What is your perception of the BDSM culture, and how tolerant are you of it?
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Your question is very complex. I'll try to make the answer simple.\nFirst, I'm rather a BD (bondage/domination) than a SM (Sado-Masochism). The first problem is that BDSM mixes too many fetishes. Type BDSM in Yahoo!, and you'll get answers that go from classy esthetical and sophisticated bondage and fetish games to highly degrading and pervert stuff. Rather confusing.\nIf you stick to BDSM as an intelligent and creative sex game, in which playing dominant or sub brings a lot of intellectual pleasure, then I'm definately a big fan (and lucky enough to play such games in real life). When bondage and domination are seen as an art, it's really something interesting.\nOf course, the stereotypical images that you mention are pretty funny. Like the guys calling them "Master" or "Lord", who should know better that the sub is in fact giving the tone of any good "session".\nI don't know what you mean with the "functions in modern society". It seems in fact that our society is getting more and more fetish oriented (see Jennifer Garner in Alias, or movies such as Underworld...). So I guess fetish oriented people play a role in society, as they always did.\nThe only thing I hope is that all the people who are interested in such games, you maybe, will find the right partner. And that rather than trying to respect so-called BDSM rules, they live BDSM as something that makes their life better. As long as there is respect and love, it's all fine.\nHope this helps! (English is not my mother langage, so I hope I was clear!)\nLove and Kisses from France
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Dear Trial,\n\nTo a lot of people who are doing it, it is a lifestyle that works for them.\n\nMany people think it is a disorder and not acceptable.\nI think that means they themselves feel no desire to participate, or that they do and are frightened to experiment.\n\nMany people are afraid of many things that seem intimidating.\n\nThere is a very large body of knowledge about this, so you might want to Google BSDM and see what comes up.\n\nBuried in all the porn site hits, you will probably find some genuinely educational websites.\n\nHope this helps.
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greetings krys....\n\nA few more comments since you have a second copy of this question. These comments are based on your addendums.\n\nYour first type is the mundane sort of man who is so socialized away from being a Master that he will probably never be one and will fight against what you want to do. The best thing you can do with them is to move on as soon as you can.\n\nThe second type are the ones who are doing it either to please you, not because they have the real ability to master you or because they are used to dealing with subs and not slaves and don't know how to command and control a slave versus the ones they have to cajole into doing what they want outside of a scene. Some of these men can learn the difference. First they have to learn to be men. \n\nThe third group is often similar to the first group except that they overcompensate to the opposite extreme or they are BDSM sadists who find would be kajira easy prey and then unleash their real desires after they think they have someone who will do anything for them. You usually will not spot these until they relax their guard or think they have you where you can not get away. Or...they just get impatient or angry. \n\nAs for your last point, a girl is submissive until she is actually enslaved and that enslavement is mental and emotional more than physical. A Gorean Master will usually not intentionally mistreat or abuse his slave. He may be hard or soft with her as he chooses or may punish her if he feels a need to do so but they are not into inflicting pain on others. No...your actions and desires are not appropriate to mainstream society and we both know that. They are appropriate for what you wish to be. \n\nHow can you get a Dom to appreciate you? Be the sub or slave he wishes you to be. However, Doms are not Gorean. They are BDSMers who are usually more into it for the sexual gratification and often infliction of pain on others. I have summed it up this way. A bottom is interested in what the top can do to her. A sub is interested in what the Dom can do with her. The Gorean slave is interested in what she can do for her Master. \n\nI would not try to force someone into something they do not wish to be or can not be. You will only be disappointed. If you find someone close to what you are looking for, you might be able to give them a push in the direction you wish but there is no way to be certain if they will go there or not.\n\nbe well....\n\nMalkinius
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If you're writing about BDSM, then I hope I'm not being too rough without a safe word to tell you that the reason that it's been 14 hours and no one has replied is because this question is written so poorly, and posted in the wrong section. \n\nEffective communication is very important. It could have possibly been posted in the Family & Relationships section and worded as "What is the best interaction of two deep spirits in the BDSM community?"
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It's not right for anyone to judge at all.  I have been a wrestling fan for a lot of years and I have had my share of ridicule.  Usually it is by people who think they are too good to find wrestling entertaining.  I feel sorry for them.  I think females enjoy wrestling on many different levels, not just for the violence.  But I do love a bloody match!  Yeah, bring out the TLC matches for me!  Hardcore!  Triple H and the Sledgehammer!  I want to see PAIN in their eyes!  Sorry, I forgot what I was talking about for a moment!  Just enjoy!!
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bondage discipline sadism and masochism = Master/Mistress, Dom/ Domme, sub/slave whips and flogs and well now that is it i have to go to the dungeon...lol
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The repression of modern society is based on the inhibitions of the Victorian Era, though it goes much farther back than that to the political and religious seats of power.\n\nIt shouldn't be such a big deal, but it is.  Tolerance & understanding with compassion is something that seem to be given great lip service, but the actual truth is that anyone or anything different, is not tolerated with much more than words.\n\nIt is a sad state to be in, but this seems to be a trend started a couple thousand years ago, given a kick-start by Kings and Powers, and then launched into modern society with effective results.\n\nMaybe someday we will all learn to live & love without judgement.
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Kink (sexual)\nFrom Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia\nJump to: navigation, search\nThis article is about non-normative sexual practices; for other uses, see kink.\nKink is a term used to refer to unconventional sexual practices such as bondage, domination and submission, and sadomasochism (known collectively as BDSM), and sexual fetishism.\n\nIt is important to note that the definition of what is, and is not kinky can be quite subjective. People who are sexually conservative may consider anything other than monogamous sex within a private bedroom to be kinky. The opposite is also true, someone who enjoys BDSM related activies may feel that kink is antonymous with BDSM.\n\nSomeone who is "into kink" is also referred to as being kinky. A kinkster is a friendly term used in the BDSM community to refer to someone else who also participates in BDSM activities. The Internet has had a big impact on bringing together kink-friendly communities and allowing contact between them, and as this has happened the term kink is gradually changing through usage to mean those of an unconventional lifestyle who are accepting of others of unconventional lifestyles including BDSM, gay and lesbian.\n\n"Vanilla sex" is a term that refers to standard or normal sex. Different cultures, subcultures, and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes normal sex.
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For many, it isn't about choice. Its about an innate need. It is hard (for me at least) to describe or explain the feelings. I am submissive, I crave domination. It's something I have felt since the age of 14.
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as long as it's not abusive, it's fine.  I was spanked as a child and I learned quickly the difference between right and wrong.  today's parents are too permissive.
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Depends on your subculture.  Personally, I cannot condemn any act of love between consenting adults.  Insecurity is why people flip.\n\nI've seen women get seriously turned on by guys kissing.
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i'm too dominant to play one all the time, but i love being a slave for the night.  last time my husband tried to find my limits (he didn't believe me that i don't have any!)  he did tell me that i was a good little girl after we were all done!  so mostly i was tied and had to use my mouth... a lot.  i was blind folded for a little while.  we were outside in the front yard the whole time (we live in the country) so that made it even more exciting.  i brought my bag-o-fun so we had plenty of toys involved as well.\n\non the flip side, i don't get to be master like i want to be.  that would consist of sex at least, and i do mean at least, twice a day.  i have an extremely high libido that kids did not even damper.  so if it was my way, it would be all day!
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I love it rough, not necessarily being hit in the head but as long as your not damaging yourself and you enjoy it then why not you kinky b itch :)
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Well there is nothing wrong with it if thats what you like. I just like getting spanked (not just during sex I mean an actual "punishment" spanking during foreplay) and I dont mind a little hair pulling its a turn on!!!! You ain't weird you just like what you like!!!!
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Answer:\n\nNo I don't, but yes I do in some cases depending how it's done.\nI'm sorry, this is going to be kinda long...\n\nI'm not from Europe BTW, but I think this fits in here so please bare with me.\n\nI come from a family where you were beat for almost any reason: chewing gum too loud. Laughing too loud. Getting a B in a report card. Sleeping too long. Saying the word "No" to your parents, getting beat up by someone and you come home just to have your mother beat you up because you got beat up by someone else. The list goes on, but I won't bore you with the details.\n\nUnfortunately I was beat a lot. Maybe I was a hard to teach child but I tell you I got beat almost every day from the age of 5 to the age of 14.  I was not a bad child, I was just hyper-active and back then people didn't understand what that meant. I also had vivid imagination which clearly set me apart from my family.\n\nThrough all the weirdness and the hard times, I actually was a very happy little kid, but my mother was angry and she hated the world...she especially hated men, and unfortunately for me resembled my father who had abused my mother and then left her with 5 children to take care of by herself.  BTW if you ever wondered why Black women have a problem with Black men, it's because Black men did this sort of thing a lot in the 60s, 70s, and 80s.\n\nSo since I resembled my wayward father who abused my mother and left her, my mother was angry all the time, and she would beat the males in the family for all kinds of crazy reasons and I got it the worst.\n\nShe never beat you to teach you a lesson, or to show you where you were wrong, she beat you as a way to vent her frustrations out on men and life in general.  You could tell this by the way she was sort of off in her own world while she was beating you.\n\nAlso, when I say she "beat" you, let me describe what I mean by that.  She never spanked you.  A spanking would have not have even been noticed that family. When I say she beat you, I mean she really beat you. A beating in my family was a whole, family experience.  I think this was the only activity that we all participated in together.\n\nEveryone would show up in the kitchen along with the person that was unfortunately picked to be beaten (which was always me).  That person had to strip down to their underwear, and then the family members all would grab an arm, and legs so that their was no way that the person could escape.  They would all hold you down, and then the mother would come out with an extension cord and she would beat you for 5 minutes, and if you didn't cry or scream she would beat you for 10 minutes, and then after that you got to sit in your locked room without food for the remainder of the day and night.   This was a standard ritual in my sick family.  It was years later that I found out that not all families behaved like this. I thought this was normal for a long time.\n\nAll of these beatings did not stop me from getting into trouble at all. All it taught me was that my mother was sick, and it also taught me how to endure pain.  I still shop-lifted as a child, and I still made every mistake that a child could make.  No amount of beatings could ever increase my grade point, or make me a better person. No amount of beatings could ever have made me a good citizen of Earth.  No amount of beatings could have ever taught me to be respectful, or a responsible member of society.\n\nBeating a child or a teen without love involved is an empty act.  Telling a child that they are bad or are a waste of genetic material does not make that child learn. That child will only learn to hate themselves and think that hey are bad.  What my mother did was not discipline, so I didn't learn anything of value from her.\n\nIf you ever wondered why so many black men and teens are so mean and act they they don't give a crap, you will find out that they were treated like me when they were youn
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Well some people want to know. Personally, I like to gather info to better my own skills with the ladies. Although the tough thing is all of them are different. Different tastes ect. Personally, I'm pretty open about things. Can't say that I've ever had a toy used on me but I have used them on ladies before. (Unless you count handcuffs a toy)
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Well I am mainly dominant as you can tell by my sn.  However I have had training as a sub, and yes when I displeased her I felt like crying.  My slaves feel like crying.\n\nIt's okay to!  It shows you ACTUALLY care and aren't just playing games.  Your Mistress is a lucky woman to have someone as devoted as you.  Take care.