How often should I check on my 15 year old son and his new first girlfriend?
448423
You know your son. You know if he respects you as the authority figure he truly honors. You know in yourself if pleasing you is important and disappointing you is something he really does not want to do. If that is the case, as much as you are tempted, don't spy on him. Be ready in any case to intervene should things get inappropriate, if they do. On the other hand, if the relationship with your son is strained and he does not appreciate his parents, then the battle is already lost. If you move to spy or stop him, then he'll move the activity somewhere else where you are not.
356702
15 is a reasonable age to be dating. I started at around that age. I would not let her date anyone more than three years older than her and would prefer any boys 18 years of age to be Seniors in high school. When she is 18 she can do what she wants but until then she is my daughter and I will do what I need to in order to keep her safe!! Of course meeting the "date" is a must and there will be rules such as what time to be home, and letting her know she can call me for ANY reason if she needs to no matter what the time or where she is!!
547017
Children are so perceptive. My six-year-old son regularly has conversations with a deceased family friend, whom we were very close to. \nI believe the man your child is seeing could be your father. \nWhat I suggest is that you don't grill your child for information, or she could start making things up or embellishing in order to satisfy you. Let her come to you with any information or sightings of this man. As time goes on you will eventually know for sure whether this is him or not.\nAs long as your daughter remains undaunted by these visitations, I don't see a huge problem for you. Accept that your child may have a very special gift.
269962
That would depend on how old he is. If he is the same age, cool. If he is 17-up. She needs to find someone closer to her age for now.\n\nPlease repost this with his age, and I can give some good advice to her.
467526
It depends on the maturity level of the kid. My son I think would be fine at being allowed to date at age 15 (opinion subject to change w/o notice).My niece,who I love as my daughter, I would not let out untill she is 18.I love her, but the girl has no kind of good sense!
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Yes. You need to communicate better with the son, and your girlfriend. If you tell someone you are going to be somewhere, but something comes up, call and say so. Perhaps the 2 of you weren't on the same page. You thought she'd be ok, and she thought you'd be with her. Nobody's wrong, you just didn't see the situatuion the same way. That's called life. Right now, or as soon as possible, go over to their house. Sit the mom and son down. tell them that you know they are feeling slighted, but they need to know that wasn't at all your intention. You were overwhelmed with responsibility at the time, and you should ALL do a better job expressing expectations. A SIMPLE CALL FROM EITHER ONE OF YOU TO PUT YOURSELVES "ON THE SAME PAGE". Even if you disagree, at least the other person will know where you stand and know that there was no bad intention. the son actually sounds like a pretty good communicator for his age!!! Tell them that you love them and you feel terrible that they were upset.Often, when we take the responsibility, it opens up the other person's eyes to the fact that this was not something that you should turn into a bad situation, and we are all human.\nBy theway, the $ issue. tell her exactly what you told us. tell her you'd love to lavish her like the queen she is to you, and give her lots of attention.
850651
It is difficult to say an exact age because it is all depends of the daughter and especially about her parents because some parents don't want their daughters have boyfriends when they are very young. So depending the type of parents, but it is always better for the parents to let their kids to bring their boyfriends or girlfriends at home that way the parents can watch out what is going on .. Now, an age? probably after 15 years old!
474459
I'm 18 and have a 12month old son and single to. Even though he's with his mom most of the week. i know what your are talking about. i think you just haven't meet the right guy yet.
14018
only u can answer this question....... my gf was a senior and i was a soph.. when she graduated. we stayed together,and  we have a 15 year son.............you will meet new friends, but you will only trust ur bf, and he (as i did) matures quickier.....(my mother wasn't too happy about it but that is life....good luck just think positive.....
74817
This must be such a difficult situation for your entire family.  You must be feeling as if you no longer know you son. You must feel as if you are walking on jello and that your whole world has fallen apart.  You must be thinking what will become of all the hopes and dreams I had for this boy of mine!  These feelings are all normal. You are not alone, I spent many sleepless nights hoping I could go back to the time when my child was small and I was holding that little boy in my arms.  But let's consider something very important: Your son was comfortable enough to come and talk to you about this situation.  That seems to say that your lines of communication are open between the both of you.  That is a blessing!  It says a great deal to how you raised your son and you should take comfort from that.\n\nWith your open communication and his trust in you  don't allow yourself to fall into the trap of becoming preachy and letting him know how wrong this is or to throw him.  The damage that will done by doing that can not be undone!\n\nThis is a time to sit down with him and discuss all the options.  You need to understand how he is feeling, what he wants to do about this situation, and how he is going to be responsible for this child.\n\nIts about him right now not you, and that is going to be very difficult to do, I know I have been there.  The more you can all listen and you guide with gentleness the better off you will all be.  Other people will say support him, but if you have not had many, many talks with him about his goals, worries, concerns and desires for all of this you will never know how to support him.\n\nNow, what he chooses may not be what you would choose.  At 17, he is feeling like a child and an adult.  He is conflicted by what he feels, he wants to be a little boy and have this all go away, and he wants to be a man and take care of it himself; but you have to be there to give him all the information he will need to make the choice.  If you do it right with little judgment and guilt he will choose well.\n\nGive him ALL the information both sides. Now, here comes the really hard part.  His girlfriend holds a great deal of the cards, and what she finally decides may not be what you or your son want.  Be prepared for that.  She and her family may want nothing to do with you.  They may view you as the cause of all this trouble.  They want to force your son into doing something that is not right.  Be prepared for that.  The more you have thought this all through and discussed everything with your son the better the outcome will be.\n\nWe can not force her, her family or you son into doing anything.  There can only be gentle guiding. \n\nWhen all is said and done the greatest thing we can rely on is faith that God is the author of all good things.  If we look at this with the eyes of faith we will see that this has the potential of becoming a beautiful experience of growth and strength.\n\nFeel free to call me: 517-290-8930
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My son's father and I were also on a schedule with our son and I was going through the same thing you are. We dealt with that for 7 years.  As hard as it was, I had to discipline him. The last thing I wanted to do was ground him during our time. \nWhatever you read, don't run off and find a girlfriend and get tangled up in that. The last thing your child needs is dealing with a woman in the house who is not her mother. She needs time as do you to get a schedule and routine down.\nMy son isn't quit as old as your daughter, but made the choice to live with me full time in lieu of his father. He understands that my rules are to better him, not to punish him. \nKeep the line with her......she will see you are doing it for her own good as did my son. She is old enough to have real heart to hearts conversations comprehending where you are coming from. Just remember to ask HER questions. Hear her out. She may feel torn between you and her mother. Make her feel comfortable, but that rules are still rules whether you and mom are divorced or not. \nThe two of you will be just fine.................Good luck
1174656
Ask your parent or guardian.
1030334
Nah. My dad called me his little girl til he died. I was 30. My son is 27 and still loves video games. I still love to party, just not as often. My girlfriend babys her grown kids that are married. Enjoy each other and enjoy life. It is so short.
96235
What a scary question to have to ask.  If you see signs of him giving her the wrong kind of attention, listen to your instincts and pay very close attention to his behavior towards her.  I think this is one of those things people brush off, thinking it's their imagination.  I don't know how old she is, but I'd say talk to your daughter about him, see how she feels about him.  And if you haven't before, talk to her about her body and other's bodies.  You may want to talk to him too, which is obviously an awkward thing to do.  Her safety is of course number one though.  Above all, when you have such suspicions, don't ever give anyone the benefit of the doubt.
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I think at 8 months you have definitely been patient enough that you can ask the question without feeling like you are forcing him into something that he does not want.  The only criteria for asking him, would be when you will have some time to talk about it.\nIf after you talk to him, you guys decide you are dating I think you have been seeing each other long enough he could meet your son.
640628
Your "boyfried" has other, much more serious, things to be doing and taking responsibility for right now.  At 18 he's an adult with a family of his own - why would you even consider dating him?!  Is this what you want for your own life - a guy who has a baby to you then is off to the next 15 year old?  I doubt this will remain a friendship - if it does encourage him to support the baby and it's mother as he should.  Get YOUR priorities in order!!  You deserve much better!  Figure out what you want from life, work hard in school to get it, and stay focused.  Boys at this stage will mess up your goals much more than help them!  Good luck to you and God bless you.
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Trust your intuition.  It's important and I'm glad you are picky.  She will have a huge affect on your son's life.  IF you really like someone, then maybe give her a bit more time. When my x and I split, he would let any flooz from the bar babysit.  You are right for being picky.  Your son is lucky.  But also try not to hold her to some "perfect" standard.  Your wife was not perfect either, but sounds like she was a good mom.  So good luck to you and your son.