I have a neighbor who has Alzheimer's and keeps coming into my house and getting into my bed.  What should I d
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Well if he keeps on coming to your house and getting into your bed you can do 2 things. Either charge him rent or go to his house and sleep on his bed too to make it even.
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I think you should speak to your girlfriend and maybe she could talk to her mom about the issue. Your right though its not your house and your girfriends mom probably wouldnt want you to say anything. But then again you do practically live there if you stay 5 nights a week.... but i would still just speak to your girlfriend she could include herself as having the problem to and just say mom me \nand_______ are having a hard time sleeping and we both would really appreciate it if ________ could be a little quiter when he comes over. if that dont work get EAR PLUGS!
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do not live with the man that molest you. you can report him to someone you trust or to the authorities.
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Tell them you have to go somewhere. They will get the hint! Also, this really works, so don't laugh. If you stand a broom with the bristles up, right beside your door, it will keep away the people that you don't want to have at your house. :)\n\nBlessed Be!
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Just give it time and try not to think about them. Remove all artifacts. A taped up shoe box with mementos and pictures under the bed will work wonders. The tape keeps you from looking at the stuff :D
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no gal, be strong. You have 2 best gifts ever in that house. Don't leave it...... man cannot just fool you like this. You have the whole world with you. Live nad love your life there. That's your house. Think that the man is dead. Live for yourself and your kids.
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The seven warning signs of Alzheimer's disease are:\n\n1. Asking the same question over and over again.\n\n2. Repeating the same story, word for word, again and again.\n\n3. Forgetting how to cook, or how to make repairs, or how to play cards — activities that were previously done with ease and regularity.\n\n4. Losing one's ability to pay bills or balance one's checkbook.\n\n5. Getting lost in familiar surroundings, or misplacing household objects.\n\n6. Neglecting to bathe, or wearing the same clothes over and over again, while insisting that they have taken a bath or that their clothes are still clean.\n\n7. Relying on someone else, such as a spouse, to make decisions or answer questions they previously would have handled themselves\nIt sounds more like your mother might be showing signs of bi-polar or a mental problem since she has outbursts and tends to take it out violently.  Some things to suggest would be asking a close friend or your clergy to talk to her and encourage her to see a doctor.  The first thing she needs is a complete physical to rule out any physical cause. Also the next time she has an outburst leave the mess or the damage and ask her what she plans to do to about this problem of her temper.  Although she probably can't help her temper she does need to be shown what this is doing to the family so that she will hopefully consider getting a physical and getting this checked out.  Also if things get really bad call 911 and have the police intervene so that she has to take some responibility for her the problem.  Your safety and getting her help is the most important thing needed right now even if it means calling 911 when she is smashing things etc.
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Tell grandma to relax and let someone else chew up the air for a while. She's your grandma, she's older and deserves courtesy, but she isn't made of glass so she won't break and she knows better than anyone when she's overstepping the boundaries, unless of course, she's been running amok for so long she doesn't recognize them anymore. In which case, point them out.  Say to her "This is my wife, she is here because she enjoys your company, I am going to do some chores for you and I expect to get her back in the same cheerful mood I am leaving her with you.  Got it Grandma?" and then smile, wink or kiss her on the top of the head or the cheek, so that she knows you love her, but that you aren't letting her blacken you or your wife's mood.  Give your wife a flag to waive if you have to, but bring grandma down to earth once in a while.  Leave if you have to, in the middle of your chores or your wife's visit, if she doesn't heed your warning. \n\nExpect from  your grandma the same as you would from anyone else.\n\nEverybody loves to run amok, older people, young people, we all do what we want until someone tells us no. Say no.
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Sounds like dementia. Maybe the husband needs to declare her incompotent and become her legal guardian and power of attorney if she is becoming too much for him to handle he should consider an assisted living or nursing home good luck
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stop her more frequently and call her attention to mistakes more often. you might also suggest to her parents or her teacher that she may have a learning disability and that you'd like her to get professional help if you don't feel anything you are doing is helping her. my grandfather is like that and at 72 years of age he still can't do much more than sign his own name. it's wonderful that she at least has someone attentive to her enough to notice a problem.
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Tell him you only need a slave to do your bidding and that a slave never speak when not talked to.  The same goes for visiting, he should sleep by your door and only enter when summoned
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Hi, I keep a low profile when visiting my Alzheimer's Patients husband. He is in a care facility. It sounds to me that in your caring so much about your sons father, perhaps you have reacted to the lack of proper care he is receiving.\n\nThe law is on your side. He needs an advocate from the system to monitor his care. You pissed somebody off.\n\nYou might suggest that the authorities check on him in the middle of the night. They will look in his mouth with a flashlight, to see if his teeth are being brushed. Also, he should be re-positioned in his bed, and his depends checked, every two hours minimum. \n\nIf you just back off, and it sounds like you have, they will drop their guard, and then someone can nail them. Your son has rights to see his father, and unfortunately you might have to play hardball another way. Someone in this format must have the particulars on what you can do. This can effect your well-being, esp. if you are on SSD. \n\nSounds like he was dehydrated, I assume that is what you meant, when you said his Depends were dry for a long period of time. I think you just need to Zip your Lip, and hunker down, and get the proper Authorities on your side. The system is corrupt. During my training for Alzheimers, I fought for the rights of the Patients, along with another C.N.A, and a Nurse. \n\nMany issues were never resolved. At that time, I was encouraging relatives of the Patients, to visit at unusual times to view the subtle abuses\n\nUnfortunately, the abusers already had an anchor in the Facility, and it was impossible for us to make any changes. It went to the top. I finished my Certifications and left the facility, as did my co-workers who really cared.\n\nSounds like you need to step back, send in a spy with a camera, and a time stamp on it. I used to see people in another section, sitting in their wheel chairs, waiting  three to four hours, to be taken to bed. No hygeine, just flopped in bed. The way they landed, was the way they were all night. I would walk down the hallway, and try to make them comfortable. \n\nAlso I  had three old Vets with Hep. C. I was reported to the upper staff, for wearing Nitrile gloves to hand feed bread, etc.,to keep from transferring from one patient to another.The Facility had no Universal Precautions in place. (how to handle blood etc.) I know exactly what you are talking about with his care.\n\nWe had a little **** of a Gestapo, mean, mean mean. I told her, that for every mean thing she said to a patient, that I would be right behind her, saying something nice. I went nose to nose with her on many occasion.\n\nIt is true that Caregivers are over worked and under paid, but when on burn out, guess who suffers.\n\nWell, I hope you can work your way back to what you had with your son and his father. He still needs you. You will find a way. \n\nDon't talk to his Guardian at this time. It is just ammunition for her.\nCan you send him a bouquet of flowers, say from neighbors gardens for him through a friend? \n\nHe will have a Caregiver that will tell him it is from you. There is always the good and the evil. The good will win over.\n\n\n\n\n.
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First report them to the landlord.If that does'nt work,and you don't want to confront them yourself,call the police.I wish you luck.I have the same problem here.My neighbor is a 21 yr old alcoholic who loves to party,and entertain friends from Thursday night to Monday morning.I have called the law 3 times this week,and all they do is come by ,and tell them to turn the music down.We are very quiet people,and the noise makes me very nervous.
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Even early onset Alzheimer's doesn't hit until people are in their 40's. But it does sound like she has something wrong with her cognitively.  She should see a doctor and get checked out. There's so many things it could be, and none of them are good.  But the earlier things are found, the more than can be done.  Encourage her to go; go with her if she's scared.
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pour some ammonia around they don't like the smell and will associate the smell with your place and stay away. put some in a trail over to neighbours late at night and fed them regular there. make sure it is neighbour you don't like
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I'm with sassy. If he has the nerve to POUND his headboard he probably deserves to be imPOUNDED. Now if you are POUNDING your fists on the table laughing so hard, it might be difficult to go tell your neighbor that his car is being towed. So bite your cheek really hard to try to prevent the laughter. Remember, an ounce of prevention is worth a POUND of cure. Once you tell him, if he wants to POUND your face in because you started laughing, invite him over to your place for a cook out. You have a POUND of hamburger in the freezer and could POUND out hamburgers in no time. Once you've made nice with the man, remind him to pay his bills on time otherwise he will be POUNDING the pavement looking for a new home. If he doesn't understand this reasoning, perhaps you could exPOUND on the subject for him. \n\nI hope this advice helps you......meanwhile....what are you going to do about the neighbor on the OTHER side of you whose dog is being picked up for the POUND?
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First thing should be to contact your local police station and ask them for advice, they'll gladly tell you what you should do in a case like this.\n\nThen, get somekind of maze or any of those intense sound alarms to keep on yourself just in case he ever comes near you to cause any harm.  Have it on you, like on a key chain or something, and always handy, just in case, especially if you're walking alone to your car or something, during the evening.  \n\nBuy a sign that states you have a house alarm and also one that states you have a guard dog and post it by the window or anywhere near the front door of your home -- those will serve as a deterrent should he ever get any ideas to break into your home. \n\nAs an extra security, add additional locks, like the chain kinds, to all of your outer doors.  \n\nAnd don't be afraid to tell as many people that you know about this creep, so they are aware of who he is and don't accidentally give out any personal information about you to him.  You never know, he may tell a coworker that he's your brother or brother-in-law and ask them something about you to get to you. \n\nWhatever you do, don't ever be afraid to take as many precautions as you can in order to be safe from this weirdo or any weirdo in general.\n\nBe careful and good luck to you!