If my husband's ex-wife's  new husband threatens him, what can he do?
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Absolutely. Call the police asap.
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I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.
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to run away and find a new job ... that is not the best idea   but  she must faced and tell him No More playing with her feeling and she must put limits for him ( business relations and communication )  and threaten him  that she will tell  his wife and kids about every thing - i hope it will not reach this point -
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Start out by reporting her for disturbing the peace. Do it every time she starts screaming at you. If they won't come out and do anything about it, this is what you do. Go to the Police Dept during regular business hours and file a complaint regarding lack of response on your problem. Tell them that you feel threatened by this woman. Keep a journal of every time you call and everything she does. Write down dates and times for everything. After you have several calls down and several incidents recorded, go to your city or county courthouse and ask the clerk of court about filing for a protection order. A protection order says that she can no longer attempt to communicate with you in any way. She can still yell at your husband or guests, but not you. Once you are at that level, go to your apartment managers again with copies of all this information. Still can't get rid of her? Take your info to an attorney for civil matters. You may have a nice case for a lawsuit. You may also want to have your husband file for a protection order as well. Hopefully you get a good repsonse from the police and she starts getting tickets for disturbing the peace. Do you know her name? You can check with the county courthouse and get her criminal record if she has one. Check with them and see what they will charge you for the information. In my area it's ten dollars for anybody's info. Build up and save your evidence and you should see her going bye bye, before long. If I can be of any further assistance, let me know.
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Wow, that's pretty messy.\nYes, a man with a kid is a package deal.  Unfortunately, the ex is part of that package.\nWhat is more unfortunate, though, is that this woman has him so tightly by the... ummmmm..... belt buckle?\nYou should not have to subject yourself to any such disappointment.  My recommendation is to have your man have some boundaries set IN COURT, because this woman has no right to give ANYone the boot, or to inspect ANYthing.  If it's YOUR house she wants to inspect, then she can do it while you're there, or not do it at ALL.  Actually, you should feel no inclination whatsoever to even ALLOW that sort of thing to happen.\nAs for your social life and appointments, you have your own life to live.  With or without a partner, with or without your boyfriend, and with or without his ex-wife's dictation.  If he's so worried about it, then he can tweak HIS schedule to work around her.  NO, it is NOT your responsibility.  Neither is it your problem, nor your fault.\nThe bad news is that if you can't live your life this way, then maybe you just need to cut it while you can, because until he decides to stand up for himself and take it to a judge, he is no better than a child himself.  Which makes it difficult to see a lifelong commitment, does it not?\nDo what you must, but I think you should tell him you shouldn't have to your life on hold for his ex-wife & her BS, and if he's not willing to realize that you needn't and you WON'T, then not only will he find himself fixing his schedule to fit, but will fix his schedule WITHOUT YOU indefinitely.\n\nOH!  I missed the preventing me from seeing my kid thing!  Yeah, that's crap.  You tell him, "No, YOU have just as much capability to do these things as I do.  It may be convenient for YOU when I pick up the slack, but it would be just as convenient for ME if you would do it yourself.  It is, after all, your responsibility." \nGirl, I think you just need to cut it, but that's just me.
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to be honest w/ you. the best thing to do is just move away and live some where else due to his threats. he maybe trying to scare you. but you can never be sure. as far as his last name. you can use yours. but be warned if you take him to court over child support. the judge may order the name changed to his if the father ask for it.but as far as his family there. you have the right to say who is allowed in there. you don't have to allow his family there if you don't want them there.
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Your husband has a good chance of going for a night or two and maybe having a hefty fine too.  It doesn't matter that your husband was hit with a rock first, it is still assault because self defense can not be claimed if you retaliate with more force than is necessary to defend yourself.  Your neighbor will face legal action too though.  If you and your neighbor mutually agree to drop charges then you will both walk away with no action, but chances are that he won't drop charges if you and your husband are wishing to press charges against him... it is a sad fact of how our legal system works.  I can honestly say I would have done the same thing in your husband's shoes, but I'm sorry to bring you this unfortunate reality.
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Be supportive. If you attack him (verbally or any other way) you put her in the position of defending him. It happens every time. \n\nThe first two years of a baby's life is the hardest on a marriage (statistically) and when the most divorces happen. I think your hands are tied and all you can do is let it play out, and be there when it ends to pick up the pieces. \n\nWho knows .. maybe they will get some sort of help and be able to work it out. She has to decide for herself.
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File a harassment suit against them, and tresspassing too.  If you threaten someone's pocketbook you usually get results.
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Be nice to her, but you don't have to be friends.\nHer Ex is YOUR husband and not hers anymore.\nWhy is she still hanging around?\nShe is intruding on on your marriage.\nKeep her at a distance and ask your husband\nwhy he still needs her?\nBe civil and polite but do not make her to comfortable\nin your` life.\nThe things she said to you and about you to others\nare still in her head. Even if she has apologized, she \nshould get her own life and let the two of get on with yours.
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Ex-husband or boyfriend? If he has no legal claim over the house call the cops. If he does then leaving with your kids sounds like the only reasonable option.
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Notify the police and have a protection order written against him.  A women's group can do this for you too.  A piece of paper will not stop a man.  You may have to get an answering machine or change your phone number.  Lock your doors.
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First of all you don't mention your age but one must assume that you are over 18 at least. Is this child from him or from another man? Don't bother with a restraining order because they are only as good a the law enforcement in your town. There have been a number of women killed by boyfriends after they have a restraining order placed. Take No. 2's advise. Get the heck out of Dodge or where ever you live and do it quick. Don't let anyone know where you are that can tell HIM! It is for your safty as well as that of your daughter. The man is a psyciopath and you should make a report to the local police before you leave. It is a crime to threaten someone else with bodily injury. Not to mention that he has said that he will will have your daughter KILLED. At least the law enforcement will be on the look out. Once you have moved away use your mothers maiden name because you can do that legaly. Don't list your phone number either. Just initials and no address. If it were me I'd move to a different state. I would put as much distence between him and me as I could. It may be hard at first but you will be alive and well. If you stay it may take him months to do what he says he is going to do but trust me he will eventually do it and then it will be too late. Men that talk that way usually do so to intimidate, but then they need more power over you and they start to do things physicaly to the people they say they will hurt. Talk to the law or the DA in your town and they may be able to give you more advise. No matter weather you take my advise or theirs PLEASE take your own advise and get out of there. Hope this helps and may God watch over you and your daughter. Be Safe If you need to talk to someone email me at Whilemom47@yahoo.com
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they are behind the husband and don't let him breath, try to get involve in common things. if you don't like his stuff, that's the answer of your question\n\n:> peace\n.
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She is using her own chilrden to get back at you.  For some reason, people do that.\n  If the new guy is spending the night, call your lawyer.  I know in my state, she'd loose custody read quick for allowing another man to spend the night, even after the divorce is finalized.  If they're not married, then he shouldn't do any over night stays.
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BEFORE YOU READ THIS,  You accept that I am just giving my opinion, and NOT giving legal advice, else you should NOT read further.  You agree not to act on my opinions stated herein, and seek the council of a legal professional when ultimately making a decision to act.\n\nREVISED.  He has children with your sister?  She is an idiot for allowing him to be a deadbeat.  And he is a lowlife, but not the only lowlife in the world.  They are all over the place.  So...What are you going to do? I feel for you and your situation. I understand how difficult it might be to move, but what choice do you have?  You have to consider your own well being.  If the house belongs to your family, and you sister seems to be in control of the house.  AND chooses to allow him to stay, then what OTHER options are there?  Your sister has to do the kicking out.  You can do it, but it seems you are not in a position to defend yourself.  You need to bring in someone who can help, either law enforcement, or otherwise.  A rich friend or Strong Friend to Kick his A%% out of there.\nThat said...\n\nYOu didn't say who he threatened.  You?  If so, you really need to get out of there, even if you are not convinced he would cause you harm.  If someone says it, they are capable of acting on it.  You don't need to stay there, and yes if he said he would cause you bodily harm, you can call the authorities and have him charged for assault.  Sadly, the police don't and won't do much for you on this. The laws are set up to protect the guilty.  Without witness it is him agains you.  Remember that.  You are in a no win situation really.\n\nYour sister has made a choice to be with this person.\nYOU NEED TO MOVE OUT...\nWhat you do after that is up to you.(pressing charges for instance)\n\nIf you feel she is in danger , call the police.\nIf you feel her kids are in danger call Child Protective Services. (remember they can make someone's life miserable), so don't do that unless you truly feel the kids are in danger.\n\nIMPORTANTLY this is my opinion, and any ideas given here must be taken as such.  If you want real legal advise, you should consult with an attorney in your area of jusisdiction.\n\nYou don't like this guy, and it sounds like you have a good reason, but you NEED to remember, your sister has made the choice to have him there.  YOU can leave. You don't have to stay there, and even if it is an inconvenience, you move and find a more peaceful place to live.  Better for you in the end anyways.\n\nSOrry for you, but you chose to (OR NOT TO) live there.  Your sister is a big girl, let her make her own decisions.\nYou never stated her feelings about this.  Is she scared to kick him out?  Again, if so, she needs to get law enforcement involved.  Restraining orders are a start.  At least then if he shows up, he can be arrested.  This is not an easy situation.  You should try to find as much support as you can BEFORE making moves.\n\nI know this is to the point and a bit sharp, but those are the  real life choices you have to make.  Good luck and best wishes to you!\n\nMove out.
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I feel sorry for both you and your husband. Here is what I would do If I were in your situation:\n\nFirst of all you and your husband need to put up a united front. Once you set your rules and advise her of them, put your foot down.  If she chooses to disobey, then she must suffer the consequences, and if she calls the cops, have her bags packed ready and waiting by the door when they get there.\nAs for the ex, we all have to put up with them on behalf of the kids, but that does not mean that you hve to be a push over and let her destroy your marriage. Let her know where you stand.\nGood Luck.