Child Support Worries...?
445092
You are going to be fine if you and your ex are on good terms.  Don't lose any sleep about it.  Dress nicely and bring a book and a snack because there will be a looooong wait.  But don't be afraid to say something if you feel something isn't quite right or fair.
932275
Wow!  You are in for a battle.  Call the child support office first.  If they can't or won't help you, you'll probably have to get an attorney.   If you're really owed the money, don't let them keep it.   It CAN be done.   Good lluck
976662
Do you have his social security number?? if you do call a child support office in mass. i live in mass and thats the only thing i can think of is call child support IF you have his social security number, if not then im sorry. Good luck
17538
If the mother of the children is harassing you over child support I recommend you take the matter to court and get court ordered child support.  This will prevent her from continuously requesting more money and it will clearly define what you are responsible for paying.  They usually offer to have the money taken right out of your paycheck automatically so there shouldn't be any problems with her claiming that you didn't pay.
208095
Hmmm...I'm 34 w/ 4 kids and paying soooooooooo much, and I'm the mom. Long story but no I'm not a derelict I just was sick of family court. A lawyer is good advice but also unrealistic when it comes down to it. Get on the internet (whatever state you're in) and download all your paperwork. They're making it so much easier than it used to be. Get your support reduced and pay and they'll give you your license.
801460
why is he so far behind in child support? it seems to me like he doesn't really care about you or your daughter...\n\nif he really wants to be in ur daughter's life, he has to prove that he is serious about it...otherwise, i don't think u should move.
144477
Sorry this is so long, but bear with me.\n\nThe law begins with the premise that you are the father and share in the obligations of your own child's upbringing. What you are asking is to have an exception or an easing of the costs based on need because of financial strain or unfairness due to the inequity of paychecks. Your side will be the one to have to convince and persuade because her side has law. In the end, even a good persuasive argument may not stand if there are no laws with which to draw on in your favor.\n\nLook closely at your side then. I am not trying to attack your side by these questions. I am merely saying that such questions may be asked by the legal decision makers or legal financil aid providers and you need to know your side has the strength to convince. Here are some questions to be prapared on:\n\nIs your limited income due to irresponsibility - Did you have to get a new job because you were fired from your old one? Have you wasted reasonable opportunities to have a better job - For example, do you have a degree and qualifications for a better job but chose a low paying job instead?\n\nWill your income likely grow again in the near future - Eight years ago we moved to a new state and my husband had to begin over again on the payscale. We began that first year on less than 18K, but we moved up quickly to now being quite comfortable by regional average income standards. If you are likely to move up in pay, that will be taken into account especially if you are asking to be excused altogether from the burden of support.\n\nHow much money is needed to raise a child in the location in which this child is being raised - Surely 70K/year would be far in excess of expenses where we live and perhaps where you live. However, if your child is being raise in many of the large cities in the Northeast or California it may take about that much to survive there.\n\nIs the $70K all the income from your wife's side? Has she remarried and has her husband's income too? If so, is that 70K a combined income from her own and her husband's income?\n\nHave you provided more than monetary support? Have you been a father beyond the child support payment? If you have been actively engaged in your child's life you will have a more convincing argument than if you haven't had anything to do with him.\n\nWhat were the conditions leading to divorce? Obviously if divorce occured because she was unfaithful you will have a stronger side than if you were unfaithful or abusive. Some would think that if you messed up in these ways you made your own bed and by paying you are reaping what you have sown.\n\nHaving such information as her being able to afford Cancun while you are barely able to afford groceries is very helpful, but make sure no holes can be poked through it. Did she really use the child support money for that vacation? Was the vacation specifically in the child's interest. It doesn't sound like it, but again it is your side that will have to do the proving not hers.\n\nOK. That is the end of the questions. I hope you understand my motives are just to make you realize that you will be the one with the uphill battle. If you are using an overworked public attorney and she has an elite, smooth talking lawyer your side cannot afford to be unprepared for such questions.\n\nI do feel for you. I want to tell a true story that I feel applies when it comes to grace under unjust circumstances. I know a pastor who lovingly was counciling a man who asked him for help. This guy was having a secret affair with the pastor's wife the whole time that this pastor poured his energies into being a help to him. It all came out when she got pregnant. The pastor wanted to save the marriage in spite of it. Instead, she began lying and demanded a divorce. This poor man lost his pastorate becauset he congregation didn't want a divorced man leading their church. Because he lost that job, he couldn't get full custod
959213
Contact your child support agency.  Click on your state and find your local office.\n\nhttp://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
802331
Explain nothing to your son until you have sought advice from your attorney.\nHe is too little to understand what's going on and doesn't need to be but in the middle\nKids usually cope better in these situation then the adults do\nYour ex has never paid child support and would have to prove he his able to care for a child he doesn't even know let him spend the money with a lawyer to find out. Maybe when he knows he is responsible for all the back payments he might decide not to see the child
829023
Support for your two younger children will be set at your divorce.  Support for your first child has to be 'established ' first.  Anytime a payer has a significant increase in income--support should be adjusted.  Talk to someone at your local child support office.  (You probably will have to with your impending divorce anyway.)  They will contact your boy's father regarding support.  And if it is a huge increase, you may be able to agree to a lesser amount of support (still getting a big increase) and you will look like the 'good guy'.  Also, if you're going to apply for benefits (medical assistance, food stamps etc) from your state, this will compel the CSA to collect a proper amount of support for your kids.\n\n\nHere's a link to your states CSE website:\n\nhttp://www.okdhs.org/
197608
good luck!  lol... it is not easy to get out paying child support... if you have a job, you are paying... that is the way it works... be responsible, and pay!
443198
guess you'll have to check with the child support office...assuming you have a legal right to the information.
745509
Contact your local child support agency.  If you have an order, they are the agency to enforce it.  \n\nThey have a number of resources at their disposal...wage garnishments, liens, bank account access, you name it!! It takes time to get the ball rolling, but it's well worth it.
1174745
He should be paying child support, but not her rent. Do you have child support agencies in the states? Here in Oz, most go through child support agency, who determines how much one should pay the other, that way, whoever gets the CS can't turn around in a year or 2 and say they haven't been receiving money and the payee gets hit with a big bill. \nIt's not good that he hasn't told you before now. You need to have good talk about trust.
1147588
If the support is not court ordered and the mother is not requesting support then legally he doesn't have to  pay anything. Morally however, and assuming he's a responsible father and parent, then he should be making it his business and priority to ensure that his child or children are provided for to the best of his financial ability.
861384
restaing order and she needs to think about getting a lawyer and a new court case to have him pay chidl support. but if he is only paying 13 bucks a month its not worth the trouble.  and besides if he doesnt pay child support he can't see the child. (at least thats the law in oklahoma) so restaing order and move on with life.
71533
sometimes they department of child support enforcement makes mistakes they are human if i were you i would tsk a copy of all previous cort decisions and take it to your local office thy may be able to help if you have paid your daughters school fees on time also talk to the childs mother and see if she has recieved any mail about the status of your case