how do you break graduate school to your boyfriend?
449548
If it's real love, he'll understand. If it's not, then, you need to move on.
1167947
my sister and her then boyfriend had to deal with her leaving the state to attend college. That was years ago and now they are married. It can work. If your boyfriend is that selfish then leave him. He will come around. If not then that's his lost.
829784
First off, if he is under 18, living at home with his parents, they have parental rights to his coming and going, not who he is involved with but his study time at home seeing that his schooling is being adequately taken care of.  It is not your responsibility.  If he was not spending time with you it would be someone else.  Your breaking up with him will not keep him studying if his parents do not use their authority as parents to see that his studies do not go neglected.\nSecond, if he is in college living away from home and they are footing the bill, it may seem to them that his involvement with you may jeopardize his studies. If this is the case step back and look at the situation yourself, is all his time and thoughts wrapped up in your relationship?  Is his grades suffering because you two are seeing too much of each other and he has no time to buckle down and really study as he should?  Think about your future with him. If he fails or drops out of school because of poor study habits it would put a strain on your relationship financially and he may very well blame you, as would his family put the blame on you.  The two of you need to sit down and work out a schedule that includes his study time.  If your mature enough to be in a relationship and in love then you need to plan long term with all aspects of the relationship, not just the now part.\n\nThird...the real answer to your question. My spouses family never approved of me. I was 13 years younger and never good enough for him, in their eyes.  To say it didn't bother me would be a lie, it did, but I never let it interfer in our relationship. I went to family gatherings and held my chin up. I never put them down to him and our relationship lasted 20 years.  I became a friend to his mother and one of his sister-in-laws but that was all, the others, as far as I know today, still dislike me or have nothing to do with me. I don't lose any sleep over it and my life is about as happy as it can be.  So don't let them intimidate you.  It is your BF that is important and the one in which you will make your life with, not his family.
363921
Break up with him and listen to your mom.
199754
I'd say, make more effort to talk to him during school. If he resists, confront him about it. You don't need to put up with this kind of cold shoulder; you are his girlfriend, not his 'busfriend'.
371222
Tell him "Hey, I'm breaking up with you".  Simple enough.
1103077
start with going to school with him for the first day as the day. sit in a chair near him, asthe day goes on slowly move your chair closer and closer to the door. once you see he is comfortable kiss him and ask his permission to leave they like to feel like they are in control of the situation. wait until he says okay then slip out he shoul be fine. talk to his teacher let her know what you are doing.
589049
Dump him.\n\nYou sound too young for a relationship.  Focus on your studies.\n\nDon't bother with the immature idiot!
374552
Seems to me the best way to address the situation is to be forthright and talk to him about your concerns.  If your decision is to move on to find someone more accessible to you, then say that.  There is no real way to break up with someone that won't result in hurt feelings.  But to be true to yourself and the most fair to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and what you want.  Personally, I would recommend doing it face to face, even though it may be uncomfortable.  You may want to continue seeing one another after talking about it, but if it does end, be able to step away knowing that in the long run it may be the best thing for your both.
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Breaking up isn't always easy! My advise is, what ever you do make sure your breaking up for all the right reasons. Be honest with your self and be honest with him as to why your feeling this way. \nIf your for certain this is what you want, then you should let him know as soon as possible. Keeping this from him every day will only make him feel foolish of his self. I know it's hard to have to break up and sometimes we get to the point where we get so up tight and nervous about doing this that we push it off. But the old saying is breaking up is the hardest thing to do. \nI would tell him that you need to speak with him over dinner or what ever you guys do that wouldn't start a big question game, like what is this all about before you actually get a chance to sit down and talk with him. When telling him this try not to say "the time we spent together has been great etc. etc. but, let him know that lately you have been going over things and you need to etc. etc. Especially, if this is coming from out of nowhere. Let him be able to absorb little by little. This way there won't be anger flaring up. Try to then speak to him as if your talking with a good friend.\nI wish you all the best to you and him both.
855871
here is my advice, advice from a friend who has been put thru a similar situation. my bf almost went to Michigan or TX State University and all i could do is break up and cry behind closed doors. look, in his eyes you have to be strong and if you love him you should be able to trust him and in your heart think that nothing bad will happen! if you keep on wondering what happens wherever he is and who he is with and if he is cheating on you you come out as really insecure and push him away after a while! you should be happy for him and for what what he is doing not sad! be a good gf and spend lots of time with him before time runs out, surprise him with a nice dinner or a picnic or something simple yet where you two spend quality time together!  here is what my mom told me and for me it came true because my bf went to the same university as me, but her words of wisdom are: if he loves you he will come back to you ! and yes i think he is coming back! it will be hard and difficult on both of you and him too but he will not show it,trust me! you have to go through this and let him go and grow and you grow as a person too and in the end he will come back to you! do not think  of the negative outcome but rather of the positive, be happy that he is happy  or for him, spend time with him, trust him, do not question him and remember that the Bible says that "....love never fails" in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8!
568298
Be supportive to him.  Let him know how proud you are of him to be working on his degree.  Give him a big hug and tell him how much you love him.\n\nAlso, be sure that he has time to do his school work.  Help him by keeping your room clean, helping with dinner, whatever else you can do to help around the house
960341
you can go to college and have your girlfriend check the paper, then make a run up north one day and completely fall backwards into it......\n-nny
536664
I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
562786
get him away from everyone in the morning. tell him u have a surprise. just go to a quiet spot, where there r no ppl. and work ur magic. and after skool, try 2 get out of class earlier, so u'll have time to kiss him.
526306
break it off and find someone new
391166
You are young and have not been with him that long; if he is going home with you for break you should let them get to know him before you break the news to them. If he is not going home with you maybe spend as much time as possible talking about him (within reason) so they feel they are getting to know him through you. After you've done this you could say something like "I really love XXXXX a lot. We have many things in common, he treats me well and I could not be happier. WE would like your blessing to get engaged".\n\nTHis makes them feel that you respect them enough to get their opinion on the matter and makes you come off as mature and reliable.