i have friend that is in love with an older man but he act some times like he really dont want to be with her?
449955
If she is asking you for advice, tell her to kick him to the curb and find someone that will appreciate her and show her he loves her. Why waste time and energy on him.  She probably will not listen to you.  Women like to wear blinders and ignore the advice of friends about the men in their lives.  If she is not soliciting for your advice---stay out of it.
224871
If he is confused and has feelings for this other friend then you need to seek out someone who will make you happy.  Don't keep waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want because it will be you who will suffer in the end and you may also question how deep his feelings really were for her to begin with?  You could end up with more issues than you have now and regrets.
50105
Wow!  To me it sounds like she likes your man as much or more than you do.  IF she is your true friend she would respect you and not do that, so evidentally she isn't much of a friend is she?
69778
If you love him your friend should understand that. If she is a good friend she will find her own man and let you be happy. Say yes to the man, you might ever find another good man like that. Oh, congrats!!
1075774
She is making a big mistake! Tell your friend she don't have a future with this kind of guy! She is strongly attracted to him and that is it. She doesn't know this guy to really love him, she is majorly infatuated!!!  He is the desperate one and she is falling for this guy's tricks and schemes. She should not waste her time with him. Tell her to look for someone who is REAL. This kind of relationship does not last!
500803
DRAMA CENTRAL! for starters you know your man the best, you need to be honest & ask yourself is he genuine!!?! I dont quite understand why they play around but if the word is she is not trusworthy then you deserve better friends! There was no reason why this could not be resolved at once why go around telling every1 except you. \nHIT the back????????plssssss! your man should not have done that PERIOD! ,dont matter if ur les friend got the wrong idea or not but the intentions were not in respect for you.\nIf i was you i think twice about what i need from this man & what role can he play in your life for the future.
517242
well talk it over with your friend and if she still has a problem with it tell her tough luck and go for him.
601201
I currently have this problem... and know exactly how you feel. My best friend is in love with me and has been for about 10-11 years now. I tell him I don't see him that way and that I love him but not in those ways. But that doesn't stop him from trying... and he is moving down to my area with all the hopes that we would be together...
854996
Alot depends on their ages in my opinion. But I recommend that you let your friend follow her heart. This is not the easiest thing to do but if you interfere; it could cost you your friendship. I know this from personal experience.  If the guy you think is "the one" then it will happen in God's Time.
853224
It doesn't mater if he is 19 or 90 if she is attractive the though will cross his mind.  It's a question of character whether or not he will act on his feelings.
462946
That is really up to your friend. That's something that she is going to have to learn from on her own. When someone is in love with someone else, they do not want to listen to anything anyone is telling them and often times they know that it's wrong but they are afraid to admit it due to insecurity. They are afraid of letting go because they are afraid that they may not be able to find someone else or they are afraid of the painful consequences it is going to cause. \n\nYour friend is going to learn the hard way. That is how many of us learn is the hard way. Just let it be. The guy is a jerk and she is having a difficult time seeing that. \nIt is unfortunate, but she is going to end up with a broken heart, but only experience will be able to tell her that. \n\nJust support her and let her know that you are there for her if she needs you.
383285
If she would tell him without your consent, she's not your friend.  That aside, you need to tell him.  If doesn't feel the same way, at least you'll know that and you can move on.
143903
Hmm.. I think it takes alot of maturity to realize when something is  "love" or  infatuation. I can see  by some of these responses" it happens daily" (thundergirll) that you have not matured as much as you need to. Let me clarify, age has alot to do with this, but even older people can be misled with love. You have to think about what makes you think you "love" this person. Is it the way he smells, walks, talks,breathes? Hmm , sounds like infatuation. There are no quizzes or anything to take to find out if you " love" someone. Love to me has alot to do with sacrificing. Are you willing to sacrifice things for the one you love? Do you really care about this person, and will be there for them no matter what? Do you really appreciate them for who they are and what they stand for? Love has alot more to do with the interior of a person. Think about these things,and see if you feel this way.You need to get to know the person, their likes, dislikes, their secrets, be each others friend. That always works!
252221
You can't choose what you dream about.  Your friend is insecure with himself.  He needs to understand that his wife loves him and its not like she is actually in contact with the sportsman so he has nothing to worry about.  On top of that, its not like she's acting on these urges.
456808
what is the age difference i mean you dont want to destroy friendships, \n\ntalk to her see if she feels the same, unfortunately it sounds like there is a few years age difference maybe you should just leave it. i could be wrong and sound like a b***h and id be very sorry \n\nthen again depending i always say age doesn't matter as long as your in love but i do mean that t an extent
777970
I don't think it has to do with trust it seems that you are having troubles and he seems to be happy around another woman that would tick any wife off.  \nIf this is a new friendship than I would see warning bells...If it's an old friendship than you are usually safe they are just friends..  \nIf all of a sudden he's distant to you and attentive to her he's sharing with her and ignoring you than it's an emotional affair.\n\nA male friend of mine said to me that woman and men can not be friends he said the guy usually wanted to sleep with the woman.  I do not know how men work but to me I can just be a guys friend..\n\nI think you should talk to him about it like if this was you with  guy how would he feel?  \nMaybe a little counselling would also work wonders.
692867
She has to be as unselfish as you are, maybe she has to do the sacrifice!!! You were not right to make this lie because it will only make things harder now. If you both like him, then there's only one way to settle the whole issue, which is to wait for him to make the choice and then at least none of you would be the cause of pain to the other. You will not like her any longer if she continues like that and eventually wins his heart, you will not even bear to e around any of them.