should housewife be paid a salary by her husband?
454846
Hahaha, is your husband asking your for a cost benefit analysis for a proposed salary? I think housewives should not be paid salaries but should instead be given an allowance for personal needs separately from the household budget.  It pretty much works the same way as a salary but denoting it as such is just not right.  A wife does the things she does out of love and because she wants to support her husband.
1120708
Now i know iam not a man but, I think if a woman and man both work i think then the house duties should be shared and the duties concerning the kids should be shared as well.BUT if the woman is a stay at home mom she should keep the house and the kids together the house should be clean,and food should be cooked when you get home the kids should be clean and together.Now she should be respected for this because this is a job.she is teaching and guiding your legacy (your kids) which is the hardest job ever.So to answer your question it is very important.
1050961
thats just ridiculous, let her have him they deserve each other and when her husband wakes up and joins the real world and realizes that they are treating him like the chump he is, let him stay at your house!
94407
It is definitely OK -- in fact, more than OK. If it works for you and your wife, and you are able to support your family that way, then more power to you! Don't listen to anyone who suggests that this will be harmful to your kids (or future kids, if you don't have them yet), or that it implies you are a lazy man, or that your wife is a soul-less, ambition-driven-only woman. Those ideas are very narrow-minded!\n\nThe thing is that individuals and situations vary greatly. Not all women prefer to do housework over working outside the home. Not all men want to work outside the home. I know several men who are better at domestic duties than I will ever be. I know women who would die of boredom if they are in the home all day, and whose potential is much better put to use in an office or in their careers. \n\nMy husband's dad was a stay-at-home father. At one point, he and my mother-in-law both worked. But when her career really took off, it became much more logical financially for her husband to tend to the house and the kids, instead of earning a lower salary and then paying for someone to help out with the house. This way, a parent was home with the kids, and my husband turned out wonderfully. He never witnessed sexism in the home. He grew up thinking that women and men are equal, he wasn't biased with any stereotypes, and it wasn't until he got to school that he learned that people thought girls were "weaker." In fact he always viewed women as the more powerful and intelligent of the sexes, ha! And, may I say that he is so hard-working and has a great career. His parents are also very happy and still together. They are two of the greatest people you could meet.\n\nI think it takes a very special couple to work out this kind of arrangement -- the man has to be very confident in his masculinity and his choices, and the woman has to be assured in her knowledge that her working outside the home doesn't make her any less of a woman. If this arrangement works for you, I think that's something to be proud of, not ashamed of!
188518
It typically depends on how much she makes. If she makes $15,000/year and he makes $100,000/year, she could file for and receive alimony. \n\nAlimony (from what I understand of it) is based on the idea that the spouse got used to a certain lifestyle during the marriage and now feels that he/she should be entitled to some money to get on his/her feet after the marriage ends. Check out the link below for more information.
1013361
Only in limited cases. If she is able to work, she is not entitled to alimony.
307800
Sounds to me like this lady needs some counselling.\nWhile she may be a nice woman in some ways, she may actually be being 'abusive/disrespectful' in others... \n\nFor instance - if she was a missionary and was sent out in the field to do gods work, then she would expect the church to fund her needs. Regardless of how much money she gets, it is hers and she is free to do with it as she wills. But if she is 'mooching' off others and expecting others to fund her lifestyle without a mandate from them to say they will agree to support her, then that is selfish and inappropriate.\n\nAlso...she may have what she considers to be good reasons for only bathing one a month... maybe she is concerned about the environment etc but the key to this is whether her daily personal hygiene is adequate so as not to cause offence to others. Putting it bluntly... if she smells then she needs to deal with that or she is abusing/disrespecting other peoples needs to be comfortable around others.\n\nAnd when it comes to her room... that is between the woman and the person who is letting her stay. It is her personal space and this should be respected, however since she is there by the grace of a friend, then they have to determine how far they are prepared to accept her untidiness etc... and take into account whether it is likely to attract vermin etc.  If staying with friends you should respect their space and property, so failure to do so is another abuse/disrespect situation.\n\nAt the end of the day it is up to her hosts to set the limits and conditions of her stay before she moves in - how much she pays, when she pays, whether she contributes to house work, how her room is expected to be kept, etc.\n\nI hope the people who are bothered by this most (coz clearly the woman isnt bothered) can manage to speak to her, maybe with a mediator, and resolve the situtaion to their mutual satisfaction.
645433
You can't go giving huge  salaries to people.  This woman seems like she would undermine all you have accomplished.  Find someone else, there are many out there.
159046
I think you need to bring it up to him now .. don't put it off.  Maybve see if your husband can bring it up in casual conversation as they are working.  I think it is reasonable if he is getting paid a reasonable wage for his work from you and your husband that he should expect to pay a reasonable sum for baby sitting fees, unless you agreed to the baby sitting as part of the payment for the work.  But don't spring it on him as a surprise.
751290
No. My husband and I both work and I respect him very much, as he does me. And in today's world, at least in the US, you need 2 incomes to keep a household running.
235881
THE CHICS ARE GONNA HATE ME FOR THIS ONE LOL!! \nListen, you are working hard so she can have a good life. You need to put your foot down now, before it's too late! As a wife, I expect my husband to do chores around the house. ...BUT NOT WHEN HE'S WORKING A 12/14/16 HR. SHIFT!!! He does as much as he can whenever he can, but everyone needs a break! I bet she likes to spend the money that comes in from those 12 hr. days...try cutting her off for a while, she'll catch on real quick! Relationships are about respect & comprimise. She needs to be willing to comprimise when it comes to chores, and to respect & appreciate your hard work...as you should appreciate hers (taking care of a child & your home).
1015250
You both have tough jobs, and I can't see you affording a maid service. I would suggest a 60% for you and 40% for him.\nWhy don't you sit down, and write up a list of all the household chores, that need doing, and see if you can't work out some equitable schedule. \nThere will be some jobs, he doesn't mind doing, and the same for you. Forget about percentages, as long as you both pitch in, then neither of you will feel put upon.
583444
Desperate? They shouldn't be. In my country the wives are both - taking care of the house and the children and working on full time job. So why are the US wives desperate when they are only staying at home?
906002
that's wrong . you should respect her husband , her and yourself . x(
455473
well dear i work full time as a housewife mother and grandmother.  my pay is zero but one thank you is worth it. I also work part time and make very little but it is fun money. The joy of doing this is much more than the pay
416970
Of course it is ok to be a stay home Mother and house wife. That is a thankless job 24/7, not any days off and always on call. If that is what someone chooses so be it...janie
469821
How much would you pay for as in would you pay for sexual favors or how much would you pay THEM as in what is a housewife's values worth??? Either way it should hopefully be priceless.