If some says harsh words to me,should i ignore that person?or reply with the same attitude?
439551
According to Islam, u have both the opportunities,either ignore that person's harsh words or reply with the same attitude.But the first attitude is more preferable as it increases softness in the heart of that person as well as in yourself b/c you didn't use bad or foul language & may be that person will be immpressed by you & become nice like you.\nThanks.\nSumiya.
739833
Say something to who?  Her boss?  Better to let it slide I think.\n\nIn the end, nobody can hurt us without our permission.  If her comment hurt you it is because you let it.  If someone said that to me, I'd laugh.  It is only rude if you decide to take it that way.  How she behaves has nothing to do with you.  It is purely a reflection of her.\n\nBest of luck!
839376
These feelings that you are having toward her are going to keep building and building; if you don't go ahead and discuss them with her, you might lose your cool one day and really go off on her and say things that maybe you did not mean to and cannot be taken back.  It sounds to me that she is indeed taking you for granted and will continue to do so until you tell her how you feel.  Some people do not realize that they do this to others until it is brought to their attention.  Then again, on the other hand, some people are just like that and down right rude.  If I were you, I would tell her exactly how I felt about everything, but try to do it in a nice way.  From the sound of the narrative you wrote with your question, it seems as you are a good person and would handle this way.  Hopefully, once you confront her, she will see the "error" of her ways and change her attitude.  If she doesn't, at least then you will know that you tried and you will not fell bad when you tell her no the next time she wants something from you.  Good luck.
616102
Honestly, just ignore them. Tell yourself.. "Who cares", smile, and walk away. If you get upset by what they say, its their gain cos thats what they want. The key is not to take what they say seriously, even tho' it may be a major OUCH phrase they use. Just think of it as (the lamest and unfunniest) joke ever, and move on. :)
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I do not assume the worst. I try to imagine a troubled person desiring a serious answer. I've also come to realize that I have a very matter of factly way of saying things that in the end seem jaded or very rude. Society however has taught us as a whole to be more emotional in a bad way. We are politically correct to a fault. If it isn't covered in rose petals and smelling wonderful it must be wrong. Not so. People need to hear more truth with out all the associated crap wrapping it up. Now if someone is simply rude- there is nothing that can be said on that besides simply put: Ignore them. I do believe however everyone is a person and you should have some mutal respect for them until they prove you othewise - then it's just not worth your time. Take care and hopefully you'll see the world in a different light.
317400
His attitude should be reported. Never assume what a person is saying but you can judge what they said and I see that as unprofessional.
1124114
if I were you I wouldn't start stuff with people. you never know what kind of things will change. Theres no need to just lash out at them if they havent really done anything to you, play nice.
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People, in general, who run around boasting and making bad comments about others are trying to get attention. ANY attention, good or bad. Doesn't matter to them, their goal is to get a reaction, a response, whatever, from the person that they're speaking to- or speaking AT, in his case. Ignore him. \nIf you respond- you're giving him validation for his behavior. If you ignore him, he's left there, with himself. \nOnce he realizes he's "no fun to be stuck with" he might change his attitude. But, if someone else engages in his childish behavior, he'll move on to them- and you won't have to worry about it anymore.\n(www.thedorkymom.com)
97437
Just say "That wasn't nice." when they say something harsh. Maybe they don't realize it.\n\nOtherwise, get new friends.
1051938
when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
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I think I'm quieter on here, there's no point in abusing people unless they are being offensive or openly criticising another participant. \n\nI also keep my humour on a lower key too because I know someone will tell me to 'stop being dumb and grow up!' (awww, but why? I have to be serious in my job, I've gotta be dumb somewhere!)\n\nHaving said that I've just posted a question asking people about their funniest school memories so do contribute if you have any yourself!
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Shut up is a strong word, if said when u really mean it. Wait till ur brains like getting cooked, you know, you just cant hold it anymore with this other person blabbing away, ur listening to things ure not interested in, you try ur best to be polite and still it continues and then...bang!!! u just cant take it anymore...and then i think its ok to say ''SHUDDAAAPPP !!''
820863
If you retort you make a short and rather angry reply to someone who has said something that annoys you. Example - She offered me to help me but I retorted that I could do it myself.   'Mind your own business,' she retorted.
347756
no, insults do not make any situation better...if a person ticks someone off by calling them names, insulting their way of life and way of thinking, the person being insulted will ignore his insulter AFTER cursing him out.  Insulter at some point in time MAY figure out that he or she didn't accomplish anything with insults...
755209
As honest as you can, or just avoid them. Rude people usually find out the hard way. People call me rude but I like to be honest. There is a difference. Never hurt someones feelings on purpose, but never lie to them either.
189507
Use it to your advantage by ignoring them but hearing the message and doing something about it. You have a long wonderful life in front of you so why not begin an exercise program and diet plan and whoop yourself back into shape. \n\nSo use their rudeness as a motivation tool for yourself.
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NO! NO! NO! Do not continue. If you're wrong, admit you're wrong. If not, then NEVER apologize! Let the other person...they owe you an apology!