How do u get rid of the negative feelings that  a relationship is ending when it really isnt?
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If you can practice  as below you can get rid of negative feelings .\n\n1. Create the habit of " LISTEN TO YOURSELF" several times a day. This means just listen what is going on in your mind .\n\n2. If it is a negative  , stop there . Either switch immediately to a positive thinking or modify the same negative thinking into positive thinking .\n\nExample :- My parents didn't care me much in my childhood(negative) ----change to-----> My parents given me an opportunity to become independent and self-sufficient in the childhood itself(positive) . --or change to --> I have received best student award in my school(positive,happiness) ..\n\nWith practice you can become more positive day by day. Please tell me if this works for you .
921826
Holy crap.  You are still in the process of "breaking up".  Finish it.
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It is difficult I know.  Been there and done that and its not much fun.  You just have to be patient.  Find someone else to share some time with. Someone out there is worthy of your love and efforts.  Time heals all wounds and this is going to take some time.  In the meantime while your wounds are healing, find a hobby, join a gym, or take a evening class, anything to get you out of your blues.  Mingle with others and find someone else that you like and before long it will be easier for you to think about her and not be upset.  It wont be easy, but you will be ok and you will be a stronger person in the long run from all of this.  Yes a closure would be a nice thing to have but some people dont like confrontations or goodbyes.  Dont beat yourself up over it.  Learn from it and consider it a chapter in your life and start working on a new chapter.  Good Luck!!  And yes, this is normal feelings when you get dumped or something doesnt seem to have ended as it is "suppose to".  Lots of unanswered questions still in your head, rehashing over and over.  Best thing to do is go on with your life and cherish the memories you had and concentrate on making new ones.  Old saying is "when one door closes, another one opens".  Dont be so into your sadness that you miss an opportunity.
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Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again. \nMake a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times. \nThink ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention. \nKeep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through. \nOnce on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside. \nCut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again. \nTry not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight. \nPrepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop. \nRemember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person to are interested in. This will help it from happening again.
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Try and it get over. You are the only one that can make yourself happy. Dont dwell on breakups or hurting other people's feelings. ITs all point of life. Move on. Everything gets better in the end. Lifes short so think carefully :) The best of luck 2 you!
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I deal with this daily.\n\nYou move on until you find someone who makes you feel the way "the one that got away" did. There could be any number of reasons that the first one got away, but the fact is that she did, and has likely moved on with her life - you should, too.
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get over him by making your self feel better. by this i mean go out and buy all new clothes, get a sexy hair cut and make him look at you. some call this retail theropy! the best answer i can give you is try and be round people as much as possible. i just broke up with my boyfriend and now i live by myself and its very deppresing. and always remember never leave the one you love for the one you like coz the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
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if u haven't been able to get over the other person and feel like ur not ready to trust another man than maybe u should take time for urself first n see were ur feelings r at n wat u want out of this new guy in ur life its not really good to get into a new relationship right after ending one specially wen the last 1 was of 20 yrs .. like i said the best thing is u knowing exactly wat u want so u can get rid of the doubts u have and b able to open up 2 a new person .. u wouldnt want to mess up somethin dat can turn out 2 be good cause u not ready for it so give it time.... good luck
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that's usually normal if you really love a person, there will always be an attachment regardless of how long you had broken up. a good crying might help to release all your pent-up feelings (regret, more importantly). find a diversion to keep yourself away from drowning into depression.trust and love yourself.a good therapy is also advisable.
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get involved in things you love, hobbies, work.  realizing how much you love activities, and life.  try not to dwell and talk about it with friends.\nrealize the reasons behind the breakup and that "that is what was" then move on.
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Unfortunately many couples divorce either still loving each other or one partner still loving the other.\nThe best way is to accept that there is love, as well as accepting that he is gone. When you feel lonely and I know this is hard, instead of dragging out old memories, try as hard as you can on doing something constructive, listen to music,( not sad music) make a list of things you like about yourself, call a friend or a relative and go out for coffee or something, in short, get a life of your own.\nLike I said, is not easy, but if you try, little by little you will notice that getting up in the mornings is not so hard, and that you are looking forward to your new life.\nBelieve me, even if is hard to do believe now, this too shall pass.
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You know it's over when you've explored every route to save the relationship. You know that there is nothing that can be done to save it. You are ok with that. And there are no hard feelings left.
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The main thing I would do is get my mind aff that subject. If you r always thinking about the break-up, then you will always be moping around. I recommend doing something physical like swimming or jogging etc. You could also paint or hang out with friends. Do you know someone who usually always makes you laugh? Hang out with that person. Try to be as happy as possible. Good luck!
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the new guy is a dead beat and you will soon tire of him, love is not lust and you will not always feel euphoric. get therapy and save your marraige
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If you are breaking up with them because you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that there is no way to work things out then...you are exiting a bad situation and that is a good thing.  It's not a fun thing and it hurts like hell but if it's the right thing to do then unfortunately you just have to do it.  Then you just have to pick up the pieces and move forward.  They forgot to give some of us the manuals on Life is not going to be perfect.
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The good news is that time is on your side. So you'll surely get over it.\nOne way to speed things up a little, could be if you focus your memory on all the things that you didn't like and that made you upset.\nAnother good way of making it easier, is to go out and see all the others who are looking for a relationship themselves.
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Well stop tricking you're self in thinking it's ok the relation ship is herting if you're thinking about some one else I know  i've done it  it falls apart one day soon then it's to late..look at self and ask you're self why is it going on then make the move to fix it ,if you don't then you or him will lose some one.