My  children's father  can't have a conversation with me without insinuating sex I feel awkward?
536104
I think if you consistently (and I mean each and every time) hang up on him when he starts making sexual comments, he will get the message. Telling him off probably gets him just what he wants. He knows he's succeeded in getting a rise out of you. So, hang up, walk away, but don't let him see that he's getting to you. When it stops working I'll bet he stops doing it.
988499
if he makes you feel like you are the only one, then go for it.  If you feel uncomfortable because he has kids the are like 10 years young that you, then just talk to him and end it.  never buckle down to what anyone says about your relationship.  You decide who you care about and who you chose to be with.
353002
Sounds totally normal to me, embarassing as it is.  I've found the only way to stop losing the plot every time you talk to him is to actually spend more time with him, a kind of practice thing.  It'll also give him time to get his stuff sorted out while you're doing the same
1032665
Hey, what do you think!   If you were ready you wouldn't be asking this question.\n\nNo you probably aren't ready.  If you are feeling guilty, ask yourself why.  and if the parents are home----come on.\n\nluv Ava
1184893
After you have seriously discussed and prepared for SAFE sex.  Try talking to an adult that you are comfortable with (it doesn't have to be your parents).\nP.S. Please, please respect yourself.  Don't have sex in a car or on a mattress lying on the floor.
615793
YOU DAUGHTER is old enough to identify with what she is feeling and if she feel uncomfortable with her dad then yes something has to be done.\n\nif you can talk to him and tell him how she feels when he do or say certain things. \n\nyou can do it 2 ways   \n\nyou can ask him to accompany and particapate (depending on how she feels.\nIt will be best for your daughter and and her dad to go to counseling,. so he can see how he is making her feel.\n\n if you can't talk to him then tell your lawyer or the courts that your un nerved about your daughters current emotional stability and you will like to get to bottom of IT and resolve this problem. your daughter is growing it is very important for her to feel comfortable around her dad that way she will have a well balanced life, this is not a good start.This could lead to alot on your daughters behalf in the future in a not so good way.\n\nhave a child psychiatrist talk to you daughter test her, start to build evidence!!! your ex needs conseling and you have to prove it.after couple of visit you daughter psychiatrist should see that you ex husband is harming her emotionally. then that is your proof and back up. \n\nyou can do other this to build herself esteem, do project creative on let her creative that way she can release what she fell or shall I SAY EXPRESS IT, AFTER SHE PAINT, DRAW, MOLD OR SINGING WHAT EVER THE CHOSEN RELEASE IS APPLAUD HER HELP BUILD HER CONFIDENCE BACK; YOU CAN BUY POSITIVE THINKING Books for kids too. teach her how to make her favorite cake unsupervision. she has to release that negative enery and welcome positive energy. \n\nonce she realize what she is capable of doing these wonderful things on her own that will be a step towards building her confidence.
394287
Just try to stay neutral when the kids ask why daddy isn't there.  You don't want them to remember you "bad mouthing" their father, even if what you say is true.  I do not know how old they are, but as they grow up, they will see and figure out what is going on.  Just always assure them that it is not their fault, and that you are there for them.
686477
Reading some of the replies you got here today you got a lot of good advice.  How is your relationship ? That should be the first thing you think about. Does he feel obligated or quilted by you to stay around because of your daughter? Do you say things to him like if you don;t stay here you won't see your kid?  Does the only time he pays attention to you is when & if you can get him alone in the bedroom ? Girlfriend, if your answer is yes to one or more of hese above questions you don't have a good relationship.   Its just an obligation thing..\n\nJust because you think you want to have sex all the time does not qualify you as a sex accident or even a nympho.  Darling if he ain't intrested in anything your trying then you better move on.. Be careful out there & use protection at 21 you don't need another kid or any dieseases. \n\nPutting your child in front of the tv for entertainment ain't to healthy either.  Maybe thats what he is uncomfortable with.. Why not ask him . Plan a date night, get someone to watch your child for a couple of hours, go out so something fun together, you never know he just may want to stay home & have sex.. Some people can't relax when they know their kid is up , maybe doesn't like to get interupted during sex or have the kid walk in on you or start crying.  Nothing like a good crying to ruin a good hard on.
610909
Depends on his upbringing.  If he's either culturally or religiously conservative, he could be EXTREMELY sexually into you but really honestly want to be respectful of your dad.  (And don't say you're horny online, you're bound to get all kinds of guys hitting on you lol)
356543
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say it is a culture thing. How he was raised. Maybe his dad taught him that only a whore would do that, so he is confused. Tell him you apologize for the action, and say that you know if you two would become sexual that he should be the one to initiate the advances. That's probably how he was brought up.
83177
DONT TALK ABOUT SEX. Not yet anyway. Find out all you can about him. His hobbies, ask in detail about his job, his family, school, vacations he may have gone on. Talk about things that interest you and things you have done. Like if you like art, talk about your favorite artist. Make sure to read the paper or watch the news so you can throw some into in about whats going on in the world. (don't get into a convo about ex's u want to keep the focus on the 2 of u and also dont get into a convo about religion or anything else that could get the 2 of u heated up) Unfortunatley the more uncomfortable u feel the more anxiety is going to build up and the worse the situation is going to be. Try to relax (i know its easier said than done) When you know the 2 of u are going to be alone try to come up with a list of questions u want to ask him before you see him.\nGOOD LUCK. Hope this help u out a bit.
1077012
Find a time when he is relaxed and watching tv. Ask him if you can talk about something that is really important to you and that you need his help. \nWhen expressing your feelings we teach children to do this:\nState what you are feeling:\nDad, I am really lonely. I love you but I am getting really depressed and it scares me. When I am home alone during the day, I feel really lonely because......................\nthen say exactly what you feel and speak from the heart.\nIn the end, ask if he can help you.
924533
NO WAY!  He's a dad and he likes being a dad and if he's never spoken to you, then the feeling is not mutual.\n\nMove on.  Find somebody who's looking for the same as you are.\n\nYou're way out of order.
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Hey bro, I feel bad for you. It sounds like you have tried working with her about this. It sounds like you have been patient.You are going to need to make some tough chocies.You are going to need to find out what's really the problem ( her not feeling sexy?,is she having an affair?,not in love with you anymore?,have you done something since your daughter was born to make her act this way?,ect..)You sound like you love her and your daughter and don't want to leave. It sounds like she's not willing to kiss, be romantic,or try to see a doctor about this.To me if she just wants to be friends and isn't willing to change then maybe it's time for you to re-think things out about what you what you want in a wife and if this siutation is really good for you and your daughter. If you continue to be unhappy, this will start to effect you much more, which will at some point effect your daughter, which is something you don't want, she's done nothing. I think it's cool that you are trying to keep your family, but you also need to have your needs met. I would keep trying to work with her on this if you feel it's worth it. If there's no change and if she's not willing to see a counseler then mabye it might be time for a change. Love and passion is something that can be worked out if both parties are willing to work things out. Just don't go deep and and get emotional and do something that's dumb. Everyone has bad stories with quick fixes. This is your family. Think things out before you act on them. Good luck. I hope very thing works out for you.
117244
it's pretty hard to know what the problem is, based on the vagueness of your question. my first reaction is that you've lost touch with your son, which means you've gotten out of the habit of talking to him in a conversational way. and exactly what are you looking for in saying "normal"? does that mean he's not what you want him to be? because most kids won't be at various times. \n\npre-teens are, as a part of normal growing up, becoming more independent and trying on different personas in order to find out where they fit in the world. it is perfectly normal for that to be pretty baffling for adult observers. the main thing is to stay (become?) accessible and loving (no matter what). if your child is a stranger to you, you've got some serious work to do. (and it ought to be a Big Priority.)
1097608
If this is a serious question, you should talk to someone other than your father regarding his request.  It's a very inappropriate suggestion.  You deserve to be protected from this type of behavior.  Don't be afraid, tell your mom, a counselor or any adult that you can trust.
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Ignore the entire thing. You can't talk about this to him unless he has directly confronted you with this, or things will be incredibly awkward.\n\nIf he DOES confront you, tell him that you're married (if you are) and that you think of your relationship as only a friendship and teacher-student relationship and also that there is too big an age difference for you to think romantically about him.\n\ngood luck.