Are jealousy and possesiveness bad for a relationship?
451232
Jealousy and Possessiveness are signs of romance, not Love.\n\nIf you are in and want just a romantic relationship, then they have their place.  If you are looking for a long term relationship or Love, then they are totally out of line.  They are signs of immaturity and lack of trust.\n\nPeople dating often see no wrong in these.  Married couples always seem to find them harmful in the long run.
860997
Jealously is a sign of weakness. When you have confidence in yourself and in your relationship you will not feel the need to do what u do.  What i think you are trying to tell us, is that you just want attention, maybe she doesn't show you the attention that you would like or you're accustomed to. What you could do is sit down and talk have a friend to friend heart to heart talk about what you're expecting out of the relationship and what you plan on putting into the relationship..\n\nI feel you about unnecessary arguments I used to be the same way. Seems like the arguments are the only time she paid me some attention. But that was a long long time ago.  Over the years i've learned that you can't force someone to pay you attention or love you it has to come naturally. And when it's true and natural you'll know and feel it to be as such.  The more you argue the more prone you are of driving your gf away to someone else. Just think, she might be on yahoo answers asking questions about you and what to do or how to get rid of. Time to take a stand now and rededicate yourself and your commitment to your relationship and make a solemn promise to yourself on becoming a better person not only for the benefit of the relationship but for yourself as well\n\nGoodluck
38457
Yeah, I guess he's a possesive guy - be careful with that, he may not be the guy of your dreams...after all, a relationship is based on trust. Think again.
359413
Don't worry.  The jealousy are natural.\n\nWhen you stop having jealousy it will be a problem.  That could mean that you have no more interest in him.  \n\nAccept them with a smile and when in jealousy, give a kiss to your man.
683393
A lot of guys have jealousy problems and it stems from a low self esteem, regardless of what they say. He's jealous because he thinks he is unable to hold on to you and he wants to kiss and cuddle to reassure himself that you are there for him...but remember he has the problem and dont let him put it on you. You have to let him know how hard his jealousy and low self esteem is on your relationship and explain to him that although you care for him that you arent going to keep up the reassurance any longer. I dont mean dont say nice things to him but dont coddle him. Let him know that he has to stand up on his own without your help....Carrying 2 people will eventually be more than you can handle. Good luck.
143479
Leave the jealous guy! Do you not want a life? A jealous man is insecure. Jealousy and possessiveness are not redeemable qualities.\n\nA real man that loves you will give you freedom, not take it! He is a person that is secure in himself and his abilities.\n\nYou will enjoy life better without the burden of being guarded and watched all the time. Even have friends! Wow!\n\nYour call now.
536961
Jealousy (in my opinion) is a sign of self insecurities. I would be concerned if it shows signs of becoming violent or controlling.\n\nIf you love her you will work her through this and find why she feels she has this jealousy otherwise, I'd suggest advising help and getting out of the situation.\n\nBased on what you said it almost sounds like bi-polar or multiple personalities being triggered by emotional stress. (Wild guess not meant to diagnose just give you an idea of what you could look up to see descriptions of)
826588
it is a deviant manifestation of love. Jealousy is a form of love albeit a harmful and dangerous kind if not controlled properly,but it can also be useful as long as the person can distinguish when enough is enough and not let the jealous tendencies we all have take control.
605296
This is one of those things that is easier said than done, but if you value your future, and your relationships with other friends & family, you should leave him. You don't deserve to be treated like that. And he is not going to stop being jealous or overly possessive of you. If you want a good example, just talk to your local Women's Battered Shelter, and you will see all the reasons you could possibly need to realize he will not ever be any good for you. Whether its mental, emotionally, sexually, or physically abusive behavior... it usually doesn't get better. Stop it now. There are so many wonderful and sincerely loving people out there who will help bring out the best in you, than to waste your life with a control freak and cause you more problems in life.
716614
ive yet to master the perfect relationship thing.17 years of tring,i can tell you this.being a jealous person can drive youan everyone else crazy.if you are truely in love,then you have to trust this person,if you cant then someone isnt truely in love,so if you dont trust them to go visit this person alone then you may need to be with someone else,plus you should be able to take your partner alone to break it off,with someone else.it just builds a good understanding,honesty best policy
752942
insecurity is not necessarily all that bad. it can lead to humility. an ideal relationship is built on either equality or acceptance of the inherent inequlity. you could have a relationship with an equally insecure equal or you could spend some time finding out who you are and come back to a relationship with a mature equally secure equal in the future.
432986
Very possessive people have an emotional problem.  Your boyfriend needs help.  If you are serious about him, talk him into treatment.  If he refuses to go, either life with this (and it will only get worse) or leave.\n\nJealousy is not cute, it is not based upon love, it is based upon "possession."  If you want to be the "object" then leave it alone.  If you need to be treated as a person, get him help or get out.
125518
Well when you bring two people together in a relationship,there is always going to be a few things that bothers you.If those things cause you stress or pain,then you know you have put up with too much,if they just annoy you,then you need to overlook it,and try to remember the good qualities in your mate.
588846
well.. my ex-boyfriend makes me jealous ALL the time... but then i just stop and think that it doesn't really matter beacuse it's his life to lead mistakes and to carry on with what he wants. Jealousy should not lead your life.. but it should try and help you become stronger.
18455
You may not be able to.  But you will definitly need to stop being so insecure in yourself and be confident in your partner- they want to be with you for a reason not someone else.  I havefound that jealousy is a sign not only of insecurity in yourself but a lack of respect in her character. If your girl cheats on you she cheats on you and you move on.  Not everyone is meant to be together forever.
925128
Your own or the other person's jealousy? Because, if you don't know the other person well enough to trust them and know they aren't cheating on  you then you darn well don't know them well enough to sleep with them.\n\nIf they're jealous of  you, first ask yourself if you objectively have given them a reason to be jealous. If you have not, then ask yourself what kind of issues this person has becauase "power and control issues" where they want to run  your life for you mask themselves as jealousy. They aren't telling you to quit wearing minis because they think you'll cheat on them but because they want to tell you what to wear and how to wear your hair and who you can talk to.\n\nIf a guy has "power and control issues" then run away! Dump him quick! They're jerks and it only gets worse.
665953
I wouldn't, because someone is bound to get jealous. Jealous people get angry, and angry people start fights. I'd rather be happy with one than fighting with two or more.