What should you do if your wife wants you to clean house and you already have plans?
548237
Clean half before u leave and half when u come back.\n\nCompromise.
702071
Show your fiance all the answers, but especially let her read mine.  I will address it to her.  I am 52, I have been divorced for about 12 years now.  I virtually raised my 3 kids on my own. I love them will all my heart.  I never forced them to clean up their rooms. I never forced them to wash the dishes.  I allowed them to have free will...in short I really didnt put many boundaries in their lives at all.  My son is 19....he still lives with me, and hes an absolute pig, he treats me like a maid.  I come home from work and dishes are piled up in the sink, so the first thing I do is clean up after him.  I work long hours and I dont need to do it, but its all my fault...he has no respect for me and when I ask him to pull his weight we end up in an arguement, so its easier for me to just clean up after him.  I now have my 26 year old daughter living with me now after her relationship broke down.  She is just the same....she does nothing.  I am responsible for 2 grown adults who should be responsible for themselves and I only have myself to blame.  I was too soft on them and now I am paying the price.  They love me, I have no doubt about that, but they certainly do not respect me.  I would love a man to come into my life and give me a break and take some responsibility off my shoulders.  I would love to have a man like your fiance who loves you enough to want to work out solutions to this situation.  Your children are rude and they need to show respect.  Your fiance is right in everything he wants to do.  If you dont allow him to be the man of the house and take responsibility then it will be you and your kids against him for the rest of your lives and it will eventually destroy your relationship.\n\nFor this to work, you have to work with your fiance, you have to show a united front because as soon as you show you dont agree, then your kids have got you where they want you, and your fiance wont stand a hope in hell of bringing this family together.  It has nothing to do with the father, you should not be discussing anything with him.  This is yours and your fiance's life and if the kids are going to live there in harmony, then the only thing you need to consider is how the kids, you and your fiance can live in peace...and that has nothing to do with father.  If it hurts you too much to see your fiance take charge and put in boundaries....then walk away.  Tell your daughter that you dont want to talk to her without your fiance present because you and your fiance are now partners and if she is unhappy, then he needs to be involved as well.  Im telling you now taking the hard line with your daughters now will have immense benefits for everyone's future.  You should be so happy that you have a man who loves you enough to work through these problems...but it has to be with you, not against each other.  A lesser man would put it in the too hard basket and not marry you.  You are a lucky woman.  Dont let your kids ruin your relationship.  They need to be taught some manners.
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Make your way of life(your daily agenda) clear to your maid so there is no confusion on what needs to be done around your household. Make sure there is a certain code of respect between you and your maid, and your children and maid. Just be sure to be strict but fair in all situations.
993837
clean my house and be more organized.
482416
Find a nearby house which does have a landlord that allows them to recycle, and setup a plan with them. They might go for it.
549140
Depends on the agreements that the couple has.  If the man (or woman) is working full time and the woman (or man) is staying home to keep the house and kids they she (or he) should do most of the washing.  That being said, the man (or woman) should do what he (or she) can as often as he (or she) can to help out and because he (or she) loves her (or him).  If both couples are working it is best to make up a core-list of who is going to do what so that arguments don't arise.  OR just create a schedule of when the wash is to be done and have wash days at a time when alternating spouses will be home.  Laundry is a stupid thing to argue about.  Just have the discussion ahead of time (even if it’s “How often would you like me to help out with the laundry”) and avoid this trap.
232595
You're married...so there shouldn't be a distinction between the two of you. If she helps you buy a house, you're helping yourself. If you're still having "your stuff" "her stuff", get counseling before buying a home. You should have gotten counseling before getting married, for that matter.
1058358
well.....once you figure it out...let ME KNOW!!!!   I need to clean 2 homes!!
1122416
I guess you have already tried talking to him. What does he think is "ridiculous", you wanting him to help? I can only tell you what I would do. I would sit him down and tell him " As long as we BOTH have to work two jobs, I am not going to be the only one taking care of everything around the house. If you want a housewife, then you need to support one. Otherwise, we share the chores just like we share the bills". If he cannot see the logic in that, I would be considering leaving. There is no way I would allow myself to be treated that way.
548614
That's a stupid reason to leave someone. Tell him that if he does not like the way that you clean then he needs to do it himself or hire a maid.
401648
My husband once took his day off and cleaned the entire house.  I'm not talking just picking stuff up and moving clutter around.  He broke out the cleaning supplies and deep scrubbed the apartment.  It doesn't sound like a very romantic thing, but trust me it was an amazing thing from my husband and for me.
668184
shut the hot water off when your not using it\nempty the frig...now food no mother in law..\nshut of the cable TV..put up the old rabbit ears with two stations for her to watch...\naccidentally put bleach in some of her clothes when in the wash..oops..sorry...\nget back up late at night and have loud music and dance...and wake her up...then when she gets up..shut the lights off and go back to bed..\nand when she asks whats wrong ..say with a smile..why nothing what ever gives you that idea..\nor you could do most of thees without your partner even knowing it is being done..and then when she complains to him/her..say I do not know what she is talking about...then put salt in her coffee..\nSMILE
400819
Plan Plan Plan...\nMake an event out of it..\nIt builds it up too..\nMakes it even hotter...\nSet aside a time that your not in the house with the kids so you can relax all the way... get loud.. bang.. whatever you do that the kids would distract from...\nDo something special for the two of you..\nIf you like candles... go with that..\nif he likes whips and chains... go that route...\njust what ever.. Plan Plan Plan and talk it up...\nForeplay as they say.. starts weeks ahead of time...\nor atleast when you wake up...\nI start turning my wife on when I get up...\nIt makes it so much better later... she is way more into it than she would be if we just said.. ok we have time... lets do it! ... quickies are good too... get a few in a day or two before the "date" and make sure neither one of you gets off.. that way your good and frustrated for hte next one...\nit will carry over to the next day...\nMake out... Pretend its the first time all over again...\ngo through the formal steps as if you were aknost unsure if you were going to get it or not... it realy raises the intensity level.. \nYou will have preferences... go with them..\nexperiment
958524
Clean the house, cook dinner for her, and give her some free time to read or relax.
275106
Move out and inviter her to your new place for dinner at least once a week so she can see that your fine and making it own your own.
662922
tell mom-in-law to do things your way in your home or hit the highway...[its your life] make your own choices..
1088189
its not wrong to be a stay-at-home housewife with domestic helpers if you can afford it and still be comfortable. i used to clean houses for a living and i had 1 that was that way, she had me come in on fridays to do the heavy cleaning, bathrooms, dusting, vacuuming, mopping and sweeping. she would wash the dishes and do her own laundry. i just did the every week cleaning.