why is it when I  yell  at someone ,,it is like yelling at my self?
550801
Usually, when you yell at someone, it is for something that they did which irks you in some way. Funny, that you are just as guilty of the offense as those you are yelling at. Because of this, the memory of it triggers in your brain and you have a crossover effect. But as anyone else you have a "not me" response and therefore it lingers as a feeling in lieu of a realization. "What is good for the goose, should also be good for the gander!" Try to refrain from casting stones if you can not be better.......and that is not just in your mind but rather in reality.
1067841
yourself, because throwing things at someones house is very immature and shows that you are a chickenshit. \n all it does is say "I dont like you but i am too big of a wuss to deal with it like a normal, responsible adult and im afraid of facing you."\n\nGrow Up.
785347
They're trying to get on your nerves and annoy you. If someone does this, try rolling your eyes at them, it usually gets them back and makes them feel stupid and immature.
214024
well,if i knew more about what caused you to be angry with him/her i would better know how to answer your question.i would have a cooling off period ,before i told them off.of course no doctor is free of error,think about what you think he/she did wrong,that will be your case,then with out blowing up and yelling ,simply explain why you feel the way you do.
826610
I call this bullying, especially the bits about not giving you your work and shouting at you in front of other people.  Is there a personnel department or union you can see about this?  If not, I suggest you look for another job before you get symptoms of stress.
288002
Hmmm.... it happened to me..\n\nI am considered to be a cool headed person.. who does not get angry / agigated easily (me not bluffing :-D )..\n\nSometime back... I used to get agigated / irritated rather easily and in no time.. and it began happening often.. my friend.. pointed it out.. \n\nFirst time.. I said.. I denied.. and got hyper... etc etc...\n\nIt happened again.. and he pointed out... I denied again.. but this time did not defend myself.. I realised.. I was wrong..\n\nThat did not mean that it did not happen again.. but whenever it happened he was quick to jump on me.. And boy! do I love him for that... that has brought me back to (ab)normal ...
231465
Sounds like you need a hug. When do you feel the most rage? What sets if off? The fact that you are asking for help is a good sign. Please, seek professional help so you don't hurt anyone ESPECIALLY yourself. Seek out that hug for me.
557918
Hi..SPEAK MY " LANGUAGE" - I know you get upset with me when I knock over my water bowl, throw food, scream or pluck my feathers. I don't do these to annoy you—I am probably trying to tell you something ( perhaps that I am hurting, lonely , or sad.). Learn to speak MY (body) language. Remember that I , alone of all creatures on this planet, learn to speak yours;) ...And I am gonna talk to you!..\nKind regards! ..
101777
Probably for bad behavior.  It happens to me all the time.  Ouch!  Mom! Stop that!  Bye!
1088658
Sounds like unresolved anger, usually a response to situations we lived through and had no control over. Could be early childhood trauma, could be some gross injustice, could be that no one heard you when you needed to be heard, could be multiple combinations of the above - whatever it is, it won't go away until you begin searching for the reasons and understanding that you deserve to be happy with yourself and others. I have so been there, got better, but still have to examine from time to time. You are not alone, medication or no medication, find someone to talk to. God Bless you.
249296
You cause also "witness" to others with your behavior. Sometimes actions speak louder then words.
144269
sounds as if they are jealous of something about you, so they try to make you angry to compromise yourself in some way, you know.. to make you look bad in front others.
1128530
I have a very bad temper. I find this very annoying, because every time some one insults me, i embarrass myself. Eg. When I was away at a camp with my friends, we were sitting in the cafeteria eating lunch with around 230 others near us, when I got \nreally angry at one of my friends. I stood up, fists clenched and \nsaid "I am going to kill you" she returned "Id like to see you try" To my later annoyance, I then raised my voice and repeated " I am going to kill you", Until one of my other friends next to me calmed me down. This is a very personal subject and to show your gratitude, could you please vote for me, as I have trouble talking about my temper with others.
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ok everytime ure angry just  close ur eyes real yight sing a song in your mind or maybe count!!!\n\nor try this talk to a person u really love but is veryirritating u wont shout at the person u love and eventually u'llstop freakin out about little things\nor better yet just talk to yourself in your mind when you are angry try to know  why ure angry and just analyse urself
1158462
I think it is because we tend to dwell on the negative comments that are made about us by taking simple statements much too personally.  One of my favorite quotes sums it up best:  "He who angers you controls you".    Sometimes we get so consumed with being angry about an action or a statement made by someone else, that we constantly think about it, we ALLOW it to bother us, and we naturally react in a negative manner.
312806
If you are a kind, patient, and loving person you should never raise your voice to another person, regardless of whether the other person raises s/her voice first. It also doesn't matter who the other person is: your mother, your father, your wife, girlfriend, son, daughter, friend, stranger... People who raise their voice are usually very upset. You will be a stronger person if you can control your temper and your speaking level, and they will respect you more. If you never raise your voice to a person, the people around you might stop raising their voices too.\n\nps i don't think it's a good idea to tell people to calm down. people have to come to the conclusion that they are overreacting on their own.\n\nalso, if she yells at you all the time over very insignificant things then she could also be abusing you emotionally.
1146625
I agree. Its what you do with your anger that counts. But I think a certain amount of anger is healthy. As was said, everyone has anger, but keeping it bottled inside always trying to be "nice" all the time causes too much stress and after awhile you could blow up into some raging maniac. Do all angry people need help? No. Certainly not because its a valid emotion! But its pointless to call names because it gets you nowhere and makes you feel worse afterwards. It all simply depends on what you do with it. If you cant control it, get some help - but people who say "YOU NEED HELP" sound patronizing but most dont mean it that way..."calm" people, say something along the lines of "Find some other way to disperse your anger without directly affecting anyone else" and angry people, do just that. People need to learn to interact better with each other before we can learn to help each other with anger.