My best friend has just been diagnosed with cancer, she has two teenagers at home, they are not accepting?
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Honestly, its better you consult a specialist. I really want to help but I don't think I can give better answers than specialist do. Sorry.\n\ngood luck\n\nLove is omnipresence, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
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you are such a friend and i hope i have one just like you, but sadly the only thing you can do is give your own thoughts about their relationship and where you you think it is headed, other than that you can't do anything beyond what you are permitted to do,. and you can never impose upon them what you would want to happen in their relationship. it is up to them to decide so long as you are there and guiding them is just what the doctor would recommend.
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I'm sorry about your friend.  Find some articles about success stories of people who have fought the disease!!  There are tons of stories out there from people who have been successful in chemo therapy, etc.  This might give your friend some hope!!
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I've been through exactly what you are going thru so I understand your feeling.  The best thing for your mom, is to keep her spirits up; never give up spirit!! You need to support that.  People, especially cancer patients die, because they give up and think it is hopeless.  As a daughter the best love you can give her is, give her hope, give her good news about yourself or the other people in your family, always have a smile on your face, never dark or depressed looking.  Have fresh flowers near her to look at.  Keep the windows open and let the sun in, in the evening, they usually do not like darkness so stay close to her (I slept with my mom sometimes, but always on the floor next to her) and keep the little lamp on. \n\nDo everything possible to make her laugh, and keep her spirits up, and give her the all the love you can give her everyday.\n\nI also chanted nam-myoho-renge-kyo together with her, and she would always fall asleep, and made me happy to see her not suffering but joyful.\n\nI will chant for her everyday!
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i really understand what ur going through, because last year my best friend had brain surgery. i couldnt stop crying either, but i thought about it and realized im not helping her by crying. I need to stop and be there for her!! after shes done with her surgery you should go visit her!! and be there for her when she needs it!!
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Hi hon!\nThis happened to a friend of mine also.  He was 19, had cancer.  Was on some serious medication, but was getting by.  Then we all stopped hearing from him.  Visited his house, but his mom said he had died.  But his shoes were in the hallway.\nSo we all grieved, and moved on.  \nYears later he showed up on one of my friends doorstep.  His mom had told all his friends that he had died.  What a bitch.\nMaybe he didn't want people to see him like that.  Maybe his mom thought his friends would stress him out.  I don't know.  All I do know is we aren't friends with him anymore, we wish him well, but what a terrible thing to do to your "friends".\nSo I shared a little something with you there didn't I?  Take it for what it is, an experience.  Perhaps you aren't getting the whole story either!\nHave a great week...
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Yes we do.  My mother and her two sister have a team called the Three Sisters.  We so far have had a mystery dinner.  And next month we are having a golf tourney and possibly this summer a concert to raise money for relay for life.  I am an 8 year survivor.  My one aunt just lost her husband to brain cancer and my other aunt has a daughter now battling cancer.  God bless people like you.  As for my favorite part it is meeting people who have gone through the same thing that I have.  And if anyone want to participate just visit the American cancer society for details in your area.  Just remember all the money raised will one day help eradicate this terrible disease.
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I think you should tell your friends. You need their support. Most friends would want to be there for their friends and help. I would be upset to hear a friend was really sick and didn't tell me.
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Be there to support her. She will have good days and bad days. Also try to hook her up with a support group that she can contact. I wish her the best of luck. Many people work for years and years with it. My sister has had it for over 10 years and she is an RN.
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The only thing that you can do for your friend right now is to pray.  She needs all the prayers that she can get no matter what type of cancer she has.  By going "crazy", you would not be helping her nor would you be a very good friend to her.  Most cancer patients don't like to be treated differently so treat her the same way you always have.  No, she may not be able to do the things she once could so you change the way some things are done.  People survive cancer all the time; the doctors telling her she has cancer is not an automatic death certificate.  PRAY FOR HER TO BE HEALED, PRAY THAT GOD WILL HELP YOU TO BE A BETTER FRIEND AND GUIDE TO HER DURING THIS TIME, PRAY THAT THE TWO OF YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS TOGETHER!!!  Gather several friends to pray with you because God really answers prayer when more than one gather in his name.
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19 is so young, I'm so sorry.  Is there not anything the doctors can think of to do for her? Maybe a transplant? I'll say a prayer for her, that she stays comfortable, is at peace and if there is anything anyone can do to help her, may they find her and help.
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I have heard that she has cancer. I'm not sure what type but that is what has been going around. Whatever it is, I hope she gets better. That's seems like too much pain for a parent to bear.
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The best thing u can do is just be there for them.  Dont push it too much, let them know you are there to listen and wait for them to tell u how they feel.  It shows that u must be very close to them as they obviously trust you with their secret and are probably in shock about it themself still.\n\nMy ex-boyfriend had cancer and I know it can be a very very difficult time, not just for the person suffering but also for those around them and close to them.  Your friend is probably feeling a range of emotions at the moment and maybe just needs someone to confide in.  People can sometimes get very angry or very quiet when they find out something like this, so if your friend starts acting wierd, try to not to take it personally.\n\nI really feel for your friend because I know what a hard time it must be for them.  You also need to look after yourself too, its not easy news to hear and although u may not be experiencing it physically, u will prob feel just as emotionally upset and shocked.  The best advice i can give is just to be there to listen and keep their secret.  There is nothing that you can say that will change what has happened. Sometimes if u really want to help them and get them to talk, just talk about the facts of the illness (eg.what type of cancer/treatment/stage of progression etc.. )sometimes by the person talking about the facts, it helps them to come to terms with it themself and also brings out their feelings.  \n\nHope this helps you in some way
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My favorite cousin was just diagnosed with inoperable kidney cancer, so I know how you feel.  The first thing you can do is educate yourself on the disease.  \n\nYou can read more about the disease at the following link: http://www.medicinenet.com/stomach_cancer/article.htm\nhttp://www.cancercompass.com/stomach-cancer-information/living-with-stomach-cancer.htm\nhttp://oncolink.upenn.edu/types/article.cfm?c=5&s=14&ss=105&id=9463\n\nRight now, I am sure your cousin is in shock as well.  I mean, we know how we feel, but we have no idea how THEY feel.  When Andrew has had time to process this new finding, I highly recommend a support group.  Call your local chapter of the American Cancer Society.  http://www.oncochat.org/ offers an on line support group in a chat like setting.  They also welcome family members of cancer patients, so you might want to check it out as well.\nhttp://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/support/organizations offers all kinds of cancer support resources.  I will think of your cousin, Andrew, whenever I think of my cousin, Hal.  God bless....
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Im so sorry girl.\nwell if i was you i wud tell him.\nfor her sake of course.\ndont tell him all the details jus that she has it and its treatment she has been going to.\ngood luck!\ni will pray for her!\nim so sorry but its nice to hear how much you care.\nthere are not many ppl left out there like you!
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awww, she needs someone to talk to, if her family is not an option, she should call her local crisis hotline and ask for a referral to a mental health professional, she can also talk to a counselor at school but she may be concerned about the confidentiality, she can talk to her medical doctor, she can also talk to someone at her church or if she hasn't one, any local church will do. Cutting oneself maybe a symptom of a serious problem that requires professional help...as far as hating her family but being ready to do anything for her friends well that is called being a teenager *smile* She should also know that drugs are even more dangerous for those who are suffering from depression.
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The first thing that you need to do is calm down.  I work in cancer research and at one of the best cancer treatment hospitals in the country.  This is a very standard procedure for someone who is newly diagnosed.  Your FIL and the family are going to need a lot of support and a lot of help throughout this entire time.\n\nThe doctors understand that your family will be over-emotional during this time and a NON family member will be able to take in information as well as convey information better after the consultation is over.  You should be prepared for A LOT of information to be thrown at you very quickly.  The outside person is simply there to help with the stress of the situation as much as possible.\n\nPlease feel free to email me if you need to talk to an outside source I would be really happy to help you and your family riklynn10@hotmail.com