why should parents not choose your mate?
441122
Your parents know things you have not yet experienced.
1043389
dont listen of all of them are u going to run to this man tell him marry me as my parents are forcing me to get married?haha hes going to be a man dont do that.during this time dont be in touch with this guy tell ur parents i wont get married now go off get a new job move to a new place then date man u love if not find a nice guy get married settle down marriage should be based on love and marriage shouldnt be for any other reason then two people themselves wanting to spend their life together not parents.
543976
Why do you have to keep it from your parents in the first place? There is shame in liking someone and dating them it is part of life.
3725
Well that depends on what your parents think about you dating. If they donn't care then tell them. If the do care then you shouldn't be dating ANYBODY!
869757
I'm not real sure why. I am not religious, but I also would not have a child unless I was married. I think its a better upbringing for a child to have two wed parents. Just my opinion...
805300
i don't think its your parents decision. its up to you to decide if you want to join or not.
1015937
There is no evidence to suggest that being raised by gay parents "affects" a child; not mentally, not physically, and not sexually. There is no good reason to keep two loving, stable parents from raising a child, especially when life in the foster system is pretty much GUARANTEED to screw a kid up (I'd take my chances with a gay couple anyday!). And, it is a fact that homosexual couples tend to be more stable and earn more money, thus being able to take better care of the kid than some Catholic family with six kids.\n\nAnd I completely agree with King when he said that there is too much emphasis on who can adopt and not nearly enough on who can breed.
759201
Usually, if the parents are decent people. Many children would be better off if they had no contact with either parent.\n\nIn societies where parenting is more an age-grade thing than actual biology, children have many parents, and are probably the best adjusted psychologically of any.
96487
Probably because he loves you and thinks that would be best for you. Parents can be strange like that sometimes. :)
528458
You don't. While it is admirable that you wish to honor your parents by doing their wishes, you need to lead your own life.  There no sence in getting into a relationship where you know you won't be happy.  It's time to break the cycle and make your own decisions.  I understand your parents would be disappointed and possibly disown you,and I mean no disrespect towards them, but,in my opinion your child's happiness should come first even if it means not marrying the person you feel they should.
901937
I don't think wanting to get married or not is genetic...\n\nPerhaps their parents or grandparents had a bad marriage and it ruined the idea for them? And they can all get married yet! They're lives aren't over.
295283
Really not enough info.  As stated by another, where are you looking?  Some people are attracted to 'bad boys' and reject the good ones.  There is also a term called learned helplessness.  It may not apply to you, as I said, lack of info, but people who have that problem are attracted to people who will abuse them, treat them like dirt, etc.   You may need couseling if that is true.  Often, it is rooted in abuse from a parent.  Sometimes, you look for your father in someone and, if your father was cruel, etc., you still end up being drawn to them.  Guys marry their mothers, women marry their fathers.  (figuratively speaking)
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I dont think we can know how each individual arrived at their point of homosexuality. I wonder myself, but I guess there are causes and choices.\n\nMaybe it's different for everyone, and there are lots of causes that sometimes converge, like biology and choice and upbringing. Theres no doubt you can choose to try it, but some people will be more predisposed than others for whoever knows what reason?\n\nSome theorists think that having a rejecting parent of, interestingly, the opposite sex, can cause problems with accepting own sexuality. \nIf this happens then an individual can try to gain their parents acceptance by rejecting their own sexuality which they are just becoming aware of as well as their parents sexual identity. The anger and humilitation the child feels at rejection is turned inward towards the percived cause of that rejection, their own differing sexual identity. The child misses out on the process of learning to accept their sexual identity because they percieve they are not acceptible as they are.\n\nOther that that, I think people have isolated a supposed "gay gene" that may be involved.\nTheres probably lot of reasons including just wanting to try everything which is kind of daft and might lead you to places you really dont want to be! \nlike in the arms of your best friend! Either way I think there is an element of freewill for some people but not for others.
117350
Education and your parents have failed you.\n\nO Darwin, we pray to you that this man never mates and his genes leave the gene pool.  We know you will grant us this.
529492
BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT THEM TO BE PARENTS BEFORE THEIR TIME.  THEY KNOW THAT IN REAL LIFE IF SOMETHING LIKE THEIR DAUGHTERS BECOMING PREGNANT BEFORE MARRIAGE THERE IS A STRONG POSSIBILITY THAT THEY WILL BE SINGLE PARENTS. AND NO ONE WANTS THAT FOR THEIR DAUGHTER. THEY MIGHT GIVE YOU OTHER REASONS BUT THAT IS DEFINITELY IN THE BACK OF THEIR MIND AT ALL TIMES.
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Not unless you want to be the only person who is responsible and you have lots of money.  Kids are expensive and take a LOT of time.\n\nAlso, are you ready to do some major explaining if the child wants to know why he/she has only one parent?  They will ask a lot of questions and might resent that they have only one parent as they get older.\n\nIf you're okay with all of that, or if you have a mate who will hang around but you just don't want to get a marriage license, go for it.  Weddings are just ceremonies, they don't change much of anything except in your mind.
283094
There really wasn't a time I decided not to.  I just never wanted to, and I've never changed my mind.  I can only think of 2-3 reasons why I'd want to have one, and they aren't good enough.  1.  To see what they look like.  2.  To have someone to take care of me when I'm old (no guarantees they'll outlive me or like me!) 3.  To name them (that's why I have cats).\n\nAs for what qualities good parents possess...there are so many.  Some that stand out are fairness, patience, love, understanding, authority.\n\nWhat would make me a good parent - this goes along with what would make me a bad parent!  My selfishness (bad) could possibly cause my children to be independent and self-sufficient.  After all, if mommy won't cook for them, they'll have to learn how to, right?