do men really refuse to admit when they actually cry? why the pretention?
547502
HMMM..AS FAR AS MY KNOWLEDGE GOES EVEN PHYSICALLY SOUND MEN CRY IN PUBLIC. CRYING IS AN EMOTION THAT HAS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH POSSESSING A STRONG PHYSIQUE. MEN WHO HAVE FELT DEEP LOVE(either in love life or even among familial relationships)CRY IN PUBLIC WHEN HURT DEEP.I HAVE SEEN SUCH THINGS IN PERSON AMONG MANY FRIENDS. \n\nI DONT LIKE TO CRY IN PUBLIC & DONT KNOW Y. \n\nAND I'M NO GAY..I'M PERFECTLY STRAIGHT !!
904468
1. Yes, but I never actually believe that it's for "no reason".\n\n2. Sometimes there are extreme hormonal shifts which can cause unexplained bouts of emotion.  Either that, or high stress can cause frequent crying also.\n\n3. I do not envy women for their pain!  I think about that stuff, and I am very glad to be a male.  That's why women deserved to be pampered and treated with special care...because they go through enough negative stuff as it is!
543547
Take a poll and ask 50 girls when was the last time they cried.... then ask 50 guys.... I'm pretty sure that if answered honestly your answer would be there.  Girls have a social norm where they are allowed to whine and cry. Most guys were taught to be tough or to stop crying.  If not by parents then by other peers.
728973
It's ok to cry.  Our culture tells every man to not show his feelings, but that's not a very healthy way to live.  Showing your feelings, not being afraid to cry, makes you a stronger person than someone who can't show his feelings.  You are stronger because you can deal with what is inside you.  They can't.\n\nPS:  When a girl sees a man cry, she wants to comfort him, shower him with love and affection.  If you want to get your girlfriend into a session of intense love-making (not just sex), do something emotional, like watch a movie, that will get those eye juices flowing.  She won't be able to resist.
43390
Some men think that women will think less of him if he cries,which is the opposite of the truth.I think men are more comfortable with who they are and dont have these big macho egos.Men..cry when you need to..who cares what people think.Chances are your woman will think of you even better.
95519
They shouldn't show emotion by crying.
78278
"US" WOMEN WANT YOU TO THINK EMOTIONALLY, BUT SINCE MEN NEVER DO AND YOU GUYS THINK WITH LOGIC,"WE" TRY TO THINK LOGICALLY.HOWEVER WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL CREATURES. WE TRY TO BE LIKE A MAN IN OUR ACTIONS WHEN WERE HURT WE COVER UP HOW WE REALY FEEL BECAUSE ARE EMOTIONS ARE  NEVER ACCEPTED IN THE "REAL WORLD"BUT BECAUSE WE ARE EMOTIONAL PEOPLE WE THEN CHANGE OUR MIND AND STOP TRYING TO COVER UP OUR FEELINGS BUT BY THEN ITS TO LATE.(WE ACT ON LOGIC FIRST THEN EMOTIONS LATTER.)
1038718
I used to be the same way. People who cry a lot just have easier access to their emotions, really. They know what they feel the instant they feel it. There are people out there who never acknowledge feelings, never cry, and their behavior is stony and unpersonable. \n\nBut I can still imagine that you'd like to avoid crying in public, because it is a little embarrassing. I can't give you any tips on how to do this, it's going to take some practice and knowledge of yourself. Whenever I feel myself wanting to cry in front of people, I shove it down. I think of anything else to avoid thinking of what's making me sad. I wait until I can get in the car by myself or in the bathroom, and then I let loose. A few minutes of crying and I'm good. \n\nGood luck. Don't beat yourself up because you're sensitive. You just feel, you feel a lot, and you wear your heart on your sleeve. This is not a bad thing. :)
409726
Just like women we dont want 2 be hurt either. I just think that men are not programmed to be that way, its sad but true. We also dont want to feel like a wimp so we hide those feelings and never really show the real us, until sadly its to late.  Words of advice ask once, then try other ways of finding out what u want to know.
550512
WOMAN ARE VERY EMOTIONAL BECAUSE THEYRE NOT SCARED TO EXPRESS HOW THEY FEEL. INDEED MEN ARE EMOTIONAL TOO, ITS JUST THEYRE SUPPOSED TO FOLLOW A TOUGH STRONG EMOTIONLESS IMAGE.  WOMAN ARE KNOWN TO BE WEAK AND EMOTIONAL, WEARAS STEROTYPE SHOWS THAT MEN ARE NOT.  CONCLUDING THAT SINCE WOMAN EXPRESS THEMSELVES AND ARENT AFRAID TO WEAR THEIR HEART ON THE SLEAVE, THEY ARE MORE 'EMOTIONAL'.  IN MY OPINION, MEN ARE JUST AS EMOTIONAL AS WOMAN, THEY JUST DONT HAVE ANY BA**S TO ADMIT AND SHOW IT....... =)     \n\nTHERES A SAYING, "ONLY A REAL MAN WEAR PINK"  ♥
403468
I think it is as simple as people not wanting to become embroiled in someone else's problem.  Most people feel that if they ignore the cries, perhaps someone else will help.  Some people feel they have enough of their own problems to deal with.  This is not right, but I am sure it is what goes through people's minds.
661917
Beacause lying is convenient for them. Guys are comfortable at lying because they are afraid of what the truth really is, and how someone else will interpret it.
710556
That's a very good question. I think that people think that women are weak and fragile, which is totally untrue. Men seem (not all, but most) to think that crying is for "sissies" and that if you are caught crying, it is considered a weak act. Whoever came up with that theory was a total idiot and lacks the idea that everyone cries. It's a human emotion. If you feel like crying, then cry, if you don't, then don't cry.
1177606
Guys are built differently than women...when a guy sees that something is wrong their first reaction is to try to "fix" whatever is wrong, when in reality sometimes all we are looking for is understanding or some comforting words. Try not to see it as a fault, it really isnt, us women are just more "emotionally intuned" than most men are.....I asked my father this same question many years ago, and he told me simply that most times guys really don't know what to say...like when we cry and they are just silent...it's because they dont know how to "fix" it...\n\nSo to answer your question, yes i believe it is common, and very normal : )
872178
i believe men are weaker emotionally because women can "feel" what others are feeling and we aren't afraid of showing our feelings.....men think it is too feminine to show emotions.....i wish men could show them more cause it would make relationships alot easier sometimes!!!!!
278817
Laughing makes everything better, even deep pain.  Guys do that all the time, or they force themselves to shrug it off.  It's simply a coping mechanism.  Guys do not give as much credence to their emotions as do girls.  That is what makes most of us tough and able to deal with bad things better.  One more of the many differences between the sexes.
177360
I don't think it's cultural, because we have many different cultures living in the United States. It's family environment and society. Dads teach their sons what their dads taught them and so on. Have you ever heard a dad tell their 3 or 4 year old boy not to cry, because he was a "big boy", or stop crying you sound like a girl. After decades of conditioning it becomes wide spread throughout society. The next thing you know we have men not showing their emotional side, but I do believe men have deep emotions they just have been conditoned not to show it, if they do society may see them as being weak.