why is it that my boyfriends love touching my breasts on our 1st date?
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Hi, here to help. First of all, I believe you are encouraging the behaviour a little. You are not completely to blame, but you are encouraging it. This is gonna sound old school, but really you should think about the old saying telling people that they should not kiss on the first date. And this is true.\n  When you kiss on the first date, or even have sex, etc. it makes you appear a little bit easy. Although guys will definitely not argue with the kiss or the sex, they still like to see a girl give them a little bit of a challenge. When you do these things on a first date, you are leaving little to the imagination. Waiting makes the heart grow fonder or something like that, is a very true statement. It is the excitement of the anticipation of waiting.\n  Personally, the first date is very awkward. It is meant for getting to know the person, and seeing if you would like to date this person for a second time. When you kiss, it leads to other things...You sound young, and if I am right, the guys that you are dating are young as well. Believe me, all guys of any age will try things when they kiss you. However, you are in control. You do not have to let the guy feel you up. You can gently place their hands back down on their sides. And if they ask why, you have the right to say you are not ready for that....And you can say this at any age too! I have done that.\n But really, I think you should not be kissing on the first date. Just try and wait, and when you have that first kiss with that special someone it will be more than worth the wait. I am sure a lot of people will not agree with me on kissing on the first date. But it does make you appear more of a lady to the man. I have gotten much more respect when I did not kiss someone on the first date. Usually after the kissing comes other things so in my mind you might as well just wait and enjoy the part of getting to know one another.\n  Love comes with getting to know someone. Unfortunately guys are not like women and are not overly emotional right away. It takes time for a guy to love. They do like the physical aspect first. Take your time girl because you have plenty of it.\n  I have kissed on the first date, and honestly, those are the guys that have not worked out...I don't know and I can't speak for everyone. But I also know that I have enjoyed the anticipation of waiting for the first kiss...\n Good luck!
875301
It's not that big of a deal, hun. Boobs are boobs, and that's all there is to it. Of course you're gonna have guys who love bigger boobs, and there are those who love smaller boobs, but would you date a guy who wants you not because of your personality but because of your boobs? I know it's cliche, but accept it. \n\nCheck out nenarmz's answer: her friend's got inverted nipples and her significant other thinks she's the hottest thing around! That's gotta say something. As far as the breakouts are concerned, you can always fix that. Do you change your bra daily? You'd be surprised how many girls don't! That could be a culprit. Purchase a loofah in order to cleanse that area well and buy an acne body scrub to go along with it. \n\nIt's all a matter of effort and if you've gotten to know the guy like you should have (meaning all shallowness aside), then he won't have a problem with your physical appearance.\n\nBesides, it's a little elementary if guy freaks out because of that, don'tcha think? There are TONS of women with inverted nipples, which just goes to show it's nothing to be worried about.
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i'm kinda reading your question in a funny way. i'm not sure if i understand it...he wants to be with you but not have sexual relations? hmmm...i still think i might be reading a typo on your behalf. \n\nif that's the case and you fear it has to be attributed to you gaining weight, then i think it is justified to feel concerned. if he is not sexually into you because your size, and you feel awkard and emotional, then state exactly what friendship means to him. if it just means 'i love you but we are just plain old buddies now' then i would probably be inclined to take some time off from him.\n\nlove gets thrown into the equation like butter to bread and sometimes that definition tastes different in others peoples mouths. maybe your tasting a different flavour or the flavour he is serving isn't to your liking?\n\nif you don't feel comfortable being 'just friends' and you think it would be to hard to sustain, then leave the ex where it should be: in the closet along with all past memories. just because you have slept with each other does not mean that the love their can go any further. the emotional state your are in is valid for it concerns affairs close to your heart. take care.
263507
Sounds like new boyfriend wants to protect you. He must really care!
232050
i think you need to ask or have her make the first move. it totally pisses me off and makes me not like a guy when he just assumes that it is ok. dont do that unless you want to come off like a jerk, and then you wont get any. its not cool to be making out with a guy and to constantly have to pull his hand off your zipper cause its only the first date or whatever.
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Sounds like he's testing the ground. He wants to be close to you but he's making sure he doesn't tread where you don't want him to be. In otherwords, he doesn't want you to feel pressured. I think he likes you, and has great respect for you, especially if he's giving you an out like that. Perhaps you should ask him why he keeps saying that, and see what he says. Your gut should tell you if you can take it at face value.
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I think it's great that he wants you to do that and it's not "weird" at all.  To me it seems that he is still really attracted to ya!  I mean, it's not like he asked to start borrowing your underwear!!  I mean, just say what comes naturally.  Be sexy!  I am sure you know what to say deep down...practice saying it alone before you leave it on his phone.  And the one answer was cool...start with text messages :)   Good luck, and don't feel silly...he wants ya, girl!
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just when he starts to do something then pull away a little bit. that's what my bf tried to do to me. we were making out and he reached for my shirt and a grabbed his hand and pulled away from him and told him that i wasn't ready for that. and he was totalu cool about it! just be honest!
76085
no this is highly adviosed to kiss in ur first date.\nthere is nothing more beautifull then first kiss in first date. Be confident and wish u a good luck.
51794
Putting feelings aside and trying to JUST answer your question... If the guy is saring at your breasts and is obvious about it, I don't think he is so taken with the "twins" that he doesn't know you see him. Again putting feelings aside... If you are interested in him and want to know for sure make a pass at him or get him alone and flash him. Good luck! \n\n(As for my feelings... I kinda agree with the others. He is married and even if he is interested, it seems like he is a dog and only interested in a date with the "twins")
96262
Sounds like your boyfriend has less imagination than he thought he did. Or, he took it slow since it was your first time together. I would hope for the latter.
1093738
He may not be comfortable expressing his romantic side with you because he is unsure of how you will see him. He may want to be seen as masculine and may see showing tenderness as feminine. This is why I don't get into the gender bending stuff. He may be confused that real men don't want to kiss and he sees you as his woman so he is not going to initiate anything tender. Or maybe he is used to not having to initiate anything. If he has only been with guys much older they may have done everything to him so he didn't have to make a move on his own.  If he enjoys the sex then he will eventually learn that you require some heating up on his part and you need to give him positive reinforcement. When he does even the smallest nice thing for you praise him as though it where a grand romantic gesture. As he realizes how much that turns you on he will gradually expound on that. \nOne other thing that might just might help. Talk to him. Tell him you want him to take the lead every once in a while tell him you need him to take your hand on occasion and sometimes you would like him to just reach out and grab you, pull you close and kiss you. It may be awkward at first but if he gets enough reward for his efforts then he will continue with gusto.
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Your not being stupid at all. If they are small and he is with you then it is yours he likes. I have small ones and I use to worry all the time but my b/f (Now husband of 18 yrs) always said that it was not breast he was with or married.
703320
He knows that you are aware of your belly, and wanted to show that he loves you for you, and bellys can be sexy too.\n\nEnjoy
316332
For a minute there I thought I wrote this.Or maybe we've married the same man.lol.Why do they expect us to get all....excuse the saying...hot and horny from boob groping.I really cant answer u but please let me know what people suggest.The only suggestion i have is grab him roughly (u know where) when he least expects it.Let's see his arousement then!!!! lol.
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Probably because you are pretty!  He is worried you'll find "something better." \n\nJust do your best to reassure him, but don't allow him to get all jealous and controlling on you, OK?
531709
Your partner's bahabiour is quite controlling and dominating,so it appears on the surface.Displaying affection is a good thing,but overly showing ur neediness to be with him all the time,without giving him breathing space sounds troublesome.Maybe ur behaviour is childish,SMSing calling just to say a hi, and hello every now n then.Maybe this is acting as a repellent.Grow up.The more u run after him,the more he would want to cut contacts with u.Men like to win their love through a hard way.Anything easily falling in their hands is not seen as a compliment.Further,do u want to be treated the way he does to u now?Has he declared his love for u verbally?U sure this isnt freindship?Also,his giving u lesser attention is drawing u to him closer.Are u sure u love him?