If SEX is seen as just pro-creational what are married couples supposed to do after 40 ?  Give it up  ?
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I really don't think it's an issue of what's wrong or right or if you "sin" that's a bad thing.  The point of all the preaching is about what is best for you spiritually.  The people that do the preaching have turned it into what's bad and good and make it a morality issue.  \n\nReally, what you need to think about is what does sex do to you.  Promiscuous sex solely for seeking pleasure can run the risk of addiction, disease, etc., and isn't good for the soul or heart.  In a karmic sense, sex in marriage as an expression of love is less of an attachment - meaning one is less likely to get caught up in it and with love and responsibility of the marriage it kind of nullifies the lust from sex.\n\nSo the question is what is your spiritual quest or goal?  Nothing?  Just getting to heaven?  Or do you want to become a saint?  If you just want to get to heaven then I don't think sex in marriage or with commitment and love will keep you from that.  If you're looking to be a saint then letting go of desires and being celibate is probably necessary.
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Most of us just go with the flow... unfortunately we are surrounded by so many influences and we make an easy target of marketing and shallow ideas.    Nowadays our expectations involve cool wardrobes and hot sport cars better than developing the skills needed to grow old with dignity, one can easily ditch our nice, smart and faithful couple for the 1st opportunity for meaningless sex!!!\nIts a matter of attitude, and having a good marriage is worth it, but takes effort..
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The only way a man can legally have sex (by Biblical standards) is to do it in the institution of marriage. All other sexual encounters outside of marriage is sin. Promiscuous sex is not condoned by God. We have many in this country that are living together, having sex, families, etc. without being married. The Bible clearly defines this activity as an abomination. Sorry, I didn't write the rulebook, but you asked. I am 60 years old, and I have been married to the same woman for 35 years, and have never had sex with anyone else. God's rules work if you let them. I am proud of marriage, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Thank you for asking - it allowed me to respond!!
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sex is not everything that is true but having no sex even after marriage is something unnatural if that persistsmay lead to unwanted situaton if your partner feels the same only than it's ok
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niranjan, hi!\n\ni don't want to be rude, but it does sound like you're a little narrow-minded when it comes to sex...\n\ni want to make a few analogies before i come to what i'm trying to say... a generation earlier, they believed that non-veg food should be eaten only rarely and that it's bad for health... we know better today.  they also didn't believe that women should go to work, and that white people were Gods, that caste system was correct and that women are not equal to men.\n\ntoday we know things are different.  our ancestors believed that love was bad, and that only arranged marriages work...\n\nsimilarly, you need to understand that sex is a bodily function.  there is no more meaning to the idea that you should only have sex with one's life partner... what happens if your partner is not compatible with you?  what if you never enjoy sex again?  you only have one life... you won't have another chance.\n\nsex is a function like eating or drinking.  everyone masturbates when they can't find a partner.  when you do have a partner, enjoy it to the fullest.\n\nthere's nothing wrong with people having sex before marriage.  it's perfectly normal, and is not a "danger" that needs to be curbed...\n\ndo open your eyes to the new world around you.  culture is the person inside you... it's not the acting you do in front of society and family.  be for real.\n\nlive your life fully.  you only have one chance.  just make sure you don't hurt anyone else in the process...\n\nenjoy!
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Sex was "more and better" after marriage. But then, there came the kids. We obviously couldn't have sex as often when the kids were young. They required too much attention and at all hours of the night. Now, the children are older, and we have a little more time to ourselves. Both of us work, but we often actually schedule time for our lovemaking because we enjoy it so much. After all these years of marriage, we are still finding new ways to please each other, and different methods of enhancing the acts that we already enjoy. The sex is definitely better. Not as frequent, but better. I'd love to have sex with her everyday like before we were married or before we had kids. However, the anticipation adds to the excitement.
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Companionship, love, to have a family, loneliness, doesn't hurt to join incomes either. No one wants to be old & alone, young looking for safe sex, & most of are want to marry our eternal mates & have lovely families. 33 years of marriage & would not change a thing, I love him as more today than ever. Had all our family over this week for Son's new baby & there were 58 of us.\n"We are family" I highly recommend marriage.
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It's totally relative. I don't think that there's anything wrong with having pre-marital sex if the context around it is right. There's no way for us to know what God thinks about it. Some religious people would think that it was alright if it was in the context of a loving and caring relationship and birth control were used. Others would say that it is a terrible sin and that we shouldn't even use birth control. What could possibly make one of these views more valid then the rest? I think that a lot of people would think that at 17 you are ready to make a responsible decision about sex and I am one of these people. If you think that you are going to feel guilty about it then don't do it. If you think that you love her and it will help you express your love, then consider it.
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not at all.but thats what you belive in, some people belive in no sex til marriage, others dont.\n I would have died, or killed my toy if I had to wait til I got married to my hubby now...almost 2 yrs later? whoa! lol
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With Aids, the only alternative is sex inside of marriage. \n\nIf people would make better decisions on their life partners and not just act on lust ( created by sex outside of marriage) and then determine within themselves to make it work, honor their vows, stay faithful (sex inside of marriage), then we might see a dedcline of divorce and dysfuctional families.\n\nSo sex inside marriage is the only answer for the chaos.
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No, that is just sick and wrong. Sex is a sacred part of marriage between the married couple.
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If you are a Christian you won't have sex until you're married at which time it won't matter. It's basically up to the couple then if they want a baby or not. Nice try though but as I said a Christian would not have sex outside of marriage.
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I believe in sex before marriage. I don't believe people should just sleep around though. If you've been with a person for awhile and truly loves them, I think it's ok to have sex.
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Yes, you deffinately should save it for marriage! I don't know how religious you are, but I want you to know that I'm not a religious nut. But, God does say that we should save ourselves for marriage. B/c [and this isn't just for religious people] our bodies are meant for ONLY our husband or wife. If you have sex before marriage, then when you get married, you're body isn't completely hers. And, visa versa. I don't know if that made sense to you. Now, I'm a 16 year old girl, and a lot of times I want to do something w/ the opposite sex, but I don't b/c when I get married, I want to be completely his. I don't want to have used myself already... I would feel that I was letting him down. Let me know if that helped okay? Good luck. lol.
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'Scuse me...I'm 53 this year and there's life in me yet!  And when you've been with someone for a lifetime (murderers spend less time in jail in the UK serving the average 'life' sentence - hah - than we've been married) you soon learn that the rapture may not be the same as it first was, but the comfort of being with someone who knows all about you and still knows how to love you gives an ease to the problem of whether or not 'rapture' as you first knew it is involved.\n\nThere are things which inhibit the active sex life of the standard of youth - older people are less flexible in their joints and some become almost immobile, but people find ways round things if they truly love one another, and find what can and can't be done.\n\nThis is a question that can only have been asked by someone quite young.  When I was 18 I thought 30 was old, but as you get older the goalposts move....I don't intend being 'old' till I'm on my deathbed!
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same could be said why sex is so important to you people after marriage...whats the difference? ok, obviously no one wants to be with a "whore" but then again i think that people would want to be with someone that is experienced, i know i would. Cause lets face it, peoples sex lives play a very important role in marriage today, 73% of marriages fail due to this and/or they are deeply troubled because spouses are not faithful and loyal to their signifficant other due to inexperience or unfullfillment in that department. I for one, would like to know that my souse can not only satisfy me spiritually, emotionally but also physically. now, with that said, there are those that feel this way, and then there are those who are extremely active. to each his own but thats where i stand. Hopefully my answer has shed some light on the opposite side of you acusations.
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Love and pre-marital sex right and wrong is very 'gray' area and not like murder, which is very clear cut across the board to be wrong.\n\nMost of the wrongness with love and sex all come from religious roots and beliefs.  Whether you give much merit to your religion is what will determine how right or wrong you think something is.\n\nIs love wrong?  How can love be wrong if it brings together two people out of the five billion or how many people are on this planet now, together.  Love, when right, is ALLLLL right !!!\n\nPre-marital sex I'm a little more gray matter myself.  Do I believe in it?  No, because I think it's something sacred that should be saved for the ultimate commitment, marriage.  With that said, I do understand the importance of it to some couples that if it's bad, it could ruin the whole relationship.  So it could be used as a guide of if a couple will last in the long run.\n\nI don't give religion much merit.  I believe in common sense and believing in your own heart to tell you what is right or wrong with love and the making of love.