What do u do when a close friend is getting married to another close friend and doesnt ask u 2 b a bridesmaid?
537179
The best answer to give you is to wait and let the bride call you.  If you go asking from the first point on seeing her again she may not want to place you in her wedding party.  Patience is a virtue.  If she does not ask you then you might want to have a private chat with her and remind her calmly and cooly that you two discussed being in each others weddings and so on.  Ask why she left you out.  And let her know it hurt you.  But always try to keep the friendship the most important part of the things you share with your friend.  Is being a bridesmaid so important that the friendship dies?
993870
Start out with how you know the bride and how honored you are to be the maid of honor.  Then say something about when you first met the groom.  You could talk about what a great couple they are and how happy you are that they found each other.  Congratulate them and wish them well.  It doesn't have to be funny.  A nice, sincere wish of happiness for them will be perfect.
1184236
this is YOUR wedding not theirs. tell them how you feel, calmly with out being forceful about it. let them know your feelings are being hurt because they are controling what is supose to be YOUR day.
496254
Well, if you cannot afford it, tell her you are deeply honored by her asking this of you, but unfortunately you do not have the ability to participate. It isn't THAT expensive to be part of a wedding. You need $100-200 (unless she goes crazy with the cost) for the bridesmaid dress, and maybe airfare (since I don't know where your friend or you are). You are looking at less than $1000, and if you have 10 months until the wedding, save $100 a month and you are there.
24943
You can't, if you are worried about hurting feelings because of who you don't invite, then  just go elope.  That's what I'd do, it's your day, not thiers.
1026326
I would just talk to her. I have been friends with one girl for many years and we started to grow apart and i just talked to her about it and now im going to her wedding and im going to be her sons godmother. never give up on true friendship
167728
It is your wedding do what makes you guys happy. And don't worry about what other people think.  But if you do feel it a bit awkward, or want to find another way.  Have a picture blown up, or leave a chair open durning the cermony.   But this day is about you guys so do what your heart is telling you.
675145
Try to stay as far away from her as you can.  This person is clearly not a friend.  It's understandable that y'all miss your other friend (the one that passed away) and everything, but she's in a better place...and LIFE GOES ON as hard as that is.\n\nAlso, it seems too 2-faced to be doing that - telling you to your face she'll go to the wedding and telling other people she won't do it.  You sure don't need somebody like that in your life.  Death is part of life and she needs to move on, just like you're moving on now.  Good luck, girl friend, and congratulations on your wedding.
246538
I had a situation where I'd chosen someone as my bridesmaid who was a close friend of my husband's and was also dating my brother at the time.  During the course of the engagement she went nuts and ran off to Australia and screwed over both of my men.  Needless to say she was out of the wedding, and had she not run off I would've asked her to not be in the wedding anyways.  \n\nAs for you, I would just tell her that it seems she's too busy to be able to meet your deadlines and requests, and also with the status of her relationship with you and your family changing you think it's better off she not be in the wedding party, but that you'd love to still have her as a guest.
1145951
I would say this is failry true. Maybe not HALF, but I would say a good amount lose friends over something having to do with a wedding, which in hindsight seems stupid, because you would think that the bridesmaids would WANT to do everything for the BRIDE! Who knows, I lost a friend due to a stupid dress disagreement. (Not to mention she was my bridesmaid!)\n\nGood Luck!
1161421
You shouldn't feel offended then if she didn't invite any of the family. Maybe she didn't want to be bothered by everyone and was planning on announcing it after the wedding was over. Did you ask her about it?
826075
There is nothing you can or should do about their decision to get married or them expecting a child. What's done is done, and now they're trying to deal with things in a responsible way. They're trying to do what they think is right and they're probably having a hard enough time already with those important life events and decisions without people making it worse by interfering. You should be a good friend, wish them all the best and don't judge them or give them a hard time over this, they're having enough of that already without you adding to the stress. Be supportive. You can do that without agreeing with what's going on. Don't let your friend down. It's their life.
319644
Let them know that paying does not imply planning, they are helping your wedding not planning the perfect one they wish they had. This is your day no one should keep you from what you want. Do what you feel is right don't follow others orders just cause they're paying the tab. Is that the only reason they're help, so they can control it? If you get anything besides love and support don't let them pay for it because as the wedding gets closer they'll just be more and more controling
620698
Your friend can have a better car than you....but secretly cant breathe freely because of asthma\n\nYour friend may have a loving relationship with someone....but will never be able to rise above the fact that she doesn't have an education\n\nYour friend obviously sees something in you that she likes, thats why she asked you to be a bridesmaid.\n\nTake time out to appreciate the little things in life and eventually someone will come to appreciate those positive qualities in you.\n\nEmbrace each positive in your life, and only wish the best for everyone else, for you never know what may wipe the smile off of her face...or even yours....
1034120
you say our in love with your closest friend and you have been friends for 2 years if he is a good friend and you LIKE him why would you think of dropping his friendship, it's not like he is lying to you or cheating on you. I have been in this situation a few times (always a bridesmaid never a BRIDE) but I almost always chose to keep the friendship going. It is easier to deal with the fact that he doesn't want to be sexual then to not have a friendship at all.  I hope you will make the right decision that is best for you  Good Luck
1091680
The Bride is the BOSS at the wedding.\n\nIt's her day... what she says goes... \n\nIf she doesn't want Bridesmaids... done.  Next question?\n\nOh yeah... there IS ONE?\n\nHave them give a toast at the reception... or help with the carving of the cake or something... or just let them enjoy the ceremony as a GUEST.
427532
YES WHY NOT? IF SHES JUS MY FRIEND I JUS WENT TO THE PROM WITH THEN ITS COO.....IF THE OTHER GIRL ASKED ME THEN I WOULD GO BECAUSE IF U ARE JUST FRIENDS WITH BOTH THEN HAVE TO RESPECT THE FACT THAT ITS NOTHING MORE.