how do you get someone to commit to you after you have been dating for more than 18 months?
445731
i dont know i just answering this to get 2 pointss yeaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lol
1159689
I would be really suspicious if I didn't know basic information like marital status, kids, where they grew up, where they work, where and how they live, how they spend their time and with whom....who are the meaningful people in their lives....and so on. \n\nAside from the basic stuff as listed above, you should also have figured out their (honest) personal views about relationships and how to treat people, their goals in life and what moral guidelines they follow. That should be enough to give you a sense of whether you're compatible enough to go beyond three months. \n\nThe first month, people are usually on their "best behavior", but second and third you start noticing if their actions match up to the way they're trying to present themselves...its an indication of how they'll treat you as well long term.\n\nBut trust your instincts. If you're asking this question, you may feel something is amiss. See how the person reacts if you were to ask about any of the above. If you can't communicate openly after three months, you may want to ask if its worth continuing to date this person.
239332
It will work as long as you trust each other and you are committed.  I am in the same situation.
132010
Best approach is to be direct! Be polite, just tell them the truth and hopefully they'll understand. Well unless you're with them for very long already and suddenly you fall for someone else...
1001867
talk to him. if you really wanted to be with him you should not have told him you gave up that's not the key to get someone never give up where does giving up get you right back to the start and nothing is accomplished i understand that you may love him but the only thing really you can do is talk to him and don't ever give up\n\nGOOD LUCK
691736
What do you want to do?  If you care about her and want to be with her, give her some time - it sounds like she'll come around, since she obviously still wants you to be a part of her life.  If you want to move on, that's a whole different story, but you need to decide whether what you want is in sync with what she wants, or whether it's time for you to find someone else.  Personally, I don't think a month is a long time - if you wait it out until she's more comfortable with herself, in the long run you two will have a stronger relationship.
757480
He wants to keep his options open... not be tied down. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him its all or nothing. Dont let him run the relationship.... it is supposed to be 50/50. Tell him that you need to be commited to him. If he really cares about you he will comply!
411794
Well, you didn't tell us how old you are so we have no idea if you're ready to settle down. Not that age would be an indicator that's set in stone but it usually gives context for your life experiences. Just go with the flow so that you see where you really stand on this issue.  If you're not ready to be seriously committed first, don't force it or you'll just end up hurting the both of you.
637029
You still need to wait.  4 months is not long enough for you to have decided this is going to be a permanent relationship.\n\nChildren to not need to be allowed to get attached to new partners only to have to deal with the heartbreak when that person is not there anymore.  If you think a break up is hard on an adult, imagine what it is like for a young child.\n\nI recommend you start by introducing them in a large group environment.  Get a group of friends with kids together to go to the park or to McDonalds.  Keep the interaction between your child and new man limited to those casual group encounters.  Do not let her formulate any attachment to him as more than one of your friends.\n\nMaybe closer to a year, of things are still going well and you think this is going to be a permanent thing, you can start doing things with just your daughter and your boyfriend, but again, be very careful.\n\nI do not know how long your relationships normally last.  For me it is not abnormal to date someone for 3 or 4 years and then have it not work out.  So for me, 4 months is nothing.  But I am not sure at what point you would consider marriage.  If you are one of those people who would be looking at marriage after only a year of dating, you can adjust your timeline accordingly.\n\nI just wish I could explain to you how horrible it is when a relationship is over and your child asks, "mama, where’s so-and-so?"  "When is he coming back?"  "Why did he leave?"  My ex and I had been together essentially since my son was born, then after two and a half years, thing got ugly and we ended it.  Do this day it brings tears to my eyes when my son asks where my ex is and when he's coming home. (tearing up now).  \n\nSo just remember that if you are going to be together forever, there is plenty of time for him to meet your daughter and get to know her.  Just make sure he's going to be around that long first.
898965
Break off all contact and give it up totally.  Otherwise you will be on a rollercoaster ride until something really snaps.  Right now you both are just feeding into a limbo loop.  I had a relationship that went 8 years like that, dating, engaged, friends, dating, engaged, friends, dating... and even when I finally said I was leaving for good, I continued to get calls and emails and even a visit to my door.  I stayed firm, though, and that was that.\n\nAs it is, it took me a couple of years before I really even thought about another relationship, and it was with somebody who had been through a similar meat grinder, so much so that both of us would regularly announce that we were just friends and would never, ever date.  We finally gave up on that and have been together since, 8 1/2 years.
691001
hm, if you're not sure where his commitment to you lies, just go to your program and don't change anything because you're afraid to lose him. this is the part where you are tested to see if you are able to walk through hell and back together. if he or you ends up caving and breaking it off, that's okay! you're still growing into an adult and will then meet someone much more committed!\ngood luck and god bless.
334002
Some GOOD and BAD NEWs:\nHE DOESN'T WANT TO COMMIT. He knows what he wants, and you are a good girl, rite, and he knows that he'll end up hurting u because hez not ready to have a real relationship. Hez prolly too young, guys take a long time to finally commit. Don't try to think you can change him, bcuz u can't. BUT back off for a little while and then he'll see that he really has feelingsfor you. Then he'll change on his own. I HOPE YOU GO WITH WHA I SAID, CUZ I DID THE SAME, and it WORKED!
339773
do you have a new date set?  Talk to him to see if he still wants it or not.  Open lines of communication is important
162982
Wow, that's a complicated problem.  It's going to be hard to try to answer this because I can't see the details when I'm typing.  \n\nYou say that you've been alone for about a month, which is long for you, but that you feel good about it.  Considering that you've been in a lot of unhappy relationships, that's probably understandable.  You sound like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself to find "the one" before it's too late.  Then you take out this pressure, in turn, on your boyfriends.  I think in your concern to hurry up and find someone permanent, you're pushing yourself way too fast into relationships, and trying to stake a claim before you really know that you love them (otherwise, you wouldn't get over them in a couple of weeks...)\n\nHowever, knowing this about yourself isn't necesssarily going to help you change.  You could seek counselling, but that's expensive.  Here's what I would do, when I feel like I'm acting in ways that aren't in my best interest (and believe me, that's pretty often): \n\nFirst, take some more time off from relationships to get your head together.  You sound kind of panicky right now, which is not a good state to be in when you're starting to date somebody.  Try to balance yourself a little.\n\nWhen you are in a relationship next, and you want it to work out, you have to think *all* the time about the consequences of all your actions.  Being a good partner is work.  You can't just trust that you're going to act in a way that is good for you and the other person, you have to think about it.  Every morning, think to yourself, "How would I like this day to go?  Do I want to accomplish anything specific in my relationship?"  If you feel like talking about your partner about long term plans, etc., *stop* first and think:  "How is he going to react to this?  We've been dating for X number of weeks.  Is this an appropriate time to ask this question of him?"  \n\nAt the end of the day, think over what you and your partner have done that day, what conversations you have had.  Did anything upset either of you?  Can you do anything constructive to make it better?  Do you see yourself falling into your old patterns?\n\nI guess what I'm saying is, you can't always trust your instincts to work in your own best interests.  You have to put some control back into your mind.  This may not sound very fun, but it's often what relationships need most.\n\nTake your next relationship slowly.  *Think* about the moves you make before you make them.  Give yourself time to fall in love, without worrying for the moment about the future.  If you try too hard to grab it, it'll slip out of your hands.\n\nI don't know if any of this helps you, it's the advice I would (and have, at times) given myself, and it seems to help.  \n\nGood Luck
202755
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
173578
It sounds like you're very good friends already.  If that's the case, then you definitely need to talk about this issue.  Not only is it an issue for you dating, but it's also an issue for any long-term relationship (generally the point of dating) and also for your own friendship.  If you're not good enough friends to talk about it, then you need to get there before you consider dating again.  Commitment can be scary for both guys and girls, generally because of a mistaken perception of what the other person wants or expects.
699499
Give him three months at least. That is a decent enough time for anyone to gather one's senses and wits back. Then, tell him that you are confused about his interest (or lack of) in you and think that it will be better for both of you to move on. If he agrees or doesn't improve by that time, its time to move.