Do you think i'm wasting my time with my long distance boyfriend?
541407
Long distance relationships do not work.  Sooner or later he is going to get tired of keeping in touch by letters, e-mails, or phone calls.  His girlfriend is located near him.  You're not near him when he needs you, to share his problems with, to celebrate birthdays and holidays, however; his girlfriend is.  I'd say find someone you can see on a regular basis.  Communicating through phone calls, e-mails and letters is not a real relationship.  You're probably going through a stage where a boyfriend is high priority for you.  One day you'll find someone you can call your boyfriend, someone you can see on a regular basis.
1129389
I know what u mean....my BF lives in Houston.....where I am in College Station....TX.....it is almost 2 hrs away....BUT....we talk on the phone EVERYDAY......send emails everyday.....& he just drove up here today....out of the blue to see me.....of course we only got to spend 4 hrs with each other...it was amazing.....I have had long distance relationships before.....but this one kind of grows.....every time we see each other....we grow "fonder"....they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.....I really like my BF too.....it is hard for us because of the distance...as well as our work schedules....but we make it happen......what I like about him....HE comes to me, more then I go to him.......Just be patient.....like one other person said....let him figure out a way to come to u.....if it was meant to be....something will work out.....GOOD LUCK!...
156313
Yes. Spend a loooooooooot of time.\nI m not talking abt the time 'with her'. But while you are away too. And that will make you really really close to her, and by this you will even know almost her reaction to situations. They love that feeling,that you 'understand her' more than anything else. And remember....that is a loooooot of quality time! You have it with u? Then ur girl will really love you.
479631
Long distance relationships can work as long as two people are dedicated to each other and want it to work. The two of you are the only ones that will be able to tell if its working. If both of you are completely happy with each other and the way things are going then things are going well I would presume. :) If you truly love each other go for it cause it's more than likely going to work. :) Good luck!
82761
well...my lond distance relationship is at a 15 hour diference...u have to trust each other..and everything will be ok! best of luck
946001
mama honestly a long distance relationship he's out doing him while your miserable wondering what he's doing those often frequent breaks of no convo are the moments in your relationship where you should\nbe doing you and not worrying about him if he really loves you he'll come back home to you you just have to be there waiting with open arms .Don't stop living for you most of us females have a tendancy to be to loyal to our mate so we don't want to do any thing to them to make them not trust us we sometimes put ourselfs in a shell so we wont touch any temptations .Girl have fun do you do be a slave to his emails or calls you have a life to and you deserve happieness also let him have his cake and eat it  \ntoo and you wont even care because you are doing you it's that lonely feeling and feeling unapriecated that has you wondering why and what's wrong trust it's not you it's him he's not on your same level or same page so he doesn't think that he's doing anything wrong it's just what he used to doing cause females put up with it be the one to make the changes and instead of following take the lead Make him play your game
57969
it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
650592
Yes, you need to give him some distance . Maybe you need some time to think about your relationship with him. You don't want to be stuck in a relationship that is never going to go anywhere. IF you give him space,and if he really loves you than he will try to make things better the second time around.
328947
Its hard when you are in a long distance relationship. Your insecurities seem to triple. \nLet him know how it makes you feel. Let him know that you know its just you but that you do have these feelings and ask him to be more considerate and call when he says or let you know if he wont etc.\n\nAlso get a passtime something you do just when you are worrying. \nGood luck! I know from experience it is tough!!!
98247
it all depends on how commited you are to him. long distance relationships aren't easy. talk to him about it. be sure you cover every possible situation. and KNOW exactly how you feel about him. it takes two to make a relationship work.
868796
My dear, i am in the same situation as you. my BF is 600km away. we are still studying and only meet once every 4 to 5 months. we keep our relationship more like a best friend relationship rather then a love relationship. The most importand of all is the word TRUST. with it you will be sucessful. We have been in a long distance relationship for more then 3 years now and we will be getting married end of next year. \n\nMy dear, I really want you to suceed. many people around you will discourage you saying that because he is not by your side,you will break up soon. dont believe it.  if i can make it. you can too. just trust him. do more emails to him. sms him more. call him more. send you pictuers to him via MMS or email. let him know how much you love him.\n\nI wish you all the best.
747884
Am sorry to say so,but it seems he's not very much in love with you (even if he says that he is) if he loves you,he would create time for you ...no words such as "busy"when it comes to a loved one...consider breaking up with him,and see how does he react...if he freaked and changed his way with you,give him another chance ,if not...then you find yourself someone as sweet as you are...you deserve much more than phone chatting.BTW if caring didn't come from deep inside of him,you wouldn't be able to MAKE him care.
197450
Long distance relationships can be very exciting because there is no routine. Each time you see him it is something special. Just the frequency needs to change. Enjoy it as long it lasts. You will notice when this relationship is ready for the next step. If you don´t see any progress at all you need to decide whether you want him as a platonic friend and whether you want to look for somebody else...
327808
try to talk to him and tell him it bothers you that he is spending too much time on the computer and that you miss him and it is cutting into your quality time together..if he cared for you as much as he says he might get the hint...if this doesn't do the trick..unplug the computer and tell him no more chat until he learns to appriciate you and your time together again
250033
I agree with pretty much every one on this page except the ones who say that long distance relationships DON'T work! C'mon.. be more positive!\n\nBTW, thank you for annswering my question and I am glad that I helped you :D.
60404
If you guys live a long distance from each other, and still are able to see each other a few times a month...it's worth it.  It looks like 1or2 of you are attempting to make this relationship work by seeing each other.  Doesn't that mean anything?  The key to a long distance relationship is trust, communication, trust, and communication.:-)  Don't let the distance fool you into believing that it won't work.  You two keep doing what you're doing...it will work.
991322
How long will you be "far away"...?\nCause that makes a difference in how realistic it is...\nI'm currently away from my guy too...\nBut only for a couple of months.\nIf your thing is permanent, then my honest suggestion\nWould be either move to him, or move on.\n\nAs far as ways to make him think of you,\nThat won't be a problem if y'all are really in love...