How do long distance relationships work?
441033
I've been in a few before, and found they worked...but i'm not the lovey dovey sort and don't tend to miss people so i think it depends on how each of you are - good luck :)
825713
Depends on how long the relationshp was long distance, how much I loved the other person, and how logistic the move would be. \n\nYou run huge risks by moving, one is being dumped and stranded in a new city. Move there only if you think you will also benifit from a different surrounding and if you COMPLEATLY and totally without a doubt love the other person...otherwise you might set yourself up for problems\n\nHave I ever heard of it working, yea....is it easy? Depends on the sacrifices everyone is willing to make in order for it to work.
1130281
It does not work unless there is an end in sight.  If you don't have plans of when you can actually be *together*... it will not work.  It will become tiresome.  It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's the truth.  Also, if you're *starting out* long distance... that's even harder.  Trust me.
703636
what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
581095
It can work out if you two had a strong relationship before separating.  I was in a faithful (If you are sure he is the one for you--and he feels the same way--then I would not recommend getting into another relationship) long distance relationship of 2500 miles for over a year, and we stayed in contact by phone (we each had Cingular phones, so there was no long distance charge).  She lived in Reno, NV and I moved to Knoxville, TN.  After she finished her degree, she moved to be with me and we are together today.\n\nI hope everything works out for you :o)
1161024
I know how that is...my boyfriend lives 9 hours away from me! \nThe most important thing is staying i contact, call each other as much as possible, say little cute things all the time, send each other things in the mail, little surprises to let each other know your thinking about them. I send my boyfriend cookies and letters all the time, the little things truely make all the difference.
50416
Yes, it can.  It depends on how hard you work at it, and how much they are working at it.  You have to keep your commitments of calling when you promise, being on line when you promise, of coming down when you promise, and vice versa.  Sometimes starting out in long distance relationships actually make them better.  One reason is that you know from the beginning it is going to take work and are ready to take that on.  Second, you learn to communicate verbally with each other on every topic, and that will last through your relationship if it leads to marriage.  Also, it forces you to take things slow, and really get to know the person over time.  Sometimes if we can see the person every day, we fall too fast, and fail to recognize the warning signs that we would see if there were some distance put between us.  I know of a couple that dated from Scotland to Canada for two years, and just got married.  You know what?  They wouldn't have traded the past two years for anything, because now they talk to each other every day about everything, and it has taught them a lot about confiding in each other and trusting in each other.  I hope it works out for you. :)
263035
It depends on the couple.  Early in my parents marriage, they were apart for 5 months while my father worked overseas, and they stayed married and had 4 kids after that.\n\nMy own boyfriend and I lived 100 miles apart for several years, and we are now married and happy.\n\nIf both people are committed to the relationship and want it to work, then it will.  If even one of them is not, then it won't.
448008
To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
625233
I know of two long distance relationship that has worked\n my parents and my brother and sister in law.  It is possible of both people are willing to work on it
683469
Yes it works.\nDistance is not the end of the world in a relationship \nDistance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love. \nAlthough you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart! \nI, like you, truly believe that love & relationships are what make your life special, and that ones built on love & understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people. \n\n\nYOU ARE NOT ALONE ! \nAll across the world, there are couples just like you who are crazy about each other but are forced by circumstance to live apart..
78264
Long distance relationships are VERY difficult. You have to be able to trust the other person without question. I'm speaking from experience! To make it work you have to get to know each other first, and make the effort to see each other as often as possible. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but in some instances it forgets. Just be careful.
259139
well actually there is. the good side about long distance relationship is you'll both get to trust each other more and that it would test how much you love each other. and the best part of it is when you get through this, its a never ending bond between you. as long as there is no sidelines while each one of you are away.\n\nthe bad news about long distance relationship is that it doesnt work for everyone. maybe for some but dont be so sure that he/she didnt make out with someone else. loneliness is one of the most devastating feeling that can destroy a good or even a perfect relationship.\n\nbeen there a couple of times. tried it 3 times with the same girl but still it didnt work. and i assure you we were really both inlove that time since we were still in highschool. if you total it up, we were loving each other for 10 years but the distance and loneliness killed our relationship. and mostly its my fault coz and i admit that. sorry.
176193
Long distance relationships are never an easy thing. The only way they work is if the two of you trust each other completely. It also depends on how well you know each other. It's a bad idea to go into a long distance relationship early on. However, once your bond is strong enough, time away from each other makes the heart fonder.\nIt's harsh, but if you can't trust her, then it's not going to work. \nBut when you do, it'll work out. If you truly love her, trust her.\nIt'll be a tough 6 months, but you'll pull through.\nHope it all turns out for the best...\n:)
208137
it depends.  do you believe in destiny?  If you love each other, no matter what happens, even if your far away with each other,  you will find a way to communicate, to see each other. Only God knows if you will end with each other.
784723
Not true....long distance CAN work. Ive seen on a few occasions already that the couple is now married, happy and even have a child together.\n\nIt can happen, but I would take it a step at a time. Good luck.
385769
It all depends on how committed you two are towards each other. You have to have that amount of respect for each other not to hurt the other one. My husband and I had a long distance relationship before we were married and although it was hard, we worked through it. You have to have that love and respect for your partner to make it work. If you don't then do not even attempt it. Good Luck!