Whats your experience with Narzissistic people (Parent/Partner/Kids/Boss etc)?
442361
Well, I was married to a narcissist so I can tell you exactly what to do.  First, remember that they will always want to have the last word.  So give it to them.  You can answer for them before they get the chance- that really throws them off.  \n\nEx.  "Yes, I know, you're the best tennis player that ever existed on the planet."  Yes, I'm aware of the fact that you're smarter than everyone else around."  "Yes, I know that your opinions about everything are always the most true and correct."  After you say something like this you should laugh out loud, look them directly in the eye, smile and shake head.  Not only does this take the wind out of their enormous sail, but sometimes it even makes them embarrassed!\n\nAs far as the manipulation goes, don't react to their bullshit.  Look them in the eye and listen intently and when they're all finished yelling, lying, or what ever their pleasure.  Say, "Well, that was entertaining, now, back to the real world...."  And stay very calm.  \n\nThe best thing you can do to stay in control is to remember that this person is sick.  Don't take their behavior personally.  This is not about you- this is about their illness.  Don't let them see you get upset because this is exactly what they want.  If you need anymore help, send me an e-mail.
862876
That is a good question! I have had it happen to me all my life and have never understood it. My Mother-in-law for instance treats my wife like a step child and her other two daughters like true daughters (kind of reminds me of Cinderella). What scares me most is that I might be doing it to my kids as well - I really try not to be that way and they have never said anything to make me think I have any favorites - but, it still concerns me. The thing is that these people (when you bring it to their attention) do not see that they are acting this way. One of my biggest hang ups is Christmas - buying gifts for people that I could care less about. Well, guess what? This year, we are not spending on these people - not even a token gift. I am in the dog house for it, but I am going to concentrate on my kids and grandkids who I love and cherish - I am going to let the others celebrate without me this year! It makes me feel free, and my wife is warming to the idea, but she is having withdrawal symptoms. I say no more of the fake behavior to impress these duds.
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Here's a link that explains the narcissistic personality. There are links at the bottom that go into greater depth.\n\nhttp://www.angelfire.com/ego/narcissism/index.html
343300
anything worth doing is worth fighting for... who cares if there is a mix... are you happy? Are your children happy? My family hates the man I married, and his family hates me... everyone seems to think that they know what is best... we love eachother, our son is fantastic, well rounded. We are a happy family and have been for the past 6 years... goes to show that sometimes the world is wrong... go figure
839075
That they need to stop using people. They always give such a hard luck story. They don't want to hear your's though. And when you need help, they don't know you. \n\nOoh, let me get off of this now, because I could go on and on. I have a user in my family. She won't do anything to help herself. She wants us to do it.
151475
Well:) my father's policy in such situations (among us siblings) is very interesting....hope u find it applicable & useful\n\nNOBODY IS BOSS OF OTHER. EACH IS INDEPENDENT UNIT......\nHELP EACH OTHER WHEN NEEDED BUT NEVER BULLY CAUSE U R NOT ALLOWED TO:)
599802
Honestly?  Not on top of my head.  I have this image of what they look like and expectations of their ability.  But, the last time I saw them, I was like "Whoa, you're look'n old!"  My dad wasn't walking as fast and Mom wasn't the multi-tasker that I've known her to be.  It's really something to even think what life would be like w/o them!  OK... like I'm picking up the phone and calling them just to say "Hi!"   Thanks!
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Were you aware of her diagnosis before marrying her and were you educated? I work with chronic mentally ill people and believe you me I know what you are talking about. It takes a very strong person to deal with BPD.  I have never seen anyone with BPD get better with age. They just learn bigger and better ways of getting attention. Very hard to deal with especially when they are in the world of "ME" that is how I describe them. They are worse than any 12 year old.  I think it depends on how much you are willing to put into this marriage and if you have the strength. I have a friend who stayed in his marriage for 16 years (has 11 yr old daughter he has custody of now) and I watched him suffer dealing with her being hospitalized and she was really abusive. He thought he was obligated to take care of her, therefore, neglecting himself. He is now divorced from her and still at times keeps in touch just to be sure she is safe. She is doing fine. They know how to get their way. Anyway, it just depends on you and how strong you are. Are you willing to live this way the rest of your life? Good Luck to you and God Bless!!!
720425
I think everyone has those type of people, but all you have to do is move on and don't worry about, cause if you do it is just going to make you more mad than you already are. Hope this helps.
794740
Unfortunately they probably never will. Everyone thinks what they believe is the truth and the only truth. It is sad that people aren't more accepting of other people's differences. I do think the main problem is what they are taught at home. More and more people have children yet don't bother to parent their children. They figure they are too busy and they expect everyone else to do it for them. In the mean time they aren't being taught morals and compassion. And then everyone wants to know what is wrong with the world. It starts at home. If people would take the time out of their "busy" lives to be good role models for their children, their children wouldn't grow up to be such miserable hateful adults. I am never too busy for my son. And I promise you, He will not grow up to be that way. It is just too bad everyone else is't as concerned about the way they conduct themselves nowadays. The majority of the people I come Across on a daily basis are rude, impatient, disrespectful, judgemental, and self absorbed. I try to hold onto the belief that most people are good people though, and I do believe they are, I just think maybe they lose track of things that really matter, and are more concerned with trivial matters. But I totally hear ya!!!!!
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Too many to choose from- you can decide and tell me what you think--\n\n- My son squirted mustard and BBQ sauce all over the new sectional my brother-in-law just got for us\n\n- My son brought a kids swimming pool into the living room, filled it, and swam in it with his sister\n\n- Between the 3 of my kids, they dialed 911 a grand total of 59 times and their mom was in handcuffs for it at least twice that I know of, one of these times caused the police to be especially defensive as I was just pulling in the driveway coming home from work- guns drawn at me\n\n- My two oldest had an egg fight in the family room more than once, drenching my big screen\n\n- My daughter poored Drano all over the bathroom floor, bathed in it, and got 2nd degree burns from it on her butt and legs\n\n- My son made mud balls and threw them into the ceiling fan\n\n- My son on several accounts emptied entire bottles of dish soap on his sister, brother, our dogs, and the rest of the house\n\n- My son whipped it out and peed at the front door entrance at the company Christmas party- right in front of me and my boss \n\n- My son pulled a fire alarm station inside a professional building causing hundreds of evacuees to be out of work for 3 hours (in c/o that infamous daycare lady)\n\n- My son took off all the plug and switch plates in his bedroom and got zapped
827038
Unfortunately yes.  I dated this person for a while and  I met his family.  They were totally dysfunctional, loud, crass and crude.  When he was around them he behaved like a lunatic.  But when he was alone with me he was a different person.  It was a Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing.  So i called it quits.  It was too much for me.
1153174
Well I work for my dad. He is an ok boss. I sometimes get mad at him but I can't show it because I have to be respectful to him in front of the other employees...So that definately sucks. But other than, its nice!
832858
not really, other than my brother. i lived with my father, and he was too busy playing in his band and chasing women to have time for me and the rest of us that lived with him, much less any friends i had. oh, adult, in that case, he was too busy playing in his band and getting women pregnant and being a part of whatever family he was raising at the time to have time for me, much less my friends.
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
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My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
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Well i opnion is simple most of them suck. They will be nice to begin with and act like everything is okay then they want to your father or mother figure one things leads to another you pretty much argue a lot.Some are not like that though dont get me wrong i am just using my expierence.