I am having trouble calling my transgendered friend "she."  Any wisdom?
543153
This is normal to be experiencing this difficulty in a realtionship such as this, especially if you have known this person as male for many years. If you just met them, usually it's MUCH easier to call them by the proper pronouns- "she", "her", "hers", and so forth.\n\nMaybe some of the difficulty stems from that fear that your friend will "change" personality, also. Now, I know this is confusing, but the person you thought you knew was probably acting male using a ultra male persona- rough, butch, crude, mean, and so on. A persona is an artificial personality used to be something you're usually not. As your friend starts to find herself, she may act differently than you're used to- but now, she's being herself. Maybe if you got to know her for who she is, you will stop thinking of her as a male and more like a woman.\n\nAnd it takes practice, practice,practice- besides, it's just polite and shows respect for her.
3932
Make her comfortable and let her know that she can be herself, that she doesn't have to change to be someone she is not, for you.  Turn conversations in her direction and ask her basic questions that she won't feel weird about answering.  Most likely she will ask you the same question and then you will have the opprotunity to show her who you are too. Good Luck!
896063
maybe you could turn it around and approach it as saying to her, It would be so embarrassing to smell & have nobody tell me--If I ever stink, please tell me.  also, you could try putting deoderant on yourself while being with this friend & mentioning that you hope this helps keep you smelling fresh.  Just have a heart to heart girld talk.  Tell her about your experience with personal hygiene & what you do, then ask her what works best for her.  Maybe she just isn't taught personal hygiene in her home. Good Luck!
851208
Tell her you don't mind being friends with her, but you have absolutely no intentions of being involved sexually with the opposite sex.  Let her know you don't swing that way and her actions are starting to make you feel uncomfortable.  I also like what you said about she's trying to turn you into something your not.  Say that to her too!  Good luck.
381015
first calm down. 2nd apologize..and explain that whatever it is you meant was taken the wrong way. If they are really your friends they will hear you out.\nxoxo
410027
Be supportive. It sounds like he needs to talk. Let him know that you're still his friend.\n\nExpect that this might be an adjustment for you, as he becomes more out. It'll bring changes for him, too.\n\nIf he's having issues, see if there's a group locally that can help, such as a gay youth group.
1026974
Your friend doesn't respect herself, your body is a beautiful thing and should not be abused by anyone, And sometimes if you feel it so not your place to tell her about herself,do it anyway sat her down and explain to her has a friend that what you are doing is wrong an unnecessary and if she is your friend she would take your advice and respect that you care so much and value the friendship she will think things through and take it in consideration.
165942
When she is on the page for editing her avatar up near the right corner she will she 'Preferences'. Click that.\n\nShe will see a choice to change her avatar's gender. Click and she will have a female.
525004
My room mate is MTF, and she likes girls, she's a lesbian. This confuses a lot of people, but gender dysphoria doesn't have anything to do with who you sleep with, it's about who YOU are, not who you do. \nIf you want to talk with someone, contact me, I know that my room mate has information, she's had to go through quite a bit, but she's really happy. I knew her when she was a man, and I have to say, it was hands down the best thing for her to switch over, it made a lot of difference. \nWho knows, it might not be for you, but it's good to talk about it if you need to.
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Are you sure she feels that way?\n\n   Tell her how you feel, how much the friendship means to you. \n\n   Maybe I'm missing something, this seems too easy. No offense, but don't females just love to talk, especially about feelings?
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She'll be okay when she becomes used to the way she looks.  Definitely don't say anything.  She needs to have privacy, and thinking that other people are talking about her breasts will make her even more aware that she's "different".\nYour friend just needs to downplay the significance of her breasts.  She'll accept things in her own time
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Well, you can never "make" someone understand anything, that is what makes it the worst.  The best you can do is remind her that lesbians are normal, feeling, people just like everone else.  Just because they feel differently doesn't mean they are wrong.  Different taiste, and attractions, doesn't mean a person is going to hell, and it doesn't mean they need to be saved.  If your friend refuses to see things from an accepting point of view, then you could try asking her this; "What if your mom recently realised she was gay, do you think you would suddenly decide she wasn't worth your time too??"
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Hi- I am a MtF transsexual and I have some impressive ta-ta's (breasts for you clueless out there). I got a little greedy, told my doc (Thailand docs are the coolest!) to implant me with some big 'uns, and, well, I ended up with a 46 DDDD/G rack- Oy!\n\nAny way, my gay friends all act so jealous that I went ahead and got boobs (Yeah- like being a flat chested girl is supposed to be natural). I jokingly told one of my closest gay male friends that I would be happy to pay for him to get some of his own, but he acted shocked and immediately started back-pedaling on what he said he wanted. (He still likes to wear my bra occasionally- go figure).\n\nI think gay men are very in touch with their feminine side, and want to be more feminine, but getting a sex change seems to cross the line- they still enjoy being men and having their outdoor plumbing, too. I guess that also applies to getting boobs- they may like them, because they are an obvious outer sign of femininity, but they wouldn't actually want a pair attached to THEM. Watch Will & Grace- this theme comes up a lot between the characters Jack McFarland and Karen Walker.\n\nI enjoy it when my gay friend wants to masssage my boobies, though- I know it won't lead to sex.\n\nHope this helps...    =^.^=\n\nOh, and Jom156- you are a spaz fundie retard- the poster SPECIFICALLY SAID "no derogatory remarks", and, well I guess you couldn't resist-
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male or female friend?
868618
ask a question..if she answers she's a female..if he answers he's male..am i right??..lol.
515503
Just ask her what she wants to be called and respect her for it. Am sure she would really appreciate you for it.
364730
Well firstly is your friend bi or gay? Does she know how you feel about her?\n\nContact me if you want to talk  - epsonc760@hotmail.co.uk