what do i say to my boyfriend who says i dont talk alot and that it not good.?
442960
Sometime we just don't have anything to say.  But when we do it's normally pretty good. I'm not a real big talker and this is what I do. Why don't you just work off of what he saying what ever the topic is, work form it.\nThat's what I do, it could be about cars, work, friends, hobbies, family, vacations, kids etc. and always try to stay positive. Even if your not interested in the discussion, if you show that your taking an interest you might even be surprised and actully find that you became intrigged.  Give it a shot, it can't hurt.
348352
He has low self-esteem.  Don't stand for it or it will get worse.  Simply tell him, "Don't talk to me like that.  When y7ou talk to me in demeaning terms it makes we want to be away from you not near you.  You may talk to your friends like that but don't talk to me like that ever again."\n\nIf he does, leave for a night or two and give him the message that you are not his doormat and you have too much self respect than to be treated like one of the guys.
606254
The key to any relationship is communication.  If you can't talk about how you feel then things are not going to get any better.  Be strong, find a moment during your conversation to just say I love you and I am tired of fighting lets figure out a way to get back on track.  Or something like that, you need to talk about it or it will just get worse.
649562
Sat him down and tell him that you need to talk to him about something.Also tell him that what you  are looking for in a relationship.If he cares for you he will respect you for it,if he is offended by it than it was never meant to be .
916114
Tell him you will text him new messages when he starts talking and listening to what you have to say and want to talk about.  I would have told him to shut up long ago.  If he is selfish enough not to even listen to you in that way I wouldn't listen to him either until he does.  He obviously doesn't have the same respect for you that you give him and if I were you I would demand it.  GL
284212
Let him do some talking! If he aint talking about nothing move on cuz you don't want nobody boring and lame in your life and that'll also be another way to make sure he likes you just as much. I know that now a days, women are being more aggressive with men but you've done your part now let him do his and if he don't, let it go and move on because there are plenty of fish in the sea and when you do, I bet he'll wanna holla at you then!
293630
Talk to him about it. Maybe he's distant because your being mean and he doesn't know why.\nThe key to a good relationship is communication.
1071827
some guys take it as an insult to them and get defensive (acting mad) instead of seeing the problem and remedying it (making suggestions).  i would just try to talk to him and tell him you want to talk about it to help your relationship not hurt it.  At least you're honest and towards the first step of making it better for the both of you.
388104
well, sorry to tell you this but it's all depends on your partner..but here's what yOu can do. First of all never starts anything with lies. no matter how hard it seems, no matter how bad they'll hate you after, dont lie. say anything you want to say, say everything you have to say, and never try to make things better with saying, "it's not you, it's just me..." and other self-blame-cliche-excuses...and let them know that you still want to have a good relationship with them cuz no matter what they still a part of you right? but then again, you have to respect their decision if they refuse you at first cuz it's really tough to accept the fact that you cannot be with someone that you really care...am i making a point? dont think bout it too much..time heals..
814860
My boyfriend also has a difficult time talking.  We've been together for almost 2 years and while we are not a long-distance couple yet (he's joining the military) right now he's in university so I only see him once a week or sometimes even once every 2 weeks.  We try to talk on the phone, but our conversations are boring.  I don't want to talk about what groceries he bought from the store that night.  So I try to schedule times when we are to discuss important issues.  In the past I have e-mailed him my concerns that I feel we need to talk about.  That way he has an idea what it is that I need to talk with him about and he has a chance to think about what he wants to say.  Sometimes I think guys need time to come up with answers (they're not as quick on the ball as women are).  But so far, we haven't been able to discuss anything important over the phone.  We wait until we are face to face.  This is a huge concern for me since all long distance relationships require communication.  If you can't talk openly and have meaningful conversations with one another, a long distance relationship will NOT last.  Good luck.
831657
Just because he doesn't talk a great deal when you two are together doesn't mean anything. I talk to my girlfriend on the phone for a little while each day, but when we are together I can't ever think of anything to talk with her about, but that doesn't mean I care for her any less than before we started dating and we talked constantly. For guys, after a while we know what you like, what you would like, and all that so we don't feel like there is any reason to just go on talking about nothing. However, that doesn't mean your company is unwelcome. A lot of guys just like the company of the girl they care about. Don't take it too personally.
131114
confront him about it.ask him if he says thing about you in general to his friends.remind him that you won't be mad at him if he says yes. tell him that you might by a little mad but you could never possibly stay mad at him for long and that you promise not  to hold a grudge, and thatyou are willing to forgive him if his mouth has been running about you. if he says yes. ask him what he says. if he says no then check with a friend of his THAT YOU KNOW THAT YOU CAN TRUST TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH! if he talks about you to them or anyone else. :D\n\nhope i helped.
317690
I would love it if my hubby said such sweet endearments to me. But, I must admit to much of a good thing turns into a bad thing. \nJust tell him that he says them so often that you seem like their a programmed response rather than an enjoyment for him to say. Maybe that will help, and he'll tone them down a bit. \nBest of luck to you!
411647
Well, have you tried involving gun fire? Seriously though a communication gap can put a serious damper on your relationship. Find out why he isn't open with you. Most likely he fears that you will be either disappointed or disinterested so he tries to keep it away from you. Good luck with your problem.
525754
Tell him you do not want to talk about it you just want him to listen... i tried it . worked for me
489512
ask him to whisper to your boyfriend what he said then you don't have to tell your boyfriend yourself
668353
sit down and talk it out... explain to him the pros and cons of the issue and see whats good for both of you...