what should i do about my mooching roomate?
435390
I think if at all possible you might have to get moved to a different dorm room. It sounds like you are living with a child personality. Unless his friendship means a lot to you, and unless you are willing to exhibit more patience and explain that you are on a budget and can't share food anymore and then stick to your guns, it sounds like it's time to move.
554277
You have to be direct. Let him/her know what is a minimum standard. If you are a neat freak, you may have to give some concessions. \n\nI would suggest a chore list in writing..if that doesn't work..you only choice may be looking for another place. If this roommate is your spouse, then man crapaud smoke yuh pipe...
551827
Do you have to stay in this CHU with her?  If not I would definetly work on getting a new room mate.  You can't stop her from using you as an excuse because you cant be with her when she tells these lies, but let her know if it ever comes down to it you will NOT lie for her and if anyone asks you questions about you being responsible for her being late, let her know you will be telling the truth.  OR f*ck her up and teller she will get a lot more of that if she doesnt straighten up her act.
154110
Hire an eviction service.  It can be tricky to boost someone, even if it is just a friend of your roommates who will not leave after visiting for three weeks.
234744
Listen to Sassy.Also you can look on your own.\nIn the meantime try to control yourself,don't lash out at her when she makes one of her digs. It sounds like you are\nboth decent people stuck in a tough situation. Don't let\nwords be spoken that can't be taken back-suck it up,take a deep breath,leave the room if you have to.When you have your\nown place it'll be easier to get along and repair the damage.Good luck and remember you're both human.
153010
There are two ways you can deal with this situation, your choice depending on your own view over your relanshionship with that person, or your personality.\n1. You can confront her in front of the other housemates (not speak bad things about her behind her back) but rather say how bad she's been treating you, in front of everyone so she'll feel ashamed and possibly not do that again. If you feel you haven't won the confrontation in the end just say (be sure your other friends are there) "You are such a b**ch, you know that!". This is only if you feel extreme pain at what she did to you, and want to get back at her. BUT, if you're willing to forgive her, and you care about her very much there is another way to handle the situation:\n2. Usually this things occur when one person feels frustrated with himself for one reason or another and then she takes it out by lashing at other, let's say more "timid" persons, in this case you. It is possible that, that person has love problems, or other problems. If you know of her having one such major problem, you should confront her in private and talk about her problem, try to listen to her and be suportive. Try to find out if she has a problem from her other friends, If no one knows about it, it doesn't mean she doesn't have one (it means only that she keeps it to herself and because of this she becomes incresingly frustrated). So, if no one knows about it you should confront her and ask: "What's wrong?". Her first answer will be "Nothing", but you have to continue "Oh come on, I know something's wrong" and give your reasons "You have been acting strange all the time(for example)".\nSo, you have two ways to deal with this. You either can be caring and gentle, or you can be agressive and stand up to yourself. From here, it's up to you, and how you feel in your heart you should act :). Good luck.
323615
You should contact your lanlord and demand them to fix it.  If you are on a lease, you can tell him you will break thte lease if he does not do anything about it.  Also, if you decide to leave, take pictures OF EVERYTHING.  You can also report him to the health department.  Do something about it before it affects your health!
131529
Say What? I hope he's living in your dog house. Why are you allowing this dude to crash at your your place without working for 13 years??? Is he disabled? If not, tell him to find a job. Pick your self-esteem off the floor and dump this loser then maybe you'll find someone better.  Good Grief.
420759
I had several roommates in college, but only one I didn't get along with.  He was the kind of person who expected you to make sacrifices for him, but he would never return the favor.  I didn't have to do much with him, because he moved out a couple of weeks into the semester.\n\nOne thing you might try is to talk to your roommate about the behaviors that drive you up the wall.  You should be respectful when addressing these items because people are more likely to respond positively when they're treated with respect.  Also, you may want to find out if anything you do irritates her, and you and she can negotiate a compromise.  I hope this helps.
1040641
This sounds horrible, I would be livid.  Say something, let your sister know that if she is going to come by she needs to clean up.  Have you discussed this issue w/ your parents b/c all of you may need to confront her about this.  There is nothing worse than a trifling visitor.  But do not keep your feelings about the situation bottled up.  Or beat her at own game, go to her house and mooch off of her.
173328
you tell him in straight forward manner. You expect rent, utility, and food money. If he disagrees, tell him that it is not your responsibility to take care of him. Treat him like an adult and be firm. If it gets to be two on one then its time to move yourself out.\n\nADDED\n\nif its your house then you can tell then its your way or the highway.
822719
There is so much good advice already , but ...   I would like to add a little to it anyway, namely ,  PLEASE  see to it immediately that you have a job, an income of your own of some sort . Take your name off that account of his and get one in your own name . You do not need anybody else's  approval when you feel you want to spend some money . Earn it yourself and enjoy it yourself. Pay your debts and don't be a moocher living in a person's apartment etc., and they have total control over your destiny . He can do an about turn and kick you out any time if your name is not on the renter contract . All you need is a good fight or argument and you are history . I hope for your sake you put some money aside . Sure is hell to be hungry and have no place to keep warm . Look out for yourself and good luck to you .
1111522
You might do all those things but the other people in the building might not be so clean. Tell your manager in writing  give him a copy and let him know if the problem isnt fixed in a timely manner you will put your rent in an escro account with the local courts.
1161091
Go ahead, use force and then they can sue your friend, and then he won't be your friend any more. \n\nAre they really trashy, or just poor?  If they pay their rent, then not having furniture or hanging blankets in windows is not an indicator of trashiness.\n\nHow about this?  Does he keep the plumbing up? Does he flake out and pass the water bill over to his tenants even though there's only one meter and originally he was going to cover this by charging $50 extra per month in the rent?  Now the upstairs is still owed 50% of the water bill by the downstairs?  Does he refuse to get the upstairs people a mailbox?  Does he move marijuana smoking punkers downstairs that are up till three a.m. playing their music and then yelling at the normal people for being awake in the daytime?  Does he care to fix a dishwasher which is leaking into the downstairs apt, which he promised to fix on day one, along with the tub plumbing that's starting to make a huge spot on the ceiling downstairs?  It's the only bathroom, are the renters supposed to not bath indefinately while paying twice the rent of comparable units in the are? Does he insist the upstairs people take care of the gardening, without covering the cost of gardening tools?  Does he refuse to put in writing that there is a refund for the person who is paying 100% of the water bill for both apartments and covering the gardening efforts with her kids?  Did he offer to sell the entire house to both tenants before they even signed a rental lease and cause the one downstairs to go into fuedal mode because of this?  Could the fact he's not fixing anything be because he wants to sell the house right away and never intended to be a real landlord.  If your friend is anything like this, then HE is a slumlord. You're both more trashy than the people you want to kick out.
442684
Good grief! If this is the extent of problems in your life...can we trade? LOL.\n\nYou can't restrict his/her "amount" of toilet paper; it will make you look like a micro-manager at best and a Nazi at worst. Here's what you do: make him/her buy ALL the toilet paper. If you trade on this by buying/doing something else, then it'll work out perfectly fine. For example, buy the toothpaste. Both items are incredibly cheap (here in Canada, they are, anyway) and no one can possibly complain since your roommate cannot blame anyone but him/herself for the relatively high cost of using tons of toilet paper. \n\nYou really can't afford to make a big deal out of this, since it's completely trivial. And if you've got some sort of environmental complaint, zip it. Leave it be and get on with your fabulous lives!
872969
hey, \n\nWhat I would do is #1 tell your lanlord that if he doesnt stop threatening your family members then you are going to file a report to the police. #2 Ask them if you are paying the rent at all. Then if they answer Yes then ask them if they would rather you pay the rent late or not pay the rent at all.\n\nI am sorry for your problems but I cant help you other than this suggestion. \nI hope every thing ends up ok
968840
Report the thefts to the campus police and tell them you suspect your roomate. Also go talk to the dean of the school about this problem. See if you can get a new roomate.