Best friend hates Girlfriend?
552292
because neither wants to give up their time with you for the other. Before your g f came along you had all the time in the world for your friend right?? now the G f has come along & you have to make time for her (which p!sses off your friend who is used to having all your time) so now you make time for the gf but still try to keep time for your friend & that in turn p!sses off your g f who thinks your time should be spent with her & not your friend.... gotta find a happy medium or it will end in tears... good luck!!! ha ha
195583
Sounds to me like a mixture of jealousy and being scared of losing her friend. The fact is that despite being your best friend, you have your own life to lead. Maybe you should sit her down and try and gently find out why she gets so bothered and reassure her that your friendship will always be there. Does she have boyfriends or has she been hurt in the past? Your success in love may be highlighting her own insecurities. Talking to her is definitely the best option. Good Luck.
540145
i think you should talk heart-to-heart with your friend why she has started disliking your boyfriend when she earlier liked him. MAY BE she herself had feelings about him and this is the way she is expressing them after you have got together with him. this is perfectly normal and anyone would react that way. i think you should jus leave things like that. i am sure she'll get over these feelings on her own. just give it time.
161545
First of all, you answered your own question, eleven years, you can't throw that away over your boyfriend. I look at this way, tell both of them how you feel. You don't like her dissing him, and you are going to be her friend regardless if he likes her or not. You just tell them both, they both are going to be in your life regardless of who likes it or not. If they care for you, they will arrange a way to deal with it. Your friend sounds like she cares, but sometimes she might need to tone down the dislike for your guy. Just be honest with both.
626541
yes. it's actually not a question on the guy's side but on the girls since girls are a lot sensitive compare to boys. rivalry between the close friend and the girlfriend will never be avoided. so why not try to be close friends with your girlfriend or fall for your best friend? :)
108747
Is your best friend male or female.\n\nIf it's a male and not gay, your boyfriend does not understand your realtionship with your male friend, you need to break it down for him. Make him feel less ensure about you relationship with him.\n\nIf your best friend is a female, he may sincerely not like her attitude of ways. Try to convince him that she does not mean to offend him. That is the way she is with every one unless she is seeing something that you don't. \nPlease tell him not to make you chose between a friend you have known for years and him who you like a lot.\n\nTell him you are only trying to make the two people that you really care about to be able to tolerate each other. \n\nDon't make it a habit of inviting your friend with you all the time. You will give your boyfriend the wrong impression.
418304
This always seems to happen. Best friends are best friends because they like the same things...including guys. She isn't doing it to hurt you, she can't help the way she feels. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. See if he has any friends that she may be interested in. If you have a strong, open relationship with your friend, maybe you could talk to her & find out her intentions, tell her how much he means to you & warn her what it could do to your friendship if she tries anything on with him. Don't be mean about it though, not unless she intends to steal him from you.
977611
If it's your best friend's girl friend, stay away from her.  If you don't care about your best friend, tell you best friend what you just told us.
1054521
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change the way his best friend feels - and the worst thing you could do is try to come between them.  \n\nI'm sure that she does have strong feelings for him because that's what happens when you are best friends with someone and you really care about him.  This doesn't mean that she's in love with him though.  Love requires giving and receiving and, if he is in a relationship with you, it's clear that he is not returning her feelings for him.  This has probably only magnified her "feelings" for him because we always want what we can't have.\n\nI would suggest continuing your relationship with him as normal.  It is probably quite painful for her to see the two of you together and she is probably scared that you will take his friendship away from her.  If you make her feel included and let them continue their friendship as they always have, she will realise you are not a threat and will respect your time with him in the same way.  \n\nJust keep in mind that he sees her as a friend and he always has.  Being in a relationship with you will not suddenly make him believe that he loves her.  If you trust him, don't get jealous and don't try to compete with her, he will appreciate you all the more and realise he would be silly to lose you.
1167514
YES.  My best friend of about 6 years once dated a girl I couldn't STAND.  (Being female myself, I thought my best friend deserved someone better than her.)  They eventually broke up, and all he could talk about for the next year and a half was how much she hurt him.  I was so tempted to tell him that I never liked her anyway, but I didn't, because I knew if I did, it would cause a rift in our friendship.  It's been awhile since they broke up, and he hasn't had anyone serious since, but I still feel better knowing that I've never said anything hurtful.
760207
Honestly, I think you're both wrong. \n\nUnless it's seriously inhibiting your friendship with her, I think that until she asks for your advice or starts complaining about the situations (which, I will admit are NOT healthy for her)... then there's nothing you can do about it and you really just have to make a decision whether to be there for her, not let it affect your friendship with her and butt out, or move on and no longer be her friend. \n\nShe also has absolutely NO right to pass judgement on your relationship. How you choose to be in a relationship is between you and your boyfriend... it has nothing to do with her.\n\nIt's great that you care about your friend and how her decisions affect her life in a negative manner, but she's pretty much stuck in her ways and until something seriously negative happens to her to change her mind or she grows up and realizes what she's doing is immature & that relationships are supposed to be EQUAL - not unbalanced EITHER way.
499050
I think you need to tell her. I think you should also make it very clear to her husband that he is in the wrong and you will not tolerate it. Your best friend maybe angry at you for a while, but it won't be toward you. It is the situation that she will be angry at at, but take it out on you. Hang in there with her....give her space....but never go to far and be there when she returns. She will need you then, especially if she told him where to get off!!!
827249
That is what is sounds like to me, so since you also care for her and you are breaking up with your girlfriend. I guess your best friend is now going to be your girlfriend. God bless****
395633
yea if u dont break up wit her then ur best friend would hate u, but there is a chance ur best friend might hate u for going out with his or her lil sister
191896
I went through this myself, and the best advise I can give you is to let it roll off your back.  If your friend who is/was your  best friend believes someone over you than she was never your best friend to begin with.  The other girl who is lying, sure it would be nice to call her out, show who she really is, but then again, your friendship with BF will never be the same anyway, now the trust is broken.  As hard as it may be you should just try to get past this betrayal and find another healthy friendship with someone else. Sometime when we are in relationship rather they be romantic, or just friendships, we discover one side has stronger feeling than the other.  Never sell yourself short.  You seem intelligent, I doubt you will have any trouble finding a new buddy!! Good luck to you!!!!
217476
No, my best friend is, just that, my best friend.  Her EX is, not fair game.\n\nI played this game before, lost out on both counts.  the ex, only wanted to get back at her, she wanted me to "date" him and see if he wanted her back..\nend of story, everyone hated me, for playing thier game!\n\nNO
90337
depending on how deep the friendship is or how big the secret is, i would give it time. I have been friends with this girl for 11 years. And we have been through a lot, secrets told, promises broken all the drama you could ever think of. But in the end it made us stronger. cant say that always works. if this friend is all together a negative person and you feel brought down by her [or him] ditch em and find a new best friend! but if this is something different and not your friend.. find out what is going on in that girls head!