can a alcholic ever start 2 love me again?
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The first thing an alcoholic must do to begin his/her recovery is to admit that he/she has a problem. So long as they are in denial no one can help them, no matter how much they love them. If your partner is accusing you of being hypocritical then he is surely in denial about his habit. It is very unlikely that your situation will get better until he realizes that his habit is costing him more than money. Leave him and be sure to tell him your real reasons as to why you are leaving him.
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I was in this exact same position a few months ago. \n\nI hadnt known him that long, however. \nI was thinking the same thing when I first got with him. \nWell, now it is definitely worth it to me. I am engaged. \n\nHeres my advice. \nIf you honestly feel that he is going to change (I dont know what his crimes were.) than I woudl say give him the chance. My fiances crimes were violent and drug related and I still gave him that chance (completely unaware of what could have happened.)\nMy best advice is if you do give it a shot (which I hope you will because evryone deserves that second chance.) \nBE PREPARED! \nThere may be a few slip-ups. (for example: if his crimes were drug related, expect maybe drinking or maybe pot somking.)\nBe patient and set yourself a limit and stick to it. \nDont ever let his betraying behavior get in the way and make rules before you start into a relationship. \n(no drinking, smoking, doing drugs...whatever.) \nThis way you have the law laid down and you and he both know where the relationship will end. \n\nIf its important to you, it should be important to him as well. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK SWEETIE!
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My husband does not drink but i would still love him even if he did. Yes it would hurt but i would try to incourage him to get help if he needed it.
204387
The abuse usually only gets worse. Why would you want to put yourself through that again. Hon, your in love with love and what might or could have been. Please think about it before getting back into that again....Nicky
838388
START DATING AGAIN !!!
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I would be very cautious getting in a relationship with an ex-alcohic who was already in trouble for not following his program. Chances are he is dodging you and I would just let him go and not call there anymore. If he really meant what he said he will get a hold of you. I'm sure he got your messages that you called.
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You actually have answered your own question here by saying that even after all that's happened, you do still love him. So, my answer would be a reinforcement of your own and that is ... yes, don't be afraid and give love another chance. What I would add to this is that if you truly want this relationship to work then there are two things you MUST do before you reenter into the relationship. The first is, you need to clear your emotions of the past with respect to his history of cheating and have that all talked out with mutual understandings, apologies and forgiveness's. These are not things you want to carry over into your renewed efforts to reestablish your feelings for one another. Secondly, once you have talked all these things out and you should then decide to give this love another chance ... don't look back on the past and never ever let those past issues have any place in your new efforts to save this love. Too often people do this same thing and later when new problems arise they tend to throw things in one anothers face about issues from the past. Doing this only prevents true love from ever finding roots because animosity grows and we all know what that can do to love.\n\nBest of Luck !!
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HOPEFULLY I WILL. WHILE MY 1ST MARRAIGE WAS A DISMAL FAILURE (MOSTLY BECAUSE OF MYSELF), I MISS THE BOND AND THE FEELINGS INVOLVED IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. HOPEFULLY, I HAVE LEARNED SOME LESSONS THAT I SHOULD HAVE LEARNED LONG AGO.
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Well, I think you cannot control his drinking, no matter what you think.  I would say that daily drinking of that much certainly indicates a problem.  You could go to http://www.aa.org and there are some parts on there for people who are concerned about someone's drinking.  However, this is really about you, and my recommendation would be for you to check out Alanon.  You cannot cause, cure, or control someone else's drinking.  This is very difficult, for there is a level of denial on the part of the potential alcoholic and his or her partner.....
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Girl, if you care that much, give him another chance and another, and aother and another. While you're at it, help him over come the drinking problem, some how. I think he realizes what went wrong, and want to try again. I think he cares about you, and that if he suspected you of anything, he's likely forgiven you- or ready to forgive you. I agree with you, that it would be wrong at this point, to cut the string.
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I sure do feel for you.  Just remember that a zebra cant change his stripes.  You dont need to change your phone number or anything unless he is threatening you and then in that case, you need a cop.  I was married to an alcoholic and it turned mentally abusive.  Please be careful and watch every step you take.  Also remember that your life is more valuable than his alcohol.  If he cant get help then you need to get out and FAST.  You will find someone who is 1,000x better.  I promise.
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Two answers I've viewed are not wise. \n\nFirst of all, drinking to forget doesn't work. The problem is still there when you are sober. Unless of course, you constantly stay drunk, then you have a bigger problem.\n\nSecond, dating another person is rebounding and not fair to that person. Would you like to be a rebound date? Of course, men may say yes if it involves sex. But get into the emotional aspect of it and you;ll agree, it's not fun.\n\nYou need to use your logic instead of your emotions or hormones. First step is to stay away from this woman and stay busy with hobbies and interests. Stay away from sappy songs which may remind you of her. Last, volunteer in a charity of your interest. It is pleasurable to help others and viewing the smiles on the faces of those who's lives you've impact is a great reward. Eventually, you may find another friend or girlfriend within the same group and hit it off. Then you'll know you at least have the same interest from the volunteering.
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People change naturally... but for good or for bad is up to that person...\nIf your man is really intent on continuing to do the right thing, then he should eventually grow out of it... if not, then my guess is that he'll fall back into what he used to do...\njust try to keep him on the right track and if he really does go back to drugs and drinking... dump him
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My dad used to be an abusive alcohol....It was a very painful childhood growing up with all the verbal and mental abuse.....When I turned 22, he completely changed, became a Christian and quit drinking, cold turkey....It took time to heal our relationship, but now I LOVE MY DAD and he really is the best dad anyone could ever want.....We are very close and has been a lot of healing from the past.....He never really apologized, but with his radical change in behavior, I didn't need an apology because actions speak louder than words.....We never talk about the past, because I have forgiven him and I know he is a different person and I choose to let the past go, I can't change it, but only learn from it.....Just be patient and all things will come together.....Best of luck and what a wonderful gift  you have, the opportunity for healing your relationship with your dad, most people never get that chance....
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Sorry mate you can't - especially if you truly loved that person. It does get better with time but you still have your bad days and good days.I lost my soul-mate 2 years ago and I still miss him to this day even though I'm with someone else now.I know I will never love anyone like I loved him - I just don't think its possible.If you ever need to talk plse feel free to contact me thru my e-mail
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I don't know why you put up with that kind of treatment my lady.  First thing, if you have not yet done it, is to give up your drug habit.  Next, get rid of him completely.  He is a bad influence and you will not be able to reestablish your life again until you rid yourself of bad influences.  There is nothing wrong with starting over\n\nI also would suggest that he, and maybe you, get some treatment or at least see a doctor about depression.  I am a depressive and I know that I have felt the same way about myself and asked my wife the same questions, and often depression is masked, or dealt with at least with alcohol and/or drugs.  In my case it was alcohol.\n\nDo these things, a rehab if necessary, but at least a circle of people who you can talk to and share your problems with and get the support you need to help you along the way.\n\nYou are not masochistic, you are probably depressed and just need to feel better about yourself and get your life back on track.  You have taken the first step by reaching out for advice, that proves you want help.  I wish you all the luck and perserverance in the world.  remember, you are not alone.\n\nPeace and love
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YES YOU CAN! I HAD MY HEART BROKEN ONCE AND I SUFFERED ALOT. I EVEN GAVE UP ON LOVE UNTIL I MET MY HUSBAND AND WHEN YOU DO YOU WILL SEE THE PAST AND LAUGH. \n\nGOOD LUCK