why does parents always give you pressure in getting straight A's? is it that important?
438938
doing your best is what is important to you, too much pressure can backfire, a lot of parents don't see this.\n\nThey are doing it for you, because they don't want you to struggle as much as they did, they just don't realise that this sort of pressure can have negative effects on some people.\n\nPositive encouragement and help works a lot better.
1117636
"Too much" is a relative term, totally subjective.  It may be too much to you but barely enough to your parents.  If they expect that you pass all courses with a decent letter grade like B and do your fair share of chores at home then they are not expecting too much.  Kids tend to think their parents' expectations are too high as soon as they see a possibility of losing playing time (Internet, friends, TV, sports....) but in reality those expectations are just right.  Talk to them.  Define with them what "reasonable expectations" are.  If you disagree with them, relay the information to your counselor for a second opinion.  If you and they agree, work on the means, time and resources to help you meet their expectations.  I am sure you will be rewarded.
590778
I think the more parents get involved, the better. However it would be a positive involvement like they shouldn't force their children or be strict with them about studies. I have finished my studies and I can remember that from the day one till my last day I used to tell each and everything about my school and studies to my both parents because they were never strict. In fact in my exams they used to say that I should not take exams as a matter of life and death and keep myself happy because happiness matters more than good grades. Even if I got bad grade they would say that its OK I can do better if future. They have always encouraged me
127471
i know what you are going through because im also a straight A student but whenever i get a bad grade i have to tell my parents because then the guilt comes in not telling them.  it may be hard yo stand up to your dad but if you have the bad grades and you tell him your trying really hard to work them off that usually works.  Good luck!!!
966144
Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!
105769
Hmm, I believe you answered your own question. I would also agree that too many parents think school is too hard on their children, when the truth is that's the way it supposed to be. It's all about "stretching young minds."
110117
You have got to be kidding.  Parents are not hard enough.  Try growing up with my parents and you'd know what hard was.
703600
I am homeschooled because my parents think that I would do much better at home working at my own pace instead of sitting in class getting distracted by other students who don't care to learn.  I love it and I plan on finishing out my highschool years being homeschooled.  I get almost all A's in my courses I take online and some B's but nothing less, In public school from 1st-9th I did horrible I got NO A's OR B's I only got C's(if i was lucky) D's, and F's!!!  I got into a lot of trouble because of my peers and the pressure but now I have a new group of friends and thanks to other peoples help on Yahoo Q:A I have volenterred to help at the local senior citizen center:).
865008
3.7 GPA, using the original method. Giving extra points for honors and advanced classes is bullshit.\n\nNot bad. Your parents are a-holes for being upset over B's.\n\nMore important than GPA is being involved in extracurricular activities and community service. Maintain that 3.7, continue with rigorous curriculum, get involved in sports and/or clubs, score well on SATs, and you will get into a good college.
135021
you have to devote your whole life to the stage. always be prepared to be unprepared, and don't be afraid to ask for help. if you're struggling between grades and fine arts, i know where you are and it all depends on the tests, no one will want you to perform for them if you don't have great grades in everything.
155031
They care less about grades. devote yourself to something you love and maintain balance in your life. If you have exceptional skill, attitude and charism you'll easily be accepted. It's not about grades, its about applicability in that level.
279134
Yes. I agree its challenging because the kids mouth off to you or you have parents pressuring you get there son or daughter a good  grade.
251991
nope,they are LAZY and want everything the easy way out.Parents are to blame for that.\nWhen I went to school I had better come home with A's and B's or my *** was grass !\nMy parents wanted the best for me and expected the best !
875479
Excuse me but why in the world are you taking the PSAT this year?\n\nDo I detect an overly pushy parent in the background?\n\nYou are way, way too young for this kind of pressure and stress.
432264
I am a teacher and can definately answer this one!!!!!!!Children who do not have parental support in the home usually suffer at school.  They are usually the ones who act up...not only because they are undisciplined, but also because they do not have the support system at home to make sure that they are doing their homework.  They fall behind and end up misbehaving because they do not understand the material.  As they fall further and further behind, their behavior gets wors, as well as does their self-esteem.  I work at an inner city school.  The teachers work very hard to give the students as much indivual help as possible.  We want to see all kids succeed! We also want them to understand that they must learn to deal with the baggage that life has given them and overcome that to be the best they can be to reach the goals they want to accomplish.  The best deal is for schools, parents, and communities to work together to help ALL children succeed.
984381
Your parents are saying to you:  we want you to improve your grades. Not playing basketball is their punishment for not getting better grades.  I would suggest you try this.  Tell your parents you realize they want you to get better grades.  If you haven't been in trouble, tell them you are a good kid that stays out of trouble and basketball is where you release some energy, get a workout, and enjoy a sport.  It should not be included in forms of punishment.  \n\nThen ask them to compromise on a solution.  That they should be open to resolution to the problem without creating resentment.  Ask to play basketball one day a week until your grades go up and back to two when they are up.\n\nGood luck.
205976
yeah im working on this too but my parents are all about grades and shit not that stuff. uhhh what im doing, and it seems to be working, is to take more responsibility and like do crap around the house without them asking. come home when ur told, do stuff u wouldnt normally do, make sure u can do everything to help them out that u possibly can. suck up, be a tool, good luck.