I cant help  being mean to my friend?
552699
Just treat her as you would like to be treated you know the "golden rule"
850481
it looks as if she is very insecure, jealous of you, your clothes, etc. or just plain mean.  figures you will put up with her behavior, attitude, comments.  You don't need a friend like that.  If you have already tried talking to her, she doesn't listen, you've done your part.  Good luck.
104398
You are who you are. Accept it. All you can do is ask your friend to do the same. You do NOT change urself for others unless you FEEL that something is wrong with you. As long as you are happy being who you are, it is good enough. So your friend teases you, tell her to accept you as you are. If she STILL teases you, make light of it and join the fun. Its not bad if you laugh at yourself. But make sure your friends know the limits, that is all. And I think you can trust this, because this comes from a guy who gets teased EVERYDAY for one thing or the other and NEVER have I tried to change myself unless I felt some part of me was bad.
1026713
if he's your friend he wont hate you for being honest. just talk to him and let him know you don't have the same feelings and it's not fair for him to love someone that don't love him back.
528721
don't be rude, but try not to be overly friendly with him.. if he keeps insisiting on doing "friend things" then tell him how you really feel, because you don't want him to lead him on, or have him get the impression that you want to be friends with him..
755538
try and be subtle and not hurt her feelings when you talk to her about it, the last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship with her.\nif she is a true friend she might listen to you, but i really do feel that all you can do is tell her gently how you feel, and if she choses to do nothing about it, then all you can do is sit back and wait until she comes to you for help.\n\ngood luck with it
731358
Someone who had been my friend for 20 years said "You're a basically unlikeable person."  That was crrrrrruel, and it took me about a year to realize that 1) no-one in the world is unlikeable, why would I be so special 2) my other friends like me and 3) he's kinda an a-hole and just said it to be mean.
642500
You should give her the opportunity to know how you feel and what is going to happen if she doesn't change the way she is behaving.  She is probably in actuality a very insecure girl that feels that she needs to put others down.  Tell her that a friend doesn't act that way, and that just as you would for her, you are defending your friends and their feelings...that is what friends do.
27670
they arent your friends if they dont care about you enough to not make you feel bad. Dont stoop to their level and do it back, instead immediatly stop talking to them and keep your head high, once they see it doesnt bother you they will stop doing it. Who needs enemies with friends like that. Get some new friends that arent little brats.
276025
I never was an empathic guy, but here´s what I´d do. You were friends for 6 years. It is a long time to know each other. Talk with her, ask her what is wrong and observe her attitude. If she stays mean to you, just give her a kick. Just say that you have finished with each other and that you are sorry for her. But never raise your voice...
463138
Your friend is very insecure- if she can make you look bad she feels superior.\n\nYou need to find another best friend because if she were truly your friend she would not do the things she does to you.\n\nWith friends like her you certainly do not need any enemies
435350
Someone that talks bad about you to others is not a friend! forget him and find true friends. Good luck!
641187
she has a bad issue and getting friends i bet? sweetie you just have to slowly slack from her, so she can get the hint, and also tell first and see how she acts by telling her how you feel about the friendship you both have. tell her that to listen to u for a moment and let her know. u seem sweet to let a friend hurt you. be sweet and don't stoop to her level.be straight foward. if he doesn't work and she bitch at you. then she is not a true friend. you can find better.
1156560
im having problems like that except vise-versa (srry can't spell 2day). take it from me, its not all that ez, it mite take them a wile 2 forgive u, but if they're true friends, they will come to their senses and realize that you appreciate both of them the same (unless you don't, and if you don't i can't help you there).
202139
Wow, that's a tricky one!  I'd say confront her about it.  If it makes you upset, you need to let her know.  It's not like you need a "right" to be upset... if you're upset, then you're upset, so be real with yourself and with your friend.  If she's a true friend, she'll understand and back off.  And if she acts the fool and tells u you have no right to be upset, she's prolly not the kind of friend you want.  There are no laws or rules governing this sort of thing... you just need to keep people in your life that respect you the way you want to be respected.  The last thing you wanna do is seal your lips, because she needs to know it's not cool with you before it goes any further, and give her a chance to decide how much your friendship means to her before it's too late.
292708
you should be cool about it, dont trip you wil get in more peoples nerves if you tell your friend she cant talk to her no more and well your friend will probably wont listen to you and stop beying your friend, just 4 that and if you can tell me y you hate her so much, at ritz4feet@yahoo.com ill be waiting and i can tell you more too.
870219
Talk to her about it. If she is going to do everything in her power to hurt you, you don't need her. Tell her she needs to act like a friend for you to be a friend. She is just using you to her advantage to get what she wants.. My best friend did that for awhile but i told her that if she kept using me like that......she will have to find a new bff. She straightened up fast cuz she realized that she'd lose me for good.