how do i get my mum get back to work?
544814
Find her a fun job with excellent pay and benefits and the ability to check up on her kids whenever she wants to.
1138406
Talk to her and give her a deadline. Tell her that she needs to move by a certain day, no exceptions! If it doesn't work, remove all of her personal belongings and deliver them to her mother. \nBy reading what you have typed, sounds like you are the type of person who gives in easily to others distress. She needs to understand that you will not take any excuses. Sometimes tough love is just what people need.\nIt is hard to advise on this because we who reply do not know the full situation.\nMaybe the person you are helping is a moocher. Maybe she's afraid to move in with her mother. Without knowing the person's age and situation, it is hard to say whether this person needs a reality check, or compassion.
348846
Do what's called the Broken Record thing...every time she starts in--think of something like.." I appreciate your concern, mom, but we have it handled."..........say it Every time...and she Will stop---it worked on my dad...see...when us mom's spens at least 20 yrs rasing kids..and being needed...and then we find one day that the kids are grown..living on their own--meaning we did our job well...suddenly we have nothing to fuss over..and that can be a lonely feeling.  I'm not saying it's okay for her to over step her bounds, just have a little understanding and compassion ... cuz, one day, you, too will have worked yourself out your job..\nhang in there
1115477
You need to check what her company policy is.  Does she have PTO and Sick Days, or are they all rolled up in one?  If they are indeed two different days you will have to contact corporate.  If they will not do anything about it, write your local congressmen, and your attorney general for your state.  Then send a copy of both letters to the corporate offices and let them know that you are serious about this.
567759
Ok I think I am qualified to answer this since my wife was a stay at home Mom to our Daughter for the first 9 years!\nShe just went back to work this year. Not because of the money but she just was ready to try something else!\nShe had certain priorities though, it had to be a job that still allowed her to drop off and pick up our Daughter each day at school meaning she only works about 5 hours. She took her time and found a job, at another school! This way she if off on all of the holidays as well as summer time to.\nDon't be scared, take your time this summer and see what is out there that will work for you and the children too!\nYou sound like a wonderful Mother (just like my wife) and I hope you have a wonderful Mother's day.\nGood luck!
683391
Approach her about this.  Tell her, politely, to own up to her responsibilities there or you'll tell the boss.  Tell her that you understand that she has a life outside of work but so do you.  You cannot keep covering for her because it reflects poorly upon you.  She can seek help.\n\nIf this is a temporary problem, wait it out.  She'll owe you one and may keep this in mind during finals time.  Chances are, she's carried a load or two for you, without you knowing it.\n\nIf she shrugs you off or does not promise to improve, then go to her boss.  Tell him that you do not mind handling the extra responsibility if you are compensated for it.  However, you currently are not being compensated for your efforts and you've already got a great deal of responsibility within and outside of work.\n\nIf nothing happens, go above his head.
367521
Sorry, about your mom. You must help her, but not only that you must be with her all the time and she must know that she can rely on you. Tell her that you love her - that is the most important, she must know you still care about her, and can be a good stimul for her to quit!
192618
tell her you need a little space.\nor perhaps that you moved to canada.\n\nbut i just try to avoid them.\nlike if i'm on the phone with them and i don't want to talk very long, i tell my mom to yell at me to get off the phone.\nthen act all bummed that i have to get off the phone with them.\nalso, if they want me to go somewhere with them or do something, i tell them my mom said that i can't.  and pretend to be mad at her.\n\ntrust me, it works.
699285
Have you spoken to your brothers maybe they could help you. Try ringing kids help line 1800551800 this is a free call from your home phone and the people are trained counselors which can offer you suggestions of where you could get help.  Maybe your mum would be better staying where she is at least that way she doesn't lose the friends she has and you don't lose yours either.  Good luck I hope kids helpline can help
70965
call a relative .. grandma is best and have them contact your mother to tell her that .. her daughter? .. needs her or whatever the situation is .. tell the relative to tell your mother .. if you cannot stay with him because of abuse or something you need to contact an authority .. tell a relative what's going on and that you need to get out of the house
485688
Stop walking around and get back to work!\nSay hi once and just do a jesture next time.
655106
Give her some time....she's TIRED! She has been doing a lot, and needs a vacation. After she has had a few days rest, she will see that you are a good husband, and father. Then she will come back home. In the meantime, you need to do more for her when she does come back, so plan what you're going to do to help her. Help her pull her heavy load! I have a saying, and although it's 'country", it applies perfectly here: "Two mules pull this wagon!" Help her pull more!! Good Luck!!
131029
Oh my gosh! Did she asked to be PAID to take care of you growing up?! Get a life and take care of your mother! It isn't her fault she is disabled and I can't believe you would ask such a insensitive question! Take care of your mother....God forbid you get into a terrible accident and have to have someone take of you.....I am so ashamed of you.
432243
talk to your mom to allow you to get back on.
1055567
Just chill out and relax it seems to me that you have your head sorted most people spend their whole life in a job they cant stand but you got out.. and as for your ma thats what they do is worry give her a week or two n shell be grand.
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
711020
put the past be hide you , just as your mum has . move forward and be happy for her