I fel in love with a girl,she is in love with a boy who is useless,she is spoilling her own life,what to do?
535380
let other people talk to her about it but u DON'T. and it'll be better if she doesn't know that those ppl are from ur side. after things are over between them, wait for a while b4 u approach. but still, it's not advisable..leave her alone. anyways why would u love a girl who is already "taken"??!\n\ngood luck
1037638
Gently, with compassion.  Don't get defensive.  Use facts and feelings beginning with the word "I" instead of "you."  However, you change her  (or her mind, her choice, her anything...)  Life is all about choices...and then consequences.  Sometimes it hurts to see someone we love make bad choices.  But part of true love is giving the other the "freedom to fail" so that they may learn what is best for them.  Patience, friend.  Let your love give her the freedom for now---if and when she comes back to you, it will be even more precious since she will realize it herself.
170644
Wow...I am so sorry about this. How horrible for you. You must know in your heart that she simply has been lied to or misled about you, right? (deep down?) Listen to your heart...you probably know she would love you if she knew you, and she may already love you even without knowing you. I think the only thing you can do is pray sincerely. (I'm serious) Ask God to somehow make a way for you to get to know her...and maybe write her a letter, explaining how much you love her. You will probably need to be on the giving end at this point, and maybe for a long, long time until she is able to see and respond to your love. Don't give up. Love always wins. Be patient, and love her in as many ways as you can...my heart is so touched by your story. I wish there was something more I could say or do to help you...Good luck.
533906
tell her how you feel. If worse comes to worse she'll reject you and you'll go to colledge and pick up another girl who loves you and won't be afraid to tell you. or she'll confess that she loves you too. \n\nbest of luck!
349582
you can do nuthing if a girl has given her heart to someone else but wait for her to change her decision on her own. in teh mean time what you could do is to be nice to her, be a good friend and in your own way take care of her not infringing upon her space or privacy. be true to her, and for god's sake dont build up things to break her away from teh guy she loves or matter may get worse. be a good person that i believe you are, and all shall be good. even then if she does'nt turn around to you, trust me, someone far better than her is awaiting you in her life.\n\nP.S. just look around yourself and see to it that you are not treating someone as you are being treated by this girl?
371163
Oh my god, like so many things in my life im glad im not the only one in strange situations.  I dont really think this question has a viable answer that anyone can tell you. There is no black and white and this one, its all grey.  I believe that if you like her then you should stand by her, but dont wedge yourself between her and her Bf.  Show her your love and that you care for her, she will love you more for understanding than for telling her that she messed up.  and thats what i think that she more than likely did. You guys had issues, she was upset and thought it would be better on "the other side". Truth is no matter what one does things will always be bad untill they love themselves and who they are. She likes girls, she realizes that now.\n\nYoure going to have problems with the father of the child. (he has a penis). But because of the child he forever has to be a part of her life. Nothing you can do about that.\n\nJust take her in and accept her, help her through this time. If she plays with you then thats just life. We cannot predict exactly what she will think in the future.  If you really want to be with her, then just roll with it.\n\nsorry sweetheart, maybe im just babbling but i dont know what else to say. wish i could help.
297879
I have a similar situation. But it is SHE in my case. Plz..help us both(the asker and me).
887696
If you're serious, dont, no matter how much you loved this girl, she is definatly not worth your life,  There are plenty more girls out there, girls that you deserve and that deserve you.  Seriously, you'l find someone else, i thought i wouldnt but i did....\n\n\n\n\nIf your not serious, and this is a joke, well then you are just plain sick....
1070224
what he/she should do is to start to let others know about his feelings for them... coz it might be too late for him/her. He/she might lose someone who could love him eternally
383533
neither. clearly you don't have Strong enough feelings for either girl, so move on to another girl who has everything you want, don't settle for mediocrity, even at you age. if you develop good habits like this now you will save yourself a world of trouble when you get older when it really counts.
597996
you seem like such a lovely guy and to be honest.. from what you have said   that girl does not deserve you.. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love her.. and im sure she's out there somewhere.. it seems like this girl is keeping you on standby just incase things don't work out with the other guy..and even if she does loose this guy she will have another on standby sooner or later...she knows your too good for her and she's taking advantage of it!!please do yourself a favour and start the process of letting her go now cause it will take time .. and time heals!! and the one thats right for you will come along after you have healed from this girl.You derserve better and i think you know it !!It's not worth loving someone who doesn't do the right thing by you hun!It eventually makes your heart turn cold!
112351
u should give up with ur boy.\nforget him\nlife must go on..\nso be happy always..
235672
Sorry to hear about your pain, but there is absolutely nothing that you can do about now except for learn your lesson and move on.  Now, perhaps when you find a special girl that you fall in love with again, you won't wait to let her know!!\n\nPlease, do NOT tell her now - it would do no good and only stress her out.  That's not fair to either of you.
1135744
Great I found you because I'm in similar position... So in love with a guy but didn't know what to do. So lonely and wish he knew how I feel but still fear what will happen if he does know\n\nIt really depends on what the girl believes in. She may be really straight forward and express her love to you. OR, she may be like me, who believes that the guy shall make the first move, and she'll drop hints hopefully you'll pick them up and start confessing your love to her like Romeo to Juliet\n\nAin't it a beautiful dream come true?\n\nReady to do anything, that's really sweet... Stick to it then... And decide what you should do, and fast! The love boat doesn't travel to your shore all the time, get it on before you miss it... good luck!
958874
It is not for you to decide what steps to take in this situation. But you can help by asking her what she really wants...(as in- Ask her " Is THis what you want?" )  It is her life anyway! she's the pilot of her life-her destiny. \ni know that you're concerened about her welfare but i think at her age she can decide for herself. i hope everything turns out for the best. you'll never know what love can do to people, If they are really in-love.
368455
what a tragic story! you should just leave them be if they seem so happy. if i were you, i would try and be happy for her. you can't force a guy to fall in love with you, it's almost impossible. try writing a letter to him about how you feel [don't send it of course], i guarentee it'll help ! you aren't being punished and beaten up everytime you turn around, life is just pieces of a huge puzzle and you've just placed the wrong piece in the wrong place. take it out and look for a place where it fits =]
993523
,I agree .. that is bullsh*t .. she does not care cause she will do any thing to keep him.. she is desperate, she needs to get a life ..