My husband complained because I was busy & never cooked dinner so he had nothing to take for lunches?
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I would just sit him down and ask him what EXACTLY he expects from you.  You don't want to argue, it will just make things worse and plus that's never a good option.  I guarantee you if he has other issues, this is where they will come out and hopefully be able to be resolved and this lunch dilemma will magically dissolve.
396600
may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
197489
Ooooo. Sounds like a familiar situation...\n\nFirst- This shouldn't be about right or wrong. That just makes people defensive and nothing comes out of it. \n\n\nYou do a lot and he needs to recognize that. \nHe needs to pitch in more and at least not depend on you to cook all the time. \n\nMy wife and I just had our first baby. We are both exhausted because we take shifts to feed the baby. Sometimes I have more energy and I cook or do some cleaning or vice versa. But marriage and kids is all about team work. You guys are in this together. \n\n\nPerhaps you need to approach this in a way that doesn't make him defensive. (if that is possible.) You want to make him see your point of view without him feeling like he needs to justify his actions. \n\nOwn your feelings. Tell him that you are too tired to cook, or say you need his help with something specific because you are worn out. Mention the part about being a team. \n\nBut make sure you let him know you do appreciate him to. Guys need that and we like to be able to help and feel needed. Using those words might get more action out of your hubby.\n\nEffective communication will help you through.
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cook clean feed baby dress baby clean some more take care of dogs take a shower have dinner cooked .... just kidding i have found that it isn't always that simple.. i talked to my hubby and told him there is no possible way to do it all... try giving him one day to be in your shoes then see what he has to say!
272581
Yesterday when my boyfriend was supposed to pick me up at 5:45 and he showed up at 6:30... he was at home playing his video game and lost track of time.  It ruined the whole night because I was mad and was chewing him out... We never made it to dinner or the movie we had planned on seeing.  The whole night was pretty much ruined... I've never yelled at him like that and he knew he was in for it... At least he got the hint that I was fed up with his constant tardiness and that I wouldn't put up with it.  Today my throat was hoarse and itchy from the yelling I gave him.
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Your husband needs to grow up and be more considerate. If you are doing the chores, you dictate the indoor temperature. If you get too warm, you'll become fatigued more quickly and perhaps dehydrated. \n\nSounds like you're stuck with an inconsiderate jerk who probably has an online addiction.
745569
Show him love...Even though you had to wait till you got home and had to heat up your dinner, it was very sweet and thoughtful of him to make you dinner.  I've done that for my wife, where she's come home late from work, and I've made her dinner, but she had to heat it up when she got home.  He loves you and I don't think he meant to upset you by not waiting till you got home to make you dinner.
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The scorn that 'The Pilot' has just poured out on you in unjustified.  Your husband made marriage vows, you have needs, if he were in your shoes he would probably have done something about the situation long ago.  I think you need to take a complete break from routine, say go to a hotel, order in dinner, and talk to each other.  Remind him of the times he chased you around, tell him how lonely you are, how hurt you feel, how you need more than the nothing you are being given.  With his health problems, I'd be bothering my wife as if every day were my last!\nYou deserve to be loved, more than the love for a piece of furniture, which is all he is showing you.  He loves having you around, wouldn't know what to do without you, etc.  It's very difficult to think of leaving someone you have so much history with, and who is in poor health, but DON'T let guilt keep you unfulfilled.\nTALK!
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You are amazing and I'm sure that you are much appreciated! I work a 50+ hour week and still manage to have dinner on the table for my hubby everynight, desserts are special occasion though! I too know a lot of women who can't cook. They are married women with children and they can't even feed their family cause it is an inconvience to them!
877656
No, we don't argue about it anymore. When I got tired of doing it all by myself, I made a Housework chart. I listed the chores that had to be done daily,weekly, monthly and seasonably including the time it takes me to do them. After seeing it in black and white, how much I had to do after getting home, he ask what he could do to help. I let him pick the chores he wanted to do and added a few I thought he could handle. Now he's done them for the last 20 years. He doesn't do everything to my liking, so when he is not around I'll go into the corners he missed. It helps a lot,even if it isn't as well as if I had done it myself and I'll tell him ever so often how lucky I am to have a partner that helps out so much.
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Was he that way before you married him? If so, why would you expect it to be different now?\n\nIf he wasn't, then--as said above--you've probably run rampant at home and he doesn't feel the need, or is trying to "balance" the situation. Could also be med/psych reasons too.
596947
It may be depression.  I used to think my husband was lazy because all he did was sleep and lay on the couch.  He was depressed.  I didn't understand until I started going through a major depression about 10 months ago.  In my case anti-depressants has helped a lot.
835778
have you asked him what he wants ????? if he's not helping you in that area then just take him out ot dinner or something. who doesn't like good food ?
927087
much about life is routine and it sounds like you have a very full plate....hope that he is in this for the long haul and if he is then he will understand the pressures you are under and try to make things easier for you....try making dates for just the two of you....doesn't have to be expensive or for long periods of time but quality time that only the two of you share.  Make the very most of the time you do have together and shake up the routine a little....climb in the shower with him in the morning....put a love note in his coat pocket....send him a card in the mail telling him how much you love and appreciate him....have a picnic in the back yard instead of lunch or dinner in the house....think of some fun spontaneous things that you can do to spice it up a bit and make the routine feel less difficult...good luck
1176240
LOL\nYour husband pissed you off or something?
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
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Unless he wants to do it you've got your work cut out for you.  You're pretty much going to have to cater to him until he looses the weight.  The only way a friend of mine could keep her man on a diet was to cook 3 meals a day for him with snacks.  She keep him full-up on healthy foods and junk out of the house.  Otherwise he'd just make whatever he wanted.  It was a wierd situation.