Which dad should walk me down the aisle?
448170
I think that it is awesome that you can say that you have two dads, it is your wedding and you should do what you want to...I think your idea of half / half is super cute because they both were there i don't think that you should chose one or the other you need to incorporate both or someones feelings are going to get hurt you have two dad's and that is ok just be sure that they both know that you love them and everything will turn out right.
1061638
I'd give the guy a chance. You never know he may end up being prince charming in a  single parent "dad" costume!    After all, unless you were in his shoes, you can't judge why he made the decisions he did.
437400
ask him who his father is
221964
You mean that he didn't ask your fathers permission?!!!  I guess I would tell them that its going to be a mixed marraige... "I'm catholic and he's protestant" and see where that goes!
389978
My parents are helping us out a great deal for our wedding.  My mom has helped me with the planning, the finances, the stress, etc etc.  We are getting my father a nice bottle of wine and a gift certificate for a manicure and pedicure for my mom.  When I go into the salon to have mine done the day before, I am just going to surprise her and take her with me.  We are also planning on a nice toast specifically for them and we're also thinking of having a song dedicated to them (to dance to) following the toast. I'm not sure if it's necessarily "customary," but I think it should be if they really help out.  If you can't afford much, just put some thought into it and do something creative.  Make a cd for each of them with songs that remind them of you (or the two of you together).  Definitely do something for them...it's kind of their big day too.
1135796
Have an evening candlit ceremony back home with a dessert or hors d'ourves buffet at the reception instead of a full on meal.  When I got married I contemplated eloping, but realized I would regret not having my dad walk me down the aisle or having our dance....so, depending on what means the most to you, you should be able to decide what is best.  Congrats and good luck!
662812
i think that is really sweet. plus it involves your sons in the wedding where otherwise they might have felt left out. i wish you luck
759854
Be honest with you dad, set down and have a father to son talk. remember there are only a few moments we can treasure maybe you can make this the best trip he ever had with you and the family it may be his last of yours. It's your dad you owe it to go. at least you will have done something with him he likes to do and tell him he has to enjoy a trip the you would like to go on.
461999
Go get him....do not wait another minute...do not stay married for the kids, go get him, NOW.
139297
Mr and Mrs Robinson or MOM and DAD
672352
We are to honor them but not follow their lead if it is wrong. Pray for them, then ask God to help you do whats right.It can be hard. Im a christian myself in which my dad is not so i can relate a little.Good Luck and God Bless!
1071459
bring your girlfriend over then scream "DAD!!" at the top of your lungs.. then give her a huge smooch ... he'll figure it out
1169457
Please make sure that he knows that the "dad first rule" is important in your family. ESPECIALLY if you are a daddy's girl! :o) I made the "mistake" of coming home and excitingly flashing my shiny new diamond before he got dad's permission and my dad flipped the script. I ended up in tears. Thank God they are cool now! All in all, fathers are nervous about losing their little girls just as much as the bf's are nervous about asking for the hand in marriage. Just tell him to be honest about his intentions for you and your future life together, and expect the best or worst!! After all, it is you two who will marry in the end.
1017316
Yes, by all means he should accept the honor and you should go to the party!  A good marriage is giving and taking.  I applaud you for the support you have given your husband.  (He definitely owes you one).  There will be other parties, but maybe not another Allstar Coaching opportunity.  I'd do exactly what you are doing...regretfully, go to the party and hurry home as soon as you can to celebrate with your hubby the honor of coaching the Allstar team.  He will love you for it.  You are a great lady with a big heart!  Next year, why don't you plan a trip that is not during the coaching season.
627171
First you must remember you are the step father. He has a real father so you don't want to replace him.  sit him down and tell him how happy you are to be his step father. Do things with him he likes..have him tell you all  he would like to do and try them. take him to a game room at the mall. put some money in those machines and together  play them. tuck him in at night, share saying his prayers with him and give him big hugs. ask him if he would let you kiss him on the cheek at bed time. watch cartoons with him. throw ball with him. take your wife and him on a hike. take a pic-nic lunch with you and find a nice place to eat. the focus is on him ok? kids like ice cream, kmart, walmart etc.\njust enjoy him and make him feel very special and you two will come together just fine.  you must remember this is just as hard on him as it is you. you need to discuus discipline with you 3 together. there are ways of handling this without being the bad guy, ok?
377428
I think you should also ask someone you respect, like a pastor, older freind, or counsolor. I personaly think it is good he gets to visit his dad. When he becomes older, 8+, you should ask weather he wants to see his dad. It's not right to force a child to see a parent they don't want to see.
446695
Yeah, been there, done that, got the T-shirt! What you need dear lady is a babysitter and a date! Get Grandma and Grandpa, best friend , sister, brother, whoever is your most trustworthy babysitter to take the young'un off your hands (and mind) for a night you and hubby can both make the time for- go out to dinner (budget dinner is just fine, just make it romantic), go for a walk after, hold hands, remind each other why you got married in the first place, and then go home and light some candles!