why when i have sex with myboyfriend i cant come easly but when i play myself it takes me just 5 minutes?what?
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welcome to the world of womanhood, darlin'...you are SO not alone...unless and until you teach him all your own little tricks and then some...and he's good and willing...it'll stay that way.  just be glad you are in tune with yourself enough to experience orgasm easily by any means...some women don't have it that good.  now just teach him to be as good at pleasuring you as you are!
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...When I was with my boyfriend I'd play with my clit while we were in action. It took me 4 years to cum with him. Get totally immersed in what your doing. Body, mind, soul, with an environment to match your deepest fantacies. Maybe do a little yoga to get your mind off of every day life. Watch a porn before you go at it. Have a little chocolate or, better yet all three! If you're having sex just to get an orgasm, it won't come. A little trick I've learned... when he's on top of you, move your hips up and in towards him so he's totally inside you. Keep moving your hips wherever feels best, play with your clit while your at it, stare at his body and into his eyes and keep telling yourself how sexy he is and how much you want him. Use a vibrator while your at it. If all else fails, get a book to better educate yourself or even call a sex therapist. Life is too short to have limited O's.
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From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
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yes, you have no problen and your not alone, masturbate and learn about your body, try different positions his ex girlfreind may have faked it love is the best suplement
395657
I think that it is up to you, if he is about finish. You will never be in more control than at this point, I say, Have a little fun!!! Don't quit altogether, that would be a little mean, but tease, flick, lick, squeeze, etc...\n\nThe longer you play, the more intense it will be for the guy, and when you do finally finish him off, he will be screaming in pleasure, and you will burn an image of yourself as a sex goddess in his mind for the rest of his life!!!!
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Listen,my man does me the same way,but I don't play with myself,I'm just a Bitch for the rest of the evening..This maybe hard for you,but it works for me..Next time he wants it turn him down a few times and show him how it feels then maybe he'll give it up to you more when you want it..Don't cheat on him,that's the worst thing you could do..Since your into playing with yourself just get your own little toy and use it..Or just quit playing with yourself and be the biggest bitch to him and let him know how you feel..Tell him hay your not giving me want I want and need so I'm about to cheat on you..Life ain't nothing without making love..Just give turning him down a try without playing with yourself and see how it will make him feel..If you do that I hope it works..
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It takes awhile for the blood to exit the penis and go soft again. Don't think you're wonderwoman it happens in every guy. Takes about 5 minutes sometimes longer if she cuddles with you and your tall tommy is rubbing her hips. I need to go jerk off
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Firstly, why do u want to ejaculate quickly? Surely, its about taking your time and enjoying yourself. But as my answer, relax.
320368
Experience and practice. Usually young men who are in their early 20's dont last long (personal experience w/ex).. therefore the only solution is to experience sex more often and learn how to not over-excite yourself. Usually by thinking of something else, not so sexual. Trying to think w/your head, and taking a break for al ittle bit when you know you're ready to come. It takes practice. Sooner or later, you will learn how to control yourself. Its normal,and usually happens to young men who are just starting to have sexual intercourse. Goodluck!
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I think you better explain that your body is a part of you... but your body master is your mind... so they need to touch that first before the body...\n\nYou might have a great sexappeal, but you need to control that also.. not let it flow all over a guy you like, because your body can make him understand other then your talking about...\n\nso try more to focus this sex-skill and explain them who's the master of you body and what this master wants before to give back...
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it ussually takes me about 20 minutes or so... and for females I call it Mystra... not masterbation.  But usually i have a whole skit in mind of a mixture of things i experianced it the past. Its more based on the details like the mans breathing or the light touches during sex. I finally cum whith one particular memory in replay with my mind. For the most part i think about the entry or the guy cuming.\n\nIts always a fantasy to cum at the same time and i think thats why, cause i mystra to it.\n\nhope that wasnt to detailed but info enough :)
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From insertion to orgasm, the average time is roughly five minutes.  That, however, should not be the period of time you should look at.\n\nIf you're trying to figure out if you're a good lover or not, examine (and learn from) the entire experience ... not just those few minutes of actual intercourse.\n\nIf the question has come up because your partner has complained, it could be because you're not spending enough time on the foreplay ... the activities that precede intercourse.\n\nTake your time!  Don't be afraid to ask your partner what she likes and how she likes it.  Let her teach you how to please her.\n\nGood sex is not measured by how long it takes the guy to get off ... it is measured by the quality of pleasure BOTH parties get from the encounter.
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try changing position or rhythm or try to stop and do something to your partner.  i tried it several times and the next problem was my partner came first so try to come at the same time.
53471
Are you beautiful? It could be very difficult if you are centerfold material. How frequently are you having relations? Could he wear a condom with a little lube. If your stuff is tight, that has a tendency to rush things along. Some women only climax through intercourse, some through oral. Which are you? Maybe he can compensate for his quickness. Try longer foreplay, changing positions, and discussing world politics during fun time. Buy a Tommy Lasorda mask and wear that.
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I am unsure why you do this. Is is not healthy for you. Maybe you are making love or doing floorplay with the wrong sex. Find yourself and see who you are. Maybe you are thinking you like men but really you don't Be honest to yourself and maybe good things will arrouse you sooner than later. You seem to have a lot of sexual problems. See a doctor or councler and they might beable to help you. For get about sex all together. Go without any for 6 months and then try again.
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im not a guy, but those answers made me sick so i can not resist to write smth. i had quite a number of men so NOONE LASTED MORE THEN 3 MIN if it was first time after a break of a week (i mean only intercourse, not counting foreplay, but foreplay wasn't too long either). those guys are lying or they have some problems with their dicks, because it is really abnormal to have 20 min intercourse when u didn't have a woman for weeks. those guys should see a doctor. and the one who can last for 1 hour. did he ever ask his woman isn't she bored to death by doing stuff for 1 hour? or is he just staying inside of her without frictions and waits when he finishes? so don't pay much attention to those guys. they re just boasting. ask women. they will tell u more truth about how long their men last.
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It takes me at least five minutes, maybe less.  My boyfriend doesn't like me to do it to him for very long--he is always asking me if I am almost there.  Sometimes it goes longer, maybe 30 minutes, but I am very lucky if he lets me do it that long.  It takes me at least five minutes though to get to the point where I have the option to go or not.\n\nDang, you made me get hot thinking about it!  And, my boyfriend lives two hours away!