im in a lesbian relationship for 6 years now..?
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Life is what you make it honey. You have your values and you have your feelings, which d'u value more. I would make my decisions based on my values, because feelings come and goes, u kno wat i mean. It will get easier with time- Time is the greatest Healer.\n\nDon't expect too much out of anyone, not a guy not anyone. So your knight in shing armor may not appear like that at first, but it may take a little work for him to get there and for you to be his princess. It's just like mining for diamond in the dirt.\n\nGive yourself some distance from your girl friend. This will give you both time to get on with you lives. Out of the situaton, or it not being so prominent in your area, will give you the chance you need to make the right decisions.\n\nI wish you all the best
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You got to choices, and it's all up to you.\n\n1. Dont listen anything she says cause living 1 hour away from each other is not DISTANCE, believe you have no idea what a distance-relationship is. If you care for her as you say, FIGHT FOR HER, dont' let her go, if she really loves you, she'll stay with you.\n\n2. Move on... there's a milion other girls. Yeah, i know it's really hard and at this moment you probably believe that you can't live without her, than you will never be able to love anyone again and stuff like that... but believe me, in 6 months, you won't even remember her last name.
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Ive been with my b&#92;f for 7years now.I'm 23 now,he's 7yrs older than me.For the first 4 years our family's had issues with us being together.we moved in together only 3months into it while i was living with a girl friend.its had its up and downs but has been a great life.my advice to you would have to be,that you continue strong in the relationship that you have,don't worry to much about the negativity that continues to linger around you and your man.If he makes you happy and you know that he is all good for you,then you have nothing to worry about.wish you all the best....
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she might feel bad that this person is a lesbo maybe your girlfriend is bi?????!!!!!!!!?!?!?!?!??!??!?!??!?
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yup and been together 7 yrs..married almost 5
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You say she is Not a lesbian or bisexual.  You and her are both lying to yourselves.  She is just that.\nIf she is this upset about it, then she should go to a therapist to discuss her feelings and set a plan to come to grips with her sexuality.
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No, I don't think you have to be in love to continue a relationship, but it's usually easier to keep a relationship steady and good if there is love involved. Relationships without total love and commitment are usually relationships held together by other things (perhaps kids, or a shared job, or something else), and those relationships are always a little harder to maintain. Along with that, sometimes relationships continue for a long time because the two people involved are just secure with each other and don't want to go 'fish in the ocean' for another person that might be better.\n6  years is a very very long time, though. That's really great that you've made it that long! Now try to ask yourself some questions: can you imagine what life will be like in another 6 years? Will you still be with him? How are your jobs/colleges going to interfere with your relationships? \nOne of the worse things you can do is end a relationship just because you think the other person miiiight want to break up. It's good that you have talked to him about your feelings. Try to talk with him more about this topic, and ask him if he still wants the same things out of life and his girlfriend/wife that he wanted 6 years ago when you first got together. \nAlso, take a look at yourself. You mentioned how your boyfriend feels that he can never please you the way you want him to. Could it be that you are being a little too demanding? Or are you looking for a fantasy boyfriend in your real-life boyfriend? Those are always good questions to consider, too.\nRemember, just because you've been together for six years doesn't mean you will be together forever, but nor does it mean that you have to end it now. Communication is the best way to go. Good luck!!!
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a relationship is smthg to ponder on. and if u have been 5 years together, wow that's half a decade. but try to understand smthg good abt ur relatioinship. try to work out, build urself more up, be someone u wanted to be w/ her but she didn't want that or she was not allowing u to do that. learn smthg new, like drawing, programming and so on. go have sports,  read alot of books... in no time, u will fee urself different and ur perspective abt life will change... and maybe in any of those activities u'll find sm1 who can replace her, or at least the emptiness she has created?? good luck
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In my opinion anywhere above twenty years is too much of an age difference. I have no doubt in my mind at all that you and your girl will live a happy life together forever. As long as you are both treating each other with respect and courtesy then you should be just fine. Loving her is part of it but you also have to show her that you love her. Maybe you should renew your vows if you're married (hope you know what that means), or plan a surprise trip to a country she has always wanted to visit. I know that might sound like a hassle and quite a chunk of dough out of your pocket but from your description it sounds like it might be the only thing that will work... good luck in resolving this conflict, i will keep you and your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers
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You didn't forget to ask...she forgot to tell you. Don't blame your daughters sexuality on her though. Just move on with your life and find someone who is worthy of you love. Be there to support your kids.
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I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
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Just explain to her, that although you love her, because you are a (heterosexual)man, you are genetically hard-wired to admire the shape of women. You did before you met her, you met her because you did, and you cannot (try as you may) ignore it. She will not understand and you will still be castigated but it's something that women (all women everywhere)need to understand(and hear often).
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Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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You didnt do this while with this girl did you? If not I can say this much: Never hide anything. If you really love this girl then dont be afraid to tell her. I know from experience and I can say that we have the best relationship even when we were separated half the world apart
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Be funny if it was your partner!!\n\nFace it, there's a big difference between online and face-to-face so be prepared to have your illusions shattered (sorry, I don't mean to sound so negative!).\nYou say you haven't felt like this for years, so what are you doing with your girlfriend then?\nI don't know how old you are, but by the sound of it you've already made your mind up.  If you are going to leave there may be no way to do it without hurting your partner.  I guess you've got to have a talk to her and say that you don't feel the same way anymore.  I suppose you should be honest and say that you've just stuck around in the relationship even though you haven't felt anything much (why, I don't know) then when something special has happened between you and an online friend you've suddenly fallen in love.\n\nI've got to say it sounds like you just haven't been that honest with yourself or your girlfriend.
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6 years is a pretty long enough time to know whether or not you want to marry someone. I have observed from numerous relationships that guys keep some women dangling; and then they will meet one particular female that they just know right away that she won't be allowed to get away. I think you two need to have a real heart to heart talk, but in person. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult, especially being faithful; emotionally and physically. Be honest, tell each other how you feel.  I wonder if you guys seriously voiced your goals in the begining of your relationship. I'm guessing that you didn't expect to be waiting this long. Don't be afraid of speaking candidly, this is obviously making you uncomfortable as well. Life is way too short. Maybe there is some fear on his part that he hasn't expressed to you, something he thinks he would like to achieve before he settles down. It's good to have plans, but sticking to the exact order of those plans can cause you to miss out on some really great life altering blessings.  Ask him if something happened to you and caused you to not be available to him , if he would regret not taking that step to marriage. Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we no longer have it. Listen to his verbal and non-verbal responses. If you still don't feel confident and satisfied with the decision made you may end up waiting even longer. Are you willing to put your life on hold for someone who may just not be mature enough for that type of commitment any time soon?
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Sweetheart listen, \nI was in a relationship for thirteen years with someone that 25 years later still makes me weak in my knees and I let my family screw it up, but now I am married with 2 great kids and we live hundreds of miles away. My ex-lover and I still talk and I can not tell you how bad it hurts not to be held by her at night and the guilt I have for actually loving two different people so much and for different reasons. My mom would say "you are not gay" and I believe that you can't help with which person you fall in love with, and sweetie here is the deal if you are in love I mean really, really in love then love this person regardless. I know how hard it is to not fit into society but take it from an old broad love who YOU are and love the one you are with.