Is it OK to have his son as the best man?
451045
I think it's a great idea, and no one else should be best man at your wedding. \nI think that the objections that your mom and step mom have, are because of the traditional role of best man. Originally this role was made to assist the groom, and make sure that he makes it to the wedding. Also paying for the wedding if no one else was available to pay. \nHaving his son as a best man is a wonderful way to incorporate him in the wedding ceremony, and making him feel like he's an important part of the process. Go for it.
174773
I think that you are doing the right thing by honoring his wishes.  It not only shows that you care about his feelings, but that you also understand.  I think he does realize that something is "up" and it will be hard for him, but having parents that are at least civil to each other will help him.  Good Luck
725501
he is not a ladies man. he is even better A GENTLEMEN. he may out grow this depending on who his friends are as he gets older. they will help influence how he turns out. but he will always be good to his older sister and family though. nice job raising your son. good luck.
439639
Don't you think it all goes back to the parents, and how they raised their child?  Obviously, since your son is still alive, you, yourself, are on the right track.  RAISE UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO, AND HE WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.  Does that sound familiar?  That's exactly what you have done, and I congratulate you for it!
11652
No, absolutely not.\nIf the guy is not good enough to introduce to your parents, then he's not good enough for you.
547344
If you feel you have raised him as best as you could, he can be trusted.
383232
I know you love him...and you want to help him and see him happy...but you are meddling where you have no place. A mans love life is his ... let him control it himself. All we mothers can do is be there to help them pick up the pieces.
1039340
Yes -- if you've found a real man who understands the difference between being dominant and being domineering!  At the risk of sounding archaic, I believe the husband should be the head of the household.  That does NOT mean that he should boss you around.  It means he should be a leader.  Don't get me wrong -- I believe in equal rights and a good man will respect his wife as a person.  He will exalt her judgement and be awed by her talents and good works.  But when there comes a time when there's a decision to be made and it's a tie, a woman should trust him to make it.  (So you have to find a man you can trust to make decisions with EVERYONE'S best interest in mind -- not who's just putting his foot down because he can.)
278458
YES.  He will. You will fall in love and have lots of children.
352342
IF SHE IS NOT WILLING TO ACCEPT YOUR SON THAN SHE IS NOT THE ONE FOR YOU. THAT'S ALSO GOOD THAT YOU ARE TAKING CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES KEEP ON TAKING CARE OF YOU AND YOUR SON AND THE RIGHT ONE WILL COME ALONG.
510167
Yes. His other children are all his own.
820525
I think you should do what is best for u and ur child. if he is a good father, and treats you well, and you LOVE him, you should be hopeful. If he isn't any of those, tell him ur  glad he's in ur life, but you'll never be together again.
862841
I'm a man - and I'm a kid person. I love my son, my stepson, and my older stepson (my ex's boy, raised him from 13 through college).
898624
Yes, I do. I cook, clean, and take care of my son. I am from the south, so alot of women out there are like that. I have been told that I am old fashioned. I like to do it for my man, makes me feel good to make him happy. He does need to help out every now and then though. There is nothing wrong with the way you treat your man, and you do deserve a break every now and then.
827765
In my opinion, one should not follow a strict rule on whom he should follow or not.\n\nThe only criteria shall be to have his head firmly in control and the guts to say to both that right is right and wrong is wrong. No hanky panky here.\n\nI, however, personly give more credit to my mother than wife becasue they have taken care of me to bring me to a level where I could marry my present wife.\n\nSo definitely, a person should be thankful to their parents and ultimately should know what is right and wrong and be able to convey that to both of them as well.
586316
Wow! You should be proud of your son and quiet frankly,of youself too!! I feel for you and I totally relate to your situation.I am in a simular situation but I'm the Mom.\nI think from what you have said,you have done everything right,so don't stop now!! If your son is still loyal to his mom despite the fact she may not deserve it,that says alot about the character of your child and what you must have instilled in him growing up.\nLet it be his and your future daughter in law's day. I understand it won't be easy but  you sound like a father that would do anything for his son and I think it is absolutly wonderful that you are with someone that supports you and your son,I commend her also. I like what the girl said in one of your other answers,have fun with it ! Just gear yourselves up for this one!Be so nice yor sickening!! Don't,whatever you do,let your ex or anyone else cheat you or your son out of this day.\nThink about it.You have had all of the most wonderful memories and cherished times with your son being there for him the way that you have.He is getting ready to take one of the biggest steps into manhood that a young man can.I would venture to tell you that there is no anymotisy that you and your ex have that can be greater than the good you and your son have.\nKeep these things in perspective.Don't give up these gifts.\nGood luck ! I truely hope you and your wife and your son and future wife are the winners!!!!
456092
no when he found out that you had a son he was supposed to accept everything about what might happen with him that is something that a lot of people don't realize , when you get serious with someone you atre telling them that you accept all of thier flaws and anything else that may arise in the relationship.