I really want to meet my boyfriends family, how do I push that issue without being too pushy??
438360
I am in that situation too. I really want to meet my boyfriend's family too and don't want to be too pushy. I know that he doesn't want me to yet and don't know why. I would say maybe he feels that he is not ready for this step yet. He wants us to know more about each other first and then meet our families.
165735
Start by not making an assumption about your boyfriends mom.  She may just simply not be the type to get close to anyone that isn't yet family.  She is also going to be naturally worried that you might eventually hurt her little boy.  Just relax and be yourself, over time you will prove to her that you are worthy of her boys heart.  In the mean time try to talk to her and find out her interests.  If you show an interest in her as a person and not just his mom it will help.  Sometimes it just takes a comment about how you hope that some day you can get to know her better to get her to open up.
875520
ask him if you can go with him to his parents for the holidays... if he says im not ready then,,, i think its time to tell him the same..... if you was the same age, would he already introduced you to his friends and family???? my guess yes ..... if he wants to hind you from everyone then,  there is really something wrong,,,,,  i hope you find happiness but i dont think this is it ,,,,, good luck
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
165937
I guess this really comes down to who do you love more- family or boyfriend?\nSome family, especially Chinese families, emphasize on how the boyfriend treats the girl's family to determine if that is "good hubby material".  Because that shows how he will treat their own family, if their daughter is married to this man.\nGirlie, why don't you just tell him what you think? Ask him to be nicer to your family, because they mean a lot to you.  Don't demand, just ask nicely, ask him to TRY for you=) If he says no to your nice request, you might have a different view on him then;) GO GIRLIE!
716784
It sounds like your relationship is great but one thing that worried me - you said you were worried his family wouldn't like you - you should meet them first, and make sure he meets yours first.  \n\nWhen I first started reading your post I had my doubts, BUT \nI don't think the age difference matters in your case.  In some it does, but your relationship does seem more mature.  People always think I am too young also.  I'm 19 and getting married next summer too.  I love this man and he is my best friend and my life partner.  We've been together since I was in middle school and we've grown up together and are still growing together.  I think it's amazing to find a love like this when you are so young.  Don't worry about what everyone else thinks - count your blessings that you have something that some people NEVER find.  \n\nJust be sure you have the same goals, and plans for the future.  For example, in a few years you are going to want a son or daughter with him also.  I am sure you love his son like your own but the time will come when it will drive you crazy that he is not your own and you need to make sure he will be willing to have more children.
476308
maby you should not ask so much about their family they may be thinking your trying to become to famillar to fast just keep on gentral topics maby you are choosing the wrong sort of guy give the type of guy that is a little nerdy a chance you might be suprised  luck flaim
564591
Tell them you want to be with him.And if they don't accept that tell them you love them and you will see them at church or at x-mas. Good luck
128211
The only way a family will believe you is for them to meet him and get to know him.  An online relationsip is a great start but for a relationship to progress it needs to move into the real world and than includes meeting your family.  If you love him and he loves you and then meeting your family will show them this and they will hopefully accept him.
357977
dont break-up.it sounds ur perfect(or almost) 4 each other.eventually, they will hav to accept u. o, and if ur bf loved u soo much, then how com he doesnt defend u wen his family is rude?
649925
I would--I would send Christmas cards and such!! I don't think that I would visit everyday or anything but I would defiantly  keep in touch some how-when you are in a relationship, you don't just fall in love with your partner you fall in love with the whole family-(sometimes) and if so-the break up is hard on them too-I say send a card or a phone call every now and then just to let them know you still care for them and that it had nothing to do with them!! Don't mention anything of the partner, just keep your mind on them and their good doings!! :) Good Luck!!
567899
If you know you can take him...make him hit you or push you first and then kick his ass. I would! Nobody should talk about your family. I know its wrong to fight, but you have to get your respect. Good luck!
510340
If you can see he is not truly commited:\n\nIf you can bear with it, then you should know it is time to move on. You know this is not gonna work out. Where will this lead to, if you go on like this? He will never be yours. \n\nWhat is the point of mixing around with this sort of people? In fact, you should know by now he isn't worth it. \n\n\nIf you can see he is commited but hesitant:\n\nThen find out why. There must be something troubling him.\nHis family opposition perhaps. Try to resolve it with him. If it is his family, perhaps you can find some ways to present yourself to impress them. \n\nTry also to tell him it is time to make his own decision and not let others interfere. After all, if you both marry, it will be your new life and no one elses.
191027
start involving him more in the family get togethers.  On the other hand, I'm all for the family card and I'd be interested in hearing their side of the story.  Sometimes parents see what we can't because we are blinded by love:)
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
184090
Be gracious, and of course, it is always respectful to respond with "Yes/No Ma'am/Sir." Above all, be sure not to forget or ignore your husband in trying to tend to them, that wouldn't be very good. Be yourself, even if you are nervous, maintain eye contact when you are talking with them. Smile often, and be sure to thank them for bringing such a wonderful person into the world and rearing him as well as they did. If you think it is appropriate, you could say something like, "I have been so excited yet sort of nervous about meeting you both, even though (husband's name) told me there was no need to be nervous." I think you'll have to make that call on what the atmosphere is like. They already know at this point in life that you will be feeling somewhat nervous, at least it shows you are up-front and honest. You all already have something in common, you all love your husband...But anyway, be yourself, treat them as you would anyone else you appreciate and respect, they did raise your husband, after all:)\n\nI'm sorry--I missed the extra details that you added at the bottom. Well, the above all still applies; the fact that so much time has passed will naturally feel a little weird for everyone involved at first anyway, but "better late than never." I believe that it is a person's heart and character that matter, not race. Hold your head up high and maintain grace of character, regardless of if they have issues or whatever:)
524272
Yes but it is his problem. If he wishes to see you,he will find a way.After you both decide if you are a couple,take turns.He should come to meet your folks and let them get to know him first. This is age dependent of course. Peace.