why after i expressed my feelings, she brings up other guys and uncertainties?
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I am sure she values your friendship.  I had one guy hang around for about 10 years as a friend, he heard about all my boyfriend stories, etc. Then one day, it happened, we got together and it was great until he used some bad judgement several times and it ended after an on again, off again 6 months. Since then, 5 years have passed, he still hopes we'll get back together, but it is harder to get along with him since that 6 months. He's angry and expects more. I liked it better when we were just friends, but his hope kept him around.  \n\nHis problem is that he had always set his expectations for a female partner too high.  He only wanted a hottie and was very judgementmental about a regular girl. If only he found a regular girl with a good heart, he would have been married by now and had the 2.2 kids.  She might be too hot for you, but having a hot friend isnt so bad.
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I've had a few platonic female friends.  I've given some hugs and some backrubs.  I've never kissed them.  Your girlfriend crossed the line.  Why would she tell you that "his little thingy got hard"?!?  Definitely past the line.\n\nIt sounds like she is playing games and is at the least trying to make you feel jealous.  At the worst, she is shopping for another boyfriend and just wants to keep you on the line.\n\nIt's hard to convey all the intricacies of a relationship on these little questions.  But from the little you've revealed, I would dump her and cut off all contact.  Until she grows up, she is not worthy to date seriously.
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I think shes scared of saying something and possibly hurting your feelings. I think she may not like the idea but doesnt want to say anything because she doesnt want you to get the idea that if shes not willing to fulfill your fantasy, then you will find someone else who will. I think you should talk to her and ask her what her feelings are about this fantasy. If shes not interested, I say you need to be able to accept and understand her decision or move on.
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She's a bit insecure, and like the idea of having you on a leash.\n\nshe is playing emotional mind games with you and keeping you hanging on, pretending that you may have a chance.\n\nShe may also have broken up with you because she wanted to start another relationship with someone else, and then the other guy blew her off - she is stuck in a rut and has no-one to give her attention - and she knows that you still have feelings, so she calls you again, and makes a re-connection.\n\nshe is playing games with you - trust me, I have done this to a few guys, it's not nice but it's part of life.\n\nif you really wanna give it another go, try and get back with her, but give her conditions and ground rules, so she doesn't take advantage of your naivety and vulnerability, cos she knows that you are a bit soft and gullible, etc... sorry.\n\nanyway, if i was you, i'd GET RID!
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Maybe she is just afraid of what your reaction would be. Maybe instead of hinting you should just come out and say what you feel. It sounds like maybe you are both hinting to one another but neither one is stepping up to the plate. Even if she doesn't see you as botfriend material right now she might later if she knows the opportunity is there.
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she was probably scared off because you told her you loved her and youre not even her boyfriend. you shouldnt say such a strong thing to someone you're not even in a relationship with. your best bet is to apologize to her for saying that and that you know she doesnt feel the same way and see what her response is. who knows, she could tell you youre wrong.
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Perhaps your intuition is trying to clue you in on something. It would be a good idea to sit down and talk with her about it in a non-judgmental, non-threatening way. Just let her know how you're feeling and see how she responds. Even if you're being paranoid at least you will have gotten it out in the open. It's also possible it's something relatively insignificant and she may feel it's not important enough to "bother" you with. Give her plenty of opportunity to share her feelings with you about your relationship, where it's headed and any needs she might need met.
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No man or women should have to feel doubt when it comes to love. You cant enjoy the wondering about that. im sorry but it seems like maybe she hinted to you that she doesnt want you any more. some women dont see men for the brains that they have. and if she found out you lied.. well you know.
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These feelings that you are having toward her are going to keep building and building; if you don't go ahead and discuss them with her, you might lose your cool one day and really go off on her and say things that maybe you did not mean to and cannot be taken back.  It sounds to me that she is indeed taking you for granted and will continue to do so until you tell her how you feel.  Some people do not realize that they do this to others until it is brought to their attention.  Then again, on the other hand, some people are just like that and down right rude.  If I were you, I would tell her exactly how I felt about everything, but try to do it in a nice way.  From the sound of the narrative you wrote with your question, it seems as you are a good person and would handle this way.  Hopefully, once you confront her, she will see the "error" of her ways and change her attitude.  If she doesn't, at least then you will know that you tried and you will not fell bad when you tell her no the next time she wants something from you.  Good luck.
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Hey hun... well - I know just where you're coming from on this one as my best friend (guy) has just had this problem as he told his friend how he felt about her.\nFirstly, don't feel guilty about saying anything - it will have actually made things less awkward between the two of you. If you're close friends (as you say you are) then she shouls respect you for saying something to her face. Far too many guys don't say anything and the girl doesn't know where she stands at all.\nI don't think you "need" to rectify what you said - it's said now and that's final - you can't sincerely say anything that will take it back - and it will never be forgotten.\nYou say she feels something for you too, but still said you should stay friends - it sounds to me like she's scared of losing the friendship you have, which if it's as special and close as you say would be a shame. I don't understand though, why she said that she liked you and still turned you down - I mean, if she truly respected your feelings - would she have kept quiet and not kept you going through this torture, with the hope that something could still happen. I know that, obviously, you think the world of her - but are you sure she's worh it and she's not just playing with your affections and your emotions.\nI think you did right keeping quiet for a few days, you didn't say anything in the heat of the moment, and have let everything settle. If her reply to you didn't say anything about what you said, this could mean she'd rather move on - stay friends and not spoil your friendship in anyway. However, it could also be that she doesn't want to be the one to raise the topic, maybe she's embarrassed or maybe she thinks you're embarrassed and don't want her to raise the subject. It's up to you on that one - if you want to talk about it then bring it up in a quiet moment in private. However - if you do want to talk about it, make sure you don't sound like you're renewing your feelings to her, or are pleaing with her to take your relationship to a new level - as this is likely to spoil any chances of remaining friends.\nIf you are as close as you say, I don't think she will behave differently. But, even if she does, you MUST NOT behave differently around her - keep being as close as you ever were - this should put her at her ease a little more.\nI know it's difficult, as I said my friend's in the same sit, but you have to try and stop seeing "signs" that she likes you. Just try and see these that you and her are close friends and nothing more. Slowly try and get yourself to see someone else in this way - althought it's likely you will always like this friend as more than that.\nI hope this helps you, good look mate - I have a feeling you might need it with this one.
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Women, eh? She likes you. Enjoys your company. Is obviously jealous of your other girlfriends. Doesn't want to add the physical. No, I don't really understand either. \n\nDoes she have other boyfriends? Perhaps she's afraid of spoiling what you have.... Or perhaps she's immature; enjoys the power of knowing that you fancy her, keeping you dangling?\n\nIt's not fair to you for her to say 'No' to you-know-what, but go into a strop if you go out with someone else.\nThe 'other woman' thing was good, gave her something to think about - she was definately jealous, or hurt. \n\nMy advice is to back off. Maybe you're smothering her. Give her a bit of time & space; let her come to you. It might take a bit of time. But I believe that the best partnerships are based on friendship that develops into love. It sounds as though all the elements are there in your relationship, but she needs a bit of time. I hope so. All the best!\n\nI had a very good friend once. I didn't fancy him, didn't want to take it further. Then, one night, when it was time for him to go home, I realised that I didn't want him to go...  It was as much as a surprise to me as to him!\n\nP.S. Don't wait for her forever.
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being careful of what you say to her and just listening out for the things that she says to you. let her come to you now not the other way around. you have already expressed yourself and now knows how you feel. now she needs a little time to think about the moves that she is going to make. act par when you are around her and keep par conversations so that she feels comfortable all most as if nothing was ever said. \n\nbasically when she brings it up than you can bring it up if nothing is said than do not say anything at all.
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man you just need to give her some time to be sure of your feelings and any way it look like the women are having a trust problem with the men so i suggest to keep sending her flowers and you know you should express what you feel and turn your feelings into words and tell them to her and just be honest
715726
think your still hurt about what happened and are reading too much into what she says, maybe she didnt mean to say anything like that, best thing is to try your best not to think about it.
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hmm... she sounds a bit nuts. you certainly aren't the crazy one!! maybe now though, that she has 3 names to pick from, she likes yours best. \n\nshe might be doing it to spite the other guy. or maybe of the two husbands he has had, she sees you as being better and maybe wants you back, (at the moment, i'm sure not deep down. certainly do not go back to her!!).
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She is messing with you head.  She knows and has known that you like her, she loves the attention and doesn't really give a darn about your feelings.  Sorry to say the harsh truth.
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Maybe she needs time to herself to figure things out. She could be confused and don't know what she wants right now. So she keeps sending you mixed messages try talking to her to see if she needs a little more time to figure things out.