Does anyone have any intelligent solutions or ways to teach parents how to, uh, PARENT?
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Go to school and get a license to reproduce and multiply. No, seriously, I am 29 years old and have 2 kids and it is still hard at my age. I am the oldest of 4 kids and the oldest of 29 cousins. I grew up with kids everywhere and I still feel in above my head at times. Kids are having kids because they are seeing sex as a substitute for love when what they need is love, education and support from their parents or guardians. I think all schools should have a required set of courses on parenting and budgeting. I know there are some that do and I am not saying that it will solve all the world's problems, but this Home Econ. crap I took in school 12 years ago doesn't cut it. They need to realize that things are happening a lot younger now and the education needs to be started earlier and needs to be stepped up a few notches. We are required to have so many credits in English and Math and all that, but what about real life skills??? The schools that exist to help pregnant teen mothers are great, but what about the fathers (if they are involved)? They send these soon to be mothers off to another place and the guys continue ina  regular educational environment. It takes two, so everybody needs to be educated. It's sad to watch a parent slap their kid around or yell at them or ignore them. Kids are so smart and they will go thru life thinking that the way their parents act is the way they should act. It will just keep going until everybody in the world is cruel and hateful. Kids are an amazing joy and blessing and they do not deserve to be brought into a world where they can't be cared for properly. I have to stop, or else I can go on for hours.
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tell the children that they have to bring their exam papers signed by the parents from home. also you can have pta meetings twice a month. also encourage a suggessition box.\n\n2)tell the parent that what you are teaching is relevant to the syllabus and it will be helpful in the long run. explain to them that it may seem unnecessary now but it is vital to the lesson.
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talk to an adult you trust...they may have ideas
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It sounds like moms got your life all planned out all nice and neat for you doesn't it? I really hate to say it, but I am. This is like so totally typical of concerned parents, myself as well. What I have learned thus far from parenting teenagers is:\n\n1.) Don't sweat the small stuff. Meaning, it's their room and if they want to live in a pig sty, WHO CARES!!! If they can't find their favorite flip-flops because there is 8 ft. of clothes and crap on the floor, they have no one to blame but themselves! And us as parents are free of accepting the blame.\n\n2.) Let your kids pick their own careers. My mom wanted me to be a nurse to. Oh my God, did she want me to be a nurse! Me? If I saw blood I barfed. Not a good quality to possess if you have to work in the ER. Things would go from bad to worse in a matter of minutes, if I had a career such as that. I wanted to own a curiosity shop at the end of town. Nothing glamorise, just something to call mine. KEY POINT PARENTS: You can lead the horse to water, but you can't make them drink.\n\n3.) Don't push money over love. That just makes my skin crawl. Being financially responsible to pay for your bills, and have enough left over to eat, drive, play a little. What's wrong with that? It looks to me, that the people I see swimming in cash are lacking in a very vital organ. A FUNCTIONING BRAIN. I would much rather live in a card board box behind a gas station, then sponge off my parents investments and carry a chiuawa under my arm.\n\n4.) Ease up on the curfews, folks. That is UNLESS your teen has proved that they cannot be trusted. Then by all means, tug on the reigns till they get the message that when you say 11pm, you mean 11:00pm standard time, not 11:00am the next day or central time or in Pakistan. Whatever the excuse may be, and by golly, they can come up with some doosies. As long as their homeworks done, they have been in good standings with the family and they haven't broke too many laws, whynot bump up their stay out time? If it's their safety your worried about, send a cell phone with them. You may have a couple calls on there that you wern't expecting, but oh well. At least you can find them at all times. \n\nWell, my dear, share this with your mom and keep an open mind. All in all, she is your mom and it sounds like she cares about you a whole lot. Your very lucky....(yea, yea, yea I know what your thinking!) But us parents do strange funky old fashioned stuff because we care about you little brats. We just want to raise you to the point where you can function in society without drooling down your fronts, and then you on your own.........
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The above respondant has great ideans.\nBe at the child's eye level when giving directions or just talking with child.  Put away things that you would have to say "no " about.  Have great manipulative materials:  cool toys, of course--but also play doh, crayons, markers, finger paints. . . not all at once! but available.  Toys to stack like blocks.  Little kids need to be shown how to do it.  Sit on the floor and show them, play with them.  Not just blocks, anything.\n\nPut a sheet over a table and play tent , and take a flashlight in there!  Give them cups and empty bottles (plastic) and a colander (strainer) in the bathtub.  Put food coloring, just a few drops, in the bathwater.\nLet them help cook, measure; talk about what you're making. . . grow something, in a pot or in the yard. . . \ntake care of pets together; go on walks, and read read read.\nLimit tv and video games, and let whatever they watch be age appropriate. . . have fun. think about what's fun and do it with them.  Dance crazy, sleep in the backyard together, buy a sandbox, or put some sand in a little rubbermaid container and play with in on the front porch. Answer questions when your kids ask, about rainbows or God or where babies come from. . . remember what it felt like to be a child. . .
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Prepare a daily routine list by asking opinion of your mom and dad to arrange the time. write it on a paper,Stick it where frequently visible to you. make sure you have arranged all your daily deeds. Follow the mentioned procedures every day. Tell your mom or dad whom you afraid off, to remind you about your routine.\nFor any thing you desired, make a target, arrange it in your routine and try to conquer it. You will Succeed.
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Go to Yahoo! Groups and search around.  If there isn't one created, create your own...I know plenty of people who are adults still living with their parents...
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Time out...its the best system..\n\nI dont believe in spanking.\n\nBuy a comfy little chair that they have to go in in the corner. Buy a blue and green one for each kid. \n\nIf they get up...keep making them sit back down. \nIts the best way with out getting physical.\n\nI got this from Nanny 911!\n\n(This is the reason Nanny 911 comes on right after Wife Swap!)
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1. A good place to begin is to document the barriers to parent involvement created by such factors as family structures (dual career, single parent, teenage parent) and family work schedules (full-time, job sharing, flex-time). This can be accomplished through parent-teacher conferences, telephone calls, or a short questionnaire.\n\n2. Documentation of the barriers to parent participation can be used to develop policies that are likely to work with the parent community. For example, more options may be needed as to when parent-teacher conferences are held (before, during, and after school), how they are held (face-to-face, by telephone, by computer, in small groups), or where they are held (at the school, in the home, at a neighborhood center, or at the parent's place of employment).\n\nCreate a comfortable conference environment in which parents feel free to share information, ask questions, and make recommendations. Allowing parents to begin the conference by asking their own questions and expressing their own concerns is one way to convey respect for their input. Here are some other ways to share responsibility with parents during the conference:\n\nSchedule an adequate amount of time for the conference so that the parent does not feel rushed.\n\nIf the conference is held at the school, point out to the parent the projects that involved his or her child.\n\nBegin and end the conference by noting something positive about the child. \n\nAsk open-ended questions ("How do you help your child with her shyness?") instead of "yes" or "no" questions ("Do you help your child with her shyness?"). \n\nCommunicate in a way that matches, yet shows respect for, the parent's background. Be careful not to make assumptions about a parent's level of knowledge or understanding, and avoid talking down to parents.\n\nSend nonverbal messages of respect and interest. Sit facing the parent and maintain good eye-contact. Put aside paperwork and postpone taking notes until after the conference has ended.\n\nInstead of offering advice, ask the parent to share feelings and suggestions for addressing an issue. Then offer your own input as a basis for negotiation. \n\nMore information Here:\n\nhttp://www.kidsource.com/kidsource/content/parent.participation.html\n\nThis site has some really terrific ideas also:\n\nhttp://www.teachervision.fen.com/parent-teacher-conferences/teaching-methods/3854.html
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A good ole butt whoopin' straightened me out when I was growing up, but now they call it abuse.  I think being firm and following through with discipline is one thing that parents should do.
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try contactong pop warner, I doubt they will tell you because you seem to be a an overzealous parent!
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You know who the responsible parent is....YOU! Just continue being what you are, and the problem is solved. Kids are smart, and they KNOW! They want to live where there is stability, security, and love! You give them all that, so you have nothing to be concerned about! Relax!!
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Gee, my mom is 80 or so, and I have similar problems. The only thing that has helped me is reading the Crankshaft Cartoon in the newspaper. Seeing that the problem is not unique to my circumstance has enabled me to find some humor in it. \n\nI think perhaps we can learnhow to be patient and not become hateful or angry by having to deal with these situations. I purpose in my heart not to expect my mom to do what I consider logical, or best for her, and condition myself to drop down into the "peace that passes understanding" whenever she refuses to keep track of her holdings. Sometimes it doesn't work, but I am worse off when I allow myself to get upset. \n\nI have started to clean up my own affairs so that I don't do this to my own son as I age. Why, just a few weeks ago, I actually gave away 4 books! (lol) It seems really difficult to fight the process of becoming my mom.
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Is there any neutral person you can talk to? Perhaps a trusted relative? Otherwise, if your parents are willing, perhaps they will let you talk to a counselor. A good counselor will act as your advocate and listen to you without judging you. He or she will also help you to put things in perspective.\n\nIf those are not possibilities, keeping a journal may help. Also, staying active with outside interests and activities can help to keep you away from the turmoil at home and give you something else to think about and care about.\n\nGood luck! I know how difficult it can be when parents fight. Sadly, they don't always realize just how much it affects their children.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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Being open with your parents is the best thing. Sit down and talk to your mom or dad.  Tell her you love her and you would like to talk things out. When she tells you things that she expects out of you, try to be understanding and help her. If your mom is sensible, she will come around. Don't talk back to your parents in a disrespectable tone since that will only make things worse. It will take a great deal of control on your part to sit and listen and when you talk, don't get emotional and keep your head. Talking to them when everyone is calm is the best thing. Level heads come to an understanding. Being a teen is hard, and being an adult is even harder. Trust me on this one. With age come a great deal of responsibility. Show your parents your maturity by talking to them. Its ok to stick up for yourself but do it in a mature way.\nDon't forget, things always change, hopefully, by being open with them, it will be better for you!!
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If you use both in a wobble way, that will really confuse them. Many parents don't react in a same way to the same things, but just according to their actual turn of mind  and that's what makes children very confused. Prove that you love them and will always love them, ALTHOUGH you ask for some discipline in some situations. For example: "If you want to go to a football match tomorrow with me (LOVE), you have to finish your homework on time (DISCIPLINE)". Say it in an assertive way and be rigorous. make him/her learn about the consequences of his/her behavior. But, KEEP YOUR PROMISES, DON'T DISAPPOINT HIM/HER and make him/her believe you.
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I've been through this when I provided daycare from my home. I gave copies of my policy to each parent and also printed out a schedule, and had good references. I had an open door policy for the parents to visit anytime---and encouraged them to do so. I think it's great to have the parents visit, that helps build trust. It's normal for the parents to be concerned, you should be more worried about the parents who aren't concerned. Let the mom hang out awhile, it won't take her long before she realizes her child will be just fine!\nGood luck!