I'm tired of my mom, she CONTROLED my life!!?
551681
i'm 18 and my parents are STILL the ones controlling my life. i used to think the way you do. but now i'm slowly realizing that parents know best. they're only acting the way they do coz they love us and they want to protect us.  when i was 17, my parents found out that i had a boyfriend and they asked me to break up with him. although i didn't want to, i broke up with the guy and followed my parents' advice. i was sooo depressed. then one day, i heard news that my friend got pregnant. and then a month after that another friend of mine got pregnant and what's worse, she was left by her boyfriend. so i thought, it could have happened to me. (although i know that it could NEVER happen to me coz i think im responsible enough. hehe..) but you know how much we teeenagers fall in love. we're a crazy bunch..\n\nyour mom is not controlling you. she's just 'dominating' you in a way coz she wants the best for you. i suggest you show her that you're doing good in school, that you're obeying them, and that you're doing your resposibilities well to prove to them that you're a grown up now. the next time you two disagree, better discuss things between the two of you. and remember, be polite as possible whenever you're presenting some suggestions. she's your mom after all.\n\ntrust me, everything's gonna be fine. i'm just a teenager like you..who thinks i can do it on my own..but still goes back to "mommy!!!" when something's wrong. hehe.. :)
13746
She's your mom. If she hasn't let go at this point, she probably won't. Make sure she knows you love her, then do what you have to do. She'll get over it. Moms are like that.
1099922
yeah sure it looks that way. just don't jump the gun and get mad at your mom. this could all be unavoidable. just tell her you really want to come up and for her to not make any plans to prevent your visit. If she still continues to have excuses...i dunno, try talking to your dad about it. maybe he'll talk to your mom about the way it's affecting you.
570368
It sounds like your mom doesn't trust you. You need to earn your mom's trust and respect.
1043252
i hate being home to.  do whatever you can so you never have to live there and get yourself some good roomates.  when i used to have to move home for the summer i got a cat so that she was my little buddy and an escape for me. my mom's the same as yours as far as morals go.  just keep your mouth shut and deal with it because telling her what she doesn't want to hear will just cause conflict and make you more depressed.
612356
Just Pray to your God who ever you believe in Your mom just say these thing because she doesn't want to loose you. She needs you around just move it's that age your mom will miss you alot for the first few months but she will get over it. You are her baby the only one that she has now so she don't want to see you go so whatever she is saying to you she doesn't mean she loves you and need you but she knows deep in her heart that it's time to let you go and live your life. So don't worry just move and start your new life.
42053
Obey your mom...she has a good reason for the rules she imposes on you. Find something else to do instead of going to the party.
1000791
Either live with your real mom or try to satisfy her until you are old enough to move out.\n\nAlso, calmly talk to your father about it.  Tell him how it makes you feel and if you can, try to get all of you into a group therapist.
221199
technically she does have a right to lay down rules of the house as you are living with her but any serios issues should be left for your mother and dad to make rulings on if you have a problem with her being overbearing talk to your parents and have them decide how much control she should have
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
96026
Try having a conversation with (and yes i am serious) Mom. Just talk to her and find out why she calls him all the time, don't be rude or ugly, just talk to her and find out more about their relationship and what his childhood was like. Could be that there are some reasons for her overinvolvement and maybe she is just as anxious to help him become less dependent on her too. If nothing else you might be able to get to know her well enough to ask her as politely as you can to relax a little. You might learn that maybe Mom isn't the clinger  and the guy is and the two of you can work on him together, and if she likes you and thinks you respect her enough to come to her with your issue instead of running to him and complaining you will earn her respect and maybe even her blessing. And while that might not matter at all to you I can assure you that it does to him.
228722
You need to put your foot down.  You need to sit down with her one afternoon (not on sunday morning right before services) and explain to her how you feel.  And inform her, NOT ask, that you will not be attending services as much anymore.  If she has a problem with that, she can force you out from under "her roof".\n\nIts been my experiance that most parents do not have the kind of follow through skills to dump one of their kids onto the street because of theological differences.  You have to be willing to stand firm and call her bluff.\n\nGrounding only works as long as you let it.  When they ground you, don't listen. Grounding only works if YOU let it. What are they going to do, lock you in your room? Rufuse to feed you? Bar all your windows? They can't legally do any of that.  If they say no computer, sit down at it anyway, make them physically drag you off it (like I said, just stop listening or responding, make them physically pick you up while you sit there silently -- freaks them out). If they say no friends, just walk right out the front door (or out a window). You gotta do it like Ghandi, non violent (often silent) protest.  Because most parents are not going to have the balls to go through with kicking you out of the house, and most will just freak out for a while when they realize that you're just stubbornly refusing to play by their rules.\n\nThe best way to do it is to combine responsibility with irresponsibility.  Stand your ground on the church issue, but get good grades. Be a good kid, but really make them work if they're going to punish you. Eventually they will realize they are putting a lot of time and effort into punishing your when you're really not doing anything wrong. People don't like to do work they don't have to and they'll eventually just give up. When they treat you like a person and not a child, don't hesitate to share information about your life and emotions with them. You can retrain them.\n\nAdult/child power relationships are fundamentally unbalenced and part of becoming an adult is a movement towards 50/50.  So get going on that if this is the battle you want to fight.  Take some of their unilateral power away from them.  Have the courage, have the will, and make it happen.\n\nYour life it your own, and there is no point in living it in a way that you do not like, espcially over something so personal as religion.
497237
Listen they are worried about you, you shouldnt get upset cause they care for you - I know it sometimes gets frustrating, my mom was exactly the same way - your yelling at them is not going to change things - just assure them that they should wait and see
1160106
Talk to your mother....you need help
429505
ignore him/her i know it sounds like your mom talking but she will try to annoy you, you won't answer she'll keep try'n and get annoyed herself.
713309
I read your previous question regarding your partying/drinking.  Is this what you are referring to?  It seems that you don't really want any advise but just approval and thumbs up for the things that you are doing.  You got angry because people sided with your mother rather than you.  You'd do well to listen to your mom.  She has your best interest at heart.   Sorry. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you asked.
40740
Honey your mom is going through a lot of stress right now and so are you. I can assure that she loves you and while she might be angry ( hell even PISSED) at you for sneaking out she will respect you being grown up enough to tell her what you did and why. Tell her how you are feeling and what you did. It is a fact of life that you have to accept the punshiment that goes with the "crime" so step up and maybe this conversation will help the two of you understand each other a little better in the long run.