How do you get revenge on your spouse without them knowing it?
445800
easy. i break or scratch one of his expensive/rare dvd movies :)
285542
First of all, drop the game mentality.\n\nThere is no scoreboard and no one is keeping score.\n\nIf you feel a need for revenge, entertain the thought, for a brief second, and take no action.  \n\nIf you believe you are mature, act that way.  \n\nCompose yourself and take your talents, skills, and abilities to the next woman who will embrace them.\n\nBoys get even.  Real men move on.
128506
It is so simple. Just go beind their back and start backstabbing them. Act as a very nice person in front of them and later tell their secrets to everyone and on the internet. Start avoiding them. Don't talk to them and mix with a different group of friends. Leave them out in eveything you do. Anyway, a piece of advice, never try any of these because it will definitely break the relationship and be true to all your friends.
254712
I have a "friend" whose wife does this to him.  You know how to get a hold of me.
569515
Forget subtlety.  Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband.  He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.\n\nProtect your marriage, protect eachother.
376457
divert your attention to someone else who can fill the space that belonged to the person you want to get rid of. Let go of all grudges, pain and don't you ever think about getting a revenge because this will make you more attach to him/her.\n\nForgive and forget. If you can't forget, don't make every memory of him a big deal.
102169
Why would you want to?  You're obviously not a priority for him, so don't give him the ego-boost that would come from you crawling back to him.  Living well is the best revenge; go find yourself a better man who will put you first and foremost in his life.  He's moved on - it's time for you to do the same.
976386
When it comes to infidelity, it's true, the spouse is typically the last to know.  Most likely, not only did your in-laws know, but a lot of other people probably knew or had their suspicions as well.  No one wants to be the person to tell, so many people both actively and passively try to prevent the truth from coming out.  If I had to guess, I'd assume that your in-laws behavior isn't all that atypical.  So, I'd treat them as I would treat anyone else who had hurt me.  I'd let them know exactly how I feel about what happened.
27528
There was a famous person who said the best way to get revenge on a person is to live a better life than they do.\n\nIn other words, be happier, more satisfied with your own life and ignore him.  He isn't worth wasting valuable (and limited) time in your life over inconsequentials.
499093
Give me your cell phone number so that I can send you a funny picture of you with your nads cut off...After all, you like jokes and you should know what happens to creeps who do such things to their wives.\n\nGrow up!
575157
If the affair is over, forget her and forget about wanting to make her miserable.  Why not concentrate on making yourself happy by dwelling on positive things, such as what is right in your life?  If you want to keep your husband, the change in your attitude might even make him so happy that he won't stray again.\n\nHaven't you ever heard that living well is the best revenge?  Let it go, take the high road, and just forget about her.  Forgive your husband if you want to keep your marriage intact.\n\nAnd why is it that wives who have been cheated on always want to make the "other woman" miserable?  Unless she raped your husband for 3 years, he is just as culpable as she is.  \n\nLet it go.  Do NOT stoop so low as to publicize her personal information.  Unless, of course, you could handle losing a civil lawsuit for libel to her as well as facing criminal charges if you put her in danger, which that would certainly do.
248346
dont wear a ring\nadvertise on yahoo personals\nbring it up in casual conversation\nwhen someone says to me, what does your husband do?  I say i dont got one of those
18739
If you wife ticks you off, and you don't know how to tell her, I (as a wife) would do the following.\n\n1st calm down.  Then later ...the same day...  calmy let her know that what she said, did, implied was hurtful, harmful, inconsiderate.\n\nBe polite as possible and try to not make it about what she did, said, etc, but how it made you feel.  \n\nBe honest and polite, and loving.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
302286
NO! blackmail her. Tell her your going to tell the wife she seduced you (see Jude Law tabloids). Tell her if she will go quietly, and pay you a small amt. monthly, you will "forget about the incidents of indiscretion which occurred."\nGood by nanny, hello $$$
631599
get my revenge and then dump them!
482819
After he has gone home and hopefully your last day is on a Friday, from his office, phone the speaking clock in either London or New York, depending on what side of the pond you live on, and leave the phone off the hook, your revenge wont be known for weeks, hopefully. It works and it really f**ks them off, it also works on ex's phones as well, if they cheat on you. REVENGE IS A DISH BEST SERVED COLD.