is there any way to forget the past?there is one event i want to so badly forget it,how do i do it? any ideas?
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I went through the same thing.  It took me two years go get over my ex which was the hardest thing because he was the love of my life (never felt that way before). I'm sorry to bring it to you, but you will never forget.\n\nEven bad memories you can't forget (a bastard I dated who I do not like to remember at all). I try to forget, you just can't.\n\nThe most that you can do is preoccupy yourself. At first it will be very hard because all you can do is think and be reminded of the things that happened, but TIME (as much I as I hate saying it) will do its thing.\n\nI know this doesn't help much and you're probably not going to listen, but it's the hardcore truth.\n\nSome people like to do dramatic changes in their life and it's something you can try (change the way you look, change your diet, change your routine, etc), but if you don't want change, then TIME again.  Some like to do outrageous things (date a lot of people at once w/o having a care in the world - NOT recommended!, immerse themself in work/school/social world, etc) \n\nBut whatever you do, it'll still be there (even the faintest memory will linger).  Mine still does (both the good & the bad) and after a while you just deal with it.  I even still cry. It has been 3 years now (the love one).\n\nIt's also helpful if you help those who are like you. It's therapeutic rather than talking about your problems if you can relate to other people (***like me!***)
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of course, i remember the exact date cause it's an event that i will never forget until the day i die. i have to prove that i am a virgin before he marry me. i know it was the past, but you will never forget the humiliation and the distrust knowing you never been involve with anyone at all. sad but its' true, i did get over it, but it leave a mark that i carry deep in my heart as of today.. anyway, this bring back bad memory...sorry.
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Get over it and get on with your life.\nYou cannot change the past.  Stop living through your memories.\nShe has made her choice or she would not be engaged.
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Are these memories bad enough to make you willing to try some visualization techniques?\n\nIf they are, here's a description of what I've done personally and with some other people to help with bad memories.\n\nIt is key to remember that we don't want to forget them completely. Total forgetting might let us repeat whatever caused the first bad memory and keep us from learning how to deal these situations. \n\nWe just want to get to the point where we are not feeling these memories all over again like they're brand new and we don't want to spend all our time thinking about not thinking about them.\n\nThe nice thing about these techniques is that even if they don't help, they do no harm, so we don't have to be afraid of trying them. The techniques do not have the side effects of drugs or alcohol.\n\nFirst, mentally lay out the memories you dislike and would like to give less attention to. Treat them like clothes that you would lay out on the bed before putting them away.\n\nTake one memory. Look at it as if it were something you were watching on television.\n\nReach out. Just like your real TV, reach out and turn down the volume. Take the color knob and turn it down until the memory fades to black and white. Now move to the other knob, the one for brightness and contrast. Turn down the brightness and contrast until you can barely see it. Play with it. Up, down, up, down. \n\nNow, leaving the memory black and white and just barely visible, reach out and pick it up and place it behind you, out of sight. It's still there. You can bring it out any time you want to, but you've physically moved it so that it is not blocking your ability to see other things.\n\nDo that for each memory that disturbs you. Make the physical movements. That will help give you "muscle memory" of what you've done, what you've changed, not just "mind memory."\n\nFor good memories, do the same thing only turn UP the volume, the color, the brightness and contrast. Place them to your side where you can easily see them out of the corner of your eye whenever you want to.\n\nThey're YOUR memories and you'd be less than a whole person if you lost them. You just want to pack them away in their right place. Whatever you place in front of you will be seen better than anything else. Whatever you place behind you will only be seen when you pull it out to take a look. You're in control instead of being controlled by.\n\nThis has helped me with memories of death, embarrassment, loss. I've passed it on to others before, physically guiding and encouraging them to make the motions, and they've reported that it has helped them. Try it right now, and tell us what happens.
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I've asked that question before and realized that if I answered it, I would have unresolved issues/events I need to deal with. What I am trying to get at is that for myself, if I want to attain contentment, happiness, peace, and free of regrets, then I must accept everything, every event, happening, etc. that has occurred in my life. Come to terms with everything, the past is the past, it is unchangeable, but I reflect upon it to change what I can today, make better for tommorrow, and learn from it. I was 'dealt a less than decent hand', far from normal, and many challenges. I have overcome many osbstacles, weathered many storms of life, and made many mistakes, but I have no regrets and I am at peace with my past. And that is where it stays, in the past, to reflect upon. \n\nSo my answer to your question honestly, is I wouldn't change a thing.
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From past experience I could tell you that keeping oneself busy by reading, writing,drawing or any other hobby can indeed take ones head off whatever it is that we want to forget. But the important think to remember here that thinking back to the situation or the experience is not all wrong, it's okay to reminisce on whatever it is that is bothering us and learn from the past so as not to repeat it in the future. If we try too hard not to think of a certain situation we will end up doing nothing but!
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nothing... the past is not be forgotten but to be remembered for all its learnings!
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Isn't it that thing that you remembered first but then you said no not that thing, it's the other thing but it wasn't the other thing, it was the one thing you said you always wanted to remember but keep forgetting. So you tried a new thing to remember this one thing you said you didn't want to forget. So now, do you remember which is the thing since it was the thing you didn't want to forget so you used another things to help remember this thing??\n\n\nOk fine, stop thinking and it will come to you, it normally does.
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Anything is possible.  We're talking about something that happened a long time ago.  The only thing we had left is what someone wrote down.  At some point in time anyone could delete/add anything.
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If you think of time like a ribbon that can be folded over onto itself, and all time past and future has already happened, then from time to time, you can encounter people from the past and probably the future. When we see a person from the past in our time, we refer to these overlaps "ghosts," but in reality, these people are very much alive and in their own time. This is known as Monaghan's Theory of Time.\n\nAlas, there is no way to directly touch these people and so therefore no way to erase someone from the past. Even if you were to erase someone, it might have very detrimental effects on the present. For instance, getting rid of someone in the past would have a domino effect of erasing a whole line of people, changing potential marriages, bloodlines and histories. This is commonly known as the BTTF(Back to the Future) Effect. \n\nIf it could be done, I'd advise against it.
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The next time you get deja vu, you know, at that moment you realize you've done this before - try to figure out what will happen next!  You can't!  But if, as most people think, you've lived the experience before, you should have no problem remembering what is to follow. Here's why you can never remember what will follow.  When we experience anything, our brain records it and stores it as a memory.  Then that memory is "filed" so that when we recall it, we can determine the sequence of the event, i.e. was this recent, or years ago?  When the brain "misfiles' a current event as being something in the past, it recognizes that event and we feel we've experienced it before.  But actually, our brain is comparing the current event to itself!  That's why we can never follow through with what happens next...because it hasn't happened yet!  And that, my friend is deja vu!
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if you think its best to forget him, then you need to get busy, and stay busy. the best way to get your mind off of something is to put your mind on something else. although i dont believe you will "forget." forgetting is something we rarely achieve.
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Sounds like you have a horrific childhood past and it's blocked. Did you know if a parent does something wrong the child represses these memories the most. I don't know what it is or who did what but sit a think as far back as you can. Writing is especially good when your in these kind of moods. I MYSELF FIND THAT i write stuff I had forgot about.
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Forgiving and Forgetting are NOT the same thing.  Too many people mistake forgiving as the same concept as forgetting.\n\nOne can forgive totally and never forget. How can we learn from our lessons if we keep forgetting the pain?  We can let go of the pain, but not forget the lesson/hurt.  \n\nI forgive if given time and space to do so.  But I cannot (and often will not) forget, as I want to remember my lessons.  Human brains are wired not to forget painful lessons.
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Reincarnation is true and you can remember your last life if you want to - but very few people really want to, at the subconscious level. Memories of who you were could complicate your present life and cause feelings of displacement and confusion. \n\nIf you want to try remembering your life, read a book on the subject, such as "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Past-Life Regression" by Michael Hathaway. Silly title, but sage advice inside.\n\nWhoever thinks the inability to remember a past life is evidence that reincarnation is untrue should consider the fact that, since none of us can remember being born, or being an infant - or the vast majority of days between birth and now - it follows that everything we've forgotten (which is 99.999% of our lives) never happened either.
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The past must be accepted. It should never be denied. It is apart of the reason why a country is now the way it is. We should try to forgive and move ahead. But to forget is disrespectful to all who have suffered. Effects of these sufferings last for generation upon generation and unless you have felt the effects you may not understand why people today are still so hurt by past events. Its very complicated and painful. I just hope one day, we as a world of people will learn to accept, acknowledge, love each other and live in peace together. That's a big ask, but I'll never stop hoping.
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it sounds like you had a bad expierence in another life time. when you go to bed tonight, keep saying that you want that part of your past lives not to bother you anymore. you might have to do it a few nights. but it will help