my wife attacked me but I went to jail, judge saw video I was dismissed how can I charge my wife with assault?
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Just press charges against her.  Have her arrested.  and Maybe see a divorce lawyer if you don't see no future with her
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I doubt that incident will make a judge decide to give you custody.\nIt helps your case that he didn't see her. I doubt he'll even go to jail, but I don't have the details I need to make that decision. You are right not to expect too much. The DA will make a decision as to whether this matter will be brought to court. It sounds like you kept your part of the order when you sent your daughter to visit him. Did you know that your son would not be allowed? Did you send your son knowing that your x would not allow that? I am not trying to be dispectful, but am trying to point out possiblies. If you can afford it, hire an attorney to help  you with the matter.
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i suggest you call the justice of the peace, and file another complaint on the events, then he will have to go to court and explain the eevents, and with you having the restraining order, the judge will sentence.
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It really depends where you are and the consequences of the assault even if you were in the car while it occurred.\n\nBest case: slight punch, no wounds, no previous conviction, spur-of-the-moment kinda things. You'll get away with a probation asking you to keep the peace for a few months.\n\nWorst case: the guy beated the living daylight out of the vic, you've done this before, you planned it. All bets are off, you could get prison time.\n\nWithout the jurisdiction, I can't give a better estimate.
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I have been there. My ex-wife accused me of abuse..the part she didn't tell was she had a boy friend and she wanted lot's of $$$$.\nThank God she didn't win..it was thrown out of court..I wish I had it on video tape. She became confused in her story. I could have got some very serious time in jail. I could have sued the hell out of her..but I let it go
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You should call the police...unless you killed her.  In that case, call a lawyer.
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Consult a lawyer.  Document everything in regards to the offense and shore up your alibis.
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You know, I suspect you're not going to get many takers on this one.  You've got a lot of issues here that are very involved and nobody who knows what they are talking about is going to be able to give you an answer based on the "facts" you've presented here.\n\nRather than try to answer your question, let me ask you some more:\n\nWhat do you define as arguing?  Was it strictly verbal or was there any physical touching whatsoever?  \n\nWere any threats of any kind made during the argument?\n\nYou said the police saw marks on you from "making up"...which, frankly, is very suspicious to an old cop like me.  But the question is, what kind of marks?  Are you talking about a hickey or a bruise?\n\nWhen the police interviewed your husband, what did he say?  Did he perhaps admit to doing something that would have violated the law in your state?  And please - if you did not personally hear the interview between your husband and the police, you do not *know* what was said...you might know what your husband told you later, but if you didn't hear it for yourself, you don't know.\n\nDon't know if you're asking a question about the city or the state prosecuting, but if you are: not unusual for the state to prosecute a domestic violence charge, even if the victim denies it or changes their story later.\n\nIf you told the police the marks on you were from "making up", then they did take a statement from you.  Once you said that, the police may have felt that was all the statement they were going to get out of you - especially if the marks they saw were not consistent with what you said was "making up" (for example: most people don't make up by leaving bruises, swollen lips, scratches, black eyes, etc...if those are the marks you're talking about, I'm with the cops on this one).\n\nIf you had marks, the police certainly should have taken photos of them.  Some types of minor injuries don't show well in photos (especially depending on the equipment) so they may not have thought photos were worthwhile or they just simply didn't take them.  What were your "marks"?\n\nYou're asking what the odds are that he'll be found guilty based on what you say is the officer's testimony and your statement in defense of your husband.  Can't answer that one because neither you nor I have all the facts, I suspect.\n\nWhat did the neighbors say (or more importantly, do the neighbors have something to say; did they hear threats, did they hear physical violence, did they hear you say something that would suggest you were being victimized)?\n\nWhat did he say?  Maybe without meaning to, he admitted to a crime.  He wouldn't be the first person to do so...and if the cops were skillful interviewers, they may have obtained an admission or confession from him without him realizing he was doing so.\n\nWhat is the crime of domestic violence in Virginia?  You were smart to include that you're in that state because it certainly makes a difference (and unfortunately, I'm not from there).\n\nDo the police know you and your husband?  Either of you been arrested for domestic violence before?  \n\nBottom line: way too many "what-if's" for anyone to give you an educated answer to your question.  Depending on the answers to the questions I've asked, the chances of him being found guilty could be very good, or very poor.\n\nAnd finally: I've investigated domestic violence crimes for over 18 years as a police officer.  I hope everything you wrote here is absolutely true...that you were not the victim of domestic violence, and that you are as safe today as the day you were born.  I hope nobody ever lays a hand on you, threatens you, or abuses you.  However, what you've written here (and what I suspect your answers to some of my questions might be) is some of the most commonly-expressed statements I've heard from domestic violence vi
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THERE WOULD JUST BE A FINE IMPOSED, 10 DAYS-JAIL TIME & 60 HOURS OF COMMUNITY SERVICE DEPENDING ON STATE YOU RESIDE IN, POSSIBLY; MAYBE THE FAMILY MEMBER COULD/WOULD DROP THE CHARGES & JUST A FINE; AGGRAVATED ASSAULT IS PRETTY SERIOUS THOUGH..HOPE THINGS CAN BE WORKED OUT, MAYBE THE ASSAULTER NEEDS SOME COUNSELLING.
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from my experience, he is in contempt of court by not following the judges orders.  this is pretty devious but it was done to me and it worked wonders...have an order of protection put on him and request custody of your daughter.  order of protection are much more than a restraining order.  police action will be taken anytime you request.  of course all you have to do is tell your lawyer or just go to the special victims unit and that you feel your life is in danger or has been threatened.  he will be screwed.  it still haunts me.  police used to call my cell phone and ask we i was at the moment.  all because she said i drove by the house.  none of what she told the police was true, and it didn't matter.  that order of protection sucks.  anytime he violates it, automatic 10 days in jail.  its dirty but its one way to stick it to him.  good luck.  oh, and there was no investigation to see if she was even telling the truth.  they just issued it and enforced it.
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Start out by reporting her for disturbing the peace. Do it every time she starts screaming at you. If they won't come out and do anything about it, this is what you do. Go to the Police Dept during regular business hours and file a complaint regarding lack of response on your problem. Tell them that you feel threatened by this woman. Keep a journal of every time you call and everything she does. Write down dates and times for everything. After you have several calls down and several incidents recorded, go to your city or county courthouse and ask the clerk of court about filing for a protection order. A protection order says that she can no longer attempt to communicate with you in any way. She can still yell at your husband or guests, but not you. Once you are at that level, go to your apartment managers again with copies of all this information. Still can't get rid of her? Take your info to an attorney for civil matters. You may have a nice case for a lawsuit. You may also want to have your husband file for a protection order as well. Hopefully you get a good repsonse from the police and she starts getting tickets for disturbing the peace. Do you know her name? You can check with the county courthouse and get her criminal record if she has one. Check with them and see what they will charge you for the information. In my area it's ten dollars for anybody's info. Build up and save your evidence and you should see her going bye bye, before long. If I can be of any further assistance, let me know.
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You probably can prepare to be arrested and charged with domestic violence.....Enjoy!
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depends on a lot of factors. Is husband claiming it was not an accident? was it in city limits? there are many variables in a case like that, but considering it's her VERY first offense, and she claims it was an accident, I see no reason why the judge wouldn't R.O.R. her (release on own recognicense sp?) It depends on many things, but remember you only have to pay 10-12% of the bond amount, which probably won't be any more than $10,000 worst case.
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try to call and explain to them what happen and get a answer from the courts, you might have a warrent out for your arrest,or you can go to the court house and see the judge and explain but have at least a 100.00 dollars for bail
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***breaking the law w/ someone else's permission does NOT make it right.  you should've known it was a set up if indeed it did happen the way u say.  it's your word against hers and it doesn't sound like she's exactly on your side right now.
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Your first mistake was giving a cell phone to a punk 12-year-old. \n\nUnless you are planning on divorcing your wife, the woman who is your mother-in-law is going to STAY your mother-in-law. That being said, you have a few options:\n\nOption 1: Do not retaliate against her. She knows what she did was wrong. Instead, focus all of your energy on getting right with your 12-year-old, including - and maybe most importantly - counseling, to help the child figure out what is behind all the self-destructive behavior. Sounds to me like this is one angry kid, and, given the dysfunctionality of your family, I can't say I blame the child. Sounds like there is a lot to be angry about.\n\nOption 2: Get a lawyer and file charges of false reporting (which lead to your arrest) against your mother-in-law. You may be awarded compensatory damages like loss of wages and defamation of character (which is pretty hard to prove). This result would put a few sheckles in your pocket, but will certainly do nothing to bring any peace to the family. By bringing charges against your mother-in-law, you will effectively drive a wedge between her and your wife, which may already exist and will certainly be made worse by this action. You have to decide if it is "worth it" in the long run. It is highly unlikely that your mother-in-law will be sentenced to any jail time, so, put that revenge pipe-dream to rest.\n\n3. File action(s) in Court to prevent your mother-in-law from having contact with your children. This will likely not be granted, as one of your kids is already in her custody. The best you can hope for is that the Court will agree that the woman is somehow a threat to the children and will mandate that her visitation with the children be supervised. \n\nCourts make decisions based on what THEY perceive to be "in the best interests of the children". Judges have seen it all and don't really care how mad you are about what happened. Your best bet, in the long run, would be to arrange for family counseling. This action on your part will go a long way to show a Judge that you, too, are taking the children's best interest to heart, and putting their welfare ahead of your own agenda.\n\nI understand why you are so mad. YOU need to understand that your anger - while justified - will likely not get you anywhere given the way Courts look at things these days. Keep a level head and you will be more likely to prevail. One last thing - my own personal experience in Family Court is - the one with the most expensive lawyer "wins". Sad & disgusting, but true.
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first thing first...you better have a damn good lawyer....someone like Jhonnie Cochran (he's dead so dont even bother trying to find him, besides you wouldnt be able to afford him)....anyways...you gonna needs tons of evidence to prove your marriage was in good faith.....here are few thing you will definitely need:\n\nJoint bank accounts \npast 2-3 yrs of joint federal tax return\nApartment or house lease or deed showing both your names\nutility bills such as electric, phone, cable showing both ur names\nTons of pictures before and after marriage of you and your spouse together\nPay stubs of you and your husbands showing same residence address\nIf you have a baby with him....that a definite plus\nJob letter from both your employers showing your marital status and income as well as other information like hire date etc...\n\nummm...thats all i could think of for now....there is more....and the more proof you can provide the better it is....\n\nas for proof of spousal abuse...well if you get a beat down to a pulp and you hv tons of bruises ...and you go the police station to report the physical abuse with evidence (showing bruises) .....having a filed complaint with police if you husband allegedly beat you then that might help...but then again...that wouldnt work...because if you're lying and get caught....since ur already in trouble for cheatin on your husband with another guy...the bottom line is ...you're in trouble...no ifs and buts about it...i suggest you resolve any animosity you have with you husband as he is clearly the only one who can save you from all this trouble....like i said before in another one of your question...you screwed yourself...don't go blaming your husband for you falling "out' of love with him...