How do you think about arranged marriage? Does it work?
444767
Generally, arranged marriages last and are more fulfilling than the romantically-based marriages in our culture (US).   The arranged marriages that I have known weren't forced.  The childred had agreed that the chosen spouse was right for them. Parents select a spouse based on common values, goals,  religion, character and the reputation of the family.  Parents of the bride and groom make a comittment to support their childrens' marriage and encourage them to do the right for each other and for the family as-a-whole.  Americans usually choose their spouse according how "in love" they feel.  Once these feelings fade,  there's no foundation for the marriage - nothing to keep them together.  Those who have had their marriage arranged make a commitment to love each other in action,  not ALWAYS perfectly,  and feel in love with each other sometimes, sometimes not (normal).  What keeps them together, when their feelings have faded, is the family,  the commitment, their common goals and values - a strong foundation for marriage.  Divorce usually isn't an option. They have to continue to work on the marriage - with their family's help.
784143
I had a sorority sister in college who had an arranged marriage...they knew each other since they were kids and their parents planned everything from conception. She couldn't be happier and loves her husband! She was one of the lucky ones for sure!!!
947332
I'm Indian and Arab. A lot of times, culture does play a big role in marriage, and many people still have arranged marriages. The parents want to find a spouse who will be an asset to the family, and compatible with their child. \n\nCulture and religion tend to play a very large role.\nI don't have issues with marrying anyone outside of our culture, but many people would. Keep the blood, "pure."\nIt's unfortunate, but it does allow the culture to continue as it does.\n\ni was never allowed to date anyway :)
720216
See if it seems mutual and if there is chemistry. this is not an unusual circumstance. many folks link up this way and get married, who knows
602865
I'm totally against arranged marriages. How can you vow to love this person for the rest of your life when you don't really know them or love them???? Atleast if you know and love the person you are going to marry, the marriage has a chance of succeeding. When in an arranged marriage, what do you do once you find out you have "nothing" together? No love, no interest, you can't communicate with one another. You have to find out all these things BEFORE you marry. I disagree totally with arranged marriages.
1153272
All marriages need a lot of work to work. In the United States we think that arranged marriages are wrong but not in all cases. I married my husband for love after he decided twice not to marry in an arranged marriage like his parents wanted.\n\nBut his parents have been married for 28 years and it was an arranged marriage and they are happy.
392931
do you think marriage is a good thing? Is this what you want..? Ask yourself what you wants? Dont settle for what everyone else wants. Do what your heart tells you to do.
441952
Yes you will marry because your are desperate enough to ask about it to total strangers. Yes you will because getting married is the most important thought in your mind right now. If you live in a place where marriage is arranged by family, that might very well happen to you. Try to avoid it by being as atonomous as possible.\n\nInitials? well lets see. TRP. \nYou're almost 25 now. Well look at that my birthsay in July 20! Don't rush. Finding someone stable is not easy. Men are usually slower to commit.
134360
I am not an Indian.. although I have had the same experience.\n\nI appreciated my ex because he informed me about what happened and he prepared me for it. He told me everything and I respected it... \n\nIt may be hard to understand at first, but that is the way that they were brought up/raised. That is part of them that no one else can take away, not even those people that they are in love with.\n\n(May be there are some parents who are more "open" to such kind of a relationship. But a greater majority of Indians are not, especially with their caste system. Actually, it does not happen only to inter-racial relationships, but also to relationships concerning people who belong to different castes. If one comes from a lower caste, then he/she is not acceptable to the family - at least that's what I was told. Not to forget the arranged marriages that's still going on until today.)\n\nWe loved each other then, we both knew that. (we were  together for 4 years) but we both could not do anything especially with his ill father asking him to stay away from me. I understood his plight being the eldest son and let him go.\n\nNow, we're still in good terms. We still get to talk/email once in a while without mention of commitment or love - just exchange of pleasantries. \n\nWe do not know what's gonna happen in the future. But for the time being, we're OK this way.
609825
Yes, it can work, and it WILL work, if you honour the commitments you make to each other. Best wishes and congratulations !
371697
as long as you both feel as winners ,yes its good!but marriage is all built on how much you try to be a winner and also make him to feel same!for me,although it was tough as we have too many differences,specially different cultures,it was very good!we fight,get sad,love,respect,share,laugh and ... looking at same thing and seeing differences is not matter but careing about similarities is the secret of a good marriage!
381233
love is trully a strange thing....\ni'd say if its good let it be....\nAs for marriage, u'll know when the time is right.\ni m sure that they will meet face to face soon
292576
looks like you might have married the wrong woman.  maybe the sex will get better and i supppose there is a chance youll fall in love with her.  These things arent supposed to be left to chance... Was it an arranged marriage?
947177
Hi.. Josie .. how are you?\nHope you remember me.\n\nDowry marriage is still existing in many parts of India. But the percentage is really decreased. The people are not demanding nowadays. But ther are happily accepting whatever the bride's father offers.\n\nI hope this trend will go soon.\n\nHowever this is not applicable for love marriages.
191113
If you are asking about marrying for love versus an arranged marriage.....the divorce rate in the US is 50% and I think its much less in S.E. Asia (is that where you are from?)  However if you feel like you were forced into a situation that cannot be good either.  I think in India (S.E. Asia) the reason arranged marriages work so well is because the people are more willing to compromise probably because they don't really have a choice.
581713
well i know a few people whom had prearranged marriages,they didnt work out,and all were happier following what there heart told them rather than what had been arranged.\nwhat its like this way in other countries but in the us it really doesnt work,you cant rule either with the iron fist,nor remove rights,or live as muslims do in many countries,so to simply staTe the fact.\n  DONT DO IT.
615850
Very good.\n\nMost married people I encounter are neither beautiful nor attractive. \nThe really handsome and stunning people I know are all still single, and some of them find it actually quite difficult to get a partner. (This includes well-known actors and film stars.)