young children need our help--PLEASE read this and reply would you ????
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I have read the variety of answers to your question, and in my opinion, that it's better to be safe than sorry. If he is doing it for kicks, well then let's get him banned. If he is truly a sexual predator, than let's find a way to get him reported. I have read some of the answers where people say that he wouldn't do it, and then talk about it. I disagree. I've been studying sexual predator's actions for quite some time. You can reach me at brew40fw@msn.com, and let me know what I can do to help. It bothers me a great deal that he's talking like this, and even if all he is doing is talking, he's still mentally disturbed and needs to be dealt with accordingly. Bottom line, what could it possibly hurt to get this guy dealt with?  To get rid of him, it may take a few minutes of your time, and since none of us know if it's real or not, isn't it worth the effort, just in case he's for real? If there's even the slightest chance that he's a danger to children, why debate it. Let's figure out how to stop him if possible. If it were your child he was talking about, looking at, or molesting would you want others to just do nothing? Take a look at the statistics of online predators, and stalkers who use the internet to find children to use and abuse.
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yes,depends on the environment and how you treat the kid.\nThey will learn as they grow older. Be nice to them.
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Lots of supervision still needed at this age but they think they are independent and love feeling like a big kid. I would say this is in general, a jello phase. You have to start instilling kids as soon as possible with good habits, just like you add the fruit before the jello sets.\n\nKids this age are definitely capable of learning manners. Please, thank you, excuse me, thank you NOTES for gifts, even if they just draw a picture and you help by writing the note on the margin...also other social skills. Sharing is a biggie. Quiet voice. Learning how to accept the answer they don't want to hear. Learning to be patient, wait in line, take turns, etc.\n\nBig helper time at the age of 3. Can have a lot of fun just following you around the house while you do ordinary jobs and making it fun at this age gets them started on life skills with a good attitude. 3's can help you in the kitchen by dumping ingredients in and helping you stir, matching socks and folding washcloths, picking up toys, even learn the motions of dusting, sweeping, etc even if you go behind them or their spray bottle has just water in it. It isn't ever about perfection or helping you get things done faster, it is about having a good attitude to pitch in and their satisfaction at contributing to the task, as well as practicing the basic motions of those tasks.\n\nHygiene and self care. Can start brushing his own teeth, but you would go behind and help. Handwashing and finishing up the potty training, a new skill most times at the age of 3. Can probably help with washing himself in the bathtub...and hair if you use a tear free shampoo. Can probably dress self if you lay out the clothes for him...pull-on clothes, will be working on snaps, buttons, zippers, and getting things on frontwards and right side out, etc.\n\nKids this age are pretty fluent talkers and will love learning new words for things. Body parts, things in the city, animals, colors, stuff in the house. Help him identify stuff in his world. \n\nKid-friendly museums might be an excellent learning opportunity. And library time is great.\n\nStill too young for reading and math but some letter identification and counting, as well as being read TO, will be a great start on literacy.\n\nEmotionally, kids at 3 will benefit from learning how to identify their feelings. Questions will help. What kind of face is this? Was the boy in the book scared? When you see an emotional outburst, good or bad, you can ask him if he is feeling what you think or say something like, "I'll bet you are pretty happy now!" or "That would make me mad, are you mad?" Getting in touch with feelings at an early age will help kids manage them as they spring up.\n\nPsychologically, kids at all ages, particularly young, need solid boundaries, and a lot of supervision and structure. Kids this age need regular snacks and lots of rest. Try to alternate between quiet time and rowdy time. Try to do things the way the parents do at home. And give clear simple directions with direct consequences and if you have to discipline, keep your word with what you say will happen. CATCH THEM BEING GOOD! meaning to heap on the praise for doing the right thing, they will not misbehave nearly as much in trying to please you and get that reinforcement if they know you notice. Try to stretch attention spans by avoiding things like 10 minute cartoons or 5 minute books, but at the same time, recognize that kids have a rather short attn span and memory.\n\nKids this age love to explore and be busy. Nature walks are great. When I was a nanny, we used to collect leaves, pine cones, sticks, sand, etc then use them in art projects. The family was religious and we called it God art...sand was God glitter...we glued a surface and put sand on it, shook it off. We always loved coming up on a busy ant pile or a new bug or animal. For games, hiding games, races, dressup, are great. For sit down, matching games are good. Chutes and Ladders
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Outreach is a good word, for the children even better. If you are really serious about this please e-mail me at ftlog10@yahoo.com\nHave you prayed about this? What are your qualifications?
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As a mother of 3(and a day after all 3 of their P-T conferances!!) I absolutely agree with you..\nToo many parents out there coddle their 'poor innocent children' and don't even know the first thing about teaching them responsability and discipline..I really think that it is a major problem right now but will really come back to bite us in a few years when they are 'adults'.\nMy now 10 year old had major problems with late work and 'forgetting assignments last year. The teacher cared enough to call me and both her and I sat down and developed a plan to work this out together..we checked her work leaving school and I checked everything at home. It was time consuming for both of us; I also NEVER blamed the teacher-i made my 10 year old accountable and wanted her to understand that she needed to become responsable. A year later at her 5th grade conferance(last night!) her teacher this year had nothing but good things to say..how she dives into her homework at study time..asks for help and never has late work this year..plus she had almost straight A's..\nI think teachers are wonderful and are one of the most under-paid professions out there..\nUnfortunately some parents take those things as some sort of personnal insult or don't seem to understand that in a few short years their children will need to enter the adult world.\nI hope knowing that a very, involved caring mom(able to admit that my child isn't perfect!)completely agrees with you will help
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Because you could be the only voice they have .A lot of children don't no what is happening to them or that it is wrong and sometimes what we think is ok my not be to them .A child sometimes don't understand until the damage has been done .Or until they are older and it comes back to haunt them .This could be their only resources.
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Inhispresence, I commend you for looking for ways to touch the lives of your young ones.  I just "retired" (had to leave for medical reasons) from teaching first graders in an impoverished area and was constantly looking for ways to reach my kids.  Here are some things I learned:\n\n!. Don't be afraid to tell the kids that you love them.  Some of them never hear it at home.  Back it up (aka: more than words), by doing things to show them that you care.  One of the best/most effective way to show your affection is by running a tight ship diciplinewise-being fair and consistent everytime.  I have found that when children know you love them, they will expend every bit of energy and talent they have to achieve what you ask them to do.  \n\n2. Don't be afraid to praise.  But, make sure you're not giving empty praise.  Meaning, instead of saying "Good Job!" leaving the kid to wonder what you're talking about.  Say "Karen, you spelled 'thought' correctly!  That's great work!"\n\n3.  In every lesson, tell them how they can use what they are learning in the real world.  If they don't think what they are learning is important...Why bother??  \n\n4. Use fun things that they like to do (ie writing letters to their favorite tv/movie stars or sports heros) to teach something they need to learn in Language Arts.  My favorite elementary school teacher was Miss Sylvia Teauge, now deceased.  She let us write letters to our favorite stars.  At that time, I was in third grade, my favorite star was (don't laugh!!) Cher!!  I wrote her and she sent me an autographed postcard back!!  I was in HEAVEN!! Man, do I wish I would have kept that thing!!  \nThis requires getting to know your students on a more personal basis and finding out about the things they like to do.\n\n5.  Use recipies whenever possible to teach concepts.  Food brings people together.\n\n6. Give your kids access to the best materials to work with.  In your writing center, provide lots of different types of papers, writing instruments, things they can use to illustrate their work.  I bought a tool chest (one with about 30 drawers) and filled it up with all sorts of things like shells, googly eyes, sequens, pom-poms, stickers, etc. so they could use them in their writing.  I got excellent results.\n\n7. Let the kids know they are part of something bigger than themselves.  Kids are very egocentric.  However, if you expose them to experiences outside of their realm, they really shine.  Ways you can do this:  get them penpals from another school/county, same grade (write about things you are studying); get them involved in music or sports; get them involved in community service.  We had our first graders go to a local nursing home and preform their PTA songs.  We took along cards and some refreshments.  The kids were really proud that they had made someone's day!!\n\n8. Show the children that you value their work.  Get papers graded and back to them quickly.  Post their work on the walls of your classroom and in the halls of the school.  Allow them to go to a computer and type their final drafts of their papers.  Pick some of the best work from each of the students and ask another teacher, perhaps the gym teacher or one of the "specials" teachers or even the principal, to read and comment on how well the work was done and sign in.  When a child did an exceptional job in my class, I would let the child call his/her parents on my phone and tell them about their success.  I would also talk to the parent and tell them how proud I was of their child's accomplishment.  Calls like these make it easier, too, later on when you need to make calls about dicipline issues.\n\n9. Whenever you can, make things a contest or a game.  We had a reading contest going where I made each student a little truck (that they illustrated) and as they read in minutes, they got to drive their truck across a US map.  The first to reach
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Well I have 4 kids and I'm a single mother. I can not work at the moment because I can not find proper child care for the two children that don't attend school.( I would love to be working) But here is the deal, Me and my kids are living in a small 2br, 1 ba home, you could donate about $2,500.00 to us so that we can pay the down payment on a new and bigger home. Charity I guess you could say, but I would consider it to be a blessing. Ty   latovat@yahoo.com
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How about having your child take each one of the "H's" and write just a little about  each that he/she is thankful for?...I think this would give some simple, practical structure to the speech, and should play right into the ability level and creativity of a 10 or 11 year old...Good luck...(Former H.S. English teacher)
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I always think I should be helping. It makes me so sad to see that. \n\nBut, when we see those things, we say "Oh, I need to help them!" and have it on our minds for a few days,  but the truth is, we are all wrapped up in our own little world. We try to stick to helping, but eventually we slip back into worrying about the little thing that happens in our little world and we lose sight of the big picture. It's how humans are.
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I understand your worry.  How disabled is your daughter?  Is it possible for her to get along in a group home with others with her same condition where they have people to help and monitor the situation? Maybe to start introducing her to prospective situations or people now so that she is familiar with them.  Do you belong to a religious community?  Since I don't know how much help your daughter needs its hard to think of ideas but you are welcome to e-mail me - I will try and help you think of ideas for the future.
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Giving them vocabulary, and making them write a complete sentence with every word. I must say, the whole teaching parts of the sentences gets lost on kids, it's pointless. Just make them write sentences, while it may be onerous, it's better. Also, you could write an incorrect sentence and have them rewrite it.
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Your tirade has some merit my friend. I don't think necessarily that people want our 'pity', but I do believe we have engaged and supported a society of people who have become lazy and unwilling to push it to the limit to ensure they are working, able to support their families and care for their young.  I teach 8th graders and I can't believe that I see in them the same attitudes you are speaking of.  They are getting this 'spoon feed me attitude' from their parents.  I have watched as a young man of 31 I know - who has been drugging for 8 years, go through one marriage, a relationship of 5 years and now is hooked up with a 2 time looser of a mother of two kids she does't even raise(fathers in jail) and has her pregnant with his child (maybe), It's the children I feel sorry for because they are probably going to be the ADHD/Bipolars in my class in the next 5-10 years.  Yes, personal responsibility and accountability has much to be counted in these cases.  All we can do is pray for them and hope that education and exposure to programs to help raise the level of self-esteem will help the next generation of people.
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Go to school and get a license to reproduce and multiply. No, seriously, I am 29 years old and have 2 kids and it is still hard at my age. I am the oldest of 4 kids and the oldest of 29 cousins. I grew up with kids everywhere and I still feel in above my head at times. Kids are having kids because they are seeing sex as a substitute for love when what they need is love, education and support from their parents or guardians. I think all schools should have a required set of courses on parenting and budgeting. I know there are some that do and I am not saying that it will solve all the world's problems, but this Home Econ. crap I took in school 12 years ago doesn't cut it. They need to realize that things are happening a lot younger now and the education needs to be started earlier and needs to be stepped up a few notches. We are required to have so many credits in English and Math and all that, but what about real life skills??? The schools that exist to help pregnant teen mothers are great, but what about the fathers (if they are involved)? They send these soon to be mothers off to another place and the guys continue ina  regular educational environment. It takes two, so everybody needs to be educated. It's sad to watch a parent slap their kid around or yell at them or ignore them. Kids are so smart and they will go thru life thinking that the way their parents act is the way they should act. It will just keep going until everybody in the world is cruel and hateful. Kids are an amazing joy and blessing and they do not deserve to be brought into a world where they can't be cared for properly. I have to stop, or else I can go on for hours.
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I agree with Moodyblu.  What they taught us in CASA training is that it's always better for a child to have healthy attachments (even if they aren't permanent) than not to have attachments at all.\n\nThat having been said, it might be helpful if your friend could help transition the children into a new relationship with new caretakers.  \n\nI know it's hard, but what would be best for the kids would be for your friend to remain as attached and as positive as she can for as long as she's with them.
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I have a 5-year old with autism.  My wife and I have been successful getting him to talk to us only if it's requesting food or certain play activities.  I'd say about half the time he asks on his own without being prompted.  We expand his vocabulary by offering him more choices or making him make more decisions.  For example, instead of putting in the video he hands us, we'll pick up another and make him point and say the title of the video he wants.  Eventually, he'll ask for the video by name right away.  It's only been the last few months that he's been doing this, so I'm optimistic about how he can grow from this step to more difficult social interactions (even if it takes a few years).
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I provided a link below so people can know more what you talking about. They wanting money like most things, not saying it good or bad.\nWhat I do, is help locally with people I know and then I know 100% of my money does help the child.