I lied to my friends and I can't forgive myself, what can I do?
545498
That's a hard one. It's really going to take a while for your friends to forgive you. What I think you should do is give them some space, then do something HUGE that says "I'm sorry and I've learned my lesson. I won't lie to you anymore." That might work pretty good. Good luck and I hope I helped you! :)\n\nPS. I'm sorry can work magic in situations like this.
560209
Before you do anything,find out the truth.Either of them could have been lying.If it turns out your friend lied ,apologize to your now ex and dump the friend.
1022477
Well... Just know it's never too late to say you're sorry and to make a wrong right. You can't change the past. However, you can learn from your mistakes in attempt to not repeat them.\n\nGo outside, breathe some fresh air. Run or workout. You won't be able to think much when you're exhausted. Eat some thing, even if you're not in the mood to eat because you can get even more anxious and depressed if you don't nourish your self sufficiently. \n\nDo some thing you enjoy doing, whether it be playing pool, watching television, driving, etc. Just do some thing. Otherwise, you'll be left with your thoughts and that won't help you.
480847
if she doesnt forgive you just forgive yourself and go on.some people cant take constructive criticism.maybe she can forgive you.i wouldnt loose any sleep over it ok.good luck and keep your head up. =)
294993
no what you did was a mistake but by telling your boyfriend it will never be the same he will probably tell you you cant see your friend anymore or leave you trust once lost is hardly ever gained back because it will sit in the back of his head and pop up every time youre late or tell him youre going out with friends over time the guilt youre feeling will subside
399859
Sure.\n\nYou talk about thing things you have.  Did you do something wrong in order to obtain those things?  If so, you may need to make restitution with the person you slighted in order to make peace with that.\n\nWhatever you have done, if you have asked God to forgive you, you have to forgive you, too.  Failing to forgive yourself will definitely hold you back.\n\nOnce God has forgiven you, you don't have the right to wallow in guilt and shame.  He has freed you to go on to better things, and failing to do so is failing to accept His gracious gift.\n\nI know it can be hard to forgive yourself.  I have always struggled with that.  Part of it for me is recognizing that it hurts God when I don't accept His forgiveness and let go of my guilt and move on.\n\nI had the same problem with confidence.  I was afraid of being selfish, and I was very insecure.  I held on to my insecurity because I didn't want to be arrogant and selfish.  Then I realized how selfish it was that when someone asked me for my opinion, I would answer, but in a voice so small that they struggled to hear me.  I was showing my insecurity, which I thought was humble.  But they were having to work to hear me, which is pretty arrogant.  What is so great about what I have to say, that I'm going to make people work to hear it?  Now, I don't have to go to the other extreme and yell, but it is kind to be considerate of the one asking and speak my answer loudly enough that they can hear it.\n\nI used to think my guilt would keep me from making the same mistakes again.  I grew up never being forgiven, so I learned never to forgive myself.  It didn't work, so I shamed myself on top of that.  Still to no avail.\n\nGuilt is supposed to serve a purpose.  It's supposed to lead us to repentance and forgiveness.  Anything other than that is an abuse of guilt.  Some people will say, "ignore the guilt." but that's not really helpful.  Guilt can bring you out of self-destructive patterns if you use it correctly.\n\nWhen you feel it and repent and ask for forgiveness, you have to take the next step, which is trust.  You have to trust God enough to believe that He has forgiven you and that you can forgive yourself.  And you have to trust that He will help you do His will.  And trust yourself enough to take that next step onward.\n\nGuilt keeps you tied to that cement block you tossed in the river.  Cut the cord, or you'll drown in self-contempt.
1184214
Well no, you should have not done that but do let her know what you have done.  She may be more willing to forgive you if she sees that your confessing your mistake...Good luck!
431174
After realizing your mistakes and apologizing sincerely to him, then give him space, don't drool on it as it will not give him the chance to reflect on what you've said that has hurt him or your words of being sorry. Time doesn't really heal whatever pain we've experienced, but it gives us the chance to take it, to carry it and to understand why things have happened. Its more difficult for a man just to forget, forgive and pretend nothing has been said that has hurt his ego or his total self. Just continue being you, the person he used to be a friend with, smile when you see him, though stop nagging or pushing yourself into him to put back everything that was. That's done and gone, start from scratch, that's the cause and effect of what you've done. Accept and WAIT, wait when he's ready to be friends again. Remember, wait and have patience.
61827
do not apologise of something you didnt eventually do! tell them that you didnt do anything of what they are accusing you and prove it mightyly. and tell them they shouldnt get mad at you that easy without even proofs that you made something they wont like.
600169
You should tell her that you forgive her for what she has done that you know it was an accident that it just really hurt you and that you shouldnt have let that come between your friendship and that you really miss her and that you just want to try and fix things so they can be back to the way they were and that your sorry you took so long to tell her this but if she could find it in her heart to forgive your reaction to her ruining your important thing and become your friend again.I also dont think you can move on from it because that is a long time to have a friend and if yall were really good friends like you say you will never forget her and you will wonder all the time what if i had told her i missed her and we could have been good friends again so i think you should try and fix the friendship instead of just trying to forget and if she says she doesnt want to will then atleast you can move on knowing that you tried thats all you can do good luck i hope i helped
975335
There's no "political sin" and nothing to be forgiven. If you 've been saying what you feel to be true, where is the fault? I will never apologize for my opinions or emotions because then I would only be a liar to both myself and the people I've compromised for. If you feel like you're going the wrong direction, just change it. Don't dwell on past actions with regret because ultimately they bring you to the point you want to be at (if you're lucky enough to find that point), and there's really no other way to get there.
115125
We need more details to help you out here.  The best I can do with what I know about your situation is a general appology.  Be sincere, and don't try to explain your side of it.  If you do, this may come accross as an excuse.  If you are truely sorry for what you did then say so and never say, "I'm sorry but...".  This will make the person think you don't really mean it.  Take full responsibility for your actions and admit what you did was wrong.  Ask them to look down deep in their heart and please forgive you.  Remind them of what your relationship means to you and how important they are to you.  Finish the letter by saying over again, "I really am sorry for hurting you.  I will do what ever it takes to earn your trust and restore our relationship."\n\nGood Luck!
1174679
Admit you made a mistake - because anyone who does that never loved you anyway. correct your life - by taking out the trash (your mate). brush yourself off and get your head on straight and tell yourself he is not worth your tears. Learn from your mistakes and get on with your life. \n\nbest of luck.
348481
You need to tell them that you are sorry that you said that and you never really meaant that and you were just mad. You both just need to accept each other and make-up. Hope this helps. Follow your heart Love is Friendship on Fire.
1010729
I'm going through a similar situation because of things I did years ago.  They never really trust you again. Not fully anyway.  It is always there, waiting for the opportunity to show up and force you to feel guilty about something.  I've been going through this for 13yrs.  It hasn't gotten any better.  Maybe you need to learn from your mistake and move on. I don't know why I stayed,but I wish I hadn't.
732594
get other friends. then forgive your ex-friend and be happy again.
983270
A close friend of mine was rejecting me for a very long time without an explaination why.  I finally got him to talk about the probelm by humbling myself and admitting that I wanted forgiveness for what ever it was that I had done - I was truly sorry.  He finally came out and told me that I had deeply hurt his feelings by something that I said.  I apologized after confessing my mistake and he forgave me.  I did not offer any excuses.  After that, he was his old self again and there was no more rejection.