Will Divorce solve marital problems?
543555
America has a high rate due to selfishness.  If the other person doesn't do it for you, hit the road, Jack.  Marriage takes commitment, work, and the sacrifice of your wills for the benefit of the other.  In essence, IMHO, if you are not willing to die for your wife, then you are not ready for marriage.  I love my wife so much I would be willing to die in her place.
663511
Quite the conundrum.\n\nThere are such things as survivable marriages.  Divorce really should be a last, last, last resort, especially once kids are involved.\n\nThat said, there can be a point where more harm comes to the kids with a bitter marriage.  Mom and Dad never get along.  One or both drink too much, are never home, abusive, etc.  \n\nKids are fairly resilient.  They recover well so long as both parents remember that through divorce the kids needs are most important.  \n\nI'm in a good (not great) marriage.  I could easily get "lazy" and neglect my marriage based on this.  (Cheating, withdrawing etc) but the kids need a stable family and my life really isn't all that bad.  (After all, I CHOSE my wife and CHOSE to have kids).  \n\nDivorce is NEVER good when kids are involved.  It is a question of which is the worse of two evils:  A less than good marriage with the family working to hold together or a impulsive divorce that destroys kids faith in adults, parents and family.
35982
Absolutely.  At some point in your marriage you guys have started growing apart.  You need to start taking a proactive role in fixing it, because it won't get better on his own.\nCommunication is key.  Make sure that your husband knows how you feel.  Check some books out from the library on marriage, and read them together.  Perhaps you could get some counseling together where an outside party can help get the communication going.  \nGood luck to you.
507864
No. The big issues are what they always have been. What do you expect out of the marriage? Are you a good match? Do you love one another? Are you passionate together?  etc.
810711
My answer is:yes.When the relationship start,then the couple (a man and a woman),will fix anything they need,to have a good relationship.
368939
Divorce usually works.
168219
It depend on the respect  accorded to marital obligations by the spouse. It also depends on respect shared in the marital home.\nTwo big issues that causes problems in a marital home are finances and sexual obligations. One spouse with holds sex to get what she wants. One spouse with holds finances to get what he wants.\nFor a happy home that need not be tensed there should be trust and respect for marital obligations. A lot of spouses do not know the meaning of marriage. Unfortunately a lot use marriage as a tool for what they want.Essence of marriage is happiness under the foundation of true love. Most marriages are loveless\nI wish any one wishing to marry should first read this book HOW NOT TO MARRY A JERK
660425
Yes it has.  I also work in the legal field and our practice is mostly family law.  My divorce was pretty cut and dry.  I learned not to marry the first man you meet that is nice to you.  I also learned that there is life after divorce.  I'm married now to a wonderful man and have been in love with him for 20 years.
205080
if you divorce, you are killing your two kids. remember that marriage was first instituted by God the Almighty and you are trying to break that institution? remeber also that only marital infidelity is the only reason allowed for divorce ( not man made law). you are only multiplying social problems
146085
The only dumb question is the one you don't ask.  But you're absolutely right.  Divorce is a very sad but true fact of life in today's society.\n\nThe underlying reason is probably how materialistic and selfish this society has become.  It is no longer "I need to do my part and be patient", instead it's "What have you done for me lately".  \n\nPart of it maybe the fact that men and women communicate differently.  But that's always been the case throughout history.\n\nThe other part of it is permiscuity.  Statistically, 80% of divorces are because of infidelity.  The reason this has become so is directly attributable to pre-marital sex.  People will continue to deny this, but the statistics are very clear.\n\nThink about it from a psychological point of view.  Once the heart is broken (i.e. after one's first love), it can never be put back to it's original state.  The emotional scar may heal, but it will never disappear.  This creates mistrust between the sexes.  Ultimately, people get numbed to it and it becomes a predatory game.\n\nAlso, after leaving the first partner, one becomes very curious about all potential partners.  Whereas if intimacy is saved for the institution of marriage, then the partners learn how to fully satisfy each other without any temptation from outside the marriage.\n\nThe problem only gets worse with every generation.  Once a child grows up in an environment that does not hold marriage sacred, then they will end up taking it even a step further.\n\nWe all have to learn to "love the one you're with".  No one is perfect.  Instead of listening to that little voice in your head that nags you about how annoying your partner's habbits are, learn to love those habbits.  They are what makes your partner who they are.  \n\nWe have to learn to appreciate the good and the bad.  After all, it is for better or for worse.\n\nAnd God only knows best.
1000910
I think it would be really hard to try and not be selfish at a time when the world is shaking apart. Divorce, even a divorce that was a long time coming, causes a division of family and assets and emotion. \n\nI think it takes a strong person to put that aside and do what's best for their child without wanting to ignore the world to deal with that pain and stress.\n\nGood job in working it out though. :)
287100
that is sick... you should have one partner for life all these people getting divorced are not willing to try and make it work... they arent really in love and dont want to change a little bit to please the person they love... communication is key in a good relationship without it we will all end in divorce...
32476
Yeah, you probably will if you are trusting enough to ask complete strangers for relationship advice online. Good luck with that divorce too.
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
898841
They should be.  Plus a zillion more.  We are so caught up in the romance of marriage, we forget that it is s-e-r-i-o-u-s.  We don't want to talk about these things.\nAnd we can always get a divorce, right?  Even when both parties agree it isn't working out it still causes immeasurably emotional damage.\n\nHere are a few from my arsenal:\nWhat will you do when you find you cannot agree?\n\nWho will be responsibile for paying the bills and keeping the checkbook?\n\nWhat is your attitude toward children?\nWhat would you do if you cannot conceive children of your own?\n\nHow often do you want to invite people to your home?\n\nWhere will you spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter? How will you decide?
437904
A lot depends on what broke it up in the first place. If it was infidelity, then no it will never work out. If it was a difference of opinion, probably so. If it was a petty little something, try again....It might work the 2nd time around. Good Luck!
758391
yes .............but i don't understand why people think even divorce why they can't try to resolve fights calmy......then there wil be no div........