How do you say goodbye to a loved one that you just found died?
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don't say goodbye.  He/she will always be with you in every word said, in every advice given, in every laughter and in every moment you two spent together. \nI lost both my parents and grandmother in a car crash a few years back and even though was very hard not seeing them again, they still live in me and in every person's life they touched. I still see my father's look in my son's eyes and can still listen to my mother's advices every time I'm in need of them.\nSo, they're not gone and certainly not forgotten, so don't say goodbye to your loved one. Just close your eyes and he/she will be at your side forever.
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Usually this person is in need of bringing closure to past conflicts. Let them talk...let them express. Even help them contact old acquaintances they feel the need to say things to before they pass. \n\nOften times, this person has to come to terms with their fate. It then becomes such a peaceful time for them because they have accepted the end. Help your friend get here. Go through old memories. Remind them of experiences that helped mold their life. Accomplishments. Make them feel that their life was "lived." It helps them realize that they made a mark on this world. Ask others to come by and show respect and admiration for what they were able to share in their relationship with this person.\n\nYour friend needs to feel their self worth before accepting that it is now time to go. I have no doubt that you can do a wonderful job helping them get there. \n\nI'm so sorry for your impending loss. It is oftentimes harder on those left behind. But you are doing a wonderful thing. This will be remembered.
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try to talk to her/him as much as possible keep in touch with her/him\nlet them know you miss 'em
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I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
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You don't.....\n\nWe lost our daughter 4 years ago.  There really isn't anything you can do to make it go away.  But, as foreign as the notion seems now, it becomes less painful over time.\n\nWe actually ended up moving because I saw her everywhere.  We made a fresh start in another house in another city.  I think that was the beginning of the "better" for me.  I wasn't driving by the hospital she died in anymore, I didn't see her laying on the couch, playing in the yard.\n\nMost of it is in your heart.  You have to figure out the way that makes this okay for your own peace.  Can you see past how much you miss her to realizing that she is no longer in pain?  Can you reconcile it with your religion or spiritual beliefs?  Can you let her go?\n\nIn time you will have more peaceful thought and memories, and the tears that stream down your face every time you hear name will be replaced with a little smile.\n\nBetter days are coming.  I am so sorry for all you have been dealt.  I can honestly say that I know what you're going through........ and you are in my prayers.  If you want someone to talk to... I'm here.
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death especially of my loved ones
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Pick out a nice card that you feel suits hers and your personality.  Sign it simply, that's best.  \n\nLike,\n\n"You mean a lot to me, and my prayers and thoughts are with you."\n\nor\n\n"Please know I am here for you in this difficult time."\n\nDon't fo with the "so sorry" thing...it's overdone and we all know how little the usual response like that affects us.  Let your friend know you care.  That is what it is all about.
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  Whatever you do - do something.  No matter how insignifcant whatever you do may seem to you at the moment - it will mean more than you can imagine to the family.  They understand the distance in miles associated with this loss.  God bless you and yours at this time!
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I am so sorry for you loss.  It might help to talk about it with your family...\nLoosing a family member can not only be hard...but stressful and draining.  So many things can be done...so many things can help you.  The thing is finding what works for you.  \nIn every life...there is death.  Neither one can be fair at times....I am so sorry.
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My Grandma passed away 6 yrs ago on the 6th of July.......her Bday is June 30th......every yr since she has left.....I go to her gravesite....bring her fresh flowers & just sit for an hr or so....although some people would say I am bonkers.....I talk....I tell her everything....even though I know she is with me on a daily basis....& sees all that is going on....I still do this....it makes me feel like she is really there.....even though I walk away crying...& missing her even more....I know that it something we enjoyed together.....my Grandma was a VERY special woman....I miss her everyday & sometimes just break down & cry whenever I think of her.....I just thank god she was able to meet my daughter before she went....my son was 2 & my daughter was 1 when it happened.....Honey, I know it is hard when it is a Parent.....she was like a mom to me.....just go spend some time with him....pray & remember every good time....even remember the bad times.....just celebrate him.....GOD BLESS YOU in your time of need....
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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I'm assuming that you are talking about a loved one in a romantic sense here.  I guess you can call them?  E-mail them?  SMS them?  Fax them?  Chat on MSN/Yahoo Messenger and AIM to them?  Make the most of the time you guys have together and just enjoy.. When you are not with them, just remember all the good things that happened when you were with them and look forward to seeing them again! :) Hope this helped somehow.
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I'm sorry to hear that. Did he just pass away? I'll copy this from a book I have on checklists for everything:\n1) Call a close friend or family member to help you.\n2) Find out is he had already made final arrangements.\n3) Decide about the funeral. The body can remain as is for 72 hours, so you have time to decide on your choices.\n4) If you need to relocate the body before burial plans are finalized, you can ask for a temporary storage at a funeral home. Make sure you indicate the funeral director that you might have a different option of funeral home. You can do that.\n5) Inform friends and family about service after details are finalized.\n6) Keep careful track of the original death certificate. You'll need it. Make a ton of copies.\n7) Decide on an obituary and where it should appear.\nTake care.
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sadly -- my dad has passed away
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Please accept my sympathy for your loss.\n\nI think it depends on the individual as well as the circumstances of the death.  Some times if the deceased was sick for a long time the widower can sometimes move on a little sooner than someone who was suddenly and unexpectedly widowed because they have had time to prepare.  The main thing is to have peace in your heart and not to get involved only to find you weren't ready and then hurt someone.  You also have to factor in your children and their ages.  It might help to talk to them before you start pursuing the dating field again and make sure that they understand if you find someone you like they won't be "replacing" their mother.  The fact that you are asking makes me believe that you yourself think you are ready but are worried that other people may think its too soon.  True friends will be supportive no matter what and should be happy that you are ready to attempt to find the second love of your life.  Don't worry about other people. Do whats makes you happy and what's best for you and your children.  Good luck!!!
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"Respect"\n\nRev. Steven\n\n  "My condolences to you on your Loss"
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=I am sorry for the loss of your classmate. The guidance counselor is always there to help you as well as keep talking about it because it helps process the grief you are feeling.  Try to go to the wake and maybe the funeral with someone.  It would also be a nice gesture on your part to send the family a sympathy card telling them why their loved one was so special to you.  God Bless.