How do I get over someone I thought was "the one"?( but he's a total dog)?
304562
Find someone knew and get distracted.\n\nI know it sounds trite, but remember when your hampster (or other pet) would die and your parent's would buy you a new one to make you feel better? Well, it worked, didn't it?\n\nA new love will distract you from the pain while you heal. Next thing you know, you'll be over it.
699313
It doesn't sound like he was your everything if you were depressed even when you were around him. The best way to get over a guy is to let him go. Have one day where you cry and are depressed and eat cookie dough and let yoursself feel all the pain. He must not be your soul mate if he's treating you badly because your soul mate should never treat you badly. If you were constanly fighting, you weren't happy, and realtionships should make you happy. If sounds like you were simply codependant on this guy and you don't know what you're going to without him. It sounds like you need him and you need to realize that you don't. Hang out with your girl friends, reconnect with your family. Move on and stop sitting in your pity just because it's comfortable, you deserve to treat yourself better, and to find a person that will truly care for you.
121929
Hey girl, Now this is a big situation. I had the same thing happen to me. You have to think for your self is he the one? Or is he just a friend. If you decide he's just the one embrace it!
842281
I agree with the other posts. you are doing the right thing. The sooner you forget about him and move on, the better for you. You dont need his issues. His ex is most welcome to him. He sounds like a true loser. And I dont mean to insult on your taste in men. Hopefully this experience will make you stronger and wiser. Find a guy with morals and ethics. He deserves to be with you.
313337
Cut your losses and walk away.  This person is obviously in a committed relationship already.  Walk away and don't look back, move on and find someone single.  Try your best not to think or talk about this person.  Only time will get him out of your head, but DO NOT PERSUE HIM!  HE's TAKEN.
223538
you're lingering over old feelings and sometimes that's natural, especially if you felt really strongly for this person.  your best bet though is to move on and try to find some interests that will help you take your mind off of him.  wish you luck.
817026
Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
1136751
Well , i thought that i had met the one the first time . Of course , i was the only one of us that felt that way .I have been fool enough to let him break my heart over and over again since then. I think , that there might have been a time when he really cared about me. Maybe he still does care , but now i realize that we just are'nt meant to be together in that way. It's really sad though , because even now--> he's the only man that i would want to have been the 1!
611151
I think you may just be holding onto memories of the past and what you wished it could have been. Life is too short to dwell on just one person... he  seems to have moved on. IF he's yours and he's meant to be with you, then he'll come back at the right moment. If he's not, then just accept it. Life goes on. HOney, there's thousands of single people outhere who want a loving relationship.  You jsut have to get yourself out there and enjoy your life safely. THe right person will come along when you least expect it. Let him be, and all you can do is wish him well, and just hope for the best and be happy for him. Things happen for a reason. Maybe is best that you keep your distance from him until you have sorted your feelings out. Best wishes to you. GOd bless,\n\nLATINA
762749
Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
997150
Sweetheart.. you will never "get over" that one that you love... The only thing you can do is try to learn from your mistakes and move on.\n\nAs much as you loved him.. you must face the fact that he did not love you the same way............  if he did he wouldn't have been cheating on you.   You did the right thing by leaving, now be strong, hold your head up high and don't let someone hurt you again.   Right now you are like....... "what the fukk is going on"\n\nTake time to heal.. take time to remember.. take time to prepare...  never to go through this again..\n\nKisses and Hugs.... BE strong!
870044
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
939537
i have found the best way to get over someone is to think about them as though they have died.  that way you can keep the memories you have about the good times you had with him but accept there will be no more.  stay busy and go different places and do different things than you did when you were with him.   try very hard not to see him or hear about him.  it's a cliche but time does really heal and every day gets a little easier.  don't stay home and be sad now even though no guys measure up right now.  the next one who will measure up is out there and you won't meet him while you're at home feeling sad.  and once you meet him you'll wonder what you ever saw in the guy who made you sad.  good luck!!
839019
I think you've done the best anyone can do to try and open him up and if he isn't then get rid of him. He will regret having lost someone as nice and good as you and there's nothing that will change, because you deserve better than him and if he isn't willing to try than move on. Find someone who will love you back, has feelings and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated (which is very good, just so you know). Good Luck
1040629
HOW DO YOU GET OVER A BOYFRIEND DATE SOMEONE ESLE FOR A CHANGE.
970987
get over him by making your self feel better. by this i mean go out and buy all new clothes, get a sexy hair cut and make him look at you. some call this retail theropy! the best answer i can give you is try and be round people as much as possible. i just broke up with my boyfriend and now i live by myself and its very deppresing. and always remember never leave the one you love for the one you like coz the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
759523
Please listen to me.  This dude is gone; you are lucky that he is.  You are likely a loving a sweet girl.  You will never be able to forget him or what happened to you. MOVE ON and use this pain to motivate yourself; find some fun, some other friends, stop complaining and thinkabout your future.\nIt is difficult but the kind of guy you want is not this one.  You want to come home to someone who adores you and thinks only of you like you do him.  He is out there, and you will find him.\nHow to find him?  DO NOT LOOK, just be yourself and a friend will become something more.  Do not be anxious.\nWhen pain crosses your mind, think about something else, distract yourself; look toward the future.  Sweet one, life is just starting for you, and this pain is part of it.  Fight it and do not give in to it.