help.  boyfriend/best friend problem?
448590
This is a tough one......Ok you said you like your boyfriend but have fallen in love with his/your best friend. If it is love and I mean real love then you should not have to question what you should do. You just need to talk to your best friend one on one and see if it is really what you think it is.
363158
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
628687
If I found out they were dating behind my back, I would dump BOTH of them, not 1. Just to make the process more efficient! :)\n\nCheer up, sh..t happens, you know.\n\nGet a new best friend, and a get a new boyfriend, too.\nHarsh to say, but this may be the only clean way out of this mess. \n\nDon't torture yourself... but defend yourself, as much as you can. Don't let your self-esteem go down beause of the two pigeons.
782438
Your best friend cuz she sounds like a jerk. \n\nBut think about it, becuz if you dump her, then if your boyfriend dumps you, your left with nothing.
188738
I WOULD PICK MY BEST FRIEND. WHY WOULD SHE LIE TO YOU?, AND OF COURSE HE IS GOING TO "SWEAR" THAT HE DIDN'T BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT YOU FIND OUT. YOU MAY LOOSE YOUR BEST FRIEND BY STAYING WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND WHO SHE SAYS IS A "CHEATER", AND YOU MAY LOOSE YOUR BOYFRIEND BY CHOOSING YOUR BESTFRIEND WHO HE SAYS IS A "LIAR". DON'T BE BLINDED BY LOVE, AND REMEMBER TO LOOK AT THE FACTS, BECAUSE EVERYTHING WILL COME OUT EVENTUALLY. YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE ULTIMATE DECISION.GOOD LUCK!!
920844
woooooow your just about 4 or 5 years younger then me and you still seem a little young, girly you are a little too young, but anyway you need to ask yourself whats more important, your BESTFRIEND or some boy thats going to end up breaking your heart anyway...i dont want to make it seem horrible but who's to say the same thing he's doing to your friend he won't do to you?  how do you know if he's going to be promising your best friend a 'relationship' when you and him are together (3 years from now). just know that boyz come and go but friends last for ever. so ask yourself is he really worth it?
877998
Well.. I would say that she isn't your best friend.  I have had the same problem.  My so called best friend loves a guy that i have loved for ever.  She went behind my back and asked him out without telling  me.  Then i realized that she wasn't my best friend.  Oh yeah.  Talk to her about it.  If she is all cocky and like let me love him shit. Then just flirt with him more to get her mad.
657297
It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
41101
What do you do? Absolutely nothing. Not a good idea to do anything about it. You could get your a$$ kicked or worse than that, lose your best friend. Will it be worth it? Find a boyfriend of your own.
701636
Tell him the truth.  He is your best friend and that is not something you want to spoil, because boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, but best friends are forever.  But good relationships are built on solid friendship foundations so you never know, but at this point if you know you don't like him as a boyfriend, you will only hurt him and yourself and perhaps lose a friend if you take it down that road.  BTW, shorter doesn't mean anything, it is what is inside him that counts!
249823
I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
364892
Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
598708
I haven't been in EXACTLY the same situation, but I'll give you the benefit of my advice, anyway! \n\nFirst, don't do anything until he breaks up with his current girlfriend. That might mean you have to wait a bit, but it's the right thing to do- and besides, you'll put the guy in a bit of a tight situation if you say anything now! (And his girlfriend won't exactly love you for it...) So, wait til they break up. I know it's tough, but wait! \n\nAnd THEN, go for it! Don't worry about it ruining your friendship, because it sounds like you two really are best friends, and a friendship that strong, isn't going to be hurt by something like this. Tell him how you feel. \n\nThe best relationships are between people who start out as best friends- I know, from personal experience!\n\nGood luck!
338190
I'm a guy but I think my rule of thumb in a relationship works for both sexes. You date.. then you break up.. and when you break up, there is a good reason why the break up happened, and now you need to move on to someone else.  Life is just way too short and precious to be lingering over what could/should/would happen...  If your best friend made you break up with your boyfriend.. is she really your best friend? Most guys have an unspoken code of conduct when it comes to friends' girlfriends/wives (unlike movies or TV shows) Move on....find you a new and better man.. and make your ex and your best friend realize what they lost when you walk in with your new beau!
396441
Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
249545
If your best friend does not want to date you, then chances are that he does think your boyfriend is not good enough for you.  Think about it.  How many time have you seen the nice girl dating the bad guy?  We've all seen it.  Some think the bad boy is fun or really a sweety underneath.  Is this you?  If it is then your best friend is a good guy.  He is trying to protect you.  The fact is that it is your decision.  You'll have to tell him you need to "agree to disagree."\n\nIf your best friend does want to date you, then that is a whole different story.  You may need to choose.\n\nGood luck!
573818
You need to have a talk with your best friend about how you two are always going to be best friend through thick and thin always and forever.Guys come and go but friends stay forever.