how do you break and illicit love affair without hurting the other person?
538690
I don't think you can break it off without hurting with them.  But you do owe it to them and yourself to be honest with them.  Good luck.
526306
break it off and find someone new
572623
Yeah, just sit back and watch your spouse have an affair, have one yourself, or try doing porn, see how fast an outsider dissolves your marriage.\nIf the two hearts aren't married, then be on alert, anyone with 1/2 a reason can do it.
537940
never make a promise that you don't intend to keep...\n\nyou cheapen yourself and your relationship when you do.
181560
You shouldn't. That person could really feel strongly about you, and you're using their feelings to get to someone else.\n\nYou should stop befor someone gets hurt. Pleas,e just break up with them, but give the honest answer WHY. A liar is less appriciated than a truth with bad consequences, trust me.\n\nGood luck. ^_^
1096011
Refuse to get caught up in a drama that is not yours.  Your responsibility in the situation is to remain in the relationship with both that you can manage.  You do not have to tell each of them where you stand...and you don't have to share when one is with you or not.  Do not expect that you can change their status...that, too, is not your responsibility.  You can neither separate them, nor bring them together, they have to accomplish this for themselves.
624349
Try compromising.Relationships change with time. Just go with the flow.
259848
Stop getting any further, Love your wife and honor her. No good will come of an affair.
194822
Tell her husband that your having an affair with her.
201876
You cant and you shouldnt have done that in the first place. Thats called adultry and your wife can devorce you for everything that your worth for that. So break it off now with her.
631473
start a new one with someone else.\n\nseriously!\n\nonce the trust is broken u can never fully regain it. u will always be wondering!
272578
my god....\nwhy dont u clearly talk to him.\nask him to stop jumping around. he isnt loving u but taking advantage of ur love just keeping u as backup for bad time of his. \nu r a person, u love him, u too get hurted. u too have value. make him realize this. have a serious talk on this.\n\nif he dont love u, then dont let him messup wth u again n again. be clear, it will hurt u but its better than being victim. tell him either he can be wth u totally loyal or just stay away from u. he is confused in his life, he dont know what love n whats value of it. good serious talk can make him undertand this, n if he is really a good person them he will value u or wont hurt u more. otherwise he is crook.\nlove is from both sides, both have to give n take. i can understand u doing him for pure love, but have value for urself. i guess u r treating him very softly n freedom, u r letting him do any thing he wants. he has to realize that u love him so he cant jump around. when its love then its wth just wth 1 person.\n\ni understand u love him, ur heart melts for him n it makes u accept him again n again though he is doing crap. u cant do it forever, talk n decide what he actually want u or anyother.  if he REALLY dont love u then bear wth some pain n keep him away. just give him a option that he come to u only when he is very serious n forever.\nkeep ur door open to him, but dont let him just taking ur advantage. be strict n let him come to u wth a condition that he wont leave u again. be strict, be lil over emotions u can accept him any time becoz u really love him, be proud of it. but be strict to value urself as person. u r not just a thing to play. be strict so it will save u from emotional n mental damage.\n\nwhen he comes to u agian, make sure he got everything clear n he is loyal, he has his mind set on u tatally then accept him.....be happy that u got ur love forever.
591066
...If u can't ask ur girlfriend or wife what she really wants from u...then try having a short affair with someone else, get the answer,try it....\nWhat did i just say!!!
167484
I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
700098
I hate to use a cliche, but HONESTY!\n\nSpend a few real honset moments with yourself.  Examine your part, claim ownership of what you did wrong.  Ask yourself "was what I said or did unthoughtful towrd others feelings/hurtful/mean in any way?"  We dont want you to not confess and have regrets.\n\nCome to your partner and let them know that you see your wrongs.  This will inspire them to get honest and own their side of the street, unless they are in huge denial.  Most of the times it works if the person is decent.\n\nThe and only then is it truly resolved.  If each person does not claim their share, resentments build and it will come out later, and worse!\n\nBest of luck and be real honest! U can do it!
631011
For anyone, not having to physically face hurting someone is always easier. Even though best common courtesy would be to break up with someone in person, many people seek other methods like a letter, voicemail or email.
749057
It's never OK to cheat. \nIf you aren't as serious about the relationship as your boyfriend, then dump him and find someone new. Or have a long talk with him about possibly having an open relationship where you both can see other people. He'll get the hint that you aren't satisfied with the way things are. He'll either work with you to fix them, or give you your freedom to enjoy others. \nBut no matter what, honesty is always better than deceit. You would be betraying him if you cheated, and it would hurt him worse in the long run than if you just dumped him. In addition, it would be hard on you to keep your lies straight, and keep him from finding out. It's actually a lot of work to have an affair behind someones back, so it's not worth it.