Is my best friend Striaght or Gay?
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Listen closely, you don't want to lose a valuable friendship.\n\nGay people (or people who are confused about their sexual orientation) tend to think that ANYONE who is sweet is gay. That is NOT TRUE. I have a teacher, who seems VERY GAY. He's way tooooo sweet to seem straight, his voice even has that little tone to it.. i swear i would have finished his class believing he was truly gay. Then one day, i was out, and went to give him my excuse, and he said, "don't worry about it, I was out to, I cancelled class. My wifes aunt passed away so we had to go to her funeral in Flint." I was like, oh, you're married? and he said, "yes.. here you can see her picture" and she was a she.\n\nMORAL OF THE STORY: not everyone whos nice and seems gay is gay. People now have a adefinition of being gay.\nGay= a guy whos nice and sweet, and has a certain ring to his voice, and in most cases is hot.\nbut that is not completely true, as a matter of fact it's completely false. Society tends to give false images..\n\nBe careful. If he's gay, he's gay. If not, then he's not.\n\nWhat you can do is, confess that you're gay, or you think you might be, and tell him you don't want it to ruin your friendship.\n\nIf he's gay, he'll be comfortable enough to say he is. If not, then he'll probably get freaked out at first, but then come around to accept you for who you are.
379687
it's really hard to tell someone's sexual preference these days, as i'm sure you know. i've never had to deal with this kind of situation before so my advice might be a lil spotty. i think you should just try and be friends with him for awhile at first and see if you can tell by just talkin to him. if that doesn't work and you feel comfortable enough then you should ask him. just be patient and see what happens. it could just turn out that he'll be a really good friend but not gay. you never know
989667
It's very common that best friend turns to be lovers. You should find out that your best friend is love you or just want to be friend. You know. Love is a two way channel, it invloves two persons. If only one-way, it is not love\n\nGood luck\n\nJoyce
497440
if you guys are best friends then there might be a chance that he might be thinkin the same way as you. build the courage and just tell him your feelins. if he's really your best friend then he wont hate you, or avoid you.
887893
my best friend in high school pretended to be gay for 4 years. i was naked in front of him, i kissed him on the lips, we massaged each other ( but nothing more) at graduation he told me that he was never gay and had a crush on me since freshman year! we are no longer friends.
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I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
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He may be gay. Have you given that any thought?\nOr his life goals could be taking another direction and he may be truly not ready for a relationship,Respect that and dont force the issue.It takes a lot of self control to sacrifice basic drives and instincts for a high&#92;er purpose.If you force the issue and he gives in he may end up resenting that down the line.Stay close tell him you support and respect his determination and see if he will be willing to be your friend at this point and let fate lead .
1109946
If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.
374545
It doesn't matter if they are male or female, gay or straight...if they are good friends and have been since before he met you, people most often would choose friends over "lovers" if given the ultimatum. After all, who knows them better and who has been there for them. If she is gay then you shoudl have nothing to worry about.
1001275
I have many friends that are either/or.  They are still good people but have a difference on their sexual outlook.  If they are your friends that is all they have to be nothing more.  I had a male friend who I did not know was gay and when he told me after 5 years of friendship I was only upset because he didn't tell me.  I told him I still loved him the same and we were best friends for many more years after that.  Some people are very mean when it comes to that.
477244
Gay? He still a human and he need friend ( s ) to support him and maybe u can be his miracle and make he change his sexuality ( gay to str8 )... hehehe... just a friend!
42709
ask him how he really feels about you, but be careful, because one way or another, after you cross that line, your friendship will feel different. in other words, you have to make the choice between a good friend that you already have and a potential partener. this is a gamble you have to be willing to make and possibly lose, but the payoff is worth it because the best loves are your best friends, ask anyone who is really in love
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there are many different reasons and ways to find out. if you say that you two are really good friends even though you are no longer together, he will understand if you ask him. He might deny if you ask him in an uncomfortable situation. Also, many women are worried that they turn their exes gay. I haven't seen that yet even though I have been accused of being turned by my ex-girlfriend. My friends knew about me years ago in high school. If he is gay, don't think that it is your fault because it isn't. If your friendship is as good as you say, he will be fine with your question regardless and will open up to you. All guys compare themselves to each other. It is part of the male psyche. They may ask a woman or gay man who looks better between them and another. Just answer him honestly. Friends prefer honesty over just trying to make them feel better.
996947
i have straight friends that do that. if he just acts gay around your friends, its most likely to make them laugh. you said he doesn't act like that all the time, so he is most likely not gay. but whatever he is, as long as he is a great person then he should be worthy of friendship.
838275
I wouldn't make a move on my best friend without being 100% sure he feels the same thing. You might be risking a lot if u tell him and he doesnt feel the same. \n\nSo i'd say if u like other guy start from there... maybe it works with that guy and u forget about ur best friend... if it doesnt work then just wait u have something more concrete before telling anything to yur best friend.
768654
if your not "out" then it might not be as much of flirting as you might think/hope for. If he thinks your one of his buds, and is straight it might just be him being pals. don't read too much into it, I know you want to, and I know he seems like the perfect one for you, but stop and think about it. If he is not bi, then you could really ruin your friendship. Maybe feel him out a little, bring up something in the news or current events like gay marriage and see how he reacts to it. \n What ever you choose to do, go slow, and be smart.\n and as much as it sucks remember their is a big difference between love and lust.
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If this person is your best friend, then chances are he already knows, and maybe feels a little of the same. it's natural between the sexes.\nDo you want to tell him because you need to nkow if he feels the same? What do you do if he doesn't, and if he does feel something, where do you go from there?? Downhill usually.\nIf there was a strong enough chemistry and bond between you to sustain a lasting relationship, then you both would have had it from the beginning, and gone way past "best friend" status.\nGood luck