ideas for a teenager to tell another they no longer want to date?
436419
Unfortunately, there's no real way to do this without somoeone getting hurt, but my 14 yr old step-daughter has a suggestion - maybe get your niece to 'sus' out the circle of friends to find out if any of the other girls like him (apparently this is common in large circles), & then with the permission of the other girl, your niece could drop a few hints to the bf, & let him know that it's okay for him to date this girls if he wants & that she could set it up for him.  \nMy personal feeling is to teach your niece the right thing now, & get her to sit him down somewhere private, away from the 'circle' & just be honest with him & explain how she feels, making sure she assures him that she considers him a good friend, & that sometimes having a good friend is better than having a bf or gf. I found this worked for me at 15, with the bf at the time ending up being my VERY, VERY BEST friend for 15 years, until his untimely death at 30, & it's something I will always be grateful for & treasure forever. Even now at 41, if he were alive, I just know we would still be inseparable friends.
1110198
There are other ways of telling him you're not a teenage girl.  Try this rather novel approach.  \n\n"Oh by the way, I'm not a teenage girl."
911780
might sound like the easy way out, but make stuff up.   Or you tell them it's none of their business.  Or you can just be very vague and not get into details.   good luck.
364630
First of all, thank you for using spell check and forming complete sentences with actual words.  So many of the teenagers who ask questions write in such a way that the adults have no idea what it is they want.\n\nHave you ever spoken to this girl before?  If not, start NOW, before it is two days to the dance.  Find out some things about her.  If she thinks you are only asking her because she is beautiful, she'll think you're a jerk.  If you are genuinely interested in who she is and what she is about, you have a much better chance.  \n\nIf you already know a few things about her, use those in conversation.  Don't walk up to her and say "hey, would you go to the farewell dance with me" because you'll put her on the spot.  If she already has a date, she'll have to turn you down right then and there and make you feel bad.  Start a conversation with her.  Maybe tell her you like her outfit and that your sister's birthday is coming up and you'd like to get the same top for your sister, where'd she get it.  Or ask her for some suggestions for Mother's Day gifts.  Or if she has a dog, ask her about her dog.  People with dogs love to talk about them.  Start off with just a casual chat, like with one of your friends.  That will make it easier for both of you. Then once you're talking, you can ask her if she's going to the dance.  This way, if she already has a date, you will know it beforehand and save yourself the discomfort of asking and being told no.  \n\nGood luck.  I hope she says yes and that you have a great time.
306382
Jen,\n\nThere is no easy way of doing this. You have to be straight and honest with him and you may even need to be painfully blunt. Teenage boys are notorious for hearing what they want to hear so you saying friend may sound to him like not now but maybe later.\n\nIn the long term the quick band aid approach always works best.
84882
If you know her well, make light of it, but for God's sake tell her, then (and here's the important part) move on. \n\nThere's nothing more mortifying than realising that you've had some snot hanging from your nose and knowing that it would be the only thing your date would be able to focus on.
241445
tell the girls that you have nuthing to do with the whole thing and want no part of it. tell it to them straight and make it snappy.
168958
I say let'er rip all at once, like a bandaid, quick!  My ex-girlfriend didn't come out to her parents till she was 33 and told her about the girlfriend at the same time.  Worked out ok for her.  Good Luck!
121481
Ask them about themselves.  What are their likes and dislikes.  Ask about their family, school, job.  Save the questions about whether or not they've been to jail for the second date.  ;-D
1157467
Tell your parents.  If that doesn't work, tell a teacher.  And please don't be in such a rush to date at 14, you can see already that you can make bad choices.  I'm not saying wait forever, but maybe just one more year?  Take care of yourself and DO TELL SOMEONE if you really take his threats seriously, because if he's gonna hit you if you don't go out with him, just imagine what he will do to you if you do go out with him.
1079382
Well, just tell her that you don't want a relationship with her. Don't be mean with it. And tell her y'all can be friends. If she can't accept that then pay no attention to her or her friends.
594692
If you're a teenager, tell them and let them deal with it. It's not like they have that much control over your anymore (or, if they do, it's not healthy). If you're preteen, you probably shouldn't be going on a date, but just tell your parents your going out with a friend, and make sure they thing you're just their innocent child.\n\nJust as parents like to "put their children in place", parents also occasionally need to be reminded of what their proper place is. If you can't honestly tell your parents that you are dating, you will have a really poor relationship with your parents. And just immagine telling them you're getting married or are having a kid.\n\nBe honest and if they have a problem with it, that is their problem. But don't make it a bombshell like, (as said from a 14 year old boy) "Dad, you remember my best friend Mike? He's not really my best friend. We've been meeting up for gay orgies for the past 4 years. Oh, and I used your icepick to give myself a Prince Albert."
805542
very complicated.. but i'll try my level best.\n\ntake some time, before you take any decsion. Stay in touch with both of them, but don't hang out. Tel them, you need some time to think, so that they will understand why you are not coming out with them. \n\nTime is good medicine for your case. Some one might turn colour, or you might get more interest with some one.\n\nWorst case is , you might get interested with the guy who turned color.. \ngod saves you.
242856
You can either wait until they are ready or you can move on to someone who is ready. You might want to try and show them that you have no intentions of hurting them and that you are not like the others.
192949
TELL HER YOU HAVE GOALS IN LIFE THAT PREVENT YOU FROM FOCUSING ON A RELATIONSHIP FOR THE MOMENT, BUT MAYBE YOU COULD HOOK-UP WHEN YOU BOTH KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU WANT TO GO IN LIFE....  13 IS NOT THE AGE TO BE DATING ANYHOW. SAVE THAT FOR WHEN YOUR AROUND 20 OR SO.. GOOD LUCK KIDDO
517359
tell him that you arent ready for a relationship or that its not a good time for you.
680362
Doggdoc has a point there...but you could phrase it something like, "you know we've been dating for about a year now...I don't date other's anymore, I'm finding I want to date you exscusively...how do you feel about that kind of arrangement?..."...well maybe you can make it sound a little more romantic than that...but you get the idea...good luck!