My parents are big smokers and i have tried everything to get them to quit. Any ideas?
447600
Have you tried telling them that smoking will lead to CO PD, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and that you don't want to "watch them die".  I went through that with both my mom and dad and had to watch both of them die a horrible death.  Try being "honest" and tell them you don't think it's fair for them to put you through watching them "die" from something they are doing by choice!  Good luck to you, however it turns out.  I wouldn't wish what I went through on anyone!  If you want, print my answer out and show it to them!  I've been there, what you are going to have to go through if they don't stop!  Good luck, and God Speed, no matter how it turns out.
1037867
just breathe second hand smoke... that should do the trick
367521
Sorry, about your mom. You must help her, but not only that you must be with her all the time and she must know that she can rely on you. Tell her that you love her - that is the most important, she must know you still care about her, and can be a good stimul for her to quit!
1098525
well, it really sucks to go through this for you.\n\nRemember that your parents are human and that they love you.  The amount of stress they are going through is tremendous and it will take some time to adapt for them and you.  \n\nMy teenaged daughter has done very well with the whole thing, but we made sure she knows that we love her.  \n\nThe smoking thing is very tough, it's a habbit that your mom uses for stress relief, she probably didn't even know she did it till it was too late.  don't nag her about it cuz she don't need to be nagged, but just tell her that you don't want her to die from it and give her some time.\n\nkeep in mind that it all gets better with time!
66492
You know its time for a change.  You can't just change this habit.  Its about how you are going to deal with the stress that comes up in your life.  You got to face your problems without running to some instant fix.  *the cigarette*  \n\nSecond, you got to take a proven route.  Look up Smoker annoyomous in your area.  Take the patch or gum.  You need someone that will support you in your tough times.  Maybe someone who also stopped.   When your tempted, remind yourself about the things  you hate about smoking.  So expensive.  The bad lungs.  Whatever reason you want to stop.  Remember it when your tempted
665509
COLD TURKEY.\n just walk away.\n stay away from smokers.\n it works I have been smoke free for over a year. \n ( 4 Packs a day.)\nwhy give the money to someone else.\nput it in your pocket.
990392
I'm there with you! I actually quit about 2 months ago, and then 2 weeks ago I was under a lot of stress and started back up again. I kept smoking one or two a day and kept telling myself, I'm not smoking again, I'll quit tomorrow, but I haven't. I think that you really, really have to want to quit. Not for your family, or your health, but just because you don't want to do it anymore. My dad, who is 54, quit a few weeks ago, and he has smoked since he was 16. He is using the patches. I'll pray for you and you pray for me! Good luck!
320931
Just quit. My husband quit about a week ago. He just came home from work, said I quit smoking today, and hasn't touched one since. He used Nicorette gum the first couple day, now he chews regular gum. I know it's hard, but if he can do it, so can you. (He's been smoking since he was 14.) Just think how much healthier you will be and in better shape to play with your kids. Plus, you are setting a bad example for your kids by smoking. By having a parent that smokes, they are twice as likely to smoke themselves.
18583
Your father is going to have to want to quit. When dealing with addicts nothing you do or say will convice an addict to stop unless the addict believes that their addiction is a major problem and cares enough about their life to want to change. Usually they have to believe and be fearful of the fact that they are going to die soon if they don't stop using. That is what it takes. Its called hitting rock bottom and it is never pretty. All you can do is express the fact that you want him to be in your life as long as possible and you will not do anything that will enable him to continue his addiction. That means not buying him cigarettes, etc. But it almost never works. They have to want it.
95815
Stop now while you are young.  My mother killed herself by smoking. She was only 43 years old. It is a hard way to die. I just stopped myself. Do what ever works for you. Don't give up. The mind is very powerful. Maybe telling yourself that " i am a nonsmoker" will help. Keep your goal in mind and keep pushing for it
106601
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that he's smoking.  I started smoking when I was 12 when they still sold to minors thinking we were getting them for our parents.  I also started drinking beer shortly thereafter.  I didn't try pot until after my freshman year in High School.  I never really did any of these things to excess, but many of the people I knew did.  \n\nWhat finally got me to quit was my roommate during my freshman year in college (18 years old).  I had elected to have a smoking roomie because I wanted to be able to smoke in the room.  But she smoked a lot more than me and they were menthol and the whole room reeked and it made me sick.  So for me, it was over-exposure to smoke.  On the other hand, I kept drinking and getting high sometimes.  It took a while before I realized that these were also a waste of time and money.\n\nNow I have a son who's 14.  His dad died of alcohol and drug abuse before he turned 40.  My son has seen first hand the negative effects of drugs and alcohol, and he does group cigarettes in the same classification as alcohol and drugs.  I started talking to him about it at a very young age, and continue to do so.  He now has friends who smoke, drink and get high.  He tries to get them to quit.  \n\nBut sometimes my son says that he believes it's his destiny to follow in his father's footsteps because he's so much like him in other ways.  My response is that the traits he shares with his father are inherited - like his body's build, and his hairy legs and even his voice and facial expressions -- but I tell him that his behavior is his choice and the only thing that he really has control over, so he does NOT have to follow his father's path.\n\nI suggest that you start by considering your son's motivation to smoke.  Does he do it to fit in or look cool?  or is he rebelling against you and trying to piss you off?  If it's the first reason - that he's looking for a group where he feels like he belongs, try to encourage his interests that might keep him too busy to have time to smoke.  My son LOVES basketball, so he has his friends there and they don't smoke because it could hurt their game (although some of them drink and/or get high occasionally), so for the most part, he's accepted in that group.  It may take an investment of time and money on your part - but he's your son!  I recall when my son tried-out for an AAU traveling team a year ago.  One of his oldest friends tried-out too, and he played quite well.  This was one of the kids that my son was trying to get to quit smoking and partying (he would hang out and drive around with 18 year-olds and he was only 14).  His mom wouldn't let him join the team, because it would cost around $400.00 over the course of the season.  My son was really upset that this woman would choose to allow her son to smoke and get in cars with 18 year-olds, as opposed to spending a few hundred dollars to help him get involved in a healthy activity!  She wouldn't have had to drive that often, because we were right in the same neighborhood - I'd have provided transportation.  But anyway, I digress...  (sorry)\n\nIf your son's motivation comes from rebelling against you, it will probably be harder for you to address.  Pretty much anything you say will be tuned out, and he may want to defy you even more.  His rebellion stems from a dynamic that's been developing over several years, so it won't go away overnight.  \n\nStart by being honest:  I love you and it hurts me to see you smoking and doing harm to yourself.  Then try to explore the motivation and possible acceptable alternatives from there.  Don't talk down to him, and don't make demands.  This is one situation where it will help to start treating him like he's his own person.  You and I know he's got a long way to go, but remember how sure you were of things at that age and what fools you thought your parents were?  So addres
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I myself am trying to quit, as of the day after Christmas. You'd think seeing my mom die from lung cancer when I was 29 years old would have been motivation enough. It is sooo hard, especially around your "triggers". For me, it's at home after work. My dad told me when he quit he would go for a walk or take a drink of water. I have tried them as well. I have not had luck with the patch nor the gum. I am trying cold turkey again. I have a straw I "inhale" at home .. just a straw. It seems to be working. Then I think about how gross it is and why I don't want to do it anymore. There's a great commercial out there that shows a dr saying he doesn't think he can operate and then a smoker saying I dont' think I can quit.\nI think the clincher for me is that my best friends kids are 13 and 14 and are both smoking. I was a little bit younger than that so I am trying to be a good example to them. I have to quit. \nI wish you success in the new year to quit smoking.
236232
Tell them how you feel about their smoking however pushing them to stop cold turkey is not the answer. Tell them what happens to smokers and go from there , besides is it really worth the relationship that you have with them?
291090
A lot of smokers become very defensive when they perceive that they are being "influenced". The fear of not being able to quit is very strong as there are usually a lot of years worth of habit to give up; most smokers started smoking in their teens. The best way to help is to let them know that there are resources available to help- doctors, dentists, and counselors all love to help people quit smoking. Don't criticize when they lapse or fail, because they will a few times before being successful.
870574
First of all relax!! It just an elaborate dinner. I had the same problem with smokers since my wife has severe asthma. I simply make a designated smoking area outside and above all don't use ashtrays. I take and empty coffee can and put in the smoking area and chastise anybody who throws butts on the ground, regardless of who they are. And clean up is a snap, just put the plastic lid on it and throw away. I have been doing this for the last couple of years and my friends and family who smoke actually set up the smoking area for me. At one party when we had a heavy rain, I simply brought the deck umbrella to the from and attached the can to the pole. \n\nAbout your parents, ask them how would they feel if they were not invited and tell them in a calm voice that you have enough anxiety without the extra baggage/attitude. So relax, enjoy the day and the company and remember, if there are problems, attitudes and / or arguments, just smile and say out loud, "I never worry about the little things"!\n\nGood luck and have fun!
50668
Yes, definitely. You are obviously doing this because you love them both and make her see this. Don't go on telling her to quit smoking because she'll only keep on doing this, she knows by now that it's bad for both of them, so try to make a compromise with her to make it alot healthier for her daughter even when she smokes. Like don't smoke when she's there, step outside or go to another room. Maybe in her own time she will quit smoking but make her understand that she can't continue smoking when her daughter is there.
686653
My husband and I tried to quit smoking together and it didn't work it turned out that we were competing with each other to see who could last the longest. We ended up sneaking like two kids behind each others back. I think if you want to quit it has to be for yourself with or without your husband. Maybe if he sees you doing so well he'll try. You can go to doctor and get prisciption for wellburton. It is used for depression but they found that one of the side effects was it help with addictions to nicotine. It does work but you really have to want it. Nothing is completely painless when it comes to quitting. Good luck. Please dont become one of those us to be smokers that are worse then non-smokers.