How do i help my friend who always keeps me bugging coz she wanna get thiner?
453278
Well you can't be there every time she eats something, but you can help her with exercise, go for a walk, or ride or do some aerobics or something.\nJoin a sport together.\nMaybe she just needs someone to exercise with.\nIt can't hurt you either!
1184692
Sounds like she is uncouth. why lower yourself to her level?\n\nor if you just have to tell her:\n\n"I may be just a little overweight, but I can diet and lose weight, but you will still be rude!"
277173
Ignore her. She will self-destruct sooner or later.  The more that she sees that you are bothered or vexed, the more she will continue to do it.  She's trying to get your attention and if she finally realizes that it's not working, she will stop.
387711
I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
1052668
That is hard to answer. She already knows she is overweight, and is probably unhappy about it. Sometimes, it's hard to get motivated. If you are fit, offer to work with her. If you just tell her she's fat, you'll hurt her feelings and maybe hurt your relationship. Be cautious and be NICE. Don't tell her to 'stop shoving food down her throat'...she only eat more in response.
860551
Ok..you need to talk to them. Ask them why they have such a problem w/ you. Tell them that youre not talking to the devil & thats crazy anyways. Tell them that you have asthama & would never encourage your friend to do something that would hurt them in the long run. Tell them that youre actually trying to make her stop. Theres nothing you can do if they dont listen then. Even have your friend be there to help discuss so she can back you up on it. Good luck hun.
107228
Ok so lets be realistic here NOONE is perfect and most people find it very difficult to admit when they are wrong. I had a friend tell me something once that I wont easily forget, he said "everyone has a weakness and you can use that for your benefit". After that I saw things differently. Not that Im taking advantage of them but knowing they are human too and being able to look for and find it helped my esteem cause suddenly we were all on the same playing field. now I dont need that to know im a good person and i dont take others as personally anymore either.\n\nThe best part was poking a little fun at my "perfectly skinny friend" who always had a better than me attitude about weight (not that im fat) But i realized she is quite flat chested and it does bother her a bit and that cut her down to size. we are better friends now than ever.\n\nI just thought of something else. If some one says something that bothers you sometimes it helps to repeat it back to them in thier own words. "so your saying....." this creates a little 'yes' in thier mind and builds rapport between you. It also lets him hear himself and think about what he has said.
666959
I think your friend has self esteem issues. She's probably just looking for attention, so try talking to her and trying to get to the root of the problem of why she feels like she's helpless or 'pathetic'. If you take an interest in her it's better than one sharp line to make her feel better once. You can't always keep milking that catch phrase if you will, to make her feel better every time, after a while it will go stale and you'll need something else.
220788
You should find a gentle way to talk to her. Let her know that her attitude affects everyone around her and that she needs to get help. Maybe she does not realize she has a problem, being angry all the time is not normal. Maybe someone to break the ice is all it would take, she might get angry, but if she is angry all the time anyway it won't really matter. At least she would have to face the fact that it is hard to be around someone who is always in that state. There could be deeper issues than just anger, that is why I say she should seek help. Maybe it is not anger, could be a form of depression. If you are her friend, and this concerns you, help her.
633547
Make some calls to find a nearby facility where she can get help.  As much as you love your friend, she needs PROFESSIONAL help. She probably has to be checked into some kind of hospital where they can help her gain weight and teach her how to eat properly.  Eating disorders are about control, not about food.  She needs therapy.  You can help her find that therapy and be there for her when she comes home.  Stay her friend no matter what, even if she gets mad at you. Someday she will thank you for your support.
697891
Well the best way to deal with her is by just being her friend. If you are truly friends then don't let it bother you so much.\nShe is trying to "copy" you because she thinks you are better, prettier etc.. Take it as a complement.\nHelp her build confidence in her self and self esteem. Be an encourager, lift her up. When she does something nice... tell her. When she where's something that looks good.. complement her
198841
if you've already been honest and open with her and expressed your worries which perhaps she hasnt listened to, maybe suggest you can go on a diet together?..so your with her every step of the way. and let her know that if she's not happy you are there to help. make sure she doesnt go below her ideal weight- you could suggest she could set a target weight to meet and once she's there to relax on the dieting and treat herself more often. if she is worried about losing weight remind her it is unhealthy and will make her feel worse about herself if she has no energy from lack of nutrients etc. it is more important to maintain a healthy diet and to excercise to keep the weight off rather than starving yourself...this can lead to problems later on in life, such as concieving and growth.
370473
You need to get out there and grow , But maybe your friend is afraid of change or just want things to stay the same. Things have to change in order to get ahead, But who says she can't still be your friend? Don't let anyone hold you down because of their own insecurities!
1076132
I guess I would first ask you if she wants to be helped. I don't think you'll be able to do anything for her until she has reached to point of wanting to change. Once she is there you have lots of options.\n\nFirst and foremost - she needs to see a dietician. Even something as simple as Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers. A self-regulated diet won't work. She needs a friend and a counselor to help her along the way (kind of like a sponsor at AA).\n\nThere are many other things to do, but getting professional help is the best thing for her...\n\nGOOD LUCK!
688763
aww that's a bit harsh.Just look spaced out alot eventually that person will get annoyed by your lack of attention then the'll leave or stop talking.It works when my friend who was talking non-stop to me I just nodded and went 'um..hummmm'.. I answer her yes or no questions by nodding my head and when she was like what's gonna happen I shrugged she stop talking for the whole day.That gives the person the message to buzz of for awhile.Or just interupt her while she's talking to you and say 'erm..gotta go to the washroom' or 'be right back'.That usually gives the person the message
996699
Just boost up her confidence.. Tell her she is beautiful and that she doesn't need to do what she does.. Also explain to her that you are worried about her health.. Doing things like that can make you really sick.. I know a girl that's bulimic, she's been for 2 years and now  her hair is falling out.. Explain to her she will look worse in the long run by doing whats she's doing.. Maybe mention to her that she should seek counseling.. Or tell her parents, that's what I had to do...
1156923
Your friend is dangerously underweight.\n\nThis could be because of some chronic illness or cancer but most likely ANOREXIA NERVOSA.\n\nAnorexia Nervosa is when you are extremely underweight\nI would be worried if my body mass index (BMI) is below 18.5.\nFor her height, her Body Mass Index should be between 61kg and 76 kg. She needs to find 11 kg from somewhere quickly. \nYou can check that here. Click on the 'body mass index' link.\nhttp://www.besttreatments.co.uk/btuk/conditions/13350.html\n\nAnorexia Nervosa is caused by a fear to eat or fear of gaining weight so it is more a mental than a physical thing. It is very difficult to treat but the earlier you start the better.She needs medical help and this may include psychologists, psychiatrists and dietitians/nutritionists.\nhttp://familydoctor.org/063.xml\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anorexia_nervosa\n\nYour friend needs a lot of support and help. Please stay with her if she continues to trust you and encourage her. This is a difficult battle to fight but she can get through it. Many others have. Her condition is bordering on being life threatening.\nhttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10219756/site/newsweek/\n\nThere are many more links on the pages above. Please make sure your friend gets help very very soon. Don't leave her to die.