what to do about my marriage?
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You're allowing him to take advantage of your marriage by enabling him to continue his selfishness. I could suggest a lot of things but the question will be are they realistic in your situation.\n\nOne suggestion would be to take up your own hobbies and interests with your children. Go out, go away like he does and enjoy yourself with them. Don't worry as much about cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping except for yourself and your children. Give him a taste of his own medicine so to speak. Of course, if he's controlling all the money then this might make it difficult but you could always get a part time job and keep your money for you and the kids.\n\nAnother suggestion is that if all the above is just not possible and he absolutely refuses to change then take the kids and leave, file for legal separation and child support. Make him aware that divorce isn't what you want but if your marriage is going to continue on only his terms then that's not the kind of marriage you want to continue. Sometimes a dose of reality can make a big difference in peoples attitudes and perception of a problem.\n\nBest Wishes !
185517
Work it out now before you get married; things are only magnified after the marriage.  If you can't talk about things now, marriage will only make it worse, not better.  I would go to a counselor.  If he's not open or willing, is he really who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
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I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
337196
ask for joint custody. thats the only thing i can say or else go to counsleing to work on the marriage. do not i repeat do not stay together for the kids. it will only hurt the kids in the long run.
220052
sorry to hear you let it get that far, i'm sure you are too. normally, i would say talk to your mate. but in this instance i would have to say you need to figure out in your head and heart what you really want and get you priorities worked out. your children are the ones who would really suffer for your indiscretions. i'm sure that is not what you want. but if your husband finds out, i don't think he'll be very understanding or forgiving. i wouldn't. but if you wan to save your marriage, then i would focus entirely on my husband and my marriage and making him happy. kiss butt, in other words. secretly, of course. one day, if you feel your marriage is strong enough, then you can tell him. the only thing that is going to help is your conscience. honestly, you may learn a bigger lesson by having to carry this secret and not burden your husband with what you did. sorry.
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NO, I say you should try to work things out. Marriage is a special bond between two people. Remember why you married this particular man, this special man, and remind him why he choose you to be his wife. Also both sides probably has truth to it your more than likely yell to much and he probably doesn't pay attention to his beautiful wife. If communication is what your after you may have to find a common ground on which to talk to him about. Remember marriage is a long winding road not a straight clear paved street. YOU may have to compromise to get what you want in the END.
685195
Get counseling to see if your marriage can--or should--be saved.  Pleasing "everyone else" is irrelevant.
997012
talk to a counsellor.\nthis is very unhealthy for both of you.\nshe 's never cheated you and why this bothers you...\ninsecurity...\ndon't let this garbage be back in your house..or you would keep on cleaning it..talk to her and share your feelings..\nbeing in marriage is being one..if one hurts, the other is hurt too... ask for forgiveness and give time with each other.
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Marriage can be hard sometimes and yes sometimes you really have to work at it. You have to give in to things or stand your ground. You have to pick and chose your fights, try to do the right thing. I would say think about your relationship are you two just going trough a tough time? Or is the love really gone. Only you can make that decision. Not the people on yahoo answers, we can only offer advice and mine is to really think about what you want! Think about your marriage vows as well, try to talk with your partner as well, honesty is the best policy!
813755
Just remember that you always have control over your own situation.  If you are in a bad marriage don't be afraid to leave.  Get out of that comfort zone and don't let fear of the unknown stop you.
767131
Bend over and take it up the A$$ just like you made her. After your butt has been split wide open like hers was, go to a marriage counselor and see if there's any thing left in your marriage.
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Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
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Go on the trip...figure out what u want.....DO NOT GET MARRIED IF you are in any kinda doubt......DIVORCE IS HORRIBLE......\nWhen there is no question in your mind or heart.....Then you are ready.....\nPeace....
1070570
Be miserable, like I am. It wouldn't be so bad if the man I married loved and respected me. I guess that doesn't help you, but these things happen. Do what you need to do to make things right, if you can.
639605
make up your mind about your marriage first. then do what you have to do,
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You didn't say why you've asked ... \nSo, I'm assuming that you are wondering if you should stay in your marriage ...\nI think you'll probably find the help you need to weigh the pros & cons, in the following articles.  They've helped Lots of  folks (including myself), so I am confident in suggesting them to you:\n\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/1/8/article_01.htm\nCan We Save Our Marriage?;\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1999/7/15a/article_01.htm\nWholesome Communication - A Key to a Good Marriage;\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm\nEmpathy--Key To Kindness and Compassion; \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/6/1/article_01.htm\nWhen Marital Disagreements Arise;\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2003/9/15/article_01.htm\nThe Bible Can Help You to Strengthen Your Marriage;\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm\nWhen a Mate is Unfaithful :\n...Infidelity - Its Tragic Consequences \n...Is Reconciliation Possible? \n...The Option of Divorce \n...Why Some Stay Together \n...Who Is Responsible? \n...Children Do Not Deserve Divorce \n...Does God Hate All Divorce? ;\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/5/8a/article_01.htm\nWhy View Marriage as Sacred? \n\nOf course you know that Every situation is different.\nNo one can decide for you, either way.  that's a very hard choice to have to make.  But I can say that everyone I know that have considered the Bible-based articles (above) & appleied what they learned, have been satisfied that they did their best ... whatever the outcome has been for them.  Even when they received no cooperation or support from their mate.\nhttps://watch002.securesites.net/contact/submit.htm\nTo Request More Information or a Free Home Bible Study.\nhttp://www.ebible.org/bible/ASV/index.htm\nThe American Standard Version of the Holy Bible
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Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.