what do women really want in a guy, i am a gentleman and that isn't getting me very far?
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At last I've found one gentleman.Can we talk..
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sorry im not a guy but generally it could be one of wo thingseither he wants you and is to scare to say guys are like bug puppy dogs they need nurturing...or he wants you to set him up...aski him if he wants you toi set him up and if he says no you know he probably means he wants you...worth a try babe x
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physically, i dont really care, they need to be humerous and make me feel special every day. they have to be honest and trustworthy. i dont think i ask  a lot and my guy has it all.
115304
Everyone is different!! I, being a man, is looking for someone who treats me with respect, hindness, and most of all is HONEST! the rest will fall into place!
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I think you need to find out what you want first in a guy.  Money, power, good looks, or just someone that makes you comfortable and happy.\n\nIf that doesn't work, just grab the next guy that comes along your way and train him to satisfy you...
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Every individual wants different things.  I'm in that age range so I can say that each of my friends and I all talk about different things we like in a man, so you can't bunch all women up into one group.  You have to take the time to get to know the woman you are interested in and learn about her desires, goals and interests, its the only real way to find out:  learn from the woman herself.
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I would be, I'm open minded, caring and generous.  Not trying to be a creep though.  Maybe what they are saying is that you need to meet someone genuine, not the "typical" guy who thinks of himself superior to women, and that a women's place is in the kitchen, stuff like that.  But rather a man that would treat you with the respect and understanding that your friends think you desrve.  Good luck on finding that special someone.
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You're the type of guy who seems to have all the qualities that really count. And when the right one comes along, she will LOVE you for them. And thats all that will matter.   I think mostly you're just going to have to believe in yourself and have faith that theres a woman out there for you...and be patient, thats a big key...and the lady who finally gives you a chance is going to love those qualities.  It seems physical appearance is halfway to mostly important right away...but its all those qualities you listed that matter once the relationship begins. Anyone worth your time will agree. \nSome ladies do have that bad boy attraction...but if you change yourself for that you may just miss a great one out there who wants someone like you and not a bad boy. \nWe like someone who can make us laugh, but doesn't have to try hard to do it...someone who does cute things for us - but not excessively..\nSomeone who CARES about her feelings and shows it by listening and trying to understand.. \n and being honest is big..dependable is big...all those qualities you have are key for a long term relationship. So once 'the one' finally comes along..  I believe your relationship will go far because if you're really how you said..those are the things that matter.   So just believe you're worth it...shes out there.\n\nby the way all those ASSHOLES who answered up above saying women just want money and you have to trick us...those are the losers who know women SO LITTLE that is why they are bitter and single. Don't listen to that CRAP
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what do you want to enjoy with a guy?  Whayever it is I am sure you will find someone to oblige.
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Hi AJ,\n\nThe most important things in any long term relationship are honesty, kindness, a good sense of humor and a willingness to be there during the good times as well as the bad.  That said, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is his smile and the way he carries himself, with confidence but not too cocky or over the top.  A guy who is clean, dressed appropriately and who has a pleasant demeanor and makes the first move conversationally will get my attention and that of most ladies out there.\n\nBTW: Any woman who would value a man for his wallet alone is in the same league as a man who values a woman solely for her looks, both types are players and ultimately bad news.\n\nGood luck and best wishes from bookyone :)
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I look for honesty and a person that has a good heart! I want to be able to laugh and have a good time anywhere we might be! I want a girl to be neat in appearence and clean looks isnt everything but I do want them to smell good and enjoy sex as much as I do when It comes to that point in our relationship!
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You poor man... I feel so sorry for you.\n\nIf you'd like you can look over how you meet women, for example:\n- Are trying to get to final base as soon as you meet them?\n- What is it that you're looking for in a woman?\n- What is it that she's looking for in a guy?\n- What do you both want to achieve?\n\nTry to communicate with her and take it easy (if you're going fast paced). In my opinion, just be your intelligent and interesting self (just like always), and you won't have any problems meeting any women. Try not to jump into bed with every woman you meet or be mean and cold to them, don't expect every woman to be open to the choice of getting to final base with you on the first date, you'll see that going slowly at times with patience and learning a little bit everyday about a woman (get to know her) will lead to a more meaningful, stronger and healthier relationship than you ever thought was possible :) Some women actually prefer to take slow and easy at first, and you won't believe by how shy and quiet they are at first that they might be passionate and wild-cats in the more intimate relationship. Don't judge them too fast and don't jump to conclusions, just let the relationship develop into something more meaningful without being intimate at first. Let her to trust you with her heart, body and soul, first. Give her a reason to stay with you and prove to her that you're not just after jumping down her pants. Let her see you for who you are and show her that shivalry and being a gentleman (going old-fashioned) is not necessary something to shunned upon.\n\nGood luck and take care :)
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A gentleman that treats me "well" and is fun. \n\nBeing a gentleman does not mean he can't be fun.\n\nS.S.
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Shouldn't a man also appear to be "hard to get"\nThis shows either you are a "Thinker" or there is a girl in your life who is making you feel weak for her. Well men and women are the same, both have feelings.. there is no need to make it difficult to get but it apprears so because females don wanna be friendly with all males. They think about their security. Men feel safe so they take the first step in a relation
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Guy:\n\nSomeone who is independent, enjoys and appreciates life genuinely. Someone who is secure with himself (not in the macho-sense, but in the self-accepting sense).\nSomeone who likes women. (Someone who doesn't see women as the ultimate goal to achieve and works to attain her, but rather takes delight in her as a person and chooses to be with her)\nSomeone who WILL not revolve his life around hers.\nSomeone who WILL not allow himself to be led by her.\n\nBottom line: A woman wants a man who can be the one to take her along for the ride and not the way around.\n\n^ If you need clarification to that last line, just ask.\n\nAnyhow, everything I described above is the source of attraction. That's why there's those people that seem to raise attention when they enter a room. \n.
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Lol, yeah anyways...\n\nPretty much the same thing chicks want in a guy.\n\nA fun and funny chick who knows how to be sexy and turn a guy on.  A girl who isn't needy or emotional, who has confidence and thinks highly of herself.  Who isn't clingy and gives you your space.  A girl who he can feel comfortable being himself around.  A girl who has a life, and has her shit together, and who doesn't take things so seriously that you can't live it up with each other one adventure after another...\n\nThe real trick is finding a guy who has HIS shit together.\n\n...Oh and, stop looking at me like that.  I'm taken.. ;)
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Be yourself and always act like gentleman but don't be a doter a woman doesn't want a guy who hovers over her!! YUCK!