don't get offended anyone because i'm really not trying to be....?
453836
Jews and Catholics do not favor this because they know the other party may influence the one they care about. No one who believes their religion is correct wants to lose someone they care about. Also many find out as I did that this can lead to much hardship later in the relationship. Think about your future -church?, kids? family get together, or you may fall deeply in love only to lose out to these differences.
961629
My family does that all of the time! It's so annoying, it's just a way of saying what they want without getting in trouble for it. I can't really tell you when to consider it the truth disguised b/c you really just have to know the person. Sometimes it can really be a joke, but if you feel that it's just a snide remark then it doesn't really matter whether they meant it that way or not. If what they said hurts, or affends you I would say something. Like please don't joke like that, or something else. It may not always turn out the best, especially if you really did catch them, but if you don't say anything it won't stop. Good luck!
484799
The last thing, i think you should do is do the same thing. They are going to think they can keep doing it. When someone tries to pass it off as a joke, you calmly and directly say, Why are you insulting me? They will say "I am only kidding." That is when you say and not in a sarcastic tone, or pissed tone, in a calm and direct way, look them in the eyes and say,\nI find that insulting and not funny. In the future i would appreciate you not speaking to me that way." and smile. \nWhen you approach people in this way you are setting the tone on how you want to be treated. If you respond to them in the same way they spoke to you you will never really solve anything because they will know they can do it again.  When you respond in a direct, assertive way there is no grey area, they will know they shouldn't talk to you that way. If they do it again, resume the same non aggressive, direct approach, calmly and politely say, Did you forget what I told you earlier? Please don't speak to me that way. Don't worry about what they will think about what you have said to them if they were kinder people they wouldn't treat you like this in the first place. You are doing this for yourself so you don't have to think over and over afterward what should i have said that would have been better.  I use this approach and it works for me.
742800
He may have some feelings of insecurity going with a younger person, so that comment would have bummed him out big time. I don't think you were being insensitive or him being up tight, it sounded like it was said without any thought, but wrapped in the moment of chatting and laughing. Do you know what I mean? I sometimes say some dumb as stuff and then realise I said something that was offensive, but had no intention to.
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It doesn't sound as if you are compromising, you're just doing what you feel is expected of you. You're going to lose who you are if you try to please everyone around you. It is time for you to decide if you want to take a risk and stand up and make your voice and opinion be heard.
728321
I would hope that I don't, but question some very rude comments to me.......
1020164
I think I'm quieter on here, there's no point in abusing people unless they are being offensive or openly criticising another participant. \n\nI also keep my humour on a lower key too because I know someone will tell me to 'stop being dumb and grow up!' (awww, but why? I have to be serious in my job, I've gotta be dumb somewhere!)\n\nHaving said that I've just posted a question asking people about their funniest school memories so do contribute if you have any yourself!
433657
Because they don't want to "offend" anyone.
351427
lol, I'm not sure what you mean. It doesn't bother me.
561066
I try to be politically correct.  I don't like to offend people and I don't want people thinking I'm rude, uneducated or unsympathetic to others.
696370
I think it's pretty normal.  You are obviously secure in yourself and don't need the judgement of others.  You are tolerant with a kind of a "let it be" attitude.  Like any of us have opinions that matter anyway.  You're fine.
1034301
Apologize the best way you can. I made a comment in an email to someone  and the comment offended them. It was unintentional so I explained and apologized.  Sincerity counts, otherwise forget it.That is the best you can do.
392261
There's no need to get in to it with others.\n\nIt's not rude or out of place to say "Sorry, but I'm not interested."\n\nThat's all there is to it.\n\nYou have made your decision - there is no need to have to explain or prove your beliefs.
815979
By not being to mean. A lot of guys are (how do I put this);I guess just insensitive
630839
I promise i not mean.*\n\nI'm honest to answer a question i'm sorry if someone hurt your feelings.
774990
Quit being a homophobe. There is nothing wrong with a harmless compliment. Alot of the times it might even make that persons day a little better.
147954
Tell him/her I have something to tell you but I don't want you to get offended.  I care about you as a friend and feel you should know.....