why is it that when you find the perfect partner someone close in your family doesn't trust or like  them?
536593
sometimes love is blind, you might think your mate is perfect but your brother or sister sees something in him that you don't.  Try just to live your own life, and don't let your family influence you.  You might also consider that the family doesn't like him, for any kind of reason, well there is no rule that says just because you love him that they have to.  My sister married a schmuck and I don't even mention his name nor will I invite him to my house, I just don't like him. Nobody in my family likes him, but that is part of why my sister chose him.
340272
Sounds like there is more to the story than you not liking or getting along with his family.  You expect more for him and he hasn't delivered.  People don't change.
549529
I think the first answer you got is sooooo true. By you asking then you obviously not! If you were you would know it. It's a very hard feeling to describe and I think many people mistake lust for love, and many people will settle for less than what they deserve. When it comes your way you will know it with every bone in your body. Don't settle for being with someone to just not being on your own. There's a big diff between loving a person and being in love. You can love your family but you sure as hell not in love with them. All good things come in time, so be patient and it will happen one day. Just don't confuse lust for love, or loving someone and being in love....... There's a BIG difference.
342952
Nobody with a family should answer this.  You should be compassionate towards the feelings of family members.
584768
Hahaha!\n\nNo.  Families are messed up.  It's a shame but that's the way it is.\n\nWe all are HUMAN.  So there is no one that doesn't have Some issue.\n\nThere's a saying that I love & will pass on to you.\n\nSay what you mean,\nMean what you say,\nDon't say it mean.\n\nLive & Let Live.  Just accept yourself first, but everyone else too for who they are.  Period.  Causes you a lot less stress.
953237
Unrealistic expectations sow the seeds for resentment and anger.  The smart thing to do is realize that the person you are with is who they are.  The reason you were attracted to them is not based on potential, but on reality. So many people go into a relationship and expect to change the things about the other person that they don't like without realizing that if they accomplish those changes, the other person will not be the same person they were attracted to and if they don't achieve the changes, their disappointment is due to their unrealistic expectations.  People will only change if they do not like that aspect of their character enough to change it.  Most people are comfortable with who they are and wont change.
246737
Because those should be the people who made you feel special in life. They say you will be likely to gravitate toward someone who has those same characteristics. I wouldn't know because my dad wasn't there for me, and my brother got killed when I was 13. But I do feel like I missed out on being around a man all my life, I guess as an example. I've heard that said about men too, that they will marry someone like their mothers!
8866
If your family dosn't except him tell them that you love him and that if they don't like him they will just have to except that you love him.
439689
Well after you get married what are they going ot do, refuse to like him still? Do what you wan't and marry who you love. This might be more of a case where you should look at your relationship with your folks and why would they not wan't you to marry the one you love.
869764
a family memeebr still has to agree it's the one who they think it is, has to be identified, sometimes they try to pick someone that it would hurt less, not a blood but a married in relative sometimes they just pull the male card,
836090
that is sick you can love who you want but come to family you realy need to becareful\ni had a cusin that had a baby from her family member and the kid did not trun out ok.
633595
because usually they dont unless  there your family or you partner
100620
I guess you have to ask yourself this. There are many degrees of trust you bestow on someone. How much trust or degree of trust are you willing to give that someone? Why do you have to trust someone so much that it hurts if they turn on you? I think it's just that you're a loyal person and in exchange expect the same from everyone else. Maybe it's time you look at trust as a courtesy you can give but not to  expect from your family or friends. Give trust to your soul mate. Your one and only TRUSTworthy person on earth!
851039
After reviewing the series of questions you have asked about family relationship issues, it appears that you may be paranoid.\n\nIf that is not the case, then your family has some serious dis-functionality that you should all deal with, if possible. \n\nAt the very least, please consider seeking some professional guidance to help you cope with your situation.
210041
I find it kind of boring... but real disadvantages?  Well, sometimes one can feel left out, like they don't have a close enough relationship with any one family member.
1114732
That is just inviting problems, deception and breaking trust in your family unit. He has some serious issues and needs some counselling. I would never accept it. No wonder he isn't getting any love from his family, they don't trust or respect him.
292878
Depends why you think this is neccessary.  Does your family not like your guy?  Or does your guy not like your family?  You should consider why your family/your guy is asking to give up the other.  If they loved you they should be willing to except your love or your family.