my best friend that is a girl wants me to ask out my best friend that is a guy and my ex what should i do?
443620
She counts on you to tell him that she likes him... are you afraid if they go out that they'll break up and your caught in the middle?? (if you are add detail) and then they'll want you to pick sides? But if your friends are ok about the WORST term to here ,if your a girl or guy, "JUST FRIENDS" then I think you have great friends! Q-- are you and ur EX still friends!!??????
325218
Maybe its your girldfirend that just wants your money.  But I would hate to think my best friend would stab me in the back and date a guy i cared about.  Does this tell you anything about the girl you are thinking of asking out? If that is the way she treats her best friend is she really gonna be that good to you?  Either way if you current girlfriend is that bad to you - you need to let her go and tell her why.  If things happen between you and the other girl after that -  then all is fair.  Good luck to you
138666
It sounds like everything has already worked itself out. Your ex is dating your best friend, and you are dating one of her best friends. \n\nIs there someone out of the 4 of you that isn't happy with the arrangement?
2452
In my opinion you have to look at a few different things. Are you a nice person or not. If not then you have no rules. If you are a nice person then read on. \n1. Are you and you your ex still friends? if you are you might want to ask  if they would mind. otherwise you might upset them and lose a friendship.\n\n2. make sure the bestfriend wouldn't have a problem with it(obviously).\n\n3. Make sure you don't have any feelings left for your ex. Cause if you do it could cause problems.\n\n4.Usually the best thing to do is just not go out with the bestfriend. in all cases I've seen it usually ends in 3 lost friendships. Hope I helped a little.
1023767
talk to your best friend about whether or not she would be comfortable with you dating either of them! on one hand, she probably still has feelings for her ex, no matter WHAT she says...on the other, she may feel like you are giving her younger brother more attention than her, and that may cause a rift in your relationship...my true advice, date someone that has no ties to your best friend, or you may risk losing her friendship forever. boys will forever come and go, crushes lose their potency...but a true friend is something to be valued more than a boy toy.
529969
ask urself the following questions..?\n\n1. Do u still have the soft corner for ur ex...\n\n2. Do u have any problem if ur friend datesur ex with her permission.. ?\n\n3. Do u think that girl will be right for ur friend..?\n\n4. Why are u giving your friend a feeling of guilt when he dates a girl who is ur EX..\n\n5. Who are u to poke ur nose in ur friends affairs.& poison their relationship\n\nask urself these questions and u will get the answers...
558767
Talk with your best friend. Perhaps, neither of you should date him. Never let a guy come between your friendship. Maybe one will give way, perhaps you both give him first dates and let him choose, but make sure the other one of you won't be jealous.
628687
If I found out they were dating behind my back, I would dump BOTH of them, not 1. Just to make the process more efficient! :)\n\nCheer up, sh..t happens, you know.\n\nGet a new best friend, and a get a new boyfriend, too.\nHarsh to say, but this may be the only clean way out of this mess. \n\nDon't torture yourself... but defend yourself, as much as you can. Don't let your self-esteem go down beause of the two pigeons.
345852
First of all a guy is not worth a friendship!!!\n\nYou should not be in their relationship either that is just going to cause problems, especially since you are friends with both of them.\n\nAlso if you date him she will be mad at you and then if you and him break up he will be mad at you to and then you will not have a best friend. And I honestly dont think you want to risk both of their friend ships just because of the crush you have on him!
1172135
Do you have a crush on this best guy friend that's kind of like your brother, even in the slightest? If not then I suggest you relax about it a little. You might want to let them know if they start going out that you love them both, and wish them the best but the second they start having issues you don't want to get involved. Maybe you should also go in to a little more depth with this with your best friend too so she understands. I understand your discomfort with this because when people break up they both seem like jerks and you probably won't want to hear it.
465419
ALRIGHT HERE WE GO.IF YOU REALLY LIK ETHIS GUY AND THIS GUY REALLY LIKES YOU AND THE TWO OF YOU ARE SURE ABOUT EACHOTHER THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? GO FOR IT AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT HIS EX. SHE IS AN EX FOR A REASON.MAYBE THAT IS WHY HE HAS TURNED INTO YOUR DIRECTION BECAUSE YOU ARE THE REASON THAT SHE COULDN'T BE.ALSO THE EX S JUST OVERLY JEALOUS BECAUSE HE MAY NOT WANT HER BACK AND HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU BUT SHE CAN'T HANDLE THE THOUGHTS OF SEEING THE TWO OF YOU TOGETHER FROM TIME TO TIME.I WOULD SAY SCREW THE EX AND DO WHATEVER YOU FEEL IS RIGHT ASLONG AS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE AT THE SAME TIME.GOOD LUCK GIRL!!!!
553707
Girl...If you and your best friend are like "paper and glue" close, I think you should think it over. Think "Would she/he do that to me?" Make sure you know whats good for you. A Girlfriend/Boyfriend come and go, best friends are for LIFE! (If you have the right one)
1072575
umm stay with ur man u guys just gota do somethign diff to spice things up... from my experience dont go after ur BFF's ex..my ex and i broke up and she went out with my best friend... they ended up breakin up and she tried to get back with me... now i dont like either of them.!! its just not right and could cause a bunch of problems like not ever talking to ur bff anymore and u said he is your friend then if u guys break up u might not be friends anymore.... so stick with ur man!!!
1006611
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
519581
yes, i think you should make the first move. why let something get away when he was your first. if you don't then why be mad your the one standing back letting her do this. best friends are few and far between and if she'll do this to you then what else will she do. so tell yourself the truth she is not your bestfriend.friends stand beside each other not behind each other.
228656
Oh wow, tough situation. It would help a little with these type of questions if people told how old they are. If you all are adutls though, just let her know how you feel. Also your best friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend if you even think he might say yes. But then again, maybe he doesn't know how you really feel about her? You should tell him. Real friends wouldn't do things to hurt others. Also, maybe you acted all cool or whatever when you broke up so she thinks you won't care? Honesty and straight-forward communication is always the best policy in every relationship. If she doesn't love you back that's rough but at least you can try to move on. It's a fact of life that at some point we will probably like someone who doesn't like us back and vice versa. It's not pleasant but it's also a good reminder to treat others how you want to be treated...karma can come back and bite you in the butt!
651179
If your best friend is really a true friend, she'll be happy for you. There shouldn't be any problem between the two of you. She's probably happy that at least one of you two got him. If you like the guy, then maybe you should accept.