how do i get over my husband cheating and try to continue a relationship with him?
449847
Make sure his relationship is actually over.  Give yourself time to heal, and don't push yourself.  Some days will be harder than others.  Just do your best not to keep throwing it in his face.  It will be tempting, but counterproductive.  Good luck.
357900
You can't when ever you try to be intimate you will think he is thinking of someone else and you will never be able to trust him. You could look on the bright side that you aren't married to him. You have to think more of yourself and tell yourself that you deserve someone who will be faithful.The first time he cheats and hurts you it's not your fault. The fault comes when you let him have a chance to cheat again. And im sorry to say once a cheat always a cheat. If he loved you so much he could betray you once he will betray you again. Good luck
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
1176834
if your partner is willing to move on then you should too. it is very painful to stay with a cheating spouse.all the bitter memories pops up in your mind again and again. the thing to do is forgive. you must never think of taking revenge. talk to your partner and try to mend whatever is left of the relationship.dont try to forget...you can never forget. but you can forgive. then you will move on.remember that you have won and your spouse really loves you...or else he wouldnt be with you. remember people makes mistakes. dont repeat his mistakes. if he repents for his mistakes then embrace him. start a new life. go to councelling, pick up sports, spend time to gether. after all life is short.
306569
Just realize that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. And even if you did decide to take him back you'd have to decide if you wanted his infidelity to taint your relationship pretty much forever. Once trust has been lost in that way its really tough to get it back. And even then you are aware of exactly what he is capable of. Once a cheater always a cheater and don't think that isn't true.\n\nWhat you have to realize about people who cheat is they are always looking for the greener side of the grass and at any moment they may decide they have found it again. You deserve to be secure in your relationship and not constantly worried by this possibility.\n\nMy advice is to think of what you deserve to be happy. Don't be mean and spiteful, instead just do what he has done and worry about your own happiness. 7 years may be a long time, but the rest of your life is longer. You will know what is right for you. I decided to walk away and every day I thank god I did, because I am so much happier for it.
774577
Yes my Hubby cheated 3 years ago,We did seperate for about 3 months, anyhow we ended up working it out..We got way to comfy in the marriage and things started to go downhill,And then the unthinkable happened..My first thought was divorce when i found out..as i said i moved out..But until your put in this position you just never know ..I felt if i could LEARN to trust him again and of course forgive him for what he did knowing it would take ALOT of time and patience on his part for the damage he caused to me, Then i would be willing to try it again..Today we are very very happy, The best our marriage have ever been.. And its taken awhile but i believe it was worth it. We have been together 17 years now..But if it ever happens again, I will be divorced..And no LOOKING BACK!
684934
I understand completely my husband and I have a very similiar situation. And I too do not trust him and he does not trust me. I think to make things work you have to learn to let go of the past mistakes and learn to forgive even though that maybe in order to go on together you must try to trust. But if he continues to betray you then you need to do what is best for you and your child.
166774
You are lucky you still have a husband!  Trust and forgivness takes quite some time when it comes to infidelity, but when you bring a child into this equation, it's a whole different story.  This is something your husband may never come to terms with and if your child is living in your household, and he is seeing the product of your infidelity, then it is even harder.  You may want to look into some counselling individually and jointly, because that maybe the difference between staying together and divorce. If he is willing to work things out and stay in the marriage, encourage him to seek counselling with you so he will get the tools to be able to put this mistake you made past him and love you through it. Good luck\nCondoms are a faithful friend, for the most part they never lets us down, consider that if there is a next time.
350706
I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
966372
I have the same problem and I am working on it. First, you need to apologize to your boyfriend for slapping him on the face, and tell him that you have a problem, and that you are working on it. \nNow, you cannot get "cured" in one day, or even one month from something like this. Prepare for the long journey. The key is to become a rational thinker. You will have to undergo the whole thinking and behavior modification process. Fear is the greatest motivator of human behavior. Try to think what is that you scared of most. If the unbelievable happens and your boyfriend does commit the cheating, what the worst that can happen? How exactly is it going to affect you? Will you die from it? Will your life be over after it? Will your head fall off, your spine break, etc. Sorry for being so graphic, but really, what is that so tragic and awful that is going to happen to you? Nothing of that. If the cheating in fact will take place, you will be hurt for awhile and that get over it and move on with your life. You are not that jealous of your first husband now, see? You see, when you were a child you learned from your mom that something REALLY bad is going to happen to you when your spouse will commit the act of cheating. Children always learn by fear. They think they are going to die if things happen the wrong way. You have to first identify and then face your fears. NOTHING is going to happen to you or your life if you will be cheated on. In fact, your life will only improve from it because it will help you to get rid of the cheater.\n   Also you need to learn how to unconditionally love yourself. Once you see how totally sweet you are, you will realize how in the world your boyfriend can possibly cheat on you??? Not a chance! He is not stupid. He knows how exactly how lucky he is and there is no way he is ever going to jeopardize his future with you. \n   Everytime you are feeling jealous try to get away and breath in a paper bag for few minutes. Absolutely let your boyfriend know that you have this problem so he can be a help to you when you will need it. Also you can start going to gym daily and exercising, this will help big time.
435783
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.
828943
Maybe you need to approach this whole situation from another angle.  Like paying more attention to your self and do the things that make you feel good and boost your self steem.  I don't mean by going out and having an affair, but stop wallowing in self pity because you husband is a di*k. Once you start doing the things that make you happy, he'll come around to grovel and ask for forgiveness for being such a blind jerk.
403471
Leave him.\n\nChances are, it wasn't his first time, nor is it likely to be his last, especially if you let him "get away" with it.\n\nIf you think there might be a way to salvage your marriage, and possibly might be able to forgive him and forget it, and not let it come into your mind for the rest of your lives, you might try to work it out.
748544
My psychology is to keep balance and make the marriage be happy. If he is cheating you should to  www.fling.com  is not to far. That's the way to get even and have excitement on both sides.
1081370
Yes, you can get over it if you really want to.  The first step is to truly forgive him and let all your anger and bitterness go.  Your marriage has been through a lot - and you have been through a lot, you should really get into marriage counseling.  Having someone to help you get your marriage back on track and sort out your feelings will really help.  Usually when someone cheats it indicates problems in the marriage and lack of communication - these are things that a counselor can help with.  Best of luck and know that your marriage can be repaired.
129531
At first forgive him, because he is a fool and really poor minded. But then try to move on, you deserve someone who cares and loves you in return.\n\ngood luck :-) I know how you're feeling
514399
Take a break.....if it happened once it could happen again.  They say once a cheater always a cheater.  What were the circumstances surrounding the "moment" alcohol, stress, anger etc....and will this set it off in the future??  It could just be a never ending spiral.  And at some point if it does happen again, you may feel you need to do the same thing just to get back at him.  He needs to prove himself worthy of you.  And it will always sit in the back of your mind.  First thing you should do is talk about it again and show him how you are feeling, if your reaction was nothing, he may not think it's a big deal!  Good luck....  And remember there is someone out there that is perfect for you, so if you ahve to let this one go, it might be b/c someone better is waiting!! :)