How can I motivate my  two teenage daughters to pick up their rooms?
544965
make weekend plans conditional on clean bedrooms. i did. worked like a charm for eight teenagers!! btw- the weekend started  friday at 3 pm
184470
tell your father about this. Let the children do what they want. They will have a bored point which make them stop themselves to do such that things.
703546
you can, just think about it and make a decision by next morning dont give yourself excuses and drag two of the girls down. Dont bring shame to the manhood dude
1052254
1. Do something with your daughter every week.  2. Get an interesting book to read.  (The Time Traveller's Wife is a good start.) 3. Go to a movie.  (The Prairie Home Companion is romantic and will leave you feeling good.) 4. Start a project, organize something, make something. 5.  Write to me.  (After all, we could be married already:  I am always nagging you and you always ignore everything I say!) (lol)
593289
take away the 10 year olds video games and tell him/her  they have to work to get them back...or some thing they relly like.the 21year old tell them they need to work or yoll kick there sorry@$$ on the curb
77990
one box/drawer at a time, get a routine going as far as cleaning house. Do two loads of laundry a day,this way you never get behind. throw out or donate anything you don't use anymore. WALK...everyday!! get up early and go walking(take the dog/or a friend), be home before the kids are off to school. Plus you will have lots of energy the rest of the day.Make a list everynite of what you want to accomplish the next day and STICK to it!! Good Luck...You can do this!! =)
1017293
You might consider offering your guests "kid friendly rooms or packages" like pack and go cribs for rent, or toy box in the room (yard sales, just whatever, kids like toys, it don't matter if they're new, they're like a quarter apiece, just make sure the cleaning crew gets 'em good with disinfectant) maybe have a decent selection of kid's movies for rent (pawn shops are awesome for this, very cheap movies usually, and a lot of the times, they let you make sure they work right or let you retrun them) Even if you only offer these things in a few rooms, you'll have one up on the competition, because I've never been to done before.
925431
girl you can do it let me tell you my daughter has 2 children a10 year old and a6 year old,my daughter goes to school full time she has a part time job,she also has a work study job and she also looks out for her grandmother who is in a nursing home,if you are a strong woman you can do anything you just have to manage your time and don't wear yourself out,but anything worth having is worth working hard for.You will find the time for everything you have to do just don't stress so much about it, all that does is make things worse, so just take it easy breath and remember you can do it believe in yourself.
247177
Yes, I do - my closest friends in a southern state still have their three 20-something daughters living with them.  Don't quite know why the daughters still live at home, but everything works well for everyone in the house, and I love spending time with all of them; they're just simply the best people I know.
491961
Every time they climb into your bed you take them back to their own. And I mean EVERY time! You will probably be exhausted before you succeed, but you will succeed as long as you are consistent. If you give in, even once, you'll have to start from scratch. Sit down with your little one and explain that mommy and daddy's bed is for them and his/her bed is for him/her. That you love them very much, but they are a big boy/girl and big boys/girls sleep in their own beds. Remind them of this each time you put them to bed. And this may take a few weeks to work. But it will work. God bless!
26648
First, let me congratulate you ond keeping clean for so long, that's a hard task after dependence when your life is so overwhelming to you. Good job! Second, let me commend you on keeping up to this point with the wreckage that is the past and getting your education going while living with teenagers! Not an easy or enviable task. \n\nYou should be very proud of yourself for coming this far and getting things on the right track. As hard as it may be your are doing great things for yourself and your children and both you and your kids should be very proud. Its tough for anyone to teach their children to be responsible, even tough to maintain responsibility ourselves, and we are the best lesson our kids have. It sounds like the kids are all old enough to helping out around the house. I think good hard work is one of the greatest things my father ever did for me growing up. They need to be chipping in and helping you get things moving with more ease than it is now. Set some goals/requirements, place some rewards for success to help motivate them (often rewards are every bit as good as punishment and will foster a better relationship without bitterness). \n\nFor yourself, stay on top of your legal responsibilities, get it done with and move on...what a weight to be lifted when you can trully leave it behind you. Keep clean by whatever means necessary and feel damn good for doing it! Its far too easy to fall back into a bad routine when stress is high. Know in your heart that there is a light at the end, and try to relax when you can in the hectic pace. Things will get better.\n\nGood Luck to you and the fam....
206139
just be ur self and maybe ask them to come over to your house ,or ask them to hang out with you this Saturday. Maybe have a study group and invite them .Just Remember BE UR SELF !
654838
Be more understanding that they look up to you and want to do everything that you do.  I also saw something on TV that might help you.  Hang a sign on your door.  On one side saying Enter and on the other side DO Not Enter.  Tell the kids that you must have some privacy and they can only come in the room when they see the sign reads Enter.  Surprisingly once you give kids boundaries they listen.
825990
ask the children to bring in empty packaging from home as a small homework task. sort through th items brought in with the children talking about what can be recycled and why we should recycle. More importantly what recycling means. \nAllow the children to make collages using the varoius types of materials which can be recycled. \nyou could make this into a display. You could also do junk modelling with the packaging.
359029
Show them that actions have rewards and consequences and each individual is responsible for their own actions. Teach them this by setting clear rules with clear consequences when not followed and rewards when they are. It's really as simple as "if you want me to do this, then I expect you to do that" or "I let you have xyz freedom and you didn't follow the rules, so you will have to re-earn xyz freedom"\nMy friend has a teen son who repeatedly takes her car and brings it home hours late without even calling her, I told her to tell him " I'm sorry, you are not allowed to use my car, because I can't depend on you to get it home on time. Find another way to go" If she would show him that she planned to stick to it, he would learn. But she never stood by any rules, that's why he does her that way. You don't have to be mean, just firm and consistent.
592721
Because they know that you are not their parents and you can't really discipline them; spankings, etc. All you can do is send them to their room. Just wait until your daughter grows up.
54488
Be a good daughter, do right by them, and most importantly appriciate the things they do for you and be thankful you have them.... picture how life would be w/o them.