i love this guy so much,but he cheated me...he wants another 2nd chance.what will i do?
537997
If he keeps getting these so called " fling-rings" or txts, then just forget about him. You might love him, but if he can't control himself around girls, then that's going to be a problem. He will be around girls everyday in his life, and then one day you gonna get hurt b/c he couldn't control himself. But, if he can stop, and you see him change completely then, stay with him and see what happens, test him, not to often to see if he just trying to trick you or if he really done changed.
118799
Hon, I feel your pain.  If you still want him, then you have to lower your expectations because he WILL cheat again.  If you don't expect much, then you won't be disappionted.  \n\nIf you can't lower your expectations and you can't live with cheating, then divorce is your only other option.
775325
i think u should consider it again....think about it carefully...ur fate will depend on ur decision...give him the last chance... if he do it again, dont hesitate to leave him...im sure there's someone better than him..good luck!
765386
Wtf u love him and u cheat? Well i dont know the details about why u cheated but if u do love him, I have not idea how the hell you could get him back cause if I was your b/f I probably wouldnt wanna know
592243
Since you denied it for so long, you've established a pattern of lying on top of the cheating.  So, it probably won't matter how you tell him; he may feel too angry and used to give you another chance.\n\nJust try to communicate how foolish you were and how much you regret it and that you understand how this must make him feel.  Explain that you realize that he may not want to give you another chance, but you care about him too much to continue the deception.\n\nAnd BEG, BEG, BEG for his forgiveness.\n\nI sense that you truly realize and regret the mistake you made.  I'm sorry that it may cost you a relationship that you came to value a little too late.  Hopefully, you won't make either of those mistakes again (cheating, lying about it.)\n\nGood luck.
435783
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.
229837
sweetheart, it hurts alot. i've been there. you are right in not being able to trust him. it's not always the case that there always a cheater, but it's almost foolproof. if he's done it before, why won't he do it again when he finds someone else that's more attractive to him? all you can do is wait out the pain. it hurts and it sucks, but try and move on. go out, have fun, meet new guys. you don't have to get married or anything, just go out and have fun. i hope this helps you sweetie, at least a little. if you'd like to talk to someone that's been there, you can email me. poetic_disturbulance@yahoo.com
664824
Honestly once a guy cheats it's like Pringles.  You never can have just one.  Once a cheater always a cheater.  If he has done it 3 times and knows you'll take him back then pretty much he knows he can get away with it and u won't do anything about it.  Leave his ass!
1170862
Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
1152321
I think its cause he has already cheated & you dont trust him anymore....DITCH HIM....trust is already lost!
1076111
let me get this right;\n\nhe wants you to comprimise yourself in order for you 2 to get back together? \n\nby that i presume you mean he wants to have a more sexual relationship with you, and if you do he will accept the fact you cheated.\n\nI'm a guy (25) and take it from me, he does not care about you anymore. he will use that as an excuse for a means to an end. he is now only after one thing and he will take it as long as you are willing to give it.\n\nI'm sorry to say that I think you need to call it a day love, don't let him take advantage of you. If you ended up cheating it's because he is not everything you want. As hard as it may be, and as easy it is to say, You need to move on.\n\nHope this helps, stay strong and good luck.
555453
Pretty much it is a bad decision, if not cheating, but he showed you a desire to get past that by confessing. You should decide if you can forgive or if you get more pleasure out of holding this against him. If you like the upper hand, go ahead and beat him up for it for years to come. All he will regret is that he confessed this indiscreation to you. I'd let it go if I were you. Far worse things could happen to you than this.
176460
Cheating is NOT OK...the fact that he did that too you in the first place is soooo not cool. I'm surprised you didn't do away with him then! The thing is if you didn't do anything about it when it happened...he's probably thinkin sweet i'll do it again...unless he's really genuine. Just ask yourself...If he's hurt me this much this soon, whats to come in the future...? And what might come in the future is heartbreak...and you don't want that. If you break up with him now, you can do it on good terms, and possibly hold up a descent friendship!! Just pretect your heart...good luck!!!
193030
it is hard to leave someone, especially if u love them in return. but as he has cheated, it is likely he will do it again. saying "i love you" might be just his way of making you forget what happened. you should move on. you need to think of yourself, not him, because he obviously was not thinking of you when he cheated. this is just my opinion, so dont take it to heart. if you want to talk more contact me by going to my profile.
971341
i guess that depends. did he intentionally break your heart? or did your heart got broken because of a situation he had no control over? if he did on purpose (say, he cheated on you), and if he did it twice, it doesn't matter how sorry he is, he's gonna do it again. and you'll be circling the same path over and over again, so then start changing course and don't look back again.
241979
I'm sorry you had to go through this, I know how much it hurts when your spouse cheats on you.  I wish I could say you could trust him and that everything will be fine but the truth is he crossed a line and now that line really doesn't exist for him.  I'm sure he regrets hurting you but I doubt if he really regrets that he was with this other woman.  I tried to forgive my ex when she cheated and believe her when she said she wanted to work it out but ultimately she did it again and I realized I could never trust her again.  Trust is one of the basic foundations in a marriage and once it is gone it isn't easily repaired.  I think you need to decide what is right for you and if you don't believe you can honestly trust him again then divorce is your only option.
1061624
He cheated once and you forgave him, you were an ANGEL.  And he goes and cheats on you again?  No, sweetie, he's just trying to get in your pants.  Kick him to the curb and find someone who deserves to date an angel.\n\nGood luck!