hate the everything about me ... want to change it  but don't know how?
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Low self esteem and depression go hand in hand. You need to make a list of everything uyou like about yourself, and everything you hate.\n for example, are you smart, sensitive, good business sense? This should give you a basis to start at.\n\nThink of solutions to the things you hate, and tackle them one by one! Why do you hate them? is it actually you that hates it, or your peers? \n\nYou are Unique, and you need to find what you are good at.\n\nGet involved with a hobby, try a sport, volunteer somewhere. This will giveyou PURPOSE. Learn to cook well, and enjoy preparing healthy meals. Take a class! (you dont have to tell anyone about it!)\n\nSome people can never get a "built" body, no matter how hard they try, or whatever steriod they take. You should try a different way to tone and build your body. You more than likely will excel at a sport such as running, Martial arts, cycling or swimming. These suit those with "whippy" skinny people! \n\nHow proud would you be to boast, i know martial arts, or i am in our local cycling team, and to be able to face people with confidence? How many of those body builders have reliable friends, or how often are they actually nice people? Usually all they have is a serious dose of "im better than you, im bult, therefore you arnt worth my time?" THINK ABOUT IT!\n\ncheers.
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It's a personal journey , everyone is different.  My best advice would be to NOT be afraid of what people think of you.  Remember always your life has to be for you, not anyone else.  Nobody can tell you how to "find" yourself, figuring that out is part of the whole process!  Look, hon, I'm 30, and I still haven't figured out who I am....  Good Luck!!
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First things first, STOP HATING YOURSELF! Nothing you do is going to change who you are - accept it and move on. You need to be more positive in your life. God made you who you are and so you need to be yourself. Go see a shrink to help raise your self-esteem and to help remove the self-hating aspect of your life. Get out into the community and meet people, great friends are the best thing in the world. You might surprise yourself and find out that you really do like being a gay man.
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ive read your profile and previous questions and for whatever reasons i believe you are deeply unhappy within your self-depression if you like-actively find solitude,get comfortable and try to focus on one thought only-as your mind clears search for the root of your problem,try to identify the real source-elect a way to change it to your benefit-take action,no matter how small .you will then have begun to fight back and feel better about yourself and this in turn with each action you alone make to affect the path of your destiny-as is your right-will give you back the control you feel you may be losing-and hopefully have you feeling like smiling again-its worth a try,good luck.x -remember "a journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step !"x
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no, its a fairly easy question bu requires a few minutes to search for the answer.\n\nyeah. i love myself. all the good qualities as well as the bad. that is who I'm and its not gonna change very soon\n\nso whats the point of hating oneself? you are stuck with yourself. \n\nso you better start loving yourself coz a bucket full of wishful thinking will not change you.
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Be willing and prepared to change.  You have to become a completely different person than you are right now.  Whatever attracts you to the other person will eventually drive you nuts.  And vice versa.  So if you like yourself, don't commit to a long term relationship.
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Well, there is abook your could buy. Its not a conventional book. Its called "All about me", or "about me", anyway, its a fillin book, where you fillin all these questions regarding your self and your life. Doing that, and answering them honestly might help you. You should be able to find it at any major book store, plus it will be interesting to read a few years down the line, to see how you have changed.
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Just straighten out your life, make some changes. Then you wont have to lie. If you lie, you must be imbarresed about something, dont hang out with people who do not like YOU.
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just think about how many really ugly people are out there,and how they would be happy to look like u.im sure u do look good and well done to u,that u managed to loose w8.fight ur selfcoonciousness,because it does affect life bad,if u dont feel good in ur own skin.my exboyfriend was very insecure and i know how much it ruins his life.be strong.
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work on it then...exercise, take some self improvement courses, read a book on how to improve your self image.  Don't whine about it do something!
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'Everybody' does not hate you.  I am sorry if you are going through a time when it feels as though you are not appreciated or supported, not having fun, feeling left out...\n\nMaybe changing your circle of friends might help? Finding a new hobby or interest?\n\nDon't fall into the trap of believing that every person you meet hates you.  Give them a chance to see the real you and also, when you feel a bit more confident, show interest in others - people tend to like that, if you are being genuine :-)\n\nI do hope you have someone you trust that you can talk to about this.
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well, you need to nip this in the bud now, or you will be plagued by it your whole life\n\nlife is a lot easier when you stop caring about what other people think\n\nmost people learn that lesson as they get older, making them wish they had learned it sooner\n\nwhen i look at photos of myself in high school I think I look so cute!! at the time I DESPISED myself....and for what?\n\nyou have to accept you will never be as well dressed, as good looking or as put together as some.....\n\nand that you ARE in fact better dressed, better looking and more put together than others\n\nit's a huge world we all live in, people come in all shapes and sizes\n\nlove yourself, you are all you have got, and you are worth it
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I would suggest counseling. It sounds like you have some deep rooted issues that need to be worked out. This is something more complex than a self esteem problem.\n\nLove yourself, you are beautiful and deserve to be happy!
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well.. ive actually done this before.. and i can tell you in detail how to go about it... first u need to pull out some of your teeth... and hair folicles... then dig up a corpse that looks like u.. pull its teeth out.. replace with a few of yours.. torch the body and itll be found.. next..u need to disapear.. move... get rid of all your credit cards and all... ... get a new social..i can help u with that.. message me privately... ... then .. thats pretty much it..
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It's nothing you can't change...you need to boost your self-esteem.\n\nI gave you a thumbs-up for admitting there is a problem...THAT IS THE FIRST STEP !!!\nSEE BELOW:\n\nhttp://www.more-selfesteem.com/\n\nImproving Self-esteem \nThe first important step in improving self-esteem is to begin to challenge the negative messages of the critical inner voice.\n www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem\n\nWays to Improve Self Esteem \nWays to Improve Self Esteem by Susan Angell ... Apply "self talk"\n www.dtda.org/insights/improveesteem\n\n365 Ways to boost your self-esteem \nAn ongoing list of way to boost your self esteem -- check back here every day for the next way to boost your self esttem...\n www.lifefocuscenter.com/365waystoboostyourselfesteem\n\nhttp://www.selfesteem4women.com/?ad=5
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Well since your 24' you should get in touch with yourself, Figgure out what you like, Who you are, Go for a change in your life (Nothing Drastic) just something to make you feel better about yourself. Change your figure. Set Goals, Go some place you never thought you would go before. Meet a new person (Not on line) and give them a alias name and tell them stories about your life as if you were one of your favorite characters in a movie. (It builds character in yourself)
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Do you really hate yourself, or do you hate what others perceive you as?  \n\nWhat have you done to hate yourself so much?  Answer that question and ask for forgiveness in your heart, and move past it.  \n\nI don't think you can love another until you can learn to forgive yourself and make amends for whatever causes you to hate yourself.  You can have strong emotional ties and feelings, but until you can forgive yourself, how can you expect to love someone and forgive their faults?  \n\nI wish you luck in finding your way.