My husband has changed. He's been super mean to me lately when he never used to. Makes fun of me. Why?
536548
Sounds like he is going through chages and it is possible he is cheating on you! How long have you been married? Because some guys are one way and then after they get married they show their true colors! (And yes women are the same way!) I have more or less went through the same ting resently!
593556
my husband has a short temper. he will say harsh and very rude things to me. the only way that i can let it go is if he apologizes. make him aware that he says these things and you will see a difference. he will start to become aware of what is flying out of his mouth, or he will realize how much pain he is causing and apologize. let that be the end of that, address it again only if you have to.
1150823
Your situation appears to be one of your husband using very poor judgment.Other than what you've already done to remedy the drama he has begun is to start being mindful of every aspect of your relationship.Then after a reasonable period of time ask your self if you want to continue in your marriage.I apologize in advance if my advice is blunt,but LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE DUMB stuff.either he makes some serious changes,and seeks help and your forgiveness or.........only you can fill in the blanks.Take care an GOD bless you both.(ps I don't knw if you can find out about other accts,but i hope some 1 can help}
75907
Since you didn't post this in the marriage section I will assume you aren't married and no children are involved. \n\nFirst, ask yourself if the changes you have asked him to make are reasonable.  If whatever he is doing is really not acceptable to you and you know you can't live with it, get out.  It may be hard at first but is better than continuing a relationship with someone you know you really can't stand.  On the other hand, make sure that you aren't expecting him to be perfect.  People just aren't, and if it's trivial things that are aggravating but not incredibly so...just deal with it.  \n\nIf you told him you'd leave and you continue putting up with him- you have not followed through and he'll never believe you.  Be sure you are really ready to leave and be without him, because (gut feeling) I think you're hoping you'll leave and he will be crawling back- changed for good!  That isn't going to happen.\n\n*********************************************\nAnyone trying to control where you go & who you see is not what you want to get mixed up in! Now I have a clearer picture of what you are trying to change, and it isn't socks left on the floor.  Stay with mom.
451003
Firstly how long have you been married?\nSecondly has he acted like this before?\nIs your husband in a a lot of stress from work? Maybe he is venting on you - which is not fair on you! Does he have a problem with your friend that is coming? \nI cant seem to see any reason for this behaviour? Try dropping it for this weekend and do something else with your friend when they come. Maybe try to talk about it some other time - after a bit of time has passed - when he has calmed and you have gathered your thoughts as well. Point to note: he doesn't get violent on you does he?? Because that should not be tolerated AT ALL. Remember you are not a punch, physical or emotional. If this behaviour continues - he has no right to vent all his anger on you. That is not fair on you. \n\nIt is good that you want to work it out with your husband and I really hope that you do. Best of luck.
970640
well that hasn't happened to me... but my advice to you is to be happy with yourself... and honestly it sounds like you husband is a little insensitive. He should be your best friend... if anything he should be the only person you are NEVER embarrassed to do anythign arround. A husband and wife is a team... they should be the other half to yourself, and you should always be comfortable with yourself (and the other half of yourself.)  If you feel you fat, then maybe you should look into losing wieght... try eating small meals more freguently throughout the day and exercise. \n\nMost importantly you should talk to your husband... become best friends.... \n\ngood luck sweetheart... and remember short, tall, skinny, fat, blonde, burnette, redhead, whatever you are BEAUTIFUL for who you are.
549888
Most cases it usually has something to do with repressed anger. Is something in your life making you angry or is there something that you have not been able to get over? Most times, the people we take our anger out on are the ones we feel safest doing so with or to. IF you get nasty, and don't know why, tell him so. Maybe he can help you figure out what is bothering you. Be open and honest and sincerely apologetic for being nasty with him, or you may just run him off!!!!
1015983
Honey, it's absolutely NOT you!!!  You are YOU, not just his wife.  You are an adult and should be able to be friends with others, hobbies other than what he likes, etc.  You DON'T have to do everything together.  You are you're own person.  The fact that he doesn't trust you with  male co-workers is a classic sign that HE should NOT be trusted because his way of thinking is "Well, if I'm capable of doing it, she must be doing it too".  \n\nYou should not have to walk on eggshells in your own house.  My husband and I were having some problems and he made me feel like everything I did was wrong.  He got irritated by every move I made and everything I said and did and we were miserable.  I was so confused because it was my first (and hopefully only) marriage and I was extremely disappointed in marriage and him.  \n\nOne day I had an epiphany.  I was letting myself be changed by him.  I no longer stood up for what I thought and what I did or did not like.  I was no longer ME.  I hate to be crude, but one day I thought to myself "What the f*ck is wrong with me?  He married me.  All my thoughts, flaws, mistakes, passions, talents, everything.....and I've been hiding myself.  Well, screw that!!!" \n\nHe came home from work and I told him.  I WILL BE MYSELF AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN LEAVE BECAUSE I CAN DO THIS WITHOUT YOU AND BE HAPPIER.  IT'S YOUR CHOICE.\n\nTo tell the truth, our marriage has never been better and I'm crazy about him.  If he gets slightly irritated at something I do, too bad.  Everyone isn't perfect and he certainly isn't.  Suck it up, Man!!!  You are far from perfect!\n\nIf he doesn't change, get out.  Life is too short to live with someone who doesn't appreciate you for everything you are.  Be yourself.\n\nTake care,\n\nJoyce
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My husband and I have been married for a year and have been together for 5 years.  The first year was fine...2 months after we started dating I moved to Texas with my parents...9 months later I moved back to where he was and we moved in together I'd say about 6 months later is when it started.  He would get really angry because I was complaining too much about his job or that he wouldn't do the dishes when I asked and he would throw chairs...at the time we had those little plastic picnic chairs...and clothes at me or near me.  He would yell and scream at me and get right up in my face.  I don't remember him ever laying a hand on me during that time though.  About a year or two later we ended up breaking up mostly because we needed to be our own people for a while considering I was 17 when we moved in together and he was 20.  We were apart for about 2 months then we got back together and I moved in with him and his roommate at the time.  About a month or so later we got our own place and soon after that is when the major abuse started.  I never chalked it up as abuse though until I was watching some show and realized that my boyfriend was abusing me.  When he would get really mad at me he would grab my neck and pin me to the wall or throw me to the couch or the bed or where ever we were.  He has only slapped me twice and I've gotten a few bruises on my neck.  After I realized it was abuse I started to fight back and when he would grab my neck I would kick at him and push him away...I only did that a couple times because it made him even more angry.  We did end up getting married about 6 months after we got back together.  A lot of the abuse happened soon after we got married.  I only remember actually losing my breath and struggling to breath once...and that was a couple of months ago when we were in a car and arguing about he wanted to change his oil in front of an auto parts store but there was a guy outside that when my husband was in the store kept walking past the car looking at me in a weird way so when my husband came back to the car I told him I wanted to leave and told him the reason and so he got all upset and acted like a total baby and so on the way home I told him that him being my husband should want to protect me and want me to feel safe and whatever and I guess I said something wrong and he reached over and grabbed my neck and didn't let go right away like he normally did.  We got home soon after that and I went in and started to pack my things to leave and he came in and threw me on the bed and told me I wasn't leaving so I decided to leave my things and just leave and he just kept stopping me grabbing my wrists and he pushed me and I fell over a foot rest and hit my head.  I don't remember why I didn't leave.  but since then we have gone to a counselor I think two times...but now he works so much that we argue on the phone.  He never did this when he was drinking...we don't drink very much.  I don't know how he could do this to me either...he always said it was because I knew what made him mad but I still did it.  I have changed because of this...I don't say as much anymore and I pick and choose my words...I can't say I am afraid of him though.  I still say what I want when I'm really angry.  I know hes more afraid of my step dad than I am afraid of him though.  It use to happen at least once a week to twice a month.  We don't have kids...we have animals...whenever he kicks the dog I kick him...so see I'm not that afraid of him...I am for a couple weeks after the events happen though but normally I'm not.  He is intimidating though because hes a foot and a half taller than me.
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Back off and get a grip of yourself.\n\nYou say nothing changed...and yet you say things got a little worse.  Obviously something changed...it just wasn't by your rules.  Things changed also in that you've shared something important about your feelings.\n\nJust be nice to him but don't expect him to react the way you want him to.  Respect that he'll react the way he needs to.
187909
Is your sex better than usual? Is he doing new things to you that he didnt learn from cable TV? Are his everyday habits any differently than before? Is his hair different? Is he really open to change? Does he accuse you of things, over react to and blow little things out of proportion. Does he create reasons to fight and be mad so he can go lengths of time without talking to you or answering his phone? If he is then I'd assess my situation........if he's not doing these things...back off and enjoy your man.
618580
He does this becasue he has already discovered your weaknesses.  When you stop this, he will then realize that he does care for you enough to stop mistreating you or he will find some other person to manipulate.  When you put your foot down to this and make him think that you DON"T need him and deserve better...AND stick with it...You'll see him change in one way or another, be patient though because he will likely call your bluff, thinking you'll call him or look for him.  Make him think you're already over him and looking forword to your new life with a cool guy who will show you what friendship and love is really about.
174892
Trust and believe he is not going to change if he's acting like this now he will be doing the same thing later. If you cant deal with it I suggest you get rid of him SOON!..... GOOD LUCK!
626372
Honey, I know what you're saying. My ex does the same to me. One day, he's the best thing you could ask for, the next he's unbearably mean. On a good day, I accept that we've had a good day. On the bad, I hope the next will be better. Don't call him for a few days and see the change in his attitude. He's gonna treat you like dirt as long as he knows you're waiting for him.
279760
He's only making your low self esteem go lower. In my opinion, if he's called you ugly then that's reason enough to give him the boot. Who needs that? Verbal abuse will only get worse as the relationship gets older. To paraphrase Eleanor Roosevelt.."No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."
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He's being a jerk.....because he made plans with you. That is extremely rude.\n\nHow long have you been dating. Maybe, he feels that you are guys are in that 'comfort zone' where he can do stuff like that.  You need to tell him why you're mad though.
1050641
Baby Girl, I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  First of all, do you feel that your husband has changed, and will be faithful to you when he gets out, can you forgive, and most of all can you forget.  Are there children from this relationship, and if so what is his likely hood of re-offending and you being alone again. Those are the questions you should be asking yourself. If you believe in him and love him, and can forgive and forget, then give him a second chance...You do love him with all your heart don't you!  Jail changes a man, hopefully yours will change for the better and realize what a wonderfull wife he has waiting for him at home. I hope everything works out for you, the waiting is the hard part, Take care and God bless.  If you want to chat with someone in a similar position you can e-mail me   ms_blackdog@yahoo.ca (it is ca....I am in Canada)