When someone is abandoned what is there attitude life like.?
542055
fear of abandonment. and generalizing that fear to all relationships.  they are probably much more insecure in general and may have a need to be a people pleaser as a side effect of this fear.  they also are probably very guarded and careful of relationships or close friendships, because of their fear- and at the same time are careless because they might figure no matter what the person is going to leave. a person tends to repeat the behavior because they are scared.  scared of messing up thenmselves- and think it is better to not be there, or scared of the responsibility.
798914
I once helped a friend and her 19 year old daughter out when they became homeless.  They were living in their car.  During this period I paid their car insurance, fed them,  loaned them money and let them spend the night a few times.\n\nI asked them to Thanksgiving Dinner, they came, they ate, they stayed 5 weeks.  When they left they never said a word of thanks \nNot one single word................\n\nI stood in the driveway waving bye........3 months later they asked to stay with me again?  My responce was, I can give you a couple bucks but I really don't want house guests right now.\n\nI think I would have agreed, if they had at least said "thanks" for all the help I had given before. Doing favors and helping out  friends is just something you do.  But I think the level of kindness becomes burdensome without appreciation.
619638
How would you feel if you were the one that got dumped and stiffed for a couple of bucks? I got one thing to say "karma".\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\ni
518702
I am in the same boat as you.  Trying to figure it out.  What cannot be cured must be endured.  Keep strong.  Looking at your life without that other person there feels so empty and cold.
163006
you pack up your stuff and go. if you feel you must wright a letter and do it when they are not there but at least let them know you have left so they dont think you were hurt or kidnapped or something.
705835
When a person you are close to commits suicide it is hard to forget. It has happened to me. Not a soul mate but a friend. \nYou always think that you could have done something to help.... This is a tough one to answer. It is not easy to lose your "soul mate". To lose her/him because they take their own life is even harder. It takes time to get over it. If something like this happened to me, I would be more concerned about the person who did this.\nI believe that we don't really have the right to terminate our existence. I would pray for him/her as much as possible and also pray for myself to have the strength to carry this heavy emotional load.
871644
Two of my friends mothers have died it is a very sad time because you are without the most loyal, loving, caring, woman you will ever meet in your life. Lets start off with my neighbors. They have a boy my age who was ten at the time and a daughter who was only three when the aweful event occured. Their mother had been hopitalized for almost too months with a very serious cancer and she saddly died. There was a lot of mourning and nothing seemed to cheer either of them or their father up. We tried invited them over for dinner, taking them to the movies, playing whole family games outside like flash light tag, badmitten, soccer, basketball. Nothing seemed to work. I especially felt bad for their young girl who would have to go through puberty and such withouth her mother which I would not have been able to do with out my mother. About a year later it went back to normal and the mourning wasn't still going on even thought they were oviously still upset and probably thought about her everyday. About a month ago a classmate of mine lost her mother. She was at school bright and early the next day which seem odd. She didn't cry, frown, or seem at all upset. This girl and her mother did not have a good relationship. She was in my kindergarten class when her mother was put in to a mental institute and moved in with her grandmother. Her mother had tried to hurt her and hurt herself. I remeber he once telling me her mother had run over her own foot with a lawn mower. There were also many other little strange, gross stories. She never really seemed upset about any of these things happening and I think that is why she did not care much when her mother passed. I think the mourning period will last occording to how close you were to you mother. My neighbor was attached to his mother and was sad for a very long time. My classmate did not have a good relationship with her mother so she did not get very upset about her mothers death. If you friend was attached to her mother she will probably be sad and feel as though a part of her is missing for the rest of her life. For right now there isnt much you can do to make her feel better it isn't a subject that can easily slip your mind. Just try to be kind and wait until she feels better. Don't try too hard that its obvious that you are trying to make her feel better. Good Luck. I hope that you friend comes out okay. All the love too you.
537796
Depends on their values.  If they're a Christian or were brought up in a good family, then they might feel convicted. But if they don't have any direction in life, then it probably is not a  big deal.
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It really depends on the beliefs of the individual. If they are religious, talk to them about their beliefs about the afterlife. If they are worried about how their actions in life may affect their disposition after death, recall for them (if possible) their good works and deeds. If they believe in God, remind them of the principles of divine forgiveness. If they're not religious, ask them about their beliefs. Reassure them of their impact on your life. If you're there at their bedside, I assume they've touched you somewhat, somehow.\n\nThis is not a time to hold a grudge. If you have a disagreement with them, try to forgive. Remember you will have to live with yourself after the other person is gone. Let them know you will remember them fondly. Recall good times with them to help ease their pain.
652141
Dear Friend,, If One looses his Loved one,,, its not that easy to stay,, coz one can feeel the sudden out burst of life,, but then when the loved one was already lost,, so just have to accpet the Ground Reality,, and try to undergo the pain,, and stay in the pain,, but do not skip the pain,,, and try to be with company of nice freinds and well wishers,, and dont stay alone,,,\nto hear it self is painful,,
482081
I am happy with the person I am, I'm just not happy with where my life is at this point in time. It will be better once I get my feet back under me and can stand on my own again. I have never pretended to be something I'm not. If they don't like me for who and what I am they can move on. I have no room for people like that in my life.
1110653
appreciate the people you love while they are here...you'll have too many regrets after they are gone if you don't
110482
Hopelessness. I don't ever give up. It freaks me out when I meet people that have given up on life beause they don't think they can make things better.
760784
I would find a sad and lonely person who was also very pessimistic and pay for an experience where they can help others in the hope that they will find that giving of yourself can be a great present to yourself as well as the person who is helped. \n\nI would take this stranger to a children's hospital ward with board games and other interactive fun games so that they can interact with the sick children and see how happy they are when they have new people spending time with them and taking their mind's off their illness.\n\nThe stranger will see that their life isn't so bad and every time they feel themselves getting sad or pessimistic they can remember how happy they made these sick children. With any luck, the stranger would continue to see the sick children.\n\nGood deeds are often contagious and when others find out about what you are doing it can encourage others to do the same. The more we get out there and help others, the better off we will all be.  It can even be something very small - for example, I was once driving over the Harbour Bridge and went to pay the toll and was told that the person in front had paid mine as well and wished me a happy day. I, of course, paid someone else's toll another day. This chain reaction of good deeds hopefully is still happening!
798715
when you are leaving someone or they are leaving you.
476035
honey you have to understand u LEFT...what do you want him to do while you were out of the picture.. not knowing if you'll be back??? stay lifeless?????\n\nsometimes we act on certain needs..she(his co-worker) was there and willing ..so y not take whats in front of you???? its was just an act of being HUMAN with NEEDS!!!!\n\ni suggest you give him another chance like how GOD gave you another chance with LIFE!!!!!
962653
im guessing you relate to it some how. might not be the exact situation they are going through, but somehow you can interpret it to your own life.