Can an attractive man and a sexy woman be platonic friends only?
550180
Sure they can.  They can be the greatest of friends and stay totally platonic.  I think this is a decision that they have to make together and put their friendship first.
121444
Yes...a woman can be a friend with a man and eat a meal with him and still have feelings for someone else.\n\nBut from what you wrote, it sounds like you're at a certain point and she's not there yet. \n\nIf she's not ready to commit, then she's not.\nShe'll get there when its time for her, if its time for her.\nBut its not something that you can make happen. \nEmotions are either there or they are not.
1007725
Yes they can. If they can't, they're not the kind of guys you want as friends anyway.
683852
Men & women can be friends. Just be careful not to let it go any further than that. Eg. I am friends with my male colleagues at work, but I make sure I get to know their wifes or GFs as well so they do not get the wrong ideas - aka they need to know I am not a threat. And I never put out wrong signals with colleagues - some may hint at something more but I always made it clear where I stand. If I am not interested, I am not interested period - particularly in married or men who are already with someone else.\nAs to why it does happen? Well, men tend to think of sex most times (read relationship books - it is a primal thing with them). They find opportunities for it to happen and at times end up jeopardising real friendships cos of it. If a guy friend pushes it, I let the friendship go. Maybe that's why folks say plutonic friendships are not workable. But I have good male friends who are absolutely faithful to their spouses so I am glad to know that such men, however rare, still exist. I for one would want my man to be exactly that - faithful to me and only me and I would be the same for him too.
962246
You already stated exactly why it isn't a good idea: you're attracted to her in an inappropriate way for a "friendship" to work: sexually! Find a friend that shares your overall outlook and is preferably a man, with good intentions towards you. That's a tough enough find in and of itself, without having the extra barrier of the sexual differences to overcome on top of it all!
253322
There's no rule that says you can't go out as friends.  Funny, I was good friends with my husband before I found out he liked me and we started dating.  It was much easier because I could be myself around him, so he knew the "real" me.  But DO NOT plan a "romantic"-type date if you do not feel that way about her.  Don't string her along.  Do something buddies would do.  Who knows?  Maybe after you get to know her as a friend, you might want more.  Good Luck!  ;)
33198
They are your best friend cuz you have stuff in common with them. You already love them as a person so it only stands to reason that you would find them attractive.
564995
They can if the have no other feelings besides being friends. I have guy friends and we know each others limits you just have to be sure you want nothing other then to be friends
270919
As a married female. No adding a male friend to your list is not an affair. First answer this, is he romantically interersted in you? Is your affection towards him romantic, or fantisizing bout him? Then no dont add him. Are you both agreed on that your only friends and nothing else. Then yes add him.
339174
The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
722058
Sure they can....It takes what  is called time...Of course when physicallity is involved it is difficult to remain "just friends"....
159551
Friends and close friends are two different things. Ther's nothing wrong with beings friends with your girlfriends goyfriend, but you two have no reason for being really close. Men are not close friends with Women for no reason. We have ulterior motives for that. You'll find yourself on Jerry Springer on the "I Slept With My Girlfriends Man" episode. Be his friend, but keep it casual. Really close friends is asking for trouble....
479799
turn the question around, is is ok for a married man to keep an old girlfriend as a platonic friend.  answer honestly.  If it is not a problem for you or your loved one then more power to you.
996517
Exactly I am in the same situation, I feel as long as we restrict our relation to platonic, then there is no problem...Its like having some one more than a friend, Its a special relation...THERE IS NO WRONG IN IT... Go ahead....
33969
yes, it is possible. you've just got to watch out on which signals u might be sending these guys. you also need to make it very clear up front that u only want to be JUST friends and nothing more. hope this helps.
571698
I have several female friends and I am married..there is nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex,in fact it helps you to get their views on things..specially relationships..ignore the people that make the gay remarks they are shallow..just remember you can never have enough friends..and I am sure she is more of a friend than the ones calling you names
328222
It really depends on whether you have any feelings for the girl because if not then there's nothing for you to act on and take that relationship to another level.  As soon as one person has some feelings for the other in a friendship then it ceased to be just that.  The bottomline is that the only way women and men can remain friends is if they both find each other somewhat unattractive.