How much money should I give my secretary forher wedding present?
450729
It is best to ask a Chinese national, as you do not want to insult her family.
348785
I KNOW a man who carries two envelopes in his pocket for such occasions....\n\none with 25 bucks..one with 50...it depends on how nice the reception is...if its just cocktail weinees and beer..drop the 20..if its nicer...then at least cover the cost of your /and your dates..meals.
942
This is a tricky question as it may not even be allowed where you are employed. If it is there may be restrictions set by the company on how much each gift can be in cost, what types are allowed, etc. If it is a very small company talk to who is in charge about the gift giving policy. Something small and not very personal are your best choices, things like candles are always welcomed for just one idea
45075
Etiquette dictates that you spend the amount of your plate. So you figure the average wedding is about $125 per head - that's the amount you should give or spend on the couple. So that they either get their money back to pay for the reception dinner or either receive something of equal value. If you can't afford to cover the cost of your plate - then do the best that you can. The couple probably knows that you can't and isn't expecting you to.\nMuch Success!
795836
Let them decide.  That will indicate how much they are willing to spend.  Regardless, have a wonderful time and let them "give" to you.  They must really love you.
486728
I planned on keeping it simple....but I overspent.\n\nYou could take any part of the gifts I got my girls as one gift.\n\nI got everyone a rhinestone heart key chain with their first initial on it $5.99 a piece including engraving.\n\nI got everyone rhinestone hairpins at clair's boutique for 8.50 a piece.\n\nThen I got them something more personal. My matron of honor got a VERY nice collection of L'occtane lotion and soap.$75\nAnother got a magnolia spa candle from L'occtane.$25\nAnother got a box of godiva chocolate $20\nAnother got a bunch of collectors stuff from napoleon Dynomyte $20\nAnother got a new lotion collection and lip gloss from bath and body works $20\n\nLike I said, any one of those things will work. Just make sure that about the same is spent on all the girls to be equal (The maid of honor is a little different).\n\nYou could also do matching necklaces, make up bags, tee shirts, mugs, flasks, bracelets, or even manicures.....depends on how well you know your girls. Good luck and happy gift hunting.
1068160
Depends on your relationship with the person graduating and in part where you are in your life financially.  \n\nIf you are a student yourself these guidelines work.\nIf it is a relative or your best friend, $50 is a nice gift.  If it is someone you are not as close to, $25 is totally acceptable.\n\nIf you are older, out in the work force and have the means you can certainly give more if you can afford it.
686075
I think in this situation I would probably give $50. Ultimately, it depends on what you can afford. If you have some flexibility in your budget, give some thought to how generous your boss is in these situations. But don't go overboard (no more than $100, IMO) because it might seem like you're brown-nosing.\n\nGood luck!
623629
I am 21, when I got married my mother and my fiance's parents split the cost. Neither could afford the whole thing on their own. I got married at a chapel that offered in house photography (which is the most expensive and the most important thing about the day in my opinion). It hurt that I couldn't have the the huge wedding because there simply wasn't the money. My advice would be to definitely do what you can afford and only that. But do what you can afford. No less. No matter how frivolous you may think it is, you should offer to do all you can for the most important day of your daughter's life. That being said, there is no need to do ridiculously lavish things like fireworks at the wedding, or a 10 layer cake. Pick your battles here. The dress is going to be expensive, when she finds one she loves, let her have it no matter what the cost but make sure she knows the budget. If the budget is $10,000 and she wants a $5,000 dress she needs to know how much that leaves her. My fiance and I made our own invitations with a computer kit we bought. It was $25 at walmart and they turned out beautiful. \nHer fiance doesn't need to be pressuring you. If he wants more than you can afford tell him point blank he will have to get it somewhere else. Money can be an uncomfortable subject but you have to be upfront about how much you can afford. Ask what kind of wedding your daughter has in mind, a simple beachfront wedding, a huge cathedral wedding,etc. That can also help you figure out how much you will need to spend. Before you plan a budget, discuss the things that are most important and the things that could be simplified (invitations, the ceremony site,etc). Look around at different locations and offer help where it is asked for and make sure your daughter knows you are willing to help her in any way needed. The grooms family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner so if he wants to impress friends tell them they can go all out then. The wedding traditionally falls on the brides parents but nowadays its up to whoever can pay. Bring both families together to discuss payment. And only pay what you can.\n\nAs to the other suggestions here: the brides family typically pays for the wedding. That includes flowers and liquor. So don't be petty about those things. You don't need liquor at the reception as that can drive costs through the roof. If you want liqour there have a cash bar instead of an open bar, or not at all. Depending on where you have the wedding,they may not allow liquor to be served.\n\nAs for an elopement, please don't encourage this. Your family will hate that they weren't included in the wedding amd couldn't see their neice/cousin/grandchild get married. As will you. Don't you think you will wish that you got to see them get married? Don't encourage that.\n\nYou didnt say whether or not your daughter has a career or not, so if she does and can afford to pay for the wedding I agree she should help out but as a gift to the married couple,it would be nice if you were to help out. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get a career together, so if she doesnt have one you should definitely help. But if she does have one and you choose to help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Even if she was 40 and you were paying, there is nothing wrong with that.
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Anyone who accepts an invitation to participate in a wedding in most circles has "traditionally" agreed to incur some expense to do so (see "Who pays for what" below). Is it a good gesture to offer to offset some of their clothing cost? If you know it would cause financial hardship then why not? If you know it wouldn't, then the question is WHY?\n\nMost people consider it an honor and privilege to stand up in a wedding. Most weddings are planned in advance so there is more often than not ample time to secure the funds necessary to acquire and pay for accoutrements. If you haven't brow-beaten or coerced your bridal party members then they shouldn't have a problem anteing up. \n\nThat being said it should also be pointed out that cultural backgrounds and individual convictions DO heavily influence the decision-making in Wedding Etiquette.  Nevertheless, the following is a general guide that should be construed as such...  and adopted as you deem fit:\n\nWho Pays For What?\n\nThe Bride typically pays for\nThe Wedding ring for the Groom\nGifts for the Attendants \nAccommodation for out-of-town Attendants\nThe Wedding gift for the Groom\n\nThe Groom typically pays for\nThe Bride's rings including the Engagement ring\nThe honeymoon\nWedding gift for the bride\nThe marriage license\nThe Groom's men gifts\nAccommodation for out-of-town groom's men\nFlowers for the Bride\nThe going-away corsage,\ncorsages for mothers, special ladies;\nThe boutonnieres for men in wedding party\nThe gloves, ties and accessories for the men in the wedding party\nFee for clergy person or judge\n\nThe Groom's Family typically pays for\nClothing for the Wedding\nTravel and lodging expenses\nRehearsal dinner\nThe Wedding gift for the newlyweds\n\nThe Bride's Family typically pays for:\nThe costs of the reception.\nThe Bride's Wedding attire/trousseau\nInvitations, announcements, thank you notes \nThe seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs\nPhotographer\nVideographer\nCeremony costs\nBridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories\nTransportation for bridal party on Wedding day from ceremony to reception.\nAll gratuities for all services: parking, security\nBridesmaid luncheon\n\nThe Attendants typically pay for:\nTheir Wedding clothes\nTravel expenses\nWedding gift for newlyweds
53410
The gifts should be both personal and permanent, perhaps earrings or pendants with small saphires (the stone that is September's symbolic gem),lockets with the wedding date inscribed, pretty jewel boxes, a pair of good crystal flutes with their monograms and the wedding date etched on the base...whatever you choose, please think about putting a little special emphasis on honoring your junior bridesmaid, who will treasure this memory her entire life....this day will be almost as special to her as it will be to you.\nGood luck and my best wishes for a long and happy union.
1104422
usually they have a gift registry where the couple lists things they need.  The best thing to do is to call her up ans ask "are you registered anywhere?" If not just give them some money .
200700
Pay Pal is a hassle anyway because the 'seller' (you and your fiance) will have to pay a small fee for the priviledge of having money dropped into your account.  \n\nCreate-a-gift\n\nSometimes what you really want isn't something that can be wrapped up in a gift box and sent in the mail. For instance, if you'd rather have money towards a new car than a 7-speed blender, you should register for -- and receive -- exactly what you want. Our "create-a-gift" service enables you to receive American Express Gift Cheques to be used towards whatever it is you want for your wedding gift -- traditional or not.\n\nWhat are American Express Gift Cheques?\n\nEssentially, an American Express Gift Cheque is a fancy way (and certainly a more polite way) of giving cold, hard cash. The Gift Cheques can be used anywhere, for anything, wherever American Express Travelers Cheques are accepted. This eliminates the possibility of having to return your fourth toaster. And these snappy Cheques are dummy-proof as well -- they are fully refundable if lost or stolen.\nHow "Create-a-Gift" Works\n\nAll you have to do is think of something you want that isn't on the registry. It can literally be anything money can buy -- a single item, a gift certificate for a service, or even just money toward something big that you two have your hearts set on. Next, make up a title for the product, such as "Dinner for Two at the Rainbow Room" or "Two Pairs of inline skates". Give your gift a basic description so your guests know what they are giving. For example, "To celebrate our one month anniversary, we plan to spend an evening at the restaurant where we first locked lips." Finally, decide the total amount of money (in $50 increments) you would like to receive towards the cost of the gift. You can then request as many $50 gift certificates as needed to reach your desired amount. So, if you would like to spend $100 at your favorite restaurant, you would enter two gift certificates for $50 each.\n\nMore expensive gifts, such as a gift of $500 toward your honeymoon expenses, can easily become a group gift shared by several guests. In this case you would create 10 gifts of $50 to add up to the total $500 you wish to receive. Individual guests can then each purchase as many gift cheques as they¹d like. They can purchase one for $50 or three for $150, and so on.\n\nPlease keep in mind that guests will be charged a $5-per-cheque service and handling fee. That means your guest will pay $55 for each $50 cheque you receive.\n\nYour "Create-a-product" appears on your registry list and functions just like any other gift. Your guest sees "Dinner for Two", selects "Add to Shopping Cart", and puts in a quantity (so they if they want to pay for the whole dinner, they can buy both $50 certificates).\n\nWhen a guest purchases one of your created products, first you receive notification via email (as with any Knot gift,) and, as with any other gift shipment, your American Express Gift Cheque will arrive via UPS so you can sign for it.\nWhat should you register for? Here are some ideas:\n\n    * A down-payment for a house or apartment\n    * A pure-bred puppy\n    * Dollars towards your honeymoon\n    * A new computer or software\n    * Car lease installments\n    * Gourmet cooking classes\n    * Museum memberships\n    * Ski-lift tickets\n    * Ballroom dancing lessons\n    * Photography or pottery classes\n    * A weekend getaway\n    * Maid service\n    * Spa treatments for two\n    * An artwork or an antique\n    * Film stock to make a movie\n    * A tree for your front yard\n    * An air conditioner\n    * A paint job\n    * Two plane tickets to Paris (in other words, anything)
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If you have a loving girlfriend who doesn't care about how much her ring costs I would say to not spend more then $1,000. If you want her to have better quality than no more than $3,000. Just remember one thing...do not get a loan or pay for the ring with a credit card. If you don't have enough money to pay for one then purchase a cheap one! No girlfriend wants you to pay for her ring like you do a car! I would say a fair price based on your income is about $1,500.
729144
The estimated national average is 20k...however, I have seen them done for 10-15k and I've seen them done for 100k +...it jsut depends on how much money and time you're willing to put into things. Orange County is an expensive area all around, so you might have to go looking elsewhere to find what you need. Wedding dresses are typically cheaper in smaller towns and you can get favors online.
1136422
Congrats on engagement!!!  A nice wedding for 100, can run from about $8000 to $60,000. Look for wedding dress sales or eBay for bride who changed mind - remember dresses run really small most of time. You can take it in but it is hard to let out. My daughter is a 2 & we bought a 8 to fit bustline & altered. To save money have buffet, sit down meals are pricey. Start looking for place to hold it, reasonably price ones book up a year to 2 yrs in advance. Good luck! It was fun helping with both of my daughters, I did not enjoy paying for them but they were beautiful.
808405
Found on Ebay current bid $59 item #120051205170\n\nCongrats on the wedding!