What is your relationship to your spouse like?
451778
I met my husband in 10th grade in highschool and we have been together 22 years now!  We have one 15 year old son.  He is not only my husband and lover he is my best friend in life!  We do absolutely everything together!  Shop, cook, mall. EVERYTHING!  Its just no fun without him!!!!!!  Alot of people think we're crazy cuz alot of married people cannot wait to get away from each other and we r counting the seconds until we CAN be together!  I cannot even sleep at night unless some part of his body is touching mine.  Even if its just his toe touching my toe- I can sleep!  Otherwise I feel as if a part of me is misssing.  We do go out once a week by ourselves to do many different things.  Dinner out, movies, bowling, window shopping, we have not missed date night for atleast 10 years!  Its so important to us and our marriage that we do make time for alone time!  Every night as Im falling asleep he will hold me close and stroke my hair until I fall asleep.  Im not sure why that makes me feel so safe but it does!!!!!  I think I would surely die without this man in my life!!!
555716
unfortunately this is the worst part of marriage,love lasts ,whether you want it to or not,if you are my child and I break your teeth in and break your bones or molest you you still love me ,if I am your spouse and I do your bestfriend and the rent money goes up my nose ,you still love me and if you hate me ,this is the darkside of love my dear, not the opposite,\nif you no longer love me you wil be apathetic,could careless and care as much about me as you do every stranger in public,this not caring ,is the opposite of love\n\ntoo many people worry about the wrong things in a relationship,we don't have to worry about or work on having love for each other,that is a given ,it is maintaining mutual respect for each other that needs to be worked hard for and avoiding feelings of contempt,by accepting each other as the flawed fu%ked up people we are and not the unrealistic ideal we want each other to be
1158983
Talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel.  It's natural for couples to "woo" eachother when dating - doing things the other person likes and what not, thats natural, it's compromise.  What you can both do now is communicate and find things to do together.  Find a hobby you both like and go for it.  You can also both compromise from time to time and do something that your spouse really enjoys but maybe you don't like so much.\nThe key is communication - let him know how you feel and that you miss doing things together.
507864
No. The big issues are what they always have been. What do you expect out of the marriage? Are you a good match? Do you love one another? Are you passionate together?  etc.
499514
Taking time with your spouse!
306171
Yes, I am happy with my soul mate, lover, best friend, husband of 28 years!!  And I love the life I lead!  Have we had problems?--yes, will we continue to have stress and troubles?--yes, but will we get through them?  Yes.  How do I know?  Because we are not in our relationship or life alone, we are joined by God Almighty, so all is well.  And I pray for the same for all of you.
785858
I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
134693
I married my best guy friend and we were married for 8 years.  We had EVERYTHING in common.  Same taste in movies, t.v. shows, food, friends.  Only one problem, no sex.  We never had the chemistry that you can only have with true love.  We were always just best friends.  He never treated me poorly and we got along great and everyone thought we were the perfect couple.\nWe finally parted ways and are still very good friends.  I am re-married and he is engaged and both realize what we had was never really a marriage.  We got married for the wrong reasons.  I mean it's great to be with someone you get along with, but if there's no spark it's not going to work.  You will both be unhappy and always wanting more.  I am with a guy now who I enjoy being around and that challenges me.  We don't have the same interests, hobbies and friends but I am happier than I ever was in my first marriage because I am truly in love with him.  Sure I love my ex husband and always will but it's more like brotherly love than anything.  Hope this helps!!
1159061
Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
498510
When my wife is with me.  It's just not quite the same without her.
1015015
Commitment\nCommunication\nselflessness and giving\nforgiving\nloving selflessly\ntreating them the way you want to be treated\nHonesty and not hiding things\nFaithfulness\nrespect and trust\nnot trying to change the other person instead work on yourself to be the best spouse you can be for that person.\nHaving God the center of your marriage. Working through things together when things get rough or tough.\nhttp://www.marriagetoday.org
1016658
Absolutely NOT. Unlike you, I actually love my spouse.
794898
wow!  I have been married to my husband for 9 years this January.  We have overcome some horrible conditions.  I do not want to go into detail here online.  However, I love my husband despite the things we have been thru.  Infidelity was not one of the issues, but we were involuntarily separated for 3yrs 8 mos.  We have been thru things with our ex's...just about anything that could go wrong has...Now, we are best friends and know each other inside and out.  Trauma brought us closer...it is often not that way in marriages.  We're blessed that way..I had to spend Thanksgiving alone again this year...but we will get thru this.  So, the answer is yes.  Despite everything and everyone, if you want to overcome, you will.
789655
I married her.  4 years married and 7 years together.  Love of my life Feather is :-)
66807
...wish to share, am a returner favourer kinda person.\n\n1.26 11:51p est Stupendous Man, silly of me to confuse you with that little guy Calvin, guess I thought he looked a little like you.\nFor me it would depend what those differences were. If we're talking about weaknesses in character, then have to say I have seen that used as a weapon, friend on friend, sibling on sibling, and of course spouse on spouse. \nI had a realization once that I turned into a caution motto, "There is no one in this world who loves you so much as to not say a negative thing about you behind your back." (yes, very familiar with feeling betrayed, but let's leave that) And I guess a similar expression would be, "There isn't likely to be anyone in this world who loves you enough, never to hold your weaknesses against you." Whether that weakness is being too emotional or not emotional enough, or having to much to say or not being able to verbalize worth a poo, ya know the contrast between one personality and it's opposite.\n\nI guess what I am getting to, is that it's possible to love someone and know they have this difference about them, and SOMETHING ELSE gets in between you, and in the course of having it out one spouse retaliates with pointed references to this "difference". IT ISN'T because they were always really bothered by it and just never brought it up before, it's more that they were running out of arguments about the actual issue at hand, and needed some grounds to prove their "right"geousness in the fallout.\nFeeling misunderstood on both sides is where the real problem is. It's not necessarily a communication breakdown, it could be the gradually ending of sympathy, feeling unequal in a relationship, feeling undervalued. Then it's "who cares if you're sensitive about this difference, I want to right no matter the cost, I want to be heard whatever might fly from my lips"\nIt's sad and unnecessary, but it comes from people's focus on theirselves. If more people tried to see it from the opposing perspective this world would be a much more peacful place.
592705
The differences in men and women are what make it so neat to be with each other. People today don't try to make a relationship last. The trend today seems to be-get what you can out of another and then when things get rough-drop them.Honesty-trust-care-loyalty-understanding-compassion and love are the keys to a great relationship.My wife and I weathered many bad storms in our marriage,and are still together-in love- and will probably stay this way till I die. Oh,by the way,we have been together 21 years!!!!!!
290346
The way they act and things the things that they do to help you. Not just big things though, its also all the small things. However, sometimes your too in love which makes it very hard to see what your spouse really is. You have to take a step back and observe for a while, (just don't let them know you're observing).