why am i unable to forget my first love instead of being in an affair? i never had any relation with him.?
440006
True love; soul-mates, very refreshing.  Hope you get with the one you love--not love the one you're with.
509055
Me too. your first love is always going to be part of you. He was the first person who cared for you and the first you cared for. You will always think of him.
696041
If it's truely a first love, you will never get over it.....or at least to the point of forgetting anything ever was there.  Time will pass and eventually you'll lose the desire to or urge to be with him........but he may always be there at the back of your mind or pop up in thoughts every once in a while.  Love is something you can't just forget, it's a life experience.  But to answer your question in a more helpful way.........dating other people helps to ease what ever pain is left behind, and keeps your occupied and your focus on being happy.
108310
OMG I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!! (except I dated the guy for 2 years)..... I guess we never get over them.... thats what it means to love someone..... and we will only get over them when we find someone better.... but i dont think anyone forgets thier first love..... (I still cant atleast)
915973
One thing I don't understand is your attachment to your previous relationships (past). You are not that desperate, are you?The relationships did not work, period. Move on. Don't date anybody just to date somebody. Find someone you really like. You will feel it when you see him. Forget about the past.
529076
It is absolutely impossible to be in love with someone you have never met.  It's called 'infatuation'. \n\nIt's like thinking you're in love with an actor or someone on television.  You don't know them and you will never meet them, but you 'feel' you are in love with their character.
62412
Yeah, I agree with everyone else... you will never be able to forget teh man/women that you loved, but with time you will be able to move on and not be sad or hurt any longer. I am going through that exact thing right now, and after being depressed for wuite some time.. I decided I am not going to give up the rest of my life being miserable becuase of one person. So is started hanging out more, I started working uot more to feel better about myself and every time I get upset I reassure myself that I will find someone else and I will be loved again and I will love again!
317296
I don't think you will ever totally be over your first love.  If it was love, then there will always be that special spot.  My first love died of cancer, so he always holds a special place.  I've moved on many many years since, and in love with another.  But never have forgotten, not replacing that love, just a new love.
99668
first love remains for ever, its impossible 2 forget it, it will stay inside ur that beautiful head of urs, u would compare every relationship with that very first love.. thinking abt that, its like a sweet, yet bitter wound that is unforgetable & will always remind u of that incident which caused u that wound
971805
I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
743815
It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
274796
You were married, there for it isn't odd that you would still have some fond feelings and good memories.  However I don't think you are in love with him.  I think you are probably just going through some bad stuff in your life and your latching on to some good memories and making more of them that what you should.  Remember, this same guy cheated and lied to you and nothing has changed.  You still deserve better in your life.
1173082
I don't understand why do you want to forget someone.. coz you are not with each other,, well just change your outlook... remember the good things that you had with him or her and not curse the bad stuff \n\nits the way you look at it \n\nlet me know what u wanna in ur life \n\neverything you do is your choice
318380
I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
371213
The answer to your question is forgiveness...You must learn to forgive the love of your life...There had to be a possible reason why that person ignored you...You get past the hurt and pain by giving em another chance...I think you don't love that person..if you did u would of not given up on love \n\nI know what you are going thru...The love of my life is far away from me...but I still love him...Nothing can make me stop loving him...not even distance or time...Love is not easy..Love is a battlefield..
600655
I don't think you can ever forget him, unfortunately for you and the rest of us who may suffer from similar problems with our past.  You obviously need to resist him.  You can try to avoid putting yourself in positions where you will run into him.  You know enough about him to know what many of his habits are and where he often will frequent.  It will not stop chance meetings as there is nothing to do about them, but it should limit many of the more risky run ins you may have.  Otherwise, the best hope is that you immerse yourself in some hobby, activity or volunteer somewhere...anything to occupy your mind.  Otherwise, I am at a loss as to what you can do, other than moving away.  Just stay strong and hold to your convictions.  Remember why you are not with him and drill the negative thoughts into your mind, remember the bad times, the bad things and hopefully your desire for him will fade.  Good luck!
1040194
It always happens, but try to keep it to a minimum.\nTry not to expand your thughts or details about that time in your life.\nThis gives the impression that you are still thinking about your previous lover, and that there may be some baggage there.