I am gay. I am in love with my friend veronica. What do I do?.?
449576
Sweetie, you need a straight answer from her. Approach the situation carefully, or else you may push her out of your life forever. Slowly ease into the topic and then after a while, ask for a firm yes or no answer to the "do you more than like me?" Give her time to think and consider and don't keep pestering her. If she doesn't give you the answer you want or just doesn't come out with a firm yes or no answer after a bit, then she isn't worth your time or the heartache.
1172908
is this a gay thing? talk to her, i guess
1119343
She takes you as a really good friend. So my advice to you dont let your heart in too much... it could hurt and you cant blame her for it as you know she is lesbian. Dont blunder the friendship!
279856
You answered it yourself. If he/she is a gay and you are not the same gender, basically you won't get anywhere with him/her. Just move on and find someone who likes you.
133208
be a respectful man, and leave her alone if you will fall in love with her, if it is just friendship then take care of your and her feelings
1075254
If you're attracted to someone, even if that person is in love with you're friend, you just can't help it! What I think you need to do is see what happens between your friend and the person that you love. If they hit it off, then you should be glad for them, because him being happy should make you happy. However though, before your friend talks to that guy, make sure to tell her that you like him. If she doesn't like him, maybe she can talk to him about you and maybe get you two together!
515141
That is a very hard situation. I suppose if she is your best friend she you should tell her that you are gay. If she reacts badly... then she isn't really your friend. It will hurt if she gets upset but it is worse to keep the truth from her, friendships are built on honesty.\n     If she does take it well then ask her if she has ever felt that way. If she claims not to then you can probably leave it alone and not risk messing things up. But if she has then tell her the truth flat out. Or just tell her the whole truth either way.\n     I have a friend who came out to me about a year ago. At first I was upset that she had not told me sooner. But after I saw how much happier she is now with that out in the open I accepted it. \n     Just tell her, she deserves to know.
1124058
Well if your best friend is gay then that means you two dont really have much of a chance.  I guess i would tell him how you feel just to get it out in the open.  It may be easier for you to deal with it that way.  Even tho you may not ever get to be with him, he will still always be an important role in your life.  Boyfriends may come and go for both of you but you'll still always have eachother as friends.
434359
At this point, I think you need a spot test.\n\nYou need to start a conversation with her, and steer it towards a gay topic.... Did you see Brokeback Mountain? or Can you believe that gay people in this country can't get married?\n\nWatch her response.  If she seems uncomfortable with the homo content, then back off.  Either she is gay and not ok with it, or straight.\n\nBut if she engages you in a conversation, at least then you'll know that your sexual orientation doesn't repulse her.  Thats a good start. \n\nIf she responded positively, then you need to start sending some signals back.  Compliments compliments compliments.  Even straight people love compliments.  Tell her she is pretty.  In many different ways.  Again, keep an eye on your response.  If you see signs of panic or irritation, back off.  \n\nSuggest you two should hang out some time, go to a movie or something.  Incorporate small ammounts of touching, graze you hand against hers "accidentally" or if you're watching a  video, sit next to her on the couch and lean in a little.  And keep an eye on the responses.  You have to learn to be keen to things like voice intonation, eye movements, tensing up or smiles.  \n\nAfter you've hung out a couple times, hopefully you'll have a chance to bring up stuff about boyfriends and girlfriends.  Its a good time to come out to her as bi, and see what happens.  If she reacts favorabley, give her a couple days, then say you really like her and would like to take your friendship to a different place.  Ask her out on a very well planned date.  Have a resturant or a movie in mind.  And take it from there.... \n\nGood luck!
559380
you may be lesbian, but right now u r confused, nothing else.\nThink about your desires, and then make a plan. leave confusion, and accept whatever u r. If you want to live a normal life, stick with your bf, and leave those thoughts of being homosexual. you may cosult a phsycologist.
972589
You should try everything once.  You might like it.  And you're friend lost his self respect because he's obviously not comfortable with his sexuality.  Get over it, it won't make you gay.
245022
doesn't make you gay completey....you may have a BIG PROBLEM......you have to make a decision sooner or later.  If you like both girls and this guy you say you are in love with you will have to choose mind over matter.  I'd love to hear from you so e-mail me.
1116724
You probably want to stay clear of that one as you may lose a friend.. You can tell them  you are gay.. That's accepted today.. BUT if you tell him you are gay and you are in love with him,  you risk losing him as a friend.  Start out with baby steps and then if he is cool and opens up to you too and tells you he is gay, maybe you want to begin with trust, going out with him, working out with him etcc... He will get the message and you will see from his demeanor whether you have a chance or are even his type.. To recap, you can come out to him.. If he comes out to you, then you need to be passive and let him figure out that maybe you are the guy for him.. BUT don't comeout and tell him you love him.. Disaster waiting to happen..
54306
Be straight foward, dont lead her on with anything that could be mistaken for more then freindship.  If she starts touching your hair or any part of you, stand straight up, or just pull back like, "ewww".. almost automaticly.  Send accurate vibes.  However, if you find that you have possible feelings, which I read that you either do, or your really young, then you need to try to hold stong to a moral, like the Holy Bible, I dont know if you read it or not but its the best thing a person cold do. I am a "recovering" homosexual who is celebate forevermore, so I am not without sympathy for your situation or your friends. I would say though, you should definatly reevaluate all your freinds with this in mind, "You are the company you keep" and this is what you turn into, slowly but surly, in little ways and big before you know it (I'm not talking about lesienisim nessisarly however).  So make sure you are with the classification of people you want to grow into.  Be kind but BE FIRM.  I believe in you!
330660
Thanks for the laugh! I like how you think. I never felt like it was a choice for me. I did not know I had the ability to feel romantic love for a girl until it happened out of the blue when I was 18.\n\nI felt so close with my best friend that I just naturally felt inside that I wanted to really love her for who she is. It just sprung up within myself on its own. I wasn't around gay people prior to that and nor did I ever think about it. Is that a choice? No.\n\nTo me it just means that I love the person as a soul for who they are and that my eyes do not care what shell (body) they come in. The heart is blind to what love looks like.
69489
You shouldn't fight it. Let people do what they wanna do. It's a free world. My friend is homosexual and I don't have a problem with it.And you shouldn't either. If it's love, it's love. That's all there is to it.
613687
Actions speak louder than words so make sure she doesnt think your gay. make a move man and get as far as you can.