What would you do if the same girl at my daughter school keep on bully and hass. her?
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I have to be honest, if you see this girl pull her aside and tell her if she lands another finger or if you see her talking to your daughter you will take matters into your own hands. If she tells anybody else you threatened her.deny it..your the adult, then most likely the parents will start looking into it. I am serious! It works.
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since you are at school for all of this... and yes you arent going to like my answer but it is the truth... you should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor about the bullies... after that eventually if they do anything else to you, tell on them and they will have to stay away from you... if they have to stay away from you then you can walk right up to your friend...
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Is this happening at and around school?  Most bullying seems to happen as part of going to school and while in school.  And how old is your daughter?  Those are important factors.\n\nDo try to teach your daughter be assertive, but she is probably not strong enough to fight the bully physically as some posters have suggested ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. Bullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. I don't know how old your daughter is, but this problem needs to be dealt with. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nIf this is happening at school, most schools have someone you can go to so that some adult there will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you and she both trust, the principal, someone. If this bully has actually attacked your daughter, go to the police. The bully can be charged. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL someone else. \n\nHere are some well researched tips, designed for the kids, on dealing with bullying that may help you and your daughter:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyone from that bully.  Your daughter is brave to tell.\n\n2. Tell someone you trust who can do something - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n\n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n\n5. Develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids they think others won't hlep.\n\n6. Act confident.\n\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that you can take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defence program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends who will support you. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you and your daughter can do to deal with this.\n\nI hope this helps you. Good luck with sorting this out. Don't give up. There is help out there. Take care.
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I understand and know exactly what your niece is going through. I was teased from 1st grade all the way to 8th. yeah...I know, lol. Let her know that, those kids doing that stuff to her are seriously jealous of her and that it eventually will catch up to them. Also i suggest that she find a teacher or principle in the school, she can talk to about this. Preferably a teacher because they give advice and they are easier to talk to. If they speak spanish, tell her to say, " Cayette(kie-a-tay) which means shut up! lol. No seriously, I would suggest that she stand up for herself as well. Look them in the eye at all times that she has something to say. Also, tell her not to be a push over. Kids who pick on others, always ask to borrow things and use things from the kids they tease. Tell your niece to say no, but do it politely. Everything will be ok.  Im sure she has friends she can rely on as well, so it should be fine. But one thing you as the adult can do, is call up to the school and let an adult there know whats going on and see if anything can be worked out like a mediation thing or something. Hope I helped, and tell your niece to keep strong!
900129
How is she abusing you? And you need to tell someone. Tell your school principal or call the police. Tell someone.
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That's a tough situation.  I had a bully in 7th grade.  Ultimately, and it will be the hardest thing to do, but you have to tell an adult.  Someone that will listen.  A parent, or a teacher.  Someone that can watch your back and put the bully in his place.  I know it sounds like tattling or ratting on this person... but think about the news stories.  There's violence out there and you just can't keep quiet about it.
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This one is for my daughter-- She's seven\nThis girl at school is always picking on her and she just takes it.\nThe mean girl has a crush on the cutest boy in class.  As the mean girl was tormenting my daughter the boy came up and threw a mud pie in the mean girls face and told her to shut up.  Everyone laughed at the mean girl. Now my daughter knows that other people don't agree with the mean girl and she stands up for herself.  Kids can be so cruel.
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Here are some things for you to keep in mind, and share the appropriate parts with him.  It is part of an answer I did a while ago for someone who was being bullied .....\n\nIn dealing with a bully, do be assertive, but the child being bullied is not usually strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. \n\nBullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nMost schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you trust, the principal, someone. Can you go to the bully's parents and tell them? If the bully has actually attacked the child, go to the police. The bully can be charged. This is not a laughing matter. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL. Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2. Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5. develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6. Act confident.\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you can do to deal with this.\n\n\nI hope this answer has something of value in it for you.
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My daughter had a similar experience.  (We live in Indiana).  You must act now to protect your daughter.  \n\n1.  Hire an attorney.  The attorney can explain YOUR and your daughter's rights.  Any information you receive from the school will be slanted to their best advantage.\n2.  Demand that your daughter not be in any classes or situations where the boy is --- including lunch, homeroom, gym, and especially  where he could be alone with her.\n3. Talk to your daughter and ask her what she wants.  It is important that you give her a voice in what occurs.  Don't shelter her, that will only make her feel more vulnerable.  Have her go with you and Dad when you go to the attorney.  What you need to do now is to empower her.  Not to be mean, but I sense that your daughter is a great student but perhaps 'shy' or non-assertive which allowed this boy to assault your daughter. Your job now is to give her the skills to protect herself now and in the future.  You need to TELL her that you are doing everything to protect her and put your words into action.  \n4.  I'm unsure where you live.  Indiana has enacted anti-bullying legislation, perhaps your state has too.  \n6.  If your daughter has been traumatized so much that she is having trouble focusing in school...doesn't feel safe...etc., talk to her school counselor, perhaps your daughter could have an extended excused absence until the boy is sentenced and removed from school...\n5. But to answer your question, your school must actively protect your daughter from this boy.  \n\nGOOD LUCK.
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It appears you have been very professional in dealing with this - good on you!  Do you belong to a professional organization of teachers?  They should be able to provide more support.\n\nInterpersonal relationship advice.....why does she have any power over your students?  You've done very well in modelling appropriate behaviour - good on you!  Is there another teacher who could give your students peer partners?  That would give another opportunity for appropriate modelling.  Ask her students about their motivation:  What do they get from being mean to the girls?  Until you understand the underlying fears of the people involved, you won't be able to determine their motivation.  Sometimes we just have to work with jerks - realize her limitations and work around them.
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Just talk to him and tell him to start standing up for himself. All it takes is a little courage and strength. Tell the bullies to back off and give him some room to breath. believe it or not if he never stands up for himself he will continue to keep getting bullied. people tend to pick on those who they know wont do anything or say anything back to them, but when they defend themselves the bullying will eventually stop.
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it depends. r they bullying u physically?  r they threatening 2 hurt u?  Or r they just verbally bullying and calling u names?  I've been verbally bullied b4.  I've been called a toothpaste eater, ugly, stupid, and stuff like that.  Then one guy threatened 2 shoot me.  I would say tell your parents or complain 2 the school.  Ignoring them may help or hurt depending on the situation.  Hang out w/ your friends as much as u can cuz bullies r less likely 2 hurt u w/ a bunch of people around. I know what u r going thru tho:)
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I would say if the teacher is not willing to take responsibility then go to the principal. There are laws against bullying and the school is responsible for the safety of the kids while in the learning environment.\n\nApproach the teacher 1st. Document everything including the meeting (in form of emails/meeting minutes etc) and take a witness with you as a double back-up. If that fails, have a meeting with the principal. Document that too. In the worst case scenario you can always take them to court.\n\nAlso try and talk to your child and get details about the bullying. Generally bullies pick on those they consider weaker. So if your child shows that there is support or can stand up to them they might stop harrassing her.
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I was bullied until I put a girl in the hospital. That ended the problem. She threatened me, would pull pranks on me, and one day decided to put a pocket knife through my hand and stab my hand to the cafeteria table. So, I crushed her throat.... Nobody bothered me after that.
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If you're being bullied, you need to talk to your parents or teachers and get it stopped. You shouldn't have to go through that.
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Some friend she is. Trust me I went thru da same shit in middle school. This bitch ain't worth it. I use to be like you. A lil shy. I look back n it just pisses me off how I let ppl like her walk all over me. U gotta be cool and set her straight. Make some new friends n start ignoring her. When she confronts 2 u about it, u can just tell well u've been doin the same thing to me n u just ain't worth it if ur only gonna be my friend so that u can benefit from me then I ain't goona deal wit it no more cuz u know wat... I don't have to..(walk away)
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I would suggest that you let her remain in public schools, mostly because she is already shy, home schooling will just withdraw her from more social interaction.  You have two options, let your daughter know that everyone goes thru phases and that she should ignore the "bullies" and focus on her school work and friends in which case the bullies will either give up because they know it doesnt bother her anymore or hopefuly they will grow up.  your other option would be to see if you area has another local school that has open enrollment that would alow her to change school districts and give her a fresh start.