if a wife hinders her husband's family members from getting in their house,should the husband divorce?
441168
Divorce is not always the answer but putting your foot down is sometimes the answer.
690450
you said my man. first of all there is a difference between your man and your husband. no man or woman has authority over another.  if he is your husband neither one of you need to be out all night..real late alone.  it poses a problem for the  marriage either way. you have to have an agreement and beable to live with the consequences.. however.. with the exception of safety and security reasons. .. there is no logical reason a man has a different curfew than his wife. go out together and you wont have that problem.
270311
you can destroy your two families if both parties are married. its not worth the risk. work on the marriage you have and you wont need to look elsewhere.
577026
it's her choice if she is uncomfortable with strangers in the house, I don't blame her. If they help while you are there with them then yeah it's fine but she shouldn't have to be there with strangers when you're not there. You may think you know these people but they may be thieves or rapist you can never be 100% sure, especially if they are desperate enough for money that they will do chores for you.
642941
I think their should be and was thinking about this the other day.There is to much bad that comes with divorce to put in with people who are trying to work on a marriage.
1104660
That would be a huge break of trust inside a family. The consequenses for the children, the parents - everybody. I do not think I'd go on living with my husbond if he did this to us. My sister - maybe. Maybe. It would depend on her alot - how she handled it.
826737
Your sisters are not your responsibility - the parents are the only ones responsible for them. I seriously believe your wife and yourself need to have your own place to develop your own relationship and grow your own family. Having extra women in the house will cause all sorts of problems & possibly kill your relationship. You are an adult now so you just need to say NO, you don't need to give a reason. Suggest your sister gets her own place and say you will look out for her to keep mum happy, but do not let other people move in.
219124
No way. Now if the family removes the sick step brother from the home, the child could safely go back. Make sure you report this to all authorities and keep you/or the child away from that step brother and press charges. He a rapist! I am so sorry.
1160703
She hasn't grown up yet, and you have.   If you can handle her, then stick to your plan, save your money and get out of there.  \n\nShe isn't going to change.  She will always want her husband to put her and her family first.  You are getting in the way of that just by being around.   \n\nDon't stop helping and paying for your part of things, this will help you to be able to walk away later not feeling like you owe her anything.   \n\nIf you can, plan to be out of the house or sleeping as much as possible when she is going to be home.  \n\nI hope that this helps.  I understand how hard it can be.  Best of luck.
1094588
I think they have a right to their opinion esp if it's their own house. The guy has to live with everyday. (If your just dating) but if your married give it up guys your pretty much screwed.
803616
I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
334122
Actually, you could start by leaving a married man to his wife and family.  Do you not have any morals?  Obviously, if he hasn't divorced his wife yet, he isn't going to for you.  You are a mere flousy trying to impersonate a lady and that doesn't fly with most women these days.  And, it really is a turn off for most men.  \n\nTo actually think you could get help with such a callous and disrespectful dilemma...I hope his wife finds out, divorces him and takes everything from him.  And don't think he will be standing on your doorstep because dear, you will be the reason he walks away from you!!!\n\nHave some respect for yourself and find yourself a single man whose life you don't have to destroy let alone his family too.
209471
My unknown friend, the practice of keeping in'laws at a distance is not SELFISHNESS! There are some in-laws whom if a closed relationship is kept with them, they help to spoil the home of the young... the tend to be rulers and leaders of the new home. In this cse, they must be kept at a distance. So, the married couple need a 100%of their privacy, meaning, no intervention from in-laws, wanting to dictate the norms of another.
856427
Not only will her family have social problems if word gets back home. But also, if her eventual husband finds out what she's done it's grounds for a divorce. The woman and her family are shuned. Some families endure prison sentances (the father). And, the woman cannot marry again.\n\nIt's really a stigma that can ruin a family. So, my advice if one does get freaky and you find out about it...keep our mouth shut!!
631226
Leave him, chances are you will be next This is how alot of domestice violence begins. \n\nBut call a family member and plan it ahead of time.
760078
Ex-husband or boyfriend? If he has no legal claim over the house call the cops. If he does then leaving with your kids sounds like the only reasonable option.
1140107
You and your husband don't seem to have any agreement on what is expected in your own home. You and he have created a new household, which is going to be blend of customs from his family and from yours. When there are clashes, they will usually be similar to what is going on with you right now. You feel that your husband's family "has no respect at all" and is lacking in manners, while they feel that you are stuck up and prissy, overly formal, cold, etc. You and your husband need to agree on the rules of this new household, and each bring his or her own side of the family into compliance with those rules.\n\nIt seems to me that you are overlooking the main problem here, which is that your husband "thinks it's ok" for his parents to so something that obviously makes you uncomfortable in YOUR own home. The point isn't whether "open house" or "knock first" is better or more correct. The point is that "knock first" is what you are used to, and that you feel you have no privacy. Your husband should support you in your preference for a "knock first" policy and insist that his parents support HIM in his efforts to make the marriage work through reasonable compromise.