Is my partner gay or just plain vain?
539247
I don't take he's gay. i think he has this body dysmorphic behaviour syndrome thing.  Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) is a condition that involves an intense preoccupation with a particular aspect(s) of physical appearance in a normal appearing person. Although individuals can become preoccupied with any aspect of their appearance, concern with facial features is the most common. Patients may complain, for example, that their nose is too large nose, their hairline is receding, or they have facial blemishes. \n\nIMO, your BF is either suffering from that disease or he's a metrosexual. nothing wrong if he is metrosexual but as a lesbian, I don't personally believe in metrosexual. I think they're queens in denial.
758724
"well he's attractive"\n\nbut i'm in a very happy relationship, so that's about it.
669270
it depends on how he makes fun of you. is he laughing at you or with you? just were a pull-up bra and when you ask him ether he says yes or he is gay.
13059
There isn't really a clear cut way to know for sure. There have been women married for years only to devorce  him later because he was gay. And the wives never suspected it. He wasn't flamboyant, didn't talk funny, didn't do any obvious signs of being gay. So there really isn't any clear cut way of knowing.
17660
Wow, is it possible he is gay? Maybe you are unattractive to him and he doesn't have the heart? Also you need to find out if he is cheating on you and doesn't have the energy when he comes home. And lastly, maybe he is having a sexual problem such as unable to get erection or an STD... and is trying to hide it from you
995522
it's a little hard seen you don't know if he is also gay, maybe you could ask him out for a drink after work. See how he is in a social setting( like if he points out a hot chick the minute you both walk in, pretty good bet he's straight) . Don't mention your feelings until your sure. Hope it all works out for you
877338
Honey sit down before reading this...oh you are!\n\nYour husband is GAY! Flaming....SUGARY...Sorry to break it to you...
569442
He may be gay but besides that, I'm thinking it may just be his preference. A lot of men generally enjoy anal and oral sex a lot. It's possible he just may find that typical sex is not as exciting. It could just be a matter of the less conventional it is the more he likes it. I would think it's a matter of fantasies and those acts fulfill his fantasies more. I'd talk to him about it and get the 411 and find out if it's just a matter of being kinkier or something more than that.
477296
Yes. If you're not sure if someone is gay or not - they're gay. Me, you'd know right away I'm no homo. When you dump him get yourself checked out to make sure he didn't give you some homo disease (like AIDS) and if you're clean give me a call (seems like you're pretty easy and I like that in a chick).
54480
He might be ashamed to admit his fantasies to you, especially if they're considered "taboo" by general society. Trust is often something that has to be built and earned. My boyfriend and I share everything, but it took a while for us to get to that point.
369496
oh I'm so sorry.\nAsk your girlfriend why and expect her to be honest with you. If it's a valid reason - don't take it personally - work on the problem. Maybe you are just not 'his type' but please don't fret - you WILL find someone - this one just wasn't meant to be. :)
1005913
My psychic opinion is yes, he is gay...   but either isn't completely aware or hasn't completely accepted it yet.\n\nIf you enjoy the attention, tell him so.  If you do not, tell him to stop.  If you would like to take it further, next time he is rubbing your stomach, tell him he could do that a little further south and you wouldn't mind...  this should get you where you want to go.\n\nGood luck and have fun...   \n\nPS  don't forget the condoms.
430174
that he has a girlfriend or that his gay
737088
Probably not. Just because you can see the attractive features in another man doesn't make you gay. I bet if you looked, you'd notice that what makes a man attractive to you is the same thing that makes a woman attractive to you...you would only be gay if the thought of BEING with a man was attractive to you. Rest easy fella.
210990
If you are told your hot, it's because you are in his opinion. It has nothing to do with your sexual preference. I think he is just jealous that you are that good looking and that you prefer a female over a male. I find nothing wrong with that. I think it is natural and everybody has a choice on who they want to be with. He is just trying to get at you, don't let it disturb you much, does he have a girlfriend, he's probably jeaulous that you have. Good luck.
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What makes you think he's Gay?  \n\nMany Gay people do their 'best to fit into society' by joining up with a person of the opposite sex to keep the appearance of being 'normal'.  They marry and have kids sometimes as well -- all to keep up the facade and DENY who they are to themselves and his family.  The thing is, if you believe this to be true, then first thing is ask him.  If he denies (he will I'm sure), then be on your way if you are that convinced.  Because no matter how attractive you are, sweet, loving etc.. he will NOT change who he is attracted to - it's in his DNA/Biology who he is attracted to.  So do yourself a favor and just walk away from that.  \n\nI hope it all works out for you, but there are no 'sure tests' to be 100%.  If your GUT is telling you he is, then trust your gut, because most of the time, your gut is never wrong.  If your friends have 'gently commented/asked about it' then it is 'for sure' time to break it off.  Do your best not to hurt his feelings and your own feelings.  Be good to yourself and there is NOT something wrong with you that you 'fell' for osmeone Gay.  \n\nGood Luck and be well! :)
456843
hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.