Ladies have u ever given up sex to see how he really feels and did it work?
443179
i have and i didn't always work in my favor most of the time thats all they wanted. The best idea is to make them wait from the start and see if they want to be with you just to be with you or if they keep asking to get in your pants, then you know before it gets serious.
657618
Back off him for a bit for starters, he's probably exhausted! No men like being badgered into more sex, the pressure sucks and doesnt make it very enjoyable. FInd out when he likes doing it, try different things, get that spark back, just try asking him what he wants/likes!
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
272851
No, you did a good job.  It is important to let people know how you feel.  I'm proud of you for taking a chance rather than never taking a risk and letting him go through life not knowing how you felt.  I hope it works out for you.
56706
Don't give up. Keep on doing sweet things to him. It worked for one night, it can work for another night. You need to be patient. A good relationship needs hard work, nothing is easy. Have faith and good luck.
8123
It is not a matter of hurting his feelings or not.  You should learn to express yours.  If you feel that he is using you just for sex and not trying to build a lasting relationship, tell him that.  It sounds like you might be ready for some kind of relationship, but you find that he is not.  Perhaps this will help you in the future.  Sex should be more than just a good feeling.  It is also something which strengthens the bond of a relationship.
732013
I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
992423
You can find your answers by testing his intentions. Do not give in to desire. tell him you are not willing to rush another shot. that if he is honest then he will understand. He had a chance and he threw it away and now he wants it back and this should not be given freely. make him earn your trust make him work and build a relationship. Do not allow passion until you know for sure. All men have sex on the mind it is part of our design. if he can accept your terms meaning that until your ready to trust him fully that no sex is happening and he is willing to work at it then I say this is the only way your going to know.\npersonally if I were a woman I tell him sorry you had your chance and I am so over you and walk away. but I am not you so I will wish for you the best and hope all turns out for you and you find your happiness.
422100
Well, if your looking for a guy for more than sex than don't give him any until you get to know him.  You'll see his intentions if you hold out for a while. Then when you think this man is true to you, then you may want to proceed to another level.  \n\nAs women, we usually have good insticts about these things so if it feels like a guy just wants to use you for sex...DON"T DO IT!!!  YOU HAVE A SAY IN IT TOO!!!  \n\nDon't use sex as a tool to keep a man....if he want's to be w/ you he will stick around.
232254
Hello;\n  The best advice I can give is to explain to him how much you care and tell him all the things you admire about him. Then explain that you would like more out of your relationship than just sex. Then see how he reacts. If he is agreeable, then you can relax and enjoy new avenues of your relationship. If he still insists on having sex as his main concern, then you need to look at yourself and decide if you want to be used in that way.
734106
Why are you wasting your time on men that play games like this?  If you want a commitment and he won't give it but he wants the sex, he is just using you.  Stay away from this kind of user and loser!
494406
Well young lady first of all if you are really concerned about him using you...just say no and see where the relationship goes from there. If he is just using you for sex...then you are enabling him by allowing him to do so.  I mean is the experience pleasurable to you, or do you feel like after the deed is done he's less attentive and affectionate. In your heart I think you already know the answer to this question you presented.  Cut the sex out of the relationship and then you'll see his true colors.
379723
There are some good ones...Don't give up...I haven't even come close to giving up on all you pr*cks...I mean men out there...Good ones are few and far between but are there...Good luck hon...
867770
Best i can tell you he still has feelings for you and his heart just can't give up. Just for the record' There's always a way back.It depends on how you feel and if you want it or not.
801307
it's not bad because you are in love with this man..and we all have been there at some point or another..I know I have....I knew that he liked me and didnt want anything more but just sex..because I loved him I stooped so low..I gave soooo much of myself to him..did want ever he wanted in bed..and after I did not feel soo good about myself...I would often cry at nights wondering why he cant love me the way I loved him....and how can I get to love me and want me...I was so in love with this man..that I almost had a threesome because thats what he wanted..thank god I did not go through with it...eventually you will wake up..and you will not want to be used like that anymore..when the love wears off you will see everything more clearly..I know that it is hard but take it from me..it is not worth it..but its something that you will have to come to terms with..\n\nI wish you the best of luck..because I have been there..and it is not a nice feeling..after I left that guy or after we came to the conculsion that we should just be friends without having sex..I spent a year by myself..trying to love myself and start feeling good about myself again/..so in time you too will realize it...
98987
Hmmmmmmm, In your story it did sound as if he was still intrested. well being that you haven't heard from him he is either not intrested or something has happened to him.\nI really wish guys could be honest it would make life much easier, but if it'll make you feel better just keep in mind what goes around comes around.
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Yes it can work. A relationship is so much more than sex. It's companionship, understanding, communications and much much more. However those three are areas you might work on.\n\nFirst companionship. You need to find activities outside the bedroom to enjoy. They might help you realize what you have in him and what you don't you really aren't missing.\n\nUnderstanding. Well you need to understand it's going to be work and you won't always get what you want. This means you have to compromise a bit. If you love him and he loves you. Then you both need to try and be the bottom for each other, be satisfied with what you have or open up the relationship (which I really think is a big mistake).\n\nLast communications. It is fine to ask others for help and advice. It may help you see and decide what your situation is, what it means to you, what he means to you. However in the end you need to talk to him about your feelings and need as does he.\n\nThe fact you are out here asking for help means to me you care a great deal about him and this relationship. My personal thought and advice, get a lot of lube and try the other side. Let him know you're willing to try this if he is and stay together. It's worth it.