my life long friend has been seeing my ex-boyfriend?
437969
i dunno but hugs to you you poor thing thats horrible im sorry your going through all that hope it gets better
1138670
He is not cheating on you, but it seems like you need to get your act together and understand that he's not with you just for the papers. You are very special to him, and he is just confiding on an old girlfriend with whom he is just friends with.
481604
I'm sorry that people can be such jerks when all you were doing is checking up on an ex friend through her boyfriend. Next time, just leave it alone.....
799550
if u two have been together for a long time he is not over you, maybe he just wants to be friends with you so that he can do his own thing and you can do your own thing i think you should call and talk to him so that you can see where the two of you stand
566802
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that you are definitely doing better now. Face it. The former boyfriend was using you for one thing only. And you know what that was. If..and that's a BIG  IF, the older guy is using you also, at least, he is making you feel good. He seems to know how to treat you, and, believe me, it's nice to have someone who knows how to treat you!
680546
he just wants to do something with you, and you know what it is!... so its up to you... dont trust your exbf's friends... ever...
763351
Simply, curiousity with a little bit of wonder, maybe even jealousy.  Jealousy is questionable.  However, you don't understand why he was with her and really you don't need to or have to.  You might want to know why they broke up.  You may have deep down fears of them coming back around to each other since you don't understand why they were even together to begin with.  What you should remember is that he is with you and not her now.  If he isn't doing anything to see her, be around her, or have any sort of contact with her you really have nothing to be worried about.  If he is, then have concerns.  If he talks about her etc.  Put it out of your head if those things aren't happening and just enjoy that he is with you.
602047
Ask her if its ok to go out with him. After all, its her ex and its wise to ask as certain people find it unsettling to see their ex's going out with another person already even if its with their best friend. It also depends upon how long they have been seperated. If it was quite long ago, ask her else look out for someone else.
334671
boyfriends come and go, you said one u had a past w/ was one of your friends now, he didnt act like that. this ones not a keeper, your real friends see what we can or dont want to see, they are right, he is controling you , becaus eof him he pushes your choices, the ones that know whats right for YOU are the ones who will beat you up because the sme reasons. beware.. also i have found men who think like that are like that, why would he think that way if he wasnt, im 42 and a hair stylist, i have lived and hear "lifes lessons"
427640
Look You need to rid yourself of this mess . Your so called friend is no friend if she has to email some girl that has no connection to her what so ever and tell her something that will she does not need to know anyway . She is obviously jealous of the new relationship and has no backbone if she can't tell the person she is treating who she is and why she needs to tell her all the crap she has been holding on to from her past relationship . Tell her if she doesn't confess you will tell her ex the truth and get out of this mess .
155353
thay may just be trying to keep your feeling from being hert  after all he is a ex tell your friend how you feel about it all .the good times you had and the bad thing .and then move on
80804
Because he is still in love with her. I apologize, but if the man is spoiling his ex then maybe you need to just be friends for now until he learns his lesson the hard way and comes back to the one good thing that he turned away...
511360
you could tell her well I know that I am ur friend so and I know that he was my ex. But I think that you should stay away there is somebody better out there for you.
525853
i think you should tell your friend cos if you'll are true friends she will know that you are doing this in her best interest i am saying this because my best friends boyfriend was doing the exact same thing to her and i told my friend that she needs to put her foot down and confront her boyfriend cos if he truly loved her he wouldn't treat her that way.  it's harsh but sometimes you have to be firm with the people you really care about.
893032
You don't want your friend to fornicate with your ex, that's understandable, but you're no longer with him so they're gonna do whatever they want. It bothers you because either you're jealous, concerned because you don't want him messing with her heart (if he's the reason you guys broke up), annoyed that she's going for him even though she's well within her rights, or you still got feelings for him. Or maybe you're into your friend? Whatever, get over it, he's not your problem anymore, right?
488114
It depends on the situation. If you were still dating him when they got together, that's messed up and that's not a friend. But if it was an ex boyfriend, I think that's okay. As long as she comes and talks to you first about it. Not asking for permission, just letting you know what her feelings are. That's a true friend. I don't see anything wrong with friends dating other friends exs but they have to remember that friends come first
528983
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!