What do i do, i am in love with a 28 tear old man and i am only 16 ?
438783
I know where you are coming from. When I was 8years old I met this guy that is now a family friend. He use to live with my dad and step mom. When I was 15years old, he was 29. I have feelings for him too. But I lost my virginity to him and yes I do regret it. But I am still in your boat because I met this guy and he is 28 but I am 17 and he has 4 kids n his girlfriend broke up with him. I love him to death no questions asked. But not to long ago I found out he use to work with my mom and step dad. And my step dad was his boss. So its kind of weird talking to him now. But all I have to say since I was in your shoes before. Tell him how you feel and go from there. I still havent done that with this guy get because of him knowning my family. Just kind of freaky. But tell him your true feelings. And if he feels the same then go from there. But dont tell anybody about it because he can get arrested. But if you want more help just email me at  Always_Follow_Your_Heart_128@yahoo.com\n\nHope I helped a little bit. \nGood luck!
931349
If you are truly in love, age doesn't matter. Love is too precious to be limited by rules of behaviour. Enjoy yourself.
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
596772
I think that you can be in love at 16. I think it's just a feeling inside and you just know that your in love and a lot of times there is nothing that you can do about it.
853401
I'm 20 and my fiance is 21.. weird... same ages.. we've been together for 3 years and engaged 1.. we will have been engaged for 2 and together 4 when we get married next September. I don't think age is an issue.. you have to do whats right for you when you're ready, you can't put a time frame on love  :) if you and your boyfriend want to be engaged 20 years and have a 10 year honeymoon, by all means.. do it ... do whatever makes you happy.. life is too short to worry about what other people think =)  good luck
451810
Age isn't a barrier to love.  I would guess that a lot of the 'eeew' comments are  made by those who are in your age group.  I'm older than your boyfriend, and I can tell you that however old he is physically, he probably doesn't feel that old mentally.  I still feel about 34 but I'm in my fifties! (And I don't look that old, either!)\n\nHowever, you must be practical.  When you are 42 he will be 63.  When you are 63 he will be 84, and he may well be very elderly at that stage while you still have the energy to go dancing.  If the thought of caring for him at that stage doesn't put you off, then keep going, and disregard the funny looks and comments!
164085
wow, 28 and 63, what an age difference.  What country are you in, i don't think i can advise you on anything being that you are in an entirely different culture and i don't know anything about it.  If you were in America, I would say that he is too old for you, you seem to be in love with him though, i think the only thing you can do is wait and see.  Does he ever come see you?  If not, that is not dating, it is cyberdating, which is not the same thing, if you don't see each other often, unless he is taking care of you and is extremely rivch, iwould find a new man.
321736
How do you know he is 25?  That is just a little old for you don't you think?  How can you be in love with someone when you have never met him?  You know he could be a 50 year old fat pervert.  Don't ever trust someones identity on the Internet!  I wish I had your phone number so I could call your parents.  Do you have any idea how many young girl's are raped and murdered by men they have met on the Internet and then meet in person?  I'm sorry, but I fear for your safety and I hope you never try to meet this person or tell him where you live.
845381
You say it is someone you think you are going to have sex with and not someone that you love. Relationships with age differences can work, but they are more difficult to make work and require a loving relationship. Since you didn't mention love, I don't think he is too old, I think you are too young.
569888
i was in that same situation he was the world to me but you have to be able to decide if you love him or if you with him just because hes older and can make you experiance  thing that you havent felt befor and the more people tell you you shouldnt be with him the more that you want to be with him for the thril its more exciting doing something you know your not supposed to be doing. take care of your self and respect youself and your parents and talk to them to see if you can come up with an agreement best of luck to you .
523702
its real clear..this guy isnt interested in you for love,he's jus a good friend.besides your jus 16!your a precocious kid and too young to be courting ideas of love and passion.this guy realizes that the distance may be a factor in your "love".its obvious he jus wants to be friends and nothing else.keep his friendship,dump the love bull#@!$ for now,concentrate on your studies,all luck kid!
112938
If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
1152136
wait until you are 18....if he really loves you he will wait...
764544
well dear , i think you are still too young , he is already 13 years older than you even though the age doesn't matter SOMETIMES, but you both can not be like each other much , because he is nearly grown man and your so young . And its very soon for you to start relationship with a man , am sure when you get older ; your ideals will be changed , and may be you will regret for choosing him and may be not as well. As you know relationship in young ppl would be ended very soon, because its not strong love , and no enough reason , most of them are sensitive decisions. And  i think its better you fall in love slowly but sensibly \n, if you do that your Love will grow by age and your relationship would not be finished so quickly and nothing can disturb this.\n\nGood Luck darling
1166685
If you do he is a lucky man.  Age isn't a huge factor in every relationship.  The question is really is this the right guy and the right relationship for you?  A age difference like this will always present some problems but nothing that you can't deal with or predict if your honest with yourselves.  Think it through and don't worry about what others think, do what is right for you.
484203
im sorry. i thought i was in love with my bf too. he was 21 and i am 16. he always forced me to do things with him and to him i didnt want to do. if it wasnt for him i would still be a virgin. i never was willing to do anything he wanted me too. he was alot bigger than me too. and he abused me, verbally, physically,and sexually.untill he got me pregnant and forced me to have an abortion(somethin i regret so so much and never would have done willingly)after that i finally got up the courage to dump him and i found a guy my age. i know this isnt what u want to hear(trust me, i know, i heard the same things)but i dont think u should stay with him( i realize u might not want to take advice from someone that is younger than u by like a year)if he forces u to do anything sexually then he doesnt really love u or care for u. ur just a sex toy for him to manipulate. im sorry this is happening to u, it is somthing i wouldnot wish on anyone, u should know what i mean by that, its a horrible and emotional wrecking thing to go through, im still not over it nor will i ever be the same again. i have to go to counseling every day of my life for probably the rest of my life, i will probably be taking a high dosage of anti-depressants for the rest of my life because i let him take me too far before i was brave enough to stand up to him and get rid of him. my question for u is how long are u gonna wait, how much are u gonna put up with untill u break it off b4 u have life altering events like i did. i promise u that ur life will never be the same after  u put up with to much, it sounds to me like u have already put up with to much. please dont stay with this guy. do u know that him forcing u to have sex with him wether it be oral or casual, it is rape. i wish u the best and i will be praying for u. please contact me at purplollipop1606@yahoo.com and let me know what u decide. im very worried for u and id just like to know if u end up okay.
103410
Once again, I know you're not going to want to hear this...but I say NO.  There is a reason your parents don't love him - he's too old for you.  Age does not become as much of a factor when you're older (read:  above 18), but right now, it's just plain illegal.  Some states have an age of consent (usually 16 or 17) but if your parents want to, they can press charges against him if it goes beyond anything friendly.  \n\nNow, I also know this won't get me a best answer, but that matters not and I will tell you anyway - I've been in a similar situation.  I was 14 and very much "in love" (I doubt that you really do love him, after all, how long have you known this older, very nice, very HOT! guy?) with a 19 year old.  When my father found out about him, he pressed charges to the full extent of the law.  To make a long story short, my sailor boyfriend (he was in the Navy) ended up paying a huge fine, got Dishonorably discharged and did some jail time.  I don't know if he had to register on a sex offender list as this was 11 years ago.  That makes me 25 (almost 26) now.\n\nI have to ask you, what on earth would a 22 (almost 23) year old want with a 16 year old?  You say he's very nice - I hate to tell you, but it's probably an act.  The only reason an older guy would be interested in a teenager (yes, you still are a teen, even if you are blossoming into a woman...you're still a minor) would be to get into her pants.  The other reason is that you might still be a virgin (I hope so - don't go rushing into that) and well, a lot of guys like that.  I doubt there's a lot that you have in common, due to the age gap.  \n\nIf he really does care for you, he will wait until you're 18.  You won't even be able to drink until he's 27 or 28!  Is he gonna want to wait that long before you can enjoy a night on the town?  Believe it or not, I know a guy who was arrested for having a drink at home with his wife, who was at the time 20...she was still underage.  \n\nHow did you meet this guy?  It is kind of bizarre for there to be such an age difference...is he a family friend?  A friend's older brother?  Please don't tell me you have met him online.  Teens and twentysomethings travel in different social circles.  There might be another reason your parents don't like him (aside from the obvious) that you don't know about.  How do you know he's never been in serious trouble?  Have you done a background check on this guy?  He might have spent a night in jail for whatever reason, have outstanding debts etc that he is hiding from you.  \n\nYou shouldn't go behind your parents' backs - you will lose their respect and obviously you have no respect for them either.  Perhaps have him come over and have a discussion between the 6 of you (make his parents come also) over dinner.  Perhaps you two can stay in contact (as FRIENDS only) for a couple of years, then explore a relationship.  Keep in mind then, he's gonna be almost 25...What do HIS parents think about it?  Granted, he's an adult (whereas you are not, even though you might think you are) and his parents really don't have a say in what he does, but it would be good to get their opinion also.  They'll probably say the same thing everyone else is.  \n\nAlso, if your parents decide that you can date him by going with what STRANGERS online decide, then they have some serious thinking to do about their choices.  No matter who says yes (age is just a number I've seen posted a few times here), it is still ILLEGAL and I can't believe they would actually consider it.\n\nI'm sorry that I wasn't a help to you, but you should know how it really is.  Any adult (especially judges) will look at this and say it's a classic example of "guy wanting to get into a young girl's pants" and then lock him away.  Wait the 2 years.  Hell, you might even hate him when you start to