Who has been told they talk too much?don't know when to hush up,if someone will listen I will keep talkin,
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Yes, you can help it.  Conversation is talking AND listening.  At the next opportunity make a focussed effort to talk as little as possible.  This will be hard.  Very hard.  Don't start talking just because no one else is speaking.  When you do talk, keep it short and to the point.  When you think you need to say just one more thing, Don't!  Save it for the next time you talk.\n\nThis will be excruciating the first time you do it.  But as you do it more you'll be amazed by three things: 1] other people are [almost] as smart as you are;  2] people will pay greater attention to what you say; and 3] other people will say what you were thinking, but when they say it, it sounds kinda stupid.  Which it would have sounded had you said it.\n\nIt only took me about 15 years to figure this out, but it's made a huge difference in both what I can get done, and the respect I [and my work] get.
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you should stop listening to my conversation.....
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I don't think there is anything YOU can do to make THEM stop.  You can remove yourself from every situation when they start gossiping.  Or you could also state that you are not comfortable discussing people who are not here  to defend themselves. \n\nWish there were more people in this world like you.  You are setting a great example for others.
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OUR whole family talk FAST <Quick speech patterns> or do you mean non stop Yak yak yak ers? Constant  BLA BLA BLA??  The latter, you can not be polite .  JUST SHUT THE MOUTH......
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May not be right away at the beginning because you don't want to tell them but later on you may eventually tell them pieces by pieces during the daily conversation.  So depending on yourself and your personality.
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i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.
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tell them the semi truth.  tell them you have to talk it over with someone etc.  that way you get some time to think about everything
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..I hope u not talkin bout me....Anyway if they do u that wrong maybe u should find some more friends. But as much as u love to speak your mind tell them off first so they'll know how u feel. Don't do anything u might regret.
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It appears one or both of you tell so much to the so called friends.\n\nI would start censorship of myself if I were u
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These people need telling straight,or it just continues.I've had people like that in my life.Its annoying.I have said,I like your company but I have other commitments.I put it in a nice manner,but make sure they get the message.
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"For example, if you overheard a piece of a conversation where the person was saying how they could afford to buy something new, and you knew that they had debts with someone locally, would you confront them about the purchase or would you contact the person they owed? "\n\nI just took a tid bit out but you can see where I am taking this from.  Right there you are contradicting your argument.\n\nIn one section you are talking about eaves dropping and not getting into other peoples business. And in another you talking about confronting someone about someone else's problem.  You have a point I just feel that you are explaining your self the wrong way.  Gossip will happen all of your life in every place you go. Work, School, even Church.  \n\nI can understand that it is frustrating when you hear people do this, but technically you are doing it yourself and not even realizing it.  When you hear someone say something behind someones back and you tell your friend "Now that is messed up." and then rant about people being the way they are and talk about how they should say that to that persons face, you are just doing it yourself.\n\nLet me ask you this. If you hear someone saying something about your friend, you would confront them about it, but would you also go and tell your friend that so and so was saying this about them.\n\nBy no means am I cutting up your question I am just suggesting to you to take a closer look at the situation and realize that everyone does it to a degree, some more than others but we all do it.
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Depending on the comment. If someone is trying to 'constructively' provide you with some information to help you - I'd listen. Also be careful of the source. If someone is just mouthing off because they fear you, or don't like you, I'd shrug it off. You have to be strong in your own spirit to accept comments of any kind from people. As a singer, I heard them all. Even the praises can be misleading and misdirectional. People will do what they can do get what they can out of you. You must be alert and aware of the deceptions that take place. Ex. If a teacher told you something that appeared negative - it is probabaly something to help you. Listen to the way people tell you things. Their tone of voice can indicate if they really have your best interest at heart, or if they want to hurt you. Listen up.
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aww that's a bit harsh.Just look spaced out alot eventually that person will get annoyed by your lack of attention then the'll leave or stop talking.It works when my friend who was talking non-stop to me I just nodded and went 'um..hummmm'.. I answer her yes or no questions by nodding my head and when she was like what's gonna happen I shrugged she stop talking for the whole day.That gives the person the message to buzz of for awhile.Or just interupt her while she's talking to you and say 'erm..gotta go to the washroom' or 'be right back'.That usually gives the person the message
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How about stop listening to and talking to them.
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NO ARE U CRAZY U SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE THAT WOULD TAKE TIME TO LISTEN TO YOUR PROB.
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when people talk with their mouths full...
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it doesn't really matter what other people say - it is for their own entertainment and won't have a huge effect on your life if you don't let it. like another commenter said, if someone askes you then tell them the truth, but don't go out of your way to change what everyone thinks or people will just gossip more