how do i help the children of a drug abuser?
443924
Call CPS and ask for custody... the only way to help them is remove them from the household.
509668
Besides feeding the kids and general supervision, you'd probably do A LOT of cleaning up after them. And ending arguments, breaking up fight, and "He said"/"she said" stuff. Occasionally, one may need to contact CYS or some other agency if a kid is being abused outside of the facility. First aid is a big thing too.  \n\nYou may play games with the kids. Or supervise them. I play with the kids if we don't have many at the time. If there are a lot of kids, I only supervise.
513164
If its someone you love and care about confront them and take action. Don't let someone on drugs ruin their lives. The worst thing you can do in this sort of situation is let it happen!!
435476
Just tell them when they need some one You will be there. Show them loves. and talk about cause and effect on drug.
539647
I think it is better this way,do you want your son to get caught having drugs?This is just helping the investigation to catch the drug dealer and the people above.If they caught the drug addict,they'll get to drug dealer and the rest.Malaysia is trying to bust all of drug,but some crazy making money still selling them.I feel a bit disappointed in those people. Anyway,you shouldn't feel humiliated,you are helping the investigation,although nothing has came out from it.well done!
538606
If you don't feel you can do this on your own, you need to seek proffessional help.  Call a crisis prevention line, or go to your local youth center, or seek a counselor.  Try these web sites and phone numbers attached.\n\nAlcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline\n1-800-662-HELP\n\nMarijuana Anonymous\n1-800-766-6779\n\nHelp Finding a Therapist\n1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)\n\nNational Youth Crisis Hotline\n1-800-448-4663\n\nTeen Helpline\n1-800-400-0900\n\nTeenLine\n1-800-522-8336\n\n\nHope one of these will give you the help you need.  Good luck... don't give up!
656104
I am sorry to say this, but if you feel the kids are being abused in any way....you should call child protective services.  They will come out and interview her and her kids and see whats going on.   Forget her lies, if you can see through them you have some power, and not to sound cliche, but with power comes responsibility.
161830
You can't help them unless they want help.  It's impossible.  We have run into that problem in our life and honestly, it feels like we are banging our heads up against the wall for all the good we are doing.  When they reach rock bottom, then you can be there to pick up the pieces and try to put him/her back together again.  Sorry I have no better advice for you.
914631
>>> absolutely ... call CPS ,,, you are a great person for being so concerned about the children!!!! being a ex addict your self you know that the drug is the only thing you care about,,, her children need your help , I can understand how you wouldn't want them in foster care , but how would you feel if something terrible happened and it could have been prevented only if you had called. does she have any family besides her sister that could take the children while their mom gets her self together,, these children are in harms way!! PLEASE call the authority's,, if you don't want to do it email me with all the info and I will do it for you. ..I promise you I will help you with this,,,,,,, my sister is a fantastic foster parent and there are many foster homes out there who will give these children a good home,,,, good luck and like I said email me if you need any assistance
592124
There is nothing you can do. He/She needs to want to change. My sons father struggled with his addiction since he was 17 years old. He was incarcerated for 5 years, thats when our relationship started. We had a child and within 3 months of my pregnancy he started using again. Finally after the baby was born he went to detox. It didn't work he was in and out of 4 detox centers and 1 rehab within 5 months. I threw him out. I needed to worry about me and my child. We havent heard from him in 2 years and 4 months. I do know that hes been in jail again and that he is still useing 15 years later since he first used. Heroin is a bad drug I hate it because it took my childs father away. The only real thing you can do is DO NOT ENABLE your child.
1115153
Been there and it's hard to see this happening especially to those you love. You really want to help? Get as much information from drug addiction websites, counselors, groups, friends, etc that you can. You talk to counselors and see if you both can come up with a solution. He can't do this unless he wants to get help. You be his therapy, what I am trying to say is, you do all the leg work, and hopefully you can get a counselor to put him into a program where he has no choice but to with drawl. Educate yourself in order to help him. Good luck.
881392
I used to babysit for this couple who had six children. Four of the children were adopted, the sister decided to get rid of them one night and called DCF to take them away. The sister/couple adopted them. Anyways, the younger boy was born addicted to cocain. His mother was an avid user and the night she decided to get rid of her kids was because she needed a sitter to go out! That was 10 years ago. The boy who was born cocain addicted has been in and out of the psychiatric hospital 4 times now and is currently in there again waiting for an accute place to open up, 6 to 9 month minium. He suffers from PTSD, ADD and uncontrollable behavior. He can be the sweetest child in the world and then he snaps! He is on meds and has been since 2. He has taken adderal, lexipro, lithium, so many I forget. He has had trouble in school and at home. He recently took a knife to the school football game with intentions of stabbing his older brother. He is violent towards his siblins and his aunt. He has hurt and attacked all of them in some way. He is quite intelligent but has problems with his thought process. He is 10 years old! His psychologist does not think that he can survive in a normal setting. When he was little, I would have to sit behind him and hold his arms and legs tight because he would slam his head and body against walls and floors. As for the other kids/his siblins. Three out of the four have needed psychiartric help and were on meds too. They were not born cocain addicted as far as we know BUT they grew up with it in the home, grew up areound constant violence, seeing dad beat mom up and put her in the hospital. The oldest boy of the four had to grow up quick as did his sister. They took on the parenting role immedietly. Grew up too quick! The oldest has been in jail twice now and was also hospitalized for depression, cutting and drugs. He has been abusive towards his siblins and lies all the time. He is now 18! I ahve to tell you, this is probably not what you needed but the fact is that an addicted parent most definetly has addicted children in one way or another. Nothing good comes from drugs. I still have contact with this family, mainly the kids and it breaks my heart what they have and still are going through. Good luck with your paper! Oh and btw, every program like, dcf, i-caps and therapists have been in the home and still are. It never ends!
882535
If she's under 18 you can get a court order for her because she is in possesion of drugs. Or for any other offense that I'm sure she's committed. Even if she's over 18, the court can order her to rehab or she can go to jail. I will tell you though, if she won't get help from you, she won't accept help from anyone else either.
659777
In this situation, you need to be cruel to be kind.\n\nYou tell this person how much you care and that you are worried about them, and will help them to get off drugs if they truly want to.\n\nIf they tell you that they dont - you have to walk away. Tell them when and if they are ready to give up you will be there to help them, but otherwise cut contact. They need to see what they are losing in their lives by taking drugs.\n\nIt sounds harsh I know, but this is the only way to help someone in the grip of drug addiction.
547726
GO see your sister see if she agrees that her drug problem,or the people it attracts,endangers her kids(she may).She may also agree that you should take her kids for their protection.\nDon't wreck your relationship with your sister it may come in handy in protecting her kids.\nAs for your sister being on drugs not much you can do but point out that you think she is destroying her life,what she does or responds is up to her.
201406
Beth, Starshotdown, and BadKitty1969 seem to have a good idea for a solution to your problem.\nThe behavior that you describe does complement the 'life of a drug addict,' and his desire to near a zone that is deviant are his inclinations to continue this lifestyle.\nThe closer that an addict is closer to illicit drugs the better they will feel, although this is a vague sense of reality.\nIt may be the best thing for you and your children if you did initiate legal proceedings against him.\nIn this manner you will help yourself, family and even the 'junkie' man.  Jose
152988
Well, honestly, the best way to help is to go to his parents, or to the parents of the young girls he is talking to. He needs help, or someone will get hurt. It is your obligation since you knoe to step up and do what is needed