Is the sterotype about black men in bed true?
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no not all men but some
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Thank you Pale Rider for asking these questions.\nI wish I had an easy answer for this, because it is one that my sisters and girlfriends are always asking ourselves.\nBlack men are failing themselves, first and foremost.\nThere are a great deal of them that are true heroes that step to the bat and take responsibility. I don't want to leave that out, because it hurts to get bunched up with the bad apples and not be appreciated for trying.\n\nThat being said, there are a great deal of black men that are suffering from a lack of true mental development. They never make the transition from irresponsible teenager to responsible adult man. Their children are viewed as the woman's child, not theirs. Their American dream looks like a 50 Cent/P-Diddy video. I've seen this with a lot of men of all ethnic backgrounds, but when you are black and in the United States you cannot afford to be this way.\n\nAnother factor to take a look at is most black people in the United States are running around with Post traumatic syndrome. It is a direct side-effect of U.S. brand racism and classism. We suffer great deal of "self-dissociation" both on an individual level and on a collective consciousness level.\n\nBlack women want that American dream with the house and picket fence. We get caught up in day-to-day struggles and so we lose patience when our men are don't step up and carry their own weight. We feel sometimes that they want too much credit for doing what everyone does and should do: take responsibility for their actions. We forget sometimes that our men struggle too. We need to be more supportive and less enabling.\n\nThere are no easy answers but a step away from the more frivolous, self-seeking hip hop culture could be a great start. To get young black men to desire to become electrical engineers and theoretical physicists would be a great way to start.
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Seems like you have met some good women, and from the way you phrase your question, have not met "many black men". There are plenty of black men that are building, if not already on, a successful career path and place family values at the same level that the "dignified" women you have met do.  You might want to expand your associations to include some of these men.
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Black women are hot and exciting in bed. I find that they are more open and adventuresome.
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some women like that. some don't. some MEN act that way some don't. It works with some women and it fails with some women. seriously doubt it's a BLACK MAN thing.
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I'm a 22 yr old black girl and i dont date black guys. I used to like them when i was younger, in my teens. But i find them very boring and not very intelligent and they dont seem very articulate. I find it hard to have a decent conversation with a black my age. Alot of them are about rap music, sex, and cars and nothing else. \nI find white guys more attractive and intelligent. I like their pale skin in private places!! White men are just alot more interesting to me. \n\nHowever I dont think white guys treat girls different to black guys, men are men regardless. You have to judge the individual on who they and how they behave. \n\nI agree that there are more white guys with black girls and they seem to be quite possessive. If i walk past a girl with her white man she give you evils lol. Like i care,the girls ive seen are uglier than me anyway. each to there own.\n\nI would marry a white man, my family are from jamaica and i will never on this earth date a jamaican man! Black men are a no no for me. As for sex, white men are far more gental and understanding.
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Yes, I think so to a certain degree.  Men tend to prefer hardcore pornography, so they want to see other men's penises in an erect state\n... one has to ask why?  Also, most men like looking at bigger penises in pornography and they like watching oral sex... and most mens' mouths salivate during up-close oral sex on the screen.  Again, why?  Most porn made for men show a POV as if from a woman and rarely from the man's POV.  Also, much of today's porn shows women rimming or fingering their man.  Some of the most popular genres of porn these days are with SheMales, Strap-On and Bisexual MMF Threesomes.  Who primarily buys or rents these?  Supposedly heterosexual MEN, not gay men... and many of them married.  Men are visual creatures, so I think that when we see other men's penises, it arouses us and we ask ourselves why... some moreso than others.\n\nIt is only society and the whole 'unmanly' aspect of male same-sex contact that shuns our curiosity away a lot of the time, however, if a beautiful woman asked her male partner to try being with another guy for her enjoyment (as he would another woman with her), many if not most men will act on her fantasy, because she has now ok'd or endorsed his curiosity.  Many guys say they could only be with another guy with another female present... and they would do it just to please her, but honestly they are using her to allow thoughts they might never act upon for fear of being labeled as gay and the shame that would go along with that.  Also, in a recent sex survey tv special, over 2/3 of straight men say they have seriously considered their female partner using a Strap-On on them.  Tyra Banks had an entire show devoted to an enclave of women who prefer dating or mating with gay/bi men in real-life relationships as well as viewing bi or gay porn... and contrary to what you might think, they were not all dogs, either - some were total hotties.\n\nOprah had a show about men on the "down-low" that said 40% of married men have same-sex contact to whatever degree DURING their marriage and most experts put the number higher than 60% - a mouth is mouth, I guess.  The Down-Low phenomenon has become so big that there is now a new term for men who do not necessarily identify as gay/bi/straight, but 'men who have sex with other men' or initailized as 'MSM' for short.  The more society begins to accept gays, the more bi-curiosity will emerge publicly or at least to their female partner.  Lots of women are turned on watching two men as men are with two women... it was girls I dated who got me all turned on to actively being with another guy, FYI - before that, all my experience was only receiving oral, not giving.  There are large groups of females who are into male-male erotica, "slash" as it is sometimes known and the latest teen craze is guys kissing other guys - something I have not really done.\n\nGo on CraigsList.com and look in their casual encounters personals at all the straight, bi or curious men on there... men seeking couples, strap-ons, shemales, dominance, or one-one-one encounters for giving oral or those who are 'bottom' men seeking to lose their 'virginity' with another guy.  On MySpace, there are a high percentage of male profiles that do not state their orientation as straight, so they are hiding something, otherwise any real completely straight guy would undoubtedly make sure they checked that box.  In the singles scene today, women are frustrated that so many men express their curious side to them... each year bisexuality becomes more vast.  Kinsey believed most all humans were  bisexual or had the capacity... in his 'controversial' research using the famous Kinsey Scale, very few fell in the 0 or 6 categories... most fell in the 1-5 areas.\n\nIn summary, I believe most men DO indeed have a bi-curious side to them, but are afraid to let that surface for fear of public immasculation from th
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Greg I would like to admit being ashamed of it but am not because women do it as well. Maybe not in front of guys but we all have a certain type that we find sexually appealing. Nothing to do with race but attraction. I could give you a rundown of opinions of different races and men but I'll be offending so many people.
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I don't think that is the case. i think you just notice white females with black males more often the single race couples. Everyone has a prefrence, but you can't help who you fall in love with, or who you are sexually attracted to.
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Black guys are better endowed (they have a big penis) lol
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To answer the first question, I think that the reason black men are not underestimated-especially in today's society is because they feel determined to prove themselves to NOT be the white person's stereotype.  It is not uncommon to see a black man with more determination and drive to succeed than his white counterparts.  \nI dont understand the second question... a little clarification?
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Really dude couldn't tell ya that...but I know white women are good *IN* bed...*ON* bed I am not too sure about....
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Yes!But they are hard to find.Listen up to all the black men who don't know how to treat a black woman.If you cant treat her right then leave her alone,because if this keeps hapening they gone end up tuning on our azz's.That's why so many go for white men because they approach you better,and they treat you better.So be a man a treat a sista right,not a sister and sista.Which menans black woman!
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Gosh, now that you mention it , it seems to be true, and as far as oriental men are concern... they too have huge tools as white or black men... it is still the same with all other guys ...be it white, black or oriental guys.... all have a different size of the tools... Oriental guys most probably are more conservative in their culture and maybe that is why they are missing from the mags.... The oriental guys may be small in sizes but believe me... they have huge tools too....
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That a majority if not all African American males are LAZY!\nThat's SO NOT TRUE!
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Speaking as a Black female I think there is a very strong double standard in our (African-American) culture.  Black men will date a white female in a New York minute, but cry foul the minute they see us with a white or any other man.  We tend to get hassled more by other Blacks for dating outside of our race.  Also, many (not all) white men are raised to appreciate a more Euro centric standard of beauty (blonde hair, blue eyes, big boobs, skinny body, small butt, etc); in spite of the "browning" of America this beauty standard still dominates.   Black females don't fit into that particular beauty standard so I think it's hard for some (again some not all!) white men to see our beauty.  I also think it's hard because of the painful past that Black women have with white men.  When white men do approach us, some of us tend to be suspicious of them.  This is just my opinion for why you don't see more  Black females with white males.  If you're really serious about interracial dating, there are websites that are dedicated to this.
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i am an educated black woman and can not stand thuggish men.  they are disgusting to me and we have nothing in common.  i disagree w/your statement and think most (educated and classy)sistas like brothas w/class and education. you may just be focusing on a few examples of nice black woman w/thug wannabes. you may just be meeting the wrong type of women and going to the wrong kick it spots.