Why did I lose my sex drive after having my baby?
552589
My wife went through the same thing. You are most likely with your baby all the time. There is alot of cuddling between the two of you. Your feelings of closeness are being satisfied by your baby! Your desire for sex is gone because of this. To help get it back, plan a time you and your spouse want to have sex! I know this isn't always the most romantic way but you want to get it back and this is a way to do it. Plan about 3-5 days ahead. This gives you time to think about how great it will be and get excited about just the two of you having some time alone. (when the baby is sleeping obviously) About an hour before you two are together, try to relax and transition from being a Mother to being that sexy lady you were and still are for your hubby/boyfriend. If you can make this transition the first time, you will be able to do this from now on!\nRemember, just relax, think positive and sexy thoughts and it will happen for you. Good luck!
899887
No, it won't make you lose interest in sex so much that you won't want to have sex on your honeymoon. While hormones can reduce your interest in sex, it's rarely to that extreme.
447998
You need to ask your ob/gyn. What about condoms? That won't decrease your sex drive!
901805
Everyone reacts differently. Some people find it's improved, many find that they develop post partum depression. This should be discussed with a doctor.
221090
The "cause" is sexual attraction and hormonal secretions.  The RESULT can be pregnancy or total satisfaction.
845798
So even if you can start, which you should be able to.   Not sure how it effects breast feeding.  Nothing will be effective by then.  Any way, how long is it that you are supposed to wait after you have a baby before  you have sex.   I thought it was at least 10-12 weeks.  Listen to your body.  Arn't you still a little sore.  Might be a good time just to snuggle or something.   Let you body heal.  It usually takes a full cycle  before b.c. takes effect.
819963
First off, you are tired.\n\nMasterbation is easy , less active and gets the job done the right way.\n\nthat being said, you have 2 children under 3.\n\nEven if your a stay at home mom its exhausting. all the running around and lack of sleep.\n\nPlus you associate his penis with pregnancy, and that is off limits now.\n\nInitially it was exciting to think you could have his baby, and pregnancy was a fun idea, and now you know that pregnancy ends with a baby and that is no longer FUN its work.\n\nAnd if you had a ruff delivery, and alot of tearing down there, sometimes they just don't sew up the snatch correctly and it hurts, or if you tear at the top, \n\nbut personally for me its the hormones, mommy hormones\nfirst we breast feed, and it takes at least 6 months after breast feeding to enjoy sex. cause your homone levels are up.\n\nso its a dual problem physical and emotional.\n\nOk so here is what you do to fix it.\n\nGet yourself some help, if your hubby doesn't do it then get a friend, your mom, sister whoever.\n\nBut you gotta give the man his sex. you know that right?\n\nGo out to the dollar store and the sex store and pick up some goodies. Candles, and a vibrator. and anal play devices.\n\nmusic , chocolate coverd strawberries, champagne, and whipped cream.\n\nNow wait til friday night, kids are away, and he has no idea,\nget comfortable with the idea.\n\nWatch porn, and pull a julia roberts in pretty woman.\n\nYou need to stop masterbating so often, cause you aren't saving it for him, if you want to masterbate during sex then fine but not before.\n\ntrust me you will get it back but it takes time and if you stop masterbating you'll start enjoying his touch again.\n\nRoll playing can help, talk dirty and tell him what to say to turn you on.\n\nAnd make sure he is licky licky before he sticky sticky's\n\nand if not then tell him to enter from behind and masterbate while he does his thing,.\n\nif this doesn't work email me for more pointers.\n\nGood luck \n\nMeg\nkovasmomma@yahoo.com
1092563
all these could contribute, and most often, i think it's from expectations and hormones... not that i thought badly of my babies, but pregnancy brings forth so many expectations and ups and downs, and afterwards, i found myself physically and emotionally and mentally exhausted... your body goes thru so many changes, bizarre and extreme, and it takes a strong support system to bring yourself back to "normal" sometimes... i have suffered and recovered from ppd, it's not some petty, poor-mom-excuse for choosing to be sad and depressed, it's very real, and has nothing to do with how much you love your baby, yourself, or your significant other...
1084122
This is not normal.  A sudden change in sex drive can be due to illness.  It is quite probably a coincidence that it happened three months into your relationship.  See your family doctor immediately.
830287
I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...
1100069
I think a lot of it would have to do with the total situation of your life as it is now.  First of all, are you male or female?  If your male, your sex drive could have simply decreased.  Also, in the case of both genders, in your thirties you aren't nearly as carefree as you are in your teens, & you are under a lot of stress.  Such stress may hamper your enjoyment of sex, if you're allowing it to preoccupy your mind as you're going through the motions.  Are you married?  Do you have kids?  If so, life has probably become routine, whereas there's nothing routine about getting laid when you're a teenager.  Even if you aren't married, life in general can throw a lot of stress at you in your thirties, with house payments, car payments, piles of bills, situations at work, & more.  More than likely, if you have a steady girlfriend or a wife, you two need to get together & plan a weekend for just you, where you won't be bothered, & you can enjoy one another without worrying about life in general.  Go somewhere where only select people, like your parents, will be able to reach you in an emergency.  Take a break, get rid of some stress, & have sex simply for the joy of pleasing each other again.  Hope that helps.  You might try the link below for more ideas.
1097611
well when you try to nurture your kid your sex hormones are sort of overpowerd\n\nwell try something new and exciting
1139857
I don't think that you lose your sexuality, but you lose the importance of sex.  I am 33 and married with 4 kids.  We love each other and love having sex, but that isn't the most important thing in our lives.  I think that if you are having a healthy "sex" life alone, then good for you.  It is a God given gift and there is nothing wrong with self-exploration.  God gave us minds to make decisions and give us the tools for pleasure, so why shouldn't we use it?  Alone or with a partner.  If you are worried about losing the response and having all the symptoms that can go along with menopause, then go talk to your doctor about hormone replacement therapy.  My mom had a hysterectomy when she was 29 and she has been using estrogen/progesterone lotion for about the last 10 years.  She says that she is still feeling as young and responsive as she did when she was younger.
268836
After my baby was born.\nThe pregnancy leave me in a better shape, and having a baby, and become older gave me a lot of security and consious of my body, and consius of the sensuality of it. \nI believe this helped!
594596
I think that is a natural thing to happen.  It was also 3 months down the line. It happened to me with both of my children.  My sister-in-law had the same thing.  When you are pregnant your hormones make  your hair grow really well.  Once those hormones start going back to a prepregnancy level you will lose that hair.  I also had to wash mine more often again.
1088453
hormonal change in your body after you deliver the baby?
1185116
Feel lucky you have such a great sex drive! As long as you are not participating in unhealthy behaviors like having multiple partners without condoms and your masturbation and sex drive is not interfiering in your day to day life, you have nothing to worry about!  Your one of the lucky few!!! I've had an abnormally high sex drive like you since I was 16 and still have it and my husbands friends and my friends husbands are always very envious of our relationship. Many many women loose their sex drive as they get older!