Marriage ? Do men and women always fight in a marriage .. is it possible to have a happy marriage?
538024
conflict resolution is part of a healthy marriage.
50151
Very possible.  Staying together over years takes alot of work and alot of other things.  Some of them are trust, faith in the other person and be willing to work through what comes your way rather than take the easy way out.  Now days most marriages end in divorce for many reasons because of a variety of things.  But by far the thing it takes the most is the willingness to work at the relationship.  They are alot like other things that takes alot of matinence to keep it going.  Love is not the only thing that will keep it alive it will take work every day to maintain it and allow it to grow and evolve as the years go by.  While love is very important it isn't the only thing needed.
725604
I am a happily married woman. You can't blame yourself for what happens or goes wrong in the marriage, UNLESS you have done something wrong. Not all marriages last, but in that case they were never meant to be! I think women should share an equal role in the relationship and don't ever let a man control you. If you do then you deserve what you get. This is not the "old" days where the woman does what the man says. I know that if my husband would ever try to control me...he would be out...out the door! If you are insecure with yourself, then you need to find yourself and then proceed from there. I have my insecurities too, but that don't mean I take the blame for anything, especially if I didn't do any thing wrong. I am very happy with my marriage and even though it doesn't always go smooth, does not mean that I don't love him and he don't love me
629090
Yes!!! My husband and I worked and worked at our marriage for years....we refused to give up even at times when thats all we both wanted to do. We fought for our marriage and we finally won!  We are much stronger and so much happier than a lot of people who we know that just give up when things get hard.
250863
i know far more unhappy married men than happy married men.  i do know some happy married guys though - and there's no rhyme or reason to which guys end up happy and which don't.  it seems pretty random.
959598
You all ready know what to do, you answered your own question: "There are so many issues that need to be resolved." You both need to sit down & have a discussion about these issues. Get to the root of them in order to resolve them. Sometimes things can't be resolved & you have to live with them the way they are, because you are 2 different people & that's just a part of life. However these other issues you mentioned seem to be trivial, but why the fight? Counseling may be necessary to help you both over come obstacles in your relationship & perhaps see things from a different point of view. So before planning any more wedding things, get those issues under control first & foremost. It may take several months to get things ironed out, but in the long run you'll both be happier for doing so.
438826
I just recently got married myself, and I don't think it is anything you can plan out. Just remember to keep each other happy. There is a ggod book I just finished, its called Power of a Praying Wife, it has helped me out a lot.
494098
NO, I say you should try to work things out. Marriage is a special bond between two people. Remember why you married this particular man, this special man, and remind him why he choose you to be his wife. Also both sides probably has truth to it your more than likely yell to much and he probably doesn't pay attention to his beautiful wife. If communication is what your after you may have to find a common ground on which to talk to him about. Remember marriage is a long winding road not a straight clear paved street. YOU may have to compromise to get what you want in the END.
176721
Everyone can't get along all the time. It's part of being alive, fighting. They actually say that fighting is healthy for you, it helps you vent. What's the point of having one of those relationships where you never get mad at the other person? It's not the way to live!! You fight with anyone.. you're mother, father, siblings, friends, even strangers. Of course lovers are going to fight.. doesn't mean that don't love each other though.
898841
They should be.  Plus a zillion more.  We are so caught up in the romance of marriage, we forget that it is s-e-r-i-o-u-s.  We don't want to talk about these things.\nAnd we can always get a divorce, right?  Even when both parties agree it isn't working out it still causes immeasurably emotional damage.\n\nHere are a few from my arsenal:\nWhat will you do when you find you cannot agree?\n\nWho will be responsibile for paying the bills and keeping the checkbook?\n\nWhat is your attitude toward children?\nWhat would you do if you cannot conceive children of your own?\n\nHow often do you want to invite people to your home?\n\nWhere will you spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter? How will you decide?
320224
I'm married for 13 years and my marriage it isn't perfect,but after all this years I think is better being married than not,because you have more than one possibility to share your happy (or not happy) moments with the person you love,one way or another.Happiness and unhappiness are hard to be supported alone.
376967
Yes. Usually when two people fight all the time, a sexual tension builds up. However, that's all it may be. Just physical. I don't think it would be love.
560984
Never forget that no relationship is perfect. If there's a perfect relationship, then something is seriously wrong. You have to take the ups with the downs. Don't always expect it to be happy times. Marriage is totally about compromise, so don't ever expect to always get your way or you're doomed to fail. Never go to bed mad...stay up and fight till it's resolved or you'll carry the bitterness with you into the following days and unresolved issues will come up to bite you in the *ss later on. Don't ever bring up past fights or your partner's wrong-doings to throw in their face, that's just mean and spiteful. Learn to walk away. If your partner says something that p*sses you off don't let it get to you, simply walk away with your head held high learn to say "yes hunny" when your partner says something, even if you don't agree...saves from getting into an argument. These are just a few things I've learned :D.
516287
Dave,\n\nYes, marriage is hard work for both spouses You each have to give 110% into the marriage. If you are having some issues about what is happening in your relationship and I believe that what you have written you do, I would seek the advice of a marriage counselor for both of you.\n\nFrom what I am reading into your question, it appears that your wife views that you are the cause of her unhappiness. Your discussions and arguments need to be focused on what is going on in the relatonship not about about blame and shame. There are some communication tools that you can use in your conversations with your wife that may be helpful.\n\nThis requires that you develop the skill of detachment. If you can keep your emotions under control, then you can share with your wife what you see is happening and how you feel about it. Here is an example: " Honey,I love you very much and only want the best for us. Because I want the best I am sharing this with you now, When you continually find fault with everything I do, I become frustrated, confused, angry, and hurt. I know that we are both human and that we both love each other. Can we sit down and see how we can we work things out.\n\nThis may or may not work depending on what is the cause of your wife's behavior. Regardless, you need to take control of your own behaviour and detach from your wife. If you work on yourself and become the best person you can for you, not for her then you will begin to feel good about who you are and not rely on her for your feelings of self worth.\n\nI wish you well! Surround yourself with a support system of friends who can be there for you in this time of diffculty.\n\nThere may come a day when you have to say: Honey, I love you very much and want to stay married to you. It seems however that you are unhappy in this relationship with me. If you do not want to stay married to me let me know and because I love you, I will let you go.
780747
Are you and he fighting alot? That's the interesting thing about love and marriage; First The relationship is sweet and charismatic and may stay this way for a long time. Then as time goes by you'll both have other main intrests and concerns. This is not at all strange by the way. I got married at a very young age and didn't know the guy long enough first. This may have been what happened to you also. I went back and forth to my ex for about 3 years before I finally followed through with the divorce.
353751
Don't raise your voice, call names or make accusations.  Don't try to be right all the time and don't try to solve problems all by yourself.  Take your partner's suggestions and compromise whenever possible.  I am a female.
1002998
Things men need to know about marriage... Happy wife , Happy life..  make ur wife happy and she'll be puddy in your hands.. and the key is saying "yes dear" as much as possible..lol.. and dont stop remembering why u fell in love with her and all u did to get her , men tend to forget that women are emotional creatures and need to have their emotions fed on a regular baisis.. Think about it, Most girls that have good fathers, are daddy's little angels, they've had their dads attention all their lives, made to feel they are special, and nothing in this world could ever compare to them.. then they marry a man that farts in bed, cant remember to put the toilet seat down, and scratches his crotch on a regular bases and says "babe can u hand me a beer" .. wow how lucky are we.. lol..  U want a happy marriage, u better start realizing how good u have it to have her, appreciate her even on her bad days cause god knows we put up with alot of mens BS lol.. Love her, cherish her, and realize ya'll arent a walk in the park either .. lol