Why doesn't my husband want to make to love me?
454810
Because he is more interested in porn! SOunds like he has an addiction...which is not your fault. He needs help for his addiction. You need to drag him kicking and screaming into counseling if you want to help him. GOODLUCK
497250
You need to sit him down and have a talk w/ him find out if he doesn't feel there's enough romance there to have sex. Some men have to have romance just like some women do to have sex. You could ask him about going to see a sex therapist.  Sometimes men just lose their sex drive slightly b/c they already have you and sex just isn't as important b/c when your married other things take the place of sex for some. I wish you all the best of luck. If this doesn't work talk to him about seeing a doctor about whether he's experiening problems w/ his sex drive. If not see about a sex therapist. Good Luck!
966284
He is 100% wrong.  He needs to force himself, if that's what it takes, to do what he can to make you happy.  Isn't that why we get married, to be happy and to make it part of our lives to make our spouse happy?  Don't accept it, you and every other human out there deserves more.  We all need to demand more!  MORE LOVE!!!  The more we give the more we should get.
1152644
Iam not married to one, but my hubby likes to do the same crap.\nIt's him not having his way, doing his fits is so childish like. Tell him how it makes you feel, get some therpy for it. \nI use to stand there, while he has his fit and stuff. Then when he had one, I had one right along with him. Two can play at that game. Tell him, you want to be married to the man you fell in love with. \nNot raising a child.
212216
Definitely not, talk to your spouse and let them know how you feel. tell them what you want and need to be satisfied. If they love you they will try to make things better. At worst, go to a counselor and try to improve things by going that route.\nGood luck.
203932
You can love as many people as you know out there. Remember, love is a DESICION. The love that you promised to your husband should be UNIQUE, because the decision that you made to him is for just one person at a time.\n\nAny other type of love should be welcome.
231228
The question is why did you cheat?  Something has got to be missing from your marriage to make you cheat.  Yes you can still love him.  And I think you might feel a little guilt because you asked this question.  You need to fix what's wrong in your marriage.  Is is something he has done or something he is not doing?  If so, maybe you should tell him you cheated and why you did it and see if you two can fix what's wrong.  Or is it something you have to settle with yourself?  If it's nothing he has done (or not done) then don't tell him, and settle with yourself.  Good luck sweetie!
1025223
I think you already know.  You are not happy in this marriage, your husband doesn't care about your feelings at all.   You don't see any way to get him to change and you don't want to live this way.  I don't like to recommend divorce but if all you say is true than I think that would be the best thing if you want a happy future for yourself.
723161
No, it doesn't mean you don't really love him. Some of the things my husband does embarasses me. If I think he could be a 'better' person, then I suggest to him about changing. Sometimes I just live with it. :-)
147720
This is your second posting of this question.\n\nI can only conclude that your "Gut" feeling is no he does not love you, and you want us to support you.\n\nI have faith in you and your judgement...I support you.  If you feel that you're being damaged by your husbands attitude toward your weight, then you are.  The question now becomes, what can you do to change this???  Again I have faith that you can make a positive change in your marriage to make you happier and to make your husband happier...It may take a while for you to find this solution, but I have faith you can do it.\n\nPeace.
228668
i have a hard time encouraging my husband to do anything but you can't really make him go, he has to go on his own.  just keep on going yourself, and set a good example
121815
Sex is important to a marriage of course, but communication, trust, respect and friendship are VERY important. There is something going on with your husband and just reading your question, he seems to be distant and it does not sound like it's just about the sex for him. Try and give him some time of pampering him...massage him without touching him sexually, just make it relaxing. If he likes a favorite food & TV show set that up for him too. Don't bring up any conversation during this "his" time. Just let him know that you love him and you are there for him if he ever needs to talk about anything and say nothing else. If you make him feel safe and that you are his best friend, that is the beginning of intimacy and then on a different day, ask him if you can talk and be honest with him that you miss your physical relationship with him and ask him if there is anything that the two of you can work on together to try and bring intimacy back into your bedroom. When you share with him how you feel, don't be accusatory but just say "I feel" and also truly listen to how he feels. Good luck. Marriage is always something we have to work on.
816869
Hi, has he always been like this or is it just the spell you've been arguing.\nMarriage is hard work and needs constant nuturing from both sides to feel loved by the other side.\nSome people (men and women) have difficulty in expressing themselves, is this your husband?\nIf so, maybe you accepting this as him and noticing the other ways he does express love will help, but there is nothing like a hug and hearing how we are loved so do understand where you are coming from.\nA husband and wife will either knit together over the years or move in opposite directions (like my ex and I) but for it to work you must be moving in the same direction. \nTalking to him and continuing to express yourself, your love is all you can do really, and hope he hears you before you change, because you will in time.\nMaking time for those special moments will also help, there is always another little trick we can pull out the hat to surprise him, reveal another mystery about yourself-try it-remind him of why he got with you. ;)\nJust keep trying until he either wakes up or loses out with the woman he fell for and married, I wish you both luck xxx
41229
Read your first 2 sentences.  Your husband wants you to open up to him more.  Then he does things that make you angry.  \n \nHe is doing these things to elicit a response from you that reaffirms your love for him.  It's like a cat & mouse game for him.  He's doing what he wants to do, while you wait & worry for him.\n\nTurn the tables...go out with your girlfriends; don't call him back; tell him you'll be at one club, but go to another in case he tries to find you.\n\nThen later, when he's pissing & moaning about how you mistreated him, tell him "Now you know how I feel when you do this to me".  Sometimes guys need this to open their eyes.
277007
Go to a local marriage counselor.  Do it before the marriage is really in trouble.  Or there may be psychological problems that can not be fixed.  It is great you know he loves you.  Good luck
1093265
I'm so sorry to tell you this, but you can't make someone do something they don't want to.\n\nIf he wants to express his feelings with you, he will, maybe he needs more time.  But let me tell you, when he does open himself to you, it'll be worth the wait!!!!!\n\nIf he never opens up to you, you will never feel secure.  It's like a vault. You'll never know what's in it.\n\nI know you NEED to hear it for yourself.  I have the same problem with my husband.  But if he wasn't happy or didn't want to be with me, we wouldn't be together.\n\nSo don't let this ruin what could be the greatest thing that has ever happened to you.  Enjoy the moment and stop worrying about what he doesn't say, and listen to what he does, he maybe telling you what you've been wanting to hear, but not exactly how you've been wanting to hear it.\n\nGood Luck!!!!
907266
you cant really "make him think of you as a wife" he must feel it in his heart. you could try talking to him giving him ideas about what kind of a wife u'd like to be and how much ur gonna work on being a mother or being a great wife...just talk to him about it thats what u could do, other than that, the rest is really up to him.\n\nGood luck :) hope this helped. God bless you