Can you honestly have a healthy long distance relationship? ~*For the Non-Married, Non-Military*~......?
545798
well honey it depends on the 2 of u ...what u find attractive in the other must not be entirely physical..if it is rest assured it will fall flat! theres a difference between love and infatuation long n long distance relationships does truly show whether u are in love or merely infatuated...long distance reln wud wrk only if both of u are in love with the minds and trust ..cos when the physical attributes wear away it is this that lasts..tlkin about my experience ..yes im in love with a woman whos halfway across the globe with an age difference of nearly 10 yrs lol !! we ve had our innocent fights and making up soon after ..well one of us is always calm to pacify the other in times of trouble u need to have a big heart for ur love thats really important
1128358
No there is nothing wrong with that keep your long distance relation but you always need to complete it with a local physical contact relation... That will work...
876803
from 3000 miles away sounds like a long shot.  on the other hand relationships that are formed when we are young have less of life's baggage attached and are not so judgmental.  \n\ncontinue to talk an stuff and let it happen naturally\n\ni hope it works for you
965994
From your description, I'm not sure you even have a "true" relationship. I feel you think you have but I am not so sure about him. At any rate a long distance relationship has no nurturing value...especially if there is no commitment. You have no idea what the other is doing. How can it be fulfilling? Your description itself suggest no pleasure from it...only doubt, insecurity and unhappiness. Your task is to firmly decide what is best for YOU.\nI suggest you continue to stabilize your life...this clearly is not working to your benefit. \n\nYou don't have to be face to face for it to end. Please don't let it be an excuse for him or yourself. Over the phone, email or a letter would suffice.
703636
what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
455127
I'll be honest with you long distance relationships suck, but it you are truly in love they are worth it, the key to making a long distance relationship work is trust, communication, honesty and you have to have faith in the person you are with.  You have to spend every minute you are with the person like it is the last time you are going to see them.  It is hard and it is alot of work, it means alot of lonely nites, but in the long run it can be an amazing relationship.
648664
Long distance relationships CAN work!\nMy cousin's friend met her husband while she was touring in Europe and they emailed each other and spoke on the phone for another two years before they saw each other again.\n8 hours distance really isn't that much in comparison and I think perhaps he's just being a little pessimistic and lazy.\nSpeak to him, and if he's agreeable, set a time where you see each other maybe twice a month... find a place that is halfway between your houses and spend a nice weekend at a motel or something.  If it is true love it will work out eventually where you both are in the same place at the same time.\nGood luck! :)
1130281
It does not work unless there is an end in sight.  If you don't have plans of when you can actually be *together*... it will not work.  It will become tiresome.  It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's the truth.  Also, if you're *starting out* long distance... that's even harder.  Trust me.
26882
I was married to a german national. we had a long distance relationship before we got married. but (and this is the key thing), because you cant interact in person with someone in a long distance relationship, you lose the inflections of the conversation and the body language and all the other small things that complete a persons definition. because i couldnt see that with this person, she got her citizenship and then blew town. Divorced me and left me with an empty bag. Im better off now, and am better off without her, but the point is that without the personal interaction and receptives of being in person, the relationship is doomed. be it 6000 miles like mine, or 6 miles. if you dont see the person regularly, you will never really know them. The same applies tenfold for internet relationships. The internet is now in its early teens and I have never once seen an online relationship that ever worked. Nuff said.
450638
it can. it really depends on how dedicated and determined you are to make it work. i've seen it work out pretty well, and i've seen it crumble completely. i've seen people in long distance relationships get married, and i've seen them cheat on each other because they're lonely and frustrated and weak.\n\nbasically, if you want to make it work, and they want to make it work, you can make it work. you might as well try because all that not trying means is that you lose them for sure, and you lose them now instead of later.
1144986
No, I wouldn't let it come between us. Eventually, one person would relocate, but that's just logistics. Hummm...about meeting someone online? I guess it would depend where you met them. Typically people you run into in chat rooms or on free sites don't tend to be of the same quality (or want the same things out of a relationship) as people who use paying services.
385769
It all depends on how committed you two are towards each other. You have to have that amount of respect for each other not to hurt the other one. My husband and I had a long distance relationship before we were married and although it was hard, we worked through it. You have to have that love and respect for your partner to make it work. If you don't then do not even attempt it. Good Luck!
493248
No, it hard to make relationship work when you are together, so you know it's hard long distance.  The person is never the person they pretend to be at a distance.
569764
the truth is, it really depends on both parties, if they really love each other and that the FAITH is there, no matter how far they are from each other, it doesn't matter!! but in reality, it is so hard to keep a long distance relationship... There are lot of things that can happen when you're away from someone, its up to you if you really want to stay in your relationship or just goes on with the flow!!!
282287
Keep the communication lines open.  I know it's difficult maintaining a long distance relationship.  My first long distance relationship didn't work.  My second one did.  I married the second one and 3 years later, we're still very much in love and happy.  Don't forget to pray.  Put God first in your lives.  The rest will follow.  God Bless!  I hope your relationship will last forever.
118921
Long distance relationships do not work. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 2 and a half years. We actually were together for 4 years, but I moved across the state a year and a half into the relationship. It got to the point where he would only call me while he was at work, and I could only see him on certain weekends because he was "busy", or I wouldn't hear from him for weeks. I heard from a friend that he had been seeing this girl I know, so I called her phone and I found out that they have been seeing each other for the past 2 years, and they are engaged!! I told her every detail of our relationship until I had her crying on the phone. I later heard she broke off the engagement. Needless to say, he called and cussed me out and our relationship is over. \nSo the moral of this story is that unless you truly know this person, and can have complete trust in him that he will not break your heart, don't waste your time,energy, or minutes on your phone with a long distace relationship.
748857
Well first of all I would almost bet that you will get some smart comment from someone cause of the fact that you met online, but I can relate to you in that way.  I met my current boyfriend online as well.  I live in NY for the time being because of acting and he's from MN, where I'm originally from.  We have made it a point to see each other as often as possible to make sure that we don't grow apart.  We talk on the phone quite a bit and everytime I feel like I might question the whole relationship, hearing him at the end of the day lets me know that it will all work out.  I think that it is definitely possible to make a long distance relationship work as long as you both want it, because when one person isn't fully in it then that's when things seem to go wrong.  I'll be back in MN soon and I'll still be about 4 hrs away from him but that's a lot close than 23-24 hrs.  I can handle that short distance and so can he. I know if you both want it and are really in love then it will work out how it is suppose to.