What argument do i have to STOP what has been 3 yrs of maintenance pymts to my former spouse?
547212
First of all i am a woman.  Equal rights goes both ways.  I understand that being your wife was her "JOB" but come on, seriously what other job stills pays you three years later?!
768936
Unfortunately, if it wasn't written in the divorce decree, I don't think you'll be able to get anything from it. Remember, he is your ex, which means you have no ties to his pension. I know about this because of my divorce. Everything, including my pension, that was of value was put into my divorce documents. It also stated that from this point forward, everything was separate. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
916306
The court really wants to have the whole history of the marriage set out in bite size pieces so that it can be easily assimilated and dealt with point by point.  Your friend seems quite able to tackle this, having given you the various points already which you have in turn been able to set down in writing.  The issues between him and the other party are \n(1)that he denies her claim to sole ownership of the house;\n(2)he wishes to recover the money represented by his wages which was paid into her bank account over the years and which has disappeared without trace;\n(3)he wishes to put her to proof as to the assets which she is holding on resulting trust for him which are represented by the assets paid into her account in this way;\n(4)he wishes to preserve his beneficial rights under her pension plans.  (She presumably named him as her beneficiary).\n\nFor the chronology, start with the date and place of the marriage, then move on to the purchase of the house, the time when it was agreed that his wages would be paid into her bank account and then just work systematically through to the time she left and embezzled (or squirrelled away) the joint savings.  A few little explanatory details (e.g. his blood pressure) would help.\n\nHe shouldn’t be doing this on his own.  Mistakes at this stage could be very costly.
167975
You should let Child Support Services take care of that for you. They can obtain the information legally, and you can't be held liable for anything that your ex might want to use against you. If your caseworker doesn't seem to want to help, go above her head to her boss! Trust me..ex's can be cruel! Just cover your arse! Good luck!
1151550
17 years is back far enough to b considered "common law marriage" get a good lawyer, and "show" that ur more responsible!   good luck
309228
Well, couple of things, is this a figment of your immagination or you have proof?\n\nIf immagination, then try gathering proof, your case could be one of those jelousy.\n\nIf you have proof, well, you can either confront her, which could possibly lead to arguements, violence or divorce, are you prepare for such consequence.\n\nIf you don't want to confront her, then all you can do it say nothing about it, pretend you never knew about it, hope she can realize that she need to come back to you, kinda like having a back door for return.\n\nA study shows that the 7 years itch are usually initiated bu woman than man. So it could a mid life crisis.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
743437
is this just a temporary thing???\nyou have a responsibility - you ex - partner still needs to make ends meet??   More details please x
210293
It's time to move on.  Usually the glow doesn't wear off for 6 months.  If you can't make it that long without heated arguments, there is no hope for it getting better.
1060203
THE STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS ON CIVIL CASES IS THREE YEARS.  REMEMBER AS IN ALL CASES IN THE U.S. COURT SYSTEM.  THE BURDEN OF PROOF LIES WITH THE ACCUSER.  YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO PROVE BEYOND A SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT THE EX AND HIS WIFE WERE RESPOSIBLE FOR YOUR TEMINATION FROM YOUR JOB.  NOT REALLY LIKELY THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO PROVE THAT.  THE BOSS PROBABLY WON'T WANT TO TESTIFY THAT THIS WAS THE REASON.
78672
Call the state child support department. I live in Oregon. I had to file one claim for current child support and then file another claim for the years that have already passed.
230770
You should both get over it or move on.\n\nThe past is gone, to argue about it is a waste of time and energy.
410530
She clearly wants no part of her daughters life if she hasn't been around in 3 years. Leaving it open for her to just start up visiting whenever she wants, could be confusing and harmful to your daughter. \n\nYes, if it were me, I would stop visitation, and may even consider terminating her rights, but only if you thought your daughter was in danger. Other than that, stopping visitation now, will not end it permanetly, and if she came around and was being good to your daughter later, then you could re-instate it later.\n\nYour daughter might want to know about her mother someday, and that will be a delicate issue. Hopefully by the time she does, her mother will have come around. See a lawyer, and they can help you handle the legality of it.\n\nMy eldest daughters father walked out on us when she was only 1 year old. She is almost 10, and he hasn't seen her since he left. Just the last few years, he settled down, remarried, and had another child. Now, he has really stepped up, taking advantage of getting to know her. Maybe your ex will come around someday, so give her that chance, but do what you can to protect your daughter too.
270981
Go to court.  If your wife is healthy and able to work you have a good chance of getting the amount you pay significantly lowered.  These are different times.  As a matter of fact my ex and I have joint custody but I pay him.  Because I am capable to work.  Even when I wasn't currently employed.
1165308
Talk to that attorney of yours and have him get you out of the marraige but MORE IMPORTANTLY make sure you have him draw up papers regarding your children!
641562
Go to court.  Or counter-offer if that is out of the question.  Like ask for a long term lease with a set rent increase each year.  If the house is his before the marriage, you don't have any claims on it so stay there as long as you need to.  If you don't want the store, get alimony.  Go over all of this with your lawyer to get your options quantified.
170677
Trouble alert ... trouble alert...\n\nIf he is being controlled by her, you will not be happy. If there are no children in the picture, simply confront your partner - his ex-wife has no say in how he runs his life (again, in absence of children, and even then, only in how it affects the children). Let him know that this is unacceptable and that you want it to stop.\n\nNot bringing up the subject is going to cause trouble. His ex-wife will constantly push until she meets resistance - make sure that the resistance is there at a level that **you and your partner** are comfortable with.\n\nAnother problem - is your partner allowing this to happen? I don't know your situation, but is he entirely over her? Him allowing his ex-wife to control him is odd.