i have poor impulse control and keep invading my spouses privacy?
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Oh my goodness!  Listen to all the stick your poor huband is getting from people who don't know him, after you've told us you have OCD.  Some of you people need to get with the picture.\n\nObsessional jealousy is a common manifestation of OCD, the compulsion being to constantly check on the object of the jealousy.  If have OCD then you should seek help as it is extremely unlikely to get better by itself.  I would add that you should try not to beat yourself up about it, it sounds like you have an illness that needs treating.  The good news is that a combination of drugs and counselling is an effective treatment for OCD for many people.\n\nAnother thing... I would say that whether your marriage is 'worth it' or not is beside the point.  Even if it weren't, and I'm sure it is, the jealousy will continue to be problem for you with whichever new partner you might find.
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Addictions are serious things to leave.  Viewing pornography is very addictive and you need help to get out of it.  Talk with your husband and install some parental control on your PC, with the only condition that you will set the password protection in it, so he cannot turn it off.\nIt's not impossible and it can be done.  Just make sure you are both in the same page, otherwise its going to bring you a lot of misery and shame.
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I understand how you are feeling. Not that it has happened to me but I can imagine how it would make you feel. I am married and if my wife were conversing with another man over the internet, I would be concerned. But if she went to all the trouble to wipe out the conversation logs. I would be doubly concerned. Yea, he may give you some reason as a matter of security, but he should have no problem in letting you see those logs before he deletes them. \n\nSome time ago, I was talking to another woman over the internet but as a rule, I would never say nothing negative about my wife. Of course you should not anyway. But we all get mad. And if we start talking to another woman or man about how we are unhappy about our spouses, we are opening the door for an internet affair. Another thing is I would try to get my wife to read the logs because I would let her know I talked to an online woman and I wanted her to be secure. \n\nTalk to your husband about it. Tell him you need to feel more secure about this. People are leaving spouses all the time and flying across the country for people they never seen. And tell him it would protect him too because you love him so much
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When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D
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I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
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This happens alot in my house, mainly becaise my husband is from India and I am American. He says things and it set's me off fairly fast then I make every one mad. To avoid this, dont say things you know she dont want to talk about, it it is sticking in your mind, then write it in ajernol, but stop talking on topics that are touchy for her. It's not always easy, infact it will feel like you give more effort then she and latter in life it will come back to hurt you, so learn now to let things go, because you will have other issues to deal with that are far more important. Choose your words wisely, and learn to live as one or not at all.
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wow, I can't decide which is worse...a wife that is keeping secrets from her husband, or a husband who is so controlling that he wants to keep tabs on everything his wife does.\n\nhave you considered for a moment that maybe NOTHING is going on? maybe she needs ONE THING in her life that you don't have your nose in? maybe she emails her girlfriends. maybe she is secretly planning to leave you. whatever it is, she obviously doesn't want you to know.\n\nif it bothers you that bad, be a man and talk to her about it. i would suggest not accusing her of anything, because then you will just make her defensive. try to act mature (and no, trying to hack into her email account and spy on her is NOT mature) and explain what is making you uncomfortable.
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My husband does this(the half truths) but I honestly don't believe it's to hide anything.I get the impression he doesn't need complete details to function and can't understand why I do.
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if you want your marriage to work you are going tohave to draw a line under it. i know its easier said than done. try and think of the good things in the relationship whenever you feel yourself distrusting him, thats what i did.
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Out of courtesy, yes.  Just because you are his wife does not give you the right to look into all his personal things, unless he himself tells you it is ok.  I am married, and I open my husband's mail, and can look at anything I want to because he has told me I can look at anything he has.  Your husband may be different. As his wife, you should know how private a person he is. If you are not sure-ASK. Would you appreciate his going thru your purse without asking?
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Make yourself a check list in a small note pad.\nMark off the things that you do.\nWhen you worry about it you can go back to your list and make sure you've marked it off.\nIts all about control.  You can regain control by having visible verification that you did what you were suppose to do.
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talk to a counsellor.\nthis is very unhealthy for both of you.\nshe 's never cheated you and why this bothers you...\ninsecurity...\ndon't let this garbage be back in your house..or you would keep on cleaning it..talk to her and share your feelings..\nbeing in marriage is being one..if one hurts, the other is hurt too... ask for forgiveness and give time with each other.
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I agree with incan princess ...\n\nThe problem is really YOU !!\n\nFirstly ..you go snopping around his things . you have no respect for other peoples privacy... dont you have a job or something to do instead??\n\nWere you thinking that you where helping a realtionship by doing so ??\n\nNext ,you put out this question up on Yahoo answers and lable it for ladies only.\n\nI am married too .. do you know that i too know many things. My wife is beside me write now ..\n\nwe both agree that you need to change your attitude towards things and your relationship. Show some respect towards your husband. Its probably your behavior that lead him to do what he is doing ... in the first place !!\n\nAnd yes .. for gods sakes .. dont bring a baby into this world  - then go for a divorce. Poor child ...\n\nDisappointed with you !
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I have the same kind of neighbor, I just started shutting my doors, windows, and totally ignoring her for about a week, I wasn't rude about it, just acted like I was always busy.  I think she finally got the hint, doesn't do it as much anymore.  Just always act like your getting ready to do something, or how about when your husband comes home, if he has a cell phone, call him and make it ring, so he can walk away and take his call, what else can she do if he's busy as well.
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Tell him you are sorry and that you will never do that kind of a thing again. Never involve yourself with married people. Think about it this way. What if someone else interfered in you blissful marriage and spoilt it. Ask for her forgiveness and stay clear from such entanglements.
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Sharing intimacy with anyone other than your spouse is cheating. May it be physical or emotional. It's deception either way. You should leave if you are missing something at home.
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Yeah,,,I've had a few like that too...If they are married you can have a quiet word with the wifey, but I don't suggest that cause it just causes problems...As long as they just look and don't try anything I don't worry about it..The one time a neighbor tried anything though I had a couple of my friends come over and put the fear of God into him...Why is it that some guys make you feel dirty even when you are dressed and just walking to your car?  I'd prefer it if he would just have yelled that i was looking hot rather than just staring...