We want a surrogate or surrogacy child but only want a daughter, what should we do?
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You could adopt, there is more to being a parent that sharing DNA.  You would have your female child, and be making her life much better than it was.
849163
I have 2 kids and would love more.Unfortunately my partner can't have kids.I have accepted it.We would have liked our own child,but he treats mine as his own.
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I'd put my energy into raising the 3 children I already have instead of risking my health with another pregnancy, but the decision is up to you and the potential fetus's father.\n\nWhen you have this issue sorted, get sterilized.
891263
i would say "let me know when you get ready to adopt a child, i will help all i can"    i would want my child to be happy, but i do want a grandchild, and since i only have one child,, she is it lol
165180
"I want a baby, and I want it NOW!!" Ha! Ha!  My husband is the opposite, he wants a child now but I would like to wait , I am only 20.  We decided to compromise and wait a year or so,(I wanted to wait 5 years).  I don't know what to tell you to tell him!  Maybe you should ask him what his reasons for waiting are??
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I dont know.  I know that I want to adopt but I do not know how I will know that child is for me.  I will just pray that God will show me.\n\nI am going to adopt from overseas and I will not specify if it is a boy or a girl or health.  I would prefer a child that was not mentally handicapped but if that is the one God wanted to give me then I would take it.  All babies deserve someone to love them.
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Depends how strongly you want to have your own blood related child and also on how much you really love her. It is a very difficult situation but if you truly love her then you will have to think about other ways of having children e.g. adoption or fostering. Maybe she would even be willing to use a surrogate mother? You really need to speak to her about this before you rush into a marriage. You gotta remember that you only get one shot at this life so if you are gonna sacrifice your own needs just make sure that you give it a lot of thought and that you really are doing the right thing. I am truly sorry for you and your partner but would your love be strong enough to keep ignoring what u want and if answer to that is no then i cant see relationship working anyhow.\nBest of luck.\nMichelle xxxxxxxxxxx.
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then you become a woman and either make the choose to keep it or, adopte it out , or abortion.  (which i'm against).  if you decide to keep the baby. then be a woman and take care of . who says you have ot have the other half to take care of a child.. then as far has him saying its'not his. child support hun. they will give you a partentiy test.. i hate men that are all there for you until you get knocked up,, then they don't want nothing to do wit you.. ass holes..  but you gottta make the right decesion for you. whats best for you .. i know were your coming from i'm a mother of 5 .. two of my kids don't even know thier dad..
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Just to be on the safe side and to make sure it is yours. Have the baby tested. If it is yours then step up to the plate and be a father. That would be the right thing to do. You may just be telling you that its yours, She may not even know whos it is.
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There is no right way...it's just the way you feel about it. If you feel that you can love and take care of a child with out a partner, do it that way. If you feel the need to have a family complete with a mom and dad, then find someone who will be there long enough to provide. You don't necessarily have to get married...you should just have enough love in your heart to provide for any kids.
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Go for it, unless it's only the 2 daughters you want!
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JewJew, never mind the immature answers from some of the previous entries. \n\nLook, there are other alternatives to your situation.  It is wonderful that you and your husband have the love that you do for children and want to have more in your family.  Some families out there don't care enough for the children that they have been blessed with.  You can see that play right out on your answer list by those that probably were not brought up with a lot of morals.\n\nWhich brings us to the next point I am going to make.  There are a lot of children already out there that need loving families.  Such as yourselves.  Adoption would definitely be something to consider, without taking the medical risk that you are willing to.\n\nThis would be worth your time to look into, and as I already stated, don't be bothered by some of the other previous answers because they undoubtedly do not have a clue on what good parenting is all about, whether you have an entire house full of kids, or just one.\n\nGood luck to you and your husband's decision, Make it an act of faith!!   God Bless you and your family.....
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Hey, I was thinking about a similar question! I know some people can't love children who are not their own 'blood', but I feel all children are the same and I'd happily adopt any orphan. I don't know about the expenses, so can't comment on that, altough I had a school teacher who wasn't even very rich, but he had an adopted child....? So maybe there are different ways of adoption, from less to more expensive.\n\nThe 'problem' is that people find it more logical to have their own child. It's more unique, has their features and their genes. It's a symbol of their love and relation with their partner. Till some extent, I can understand this and I feel there's nothing wrong with it either. Bearing your own child is a unique experience and why would you deprive yourself from it? It might sound egoistic, but it's rather logical and a matter of emotional attachment. \n\nHowever, when a couple can't have children for some reason, why would we prefer to go for IVF, surrogate mother or other treatments? In this case, I do believe adoption is a far better option and a way of accepting it as God's wish, while you still get the pleasures of nurturing a child. Also when you can afford it, I think adopting an orphan and giving him/ her not just your money, but your love also, is one of the most nobel things we can do as human beings. \n\nA solution to overpopulation in my opinion is stopping the birth of an unwanted child by taking sufficient precautions (abortion is not option imo!). Besides, people need to realise that it's not important to have many children, instead it's more important to give enough love and care to each of them. I don't know why people who can't afford it decide to have many children. I'd rather have one or two and take proper care of them! And last but not least, giving birth to more and more children just waiting for a son to be born, is something that needs to stop also!
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I'd say adoption .  Being fat and pregnant a second time will teach her to be more careful about who she opens her legs for.
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Well being open and honest is the best, if you really want to have a child  then talk to him about it, just let him know that this is what you want, and ask him his oppion on it, it is better to be open about these things,
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None I want to wait a while before I have any.Congradulations on your child any way,how old they!?But I want either 2 identical twin boys or just 1 boy or 1 girl thats it!
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you  can  always  make  a  request  to  the  court for  a ordered  paternity  test  and  fight  for  your  rights..\nI  think  it  is  great  you  want  to  be  in  your  child's  life...  I'm  rooting  for,  good  luck!!!