My Mom Wants me to drop out of school..but i dont want to...what do i do?
450267
tell her its your life and you'll run it the way you want to.Your education is the most important thing in your life and when people drop out they tend to regret it later on in life.I'm a student myself and if mom ever said drop out I'd love to,but I'd still say no to it because I want a good,proper education.So tell her you don't want to and she should be supporting you and not turning against you.
450848
Don't you think that as a mother, your first priority is not to allow her to push you into getting her a job, but to concentrate on her studies?\nAt this age, if she concentrates too much on jobs instead of studies, she's not going to make a better life for you and herself in the future.\n\nMaybe you can try out giving her simple part-time jobs, like with the neighbours, something that can earn her a bit of pocket money, instil responsibility in her, and have flexible timings so that she can concentrate on her education.\nLike dog-walking, or lawn-mowing, gardening, etc.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
210580
Well, first of all, look at what you're scared of. Are you scared of the change? Friends? The teachers? The homework? Then ask yourself why you are scared, make a list of the things that scare you about them. Once you have that down on paper, it will seem like less of a challenge, and now you have a list of things you can work on to overcome. Dropping out is the easy thing to do, and really, no one gets far in this life without hard work. I know, last thing you want to hear, but you will not regret futhering your education. If you can absolutely not stand your classmates, talk to a counselor or a teacher and see if there is any way you can do independent studies/online/Saturday classes. There is always a solution to everything.
212288
Whatever you do, GET TO SCHOOL BEFORE IT CLOSES!!!  Tell your mom or your neighbor or a close friend.  You could try calling someone in your class who is not exactly your friend...maybe someone who you wouldn't normally talk to.
1006867
Sometimes, you just have to go.  You can't live your mothers life for all of yours.  You are 20 yrs old...it's time to get out and figure out what YOU want in life.  She might be upset, but chances are, she won't really disown you.
458498
Since she is saying you can't go out, I'm assuming you still live with her. I'd say what you need to do is move out. Two kids, a FT job and school is a pretty big amount of responsibility, yes, but if you're relying on her heavily as unpaid daycare and free rent, she will be able to continue to lord it over you and with a certain amount of justification.\n\nYou're sorta in a position where you've gotta pick your battles. You can attempt to sit down with her and have a mature conversation about how far you've come and what your future plans are, and that you do have a lot of responsibility, and you need time out with your friends to wind down now and then. I personally would either skip the tattoo for now - make it something that will be a 21st birthday present to yourself.\n\non the other hand, if i'm right that she is providing room, meals, and/or daycare to you free, you really AREN'T being a full-fledged adult. My advice to you is to move out and BE a grown up for real. I can tell you from personal experience that ANYONE can figure out a way to make this happen. find low-income housing, check in with WIC for help on some expenses, get the kids' dad to provide some support, etc. there are tons of resources out there if you look. To be a real adult you MAY have to go on welfare for a while, you may have to live in a much different type of situation than you are used to, but you'll be truly independent and self-sufficient. plus if you are no longer a dependent on your mother, she can't claim you on her taxes, which means you'll be totally seperate from you and you can start applying for need-based financial aid for school.\n\nNow, all this said, maybe you already are living on your own, she isn't babysitting or doing other stuff for you free, and she's just all up in your business. if that is the case, i'd just lay it on the line in no uncertain terms. i did that with my mother and we didn't talk for several months. she was furious that i would stand up to her. but i was totally on my own - she had no reason to rule my life. eventually she realized this and we're great now. and in your case, she'd probably come around sooner cause she'd miss the grandkids too. anyhow.\n\neither way, good luck. parents can be more exhausting than kids sometimes...
898100
it seems like mom doesn't like the way you keep changing your mind - to go to school, not to go to school.  if she's paying the bill for college, she's probably afraid it's a waste of money.  why don't you talk to a college counselor and get some advice on what you you should major in.  it really does help if you get focused on what you would like to become.  it would also show your mom that you are very SERIOUS in what you are planning with your life; and, with or without her help, you will graduate college - and, if need be, get a part time job to prove to her that you mean business...and, the biggest part - REALLY MEAN IT!  Show her that you are mature enough and keep going to school, once you start, until you graduate.  then mom and you can look back on these days of undecided and laugh-knowing you made the right decision.  let me be the first to congratulate the college graduate (a little, premature, i know, but i bet you get there.)\n good luck!
36649
Maybe she is depressed or doesnt feel confident about going 2 school dont pressure her just see first what the root of the problem may be... and remind her how much u love her and believe in her... and set a good example in things u do by making good choices... u never know she might just need some time to get herself together... some people just cant do the school thing but have her check with school officials there are other options... in our school district we have an alternative school... more relaxed atmosphere and no homework... they do all their work 2gether in a smaller classroom group... we also have a high school supported program where they can get their GED and still walk across the stage with peers... just be a friend that is all u can do... good luck
31690
Well I'm sure that a lot of these people are going to tell what a mistake it is to drop out of school. I'm not! I encourage it for you. The reason being, that only a Moron would even consider such a thing. I sure can't see wasting hard earned tax dollars on a moron. So start flipping dem burgers and find you a place out at Barney's trailor park  and have a nice life.
459145
You can't do anything in regards to your parents. BUT I say stay in school get educated and then move out on your own. If your father is wrong then give your mom support. And right now, from what you have supplied here your dad is dead wrong.
442524
apply for a job at the store now and ask to start when classes get out. that way you guarantee yourself a summer job. that way she'll stop nagging you hopefully.
852994
lay down the law with her. tell her that for not getting good grades or not doing it u can take away priviledges. that should persuade her. if not, tell how much it hurts u to see her get bad grades. tell her u want to see her succeed in life and that she cant do that without doing her homework.  also, dont just take away priveledges, set aside time to check up on her. if she is doing badly, lower her allowance or take away more valued priveledges, like friends or phone. then again u dont want her to hate u, so dont come down hard on her the 1st time. but if the bad behavior and grades continue, start getting stricter. she needs to know you mean when u say it. if u say 'the next time you get a C or lower, your grounded', when she gets a C, follow up on it. she'll probably remember those words and say to herself ' moms not serious about this grade thing'. ur words need to be powerful, but not overwhelming.
801347
Make some lists...for and against each school.  Then think about living with your family...or living with your grandma....another list for and against.  Make sure you talk to your grandma about the  rules and expectations of her home.   Then talk to your mom again.   this is the first of many hard decisions you will have to make in your life...think also about what high school may look better to any college you are thinking of attending....Good luck.
933603
First, you need to calm down.  You cannot change the past - only learn from your mistakes (your failed grades).  Second, I would say maybe put the boyfriend thing on hold.  That can be a huge distraction.  What use is he if you cannot even share your problems with him?  He is probably sucking a lot of energy & emotion out of you & you don't need that.  You are too young.  Try to stay focuse on your goals - to continue getting good grades & yes, to make your parents proud.  They are paying for your education and that is no small responsibility.  Don't stay away from home -  you need to be around your family.  You need to make peace with them & get over the bad feelings before they grow and get worse.  Don't punish your little brother because you don't want to deal with your parents.  That is silly.  Not going to his swim meet is a choice that you have made (b/c ur mad at your parents??) so don't blame your parents for that!  Go home, tell them you are sorry for letting them down.  Ask for an opportunity to explain the situation & ask them to forgive you.  Tell them you feel overwhelmed & that you will continue to work hard.  That is all parents want to hear - you taking responsibility, not making excuses & not placing blame.\n\nWhen you feel so overwhelmed & don't know where to turn - pray and ask God for help & for direction.  He answers prayers.
827964
Go to a community college for a year, make sure your grades are good, and then go wherever you want.  Tell your counselor that enouragement like theirs has no place in the education system.
1012581
It's great that your parents are encouraging you to seek further education.  You say you love them too much to hurt them.  That's hard to deal with but you must.\n\nYou know what you want from your education.  You want to seek it in a larger community.  Maybe the larger school offers more of what you are looking for education wise.\n\nAre they saying they won't help pay for tuition if you don't go to the smaller school?  If that's not an issue, research the school you want to attend, make arrangements for a campus visit, and sit down and share this with your parents.\n\nA good admissions advisor will help your parents understand the reasons for your wanting to attend this school.\n\nIf they won't pay for your education anywhere else, there are still Pell grants, scholarships, and student loans.  You could also apply for work study and earn money that way.\n\nIt's your education and your future.  Go for it.
128058
Talk to a guideance couselor of somesort at your school, as i am assuming you are underaged.  They can help you become emancipated. \n\nIf you dont want to talk to your guideance couselor, your doctor might be able to help you as well, they are trained for that.