Does anyone have any ideas how to get a life together after it has been shattered?
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Dont give up.. Never do give up.. Dont let it be shattered.. Make things fine.. There is nothing that cannot be made alright.. All the best and all my wishes.. :)
830334
Are there any organizations in your community who can help you? I wish you the best, sweetie.
100137
It took ten years for my poor poor heart to mend after I divorced my husband of 13 years b/c he had a baby with an aquaitance of mine and I felt sorry for her not being married and all gave her a baby shower and gave her all my childs things (i did not know it was his child til later). It just takes time. I dove into my work and made new friends (seeing as how all my old friends knew it was his child and did not tell me) and spent some quality time with myself. I got to know me really well and decided I really liked the new me. Just give yourself time to heal and get involved with work and friends. It does help. Oh and try not to drown your sorrows in alchol and drugs. I tried that I lost everything I had AGAIN and had to start over. Good luck to you and try and hang in there the world has a lot to offer if you will just stop and look around. I am happily married now to a wonderful and caring man that adores me! I am living proof that your heart can and will mend. I may stil be cracked but it will heal.
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I would say,a lot of counseling and possibly some medication to get you threw all this.You will get through it,But you wont ever forget it. Prayer helps too! and I am so very sorry for what you have been through,I have had some of the same experience's as you have.Hang in there.You will survive.We are women hear us roar!!
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Realize what went wrong.\nThere is no fixing this if the marriage ended but make sure it doesn't happen again by not repeating past mistakes no matter who was at fault.\nPick Yourself up.\nStart attending events that interest you.\nSince you must be older , possibly look for senior activities even at large senior centers where you can go have dinner in the dining hall and talk with people your age if you don't have a strong friend network.
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find a couple small things that give you joy, and set aside time for yourself each day to do them - maybe as simple as walking quietly on some path by your house, or painting.\n\nFind ways to connect with other people in a social setting - take a community ed pottery class or something.\n\nFind a group of people who are worse off than you and volunteer some time to help them.\n\nJoin a support group for people going through a divorce.
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first off pray,an then remember this life is no joke but it is something that you only have one of,try to always keep your head held high an your mind open that hey things are bad but they could be worse,an if things are worse you have to be strong you just have to put your self around positive things,loved ones an have someone you can talk to.If there is family members,a friend or someone you can talk.Have something or someone that is positive around.No matter what life throws at you a break up with someone special,death,drugs,or whatever always remember there is always life ahead of you an you can make it.Be strong an remember that you are in control an you can do this.Remember put all the negative things behind you are to the side even an put positive things in your life.Because there is always tomorrow,an there is love out there do not ever give up.because you are a strong person do not ever forget that,no matter what has happen or will happen. no matter what you have an will always be strong. because it takes strength to do what you did [ask for help]it takes a lot for someone to reach out to someone for advise.
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WELL YES I HAVE....YOU JUST HAVE TO PUSH ALL THE HURT TO THE SIDE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SELF AND HEALING YOUR SELF...AND THAT CAN BE A LONG PROCESS....BUT YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANOTHER....I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE HEARD THAT BEFORE BUT IT IS TRUE...AND THE OTHER THING IS TO NEVER BLAME YOUR SELF FOR ANY THING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH....JUST KEEP BUSY AND TRY NOT THINK ABOUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED......FIND HOBBY'S TO GET IN TO AND JUST TRY TO STAY BUSY...EVENTUALLY IT WILL BE EASIER BY THE DAY AND BY ONE NIGHT YOU WILL BE READY TO GO BAKU OUT ON THE FIELD AND PLAY BALL ONCE AGAIN....HOPE ALL IS WELL FOR YOU....KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH.....
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Sorry for your situation.  Try a shelter temporarily and the shelter will probably have some additional resources for you for the long term.  I also like the idea of getting welfare until you can get yourself back on your feet.
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I know that it will be hard to start over again after spending six years with a person who you think is a soulmate, and having things backfire on you. Regardless of how old a person is when this happens, it hurts deeply.I don't know if you are religious at all, but I believe that the Lord will make all things turn out ok, regardless of how dark you view your  situation to be. I live in New Orleans, and during Hurricane Katrina, when I evacuated to a shelter, I see people on the verge of cracking up, because they have no faith, nothing to fall back on. As concerned as I was about what lies ahead, because of my faith in God, I was at peace with the situation and can continue to function normally.There is light at the end of the tunnel for you, if you would just be patient and have a little faith. Time heals all wounds.You will be able to love again, and you will find that special someone who can make you life complete. My prayers and best wishes are with you.
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oh, sweetie, I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time! Is there anyone you can talk to? If not, find a counselor or someone you can trust, because it sounds like you need a good shoulder to cry on. Sometimes, you just have to hold your head up and live for better days, because it feels like there is nothing to hold on to anymore. But things get better, and soon you may find new people and new dreams that are even better than before, as hard as that is to imagine now. Or maybe your old dreams aren't as broken as they seem. There have been times I have lived for nothing but HOPE that someday things will get better. And they DID!!! Don't give up. I hope you find some comfort and peace that you need.
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Yours?  Get involved in something else.  Do not dwell on the past.\nA friend?  Listen.  Help keep their mind on something else.  Hugs do wonders.\nStay away from tear-jerker movies, songs and book.  Go for the light hearted.\nHearts can be broken, but they do heal.
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That's just how life is, unfortunately. Just gotta take it one day at a time though. Try to find the good that eventually comes out of a bad situation.
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your local hospital can provide you with the support groups in your area and there are also extension groups from there that you can get closer contacts with for one-on-one support.  sometimes your need a confidant.  this is a devastating experience and you need somebody to talk to. \ngood luck and you are in my prayers.
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Things happen for a reason. You will learn the reason in a later time. Don't worry I have been through the same thing it hurts and it take awhile. Just keep yourself busy and always leave a crack in the door.
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Dear Next,\n\nFood does not help.\nA new lover does not help.  \nShopping does not help.\n\nPeople mean well but they don't help.\n\nThe ONLY thing that helped me to heal from a very broken heart was to read the Bible from cover-to-cover.  I got laid off from my job after my husband of more than 20 years filed for divorce.  There was no work available in the area and I got 15 weeks of severance pay so I proceeded to read The Daily Walk Bible.\n\nIt was so good I couldn't put it down and I finished it in 90 days.  The divorce still went through shortly after our 25th anniversary but I was able to heal.  The Bible showed me how much my heavenly Father really loves me and better yet, He is not fickle.\n\nAre you familiar with The Father's Love Letter by Barry Adams?  It is quite beautiful and I'd be happy to paste it and or the link if you are interested.
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You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....\n\nTell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.\n\nTake action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment.  Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights.  Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.\n\nDo you see where I'm going with this?\n\nTAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE