placing a parent in a home when you know they really want to stay( HOME )?
441890
i totally agree with you there... i mean they looked after you and done heaps for you... so why should we throw them in a home?!?!! thing is.. i guess everyone has their reasons.. but it just doesnt sound right sending them away to a home
725209
Simply let him know it is time for him to leave the roost and give him a timeline. You set the rules as it is your house.
548519
i would think that you would have to go through social services to be placed there. or they could go to court and have themself declaired independant of thier parents.
7807
How could you charge your elderly parent for rent  and still look at yourself in the mirror? Before you charge your mom rent, think of all the things she supplied to you and for you since she gave birth to you. It's not easy raising children and to charge your own mother to stay in your home is very disrespectful, dishonorable.  Do unto others as you would have done unto you. I do not mean to sound harsh but I could never charge my parents for anything because I know and understand what they sacrificed for me.\n\nA parent with alzheimers is devastating for not only you and your family but your mother as well. Instead of charging her rent maybe you could set aside some of her funds towards her medical expenses or other care and activities she will need in the future.
164997
with a job that can support you and your child. a house that has atleast two or more bedrooms. and go to court with your head high and a very good reason to get the kid.
674833
An honest answer is usually a good thing but not always appreciated it might just be easier and more tactful to tell them that at the time the plans were made it sounded like a good idea  but after some soul searching and consideration you feel that things are different now and it wouldnt work out like planned and you would rather not put any more strain on an already strained relationship. They may not like it very much my parents hated it when I moved out of the town that I grew up in and I kept telling them I would come back.  It took me six years to finally come back after having cut everyone in my family out of my life to have them finally figure out that I dont do things the same way they do and that I am entitled to my life and opinions. After a long time and a lot of relearning in our family we have a great relationship.  There is always hope for the future but you must consider what is best for you and not what is best for them if it is not in keeping with what you want and need. Much easier to tell them now that it wont work out then to move back and have it all fall apart in six months to a year and bring even more division to the family. Good Luck with your choice.
391265
ok here is the deal, i am also a stay at home mom, I tried the realestate thing, it is impossible to do it all from home, you really have to be able to jump, to work for you clients. this for me ment taking my one year old to show a house, and she pooped, and 8 months pregnant trying to close of houses. some my case was extreme. I know that you can do referals, and relocation, you relocate people with set appointment, ONLY from home I have never heard of, just think about it people are buying the most expensive thing they will ever buy, they want to see it, feel it, be in it, and THINK a lot about it and this means showing it over and over, even if you don't make the sale, I felt like I wasn't taken to seriously b/c i had to take my 1 year old with me sometimes, cause my husband was at work, and you have to show at the drop of a dime sometimes.  I heard that you can do telemarketing from home in some states, my state you can't but I have a friend that does it, and she sets her own hours, and she loves it! good luck its hard to juggle both I am still trying to!
525131
You can make a stand without losing them.  They may not agree with what you have chosen to do, but you can let them know that you are an adult, capable of making your own decisions and if they can't at least respect that (whether they like the decisions or not) then it is going to hamper your relationship with them.\n\nIf they start to harp on something when you are there, stand up for yourself.  Let them know that if they can't allow you to be an adult, you are going to have to leave.\n\nAs far as the weekend and calls, sigh, they are having a hard time letting go.  My guess is you are either the first out of the house or the last out of the house.  Either way it is hard for a parent to lose their child, accept they are an adult, etc.  I am almost 30, married with 3 kids and my mother still thinks of me as a child.  So it doesn't just go away, but you can manage it and let them know "hey thanks for your advice, but I can handle it on my own".  Let them know you will come when you can, call when you can, but that you have other responsibilities and commitments to uphold and you can't guarantee how often your visits will be.\n\nFor good measure though, and to make them feel important, every so often ask their opinion about something.  :)
532228
MOVE OUT.  You are 21...your mom has no right telling you when to be home.
605797
When you say stay in daycare, do you mean a daycare center or like the "Y"? I use to do in home daycare and the longest the children were allowed to stay in care was up to the age of 12 years old.\n\nIf a parent had a child that wasn't trustworthy to stay home or go to after school, then I would let them come and stay with me as a favor to the parent.
155887
you need to tell his kids constatly that you dont want to take their moms place and you love him (their dad) very much and wouldnt hurt them by taking away anyone and that their mom will always be their only mom no matter what happens/ed.
153985
I would never leave her in a retirement home, no matter how difficult it is dealing with her. Retirement homes are cruel as a concept, even if many of them are very nice, because you're basically sending people away from everybody they love. What the elderly usually want is to be with their families and friends.\n\nMy parents are still too young for retirement homes, but all of my grandparents died at their homes, with their family around them. I'll make sure the same happens to my parents, when the time arrives. And I hope the same for myself.
112143
well you should go were you want to,\nif you really want to go and and your parents wont let you go tell them you really want to go and that you know what you are doing...  thats what i would if i was in your place.
689425
It is very hard. I am on that road too. Father is in the same boat. You have 2 basic choices, you take guardianship and to heck with their wishes and make the decisions for them. Not the nicest way to go. Or you find out who deals with the seniors in their area and you have them set up things that make life more manageable, if not perfect for them. Hire helpers, volunteer drivers and visitor. Can you get nursing aid to visit for medical checks and medication management? It a long and winding road at best, but  really all they want is as much independence and dignity as they can  muster at their ages. Here we have a commission on aging that will help you review your options, they can asses your parents and see what the underlying reasons are for missed medication (lack of money, forgetfulness, too cheap to buy it, difficulty taking it) When the send out a worker list here i know that background checks have been made and references are checked, it is still a hard match to get personalities to mesh. In reality I make the drive myself several times a week, do shopping, get meds, do heavy cleaning, fix televisions ( remotes baffle him he keeps locking the features out). Life would be far easier if he would move into a assisted living or agree to live here, but alas he has rights to stay where he is and be independent as long as he is mentally fit and not a lear danger to himself and others. You have to realize a large portion of their life was in that house, it marks their history, accomplishments and memories. You may just have to dig in and make it as safe as you can for them. Talk to  a senior center, social worker, aging speialist and know what options are there and what rights they have and what benefit they get from not moving. Its complex, do a lot of asking and research. And talk to them plainly about how much stress and worry you have about them, but listen to them too. Good luck.
218769
I've been through this when I provided daycare from my home. I gave copies of my policy to each parent and also printed out a schedule, and had good references. I had an open door policy for the parents to visit anytime---and encouraged them to do so. I think it's great to have the parents visit, that helps build trust. It's normal for the parents to be concerned, you should be more worried about the parents who aren't concerned. Let the mom hang out awhile, it won't take her long before she realizes her child will be just fine!\nGood luck!
96538
Any parent has legal right to there children.  The best thing to do is to decide who would care for the kids the best due to your situation.  I would say my husband would be better because I am still in college and very busy and being a single mother can be hard.  Right now my husband is done with college and already making money. Also the children should stay with who ever gets the house.  They shouldn't be moved.  You could also just share.
1072116
Girl let it go, that is your decision and your house with your boyfriend. If you did not want to see extra company you have every right to express it and make her pick the children back up. \n\nMy suggestion: Make it a house rule that if the children want spend the night guest over on the weekend they can spend that weekend with there mother. Why because your request is not outrageous, this will keep sh*t down in the future. You may have to revise stuff and add more rules but hey that is your dwelling.