My friend is having trouble. She is going out with a 19 year old and she is 13. He is urging her to have sex.?
535570
Bad news, tell her parents.
647677
being friends doesnt mean being friends in good times, and then abandoning them in bad times. it sounds to me like you care about this person but are scared and confused. i too was in this situation not long ago with my best friend of 12 years. i stood by her side, even though i knew what she was doing wasn't right. to be a friend is to walk in when the rest of the world walks out on her. if she's endangering herself or doing something illegal (i.e having sex with an adult, having sex without using protection or a reliable birth control system), you should tell an adult--it may save her from getting STDs or becoming a victim of rape. do what you think you need to do, but i suggest be there for her. afterall, what are friends for? Good Luck
941300
That is a bad, bad deal.  Get him out while you can.  I have a friend who was 22 and slept with a 16 year old (stupid, stupid, I know) and now he has to walk up to everyone in his neighborhood and tell them he is a sex offender, by law.  He is wearing the Scarlett Letter because he was "in love" and all that other bs he told us at the time.  Now he is effed for life.  Tell him to get out of it, whatever you do.  He is an actual child predator.
559000
maybe hes just not ready to have sex.\nif hes already had sex then maybe he doesnt like her as much as he says he does.\ni say tell her to talk to him about it& if nothing works out then break up with him.\nsometimes you need an emotional as well as a physical relationship.\ngoodluckkk
1060517
Its a Go Go from me! 51 oh please he is old enough to be her father! Dude needs some bashing from his wife! He deserves it! Tell your friend to be strong and keep ignoring him and if he still follows her at work etc tell her to report it as sexual harassment. Once he is reported he for sure will keep his distance!
706690
you are waaay to young to date.\nTell your friend that.
513285
sadly, thats about the going time for sex now. If she pretended to be a virgin, the whole thing was based on a lie. My advice would be to leave her alone. He was a virgin, and sadly, he'll always remember her. Just tell him that there are plenty more people out there who are better and just to wait for the right one next time.
811816
He is pretty much melesting a minor. It is agianst the law in alot of states. You should tell someone if she doesn't get the message! He's an adult male and she hasn't but maybe just hit puberty. She is still a child in the eyes of the law and science. Too young for his dirtty motives. I'm glad you asked, plelase talk to her about it. All he wants is her innocence.
143843
if your friend is not ready to make love with the guy we tell her not to. if the guy loves her he will respect her decision of not doing IT with her..
529276
THEY WONT STOP NOW, JUST DONT INCOURAGE IT, BUT TRY TO MAKE SURE THAT SHE IS SAFE, TAKE HER IN FOR CHECK UPS, LET HER KNOW ABOUT ALL THE BAD THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN AND MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS TO MAKE HIM WEAR A CONDOM.
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You have to take her aside and ask her with all seriousness, is she in a relationship? Did she do anything she should be telling you?\n\nIf she says no - I know it will be hard, but you have to confront her. Set down some ground rules - no having sex until she is old and mature enough to manage a relationship.\nHer education and her health is the most important thing.\n\nYou have to question her, Why did she have sex? Did she felt pressured? Did the guy force her to do so? Did he manipulate her? (If you dont have sex with me means you don't love me, said by many cheap guys who want free sex).\n\nYou have to teach your daughter to respect herself and encourage her to reject guys who are after an easy victim to let out his sexual lust.\nMaybe she's been having some problems in school. Peer pressure is a very big thing. Have you been focusing on your daughter enough?\n\nI really sympathize with you, because if I were in your position I would be terribly hurt and at a loss of what to do. \nBut you have to be strong, sit your daughter down and talk to her. Tell her she's too young to be having sexual relationships with boys. At this age, all boys want is a girl, an easy victim he can sexually experiment on.\nThat's why if I were you, I'd never let my daughter be some boy's "experiment" She's worth so much more than that, she deserves a boy who will appreciate her and not use her for sexual release.\nRight now you have to be firm with her. Children needs guidance. The whole "I'm your friend" thing - it works, but don't forget you're her mother too and you MUST lay down strict ground rules for you child and monitor her activities more.\nI'm sorry you had to see that.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
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It really isn't your problem. But you can try to help her, by letting family members know and maybe even school consulars.\n\nIf the men she has been with are older then it is a legal matter. She obviously doesn't care so she won't help the police in the matter.\n\nToo many young girls end up doing this and then start having kids when they too are kids. This in turn becomes everyones problem.
318630
That is the worst idea I have ever heard.  Why would she want him to have sex with other people? Sounds like she has some issues and that is not a healthy lifestyle for you to be getting into. Since you are asking, I would say deep down you probably have your own reservations about it and know the answer already.
102503
Make sure she has a curfew, know her friend's parents and their rules, know who she is hanging out with and what they do.  Talk to her about sex and your concerns.  Parents who burry their heads in the sand are more likely to have children participating in risky behavior.  And when the time comes and she wants to have sex, let her know that while you don't approve of it, that you want her to be safe about it.
1029673
There is NO WAY ON EARTH that a 14 year old should be going out with an 18 year old.  It is not "against the law" to date, but anything sexual with him is a crime (for him, not for you).
695099
Hopefully she is mature enough to have protected sex.  She is not bad but she must be responsible enough if she is sexually active.
740368
Well give her time. May be its something going on in her life, that you might want to ask her, and l;isten to her, and help her out!\nMay be she was raped(God Forbid)\nMay be its something you did during one of your sex sessions!\n\nDont ask her for sex now or why she cant have sex with you now, \nTalk to her and dont be like without sex there is nothing that can happen between u 2!\n\nShe might even be pregnant and fearing to tell you!  Or she might have done some one else!\n\nTo know the right answer, you gota sit down with her and talk to her. Listen to her speak and dont interupt.