Why do I get bossed around all the time?
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Dear Andrew ...\n\nSome of the above answers are good.\n\nI think you may be getting bossed around all the time because you are inviting it to happen.\n\nYou are probably not aware of exactly how you do it, but it's possible that you are doing it.\n\nIf there is somebody you know and trust enough to ask about this privately, ask them about this.\n\nWe all "invite" things to happen in our lives, often without being aware of it.
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Most all people have some sort of mental illness. The key is are you being affected emotionally or physically by this person. If the answer to this is yes then take it from an middle aged person suffering daily from a boss and mother that are mentally ill. This has had a HUGE affect on my life and my children. So MY advice is to look for another job in an organized manner and make the move if you have any of the above issues.There are bosses that donot get off on power struggles.I have one now. BEST TO YOU.
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i have this kind of female boss. she shouts at everyone and always blames others for her mistakes. she doesn't quite know how to work on a PC and doesn't speak any foreign languages. she always says bad words about me because i'm almost 29 and i'm not married. she got married at 21 and has a kid. she thinks this is the only way for a woman. and also likes to talk on the phone all day long and gossips all the time, gets angry when someone laughs and many other things. she's just frustrated and very sick in the head. \ni used to leave the office everytime she said something bad to me, but at a point i couldn't take it anymore so i said some bad words to her. almost shouted at her and since this happened she hadn't said anyting bad to me again. i don't know if this is the right way to solve your problem. best thing would be to get another job.
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I have had the same problem in the past well it was kind of a mutual thing.  Things are different now  because we have history.  The best advice I can give you is to use the time you have at your job to do it well and exceed your boss's standards.  After some time, they will see that you are a great asset.
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Stress at work and no other place is one of the most difficult cases to prove. Because first and foremost, YOU CONTROL WHAT YOU FEEL. The boss didnt make you stressed, you made yourself stressed. People dont make you feel, you choose to feel. Get over yourself, you have no case, your best bet is to seek counseling for your inability to internalize your situations and your feeling of inadequacy, fo it is only when we feel inadequate that others "make us feel" something.
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My experience sais that people work very hard to be able to treat the people below them like slaves. That is the corporate ladder at work. People think that they have to be mean in order to encourage productivity. I have had a couple jobs with respectful bosses but when that is the case the company treats us all like dirt and we sort of ganged together. I am now self-employed which is much easier but not reinforced by the society, it has its prices (insurance credit etc) Self employment is the way to go if you cant handle people power-tripping over you......
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All of the above has happened to me more than once; at restaurants I have complained to the managers and if they are just as bad as their staff, I inform them that I will be telling everyone that I know how bad they're place is and those people will tell they're friend and so on. I have left stores that ignore me, my hard earned money is better spent elsewhere. And if I feel like I am being followed I stop, turn and confront the person doing the following!
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I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
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Well ask your self why you cant stand being around them? Is it them, or is it everyone? Is it a sensible reason? Does it make sense to get that feeling? If not, and your having second thoughts, it could be physiological.... Do you have extreme highs and extreme lows? Maybe its a form a Bipolar. But whatever it is, if you feel that its preventing you from living your life, and you find yourself unhappy, then don't wait to figure out what it is, because in most cases, it will get worse. Ask a Doc if you can. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. Trust me. Then again.... if your just referring to certain people, then that's happens to everyone! I myself cant stand certain people, the ones that try to bring you down with them, so if that's the case, just avoid them. Or just tell them like it is. Hope this helps!
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Some bosses you can never please. I had one that I could have stood on my head while I worked and it was never good enough.\n\nSometime I think when they don't like you perhaps you remind them of a teacher or aunt that hurt their feelings when they were a kid. Or you just may intimidate them by your knowledge and they think you are out to get their job.\n\nNote to Bosses....please be kind to your help because they are what gives your business success, and treating them like garbage is only going to promote high turn over.\n\nAs Bozo the Clown once said.."It's nice to be important but important to be nice." Be nice to your subordinates and they will be nice and work hard for you.
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If "you" feel that your superiors are being unfair in their reports about you and your co-workers are manipulating you......perhaps this isn't the organization for you.\n\nWhy stay someplace where you aren't happy?
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Maybe you are just having more stress in your life than normal which is causing you to deal differently with people and situations. Statements that you normally would ignore or write off as being beneath you are dragging you in because you are edgy. Figure out what is bothering you and try to fix it. Take some time to yourself and destress.
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I call this bullying, especially the bits about not giving you your work and shouting at you in front of other people.  Is there a personnel department or union you can see about this?  If not, I suggest you look for another job before you get symptoms of stress.
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It sounds like you are unhappy and need a different job.\n\nTHEY are the boss. You are labor.
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It could be one of the low periods that happen to each and every one of us sometimes, or you could be handling things incorrectly. Sit with yourself, go through your troubles and sort things out.
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Probably for bad behavior.  It happens to me all the time.  Ouch!  Mom! Stop that!  Bye!
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Because you work too **** hard!  \n\nHere.  Have a cookie and a cup of tea.