(For Girls) Have you ever dated a guy with a controlling mother?
451053
I am married to a man who has one. It is sad.... e mail me and we can talk more lol\n\n\ncamsmomma2003@pldi.net
899696
I would say that there is an attachment issue here.  I think you need to discuss with him that it is ok to help and care for his mother, but he is overly excentric about it.  You need to tell him that you are really having a hard time dealing with this and you are going to have to let him go.  It is not heathly for either of you.
816988
My mum use to do this.\nIf my boyfriend called she's pick up another phone and listen in.  If she answered she'd tell him i was too busy to talk or not home.  If I rang him she'd keep coming up to me telling me to hurry up.  \nI don't think it's that she didn't like him but that she needed to feel she was in control of me.  (She's always been a bit like that) When we talk about it now (I've long since moved out and got married) She can justify her actions.  She still doesn't see that it was rude or inappropriate.\nI probably think living out of home is best for you at the moment.  It'll show her that you can make good choices and even if you don't it'll show her that you could pick up the pieces and were old enough to not be so dependant on her.
71940
OH YES. When I was dating my wife, she was living with her parents. I was there one night and her parents were in bed. We started in on the couch, and her mom walks in!
249087
She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
740825
I think that you should ask your mother if you can go on a chaporoned date. Have her come along and meet the guy. She might change her mind on your being able to date.
1121502
Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
1178239
Don't answer the calls.  He is obviously confused and reliant on his mother.  You want an independent guy, don't you?
518776
My Mom she has always been there to be protective, supportive, compassionate, loving and kind.  Even though I have an ongoing phone relationship with My Dad now, He was very abusive while I was growing up.  He refused to come to My High School Graduation, Wedding, doesn't know My Children,  and last but NOT least didn't attend His own Son's Funeral.  Guess I should have just said Mom.
112543
Yes I have. My ex husband called her mama.
194512
Well, lets examine the real issue here.  What is your relationship with your mom like?  Answer this, and then you will know the truth to your question.
378850
You may be right about him having Territorial issues. Just remain respectful, and hope that you can move out soon...\nHe doesn't have to like you, but I know it would make you more comfortable. However, you DO have to be respectful to him, to honor your mother.
151506
i don't see why not? i have dated alot of guys who had kids and i had no problems with the guy (regarding the child), the kid(s) or the baby mamas.there are boundries u dont cross where the child is concerned.i had no bad experiences, u got 2 know the child comes first its his priority.he's going 2 have to get child space and my dear dont forget he's going to have to be in contact with the child's mother.
208002
Assuming he is under the age of 18, you should accept it.  He is supposed to obey his mother.  Did you realize that the way he treats his mother is a very good indicator of how he will later treat his own wife?  You should be glad if he chooses to honor his mother.
595874
it depends on his relationship with his mom.
568726
It is very difficult for some women to grasp being both a mother and being "date-able".  They see themselves in a role and have a difficult time moving out of that role long enough to explore other parts of themselves.  Not to mention all of the other issues that come along with dating that make it such a difficult transition.  It is easier sometimes to stay in that safe role of being a parent and avoiding any possible rejection.
337532
I have.\nHe had the money and the looks was great but never had time for me.\n So i dated a guy that was great in showing me a good time out and giving me the attention i needed.