I just bought her an engagement ring, but now I just caught her cheating. Do I still give her the ring?
445842
Not seeing the whole picture is a problem. Did you have any type of a commitment before she went on that vacation? And why was she alone on vacation? Living together? Dating regularly and exclusively? If you never told her you were seriously interested in a long term romantic relationship because your one of those people who never reveals your true feelings, then what do you expect. You need to tell her how you feel. Don't propose -it is time to take a major step backwards. Show her the ring, so she will know how serious you WERE. DO NOT GIVE IT TO HER! Return it! Let her know if she is interested then you need a commitment and you must do the same. If she would rather stay "friends" then you must realize that is all you will ever be and get over her.
1176283
I know this is tacky, but buddy, the only way not to lose out on the big bucks is to keep it for the next one. Then, just buy a different setting next time so it's not the same ring. You have to look at it for what it is - a rock. A thing. A possession. A cold material item. It does not represent anything anymore. It's just something you own. That's worth a lot of money. You'd be silly to throw that money away. Just don't tell a soul. Not your mom. Not your ex. Not your buddies. No one. This is your secret. And don't you feel bad for a minute, because it does not mean you won't love the next person any less. It just means you're smart with money. Do you think I go out and buy all new lingerie every time I get a new boyfriend? Sheets? Do you think I buy a new bed? Hell no. It's not realistic. It's too expensive. Use the diamond for the next setting. It's actually kind of beautiful and poetic. You gave your heart/diamond away once. It was returned to you, and you'll always be affected by that. But that doesn't mean you won't give your heart/diamond away again, and when you do, it won't be of any less value because you've loved once before.
1019169
When my gf of just one year had her birthday, I went to ebay and bought a jewel from cambodia.   I got a blue zircon, (she likes blue zircon, and trust me, if you pay attention, the gf will drop the hints.....)\n\nShe took that blue Z and bought a ring and setting for it, (cause she knows gemology), and I have to say,  she did a really good job of making a ring out of it.\n\nSo, look for something unusual, something she likes, and something she can add her own style to.\n\nAND GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!!  (cause,dude???  that's not an easy thing to do!!!)\n\nsincerely:\ntom
739445
It would not be a good idea, I think, to combine the giving of the engagement ring with Christmas giving.  If you have no money left, that will be no problem for your GF, because the joy of receiving the engagement ring will greatly outweigh not receiving a generic Christmas gift.  If you try to combine the two, it will cheapen and make less significant and enjoyable the receipt of the engagement ring.  Just explain to her that you put all you could into the engagement ring.  If she is the kind of girl who deserves your engagement ring, she will understand.  Best wishes.
414340
Yes if you don't get married the ring needs to go back to him . The ring was put on your finger for marriage so if you break it off it's no longer yours . It would only be right to give it back .\n\nAngel
239257
If you can't afford the ring you deffinately can't afford a wife!  If it is love you could give her an aluminum ring and she will love you for the sentiment and it won't matter to her.  Otherwise save your pennies and buy it out right, there is no point giving the woman you want to make you wife a ring you haven't paid for yet, you don't want repo depot showing up for that.
97757
If you're old enough, and in a position to be comtemplating marriage, jewellery. If you're not, jewellery sends the wrong idea, and seems to rush things along. If you want to spend the rest of your lives together, and you dont have enough money for jewellery and she loves you, she'll understand. Flowers are always nice (what's her favourite) and something relating to what she's interested in, or that you heard her say she likes. Just show her a good time!
844267
there are two different kinds of promise rings.....from what i understand. one kind is a promise not to have sex until you're married (sounds dumb, but if i could take it back...you save yourself so much trouble that way)...and the other kind is the one that you are "promising" to be engaged one day. \n\nyou dont need to go all out on this thing. maybe a simple silver band with an engraving on the inside, which doesn't cost that much. she'll know exactly how you feel, and youll get your point across to her.  i know when i was 16 i didnt have much money to spare. SHE'LL LOVE IT
911622
I can tell you how to find out okay?  tell her that you made a terrible investment and lost all your money.  if she really loves you she'll stay with you, but, if she takes off, you'll know she was only in it for the money.  \nI hope things work out for you.
633762
Please whatever you plan on doing, Don't make it public because then you will never know if she just said it because everyone was watching. Don't tell your friends or family till she says yes it will be more of a surprise. And with every answer you get here think what could go wrong, you want it to go as best as it can. So no chocking on the ring she ate in her food. Good luck and things happen for a reason.Oh and don't bend down to tie your shoe that really gets girls mad because they think you are trying to propose and end up looking like a jerk.
669486
The ring is yours and it is your choice to keep or give it back. Giving it back will make things feel more closure and it helps as a token to make him understand you are serious. Pawning the ring will make you feel good (if you are mad) but it may make you feel lousy later.
500766
No, you could throw a big rock in the road.. Plenty of people still see other people on the side when the relationship is still new. There are no rings at that time. And, honestly, if it were me (being the girlfriend) I would not want to know. Not only could it break my heart, but it could cause me to be not trusting toward you. As long as your serious about her now, and you love her and you KNOW you'll never ever cheat on her. Leave it alone, and enjoy your new life together :-)
594771
I would sit down and take an objective analysis.  If he doesn't move you the way he once did, I wouldn't head down to the jewelers to try on that engagement ring immediately.  I am a complete romantic, and I believe that someone should move your heart completely, and the one that is for you, will.  Try and be fair though, while you're thinking of all the little things he did for you once and doesn't do much anymore, do you do the little things to please him still?  If you want to be with him as a wife, you should talk to him, very honestly and openly, about all the possibilities, including ya'll not getting married.  He should know what's going on instead of being put on trial without a defense.  I hope that everything works out for you both.
596837
You bet she did, before and after your engagement. But she should have told you everything! I'm surprised she didn't at least tell you about the two filthy habbits. YOu should demand why?!.
28120
YES, YES, YES!! It is more than worth the wait. It's better to wait, than not to wait and regret it. What you have is very precious. You can only give it away once. Let it be to your husband. He will appreciate that you guarded something just for him. It's the most loving thing you can do for your future. There's just so many reasons to guard what you have. Many will tell you it's no big deal...because they already gave theirs away. It IS a big deal. Take it from one who gave it away at 18 and regretted it very much later. Even though my hubby forgave me for the loose life I had led before we got married, I still have all those memories of wasting myself on jerks and idiots. All they wanted was a good time. All I wanted was someone to love me. The guy I married? He's the only one who didn't want to use me like that. He wanted more than a one night stand. Don't think that passing up those guys was a mistake, especially if they didn't want to get to know you as a person without getting the perks first. You just continue guarding what you have. I'm sure there's a guy out there who will appreciate it very much...with a wedding ring. <*)))><
797476
Most definitely! An engagement ring is to show that you're engaged to the person that gave it to you. If you split up, you're no longer engaged, so the ring HAS to be returned.
641956
This REALLY depends on the state. If you tell what state/jurisdiction are you from the answer can be made more specific.\nIn general a few things may happen:\n1. You jurisdiction treats engagement ring as a unconditional gift -- then woman keeps it.\n2. You jurisdiction treats engagement ring as a gift CONDITIONED on marriage going through.\nThere are 2 sub cases:\n2a. If the condition does not obtain for whatever reason --  woman has to give it back\n2b. If the condition does not obtain because of the fault of the gift giver(the man calls it of himself) then the woman may keep it.\n\nOnce again i cannot tell you for sure unless you tell us where are you from.