How do you deal with the loss of a loved one?
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One day at a time. Just remember they want you to enjoy your life so get out there and have some fun. Go do some volunteer work in the name of your loved one. Take on a good cause in memory of that person. Plant some trees.\n\nHave a good life!
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You allow yourself to work through the grief. People often say, "Move on! Get over it!", but when you truly love someone who doesn't share your feelings, it's a loss. It's no less valid than losing someone in another way, like through death, divorce, moving far away, etc. You can't just shut off your feelings. You need to give yourself time to work through your feelings and grieve the loss.\n\nThe trick is to keep your grief from interfering with the rest of your life. Set aside certain times to let your feelings out. For example, you can decide, "I'll spend one hour a day feeling hurt." If you catch the thoughts coming out at other times, picture a big, red STOP sign and put them out of your thoughts until your designated "grief time."\n\nGood luck!\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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It does take time to grieve, and it often takes much longer than people think. This is especially true if you witnessed the violent death of your fiance. \n\nOne of the ways that people grieve is to talk about the person they lost, the event if they witness it, and how their life is different since their loss. One of the problems is that people around you often feel that you should be over it by now, and they may not be as available to listen. So you might want to check out a community bereavement group that might allow you to talk with others over a period of a few months. For many people this helps them to process their loss.\n\nFor the record, I don't think you ever "get over" someone, but you are able to put the loss in perspective. I've heard people say that "I haven't forgotten the person, but I can now think about them without crying!"\n\nYour local hospice, hospital, mental health association or even a local funeral home may offer bereavement groups. Most of the time they are free of charge, as well.\n\nSince you did witness the violent death of your fiance, you might also have some issues related to that trauma itself. If you have other symptoms of anxiety or depression you might want to talk this over with your doctor or a mental health professional.
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First, please accept my sincere condolences.   I lost my dad the same way about 10 years ago.  I'm going to be brutally honest with you because you need to know and knowing what is coming will make it easier for you to deal with.  Her lungs will fill with fluid.  They may try a couple of times to drain them but, eventually, they will advise that treatment is no longer effective.  They will keep her heavily medicated with pain killers, usually morphine.  Morphine effects different people in different ways.  Some sleep, some hallucinate.  Be prepared.  At the end, she will lapse into unconsciousness.  Her breathing will become more and more labored and, eventually, it will just stop.  \n\nBe there with her as long as she is conscious.  Let her tell you how much she loves you, even though you already know that.  She needs to say goodbye.  In that last vigil, hold her hand.  She'll know you're there to ease her passing.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
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Lexy,\nI am deeply sorry for your loss, however, remember you son is now in a better place and is watching over his mother.  Read Sylvia Brown's "Life on the Other Side".  I have had too many close experiences with death and this has really helped me understand what is to happen next.  Our bodies will terminate, however we will not.\n\nNate
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Listen, be there for him. I just lost my dad, and the best thing for me is to keep busy. Try to get him back into his routines. Too much time on your hands makes you think too much, although he does have to grieve in his own way.  It would be nice for him to have some of his friends visit or call. Just make sure he doesn't withdraw too much. You sound like a good friend. I hope this helps.
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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My Grandma passed away 6 yrs ago on the 6th of July.......her Bday is June 30th......every yr since she has left.....I go to her gravesite....bring her fresh flowers & just sit for an hr or so....although some people would say I am bonkers.....I talk....I tell her everything....even though I know she is with me on a daily basis....& sees all that is going on....I still do this....it makes me feel like she is really there.....even though I walk away crying...& missing her even more....I know that it something we enjoyed together.....my Grandma was a VERY special woman....I miss her everyday & sometimes just break down & cry whenever I think of her.....I just thank god she was able to meet my daughter before she went....my son was 2 & my daughter was 1 when it happened.....Honey, I know it is hard when it is a Parent.....she was like a mom to me.....just go spend some time with him....pray & remember every good time....even remember the bad times.....just celebrate him.....GOD BLESS YOU in your time of need....
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Thats got to be so hard for you. dealing with death is just never easy.  there is a grieving process you go through naturally but there is no easy answer to your ?,  have you talked to someone?  support groups are really helpful, talking to your pastor or other religious persons,  therapy,  other classmates.  Im so sorry for your loss,  I know how you feel.  Time does ease the pain but you never forget,  and someday in heaven you will see them again.  Know he is in a better place now and comforted.  No longer feeling pain and he is happy and content and enjoying exploring his new surroundings.  Talk to him/her,  he can hear you.  he is now watching over you.
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Know that as time passes by the pain will lesson. You always feel the void and nothing will fill its place but the pain is lessened with time. Allow grief to be. Allow memories to flow. Remembering can hurt but also help you heal. Talking about your parent will hurt also but will help you to keep their memory vivid. Don,t fear your emotions but know that they are normal. Keep yourself busy because when its somethings that's hurting you too much thinking time can be harmful. Remember that you are not alone in this emotion.
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You mourn.  You remember and cherish the good times you had with him.  You might even do something to honor his memory.  And you wait for time to heal that wound his death made in your heart.  Trust me, the healing will come.
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The funeral homes have lists of several grief support groups.  Start by contacting the one used when your spouse passed.  If you are religious, your church may have some options also.
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wwell honey i hate to tell you this but you will never " be over it" i mean eventually you will be able to think about it without crying everytime and you will have days where you dont think about them and that stuff but the pain never goes completly away because the love never goes away. just know that they are in a better place. and trust in God. he will help you and know that other people are mourning the loss of that person and they would want you to be happy. hope this helps. God bless you
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Talk to the people at ALANON.  They will put you in touch with an appropriate grief counsellor who has dealt with this before.
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You grieve.  Grieving sucks, I'm there right now.  Eventually it will get better, you just have to give yourself time.
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That is close to a death in the family so don't rely on strangers to get you through this. Friends, family and God will guide you through. Take one day at a time...
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You don't.....\n\nWe lost our daughter 4 years ago.  There really isn't anything you can do to make it go away.  But, as foreign as the notion seems now, it becomes less painful over time.\n\nWe actually ended up moving because I saw her everywhere.  We made a fresh start in another house in another city.  I think that was the beginning of the "better" for me.  I wasn't driving by the hospital she died in anymore, I didn't see her laying on the couch, playing in the yard.\n\nMost of it is in your heart.  You have to figure out the way that makes this okay for your own peace.  Can you see past how much you miss her to realizing that she is no longer in pain?  Can you reconcile it with your religion or spiritual beliefs?  Can you let her go?\n\nIn time you will have more peaceful thought and memories, and the tears that stream down your face every time you hear name will be replaced with a little smile.\n\nBetter days are coming.  I am so sorry for all you have been dealt.  I can honestly say that I know what you're going through........ and you are in my prayers.  If you want someone to talk to... I'm here.