Why won't my husband take me to the strip club with him and his friends?
543474
Because he thinks you'll get mad, jealous, ruin his fun. He doesnt want you to see what he does. Its his free naughty time.
1160555
i would hate it too i think that its just encourageing something bad to actaully happen- my hubby has people he works with who cheat and go to strip clubs and i know my hubbys gone with them and i hate it.....tell him how you feel but make sure he knows if you catch him without him telling you it will not be ok----
652275
OMG!!! WHY CAN'T YOU COME..SHOOT iF iT BOTHERED YOU SO MUCH HE'D PUT YOU UP iN A HOTEL FOR THE NiGHT!
247279
Well, there are a couple of reasons I can think of. First, maybe he doesn't feel his wife is treating him well (emotionally or sexually) and what better way to improve the way she treats him that to invoke that monster of jealousy...that usually makes women go overboard with sex and niceties in order to keep her man from straying. The second reason may be that he simply wants to be honest with her...doesn't want her to find out from someone else.
852884
I do not understand why your friend would or should be involved in your business with your husband. Yes, your husband is correct, your friends need to mind their own business. God bless*
1146049
You're joking, right? You are definitely not asking too much for your man to spend the little free time you both have without the kids together. Are you set on going out or could you perhaps "ramp" him into spending time together starting with an intimate evening at home? Next time you can remind him you two stayed in for him last time so it's his turn to accommodate your wishes.
671168
Dont! It is not your fault. You husband has always liked Men and because he was such a coward. He was afraid of what people would think of him. Do not beat yourself up about. Im sure you love him. Just pray that he gets delivered from what ever it is he's going through and move on.
1177018
Yes... it's plain and simple....men can't resist temptation or sex. He can love you and still have a need to play. All men go through this and it stinks. You can either divorce him and end up with another man who does you this way too or just work through the crisis and move on with your lives as a married couple. Just because we're married doesn't mean our husbands aren't human. Men aren't women and they just don't think well when all the blood rushes from their brains to their penis. If he doesn't want to leave then don't worry....he wouldn't trade you in for the world. I bet if you were to start dressing up and going out now and then he would become very worried and think about what he's done even more. Either way, don't you dare blame yourself or believe it's your fault for any reason at all. Realize that he's got the problem and don't allow it to consume you. Instead do the reverse and show him exactly what he left at home that is so much better!!!
784638
I find it peculiar that someone who has a desire to live according to God's will as you do, would find a strip club fun.  That's why I really believe that it was not the strip club itself that was fun for you.  Perhaps it was just hanging out with friends or something that you found fun.\n\nBut I really don't know for sure.  I just know that I would hate to be anywhere near a strip club.  That said, I don't want to judge you.  We all have different ways we see things.  But I do know that the Bible is against such things.  Proverbs speak against it.\nBut God is forgiving, and He also understands our particular weaknesses.  So He won't forsake you just because you found it fun there.  Pray to Him, and let Him give you the answer.  It is clear that you do wish to follow Him, and if you keep that desire, you will find Him.
295268
I think that you should probably talk to your husband about this.  \n\nIf you are simply talking to other men - your boss, your minister, your banker - that's probably okay.  \n\nIf you have male friends, defining your relationship with those male friends may be someting to talk to your husband about.  By that, I mean that your husband may not appreciate your male friends calling at 2 a.m. to ask if you can pick them up from the bar because they are too drunk to drive home.  Your husband may also not appreciate you being ALONE with another male.\n\nYou definitely shouldn't be intimate with other men - that should go without saying.
501340
I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
686657
back when i was a stripper/pornstar, my husband had a very hard time dealing with it. i tried to tell him over and over that it was JUST A JOB. to this day he still brings it up if we fight. on the other hand, my boyfriend does not mind one bit. he loves all the little tricks i learned in the trade. i try to keep them all happy, but what can i say, its all about ME.
1125136
Well, Have you two had sex yet? If not don't go and why are you afraid to be alone with him? The problem appears to be deeper than your question...Good Luck either way!!!!
497370
Trust and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship! If he isn't giving you the respect you deserve, by honoring your request in regard to the strip clubs, and is breaking your trust by going to them behind your back, then I would have to say that your relationship is in serious trouble. I dare say that his behavior will not be improving any time soon, so you are going to have to decide whether or not you are willing to continue putting up with him doing as he pleases, whether you like it or not. Good luck!!
253289
Im telling you I hate it when this happens!  SOME guys are just soooooo persistent!  I use to bartend and I had one guy who came in every single day just to see if I had kicked my hubby out yet!  He would call the bar and he's send me presents, and tip very very well.  Im really bad at hurting peoples feelings.  I HATE being mean!  cannot help it!  Finally I just had to tell him- ok- here we go- tell him u r lesbian!  lol  Ok maybe not!  lol  I would just tell him- sorry- Im not interested.  Then just kinda avoid him at all costs!!!!  I really do feel for u!  Good luck friend!
247748
I would have to say since your pregnant NO this idea is just due to your hormones being out of whack.  Try cooking him dinner in the nude of course while he's watching you. Then maybe the two of you could take a candlelight bubble bath.  You and only you can do the nasty with him.  Put silk sheets on the bed and through rose petals all over the floor and the bed.  With your hormones on the blitz if you get the girls to join, you will probably then start accusing him of having an affair. So keep the birthday PARTY just for you and him.  Good Luck and have fun.
842006
f*g hag to the rescue! most of my friends are gay. when we were younger and couldn't get into clubs and such we went to the wreck room on the strip. my best friend did drag there for a long time and was even voted miss gay oklahoma. just like you, peeps at his school didn't know about him. we used to go there and hang out with everyone else that was gay and have a great time! this is the only club/clubs i will go to when i'm home (currently military and stationed in texas, yuck).\ncheck out this website. it lists all the clubs on the strip. you should check it out sometime. hope this helps?