how can i control my anger towards my husbond&#92;?
536893
start focusing on the good things he does - let him know what would make you feel appreciated - you telling him you are going to leave him is now an empty threat - try to talk to him to let him know how what he is doing makes you feel (or how what he is not doing makes you feel)
1067631
throw it out a window! it will release anger!
550527
Go for a walk and just have time on your own.  Talk to yourself about what got you so pissed off, what you should have said, what you are going to say, but without screaming or yelling so they could know that you really mean it and that you are not just talking because you are mad.....  I think that is the best as it will prevent you from getting physical with the person who caused you to get the way that you are and you will avoid saying something that you will or may regret....
1077799
Whenever you feel yourself boiling over, make the conscious effort to tell yourself to stop, take a few deep breaths, and count to 12. This allows you a window for the impulse to lash out to subside, so you get a clearer mind about whether the situation really calls for you losing your temper, or can be resolved in more peaceful manners. If you find it hard to let go of negative emotions and thoughts, try diverting them from people you love to a book or piece of paper by writing them down instead. \nIf you feel that you still can't control your anger from spinning out of control, it may be a good idea to go for anger management counselling with a certified counsellor or Psychologist.\nGood luck.
998111
You probably cannot. Ask yourself is his temper a part of his personality, in other words has he always been a hothead.If it is a part of his charachter then you cannot change him.He may need to see a qualified anger management therapist ot buy a anger management self help book at Waldenbooks or any large modern bookstore.\nHe has to get to the bottom of why he is prone to anger and learn to cope with what triggers those feelings inside of his mind.Good Luck!
871201
The only thing you can do is try and control your temper, what you are going through is perfectly normal a bit exaggerated by that is what happens to everyone when angry. You might also want to consider taking blood pressure medications. Consult a doctor for that.
195127
burning inside with violent anger
639437
Ben Franklin said, "When angry, count to ten. When very angry, count to a hundred."  \n\nAlso, breathe deeply and release it slowly. Think of all you will lose if you blow yout top. \n\nCan you write out the things you are angry about, then discusss them with some trusted person such as a counselor or pastor? \n\nRemember that anger feeds on anger, and you can't get in little digs or jabs at the other person without them also attacking you in little ways. "A soft answer turns away wrath."\n\nWrite yourself a script and don't deviate from it. If you are to discuss with the person you are mad at, don't adlib or improvise. List the things you want to say and don't get drawn off into any unprofitable side topics.\n\nMake up your mind to be fair to the other person. If you begin by saying "I want to make sure I'm being fair to you; what did you mean when you said, etc. etc." This will either lead them to want to be fair to you or make them want to leap to the attack. You will know, however, that you have done your best. Hopefully, they will decide to be fair to you as well.\n\nYou cannot fully protect yourself. The only way to do that is not to see them any more. You must take the risk of exposing your vulnerability-- even to the extent of admitting that you want to talk and see if the relationship can be restored. If it is, it will have been worth it. Even if it is not, you will know that you have done everything you could and that the blame does not rest with you.\n\nMake sure a neutral third party is present. They MUST be neutral. The presence of such a person will tend to inhibit outbursts of anger.Make sure the person understands that they are to remain neutral and that their only role is to moderate, or to prevent anger. Good candidates for the neutral third party are a boss from another department (if this is work related), a pastor, a counselor or therapist, a social worker or family arbitrator.\n\nThis is all pretty general, but you have already taken the most important first step, which is to have asked for help. This shows that you really do want to resolve this in a peaceful way. You have my respect and prayers for success in trying to restore or preserve the relationship. Good luck!
56807
Keep thinking about something else.  Keep occupied.  Keep busy.  These feelings will go away with time.  Pray that these wanting to get revenge feelings will go away even faster.  I know it is hard but we are all human & had to go thru this.  Reflect to yourself remembering your good qualities and then compare them to what you don't want to be like in this other person.
1013588
You should just ignor him don't drop what your doing and isolate yourself.  Ignor him.  If you can't concentrate just leave without saying a word.  If you listen it will bother you and make you want to yell back.  If you yell back he will be even more upset and that may lead to and awful fight.  Just tune him out.  I know my dad was a mean old man and blamed everything on me even though I was his little princess.  I tune him out and go about my business.
331542
If you think he is worth it, sit him down and explain the situation, always use a lot of feel statements.  It should go something like this, "When you get really angry it makes me feel like I'm being attacked.  I feel like that isn't right or fair to me."  Feel statements help you address the issue without placing blame and agitating him further.  If he agrees to work on it, then you guys have a chance to make it, if not, I would get rid of him.  Oh, and if he ever lays a hand on you, get out of there!  Or if you think he is going to, don't give him the chance.  No man is worth that!!!
854836
NO, wait until your anger subsides to decide if revenge is the best answer. You do not want to do anything you will regret later.
1036579
Sadly there is not much you can do to cool him down or even prevent an episode of rage in him.  If you want to cope so you don't end up terminating the relationship all you have to do is when you sense his temper tantrums coming, leave immediately if possible.  Simply refuse to be around him because you know that his negative attitude will affect you...I'm sure it always does.  And if his temper is as quick as you say, then you may just be running away from him more than you stay around him, but that is the only thing that can keep you safe from his poison.
619233
You cannot literaly sommon him persay, however you can conjure the essence of the darkness that he has become.\nlet lust, anger, rage, and hatred consume you. dwell in darkness and utter selfishness. find something, anything, to be angry about and let it consume you during meditation. if you let it grow this will induce an aimless rage that ,if potent enough and if selfishly embraced, you will feel radiating from your face and skin as a soft warmth, do not unleash the rage on anything though, you want embrace it as though it were your beloved child. once you have taken enough rage from whatever reason you have chosen to be angry about, develope a lust for new things to be angry about to consume more rage from your hatred of them. During this state it is not possible to have any sort of friendship since it forces you to have a sort of compassion for one another. love is essentialy the root of compassion, and if you hate then you cannot love anything, therefore you cannot care about anything. This being said you can  only have allies who seek the same path as yourself.  Sit in darkness during meditation, since you cant see though darkness without light your eyes will only reflect images produces by your thoughts, this will creat a suitable environment in order to conjure his essence from within yourself, as you are the initiator.  thouroughly practice these meditations for about 2 months(if you can without others noticing and worring about you) and before long, you will be able to sense a powerful hatred and discust encompassing you that isn't entirely your own. Bringing about this essence is some what easy beacause about 7/10 of the worlds population practices the same thing unconsiously and so it thrives in the atmousphere.\n\nI do not recomend trying this, it will only harm you in the end since that is its nature. I was only answering your question.
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
751676
it really pisses me off to get hasseled. but i got to keep my composure.\n.
623289
Often times, anger is hard to get rid of because it stays there until it comes out in some kind of physical way. At least that works for me. Here's something you really might want to do. Don't take an anger management course just yet, but find ways to relax. Stress usually eats at you until you get angry at the world. Relax and enjoy life because you only get to live it once. If that doesn't work, go vent your anger in a way so that you can get stronger too, like swimming or tennis. Just don't use your awesome skills on someone else, just your own stuff. :)