When I met my bf i wasn't a virgin I told him and he got mad and left me Did I do the right thing?
449109
What really matters is if youe a teen or older. But another thing is that if he really felt something for you he wouldn't have done that.  My girlfriend and i have been dating for 2 years.  when i found out she was molested and raped as a child i just tryed to help her out.  I really stuck it out and we're still together. so dont worry he was a jerk for leaving you.
993034
if he told you he wasn't ready for marriage then he was very mature to inform you of such. trying to apply pressure to him to make him do something never works. i would advise you both sit down if possible and talk things out
708504
I am 38 and I have had an experience meeting a woman that was a virgin still at 24.  She was apologetic and very shy.  I don't think you should feel bad for being a virgin.  Everyone has a first time - some sooner some later.\n\nAt least being older he would hopefully find your honesty appreciative.  Tell him as a matter-of-fact when an intimate conversation comes up.  Don't sound as though you are making a big deal of it.\n\nAnd if he is hesitant or steps back, just respect it and move on.  There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed about who you are darling :-)  Good luck.
913760
well he is ready. sounds liek what my bf and i were liek not too long ago. (weve been sating for 2 years) always talked abotu having sex. i told him how i wasnt comfortable wih the idea yet and wasnt sure (we were both virgins) so i just told him that. he didnt bother me abotu to as much as he used to before. i knew he respected my decision. i eneded up waiting over 1 and a half years intot he realthionship till i felt liek i was comfortable wiht it and everything. you shoudl just tell him that you dont know if your ready yet and if he relaly loves you he will respect your decision and stick it out till you feel more ready. there are better ways to please a guy that just sex. you can always make him dinner or something =) good luck. just dont rush into things if you dont feel ready. i dont konw how old you are. but advise waiting till you are in a serious relationship to loose it or have sex.
1149809
yea, it was wrong of u to lie to him in the first place. but from how i see it, i dont think u should just sit around and wait for him to come around. who knows when he'll get over it? n the idea of him suggesting u two becoming sex buddies made me confused about his intentions. and men dare say women are complicated! but anyway, i think u should just go out and see other people. if he gets upset, ask him what are u suppose to do? wait for him until he realises that he wants u more than a sex buddy? what would that make u? sounds pretty desperate to me... BUT, if your heart thinks he's worth it and he is more than what u made him appear to be, then stay home, be good, show him you're worth falling in love with, and keep waiting. just make sure u're happy. it's all that matters.
43078
Well it depends on if you are...repentant about the mistake you made.  if you are, yes. you should. he'll find out someday and it's better to come from you with a real face of repentance than for him to find out and ruin your relationship because of it. \nIf you aren't repentant and you could care less if your b/f knew, then tell him and break up with him.  'cause if you 'cheated' on him, whats the point in being HIS     friend?
379159
Don't feel bad, hey. It's not the most appealing thing as a girl wants to feel like she has someone who knows what they are doing. What you need to do then, is spend all your time making it good for her and be willing and you will be fine. I slept with a guy who was a virgin and he was 24. I got over the fact he was a virgin cos I thought he was the most hottest guy I had ever been with and I loved his personality. What killed it a bit though, is he was pretty nervous which is understandable, but he wanted me to do everything. Just act confident, and if the chick knows you are a virgin she will understand it will get better and better. If you have casual sex, lie and say you aren't a virgin. Be confident, and she'll be none the wiser. Be honest if you are actually going out with someone. Don't worry matey, it wouldn't turn me off you.
355881
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this man knowing that you lied to him about being a virgin?? Do you really want to live with that guilt? I don't know how long you two have been together, but you have already gone this long lieing to him, why would you want to go the rest of your life continueing to lie to him? As some of the others had said it's true that not everyne bleeds the first time, but still this is the man that your going to spend the rest of your life with, if you lie to him about this, it's going to make it that much easier to lie to him about other things. Think about the decision that your making. Think about if the roles were reversed and put yourself in his shoes, if this was him and he wasn't a virgin wouldn't you want to know before you both make a life changing decision? I myself am about to get married and my fiance and I have the best communication ever, I have told him all about my past and he has told me about his and we still love each other regardless of the decisions that we made before we were together.  If he really loves you than he will accept the fact that you were honest enough to tell him.  If he doesn't accept your past then maybe he's not the right man for you.  But morally, honesty is the best policy.  Be honest with the man and see what happens, if he gets mad at you and breaks off the wedding, then at least you know where he stands. But don't lie to him, just to make life easier on you.\n\nGood luck
907667
Because you kissed the guy that doesn't mean that you're not a virgin anymore,just decide what you want.İf you love this guy you shouldn't be hanging out with the others.İf you tell him you probably lose him.
940901
He wasnt your boyfriend was he? You both talked to him so why would you be mad you are not with him now.
789090
The next time your boyfriend brings up sex let him know that you are a virgin. Make sure he knows that you aren't ready yet and it makes you uncomfortable when he is constantly bringing sex up. Tell him that when you are ready to have sex you'll let him know. If he really cares about you, he'll understand. If he doesn't, then you know he was only with you because he wanted to have sex with you.
543870
All I can do is tell you about my first time. I was totally in love, but the guy wasn't. It was nuthin' nice. In fact it was, on the whole, a totally awful experience. When I realized he didn't really care about me, I was devastated. I had thrown away the most precious gift I had to give a man on a jerk who just wanted to say he'd had a virgin. Don't be in a rush, sweetheart. I'm not saying you have to wait for marriage, just make the first time with someone really special. Make GOOD memories! I love you.
640764
nothing wrong with still being a virgin...as far as what to do your first time my suggestion would be this...if possible let hope it occurs with some one who truly cares for you...as far as what to do believe it or not it will sort of come natural...the basics anyway....your partner can help allot too...just don't sweat the small stuff...and let things flow as they will
1175444
no. sometimes its better to take things slowly, and get to know each other really well. then when you know you trust them, you can go ahead and do the things that you wanna do. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and we havent had sex yet. he knows i want to wait, and he respects that. but if your man does'nt want to wait, then he is'nt worth your time. no guy should have to be that way.
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
921267
obviously not..............how old are you now?,but it's really not your place. you weren't married to either to know what happened.Until you ask and find the reason, then you decide whether you should be upset or accept it.
1106763
Yes. Make sure you tell him in a way that he is not threatened. Tell him because you love him and want him to know this from you. That other guy could show up at anytime. Something could happen and it could come out. He should know. But first, you get him aside and tell him that you have never loved anybody or trusted anybody like you do him. And that you are afraid of losing his love, but you are more afraid of hurting him with a lie. That love is based on truth and trust. You must trust him. Ask him if you can trust him to still love you after you tell him something hard from your past. If he says he does not want to know about your past, then shut up. That is fine.\n\nBest of luck. BTW, I doubt that HE was a virgin when you first got together, either. And yes, fair is fair.