Disrespectful Boyfriends?
453317
This violence and disrespect is a form of abuse!  I was in the same position many years ago.  The reasons that girls stick around with guys who treat them this way are different.  Some feel that they really love the guy and that they can "change" him.  People don't change their ways that often, and when they do, it is because THEY chose to.  \n\nSecondly, it could be because she thinks that this is how a guy who loves her would act.  Violence and disrepect ARE NOT a way to show love.\n\nThird, if this guy is going this far as to do all of this, he could be telling her (as my ex did with me) "If you leave me, no ones going to want you" or "No man will ever love you the way I do."  If you hear things like this over and over again, you really begin to believe it.  This is also a form of abuse (mental abuse).\n\nI would sit your friend down and have a long talk with her.  Ask her why she is with this guy.  Does she feel she can't do any better?  Does she think that life won't go on without this loser?  Let her know: She's better than this.  Tell her that the next time he gets pissed, it might not be her furniture that gets broken....it could be a bone!  (People that have abusive tendencies and do things like this soon progress to physical abuse...TRUST ME I KNOW FIRSTHAND!) \n\nIf she refuses to listen to you, is there a family member of hers that you can voice your concerns to?  In my case, a friend let my parents know that I was being abused and they eventually got me out.  It may make her angry that you went to someone else, but she has got to get out of this situation before it is too late!\n\nNo person (man, woman, or child) deserves to be treated this way!  Tell your friend that she needs to get out (and there are various agencies that can give her advice and help her get out.....Find these numbers and have them on hand when you talk to her.)  \n\nHer situation will not get better, it will only get worse.  She needs to get out and get help before it goes too far!
334494
Come on!!!!, Can't your boyfriend invent anything better??? that an old excuse... He obviously has no interest in respecting you, let him go and then get rid of him.
145431
boyfriends act rough around their girlfriends ,only to impress them.
229535
Yes, I had a crappy boyfriend in the past who beat me often. I'd try to leave, but he'd find me again. Why it happened....cuz he was a jerk and couldn't control his temper I guess.\nHe finally got his payback--my bestfriend at the time beat him down, and he packed up and moved. Never heard from him again! Yippee!!! ;0)
694633
My boyfriend stuck up for me at a concert. This guy kept shoving and pushing me and other people for no apparent reason. And he was a lot older than us and should've been more mature about it. My boyfriend almost got in a fight with him after he told him to stop, but the guy wasn't listening. I stood in between them just because I didn't want them to throw any punches or anything.\n\nHe never got in a fight with some other guy trying to hit on me. He's a little more mature than that and knows how to handle things better. He trusts me to do the right thing.
604412
All men are not what you described. I was reading this and shaking my head thinking....this sounds like warning signs of an abusive relationship. I don't mean to be accusatory, but I would just like you to recognize signs...like....\n\nPossessive or jealous behavior toward girlfriend\nWhether in public or private, possessiveness and jealous accusations often precede and follow violence. The abusive boyfriend will often attempt to socially isolate his girlfriend by "forbidding her" to see or talk to others or by making frequent accusations of infidelity which force her to limit her social life in order to appease him. \n\nSee link below for other signs. Be honest with yourself and if this sounds like your BF I suggest you leave or get counseling. Easier said than done...I know. \n\nGood luck!
16487
It depends.\n\nPeople say hurtful things that they don't mean sometimes when they are angry and upset. If it was a one time thing and he apologizes, I don't think it's a dealbreaker.\n\nOn the other hand, if it's part of a larger pattern of poor anger management (or he just treats you poorly), get out and find a guy who will treat you with respect.
940151
You can discuss pet peeves with your mate.  More often than none, people with annoying habits, don't realize they are doing it.\nIt just comes naturally to them and they do it without a thought.\n\nTalk it through. It's not worth giving up a potentially good relationship based on the petty things
564131
Is that really what you want? You deserve to be treated with respect and anyone who treats you any less isn't worth your time. Figure out your worth, and then ask yourself this same question. You deserve the best, believe that, know who you are, what you want, and the type of person you want to be with. Someone who brings you down, and degrades you, is rude to you (even if just sometimes) isn't worth your time.
529152
Hey Blitz, good question!  I had a boyfriend who treated me like a princess, put me on a pedestal.  I really liked being treated that way.  But it is give and take I treated him like gold as well.  I really think that's how it should be and I will not settle for less.  Especially the dirty little princess at night!  I have been told that I am Betty Crocker in the kitchen, Jenna Jamison in the bedroom and every mothers dream.  Funny that I'm single...Joke, I am single very much by choice.  Bottom line is to treat your boyfriend how you want him to treat you!
505105
He is no loyal boyfriend. Its not jealousy when another woman touches your boyfriend in intimate places, and its not respect or loyalty to you when he makes you the bad guy for her inappropriate behavior. \n\nHe lied to you. \nHe disrespects you. \n\nDump this loser.
883656
Because these guys don't start out disrespecting them.  They usually treat them like princesses in the beginning... and these guys add an excitement to the relationship that you don't get with the nice guys.\n\nBy the time they start treating the girl like crap so she's so far in she doesn't really realize it.  This is also how girls wind up in abusive relationships.  Even the strongest of women can fall into this pit of despair.\n\nI've had happen to me.  Bu I ditched that jerk after a year and am now engaged to a sweet, loving man.  \n\nWomen just have to figure it out for themselves.. Unfortunately.
764065
The boyfriend doesn't respect the gift he bought for you - and doesn't respect you.  Is it your gift or a leftover?  It sounds like you need a new boyfriend.
161727
Dump him.  Boyfriend not trusting means he is insecure.  It is a sign of abuse.
162619
Your boyfriend is insecure and undeserving of you. Find a new boyfriend.
447755
Do you love your boyfriend? If yes, cut off communication.\n\nDo you love those other people? If yes, why are you with your boyfriend?
299576
Hmm, ask your boyfriend why he's uncomfortable with holding hands.  Maybe it's just not his thing.  Maybe he'd rather show his affection in other ways.  I don't think you should reprimand him for it if he's a good boyfriend, but if he does other questionable stuff, then it should probably raise a few flags.