I am happily married, but I can't stop thinking about this other guy. I love my husband! Any advice?
539547
Its just thoughts.  No harm.  Actions will harm you.
320446
well.. most of the times when we get attracted to another person.. inspite of being in a seemingly happy relationship..it's because we find something in that person.. or in our relationship with that person.. that strongly fills the invisible,subconcoius void in our own present relationship.. masny a times,being women we compromise in our relationships for the sake of our families,society and all that..so much so that we often forget what we wanted from our relationships.. till the time someone else comes into our lives... like a fresh breeze and we end up feeling that this is what we always wanted.so analyse your feelings and the reason why u feel u like this other guy.. if u can then try to bring it into your relationship.and see if this particular factor was responsible for u falling for this guy.. i say falling for this guy n not falling in love as it may just be infatuation.. u know even though u love a person it isn't possible to stop getting attracted.. point is where to draw the line.. remember it takes a second to break but ages to bulid.. especially where our relationships are concerned.. but if u still can't get over your feelings for this man.. then think aboutit.. as the problem may be in the relationship u have with your hubby right now.. in that case even if this guy goes.. u'll end up feeling the same for another guy who.. kind of fits into that void which i was talking about..\nand even if u do go for this guy leaving your hubby.. remember one thing..-NO RELATIONSHIP IS 100% SATISFACTORY at the end of the day something will be a lil amiss.. and in the same way something may be great too.. so just think about it.. carefully.. before u do anything.. so best of luck and may god help u in getting over this delimma.. and don't be overtly gulity.. remember we're human beings.. we're not perfect.. TAKE CARE!!
376044
I hope that you are very careful with what you are doing with this guy.  Remember that you are married and you may lack a certain thing in your marriage which will be better work out with your husband.  I understand that it is kind of nice to have someone interested in your despite you are married but why are you dragging him on?  Will you be happy to divorce your husband because this guy sweet talk to you?  Are you sure that you will have a better future with this man than your current husband.  I suggest that you spend more time with your husband and rediscover him then talking to this guy, unless you have no hope in your marriage!  Good Luck!
826500
Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
368337
IDKY But it seems i have the same problem right now. I can't get my boy friend out of my mind, and he too lives in a different state...LOL...Hmmm. imagine that. weird.
1093725
You need to realize that your not really falling in love with him but that you still have a crush on him and that your feelings are based upon the past and not on your current life.  He may be a wonderful guy but the reality of it is you really have no idea if you two could ever really be together and be happy together like you and your husband are.  The best way to deal with this is just to keep reminding yourself how lucky you are to have the life you do and stop focusing on what you can't/ don't have.
306746
First figure out what feelings these are you have and how strong.Second imagine yourself without the person who at one time (and probably still do)you loved with all your heart,(loved enough to make her your wife). If imagining her gone and with another man doesn't bother you, then I'd say "its over",but if it does BOTHER you-Then stay away from whatevers tempting you,and focus on yourself and your wife.
1164449
Everyone remembers the One. You got married to someone eals so im sure that you love him too. the heart is a crule thing it has no limmit on the amount of love it has. the heart always makes more. So yes it is verry easy to love two people. You have to decide if your marrige is worth keeping. If it is then dont worry about the strong feeling for the other man. It will be hard but it will get better.
660109
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
361335
i guess you better let go that person, even though you love him/her because he/she is already married and from that fact, you can't do anything about it. i guess that person is already happy with his/her married life life and i think it's just right not to spoil such relationship. Love really hurts, especially in your case (or in your question) but the best thing to do is be happy for that person and wish him/her the best. Move on and after a while you also find the one that is really meant for you or the one that will give back your love. That would be nicer than being "the-would-be-third-party" right?
138916
You probably will not be over him completely until you are involved with another man.  There is, as you know, a man-shaped space inside your . . . heart . . . that you need to fill.  Choose wisely this time, and you won't have to go through this again.
920163
My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
559426
I know what you mean! I am straight and always have been also, but this girl in my life is sooo awsome, I can't stop thinking of her!! We are both married and both have a family, but we have been talking lately about being together, and it is great!! Like, I don't want my husband any less, but I want her! It is wierd b/c I have never been this way for a girl ever! I think we are both just curious!
430851
That's great! I feel the same about married men.  Although i haven't been able to do it, I fantasize about it all the time.
1080717
You're married, but you're not dead. In other words, being married doesn't eliminate the ability to be attracted to other people. I think it's natural to feel confused, especially if marriage isn't what you expected. The new wears off rather quickly, doesn't it? It's up to you and your hubby to ''keep it real'' because passion tends to fade. If you don't maintain your passion for one another, you will grow bored (a.k.a. the ''comfort rut'') with eachother and will probably be tempted to step outside of your marital boundaries. There's nothing on the ''other side'' that you really want (remember what you hated about single life?)Chances are, you've forgotten about the pitfalls of being single. Marriage is a lot of work (but can also be great) and people have some crazy misconceptions about this kind of committment. For example, before getting married, I honestly believed that married people have sex all the time. I quickly discovered that I was wrong - and that a number of things can affect a couple's sex life. Work and stress are good mood killers, especially for men. \nShould you pursue this other man, what will happen when the new wears off? Will you pursue somebody else in hopes that it will be different? Being with another man will only confuse you, and though you may not realize it, you will also find yourself torn between these two men (unsure about how you really feel).  If you've lost the fire in your current relationship, it's probably because you and your husband haven't made an effort to keep that fire going. \n\nIf the other man is claiming, but isn't acting like he's into you, it's probably because of your marital status. With that in mind, he's  probably very reluctant to get involved with a married woman.
1129099
You're so not an idiot!  You love someone, plain and simple.  My husband and I broke up before we were married for two years and I never stopped loving him.  I knew that we were going to be together again, despite what everyone else told me.  Now, 6 years later, we are happily married.  Never stop loving that person, no matter what.  Even if they dont come back into your life, the love you feel, and the pride that comes from that can never be taken away from you.  You own those feelings...enjoy them!
246175
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Maybe you need to examine your marriage and figure out why you would even consider ruining your marriage for something that happened in your past? \n\nOr if you feel that this person is really your "soul mate" then life's short live it happy, and if this is what is going to make you life happier and more fullifield then do what your head not your heart thinks is right.