How do we fight becoming desensitized from all the negativity of violence and sex that surrounds us?
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By being selective in what we watch and allow our children to watch.  It appears that young women now would rather have a boob job than a university degree.  That means they aspire to be attractive to men rather than to develop their own intellect.  I am also concerned about the increase of pole-dancing clubs, turning women into sex objects, no wonder men have no respect for us.
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Maybe you guys need to talk to each other and find out why things are unhealthy.  Try to work out your problems instead of fighting them out.  Decide if what you are fighting about is even worth fighting over.  Alot of times we fight over stupid stuff.
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I thought your reply to her was great! I know it can be frustrating when you see such intolerance towards gays, but violence is not the answer. Such people really missed the, "Judge not, or you too will be judged" lesson in Sunday school. (That's Matthew 7:1, the NIV translation.) About pride: Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. --Proverbs 16:18\n\nSuch people are like mosquitoes--bothersome and they will feed off you if you let them. Just put on your bug spray and you'll be fine. ; )
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I think first we have to realize that first and foremost these things probably arent going away in our generation. They have stuck it out for quite some time, and some peoples entire belief systems are grounded in ideals that are inclined to make them each of the things you listed. But that certainly doesnt mean we should not be fighting to try and alleviate these things whenever possible. One of the most effective things seem to be getting the most information out there possible. A lot of people are fact based people, they tend to believe whatever they are told because they havent had significant evidence to the contrary (a lot of this is ignorance too). The more people know that that person is a lot like i am, the less likely they are going to act negatively. There might need to be a push to get people to engage in activities with people outside the norm. Although theres probably akwardness that will need to be overcome, if there are enough people who can effectively break the ice so to speak, there might be a greater understanding for all. Encouraging diversity and promoting things from many different value systems might help everyone come closer together if its done in a positive light (not in a we are better than you because we do this). But as long as people keep fighting for alleviating prejudice, discrimination, and violence theres hope that someday we can remove these things for good.
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I took "Sensitivity training" and learned that feeling sensitive towards your enemy is best worded like this,"The best way to pacify your enemy with sensitivity is a clean, quick kill". I apply that yet today with words, not bullets, and find words are much more damaging. Get into their minds and their asses will follow. Try it sometime. I mean that in a good way.
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Eat lots of....CHOCOLATE!!!! they proved that it makes you much more happier, because they gave free chocolate to lots of people when they came out of night clubs and they didn't get into fights...they were laughing a lot!!! lol....\n\nplus it doesn't harm you..its a natural high...yummy
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Always treat others, the way you want to be treated by them....sounds pretty simple, but it seems to be an impossible dream ...:-(\nWell, I try to live this , but I find myself really often upset ( but at least not violent )
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first don't listen to "witness" second don't worry about it there is nothing wrong with you and it is just a fact that when ever feelings are involved we will get hurt but don't be scared of it, because if you live in the fear you will never find anyone that will make you happy!
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Do not feel ignorant. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless your husband gets help FAST, things will escalate. He has control issues, and feels very insecure about everything. Most abusers are insecure, and feel that violence is the only way to keep the things they love from leaving. But in actuality all it does is FORCE the things they love further away from them. I strongly suggest getting help, and if he refuses...you need to leave before things get worse. Without help, eventually your relationship with him will crumble to the point of nonexistance. There is no excuse for being violent with someone, and stress happens to everyone. Not everyone gets ready to beat the crap out of their wife/ mate however when the situation gets hairy. Once again, get him some help before its too late, or leave and work on you. Huge hugs, and best of luck.
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You could try signing up for a martial arts class - that is GREAT for getting out excess aggression. \n\nYoga's pretty awesome, too. After a couple poses, you start feeling very balanced and calm. \n\nIf you're not into classes, you could try just plain old jogging or running. Focusing that angry energy into something non-violently physical and healthy could be a great way for you to redirect your anger.
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We in the US live in a more sexually uptight society.  People who react with violence, are usually living in fear.  That fear is internal - they fear that their own sexuality is threatened, that they might not be (and probably aren't) the men they would like to think they were.\n\nAnd they're stronger when united in a group (like a pack of wolves) against a common enemy.  In the group they can confirm their own self-worth, and unite against anyone who would threaten that concept.\n\nThe gays, by intimating that any male can be gay, threatens that group.  They disprove all the manyly things they are saying about each other.  They exploit the weaknesses of heterosexual men.\n\nWhen faced with a threat - it's a fight or flight situation. Men fight.  Especially when they're united in a pack.\n\nI have not read the article you referenced but have read many others on the subject.
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I wish you would have been more specific. Is this a negative home environment or a negative school environment?\nIn general, the best way to cope with a negative environment is to remember how special you are. Remember that some people simply don't know any better than to fuss and fight and criticize. They do this not because they're smart or superior. People are typically negative for a number of reasons. Some are jealous. Some are bitter. Some are fearful. Some feel inferior. Some are insecure. Ideally, if you're in a negative environment, and it's really dragging you down, get out of it if you can. If this is a situation where you need to stay, remember that for the simple fact that you recognize your negative environment as "bad" and have asked for advice, you're very sensitive and intelligent. \n\nYOU are a very special and unique person who has the capability to achieve so many great things in your life. Don't let the negative people in your life drag you down. If you do, it's YOU that are giving them their power. Try your best to understand that the negative individuals in your life have problems of some sort and the only way they know to deal with them is by expressing their negativity. Hold your head up high and use this experience to become a better person and to fully understand that you NEVER want to make another person feel like those people make you feel. It's YOU that have the power. Don't give it to them by letting them drag you down. You might not be able to stop their negativity but you can ignore them and write it off to ignorance. Good luck and God Bless You!
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I was raised in a lot of violence. I once (the only fight I have ever been in) beat up my father. It was the scariest thing I have ever felt, like a blinding rage. Neither of us won, as far as I can tell there is no winning in violence. My brother walked in and stopped me, I was so crazy in that moment that I didn't even know what I was doing. I just knelt down next to him and wept. No victory was won that day, I felt no better, had not gotten even.
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Excellent questions!  Sex is wonderful and should be more wide spread.  Violence is horrible and should not be seen.
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That's a big question. \n\nBy refusing to engage in a violent, verbal or physical, response, I am refusing to feed negative energy into a system already rife with it. I know that makes me sound like a new-age quack, and all I can say is that I really am a rational person. I'm not claiming that I don't understand the desire to take retribution, I do, but in giving in to that desire, we don't really generate a solution, we just create a new problem.\n\nThe link below is to a podcast of UC Berkeley's Introduction to Nonviolence course. If anyone is interested in this subject I'd really recommend it.
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You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....\n\nTell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.\n\nTake action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment.  Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights.  Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.\n\nDo you see where I'm going with this?\n\nTAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE
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In case there's any dispute, I'm heterosexual.  However, I very strongly believe in equality for ALL people, regardless of gender, nationality or sexual preference.  I suspect I feel so strongly because I understand descrimination (being a female in a male dominated work place, and because of my religious beliefs) and I hate to listen to narrow-minded, egocentric verbal diarrea that some individuals feel they have a right to inflict upon the world.\n\nI also feel the need to confront and challenge people when they shoot their mouths off in my presence, because so long as people deem it acceptable to spread hatred, they will continue to do so.\n\nIt's okay to disagree, but it's not okay to demoralize a person or a group of people over something they have no control over.\n\nMy advice to anyone who feels as strongly about this as I do, is to never let an oportunity pass to publically embarass somebody (I'm not suggesting a physical altercation) who goes out of their way to hurt people.  Let everyone around see how stupid discriminatory behavior is.  Show these people that this behavior is not acceptable.