statements that are considered threatening in domestic Violence?
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Well, it would be nice if you told us what these things are, because without knowing what he's saying, how would anybody know if they are considered a crime or a threat?\n\nAlso need to know what state you're in, since laws differ from state to state.\n\nChances are, at least here in California, cruel and demeaning things would not qualify as domestic abuse.  But again, it's impossible for anyone to tell you specifically without knowing what's being said and where you are.\n\nEDIT 4.27.06\n\nYou still didn't say what state you're in.  Based on the additional information you posted tonight, if you were in California, poking you in the chest with his fingers would be a crime, and possibly telling you he was going to throw you out a window would be a crime.\n\nThe thing is, whether these things are crimes or not is not really the issue.  The issue is that your husband is abusing you in one or more forms.  You've also added tonight that you have children, so you're not the only victim here.  He may not touch the children, but he (and you, I'm sorry to say) are exposing the children to domestic abuse...I won't go into all the studies that have been done on children who are exposed to the kinds of stuff you're talking about but trust me, it will screw a kid up.  For that reason, California Child Protective agencies have started removing children from homes where domestic abuse is taking place, even if the children are not directly victims.\n\nI've seen a lot of domestic violence cases...more than would fill a lifetime.  And the things they all have in common is that they start out small, get gradually bigger, and eventually will end up in your death if something does not change.  I'm guessing he does these things, then apologizes, then things are fine for a while, then it happens again?  And when it happens again, it's maybe just a little bit worse...he calls you worse names, pushes you just a little more, etc?  Domestic violence has a really predictable cycle and I just described it for you.   \n\nGet out.  Do not wait, do not assume he will get better, do not think you can't make it (of course, he obviously wants you to think that, because then you won't leave and he will continue to have a victim), do not expose yourself and your children to this man any longer than it takes to pack.  I guarantee there is a domestic violence organization somewhere near you that will be more than willing to help you...800-799-SAFE is a start.\n\nI *promise* you...if something does not make him change, he will not.  People don't change without some reason, and you staying there is not going to be the reason.
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I don't think it would be wrong to exaggerate on this one in order to keep him away.  Have her file a restraining order on him. Just say he hit her or that he threaten to kill her with a gun or knife. My ex-husband was so controlling that after I left him he followed me around.  Even after I changed my phone # he found out what it was some how.  He really did try to stab me, but when I filled my restraining order I added a little extra just to make him pay. Who do you think the judge will believe? Him or her.  All she has to say is she's extremely terrified of him and what he will do to her. The restraining order will cost you about 20 or 30 dollars, but it's a small price to pay to keep a psycho away LEGALLY.
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Yes, there is a possibility of a husband being charged for Raping a wife -- and that is when the husband forces the wife, and she definitely says "NO!" -- most often seen in cases of Domestic Violence.
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You need to leave, taking your son with you. If your s.o.'s prior domestic violence was severe enough to land him in jail, you and your son are in danger! But I think you know that. You need to go to your version of the Family Court and apply for an ex parte Protection from Abuse order to start with. If it is approved, this could give you temporary custody of your son and even possibly give you possession of your place of residence (depending on a lot of situations, of course.)\n\nOnce you have done this, get in touch with your version of the Legal Aid Society. They should be able to advise you about the legality of the recordings you have and help you at no charge. Also, check out the Domestic Violence Center. If you have nobody you can live with until this comes to a full hearing, they may be able to find you a safe shelter.\n\nOnce you go to a final hearing, if you get a FULL Protection from Abuse order, you can try for custody. You MUST try to do this, despite the threats. If you don't, you KNOW there will be more trouble and possible violence. If you DO this, you will at least have SOME chance that things will get better and you will have what you want and need.\n\nPlease -- take care -- but get help soon!
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what you need is a criminal law textbook... look up the defence of "battered woman syndrome" or its equivalent in your local terminology.  Also try the defences of "self defence" or "provocation".  In case you're in Australia, the only famous one I can think of here was Osland v R (1998) 159 Australian Law Reports p 170\n\nOtherwise try websites of the public prosecutor in your state/country, or there should be some domestic violence resource centres near you.  I googled "Domestic Violence resource centre" and got heaps of links... try it yourself or have a go at these:\n\nAustralia: www.dvrc.org.au/\nVictoria, Australia: www.dvirc.org.au/\nNSW, Australia: www.lawlink.nsw.gov.au/dvlink\nPennsylvania, USA: www.nrcdv.org/\nOhio, USA: www.ohiodvresources.org/\nOregon, USA: www.dvrc-or.org/
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There are, of course, arguments for and arguments against.\n\nThe main argument against is that it is never just to use deliberate deadly force to respond to a non-deadly threat.  In other words, if you are flicking me on the ear, I can't shoot you, but I might be allowed to hit your hand away.  Non-deliberate deadly force, of course, is okay.  If you come after me with your fists and I punch you, and you fall back and hit your head and die, the force was deadly but it was non-deliberate, so it is justified.  However, if you hit your wife with your hand, and she shoots you, it can be argued that it is similarly non-justified because the force she used (deadly force) is out of proportion with the force you used (non-deadly).\n\nThe biggest argument in favor is that domestic violence is simply different.  The law takes as it's model basically two guys that don't know each other, who are of equal strength, that get into a fight (say, at a bar).  With domestic violence, the woman almost always knows the man and is nearly 100% of the time dependent on him (for money, shelter, etc.).  As a result, she is unable to leave the situation and a condition transpires known as "learned helplessness."  The woman is not making "choices" in the usual sense.  The argument runs that this psychological state of dominance and control is an excuse for the woman's actions, and therefore, deliberate deadly force is acceptable.\n\nA feminist reply is that this is another way to belittle women: there should not be one set of rules for men (no deadly force) and another for women (deadly force okay) simply because we think women are weak.
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I don't know for sure, but I am sure that every community (unfortunately there's a need) has a telephone # under Domestic Violence~under the services part of phone book. Or you could call your local D.A.
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Not at all. The laws are meant to prevent trouble, as well as take punitive action after something happens. If you are in a threatening relationship, get out. Get to a family lawyer and find out exactly what protection is available to you. \nGood luck!
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Just a would be abuser that is afraid of going to jail.  It would be an honourable statement if he said he wouldn't hit you because REAL men don't hit women.
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notify police and then go to court for help for domestic violence.  There they can help with everything including immigration
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Start out by reporting her for disturbing the peace. Do it every time she starts screaming at you. If they won't come out and do anything about it, this is what you do. Go to the Police Dept during regular business hours and file a complaint regarding lack of response on your problem. Tell them that you feel threatened by this woman. Keep a journal of every time you call and everything she does. Write down dates and times for everything. After you have several calls down and several incidents recorded, go to your city or county courthouse and ask the clerk of court about filing for a protection order. A protection order says that she can no longer attempt to communicate with you in any way. She can still yell at your husband or guests, but not you. Once you are at that level, go to your apartment managers again with copies of all this information. Still can't get rid of her? Take your info to an attorney for civil matters. You may have a nice case for a lawsuit. You may also want to have your husband file for a protection order as well. Hopefully you get a good repsonse from the police and she starts getting tickets for disturbing the peace. Do you know her name? You can check with the county courthouse and get her criminal record if she has one. Check with them and see what they will charge you for the information. In my area it's ten dollars for anybody's info. Build up and save your evidence and you should see her going bye bye, before long. If I can be of any further assistance, let me know.
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This may be a little late, but you should notify your local police department about the threat and the person who is threatening you. If possible, stay out of your environment in case they strike you or harm you and your children in some way. If you know this persno, find a way to recieve a restraining order from court. And, if possible as well, settle your dispute with the person and see a solution for your disagreements. I hope that all will be well in your life and I will be praying for you, whether or not you believe in the same God that I do. I wish you peace.
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general that statement alone would be considered a threat, also have to take into the context of the statement and anything else that would affect the situation.
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I'd say block their number, restraining orders are generally only issued if threats of violence or actual physical contact of a violent or threatening nature have taken place.
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The threats are disturbing.  Consult the police and be very very careful.  People like that carry out their threats.
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I disagree with the person who says domestic violence is the "obvious" answer. I think it's the ultimate answer. People who feel trapped in this kind of relationship are being controlled and there is little joy in their marriage. I deal with this issue in my work, and I'd say along with drug/alcohol addictions this is at the top of the list. Domestic violence would include physical, sexual and verbal/emotional abuse.\n\nOther than these, I'd include a lack of intimacy (not sex as much as intimacy), having incompatible values (moral, spiritual, financial, child rearing, etc.), or a lack of commitment (which would include things like infidelity or excessive flirtations).
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There are too many to list here and they can vary depending on the situation.  This site is a big help:\n\nhttp://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm#signs