I dont believe thats true about people not getting over rape, atleast i hope its not true, is it?
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That's a new one on me! From my experience in talking with women in the past that have been raped it is a horrible experience and sad to say stays with you the rest of your life some people slough over things when something bad happens to them they may just be hiding the pain inside for no-one to see I think anyone male or female whom has been raped should see a rape counselor at least once just to be sure they are ok mentally. With counseling you can begin to get over it but if someone just burys a violent event like rape under the rug someday it will come back to haunt them full force most likely
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they usually do it because they think it makes them cool and makes them appear to be more "grown up." as for why people rape, those are the ones that have psychological issues and raping somebody makes them feel better about themselves, for a while at least.
665146
The past must be accepted. It should never be denied. It is apart of the reason why a country is now the way it is. We should try to forgive and move ahead. But to forget is disrespectful to all who have suffered. Effects of these sufferings last for generation upon generation and unless you have felt the effects you may not understand why people today are still so hurt by past events. Its very complicated and painful. I just hope one day, we as a world of people will learn to accept, acknowledge, love each other and live in peace together. That's a big ask, but I'll never stop hoping.
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some people like rape fantasy... where they are with a lover and they are preteneding they are being raped/ or raping someone. But real rape is a scary serious thing. I dobt that anyone would enjoys being forced to do anything sexually without concent.
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There are lots of people that have been through alot!! I don't care what color,race,sex you are. People are victims as long as you let yourself be. As for the end,the Bible does not lie,the Word was,is and always will be.
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How exactly does a 22 year old man get raped by a woman?\n\nIf this is for real, you should seek some counselling. The odds of a repeat occurance are extremely low.
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Just to play the devil's advocate...doesn't it depend on the circumstances?  What if the abuser was 15 years old and it was a one time thing?  Are we really going to say that this person will always be attacted to children and never change?  Are we really going to just throw our hands up in the air and tell that person there is no hope and - as one person put it - he should be shot on the spot?  I think the people that cannot be rehabilitated are the most serious offenders, those are the ones to be concerned about.  My experience in psychology tells me that people can change.  Not everyone, of course, but some can.  It's ignorant to think that all sex offenders are exactly the same.
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Sorry, I'm not a liberal and don't have an answer, but I just had to chime in and commend you on your brilliant question!\n\nNot that I would wish this on anyone, but I think life brings on a new perspective if you're the relative of someone who was raped or murdered.  It's easy to "arm chair" analyize without ever having been personally affected by what's going on.
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It actually works the same way as with a female, when the guy or girl says stop and the girls doesn't...that is all it takes, but a guy most likely will not come out and admit he was raped.
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There are some theories about this issue. Most of them are about extreme cases such as serial murderers or rapists. They suggest that some part of the brain is injured or have abnormalities. None of the theories is proven as far as I know.
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Umm, "u women" are not ok with it. I happen to be a woman and I think it's wrong regardless of the gender of the victim. You need anger management help though... if that is the result of a rape, please get help for both problems. No one should suffer that trauma alone.
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Well, the victim still lives with the full impact of the crime.  A woman who was raped doesn't suddenly become "unraped" and only assaulted, she still has to live with the results of the actual crime.  A person who was shot during a robbery does not suddenly have the bullet hole close and all the damage undone just because the scum criminal got his charges reduced.\n\nSo, instead of sitting and whining that there still is a record of what you did, just be glad you got off way easier than your victim(s) did.
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I think the people who say get over it are after their 2 points and don't really care about how people are feeling. It shows their immaturity.\n\nYou're right. You can't just get over it. You can't just move on. You have to deal with the pain that the person you loved and trusted violated that trust in the worst possible way, by being with someone else. It is heartbreaking to see that you are in such pain. There is no easy way to get through it. It's going to take a lot of time and maybe some counseling.  \n\nYou also might consider praying for healing. Beliefnet.com has some prayers that, over time, may help you to heal. Here is one:\n\nPrayer for Healing   \n\nLord Jesus Christ, by your patience in suffering you hallowed earthly pain and gave us the example of obedience to your Father's will: Be near me in my time of weakness and pain; sustain me by your grace, that my strength and courage may not fail; heal me according to your will; and help me always to believe that what happens to me here is of little account if you hold me in eternal life, my Lord and my God. Amen. ~~ Source: Book of Common Prayer 1979\n\nI pray that eventually you will be able to put the pain of lost love and betrayal behind you. God Bless!
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that is not that funny ,don't tell this joke a raped person ....besides I don't think you meant to harm somebody ...\n\n\nFor Justin: about 90% of the rapist are getting away with it !
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If it was rape she would most likly have some trauma to her arms or hands from trying to fight back.or maybe a broken nail. She wont talk untill she has had quite some time to let the reallity of it all pass.Good luck.
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Thank you thank you thank you!  I've felt the same way for years and some people think I'm crazy for thinking it.  I've been raped countless times and know people that have been raped.  Sex offenders deserve to be castrated or worse.  Some one who could do something like that and not think twice about all the things their taking from their victoms need to be severely punished.  And they let thes freaks go to walk our streets where our children play, can you believe that?  I agree with you 100%!!!!!  They should be castrated then given life in prison to suffer.
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Rape happens all the time, unfortunately.  I'm guessing it's the media that focuses more on celebrities who get accused of it because it makes a bigger splash.  I'm not sure they actually have a higher rate of crime than the general population.