Why do guys ask for cool off instead of total break up?
550177
Guys aren't the only ones who do this.  I think the reasoning is that they want to feel wanted.  This way they kind of broke up but can still claim a relationship while they seek or commit more time to another relationship.\n\nI had an ex girlfriend tell me whs wanted to "take a break".  I gave her a break, I dumped her.  There are no "breaks" in relationships.  You are either in or out.  But that's me personally.  If you want your space, I'll give it to you, and I'll find someone that wants me in their space.  Not anymore though, I'm married.\n\nHope that helps.
215580
Well Eric, it could be any or all of the reasons you've mentioned! The main reason I personally think they say that is, to soften the blow! Guys usually use this line to stop the girls from weeping up a storm - they're left wondering a long time! Girls use it sometimes because nothing works on the old ego better!
558265
Perhaps he realizes that he's losing his control over you and you are interested in someone else.  Follow your heart, was the reason for the break up valid?  Is it still valid?  Was it silly and stupid?  If any of those apply then he is where he needs to be, a ex.   Guys are funny, they think that they don't want you, and don't, till they see you with someone else, like your life stops because you was with them.
822998
He's just not that in to you, sorry...or he wouldn't have ceased contact...the "brush off" is a very common method of letting someone know they aren't interested (nowadays)...it's the cowards way of getting away from someone, versus being mature and telling them, so they aren't left hanging and wondering...\n\nWork on getting over him...you can't win the heart of someone who isn't going to make their heart available to you...
838202
I guess he felt uncomfortable and did not want to create an unnecessary scene. Don't read too deep into him because I think if he wanted you, you would've know it way before the party started...Sounds like he wanted to avoid any possible confrontation. Some females don't take "moving on" too well -  sounds, like you handled yourself very maturely. Good Girl.
105171
I think he was just trying to dump you easily. Though it sounds mean for him doing it, he was trying to be nice and blame hisself and not you for him wanting to break up. As for why he wanted to break up, I wouldn't worry about it because atleast you know it's over and you can find someone now that wants your love.\n   Good Luck.
161098
1) She wants to soften the blow of the break-up.\n\n2) She doesn't want things to get weird after the break-up (i.e. you stalking her)\n\n3) She might actually want to stay friends.
809120
it probably means that hes not happy, depressed, or just feels bad about the whole breaking up thing.... or he might just be shy around you now that you guys are broken up he might feel weird talking to you
760272
because you just got out of a bad relationship he doesn't want to be the rebound he is very smart.he will wait until you are completely over it so then he stands a better chance for it to be real with you. he is truely a gentlemen.
566125
If you are a guy your emotions are more intense, they wear them out and the effect lasts longer i.e. they don't recover as fast as women. That is why some men stay away from potentially emotional situations. I think we, the women should have respect for that, and sometimes just back off.
1058897
How about "I'm breaking up with you because _______. Bye.". Then click the ignore button to prevent any further annoyances. You don't want him trying to convince you he's what's best for you, do you?
510785
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
597168
Sounds like after he'd actually met you, the chemistry wasn't there but he likes you enough to not to want to hurt you or he just doesn't like confrontations.\nA guy saying "lets go slow" after such a short space of time probably means "stop".
557836
Tricky one.  \nI once went out with a guy who used to do lots of things which annoyed me, eventually I dumped him as it got too much.  In the early days, I was in his room and we were having a glass of wine and he got quite drunk and started being rather arrogant and stupid.  I had a choice at the time.  I could have played along and feel stupid, I could have left the room without saying anything or I could breakdown.  I chose to breakdown because I thought I didn't really want to be part of his arrogance and I thought it would have been just rude to leave.  Once I started crying, he stopped what he was doing and apologised and promised he wouldn't do it again.\nNow, I'm not saying this is the best approach and I wouldn't be surprised if you thought that I'm a drama queen or an attention seeker from that anecdote.  However, it is one way of making guys realise whatever it is they are doing is upsetting.  \nHowever, as my arrogant ex boyfriend only really did this once, it did not affect me day to day (though eventually the other annoying things about him got to me).  On this basis, I think you perhaps want to consider if this thing or these things your boyfriend does that irritates you will ultimately affect your sanity, you might want to consider looking elsewhere or dumping him.  I know you probably don't want to hear it but I learnt it the hard way, and my god, my ex was hard to get rid of AND I dumped him the hardest way, face to face!!!  Alternatively, you might just want to talk it over with him.  If he doesn't reason with you, definitely dump him, he's not worth it, sorry!  I hope this helps.  Good luck.
335094
Why did you guys break up in the first place.  Why not take him back.  For a man to swallow his pride and come begging is a lot of guts.
767718
He wants to do what he wants to do and whenever he wants.  Doesn't want to think about anyone else other than himself for the time being.  This could mean he is independent, just broke up or just dating, nothing serious, etc.  It doesn't necessary mean he is self absorbed.
41171
I have done that.  I hate to hurt someone's feelings and to say "I'm just plain tired of you" or I'm sick of your whining about everything", would do that so instead I've told him we need time apart to reevaluate our feelings. \n\nThe better way for me seems to be to say "I just don't feel we are meant for each other". "There are just too many issues we disagree on".  That seems to work without doing too much damage.\n\nIt isn't hard for me to make the decision to end a relationship because if I really want it to end, there is a reason and I just remember that reason is important to me.