I am an indian and my manager is an american . What should I do to get along with her?
543226
First, what does this have to do with your genetic heritage?\n\nSecond, just do your job above and beyond what is required and you will become indispensible.
951213
<>YOu will need to sit down and establish the type of relationaship you want to have with her early on...first thing, in fact.  You need to explain to her what you require of her, and how you will be rating her performance.  If you want it to be strictly professional, you will have to state that.  You are a manager now....exert your authority.  But remember, managers are made or broken by their subordinates.
964939
Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.\n\nbefriend this person, don't complain about them any more, and wham when ever they say  bad - you can casually mention to the boss which is negative about the job or your boss let your boss know :)  Yeah be a backstabber/brown noser
836283
Remind her who you report to...follow the chain of command. Is she your immediate supervisor? If so, then you have to comply with her requests, if she isn't, then you are within your rights to turn her down. Have your co-workers handle her the same way. She will soon get the message and back down. Try to keep one step ahead of her always.
1099233
Ok, it is time to play the game "spy's are us".  You have worked with this company and made friends who will support you.\nUse that to your advantage.  She is going to be trained by someone you know, eat lunch with someone you know, take breaks with someone you know.\nComing from a female, all females talk and talk and more talk.  So give a person enough rope and they will hang themselves.  Let your friends be your eyes and ears for you.  \nYour husband might be right and they are only friends.  You won't know anything if you get her fired.  So hang in there and bite the bullet.  You learn a lot playing the I am a dummy game too.  \nBest of luck to you and hope all goes well.
722388
You are in a difficult situation and your reaction is totally understandable. If you have tried talking to her and feel this hasn't improved, there is not much you can do. Usually people react like that (especially people higher up then you) when they feel threatened. This would highly seem the case as she seems to get along better with people who are not as academically qualified as you are.\n\nThe way I see it, you have three options:\n1) you continue on and talk to her again to try an understand why she is like that\n2) talk to her supervisor about your concerns and see if they can do anything to help\n3) look for another job either in another department or in a completely different company.\n\nHope it all works out for you in the end you should work to live not live for work!
365108
Can you be a little more specific in your question, do you mean a manager at a multi-national company or what?\n\nPlease write questions in proper grammar and be as detailed as possible in order for people to try to answer your question.
798489
I used to get called a prarrie nig&er racism is ignorance in the first degree! Be proud of who you are and file a complaint with your employer and see if this qualifies for harrassment, maybe get a restraining order agasnt her!
371674
Try to do what you are told and have as little contact as possible. Depends on politics also. My guess is they paying him or her next to nothing and if does not work out, next, and the next will be the same hungry bend over backwards useless manager. This is a typical cheap corporate way of not paying for good help. I would also look at the bosses boss or the company for that matter. This may not be the company you want to work at.
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Learning to advocate for yourself is both an important and learnable skill. There is no reason for consumers to be unhappy with the goods and \n\nservices they receive. A respectful and thoughtful, though forceful, letter of grievance can turn a lemon into lemonade. Here is how to do it. \n\nSteps \nBe polite! Being rude won't get you anywhere! Use a reserved and respectful tone. Try to avoid accusing someone of something untoward. In reality \n\nunless the company you have dealt with is intent on defrauding you, the people you have dealt with in the company mean for you to be happy so \n\nthat you will come back and bring friends. \nKeep on point and get to the point fast. Do not tell the whole story (how you got to the store, who was with you, what you had for breakfast...) \n\nOnly give the facts that are pertinent to your case and fact pattern. \nSend copies of reciepts and bills of lading as well as checks you sent and, if appropriate, photos or videos, etc. All documentation should go with \n\nyour letter. You do not need to send sworn letters of witnesses. In fact, if you think you might wind up in court over this, you might want to hold \n\nback not only the witness' statement but her name as well. \nNever threaten legal action. If you intend to go that route, send your letter first, then if the response is not adequate, write to a supervisor and \n\nthen see an attorney. He will know just what to do if the supervisor's letter receives an unsatisfactory response. Legal action is your last resort and \n\nleading with it in your letters sets a negative tone and may come back to bite you if your bluff is called. \nWork up the chain of command. Each time you move from customer service rep to supervisor to director to Vice President to CEO, you should \n\nattach the correspondence you have had at the previous level. This will update your new company representative and very possibly get the matter \n\nresolved in a non-litigious way. If you go right to the top, chances are the CEO is not going to know what you are talking about or why you are \n\nupset. He will only have half a story (yours) and if he investigates, will not know who to talk to. \n\n\n\nTips \nDo not write the letter at the moment when you are angry; wait until you have calmed down. Take some time and refelct on what has occurred. \n\nWhen you have thought the whole thing out and know just what you want and how you want to ask for it, you will be ready to write your letter \nBe sure your letter includes your name, address, e-mail, and phone number (home work and cell if possible). Also, be sure to ask for the reader's \n\ninformation as well so you can be kept and keep them up to date on your case. \nIf you are writing to complain about a specific person, limit your letter to their shortcomings and do not disparage the organization as a whole. If \n\nyou are writing to complain about a policy of the company, do not insult the listener or the policy; just state your problem and how you want it to \n\nget fixed. \nWarnings \nIt is illegal to write a letter that contains threatening language. If you threaten someone, even with a law suit, it can be held that you aggravatedly \n\nharassed someone and you could get a criminal record for sending the letters.
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The only thing I can suggest is trying to find some people to talk to often in English that aren't other Indian people. Go to stores and restaurants and spend whatever time you can talking to people without looking too crazy. If you can meet someone that is a native speaker and become friends, that's the best option.
934010
i think i would consult the manager (as a manger of a store) when there is conflict between employees it really hurts the business, it may not be noticeable now but it will hurt the business.  this is what i would do, go to the manager, tell him/her what this person is doing tranlate what she wrote, and tell him i am her to work and not be playing games with people, and that i am afraid of her actions toward me and the may result in customer loss (if what shes doing this stuff in front of the customers........good luck and hope it all works out for you
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Pushed,\n\nYou're not going to like what I have to say...but I'm going to lay it down for ya, bro, 'cause you need to hear it.\n\nI'm going to venture a guess that you're attending a University here in the U.S., and that you're a student from abroad. That's fine...nothing wrong with that, hope you get your diploma and get a fine education while you're here. The main issue here is your perception of how women are to relate to men. I don't care which country you are from...makes no difference to me. What I'm sensing is that there is some confusion about the way women are to interact with men, as in a big difference between where you're from and how it is here.\n\nPushed, YOU read a LOT into how the lady spoke and interacted with you as a member of her lab team. She probably went out of her way to be nice to you, and since you were going to be working together, she felt that if everyone were on a friendly basis, things would go easier. \n\nIt's likely that she felt that you got the wrong idea, and stopped interacting with you...she backed off and started speaking to you perfunctorily, and only when necessary. You claim that she 'likes' another male member in your lab group now...not likely, Sir. It's likely that she's just interacting with him in a manner she's used to with men in general. Sir, you are a guest here, and you need to be sensitive to the culture in which you have chosen to immerse yourself. The women here can be sensitive and friendly to you, but you've no right to force your views and cultural cues onto anyone...even if it means that a woman where you are from is expressing "severe" interest in you as a man by acting like that, that is NOT what it means here.\n\nI don't rightly know if you'll ever get a chance to square things with this woman. If you were given an opportunity, your obligation would be to acknowledge your mistake like a man and apologize to her for making her uncomfortable.\n\nAt the risk of angering you, I will say that it is imperative for you to learn the ways of the people where you are travelling to, and to acclimate to your host's environment...not the other way around. That is the difference between being a sophisticated international traveler and a country rube on vacation.
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GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
833831
One of my friends has a Indian father and a Mexican mother. Just learn to compromise and things may work out.
1083019
Good luck.  Stick with an American if you want the job done right.  Stop outsourcing all of our jobs to foriengers, we have enough right here.  OK?
625987
Look them directly in the eye the first time they do it and ask them if they're feeling ok.  Then tell them your expectation is that they will treat you with respect.  If they continue, document every incident so that you have specifics to present to your supervisor.  Many managers would like to also deal with the issue but it is difficult when employees only approach them with generalities like "Susy Q. is rude to me."  Managers need specifics to be able to address the issue with the employee.  They need to know exactly what was said by both of you, the date and time, and if there were any witnesses.  If you provide this, you will find get better responses.  Also, ask yourself why you have had this issue on every job.  Perhaps you could take a conflict resolution course as well.  Also, most often the guilty party is a completely different person in front of the manager so it sometimes takes awhile for the manager to ferret out the real situation.