love hurts! need help?
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You use indistinctly "like" and "love"\n\nYou say you have liked her for a period of time so I think you like her and you are in love with her and you think you could love her.\n\nThe flirting and "stuff like that" kinder ruined it... but don't worry, you can still repair this!  You'll see... when your mum bakes yerr favourite cake and you smell it and you see it and you even drivel... the only thing you want is to take at least a nibble... but once you eat that first nibble maybe you'll want to finish up the slice... at the end you don't find it as attractive as the begining... at that moment you are satisfied and you don't need more... but surely, since it is your favouirte... you'll want another slice some hours later or the next day... but what if your mum hides the cake?  You will be very keen to have another nibble again.  It is a weird example, I know, but could help... 'Hide' the cake (=you) but in a smart way... don't run away and let her look for the pie... just don't show yourself as so-much-interested but keep yourself around her... so that she can realise how much she misses you... In addition don't let the other guy to outwit you.  If you go on your intent and she does not go on you and rather goes on the other guy... then let her go... after all there are many other women out there...  Though I understand the way you feel!!!
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I am going through exactly what you are going through as well. My girlfriend just left me because she was not sure she loved me either. All I can tell you is that it is going to hurt really bad. There will be some days you cannot breathe because of the pain it causes. The only thing I can tell you is that you need to find two very important things: First, you have to find something creative to take out your frustrations upon. While focusing on your studies can help, it really does nothing. Write, draw, sing, dance, do something to get it out of you. Second, this is going to sound very out there, but you need to find a place where you are happy. For me, it is in the rain. I love being in the rain. There I have no problems and I just smile. It can be physical or in your mind, but you have to find that place. Go there every so often and just enjoy yourself. It will make you feel better. Meditation can help too.\n\nAs for your boyfriend: I think that if he is going to get pissed about something as dumb as myspace, you may need to really take a look at him and ask "What the fuck?"\nAlso, if he loves you, which I think he does or he would not bring this drama into it, he might comeback. I am not going to tell you to move on. It is not that easy. What I am going to tell you is to stay strong, and have faith that you are not only a good person, but good things will come to you in this life. You just gotta have faith.
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It does hurt a lot I can relate to it. But keep in mind that hes working hard to right the wrong that hes committed, going to counseling, telling you about it was probably the hardest. Hes hurting deep down too. Just be there for him and help him through all of this. Remember that talking about it with him might help also...try to understand why he does this what has lead him to be like this why does he feel the need to do it....talking about it all might help don't bottle it all inside trust me that makes it worse, but if the two of you talk to each other and are open and honest stick by one anothers side you will get over this. It just happened...the pains not going to go away overnight and you might feel better if you talk to one another maybe couples help or a weekend retreat together!
1090028
yes, you hurt him but not intentionaly. So tell him that he is the only whom you love.
459944
Love and pain come hand in hand. You can't avoid it. Allow yourself to fall, it's the whole point of "falling" in love. They will catch you if they love you in return. It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. It's the only way to live. Push your fear aside and give it your all.
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What hurts you most? he's not in love with you anymore or he's love, or he's hunting for someone else? whats the matter?\nIf it hurts that he's not with love with you! carry on and accept it. Life becomes better when you accept things even if they hurt, they are the whole truth. \nIf it toubles you that he is in love with someone, you should dump him, frankly even being a boy i tell you this. He is not worth your pain and tears. \nTry making friends on the net, dont disclose your identity but talk out things with someone who really is understanding and can talk about it to you. Different people's opinoin don't help to lead a life but they surely can give good ideas, accept them and make the best of it to forget your past.\nRemember, only one thing, this was a lesson life thought you and the things you lost was the price for the same\nThere is no gain without pain. So just chill and hang on you will come along be with positive attitude people.
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Why would you love someone who goes out of their way to hurt you?  This sounds like masochism to me.  You probably think you need this person ... but you don't.  It is perfectly possible to forgive, and to walk away.  Do it for the sake of your pride and your self-esteem.  That's my advice.  Otherwise, go on loving and being hurt.  The choice is yours.
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what a tragic story! you should just leave them be if they seem so happy. if i were you, i would try and be happy for her. you can't force a guy to fall in love with you, it's almost impossible. try writing a letter to him about how you feel [don't send it of course], i guarentee it'll help ! you aren't being punished and beaten up everytime you turn around, life is just pieces of a huge puzzle and you've just placed the wrong piece in the wrong place. take it out and look for a place where it fits =]
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love and heartache????
149776
Move on  theirs planty of fish in the water :)  cheer up  dont let him see that he hurt you!
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i think it times to love a person and it also takes time to stop loving a person.\nmaybe you should still keep loving that person and if it is to hard for you then do whatever you have to do, to not get hurt.
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yes love hurts i do not care how in love you are it just really hurts . when you are dealen wth a broken heart you first need to find out if you ever have a second chance wth that person or not and if you have no chanch you just program your self to forget that person and you just tell yourself that you are beter off wthout him. its the hardest thang to do expecialy when you are still in love wth them but you have to realize that its not going to do you any good to sit around  feelen sorry for your self you get out there and act like you have every thang in the world going for you do not let yourself get depressed over it go out there and do somthing it will help you and the other party involved
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I think you're asking because you already know the answer.  You should leave but of course you don't want to because you need him/her.  Ask yourself if perhaps you are addicted to being hurt, to playing the victim of a never-ending game of being loved and abandoned.  A lot of us do that.   We become attracted to people who will surely hurt us and leave us...and we love it.  Then we have a chance to be broken hearted and miserable again.  When you get fed up of the pain, there will come a time when you will be honest with yourself and start making different choices.  He/she is not the problem, it's you...face yourself now.
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Anyone that tells you that love doesn’t hurt has never been truly in love.\n\nLove hurts even when everything is going good.  Even when you’re right there with them or there just in the next room and you just think of them it hurts deep in side but this is a good kind of hurt because you’re connected to that person.\n\nLove hurts especially when things aren’t going well.  I guess because when we open up and become vulnerable to that person we also open ourselves to being hurt.  When we really love someone we are connected to them and when they hurt we hurt but when they hurt us it hurts all the more.\n\nLove can really suck sometimes but stick with it there are always ups and downs to love.
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Either contact Ala-non for help or tell the person you are concerned about him or her because of --------- and ------------- and ---------------. Explain to the individual the impact he or she is having on you and other love ones. If appropriate talk about work issues. Then provide info on where to get help. Good luck.
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This has got to be a horrible time for you, not to be able to go and be with the ones you love in this horrible time of need.  I have no words of wisdom to give you that will ease your pain, nor help you either.  Use the phone regularly to call home, use the computer t seek counsel, and pray that this to shall pass.  Pretty lame, huh?
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The pain will tell you!