what do you do when you husband says he wants to leave you bc you dont clean enough to his liking?
548614
That's a stupid reason to leave someone. Tell him that if he does not like the way that you clean then he needs to do it himself or hire a maid.
747185
Who says you can't do what you want? He does.\nJust do it. IF he gets out of sorts, leave again.\nIF he stays home, yoiu still go to the things you go to.\n\nThey are not bad or bad for you or him.\nHe is childish. Make him grow up.
1157796
Sounds like you have a control freak husband, who thinks a woman's place is barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. If there is no respect there is no love and if there is no love, there is no reason to stay, you need to find a job and leave him.
60528
Learn to be patient. If you are not married yet, I would suggest you to leave him. I know it is awful living with an inconsiderate man. But I honor marriage and think people should try their best to stay in their marriage in better or worse. So please learn to accept him the way he is. Anyway, it's your life and your decision. I won't respect you less if you decide to leave him. Wish you the best.
566069
People, enough.  If you let him do it, then you should leave and not be around crap like that.  You women are strong, stand up for youself instead of bitchin about it.  Geeze
1122416
I guess you have already tried talking to him. What does he think is "ridiculous", you wanting him to help? I can only tell you what I would do. I would sit him down and tell him " As long as we BOTH have to work two jobs, I am not going to be the only one taking care of everything around the house. If you want a housewife, then you need to support one. Otherwise, we share the chores just like we share the bills". If he cannot see the logic in that, I would be considering leaving. There is no way I would allow myself to be treated that way.
598142
OKAY GIRL, OVER SHARE!!!! I MEAN REALLY.  OKAY, NO.  BUT EVEN IF HE WOULD, SWEETIE THAT WOULD SERIOUSLY STAY BETWEEN US.  HOWEVER, IF YOU'RE LIKE FREAKED OUT ABOUT IT AND YOU WANT TO PLEASE HIM, BUT YOU'RE NOT SURE IF THAT'S JUST DISGUSTING, ALL I GOTTA SAY IS TO EACH THEIR OWN.\n\nYOU DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO AND WHAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING.  IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE, THEN YOU LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW THAT YOU AIN'T GONNA GET DOWN LIKE THAT YOU HEAR?  YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO SH*T YOU DON'T WANT TO, I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE MARRIED!
374774
Tell him to STAY out the next time he leaves...  that way you can have a more stable life for yourself & your kids.
301404
leave him, he loose something not you
1124108
It is obvious you are just trying to p i s s your husband off. Have fun with that.
476540
not sure what your hubby asked you to do so can't say if its right or wrong trying reasking and using a different word.
1018133
Leave him there.  Leave him there and go out and do your thing.  There really isnt any answer to dealing with a lazy husband, except NOT dealing with him.  If he sees you out with friends, out with co-workers, or just out having fun, he will eventually feel left out!  Desire is often the best medicine!
409929
start out as you mean to go on. Most guys end up letting you do all the cleaning, cooking etc. If that is fine with you then ok. If not then do not let them get away with it. It is no use letting him do what he wants now and then complain about it a few years down the line. Talk about who will do what around the house, who pays for what etc. \nThe last thing you will be thinking of right now is breaking up. But if it should ever happen who get's what? Talk it all through now and write down what was agreed upon. Believe me it will spare you alot of heart ache in the future. Keep lists of who paid for what.\nOh and make sure both your names are on the lease.  \nHope everything goes well for you both.
1119567
hi.that's what a lot of married men say.if you love him,you should let him go.tell him you don't want to cause there marriage to brake up.you should say to him you don't want to see him anymore. stand back and see if he leaves his wife anyway.if he doesn't leave his wife,then you'll know he wasn't genuine about the things hes been saying.
826608
Honesty is the BEST policy...\n\nTalk to him about what's bothering you...otherwise...what is he suppose to do? He can't read your mind. \n\nMy husband works his butt off too and comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...gets up the next day, goes to work, comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...and so on.\n\nI feel the same way you do at times, but we need to understand, (which we both do) that he is tired and drained.  This does NOT interpret that he does not love you or find you unattractive...he's just tired.\n\nTry scheduling something for you and him on his day(s) off something special to do...don't wait for him...just do it.\n\nPray for courage and uplifting...\nTry to get some sleep... :)
75907
Since you didn't post this in the marriage section I will assume you aren't married and no children are involved. \n\nFirst, ask yourself if the changes you have asked him to make are reasonable.  If whatever he is doing is really not acceptable to you and you know you can't live with it, get out.  It may be hard at first but is better than continuing a relationship with someone you know you really can't stand.  On the other hand, make sure that you aren't expecting him to be perfect.  People just aren't, and if it's trivial things that are aggravating but not incredibly so...just deal with it.  \n\nIf you told him you'd leave and you continue putting up with him- you have not followed through and he'll never believe you.  Be sure you are really ready to leave and be without him, because (gut feeling) I think you're hoping you'll leave and he will be crawling back- changed for good!  That isn't going to happen.\n\n*********************************************\nAnyone trying to control where you go & who you see is not what you want to get mixed up in! Now I have a clearer picture of what you are trying to change, and it isn't socks left on the floor.  Stay with mom.
1049333
simple! ask your husband help for cleaning the house..