im moving away with my kids, but my son has issues with his cousin,?
441056
well explain to him that you have to take both and since he s a teenager (your son) he should come with you.explain that because of what he tells you he s giving you a hard time and ask him to cooperate.after all you re a family with the other boy.and tell him that when he s 18 he can make decisons for himself.if its hard for you ask a specialist to help you.good luck
938639
hey man MANY THANKS for being away from family and friends. i had a cousin and his brother in law over there not too long ago and my husbands cousin who had to leave her young 1yr old daughter with us while she left. its gonna be hard but stick in there and you will be sooo proud of yourself when its all said and done. good luck and thanks again for supporting those of us who will miss you while your away. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU SAFE THE WAY THROUGH.
805217
You may want to protect yourself and your kids with a restraining order before he is let out. Especially if you are going to lay a heavy trip like this on him. He is expecting to have a warm welcome when he gets out and he hasn't exactly been spending time in a very friendly place. Who knows what kind of company he's been keeping. \nYou have the privilege of choice, but you need to move in a smart safe way for you and children--first thing get a lawyer! Don't make the same mistake as me, going to court representing myself and getting eaten alive by a 'shark' lady lawyer from h.e.l.l.\n\nGood luck and enlist help of family and friends in your decision!
925211
If I was you I think I'd do whatever it takes to avoid these people, even if you have to move. \nMisery loves company and they are trying to make your family just like theirs. \nFind better people to socialize with before your hindsight tells you you should have.
840428
My wife and I divorced when our sons were 5 and 2 1/2.  It was a miserable experience.  The divorce was painful because I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere anymore.  There was no normality.  Even more painful was not being with my sons everyday.  The hurt will not disappear overnight.  You probably don't want to hear this but it just takes some time.  One thing that will help is to maintain a civil relationship with your ex, but while the hurt is still there try to restrict your conversations to the children.  As for the children, do whatever you can to make sure you have as much time with them as you possibly can.  Focus your energy on making sure they know you want them around and that your home is also their's and they aren't just visitors.  I know the pain you are feeling and my heart goes out to you.  This won't make the hurt go away completely, but it does give you something to sort of hang-on to that is positive.
805638
you need to get a lawyer, try legal aid they may be able to help you as long as you are in there income guidelines, he can stop you from being able to move and this will probably affect the current visitation agreement you two have. It will probably come to one having the child during the school year and one during the summer, also alternating holidays. that is if that's what he goes for, he could also go for total custody. Before you move you need to get the courts permission or else you can be charged for this. Be careful, it sounds like you may have a fight on your hands, don't let the thought of you wanting to move in with your current boyfriend, make you lose your child, do everything the legal way so you are all legal and still retain custody.
861429
Jeez.  Maybe your cousin should decide to become a responsible human being  so that the taxpayers don't have to support his children. Any state can extradite anyone to any other state. That they must be touching each other is ridiculous.  Who cares?  I just hope the cops get him.
316800
I think you need to tell him he needs to talk to his ex about coming up with a disciplinary plan. Discipline must be consistant at both of their homes. Kids will act the way they are allowed to. You definately can't ban them from coming to your house but you just need to make it known that they can't behave that way in your home.
941310
What can you do? Apologize and if that doesnt work, its not like you can NOT let your child go there if he/she wants to... ya know? I think your family should DEF forgive you for things that are that far in the past, but its not my call... Good luck sweets.
69058
My mom used to pack us off to the park (I was the oldest and in charge) and spend time sleeping or cleaning up the house in peace. Possibly, you could stage a weekend sleep over at their cousin's house or someone you trust. Best of luck.\nK.
371852
there is no way you are going to leave and still keep the friendship . this man loves you and the kids ( that are not his) . you will some day wish you had stayed . good luck to ya ..
1024498
Just let him know about how u feel about him moving away...if he decides to stay, great; but if not, don't "force" him to stay 'cause you might come off as being selfish\n\nGood Luck :)
987389
I have 3 kids by my ex and he went off to Australia with his new wife. He stopped paying and I am fighting him in court (at great cost to myself) but now he wants to see his kids for 4 weeks this Christmas. I KNOW your feelings totally. But you have to carry the burden because children are better off if they have a relationship with their dads. Just dont compete. When they get older they will realise what went on. But equally dont put up with their lippyness. Dont let it go on. Make your ex look after them sometimes so you have some time to yourself. And get on with your own life. Your boys need a possitive male rolemodel in their life (your dad, or a brother or a new husband) Get on, get your life back into shape and make some time for yourself. You need it and so do your boys.
195629
It does not matter if the two of you were never married, if the kiddos are his then he will have rights. You need to file the appropriate paperwork and if the two of you are not able to agree on the kids, it will most likely go to mediation. This does not mean that you wont be able to move but he would be able to have the kids a few weeks out of the year or something like that. Try calling legal aid where you live and they will be able to help you out.  Good luck
586969
Get in touch with CFS, and determine the situation. Most agencies prefer to place children with relatives when possible as opposed to foster homes. In a bad situation, they pull the kids & worry about placement later. Depending on just what your brother-in-law did to warrant removal, you may have to cut contact with him to get temporary custody. There is a good chance CFS will be happy to hear from you. If they are not, you probably will need a family law attorney in Alberta (the lawyer needs to be accredited in the courts of the province where the child was removed, assuming Canada works like the US that way). \n\nA friend if mine had a similar situation, her nieces were removed from their parents, and she had to travel to where they lived, but she did get temporary, and then permanent, custody. Good Luck!
1017348
avoid your cousin...ignore them.  let your cousin know that you are not a doormat, and that you don't have to take it!
848570
It's not an easy thing to deal with, you have to think about what is best for yourself, your husband and most importantly your son.\n\nYes, I strongly recommend counceling as well. You also have to have a heart-to-heart with your husband and find out what he wants as well as tell him what you want.\nYour son will not be happy living in a family where happiness comes last. You two have a job to do and that's to set a good example to your son.\nIf you two truly love each other and want to stay together, then it can be worked out, but you both have to communicate with each other. \nI have a dear friend who's gay who was married for a time as well. He married because he wanted a family, to him that was more important than his being gay. \nHe actually came out to his wife and they had originally decided to stay together to start a family. But someone else thought it was terrible and convinced his wife to put him out of the house. \n\nI know both of them and she had said a few years afterward that it was probably the worst decission of her life. She regrets it terribly.\nHe was very hurt because he really did love her and really wanted a family with her. \nThey both knew he was gay, it was something they originally were prepaired to deal with. It was only once he was 'outted' to a family 'friend' that things got ugly. \n\nGranted, neither of them speak to this person now as a result of what happened. But the damage is done and they can't go back. \n\nJust make sure whatever you two decide, it's something that you both really want, you both can live with and neither of you will regret. \n\nAlways remember your son comes first in all of this. Make sure, if you do decide to split, to keep the lines of communication open for your son to know his father. \nWhen my husband and I split up, I never said anything bad about his father in front of our son. I let him know his father and make up his own mind about him when he was old enough. Now he and his father aren't all that close, but that was my son's choice, not mine.