how do i meet someone without pauseing all the time? any suggestions what i can do to stop this?
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Before you say something to a guy is to pause and think about what you want to say and then say it.  If you pause while you talking to the guy it might be because you are thinking faster than what you are saying and that can happen. You are what you are and if pausing is what you do when you talk, than thats ok because eventually you will get out what you want to say.  Maybe it might help if you listen more instead of talking because that way you wont have to be afraid of pausing...
647968
Well, you cannot take away the nervousness.  That's natural.  However, you should meet him in public.  Don't let him pick you up.  Pick a place where there will be lots of people, and make sure to talk to him about how you will recognize one another (pictures can be a little deceiving).  My favorite place to meet is the coffee shop at Barnes & Noble.  There are usually a lot of people around, but you can sit alone to chat privately.  Also, have a friend call you 20 minutes after you are supposed to meet him.  If he's a creep, that gives you a way out.  Just tell him your friend has an urgent situation and that you must go help her.  If it's all going well, then tell your friend you'll call her later and just have fun!  Make sure you meet him publicly two or three times before you do anything private.  If he's not willing to chat with you in public, then he's probably just interested in sex.
7468
wait.... If you feel you have to meet do it in a public place with friends around. but the best advice would be to take it really slow.. You never know who is on the other side of the screen. Things aren't always as they seem..
751246
How old are you ?? But you will find someone soon , you just have to stop looking !!
427139
go talk to them instead of waiting for them to approach you.. maybe you seem un-approachable
643741
It sometimes gets discouraging doesn't it?I completely understand what you are saying.\nFor me it has taken realizing that the right person for me is not in my town and most likely not in my state.Opening up to the possibility of the right person being in another state widened the potential matches.\nI guess that is not for everyone,but I did not want to miss out on the right person just because I was stuck on thinking they are near by.\nI wish I had the answers but I don't all I know is sometimes we do need a break to just "be" as the search can be exhausting on soo many levels.\nI know many people will tell you to stop looking and the right person will find you,but what if everyone just sits back and stops looking??LOL I am not sure how that would work then lol\nBottomline you have to do what feels right for you :)
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possibly.  Just do this...dont message him everytime you see him online.  Let him message you first sometimes, Im sure you are a busy person too.  He could just be busy (like what he told you).
738919
Definitely. You already know that you are able to talk to him and that's a big hurdle to have crossed in itself. I know that you would like to meet him. Please don't be afraid that you'll disappoint him because I know you won't. Did you know that he has fears too. Please don't let your fears hold you back from meeting new people. It's normal to be self-conscious about meeting someone new, but think about him, instead, and try to make him feel comfortable about meeting you. That's really what it's all about anyway. Being comfortable around someone is what will bring you together. If you were just beautiful and not comfortable to be with, your beauty isn't going to hold his interest very long. Having good self-esteem is very attractive to other people, since so many of our problems revolve around low self-esteem. Think positive thoughts about yourself and you will radiate. Reach out and shake his hand when you do meet him and make him feel  as though you've known each other a long time, remember he is the one that you've been talking to via emails. Say to yourself over and over what a wonderful person you are and what a good friend you are. Tell yourself that people love to be with you because you're such a caring individual. How could he not like you? Good luck. Let us know how it turns out.
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Hi, I know this may not be the best way to meet someone, but ive tried it and I got lucky.  You might want to try the online dating sites.  Here are a few I can suggest:  mate1.com and true.com.  good luck...and hang in there !!
391990
Find something else to do with your time so you arent thinking about him all the time. Hopefully when you are engaged in other activities you will also meet someone who does like you
598854
I would just leave it be.  You will always have experiences that will tickle your fancy, but since you met this dude online and he does not even remember you, I would just let it pass.  Plenty of real people to meet out there in reality land.
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Look at it this way. It's not that unusual to talk to someone over the phone a lot, and then when you finally meet them face-to-face something just "hits you wrong" about them. \n\nBut people who have spend a lot of time together in person will rarely drop each other over a phone conversation. The get together to speak face-to-face to resolve the difficulty.\n\nSo I'd say you should do a little "screening" via phone calls or chat or e mail, but more than a little of that wouldn't be a good investment of your time. \n\nIf this a personals ad situation, beware. There are people out there who don't want to get personal at all, ever. They just want endless phone calls and e mail.
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Start with yahoo's dating site.  I met my husband this way, which I know it wounds weird, but if you play your cards right and treat the person like any other stranger you would have met in person, you can really find someone who you can like.\nJust use the appropriate caution.  Meet in public and don't trust them enough to be alone with them until at least the 3rd date.  With lots of talking in between.  \nGood Luck
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Do self pep talks at home. Use a mirror. Say hi to people.\nSmile. break the ice by asking questions like do you have the time?or comment on something that you like about them-clothing,hair,eyes,etc... Make it a goal to greet/meet someone different everyday. You can do it!!!
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One thing that helps is to find out everyone's name. You can't memorize them (at least I can't) when you meet them all. But there is usally something like an e-mail directory you can use to help.\n\nJust a little thing, but I find it helps so that after a week I am not still saying, "hey you."
757070
Stay busy - with friends, maybe meet someone new?  Good luck.
407332
Just be yourself, a guy that's really worth it in the long run will take the time to get to know and love the real you.  I understand that it can be a hard thing to meet people when you have an anxiety disorder. A few suggestions, Please realize that you must be out there and available in order to meet someone, go to church events,sports or social gatherings or whatever you are interested in. Second, if the anxiety is severe and limiting your social interaction consider seeing a doctor that can prescribe medication or support to help you relax and over come your fear.  In any case I wish you the best of luck. Don't despair and remember there is a special someone out ther just for you, give it time you'll find them one day.