Should I leave my wife of 33years for another romantic woman?
453421
Not if you love your wife. If you are lacking romance in your marriage, or sex, then talk to your wife about it. Try to get her to understand your feelings about what you desire and see if the two of you can spice up your lives. There is a book called "The Everything Romance Book", it is a great, easy read and gives awesome suggestions on how to bring back romance to your life. Do you really want to ruin 33 years of memories and love with your wife to be with someone whom you are probably just attracted to because she is new?? I would talk to your wife and forget the other woman.
140321
If you really love your wife, you shouldn't love another woman.
632878
I have been married 27 years going on 28.  Ihave never cheated ad never will since my wife is my best friend and soulmate.  It may sound old fasioned but it works for us.
1161917
i think if its an abbusive relationship then they  should leave, but if u just leaving 2 b with some 1 else then u r wasting your time cuz the new person could always leave u and then u will regret it and it  will b 2 late 2 go back to your spouse u left.
128023
If being with another woman AND your husband is a fantasy of your then I say go ahead. If you are being told that you need to do this pr else I am leaving or whatever, then NO!\n\nEven if this is oyur fantasy you will need to very careful as you mentioned STD's, whackos and all the EMOTIONAL trauma this may cause. Finding the right third is the real issue, do not bring a stranger into your house.
239596
Consider that if you stay with her and get married a year or two down the road, you are going to be henpecked. Sooo...if you want to be happy, leave and find someone who respects you more than she does.
100142
That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.
432873
First off I can understand your frustrations but you must not betray your wife. To betray your wife would be an unforgivable act and the clock cannot be turned back. The only solution I can think of is for you to talk to your wife about your wants and needs and try and work out a plan together for how you can overcome this. Maybe an ultimatum is needed? I can see that you have obviously discussed this with her before with no result. I think you both need relationship counselling, if she refuses, you could go alone. \nI was once married to someone who wasn't affectionate and gradually our love disappeared to nothing. I was never unfaithful to him though. We finally split and as it happened it was the best thing that ever happened to me and i'm now with an ultra loving man.\nYou can't make any decision without at least trying your best to resolve your marital coldness. It isn't fair on your wife and it isn't fair on you or your families who will witness the aftermath. It could be the cause of much ugliness. Does your wife deserve this? \nIts worth remembering that all relationships set out in "luvvy duvvy" mode and even this new connection you have met will be more than willing to be loving in the early days but would things still be so cosy after a couple of years of reality living? Thats something you cannot foresee.\n\nGood luck :o)
191884
With the information you have provided, I'm really not sure you should propose.  You certainly shouldn't propose until she gets over this love of someone else...that is just begging for trouble and, if she gets the chance to get together with him in a month, a year, 5 years, will you then have an unfaithful wife?  It seems that she relies on you as a friend and that she loves you that way.  It may be that she will take you as a replacement for the one she really loves and I don't think you want or need that!  I know it is tough, heart breaking and demoralizing, but you need to look after yourself and what is best for you!  Don't settle for being second best.  You want someone who is devoted to you and loves you unconditionally.  Good luck making these tough decisions...they are probably the toughest ones you will ever make and will be life changing.
306746
First figure out what feelings these are you have and how strong.Second imagine yourself without the person who at one time (and probably still do)you loved with all your heart,(loved enough to make her your wife). If imagining her gone and with another man doesn't bother you, then I'd say "its over",but if it does BOTHER you-Then stay away from whatevers tempting you,and focus on yourself and your wife.
228239
No.  Think about this...\n\nShe was once in love with her husband, right?  But she's willing to cheat on her husband to be with you.  How long will it be before she is no longer in love with you and decides to find someone else?\n\nLeave her alone.  Find someone else who is 100% committed to you instead of someone in a committed relationship with someone else.
185458
It is clear that she is going to fast.  Maybe the two of you should spend a little time by yourself for awhile.  See other people and see how your feelings sort themselves out after another period of 62 years.
520641
..Hi ...If you are serious about that girl..and you are shure that it is not a midlife crisis..you should talk to your wife..And eather stay with her/ or choose that girl...You cannot have both...You should make a fresh start then...and live with the consequenties...Think it over..and make the right decisson for yourself! ...People can advice you..but it is up to you...\nKind regards...And good luck..
161068
Of course you can love them both.......But you will have to love one better than the other. You will have to make a choice sooner or later as to which you love better. I imagine you made wedding vows to your wife. Did you promise your coworker anything? Who did you make promises to first? Will you have to break your promises to one of them in order to continue loving the other? If you think you can love them both the same, you can't.
582012
It seems as if you have a very strong desire to remain faithful to your wife.  That is definitely a good starting point.  I would not, however, do as one person suggested and ask your wife to not bring this friend around anymore.  Doing that would only serve to justify (in your wife's mind) her fear that you may do something with her friend.  And, I would not have a sit-down conversation between the three of you either.  This route may make any already sticky situation far worse.  The fact of the matter is...this situation exists solely between you and your wife.  Having said that...here are a few suggestions.\n\nFirst, your wife seems to be at a point (emotionally) where she needs some very strong reassurances from you.  I believe this is where the two of you need to start.  Though you have not metioned how long the two of you have been together...I am assuming it has been quite some time.  The fact that you have children together only serves to lend credibility to this assumption.  I am going to go a step further and assume that because the two of you have been together for quite some time AND have children...the time that the two of you share intimately has decreased tremendously.  This is neither a bad thing...nor is it unusual.  Life has taken over and each of you spends more time tending to the responsibilities of life than you spend nurturing the bond that brought you to this point.\n\nIf the above assumptions are accurate...then I would suggest shifting gears a bit.  If your wife is, in fact, seeking some reassurances from you...I will tell you that the physical, mental, and emotional ones will go alot further than the verbal ones.  Yes, you have stated that she does not have to worry about what you may or may not do with her friend.  However, have you done anything physically, mentally, or emotionally that would serve to back-up your verbal statements?  If she is truly concerned about this issue...it may help if you let her see and feel your commitment to her in addition to hearing it from you.\n\nArrange for a night where the two of you are alone.  Bring her flowers, take her out for dinner (or actually make a dinner for the two of you), make her your sole focus for the evening, and let her know just how much you love and appreciate all that she is to you.  These are simple things to do.  Unfortunately, many people overlook the value in such simple things as the demands of life increase.  If you were to take the time to do the above stated things on a regular basis...I am sure you will find your wife's insecurity would diminish.  Good luck to both of you.
605790
stick with the 1st one, love is not disposable . if you go for the second then you hurt the first which it sounds like you dont want. are you too young to make the move to marriage because of age if so just wait until after your old enough. you'd be marrying him not the mother and after words tell her to mind her own business. later you may find the second one is not the one he seems to be.
470258
I will warn you now from being ther 'other woman'... you are setting yourself (and the prospecitve other woman) and your wife up for a LOT of heartache. I fell in love with a man that I can't have and it has destroyed my life (message me offline if you want to hear it). He calls his wife an ice cube and they have barely had any kind of intimate relationship in four years. I gave him love, affection and my soul only to have it destroyed. Could you honestly hurt anyone like this if it happened?? You have to think of all of the people that will become involved and it will more than likely turn into a big mess.\n\nThink seriously before you proceed.