So i've decided to stay away from my evil mother, i politely confronted her?
551215
complex situation\nlive away from her
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
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first of all, that's terrible, you didn't deserve to be attacked!\n\njust politely ignore it, she probably wants to get a reaction from you. if you don't give it any more emotional energy- she will go away\n\nor-\nif you feel violated- write the yahoo people to complain\n\nor- if you really can't let it go. write back how you are feeling, that it was abusive of her to attack you for no reason, and perhaps she is striking out because something in her life is causing her pain. but- only do that if your real email is hidden and she can't reach you any other way (360 page, etc..) and you feel it's neccesary for you to stick up for yourself. there is nothing wrong with that.you can state your peace without being mean. just state the truth.
500666
Walk away. Either she doesn't care what you think or she is deliberately trying to provoke you. Ignoring her is the best way to handle it.
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oooh what a nasty old sow....she's jealous of you coz your young and beautiful ans she's an old clapped out boiler...i know what i woud say to her if i was in your situation..but i could'nt type it in here...ignore the old boot....she has no right slagging your mother off, she does not even know her...she sounds bitter an twisted to me...kick her in the fanny and tell her to shut her gob...
418746
God, my own mother gets on my nerves. let her know nicley that a little goes along way. or just tell her to back off
90738
I think you have to eventually come to grips with the fact that\n\nyour mother has mental/emotional issues and that they have\n\nnothing to do with you. You need to realize that you're caught\n\nin the middle of this insanity, and that eventually all will\n\nbe well. Ride it out, nothing you can do at the moment.\n\nYour mother does not sound well. But I can be wrong.
417006
Avoid her if at all possible but if that is not possible then I would try to not say anything to her.  Let her hit you first.  Your parents will totally understand if you are just defending yourself.  They would not want you to get beat up would they?
647972
It is time to let go. Four years has given you your answer. She'll never change even if she claims she will. She sounds paranoid to me in fact, endangering her young son. You're trying to do the right thing but it is time to realise that the right thing to do now is to divorce her, get custody of your son, move on and find another woman worthy of your trust, respect and love. Don't stick around and let her scar you even more for that's just too convenient for her to do. It is not something you want your young son to think - that his dad cannot stand up for what he thinks is right and let a woman (even if it is his mom) put him down over and over again & cheat on him. I am sorry if what I said have offended you. I know you are doing this out of love but she does not deserve it and your son deserves a better mom. She lost her right to be his mother when she did what she did. Sorry. And Good Luck to You!
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Just because she is a blood relation does not mean you have to tolerate her verbal abuse.You are well within your rights to tell her to put a sock in it.I would not blame you at all if you decided to trim back on the time you spent with her.Sometimes it's the only way to deal with negative family members.
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Tell your new "Mother" to shove it and shut the h*ll up.  Tell her off.  Tell her what ever you need to to make her stop talking like that.  If you are unable to or unwilling to.  Then looks like you got to tell your dad what's up or continue to bite your tounge.
728706
You need to be honest.  You shouldn't lie as you can see it will bite you in the butt down the road.  Be honest and she will respect you in the future.  She, of course, will be upset at you.  You will have to pay the consequences for your actions.  Next time, call your mother before you decide to do anything that would worry her and ask permission.  This is a small price to pay for what bigger things that could have happened.  She sounds like she really loves you.  Show her some respect and tell her the truth.
877120
Sweetie, it's not just that she loved you; she had issues--big ones.  This is not normal behavior.  It's possible that she projected her own conscience upon you, because she suffered from overwhelming guilt from her past actions; she may have been similarly affected by her own mom.  This is a psychological problem.  Now that you've moved out of the house, please consider counseling so that your experience will not negatively affect your own future relationships.   If or when it's possible, it might help your mother if you could talk her into counseling, for her own good... because she's probably going through a massive amount of emotions right now, especially rejection.  Pray for the woman, and try to love her as much as you can while still maintaining your own distance, regaining your perspective, and living your own life.  God bless you!
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I am so sorry.\nI am sure that you can get a restraining order if she has threatened you.\nI had a mother from hell, but never thought about a restraining order, I would have loved to have seen her butt in jail.\nGood luck and may GOD bless you in many ways to make up for your mother.
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I went through that stage too. I dont really know how to explain it lol. I just grew out of it. Sometimes she still gets on my nerves lol. Moms like to be nosey and ask random questions and I think sometimes I was just like seriously leave me alone lol. Try to be patient. She loves you!
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Seems like you need to get away from your mother and boyfriend.\nI also think you should tell them that they are at the point of driving you insane.  If need be, get a boyfriend that will cause you less stress. Since you can't get a new mother, just limit your contact with her.
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This is an important issue for you and your mother as well as any relations (friends or otherwise) you may have in the future. It could limit your ability to hold a job or even raise children. It would be prudent to seek help now to prevent future problems. Tell your mother that you love her and you don't like being angry with her, but that you don't seem to be able to control it. Suggest to her that you may have a problem like OCD or even Bipolar Disorder and would like to see a doctor to rule them out. Tell her that you value her love and friendship and that you don't want a simple problem to like this to damage your relationship forever. If she cares about you at all, she will take you. Don't be surprised though if she denies you have a problem at first. Parents don't like to admit that their children hav a problem like this. You may have to ask her several times to take you before she is ready to accept it. Give her time to work it out for herself if this does happen. She also may not believe you are serious the first time or two that you ask. Good luck, I hope this helps you. \nPlease contact me if you have more questions, just click my name to see my profile and email me. I am bipolar if that makes a difference to you.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry