how should i ask a girl out i am a ninth grader and never asked anyone out before because i am to shy?
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be front about it, and get the ball rolling. if its to hard, try it over the phone instead of in person. or be romantic about it. my current boyfriend started things up with me by asking me to prom. in each class that i went to during the course of the day, he left an envelope with some cut up pieces of paper. at the end of the day, i put the pieces of paper together, and it turns out it was a puzzle, which read "will you go to prom with me?" and on the envelope it said to meet him at a certain time, so i did, with my own envelope with a puzzled 'yes' in it. it was really sweet. of course, in your situation, mold it so that the envelopes follow her daily schedule.
749262
Just try to be yourself. Ask her out sometime and do not be shy about that, it's so natural. I mean, if you want someone open the door to you, you at least(!), have to knack in it...\nHow more simple can it be?
1109716
Well, its tough.  Maybe u can ask a mutual friend to ask her if she likes you.  If your friend does say that she likes you..then you can feel a lot more confident in asking her out and not being rejected..if you don't know anyone..just ask her out! Better to know now, then later..so you can move on or you can go out with her.
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I think you have a few choices (and yes I'm a girl, by the way!).  You could ask her out, which implies that you like her.  You could tell her you like her, which might be a little more awkward because you're just coming out and saying it, and I think this might be harder since you're shy.  You could ask her on a group outing, like if a bunch of people are going out to coffee.  This would give you the chance to "feel her out" and see if she goes and whether she acts interested in you.  Or you could do nothing (not the recommended choice!). \n\nIf you tell her you like her or ask her out, she will be flattered whether she says yes or no.  I know that even if I'm not interested in a guy, It's nice to be asked and I never think he's a freak or anything.  Of course you don't want to be rejected-who does?  But I think it's worth the risk.  Otherwise, you might wonder about this girl for the rest of your life!  And if it makes you feel better, I'm pretty shy around guys too.  :)\nGood luck!  Hope she says yes!
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STOP BEING SHY!\nThe fear of doing it is greater than actually doing it.\n\nThe next time you see her just ask her if you could take her out for lunch sometime.\n\nDon't listen to the girl above me.\nIf you're attracted to someone you can make the first move...doesn't matter if you're female or not. If you sit around waiting for someone to come to you it's probably not going to happen. \n\nWomen today aren't afraid to do what needs to be done to move forward, doesn't matter if it's their "duty" or not. \n\nAnyway, back to my orignial advice:\nJust ask her! That's the only way you'll know for sure.
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son, your just young and shy. i've been there and lived that. there will come a time in your life where you will look up and say to yourself that if you dont get the courage to ask for something, you're not going to get it. Life is all about getting who and what you want. If you're too scared to run the race, you have no chance of winning. i am now at the point where i'll ask just about any woman out because a) I'd love to go out with them\nand b)if you dont ask, you'll always wonder if life could have been different. \nThe trick is to live life with no regrets and, by asking someone out and her saying 'no'. well how bad is that really? a bit embarrasing at the time, but who cares. she should be flattered that you thought so much of her.\nCool, little bro, and good luck. theres a lot of women out there and quite a few are probably checking you out asking similar questions as you just did. If its like a chick that works at the shops or something, why dont you tell her you think shes' beautiful? as in ' i just wanted to say that i think you are beautiful' I bet she blushes. it ALWAYS works.dont ask her out. just let her know. that'll get her thinking about you and if she's interested. if she is she'll be very friendly to you the next day or so. that and women ALWAYS like being told they're beautiful. not pretty, little bro, beautiful.\nGo for it. I want to hear back from you in ten years saying that you've got 37 children from 28 different women. and you've been divorced 15 times.Lol.\nSmooth sailing brother.
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i think you should go ahead and ask her out i mean the worst thing that can happen is she that she will say no. but if she dosen't know you that well show her another side of yourself but still act yourself.Good Luck
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I am a shy person too, and most shy people want u to take it slow with them and don't push thing to far. Talk to her\nas a friend first and see what she enjoy. You might have something in comment with her and you may hit it off. Don't rush nothing
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First off nobody needs a girlfriend. Being shy is a hardship for dating I know.I can tell you though just be yourself and someone special will find you. Try being friends with some girls first have some of your guy friends and some girl friends hang out somewhere. Having a friend that is a girl is a way to get to know what other girls like too. Good Luck and remember you do not need a girlfriend to be happy and go out and have fun.
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Dude I'm in the same situation. Now I'm Not going to give you some dumbass answer like some people because i know it's hard to ask a popular girl out. Just start a conversation with her, Flirt with her and then casually say hey do you want to go to the movies this Saturday. It works buddy.
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Tell here straight away that you are shy, but you've seen here around. That you don't want to try any lame lines on her but you would like to get to know her. Just be sincere don't worry about being rejected, you haven't gotten to that point yet and if she is the type of person that wont give another the time to get to know her then is she even worth the trouble?
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Okay, this is not easy. But the good things in life never are. Here it goes. Walk thru the fear. Start small. With girls you are more comfortable with...say Hi...and see what happens. When that is easier. Say Hi to someone you want to ask out. \nSomething else you can do is get hands on involved at church. There you might meet someone with the same values, and you will also be doing community service. Wouldn't you like someone who enjoyed the same things? A couple at my church met at a soup kitchen feeding the homeless. They are so good together.\nFear of rejection is so common. The only way to get thru it is to walk thru it. Keep breathing and do it.\nYou never know, the right person may just start a conversation with you and it will be totally great from there.
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I think if you want to ask her out, you should first become more confident in your self. Girls can sense insecurity, and it's a total turn off. Then you need to just ask, like "I was going to go to go see... on friday, wanna come?"\nthen at least you can play it off like you just wanted to chill, but if it works in your favor GREAT!!!!
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she isnt gonna say much cuz shes shy. u need to just ask her. she'll get nervous around u and try to get away if u talk to her like that. when the guy i like talks to me like that it makes me feel like an idiot and i always leave really quick cuz its embarrassing. just ask her. when ur talking. instead of saying dont be shy if u already are friends then ask her if she wants to go out sometime.
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wow. you sound like me\nexcept im a 15 year old girl and ive NEVER had a boyfriend\ni am shy too and i dont really have a place to meet any guys.\nyou dont have to be strong to get a girl.\nlots of girls, and i am speaking from personal experience, think the skinny shy boys are the cutest ones. go for it, just find a girl you think is pretty and just try to be friends with her. if it helps, approach her with a friend with you, so its less pressure\nim sure theres got to be girls at your school who would love for you to ask them out. the worst they can say is no. then you just find someone else\n\nGOOD LUCK!\np.s. the guys that are saying be a jerk are totally wrong. theres no better way to turn a girl OFF than to do that
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Real easy. Tell her you are interested and ask her to dinner. If she's not game, she's probably not interested. If you're direct and assertive her shyness won't get in the way. Don't ask her to come out with you and your friends, either.  You want to make yourself clear that you want a romantic dinner.\n\nDon't worry so much about rejection.  It happens.
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The same thing happened with me.I am bad in school but the girl who liked me wasn't.She got her friends to ask me out.Maybe you could do the same?