i ended A 4 year relationship 5 months ago can i start dating now.?
436878
You can start dating as soon as you want, but concentrate on dating rather than finding a new relationship right away.  Give yourself some space to rediscover who you are without your ex.  You may find that during your long relationship you gave up activities that you enjoyed because your partner didn't.  you may find that now is the perfect time to reconnect with friends.  It's pretty lonely right after you break up with someone, but it's very freeing to go out and do new things/meet new people.
975059
If you just got over the relationship, you may want to wait 2 or 3 months and it may pass, if it doesn't, then you can seek the help of a professional. Of course, "just got off" isn't a very accurate description so use your best judgment to decide whether or not you've gave it enough time.
149349
I too was in a relationship with someone of a different ethnicity, who also happened to be 18 years my senior, and after 3 and a half years, I broke it off not too long ago actually.  It is never easy to deal with a breakup, but you must find the strength to move foward.  I think we need to take time to heal and jumping right into another relationship isn't the answer.  However, going out with friends and maybe even meeting the guy your friends are encouraging you to meet may not be such a bad idea.  Just don't move to fast too soon, and make decisions for all the wrong reasons.  Things happen for a reason and not every person that we are with is the person that is our life partner, you don't want someone in your life that you can't trust, nor do you want a cheater.  So wish him luck and say good riddance to bad rubbish.
404756
STOP THINKING ABOUT HER AND HONESTLY SPEAKING U MAY NOT BE READY TO SEE SOMEONE AT THE MOMENT BUT SINCE ITS BEEN 5 MONTHS I WOULD RECOMMEND YOU ATLEAST START TALKING TO SOMEONE THAT REALLY HELPS.GO OUT MORE OFTEN DO THING YOU LIKE TO DO.I KNOW ITS NOT EASY TO GET OVER SOMEONE THAT FAST BUT TIME HEELZ EVERY WOUND.
198305
It depends on the person and how long the "longterm" relationship was, but I'd probably say, give yourself a few months to mourn the loss of your former relationship.\nA good key to know whether or not you are ready for a new relationship is if you find yourself still talking about your past relationship or if you still talk about how horrible your last boy/girlfriend was to you and then go into great detail to "drag them through the dirt" to your potential new boy/girlfriend.
903443
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
1078735
The BEST thing you can do is go back out there and meet new men.  Date them, laugh with them, have fun.  You will discover that you're a much better catch than your "ex" made you feel.  It will take time, but you will get over him.  If you can force yourself into going on at LEAST three dates in the next month, you will help yourself far more than you may believe.  It's not about him anymore, it's all about YOU.  You're special, you're desirable, and the right man will KNOW it.
207911
go for it. life's way too short to not live it to the fullest. i told a guy i liked him and we were together for 4 months! it could happen to you!! good luck. email me if anything happeneds!
987690
You just got out of a 4 year relationship and you are ready to jump into a new one after two weeks? You contradict yourself you said you told him you knew he was dating others ..he denies it but tells you that he needs to compare if it was worth it to leave one for the other? Anyway it's ok that he is dating others considering you aren't in a committed relationship, you are just dating. Guess what you can date others too! Don't make someone your priority when you are only their option. I, quite frankly, think it's a lil soon to be jumping into a new relationship so quick but that's your decision to make. Keep dating the guy but don't make yourself completely available to him, create a challenge. Also date other people and let him know about it. After all the two of you aren't exclusive, unless he makes it that way. Just take it slow and do what a psychologist does best, analyze.
930161
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542927
I'm happy to hear that you've moved on with life, but maybe you have to ask yourself what do you want for yourself as well as in a man, but mainly focus on yourself now...after five years (well almost), just think of what's good for you and what you will/won't tolerate from anyone!
140070
Say no. You just got dumped. You don't need to get involved\nwith someone right now. Your wounds need time to heal. And\ndon't even think about dating one of his friend. That will\ncreate a major disaster. wait awhile before you start dating again. Your soul need time to be free of old hurts \nand wounds. Recover time is now.
424663
You should stay single for at least a month to recover. I don't think bumping to another relationship is the best way to recover. You need to find yourself first or else you might fall into another bad relationship.
1160812
You should start when you feel comfortable dating again. When you meet someone that makes your heart skip a beat and makes you forget about the ex.. it is time!
485867
just start working on building back your friendships with those he wouldnt let you contact. concentrate on moving on. i know what its like to date someone who didnt treat you right and kind of left you humuliated that you ever let them get away with those things. as hard as it is, try not to dwell on it, keep doing the things that make you happy and most importantly when you feel ready to date again remember that not all guys are going to treat you like that. it would be so much easier if we could just go back and erase things like that  but since we cant all we can do is rebuild it all and get past it. hang in there :)