Please help my friend? i don't know what to tell her?
541521
i think ur friend is wise enough to know what she has to do ...dont need ur advice
653243
The ONLY thing for certain in life, is CHANGE. None of us like it, and some like it less than others, but it is inevitable. Your friend is obviously going through a big change right now, and parts of it , she doesn't even like herself. In order to support her, you must let her do what she needs to do. Don't argue with her, or try to make her stop the change, just love her in spite of the change. It's not easy, but necessary. There will come a time when she will need you really bad, and you have to be there for her. In order to cope with this, you have to develop some interests of your own, outside her.  Go out with other friends, do some things you always wanted to do, and just be patient with her. Good Luck!
610358
friends are able to talk to each other-tell her gently (but don't be rude or crude about it)\nshe'll thank you that you did
836893
I think you should talk with her about what she is doing is wrong... If she accept to change (and you see the improvement), then you can still keep her a a friend. Otherwise drop her!
260362
she is going to be hurt but you know what she has to know the truth and if you are a true friend nothin should stop you from telling her the truth. Girl she needs to know big time if she doesn't believe you then you'll just have to let her find out on her own thats not the best way but just try to tell her.
642500
You should give her the opportunity to know how you feel and what is going to happen if she doesn't change the way she is behaving.  She is probably in actuality a very insecure girl that feels that she needs to put others down.  Tell her that a friend doesn't act that way, and that just as you would for her, you are defending your friends and their feelings...that is what friends do.
1012507
If your friend is cutting herself you need to tell someone.  She could really hurt herself and the longer she does it the worse that it will get.  She has to resolve these issues with her mom somehow in order for things to get better.  Your friend might not want you to tell, but for her own good someone needs to know who can help her.\nHave you thought about talking to your mom about this?  Your mom might be able to help and/or talk to your friend's mom about whats going on with her.  Maybe even have your friend talk to your mom - someone needs to help her with her emotions and the problems she is having at home.
144300
try asking her friends. they tell each other everything
1163728
I would suggest talking to him and see what he has to say, I would also tell him that if he doesn't tell her that you will have to.\n\nThis will leave the door open for him to do the right thing, but will also save your friends fellings a little, it will be better comming from him.\n\ngood luck.
820034
It sounds like your friend is absent minded like mine is... Don't sweat it when she claims an answer you gave her a long time ago. Just remember that you are the one that told her in the first place and be happy she remembered it. Or, if you can't handle being a mentor, simply stop telling her anything. But I hardly believe you would do that since you Are friends.
1027416
Well... it sounds like there isn't anything you can do!!! If she wants to "dumb" for him, it's all up to her to relize it's time to get smart!!! She really isn't asking for your help in this because if she really wanted help, she would take your advise. Just be that ear for her. And if you feel like you don't want to be friends anymore, still be there, but keep her at a distance.
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When in doubt, PRACTICE!\n\nInstead of rushing in without a plan, write down the main points that you want to cover with your friend. Next, practice various approaches until one feels comfortable to you.\n\nYou should also consider your friend's possible responses and be prepared for how you will handle them. Because she is in denial, she may become angry at you. Have a plan for how you will deal with that and what the worst-case scenario might be. Could she possibly end your friendship over it? If so, you need to be prepared.\n\nIf she refuses to accept what you say, don't argue. Just let her know that it's your viewpoint and that you felt it was important to share it. Emphasize that if she ever needs someone to talk to, you will be there for her. Even though she may be in denial now, someday she may need you if she's forced by circumstances to face the truth.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
1091047
I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
1170009
Whatever you say make sure u mean it..... Just let your friend know if he or she needs any help ...such as help around house yard w/kids running errands u r willing  and ready. That way your friend can concentrate more on getting well.  If your friends wants to talk  about their illness  truly listen.   Most importantly by all means, do not treat your friend any different than you have in past.
467488
LET HER GET IT ALL OUT,CRY,THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR HER ANYWAY, TRY BE ATTENTIVE AND OFFER HER SUPPORT! SHE IS OBVIOUSLY HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH THIS PROBLEM, AND YOU MUST FEEL QUIT PROUD THAT SHE'S TURNED TO YOU 4 ADVICE.SHE TRUSTS YOU, AND THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR!!!!
61285
first ask her if there is a problem. when she tell you not all detail but tell us something and then maybe we could help you
666959
I think your friend has self esteem issues. She's probably just looking for attention, so try talking to her and trying to get to the root of the problem of why she feels like she's helpless or 'pathetic'. If you take an interest in her it's better than one sharp line to make her feel better once. You can't always keep milking that catch phrase if you will, to make her feel better every time, after a while it will go stale and you'll need something else.