i have gf which in true love with me but now i am force to get marry to my mom choice what shall i tell her?
544417
Havent you grown up yet or are you your Momma's little boy, she takes decisions which effect your life. Grow up man, be bold and marry the girl you love. Age is not a problem if the two of you love each other.
1081605
You are absolutely right. You have been very considerate to your parents, which shows your family culture. There is no hurry for marriage, now. Maintain good relationship with her and rightly no co-habitation till formal marriage. But tell your parents that if they want to see you married you would marry only her and none else. After all they are your parents, they will not like to stand on the way beyond a certain point. All the best.  God's delays are not God's denials. Patience is genius.
228565
first of all, you both sound too young to "know" this is the love of your life. but if that's how it feels right now, then you have a responsibility to yourself to fight for it.\nhere's my advice. sit down with her and have a heart to heart. tell her, you love her and want to marry her. tell her you understand she has issues with physical contact, and with her own body, as well as presumably she might with yours, and you will try very hard to not push her beyond her limits. and then ask her if she is willing to meet you half way. this is the critical point.\nbe gentle and make sure she enjoys her walks on the wild side, when she feel bold enough to take them, but be patient when she isn't up to it. you can get over reluctance, and work to resolve issues if she works with you - maybe even professional therapy might help. if she is not willing to try for you, then if you marry her, you will be sorry. that's the one thing you don't want to do to yourself or to her. stick around if you feel you must and maybe she will change her mind. but don't marry her unless she's willing to work with you to solve her issues.
1095113
This may be the hardest thing you have to do so far in your life and I wish you the best of luck!\n\nHopefully in 5 years you will look back and laugh at how scared you were to tell them. \n\nI don't know your family but if I were you, I would take my mother to a neutral location such as a park and go for a walk. Tell her how much you love her and that you would never do anything to hurt her. Tell her that you need to talk to her about something very important to you. Then tell her in a way that's best for the both of you. Give her a few minutes to absorb this new information. Ask her if she has any questions. Tell her that it is nothing that she did or didn't do. Tell her that she is a great mother, and that you were born this way. Tell her that you are still her daughter, still the same loving girl you always were. Hopefully she will come to accept this in time. It may take a while. (She may already know) Either way she may be able to help you tell your father and the rest of your family. In time they will learn to accept you for who you really are, and love you just the same. Best wishes!!
795852
Just be yourself, don't try to be someone you are not.  If she loves you she will be with you.  You can't get her to change her mind you can just live your life and if she wants to live her life with you she will.
802108
Well, you need to ask yourself how you got into your current situation in the first place....  Did you "find out" you were gay AFTER getting engaged?  Did you have a gay affair and determined that was what you really wanted?  Once you answer this, then you go to step two.  You HAVE to tell her.  Unless of course, you want to spend the rest of your life living a lie, and not being able to be true to yourself [and her].  You will regret getting married and not being able to have your male companionship if you go forward.  Be strong and sincere.  Talk to her like a close friend and, yes, it may turn out bad, but in the long run it could be worse.
189559
oh please! dont even listen to them. just tell, \n\n"dad,mom, i am the one getting married here.i am going to live with this guy for the rest of my life and if i do not have feelings for him, the marriage will never last. i have someone i love and my heart is with him and i am getting married to him. i would really appreciate it if i could get ur blessings, but if not, i will still marry him"\n\nsimple and short! gurl, they wont live with you and this "certain" guy. if they reallly like him, guess wat?they can get married to him. or have him live with them. sheesh!\n\ndo wat ur heart tells u anyway!
694265
How old are you?  Are there customs/backgrounds/ethnicity issues that are causing your parents to red-flag the relationship?  Without a few more details it's gonna be kinda hard to advise you either way.  \n>>BUT<<\nIf you're old enough to be making your own decisions (18+), then all you can do is what your heart tells you, giving your parents time to accept it on their own rather than forcing the issue....but also taking into consideration what thier concerns and feelings are.\nBut if you're like 16 or so and younger??  Chances are you're emotionally to young to really know what "love" is.  You may sincerely care for this girl, and that's wonderful...but your parents may just be trying to protect you from getting to serious to soon.  They love you and just want to help guide you through the right choices.\nIf they are that strong-willed against it for whatever reason and at whatever age, it isn't something that you're going to be able to "convince" them of--any more than they can convince you to give up on this. Acceptance may come with time-as long as you don't disrespect your parents in this matter.
1050031
REMIND HIM THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER HIS CHILD.... YOU ARE AN ADULT AND AS AN ADULT YOU ARE ABLE TO MAKE LIFE DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN .....TELL HIM THAT HE RAISED YOU WELL THOUGH.... THIS IS YOUR DECISION YOU LOVE HIM  BUT THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOU NOW.... ALSO GIVE AN EXAMPLE LIKE MY RELIGION IS LIKE MARRIAGE YOU WOULD NOT WANT SOME ONE TO CHOOSE YOUR HUSBAND&#92;WIFE FOR YOU WHY WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PICK YOUR RELIGION.... SAME THING.... GOOD LUCK..... BE BLESSED
880038
TELL YOUR PARENTS THAT YOU LOVE THEM VERY MUCH AND WILL NEVER GO AGAINST THEIR WISH AND ALSO TELL THEM YOU LOVE YOU BF VERY MUCH AND CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM....YOU WILL NOT MARRY ANYONE ELSE ,,,AND YOU WILL STAY UNMARRIED IF YOU HAVE TO FOR YOUR PARENTS.....TRY THIS IN THE END YOUR WISH WILL BE GRANTED..BEST OF LUCK...
810701
Give her a reason to change her mind. Let her know how wonderful life will be with you, instead of being alone.
919406
some say "if you love them let them go...if they come back it was meant to be" but you see, maybe her parents are "controlling" her...i had the same thing happen to me when i was younger..we both waited until i gradutated and i sat down and talked to my mom...i told her, you always told me to follow my heart, and not let anyone tell me what to do...i love ***** and he is my heart and you can either accept him or not it is your choice.....she and my husband are friends....i was with him for 6 years before we finally got married, i am married to him now and i still feel the love like we just began dating! maybe you should talk to her and find out how she feels!
774035
H.  I don't know why you have to ask what you should do.  To marry because you don't want to hurt family, or to save yourself from embarrassment is ludicrous.  No one should enter into marriage unless they love their fiance and plan to stay with them til death do they part. It is really not fair to your fiance to begin this union feeling the way you do, and have you even considered what kind of life would any children have if you did not love their mother.  There really is nothing to contemplate.  You should break off the engagement, stop the wedding and go on with your life.  Marry only when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with the chosen one. Good Luck!
1039697
you are going to have to be straightforward and direct with them. You tell them point blank, this is the woman I have chosen, if you love me then you will have to accept her. Tell them she will be your wife, and you are expecting to see enough respect out of them not to ruin your joy. When they see you will stand beside your wife-to-be at all cost, they will submit. Be sure to guard your lady against their rejection, it will break her heart. Be firm, but gentle, and stand your ground. You obviously are not a child anymore, and should not act/be treated like one. Good luck!
918398
well you could talk to your family and explain that you really love her. if they still don't like her and if you are dead sure that she loves you and that she can break her engagement without any problem, then i guess you should stay with her. because it is YOU who will love her and  not your family. and if you can persuade them that you will be happy with her then they should be tolerant and accept the situation. i could also tell you to face your family and fight for your love like they do in movies but this is unrealistic. i have faced a more or less similar situation some years back. i was in love with a boy. he is hindou and i am christian and my parents disliked him. i love my parents very much and i didn't want to hurt them and see them sad. so i broke up. but this was my choice. today i'm still alive and waiting for the perfect guy if ever he exist at all. i dn't know if i have regrets. what i mean is that the choice is yours and no one else's!
493775
You are 25.  You are old enough to make your own decisions.  It would be best if you talked to your parents about it than hide the relationship any longer.  They will understand. They are family.  If they do not understand, then make them understand.  But I highly doubt it would be a huge problem.  Let your family know how you feel about her and where you see this going, especially if you see this going towards marriage.  You dont just want to surprise them one day with something you think they might not take lightly.  But I dont think its something you really need to worry about.  Remember, communication is key to a great relationship.  Good luck! =)
481462
If the two of you are truly in love than it should be no problem for the two of you to continue as you are for one more year until you are of a legal age to do as you please. Your mom is just trying to protect you. It's her job. Don't fight it. Spend this year enjoying each other's company and growing closer together as a couple. Then, when you're 18, ask for your mother's blessing. I understand the urge to rush out into this wonderful new life (speaking from experience) but as a couple you should honor your mother wishes and just wait it out. One year out of a lifetime of happiness will be a drop in the bucket.