Is it right to like your in-laws better than your own family?
447081
There is nothing wrong with that. You have every right to feel comfortable with your in-laws. If you feel better with them than you do with your own family, its okay too. You are human and you donot have to feel guilty for prefering your inlaws to your own family. Liking your inlaws may even go along way to strenghtening your own marriage.
519496
you're right, your family is wrong.\n\nkeep it up.  your kids and step kids should both appreciate it in the long run, and MAYBE your family will also.  but don't count on it.
619317
DON'T change for anyone but yourself. \n\nPlus, even if you try to change for your in-laws that doesn't really mean that they will accept you. They may do so on the surface, but deep down they still may not...and you'll gain nothing. Life is too short to pretend to be someone else and to be bitter.\n\nMy little suggestion is to be you and YAY for having a supportive husband!!! That's wonderful. If you don't have to be around your in-laws a lot, it shouldn't matter. \n\nMy secret: I loved to freak my ex's mother out with my views on various subjects, weird responses to questions, etc. But you have to be secure and not really care about if they like you or not to do things like that. Just a fun tip.
961807
Of course you deserve happiness. I don't think it's wrong to love him, but two things (his status and his family's resentments) need to be addressed for you to be happy. He isn't free to marry you and having that restriction, whether you want to get married right away or not, isn't right and isn't ever going to feel right. Each of his family members have their own perspective and the only thing that will help is time.Their sorrow is something they'll have to address.  You and your partner can't heal it for them. Ideally they will eventually be grateful that he's happy and they will accept you.  But for the diehards who hold grudges for a long time or forever, there won't be a thing you can do. You can only control how you feel, and they can't 'make' you feel guilty. So go for it...be happy!  p.s. wow I just read the other posts and you are being crucified!  I agree that divorce is crucial.  But calling you nasty names and predicting that your future is dismal...those are heavy judgements. We don't know all the facts and we don't know you or your partner, and being nasty doesn't help anyone, any time.
719512
It depends,I dont really care if they do or not, because as long as he makes you happy and your family does'nt like him then it should be up to you,its what you want,you want to be happy with him and your family should'nt get in the way of that happiness.
343300
anything worth doing is worth fighting for... who cares if there is a mix... are you happy? Are your children happy? My family hates the man I married, and his family hates me... everyone seems to think that they know what is best... we love eachother, our son is fantastic, well rounded. We are a happy family and have been for the past 6 years... goes to show that sometimes the world is wrong... go figure
511129
there is no such thing as a conservative family every one has some dirt under the rug, and if thy think that you are not good enough now you will spend most of your time trying to show them that you are, that is if you get in the family. and its takes so much out of you that it is not worth it. i know, it sucks.
443612
I completely agree, some people that answered don't understand that you KNOW what they mean, just that they should be reversed. I think if someone had a father that remarried, then she should be your Mother-in-law, like the person before me said, "mother-by-law", that counts here too, because she would only be your mother by law. Good question!!
1073984
hard to say. do it unless your mother in law is a real woman hitler as you call her. \nbut if you've already had disputes before, i'd say you don't. cuz what is a life of hell with more money in your pocket? just a life of hell.\ni've been living with my mother in law for a year and she was always interfering in our lives. it determined us to move into a new apartment, smaller but ours only.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
879424
I hate my in-laws. They are always in my marriage. They expect my husband to cater to their needs and forget that he has a family on his own to take care of. I undrestand that he is suppose to help them but they call him for any and everything like when they went out of town they wanted him to stay in their house for two weeks without his family.
852981
Sure.\n\nIf it's ok between them, then it should be ok with you.\n\nIf he loves her, then you have a duty to treat her as family in your home.
1076001
Your mother-in-law is as good as your own mother.  She is a religious mother after you married her daughter.  If you can understand the bond between you wife and your mother-in-law, you need not be explained anything further.  It is always rewarding to help a sick person irrespective of your own relative or somebody else.  A sick person always needs help.  You must support your mother-in-law during her sickness considering she is your own mother.  You will be rewarded by the God for this act of kindness.
1054499
I love my family with equal values
590364
Actually (and unfortunately), no, they will not have to respect you eventually. If they feel you are wrong for their precious daughter, all the money and power in the world will not convince them otherwise.\n\nI would recommend simply trying to bring things down a couple of notches. You're not alone in finding family get togethers extremely awkward. Most of us just eventually learn to suck it up and keep our mouths shut. If your in-laws try to interfere, thank them for their advice and then change the subject quickly to something everyone agrees on ---like the weather or sports.\n\nThese people are not worth ruining your relationship with your wife over, so play Richard Simmons if you are able to, and keep conversations short, superficial, and polite when you are not.\n\nBest of luck.
804266
well you best talk to your spouse and let the in laws hang because they are on the outside and the important one at this point is the one your with. but explain what happen and that you meant no harm.
685655
yes it's wrong! you shouldn't have to be afraid of telling them! You married your husband not his parents! if they don't want to accept that,then it's their loss!