How would you respond when offended?
444225
that depends entirely on the setting (are you at work and a collegue said something off-color?), the person (you can't respond the same way to your boss as you can to a peer), and exactly what was said/done (i.e. was it a minor slip or something that you possibly took the wrong way, or was it a major, totally out-of-line thing)???\n\ndepending on the level, who/what was involved, etc, anything from turning the other cheek & ignoring the person (while calling them some choice words in your inner monologue!) to a swift kick in the nuts might be in order. typically I abhore sue-happy people, but if it's a case of a superior at work sexually harrassing you or making unwanted racial or sexual comments, etc, then legal recourse may be a possible route...
206292
Listen first.  I mean really listen to what they are saying.  Try to see it their way, and agree with them.  Something like "I would have probably felt the same way!"  Then ask what you can do to make it better. \n\nThey probably just need to vent.  Just DON'T take it personally.  Some people of course are completely ridiculous and you can't help those ones, but most are somewhat reasonable, especially if they think you care.
50417
Straight out tell her, "look, you say I hurt your feelings yet I have no recolection of this. I apologize if I, without meaning to, offended you". Something like that, let it be known that you did not do it on purpose, that way she'll know you're not apologizing for something you did, but for something she thinks or feels you did.
739833
Say something to who?  Her boss?  Better to let it slide I think.\n\nIn the end, nobody can hurt us without our permission.  If her comment hurt you it is because you let it.  If someone said that to me, I'd laugh.  It is only rude if you decide to take it that way.  How she behaves has nothing to do with you.  It is purely a reflection of her.\n\nBest of luck!
708115
Happy Birthday!\n\nJust wanted to make sure I didn't get in the doghouse too :)\n\nIf you have to ask if you should be offended about something, then (ideally) you shouldn't be.  The fact is that you're hurt, and I think most people would be in your shoes.\n\nYes, you should say something to her.  This stuff festers if it's not addressed.  Be careful how you word it, though.  Tell her how you feel (she can't argue with your feeling) about the situation:\n\n"I felt sad when you didn't want to talk on my birthday, or even SAY happy birthday."\n\nHere's the deal, though.  When the discussion is over, let it go.  We don't get points for thoughtless stuff people do.
974274
yea...\nplz don get offended 4 this..
402084
What are you trying to say?\n\nHow do you expect to get a serious answer when you can't even ask the question properly?
936614
im sorry but honestly i would not care too much about it because he may get offended so make sure if you talk to him about it your careful about what you say
785632
A better answer would have simply shared the BIBLE's point of view on the matter and allowed the listener/reader to decide for himself what God's thoughts are on the matter. An offended person would be offended at the divine Author rather than at the answerer.\n\nLearn more:\nhttp://watchtower.org/e/20050715/article_02.htm
103062
Offense takes place when someone FEELS offended. Whether someone "should" be offended is impossible to know. And deciding from a third-person perspective that someone else SHOULDN'T be offended is an exercise in futility.\n\nThat being said, from history and experience, it seems to be the case that the 'n-word' offends a great many people for a variety of different reasons. And reactions to it vary even for a single individual depending on context. If someone were to call me the n-word to my face, I'd probably giggle, since I'm a middle-aged white geezer. If the same person were to use the n-word in anger to an African-American friend, I'd be offended. If Eddie Murphy riffs on the n-word, I laugh. If a white person were to refer to Murphy with the n-word, I'd be offended. \n\nThe weird thing here is that my offense isn't confined to what affects me personally. We can take offense - and probably SHOULD - when we, precisely, are not the focus of racism, sexism, or prejudice. Being offended in that situation has to do with exercising the empathy and compassion that are absolutely essential to getting along in a difficult world.
731124
You said it your self, your answer is in the reaction.\n\nSimply choose to not react and look at it this way: What someone else thinks about ourselves, others or situations is none of our business.  That way we do not have to include ourselves in their conversation, as it is 'below' us and we are better than that.  \n\nTo respond to these type of characters, is a choice.  This person appears to want to act as the 'energy thief' as they derive pleasure from stealing the power of one other as they themselves have none (plays victim & pity parties).  So they take it from those they consciously know will 'react' negatively to them, this is what they want.  They are feeling 'low' so in order to get a 'high' they will persist with those 'remarks' they know will get the reaction they are looking for.  It is how they gain their self power however, unfortunately when it is taken from a another 'person' and not through our 'higher source' which is our divine connection to our Whole Divine Source....it leaves the person they steal it from feeling empty, gutted and emotionally angry.  This anger can remain deep rooted when it is family due to one being invalidated after being targeted for sake of filling ones own socks with ego.\n\nIf you choose to not react....they get absolutely nothing from you.  Know you are higher than this and engaging with them is futile they do not understand what they are doing, they just do not have faith or belief in themselves...and for that one can only offer empathy.  Just smile and stand in your own truth.  To have to defend your beliefs or push a point is ego.  Spirit knows truth so be the light and stand above the rest.  \n\nBlessings be yours in peace & light\nHarriett Potty ;)
715921
I would apologize to the girls for thinking of them as objects (boobs, tushes, etc).  Tell them you know that you were insensitive & will try not to be in the future.  Also, why not ask them to let you know in the future if you do say something insensitive again as you want to learn how to improve. That way they'll really know that you mean it.
881894
No I try not to get offended\nbut sometimes I do let "my alligator mouth over load my mocking bird butt" from my dad when I was young
997231
You could try turning the joke into a compliment!\neg. Is THAT what you are wearing?.......Good, cos you look great in it - but then you always do! (the second remark stops any comeback!\n\nThere are some things that you cannot give the right answer to:\nDoes my bum look big in this? (you mean it does in other things)\nWhich outfit should I wear? (what's wrong with the other outfit? You liked it last time I wore it)\nWhat colour suits me best? (so I don't look good in.....?)\n\nTact is always the best policy.   If she does look dreadful, just say something like 'You look very nice but I always fancy you most when you in the blue dress'.\n\nIf you don't learn to say nice things, it will cost you a fortune in flowers!\n\nHope the advice helps!
1026678
Apology accepted.\n\nI commend you.\n\nNext time you get upset at hearing that you are going to hell,\n\nGet mad at God, and talk to Him about it.\n\nWe are just repeating what God told us, and we just happen to believe Him!!!
974135
By "responding", do you mean not kicking the guy in the balls?\n\nBad pickup lines that guys have used:\n\n"Can I touch your hair?"\n"I had sex with an Ethiopian girl once" (I'm not even remotely Ethiopian, nor is anyone in my family)\n"Nice dress.  It would look really good on my bedroom floor in the morning"  (possibly kicked that guy in the balls...)\n"Can I smell your underwear?"\n"You may not want me now, but I'm drinking milk...."
24864
say excuse me and get on with life!! It was just a fart and guess what the ladies that you farted in front of fart too, so how offended can they really get?