I'm leaving with my baby daddy and my ex-mess around wants to mess again, I kind of want to but I'm not sure?
439997
Been there done that--both options.  Choose what you have.  What you had before didn't last for a reason.  It may feel thrilling but that sure as hell doesn't last.  You call him an ex-mess for a reason and the guy you are with deserves more respect than that.
167684
You are in for it. If he spends lots of time with the baby and its not alone. (at his ex's place without you) THen he's probably doing something with her and you. SO if your not into that, you have a lot of thinking to do. Its better to love and lost and never loved at all. (men in black)
384791
well i am sorry to hear that the baby died. but that was 4 mounts ago so he is no longer her babies daddy true Enif thy have past together but that is where it needs to stay it he wont's to continue on seeing her and if he cant leave his ex alone then your girl needs to move on with her life and find someone better
904791
No, you should not.  He will leave you again, even if he does come back because he knows he can.  It will take time, but I'd get him off of your Christmas list, because he has no regard for you.  Take care of your daughter and see to it he meets his legal obligations to your daughter.  I hope you heal and find someone that treats you better.  God Bless.
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
768221
Its very immature of your ex to take it out on the child.\n\nKids need to see their Dads.\n\nTry and sort it out, otherwise if he doesnt make contact then just let it be
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
268876
Be honest before it gets to serious but be careful and make sure you're being honest with yourself too. Are the ex and you going to do this on again/off again thing all the time cuz then you'll just leave a trail of hurt people behind the both of you and that's not very fair to them is it? Just make sure that if you go back to the ex this is it. Good luck
523740
Well to answer whether or not you should go back - we would need to know why you left in the first place.  If it were for no reason at all - then maybe you should go back.  But if the 2 of you had serious issues - then you should seriously consider the reason you left and if that is something you want to go back to before you resolve those issues.
171397
I would reccomend that you do some real tough self analysis, Im not suggesting that your nuts, Im talking about looking deep within yourself to see why you want to be with this man? Your evidence is ;\nhe has been emotionaly abusive to your children.\nhe has been emotionaly abusive to you\nhe may be trying to get you to do things you dont want to  \n          He knows you and you know him, ask yourself, do I want to go through this again, do I think he will be good to my children this time?\n          It sounds to me like he has many issue's to work out before he could be a good husband and father. I'm sorry if this sounds very judgmental, but I have very little patience for abusors. I feel that the victims of abuse need to be taken care of first and kept safe. If he wants to become a person who will be good for you and your kids let him do it first then consider reconciliation.\n     This way you will not have to deal with more abuse from him, no one needs hear put downs from their family, and you wont have to deal with any guilt you would have for allowing him into the lives of your children and him doing more emotional damage to them.
1022663
Hard to say, since I don't know the background, but my intution says walk away. I also have a feeling that you might not be able to walk away any more than he has. He may keep coming back, but you keep letting him...what's up with that? If you two had a relationship based on true respect and understanding, then there would probably not be the back and forth stuff.  One thing is for sure, do not let him back just because of your daughter. Kids watch us for a model on how to handle their realtionships. You would be surprised how many things get planted in those little brains...... You know how much you've hurt over this on-again-off-again stuff, and you wouldn't want to see her with any man but one who loves her and is dedicated to her for life right??\nSo, then you must model that in your own relationship.  I am a single mother, and I had a very up and down relationship with a guy for awhile. I found it hard to walk away from it, because I loved him, but in the end, the love for myself and my son won out.... it can for you too.  \nGood luck, and don't expect things to go smoothly either way. This has obviously been a very important person to you, so if you stay together, you'll have alot of work to do, and if you walk away, you'll have a lot of healing!! You can do it though-- put yourself first!!
790360
I am sorry to say but i agree with him. You got yourself in a family relationship. Our kids come 1st and we always travel with them. Try to comprmise and bring a sitter so you guys can go off and do stuff on your own
113964
I think you should leave your boyfriend.  If you are not happy with him and he doesn't make you happy, then leave.  You think alot of your child, to want to stay, but your child will see that you are happy, once you leave and the child will be happy also.  As for the ex, you shouldn't get back with him, unless you are sure it was meant to be.  You have your child, who needs you more than any man.  You will know when the right one comes along.
530500
WITHOUT TRUST THERE'S NOTHING. IF HE HAS BEEN DOING IT FOR 3 YRS THEN BASICALLY HE MAY KEEP DOING IT. IT ISN'T FAIR TO YOU TO PUT UP WITH WHAT HE'S DOING TO YOU. SURE HE'S YOUR BABIES FATHER, BUT IF HE'S A REAL DAD IF YOU LEAVE HE WILL STILL TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD RIGHT? YEA YOU WILL STILL LOVE HIM BUT EVEN IF HE SAYS HE WILL STOP THERE WILL ALWAYS BE DOUBT SOMEWHERE IN YOUR MIND BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT HE'S DONE IT ALREADY AND IT HAS BEEN FOR 3 YRS. DON'T STAY WHERE YOU FEEL YOU AREN'T LOVE. DON'T BE NO BODY'S DOOR MAT TO THE POINT WHERE THEY CAN FEEL THEY CAN STEP ON YOU AT ANYTIME!!!  GOOD LUCK!
300617
Well one thing is certain - you are going to have to get the hell out of there for your sake and the sake of your kids.  This guy sounds like he has the maturity of a seven year old, he is pure selfishness.  Sure he wants to go with other girls, but I bet he'll sit around drinking beer, playing with himself and watching TV.  You're better off without him.  You obviously have a lot of love to give, and you want love in return - you're NOT going to get where you are - so you have to face up to that and move on.
959323
It depends, do you love the ex? If you are unsure then take things slow. Maybe you and the ex could date, hang out etc and get to know each other again. Explore all the reasons you left to begin with, have any of those reasons (issues) been resolved? If not, nothing has changed and you will leave again when the "new, fun" is over.\nMake sure you don't go back just for comfort.