Where to draw the line on what I tell my fiancee about my past?
438331
that's quite a past you have there...and from a women's point of view, we could deal with the sex shit with the clubs and hoe's etc coz at the end of the day everyone experiments...\n\nwhat you didn't say was how long you been with her? i mean this is just me assuming this but if your engaged then its been a while? coz some of that stuff was only four months ago?! which to be honest she may really struggle with...\n\n...as for that screwed up shit about animals...that's up to you if you tell her that part...personally you would be booted out the door straight away coz that ain't normal and how you did that is just beyond my imagination...i mean human and animals are not meant to have sex...and by job im also assuming you mean porn...i cant think of any other job that would involve having sex with animals...\n\ntell her the stripper stuff etc...tell her about the animals and she will more than likely be gone out your life for good!
930879
you can't change the past, so you have got to think about ways to make the future work. try to see him again in a casual setting, one that will highlight what a "good" girl you are. don't mention what happened. he probably doesn't want to talk about it anymore than you do.
982581
You still have to tell her. Blood is thicker than water. Besides, she'll be a lot madder at you if you know this and say nothing. Tell her you're sorry, you didn't know, but that's what you know now. In the long run, it will strengthen your relationship.
1024233
Some people are bothered by their partner's sexual history, others are not - I guess it depends on the person.  If you are sexually active with them it's probably good to know their sexual history and medical history - there is certainly nothing wrong with asking about a partner's sexual history.
310650
it depends on you if we are together and u are acting like a slut. then for get it, but if change and show that i can trust you then for get about your past. Remember trust is the only thing that keeps people close to you when you lose that is never the same.
96100
Well, I would say don't tell.  It would only ease your guilty conscience and would really hurt her.  If she gets suspicious though, don't lie.  (And don't do it again!)
225765
If your tired of trying to dodge questions to avoid having to lie some more, the only thing you can do is tell the truth. You might try and ask your family if it would be possible to get together so you can talk to them. Begin with explaining to them that what you are wanting to discuss is a very delicate matter that you are hoping they will try and understand before they react. Apologize for not telling them sooner and hope they will be ok with everything they are about to learn. Everyone has a past and our pasts are what shaped who we are today. You do have to understand that lying to people for any reason can be hurtful and it may take them time to accept it and depending on how they view whatever it is that you and your husband were not truthful about they may not accept it at all. All you can really do is hope for the best and not push them to see things your way. Pushing too hard may upset them further and do more damage in the end. Give them the time to take everything in, even if it takes a few days or weeks. It sounds to me like whatever it is is not of such an accepting nature if it has caused your husband to feel ashamed for as long he did. Your love for him may have made it easier to accept then it may be for others.
201419
#1 it is none of their business ... your past is your past...  it has nothing to do with the present  or the future...   why do men want to know all the time ?? so they can make judgements, and   bring it up  as a weapon?? no thanks...let sleeping dogs lie... or they might  come back to bite ya  !!!!!!!
253202
no. do you really think he is going to tell you the truth about how many women he's slept with? as long as two people are committed , the past should'nt matter . as far as honesty goes you should be honest in your relationship with each other. but the relationships before you two got together has nothing to do with now.and if you tell him the truth , he may think that's too many and it may make him think twice about you.
868537
no, what goes on in their marriage is really their business. he may already know, or she may choose to keep it from him. i hope that it was some one-time mistake on her part and that they've already worked through it, but it's not your responsibility to tell him.
318335
The best you can do is to BE HONEST. Honesty is the key part of any relationship. Be terribly apologetic. He's going to find out sooner or later. Was it insured?\nIf not you're in trouble...\nBut just be honest and tell him! If you're planning to get married, a little thing like this shouldn't be an issue. Relax, don't worry about it, and make sure you break it gently!
624038
It sounds like your guilt wants you to tell, but telling will only hurt her and make you feel better.  If it was a one night stand, let it go, otherwise someone's got to break it to her, preferably you.
602580
If your husband loves you a lot, that is acceptable.  If he doesn't talk about his past relations with women, that is also acceptable.  Our past is a learning experience, not a current barometer of our thoughts and actions.\n\nBest advice, simply ask him about his old affairs (hopefully all before he met you of course!).  If he doesn't have much to say on the subject, that is ok.  You must judge him on the here and now, the promises he's made to you since he's met you.  \n\nDon't make any judgements from the time before you met him, that only leads to heartache and trouble, regardless of how good he may be.
668520
If he hasn't asked then he's prob just having respect for you and your past and doesn't want to invade. He prob feels it's up to you if you choose to one day tell him. If he tells you that he isn't interested then don't be offended, after all the past is in the past and why is there a need to tell him about it. He's interested in what's going on in the present and not what happened in the past. Don't think to much of it.
1048267
Tell him i think he deserves to know what you have done.May be when every thing is out in the open you guys can work it out. good luck
519415
If you love each other truely then you should not hide your family background.Because the love knows no bounds and I am sure if you tell her everything then she will accept you as you are ofcourse,if she really loves you.
648521
wen u talk about ur past relationships.