When does a women grow up and start to appreciate a man who is good to her?
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First of all its not about you. She doesnt feel deserving of "normalcy" She has self love issues. Until she feels love for herself she won't be accepting of the "good things" life and love has for her.
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i am almost 31...and i can honestly tell you that i feel more confident,  more beautiful and more lovable as i get older.  i have dealt with my shit,  i have been there and done it,  and i dont want to play games.  i am at the point where if the right guy comes along,  i am ready to have a lifelong love with him.  the other sweet thing that benefits the man when they have an older woman is....sexual prime for a woman begins at 30....and trust me....if you want a woman who feels the way you did as a teenage boy in the sex department, that is the way to go....
165428
Well it depends on whats the definition of good women!!!
893182
I know how you feel. It seems no matter how much you do for them or how well you treat them they still disrespect you, show too little appreciation, and there never seems to be enough of a  balance, or reward in the relationship for men. IE women take more than they give and think about their own needs more than their partners. I can't give up though because I want to be happy with someone and will keep looking until I find that woman who gives as good as she gets
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You said in your question, if you take a second and read it again that, u are lucky to have found this guy,u feel self-conscious, and you wonder if u will be able to satisfy him, what can u do? I think what you need to realize is that a man IS satisfied by a woman that treats him good. period. physical attributes mean very little if you give him your love and respect. You have to know that you are a woman with everything on that body and in that heart that a man would ever want. please keep in mind that relationships at your age are probably not forever. it was what i went through as a man then that gave me the wisdom and maturity to see a good woman as more than a physical lust. i took women for granted,blindly, and because of my own insecurities and shortcomings. dont be scared to live and love deeply. dont feel like your body lacks anything. if you do love him, make sure its love you get back. i hope that he treats you right, and respects you like he should. baby, it's not the breasts, it's the heart behind it that makes a man fall in love.
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Hi Nikki,\n\nFirst, be yourself and work on developing yourself as an individual. Then, one day you will know what a good guy is to know what he is looking for.\n\nProbably most of the response you will get, here, are superficial and shallow responses by us, hormone-driven men. But a good guy will look beyond that.
45538
To grow up, learn to cook, and marry a good guy from their culture.
174845
It depends on the guy you ask? Men in general they tend toward what ever is good for the female? just my opinion
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i think they feel more appreciated. older women are more appreciative of little things than younger women, and they understand a little bit better what it takes to be a good gf/wife than a younger woman might. This is just a guess, of course
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He respects her and treats her with dignity. He is fair and listens as much as he talks. He wants to know her opinions and tries to share in making choices with her. He lets her take the lead when the time is right. And in their love making, he is always attentive to her and takes his time.
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I have this same problem, I'm 22 and just coming out of it. The trick is to find the right mix of Gentlman and Confidence. Too often the nice guy lets the girl take charge of a situation, capitulating to her wish because she is a girl. This is not what they want. They want a Man who will be a Man and who will take them along for the ride. The Gentleman must fill this role while at the same time respecting his woman. When you get those two aspects of manhood down your luck with girls will change.  You'll find a girl who is worth your time.
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What makes a guy is, his dignity. Pride aside, I think that being a good man is being concerned and knowing what to do to make you feel as you should. \nYou aren't too young, matter fact time is off the essence. If you're too young ... then tomorrow you'll be too old. Is up to him to see life for what it's worth, and if he knows what that is, then you have nothing to worry about ... Let me be the first one to say "Congratulations."
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Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
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Sense of humor, respect for women, willingness to show affection, attentiveness, honesty, and good manners.  Just to name a few.
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I admire men who have good control over their impulses and demonstrate good charactert their strength is an attractive and admirable thing.  I think very little of women who have to resort to offering sexual favors to get what they want. Being smart, clever and respected is far more effective. (unless you are bribing your husband to take you to the ballet..that is an altogether different matter and great fun.)
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there was a period where i was totaly into bad boys becasue they had the money, cars, clothes, kool houses, independance and everything i didn't have as a good girl. they were ruff, demanding and took whatever they wanted and i looked up to that mostly because i didn't have the guts to be that myself. \n\ni think somewhere along the lines i grew up because bad boys don't do it for me anymore. i got a system that works for me and figured out that no bad boy was gonna stick around long enough to make anything lasting so they just have kinda moved down the ladder in the grand scheme of my life. the man i am now in love with is the best man i have ever known and as good as i think i could ever find. he loves me and that's all that matters now. it's all about the process of growing up. one has to go through many wrongs in order to find what is right.
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Well, it depends. Are you a man or a woman? \n\nThe age, the man should be older, by one day or a few years, it doesn't matter. He should be no more the 120% of the woman's age.\n\nCourtship: 18 months.  \n\nYes, it's nice to be friends too. That way you'll actually like each other once the sexual passion wears off.\n\nI would not recommend that the woman have a higher level of education than the man. Equal is fine.