Have you ever been bullied?
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First of all, Blackscythe has been reported for abuse.  You don't threaten people over the internet, or in real life, unless you are a fearful little jerk with no sympathy, no compassion, and no human feeling.  And if you're like that, you're not much of a human, and you're certainly no man.\n\nI'm 38, a teacher in junior high school -- which by the way is NOT a cesspool whatsoever.  We have programs in place here, and more and more schools are everywhere, that target, define and help stamp out bullying.  Teachers are trained in the overt and covert forms of it, and are given practical advice on how to combat it. \n\nThat said, I was bullied when I was in elementary, middle, junior high and high school for a variety of reasons.  No one ever made me cry; no one ever broke my spirit.  They just made me stronger and unbreakable, thus doing the exact opposite of what they intended.  I was bullied for my weight, for being a smart girl, for not bothering to hide my brains.  Whatever.  When people bully, it says a lot more about them and their insecurities than it ever does about me and my talents.\n\nRecently, a weird, dysfunctional man in my neighborhood tried to bully me about public parking.  He wanted to "save" public parking places, and I wasn't about to put up with that.  He banged on my car window, and I just looked the other way and very slowly and calmly got my stuff together, hoping that my total lack of reaction would piss him off and throw him off guard -- of course it worked.  He tried to curse at me, and he got up in my space threateningly.  So, I got up in his space, took two steps forward to his one, and screamed and yelled and cursed louder and longer, with more force, more vehemence and more style.  I got up in his face.  I gave it right back with double strength.  And this macho Hispanic dude literally backed away from me, running, with his palms up, submissively.  And of course since that one time that I stood up to him, he has not bothered me since, and I've gained his respect.  He knows not to mess with me, because I don't take it at all whatsoever.\n\nAnd that was what I did to everyone who tried to bully me: I stood up to them, looked them in the eye, and NAMED THEIR BEHAVIOR, framing it in the rudest, most pathetic, disparaging terms I could, to make me look completely innocent and them look like bumbling, fumbling, incompetent, obnoxious morons -- which they were.  Every time, since childhood, these bullies slunk away and I never had another problem.  I felt massively relieved and rewarded.  There is great, great value in having a sharp tongue.  It's because of my sharp tongue and slice-and-dice vocabulary that I've never been in a physical fight in my life; I could just insult the h-e-l-l out of you so that you slunk away in shame.  In a way I realize that what I did bordered on or was verbal abuse right back... but it stopped the attack on me, and there was no other problems were had.\n\nSo, stand up.  Look the person in the eye.  Name their behavior.  Be aware that bullies are always, always cowards.  And once you stand up to these cowards, they always, always back down.  Bullies are scared and insecure, and that weakness can be exploited and preyed upon.  Whatever they are attacking YOU for, that is what they hate and cannot accept in their own selves.  Turn it back on them.  Watch them squirm.  And watch them RUN away.  This is called guerilla psychological warfare.\n\nSo, from an overweight girl who never took s-h-i-t from anyone, I became a confident teacher.  I am there for my junior high school kids.  I empower them, teach them to stand up for themselves, to evaluate themselves, their situations and each other as objectively as possible, and if at all possible, to laugh about it.  And I and all my colleagues watch out for bullying every single day, and we don't let it go.  \n\nTake heart.  The jerks are out there, but they're SO easy to disa
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i am a grown woman now but in school i was the bully, and theyre right ,i, at least was very insecure and felt better about myself when i would put other people down. noone did anything to help me (or stop me) i eventually grew out of it when i learned to love myself.
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it depends. r they bullying u physically?  r they threatening 2 hurt u?  Or r they just verbally bullying and calling u names?  I've been verbally bullied b4.  I've been called a toothpaste eater, ugly, stupid, and stuff like that.  Then one guy threatened 2 shoot me.  I would say tell your parents or complain 2 the school.  Ignoring them may help or hurt depending on the situation.  Hang out w/ your friends as much as u can cuz bullies r less likely 2 hurt u w/ a bunch of people around. I know what u r going thru tho:)
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I know what it's like. Always being picked at, Laughed at, and even shoved out. But I learn from them. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. anywayz, my advice to you is first you need to tell someone about it. whether it be your teacher or your parents. if the bullying doesn't stop, take matters into your own hands. i'm not saying to fight the guy (although that is an option for a much, much later use) but to sorta use your head to out smart him. If he still continues, take a stand and MAKE the school move him to another class and to keep him away from you or else you sue.\nI'm pretty sure that you'll won't have to go that far but just try and find out what's his problem and try and help him. Hey who knows maybe you'll actually become friends.\n       Good luck ;)
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Yes I have. I kinda laughted it off and moved away from the guy just cause i didn't know him. I had a guy who kinda wouldn't take the hit so I told my boyfriend and his pressence scared him off. I had a friend who did that though and I laughted at him and asked him if he wanted a show, he got embarassed and stopped looking.
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Here are some things for you to keep in mind, and share the appropriate parts with him.  It is part of an answer I did a while ago for someone who was being bullied .....\n\nIn dealing with a bully, do be assertive, but the child being bullied is not usually strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. \n\nBullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nMost schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you trust, the principal, someone. Can you go to the bully's parents and tell them? If the bully has actually attacked the child, go to the police. The bully can be charged. This is not a laughing matter. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL. Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2. Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5. develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6. Act confident.\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you can do to deal with this.\n\n\nI hope this answer has something of value in it for you.
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Not lately.\n\nI did ruin a college & scholorship chances for the girl that was "my bully" for three years of highschool. It was hell!  So is payback!\n\nStupid girl! Smart one, just dumb to pick on me!  I worked and volunteered in all the school offices and major organizations that gave scholarships. I changed her final grades and she did not get approved at all her colleges of choice and lost her scholorships. \n\nI did however make sure that every Army, Navy and Air force recuiter, had all her personal information and the fact she was 18 prior to graduation.  Oh, did  I mention, I said SHE was a boy!\n\nHer diploma from High School was misspelled and no one caught it until the Superindentant {who never knows any of the students names] "read" her name out loud on the day we walked.  Jennifer Imaslutnoski.   I almost wet myself laughing. It was worth it!  OH WELL>\n\nSince then, I have never done an horrible thing like that. Really :)
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Bullies are expert at doing their bullying without being seen.  They will find ways around the security cameras.\n\nWe need to establish credibility with our children so that they will trust us and report bullying to us.  \n\nI was never a victim of a school bus bully but, as a school administrator received reports of the incidents.  The bully lost his busing privileges.  (It didn't work to have him sit up front next to the driver because the driver had other things to do - namely driving the bus.)\n\nWe made sure the parents of the victims were filled in and we  instituted a program at the grade level to teach students how not to be victims and to ensure that the teachers were watchful for other bullying behaviours. We had to continue the program the entire time the bully was in the school.
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I was abused everyday for 11 years out of my 12 by the same boy. (HE wasnt at my school during my tenth year... My best year) anyway He was at my bus stop and it seemed like we had lunch time together every year and he was a grade younger than me. He failed. He would toss stuff at me and my friends, make rumors and signs up about me, pin me to a wall with all his guy friends around watching, and the list is too long to say but when i went for help time after time i was told "oh just let it go" finally i bipassed the principle i was assigned and went to the whole schools Principle which turned out to be a mistake. This kid was on the football team and the Principle was the head football coach and he said to me and i quote "Your just jealose of the attention that football players get, you need to get a hobby, besides he has a tough home life that you probably dont, He is just venting his feelings of aggression." Now i had no care in the world about his home life just because he was being abused didnt give him the right to do it to me. Anyway 4 years after high school i got on a buss to go see my parents because my fiance was working late... I hadnt been picked on since high school and had not heard much about him besides a bad bar fight he had gotten into. well who comes on the buss but him. I immediatly looked down and got fearful and i thought please dont let him notice me. And for my shock he sat down and started talking to me about him going to college and asked me questions of what i had been doing. Talked to me like we were best friends. My mom and dad couldnt believe that i didnt take the oportunity to tell him what he had done to me all those years. The only thing i can think of WHy it happened on my part is that i was heavy and quick to defend my friends. He got a reaction he was looking for
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You are right about being bullied.  You need to go and talk to someone you trust at the school who wields some power and have this behaviour stopped.  If it makes you feel any better this boy probably has been mistreated during his life and this is the only way that he knows to behave for attention.  Having said this you do NOT allow him or anyone else to victimize you or anyone else.  By staying silent you are as guilty as the bully.  Put a stop to this right now and speak up.
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All the answers above are relevant (I've never heard of the God one though). It all comes back to insecurity. Bullies pick on other people to draw attention away from their own insecurities. They also want to feel "in control" and powerful. Maybe the bully's home life is bad and bullying is a way to regain control in a place where there is no control. Bullies most likely need help themselves. I always pitied bullies when I was in high school and younger. When you go back to your reunion someday, you'll either see that the bullies aren't as sucessful or they wised up and are nicer. They may even become your friend or significant other someday. Just hang in there. Everything gets better as time goes on.
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no i was the shy kid everyone picked on
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Yes I was pick on when I was a kid.  Hay people still pick on me. I just learn to laugh along with them.  And I poke right back at them
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Do not let it bother you.  People who bully are having emotional problems themselves.  Adolescence is notorious for this because there are alot of changes both emotionally and physically and adolescents do not deal well with them...they also have major brain changes going on making them not exactly considerate of others.  While not letting it bother you is harder done than said.....remember it will pass.  I do recommend getting a hobby and new friends. Try soccer, or art. Join an after school club maybe.  I do not recommend weight lifting like the other guy said...i know some adult guys with screwed up shoulders from weight lifting too early...and 7th grade is too early.  If it is any consulation....i am now much cooler than those kids that picked on me in middle school...and much happier.  And my school has been totally paid for in college and graduate school.  Life is not over in middle school.
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i was never a bully and im not one now... i do push people around some though... literally
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Yes, I do.\nI used to have a friend who was very dear to me. She was my first friend, and was my best friend.\nWe shared everything in common - our mindsets, our thoughts, our interests, our future - we even planned to live together as 'bachelorettes', independant and free from the trappings of society, and just live our lives happily as best friends.\nTogether, we thought we could 'take over the world'. Her dad hated me. Most adults did when I was younger. They thought I was a rebellious punk - we studied at an elite school and there it just wasn't accepted if you didn't exactly conform - the worse thing was, I wasn't even that different, I dressed like any other student, geeky with specs - I just thought differently.\nAnd that difference costed me my best friend. Her father wanted her to be a doctor, lawyer - whatever that earn her lots of money.\nWe wanted to help design video games - it was something we used to create a fantasy world from our dreary lives and sort of like a 'beacon of light' for us. :)\nWell...we were really close the first two years we met because we were in the same class. \n\nOne day, we were having remedial class, and instead of studying what we already knew the teacher was going to teach, I suggested we go to our sister school (A prestigous High School most from the school we were at aimed to score into) to study because of the good atmosphere.\nAbout an hour later, some of our friends came walking past us, and one of them spotted us sitting by the pavilion poring through our books.\nThey were like, "Oh, We just saw your Dad at the school!" \nMy best friend was really scared. She's terribly afraid of her dad. He can get pretty violent and abusive with her. But frankly speaking, she never actually told me he hit her - mostly verbal abuse. It's not exactly considered "child abuse" there, most officials would just close an eye because her dad was a rich, influential man.\nWe went over and he assumed I was the one who "led" his daughter "astray" despite the fact that we told him and even showed him the half-completed notes we were going through.\nHe yelled at me and forbade me to see his daughter again.\n\nShe later went on to a different secondary school, we keep in contact through letters, 'secret' meetings (because her dad forbade her to meet me.) to play video games and view each other's drawings (we both love art!).\nLater, as our ideals started to differ, she started to fall under her father's pressure and started to think that it was okay to just give up her dreams to live her father's dreams.\nI tried to talk sense into her, but she had become so scared of her father, nothing would work.\n\nWe argued. I was going through heavy family problems and not to mention the final semester exams of my high school was coming up at the time, and over the phone one day I cried to her. That was the first time she had ever heard me, the strong one, cry. I was always her emotional support.\nThat time, she fell silent.\nI received an email a week later, she wrote some really hurting, harsh words to me, scorning me. I cried again, reading it, she really hurt my feelings.\nIt seemed like under her father's mental abuse, she broke, she changed, and when the time came for her to lend her strength to me and a shoulder to lean on, she had given up and even scorned me verbally.\nI was hurt beyond repease.\n\nI have always missed her because we shared our dreams and our cloistered lives together living in each her own family with somewhat similar, but such different problems.\nAnd further more, she was the one I confided in so much. We could almost "read" each other's thoughts half the time.\nIt never became the same after that fateful day. We did come back several times, but we were both so changed, so distant, so cautious of one another - she had given up completely and transformed into a bitter, sad
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I was bullied until I put a girl in the hospital. That ended the problem. She threatened me, would pull pranks on me, and one day decided to put a pocket knife through my hand and stab my hand to the cafeteria table. So, I crushed her throat.... Nobody bothered me after that.