What do Grandparents expect?
547717
I don't think anything much, really. Your love is the best thing you can give them. Just make sure that you make them feel accepted; sometimes, older people are afraid that younger people consider them as inferior and therefore tend to take everything more personally. So treat them like the normal people they are. Remember that they were once babies, once kids, once teenagers, once young adults... So don't try being all "what can I do for you? Don't do that, you'll hurt yourself" and stuff like many people tend to do. I know that comes from a good intention, but the truth is, a lot of times, grandparents don't want that from their grandchildren. Sometimes, they just want to be treated as friends, to feel young again... And yes there is a grandparent day. It's september 11, I think.
114250
First of all the father of the child has parents, making them grandparents.  Take the hild to see them.  Be polite no matter what.  THey may be shocked.  Second of all, get your act togetehr the best you can, maybe with their help.  If daddy is in prison, you have a lot against you.  But you can rise above it if you work very hard.
451071
Depends on how they were brought up by their parents & surrounding.
937997
borrow from the grandparents
334104
i would wish 4 grandma and grandpa to be alive
923437
Well, I completely understand where you're coming from. You want to be loved and welcomed, but unfortunately, not all in-laws work out that way (no matter what the race, religion, etc.). My grandmother's mom HATED my grandfather for years, and he wound up eloping to marry her.  They are both the same exact religion and ethnicity too. Eventually, the mother grew to appreciate and respect my grandfather and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. \n\nThing is, you shouldn't have to deal with going someplace where you are "tolerated", but again you don't always have control over that. All that you can do, is just suck it up for your wife, kids, and be the better man. Eventually, I would say talk to your wife about having your OWN holidays though and if her parents want to visit YOU then that's fine, this way they are on "your turf" now so to speak and if they disrespect you, you can ask them to kindly leave your home.
706401
if there is no will or trust..\n\nwhen a parent pre-deceases a child, the child replaces the parent when it concerns grandparents.
913545
No.  That's just how life goes.  I never knew either of my grandfathers.  Fortunately, I knew both my grandmothers.  They made great impressions on my life.  I thank God for them both. And, God bless you for reminding me.  They are both gone now.
735538
Some families are just close. \n\nAs for me I can tolerate my inlaws in small doses. Its good they live a couple of hours away.
403981
What a terrible situation!\n\nThere is a site you can visit that will tell you what your rights are in your state.  The link is:\n\nhttp://www.grandparenting.org/Grandparent%20Visitation.htm\n\nHere is some of the advice from that site:\n\n"If you have specific questions concerning rights in your state, contact:\nwww.grandparentsforchildren.org \nG.R.O.: Grandparent's Rights Organization, (248) 646-7191.\nThe National Coalition of Grandparents at (608) 238-8751\nwww. grandparentchildconnect.org \nThey'll give you up to date information concerning the laws in your state.\n\nGeneral Suggestions:\n\nYou can find out about a local contact by logging on to \nwww.grandparentsforchildren.org, Learn about the laws in your state by logging \non to www.aarp.org. or www.gu.org, or calling GRO at 248-646-7191. Also \nsee www.grandparentchildconnect.org.\n\nIt's always a good idea to consult a local lawyer to learn about your specific rights \nin your state. Try legal aid or the local bar association if finances are a problem.\n\nAlso consult Dr. Kornhaber's book "The Grandparent Guide" for specific advice, \nsupport and guidance. You can get it from your local bookstore or library or \non-line at www.amazon.com."\n\nGood luck to you and your family.
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Wow...you're definately in a hard spot!!  I guess as long as they are being good to your son and not trying to sabotage your relationship with him, it's probably ok to let them pick him up once a week.  \nAs far as their treatment of you goes...well, it's sort of expected that they would take their son's side in this isn't it?  Try and take it for it's worth..which is nothing. I know it may be hard to ignore, but if you can for your son's sake, give it a go.  If they start bad-mouthing you to your son though that's a different story. Then it goes from being a good thing to being not so good for your son...it would be very tough on him to listen to grandma and grandpa talk sh.. about you.  Confusing and detritmental.\nGood luck with this one, sweetie.
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I would think only if the child is at risk because of the visit.  \n\nYour question would be easier to address if you could give examples or describe the circumstances you are concerned about.\n\nConsider that a grandparent's love is a very special gift to a child.  If it is possible to maintain that, I would do so.  I did not get along with my children's grandmother, but she was still special to them.
1097277
Perhaps a dinner gift vertificate? Or, something from your country and culture which traditionally expresses gratitude for hospitality. You can explain the significance, when you give it to them. As far as the kids go, until you've known them a while, and are familiar with what they each enjoy - tricky! Why not make a gift certificate good for "A getting to know one another day." The parents and grandparents can make plans and you can "babysit." Share stories of your own experiences, at their ages, and ask them how their experiences mirror or differ from yours.
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For their kids, grand kids and generations to come.  It keeps "memories" alive of where they came from, the history of life before they were here, and to give the "next generation" a sense of what was and how things have changed since then, but gives them  "ground work" from which they came to help them remember, know and learn how to change for the better.
1016175
I sometimes tell people to avoid telling kids that God will be coming to get them.  You then find a lot of kids being angry with God.  Just be honest and truthful.  Explain that grandpa is very sick and the doctors are doing everything they can to help him feel better.  When he dies, explain that his heart stopped beating and his lungs stopped breathing.  They can't feel anything, so they are not in pain.  (Also, if a kid was witness to a long illness, they may feel some relief with the painless statement).  Here is some helpful information on understanding a child's grief.  \nIt is also important to understand his developmental level.  At his age, he may consider death as reversible, so make sure you emphasize that grandpa can't come back.  They may also connect death to unrelated events and feel guilty.  Address that and talk about it.  They may also see death as a punishment.  Remind them that he did nothing to cause it.  Some kids may also see death as contagious, so you may want to explain that everyone dies, but most do not die until they are very old or very sick.
761084
have just turned 40,been 'grandmother' for 4 yrs! We prefer term 'nanny'. When i'm out with one or both of my grandchildren its priceless to see some peoples faces when they call 'nanny'. Dont worry-Be happy.
715134
Don't worry about it and don't lower yourself to their level.  Get something small for the grandparents from your kids. Stick to your budget or what you can afford.  If someone doesn't want to get you a present chances are if they were made to pick something out it would be crap anyway.