How can i help my depresed friend?
548055
Maybe just try talking to her first and see if she'll let you know what's going on, and if she's really depressed, maybe suggest your friend to talk to a psychologist...someone who will LISTEN and not JUDGE them for anything they say.  That could help them get to the root of some of the feelings they're having.  Good luck and I hope for the best for your friend! =)
676366
When depression strikes, the depressed person isn't the only one affected. Everyone around them -- family, friends, and co-workers -- feels the impact.\n\nHelping a loved one cope with depression can be key to his or her recovery. But it isn't always going to be easy. Here are some tips.\n\n\n\n      Get the facts. The first thing you should do is learn more about depression. Read up on its causes and treatments.\n\n\n      Get other people involved. You can't do this alone. Your friend or loved one may want you to keep his or her depression a secret. But that isn't healthy. It puts far too much pressure on you. So try to get a small circle of family and friends to help. That way, you can help look after your loved one together.\n\n\n      Ask what your loved one needs. Be direct. Unless you ask, you just won't know what your friend or loved one wants from you.\n\n\n      Don't try to solve the problem on your own. Your loved one needs professional help to get better. Depression is a real illness. You wouldn't try to cure a friend's diabetes on your own. You shouldn't try curing depression either.\n\n\n      Offer to help with the practical things. People who are depressed are easily overwhelmed. Everyday stuff -- dressing the kids for school, grocery shopping, or laundry -- may feel like too much. So pitch in. Sometimes practical help can make a big difference.\n\n\n      Take time for yourself. Taking care of someone who is depressed can be overwhelming. So it's key that you set aside time for yourself. Do things that you enjoy. Get out of the house on a regular basis. Take walks or go to the gym. Catch a movie or dinner with friends.\n\n      Given what your loved one is going through, you may feel guilty or selfish for thinking about yourself. But taking care of yourself is crucial. If you don't, you'll burn out -- and that won't help either of you.\n\n\n      Know your limits. There is a lot you can do to help your loved one. But you can't do everything. You can't make your loved one well. You can't watch him or her 24 hours a day. These things aren't in your power. In the end, your loved one has to want to get better, too.\n\n\n      Take threats seriously. Suicide is a very real risk of depression. If your friend or loved is threatening to commit suicide, take action. Don't leave the person alone. Remove any weapons or large amounts of medication. Call a suicide hotline or your loved one's therapist. In a crisis, don't hesitate to call emergency services. You can't keep something this serious a secret.\n\n\nI hope that helps, all the best to you and your friend!I went through a bout of depression, but didn't really tell my friends: I knew that they would say 'just cheer up!' or 'just don;t think about it' or 'snap out of it'... Those are actually the worst things you can say to someone who is depressed, as it makes them feel even worse that they cannot make themselves 'snap out of it'. I would advise you just to be there for her to talk to and do things with... and don't give up on her!
720070
Sit down with her and let her know that she does not have to go through this alone, you will always be there if she needs someone to listen and if she just needs a shoulder to lean on.  And let her know that she can talk to you about anything, you will try to help her to the best of your abilities.  Good luck and just be there for your friend and yes i would go to the funeral and be there for her.
234506
There is an organization called suicide watch.  Look them up give them a call and speak about your friend. They have there ways of checking up on the person and may even reach out to her. You are not losing out by giving them a call, that is what they are there for. If you can't find their number speak to a social worker who may have other contacts. good luck :-)
808281
I work at a hospital and our docs prescribe anti-depressants all the time. If your friend had mentioned suicide to you then you can have her committed against her will. Call the police if you think she is in danger. Or check out the bottom of the www.postsecret.com blog, they have a hotline with the answers you need.
180709
YOu can't help your friend as much as you wold like to you just can't. She has to help herself. (I know in NY there are places that will take you rehabs and stuff even if you dont have money , the state helps you) People that bad off NEED to hit rock bottom cause its the only thing that will make them turn around and help themselves. Sorry but its the truth.
982572
Ask your friend to help you.
526814
Just be there for her.  She is going to feel guilty and sad and angry all at the same time and really there is nothing you can say to help but just being there as a shoulder to cry on when she wants will be a help.  Don't try and cheer her up but at some point it will be good for her to talk to some professional counselor.  Don't push it be if she brings it up then encourage her gently.
959384
Be there for them when they need to talk about their issues and when you have had all you can take - do something for yourself like a bubble bath, gardening or go for a walk. Something YOU enjoy - to take your mind off their problems.\nBTW. Do not feel bad if you have to tell them you can not take any more right now.
166467
I have a friend that was going through severe deppression and she didn't think anything was wrong with her. Her life was falling apart and she was pushing everyone that loved her away. I talked to her about different things that were going on in her life; I gradually pointed out some things she could do to help change them. I also gave her examples of my own experiences with depression and was able to help her relate to many of them with her life. I was able after several discussions; that maybe she should call her Dr. and discuss what is going on with her. When she was able to bring herself to do this , she realized that many of the problems were in her head and not what she thought they were. But, in the end it has to be that person willing to recognize that they are ill and need treatment. Until then all you can do is be supportive, loving, and truthful. The best friend is one who can be honest in a non-threatening, loving manner.
469886
First I would advise against referring this friend to mental heath care unless you believe him/her to be seriously suicidal (even then, pray about it first). From first-hand experience, I can say that doctors, no matter how well meaning, rarely can make things better, especially if they are not christian. Mental hospitals can keep patients alive, but they can't make the root problem better. Only God can do that.\n\nSecond, as someone else said, advice is not usually welcome in someone depressed, so think carefully before you speak. I can't give you any specific help except don't give general advice (for example, suggest he/she take a fifteen minute walk each morning and evening, rather than the more general, "be more active").\n\nFinally, instead of specific verses, I would suggest reading with her/him everyday if he/she will allow it. What may not strike you may be the exact key that they need. The King James Version (this is not evident in any other version) also has a soothing property in its sound arrangement which scientists have found helps to calm distress.\n\nIf he she is suicidal, I would suggest this section in which Paul describes feeling the same way:\n2 Corinthians 1:3-10, "Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;\nWho comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.\nFor as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ.\nAnd whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.\nAnd our hope of you is stedfast, knowing, that as ye are partakers of the sufferings, so shall ye be also of the consolation.\nFor we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble which came to us in Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life:\nBut we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead:\nWho delivered us from so great a death, and doth deliver: in whom we trust that he will yet deliver us;"\n\nGod bless you and help your friend.
138819
Well from personal experience, be a good listener for them.  Encourage them to talk to you or anyone that they can trust about what is bothering them.  Above all don't let them fall through the cracks.  Encourage them to keep doing the things that they need to like go to work if they have a job or go to class if they are in school.  If they stop doing these things, matters will only get worse.  For example, if they get fired because they haven't been going to work that will add to their depression because then they feel like they are worthless, so to speak.
1111361
Depends what they're depress about? But go out and have fun and be around people who will make you forget why you're depress, and talk to someone about it.
775867
all you can do is basically be supportive and help him when he needs you.  he will get better.
91567
With compassion.  Your friend probably needs you more now than ever before.  It will be difficult, as it is with anyone you know is dying, but just being a friend is the best thing you can do.
984728
Just be there for them, hon, just be there for them. That is all you can do as a friend. Listen to them, if that is all you do, if that is all they need than do it.
85601
when she is feeling lonely n depress, that the dest time, or any time, when ever she disscuss a problem with you. first suggest out come if possible help her, n at the end look in to her eyes n say "no matter what happens "i will be therefor you" ", n believe me she will be all yours.\n\nhope you have a good realtionship dear bless you!