how can an introvert person exress her emotions in a more tangible way?
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I think talking first to people he/she can trust and who will make her/him feel comfortable, or talking about easy things first. \nMay be first through jokes. \nTwo glasses of wine...\nIt could have a relation with confidence (either towards others , either toward oneself), so to build confidence?\nReally difficult to answer.\nVery interesting question !
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Tired of being the shy person in the back of the crowd? Become the center of attention at an easy, personalized pace! \n\nSteps \nBe confident. Tell yourself that you have great qualities, and don't let anybody bring you down! \n\nSet goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily goals, and gradually become more daring. E.g. try to speak at least once every class period. \n\nIntroduce yourself to new people each day. Most people are nice and will be welcoming to your advances. It is also great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to cute people. \n\nHold close bonds with your friends, they can be there for you when you crack out of the shell! They'll be glad to help. \n\nTry doing stuff you never dreamed you would. For example: Talk to that cute boy in study hall that you thought would never notice you. Wear something very flattering and colorful to show what a fun person you really are! \n\nLaugh often, at your own jokes and those of others. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling. \n\nLie on your bed and take 3 deep breaths. Then visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now in that situation make yourself confident. Do this for as many situations as you can think of. Do this daily. Do this in the morning. \n\nRepeat positive affirmations using I statements. " I am a wonderful person". "I am a good looking person". Do it even if you don't believe it. Do it daily. \n\nMake a list of things that make you feel shy that you want to try and work on. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations start working through them, one-by-one. The first few "easier" situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes -- take it at your own pace but do make an effort to push yourself. \n\nTips \nThere's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either! \n\nDon't go overboard, and just be yourself! Life isn't a competition! \n\nShyness is sometimes seen as classy. \n\nDon't be afraid to seek professional help -- group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way. \n\nIf you are intelligent enough to know when to keep your mouth closed, then there is no advantage to being shy. Rid yourself of shyness, you'll thank yourself later. \n\nOften, being shy is a result of feeling inferior to or otherwise "less than" other people. Think about it, this is almost never the case. A positive self-image is the key. \n\nWarnings \nIf you were known for being shy amongst family members, watch out for the harmless teasing. They mean well. But don't let them scare you back into your shell! \n\nSame goes for people at school, if you are still at school. Some may be uncomfortable with you existing outside the categeory they've put you in, in their own minds. Ignore them.
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Talking is probably the largest factor I can think of. \n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Becoming genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nA somewhat easy way to get a conversation started is to make a short complaint about something that you know the other person doesn't like. Generally the other person will complain too and you'll have you're conversation. You have to be Very careful not to do this often because you don't want the other person to think you're a whiner.\n\nThere are lots of other ways to start a conversation as well and college is a great place for it. Keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.
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i have the same problem...it actually harder for me in front of people that i know...oddly enough, strangers i have no trouble with...but that may just be me. but here are my guild lines\n\n1st know what you are going to say...practice your speech to the point that even if you start freaking out you can still say everything you want to say without thinking\n\n2nd when it comes time for you to make the speech...be calm...close off your emotions as much as you can...almost to the point of not thinking...this does help me\n\n3rd when i was starting out i couldn't make direct eye contact with anyone while giving the speech...this msy not be the case with you but it sure helped with me\n\nrecently i was kinda trust into a position where i had to give speeches about 2 time a week...i can honestly say that the more you do it the better you will get at it...and the easier it will become...so if you are going to have to give a speech quiet often it will get easier\n\njust to let you know after giving a speech i was so nearvous that i would almost be crying at the end of a speech...i am not normally the emotional type but then i was...now i can give speeches with relative ease...still not as good as i want to be but better none the less.\n\ni wish you the best of luck on your speech
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do not try to break her out. it needs to happen naturally. the danger is that she will think her feeling are wrong and instead of being natural in public she will always feel anxious adn the need to put on an act to impress others. If she is overly shy respect her boundaries and do not humiliate her for it. Instead build her confidence by affirmation.
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i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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ok everytime ure angry just  close ur eyes real yight sing a song in your mind or maybe count!!!\n\nor try this talk to a person u really love but is veryirritating u wont shout at the person u love and eventually u'llstop freakin out about little things\nor better yet just talk to yourself in your mind when you are angry try to know  why ure angry and just analyse urself
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What helped me was someone telling me that shyness is really a form of self-centeredness. If you think about it, people you encounter don't really care even a fraction as much as you do about how you come across. They have their own problems, concerns, etc. to think about. In fact, many of them are probably shy themselves but may be a little bit better at hiding it. \n\nIn group situations, shyness is a form of selfishness. You've got a lot to offer (your unique outlook, life experiences, advice, etc.) and to withhold it from others is selfish. So resolve to share more of what you have instead of keeping it to yourself...thats one way of overcoming it.\n\nOne of my friends joined Toastmasters International. Its an organization with social events in which people take turns giving toasts--its good practice for public speaking, especially when you realize how many people are also nervous and shy about expressing themselves! Similarly, you can sign up for acting/improvisation workshops. You can learn techniques there to get over your self-imposed inhibitions as well as how to be and project an image of being open and outgoing (one tip: learning to listen to others and respond accordingly.)\n\nGood luck!
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Controlling your feelings takes practice. You start with making a decision to do it. Then, every time you feel a certain way, you remember that you want to stop feeling that way. Then, you replace that feeling with something positive. For instance...you want to stop feeling shy. You find someone who's not shy and see how they are. If they are someone you want to be like, you do like they do. Hopefully, it's a person who is mature for their age and a positive influence for you to follow. Then, you start making the changes that are needed to overcome your shyness. Join a club at school, like chorus. Join an after school club, like 4H. Get involved with volunteer work, where there are lots of people. Fairly soon, you won't feel shy around others because you'll be too busy enjoying their company. You will have conquered your shyness. Now, if your problem is anger, that's something a little more difficult. You'll have to try to understand why you're angry and how it happens. Anger usually happens when you feel out of control of a situation that another person caused. You have to first realize that you can't control another person. You can try, either hitting them or some other extreme thing. But that puts you in their control because they just caused you to do something you didn't need to do. You could have walked away, ignoring them. Anger is a choice, just like any other emotion. You can choose to not________ (fill in the blank with whatever emotion you have). It's a want, not a need. Feelings come and go. The person you "fell" in love with a month ago, you can't stand now. They did something that made you mad. Actually, YOU chose to be mad...no one can make you anything you don't want to be. If someone calls you a dork, that doesn't make you one. It's someone else's feelings, not yours. If you then start feeling like they're right and you are a dork, you just accepted their feelings as yours. You see what I'm saying? By choosing to change, you don't have to feel any way that is less than great. After all, God didn't make junk. You are a wonder of God's creation. <*)))><
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practice and know what you are going to say. The more confidentand comfortable you are, the easier it is to speak in public. \n\nremember almost everybody - even the smoothest of speakers has some anxiety when talking in public - it is only natural.
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Hi,\n just bury the past ,offcourse telling is easy.\n\nYou seem to get nervous at some time,it happend with me too.\n\nOne simple remedy is 1.Take deep breath and take things simple\n\nnot imagine how things to perfect be your normal self.\nNo one is perfect.\n2.To make above practical start little sessions whenever you get\n  opportunity ,like going to shop take  intiative to talk by yourself,\n  do slowly seize every opportunity,you will be suprised once you get over.\n\nBut only you have to practical and take things lightly no worry.\nIf you failed also done get disappointed,keep trying,our brain has\n\nthe tendency to react to habit  forming ,the more you develop \n\nthe more easy so shun earlier habits form new helpful things.\n\nYou can observe within a week difference
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Plenty try abook and group called emotions anonymous i did and it helped me a lot its a place to vent and get suggestions for living hers one now carry a note[ad and write down thoughts or a to do list it helps to focus when on or off meds  also make one small goal a day and feel good if thats all you get done  thats enough but if you get more done thats gravy and a tasty result to a boring or long day  good luck Im sure theres a site for emotions Anonymous  an olde dude with ,,,,,,,Borderline personality disorder,
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Great communicators/conversationists know how to ask questions and LISTEN with interest to the answers. If you are quiet by nature, you are ahead of the game, unlikely to be inclined to blubber idiotically. Stop trying to overcome your 'shyness' and stop worrying about what YOU have to say. It's the fear of being rejected that trips you up. \n\nLearn to listen. The right words --- the ones 'outgoing' people usually can't utter --- will come when you stop worrying about what YOU have to say and just listen quietly. Try it out and tell me it doesn't change how you view your 'social self.' \n\nGood luck!
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I'm taking an Acting for Animators class where we do improv games. The point is to say the first thing in your mind. So that is the natural you, where you can be most creative; when you express yourself as your truest nature.\n\nOften in social situations we may think something and not say it because Person X is present, or they may think I'm weird, or I'm not comfortable doing/saying that in public, or whatever.\n\nAnd often we change how we respond to people based on not what they want, but our PERCEPTION of what they want. So we are faking ourselves to even us.\n\nWhat is true chemistry between people? When they are both themselves and extremely comfortable.\n\nBut changing how you act in front of different people is not a bad thing - everyone does it to different degrees. The problem is when it bothers YOU that you can't "open up." If that's the case, then it's better to just be yourself and not worry about what others think...obviously don't say things to offend people or be rude. But beyond that, anything goes. I am me, and the world's gonna know who I am.\n\n\nWhen you open yourself up, you'll get some people who like you, and some people that don't. But this depends less on what you actually say and do. It depends more on how you actually feel about yourself. The best bet is to be yourself AND like yourself!
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Talk to people. Where ever you are, talk. you will find others that you are comfortable with, and have similar opinions. Be yourself, \n\nExamples: Open a door for someone as they leave the store, comment on the weather, the store, if the other person is open to you, conversation will take hold. If a neighbor two houses down is out in the yard, start talking. Ask if they want help with what ever task they may be doing at the time. Or ask for assistants for yourself - people generally like to be needed.\nThe EASY part is finding friends.\nThe HARD thing is keeping them...\nRemember; Every body likes to talk about their self, talk about others, offer their advise and experiences........Just don't go out of the comfort zone! To know what that is, think of subjects that you would be un-easy talking to a stranger about! ... ... You can take it from here!\n\nSee how easy that was? If we had been talking in person, you would have the start of a new friendship!
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Tips For "Shaking Your Shyness"\n\n1.Conversation topics-never leave home without them.\n2.Let people know you're shy.\n3.Reward effort not outcome!\n4.Make things easy for the other person.\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time\n6.Take classes \n\nConversation Topics-never leave home without them.    Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare.  Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day.  If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending.  Before returning to work on a Monday, they think about the activities their colleagues had planned for the weekend.  They brush up on current events, the weather and anything else that might be the small-talk they need to get a conversation going or to keep it going.  Never leave home without at least a half-dozen things to talk about.\n\n   2.\n\n      Let people know you're shy.  This is a controversial subject.  Some people recommend that you never tell people you're shy, because people will use that information to label you.  Then again, if you avoid people, look down instead of making eye contact, stammer and stutter or turn three shades of purple when you're uncomfortable in social situations, people are going to draw conclusions of their own and odds are they'll be less favorably impressed with you than if you just tell it like it is---that you're nervous or feeling shy.\n\n      I think the problem arises because there are two ways to be shy---the obvious way and the not so obvious way.  The obvious way to be shy is to blush, tremble, twitch or otherwise physically manifest your shyness.  The not so obvious way is to avoid eye contact with people, not have much to say or decline offers from others you'd like to accept, but that are too far outside of your comfort zone for you to feel comfortable attending. \n\n   3.\n\n      Reward effort not outcome!   Memorize this one, because it's absolutely critical for conquering your shyness---or anything else you want to master, for that matter.  The only thing we can control in our life is our self---and even that can be a stretch sometimes.  We can't control other people and we certainly can't control how other people react to us and the things we do.  Nevertheless, most of us define our successes and failures by the way other people relate to us.  If we smile and they smile back, well good.  But if we smile and they don't smile too, we see it as a failure.  WRONG!!!   You won't get very far that way. \n\nIn fact, at least  in my book, what you did was a smashing success.  You tried.  You made an effort and that's all you can be responsible for.  You can't control how other people respond to you.  Sure, you can look back on your effort and speculate about things you can do to improve your performance next time, but at that very moment--at the precise time that you smiled, you made an effort and it's your effort that needs to be rewarded.\n\n   4.\n\n      Make things easy for the other person.  This is a tuff one, because as shy people, most of us are too busy worrying about ourselves---about how we look, what we say and whether other people will like us--- to stop and think about what we can do for other people.  But really, that's what being social is about---the other person, not us.  Dale Carnegie knew that.  He built a career on teaching people how to make other people feel good.  In his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, he lists principle after principle for putting people at ease and helping them feel special.   \n\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time.  You don't need to become a social butterfly overnight--and it's unlikely you could if you tried.  What you can do