should i try to get back with my baby's father?
436719
It would depend on the circumstances as to why you were not together to begin with. Some possible scenarios:\nHe's married  (then no!)\nHe's involved with another woman (no!)\nHe's a jailbird (no)\nHe doesn't have a job (no)\n\nHe's a decent guy and things just fell apart (yes)\nHe's employed, educated and willing to take part in the child's life (yes)\nHe's not on drugs, doesn't drink to much, never ever has he, nor would he hit you (yes)\nYou didn't tell him about the child until a later date and now you're sorry (maybe)
805365
yes he should see the baby but no not take him on his own, meet him somewhere public just the 2 of you and not her ... as for her i would look into a restraining order
929725
I think you may have left something out, here...\n\nUnless you're really shallow, you won't dump him just because he had a child with someone else before he met you.  Now, if he lied to you about the kid or the baby's mother, that's something different!\n\nMake sure that whatever decision you make is based on HIM and your relationship with HIM, not on the simple fact that a baby is now also involved.
1071850
Separations are never easy (as I very well know)...Give yourself and your child time!!\n\nTalk to your child, and let your child know he/she is loved by 'both' of you.. and if need be, reassure him/her that it is not his/her fault you broke up!! (as some may think/ feel this way).\n\nYou have left your partner for I have no doubt good reason: but he/she has in their eyes lost a daddy, and is going through a grieving process of their own, which takes time to come to grips with.  \n\nHopefully daddy will still be around, and be able and willing to play a part in his child's life ... and if like my ex-partner and myself, maybe you two will be able to put the past behind and become 'friends' for real, or for the sake of your child in time, and then he/she will have the best of both worlds!!\n\nIts a difficult one, and my heart goes out to you.
305039
It is admirable what he is doing but without question they will form a relationship around that child that you do not have. Now that's not bad if  he is true. If he is not you could find that the significance of the bond between a man and a child can become more important than the bond between you and him. At least for a moment. Talk to him with out accusing him but let him know that you support his efforts but not in place of his feelings for you.\nIs the baby calling him daddy or are the two of you auntie and uncle?
787612
I would think any child that is not you sons would be hard to accept. If they are back together tell him how you feel and have him talk to her. If he wont talk to her then you tell her and tell her that you will not be a part of this child's life if she doesn't stop acting this way. If they are not together then you don't need to accept the child and it doesn't need to be in your life. Sorry to say it that way but it is true. Also I think once you see that beautiful baby it wont matter anymore. GOOD LUCK.
1009863
Just let him talk to his dad on the phone about anything. There's not much you can do. Tell him daddy's at work for a little while. You're not lieing, he does have to work to get some money to come back. Oh, and did you ever think that your husband is lieing to you? Ya'll are having problems and he did leave before, have you thought that maybe he isn't comming back? You have to face reality, he might have found someone else. I know that's not something you're ready to think about, with a son and a child on the way, but some men are azzholes. It might be hard, but you have to do what is best for your children. A: You can sit at home all day and you and your child do nothing to move on with you life waiting on your man. or B: You can get up and do something. I know you're pregnat so maybe right now you're not able to get a job, but you can still take you son to the park, or swiming, or any activity. Something to keep his mind off his daddy gone for so long. And if your husband does come back, then everythings great, if he doesn't come back, then you've already started on taking his mind off of his dad, and you have built a good relationship with your child. And remember, what ever you're feeling with your emotions you're unborn baby can feel them too.
450495
Do not make any moves in his direction.  If he really wants to see his son, he will come to you and ask.  Make him ask you, not through a friend.  That way you will be able to see him face to face and judge his sincerity and truth for yourself.\n\nDo not let him fancy talk you...remember, your number one concern is the welfare of your child.  It may not be in his best interest to see his father if his father will be doing nothing but causing trouble between the two of you.  No child needs be surrounded by troubled parents that can't get along.  Make sure you are both in the right place before sharing your child.  I have already been through all of this.
203470
Hunnie things happen in life for a reason. It is up to you how you will deal with these things and move forward in your life. No one can tell you if you should keep your baby or not. That is you and the fathers decision. Just think of all that comes with the situation good and bad. Listen to your heart and make the best decision for you. If you would like to talk more you can IM me or email me. Take care and good luck sweetie
226776
If the father has visitation right and has not been abusive to the child, yes, I would. I believe that fathers are very important in a child's life. Just because parents get a divorce, they should neither one pull away from the child. If the father can't come to the child, you should take the child to the father. A 5 year old is not mature enough to make this kind of decision. It's up to you to do what is in the child's best interests.\n\nIf the father has been abusive to the child, under those circumstances I would be more reluctant to insist the child see the father. You didn't indicate why the child doesn't want to go. Is it a fear of hospitals? Is it fear of the father? Do you put the father down in front of the child? Is there any valid reason that the child shouldn't see the dad? These are all questions that could relate to the issue.
565996
That's the way love goes. But he is a man and a man is going to do man things. Although it was disrespectful as fuck. And u should have beat his ass. Not the girl. She probably didn't even know he had a baby mama or girl. Id say he learned his lesson. But wait for him to come back. Maybe he doesn't want to be with you anymore. And if u ask for him back maybe u'll get your feelings hurt. I wouldn't try. I would start lookin for a new man. u'll get over him. occupy your time to keep your mind off of him.
273302
That would depend on why you are not together now.  \nYou have to have a problem to achieve a solution.  You don't say what your problem is, as to why you are not with your sons father; so, all I can say is "fix that problem", then you may be able to be together again.\n\nGood luck!\nGod Bless!!
245539
Unfortunately you are going to be the ultimate judge of that. Is it different this time? Are his actions following his words? How do you feel about his being back? How does he treat your daughter?\nYou might be setting yourself up for the big fall, which means he will do it again. You must think of what is best for you and your daughter. GOOD LUCK
679790
i would go and visit him because he was my dad, not to just get something from him. if you sincerely want to meet him, then do so. after that, things will probably work out for the good of both of you.
1163862
do what is best for you and your child...i was with my older sons dad for 9 years and he was a cheater and a liar too... i finally left when i found someone i thought i wanted to be with.... it didn't work out in the end.. but life is funny.. it always works itself out .. i never went back to the kids dad i was much better off without him....and much happier on my own.... don't stay because of your child... you will be a better person and mother if you are happy. follow your heart and don't look back!  things happen for a reason... i believe that.
997753
Yes, you need to take this deadbeat to court.  I don't know where you live, so it I can't give you any specific advice, but every city has people (usually in the family assistance office) that can help you with the paperwork.\n\nYou may not want to see this guy again, but your child--HIS child--needs financial support, and you should get it for your daughter.
140743
Wow, your in a pretty bad situation. You should have never taken him back the first time. This guy is someone who likes to play games.I bet he's seeing that other girl again.\nI'm sorry that you're in such a mess but there's not much you can do. Whatever you do DO NOT!!!!take him back again..You can raise that baby on your own..you don't need him..take it from me, i'm 19 and a single mom of a 2 year old little girl and yes its hard but you can do it.If you decide not to have the baby thats your decision but please im begging you do not take him back.believe me he'll come crawling back saying i love you and all that bullshit but dont buy it cuz he'll just break your heart again.good luck .