Why won't my step-mom accept me as I am?
542460
She can't see how much your partner loves you because she is stupid.  And she'll keep on being a heterosexist pain in the a$$ until she realizes that she is being stupid and decides to change.  There is nothing you can do to fix it besides giving her some books and some PFLAG brochures.\n\nYou just need to get on with your life, with our without her approval and you need to demand nothing less then full equality.  Bring your girlfriend over to meet them, and if she doesn't like it, she can sit upstairs all night while your girlfriend talks to your dad.  Don't change your life to accomodate her stupidity.  Just live and hope she removes her head from her a$$ at some point.
568455
Yes, tell her it all.  Unfortunately, she may not believe you and it may cause a rift in your relationship with her, for awhile anyway.  You shouldn't have waited though.  It may sound like sour grapes at this point and your mom may think you are making this up because she is making fun of you.  I would tell her that she could believe you or not.  It is her choice, but to not be surprised to find out that your stepdad, has been cheating on her in the past, or will be cheating on her in the future.  Tell her that you are not saying this for any other reason than that she needs to know the truth.  I'd even tell her that you really thought that he was being a great guy by coming all that way to help you out and that you wouldn't say anything against him if it was not true.  Tell her that you do not want to cause any problem with her and your relationship with her.  I would also tell her that you do not want to be alone with him or have your daughter left alone with him.  It may make your point stronger.  Good luck!
984853
Your not a horrible person, I know this because my mom and step dad fight about the same thing. There is still hope for your relationship and not to worry about a thing for a bit. Things will brighten up soon.
720030
Is religion the reason that your parents don't accept your relationship? If so I would sit down with each set of parents separately and come to some sort of agreement. Many family are multi-denominational, get involved in both churches. If you need to divide your weekends every month in order to fully appreciate both families beliefs and ideas then I think that would be a very worthwhile thing. \nTo be sure that the barrier between the two of you is religion I would start with speaking to my mother about it. Take a moment when it's just the two of you and have a heart to heart. \nTake things slow, decide what is most important to the two of you and go from there. No one can decide another person's destiny.\nGood luck!
45549
I understand that you would like to have your family unified on your religious beliefs, as well, as the little grandchildren to come.  Who wouldn't?\nHowever, if he already knows your feelings, and they are still getting married, you have to put your feelings about this aside and just accept her.  I'm sure you don't want division in your family.  It isn't what you wanted for your son, but he has made his decision.  If she isn't a criminal, or will hurt your future grandbabies, or something like that, you just have to love her, and accept her in your family.
819202
You would definitely be accepted by me if i was your mom. Gay people cannot help being Gay . Why should you be treated like an outcast by your family, you are their son anyway. It might come as a shock at first but they will get over it. I personally love Gay people, i find them amusing, funny and very very witty. It is nothing to be ashamed off.
1060669
Being a parent is never easy nowadays. Step-parent is even more challenging.\nTry surrender to all *EXPECTATIONS* of what each and everything *should be*,\nbut instead, see everything as it *is*.\n\nYou'll then accomplish a lot by non-doing and accepting.
788537
The time to discuss these issues is when your dad comes to pick you up or drop you off to your mom's ... just as you will change boyfriends when you start to date til you find one you really like, he has divorced your mother because of differences between them and found someone he likes better.  its not about you and you should not approach this as a competition between you and your stepmother.  Usually the reason step parents don't get along with their kids is because they are both competing for the attention of the husband/father.  She has a responsibility as a parent to help you grow up safely and she also needs to be treated as a "mom" by you two kids.  That means you should not exclude her and only talk to your father, This is an extended family. You can choose to be part of it or you can choose to fight against it for the attention of your father.  This is not fair to anyone, not you, not her and not your dad.  You might even sit down with her and ask her what her expectations are of you two kids so you know where her thinking is  in this relationship
202917
Maybe you should say, "Mother, I am growing up and I need a little bit of space to be my own person.  Please let me do what my instincts tell me to do instead of yours."  With a smile and hopefully she'll understand!\n\n*&#92;O/*
452263
I appreciate you for taking care of the step daughter.  Do not worry about your mother-in-law or sister-in-law.  People always talk and wait for opportunities to find faults. Play your role as a mother to all your three kids and be happy.  You be a good mom as you have always been.  Remember your stepdaughter knows of no other mom other than you and to her you mean everything. I am sure your husband will understand this and try to make his mother understand. Good luck.
1124288
i can tell you one thing, i have been in your shoes. when my husband and i first got together his mom and his sister hated me. and that was ok because the feeling was mutual. he basicaly looked at his mom and told her "hey this is the girl i want to be with, forever, and if you don't like it that to f** bad. " His mom wasn't very happy with this. he moved out of the house and moved in with me. She only saw him on holidays because he didn't want anything to do with her if she wasn't going to accept me. And yes i know it has to do with "taking away her baby boy" blah blah blah. His mom didn't like me until 2 yrs later when i gave birth to her granddaughter. Mind you, we were already married. So my advice to you is be kind, be nice and take it with a grain of salt. If he loves you then he will be the one to step up and say somethig to his family. He'll be a man about the situation and explain to everyone that you are the one for him and they need to accept you and respect you and the relationship that he has with you. Good Luck!
400818
honey you can't please both sets of parents. the big Question is " What do you want?" You have to set your mom down and tell her how you feel and what you want to do. That goes the same for your dad. Plus you need to tell your dad that it really hurts you when your stepmom makes those comments. You give me the impression that you feel like you have to please both parents and be perfect. You don't though. Sweetie be yourself and they'll love you. But you have to start by pleasing yourself first. GOOD LUCK
301311
I'm sorry but your mom sux.She is obviously defensive.If you are of age you can become a citizen on your own.
390299
Unfortunately, even though it is wrong to reject family members for that reason, it happens alot. But tell them anyways. Don't ever hide who you are! Don't ever feel like who you are is wrong because they do not agree or approve! You never know, they could be cool with it. You can not change who you are and if anyone, family member or not, can not except you, then it is better off that that person is no longer in your life. Good luck!
198527
Wait....your mom chooses your friends for you?  That is just a wee bit controlling don't you think?\n\nNow, about your question.  There is nothing wrong with the way you feel.  Explore it a bit and see if that is what you really want.  Contact a local support group.  When you know who you are, don't be ashamed to tell your family.  If they love you, they will accept who you are.  There might be some feathers flying, but things will settle.
954901
I understand what you are saying, sometimes the female is thinking the same way her mother did, it depends on how you deal with them and how you encourage them to be their own woman.\n\nLife is short and you maybe need to talk openly with the lady and explain how you feel and then maybe she will listen and understand what you are looking for.\n\nI wish you good luck
301489
You can't.\n\nYou only accept what is appropriate for you when it comes. Sometimes what/who you want is not what you need.