My boyfriend doesn't want to get married.?
447741
I would have a serious conversation with him. It would be a shame to wait another 5 years just to hear again what you're hearing now. Why doesn't he want to marry you? I would think that the prospect of marrying the person you love would make you work harder towards your goals if you know that you will be married after. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If marriage and children are important to you then he needs to know. He may just be nervous about commitment, but if he really loves you he will need to face that fear. Im sorry but if he doesnt feel the same way then you need to move on. I know that will be painful but its better than wasting the next 5+ years of your life hoping he will change. If he agrees to marry you, make sure its really what he wants. You will be miserableif he married you because he felt he had no choice. Best of luck.
565587
i see that you want to have a more stable relationship and i don't blame u for that. \ni also wanted to marry when i was 17 and my bf 25. but we needed our parents' consent and they didn't agree. i have to tell you that now (when i'm 22) i realize that i'd have done a great mistake by marrying the guy then. i've met a lot of guys ever since and even though 'he' seemed to me the charming prince at that time, i realized that there were other guys much better than him.\nnow i don't even think about marriage, i want to enjoy life, cause all my life i'll be married. \nit's hard to be married i'm telling u. and you'll soon get bored of it and it's not like something you can give up like that. it concerns the rest of your life.
160953
Because you have been willing to do it without being married silly.  You have heard this millions of times but still you do it.  Here it goes again:  Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.  I cannot believe people (women mostly) who live with someone who won't marry them.  Ask why?  Is this person already married to someone somewhere else?  Is this person still waiting for "Ms Right"?  Do you have children?  Get some wedding invitations printed and show it to him( I figure its a male).  If he freaks out you should leave.  If he doesn't, get ready for a wedding.  Good luck.
663853
I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
927362
why does he have to wait longer?...is there something that he must wait for??? hes just not ready for commitment! hes scared! that's why he keeps putting it off! dont wait around forever if you see he isn't making any progress to try to marry you then you should kick him to the curb!
1008802
Well,maybe some time (sooner or later),he will change his mind.If he doesn't,why don't you get married and adopt a kid.It's human and he will have kids.
678557
I agree with just about everyone.  If he hasn't said it, either he doesn't feel it or he is afraid of committing to you.  Either way, if you want a committed relationship you should talk to him about it.  Saying that you love someone doesn't mean that you have to get married!  A year is plenty of time to know how you feel.  If it was something like a matter of weeks or months I'd say cool it and wait, but it has been too long.  He needs to tell you how he feels.
981752
Don't get married if you're not ready!  You don't have to be married to raise a child.\n\nAlso, I think you should seriously sit down and talk to your boyfriend about going home.  You're young, you're having your first child, and you need to be around your family.\n\nI really hope everything works out for you.
945794
6 years is a pretty long enough time to know whether or not you want to marry someone. I have observed from numerous relationships that guys keep some women dangling; and then they will meet one particular female that they just know right away that she won't be allowed to get away. I think you two need to have a real heart to heart talk, but in person. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult, especially being faithful; emotionally and physically. Be honest, tell each other how you feel.  I wonder if you guys seriously voiced your goals in the begining of your relationship. I'm guessing that you didn't expect to be waiting this long. Don't be afraid of speaking candidly, this is obviously making you uncomfortable as well. Life is way too short. Maybe there is some fear on his part that he hasn't expressed to you, something he thinks he would like to achieve before he settles down. It's good to have plans, but sticking to the exact order of those plans can cause you to miss out on some really great life altering blessings.  Ask him if something happened to you and caused you to not be available to him , if he would regret not taking that step to marriage. Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we no longer have it. Listen to his verbal and non-verbal responses. If you still don't feel confident and satisfied with the decision made you may end up waiting even longer. Are you willing to put your life on hold for someone who may just not be mature enough for that type of commitment any time soon?
836248
I would feel hesitant about marrying him. Sounds like "he just not that into you". But I hope that isn't the case.
1054186
Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
606493
First of all, religious differences are a major concern. If his religion forbids marrying out, you won't have a happy marriage as far as his parents go... Take that into SERIOUS consideration.\n\nNow the way he treats you, I mean, I know you love him but he really doesn't seem that interested in you. Why would he want to wait for five years? He thinks his parents will somehow approve of you in five years and now they just can't see the situation clearly?\n\nSend me a private message if you want to discuss this further. Just give this some really serious thought, marriage is forever and the last thing you need is a divorce a few months after getting married AFTER waiting years and years!
781492
OMG...all this for a boyfriend? How many boyfriends have you had? I suggest you work on securing your self and not make life decisions based on a non-commited relationship. Yes, non-commited. It really doesn't matter how much he says he cares. If you don't have that marriage certificate, it's a bad decision.
48670
I don't think so. I would never ever have done it in a million years. If he doesn't propose it is because he doesn't want it. If you want to get married discuss the topic,shop for rings,and discuss it some more,but in the end please leave this one to the guys ladies. I know we live in a world where women are more independent and go after exactly what they want but really I would hope that the guy you are with has enough intiative to tell the women he loves that he wants to marry her. Don't you think that in the back of your mind you would always wonder if he really wanted it and if he ever would have proposed had you not?Good luck!
1156251
Having a ring on your finger doesn't mean anything if he doesn't want to marry you than you can keep that ring on your finger for the next decade! You just said that your too young to marry than why should you worry yourself for having a ring? All that matter is that he is loving you and your relationship is healthy!! Why do you want to leave a guy whom you call great and loving!! Do not put this 4 yrs of relationship down the drain do not make that mistake than you may regret it later!!! Give him time he probably wants to make himself secure enough financially and career wise before to ask your hand in marriage!! And if its really bothering you than you should sit down with him and have a nice talk get it out of your system you will feel much better!!
1087549
those are just two excuses amongst probably many reasons why he doesn't want to be with you anymore. just let him go. he knows what he wants in a woman and you don't have it. There is nothing worse than trying to make something work with someone that doesn't want you.
407233
If he's not comfortable with it, don't force anything. He's probably against sex before marriage. Doing anything sexual if the other person is unwilling is sexual harassment or if you go all the way, RAPE. If you love him, wait for him.