I am about to get married but my fiancee has cheated once and has continued to lie to me are we meant to be?
545263
In my honest opinion....\n\nThe guy didn't technically cheat.  Try to look at it this way, he went out with the girl a few times, and then he realized how much you meant to him. Sometimes it takes being with the wrong person to realize that you are with the right person. In addition there was not touchy feely stuff so he probably wasn't attracted to her in the first place.  He probably just wanted to reassure himself that you were the right girl for him.  Guys get anxious and cold feet too, they just handle it differently than we do.  Talk to him.  Tell him how you feel about it and explain to him that your trust and love is a privilege, and he should be honored to earn it.
116099
Wow, if u are indeed going to do that then be prepared to burn in hell for homosexuality and adultery. You lied during your vows and are only thinking of yourself. How selfish.
270871
Ask her! If she is worth marrying you should be able to trust her? Right?!
457879
Everyone lies at one time or another.  It's just human nature.  I'm sure if you took an honest look at yourself you'll see that you may have told little white lies yourself.  Now, hold on...I'm not accusing you of anything.  I'm just saying that unless you catch him in something big, it's up to you whether or not you want to trust him.  Also, if you are having doubts of whether or not you're in love with him, that's a serious red flag on whether or not to marry.  Your relationship with him should not depend on whether or not your family gets along with him, but it would behoove you to ask them why they feel the way they do.  Sometimes, people on the outside can be your best gauge, especially if you keep getting the same feedback from them.  I suggest that you not walk away until you are sure of what you feel, and don't get married until you are sure either.  Good Luck!
197893
Count yourself lucky.  You don't want to be with someone who lies.  It will just take time to move on.
147041
If your spouse is lying to you, there is obviouisly a problem. If the lies are taking this much of a toll on your marriage consider possibly getting marriage counsling. Is there a reason they feel they need to lie. Are they hiding somethin. Communicate, tell him or her this is unacceptable in your book,and you will not stand for it. If you do tell them that stand your ground. A liar is as bad as a cheater.
1098521
I would definitely say, nip this problem in the ass before you get married. Believe me, it is much easier to get married than it is to divorce. If he will lie about money, chances are, he wouldn't have a problem lying to you about other things. On the other hand, try to be receptive, and understanding, so he is more apt to tell you the truth in the future.
949790
If it's huge enough for him to lie about, it's OK for you to be upset about it!  If he hadn't done anything wrong he wouldn't lie, he wouldn't hide things and go behind your back.  That tells me that he knows he is doing something wrong and does it anyway.  That also shows that he has little or no respect for you.  I would say give him an ultimatum... either he is honest with you or he has to go.  You don't even really have to do that, but it's up to you.  I guess if I were you I wouldn't care if he was in contact with guy friends, but if he's spending that much time talking to an ex it means he still has feelings for her and may have been (or still be) cheating on you with her.  If you still want to work on your relationship, get counseling with him.  It IS a big deal and he has no right to discount your feelings the way you say he does.  If he doesn't respect you, you wont change or fix him.  But if you get marriage counseling, you'll have the best chance of getting through this.  Sorry and good luck.
212570
Its obviously possible, because you are feeling that way. Are you newly weds? If so, maybe you just aren't quite comfortable with all that yet. You should wait until you two feel comfortable.
340645
Tough question, generally once a cheater always a cheater, but were talking about a relationship prior to marriage, it is unfortunate he cheated while with you, to disrespect you in that way says he was unsure that you are thee one for him, however, he is not only sorry for his actions now, but has realized he does want you as his bride.  We all make mistakes, however, marriage is not only a vow to you but to the Lord himself, assumming your having a Church bless your marriage and I would judge him by his faith in God..at least at this point of considering marrying him...I would make it very clear, betrayal during marriage is not just cheating on their spouse, but against your vows presented before the Lord himself...I only offer this advice if you truely love him, if you have any reason to further doubt his integrity...then do not take it to this next step...good luck
391504
There is a good chance it’s not just you she is lying to. She has probably done this most of her life and most of the time she isn't aware she is doing it until it’s done. She probably lies about things that are so small, the truth wouldn't hurt either. Most people that do this are doing so because they feel their life or the truth is so boring, they don't think anyone will care about them. It’s a cry for help and love. Show her she doesn't need to do this anymore.\n\nSet here down, sometime other when it is not an issue. Look her straight in the eye, while holding her hand; tell her how much you love her. Then talk to her how important trust is in a relationship. Explain to her that you are aware of her deception and it is because you love her so much that, most of the time you can see it in her face. Talk to her about how other people that do not love her and don't have the ability to look over this one issue to see the really great things about her, view her. Explain that you cannot live with dishonesty and mistrust, (and you cannot) but you want to help her, because that is what two people do when they love each other. They work through issues that have the potential to tear them apart.\n\nThen, every time she lies, and there is no one else in the room, give her that look. I know you have one. That look that says, Honey, do we need to talk about this. After a few times, she will respond, straighten up and tell the truth. You may even go through a phase when you might share a chuckle about it. It will take a while, but YOU can turn this around. If you don't, no one else cares enough about her to do it. It remains to be seen if you will stay together but if you help her through this, she will be in dept to you for the rest of your life and you will feel beter about any decesion you make.\n\nGood Luck.
355737
Why would you even need to ask? If you caught him and you know he lied about it, then it should be obvious what you should do, unless you want to stay with a lying cheat that you will not be able to trust. Honesty and trust are the basis of any good relationship and he destroyed them both. Don't you think you deserve a lot better than him? I sure do!\n\nS.S.
539656
My Husband never cheated, but if a husband was going to cheat I'd rather know. If its over its over,he should be honest enough to tell you.Two things to be done after that , either forgive him and NEVER bring it up again. Anyone can make a mistake once, only a fool does it twice.And personally I would not stay married to a fool.
553673
I am very sorry for your current situation. It has to hurt knowing that the person you love most in this world has betrayed your trust. My advice is to go to a marriage counselor. They can help you get through this difficult time, and maybe they will be able to find the underlying cause of his betrayal. After all cheating isn't the problem, it's merely a symptom that something else in the relationship is wrong. If you have been together for five years you obviously love eachother enough to try to get through this. Best of luck, you'll be in my prayers.
80303
If you knew he was cheating before you got married, more than likely he's cheated or is wanting to cheat since you've been married. This was not a secret that was kept from you and you knew what you were getting into before you got married. Do this, ask yourself these questions: Have you found any evidence that shows he has cheated or is wanting to cheat? Have you confronted him about it and have you shared your feelings with him about this? Is this relationship with this person really that important to you? If any of the above answers give you that "sick to your stomach / queezee" feeling, then you might want to reconsider your marriage with this person. You shouldn't have to have these bad feelings everyday,especially if this person is supose to be your best friend and soulmate. If you are ok with it and can work things out and be happy,then YES, forgive and forget. Everyone should get a second chance.Good luck and take care.
255395
I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
154557
what do you mean by "you are not satisfied"? If you have doubts about getting married , then postpone it and talk with your girl. If you are having concerns whether your fiancee is the right woman for you i would say thats a major issue and you definitively discover which are your feelings and what makes you really happy. Good luck