How to deal with Girls without being obsessed with them?
451427
if you're a straight guy, you'll be obsessed with girls to some extent for most of your life.  they're pretty great.\n\nbest to just accept that now, life will be much easier.
743473
Communication is the foundation of any relationship.  You have to break free from your shyness and start talking to these girls that you are interested in.  Do your best to have idle chit chat and you should be able to overcome it pretty easily.  Good Luck!
505834
= ) I'm back.  To make a girl feel special, you have to get to know her, and pretty much ask her.  Every one is different.  But, tell her she's beautiful, not hot, look her in the eyes when you talk to her, and are telling her something of importance.  And I am a firm believer in making them laugh.  It breaks the weirdness, be yourself.  As far as meeting girls, ya got me there, I'm a homebody. Pretty boring.
13985
respect her. show her that you think of her as a person, not just some dummy you want to fool around with. I know a lot of guys that don't respect me, and that automatically puts them at the bottom of my list. Even saying somthing in the wrong tone. Also, compliment her a lot, like if she's really good at painting or has a cool hairstyle that day. Just make sure it's not always about her appearance, or she might get the wrong impression, but a girl does like to be complimented on beauty every once in a while.
448756
Live with it. It's not an uncommon thing anyway. Just show them respect. They may still not like you but atleast you've tried. That all there is. It makes all the difference from the girl's point of view.
516149
ok ladies are not objects they are people and they, dont liked to be 'Pimped'  so just be your self and have one girl friend and only one girl!!!!
830332
I know you don't want to hear it but you can't make someone feel the same way you do about them. But you can always try the old trick of getting another girl to make her jealous just be sure to tell the other girl what your doing not leading her on
105756
flirt with her..hang around her alot..be nice..play games with her..just do anything you can to get her attention. but dont be obnocsious, cause thats a BIG turn off to girls. we cant stand aggravating guys!
787050
you never COMPLETELY get rid of it but you OVERCOME it by FORCING yourself out of your thoughts and VERBALIZING with females.\n\nStart NOW, practice a LOT and gradually proceed with prettier and more "popular" girls.\n\nGoogle "conversational skills" and find a guide that makes sense to you. This is a SKILL that can be learned-so get to it.
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first of u should ignore all the girls in front of one girl whom u really like just show her that u re in  not intersted in them but the girls re intersted in u and u should welldressed  and show that u really care parents and respect them and never make first step realizing someone that u really love her or him they will think and they will not value u if u will vaule them more its true if love someone deeply and they will not love u as u do so try to show that u can live with or without internally u can love more but never show any one on face this is the key that she will come to automatically to you just wait for her call or her step she will do it first  and u will get her easily just love anyone inside ur heart but never let her know that u love him she will not value u an will think she can do anything and u will avaible for her anytime even if she hurts u then aslo she will confident that u will not loose her or him so please dont show your love to someone just be normal limted u will noticed that girl will be around u use this formula or method and let me know how much u succeed in that i guranteed u will soon if u aply these things but u ve wait a little its wait better fast speed makes u to do accident so slowly take steps thankssssssssss
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Do me and yourself a HUGE favor, DON'T TELL THIS GIRL HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER!!!\n\nThink about it.  If she is an 8 or 9 as you suggest then she probably has a million guys fawning all over her every day.  If you tell her how you feel you'll be just another one of those average chumps! She probably hears the same sh*t over and over again and it probably bores her to death!\n\nDo something to make yourself stand out.  Give her some attitude, dude!  Don't be an a-hole, but don't be a kiss-a*s either.  Treat her like your annoying little sister and bust her chops.\n\nIf you say she's been teasing you a lot, that's because she likes you.  If a girl is into you she will tease you.  It's as simple as that.  What you need to do is have fun with her and tease her right back.\n\nThe first line of your question was "...at the beginning...she was into me, but I ruined that by showing her too much love."  If that didn't work in the past why do you think that would work now?  It's like putting spoiled milk back into the fridge and checking it again a month later to see if it some how is drinkable.  Crazy, huh?\n\nIf you want to drive her wild, then make sure and flirt with every other girl at your weekend event!  Women don't want a guy that no one else is into. They think something is wrong with him.  But if you are chatting up a bunch of ladies and they are all laughing with you and smiling she will think, 'Hey, what does this guy have that all these women like being around him?  I want him to want me, why is he paying no attention to me.'\n\nI guarantee that if you don't approach her and are the life of the event, she will come up to you.  In fact, I will back up my guarantee.  \n\nDo this.  Pay attention to everyone but her.  Maybe give her a glance and a wry smile, but do not approach her.  If she does not come up to you and start chatting you up, I will send you a $10 gift card from Starbucks so you can ask her out the lame way you want to (no offense intended) and tell her how you feel.  \n\nWhen that doesn't work (which it won't), at least you'll have the comfort of knowing that you didn't spend your hard earned money on her and you are no worse for wear except knowing that being lame is just that, LAME!  And that you have to try a new approach with ALL ladies.\n\nThere are 6 billion people on this planet, half are women.  If she fizzles out that leaves only 2,999,999,999 potential others.  Oh, what will you do?  On the flip side, there are the same number of men out there who will try to woo her with their 'feelings for her' and their gifts and she will shun most of them.\n\nLadies out there, please weigh in and post your thoughts.
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okay so you say you used to be obsessed with her so i'm assuming you did go out there and get over her, or try anyway. \none of my mates had this exact same problem and alot of it just came down to the fact that he was insecure about himself and lacked confidence and self esteem big time.\nhe also felt alienated by people around him so the best thing to do is talk about it. find someone that cares about you enough and talk till your blue in the face. - i listened to him for hours for a very long time, then i realised that i wasnt nodding off in convos cos he was coming out of his shell\nthis may take some time but as long as your getting out there with people you like to be around and talking to your mates about how your feeling - girl mates are best for this you will eventually move on. my mate - he doesnt even think about her anymore. and he is alot more confident too.\nh did try to date other girls initially but they were either too similar to the girl or completely unsuited to him i think he just wanted someone who wouldnt dump him and be there for him. and nows hes with the perfect girl for him.\n\ndon't hate yourself or kick yourself for lost opportunities. everything does happen for a reason and if it wasnt your lucky day that time it will be sooner or later. and if you did get to talk to the goirl your obsessed about properly (assuming you havent) you'd realise that you'd just set your ideal women criteria in your head and put her face to it and in reality she probably dont even match up.\nseriously. its not wasting your time over.
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Make female friends.  Don't be pushy or needy or seem desperate.  I have found that all women are somewhat insecure and respond positively to indifference.  Go with the numbers.  Be a guy that a woman can feel comfortable around without being constantly dogged.  Spend a lot of time listening to them and not talk about yourself.\n\nHere are a couple of tips.....  Eye contact.  Make eye contact and hold it briefly (longer than a glance but shorter than a stare).  If her eyes hold on yours she is probably interested.  If she instantly looks away move on, she's not interested......  If  a woman knows you have noticed her and she begins to primp or play with her hair it's a good opportunity to strike up a conversation.  Again, don't be overwelming or seem desperate and don't try to move on her the first time.  Introduce yourself, be interesting, then move on with indifference.  The next time you run across her she will feel more comfortable in your presence.  I always try to find common ground, build on that, and leave her with something to think about.  I will get them interested and then leave them hanging.  It's like having to put down a book at an interesting point, you can't wait to get back to it to see where it goes.  Good luck!
911817
You know a lot of girlie girls, that's your problem.. there are plenty of hot girls like myself who are into cars, sports, boats, motorcycles and all around guy stuff. You're not going to impress these girls you know by treating them like your friends.
734847
You are young, and so are the girls you are interested in.  Right now they are going for the fun types, not the settling down types.  It might not be what you want to hear, but in love, patience is a virtue and when they are tired of being treated like **** they will notice you and it will be a war for your attention.
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i was really nervous around guys until i realized that they weren't jst these big intimidating things, that they could be thinking the same thing i was! if u see her in the hall, say what's up, or something and she'll think ur friendly and be more comfortable around you. make sure u get 2 know her before u become committed. patching things up w/ her sis can't hurt either. and if she turns u down, move on! i know u've probably heard that a ton, but if u get over it quickly, other girls will appreciate your independence, and who knows, it might even help u get the girl!
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Girls pick up subtleness.  Say something like, "I am sooo glad that I count on your friendship."  Or talk about some other girl that you are interested in, and she will get the message.