Help needed with love dilemma?
453403
I think it could be that you have this guy in your head now because he is ignoring you.  You know the saying, you want what you can't have?  Well, when he wanted you you weren't interested...and now you "think" you may be.  \nBut...if you're really thinking about this fling guy a lot then I doubt you're truly in love with your steady.  Deep down it's probably not meant to be.  You know, real love and all that comes with it...when you're in deep, no one else can touch that.  Anyway, do the pro's and con's thing about the guy you're with and if it's more con's than pro's give him up...and talk to this younger guy if you can, about how you feel if you really think your feelings are deeper than just wanting what you can't have.  I have to say also that he sounds a tad bit immature...ignoring you after you've had a fling.  But that's just my opinion....good luck.
808867
I would give them both a shot. You never know maybe the guy with money is for you. In the end, only settle for love but give each guy a shot. If he drools over you and is good to you. Love can grow
331639
I think you're one confused girl. First, it's important to reassess your feelings first. Who do you really care about? What do you want to happen with your life? Who do you really want to stay with? Who do you think will make you happy? Who do you think you can make happy? After clearing out your thoughts, then go for the one who you think is best for you. You even might end up considering that no one is right for you at the moment, and even that is fine. But yeah, just think about everything carefully first before moving into any further decision.
144295
Move on we all deserve equal oppourtunity in love.. someone who is out there will love you as much as you need. \nOR have tyou not be honest with this person. Tell them that you love them and give them the choice leave that person  alone or come and recieve all of your good loving!!
61601
It is better to have someone who loves you than the one you love.\nHe'll look after you in the best possible way.\nHowever, it is you who have to decide finally. Take the best decision.
786903
This is a very serious situation. The decisions you make today will play a vital role in everything tht affects you tomorrow. Who can know what you might feel down the road? Be fair in all of your judgements and open and honest. Anything gained while underminding someone else is not a sweet victory. You should seek professional counsel for this situation. Also Remember, sometimes we are in love with the idea of the forbidden. Sometimes it's simply the idea of change that intrigues us. But you are holding hearts in your hand that can be broken for life. Be careful of your next step. Remember too that love is selfless and builds up a person and doesn't destroy someone. This agony you feel doesn't stem from the root of love. True love doesn't agonize. God bless you dear and good luck. Please do get counseling.
796331
A few more details would be nice.  Sexual love? Friendship love?  Long term?  I guess I can only tell you that only you can discover what the problem is then judge the effort needed to correct it and decide if it is indeed worth the effort.  True love is.  Anything else should be let go.
661813
mean carleen is right.  There is nothing you can do.  Clearly if there was any interest on his part something would have happened.\n\nWhat you are describing is not really a love issue it is infatuation.  You are infatuated with this guy and in your mind are creating fantasy scenarios about how things would be if you were together.  You need to get over it and find a guy who likes you back.
159653
Love is strange in its own magical way. Love is like a dam. Once it's released, you never know when the flow will come to an end. Right now, your love is still flowing all these years. If you really want to forget her that much, then do something different to approach this thought process. If you know she loves you as well, then go get her. Don't waste time crying in your hear...in your soul. If know she doesn't feel the same way, then think differently about how you feel about her. Think of it as best friends kind of love: you love her because she matters to you greatly and that your friendship for her will never change. Accept this "new" change of yours and think that everyday. Better to be friends than to be in that hell hole of unforgiving love. Sometimes to have a friend love you is just as loving as having that special someone by your side. Try to move on each day if you can and just remember you loved someone who was wonderful and great, but with conditions couldn't happened. Some where in life, you are bound to find someone new. It might sound a little stupid, but maybe the person who you been looking for could be right in front of you. Just keep a clear head and watch for hints. Maybe the person has already been hinting they have feelings for you and you just haven't realized it. I hope I helped in some way.
160366
When you figure it out let me know.I am kinda' in the same situation.I am in love with a girl who is in love with me,yet she is with someone.
587404
From what you say it seems your dilemma is...your head verses your heart... the head is usually right you didn't say why he couldn't commit... but in any case i think you've already conceded that fact. My advice would be to make a clean break... continuing to be friends is just keeping your hope alive... I say continue on with your life meet someone new... yes it is completely possible  and likely that you will fall in love with someone else... which ends your dilemma...good luck in whatever you choose to do
974529
Life seems terrible like that sometimes. I think you should face your fears & confront her. Tell he what you feel now & ask her if she feels the same or if there ever will be a chance of that happening. 1 of 2 things will happen if you do that.. yo might get lucky where she accepts your proposal or you may not be lucky where she will reject you. either way you will have a guaranteed answer without a loose end to haunt you for the rest of your life.\n\nIf you dont confront her, you wont know if there was ever a chance or if she simply didn't want to be with you. In this case you will forever be haunted by the questions beginning with 'what if..'.\nFurther more you would have created that pain all on your own from self-pity & disappointment in self pride as a man.\n\n\n...I've said my say now its time for you to do what you think is best for YOU.\n\nAnd finally.. if you do decide not to confront her & you find yourself losing her in time & space. Your only option will be to force yourself to forget her otherwise the pain will eat at you forever. How do you forget? Change your lifestyle & meet new people & create opportunities for yourself to fall in love with someone new.
21788
Keep your chin up, and understand that will be a lot of time apart from each other. But if you really love the person, don't give up, no matter what. It is not easy, if there is not an official commitment to each other, but just keep the love in your heart no matter what happens.
306444
Anyone who's had a deep love for such a person is bound to consider it.  That's not just something that can go away.  \nUltimately, you should do what you feel is right.  If you're willing to take the risk, by all means TAKE IT.  If you're afraid of what may happen, and that fear is strong enough to hold you back, then don't.\nIf you avoid the situation, you may be left wondering what would have happened.  If you pursue a second round, you may be in for disappointment or heartbreak. \nEither way, you have to factor in the risks, and do whatever you're brave enough to do.
501530
How can you love a person who is not suitable for you. And if you have a feeling of love for someone, what is the criteria for being suitable. But if you have a feeling of love, then give it a shot, may be its all in your head.\n\nI am not the best at advice but you may try it out once. Life's not gonna end after that.
737818
Don't make a decision you'll regret. Date the one you love, but also plan for your future. Teach your best friend about Jesus Christ and tell them both that you need to think for a while. So meditate on this and pray to God and He will help you with your decision. Best of luck!
957968
Wow - that is a tough question.\n\nIf the two of you are still close, I'd just ask outright, but be prepared a bit of heart break if the answer is no...\n\nYou're at a really difficult time in life (I remember it...) and just recognizing that your head and heart are disagreeing is pretty impressive - I don't think I was that mature back then.\n\nAsking outright gives you a quick resolution to your dilemma.\nKeeping your options open, but maintaining some display of affection (holding on) may drag out the pain.\n\nIf your head says move on... then you probably should - your heart will move on eventually as well, and you'll certainly find someone else, even if it doesn't feel like it now... (sounds sooooooo cliched...)\n\nGood luck,\n\n-dh