will my marriage get saved?
448876
I feel bad for you. Get some self esteem and find a guy that really respects you. This guy's using you.
885751
If you're not sure now then it won't help if you get married.  Call it off now before you make a huge mistake.  You probably don't want to live the rest of your life like that.  I don't know many people who would want to.
671654
Being a Christian and being in tune with God's will for my life  is what helped me know.  My parents used to pray for God to send me the right man.  He did.  We've been married 20 years and very happy!  Start praying for God to help you find true love, but be patient...it could take years.  Don't give up!
633802
U will never know if something will truly last. U want to marry a person because u want to spend the rest of ur life with them. if er'1 went in2 marriage knowin they would get divorced i don't think they would even bother marrying that person. I think it takes a lot to make a marriage work and u have to work hard, and even tho over the years we all will change, u and ur partner have to change as a couple and realize that u are different and always keep in mind why u fell in love wit that person. Above all else, trust, honesty, and communication are the big key. If u can keep all that throughout the whole relationship er'thing will be fine. \nNext month is my 1st wedding anniversary wit my husband. He has been in Iraq since Sept 05. And i love him more everyday even tho we're apart. A lot of couples in the military end up getting divorced after being away from each other 4 a year. but we've communicated wit each other about er'thing we're both going thru. And we trust each other and love each other above all else. I think that u have to have faith in urself and ur partner 2 have a long lasting loving marriage!
491816
If you dont think it will, you are wrong, thats not to say that you wont eventually get there.  Its just that once you get married, you now have to support someone else, you have to give them your time, you have to show them that they are #1 in your life.  Finances are the biggest problem for most in this situation.  Most have to work and go to school and there isnt really time to do both and give your spouse they time they need, want, and deserve.
1048207
Hello,\nSeek counseling and help here and try to save it if at all... Talk to him and see if he is open to getting the help he needs with you. Seek marriage counseling too. If he continually cheats though and does not or refuses to change then you do have legal and biblical grounds for getting out and at least separating and even divorce if there is absolutley not resolving the marriage. If you need to talk i am here anytime for you.
560058
Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
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I would suggest You PRAY. Prayer is VERY Powerful!\nFind a Christian church close to you and go and ask for prayer. It will help you tremendously and your children & marriage. The Lord restored my marriage. You can also get free Godly counselling from the Pastor.\n\nYou see satan wants to destroy our marriage, children & you. DON"T let him. \n\nThe Bible says:\n10 The thief’s(satan) purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My (The Lord)purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.\n\nYou need to be in a group of believers. The prayers of believers avail much. They also can offer you support, encouragement, uplift your spirits etc...It really helped me and I got alot of hope.\n\nIf you can, read "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omarian. Very good. Your life will never be the same once you accept Jesus in your heart. My life changed all for the better including my children. I'm living testimony. \n\nHere is a verse for you.\n\nJer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.\n\nHis Word never returns void. Here's another verse for you.\n\nPhil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; \n\nI believe the Lord can restore your marriage as He did mine.\n\nGod Bless!
1103358
counseling is wonderful...if you truly going to work on trying to save your marriage...and living apart while doing so is not bad either...you could start fresh ..so to speak.... however... how can you try to save a marraige if you continue to see and want to be with someone else?\n\nthe only feasable way to truly try to save your marraige... is to tell your friend...that he will have to back off for a while...so you can see if you can salavge your marriage...who knows ...there is a possibility your husband could change...and you could see the man you married to begin with; but...if it doesnt work...you can leave knowing you gave it 100% ...and start a new life with your friend.  \n\nall in all ...you have some serious thinking to do ...this is something only you can answer...we are just here to offer suggestions...\n\ngood luck
404593
If final means it is completely resolved then I don't think there is much you can do except move foreward. Take the oportunity to reflect on your marriage and learn from the experience. It may help you in your future relationships. good luck.
866501
I've been married 28 years ,and it's still in doubt .It seems the spirit and the flesh are somewhat incompatible .You can do what you want, it seems to quench the spirit tho for a time .
972204
This depends entirely on your capacity for forgiveness, compassion and acceptance.\n\nYou would not be able to sustain this relationship without forgiving your spouse.  You would not be able to forgive without allowing yourself to express your own anger and fear.  (What if you're sick)?  \n\nIf you believe your marriage is worth saving, then both of you would have to agree that as hard as you know it will be to work through this, you still want to be together.\n\nIt would take an amazing amount of commitment to make this situation work, but I believe it could be done.  Good luck to you both.
603765
Being married to my dear husband gives me such a sense of fulfillment and belonging. We have been married almost 20 years and are more in love than ever. It means we can rely on each other no matter what. We have been through some seriously difficult times but have always been there for each other. I don't know what I would do without him. I tell him he is my knight in shining armor. We have our disagreements, but they are much fewer in number now. We complete each other. Our marriage is a blessing from God!
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
533820
A baby will not only change your marriage, it will change your life!\nYou can't "save" a marriage by having a baby, but if you have a good marriage a baby is a blessing!\nGod bless.
731699
Definitely this relationship can be saved if both of you are determined.. But one thing is for sure that he has lost your faith and he will have to regain it and it takes some time.. In the meantime you should change your focus from the past happenings and forgive him and look at future..BEST LUCK... HAVE FAITH...
603316
Not likely....you were only married for a year and you came into the marraige with these things.  Get a good lawyer and you should be fine.  Find a flat rate divorce attorney....it will cost you more up front, (and possible  a little more in the end) but you won't get nickel and dimed with every phone call, email, and paper that needs written/filed.  Good luck....and it really does gt better!