Why do men stop doing the sweet things they used to do in the beginning of a relationship?
534976
Men do lots of sweet, romantic things at the beginning of a relationship to impress women, so that they will consider them as relationship material.  They know women love to be treated as special.  The things they do (cooking lovely meals, massages, buying impromptu gifts) are occassionally at much inconvenience to themselves.\n\nSo once you are already in a relationship together, many men are unable to maintain this behaviour and moreover feel there is no need to continue.  This is short-sighted , however, as it fails to consider that if he uses such behaviour to win the woman, the said woman is going to expect the treatment to continue, and may be a significant reason why she entered the r'ship in the first place.
555737
when the things you used to enjoy (clubbing, partying, staying up till 4 in the morning, dating several guys) arent fun anymore. when you'd rather curl up with a good book and a glass of wine and have a quiet evening. when the guy you're with makes you feel like there are no other men on this planet.\n\nthat when its the right time to settle down in life
308932
Here here! Mike, you have a very good point sir. I've noticed women start out young picking the abusive, hurtful, untrustworthy bad boys while blowing off the "good guys". Years later after being used and abused they're ready to settle down with a nice guy and expect us to be like we were. Sorry ladies. While you were off being stupid, we were busy being rejected, damaged, and "just friends" in the interim. You want the best of both. You want to have your fun and then settle down when you're ready. Then you complain that there are no good men left. Now you know why. \nWe had patience waiting for you to smarten up. Now you have to have patience while we're learning to trust you again.
843019
These people are all crazy.  We have become way too sesitive to kissing.  Its a custom in a lot of countries as a simple sign of friendship.  Kissing is NOT Cheating if its quick and no tongue action or ass grabbing is involved.  Totally OK!
536989
It does take a while for men to get up and running again, and 6 months are not unusual.\nI suppose men are just that much more attachable and have a hard time letting go of things, I've seen cases where a simple crush gone bad had them down for several months...Just give us some time, thats all we ask ;)
143451
The first few weeks or even months are what is know as the "honeymoon period" They are so happy that they got with you that they wanna do whatever they can to make you happy, but after they think everthing is good they start to settle into it and feel they don't need to work so hard anymore. They think everything is fine now. It happens with all of us, you get something new. Lets use a car for example the first few weeks/months you take good care of it, then you may settle into it. You start letting food get brought into it, messes start getting made, you no longer check your fluids regularly, clean it all the time,etc. You grew into it. You don't feel you need to keep putting so much work into it cause your car is running good and not giving you any problems, but if you let it go too far as with anything you start to have problems.
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It hard for some of us guys to get over relationships too.\n\nYour used to having that person there, talking to that person.  \n\nIt's hard to get ready of an old pair of jeans or an old pair of shoes.  Your used to them and they became a part of you for a while.\n\nJust give it time.  Meet people.  Do things. It helps.
538491
Because they are insensitve, selfish creatures. They like to pull that crap just to make you think that you aren't doing anything right in the relationship. They like to use that as an excuse. It's not your fault if he has no self control or self respect. You can do everthing right in the relationship and if he wants to, he'll still go out and cheat. It has nothing to do with you, so don't sweat it.
1147179
well, i think people fall out of love or the relationship got boring and maybe that is why they do things, but i think people need to just say OK things are not there any more it's time we move on and not cheat because to cheat on someone is just bad period.
299315
Men have a goal. Once they hit that goal, you are no longer attractive. When you really put up a fight, or stand up for yourself by respecting yourself, he will too. But if you give up the 'goodies' real quick, he's gone.
550177
Guys aren't the only ones who do this.  I think the reasoning is that they want to feel wanted.  This way they kind of broke up but can still claim a relationship while they seek or commit more time to another relationship.\n\nI had an ex girlfriend tell me whs wanted to "take a break".  I gave her a break, I dumped her.  There are no "breaks" in relationships.  You are either in or out.  But that's me personally.  If you want your space, I'll give it to you, and I'll find someone that wants me in their space.  Not anymore though, I'm married.\n\nHope that helps.
1183149
They just start taking things for granted I guess. They have forgotten how important the little things in life are. They just assume that the other knows how they feel why show or say it. All I can say is that after ten years of marriage it is the little things we do for each other that matters the most. While they might know how we feel it is still needed to be said and shown on a regular basis
725788
I was very interested in your question and the answers you recieved. I have been with "bad boys", you could say i have a lil bit of an addiction...lol It's not that i am stupid or because i ws abused as a child. It's not that i am still so immature that i do not see the pitfalls of being w' one. This said, I will tell you that Brad is right! Women want men who are confident, strong and well....act like MEN! It's in our nature as women. How many guys do you know that think it would be soooo cool if only their girlfriend acted more like one of the guys? It is great in theory..she would love sports and all the same stuff you do right? Then think about it....... do you REALLY want a girl who acts like a guy? It's not that we want the bad boy all the time (although some of us genuinely do like that...diff. reasons and i'm sure you know a few) It's that we want the guy who takes his place in the relationship as the GUY..so that we can feel like a woman. It's not that you have to BE the bad guy, you just have to pick up the traits that we are attracted to in them! Be a man, be confident, upfront, and yea...I've told a few other guys this, don't take too much of our crap because we will lose respect for you and start seeing you as a wuss! Do you know how many times i have seen girls w' nice guys and they are soo bored and not attracted to him anymore..they start checking out the bad boys... they don't understand why..i mean their guy falls all over himself for them. Our backwards screwed up society is partially to blame but all these lil girls need to stop brow beating all of our men into p***y whooped lil sissy boys and then turning around and whining that he just doesn't do it for them anymore! Romance is not dead! It's that we as women, and i know i am going to get so hated for this..lol, have put you men in a position of not knowing just how to be men anymore..... you can be both... you can be well mannered, polite, considerate, very caring and also assertive, confident and strong! Then....just stand back and hold on to your socks! Because the woman you get then will be a real woman..who recognized in you what it really takes for a good balanced realtionship! Not one of these crazy lil girls running around crying that they want this and that and basically the equivalant of being with another chick..and then dumping you when they realize that for some reason they just don't understand..you just don't do rock their world..lol \n  Just be you...be some of what she wants and needs, the same as you would want from her, and be a man. Good Luck!
1185101
they only do that while they are young..but once they hit about 30 and they have had their hearts ripped out by some hot looking chic..all of a sudden they realize its not about looks anymore..its about whats on the inside..older men are more grounded unless they got married young or something and their wife got old and fat and then they hit 40 then all of a sudden they cheat on their wife with a 20 yr old...men are all very complicated...study psychology,it will help u understand the basics of human nature and why we do what we do...we are all trying to compensate for what we feel is an emptiness..whether its sex,religion,food,cars,clothes or whatever...basically it boils down to we are more intelligent now and have more time on our hands and we dont have to hunt and gather anymore and run from wild animals while wearing furs or skins of animals...weve evolved and do not know how to handle all the glamour of it....but a good psychology book will help out on the boy situation...
543692
They cheat because we let them. We sometimes let ourselves go instead of keeping the romance alive in the relationship. My ex-husband slept with a 13 yr old when he was 26, right before we got married. I had gotten comfortable, I knew he was mine and I didn't have to worry, not!!!! Always be worried, there is always another woman who will be better and can do more than you're willing to do. So we have to keep up ourselves and make our men see that we are willing and trying to stay the woman they fell in love with.............
953383
We do it because some of us want to be perfect for the guy... and if you are like me, having been in some pretty bad relationships, some women never feel they are good enough for any man..
466051
I think poeple want to romanticise the world and the past..self preservation ?\nI hear lots of people talking about past relationships in the most rosy ways...but forgot that they broke up and seemed to forget the ugly parts.\nMaybe it is some kind of instinct to help ourselves not to feel too bad....? We prefer hearing good things who cheers up too .....\nMind you, some people are the total opposites : they only see negative things and traits in other people and seem to carry the world's burden upon their shoulders. They will feel bad at every sad story their hear about and dismiss the good ones out there.\nMy point of view : it is a way to keep optimistic and not feel victimised.\nShould be a matter of balance but people have brains geared up differently.