what do you do when you catch your husband cheating with your mum?
449745
Go and cheat with his dad.
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
484134
Talk to Dad first if you find out hes having sex with another woman.  Find out what is going on.  Than if need to go to mom.
151641
If he has shown no repentance you can seperate yourself from him for a while. But if you have no proof you need to be very careful. If you suspect he has done this there are probably other deceitful things going on as well that feed the suspicion. If he has not admitted it you need to focus more on the things that you do know and search yourself for you wrongdoings as well. Ask him if you have wronged him in a way that has made him pull away from you. I highly suggest the book "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. This book has been a marriage saver for many. \n\nIf in fact your husband has been outside of the marriage you have the right to divorce. But Jesus wants us to try to make it work anyway. If we can show forgiveness in that sort of situation then we can begin to understand the forgiveness he has for us.\n\nAre there children involved? You kids are learning how to treat people and handle situations based on how you and your husband do these things. Pretend for a moment that your daughter was in the situation you are in now. What would you advise her to do? Or maybe even pretend that your daughter in law came to you with the suspicion that your son was cheating on her. What would you advice your daughter inlaw do do about your son? Looking at it like this helps put things in perspective. \n\nAlso the most important thing to do is PRAY. Ask God for guidance. Try to pray with your husband. I will pray for you now.\n\nDear Heavenly Father,\n\nLord I bring this situation to you in humble prayer and inquisition. May you shine a light here in the darkness. May you guide this woman on what to do. Let her hear your words and obey. I pray that you convict her husband and bring him to repentance. May this couple see the significance their marriage has. And how marriage is a holy union to represent the Christ/Church relationship. May you wipe away the tears and give strength here. Lord let us remember the forgiveness you have as well as the wrath. Bless this womans search and may her efforts be pleasing in your sight. In Jesus's name. Amen
239030
catch my man red handed if he cheats on me
524060
Leave her alone, let your son and future daughter in law get on with their lives. If she is having an affair, that is really your son's problem. If he's asked for you to snoop, then tell him that one should never marry a person they cant trust.
306810
sorry to hear about your case. You are like holding every breath you take and not letting any of the air out. Like you said, you man does everything right in the house and is a good father, just a bad husband. You want to sentence him to death on one hand, but on the other side he does not deserve the sentence of death.\nSo what should you do?\nAs a guy, i hate your husband because he has two face. For what you can do is use the website below. What it does is letting you know everything that your husband is doing on the computer. If he really cheats again, you have everything on paper. In black and write. Now, the question is about your kid. If your kid is a boy, he has a bad father to learn from. \nIf it really comes to divorce, so be it. You should not be sleeping with a guy that cheats on you every night for the rest of your life. \nPlus your son can learn from his father mistake and learn how to treat other women respectfully in the future.\n\nBut...but... if you want to give you husband one more chance, it is okay to. Once you know what he is senting on the computer. Tell him that you are take your son and yourself away. And You will be seeing him in court/lawyer office about divorce. But you don't want him to know about you knowing what he has been doing in the computer. That is you best card in hand for court in the future if you do decide to leave him.\nIf he comes back to you, he has to prove it. Give him a month time. See how much he loves you. See how many time he calls. See how much he is willing to do for you to get you back. \nRemember you are worry about your son, but you need to care about yourself too. \nMy friend live with her mother after her parent separated. She know what kind of dad she has and hated him. Her mom is doing find.\nI am not scarying you, i just want you to know you child will understand. You need to know if you husband is still the right man for you. If not...then he has to go.\nIf he is, then he stays.\nGood luck
502442
leave it and dont dig up potential trouble for yourself - you are a grown woman (i think ) and don't have to answer to her who you have sex with she aint your mum
697982
Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)
898909
You need to talk to her.  You should demand that she stop cheating on your brother or you need to tell him.  It's not fair for him to live his life oblivious to her actions.  I wonder if she's thought of it like this---She's not just cheating on her husband, but on her family and yes, that does include her children.  \n\nPersonally, I don't know how you've kept from kicking her butt--unless of course, you don't like your brother.  \n\nGood luck with this one.
67927
Yes, you need to think, if your husband was cheating on you, how would you feel if your sister knew and didn't tell you.  You need to have enough evidence to prove that you are right about the accusations so that you aren't saying something that is not true.  Then you sit them down and explain what you know.  They won't take it well, who would, but at least you kept them from being dragged down even more.
591168
In this case there isn't a clear-cut answer. A lot of it depends on your relationship with your mum and how old you are.\n\nIf you tell her, there is a very real risk in some cases of being outright forbidden to use the computer, use your mobile phone or meet people outside of school/college/work, if you're young enough.\n\nIf you don't tell her though, you might feel like you're hiding something from her and your boyfriend may have a problem with it. Though if the relationship got serious, she'd proberly figure out something is amiss eventually.\n\nIf he's met your mum before and made a good impression, it might be best to admit it only after they're met a few times. Otherwise she'll go into auto-'all men on the internet are perverts and rapists' mode. Though I imagine she'd still be angry either way.
70159
No, don't tell your friend. The cheating problem is between the dad and his wife. No, I don't think I would confront a parent either; they already know right from wrong and a child is not going to change their behavior.
1012780
The two of them seem to be related.  If it's true love with your mate, you probably don't have anyone to talk to, and you need to talk to someone about your mom's affair.
880333
There are probably books on the topic in the self-help/psychology section of your local bookstore, but why waste the money?  The answer is simple: if your husband can't put you and your marriage before his mother, you need some serious counseling.  you know, I totally love my mom and we hang out a lot and everything, but now that I'm grown up and in a relationship, that relationship has to come first!!  Your husband should know that too, and so should his mom.  Shame on her for allowing her son to be such a mama's boy and ignore his wife's best interests.  Your first step is to try to have a sit-down conversation about it with your husband.  If he resists, an ultimatum may be in order: either he prioritizes you first, or you're separating.  Just don't try to get him to stop seeing his mom altogether, because that would never work, especially if they're so close, as they apparently are.
258425
FEEL MESSED UP! BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO. just hope that she don't find out and please don't get serious with him, he going to cheat on you just like how he is cheating on her with you.
526372
You got married.  Either side with you husband or let him go.  If you want to live with your mother for the rest of your life that's your business but if you love your husband, don't subject him to it.  Let him go.  He's probably hating life right now.