Why does a decision between career and relationship be the end of one or the other?
453726
Because bothe dont go together they are born enenemies
1004857
Sounds like you two have reached a crossroad in your relationship.  You two need to talk and decide if what you each want in life is the same or if it is time to go your separate ways.  Some times as your growing up in a relationship two people simply grow apart in terms of what is important for the future.  I think this may be what has happened here.  If you two can't talk this out and come to an agreement about what this relationship should be and the rules and expectations regarding it then you have reached the end.
154263
Neither really--it may sound cliche, but there is a time and place for meaningful relationships, and at other times you need the less complicated "meaningless" relationships.  I think what is more important is knowing what your needs are.  If you are not having the realationships you want, then things need to change.  If you are enjoying your life, whether in meaningful or meaningless relationships, then no change is required.  You should feel no guilt about NOT being in a really deep connection with someone.  It may not be the time for that in your life.
977077
Life is full of risks; everything you do is risky. Every time you breathe in and out you are taking a risk that the air is clean and will not kill you. And you survive. You continue to breathe. \nWell, with relationships you have to decide if the risk is worth it. Make a decision and then stick with it. DO NOT look backwards. We can all look back and say 'if only...' but there is no point. You must make the best of whatever decision you do make and enjoy the resultant happenings. YOU have to be in control of your life, not the other way round. Make the decisions, enjoy the results and be in control. Life is great fun if you are. Remember, you are only here once; it should be as happy and as fun as possible. BE IN CONTROL!!!!
535940
Sorry, the relationship is done.\n\nSilent is not the best way to finish a relation, but it works.
182130
If you are breaking up with them because you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that there is no way to work things out then...you are exiting a bad situation and that is a good thing.  It's not a fun thing and it hurts like hell but if it's the right thing to do then unfortunately you just have to do it.  Then you just have to pick up the pieces and move forward.  They forgot to give some of us the manuals on Life is not going to be perfect.
201620
No offense, but if you have to ask, niether relationship is probably a good one. When you truely love somone, there is no doubt in your mind as to what decision to make in this type of situation.
662003
Being in a relationship is a commitment not only in terms of the relationship and to that person but also in terms of time and a life style change.  Maybe a guy just isn't ready to change his life or commit to just one person at this stage in his life.
438253
The problem with deciding for her is that she may rebel.  If she chooses herself then she has to prove that it was the right decision.  If you choose, she can go about proving that it was the wrong choice.  She is more involved and committed if you let her choose.  It's not the end of the world.  She can change back later.  Art school graduates can do academic stuff in college.  She's not really deciding for the rest of her life.  They change their majors all the time.  My boyfriend calls it "malicious compliance" which is what you often get when you dictate something like this.
942755
The ideal would be for people to choose a career where they are passionate about. But people are different.  \n\nMany people go through life without even knowing what their passion is. So they go to the next best thing which is to do what they feel offers the best future for them\n\nOr they know their passions, but lacked the courage to pursue it.  Maybe it's too risky, too offbeat, or parents/friends frown upon it. Hence they simply do "what is expected of them" by everyone else and stay to the path of choosing a career based on earnings and social status.\n\nSome belatedly discover their passions in life so they simply pursue a career that they think will offer them a good return; or maybe pursue their next-best thing. I interviewed a former editor of National Geographic magazine, who quit his job at the age of 52. At that time, he discovered that his passion is not writing, but pottery. He bought a farm house in Virginia and pursued his passion of becoming a potter. He now exhibits his works and participates in craft shows.
477537
Our life can be divided in different step. Every step needs different stuff and so there will be the time when the friendship will be more necessary than other things.\nThen it just comes the time of the true love and often friendship goes in the background. They both are important with different meaning and purpose. Obviously if I have to choose the love will be my firm choice!
117758
One aspect of a healthy relationship is happiness, and if you are always catering to his wants then you can't be happy. I'm sure that there is someone out there that will respect you choices and willing  to meet you half way when it comes to making sacrifices. My personal opinion is that you can do better, but you are the only one that cane make the final decision of whether or not you should leave.
541989
I think everyone who is committed feels like they want to be free sometimes.  You have to realize that you are committed and before you go to someone else you have to end what your in the middle of FIRST.  Being in a relationship is worth it but you have to work hard at it.  AND BE FAITHFUL.
1150786
It sounds like right now you shouldn't choose either.  You need to take some time to yourself and figure out what you really want. Otherwise you're going to end up getting hurt or hurting them in the process.
572705
If two people do get as involved as you want then emotions are inevitable.  Even if two people try to make a commitment to not get emotionally attached it is next to impossible for one or both of them to stay emotionally distant.  Taking long walks usually means there is a commitment of some sort.  You want a physical relationship with no strings attached right?  Well it never works out.  One way or another emotions are going to get evolved.  If not the luvy-duvy type then the angry type.  Unfortunately many people have an idea as to what the ideal relationship is.  The guy is supposed to be the bread winner or the woman is supposed to cook and clean and many other things like that.  Everyone wants to pick and choose what happens when two people get together, but because the two people are different people then this is impossible.  You can't just pick and choose exactly what you want when you're with someone.  You want all the physical, but no emotional aspects of a relationship and unfortuantely for you it can't be done.
1008380
I don't know if by "it's a commitment" you mean engagement or marriage, but if you (or the other person) isn't feeling it anymore, than something has to change. If you are married, perhaps seeing a counselor would be a good first step into figuring things out because you don't want to seperate what God put together, but if it's an engagement or long-term relationship, perhaps a break would be in order. It's cliched, and a lot of people feel it's a softer term for break up, but if you are truly not happy with the person, you shouldn't stay with them. They obviously still love you and want that feeling back, but you can't give it to them, and that's not fair to either of you. It forces you to be fake to give them what you want and ultimately will make things worse. It's never easy to leave someone you've spent so much time with and you feel a connection with, but I think in being honest with yourself, you'll know what to do. Even if you stay with the person, try some new things or think back to what you did when the relationship began and change things up a bit... a lot of people get "bored" in relationships when things get too comfortable and familiar, so shake things up and see if that breathes life into it. Still, if that doesn't work or you really just don't feel the way anymore, part of loving someone is being honest with them, and if you still care about this person even a little you should be honest about how you feel. Blessings,\n\nBrian
1051202
Relationships are always tough. I have found that the way to make them last is to not worry about the longevity. If all we did was focus on when something was going to end, why bother starting? At any rate if you have a good thing going cherish it. If something goes wrong with your mate, try and help them as best you can. Remember some of the best things about being in a relationship are not only sharing good times but having someone there for you in the bad. And if the relationship doesn't work, cherish that, you experienced something, which is better than nothing at all.