I've been married for 8months now and our relationship seems to be getting boring. what can i do?
438924
Why don't you two try and rekindle the passion by going out one night. Get all dressed up, looking hot....GGo out dancing, see what happens...Maybe its not boredom at all, maybe its something else. Talk to him too!
430243
the question is, how do you know that you love her more than she does? and if she really do, just give her time. maybe she went through something before you both got married. try talking to her and just put more effort on making her happy. i'm pretty sure she'll realize that you're important to her as much as she is to you!
1026507
well you married young and then did not wait to have a child.  You both basically did not give eachother any time to grow together, to understand eachother wants and needs in life.  We all change physically and mentally as we grow older.  Financial reponsibilties can also harm a healthy relationship.  After the honeymoon is over and reality and responibilty settles in the vows that you both took together becomes very obscure every passing day.  Together with Love, Compromise, Commitment and Sharing Responibilties makes a Marriage work.  Marriage is a hell alot of work, which non of us realize it before we take on it.  It takes two to Tango, are you both willing too?\n\nAfter a child some men feel being neglected, because now they have to share their wivies with their kid(s).  Yes we men are big babies.  Talk it over, make time for eachother.\n\nBefore involving a marriage consuelor, talk it over without being judgemental (not easy), make a list of things that you both have now started to dislike about eachother.  Work towards changing some and make compromises on the others.  Go back to the basics, think about what made you like this person what was it? the touch, the feel, the look, the smell....  Try to be more creative in the bedroom and not judgemental.  If you don't like something he wants, politely tell him why and he should do that same.\n\nI hope you got some good advice on here, and good luck.
319551
My suggestion would be to start all over, let me explain.  When you were dating, before kids, before the wedding, what did you do?  Did you enjoy going to dinners?, movies?, hiking?  Whatever it was that brought you two to the point of falling love do it again.  Send the kids to grandma's for the weekend, get a babysitter for friday night and go to dinner.  Sure, it may feel a little weird the first few times you go out, but that's because you haven't done it in a while.  Start slow and build from there.  There's no majic trick to finding the spark again, you need to work at it, but it will come!  Remind yourself, and your spouse, why you fell in love and got married. \n\nHope this helps!
26761
Do some of the fun things you 2 did before you got married.  By still doing the activities you enjoyed together, it maintains that closeness you felt before.  How about little love notes around the house?....maybe with his shaving kit?  I'm sure he'll reciprocate one way or another.  Compliments to each other just affirm your love and appreciation for each other.
1128849
Take the time to sit and talk about your feelings. Make sure he understands that you care about what he doing, not just nagging. It is you right to know what is happening and when. If he loves and cares for you as well then he will listen and be compassionate of your feelings. Don't ever be afraid to show true emotions. Healthy relationships and marriages are based on emotions and feelings. If both parties are misunderstood then solutions become harder to achieve.\n\nHope this helps\nMatt
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For us, it has been work.  Lots and lots and lots of hard work.\n\nWhen we got married, I had an idea of what a wife should do, be like, etc. And, I expected her to be this person and our marriage to be a certain way.  So, after working at it for a year (and fighting constantly), I slowly realized that she is who she is and my expectations were wrong.  (She had to realize the same things about me.)  This is when we learned we have to work at communicating with each other and with ourselves. (You will have to learn who you truly are as well as who your mate truly is.)\n\nWe have been together almost 12 years now; she is my soul mate and we are very happy.  But, the communication and understanding that are needed are work.\n\nEvery few months, life will throw a new set of challenges at us and we will have to work at communicating well, understanding things 100% from the other persons point of view, not having emotional reactions to things without asking "Did you mean that way I heard it?" Then, once we have communicated and are in synch with each other, we can tackle the challenges of life together.  \n\nMarriage is not 50/50.  It is 100%/100%, and often you have to give your 100% first.  But, being able to become someones soul mate and their true love is an amazing blessing.  Just keep in mind that sometimes you have to give your 100% first and that is work.\n\nBeing truly in love when you get married is a great place to start growing your life long love together.    But, you have to work to grow life long love.  \n\nPlus, please remember to "actively love".  Don't just love someone and feel that is enough.  You have to pay attention to this person you are marrying, and learn what stresses them out, makes them happy, what they are great at, how best to be supportive,  and which of the family roles that mentally and emotionally hate but that you could do (I do the dishes, because she would rather be beat with a stick than wash another person's dishes.).  In other words, you have to learn who this person really is and how you can help make their life happier.  Ask yourself, "What can I DO, to make my mates life easier, happier, better, etc."  "Active love", which is paying attention to your mate and then doing things you can to improve their life, is also part of true love.\n\nForgive the long answer.  This is just the things we have learned in our 12 years together.  Every relationship is unique.  \n\nGood luck and best wishes to you both.
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First, you need to explain to him what he does and how it makes you feel.Honesty and communication are the most important part of any realtionship.Next, the bedroom.Spontaneity and variety.Always mix things up.Never plan it.Try different things and if your open to it, toys.Life is short and a marriage is very important.I think keeping it fun will keep you both interested and actually enhance your sex life.BUT, you need to communicate there too.Talk to him and see what he likes, what he dosent, and where he draws a line.Maybe find out what his fantasies are(doable ones).This will definitely keep your sex life interesting.For toys, try online ordering(very discreet) or if you want to go look, try Spencers or Priscillas.There are many adult stores  that have womens interests in mind too.Have fun and congrats on your preganancy.
810992
You need to talk to him on a serious tip and let him know how you feel and tell him that it is time to change cause it is not cute any more and that you love him and that if there is something you  need to change you would for him cause that is what marriage is about.
350327
well since you didnt include much information i can only guess to why you feel you are losing him. you probably are. maybe your relationship is stuck in a rut. By this i mean maybe you have been through all the fights and spontanious moments and need to spicin things up again. Make things more interesting. If you and him have been together for a long time you might be alittle bored with eachother and like i said need to try some new things. Try being honest with him.
568242
If there is no communication it will not last.  YOu only been with him for 8 months  I would move on.  That would be the easy way out but no one likes the easy way.  Most likely you will go on for few more month or until the point you say enough is enough.
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8 years is truly a long time and Id hate to see you give up on that kind of relationship.  BUT you should sit dowen with him IN PERSON and let him know exactly how u r feeling.  If you have to make a special trip to see him DO IT!  Let him know u love him and want the relationship to work but you cant keep doing it the way you are doing now.  That its tearing you apart.  If he loves you he will find a way you can be together.  Find a job close to you or bring you to him!!!!!  After 8 years he should know if he loves you or not and definetely you need to know if this is ever going to lead to a permanent relationship!  If he doesnt see a problem with it the way it is- I would tell him you want to start dating other people.  Good luck to u!  This is keeping you close but letting him have his freedom all at once and thats disrepectful to u as a woman and his girlfriend.  You deserve so much better than this treatment!  Talk to him before you make a choice!  Good luck!
1174075
You both need to go to a marriage counselor NOW!\n\nYou have trust issues and they are probably compounded by esteem problems that you both carry.\n\nTalk these problems through with someone who isn't emotionally invested in your life and start your relationship over on a solid foundation. \n\nThe longer you wait the more problems you will heap on top of the old ones.
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What's the length of time that you two have been dating without interruptions up to now, without a break?  How many times have you broken up?  You should deal with the problems that you have had that caused the break-ups before you get married, because those problems will get worse during marriage.  Do you expect him to change?  Well, often that doesn't happen during marriage.  If there's a problem now, fix it.\n\nDo you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him?  Do you have stable jobs?  Are you sure you won't want to break up again?  Think about living with him 24/7.  If you have to go to a site to ask this question, maybe you should hold off thoughts of marriage for a while.
529365
Here's a little trick. Picture yourself married to him, doing the things married couples do, meeting his friends and family, facing problems together, etc.. Do you like what you see? If not, give yourself some more time to know him better and do the mind excercise again. If you don't like it still, stop waisting your time and find another guy you can be comfortable with.
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Talk yo ur partner about it and find ways and means of improving the chemistry between u both\n\nand i wanna tell u this, young man that if u truly love ur wife , u will surely enjoy the act and never get bored of it. first start loving her even better than what u are doing now. and then u wont even think of the term bored\n\n how would u feel if ur wife had posted this question thinking that u bored her . think again and learn to love. Feel ashamed of urself.\n\nsex is not a routine- it is just a part of LOVE  making.
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Well you have been together for six years that is pretty good, but guess what to keep it going is going to take work. From both of you. Don't be mean, that isn't going to help the situation. You two really need to sit down and talk together, you may just be going through a hormonal time where sex is uninteresting to you, that happens. You may be bored with how it happens, that happens in every long term relationship. Communicate before the relationship goes totally south. There isn't anything wrong with you that some talking can't help with. If that doesn't work, talk with a doctor maybe there is physical reason for this, like medications or something. Don't feel bad, but let your man know that you love him anyhow and see what you can do. If it bothers you then work on fixing it. Please don't be mean to him during sex,if you love him, that is seriously going to backfire on you. My best to you.