what do i do?? serious question and really need help..!! PLEASE my friend could die?
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I know this must be really hard for you. I understand what you are going through, and know that i can't help you fully through words, but i will try, for your friends' sake. Now cutting is a dangerous thing, if you rupture a blood vessel you're pretty much dead. You say that they are really good friends and they cut, and one is sucidal. Now, you also want to help them but you are afriad of ruining your personal life. Now let me ask you a question. Do you love your friends? If so you would do w/e it takes to keep them safe, even if it means sacraficing yourself? It's like...would you jump in front of a bullet for them? If so, tell someone you really trust. It doesn't necesarially have to be a parent, and after you tell them and want to help them, go to them and talk to them from your heart how much you care about them. And ask them please not to tell anyone about what you did. If they are good friends like you are then they won't. Please take my advice because i don't want to see anymore death...
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Support your friend.  The next few months are going to be hard, but if you really do care, stand by your buddy.  Let him know that you are prepared to help, but he needs to be serious about his sobriety, and if he's not, you can't do anything for him.  Lay down a clear cut set of rules and guidelines to help him.  Good luck.  Hope that helps.
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this needs professional understanding - i beleive your boyfreinds freind has a mental illness - if you are at all concerned with him maybe thinking of suicide - - please contact your local crisis care as soon as possible - if there is no local crisis care maybe suicide hotline - they will give you the information you need to deal with such a heavy situation - if you fear for yourself at all try talking to your boyfreind about him possibly visiting you instead - or talk to a trusted adult
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4 all the idiots out there her question was:\n\nsometimes i worry about my best friend so much that he thinks im trying to protect him,?\nbut the truth is i am trying to protect him. i luv him to death. he tells me to chill out, he dosnt want me getting an olsar am i just too worried or what. does he think im crazy? \n\nAdditional Details\n\n1 hour ago\nhe just had surjery and i was nervous all of that day. for some reason i think something bad would happen and i wouldnt have him anymore. (ive been friends with him since he was 2)\n\nAnd i wil say that tell him that "i was just scared and worried if something bad hapened to u, and i m ur friend so i care about u, all my life i have been ur  friend, so doesnt that doesnt that mean anything to me?" he will understand, u r right, i mean u were just scared and worried about him , especialy wen he was havin a surgery and plus u have been wit him 4 a loooong time so u were scared 2 loose him. thats all, it happens...dont worry\ngood luck
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Oh No :( ..\nI would definetly call at least her doctor, and see what  he suggests. If he knows her wishes are to die at home,and not in a Hospital, at least he may be able to give you some suggestions. That is just terrible, and I am very sorry for you and your family. She must be a very special woman to have lived so long! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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Tell her that it is extremely dangerous to her/his health. If you dont want to be around him, tell him/her that. If they are a truly good friend, they would value your friendship. Get some facts and pictures if you can and show them to her/him.
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Sit down with her and let her know that she does not have to go through this alone, you will always be there if she needs someone to listen and if she just needs a shoulder to lean on.  And let her know that she can talk to you about anything, you will try to help her to the best of your abilities.  Good luck and just be there for your friend and yes i would go to the funeral and be there for her.
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Condolences.\n\nJust continue doing what you're doing right now. Just be there for him. If he gets mad, try to understand him because you know what he's going through right now. And don't forget to pray for him.
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Dear.....Do what you have to do.....don't let his sickness control you....you can have compassion and try to help him get better.....but you have a life too. You did enough and you shouldn't feel guilty about anything.....If you want to go out with a friend ...do it!..You can't stay beside him forever.
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Flip the script on her...tell her you are going to kill yourself. Or like everyone else is saying she needs to go to the hospital. On a personal note...I tried to kill myself almost a year a ago. If I was not drunk I probably wouldn't have hurt myself so deeply but I cut my wrist and cut nerves, arteries, etc. I had to have surgery. The medical bills alone is enough to realize ok that was dumb. I almost lost my hand and I only have partial use of my pinky because I cut the Ulnar nerve. What I realized through all of this is I didn't want to die, I just wanted things to get better and they do I promise! I seeked help, got on medication (which I was initially against) but it helped. People love you and you will only leave them in complete and utter pain if you took your own life. (This is to relay to your friend) You only have one life that you know about...so just make the best of it because your time will come. We don't come with a re-do button but we have a chance to make our lives better. Just think if you hit rock bottom the only way to go is up. I wish you all the luck, and love! Take Care.
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That is so terrible!! I would say just continue to do what you are already doing...be there for her! You are an awesome friend...good job...not too many of those left in the world.
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Hi Tiera,   well it sounds like this guy is a real jerk. Not trying to be mean or anything just going by everything you said.  Now, as far as your friend goes I believe that you should stick to your guns and be there for her.  If you havent done so already,  I think you should tell her all about this guy and just prepare her for what you might think will happen. Don't try to make her break up with him per say,  but just let her know that you are telling her these things because she is your friend and you dont want to see her hurt.  Thats really all you can do at this point.  Sometimes in life in order for someone realize what they get themselves into they have to learn the hard way.  The only thing you can do is just assure her that you will be there for her no matter what.  She will appreciate you more down the road when she realizes she was wrong and you were right.  Stick to you guns hun, and dont abandon your friend because this is when she is gonna need you the most.  Good luck with everything...........
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Dear Hayley,\n\nCALL NOW:\nNational suicide crisis hotline\n1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433)\n\nTell them about your friend. They may be able to get a phone trace if he actually threatened to commit suicide ever. They can give you better advice than anyone untrained also. Good Luck, we'll be praying for you both.\n\nCalico.Kitty
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The poor thing...  She is lucky that she has you as a friend who really wants to help her.  I dont blame her for not wanting to talk, she must feel terrible.  I think the best thing to do is to go somewhere with her where there is no-one else around you guys, like the beach or a park or go on a bushwalk, or just do something that you know she loves.  Make sure no-one else is around (especially not the people who are making fun of her) and try and get her to relax and not be afraid to speak. \nIf you cant get her to go anywhere with you straight away, try sending text messages to communicate or write each other letters.  Buy her a diary to write down all her feelings in.  \n\nShe needs to know she has support.  Try talking to her family (as long as they arent the ones who are laughing at her).  If you dont help her now, (or get someone to help her) she could end up developing social disorders or agraphobia (where she will be too scared to leave the house).  You are a great friend, she is lucky to have a friend who cares about her and doesnt make fun of her.  Just help her through it as best you can.. And as for the people laughing at her, how pathetic.  They must be really horrible people to make your friends life hell. Good on u for sticking by her.
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You should talk with your friend about the situation...if you aren't doing anything to provoke the situation then you shouldn't worry but I would definitely encourage you to talk with your friend.
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Your friend needs you to be there no matter how long it takes. Make sure this person is seeking help. Probably chemical imbalance and needs the right meds. The problem is finding the right doctor who can put her on the right meds. Family physicians can give her meds, but she really needs to see a specialest who knows what he is doing. The wrong doctor may mean the end of her life. \nYou must not give up and always be there no matter how sick you get of hearing about this problem. Of course, if this person will not seek professional help, there may be hardships in your friendship.
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Seriously get them help!!  I am not kidding.  My brother was suicidal for years and we treated it like the boy who cried wolf, and then last year he really did kill himself.  Report them to some one and get them help!!  Even if you call the cops, they will put your friend on a mental health hold for 48+ hours and get them help!  This is not some thing to mess with.