My lady's scared of having sex..too big she says..ANY advice?
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Lots of KY jelly, and don't put it in all the way the first time or probably the second or third time.  Take it slow, don't ever cause her to feel pain or she really will be scared.  You never know, after a few times she may be begging you to give it all to her!! Good Luck. Wish you were my boyfriend!
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You know if it was the first time i'd suspect that she would be sore, but on the other hand just maybe you are not using enough foreplay. After all girls don't usually get ready for sex as fast as boys.There's also a possibility that you are bigger than average size which might hurt her. Have a talk with her ask what hurts her. If you don't how will you know how not to.IF YOU LOVE HER
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Well, it's ambiguous if you've tried talking to her about it, when you say "She seems to think ...".  Have you just come out and asked "Why are you so tense?"  You're not instigating the response by a wham, bam, thank you, ma'am, are you?\n\nSetting the mood, as previous answers suggest, with a bath, a massage, cuddling would certainly help.  Try new positions that would get her to move.  Honestly talk about what feels good and what is awkward during.  It could only lead to more enjoyable situations.
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We all make mistakes because we are human, so why is this a reason to fear her? We should never have to fear the one we love. Marriage can be tough enough without bringing the fear factor into it. I would suggest sitting and talking with her about what she expects out of the marriage...K
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Just about 9...hmnn...\n\nI begin to doubt the reason and motive of your posting. Are you trying to tell people that you have 9 inches? Does this story to feed your ego? Whats the pupose of explaining this situation? Are you having sex just to cum or to enjoy? If you want to speed it, why not asking her to give you hand job instead? Simple! Nobody gets hurt. \nI dont blame her at all. In fact I feel sorry for her because she had faked it, judging from your story.  BIG TOOLS ARE NICE  BUT OFTEN NOT PRACTICAL! Having sex is not a cum marathon, it is an experiment.  It is to enjoy of each other body and pleasure.
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From the rear.\n\nSorry. Seriously, you need to move away from the dress-up games and work on increasing the true kink factor. I would make an assault on her mental barriers.\n\n1) Massage her until she is as limp as a noodle. Then (unless she demands sex) let her go to sleep in your arms. Repeat from time to time until she begins to trust you more. Do not let her come to expect this, however.\n\n2) Meanwhile, during the few times you do have sex, suck on her nipples a lot. This will increase the levels of oxytocin in her brain (making her feel that she loves you more).\n\n3) Get her to exercise, especially weight train. Weight training will increase the levels of testosterone in her system (yes, in girls too) and make her hornier. Testosterone is the sex drive hormone in females too.\n\n4) After a nice massage session, go dovvn on her until she is extremely turned on. Then go at it like crazed weasels. \n\n5) Keep doing it like crazed weasels for a few weeks, and then make your requests for makeup, high heels etc. She will do anything you ask as long as you keep the big Os coming.
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Ask her to see a gynocologist to see if there is any infections and if not then talk to her about her possible fear of sex if there is any. But do not pressure her. She'll prolly come around eventually just give her time.
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Wow!  That's a tough spot to be in.  Now, you're probably not going to like what I have to say but I wouldn't be doing you any favors if I sugar-coated it so here goes:  \n\nI would suggest you take her to a sexual health therapist.  A good therapist will have special training to help her through this.  You wife has nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to be embarassed about.  Pain during sex is very common and a good therapist will help her work out just how much of this is psychological and how much is actually physical.  \n\nIf I were you, I wouldn't even sort of suggest that it's "all in your head" to her but, well, you probably already knew that, right?\n\nGood Luck!
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She wants you to "defend her honor" like a gentleman is supposed to. Not exactly even say something to the other guy, but to just ask her, "How dare he openly ogle you, can't he see we're married?"\n\nAlso, "Mr high-sex-drive", your lady might not be as into bedroom play as you are because you're probably lacking in the foreplay department.\nAnd, don't mistake sex for intimacy...they're not the same thing.  Make sex a little more fun for your lady, and flirt with her, not other women.
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let me get this straight...you're a 24 year old virgin who is afraid to have sex because his penis is only 4 inches?\nIf I got all that right then my answer is: don't be afraid to have sex. the size of your penis doesn't mean it won't be enjoyable. i was married to a man with a smaller one than that who i enjoyed sex with very much. Just be clean and safe. WEAR A CONDOM EVERY TIME...and don't rush into anything just for the sake of having sex. plenty of happy people live their whole lives without ever having sex.
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do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
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she is very scared and keeping you at a safe distance for her......until you make her feel safe this is what you will get....do not smother her and let her pursue you for now.
549125
talk about tryin new things to gather. you just dont want to spring something on her shes not ready for. For starters try watching dirty movies, role play or even try out each others fantasy.
125591
if you tell her you have a "large member", it may come across as cocky and may give her the idea that you just want sex. Like the other answers have said - surprising her when the right time comes will be the best
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always wear a condom !! use lots of lube.....patience patience patience...slow down the penetrations...leave it in for her to adjust to your size.....tell her to relax...lots of touching and kissing instead of focusing just on the penetration alone....lots of reassurance....
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you swallow first big boy....and see if she will next time.\n\n\nyou want her to do something that may make her feel uncomfortable. DO NOT try to push her into doing something that you yourself wont do.
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The more comfortable your woman is w/ you the more apt she will be to try new things.  I used to be very modest in the bedroom until I met my boyfriend. Women tend to be modest b/c they are afraid of what men will think.  Chances are...you girlfriend does want to try new things.  But it is your job to make her feel at ease. Also talk about it.  How will your woman ever know if you dont tell her what you want.  We are not mind readers :)