Have you ever been with someone when he or she died?  How did you react?  What did you feel?  what did you do?
450118
I watched a man die from a heart attack. He looked me in the eye and said "I'm going to die now, ain't I". I said something lame like "no you hang in there, help is on the way."  But I knew better as he was in so much pain and death seemed to hoover over him like an ominous cloud. Do you understand what I am saying, HE LOOKED ME IN THE EYES. I looked into the eyes of death. I tried to comfort him, and just as the paramedics arrived, he died holding my hand. I will never forget that night or that moment. I cried, and then I thanked God for life and vowed to get the most I could out of life before my time came. And I prayed that when my time did come that there would be someone to hold my hand.
122061
My father died when I was 23 years old.  I had not seen him since I was 7 years old, when he was being hauled off to jail.  He then was in prison until I was 20 years old.  At 20, I then contacted him and wanted to get to know him.  I left the ball in his court, and that is where it stayed.  When I found out that my dad died, I laughed and thought no big deal, I hadn't seen the man in 16 years.  I chose to go to the funeral and see if he ever talked about me or if anyone knew about me, (I have 7 siblings).  Sure enough everyone at the funeral knew of my 7 siblings and the other one but no one could remember my name.  Ironically, I have the same name as my dad.  I blew it off as if it was no big deal.  Two days after the funeral, it hit me.  I cried and was very depressed.  I later found out the reason that my father didn't want anything to do with me because I was close to my mother (I am the youngest daughter).  I also found out that my mother was the reason that my father and I did not keep contact.  \nSo back to the question.  I think my father's death has made me grow up.  I have come to the realization that my mother is not an angel.  I can not fathom why a mother would try to keep a child's father from her children.  My daughter's father and I do not get along at all.  But nothing in the world would make me keep him from seeing out daughter.  The rejection that I felt, the anger that I felt, and the loniness that I felt taught me that parents (no matter how bad) need to be involved with their children's life.
648455
My best friend was my sister kay, we were only 18 monthes in age apart. At the age of 21, kay got shot through her heart by her boyfriend. It was over cocaine. She started using in october and by january she was dead. I had made a pact with her when we were young teenagers that if there was anyway to communicate with the dead whoever died first would try. We agreed to sing the song free bird by lynard skinner to the person dead also. Well that memory came back the night she got killed, so the first viewing morning I went to the funeral home early, and was with our best friend that had been in on the pact made. We went up to her casket and we song free bird very low and when we were done, we were both crying of course. We watched and saw nothing. So we left and went outside, the funeral director came out a few minutes later and said that they would have to close the viewing room for awhile. I asked why and he said that there had been a problem, I said what kind of problem, he said this has never happened before and said that her left eye lid had opened up. I said what do you meann, he said they seal them closed with wax. And hers had opened and not only opened but a vien had surfaced, and was quite noticable right under the skin of her eye lid. I know it was her letting me know that she had kept her end of the pact. And that she could and did communicate after she was dead. But its been 25 years ago, and I am still coping with an incrediable empty hole in my heart for my sweet, sweet \nsister. I will see her again though, she's waiting at home for me in heaven..
347820
You should feel the way you feel, and not how anyone else tells you to feel.  That's the only possible answer. If you worry about a lack of feeling upon this persons death, you must understand the psychological shock of such an incident.  It takes time to come to grips with it. If you were truly close to this person, the grief and pain WILL come-believe me.  The most important thing is not to repress it.  You must let it come, you must grieve, and you must deal with it.  Don't ignore it, or bottle it up.  Let yourself feel it.  To ignore it is to harm yourself, and disrespect the memory of your lost one. God bless, and my condolences.
663114
I promised this guy friend of mine that I would take him on a picnic.  He's a bit of an odd duck and I didn't know him very well when we jokingly talked about a picnic, and the next thing I know, we're seeing more of each other and now it's a promise, but I keep blowing it off or coming up with some excuse...and then he died.  \n\nI'm going to find out where his ashes are and go have a picnic with him there.
491071
Yes, I talk to my Dad all the time, I sense his answers, and I feel him around me quite often. I don't know for sure that it is him - your mind can do some strange things when you are grieving. But, I have had some strange experiences that I can't account for since he died. One time, one of the things I sensed him saying to me was, "DON'T GO OUTSIDE!" I was about to go to bed, and I was going to go get something off my porch when I "heard" or sensed this. It kind of freaked me out, so I just went staight to bed. The next day when I went to go to work, I found that my car had been broken into and burglarized. So... I think that we have souls, and I don't know whether we can be around our loved ones or not once we die, but that's my story. All I know is that death can only kill the body - it can't kill love.
622696
Yes.  A very close friend had been admited to the hospital with pneumonia and complications from his bone marrow transplant.  I woke up on a Wednesday morning feeling really bad and the bracelet he gave me broke.  I tried telling myself i was imagining things, but the next day, his roommate cxalled to tell my that my friend had passed away 10 minutes before I woke up. Ive had other premonitions too, but that stands out the most.
411694
My husband and I were married for just short of 4 years and together for a total of 12 when he passed away. Having been widowed for just over a year, I feel that I am at least qualified to offer my opinion on this subject. \n\nI have just started to think about dating here in the last month. It is difficult to say the least and you do have a tendency feel as though you are cheating on your spouse. \n\nThat being said, you have to think about what your husband would have wanted for you...would he really want you to spend the rest of your life pining away for him? And should the shoe have been other foot, what would you have wanted for him? These questions we must ask ourselves. \n\nAll things come in good time and grief and grieving are no exception it can take years to heal or it can take months, alot depends upon the type of death, be it unexpected or terminal illness. \n\nComing from the perspective of terminal illness, I can honestly say that a lot of my grieving was done prior to the actual event taking place. That, however does not mean that I don't miss my husband, I do, daily. But, we had these conversations for over 2 years and I knew what he wanted me to do. He felt I was too young and vibrant to spend the rest of my life alone and made me promise that when I felt ready, I would seek out another relationship. And to me, that spoke volumes regarding the depth of his love for me.
496798
I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
483723
Many times.When my first boyfriend and I broke up. When my husband cheated on me. When my sister died at 46. When my brother died at 36. When my mother died. Two weeks ago when my son-in-law was diagnosed with cancer at 28. One night when I was having chest pains and didn't think I would live to see the next day. Many other times too. through out my life. I just say to my self. This to shall pass. I wish I knew more about whats going on with you. So maybe I could help. Some of the questions people ask are to vague. We need more details. Sorry life is hard for you.Right now.
331553
I've had a near death experience at a young age or 2 yrs. Ever since I've seen my dead brother talking to me. When my mother died I saw her playing with my very quiet children. My son has ADHD so that was unnerving to me. When I called out my mothers name she turned faced me and smiled. I paniced and ran down stairs and tried to call home. No answer and I felt sick inside. A couple hours later my sister called and told me of my mothers passing. But, before she could tell me what was wrong I responded that mom's dead huh. It freaked her out and me too.\n   It's a cool and humbling experience at the same time.
390778
My dad died a few months before your dad did.  He had lung cancer that spread throughout his body.  I was there with him when he died, as was my mom and the hospice nurse.  I can feel your pain.  All I can tell you is what I believe.  I believe my dad heard me when I told him that it was time for him to go; that I would take care of my mom.  He heard me and knew that I loved him.  The pain will never entirely disappear, but it gets easier.  There are difficult weeks and months (anniversary of his death, his birthday, holidays), but overall it gets easier.  I will tell you that if it is not getting easier by this point, you may be stuck in the grief process and would benefit from talking to someone, a counselor or minister perhaps.\n\nMy heart goes out to you!
699121
First of all I want to say I am sorry for the loss of your father, It is always very difficult to lose someone so dear to us.\n\nI would like to share with you this really amazing experience I had  a few years ago.  I awoke from my sleep,  and from the early morning light in the bedroom I could tell it was about 4:30 in the morning.  I remember seeing the bedroom door and the dresser from where I was laying in my bed, my bf was sleeping beside me, I could hear him breathing.  \n\nThen all of a sudden this man's form gradually appeared beside my bed!  I remember being a little frightened at first, but at the same time feeling rather strange and ab it curious,  I remember looking at his face and noticed that his eyes were black and piercing, he looked a little curious himself but I would not say he looked happy or friendly, he was just staring right at me.  I noticed that he was wearing a checkered shirt, and that he seemed like a  big man.\n\nIt was within a few seconds that we were just staring intently at each other, when I ever so slightly tried to nudge my bf to wake him up.....the split second that I did that I noticed that this apparition's eyes darted over to my sleeping bf, he than quickly drizzled away right before my very eyes!\n\nI woke up my bf and jumped up and turned the lights on.   I explained everything that had just happened in detail.  \n\nHe said it may have been the man that had just died a year before of cancer, and  that he lived in the suite below. (it was a 3 level house that was a rental, and he was the owner that lived on the main level with his wife).   \n\nThis has never happened to me again, I have never been visited  by this person since than.\n\nI believe that your father knows how much you love him and that he watches over you like an Angel.  I believe that our loved ones that go before us just know how much we loved and cared for them.  \n\nAs to your question "is it possible to make contact with the dead"?  I suppose it is possible, but I would be very careful, because I have also been taught that while trying to make contact you can also open up the channels for bad spirits to enter into your life as well.\n\nTake care and remember God comforts those that mourn, and that he is always there for you all you have to do is call on him.\n\nGod bless you and your family
3321
yes, i have.\nshortly after my grandmother passed away, which i had a very hard time with. i had a dream in which she came to me and said that i needed to let her go and that she waould stay with me this one last night but then i needed to say good bye. the next morning when i woke up she was standing at the end of my bed i reached for her, but she was gone. i have not seen her since. some people say i was still dreaming and who knows i might have been, but in my heart i believe she was there with me.
835930
Vacation with parents.  No question.  My father is dead.  My mother has alzhiemers.  After my father had died I would take my mother with us on vacation for a number of years.  She loved it.  I miss them both very much.  I feel sorry for people who don't get along well with their parents.  When they are gone, they are gone forever.
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It really depends on the beliefs of the individual. If they are religious, talk to them about their beliefs about the afterlife. If they are worried about how their actions in life may affect their disposition after death, recall for them (if possible) their good works and deeds. If they believe in God, remind them of the principles of divine forgiveness. If they're not religious, ask them about their beliefs. Reassure them of their impact on your life. If you're there at their bedside, I assume they've touched you somewhat, somehow.\n\nThis is not a time to hold a grudge. If you have a disagreement with them, try to forgive. Remember you will have to live with yourself after the other person is gone. Let them know you will remember them fondly. Recall good times with them to help ease their pain.
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My husband.  He's still here, but he's unavailable.  He got sick and is depressed.  Nothing seems to help.\n\nHow do you grieve someone who sits across the table from you?\n\n(Thanks for answering my question.  When I read your question and answered it, I knew I needed to ask mine.)