i lost my husband some time ago and have since met i new man who iam starting to have feelings for please help
436093
its really ok if u feel that kinda stuff coz now u r not being unfaithful and even ur dear husband wud ve wanted the same thing that is........ that u stay happy
256381
I say that you for sure know that there are things about him that you dont like cause you have not him for so long. But you know what them things must not be too bad cause you still have strong feelings for HIM!!! So i say take that chance and see what happens. You never know he might be your soul mate!! But if you dont take that chance you will never know. Also dont do it cause someone else wants you to and dont do not do it cause someone dont wont you to...You know your feelings and your heart and i say follow them because its obvious of what you want to do so do it go for him sweetie!! You dont wont some other female to snatch up your man who may have turned out to be your prince. I feel like the two of you need to have a serious talk and see what each of you want. The relationship can start slow but just dont overlook the chance for it to start!! GO FOR YOUR PRINCE!!!
358439
the new guy is a dead beat and you will soon tire of him, love is not lust and you will not always feel euphoric. get therapy and save your marraige
543570
You say you have a new man, if you have you owe it to him to pull yourself together. You needed time to grieve and it doesn't happen over night or from a bottle. Loosing someone from your life is painful, in my experience the most painful thing I have ever had to endure, reminders don't help but they don't go away and you need to look and then dismiss. It will get easier, that's what I keep telling myself and in my position I work with my lover of three years so I get a daily reminder that I wasn't good enough. You need to refocus your energy only concentrate on the good things, accept that from time to time he will pop up accept the thought then find something else to think about....like your new man if you don't make an effort this relationship is also doomed.
743815
It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
46228
Listen if u really like this new guy u should'nt let the past get in the way of the furture. Move on and try something new u might like it.
851117
These types of feelings need to go both ways if anything is supposed to happen between the two of you.  If he doesn't like you, then don't waste your time hoping that he would.  You have to respect his feelings and just remember that "it's his loss"
244946
Part of life and dating is finding out exactly what you are looking for in a man.  All of us get hurt at one time or another, some of us more often than others.  The heartache comes from having a strong connection with the individual, and then one day everything is gone, and IF we are lucky we may maintain a friendship with that individual (but how often does that happen?).  I know, I'm dealing with this now.  Yes it hurts.  Those men that have greatly impacted my life and are no longer in it....I never really forget them, they are just not always in the forefront of my mind, but I still think of them, some more than others.  It's ok to never completely let go of them in your mind.  I have had to write in a notebook to him, at least I don't feel so overwhelmed with my thoughts this way.  Be strong, it's hard, but we all go through this.\n\nLike they say:  It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved before.....\n\nand: Things come and go from our lives, it's how we loved them and how much we loved them the time they were here that counts.\n\nIf you care for this person and have showed it to him....he won't forget you, he will use you as a comparison for his next relationships, and that can be a good thing.
506546
I say just tell them what you have been feeling. I hope every thing goes the way you want it to. If it doesn't there is always some one out ther who loves and respect you for who you are good luck :)
663813
time...you can honor him always but you will need to move on in life... but take time to greeve for him. THere is no one to replace him as he was unique but you will find someone else who is different and you will like them for different reasons... but first you need to take time for yourself and get over his loss... it won't happen fast but it will happen eventually...don't worry about when... just take the time you need...
799159
I know how it feels, I am in a relationship now with the best guy i could ever be with we have been together almost 5 years, and I still find myself wondering about my first love. Me and my first love were together for only 2 and 1/2 years and he was my first everything. I know deep down i still have feelings for him and i always wonder about him. I know i shouldnt be doing that, but i cant help it, i guess he still has some place deep in my heart. As for you i think that you still have a special place in your heart for this guy. Dont let it bother you i think its all part of how special this guy was for you, just be thankful and happy that he is having a great life, and that he is married be happy for him. I am sure that he probably still thinks about you as much as you do him. Maybe you never know what holds in the future. SO dont lose hopes of this guy and dont lose hopes on finding another guy. god only knows whom your soulmate is. I wish the best for you. god bless you
434928
How long have you been talking to him??\n\nI think you need to meet before you can truely know what you feel.
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
533807
I was in a similar situation one day and let me assure you... It will end in a heartbreak, and the broken heart will probably be yours, and you will only blame yourself because you were the one who decided to get in between a married couple. So get out of it while you can.
1152660
Dear Confused,\n\nFirst love is so powerful and it's one you will never forget, but as they say time makes the pain easier to handle. It would not be fair to the new boy if you decide to jump into a romantic relationship with him. Take it slow and just enjoy his friendship for now.
221280
well, old feelings, however bruised, can still be revived. most of the time, some people can accept the fact that they have moved on and found another lover, but not until the love replaced was greater than the previous one. if you want to try reconsidering old feelings, then make sure your promises this time are real.\n\noh, and by the way... HI MISS TRINA!!! ~^_^~
1038905
It takes time to get over someone that you have loved and trusted so deeply. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it is true. The last thing that you need to do right now is to jump into another relationship. Take your time and let love happen to you again in its own time. In the mean time try to occupy your time with other things and don't dwell on missing him so much. I know its easier said than done but trust me in time it will get better.