how can i get my babymom back. how will she know im sincere and ready to  be faithful and loyal?
545693
First make sure you take care of your child, set up regular visits and do what a father is supposed to do, when she sees she can depend on you to take care of your child she will be more likely to give you a second chance.
991803
In all my years of experience with dramatic relationships the best advice i can give is just to be honest and to communicate. It is hard because you have a child, but you should talk to her, tell her how you feel, test the waters and try to find out how she feels and just talk about it. The worse thing that can happen is that you two don't end up together, you aren't together now, you have nothign to loose. Maybe you will discover that both of you want to try something out, and then you could have a chance at a great relationship. Maybe she is just try to stay back becasue she is worried about how you feel. Either way, you'll never know unless you two talk about it. Call her up and see if you can go out again....then just be honest with her and i bet you she will be honest too.
301380
this is what i would do. i would leave him a note and say i'm leaving you for a while. and when i feel that you want us to be a family and take care of us like you should than we can be a family again but i can't stand you being gone all night and everything else. just tell him how you feel in the letter and be gone for a few weeks or even a few months to see if that changes him. if you do go back to him and you don't see any changes than he isn't going to change and he don't want to be a family and he don't care about you or the baby. one thing i do see you can leave anytime and you said that you wanted to leave so that is telling me that you made up your mind and what your going to do. no one can really tell you what to do you really have to follow what your heart is telling you. and you have to think about what is best for you and your baby. so you do whatever you have to do girly and if you ever need to talk i'm here. i hope i have helped you out and i hope everything works out for you and the baby
639671
At this point in time you have done all you can, or at least all you've had time to do.  You can try, but don't alienate her.  When/if it goes wrong she will need you. You may be disappointed but you're a good mom and that's your job.  Teach her what you can, some people are hard learners. But *if* it goes wrong, she *will* need you.  So don't put her in the position of not wanting to come to you when she needs help because she doesn't want an "I told you so."
125577
Cry then pray for her and pray for the words to come to you what to say to her because I really don't know what to say. Just reamber everyone makes mistakes and just let her know that even though you dont aprove you still love her but tell her she needs to respect herself more then that. And that you really hope she dosent do it again. Shes over 18 theres really nothing you can do. But just dont dis own her she is your daughter. And reamber All people makes mistakes.
820298
well.. she wont understand till either something big happens or till somebody tells her exactly what she needs to listen.\nbut the good point is at least you understand what is right and what is wrong. do not forget that. \nu seem to be a smart person - just try to help her handle the situation but dont try to prove urself smarter than ur mom after all she's the mom way better than u could be and yes --- respect her. she might be a liar, cheater to somebody but atleast she loves u and takes care of u.
860824
write her a letter telling her that you love her and want to start new and would she be willing to start over and see where it goes from there. but what ever let her know that you love her and want things between you and her to change for the better. sometimes kids have to make the first move when there parent is not in the right state of mind adults sometimes forget that we can learn so much from our children , trust me my daughter taught me how to be humble and wow what an experience and she loves me very much and told me that i was stifling her by not letting her make mistakes for her own good and other great things that i thought i knew more then her and actually she really helped me a lot once i took off the blinders so sometimes kids have to help reshape the parents. lol
563926
Yeah....give her mother sometime. i hope ur gf is backing you up. a day will come when ur gf's mother will realize that u were a real truthful guy. talk to her after few days in a polite manner. dont lose ur temper
792167
I firmly believe that there is nothing that you can do that will change her mind about except be patient and give your bf all the love you can.  She will either come around to liking you in her own good time, or she won't.\n\nMy thinking is that she loves her son, a lot.  That's one thing that the two of you have in common.  Maybe she's lonely and vulnerable. Maybe she's just grumpy. Turn the other cheek.\n\n Be polite, be nice, be caring, and don't take any bs from her.  Keep your self respect by acting with integrity.You can't control her actions, only your own.\n\nDon't confront her, just accept what she's like, and rise above it. She'll stop being bitchy if it doesn't affect you, and may even come to respect you because of it.  Remember that your chief loyalty in all this is to your bf, and his to you. If you're a firm unit, if you love and support each other, and make each other happy, then anyone else's opinion, no matter how hurtful, is as important as that.\n\nKeep being kind to her. She's probably feeling threatened, maybe because she senses you are "the one."  Her behaviour sounds like she's being defensive because she's afraid of losing her son. Show her that there's enough love to go around.\n\nI guess this isn't very helpful, but try and stand up for yourself in a firm, loving, respectful way.  Be yourself: give her some time: and most of all, don't let it adversely affect your relationship.
100867
Ouch. Kudos to you on doing what you said you would, but for her it might be too little, too late. She needs to know that you will do what you say even when she isnt threatening you. Is there anything else about you that you know bugs her? Make an effort to change that too. She feels like you dont care enough about her to change, but you are doing the best you can now.\nLevel with her, tell her that you didnt change before but that now that you know how life is without her that you want to be just the man she needs.
505745
well you might want to tell her in non-chalant ways. And be nice about it. You don't want hubby on your back for being mean to mommy. I understand completely. Or maybe you might want to talk to hubby about it and he can help you with this situation. If your baby is still an infant than she's just excited! As a matter of fact you should take advantage of the situation and have her watch the baby and you go out and have some you time! And relax a little bit! \n\nThese are just a few suggestions. I went through the same thing! Sometimes just being honest with her helps too!
370760
Well first you go back to her... then you beg plead and do anything you can to get her forgiveness...  and last of all. endure many years of having it thrown in your face that you can't be without her and watch her do whatever she feels like becuase she knows you will always take her back...  hmmmm maybe I'm a bit bitter!
898811
Well I can't speak from experience, but I have a friend who just reunited with her daughter...\nI think it's most important to react authentically (i.e. if you're angry, let yourself be angry, if you want to cry, cry, etc.), but also to let your mother know that you feel you need to react naturally rather than forced. I'd recommend telling her that you're open to exploring a relationship, so long as everyone can be real. \nIt seems to be working well for my frind and her daughter... they've learned a lot about themselves through the mirror of family and are growing closer daily.\n\nBest of Luck!\n~ Lady Ament
585597
Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
187665
Notorious ways? Are they self destructive? Are they hard to live with? What are the things that you may need to revise in yourself? Marriage is a two way street. No matter what, I would give it some more time. It could be that she is feeling lonely and that is why she wants back. If there is going to be a reconciliation you both need to address some issues and be willing to put the time and energy into resolving those. You cannot do it without the help of an oursider--a marriage councelor. Do all of this before you live together again. I smell disaster if you don't.
199535
Try to find out what makes her, happy, sad, angry, and relaxed. When you find out these things, then you'll know what to and not to do to press her buttons. People usually say try talking to herr, but if your mother isn't the talking type, write a letter, but try not to sound so dogmatic in the letter. Let her know how you feel, but in a respectful way.  Parents always try to say that we as young adults, we lack respect because we feel like we're practically grown, so make sure you give her the upmost respect, even you maynot think she deserves it at times, because as the bible says "Honor your Father and Mother, that way it may go well with you, and you may have length days upon the earth"
567718
Relax, parents often jump to conclusions and assume the worst.  It is just a part of being a parent.  What you have to realize is that the reason she thinks this is because what you did do caused her to lose her trust in you.  I think it is important that you take some time to talk to your mom and discuss why you did what you did and what you really did do so that you two can bridge this communication gap that has led to her losing trust in you.  Then you need to figure out how you can rebuild her trust in you because once it is lost it has to be re-earned.