously, you need to move away from the dress-up games and work on increasing the true kink factor. I would make an assault on her mental barriers.\n\n1) Massage her until she is as limp as a noodle. Then (unless she demands sex) let her go to sleep in your arms. Repeat from time to time until she begins to trust you more. Do not let her come to expect this, however.\n\n2) Meanwhile, during the few times you do have sex, suck on her nipples a lot. This will increase the levels of oxytocin in her brain (making her feel that she loves you more).\n\n3) Get her to exercise, especially weight train. Weight training will increase the levels of testosterone in her system (yes, in girls too) and make her hornier. Testosterone is the sex drive hormone in females too.\n\n4) After a nice massage session, go dovvn on her until she is extremely turned on. Then go at it like crazed weasels. \n\n5) Keep doing it like crazed weasels for a few weeks, and then make your requests for makeup, high heels etc. She will do anything you ask as long as you keep the big Os coming.