one of my teachers has a huge belly...is it possible to tell her in a nice way that she is fat? aka diet?
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It's a little hard for someone to not know that they are fat.  It is pointed out to them everytime they are shopping for clothes, looking in the mirror, or standing on a scale.\n\nI think you need to check yourself.  How a person looks is no reason to ridicule them.  If you hate her... fine, as long as you hate her for the right reasons.  Being overweight isn't one of them.\n\nYou need to put yourself into other people's shoes... gain some sense of empathy.  If you had a body feature that you were ashamed of (like the shape of your nose), would you want people commenting on it to you?  Would you want to be teased about it?
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No, and why such the concern would you want her weighing 70 lbs...I would be concerned if she was 340 and unhealthy..please don't be giving her a complex and I hope you have never suggested that she was.
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Why tell her that in the first place. If you know you can't just say the good part without leaving the bad one out, then don't say anything at all. I have seen girls do terrible things to themselves just because someone told them they were either ugly, or too fat, or too thin, or too busty, the best thing is to just leave that part out. Trust me
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yes. She teased me for bieng fat.\n\nIm now the size 12 and she's the size 20 (i don't have a problem with her size) but she'd be upset if i turned the tables wouldn't she?!
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Well! There was a "Marie Claire" article a few years ago about women in Jamaica eating chicken fat to make their butts huge.....I am sure that she has other fine attributes...you may want to mention them to her...
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Great question!\n\nThe key is to figure out what's motivating her to keep losing all the weight, but that's not easy because you don't know her very well.  Do you think she enjoys all the attention and compliments for getting thinner?\n\nIf she's attention-motivated then people should be saying nothing to her about how she looks.\n\nI would say nothing to her about it and just watch.  If she keeps it up (like for another month) you should ask her about it.  Don't say "you look too skinny," as she might like that kind of attention.\n\nInstead, ask her about how her weight loss is going for her.  See what she says and decide from there.  She might indicate that people are already telling her that she's too skinny.  In this case you really don't have to intervene because there are already people who are doing so.
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We like honesty, but you don't have to be so blunt about it. If she asks if she looks fat in a dress, just simply tell her that she's looked better in others.
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WHOA- that is a touchy subject for you. I personally have lost 143 lbs and fell great so I know how you feel about wanting to help others, I do it all the time. Sometimes they are thankful and sometimes they are resentful. Take it easy with her. Like you-nobody else can motivate her. SHE is the only person that can do that. One day she will see a picture, try on a pair of jeans or an old dress and make a decision that she is tired of it. In the meantime you stay on track and set the example for her both foodwise and exercise. She will eventually follow suit because on the inside the jealousy will eat her up. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!!!!! Keep up the good work!
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give your friend the support a good friend would tell her that it is important to stay healthy and not worry if shethinksshe is fat she sounds like she is just right or a little to thin she should be proud that she doesnt have much bigger issues such as health etc.
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hmmm, delicate situation! tell her you love her (just lie!), but you can no longer bear to be with her because she makes you nauseated. if she does not understand, then she is a screwed up bitch. \nscarface is good, but to ensure she really hits the curb, tell her she is getting fat.
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Don't be the first one to bring it up. At some point they will either try to lose weight themselves or complain about how fat they are. When they complain about it, that's your chance. But don't say "Yeah, you could stand to lose a few pounds." Say something along the lines of "Well, if you're not happy with the way you look, let's do something about it. We can start exercising together." Be VERY VERY VERY supportive when the time comes that he/she tries to lose weight. Keep him/her motivated and praise every pound lost. Remember, nothing, I repeat, NOTHING is more satisfying than hearing "hey, have you lost weight?"
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if you've already been honest and open with her and expressed your worries which perhaps she hasnt listened to, maybe suggest you can go on a diet together?..so your with her every step of the way. and let her know that if she's not happy you are there to help. make sure she doesnt go below her ideal weight- you could suggest she could set a target weight to meet and once she's there to relax on the dieting and treat herself more often. if she is worried about losing weight remind her it is unhealthy and will make her feel worse about herself if she has no energy from lack of nutrients etc. it is more important to maintain a healthy diet and to excercise to keep the weight off rather than starving yourself...this can lead to problems later on in life, such as concieving and growth.
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You can't, she has to want to gain weight and then ask for your help. However if she is getting too thin maybe you should speak to her about it, make sure she is okay as stress and anxiety can make you lose weight.
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My pastor used LA Weight Loss and it worked for her. She looks really good...but she said when ever she came in and hadn't lost weight, or gained, they were really rough on her. That may be good for some, but not for those that are sensitive.
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If she is gaining weight at all, then you do NOT need to give her anything to make her "get fat". Get a new doctor!
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Just be there for her.  Something's bothering her... it isn't just because she thinks she's fat.  but, in the mean time, try to get her to eat something...all the while reminding her that you are her friend and only want to help.
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yes\nu is needing fattening up sweetie!!