Sexual life before marriage ,is it a healthy way of being in a relation?
439618
I hate to look at things this way, but I'm a factual person. The stats show that ppl who live together before getting married are more likely to get divorced. I waited until I was married to have sex. This brings a real sense of security to our relationship. I could go on about the other benefits, but I'm tired.
453041
I think anything has time and sex is good after marriage... it make you more secure and has more meaning into it.\nmarriage as a "fortress for well-being", the normal and healthy state for adults, where sexual feelings can be safely expressed in a spirit of love. ... are expected to be completely chaste before marriage and totally faithful within marriage
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
461533
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
457800
I absolutely agree that waiting is the best!  I waited for my wedding night to have sex and my wife will never have to worry about me comparing her to another woman in my past or present.  \n\nI think someone that makes a commitment to waiting will ease the anxiety of their partner whether they made that decision as a virgin or after making the mistake of sleeping around.  IMO, the only healthy sexual relationship is a monogamous relationship in a marriage for life!  \n\nAnd the idea that sex with multiple people is "practice" for the "right one" is CRAP!  The connections you make with one person will be completely different that the connections you make with someone else, and to think that the same things that one person liked are the same as another person, is ludicrous and will probably just complicate the situation even more.  Why not get married and practice making love to the ONE person that you will get to know better than anyone else so you can enjoy each other for the rest of your lives without worrying about whether you were practicing the right things on your last lover!
529077
One phrase comes to my mind with your question:\n"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"\nSex is defiantly rarely valued these days. I wish I realized its value earlier than when I did.\n\nJust saw your add-ins. That's a tuff one. I think sex is alright before marriage, so long as it's done for the RIGHT reasons, and so long as your not a "hoe" or walking STD factory. If you ask me, way too many people are having WAY to many partners, and that goes back to my original message about the lack of value for sex.
697089
In the bible it says that sex before marriage is wrong if there is no commitment between two people. "Marriage" as referred to in the bible is symbolic for a relationship/connection/love/commitment.\n\nThus you don't need to be married (literally) to have sex but you need to be committed.\n\nI feel that it is all about morals and there is no right or wrong. it's your own decision. Personally I believe that sex before commitment/love is wrong
372610
are you asking if someone has had sex before getting married in general?  or are you asking if someone has had sex before marriage with the person s/he are married to?  or are you asking if someone has lost their virginity to the one person they are married to?  those are all very different questions and have very different answers with different meanings.\n\ni can say- yes, yes and no.  i am very happy i did not marry the guy i lost my virginity to.  i was too young and dumb.  i am glad that i have had some experience before i met my current husband.  do i wish i had waited until marriage to my husband to have sex, not necessarily.  but i do wish i had waited a lot longer.  \n\ni am happy that my husband and i lived together and loved together BEFORE marriage.  we were married a little over a year after we met.  we've been together several years now.  the marriage is AWESOME, our sex life is great (7+ times a week- no lie).  but we were not virgins when we met, but we did have sex out of wedlock and became married.  it all depends on your heart's intent, level of religiousness (interpretation) and commitment level.  it CAN and DOES work (against my strict protestant upbringing)!
233691
I belive that love before marriage is essential to enable a life long loving marriage. Apologies if I wrong, but are you actually asking about sex before marriage?\n\nThis is a totally different question - and the answer must be, as far as I can see, that it is totally up to the two people that are in the relationship.\n\nYou are correct that nowadays many youngsters (and, of course, some 'oldies') have casual sex - this is their own choice and as long as they protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases who are we to judge?\n\nUltimately, we all have our own cultural and personal morals and standards to live up to and as long as we are comfortable with our individual choices and do not cause intentional pain or suffering to others we should do as we see fit. \n\nLove and sex do not have to be entwined, but in my experience the latter without the former is never as satifying to the body or soul.\n\nGood luck in the choices youu make..
1041039
By being physical with someone, you mean being intimate. According to the Bible it is okay in the marriage relationship. Being sexual is meant to be enjoyed as part of a covenant. While kissing and gropping seems fun, it comes with a cost. The more you are intimate in these seemingly harmless ways, the more you let your guard down and the more you want to go all the way. Think about this, would you kiss or grope in front of a parent? If the answer is no, than remember everything you do, in public or private is being looked on by God. When you do anything intimate within the boundaries of marriage God can bless it, when you are not in the boundaries, it leads to guilt and God will not bless what goes against his word!
1139000
In the eyes of society, premarital intercourse is probably not a big deal. In my eyes and the eyes of God, it's a big no no, and can result in life changing events thet people aren't ready to handle yet. Especially unplanned pregnancies leading to single parent families, another downer to a successful family.
220928
Sex in marriage is a must, before that, NO!\n\nOut of marriage, sex is just an instinct full get together used to fulfill your passions or desires. You just do the body thing, get filled up, and that's all. Sex should not take place before marriage.\n\nIn marriege, sex complements the relation, helps the couple to get deeper feelings, respect, and all those kind of stuff.
411910
No!  Love is so much more than sex.  It's emotional, spiritually.  It's unconditional.  Just spending time cuddling, walking in the park etc.  can be sufficient when you are truly in love.  Of course sex is part of a relationship, but not needed. (right away) Taking the time to know one another first is important.  And if you want to wait before you get married.  Even better.  If the person really loves you, they will feel the same way, understand and wait.....
49064
Sex before marriage is not good nor bad its the understanding between two unequal mamals
145791
When you're ready to have sex you are ready to have sex.  If it's before marriage, cool.  If you're not ready until marriage, that's cool too.\nI think sexy before marriage is a good thing.  People speak of how it's more special when you save it.  But honestly if you wait until you're married you're going to suck at it.  Not being able to please your spouse on your honeymooon (a very special occasion) would be a shame.  On the other hand, if both partners are inexperieced they'll at least have a chance to grow and learn about sex together.\nHowever, I think it would be foolish to marry a person you've never slept with.  Sex is a very big part of relationships and if you marry a person without knowing  whether or not they can please you sexually you may find yourself in a very dissatisfied marriage.\nJust think about this:  Would you buy a new car without ever giving it a test drive?
244046
No its not!!! Because the bottom line that once you marry the sex life becomes less and less. It may not be right away that this happens but its true it does happen. When you are thinking of marriage you should make sure that this person is the one who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is about uniting as ONE!Its my opinion that communication would be the most important thing in a marriage up under have Jesus at the roots of the marriage! Sex does play a role in a marriage because  two people who are married feel the most connected when they are making love as the should but its not the most important thing. Marriage includes making decisions together, compassion, understanding, just letting the other one know that you are there for them no matter what, friendship.  So have fun with your SEX but remember marriage is more that just SEX if you marry for this reason then you are going to end up unhappy and wanting out! Truth of the matter, things change so will the sex life.Good Luck to you!
660651
I would say so..sex is such a huge roll in a relationship taht without it could cause trouble even separation..so yeah it can improve life