i'm falling for my booty call. We've been off and on for 6 years and now i want more then just friends
550987
Just talking to him and tell him how you feel , tell him you don't want to lose what you have! Maybe he fills the same way but don't know how to tell you! You need to talk to him communication is a good thing. If you two have know each other for that long and have already had sex and off and on for 6 years then I bet he does have feelings too! Sound s like you two are a match!
780194
There is no easy answer.  I felt like I spent the better half two years basically throwing myself at this guy I use to work with.  I never got any where.  We just remained good friends and now we just seemed to have gone down different paths and never see each other anymore.  Don't take it too hard if this happens.  It just means that you weren't meant to be together and you'll find the right guy down the road.
138433
Yes, please know what your intentions are before you do this though. If he is a friend, then you do not want to ruin the relationship. Are you only interested in a one time fling and still be friends? Do you want a meaningful relationship with commitment? Figure this out first and then go in with a open mind and hear out your suitor. Do be afraid to find that he wants to only be friends. Friends have more fun and are more intimate when there atracted to one another but know it will never go beyond that point...
328387
Hey, I would surely go for it, its such a good feeling to have a nice friend and then falling in love :))
739730
just tell him that you really liked him and that you would want to keep in touch with him.  is he coming back?  just wait and keep in touch with him.  as time goes by your hearts will began to grow fonder of one another and if it is meant to be it will happen.  as for now if you just want to get some lovin, I would say don't do that because it will ruin everything even the friendship.  just call him once a week or bi-weekly when he leaves and make sure the conversations are good.  Also every now and then just say that you met this guy and you went to a movie or something to make him a little jealous but when you do this make sure he knows that you two are just friends but don't over do the friend part.  you know what to do.  or that's an idea take him to a dinner and a movie for a going away gift and just when he thinks he's going to get some be strong and leave!!!!
866444
Get off HIS a#s-cool-biach...im falling in love with him....get your own nut..
1013490
First of all, you don't owe him a thing.  Secondly, do you really want to be friends with him?  Sounds to me like any friendship you might have would only make it harder for you to break things off, and your heart will just get trampled.  You know the score.  You know he's not going to settle down.  As hard as it might be, the best thing to do is ignore his calls for now until you're stronger, because most likely he will not take no for an answer, and will manipulate you and use guilt to continue to get his way.  Don't forget he has other girls to fall back on.  Best to let him go now with your pride, dignity, and heart still in tact.
384990
I had that experience before - but I broke up with that bf for a very weighty reason, so, even if he continued his pursuit supposedly "in the name of friendship," I didn't give in.  It took out the complications.  Don't sweat it.  :)
647150
i had a 5+ yr friendship with someone     we became best of friends   then we decided we wanted more.... todsy he is my hubby......
342216
I am in that same situation....But i think i am going to c who i have more fun with and more in common with... U wanna be able to spend the rest of ur life with knowing u have something in common and is fun.
726093
You sound like a smart, caring, compassionate woman.  You're in love!  Savor it!  Your friends are probably not saying anything because they respect what's going on.  In time, you'll be calling them to set up social time again - but right now - you're enjoying being in love - and spending time with that special person. \n\nThe fact that you're aware that it's going on - and asking if it's wrong says a lot about you.  You know that balance is important.  Maybe you should start to consciously make a little more time for your friends now.  Don't shut them out.  Love is grand - but friends are a VERY important part of your life too!
1133899
Just wait sweety it will happen. I was like you thought that all decent guys were taken or gay. They are not, I have the best bloke in the world and he is my best friend too. We started off as friends and it just went from there! Good luck and be patient. xx
807409
WOW! This is CRAZY! I am in the exact, I mean exact same situation! I have a guy friend (best friend at that) and he is a little bit attractive, and I know he is in love with me because he tells me so, but I do not have romantic feelings towards him. Sometimes I get the urge to let things go further (physically) but in the long run, I never let it get that far. I believe, if something is mentally stopping you from going further with him, then you should listen to your gut feeling. It might also make things complicated after you initially sleep together. He'll be calling you all the time, crying about his love for you and whatnot, and you will have to tell him (once again) that you don't have feelings for him. Trust me, this is what happened when I slipped up and accidentally kissed my guy friend....but either/or, GOOD LUCK!!!
842508
Life is too short honey and it doesnt really sound like you have that much in common anyways. Dump his butt !!!  Lots of guys out there who would bend over backwards for you.  Good Luck
951979
so technically you're just friends with benefits until he figures out what he wants to officially do with you. he's definitely into you, and you're definitely into him, but the relationship ain't happenin (been there)!!! it's excellent that you have separate lives...so maybe eventually you two will make it official someday. i wouldn't rush him, he definitely has a crush on you. go with the flow since you both just came out of bad break-ups. maybe you both feel the comfort of having each other during this healing process and a new serious relationship is the last thing on his mind, you know how guys are...
921337
Does not sound like you are doing anything wrong.  Maybe it is the men that you are attracted to that are wrong for you.  Yeah you say you have friends with benefits, but you want something more, like commitment?  Maybe you should start looking for a different kind of man.  Maybe you are afraid of commitment and taking your relationships to the next level.  Maybe it is the men.  I dont know enough about your situation to be more efficient with helping you.  Hopefully, I left a little food for thought with you.
609101
Yeah that is the prob. When i started dating my BF, i got lots of other proposition while with him, esp old flings but now that i've broken up, no1 is interested and am oh-so-lonely