How do people commit themselves to only one person for the rest of their lives????
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Lots of people make that commitment, but not many manage to keep it.\n\nI would say that if you only "really like him or maybe even more" then now is not the time to be thinking about making such a commitment anyway.\n\nWhen you find somebody that you simply can't be without and love more than you love your own life, then and only then should you consider such promises.\n\nPlease, don't give yourself away so cheaply.
1036876
If I were to change one event in my life, I would choose this one instance in time to stand up for myself, despite all the pressure and fear. \n\nI would not be the same person I am today. I would have learned my lesson earlier instead of later. Even if I failed at the choices I made, it would have made all the difference to stand behind my decisions. \n\nI don't think I would look different.  \n\nI don't understand the last question. "only do it to one person"? You mean like avoid a person in my previous life? Well, I wouldn't do that. I'd choose to meet and engage in all the people and relationships I've met and engaged in so far. Of course, if I made the change, there would be people I wouldn't meet. But I wouldn't "only do it to one person ".
689694
You CAN love someone and have desires for another, you just aren't IN LOVE with that person and not ready to make a committment, there is a big difference. I totally understand where you R coming from. You are not ready to settle down to one person but can feel love towards more than one person, I think that is within reason,as long as \nyou didn't tell anyone that you were madly in love with them and they were your "one and only" and are up front with them, you are ok. Then it becomes their problem. I have alot of friends that I love and I tell them, a couple of the guys I sleep with sometimes, but I know where we stand. Make sure! Safe sex!!! You are ok!!!!!
225060
i feel one on one is best just too much going on out there to trust many partners. find  a person with same drive and fall in love
783441
I did this for 6 years.. it never worked..\nseparate and explore single life (does not mean sleeping around, just doing things on your own) and see if you feel like you want him around all the time.
1057106
When you know that without this person nothing in your life would ever be the same, food would loose all taste, the birds wouldn't sing nothing would ever feel right. Its that person who you want to share everything with from who there is no secrets the one person you would trust with your life.
746727
Find someone else to think about.\n\nSeriously it's the only way.
296315
No, you can love many many people over the course of a lifetime. You can even love more that one person at a time. So if you lose the "Love of your life" then it is posible to move on, you might just not want to.
272479
That's an oxymoron...only because faithful implies committed, and if you are committed then you're not single.  If you are single, there's no reason to be committed...so what is it that you are really looking for?  Probably someone who can commit to a relationship? There are people out there who can commit and stay faithful. You just have to apply patience. The higher your expectations are, the higher your patience should be.
833356
You can use the word commitment and open relationship in the same sentence and believe this could work...Committing to someone takes all of you, not some of you...Share in this case does not equal to truly caring for one person, emotionally and physically...Open relationship are doomed from the start, one should be able to give all of oneself to one person, not several, what a headache that can be...And heck it hard enough holding one relationship together without interference from others....\nFriends with benifits...someone always get hurt in the end....
99707
Yes you can.  I've always believed that love is infinite.  That's just like loving your 2 siblings so much and then what if your parents introduce a newborn into the family? Does that mean that you don't have any more love to give to the 3rd sibling?  Love is not inhibited by volume.  But when you're talking about commitment, that's a different matter and it's commitment that is finite.  You cannot commit your whole heart to more than one person.
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When you know that you want to spend the rest of your life waking up to tthat same person.  When you know that living without them hurtss so much that you can't stand it.  Believe me, when it happen you will know, if you have to ask someone, I would wonder.
141810
I think it's a personal question that has to be addressed individually. It depends on what is important to you. If you have an absolute need to know what the other person is like every day, all the time, then perhaps you should. Or if you believe in love and what a commitment to marriage means, then take the faith that you love this person no matter what their personal habits. You can get to know a person's character without living with them, but again, it's up to you and them. As for strengthening a relationship, more studies show that it doesn't, but everybody's different. You also have to think about your potential kids and what kind of an example would you want to set for them? Years down the road what are you going to want to be able to say to them about moving in with their partners? That usually will reflect what is in your own heart and you should listen to that.
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i think there is someone out there for everyone...finding that person is the trick...and some of us will and some of us won't--either way, be okay and happy in your life...there is so much goodness in it for everyone together and alone
132375
Set a standard of who you would like to be with, and then search for him. But never lower your standards for anyone!\n\nAnd DON'T use yourself either!\nUse HOPE of finding the right person to keep you going thats what I do!
424235
when you feel and know in your heart and mind that that person is your other half, and without him or her u are not complete. if you can share with that person, love that person, see yourself together in the future with that person. as for starting to like someone else at the same time, i feel, there can be more than one potential life partner out there for anyone, however, if you feel that this first guy could be your soul mate, talk to him, see what he thinks about you....
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Yeah I think I have a borderline attachment disorder! lol. I have commited in the past, it's just that I don't want to at the moment. I value my freedom and my life so much, that it would take someone very special for me to want to settle down and sacrifice all that.\n\nYou just have to be willing to make a few sacrifices, and able to drop the fear that goes along with commitment.\n\nGood luck :)