How do I stop my parents blaming me for all their arguements?
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Tell your parents straight up that you will not accept the blame for their arguments and that you will no be the scapegoat for their problems in their life. It may be so that they argue about something related to you but their inability to resolve the issue shows their is some problems brewing between them for some time before and instead of facing them they blame you. Tell them how you feel and let them know that is sad that they are not been adults and instead of helping you grow as a person they are limiting you and making you feel bad.
970401
Yes, I've had a problem with this myself. Altering the way you deal with things will only happen over time. If you think about it, you've reacted a certain way all your life so changing things around will take time and patience (which of course is something you don't have!! Don't worry, the irony was not lost on me either!)\n\nFirst of all, accept the things you cannot change. In my experience there are a lot of árseholes out there, certain friends of mine will always be very money oriented and my first marriage did not work out. I no longer fight it, I accept it. \n\nThis is going to sound like self-help book bull but when someone is mean to you, or does something to fundamentally upset you, respond with a smile and with kindness. It really throws them which is amusing and which in turn makes you less angry. \n\nWhen it comes to interpersonal relationships (i.e. wife/husband/mum/dad) have a mental look at your previous arguments and see how they went. Do you labour on a point relentlessly? If so, did it get you anywhere? Have you ever recorded yourself having an argument? Do you look "sane" and rational? Chances are that you don't. When you are having a 'heated discussion' stick calmly to the one point you are debating and don't let it become a list of everything that person ever did to annoy you. And remember, once you raise your voice your point is invalid.
389882
It's because parents have a tendency to deal with their own shortcomings through their offspring. They will correct past mistakes(in their own minds) through you! Good Luck and I really hope it works out, but, if they push you too hard, just sit them down and tell them calmly to GET YOUR OWN LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nHope this helps!\nglenn
1187221
Just  be honest with them and speak your mind.  Telling them why you disagree with what they are saying.  \n\nBut whatever you do, don't let either one of them influence your decision. Make sure what you are deciding is your choice and what you believe, not theirs.
1130317
If that's the biggest problem in your life, relax.  Or go tell your parents the deal.  Just forget the other people and enjoy the beautiful scenery.
681020
oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
417559
Your parents hating each other has nothing to do with how you feel about them. Although I know it's hard when they don't get along, you can't take sides. Remain neutral and never get involved in their disagreements. If they try to get you involved, say I am not saying anything, this is between you two, not me. I love you both, and I am not going to play these games.\nIf you say this to them it will get them to thinking about how they are acting. Hopefully it will also make them see how foolish their acting. I wish you the best of luck!!
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As an adult who was recently a child, I can sympathize with parents thinking that they understand what's going on in their child's head (my mother still thinks that), and with parents making decisions that don't seem right, and sometimes aren't. Parents are people and make mistakes, however, you should stop to consider that you'd be much worse off without them. They might make decisions that cause you to miss out on things, and they might make you do things that you don't like, but they are older and wiser, and can make more informed decisions. This does not mean that they will always be right, and if you think they are wrong, you shouldn't be afraid to discuss it with them. However, screaming or throwing a fit would only show that you aren't mature enough to make very many decisions for yourself. You should have a say in what you want to do, and I'm almost positive that, if you think about it, you do. Also, if you gracefully accept some things your parents say that you don't agree with, they're more likely to let you make more decisions, or at least more heavily weigh your opinion.
604165
Be Real With Him!!!! they hate that but just flat out tell him shut up you don't know everything!\n                      OR\ndo it my way just ignore him and say yeah your right!! \n   theres nothing to argue about then!!!
1058110
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
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keep your chin up... they have nothing better to do and they are to envious probably and only talk of their own faults by pointing at someone else.. wherever u go there will always be bad apples.. i would not associate with those people.. no trust.. take care.. you are letting them get the best of you by your reaction.. if u show them what they say don't meen a dang  thing to ya.. they will eventually stop..
593382
Of course you have the right to be pissed off!  Hey you're 18 you're considered an adult!  Just sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel about the whole situation.
97739
You should step up and be that medium. Be the peace maker. Let your mother have her way. She loves you and only wants to protect you. If you feel an argument coming on about something try to listen to what she has to say. You don't have to believe her or even understand her. Parents just want their kids to listen to what they have to say. I thin kthat it is possible to get along with your parents. I do most of the time. Find something you both enjoy doing and do t together. Like shopping!
251309
If they are trying to teach you because you are doing something wrong, that's one thing. If they are just bossing you around, that's another. Maybe you should ask your parents to have a talk with them.
727791
DON'T YOU JUST HATE WHEN PARENTS USE THAT LINE LOL......\nmy mother and father were the same when i was living with them they would both say that to me and i was like shut up let me learn things for myself but they would still put in what they thought.... even if i didn't want to hear it. I'm 20 and now living out of home and they don't interfere don't get me wrong if you are still at home i'm not telling you to move out cause it's not easy belive me, but you really need to put your foot down. i belive at the age of 20 you are old enough to make your own decsions whatever they may be wheatehr they like it or not. parents always worry and try to take control i think it's just in them lol. you have to tell him that he would have once had to learn for himself and now it's your turn and it's time for him to let you grow into being a good man, tell him that you were raised to do the right thing and he sould trust you.\ntalk to him mate\ngood luck and i hope your dad realises that you are old enough to make your own choices \nmel
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Do not comment on the subject when your mother begins to question or criticize, especially if you are not a part of it.  You might try going to another part of the house or sitting on the porch or in the backyard when they get started.  Practice answering only questions or statements made directly to you.  You are really not required to finish arguments started by other people, parents or otherwise. If she has a legitimate gripe with another family member, let the two of them settle it.
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Being real about it all. \nYou are the blame for this madness. \nThey fight over you so this means that you are the focal point to their differences. In some form or another you may encourage their actions \nI suggest you cancel both of them and remove your self from them both.