Nervous!!! need advise (no pervs please)?
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ARE YOU READY FOR IT??? thats the question u should ask urself. having sex is not just bout getting physical, its about being comfortable with each other. your first time may feel a bit awkward but you'll get the hang of it over time. Dont worry if u think you are gonna embarass urself as its your first time. she'll "take the lead" and you'll learn how she wants to be touched etc. \nsta cool. lots of luck.
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Whoa! I have to admit, I'd be a little freaked out. You should definitely sit down and talk to her about it. She might like you, she might have some kind of a fetish, but it will help to get things out in the open.
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I'd say hot, try and find something you're both going to be comfortable with and make sure you're not going to be disturbed. If it freaks either of you out, stop and put it down to experience!
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This is a very true cliche...  Be yourself.  \nLet the conversation lead itself.  Don't worry.  Worry makes you nervous.  Laugh and be funny.  Remember he is just as nervous as you, promise.  If not more.  Don't see this as the only shot, it will make you more nervous, assume you will be seeing him again soon for something fun to do.  Going to a theme park and not a mall is always a good idea.  Adrenaline is a great shy buster and the fun of the rides brings you closer by both sharing something.  Try to bring things into your conversation that you can have opinions on (not to heavy though) - maybe you have the same opinions and that is cool maybe you don't and then it stimulates the conversation.    \nHave fun, if things seem to be going a bit slow (I trust they won't) make it happen, be bold, force the fun if you have to - sometimes it acts as a catalyst to get the fun started.\nTry some meditation (really) here's how:  Lie down on your bed in quiet and visualize everything going perfectly on the day.  Do this for at least half an hour each day until the day.  Don't imagine anything going wrong.  If you do banish the though and rethink it going really well.  It works wonders.  Finally don't be too sensitive if something does go a little off key, roll over it like a steamroller and move on to something fun, don't focus on the small things.\n\nGood luck. ;-)
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ok.............fist of all confidence, then fix your hair all nice and sexy, wear something sexy, but not slutty keep this in mind "sinple sexy" .................. good luck ;)
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Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
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i'm scared and a little bit turned on..all at the same time
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Take it easy! A date is just a date. I know it can be nerve-wrecking sometimes...but just chill! Keep in mind that you are very interesting, very nice, very polite and give yourself all kinds of props! It will help you feel better! Then when you are actually on the date, just be casual, be funny--don't let your nerves get the best of you--women don't like nervous men, because that shows insecurity! So if you feel nervous just smile, think of a joke in your head...you know, keep yourself thinking positive! If you want to know more....visit Payton Kane's website...I leave the link below
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probably the best advice i can give is throw all caution to the wind and ask him... its expected that your nervous but have the mentality that hes gonna say yes... then he'll have to. and tell yourself your going to get him to go out with you  when your prepping to meet him. the greatest turn on for a man is someone with confidence
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SWEETIE WHEN U START HAVING SEX THATS WHEN U SHOULD START---TAKE ADVICE FROM A NURSE--SO DONT START SEX AND U DONT HAVE WORRIES
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just relax and try to enjoy it! everyone gets nervous before they french kiss for the first time because they think they wont know how to do it or they will do a bad job, but the truth is it comes naturally. just take it slow and it will be fine, you will know eactly what to do. have fun!
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how old are you?? i got my first kiss when i was 13 and i didnt know what i was doin either. i would ask around just like ur doin right now. lol. but i just went for it. my partner told me to slow down so i did, and then everythin was fine after that. you need to feel comfortable and not be nervous. try to make it pationate! It will be more exciting that way! Good Luck girly.!
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Parsi, you obviously never grew up.  What kind of talk is this?\n\nJade, honey, you have every right to be nervous.  I was in your situation, oh about 24 years ago (I'm 40 and doing fine!).\n\nYou're nervous because you take responsibility for your actions.  And I hate to tell you that this is just a part of growing up, you'll always have thoughts about the future.  I still do.  Because you are nervous you are showing me that you are maturing and becoming more of an adult.\n\nMake the best preparations (plan it out) and carry out your plans.  See if you can meet with a journalist and find out what kind of preparations you can make in high school?\n\nJust remember to be sure you've given it your best effort.  That's what helps me sleep at night.  I tried my best, I know I did, I didn't give up.  I'll do something else.  I will be OK.
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if you are really ready and it's with the right guy  it will feel so good and right that it will be fantastic anyways,you should not have to fake it just to make yourself look good!Best way is to just go with it and don't be ashamed or afraid of anything
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You should psych yourself by relaxing, giving yourself a "confidence boosting talk", you know, you can do this, you KNOW this, etc. and just walk into it with assurance. Good luck!
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Just be yourself, stay happy, and dont let it show that you are too worried, just a bit and the person that asked you out should be able to see and understand, most people have ways to make others more comforatable, so talk, be honest, and i hope it all works out for you!  :)
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Why are you scared? What is it in particular that scares you about it? Is it that you feel like you won't be in control? Are you afraid that you might embarrass yourself when you have an orgasm in some way?\n\nYou need to work out why you are scared, and work on the underlying cause. All I can suggest is that you try to relax. A glass of wine, a nice bubble bath......try masturbating while you're in the tub and feeling relaxed. Maybe even ignore that fact that you're crying and scared and continue anyway???\n\nHonestly, there is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's such a good feeling, and I feel bad for you that you're missing out on it!! If you're scared of embarrassing yourself, then try doing it on your own, where no-one will see your reaction. If this continues, you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist as someone else has suggested.