Emotional Divorce Completed?
450736
Your wife needs counseling!Losing a parent is bad on so many levels that you can't comprehend!You need to do all you can to love her and be there for her.Encourage her to try counseling or join a support group before giving up on her!
640330
Try this:\n\nhttp://www.onlinedivorcepapers.com/divorce.html
1144879
I cried on Thursday last week, because I have been trying to get a divorce for about a year now, I have finally saved enough money for the court fee and had sent my papers in to be approved and sent off to get the process going.  I had already had them returned once and I got home from work on Thursday and they had been returned again, it just feels like I am banging my head against a brick wall and can't get any further with the procedure.  So now I have had to pay another £80 for new papers to be completed and they are still wrong.  I cried because it just never seems to go right for me and I am running out of time to get my application processed as my ex-husband is leaving the country soon.
1058963
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
573235
I suspect that the two of you were not telling the same story, although you think you are. But this is immaterial. Why listen to advice from other people? If you have both decided that divorce is the best way forward, then this is what you should do. Forget other people's opinions. These just muddy the water. Just be thankful that the two of you have made this decision and can still be friendly towards each other.
382905
a divorce takes 90 days to be final
414212
There are many happy re-marriages after divorce\n\nIf you're interested in finding a website which has many happy reports of successful remarriages go to http://rejoiceministries.org it's a website specifically for people who are interested in reconciliation after seperation or divorce\n\nhttp://marriagebuilders.com is a website that has lots of suggestions by dr willard harley on how men & women's needs differ & how to identify the needs which are lacking & most importantly how to go about getting those needs met - a very good book to get is His Needs Her Needs but he also offers other resources as well as some free questionaires which are taken from his book which i suggest that you print up 3 copies of all 5 questionaires they'll help you to know where to start on your road to ReMarriage\n\nhttp://midlife.com is a website that dr jim conway has which discusses mid life issues & how to deal with them - he offers a chatroom where he goes in to answer questions weekly on wednesdays\nhe wrote the book Men in Midlife Crisis & his deceist 1st wife wrote the book Women in Midlife Crisis - women go thru MLC at an earlier age than men & many marriage issues & divorces come to a boiling point during this time period in life\n\nanother place to try is http://divorcebusting.com which is the website board for readers of michelle weiner-davis\n\na great book to read while you're seperated from your wife is the book When the One You Love Wants to Leave by dr donald harvey
840428
My wife and I divorced when our sons were 5 and 2 1/2.  It was a miserable experience.  The divorce was painful because I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere anymore.  There was no normality.  Even more painful was not being with my sons everyday.  The hurt will not disappear overnight.  You probably don't want to hear this but it just takes some time.  One thing that will help is to maintain a civil relationship with your ex, but while the hurt is still there try to restrict your conversations to the children.  As for the children, do whatever you can to make sure you have as much time with them as you possibly can.  Focus your energy on making sure they know you want them around and that your home is also their's and they aren't just visitors.  I know the pain you are feeling and my heart goes out to you.  This won't make the hurt go away completely, but it does give you something to sort of hang-on to that is positive.
218721
I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
301614
Yes.\n\nI don't even need to know anything else about the situation. If you two want to be together, you can wait until the divorce papers are finalized.\n\n:)
274344
It is pretty obvious that you did not have everything resolved when you divorced the ex.  I think the only thing you can do at this point is to discuss your feelings with your current husband.  There is a reason why you are with him and this is something that if left unchecked may cause a problem in your current marriage.  Next, maybe you need to seek counseling with your current husband in regards to your feelings about your ex.  I am quite sure there are people out there that still have feelings for their ex's, but they realized they are divorced for a reason.  I guess what I am saying is you need to do some soul searching and try to limit any problems before things get out of hand.  Be honest with yourself and seek whatever help you need to preserve your marriage (current) because that is who you chose to spend the rest of your life with.\n\nGood Luck with what ever you decide and I'll pray for you!!!\n\nWT
404593
If final means it is completely resolved then I don't think there is much you can do except move foreward. Take the oportunity to reflect on your marriage and learn from the experience. It may help you in your future relationships. good luck.
1156801
sounds like a divorce to me
748148
I divorced somebody like you lolol....good luck in your life
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
168749
No. Sometimes people change and circumstances require divorce that is best for one, hopefully, both parties.  It just makes you wiser and experienced.  Good luck & never give-up!
1143503
Oh,Honey do I know how u feel!I am going through the same thing as I write.In fact I go to court this Thursday.Let me tell ya,it's very,very hard to deal with.Whether u did something wrong or not doesn't make it any easier.I'd like to tell u about my situation and how I deal with it,but this site does not allow enough space.If you want to talk more about it e-mail me @ kalasmom3@yahoo.com Or IM me @ either yahoo messenger or AIM.I'd love to try to help.Maybe we can help each other.Also,since I have almost 18 months in one child's being gone and 7 years in the other maybe I can offer some advice on how to fight to get them back.oh,my screen name on AIM is turntheclkbac.