Why do men hesitate to ask women out?
454550
they are afraid... to be put down, rejected, thought less of. pity really, i usually go for the intellectual girls my self and don't succeed... they seem to prefer the jocks... oh well.\n\n-----\n\nit doesn't seem desperate on your part. they're just flustered and in shock probably. if you know anything about the guy then you can use that as an opener... this way he knows the subject matter and will have something to fall back on. if he continues to act flustered and walk away then you'll either have to try harder to get his attention (if you are determined to persue this guy) or start thinking about getting a new subject to go after.
1041418
I have been a guy since i can remember  and when a girl asked me out I always was very impressed that she was asking me and not me asking her .  For a guy just that is most of the battle Ask very directly like hello hey I would like to know if you would enjoy a nice dinner together or whatever you prefered be blunt with men we dont like the flimsy ones.
602067
It means he wants to ask you out but is afraid of rejection. If you say that you would say yes, then he will ask you out. If you say you would not go out with him, then he knows not to ask you. Basically he's asking you out, without asking you out first.
809160
When I was dating, the guys usually asked at the end of the first date.  If he didn't, I would ask.  I would say something like, "I had a nice time and I was wondering if we could get together again".  I always got a good response of yes, but there were a few no's.\nThese days a guy doesn't mind if a girl asks him out.\n\nHere's a tip:\nIf the guy says he'll call you and acts fidgety, take it with a grain of salt because he won't.\nTry to ask him first as I said above to ease your mind.
1124238
I don't mind if a girl asks me out. Before you ask someone out you must be aware of one thing that all men know. When you ask someone out, they might say no.
880447
Sometimes girls need to make the first move. Not all guys have high confidence levels. Just ask him if he would like to go out for drinks or dinner. If he says no there is your answer.
871080
Probably just shy.  Don't worry about it, some guys may not have the nerve to ask a really cute girl they like!  Have fun!
963862
You are just nervous. It is natural to feel some doubt after all what if you get rejected. What you need to remember is that men find assertive, positive, and direct women to be irresistable. Long story short just Say It already.
697650
Because women have fought for equal rights and now it is accepted that girls make the first move rather than waiting around for the guy. And lets face it women want relationships more than men do. A girl has to be pretty special for me to ask her out on a date but I get asked out or hit on a lot by girls I may flirt back and be attracted to them but to go out I've got to be the one to ask. I suppose I'm old fashioned like that.
271128
He's probably a little nervous, and that's quite understandable. Don't push it yet. Make him feel more comfortable, and after a little while, if he doesn't ask you out and you think he still wants to, ask him.
599680
Mostly because we all have a fear of rejection.  I would assume that is the leading cause.  Considering...  if I really liked a woman...  and she said she didnt like me.  Then I would be crushed because I wouldnt have a chance.  Sometimes ignorance is bliss...  :-D
840098
why don't you want to ask girls too?
704825
guys are not likley to make the first move they have this big fear f rejection, so if you want somehting to happen then you need to make it happen
856411
Take a deep breath, it will all be fine, if he's not interested big deal. He's not going to walk around telling everyone you asked him out and he turned you down. You know what my personal moto is- Glory to the brave. When ever I want to ask out a girl or approach a girl and I start to fear rejection I say to myself Glory to the Brave and do it. I've got rejected before, but in a few days you'll never remember and I've also gone out with some beautiful girls, and that wouldn't have happened if I didn't have the balls to make a move
284568
He's hoping you either say noone or..him. He's afraid to be rejected. Shock him. Tell him you've been waiting for him to ask. And tell him it's him you like. You'll be back in a few minutes to ask us what to do now that he asked you out, so I'll just wait a few. Enjoy.
58361
It's really easy for a girl to ask a guy out.  I'm a guy, I would know.  I've never turned a girl down.  Women are observative, and will go with their intuitions when it comes to men.  They can decide in ten seconds whether they'd like a guy or not.  Men always want to see where things could go.  The answer will be yes, believe me.  The way I would ask would just be something like, "Hey, do you want to get together and do something sometime?"  Make it really vague.  The answer WILL be yes.  Now, the ball's in your court.  Make him pick what and where.  Good luck.
896265
I don't think it's an excuse, but a lack of confidence. Maybe he was worried that not only would you reject him if he asked you out, but that he may also lose you as a friend. I hope you were kind to him!