i am 25 yrs old girl. i love a person very much.i only wants to marry hom but his parents hates me.?
544360
Looks like the guy is a mommys boy?!! If hes from a single parent family especially, drop everything cut ur losses and run like the wind dudette!  on a serious note, I understand you must now be feeling like you cant ever go on with  out him and that your world will end. trust me it wont, you are best to put an ultematum (is tht how u spell it? oh who cares!) to him and say either u marry me or stay with the mom.  Also dont be a martyr and live with them, live separately even if its a yard from his moms home.  If he wont leave his mom, u have to leave him and look onwards, it may not appear so right now, but you will meet someone else who deserves all your love and will reciprocate unconditionally without a mom for free!
646023
I agree for the most part with TypeANegative.  I believe that your sister has a serious crush on this guy and/or wants to run away from home with him.  Have you tried talking to this guy yet?  Maybe pointing out the difficulties involved will help.  If he doesn't budge from his position, try talking to his mom, and try to explain yourself to her.  If neither of these things work, then you probably should talk to your parents if you trust them, or if worse comes to worse you can try taking it to the police.\n\n\nI think that your sister shouldn't get married unless she's mature enough. Has enough education to be a good housewife,\nHas the approval of both sets of parents, and has somewhere to live after they're married.  I seriously think that you should talk with somebody that you know and trust who has gone through something like this before, e.g. running away from home, having a crush on a guy, marrying too young, etc.\n\nIf you don't have anyone to turn to and you've tried all of these things, well, I think that you should tell your parents anyways out of love for your sister even if you get in hot water with your parents and your sister.  It'll be hard but it'll probably be better in the long run.
493775
You are 25.  You are old enough to make your own decisions.  It would be best if you talked to your parents about it than hide the relationship any longer.  They will understand. They are family.  If they do not understand, then make them understand.  But I highly doubt it would be a huge problem.  Let your family know how you feel about her and where you see this going, especially if you see this going towards marriage.  You dont just want to surprise them one day with something you think they might not take lightly.  But I dont think its something you really need to worry about.  Remember, communication is key to a great relationship.  Good luck! =)
539364
are you sure it's only because of the looks? if it is, then sorry to say that's very stupid! have you told them you love him? if you haven't, you should. if you have, you need to tell them you're beyond the stage of caring about looks. if you truly love him, at least try to fight for him. their problem is hardly even a problem - explain that YOU have to live with his looks, not them. I'm an indian and my parents wouldn't dream of getting me married to someone who THEY think is good/bad looking. that's the last of their criteria! stand up for yourself
1170654
love has no bounds... if your guy loves you so much so that he can go against this world.... go with your guy.... its very difficult to find a pure love.... if you think you have found one, do anything to save that love.... people are not always so lucky.....\nif you dont have any blood relation then i don't see why you both can't get married.....\nbut before telling your parents... talk to your guy... as to whether he will be there standing with you or not.....
431206
First of all, it isn't his Mom's choice.  When I got married after dating for 3 years, my husbands Mom cried and cried because I was Jewish and not Catholic.  Threats were made, and she never approved.  My parents were the complete opposite.  I do not care if it is money, religion, race, etc. a Mom will find anything wrong with her son's choice.  It also does not matter if you are smarter than him.  What does that have to do with the price of beans?\nI'm sure she didn't approve of you because you were underage when you met.  I'm sure you had sex with him also and he could have been put in jail for both of your actions.  You were a minor and he was not.  That may be something she is angry at.  I would not be pleased to see my 20 year old son going after a 15 year old.  I do consider it wrong and very inappropriate.  Have you ever considered this as why she is upset?  I think you both need to sit her down and talk to you both.  \nAnd so what if he is cut out of the Will...he didn't make the money...his parent(s) did.  That should not be an issue in the first place.\nTo tell you the truth, you seem to have an issue with money, intellegence and you trying to defend yourself not being a social climber and a gold digger, makes me wonder.\nBut it is your life.  You are in love and she doesn't have a say in anything.  She had her turn to say yes to the man she loves, now it is your turn (and her son's turn).\nGo on with the wedding.
784833
Oh wow. This is completely a showing of the future if you two get married! Talk about tied to the apron strings. His parents are absolutely controlling him and he obviously doesn't want to end it. Is he living with them still? Maybe he has separation issues. Clingy to his parents...or feels like he has to obey because hes living there...\nOuch. Tread carefully here, cuz if he's 24 and still obeying, after marriage he's gonna be still obeying.
356349
Dont do it. You will hurt ur parents and she will hurt hers. N u will have lots of prob coping wz each others religion. \nFind som1 ur own religion n get married without breaking any1's heart
1081605
You are absolutely right. You have been very considerate to your parents, which shows your family culture. There is no hurry for marriage, now. Maintain good relationship with her and rightly no co-habitation till formal marriage. But tell your parents that if they want to see you married you would marry only her and none else. After all they are your parents, they will not like to stand on the way beyond a certain point. All the best.  God's delays are not God's denials. Patience is genius.
903075
You should make the choice.  I understand where your family is coming from - but I hear the love you have for him in the tone of your letter.  This is going to be one of life's "not so fair" choices.  You are 18 now.  You have a very grown up decision to make.  My best advice is to make completely sure that he is as wonderful as you think he is, cause this could separate you from the family who has loved you all your life.  I have an 18yr old son and it would kill me if he went against my wishes and married someone I didn't approve of.  Just BE SURE before you do anything.  Money and status are wonderful, but cannot replace a family.   Think long and hard.  Good luck!!
683862
If you love this man then by all means marry him. If you allow your mother to rule your love life you will be miserable for the rest of your life.\nMy mother hated my boyfriend. I met him when I was 13, we got married when I was 19 and have been married 10 years now and together 16! My mom still isn't too fond of him, but has learned that he isn't going anywhere and she just has to deal with it. \nGood Luck.. hopefully your mother will come around and see that he makes you happy.
1106758
Oh my...how complicated indeed. Love story like in the books, but I guess yours is reality. Stop and think for a moment here...what is your intention? The only person in this triangle relationship who really seems to be in a mess is you.\nDo you really deserve to feel this way? What did you do wrong? The answer is nothing....this whole situation is not your fault....and now you add to your misery, the need to explain your every move to someone who hasn't really done everything he could to be with you...Oh, believe me if he really wanted you ...no matter which culture...he wouldn't have just married the girl his parents wished for him to marry. Even in India nowadays ( I heard) young people go against their parents wish and marry who they want to marry. Wake up and face reality. You don't owe him anything...no justifications...nothing! You lost him when he married that woman...and he lost you....now don't lose yourself, too. Take care and start loving yourself for a change.
76582
I say you are now in a civilised country.. whilst parents are important the world over, you are the one that has to live with him, have sex with him, have children with him. Sounds to me that you need to marry your parents if you are so concerned
1043389
dont listen of all of them are u going to run to this man tell him marry me as my parents are forcing me to get married?haha hes going to be a man dont do that.during this time dont be in touch with this guy tell ur parents i wont get married now go off get a new job move to a new place then date man u love if not find a nice guy get married settle down marriage should be based on love and marriage shouldnt be for any other reason then two people themselves wanting to spend their life together not parents.
1112086
Just be patient with them and let them get use to the idea that you are now engaged. This is a initial reaction, and as a parent I know if my children are serious about a decision I might not like, I will eventually be won over by them being more mature than me. If your parents try to break you up, prepare your self's so that there is no miss communication between you and your fiancee', so their attempts will fail. The fact that you are of age and not luring this over their heads, and want their blessings tells me your probably both a pretty mature couple. In the meantime, just stay fast to your engagement, stick together on this issue, and give them time to realize that you are going to get" married" in time, and I bet eventually they will jump on the band wagon, and you and your financee' will have full support of the families.
694265
How old are you?  Are there customs/backgrounds/ethnicity issues that are causing your parents to red-flag the relationship?  Without a few more details it's gonna be kinda hard to advise you either way.  \n>>BUT<<\nIf you're old enough to be making your own decisions (18+), then all you can do is what your heart tells you, giving your parents time to accept it on their own rather than forcing the issue....but also taking into consideration what thier concerns and feelings are.\nBut if you're like 16 or so and younger??  Chances are you're emotionally to young to really know what "love" is.  You may sincerely care for this girl, and that's wonderful...but your parents may just be trying to protect you from getting to serious to soon.  They love you and just want to help guide you through the right choices.\nIf they are that strong-willed against it for whatever reason and at whatever age, it isn't something that you're going to be able to "convince" them of--any more than they can convince you to give up on this. Acceptance may come with time-as long as you don't disrespect your parents in this matter.
221997
Why do you want to marry this person?  If you're planning on marrying so some man will support you, he's obviously not dependable for that.  If you are ambitious on your own you will move to where you can find work or get training to find work, and then you probably won't appreciate him trying to mooch off of you.  \n\nSomeone who is 34 and educated or trained and trying to live off someone else is way too immature to get married.  He may be a charming and loving boyfriend but someone who acts like an adolescent at 34 will make for a totally miserable marriage.  You've got a major problem on your hands.