Ex- Boyfriend Trouble?
549208
while breaking up with him wasn't the best thing to do, most of us whould have done the exact same thing.  Have a talk with him. Ask him if he's intrested in giving you a secind shot and explain why you broke up in the first place.  If he isn't all you wanted-he's out of your system and you might cry a little.  the decision is yours but i know what it's like to like someone that much.  give it a shot. who knows- maybe he was dumping them because they wern't like you.  Only he and his friends know. Carpe Diem. Seize the day and take a chance-sorry if this is corny. I'm watching a walk to remember
869839
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
396996
It's been years. Not too much ever p*sses me off.\n\nI had an exboyfriend a few yrs. back that was extremely jealous, and he would accuse me of crazy things that I couldn't even dream of doing. I had a couple hissy fits in that relationship because he would frustrate the hell out of me. But since then...none.
131739
No, probably not.  A lot of people tend to play head games with their ex's just to prove to themselves that they could get them if they wanted to.  Odds are that he is your ex for a reason and that reason probably hasn't changed.
729285
If you don't care for him anymore, you may want to ask him to stop texting/IMing you.  Your current boyfriend might not like it that the ex is still in the picture and might not take your word for it that the ex means nothing to you as appearances can be misleading.\n\nIf you've moved on, does it really matter what his feelings are?  Besides, he can't care for you that much if he's swayed so easily and talks against you at the drop of a hat then apologizes later to you in private.  If he loved you, he'd stick up for you in front of his friends.  He sounds wishy-wasy and not a man you want in your life anyway.\n\nBid him begone and be happy with your new beau.
488114
It depends on the situation. If you were still dating him when they got together, that's messed up and that's not a friend. But if it was an ex boyfriend, I think that's okay. As long as she comes and talks to you first about it. Not asking for permission, just letting you know what her feelings are. That's a true friend. I don't see anything wrong with friends dating other friends exs but they have to remember that friends come first
1155121
Do not reply to his message. The emotional baggage that would ensue from you two remaining friends will blur the boundaries of having a friendship versus a more intimate relationship. If you do feel the need to reply, reiterate to your now ex-boyfriend that you wish to end the relationship and that being friends is definitely not an option. If her replies further with emails, phone calls or person to person visits, do not respond. If you see him in public, speak and go about your merry way.
914934
Unless you are absolutely insane, and want trouble, leave the ex alone.  Do not call him, do not see him.  You say he never actually cared about you, so why would you even consider talking to him.  Do not mess us a good thing!
533166
I'm presuming they are ex's for a reason... Think back on that reason and figure out why they are no good for you...\n\nFind someone else... Or tell them both that you have someone else, then see what happens...
551568
Excuse me... did you say bf or ex-bf? Believe me, he is a fugitive and you allowing him to be with you is illegal, in any state. The best thing for you to do is sever your contact and pray that they don't charge you.
1101234
What happened that he's an "ex" and not a current boyfriend?\nDid you break it off or did he?\nDid the relationship end on a good note or did it end in a bad way?\nDid either of you cheat on the other?\nThere's not enough information to give you a reasonable answer.
269133
It sounds like he still likes you.  If you guiys are still on speaking terms I think you should talk to him and ask him about all the shit hes been spreading.  If he's just mean, you might have to get your bf to avoid him and his friends or if the situation gets really desperate tell someone who has more control over him(your ex)
206759
He may be trying to do either.  Just remind him that you are now ex-partners, and he needs to keep his social life to himself.  Refuse to get involved in this sort of discussion.  Sounds like it was a good idea to break it off.  He doesn't have clear boundaries.
934238
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
1102553
yeah i used to get into trouble for this with my ex, u have to get over it at the end of the day they r his ex's he did have a life before he met u. well that's what i used to get told anyway...hence he is now my ex. don't feel bad about it just make sure u don't nag him to much about it because he will ge3t annoyed with it! Just make sure a better girlfriend then they ever were! \n\ngood luck!
393780
Because he has still continued some form of relationship (you say they are friends) for your entire relationship, plus they have 9 months of intimacy that preceded your relationship?\n\nBecause he still hangs out with her?\n\nThat's legitimate, right?  Do you maintain friendship or go to public places with your ex-boyfriend?  Even if other people were around, would your boyfriend have a problem with that?  \n\nIf it bothers you and he doesn't hear your complaint, it's still going to bother you.  Even if he doesn't think it's a big deal.  Even if he can rationalize it.\n\nI highly recommend "Getting To Yes," by Roger Fisher.  It's not a love relationship book, but great for negotiation/communication.  It sounds like you need help convincing him that it's as big a deal as it is to you.  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0140157352/qid=1144087981/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/103-4668860-3658249?s=books&v=glance&n=283155
63410
Kick him to the street... You're gonna have problems in your relationship with his ex still around...