I have been seeing this man who is married, should i wait to see if he does what he says and leave his wife or
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Hers.\n\nMistress is one thing, but if this cat claims he's going to leave his wife for you, wait to see if he's true.\n\nThere's nothing more unattractive than a liar and a promise breaker. That was quite a promise he made. If he really wants you enough to make a promise like that, make him keep it!! Until then, no matter how sexy he is, don't let the sucker touch you!!
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He's using his kids as an excuse to stay in the marriage with his wife.\nIf he's been married for 3 years, despite the fact that he's not living with her, and the marriage is THAT bad, he would have gotten a divorce by now if he really feels strongly enough for you.\nI'd say, leave the guy.  He clearly doesn't know what he wants right now and if you try and get involved, you'll only get hurt.
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Why in the world would you agree to this?  If he is worth marrying he will wait and you should wait.\n\nResponding to youknowit below:  All the more reason to wait and have a nice wedding.
95590
Leave him...He needs to deal with his marriage before you and him can have a chance at a relationship.  Right now you are blocking his chance to try and work out his marriage.  By leaving him he will be forced to either make his marriage work or to get divorced and move on.  You deserve a guy who is dedicated to you and a relationship with only you.  If he can't do that then you should find someone who can.
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You'll either have an affair or you won't.  If you do have the affair, I can promise you that no good will come of it but this may be a lesson that you need to learn on your own.  Your private life will be based on lies that you'll be required to tell and keep up with in order to maintain the affair.  And if he's cheating on his wife with you, you're probably not the first and probably not even the only mistress.  This man is not monogamous.
1180370
Leave his @$$. He is cheating. That's why I left my husband and I am doing much better.
192559
If your husband had the opportunity to see his first love again, would that be ok with you? If not, then no I don't think you should see this man. If you wouldn't mind if your husband did it, then I would talk to him first. And if you see him again, don't do anything that you wouldn't do if your husband was standing there with you.
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go to him and say sorry .. what if later on he shows up the same way u did and does the same to ur wife ?
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when u do see him b a wife
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Don't guess if he's married or not.  Find out for sure.  Do not pursue anything until you do this.  Drop it immediately if he is.
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Ask his wife if in doubt....K
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well fist off he may have realized what he did to his wife was wrong. that should have been enough to send him running from your cheating ass! you both are dirty rotten cheating ass*holes. your spouses are to good for you guys. go home and treat the man you married better.
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about a zillion to one. Married men never leave their wives. You are allowing him to have his cake and eat it too if you are cheating with him.  Just remember he is getting something from you that his wife is not giving him.  If he would cheat with you on her what makes you think you are so special that he would not do the same to you if in fact he did leave his wife? How would you like to be his wife. Just remember what what comes around goes around. Never date a married man. That is so wrong. They will tell you anything your little heart desires in order to get laid. Trust me I know.  That is wrong on so many levels.
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I would bring it up with him. You are already living together which is a huge part of marriage and so what's the holdup?
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My opnion is I think you should tell her. What if she doesn't know...what if she doesn't think her husband is a cheat? I mean, I didn't. I had no idea until he told me. I'm glad I found out.\nYou have to follow your heart and choose what you feel is right.\nBut remember if this was you and your husband had a side dish, would you want to know?
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Don't wait around.  Take charge yourself. He may not be thinking along the same wavelengths as you.  I respect someone who can be direct.
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If I were you, why struggle with who you're going to believe and just get away from the drama.  What was his reaction?  \n\nIf he's not divorced, he's still married and you don't want to be strung along thinking that it may happen.  If he still wants you, he'll get it done quick and then the two of you can carry on, but until that's done, don't be the one waiting for it to happen.  \n\nGood Luck!