why does he like porno better than me?
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First, you must believe that it is not about "you".  It is about him.  His pornography and masturbation have led him to compulsion and addictive behavior.  Pornography can destroy a person's ability to "make love". Some men try to tell their wives that the pornography is "priming" for a conclusion with them, but it is the priming that draws them back again and again, not the conclusion.  Some men say "all guys do it".  No they do not.  Especially when it gets to the point of addiction, and it is effecting the "real" relationship. I have always thought that if you have to hide what you are doing, then you must think it is wrong, or you feel guilty about doing it.  I think you have to treat it like any addiction, and get professional help.  First, the person has to admit there is a problem, and be willing to accept outside help.  Stop blaming yourself, and thinking you are not attractive and don't satisfy him.  It is not about you, it is about his "addiction".
867298
Because he's a predator and he's trying to have cybersex or worse with you.  Find another chat room.  Don't feed this guys sick fantasies.
638192
Well, mens basic nature is sex.  We like to look, we like to look at women and we are always wondering if they are going to do something new that we don't know or something that we would like to do.  It's the thrill of everyone throwing their inhibitions to the wind.  Porn stimulates and arouses some men to hear a woman being pleased and watching her being pleased.  We are always hoping that the women that we have would be more freer and willing to do these things.  Men are very visual where women are not.  From what I have been told by women is that many enjoy porn as much as the man.
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My view of it: lying is not OK. Looking at porno - it is up to a couple, whatever they agree upon - is the rule they set for themselves. Apparently, you guys agreed (or was it just you?) that he won't be looking at it. Now he is looking at it and lying about it. He apparently doesn't know how to TALK and re-negotiate the arrangement that doesn't work for him or the promise he cannot keep. \n\nI don't like when my husbant looks at porno. He knows it very well and he doesn't do it in my presence. I know that he didn't agree to stop looking at it, so I don't go after him. But I don't care about too much so I don't make a big fuss about it. I'm not saying this is the right thing to do. I'm just sharing what I do.
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I would keep watching even if he knew it...depends on what he's doing...is he just changing, showering, or is he actually touching himself.  I like to watch men having sex with women, pornos are fine but I would love to watch it in person...
116357
he could be a really nice guy and like you for who you are. I didn't have  sex with mt girlfriend or pressure her for 2 months. some guys think sex is a more serious thing and want to wait for the right moment.
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Could be that your new boyfriend although better for you, is not as good in bed, so you are not 100% satisfied with him. So when you think about sex, you think of your x because he was better. Just a theory.
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well is it a dating site too i would be pissed off but if it is just a porn site enjoy do it with him  but if that is all he wants to do i would evaluate your relationship because i would consider that cheating and you are worth alot more than that respect yourself and ask him what is going on if he doesnt seem to care dump him and find someone that will love you for you i dont think though that there is any thing wrong having fun with porn and fantisizing but it can go to far im sure jyou will figure it out
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insecure a little,are there any other signs.unexplained money missing,new jewlery,or new underwear for him not tighty whitys?ask him what this big secret is a a true and open relationship knowing everything is what belongs on the table.Where where you for those two months?is he  worried that you were with someone else.keep those lines of communications open or your find yourself on the road to failure.Explain to him how much you  love him and that you feel that heis holding back on info is putting a wedge then listen to see what  is said.you may not like it,it could be anything.sometimes men who dont watch "porn" could be anything from simply having respect for a women the act of making love to he may have been abused in his life at some point this is very difficult for men to talk about the whole macho thing.listen be strong and find out the secret for both of your sakes.
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He may be gay but besides that, I'm thinking it may just be his preference. A lot of men generally enjoy anal and oral sex a lot. It's possible he just may find that typical sex is not as exciting. It could just be a matter of the less conventional it is the more he likes it. I would think it's a matter of fantasies and those acts fulfill his fantasies more. I'd talk to him about it and get the 411 and find out if it's just a matter of being kinkier or something more than that.
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Because the fantasy provided by an internet porn site is probably more appealling than his real life sex life.  \n\nOr, he appreciates it as a supplement to his existing sex life.\n\nYou will never find a sex therapist who says looking at porn is unhealthy unless it becomes an addiction.
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It's funny sex and love are two different things. I'm sure he isnt trying to hurt you,but he is insensitive to your feelings. You should tell him what you want...not what you don't want. Part of being satisfied is rolling with what turns your partner on so they are satisfied. It's much easier to get yourself off if your partner is happy. Not to reward him for being selfish, but I would give a good acting job just once to see how he reacts if YOU are the one that is getting off to porn.
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My girlfriend says he is much sexier than me.  Weird huh?
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Guys sexual arousal is visual, porn is a visual art and therefore guys watch porn to get more aroused for the wife/girlfriend.
411771
Maybe he makes you feel worthless because your not good at it.  You should probably watch more porn....
537952
I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
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because he was more interested in himself than you.