My boyfriend says he loves me but isn't in love with me yet.  Am I wasting my time?
443034
he is a confused person and he want to confuse you, you are a paralegal for God sak, go hit on a lawer who will respect you. \nI never heard of somebody who loves someone but aint  in love with them.\nUr wasting time.
1161814
Since you have so many doubts, you also know in your heart that its not time to get serious. Since he is so sweet, he will not try to rush you into something you aren't ready for either. I suggest you just keep the relationship on a slow pace and really get to know each other before worrying about a real commitment from either of you.
241431
Be Open and Honest with him, tell him how you feel..communication is essential in any type of relationship romantic or otherwise so talk to him and make him understand that you care but, that the two of you have all the time in the world and there is no need for rushing into anything. take your time and don't be pushed into anything that your not ready for. Follow your heart and instinct. Good Luck!
202755
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
1058005
Has he told you that he loves you? If he has, then he is probably patiently waiting for you to express your love for him, so he really won't care how you do it, as long as you're authentic. If he hasn't then he's most likely too shy and is wondering how you feel about him...
914142
The time is not the issue.  People's feelings grow and change - so the limiting factor here is not the time, but the fact that you simply don't feel comfortable typing those words in an email.\n\n2 thoughts come to my mind.  1) You want a relationship but you are not committed to investing in this person enough to express your love.  That's very reasonable.  Being in love with this person has complications.  Who will move and give up their home, lives and friends?  Maybe both of you - and for what?  A complete unknown.  2) Maybe you don't really love him if you cannot bring yourself to say in in over a year?  Sometimes we are in love with love and having a long distance partner makes the whole relationship thing, so much easier.  You don't have to mess with somebody in your actual life every single day, but you have a boyfriend, so you don't have to worry about it.  It's taken care of.  A shame that its long distance, but also really nice.\n\nI wouldn't rock the boat if I was you.  If he is saying I love you and you want to respond, but can't with the actual words, you can try something like "You mean so much to me", "I don't know what I would do without you in my life" or "I think the world of you".  Lesser forms are more like "I totally dig you", "You are my favorite person in the whole world", etc.\n\nPeace!
233851
Baby...you could do better. I think that he doesn't really love you. If he did, he would do anything and everything to brighten up your day up. Just think about it, is this what you want?
246870
i think that you sould ask him bout what he think and if he can't anwer you then you sould know if he in love with you.take your time in your relationship
154527
he probably does really love u if he is really ready to wait for u to say it. it might not be a month long stand. so just wait and say it when u mean it. i bet it will mean a lot more if u wait untill u mean it.
96793
He might just start talking nonsense! That's what happened when my boyfriend first told me that he was in love with me. Just take your time to feel him out and see what his aim is, if you love him then go for it. But don't jump into anything, always think b4 you act!
349561
There is nothing to do. Don't make the mistake and tell him that you love him if you don't. You might not love him now but, whose to say that you won't love him in the future? You might not love him but, you obviously have feelings for him because you are with him. Give it time love doesn't always happen instantly, it takes time. Don't force yourself to feel something that is not there.
1105775
Ask him to marry you. Explain that you don't wish to invest any more time in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. If he loves you, he will say yes. If he says no, you've saved yourself some wasted time. Good luck either way.
883314
if he's already out of love at this early in the relationship then let it go, your ship has already sailed, move on and find someone who will actually have concrete feelings for you and not be so wishy washy about them....
785463
I think if you are honest you are looking for reassurance from him that he loves you and it's worth the effort. I'd call it a day, then ket him make the first move. If he rings you in a week begging for you, which he WILL if you leave him be, then think again!!
967455
If you love him, then you're not using him. If you juist have him around because he's caring and generous then you are. I don't think he's so afriad of losing you as he is a sweet natured man who loves you and appreciate you enough to treat you like a queen. How lucky you are!!
1035652
i think u might be over reacting just a little. if he's still telling u that he loves u then no worries. through the  days, months, years ppl change and that's wut he's doing . but the one thing that izn't changing is the love he haz for u.
175917
If this guy TRULY loves you then he would understand if you were to tell him that you would like to take it slow.  Make sure that he IS the one before you walk down the isle with him.  True love is ALWAYS worth working for and waiting for.  Just be sure how you feel and the rest will fall into place!!  Good luck and I hope it works out for ya!