how can u stop being afraid of commitment and have a relationship?
443565
You have to give yourself permission to trust another person.  There could be something in your past that makes you a little nervous about getting hurt.  It's the chance we take when we fall in love, but it's a gamble and we aren't promised anything, I mean when in life are we promised anything so why should love be different.\n\nChoose your mate wisely, make sure he's committed and respectful, make your intentions clear and as does he.  Don't jump in too quick and don't be too judgmental.\n\nWith joy sometimes comes sorrow but don't deprive yourself of the wonderful feeling of being in love.  What's the expression 'It's better to have love and lost than not love at all".
541989
I think everyone who is committed feels like they want to be free sometimes.  You have to realize that you are committed and before you go to someone else you have to end what your in the middle of FIRST.  Being in a relationship is worth it but you have to work hard at it.  AND BE FAITHFUL.
260945
you know its funny cause that sounds just like me but i have somebody now.Even though you are a nervous person you just need to get out there and meet people,go out with friends and just have fun.I think you will find sombody.Oh and im still in love with my ex and i dont know how to get over that.
286456
you need to learn more about yourself first, before you can connect up with someone else.  if you are scared, there is a reason.  talk with someone, write your feelings out, see if you can figure out why you are scared.   you are valuable, don't allow yourself to be pressured into anything you don't wish to do.
1117922
Commitment phobia? You mean things like relationships, weight loss, and stuff like that. In my case it is just laziness and sometimes lack of time/money etc, lots of excuses why I will not want to commit. Or just that I dislike doing something.
833370
you ve asked this numerous times\nyou have imtimacy issues\nyou are afraid of commitment that why you prefer this bullsh**t
210274
You are afraid of commitment, so remember that time does heal and when you are ready you will be able to commint to the right guy.
792556
Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't.  You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.'  I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself.  Do you really not want a relationship?  Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship?  What is it?  If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it.  You're not a lemming.  Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to.  Also, are you fairly young?  If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet.  Don't worry about what other people think.  Worry about what you think.
715559
You can take some of the pressure and feelings away by giving yourself a break. Realize that no one is the ultimate dream date for everyone , this helps. Good relationships seem to appear most often when your not trying so hard to find them . You'll instinctively know when the right girl comes along just be out in the field where you may encounter them and don't stay home for fear of rejection and feel so bad that you have these feelings they are not so unusual and it seems you are pressuring yourself to have an instant relationship and it just doesn't happen that way. Lighten up and enjoy yourself and try to forget about these feelings and your chances will improve. Be confident in yourself and like I said there is no perfect person desired by all . There will be a girl who will come along when you stop looking and dwelling on it so much. Good luck to you , she's out there you can believe in that.
361171
its sad that you have a fear of talkin to him. if you want to be in a relationship you have to talk to. just open up and tell him whatever you want to. that is part of having a good heathly relationship.
10225
Take time for your self, in every relationship we are in we seem to lose a piece of ourselves, we need to gain that back before we have anything to offer in a new relation, find out who you are, grow from the experience. Some times I think people are afraid to be alone with them selves for awhile, it's ok to be single. I think I got your question right if not good advice any way I think.
913604
You shouldn't worry about relationships now, you have too much life ahead of you.  \nYou're too young to worry about this.  \nHave fun and enjoy being a kid.
572181
You're simply not ready and have not met the right person.  Spending a lot of time with a person on a regular basis can become more a habit that we become familiar with, not love.  When you find the person that takes your breath away, consumes your every thought, and gives you the feeling of constantly walking on air you'll feel the need to begin really building on that relationship.  Take your time.
434629
Firstly you need to overcome your fears.  Try and find a common interest (if you know each other I am sure you have one) and talk about that.\n\nAnd as for knowing if it's really love... I don't think anyone ever does.  You need to just ride things out.  That's what I've always found.  Best way to learn.
374330
Be willing and prepared to change.  You have to become a completely different person than you are right now.  Whatever attracts you to the other person will eventually drive you nuts.  And vice versa.  So if you like yourself, don't commit to a long term relationship.
692694
Sometimes, when you yourself look or feel uncomfortable, the other person starts feeling the same way.  Other times, it's just them.  No matter what the reason is, best way to break the ice is to go out and explore interesting places.  Break the ice!  Maybe go to an amusement park or a skating rink or watch a movie or go out clubbing.  When the focus is not you, or him, you both become more comfortable.  Also, talk to him.  Ask him if why he's nervous.  If he can't explain it as well, then just let things flow.  Moving from friendship to a romantic relationship is a big change.  It will take time for both of you to adjust.  So, I suggest, don't rush.  Take it slow.  Enjoy moments together.  Tell him that although you are now in a relationship, your core foundation of friendship still stands true.  That means that you don't have any big expectations.  That you still see him not only as a boyfriend, but also as a good friend and confidante.  Follow what your instinct tells you. We women are supposed to be very good at this.  \nJust a note:  Congratulations!  The best and the most lasting romantic relationships usually starts from friendship! Enjoy the ride of your lifetime! =)
610411
well im female and i hate committment cause im afraid of getting hurt