Mother in law is psycho and stalking me plus hurting my daughters mentally?
441287
Your best bet, is to report her behavior to the police. For one, she is abusing everyone of you. Verbal abuse is taken very seriously, especially in connection with stalking. There is protection for your family in the form of anti-stalking laws. You really, really need to take her behavior very seriously. I have studied cases time and again, of homicides stemming from something as what most folks think as "simple" verbal abuse. Your children are in harms way right this minute. If you don't want to move, then you better get the law in on this. Give your children a break from this woman. ACT ASAp. I would also suggest that your husband not confront her. It will only add fuel to the fire and make it burn that much quicker.  PLEASE save your children.
960233
I try to keep my mother in law out of my relationship as much as possible,
637971
i think my mother in law is an alien
392281
Wow, I can only imagine how stressful this must be for you!\n\nI think that the psychiatrist will be able to give you some answers.  If there WAS sexual abuse the Dr. will be able to tell--even is she lies about it.  Psychiatrists are trained to deal w/ these situations.\n\nPlease don't feel that this is your fault.  And please don't let the stress overwhelm you.  \n\nBest wishes.\n\nEDITED TO ADD:  In light of your additional details, I'd definately encourage you to just go ahead and take her to the hospital.  DO NOT feel guilty.  And don't listen to her when she tells you she hates you or that you're a bad mother.  YOU'RE NOT. \n\nOK, straight up talk here:  It takes a **** of a lot of courage to be parent sometimes and this is one of those times.  You need to get help both for her and for yourself.  It will be hard and things will get really rough for a while but you deserve a normal life and she deserves to have the most normal life she can have too.  The longer you wait, the harder it'll be.\n\nTake care.
1164933
Get a lawyer - some will take your case & get payment from your husband plus attend some type pyschological counseling.  You  are being screwed here.   You are entitled to  spousal support; plus visitation.  File an OSC & ask attorney to go ex-parte to get  you temporary financial support until the hearing.\nYou can also fill out paperwork online if CA,,, use this website \nhttp://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/  \nChild needs counseling & when you go to court demand child get it.  No child has the right to pysically abuse their parent & you as her parent should not be penalized by losing your home or the other daughter.\nSeems husband is not doing right by you...  you need to get angry & start standing up for yourself &  your rights
248916
When you marry someone, you marry their family, like it or not.  Have you tried talking to your mother in law directly about the intrusiveness of her visits?  Perhaps explaining to her that you need some family time with just your wife (and kids?) will help her to understand and minimize her visits.  Do you ever visit her house?  Perhaps that's why she's always over at yours.\n\nInitiate a visit or dinner with your MIL - that will show your wife that you aren't rejecting her mother (btw - "getting rid of her" is the exact kind of wording that will get you into more hot water), but simply trying to maintain some family boundaries as well.\n\nGive a little and get a little.
853076
I'm sorry to hear this. Your daughter should not treat you this way. I believe she is blinded by her feelings for her husband that's why she is one sided. \n\nShe knows deep inside her where she stands and how her husband feels and she knows it is wrong ! but she would rather defend her husband rather than her own mother because of her "blind one sided love". \n\nYour daughter loves you but she sucks... ( I'm sorry ) she doesn't know how hurt a mother feels when feeling abandoned by her own child.. don't worry because your dauther will feel it if her own dauther will do it to her. \n\nI'll pray that God will give you enough courage to hold on to love your daugther despite what she had done and i hope she will realised that what is she doing is wrong.
904887
First of all, this isn't your fault it happened. And don't worry about your mother. YOU have to do what you need to do to help and take care of your own children. And if that means taking them to counseling or reporting them to the police-then do what you need to do!!! \nIt's up to you whether or not you report your son, but either way, I'd keep him away from your daughter. I would also seek counseling for your daughter if she isn't already. This is a very sad and sensitive issue. But she probably needs to talk to someone.  You may even need to talk to someone yourself. This must be terrible for you as well. I couldn't imagine going through something like this. It's always best to hear the victim out-and that is your daughter. Good luck in what ever you chose to do. You're in my thoughts.
185463
WOW...sounds like your daughter and son-in-law are very selfish people. I would give them a dose of their own medicine. You don't have to take that kind of disrespect from ANYONE. I would send your G-daughter a nice birthday card and leave it at that. They will surely run to you when they need something, but don't give in. Let them FEEL how they have made you feel.
883574
i really feel sorry for you sweety but your daughter seems to have made her mind up , i know its hard but just think you tried your best and its your daughter who is the spiteful one not you , try and enjoy the day best you can and spend it with other loved ones maybe when she gets older and her kids grow up she will realise the pain she gave you , hope you have a nice xmas and chin up hun xxx
205338
You need to protect yourself, and it seems you need to do it threw legal action. At this point she thinks she can walk all over you and you will do nothing about it. You need to show her that you are willing to what it takes to protect yourself and the kids. Good luck and don't take that crap.
809102
Wow. I'm not sure that anyone will really have an answer to all of that, but one thing to try for sure is going through the courts to find a good councellor for her. If that doesn't work, you could always consider a boot camp. My brother attended one after going through alot and putting my family through hell and back. He's a changed person because of it. If it comes down to her using your husband in one of her "plots", I would seek help from a paid professional. If she is lying to hurt you, there has to be something going on in her head that makes her think that it's ok to do. I hope this helps in any way.
912438
I  think  you  already know what you  have to do.     In  the  first place  how  do you know -besides  what she has told you -  that  her husband was abusive?      One  way or other, it is  absolutely clear to anybody with half a brain  the woman is using you ...   and  using  her  own  children as a   weapon  against you  if you  try to  stand up for yourself.    Well,   the ONLY  thing  possible  for you to do..  unless you want  to   stand there meekly  and let her destroy what should be the peace and  tranquility  of your and your husband's  lives -  is  take a  stand  and Tell  this selfish, self-centered, self-serving piece of  garbage  whom you so unfortunately  have as a daughter,  that  you have already done all -  and in fact  more -  than you have  the means to do..   She is;pulling one of the oldest  games in the book  with those who feel obliged to fall over backwards for her  because of blood relationship   .....emotional blackmail.... and you have  allowed yourselves to  fall for it hook, line, and sinker.    Enough  already.    You  can't   "save the world"  and   those are  HER children,  so you  cannot  be held  responsible for  them  either.      You  have  already allowed this outrageous situation  to go on  waaaaay  too long,  and the  very behaviour that you have  described,  defines her   exactly for what  she  really is....  a  mean,  selfish, ungrateful,  freeloading opportunist  who needs  to be made to  hit the road  before  she  succeeds in  ruining   your  and your husband's  lives,  and  your health.
1168703
speak to ur husband then get police involed......get her away from u she jealous and obbsessed
489450
Your wife caught you and her mother together, and that is why she took her life.  Don't you think you've provide enough uproar in your children's lives?  Do you really need to keep going down this road and make sure that your children are never able to have a happy home life and relationship of their own?  Do you really feel the need to make sure that your children spend the rest of their lives in therapy?  \nYou will never be a family again, their mother took her life as a result of your actions, she was their mother, and can not be replaced by their grandmother.  And subjecting them to the sick twisted relationship that you've gotten yourself involved in is not helping them.\nPersonally I hope someone in the family that you are now banished from, plucks up the idea of taking you to court and prove you an unfit parent and get those children away from you.  Your not mentally sound if you really truly believe that your wife has forgiven you.
652225
I FEEL SO BAD! Where's the time for you? I didn't see anything for you at all. I didn't see any counseling for yourself. My fiancee has ADHD also and I know how that part of what you're going through. We're not married yet, but it's taken quite a bit to get his mom to finally accept our relationship but, your mothers treatment is UNACCEPTABLE! You ever watch the Nanny on tv? She says a childs behavior is UNACCEPTABLE quite a bit. She's not a child (which would be more Acceptable) she should be showing you more respect. You can only do what you can handle. You're first priority is to yourself and your immediate family. Meaning you, your children and your spouse. Your husband needs to stand up to the plate. (as my fiancee finally did) He needs to back you when it comes to his mother. His first priority is with you and your children. He also needs to be helping you with the children and around the house as much as possible. Even though he doesn't work, you two need to have a night out once-in-awhile by yourselves. Maybe, you can talk to your mother-in-law about a limit of times to help her and she in return watches the children for you night out. By this I mean EQUAL TIME. As far as the bills, reality isn't that your mother-in-law is going to pay the bills. First off, I don't see if you're living with your mother-in-law but, if you are that's going to be a majority of the problem. Which getting your own place would be greatly advised. There are places that can help with deposits and financial resources. In all, it makes me believe you are living with your mother-in-law and that's going to be a very hard and stressful situation. My advise is to move. Your husband may be ADHD (so is my fiancee) but, he still needs to know he is to be responsible. Write down what he needs to do and try to involve the children in all the chores. Watch "The Nanny." Or go online if you can't get that show in. She helps not only the children but, the relationship with the parents towards how to keep everything together. You're not a work horse and no one should treat you according. Good Luck!
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Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)