is it just infatuation???
308802
Infatuation is instant desire. it is one set of glands calling to other. Love is friendship that has caught fire. it takes root and grows-one day at a time\ninfatuation is marked by feeling of insecurity. You r excited and eager but not genuinely happy. there r nagging questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely.it might spoil the dream\nlove is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.it is real.it gives u streanth n grows beyond you-to bolster ur beloved.u r warmed by his/her presence,even when he/she is away.miles do no seprate u.you want him/her nearer.but near or far,u know he/she is urs n u can wait.\ninfatuation says,'we must get married right away.I can't risk loosing him/her'.\nLove says 'be patient. dont panic.plan ur future with confidence'.\ninfatuation has an element of sexual excitement.if u r honest u will admit itis difficult to be in one anothers company unless u r sure it will end in intimacy.love is maturation of friendship.u must be frnds before u can be lovers.\nInfatuation lacks confidence.when he/she is away u wonder if he/she is cheating.sometimes u check.\nlove means trust.u r calm,secure and unthreatened.he/she feels that trust,and it makes him/her even more trustworthy.\nInfatuation might lead u to do things u'll regret later,but love never will.\nlove is upper.it makes u look up,it makes u think up,it makes u a better person than u were before.
418787
Looking it up in the dictionary, "infatuation" means "to inspire foolish or extravagant love or admiration."\n\nI had one... once. And hopefully never - ever - again. This is because, I think, when you have an infatuation you tend to gild over the really bad qualities of the person (say, lying, cheating, etc.) instead of really seeing and/or considering the person for what he/she is. Then again... love may cause you to do that as well.\n\nUnfortunately, there truly is no obvious difference between them (for me, anyway). I think, truly, you just gotta rely on your common sense and what-not to know what's right and what's lustful.
6955
Well it is tricky.. but you can fall in love with what this person seems to represent but once face to face the are several new details to enter in to equation including physical and personal characteristics and habits...things are different up front..so true love?...nope.
527647
I have never fallen in love so cannot help. But, as far as I listened from my friends the best way to get sure that one is in love is to check if u have similar feelings towards other guys like him and what life means to you without him ;)
406374
Definitely not, we all have a first love, and more times than not this is not the person you end up with for the rest of your life.  Love like many other things in this world comes in many forms, from puppy love to the all time passionate love we see in romantic movies, but somewhere in between those two is real love.\n(Infatuation--Love--Obsession)
37081
Love is a power ful thing!  When in love your life tends to rovolve around the relationship.  Decisions are made with the other person in mind, you anticipate the next time you will see them, you introduce them to your friends and family, bring them to major events, stick with them through tough times, know as much as you can learn about them.  It may not be the same for everyone but it's always close.  In short you just know.\n\nAlso infatuation wont last long.
526463
You try to get to know him.  I am willing to bet that once you have had a few conversations with him you will realize that hes not all that you expected.  You are infatuated with him right now, and he doesn't get it?  chances are he never will sweetie.
6650
Sure.\n\nSome people gradually fall for someone and some people find themselves falling for someone much quicker.\n\nIt's all in how much time you can spend together and how well things click between the two of you.\n\nBut, I would also say that often times what people label as 'falling in love' is nothing beyond a strong infatuation.\n\n//
665228
It's only natural to have feeling for someone you cared deeply about...sometimes you have feelings for them the rest of your life. That doesn't mean you want to be with them though. Move on...I'm sure he is.
409182
Yes i think its possible....Its your own love, people cant decide your feelings for you.\n\ngood luck
483152
I would suspect that if he doesn't know that you exist, then what you have is not love but affection, or perhaps infatuation.  that is okay, there is nothing wrong, but it is important to recognize the difference.  Regardless, there is but one thing you can do.  talk to him.  You must put the question in the light and let the dialogue lead you.  If you cannot do this, then you must recognize the crush for what it is, and regrettably move on.  Likely, there will be many more to consider and further oppurtunities to embrace.
510426
I am in the same boat. There is this guy who I am totally falling for, but we are taking things slow...as in just friends for now...slow. We talk, we laugh, we just have fun, we have so much in common, including our birthdays...LOL. I would take it as a definite sign that you are head over heels in love and that you just want to spend every waking moment with that person. Don't worry, you're not alone, I know exactly how you feel right now.
1001509
Infatuations will never cease.  It is what you do with these feelings that counts.  It is never wrong to love someone.  It is always wrong to break your vows.
8726
It's an awe. When you watch someone and love their mannerisms, their words, the way their mind clicks, their reactions, their little idiosyncracies.... you realize that you are just in awe. We fall in love because experiences have taught us how to appreciate those things we see in another. Usually we fall in love with someone that has the kind of traits that complement what you have in your life. Love isn't really complicated. It's honestly so simple. But it's rare.....very rare. So once we find it.....we tend to want to cling to that feeling and that person forever.  :)
626137
r u really in love or is it lust? dont mess up a good friendship
1036459
Yes, we all can be in love with many aspects of a person and not lust for them...it is an unsatisfying affair, at best. Your "friend" is looking for someone to take care of him, not a whole lot more. Relationships are built on less, I suppose. Not for me, not my diea of an affair...to each his own.
595803
Sounds like a real love "crush" and the only way to know if its the real thing is to get to know the guy.  You know more about his details then all of us do, so start using what you know to be around him and then strike up a polite conversation.  Smile, dress nicely, you know--flirt a little.  See how he reacts.  Sometimes these things need time and effort, so don't be hasty.  My husband took a whole year before telling me how much he liked me and now we've been happily married for 16 years.  Good luck and remember to take long, slow deep breaths whenever you feel like you're gonna pass out, OK?  :)