my analyst is really good, just becomes inappropriately sarcastic at times. how to deal w/ countertransference
535118
When he gets like that, you should call him on it.  Just because he's an analyst, that doesn't mean he doesn't bring his own issues to the table.  He should be professional enough to keep that stuff to himself when he's seeing clients.  You used the word "often" and that can be a wide range.  If  "often" is enough to interfere with your therapy, you should definitely make an issue of it.  After all, you are there for you, not for him.\n\nAnd who knows, maybe he's not even aware of his behavior.  You may just give him something to talk to *his* therapist about. :-)
1180973
Next time you have to make a call walk into her salon and sit in the waiting room and have a very loud conversation.  This will definetely get across the message that you are a pansy and too afraid to simply mention to someone that their behavior bothers you.  Grow some stones and go tell her.  SHe probably doesn't realize it bothers you wuss.
1093047
look...\n\nYou're not going to believe this...\n\nBut your response is NORMAL.\n\nYou're segmenting yourself... "logically" so you can place blame, and create a GOOD and BAD side.\n\nSee a professional... they can help.
367352
You have a tendency to punish him when he gives you what you want. That will make him close up and communication will be next to impossible. I'm sure you don't do it maliciously, but you should stop to think how what you say might be perceived.
616102
Honestly, just ignore them. Tell yourself.. "Who cares", smile, and walk away. If you get upset by what they say, its their gain cos thats what they want. The key is not to take what they say seriously, even tho' it may be a major OUCH phrase they use. Just think of it as (the lamest and unfunniest) joke ever, and move on. :)
95381
I have the same problem.  She doesnt take time to do anything, just wants to rush me out and Im having some serious problems.  She just disregards everything I say, like Im overreacting or something.  Its really frustrating!  I havent reported her because she hasnt really done anything fraudulant that I could prove, I just decided not to see her anymore and tell everyone I know how horrible she is.  I figure eventually all of her patients will get sick of it and find someone else.  Then maybe she wont be able to practice anymore.
1120956
I have a funny lecturer, so I can understand you laughing, but this may be disruptive to the other students, try ignoring his funny comments by focussing on somthing else
207817
Best way is through good communication.  If the client always feels like he or she knows what you are doing and why, when it is likely to happen, and what are the potential outcomes, he is much more satisfied with you.  On top of that, you should do your best to know the client, make him or her feel like your remember him or her, work personal details about both the client and yourself into your conversations, but don't go overboard.  I've always though clients appreciate a representative who is comfortable as talks to them as an equal, rather than seeming wither 1) a superior professional "just leave this to the people who know" or 2) an overeager person desperate for their business "Whatever you say, sir, anything else I can do sir, etc."
911229
Well, it depends on who your talking to, but you should always try to be direct so that no one will misinterpret what you're trying to say. Once i was very indirect when stating an opinion and my words got twisted into the exact opposite of what i was trying to say!
1034164
Actually, i'd rather someone told me. So, what you are doing is simply trying to help me and you're also considering my goodness.. What's better than this? On the other side, yeah i may become a little bit angry with myself, saying like how can i forget or ignore this.. But, certainly i'd appreciate you then.. :) So, keep it up, be yourself and don't pay attention to their reactions at that time, i think...
1174375
look around you - left, right, behind the person you're talking with & say "Okay, you got me! Where are the hidden cameras? This is like Candid Camera, right?"  & be real sarcastic when saying that so they'll know you think they're crazy!!!  (that assumes they are intelligent enough to appreciate sarcasm)\n\nOr you could say "Hmm, seems you're just a few sandwiches shy of a picnic, aren't you?"  or  "Runnin a few beers short of a six-pack, huh?"
138600
Remarks and jusgments are part of the world we live in.\n\nIf its not about your color it will be your accent\nIf its not your nationality then it will be your religion\nIf its not your religion then it will be you ideological views\nIf its not .....\n\nIf the remark hits something that objectively penalize your work or creates prejudice against (and sometimes for) then you need to address it as an issue and not a personal comment.\n\nMy suggestion is take not of it, don't answer back or stay respectful by consuming it... Add the comments, if you here others living the same thing, than add those up, make sure your owm conduct is flawless...  \n\nThen always be prepared to present something with facts and how it affects your work or whatever environment you are in. Let him or her shout themselves in the foot. Be patient and be also ready to let go (forgive) I find that for many, ignorance is the fondation of such comments. Continue to act kindly (Not Gullibly) and learn about yourself, as when it hurt, who is hurt and why.\n\nSuccessful people are good communicators and they are able to discern and THEN discriminate what is important from what needs your attention.\n\nThe future of humanity will be in are capacity to communicate with each other. This is a great time to learn.\n\nGood luck !
902993
I always remind myself that I cannot change people, but I can change the way I react to them.\n\nLove and compassion and a good ear for listening.  People who are negative should be taken in small doses as they can really bring you down.\n\nLook for the good in people and you will surely find it.  Stay clear of any gossip.  Even listening to it is harmful.  Be willing to walk away and not participate.  Or inject something nice about the person people are gossiping about this will end the conversation.\n\npeace
245947
To me your description makes him sound very unprofessional.\nYour could file a complaint concerning his behavior with your local or state bar association.  Good luck.
484799
The last thing, i think you should do is do the same thing. They are going to think they can keep doing it. When someone tries to pass it off as a joke, you calmly and directly say, Why are you insulting me? They will say "I am only kidding." That is when you say and not in a sarcastic tone, or pissed tone, in a calm and direct way, look them in the eyes and say,\nI find that insulting and not funny. In the future i would appreciate you not speaking to me that way." and smile. \nWhen you approach people in this way you are setting the tone on how you want to be treated. If you respond to them in the same way they spoke to you you will never really solve anything because they will know they can do it again.  When you respond in a direct, assertive way there is no grey area, they will know they shouldn't talk to you that way. If they do it again, resume the same non aggressive, direct approach, calmly and politely say, Did you forget what I told you earlier? Please don't speak to me that way. Don't worry about what they will think about what you have said to them if they were kinder people they wouldn't treat you like this in the first place. You are doing this for yourself so you don't have to think over and over afterward what should i have said that would have been better.  I use this approach and it works for me.
537012
Go to a friend (I can think of one right now) and let your steam out at that person.  That will help you straighten things out in your head and prevent you from unleashing yourself in such a violent manner.  Personally I think what you are doing is better than bottling it up inside; for then that could lead to hidden rage and then finally you could snap and just kill someone or something! Still though I highly hope you take my advice, it doesn't even have to be to the person I'm thinking of.  Just know that the person will not judge you and will give you his/ her input.  Don't worry it isn't a counselor, doesn't even want to have that as a career option.  That person just wants you to be happy.  There is no hidden agenda. Don't all friends want their special friend to be happy?
180421
i found my self in the same situation and i could tell you if he doesnt understand, let it be. dont crack in too hard. \nyou dont need to look the bad guy. \nlet him take a chance & see you were only caring to say something early. \n support is more noticable than a paradox.