How do I get my ex-boyfriend back?
452438
Find outif he really loves you back. He might've been cheatin' ans saved you the agony of telling the truth. But if you love him tell him that you don't want it to be over, tell him thatit can be worked out if both of you are willing to commit.
201018
give him a chance to breathe and think on your relationship. if you want him in your life you have to be mature enough to let him decide if he wants to be with you; if you're bringing drama to the relationship and he broke up with you because of it, at this point you have to let him decide if he REALLY wants to be with you. I was in a relationship like yours and he decided to come back to me. I always have to be careful of his feelings due to our past but if your gut wants to be with you let him. if he doesn't let him go, it'll only help the both of you in the long run...
847533
Tell him how you feel about what happened and that you're willing to come back, but he owes you an apology for what he did.  Hopefully he learned from his last gf that he should consider you first.
937936
The only way he is going to know how you feel is if you tell him directly. If you do get back together, make sure that you work on the things that made you break up in the first place. I hope he feels the same way, but if he doesn't, I would move on. I hope everything works out well!
738140
Go after him and get him back at all costs!
601123
Well if you had broken up, then its really none of his business what you get upto... behind his back, or right in front of him. Pity that he did actually want you back, you might have blown your chances here...\nSit down and have a chat with him, explain the situation to him, how you saw it, and listen as he tells you his side of the story... Good luck.
43839
Say "Good-bye", give a great "Sponge Bob" wave.  \n\nDon't waver from this...unless you want to look foolish.  If your ex wants you back, they'll let you know.  So, you can hold your dignaty and bow out, or you can beg and beg and beg only to be rejected more and more and more.\n\nIt hurts, all I can recomend is find something that makes you happy...Go find happiness.
653811
forget him, if he doesn't want you back find someone who is better than him - he'll want you back then, just like you want him back now\n\nyou break up for a reason, why get back together?  did things really change?  (they usually don't)
790072
I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
826828
FIRST you need to STOP going back to him because he is only using you and you are allowing him to do so.  You dont have enough self esteem within yourself to not go back.  If you ever want to get ober the guy STOP GETTING BACK WITH HIM!  There is no reason you should even be in contact with him, he is a loser and if you continue to see him ...you will be one as well.
852199
If you love each other, then, um DUH! Yes, take him back. Maybe he really did need to "get himself together" and now he feels ready to have a relationship. There's nothing wrong with that if it's true. I think it's great if he wanted to work on himself so things don't get messed up anymore between the two of you. He worked, he's ready - go for it.\n\nWould you cut off your nose just to spite your face? (Translation: Would you give up love just to make your ex pay?)
1130437
I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!
468443
Why would you want someone back who would believe rumors about you? He obviously doesn't "Love" you if he would believe his friends over you. You learned a very valuable lesson from this experience.  Even if you did manage to get back together, the same thing is going to happen the next time his friends or someone else spreads rumors about you. You need to realize that you deserve better than this and move on with your life. There is someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and who will trust you. A good relationship is based on honesty and trust. Without them the relationship will fail. He doesn't trust you, so there is no way this relationship will work. Move on and live your life well. He is the one that loses. The best revenge is to live well. He will soon see what he has lost. Good Luck!!\n\nA.H.
36851
get a new boyfriend. then don't look back. there's a reason why he's an ex.
253917
My advice is don't pick up the phone when it's him calling.  He wants you back because he's lonely and he hasn't found anyone else yet.  It's hard to be lonely, I'm sure you felt like you wanted to get back with him when you first broke up, but if you are really over him and don't want to endure more weeks of fighting, just don't pick up the phone, so you can let go and so can he.
44991
Don't call him, don't answer his phone calls.  If you broke up with him, don't pay any attention to him going out with other ladies.  You will just get jealous and want him back for the wrong reasons.  If he broke up with you, that sux.  Don't let him play any mind games with you.  If he wants to get back together, tell him you have moved on and that he can't mess with you anymore.  Then move on and be done with it.  Don't watch any movies or listen to any songs that you shared.  That only makes it worse.  And don't hook up with him out of desparation or because ya'll don't have anything better to do.  Your life will be miserable for it, I promise.
307420
You need to know some things before you try to get him back.\n\n1. why did he leave?  Did he leave because you don't put out and this tramp does?  If that is the case, I agree with the rest, don't bother.  If he left because of a fight/misunderstanding then i think you might want to try.  People have fights and then will do almost anything to win, so things might have been said, that neither of you meant.\n\n2. Why is he with her.  Is she like you, apart from the trampyness?  Is she the opposite of you?  Depending on your sex life with him, he may just be on a bootycall.  Doesn't make it right.  But if she is just like you, he might want you back.\n\n3. Why do you want him back?  how old are you? how long have you been dating?  What have you done together (meaning go to college, school, other?)  Maybe he was just serving his purpose for those times but wont work with these times.  We are all human and we have all done that.\n\nSo if you want him back, how bad?\nif you need him back you got to tell him and sex him up.  (If that is the only way, i say leave him)\n\nIf you love him, but still lead a life of your own, then tell him you need him and tell him you are sorry for what happened.\n\nfinally, if you are stil pissed at him and don't care if he comes back or not (but would like him back) then just say hey we need to talk and make sure he knows everything about how you feel and ask him why he did it.