I have a 14yrsold stepdaughter sometimes says she hates me when i have not done any thing to her.what shoulddo
546280
Welcome to puberty and life with a teenager...particularly one with a stepfather. Just be as good a parent as you can be and talk with her when she will allow conversation. In the meantime try to figure out if she reacts the way she does due to some action she feels is unjust. Discipline without a relationship never works. If she is disrupting your family life constantly you and her mom need to find out why and try to correct this even if it is with a counselor.
49495
Stepmom or mom? \n Why would she yell at you JUST to get you in trouble? Need a few details. \nWho is she try to get you in trouble with?\nI don't think any normal person would just yell at you so you would get in trouble. Does she have a Mental problem?
468693
I'd say that the best thing to do is sit down all together and try to hash this thing out.  I went through a period of really not liking my stepdad when my mom got remarried, so its a normal reaction, particularly if she was close to her mom.  But the answer is no, do not divorce your husband immediately.  The best thing to do is to try and and figure out what you can do in order to make life at least tolerable for all three of you.  I realize that yes, step-children can be a pain, i know, i was one of them, but really, its possible to work it out.  You just need to sit down between the two of them and figure it out.  And if your step-daughter refuses to engage, just acknowledge how she feels, but tell her that you're not planning on going anywhere, so it would be best for both of you to make this work.
844139
Basically you didnt do anything to her or said anything to her that would offend her so talk to her see how she feels and y is she acting that way Best of Luck
853076
I'm sorry to hear this. Your daughter should not treat you this way. I believe she is blinded by her feelings for her husband that's why she is one sided. \n\nShe knows deep inside her where she stands and how her husband feels and she knows it is wrong ! but she would rather defend her husband rather than her own mother because of her "blind one sided love". \n\nYour daughter loves you but she sucks... ( I'm sorry ) she doesn't know how hurt a mother feels when feeling abandoned by her own child.. don't worry because your dauther will feel it if her own dauther will do it to her. \n\nI'll pray that God will give you enough courage to hold on to love your daugther despite what she had done and i hope she will realised that what is she doing is wrong.
1018520
She must be a psycho just like my stepmom, maybe she just despises you, and probably for absolutely no reason, and doesn't want her kids to get close to you. Now that you guys live so close, it would be really easy for them to come over a lot, and maybe she is affraid of the kids liking you more.  Fricken people do really wierd stuff and usually for no reason!!!!! If you haven't already, try calling her or going down to the house and asking her what the problem is. Good Luck!!
189374
Ask her - if you don't mind spending the rest of the day being shouted at for absolutely no reason.  \nLook at it this way- if she's mad at you and you don't realise or understand what you've done then you've got no chance.  \nBuy her something shiny.
1103639
How about.\n\n''It's a shame that you really hate me as I really enjoy spending time with you and you are a really nice girl. i would like to get to know you better''\n\nThe fact that she is saying she hates could be lots of different reasons all meaning that she doesn't hate you:\n\nPerhaps your with someone, or so she thinks\nShe got it on with your bro\nYour bro has told her stories about you\nYou live too far away.\n\nAll silly things.
766613
When I became a stepmother, (many moons ago) I had the same problem.  The youngest actually liked me quite a bit, cause she wasnt old enough to understand the breakup of her parents, but the oldest who was 12, he knew.  He didnt necessarily blame me, as I came much later, after the breakup.  However he didnt really like me either.  One day, the school called cause he had gotten into trouble.  I went instead of his dad (or mom) neither of them knew.  Then I handled the situation on my own without "ratting" on him.  From that point on, he liked me.  I had been "on his side" and that meant alot to him.  An opportunity such as this may just come to you if you watch for it.  Every little bit counts in a step situation.  I wish you lots of love and fun in your new family :)
626469
Unless you deliberately did something to deserve this treatment, you don't need to do anything. Give her some time and space to cool off.  Some people have passionate personalities, and the worst thing you can do is smother or corner them when they are agitated.  Just let her be herself and if she has any sense whatsoever, she will appreciate you all the more for it.
697982
Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)
662390
well. I'm usually hard on my little sisters. It's because I want the best for them. I want them to do better than they think they can. I don't know what your situation is, but your best option is to talk to her about it. If she's older, she'll comply. Tell her that you'd like to have a civil and professional conversation at the dinner table with her. You may want to have your parents there just as witnesses. Nothing more.\n\nTalk to her, and find out why she is being so mean, and find a mutual solution.
824129
i don't even know how to answer this... but thats not how life happened, so forget about it, apologize and move on... you'll probably do something to upset her again, your a kid, it happens.
560705
Your step daughter may need some counseling to help with the grief of her mother.  You should always let her cry, etc.  Don't take any possessions of her mother away.  She needs to see them and be able to cope and when she is ready she will let you know when its okay to put such things away.  Let her have an article of clothing that smells like her mom so she can remember...losing a mom at her young age is hard for her deal with it.  remember when she lashes out on you its not your fault she is only trying to express her pain and anguish.  Tell her you may not be her mother but you want to be able to help her during this trialsome time.
1054
Your sister doesn't hate you, you probably just irritate the crap out of her, which is entirely natural and common. If you move up to her grade, give her a lot of space and pretend like she's not there, don't worry about it and enjoy everything you can, focus on the good. If she pokes at you and causes problems, tell someone, don't do it back, and go back to ignoring her and going on with life. She'll probably get to a point where she sees being mean doesn't work, and years in the future you'll probably get along just fine.
940483
She sounds rotten inside. I would go the extra mile and ask her to step outside for a moment. I would then say to her "I don't know what I have done to make you not like me but I would appreciate it if you would explain it to me" if you don't get any answer then say "I am trying to understand your position here but now I know your just an unhappy person and I will still be polite to you regardless of how you treat me". Doing this puts you on the high road above her, she knows your not going to play the game and leave it at that. I do think your husband should of done something before now, maybe she is unstable and needs medical help. If you can't do this then wait and sucker punch her as she enters a room. lol not really.
429009
She is saying things that have the potential to be emotionally hurtful to her child, but she may not be doing this intentionally to abuse you. For her to say something as hurtful as 'retard', then she is probably lashing out at you as a means of coping with her own insecurities. Bullies normally say things to make you seem smaller and they bigger, and they normally pick on the things that bother them about themselves. This may apply here. To call you a 'crybaby' she may be doing the same as above, or she genuinely may feel that by saying something so shocking she will be helping you by making you a stronger person.\nAnother thing to consider is, why don't you act your age? Is it because you've had some bad things happen in your life, and this is your way of dealing with it? Because she may be blaming herself for this, and that may be why she says nasty things like that.