how do u deal with losing a loved one?
449178
I lost my father 5 years ago and there is never a single day that I do not think about him.\nAt first I was devasted and wondering how I would get over it.\nThen someone who had been through the same experience gave me these simple words of wisdom: "You never get over it. You just get used to it".\nNow I can talk about my dad and nrelate funny or special moments we shared when I was growing up, and it doesn't bother me. In fact, it is quite therapeutic.\nI feel for you and KNOW that things will get easier.Good luck. Kevin UK.
648222
That is close to a death in the family so don't rely on strangers to get you through this. Friends, family and God will guide you through. Take one day at a time...
549764
One day at a time. Just remember they want you to enjoy your life so get out there and have some fun. Go do some volunteer work in the name of your loved one. Take on a good cause in memory of that person. Plant some trees.\n\nHave a good life!
153631
I don't think you can not hurt her. Be honest. Listen to what she has to say. Offer her support. Be there for her. Do not patronize her and not get to the point though. There is nothing that can ease the blow of losing a loved one.
588742
There is little much a person can say or do when someone they love is suffering the pain of a loss.  Many factors play a role in how each party reacts to a death including if the husband is suffering the loss as well, or perhaps the circumstances surropunding the nature of the death, as well as the level of intensity of the relationship with the person that has died.  No one is capable of doing someone else's grief work, you just need to be there for them if they need you to.  When some people go through the process of grief, they want to do it in private, and others need to talk about it more.  It is helpful to be there to take care of the everyday things like cleaning the house, running errands, and cooking.  When a person is suffering grief, these normal tasks have a way of becoming much bigger responsibilities to handle which can in turn complicate the grief process.\n\nThere are many support groups to turn to where one can find people to talk to about what they are going through, people just like them that really DO understand how they are feeling.  You can get info about the programs by contacting your local mortuary or funeral home, hospice, health facility, or clergy. There are also many online grief support websites...google has plenty...simply enter the keyword grief.
78888
I think one of the most appreciated ways to comfort a grieving person is to tell them how the deceased had touched your life, such as a short story or a character quality about the person. And then close by telling them that you are sorry for their loss and that s/he will be in your thoughts and prayers.\n\nKnowing their loved one was important to others is like salve to a wound.
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First, please accept my sincere condolences.   I lost my dad the same way about 10 years ago.  I'm going to be brutally honest with you because you need to know and knowing what is coming will make it easier for you to deal with.  Her lungs will fill with fluid.  They may try a couple of times to drain them but, eventually, they will advise that treatment is no longer effective.  They will keep her heavily medicated with pain killers, usually morphine.  Morphine effects different people in different ways.  Some sleep, some hallucinate.  Be prepared.  At the end, she will lapse into unconsciousness.  Her breathing will become more and more labored and, eventually, it will just stop.  \n\nBe there with her as long as she is conscious.  Let her tell you how much she loves you, even though you already know that.  She needs to say goodbye.  In that last vigil, hold her hand.  She'll know you're there to ease her passing.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
430407
Just be there for them, there's very little that you can do or say, nothing to stop the pain. But making sure that all the everyday things are sorted out and letting them talk as much as they want to all help. Good luck.
658952
Every situation is different and ever changing. You just have to do what feels right and try to let yourself recover from your loss. Surround yourself with people you can trust, the rest will follow.
631360
you just really need totalk to someone. i lost a frien to suicide unfortunately i was in the room when it happened. i know how hard it is. i also had to attend 23 funerals in 10 months jst a few years ago between friends and family i wasn't surei wold make it either i really felt like my world was caving in on me. the thing that got me throgh it was my husband he always talked me through things, to this day he still makes sure i don't forget thememories of those friends and family members. one other thing i did was write letters to the people i was closest to especially my mom when i was feeling as you are now. i've read them at later times some i just keep in a box. good luck and please talk to someone!
801450
You grieve.  Grieving sucks, I'm there right now.  Eventually it will get better, you just have to give yourself time.
520174
been there and i know its hard but trust me with each passing day it will get easier.its almost like losing a parent or child the hurt you feel but you must go on for yourself and others that love you. i know it doesn't help now but you will see in time.
462934
I am sorry to hear about your loss. My grandmother died last year.  You need time to heal, especially since she was close to you.  Talk to friends and family...I am sure they will help.  Do hobbies you love..like sports, collecting, and just going out with friends..it will help you cope.
60767
Losing a close relative takes considerable time for the person to grieve and heal. Make sure she knows that you're there for her if she would like to talk, and call her or visit every so often ( twice a week sounds good ), just so she knows you're still her friend. Practice being a good listener, and never, ever tell her to "snap out of it." People grieve and heal at their own rates and cannot rush the process.
285372
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  Whatever you do - do something.  No matter how insignifcant whatever you do may seem to you at the moment - it will mean more than you can imagine to the family.  They understand the distance in miles associated with this loss.  God bless you and yours at this time!
1007352
I lost my father at the age of 16.. not only did it send me into an emtional and mental spiral... it affected my work, my hobbies, friends, self-image, you name it.. i started to go down hill at it.\n\nYou will NEVER "get over" the loss of that loved one.. nor will you ever forget them.    \n\nI however, believe that eveything happens for a reason, when the Lord says....."child come home"....... nothing matters, the age, sex, how much they are need here on earth, how "you" feel it wasn't there time.   Everyone is taken when they are...because that is the will of God.\n\nI pray for you...  peace and contentment, strength and understanding.  I hope that through these tough times that you face now and will continue to face some happiness and good can come of this.  Do not be mournful or feel sorrow....   for stuggle is ordained, as is life and death.    \n\nRemember them for who they were, what they did and how they touched you...   do not fill you life with resentment and bitterness trying to understand.  \n\nGet a journal, talk to a counselour... confide in your family and friends.     They are there for you!\n\nPeace & Love
1058610
I am sorry for your loss. It is a difficult time. Even more difficult when you have to stand before all who love him and come up with something humorous when everyone wants to cry. The best you can do is try to think of any and all funny things that he may have done, said, or a situation that involved your friend that was funny and unforgettable. Maybe something that kept people talking about  for years. Start by showing sympathy and condolences to the family. Share some heart felt moments that you had being his friend. Then throw is some times of laughter, followed by the humorous things. Wrap it up by acknowledging his accomplishments and saying something that maybe inspirational.\n\nGood luck and God bless to you, his family, and other people he may have touched in his lifetime.....