I have been with my boyfriend for 8.5 years & it is coming to an end. I love him soo much still.?
441459
If it's been 8.5 years and you two still haven't been married, then it would have never been meant to be.\n\nBroken hearts can last with the most pain for 1-3 months. After that, you slowly begin to forget about it start finding someone new. When you find the new person, you forget everything about your ex except for the tiny spot in your heart where you effected you the most. Everytime you think about your ex that tiny spot will hurt, but other than that you new person should confort you enough to forget about the ex.
112938
If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
579356
i know what ur goin through, i'l be married 4 years this july we have nothin in common ,no communication,when we go out for a drive we dont talk.we even sleep in seperate beds .i'v been with him since i was 18 years old now i'm 31 .but i got 2 wonderful kids which are my world. i just want you to know ur not alone.....
171693
My first thought is, thank goodness he is honest about this. Secondly there have surely been signs that he has not been as serious as you have been. After 2 years it should have got past liking you into something much deeper. Sounds like he has led you on. Take off your rose colored glasses and see what is really there. Why did you stay? Did you set yourself up for a no win situation because you don't think your worthy of anything else? You are, but you need to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. A good relationship has good communication so there would be no surprises after 2 years. Let him go, work on yourself and then and only then will you be ready for more. You will also be more picky, more accurate in your choices.
643794
I have been in exactly the same sitation. I have a boyfriend of 3 years. He's the best and would do anything for me. What I feel for my boy friend is ever-lasting love. But.....I also fell in love with my collegue from work. I worked with him for 4 years, known him longer than my boyfriend. He felt the same way. \nI was faced with the dilema; should I leave my boyfriend for my co-worker. \n\nAfter much consideration, I decided to stay with my boyfriend.\n\nThere is a difference between being "in love" and love that will last for ever. The feeling of being "in love" will only last for a short time.   \n\nwhat you need to ask yourself is: Who will be there for my when I have problems, when I get old, when times are hard. It is only that person who really loves you. And that person will most probably be your boyfriend
1178340
Well, something has changed. I was in a crazy horrible relationship for way too long, let me help you out. First, have you tried talking to him about this?  Regardless....No one and I mean no one has the right to make you feel second class. No matter how long you have been together. It is sad and scarey when things start going down hill after years together but just because you have invested time is no reason to stay and find out if he is really going to hit you. Love doesn't behave this way. My guess is that he is doing something wrong and all that hiding is making him guilty and he is projecting that onto you. It is a pretty standard jackass tactic. You are better than that.....I wish you the best in making a decision that is safe and fulfilling for you. We only get one life.
109344
It (probably) means that it wasn't meant to be. You two have lived it up and have produced two lovely children. I'm sure the both of you love them more than life itself. But perhaps that's where it ends...It seems like you have tried everything. Hell, you even went to counseling. Good job on both of your parts. You two want it to work. Maybe you're going through a phase? Maybe you should spice things up a bit. Join a club together, join together in a new sport, go hiking, camping, maybe you could spend less time with each other. Mabe ALL you need is a BREAK. C'mon now...16 years together. THAT tells you something. It cannot just stop like that. Do not give up. There is a reason why the two of you are together. There is a reason why you met, why you got married, why you decided to create children. Reminisce together about the days when you were younger, the crazy things you guys did for each other, the first time you told each other 'I Love you', etc. Do not give up. If it's an attraction/physical thing, work it out (Literally). Get sexy, make him look at you like you're the hottest thing to have walked this earth. It's not over sweetie. I believe in you guys.
674981
After seven years with someone you should be able to comprise....all you can do is talk about the situation and let him know how depressed this is makin you feel...if he loves you which he should do after so long he might think about it abit more...communication is the best way...and honesty
760956
It hits you when you least expect it.  Then, after 1 1/2 to 2 years that "in love feeling" subsides and then the relationship takes work, communication and discipline to survive.  If you both put work into it, you'll become closer and love each other more and more.  If you think you'll just be in love forever no matter what, you're in for a rude awakening.  This is why some people marry someone different about every 5 years because they "just fell out of love with them."  Anyone who tells you differently has never been married for longer than 7 years.
772063
I started a long distance relationship a long time ago when i was 14 and we lasted 9 years. We broke up when we lived together but i'd say that everyone is different and since you have already lived together its plausible to say that you will find it hard, very hard in fact but keep at it hun, if you love each other as much as you say then you can find a way to make it work.
980715
It's the most unsatifying answer but the only answer that works. Time. It's the only healer for your wound. Of course there are many things you could do to help the time go by fast but unfortunatly it will take some time for you to get past the pain. You have to put into prospect 8 years is a long long time and to end it completly you should be devastated. If you would like more help you can email me at mkaltenthaler@yahoo.com. I just ended a 4 year relationship a couple of months ago. I was in your possition for a month\nGo out with friends, take on hobbies, do the things you've always wanted to do but haven't yet. \nKeep away from: anything that reminds you of him, depressing foods, sad movies/songs, don't be alone for the first month. \nYou will get past this and eventually start over and have a completly new life. It sounds impossible but I swear it will happen. Best of luck to you and hope all goes well with you.
1018192
yeah the first answer is correct. let time heal and if yuo still love each other i guess it's worth a try once more.\nbe honest and tell him you still love him and dont want to let go.\nwhatever his answers is. respect it. atleast you did your best and you tried lowering your pride. you wont lose anything for doing that. a more respect  for your self.
817989
well...ur situation is just like mine now..lol\njust think carefully....do u still wnat this relationship to continue?
711749
hey, youre heart isnt in the right place man! you have a lifetime to wait but a lifetime to waste. your will must aligned to the will of God in your life. The woman you love 8 years ago will not be the same woman you love at this very moment. Put yourself in a mirror and tell yourself what a handsome guy like you wasting your life in waiting. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all..Go back to the basic.
785938
it is okay to love someone for that long.. but if they dont pay attention to you, dont pass up other realtionships that could turn out to be good just for him. best of luck and i hope it works out for you =)
164852
if you really love each other no it isnt time to end it. Me and My gf are going through a simuliar phase. Fights are expected in a realtionship. There are two people involved and two different views. SO you can expect fights. Me and My gf usually have at least one fight everyday. Manly this is my fault because I am under a lot of stress due to being so far in debt and working so many hours. I take a lot of it out on her although I dont mean to. My gf is going through the stage of life where she is making a lot of deciesions ( whatever that means I am not sure just what some mutual friends have told me) Therefore she gets upset at me alot. LOL But before the night is over we make sure everything is fine between us.   Good Luck I hop everything works out/
241752
Yeah since u guys are madly in love i think u can have some fun now.... 8 months is quite long... i wudnt have lasted that long....