I want to leave my husband ..... I can't take it any more.....it must end or I will end!!! help!!!!!?
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NO ONE SHOULD BE ABUSED IN ANY SHAPE FROM OR FASHION, VERBAL ABUSE IS JUST AS BAD AS PHYSICAL ABUSE. YOU SHOULD NEVER THINK OF KILLING YOURSELF TO GET OUT OF A WASTELESS MARRIAGE. THEN ON TOP OF THAT YOUR DAUGHTER DOESN'T NEED TO STAND THERE AND SEE ANY OF THIS. WHAT PEOPLE FAIL TO REALIZE IS THAT CHILDREN FOLLOW WHAT THEY SEE. YOUR DAUGHTER DOESN'T NEED TO THINK THAT THIS IS OK, YOU DON'T WANT HER LETTING A GUY OR ANYONE AT THAT TREATING HER THAT WAY. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE THINKS THAT IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE, BUT EIGHT YRS OF ABUSE IS ENOUGH. LEAVE HIM, MOVE OUT, AND FILE FOR DIVORCE
1151401
ummmm....time to end the relationship~!!!???
945173
This book REALLY helped me examine my marriage and decide to stay or go. \n\nLOVE MUST BE TOUGH\n\nI am SO SORRY that you are basically being torn down. Please find a trusted friend that can be there for you and help you maintain perspective on what is right and wrong. And talk to them so you don't blow up like a tea kettle one day and then he says "See you ARE blalblablabl" like an asshole b/c that is what they do. So release that tension.\n\nHe is being difficult and unrealistic.\n\nThe book will help to tell you to stay or go and if you STAY how to act to potentially change how things are.
1025223
I think you already know.  You are not happy in this marriage, your husband doesn't care about your feelings at all.   You don't see any way to get him to change and you don't want to live this way.  I don't like to recommend divorce but if all you say is true than I think that would be the best thing if you want a happy future for yourself.
1048207
Hello,\nSeek counseling and help here and try to save it if at all... Talk to him and see if he is open to getting the help he needs with you. Seek marriage counseling too. If he continually cheats though and does not or refuses to change then you do have legal and biblical grounds for getting out and at least separating and even divorce if there is absolutley not resolving the marriage. If you need to talk i am here anytime for you.
1035283
I know how you feel.  My husband used to be the same way.  It is a horrible way to live, isn't it?  Just remember that he has a problem and needs help.  Divorce was not an option for me so I stuck it out, hoping that he would change.  He did.   With a little maturing, antidepressants (for both of us I might add) and patience, we made it.\nI always wanted the kind of marriage my mom and dad have.   Loving, caring for one another, laughter and respect.  It took many years, but I finally got it.  We have been married 29 years this year.  It was soooo difficult though.  But well worth the wait.  Please try to talk to your husband about antidepressants.  It really helps my husband not be so angry and irritable all the time.  If you don't feel like you take it anymore (and I know how that is, too)  talk to someone.  It can help more than you realize.  If I can help in some way, please send me an e-mail.  I would be glad to listen.  I didn't have anyone that I felt comfortable enough with to tell all the sorted details to.  Didn't want mom and dad to know how bad things really were.  Good luck and I will say a little prayer for you and your family....:)
657721
I went through the same thing with my husband.. you might try anger managment counseling or taking a trial seperation. Just remember that when you feel yourself getting to the point of explosion that you have 2 feet WALK AWAY.
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So, he doesn't agree...big surprise, right?  No way to get your message across, then you'll have to send the message by actions, not words.  While you've been talking and he's not listening, that's all it is...lip service.  What have you done to show him that this marriage was a mistake?  Nothing.  If you are going to end it, then end it.  Move out and leave a note.  Explain that you made a mistake by rushing into this marriage and upon this realization, you need to go.  File the papers and in 3 months or so, you'll be free to live as an independant woman again.  Until then, just lay low and don't listen to his crying and persuations.  Just cut the cord and make it short and sweet.  It'll be easier and less painless in over the long run.
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I was in love with my husband since I was 15 years old.  I am now 31 and we have 2 children together.  He chose to make some choices within himself, which affected us as his family in a very negative way. He chose pain pills over his family, which took every penny he had, then turned into an evil addiction.  We have lost homes, jobs, have had the law at our home numerous times. As his wife, I wanted to help him and be there for him...after years of struggling with this addiction..and trying to help him..the girls and I are out of energy and have had our hearts broken one too many times.  He is now in prison..and we were still there for him while he is there...but it came to a point that after being in prison for 6 months...he still showed his selfishness and EXPECTED things from us.  I have now chose it is time to move on, I love him so very much, but I have no control of him or his choices anymore, and our girls and I do not deserve to struggle anymore.  It was time for divorce.  I still think about the person that I fell in love with everyday.  I pray for him.  But this love story got out of control, and had a very sad ending.
337926
Get out while you can. Seriously. It's bad enough, what are you waiting for? You need to live a happy life. Get away soon.
791632
You deserve much better than that, honey.  I know after 10 years it would be hard to leave, but that might be what you need to do.  One of two things could happen...you could possibly move on and find a much better life, or you husband would realize just how much he's lost after you are gone and come running back.  Either way, you should do something.  You can't just sit around and let your husband think that his actions aren't affecting you.\nGood luck with whatever you decide and stay strong!
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Recommend you see a professional marital counselor first, and a divorce lawyer, and "get your ducks in a row".\n\nI would recommend you do that as soon as you possibly can because your situation at home is not something a woman should be involved in.\n\nAs a nuetral third party observer I assume I'm one of many who have told you leave your abusive husband.\n\nI'm not familiar with the psychology of what you are going through and I understand from the few articles I have read you might be undergoing some sort of dependence or whatever. There are halfway houses or whatever, there are enough mechanisms society has put in place for these types of situations.
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oh please think about what you want to do.  Read you statement for yourself. everything that you are telling us about this man is all the reason to leave him.  I have been though it and i thought the same thing you did. (I love him). but it only gets worse. please belive me shy away why you still can. You don't need to stay with this boy, please put yourself in our shoes and read what you have wrote like you are reading a friends letters and see the sings. you might be in love with him now, but as time goes on and it might take years! you will see that this is not for you and that you can not take it anymore.
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Honey\n\nYou and your hubby need to move out!\n\nEven if you have to live in a small dump, its better than putting up with the stress!!\n\nMove out soon!
700993
If you're looking for "an easy way out", you're NEVER going to find it. There is NO easy way out of marriage, especially where kids are involved. What you are going to have to do, is get alone, and decide whether you're better off with him(like he is), or better off without him. Good Luck on your decision!
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time to call it quits. you have to tell yourself no more. \nNo more will you take this mess from him. No more will you \nkeep arguing over stupid stuff. Tell yourself you are a \nwoman of success. This is 2006 and it's time to get it and\nthe rest in order. A woman can do bad all by herself. We\ndon't need a man to do bad or give us hell. We are the mothers of the earth who bare children in pain. We deserve\nour respect. Gone girl friend and let him know that the mess\nstops now. Gird up loins and put your foot down. You ever\nseen Diary Of A Mad Black Woman? the lady put her foot down.\nDon't hurt your husband just let him know what's up and leave. Don't get depressed because God is about to show up\nand show out.
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Get out now.  The longer you drag it on the worse it will be.  No job is worth giving up your happieness either.  You do not want to be in a marriage when you don't love someone.  Trust me I know.  I'm married with two kids and not in love with my husband anymore.  If I'd have known what I know now....