For the guys:  How important is a womans weight when considering dating her?
439103
Frankly, given your desciption, I already married her.
22553
You don't need to "be less fat." If this guy is dating you, then he probably doesn't have a problem with your weight.  If he thinks you're too blah looking, then he isn't the right guy for you.  The right guy will like you for who you are and not for the clothes you wear.  I know it sounds cheesy, but it's the truth.  If you're changing your style because you (not him) want to make a change, there are lots of cute clothes at places like TJ Maxx that aren't that expensive. I hope this helps!
411005
In my experience, I have known several men who prefer bigger girls.  They say there is more to love, more to hold and that sort of thing.  From what I have seen the woman has to take care of herself and have a bit of confidence.  If a girl loves herself and shows it then guys will be attracted not only to her but that confidence as well.
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Why don't you just ask him out.  If he really likes you, he's not going to obsess about you being bigger.  At least I think you were trying to spell obese, I'm not sure.  I started to really develop an attraction to this one woman who is a little on the heavier side.  You know what I liked about her?  She has a lot of confidence and can charm the pants off of you.  It didn't work out, but it didn't have anything to do with her being a little overweight.  I could care less about that.  It didn't work out because she must not like me that much as I tried calling her and she never called me back.
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It honestly depends on the guy.  From my experience anyway.  Some guys are genuine and look for a gal with a good personality (which is what should be important), although looks are also important - but should not be a deciding factor in whether or not a guy is interested.  There are guys out there that are more concerned with looks, but hey - looks can be deceiving :P
201720
First of all no I don't think that is right but people have their preferences on what they like. You will find a guy to like you regardless of your size. I know because the men I have dated love a thick girl. As long as you have high self esteem don't worry about the ones who don't like you because of your weight. They aren't good enough for you anyway. If you want to talk hit me up. I'm Prettythcknsexy.
798427
Hi AJ,\n\nThe most important things in any long term relationship are honesty, kindness, a good sense of humor and a willingness to be there during the good times as well as the bad.  That said, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is his smile and the way he carries himself, with confidence but not too cocky or over the top.  A guy who is clean, dressed appropriately and who has a pleasant demeanor and makes the first move conversationally will get my attention and that of most ladies out there.\n\nBTW: Any woman who would value a man for his wallet alone is in the same league as a man who values a woman solely for her looks, both types are players and ultimately bad news.\n\nGood luck and best wishes from bookyone :)
762341
Not 'beautifully perfect', I've noticed that you just have to be skinny.  I've seen butt ugly women and men will date them, but if you're fat, men won't give you a second glance.
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It's really not often about the body, and especially not about wieght.  Most women feel that they need to be increadably skinny, and for most of them, that level of thinness is unrealistic.  It is more about the way she acts and her personality than about how she looks.\n\nA woman with a good body and a bad personality can get along fine for a while, but eventually any guy she is with will get tired of her attitude.  A woman who is not physically attractive to the man she is interested in and has a bad personality, has no chance of a happy relationship.\n\nIn general, women are more concerned about their bodies than men are.  Most men have no problem with their woman putting on some wieght, it can make a woman far more attractive, but most women begin to get worried when they think they are getting "fat."\n\nI've always prefered a woman with some shape and a fun personality, especially when she has a good outlook.  A woman with some good curves, a little fat to soften her midsection, wide hips, and a good amount of fat to soften her butt...hmmmm, nummy.  Sorry, got off on a tangent for a minute there.\n\nThe best girlfriend I ever had had a healthy amount of fat on her, and the most attractive woman I ever met was a 40 year old woman who had what you might call a naturally seductive personality.  It's not about the body, it's about the person.
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This is a tough one to answer. In my case yes looks do matter to an extent. There needs to be some physical attraction in the beginning not that its the most important just a percentage. Body type really depends on the guy. I have dated several women with all different kinds of body types. A good personality is a must, its a real downer when your partner is always in the dumps or is angry all the time. I myself enjoy a good conversation so intelligence is a must (not a rocket scientist just bright). Tallents are always a plus, its nice to have a tallented girlfriend but not a necessity. All in all what I'm looking for in a woman is one that loves me as much as I love her. Someone that will be there when I need someone to talk to or be comforted. Basicly a best friend, I think that if your partner is your best friend your practically invincible.
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Well my girlfriend who is truly my soul mate is chubby, but is really beautiful and has a great personality. I wouldn't say that I'm dating her because she's chubby, but I'm dating her because I lover her eyes, her smile, and both her inner and outer beauty.\n\nTo me she could have been skinny --- fat and I would still date her because of who she is.
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I'm a middle-aged white guy and I've always preferred my women\n"thick". Preferably short & thick! (I'm 6'1") Race irrelevant but I do have a weakness for Latin, Asian & Meditteranean ladies. Only dated two "skinny" girls in my entire adult life but both were quite\nexceptional, in addition to being the exception to the rule!
431542
being around 6'2 or 3"  myself and being male and looking for a tall woman and knowing my own weight to be around 222lbs i would say anything around 200 give or take 20 pounds is totally acceptable, healthy and attractive.
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hey, do nothing about your weight okay.  I have been married for almost 14 years.  When was young, I wanted to go out with the skinny girl. which i have, but they dump me for no reason.  Well, when i found my wife I have now. She wasn't skinny, but she was not ugly either. she was a little overweight, but I still love her no matter what. I know their is some guys that just want a skinny  gals. If they just want a skinny gal, they got a problem. The overweight couple have a better marriage than the skinny couple do. Just don't go by the looks, go by the good heart. I myself was very skinny, before i got married,and was bad underweight, but now since i got married, i have gain, and got bigger, but not too fat at all. I am always doing something very active. so remember the overweight is nothing to be shame off. if he don't like you cause  you are overweight, then he is no good.
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Lots of men like women with some padding.  Compromise...don't gain and only lose enough to be in the healthy range...not to have an anorexic appearance.  Be happy that he isn't that type of man to leave you because you aren't the slender thing he married...men have been known to do that.  Count your blessings!
860662
For the most part, I prefer men to be taller.  However, it's a package deal...  I've dated men shorter than me just because of who they were.  Looks do matter some, but it's not the entire picture.
259408
I know this is not going to be popular with most, but I don't care if a woman is skinny or a bit chunky, as long as she is okay with herself.  If she has a good body image she will be better in the relationship, and more confident which is more attractive than body shape