why do some couples marry first then have kids, while others have kids first then get married?? this is wierd.
438043
Those that have kids first...feel they HAVE to get married, while those that get married first, then have kids...actually WANTED to get married....
1002425
Different strokes for different folks. My guy and I are as opposite as they come. We been married 13 years with four children. I hope you are as  lucky hun
739128
marriage is exist in this world and this is one of the reason why we are here in this planet because we are forming a family. as god says "go to the world and multiply".
717446
That is not something that I plan. When it happens it happens. I mean I'm already married but kids that's like 5 years down the line.
93940
I think any marraige, teen or not, just for the sake of a child are setting the couple up for failure. Eventually, there will come a time in their lives where one person (usually the man) who feels resentment for giving up his freedom because of a child. Most people who marry because of a child don't even fully love the person they are marrying. Now this isn't to say that teen marraiges don't work out... I'm just saying the cards are stacked against them and they have to work hard TOGETHER to get through and prove the world wrong.
851401
cause people are into the easy way out, quick fixes ect ect most people these days dont take being married seriously enough so they end up calling it quits after only a few years.  its not about them being young, its about how mature they are as a couple and how much they love eachother. also its really hard just starting out money is usually tight so its easy to fight.
873505
two men or two women can't have kids the natural way, and that's what marriage defines. And I just don't believe it should be called marriage for that reason, it can be called a union of partners or something like that, but there has got to be a difference between a man and a woman getting married and two men or two women committing themselves to each other. \n\nHaving said that, I don't have anything against gay people, I have many colleagues that are, but I just think that it should be called different, not marriage.\n\nI do believe that a person is born homosexual, and that its not a habit or a choice, and I do think that its great that people are able to open up and let the world know who they are.
1175285
There are many reasons to want to get married... some good, some bad.\nA friend of mine had this theory that people were getting married because they were getting bored in their relationship, so they'd decide to get married so that they had something to talk about. And when the excitement of marriage had worn off, they'd move on to make children...\nIt's obviously a dark way of seeing things but I fear it's often close to the truth. \nI want to get married because I consider it a gift to my man, the promise to spend (or at least try!) my whole life with him... the ultimate commitment you can make!
1175505
Your situation is not unique. I lived with a woman freind of mine whose partner had been married twice both times for 10 years and had kids by both men.   They had a few lesbian friends who were in similar situation.  Married young and came out afterward.  Glad you found out early.
456153
you can love 2 peoples at a time marriage is not about the religion but normal peoples get married because they want to spend their lives together its not normal to be married whit to guys which one is the father or to be married whit two ladies who are you going to get pregnant first wont the other be pissed off? its normal for one couple to be married if they love one another
529492
BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT THEM TO BE PARENTS BEFORE THEIR TIME.  THEY KNOW THAT IN REAL LIFE IF SOMETHING LIKE THEIR DAUGHTERS BECOMING PREGNANT BEFORE MARRIAGE THERE IS A STRONG POSSIBILITY THAT THEY WILL BE SINGLE PARENTS. AND NO ONE WANTS THAT FOR THEIR DAUGHTER. THEY MIGHT GIVE YOU OTHER REASONS BUT THAT IS DEFINITELY IN THE BACK OF THEIR MIND AT ALL TIMES.
31418
Some people just dont want to deal with other peoples kids----I think that it would be better to find someone that already has kids--they will understand u better than a person that dont have kids.  And also the fact that the kids live with you--alot of women are bothered by that.  \nBut the best advice I can give is that--u obviously havent meet that special person--because if you had--she will love you and accept you even if you had 10 kids---so just keep looking--you will find that person.\nGood luck.
223320
It's not worth staying in a bad marriage because of kids. Most of the time it does more harm to them than good. When old enough just explain that sometimes 2 people can't live together...K
1167211
Because so many times the people getting married are too young and do not know what they are getting into. then they want to blame each other for the problem. \n\nMarriage is to easy to start and hard to end\n\nI was one of these silly girls. At 19 my parents wanted me to marry my first husband simply because he asked after knowing each other for 2 months. We were married for 5 years and he would beat me. I left him and took our two sons with me.\n\n5 years later I married the most wonderful man in the world. Racism is not an issue he is Arab and I am white. My family loves him as well. we have been married for a year and will be married for the next 100.
595906
they are probably brought up to believe that thats what is supposed to happen...but if couples marry and they arent getting along or there are problems and ur expecting a baby... that wont bring u closer ...it sometimes brings u further apart... i am a single mother raising a toddler now... and better off due to not marrying my xbf.. im happier and my son is happy and healthy and now my xbf wants nothing to do with either of us... it would have been worse going thru a divorce and custody battle... so couples should really think about what is best for the long run and for their child but dont get married or stay together if it is JUST for ur kids... u need to be happy also
556590
When a man marries, he marries WIFE. She is FIRST. If the relationship grows and blooms, and contractural promises made to each other are honoured, she should remain first. Children come along secondly. They are helpless and you and WIFE are responsible for their protection as the number one priority in your lives. If WIFE fails to protect children, WIFE needs to be protected by you. The way you do that is to consider children FIRST. The fragile people in our society must always be protected. Your children should be the fragile component of your family, unless the adults are not mentally incomptent.\nIf is a philosophical question. Thanks.
1156498
Happened to me. We have been married now for almost 4 yrs and we have 2 kids.