what do you do when your boyfriend or girlfriend has ADD/ADHD?
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be very patient and loving. my little sister has ADD, not quite the same thing but...love and understanding works well. try not to get upset when they just don't get it, be ready to repeat yourself.
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Well the first thing is to ask if you have hard time concentrating?  more than is normal?  do you misplace things often? it affects people in many different ways. For example, some people pace or walk around in circles unable to concentrate.  Others are amazingly hyper and totally out of control.  I guess what you really need to ask yourself is do you feel in complete control of your actions or to you do things impulsively without knowing why?  If you do you might have it?  Just a note.  Many doctors are very much against recognizing add and many are much more lenient so if you are not getting officially tested but are rather discussing it with a doctor first you should probably get a second opinion to make sure you are getting the correct treatment.
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Boyfriend, don't do it! \n\nBe blessed and don't jump into that forced mess.
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First, to the Tom Cruise above me, you can go shove off. No one gives a sh*t about your opinions when they actually live with this disorder. Besides, your "9/10" stat is totally made up and ADD and ADHD are both technically the same thing, as doctors now more formally diagnose people as ADHD-inattentive type, ADHD-hyperactive type, or ADHD-combined type.\n\nAs for the question, I'm just going to say...if the person hasn't gone to a psychiatrist and been formally diagnosed, they might as well do it. A psychiatrist can recommend some different wayts to concentrate, etc.
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Tell your boyfriend that you don't appreciate his friends "attentions".  That should cure it....
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Hi BooMom\n\nHere are some ideas to help the healing process.\n\n\n\nQuick Action Plan for ADHD/ADD-like Symptoms\n\n1. Avoid the use of dangerous pharmaceutical drugs, such as Ritalin and Adderal.\n \n2. Recognize that the majority of ADHD/ADD diagnoses are inaccurate, and can be based on little or no scientific evidence.\n \n3. If you, your child or teen suffer from ADHD/ADD-like symptoms, be sure to explore all possible factors that may be causing hyperactivity. Essential to consider is poor diet, nutritional imbalances, undiagnosed learning disabilities and/or vision problems, lack of emotional support, heavy metal toxicity, and food and environmental allergies, all of which should be screened for. \n\n4. Avoid all sugars, wheat products, refined carbohydrates, sodas, processed foods, preservatives, artificial sweeteners, corn syrup, alcohol, and hydrogenated and trans-fatty oils. \n\n5. Avoid foods high in salicylates such as apples, almonds, oranges, peppers, and tomatoes. \n\n6. Emphasize organic fresh fruits and vegetables, organic whole grains such as amaranth and quinoa, organic free-range meats, poultry, and wild-caught fish, and drink plenty of pure, filtered water. \n\n7. Nutritional supplements include vitamin B-complex, vitamin B3, vitamin B6, folic acid, essential fatty acids (EFAs), omega-3 oils, digestive enzymes, and probiotic supplements such as acidophilus and bifidus bacterium, tinctured zeolite and chlorella.\n \n8. Chamomile, linden flower, milk thistle, and red clover may be useful herbs. \n\n9. If heavy metal toxicity is a factor, consider working with a physician trained in the use of chelation therapy. \n\n10. Many excellent books on healing ADHD are available; we recommend "Children with Starving Brains" by Jaquelyn McCandless, M.D., and "A Path to Success" by Lawrence Weathers, Ph.D. \n\nCauses of ADHD/ADD-like Behavior\nA variety of factors can cause the hyperactivity symptoms that can lead to a diagnosis of ADHD or ADD. They include undetected learning disabilities, food and environmental allergies, gastrointestinal disorders such as leaky gut syndrome, systemic yeast overgrowth, known as Candidiasis, heavy metal toxicity, poor diet, nutritional imbalances, and emotional upsets such as those caused by family problems. In some cases, the problem can also be due to undetected vision problems, such as the need for eyeglasses for reading. The overuse of antibiotics, as well as vaccines and immunization, can also cause symptoms of hyperactivity and/or ASDHD/ADD. Antibiotics can trigger allergic reactions and cause the gastrointestinal tract to become depleted of healthy bacteria, leading to candidiasis, while vaccines can severely compromise a child's still- developing immune system, and cause other serious health problems, including neurological damage. (For more information about the health risks posed by vaccination, see The Dangers of Vaccination.)\n\nDiet: The most common dietary triggers of ADHD/ADD and hyperactivity are commercially processed foods that are high in sugars and artificial sweeteners, food additives and chemical preservatives. Another important factor is caffeine, which is found not only in colas, but also in many other types of sodas and bottled drinks, as well as chocolate products. Ironically, many school lunch programs across the country regularly provide school children with foods laced with caffeine, and with sugar. Moreover, many schools also earn revenues through affiliations with soda and candy manufacturers, by allowing the sale of soda and candies on site via vending machines.\n\nFoods high in salicylates, which are natural chemical substances found in foods such as apples, berries, almonds, oranges, and tomatoes, can also cause hyperactivity. Consider a rotation or elimination diet, removing these foods from the diet for 1-4 weeks while paying attention to behavioral changes or improvements in behavior.\n\nNutrition: One of the most common defi
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Your girlfriend needs treatment and it is probably too much for you to handle to be in a relationship like this (you didnt say your age).
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Get a doctor to prescribe the medicine they give to people with Attention Deficit Disorder.  You will also do better on your tests/exams if you take it before them too.
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I definitely have ADD.... ADHD, the inattentive type, not the hyperactive type.  I am a pediatric occupational therapist and I have a Master's degree.  My job allows me to be always moving (my body) around and keeping active.  I know if I had a desk job I would be falling asleep at work.  I would look for a career field that doesn't involve a lot of "sit at your desk and be quiet"-ness.  People with ADD/ADHD often need a lot more movement stimulation in their days in order to be functional.  If you're stuck with a desk job scenario, i would try to find opportunities for movement breaks throughout the day to re-energize your nervous system.
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Is there a way to do that?\nSome type of stimulant cream.\nFor your boyfriend--meaning you are not satisfied??????
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learn fro this experience\n\nBe true to your self\n\n\nBrake it off with your boyfriend. \nStart anew Everyone deserves to be treated with honesty, you have broken respect  for your relationship.
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Hello there!\nIt must have been hard to have found that out about your girlfriend after being together for 5 months. I must take medication regularly, and I had the same problem with letting people know I took it. You should feel honored that she shared that information with you. It is so hard to even tell anyone that you have a problem, let alone someone so close to you. She is basically taking an anti-depressant, which regulate the level of serotonin in her brain. A mental illness is a disease, like diabetes or hypertension. In order to control our mental illness, we take medication. Just as someone with diabetes must have insulin. When we don't take our meds, it can cause a recurrence of our symptoms--which often includes suicidal thoughts. If you really care about her, you could try and learn about her illness. Be there to support her. People are often inclined to selfish thoughts, thinking how bad they will feel and withdrawing from the very person that needs us. Everyone has some thing or another that we must "deal" with in a relationship. I have had many relationships when the person I was with could not handle the fact I had a problem. I dont' let it run my life and am very loving and responsible. I am sure people will tell you "horror stories" about their illnesses, and these do occur. You did become her boyfriend for a reason right? Focus on her positive qualities and support her. If you feel like you could not handle it, then the best thing to do is to leave the relationship. Good luck to you!
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get a 2nd opinion on the ADHD, it seams to be a lot of bull to me. doent matter how hyperactive or how little attentive someone may be, they concentrate on something. what ever that is can be used as a building block, i havent seen any of that stuff work. the meds just slow down brain function which is ultimatly bad for the entire body.
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My 16-year-old is on Concerta and my husband is on Stratera.\n\nThat doesn't really answer your question, but I read the answer about not breaking your daughter's spirit. I know there's a lot of controversy about ADD, and I don't want to get into all of that.  But my husband wasn't diagnosed until a couple of years ago, while he was working on his master's degree.  Since I don't suffer from it, I don't understand it and didn't think it was that big of a deal.  But my husband went from struggling to making straight A's. He told me how amazing it was for him to actually start something and then finish it without being upset with himself for needing to go a million different directions.\n\nSo, basically I just wanted to say good for you, for caring about your daughter and looking for the right thing to do for her.
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Ask your doctor about the meds and also ask if he can recommend a therapist. It sounds like counseling may help you two, alot. Good luck to you, I hope things work out.
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I went through something similiar to this and I put my foot down and told my boyfriend to either stop talking with her or I was history.  He stopped immediately and things are great now.  Sometimes you just have to lay down the law or they will keep doing stupid things because you allow them to get away with it.  Good Luck.
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I also have ADD.  I was told when I was 7.  I have been on medication ever since.  I am now 24. \n\nI also just graduated with a dergee in special education.  \n\nIf you have any questions or just want to talk feel free to email me at teddybear_1829@yahoo.com