i hate my husband for not spending precious time with us his family and he is most with other people?
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in all relationships , one seems to have the "power". dont threatn to end it ... just act like it doesnt bother you & do a lil ignoring & soon the power is yours! he'll get REAL interested in your " change of attitude" !!
597832
Your husband should b spending time with u...u r his wife not his bloody maid.
1019625
I know the feeling! I work full time and my husband is disabled and home 24/7. He takes care of the housework (it may not be like I do it, but it's done & clean), laundry, cooks most nights and takes care of my 15 & 13 year olds. If they need to go somewhere, he takes them. My whole family blames him for us not having everything they do. I wish they could live in his body for one day and maybe then they'd understand. It works for us but it's not mainstream so everyone else thinks he's a freeloader. Sorry, I can sympathize with you, but I can't help.
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I can understand why you are upset, I would be also.  It's one thing for a godchild to come to visit when he's "invited", entirely another for him to "invite" himself.  Just because he's always done that, doesn't mean it's right or that it has to continue.\n\nLook, marriage is based on love, respect and communication.  Talk to your husband.  Explain how you feel, there's no reason why you should have to have his godson over "every holiday"!\n\nHis godson's parents are being very inconsiderate by assuming that he's welcome for every holiday.  It's up to your husband to put a stop to this, you shouldn't have to be involved.\n\nYou just moved, you have no room and your husband just had a stroke.  Why should you have to turn your life upside down to cater to someone else now?  If his godson's parents can't understand that, it's "their" problem, don't let it become "yours"!\n\nGood luck.
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Well, trying to tell his family that you have a problem sometimes may be a lost cause.  Why don't you have a serious talk with your husband.....\n\nMore importantly, I would distance myself from your BIL.  And, don't let him IM you and you don't IM him either.
978361
my husbands ex wife is the same way. she wants to be at ALL of his family gatherings but she's so stupid because no one liked her before and they dont like her now she just looks pitiful. anyway she only has one child with him which she held over everyones head like bait or something and now i have two so she only looks dumb because no one wants to see her they only want to see his son.
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You know he was not interested in a family life. You also releized he was not treating you as you wish, why did you stay long. It was your choice, but I feel you made better choice now by leaving. Better be alone and happy than with someone you do not feel treating you well
341057
You are wasting your time with this man. Even if he does leave his wife and kid 4 you, how do you know that he won't leave you for someone else later? I think you deserve better. There is someone better for you out there waiting 4 you. GO OUT AND FIND HIM.
57686
U R IN A VERY VERY DELICATE POSITION.I FEEL HE IS "ACTING" CHILD LIKE. IT WOULD BE BETTER IF U LIVE SEPARATELY FROM UR IN-LAWS IF IT IS AFFORDABLE
432372
Patience is a virtue, I always say. If you live with them I feel for you. Just a few things to remember, 1)if you love him then you will learn to appreciate and deal with the family that you married into. 2)Although, everyone disagrees sometimes try to bond with your inlaws and things will go better than being upset. 3)Get to know your mother-in-law as mother than just a mom but a friend or gal-pal. 4)Do something as a family together. Go out and do something that you all will enjoy.
790360
I am sorry to say but i agree with him. You got yourself in a family relationship. Our kids come 1st and we always travel with them. Try to comprmise and bring a sitter so you guys can go off and do stuff on your own
828805
Well, you've got to do what you've got to do, but be prepared to alienate (at least) your brother-in-law and his wife.  It sounds like he is very self centered and, I would bet, the boss in his family (strong type A personality).  I don't know where it will stop, but there will be a lot of really stinky stuff floating around-and may never dissipate.  A person with his personality will definitely blame you for the problems that arise.  From what you have said he thinks his time is far more valuable than others and, therefore, will not understand your anger.
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ohhhhhhhhh. I hate know-it-all-inlaws. I have a sister in law like that and a mother in law that butts in and makes me feel stupid.\nThe only thing you can do is smile and endure. Pretend like you dont hear them or something.
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tell them no. that's what he wants you to do serve him. find an agency that offers 24 hour care or you can also contact hospice they are trained to help the family with respite and other situations were it is impossible for the family to care for the terminally ill.and he can afford it if they are well to do. i know you are a good person just by reading your story, but he hates you, not dislike or slightly annoyed, just mean. explain to your husband that after all the years you just wouldn't be comfortable taking care of such a mean spirit. i know him and his family will come up with another idea. and the elderly and sick need more attention and care.good luck and forgive him and pray for him.
566300
I find everything about my husband's boyfriend annoying
105297
there's nothing you can do about it.Your husband needs to disguss it with them since it's his family,and tell them nicely to knock it off.
112309
Stop going to family events ... when they ask "why" you aren't or weren't there ... tell them you didnt' have the energy for their drama ...