What do you do to calm down when your not a patient person and your dealing with your kid ?
449511
Well, I am a 38 year old woman with 4 kids...5 if you count the Hubby, and what I have found that works best for me is to give myself a time out.  If the child is an infant or toddler I put them in a crib or someplace they are confined so they won't get hurt. If they are 5 and up.....they go stay in their room and play....then I take 10 to 15 minutes to relax........I sit on my bed and read a book or magazine, or go in the bathroom and play with my hair, take a shower....talk on the phone......and stay completely away from my children for that amount of time......I have found giving them a time out is only more of an argument and more frustrating for me.....so, I take the time out, and when I am calm I go back and start with a fresh outlook.  It is not easy, but it has saved the lives of our 19, 16, 15, and 6 year olds many times......TEE HEE...Good Luck!
231334
The last thing you want to do is pu him in a situation where he is uncomfortable to have a child.  don't push him.  It will come in time.
497629
You know how after a child has a temper tantrum they feel nothing (numb). Do that. Let out your anger and then you wont feel anything bad when its all out. Try running as fast and as long as possible. That'll get you tired.
1120990
you might be better helped if you were more specific as to the problem, the age of the person for whom you care, the relationship, where he/she lives, etc. \n\nwithout knowing your situation, i can only generalise and say that you should be respected for this. taking care of an ill person, whether mentally or physically ill, can be very hard and very chalenging. i have found that i am emotionally exhausted after the sessions, and often feeling down if i did not see any progress or response. i am sure that you often come to resent that person, and the feel gulity about it.... belive me, it is completely normal to resent the time, energy, emotions and possibly money that the person is draining off you, and even more normal to feel gulity about these emotions. i try to pep talk myself and tell myself that it is normal to feel this resentment, just as i sometimes do when my kids are overlly annoying or demanding. that can help a bit with ridding you of the guilt, which will then give your more emotional stability - the better to juggle your life and that of the person for whom you care. \n\ntake time for yourself regularly - go for a facial or a manicure (if you're a woman) or a game which you want to watch (guys). make sure that you remember to take care of yourself too!
78541
I feel where you are coming from. The only way to calm you down is to either find something to keep you busy or Play with your self daily and either one can keep you satisfied.
961559
3 year old boy- try getting him one of those "sit-n-spins!" Little kids love them, and it would calm him down a little!\n\n8 year old girl- try getting her a cook-book for little kids! She could help out in the kitchen and make easy things. \n\nGood luck! =)
341585
Be patient. I made my kids cry too many times. As she gains confidence and skill, raise the wheels a little.
41387
mary,\n\nYou know your child better than anyone else.  Knowing what sets her off is your key to letting her know anything.\n\nIf she needs to be handled with kid gloves, put them on.  If she appreciates the direct approach, let it fly.  \n\nIt's something that needs to be discussed, though.  Perhaps she doesn't know about her little problem.  You're being a good mom...she should be happy to have a mom like you.
127774
Just go with the flow so to speak. Be considerate of her child though. Make allowances if she can't do things because of her child. Be understanding, compassionate and caring.\nHaving a child make it harder for you to go out spontaneously. plan things for at home, and include the child in your plans sometimes. she will like that, and so will the child.
1055977
be patient and understanding, act real calm set a GOOD example and smile and praise them when they are good or work really hard but frown and get serious and firm when they misbehave or calmly count, keep them busy and help them. Feed them lots of love and support!
183059
When you find that something is making you upset, just pause and take a deep breath.  Step outside, whetever you have to do to escape the situation for however long you need.  Breathe slowly and deeply, and count in your head.  When you have calmed down enough to think rationally about the situation, come back to it.  Don't rush...sometimes you only need to count to 10, sometimes you might need to count to a jillion.  I'm no expert, but this is what I do.  Hope it helps!
493274
The most important thing you can do is to get up 15-30 minutes a day earlier than normal, and take that brief time for yourself every day to reflect and plan your day out. This may take some of the urgency out of your daily tasks.\n\nReduce caffeine intake; while it may wake you up, it's a false and fleeting source of energy. Eat as well as you can, and take at least 1 hour per week to do something small you enjoy.\n\nYou didn't mention the age of your child/children. They're demanding little creatures at any age, but know this. Single parent or not, don't let guilt feelings allow you to neglect YOURSELF. An overworked stressed-out mom can hinder the effectiveness of child-rearing. Cherish the small things, and pick your battles.
1020694
Above all, do not lie to her and try very hard not to talk about it all the time.  In my experience, the children will feel the anxiety of the parent, and trust me, the parent makes it worse in almost all the cases when the parent remains in the room!!\n\nIf you go to a Paedodontic Dentist (specializes in children's dentistry) these doctors are amazing and know how to deal with anxious children, or children getting their teeth done for the first time.  Also, they are super fast in their work!  Depending on the number of fillings that need to be done, you child could be in and out in 20minutes!
282530
tyr calming down and try to sgin up and the acountant will tell you what to do.
1182359
First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!
1076492
just try to remain calm and stay away from it as much as possible, if certain people are doing things that you find frustrating tell them about it, they may not know and it may do some good to get how you feel about it out in the open so that they can correct what is frustrating you so much...
440371
Hi try walking away when the fighting starts and cooling down, when you both have a minute 2 cool down try and talk about it this has worked for me and I think it can help you