help! i love my best friend!?
445586
Loving your "best friend" is not a bad start.  Does he love you back.\nAnd stop playing with the word "LOVE"!
605227
If this person is your best friend, then chances are he already knows, and maybe feels a little of the same. it's natural between the sexes.\nDo you want to tell him because you need to nkow if he feels the same? What do you do if he doesn't, and if he does feel something, where do you go from there?? Downhill usually.\nIf there was a strong enough chemistry and bond between you to sustain a lasting relationship, then you both would have had it from the beginning, and gone way past "best friend" status.\nGood luck
920051
Tell your friend first how you feel about him.  You don't want to lose your best friend over a guy.
410041
I think you should ask your best friend and find out how she feels.  It would be wrong to loose a friend over a guy that you are not even sure you like.
501872
you should tell him i 'm in (love) with my best friend to you can't stop thinking about him you feel safe around him and your always smiling when he is to. you were probably scared thats why you said no and if it s the end of the year tell him the last day giv him ur # and then you won't have to deal with g/f the hole summer
853516
god! she  is where i was a yr ago. My best fren told me that he loves me, i said 'no lets be only frens'. but u know what a month later i realized that i love him. she would realize it too. the way he made me confess was- he stopped saying directly, but kept dropping hints that he loves me... like how lucky the guy who marries me will be... and how cute i am. \nn then he stopped talking to me for a while, then i mailed him that i really love him. try it. good luck.
203264
Tell her how you feel! Let her know it's bothering you. If she truly is your best friend,and truly cares about you(like you do her) she will understand!\n\n             -hope it helps-\n                  lots of luv!
597284
Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
657297
It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
136716
Pros & Cons:  List the good things about being with him and the negative things.  Which list is longer?  If the bad list is longer, then you've answered your own question: you need to move on.  If the good list is longer, you guys need to have a long, serious, open & honest convo soon.  See where he is and why its not you he loves.  You deserve to be loved honey.  Maybe youre not meant to be with him.  I know its easier said than done, but you need to take a step back from this situation and take a deeper look.  Imagine if your best friend were in this same situation:  What advice would you give her?
646511
I have a similar problem the only difference is I think of my best friend as a brother and he told me he was in love with me. You need to sit down and make some rules first to be in love with your best friend could be the best thing that ever happened to you. I understand you being scared that if your relationship moves forward and it doesn't work out you may lose your best friend, but make a pact that no matter what happens you will always be friends and talk things out before you do anything, always be there for each other and you may have found the love of your life.
482792
My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
601201
I currently have this problem... and know exactly how you feel. My best friend is in love with me and has been for about 10-11 years now. I tell him I don't see him that way and that I love him but not in those ways. But that doesn't stop him from trying... and he is moving down to my area with all the hopes that we would be together...
529659
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
151532
when you love your best friend, you can assume it's a true love, because you really know him. You know his best and you know his worst, yet you still love... if it continues to relationship, it will be a smooth journey.\nHowever, if he doesn't love you back as much as you love him, that's when you have to try hard to keep the friendship as good as now, and this is the hard part.
920844
woooooow your just about 4 or 5 years younger then me and you still seem a little young, girly you are a little too young, but anyway you need to ask yourself whats more important, your BESTFRIEND or some boy thats going to end up breaking your heart anyway...i dont want to make it seem horrible but who's to say the same thing he's doing to your friend he won't do to you?  how do you know if he's going to be promising your best friend a 'relationship' when you and him are together (3 years from now). just know that boyz come and go but friends last for ever. so ask yourself is he really worth it?
946428
If your best friend is really your best friend, she wouldn't take him away. I had a friend like that once and it killed me to be around her with guys because I would say I liked someone and then she would instantly like them too. And she would win because I would just give in. There is no point in fighting her on it, especially if she already knows how you feel about him. If she doesn't know, you need to tell her right away. You friend has betrayed you in the most hurtful way if she knows how you feel. You need to sit her down and explain that you like this guy more than she'll ever know and that you have known and liked him longer than she ever will. If she is truly your friend, she will cease to try to steal him away. If she won't stop, you need to find a new friend, a person who won't betray you. And you need to tell the guy. He deserves to make the choice with his true feelings. Tell him that you don't want things to change between you too, so if he doesn't feel the same way, to just forget that you said it, but in time you fell in love with your best  friend and you wonder if he feels the same way about you. Then, you are letting him know how you feel, even if he doesn't feel the same way.