How can I get my wife to do a lesbian act with her best friend, with me poking here and there??
551478
why would u want to poke here and there in the first place?
472349
Take is slowly. Define yourself first. What type of crossdresser are you? Casual, all the time? Do you dress as a fetish, or is it deeper for you? Have you talked with anyone else about your crossdressing? \nWhat are you hoping to accomplish by telling her? If you are looking for support, what are her views of other crossdressers? In today's say and age, you see crossdressing on all sorts of TV programs and other media, I am sure she has seen it as well. What is her general reaction towards it. Who's clothing do you wear? If it is your own stuff, how well hidden is it? You might be suprised, she might actually already know and be waiting for you to trust her to tell her.\nTake it slow, because if she is not ok with it, she might have a lot to process. I would make sure to inform her that you are not GAY, and by wearing clothing like that, it does not make you in any way GAY.\nIf you trust her, and she trusts you, and you want to tell her after you have found out who you are, then go ahead.\n\nI am not sure how well this would work, but you might make a game out of it, or a bet. Maybe do something that she comes up with you dressing up, like set a bet where the looser has to dress as a maid or something, and be all macho about it so when you loose, it looks painful that you have to dress as a maid. Heard that one somewhere, not sure the results. Would give you a deep insight into your wife's view on crossdressing from her reactions though...
1035152
You shouldn't try to get her to participate in something she's not comfortable in it might mess the whole thing up. Talk to her and see what she's into.
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I know you asked for lesbians .. I'm not quite a lesbian but I do enjoy being with a women sexually ( I guess most would say BI .. but whatever you want to call it is fine with me )\nI would be very cautious with this woman .. she seems like she really digs you .. but she's also going through a major change in her life .. most people can only handle one at a time .. divorced & experimenting with her feelings at the same time - that sounds scary to me !\n\nMaybe become friends .. go out a few times .. see what her expectations of the relationship will be ..  get closer and really get to know her.  You might find out she truly is falling in love with a woman and not just using you .. there's only one way to find out !
948047
Show her that you have feelings for her. Make the other chick get the stepping.
252050
I found my wife in a chatroom at gay.com but I certainly do not recommend that method for everybody.  \n\nI recommend going places you like to go and doing things you like to do, just as I would for anybody lesbian or not.  These places are where you'll meet people who have things in common with you, which is what anybody is looking for.  Making lots of friends, being socially active and making yourself available all help.  Be honest, be real, but most of all have fun and enjoy yourself.  \n\nFR
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Be her best friend as well as her husband. Make it easy for her to talk to you...Pay attention to what she says, & have feedback to it. Show that she has your attention, & your concern. Be considerate to her feelings. Give her compliments & reassure her of your love. A single rose just to say "I love you", giving her lots of affection, & hold her after you make love to her.....\n\nThats just to name a few...\n\ngood luck :)
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Ahhh, I`m the same way. You are blessed. Make her your friend. We have been married 35 years and we are best friends. I am so glad for you.. Good luck and God Bless,... {:-)\n\n<><\nHave fun. Life is short.. Be honest with each other and show each other the same respect for each other that you would anyone else..
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Sounds like your wife si coming around to make sure you are still going to be her back up. Just incase the one guy doesn't go so well she'll have you around. She can't let her little doggy get to far away on his leash. She has to snap you back. Since you have been talking to this other woman now, she has to make sure she reels you in. If you are the honest no gaming guy then she knows you'll tell this other girl. If you don't and reject her, well she gets the pleasure to break it to the woman. I would suggest you tell the other woman and send the wife back to the alley. Stay clear away from her ro you'll end up on a choker chain like a good little dog.
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It looks to me that your wife is playing with you.The way she acts towards you doesn't show that she loves you..ore respects you for that matter!I'd talk to her,tell her what you think and feel..that you need to her to change her ways,because this isn't working out for you.If she refuses,ask yourself if this is how you want to go on....clearly this is making you very unhappy,you shouldn't accept this!
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i've been reading your other posts, and you seem to be really hung up on your wife's sexuality.  You DO realize she's more than whats between her legs right?!  she's a WHOLE PERSON and her sexual exploits of the past are past.\n\nthe first thing you need to do to control these insecurities is the realize that it is YOU that has the problem, not her, so don't you dare take it out on her.  \n\nfrom the number of posts i've seen from you on this topic, i think you need more help than we mere yahoo answerers can offer.  get help, on your own...don't drag her into this.
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well you can try to mix it up alittle. try role playing or throwing some toys into the mix that usually makes it interesting. if you are seeing her lose intrest as well you could change your outlook on see how many times you could get her off or even tease her till she gets crazy. diffrent things you can do go to some websites and look up fun weekends or games to play will add alittle spark here and there to peak your intrest and im sure your wife will greatly appreciate it as well.
20887
Ask her if she would feel more comfortable having a 3rd GUY there, instead of your fantasy of having another woman.  She just might say yes!
755681
i find it best not to get involved in other people's affairs.\nthe fact is they already want to be together, so just let it be.\nif joe becomes a topic, just ask her "hey when are you gonna let him put it in you?" i know it sounds a bit vulgar, but she will giggle and not mind. i remember my brother was in the same boat, and i just said "jesus christ john! just let her touch your penis! god! take forever" "you know she'll like it" and you know what? that friday he nailed her. just let it be.
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Firstly, why did you get married and you're bi? i mean you're not sure of sex you like more, i find that's its wrong more wrong than being homosexual just because its unfair to your wife and to "your best friend" choose one or none. Does your wife know you're bi-sexual? You need to be honest with yourself-as to what u like,if you don't know or can't choose then you need to be honest with your wife now before its too late... I've seen thing like this destroy families and i affects the children. Make your decision before it's too late.
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Convince your wife to watch it with you together.
344397
Ok, in my opinion the answers that you have gotten thus far are really cliché! This is coming from someone who has been there, done that, and my fiancé and I are still happily engaged.\n First, let me say that threesomes ARE risky. NEVER try to use a threesome to fix anything wrong in a relationship. If there you are already having issue, it will just amplify it!\n However, it does not sound like that is the case in your relationship. It sounds, from what little you wrote, that you have a healthy relationship and this other woman is putting these thoughts into your head. \n Here is what I would advise. First, find out if your wife is interested. Bring it up when you have not seen your friend in a day or two, and do NOT mention the friend. The reason is that if you do mention the other woman, and your wife does not want to do it, she will never trust you or her friend again, regardless of your intentions. \n Now, if she is interested, the next thing that you need to say to her is that it is an interesting idea, kind of a turn on, but you don't think you could actually go through with it. This may not be 100% the truth, but the fact is if you seem eager then she is going to react very negatively. Let her lead the way. If she is interested, once you have broached the subject, it will come up again. Try to avoid suggesting the friend, let your wife do so. Basically, you want this to all be her idea. The reason is that when it is done she is more likely then you to have issues with it, and if she feels that it was her idea then she probably won't. If she feels that you in any way pushed her into it, however, and there are any regrets, they will lead to resentment, gutanteed!\n Next, if you do decide to do this, set boundaries. Talk about what you are both comfortable with. If you cannot talk about this in detail without arguing, then don't do the deed!!\n In the heat of the moment, make sure you stick to the boundaries. You can always discuss them afterwards, and relax them in any future encounters.\n Finally, try to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for your wife. If you and the other woman both concentrate primarily on your wife's pleasure, she is much more likely to enjoy the experience, and you are much more likely to have a repeat.\n Good luck!!