how  do you tell some one they have a  bad habit and have them stop with out hurting their feelins???
551552
Be honest.  If it is a woman, take her out for a cup and explain it to them.  Take a guy out for beer.  It could go something like this:\n\nSusie Q, we have been friends for 2 years now and you know that I would never say anything mean to hurt you.  I have noticed that you pick you nose in public and it gives others a bad impression of you....etc.
138819
Well from personal experience, be a good listener for them.  Encourage them to talk to you or anyone that they can trust about what is bothering them.  Above all don't let them fall through the cracks.  Encourage them to keep doing the things that they need to like go to work if they have a job or go to class if they are in school.  If they stop doing these things, matters will only get worse.  For example, if they get fired because they haven't been going to work that will add to their depression because then they feel like they are worthless, so to speak.
996783
You need to get some self confidence and I don't mean that in an ugly way.  That is all that you need in order to hold your ground.  You need to know that you can keep it together when someone is putting you down and realize that it is just words and like the saying goes, sticks and stones break my bones but words will NEVER hurt me!  Listen to what they have to say and if its something that you did, apologize, then just stand there and take what they have to say with a stone face.  Show no emotion!  Some people will keep doing hurtful things to people because the other person will take it and get upset and hurt.  The person that keeps doing it is usually a sad person themselves and needs someone that is "smaller and weaker" than their own selves to make them fell better.  Remember that the next time it happens and maybe they will stop.  If they don't stop doing it to you, then at least you will have walked away with the self respect and self confidence that is needed to conquer whatever the rest of the world is going to dish out.
1154541
That is a really tough one... hm... I have a friend like that too, and I kinda just let it go. Maybe next time they bring something up like that, you can change the subject. Like if they say something like "I am so cool!!!!!" you can say "Speaking of cool... wasn't it cold last night?"... you know, really silly things, like take something from their sentence and say something that has to do with it. \nHowever, if they get mad just tell them the truth. Be like "I'm sorry, but you just made me feel like I was lower than you. You know? Like you are better than me." Just be honest (but throwing in a little guilt trick won't hurt) They might get mad, but eventually someone is going to tell them, and they aren't going to be nice about it. So take the chance that you have now, and just be honest with your friend. I have a pretty good feeling it will work out. Good luck! :)
1109904
talk to a close friend....thats what i did. and it turned out that she had almost started cutting so i kept her from starting and she helped me quit. it was so easy....but i didn't do it for very long. now when i feel stressed or depressed. i blast my music and clean or exercise instead of cut. and if that doesn't work...i have my friend on speed dial.
245244
The best way to approach a person with a bad attitude is with a smile.  \n\nBe very respectful to this person as they sound like they may have an over-inflated ego and need it to be stroked often, hence the abuse.  \n\nStay focused on the reason you are approaching this person, even if this person tries to distract you to another subject.  \n\nBe polite and calm and most of all professional.  \n\nMost important, do not be intimidated by this person.  This person, considering what you stated about them, will most likely look at this as a weakness and not take you seriously if you behave intimidated.\n\nGood Luck!
296621
You can let them know that they are offending you and try to fix it ,or if you don't want to risk conflict ask someone to be a go between,or pray and ask god to take the resentment you feel away.
385940
Well the only way I know is to confront them straight up and tell them that you think they have a problem and you need help and that you will be there for them if they need it. Tell them that you are afraid of them hurting themselves.
1163175
ok you're obviously feeling crappy about something you've done. whatever it was, if you really want to change, make a sacrifice that will make things better for someone that you've hurt. Also, feeling crap isn't enough. You have to make yourself a promise that you will actually change.. but most importantly, you need to actually stop being a bad person, and excercise some will power when the moment of temptation actually comes. that's what it all come down to- the moments of truth.
1132055
you have to give them an extremly repetitive thing for them to focus on and then you have to get them to "sleep" then you tell them what to do you have to keep you voice monitone and not going to lie it usally wont work because the person hase to be totaly willing if they are scared or dont trust you completly than it wont work...\ngood luck  an dplease dont be mean. thank your my hero
88083
I know you don't want to hear it, but GO TO A MEETING! I don't know what kind of addiction your talking about, but to get off on the "right-foot", you need to know, your not alone with your problem. You need "their support", as much as they need yours.Addiction is a pain in the ass, but it can be conquered. You have to stay clean, and build inner strength.
380464
be totally straight about it...no matter how u do it, its gonna hurt someone...and i think if ur 2 nice about it they might not take u seriously...so i would just tell them exactly how i felt and why
651911
just say sorry in front of every one if u have really committed something wrong. and care for her/him every now and then so that he/she will develop a soft corner in their heart.
618807
Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
836257
Just say ouch!  And tell him not to bite too hard because it hurts.
31280
stop tryin please people.  u cant not hurt everyones feelings.  just offer the person wit bad breath gum all the time.  get the flavored gum so they dont suspect ur hintin that.  i have no clue wat to do for the person u not friends wit.
1165054
You have to sit down with your friend and have a long serious talk with her and tell her how much your nervous for her because of what she is doing and how she can get hurt from all her negative actions.You shouldn't try to make her feel guilty by saying you'll start cutting again because that won't help and it won't persuade her because  she'll just say she has the right to get high as much as you do cutting.Let her know that if she doesn't get rid of her habbits that you don't feel comfortable with her having she could lose you as a friend.Don't get mad at her or yell be calm and be the best possible friend that you can and motivate her into becoming something better and hopefully she will reconsider.If she doesn't listen to you,you must tell an adult you trust and they can take it from there.