I'm 21 years old...how can become more mature and more responsible?
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always remember that the world is not yours .\nwe are all here on bought time .but do enjoy your\nyoung years.do it responsibly  the world is cruel\nand there is not any room for mistakes.be a good \nexample it will pay off !
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Set up a schedule for yourself that  you know that you can work with. Allow extra time for important tasks so you dont end up doing them at the last minute. Figure out where you need to be on what day and what you need to get done that day. Get an organizer and write yourself reminders. And allow plenty of time for yourself, you have the rest of your life to be totally responsible
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Slow down and remember that life is what happens and rushes by you when you are busy making other plans.  You are only 18.  Enjoy this time of your life.   Don't be in such a rush.  For young people entering the world of work today, you can expect to have at least two or three different careers in your lifetime and that is a good thing.  You aren't expected to know at eighteen what you want to do with your life.  Our daughters who are in their late 20's and early 30's are already into second and third careers, and having great lives.\n\nI am 53 years old and a grandma and retired and I still don't know what I want to do with my life or what I want to be when I grow up.  And that's ok.\n\nBest of luck.
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FIRST OF ALL I HOPE YOU ARE A RESPECTABLE AND RESPONSIBLE 21 YEAR OLD !!!\n\nHAVE AN IN DEPT TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS; COVER THE TOPIC OF TRUST !!!\n\nSHOW THEM AND TELL THEM THEY CAN FULLY TRUST YOU !!!\n\nBUT DON'T EVER FAIL THEM OR YOU'VE RUINED IT FOREVER !!!\n\nGOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!
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So till you are 21, you can cultivate, develop and strengthen on the following aspects:\n\nThe foremost requirement would be a healthy mind and body. Keep and maintain yourself fit. \n\nYou should have analytical mind and ability to reason.\n\nYou should have a good knowledge of the law of the land.\n\nYou should have to cultivate dedication to your duty.\n\nYou need to be practical to handle tricky situations.\n\nBesides the ability to lead from the front, you need to have the ability to work as a team and due respect for other members of the team.\n\nGood communication skills, both oral and written.\n\nYou should be a helping hand to the needy and law abiding persons.\n\nYou must be sensitive to the local social issues and causes, yet able to perform and uphold the rule of law.\n\nYou must be able to have good family relations at home, with your elders, siblings, spouse and children as a peaceful and supporting family would help you immensely to perform excellent at your work\n\nDon't curse me if i have written a lot !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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i used to think that being 21 would mean i would be an 'adult' but i now realize that im far from grownup
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The first step is wanting to be responsible and I can see from your question that you do!  Congratulations!  The 2nd step is .... Be responsible.  \n\nSome examples are:  \n \nBe home on time.  \nHelp out with the chores.  \nWatch your siblings.  \nSet the dinner table.  \nWrite your appointments on a calendar.  \nDo your homework and get good grades.  \nDon't lie or cheat.  \nGet a job and do well at it.  \nWalk the dog.\nRead.  \nMake payments on your car.  \nSet your own alarm clock.\nDon't blare the music in the house.  \nFigure out simple problems on your own.\nDon't fight or argue.  \nDo the dishes.  \nClean your room.  \nClean your bathroom.  \nOrganize closets.  \nPack your own lunch.  \nBe where you say you are going to be.  \nBe consistant attending an afterschool activity (like a team, league or club).  \nDon't smoke, drink or do drugs.  \nTake some initiative & help out with somethings that are not expected of you normally.\nSpeak intelligently.\n\nAfter you keep showing your parents that you are handling life, they will see your are growing into a responsible teenager.  Good luck!  It'll happen.
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its all in the mind... you can act in a mature way... if you are determined to do it
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Hi Kels\nI'm glad you're getting better, and at 18 you really do have the rest of your life to move on and make a better life for yourself.\n  I had quite a turbulent, abusive past, and one of the things a therapist said to me at one stage, was to forgive myself.  i thought that was odd, but then I realised that all the time I had been living through this abuse and neglect I was only a child.  There was nothing I could do, I was dependent on the adults around me and not responsible for their actions.\nWhat she advised me to do was to see this little child, picture her in my mind and to hug her.  It's difficult to get there, but sooner or later you can do that.  You can give yourself the hug you wanted and didn't get, you can tell that little girl that this isn't her fault, you can give her the beginnings of self esteem and self worth that she needed then.  And you can forgive yourself and let go.\nIt works.  Once you can see that whatever happened in your life to make you lack self esteem  was something you had no control over and that letting go of the past is in your hands, you can begin to make plans to release the child and become the adult.\n  As for the shyness, that's a hard one sometimes.  Society puts such great store on getting out there and living the life, and partying and being in the thick of it, and really, some of us are just not meant to live our lives that way.  \n  Maybe think about joining a club, a small group that participates in something you enjoy, or even something you think you might enjoy but have never done.  It's amazing how many people do this and imagine everyone there is going to be brimming with confidence and then during the first coffee break you all discover you were all shaking in your boots and terrfied.\nStart small.  Set yourself a goal, something achievable, something you know you can do, if you just put in a tiny effort, and as your confidence increases you'll find it becomes so much easier to do the bigger things.  And sometimes there's nothing wrong with just saying, 'I'm feeling a little shy ...' people often prefer that to someone loud and arrogant taking over everything.\nYou can do it.  Good luck :)
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I totally relate, I spent my late teens and early twenties doing similar things.  I would say to make some goals for yourself, realistic ones, and go about achieving them.  Remember where you've come from, you've gotten so much better than where you were!  That's a huge accomplishment!!!  Be proud of yourself for that!!!
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18 but there thinking of raising it to 21
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U r a Man now...a responsible adult male..
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wow. that is a tough question.  Imagine what the world would be like if we could all figure out the secret to your question.  I think a lot of this happens as we age.  weather it be due to a chemical change of hormones, or the experience we gain as we grow i couldn't say. I do however believe that we can make a conscious effort to mature in that way.  somethings you could do is intentionally deny yourself of something that really isn't adding anything to your quality of life but that you really enjoy (chocolate, TV, shopping spree, etc.).  This way you will teach yourself self discipline and will be able to see the bigger picture Little bit better.  Karate was something that taught me a lot of self discipline and i would suggest it if that is something you can afford.  if not try milking cows.  another thing you could try doing is serving others.  just do something for someone that you don't have to do that will help that person.  if you can try doing it without being recognized.
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Maybe you should work on developing the skills necessary to be a responsible, loving, adult man.
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Maturity will help you be more confident.  Just don't become 'experienced' to try and be mature.  It doesn't work that way.\n\nYou have your whole life ahead of you.  Think where you want to be in 5 years, 10 or 20 years  Pursue only those things that will get you there.
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It depends on how mature and responsible you are.......
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I am pretty poor, moderate looking, practical and kind.  But I'm 31.  Too old???  heehee