Do most parents accept their disabled childern or shun them?
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Any parent that shuns a disabled child must be very vain  or they would understand that just because a child has a more recognizable disability does ont mean they are un-lovable,all children do some just are more serious and recognizable
401628
like the other answers yes and no  some are born with disabilities and parents may not realise it til  a milestone is missed some can have a serious injury or illness that can make them special needs . and both the former and the latter will call for  special education.  environment can play a part in it or can make the disability seem worse .now i have to kids who r high functioning autistics and mentally retarded and we do not know where it came from or how it happened which unfortunatly is the way with lots of parents of special needs children. and as to the dropping ur baby on its head if this has happened get them checked out and if it wasnt ur kid let the parents know cuz yes that can have harmful (and /or deadly)side effects on the kid.and most of the special needs kids can need a variety of services for along time and some will never be able to live by themselves.
41254
I have whats known as hidden disabilities.  I have also been in a wheelchair from time to time due to injuries and I can totally relate to what you are saying.  People that are ugly towards you because of your disability are not only mis informed, but incredibly shallow.  If they cant still see the real you inside, as much as it will hurt, I say dump them cause they arent worth your time and never were.  I have had to do that to a few people and while it hurt like hell, it made them look like idiots in the process.\n\nGood luck to ya, sweet person.
140256
These are all helpful links for any parent of children with disabilites. A couple of them are Government links and one leads to SS page of benefits for these children. (and parents)\nHope this will help you. I know it will keep you busy searching and reading if it is what you want. Best wishes to you and your child. Doug
914897
The only people I would like to switch bodies with would be a person who has no idea of what it is like to be physically disabled and in constant pain even if one does not look disabled.  Can I pick who I switch with?  If it is strictly on a religious basis I know who i would like to switch with so they might know what it is like to be snubbed by people you thought were friends.  Yeah, I am a little bitter, but don't really hold a grudge.  They have to be who they are, just wish they could accept me for who I am.
1013404
at the end of the day an adult with learning disabilities has freedom of choice just like you or i, you can advise if you think somthing is dangerous or you can ensure for instance obsticles which may harm or cause accidents are removed, but an adult living on their own with limited care is responsible for themslves, \nsay in day care ther are rules and regs there are adults with severe disabilities that cant be left and those that are less severe that can and should be encouraged to look after themslves
480732
I doubt it. Most countries are less tolerant of special needs kids than the United States, and even in the US there are lots of court cases attempting to define who should and who should not be allowed into an inclusion setting.
195654
I think it depends on what kind of mental handicap the parents have. Unless they are mature enough and can handle the responsibilities of being a parent then no - they shouldn't be able to raise children. But that should go for any parents...
989313
Our oldest is autistic and wasn't properly diagnosed until age 6. It was actually a relief to find out what was going on. We felt like complete failures as parents because it seemed like everything we did for him was wrong. Once we knew what was going on and were able to educate ourselves, we were able to relate to him better and find a comfortable home life.\n\nAs for how my partner dealt with it... there were times when he was so frustrated he blamed me, himself and the doctors. Of course, I did the same thing. It made our marriage hell for awhile. The important thing is that we resolved ourselves to deal with the situation and we've made it through.\n\nI think all children are a gift from God... regardless of a disability. And, no, I wouldn't have changed anything from conception to birth. There's no guarantee that anything would have turned out differently.
161743
I too work with adults and young adults with special needs. Unfortunately our school systems are only obligated to provide health education, and infromal packets, generally sent home with the child enrolled in the fifth grade. ( This is the age group of when noticable changes start, generally) This packet is to be discussed with the child by the parent and is aslo designed to help parents break the usual bearier of how do I talk to my child about sex.  Unfortunately, many parents do not ever have this discussion with the child, because they feel in their minds that the child is not capable of understanding or comprehending the material. By doing this the parent feels they have done the right thing, when in fact all they have done is raised the curiosity level of the child.  Since the child does not know how to express their feeling and with the fear that the parent will get upset, they suppress their emotions.  As the child reaches adulthood, these feeling and emotion become a literial time bomb.  When this happens the young adult/adult generally ends up in trouble or is hit with large amounts of rejection from the opposite sex. This has been known to scar them for life.\n I wish more people, especially parent of a child with disabilities whould take a beter look at their child and realize that this child, that society has labled special ed, special needs, handicaped, etc would rather look at this child as a child that learns at their own pace and has unique and different learning method and would refuse to let our fast paced school systems determine what is best for any child.     As I mentioned in the beginning I work with Special need students, Unfortunately, all my students reside in jail,charged with crimes they had no real understanding was wrong, because their parents and our schools did not educate them.  My job is to educate them and help them succeed in our community.  I wish more people like yourself would also ask questions.  Thanks for caring.  Sorry my spelling is off, another long day.
529133
granny, i'm not yet a parent\nbut when i was younger, my parents most likely would say NO to me\nit wasnt very rewarding at that time, i kinda hated them actually\nbut as i grew up, i realized that it was very rewarding and helping me to grow up as a better person\nuntil now, after my parents considered that i'm 'mature' enough,  and i have my husband, my own house etc, they still said NO sometimes\nbut when my husband and i really faced a big problem, they willingly said YES\nthe point is, dont say YES all the time, but say YES when your son really needs your help the most\nit will be very rewarding =)\ngood luck
55930
The disabled are the most misunderstood people in the world.  There are visible disablities and hidden ones.  Anyone that calls me weird ought to look in a mirror.  If I am weird, then I am weird and wonderful and thats the only way to be.  We just want to be treated like everyone else.
759201
Usually, if the parents are decent people. Many children would be better off if they had no contact with either parent.\n\nIn societies where parenting is more an age-grade thing than actual biology, children have many parents, and are probably the best adjusted psychologically of any.
843551
I think it all starts earlier than one suspects. I am appalled at the way in which children use the term "spastic" as an insult.  What are they learning at home to be so insensitive?  It doesn't get better. I was once in a position where I needed to recruit a typist and I suggested to Human Resources that perhaps this was a job which might be made available to a disabled person who might otherwise find it hard to gain employment.  I encountered bafflement.  "Any particular disability?" I was asked.  I have a son who has been disabled since the age of twelve.  He is hoping for a job worthy of his very considerable intellectual skills, but he keeps his disability well concealed when job hunting.  He has seen too much of people's attitudes. In many ways, we still live in the jungle.
1040607
I believe it helps them make difficult decisions such as when to have sex, whether or not to do drugs and how much "following the crowd" is acceptable. Also if they have religion there is another comfort zone for them. If they can't talk to mom they can still talk to God.
794740
Unfortunately they probably never will. Everyone thinks what they believe is the truth and the only truth. It is sad that people aren't more accepting of other people's differences. I do think the main problem is what they are taught at home. More and more people have children yet don't bother to parent their children. They figure they are too busy and they expect everyone else to do it for them. In the mean time they aren't being taught morals and compassion. And then everyone wants to know what is wrong with the world. It starts at home. If people would take the time out of their "busy" lives to be good role models for their children, their children wouldn't grow up to be such miserable hateful adults. I am never too busy for my son. And I promise you, He will not grow up to be that way. It is just too bad everyone else is't as concerned about the way they conduct themselves nowadays. The majority of the people I come Across on a daily basis are rude, impatient, disrespectful, judgemental, and self absorbed. I try to hold onto the belief that most people are good people though, and I do believe they are, I just think maybe they lose track of things that really matter, and are more concerned with trivial matters. But I totally hear ya!!!!!
920775
If they have children, yes.  If not, no