My new boss talks to me in a condescending way and she is a control freak what do I do?
444008
I think I have run into that personality and I personally can not stand them...can't strangle 'em, can't live with 'em.  So if you are like me, you might want to consider other employment opportunities before something unfortunate happens and you find yourself without.\n\nTo get along with this person requires that you play up to them.  You need to ask lots of questions and praise them.  Good luck.
443286
Yes, Go back to work. Be tough, tell her you didnt appreciate what she did and how unprofessional it is to act like that. It seems like they still want you to work there and everything, you arent the first person to ever get mad and walk off the job, but if the abuse continues or gets worse then you will have to consider something else.
782539
She could of said...pls dont yell at me and can we please go talk privately in your office.....NOBODY deserves to be yelled at . Stupid boss...she is on a ego trip!!
739833
Say something to who?  Her boss?  Better to let it slide I think.\n\nIn the end, nobody can hurt us without our permission.  If her comment hurt you it is because you let it.  If someone said that to me, I'd laugh.  It is only rude if you decide to take it that way.  How she behaves has nothing to do with you.  It is purely a reflection of her.\n\nBest of luck!
898985
Are you hotter than them? Maybe it's jealousy. Do you actually do a better job than them other than the few mistakes you made? Maybe they are intimidated. Its sounds like they are immature. I'm not sure why this job is so valuable to both of you but maybe you could consider transferring to another department? Maybe contact your human resources or equal opportunity section, if you have one, to see if they have any advice. If not then maybe mediation is the only option. Tell your boss and the other two that its not a healthy work environment and you think production in the office would improve drastically if something were to change...maybe more solo projects or moving cubicles to allow a little more privacy. It can be hard confronting superiors but what it sounds like is they are threatened that you might outshine them, my best advice is to keep doing your best, eventually you will get recognized and hopefully their bad attitudes will get recognized too (in a not so good sort of way)... GOOD LUCK!!
859976
Type up all the dirt you have on her and leave it on her desk... don't put a name on it .... just a little add on note at the bottom saying if she doesn't stop spreading rumors this will be sent to management .... \nMay just make her stop all her "tattling" everyone will be better off\nGood Luck :)\nPersonally I'd confront her asking what the problem is ... then if needs be go to management with the same questions .\nThen theres always "Dial-a-Goon" to take care of those pesky office co-workers ...lol
484309
Ive had the same problem. The way I would handle it would be to tell her as it is. Just say "listen, im not tryin to be mean just please let me have my space, stop copiing my style and get your own please" And walk away.
786078
I'm truly sorry this has happened to you.  So, was your boss nice about it, or was she kind of be-little-ing?  You say she made you feel like a small child.  You know, we all have our bad days.  Guess what else?  We ALL make mistakes!  I bet SHE has even made a few mistakes herself.  Try not to feel stupid.  Did you apologize for the mistakes?  If not, do so if you feel you can.  Try so hard to concentrate totally on your job and I think you will be fine.  IF, though, she is not nice about the "writing you up thing" then I'd look for other employment.  Not as a cop out, but sometimes women bosses can be a little...ya know!  what's up with the internet priv. being taken away.  Sounds like a little bit of a power trip to me. Just go in there tomorrow with a smile on your face and confidence about you and have a wonderfully beautiful day!
100753
I wouldnt have hired her to begin with.  You are obligated to take the responisbility now to discipline her in whatever ways are necessary.  I woud start with a written warning and hopefully she'll understand you're not playng around.
774294
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
836283
Remind her who you report to...follow the chain of command. Is she your immediate supervisor? If so, then you have to comply with her requests, if she isn't, then you are within your rights to turn her down. Have your co-workers handle her the same way. She will soon get the message and back down. Try to keep one step ahead of her always.
303234
Check your job description - if the task is supposed to be undertaken by you, then approach the person she reports to and informally tell them of the situation. If she is spending time doing parts of your job, she may not be doing her new job sufficiently well. \n\nThink about why she is still doing her old tasks - is she insecure in her new role and want a feeling of familiarity?
1171617
It sounds like it's always one person on a job that does that. I bet she been on that job a long time? She wants you to know she rules the breakroom. She is showing off. I wouldn't even go in there. I would stay at my desk or go to my car for break. I would reverse it, you said she ignores you, I would ignore her. She is doing this act on purpose, she sounds a little intimidating too. Ignore her, speak and that's it, if she speaks back fine if not fine. But IGNORE HER. Beat her at her own game, she will be wondering then what she did wrong?
787386
Nobody likes it and you can put a stop to it. Here is the deal, people will treat you exactly how you allow them to treat you. That is the top and bottom of it. Let these managers know what you will and Will not tolerate. If something bothers you that they have said or done, let them know in a calm as possible manner exactly how they have made you feel, right at the moment they do it. And, make sure you are looking them directly in the eye. Do not let anyone let you feel belittled. If you can take charge of what you will and will not tolerate, you will earn some well deserved respect. Also remember, everybody has a boss..let your hiring managers know that you know that.
949333
I try to let them boss know I appreciate the guidance. If you're training, take notes and let her know you understand her point of veiw. Also, try not to take things personally if you're new. No one likes to be told they're doing something wrong, but try to be objective and not feel demoralized. You're not in grade school and you aren't going to get a sticker by your name if you do something right. You're expected to get things right and you have to motivate yourself.\n\nIf your job really sucks, look for another one. Just remember, there are none out there that don't come with problems. Also, get yourself in school if you aren't already, so you can do more than just scrape by in the future. The stress isn't half as bad if you know you'll be moving on to bigger and better things eventully.
338220
What she is saying is a mirror of her own behaviour projected onto you without any thought about the damage she is doing.  \n\nThis person needs to be treated with the same disregard that she shows you, if she does it again just remind your self that you do not have to defend or justify who you are to this girl.  This is typically girl bullying behaviour and as such you need to tackle it as you would with any other bully.  \nShe is defiantly jealous and scared that you might be better than her, so in a way its a compliment that she takes the time to nit pick your personality, almost bordering on an obsession perhaps that needs pointing out to her.  \nDon't let her take away your confidence you are the nicest person you know and you should not take her opinion on board after all she just passed judgement on a wonderful person who might one day be her boss....
897769
No one likes to be shouted at in a working environment.  It says a lot about your boss.  She needs to take some classes on how to deal with employees, and shouting at them is not one of them.  When she acts this way again, nicely tell her you are trying your best and ask her why she is shouting at you.  If she gives you some demeaning answer, find another job.  You don't have to put up with that.