My husband picks fights with me all the time. What should I do?
435371
I think you should give him a roundhouse kick to the head.
833136
I am. It's because his mother comes first, then the kids, then me. He says terrible things to me that hurt my feelings and isn't sorry. We've been through marriage counseling twice. His mother interferes in our marriage and if I say anything, he gets defensive. He tells her, then she gets mad. She's trying to turn him against me.
396230
time to call it quits. you have to tell yourself no more. \nNo more will you take this mess from him. No more will you \nkeep arguing over stupid stuff. Tell yourself you are a \nwoman of success. This is 2006 and it's time to get it and\nthe rest in order. A woman can do bad all by herself. We\ndon't need a man to do bad or give us hell. We are the mothers of the earth who bare children in pain. We deserve\nour respect. Gone girl friend and let him know that the mess\nstops now. Gird up loins and put your foot down. You ever\nseen Diary Of A Mad Black Woman? the lady put her foot down.\nDon't hurt your husband just let him know what's up and leave. Don't get depressed because God is about to show up\nand show out.
574689
not sure how to answer you sounds like you are married to a jerk. He would probably leave you if you did the same thing. Get out and get a life
1115855
fight like fist fight? NO! Is it normal to disagree with one another, YES. Afterall you are two different people with different ways of thinking and then all of a sudden you are married to that person and living your daily life together. You better bet there will be arguments. If you never disagree you or your partner is a people pleaser type personality or you just figure its better not to ruffle any feathers and try to bury all your feelings, which in the end will blow up in your faces. If you are having a disagreement over a certain thing all the time, maybe it's better to seek counseling over the issue before there is too much resentment and the problem gets bigger. It's normal to laugh with your spouse as much as it is normal to have disagreements, it's life. How you handle them will definately determine whether or not you are married for long though. Best wishes!
1059182
Sounds like a loser to me.  The more comfortable he gets with you, the more likely he will start to abuse you, physically or verbaly.  It doesn't sound like you are in a very good situation.  You should get out of it.  Nobody should tell you what to do all of the time and the jealousy thing, it kind of makes me scared for you.  Good luck!
861288
well a hard question, but if you have tried everything and talked to your husband about how you feel and he wont change then its time to end it.\nbe careful the fact that he digrades you and belittles you publicly is often the early signs of an abusive man. he is on a power trip and whats you to feel bad about yourself and make you think everything that happens to go wrong is your fault. once he gets you comfortablw with the he may get physically abusive to you. or else he may threaten to or actually harm your children. \nbe careful and make a plan for your exit. once you make up your mind you need to follow through and leave and don't ever look back\nif you want to talk to someone you can email me. ive been there and im out now.
831949
Maybe you two should seek couple's counseling.  His anger is alarming.  It could escalate into something worse.  Do yourself a favor, and try to get help for this.  He should not explode like that and say those hurtful things.
362483
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
454369
Jealousy doesn't get any better... it only gts worst.  You don't go anywhere because of the arguing it will cause if you do... That is what he wants, to isolate you from friends and family, that is how he gets control over you, i lived with a jealous man for 5 years, had 2 kids for him, until the day he beat me... the verbal abuse will escalate to physical and it just gets worst, the more you try, the more control he thinks he has over you... my advise, NOW... tell him you have had enough and want out... he will probably try to change your mind but don't give in, it only stps until he thinks you are under his spell again...\nI have been raising my children alone for the past 10 years and realize today that i made the right decision... for them and me.
758952
i too went through this, 10 years of it, whenever we were having any discussion he would turn it around and i would be made the problem, it escalated into name calling, fat hog, slut, really bad names. whenever he did not get his way or wouldn't stick up for me to his son, no matter what the problem, he would change the subject and suddenly i became the problem. after awhile our communication suffered, actually i was too afraid to even bring anything up, did not feel safe, knew i would be the focus, and if he couldn't find a problem with me, he would make one up. just causes resentment and eventually someone will get so angry that they will stray from the marriage. think the problems stem from a more serious thing, it's never about what they say about you, or the names u get called, it runs deeper than that, think it's about something they feel they are not getting out of the marriage.
1175933
make you husband deal with her that his job to fight your battle for you.
657721
I went through the same thing with my husband.. you might try anger managment counseling or taking a trial seperation. Just remember that when you feel yourself getting to the point of explosion that you have 2 feet WALK AWAY.
937593
i would talk to him and explain your feelings. My husband and I used to play fight and when things gor out of hand I think he thought I was able to handle the come back, because I was willing to play. Men often forget how strong they are. Once I explained to my husband he was hurting me everything changed.
197489
Ooooo. Sounds like a familiar situation...\n\nFirst- This shouldn't be about right or wrong. That just makes people defensive and nothing comes out of it. \n\n\nYou do a lot and he needs to recognize that. \nHe needs to pitch in more and at least not depend on you to cook all the time. \n\nMy wife and I just had our first baby. We are both exhausted because we take shifts to feed the baby. Sometimes I have more energy and I cook or do some cleaning or vice versa. But marriage and kids is all about team work. You guys are in this together. \n\n\nPerhaps you need to approach this in a way that doesn't make him defensive. (if that is possible.) You want to make him see your point of view without him feeling like he needs to justify his actions. \n\nOwn your feelings. Tell him that you are too tired to cook, or say you need his help with something specific because you are worn out. Mention the part about being a team. \n\nBut make sure you let him know you do appreciate him to. Guys need that and we like to be able to help and feel needed. Using those words might get more action out of your hubby.\n\nEffective communication will help you through.
148500
You need couples counselling. Crossing the boundry into physical violence during a fight is an extremely serious problem - one that won't go away by itself.
1057042
you are doing the right thing. if you let him bully you where do you get into the same house with a moron? if he's willing to hurt his children to get back at you he's just as bad a dad as he is a husband. stick up for yourself and dont take his crap.