my babys dad dosent  spend time with her yet he wants to go out with me?
544070
If he doesn't love your baby, he doesn't love you, no matter what he says.  If he says he loves you but refuses to love your child, he has a warped idea of what love is and you deserve better.  Get child support payments from him and force him to live up to his responsibility.
1057030
Hello sweetheart, you must be so confused, it certainly sounds like your fella is. Speaking from experience I would not even speak to him again let alone go out on a date. I think  on this one sweetheart you have to follow your heart, you are the only person who truly knows ho you feel about him. I really hope that you can make the decision that is the right one for you and your little girl. I bet you have the same response from family and friends as I did, everyone told me to dump him "you can do better than him". I made the decision to walk away and have some on our own time with my boy. I have never seen my ex since. He tried allsorts to get back home I stood strong and resisted the temptation. I have remarried and I adore my husband. You will be happy again  take care beauty and don't re rushed.
558476
I feel that you kind of know the answer but want confirmation.\n\nThis isn't being respectful to you.\n\nFor a start he isn't being totaly honest to you. AND if he isn't being totaly honest to you about a simple thing like meeting his Mom & Dad, then it's possible he isn't being honest about other things.\n\nYou need to confront him about this, lay the foundations.\n\nTake some control back.
1154144
You know you and I are in the boat, but it's my mother who's in my way. I wish she could feel more secure, so I could have more freedom; especially the chance to go abroad. I think your father is the one who feels insecure, so he wants to be in your way. Maybe you can try to take him out with you when you're not going on a date. Hope my suggestion helps. Good luck and best wishes.
726780
you need to dump him, its rude for him to be going out to dinner with another female, no matter what classification he tries to give her, if she is really a "friend" then he would invite you along and introduce the two of you, instead of leaving you by yourself at home or elsewhere without him....
707647
ask him to lay off. you and the baby come first not an over bossy father
506924
Well, you decide what is best for you and move on. \nUnfortunately, there is nothing you can do about the father. He is apparently not ready to become a parent and own up to his responsibilities. \nIf you are planning on having and keeping this baby it sounds as though you may be doing it alone. You never know, the father may come around later.\n\nGood Luck to you!
531057
Depends if this guy is living with his "baby's mama". If he is then I hate to say it but your the woman on the side. If he is not with this woman then ask him what your relationship is and if there is any future.  You said you "had" a man so I take it your single now. If it goes nowhere with him then move on and find someone with less drama in there life.
329086
MY CHILD FATHER IS A ONE OF THOSE SLOW MOVERS AFTER HE GOT ME AND MOOD SWINGS ARE AWFUL. YOUR SITUATION LOOKS LIKE U NEED TO MOVE ON BUSY OR NOT HE COULD SET A TIME TO CONVERSATE WITH YOU EVEN IF YOU DONT SEE EACH OTHER UNTIL THE WEEKEND OR SET SPECIAL NIGHTS .. SORRY ABOUT ALL CAPS DIDNT NOTICE UNTIL I WAS ALMOST FINISH typing ... Good luck if you continue to continue your search
334252
Try sitting down with him and calmly (and nicely) talking with him about it in explanation. I suppose that you have just recently moved out of his home and he misses you - is that right?\n\nWell, it's only natural, I suppose. I can imagine that if I were a father - especially the father of a lovely lady - that I would be ridiculously "clingy" and not want her out there running around all by herself. What would happen if she came across a bottle of ketchup that she couldn't pry open on her own? My God, how could she eat hamburgers then?!\n\nBut seriously, he is probably very worried about you being off on your own. Keep in mind that this is a new experience for him, too!\n\nSo, talk with him, and explain your situation and what you can and cannot do. I am sure that he will understand (though he is bound to be a bit sad, but that's only normal). To make him feel better, just visit him every now and then, but make your visits memorable and fun. Bring him a pie; I don't know of any fellow who would turn that down. :D\n\nBest of luck!
436996
You are in a relationship... don't overthink it, just go with it. Enjoy what you have. Everything is a relationship... you have relationships with coworkers, family, friends.  It's more than just simple dating. And it isn't just a friendship. He cares for you and your daughter, I think that trying to define it will only complicate things. Enjoy what you have.
838298
Dad's never have enough time with their children.  Take him on a daddy-daughter date even it is just Taco Bell and a movie.
382497
Be grateful that he isn't a deadbeat daddy for one thing! Talk to him about how you feel. I don't know the specifics about your relationship, but think about WHY you feel he is obligated to his baby's mother. Of course you should understand that he has a responsibility to his son.
498606
Sounds like if he doesn't want the baby he will leave anyhow. I would kinda get ready for that. He might surprise you afterwards the first time he lays eyes on his son or daughter..You being pregnant you do not need any unwanted stress..I would get my support ready, family, friends, ect and go on with my life and get ready for the most beautufil thing in the world.
609109
i don't think you are being a jerk. it sounds like you need to "ease in" with the dad thing, starting with dinners and whatnot. a weekend would not be a good idea. you don't have to tell your boyfriend this, just say you can't make it this time but make plans for the next time you can see eachother.
617000
file for child support immediately and use the money to get a babysitter! he's trying to leave you but still control your life, DON'T LET IT HAPPEN, find another way to go out, ask your parents to babysit, trade babysitting with other mothers, you watch theirs they watch yours, stuff like that. once he figures out that his idiot tactics aren't stopping you from moving on he'll get over it. also make it clear to him how absolutely absurd the whole thing is! he's willing to desert his kids, his flesh and blood just to keep you from dating??? its ridiculous and DO NOT STAND FOR IT! you have a right to your life and it sounds like he's run yours for long enough, stand up for yourself. he's not the only one that can watch the kids while you go out. once you put a stop to this silliness and show him he can't run you anymore he'll stop, not to mention being totally stunned that you finally stood up to him! if someone was doing that to me i'd find a date this weekend, right now, even if it was a date i didn't really want i'd go just to prove my point!!
990417
He just wants you for whatever purpose he has for you.  He probably wants sex or some emotional attachment.  Maybe he wants someone to abuse.  It doesn't matter.  If he doesn't want anything to do with his baby, then he's irresponsible and lazy.  You should have nothing to do with him.  However, he should be paying child support for the child.  Get a lawyer and take him to court for it.  If he keeps bugging you, record one of your conversations with him and get a restraining order.