i been with my high school sweetheart 11 years if i we  get married do you think things could change?
440270
No. The biggest mistake women make is marrying thinking they can change the guy. If he's not the "being" the guy you love now, he's not going to start after you marry him. 11 years is a lot of time, don't throw good years after bad. Move on.
411892
Tell her, and find out where you stand.  It looks as though she may be ready to move on, sadly for you, as she may not see the outcome of your 'ups and downs' in your relationship in quite the same way as you do.  It might be time just to move on yourself or carry the relationship through into marriage - 6 years is a long enough time to do something about it. The fact she feels comfortable enough to make these arrangements in front of you means that she's about given up hope of going further with you because you've delayed for so long.  I think it's reasonable after so many years to decide whether you want to commit to this girl and ask her to marry you or live with you, or go your separate ways.
1117390
Yes, those words can be true, but you need to set goals and make sure you stick to them as best you can. Love is a wonderful thing - but being married means you need to be able to work well with the person you love. They become your partner for life. I met mine when I was your age, and we married in our twenties, so I know it can work. We were good friends first, and then fell in love, and didn't move in together until we married, but we spent many, many hours working on projects and eventually working together in a store and learned that our personalities really meshed well - which rounded out the love we had for each other. My advice: \nFirst, both of you go to college (either 2 yr. or 4 yr. - depending on what you want to do for a living.) \nSecond, save as much money as you can if your folks are paying your way through college. \nThird, work while you are in college and also when you finish college and THEN start making wedding plans. Life is a lot about "getting your ducks in a row". In other words, make reasonable & wise plans, and act on them in the best possible order. If you throw caution to the wind and skip making life plans together and just get married without either of you having advanced training beyond high school, most likely you will live very poorly and will have lots of fights about money that you don't have to pay the bills. The biggest mistake people make is NOT making plans for the future and just "winging it". BIG, BIG, mistake. Best wishes to you!
885091
It can happen. I married my husband right out of high school. We were married 23 years and started having problems. We divorced...... 2 years later, and we are back together. We just don't work apart. The 2 years that we were apart was hell on both of us. We've now worked through our differences and plan on growing old together. :)
909534
No,,,no it can't...if he doesn't at this point he never will,,,but keep in mind that's the way he was when you fell in love with him, and married him...he has not changed,,,it maybe you.
738522
I have been married for near 7 years but have been with my man for 12 years, we got together at 21 years old.\n\nWe have had our ups and downs but our love for one another has grown stronger than ever. \n\nThe main part of marriage and any relationship really, is communication. Don't bottle things up, sit down and talk it out, that way the 'problem' is out there and both can work together on how to solve it.\n\nIn all the years we have been together, we have never in an argument said anything we would regret later on. We have never called each other a name or anything like that.\n\nWords can hurt and people can remember what has been said through arguments, and bring that up in another argument. \n\nMarriage takes alot of work and it can work if both parties are commited to the marriage and each other.
1031269
I just celebrated my 1st anniversary and the first weeks after the wedding were anticlimactic and I too was unhappy.  The reason:  The wedding and preparations were over.   And I thought "is this it?"  Reality set in with a quickness.\n\nAs time has progressed and problems have occurred, I think back to why I married this man and everything gets better.  Through this year I have threatened to leave he has threatened to leave, we have discussed counseling but we have done none of the above.  \n\nNow we have settled into a routine where we once again love and respect each other and we look forward to the years to come.\n\nYes we lost that spark but there was still an ember and we have fanned it into a blazing flame.\n\nGood luck
185148
It sounds like it could be love to me...\nIn my experience love is always enduring.  There's been girls I've felt incredible about and had a great time with, but it wears off anywhere between 6 weeks and 6 months.  Of course everyone is different, and I don't know how long you've been dating, but if you still feel this way after 10 or 12 months I'd say it's most likely love.  You'll be able to look past all of her weird little issues and accept them and love her anyway, and you won't be able to imagine life without her.\nIf you've been dating her less than 4-5 months, then it's still possible that this feeling could wear-off.  I know I wouldn't feel right planning on marriage before having known her at least 1 year.  A lot can develop/change in the first year, for better or for worse.  Good Luck!
703609
Well cup cake, the sad truth is most people never marry their high school sweetheart.  But there are those rare exceptions.  Good luck.()
81013
I've been married for 7 years.
50151
Very possible.  Staying together over years takes alot of work and alot of other things.  Some of them are trust, faith in the other person and be willing to work through what comes your way rather than take the easy way out.  Now days most marriages end in divorce for many reasons because of a variety of things.  But by far the thing it takes the most is the willingness to work at the relationship.  They are alot like other things that takes alot of matinence to keep it going.  Love is not the only thing that will keep it alive it will take work every day to maintain it and allow it to grow and evolve as the years go by.  While love is very important it isn't the only thing needed.
491816
If you dont think it will, you are wrong, thats not to say that you wont eventually get there.  Its just that once you get married, you now have to support someone else, you have to give them your time, you have to show them that they are #1 in your life.  Finances are the biggest problem for most in this situation.  Most have to work and go to school and there isnt really time to do both and give your spouse they time they need, want, and deserve.
465126
When my husband and I started out on our relationship over 17 years ago we did not have a lot of things. We rented an apartment and several houses along the way, have had several vehicles that turned out to not be very reliable, and even had to stay with my parents a few times. We are still together and stronger then ever.We now have a house of our own { for 3 years now} and a reliable truck to get him back and forth to work.  So do I think that a relationship can last? Yes, definitely. As long as you truly love one another and really want it to work then nothing can stand in your way. I hope that I have answered your question and good luck. By the way, I was only 16 when I got married and we have been married for 17 years and together for 2 years before that. We made it and so can you!
295475
I was in sixth grade, she was in fifth. We met in band class. I played the sax, and so did she. When I was in eight grade, and she in seventh, I asked her to marry me. She say she would when she turned 21. When I graduated from High School, I was shipped to Vietnam (1971). After I got back from my third tour, we got married 2 weeks after her 21st birthday. We've been married for 31 years now. And all because we had Pre-marital Sax in school.
1057601
My marriage is a 10. Saturday will be our 11 year anniversary and we are BOTH happier now than we were on our wedding day! We have always made an effort for eachother in what ever it is were doing. We also talk to each other honesly and openly about anything that may be on our minds. She is my best friend as I am her's! If you can talk to each other and always make an effort for each other, your marriage will always be a 10 !!!\nGood question
622257
It will work if u both want it to. Marriage takes a lot of work and patience. So work hard and keep things spicy and new.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.