Help for Teens - From Jane to you?
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i wish  i had something like this when i was younger
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LOL! I totally understand this feeling! Today's teens are so different than when we were younger; sometimes I think my 14 year old is speaking a foreign language. I think it's really that the world is so different than it was, and our kids have to deal with so many things. I'm not that old, but I remember when I first started seeing ads with "www." on them, and thinking, "What's this?" I remember vinyl records, black and white t.v.s, and air conditioning as a luxury. Our kids can surf the web, load software and program the VCR before they're 7. And they *need* those skills to make it in an increasingly technical world. \n\nSomething I find to be helpful is to give my daughter her due. When she knows more than me about something, I get her to teach me. It's kind of a funny role reversal, but it increases her confidence and let's her know that I value her as a smart, capable, young lady. We talk often, and I'm not afraid to explain things or to ask for explanations. I also explore her interests, try to make connections to them, and to at least gain a basic understanding so we can converse (which has been challenging since she loves anime). Keep trying. With diligence and conversation, understanding will come. :)\n\nBest wishes,\n~Tia~
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You might want to try to get her involved in a small teen group at church.  They work wonders.  Teens do not want to talk to adults generally, they want to talk to their friends.  Christian friends generally will give better answers for one and if truly serious will tell leaders.  I have seen kids open up to leaders too.  God Bless you all and I'll be praying for her as well as the family.
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http://www.teenhopeline.com/talk/index.html
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ok well the if she is younger like under 18 and i know you dont want to betray your friends trust but the best thing for you to do is tell her parents even though she might hate you but its well worth it...i am only assuming she is younger because that is usually when most eating disorders typically start with girls in their teens and twenties if she is older try to convincer her to go seek help at a medical facility  good luck
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just be supportive. Give her a hug and tell her you will be there for her.  If she is over 18, you should strongly suggest she get help, and tell her you will be there for her every step of the way. If she is under 18, you should do the same, but if she refuses, you should tell an adult. She needs help you cannot give her. All you can give her is support and friendship.
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why are you going through your daughter's purse?  don't you remember what it was like to be a teenager?  Try this: how about actually talking to her!!!  What a concept!!!!!
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You talk With the person..not At them...ask 'him' questions that require more than a yes or no answer. At 15, he's more than a child, he's a young adult...in 3 more years, he's legally accountable for his actions and decisions. When you're given answers to your questions, be very careful of your reaction-don't judge, if you don't understand something--say so, and ask his help in your understanding him better...and tell him how things were for you at his age...things are Very different now than they were when you were 15..and tell him that..and ask Him what kind of disapline should take place when he knowingly breaks one of your rules..remember-he's his own person..with his own thoughts and feelings..and at these ages, too, he's trying to make your rules His rules--and is gonna test them out..teenage yrs are difficult, but not impossible...
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Contact a social service agency in your area. See what programs there are for a young gal with those characteristics. Get all the details, talk to people yourself. Then just be there to support your sister. Maybe you can even get someone to come to your house to talk to her. Consider talking to her family physician as well. Good luck!
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There are many ways that can be arranged. I can probably be of help there. (I live in Japan and have good ties in the local community). \n\nPlease go ahead and contact me and let me know what age teenager you want to correspond with (13-19 is quite varied after all.)
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Try "Chicken Soup for Teens".
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One way that could help is \nchecking with them on a possible\n3 things they like  for ideas and than \nyou can decide on what you'd like\nto give.Ideas: Children today could always\nuse a good book to read, and the trend\nis gift cards for the teenagers. \nOr you could even do something that teachs\nthem about the community, go site seeing\nart, threatre, swimming or it could even be a \ndisposible camera so they can have a \nmemory to add to their photo album. \nIn the end it is what you'd like to give\nthat matters.  It is from you.
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you can ask a therapist for help!
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talk to her parents and be supported towards her
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Time for tough love!  If she feels she's done with school, then she's ready to work!  Time for a job, young lady. The job will have to be legal. I don't know what the restrictions are for 15 year olds there regarding types of work and hours. Certainly, she can clean homes or do other chores for people, get a paper route?, or something like that.\n\nHave no food in the house except plain bread, plain cereal, cheap but good cheese, and apples (you'll be living yourself on take-out for a bit). She can have water to drink. Don't give her any money. Don't buy her any new clothes, music, etc. Don't buy her shampoo or other toiletries.\n\nYou let her know that, because she is so young, you WILL continue to provide:\n1. a roof over her head and a bed to sleep on\n2. transportation to her work, and to the store\n3. utilities (water, electricity, etc.)\n4. use of the laundry machines and soap\n\nIf she threatens to leave, politely point out (no yelling) that she'll be adding the cost of rent and utilities to her life if she goes to live on her own.\n\nIf she wants food variety, she'll have to buy it for herself. Same for the other items you no longer pay for.\n\nIf she returns to school, and makes a real effort to keep up her grades, you will return to providing a variety of food, and the other stuff.\n\nThere should be some sulking and stomping at first, perhaps even some effort toward doing some sort of work. After a bit, she'll want to go back to school.
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I would tell their parents.They can try to get them into professional counseling.It doesn't go away on it's own.They may have more serious issues that need looking into.You are a great friend to try to help them.They may get mad at you at first but they will thank you later.Just tell them you care about them that's why you want to help.
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16 was a turning point for me.  I was skinny, weak, afraid of girls and even sucked in school.  At 15 I got into martial arts because I was sick of being bullied.  It was the single most significant influence in my teenage life.  After a year of that, I felt much more confident, bullies left me alone and I got my first girl friend.  The physical exercise made me stronger and helped my mind get clear.  The discipline put my behavior in line.  If such a thing would have been push upon me by my parents I would have rebelled, but coming from my Sensei a 5th degree black belt, I respected him and I wanted to be like him.  He was / is a man of great inner strength and integrity.    \n\nI think all teenagers go through a period of doubting their abilities, worth and place in the world.  It is part of their stretching out into the world.  Around 16 is when boys really start to separate away from their parents (for girls it seems to be around 14).  This is REALLY scary for them, and yet something they must do to grow up to a young adult.  The best thing to do is to let him know that you are there for him and you support him.  The reality is that his peers will have much more influence on him at this age than you will.