i am having problems  with my sister in law tiring to break up my  marriage.I am a young  bride. she?
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Maybe she is tired od her life and wants to indulge in making you miserable. Young brides can sometimes write letters to God telling him what they dont like about what is going on. Place this letter in a secret place and ask him to please fix the situation.  If you recieve blessings of change you will know to continue writing our Heavenly father letters that nobody has to know but you and him. I tried it . Things changed in my home dramatically. My husband stopped gambling and running around.
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Well, you've got to do what you've got to do, but be prepared to alienate (at least) your brother-in-law and his wife.  It sounds like he is very self centered and, I would bet, the boss in his family (strong type A personality).  I don't know where it will stop, but there will be a lot of really stinky stuff floating around-and may never dissipate.  A person with his personality will definitely blame you for the problems that arise.  From what you have said he thinks his time is far more valuable than others and, therefore, will not understand your anger.
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I'm sure your mother means well, but she doesn't understand the hurt and pain that you are going through. It's easy for her to say "Put it away" because she's not the one who was betrayed.\n\nWhether or not to attend the wedding should be entirely your choice. Don't let anyone else guilt you into going. If you are still working through the hurt, you have to do what's right for you. Everyone has the right to set and maintain their own boundaries and to work through their pain on their own schedule.\n\nDo what you know is right in your heart, and don't let anyone else make you feel bad about it. You don't owe an explanation or justification, either. Stick to something simple: "I just don't feel ready to do that" should suffice.\n\nHopefully someday you'll be able to work through this and have a relationship with your sister. But that's something that cannot be rushed, and no one else has the right to push you.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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I don't think you should leave her. If you married this woman b/c you love her , and you both found out she cant have children; I think it is very selfish of you to leave for that reason. If she wanted to have children how do you think she feels that she will be unable to do so. There  are other ways to have children in your life. You can always adopt, Depending on the reason why she cant have children you may have the option of using a  surrogate, if either of you have siblings you could be that favorite  aunt and uncle. You could be a mentor to some child who needs someone to look up to.  I think it is mean, and mean spirited, as well as insensitive of you to want to leave her. I don't think she was hoping to not to be able to have children. She probably would  not leave you if you were the one who was unable to produce children. I do believe the wedding vows say for better or worse. So if this is the "worse" then I don't think it is that bad. Do you really love her?
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She want's to break you up because she doesn't want to lose her baby.  Feel sorry for her.  When you get married you'll be in control.
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I agree with you and you have a very good reason to be upset about it.  A couple things you can do is get a lawyer and see what your options are with this.  There should be a legal route to stop this because it does sound like it constitue harrassment.\n\nBut your husband needs to draw the line with her and make it clear that this behaviour is unacceptable. Keep telling him what this is doing to you and maybe it will stick.  Also,you may want to go to a marriage counciler.  That could help you work your way through it.
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Miss, don't judge all marriages by your sister's.  The reason people get married, and STAY married is that most marriages ARE happy.  Certainly not perfect, but reasonably happy.  Yes, there are horror stories.  Yes, some marriages are hell on earth, but most aren't.  Without knowing your sister, I've got to say that if she is newly married, and tells you to stay single, her marriage isn't going to last, and probably shouldn't last.  I advise you to love your sister, and wish her luck.  Don't bad mouth her husband, because that isn't what she needs.  Let her decide her future for herself.  Heck, they may work things out and grow old together.  Now, I don't suggest you ignore bruises etc, but unless you have real concerns for her physical safety, let them figure things out for themselves.  It's great that you care about her, and natural that you tend to lay blame for problems on him.  Just keep being her big sister, and love her.
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Just to play devils advocate for a moment here, it *is* possible that she is just genuinely trying to keep everyone happy here and not hurt anyones feelings. Have you spoken with her about this yet? It's quite possible she has no idea how you have reacted to this. If you are truly, completely offended, the best thing to do would be writing her a long personal letter, without anger, explaining that you are offended by her actions and that you are rethinking your decision to have her at your side during your special day. Give her an opportunity to talk to you about it before you make any "final cuts" though. Family comes first, and if she has a good reason or just was ignorant and chooses you, then you can have a wonderful marriage with her there. If she is stubborn about it or just refuses to work it out, then you may have to bluntly tell her you had to choose another maid-of-honor but she is still welcome to the ceremony. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck and congratulations.
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This is one of the hardest things to resolve in relationships, unfortunately. Keep in mind that your mother-in-law is also your wife's mother. I'm sure you already know that most people try to please, or at least placate, their mother. You're in a difficult position, but there are some things you can do:\n\n1. Communicate with your wife ... constantly. The two of you must not allow this to interfere with your relationship.\n\n2. Communicate with your mother-in-law. Do NOT retaliate in kind ... EVER! Do NOT lose your temper! She obviously angers you, but you have to be bigger than that. Ask her what it is that bothers her about you and offer to try and change at least some of those things ( IF you can and IF they are not part and parcel of who you are ).\n\n3. If you can afford to, you and your wife should find a competent marriage counselor to help you cope with this problem ... soon!\n\n4. When the baby arrives, I suspect your mother-in-law will want very much to see him/her as often as possible, particularly if this is her first grandchild. This gives you an excellent lever. Stress to your mother-in-law that this is both YOUR child and HER grandchild, and that both of you should want to do what is best for the child; and that her berating you will definitely NOT be good for the child. As an ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT, if you and your wife AGREE on this, BOTH of you have a talk with her mother and tell her, as gently as possible, that the TWO of you have decided to not expose your child to your mother-in-law's berating of you. Stress that, if she is willing to stop it, she can visit anytime the three of you agree. Let me stress again that this is a LAST RESORT, and should only be used if BOTH you and your wife truly AGREE!\n\nGood luck with this, and don't foget to seek that which is best for ALL parties involved.
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Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
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I understand that this was important to you, but more important than money is the relationship between you and your sister-in-law.  \nJust take a deep breath and ignore it.  Seriously, that's not gonna be easy.\nBut peace in the family is worth 20 bucks, dont ya think?
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I had exactly the same problem. A 'friend' of mine got married and I was her bridesmaid (she was the bride from hell). She really is the rudest person I have ever met. \n\nWhen I got engaged I was really stressing over having her at the wedding and I certainly did not want her at the wedding. I started to lessen the amount of contact that I had with her (not returning all her phone calls etc). In the end, she confronted me and I was honest and told her that I did not find her behaviour acceptable and that since I was worried that she would be rude to people, I was not able to invite her to the wedding.\n\nShe was upset and has not spoken to me since. But, I have to admit it was one of the best things that I have ever done. I did not realise how much she upset and stressed me. The wedding plans were easy, the wedding was relaxed and I do not have to deal with her anymore.\n\nSo, although it will be hard - she needs to know and I think you will feel better afterwards too!\n\nPS Congratulations on your wedding!
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girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
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The only thing I can tell you is to stay away from this chick. she still has feelings for your husband and is using any means she can to try to cause trouble. she is the immature one carrying on like that. I understand if you're trying to respect her because she has your husband's kid. you don't have to deal with her just ignore her and don't let anything she say or do get you upset it's expected behavior of a jealous childish person.
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Sounds like a dysfunctional family.  Try to deep the children away from her as much as possible.  There has got to be an underlying reason for this kind of hostility.  Any idea what that could be?  Does your husband have anything to say about this?  I wish I had some profound words of wisdom for you, but I am at a loss.
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She does stuff to delibratley irritate you and make your life miserable. First, quit showing things irritate you. For things that normally get to you eventually she'll make a comment like, "Does this bother you?" Just say, "What?" Let her respond and your reply is, "Oh, I didn't notice so I guess not." Tune her out. \n\nThere are always people like this in life, eventually it will be your husband as well. I'm sure you do things to irritate her as well, we all do something that will annoy someone at some point in time. You may want to have a discussion with her and be assertive (not aggressive) and listen to her. Let her know you want to be friends and don't like living with tension on a daily basis. Explain you would also like to go back to having fun with her and you care about her. Also, ask her to stop doing certain things. Set two to three non-negotiables you want her to stop and ask her what you do that irritates her and you can change. It's give and take and don't take things too personally. \n\nSomething much deeper is going on with her and you that needs to get resolved. Or her problem is nothing to do with you, and she's just taking out whatever is going wrong in her life out on the person she lives with (which could be anyone else as well). Just be sure not take things too personally. Good luck!
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Wow!  Sounds like my family.  My brother married her, and we still don't get along, 2 years later.  I try to just put up with her because of my brother.  But I don't see it getting better. \nMaybe your bro doesn't see her faults.  If you say something now, he might take a closer look and decide he doesn't like those things about her, either.  He might get mad at you, but he'll get over it, won't he?