me and my partner fight all the time...?
440371
Hi try walking away when the fighting starts and cooling down, when you both have a minute 2 cool down try and talk about it this has worked for me and I think it can help you
495858
Sounds like a communication problem.  If you want this relationship to survive and grow you two need to sit down and come up with a plan to deal with these issue and any others you have.  Some times people who argue and complain a lot just need to have a set way to communicate those things in a helpful manner instead of the current method which is destructive.
54650
Yes.  You are fighting now, so staying with him will not make the fighting go away.\n\nYou don't miss him.  You miss what you hoped the relationship would be.  You will find this feeling in a new relationship.  Move on!
9154
Right in the middle of an "argument" jump in & point out to both of them that they fight & argue constantly. Point out the fact that it is very childish & how tired you are of it. Whatever the underlying problem is between them should/will surface....once that surfaces, it can be resolved & harmony restored.
641761
Yes actually. I keep trying to get my husband to go and work out of town and just come home on the weekends or every other weekend. We fight too much and maybe if we didnt have to see each other everyday we might look forward to spending time together!
291046
There could be several issues.  Your relationship may not be a fully open one and there is a major problem with communication.  That can be helped by counseling or with some books available at the book store or library.  It will take both people to be willing to work on this problem.  It could be guilt over some offense your partner has committed.  It may be that your partner is afraid of the resulting conflict the topic may bring out or the pain that the topic may cause to you or themselves...good luck!
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
382907
I have never heard of any couple who doesn't argue. This is especially true when there are increased stresses in their lives. Having just been pregnant in the summer and in a long term relationship I know exactly what goes on. But then the arguments go away within ten minutes so you can't take minor issues to heart. Eventually the grass will get cut, the dishes will be done, as with the laundry. Just hang in there.
219433
Its a mood thing.  I'm the same way.  Sometimes I'm heading home, just hoping for a fight with my wife. \n\nUsually, I keep to myself when I arrive till my mood changes.\n\nTry that.  Just let him know you need to be alone, your not in the mood for company...or to fight.\n\nGood luck darlin
427241
It depends on what the fight was about.  If it was a minor disagreement, then it will go back to normal...eventually.  But if the fight was drastic, then it could take a while and nothing will be able to fix it but time.  Use it as a learning experience to help you understand your partner so that you can be careful the next time.
952995
Really your not fighting, your probably just bickering. Its like adult going pains especially if you just moved in together. My fiance and I were the same way. I even gave my ring back!!! but we went to a communication specialist (couples therapist) and learned some tricks to communicating. I know its hard and you start thinking that things won't work out, but if you are truly meant to be, you'll be OK.  We had all the same issues you mentioned.Try this, sit and talk it out, if one of you is a blabber use a 5 min timer so you don't get off track of the topic at hand. Don't allow yourselves to deviate off topic nothing gets solved that way. Each of you should list your gripes with each other and go through the list,pick a time where you can really talk( no TV, no phones).  It will take a few tries before you can get through it with out yelling. No name calling and no blameing, start sentences like "going foward  blah blah blah"Cleaning? write up all the chores that need to get done and you together, divvy them up, then once chores are committed to on paper, its a non issue. The hard thing is  understanding that you don't get everything you want anymore it's all about 50/50( which sucks sometimes, but that's life) And there is no shame in meeting with somebody once a week if that's what you guys need, its not easy, it's one of the most stressful times in  your life. In some cases your insurance will cover it under adult therapy or under the the wide range of depression (even though its not,they just bill it that way and its legit because the situation makes you sad and stressed, don't feel labeled as depressed). Best of luck to you both
688602
Rather normal marriage I would say.  Did you ever understand that it takes two to fight.  Have you ever thought about just listening to her and keeping your mouth shut.  I don't mean leaving either I mean stay right there and listen and be quiet and when you do talk do not speak in anger.  Is your pride so big you can't let someone have their time of anger.  We all get angry at times.  She should do the same for you hut I am writing to you not her.  I live with a woman that really gets angry and stays that way sometimes days.  I could really have some knock down drag out fights in this house.  I don't and won't.  I keep my mouth shut nd keep some distance between us but don't leave the house.  Yes it angers me but I also know she is angry and out of anger many things are said that at the time are ment and later are regrettedd..Most of the time she gets over it in a couple of hours but once in a while it does last two to three days.  Now she has learned from me that it works and now when I get angry and i do she keeps quiet most of the time but still has to put in a coment here and there that is like knife bladws.  She is getting better as time goes by though.  One thing for sure is that I never get really angry at just her.  Most of the time it is due to someone olse interfeering in her life.  \n     Just try to keep your cool and try to listen to what she has to say.  An all day fight is dangerous to both of you.
1080653
yes..everytime we fight.  I have only lost it once though
652753
you need to end this relationship it is not good for the two of you to keep fighting it will just get worse. it will never get better. let her go now before she gets to attached. Good luck!!!
433308
It's not about IF you fight, it's about HOW you fight. \n\nThere are always going to be dissagreements, you are two different people and you have seperate thoughts. The time of your life right before a wedding can be very stressful, but there are many stressful events in life, you don't want to be duking it out all the time.  But what is most important is the way you fight.\n\nIf you disagree, and both get a little heated holding your own and then make up and let it go.... you are probably fine.  You might want to figure out why you're fighting, if it's communication issues, stuborneness, or temper.  But all of those can learn to be overcome or controlled.\n\nBUT.... if your fighting reduces to name calling, tantrums, wall punching, or hitting then there is a respect issue.  ANd that becomes a problem.  Fights like that are usually the beginning of the end. The issues there go far beyond spats, and will become the walls between you on the way to divorce.\n\nThis is also a good time to evaluate her issues.  Is she starting the fights?  Is it becuase she's not getting her way?  Or is it both your faults?  Is this how she handles stress?  Does she blame you for everything?\n\nMake sure that your sweethearts character is all you thought it would be.  Peoples true self comes out when they are under stress.   \n\nTry and evaluate why you are fighting. If you two are like most couples it's probably working out the communication issues, and every new couple has them.  If you are both mature adults they will work themselves out in time. And you'l be great.  But if there is more to it than that now.... the pressures of marriage, and day to to day life may prove to be more than you bargained for.\n\nGood Luck!  Let us know what happens.
202269
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
1138914
I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)