If your husband rejected you every time you wanted sex, would you cheat?
546831
I want to meet Playfultoyz - my kind of woman.  Seriously tho - sit down and talk with your husband.  That is not normal and something is going on.  Get the truth out of him and see where you need to go from their (professional help or divorce).  Don't cheat as you will lose your own self respect.  Flirting is OK - it makes us all feel good!  But don't take it any further.  Resolve this issue first!  Best of luck!\nJoe
677388
I don't think I could ever cheat on my husband, I love him too much. I also have been the victim of a cheater in my own past, and had my heart torn to bits by a ruthless cheating bastard (my 1st husband). If you love someone and you simply cannot conntrol yourself enough to be faithful to them in every way, then perhaps you do not really know what love is?  Or you want to have your cake and eat it too.\n\nPeople who cheat, usually do not want to admit it or they try to lie, deny or cover it up, then it only hurts twice as much when the truth does come out. A cheater would probably try to lie, and that's just like stabbing someone you are supposed to love in the heart everytime you lie.\n\nA marriage often cannot survive cheating and lying, so if you love your spouse, you will not cheat in the first place!
293793
No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K
228242
My husband cheated on me shortly after we got together...but I did say he's my husband, right?  He swears up and down to never do it again, it's hard to forget, but I have forgiven him and am still, after 2 1/2 years trying to forget.  It's not easy, but I love him too, and don't want to let go.  He respects me for forgiving him, and since I gave him a second chance, he will be faithful to me.
538062
Well perhaps the question isn't about you trusting him, so much as trusting that you are good enough to be with him. Having cheated on him once, with success, do you still respect yourself enough to believe that you deserve to have a good man? It is easy to see the many, many ways a person can cheat. It is just as easy to see behaviors that mirror the ways you felt when you were cheating.\n  As you said, if you knew he was cheating, you would drop him like a bad habit. So in your mind you're sure that he would most likely drop you much the same way.\n  Believe it or not, in alot of cases, the cheating isn't even about the sex. It's about trying to fill a void of something that is missing, which alot of times we don't even realize. It could be the excitement that was there at the beginning of the relationship, or just the time you used to have when you just sat close in front of the tv. Most times dear lady, the cheater isn't actually looking for better sex.... just a new escape. Try changing some aspects of your life with your soon-to-be husband. Meet at a night club, and act as though you're just meeting for the first time. Or share a hot bubble bath, with candle-light and soft music, but without the sex. You may find your desires finding a new source to focus on, when what you have readily available becomes more tempting as you have that proximity but don't follow through with the sex. Anticipation is a good pressure builder. Good luck.
102952
I hate men who lie and cheat. But there are many others like never wanting to be home always wanting to be "out with the boys", how you can't tell a man your problems without him trying to solve it instead of being an ear to listen or a houlder to cry on. I hate how they can't help you around the house-they think it is a woman's job as with caring for children.I hate how many are irresponible with money. The one that agers me the most about my hubby is that "He does everything for me, I do nothing for him."Oh and I forgot they want sex way more than we do..we have other things on our mind too.
371935
You married the wrong guy - I have been waiting for you all my life - now what - you just have to give him the boot - work or not if he is not interested in sex and you are newly married - troubles ahead - caution!
682110
I don't think marriage fails, we do. Marriage is a great concept, it's people who mess it up.\nI was married for 15 years and finally got up the nerve to make him get out.\nI never cheated on him, I don't think cheating is EVER the answer to anything.\nIf a person feels they need to cheat to prove a point or to find something missing, then by God , grow some balls and end the relationship.
436767
It may not be cheating in the usual unedrstanding of the word, but it most certainly is not being faithful. Consider how you would feel if your spouse had fallen in love with some bimbo on line and was sneaking off to have hot sticky computer sex when you weren't around? \n\nDon't betray your spouse.
659329
SOME men don't like to show weakness. For me, if it hurts, I'll find a solution to my problem. If your husband wants to be in pain, then let him suffer for being an idiot.
229232
I have thought about cheating, but have never acted on it and I never will. I have enough respect for my husband than that! Plus, I would hate to break up my family over my stupid actions. I think if someone's going to cheat, they should have enough respect to end the relationship first!
1084878
Why do you have to cheat? I can't see any reason you have to cheat. As you say that your husband doesn't treats you the way you want him to so ask him for a divorce. First get a divorce and then get married with a new guy who would truly love you and treat you well. Why do you have to cheat?
826992
if i wanted a chance if i were the cheater, i would acknowledge i had done a wrong, i would agree to go to counciling, i would show remorse, and allow them to communicate their hurt, no matter how many times they wanted to talk about it. and i would never say i loved the person i cheated with, even if i had. the only love i would express was to my husband. i would never give them any reason to think i was cheating, meaning i would be where i said i was, i would never leave the house without saying where i was going, and i would make him the most important one in my life, and there would be alot of communication telling him my love for him.
119912
If you doubt he loves you now than it is probably true. Also I would not want to be with someone who cheated on me. He will do it again if given the chance
438435
It may be cowardly to cheat, but more so to lie about it. Admitting that cheating is a problem, a vice, could help one to stop. Admitting to cheating usually has the worst consequences, which is logical.\n\nCheating is a high, like a cigarette for a nicotine addict, a cheater must conquer a woman to prove his manliness. this in turn most probably makes him feel weak, which in turn makes him need to prove his "strength" once again, continuing in a vicious circle. \n\nThe reasons men cheat may vary, but there is also an explanation given in Evolutionary psychology. Humans are but an instrument of gene pools. Men can have 1000 different women and produce 1000 offspring. However many partners a woman has she is still limited to a maximum of 20 children. Weird explanation. \n\nSo you can say that men who cheat haven't evolved much from our Neanderthal ancestors. \n\nIf you've been cheated on, know it is not your fault. You are probably not the reason. \n\nIf you can be compassionate with the cheater and limit your relationship to a non sexual one until he has matured into the New Age, maybe then you can try again... \n\nGood luck and God Bless
911356
only if husband allows it
1175606
I am not naive, however, I would attempt to help my husband.  He is my heart, if you love someone you do not walk away if they make a bad choice or mistake.