My bf cheated on me with his second cousin? Is that forgiveable?
445665
This is not forgiveable. Its only a matter of time before he decides to do the same thing with another girl, but in REAL LIFE. And the fact that he was sexually attraced to his cousin is just gross. Second cousin or not, they are blood related.
25099
I can imagine how you feel. But, it's not worth murder. I'm glad my friends, family & I have a rule: "Can't touch what 1 of us has already had." Besides if he was a bad boyfriend she'll find out for herself. Time will tell the tale.\n\nSeriously get over it though.
542972
It's difficult to trust again after being emotionally betrayed by someone you truly love. Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know how you feel. Ask yourself questions like: Do you still love him? Are you capable of ever being happy with the current relationship you share? Are you emotionally prepared to remain attached to your lover even after knowing he's been with another woman? If the answer to these questions are "no", you should probably say goodbye. On the other hand, if you care for your mate and really want to hold on to your union, try taking a few days away from him. Stay with a friend, a family member or take a mini vacation to somewhere that's peaceful enough to allow you to examine the situation clearly.\n\nIt's important to note that 4 months may be too short a time to make possibly permanent decisions about breaking up. At this point the wounds are still likely to be sore. Wait a while longer if you feel he's genuinely remorseful and you truly want to give the relationship another chance. If you find it difficult to do this, however, and don't see him committing wholly to the relationship, don't punish yourself...let him go.\n\nGood luck.
244072
Even if it wasn't physical it sounds like it was emotional and that is still an affair.  He gave his feelings and heart to another woman, just not his body or so he says.  He has no right to think that forgiveness should be easy or that he should be forgiven at all.  You need to decide what is best for you and what you want in the future.  If you feel that you can't truly love him or trust him ever again then you need to end this relationship and find a man who will love you and only you.  Personally I think if he really loved you he would realize that there is no way forgiveness could be an easy thing or think he actually deserved it.
364858
How sad!  But the decision is yours.  EVERYONE deserves a second chance, it's the third chance you have to watch out for.  And perhaps you can take this opportunity, while you can't really see each other, to talk a lot about who you both really are and where you see yourselves going.  Then go, if you want - your life is your decision, and people make mistakes.  I cheated once, and learned my lesson - I understood why I did it, and asked for forgiveness.  I have never done it again.  I know your family is worried, but you have to be honest with yourself - can you forget it and continue to love your fiancee?  If you can, then you have the right to be happy, and to be comfortable and safe.  Screw the rest of 'em.
555453
Pretty much it is a bad decision, if not cheating, but he showed you a desire to get past that by confessing. You should decide if you can forgive or if you get more pleasure out of holding this against him. If you like the upper hand, go ahead and beat him up for it for years to come. All he will regret is that he confessed this indiscreation to you. I'd let it go if I were you. Far worse things could happen to you than this.
968073
Ok.  What do YOU think??  If a friend gave you this same information you just gave me......what would you tell her to do??\n\nYou know that he has cheated on you TWO TIMES......\ndo you REALLY think that he is worth getting hurt for a THIRD time??  \n\nHoney, I hope you're smarter than that.  I know it sucks and you hurt, but you have already invested THREE years of your life\nwith this guy.  Cut your losses and move on.  A guy who really loves you is not going to want to be with another woman.
479619
This is a trust issue.  Do you trust her?  What makes you so upset that she talks to your cousin?  And he is your cousin.  If you cant trust your girlfriend, you should at least trust your cousin.  Leave this alone, if something does ever go wrong, let her go and be thankful that you found out about her while she was still your girlfriend, and not your wife.
261217
what?? ur cousin?? is she saying bad things about u?? man... she should be on ur side.. she should be lying for u...\nmaybe this cousin likes ur bf and wants to steal him from u...\nwhat to do... talk to both ur cousin and boyfriend...find out why ur cuz's doing it and tell ur boyfriend she's lying...ur boyfriend should believe u more than ur cousin...if not, maybe he's brainwashed and has gotten a liking to ur cuz or that he simply doesn't trust u..either way, it shouldn't be...\n\ndon't worry... long as you hold the truth u'll never be in despair
1000386
baby girl, let me explain something to you if this boy cheated on you then he'll do the same thing again!I don't care if he's your last boyfriend...now if your the one who broke up with him then that's a whole different story!Don't go back to the same thing. Look forward.Life gets better!Just got to follow your heart!
1160467
Hi there,\nI can somewhat relate to you in a sense that I was in your shoes when my boyfriend (now my husband) was doing the same thing like your wife did.  I think, I forgave him since we're not really together (I was in another state).  Yes, I was grossed out when I heard this and the thought of 2 on 1 is disgusting.  We decided that not to associate with those kind of people, which helps me to cope.  Out of sight, out of mind.   The most important thing about this ordeal is having trust in this person again and make sure that it won't happen again.  Yes, then your can feel more secure and comfortable being with this person again.\nBest wishes,
812177
I say no, honey, if you don't want to be hurt again then stay away from him. Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve someone better. And for the time being when you don't have a bf, get closer to your girlfriends! They won't cheat on you.
84750
i think it is possible for a man to cheat and then not  do it again. the only problem is that you will never forget what happened. and no matter how much he says to try to convince you that he will never do it again, it possible that in your mind he will always be a cheater, therefore you may not be able to trust him.\n\nyou have to make a promise to yourself that if you forgive him, you also have to forget.\n\nalso, if you do forgive him for cheating, it shows him that that is something that you are willing to forgive. because you show that cheating is forgivable, he may do it again.\n\ngood luck with your decision - it is a hard one.
761809
just because your cousin had affairs, and did wrong, doesn't mean u should do it too. he is married, until he is divorced leave him alone, all u will get is a broken heart. if u want them to get back together stop seeing him right away.
358384
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't go accusing him yet. If he does happen to cheat on you while in New Mexico, then he isn't worth your time. You can only forgive someone so much. When he gets back, talk to him about it. Tell him that you don't feel safe when he's around his ex. If he is the right guy he will understand.
904340
yea!but this is a real hard thing to decide because how does your gf or bf no that this will never happen again but it also depends on how long you 2 have been in relationship So it has to do with how much trust was in the relationnshp if you are the person who cheated you should not let your bf or gf find out from another person that only makes things worse so if you like/love this person as much as you think you do then you will have enough respect for them to come to them and tell them that you know you were wrong and you promise it wont happen again and long as you are faithful from that day on you are guaranteed a good relationship.
446669
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!