I just told my boyfriend i bi what do you think is going threw his mind?
448122
umm.. your  a les too? is what is in his mind, i think he might be scared to know.. i mean what if one day you were cheating on him with a girl? ohh not a good thing. are you sure you are a bi? your lying! please tell me your lying!!\n\nwell it hard to know what he is thinking when he could have different points of view.. depending if he has experienced this and how open-minded he is
1054087
well, if he wants walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, guess what he is???   A  duck!!  The only reason he wouldn't be bi, is if he's plain gay.....hiding behind you. Good luck!
859093
he sounds like he is either bi curious, or bi. i would be careful, if he is bi curious that could mean he just wants to try things out with a guy, but he still wants to stay with his girlfriend. make it clear that he has to chose u if he wants any of u, or u'll end up used and hurt, or someone who makes ur bf cheat on u
966400
No offense but I really just do not like the idea of relations with other people while you are in a monogamous relationship. Being bi isn't an excuse to cheat and I really don't understand how he can be okay with it. Are you sure he's okay with you being with other people or that he's just okay with you being bi, there is a big difference. Then again it's not my place to judge so good luck.
276699
Sit him down and tell him seriously.  Don't listen to these clowns and make it sound like you're on the bi bandwagon and cheap and sleazy.  Chances are he'll be into it, but if you tell him gently there'll be less a chance of him being shocked and feeling slighted.  AFTER you've told him gently and the two of you have talked about it like mature adults then y'all can have fun.  Good luck!
163150
I am Bi amd married. I believe there should be no secrets in a marriage/relationship so I have told my hubby about it. We have a mutual girlfriend. One does not have to CHOOSE, you can be bi and be happy! I am!
852585
Wow. What a shock to have to go through.\n\nSounds like he is just starting to accept his own reality that he is gay. He may have thought that you two living together would be ideal, and I'm sure he had or maybe even still has feelings for you, but is attracted to men.  It happens and sometimes people don't come within the realization of it until a long time aftwards.\n\nAnd yes, you can be gay and in love with someone, but you also know that the relationship may not be for you. People like this can be confused for a long time since they may not know which direction to go to. Do they stay in what society terms a "normal" relationship, or do they risk ridicule and go with their real insterest, which is the same sex. Tough world we live in.
335984
Okay, well obviously you shouldn't have snooped in his mail box, and he trusted you not to or he wouldn't have given you the password. But you feel bad about it and realize it was wrong, so I'm not going to reprimand you for it.\n\nIf you guys have been friends for three years, and you're good friends, I don't think it's out of line to ask him if he's gay. If your friend knows you're an accepting person, and he's also an accepting person (more on this later), it shouldn't be a problem to ask him as long as you don't do it in an accusatory way.\n\nThe reason why I ask if he's an accepting person is that it's possible that he might not have come out to himself yet. I have a friend that was obviously gay, everyone who knew him thought he was gay from the start, but even though he was accepting of gay people he'd never admit it. He wouldn't even admit to being bi. Well, after knowing this guy for four years he finally admitted that he was bi, and that he had actually been with more guys than girls. The thing is, at the time he didn't think that made him gay or even bi! He was convinced that because he was "just friends" with these guys, and just happened to have benefits with them, that he wasn't bi or gay. He still won't admit he's gay but now that he's come out as bi he never dates girls and says he's not interested in them. The moral of the story is that your friend might not have admitted to himself yet that he is gay. If you ask him about it, he might deny it. Clearly he IS gay or you wouldn't have found those messages, but he might not be willing to accept that yet. If he's a socially open-minded person he shouldn't be offended if you ask him, even if he denies it (my friend was never offended). But if not, that could be the reason why he's not coming out to you or possibly himself, and he could react badly if you ask. So just keep that in mind.\n\nThe final option is that perhaps you can hint that you have some suspicions about him, but not ask outright. Make it clear that you don't have a problem with gays, and let him know how good of a friend you consider him and that you'd never give him up for anything. Then just wait for him to become comfortable coming out to you, when he's ready.
976878
Hmm....sounds like it was too much all at once....perhaps he is having a freak out. Just treat him normal and tell him you care abotu him, you think he's hot and whatever he wants is fine....the more chill you are about it...the more he will realx and his true desires will come out.
247479
I think I read on an aritcle on queerty that he is bisexual. In so many words, he said both sexes do it for him.
938785
By offering him an open chance to explore your Bi side with you, such as a threesome or for him to watch. Otherwise you are probably going to lose him.
472436
Sometimes it's hard to tell. You care alot about each other, right? Have you talked ot him about how you feel? How he feels? If you're still unsure after that, tell him you need a little more time to decide. try a year from when you first started going out-get comfortable with sharing your thoughts and insecurities, so then you will be comfortable sharing you life. The key is really communication. Give it a little time after talkign and decide. After all, nos can always be turned into yeses!! He'll undertsand.
720457
talk to him - i told my bf that i love him and see our futures as being together - try it :-)
913378
If you're attracted to both males an females then you're bi.  Just don't think if you get in a relationship with female it will be any better, some girls are just as bad as guys...\n\nOk now with that out of the way I am bi, I hate telling straight guys that I am because then all think can think about is "Yes! Threesome!" if you and your boyfriend are already shakey its not the best thing to tell him, all he'll do is make things worse by pressuring you try with a girl and to make sure he's involved.\n\nEither way you deserve to be in a good, healthy relationship and whether you decide you want to be alone for a while, try being with a woman or just sticking to guys, I think you need to lose the one your with now.  Everyone deserves the right to be happy.\n\nIf you ever need help on coming out and don't know who to talk to you can always email me if you need some advice or someone to talk to :)  good luck with everything...
344685
I think I owuld be slightly worried by that to be honest, he's either very unconfident about his body and manlyhood or is a closet homosexual.... talk to him about it!
932676
With everything else you've told us, he seems more and more likely to be open to the idea, if not full out bi.  But if were just going to take the chest thing as the only evidence, I'd say 'nah'- I could see a straight guy acting similarly if he was secure in his sexuality and good friends- not every straight guy would freak out, you know?\n\nNow, a better litmus test would be to maybe brush his lips . . . nobody's going to take that as an accident.  Of course, that's probably too forward, but I wanna see the two of ya'll get together!  I feel like I'm involved in some suspenseful soap opera with all your questions!\n\nMy opinion, though, is that he's up for something, even if it's just curiousness or opennness about the idea.
620309
You have the thought of being bi? Umm you are bi if you like both sexes! You have to be honest and up front with your girl! Just tell her your feelings. She might understand. But if you truly love her then you wouldn't do anything to hurt her.