Whats the Best way to deal with SI. (Self Injury)?
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The best thing that worked for me was to find one person that I trusted more than anyone in the world and talk to that person.  There should be at least one person who knows that you do this to yourself.  Once you find that person, talk to them about why you SI and what are your triggers.  Maybe they can support you in your efforts to stop.  I haven't SIed in a few years, but think about it a lot, so make sure this person is someone that you plan on keeping around.  If that fails, and you are still in school, seek the help of a counselor.
1001520
First of all, you are not the only one who has felt like this.\n\nPhysical pain creates a distraction from what is really hurting you. Obviously, you are very stressed but you don't have to stay that way. You are dealing with some obsessive (thinking) and compulsive (behaving) issues in addition to probably some anxiety and depression. Instead of drinking or drugs or other forms of escape (or maybe in addition to these) you have somehow come up with the idea or knowledge that self harm will calm and make you feel better. Unfortunately, this only lasts a little while and it doesn't solve the real problem.\n\nPlease go see a professional counselor and perhaps doctor who can help you. The long term consequences may be significant if you don't. Just know that you are not alone and others have come before you who have successfully dealt with these feelings and behaviors and have overcome them.\n\nGood luck, my friend.
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See a thearapist or psyciatrist <sp?>.  Therapy and/or dication helps alot.  If the situation gets to bad and your affraid that you might hurt yourself in the real near future, get yourself to the ER / Hospital.  Psyc. hospitals aren't as bad as they are protraited and it may save your life.\n\nIn short there is help out there, if you can't find it on your own, your family doctor can steer you in the right direction.
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I have been a cutter since I was 11...I am now 18. I have also been in and out of rehab. You need to take it a day at a time. I just kept telling my self " I am not going to hurt myself today" and if I had to say it over and over and over again, I did.  Try that... if you mess up, dont get upset, just keep going.. So what if you mess up, just keep trying not to do it...its not the end of the world if you slip up. I also paint...I find that able to get some of my emotions out. I havent  cut in maybe 1 month...and you know what treat yourself to things and do things for yourself since you deserve them. Someone told me that you have to be selfish and focus on yourself in order to get better. I hope what I've said helps. If you belong to a church you might want to get involved in group with people your age. You might be suprised I did that, and I found that people were going through the same things I was. \nYou can email me if you want to talk. \nSavedbygrace2_8@yahoo.com
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Take baby steps, if your shy, then decide what would really bother you and try a small dose of it. we all have our little things about us, that we have a problem with. I used to have a problem going to a cafe by my self, so i decided one day to just go in and stay a few minutes, i stayed 5 minutes and left, next time alittle longer, until it doesn't bother me at all now. Another thing you got to understand, is life begins, when you learn to make fun of yourself, if you make a mistake, don't worry about it, real people won't make fun of you, the only one's that will make fun of you, are the very one's you don't need in your life anyway.
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Firstly...by getting it in your conscious. Hypnotherapy...self or help from psychiatrist. Then dealing with it there. It's in your subconscious because you are repressing it due to trauma. But yes, it will effect your life until you come face to face with it, and forgive yourself
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Hi,Daisy well all I can tell you is STOP!! I know its hard but you really have to try. Right now I'm trying to help my sister stop too. And she is also 14. Just think about all the people who LOVE you and what will happen if you cut your self to deep. If you need any more advise you can contact me at              youngwon1025@yahoo.com
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Are you trying to stop? If so, congrats! That's a big first step to take =) Anyways...\n\nFirst, you should research the topic so that you have an idea of what you are dealing with, with some tips on how to deal with it, tell others, and such. It might give you some insight to why you hurt yourself as well. A sight that gives a basic description is  http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/selfinjury.cfm  a good page with some links to other pages depending on what you need is http://teenadvice.about.com/od/cuttingbranding/  I would also suggest the site recoveryourlife.com  it is a site of self harmers, either who are trying to stop, have stopped and trying to keep from going back, or have stopped and want to help others quite. It's got a forum and a chat room. It is a very good site because it doesn't glorify or condone cutting (Such as saying things like "Cutting is awesome" or  "Do you know (celebrity name) cuts? that means its tight!"  or posting pics on the site for others to comment on and such. That doesn't mean the members aren't understand or cruel or whatever. They want to stop the problem, instead of encouraging it). \n\nA good thing to try is professional help. I got a counselor for my self harm issues, and he was understanding and helpful. Most councellors are not judgemental and do there best to help, though a few might not be able to help someone with self harm issues, just because they are not well trained in that area of psychology, but most are cool. He/she will help you uncover why you are hurting yourself, and try to stop the behavior. So i would suggest getting a counselor if possible, they can be a great help.\n\nAnother thing to do is to tell someone you love about this issue (if you haven't already). Self harming is a very hard thing to stop, much harder if you don't have someone helping you. Not trying to discourage you, it's just if you have someone helping and encouraging you along the way it is "easier" for you to quit. Tell someone you can trust and that won't judge you, and will listen to you. If you want to tell someone, here is a tip that will hopefully make it easier. (This is meant to be used in telling your parents, but it should work for anything really). You should write out a letter, explaining about the cutting, why you do it (if you know), some information about it (so that they can have an idea of what's going on), your point of view, etc... This allows you to get all of the things you want to get out out, so that you don't end up forgetting something if you tell someone straight forward. You can either give the letter to the person (or leave it somewhere they can find it), or use it as a guide to tell the person(s) directly. \n\nAlso, there are some tips to stop the urges to self harm. Here are a few:\n\n*Draw in red pen on the area where you usually cut yourself. *just ignore it and move on. ALL urges will pass in time, you just have to distract yourself until they do \n*Do something relaxing when you are stressed, take a warm bath, do a soduko, read a book, cross-stitch (that works for me) whatever makes you relax\n*Write in a journal how you feel when you want to hurt yourself, get your feelings out\n*Listen to music that either: 1. calms you down, makes you happy 2. music that talks about how you are feeling, like hurt, angry, etc... (be careful with this though, it could actually trigger you if you aren't careful)\n*Talk to anyone, not nessecarily about the cutting, just call up a friend to distract yourself.\n*Hit something (not yourself) like a pillow or something\n*Pray (if you are religious)\n*Just distract yourself in some way. The feelings will pass, you just need to give it time. \n\nThere are many more tips, but these are the ones i can think of off the top of my head. These are tips to deal with the feelings. Now some tips for the pain part. \n\n*Hold ice cubes in your hand. It gives you the pain
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1-800 DON'T-CUT (800-366-8288)\nSAFE Alternatives Program\n\nCall them sweetie. They are completely devoted to helping self-injurers. Stay safe and know that you aren't alone.
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Yes, I cut myself to release stress, frustration, and other things I can't deal with any other way.  Whatever people say, it works.  But it also has some unfortunate consequences.  For example, I'm working in New York this summer, where it's currently close to 90˚F (or it was during the day anyway), so the whole wearing long sleeves every day thing isn't so much fun.  And I'll be in real trouble when I'm in Mexico later this summer and want to be able to go swimming with my family, who don't know I cut (and aren't going to).  There's also the potential for infection and the likelyhood of scars.  That, and bandaids are really f***ing expensive.  But probably the biggest problem is that it's addictive.  When I first started cutting, I could have stopped any time I wanted to (or at least, I felt like I could).  Three years later, I've tried to stop and failed.  I can sometimes even go a couple months without cutting.  So the bottom line is don't start, and if you already have, get out while you can.\n\nInstead of hurting yourself, try taking whatever it is you'd use to hurt yourself (especially if you cut yourself), and apply it to cardboard instead.  If your particular form of self-harm involves bleeding, try drawing on your skin in red pen or marker.  I've also heard that snapping a rubber band against your wrist can help, but I found I just wanted it to hurt worse and I just made me want to cut more.\n\nYou're right that you need someone to help you.  You should talk to a doctor (personally, I've thought about going to the campus health center several times, but have yet to work up the nerve to actually do it), or if you're in your teens, a parent, teacher or other trusted adult, or if you're older, a close friend.  I know it's hard to ask for help (believe me, I've spend three years not being able to make myself do it), and if you want someone to talk to in the mean time you're welcome to email me at emilyrose1986@yahoo.com.
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Go talk to someone now!  A parent, friend, family member, someone who cares for you.  Have someone else to help share your burden.  I am sorry for how you have been treated, and I DO understand, believe me.  But you must realize that such people are hurting themselves, and therefore they will hurt people.  \nYou seem like you have a pure and tender heart.  Don't take it so much to heart.  People need you!
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Call 911 to get in contact with a suicide hotline. Then follow up with the appointment they make for you at your local mental health clinic. There is no shame in doing so, and is doesn't mean you are "crazy"...just a little confused. Do it now if you are thinking about hurting yourself. I mean RIGHT THIS MINUTE! AS SOON AS YOU FINISH READING THIS.
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hey whats up? i have depression and take depression medication, but i never got to the point where i can hurt myself. Hun, listen, noone can help you .. YOU have to help YOURSELF .. instead of cutting urself doing something else... gooo run around your town (make sure u tell someone where you are) goo to the gym ... but cutting yourself won't solve anything..if someone messages you calling you dumb, don't pay attention .. they're the dumb ones.\n\nPhsyciatrist are good for when you need advice and you need someone to talk to, but only you can help yourself, noone else. Believe in yourself. \n\nif you ever feel depressed.. u can email me babychellinha@yahoo.com <-- thats also my yahoo ID, Instant message me if you need to!!\n\ni hope i was good help\n\ntake care of yourself and i hope i helped a little.\n\nbye! take care\n\n<3 CHEllE
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Glad you aren't related to me! Yikes!  But, really though you do sound like you have some problems you need help with before you do something you will regret.  Call a mental help line or your doctor or if you really think you might hurt somebody just call the police & they will take you to a place where you can get help.  Please call them BEFORE you hurt or kill anybody ok?
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Apply for disability and other forms of public assistance.  That will help to take some of the pressure off of you while you learn to deal with this problem.  Don't give up, there are lots of medications to try.  Stop going to the emergency room, they can't help you.  Instead, spend your money on some alternative therapies.  Try meditation, or hypnosis.
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Talk to a trusted adult or counselor. If you have to, call 911 and tell them you need some help fast. Please do get into rehab and also some one on one therapy to try to find better ways to deal with your problems rather than cutting yourself. Also, the front of your local yellow pages should have several mental health resources that could provide you with the help you need. This is a serious problem and I don't believe the only other answer you got was a smart-mouthed insensitive answer.
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Lay down on your stomach. \nHold onto something (couch, sofa legs..)\nLift your straight legs as high as you can. \nRepeat until you feel as if someone beat you all over the backside. \n\nDo similar excercise laying on your sides. As many as you can. \n:&#92;\n\nThen continue torturing yourself in this manner daily for a month. \nResults guaranteed. \n\n(it's actually not as horrible as I make it sound)\n:)\n\n~K