Long distance relationship, how can i maintain it?
455127
I'll be honest with you long distance relationships suck, but it you are truly in love they are worth it, the key to making a long distance relationship work is trust, communication, honesty and you have to have faith in the person you are with.  You have to spend every minute you are with the person like it is the last time you are going to see them.  It is hard and it is alot of work, it means alot of lonely nites, but in the long run it can be an amazing relationship.
431909
Ask yourself if you really love her. Long distance relationships are really hard. If you can't keep it together because she is so far away, then end it. Love requires sacrifice
250033
I agree with pretty much every one on this page except the ones who say that long distance relationships DON'T work! C'mon.. be more positive!\n\nBTW, thank you for annswering my question and I am glad that I helped you :D.
1121246
If you dont communicate you will never know what is going on there. Secondly it seems you stated it is a long distance relationship which is hard itself and without communication it will not work bottom line. Secondly trust is very inportant in any relationship and it seems liek neither of you have that so I believe you both need to have a heart to heart look at where you both stand as well as where it is goign and if it is worth it. If neither of you are ready to trust and also be willing to talk about things it will nto work bottom line
98247
it all depends on how commited you are to him. long distance relationships aren't easy. talk to him about it. be sure you cover every possible situation. and KNOW exactly how you feel about him. it takes two to make a relationship work.
852086
Long distance relationship hardly works.
703636
what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
457666
long distance relationships are really hard to hold together but if you try hard enough it'll be alright.  i had a boyfriend that lived in germany because he was in the army.  i really thought he could be faithful to me because the whole time while he was gone, i def was.  i mean, it might not be big but i read some stuff on this girl's profile that left a comment on his myspace and it was pretty discusting.  that just let me know that he really wasn't that into me and that it just wasn't meant to be.  good luck girl.  sometimes it does work out; just very seldomly.  ♥ a l y s e
1095786
I've done the long distance thing..  You two are doing everything right in my book anyways.. lol.  My advise is to stay busy with friends.  That way the time will go by faster.
671680
My boyfriend and I were friends for less than a year when we started dating. The entire time we have known each other has been spent more apart than together.\nA long distance relationship can work if both people are committed to each other. It's hard work and requires a lot of openness but it's possible to make a long distance relationship work.
231708
Long distance relationships are the worst and the hardest. Are you sure you can be faithful to him? Are you sure you will be faithful to him? My advice? Remain friends and see other people. The longer the distance the harder the heart aches.
756941
My cousin had a long time relationship with this girl, he's from Canada and she's from the States. They meet over the Internet and now their married and still in love. I had a long distance relationship and it wasn't that hard to deal with as long as you don't go crazy with a "what if" in the back of your mind and trust your heart that every word spoken is true. Now we live together and I still love him even more then before, and am excited for the years to come. I say if it feels good, and you both can handle the distance between the two of you, give it a try and see as the days go by.
157611
Ok, realise that there are BENEFITS to  having a long distance relationships such as the honeymoon effect... Now send her a daily email, chat with her cam2cam,send her letters/cards via snail mail----- communicate when you are apart... Good Luck...
138700
I have a very simple but effective solution. Faith & trust that this relationship will work !!!! if u r possitive & dont crib about silly lil stuff, it will become stronger .... i agree that distance kills BUT distance also craves for more !!!!!!!!!!! have faith in some1 u luv n trust God n u will soon be in his / her arms !! Cheers ... God bless
197450
Long distance relationships can be very exciting because there is no routine. Each time you see him it is something special. Just the frequency needs to change. Enjoy it as long it lasts. You will notice when this relationship is ready for the next step. If you don´t see any progress at all you need to decide whether you want him as a platonic friend and whether you want to look for somebody else...
984657
Prepare for a long distance relationship and hope he wants to keep it going too.
814505
Communication is the most important thing in a realitionship like that and the second thing is trust. If you don't have those two things it makes no sense to try.\n\n\nI have been in two LDRs in my life, the first lasted 2 yrs. I was in Jamaica he was in the US for a part of it. We both ended up having to move, I moved to the US and he moved to England. \nWe kept that relationship alive through e-mails, letters, IMs Random phone calls. \nThe second lasted almost 2 yrs and probably would have lasted much longer if communication didn't break down. I used to see him every 3-4 months for month. I was in the US and He as in SA. (don't ask). \n\nIn neither of the LDRs did i find myself in a fight b/c of the distance but it's possible. Try to talk more remind him that each day a way is one day closer to seeing you again. When you do talk try to talk about things other than "I love you" and  "I miss you" or anythign related to that. It makes life harder. Try to talk about things which interest each of you. Simple things liek how your day was. Or random none personal things like politics, books, just stuff.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps. one thing I just to do send a puzzle ( a gift that i was sure the guy couldn't figure out) it had to relate to either a memory I had of him or somethign related to the relationship. Once he got it generally sparked a conersation and not make him miss me as bad as he did.