I am going to a funeral for my friend....?
544279
In today's overly liberal society, they would suggest grief counseling, therapy, all sorts of stuff like that.  I think it's bullsh*t.  My father died last year, 4 months before his first grandson was born.  As painful as it was, I never forgot that in this life, all things happen for a reason, and everybody dies.  You will grieve.  And it will get better.  The pain you feel may seem extreme, but it's perfectly normal.  REAL pain is a kid with bone cancer, or a brain tumor.  Have faith, know he's in a better place, and celebrate his life rather than mourn for his loss.  Everybody dies sometime!
866502
Are you talking about death? If so you have to think about what is best for the person you love. Are they in pain? Will they be better off if they die? Do you want to keep them alive for you and not let them go so they can finally rest? Losing my grandma was horrible but it was best for her. Its hard to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. I grieve before and during the funeral. After I remember the good things and talk about the person. I still feel sad when I think about her and sometimes tear up but I know she is better than she was.
1159349
If she has kids, offer to watch them so that she can visit her sister's grave.\n\nPlant a tree on her grave that will bloom flowers.  It will be nice for your friend to have a shady place to sit when she visits her sister and to see something strong and beautiful, which may reflect how she remembers her sister being.  Not only that, but it will make her sister's grave distinct and unique in the cemetery - she'll always be able to find her if she knows where the tree with the pink flowers is.\n\nTalk to her about her sister comfortably, let her share, and share what you remember about her.\n\nOffer to go with her to the cemetery and bring something to leave at the gravesite that you know her sister would like (favorite kind of flowers, windchimes, pictures, etc).\n\nIf you have any pictures or home videos that include her sister in them, make copies and give them to her.\n\nIf you have access to a lot of pictures of her and her sister, make a nice arrangement of them and frame them for her.\n\nThis might sound strange, but I know it's been done - Go with her to her sister's favorite place (park, lake, playground) and carve her name on a tree or into a stone if you can.  It's a way of leaving a physical mark that this person lived and was in that place.  It will be something that she can go back to and see and remember.  It sounds like an odd tribute, but it really can be meaningful.\n\nOffer to go with her to the funeral, wake, burial, family reception, etc.  Do not assume that this is for family only, and do not make her ask you.  Just ask if you can be there for her at these things.  She needs you more than you know.
92388
I'm sorry to hear that. Did he just pass away? I'll copy this from a book I have on checklists for everything:\n1) Call a close friend or family member to help you.\n2) Find out is he had already made final arrangements.\n3) Decide about the funeral. The body can remain as is for 72 hours, so you have time to decide on your choices.\n4) If you need to relocate the body before burial plans are finalized, you can ask for a temporary storage at a funeral home. Make sure you indicate the funeral director that you might have a different option of funeral home. You can do that.\n5) Inform friends and family about service after details are finalized.\n6) Keep careful track of the original death certificate. You'll need it. Make a ton of copies.\n7) Decide on an obituary and where it should appear.\nTake care.
544313
Sometimes the County will pay for a funeral, check into it.\nGood Luck!
380486
Get 2 friendship rings, necklaces or bracelets and have it in graved(ex:you will always be my friend. I love you and I'm going to missed you.)one for you and one for your friend so you're never be apart. Hope you like my suggestions!
833707
Most families would be honored and appreciate your just being there.  These days, you don't have to just wear black to funerals, but I would consider each individual family. In some cultures, people do wear black. Again, the most important thing is being there!  \n\nI'm sorry for your loss!!!
565229
in his/her grief, your friend would tend to tell stories about his/her mother. just listen to him/her talk. be patient.
463591
I would say to do what you feel is right! If you feel that you should be at his funeral to show respect and to put closure then by all means be there. Hopefully though this will not happen.
75538
First of all, my condolences go out to you. Try remembering fun things you did with your pappaw. I do it quite frequently, as my grandfather passed away just before Chritmas. Did you fish, go to the movies, go to the park, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, anything memorable with him. If so, try to think about the most exciting things you did together. If you are religious, try prayer or meditation, depending on your religious preferences. If he was suffering before he passed, think of how comfortable he must be now that he is not suffering. If you have a pastor, mentor, or close friend, try talkin about your feelings with them. I truly hope you gain some comfort in the time to come.
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Live a life that is worthy of him being your friend!\n\nNo easy way to get over a loss, but I am sure he would be glad to know he is missed!\n\nHE would not want you to be crippled by this though, so by living a life of honor, people will reflect that to the friends he had. People associate you to the people you are friends with so be a great person and honor his memory!
801778
my friend my love and my prayers and my spirit is with you at this time.  and I did not know what you are going through right now.  and I am so sorry that your family members have died and \nhopefully they are with god and they are in god' hands and god want it your family members to be with him for a reason and god\ntook them and so and when it is your time to go with god and god\nwill took you to be with him and your family members and when god want you and not in your time but in god's time and it will be the right time for you to be god and your family in heaven. and yes\nI know that you are in pain and I wish that I can help you with whatever you going through right now. yes my dad died in february 14, 2006 and my dad died on cancer. and yes I think that\nI know what you are going through right now. and yes my son david died in my stomach 13 years ago.  and yes I can relate to you my friend. and the why I look at this is that god took my son to\nbe with him and because it was god child before it was my child\nand god loan that child to me for a short time and god wanted my\nson to be with him and he is absent from the body is to be present with the lord.  maybe the lord want me to talk to you today\nand so i can try to help you today. my friend please listen to me and please go the pain go and so can you can be from your pain.\nmy friend if you go to church please to your pastor and your \npastor wife and they can help with your situation and all of you\ntalk to you and pray with each other.  my friend my heart out to you right now and I have so much compassion for you. and my love and my prayers and my spirit is with you.  and I don't want you or your mom to give each other a hard time and help each other and talk to each other ok and pray with each other ok. and the bible psalm 118:24 this is the day the lord has made we will\nrejoice and be glad in it. and god love you so much and he will never leave or forsake you and it with you at all times and when you can pray to god and will hear your prayers and and god will answers your prayers and my your prayers come to pass in god's timing and it will be the right time for you my friend and I hope that I help you today my friend and jesus and I love you and \nmy prayers are my love is with you and have a happy thanksgiving with your family or friends or whoever or with the lord and that is best with thanksgiving to spend with the lord. and \nthe lord will help you today. trust in the lord and keep your eyes on\nthe lord my friend. and have a good day today my friend leighanne\nleighanne62@yahoo.com\nplease email me if you want to ok.\nand please let me know how you are doing with yourself ok.\nso long for now.
796688
The purpose of a funeral is not always to honor the dead - sometimes it's to honor those left behind and show support.\n\nIf there's any way you can go (without losing your job or something), I would absolutely go.  It seems that there's a close bond between your s/m and your kids at least, and I believe it would be wrong not to go if you're able. \n\nIt's never a bad thing to do more than what's "expected."
291062
I am very sorry for you loss. Each person grieves differently and for various times. As each days passes it will hopefully get easier for you. Take care and I will keep you in my prayers.
223664
Well!!! I'm certainly cheered up for the day!! You seem to have a knack for starting the day off right!!!\nSeriously tho, tell me when and where the funeral is, and I'll try my darndest to get there!
1172002
Ask the undertakers/funeral managers...they should know.
596628
Would this mother figure want you to go to great expense and trouble to visit her? If not, then do not attend her funeral. If your presence will not be missed by her family members, think about having a private remembrance time of your own (where you are) during her funeral. Your heart grieves for your loss and sometimes seeing the body you have loved one more time provides closure, but sometimes it deepens your sense of loss. \n\nIf you still feel compelled to attend, explain to your forever friend that you were tied to this woman in a way you were not tied to his parents. You were repaying a long-owed debt of love and loyalty to this woman.\n\nI'm sorry for your loss. I have dear ladies in my life and cannot fathom your pain.