y is it when you break up with a person then just finally talk again you just r all over each other again?why?
444731
because there are still so many questions that you have to ask to get closure. Then again you just might not be over the feeling of rejection. That's why you argue cause it's like damn what the fuck are you doing am I not good enough for you? then you start to question yourself. and thats no good either.
1163901
There is a time after a breakup where the pain of parting is greater than the need for someone new. The more you cared for them, the longer it takes. The trick is knowing when to move on.
243247
I think that the answer could be a couple of different things.\nHe could just be the type of person who does not care for another.  He is only interested in what he can get out of the situation and not concerned about the feelings of someone else.\nAnother thing could be that he was running his mouth a little too much after your breakup.  He could have been talking to his friends and got caught up in macho talk.  Things like that do happen.\nThe last thing that I could consider is that he is upset at breaking up and needs to justify it.  He needs to cut you down to make himself feel better.  By doing so he can better deal with the fact that you are no longer together, even if he is the one who broke it off.  The best people for him to talk to would be his friends.\nI can only make these assumptions from the information provided, but if I had to take a guess I think it may have been number one.  He doesn't care.  My justification for that would be the number of girlfriends he has had in the past.\nI hope that all works out for you.
351965
Of course you miss him and your thinking about stuff you did together.  It perfectly natural.  Without knowing the nature of the break up and how long ago it was, this is difficult to answer.  If you broke up because of a "clingy" issue - take a step back and give him some space to breath.  \nIf it is for some other reason - e-mail him and just say "I just wanted to tell you I miss you."  Relationship are work - they will take effort on both sides.  If you think you can date someone without ever disagreeing on something your fooling yourself and will be breaking up with a lot of people throughout your life.  You can never go wrong with telling someone how you really feel - especially when you are telling someone something nice like you love them and care for them.\nJust as a disclaimer: If this guy put an aggressive finger on you in any way, STAY AWAY!!!  You deserve better.
292941
It's either the trust issue or something deeper. Do you bury or repress fights when you are together? How do you fight when  you are apart?\n\nI've heard alot of terms for this, passionate, full of emotion, whatever. In the end if two people can't get along, it's best to part ways.
390236
It's a situation of comfort versus the unknown.  If you date someone new, there's no familiarity.  With an ex, you have a certain comfort zone.  Also... our minds are hardwired to mute the bad memories and bolster the good ones.  It's a psychological coping mechanism.  So a person remembering their ex will remember the good times and, especially if it has been a while, often ask themselves why they broke up in the first place.  After thinking about it for a short time, though, that same person will remember the REASONS for the breakup.  But... it's a lot harder if they broke up with you, easier if you broke up with them.
1137087
It all comes down to why you broke up.
302700
This really is common, whether we admit it or not. I have a friend that at times really frusterates me. I just wait a week or so and then by giving the both of us space, we just start pretty much where we left off, and the funny part is that most of the time she doesn't even know I was upset with her, friends just do that. See what causes yall to fight and try to avoid it, if you can't do this then try to talk to her about this, a real friend is there through the thick and the thin!
475757
This is typical after a breakup if the two people remain friends.  The problem is that even though you aren't together, you still have feelings for each other and everyone around you will still often treat you like a couple so it is very easy to fall into old patterns.  It doesn't mean anything has changed or that you two should be together, it just means your not able to move on because you two are still so connected by life in general.
1067314
Your boyfriend is breakin up with you.  I've done it like that b4 myself.  dont need to come out and say it, just let it drift apart n by the time the girl asks whats goin on, i'm already with someone else.
193021
Sounds like you are both in a better place to have an adult relationship now. When people ask about getting back together with an old flame I always ask them to try and think about what is going to be differant this time so you don't end up breaking things off again.\n\nYou are your ex need to have a serious discussion about what went wrong last time and how you can BOTH make sure that those types of things don't happen again.\n\nBest of luck
471969
What?  I have no freaking idea what your question is anymore.  I am not even certain of who broke up with whom. I am not sure if you got back together again or what.
521573
It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia
131308
Went through the same thing with my ex bf turned friend. One minute he hates me then he loves me. We get along better when we don't talk much.
550177
Guys aren't the only ones who do this.  I think the reasoning is that they want to feel wanted.  This way they kind of broke up but can still claim a relationship while they seek or commit more time to another relationship.\n\nI had an ex girlfriend tell me whs wanted to "take a break".  I gave her a break, I dumped her.  There are no "breaks" in relationships.  You are either in or out.  But that's me personally.  If you want your space, I'll give it to you, and I'll find someone that wants me in their space.  Not anymore though, I'm married.\n\nHope that helps.
293325
Well people break up for a reason! Normally cause they can't stand the other. And if one person wants to actually be friends they are generally settling for that cause the other won't give them anymore than that.
809120
it probably means that hes not happy, depressed, or just feels bad about the whole breaking up thing.... or he might just be shy around you now that you guys are broken up he might feel weird talking to you