case study: how to deal with a person who wants to suicide?
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You say "No, I can't leave you. I'm afraid for your well being. If you wont let me in to talk with you, I will have to call the authorities. "Offer to take the person to an emergency room for help. If this is someone alone, you mustn't leave them, call police. They are trained for this. If the person will let you, take them to an emergency room. Often if you can distract the person through the night, things look clearer to them in the morning.
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Some people commit suicide because they aren't accepted in their society [like if they're gay or "ugly"], or thats what most of them think. Some people at my school cut themselves cause they think its cool o.o i thikn the best way to deal with pain and sadness is to talk to someone
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suicidal friend:its a phase, talk to her, show her youre there and maybe she'll realize taht shes important enough to live. are her parents causing trouble in her life? thats probably it believe it or not.\n\nANd about the talking behind the back thing, its so immature, are you in middle school because come on seriously, dont even care what the hell other people think\njust ignore them\ntheyre stupid\nthey will be losers when they grow up\nyou will be a better person because you never cared
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I used to have the same problem that your friend has. My parents were crazy and strict and I became depressed and suicidal for many years. I never attempted suicide, but I did cut myself occasionally. I understand when she says it feels good. The best way that I can explain it is that the physical pain sort of momentarily takes away the emotional anguish that you're experiencing. It's not a healthy thing to do, buy many people do it. If your friend doesn't want to see a therapist, the best thing that you can do for your friend right now is to just be there for her and listen as much as you can. Since your friend can't really change her parents right now, there's not a lot that she can do about her current situatione except to learn how to cope with the problems that she's dealing with. If your friend expresses any desire to commit suicide or you think that she might be thinking about suicide, then you need to tell someone about it, a school counselor, a church advisor, or a parent.
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You need to empathize if they threaten, but be firm and don't let it keep you from breaking up...that's their attempt to keep you.\n\nIt's probably being done pathetically...but in all honesty, any suicide threat/talk is worth telling someone about.  You can't just poo-poo it off, encourage them to talk to their parents/friends/pastor/doctor/school nurse/teacher, etc.
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Her doctor may need to review the medications she is on. Sometimes depression medications increase the desire for suicide in teenagers. Try to be there for her, and just be her friend and don't judge her.
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There will be a police report of the incident, however if she was not taken in or treated for depression, or sent for a psychological evaluation, it will state in the police report that all was ok and it was just a concerned boyfriend who made the call. She won't have "suicidal maniac" stamped on her criminal record or anything- lay this to rest and quit worrying about it.
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the library has excellent book on suicide . i have read some before . good luck !
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Dear Hayley,\n\nCALL NOW:\nNational suicide crisis hotline\n1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433)\n\nTell them about your friend. They may be able to get a phone trace if he actually threatened to commit suicide ever. They can give you better advice than anyone untrained also. Good Luck, we'll be praying for you both.\n\nCalico.Kitty
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Unfortunately as we all know we can not make anyone do something that they do not want to. I would speak to a psychologist in person and ask them what they think the best way is going about to encourage the person to seek help. This is their job and I am sure they have had numerous people approach them in their field asking them the same question.
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first of all,you have to be really careful theese days who you talk to ok,second,it seems he has real issues,and is playing mind games with you,if he were to kill himself there is nothing you can do ok,third,most people who talk suicide never do it,its the ones who dont say anything who do,fourth i love you !!!!!!!!!!!!!! =) it will be ok,just please be very careful ok.
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She definately needs professional help, but there are things that you can do now.  You can be there to listen to her.  It may be tempting to demand her to stop immediately, but this approach will most likely alienate her.  She knows she needs to stop, so telling her what she already knows is useless.  often, just knowing they have someone who cares enough to listen eases a lot of their pain.\n\nYou might try to help her to understand why she feels she has to cut herself.  Does it make her feel better?  Does she feel like she deserves it?  What is she thinking when she cuts herself?  The cutter usually uses physical pain to alleviate emotional pain.  Also keep in mind that there may be other underlying problems or mental disorders (such as bipolar, obsessive compuslive, depression, or even eating disorders) that are causing her to do this.  In those cases, simply talking with her will not solve anything.  \n\nIf you are a young person, you need to make sure you get help.  Try as hard as you can to get her to confide in a trusted adult, preferably her parents unless circumstances wouldn't permit it.  Cutting can become life-threatening, even if the person is not sucidal, so it is important to get her to a professional immediately.\n\nThere are also books out there that may be able to help her.  Go to your local library or search online.  If your friend is religious, you might refer her to her local pastor or priest.  Recently, Jehovah's Witnesses had articles about this type of self-cutting in the January and Febuary Awake Magazine.  You can look up "Jehovah's Witnesses" in the phonebook and call for someone to drop off the magazines free of charge.  Getting something in her hand that she can read may be what she needs to motivate her to get help.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, please get help for her, but also make sure that you get help as well.\n\nP.S. If you are not in a romantic relationship with her, be supportive and positive, but becareful about saying too many "lovey" things to her.  Since she is in a very emotional state, she could very easily begin to thik of you as more than a friend.  The last thing you both need is to have her fall in love with you, then become more depressed when you do not return the feelings.  If you do have some feelings for her, please wait for her to get help before pursuing any type of relationship.  Carefully consider whether you are mature enough to understand all that is involved with loving someone in her condition.  Again, getting trusted adults involved will be a safegaurd to you and help to protect both of your feelings during this very sensitive time.
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For the sake of others in this situation:\n\nI called the Emergency Room at Marymount Hospital (Garfield Heights, OH).\n\nI spoke to Reception, and the Charge Nurse.\n\nHospitals (at least in Ohio) cannot treat minors without the authorization and/or consent of a parent or legal guardian, unless it is an immediately life-threatening situation. No Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, adult-siblings, friends of family, etc.\n\nNo matter how much they may want to, they simply cannot.\n\nEven if a Social Worker refers, and takes, the child to any facility or shelter, the facility cannot take the child in, unless her Mother or Father actually accompanies her to the site.\n\nThe Charge Nurse was very sympathetic, but the hands of the medical professionals are tied by the law. Sorry situation.\n\nThe ER Charge Nurse suggested calling the police, have someone admit the police to the home, WHILE THE MOTHER IS PRESENT. The police can force the Mom to seek treatment for a minor, IF they are willing to do so. Judgement call by the responding officers.\n\nThis may be the best bet.\n\nLet's hope this girl does not keep falling through the cracks until she succeeds in her suicide attempts!\n\nI agree with the previous posters who suggested calling the DCFS (Dept of Children and Family Svcs), and a suicide prevention hotline for futher advice.\n\nAs Joker stated, Child Endangerment may be a very good option.
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Well...it is good that the person has stopped complaining. I don't know what the situation is, but people should never thank that there is no hope because that is not true. The only time there is no hope is if we dwell on the problem and don't do anything to resolve the problem. \n\nThere is always hope. Your support is always helpful. Let her know that you care and are concerned for her. \n\nI would also suggest that she go get some counseling because often times, when people lose hope, they start to think about suicide. \n\nKeep in mind, you can tell her anything you can think of to tell her, but it is strictly up to her to break that spell that is binding her. \n\nBe positive. Don't offer pity because she will just thrive on that and it makes the problem worse. Be empathetic though. Let her know you understand the problem and you understand how she feels, but she just has to get up and get moving and stop feeling so sorry for herself and I would also recommend recommending counseling to her.
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It sounds like he just wants attention. I've been to the suicide place before too, and all I wanted was to be loved and cared for. A lot of the time when people talk about suicide they merely want attention. But you really can't pay attention to what they're like when you're around them. You have to see what they're like when they're alone because most people will act like normal people while they're out and go home and kill themselves. There are a few things you could do. Tell his parents, his friends, the police, take him to church, a doctor, on top of all that just be there for him.
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Take them very seriously..... Do not think for a moment that they are not serious... Be the best friend you can be and be an excellent listener.....\n\nA person who wants to commit suicide is, in there mind, ready and prepared to commit that act.... Contrary to popular beliefe they are not cowards they just feel that they have no other way out..... Sometimes the pain they feel is so intence that the only way out is death....\n\nThey are not wanting attention, but rather help for their situation. They need to know that there is a way out and that they do have support. Most people who commit suicide do so in private because they are very private people nor do they want to be a burden.....\n\nRemember to take them very seriously if not you may loose that person for ever.... Do not treat them like a child and respect them..... Listen to what they say and never offer your opinion or call them names..... Never under any circumstances laugh at them..... They are talking to you about suicide because they are at the end of their rope (no pun intended)....\n\nGood luck to you
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Depends on how serious I think that person is. If she/he sounds pretty serious to me, if I think it is a cry for help else than being a joke then I would get her/him to a professional. But if it is just depression talking I would try to cheer that person up and make him/her see how beautiful life is and death is not.