how can i get my friend to admit he is gay...even though i know the truth?
545657
well maybe he's not ready to admit it.coming out is a huge deal and takes a LOT of courage-and the last thing he needs is confrontation.if you're a good friend of his-let alone his best friend-try to give him room to breathe, think and summon the courage to come out.in the meantime, if your little sisters are using the same computer and you're afraid they could stumble on the sites, just erase the history on the computer so they won't be able to revisit the same sites. good luck to you both
1010361
try to tell it in a subtle way. do not make fun of the person.\nit would hurt since the truth always hurts.but since you are a friend and is concerned for that person. im sure the person would rather hear it from u than anyone else
540848
Strike up a conversation about someone who is gay and see what their stance is. Then tell them if it isn't too terrible.
458994
My advice play it safe, and just become friends with him at first. Then once hes comfortable with having you around start talking about a gay issue and watch his responce, try and do it when there is no one else around. That will be a dead give away to his orientation.  I dont have a lot of experiance with this, but its the advice i ALWAYS get.
610136
Bring the matter up gently, at a time when you two are alone so she won't feel uncomfortable speaking candidly.  Let her know from the beginning that no matter how she lives her life, you value her friendship and are not going to abandon her (as I HOPE you won't), but if it turns out that she is gay and has been making some advances, you need to tell her that, while you support her in what she thinks is the right way to live her life, you do not think that's the right choice for you.  Good luck, and remember friendships are REALLY important!
856655
Tell it in his face....\n\n"DUDE, IM NOT A FAGGET, STOP STARING AT ME"
700020
First of all, there's no reason to belive that your brother is gay just because he hangs around with a bunch of theater guys.\n\nBut if he is gay, it's probably best that you let him tell you when he's ready rather than confronting him on the subject.  Create a welcoming environment.  When you discuss gay issues, make it clear that you are accepting of gay people and that you support gay rights.  Then be patient.  If he really is gay, he'll need some time to come to terms with his own sexuality before he's ready to share with his family.
349294
Does he know your gay?If not tell him and let him know how you feel.
299173
my best guy friend is gay
545061
Listen closely, you don't want to lose a valuable friendship.\n\nGay people (or people who are confused about their sexual orientation) tend to think that ANYONE who is sweet is gay. That is NOT TRUE. I have a teacher, who seems VERY GAY. He's way tooooo sweet to seem straight, his voice even has that little tone to it.. i swear i would have finished his class believing he was truly gay. Then one day, i was out, and went to give him my excuse, and he said, "don't worry about it, I was out to, I cancelled class. My wifes aunt passed away so we had to go to her funeral in Flint." I was like, oh, you're married? and he said, "yes.. here you can see her picture" and she was a she.\n\nMORAL OF THE STORY: not everyone whos nice and seems gay is gay. People now have a adefinition of being gay.\nGay= a guy whos nice and sweet, and has a certain ring to his voice, and in most cases is hot.\nbut that is not completely true, as a matter of fact it's completely false. Society tends to give false images..\n\nBe careful. If he's gay, he's gay. If not, then he's not.\n\nWhat you can do is, confess that you're gay, or you think you might be, and tell him you don't want it to ruin your friendship.\n\nIf he's gay, he'll be comfortable enough to say he is. If not, then he'll probably get freaked out at first, but then come around to accept you for who you are.
934578
The best thing to do is to steer the questions ever so subtly to the gay without saying it. If he knows you're gay then it'll be a little trickier, but if not just say compliment a guy and see if he agrees... Worked for me in high school... it's just so much harder cause so many guys have "gay" mannerisms and gays usually play the "straight" (if there is such a thing)...
563104
Deal with it. \n\nAccept it, and say that you are not gay(unless you are...).\nTell him to accept you as a hetero.
1042898
What makes you think he's Gay?  \n\nMany Gay people do their 'best to fit into society' by joining up with a person of the opposite sex to keep the appearance of being 'normal'.  They marry and have kids sometimes as well -- all to keep up the facade and DENY who they are to themselves and his family.  The thing is, if you believe this to be true, then first thing is ask him.  If he denies (he will I'm sure), then be on your way if you are that convinced.  Because no matter how attractive you are, sweet, loving etc.. he will NOT change who he is attracted to - it's in his DNA/Biology who he is attracted to.  So do yourself a favor and just walk away from that.  \n\nI hope it all works out for you, but there are no 'sure tests' to be 100%.  If your GUT is telling you he is, then trust your gut, because most of the time, your gut is never wrong.  If your friends have 'gently commented/asked about it' then it is 'for sure' time to break it off.  Do your best not to hurt his feelings and your own feelings.  Be good to yourself and there is NOT something wrong with you that you 'fell' for osmeone Gay.  \n\nGood Luck and be well! :)
387884
If he's really your friend than he wouldn't care after you tell him you're gay, but try to talk to him and tell him how you feel..... Just don't push it though, Just try to be more of a friend and don't show any sighns that you like him, I have the same problem that's why I'm telling you this, Is the first time that I felt atracted to a guy (even though he atracts me as a women would atract me) I been with alot of girls and still like them, but I have the same problem you do, he's my friend, at first I couldn't stop thinking of him and called him sometimes, I got nervous when around him, but never seem to get a reaction from him, so I stop calling, still talk to him at work and I try to be more sure of myself and be more confident, now he gets nervous arond me and ask me if I want to smoke outside with him....We have a really good comversation and he trusts me more, He invited me for his b-day party, and even though I work that day I was willing to work 18 hours straight on another day just to get that day of, what I mean is be a good friend and more confident about yourself, don't think too much of the situation and just go with flow... I don't even know if he's bi, bacause him and I use to go out with the same girl, I just found that out! But he's a nice person and a good friend, and I'm basically showing him that he has a strong firend by his side that is there for him and winning his trust, and when you like someone just think that is not always you, is more about that person really.... But good luck with him though!
205905
get a friend to tell\n him
1166409
Well then don't judge him that's not your place. Make sure that he knows that you love him and support him. But you need to remember that it is not your place to judge God will do that when the time comes. If you love him just accept him and look at him as a person. Its not your job or right to try and change him and if you do really care about him then you can look past the fact that he is homosexual, and just look at him as a friend. There should be no need to try and make sure that he knows you don't agree with his lifestyle. I have homosexual friends and I don't agree with it but I'm not crappy enough to tell them that. It would hurt them, and I don't think thats really my place. As much as we say that is not judging it really is.
298460
Telling someone that you're gay can really help a lot, just because you don't have to carry around your secret all by yourself anymore. Probably the best person to tell that you're gay is a female friend, since they will likely have less problems with it than a male friend. If you're gay, chances are that you'll have more girl friends than guy friends. However, pick carefully! Don't tell it to someone that you've had a fight with recently or that you're not totally comfortable with them knowing. Think about whether this person could use the information to get back at you for something. It's your choice and depends on your family, but maybe you want to tell your parents. However, if you think that they'd react badly and still depend on them, give this some thought. Parents can react better or worse than you'd imagine. Another option might be a sister, if you have one. Be very careful before telling people at work or school. And before telling anyone, ask yourself: a) Is this person a religious fanatic who would be violently opposed to gays and set me on fire with kerosene? (If so, not a good choice) b) Would this person use me as their 'gay friend' to go shopping and get fashion advice? (If so, and this might be surprising, also not a good choice. You need a friend that will love you for you, not for your gayness). The people you tell should be people that will just say 'okay' and you can move on with your lives and you can feel better about it.