what do you do with a child that isn't afraid of autourity?
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i advocate spanking, i was spanked and turned out just fine and would have never in my wildest dreams thought of treating my parents the way young kids today treat theirs.
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Never ask yes or no questions.  Let your son know that when he is ready to talk, you will be there.  I liked an idea that someone else had, play a game with him. Sometimes kids open up when you are not wanting answers from them.
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1. PATIENCE\n2. Repetition\n3. Routine\n4. Talk to them, not at them.\n5. Make eye contact.\n6. Reward good behavior instead of disciplining bad behavior.\n7. Sign language.\n8. Learn about Sensory Issues. A good book is The Out of Sync Child. Sensory issues are one of the biggest problems in autstic children.\n9. Be consistent.\n10. LOVE THEM.
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it's pretty hard to know what the problem is, based on the vagueness of your question. my first reaction is that you've lost touch with your son, which means you've gotten out of the habit of talking to him in a conversational way. and exactly what are you looking for in saying "normal"? does that mean he's not what you want him to be? because most kids won't be at various times. \n\npre-teens are, as a part of normal growing up, becoming more independent and trying on different personas in order to find out where they fit in the world. it is perfectly normal for that to be pretty baffling for adult observers. the main thing is to stay (become?) accessible and loving (no matter what). if your child is a stranger to you, you've got some serious work to do. (and it ought to be a Big Priority.)
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Don't come on he's a baby let him enjoy his childhood and not be working, it's not good for the child! Stop thinking about yourself and the money and think about the child!
945615
Whatever is going on in the homes is the problem so it's kind of hard to undo all of that.  You have to lay down your ground rules in your classroom & stick to it.  Consistency is very important with children of this age - so if you threaten consequences of some sort, follow through.  Be stern but loving - a lot of these kids do not experience love & attention at home & act out negatively in order to gain attention.  Pray for God to give you the strength each day to be patient & loving.  Pray for the kids & their families too.  God knows they need it!
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Gradually increase the time that you allow him to cry before you pick him up.  Don't respond to his crying by taking him from other people.  He needs to learn that he can trust his father and others that you trust.\n\nYour baby feels insecure around other people because of how you're probably reacting to his crying. That insecurity is "justified" by how you react.  \n\nIt's similar to why children have separation anxiety. . .they've never learned that if mommy leaves she'll also come back.
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Young kids are really concerned about the basics like what will happen to them. How will the practical things in life change for them....home school, friends, being loved. Next they want to know what will happen to you. Give them honest talk about what you believe. If you have not engaged in talks about faith, then doing a "some people think this. and some people think that" talk gives them a variety of things to chose from to find the one that comforts them the most. When they ask what you think, tell them. It is an opportunity to model to your children loving parenting in the preparations you make for their security, and also how you meet your death will be the greatest lesson they may ever learn. Fear of death is one that all humanity struggles with. Those who have no fear, live life most fully I think.  I recommend levity in the heaviest places. I especially recommend being a part of life until the moment you are not.
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Watch them very closely for behavioral and personality changes, monitor close relationships they may have on a regular basis with "everyone". These days, nobody can be trusted, it happens alot within the family or babysitters. Take them for a check-up with family physician, and you may consider a child-psychologist depending on the age of a child. I had a niece that at three was being molested and became a split-personality by the age of 5. A child psychologist hypnotized her and we got to the "root" of the problem at that point. They also use dolls with young children. I am also a psychology major so if there is a concern, please follow up on it, it can destroy a child and haunt them through adulthood.
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i have been there and done that! first children will test you to see what they can get away with, do not let her do this! spend special time with only her, just have a daddy -daughter day, then tell her that mommy needs that kind of special time too, tell her there are things mom and dad talk about that she would not understand and that she is not to behave like this.when talking try and include her as much as you can, but you need to let her see you will not except this, she should grow out of it soon, but she  needs to know mom is not her equal, and that you love them diffrently, GOOD LUCK
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kid? which kid?\nLike all kids? Or just like one?\nPatience is the key.\nDon't let it get under your skin\nKids are kids \nand it just a phase\nIgnore it if possible\nTake a deep breath\nand relax
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What you see on the surface isn't always what's really happening behind closed doors.  Everyone has problems, they just might not show it.\n\nStop looking at what others have and start seeing what you've got.  Put your energy and your effort into your child.
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When my children were young, I was told to keep them close to me early on and they'll be confident as they grow up. Sure enough it worked. My kids could go places and be comfortable with people while they grew up as they had been very close while learning to be independant.
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Your child is not the only one with problems like this.  Professional help is in order when the child's behavior is dangerous to them or others.  Do not take it lightly.  Your child needs a complete psychiatric evaluation to determine what the problem is, and what you can do for your child, and to protect your family.\n\nWhile I'm sure you love your child dearly, you may have make some serious decisions to ensure everyone's safety.  God be with you.  I pray He will guide you to the right specialists who will have positive, loving answers for you.  Amen.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
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Always approach with caution, and try to keep brain in charge of hormones, rather than the reverse.\n\nOh, and keep the hell away from my daughter.
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There are different computer programs.  Some capture every keystroke and will print out a log of all communications.  I agree that you need to communicate with your daughter.  I wouldn't say you are a horrible person, or a bad parent, but talking might help the situation.  I understand that there are some kids, that are so stubborn and head strong that they must make mistakes before they will listen.  Those mistakes can potentially be fatal.  Talking is the first step, but if that doesn't get through and you are genuinely worried about what she is doing and feel she is putting herself in danger, it seems like the responsible thing to do is first put the computer in an open space like a living room, and if that doesn't work, look into the programs.
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it takes some work, but its worth it. I explain to the kids that he was born different, and its hard for him to have a conversation, but he loves to play just like them. I keep my eye on the situation so if he or the other kids are getting frustrated I can step in and smooth things out. I have found that its better to let him play with kids just a little younger than him , they are usually closer to the same level. It helps to have them play with multiple use toys, like blocks, sandboxes, cars etc, rather than toys with specific uses that autistic kids may not want to do. Find a parent who is understanding too, kids pick up their attitudes to those different from themselves from their parents. IF you can find a support group you may find families with sibling without autism, and they will be used to socializing with autistic kids. Good luck.