how do i prove that someone is the scheming, manipulative person that she is to the higer ups?
446478
Sounds to me that she will do herself in with a lack of credibility.  Your only recourse is to make sure YOU remain credible - and keep people like this out of your life as much as possible.  She's got it in for you since you have the ability to see her bad side - and she's probably afraid you will expose her to others.  Some day something will happen where it will be proven to the higher ups that she is a liar and manipulator.  Don't spend too much time worrying about it though.  It takes away from your own life and gives too much to hers.
70049
This person has deep-rooted problems which doesnt show u directly,wen u see them treating other people wrong, thats giving u clues of what this person's really like, watch out this could be a red flag, theres a chance you will eventually see this person's side turn against u.
107017
Talk to her. Discuss what it is that makes you think she's fooling around. \n\nTry to be non-confrontational. Try to avoid "You always..." or "You never..." Say instead, "When you do (or don't do) this.... I feel this...." Or "When I see you do such-and-such, I wonder what it means."\n\nAsk her what it means. LISTEN to what she says. Repeat it back to her: "I think you're telling me....."\n\nIf you do not feel much better after this discussion, sorry, sweetie, time for a new girlfriend.\n\nI hope you're wrong, and I hope this helps.
92274
Get solid proof to show her.
42790
The biggest dillusion in the world today is people assuming they can manipulate another person.  You simply cannot make others do what you want them to do.  You can ask him if he did it... if he says no then everything you do from there on is going to be met with his attempts to proove his innocence.  Even if he is quilty.  People today are not taught at home or at school the importance of personal character and without it they are able to convince themselves that they did nothing wrong because right and wrong are relative factors.  My best advise is to either prosecute or drop it.  Trying to force someone to admit to something they have denied is futile, not to mention aggrivating.
610653
Why don't you confront them that's the only way your going to find out. If they are play fighting and flirting that shows that there is something going on.
762110
I would end the relationship, and always wonder what other things I did not know about this person. People who do these heinous things can never really be "friends" with anybody, lest their secrets somehow be discovered. I'm sorry for you if you were duped. It is a real betrayal. Don't blame yourself in any way for not knowing. These people are experts at deception and duplicity. Good riddance is about all you can say.
899956
I know what you mean.   Some of these bit--'s need a good slap, but un-fortunately we can't lay one hand on them.     Instead use  your inner wisdom to verbally let her know she is not telling you the truth , as you can see this person from where your at.   her/him.   Bring her nose down, by words.
911780
might sound like the easy way out, but make stuff up.   Or you tell them it's none of their business.  Or you can just be very vague and not get into details.   good luck.
328930
Don't name names, but I would run an ad in the local paper stating that a woman is bent on destroying my reputation, and ask the readers to ask your side before they believe her.  This will tell the people you must be telling the truth, and she is not going to want to take it this far and should back off. I know it sounds a little out there, but if she is a trouble maker, sometimes publicity is the only way to shut them up, and you don't have to mention names to make her face beet red. You want to put your name of course, and they will know who you are talking about without you getting a lawsuit.
525000
There is an old adage:  "Sunlight is the best disinfectant".\n\nIf you openly confront this woman, you are facing an all-out war.  She will despise you for having exposed her misdeeds.  If you anonymously send the General Manager proof of her actions, he may be inclined not to believe the accusations.\n\nYou could have a meeting with the General Manager, and ask for anonymity.  However, you must have all your facts completely established.  Getting people to write their opinion will not be accepted as fact.\n\nYou need absolute proof, and to show her INTENT to cheat and lie.  She can always claim these were innocent mistakes or things done without her knowledge.\n\nRemember, you will need verifiable dates, names, events, and most importantly, a CONSISTENT story from each person who was a witness to any of these events.\n\nYou do not want to come across as a whining malcontent.  If you show indisputable proof, the General Manager will have to act.
234844
Okay, obviously you are referring to a specific tape, involving specific people you know and you are probably in a relationship with at least one of them.\n\nWant to know the best way to know? Ask. Just ask. If you trust them, fine. I wouldn't but if you do, that's fine. If you don't trust them, break off the relationship. If they were willing to cheat on you then lie about the evidence then you deserve better!
835671
I think she is doing it just because she knows that it will get to you. She knows that you want him, and she can play with him like a puppet. I think she has insecurites within herself, that she thinks she has to come down and hurt other people so they dont see when she hurts. If i was you i would act like it didnt bother you and she will stop. and no you are not being unreasonable, that is low, but take her power away from her and she will just be left there standing confused. Dont sink to her level rise above and being a shining star
581738
you can just tell by looking into their eyes... by their actions.  if they are honest they will never avert your gaze or make up lame excuses. they will always return your phone call right away and try to be involved in your life as much as possible
615790
if you think she is pretending confront her about it. Otherwise you will never be at ease, its like wanting to know if you have a lamb or a snake watching your back
64433
Repeat everything they say to you right back at them. Or go into sociopath mode and engage them into conversations that dovetail into downright creepiness. Ask their opinion on issues affecting your daily life.
512126
First I would confront them about the lies and give them a chance to own up. Some people have a habit of lying because they have low self esteem. They don't mean any harm they just inadvertently cause it sometimes.\n  But if she is maliciously lying and/or trying to cover her a*s you should get rid of her. She could do more harm than good.