Is a controlling relationship changable?
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Has he always been this way or has it just been recently?  Has anything happened between the two of you, as far as cheating, that would make him feel like he had to be so inquisitive?\n\nI just don't see how you can be together without trust; that is the number one thing in a relationship.  This situation will not get better if you just ignore it.  Do you really want to have to worry the rest of your life about what he is going to say when you come home an hour late or if some other male calls you, no matter who it is!  \n\nIf it were me, I would get it out in the open with him and really discuss how you are feeling.  Maybe even suggest you two going to a counselor.  You should be able to tell from his responses if he is willing to work on things and change to better your relationship.\n\nGood luck!
656301
yes it can, but you both have to be honest and trust each other. good communication is also another key factor in making this kind of relationship work.
88196
Yes. And being in an "exclusive" relationship is not old-fashioned.
645313
Communication! I have been with the same guy for 7 years and I am just realizing since we moved in together that its one area  we need work in.  Its so important!  Also keep dating each other.  People always seem to get "comfy" in a relationship and it gets boring.  Keep things exciting.
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You can't.  Period.  Sorry, but if you went into the relationship thinking you could, don't ever do that again.  Let him know that you won't tolerate being controlled, and if he can't live with that, than walk away as soon as you can.  He could turn violent.
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I asked my boyfriend this question and he said that maybe some men like to control their woman and if she is independent then he can't control her. I say stay the way you are and you will one day find who you are looking for. I did.
962595
lol interesting point of vew..i would say yes a good relationship shouldn't end because of something like this...unless it was really really irritating you, otherwise...i guess Glade Plug ins would have to do the trick.
535940
Sorry, the relationship is done.\n\nSilent is not the best way to finish a relation, but it works.
297971
If he is telling you what to do, That is controlling. If he cared about you, he would maybe give his opinion but leave the options open for you to decide. You want someone you can decide to gether things with. Not someone telling you how to think or feel or who your friends are. And who you can and cannot be friends with. If he is that way get rid of him, it only gets worse.
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Some men need to feel like they have control over EVERYTHING.  Believe me-been there done that.  I dated a guy who was extremely controlling, manipulative, and verbally abusive.  Took a year before I gave him the boot.  He needed to be in control of everyone and everything around him.  I think it's a sickness.
549447
Absolutely. The general rule of thumb is whether or not you would feel comfortable if it were the other way around. Put yourself in your partners position, and then consider the consequences of your actions.
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With a bit of experience you should be able to control it as long as you like by varying your techniques. \nThere are many options how you can chose the timing as you and your female partner like.
68215
A person only has as much control over another person as they are given.\n\nOne really should not try to control another person, it's not a healthy way to participate in a relationship.\n\nInstead, a healthy relationship is an equal partnership where both partners seek to find solutions to issues that can be embraced enthusiatically by their partner.\n\nIt's not about control, it's about caring for another person more than you care about yourself or getting your own way.
172012
yes it's possible. You feel like you can't let them go but your trust issues are killing you, let it go....the issues or the person, which ever is least important. But if one conflicts with the other, end it all...Save yourself!
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Yes I think it can be a possibility. Especially since you value that person alot and yet have the sensibility to know that you cannot take things to another level :-)
687733
Yes it is.  Some people enjoy their own company and thats fine.  Dont force yourself to be in a relationship because it seems it is the 'done thing.'
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All things change. That is the nature of life and reality.  The question is whether they grow or die. The difficulty in a relationship is that all parties are changing but are they changing in the same direction or in other directions. Learn to accept the change in yourself before you try to meaure the change in another.\n\nIt is not only possible but probabe to affect a change in another person. The impossibility is to intentionally direct the change of the other person. Even in the rare cases where someone allows themselves to be changed and guided like sheep will eventually rebel against the leash. A good example is adolesence. WIth multiple infuences telling a person what and how they should be, eventually they strike out on their own and become an individual as opposed to a sum of their influences (not that their influences will have no effect but less of one). I'm sure we all remember this point in our lives.\n\nThe question "why would a husband/father seperate themself from the family?" needs more clarification. What part of the family is the h/f seperating themself from? A quit from the family in entirely (dissapearance) is likely the h/f seeing a fault in themself that they cannot tolerate another to see. A h/f seperating themself from a specific member of the family likely shows that they see a fault in the other that they cannot tolerate.\n\nWhy would this situation result in that person blaming others? First and foremost, could the others possibly be to blame? You are obviously blaming the h/f for seperating himself from the family. Is it possible that they are driven away? Is it possible that the h/f has felt the leash of guilt to the point wher ethey are rebeling and trying to create their own idenity seperate of what you are trying to change this person into. You obviously accept no responsibility for the situation yourself which may be the reason this h/f is seperating themself not from the family but from you.\n\nBefore I am accused of trolling, know this, I am the accused husband.father in question. How dare I invade my wife's privacy, you ask. QUite easily when it is left on the screen of the computer for me to find and close when I return home from work. How dare I make our private issue so public? Because it was already done so.\n\nUp until the previous paragraph was a reasoned argument that I would give to anyone with the smae question. Here begins my diatribe.\n\nThis is the forum upon which I have had the most capability to speak to my wife about these issues so I will take thsi opportunity to do so. Why? You ask. Because we see each other for upwards of 40 minutes most days with the exception being the days one of us has off work. Our days off have rarely cooencided leaving us between 6-10 hours to grow together.\n\nHave you changed me? Most certainly. You have changed me to a man who sleeps on the couch ost comfortably (the most recent couch was even bought with this in mind). Did she kick the scoundral out of the martial bed? No. While I had found several couches to be comfortable previous I had never set up a permanant residence on one until now. I almost never sleep in the bed even when you're out of town. It began thus (from my perspective of course since I haven't got another): \n\nI snore. kill me now. I snore so bady that my wife would leave the bed and sleep on the couch. I snore so badly that my wife would even leave the bed complaining of snoring even beofre I fell asleep. Despite my wife's statement that she didn't mind, I noticed that she was looking more and more tired. So I stopped sleeping in her bed.\n\nWhy have I not changed in the ways you want me to change? Because the times that I have changed for you (you'll of course have forgotten them all) I have still never gotten the feeling once that you ever loved me back. I have never once gotten the feeling that you have accepted me mutch less loved me. Accept one of my faults, ever, and I may accept