how can i enjoy more sex with my wife?
441975
Lotions, toys, lots of foreplay and teasing! They do make a gel that prolongs er*ctions and when she blows on it it will tingle and drive you wild. Give her or*l sex with a cough drop in your mouth and that will drive her crazy!
80659
If you want to do this with her, lay out the ground rules in advance, get involved in a local swinger's group, and realize that if she enjoys sex with somebody else, the odds of her leaving you are much, much higher if you swing because you are allowing her to 'shop around', so to speak.  \n\nMost likely you want to do this so you can have sex with other women and aren't thinking about how jealous you could be if you see your wife enjoying sex with somebody else instead of you.  She might also realize how unsatisfied she is by you and your marriage will suffer, especially when the other guy is much more experienced with pleasuring a woman and gives her orgasm after orgasm.  \n\nYour odds of picking up various STDs will also increase.  Remember that a condom will not protect against all of them, such as genital warts, and you could both end up unlucky recipients of STDs that you'll carry the rest of your lives.        \n\nBut if you don't mind all of these factors, go have fun!\nYou might also try just being more adventurous in the bedroom with your wife.  There is a lot you can do together without involving other people that will really spice up your sex life.
52600
First off congratulations on 22 years, that is an incredible feat in today's society.  I can't wait till I hit that mark with my husband.\n\nThere are several courses of action you could take.  If you think  your relationship is strong enough just simply sit her down and tell her how important it is to you that you need a change.  Be honest with her.  Be specific about what you'd like her to do more often.  Give her examples of what you'd like her to try, and make them easy ones at first.\n\nMaybe suggest to her that you see a sex counselor.  I'm guessing that your wife is at least in her low if not mid 40's.  For women of that generation we were told to be sexually free but not how to go about it.  You'd be suprised at how many middle aged women need to even learn the art of self pleasure.\n\nAnother route would be to lead by example.  Set up a romantic evening and introduce a new toy, or a soft core video.  Maybe a massage with some lotion.  Maybe once you help her to discover her sexual self she'll be more open to initiating it.\n\nBe patient and hang in there.
31310
I am not a man, so the best thing I can tell you is this.  If you want to go longer without using some gadget to help you.  When you feel that orgasim coming on, pull out better yet make love for just a little bit then stop.  Notice her breast and neck?  pay close attention to it. Kiss her neck and suck on her breast. Do this over and over until she tells you that she is ready for you to come back inside. When both of you are in the heat of the moment, more than likely you will both come at the same time and pleasure will be for you both.
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Ok, Ive been with my wife since 1997 she had never used sex toys until I got her into them. It is a great way for you or the both of you to increase your sex life and learn new things. Experiment as much as you want! go to Xandria.com they have a nice selection of toys lubes and oils.......\ntry something called the nubby I think it is. Im in the Army and in Iraq and my wife loves that sucker lol \n\nGet your parnter to use them on you. And dont feel ashamed if you just want to go to your room alone and get yourself off, there is nothing wrong with that.\n\nAnother thing you might want to look into if you havent already is Kegel exercises. This will make you able to squeeze in more. And increase your orgasims. Once you learn to do this and either you our your partner plays with your g-spot you can have a female ejaculation (squirt) Which is different feeling from normal orgasims. I had my wife learn this and she and I both love it. \n\nHave fun hope this helped
180580
Try a cock ring or when you are a feeling that sinsation stop for a minute and start fourplay again.  Once the feeling slows down start again.  Also, exercise and eat right.  When your healthy so is your sex life.
473280
Stay. There is sooo much you can do to improve sex. Maybe just talk to him, give him gentle hints. Maybe add some toys or videos. Maybe you both can learn alternate ways to please each other. Go on line, maybe Dr. Ruth has a website that can be helpful.
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if u havent been intimate with ur wife before, then take it slowly the first night. hold her and kiss her. \n\nshe might not be ready to have sex the first night. and the last thing u should do is to insist on it as that will just lead to future problems in both ur sex lives!
519553
Try asking her what turns her on. (I would say find out more about your future mate sexually before tying the knot but that don't always work. So communication is the key!!! Never and I mean never stop communicating!!! You wife may have a kink streak that you haven't known existed!!! Three things: 1) Communication 2) Be open minded 3) Have fun!!\n\nGood luck!!
480851
Yeah my husband does too.  I didn't think about it till it happened.  Now we do it every once in a while so we keep it not boring.  Plus, it's intense sex.  You guys take turns, she can go on and you guys take breaks and watch.  It's live porno and it's you wife which makes you want her more.  I think it's normal.  Enjoy it and have fun!
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Listen, if you aren't comfortable with it then there's a "comfort zone" issue that needs to be discussed calmly w/ your wife.  \n\nDo you masterbate in her absence?  If you answered yes, then it should be no different for her.  The same rules should apply. \n\nFor instance,  women CAN use their fingers instead of a toy...but a toy makes quick work out of it....remember, women take longer to "finish" than men *usually* so for her, it's a quick stress relief when her true love is away.  Same for you I assume.  \n\nWhen you are home however, try encorporating toys into the relationship that you BOTH can use WITH each other...that way you won't feel as "replaced" when you are home. \n\n A vibrator is a safe addition to your bedroom, however, I would NEVER recommend replacing a partner with one... It's one thing to have you gone and use it, it's another to refuse your advances to use a toy while you are ready and willing. \n\nThere are also "Toys for boys"...Check out the GIGI in the just for men section of my site.  Get a "His & Her's" Present (toy for you & her) Don't forget the lube & toys cleanser...no one wants an infection ;)\n\nhttp://www.MyPassionRep.com\n\nGood Luck..and remember, toys are meant to ENHANCE a relationship, open up lines of communication and NOT to replace a partner!\n\nHeather Merritt\nPassion Parties Executive Director\nCar Bonus Achiever\nLeader of Passionate Leaders\nhttp://www.MyPassionRep.com
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My guess is that you're not talking about a day-to-day thing. What you want is for her to get dressed up and for you two to have crazy monkey sex. Awesome.\n\nIf you two talk about your sex life, bring it up during one of those conversations. Say "You know what might be fun to try one time?"\n\nDon't try to change the whole of your sex life in a day. A good guideline is that only 1 in 3 sexual encounters with your partner should be "enhanced" or "special". If you were to start asking her to dress up like a porn star every time you two made love, she would likely feel less than confident.\n\nIf you two are open enough, head on over to a strip club. Buy her a lapdance. I went to a club and got one and it was superfun. I left the club thinking it might be fun to dress up like a stripper sometimes. Your wife might get the same ideas.\n\nHowever, if you bring it up and she says something along the lines of "I'm not a tawdry whore", make it clear that you want her to be beautiful and classy, just like she already is. If she still says no, drop it. The more you pressure her, the more she'll feel like you don't like her for who she is.\n\nMost women will agree to do something that they're not entirely into every once in a while for the sake of their partner. Besides, if you respond enthusiastically, she's more likely to do it again.\n\nGood luck!
520706
You are obviously already attracted to your wife. Why don't you focus on making your wife happy? By satisfying her desires she will be more inclined to satisfy your desires.
164919
THE BEST THING IN ENJOYING SEX IS IN GIVING TRY GIVING HER WHAT SHE WANTS, AND NATURALLY YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT WHEN IT IS YOUR TURN, JUST DON'T BE DEMANDING GIVE IN TO HER FANTASIES, TRY NEW THINGS LIKE NEW POSITIONS EVERY TIME YOU GO FOR THE KILL, COME ON BOY START HITTING THE DECK......
1014721
You need to talk to your wife about this and see what you can do to get her on your level! I know excercise always seems to bring on more energy, especially sexual energy! Maybe she could try this! Keep things exciting and stirred up to keep her interested!
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oh you poor thing...you're not bored\nyou are utterly\n\nE X H A U S T E D \n\nbuy the wife some toys and tell her you just want to watch her once in awhile...maybe that can give you a much needed break and it can also serve to spice things up\n\ngood luck dear and get some rest...\nmy hubbie has the same problem
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Talk to your wife; communication is key.  A healthy sex life starts in your brain!  Ask questions: What are her preferences?  What are your preferences?\n\nContrary to the belief of a great deal of men, a good sex life doesn't just happen.  A good sex life---one that is not selfish on either part---is one that is learned like dance steps to each different song.  You don't do the cha cha to a slow waltz melody and get a very satisfying dance.  So, if you don't learn to dance together, to get each other's rhythm to be as familiar as your own, then "dancing" will be clumsy and usually not very enjoyable for anyone.\n\nBut when you both love the music, you both are familiar with the dance steps, you both know each other's bodies and how they move to the music, then you can feel like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers.\n\nTalk--this is the person you've shared your life with for 36 years; you can talk about anything!  Communicate, listen, and share with each other.  Then put on some music and start learning to dance together.