i'm starting to fill sorry for my ex-husband.....?
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Do not make any moves in his direction.  If he really wants to see his son, he will come to you and ask.  Make him ask you, not through a friend.  That way you will be able to see him face to face and judge his sincerity and truth for yourself.\n\nDo not let him fancy talk you...remember, your number one concern is the welfare of your child.  It may not be in his best interest to see his father if his father will be doing nothing but causing trouble between the two of you.  No child needs be surrounded by troubled parents that can't get along.  Make sure you are both in the right place before sharing your child.  I have already been through all of this.
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Don't feel guilty about what happens to him if you're unhappy.  You're carrying too much weight on your shoulders.  Worry about yourself.  You should not take pity if you want to end something clean.  Besides, you are not his mother.
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You deserve someone better,of course you miss him,that's normal.Humans have feelings,you will get over it soon.Keep yourself busy so wont think of it,whenever you are free do something like spend more time with your children.Almost forget ask him for maintenance fee.
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Well in my opinion I believe your husband feels you are going to Dr. Phil for help instead of him, but if he is like most men, they do not help anyway.  Have you talked to counselors before about your feelings?  I think you need to find a good friend or a counselor to get this out and have someone to talk to about it.  I don't think it is healthy to go back to older harder times always, but sometimes it is good, it is just what we need Women need to cry sometimes, now when I say sometimes I am not referring to everyday ;) I hope one day you can let the past go some. Hope you find someone that you can talk to also. Goodluck
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Ya most of the time the truth does come out,the only thing you can do is day your sorry. Balls in his court then. Me personally depending on what you said. I'd probably dump ya.
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It is pretty obvious that you did not have everything resolved when you divorced the ex.  I think the only thing you can do at this point is to discuss your feelings with your current husband.  There is a reason why you are with him and this is something that if left unchecked may cause a problem in your current marriage.  Next, maybe you need to seek counseling with your current husband in regards to your feelings about your ex.  I am quite sure there are people out there that still have feelings for their ex's, but they realized they are divorced for a reason.  I guess what I am saying is you need to do some soul searching and try to limit any problems before things get out of hand.  Be honest with yourself and seek whatever help you need to preserve your marriage (current) because that is who you chose to spend the rest of your life with.\n\nGood Luck with what ever you decide and I'll pray for you!!!\n\nWT
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hi there right first things first do youre self a favour and do not go back to him he will only continue to use you as a punch bag 2nd stop giving him money he is only going to pour it down his throat and you need all the money you have for youre self nd kids if they are involved ,next start logging every and i mean every call you get from him and every time he turns up phone the plice and get him removed this is going to be a really hard next 6mths at least .....im just starting to get the message through my x husbands head now and i have taken that idiot to court and won ,you need to be really strong and he will play mind games with you and try to get you back but believe me dont you will move on from this and become  strnger woman and find some one how will not use you as a punch bag as he has ....good luck and take care xxxx
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I'm going through the same thing. Just think about how much happier they will be when they finally get a divorce. Nothing is your fault, and there isn't much you can do to help. I'm so sorry. It can be really hard to go through this. Find a friend that you can talk to. That helps the most out of everything.
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It sounds to me that he just needs time to think things through and that is ok. Let him think and give him his space to do so. Yes you should call him to say you are sorry and ask him for forgiveness but at the same time dont bug and pressure him! Give him the space and time that he needs. Dont pressure him or nag him. Just pray for him and trust God for your marriage. May I suggest the book the power of a Praying Wife to you by Stormie Ormartian. It is a great book and they sell it at Walmart. Since he wants his space you take time to think things through too and try to change yourself and learn from your mistakes and learn how to become the wife you need to be for him. I am here if and when you need to talk. I understand why you are confused and hurt but so is he. Why don't you try to find a person or counselor to talk with and also ask him if he is open to going to a marriage counselor with you. See if he wants to work on the marriage or stay apart for a while. But do what he says and wait till Saturday afternoon. Respect him for this and give him this time and he will love you for it. Hope this helps some. I hope things get better for you and your marriage soon. Here comes hugs your way today.\nhttp://www.marriagetoday.org
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Well, of course your going to feel this way. Having someone take advantage of your good nature would naturally scorn anyone's soul and heart. How long has it been since the divorce? Your just going to have to have time to heal. I would suggest though going out to put your mind at ease, but don't rush into another relationship quite fast.  Trust is something your going to just have to build with women again. Look back at your ex-wife were there signs that she was out for just money? If so use those signs to your advantage and beware of such signs in future relationships. DON'T EVER TELL SOMEONE YOUR DATING THAT SHE WAS A GOLD DIGGER. This may lead them to believe you could easily manipulated and taken advantaged of regardless of how long the marriage was. Simply say it was mutual and you rather not discuss it. Besides it's no body's business regardless of whom your dating or not. If there were no signs then be even more aware don't be to harsh w/ us women NOT all of us are out for money. I will pray for you strength to get back on your feet. You pray for a good Christian woman to come into your life and to be able to learn to trust again. Good Luck & God Bless. When you decide to become involved with someone again don't continue to be on the defensive either. You choose to date the woman so give her a chance, but just be aware of signs. Trust her, until you have proven it to be other wise or it's broke.  Don't allow your insecurity from a previous relationship or your ex-wife to ruin your chance for happiness.
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Sign up my ex-wife....
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YOU NEED TIME TO GRIEVE...YOU WILL GET BETTER OVER TIME...DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU TO "GET OVER IT"...AT LEAST YOU HAVE A HEART...MY SYMPATHY TO YOU...AND I'M NOT ASHAMED TO SAY "GOD WEEPS FOR YOU TOO. HE GETS NO PLEASURE IN SEEING PEOPLE SUFFER." CRY WHEN YOU MUST...SOME OF US HERE CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS...BEST TO YOU...Phantom of the Blog
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You feel so bad because you are interacting with a narcissistic sociopath.  He keeps coming back and wooing you so you can tell him how lovable he is.  Then he "wins" by dumping you again.\n\nStop playing his game!  The only possible outcome is for you to get hurt again and again.  The next time he contacts you, tell him you have a stable relationship and don't want anymore contact.  Then hang up, put him on your email spam list, and throw away his letters unopened. He probably has a vast set of victims just like you, so he can go torture somebody else.
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tel him how you feel, adn that you are truely adn deeply sorry, thats all you can do.
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The feelings that you are feeling are a form of grief.  You are grieving for the marriage you wish you could have had with him. These feelings will remain with you until you find a way in your heart to forgive him for what you feel he took from you. This is not something that people can advise you about in this limited format.\n\nI too was trained in the art of rage and hate as a child. It stayed with me for almost 50 years. I thought that the rage was in control of me until something showed me that it was a simple choice that I myself was making. At first this idea seemed preposterous. A friend suggested that I get a book called the course in miracles. I thought this sounded stupid  and I resisted the idea.\n\nEventually I gave in because I was so miserable that I would have tried anything to get free of the debilitating rage and hatred that was so much a part of my life. \n\nThe course showed me things that I had never dreamed of. It taught me that I was in control of my thoughts, and that my anger was the product of the way that I had been taught to view the world. I learned that my anger was the product of my expectations and often my expectations were illogical.\n\nMost of all the course taught me the power of forgiveness. Learning to forgive was the key to freeing myself from the self inflicted pain of the hate that I had learned to carry with me through life.\n\nI suggest you get a copy of the course in miracles and see if it can help you the way it helped me.\n\nIf you think I can be of any help email.\n\nI wish you peace of mind dear Sister.\n\nLove and blessings Don
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People grieve in different ways. They shut down in different ways. Not all people sit home, cry, and listen to "the way we were" . some party and drink to forget. You don't know whats going on inside his mind or heart. I don't think he is in love with this woman, but I do think he is grieving and heart broken. I don't know what went on between you two. I have a feeling you are the ex or want to be the next with him. I don't know want went down as to why him and his wife are split but, it sounds like he needs some post divorce counseling, especially if he is drinking his sorrows away.
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You should be grateful he's nice enough to apologize, and you should be glad that he's still willing to be friends with you. Concentrate on the good things in life.