girls :i think i am not good enough not beutiful enough ...how could i improve my feeling about myself?
549119
Make a list:  on one side show your good points starting at the top of your head and go all the way down to your toes.  On the other, list those things which you consider to be not good enough.  On the good points, consider how you could make them even better.  On the other side decide what you can do to improve them.  Those you cannot change, accept.  You will see beauty in many of your assets and when you compare your 'bad points' with other girls and women, you will soon realise that they are not that bad at all.  Usually I have found that most girls who have low esteem are quite beautiful and in actual fact frighten off most men.  They usually are from an only girl family with more than one brother.  Brothers can be the biggest down putters for girls.   I have no idea what you look like but I will wager a bet that you are a beautiful person, with a beautiful mind and many beautiful features.  Good luck and God bless...........
645296
List down the things you think you are good at.  Be proud of them.  List out things you cannot do.  Ask yourself whether you can live without doing these.  Ignore those you dont need to pursue. Pay attention and sharpen those skills that you wish you could develop.  Practice hard.  Dont rely on what others say.  Be good at your own work and have ample faith in yourself.  Whilst at this do not get self centred.  Look around and be sensitive to others needs.  Helping someone who is in real need will surely make you feel good - no great!  Go on - try to come out of your shell as the world outside is beautiful.  Good luck!
355557
Maybe you need the right blend of agressive and passive.  Plus, some girls and guys go for one or the other etc.  Also, I know it sounds lame, but just be yourself.  And be ultra-charming.  \nI think you should concentrate on improving yourself, for your own benefit.  And, if you improve, women or men will notice and go "hmmm"
460992
try another girl :)  oh yes of course and BE YOURSELF!
341048
Hi,U know I used 2 have the same problem... first of all... DO NOT FEEL LESS than other people,second: if someone comes by N U start blushing or gettin nervious, just imagine that person stading in an empty space with NOTHING but the opposite sex's underwear on,THIRD: let GO,hang loose,B confortabe,if U pretend everything's under control everything WIIL B under control,N lay back  relaxed,keep in mind YOU ARE WAAAAY better than the rest and if U DO say something stupid DON'T GIVE A FUCKIN' SHIT ABOU WUT THEY SAY OR MIGHT THINK ABOUT U,\n\nN fInally,whe U put all these on practice N B-come a more confident guy,find a girl who's a bit shy N THAT will B the perfect girl 2 start a conversation with,N hopefully date.... well this is wut I did N now I have a much better life,I realy hope it works 4 U .\n\nFeel free 2 E-mail me @ : debbie_free2nite@yahoo.com
417534
Don't believe you're simple. That won't work. YOU ARE SPECIAL. Feel that and own it, just be yourself. MAke people around you feel special too. Be interested in them and what they've got going on. Just have fun! People are drawn to fun girls!
444860
NO,if that is a situation that you are in then get out. You can run yourself crazy trying to figure out if whether or not you are good enough. With people like that,they want you to feel that way just so you can feel like you need them. They string you along because they know that you Will do whatever they want you to do. And,if you really wasn't good enough for them they would have been let you go,and found someone Else. This is a person who has low self esteem himself,and he is just bring you right down with him
889261
It's all in what you are saying to yourself in your mind.\nLose all the thoughts like- you are'nt good enough, ugly, never get a date, etc.\nThink of all your good qualities, think of all the complements people have given you before- you're sweet, caring person, fun to be around, etc.\nLike me, I never believed I was beautiful or good enough to have true love and respect until my attitude changed as I got older and people started complementing me, now I'm almost too full of myself lol!  :P
730886
Find 3 or more (up to five) qualities that other\npeople don't have. Add them up and realize that you were put on this earth for a Damn REASON, that you are as good or even better than other dudes and don't slump your shoulders. I hated myself for so long until I was about 23, when other people had to tell me that I was good and a good friend to have around, that a lot of people found me attractive. Email me your circumstances.muirmatt@yahoo.com
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Have a better opinion of urself and accept as u are, God made every one perfect, its only when we compare with others we feel deficient and feel worthless about ourselves. Better is a relative word and a person whom you feel is better than you may be much worse to you in many aspects. You are a precious gift of life and its better to be oneself than to seek being 'better'and lose out on your 'best'
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You know that you are pretty, so nothing anyone says can change that.  Try writing a list of all of your good qualities, i.e., nice hair, nice handwriting, good body, pretty eyes, smart, popular etc.\n\nYou might want to check some self-help books out of the public library--there are many--and can be very helpful.  You also might want to see a doctor or counselor--you need to let it all out to someone you can trust.\n\nI hope you feel better very soon.  :)
326783
always to be helpfull The more you give the better you will feel about yourself. don't ever give just to get because then you are doing for the wrong reason..God Bless You!!!!!11
410209
you have a very low self-esteem... but the good thing is, you KNOW you have potential, you'll just have to have faith in yourself... why don't you try something that would make you use your talents/potentials... for example, if you can act, then go and do an audition to a play or something... or if you're good at school, try applying for a scholarship program... in that way, when you get to achieve a certain goal of yours, your selfesteem will be increased... love what you are doing, love yourself... take risks... its part of living... sometimes, we have to fall in order for our body and heart to be prepared and be strong...;o)
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boy i dont know why u have low self esteem!?\nur not ugly! and yes people have different taste but ur not ugly so dont get those things confused.\ni think the only thing thats keeping u down is ur lack of boldness.\ndont be scared to ask a girl out. \ni guess u first have to feel good about urself so that vibe goes out and then others follow.\nits all about the vibe u send out!\nso try to feel better about ur self!\ndont hide behind ur hair or glasses\nlook up\nand proud!\nand i bet in a while once it comes  natural youll get the courage to ask a girl...if once u dont succed....then try again!\nno one person is good enough to give up after them!\nremeber that!\n\nwell hope i helped\nChau\nand feel better ok dear!
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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be more flirty, less open, less of a shoulder to cry on (but still a good guy) and be more mysterious, more touchy (but NOT disrespectful) and more spontanious. you sound like a great guy, and i'm sure even if you stay just how you are, that you will find a good girl. good things come to those who wait! good luck!
216509
I understand your plight. I once felt the same way. It must also be frustrating having everyone say "you're only 13! You have a lot of time!" Well let me tell you I was 13 once and I was frustrated as hell dealing with this problem like you are now. you figure you're not good enough or not as pretty as the next girl. Well let me tell you, the key to conquering these overwhelming feelings is your self esteem. work on building your self esteem. Realize that it should not take a man to make you feel good about yourself. Love and take care of yourself. Everything else will soon fall in place.