Is it right to be ATTRACTED to my college STUDENT?
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I can see where you're coming from...and I feel your thoughts.It's perfectly normal & quite fine to have those type of emotions for her.Although,to act on those feelings may "loose her trust" as you say.Also,she may begin to feel uncomfortable around you causing her to clam up.On the other hand,if she has any feelings or interest in you,that would be different...but still,there's always a possibility that a closer relationship may lead to the other baggage that turns relationships sour,and in return may cause you both to lose concentration and possibly unwanted publicity .Eight yrs. apart isn't bad,especially if she is in her mid to late twenties on up.However,if she is still young,give her some time to develop into a more mature lady(one that truly makes her own decisions).It's not a good idea to seek a girl that always asks her friends "hey what do you think?".My advice for this situation would be let her come to you...she may/may not.Be the professional you are and just hold back my man...good luck.
78963
Normal is a setting on your dryer. It's alright to be attracted to other girls without acting on it. If your girlfriend is satisfying you mentally, hang on to her, because thats the hardest thing to find. You are a walking hormone right now . Don't throw away a good thing, if that is what you have.
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Be straight foward, dont lead her on with anything that could be mistaken for more then freindship.  If she starts touching your hair or any part of you, stand straight up, or just pull back like, "ewww".. almost automaticly.  Send accurate vibes.  However, if you find that you have possible feelings, which I read that you either do, or your really young, then you need to try to hold stong to a moral, like the Holy Bible, I dont know if you read it or not but its the best thing a person cold do. I am a "recovering" homosexual who is celebate forevermore, so I am not without sympathy for your situation or your friends. I would say though, you should definatly reevaluate all your freinds with this in mind, "You are the company you keep" and this is what you turn into, slowly but surly, in little ways and big before you know it (I'm not talking about lesienisim nessisarly however).  So make sure you are with the classification of people you want to grow into.  Be kind but BE FIRM.  I believe in you!
825427
Sure, its called actually being attracted to you.\n\nCheap and effective and works everytime.
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Go for what you feel...Don't be stuck with what if, and when you are at college, I bet you will still think of her.  That tends to ruin how you view other girls.  I think you will gain the knowledge of what she feels, and that is powerful knowledge.  Good luck, and never give up!
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No you do not love him . . . because you don't know who you really are.\n\nYou are infatuated with him . . . that is it. . . . \n\nYou can have fun . . . but no serious relationship.  First grow up . . . and explore yourself and your future.\n\nGo to college . . . and if he is still around after college . . . and you are both interested . . . see where it goes from there.
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Your relationship has the potential to do well. If communication, trust, and all those other factors (such as passion, commitment, etc.) have perservered through your time in high school, then maybe you will succeed in your relationship as long as those items remain constant and in good status.\n\nYour relationship, however long or not, may cause a bit of a hinder in your future though. In college, many people that may be to your liking would appear and therefore test whether you or him are strong enough to hold on to each other.
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It depends on your university.  I know how it is to fall for your teachers; I think I've fallen for every one, male or female, and I've dated a couple of teacher assistants extremely seriously (flirting with marriage).  However, with an actual professor I doubt that something will come from it.  Doesn't he have a girlfriend/wife?  How do you know he feels an attraction towards you?  If you can, for now try to renegotiate your feelings along the lines of friend or father figure.  If something comes from it (again, I'm seriously skeptical, but it's certainly not impossible) it will probably be a while, as you are currently his student and there is still something sketchy about jumping into a romance right away.  He's young and probably wants to keep his awesome job and not tarnish his record.  Good luck!  I feel your pain.\n\nAnd while I'm sure the attraction for him is electric, you should try to get to know his person outside of the context of teaching before jumping his bones.  A lot of your assumptions about him may end up falling apart when you deal with the real man (this isn't necessarily a bad thing, but be prepared).  I say this from experience.  Before I could fall in love with the man behind my TA, I had to give up my idealized notion of him as a TA- and it was first uncomfortable for me, but ultimately a good thing.\n\nEDIT- Oh and I also dated a man 11 years older than me.  I don't have any regrets about it- we worked wonderfully together, but were at completely different points in our lives which ended up causing a lot of tension (and which ultimately led to our decision to split, if just for some time).  I am currently looking for someone closer to my age.  Unfortunately I can't tell how old my crush is.  \n\nPeople are correct when they label what you have as infatuation.  Again- the man behind the teacher probably does not live up to the ideal you have in your head.  And hopefully, he has some regard for his much younger students (not taking advantage of his power position, etc.)  This is why I say that if you really like him, there is going to be a LOT of waiting and a LOT of uncertainty.  It's a delicate situation and I wish you luck in getting through it however you do.
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Sweety.....there IS someone for everyone. Your someone may not be at your school right now, he may not even come from your school. You may met him later. He may move there from somewhere else.\n\nYes, I'd probably agree with you that most men prefer women of thin build. Is that fair you may ask? It's not about what's fair. It's about personal tastes....likes and dislikes, that's all.\n\nFor example; the majority of people like football too....agreed? Well, some don't. It's just about personal taste, and some things seem to fit within what a majority of people  would tend to like.....like football, or a particular build of woman.\n\nIf you wish to lose weight, do it for you, and no one else. You really do have to be the person you are tho. Shy, not shy, heavy, thin, light hair, dark hair, short hair, long hair, long nails, no nails, whatever. Understand?\n\nYou have to learn who you are and what you're about. You have to be confident with yourself, and then.....someone will come along and like you for exactly who you are.\n\nI know it sounds like a mystery now, and it seem unfair. And that it is frustrating for you, but trust me. Think about yourself and work on being a good person. Develop the person inside because that is what shines thru when you meet people. \n\nIf some don't like you because of your looks....fine...so be it. It does and will happen. Don't take in 'inside' you.....those people have more problems that you do, and I'll bet that 99% of those people may look beautiful on the outside, but are empty, dark and of little substance on the inside. The only way they can feel good is to trash someone else. They are doing you a favor by showing you what they are made of. It makes things very clear-cut for you! You should pat them on the back and say, "Thanks for showing me what kind of as----le you are!"!  lol\n\nLike who you are......work on the person you are, because you are not defined by others, or a boyfriend. You're defined by who you are and how you behave towards others.\n\nYou'll be FINE......:)
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They are your best friend cuz you have stuff in common with them. You already love them as a person so it only stands to reason that you would find them attractive.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman recognizing the beauty of another woman. It probably doesn't mean anything more than you have established her as someone you might want to emulate. If the attraction is sexual, however, you might want to give your sexual orientation some serious evaluation. The main clue here is that you are a girl. Your teacher is a woman. Huge difference. Don't rush things. Enjoy life. You're still young.
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When I was in college I hung out with a guy I worked with in the library. He was about ten years older than me, and had children of his own already, but he was fun. Just get involved in campus activities, join clubs, get a campus job, chat with people in your classes. Be your charming self.
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Absolutely not!  You should feel lucky to have him.  If you want the relationship to grow then you always have that.  I too am a christian (getting baptized this Sunday!) but I believe what you have is far from wrong.  It seems that your feelings for him are deeper than sexual and that is something Christ cherished, LOVE.
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Don't worry. Just be her friend.\n\nA relationship is not only sex or living together.  She can be your friend and her partner too.\n\nHaving an attractive friend is not an issue.
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i think you were attracted to her because she grows different comapred from her childhood.\nif you love her, don't make the temptation lead in your mind. face the reality. god is watching us and he knows what we are doing. if you can't hold it, live it to the god because he find way to put you in right situation. just pray.\n\nin addition : i think you are a good guy. god give you a trial to confirm that good guy still exist in this world.\nif i'm right, hope my becoming bf is like you.
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Can't see the pic that good too small. But from what I could see you are a good looking guy nice body. One of the things I think is sexiest about you is that you are in college and using your head to have an education and a good job someday. Way to go!!
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Yes, You should tell her how you feel and do it in a romantic way! Take her out, tell her you just want to go out before she goes to college and make her think that she is just going on the date as a friend. Then you tell her your feelings!