I sware, my older brother is the golden child! help!?
441504
do what's right and don't seek praise for it.
780033
Being that I have a sister that does the EXACT same thing I can honestly answer "yes" you/me have been used.  All the things you've explained are very familiar sounding.  The problem lies in them being spoiled rotten and getting everything given and done for them.  Do what I did and put your foot down, enough is enough eventually he'll realize what is going on and the shoe will be on the other foot.  It got to the point where my sister was monopolizing all of my time and resources that my own family was going without, and that wasn't happening anymore.  It's called tough love and unfortunately it has to be done.  Good luck and I'll be thinking of you because I know how painful it's going to be.  But to answer your question...yes of course your brother loves you.
947406
There's really not much you can do to get your mom's attention back . She has decided not to care about you, and will probably stick to it throughout her life. You say that you have a 13 year old son, so your mother should be quite old . Usually, the aspect of having grandchilren will make elderly people forget troubles they had with their own children and accept them. But you say that your mom hardly knows him. That would mean that she just doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore. Maybe it's some kind of trauma she experienced when she had you and your brother? Mother's never ignore their children for no reason. You should really try to ask her..\n\nYou just have to learn accept what you are going through, and try not to act the same with your child. Give him the best attention and love that a mother can give, so that he doesn't have to live the life that you had..\n\nHope the advice was helpful to you.
988271
I think you should be honest with your brother first, out of respect for him. If he doesn't give you his blessing, you will be disrespecting him to continue. Whether or not you care about disrespecting him affects whether or not you should continue.
1096832
Yeh, run an ad in the  newspapers announcing you are severing ties with your siblings .......place in their names and social security numbers. Send a notification card to all relatives and friends about it. See lawyer for better clarification.
969759
Teach by example...the very things you do that make you a good person are the simple things he too should do...work hard, save money, educate himself where appropriate...\n\nThe important thing for your brother to do is set goals for himself...what does he want out of life?  both long-term and short-term...then figure out what he needs to do to obtain those goals and break it down into tasks...\n\nMake sure each task has some sort of short term goal that will act as a reward...\n\nAnd just love the heck out of him too...be patient and never, ever, ever give up on him...even if he gives up on himself...your brother might just be that cross you're expected to bear...\n\nBest wishes,\nBilly!
74774
Amen! to what ab72756 said.\n\nIf you care, put God aside for a moment, and talk to your brother. See what is in his mind. Support him. Be by his side.
759520
Being the oldest sister with only brothers, I can tell you what worked for me. Bros have given me things like DVDs of cartoons or a TV show we watched together as kids. One time they bought a Wonder Woman cake pan on Ebay and made the cake for me. They transferred my wedding video tape to DVD and made fun captions. They have given me cooking utensils and cook books specific to things we like to get together and cook (for instance, an ice cream maker and recipes). Anything that makes the sisters remember times they shared together, be they sentimental or silly, is a good gift. Otherwise, if he wants strictly serious and heartfelt, one brother wrote a short story for his college newspaper, then printed it and framed it, about how something he had for breakfast at the dining hall reminded him of me and all I'd taught him. I think if you go for specific to his relationship with them, rather than a general brother-sister relationship, they'll get more out of it. Once you have an idea, you can look up those topics online and find a lot of great things. Good luck!
681168
I feel for you.  I have 7 sisters and 1 brother.  I don't know how old you are, but when we were teenagers, I just kind of went along my own merry way.  Being considerate is a big thing, I was, they weren't, so I had to work around things sometimes.  I woke up earlier so I could hit the shower before they woke up.  I played sports and did other things I enjoyed, without any of them.  If they wanted to participate, they were welcome to, but I didn't *try* to get them involved in my life.  Now that we're older, we all have different things we enjoy, but also can get together and enjoy each other's company in a way that a lot of siblings can't.  Hope this helps, and good luck.
798572
keep ur money for retirment cause he makes enough.if he for some reason cant make it thru later on in life than shure help him out youve got nothing to lose remeber he is ur brother and money is just a material object. brotherhood is a very strong bond and money is even stronger when its in between so dont let it get to you.
697052
what is done is done but u can make ammends now !\nyou had become verry gud frnds with teh younger one soo it was rong to rat about your frnd to his brother !\nwould you hav stopped liking the elder if all those things the younger one told u abt him were true?? if yes then you wanted him to b the way u wanted him to b and not what he really was !\naccept tat everyoen is not picture perfect !! and they can make mistakes in life !\napologise to the younger and to the elder one !\ntell the younger tat you like the elder and accept him inspite of all his flaws (tat is if u do like him)\ntalk to the elder one too !! and if he likes u then you both shud sit the younger one down and talk to him about it !\nask him y he is not ok with it and all !!\ntc \nall the best
1017434
It sounds like your daughter is letting her man's dominance and insecurities come between her and her brother. They are blood and nobody should interfere in that bond nor should she let them. That is extremely childish of them both. They are obviously in a different state with a new life and baby, so what threat does your sons friendship with her ex possibly hold. It's not as though he was going with him. Your son must have been so disappointed and hurt. The day will come when she needs her brother and if he chooses not to be there that will be her own responsibility. Your son has the right to maintain his friendships, especially those that have lasted 10 yrs as this one has. He has shown far more maturity in leaving the problems between his friend and sister to them and not taking sides than she is currently showing. You are not wrong at all. If I were you, I would be very disappointed in her and the decision she made.
511410
Bill, I feel for u, I really do. I come from a family of 6 kids. I have two brothers who are only 10 months apart and all my life, I've seen the jealousy from the younger one towards our older brother.\nI think it's sad, cuz both of them are decent, wonderful guys, but they are so different.\nI would just go to him and talk to him. Let him know that you love him. How special you think he is. Make a big deal about something he has done in his life and let him know you admire him.\nMy dad had 6 brothers and there is only him and 1 brother left. He says everyday that he would give anything to have all of his brothers with him.\nI think brothers have a special bond and that sometimes it takes a bigger person to come forth.\nIf he doesn't respond, just send him a card once in awhile and let him know that you think of him and that you love him, he'll come around I'm sure.\nGoodluck to you Bill
15149
A job and a boyfriend?  Seriously, you sound like her little brother, and none too pleased about it.  Unless you can convince the parental units that having Sis remain there is a danger to your development, you may be stuck.  You could try talking to her to see why she's there.  Maybe she wants to leave but can't figure out how.  The worst she can do is blow you off.  There's always a chance she may ask for help or advice.  Stranger things have happened.
774539
It's okay to be disappointed in him but investing your time and emotions in anger is a waste for you. You, your brother and your mother can just resign yourselves to taking care of each other. Things get better as time progresses. The best revenge is success. Remember that there is karma. Whatever he sows, he'll reap. He'll get his. See a lawyer and check with the state for any assistance that you give you. You and your brother might still be able to go to school. You can alternate: one goes in the morning, one at night. No situation is too big especially when you are willing to try the options available. So don't hate him, just leave him to his own fate because people will pay for the evil they do. Just do the best you can for the family you have left.
57082
Wait a while.  When he's gone (out of the house)you'll end up with a lot more freedom as your parents relax.  Plus there'll be more allowance money for you!\nDon't hate on your older brother.  Be responsible and always come home on time.  Have responsible friends, then your parents will feel more comfortable and maybe extend your curfew.  Remeber, you won't be a kid forever, don't screw up your relationship with your parents by trying to act older than you are.
332799
That's like the same with me and my brother, my brother is also 22 and he has always done a lot of nice things for me, because well, he's older and he's more able to do the things for me that I like, like bringing me to concerts or anything. But if you know what he likes then maybe try and do something for him from that, Like if he's into sports...surprise him with a random gift for that, offer to make him a meal or get him something he likes...even if it's small...or tell him you're bringing him out somewhere cool one night and you're paying and if you can't then just spend time with him when he's around, and tell him that you think he's a great brother. That always gets them too. But only you know what he likes, so you can decide the best thing to do. Good Luck.