How do you keep a girl you just met from picking up the vibes that you're still wounded from your ex?
546595
DON'T DATE. iT IS UNKIND. GET OVER YOUR EX FIRST
1024873
try to talk to her/him as much as possible keep in touch with her/him\nlet them know you miss 'em
39094
The question, is not how to, but why.  Think about it.  She's in a relationship, and she meets a charming new guy.  A guy who sweeps her off of her feet,a "grass-is-greener" kinda deal(ahem, that's you, ahem)and she leaves her man for you.  What do you think she's gonna do the SECOND you BORE/ANNOY/TICK HER OFF??!??  That's right.  She's gonna lay down and luxuriate in some REALLY GREEN grass.  Dude, really.  Girls that you can TAKE, you don't want.  Believe me.  Chalk this up to a lesson learned, and keep on lookin.  Ex-girl to the next girl, that's what i says.
144523
i can tell u im no expert in this area but i have some advice.try 2 bring up neutral topics(ur just meeting and u dont wanna spook him)never bring up your ex.u'll damage the relationship be4 it even starts.bottom line be friendly,natural and a little flirty.u want 2 get the message across that u wanna be more than friends.
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
859624
It's called a rebound affect.  Yes, it's nice to find someone else to take your mind off of the ex but be careful you don't treat him as the substitute boyfriend.  See him as an indivdual person.  Work on letting go of the ex.  This will take some time.
314867
By being as sweet and gentle as you can when you break this relation, maybe even buy her some nice gift to remember you with, and invite her for dinner or maybe a quick cup of coffee, and give her a copy of your photographes together with a ncie dedication, and telling her that the time you've spent with her was remarkable, that itwas a previllage to know her, and that you wish her a wonderfull time with a person who really deserves her.\n\nBelive me, that would make any girl feel real bad and very very guilty. She woould spend a lot of time pondering her great loss, and she would remember you each and everytime her new bf acts like and idiot and wonder if she was a fool to quit on a real gentle man like you:)\n\nOn the other hand, if you act rough or dumb or nasty she would just thank god she got rid of you and would be happy ever after!
655240
Your relieved that there is finally closure on a bad situation. but, also scared about getting too close to someone too fast because your afraid of getting yourself into the same situation again. Just try and trust and believe in people until otherwise proven that didnt deserve that trust. remember that person is not your ex and you just need to take it slow and try to relax. Best wishes and best of luck in your search for happiness.
141921
Have you gone out with many girls since your separation?  If not, then you are probably moving too fast, thinking too far in advance.  Slow it down.  Stay with the girl you like, but BE SURE TO GIVE HER TIME TO HERSELF.  That means a day or 2 apart at a time (phone is OK).  Otherwise you will feel "clingy" to her and all women hate needy/clingy guys, which could cause her to dump you.  \n\nYou have to control your emotions yourself.  That sounds funny, but it's true.  You have to think about how you feel, how your life is, factor in the good and bad possibilities of what could happen based on your actions, then choose what you feel are the best actions.  Control your emotions or you will lose her.\n\nI've been separated from my ex for 16 months, officially divorced for 6.  I've felt what you're feeling.  I've been back in the dating scene.  Take it slow.
489305
tell her indirectly that you are not up for commitment right now and that if you do get commmited these are the criterias you are looking for (obviously none of the criterias will match her!) dont just come out and tell her you dont feel for her directly because that hurts a lot. keep your space from her and ignore her calls or stop meeting her if you are, she will get the message in time.
258616
be patient and dont push her too hard\njust be there for her (even only via email)\nstop telling her how you feel for now, it may be quite irritating for someone's out of a bad relationship\ntell her your feeling once again when she's opened up a bit\n\nhope she'll loosened up =)
415903
don't ruin your new relation, u just miss ur ex it's totally normal, but let go the past and give that new guy a fair chance to make u happy.\nu had trust issues with ur ex that's irreversible, move ahead. good luck and be happy
185973
Get EVERYTHING you own that reminds you of them and put it in a box. Give that box to friend and have them stash it somewhere you won't have access to it. Change your sheets, get a new haircut (something dramatic, this helps alot btw), get a differrent hobby, don't talk to them for a few years, none of this "we can still be friends bs" cause you won't want to hear about who they're dating, go on dates with other people, get into shape (like way better than you are now, with the expectation that you'll run into your ex again and will be able to say "see what you lost, now you can't have me anymore"), spend a lot of time with your friends, try to learn more about who YOU are without that person in your life, change whatever you don't like about yourself, cut loose of any ties to that person. In 5 years, give them a call (if you are over them) and see what they are up to, maybe then you can be friends.
1001661
SIt her down and talk to her. Let her know that you didn't try to talk to her ex. make her belive. tell her you would never be that low-down of a person.Tell her you can tell that has caused her to distrust you but you really don't want to get with her boyfriend and explain that you would never hurt her
525496
You can't not hurt her feelings because you are telling her you don't want to be with her anymore.  But I recommend not going into a lot of detail about why you don't want to be with her.  Give her a few compliments so she feels good about herself but not so many that she has hope of getting back together.  Remember to use a lot of "I feel that..." not "You are such a...".  Good luck!
1175577
Honey, please don't tear yourself up.  Remember, that you are a valued person, your have a life that can be beautiful. Don't let her use you, respect yourself, where is your self-esteem? Next time she calls, be polite and considerate, but let her know that you have your own life and she isn't in it.  Politely tell her to find another ex to cry to.You my friend are worth so much more than to be used as a sounding board. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and find someone who appreciate you for you . Please, do this for yourself.  I found someone I adore and am adore back, we would nerve be disrespectful of each other as she is to you.  Take a long hard look at yourself, you are one hell of a women. Someone out there is dying to meet you.
299537
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you