how can one stay focused and change his life?
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Have you seen the movie, Apollo 13?  There's a part in the movie where they have no instruments to use but they want to make sure they're going the right direct.  They end up saying, "how about we just keep the earth in our window. Would that keep us on course?" \n\nSame idea holds true for us.  If we keep God, and everything he's done for us including his son, in the middle of our life's "window" then we can more easily stay going in the right direction.  Now, in order to do this you have to know who God is, you have to know what all he has done for you, and you have to know his word.  Once you know the basis of these things, always strive to learn more. The more we learn, the more we love and appreciate and will WANT to keep God in the middle of our life's "window."
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Here are some suggestions of things you could do to keep busy but not have to go too far from home:\n*Foster care for pets who are waiting for adoption.\n*Take college courses online (to keep your mind sharp)\n*Start a discussion group (on Yahoo groups or other) for people who are in a similar situation as you.\n*Learn a new skill or hobby (dog training?)\n*Humanitarian efforts such as making clothing, blankets, etc for people in other countries.\n\nThink about what you really like to do, what your interests are, OR what you would like to learn to do. There are a lot of options...don't become a recluse, you will not have a happy life and I don't think that's what your husband would have wanted you to do.\n\nGood luck! :)
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It takes a great deal of strength to stay focused, optimistic and strong in unfriendly circumstances.  You have to 1) Believe in yourself; be confident, 2) Keep in mind the real reason for being there whether it is family, friends or buisness and 3) Remember that it too, in time, shall pass.  The circumstances won't last forever or you will not be in them forever.\n\nIt is not easy at all to do these 3 things.  Prepare yourself before entering into the circumstances and remember to BREATE when you begin to feel the strain.
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stay put on your focus and set beside the other things. Try to work on a silent and peaceful place. Avoid the temptations that would be a destruction  to your work.
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surround yourself with positive thoughts. set simple daily goals that you can achieve. stick to a routine as much as possible. give yourself a compliment at least twice a day. write things down in a planner or journal to help you stay focused. and if all else fails... seek professional help. depression is nothing to play around with. sometimes we need outside help and that's okay.
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GreatMan, I don't think that you can change yourself, but I have a great idea, why don't you become a Procrastinator and wait a few days and see what happens, if you change than "good on you mate" if not than you were correct all the time, but waiting will be the best path to take.
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For one thing, focus on what you want to achieve or what you are supposed to be doing at the moment. Eliminate all distractions.  Concentration is a discipline of the mind so it does take practice especially since we have so many distractions these days.  Try meditation to improve your concentration.
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Meditation is the best answer. Chose a quiet place and start concentrating on your breath, you will be distracted dont worry again concentrate on your breath only on that, i tried this and it worked for me do this daily for 20 mins your charm will back dude............
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Keep mind thoughtless.\nDon't condemn others.\nDo good exercise.\nAvoid sex or sexy thoughts if you are a student. Preserve your semen.\nKeep habitual to problem solving.
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Find what interests you and do more of it.  Focus on your goals and what you want to accomplish in life.
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evaluate, prioritize, organize\n\nSit down and write down your schedule for each day. Figure out if there is anything that you can take out of your schedule, combine with something else to give you more time, etc. Also, decide if spending time with your friends or resting is more important than anything you are currently doing.\n\nCan you shift your schedule a bit? These evening commitments - can they become every-other-week commitments?\n\nLife can be overwhelming at times but if you really look at what is a priority and what isn't, maybe you can find a way to fit in some fun.
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pick up a new hobby, work hard at work, focus on something new
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Meditation.\n\nThis can be the only solution to your problem. I have \n\nsolved my problem with meditation. We forget advices \n\nvery easily. If you keep taking people's advice about how \n\nto concentrate on your studies you will never come to any \n\nsolution. You will just think like, ok! I will do this. Most \n\nprobably, the next day you will forget because \n\nEVERYBODY hates to CHANGE unless THINGS \n\nCHANGE US. Very people knows how TO CHANGE \n\nTHINGS.\n\nRemember! sometime THINGS chooses US and \n\nsometime WE CHOOSE THINGS. Which is better?\n\nI dont know.\n\nTry meditaion. Meditate yourself and self-talk or give \n\nauto-suggestion to yourself repeatedly and repeatedly.\n\nFor your reference, about how to meditate. Visit:\n\nwww.tm.org\nwww.silvamethod.com\nwww.quanfey.org\n\nand some books on meditaion.\n\n\nMeditation is DOING something for improvement and \n\nlistening to advice is trying to do something for \n\nimprovement. Tell me which is better. Trying or just sit \n\nand start doing?\n\nTake action now.\n\nNow! go, do it!\n\nGoodLuck!
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You need to find a motivating factor...\nAsk yourself if it's worth it to become a more organized person with a greater control of yourself and your surroundings or a person that lets the world rain on him all the time...\nNo retreat...no surrender...in anything\nAwaken the sleeper...\nBe the best you that you can be...
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only way to change is to get yur a$#@ in gear and do a little work on the books!!It ain't that hard! just takes a little gumption and discipline? it is all in how you look at the problem?
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start each day with the thought you are alive and have a day to do whatever you want to do\n\nif your husband leaves to work before him, give him a sloppy kiss\n\ndo some quiet meditation before you sleep\n\nbe a minimalist and try not to accumulate, be more conscious about the beauty of nature\n\nread an interesting book, have a fun conversation, and meet someone you always wanted to meet, if you do this regularly you wuld have a happy life\n\noh yeah - don't read the newspapers and don't watch TV - they only have ads - of things you should have which you don't have or miserable stories around the world about bombs and killings
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Focus on what you are doing and realize when your mind starts wandering. You have to keep bringing your self back to your self. And stop the daydreaming!