When my mom cries, Wht do  I feel helpless and I always hold her in my arms?
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Awww thats sweet its for all the times your mom took care of you as a baby growing up your just showing you love her and care and hate to see her upset its a good thing your doing and your really helping get through being depressed and angry think of it as a good thing because from what i'm reading you would be a heavens angel for any parent that goes through the same thing and has no one to do the same for them
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You need to explain this to  your mom.  Chances are, she doesn't realize how it affects you.  Just calmly tell her how it makes you feel.  Honesty is always the best policy.  Between the two of you, you can come up with some solutions on how to handle it.  Maybe your mom can see a counselor to listen to her problems and help with her unhappiness.  Good luck!
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To be honest with you I and my sister were adopted at the ages of 1 and a half and 2 years old. I am so very sure she can read your letters, You can even talk to her in your prayers and im sure even tho you cant see her she can see and here you. Ill bet that sometimes you may feel scared and all alone but then you fell a presence like someones watching you will I bet she is know your angel. watching you. And il bet that your mommy is happy that your new mommy and daddy love you and are watching over you and protecting you. A mother is someone who loves you and protects you child its ok. Your ok and god is watching over you.
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Because your mom makes fun of you and makes you cry! She should not be doing this and it sounds like you have an unhappy family life. I don't blame you for not being so open at home!  It sounds like it is emotional abuse from her. Hope you have someone you can talk to about it regularly, someone you can trust, so that you can stand it better.
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Don't worry, tell your parents that their constant fighting is hurting you not just emotionally, but physically.  They should understand.  Get all the help you can get from anyone that cares about you.  You don't deserve to be hurt this way.  Good luck! =)
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Hey your story touched me so i thought i would take the time to answer it, at least as best as i can! x\n\nFirstly, it must be dreadful to feel empty and lonely-as in a sense, perhaps you feel like you have lost half of your identity, as obviousley your mum is half of your biological makeup-and half of you!\n\nBut on the opposide side of this, is the fact that in that sense, she will always be a part of you, as you are half of her, which should give you some comfort. You are one of the closest people to her; so when you feel lonely and down think about this!\n\nAlso Never say Never either, and keep an open mind! Who is to say there isnt an afterlife? Its best not to think pessimistic, and say that you will never see her again. If she died, perhaps she died for a reason and is no longer in pain and is in peace.\n\nTry to talk to a close member of your family who would perhaps understand. Try not to dwell on the past and embrace the family that you have presently. At the end of the day your mum is in your heart and is a part of you, and that will never fade.\n\nxx
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You just have to keep trying. The reason why it happens just when you think you're making headway is probably because she is afraid to let it go and get through it because it is familiar to her. Even though it hurts her it's all she knows. Children will hold onto whatever makes them secure no matter if it's good or bad. They feel secure when eveything in their life is always the same. My guess is that she is over you not being with him anymore but is still holding onto the next phase...the pain. You have to let her know that it is ok to be sad but it's also ok to move on.Continue to let her know how much you love her. You have to be strong for her when she breaks down, she'll see and feel your strength and little by little she'll know that she can get through it. But you cannot break down with her just make sure you comfort her, that way she knows you two have each other. Whatever you do , if you know being with him was not good for the two of you, don't give in. No matter how much you see that it hurts her.......do what's best for the both of you. It's like when a child wants to eat a lot of candy.....they'll cry because you won't let them....but you are the parent and you know that in the long run all that candy is bad for their teeth and not very healthy for them. You said she is so grown up for her age.......be the parent...don't let her make these difficult decisions. Only you know what's best for your child!
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Wow, I can only imagine how stressful this must be for you!\n\nI think that the psychiatrist will be able to give you some answers.  If there WAS sexual abuse the Dr. will be able to tell--even is she lies about it.  Psychiatrists are trained to deal w/ these situations.\n\nPlease don't feel that this is your fault.  And please don't let the stress overwhelm you.  \n\nBest wishes.\n\nEDITED TO ADD:  In light of your additional details, I'd definately encourage you to just go ahead and take her to the hospital.  DO NOT feel guilty.  And don't listen to her when she tells you she hates you or that you're a bad mother.  YOU'RE NOT. \n\nOK, straight up talk here:  It takes a **** of a lot of courage to be parent sometimes and this is one of those times.  You need to get help both for her and for yourself.  It will be hard and things will get really rough for a while but you deserve a normal life and she deserves to have the most normal life she can have too.  The longer you wait, the harder it'll be.\n\nTake care.
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honey, it's okay to cry. it's healthy to show your feelings and emotions. believe or not you are communicating. life throws challenges and it's up to us to decide how we handle it. for me, my best advice is fight back, u can control this. if someone calls u a crybaby, that's selfish on their part. u are telling him how u feel and that counts. if they tell u, u shouldn't be feeling the way you're feeling that selfish for their part. I say show your true feeling, take control of the situation, and be assertive. once you have the "assertion" then u can handle life a lot better.
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HI Jenna,\nGrowing up isn't easy and I am glad to see that you have come up with a lot of positive choices in this. It is normal to be feeling the way that you do and we all say things that we dind't mean when we are hurt. The good thing is .......we can always do our best to fix them. \nTalk to your mom again. Tell her you are sorry for what you said. She loves you Jenna. You are her little girl and will always be that. She wants you to be happy. \nTell her that you would like to be in the delivery room to and ask her why you can't be. Part of it is that she knows that delivery is not easy. She will need an adult there to help her, someone who has been through it and will encourage her with adult words. She might not want you to have to see her when she is uncomfortable and in pain. She would also be worried about you too. \nAsk her if you can go in before and just about before it is time for the baby to be born. Tell her that you really want to be a part of your sister's whole life and you want to be able to see her as soon as she is born.\nJenna, she is your mom. she loves you and she will be so glad that you go to her and tell her your feelings.\nI can tell you are a great girl. I am sure your mom is very proud of all of your accomplishments.\nCongrats on being a big sister...........you will be a great one!
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I'm not a qualified therapist or any thing so I can only offer an opinion...\nI think that regardless of what anyone says you feel this way and you have to acknowledge it.  There is no such thing a a wrong feeling. We have feelings whether we want them or not. Ever like someone (or dislike someone) for no real reason?\nWe all have that "moral obligation" embedded in us but there is a point when you can not overlook your own health (mental, emotional and physical). You probably need to discuss these feelings with your mother. Sometimes the simplest answer is also the hardest.  I suggest that in a reasonable manner start a communication with you mother. It may take time but communication  can often work things out better than drawing ultimatums. Start slow and work into the heavy stuff. \nI get the feeling that if your mother had a job and could support herself (or help pay her own way) things would be easier for you. This might also be a starting point for her to regain her own independence. She is not a child and would likely prefer independence over being dependent.\nTalk. Open lines of communication. While you may feel an obligation to family, you are no good to them if you don't take care of yourself. Trust you instincts.
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She's still your mom, right? If she's being too affectionate with someone in front of you and making you feel uncomfortable, tell her. I'd tell you the same if she were dating men. Talk to her about what you need and how you feel. Just don't try to change her because she's a grown woman who can think for herself.
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I am in the same boat as you Taramar.  i do not get along with my mother very well, and I had a very rough and lonely upbringing.  To this day we rarely talk and do not get along at all.  \n   Even though all this, I still get her gifts for days like Mother's Day and other special days because she is my mom, and despite all the bad feelings I have for her, a part of me loves her.\n   She is not really a bad person, she was just a bad mother, and had issues that she never bothered to deal with.  I understand not being able to forgive, because i feel very much the same way.  Be the bigger person, and get her something.  Spend a few minutes with her if you can, and show her that you are not like her.  \n   Maybe, one day things will change, I know it seems unlikely as I feel that way too, but you never know.\nPeace and Love
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Do what's called the Broken Record thing...every time she starts in--think of something like.." I appreciate your concern, mom, but we have it handled."..........say it Every time...and she Will stop---it worked on my dad...see...when us mom's spens at least 20 yrs rasing kids..and being needed...and then we find one day that the kids are grown..living on their own--meaning we did our job well...suddenly we have nothing to fuss over..and that can be a lonely feeling.  I'm not saying it's okay for her to over step her bounds, just have a little understanding and compassion ... cuz, one day, you, too will have worked yourself out your job..\nhang in there
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hi angel,\ni think i know just how you feel. it happens sometimes to me sometimes, like everything went grey. just take a deep breath. u are at work right? do u have any nice music u like that cheers u up? play it softly at ur desk- maybe on ur PC or walkman. cheer up. Your mom does love you, your boyfriend too... u just fell out with her and ur boyfriend is busy working so he can get u a nice gift for ur birthday--- lol--- at least he has a job he can be busy at, not like he is busy dating another girl...\ncheer up ok? take a snack for lunch, you'll soon be home. \nAnd oh, try to call your mom b4 work runs out, you'll find it isnt as bad as it seems. then talk to ur boss too... there is so much power in those three words, "i am sorry" just apologise to everyone u hurt, especially ur mom. \nthen call ur boyfriend too and tell him u understand completely how busy he is and u love him and for him to call u when he is free. u'll be amazed how soon he'd call u himself. he needs ur understanding too, maybe today is more hectic for him than u. knock knock...\nI hope u r listening to me and will do these?\nenjoy your day ok? and remember it will pass and u will still be there...cheer up! love ya
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I know I have the same prob. It makes me feel so unwanted to the point that I cry all the time, but never in front of them.I even tried ignoring them for a couple days and it works (most of the time). Look what I do is not spend time with my parents AT ALL. This way they'll want to spend time with you more and they will want you to spend time with them more.
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Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.