what should you do if you love someone and he is married?
539286
forget it and move on,  if for some reason he would leave them and go with you, that only shows he would also do the same to you latter perhaps.
977788
You get married because you love that person and you want to spend the rest of your life with them. You want to really love that person and you know you are meant to be with them. There is not a time limit on love. You just choose.
129685
This tells you what your life with him will be like IF you get married.  Now ask yourself, "Is this what I want?"  If not, then thank goodness that you two aren't married and move on.
607342
im not going to judge you like others...if you love him like you say then you cant help what your heart feels.\n\nhas he been with you while he has promised to leave his wife? how long has this been going on? you need to take these into careful consideration.\n\nin these cases there are a few options:\n1. he stays with his wife while you keep hanging\n2. he leaves his wife and he dumps you\n3. he leaves his wife and you have a wonderful life together\n...is it any wonder why youre so conflicted?\n\ndepending on how long your "relationship" has been going on and how he feels about you (if he claims to love you too) you will most likely have to give him an ultimatum. because if someone REALLY wants to leave the person they married they would do it regardless of what stands in the way. plenty of men have left wonderful wives behind for selfish reasons...so if its just not working out with him and her then he needs to face that and move on.\n\nwhen you give the ultimatum and he says that he cant leave her...then theres nothing more you can do. if he says to wait some more, explain how you cant keep putting your heart on the line to wait for him. and NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS you must walk away. perhaps it will make him understand the situation he's in and make an appropriate decision - whether its you or her. \n\nand who knows - maybe even if he doesnt make up his mind right away he'll end things properly with her and come back to you. still, unless you leave (even temporarily) he will find it easier to just deal with the two of you to avoid any more drama than whats insued.\n\nthe best of luck to you in this situation - my heart goes out to you! make sure to protect yours!
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
418866
end it immediately! he's married and that means he loves the other woman and he's not faithful!
9442
You cant hold on to something thats not there...You can continue to do your end of the vows and pray that he will have a change of heart but ultimatley in marriage love comes and goes but its commitment to that person that will keep a marriage.  Apparently hes never had that commitment to hold on to you for "better or for worse".  He obviously moves according feeling not any thing else.  You keep your end if hes not willing than let it go--More advice? chrystaldr@yahoo.com
1070224
what he/she should do is to start to let others know about his feelings for them... coz it might be too late for him/her. He/she might lose someone who could love him eternally
354541
You need to make a choice then if you are willing to give up everything you have in your life for a possible relationship with this other person with who there are no guarantees.  A lot of married people get crushes on other people, the key is not to act on them and throw away what you have.  Sit down and decide what you want in life and what price you are willing to pay.  If it is this other person then you need to get a divorce and pursue that relationship after the divorce.
367004
my fiance' was married when i met him at work.his wife and him had been having issues with her cheating and she did not want kids and he did.he told me about 2 weeks after we met that he did not love his wife anymore.i never thought about getting involved with him until right before he seperated from his wife(a month and 1/2 after we met)he told me he loved me.i felt the same for him but i did not want to get in the middle of his marriage.he convinced me to be with him and i'm glad i did,he is the love of my life and says i am his
1164449
Everyone remembers the One. You got married to someone eals so im sure that you love him too. the heart is a crule thing it has no limmit on the amount of love it has. the heart always makes more. So yes it is verry easy to love two people. You have to decide if your marrige is worth keeping. If it is then dont worry about the strong feeling for the other man. It will be hard but it will get better.
1072494
Let him go. He's married. What about the wedding vows he made?\nIf people can break these vows whenever they wish...then they meant nothing.  How would you like it if you were married to a guy and he left you like that?\nSomeone wonderful will come along for you. And you'll be glad \nyou waited...
279382
hmmm.....if u still love him, try to work things out. if things dont work out, divorce! if you dont love him anymore, then still divorce!
665338
I love my husband so the married man i'm inlove with is married TO ME.
95590
Leave him...He needs to deal with his marriage before you and him can have a chance at a relationship.  Right now you are blocking his chance to try and work out his marriage.  By leaving him he will be forced to either make his marriage work or to get divorced and move on.  You deserve a guy who is dedicated to you and a relationship with only you.  If he can't do that then you should find someone who can.
1121218
I think that you should over think this! You shouldn't get married to someone that you are not in love with. Liking someone and loving someone is completely different. Once you marry them that should be it. You shouldn't go into marriage counting on the divorce card as a back door. You really have to stick together through good and bad, sickness and health, richer or poorer and it should be forever 'til death do you part. People that go into marriage half-hearted are the ones raising the divorce rate. If you feel this way, you should talk to him about it. If you know that he's going to propose and you go and date someone else...that's a sure way of knowing you are not ready to settle down with him. You should be truthful to him and yourself. At the same time, you should marry someone that you can be yourself with. Best wishes.
40333
you should get a divorce.then again does that other person feel the same way about you .you need to be true to yourself and your husband.it is not eair to him