What should you do when the person you work with is a control freak? Should you go to the boss?
550285
Talk to the friend.  Ask him what is going on with him, and let hm know that you have observed a change.  Maybe he is under some severe personal stress, or dealing with depression or some other mood altering condition.  Depending on the response that you get, you may either find a way to work out the solution with the cranky friend, or go to management to seek a solution.  \n\nNo matter what the friend says or does, make certain that your behavior is professional.  If you do decide after trying to work out the problem with both the friend and the management, that you will no longer choose to work there, then give proper notice, do your work, get a good reference and go find another job, preferably while you are still working.
1022958
Fireing a person is never easy althought George Jettsons boss sure makes it look easy.  If he is hindering progress, not doing what he is supposed to be doing or what ever then you should.  Its part of your job perameters.  If you dont do it then other employee's will see you as soft and you boss might see you as incompetant.
469373
Yes, you should most certainly report your a** hole boss. He's a creep, and that kind of talk should never be forced into the workforce.
808722
If I were you I'd start looking for a new job before she gets you fired.  In the real world everything isn't fair, sometimes you get trampled on, and right doesn't make might.  You should have talked to her first to find out the problem and to get her expectations of your job performance clarified.  But you started a losing battle, what did you expect her to do when she found out you went over her head and reported her?  Your superiors obviously think more of her than of you, or they would have given you the job?  Now they view you as a trouble maker "not a team player" so it's time to chalk it up as a lesson learned and move on to greener pastures.
361632
My boss right now is horrible because she is a punk! She lets her assistant basically set her mood for the day, and tell her what to do. I feel that any true leader (boss, supervisor, manager,...etc) should truly lead in their position not be lead.
439201
I can imagine how complicate it is to have such a person in your environment. Sometime it could be a member of your family, your spouse, and then it is much more complicate. \n\nIf you have such a person in your workplace, just remember one important thing; DO NOT feel sorry. \n\nHe/she is not so poor and weak and self-victimizing persons survive in this world very well. They use their "victim position" to manipulate with people, to emotionally and morally blackmail them, what is very exhausting. People in their surrounding usually feel confused, guilty, exhausted. They feel like they cannot help them, cannot do or say the right thing...\n\nDon't let him/her drag you in his/her vicious circle. If you find yourself feel sorry or sad, stop it. Don't empathize and don't try to help or offer the solution. Try to concentrate on your work and let her know it from the very beginning of your working day. If she starts to talk about problems, listen to her politely to some extend, then show her that you "accept" and "understand" what she told you and then either change the subject or tell her that now you have to concentrate on your duties. You can eventually tell her that she is the one who has to resolve her problems and that you cannot help her, but don't let yourself be a part of her problems. And don't be surprised if she reacts on it as if you are not empathic enough, you don't understand her or something like that. This is a usual strategy to make you feel guilty, because SOMEBODY HAS TO BE GUILTY, for her. Stay out and remember that it is not easy. If nothing helps, talk with your superior to eventually move you to another office.\n\nadditional details:\nYou obviously know him very well. You said that those persons are like chameleons and are very good in that. That is exactly the characteristic of manipulator. Don't blame yourself for feeling sorry and offer a support. It is normal human reaction and every normal person would do that. But if you feel permanently guilty and exhausted in communication with him, stop it. YOUR guilty feelings and exhausting are sure signs that you have a problem with manipulator. NOBODY HAS A RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THAT.
990715
Although you showed poor judgment in meeting him, he was the one who was harassing you, making you feel like your job was dependent on him. Now you need to focus on doing you job well. You shouldn't be fired for reporting your former boss' behavior. You can be fired if you don't do your job.
233247
Tell your boss. She is being irresponsible.  You are being taken advantage of, you need to stand up for yourself.
757275
Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.
21847
This person obviously wants to maintain whatever competitive edge they have within your company.  My first thought is to try and befriend this person.  Let them know you are not trying to step over them, you just want to help your company put out the best product possible.  One way to befriend people is to invite them to lunch or to a poker party after work, or some other function.  If it's real bad, and doesn't get better, maybe the boss needs to find out.
998990
be her friend and make suggestions outside of meetings. If I feel the value of staying in this job of yours', I'd see it as the best training ground for my softskills~ influencing people. How to measure success? You'd become her panic aid, she comes to you when she panics- you can soothe her. When shes indecisive, you'll be her favourite person to talk to, giving subtle hints on solutions.
1017862
Give your boss a good smack in the mouth. You should see changes taking place shortly afterwards. Glad to be of help.
811904
I would make an effort to get along with him and if that didnt work meanings you had to stay there i would do everything the way that boss wants it done then pursue to look for another job because if you stay in a work place that makes you miserable makes it so you dont want to work there period...\nSo its always better to be happy than miseraable...\ntake my advice i have been there done that...
362483
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
1047671
1.  Confront the person, ask them to stop\n2.  Inform the supervisor\n3.  If the above don't work, try looking for a new job.
686599
Clarify with them exactly what they need to be doing, what their limitations are and what the consequences are if they do not comply.\n\nFor anyone that cannot understand that you might think about terminating them and finding someone who WILL work well.
41713
Try communication with him/her, if that doesn't work then get another job.  This may help him/her or they may not care and go through workers like underwear.