after 4 years together and a baby,?
547556
I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to want to "seal the deal". I would caution against making a big deal out of it at this stage in life, however.\n\nThe two of you are already as established family. This marriage, if it is to happen, should not be a means of taking the next step, but confirming you have already taken it and are committed to one another, if that makes sense. If he does not feel this way, then you certainly do not want to push marriage.\n\nAlso... Having had a baby and (presumably) lived together, you're sort of past the point of the traditional big white wedding, if you know what I mean!
339857
My answer to you... don't do it.  Think about what you have with your fiance.  And think about your child.  Physical attraction always fades with time, but LOVE is forever.  It only grows with time.  What's your priority?
384014
ok calm down in the child support ofice they are going to make a test, there u are going to find out if is hes or not, if you were in love enough to forgive him maybe u can work this out is a part of him what are u talking about(meaning if if his baby) so take the good thing about this and enjoy him and the baby. ok is been 6 yrs are u ready to live him for the same mistake that you already forgave him. think about it and be honest to your self.... do you really love him? and care enough to go through thtis with him? is a big test u know?
72627
isn't it usually 4 years?
598800
Don't see why not - the 2 things are not related (and neither will the 2 of you be related in 4 1/2 years)
100119
sure...you'll be fine...is thgere a rush?.....280 days  plus  or  minus  for  one  of the  most  remarkable  things  to  happen..a  baby\nif  you  both  get to  know  each  other  with  massage.reflexology...just  touching  and  cuddling...youll melt the  barrier.....if  yr  thinking  of  having  a  child  to  satisfy  someone  else  ..a  relative...or   to  satisfy...THAT  includes....some  authoritive  figure  who...isn't arround  but  left  you  with a  blockage...about  children  or  parenting  or  sex.....find  a  mid  wife  they're  remarkable  and  have  a  great  insite....   get  yr  partner  to  go  dancin  together...slow  couple  artistic  dancn...that  will bring  you  a  harmonious  co-ordination....ther's a lot  more  but  these are  fine  openers
167684
You are in for it. If he spends lots of time with the baby and its not alone. (at his ex's place without you) THen he's probably doing something with her and you. SO if your not into that, you have a lot of thinking to do. Its better to love and lost and never loved at all. (men in black)
252367
Everyone grows up sooner or later.  However, that he had nothing to do with your child for seven years raises a big question in my mind.  Will he be there later?  Is he here to stay?  He owes the answers to your child and to you.\n\nObviously you have had a thing for him this whole time, and he for you.  People don't stop speaking to each other because of indifference.  \n\nGive it a chance, but make sure you know the answers to those questions.  You owe it to yourself and your kid.\n\nGood luck!
287435
Probably not like the first year of being together. That's a wish that we all have. But 4 years of problems? Have you seen a counsellor together? You shoudl do that before thinking of leaving him. You owe the relationship that much. Also you have a son together so try a bit harder to fix the problems before leaving. The first thing I can think of is seeing a counselor together, the second thing is seeing one alone, the third thing is reading a good book on saving your relationship, and the fourth thing is to go on "date nights" with your husband. Get a babysitter once a week and go out to movies, to dinner, to a bar they way you did the first year you were together.
400883
that's a rough situaltion.  you just got to keep talking and telling him that sometime this is what happens, and just let him know that you both love him very much.  it gets harder but then it will be ok.  just remember you have great kids and thats what matters
313234
Well, I'm glad you too love other. But both of you are far too young to get married. You see, even adults make mistakes in marriage when they rush into these things. So, I would suggest that you keep your friendly relationship until both of you are adults. By then, you will be more mature and can decide whether you want to spend the rest of your lives with each other in love. So, hang on together and wait another 4 years (at least). Good luck.
868241
at the risk of sounding judgemental, i'm really not sold on the idea of couples sticking together for the 'sake of the children'. we cannot give what we do not have, hence we cannot give our children happiness if we are very much unhappy with our partner. since you said you still love him, i want to assume that that is the reason you are staying in your relationship. therefore, you should use every effort to try to rebuild what you guys lost. but if you have too much pride to admit to him that you still care for him despite what he has done, you can always be friends or worst-case scenario, housemates with kids. good luck!
907490
Honey, he ain't gonna walk down the aisle.  You were not very wise to get into this, having babies together, knowing that he wasn't completely committed.  You are right to want it, but you should have seen the warning signs a long time ago.
880094
I think that you should leave him and look for somebody who will love you in return  before you leave him tell him that he can see the baby anytime he wants.  Tell him you deserve to be loved and that you need somebody that you can trust not to hide anything if he really cares about you and the baby he'll try to work out things between the two of you.  If not then you might as well start looking for somebody else.
268561
No.  Some children have been born at 4 months and have lived.  Why not wait the pregnancy out and then put the child up for adoption.
856584
This is just about the most serious flaw that a relationship can have. You are at that uncomfortable point where you are about to realize that three years of your life has passed and that you can not afford to give this man more of your life if he is not committed to a future with you that includes children. Sure, it is easy for all of us to push kids off into the future but now the time to put up or shut up has arrived for your relationship. A word of warning to you. Having children is the most rewarding of all life's gifts but it is the biggest commitment that you will ever make and you can not go into it with a man who is not happy, hopeful, and excited about the prospects of being a father. You need to talk to him and see what he thinks... I believe that you are ready to move on and he needs to know this. I was living with a great woman for almost two years, two weeks before our third Christmas together we had a talk about our future, kids, faith... the whole nine yards. After a two hour talk we ended it... peacefully and very fast. I moved out before the new year. Sometimes you realize in your heart and your mind that the person that you are with is not the one you are going to end up with... we both came to that conclusion. You need to make a choice too. I have been married now for five years and have two great kids- I hope your choice works out for you as well.
254269
Give her a big hug. Tell her you are glad and that you love her. Then the conversation will start without any problem.\nYou and she, both have a lot to tell after 4 years.\nHave a nice and happy meeting.