Romance with a divorcee?
445246
Thanks for making that clear for me, I was going to ask you out.\n\nBut seriously folks, you have to understand that people do not plan on getting divorced when they get married.  I sure didn't.  When my wife left me, she left me with two children to raise.  Did I grow up and dream of being a single father, no, but it is the situation that I find myself in.  That being said, There is still a lot of love left inside my heart for another person.  And I don't feel that I am alone on this one.  To say that you would not go out with someone that is divorced is cutting your self short and loosing out on the opportunity of someone that has already been through heart ache and really understands what having a good relationship means.\n\nGood luck on your search for the pure ones on this planet, it will be a very long search.
1030238
Let me tell you what I think.....  I am also separated with a divorce around the corner.  Divorce never ends well, and no matter what the details are people are hurt.  Often your pride, self worth, finances, and ability to trust/believe in another person will suffer.  I highly recommend the whole "friends with benefits" concept.  I enjoy sex, and the intimacy associated with it.....(not a one night stand sort of girl).  My friend is amazing, not only does he look out for me, and help with some of the guy things.....  He makes me laugh, feel desirable, and has taken me to a whole new level of multi orgasms!  Personally I'm not ready for another serious relationship.....still repairing the damage from the last.  But, having a good friend who I know and trust is extremely valuable to me.....not to mention the hot sex benefit.  By foregoing the "relationship", you often give each other the freedom to desire, request, explore and experiment with things you may not ask a "partner".  No fear of rejection, ridicule......a total win/win situation.  Although I will caution you......if you marriage was especially bad, it would be easy for a lot of woman to rebound into their friend.  Thus a potential to get hurt....again.  Not all woman can have a sexual relationship without developing feeling that want more.  Friends with benefits is just that.....friendship....sex....NSA.   For me, right now.....perfect!  For you.....think it thru and decide whats best for you.....good luck.\nAnd yes, your "friend" respects you and enjoys the arrangement.  Other people??  Some will judge, others will cheer....be discreet if you need to.
218721
I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
1038468
is the romance still there at all?
47168
Yes, Loves does exist. May not seem like it at times with the divorce rate high like it is. \n\nK
1158704
hmmmmm I personally think you need to deal with the divorce emotionally and mentally before getting involved with someone else. Otherwise, you will obsess about your ex and the relationship you had before the affair. And, I think that you also need counseling to learn how to not obsess about things/people. This can be dangerous and come between you and anyone you date/love.\n\nGood luck!
393230
simply explain to her how you feel.  tell her that you don't feel that it's fair to her to be with someone who doesn't love her.  explain that you have tried to regain your love for her, but you have become two different people and it's not working for you.\n\nas for some of the answers above me...screw them all...there is NOTHING wrong with divorce...i would rather my husband tell me the truth and divorce me...than lead a false life pretending that he loves me.
397106
More info is needed..\n\nif you mean you are waiting for a love interest's divorce to happen than no it is not wrong... I don't think... \nWhy would that be wrong?  It is noble...
825910
I totally disagree!  I am married and in love.  The romance doesn't HAVE to leave just because you get married.
920259
I would say that is normal. Often great romances and happy married couples grow from long friendships.  I hope the  feelings of more than friendship are reciprocal and you both have a happy life.
364520
I don't think this is really a good idea, you have to get to know each other as well as possible. You don't want it to end in divorce do you?!
402133
Go to a chat room for divorced people who are in there 50's and just start chating. You may meet the man of your dreams. Good luck.
63285
Hi Lenny, well if it was the right time of year I'd say raid a rose garden. My ex did that for me one year. I had roses everywhere! He almost got busted though. How about take her for a Sunday drive in the country. Stop and take pictures of the scenery and eachother. Snuggle if it's cold. Also, I've always loved dinner by candle light. Can you cook? You can snuggle on the couch and watch a romantic movie with her. Take a walk in the moonlight and talk about your future plans and dreams and include her.
168749
No. Sometimes people change and circumstances require divorce that is best for one, hopefully, both parties.  It just makes you wiser and experienced.  Good luck & never give-up!
879375
divorces\n\nyes even brit brit and kfed
988905
romance isnt all physical, its probably 90% mental, i have done these things..., send her a card by regular mail and write personal things in and on the enelope and card like inside joke stuff, and nice things.  that way all who are involved in delivering the card may see it, also just talk to her, bond with the woman thats inside
1155505
Part of the therapy for getting over a divorce is to re-join the "human race".  With a divorce, we go through "separation anxiety" ... and that is a very miserable condition.\n\nDon't feel that you have to leap at the first opportunity to date ... but don't shy away from one that interests you.  Ease back into it, maybe by starting out going out with a group of friends, then a couple friends, then venturing out on your own.\n\nThere is no generally-accepted timeframe for waiting.  Let your own heart and needs determine that.  Just be cautious about "rebounding" and jumping into a worse relationship than the one you just left ... just because "it's there" and you're hurting.