my ex husband mom passed away last night and my ex is out of control really worried any advice??
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Just because he's your ex doesn't give any reason for you to not be hurt or be concerned. Have you tried talking or consoling him yet? Maybe all differences should be set aside for a moment and you try to help. I mean you were married so at some point you guys loved each other. Im sure there were times when he was there for you and you him , maybe you know him well enough that you can help him deal now, u kno? Good Luck
282603
Talk to the people at ALANON.  They will put you in touch with an appropriate grief counsellor who has dealt with this before.
204525
It is a natural as birth, I my father died two years ago. He had a maintainable decease Ulcerative colitis. But at 72 he was tired of living. He felt he had done what he was put here to do and there was no talking him out of it. They put him on painkillers and sent him home. He died six months later. It's tempting to say "lost", but this isn't the case in reality. Those who pass over are ever present in our lives. At times you will even hear them speak when you are having troubles. Right now your mother in law is in a safe place and at peace. There is no time, no pain, there is no fear or suffering. Better by far than the place where we live today. If you look ahead I know it sounds far fetched, but you will see her again soon. Time isn't what you think it is.. So waste non of it. 20 years from now this will make even more sense.
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so sorry about your mom .was there an autopsy done on her?if you know the people she was with ask them what went on if you cant get a straight answer go to the police tell them you feel something isnt right about your moms death give names if you no who she was with .just keeping digging for answers sooner or later some one will let it out as to what happened.
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I can't give you advice on what to do with your mother, but what I can do is tell you that to loose a child is the most horrific thing a mother will ever have to go through. It rips your soul apart from the inside out. It has taken me two and a half years to start putting the pieces back together and be normal again. It is a long healing process, that is different for everyone. I do feel sorry for your situation. I don't know all of the dynamics and I'm sure you have your own grief over your brothers untimely death. But just try to picture how you would feel if you were to loose your child. It does sound like you care and are just not knowing what to do, so talk it over with other family and let them be involved also. The loss of a child though messes anyone up!!!!! I've seen alot of people go through this since loosing my daughter. Hang in there and give your baby a big hug, I'll keep you in my prayers.
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Maybe nothing. Since he's been treating you like this, I don't think any word you say would carry any weight. He just won't listen or care. Try to bury the past in your heart along with your grief and hurt. It will take you a while to heal, but you will be fine. THis man is long gone, even though he's still around. I just hope that this experience will make you a stronger and more loving woman. Best wishes to you and your children.
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That's a tough situation and I'm so sorry for your loss. You should definitely talk openly about this with other family members and friends. You should also consider seeing your doctor for depression. Since you can't bring your mom back, try to focus on how to celebrate her. Put together a memorial with her pictures, hobbies and guest speakers. Did she have any dreams? Live out some of her fantasies for her. Feel her passion and feel her spirit inside you. The mourning period needs some closure so you can move on with your life. Try talking with more people like teachers, counselors, and even strangers. Cry a lot. Also...go ahead and talk to your mom. Ask her for advice and let your heart guide you. But don't ever give up!
712576
LOL @ Pagan.\n\nI'm sorry you are stressed but you did bring this on yourself. Pray will do nothing. Take responsibility for your actions, keep your legs closed and be the best mother you can for your children. You are your own strength
242491
I'm sorry for your loss.  It's going to take some time to get yourself back to feeling normal again.  You should keep yourself busy with activities, visit with your friends, try a grieving support group, take up a hobby, find things that interests you, talk to a good friend or someone you haven't seen in a while.
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I too have lost my mom and it is hard especially when it came to routines.  Try honoring her in a small way everyday.  Maybe it is listening to her favorite song on the car ride home or going for a walk when you get home to clear your mind.  Writing a journal is also a good way to help work through your grief.  It's hard and things will not be the same.  It will take time for you to get used to her being gone but that does not mean she is forgotten or that you do not think about her.  I still after 7 years think about her quite often.  As time has past the memories have become less painful and truly a blessing.  \n\nAlso think about joining a grief group, plan something fun with friends or your husband (if your married).  Getting out and trying new things will help make this difficult time a little less overwhelming and you will not feel so lonely.  \n\nMotherless Daughters was a book that I read that sort help me work through everything.
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kill her and hide the body!!! LOL just kidding, it is hard, the best thing you can do is have your husband talk to his mom, other than that you are sol. it is a funky little sitch because if he is not ready to cut the strings and you push him he will hold it against you, stupid i know but that is how it is. if you say anything to the mom she can easily manipulate it to drive a wedge between you two. only move if you have to for a job or something, because the phone can easily still work no matter where you go. so have your hubby talk to her first, then maybe sit down as a family to work out some rules or something. good luck on this sticky wicket!
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I am so sorry to hear about your mom. my mom pass away not long ago so  I know your pain, I can tell you that you never stop missing her and it's hard around the holidays. I will pray for you that God comforts you doing your time of sorrow. he already has your mom and although you miss her and still need her she is pain free and in a better place.
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Sweetheart you have more than shown love and respect for your husband...feel free to start living YOUR LIFE again.. but be smart..you can go on living and still be in control of who, what when and where you will do what you do!!\n\nSorry to learn of your loss, I lost a son 8 years ago and can sympathize with you and your sons tremendous loss..
854669
Yeah, I understand, hon.  It's tough to lose a dad. I lost my dad when I was 24, and it wasn't easy for me either.  Was your dad ill, or was his death sudden?  We don't know why God chooses his special people to be with Him, but know that wherever he is, your dad is watching over you, protecting you from harm, and loving you.  Meantime, talk things over with your mom, and your brothers and sisters if you have any, or even your friends.  Talking about the good times you had with your dad really helps.  In time, the pain will be a lot less, and you'll just be left with good memories.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Good luck and God Bless!
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I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
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Go back to your therapist. Also look for a single-mom support group near you or online, (email me if u want!) Trust me girl I know from the bottom of my heart. My ex husband ASKED me for a divorce while i was in school. But I pulled through, we struggle every day but I thank God for my true friends that have held me up. If you are suicidal you definitely need to talk to someone. Biggest thing you can do is make it an absolute priority to take time for yourself. Put the baby to bed a half hour earlier and go take a bath, turn on a workout video, chick-flick, whatever, have a glass of wine, paint your toenails...anything you want as long as its just for YOU. Remember a happy mom makes a happy kid...NOT the other way around.
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I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.