What is the best way to control a childs anger?
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it realy depneds on why the child is  angry you need to find out why he so angry and reacts with anger there may be some thing deep in him or her  or  it may be the way you might be dealing with him or her, childern  will do any thing for attention,  weither it be nagitive or positive attention  if the child isnt getting anough possitive attention  they will act out in anger to any attention so think about how your dealing with him or her or if you might not be there for  your child anough  is there any thing going on in your famliy that might  trigger this anger, once youve done that if there is nothing you can figur out that might be causeing this behavor then if he  or she is not in any danger of him or her self  you might just need to let him or her go through it,  dont pay attention to the bad behavor,  but pay  attention to the possitive behavor praise him when he or she does good or behaves good there are also books out there that can help  to  it could just be the age of your child some behavors are normal  get a book  that tells you the stages  that a child gos through that will help also
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I find that depriving the toddler of something they love to do works.  Also, if he or she throws tantrums ignore them whilst you engage yourself in something really interesting that will grab thier attention.  Divert his attention to something else.  When he/she has calmed down give them a quiet talk about good and bad ways of doing things, and explain why you are upset with him/her.  Kids are clever and can be manipulative just like adults.  Good luck loving your toddler!
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First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
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It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
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have you tried going to  a karate school, this is a good way, as it helps you master self control.plus you can kick a punch bag and vent your emotions that way.  Or, go for a long walk examine in you mind why who and what is upseting you and figure out ways of preventingthem from happening again.
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There are several things that you can do. There are anger manangement classes and support groups. There is counseling. There is mediitation. There are hobbies such as karate, yoga and tia chi that help that also.Learn ways to reduce the stress and stress management.\n\nI know because my nickname used to be Taz.
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My best outcome for angry people is to just leave them alone until there feeling better ,then approach them with concern and kindness,they will be more open to you and apologize if they took their anger out on you...
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HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
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Try and get her into anger management, it can be very sucessful and make life so much better for all involved.
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grab a baseball bat and go to town on a tree (with a thick trunk - you won't hurt it).\n\nScream into a pillow or from atop a hill.\n\nLay down in bed on your belly and throw a full fledge temper tantrum.\n\ngo by some glasses from the dollar store and break them (someplace safe where you can clean up easily).\n\nOr go party for awhile and then sleep it off
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Beyond reframing the experience, the two anger management programs Lochman has worked on use three techniques to defuse anger once it develops. \n\nDistraction. "If you feel yourself start getting angry and recognize that it's a problem, you focus on something else, such as what you're doing later that day," Lochman says. The classic distraction, counting to 10, actually seems to work.\n\n\n"Self-talk" or "self-instruction" can be repeated silently, carrying a message like, "I'm going to keep cool, I won't let this person get me into trouble." Self-talk can act like a little recording, he adds. "We do role plays, they practice being taunted and teased." \n\n A limited version of relaxation technique. \n\nVR
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first i don't believe in all that  add crap find your child the right vitamins get this drink called Noni in the pure form give it to your child daily it will help him calm down instead of doping him up in the meantime the only way your boys will stop fighting is for you to discipline them and i don't mean just saying stop as parents we need to be more firm if the boys fight there should be a punishment immediately no debate at all say what you mean and mean what you say your children are a product of you  you allow them to fight  by not being stern you don't want to be a PAP ( punkassparent) your boys will grow up and take this very behavior public god forbid the law has to deal with them now  your are raising boys to be productive men not brats and don't use that damn ADD as an excuse it should not be used as a crutch to act up you figure out what form of discipline you can deal with and just do it teaching your boys how to love and respect each other teaches them how to act in life my source is my 10 and 9 year old sons and the NONI JUICE works my son has no sign of ADD at all
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Don't discipline her in using any way of violence. And don't abuse her either.\n\nOne good way to avoid future tantrums is to ignore them. Stay calm, lead her away from the aisle in the supermarket, take her on your arms. BUT ignore her. If she cried for a nothing, don't talk her or let her be on her own a bit.\n\nSome parents put their child in the naughty room when their child has a tantrum. It's basically just a quiet place with no toys, no TV, just a chair, etc. In there, she can cool down and you can pick her up again when all is over.\n\nIf that fails, distract her. Telling a child to smile will make a child smile and forget all their worries, a friend once told me. Try it.
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Don't reason with a student when they are angry. Give them two choices and set out the consequences of those choices.\n\nWhen they have calmed down you may be able to discuss the issues raised with them further or find out what caused the outburst.
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offer to sign her up for a kick boxing or tae bo class at the gym. Physical activity is a great way to let out anger. Or say let go for a run or walk, get out of the house and maybe talk with her to see what is going on with her.
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Short sessions - 5 minutes & walk away for 5 - 10 minutes.\nPatience.\nRepetative lessons.\nVisual aides - counting? lay out money on table to work with.\nMake sure he/she repeats back what you've said.\nMake eye contact.\nRemove distractions - pets, other kids, noise.\nNever show your frustration! This only tells the child he's a pain & not worthy of help.\nNo yelling or raising your voice. This cuts an ADD kid deeper than you'll ever know & sticks w/ them a long time!\nWhen you've finished a chapter, go back & do a quick refresher the next week. Just to cement the lesson.\nRemember, ADD kids have approximately a 5 minute attention span, so technically they only retain 40% of what you teach. If you think that's frustrating for you, think about how they feel!
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First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!