Liking bad boys....is that normal?
550322
It is pretty normal.\n\nIt is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree.  It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.\n\nA lot of it has to do with confidence.  The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have.  If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.  \n\nNot only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure.  A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life).  The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her.  I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out.  If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.\n\nMost girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men.  The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl.  The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.\n\nA part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl.  The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.\n\nThere are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
812749
yea..thats normal...and hott.\n\nemail me or IM me--johndeeregagrl87@yahoo.com
1177810
Why do females always like the Bad Boys?\n\nDon't do it unless you are both ready.
224415
I accidentally "fell" into the bad boy role. I thank GOD for it everyday since. To put is nicely, my "reproductive potential" exploded. And, when you get really good and become a "black belt" of bad boys, you can do the "misunderstood, now I'm opening up to you" bad boy, and WOW. women LOVE that.
941192
hi monica...being a guy i can understand ur feelin...most often evn i have asked this question to my self...where hv d gud gurls gone...lemme answer ur quest first...d answer to this lies in ur heart....there is a tale that good guys r like apples on the top of the tree..most gurls pick the rotten ones lyin down d grn cz they dnt wanna go up d tree n pick d best 1....\n\nso d funda is u need to choose urself abt which guy is jst lukin for sex or which guy is really genuine...there might be things u wnt find in every guy...1 might be very gud lukin but yet violent inside...d other might be jst avg but he might be a gem at heart...but mostly gurls go for the bad ones cz they like d thrill of chasin sum1....when u get u want in life where is the thrill...\n\n\ni am 27 but still lonely but hopin my love wld come sumday soon......i also hope d same for u...my best regards.......
481450
your not the only girl that has a fansty like that, just gotta find the guys to be willing to make it real. i have the same fansty.. i bet it would feel great to be mobbed by men just to please you .. what an ORGASM..  i'm still working on the 3rd person.. lol
692043
there was a period where i was totaly into bad boys becasue they had the money, cars, clothes, kool houses, independance and everything i didn't have as a good girl. they were ruff, demanding and took whatever they wanted and i looked up to that mostly because i didn't have the guts to be that myself. \n\ni think somewhere along the lines i grew up because bad boys don't do it for me anymore. i got a system that works for me and figured out that no bad boy was gonna stick around long enough to make anything lasting so they just have kinda moved down the ladder in the grand scheme of my life. the man i am now in love with is the best man i have ever known and as good as i think i could ever find. he loves me and that's all that matters now. it's all about the process of growing up. one has to go through many wrongs in order to find what is right.
567478
u r a very bad boy~ lol...\naddicted?? ver bad~
927207
i do this ALOT too! \ni really know how you feel! i think that...well...for me its because i get to know them really well and i just can't help but ot fall for them.\nSo no, nothing is wrong with you!!\nwe really dont know if guys feel the same way...which makes me mad...lol..but this happens, i think, because we become really good friends that we want to be something more. thats how it feels for me. i think its normal....as long as its not like just because you want someone or because your desprate. if its real...its normal.\nhope i helped!\n~ALSO~\ni try not to say anything in fear it will ruin what we already had. if you feel comfortable that it wont change things, you should tell him how you feel.
997938
It's the "bad boy syndrome."  Remember "Rebel without a Cause?"  James Dean made being a bad boy cool.  As did Elvis with his "gyrating" being the culprit.  (No, I'm not an old fogey - I am 37, but I went thru that Bad Boy thing when I was 18/19 years old and then figured out that being with a bad boy could get my butt in some real trouble and possible in prison.  I love and respect me more than that.  Good luck and where ever you are finding these women, go somewhere else.  You know as well as I do that birds of a feather flock together.  If you are finding them in a bar, go to a gym.
872679
Bad boy and idk i just think it's more hot!
13839
I think a clue could be with your username. It kind of indicates that you like the "bad boy" type. The majority of those are not going to treat you well. Guys like myself are good guys who the bad boys don't have the guts to mess with. You need to find one of those...We always treat our women extremely well and you have all the fun with none of the drama...Lol.  ;)
750355
Sounds like you LOVE it for the wrong reasons...\nBut....whatever turns you on!  Enjoy !
610922
the feeling is not always right. sometimes that feeling means you have an infatuation, and infatuations can be with many bad men. be careful!!
111864
There is nothing wrong with you- in fact, it is quite natural. Assuming you are speaking of some form of S&M. Most men in todays modern era are taught to supress these types of feelings, labelling them as too feminine - less of a man. I disagree as do many psychologists and those that study human behavior. Throughtout history, these feeling and desires have been accepted. There were even marriage manuals written to help men explore this part of themselves for emotional and spiritual growth(it is even explored in the Kama Sutra). Human exist on a level of power play in all aspects of life, there is no reason it would be excuded in this situation. you are fine, and incredibly normal. I'm more proud that you are being true to yourself and acknowledging this as opposed to denial and suppression. Be aware of the differance between power play and abuse, there is sometimes a thin line- but- I do incourage you to explore this more as I feel all men should (and women).
127309
omg! i love dean. dean is so freaking sexi and your right his bad boy act is like so hot. i like bad boys.
541077
I dont think its wierd at all...Im actually in that position in my life right now.....Ive been through some of the worst relationships ever and at this point in my life i am very happy bieng single, but still want the physical active part from a guy....that may be why most of my friends are guys....I still like the cuddling and the hugging and the other stuff, but dont want anything serious......I dont think its wrong at all....you do whats best for you and if you feel you dont want to be in a committed relationship, no one should make you feel bad for that.