am i normal that i am too scared of losing my important people ?
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There are lots of reasons to believe that there is more to life than what goes on in the material world. Most people in the world believe that their life continues after the death of their body, and that we are only here because a very powerful being has created us. It makes sense to think about how you might orientate your life if that is true. \n\nIf the deaths of your friends and relatives has made you realise that life is fragile, then take that as a call to investigate deeper what is the truth of our human life. \n\nTalk to someone who has a focus beyond the material world and who seems happy and contented, and find out what it is that gives them peace.
381763
You might be afriad of opening up to people becuase of hurt in your past. Friends really are the best thing life, treat them that way and you will be fine. Don't let your fear of opening up ruin that for you. Good luck.
240841
Get OUT NOW!  I'd be curious as what you would consider psycho behavior, but if it's scary, threatning or violent it won't change after you're married, it will only get WORSE.  I would suspect that slowly your friends will be elimintated from your life, because "they take too much of your time" then maybe family and you'll be scared to death and totally dependent on the one who's terrorizing you.
397137
yeah, this question kinda worriesme too.. i pray for your well being, and that you may reach peace of mind.. god bless! :]
1157017
my greatest fear is losing my dearest family members, i know they will die one day, but seeing them die a horrible death is a great fear!
818918
Sounds like there is alot more to the problem then u r saying but i can understand u not wanting to go into it. I have a problem with trust and i tend only to befriend my family i have no friends either but choose not to cause down the track they will only stab u in the back. Good luck.
931930
I felt the same way for a long long time, and I still feel that way sometimes. People really are there for you though, you just don't see it. If you were to need them they would be there, they just don't know that you need them now. Talk to someone about it. Anyone you trust. Just ask them if you can talk to them alone and explain that you feel like no one cares. It can be a sign of something serious like depression so be careful and know when it's gone too far. People do care, and they're all over. You just don't realize it when they're not right there beside you.
416961
This is a tough one, I also kind have this fear.\n\nPersonally, I just do the best I can to push it to the back of my mind and do my best to carry on.
597564
Don't be afraid of your feelings - they aren't wrong. The difference can be how you react to them. You shouldn't have to pretend to be more upset than you. When I lost my dad, my siblings were all upset and a mess, but I felt like I knew it was coming although it was quick and sudden, and I loved my dad a whole lot. Hang in there, you'll feel better in time!
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Hmm. Of course its not weird. You are used to feeling a certain way, and there was a degree of safety in that. What you have now sounds like hope. Hope for the future, and in a way that can be a little scary. That goes for everyone. Its uncertain when you dont know what is coming.\nWell done to you for leaving your past behind you. You will now be able to empathise with others who feel like you once did - there sure is a lot of them!\nHow you feel is how you feel. Dont doubt yourself!
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I am almost 39, a wife and mother. \nI play with snakes and spiders and I dance in thunder storms. But my greatest fear will come. (I can't outlive them all.) I am afraid of living longer than the people I love. I do pray that I never have to live through the death of one of my children! Next I hope to outlive my hubby! I know this is a selfish fear, but I can't seem to help it. And besides, fear is selfish... isn't it? \nThanks for causing me to think about this.
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i fear the idea of being alone (as in no more friends, family, or anyone else that i care bout or that would care bout me) life would became absolutly intorrable after a while if i was compleltly alone from this point in my life on and that is why i am so thankful i have a wonderful family and why i cherish my friends and the time i get to spend with them.
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Every situation is different and ever changing. You just have to do what feels right and try to let yourself recover from your loss. Surround yourself with people you can trust, the rest will follow.
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I am currently dealing with the same situation. I have found that by giving to much you leave nothing for yourself. People will use you if you allow yourself to be used. My problems are mostly from family. I have come to the realization that if i wouldnt let a stranger treat me poorly why should i allow my family to do the same. Eight months ago i made a list of toxic people in my life and have started the ellimination process. It is very hard, i wont kid you. But, It has to be done. You are already to considerate or you wouldnt have such a question in the first place. Write a list of people that make you feel this way and next to each name write the pros and cons of your relationship with them. Evaluate and treat accordingly. Your life is to precious and short and you deserve better. We as a society have been taught to give but we have never been taught to receive graciuosly. We dont know how to accept compliments. Writing off friends and family is very difficult but you are allowed to feel good any time you want without regret or remorse. Its more exhausting being nice than being honest and straight forward. As with any change you have to do it slowly. You will feel very bad for a time but keep your long term goal in sight and do not share your plan with anyone or they may try to convince you not to write someone off. You have to allow yourslef to be at peace with your decisions. It will be the loss of a friend or family , like a death. You must go through the mourning process. Be good to your soul and it will reward you. Stay focused and you will allow you to reward yourself with a healthy life full of wonderful people. Good luck to you and yours.\n\n\nJoe
757312
I do the same thing.  I just don't want to be hurt any more.  Your intelligent and smarter than alot of people.  You'll just have to work on yourself.
351094
i guess my biggest fear would be losing one of my children or grandchildren
198082
All life is a risk. It's ok to be afraid. Courage is being afraid and doing the scary thing anyway. Write down all the possible reactions you could get, and then write down ways you can deal with them. \n\nIt wasn't love, but last year I was going to dinner with my neighbor and her daughter's family. I was very afraid they would say something mean to me. So I thought, ok, the worst that could happen is they could yell at me and tell me I was a bad person. I figured that I would just leave the restaurant if that happened. \n\nI went and we had a nice time and all of us were freindly. Take the risk, you might just make a love connection!