My friend says he has "low self esteem" how dangerous is this to him? i am the only person he confides in why?
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He probably confides in you because you are the only person he feels comfortable enough to do so with. He trusts you. I understand though, that he is bringing you down, causing you excess worry. Like you mentioned, he needs to speak with someone professional. There's nothing wrong with doing so. It sounds like he may have depression which will affect ones self-esteem. If you really do care for your friend help direct him to get some help. Let him know that he worries you and that mentally, you can't take the emotional blackmail anymore. Let him know though, that you do care about him and want to see him get some help to make himself feel better. You'd be the greatest friend ever to see him through this if at all possible and help him to get a "fresh" start again. Be upfront, honest and considerate with him...hopefully he will take your advice and get himself to feeling much better soon. Good luck to you!!
837983
Most likely yes.\n\nGuys tend to be needy and their self esteem is based on feedback from others and not their own self respect.\n\nDon't beat yourself up.  It's NOT you.
391395
insecurity is wrong with this individual! they use this 'perfect thing' as a cover up to hide their insecurities. NOBOBY in this world is perfect, we all have flaws! it's just some people like to believe they are!
304094
I think people with low self esteem blame entertainment on their actions. They may have or get ideas to edge them on with their actions. Those are really lonely people and they are either mentally unstable, or they crave attention. And what's getting more attention now days than any other form of moral principals? Negativity. Maybe their personalities can't distinguish the difference between a false sense of reality and reality. Keep in mind, the whole world is suffering, so all we can do is pray for them.\nThe Graphologist
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I know I am not always that realistic about my self image. I do believe that when we are on our own though, we really do know whether were full of it or good or bad looking etc. If you know deep down that you are a good person (only you really knows) then continue on as usual. Otherwise if you want, try to change a little. I have some friends that we agree to disagree. In other words, we realize there is no compromise but we want to remain friends.
663377
He's probably just not who/what he says he is. Or he has really low self esteem and no real life friends, and therefore can't handle being rejected based on his appearance. It is entirely possible that he has romantic delusions about you and doesn't want to risk losing that.
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you mean to tell me that for 1 1/2 years he never complimented you?and your still with this guy? whatever! do ya know if he even likes himself? low self esteem? there definitly is a problem here and bound to become a major issue, do you know if this guy has any love for himself to begin with? because you can't expect him to show you love if he dont love himself, you can always assure him that you are not like those he had to grow up with, that you see something in him that no body in his family does, and that you wont blame him when things go wrong, and ask him to  drop his gaurd and let you in,  tell him you not going to hurt him that you just want to help begin the healing process, teach him that if he looks past all those previous negative judgements, he will find some one that he never knew existed, some one I'm sure he'd like, just understand that those who  not by shoice had to  grow up in that type of atmosphere, will  only know rejection and to feel like they could never be nothing. he should start by feeling lucky that he's got you!  Good luck to you both!
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He has a low self-esteem, He probobly had people make fun of him earlyer in his life for whatever reason/reasons but whatever reason he has a hard time of seeing himself as atractive at all. (I also think that, so I know how it is) He understands and really knows deep down you are being honest with him, He wants to beleve if fully, but still, he rembers the wounds from the past that tell him that he is not and hes lacking and he thinks your just trying to be nice to him.\nIts a vicious cycle. and it sucks, Im getting thrugh it slowly, but thats only beacuse I have to make myself take complements and gifts when there given and see myself as a someone, beacuse God dosent make nobodies.\nHope he gets through it, its really tough.
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I think he is afraid of the reaction other people would have if he told you that. Some people really do talk when they hear about relationships. Summing it all up; can it be fear?
219689
be attentive, tell her every day that she's beautiful, but mean it! if she has self esteem issues you should tell her that by putting herself down she is insulting you as you think she's fab and love her (i'm guessing) she wouldn't let anyone say that you were ugly etc etc so why should she be allowed to do it to herself?
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He sounds like he may be battling depression.  It is a very real disease, but quite treatable.  Talk to him and tell him what you are seeing and suggest he get help.  If he is younger, under adult age, talk to your parents, or his parents, or a teacher, with your concerns to see if someone can help you get him to help himself.  If he is thinking thoughts of hurting himself, then this is all the more urgent.  If you really care about your friend, you will take action on this.  Even if he ends up not liking you for it, at least for awhile, you can be happy in the fact that you may save his life.\n\nGood luck
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you're not in love with him your co-dependant upon him.yes it's fatal. if you give someone that kind of control over your life. change psyches. This person obviously isn't doing anything for your self esteem issues.
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lack of self esteem  such a poor man
356113
There's a whole world out there, you and your friend don't need the trouble this guy could/will cause.  His behavior is truer than his words.  Treat yourself better than that and get a new boyfriend who is really sincere.
1142483
whats 'normal' ?if your friend is not doing something to harm their self just be there for them.there probably are plenty of people pointing their crooked little fingers and talking about this person.please don't follow the crowd.let your friend know it bothers you , but you will still remain there friend. (and they are not hurting any1 else....)
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Low self esteem comes from exaggerating the importance of your weaknesses and minimizing the importance of your strengths.  The way to overcome it is to reverse this process.\n\nPeople have different skills, abilities, characteristics, and it is not uncommon for someone to consider the area in which they are most lacking to be the most important.  Thus, a pretty girl says looks are not important, but brains are; a smart girl says looks are more important.\n\nThe fact is, you must play to your strengths, and develop them.  Look around at the people you admire:  what are the reasons you admire them?  Don't you think other people can admire you for what you are, and not for those areas in which you are found wanting?\n\nAll my life, I have been told that it comes down to money, looks and brains; I failed to consider other factors, such as integrity, courage, good manners, good judgment.  I was below average in money and looks, and so discounted the extent to which I was above average in intelligence, as well as the importance of intelligence in other people's eyes.  This is especially a problem because envy cannot be recognized lest a person seem vain.  My beautiful friend cannot, with good manners, admit to others that she is very beautiful, so she does not see that she must admit it to herself.  \n\nLook for your strengths, develop them.  Look for situations where those strengths are most important, and pursue them.\n\nGood luck!
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i can tell you that hes an idiot. i think he judged you by how you look rather than get to know you, the real you. i think he acted the way he did cause he didnt want to be outcast by his friends and to be taunted by other peers. people now hold their reputations up high, ego maniacs. just keep your head up and dont let anyone put you down. there are much better people out there so just forget about that dude. good luck and take care!