when in social sit. i lose concentration, hard to talk, or when so say something dumb can it be add/ asperger?
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Why can't you ask a psychologist to diagnose you... are you under age and your parents don't want to (go see the school counselor)? Is there no insurance or an issue with your insurance company in this regard? Or does the mere thought turn your anxiety up through the roof (this one is a strong indicator for the first condition I mention below)?\n\nAnyway...\n\nLosing concentration in a social situation, and having difficulty conversing with others, could be any number of things.\n\nSocial Anxiety/agoraphobia is the most likely cause, but it takes a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist to do any diagnosis, so don't take what I'm saying as one. Anyway, agoraphobia is treated with medication and therapy. It can also contribute to difficulty concentrating at school and in other stressful situations, and can be a quite serious condition.\nYou might have attention deficit...but that by itself usually does not make someone a "social recluse"...quite the opposite!\nIt probably isn't Asperger's (although like I said before, I'm not diagnosing you, here). In the autistic spectrum, the person does not read social cues from others or learn social rules effectively. They also usually don't show their own emotions with the same set of body language as everyone else. While people with autistic-spectrum disorders, especially the higher-intelligence ones, feel a great deal of anxiety in social situations, it's more a foot-in-mouth problem rather than clamming up, especially for Aspergers. This is a generalization, but I'm trying to summarize this in less than half a page..lol.\n\nAnyway, the ONLY way to really identify your exact issue and needs is to get a diagnosis, and treatment through couselling (and medication if absolutely necessary).
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get a grip!  in my experience, the more "educated" the more likely a person is to be anti-social, which is different than merely avoiding social situations, the latter being a choice or the result of an anxiety disorder that is not statistically related to one's educational level...or to put it into a more likely and common light...trust me, the rest of the world could not care less about anyone's educational prowess, in fact, on a social level, it can actually be quite a hindrance.\n\n...and please, may we ask that you refrain from SHOUTING for EMPHASIS!  it doesn't speak well of you...
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Could you maybe have Asperger's syndrome? Social apathy is one symptom...\n\nAsperger's Syndrome is a newly recognized neurological disorder. It shares many of the same characteristics of autism, although people with Asperger's Syndrome do not have the accompanying disabilities. Those afflicted with this syndrome have difficulty understanding what those around them think and feel. As a result of this, they often behave inappropriately in social situations, or do things that may appear to be unkind or callous. Many Asperger sufferers have a difficult time in planning and coping with change despite average or above-average intelligence. This manifests itself as a notable lack of "common sense".\n\nTwo things with this answer:\n    (a) It's only a suggestion, I don't know you and could therefore never presume to diagnose you based on the tiny bit of info you have shared... \n    (b) If you think you may have Asperger's, it does not mean you are abnormal! Social abilities/interest are on a continuous scale/spectrum, with the low end being people who are very social and high end being autism/Asperger's. Most people with Asperger's do not feel they have a diability...\n\nIf you think there is a remote possibility you may 'have' this, I would suggest searching 'dsm-iv asperger's' in yahoo to see the criteria for a diagnosis...\n\n\nAll the best!
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just take a short nap by resting ur head down on a table.or write something(it may b ur daily routine or about some problem u want to discuss with somebody but can't because its too personal to discuss
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me too, OMG we can definitely relate! i'm too polite and i feel like i'm interrupting other people's conversations if i just butt in. but now i'm starting to realize, but observing my friends that it's okay and that no one will hate you just because you interrupted a conversation. it's a way to make friends. and i'm also really shy. just join clubs in school, cuz that's what i do.
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have u always been like that??? if the answer is not then it must be a face as far as i know ur a teen so i guess it is normal on teens . the funny thing is that i don't think i ever been through that . i think i always been a very focused person . i hope u still reading lol . well  here my recommendations:\n\nyoga i hear it helps a lot and as i child my father used to wake us in the morning and make us do some postures . the funny thing about it is that he stop because we wouldn't stop laughing at one of his positions . he used to stand in front of us put his feet like two ft apart incline and then show his tongue and make a sound like ahhhhhhhh . we couldn't stop laughing .\n\nchess is a really nice board game and requires a lot of concentration if u don't know how to play it buy a book about it and learn how to play it .\n\nbuy a t-shirt it should have a message on it "i am easily distracted  distract me if u wanna get hit". if u get the oposite because people is not afarid of u and just wanna bother u take it off right in that moment lol no just don't used it again .\n\nbuy a book read it .
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Shy is really sweet, unless it becomes an obstacle to conversation.  I've been with people with whom casual conversation is like pulling teeth, and it gets tiring.  Those of us who enjoy conversation appreciate someone who can help hold up the other end now & then!  :)
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I have that same problem.Just don't thick about something to say.Just relax and before you know it you will find yourself in a great conversation,unless he's quiet.Quiet people are really hard to talk to.Maybe you should go out for a drink.People loosen up when they drink.
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Your profile said you have high-functioning Autism so I would think that is where the rocking comes from.\n\nNo - it's not "normal,"  but I wouldn't worry about that if the calming benefit outwieghs the odd reactions you may get from people who don't know you.  \n\nIf you are around friends & family, don't worry about it.  They know you & shouldn't judge.\n\nIf you are dealing with new people at work,  I'd find another stress reliever, at least until you know them better & can explain that you might just have a few unique mannerisms.\n\nBut if you are around total strangers, why worry about what they think?  Do what ever works.\n\nPS - Your profile said "email me" but it didn't have a link or address.  I'd love to discuss autism with you.  My neice & nephew are low-funtioning autism (no speech) but I haven't known anyone (that I know of) with high-funtiong autism.
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You're well within your rights to "vant to be alone."  I'm an introvert myself, and I need my downtime to re-energize.  But I also used to work in a similar situation on a Help Desk.  Not only did I have to be yakking all day, but the sound of a ringing phone STILL raises my blood pressure.\n\nIt's unfortunate that some people just can't read body language, and you're forced to point out that you don't feel like talking.  If you'd rather not have to do that, you can try picking up a newspaper or mag that you can bury your face in.  Then you won't even have to respond to their visual signals that they want to talk.
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Looks like it could be outburst related to Asperger's Syndrome.  I don't think it could be Tourette's.
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Aspergers syndrome is a form of autism.  I've had a couple of students who have been dianosed with Aspergers.  Symptoms can vary but the two students I had were highly intelligent but lacked social skills.
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i sometimes feel this way. i don't feel like I am that shy of a person, but I guess other people think I am very shy. and then when boys I like tell me to be myself and say what I want, I get flustered and say things like "i don't know" even though I have a full journal of stuff I would love to tell them. I don't know why it is so hard for me to speak up in certain social situations. I have things to say, and sometimes I start talking, but then like you said, the more aggressive/louder person takes the conversation over. I guess you and I both just have to try harder to speak our minds and not think so much about what other people will think. Easier said than done though... I hate being shy and I don't know how to get rid of it. and it certainly causes problems in meeting men. so u aren't the only one out there with this issue
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Discuss the possibility of asperger's disorder with your doctor.  It is a milder form of autism.  Also, he needs to have his hearing checked and to make sure his tonsils are not enlarged.\n\nIf everything comes back fine, get him a Leap Pad toy that seems approprite for his age (there are many).  Sit with him and play and try to find something common between you.  Even if he does not talk to you, talk to him.\n\nHugs
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Well the first thing is to ask if you have hard time concentrating?  more than is normal?  do you misplace things often? it affects people in many different ways. For example, some people pace or walk around in circles unable to concentrate.  Others are amazingly hyper and totally out of control.  I guess what you really need to ask yourself is do you feel in complete control of your actions or to you do things impulsively without knowing why?  If you do you might have it?  Just a note.  Many doctors are very much against recognizing add and many are much more lenient so if you are not getting officially tested but are rather discussing it with a doctor first you should probably get a second opinion to make sure you are getting the correct treatment.
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Many times a person who needs to be loud in conversation or the "Know-it-all" type, or the type that seems to not allow others to talk...is a person who is insecure and feels very low about themselves.  Their loud boisterous opinions and lack of being able to let others in on the conversation says that that person needs extra attention and has very poor communication skills.  Trying to tell them to "shut up" is NOT going to get the point across.  As a matter of fact...it might worsen the objective.  Perhaps if you make copy of this answer with your question and quietly and in private present it to this person...you may get somewhere.  Start with a "Hey...(his name)...can I please talk to you for a moment in private.  Then take him aside and let him know that you appreciate his input on things...however.."I'd like to let you know that there are people who have some input into the many conversations we have...as we have listened to you...perhaps you would be fair to listen to what some of us have to say."  "And by the way...eating/chewing with your mouth open or full is socially unacceptable...perhaps you didn't realize you were doing this...and as a friend, I thought I might let you know.  \nTwo wrongs never made a right...instead it makes a war.  So treat his rudeness with corrective/non-judgemental kindness and see if a greater response comes from your directives.  Thanks for caring enough to make a positive difference in the lives of others.
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I would say I was about  hmmm 5 or six when I started using words and such.  Most aspergers and autistics have trouble using body language and you say your child uses body language.  So far at four I would think he is closer to ADHD than autistic nor aspberger's.  My mother was quite concerned with me and took me to psychiatrists and other specialists on autism.  True the non-speech may point to autism but the body language and the hugs and kisses point strongly away from autism.  I really hope he starts speaking soon.  You wanted my e-mail no problem its canucksfan729@hotmail.com.