serious replys please,women would you,or could you build a mans confidence in bed and outside of bed?
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Yes it is totally possible but it will take a long time.\n\nAnyone who has been through such a terrible ordeal will feel like they can never trust anyone ever again, beleive me, I know!!\n\nThere is nothing you can really say or do that will make a person trust you, but actions certainly speak louder than words. Allow him time to get his feelings together. Show him how much you care by doing little things like breakfast in bed, or buy him his favourite magazine..............It sounds silly I know but if you really listen to someone and hear what they say, then these small gestures can mean a great deal..........It shows you have been listening and it gives them something they aren't used to.\n\nAs far as the bedroom is concerned, give him lots of pleasure. Make him feel like he is the most important person in the world to you by 'giving' plenty.\nWhen it comes to him 'giving to you' I would Place his hands where I want them to be on myself and I would tell him how good it feels. If he is doing something wrong, I would never ever tell him. I would encourage him to do it a little differently. Maybe watch some soft porn together and when I see something I would like him to do, tell him!!\n\nLike I say, there is no right answer. Time is the greatest healer and if the right person is found they will begin to regain their confidence back.
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I wouldn't worry too much about that one special sex trick that'll knock her socks off...any man she's ever had sex with could do that, and quite possibly has. \nTo be that something special she'll remember forever, and not just for sex, do things that will make her feel that you value and cherish her, and that you find her attractive and think of her. \nJust put a little thought into her, and her likes and disklikes, and what would make her feel excited, happy, and special, to give her a wonderful V-Day and you'll knock her socks off looooong before you get to the bedroom.
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You know being a little insecure in the bedroom can be ALOT better than being over confident.  If you don't become paranoid that is.  Pace yourself and awlays imagine what you might be able to do better on, that way you are always wanting to please her, instead of sitting back brimming with arrogence.   However... don't become paranoid... as you will ultimately stress yourself out and risk decreasing stamina and sexual performance.  With your partner telling you that you are the best... take it as a compliment, but dont take it to heart, because god forbid you guys one day spilt, you run the risk of having that one retracted, lol
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Sex is 90% mental and 10% physical...Keep your head up by having confidence.
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Try new things!!!  Anything outside whatever.  Do spontaneous things men like that.  Such as giving him a BJ while he's driving or watching TV.  Just drop drawers whenever.  Thats how my wife keeps me going spontaneous acts of sex that come from nowhere.  Hope this helps.
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Act like you don't know what's really going on, and be sure to "prep" yourself for several minutes prior.  If you're with an experienced woman, she won't expect you to perform for long.  Really though, its all about what you do and don't know in bed, so as long as you act clumsy and shy, you should be fine.
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The more comfortable your woman is w/ you the more apt she will be to try new things.  I used to be very modest in the bedroom until I met my boyfriend. Women tend to be modest b/c they are afraid of what men will think.  Chances are...you girlfriend does want to try new things.  But it is your job to make her feel at ease. Also talk about it.  How will your woman ever know if you dont tell her what you want.  We are not mind readers :)
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If you like the guy its going to show...if you're really not that into him its going to show as well. Maybe you should open up in bed a little more. Try something new. Why do you think you aren't good in bed. Spice things up a little bit and you could find that you are actually blowing his mind!
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Definitely. Any real man would. If you're man enough to decide to lay with a woman you should be man enough to accept the responsibility that may come as a result of your actions. I wouldn't want to know, I would NEED to know.
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A smart female can attract her man even if she doesn't have a great body, I believe what attracts men is the way the woman move or use her body language to attract a man, There's nothing sexier than confidence, especially when it spills out between the sheets! Even if you're not feeling confident, learn how to fake it! \n\nPretend that you're a confident woman that oozes sex appeal. It takes 28 days to change a habit, so if you start thinking every day that you are a beautiful woman who oozes sex appeal, in one month's time you will be that person. \n\nPeople respond to the image portrayed, so if you think and act sexy, you'll find that the people around you will think that too!
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Her confidence is probably already destroyed. This is the reason a lot of women sleep around. They need love and affection, as everyone does, but they've never gotten it and are still not getting it. They believe this is the only way they will get it. She may seem happy and proud of her sex life but that is not always the case. The only thing you can do for her is let her know that you care and you are worried. Tell her why you care about her and why you're worried about her. Then, continue to be her friend. If she can not or does not want to change, she is still the same person you've been friends with. Good luck. :^)
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There are a few simple things that you can do to boost your confidence quite easily.\nThe first is to make a list of all your strong points: write down all the things about you that are good and strong. If you need help, don't be shy to ask others to comment on your strong areas for you.\nKeep this list with you at all times, and pin a copy by your bed so that you can look at it first thing in the morning and when you go to bed, to make you feel great first and last thing every day of the week.\nThis is such a simple tip but it works really well.
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Well, for me its sexual confidence.  Being able to instigate and take charge during sex up to a point and then let me finish.\n\nBut not every guy is like that.\n\nDepends on the guy.  Some guys like women who talk dirty, some like women who role play, other like exploring kinkier things.  Trys educing him ina  public place where you KNOW he can't do anything about it until you are alone at home.\n\nThere's a lot more.  I'd have to know more about the guy.
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In my experiences, most women enjoy a little agressiveness in the bed. Try it once and if you like it, keep it up. Try anything at least once.
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either would be ok, as long as we had things in common like goals, stuff we like to do, etc\n\nNot every guy is comfortable around a confident girl, but the bottom line is... be yourself and you will attract guys who like you for who you are, not for some act you put on to please them ... so many people try too hard to be what someone else wants them to be... that is building a relationship on a lie ... i cant say it enough... JUST BE YOURSELF!!!!!!!
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get laid for real just to see if it was really that good? i mean if this isn't real then i don't want to be woken up because my wife is great in bed
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Be more.  Don't be a "playbunny"--hold out.  Here is a brand new concept, wait, wait to have sex, wait to get too physical.  BE a girl worth getting to know, show him you have a mind, that you are interesting.  I don't care how old fashioned it sounds, men simply don't respect women who go to bed with them right away.  Don't be "easy".