how do you heel a deeply broken heart :( ??
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Be very kind to yourself.  Let yourself be sad about how things didn't work out, but after a reasonable amount of time, start to distract yourself from your sad feelings.  Be around friends that make you laugh, do nice things for yourself, take time getting to know yourself again and what you want out of life besides what you don't have, then start taking steps to make all of your dreams come true.  With time your heart will heal.
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How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
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Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
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i definitely use my creativity on how to get even!!!\n\nhahaha! hope not to come this far because the one we love always hurt us the most...\n\nlearn to let go...\n\nit's not easy to 4give nor 4get but simply letting go and accepting the fact of losing the person you cherished and leave you badly hurt can weaken you...\n\nbe tough and face the reality.
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I'm assuming that this is a gay relationship considering your choice of words.  Regardless, the best cure for a broken heart is a rebound mate!  \n\nSeriously, start going back to clubs.  Spend time with your Grandma, renew old relationships you gave up in order to spend more time with him.  Also, even though it will be hard not to bring HIM up in about every conversation, try not to talk about him very much to your family and friends.  That can get annoying after a while.  The more time you practice not talking or thinking about him, the more your mind and heart will ease the pain and humiliation.  One more important thing:  When and if he comes groveling back  DEMAND HE BE TESTED FOR HIV/AIDS & STD BEFORE ANY INTAMANCY takes place.  AND ALWAYS PRACTICE SAFE SEX...NO SEX UNTIL YOU SEE  CURRENT RESULTS TO AN AIDS TEST.
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If there was, I would bottle it up and make a fortune.  We all experience broken hearts, especially those of us who are most willing to open ourselves up to love.  The good news is that you will recover.  The bad news is you just have to keep on risking your heart in order to find true love.
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Be yourself, if you want cry- cry, if smile- smile. Remember that you need to forget person who broke you heart...)
999457
Allow time to heal it. Nothing and no one can fix a broken heart and there will always be a scar from it. It's a lesson learned baby, and you'll be a better person from it. Don't mope around, get out and have some fuuunn!!!! That's the only way you'll get over him and you may even meet someone new who can help with the healing process. It seems like love  can fix anything doesn't it? Good luck baby girl
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Just have a face-to-face talk with him, communicate your feelings (as gently as possible) and be up-front. There's no real easy way to go about it...my ex of 2-1/2 years broke up with me a little while back, she broke my heart, and I still think about her alot, but it would have been much better if she would have been more straight-forward. So tell him exactly where you're at, it might hurt at the time, but you'll both be better off that way!
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I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
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Well, well, well... here's my prayer for the evening.\nI'm so sorry for all you've lost.\nJust keep getting up in the morning. and put one foot in front of the other. Give yourself time. It hasn't been that long. At least a year or maybe two.\nYou'll be okay. God will comfort.\nPeace to you.
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A broken heart is one of the worst pains to endure.\n\nI wish you well, and can tell you from experience, it gets much, much better. Be specific about what you want in a relationship, and I promise, you will find what you are looking for......or that person will find you. I'm not kidding. Happened to me, after the harshest broken heart that I thought I could ever undure.\n\nKeep on rollin'!
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You cant mend a broken heart. Go ahead and feel the pain, by not getting to angry and dont put to much blame in his direction.\nFeeling the hurt will make you much stronger...and make it go away much faster. \nYou feel like you want to die...but I promise, you wont. It is something we all go thru at some time in our life and it hurts real bad. but just hang in there....it will get better!!!
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There isn't a way to "Cure" a broken heart.  Time is the only thing that mends it.  I've tried everything and I can tell you that ONLY time will work. \n\n However, there are things that you can do during this time that will make it mend stronger.  Get involved with your friends again.  I know that you left them behind to be with that girl.  So start going out with them.  Have some fun and go out to eat and then a movie.  Go on an adventure like rafting or go help a charity.  \n\nPutting other things higher on the list than that girl will help you mend stronger.  The more things that you have on your mind besides her, the better things will be.
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Realize you can't depend on other people to complete you, make you whole, or fulfill your dreams.  Broken hearts do hurt, I've been there.  Not to preach at you, but if you seek the truth you will find it- Jesus Christ will be your satisfaction, your most important relationship, and romantic relationships along with life itself will have a divine sense of purpose. Broken hearts, though they can still happen and hurt, won't take center stage in your life and will be a lot easier to get over.  And I almost forgot- don't settle for less of a man than you dream for, never get the idea you can "fix" a guy and have him change into who you dream for.
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First off, ask yourself this:  Why do you want to be with someone that does not want to be with you?  You two were obviously not meant to be.  That is harsh and I know it hurts but when we are broken hearted, we tend to glorify the "good" things in the relationship and forget the bad.  Try and write what you liked and disliked about the relationship.  Talk to someone who you can trust and who will listen to you.  We have all been there and it is a very hard thing that you are going through.  Please try and remember that this pain is temporary...God bless and Good luck...xoxoturtlegirl
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I really know what you mean, and it is so hard. \nRemember that this is all from within you, thus you can fix it yourself too. \nYour broken heart will be whole again in the near future. \nTo speed this up you can do a few thing, and believe me they have helped me.\nDon't see the person if you can manage it at all, in a book they say about 2 months. I had to see my ex every day, and even make small talk with him on occasion. At the time I wanted to see him but looking back it has just made the whole process agonisingly harder. \n\nDon't wallow in self pity, go out, see your friends, excercise this will really help and when you see him in passing in the future you'll look great, but overall do this for yourself, because you must love you.\n\nIt always depends on you personnally, but I reckon that if you don't see him for a good amount of time, you will realise you can get along just fine by yourself. If you do see him or hear about how he is doing, this will make things ten times harder, so don't. \n\nHe missed out on you not the other way around, and you never do no what is around the corner, \n\nYou know you will eventually forget and move on\nI hope you don't suffer too much\ngood luck