I have been married for 8 months and she ready to leave?
436209
dude, if she is  bitching about $ then she doesn't love you! Did she love you to begin with is the question? Did she marry you thinking you were rich i wonder. Did she marry you for convenience...? I have to wonder about that too....sorry man but if she loved you she would not care if she was on a deed or not and wouldn't honder you to get the house remodelled when you two cannot afford it and lastly....she SHOULD be helping with the bills......she wants her cake and eat it too.....Divorce her butt! Tell her to find another life and tell her " I love you but not enough to put up with crap baby...bye". IF you say that you will see a turn around. You will be calling her bluff sorta speak....hahha she will fumble over herself so fast...trust me. Just do what you want of course...but know if you two bring a kid into this world....it will only get worse. Take care dude and good luck........You deserve better.
534063
I am an indian gal living in US, though I am not sure if that adds much value to answering this question. It is difficult to answer this without knowing the length and problems of the marriage. \n\nTo start with, I dont mean to scare you but if she has left home and if she is independent, I am not sure if she will come back. If she (and here the indian thing might apply) left the house, I am sure she must be very frustrated with the relationship. You really have a lot of damage control to do. \n\nI am not sure of the details of the problem but I can give you a woman's perspective:\n\n1. Show actions (not just words) - change your ways with her. Women respond to supportive actions from a man.\n2. Listen to her problems and not defend yourself - she is not attacking you, she is merely stating the problem. Fix them if you are the reason.\n3. Pay attention to what she likes and dislikes. Maybe she said it before but you never paid attention to it. \n4. Go to counselling - its better to do it now than to do it later. I think, as indians, we tend not to look at this option but this really does help. If the relationship has reached this stage, you need this.\n\nIf both of you have been fighting for a while in the marriage, actually staying apart is actually a good option - it will help you figure out your feelings for each other. Anyway if she wants it, you will have to do it. \n\nFinally, I would say, for the next 11 months, treat the relationship as priority 1 else it will not work.\n\nFeel free to catch me on yahoo messenger if you would like to talk more details. Hope this helps and things work out for you.
109845
You should go away because her kids are not going to.If you cant accept her kids it will not work!!
978121
Looks like your trying to do what you can to make it work.  A relationship cannot work if only one person is trying.  Why don't you address her with your issues.  Tell her how you feel and what you want.  All the things that you put into the relationship your not getting out.  Communication is really the best thing you can do at this point.  Understand where you both are coming from.  You have to stand your ground.  If she still does not understand your concerns and thoughts let her know, it's either marriage counciling (or working things out on your own), or your gone.\n\nWell, I know leaving is very hard.  Just try to make it work.  If you love her and your kids, then staying with nothing changing can still be very heartbreaking.  Even if your at the bad end of this situation maybe take her to dinner for just the two of you and talk to her about it.  If you push it in her face with frustration she will push back with an "well I don't care" attitude.
173579
First of all, you need to step back and take a look at this situation. If she left you for another man after only 4 months of marriage, she wasn't as committed as you thought she was. It would be an embarrassment to you if you were to buy her a gift to get her to come back, and would be totally ruthless of her to accept it. If she wasn't committed enough to make it work after only 4 months, she isn't going to be any more committed if she were to come back home. I'm sorry to sound cruel, but I was in a marriage that ended because of my ex's infidelity. I tried to work it out with him, but he only broke my heart more by messing around with other women when he came back. My suggestion is that you should cut your losses, and let the divorce go through, and find a woman who TRUELY loves you unconditionally! Good Luck!
938922
Gently tell her what you told us.  You should not be forced to do what you're not ready for.  It's not like you're ruling it out - you're just not ready.
1160703
She hasn't grown up yet, and you have.   If you can handle her, then stick to your plan, save your money and get out of there.  \n\nShe isn't going to change.  She will always want her husband to put her and her family first.  You are getting in the way of that just by being around.   \n\nDon't stop helping and paying for your part of things, this will help you to be able to walk away later not feeling like you owe her anything.   \n\nIf you can, plan to be out of the house or sleeping as much as possible when she is going to be home.  \n\nI hope that this helps.  I understand how hard it can be.  Best of luck.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
388661
run away fast and don't look back,if you don't want this now then marriage is an oppressive life sentence and you will grow resentful and eventually that will cost you half of evrything you own, mental and emotional anguish and give you full responsibility for both tax debts regardless of any court order because the irs won't recognize it and the respct and friendship you have with her if you divorce, if she gives you an ultimatum leave and yes it will hurt when she leaves but it will hurt more to be manipulated into doing something you are not ready to do and you will find another and better lover soon enough, you should squash this talk now and don't give her false hopes to delude herself into thinking she will get you to propose
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
60391
Dint you realise whom are u getting married to in the first place and if not.. now if at all you want to separate and move away from your marriage then i believe you must be having a strong feeling of hatred towards her... if you do then why are you bothered about her mind and her not agreeing about things... just consult a lawyer and get your way cleared...\nBUT... if you are worried and bothered about her mental state then somewhere you still feel for her... get those feelings ahead and try to give yourself a second chance...\n\nRemember LIFE is NOT about quiting the tough tasks in your path... go around ... fight them .... Make situations turn ... Life then would be worth living...\n\nAlso dont forget...Once a looser always a looser... Be a fighter.. After all she's your wife and who would know more about her than you do... Tackle her in her own way...Humans do change... \n\nAnd moreover for a Wife, her Husbands love can definitely do the magic...
1009331
Looks like she wont be able to come then.  This is your wedding, the final descion that is made should be yours and your husbands.
1012185
Sounds like to me that she has already made up her mind.  Just pick up the pieces and help your children during this time. \n\nAnd in 2 years when she wants to come back..be happy and tell her no!
461970
Well, if you're willing to leave her and can manage on your own, or have someone who can help you, you can file for divorce. Only you know if the pain is worth the wife and what she offers. However, I think she's wrong to do this, and if she ever blames you, because of your condition or something, she married you like this. she knew what she was going to be going through.
500875
Your fine. Many get married much younger...and have babies. She is afraid of losing you. Afraid that you will suddenly disappear. It is called empty nest syndrone. Its common really. I imagine I'll get it too when my babies are ready to leave home. \nJust be calm and patient with her. Try not to add fuel to the fire by screaming back at her. One of you has to be the logical thinking one and right now she is running on emotions. Talk to her as much as you can about it and ask her to help plan not only your wedding but the other life arangemets as well. Moving...etc.\nBe calm and try to be happy.\nAnd tell her you love her offten..she really needs to hear it from you right now.
1157649
Sounds like you have some talking to do... and from that decide whether to 'take it' or leave it. However you are married now, and that is supposed to be for better or worse. As her husband, (now) its really up to you to support her emotionally as financially.
659700
she is bored with you and most likely cheating too. tell her to talk this out with you or else you want a divorce. you can find someone who appreciates you more. honey she ain't workin she is just workin it. get rid of her.