I want to get married to a muslim girl,is embracing islam important?
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For Muslims? yes\n\nWill she convert to your religion to prove her love? \n\nDoes not look like it otherwise you would not been asking this question.\n\nSo she keeps her religion first and you secondary .\n\nWhy she does not open her mind ? and convert to your religion?\n\nAll Muslims are going to tell you that you must convert . But it goes both ways.\n\nIf she wont be Muslim anymore You will not have any problem marrying her.\n\nThough under civil law you can marry her, without either of you converting.\n\nAfter marriage a girl is supposed to join husbands family, it looks like you want to do opposite.\n\nAre you sure about conversion? \n\nIf you convert then what? \n\nWhat Islam has in spiritual section which advait Vedanta does not cover ? We do not have a one book religion not narrow definitions. There is so much to learn that whole life time is short. But the freedom Hinduism gives is unique.\n\nYou will be just getting loosing your family and if your marriage somehow did not work, you will have already lost too much. Because the moment you leave your religion for marriage , you lost an identity , you had since birth.\n\nUnder civil law you both Will be better off. Nobody will be loosing his/her personal belief yet get full benefits.\n\nOr you care more for the relationship to continue than her?\n\nGet another Girl will be my suggestion If she insists that you should really convert.\n\nOtherwise you are going to end up frustated after a few years.
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Listen carefully, it looks from your question that you are a devoted Moslem otherwise you will not ask such a question, and the correct answer for your question is that: Islam forbids a Moslem girl to marry to a non-Moslem man because it is likely that he might influence her and convert her to his religion, and you know what does that mean, but if she feels that he is sincere and he might convert to Islam, she might marry him after he converts to Islam and by that way she will please Allah in two things : first that she obeyed Him and didn't abandon her religion, second: she saved another soul from the hell fire.\nIf you need more assistance in any further questions about Islam please don't hesitate to contact me, sister.\nMy sincerest prayers for you.
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She is not, I am Muslim and I can say that. maybe she really loves you but your relationship seems impossible. in our book male Muslim can marry Christian,Muslim and Jew woman, but female Muslim can't marry but Muslim man. so she is probably if she told her family they would prevent her from seeing you at all. so she keeps finding excuses to be with you as long as possible. talk to her outright and tell her what I just wrote and she can't deny! good luck.
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A muslim can go as far as they want if that relationship is marriage :-))\n\nBut seriously outside marriage any kind of fornacation is a sin, and by fornication a mean anything even a lustful look. There is a Hadith that says that it worse for a man to have an axe through his head than even accidently touch who is not his mahram (wife or blood reletive) women.\nFor women (like me) when I'm outside or with non mahram, I must wear hijab (cover myself fully) and I'm not allowed to be alone with a man. etc etc.\n\nWhen I do decide to get married it is not islamic to have a long engagement etc. And I won't be alone with my finace untill after marriage.  Tipically family and friends help find prospective partners, and then arrange a meeting where maybe they leave us 2 in a room, and they wait outside with the door open! And then if you are still not sure it is ok to ask questions by phone etc, before you get married.\n\nBut as you see it is very different from the western version of romance!!
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At first, I apologize because I am a Muslim, male, not a convert nor female you demanded the answer from.\n\nConverting to Islam is not a new matter in America. I am living in New York and I heard every week at manhattan Mosque 2 or 3 Americans convert to Islam from their own will (if it is the case in only one mosque think how many major mosques out there in USA) Interestingly, new converts follow Islam more thoroughly than a regular Muslim. So, don't worry about hijab, I hope no one will force you to wear that, rather when you will understand the significance of Islamic dress you will automatically wear that. And, converting to Islam don't change you to non-American nor change your citizenship. You can still go to work, watch tv, do everything which is not forbidden.\n\nSee what an American female convert replied to a question at Yahoo! Her nickname is mesha:\n\n"WOW ! what alot of uneducated, hateful comments.\n\nI will not engage in an argument with these peoples answers.\nIf i did I would be as petty as them.\n\nTo answer THE QUESTION.\n\nAll I will say is this. I reverted to Islam at 15 I am now 32 I and african american and I live in Ohio.\n\nI became interested in Islam when I was young because i wanted to know why they believed differently.\n\nThe more I learned the more it made sense to me.\nI believe that more than a BILLION people have converted or reverted as we say.\nfor a number of reasons.\nSuch as "old fashioned values" which todays society seems to have put on the back burner untill it is convienent to them. You know on (Sunday) they are (" God Fearing People")\nbut on Friday night they are likely to be in the clubs,drinking,smoking,having unmarried sex,or just acting like a fool in the streets for others to see and hear.\n\nTo some this "Modern Society as it has been referred to. has alot of room for sin. and want different in there lives and to have a stronger connection with god.\n\nIslam is un changing,moral,constant,and unshakable, no matter what anyone says.\n\nThe islamic beliefs and way of life is very specific.and designed to cut out alot of "DRAMA"\n\nTo address the comment that they want more wives and children. Do you even know how or when this started \nNO? \n\nof Course Not.\n\nIf you did you would know better than to make such an uneducated response. IGNORENCE IS NOT BLISS\n\nAs for the comment its a fashion statement PLLLEEESSSEEE!!!!\n\nour drees is TRADITIONAL,MODEST,RESPECTFUL and HUMBLE.\n\nopposite to others who believe it is "all good" to wear almost nothing out in public. Do they think it is by mistake that we dress similar? (NOT!) we want to be known as doing things differently in accordence to what god has perscribed for us.(reguarding PROPER DRESS)\n\nDo any of these people even know what the word Isalm means\n\nOf Course Not?\n\nLet me help them out.\n\nIt means born in submission to the will of god.\n\nThe word muslim means = one who submits to the will of god.\n\nIslamic sites are all over the web but people choose to believe what other uneducated in islamic beliefs because it is eaiser to agree and be part of the crowd,instead of using there oun minds and study something new I guess they think "Its too much like work to study" I dont know?\n\nOr they will learn something that makes PREFECT since and start douting what the have ben tought and that others may think them to hipocrites if they even look at an islamic book? All I know is it is right for me and my family we are much better in the way we think,act,and believe.\n\nThanks."\n\nYou can read this also by clicking the link below:
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Assamalu Alaykum Sister.\n\nI am also a convert to Islam, and my family is Christian. The family of my significant other is also Christian, and all of them do "celebrate" the "holidays." However, I do not think it is wrong to visit with your family during these holidays, or to accept gifts from them or to give gifts to them-- unless it is explicitly stated that this is a form of worship of Jesus. If your family is similar to mine, then the is probably no mention of Jesus at all when exchanging gifts.\n\nOur family are our most important links in this world, and if the holidays are an exceptional opportunity for you to spend time with them, then it cannot be wrong. When the Qur'an was first revealed, it was important for the believers to stay together, because there were not so many of them, and they had many enemies who wished them dead. Times have changed now, and I believe that Allah wishes us to honor our parents and family no matter what religion they choose. Family is the foundation of society, and we should not let our religious beliefs rip our foundations apart because of stubbornness.\n\nWhen it comes down to it, Sister, you must choose what makes you feel most comfortable. Allah does not wish hardship on us, so do not make more hardship for you than is necessary.  If you will feel pain because you are afraid of committing shirk, then do not spend Christmas with your family (please note the difference between the word "celebrate" and "spend"). However, if you are certain you can spend Christmas with your family without shirk becoming an issue, then do not give up your family because you think it will be more righteous.\n\nThis decision is entirely yours. You can seek guidance from anyone.. converts, Imams, friends, but ultimately, your decision will only be between you and Allah. Inshallah, you will do what is right for you.\n\nAnd Allah knows best.
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As long as you truly love the girl, then I honestly don't think those other characteristics are a key priority in a relationship. She's out there somewhere for you :) but just remember, don't rush into marriage.
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I think it's a very noble cause that you are wanting to undertake. Pray, my friend, and God will help you. I am not a Muslim but I respect Islam and I know it must hard for you being an American Muslim. I am so sorry for the way Muslims are treated in our country. It is not the American way. I think if you keep your faith strong and pray often that God or Allah will make it happen for you. God speed, friend. Tina, Houston, Texas
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I have many christian friends who married muslim men.  It is true that we revere Jesus and believe his birth to be a miracle of God.  If you want to stay Christian make sure you make that point very clear.  You can maintain your religion and your love for this man and have a wonderful family.  Please be warned: A muslim man can marry a christian or jewish woman- but his children must be Muslim.  These are things to think about, but if you love him and love God, then it can work. You just have to really sit down and talk to him about all of these things. Good luck to you! God bless.
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why in god's green earth do you wish to marry a muslim girl? just have some sex then dump the dopey girl, that's it why be married?
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I am a female Muslim. Why are you particularly looking for a Muslim as a friend?
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It does not make sense for a Muslim to marry a Christian or for a christian to marry a Muslim unless they weren't really serious about their  religion.  I am Catholic and I feel very strongly about my ideals.  There is no way I would marry a Muslim because as it says in one of the gospels, we would be "unevenly yoked" and arguing about religion all the time.  I mean, what would we teach our kids?  Both religions?  And which one would I tell him is the truth?  Mine or his father's.  It is better to find someone who feels the same way you do on matters that are close to your heart so you can work as a team.
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Have your parents arrange a marriage. Good Muslim women don't date.
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I'm afraid that I do not know the proper name for a Muslim celergyman, please forgive my ignorance about that, but you could go to a Cleric in your Mosque, tell him that you feel ready for marriage and seek his advice about how to meet girls with a suitable background. He would know which families in your area have daughters of marriagable age and probably would be the person best able to judge which of the young women you might be compatable with for marriage.\nGood luck.
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The guy should not be shoving the religion down your throat.  It is up to you to convert when and if you ever are ready. It's not a requirement because Muslim men are able to marry women of the book (ie, Christian, Jew, etc), but if you want to have children in the future, it will become an issue because Muslims who marry outside the religion want their children to be raised Muslim.  I will tell you that being married to a Muslim is difficult, just as it may be with any man of any race or religion, but there are so many more rules and a lot of jealousy and insecurity for no apparent reason.  Best of luck to you. :)
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I did not intend to answer this question if someone had already given a satisfying answer.‎\n\nFirst, I have to admire you for the excellent question since it is a misconception that ‎many non-Muslims carry about Islam.‎\n\nNow, you question uses the word "need" rather than "had". That would make a difference ‎in the answer.‎\n\nIf you indeed meant "need", you first need to know few facts. The Prophet Mohammad ‎‎(peace be upon him) first married at the age of 25 a woman that is 15 years older than ‎him. His first wife was married twice and had children from her ex-husbands. His ‎marriage lasted until he turned 50 when his wife died. He stayed two years before ‎marrying an 80 year old woman. So, the Prophet lived 52 years and married only one woman. The Prophet ‎died at the age of 63; by that time, he had nine wives. The Prophet had several wives for ‎several reasons; one reason was to build a solid political relation with other tribes or ‎nations (do you know that one of the Prophet's wives was a Christian and another was ‎Jewish?); another reason was to build a social bond with his followers by marrying their ‎sisters or daughters; another important reason was for his wives to convey all the ‎important lessons of building a family to a nation that reached a population of 2 billion; ‎he could not have done all of this with one wife.‎\n\nHowever, if you meant, "why did Mohammad of Islam had 9 wives ...", then the ‎referenced source below will give you the answer. The translation of the verse in English ‎states:‎\n\n‎"It is not lawful for thee to marry more women after this, nor to change them for other ‎wives, even though their beauty attract thee, except any thy right hand should possess as ‎hand-maidens: and Allah doth watch over all things."‎\n\nIt might be difficult for you to comprehend the meaning of the above verse, but to ‎understand it better, you should know that the Qur'an (the words of God) was revealed to ‎the Prophet (pbuh) by Gabriel on a span of 23 years. By the ‎time the translated verse above was revealed, the Prophet (pbuh) had nine wives. God ‎‎(Allah) advised the Prophet (pbuh) on this verse that he should not marry more women or ‎even divorce one with the intention of marrying a more beautiful woman.‎\n\nNow, you might ask, "when the verse was revealed to him, why then he did not divorce five to satisfy this verse?" That would ‎also be a good question. To answer this, you should understand that divorce is the last ‎solution in Islam to end a bad marriage; why then divorce if the marriage was a good ‎one? The Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) had a model marriage with his wives.‎\n\nLet me explain this from a different perspective with a similar case that comes to mind. I ‎heard that the Chinese Government restricts the people of China from having more than a ‎certain number of children (I do not know if this is still true). Now imagine that you are a ‎Chinese with nine obedient and loving children, then this rule was enforced for the first ‎time so that you should not have more than four children; would you kill the other five ‎just to satisfy your government regulation?‎
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Yes.  I am married to a muslim man.  I follow an earth religion and he is muslim.  We both practice our religion and are happy together.  We have been married for almost 5 years now.  I have learned a lot from being with him.\n\nYou can work things out, if you love each other and respect each other, religion will not stand in the way of it.