How do you get over someone. I moved on 5 years ago and am married, but I just can't seem to stop hurting.
436939
There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
558503
Keep doing what you are doing. (I have been there too)\nThe truth is, time heals all wounds. It takes a long time to heal from loving someone. You may never truly forget her. You will love again. It wont be the same, BUT IT WONT BE ANY LESS.\nIt will keep hirting you if you keep taling to her, seeing her. You need to give youreslf time and space, away from her. \nIf she calls you again, tell her that. She should be willing to respect that.\nI'm sorry. I know you are hurting. Good luck.
114388
You can get over the pain of them hurting you,but its alot harder to get over actually loving them if it was true love!(Its been 3 years for me and i've forgave them for hurting me,but i can't stop loving them even through the other guys i've seen)
944662
You deserve someone better,of course you miss him,that's normal.Humans have feelings,you will get over it soon.Keep yourself busy so wont think of it,whenever you are free do something like spend more time with your children.Almost forget ask him for maintenance fee.
1170990
i have just posted a question with problems i am having with getting over my ex and then i saw your question. so this is my answer............ i have left my job, my house my dog my family my friends my town and moved about 300 miles away not telling anybody where i am and never wanting to ever speak to anybody ever again because they all remind me of him. i am 30  years old and feel i should grow up but the pain is so bad.
300677
It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
49654
wwell honey i hate to tell you this but you will never " be over it" i mean eventually you will be able to think about it without crying everytime and you will have days where you dont think about them and that stuff but the pain never goes completly away because the love never goes away. just know that they are in a better place. and trust in God. he will help you and know that other people are mourning the loss of that person and they would want you to be happy. hope this helps. God bless you
867040
i just answered ur other question and i know what ur going through i have been in love with this guy forever but nothing has happened so im trying to get over him but its hard just distance urself and try to forget let all ur feelings out now the crying or w&#92;e things will get better i promise Good Luck
665958
i know its very difficult bcoz i'm going thru a similar situation... but believe me, if u dont let go then its only u who'll suffer.. at this point of time my life is just like hell... but i knw one thing only u can do this, no other person can help u... so the best thing would b to stop thinking bout him n put yr mind in other things... make yrself so busy that u dont get the time to think bout him... n stop doing things that would remind u of him... if u dont make yrself strong, u'll not b able to get on with with yr life... so u gotta accept the situation n move on...
846302
it always feels empty and weird after a major break up. if you keep breaking up and its not even a year yet, you are clearly not suited. you need to break up and be strong, dont turn back. all heart breaks hurt but better now than down the track when you are married with kids. it sounds like it is first love for both of you. you have plenty more time to find a life long partner. someone that doesnt say sorry as much!
288855
I'm going thought the same thing right now, he actually told me that he doesn't want me to call him anymore because every time we talk we get into an argument, regardless of all the crap we went through i still love him, i don't know your situation, but honestly there is nothing that you can actually do to get over somebody that you really really love, just live your life and eventually the feelings will die out. what you can do though is just go out and mingle with other people, i find that this is very helpful, hope ive helped!
286057
Love hurts and you will get over her. Time heals all wounds. Everyone who has loved has felt what you are feeling, you are not alone. It is just how it is. It sucks, but just remember:  It is better to have loved, than to have not loved at all!
721137
time is the only thing that can heal u,i spent 12 years with a person and then i was forced to divorce the person i loved the most ,it hurt for 2 1/2 yearsand i have rarely dated or been with another person but just a few times in 16 years,,, im over it but the scars run deep. but some people get over it in fifteen minutes
82106
How long were ya'll married? Getting over a spouse is hard. Sounds to me that it wasnt you wanting to end the marriage. I know I struggled with it for almost five years trying to get over my ex. Dont look like it would have been hard seeing how he left me for a woman 26 yrs older than us when I was 3 months pregnant with our youngest son and he got remarried when i was 6 months pregnant with him. The way I finally done it was by not letting him know that things bothered me! If we had to be some where at the same time I was very friendly and nice. Then I decided to move on and that really got to him. If your with someone a long time its hard not to recall memories. So start by going SHOPPING!!! Go and buy you a new wardrobe one that you picked out...some new cologne. Hint Very Sexy for men by Victoria Secret is a good choice!! If you ever need advice or just someone to listen you can reach me on im at melissa_4573.
71626
This will depend on the nature of your relationship with this person, and how your feelings truly were for them.\n\nIt could take a couple of weeks, or decades to truly feeled healed and moved on, especially if this person has hurt you.\n\nSome people I've gotten over in a matter of weeks. But others (actually just one person, my first love), I still think about.
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.
322147
I know very well what you mean ! i think that the worst is to know that you found your second half , your soulmate but because of the circumstances you have to separate . it happened to me 6 years ago , and even thou its not that painfull as it was at the start i still spend a lot of thoughts on him and on the time we shared . will i get ever over it ? i dont know , i just know that yes , time heals a lot of pain , i dont feel pain anymore but i still think !!!! you will learn not to compare with time and besides its a bad thing to do . of course i know that its not easy at all not to but even this time will teach . ok , in the bottom of ur heart ................but i am sure that you will manage . think that there are a lot of people on this universe which felt the same!!! i wish u luck and all the best !!!!