PLS. ANSWER!!...how can I develop self confidence?...?
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Figure out what your problem is. Realize your problem isn’t who you are, it’s what you have used to protect your physical and emotional well being. It’s hiding who you are: a beautiful human being, a wonderful source of awareness, knowledge, creativity, love and joy. If you practice self-esteem based on the faith that this is who you really are, then your problem will dissolve. \nFigure out who you are. Take self-evaluation quizzes. Learn as much as you can about who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. Self-knowledge is a key to success. \nDecide what you can and can’t control. Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control. \nAccept responsibility. Finding self-confidence requires accepting responsibility for your own happiness, and recognizing that you are a product not only of your genetic code and your environment, but of the choices you make. Begin your day with the words "I am responsible." \nMake anxiety your ally. Write down your worries for 30 days. Nagging concerns that loom so large in your imagination lose their power on paper. Amazingly, after writing them down the anxieties begin to fade. \nRecognize that mistakes are opportunities. Keep the setback in perspective. Most mistakes are not personal tragedies; rather they are problems you now have the opportunity to solve. "Success," is often a string of failed attempts to get it right. \nCompete to improve yourself not to beat someone else. \nBe ambitious. When setting goals, remember that you are distinct from what you have and what you seem to be. If you let others define who you are, you may not find happiness. Pursue your own dreams -- not your parent’s, mate’s, or your best friend’s. \nBe brave and take risks. Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Risk-taking builds confidence. When considering any risk: define a clear goal. Review the positive, practical and potential losses. Determine whether the risk is one of trust, identity or something larger. When you focus on risks that have a larger purpose, you can’t go wrong. Even if the risk doesn’t turn out as you hoped it would, you will gain from it. Act. Take a risk. Be confident -- you have earned it. \nThink and speak positively. If you hear a compliment or positive statement about someone you know pass that compliment on to them. An Arabian proverb puts it neatly: Blessed is he who speaks a kindness; thrice blessed he who repeats it. \nLearn something new. Create a new hobby. Increase your vocabulary one word a week. Take on a new physical challenge or activity. \nSpend time investing in your personal growth. This enables joy to flourish amid the fears and difficulties of life. Read self-help books and act on the knowledge. \nDecisions: the next time you ponder a decision, think of everything that could go right and say to yourself, "What do I have to lose, really? \nSmile and be courteous. Use the words please and thank you consistently. \nBe aware of media’s messages. Their goal is to make you feel bad about yourself so you will buy what they are selling. \nKeep good company. Positive feeds positive and negative breeds negative. If you choose to be around positive people you in turn will become more positive. \nReward yourself. Give yourself and others positive rewards for being and doing well. \nDon’t accept messages that damage your own self-esteem. It is much easier to improve or change your behavior when you believe you are lovable and capable. \nBe aware of the different messages that you hear in your head and remember to turn up the volume on the messages that contribute to your positive self-esteem and to turn down the volume on any message that encourages you to think negatively about your worth or ability. \nYou can improve the quality of messages you have in your head about being lovable and capable. Use "how to" statements in your head and take action on the answers you rece
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Just try to make yourself stronger. don't think of poeple talkings much and improve your self confidence.\nI was like this when I was younger but I released being sensentive too much is not worth at all.
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Take karate or judo lessons, read a good self-help book on confidence and projecting a better image of yourself.  Eat well, bulk up a little bit, do situps and push ups every day, work out with weights.\n\nYou'll be ok.
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By being yourself! Try random acts of kindness...
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Speak whenever you have the possibility to do so. Don't think a lot about grammar (I suppose you are non native speaker of English), say whatever comes to your mind.  I had the same problem, but with time I developed some self-confidence.Keep in mind that you are not the only one who has a fear of speaking, and it is something natural that must be done.Good luck!
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Find someone who is closest to what you consider as a "succes man", and ask that person to be your mentor, or to give you suggestions to your situation, or give you names of people who may be able to provide you guidance in building self confidence and be a "succes man".\n\nMany people have succeeded in attaining their goal with the help of mentor(s) in their lives.
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My speech teacher had us look just over the top of the audience heads. He had up proactice at home in front of a mirror. I would practice my speeches with a tape recorder. I would have my husband or a friend listen to me. I found practice helped build confidence. Then the more you do, the easier it gets. Just practice...practice ...practice
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When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind. \n\nDeveloping self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.\n\nSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...\n\na) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.\n\nb) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to: \n\nfind out if you like the other people in the situation \nmake others feel comfortable \nfind out some information \nmake business contacts \nand so on...
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play this self-esteem game\nhttp://www.selfesteemgames.mcgill.ca/\nor\nhttp://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v3i2/selfesteem.html\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html#anchor1643790
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the best way to get confidence in your self is to confront your fears head-on.  even if you fail, at least you tried, and you can take solace in that.\n\nby the way, not all girls can read your mind...  but most can.  hee hee!  :)\n\nif you stop looking at them like "girls" and start seeing them as "people", you will find it much easier to deal with them!  ;)
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by increasing your self confidence
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Yes sweetie, u need to be confident but also relax and try to be urself!
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try a few new things. as you bebecome sucessful at small tasks your confidence will grow
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Just give it to him, Show him your ""self confidence"" and he'll think good thoughts about you.. I promise!!
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you have a very low self-esteem... but the good thing is, you KNOW you have potential, you'll just have to have faith in yourself... why don't you try something that would make you use your talents/potentials... for example, if you can act, then go and do an audition to a play or something... or if you're good at school, try applying for a scholarship program... in that way, when you get to achieve a certain goal of yours, your selfesteem will be increased... love what you are doing, love yourself... take risks... its part of living... sometimes, we have to fall in order for our body and heart to be prepared and be strong...;o)
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Focus on yourself. That doesn't mean that you should become self-centered, but it means that if you spend too much time worrying what other people think, then stop.\n\nI know that it's easier said than done, but be yourself no matter what. It's hard, but it's worth it.\n\nSometimes buying a new shirt or getting a haircut gives me a boost of confidence. It's only temporary, but sometimes it's the boost I need to get working on other areas of my life.
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just be nice, not 2 needy, have confidence in ur self. & beleive me it will come 2 u