I need answers all good mothers.?
547344
If you feel you have raised him as best as you could, he can be trusted.
1015138
Just keep listening and being there for her.  You sound like a great daughter :)
433360
oh this is so sad, and for me, because I have the opposite problem, my mother really has little to do with me.  I can feel the pain in your words.\nI think the best you can do is keep the door open, never close it to her altogether.  Let her know you are there, don't ask for anything in return however much it hurts.  Send her a little gift on her birthday, or when you hear the baby is born, and however angry or hurt you might feel, try hard to keep a lid on it, just try to find joy in other things,  I don't know if you have other children, but if not, maybe do things together, reinforce your relationships with other people, that will help you know you are worthy of love even if not from your daughter right now.\nAnd who knows?  If she is pregnant then the birth of her baby might make her realise what being a mother is, and that sometimes we get it wrong, and maybe she will soften?\n\nI hope it works out for you, please don't give up
69830
Exuse me, but do you know that ANYONE can see the question that you just posted.  Even well behaved kids like me.  How disgusting!  You should be ashamed of yourself.  What would your mom say if she knew you were posting things like that.  You need to have a serious talk with God.  Im sorry that you thought it nessessary to post that question.  I will pray for you.
857976
Yes be a good child and help your MUM
465245
I'm not sure why she'd do this, but without judgement, she probably can't cope and has probably been feeling this way for a long time. People don't recognise that some women can have post natal for a very long time too, not just in infancy stage. Don't blame, if she does call it's good, and don't reprimand her either for leaving. She may be too confused to answer any question's, and if she wants to come back then allow her to talk. I'm sure there are other maritible problems as well. Maybe you two need to talk without the kids, in a neutral place about things and then go from there, if she's willing, and you haven't lost contact with her. Just remember she may feel she's doing this to so she won't hurt you and the children from her own negative behaviour.
439568
try asking if she needs anything for the baby or send a small card or present,that might get you talking.  I split up from my husband when i was pregnant, it was hard but my little boy knows no different and is bright and happy,  it was hard to let go of the fantsy of a perfect , happy family but what's that these days.  try not to worry, she will need help when the baby comes and will likely turn to you, chin up
546044
There is no reason to think that you are a bad mom just for getting pregnant. You just need to take special care of yourself and your babies(both of them!!) Talk to your doctor about what special considerations you might need to think about since it has not been a full year since you gave birth. \nGood luck. I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy. I'm sure that they will both be fine, just asking this question shows that you are a caring mother who will take care of them always. God bless you
623820
You have one mother. Men/women come and go and depending on the time in your life they maybe inappropriate anyway. Dont ever ditch you mother for one who may make you feel good for a few seconds. They might seem like the best thing since sliced bread but they are not worth it. If you are having conflict with your mother over a partner then there is possibly a very good reason - parents do not go through life "blindfolded", so give them some credit and remember who gave birth and/or raised you.
873141
i am very sorry to hear that.  But you have to be patient.  Keep your baby, and try to keep your marriage.  He needs to stand up to his mother but it may not happen because she is ill, sit tight and be patient.  Give him time to think
627137
You need help and you are trying to help her but if you don't find that inner strength to stop feeling quilty she is going to drown and take you with her. I don't know what is all at stake here or enough about the situation but you are going to have to find some strength to go to more than just Yahoo and asking for help. You may have to be really tough and be mother again. You may even may end up taking grandkids and leaving her to do what she has too.
1031648
it doesn't sound good. I say, see your doctor. There may have been some complication after the birth that is just now manifesting itself. Don't wait. You have a child who needs  you to be healthy.
719101
Of course there are other things besides this, but make sure you get enough sleep at night (divide up the chores if possible, or simplify your schedule so you have more time), take time for yourself to relax (because you are busy, I would recommend scheduling "Me Time" into your packed days), and walk to more places if possible. I'm sure with 2 little ones you certainly are active enough, but walking with good posture should make you feel good (compared to bending over kids and stooping over to pick up the house). Put simply, you shouldn't feel like you have to "keep going" - you are allowed to "stop." Don't let yourself get stretched too thin! As women we tend to want to be everything for everybody, so we forget about ourselves. Nurture your family, but nurture your own health, too! Good luck!
571861
My Mother died almost 16 years ago, I had a 3 month old baby at the time.\n\nI think of her daily, at the beginning I went through the stages of thinking I should have done more to help her, or maybe I should have made more cups of tea, I thought of big things and stupid little things.\n\nAnd remember that God couldn't do everything himself that is the reason he created Mothers, and from time to time he wants them back.\nIf you don't do this you would just give up.\n\nJust try to think about the good things you did for your Mom, and the fun times you had together, if you find yourself smiling don't admonish yourself, it is allowed even though you will think that you shouldn't ever smile again because your Mom's not here with you.\n\nDo not stand at her grave and weep she is not there, she is all the flowers in the garden and all the other good stuff around you.\n\nI am sorry your Mom died so quick without illness and wish you love and happiness for the rest of your life as I would imagine your Mom would be thinking. \n\nShe could be watching you every now and then to make sure you are alright, or if she fullfilled her life ambitions she may just stay in heaven looking up family and friends.
503579
it's good that your mother knows you well enough to know a change has occurred, most likely thru your own behaviour or reactions.  "Why is that good?" you may ask.  It's good because there are some mothers out there who don't give a damn one way or another about their children.  You may resent it now, but it does mean your mother cares enough to keep an eye on you.
1055119
i think ur mother is not fit to be called a mother!the difficult part of ur childhood u have managed on ur own and u don't need her help anymore. u are big enough to take care of ur self. u put down ur feet and protest and ask for fair treatment.if that doesn't help then u can go to the police.becoz u are too young to walk out of the house and more than that there are lot of people to exploit u at this age.so be careful sweetheart.things will become alright.god bless you.
66679
WOW, i know what you mean. I am sure you feel unloved, unwanted and scared to be like her. I am living proof that you don't have to be like her. I grew up with a horrible mother who abused me every single solid day, emotionally, mentally, physically I mean the works! I am now a loving, NEVER HIT MOM, and I do NOT scar my child in her ways. I am proof that you don't have to be like your mother. Ok? Email me if you want to talk sometime...i totally understand how you are feeling.....Missiowa2004@yahoo.com. Good luck and know you are not alone okay?