im 18 and just got engaged i know people are going to be judgemental what do you think?
545403
I think that people will be judgmental.  I think that all couples who get married should go to pre-marital counseling.  I think that it is going to be harder for you because you both still have so much growing up to do.  I am 23 and just got married in October... I changed so much between 18 and now.  It doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't get married but you do have to be willing to really work at your marriage if you want it to last.
1167731
The age difference would not bother me.  I think that age is often over rated.  My fiance is 11 years older than me.
616088
I dont think there is a good age to get married, just make sure its the right time for you.  Never rush into marriage even if you are determened to be with the same person for the rest of your life, plan your wedding the way you want it and start saving for the things you would like.  I get pressured alot from my boyf family to marry now.  But even thou ive been with him for over 8 yrs we know we want he full works at our wedding and we know that doing it now is easy but thatwould be a budgetted wedding and its not what we want.
1165246
you are making care-full moves i hope you carry with it. As you said it would be too early. I would also opine in the same tone but it seems you are making some irresistible haste which will be waste, if you do not use your own brains. My personal opinion being "look before you leap" suggesting you to be cautious. Some great people say that "your heart should not rule your head"  because they have succeeded in their life by making proper moves at right time. Your age from your profile does not give you freedom to make your own choice on major decision's of life, even though you are major. In this particular episode if you are going to make a long time relationship you should take advice of your parents too. anyway life is yours these are my personal opinion so that you do not fall in a ditch and repent after wards. Net friendship should not be taken seriously until everything is tested first on net itself through cam's, voice chat etc. anyway best of luck.
1142728
GO FOR IT it could turn out great and you shouldnt have any regrets in life and dont worry about age its just a number i am 9 years younger then my fiance and we met on the net that was almost 2 years ago
832586
I think it is totally unacceptable but at the same time I'm not in your situation.  At the end of the day you are still going to be your own person and make your own decisions.  If you do decide to carry it out then I wish you the best of luck and I really hope it doesn't blow up in your face.\n\nGood luck!!!
879420
You are both old enough to make your decisions.  You should not have to elope.  You need to be mature enough to face your family and tell them you are a adult and that you love each and everyone of them but this is the decision you have made.  They can except it or not but you have made the effort to stand up for how you feel.  They will eventually come around.  A good strong family will stand be side you what ever decision you make.  It may take them awhile to accept but they will.      \n\nWhen I  married my husband 27 years ago family could not stand him.  They disowned me.  It hurt me but I went on.  They eventually came around!!! Your family is just looking out for you best interest.  \n\nGood Luck!
984881
I've noticed there are a lot of rash judgements made on here. I think most people that do that are trying to make up for their lack of authority in life (whether they're young or just generally feel inadequate). Possibly it is an accurate reflection of the world, possibly not. Don't let it get to you too much. Just focus on separating the wheat from the chaff. :)\n\nSorry to hear about your daughter and the challenges.
885751
If you're not sure now then it won't help if you get married.  Call it off now before you make a huge mistake.  You probably don't want to live the rest of your life like that.  I don't know many people who would want to.
260957
24, recently married.  I feel that you should be over 20, also have some direction in life before you drag someone else into it.  But if it is true love you will know with out any doubts.
478339
yeah right. i'm assuming that you are a guy, so wait until you get married and see if your childhood opinion changes.
421260
It really depend how mature you are, most 17 year old i know isn't mature enough to be engaged or to be married. Listen to your heart, your brain, family and friends, because sometime when you'rein love you can't see what other see, think about it then make the best decision,  your life & happiness is in your hand.
798504
I am 20 and my fiancee is 27....I don't see anything wrong with age...go for it! If it was like a 16 year old with a 30 year old thats kinda gross. Have fun!! :)
1151680
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
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I wouldn't do it! You are still so young. Read some of the past posts on here about girls who got married too young, and are miserable because they didn't get a chance to live their lives more. You need to go out, date, break a few hearts, and have yours broken (it happens) so you can learn from it and find the perfect man for you. Don't tie yourself down so young that in a year, when all your unmarried friends are out partying and having a good time at 18, you're at home with hubby, miserable...Or ever better yet, home alone because hubby is out with friends.....Live some more before you make that decision to marry, otherwise you won't be happy at all...If he loves you, he will wait!! GL;)
69869
I hate to have to break your rule because I am under 28 but over 21.  I know because a lot of my ex's were over 28 and a lot of friends and colleagues are in the age range as well.  \n\nI know for a fact that the word marraige is like taboo for some people because they feel like in some way this thing that is suppose to be happy is going to be a bad experience.  When you think about the divorce rates and how many people are having marital issues a lot of people attibute those issues to be being married instead of the real reason- THE COUPLE DID NOT THINK BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED or are not aware of how to resolve their problems. \n\nMany people who have even been in long term relationships are not willing to even discuss marriage as an option.  I do not know why it seems so scary to so many people because marriage is suppose to be one of the greatest achievements in life.  This person is suppose to be your helper, lover, best friend and confidant.  Why wouldn't you want to spend everyday of your life with them? I think this is one of those questions that will never have a clear answer until we wake up and start realizing the importance of MARRIAGE.  It is the foundation for a family.  I could go on and on as to why people  are afraid to get married.  But my honest belief is that people are afraid of what could happen (in the negative instead of the positive).  \n\nI have friends who have been together for 4 yrs. and have children together but when you bring up marriage they are like "What? Who me? Oh, I'm not ready for that?" It is amazing.  It never fails to shock me. \n\nI will be getting married in one year and I look forward to the day that I become my mate's wife.  I feel like marriage only betters your life. I am sorry if this was long but I really have strong feeling about marriage.  Thanks for the question!  I hope you get a lot of answers.
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I'm 20 and my fiance is 21.. weird... same ages.. we've been together for 3 years and engaged 1.. we will have been engaged for 2 and together 4 when we get married next September. I don't think age is an issue.. you have to do whats right for you when you're ready, you can't put a time frame on love  :) if you and your boyfriend want to be engaged 20 years and have a 10 year honeymoon, by all means.. do it ... do whatever makes you happy.. life is too short to worry about what other people think =)  good luck