I found out my 35yr dude is talking to one of his girls he used to f*** around with I have been dealing with?
447044
why would you even want to continue a relationship with someone who is cheating on you?  That would be the first red flag.  the second red flag would be the restaurant experience.  Also, you shouldn't share bank accounts with someone your dating....thats kinda dumb.  if you have any common sense, you would cut your ties.
973345
No way this is normal. You need to put a stop to this-pronto!   There is a reason she is the "ex" so you have every right to remind him of this. He should be over her by now and have made the commitment of being with you. He's married to you now so he hasn't any reason discussing anything with her or being under her control. With exception of talking about the kid anything else concerning the two of you is is none of her business. He's out of whack for communicating with her like this. Time for a reality adjustment. So get up close in his face and tell him in no uncertain terms to shut that big mouth of his. What a lot of nerve. If you're wondering about what I think I think it sucks big time and is callous and disrespectful toward you. That shrew of an ex needs to be put in her place also. Who cares if she went "nuts". She's nuts if she thinks she had any say about the two of you being married! Who the hell is she anyway? Tell her to butt out of your lives. Share a relationship with the ex? God no!! So put your foot down unless you're considering becoming another ex.
418973
If she really was a stalker, he would have told you about her by now.  You said this is a long-term relationship, so he would have confided that informatiojn in you.  He is lying, and I am a guy!!!  Sorry, dude, you are busted.  Move on, sister, he is not being faithful to you and why has he not made a committment to you?  At the very least, he is being emotionally unloyal to you even if he has done nothing with this online "girlfriend."  It has a long time.  Move on.  P.S.  I am married, so I am not saying this to get you or anything.  I know from experience that guys "cheat" on girlfriends with online hussies.
842575
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256124
I stare at a lot of women's rears and it doesn't always mean that I want a relationship with them.  You need to find out more about him and his current situation before you jump to any conclusions.
654376
I know it is not right what he is doing and what he did to you is not right.  But, it is his life and how he lives his life, is up to him.  If you want to, for kicks and giggles, write to his ladies, I would let them know, but, there is a possibility that he may be able to track you down, somehow.  Be careful.  Truthfully, I would just mind my own business and forget he even existed.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
489056
Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
86275
ouch. sorry but it sound slike you have been lied to and played. that boy is having his cake and eating it too. he is screwing both of you over and probably making up different stories to tell both of you. you should find a way to call her and ask her. but i would definitely confront him, but he will probably tell you more lies. it sure sounds like he is with both of you, why else would he have made something up to tell her instead of just telling her it was over? and why does he spend time with her and go places with her and call her??? that is just crap!
129929
i think that you should trust him when he says that they are just friends. but if u dont then ask him to let you talk to her get to know the girl and if he saids no then there may be something going on
997888
He's bullshiting and he's playing you.. I'd raise my question about her present in his place. And what's the point of answering his phone when he has a hand 2. Unless his mouth was bz on something else.. Serious, if you want to continue your relation with him then straight this thing out. If not then he's NOT worth your time honey.
1055127
hell no you're not being stupid. he is obviously stringing you both along. find yourself someone who isn't going to play around with other girls. Good luck.
373289
As shady as it sounds, you're going to have to do some detective work.  Is he honest with you?  Have you seen or heard of him with other girls?  If he has websites or pictures, use those to form your decision.  But above all, make clear the fact that you WILL leave players behind.
360885
Why not? Better snag him if you want him...Wait too long and he might be talkin to you about his new girl :)
655129
Maybe you did them a favor...  I don't know what the "information" was, but say you knew he cheated on her, or lied to her.  You telling her may have been the best thing!  Don't be so hard on yourself.
846746
If he is believing what this other girl is saying, then he is unlikely to want to talk to you.  If I were you I would put all the truth in a letter and send it to him.  Try to keep it as brief as you can with all the details in the first few lines in case he thinks it is just a ploy to get him back.  What you write in your first couple of lines need to hit him in the face so he wants to continue reading.  Maybe getting to the point straight away saying ..."such and such(girl who is spreading rumours) is telling you lies, I have proof, please read on"  That should get his attention so that he will read on to get your side on things.\n\nYou have friends on your side, so that is a real plus, they obviously believe you over her and if you have their support it wont be long until your ex finds out the truth too and this girl is exposed for who she really is.  It will be her who loses out in the long run.  Vindictive people only have their victory for such a short time and then it all blows up in their face.  You have the truth on your side and the truth should always win out in the end.  Note I say, should.  Your ex may genuinely like this girl so wont be ready to believe the truth even if it does hit him in the face.  If she has won him over, then it is going to take some pretty clever thinking on your behalf and you have to start thinking of ways to expose this girl so that no-one will have any doubts, including your boyfriend.  Maybe talk to this girl yourself....set her up and tape the conversation.  Your ex boyfriend cannot deny the truth if he hears it with his own ears.  Girls at your age are pretty smart at working out ways to get back at the "bad" guy.  Use your imagination, there are ways to expose this girl.  Get together with your friends, think as a group how you can achieve what it is you want.\n\nI wish you all the best and I hope you get your boyfriend back.  But even if you dont, a girl as loyal as you wont have any problem finding another boy who trully trusts you and wont easily be put off by words of a stranger, and basically that is what has happened.  He has known you for much longer than he has known her, yet he has believed her over you.  If he believed in you, he wouldnt have been so easily put off. so I would really be questioning if he is the right one for you.  It was too easy for this girl to pull him away from you, so it seems to me he hasnt much loyalty and is too ready to believe the negative instead of trusting his girlfriend.\n\nGood luck...hope it all turns out the way you want it to.
465928
He's probably getting suspicious of you thinking you're wanting to get involved romantically with her.   You might want to only hang out with her around other people.