so why I nearly couldn't be sucessful with my boyfriend without sex?
538407
ummm... I'm not sure that I understand the question.\nI'd say that you should be able to be successful with your boyfriend without sex.  If he doesn't see it that way, then I'd move on.  He must be able to respect your wishes.
198200
I think that if having sex is required to bring the relationship close.... then that relationship is worthless anyway.\n\nAnyone who requires sex to prove that they are in a relationship needs to be dumped immediately.\n\nA relationship is WAY more than just sex....
531616
Openly talk about this with him, what kind of relationship do you have if you can't talk about sex, if you both can't talk about it then one or both of you aren't ready for it.  If he wants to wait, learn to masturbate.  If you aren't happy after this, dump him, why waste your time in a relationship if you aren't happy with it.
1022889
If you're really concerned about it, suggest to him that you spend a few weeks without it... to build the excitement.  Tell him while you're not having sex, you can get into other things in your relationship... whatever suits you guys.  You could just hang out and play games (cards, board games, etc) and talk/snuggle.  You could go to amusement parks or go hiking.  You could go to museums, go to church... just whatever it is that fits you guys.  If you all can make it through that comfortably, and you actually CAN fill your time without sex... then I think you might be alright.  =)
96262
Sounds like your boyfriend has less imagination than he thought he did. Or, he took it slow since it was your first time together. I would hope for the latter.
531985
I was in a your exact position, and my advice to you is say bye to him.  I am also a very sexual person, and when my ex and I had very low amount of (like once ever couple of months) sex I tried to talk to him about it, he would ignore me as well.  So I tried to work it out regardless, and after three loooong years, it just had to end.  If you two do not have a satisfying sex life, it becomes a major issue.  It's not a matter of how many times  you have sex month, it weather or not you are both happy with it.  It sounds like you are not happy with the situation, just like I wasn't, and my self esteem went down year by year.  I felt like it was my fault that he didn't want sex, and it hurt.  In retrospect, I realize it was not my fault.  We just didn't click sexually, and even though we cared about each other, it wasn't enough to hold together a relationship.\n\nSo in brief, my answer to your question is, sex is not important as long as it is present in the relationship.  If it is absent, it becomes a major issue. If you have already tired to talk to him about it, and you feel like he is ignoring you, walk away.  You need to be with someone who understands  your needs and tries their best to fulfill them.
210022
Are you scared of the intimacy? Have you always had difficulty? Or are you trying too hard to be aroused? Visualize a fantasy with him, and set it up. Talk to him. Don't make him guess at what's going on. He loves you, if he didn't he wouldn't have married you. Intimacy involves the mind, body, soul and heart, let him romance every facet, taking his time. Communicate. Good luck and best wishes for you both.
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Don't look elsewhere, this is actually pretty normal.    Try talking to him and telling him that you'd like to be more intimate.  DOn't make things into a chore, like "eat, drive to movies, blah, sex"... Usually, I find that a good makeout session will be enough to rev up your latent sex drives!
33695
You probably aren't able to have vaginal orgasms, so the best thing to do is have clitoral stimulation as you have intercourse. Other than that, you probably aren't comfortable with having sex with him, ask yourself...  does he force you? Do you really want to have sex? Maybe you're just not in the mood, or maybe he's too big for you.
215750
It sounds like he's just really afraid of getting hurt.  I wouldn't say your relationship is only sex though, you've had some great deep coversations and have been friends for a long time.  I definately think there is the potential for a good relationship here.  The only thing is, he needs to be on board.  Don't try to force a relationship if he's not ready.  Talk to him about it, and try to gain his trust.  Sometimes when someone has closed themselves off for that long, they have a hard time opening up again.
1037148
It sounds like your man has low testosterone. This is very common for a guy his age. He can get a blood test by his doctor to see if he suffers from low test. This can be caused by lack of exercise, bad diet, overweight, lazy, and just age. He could try over the counter natural formulas to get him back in the saddle again like enzyte. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Many young people in their upper 20s are going through the same thing now days. I would get him started with finding out what is causing the lack of wanting sex before trying to get new positions established.
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You obviously haven't had good sex. Just because your boyfriend likes it, doesn't mean he's any good at it.\n\nWithhold sex until he learns how to please you better and then you will enjoy it more.\nAnd make sure that you're into it before you proceed - if you're not turned on or aroused, it will not bring you pleasure. There is surely something ot be said for foreplay.
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Maybe this is a frequency thing...are you having sex less frequently? And now when you do you can't take it as long because you are not "used" to it.  \n\nYou know, kind of like exercise when you first start back. You can be a bit sore at first before you start to build up your strength and stamina. \n\nHang in there gal...you will get that stamina back. Just as long as you are both having fun.
211319
i totally agree with you. people think that you have to have sex if you are in a relationship, but it's not true. i was with a guy for almost three years and we never had sex. im proud of myself for that because i proved to myself and other people that you can be in a relationship and stay together without having sex. Good Luck!
689597
Sex alone does not make the marriage! Some people are different about it, he must feel secure with you, don't worry about it, if you love each other feel good! If you want to make love with him ask and be patient.
404833
The most honest answer i could gues at would be that maybe intimacy in other ways is far more important than the actual act itself.  Maybe he respects you enough not to either desire you or its the fact that for a medical reason he has lost the desire to want it.
724298
If he can't walk, then sex is a good thing, unless you are underage!!! In which case, NO CHANCE!!!