How Can U Control Jealousy and Insecurity??
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I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
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I can talk from experience about jealousy, being insecure. It's both. Men like this who get mad because you're wanting to feel good about yourself, is and can be a problem. It's a form of control. These type of men, will not change. I know, talking 12 years of it here. It starts out with them accusing you of flirting, or being too nice to the next guy, spending too much time with friends or family and that isn't always the case. Men like these are so insecure about themselves, they don't want you looking nice or feeling good about yourself because they don't feel good about themselves. Next thing you know, you're being blamed for their insecurity. I know, it happened to me. You can try to talk to him and tell him how that makes you feel when he's accusing you of trying to impress other men at your job but if he isn't listening to you or tries on work on that jealousy or insecurity, then you may need to re-think on your relationship. Men like these don't want you to feel good about yourself and for whatever reason, they want to control everything in your life. Don't let him do that or you'll end up like me, miserable and unhappy. My husband and I are divorcing now but it doesn't take away all the pain of him being jealous of everything or everyone I knew. He should be complimenting on your new looks or your new hairdo, whatever the case may be and get over his insecurity and jealousy because if he doesn't, it will drive you away. I know. Hope this helps!
588846
well.. my ex-boyfriend makes me jealous ALL the time... but then i just stop and think that it doesn't really matter beacuse it's his life to lead mistakes and to carry on with what he wants. Jealousy should not lead your life.. but it should try and help you become stronger.
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Jealousy is about YOU, not your partner, unless they have done something to give you a concrete reason to mistrust them. YOU have to gain enough confidence in yourself to imagine you've got it goin' on, and there is no way they are going to cheat on you, or dump you, for someone else.
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trust ur partner & u'l stop feeling jealous..
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when people are jealous it is easier for them to push others down or make them feel small so that the jealous person can feel better about themselves. You will find that the jealous person is actually overwhelmed with events in their life and sees something in you they wish they have. To deal with a jealous person either remove yourself from them or try and help them feel better about themselves. Most importantly never give anyone the power to make you feel happy sad vunerable or small. Keep this power for yourself. Do not take anything personally.
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Your own or the other person's jealousy? Because, if you don't know the other person well enough to trust them and know they aren't cheating on  you then you darn well don't know them well enough to sleep with them.\n\nIf they're jealous of  you, first ask yourself if you objectively have given them a reason to be jealous. If you have not, then ask yourself what kind of issues this person has becauase "power and control issues" where they want to run  your life for you mask themselves as jealousy. They aren't telling you to quit wearing minis because they think you'll cheat on them but because they want to tell you what to wear and how to wear your hair and who you can talk to.\n\nIf a guy has "power and control issues" then run away! Dump him quick! They're jerks and it only gets worse.
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Believe me, it is just you who feels so, i am pretty sure ur bf knows about ur jealousy problem but he chooses to ignore it either or it is just that he might b enjoying seeing u jealous! But if u wanna give him nail to nail , just start going with him, eg,. if he admires a certain girl, u just start praising the girl more and i wud suggest that u even praise some good looking guy who passes u both, just see the effect then! u"ll definitely enjoy this and it will take care of him and u as well, i.e. u "ll get rid of jealousy problem and he"ll stop being a complete innocent child!
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it will end up driving them away- they will start feeling insecure and cheat on you to make them feel more confident. my mate did this because she felt insercure and her boyfriend cheated on her non stop- he said it was because he was always jealous he felt ugly and insecure. he felt like she could do better. they were the best couple before this... dont play games, you just end up playing yourself!
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Usually if a person is jealous it is because the other person isn't being truthful about, where they've been, who with, etc.  Talking is the reamdy for jealousy.\n\nJust relax let the person do what they are going to do and stop being jealous (controling) and you'll see who they really are.  If you don't like it, tell them, if they don't want to change.. move on.  Life is to short to try to control people and make them change drastically.
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I think something happenned in your life that is leading to not trusting him.  Go talk to a psychologist about your past and traumatic experiences to find out why you are thinking this way.  If you don't agree, talk to the counselor about why you have insecurities.  There's no shame in having insecurities, who doesn't.  But don't let it interfere with your relationship.  He chose you.  Let him know how sexy you think he is and give him a lot of attention and he'll draw closer and closer to you.
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first you are not jealous, you are insecure, so you need to work on your self esteem and believe in your self. also the other thing is find new friends and forget Ashley, she is not helping you at all
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keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Don't do this with negative intentions or malicious reasons - like i'll show you. I can relate. I used to give my man shit all the time for no reason. The only thing jealousy leads to is wasted energy and will only leave you feeling worse. I hate to say it , but this boils down to insecure feelings on your part and you know how you hate it when he says " you are just insecure". focus on spending time w/ family and friends, job, goals...this behavior will bring you and your husband closer.  Just communicate, don't give up, You just need to love your man smarter not harder
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you are going to have to get rid of the insecurity. You have to realize that she has friends and a life outside of you. If she is committed to you then you have no reason to be insecure.\n\nYour insecurity is going to cost you your relationship if you don't stop doing that and get over your issue.\n\nGood Luck
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I dont think there is a way to stop being jealous, it is something that you cant help, but you CAN control it. I get jealous with my fiance, because he is hot, and well, I am not, and sometimes I feel like I am not good enough for him. But I dont make my jealousy get in the way, I dont want to fight with him over nothing, because I do trust him with all of my heart, so that is the only thing you can do, just trust, and keep it to yourself. Now if you have a reason to be jealous, just talk to your girlfriend or whoever about why you are jealous!!
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Sounds like you got it down. Ditch the insecure tramps. There's a reason they're insecure and flip a sh.it every time you look at someone else - They're lookin' too. She just better be at least half as good as me when I catch my ol' man lookin ;)
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You need to pull out the good qualities about yourself when you start to experience those thoughts and feelings.\n\nFor some reason you are feeling insecure about yourself.  \n\nWhat is it that is making you feel less of who you are?  Because if you were feeling good about yourself you wouldnt have these thoughts.\n\nAre you feeling like you have less self esteem about your self?  Because when we start to compare ourselves to others and get deppresed we are actually feeling certain things about ourselves that we are not happy with.  \n\nLike for example, I begin to compare myself to my husband and I see all these great qualities about him and all his talents and acheievments.  I than start to feel less of me and think ...wow....he sure is smart, talented, funny..etcetc...and what about me?  \n\nI than have to look in the inside of me and see why I am feeling that way.  Its almost like a jealous reaction I get.  So,,,,,I dig into my inner self and think why?  I than realize that maybe I am not feeilng so great about myself because I am suffereing from insecurties about myself.\n\nMake sense?\n\nYou are more than you are giving your self credit for!