i have a bf that i'v been with for 5 years but he just started going to jail my mom sad leave shud i?
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why is he going to jail?? is it some kind of drug thing or violence.. It all depends on you and do you want to wait for him. how long is he going way for? \nmy friend waited 17 months had a jail house wedding and they werent even together a year when he got out and now they are divorced \njust ask you self if its worth you time
608639
Time is the only thing which will provide answers for you. Perhaps your mother does not deserve your trust, repect and honour, and if that is true, I am sorry. Your mom is supposed to be the one to provide guidance to you, but for some reason you aren't listening to her. If your bf does not have legal status in the USA, you don't want to endanger him, so moving in with him would make him vulnerable. I suggest you stay with your mom for the present time, and take the time to figure out how to make things work. Maybe you can help you bf get legal status without marrying him. It is very difficult to obtain status through marriage now. Good luck in your future......just give it a little more time.
1041358
i know u feel bad but let me just tell you that when someone is in jail the last thing he want to hear is that his gf is going out with another dude... don't put it on the family's name.. i hope he can forgive you someday
570083
Sounds like he's trying to control you.  You need to nip that in the bud right now because if you adjust your life to pacify him on this matter, he'll just find something else to take control of.  If you allow that, in 20 years you will have no self esteem and not be able to make decisions or do anything without his approval or guidance.\nIn other words, you'll be miserable.\n\nHe's insecure about your relationship with your mother.  Tell him flat out and without an apology that you are going to continue the relationship with your mother.  Then do exactly as you say and be on the lookout for other control issues that may arise.
492811
You have to do something, you can press charges by aking help from organizations that deals with this. They will give you free lawyer, counselling, etc. After he's in jail, forget about him and the hurting experiences, move on girl, you deserve more than him and you should be happy.You are still lucky because he showed his true colors and you're not married yet and without kids. Trust me, it's like hell!\nBe happy girl, you'll find someone who will respect and love you all the way! Best regards!
52454
If you still love her?  I don't think what happened could stop you from loving her assuming you did in the 1st place.\n\nIf you do love her you should stand by her.  She will need you now more than ever.  In any case be supportive.  The bastard that did that to her should be sent to prison so he can experience some "treatment" from the big boys himself!!!
773147
I think you have made the right decision. Breaking the cycle is the hardest thing you can do in you life. I was abused mentally,sexually and physically as a child and I didn't get away from it until I got married. I think you are a very brave and special person for standing up to you dad. Because It is wrong for someone especially the man that is suppose to be your protector to hurt you like that. And your mom should put you first. You are probably missing your mother's love, that all girls need. Try to go to counselling,and find a female that can and is willing to give you "motherly love".
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Honey your mom is going through a lot of stress right now and so are you. I can assure that she loves you and while she might be angry ( hell even PISSED) at you for sneaking out she will respect you being grown up enough to tell her what you did and why. Tell her how you are feeling and what you did. It is a fact of life that you have to accept the punshiment that goes with the "crime" so step up and maybe this conversation will help the two of you understand each other a little better in the long run.
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My ex is in prison for 15 years for attempted strangualation and domestic battery. He hurt me really bad and left me on the floor bleeding to death. My daughter found me and called 911.\n\nAnyone in this situation PLEASE get out or get help. I never in my life would have thought he would ever go that far.. it was always "oh, he just hit me on my arm or a little on my face." I never had him try and kill me before then all of a sudden he just snapped.
880381
Your poor mum...5 years is a long time. I hope she gets rid of him as its a real cheek if he says he can't stop seeing the other woman !!!
1183088
If you are saying what I think your saying I would get away from that dude. It's only been 5 weeks. If he is doing things he shouldn't be doing and you are hanging around him you are going to get in trouble, or get hurt. I knew a girl once who had a boyfriend who was involved in that crap and she is dead now. Just think this way too, that dude is going to be in prison soon so you won't see him anyways. And that's the truth.
223175
I have the same problem. My mother has been with a man for 7 months now who is intent on getting his mates to beat my younger brother up. Keep in mind this man is 41 and my brother is only 22. This man is also a druggy and a alcoholic who associates with nasty people. My mum does not see this man for what he is really like, a low life scum bag basically. What i suggest is you go below the belt and think of ways that would maybe scare him off. Involve your friends if you can, male or female. Dont do anything that would break the law of course, but devise a plan that wont back fire on you from your mother. Maybe prank phone calls to his mobile number prenteding to be his secret love affiar while he is with your mum in the nights ?? Belive me she will go nuts after constant calls night after night. It nearly worked for me. If you want to contact me for ideas i will greatly help as last year i near enough made it a no.1 priority to get rid of my mums b.friend as i hate him with a passion.
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You have every right ot be upset with him.  You are under a lot of stress right now, with your Mom being ill and having to travel back and forth, that is a pretty good strain on anyone.  Then to have to deal with this on top of that.  He has betrayed your trust and if you can't see it in you to let it go, then I would suggest ending the relationship.  I don't think I personally could let it go.  If he can't keep it in his pants for the short time you are gone then he's the one with the problem.  He would have a bigger problem if he were mine.
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the same thing happened to me will almost the same thing but the guy i talk to had to stay with his step mammy cuz his daddy told him that he was gonna come back for but the lady lied to the judge and he had to stay until he was 18 and his mom left cuz a man told her that he was gonna do so much for her but really all he was doing was hitting on her until she got up and Left that man and for my boyfriend all i could do for him is be there when he needs me and make him smile when he is down but you need to stop listing to everybody until you see it or hear it for your self
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Has he left before and came back?  Then You have to worry.  If He has been violent before, pack some things and You and Your Mom get out.  You know How intense He has been in the past, and what He may or may not have done, before that You need to be concerned about.  Just go to Your Mom and talk to Her, calm Her down, tell Her You are in this together.  If He has been abusive He may have made her think she can't make it without Him.  If You pray, get on Your knees and Pray with Her, that all will be OK, and that the two of You will be Safe, and You Both will make it fine, together.  My heart is with You, no one should have to go through this, especially a Child.  God Bless, and Best Wishes
382547
He's CRAZY you cant expect him to be logical.  Hes in jail and cant do anything about it, but still has the right to be upset you did something you didnt want him to do.  Get the rest of the $$ and be more responsible next time.
412186
Apparently talking and being nice and putting up with him, doesnt work. Maybe you should get the police to ask him to leave. Or you could throw his stuff out, not sure if you could get a restraining order- if you can go for it! It's quite evident that he's brining you nothing but hurt. Make a stand now for you and your kids.\nThe sooner he is out, the better you will be able to get on with your life. Once that's done, for GOD's SAKE, DONT LOOK BACK!