How can I get over my shyness?!?!?
447686
I found drama really helped me get over my shyness.  If you're in highshcool take a drama class.  If you're out of highschool, look into a theatre company and audition.  Even if you don't make it, the simple fact that you auditioned infront of -people- will slowly help you
501402
You don't have to call yourself pathetic. It's ok to be nervous when talking to the opposite sex. I used to get nervous talking to guys when I was younger, but somehow I learned to manage and now I have a boyfriend. I'm still a shy person and I guess that's part of my personality. I guess you have to give it some time. Think before you talk. What is it that makes you stammer? Think of interesting topics to talk about with girls. If it helps,write some of the stuff down that you think you'd discuss with a girl. Then rehearse it so it'll prepare you for next time. I know it may sound stupid but you can give it a try and no one has to know. The key is making yourself comfortable when talking to girls and talk to them like you casually talk to your friends. Once you get the hang of it, I'm sure you won't feel nervous anymore. It's just a phase and it'll go away with time. Don't worry, just relax. Good luck!
187649
DEAR,\nMOST OF GIRLS FACE THESE PROBLEMS THEY WAY TO GET OUT IS:\n1. TALK TO HIM {IF POSSIBLE TRY AND IGNORE YOUR SHYNESS}\n2. TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY ABOUT IT\n3. IGNORE HIM\n4. SHOW YOU HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN YOUR LIFE
628526
I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
112097
How can you be sure that they don't like you if you are really shy?  You have to try to be happy with yourself - find things you enjoy and show people and yourself that you are enjoying your life and they will want to join in too.  \n\nIt's hard to get over being shy, but it will come in time.  You are a beautiful person, please remember that.
246713
relax and be urself. u will feel less shy later
147455
ptoms of shyness\nblushing \nheart pounding \n"butterflies" in the stomach \nstrong feelings of uncertainty \ndifficulty carrying on a conversation \nPossible causes of shyness\nlack of confidence (ok... that's too obvious) \ninferiority complex (you are a creature of GOD, why would god discriminate in his creatures? think about it... and stop feeling inferior) \nyour thinking pattern (of negative thoughts, so fear creeps in, and your subconscious mind reacts according to that) \nlack of knowledge about the expected behavior in social situations \nsometimes, its based upon your previous experiences \nFirst of all you will need to learn how to relax. Shy people often get anxious or "tensed" in social situations. When I say "tensed" I literally mean it. In social situations, where you feel shy; you get tensed up, your muscles tighten, all of your body literally builds tension (like if we stretch a rope). All you have to do is to loosen yourself. Anxiety Cure\n\nThis may help:\n\nEvery night before sleeping lie down on your back. I will recommend removing the pillow. Put your hands beside your body (so that they point to the feet). Now take some deep breaths. Say to yourself my body is getting relaxed. Imagine all of your body parts going into the state of ultimate relaxation one by one. Start from head to toe. Imagine all the tension in your muscles is getting out from your body through the fingers of your hand. Finally all of your body is completely relaxed and you are experiencing ULTIMATE RELAXATION. At this time imagine a golden light which is giving you infinite power to help you succeed in every aspect of the life. This way you will get a very sound sleep also. \n\nNow again coming back to social situations... if you start getting tensed... just say to yourself "RELAX" and imagine all the tension easing out from your body (as you do while sleeping). Ease your shoulders and loosen up. You will be more calm and cool then. Now say affirmatively to yourself: "I am in control of how I think and feel - no one else on earth has this power unless I give it away." And this is a FACT. In this way, take control of your attitude, and you will take control of your results.\n\nNow the technical stuff explaining why the muscles get tensed\n\nWhat happens in our bodies when we are under threat. It's very much chemistry. When subjected to a threat or fear, such as real conflict, your body will release chemicals to help you fight with the situation. These will affect your body and mind in certain specific ways. Your heart beat will increase. You start loosing control over your tongue. You no longer remain who you actually are. Your mind stops working and you know what to say. \n\nThe SOLUTION - How to loose fear?\n1. Let me make it clear... FEARS HAVE NO REALITY (yes, I am shouting). They doesn't simply exist. They exist only in one's mind. I will make it clear. A small child can be paralyzed with fear when a playmate says there is a monster under the bed who will grab him in the night. But when the parent turns on the light and shows there is no monster, he is freed from fear. The fear in the mind of the child was every bit as real as if there were really a monster there. The thing he feared did not exist. In the same way, most of our fears have no reality. They are merely illusions. \n\nMost of the fears exist more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.\n\nOk... let me tell you an another story when I was young (say, 15 years old). I didn't know driving. I had a fear in my mind that I can not drive and will not able to drive for my entire life. I really feared driving. But, then I started to learn driving. I used to drive very slowly, fearfully. But gradually, I learnt to drive perfectly and all of my fear was gone. And now I can drive as rashly as you can imagine without any troubles or fear. So what we learnt from this? What we learnt is that... we should face the fears
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be your self and dont be shy
353459
well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
706729
There's really nothing you can do to get over your shyness. You just have to go for what you want. And if that doesn't work out, you just find something new and go for that. Everyone is a little shy once in a while. But you can't let it control your life. I'm sure the girl is really shy too. Just go for it!! What do you have to lose?
271019
well, it is not so bad to be shy, many girls like guys who are shy and who are not pushing it too hard. but if you still find it a problem maybe you should practice, at first try it in front of the mirror and then maybe on some girl who you are not attracted to, also try to be more talkative with your friends, that will help you to develop your speaking skills and after a while you could easily talk with girls (at least i hope so!)
221877
Overcoming shyness is not easy, but can be done. I used to be really shy too, but I started hanging around people who were outgoing then myself and I started noticing the positive attention they gained by being outgoing. I just worked on walking up to people and introducing myself and I learned that if I want something I should ask, the worse someone can ever say is NO. \nPractice makes perfect, the more you do it, the easier it gets. :D\nI now have lots of nice friends and I have been out on a lot dates. :)\n\nOh and as far as getting a boy to notice you. Don't overcome your shyness just for that. :) \n\nThe best way to get someone to notice you is just by being yourself. :)\nGo up to him, start off with a simple hello. :) Introduce yourself. \nLittle by little and believe me, it will take a snowball effect, before you know it, you just may have yourself a nice friend,if not, well, there are many others out there. :D\n\nHope it helped good luck
838154
you must get out of that shyness thing. it will get you no where in this world we live in.  "grow balls" so to speak.  good luck\nbesides the worst he could say is no.....right?
1061951
What helped me was someone telling me that shyness is really a form of self-centeredness. If you think about it, people you encounter don't really care even a fraction as much as you do about how you come across. They have their own problems, concerns, etc. to think about. In fact, many of them are probably shy themselves but may be a little bit better at hiding it. \n\nIn group situations, shyness is a form of selfishness. You've got a lot to offer (your unique outlook, life experiences, advice, etc.) and to withhold it from others is selfish. So resolve to share more of what you have instead of keeping it to yourself...thats one way of overcoming it.\n\nOne of my friends joined Toastmasters International. Its an organization with social events in which people take turns giving toasts--its good practice for public speaking, especially when you realize how many people are also nervous and shy about expressing themselves! Similarly, you can sign up for acting/improvisation workshops. You can learn techniques there to get over your self-imposed inhibitions as well as how to be and project an image of being open and outgoing (one tip: learning to listen to others and respond accordingly.)\n\nGood luck!
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dont think shyness is some kind of shortcoming in ur personality.it looks beautiful on a gal.but no doubt,it shouldnt be in excess.if u feel its so,start facing the people around you.speek to them but only in ur confidence limits so that u dnt keep thinking afterwards that u did some blunder.that wud hamper ur confidence next time.take out from ur mind that u really have some reason to feel shy b4 others.if u have some complex,remove it coz u r unique n no one is like u.when u go out, be in active mood.keep thinking about the things around u .analyze them.dnt think how do u look but look at other things and people that how they look n what do they convey.that will keep ur mind and body busy in thinking smthing productive.automatically ur appearance will look smart n confident coz ur body manifests ur mind.think good look good.\nall the best
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!