what do i do when my boyfriend is sneaking around with another woman?
445941
Everyone is saying the same thing and its true.  He is playing you like a deck of cards.  Dont worry about his feelings any more.  You have to take care of YOU!  The relationship is really, already over.  Now you just have to make it official.  Tell him good bye and good luck.  He isnt worth your time or tears.  No man is.
383417
Let him catch you in bed with another woman.... oh hang on, that might not work... another man may be better
628687
If I found out they were dating behind my back, I would dump BOTH of them, not 1. Just to make the process more efficient! :)\n\nCheer up, sh..t happens, you know.\n\nGet a new best friend, and a get a new boyfriend, too.\nHarsh to say, but this may be the only clean way out of this mess. \n\nDon't torture yourself... but defend yourself, as much as you can. Don't let your self-esteem go down beause of the two pigeons.
594948
You are better off not having neither one of them in your life. Karma's a bitch and what goes around, comes around. To make your life easier for you so that you can move on, talk to your friend. Tell her how you really feel. She betrayed you by sleeping with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend betrayed you as well because he knew exactly what he was doing and he didn't even stop it. It will take some time to get past this, but give yourself a chance on focusing your healing process and continue doing what you're supposed to be doing. Things will get better and you will have a new friend and a boyfriend that will not betray you. You don't have to forgive your friend if you don't want to. It is up to you and you have to do what is best for you right now.
1040326
You have more chance of losing this man because of your jealousy than you have of another woman taking him away from you. Do you think he will turn into a gibbering wreck who can't control his libido if he sees a semi naked woman? He wants to be with YOU! Unless you blindfold him then he will undoubtedly be exposed to naked women whether you l ike it or not. You really need to get counselling to get over the being cheated on issue so you can concentrate on enjoying yourself with your man.\nGood luck
212987
Talk to him about. You have to COMMUNICATE with the other person involved in your relationship. But I would give him the benefit of the the doubt with this one, it's kind of stupid to give another girl your number when you're physically with your girlfriend.\n\nIf this crap continues, confront him.
481949
Neither of you love each other since you both cheated, whether it was for plasure or revenge it doesnt matter. This is a mentally dangerous situation as that he has become a habit. Habits are hard to break especially the ones that last for years. You have been doing this for so long that you cant remember what life was like before him. You deserve better. Unfortunately you cant listen to your heart on this one. Leave. Does it feel good knowing he might have been inside another woman hours earlier without protection then inside you? Do you always want to have that feeling? Search your soul and find your courage to whats right for your emotional and mental future.
57206
you have to have trust or you will drive yourself crazy snooping and as i call it "playing inspector gadget"\nall you can do is be the best boyfriend you can and if she messes up you can't blame yourself.
245954
Be honest with her.  Just ask her if there is something going on. Don't be mad at her, but you as a boyfriend have a right to know if there is anything going on with her and another man.  Tell her that you love her and don't want anything to happen between you 2 but you just need to know because you are feeling uncomfortable with things without knowing.
588154
The problem isn't this other woman, the problem is your boyfriend.  A guy can only be manipulated by a woman if that is what he really wants.  If your boyfriend really loved you then he would end all contact with this other girl.  I think he is using her the same way you think she is using him.  Maybe they both deserve each other because you certainly deserve a man who can only be manipulated by you.
1137898
Been there!...done That!......If you really want to intiate something with him, you need to share your feelings with him, and let him know he has to choose....."why buy the milk"....really does apply. and besides, how do you know he has never cheated, why would his girlfriend immediately jump to that conclusion if she did not already have suspicions of her own....take a step back...enjoy the moment you had, but don't get caught up in it....and think about it, do you really want to be the other woman?  have more respect, demand more respect from him
1056299
I say you choose.  Either leave your boyfriend and be with the other man, or stop seeing the other man and be with your boyfriend.  It is not fair to either of you, especially him for you to go on having a sham of a relationship.\n   You have to grow up here and make a real choice.  You are treading in dangerous territory and you can only hurt yourself and your boyfriend continuing on the path you are on.\n   Ask yourself why you are cheating, and decide if it can be fixed so you no longer want to.  Or, is it just a selfish need to be with two different men?  Only you can decide, unless he finds out and dumps you because of your cheating ways.  \n   Good luck and I hope you make the right decision.
102625
Your boyfriend has unknowingly made a serious confession to you. He has blatantly told you that until he has his "wonderlust" out of his system he cannot be faithful to you. The smartest thing you can do, and do it now, is to tell him to go for it.... date all the women he thinks he needs to but let him know that he won't be seeing you at the same time and there is always the possibility that you won't be available when the "other women" are out of his system. How he reacts to that will tell you more about your \nboyfriend in one minute that you've learned about him in the\n1 1/2 years you've been together. Good Luck darlin'
570283
dont feel guilty.\nits none of their monkey business\nface this one of a kind challenge in your life\nlet the people know how much you love your boyfriend\ndefend your relationship.
1040237
Man! That's a tough one! But the fact of the matter is that the boyfriend was cheating! Doesnt matter if it was with another man, woman or she-male. So I would kick some butt then dump the boyfriend.
960371
dear partygirl,\nyour boned. there isnt much you can do, by involving both parties in sex you have created paranoia. there realyl is no remedy to this.think about it like this... Q: do you ever wonder if the two see each other without you knowing?  A: you should. i tried this thing that you did and it ended up killing the entire relationship, for both.\nso here is what you should do... in my humble oppinion... figure out what is more important, him or her? then my best advice to you is to cut the relationship off. with one of them only if you want to continue with one... i resolved my own situation with that anwser. now you got to think Q: do they have a right to be justified in jealousy? A: of course they do.  i would be very jealous if i knew that the person i was in a relationship went to someone else with theyre problems. a relationship is best left monogamous... or discreetly otherwise i.e a commited relationship whilst just bringing in outside parties.... like someone you met at a bar or a freind of a freind. nobody close to you. it causes conflict. so basicly figure out who is most important to you, and ditch the other or even better ditch both and find a new guy.
693474
I would tell him that he is no longer with them, and any problems you guys have, stays between the two of you. He needs to stay away from them. If he needs to talk to someone, he can talk to you, and that is that. No way would I bend on that. How do you know he isn't still sleeping with any of them? I don't trust a man that has to run to another woman. If he insists on still going to them, then tell him if that's where he feels the need to run to, then he should stay there.