I found my avatar in bed with my wife. She was yahooing. Is this grounds for divorce?
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Yes, I feel for you.  Those avatars are sneaky and will do anything to break up a happy home.  Get a lawyer that specializes in adultery with avatars and take both of them to court.  You have rights.  I will pray to the Yahoo gods for your happiness.
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How about for guys?  Would you rather just get rid of it, or give it to one you love and will be with (assuming you're marrying for love)?  \n\nIt's up to her beliefs. As long as you can look back at the first and say "It was right." it's good.
951514
After 14 years of marrage I would hope you would know your wife better than some guy on Yahoo! \nbut, with all the chatting on line that may no longer be the case.
410588
If it's one thing we own by birthright, it's ourselves. I believe a relationship is two wholes, not two halves. And so when we get married a spouse does not have ownership. I should not have to change my way of being to accomodate someone else's expectancy of who I should be or how I should act. After all, I was the way I am when we met right? Usually a spouse wants you to change or downplay the things they initially found attractive in you so no one else will notice those attractive qualities too. \n        I was with a man for 11 years, married for 7 of those years. He used to tell me I was disrespecting him because he had set these imaginary guidelines in his mind for how I should behave in certain instances. I had no idea what he was talking about and had not set out to be "disrespectful". So it was never blatant, but alleged covert, subtle forms of feigned disrespect. I told him I was not going to try to figure out what he was thinking because whatever it was it was his problem not mine. \n         We are not yet divorced, but separated for the second time and I assure you it will not be a third round. I need to be free to live my life and be all of who I am without feeling like walking on eggshells to protect some "imaginary guidelines" set for me without my approval or permission.\n         The part of the question that asks about fidelity; my viewpoint is thus: Some people cannot handle multiple sex partners because they are irresponsible and will not use protection. Marraige is supposed to be a plateau of safest sex. \n         BUT....if like my case, where the man cannot satisfy for whatever reason, I think within respectful boundaries (meaning I come home at night) and (don't flaunt it)...I need someone who can fulfill my sexual urges. I'm not looking, but if I happen to meet someone..... \n        Fidelity is a notion. An ideal state. But it's not altogether realistic. Who can stop two consenting adults, especially if one is unfulfilled with his or her partner at home? Even if it starts out fulfilling, it will taper in time by virtue of law of physics. What goes up must come down. Including levels of sexual fulfillment and excitement because sexual excitement is emotion and emotion is not static. It moves, flows, changes, halts etc. Even some 40 year marraiges have survived all odds, no doubt infidelity, but not because they were perfect, but because the parties involved made a DECISION to maintain a life and relationship they have built over time. Most people don't want to walk away from their investment in those years whether they were happy or not. Change is after all not easy. Life is composed of a series of changes and we must constantly readapt to our lives. Some people have relationships for years without infidelity. Hey, it happens!! But its exceptional because most people NEED change.\n         I'm getting out and don't know if I'll ever walk down that road again, although I do not discourage marraige. It's a nice notion if it works. If it doesn't, hey....there is always...............change.\n\n\nOne Life\nBe Happy\nCami
940523
Don't ever admit to anything. The best thing that you can do is accuse her of giving it to you,and then file for divorce on grounds of adultery.
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a relationship based on the smallest of lies doesnt hold much. theres no two ways about this, porn? you seem to not favor it esp by someone you are getting married too. and a contract is binding. you need to think of the fact that so many will buy the video and watch it. ask yourself how you feel about it. If you get negatives please dont think twice, end the relationship, rather regret now than later when you cant undo things. \nIf i were in your place I would be furious with her and would end it for the sake of keeping sane. We all have certain values in life, honor them and life will surely get better. If she valued yoru relationship much more than what she did then she wouldnt have lied in the first place,. Remember any relationship needs love, trust, communication.
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If you take an internet game that seriously, you may want to consider edging yourself off the game.\n\nIf she broke your trust, its more of ethics thing.
26696
You and your wife should see a counsler because something is not right in the marriage.For Real!!!!!
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Your wife,I see that you are married in your profile.
767131
Bend over and take it up the A$$ just like you made her. After your butt has been split wide open like hers was, go to a marriage counselor and see if there's any thing left in your marriage.
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Personally, I wouldn't want my hubby to do that. \nHowever, talk to your wife about it first to see if she's okay with it. Even if you disguise her face people will still link it back to being her. So, if your wife is okay with it, then I don't see any harm to it.
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Listen up buddy!  It is the right thing to do.  I know it comes off insensitive.  I know it sounds harsh, but you are not dooming your relationship.  You are not saying that you think your wife is gonna leave you.  \n\nUnfortunately, family court is so unfair and slanted towards the female that us men are backed in to this position now.  If you marry her and she decideds to get with your buddy, she still gets half of everything you worked for before you met her.  Is that fair?  NO!  I know your to be wife isn't gonna do that.  The fact is that if you guys are married till death do you part, she is going to obtain the benefits of whatever you are protecting anyway so why should it even matter?\n\nIf she isn't willing to accept it, I would question her motives!
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Its probably a temporary move foe modelling, right?  I would take it.  You will always wonder what if, if you don't.  Also it will be a true test of your relationship if you can survive being apart.
52168
I'd have to first question the motives of my wife.  Why exactly does she want me to sleep with another person?  If it's for some sort of sexual gratification on her part, then I would perhaps consider it.  I seriously doubt that I would actually proceed with it though.
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I like it....don't change it.    To what were you thinking of changing it to? \n\nJust being a "curious_munkee"  :-p\n\nEDIT:  awwww to your lil' girl.  :-)  If you are comfty with showing everyone and entire world your daughter's pic as your avatar, I would love to see her.  :-)
941274
This is a very unique question.  it sounds like your wife is a BIG GAME PLAYER!  But at the same time you don't want her little game to ruin your life.  Who knows what she'll do.  I'd tell her to go find another round of friends, and you're going to live your life.  She will keep you going through this bull crap for life if you let her.\nSounds to me like she's wore her welcome out where she just came from, and is running back to her rock that's you.  Well sometimes rocks crumble.  I would let her go, you're not responsible for her irrational behavior.  And in no way are you to blame for her actions.
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There is no gentle way of dealing with this.  After 15 years of marriage to find out that you don't really know who your partner is is quite a shock.  Why get mattied in the first  place if you were not going to be honest with her.  15 years of her life for nothing.