Almost all of my co-workers are two-faced. What's the best way to deal with this without getting angry?
448276
don't take 'em seriously, but always be on the look out just in case they want to cause you trouble. So, basically just go about your business, keeping in mind that you're doing a job...you're not there to socialize!!
633594
call one of your workers into the room preferably a small guy,then to blow off some steam proceed to batter his head of the wall over and over until you are satisfied.if this doesn't work buy a punching bag and imagine your with one of you most hateed colleagues it always works for me
890763
Yes I went through the same thing.  I found at that point there is nothing you can do.  Although you probably never deserved to be in this sitution I find that usually people need to gang up on one person and bully them.  It is not acceptable.  I went on meds because of it and when I was done working there I came off of the meds.  Management was involved in this case and I was approached by a laywer to sue these people.  I choose not to, the reason being that it would have cause more stress.  I now have a better job with better pay and I no longer take meds.  Please hang in there.  Start looking for a new job right now.  They cant fire you without a just cause, worse come to worse you will be asked to leave with two weeks pay.  But find a new job, being unhappy is not worth it.
533922
IF this person is your equal or subordinate, cheerfully say, 'I really have to get going right now, but I'll have that for you first thing Monday morning.' If they say they REALLY need it now, explaint that you're sorry (as you're walking out the door), but that you dont have time, and that they really need to ask you earlier in the day on Fridays (so that this wont happen again in the future).  \n\nWow, your coworkers are rude!  You could wind up in the office all night!
874197
lol damn you sound like an interesting guy! Is there any way you can spike others peoples drinks?the more pissed they are the less you'll stand out... you should come  to my work do and brighten it up a little! :p
626458
Yes, but just try to avoid them until they calm down. If they have any decency at all they'll apologise to you later. On a more serious note, if they are like that then they shouldn't be in the job role they're in. This is unprofessional and certainly doesn't make you feel that they are approachable. I hope I am not like that to my lot.
831342
You have another colleague going through the same thing? Document everything, send memos when you do the work, stick together; and do not directly get into it with this other (passive) person, but relax, be aware and back each other when this person starts trouble for you. They will be found out. Never fear.
1064293
Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
299776
I absolutely hate it when that happens. I always try not to get involved, but if I have to, I end up bitching someone out. Just don't get involved, and make it clear to your co-workers that you are not involved. Make sure they understand that they are both your friends and you will not take sides, no exceptions. I am usually very firm when it comes to these issues, because you're right, it IS high-schoolish. I have very little patience for this kind of thing, and all my friends know this.
774294
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
781005
I dealt with the same situation a few years ago.\n\nWhen you deal with your co-workers, keep your relationships friendly but professional. When you leave your cubical/office for a stretch of time, lock your files and set your computer on password only. Do not contribute to the gossip mill, but keep your ears open at all times. Document EVERYTHING! This is where e-mail comes in handy. I had a verbal conversation with someone about a project in which this person agreed to help complete. I followed up with an e-mail describing our conversation and asking if they agreed to take over the part of the project that we discussed. They agreed. Three months later, this co-worker dropped the ball and conveniently pointed the finger at me. Guess who had the e-mails to cover her @ss? This co-worker was looking for a way to make me look bad. I covered myself because I knew that it would come back to bite me.\n\nSo, do these things and you should be fine. However, if you constantly have to look over your shoulder you might want to find a better environment to spend your 9 to 5.
683935
There is a book I bought a long time ago called "Coping with Difficult People" which is like dealing with difficult people. You can buy it at any bookstore under the self-improvement section. Also, talk with your boss and maybe he can resolve your problems you may have with a co-worker. Don't worry, we've all been there. I sympathize with you. However, just a suggestion, you may not want to use that kind of language on Yahoo Answers.
952029
Be careful if you want to stay in your job, as it sounds like you are clashing with quite a number of people at the moment.  If you are not careful, your upper management will notice, and start to think that you are difficult to work with, or not a team player.\nNext time, address it directly, face to face with the other employee.  If they repeat, then its time to escalate the issue.  Speak with their manager about their non-performance.  Its something I have to do occasionally, and its never fun to go over someone's head, but sometimes, it just has to be done.
786488
The first thing to do is to remain calm yourself. Let them know that you hear what they are saying and really listen to their complaints. Ask them to please speak slowly and try to relax so that you can help them to resolve whatever issue may be causing them distress. You must never argue or show negative emotions of any kind. Let them know you appreciate their business and you will do whatever you can to help make their visit as pleasant as possible but unfortunately some things are not within your control. Also, try to get the assistance of a level-headed co-worker or supervisor.\n\nI hope this helps.
139034
The solution is really simple; pelt your colleague with rotten eggs and/or monkey feces. Not only will you enjoy the exercise, but the pelted party will be forced to bathe in order to conduct him or herself in polite society. It's probably a good idea wear some kind of apparatus to obscure you identity while defiling your co-worker, a balaclava would do nicely.
556196
Some people hold everything in until the final straw, even if it's a little problem that can be fixed to them the whole world has now come tumbling down around them, then their are those who are not wired rite. the best way to respond is not to. Do not stand their and pay attention just walk away and if they follow you walk into a crowded area then they will have to make an ass out of themselves in front of other people make coffee in front of them and if they ask you if you are listening say "oh you were saying something, I can only hear people that talk to me not yell at me, then end the conversation and walk away boss or not.
421136
Oh yes, I have had one in almost every job I've had. They are called "a pain in the neck!" and are found in every place of work. I try not to let them wind me up and ignore them as much as I can. Another good tactic is to say, " Yes your right - what a brilliant way of doing it!" and just continue to do what ever you need to do to get the job done properly. Basically, these people are insecure and need to feel that they are better than anyone else.