My now ex boyfriend has been a member of a swingers site he says it is just innocent.  Any opinions?
453415
Girlfriend; there isn't any thing innocent about being a swinger, once you start you don't stop, he lied to you straight off jump street. Swinging can get mighty KINKY.
781845
I never have but I wouldn't expect too much out of a online affair. You really don't know anything about the person. Everything could be a lie.
526502
He shouldn't go there PERIOD!! It doesn't matter how bored you are! There are millions of places to play games on the net, if you're bored. Don't believe him...he's a cheater and a dog! If you let him get away with this...he will continue to do it and Lord knows what else behind your back! Put your foot down now! Tell him he's gone if you find that crap again, he has NO reason to go there if he's in a happy relationship...and tell him if he's not happy, he needs to get steppin'.
130316
Well... I am queen of being scandalous... Try to somehow find out his password to his e-mails...  Open the emails and you can usualy find out all of your info there... I've found out web sites my ex was going to and was able to sign on every single site he had an account with and check and see what he was doing... THEN I busted him... It may or may not work...
991541
everything they disclose is all illusional,nothing is real, its all virtual and you are just engaging in a virtual relationship,so exercise extreme caution at all times............sorry i don't want to sound like a lecturer but its a fundamental fact.There's no way you can verify their info. so keep a distance ,act virtual yrself just like them,thats the rule out there buddy!Its human nature,no one would truly like to disclose their character flaws,if it hardly happens in real life,how the heck can you expect it to happen virtaully?!!!!............but people hardly are complete without some kind of a character flaw,don't you think?
485185
IT SEEMS NOBODY WORRYING ABOUT THAT.\n\nYAHOO MUST COME IN THIS ISSUE.\nREPORTED ABUSE MANY TIMES.BUT NO RESULT.\nHE IS DOING HIS CHEATING CONTINUOUSLY.\n\nA REQUEST TO YAHOO.\nYOU MAY REMOVE THE TERM "Gaming of points" FROM YOUR REPORT ABUSE GUIDELINES.\nIF YAHOO DID,'Hasitha' CAN DO 'CHEATING' LEAGALLY.
289193
Well, all sorts of issues going on here.  For one, were you snooping around, looking for stuff, do you not trust him, has he cheated on you before?  Basically there is a trust issue here, but i'm not on the guys side, he should also be open if he's being invited to girl's parties, and he has alot of girls numbers that you don't know?  Not a good sign.  Figure out if you guys still trust each other, if not, after 4 years, get out, do your own thing, learn to trust.
176732
you should not take him seriously he is obviously still sexually intersted in his ex and your isecurity has led you to snoop into his his personal email account because you do not trust him relationships do not grow and flourish on mistrust and insecurity and if you aren't dating others you need to start and move on or stay where you are and continue playing sneaky games
205504
Yes!!! I think it's really disrespectful...he shouldn't be talking about it anymore because he's not with her...it would be almost like he was recreating those thoughts...you shouldn't impliment things you did with past partners either...everyone is pleasured in different ways...how rude of boys to do this!!!
967897
I would but I'm not going to do it just to please you or anyone else for that matter.  It is a private concern and you should be asking this of your local kink groups, not the net in general and expect a response on D/s relationships for such a carelessly worded question.
1165034
If those weren't red flags to you, I don't know what would have been.  How much more obvious can it be, than for the man to TELL you he's "not nice" and "immature"?  You should have listened.\n\nI'll give him points for honesty, though he sounds like a big jerk.
155926
I thought my ex-boyfriend was Bi because I googled search his e-mail address and found that he was on a site called hornygays.com!! Lmao.. the site is no longer up and he swears he is not Bi. I try to believe what he tells me though. Maybe a jealous pssied ex-girlfriend signed him up for it, who knows. If I were you I wouldn't believe anything until you see it with your own eyes!!!
740857
Online relationshp are not real, there are ful of crappy people and you will never get to knw who they really are...what they they are they are not. \nI know a friend who was in one and this lady really pushed to get to know him, she got th cntacts, she called investigating and ths guy was not rdy to move on...crappy, any way eventually thye met but all she wanted was sex and ths guy was not ready..so after a couple of mtgs they broke off and no regrets...\n\nIt's hard to now the other party. But if it's just fun on the internet, hmmmm...thn thts fine but keep it wholesome.\n\nI'm not sure that I can wish you good luck on this one :(
728392
You can see if he's online if he has his settings for that.  You can't see who he's chatting with.  Why would you want to invade his privacy like that?  If you're romantically interested in him and you're afraid he's chatting with other women, then you need to move on.  Suspicion is no way to start a relationship, or even a friendship for that matter.
825187
If he is looking at gay sites he could be curious, but since you say he was chatting too it could be more. Since he is in his late 40s, when he was in his early teens it was illegal almost everywhere for a man to have sex with another man. Being gay was called a choice, and since everyone was told it was a choice many people who were attracted to the same sex married and had children. Guys in their 40s usually go through a mid life crisis where they realize that they are getting older and want to act on things that they wanted to do when they were younger but weren't able to do either due to society or financial circumstances.\nThe thing I would ask you is if you love him, and if so how much? Do you think you could be supportive of him if he were gay? (I am not suggesting that you would stay married, only that it could be a friendly divorce). From what you have said I really don't know if he is straight, bisexual, or gay; but since you say he was not only looking but chatting at gay sites, I would simply ask him "Why were you talking to people at that site, I'm not going to tell you it is wrong, but would like to know why?" and see what happens. You won't know until you ask, and you may not get an honest answer, but at least you'll get an answer.
685436
You have a right to be suspicious but the good news is that he didn't try and tell you he did get a haircut.  Keep and eye on him, but don't assume he is cheating at this point.  You are in a different relationship with this guy than the one he had with his ex and you knew what was going on there and have trusted him this far.  Don't let your fear ruin what you have without proof he is really doing something wrong.
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I know that in past experience, its really tempting and persuading, if an ex calls you and asks you for a night of passion! ;) but... your relationship has ended, and it seems to me like she is trying to manipulate you in the process?\n\nShe is already with her partner, and so is not only abusing his trust and loosing respect for herself-but if you are the third spoke in her relationship (even if this is just "sex") then, surely this will make you no better than her?\n\nI split up with my ex over 9 months ago, and i have since been in a long term relationship with my current partner for the past 8 months. I was with my ex for 3 and half years, and all he did was cheat on me with various other women! We too had a great sex life-but, id much rather a realtionship that is based on trust and respect anyday (plus great sex is a bonus ;) ) My ex contacted me near enough every day for 6 months asking me for sex, but not once did i say yes, cos i love my partner and respect him. She doesnt have respect fro anyone??\n\nPerhaps, as your ex knows that you are single, that she is taking you for advantage! Its possible that she doesnt want you to be with anyone else-as she knows that you probabley wont be, if you are seeing her? She also  thinks that she can get away with two timing both of you (even with your consent!) what kind of person does this?\n\nI know its tempting but you have to ask her to stop calling you and asking for sex. Its low! And someone with such low morals, is obviousley someone to be wary off.... STI's spring to mind? You also have to ask yourself-are you the only one shes trying to cheat with?\n\nIn the end, what goes around comes around-my ex cheated on me with 5 other women, and ended up catching STI's!! So it serves him damn right lol!\n\nAnd why did your relationship end? Obviousley for a good reason! \n\nGood luck!! \n\nx