how can i get my girl friend to trust me again? she saw some pic in my fone of a girls butt clothes on tho.?
542948
Just explain to her, that although you love her, because you are a (heterosexual)man, you are genetically hard-wired to admire the shape of women. You did before you met her, you met her because you did, and you cannot (try as you may) ignore it. She will not understand and you will still be castigated but it's something that women (all women everywhere)need to understand(and hear often).
394216
I wouldn't take her back as a friend. Excuses or no excuse, if she was a real friend she wouldn't have ditched you last minute and would have suggested an alternative. If she had a problem with the dress why didn't she pull you aside and say, "Hey, think we can shop around more or have it made?" And even if you did offer her those suggestions, she could have said something. Friends should be able to communicate without holding back. It's not your fault she was insecure. About spreading those lies...Girl, Im sure your other friends knew she was lying. Back to her though...she has no right talking about you and saying such things. \n\nThere would be no other option in my opinion. I would clearly never talk to her again. Deep down she knows it was shitty(excuse my language) to do that to her "Best friend" and even then, you have to think maybe you werent her best friend at all. Like I said, friends dont do that to other friends especially best friends.
1103233
For now, just let her be.  She's really smart to isolate herself after getting such evidence that she is too trusting, and has poor judgment in who to trust.  Let her take her time, get close to people slowly, and find her "comfort zone."  If you are her friend, then she will probably trust you more than others, even if she is cautious even about you.  She's afraid to be hurt because she's been fooled before.  That's not irrational, after all.  She just needs time.
744021
I would trust him until he gives you a reason not to.  A guy doesn't like it when he's with an insecure girl, so be secure with yourself and just give him a chance until he gives you a reason to think otherwise.
1181659
Tell her to fess up to whatever she was untruthful about.  Its not good to deceive anyone especially someone you have feelings for.
522098
Hey man, I think you should sit back and really think about your relationship, the first thing you should consider is her consideration of your feelings and perception of the situation  in general. If trust is there AND... a MUTUAL level of respect for each others feelings is there, somehow things will work, I feel once those things aren't in place your outta gas.
1115198
Ohh that's so sweet but chance's are the only way you can convince her is just keep on loving her and telling her that she is beautiful she sounds like she has very low self esteem just tell her that she should have more faith in you because you would never do anything to hurt her
511712
There's not much you can do.  If you tell her, you risk the chance that she'll think you want to get back together.  Are you really sure your not just being paranoid?  Not everyone plans their life around their enemies.  If you really have proof, just go up to her and ask her if the other guy is what she really wants. hope it goes well.
690847
naughty naughty, if it was all her and not you, then you need to say something to your girlfriend, b4 her girlfriend says something to her! you know, girls usually will stick together, if the best friend spills the info out and make it sound like it was all you and not her! most likely you will be out the door first! so when your women comes home, sit down with her, start a nice convo about how her 2 weeks were and stuff and then gradually tell her about her "best friend" tell her the truth, don't lie, im sure she will be upset with you, but more upset with her best friend, in the end hopefully she will forgive you and im sure she'll never be able to trust her best friend again around you or any guy she dates in the future!
793468
ur girl's crazy. i know im a jealous gf so i know wheres shes coming form. BUT if you let her do that kinda stuff like spend the night at a guys bed. then she should trust you. but if i was you i would dump her!!!\n\n\nGood luck with the crazy gf!
379799
Forget it.  You'll get over her.  You won't respect yourself, and she'll never respect you either if you let her walk on you like that.  You don't just casually leave someone.  How would you ever trust her again?   You'd spend your life worried that if you don't jump through her hoops, she'll bail again, and she probably will, too!   \n\nJust tell her, "I'm sorry.  I wish you all the best, but that ship has sailed."  You don't need to humiliate her or rub her nose in it.  Take the high road, which will make her realize all the more that you are a decent guy and she shouldn't have done that.  You can't fix this one, but maybe she'll grow up a little for the next guy.
261032
You've blown it man. She won't trust you now. Let this be a learning curve.\nBelieve me, you have more fun keeping your mouth shut.
984025
Trust just like respect is not something that is handed to you in a relationship it is earned.  This is your proving ground now, a second chance in a sense, you earn trust by being trust worthy.  Show her you can be trusted and won't lie again unless you want a nose like Pinocchio!  : ^ )
673744
You can trust your girl friend, but I wouldn't trust that arrangement! Your feelings are understandable and natural. There are too many opportunities for an "accident" to happen! Why couldn't she find a straight female to share a house with? Tell her you trust her but you don't necessarily trust other men! In moments of weakness, or if she gets mad at you, the other guy is there for a "shoulder to lean on", and guys will take advantage of that. She may even do something just to get back at you, even if she regrets it later! There is nothing wrong with being jealous(but not out of control). We (Men) are territorial by nature, and if you allow someone to trespass on what is yours, then you don't deserve to have it!
600938
Be careful with that. If she is just lookin for another guy or something you don't want to get hurt. She first needs to gain all your trust back, I think before you should start dating her again, unless you want to get hurt.
1061740
First make her belived that she can trust you, then make her understood that she is in great danger and she is insecure. Then make her believe that you are the only solution to all of her problems that she can trust you totally and you can make her life secure. She would give you her heart.
278580
Right now, you need her to regain her trust in you. You owe her that, and she deserves all the time she needs. Spend a lot of time with her, be there for her, laugh with her, just show her how special she is to you. Don't just say it, show it. But don't pressure her to get over the hurt. If you do love and care for her like you say, you will be patient. If she decides to move on with someone else, you can only be happy for her and be there if it doesn't work out. I truly think she will notice all these things and will come around when she's ready. Good luck, and no more deceptions.