I have a problem. My girlfriend cheated on me while I was in Iraq. We continue to talk, should I take her back
444807
First of all Thank you for serving our country! If you want to save this relationship you will have to work on the trust issue. But I would be concerned about her cheating again. Follow your heart.
1006104
Wow this is a hard one, First you cant expect her to forgive you right away.\nShe's probably still hurt at the thought of you cheating. I mean she just had a baby. She's probably got a lot of things going through her head. Its good that you want to make an effort to get back together. I think you have to work harder on that eye-balling other girl thing you got going on. You wouldn't like It if she was checking out other guys. Put yourself in her place. Would you accept her if she cheated on you. Just give it some time and try to assure her that you want her and only her. If you really want this to work out, you gotta really work to keep your relationship. You love her don't you. Be a man and get your Sh*t together. Remember you're the one that messed up, you got to make her feel like you really want to work it out.
212373
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
1170862
Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
367276
asuming of course that ur man cheated, i`m kinda curious about the details of the infidelity, however it is common for a man who cheated to do it again, i know i have! yes i`m am a pig and i don`t deserve my girlfriend, and i know that to be certain... still she wants to be with me, go figure.  I`ve told her every single detail, and had given her a way out u know a choice!  she didn`t want it, i still enjoy a lot of her character and sense of humor and we get along just fine... except for the above.
727890
This is his issue, he needs to resolve this one himself...He needs to know tho, that not everyone is the same.  Because he was cheated on before doesn't mean it will happen again.  What you need to do is move on, as hard as it may seem at the present moment, in the long run it will be fore the better.  Just know this is not you, its him and don't wait, he will come back with the same issues.  \nI was in the military and i have seen oh so many times relationships end because of one or the other cheating and heck how do you know he wont cheat? it works both ways...If he really truly loves you maybe you can work things out but, know this trust is number one in a healthy relationship, no trust, no relationship....He really needs to fix himself before getting involved with anyone....
173926
If you still love her and she still loves you very much...then forgiveness is key.  Most times when a woman cheats, there is something missing in the relationship.  You may want to communicate with her indepth to find out what she is missing.  Hopefully you would be able to provide it for her.
1047945
The relationship ended for a reason.  Has that reason changed?  In my opinion you want her back because you don't think she is obtainable.  If you got her back you would dump her shortly after you got her.  So why don't you do yourself and her a favor and leave her alone.  You will fall in love again and you will forget about your ex g/f I can guarantee it.
308882
I went through this, but the guy cheated on me. I still have anger for him, which happened a little over 3 years ago, my current boyfriend though the same way your girlfriend is think about the anger. You need to tell your girlfriend that you have anger built up towards her because what she did was wrong and you can't forgive her for that. But one thing I do suggest is that when your around your girlfriend don't mention anything about your ex cheating on you, pretend you don't even know who she is now. It is hard but trust me it pays off in the long run. I know don't even think about my ex cheating on me, because I love my boyfriend now and I'm happy with him. Just talk to your girlfriend and tell her exactly how you feel about the whole situation.
507084
The choice is all yours. If you feel you can trust your wife than go for it if not than tell her she done screwed up. She's returning for a reason maybe she knows your involved with another woman and that made her jealous or maybe her parter that she left you for left her and she feels alone. Let her know you will remain her friend but thats about it. Either way just remember she cheated once she may do it again. Good Luck.
746496
take note:she was ur ex girlfriend..so it doesn't really matter if she dates another guy.. if u decide to take her back remember that u don't trust her.. so why invest or taking her back? u will go on the same cycle when u were with her....probably ur just bothered coz she moved on already while u r not.. \nit's normal.. try to get urself busy.. go out with friends and please try to forget her.. it won't do good for you.. i know u can do it.. so good luck
865947
Ok you kinda screwed up but you have to let this go. She obviously cares for you and trusts you she is back with you. Don't take this wrong but maybe you should just talk to a professional about this. You need to let it go because it will eat at you and eventually becaome an obsatcle to you being together. Find someone you can trut to talk this out, forgive yourself and enjoy your time with your special lady! life is too short my friend to do anything else!
120749
Wow if I was your girlfreind I would be upset. I might even dump you for that. Technically it IS cheating. All I can say is, big mistake. Don't do it again.\n\nIf you love her, take responsibility. You were wrong. Don't try to defend yourself or justify it. You cheated. Admit you made a mistake, ask for forgiveness, and don't ever do it again. Learn from your mistake and change. That's right, change. Become the type of person who is faithful and who would never hurt someone they love. Doesn't your girlfriend deserve that? Yes you can do it. Also understand from a girl's perspective, it hurts. If she doesn't dump you, count yourself extremely lucky and be thankful for what you have.
466374
Confront her. If she really is cheating, dump her. I'm sure you deserve someone much better than her. She's not worth your time. You deserve someone who will support you when you're away and not be talking to other guys. \n\nP.S. Thank You for serving our country. :)
256282
If you don't trust her things aren't going to get any better between the two of you.  My ex lied to me about something HUGE and when he was caught he apologized and I took him back but I NEVER trusted him again and it led to me breaking up with him again.  You deserve to be with someone that you can trust and that respects you.  The best thing that you can do is end this now and stop dragging it out.  The longer that you drag this out the harder that it is going to be on both of you.
1024572
Babe, \n\ni must say as a woman myself i am surprised you took her back. If i ever cheated on my boyfriend i would expect him 2 finish with me. \n\nIf she cheated on you once there is a reason for it and alcohol's  not an excuse. And do you honestly think her mates would not lie for her?? come on you have pals you know how it works. They always say when someone cheats once they will most definitely do it again.\n\nMake a break, stop driving yourself mad the trust is obviously gone.
776856
think about the reasons you spilt up.   if you got back together it could all repeat it self  i would stick with the new girlfriend never go backwards move forward   good luck