Why do people treat my girlfriend and I so badly because I am much older than she?
438354
They're jealous, plain and simple. They want some of your studliness!
893182
I know how you feel. It seems no matter how much you do for them or how well you treat them they still disrespect you, show too little appreciation, and there never seems to be enough of a  balance, or reward in the relationship for men. IE women take more than they give and think about their own needs more than their partners. I can't give up though because I want to be happy with someone and will keep looking until I find that woman who gives as good as she gets
401408
No, I think it just the "I am growing old and she makes me feel young thing". Relationships of all age categories can work. But they have to be special. Eventually, your ex will have to talk to her, and I imagine they will have very little to talk about. Have some fun yourself. The good news for you, is that younger guys are hunting out hotter, older, experience women, like yourself. Go play, Babee!!!
219919
why don't you ask her what she was like at your age and did her mum treat her like a kid as well....without making it sound rude...
249962
Some people never grow up. It is easier for someone to tell us what to do than to make up our minds for ourselves.  That puts the monkey on someone else's back.  But you sound like  a pretty mature 21 year old, so things should work out for you.  This is a natural process you are going through.
381613
You seem like a very nice person. At some point, you have to quit letting them treat you like dirt. It could be because somehow you value or long for their friendship. Make them see things from your point of view for once. Some people are just mean, and they do not consider the feelings of others.But, some of these excuses (although they seem lame to you) could be for real. If the same person is doing this over and over ( 3 is my magic number), drop them like a hot potato. Not everyone is like that.
293720
According to her stiffing you on the date, and her reaction to asking about it, I say it's a no-win situation.  It could definitely happen with someone half your age, but I don't see it happening any time soon.  Girls at 18 are still just girls, regardless of how grown they think they are.  Younger guys are more apt to deal with this sort of behavior, because it's a younger people-type problem.  \nI won't shame you for going after a young woman, as you seem to at least have your head on straight, which I have come to find is STILL somewhat rare in men, even up to age 60 (I could be wrong, but you made it sound good)!  But I think you'd be better off to deal with someone closer to your age, even mid-twenties.  Why?  I'm 24, and I'm gaining a preference for men in their mid-thirties, though I do find people who impress me at younger ages, and older men who still disgust me with their antics.  \nI think it's probably best that you let her deal with her peer pressure and peer group mingling, and move on to greener pastures, lest you drive yourself crazy and find out I was right several months later  ;-)\n\nGood luck to you  :-)
900503
I know what you mean. when i was your age I was infuriated by people always saying that I couldn't fall in love young. now that I'm older I understand that I wasn't mature enough to really love someone. love is a give and take relationship. when you're young no matter how you think you're treating the other person, you're mostly taking. most people at your age are very selfish. however, this is not a true fact in ALL cases. a few centuries ago, people were getting married at your age. so, obviously, there is a very possible chance of someone really loving someone else at your age. I'm guessing your in a relationship that you consider to be getting serious. I would just advize that you really try to do what's best for the other person in everything you do. don't concentrate on what YOU want only. in this way you will be lightyears ahead of people that are even 10 years older than you. I hope that the girl you're with realizes that she can't be selfish either if this relationship will last...I hope you understand what I mean..
400475
Yes. Years of life experience are why it is wrong. No matter how old you are, anyone that much older will usually treat you differently than someone their own age. They may not even realize they're doing it. You know they are old enough to be your parent. How could they ever treat you like an equal when you don't have life experiences equal to theirs?\nGood luck.
314148
i'm sorry to say, i am also not in your age group. but what your doing is great, as for those relationships, you truly are better off, i dont know what kinda girls your dating, but girls down where i live would KILL to meet guys like you. so just keep your head up high, and dont be asamed for who you are. once again i'm sorry i'm not in your age group
34094
Because one or both of you are immature.  \nYou need to work on your communication with each other.
1089090
No I don't think it's bad at all. There are tons of people who date people more than 1 year old than them. My parents are examples, my dad is 54 and my mom is 49. A lot of people like older people because they seem more mature and serious about things.
444275
Chris you don't say how old you are but I used to feel like this in my teens and early twenties. I matured much faster than my "Friends" and they did not hold the same ideals as I did. I used to get really frustrated by so called friends not treating me in the same way that I would treat them. As I have got older I have made a few really good friends. This is preferable to many shallow friendships.\n\nA good friend sticks by you no matter what, through the good and the bad. They will be honest with you, without being offensive, will listen, make you laugh, maybe make you cry too if they are hurting. A true friend will make you feel good inside, love and accept you for who you are and when you come away after being with them you feel great. I also find my friends bring out different aspects of my personality but each is treasured in their own right.\n\nAs you get older and become more confident in your skin you also begin to care less about whether people like you or not....they can like you or leave you.  \n\nHang in in there, treat people as you would like to be treated and in time you will make real, true, loyal friends and yes you will know when you have them.
346288
Because they ARE snobby little bitches. I used to be one myself. But seriously, I think it's a little bit of insecurity masquerading as aloofness. When you hit 30, you're just plain fabulous and don't need to act snobbish.
787384
You said she was in a bad relationship prior to yours. He may have been the  jealous aggressive type and she may not be used to someone who's mature and not insecure. Unfortunately for you, she may be insecure and she may think that the only way for good things to happen is if bad things happen first. Maybe she just needs time to adjust to a good loving relationship. Explain to her how you show your love in a positive way maybe she's a little blind to it because of her rough past. If you love her enough, guide her through it and be patient. It'll pay off.
948302
In my opinion anywhere above twenty years is too much of an age difference. I have no doubt in my mind at all that you and your girl will live a happy life together forever. As long as you are both treating each other with respect and courtesy then you should be just fine. Loving her is part of it but you also have to show her that you love her. Maybe you should renew your vows if you're married (hope you know what that means), or plan a surprise trip to a country she has always wanted to visit. I know that might sound like a hassle and quite a chunk of dough out of your pocket but from your description it sounds like it might be the only thing that will work... good luck in resolving this conflict, i will keep you and your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers
521927
I know the feeling I have the same problem with a 57 year old woman where I work. She is loved by all and is dumber than a cool bucket. She has the whole office coned. She thinks she can do wrong and so does the people I work for,Good luck to you, best thing to do is ignore her. Smile and go on that is what I do.