when a guy make a move on you like sexual why do i feel really bad and cry the next day? help me please!!!?
542695
wow i had this same problem for years. i have been in counseling and have learned that it is partly due to the way i was raised. sex was not and open subject in my household and masturbation was a thing totally out of the question. i have had a hard time learning that sex and masturbation are completely normal and are not bad or shameful in any way as long as it is consensual. think about what i have written and if it does pertain to you get some help with dealing with this it does help. good luck.
1054758
Well, the bottom line is that he isn't concerned about your feelings.  \n\nEven if he were surprising you, it's mean spirited to make you think he can't call.  That's controlling.  \n\nSo I would strongly suggest being sad for the rest of the day but then tell yourself that you deserve much better than that.\n\nRemember, you decide how people are going to treat you.  YOU DECIDE THAT.  How do you decide?  By either allowing it or not allowing it.  So don't allow people to treat you with no regard towards your feelings.  We all deserve more than that and if we demanded it, it would be a better world.  So let it start with you.  Lead yourself girl.  Be strong and demand more.
1179364
Maybe you ARE to good for them; I know, it doesn't make you feel any better... I've had guys say that too. I remember in my one of my Psych classes that guys fall for a girl right away and then there feelings tend to decline, whereas a it takes a girl a while to fall for guy but it usually steadily increases. Maybe that has something to do with it. I also think if guys want a sexual relationship and don't get what they want, they try to find someone else so they can.
669297
Terribly, terribly guilty. Usually I apologize, and start crying. I don't yearn for attention, but if I am not getting attention because I hurt his feelings, I feel pretty dang bad.
503871
You need to masturbate.  No joke. It will get you in touch with what feels good to you.  Once you get that down, I suggest that you start riding him so that you can have more control over what gets you feeling something.
872727
Bummer!  That is a shitty one!  \n\nOK so, it does actually happen.  Kinda like a slip of the tongue.  I did the same thing to my b/f once.  It really was NOT intentional!  Just kinda happened.  It feels terrible to be on the receiving end I know, but as long as you have made your feelings known to him, and he doesn't do it again - no harm, no foul.  However, if he does it again  -  find a new boyfriend because this means he has NOT got over his X, and it was NOT a slip of the tongue.  Give him the benefit of the doubt THIS time!\n\nMaybe you should also think about mentioning to your b/f that you are uncomfortable with the fact that he still sees his X (if he does) and that this is the reason you may have over-reacted (I am not saying you did - it's just a bit of reverse psychology that will make him feel better about himself)  to his blunder.  As long as you are open and honest about how you feel, he can't turn around at a later date and say he wasn't aware of your feelings.
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Trust me, this is so normal and I actually feel like this all the time.  I love giving my BF oral sex. Just the thought of tasting him right now makes me quiver.  I also think that it has a lot to do with me making him feel as good as I do.  To know that he's 6 years older than me and I've given him the best oral sex in his life makes me overwhelmed.  I actually thought that I was the only one who felt like this, Thanks girl you made me feel a lot better
324387
Interesting, you should have mixed feelings. Of course you are going to feel terrible but his comments to you should make you feel a bit better. Some people live in dark when they are infatuated with someone.
977427
You sound like a sweet and intelligent young girl...with feelings!  We have all experienced this once in our young lives and I want to tell you that you need to give yourself some room!  Don't worry about him or the guys, they will always be there, and believe me, you will be noticed!  Take some time to be young and enjoy your time developing into womanhood.  You are feeling strong desires and this is normal, but the question is, can you take control of these strong desires and urges?  We need to be careful these days since with everything going around and the traps we might fall into!  Don't be too hasty and jump into something you are not to sure about.  You do well to listen to people with experience and age.  Don't fight them and their advice!  They really know what's good for you and people your age.  If anything, give yourself some time too weigh things out and reflect on what you've heard.  Good luck and have fun!
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remember, behavior is different from what you actually feel.\n\nyou may have "dated" guys in the past...but that is a behavior.  did you do it because you actually felt that strong attraction to them?\n\nI'm not being rude when I say this, so don't misunderstand me.  but the question you must ask yourself, if you truly want to know what your attractions are, is this:  when you fantasize and/or masturbate, who do you think of?  people of the same-sex or the opposite sex?\n\nwhen you are by yourself, secure with your thoughts, and nobody is there to judge you about your thoughts, who do you fantasize about?  honestly...what makes you feel that "lump" in your tummy, that lump that you feel when you are strongly attracted to someone?\n\nthat will USUALLY tell you, if you are at the point that you can be fully honest with yourself about your feelings.
509057
It hurts at first but once you get over it you will feel like a stronger person. This is a dangerous time for you because instead of toughing it out and growing up, some guys resort to being emo which always leads to homosexuality and dressing like a girl. Judging by your grammar and poor spelling you are probably young. Give it time buddy there are better ones out there TRUST me.
353699
I think that if he truly does like you for you he will appreciate that you are not ready.  Now, something similar happened to me, and i was pissed, (i will be honest, I was rather horny, and expecting some gratification that never came.)  If he does get pissed just let him know that it is not him, it is you.  If you do not want him to enter you, is there anything else you might be willing to do that will satisfy him?  If not, let him know.  But in the end, you have to do what feels right.  If deep down you really want to have sex, but you are getting cold feet or butterflies, i suggest you go for it.
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YES, a lot of guys are like this, and if you wanted more than a quick fling you should have made that clear before, not after.\n\nI think you're too young for this, even though you feel like you want it. Stick to boys your own age if possible, although that's still no guarantee of not getting hurt.\n\nWhen you're older, if you want casual sex, that's your choice, as long as you're careful, but for now this isn't a good idea. \n\nI know it's not easy when you're permanently horny, but remember to respect yourself or nobody else will.\n\n(PS, I don't want to sound rude, but are you sure this really happened, and you didn't just fantasise about it? Because if you did, then that's cool, best way to go about it.)
158749
Don't feel bad.  Humans feel horny sometimes, it's part of our biology.  Don't let people tell you it's a sin.  God gave us these urges as incentive to make babies.  How you act on these urges, tho, depends on your beliefs.  There's nothing wrong about acting on these urges if you find someone who feels the same about you and cares about you.  You don't have to be married, but you should wait for the right person.  \n\nBut just feeling horny shouldn't make you feel bad.  It should make you feel like a human being.
544469
sometimes you can't help the way you feel.. I would be rather annoyed with a guy if he tried to have sex with me on the first date, but if you really want this person emotionally, then you are emotionally stimulated to want to have sex with them because it feels soooo right, there is passion from both sides.....
592895
you shouldn't feel bad at all... and also let him know that you don't like his advances... he has to listen or he can get in trouble! in this situation, YOU'RE the boss!!!
621272
Ah, so many a time I have had situations like that and wished I had done something.  I know exactly what you mean.  I think you ought to do some teasing back ;)  I reckon he is playing hard to get to tease you.  He is probably checking you out.  I say get right in there.  If you're doing something like watching a film again together, when you're thinking, I want to kiss him, first of all, build your confidence, and make a big smile to yourself.  It helps!  Then, just maybe put your hand on his leg or something.  He'll probably look round at you.  When he does, smile and look in his eyes, then take his face in your other hand, then hopefully the rest should happen by itself.  However, if this fails, still have your hand on his leg and then snuggle up to him.  He'll like this, it will make him feel "da man!".  Hopefully, he'll then work the rest out himself.  I hope this helps.  Good luck and have fun!