why is it we lie when someone ask how we feel, and we say ok.?
443196
plain and simple. its so much easier to say "im fine" than to explain the problem and hope past the next day that they dont think youre an idiot for feeling the way you do. or act like your problem doesnt matter..
952180
I NEVER say "Good" or "Fine". It's just an automaton response.\n\nFor example, a guy sat down next to me a few days ago.\n"Hey Link, how are ya?"\n"Don't ask."\n"Why's that?"\n"You don't care."\n"Yeah you're right. I don't. But I'm curious."\n\nIt's rare to find honesty like that. But seriously, when people ask, they don't care about your response, because they presume you'll say "I'm okay," or something prepared. I always, *always* take an extra second or two to find a better word to use. eg. capricious (whimsical), despondent/phlegmatic (unresponsive), acrimonious (bitter), convivial (joyful) et cetera. But then again, most people don't care what you answer, so you can just say "Good" and you'll get the same response.
26038
I think it depends on an individuals personality.  Some lie because they may be afraid of the other persons/peoples reaction.  Maybe the fear of being disliked.  Others may lie and give quick answers cause they don't feel like explaining themselves or the whole story.  I think alot of people do it even unintentionally and it becomes a habit.
1166939
I'm sorry. My boyfriend has the same problem. You might be insecure about  whatever you are lying about. When you are about to tell a lie, recognize what you are feeling just before you do. Each time you catch yourself it gets easier to reject the feeling that comes up that makes you want to lie.
966090
It's impossible to never lie.  The idea that total honesty makes you a good person is false.  If your best freind is dating someone that they are extremely happy with, and this friend asks if you agree that their new love is attractive, what do you say if the answer is "no"?  You lie!  Your friend isn't taking a survey, they're just looking for affirmation of their happiness.  If we were all made with built-in lie detectors we would all hate each other.  Being a good person isn't about telling the truth all the time.
377653
People lie for numerous reason, however, the most common are:\n1)   To avoid getting in to trouble.\n2)   To avoid hurting people's feelings.\n3)   To make themselves seem more interesting.\n4)   Because they have a mental problem.\n5)   To hide something about themselves for fear that other people might judge them.\n6)   Because they get a thrill at the drama and/or attention that is created when the other person catches them in a lie.\n7)   Because the truth is hard to face,so, it is easier to try to live a lie.\n8)   Because they feel justified in lying because someone asked about something that was none of their business in the first place.
194508
Men feel the need to lie to women to mask themselves. Men are timid fragile and somewhat moronic creatures and they can not stand to be denied. So by lying from the get go they feel more secure and it helps them think they are in control. As asinine as it may sound this is true. Plus one lie means another after another and so on and so forth. It starts during childhood, lying to female teachers and their mothers then as they get older its kinda like force of habit. Its just their nature but with the right amount of love, care, and determination they can be changed. Only a few can help it others just go with the flow and will lie even after getting what they want.
1007579
Because they want a response out of you, they want to believe that it hurts you by them not talking to you, sounds silly doesn't it lol
542011
Do you have two girlfriends?\n\nOK none of my business. \n\nWhen at all possible, phrase your statements as "I feel" statements (NOT "I feel you don't call")--I feel better when we talk everyday, I love knowing you're thinking about me too--rather than "you do" statements (even Why "you do" statements/ and especially not "you always/you never" statements). Those kinds of statements are sure to get a better reaction.\n\nIf you're the one replying--assume the best of people. Assume they care, and they're asking because they do. When in doubt, try this phrase "I'm sure you didn't mean that the way it sounded." It assumes the best, it gives them a chance to rephrase and it gives you the chance to calm down. If you have the phrase stuck in your head, you'll start to use it automatically when people say something "wrong." Maybe you won't even have to say it, you'll just know it and reply accordingly.\n\nTwo other points: Sometimes when people feel guilty about something, they get very touchy when confronted on it. And, I'm assuming the conversations are taking place in a language you both speak better than your English. (I don't want to offend you, but yeah, your grammar's a bit off, so I am only pretty sure I know what you mean, if you know what I mean? If you're carrying on an actual relationship in a language you're not fluent in, that's a whole other question.)
913597
i personally don't think its easy to lie. i tried when i was younger, and it ended up hurting someone. unless its like (who ate the last of the ice cream?) i would blame the dog.\ni think some people don't want to hear the truth, or the one lieing doesn't repect the one they r talking to.
219434
I wonder the same question. I think it probably is a personality disorder, because there are people who lie even when it is not "neccessary" to lie ...
234978
because we don't want to show our real emotion.
669163
I can't answer that, because I try to be considerate of peoples feelings.  You appear to be having a bad day.  I'm sorry for that.
649185
One response you can give is to smile and say, "Why do you ask?"  Sometimes you can then ask them the same question they asked you.  The key is to not get upset about it.  If they were trying to annoy you on purpose, they get annoyed because you aren't annoyed.  And thus, they cannot take advantage of you.\n\nIf the asker is very sincere, a better response might be, "That's something that I don't feel comfortable answering."  They're likely to appreciate the honesty.
290241
be respectful and honest when you tell that person how you feel.
989568
Some people become addicted to lying. Others do it casually for cover. People constantly worry about what other people will think and the consequences of revealing the truth. Therefore, they lie to make things seem better than they actually are.
291086
if someone says that he/she doesn't lie, that must be a lie. i do try to avoid it but as a human being i do. how many times, deponds on the day. but i think 2-3 times a day is normal.