Is your family a haven or a battleground?
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hi john boy cutie.\nour home is a damm circus lol. to many clowns and not enough ring masters.
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hi here i like t say some thing I LOVE MY FAMILY we r nearly 60 members we r haveing join family .I love my family b'coz when ever we r feeling boor then my family members make me happy mainly the kids and i love my family b'coz when ever any one fight in my family every one advice them to not to fight and mostly i love my family b'coz no one have bad feelings so my friend i like to advice u that plz maintain join family............u r friend das
112309
Stop going to family events ... when they ask "why" you aren't or weren't there ... tell them you didnt' have the energy for their drama ...
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Spend time with my family
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In a perfect world, we would all be able to say that family should always come first. And if you are in a healthy fundtioning family this statement is true. However, parents who are abusive, drug users, neglectful, or alocholics with tempers..... cause the break down of many families. In those times, we look to our friends.....our extended families to help out.\nhowever, this question sounds to me like you are a young teen who is hearing the worry of caring parents about friends that you are hanging out with. \nDuring our teen years, we think our parents don't know that much and that they are really out of it...believe me, listen to them. It will save you a lot of trouble. Parents, good parents, really do know best.
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It's unfortunate if you are put in a position where it is necessary to choose.  The only way to weigh the question would be to see which side is forcing the choice:  I would favor the side that is not pressuring.  If you love someone that your family disapproves of, try to honestly hear their reasons why they disapprove, and evaluate those reasons as objectively as you possibly can.  If a loved one is trying to draw you away from your family, listen carefully there, too:  does your lover have reasons for feeling your family is not good for you, or is it just selfishness?
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What is your family matter?
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Our family is very close .. we have a huge family here .. lots of cousins, aunts, uncles - granny's grandpas - you name it we've got it !\n\nMy daughter has 2 great great grandparents .. \n\nIt's so much fun growing up with a big family.  You never get bored, you always have some one to talk to .. and a place to stay if you're in trouble !\n\nWe're all so close me, both brothers & 3 other cousins have the same tattoos to show our family pride ... haha ... !
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sometimes when u are grown u have to make decisions and then everyone has to live with the one decision that u made.  are we talking about ur parents or ur children??  because if we are talking about ur parents then they will love u unconditionally, but ur children can grow to hate u.  i guess it all depends on the choice u make and who it is going to affect.  like i said u didn't specify on which family member or what??
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It totally depends on the situation.  Not to sound like a fortune cookie, but there truly IS a time and place for everything.\n\nChoose your battles wisely.
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Sometimes when you're really close to a person, and are around them all the time you feel you need your own space to live in and your own air to breathe. Just make a note that your sick of all the fighting!! Hope all goes well  :)\n-Lauryn-
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I would like a stable life but I have a family that's way too dysfunctional for that. My life is rather exciting, full of huge ups and downs. Its not ideal but its what I have so I've learned to deal with it. Drama stalks me. I think its because I attract crazy people, haha.
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Do you mean you hate your family and you want to leave them and go somewhere and start again, with no friends? Or are you trying to chose between two lots of parents?  The question is a bit hard to understand.  Can you give more information.x
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Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
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my parents are divorced, and have been since i was 4 years old. i've had a great childhood and i thinnk that everyhting worked out for the better. not only were my parents happy, i lived in an environment without fighting/ marital problems. my parents have joint custody, so i've lived with my mom but can visit my dad on weekends or as i please (when he isn't working). in addition to my parents and siblings being happier, my parents have both remarried, which i think has ben a great experience and i greatly love both of my step-families.
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not really, other than my brother. i lived with my father, and he was too busy playing in his band and chasing women to have time for me and the rest of us that lived with him, much less any friends i had. oh, adult, in that case, he was too busy playing in his band and getting women pregnant and being a part of whatever family he was raising at the time to have time for me, much less my friends.
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yes we humans are designed to be territorial and against the ones that are not our own. We can evite other conflicts by making sure everybody feels part of the human family.