Is it just me or does it seem unfair for parents to name they're family members?
447994
Well when i have a son with my boyfriend, Im going to name him after my boyfriend. It was a family thing so why not continue the generation? I dont mind, a name isnt who you are its just a name. I dont think its so much of a big deal as long as the mother and father agrees.
776029
Depending on the situation. When my parents are older I feel they should be the responsibilty of me and my siblings. The way I see it, they spent quite a few years looking after us, so we should do the same for them.
553543
why do your cousins need to know?  sounds like personal business to me.
925634
It really is a personal decision - there's obviously no law that requires anyone to do one thing or another. I never changed mine, I like my name, and simply don't see why take a new name that doesn't have the same significance for me. My mom has never changed hers, and it's never been a problem. It depends what is important to you, and what significance you attach to your or your husband's name. From the purely practical standpoint - it makes absolutely no difference.
349488
It's basically because this is still a man's world !\n...Fathers used to take pride in having their names 'live' on - by naming the eldest son, and heir apparent to their family surname, as their 'jr.'.\n...Mothers very seldom had any say in naming their daughters - and few fathers cared to christen a daughter with their wife's name, which might have brought about a trend of female 'juniors' as well.\n...But even then, when a girl gets married, tradition demands that her surname be changed to that of her husband : \nUnder these circumstances, a girl can be called her mother's junior only until marriage - because, once she gets married, the 'junior' suffix will have no significance, or meaning with reference to her husband's family surname !
739044
Sometimes you just have to swallow your differences to make others happy.  Especially is that other is your family. \n\nI don't think it's too much to ask to share in your family happiness.
390220
I agree. I am a step-mother and also an adoptive mother. My baby is only 10 months old but MANY times already I have had someone introduce my family in this manner.......I'd like you to meet Samantha and Tom....and this is Tom's son Daniel and their adopted daughter Anna. \nEverytime this happens I have gone back and asked the person why they chose to introduce us this way.... EVERY one has said Daniel was introduced as Tom's son "because he is Tom's from another marriage and I didn't want to give the impression that you and Tom were his parents" OK I say fair enough... What about Anna being adopted. Why did you mention that? ALL I'VE EVER GOTTEN IS A BLANK STARE , NO REPLY !! Don't guess I'll ever know WHY people do that.
682371
Yes, because if you'd like to Fu*k your mother, that's wrong.  You could call her a MYLTF...Mother You'd Like To Fu*K, and that's still a little weird.  But, whatever.
126886
No, it's not just your family.  I think it has something to do with knowing your family, and what is behind them wanting you to do something for them.  The history is there to draw from, and with a stranger, we never know what to expect ... We've all had family members that only need us when they want a certain thing from us.  That grows tiresome after a while and your less likely to give freely, without resentment.\n\nBut I find I don't ask my family for much EVER, because I don't seem to be given to freely without a big hassle of them pretending they want to, then complaining about how it put them out for minimal reasons, I don't impose on them, now if I really need something, or get into a tight spot with my schedules I rely on friends to back me, as I would for them, it's much more freeing to give and receive without someone keeping track of who owes who what.\n\nBut I have seen families that were worse than mine, like a family that had the understanding of "anything I do for you has a pricetag, and I expect you to pay me for it"....I couldn't imagine having a family member needing to move and if I had a truck telling them the rent on the truck was $30.00 a day and the gas needs to be on full when it's returned. Or helping them sell a car by giving your telephone number to someone and expecting a finders fee of half the profits, when you already paid them to help you fix the car up...I find those things odd.
611113
Actually the practice was quite common in colonial times.  You usually found a child named for the father and one named for the mother.  It seems to have gone out of practice near 1900.  There is nothing wrong with it.
961626
They think that they need a unique name to show how special they and their offspring are. You can always tell how self obsessed a parent is by what they name their kid.They really need to think of the child's feelings.Every adult I know who has a "creative" name goes by their middle name or a nickname. Different/creative is as different/creative does. We remember Miles Davis for his musical talent, not because his name was Miles. How sad if the only interesting thing about someone is their name. They need to think that this cute baby is going to be 80 someday, which would make Gwyneth Paltrows daughter a Grannie apple someday! HA!\n\nThe one I dislike the most is "Brooklyn" That is a borough of NYC, Not a suitable name for a child! Beckham named his kid that. I guess it was a toss up between that and Bronx
62971
In all actuality all we are are numbers. Nobody really cares what your name is when they are getting money from you and when the government looks at you.\n  To put yourself out there by helping people, volunteering, spending time with your brother or sister, and/or having a child is when you really have a name. Now think would you rather be a number all your life or be a name?
150811
i dont think its a good idea to find the family tree with ur first name
103281
u'd be hard-pressed, my dear. there are a lot of families who wish the same. especially for certain age groups, it is ... ummm ... not easy !
581295
I think it is unique. If I was you I would tell them their parents were not creative. I happen to like it. I have a very simple name Jessica. Not unique at all. I like your name.
130940
Not to say that it's right, but a lot of parents want a son or daughter, or maybe the other gender if they already have one. \n\nIt might would prevent them from "trying" many times for the "wanted" gender. For some men, a son is important to "carry on the family name"
191448
In most cases both parents have to agree to the name change.  There are exceptions (see source).