whats better for marraige: a good lover or a good wife?
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A good wife..\na lover will soon get very boring and what will that leave you with.. a girl who is no longer a good lover and never was a good wife.
1001073
Taking care and satisfying the needs of your wife.  Not the wants but the needs.  Also being loving, caring, and both of you setting yourself on an equal platform.
384384
I love mine and I know that A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.\n\n      Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
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life is good but with a good wife you can have a good life and with the bad wife you can have bad life,so its not your life that is good or bad its the people around you which make your life enjoyable or not!\n\narminnourbaksh@yahoo.co.uk
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To have a good relationship I believe you should be honest, be truthful, and respectful toward the person you are referring to. These are very important qualities in a relationship. If you are referring to a male/female relationship oh boy you really have to work at it. It is also necessary to compromise in a relationship. It takes a whole lot of that. In other words, every thing is not one persons way all the time. Compromise, remember that ok? \nas u have asked we can't get good relation it is we have to create good relation with others if u be good with others they we be good to u but there are some options cases also so we also think with whom we have to create good relation ok bye \nThe 'how' is a big one. I have been married 2 x and on my 3rd one and I have really learned a lot from this new mate.\n\nWe never put one another down, and if we are upset we let one another know without yelling, or putting the person down. I found this makes a huge, huge difference. The trust has grown. \n\nEach day we both quietly look for something positive to comment on ..... today for instance my partner commented on how thoughtful I was with one of our children. Just a simple comment and it really made me feel good inside. \n\nI have found from experience that just because we are with someone for awhile we don't take advantage of this. It is special to be in a good relationship and well, be thoughtful. Thankful
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I prefer both!!! Love first and then respect... They are both important to me.... My husband loves me very much and treats me with respect and i do the same for him... This is the way it is supposed to be in marriage!
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You have to have honesty and trust as well as a devout love for one another.  Sacrifice and compromise are also important factors in a successful marriage.  Without a combination of all you leave too many openings for weakness and marriage should not be weakened in time but rather strengthened.
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as long as you both feel as winners ,yes its good!but marriage is all built on how much you try to be a winner and also make him to feel same!for me,although it was tough as we have too many differences,specially different cultures,it was very good!we fight,get sad,love,respect,share,laugh and ... looking at same thing and seeing differences is not matter but careing about similarities is the secret of a good marriage!
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The perfect wife is an impossibility.  Sorry, but we just weren't made to be perfect.\n\nHumans are not only very individualistic, we are also dynamic.  We change from day to day, and hopefully we grow.  And there is no way two people are going to mesh perfectly in their characters, much less their in their growth.\n\nIf you try to be the perfect wife for someone, something is going to give.  If you give up yourself, in the end you will never be able to have the emotion or intensity to make for a truly good relationship.  This is a soul destroying choice.\n\nInstead, go for being the best and realest wife you can.  This requires true honesty, not just of events but honesty of your own needs and desires.  It also involves compromise which sometimes means that you won't get what you want, and sometimes that your husband won't get what he wants.\n\nIf you have a relationship based on honesty and fairness, it will be greater and richer than any relationship you could have based on perfection.
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i would say love marriage. because you get to know the person before you actually fall in love and then married them. \nArranged marriage you are stuck getting married to someone that you dont even know.
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both are good but i guess love is better.\n\narranged marriages are a "learn to love" kinda thing....not everyone learns well lol
1159061
Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
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It can be psychologically harmful, but not physically. Being a good lover requires great self control during sex. When you are alone, you are not focused on the most important thing, which is giving pleasure to your wife. This bad habit carries over into marriage and is hard to break.
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My wife is my lover because she fulfill my every need in bed. She also  fulfills my emotional needs as well. You can have sex with someone and it would not be the same as having a lover. The term lover should really be reserved for that special someone that really get your heart pumping.
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All of the above honey.  Marriage and a relationship while married is a complex paradox of fun and pain and love and anger and joy and sadness.  In a good marriage the good things far outweigh the bad things, but marriage is work and sometimes (most of the time) not easy work.
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love with friend or having an affair is good only if u r faithful and honest to each other. \none should love at least once in life, as pure love makes a person a good human being and a loving soul
73267
If you are asking who you should choose between your wife and your girlfriend, the answer is your wife. But if you are asking whether you should make someone your wife or girlfriend, I suggest girlfriend because you are not ready to have a wife. If you are ready, you don't need to ask.