my friend is afraid her boyfriend only wants her for sex . she's still a virgin  should she do it ?
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She should get away from him!!!! How could she love him while knowing that he doesn't love her, only her body? Her virginity is much more important in this case. No one should ever let go of their virginity until after they're married! If you're a real friend you'll stop her from doing that and get her away from him.
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She is a virgin. She hasn't had actuall sex yet. If she has a net bf and not interested in a real one then she has somethin to hide. She'll soon realize that having a net bf isn't worth her time. For all you kno he can be a sexual predator. My friend has a bf who is on myspace and its none of my business. But I don't want nothin to happen to her. But she has somethin wrong. She is still a virgin so don't worry any. Net sex is cheap and besides its not real.
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Well, it certainly is a lot nicer when you know someone to have sex with them.  I guess I would suggest going slow, and get to know one another.  The man should woo her as if he was not married to her, if he wants her to love him.  Take her out for dinner, buy her flowers,  make her feel special.  A woman needs to try to be kind, and accepting, and I suppose she is a little afraid, as she does not know this man.  In any kind of relationship, the people in it need to work together to make it work.  Respect goes a long way.
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my question is her virginity a trophy or something you admire and respect? That question should give you the answer and also remember that sex is driven by your desired is selfish, but with love (respect, responsibility, honesty and integrity) from both parties with true commitment is unselfish and a bond that will strengthen your relationship to each other. All I can say is don't use her for your gain, ok!
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No.  I would see her in a good light.  It says something respectable about her character that she is a virgin.  I would wait.
907382
First we need girth\n\nAlso either she's figured out you are a virgin, or she wonders why you haven't tried to sleep with her yet\n\nPlease make sure you you find a way to let her know before you have sex that you are a virgin - it really sucks (pardon the pun) to be getting down to it and figure out that he is scared to death - she needs to know that she needs to take the lead - and please please listen to what she is telling you  - you can learn a lot from a girl if you just do what she says - she's not going to ask you for something in bed if she doesn't really want it -  and don't forget the protection\n\nlet her know \nrelax\nlisten\nprotection\n\nAnd the other girls are right about don't believe the 9" stuff - not in the real world ans also smaller is better a lot of the time - I personally don't prefer pain
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well if the girl isn't virgin well that is kind of bad that means she couldn't wait any longer so there you are 19 yrs. virgin with her. so if i was you i would lie to her but believe me once she looks at it she will know you are virgin so i think you deserve someone better someone that is virgin. by the way if i had a boyfriend that is 19 and is still virgin wow i'll get  all excited i am virgin and i would have sex with you so both would be virgin so if you wanna talk to me as a friend and tell me your real problem i would gladly do so www.billypapi@yahoo or call me 9565726222 and my name is marisol yes this is my real number people!!!!!!!
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Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!
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he probably wants you for the wrong reasons. hold off because, being a virgin makes you very desirable.
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The next time your boyfriend brings up sex let him know that you are a virgin. Make sure he knows that you aren't ready yet and it makes you uncomfortable when he is constantly bringing sex up. Tell him that when you are ready to have sex you'll let him know. If he really cares about you, he'll understand. If he doesn't, then you know he was only with you because he wanted to have sex with you.
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uh...she probably doesn't want it if she's sleeping!\nHowever, if you must, try gently touching her, kissing her cheeks and neck.   But don't get on top of her of anything.  Try spooning or something.  But if I wanted my sleep, I really wouldn't want my boyfriend waking me up for sex, even if he was incredible in bed!
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NO! virgin is someone whose never had sex. and sex is something that happens between (at least) 2 people.\n\nbut it might tear your hymen, if that's what you're worried about
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You shouldnt have sex until you are ready to deal with the consequences of sex. Pregnancy, STD's, guilt (if its your first time and the person dumps you directly after). Those are just to name a few. Being a virgin is rare and prized. Keep it, cause you'll never get it back. If the person professes to love you, they will understand your commitment to being a chaste person (virginal)
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Look....you have to decide, were you with her because you thought she was a virgin?  I am pretty positive that there was much more to her than that.  So, her not being a virgin should not make a difference.  Women are funny when it comes to relationships....they almost sort of WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN after each relationship.  Not just with the words they say, but they actually do it mentally.  Men like the notches on their belts to show off and brag about, but women literally like to FORGET it ever happened, especially if it was not a good relationship.  So, maybe in her mind she had a bad experience, and did not want it to count.  That does not make her a bad person, because if you look at it, that could be a plus for you.  At least you know it is her past, it is over, and she does not even want to think of it.  Maybe if after you were together longer, she would have come out and told you, you never gave her that chance, you went snooping in places you should not have been.  Maybe it was just internet talk also, you do not know that she did not say all of that online, and then chicken out when it came down to it.  Talk to her.  You want honesty and trust, then trust her an talk to her, and own up to the fact that you snooped through her private stuff.  You BOTH need to be honest to each other.
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Let me tell you this, I'm am not your mother. But, if there is a reason she doesn't trust your boyfriend then there's something about him she doesn't like. When you are in love you are blind to everything. Don't have sex with that boy just because he wants you. My mother was 16 when she lost her virginity, to a guy she was in love with and had dated for a few years. No, you don't have to wait to sex untill you are married. I think of it like this, I wish I would have saved my virginity till I married my husband, but being so young when I got married (18 years old) I'm kinda glad I didn't because some of my friends that got married to their high school boyfriend (whom they lost their virvinty to) have wound up cheating on their husband because they only been with one guy and they wanted to know what it was like to be with other people. So, not to step over what your mother has taught you, but in some cases maybe it's best to at least try it once before you get married. I did and I know what it's like to be other guys besides my husband, and my husband knows what it is like to be with other girls besides me, so we aren't worried about cheating on each other. Wev'e been there done that and now, we are happy with each other.
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Yes, if you've done this many times.  But if this is the first time, No and learn from this mistake.\n\nGuys have their preferences, if virginity is important to them they will surely feel bad about it and most probably shy away from a long term relationship with you.
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hmmmm....that's a hard one in a way because it would depend on whether or not you were VERY SURE that that is what she's trying to do....I guess if she was being blatant about it, I would have a talk with the boyfriend and see if he couldn't possibly talk to her and let her know that he's simply IS NOT available...he's with the one he loves but if this is something he won't go for..I say..tell her yourself....you don't have to be overly overbearing or mean about it ..just let her know that your not giving your man up and that there are names for women like her that try to steal someone else's man.....slut.....pure and simple....let her go for someone who isn't in a relationship at the moment...there are plenty of men out there like that....but of course it's not entirely her fault either especially if she's flaunting it and your man is simply going along with it....he needs to be sat down and you need to have a heart to heart with him...letting him know how badly this makes  you feel and how would he like it if you had some guy all over you and your were just going right along with it??   Honesty is the best thing in a situation like this...your boyfriend needs to be a part of the discussion and decision because all three of you are involved.\nGood Luck!