What do you think of dating a guy that has children from a previous marriage?
442441
I think it is a good idea...\nYou should try it....as long as it is with me...ha ha
1158622
It is sad, but true. Men are concerned about dating women with children, and mostly due to insecurity. I am a 41 yr old man and give you a full perspective so read closely please. A man who can date a woman with children is rare, but there is also a little alarm. Why is he looking for women with children?? Is he sincere or is he trying to be a white knight that turns into a control freak. I have met many guys who do this. Is he really doing it out of pity, or is it out of respect and admiration? Is he looking for someone who might be desperate in his eyes? I married a young lady many yrs ago who had a child and I raised that child as if my own. Is the guy you are looking at going to do this?  To this day that child knows me as Dad and knows nobody else would have ever provided the way I did. Some of us guys are just looking for a non committal type relationship, and others are real Men and will do right by the single and divorced Moms and the children as well. I just hope that if you are in this situation, you understand that you need to protect the child (ren) at all costs, and slowly introduce the man to the children. Don't rush into anything, and if he is trying to rush, leave him because his intentions are not honorable.
39640
Dating a guy and seeking out a father-figure for your kid are 2 different things.  Don't deny yourself of dating someone if you want to.\n\nWhen I was single, I didn't date women with kids, because I figured they were looking for a Dad figure for their kids. \n\nNow that I'm a widower father of a kid, I'll date a gal who's single, but I'm not seeking a Mother figure for my kid.\n\nBut, don't forget to put aside some playtime for yourself.  You were who you are before you had kids.
667613
Indeed. But then again, it depends on if his children are already having a lot of terrible behavioral issues and if their mother is woman enough to try and be civil with the new woman in Dad's life.\n\nI don't instantly disqualify men for having kids, but I do dig a little deeper to find out if there are any red flags. There's no sense in getting invovled with a man with children if you're not going to be in it for the long haul.\n\nI believe that like women who are single moms, single Father's are a sacred thing. Don't start trampling on the hearts of our youth...that's a whole different kind of bad karma.\n\nbest of luck!
400261
That depends on what you're comfortable with. I would never date someone who had a kid myself. Also what kind of woman is she? Some women take advantage of guys and try to get them to support children that aren't even theirs. I'm not saying she's like that, but some of them are, especially if they're feeling overwhelmed. Also keep in mind if you get married and you go through the teen years with them they'll go through the oh so painful "you're not my daddy" phase. Just think carefully about what you're getting into.
151506
i don't see why not? i have dated alot of guys who had kids and i had no problems with the guy (regarding the child), the kid(s) or the baby mamas.there are boundries u dont cross where the child is concerned.i had no bad experiences, u got 2 know the child comes first its his priority.he's going 2 have to get child space and my dear dont forget he's going to have to be in contact with the child's mother.
260874
As a guy that has dated a single mother before - it has never come down to dealing with the ex-husband or the children being an issue. It has been an issue in the communication between the woman and myself. I expect that the kids will take precedence. I expect that she will need to talk to the father of her children and sometimes interact with them on a day to day basis. If you are up front and honest with the prospective boyfriend and communicate with him about the needs of your children and the interaction you have with their father it will help matters. You may find that looking for single dads may help as they are familiar with the needs of communicating with the mother of their children.
365432
I'm in a similar situation with 3 kids (2,5,7).  At first I thought it would be better to be with a never-married single w/o kids; now I feel that it's better to be with a divorced man with or without kids because of the similar understanding and bad experience of divorce as well as the willingness and commitment to NEVER be divorced again, especially if someone has kids, there are too many people's lives our decisions are affecting.  I also need answers...thanks for asking and good luck!
911941
As long as your new husband is not abusing the kids, everything should be fine.  Just give the kids some time to get to know him.\nMom of B & D
223111
I am a mother and wife, and an ex-wife. I "left" my children's' biological father because he was abusive and a closet drug abuser. The "value" of my family was and still is everything to me. Just because I put my children's' lives and best interests in front of my own personal feelings doesn't mean that family has no value to me.....it means that I did what I had to do to make a better life for my family. And my ex. had every opportunity to see his children but thought and still thinks that there are things in life more important....how sad for him. Maybe you should look into your legal options in your state as far as visitation with your child goes....and I wish you well with that because every child deserves to have two parents that love and care for them. As far as the "women" that left you because of petty little things....well maybe you should re-evaluate your decisions on whom you date.
925339
Yes, he SHOULD love you more than he does the kids, but very seldom does that happen. In my case, I definitely loved my kids more than I loved her, and we ended up divorced after 25 years. If I had loved her more than the kids , it might have ended up differently. If I had it to do over however, I think I would still love the kids more......they're MY flesh and blood!
962690
I have a male friend who is now married to someone who has had children from an ex, but who can't give him any. they adopted a child together as he was keen to have a child to love. he has been married for 14 years and does not regret his situation .\n i am not saying that your love will want to adopt, but he has indicated that he is happy to be with you. accept  that you now have the love you deserve . it is really up to him to decide whether he can live without children of his own, he is an adult who can make that decision for himself. \nperhaps you are concerned that in a few years he may regret his decision.But try to not let it make you so paranoid that it makes your relationship suffer. come on ----enjoy the love.
226827
How long have you been married to this man? If these aren't your children than aren't they little old for you to being everything for? I certainly would not let him treat me this way...K
105188
Respect the thought tht he is married, never be involve with a married man they jst wanna try something different, like eating the same old thing everyday is boring, no matter what u will always never be hes no#1 priority he has a wife tht he will always love n of course his kids...why be in this situation when u hve to share someone.karma remember this u dun want it in return the nxt time..
838485
this is a tough situation...I'm in one similar.  I would tell him how you feel...DON'T give him an ultimatum on choosing his kids or you because chances are you will loose.  Maybe you guys can work something out where half the time you spend with his kids and the other half is just you two.  You have to let him know how you feel though otherwise you'll go crazy and be bitter about him not spending any alone time w/you.
1165701
dating someone with kids can be difficult at times, especially if theres baby mama drama.  and you have to know that they will not always be as available as a person with no children. but if its something you think you are able to deal with and you really care about the person, then go for it.
422338
Well, I have never personally met any women who wouldnt appreciate dating a single father. I have had a couple chances, but it never worked out just because we never got past the first day, had nothing to do with his kids. I would prefer to date a single dad because Im ready to settle down and cant have children of my own, but want children. I have found that the reasons of not wanting to date a single dad vary on what point the female is in her life. Now a days, women are more career oriented and not looking to have kids for awhile if at all simply because they believe children create a barrier between their career and success. Younger women, they are enjoying life partying and whatnot, and don't normally want to have to worry about anyone or children to put a stop to their usual party lifestyles. Its all about the woman and what she wants for her life. If you meet a woman who is unsure of what she wants, you cant expect her to accept your kids because she does have a choice and the path she may choose for her future may not include kids. A good conversation piece for a first or second date would be to find out what she wants out of life, where she sees herself in the next few years, etc...you may pick up signals and pieces of information from that conversation that will help you decide if she is heading in a direction where she will have the time and can accept you as well as your children. Single parents are precious and sacred and should be considered a lot more serious than dating a single person. Hope this helps!