how selfless has ur partner been in the relationship and what did he/she do?
540497
I have the most egocentric bf ever. All he can think of is himself and he does things only for himself.As long as it suits him,its ok.
1120185
Of course you did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\n\nYou showed him who was  the bigger person you showed him , how you were not probably still not a resentful , maybe even revengeful person by NOT dancing with him \n\n\nIn stead you showed him that you were a compassionate forgiving person , by still dancing with after he broke up with you !!!!\n\n\nthat took allot !!!\n\nAn as for him he showed his stupidity by not noticing that , an admiring  that good deed !\nan not appreciating you for being a good person !!\n\nAnd having those awsome  attributes !!!
384555
I have been with my husband for almost 3 years and had an affair 6 mos ago.  I told him and he admitted to his shortcomings that led me to seek love elsewhere.  Now he says he will never leave me because I am the only woman he has ever been with that was that honest with him about something like that.
1026643
So are you brave. Do you have a mouth. Communication is the key to any relationship. If you want to know , be brave and go ask and get it straightened out. Tell the person they are hurting you. Then at least you will feel better that you did something about it instead of sitting back feeling bad. You can't stop people from doing things. They have their own will and have to live with what they think, say and do. So do you. It is not what you say but how you say it. Remember that. Also remember , it takes two people to fight. It is easy to Love those who love you back but it is harder and take more strength to Love those and forgive those who persecute you.\nRev. TomCat
394880
If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////
477049
I once dated a girl who's father used to do terrible things with her in her bedroom at night. \n\nHer mother didn't believe her, and dismissed her accusations as schoolgirl fantasy.\n\nThis had a profound effect on her, both physically and psychologically. \n\nHer boyfriend before me visited hookers and escort girls even going as far as to take money from her to pay them.\n \nI was made aware of this from the very beginning of the relationship and stayed patient, never pressing sexually, and always remaining faithful. Helping to build up her self esteem and confidence.\n\nEventually, after seven months, and a real relaxing romantic evening, we made love and it was fantastic. \n\nFrom there on in she was insatiable.\n\nI guess what you need is a supportive, patient BF willing to take things slowly. \n\nMaybe seeing a councillor could help, speak to your GP/MD etc.
118233
your behavior seems very irresponsible.  look at yourself.  take responsibility for yourself, your feelings, your actions.  Learn from your mistakes in this relationship
604100
How was the rest of the relationship?  There's much more to a marriage than not cheating.  Did you appreciate her or take her for granted?  Love on her or hit on her?  Listen to her or ignore her?  Care if you made her happy or content because you were?  Many things can make a relationship go astray.  Step back and take a look thru her eyes.  \nAnd then there are those that just don't appreciate a good think or know when they have one.  Which one does this describe?
937265
Wow, kudos for the spouse for having a wonderful understanding of "For better or for Worse".  This person is a gem for staying with their injured spouse and not being selfish and cheating or doing other things to emotionally hurt the already physically injured spouse.  You can handle anything if you are able to be a compassionate, understanding, giving and totally unselfish person.  Unfortunatley, there aren't alot of people like that in this society.
1031410
i totally had that problem because i had low self esteem. it was like "how could someone that great love me? im crappy" but then i started trying to see myself through his eyes. like, i am pretty sweet and i treat him great cos i love him so much. so then i accepted it...it just took time to see what he meant. plus he stuck with me through a lot of crappy times and a lot of shit that i did.
357237
Selfish people never see their own selfishness.  And that's a basic truth with all of us.  We never see our own faults most of the time unless someone else points them out.  You should hold a mirror up to your girlfriend's face and tell her exactly what she does that makes her a selfish person.  And I know this is difficult for most men to do but, tell her how her actions make you feel.  And remember to point out to her that you love her and that's the reason why you are pointing these things out to her.  You aren't trying to change her, you are trying to make her quality of life (and your relationship) better.
773368
My wife.  Before I met her I was pretty much just wandering through life going with the flow.  She helped me mature and start heading in the right direction.\n\nAlso, I have never been real good at mercy and forgiveness.  She has helped me immensely in this regard.  She has also helped me see the hand of God in so many things that I used to just think well that's just the way things happen and the luck of the draw.  \n\nWell there ya go.  It's my wife!
380611
Whether you want to marry him and vice versa. Relationships work like Yahoo! Answers, in the sense that you have to upgrade to make life more interesting, and work hard to make that upgrade.\n\nIs the selfless love? Are any one of you still looking for the next best person which may come along? Are there many long-due unsolved issues which are constant thorns in the relationship?
1136822
Seems like you have answered your own question, where is the relationship if there is no trust!!! I know what you mean tho. you can't change someone, they have to recognise their failings, and choose to do something about it. Try speaking with him about how you feel and see what he says..Then you will know whether he is willing to make steps to change his behaviour toward you, if he doesn't then you know what youve got to do
940827
you need to consider a couple of things. \n1. how long have u been together?\n2. are you willing to stick around for a second time?\n3. what actually possessed him to do that?\nanswer these honestly and if it doesn't look good, leave!\nit could've been an accident but chances are it wasn't, sorry and be careful!
634090
Many things.  \n\nA couple I can't tell you about (but praise God for forgiveness and second chances).\n\nThe thing I can tell you about is being an absolute rubbish husband for about 4 years of our marriage.  I was controlling, uncaring and put down my wife.  I even made her do all the work with the baby.  Thank God He changed me (though it took my wife being hospitalised for clinical depression to realise it) and for the marriage course that also helped my wife forgive me and helped me to see what a git I was.  http://themarriagecourse.org/marriage/\n\n4 years on we are now a different couple - and very much in love. When she talks about some of the stuff I said then, I simply can't believe it - it seems so alien now!
765424
No not at all, I love my partner for who he is ...not what he was...and I married all of him...all of his past and baggage and goodtimes...