For the Men: How do u feel about meeting a women with kids?
440788
I'm fine with it. my past 2 relationships have been with women who have kids.it all depends on the the type of guy you are,if your guy who really like kids like me, then it won't be a problem.it's only a problem if the female is looking for a father for her kids more than a boyfriend or husband.I love kids and relate to them very well,hell I still watch cartoons and play video games so for me it's all good.
673088
church lol no seriously friends that is where i meet my husband a friend introduced us and now going on 9 yrs married and 10 yrs together 2 kids later its great we compliment each other always have . you will meet Mr right don't rush it.
422338
Well, I have never personally met any women who wouldnt appreciate dating a single father. I have had a couple chances, but it never worked out just because we never got past the first day, had nothing to do with his kids. I would prefer to date a single dad because Im ready to settle down and cant have children of my own, but want children. I have found that the reasons of not wanting to date a single dad vary on what point the female is in her life. Now a days, women are more career oriented and not looking to have kids for awhile if at all simply because they believe children create a barrier between their career and success. Younger women, they are enjoying life partying and whatnot, and don't normally want to have to worry about anyone or children to put a stop to their usual party lifestyles. Its all about the woman and what she wants for her life. If you meet a woman who is unsure of what she wants, you cant expect her to accept your kids because she does have a choice and the path she may choose for her future may not include kids. A good conversation piece for a first or second date would be to find out what she wants out of life, where she sees herself in the next few years, etc...you may pick up signals and pieces of information from that conversation that will help you decide if she is heading in a direction where she will have the time and can accept you as well as your children. Single parents are precious and sacred and should be considered a lot more serious than dating a single person. Hope this helps!
838485
this is a tough situation...I'm in one similar.  I would tell him how you feel...DON'T give him an ultimatum on choosing his kids or you because chances are you will loose.  Maybe you guys can work something out where half the time you spend with his kids and the other half is just you two.  You have to let him know how you feel though otherwise you'll go crazy and be bitter about him not spending any alone time w/you.
1090963
It sounds as though your focus is way off, & possibly because you don't want to acknowledge the real reason.  A lot of single guys look at a woman with 2 kids as having too much baggage, & they would prefer a woman who hasn't already got her life so set in stone as you do.  Add in the 2 jobs & they don't see you as someone who would ever have much time to devote to them.  Then there's the cousin with 4 kids, which would be enough to make most men run from this situation fast, because they would know the only way they could get any private time with you would be at their place.\n\nI think a lot of us single men would appreciate a woman who was willing to work & make something of herself.  However, the bulk of single men will see your past as a detriment to any chance of a serious relationship with you because they won't want to play the stepfather role.  They have worked too hard to get where they are in life to want to take on the responsibilities of a ready-made family.  As for single dads, they may feel their hands are full with their own children.  Finally, all guys are going to look at the situation you have with your cousin as you essentially living in a zoo, what with 6 kids running all over the place.  She is part of the equation, because you will be judged by the company you keep, & they will wonder why you two have what they would view as such a screwed up life.\n\nYour attitude may also scare off potential suitors.  In your effort to make it without the aid of a man, you seem to have a prejudice against men which we can pick up on easily.  Most men don't like feminists, & when you accuse them of being intimidated by your life, & use phrases like "'knight in shining armor' attitude" & "man's world", your hostility towards men bleeds through all too clearly.  It is good you have achieved what you have, but your bitter feelings towards men would be the last excuse any man would need to turn tail & get away from you as quickly as he could.  You'll need to work on seriously adjusting this aspect of your attitude if you ever wish to have a successful relationship with a man in the future, & counseling may be beneficial in this regard.  Good luck, & I hope you can get your issues in order so you can find the happiness you desire.
567513
I'm in my late 20's and have to consider this question while dating women often and this is what I come up with.  I have no problem dating a single mother as long as a few rules are adhered to. Don't let him meet your child until the relationship is at least a couple months old, because you don't want your child to have to meet a new guy every couple of weeks.  Know what you want out of the man, a relationship, or just a fling or what not. Lastly, and this is a tip and my personal opinion, but most men that would treat your child with respect and love will want another child........my personal pet peave with single mothers is that they don't want any more children.  Any man that would be a proper adult figure for your child will dream of one that comes from him too.  That's not to say that he will treat your child different, but dreams are dreams and any man who want's to be a father, will also want a child that both of you concieved.
94407
It is definitely OK -- in fact, more than OK. If it works for you and your wife, and you are able to support your family that way, then more power to you! Don't listen to anyone who suggests that this will be harmful to your kids (or future kids, if you don't have them yet), or that it implies you are a lazy man, or that your wife is a soul-less, ambition-driven-only woman. Those ideas are very narrow-minded!\n\nThe thing is that individuals and situations vary greatly. Not all women prefer to do housework over working outside the home. Not all men want to work outside the home. I know several men who are better at domestic duties than I will ever be. I know women who would die of boredom if they are in the home all day, and whose potential is much better put to use in an office or in their careers. \n\nMy husband's dad was a stay-at-home father. At one point, he and my mother-in-law both worked. But when her career really took off, it became much more logical financially for her husband to tend to the house and the kids, instead of earning a lower salary and then paying for someone to help out with the house. This way, a parent was home with the kids, and my husband turned out wonderfully. He never witnessed sexism in the home. He grew up thinking that women and men are equal, he wasn't biased with any stereotypes, and it wasn't until he got to school that he learned that people thought girls were "weaker." In fact he always viewed women as the more powerful and intelligent of the sexes, ha! And, may I say that he is so hard-working and has a great career. His parents are also very happy and still together. They are two of the greatest people you could meet.\n\nI think it takes a very special couple to work out this kind of arrangement -- the man has to be very confident in his masculinity and his choices, and the woman has to be assured in her knowledge that her working outside the home doesn't make her any less of a woman. If this arrangement works for you, I think that's something to be proud of, not ashamed of!
419446
i think its wrong that a man that has FIVE children is dating someone other than the mother of those FIVE children. \n\nfind a man more YOUR speed!
1172368
the right guy will come along he wont care that u have children ,he might have children too! i know many women some w/ 5 children anf found someone that loves them very much and married them!
526646
There is nothing wrong with it. But it is going to be hard to do if you want to have the children yourself. It is going to be hard for you to get a husband to go along with you sleeping with a lot of different men. Adoption seems like the best way to do it.
1019433
In my opinion.  You should not introduce your kids to someone you are dating, unless you know for sure that you are planning a future together....\n\nIf it doesn't work out, and you start dating someone else.  The kids won't be meeting different people....\n\nSee where the relationship is going first.....\n\nGOOD LUCK!
513037
I say yes if you trust them with your kids. It would be a night out with hubby. I don't get that often so I would jump at any chance I got. Go for it.
926949
I wouldn't feel that way ... I'm 26 with no kids .... so I have spent my youth doing what I want ... if adn when I do have kids ... I think I'm prepared to concentrate on them and their mommy
523846
She gets along better with guys then girls. I'm 24 in a serious relation ship and all my guy friends have gf, married and even have kids. There is nothing wrong with it. DEE DEE DEE!!!
485438
You need to go with your instincts. If they are telling you to not introduce your kid to new g/f, then dont. You obviously have your childs best interest at heart. Good Man!
615982
First things first i give you mad props for keeping your beauty.  Okay here it goes a man who dosen't have kids will be intimidated that you do. But don't go out with a man just because he dose have kids.  Make sure that whatever age range you go with that the first thing they know about you is that you have kids so that later on it dosent catch him by suprise. And THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS.... That he loves your kids and that your kids like him. Don't go out with a guy that your kids don't like.\n              Hope I've helped <3
460481
Why not! But at the end of the day its all about how you feel about a women with 2 kids! if its not what you want, dont go there....but if you think that you can take the challenge, go for it and enjoy the love and affection that she has to offer.