my step-daughter is having a baby shower.should i go.?
436853
No you do not. Send her a  nice gift though with a card.  If later she asks you why you did not attend, sit her down and tell her how you feel.\n\nYou should also sit down and tell your husband how you feel. If you love your husband, don't let his kid's or their mom bust up your marriage.
297748
Ouch, I never thought I would say this, but you need to talk to a priest/rabbi/cleric/personoffaithhere.  I would have a problem with her taking my biological child over there, but is that what is best for your stepchild?  Seriously, seek counseling you are going to need help getting over this one, I know I would.  Peace be with you.
931313
Sounds like fun. You sound like someone who really tries to think outside the box. Good luck and I hope she enjoys it.
640640
some times the best thing to do is just let her talk to whoever she feels comfortable talking to.  after she talks to her stepmom do her problems seem to be taken care of, or are they made worse?  maybe that should be your focus.  if she seems calmer after talking to her ex-stepmom why is there a problem.  if she seems worse after talking to her then maybe there is a problem.  your daughter is probably reaching out for someone who she thinks understands her and her situation in life.  maybe you should look at this woman as someone who could mentor your daughter instead of seeing her only as your ex husbands ex wife!!  all in all if it is good for your daughter then let it be.
460481
Why not! But at the end of the day its all about how you feel about a women with 2 kids! if its not what you want, dont go there....but if you think that you can take the challenge, go for it and enjoy the love and affection that she has to offer.
130903
I would be very happy ( I think). I would also, however discuss with her as to what she wants. I f she wants to have it, i m all for that, but if she doesnt, I still would ask her to have it and let me take care of the baby. After delivery she would be free to go do whatever she wants.
963423
It sounds that this is a one way friendship and you my friend are the street. I would suggest that you do not call her because taking care of kids is a big responsability and it sounds like she would take your hourse if anything were to happen to them. Besides, who in the heck leaves their kids behind to go to Christmas party??? \n\nDon't call her.
452263
I appreciate you for taking care of the step daughter.  Do not worry about your mother-in-law or sister-in-law.  People always talk and wait for opportunities to find faults. Play your role as a mother to all your three kids and be happy.  You be a good mom as you have always been.  Remember your stepdaughter knows of no other mom other than you and to her you mean everything. I am sure your husband will understand this and try to make his mother understand. Good luck.
1159396
You know it would be nice if we weren't adult and we could go around beating the crap out of people's faces..... This would be a perfect time to beat the crap out of someone....lol\n\nWhat I would do is call her. Tell her it's none of her business who you do or don't marry and you could careless if she thought your new hubby was a hunk or not. Tell her to keep her mouth shut around your daughter. That is very RUDE that she said that too your child no matter her age. I would tell her that. You might need to have a talk with your EX's and find out what the deal is. No step mother or girlfriend has the right to say anything about you. If that don't work beat her tail!\nI done got mad and can't type now.\nGood Luck!
758438
I understand you have a connection with her kids, but sorry guy your wasting your time.  She keeps coming back to you even though she walks all over you...she knows you will be there and relies on you to be there.  You need to put your foot down and tell her you are not her doormat_
49583
Find out if she is registered anywhere. If she is registered somewhere, then you can just choose something from her list and you know that it is something she wants and will like.  If she's not, then talk to her or go browsing in the baby department. Get her to show you some stuff she likes.  Then depending on what your budget is, you can decide from there.  Other than the obvious stuff (highchair, crib, stroller ,etc) you could put together a basket of stuff-diapers, wipes, medicines, nailclippers, washcloths and the like. Or you could wait until the baby is born and get something such as a blanket or frame and have it personalized. Don't forget to include a book!  Here's a suggestion for whoever is throwing the shower, instead of the guests bringing a card for mom, have them bring a child's book to help build a library for the baby. My sister loved that idea!
226481
Some new mothers find it hard to part with their new born infant in the beginning, eventually the newness will wear off and if you continue to be supportive the mother will see this and most likely lighten up some.  also you owe it to your daughter to try to be a part of her life even if you don't stay with the mother.\n\nI commend you on wanting to be there for your daughter... keep it up Daddy!
914247
Tell the woman that the person who is having the shower was not expecting small children to be attending and to please make other arrangements. I never have been to or hosted a baby shower where young children attended. From reading some of these answers, these are the people who show up with their children in tow. Not everyone enjoys your children at gatherings like this. It is very stressful for everyone that attends.
425571
marrying the chick with the baby, probably isn't a good idea, sounds like she wants you to be the baby's daddy, and for the other chick, you should go out with her and see what happens. good luck. :)
736177
i agree, just tell her it is a get together for the girls, u need no help, u have everything under contol. if she happens to say then her daughter can't come tell her you will all miss her daughter. don't feel bad. maybe she is lonely. maybe she is an over protective mom. u have nothing to hide so don't go there in your mind. i am sure the girls including her daughter don't want her there either. that is why it is called a girls day
656269
Take her to a play if one is nearby.  They are wonderful and hardly anybody takes their kids now days so it will be different.
94490
My God!!!! I would run out and hire an anttorey. To to court if you can, I wish you and your daughter the best of luck. Many hugs and Kisses.