I need help with something serious! Is is possible for men to over look the fact that a woman has 5 children.?
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no, sorry. but there are a lot of people, men or women, who just think 5 kids are too many. but i'm sure theres someone who loves kids just as you do, and wont mind it. \nit probably also depends on the age of your kids.
1020801
It sounds like she "knows" what he is up too but would rather pretend otherwise.  She may be wanting to have another child to "fix" things which wont work.  Or maybe just because she is maternal.  Either way - I would suggest you just sit her down and talk to her and let her know that you are there for her but that you are concerned for her because of all the stress she is under already and that she may want to consider how much more stress she would have in her life with 4 children should he decide to leave her for one of the "other women".\n\nKathy
883249
7 kids! holy crap. well does he not treat her right or something? why dont you like him? just cause hes younger? if they have 7 kids together they must really want to be together.
572545
this man wants to have his children with you, so you should be hounoured.. he's pretty serious about you then!!  so smile girl..at the end of the day  u can control how many kids you have. I think it's cute..lol  it's 50 -50 with guys and girls wanting kids from what i've experienced.
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she has 3 kids by 2 guys, maybe she doesn't want to make it 4 kids by 3 guys. be happy she has enough self-respect to be honest with u and isn;t given it up cuz she feels she has to just to keep u
142567
been there, done that.  your asking for a lot of grief.  just the age situation with the children is a burdon, not to mention the difference between your "going to be" and you.  you yourself said your not mature enough to make a decision...let that alone be a guide for you.  first time marrages are tough enough these days, let alone the second time around ones.  i have had experiance with taking on "the others" kids and it is very difficult to relate to them, win them over, have commonalities with them and just simply get close to them.  and if they are close to you in age i'd think there would be little for them to look up to.  kids are hard to win over when your trying to "replace" their mom or pop.  I'd think hard on this one before I jumped into the fire.  good luck.
698607
Sorry the only Mormons I knew had 5 kids + foster kids in and out. That is a lot where I'm from.
907371
I know of a family that had 4 kids......they were first cousins, and they ended up having 4 kids with learning disabilities....and downs syndrome......\n\nSo I would say no...do not have kids unless you are prepared to have kids with many challenges.....
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Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.
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What does your heart tell you...also make sure your in love with him and not just his children or you just may end up being the baby sitter, if when you say he has 3 children, means they live with him.  Also beware of baggage, I don't consider the children baggage, thats part of the package, but the ex is another story...has he been divorced long?  Whats the child care arrangement?  does he pay alimony, child support and need your income?  Other than that if its a family your looking for...I would think he would be sincere in wanting a partner to complete his family.
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personally, i think it's irresponsible. It might lead to a couple of extra bucks in your pocket, but I would rather that men know which kids are theirs and which aren't. If you want to help an infertile couple or woman, hand select them. PLEASE!!!
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Well, I have this friend that had 4 kids and lost custody cause she was a crack head & also had 50lbs too much crack, anyway she might be a good choice and she would split and leave u the kid. I would have to say there would be no gaurantee on what the babies health would be though. But thats the chance you take , along with the mixture of your DNA ! She is a nice Religious girl , just a little ate up and out there ( Somewhere, Just don't know where). Oh by the way , watch those blond jokes u leave ladies cause u look like a natural platinum blond now !
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I think you should listen to Tom Lykis.\nGenerally the rule... is that women lie... splitting the number of men they've been with by 3.\nSo if she says she's slept with 2 guys... she has probably slept with 6. see 6 divided by 3 is 2.   \n    So, Tom Lykis asked women to anonymously call his radio show and tell the truth of how many men they've slept with, and what they usually tell everyone else.  The results were amazing.\nMost of them held true to the rule... give or take a few.\nVery many of them decimated the rule... sleeping with up to 10 times the men  they've generally claimed.\nvery few women slept with less, or equal the amount of guys that they say they've slept with.\n    In summation.  15 guys is kind of a lot.  She COULD be a robo-slutt.  Do her... but bag it up.\nshiit put two on to be safe, but don't blame me if you end up with crabs.
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Here is a claim of 10 consecutive sons:\n\nhttp://famteam.com/newfamily.html
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Yes to the second part of your question. I KNOW it's the woman's body, but it's the mans' child too(as men are always being reminded once the child is born)... it should be a legal matter to some extent (and I'm a woman) but I'm not sure it should always lead to prevention.\n\nAs to the first part, I like your thinking and it's got me thinking too. I think not, because the child is the innocent party so therefore the one that would suffer. To me, it seems like an easy get out for a man and not taking responsibility. Wonder what you think.\n\nBTW SO disagree with the statement before me.
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does it ever say they only had 2 children ? im guessing they had 50 children
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the right guy will come along he wont care that u have children ,he might have children too! i know many women some w/ 5 children anf found someone that loves them very much and married them!