I have a boyriend that is in the Army...?
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Hey girl My husband just got back from a year long deployment but he was gone for a total of a year and a half. I was pregnant with our first child and it was hard! Here are some tips that helped keep us together:\n\nWrite a journal between the two of you. You write in it for a couple days and tell him EVERYTHING that happens then send it to him and ask him to do the same.\n\nDon't freak out if he doesn't call you. Remember no news is good news. If something happens to him they will know and will contact his family who will contact you.\n\nTell him everything when he calls, big stuff first and then the little stuff. All they want to hear about is something outside of the war. If he starts talking about it, listen. He probably needs to get it off his chest. \n\nCommunication is key! Write him letters every once in awhile. Let him know you always think of him. Send him cards when you see a cute one in the store, there doesnt need to be a reason. Send care packages just to let him know you care. Send something for each and every holiday no matter how small.\n\nYou will be ok. Get involved with his FRG she will have all the updates you will need and there will be other wives and families and gf/bf's that are going through the same thing you are.\n\nMy husbands unit only lost 15 people out of thousands. They are taking many measure to provide ultimate safty. Don't worry too much just be there for him and keep him in your prayers. If you need to talk and you don't have anyone there to talk to contact me. I am a soldier my self so I may be able to answer some ?'s.
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expect the worst, hope for the best! Military is both physically and mentally exhasting. Be supportive and help your guy out when you can, is the best you can do. And be strong, they teach there men to marry a strong women, cuz if your not strong you won't last. Tell him you love him and show it, it will help him get though!
900161
Matt, first, may I thank You for your service to our country; you have my respect, sir, and my prayers.  God Bless each troop!!\n\nCan you talk with him/her about your situation?  Explain that the charity you most need to contribute to is your own?  I would believe that an understanding can be reached;  but if not, I would ask you to email me (click my icon), I can help.
793983
I am in the army and i will contact him thro AKO (army only email) if u email me.  I will tell him to contact you when u leave your email me.  Thank and have a good day.
851235
That's his choice to make, not yours.  He needs support and encouragement, not someone like you bringing him down.  Obviously he doesn't care about your reasons, and he shouldn't.  This is his life.  If you don't want to be part of it, end it with him and let him move on.  Joining the military is one of the best decisions he could make.  He'll see alot, learn alot, get an education and prepare for a career after and most of all, he'll become a better man.  There's nothing greater than the pride, respect and honor of serving ones country.\n\nDon't let your fears discourage him.  Support him and tell him "thanks" for being willing to protect yours and your families rights and freedoms.\n\nGood luck to him (and you if you decide to stand by his decision).
1020209
Well I went through the same things so I can tell you EXACTLY what she have to expect to happen. He is already in the army and at his duty station, which mean that she is NOT in his orders. They can get married but they are NOT going to move her or the kids (if any) because they weren't married BEFORE he got the orders. So as far as the military is concerned, the marriage mean NOTHING. After he comes back home for good or get orders to be stationed somewhere else then its a process (About 2-3weeks) (maybe shorter or longer) to get in the DoD system) he have to go through to get his wife and the kids (if any) in the system so that they can be included in his orders next time. My husband is in the Marines and he got orders to Japan. We got married after he received his orders so i had to wait until his two year were up (which will be next month) before me and our child were included in his orders. So from next month on out me and our daughter will be able to travel with him where-ever he goes....if I can answer any more questions just let me know, cause I KNOW 1st hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As far as housing goes once he is stationed at another base or whateva they an get on base housing (if available) if not he can get BHA (Basic Housing Allowance)...which will pay for them to live in civilian housing off-base. So they can get married and YES it can work out even though there is a HIGH divorce rate for the military..it all depends on them if they willing to make it work...(Its hard at times though but they just have to be strong)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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What do you want?? Why is it so important to him to have you join? My point is that if it is not what you want to do then don't do it. Basic training is not easy (ask my brothers)and school afterward (if you do that) is not easy. War is hard. You could be called on to defend your home. Talk to a friend in the service, or your parents. Try for someone who will be honest. Serving your country is great, if that is what you want to do, then go forth with honor.
658212
Wow..You've got a long hard road ahead of you hun, yes, you do go where he will be stationed but, you don't deploy with him. I have no idea what state you live in but, you need to contact base houseing and ask them to put you in touch with a K.V ( Key volunteer) these are Army wife's, they can answer any question you have and be there for you when your husbands gone. Feel free to Email me if you have any other questions or just to chat. lvn3814@yahoo.com\n\nBy the way, I'm also a Military wife\n\nStay Strong
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Wow, first I'm sorry. Try and let the pride for what he is doing feel the space left in your heart when he leaves.  There are a lot of ways to keep in touch, but you are right it can be expensive. \n\nMy husband and I use the yahoo calling feature.  We bought webcams, and headsets for the computer and we can call for free.\n\nTherer is also IM, and ofcourse the mail.  Calling cards are ok but they get really expensive.  You can get free ones sent to him from places like the VFW website. They are not for much but they add up over the six months.\n\nMake sure he hooks you up with the support center on post.  They will have dedicated phone lines for "Morale Calls"\n\nThe mail is great.  Send him packages as often as you can. Check out http://www.anysoldier.com/ for tips on the way you pack them because it really does make a differance.\n\nCircuit City, and target both offer free shipping to APO's so you can send him movies, music etc.\n\nWrite everyday.  It's going to take about a month for your letters to to start getting to him, and they will come in a bunch at a time so number the outside of the envelopes so he knows what order to read them in.\n\nThe Army has Family readiness groups training online, which can really help at a time like this.  They also have videos online for Operation Ready which can answer a lot of your questions and help to keep your expectations real.\n\nBe strong, and keep the faith.  All this is part of being in love with a Hero.  These guys do a tough job because they a courageous and noble men.  Be proud, show your support at home, and love him like crazy. There are also a million other Army wives (like me) you can talk to.  Feel free to write me.\n\nGood Luck :)
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It is an interesting experience. My husband and I have been together for only 3 years and we are on our second deployment. He is currently serving in Iraq. Be proud because your husband is doing something truly great. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk.
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Tell him that EVERYONE there all has to learn the same stuff. Some will pick things up quickly, some more slowly. He can look up almost anything on the internet like how to make a bunk, fold his socks, drilling and marching commands......but remember, he will have PLENTY of time to learn all that when he gets there. They will not expect anyone to know anything when they get there. They kind of pride themselves in the so-called secrets of boot camp. If he can just pick up a few things here and there before he goes, he will be WAYYYYY ahead of the bunch.l The most important thing is that he needs to start getting into shape now, or else he will be in hell the first few weeks. Every little bit helps
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Well, i am married (mil to mil) and if he gets married after basic training he might be a hold over, waiting for them to process all his paper before he heads to his A School. So i would tell him he might want to do it now and let the recruter do the paper filing and whatever else he needs to do. That is the recruters job, to do paper work or whatever needs to be done for your son to work for uncle sam. Dont let the recruter be lazy if he is acting lazy, it's a military thing. LOL If he gets married before boot camp then everythig will fall into place and him and his wife can be together as soon as he gets out of A School and he will have nothing to worry about other than finding a house. If you need anything feel free to e-mail me   tink41503@yahoo.com
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Talk to a military family counsellor.  They will have the most information on the proper way to do this. Also, if he gets a degree and becomes an officer, he will have more choices in his posting
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Well, first of all congrats on finding each other again. \nYou can never do to much for him while he is over there. My husband, is over there also but he is in the Army. He has been gone for 8 months and he has to serve 18months there. Keep on what your doing. That is what keeps those guy's going. Knowing, that they have someone back at home caring for them thinking about them and waiting for them to come home. There going to fight there hardest so they can get home sooner to be with that person. So, Hun you are doing everything right. Your not over doing yourself. Keep sending lots of pictures, spray your perfume on them so he can smell you so he can think at night your right by his side. Send him little packages with cookies and little things that he can keep with him to remind him of you.  So, best of luck to you Hun and your boyfriend.
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He might as well just stay where he is. He wont be able to get out completly with an honorable discharge. If he were to switch to another branch (very difficult to do, you should contact your local recruiting station) his time would restart and he would end up staying in the armed forces longer.
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No not yet and you need to speak to him first.Sinec he is in the army and you do not know what kind of job he was doing.You both owe each others the explanation before you guys break off.Remember both of you have communication break down as well as relationship.One meeting and a nice letter and conversation on phone then you know what you both want.let's make it worth wide and you both can have peace.Life goes on at lease you treat him well before good buy.Good luck and I feel your pain.Let do thing right.
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There's pretty much nothing he will be allowed to take back to basic. Get him something he can enjoy while he is home, and then leave with you and have again when he gets out of training. A lot of people said baked goods, but those WILL be confiscated if he taks them back with him. A pair of running shoes would probably work, but he should already have some since he's been gone for a while. \n\nAlso, one person said they were going to get body armor for a soldier. He will be issued body armor when he gets to his first duty station. EVERY soldier receives it now, there is no reason to spend the money on it. Some units will not allow the soldiers to wear body armor that they were not issued. If that is something that he would like/need, I would definitely wait until he gets to his unit and I'd probably even wait until he is deployed, so that he can try out what he was issued before he decides he wants something else. That's a lot of money to spend on something he will probably never use.\n\nGood luck and enjoy your time with your soldier!