What would you do/How would you react,  when your partner/spouse confesses of having a ONS (One Night Stand)?
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Dumo Him and move on. Tell him of the STD and HPV. and leave. I am a believer that once a cheater, always a cheater. he is/was very sexually active it sounds like. be careful if you stay with him. It may not have been his first, and not his last. If he does not choose to change is activity, he wont.\nAlso kick him in the nuts. (as Cartman would say...haha) jk
722337
I would tell my boyfriend cuz the guilt would bother me a lot.It was not a good idea to end up in the same bed at all.
654803
When you are married and are having sex with someone else. Otherwise it is all just wishful thinking. \n\nDepends what you want....a fling or another relationship. If it is a fling enjoy it for want it is but don't expect it to last forever. Do you want to get caught? If so, it is better to tell your spouse and not get caught in the act. Believe it or not, infidelity also has ethics. Use a condon always. No calling home at night. Make your lies believeable. Do not let the 2nd relationship interfere with the 1st one. You have to give equal sex or as much to satisfy each one. And lastly, ask yourself why this happened- maybe it is time to end the marriage.\n\nIf you are the third in the triangle. Don't expect much, most people do not leave their spouse. Enjoy it for what it is and be discreet and generous. Realize that you are also to blame since you should not be involved with a married person so this says A LOT about your morals also. Also, ask yourself if you in turn will be capable of being faithful in a monogamous relationship. \n\nIf you are being cheated on. You can either get out or try to work it out with your spouse if they are willing to do so. Can you live wondering when it is going to happen again if ever? Do you want to try it? The door has being opened so you could. And finally,.....how did you contribute to this? Did you see it coming? Honestly. Did you enable it?\n\nUnfortunately nobody is innocent in this situation. It's more like a 33.33% assigned blame for everyone.
695028
YOU SHOULD BE A TWO NIGHT STAND!!!\n\nthat makes you twice what his current floozies are worth!
413635
IT DEPENDS IF THE ONE NIGHT STAND IS ACKNOWLEDGED BY BOTH PARTIES (IN WICH I BELIEVE IF YOUR HAVING SEXUAL CONTACT WITH SOME YOUR NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH,AND OR HARDLY KNOW IT SHOULD ALWAYS BE CLEAR IN YOUR MIND IT MAY ONLY BE FOR THAT ONE TIME ) AND IF YOUR OKAY WITH THAT THEN ALRIGHT IT COULD BE JUST A MEMORY OF A GOOD TIME & SHOULDN'T HAVE ANY EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE OF ANY KIND\n\nAND IF ITS A ONE NIGHT STAND WHERE YOU THINK HE/SHE REALLY WAS MORE INTRESTED IN YOU THEN THEY PROVED THERE SELFS TO AFTER THE FACT OR YOU WHERE HOPING/LOOKING FOR MORE THEN YEAH IT WOULD DEFFINITLY BE UNNECESSARY BAGGAGE
378446
'he got caught up in some bullshit and ended up having sex with one of my friends................just read that back and see if it makes any sense!!!!!!\n\nNOBODY gets 'caught'up in something that makes them commit the ultimate no-no.  WIse up - people do things because they want to and they think that they can get away with it.  The reason he has called you again out of the blue is a slight mystery but trust me if he had realised what a mistake he'd made and wanted to get you back he would have done that 24 hours after the event.  He's just bored and is seeing how far he can go with you.  This whole episode is probably to hype his ego that he could get you back again no matter how badly he has behaved.\n\nDo yourself a favour and show him the door with a very large size 9 up his backside as he leaves.\n\nEveryone is worth more than this.  You have to toughen up and not let people rule your future.  If they bring you love and happiness let them in - if not get rid of them....for good!!!!!\n\nHard but true.\n\nGood Luck!!
641383
right now i would have to say no but i honestly don't know how i would feel if put in the situation with certain circumstances. anybody here cannot say they absolutely would not. it's been proven that 60% of men and 40% of women have cheated. and that's only those that chose to admit it.
126179
you are being conned confession is good for the soul it also boost his ego at the same time while he is fessin up you are being buttered up so you will be his Next Trophy. Oh baby I love only you and I HAD all these other girls. Yah Right he is sorry. Ask some of his other conquest bet they will tell you what you have already heard . \nAs Minister I hear these types of stories all the time.\n Of course he might be for real this time and this is how to tell\n1. no pressure for sex\n2. He has total respect for you\n3. he is willing to wait for the marriage bed \n4.puts his past behind him and never brings it up again.\n Odds are he has already told you that you are the only girl for him , also He has already tried to get in your pants.
970148
tell your b/f what you did....than you will find out what is going to happen.
538239
Does he do it a lot? Is this a one-time thing? Does he have a history of it with other women? Is he sorry? Is he serious about not doing it again? Only you can answer those questions.\n\nIf it's a one-time thing, then I'd give him a second chance. If it's habitual, I'd find a guy with a better sense of loyalty and ethics.
335699
Only if I was in it for sex only, since there's waaaaaaaaaaaaaay more to a relationship than sex...then I would not be mad, it's pointless anyway. There could be any number of reasons for the change of plans. Just gotta be open-minded
372334
It is a foolish thought. \n\nHe will be telling her how unhappy he is, and that he and his wife no longer have sex. \n\nHe has the best of both worlds...one at home, and one on the sidelines. \n\nPlus, would you really expect, that he wouldn't turn around and do unto her, as he is currently doing to his wife? \n\nIt is not a good scene....for everyone involved.
85403
A number of inputs are available to choose from, in fact much has been said so far.\n\nI would like to add that encounters like this entail a very high emotional baggage and usually get twisted in attachments that none of the parties foresee. The point here is whether you or the incumbant will be able to live with the additional baggage or you foresee a possibility of a problem developing. In either cases it will leave an indelible impact on the lives of all involved.\n\nOther than that, what the hell go for it, at least if you do not end up liking the arrangement you could move on and there will be no holds barred for you to commit later.
464444
first how bad was it??? don't know the details, but weigh the pros and cons of the relationship. if there are more cons get out and don't look back. more pro's proceed, but with caution.
671183
WOW! WHAT A QUESTION. HOW CAN YOU PUT THE WORDS MEANINGFUL AND RELATIONSHIP IN A QUESTION ASKING FOR A ONE NIGHT STAND. THAT MAKES A LOT OF SENSE!
434929
If nobody is harmed and no self-respect is lost, then no, it's not wrong.\n\nBut of course, it's rarely that simple.  When a betrayed spouse or lover discovers the betrayal, then the simple one-night stand becomes much more complicated.  Even where there's no betrayal involved, many people find it difficult to reconcile the one-night stand with their image of themselves as decent and upright persons, because our society has attached so much guilt to sex that it's a wonder we can think about it at all.\n\nThis is turning into a long-winded answer.  What I mean is: Sex is not wrong, therefore one-night stands are not wrong in themselves.  The wrong part is all the other stuff that tends to go along with them.
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OH BOY. THIS IS NOT GOOD. BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE? WOULD YOU CONSIDER TELLING HER THE TRUTH, OR SIT WITH IT? WOULD YOU BREAK IT OFF AND LEAVE THE SITUATION ALONE? IS THIS A LOVE THING? MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO COME CLEAN ABOUT IT ALL. SORRY, I HATE GUILT.