i had a long distance relationship, I broke up with her cuz she cheated. how can I love, and trust again?
436123
Amor de lejos...amor de pendejos\n\nJus tmove on im sure ull find someone better and if you understand note above then you know not to make the same mistake again \n\nbuena suerte
448680
OK forget getting with someone else- the issue WILL resurface if you don't deal with it. First of all cut off all contact (for a while at least). It doesn't help to keep calling each other. If you have to see each other (like at school or work) then make a concerted effort to change the way you communicate with them. Second, yeah forgiveness- you have to go over all the bad stuff that happened but once you forgive them the burden is lifted and you're free-er. You will stop hurting a whole lot after you manage to let go and forgive, trust me. Next figure out what happened and make a decision that you will never be in that type of relationship again- if the person cheated you will feel like you have no control over that kind of situation and it could be true to an extent but it's important to realise that cheating is about them not knowing their worth or having self respect and know that as long as you do have self respect and know your worth you will never be hurt in quite the same way by a cheater (or anyone else). Get busy. Get a life that doesn't involve your ex or things you used to do together. Have fun, spend time with your friends again and find out what's important to you- minus your ex. Above all else- be totally healed before you consider getting with someone else and if you do meet someone and you're not ready then just let them know and if they like you enough they'll wait til your feeling better about the whole dating thing, if not forget them.
306569
Just realize that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. And even if you did decide to take him back you'd have to decide if you wanted his infidelity to taint your relationship pretty much forever. Once trust has been lost in that way its really tough to get it back. And even then you are aware of exactly what he is capable of. Once a cheater always a cheater and don't think that isn't true.\n\nWhat you have to realize about people who cheat is they are always looking for the greener side of the grass and at any moment they may decide they have found it again. You deserve to be secure in your relationship and not constantly worried by this possibility.\n\nMy advice is to think of what you deserve to be happy. Don't be mean and spiteful, instead just do what he has done and worry about your own happiness. 7 years may be a long time, but the rest of your life is longer. You will know what is right for you. I decided to walk away and every day I thank god I did, because I am so much happier for it.
563612
Sorry, but if she doesn't trust you, there is no basis for a relationship!  You have no choice in the matter but to move on!
223503
HELLO, this is serious you broke up with her for a reason. Now you are living in a fantasy forged by all of the "good times" and as time goes on you have her built up to be someone that she could never live up to being. You may want to be with her again because you are plagued with wondering what might have been. I am aware of the incredible pain. You can move on if you want (ask us for help with that) If you are already invested in the drama and choose to seek her out. Do not waste another moment of your precious life and know when to run.
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
226717
Well, you need to consider a few things first.  Did your ex read the emails?  What were your emails about?  Was there anything that would make your girl think that you were trying to get back with your ex?  Were you lying to your girl?  Did you tell her about the emails or did she catch you "red handed"?\n\nThe best thing you can do is to be honest.  Tell her the situation...the whole truth.  It may take a while for her to trust you, but she may be willing to work with you.  If she does not want to listen or does not want to forgive you, you may just have to let her go.  If she can't trust you (when you tell her the truth), then the relationship can not work.  If you've ever lied to her, you will have to rebuild that trust.  Good Luck.
954178
You need to break up. Its never going to be the way it was. There is no trust anymore, and she will always wonder in the back of her mind if your lying, if your cheating again, or if she can believe anything u tell her.  Its hard to trust a person who betrayed you when they were supposed to love u.  I dont think theres anything you can do to fix it except break up and move on.  And honestly .... how can u be mad, there are reactions for every reaction.  Did u really think she was going to be able to forgive u and forget... please.... no. Nobody every forgives and forgets for a cheater. They can forgive... but they can never forget!
254214
2yrs is a long time if you decide to get back together its like starting a new relationship except the fact you have been broken before. A relationship should not be brain surgery but in your case you should understand that some woman have to go to the bottom to realize that you were the best out there I will lie if i  was to say you can gain trust because now not only you don't trust her every argument is going to pop up about the fact that she left. Think about yourself a little think what do you want... whats gonna make you happy...she tested the water and now she want you ...you got to realize the importance of trust is in the relationship without it you wont be happy.....if you still love her you got to let the past go and expect it can happen again..........but you cant let it effect you....
574197
if she broke up with you then she isnt your girlfriend any longer.. but if she was cheating on you when you were together then be thankful she ended it.. once a cheater always a cheater...let it go and find someone that you can be happy with.. if you think she was cheating then more than likely she was or had plans to... move on and have fun.. life is to short...
220737
Oh, i am very sorry. Sometimes, to maintain a realationship is very difficult especially when u are abroad. You can try to participate in your favourite hobby or concentrate on your studies. U can try to start a new relationship as u will have a partner to support you. Always look for those who love and care for you and sometimes telling to another person will help too. Or you can try to have a gathering with some good friends and dun ever think it is because of ur look that she dumped you. Built up your self-confidence and estemn. I hope you live life to your fullest.
1103030
Sounds to me like shes moved on and you are just a past time for when she is bored. I think if I were you I would move on and forget her. I dont think I would be looking for suggestions to get her back, theres a saying that says something about set it free and if it comes back its love if it doesnt than it wasnt meant to be, something like that lol so if she didnt come back than shes not going to. You deserve someone who will love you no strings or plans attached, so your only cheating yourself and her if you try to get her back and she doesnt want to be back it wont work out again it will only be worse.
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Give her plenty of space, shes obviously not emotionally ready for a very serious relationship.  \n\nBest advice is to put things on hold, and both of you see other people.  Doubts like this cannot be wiped clean without other experiences.\n\nIf, after you both have some new experiences, you both get back together, then thats great, and if not, you don;t wind up in a relationship either of you regret\n\nEdit .... Ok, I read a little more, and this girl is finished with you.  Make ZERO attempts to contact her for the next couple of months, go out, date other women, have fun, DONT TRY TO GER HER BACK.  It will only push her further away from you.  \n\nIf you move on, and life your life for yourself, then good things will happen
835429
Ask yourself if you can live with that person, can you ever trust them again? Can you forgive them? Otherwise you will live a life of always wondering, and checking in on that person. Make sure you are not just avoiding the obvious- to dodge the pain now. It may hurt to let go now, but later you will be grateful, when you meet the right person who wouldn't cheat on you.
1081353
Bygones r bygones.\njust let thm go;let them not affect your present.U love her and u say she loves u more.How can she b cheating u whn u say, she confessed about the facts bfore she proposed to u. What really matters honey, is, did she cheat u after u guyz r together? It is difficult to forget the past but if u keep hangin with, it it will only spoil ur present.try to get out of it.U r hurtin urself and the ones who love u.
60065
She will forgive you, for sure, just give her time. But if you dont love her, REALLY LOVE HER, do her a favor and leave her alone. Finding out about an infidelity is very painful, so dont put her through that misery again. After she is back are you willing to marry her??? What compromise are YOU willing to make??? If you dont know or dont want to have a serious relationship, please leave her alone!!!
125846
Unless you have an open relationship and don't mind her getting down with other people, I'd say you have to decide whether you're going to be able to trust again, and if you really want to be with this person...\n\nMy guess: not likely.