What will it take for us to learn from are mistakes? What makes us go back to things that hurt us?
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We are all inperfect due to inherited sin, so it is actually obvious that we all make many mistakes, it is a real struggle to do things the right way, but we can prevail, if we LEAN on God, repent, and trust that if we keep trying, God will see that. The thing is with humans is that we are such weak creatures that we often take a long time to learn even the simplest of lessons, more important than being successful, is TRYING to be successful, and never forget God knows our limitations, he knows us better than we know ourselves. People could also try praying when they FEEL temptation to do something wrong, and not just praying after we have made the mistake. God will give strength and power beyond what is normal to peiple if they are sincerely trying to do what is right.
454117
Learn from your mistakes and keep your head up.  Things really could be worse.
317054
No. The reason why I'm here and answering this question is because I did things in my past that I regret or even hated. These things that we have been hating and want to get back at or rewind are the reasons we are who we are today. \n\nIf ever we regret the fact that we are who we are, it is the same thing as regreting what we chose before. Because if you ever wanted to undo the bad things that occured to you, there is no way to redo the good things, or even bring back the times after you changed your fate.
332467
God does not forgive us before we make mistakes.  He has already provided the way by which we can be redeemed -through Christ.  The forgiveness comes only after we repent and do what we can to correct what we have done wrong.  Without repentance, there is a very real reason to fear Hell.
50256
Sadly society is on a backswing to the depression era, when big business ruled supreme. We'll come out of it eventually, but not soon enough.\n\nWhy can we just learn from our mistakes instead of repeating them? By the time this mess is over we'll be a third world country!
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it all depends on what you have done. some things are just not forgiveable or atleast forgettable. i messed up on something with one of my best friends now i am lucky to see him maybe a few times a year and that's usually like in the park becaue we both go there. He don't come by he rarely if ever calls. If i call him sometimes he might call me back but thats the price i guess you pay for screwing up. i mean i know i messed up and i have tried so many things to prove that i know i messed up and it wont happen again but its their choice. when you have been hurt by someone close to you even if it wasn't on purpose and they are sorry its hard to ever trust them again. give it time. keep showing ur friends that you sorry and it wont happen again. but in the end its their choice they were hurt and not everyone is going to risk it again even if you really are sorry. you have to live and learn. learn from your mistake and dont let it happen ever again to anyone.
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Unfortunately that's part of life.... we've hurt people we can't apologize to, or we can't FIX a bad situation, and we are forced to live with the regret.\n\nIf you can, hire a PI as suggested by Steffy above.  The PI can probably find him.
313467
yes i think we should learn a lesson and be hurt first to be able to see what were doin wrong... and people are like that we are all numb when it comes to others feelings, we need to be hit first with a big rock!and you know,people are people,we are all just the same we just hate to admit it!
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i think twice personally. the first one we learn from. we then know what its like and cant just be curious. when we hit the second one we know what to expect and what we need to do
471476
Realize that no matter how much it hurts you might never get that person back from either your mistake or that persons. If it's meant to be, it will. Hate that statement, but it's true.
442377
Alright, slow down and write down what it is that you did or you think you did. Then, write down what you should have done. If you did something bad then you need to ask for forgiveness. Communicate to your friend. Sometimes, we do stuff that is hard for someone to forgive. Your job is to ask for forgiveness. Don't expect forgiveness right away. If you care about the friendship then give it your best try. Wait, and then see what happens while taking care of yourself.\n\nOne of life's meanings is that you learn from your mistakes. You will grow from this if you choose to learn.
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Face up to your fault in creating the baggage, learn from what you did, forgive yourself, then forgive those around you. Don't spend all of your time thinking about things that happened to you in the past. So many people define themselves by "what happened to me." Jesus f'ng Christ! Once you cross a difficult bridge, burn it behind you and move on. The guy who cheated you and stole your fortune and nearly ruined your life is not your enemy. You are your own worst enemy. Just move on. Lessons learned are like bridges burned. \n\nI have close friends who have done something called the Landmark Forum and tell me that it helped them to finally let go of the demons from their past. It is pretty intense and I'm sure some people take it too far. The message, however, seeem orthodox. Rather than take a few baby steps, this program focuses on life transformation. Might be worth looking at.
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Because we reap what we sow, and we deserve it........we need to learn those lessons the hard way because it makes us a stronger person later on and it builds character, it might teach you to be more responsible and teach you to think before you act the next time. Many reasons.
200720
age old question my friend =)\n\ni beleive  each of us has a destiny relative to perception.\nwhat we see as right/wrong is based on past experiences and relationships\n\nto go forward..we must go back
658507
well i think if you get hurt bad enough it just takes time you have to take risks and trust someone again and again until it becomes easier you may get burned here and there but you have to get past it. It just isn't fair for everyone around you to be judged by your fears of being hurt - sometimes you can push people to do what you are afraid they'll do by insinuating it or you will miss out on a lot of good times because you are afraid to get too close You are damaging your life by being unable to trust Just get over the past and trust little by little . . .good luck I AM STILL WORKING THROUGH THE SAME ISSUES but i have learned that you can hurt the people you love by not giving them your full trust you just have to learn to risk it . .
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I think that it will be nothing more than having a knowledge that we could of had so much more, but we choose to make bad choices, and do things that went against our own conscience, thus the endless punishment will be of our own creation, because we didn't do what we were suppose to.\nDoes that make sense. Just like when we screw up here, we belittle ourselves for our mistakes. Well on the other side it will just be more intense because we will have a fuller knowledge of things, and we won't be able to change them because our time of probation has past. Now is the time to prepare to meet our MAKER.
198520
Unless you want to get hurt again. You already know what he did and he knows it too. So why go through it again? Are you sure he won't remember what he did and not do it again, and again? If you go back to him, you are the only one to blame.