Why do we hate mothers in law?
445194
No one should hate it is corrosive to your own health. Mothers in law tend to respond to their children as though they never grew up. This feeds over into the spouse and creates resentment. If you can find a way to see past this it will eventually get better for you.
682221
She insults you and her son (your husband)... tell me WHY you cannot seriously reduce the time you all spend with her?  I'd tolerate this heifer only on the holidays!
877543
Relationships with in-laws can be so difficult.  I know it is none of my business, but why in the world are you living with them?!!!  It would be really nice if you and your husband could have a place of your own to live.  It would not fix all the problems, but it would certainly help out a lot.  You and your husband need to stand together whenever you confront your in-laws.  Maybe your husband needs to do the talking for both of you so they will know that you both agree with what you are confronting them about.  It will be difficult for your in-laws to accept that you and your husband are one now and that they should not interfere in your marriage.  And what is the deal with them not letting you two open your own bank account?  Aren't you adults?  Don't you have your own money?  Why is it any of their business?  Why is your husband letting them control the 2 of you?  Is he having issues "letting go of mommy's apron strings" or something?  \n\nI would suggest that you both see a family/marriage counselor and ask him to help you find a way to deal with your in-laws.  I have a similar problem with my in-laws which almost broke up our marriage, and our couselor suggested that my husband and I confront them together in a loving manner.  He said that if they still refuse to respect me and refuse to change the way they treat us, we need to stop being around them.  In my opinion, you and your husband need to make a decision to put your marriage first if you want it to survive, and do not let anything or anyone come between you.  Find a way to move out.  I'm assuming it is their house since your mother-in-law has removed your belongings from the rest of the house.  You and your husband need to put some distance between yourselves and his parents.  He needs to let them know that he has a family and responsibility of his own now that they cannot interfere with.\n\nAs for how to deal...  That is so difficult.  Continually forgive them for the things they do.  Don't hold on to grudges.  Don't let anger eat away at you or turn into hatred.  It will ruin your health, your marriage, and your whole life.  Continue to stand up for yourself and for your marriage.  And also remember that when you have a child, things are most likely going to get worse with your in-laws, so be prepared.  I wish you the best and hope that you can find your own place to live and maybe a family counselor as well.
574495
Hate is such a strong word to use. I dislike the fact that they are getting pregnant at a much earlier age but that is strongly due to the way their parents raise them. They run free, show little respect, are unmannerly, and they are making bad choices. Now you see a lot of grandparents raising their grandchildren. I believe the drug meth has a lot to do with it also. My daughter got pregnant when she was 14 because I was never there. Now she's 19 and has 3 girls but she is a good mother. I'm very proud of her. She held down a job and continued with her education and graduated. From my past experiences with that drug I knew the pregnancy rate would skyrocket since it is a stimulant. You see, I was the one with the drug problem and always gone and I wasn't a very good mother at all. She was free to run and do whatever she wanted. Luckily, I have many years to live a clean life in case I should be the one raising one of my grandchildren. So please do not lay all the blame on young women.
867808
Sounds like you're suffering from EMILS (evil mother-in-law syndrome). I'm sure she was hoping that you'd leave her son at some point, but now that you've got a bun in the oven, her hopes are dashed.
33408
holy crap they do. I will think twice about mother in laws now.
1076001
Your mother-in-law is as good as your own mother.  She is a religious mother after you married her daughter.  If you can understand the bond between you wife and your mother-in-law, you need not be explained anything further.  It is always rewarding to help a sick person irrespective of your own relative or somebody else.  A sick person always needs help.  You must support your mother-in-law during her sickness considering she is your own mother.  You will be rewarded by the God for this act of kindness.
131010
girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
682371
Yes, because if you'd like to Fu*k your mother, that's wrong.  You could call her a MYLTF...Mother You'd Like To Fu*K, and that's still a little weird.  But, whatever.
706968
I know one on Yahoo who IS this mean to happily married moms.  hichefheidi or Republican Dive - She seems to change her name every time the wind blows.\n\nShe does not like the fact that I put my family first and stayed home with my kids.  I still have one at home but she fails to mention this.  I also told her I have worked enough in my life to collect social security.  She just LOVES to bash me and motherhood.  I am lucky to be able to stay home with the kids and I give back to my community be volunteering because I KNOW I am blessed.  The crazy woman knows this and continues to trash me for no reason I know of!
248916
When you marry someone, you marry their family, like it or not.  Have you tried talking to your mother in law directly about the intrusiveness of her visits?  Perhaps explaining to her that you need some family time with just your wife (and kids?) will help her to understand and minimize her visits.  Do you ever visit her house?  Perhaps that's why she's always over at yours.\n\nInitiate a visit or dinner with your MIL - that will show your wife that you aren't rejecting her mother (btw - "getting rid of her" is the exact kind of wording that will get you into more hot water), but simply trying to maintain some family boundaries as well.\n\nGive a little and get a little.
961205
well my ex inlaws were EVIL! (my 1st marriage)  they told my best friends sister we were getting married cause I was pregnant.. I wasnt.  They were suppose to bring food for the reception.. we counted on them.. they didnt, they walked out of our reception WITH thier gifts.. and gave them to my brother in-law (thier other son) and his girlfriend.  When our baby was born, 22 months later.. they flew to Ca to visit other family and go ski-ing in tahoe.. but wouldnt come to our house..... so we packed up everything and our 2week old baby and drove 2+ hours to see them.  They never gave a gift w/o leaving the tag still on it.  They dont talk to thier grandaughter but maybe once a year, but thats my fault (!?!?)  most recently, they sent her a birthday card and didnt even sign it.  do I detest them.... thats putting it mildly!\n\nI dont know my husbands parents as they were both deceased before I met him.
911060
{sigh} probably just as well...the in-laws would never get along and that's not to mention the children and the terrible harassment they would get once they were old enough to go to the office organizer up in the drawer....mixed relationships are just so hard!
88168
My mother in law was the same way.  My husband didn't want to get involved because he said it was like a soap opera.  But then he did get involved and we no longer talk to his side of the family.\n\nYour husband needs to get involved for the sake of your marriage. She needs to tell you why she acts like that.  Most likely it's the same old thing of she feels like she is loosing a son.  Hopefully she would be willing to talk about it.  I started with a very polite letter but face to face would be better.  Work out a way that she can continue to be part of his life if that is what the problem is.  But your husband needs to support you!\n\nWe would e-mail and I showed my husband everything.  She would also yell at me on the phone and then tell him I was yelling at her.  He figured it out.  We went through counseling and she couldn't even be honest there.  So that is when we both said enough and don't have any communication with them anymore. You have to do what is best for your family.\n\nProof is always the best but your husband should trust you there and be willing to work out a solution.  But if your mother in law won't talk about it there isn't much you can do but avoid her.  But don't let it affect you. I ended up having major heath problems because of the stress.  It's her problem not yours!
877569
Unfortunately, I do think that's a very poisonous relationship to hold onto.  Can you imagine being married to her and having to deal with the in-laws and her brainwashing?  She's 38!  She should be able to stand up for herself.  \n \nJust my opinion.
432372
Patience is a virtue, I always say. If you live with them I feel for you. Just a few things to remember, 1)if you love him then you will learn to appreciate and deal with the family that you married into. 2)Although, everyone disagrees sometimes try to bond with your inlaws and things will go better than being upset. 3)Get to know your mother-in-law as mother than just a mom but a friend or gal-pal. 4)Do something as a family together. Go out and do something that you all will enjoy.
298277
Sounds like to me you need to tell that busy body mother in law to unleash your husband from her apron strings,she sounds like she is your problem,of course your husband cant see this its his mom.Some men are always momas boy ,until they see it for them selves that dear old mom is breaking his home up .don't let her insult you ,let him get mad he has a life time to get glad.you are his wife and the mother of his children I'm sure you cook for clean house and wash his clothes so where is the respect you so much deserve.if mom is all that and then some maybe she should do all this for him.she sounds like a mean 2 face devious spiteful woman who is out to ruin your marriage.stand up to her don't let her ignorance ruin your home put her in her place and tell her to stay there.if your husband doesn't have the guts to tell her then its up to you.....