What's the best way to get over a divorce?
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being around friends and family... don't go to drinking, please or to drusg.. i did that and it doesn't make it go away. You have to just have the support of family and friends and face each day strong.  believe that everything happens for a reason, that somewhere out there, one day you will find true love.  Never give up... if you ever need someone to chat with email me.. sylviakopec@yahoo.com..\n\nStay strong... Life gets better
602550
get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
1021277
Don't have the relationship UNTIL everything has gone thru the court systems. That way HUBBY/EX-to-be can't use anything against you. \n\nTHEN go slowly starting a NEW relationship. Take it slow and easy.
102213
1.  Do not believe in divorce.  Make it not an option, not even as a last resort.\n\n2.  You must put each other and each others feeling before all else.\n\n3.  You must BOTH be completely willing to communicate and completely willing to talk about problems that either of you feel you have.
505826
...been there brother...it hurts worse than anyone will ever understand.\n\nFriends and family are great, but you know as well as I do, that you can only be around them so much.  Sometimes you just need time alone.  Try not to spend too much time alone.  I know, I still struggle with that and my divorce was final 6 months ago.  \n\nMan, I could write a book to you right now.  It is just SO hard dude.  \n\nWhatever you do, don't spend all your time thinking about all the great times, the great traits of your wife and, most importantly, beating yourself up over the situation, (kicking yourself over anything and everything you could have done better, blaming yourself for not making her happier and feeling like you failed).  THIS IS WAY EASIER TO SAY THAN TO DO!  I know.  This is the trap that I fell in and caused me to become WAY, WAY depressed.\n\nYou are gonna ride a roller coaster of up and down emotion for the next few years.  The low times are gonna be LOW, LOW, and the high times will be pretty good, believe it or not.\n\nWriting has become my happy place.  Actually, it doesn't really make me happy, it just releaves me of the pain that I am experiencing at the moment.  I don't always write about the divorce, feelings or depression.  Sometimes, I write about current events, events that really touched me, friends, etc.  It really doesn't matter.  Writing just gives me an outlet to release emotion without bothering others.
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Oh my dear lord.  You are in for a rude awakening.  Divorce is almost never cheap and it is almost never fast.  It is a horrific experience to go through and I'm sorry that you're going through it.\n\nThat having been said, the best way to do things is if you and your soon to be ex-spouse work together.  If there are no major conflicts and no major disputes over property or children, then you can get an attorney or paralegal to draft the necessary settlement documents.  \n\nGo to www.martindale.com for a listing of divorce attorneys in your area.\n\nGood luck.  You're going to need it.
318753
In past experience, I've learned that the best way to get over someone is to give yourself an allotted grieving time...I say a week or less, and then start doing something to take your mind off of the situation, or at least alleviate the thought of that person. I have found one of the best things is exercise...or try something you've never done before...a new hobby or sport. It's a great way to distract you, plus you might meet some new interesting people as well.
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Unfortunately many couples divorce either still loving each other or one partner still loving the other.\nThe best way is to accept that there is love, as well as accepting that he is gone. When you feel lonely and I know this is hard, instead of dragging out old memories, try as hard as you can on doing something constructive, listen to music,( not sad music) make a list of things you like about yourself, call a friend or a relative and go out for coffee or something, in short, get a life of your own.\nLike I said, is not easy, but if you try, little by little you will notice that getting up in the mornings is not so hard, and that you are looking forward to your new life.\nBelieve me, even if is hard to do believe now, this too shall pass.
576087
sell them..you'll never be free from that bond..nor is fair to leave laying around for say a new boyfriend to find..once the divorce is over..do your best to erase the past and move forward
1032725
How long has it been since you divorced?  You just might need more time.  You'll know  when you're ready for a serious relationship again.  Take time to find yourself again and reassess what you want out of life and in a mate.  If you don't feel you're doing ok on your own, seek some counseling.  It really does help to talk things out and put them on the table.
1027002
Find someonelse to get him out of your system. \nMen try to be polite and say sweet things to ease you but then women read this compassionate talk as false hope. Honey, it's all BS because is OVER and is been over since August last year.\n\nIf he wanted to be back he would already been back.\nFind some new friends, go to a divorce support group to be able to vent your pain and share experiences with people that have been thru the same. If you keep on holding on you will continue suffering. Realize once and for all that he is not coming back, come one. you are DIVORCED and you don;t have to keep on holding on the candles waiting for him to make his heroic return. Noone is going to give you a medal for being a marthyr...so go out and have fun, you are a newly single gal. He is out ther having fun, so why are you crying at home?\n\nLet go and move on\n\nGood luck.
874312
You need to stop and look at your priorities. Your children are number one. You need to do all that is possible to give them an intact, caring mother and father house. After divorce and the boy/girlfriends come parading in and out of their lives, things get pretty rough for the kids. Don't do this to them.\n\nYou are the man of the family. Ultimately the responsibility is all on your shoulders. You take the first step. The rewards will be indescribable. \n\nI also stood once on the edge of divorce. I finally realized I was a jerk and made a one-eighty. You must do the same.\n\nIn general, you must make your wife's happiness a priority. Think of what she would like and do it. Don't worry about your own happiness. A loving wife and happy kids will provide all the happiness you need. \n\nHowever don't do what is wrong, ie go into debt to buy stuff for her or do ridiculous things. Treat her well. Tell her you love her and your marriage is very important to you. Do the dishes on occasion, make the bed every day, I do. help around the house. Don't neglect your own chores.\n\nMost important of all. Do the right thing. Spend money wisely. Raise the kids properly (don't be their friend, be their loving authoritative parent). \n\nLet your ego and feelings go when you and your wife argue. Let her speak her peace. Try giving each other a couple minutes to say whatever you want with absolutely no words (or funny looks) from the other.\n\nDon't separate, that almost inevitably leads to divorce.\n\nMy parents got divorced when I was 13. Don't do it to your kids. I got stuck with a horrible step-dad for decades. My dad told me the number one regret in his life is that he didn't work more on his marriage to my mother. Step up to the plate, be a man, and take care of your woman!
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WELL get over it, and think and ask yourself, did he do his best to get you back, and does he really deserve you,OF COURSE NOT OTHERWISE YOU WOULD NOT BE DIVORCED\nHE DOESNOT LOVE YOU, YOU BETTER FIND TO YOURSELF SOMEBODY ELSE WHO REALLY LOVES YOU;
84757
Sounds like this hit you hard. Sounds like you didnt know it was coming. They have support groups for divorce people. Try going out and doing something for yourself thats make you feel good, and dont blame yourself.
1185711
Talk to your parents about your feelings. I know this maybe a difficult time in your life but you need to talk to someone. If you are still in grade school you can talk to your guidance counselor about this. You may want to also take up a hobby to keep you focused on other things instead of thinking about the divorce all the time. Good Luck and I hope this helps!!!
267915
I don't think there is any easy way to adjust and go through a divorce without some questions, hurt, anger and thinking you are a total failure for not being able to save a marriage. Just pray a lot....Nicole
1155505
Part of the therapy for getting over a divorce is to re-join the "human race".  With a divorce, we go through "separation anxiety" ... and that is a very miserable condition.\n\nDon't feel that you have to leap at the first opportunity to date ... but don't shy away from one that interests you.  Ease back into it, maybe by starting out going out with a group of friends, then a couple friends, then venturing out on your own.\n\nThere is no generally-accepted timeframe for waiting.  Let your own heart and needs determine that.  Just be cautious about "rebounding" and jumping into a worse relationship than the one you just left ... just because "it's there" and you're hurting.