Should i stay here and be depressed or leave and be poor and stuggeling all the time?
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i think you should graduate from high school first.\nthen go get a job.  if you want a MUCH BETTER JOB, then \ngo to college and a degree! \n  \n   If money is an issue, why don't you do the PEACECORPS? you\ngo over to a foriegn country for two years to volunteer! And they pay for your housing and food, and also airfare!
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what do you do as a job? i found that i had to change my attitude in a lot of different areas of my life. i don't know exactly what i'd suggest for you since i'm not sure what type of work you do. are you religious at all? that is something i got away from and i found myself sinking deeper and deeper into anger and despair. have you talked to your doctor about it? i have had to stay on an antidepressant. my family has a history of depression. sometimes we just have chemicals in our brains that are out of whack. it is hard to deal with life if your brain isn't working properly. i have made myself always look on the bright side. i dont' know you, but as a starter, you can be happy that you have a roof over your head and at least some type of employment. i honestly know how you feel. please don't consider killing yourself. i don't know how many times i made passive/aggressive attempts to harm myself. i was wreckless and i did not care at all. it's an awful feeling. i really suggest you talk to a doctor. psychological sickness is the same as physical sickness. some people do not understand that. there are methods to heal yourself. please talk to someone. i'll say a prayer for you.
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take positive action today, right now. Life is too short and precious. I am your age and have recently retrained after 2 horrible years of illness. I am now doing a job i love. It was tough to get here but well worth it. Be prepared for things to get a little worse before they get better. for example you may be quite low on cash for a while. \nFirst...what do you want to do? need inspiration? look through the job pages, or check out what courses are available. \nsecond...if you don't want to be in this country, where do you want to be? \nthird...how about giving yourself some thinking time and doing something positive and rewarding to fight off the depression? You're young enough to be eligible for loads of charitable organisations, for example BUNAC. They pay for your flights, you do some volunteer work in an interesting place. Might help to get you some perspective.\ngood luck xx
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It sounds to me that you are being selfish and you seem to have every right to be. It ain't easy out there on your own. You'll need a job to pay rent and buy food, try to share with someone and go halfs on everthing. Loneliness is a problem when you leave home, don't get into a bad relationship and get pregnant. That will double your problems. You have to do this, if you don't you will regret it all your life but ... Try not to piss your family off. You may find that it is worse out on yor own and want to go back. Take as little as possible so that they think that you will be back and expect you back. Leave a separate note to your Mum and sister, DON'T CRITICISE THEM, just say that you feel that you think that you are ready to go it alone and you have to try it. They are going to go nuts when you phone them, they will tell you that you are too young, to inexperienced, too stupid etc. Just say "Ok You may be right but I need to find out for myself"\n\nGood luck! You're going to need it.
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You are so narrow minded I am surprised the tiny brain that you have has got enough room to move around in that tiny head of yours.\n\nNot all homeless are there by choice. Not all homeless are idle or lazy. Not all homeless are drug takers alcoholics or mentally ill.\n\nI was homeless for 12 months whilst I was waiting for rented accommodation which I now have. The local authority have a long list of those waiting for a home, but housing shortages sometimes leads to a person becoming homeless.\n\nWhilst homeless I knew of several people who held down steady jobs earning their living, paying their taxes, contributing to society!\n\nUntil you have experienced it or even researched it don't get knocking the homeless because you might find that being homeless wasn't their choice in the majority of cases.\n\nThe reason for my homelessness was that the ex girlfriend I was with was being very unfaithful as I caught her with another man 3 days before we were due to get married.\n\nI made a success of my life setting up my own travel information business and am now a successful travel writer, does that appear to you as laziness? Bone Idle. Get off of your butt and do some research into a problem before you knock it mate! You could be the next homeless person. You can never tell what waits for you in the life pathway.\n\nQ. Were you being bone idle to use spell check as some of your spelling is slightly under par!
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you have to love your self and have a piece of mind. verbal and or physical abuse is not good at all. Many people can tell you to leave but I feel that it is up to you when your really, really tired, you'll go with no hesitation. If not, you will suffer the consequences.
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You are going to have to create your escape plan. Start building a bridge to get out. While your doing it, do something you like to do after work and do it.Your happiness is more important than putting up with people that don't care and are stuck abusing you!
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depends on how long you've been in your new area. if it hasnt been that long i suggest seeing if things pan out. but if you stay for a long time and find that you're miserable and still cant call the place "home" then i'd get out.
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your just taking the easiest way out. if you end it, then your parents will be sad and everyone who knows you will be sad, b/c you havent had a chance to experience life at all. just talk to somone, like your parents, siblings, or somone you can rely on to help you. if you end it, then your a WIMP, b/c your not dealing with your problems! just talk to someone like me: amchaseltine@yahoo.com\ni can help you. just write me, and ill help!\npleze no 1 else write me
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The tough choice in life, i was in a similar situation a long time ago, the first question is, do you have a good support system or the father of your children that can help take care of your children temporarily till you get your life together, it seems from this letter that you have to prioritize with  what you have to do before you end up homeless. My only suggestion is survival and a strong will get you through, and only you can help yourself even if there are tough decision you have to make in order to survive.  always, empathy in CT
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i think always go for a happy enviroment in a job , because you would only end up depressed and felling worthless in an unhappy enviroment.But if your dessperate after money then go for the well paid one !!!
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I spent like 3 months in grmany for doing an internship , i was feeling the same thing that you may be feeling . Kind of Lonely/depressed/confused.Discombobulated is the word if i may say. Actually this decision is for you to make.Are there other people from your country there ? Do you really like them ? do some introspection.Remember ,your mental health is more important than economic well being. Because ,if you do not ,things may go out of hand too.For me , I just cut short my trip & came back.
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We're all placed in stressful situations sometimes that are difficult to cope with. My best advice to you is to look at the positive side of things. The fact that you have a job and an income is a good thing. The fact that you are using a computer to access the Internet is a great privilege (believe me it's a privilege). The fact that you were raised in this great nation is an opportunity. You sound young and you entire life is ahead of you. This is only a chapter in your life. A chapter is bound to end when another begins. Have patience and faith in yourself and in your ability to change your perception of your situation. Thank God for the moments that you have. Remember, this is life, not a dress rehearsal. Make everyday count. And finally, I have personally found that I feel a lot better when I stop focusing on my own problems and try to offer help to someone else. We get so focused on self sometimes that we forget that there are people out there who are in a much worst situation than us. Try to lend a helping hand to someone, and you will see how blessed you will become.
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I would contact social services. You obviously have a place to stay or you would not be on here. Stay in school, they will pay or child care. Social services should have plans for you and your situation. Do not stop talking with your parents. Keep attempting to work things out with them. You may have toget a job after school. email me if you like, i am a life coach and will coach you for free. james101092@yahoo.com
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If you're really frustrated living there, I would look into a different living situation, if financially possible.  Maybe live with friends/roommates if money's an issue. (That seems to be the main reason most ppl live with family.)\n\nBut while you're still there, work on communication with them.  Suggest a time when you guys can talk, and tell them about your concerns.  Using the "I" language helps reduce defensive behavior.  So, instead of saying "You never listen to me", try saying "I feel I'm not being listened to".  The first version can come out sounding accusatory, whether you mean it or not.  They'll hear the second version as you communicating your feelings.  \n\nGood luck!
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Well you will find different problems facing you in different area you may live in with this question.\nOnly thing I can tell you is this Just do the best job you can do with what you have available and keep on keeping on. \nTo answer you question lol I would say no.
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Stick with it. But make sure that you get a place of yours & yours alone. (I hate myself for trying to live with roommates again.) You've come this far, and it will only be harder to go back to school. It's an accomplishment to be accepted to grad school and it's an accomplishment to make it through a year in an awful living situation. You know full well that "what" you major in doesn't neccessarily determine the work that you'll do. Try to change your study habits (even the type of notebook you take notes in can help change your attitude a little.) Finishing grad school will provide many more prosperous opportunities. Chances are you'll want the education just as much as you did before once the stress clears.