What are some ways I can build my character so that I seem more approachable to others?
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Great communicators/conversationists know how to ask questions and LISTEN with interest to the answers. If you are quiet by nature, you are ahead of the game, unlikely to be inclined to blubber idiotically. Stop trying to overcome your 'shyness' and stop worrying about what YOU have to say. It's the fear of being rejected that trips you up. \n\nLearn to listen. The right words --- the ones 'outgoing' people usually can't utter --- will come when you stop worrying about what YOU have to say and just listen quietly. Try it out and tell me it doesn't change how you view your 'social self.' \n\nGood luck!
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Be yourself any time you go out of your way to impress ANYONE you will make a fool out of yourself and distance yourself from them. people know when your trying to hard and lose respect for you. If your confident your a likeable person and portray that while being yourself people will like and respect you.
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You are probably trying too hard to impress.  Be yourself and your true personality will show.  Ultimately, you want to be with people that accept you for who you are, otherwise you will need to "put on an act" everytime you are around them.\n\nOne way to take the edge off your personality, is to join a group like toastmasters or take a night class that deals with public speaking or even "acting", improv, or similar.  You'll be amazed to find that when you are around others who are relaxed, it rubs off.  \n\nIn the end...relax, be yourself and don't be so hard on yourself.  Everyone is human.
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Walk up to them, introduce yourself, and start a conversation.  Be a nice person.\n\nOptional:  Dress up nicely.
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Just be yourself and show your self-confidence. A sense of humor is helpful too. This may sound primative but it's like being a peacock and showing off your feathers.  Trust me, it will get you noticed!
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Practice social skills.  How?  Join clubs that interest you.  Be involved in your church or synagogue's youth group.  During lunch, sit with people who you know from your classes.  Ask them before you sit down, "Could I sit with you?"  Each time it will be easier.  Also, people LOVE to talk about themselves.  Ask people questions--"How long have you been playing the trumpet?"  "What did you do for Thanksgiving?"  If you ask questions, then the other person will be doing most of the talking, and he/she will think you are a great conversationalist!
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Just be yourself. While people may at first be attracted to outside appearances, it's what's insides that counts. I know it sounds like an old cliche, but it's true. Just let your own unique personality shine, and don't be pursueded by others easily. Share your opinions, your thoughts, and all those things that make you uniquely you.
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First improve your body language. Sit up straight, always have a slight smile on your face even if you are not doing anything(this encourages people to be open to you and even ask what your thinking), look directly at the person so they will feel trust. Ask questions and really listen to the answers.
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Well your obviously seriously lacking self-esteem, which means that you need to start building some. Here is a magic trick with socializing... 90% of the time, if you have complete confidence in yourself as you are saying something, people will simply see you as cool simply based on your attitude and the way that you carry yourself. But the biggest weapon of all is to not even worry about how others judge you so much. \n   Maybe you didnt say the coolest thing in comparison to the other hotshots around you, and maybe you dont have the latest athletic shoes or the newest video game, but it doesnt matter. Most of the men and women within our American society are heavily influenced by the latest fad or the newest trend. You have a champion within yourself, and you need to locate it. Find self confidence by discovering something that you are passionate about, and then challenge yourself daily. Let the other chumps follow a trend, you will follow your dreams. \n   When you find self-confidence, you really wont care what others think of you, and you will naturally attract people and convince them that you are a "cool" person. Good luck.
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There is no way that you can do that With out preparing your self. Here what I look for if i was looking at you. How do you dress. How do you treat others. How do you talk with some. Basically this will draw of your personalty. So Dress and groom well. treat others with respect, and When you talk to some one be polity and don't get mad. Just keep it cool. I hope this will help.
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Learn to break out of your shell! It's hard, but start small.  Start by smiling at people that you walk by or encounter.  Then try by saying hi when you pass by others.  It takes practice! People tend to be attracted to people who are smiling and seem outgoing even if they are shy by nature.  You will look more approachable that way rather than if you just ducked your head and kept walking. \n\nWhen you get used to being friendly with people try it on a girl you like.  Smiling is always important because it shows you're happy and confident.  Also, if you feel like you're not talkative, try coming up with conversation topics before you approach someone.  That way if the girl happens to be shy you have something to say so it doesn't feel awkward or anything.  Good luck!
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i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.
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Smile and make eye contact, in a social situation most people (who are nice anyway) will automatically say hi back! keep smiling and keep conversation light, comment on the food- have you tried....., or the drinks-be polite, never negative and ask questions about them, people love to talk about themselves!!! Talking about how they know the host of the party is good sometimes, "who are you here with?" do you know such and such"? never take yorself too seriously, introduce yourself, ask how they are and remember to breath!! or you will talk so fast they will not understand you! Maybe just smile alot until you have had a glass of wine and loosened up a bit!(never drink too much, esp if you dont know anyone). Remember, they are probably feeling like you are, and people always radiate towards friendly looking people! You will be fine!
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Dont worry. You are normal. Just mix up well with all. Dont try to impress others. You have a superiority complex with known friends and inferiority complex with new friends,\nDont try to be Unnatural and try to attract attention.Attend more parties. Read a lot on various subjects, Be a good conversationalist. In all parties there would be various small groups, small circles centred around one or two heroes or heroines , just switch from one to another, wherever the topic talked is your favourite subject just get attached to it. \nDont open mouth or volunteer information to unknown groups and unless you have real knowledge on that topic.\nOver a period of time you would be liked by one and all.\nDRESS WELL PRESENT YOUR BEST ALWAYS.
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A need to make yourself seem more interesting.
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By being a good cheerful person. How people will react towards you then, will make you confident.
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Assume that people like you and approach them with a friendly attitude. This will make you approachable.  Also, try starting conversations with people.  Remember you are new at this and like any skill it takes time to develop, so don't be too hard on yourself.  Give yourself time to learn how.  It could probably mean a few messes ups and embarrassing moments, but don't take yourself too seriously. Have fun with it b/c the more you do, the easier it will be.