My supervisor is constantly talking about my personal life to everyone she meets!!?
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Stop telling her about your personal life.\n\nThere isn't any other good reason as to why she would have enough information about you to make you uncomfortable by what she's revealing to others. If it's stuff you've shared in the past, you can't really take that back.  You may just have to live with it... but from here on out, MUM's the word.\n\nSometimes approaching people with a "what if the shoe was on the other foot" scenario helps them see how insensitive they are being.  Case in point, I had a supervisor that basically antagonized me constantly about a character issue that I was challenged to change at the office.  He would do it in front of others and, as a group, everyone would egg me on until I would snap.  I finally pulled him aside and told him politely that I needed his help, not his hinderances. I calmly asked him how it would feel if I ridiculed him about his eating habits in front of everybody (which were peculiar.... but necessary because of a serious health issue he had)?  And then made the point that I DIDN'T ridicule him because I respected the fight he had everyday to make the decisions he did.  After that, he never teased me again and our work relationship improved immensely.\n\nPerhaps there is a piece of information you know of that your supervisor would absolutely die about having made public.  Make it perfectly clear, not as a threat, but as a simple fact that you have respectfully NOT shared information about her because you feel that privacy is so sacred.... and that you expect her to afford the same respect to you.  I think that will help her out.  At least, I HOPE it will.\n\nGood luck.
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oh boy, very common story. If you cannot approach your supervisor, take it to upper management. There are also reference tools such as the internet to help you understand the topic a little better. If you have a very autocratic employer, all you can do is push on through & at your next evaluation, express your concerns with this issue & maybe come up with some solutions. Chances are there are more people you work with who have this problem, start a conversation around the water cooler, so to speak, see what you can come up with collectively to combat the situation.
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As a supervisor, you need to first speak with them and let them know you are aware of their sleeping habits on the job.  Find out why this is this the case, give him a warning to let him know this will go in his personnel file and if it keeps happening you will have to let him/her go.
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She might have broken a law in saying something about your personal life on the job. Spend your week-end researching the laws in your state. I know that Federal law prohibits your boss from discriminating against a behavior or social "disorder". It sounds to me like she might be the one that needs to go! I think that you should go to the woman on your own and discuss w/her your feelings on the situation. It might help to carry a recorder in case she tries to threaten your job or something. Good luck!
782539
She could of said...pls dont yell at me and can we please go talk privately in your office.....NOBODY deserves to be yelled at . Stupid boss...she is on a ego trip!!
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It sounds like you have a micro manager who want her hands on everything that goes on in the office....\n\nA pleasant way is to call a meeting with her and explain to her that you have the experience and professionalism to deal with clients and it undermines your abilitity and confidence when she interupts....Not that she isn't helpful and infact you learned a great deal from her doing it but you would appreciate it if she gives you the chance to grow...\n\nThen, if she doesn't stop and interupts your conversation with a client just say out loud, not too loud but loud enough so that others would hear "Excuse me would you stop micromanaging and allow me to do my job?!
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accept that your friends think your mum has a cool job.  Maybe they are asking lots of questions because it is like a dream job to them.  If you have friends and you feel like you have to control what the topic of conversation is then what kind of little friend are you deary?
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If it is at work, maybe go to the personnel department and talk it over with someone....or talk to people who are completely out of the situation and will not tell what you say.\n\nDevelop a plan to get out of there...document everything you do in case they accuse you of something. Carefully develop an alliance with someone there getting their approval of you, without telling them you have a problem..for example if your boss is mean, and there is someone else that has authority there too, impress them with how nice or good you are, and get their approval.  Sometimes one authority figure will speak positive things to the other and help to change their mind.\n\nSit tight and be careful...ask God to help you..
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The only thing and the best thing u can do if u dont want to leave ur present job is that u have to ignore her(him).  I guess u dont have any other option other than this.. Just have a good professional relationship with her and nothing more.. Dont let her antiques bgo to ur head coz otherwise it will harm ur performance. If ur boss gossips abt u then u canm politely clear the things out with her and say her whats the truth. And for the sleeping part, u cant do much!\n\nBut if u r ready to leave this job(provided u have secured  some other job) then u can do loads of stuff...fun stuff.. U can mess up her papers :) get mad on her if she does something to u.. Tell people that ur boss is a deperate bimbo..etc..i m sure u can make such stuffs happen..\n   But again i know u wont leave ur job.. so..
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i have this kind of female boss. she shouts at everyone and always blames others for her mistakes. she doesn't quite know how to work on a PC and doesn't speak any foreign languages. she always says bad words about me because i'm almost 29 and i'm not married. she got married at 21 and has a kid. she thinks this is the only way for a woman. and also likes to talk on the phone all day long and gossips all the time, gets angry when someone laughs and many other things. she's just frustrated and very sick in the head. \ni used to leave the office everytime she said something bad to me, but at a point i couldn't take it anymore so i said some bad words to her. almost shouted at her and since this happened she hadn't said anyting bad to me again. i don't know if this is the right way to solve your problem. best thing would be to get another job.
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You should keep immaculate records of everything.  Specifically, keep a journal where you record any and all instances of possible sexual harassment.\n\nWith the required compliments regarding your supervisor's appearance, you will definitely have a case.  You need to establish on the record that you have objected to the behavior and asked that it stop, however.  Tell her directly that her request makes you uncomfortable, and then follow up with an email.  Print that email, and keep it in your records.\n\nRemember that you need to be able to prove anything you allege.  Otherwise, she will just say things didn't happen, and if there's no proof, then there's no case.\n\nHopefully, she will stop the behavior when you ask her to, but if she doesn't, you should contact the EEOC.  See http://www.eeoc.gov for full information about filing a complaint.  Try to resolve the issue internally first though in good faith by asking that the behavior stop.  If it doesn't, that's when you go external and file a complaint.\n\nRegarding the farting, I don't think that's anything really.  It's unpleasant, but you don't have the right to a fart-free environment, you know?  Try keeping an air freshener at your workstation, or maybe you could have a fan there.
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You can handle this situation in 3 steps.\n\n1...Know that every time she talks she gives you compliments in disguise. Jealousy is the root.\n\n2...Very important. Stop listening to what was said. If you make clear to every one at work your non-interest to hear any gossip, by so doing, from her part, why talking to deaf ears. You will make her non-existant.\n\n3... Show yourself the bigger person. Say to her with a smile good-morning/good-night. I guarantee you: she will be crushed.
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Wow, that is one seriously unbalanced person.  I think that all you can do is ignore and hope that she develops an obsession other than with you.  I would just stay very persistant with your avoidance because every time that she gets to have any contact with you it only feeds her obsession more.  Think invisible...but keep your eye on how many times she tries to contact you so that you know if it is building up or dying down.  I hate to say it...but I would expect that in your line of work I would have to expect that this won't be the last person you will ever have a problem with...I would seriously be considering a career change.  \n\nI used to work in bars and alcohol and naked women don't usually bring about the best behavior in men...so eventually I had to make that change as well.
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I am so sorry that your work environment is like this.  It's really hard, but I think the best thing to do is just refuse to listen to it.  You might find some phrases like this helpful when you sense some gossip is coming on.\n\n"Hey, Bill, if it's okay with you I think I'd rather not hear about that."\n"I think well of <name> and I'd like to continue.  Please don't say that story."\n"Hey, we're all coworkers here.  I'd rather not hear anything bad about people I work with."\n\nIt's really hard, and sometimes you can't always tell when the negative comments are coming, but by refusing to listen to it you at least you won't be part of the problem, and you won't have the mental burden of knowing all the negative things about your coworkers.\n\nSometimes these have to be said more than once, and sometimes it helps to change the subject so the people won't  continue on the same line of conversation.\n\nI'm behind you 100%!  You'll be making this world a better place!
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If it is way too personal it might be sexual harrassment, if you are young please go to a school counselor about it.  If you are at work, an adult, Ask yourself, is this a pattern?  Do others experience this?  Again, you can discuss it with your personel department.  If all this is too risky, there is a way to avoid questions like this, without lying... for example, you could say "Why do you ask?"  or "Actually, I have a man in my life" (a pet, perhaps?), or maybe, "I'm sorry, but I make it a practice of never discussing my personal life at work.
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Yes, you should most certainly report your a** hole boss. He's a creep, and that kind of talk should never be forced into the workforce.
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Definitely do not confide in the "friend" again.  \n\nI'd go to your boss and ask "What did you mean when you said you were concerned about the future of my employment?"\n\nI think she's bluffing.  SHE could be in trouble for talking about YOU if that is a policy.\n\nEither way, you have a right to know.    Better for you to stand up for yourself.  Don't let her try to scare you.  She sounds like she is playing games.  \n\nI'd talk to her, but also look for another job.  Why would you want to work for her???