Can anybody tell me how to deal with a cousin who is pregnant?
437572
If you really care about your cousin, love her unconditionally. When you start putting conditions on love, it is not love. It would be great if you could concentrate on yourself : you are worried about what people will think about you. People will judge you by your actions, not the actions of your cousin. You have BOUNDARY problems. Try to accept all people as individuals.
815327
Be there for her. Listen to her when she complains, help her understand that its not her fault. Try not to make judgements on the family. Support her.
289533
HAVE YOU TRIED TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL!? LETTING GO IS NEVER EASY ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR AROUND ONE ANOTHER ALL THE TIME!! BUT, AS A WISE PERSON ONCE SAID, "WHAT DOESN'T KILL US WILL MAKE US STRONGER" AN I BELIEVE THIS TO BE TRUE! I THINK YOU OUGHT TO STOP SEEING EACH OTHER ALL TOGETHER UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN(SURE LET HIM COME TO DR. APPT. AN STUFF) BUT AS FAR AS SEEING ONE ANOTHER DON'T DO IT! THIS WAY IT WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME YOU NEED TO GET OVER HIM AN HE CAN STILL BE INVOLVED IN THE BABIES LIFE!!! AN THEN AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AN IF YOU STILL FEEL THE NEED TO BE AWAY FROM HIM THEN TELL HIM! THERE ARE MANY WAYS OF PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN WITHOUT HAVING TO BE AROUND ONE ANOTHER! I KNOW THIS CAN'T BE EASY FOR YOU(BEING PREGNANT) AN ALL!! BUT, I WISH YA THE BEST AN HOPE THAT MY ADVICE CAN BE SOME HELP TO YOU! IF YA WANT YOU CAN EMAIL ME AN I'LL TRY TO HELP ANYWAY I CAN!!!\n\n\nBEST OF LUCK!!!
353022
I would use google scholar (scholar.google.com) to find journal articles and medical texts detailing all the bad things that will happen to the fetus. \n\nShe has to make up her own mind - so you can only present her with the facts and hope that she will listen.\n\nExplain that you love her, and the sibling-to-be, and that you are concerned it will be harmed irreparably. Maybe get a stool and blanket and ashtray for the garage so that you have provided all the necessities to keep the fiance warm while he kills himself with carcinogens.\n\nPs - you're pretty smart and with it for a 15 year old...I hope you stay that way. *high fives*
931096
DO NOT TRUST THEM. I don't want to see your story in the paper! I don't want to get an Amber Alert on your baby. Keep him with you. If he wants to see his grandparents, go with him, meet them in a neutral place, and DO NOT leave him alone with them. You're being very smart to wonder about it. Be careful. And, of all times to need him close, it's at a family holiday like Thanksgiving. You need his company way worse than they do.
632028
Sometimes you find somebody that you just can't get along with.  You should understand that she is different and accept that she probably isn't going to change.  Try to find something that you both like so that your happiness will conquer the anger. Also, remember, just because she is your cousin and your mom enjoyed being with her little cousin, doesn't mean you have to!
822920
Keep taking your meds.  What you have been through would make anyone be down.  If you have a therapist call them and talk.  You need someone that you can  talk to that is not going to betray you.  Say good bye to your friend and your boyfriend.  You do not need that extra drama in your life.  Dealing with a friendship like that is hard on any one. Stay strong and start thinking about the new baby that is going to come into your life..There is nothing like a grand baby to make the world a better place.  God bless you.
231117
Your cousin needs alot of moral support.  Make her feel happy, tell her how special she is.  Let her know that everyone goes through rough times, even the rich, beautiful, and the famous.  Once she realizes her worth and how special she is, then life will be that much better!
618682
tell her to leave that is not a life for a baby she should not stay just for the baby if she isnt happy it will just make things worse for her and the baby
1133282
Tell her you'll be patient and want to work things through with her. Show her how much you love her and the baby but be firm in awhile and say you need her to pay attention to you not worry about him.... If she can't get over him than you better move on cause all you'll be is second best.
174995
Do you really want a man that will turn his back on his unborn child, let alone a man that supposedly is in a relationship with you that goes out getting his so called close friends pregnant. Wake up Sister...dump the creep. You deserve better.
1017348
avoid your cousin...ignore them.  let your cousin know that you are not a doormat, and that you don't have to take it!
621447
Here is arecent one.  My mother in law has been ranting and raving about throwing me a baby shower since January (Im due at the end of this month)  \n2 weeks ago she tells me that she doesnt have the money anymore and she would rather just take me to the store.  So I was dissapointed, but I had to deal with it.\nSo my sister in law ends up inviting some relatives over from my dads side of the family ( I am not even close with them, she just planned the event so that I would get some seriously needed gifts) She never met Danny's mom so she didnt even think of inviting her.  it was a small get together with under 10 people.. no big deal but a great gesture!\nSo long story short, the monster in law is not speaking to me now.  Mind you this was a surprise shower I didnt know until I walked in... not only is she not speaking to me but neither are his 2 sisters.  I could have the baby any second and I feel like this tension is not only unecessary but really hurt ful and mean. \nThere is my story!
505745
well you might want to tell her in non-chalant ways. And be nice about it. You don't want hubby on your back for being mean to mommy. I understand completely. Or maybe you might want to talk to hubby about it and he can help you with this situation. If your baby is still an infant than she's just excited! As a matter of fact you should take advantage of the situation and have her watch the baby and you go out and have some you time! And relax a little bit! \n\nThese are just a few suggestions. I went through the same thing! Sometimes just being honest with her helps too!
414380
Hard question to answer. Having an abortion is not something that I would ever consider, but also raising a child who is going to be dependant on drugs is not something I would do either.  I think that you should not judge your cousin.  She is probably being judged enough as it is.  Hopefully having an abortion will be a wake-up call for her. If not, hopefully she will at least have enough sense to not put another baby in the same situation.
782744
Since she's sick then I can understand why you are fearful - because she is so unpredictable and could leave at any second, and that makes you feel really insecure. She needs to make the decision to be treated for the disease that she has- my cousin has anorexia and it has controlled her life to the point she doesn't have one. If you can be patient and help ease her into treatment, then I'd say stay. If it happens again, and she runs away, I'd let her go.
982401
Tell him to get a life.  Have you asked him why he does this?  You have obviously spoken to him about this and concerned about his actions, so it must be very serious.  I agree I think the next step is professional counselling of some kind.  There should be local assistance that can help you with your cousin's problem.  Good luck.