what does it really means when my boyfriendsays he wants to be with me but he just needs to pause.?
448007
don't stress about it.  You should never sit around waiting for the phone to ring.  Go out and do something for yourself.  Go shopping or to a movie and get your mind of this.  Interact with people you haven't hung out with in awhile because of him.  When he's ready to talk he'll call.  Don't let your whole world be around him.  If he needs to find himself, let him.  Be there for him when he's ready to talk.  Take this time yourself to think about your relationship, have things ready to talk about when he's ready.
825197
i think he is playing around, he doesnt want a relationship with u...hes just making a fool out of u. hes taking u for granted...he can see u, chat with u , flirt around,,,wat more a guy wants. i think u should be strong n confident in taking the decision. tell him straight away that u need space and its over!!!!!! :)\ngood luck
1106207
Respect him and go at his own pace...be happy that he wants to take it slow! That means he is serious and wants things to be done right. Talk to him about it, share your feelings and have him share his. It will all work out, just don't push him into anything, some people take longer than others.
202755
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
560607
I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
1179106
He is probably thinking of "friends with benifits". He has no interest in being committed or your boyfriend.
616610
It sounds like he may really like you, but it also sounds like he is a bit overprotective. If you decide to pursue this relationship, make sure that he understands the rules. You have to have your space, and if he insists on being with you ALL the time, he may be a bit more serious than you would be comfortable with. If you don't want to be in a exclusive relationship (which is what it sounds like he wants), I'd look elsewhere.
985711
Well it's only been 3 weeks and he has made it quite clear that he wants to go slow, and he's explained why.  If this is not good enough for you then forget the relationship.  Otherwise just relax and let things take their course.
234660
If this guy is dating someone right now, I would say "Let It Be". When you look at it from a different angle, you would realize that "You wouldn't want someone to cross your path and take your boyfriend away from you". If it's meant to be that you two should be together, then you'll just have to be patient... Dr Checko... (Nickname)\nFrom the desk of Dr Checko's Yahoo 360 Board\nClick on =--> http://360.yahoo.com/checkocheckochecko
634176
Guy's always stop. It doesn't necessarily means he doesnt' love you anymore or isn't romantic, he's just comforted in teh relationship to believe he shoudln't have to do all that shet anymore to prove anything to you. If it bothers you that much, tell him. Take him out to dinner. Unless he's falling out of love with you, well then....shitty.
529388
it could be and it also could be he wants to move on but does not know how to tell you.  If he is not into the relationship end it before you get hurt
572620
It sounds to me that either he really just doesn't give a fig about your relationship, or he really does but he doesn't want to show that he's bothered by what your friend said to him.\n\nSometimes guys SAY that they don't care just because they don't want to talk about a potentially tough subject for them. At the same time, he's being insensitive to your feelings.\n\nMy advice: Firstly, do YOU even want to go out with him, or do you just have a boyfriend so that you can say that you have one? Do you actually LIKE this guy or not? If you have feelings for him, and want to try and salvage this relationship, corner him and tell him, "Look, everytime I try and talk about stuff, you just shut me out. That really bothers me. It makes me think that you don't care about me. I don't want to break up with you, but unless you actually show me that you care about me and want to be my boyfriend, I'm going to have to break this up. I need a boyfriend that actually wants to be with me and will treat me nicely."\n\nThere, end of story.
749068
your confused b/c he's making you confused, i don't believe he's confused one bit he's just stringing you along, and you are right he is too scared, too scared to completely let go of you all he's doing is talking nonsence to you....what i think is happening here is he wants to keep you waiting for him while he 's out exploring his options, he's afraid you might find you someone else...and he won't have anybody, he doesnt want to get back with you or else he would have, i mean whats stopping him?? all he's saying is i'll just keep playing mind games with her until i find me somebody i really like....don't fall victim, i would surprise him and would tell him to just go on with his life....that you are not meant for each other...get rid of the stress and you will feel so much better.
405110
reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
879329
He means he doesn't want to be totally involved with you, he wants to keep some space.
244514
it means they think you are ok together and stand a chance but not sure if it's "love" yet, or don't want to admit it till they're sure of what they're feeling....give them time but don't rush it, it sounds they are the type who take this seriously and honestly and are worth the wait (not too long though)....
819829
Try explaining to him that you are busy sometimes, that doesn't mean that you aren't into him it just means that you don't have the time to give him the attention that you think he deserves.  He might be happy with that and it will keep your relationship honest.