Why do my fiance and I fight?
449070
There could be a million reasons.  As far as kisses, why do you have to ask.  Just go up and plant one on him.  If you feel that you fight over stupid stuff, then every time you get upset with him, just ask yourself... \n\n1. Will this matter next week?  \n\n2. Will this change anything in our relationship?  \n\n3. Do I love him enough to learn to accept (whatever it is that has you buggin) it? \n\n Next time you feel like fighting, give him a kiss and pull him into the bedroom.  If he picks the fight, just tell him "I love you too much to fight with you, so if this means that much to you then fine, you're right."\n\nLife's too short to sweat the small stuff.
19053
i think the arguing is a clue that there is a lack of love somewhere. remember actions speak louder than words. only you will know if he truly loves you or not
257189
Fighting in a relationship is normal, but it should not be the norm.  Before you chase after him make sure the good times out-weigh the bad.  It sounds like your relationship might be slightly abussive (not physically, but mentally).  \n\nMoney will always be a tense subject in the world, but respect should not be.  He should respect you, just as you respect him.
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
132635
You probably care for your girlfriend very much and it hurts you when you argue with her. You should really try and prevent this aruging so your realtionship doesn't shatter and either one of you get hurt.
428596
If you love him find a way to work this out  get counciling if necessary but stop the fighting.  Life is so very short and you have a lot less time to be together than you might think.  \n\nMy husband died 4 months ago and I regret ever moment spent angry and argueing I would give anything, do anything to be able to have an arguement with him.  If you love forget the rest and hold on to each other while you still have the chance.  You will not care one bit if you bowed down to him alive once that man dies and leaves you a brokenhearted widow.
139897
Marriage is a big decision.  Perhaps your fight has caused him to reexamine the relationship.  This is a good thing -- if more people slowed down and examined their relationships to determine whether or not they were compatible before jumping into marriage, we might have a lower divorce rate.  What he is doing is being cautious and you can't fault him for that.  He still cares for you.  He just wants to make sure you are the one.
364042
If you are arguing this badly, you need some help. Who is starting the arguments you or her? If its her maybe she is really insecure, or isn't happy. If its you, are you happy? If you really do love her, and want to make it work, i would get in touch with relate, and talk to someone. You can do this either on your own or together. If you do it on your own she may not be happy and see it as a betrayal. If you want to do it together, talk to her about it, cos she may feel uncomfortable about it. Good luck!
593728
Maybe because when you love someone, you tend to notice every single thing they do - be it big or small. Everything they do is important to you, which is why a small mistake may cause a  fight.
1030524
If you are getting married, then you probably love him. Feeling bad for arguments is normal... and healthy.\n\nmake your apologies IF you feel they are due and then, leave it behind. You two have a whole life ahead of you and there WILL be days like this for both of you in the future.\n\nBest of luck :)
157536
Often times, arguments over "little things" are merely a symptom of a bigger issue.  Before getting married, the two of you need to sit down and have a real, in-depth discussion of what your concerns and expecatations are.  There need to be some ground rules for this discussion:\n\n1) No personal attacks - e.g. You always do or say...  Make the issue about you. e.g. I feel that...\n2) Listen to the other person without interupting.\n3) Keep the discussion focussed on the issue at hand, don't drag other issues into the discussion.\n4) After one person finishes, give the other a chance to respond and listen to what they have to say.\n5) No raised voices.  The louder the volume, the less that will be heard.\n\nIf the two of you start fighting and things are escelating, it is OK to stop the argument and wait until tempers have cooled before resuming the discussion.  However, it is critical that the conversation RESUME.  Walking away because you or your partner are angry and never returning to resolve the issue will only result in simmering anger that will pop up over something as stupid as leaving a door open or a misplaced piece of paper, etc.\n\nFinally, I recommend pre-marital counseling for all engaged couples.  You may think that you and your partner see eye to eye on all issues but you will be surprised at the differences that are revealed in counselling.
318331
You've got to be able to discuss your differences and share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it has to be fighting.\n\nSometimes our communication styles just aren't compatible.
263805
You just need to work on it. Every time you feel like complaining, think of one complaint she might have at that time. I am very attentive to my fiance's needs and he is not so attentive to mine all the time - I just work harder to be more attentive to his needs in hopes he will be more attentive to mine sometimes.
256444
You are both individuals, like everyone else and being an individual you are going to have your differences.\n\nTo be in a relationship and to love and respect each other, you must accept each other's differences and different point of views as they should yours.\n\nfighting/arguing is normal in a heatly relationship, but it depends what you are fighting about all the time. If it is about the same thing each time, then you know where the problem lies.\n\nIf you are fighting about something different each time, then maybe you need some time apart and re-evaluate what you both want from each other.\n\nIf you are fighting because one of you just decided to pick a fight or just to be awkward, then maybe you need some time away from each other.
968032
Do you want to be in a relationship where you always argue or just argue occasionally?\n\nIf you're not happy and fighting all the time just move on.\n\nIf you can do better you should.
512698
BUT NOTHING! There's no sense and no reason to go through life arguing and unhappy! Gurl, life is too short! You need to figure out WHY you two argue so much! Figure that out then find out how to eliminate it. Second, no one ever accomplished anything arguing. As women we know men know how to push buttons (and visa verse), but we make a mistake, by giving them what they want a retaliation against them, they win! Next, time you two get into it, if it person walk off on the phone say you know what I'm going to talk to you later and hang up. If you still continue to argue after taking this advice. I don't know what to say except maybe it's best to split. Some ppl just can't be together. Communication is essential and discovering out the root cause of the problem and eliminating it is key. Good Luck to you both!
905725
i dont think ur doing anything wrong. maybe its just him. maybe hes cahnge over the years and try not to start the fights. wen fighting arises change the subject and try to have fun.