what do i do when my boyfriend wants to act "cool" infront of his friends?
451825
My husband was that way in his early twenties when we were dating. It's a guy thing. I think they do it to not look like the girl is in control of them. They mature eventually. I would talk to your boyfriend alone and ask him. Do you think you act different when your around your friends? Why do you think your friend teases me?  Say it in a calm and casual way. Just to see what he says. You could even kid around with the guy who teases you about your age and say, by the way your acting you wouldn't know the difference in our age.\n  In the end it seems all boys and young men go through that phase. I learned to give it right back to them. I would like to think they think of you as a friend and they are kidding around. I remember a time when i didn't like joking around or "busting chops" but as i got older and learned how to give it right back. I learned not to be so sensitive, not that you are, and it actually made the guys I hung out with more comfortable around me. There were times when I would give it right back and they would say something that made me a little sensitive and I couldn't think of anything to say and it was at thoughts times when I learned to laugh at myself and say to them "o.k. you got me". I hope i could help. I know exactly what your going through, I was there. I does get better.
416144
Well you got to  reassure him that well you have been with him this long and you only like them as far as friends and nothing else that youre happy to be with him and happy to be only their friends after that just keep him close by when he meets them! You just gotta hope it works out because a lot of boyfriends aren't always cool w/ their g/f having guy friends
940565
I'm afraid it's too difficult to make an assumption unless you ask, or he says so. Because some guys act the same around other girls. Well, there are exceptions. \nGuys who like you want you to notice them first. They flirt, tease, throw stuff at you, etc. Just don't mind them. Try not to take them seriously.\nSincere guys are always there for you. If you come to school in tears, he's one of the ones asking you what's wrong and if he can do anything. He'll listen to your problems. He'll stand up for you even if his friends think that's stupid. He'll try to cheer you up and keep you from boredom. He'll start the conversation.\nOoooh, those guys are hard to come by.....\nAll I can say is wait. \nTry not to jump to conclusions cuz you may be wrong. But keep em close!\nGood luck and have fun!
320375
At 2 months, relationships are generally at their best. You have just spent more time than usually together, and there seems to have been no problems... I think that your boyfriend is just shy: he feels comfortable around his friends, who he knows, but does not feel inclined to be loving and public in front of your friends, who he is not so familiar with. \nThink about it: if he were not proud of you and your relationship, he wouldn't have wanted to spend that much time with you, and he would not be so evident about your relationship in front of his friends. \nTalk to him: let him know you have noticed that behavior (maybe he hasn't), and ask them if there is a reason for it. It seems that the problem is not you, but his shyness. Good luck.
189612
sometimes guys think freaks are cool. Try to act more sweet around him.
611409
No way!\n\nKeep him, it doesn't matter what your friends think!\n\nThat's called peer pressure, and that's stupid!\n\nStay with him girl!\n\nHugs,\nkitties_n_llamas(Becca)
895635
don't put your self done! i am going throw the same problem its like every tome he is around me he is so polite and dreamy and cool but when he is around his others friends he dose not want to talk to me! but ever one said that he told them he likes me but it really dose seem like it dose ask on of your friends that can kip a secret to find out how he likes but don't get to cared away with it. i did and i cried for weeks! but i hope you have really good luck and just don't let him break your heart! good luck :)
955920
I live in socal, and while those things are the norm for a lot of people out here, they do not define cool in any way shape or form. If your friend wants to be cool, tell him to just be himself and his "coolness" will come from there. The things you mentioned are just that...things. You can buy, rent, or borrow anyone of those listed, but like I said, "cool" comes from within. Good luck to your friend.
521477
Do NOT tell all your friends to "stay away" from your boyfriend.  This is called possessiveness; it's both unattractive and disrespectful.\n\nTake it as a compliment that your guy is so attractive to your friends.  Now, if one of your friends takes her flirting too far, have a private talk with her.  If your boyfriend is truly loyal to you, his loyalty is what matters most.
760521
Sounds like he just wanted to hang out with a friend... and this would probably go over nicely with you if you liked his friends. People's friends reflect who they are. I think the issue here is, are you willing to accept your boyfriend, and his friends, the way they are? He has something in common with these friends and that is why they hang out together. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boyfriend with friends you truly liked? Don't pick a fight about this.. it is who he is. What is there to fight about? I'd take a long, good hard look at your companion and decide if he's offering you what you want.
1143457
Although I have yet to have a true boyfriend I do read tons of magazines and many have had articles about these kind of situations.\nYou should talk to him about it.  This does not mean to just casually throw it in while you are together but to actually sit him down and tell him what you are feeling.\nHe probably says these things because he feels as if you are spending to much time with your friend and not a lot with him.\nSo I suggest setting aside a specific time just for you to spend with him.\nThis does not mean ignoring your friends.  You are allowed to have your own life outside of the relationship just as he is allowed to.
519650
Best thing would be to talk about it with him.  If he has that big of an ego he will correct his behavior and be more into it with you.  Let him know when he is doing things right by becoming more passionate and louder.
482925
If you want it to work out you should say what you mean that is nice and ask him to call you sometime and tell him to not avoid you and tell his  friends the real stuff you didn't say that was nice and also ask your boyfriend to go to the movies with you."
262292
You're friend may be jelouse so what I would do is believe your boyfriend. If he care about you then he wouldn't be lieing to you.
866096
its ok if your too nice sometimes but other thime like this just turn around and be like''hey i need a little space its cool to hang out with you guys but i kind of want a little time for my othe friends to'' i mean tell them yall can still hang out just not all the time it might be a shock to them but the'lll get use to it trust me
173359
Easy. Do not flirt around as if you are despo. Play it cool and easy. Indulge yourself and do things to grab his attention. When he is with others, quietly join the group and indulge in the conversation. Make some smart comments, try to show a bit of attitude. Believe me this works.
337648
You totally need to be a few things...\n1) confedent\n2) cute but comfy\n3) know what you'll say (you need to know what you'll say in different ways he'll react)\n\nPractice how the convo might go in front of close friends like one or more of BFFs.\n\nYou don't have to be for sure he likes as in gf-bf ways he could go out with you and not crush you\n\nAlso remeber just friends is okay.\n\n                     GOOD LUCK! :)