What is better: a first divorce or a second chance in the same marriage?
552253
Divorce is never as easy as some people say.  Seek the guidance of a marriage counselor in your area and spend the money!  It's worth far more than a new car.
386154
Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
174326
Well you have 2 choices as I see it...\n\nYou can try to be better in more ways than the other person your husband is seeing...\n\nOr you can move on to not allow him to hurt you any more...\nEither one is very hard and requires lots of work on your part...\n\nNo one ever said it would be easy...\nI have been there, so I know...\nI have been divorced twice and those were always my only options...
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
780634
I think that if a marriage is miserable and efforts to make it better have failed, a divorce is the right thing to do. So that's a yes from me I guess.\n\nI'm happily married though, so as for my own marriage, I'd say no.
433635
Divorce has become an easy way out of situations. I think people just don't want to take the time to work out what is wrong with their marriages. It'd just be much easier to start over. Kind of sad, huh? Of course, there are divorces that occur for very good reasons (abuse, constant adultery, ect...)\nI'm married (first time), and plan to be with my hubby until the day I die. That was the commitment and vow I made. Any problems we may have will be worked out come "Hell or high water." Divorce is not in my marriage vocabulary.
365432
I'm in a similar situation with 3 kids (2,5,7).  At first I thought it would be better to be with a never-married single w/o kids; now I feel that it's better to be with a divorced man with or without kids because of the similar understanding and bad experience of divorce as well as the willingness and commitment to NEVER be divorced again, especially if someone has kids, there are too many people's lives our decisions are affecting.  I also need answers...thanks for asking and good luck!
1148214
I am on my second marriage, and let me tell you, marriage sucks donkey dick!  I would not get married again unless God himself told me to get married!  I think the number of times that is too many is a personal choice.  Tradionally, the number has been one time and you are out unless of death or adultery or abuse.  Nowdays, you can get married in a matter of minutes of meeting someone and be divorced by the end of next week (in some places).  Like I said I think it is a personal choice, and what your friend decides you need to stick by him if he is really a friend.  If it bothers you so much either talk to him or stop being his friend.
827079
Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!
1096006
It depends on who filed first.  If you filed first, then your court date is first.  Have your lawyer talk to hers, let them sort out the legal details.\n\nEither way, you're getting your divorce, which is a good thing.
114855
I'm just speculating on the range of possibible answers to this question that might help you. How about "Yes" - in which case, why did you get married in the first place? Or, "No", in which case why did you get married in the first place?\n\nAlternatively, you might only be able to properly answer this question if you were both of the same sex and living in Massachusetts, in which case the question would be redundant!!! So my question to you is...what is your question?
1131342
You can look at it two ways.  Before you were married is before you made a commitment to each other or if he did it once he will do it again.  Not to make you feel worse than you already do, I have been where you are and thought it was before and dosn't count  believe me a leopard doesn't change his stripes and the first time is the hardest.  If it happened once it will happen again.  Learned it the hard way  D
1003688
I wouldn't purchase another one, until the divorce is finalised. Rent until then, they buy one....or if you can't wait, put it in someone else's name until the divorce is final. if it's a nasty divorce, they could try to go after half of it, just to be dirty.
264156
both are good but i guess love is better.\n\narranged marriages are a "learn to love" kinda thing....not everyone learns well lol
655907
Sounds to me like Mark is dragging is feet, afterall, you has his cake and is eating it too.  You divorced for one reason or another.  What makes you think that it will work this time.  The past will hinder any happiness that you two may have together.  You should think real hard on this issue and decide if you can go thru with it or not.  If you can't, leave before it's too late.
220792
You know what everyone deserves a second chance. In the first place why did you do that if you really love your boyfriend. Please don't make decisions because of your kid make them because of you. I would advice you to go for Counselling with Jeff before the hearing. If you love him as much as he loves you he will forgive you in time because all he needs is time to heal.
722912
have you exhausted all other options?  example: talking to a trusted friend/family member, seeking counselling from a higher up in your church and or counselling from a professional?  dont just jump into divorce, you may live to regret it.  my ex husband does..