What do you think of a married woman going on a weekend trip alone with a guy friend/s?
542613
What does the husband think? If there is an understanding between the two of them, then I think its fine. Whatever her real agenda is going on a trip alone without her husband, if she does have something hidden behind her sleeves, then its she is taking an advantage of her husband's trust. And if thats the case, I feel pity for her and the husband as well.
376265
I think that you should pass on this friend.  I know you love her and that you will miss her, but she is headed in a different direction than you.  You have yourself and your future hubby to think of - don't let guilt feelings make you invite her when you think she might bring that guy and ruin your wedding day.  It sounds to me like you are better off without her.  You can enjoy the memories of the friend she used to be.
1094092
Its up to you.  How do you feel about this???  If she will go out with someone behind your back 1x, there may be others down the road.  Or have there been other times that you did not know about???  Does this person have morals???
1098168
Well, I'm 32 and I don't have a steady boyfriend. I like my freedom. But I do like my guy friend to spend some time with me. But I also love my quite time alone. So yes some people are meant to be alone.
576514
no its not okay. she is already taken and if she is unhappy or if she wants to be with you let her come to you on her own, it is not your place to break up a marriage. how would you feel if you were married and some guy was trying to steal your wife away? its a matter of respect. think about your pride and your character.
582012
It seems as if you have a very strong desire to remain faithful to your wife.  That is definitely a good starting point.  I would not, however, do as one person suggested and ask your wife to not bring this friend around anymore.  Doing that would only serve to justify (in your wife's mind) her fear that you may do something with her friend.  And, I would not have a sit-down conversation between the three of you either.  This route may make any already sticky situation far worse.  The fact of the matter is...this situation exists solely between you and your wife.  Having said that...here are a few suggestions.\n\nFirst, your wife seems to be at a point (emotionally) where she needs some very strong reassurances from you.  I believe this is where the two of you need to start.  Though you have not metioned how long the two of you have been together...I am assuming it has been quite some time.  The fact that you have children together only serves to lend credibility to this assumption.  I am going to go a step further and assume that because the two of you have been together for quite some time AND have children...the time that the two of you share intimately has decreased tremendously.  This is neither a bad thing...nor is it unusual.  Life has taken over and each of you spends more time tending to the responsibilities of life than you spend nurturing the bond that brought you to this point.\n\nIf the above assumptions are accurate...then I would suggest shifting gears a bit.  If your wife is, in fact, seeking some reassurances from you...I will tell you that the physical, mental, and emotional ones will go alot further than the verbal ones.  Yes, you have stated that she does not have to worry about what you may or may not do with her friend.  However, have you done anything physically, mentally, or emotionally that would serve to back-up your verbal statements?  If she is truly concerned about this issue...it may help if you let her see and feel your commitment to her in addition to hearing it from you.\n\nArrange for a night where the two of you are alone.  Bring her flowers, take her out for dinner (or actually make a dinner for the two of you), make her your sole focus for the evening, and let her know just how much you love and appreciate all that she is to you.  These are simple things to do.  Unfortunately, many people overlook the value in such simple things as the demands of life increase.  If you were to take the time to do the above stated things on a regular basis...I am sure you will find your wife's insecurity would diminish.  Good luck to both of you.
890393
=is she were going there to pick up a guy I would say no, she should go by herself and just bee careful.  She might even take a girlfriend with her.
548735
Well I never been "the other woman" but it would seem like it is lonely especially on the holidays when he's spending time with his family and you're wishing "your man" was with you.  I couldn't see myself being with a married man and than the woman is left holding her pillow tight at night because "her man" is at home snogged with his wife. lol
10560
Hello Myca. I couldn't help but pick out your question, for obvious reasons of course. Let me go straight into it. The quick answer is NO! (Not with a friend first!) YES! If you think the relationship can handle it with someone that ya'll can meet and get to know for that purpose. OK?? If you would like to know why then read the following.......\n First of all I commend you for stating that you don't desire a man in this, (I'll comment on that later). Second, you’re lucky to have a man that hasn't shoved the thought of this down your throat since you both met (even better since this incident). Anyway, "Is it a good idea..?" you ask. Well in this case it's one of those grey areas we all see every now and then. From experience and dealing in "The Lifestyle", as they say, I recommend that you and your husband start with an unknown. The reason for this is simply because should you both decide to go through with this if it turns awkward or it just wasn't good or it was!! See that way you hurt no one and you both get to figure if it's something ya'll would like to consider doing again. Now let me say this, please understand that men and women are totally built different mentally and emotionally. I'm not trying to drag this out or be your counselor but these are thing people should take into consideration before doing things that may destroy something that's perfect already. So make sure that you both have a very, very open discussion about the possibilities of (Jealousy, How you both feel before and after the act, Jealousy!, Can one of you stop if other is uncomfortable?, JEALOUSY!! and disease). I'll take it that you both are very wise and know your partner and your friend. So if you trust and KNOW them well enough to not warrant any foreseeable problems, then HEY! ENJOY!! But remember, the beginning is always Bliss, but look further down the road!!
176367
Why is she putting up with this behavior! Of corse its cheating. And what's this about him hooking up with other women when he gets back.This guy sounds like a selfish pig !And He's doing this while she's back here taking care of his three kids.Honey tell her to get out as soon as possible. He obviously has no respect for Her or their kids , not to mention their life together.Does your friend have self esteem issues ?If she does get her the help she needs. She and her kids deserve so much more DUMP THE LOOSER! Help her get her life back on track Not just for her sake but for her kids .Hope this helps.Tell Her to keep her head up!
1083662
Can be fun when your partner has to go on a business trip. I cant imagine doing that with a stranger or someone I dont know well.
891597
Agree with the people above.  Sounds an awful lot to me like a married (or seriously involved) man who is stringing you along for sex on the side.  I know it is painful, but you need to cancel this trip, get over him, and move on.  Time for a clean break.
878483
Spend a week on a deserted island with my husband...no cell phones...no pagers...no children (I love my kids), but we never have alone time and we absolutely adore each other. We have been married 10 years and we have never had a honeymoon. He is a railroader and gone alot, I think he is one of the most sexy men alive and I would love to spend that time with only him!
245304
No, it's certainly NOT okay. I think it is inappropriate for your wife to be spending a great deal of time with a male friend. If they have any reason to be discussing things quietly together (as you explained), they should do it in your presence or include you in the conversations. I think you should trust your gut instinct on this - you know it's wrong for her to be involved with this guy, but you probably hate to stir things up with your wife by complaining. Is there anyway you could learn to like him, accept him as a friend? If not, then you need to tell your wife how you feel. \n\nAs Princess Diana mentioned once...a marriage becomes a bit crowded with 3 people in it. It's meant for two. (who have become one...)
338946
I think that there is not a problem with her going as long as you are comfortable with it. I think that you have a right to be uncomfortable particularly if they were together for a long time. I think that she should try to include you in some way. I can understand that she feels that you don't trust her but you are her husband so you should be included if not the first time but at least sometime like a double date or something.
541257
Give her space. And why would you want to be with someone that would rather be with work buddies that she's with all day than her own husband? Maybe you shouldn't even try to win her back just yet.Give it time.Weather she was cheating or not,there is no reason to hang out with another man without your own man or if it were a friend or gay,know what I'm trying to say?Just take a break from woman all together,work on you and take time out for yourself.And try not to drive urself crazy, I'm sure you're hurting, but time heals.Maybe she'll wake up one day and realize she lost out on a great man!
57013
A vacation?  :)\n\nYou don't mention the ages of the kids, but if they're younger and could be watched by a grandparent, aunt/uncle for a couple of days, many hotels have "weekend getaway" deals.  With 4 children, I don't imagine that the two of you get much time alone, and a couple of days together, away from the kids, can be good for your relationship.\n\nJust a thought..