Why do so many bright, beautiful, intelligent women have losers & abusers for boyfriends?
453195
They have low self esteem,have the illusion that they can change him,or are comfortable in the relationship they are in or at least they feel it is easier to stay with the jerk than be alone.\n\nI don't want a loser or abuser at all,just not sure where the good guys are.
354385
Unfortunately, it's a hold over from human evolution. We're hardwired to look for desirable mates, ones that "appeal" to us. Other than that, society doesn't make it easy to ignore the standards of beauty that are plastered everywhere for all to see. Beyond that, it could just be that we're all brainwashed. Give me someone with a great personality and sense of humor any day... it will last long after the the beauty fades!
530528
They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
584804
The world is has alot of haters and men will always love a skinny women before a thick one which sux for them,cause but doing that you can never find the good and beatiful qualities ever women has.
485739
Yes they do because they are stupid and undeserving of pity. If they are too stupid to leave when someone beats them they deserve it or like it. Most wiil say Im scared to leave or I have nowhere to go or but hes a good provider or he takes care of the kids etc.... Its all bs. I had 3 ex gfs slap me before and I walked out and never spoke to them again, I dont put up with abuse but some sick and twisted people like it. Feel no pity for them as they arent even human, even a dog will try to run away if it knows its going to get beat.
695120
A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
535770
immaturity. because the women who like the bad boys are immature. the bad boys seem to have a lot of confidence and that definitely helps, too. i don't like the bad boys anymore. i think i'm growing up!!!
613777
Many men/women tend to look past that quality which makes that person special.  Our society rewards beauty, and while this is not fair, it is a fact.\n\nFor those who are guided by their own standards and phiolsophy, we see the person for what they are. Caring, loving. Worth having.  Hope this has helped.
1072702
Thats because the nice guys put too much out there...but in the end they always get what they want. Because over all a female is going to remember how she f@cked up her relationship with a nice guy to f@ck with an A$$hole.
944350
You know, I am a smart person, I have always been smart, I am also very pretty. But there seen to be these guys that only want girls that want to give themselves to them. I'm not like that. But a lot of smart girls are forced to become that way because we don;t get guys, we can be the most gorgeous women in the world, but if we don;t have sex right away, the relationship goes nowhere and we are left on our butts wonder " what the hell was that?" Look beyond the most obvious, look for the inner beauty (not saying some snaggle-toothed hill billy) but look for a woman that may not be the blonde hair, blue eye buety every other man wants. You may just find the right smart, attractive woman you want.
458785
Those kinds of guys are usually the dumbed-down jocks who tend to view life as a pie-eating contest, and view all women as nothing more than somekind of dessert. It's people like that who cause everyone else to be stereotyped, because all they are interested in is constantly working to outdo and outperform each other in every way they can, and prove they are somehow better or more macho or other really dumb and ridiculous bullSh like that.
946016
Becuase nice guys are outcasts, ladies want the so called bad boys, besides ladies are too picky, and they have stereotypes that ALL men being cheaters. In this cold and cynical world it seems like  good people are in perpetual doom of always meeting the worst of the opposite sex. Its always darkest before dawn, at the end it will all work out,  life and true love always finds a way.
435077
Because women have ruin it for other women . . . \n\nThese good men became dishearten because of how women treat them.
349439
It's an immature 'power' thing, they think it makes them more attractive if they can take him away from his girlfriend.  The truth is if one girl could get between them, then any girl could.  You learn that no-one can 'take away' a person you're with, because you can't own anyone, and that it needed the other person's 'cooperation' for the 'theft' to be successful
1144667
Some women love to be worshipped (especially the shallow gorgeous ones.) Some prefer more of a partnership with their man. Depends who you get.
150553
Usually it's a learned behavior, they may have been abused while they were younger or even watched as another person was abused; Mother/Father.  They need to get work on their self-confidence, get some therapy and gain strength on their own before they get into another relationship.
763106
Because many girls have grown up in households that were abusive in some way (physically, emotionally, or sexually). They become "comfortable" with abusive treatment, and many come to associate pain with love. Other girls grew up with absentee fathers, so they end up with guys who are unavailable in some way.