My grandma died early this morning.?
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it is okay that you don't want to be a pall bearer. I think they will understand that you are just not up to doing so. may her memories comfort you at this sad time. \n\nTake Care!!
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All I could find on the web was that she died of an illness.\nYou may want to look further into it.
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You both are young. The death of a loved one at any age is hard. All the other answers says it all. You can't cheer her up. Nothing will at this time. You didn't say if she believed in God. But that is what is helping me right now.It was her Mom's time. It's sad that she had to go via car wreck. Let her cry. Here are some ideas that I have done and will do myself(I lost my 82 year old Mama in March this year). I planted a small flower garden in her memory. Nothing big or elaborate. My Mama loved flowers any and all. Her b-day is in a week. We still plan on having her a party.I'm getting helium balloons and we are going to write her a special message and let them go. We realize she won't get them, but hey-Who knows?? Just be there when she needs a shoulder to cry on. Let her remember her Mom. Remind her of something funny her Mom did. Don't let her dwell on the bad times that all mothers and daughters have. I can tell you; us Moms wouldn't want our children to remember those times. Sit down with her if she wants to look at pictures of her and her Mom in happier times. Some people will tell her thats the wrong thing to do. Maybe-Maybe not. God will help her.Have her read scriptures in the Bibles that will encourage her.Just be her friend.Her Mom is just a memory away.I'll be praying for you and her.You will have a rough road being her friend, her pain is yours. God Bless you for wanting to help her.
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I was 40 when my mom died. Today I'm 46 and still every once in a while I become very sad and even cry on occasion.  You were only 8 and you are now only 15.  The point I am trying to make is that the death of someone very close to us is difficult no matter our age at the time. But when you are a child you really don't understand all that is happening. Now as you mature and approach your adult life there are probably some issues about your grandfather and/or his death that were unresolved.  When you were 8 you were not prepared to deal with them.  Now you are able to and so your mind is letting them come up again. Our minds are strange things sometimes at night they dream things that scare the hell out of us. At other times they protect us from the things that really will hurt us.  I know that this is troubling for you and feel you need professional help to deal with it. Like others before me, I suggest you seek that help. Your parents and your doctor are good places to start.\n\nHope this helps you and Good Luck!
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I am so sorry for the loss of your sister and great grandson. How deeply heartbreaking. I lost my 18 yr. old daughter, Jill, in a car accident on August 2, 2002 and her birthday is coming up on March 14th. I have a memorial site for Jill and it has lots and lots of poems on several of her pages. Some of them are copyright that were written just for me and my daughter and others are not.  You are welcome to visit Jill's memorial site and especially look on her birthday and anniversary pages and you are welcome to highlight and copy them.  As long as they were not written exclusively for me and my daughter, you are welcome to use any of the poems you would like.  If you have any questions, or need further direction on finding poems, please feel free to e-mail me at peggyrose011058@aol.com.  God bless you and my prayers are with you, Peggy (myangeljill)
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just be there for her. it is hard seeing our grandparents bedridden and weak. talk with her. my grandmother lived until she was 98 (my dad mother). don't listen to the first answer. that is a nasty thing to say to anyone. my grandmother would tell me stories about when she was a little girl and tell me things when I was younger. let her tell you things about when she was young. they are things you would never forget. remember grandma did not have a tv or radio or bathrooms in the house. we have color tv and radio and indoor bathrooms. and another thing kiss her and hug her and let her know you love her.
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I recently lost my mom, this was hard because she was only 50 and it was completely unexpected. At her funeral service everybody in our very large extended family had something good to say, and not a single person had any negative. That is what I want.
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This past April was the 19 year anniversary of my Mom's death. She had suffered with cervical cancer for the last 17 months of her life and as I watched her suffer through the chemo treatments and the morphine dosages, I found myself praying that God would take her home with Him where I knew there she would no longer be in pain. Although I was there for her as much as I possibly could be and did whatever she needed me to do for her, the suffering was more painful to watch than losing her could ever be. I spent the Friday before her death with her the whole day.  We talked about our childhoods, our adult lives, her sickness, and how I would keep her memory alive for my (future) child(ren) and we laughed and cried together. This period of my life with her were the best and the worst days that I can remember but they are memories I would not have wanted to miss.\n\nI finally had my daughter nearly 4 years later and even though she never met my Mom... she knows her through my memories and knows that Grandma Rose is waiting in Heaven to meet her. \n\nLosing Mom is the hardest thing I have ever gone through and basically I did it alone. The only advice I can give is to pour yourself into something constructive and keep busy and most of all...take it one day at a time. It gets easier and the tears turn from tears of sorrow to tears of joy in the lasting memories you will have even of these final days.\n\nMay God bless you and your family throughout this time and my prayers will be with you.
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Faith, Honey, faith. I am so sorry for your loss, but she does hear you as does God. Whenever you are out, do ever see something out of the blue that she liked? Sometimes they let us know in very subtle ways. It can be in the smallest things that we take for granted every day. You can see her in the innocent beauty of a childs smile or a picture of a snow-white dove. A rainbow or a picture of a rainbow. Whenever I need to know that God is hearing me, I ask to see a rainbow or a dove and lo and behold, I will see one even if I'm not looking for it. Look for her in everyday things that make you feel warm and happy and you will find her. She is watching you from above. Also, being as you have found Yahoo Answers, even if it was before your daughter passed away, you were brought here for a reason. God knows that you need friends now and you have found friendship and hopefully comfort here. We are like a family here on YA and we do our best to support each other. If God was not listening, you would not have found your way here or to any other means of comfort and support. The people here on YA are the best and some of the most forgiving, caring and loving people I've ever had the pleasure and the honor to meet. Keep your faith and know that your daughter is in the arms of Jesus now and he feels your pain as we do as well. You are in my prayers and if you need to talk, you may send me a message. I'm a mother too and I know how strong a mother's love is. Don't worry, God is in control and you will meet with your daughter again. Just look around. She is in every flower, gentle breeze, every act of kindness, in every beautiful sunrise and sunset but most of all, she is in your heart forever. God bless, sweetie. I'll pray for you, we all will.
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You know i have that same problem.  Don't know my DAd and my Mom passed 7 years ago.  Maybe someone in your family can help you out.  I wish you the best of luck.  Or maybe call the Maury Show.
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my mom.  she died in march of 2005 from lung cancer at the young age of 67.  she left big shoes to fill as a mom, grandma and great grandma.  she was the epitome of AWESOME.  i miss her and love her and hope she is ocmfortable and in no more pain.  SANTA ALTOBELL MCNEAL was the most awesome person God ever created!!
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Yes. About a year ago. I was at my aunts and it was all good. Then my grandma called and I went home and there was a car there  and my mom was dead
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You certainly are a sweet girl by helping your Grandma, I don;t believe I have a granddaughter that would't help me if I needed it. God Bless you sweetie, and hope you family gets well soon.
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First off, I'd like to extend my premature condolences and am sorry that you're even going thru this. \n\n       Talk to your father and see if you and him can put your head together and consider legal action. I'm not saying sue. There's no one to sue, not until you get a case. There should be an investigation with this place. Take it from there, but also.....\n\n        On the other hand, my father's in the medical field and 1 day before my grandmother passed on last November she was doing fine for a couple of days after having complications. She was talking like her usual self until she slipped into a coma of sorts... My father termed that "the calm before the storm" and that he had seen that all the time at his hospital. He has been dealing with patients for almost 30 years now, so I definitely take incentive in that. This is likely what it was....she was doing ok for a time following her malady, but whatever was the underlying cause of her condition went in and took over even when she appeared to be up and around. It's a sad and confusing part of death. Apparently, it's also common.
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I'm sorry your uncle died.  Your mom is probably very sad so please be nice to her.
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So sorry to hear about your daughter, she was obviously very special to you, that is very spooky isn't it, lots of spooky things have happened to me, on the day of my moms funeral a lady who I have never met before came to speak to me outside the chapel of rest, she told me she remembered me when I was a little girl, she spoke really kindly of my mom too, later I asked my sister who that lady was and she said she hadn't seen her, I started asking other people and no one had seen this lady or knew who she was, I spoke to one of my aunts about this lady and said but someone must have seen her she had a really distinct hat on, but no one had, later that day some old photos were brought out and I spotted the lady I had spoken to outside the chapel of rest amongst those photos and she had the same distinct hat on, I was so glad and said to my aunt see there she is, that's the lady I spoke to, my aunt told me it was impossible as she was my grandmas sister who had actually died when I was 3 years old and coincidentally the date of her death was the same date of my moms funeral, that did spook me big time.
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I lost a brother in law there.today would not be soon enought