Me and my boyfriend have been together for the past four years but last year he got married and now we are?
442792
just explain that you do not want to be the other woman. you love him and want to be with him and for him to be only yours.
464789
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
1015946
You just know.  My husband knew I was the one on our first date - I knew a few dates after that.  I was 25 and he was 33.  We looked at rings a month later, were engaged 4 months after that, and got married 2 years later after saving up money for our dream wedding.  We've almost been married a year now.  It's not a feeling you can even explain - it just hits you and sticks with you.  It sounds like you are both too young and not ready yet.
1151680
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
1031269
I just celebrated my 1st anniversary and the first weeks after the wedding were anticlimactic and I too was unhappy.  The reason:  The wedding and preparations were over.   And I thought "is this it?"  Reality set in with a quickness.\n\nAs time has progressed and problems have occurred, I think back to why I married this man and everything gets better.  Through this year I have threatened to leave he has threatened to leave, we have discussed counseling but we have done none of the above.  \n\nNow we have settled into a routine where we once again love and respect each other and we look forward to the years to come.\n\nYes we lost that spark but there was still an ember and we have fanned it into a blazing flame.\n\nGood luck
115279
Just wait for the future and see if you two will gonna be married. If you do, he's really the one.
116349
This is a very difficult situation you are in. While 4 years may or may not seem like a lot. At his age, and at yours, four years can be critical. People change a lot in four years (emotionally) at his and your age. He still has to go through highschool, you will soon be entering your young adult years. While now you two may seem to have a lot in common or can see the world through the same eyes, you can just as easily find that you are worlds a part in as little as a year. I would recommend you talk to an adult that you trust and has your best interests at heart. There guidance can help you decide what to do since they know you better than we do. I wish you well.
425721
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
275158
4 years is not such a big difference - but if in your culture it is, then just be prepared for the negativity that you may encounter.  That doesn't stop however, the fact that you both love each other.  Marry and be happy!  Good luck!
447741
I would have a serious conversation with him. It would be a shame to wait another 5 years just to hear again what you're hearing now. Why doesn't he want to marry you? I would think that the prospect of marrying the person you love would make you work harder towards your goals if you know that you will be married after. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If marriage and children are important to you then he needs to know. He may just be nervous about commitment, but if he really loves you he will need to face that fear. Im sorry but if he doesnt feel the same way then you need to move on. I know that will be painful but its better than wasting the next 5+ years of your life hoping he will change. If he agrees to marry you, make sure its really what he wants. You will be miserableif he married you because he felt he had no choice. Best of luck.
535313
are you saying he's been cheating on his girlfriend with you for four years?\n\nif he hasn't told her/left her by now, he never will, and he's probably just using both of you for sex.\n\ndump him and find a real man.
660569
Well, we got engaged, then married, and then bought a house.  \n\nYou need to discuss this with him.  He might be of the opinion that he's getting all the "benefits" of marriage without the committment, so why get married?  Ask him what's stopping him from marriage.  You have a right to know these things.
780747
Are you and he fighting alot? That's the interesting thing about love and marriage; First The relationship is sweet and charismatic and may stay this way for a long time. Then as time goes by you'll both have other main intrests and concerns. This is not at all strange by the way. I got married at a very young age and didn't know the guy long enough first. This may have been what happened to you also. I went back and forth to my ex for about 3 years before I finally followed through with the divorce.
589075
Maybe get engaged.  Have you lived with this guy yet?  Man alot of factors go into this.  I wouldn't get married yet.  Anymore I would say you should live with someone before getting married.  That sounds crazy to some but i think if you had to live together for a year before getting married the divorce rate would go way down.
110519
Sounds like your already married to each other.Congratulations.
842059
YOUR IN LOVE AND YOU'VE GOT EACH OTHER. HE JUST GOT A JOBL, THINGS ARE GOING TO BE VERY BLESSED IN YEAR TWO. SAVE THE MONEY, STAY IN AND PRAISE GODS HOLY NAME!!!\n\n\nGOD BLESS
832061
yes it seems as though you are rushing a bit! just because you fooled around doesn't mean you are prepared to get married. and is he saying he wants to marry you to get into your pants? i would wait awhile before you make the commitment, because it sounds like it would be a failed marriage! wait atleast a year!