Will having a threesome ruin your marriage?
451124
Studies routinely show that it's bad for the marriage.  Usually, the problems have to do with jealousy or one spouse wanting to do it again (more than the other does).  So... if you're not involved, there is the possibility of you feeling left out.  She may want to see more women, which could make you jealous.  You may want to experiment with other things which she says "No" to, which can cause bad feelings because you allowed her this fantasy realization.\n\nIf your relationship is strong, and she's absolutely loyal and in love with you, there should be no problem.  However, if there is any possibility it could get out of hand... you might want to rethink this before you actually do it.  Remember... 3-somes are like Pandora's Box.  Once opened, that box can't be UNopened ever again, and even if you do manage to close the box and clean up the mess, the damage will have already be done.
351361
It's a nice theory but can have bad effects later. Like if your new hubby has been with other women and you never have you could feel inadequate. Then later jealous , then after a while you will want to have an affair to see if your really missing out on anything or so you can compare it to how your hubby pleases you. \nIf you both have waited til marriage the odds are better but still not great. I think it will lead to cheating if you save yourselves. Just my opinion though.
946648
well arent you in an odd situation....personally dont get married....if you are all happy to be a threesome stick with that...you shouldnt have to make a choice.....\nbut honestly i dont know who is sicker...you...or the twins.....
501470
well why get married and then be with someone else? but i mean if your husband doesnt care.. hell invite him in for a threesome.. that might land you on jerry springer one day.. but it'd be fun anyway ;) for you and him... and her!
526581
Although it is possible to love two or more people at the same time, I do not believe that this is the case.  I think that the romance has gone out of your marriage and you find it easier to be romantic with another woman than to rekindle the romance in you marriage.\n\nFor a married man to have a romantic relationship with another woman is folly.  It is thinking with the "little head."  Either divorce your wife to pursue another woman, or go to counseling with your wife to correct your martial problems.  Do one or the other before someone gets hurt.
160452
For me I could not watch my wife with another guy, I could however watch my wife with another woman.  If you watch porn it is a common thing but in rality most people accept the monogamy that is associated with marriage.
463042
Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
614023
we love it, it mean the posibility for a threesome is much better in our minds. other than that it doesn't make much difference and to be honest most guys don't care if you have sex with other girls while your with them we think it's hot and would mostly like to watch or even better join in.
970405
Just mention the excellent probability of threesomes and I'm sure he'll be fine with it. He won't leave you if you're pregnant...
66743
I married a bisexual girl. I knew this going into the marriage, so we altered the vows just a wee bit, but not so much to really raise suspicion. Instead of "... keep yourself only for her ..." we put in " ... remain loyal to her ..." We thought that this better reflected our relationship. While involved with our girlfriend, we obviously do not keep ourselves just for each other, we do still remain loyal to each other.\n\nWhat is important is the emotions involved. You should not be into the promiscuous lifestyle. That is just plain dangerous. My wife and I love our girlfriend. If we could marry her legally, we probably would. I believe she feels the same way about us. \n\nThe emotions involved with a marriage should not be casual, and introducing a casual element could damage the relationship.\n\nThink about what you do before you do it. The concept is not wrong in our opinion, but there are wrong ways of going about it.
613216
Yes and I actually had 5 women at one time too, my girlfriend at the time was OK with it cause it was her friends.  It was nothing that I expected.  Some did things the others wouldn't do.  While two of them were totally all for everything and anything.  Some of my threesomes were disappointing cause once they got going they seemed to be a little shy about it.  But others were all that. Not that I am complaining but when you get into a three some let nothing be barred and enjoy yourself.
1088069
My gf and I enjoy doing this.  Sometimes, when we are having a threeway, it is really hot to share with another guy or woman.
580355
I'm bisexual and I've been in an open relationship with my girlfriend for about two years now.  We haven't had any threesomes or groups, she had another lover for a short period of time and I've had a string of one night stands.  I would love to do threesomes, but she is a very shy person due to some traumatic childhood events, and we just haven't met the right person yet. \n\nMy last relationship was also open, for three years, and we had a LOT of threesomes, in fact, that was our arrangement, we didn't do anything without each other.  That relationship ended mutually because I lived two hours away and the distance was too hard.\n\nI also have some family friends who have been in a plural marriage for about 25-30 years.  The two women are bisexual but the man is not.  The three of them raised two wonderful kids together and very happy.
184610
well my wife and I have had several threesomes with several differant male friends we both enjoyed it and still do and still married for 33yrs
105377
The fact that you're second guessing it means no.\n\nThreesomes are something that need to be well thoughout with serious parameters that both people are ready to adhere to.  \n\nI've met people who did it, and it really helped their sex life.  But I've met even MORE people where it ruined it. Most of those people aren't even together any longer.\n\nThe thing you just have to ask yourself is, are you doing this just for him?  If you are, then, it's a bad idea.  Secondly, ask yourself if your sex life is in trouble.  Most people who successfully have threesomes already have a good sex life.  If you're sex life has problems, then this is not the way to solve it!\n\nHowever, if you're both for it, then it's definitely something to give a big go!  Just make sure you make rules that you both MUST follow.
691781
Hmmm why do people feel the need to add third parties to their marriages when they are having problems? Why not discuss the problem with your spouse and maybe try counseling? And marriage is about a lot more than just sex. If you're ready to just drop your pants and jump in the bed with another man maybe you don't need to be married. Get a divorce, be single and screw all ya want!!
586851
OK...all the answers have a good point....but here is another side of the coin...First off, Did he say you needed to be with the other girl.????\nI have been in a couple of threesomes myself and the ladies where both straight...Now another point....think about maybe having a threesome with him and another man..both guys for your pleasure...See what he says about that....If you go to him with this idea.....Hey you want to have a threesome...OK....you and I and another man....If he is really a player or a swinger he will say OK..or he will forget about the whole thing.\n\nNow on the issue of needing sex....I am 41 years old...I grave sex all the time..I can never get enough sex...Is it a medical problem......HELL NO....It is a guy problem.Tell me of any guy that does not think of sex all the time..I will show you a gay man...\n\nThe issue of not being able to leave him bothers me...Why you say.????\nWe all have the right as being american to choose our paths in life...If his path is not going in the direction of your path..then hun it is time to cut bait...\nI am not sure of your age or your lifestyle.....I just wish more people would think of themselfs in times like this and make a move to better them selfs.it is not like it would involve anything other then your future.....Think about it....\nIf you would like to chat about the swing lifestyle feel free to e-mail me at tanear1964@yahoo.com..I have been a swinger for 18 years....I may be able to give you a little more insite into the world....I hope this helps....