should i leave my ex-stripper-dancer girlfriend that i have been with for 2 years, it is not worth the pain?
448823
Whats not worth the pain? Let me see, I am guessing she has issues with men. Well wouldn't you! Whatever stories she has told you if any about what she went through when dancing isn't even half of what she really has been through. I don't know why she was a dancer but I will tell you it was a choice she DID NOT make in good concience. My guess is she needed the money and felt she had no other options. Im just glad to hear she is no longer in that hell of an industry. You have to understand she has probably NEVER been truly treated like a real human with real feelings. Again I don't know what her childhood was like but I have never known a dancer that had a GREAT one. So, I would like to think that you are the ONLY one she knows that has ever treated her like a lady and therefore she has put all she has left into you! If you have been with this woman for 2 years then you have feelings for her. If you really love her then what could not be worth the pain. She is going through a lengthy healing process, trust me, and she is going through allot more pain than you will ever comprehend. She needs you to be strong for her and hold her head in your hands when she needs to cry. She needs you to treat her and remind her how wonderful she is and that nomatter what she has done or how she has been treated in the past does NOT make-up who she is today or what her worth in this world is! She needs to know that if she needs to tell her stories to someone and your not strong enough to hear them (which is totally understandable) then you will find someone (professional) that she can talk to. She needs to know that if she doesn't want to talk at all and just needs to be alone or cry that your will let her be alone (while you are just one room away) and that you will hold her with no questions when she cries. So, I gues to answer your question, HELL NO you should not leave your EX stripper gf. You should show her that while every man she has ever known has seen her as an item for sell and to be used, YOU DO NOT see her that was and you see her for the heart inside her. The only reason I am so passionate about this is I am that ex dancer and my man has been put through it trying to be there for me, but you know what, he is STILL there for me and he is the only man I will EVER love for as long as I live. He is my best friend, my ultimate lover, my biggest fan, and my solid ROCK! I know it sucks to be on your side of it, but if you love this person, you have the strength to be her rock. The pay-off is worth it, trust me. Find something that you two can have that lets you know when she is having a hard time (dealing with some emotional baggage) so that you can be there for her. If my man can see me getting pissy or if he walks in and Im in tears for no reason he will ask if I need my hair brushed. This is our code for me needing him but not being able to tell him I need him. (It is so hard to reach out to someone when you barely trust anyone) So, he will sit behind me and brush my hair while I cry and he will rub my shoulders and kiss my neck and tell me how he loves me and he is sorry for anything I had to be put through and how he will NEVER let that happen to me again. Look, it doesn't matter who you date, EVERYONE comes with baggage! Some more severe than others but we all have baggage! If you love this girl, be her hero and she will worship you for life! Good luck!
286873
It's time to move on with your life. Leave the moron because once the respect for each other has dissipated the relationship is history. Sorry.
256282
If you don't trust her things aren't going to get any better between the two of you.  My ex lied to me about something HUGE and when he was caught he apologized and I took him back but I NEVER trusted him again and it led to me breaking up with him again.  You deserve to be with someone that you can trust and that respects you.  The best thing that you can do is end this now and stop dragging it out.  The longer that you drag this out the harder that it is going to be on both of you.
379799
Forget it.  You'll get over her.  You won't respect yourself, and she'll never respect you either if you let her walk on you like that.  You don't just casually leave someone.  How would you ever trust her again?   You'd spend your life worried that if you don't jump through her hoops, she'll bail again, and she probably will, too!   \n\nJust tell her, "I'm sorry.  I wish you all the best, but that ship has sailed."  You don't need to humiliate her or rub her nose in it.  Take the high road, which will make her realize all the more that you are a decent guy and she shouldn't have done that.  You can't fix this one, but maybe she'll grow up a little for the next guy.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
79308
I guess when you realise that what you have now isn't the same as when it started and it isn't something you want anymore. Just break it to her honestly, but don't be brutal. And that public place thing? It really is a good rule of thumb if you just want to get out of there, but if you live with her or still want to be friends, sit down and talk it out (even though she might do most of the talking about mean stuff) good luck and I hope all goes well.
606738
I am sorry to say but when one of you moves on it will make things alot easier. I was in a similar situation and my g/f was stealing my limelight. She was prettier and cuter and it was tough on our relationship. If you can move on you will find a huge burden in your relationship ease. \nMy g/f moved on and I got employee of the month less than two months later.\nI wish you the best.
307926
First, you need to make sure that she is not under the impression that there is any chance you guys could get back together. Remember you broke up for a reason and if it was a stupid one than maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Another thing you need to be careful of is that fact that she may be very unstable if after 2 yrs she is still crying over your separation. By now she should of moved on at least a little bit. I'm not saying that she should be with someone and madly in love. I am saying that she should of by now, come to the realization that there is nothing more there. Another problem may be if she hasn't seen you move on, this may fuel the flame sort of speak. If she sees the fact that you are single and not looking she may think that you are just waiting for the right time to get back together with her. Hopefully this helps......
807661
You really have the patience and you do care for her a lot. But i feel that she does not deserve someone like u. Find someone else.\nI know that it will hurt. But reality sucks and you have to accept it. I am really sorry dude.\nBut them again, if you really love her. Give her one more trial. None of us are prefect and we commit mistakes. Just conside this as a foolish mistake by her and give her one more chance.\nForgive & forget. As long as it does not hurt u.
1033069
If you've been dating for 2 years, it's easy to get into a routine. It's time to stop and really think about your relationship and whether it is holding you back or acting as a positive in your life. \n\nIt sounds like you guys have been through some rough spots, but before you break up with her, I think you need to ask yourself whether you think the good outweighs the bad. \n\nAsk yourself...\n1. What are the good and bad things about your relationship? Make a list.\n2. For each of the bad things, what are you currently doing to resolve the issue? Is there something you could try? Do you think that she would work together with you to resolve it? If you do not think there is a solution for the issue, are you ok with that being a permanent part of your life?\n3. Are both of you guys heading in the same life direction? Do you have the same goals? Is she "The One" ?\n\nI think once you think through these things, you will be in a better place to decide what the next step is. Relationships take up a lot of energy and time that you could be devoting to other, more positive things - friends, family, etc. etc. Make sure that this girl is a positive in your life. \n\nIf you think that it's just not possible to fix the rough spots, you should tell her that you guys have grown apart and that you need to go your own way. It's going to be tough, but you will be a happier, stronger person in the end. You should be with someone who respects you and loves you. Don't settle for less.
1052085
No. In fact I would put on a show for her at home and give her all the lap dances she wants. (And I have done that in the past). If a guy is willing to strip for his GF at home and dress up for her with whatever she wants him to wear, then there really isn’t a reason she needs to go to a strip club to find a private dancer!
393387
well its up to you, if you can live with what you have learned about her and if you remain attracted to her. If you feel that it bothers you and the relationship then its better to let her  go. Bear in mind not to judge her for what she did, ask her why. there are two side's of a story, be sure to know both.
254078
Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
395629
You would if you were a selfish spoiled ***hole who didn't care about anyone but herself....(not to mention spitting in Karma's face-and she can be a real *itch when she's provoked!!)  Treat your man better than that or get out of the relationship woman!! Cheating Sucks!(and I meant that literally, not physically)...
631252
I highly suggest that you break up with her already since you sound serious about cheating on her. You should not heart her if in your mind it's already over just let her go without hurting her any more than you have to. If you ever really cared about her don't do something that you know is gonna cause her more pain even if the relationship is in a bad place.
756569
Ultimatum or Loose her.\nI wasted 7 years on that.\nAll she cared about was my bank account.\nYou are not a Priority with her.\nprolly not even in the top ten.\nDon't waist your time. For Whatever reason.\nCould be a lot of things... abuse etc... You may get a 100's of stories.\nWhatever. Don't deal with it!
195121
well your answer lies on one thing where is she at now as well who else has she been with in this matter you feel for the oldest thing going that is being played for a stand in . i have been there did  it as well not worth it in my opion how do you think i caught my.ex. wife. she was cheating i had the sence to get rid of it. grow up like i did. nt worth it my friend she this woman you are talking about is a player if she was with you you might thing who else has she fooled with you dont want to end up in court over this woman she aint worth ita woman like that cant love she has something called a whoreing spree ?