why is it when you think you've found a nice guy he turns out to be a jerk?
448868
I personally think that he is a J-E-R-K! I totally agree with you and I think that you should talk to him about it and ask him why is he not calling, emailing (etc) you at all. I'm not saying straight-up break up with him but he needs to show that he actually loves you. If I saw him, I would tell him to be your boyfriend and not to just think he can coast along enjoying the benefits and not doing the love. I hope you find someone who will treat you like a queen and not a servant. -Cody
695120
A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
518348
Because he is a Jerk.  Get away from him and move on..
189800
A guy who is getting mad at you easily isn't worthy of you.  Find yourself a new guy who loves and respects you.
76696
Some guys are just so unsecure with themselfs that they put up a front. Some are shy etc etc etc etc. Then again some are just jerks that have to put on a show for their "friends" so they do not lose face. If a guy really wants you to be around, he'll do just that no matter what his "friends" think or do.
70488
I bet you've given in to some of those jerks too and let them in.  You know not all guys are like that, you see them everyday.  You just avoid talking to good guys b/c you love the attention you get from the rest.
1040131
Somewhat, but don't let that fool you. He's going to change no matter if you are mean or nice. But if he is just like the other guys, then this is what he will pull. Like for example, whatever he said to, you he'll say that you did the same thing to him, he use that excuse to make you feel guilty all the time. So, be careful on what you forgive, cause he will use that advantage.
13340
He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
1051851
why are jerks like you so stupid?
533944
don't get too excited..maybe he only thinks you are nice,that's all!maybe his strange actions means "SORRY FOR THE THINGS I'VE DONE LATELY"
26613
he teases you, but has those random moments of kindness\n\nhe does this because he doesn't know how to show you that he likes you, and is afraid that you don't like him back.
686195
a guy wants a good personality, humorous, nice. Being atracted to the person is always nice, but that is not always the way it works out.
147107
no, try not getting emotionally attached to jerks. anyone that makes you feel bad is not worth the time.
507432
I'd be very careful with him. First impressions are usually correct, and your first impression was the guy was a jerk.
1143958
Of course! People are usually on their best behavior until you really get to know them.  Sometimes they turn out to be really nice other times they can be really big jerks.
840675
he has no respect for you at all,imagine what he does when you are not around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he is the perfect jerk
521224
Because they are jerks!  They know not to mess with us when we are bitches.  I guess you'll just have to always be a bitch - then he'll always be nice.