need advice marriage on hold??
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I WOULD JUST GIVE HIM HIS SPACE, HE SAID THAT THERE WAS NO ONE ELSE, SO JUST GIVE HIM AS MUCH TIME AND SPACE THAT HE NEEDS AND HE WILL REALIZE WHAT HE HAS AND HE WILL COME HOME.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
993034
if he told you he wasn't ready for marriage then he was very mature to inform you of such. trying to apply pressure to him to make him do something never works. i would advise you both sit down if possible and talk things out
603781
If you want to save your marriage, you both need to ask God\nfor help. He will be the only one who can fix it.
651019
Be yourself and let it happen when it's right......\nIf you try to rush it you could loose your friendship,  it could be possible she is waiting for marriage???????????????
60757
Find out how he feels.  Find a comfortable time for both of you to talk about your feelings.  If he is not interested in getting married, you will have to make a decision to wait for him (for years maybe) or find someone else.  My sister in law waited for 18 years before my brother proposed.  They got married in 9 months after the proposal.  Do you want to wait that long?
788395
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
760797
oh what a tangled web we weave.....\n\nI don't recommend starting your marriage out a LIAR\nsave your man and yourself  some  troubled times ahead\nand put the wedding off\nyou still have a few things you need to work out first
705180
just wait upto your marriage my dear friend.......
705894
There is no definite time to get married - i was with partner for four years before we got engaged and another four years before we got married.  Bring the subject of marriage up and see how the conversation goes.  If you both decide not to get married, you should definitely make a Will each to ensure the other is taken care of should anything happen.  Not being morbid, but unfortunately people often miss out on taking care of their partner due to not being married and making their wishes clear.
719382
Knowing that you just hung up on him, wait until tomorrow or the next day, just to calm your nerves.  Find out if y'all can meet somewhere and discuss the problem.  But if chooses to remain stubborn, do others things to take your mind off of him.  It may take some time, but it can be accomplished.  I was in a situation similar to yours.  Don't waste your time thinking about someone who doesn't respect your wishes.
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You cant hold on to something thats not there...You can continue to do your end of the vows and pray that he will have a change of heart but ultimatley in marriage love comes and goes but its commitment to that person that will keep a marriage.  Apparently hes never had that commitment to hold on to you for "better or for worse".  He obviously moves according feeling not any thing else.  You keep your end if hes not willing than let it go--More advice? chrystaldr@yahoo.com
338287
Look dear, if you are planning marriage to this man, think again.  If you have to beg for his time now, it will get only worse.  After marriage, when you have children, bills, mortgages, a yard to keep, finances to manage.  \nYou shouldn't have to beg for your man's time, if he doesn't give it willingly he isn't the man for you.\nI wish you well and I pray you will find the man that you don't have to beg for anything!
146750
I have postponed my wedding because of factors out of our control.  It is not easy, but sometimes it is the right thing to do.  No one can tell you if he or she is the right man for you, but here is one question to start with: could you even imagine your life without him?  Is he the one that holds you up when you reach the roughest times? Do you know him well enough to commit the rest of your life here on Earth to him?  Don't plan the wedding until you know the answer to your question because marriage is meant to be a permanent sacred bond.
619609
The obivous answer is the one you are refusing to do.."Ignore the Calls!"  I am not sure why you guys can't be together..(You were very careful to omit this from your little story)  You say he is not married..Then I am guessing he is with someone else..Tell him to give you a call when they are through out of respect for his current relationship.  You would want someone to do the same for you if you were with him..Wouldn't you?
504384
Okay first this is a decision totally based upon when he feels ready. Pressuring him will make the sitiation intensely more difficult But the good news is he actually sounds as if he is planning something...I was very confused just like you before my fiance proposed he always made it clear to me that it would eventually happen just not as soon as I wanted but sure enough he proposed..So let him do this at his own pace..Your realtionship sounds solid so just give him the time he needs this is a HUGE step for both of you....I have a feeling congradualtions will be something you will hear soon!
156585
If you need to ask this question, you are not ready to get married yet.  Slow down-you have the rest of your lives.
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go to counseling together a few times before you marry him, just to be sure he doesn't have some deep rooted problem...the counseling will give you an insight to the problem and show you if you can deal with it....