How can I get my ex-husband back?
549667
First of all - you need to realize that he is just that... He is your EX husband.  It is so easy to just remember the good things that happened in a relationship and forget the bad.  The mind is amazing how it works that way.  It kind of helps make us happier (usually).  It's like giving birth.  Talk to a new mother in her ninth hour of labor and ask her when she wants to do it again.  Yet, the population keeps growing.  You forget the bad...\n\nIf you really want him to like you again (in the event that he doesn't), my best advise is to be one of those people that is FUN to be around.  If you are desperate and clingy and throwing yourself at him and weepy, trust me, he is going to want to avoid you like the plague.  (not that you are).  Who wants to spend their time around someone that is moping around, and puts them through the wringer, and is emotionally draining?  Now, who wants to be around someone that is busy doing FUN things, and chipper, and smiling, and positive...  (you get the picture)
393466
If he wants you back he will find a way.  You might have to accept that he has moved on and try to do so yourself.  The pain goes away if you let it.x
977139
Just invite him to come visit if you are done with your ex altogether. be kind and make a good impression. If necessary, send a letter to your ex telling him what's up and maybe even apologize. Ladies, email me at johnluisduffy@yahoo.com
459055
The best way to help your ex get on with his life is by getting on with your life. Show him that there's life after divorce, and happiness. Be courteous, but not over-friendly. Discuss what needs discussion, like the kids, or whatever, then have places to go, and things to do...don't spend time in useless dialogue. Also, as far as property goes, settle that as soon as possible. If you and he have no possible reconciliation, no need to spend a lot of time together. Move on!
155931
This sounds like a terrible story, but is there a question in it somewhere?\n\nEDIT: Okay, let's try to figure out what the question is.  Are you trying to figure out how you can get your daughter back from your ex-husband?  If that's it, you really ought to talk to a lawyer...maybe you can find a decent one through the Bar Association that will do some pro bono work.  If you just aren't interested in working with lawyers, and you really want to involve this group in something as personal as this, you're going to have to post more details...and more *relevant* details (stick to the facts, ma'am).\n\nIf you want better answers, ask better questions and include more of the important details.  Things people might want to know are these:\n\nAre there any court orders right now?\n\nWhat state do you live in?\n\nWhy did your ex take your child, or at least why do you think he did or what did he tell you?\n\nHave there been any allegations of improper parenting on either side?  Any mental health issues on either side?  Drug use?  \n\nIf I'm guessing correctly at what you want to know, I just don't think you're going to be able to get the answers you need in this forum.
386154
Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
1116158
dont try 2 get ppl back b the adult and 4-get about him walk away and everthing will b good :)
956126
WHY WOULD YOU WANT HIM BACK?\n\nWHY WOULD YOU SIT THERE AND WAIT FOR HIM TO DECIDE WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?\n\nTAKING HIM BACK WOULD TEACH THE WRONG MESSAGE TO YOUR CHILDREN.\n\nIT'S BETTER FOR THEM TO COME FROM A BROKEN HOME THAN TO LIVE IN ONE.\n\nYOUR HUSBAND JUST DOESN'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ALIMONY AND CHILD SUPPORT.  BUT IT'S WHAT YOU DESERVE FOR HIS INFIDELITY AND ABANDONMENT.\n\nYOU SHOULD CHANGE THE LOCKS AND GET A TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER.  WORK OUT VISITATION DETAILS IN A DIVORCE DECREE.\n\nYOU SHOULD NOT ALLOW YOUR CHILDREN TO SEE HIM ABUSE AND CONTROL OU LIKE THIS, AND THEY SHOULDN'T SEE YOU ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN OR ACCEPT IT WHEN IT DOES.\n\nHE HAS CLEARLY MADE HIS CHOICE AND IT IS NOT YOU OR HIS OWN FAMILY.  HE HAS STARTED A NEW ONE AND REPLACED YOU.  THERE'S NOTHING THAT CAN EXPAIN, JUSTIFY, OR MAKE THAT ALL RIGHT.\n\nWHY GIVE HIM ANY CONTROL OVER YOU?  HE'S NOT WORTH IT.
576963
well just hope he comes back\n\nmake some new friends and get on with your life
1064029
If you know the court where the proceedings were held call the clerk of the court.  You do need to check.  My now-ex was not divorced before he married his second wife.  It was a mess.  If he loves you he will help or show you the signed AND court stamped papers.
826515
Get a lawyer!!! Most states have legal services for low income families...so if you can't afford one then look in your local yellow pages for the closest legal aid office....if you have complied with everything and hopefully are no longer with the father...you should be able to get them back...the longer you wait to get an attorney the harder it will be for you to get them back.
768936
Unfortunately, if it wasn't written in the divorce decree, I don't think you'll be able to get anything from it. Remember, he is your ex, which means you have no ties to his pension. I know about this because of my divorce. Everything, including my pension, that was of value was put into my divorce documents. It also stated that from this point forward, everything was separate. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
760078
Ex-husband or boyfriend? If he has no legal claim over the house call the cops. If he does then leaving with your kids sounds like the only reasonable option.
224669
You can look for his phone or ask the government's help to find your husband's phone number, you can call him to come back and if he says no, you can tell him that you see him in the court. You can find a lawyer, tell him/her your problem and later on the court, you just have to tell the story again. Or another quicker way is that you can seek government's help. If you really can't reach him, the only thing that you can do is to really sit and wait for him.
162999
Before me and my husband where married, he lwas doing the same and, i left. I told him he would be calling me and wanting me back in 6 months. Need less to say , 6 months later i find out she was cheating on him and he wanted me  back. now were married. Show him what he will be missing. Trust me he will miss you.  Then tell him to go be with her and see.
895134
Right now there is so way to find him. If you misses his child support, you can get the police involved.\n\nOther than that there is no way other than to call around to his family and friends.
308556
divorce and break up!!