What does it mean when a guy really doesn't want to work???
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Losing one's job is right up there at the top of the list of causes for depression.  He's had his foundation ripped out from under him.  He wants to claim something of his, thus the paycheck issue.  Motivation + attitude = success.  Get into counseling fast.
297939
Depends on if he works or goes to school, he may be letting you know that he will not be there. If it is after the hours and he is there, then I would wonder why he dosen't want you calling.
169399
It just means he cant right then probably because he either has a girlfriend or he doesnt have time for a girlfriend .  But he does mean it when he says hell go soem other time with u, so just sick in there.
396600
may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
498182
maybe it's just the way you worded it when you asked him, was he busy, or maybe he has other issues, during the week just ask him what he's up to on the weekend, if he has no plans then ask him if he wants to do something
1166374
I do not like playing games either, but I do not think that you should make yourself readily available to anyone. I mean most of us dodge our jobs and we KNOW that we are going to get paid for the time we put in. You do not know him well, you do not know where this is going. Slow down if he is what you think he is there will be plenty of time for the two of you to spend together. And on the contrary this is your world! Especially in this situation! All I can say is take your time if he is worth it saying well I kind of made other plans today is it OK if we reschedule this for (2 days later), will not turn him around. I think you are saying to yourself gotta get it while the getting is good. That's why you jump on it every time he calls. It seems that you would like to keep him around for some time so take some time. If you turning him down turns him away then that is just letting you know that he is not the person that you thought or hoped he was.
431472
It depends on why you don't see him often!If it is by his choice,kick him to the curb,if he's in the military,stay true and be supportive!If it's because he works long hours,he's a keeper!
400331
It means it's time go get busy!\n\nHe is just a bit too shy to tell you how he feels. Perhaps you are too.
1046955
it means the guy can't get it up to have sex.
329136
No he is not using you maybe he would like to work things out but that's up to you. If this gets on your nerves ask him to stop.
270540
It sounds as if he is getting comfortable, and he may be a person who is scared of or doesn't want a commitment. Have you voiced your sentiments to him of how badly it makes you feel when he doesn't call? If not, that may be the turning point. You will probably get a better feel of his intentions by his reaction to the conversation. Beyond that, I would definitely not give him your "heart" until you absolutely know what he wants out of the relationship. Good Luck!\n\nLilD
270541
when a man says that, it usually means that he has stuff on his mind at the moment, and needs space. other times the guy just doesn't want to be in a relationship or something, this usually happens when a tragic event happened
956686
I guess you mean he doesn't have a job. Sounds like time to have a real talk. If he doesn't  want to talk or explain what is going on. I would say it is time for you to move on.
1084445
Take a breath, darl'n. Sometimes guys just have a hard time telling you how they feel. He'll start missing you day 2. He might be a bit anxious about the job or have something on his mind, he prolly misses you already.
927239
First chill out, dont start biting his head off just for not cleaning up or being a little late.  GENTLY ask him or talk to him about whats been going on in his life lately or how his days have been, could be work related, could be not feeling well, we all can't have days where we're up and about getting everything we want, done and on time............so just talk to him, its no reason to start giving him the cold shoulder unless he's out partying or "elsewhere" and coming home late.  He shouldn't be mad if you're just asking curiously about why his actions have been changing and he's not cleaning up, etc etc.  You should be just fine.  Good luck.  :)
164455
Let's recap: NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THAT!  \n\n\nAs to why they are selfish... Why do people do what they do?  Self-serving usually has a feel good emotion associated with it... kind of like eating ice cream... the more we have that good emotion the more we want it.  \n\nI guess one could say a guy that is not willing to please may act that way for lack of self confidence.  Maybe it's not that he doesn't want to but HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO PLEASE his partner.  It's a bad excuse but it's possible!\n\nI hope I was helpful!\n\ncali_rich_and_smooth@yahoo.com
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It could be he is stressed out about his work,or overly tired,you should really sit down and try to have a conversation with him,and see if there is anything going on in his life that he hasnt been able to express to you.Different people have Different sex drives as well,you really need to work it out with him and compromise.Let him know how your feeling.Also I reccomend that you consider marriage,sometimes the guilt people feel shacking up affects the sex drive.No offense! Good luck!