he tells me he loves me but not in love with me?
438630
Well, i guess what he's trying to say is that he cares for you and maybe always will (like how he loves his siblings maybe or someone in his family) but he isn't IN love with you. Like he doesn't see you as his gf or so.
605837
I've just been told the same thing, he says it's too much work, which I think means, I'm just not worth the effort to him, so I dont think he really loves me.
706450
he probably is not in love with you,, you are so young dont dwell on it,, have fun,, go out with friends,
167585
sounds like he cares a lot about you but is NOT in love with you. you are the best thing in his life right now, the only thing he is sure of and now he is going to lose you. have no regrets about it; you followed your heart and those actions never need to be explained or appologized for. don't worry you'll always be cool, just don't confuse those moments to mean anything for than that and i think you'll be fine. Don't forget to get your ring!
717772
yeh u can say it and say it 100 times over, but u mite not nessecarily mean it!the way2tell is by ur emotions and how you feel when ur arround him!his behaviour will say it all!consider all these things, has he lied2u, given u any reason2 doubt him!ul no if sum1 luvs u, cus theyl be sooo absorbed in u!if u have reason 2 doubt it then it probably wont be love, becus luv is unconditional and can be seen from miles off!although u are doubting it tho, doesnt mean he isnt in love with u!maybe he truely is and ur just wantn it2b tru luv soooo much that ur questioning it becus u cant believe its tru!ul no!hope this helps!
459040
Maybe he really loves you, and is afraid that he will upset you, so he takes his time coming up with the right words to explain how he is feeling. (I do that when I am in love) Maybe he even gets a little embarassed of his emotions sometimes, most of us are raised not to show what we are feeling.
1109403
happyhere,\n\nThe fact he is going to a website doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  Speaking bluntly, he masturbates, he looks at other women, he picks his toenails, etc.  In short, he does all the normal "guy" stuff.\n\nI know it might be difficult to reconcile how he can be "so in love" with you and be involved in these "distractions" but it is very possible.  He might be curious, he might have decided that he wants a certain kind of relationship with you and he will get other devious needs fulfilled outside of your relationship.  It might also mean he secretly wants you to do some of that stuff, but he doesn't have the guts to ask.\n\nLong story short, if this bothers you, and it obvioulsy does to the point that you threatened to end the relationship over it, consider talking to him about this.  You don't have to tell him you caught him a second time, but you should ask him if he is really fulfilled - both emotionally and physically...or ask him on a scale of 1-10, or some other way that might get him to open up without feeling threatened - it won't be easy because this is a delicate subject.\n\nAnyway, good luck.\nC
405110
reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
974400
I don't understand your question.  it sounds like he told you EXACTLY what the deal was from his end--he doesn't love you.  He told you that.  What is the part that isn't sinking in?
752265
Turn it around and tell him he obviously doesn't trust you, which means he doesn't care (feel love) for you.\nNow have HIM prove it if he doesn't agree!  ;-)
178636
2 things.. one - may be he loves you but is afraid of commitment... two - may be he doesn't love you at all and it was just a slip of the tongue the first time he said it. Observe his actions and how he treats you. You'll get hints from there.
349874
he might love u... or he might just have a problem with showinggg love..or he doesnt know how.. ask him about it.. be like.. im just curius.. u clm u love me, but u dont show it to me.. see what he says.. then u can catch him that way if hes lieing or not as well..
881767
He does not love you,nothing indeed.Find a a man, who will love you indeed.
451437
There are two possibilities I can see:\n\n1. The guy is shy and conservative\n2. He is just being friendly and don't get wrong.\n\nEven if it is the second possibility, that does not mean that he does not like/love you. You should talk with him.
115405
You could start by saying, you know was thinking about how to accurately evaluate my feelings for you and I think I could love you.....If you were to evaluate your feelings how would you say you feel about me?....\n\nDon't be surprised to hear I don't know....Means he's probably scared to say he loves you.....If that occurs, don't be disappointed continue to try to convince him that he loves you.\n\nGood luck
80073
Hmmmm.  I don't think how YOU feel is any indication of whether or not your man really loves you.  I think it's best to put your feelinging aside for a bit and take a look at how he treats you.\n\nDoes he respect your ideas, opinions, attitudes, feelings, and behaviors?  Does he support your values -- allowing you to follow your own system of beliefs?  Does he allow you to express yourself, and is he willing to work with you to reach compromises when the two of you disagree?\n\nDoes he know your weaknesses, good and bad, and allow you to be "less than perfect"?  Does he protect your weaknesses rather than criticise you or open you up to ridicule?\n\nDoes he treat you with gentleness and kindness and yet know when you are ready to break loose in a chicken fight or giggle fest?  \n\nDoes he share some of your most personal interests?  Does he share your goals?\n\nDoes he know you well enough to love you for you -- whoever you are and whatever you are living through right now, at this moment?\n\nDoes he say he loves you?\n\nIt's easy to mix up our feelings with someone and assume the other person feels the same as we do.  If there is any question, let some time pass.  It takes time to know someone well enough to know if there is love between you and not just chemistry.
580816
Yes, he might just be saying it so he gets more.  You should expect to be asked for more.  \n\nHow to know his true feelings?  Ask!  Ask him why he decided he loves you now?  When did he knew he felt this way?  If its true, the words should flow from the heart.