how  do I motivate  my son to  get better grades in school    and be more responsible?
548395
Don't know what age son is however,                   respect him as a person first and don't compare him to others.\nIf he gets something right no matter how small, praise him. If he gets it wrong sit with him and discuss how he can get it right the next time.\nYoung people do well at different things they are not all good at one thing, remember that when you are trying to motivate him
924944
Be involved in your son's daily school activities to personally see what's going on.  Have you actually talked with the teacher?  Sometimes kids will make up stories to avoid talking about their discipline situations at school.  Being there will allow you to make up your own mind about what's happening.  (Taking off work or whatever your personal activities are will bring the quiestions to answers sooner and well worth the effort so it doesn't go much farther.)
611801
Be carefull who he hangs around with.  Watch his internet activity.  If you have to, take off his bedroom door.  It's yours, not his.  Watch for a lot of late night activity.  Smell his breath often and keep on him about grades and homework.  Raising kids is the hardest job you'll ever have.
967815
Well, first of all, think about what you did before that made you get those grades. Now, think of ways to improve them. Second of all, you need to get rid of all distractions while studying. For example, don't watch TV on school days or don't use the Internet on school days unless it is emergency or homework. Trust me, it really works! Finally, do your best in everything. Don't give the teachers any possibilities to give you low grades. Just focus, believe in yourself, let nothing stop you from doing what you can do, and have faith in God AND YOU SHOULD DO FINE.
1093356
do some things w/o her reminding you, and then be a very good kid....break it to her easily....say your grades "might" not be that great.....act responsible to show her you are already trying to improve! (try this, it might not work, but how am i supposed 2 know? i've never gotten a B on a report card! straight As all the way! ...not to make you feel bad or anything.....)
880615
You could write a tale about a boy who procrastinated and how he learned not to do that in the future. Good luck with this, and remember to check your spelling.
857900
take your kids to an inner city slum or bad area. let them feel how one can end up. if they do not work hard in school to get a good education so they can get a good job and make a nice life for themselves. teach your kids  self reliance. The child has to realize himself that  he needs to get the good grade for himself and not for the parents or teacher. this teaching of self reliance also needs to be applied to all areas of his life. doing chores around the house. never tell him/her you are too small to help cook or do the dishes because he would only get in the way. \nnever invalidate. or treat the child like a child. treat the child as a human being with respect. you get the benefit of not being a slave to your child and when he /she is 18 , they will be ready and able to leave the house. do not tell your kids what to do. but show them how to do it. and they will never rebel. good luck
308135
The only way you can motivate his behavior toward change is by consequences or for him to find an intrinstic reason why studying is beneficial to him. Extenal rewards such as "cash" only work in the short term. In order for him to change his behavior for good he has to find intrinsic rewards - internal motivation. For example, I did terrible in school all the way up till college when I figured out what I wanted to do with my life - be a therapist working with kids. Until I figured that out I wasnt motivated in school either.\n\nAt his age I guess he needs to get the message that sometimes we have to do things because it is our responsibility to do them. As a child his job is to go to school. Explain to him if he doesnt do his "job," consequences will occur. Figure out what he enjoys and use it against him and BE CONSISTENT WITH IT!!! I cant stress that enough. Also catch him when he's doing good and go above and beyond to show him hard work pays off.\n\nAgain, the only way you can motivate him to do it on his own is to help him find an internal drive, a personal motivation. If you cant do that, punishment and rewards are the only way.\n\nCounselorDan (Child Therapist)
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I would seek help from your administration. Perhaps a meeting with your administrator is needed. Usually, students follow their parents lead. \n\nMost importantly, don't take it personally. One bad apple shouldn't make you get down on yourself. You are so valuable to our children's future so please don't let it get you down.
685847
You need to find out why he won't do it. Trying talking to him about it calmly. Assuming that he is not just a lazy child. There may a distraction at school.\nOr maybe he is just depressed...almost anything can affect a childs school work.
205118
First of all, if your son's ADHD is not already being treated, consider getting him some treatment.  No matter what kind of school he goes to, he will find it hard to concentrate and therefore succeed.\n\nSecondly, people with ADHD can do many kinds of things.  Find out what your son's interests are as far as his future, and then find a program that fits those interests.  A local community college might be a good place to start.  Many people with ADHD go on into successful futures.  If your son didn't have ADHD, I suspect you'd be encouraging him to pursue something that interested him.  Why not do the same thing for him now, then?  I like the idea of checking with the office for disabled students.  They have special advisors that can help your son.\n\nI hope you and your son have a lot of success.
956850
I know this will sound cold and uncaring but really it's not.\nIf he's having probs with sports and keeping grades up...take away the sports privileges. School work should be his main focus, then sports.\nMy son is in a couple of school activities and I've told him he either keeps his grades up or he loses the other activities.\nMy nephew is in ROTC, he has the same rule...keep the grades and homework up and done and turned in or you lose the courses you WANT for the ones you NEED. \nI think we all want our kids to do well in school, I do.\nKNOWLEDGE FIRST...then extra school activities.\nHope you find something that works.
865964
Help him (or her) to find things that he's good at.  Compliment him on things he does do well--simple things like shoe-tying, buttering bread, taking turns, etc.   Get him to help you with things and when you do don't say "will you..." say "I need you to..."   It's great for kids to feel needed.  And mostly, just love him.
799166
Are you more upset that he failed English or he doesn't want to play football?\n\nGet your priorities in order.  A scholarship will not materialize if the young man can't pass English. \n\nTell your son to stop feeling sorry for himelf.  Many people from Einsten to Michael Jordan have failed something when they were young - the important thing is to get back up and prove to others that you can get the work done. \n\nWhen your son gets sacked by an opposing linebacker does he stay on the ground? No, he shakes it off and goes to the next play and doesn't think about the previous play. \n\nIf your son did the report in the wrong fashion that means he is capable of doing it the right way, so he can improves his grades at some point. \n\nAs parents, you have to be the strong ones and you have to set the example.  Your son must be told that he can't run away from his problems or accept failure so easily. \n\nI doubt the coaches wil make his life a living hell over one report. \n\nAs for you and your husband "not functioning" - that is silly. You are the parents, you have to find a way to function!!
824981
ask the school if she could do more advanced work in the class room and if she continues to improve see if they can help you get he moved up a year or into a special school which would help develope her further\n you must be very proud of her just keep helping her at home also
97902
It is hard to motivate yourself. A good motivation is if you can convince your parent's to pay you for good grades. I read about that somewhere. When you are in school you are commiting more time and effort to it than many people put into their jobs. You need some kind of motivation to do well. Adults do not work for nothing and neither should people in school.
255389
The school may provide a program, that is the best bet.  You can check with the school board, or can raise the issue at parent and teacher conferences.  If that fails, you can try algebra made easy books.  I hope this is helpful, and your son comes to understand it, just keep with it, it will sink in.