Because my wife and I chose not to bring kids into the world?
440762
I pay $7600 a year in taxes for 60x100 lot. That's the world of Long Island, NY. About 75% of that goes to the local school district. Yes I have no children. And I've lived in the same house for 34 years. There's got to be a better way. Folks are screwing me to financial ruining.
950736
If you are early in your marriage and have no children, end it now. \n\nThere is no reason to make everyone miserable for a lifetime.\n\nIf you have children keep everything as calm and even as possible.  Make your plans ahead of time.  Be ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN to get good representation for the sake of your child or children.  If it is just you, bite the bullet, get out and start over again.
1101112
If I had to do it over again I would NOT marry my husband again.  We are miserable but have 3 children to consider so we tolerate each other.
223320
It's not worth staying in a bad marriage because of kids. Most of the time it does more harm to them than good. When old enough just explain that sometimes 2 people can't live together...K
1159094
I couldn't agree with your enlightened view more!  I have three children now and feel selfish about it a bit...I could't talk my wife into adopting...ultimately I find peace in believing that it's the women who decide the population of the world because women will always find a man who will give up their sperm...it's deeply engrained in us and also in women to have babies.\n\nThere are some negative social and government forces making adoption for babies other than those with special needs hard.\n\nThis type of thinking takes us to the next level of evolution because the carrying capacity of the world has been reached and there are many unwanted and underloved children.  \n\nEven if you can't adopt your own there are millions of childen in need of a role model or special mentor who can ultimately make a greater difference in their lives than some parents.\n\nYou are an enlightened person and great thinker for thinking this way.  Now do what I did not have the courage to do and stand up for this conviction!  Even though I have beautiful childen I feel selfish some days.
556767
JewJew, never mind the immature answers from some of the previous entries. \n\nLook, there are other alternatives to your situation.  It is wonderful that you and your husband have the love that you do for children and want to have more in your family.  Some families out there don't care enough for the children that they have been blessed with.  You can see that play right out on your answer list by those that probably were not brought up with a lot of morals.\n\nWhich brings us to the next point I am going to make.  There are a lot of children already out there that need loving families.  Such as yourselves.  Adoption would definitely be something to consider, without taking the medical risk that you are willing to.\n\nThis would be worth your time to look into, and as I already stated, don't be bothered by some of the other previous answers because they undoubtedly do not have a clue on what good parenting is all about, whether you have an entire house full of kids, or just one.\n\nGood luck to you and your husband's decision, Make it an act of faith!!   God Bless you and your family.....
590156
NO BECAUSE CHILDREN SHOULD COME FROM A LOVING MARRIAGE.
883835
Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.\n\nI would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
528211
wow.  I can't believe you would separate yourself from your kid.  I want to be around my kids all the time.  Sounds like you are being selfish.  You must see your kids as being too much work, so you send them off half way around the world.  Maybe you shouldn't breed anymore.  Save the little love you have left for the 18 month old.
352238
No, when I put you on earth, I intended for you specifically to not have children. DO NOT DEFY MY LAW!
893578
Thats a difficult question to answer. When I was married, I loved my children and I loved my wife. Differently but both passionately. They both meant the world to me. I made decisions for my kids that was best for them...and I did so with love. Everything in my life was done to teach them to be good people and give them the strength to succeed.Now the love I had for my wife was deep to the soul. I couldn't wait to get home each day to be with her... she was my best friend and totally had my heart...and had she not passed away, we'd still be together. But I still see her in my childrens eyes.
499977
When I was married AND had our first (and so far, only) child.\n\nI wouldn't have wanted to have my child with anyone other than my wife.
941337
My wife took like 4 and all neg. Now we have a 16 month old.
928010
I hate to say this... but there's not much we can do. If the people you trust for every aspect of your well being tell you something, you'll believe it. Those kids don't have a chance until they become enlightened (which for many never happens). I'd just advice your wife to change her place of work because no amount of money or love for humankind should be enough to justify their behavior.
445385
u r a guy,u r human. Dont get me wrong, I am not condoning what happened but man, sometimes one yeilds to temptations and prices have to be paid. So  with this baby on the way, it is obvious at some point of ur duble life ur wife will have to know then u will find out if u can keep both, either or neither.So u don't have to decide now. Just ride with it. The decision will be taken out of ur hands once demands cannot meet up with ur supplies.
1160680
That I didn't let my environment determine my future and I have a great marriage with 8 neat kids
313086
When you married your wife you took on the responsibility of her kids, everything that goes with her kids.....  I understand with gas being the price it is, but visitation is a completly different thing than child support.  I say you should just love and support your wife, I am sure she hates going over there as much as you...but her kids would resent her in the end if she didn't bring them to see their dad if she had the means to do it.