do you think it alright to get a job if your stay at home mom?
554464
yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.
543704
What about a compromise? You admit that outside child care has had upsides for your daughter though she tends to be more exposed to illness which is expected. You also seem to enjoy the fact that you have the ability to be out of the house, working at a job you hopefully enjoy and I'm sure this aspect has left you with a feeling of a more direct contribution to the home in terms of finance. However you do say that now your husband makes more money than when you were a stay-at-home mom before so that wouldn't be an issue.\n\nSo, all things considered and while the money wouldn't be an issue, I think the real question comes down to your mixed emotions about full time mommy and in doing so giving up what's become a sort of escape in having a job outside the home. This is where maybe a compromise might be an alternative. Day care (4) days or so a week and a part time on those days (minus 1). The minus one day could be the day you spend in your home doing the things you both need and enjoy doing to make your home comfortable and clean for you and your family.
198937
I am a work from home mom of 4 and I spent months looking for the right work from home job. I LOVE what I am doing and my job makes it easy for me to be their for my kids when they need me the most I never miss a ball game or a school function. The start up cost is only 10$ If you would like to know more please visit my web site and ask for more info. I will be sure to get back to you and answer any questions you may have
611347
Definitely.  Despite having a career and all other responsibilities that come along with independent living. You get to well live independently.  It is true freedom.  Unless by this time in life you have become a parent then you only have yourself to answer to.
1009205
What are you good at doing? Maybe you can turn that into a business. You say you are a mother, would you like to run a day care for other mothers who work outside their homes? Good luck in whatever you do!
710550
I think June is certainly the most commonly used icon to represent that type of parenting. \n\nI absolutely know that you can work and be a good mother.  Staying at home doesn't guarantee anything.
546855
I am a stay at home mom and I work for a great home based company.  You're your own boss, your own hours.  You can visit my website and see if this is something you would want to do.  Also, while you're there, sign up for the free drawing, even if it's not something you want to do.\n\nhttp://www.amyscandles.scent-team.com
109329
Mothers working outside the home can be very good role models.  I taught and had one caregiver in my home for five years.  Later I taught one of my children.  They saw me as a hard working career person, a graduate student, and a fully involved loving mother.  It takes a lot of planning, prioritizing and staying the course but it certainly can be done successfully.
806847
You have it good but if you want to feel better about yourself, maybe you should get your own place and a job, if you are not working. You just need more independence. But it is still good that your parents are helping you out though. \n\nI use to feel the same way about my folks helping me out until someone told me never be ashame of having a great support system.
988529
Everyone has there own opinion but I don't believe anyone is any better than anyone else, working or not, working or staying at home doesn't make your any better of a mother than anyone else, I'm a stay at home mom and I believe I'm a great mother, I clean, cook, play with my kids, teach them, everything I'm supposed to, but I know working mom's who do the same, ...God bless
574392
i would love not work! at least not full time. maybe part time in a job i like or be able to volunteer so i don't get sick of being at home all the time. that would be a dream......
192185
Yes...\nBut don't fall for any of those 'earn loads, work from home' adverts you see. It is unlikely you'll get a work from hoem job as your first (or second or third) job. It takes time and hard work to get the expertise, respect and trust needed to work from home.\nThe other oppotunity is to work for yourself (set up your own buisness) but this is also pretty tricky.
154952
No. It's your responsibilty as a parent.\nKeep up the good work!
983020
I am a housewife or whatever you want to call it. I don't really like the term 'stay at home mom' b/c I am a wife, too. I really like that I am a mom don't get me wrong, but I really feel like that term takes away from my identity- I am still a 20's something female who really wants to do things as one, too- not just a mom. I mean I LOVE my daughter (who is 7 and a 1/2) and I raise my 5 year old step son and I have since right when he turned 2, but he wasn't even bottle broke and only said dada and ba ba. His dad was raising him alone and totally babied (is that a word?) him. He still does, but when his dad isn't home, I have taken him light years... I also have a 13 yr old step daughter who comes over every tues. and Every weekend.\n       I agree that we don't get enough credit and when I have to say that to ppl I stay at home, I always feel like I should explain myself even though I don't really feel that way. My husband really figures that since I am home then the house should stay spotless, and always look clean, even though no one in the house closes the shower curtain when they are finished- if they use any products (which they do, all day and night) they stay right on the counter. My husband starts a pile of trash on the kitchen counter instead of putting it in the can --even if it isn't full- then he wonders why the house looks the way it does by the end of his day off and never remembers that when he came in the night before he said 'Wow, the house looks great honey'. The clothes just get thrown on the floor wherever and hangers get thrown on the bed... so no matter how hard I try, the house always looks cluttered, you know , like I never bothered, when it what I do everyday and then also at LEAST one night a week, when noone is home (wed. or every other FRI & SAT) I deep clean for hours with my ipod, and you really can't tell so much of the time. If the dishwasher is empty, ppl will still not put there dishes in it, and I didn't even mention the actual doing of the laundry or that my husband changes 10 times both of his days off AND where a 2x in everything, and always wears an undershirt. We have Big towels and then somehow we accumulated quite a feww smaller towels too, well, my husband will give his son a bath and use a beach towel for the floor instead of one of the small towels, which isn't a great big deal until you multiply 4 x 7 to make at least 28 big towels a week already, so washing more big towels instead of little towels makes no sense. They take up at least 3 times more room each.\n     My step son is enrolled in daycare (he goes from 9- 4:30 and pre school is from 1-4 on wen. and fri.) a cpl days a week and that and that started back in Feb. b/c I was at a breaking point, b/c I was raising him myself, while his mom did nothing for him, never came and got him and I was being fought against in trying to help 2 other ppls' son grow and do things that were appropiate for his age. I love him like he is my own, and have taught him everything, yet he the fact that he wasn't mine was being thrown in my face when I would try and do anything towards helping him become more independent. I left for a couple days and when I came back home, I let my husband keep him there 2 days a week so I could get some piece mind and that way his mom had to pick him up 2 times a week and keep him for a cpl hours til his dad got off work, and I was hoping that the school would tell my husband what was appropriate for his age instead of me. If those things weren't going on he would be home all the time.\n\nSorry, this is soo long, but that was a great Q! b/c I thought I was going crazy!!!!
953250
have you thought about working online?\ni am a stay at home mom and i work online and i love it check out http://atafolla.qhealthbeauty.com/Default.aspx then click on opportunity they also rated great with the www.bbb.org \nhope this helps
651397
A stay at home mother of 3 is a full time job and should be very rewarding. Why do you want to spoil that with a second job which will ruin the quality of the first because then your 3 children will not be getting the care they are used to. Come on. You're doing what you want to do. Be proud of it.
192209
compromise, do the career first. because it is definately harder when you have kids. personal experience. i don't get to spend much time with mine and it makes me feel guilty. but if i didn't work and do my career, i feel like i haven't fulfilled my destiny. i went at this backwards and now im paying for it. if i could i would do the job first that way i wouldn't regret it later. then you would have all the time in the world to be a mom.