As a male Manager how do I tactfully tell one of my newly hired female employees she smells and needs a shower
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Couldn't you get a trusted female employee to have a word, to save the embarressment
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Why do you feel like shes going to get in serious trouble? As in shes asking for trouble? Or her boss may find it inappropriate for her co workers to be distracted by someone who is open about what she is or isn't wearing under her clothing. Take her aside one day when she is mention the comments about her "smell" and tell her politely that they are not joking and you've noticed it but you didn't want to offend her, but now it's become a problem and a distraction for you and your co workers.
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Boy ? girl ?  Tell him (if its a guy ) that he's smelling athletic..then go from there, "Dude you smell a bit athletic ,you need a bath before the flowers fade "      a lady ? When did you start working out at the gym ? You smell like you have had a really rough workout ."    \nhope this helps ......
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I agree is sounds like she is targeting you. Speak to a supervisor or the Human resources department at your work. What applies for one employee applies to all, and if she is saying explicit things even on her break..if it is in the workplace and in earshot of someone who may not find it appropriate, it still counts, break or not. Dont necesarily file a complaint on her unless you have to, or she does or says something extremely inappropriate. you dont want to stoop to her level. But at least make it known to the person you speak to about this matter the entire situation. Iwould explain like you explained in your question on here. It was well put. Or even write it out first on the computer or a peice of paper in case you remember other thigns before you speak to someone. Good luck with you situation. You should not have to put up with that behavior. I can't stand people like that.
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Don't carry yourself like a "young pretty girl" be a young pretty self confident woman, if someone makes an inappropriate comment in front of everyone I would give him a look that would send daggers through his heart to let him know I'm not playing games with him and if he gets you alone and make a comment I would tell him I don't appreciate him treating me like anything other than a fellow employee. do your job and do it well and they cannot fire you because you don't smile and act like a hoochie.but always remember there's no amount of money to buy your dignity. tell your boss in a respectable manner that you like your job and you want to learn and grow and work for him but if he and the other men there are making you feel uncomfortable with the comments. you have to decide if you are going to ignore the comments or deal with them. i work in a hospital as a LPN and  a male RN talked down to me because he felt I was beneath him so I invited my husband who is 6 feet tall 240 pounds of muscle to have lunch with me and i never had any more trouble
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This is how you do a MEMO LOL!\n\n\nMEMO: To Staff Members\n\nSUBJECT: Discontinuation of certain Behaviors\n\n\nIt has come to my attention that too much gossip is being discussed at the water cooler. If you are thirsty, please get your water...drink it and get back to your desk. I have spies and I do not appreciate being the topic of so much gossip. My choice of underclothes is not anyone's business but my own.\n\nIt has also come to my attention that too much time is being spent in the ladies room. Please synchronize your bodily functions to do your Number 2 at home. I do not pay you to sit there and strain until your eyes are redder than a drunk on a binge.\n\nMen, it has come to my attention that some of you are hitting on some of the female employees. I do not pay you young bulls to paw the ground. Until you attain a higher status in this hierarchy --leave sexual harassment to those who are in a supervisory capacity.\n\nThe Company picnic will be Saturday 8:00 A.M. at the city park, please bring your own entertainment, food and drinks.
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Remind her who you report to...follow the chain of command. Is she your immediate supervisor? If so, then you have to comply with her requests, if she isn't, then you are within your rights to turn her down. Have your co-workers handle her the same way. She will soon get the message and back down. Try to keep one step ahead of her always.
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I was on the other side of your situation. I am allergic to certain types of perfume. A co-worker of mine came into work wearing the type I am allergic too. (It smelled really bad but that's another story). I told her I was allergic to it and she said she wouldn't wear it any more. I figured issue over. Two days later I came to work and she was spraying herself with it in her office which is next door to mine. I ended up spending about five hours in the hospital and couldn't work for three days because my reaction was so severe. She is a pretty horrible person and my employer told her that if she couldn't be sensitive to those around her she would be looking for alternate employment. She didn't do it again but for it to come to that was really sad. It really changed our relationship and her relationship with our other co-workers. She knowingly made me sick and that's really inexcusible. \n\nAs far as your situation goes, maybe it is your perfume and maybe it isn't, but why would you want to risk making someone else sick. You may be getting annoyed, but she's sick... which is worse. I would suggest you don't wear the perfume to work that way it can't be your fault and she has nothing to blame you for. Wear it in your free time when you won't be around her.\n\nAllergies are unpleasant enough as it is, you shouldn't have to argue with co-workers to do the right thing. If you were allergic to peanuts would you want her coming into your office and eating peanut butter while sitting on your desk. No. The workplace is a place filled with annoyances, what makes us good people is learning to think of others before we think of ourselves and always try to do the right thing.\n\nProbably not what you wanted to hear, but I think you're being incredibly selfish and inconsiderate.
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you can tell HR and they will know youare moaner with no proof.  you got to have real solid evidence which you dont have.  so start sticking up for yourself.  tell hi loudly in fornt of everybody " I am not your cutie pie so back off you old fart.  if he sits by you get up and move.  give him and every person in the room the clear idea that your to good to put up with his sickness.    You gotta fight your own wars nobody can do it for you.  Then when your boss ask whats going on tell her or him.  \n\nbut if you go complian about it without taking any action first they will think "oh brother her comes a new trouble maker", and think you are over reacting becasue you are.
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Just ignore her.  Try not to hurt her feelings any more than you have to, but when he comes to your work be EXTRA friendly with him.  Look very happy and pretend like you arent doing it on purpose.
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always be professional, that way they can never complain about you.\n(always be in a position in which you're covered.)\n\nSpeak to your immediate boss about it, see if she can't first talk to the co-workers about it. \n\nAlso check out a book called "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff at Work."
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best thing to do is for you not to wash, go in to work, shove your armpit in his face and scream "HOWD YOU LIKE IT!"\nAnd then spit on him
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Tell her straight, "???????, pls stop disturbing me at work"
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The stock answer is that the law in this matter should cut both ways. Rea;ity is that this is not always the case. Some will find it hard to believe that any man can be offended by the actions you describe, so be ready for some flack if you go through with filing a complaint. Realize that to make your position unassailable that you should first let your boss know that you find her actions totally inappropriate. If she persists drive on and do what you have to do.
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Just go right over the top of her. Have a group meeting with the owner and voice your concerns. Ask the owner if they will talk to the manager directly, or if you think that would run downhill to everyone else, see if the owner will 'stop in' once in a while or possibly pick up a short shift. Doing that would keep the manager in line a little better or maybe the owner would catch them in the act of whatever and you could notify the owner of repeat offenses. Also putting a customer feedback box or something would inform the owner of bad 'tude from your manager.
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Wow it's amazing that there are still people so simple. \n\nI think "leaperpup" really said it best. If she won't respond to diplomacy that's I'd embarrass the heck out of her, and spray Lysol, and other anti bacterial sprays around, and encourage others too also. \n\nGetting up and walking away is definitely an option, so is waving your hand around and turning on a fan. \n\nIn the end I think I just might ask her, "are you so annoyed about being sick that you insist on spreading your contagious germs?" \n\nAlso check on company policies, if you work for a large place she is definitely violating something. In the end your best bet will probably be to ask for another place to sit, perhaps even an "upgrade" showing her that in the end, the mature always come out ahead.\n\nI wish you the best with this!
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maybe you could turn it around and approach it as saying to her, It would be so embarrassing to smell & have nobody tell me--If I ever stink, please tell me.  also, you could try putting deoderant on yourself while being with this friend & mentioning that you hope this helps keep you smelling fresh.  Just have a heart to heart girld talk.  Tell her about your experience with personal hygiene & what you do, then ask her what works best for her.  Maybe she just isn't taught personal hygiene in her home. Good Luck!