what is best way to control yourself when you are in pressure by others?
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Well, I see it as are you a follower or are you a leader? Followers give in under pressure to those who just want to fit in and leaders know how to speak up and make an example of themselves in the eyes of the followers.....Just remember who you ARE and how you want to be perceived by others...If they say your scared or you are a loser because you don't give in then they are not friends what so ever.....If they are your friends then they will give you the respect that you deserve and not bother you with the pressure. Good Luck!!!!!
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When you find that something is making you upset, just pause and take a deep breath.  Step outside, whetever you have to do to escape the situation for however long you need.  Breathe slowly and deeply, and count in your head.  When you have calmed down enough to think rationally about the situation, come back to it.  Don't rush...sometimes you only need to count to 10, sometimes you might need to count to a jillion.  I'm no expert, but this is what I do.  Hope it helps!
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SPEAK UP for yourself.  Stay away from those who put you down as much as possible.  If they confront you,  look them straight in the eyes, tell them to LAY OFF and walk away.  Mean people usually pick on those who they perceive as vulnerable. Keep you chin UP no matter how you feel.  Your air of confidence will make you FEEL more confident and also deter some of the bubble-bursters.   If you are being harrassed,  speak to your supervisor.  If your supervisor harrasses you and/or is unconcerned,  speak to his/her superior.   If you get no positive results,  start looking for a new job.   You deserve a friendlier work environment. (It's a possibility that you can file a "hostile environment" complaint against your present employer).  I suggest counselling to help you figure out why you are shy and nervous.   Focus on your accomplishments at work.  Build your self-confidence outside of work.  Find new friends. Seek outside activities and hobbies that give you a sense of accomplishment.  Read self-help books.   And,  yes,  an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medication might help you cope with the stress until YOU change your circumstances.  (Noone else will do it for you).  Talk to your doctor.
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be assertive not aggresive\nthat is my way of handling this situation
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Don't let them get to you!  Be yourself and do whatever you want.  You should not let other's opinions keep you from doing the things you really want to do.  I know it's hard but with time it won't be a problem.  There are people out there who like you for who you are!
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you let them say what they want to say.. u show\nno emotion the entire time and u simply walk away. you will always be the bigger person if u walk away.\ndont ever lower yourself to their level. and if they attempt to hit you.. block, and then again walk away.
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Just say no.  It hurts more if you tell them yes and stiff them.  The thing is in life there are hurts and you can't shield people from them.  The only person your responsible to is yourself.
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Take a long hot shower, try to inhale from your nose and exhale from your mouth and think about how difficulties make us stronger by overpassing them. Wear something nice, go out with some friends, talk about it with them. We've all been there and believe me, it will be allright before you know it.
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It is called "denying yourself."  Push yourself to do things that would normally be uncomfortable.  You will be amazed at how far you can push your body and mind.  Remember take baby steps as you go.  Don't try to go from one extreme to another.  For example, if you whine about a scratch...see if you can go without saying anything to anyone.
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Surround yourself with friends who are good people.  Not the ones who are selfish and only care about themselves.  Be yourself and don't give in to the pressure, in the long run none of it matters!
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have you tried going to  a karate school, this is a good way, as it helps you master self control.plus you can kick a punch bag and vent your emotions that way.  Or, go for a long walk examine in you mind why who and what is upseting you and figure out ways of preventingthem from happening again.
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status and self-image is ALL SELF APPOINTED-\n\n*STOP caring about what other people think\n\n*ALWAYS think highly of yourself\n\n*NEVER accept second class behavior from YOURSELF OR ANYONE ELSE\n\n*NEVER feel the need to explain or make excuses for ANYTHING IN LIFE,take full responsability for your choices and actions\n\n*ALWAYS do the HIGH CLASS/STATUS thing-ALWAYS!\n\n*make MORE DECISIONS and make them OFTEN\n\n*ALWAYS CARRY yourself like $1,000,000-people cue in on the VALUE you give to yourself and treat you accordingly,do the SAME to others\n\n*ELIMINATE ALL second class and poor behaviors and thoughts\n\n*NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR ISSUES OR INSECURITIES,people are way too self-absorbed and worried about themselves to care or pay attention you.It may seem like everyone is judging you and that your insecurities ares shinning through..but in reality..nobody cares! you are your biggest critic and worst enemy,it's best to accept things the way they are and yourself the way you are-and if you don't like something about yourself..improve it!\n\nin order to change the way you feel, you must first change the way you think,it helps to change the way you think by changing what you do! \nGood luck!
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Try to make the best out of a situation you know is not going to be pleasant. Your the better person. However, don't take any shit either, stand up for yourself if it should get out of control.\nWish you a "Happy Thanksgiving Day".\nGod bless
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Mind control.  Try hypnosis, old nasty guys have been using it forever.
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(m)\n\nOvercoming Stress \nYou Can Fight Back And Win\nWhen you are under extreme amounts of stress, you may feel like there is no way you can overcome your problems. You believe you'll just have to cope until the situation improves. The good thing is, you don't have to put up with the negative effects of stress. You can fight back and come out on top. It's not hard to do. Here are several ways to make yourself a winner when the pressure starts to mount.\n\n\nGo with H 2 0\nAmazingly, drinking water can greatly improve how you feel. Water is often overlooked even though it is the most essential nutrient. You know how it feels when things get tough. Your mouth gets dry, you start to sweat and your heart begins to palpitate. Sometimes when under stress, you may also forget to drink. This can lead to dehydration and even more severe symptoms. Get some water and help your body return to its normal state. \n\n\nSet it aside\nSometimes it is actually best to put aside a stressful problem until a later time when it can be dealt with more effectively. This isn't procrastination if used in a proper manner. Maybe you are having problems with a co-worker or family member. You may want to confront them, but you also know that they aren't ready to discuss the issue. Waiting another day or two could help both of you be better prepared to handle the problem. \n\n\nAvoid snack attacks\nYour first reaction to a stressful situation may be to reach for a candy bar. Unfortunately, this can do more harm than good.\nAlthough you may get a quick high from the sugar, you will probably send your blood sugar on a roller coaster. After the initial good feeling of indulgence wears off, you may experience even more tiredness and anxiety. Try healthy snacks like fruits or fresh vegetables instead. \n\n\nFind an outlet\nThere is usually pent up energy building inside you during a tough situation. What you may need to find is a way to release it.\nHaving a good cry or laughing with a friend may be just the cure you are needing. By dealing with your stress in a positive manner, you can turn around a negative situation. Keep these tips in mind the next time you feel pressure or anxiety. As with any problem, in order to feel better, you have to take care of yourself.
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watch your stress level. Try to give yourself private time. Even if it's just 15 minutes a day.
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Humble yourself under the mighty hand of God.  If you just go about the day saying good things about people and not getting caught up in gossip as others, you will turn things around.  Let your light shine that they may see your good deeds and works and soon others will follow.