i am so shy how do i become "unshy"?
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
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Just speak...even random things....talk about the weather, or just start up a conversation. Are you shy? Or do you just not know what to say? I used to be shy..still am....but you gotta gotta learn to come out of your shell. Like I said...strike up a conversation no matter how hard it is...believe me, it works.
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Being shy is a state of mind, stop worrying what others think, just act, dance, make silly noises! lifes is short!\nas long as your happy with yourself!
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start writing a journal, reading it back will help you discover more about yourself.\nread a lot of books.\ntry and start overcoming your shyness, meet other people and realise that you are fun to be around.
277955
omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
75360
Depends on the situation. Some things, I'm a little shy when I first do it, but then get comfortable with it (like meeting new people). Other things I just refuse to do (like dancing). But that's just me.
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Try to strike up conversation at work with people, even if you don't think you have anything in common with them.  You never know what anyone is really like, and people who don't know you will take shyness as being aloof.  Be sure to make plenty of phone calls and write letters to those who you do know, no matter how far.  Explore and enjoy your new surroundings, and sooner than you think, they won't be so foreign and looming.
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try a love note and flowers.  sorry; i don't know a cure for shyness.  I used to be, but it's been fading recently.  Just try diving in and doing it.  If you start hesitating, just do it without thinking (worked about 50% of the time for me)
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just start talking and then you will become more relaxed.  i am shy too and once you start talking it will come to you and you will be fine.  it does not matter what you say to start it just start talking.
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you could try it. i think it might be good idea. i want try it too. i am really shy in person.
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ptoms of shyness\nblushing \nheart pounding \n"butterflies" in the stomach \nstrong feelings of uncertainty \ndifficulty carrying on a conversation \nPossible causes of shyness\nlack of confidence (ok... that's too obvious) \ninferiority complex (you are a creature of GOD, why would god discriminate in his creatures? think about it... and stop feeling inferior) \nyour thinking pattern (of negative thoughts, so fear creeps in, and your subconscious mind reacts according to that) \nlack of knowledge about the expected behavior in social situations \nsometimes, its based upon your previous experiences \nFirst of all you will need to learn how to relax. Shy people often get anxious or "tensed" in social situations. When I say "tensed" I literally mean it. In social situations, where you feel shy; you get tensed up, your muscles tighten, all of your body literally builds tension (like if we stretch a rope). All you have to do is to loosen yourself. Anxiety Cure\n\nThis may help:\n\nEvery night before sleeping lie down on your back. I will recommend removing the pillow. Put your hands beside your body (so that they point to the feet). Now take some deep breaths. Say to yourself my body is getting relaxed. Imagine all of your body parts going into the state of ultimate relaxation one by one. Start from head to toe. Imagine all the tension in your muscles is getting out from your body through the fingers of your hand. Finally all of your body is completely relaxed and you are experiencing ULTIMATE RELAXATION. At this time imagine a golden light which is giving you infinite power to help you succeed in every aspect of the life. This way you will get a very sound sleep also. \n\nNow again coming back to social situations... if you start getting tensed... just say to yourself "RELAX" and imagine all the tension easing out from your body (as you do while sleeping). Ease your shoulders and loosen up. You will be more calm and cool then. Now say affirmatively to yourself: "I am in control of how I think and feel - no one else on earth has this power unless I give it away." And this is a FACT. In this way, take control of your attitude, and you will take control of your results.\n\nNow the technical stuff explaining why the muscles get tensed\n\nWhat happens in our bodies when we are under threat. It's very much chemistry. When subjected to a threat or fear, such as real conflict, your body will release chemicals to help you fight with the situation. These will affect your body and mind in certain specific ways. Your heart beat will increase. You start loosing control over your tongue. You no longer remain who you actually are. Your mind stops working and you know what to say. \n\nThe SOLUTION - How to loose fear?\n1. Let me make it clear... FEARS HAVE NO REALITY (yes, I am shouting). They doesn't simply exist. They exist only in one's mind. I will make it clear. A small child can be paralyzed with fear when a playmate says there is a monster under the bed who will grab him in the night. But when the parent turns on the light and shows there is no monster, he is freed from fear. The fear in the mind of the child was every bit as real as if there were really a monster there. The thing he feared did not exist. In the same way, most of our fears have no reality. They are merely illusions. \n\nMost of the fears exist more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.\n\nOk... let me tell you an another story when I was young (say, 15 years old). I didn't know driving. I had a fear in my mind that I can not drive and will not able to drive for my entire life. I really feared driving. But, then I started to learn driving. I used to drive very slowly, fearfully. But gradually, I learnt to drive perfectly and all of my fear was gone. And now I can drive as rashly as you can imagine without any troubles or fear. So what we learnt from this? What we learnt is that... we should face the fears
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I used to be very shy and introspective as well. I always wanted to wait for the right time to say things, but that time never came.\n\nI'm not sure how old you are, but that would make a difference. One possibility is that your current friends don't bring out an exciting personality in you. Perhaps you really are just shy, and even among those who you are close with, you are quiet and "boring". You may find that you are very outgoing on the internet, but not so much in person.\n\nThere really isn't a single way to become less boring. Becomming spontaneous is easy, but the results may not be what you wish. Being happy is likewise easy, but at the same time, nearly impossible to accomplish.\n\nBut no matter what you do, a personality shift is not something that can be accomplished overnight. Without doubt, you are an interesting person, you simply need to gain the ability to express it, something very difficult to learn. Simply resolve to yourself to say things more often. Perhaps you could make a minor change to yourself, such as hair style, as a way of reminding yourself that you are going through with the change.\n\nNext time you are in a social situation, make a concious effort to say something. Next time you are in a situation where you are surrounded by people you do not know, make an effort to meet even one of them and be friendly. This may seem difficult for you, but after the first time, the next social situation becomes less imposing, and slowly you will find yourself more at ease around others, and much more likely to be an exciting and outgoing person.\n\nThis is pretty much what I had to do. I still am not as socially outgoing as some people I know, but regardless, I have noticed the change myself, and am happy with it.
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I found drama really helped me get over my shyness.  If you're in highshcool take a drama class.  If you're out of highschool, look into a theatre company and audition.  Even if you don't make it, the simple fact that you auditioned infront of -people- will slowly help you
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being a smooth talker takes having little to no shame.\nif you are slightly shy or easily embarrassed or not the quickest on your toes, you are going to take longer getting comfortable with it. good luck and go about it with a little bit of humor to break the ice.
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You have to compensate body weaknesses by your personality. Although it depends on the case, I think it might be easier to work on your shyness than on your weight.\n\nIn life, you'll meet people that like you and other that don't. So go ahead, show who you are, without caring about the people that won't like you... that's inherent to life and happens to every single person in  this world!! But being shy and transparent won't help you, you won't even let the chance to others to like you or not!!
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Shyness is all in the mind. I should know... I'm a shy type of person myself. An people think that I'm a snob because of this. The best thing to do is develop self-confidence and try to mingle with people. Just always remember that we are all born equal... So you don't have to be shy in front of a stranger because we are all human beings dwelling in this world. And whenever you found yourself being shy, try to think that you are not. Remember, what you think about yourself reflects... Smile!
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I use to be really really shy too! But one day it hit me that when people firts meet you they have NO IDEA who you are, so you can make yourself who ever you want to be weather its shy or outgoing. And I attempted it one day and made myself an outgoing person by taking the first step in asking all kind of questions (believe me I was soo nervouse because of my shyness) and by the time I knew I was able to talk to those people with no probelms and people would refer to me as a social butterfly but little did they know I was very shy. Well in time I really did become the social butterfly it just took some time and it took some working at. Be patient but learn to take steps. And those steps could be your the first one to speak up or out. If you always the first to do something you will overcome your shyness thats why I did and now I am leader. Good Luck and dont let shyness overcome you.