can people really change???
436094
People can and do change.\n\nBut don't set your watch to it.
59782
When you notice that you are changing yourself to accomodate that other person, then it's gone too far.  I was once in an abusive relationship that I changed myself for, stopped talking to my friends and family and was completely miserable.  Someone who loves you will not try to change who you are.
1137889
I think this requires a great deal more than just changing someones beliefs. You have to get them to see that what you are saying is in thier best interest, and not just a selfish change that you want them to make to meet your personal need. But, on a root level I do agree you do have to get them to believe they need to change.
946021
Good to know I am not the only gullible, trusting, honest person out here.  I wouldn't want to change to be more like them as I sleep better at night knowing I did not try to screw someone out of their self worth.  Also, it will catch up with them in the end, as they will want happiness, but it will not come.  Being like WE are also makes me strong in my convictions, which people like THEM are not.  We can stand for what we want, love, believe in, hate, etc.  They live a lie all the time, they are what everyone wants them to be.  It would suck to be that way to me, as being myself makes me so much more independent.
1133687
Everyone is supposed to improve as they grow. Some people make the wrong choices and go backwards. I am trying to read self-help books daily, call someone I need to keep in touch with daily, and improve my other habits. But without going through an awkward phase as a youth, you won't be greatful for the changes and the improvement as an adult.
501854
I've known stubborn set-in-their-ways people who were 7-years old.  I've known enthusiastic, open-minded, ready to learn and take on new challenges people in their 90s.  My guess is that people are who they are and the years just pile on after that, and it's who they are deep down that will see them open to change or not.\n\nBut my opinion isn't written in stone.  I'm open to changing it.\n\n;)
730177
To acheive this, you 1st have to change human nature. Good luck!
522205
Not my current one but I have in the past. It can definitely be hard with some people. I always encourage people to try if they can because it can really open up the amazing possibilities.
1008860
Uh, no.  Who would be able to make the change?
396905
Every human has his or her limitations.  No one is perfect.  No one has the power to change someone. When we accept people as they are we are opening the doors in learning something new.  Everyone has a story to tell. A life that has been lived.
1126829
Well, it is never easy to change! Just try to be more tough, to make people respect you and do not let anyone to use you, because of that you are too good! It is not fair.....
492891
In therms of my body, I don't think I would change any part of me becoz God in his love and infinite wisdom created me how he wanted and to change something would show disrespect. Not to mention the fact that those changes are only temporary becoz eventually the problem may reoccur or may get worse.\n\nAs it relates to my personality, I love it because i'm a really nice person and I love to help ppl but unfortunately for me, not every 1 else I meet is like that so in a sense I would have to toughen up a bit but it can be challenging at times.
708866
no one can change anyone.a person can only change when they feel the need to do so.
1036876
If I were to change one event in my life, I would choose this one instance in time to stand up for myself, despite all the pressure and fear. \n\nI would not be the same person I am today. I would have learned my lesson earlier instead of later. Even if I failed at the choices I made, it would have made all the difference to stand behind my decisions. \n\nI don't think I would look different.  \n\nI don't understand the last question. "only do it to one person"? You mean like avoid a person in my previous life? Well, I wouldn't do that. I'd choose to meet and engage in all the people and relationships I've met and engaged in so far. Of course, if I made the change, there would be people I wouldn't meet. But I wouldn't "only do it to one person ".
40754
I dont think that they will ever change. The reason i believe that is becuase the world is made up of different people and thats what makes you, you and me, me and jim down the road... jim down the road! Everyone is intialed to think as they want too, no matter how stupid it is. As long as we keep outcasting different cultures, countries, religion, etc... the more things will stay the same. I wish we all could believe the same and think alike, but in a way i dont cuz thats what makes us, us. Its nice to be different... its just not nice to judge. I think thats where alot of us go wrong.
97100
You can't stop it, everything changes.  Traditional Values will never come back.  People don't move backwards.  There has never been a case in all of history of a group of people renouncing their current values for the actual values of the past.
1049885
i personally believe that people can change. i hope that ur fiance can too. maybe talking about it and ur fears with him will make u feel better. \ngood luck