Need Advice/Ideas For My Closest GF Who Attempted Suicide a Week Ago...?
443791
In all likely-hood, if your husband did confront this individual, it could lead to violence, and that could lead to trouble for him.  It would be best, if he did not do this a psychopath can be very dangerous, and the police would go after the individual that started the confrontation.  If there is some suggestion of minor females, you might try looking around on some sex offender web sites, and see if maybe he has some history in that area.  From what you said he said, this might be a possibility.\n\nAs for your friend, there is not much you can do to make her get her head back on straight.  She has to do that herself.  Maybe someone else can come up with some better suggestions, I am all out of ideas.
259010
Wow, I'm sorry to hear about that.  You definitely should call her right away.  I would start by telling her your heart goes out to her in this tragic time and that, as soon as you can, you will be there to assist with anything and everything she needs.  Ask her if there is anyone she would like you to contact, and anything she would like you to bring when you come to visit her.  Then make sure you follow up on everything.  Unless you've experienced the same type of lose, don't ever tell her you know how she feels, or you know what she's going through...she might take offense to something like that.
505135
Kudos to you for caring enough about her to want to help her.  Take her out to breakfast/lunch and sit down and have a long heart to heart with her.  Let her know all the good things that you see in her and how valuable of a person you think she is, then let her know how some positive things about her have influenced your life.  Tell her you are starting to see some things changing, and you love her and don't want to see the old her consumed by a new person that you aren't familiar with.  Remind her of the dangers/consequences of the lifestyle she is choosing, and let her know that you want better for her.  Finally, let her know that you feel this way because you see her as someone deserving all the best that life has to offer, and that u care too much to just sit by and watch her destroy her life and reputation.  Encourage her to seek counseling for low self esteem issues, and support her in any way that you can while she is going through these adjustments in her life....Don't give up on her...sometimes all people need is just 1 person to believe in them, until they can believe in themselves again!!!!....
339280
You need to take action right now. Either tell his parents or call 911 and shown them the text messages. He may get mad at you but if you really care for him you have to take the risk. He will eventually be very thankful that you were there for him when he needed you. He is crying out for help, all treats of suicide are crys for help. He has reached a point where what ever emotional pain he feels is too strong for him to deal with on his own. He needs and wants help or else he would have said nothing and acted on commiting suicide. But if you do nothing he may think you don't take him seriously and feel traped to attempt suicide sine he made the threat. Help you friend the only way you can by getting him help from his parents of the emergency system. You may be the only one that can. How will you feel if you don't and you find out he is dead tomorrow?\n\nLet me know how this works out. Good luck.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
637908
this needs professional understanding - i beleive your boyfreinds freind has a mental illness - if you are at all concerned with him maybe thinking of suicide - - please contact your local crisis care as soon as possible - if there is no local crisis care maybe suicide hotline - they will give you the information you need to deal with such a heavy situation - if you fear for yourself at all try talking to your boyfreind about him possibly visiting you instead - or talk to a trusted adult
960247
I'm surprised the docs at the ER released him after one day. Suicide attempt sounds like a good candidate for an inpatient stay (but there are often a lack of beds in some hospitals).\n\nIf he is an imminent danger at any time you or his parents or anyone can call 911 and have him taken against his will.\n\nIn the meantime, my experience is to use a bit of tough love to get people to actively seek and participate in help. They are cognitively buried in that day's pity.  \n\nI go through a list of questions. "Do you remember a day when you were happy?  Or not depressed?"  "Did you want to kill yourself then?"  "What changed between then and now?" "Do you realize that hurting yourself might be a permanent solution to this problem? If you make an impulsive decision in this state of mind, do you realize you don't get to go back the next day and take it all back?"\n\nThen I bring up the selfishness of the suicidal mentality (not in a harsh way but tough love, and pointing out that the person is loved and people are there to support him/her).  Does he care that little about you and his family that he wont accept help during this period or that he will run away from you all permanently?\n\nBasically the final steps of the conversation should be a mutual agreement that he needs help doing what's best for him and everyone who cares for him is right there beside him and that you will both go right away to start packing for an inpatient stay or looking up doctors for outpatient therapy. If I were you, I would consider the inpatient because one day isn't long to get over whatever he was battling that day. My guess is a serious convo about the situation will open him up and you'll see his real emotional state.
854168
She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
1090888
Just reassure him that you love him, and what would you do without him, leave it at that, and he may realize that he not only hurt himself. he needs professional help, and needs to know that know one is worth suicide, why dint people realize this???? if they can so freely love you one minute, and then as quick change their minds, they are not worth it, especially if over a new person in their life, and the pattern may continue, he should have realized, it is not worth it. i hope he Will recover without too much damage..good life...........
994483
Hi Sean,\n\nBoth my mom and dad (mom has it a lot worse though) have depression and I love them so maybe I can help.\n \nI have found the best thing I can do for them is be there for support.  Sometimes that means giving up fun with friends for a quiet night in keeping my mom company.  Sometimes it means trying to deal with her mood swings.\n\nThe mood swings are the hardest to deal with.  You just need to stay calm and remember how much she is suffering to treat someone she loves so horribly. "This too, shall pass" is a saying I heard one time and I try to keep that in my mind.  Also, you should not do too much for them, but you should do what you can to help the person.  For example, if she has a White Castle Craving at 9 PM and is whining about how much she wants it and being mean to you and White Castle is 10 miles away, give her options like driving there herself or offer to fix her something from  the kitchen.  Sometimes it is bad to do too much for people.  This is called "enabling".  \n\n I have found that when my mom wants to argue, I just let her say what she needs to say and remember she doesn't really mean it.  I also learned not to talk back in these situations because there is no reasoning with her.\n\nOne other thing you really need to think about is if the relationship is worth it.  Do you love her because she is her or do you just think you love her?  Can you handle her symptoms?  It isn't worth going crazy yourself over it.\n\nI really hope your girlfriend is getting help.  Medication and counseling has worked wonders for both my parents. Best wishes to you.  Pease let me know if I can do anything else to help.
237738
There's nothing anyone can say right now that can make you feel better.  Know that's she's no longer in pain, and that she'd want you to carry on.  My deepest empathy to you, take care of yourself.
341625
No matter how much you love her, you will not feel this way in six months' time. You are reacting to this in a very emotional way - of course - but whether to live or die is the most important decision youcan possibly make and demands to be taken on a rational level. You are not capable of making this decision now at all.\n\nBesides this, suicide is the most cowardly and selfish thing a human can do. Think about your parents, your friends, your family. They will never get over it. You will affect their lives for ever in a terrible way. They will remember you with bitterness and anger. Trust me on this, your memory will be forever tarnished. It won't matter what you've achieved. You're not only throwing the rest of your life away, but you're losing whatever life you've already had. \n\nAnd finally, killing yourself over a girl is the most weak, lilly-livered way of responding to emotional pain imaginable. People live through emotional pain a thousand times worse without resorting to suicide. I know you feel as if no-one in the history of the world has ever felt as bad as you feel right now, but you're wrong. The people you would leave behind after you pul the trigger will feel so much worse than you are feeling right now.\n\nGet over yourself. Be a man. Don't do it. Show this girl that she isn't important enough to create such devastation to yourself and your surroundings.
769507
This is unfortunate matter sweety...But please do not get upset with yourself...It's nothing to do with you...Be happy she's in a safe place now where she can get help...All you can do is be there when she needs you...Remember she's not herself now, so just think about the good times...She'll be back to herself soon enough...Be strong for your sister...You're dong a good job =)
585154
you know how you made your avatar in there is a post card send her one to her mail box. i did that when me and my husband was at war and it worked just tell how you feel and that your sorry.  make dinner and clean the house before she comes home from work run her a steaming hot bath because by the time she gets there it will be just right put some candles all over the bathroom and then while she is in the bathroom give her a massage
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I'm a male registered nurse. I wish I could help. \n\nContinue to talk with her... In this way, you are already helping the person because she gets to express her feelings which is therapeutic so that she will not consider any plan to kill herself. Let her cry...that's good.\n\nDetermine her plan of suicide. If she mentions about suicide, ask her directly if she has a plan or what is her plan.By knowing her suicide plan...you can prevent it from happening.\n\nRemove any sharp materials or ropes, belts, knife, pins, or just about anything that could harm her. I had experience with a patient who is commiting suicide using his own underwear. He wrapped it around his neck. But it was prevented.\n\nJust keep nearby so that she can call you when suicide thoughts are going back. Seek the help of the family members to watch her.\n\nGo to a psychiatrist and he can recommend for a court order for hospitalization if he thinks it's necessary. If you think that you friend has not been eating, bathing, or doing normal activities of the day...the more you should call.\n\nThe pills she is taking usually do not work until after 2--3 weeks of continuous taking. I'm assuming she is taking antidepressants such as Prozac, Tofranil, Imipramine, zoloft...\n\nfor more details....\nIM me now thru yahoo messenger: fire_syringe@yahoo.com
899891
whoa NELLY! You need some help dude. Seriously! CALL AND GET HELP NOW. Im worried about you! SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER! PLEASE DONT DO THAT!
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Have another serious talk with her saying "Hey I notice you havent been eating much, is everything ok??"  Don't accuse her of neccessarily having anerexia, as that woould put her on the defense...  Now you're coming across as a good concerned friend...  Maybe it has nothing to do with being aneroxic at all, maybe its a sign of depression...  Did she just recently lose someone close to her??  Or maybe a bad breakup??  Or heck maybe she just hasn't been feeling well the last few days...  See what she says...  If it's only been a few days or so since this pattern started and it's pretty sudden, it could be one of the above, just be there for her for the next few days till she slowly gains back her appetite...  IF however this has been an ongoing issue, whether or not she admits it (she'll probably be in denial even with herself) I would then say "well, you might say it's no big deal, but I am truly concerned for you..  I have noticed that all you ate today was a tic-tac and an apple, or whatever, and then tell her this is not healthy...  Mention again what you said about the running and healthy foods, which should be part of any healthy lifestlye, even if your not on a "diet", tell her you want her to help yourelf, but she's gotta do it when she's ready, and in the meanwhile if she ever needs anything to call you day or night to talk (even if it has nothing to do with food, like i said earlier there could be an underlying emotion helping cause this, the best thing you can do is just be there as a friend)...  From there back off for a few days or so, unless you see herself in an immediate life threatning situation, such as she's talking about suicide and stuff...  See if she takes your advice and starts to get help oh her own...  If she doesn't look like she's going to take responsibility for her own actions and seek help on her own, then you might have to...  Maybe go to her again and say "You know I noticed this situation hasn't getting any better (and possibly even worse) You leave me no choice but to go to the authority (whether it be a councelor, school nurse, trusted teacher) myself, that's my duty as a friend...  If you'd like we can go together to talk to them, and I'll be there every step of the way with you, but if you don't come with me, I'm still going to tell them..." She might be mad at you, but in time will thank youo....  Aneroxia is a very seriouos conditioon and needs to be adressed, don't let the possibility of having a friend mad at you, stop you..  I'd rather have a mad friend than no friend, and aneroxia is indeed fatal in the long-term...  Thing is it's one of those slow deaths where your body will just weaken to nothing, but your not going to die from starving yourself one day, many people fast for religious purposes, etc. for a 24-hour period...  Your body has enough fat and nutrients stored that you can survive, but over time, it WILL kill...  PLease talk to her today, don't procastinate...  Good luck to both of you
918209
Suicide is no joke. I would tell his parents or close relatives/friends. If they don't do something about it, you yourself have every right to call a pscyh facility and report it and have him evaluated.