At what point do women grow up and start to appreciate men who are good to them?
549817
That is a good question my friend.  I can only hope that at some point in every girls life they realize that there are more than the idiots that they always seem to choose.
558100
It depends on the person who calls them beautiful.  Even within the television "beauties" people's opinions differ on who is beautiful and who is not.  When I've let myself get beyond the surface (upon meeting a nice guy), I've noticed that his character overshadows his looks.  I hope that is true for women.
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The qualities you mentioned are never boring, especailly to someone who truly appreciates you for who you are.    As for women who date men who mistreat them - they usually have low self esteem.  Look for someone who is emotionally stable, isn't in a relationship, is self confident and is genuinely happy with who she is.  \np.s. my mom always said you can tell a lot about a person by looking at their shoes- no kidding.  if they take care of their shoes then they usually have  pretty good self esteem.  If the heels are all worn down... - well you get the picture.
481824
I always loved older men. Men get better as they age. Like a fine wine.  A little grey in there hair and some wrinkles around the eyes. Beautiful.  When men hit fourty look out there hitting there peak! I have always been told that girls mature faster than boys so i think that is why older men are attractive because by the time they reach fourty they have finally become mature and refined. Not all, some.
710868
well.. if a guy attracts you, that means he has good qualities that other ladies dig, so yea a lot of the great guys are taken..but they're still out there
571053
You said in your question, if you take a second and read it again that, u are lucky to have found this guy,u feel self-conscious, and you wonder if u will be able to satisfy him, what can u do? I think what you need to realize is that a man IS satisfied by a woman that treats him good. period. physical attributes mean very little if you give him your love and respect. You have to know that you are a woman with everything on that body and in that heart that a man would ever want. please keep in mind that relationships at your age are probably not forever. it was what i went through as a man then that gave me the wisdom and maturity to see a good woman as more than a physical lust. i took women for granted,blindly, and because of my own insecurities and shortcomings. dont be scared to live and love deeply. dont feel like your body lacks anything. if you do love him, make sure its love you get back. i hope that he treats you right, and respects you like he should. baby, it's not the breasts, it's the heart behind it that makes a man fall in love.
725788
I was very interested in your question and the answers you recieved. I have been with "bad boys", you could say i have a lil bit of an addiction...lol It's not that i am stupid or because i ws abused as a child. It's not that i am still so immature that i do not see the pitfalls of being w' one. This said, I will tell you that Brad is right! Women want men who are confident, strong and well....act like MEN! It's in our nature as women. How many guys do you know that think it would be soooo cool if only their girlfriend acted more like one of the guys? It is great in theory..she would love sports and all the same stuff you do right? Then think about it....... do you REALLY want a girl who acts like a guy? It's not that we want the bad boy all the time (although some of us genuinely do like that...diff. reasons and i'm sure you know a few) It's that we want the guy who takes his place in the relationship as the GUY..so that we can feel like a woman. It's not that you have to BE the bad guy, you just have to pick up the traits that we are attracted to in them! Be a man, be confident, upfront, and yea...I've told a few other guys this, don't take too much of our crap because we will lose respect for you and start seeing you as a wuss! Do you know how many times i have seen girls w' nice guys and they are soo bored and not attracted to him anymore..they start checking out the bad boys... they don't understand why..i mean their guy falls all over himself for them. Our backwards screwed up society is partially to blame but all these lil girls need to stop brow beating all of our men into p***y whooped lil sissy boys and then turning around and whining that he just doesn't do it for them anymore! Romance is not dead! It's that we as women, and i know i am going to get so hated for this..lol, have put you men in a position of not knowing just how to be men anymore..... you can be both... you can be well mannered, polite, considerate, very caring and also assertive, confident and strong! Then....just stand back and hold on to your socks! Because the woman you get then will be a real woman..who recognized in you what it really takes for a good balanced realtionship! Not one of these crazy lil girls running around crying that they want this and that and basically the equivalant of being with another chick..and then dumping you when they realize that for some reason they just don't understand..you just don't do rock their world..lol \n  Just be you...be some of what she wants and needs, the same as you would want from her, and be a man. Good Luck!
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mostly at the point where it doesn't matter anymore. \n\nwomen very easily become complacent about guys in their lives, especially the ones who are good to them. \n\nthe solution would be to make her realise that she's taking you for granted and that you don't like it.\n\nseeing u respect urself will make her want to respect u more and the rest will neatly fall in place.
209121
Nice guys finish last because they are smarter. A good thing is always worth waiting for. They usually are more humble than most and have no need for the 'glory'of being first. Trust me humility makes you a better man and a better lover.
695120
A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
605928
cuz women smell good, are softer, and more intimate to be with.\n\nPerhaps a good man is still in your future, have fun for now
365978
it really depends on the girl, some start appreciating a nice guy when they're in their teens and others never really do.\n \n I think its funny when some women say they want a "bad boy" because in their minds their thinking a handsome hot rodder who plays by his own rules but yet is still a hopeless romantic, GET REAL LADIES!\n \n  They also say they want somebody who is more interesting, well how about they date a pyromaniac? He'll defiantly keep em on their toes. Or how about a guy with multiple personality disorder? then shes not just dating one guy...shes dating a whole LOAD of guys and they all have something interesting in mind.\n\n  I'm sorry i seem to have rambled, fact is, like i said, it varies girl to girl, and not to be one sided, guys need to start appreciating a good girl when they see one too.\n\n So close your eyes, toss a coin into a fountain and make a wish that you'll find that special someone who you appreciate and who appreciates you.
558999
How do you mean? Sounds like you've had some experience of this. Not all guys change dramatically. Take me for example, my best qualities have only improved gradually over time while my weaker ones have faded. Its a gradually change into become more confident in myself.
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Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
478948
I look at each man individually .I look at their maturity and their hearts. So within 6 to 10 years either way older or younger.
764602
As a 30 year old woman, she should be relieved to find such a handsome, successful, intelligent man around her age.  Any person who ends a relationship because of what others might think or say is shallow and inadequate as a partner.  If she's talking about you, you're a cutie and she should be glad you're not bald and impotent.
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Best Answer!\n\nI detect that recently you have come to a conclusion that men are demanding or suggestive towards what a woman should be. So much so they make you feel inadequate or less of person because they seek something from you that you cannot achieve in a short period of time.  \n\nBottom-line - It takes balance - mentally and physically to maintain a healthy relationship. \n\nA good man in time will develop confidence in his ability and will express a sense of being proud for his accomplishments as a good provider / home maker / etc. What most men have to learn is the type of woman he has on his team. Many of women will respect a man for his ability to be a good man, but do not want a man constantly reminding them he is the KING of the castle type of stuff.  Typically cats that get into that type of assertion need a pat on the back or someone to stroke their ego to make him feel like a man. That's not balanced. \n\nWomen on the other hand can enhance that assertion by not vocally/mentally showing up when its needed. She may play into the role of being needy and horribly insecure. She may always allow him to make decisions and suggestions - not learning to speak up and share her opinion concerning issues. So he figures he has to  take lead all the time. This too is not balanced. \n\nInstead of figuring this or that about what a man or women should its best to learn to communicate effectively ( not argue) in all areas of the relationship - from the bed to a night on the town learn to speak what's really good for both of you verses having this underline expectation of what a person should do. It will not take away from things naturally happening, but instead amplify things because you remove the doubts and negative uncertainty. This will clearly lower negative comments about a person not doing "their part" or feelings of someone is putting you down.