how can l get my husband to have sex with me again after 4years help##########?
446407
4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
323163
Try new things!!!  Anything outside whatever.  Do spontaneous things men like that.  Such as giving him a BJ while he's driving or watching TV.  Just drop drawers whenever.  Thats how my wife keeps me going spontaneous acts of sex that come from nowhere.  Hope this helps.
72146
Stop Pressuring him. \n\nWait until you get married to have sex...\n\nMake sure this is the right guy before you have sex. \n\nMight be the wrong guy.
366492
kick him in the nuts about 4 times and then tell him to do it right!  If that dosent work then leave him!
1026022
There's always time for sex ... try date nights or find a babysitter once a week.\n\nIf you truly want it from him then you will find a way to get you some.  I have a 3 year old and me & my man find at least 3-4 times a day on Sundays .. \n\nSit down with him and come up with different times & days ... if you have to schedule with him then do it .. if you can't be spontaneous !
307014
ok hun kinda know where you are coming from but need a little more info. First of all men and women hit their sexual peaks at diferent times in life so if there is an age difference that could be a factor. another thing is lifestyle changes new job or later hours. another thing to consider is the baby, how old? most men go through a stage that they feel the baby is taking all the time from them and begin to feel deprived so they withdraw themselves. and a final thought is that you are in a rut it is common in most relationships, have you been together for a long time? It is a very good possibility that he is just comfortable in the relationship and is just not as passionate as before... It is not that there is no attraction between the two of you because if i had to guess when you do have sex it is GREAT, right? I have been married for 8 years there is a 4 year age difference between the two of us and I have been in your shoes. I thought hubby was cheating and he didn't love me and so on and so forth. Almost lost him over my insecurities ao don't jump to conclusions talk to him about it and I hope I helped a little. WISHING YOU LOTS OF GREAT SEX.
990150
If you can talk to him, does he listen to what you say? If he does listen to what you say, then tell him directly that you prefer not to receive oral every night. Perhaps he could vary his advances so that your lovemaking does not become stale after the same repititive thing night after night. Happiness in the bedroom with your loving partner will be better received if there is variation applied.\n\nIf you and your partner can not come to a resolve about this now, it will be more difficult after marriage. Keep all apsects of your relationship out in the open. You are sure to have some disagreements from time to time, but two loving people will find a solution to what is best for both of them.
180580
Try a cock ring or when you are a feeling that sinsation stop for a minute and start fourplay again.  Once the feeling slows down start again.  Also, exercise and eat right.  When your healthy so is your sex life.
454645
Call the police. If he has raped you press charges. Just because you are married to some one does not give them the right to force sex on you. And your children will understand when they get older. The guy sounds crazy, you need to protect your family. You really need to talk to the police and see how they can help you. And turn to the Bible for answers as well. You do have scriptuall grounds for divorce and re-marriage. You really need to change your situation. Hope everything gets better for you and you children! I'll pray for you!
923103
You could try a few things, some of which you might find awful, but I'll list a few.  Others can add to the list:\n\nMake sure he finds YOU to be good in bed.\n\nGet sex ed books, tapes, DVDs.  Read & watch with him.\n\nTry using porn.  Show him what you like on the movie.\n\nGo to sex therapy.\n\nGo to regular old marriage counseling.\n\nI wish you all the best.  I'm sorry if some of my answers sound crude, but sometimes, crude works.
822984
well, you could try bribery - a "no computer until after sex" thing might just work. Be fun to try even if it doesn't. \n\nor you could move the computer to the living room in front of the window, remove the drapes and insist he only use the computer there while he is completely naked.\n\nOr as one couple - did start having cyber sex with him every time he signs on and see how long it takes for him to log out and come for the real thing.\n\nor throw it out on the street and jump up and down on it. Your choice on which it though - could be either the computer or him - hehe.\n\ndisconnect the internet and the phone line and the tv and get him to read good books to you while soft music plays ont he stereo\n\ndrag him by the hair out to the movies, the local dance venues and anywhere else you two can go have fun together without him being near a computer.\n\nand if all else fails tell him if he doesn't get off the computer you will go marry a Mac.
226398
The problem is not with the girl. She is not part of the relationship. Your husband has a lot of work to do to gain your trust and confidence back. HE has to show that he has changed. Otherwise, he did it once, he can do it again. It has to come from him. A solid explanation of exactly what happened and why it won't happen again.
228439
Your husband is lucky for starters, but there are no normal amounts of sex. Sex is like a good marrage, First you have to be honest, open, try everything and you both have to work at it.Try diffrent things eg dress up, play games, ask him what he likes, give and take, but the most important thing is just to have fun.
768710
Well im in the same situation but my man tells me im a sex maniac,,,,that might be true but i have needs to when i want it i should be able to get it.  He says because we live together he doesnt want to do it all the time because things will get old fast. Well i dont agree...if he tried to change things up....which i would love to try new things there wouldnt be an issue. Im tired of initiating sex all the time,,,im 5 yrs older than him,,so whats his problem?? He cant keep up with me,,it gets very frusturating,,,i know exactly how you feel. All i can say is back off him for awhile and see how he likes it,,he will start to think somethings wrong then wont he??? Dont pay it any mind for awhile....take care of yourself until he gets the hint. Me being a very sexual person it really aggravates me. And no hes not cheating because we are always together when we arent working. We love eachothers company,,,but he says our relationship isnt all about the sex....grrr i know that but dam give me what i want.
405233
I was with my ex for 8 years as well and after about six years into the relationship, the sex became less and less.  By the eighth year in our relationship, we realized our situation was getting old and both agreed to move on.  My advice to you is to try new things with him (positions, places, etc) and try to spice things up...maybe rekindle the sex you had when you first started going out.  I really wish I would have tried, instead of giving up.\nGood luck!
615905
I am the same way.  I've been married for 4 years now and I can count the times I've came.  It's not my husband, he's pretty big and really good in bed.  He figured out how to make  me come with really hard work.  I told him about it instead of faking and he really went out of his way to try to please me.    \n\nLike you, he is also my second, my first was just sex and I didn't like it.  It took me 6 months to figure out that I wasn't' pleased to tell my husband.  \n\nOUR SOLUTION:\nWe got toys and when we make love, we make sure we have enough time to warm me up with or@l and finally make love.  Tell you husband about it.  Trust me he's gonna want to make you the happiest woman alive and he will do what ever it takes to please you.  Communication, communication.
21148
well have you had sex before and now its stopped if so maybe he wants to wait till you get married or maybe hes cheating or maybe he doesnt think you enjoy it just talk to him ask him why he doesnt want to