FOR A FRIEND: What is the protocol for a girl when the engagement is broken? Return the ring or keep it?
451227
I think she is having a lot of emotions about the ring. It was a symbol of love and she is mourning the loss of the relationship and the promise that was made. Every time she looked at it she was reminded of the love that they had created together and the hope of their upcoming future together. \nI'm surprised no one said....sell it and get something eles!\nA woman who was truly in love with the man could never sell the ring because of what it stood for. She would never want that ring to be on another finger representing the same things for another couple.\nIf it is kept, what will become of it. It will not ever be used again.........and will only be a reminder of the heartbreak that she had to endure.\nI would say, even though it will be very painful to part with it, she should send it back to him. I personally, would send a heartfelt letter explaining how hard it was to do that because the ring was so symbolic of all the love that they had shared together, etc.
238816
My gf did that to me 4 times, with her begging that it will not happen again.  Since i was so much in love with her i let it slide.  But after the 4th one with her Ex, i just had to let her go and move on.  I bought a $5,000 ring for her engagement, but never could give it to her, so she sobbingly watched me give it and the receipt to a homeless guy.  Never could love anyone deeply like that again, not even my current wife.\n\nAll i am saying is that the choice is yours.  sometimes people can change, and sometimes they don't. We just have to make sure that the decisions we make now will not come and bite us in the future.  Good luck
800731
I have had plenty of male friends who have been through this before. Before the two of you call it quits you should have a nice dinner (preferably at home becuase it might get emotional) to just talk...tell her that you just want to start over. Pretend this dinner is your first date, use it as a way to rekindle what you had and find out why you guys decided to get married. Also explain the way you feel and encourage her to do the same.
902076
Whatever comes straight from ur heart..the most simple and private proposal is the best..... trust me no matter how u do it... she will love it.. coz she loves u more than any1 and thats all that matters.... but dnt forget the ring,, even if its only sumthing thats worth 2 pounds,,, it wud be pricless to her... ;-)
282391
#1 Sorry you are upset and that your relationship ended badly.\n\n#2 NEVER give away something that was in your family to anyone. He can consider it a gift and choose not to return it. \n\n#3 Write him a letter and send it certified mail, restricted delivery, return receipt requested. Explain why the bracelet is important to you and ask fot it back without mentioning anything about breaking up or your hurt. Make the letter only about the bracelet. Enclose a self addressed, stamped envelope in the letter so he can mail it back to you without confrontation. By it being restricted delivery, his parents cannot sign for the letter nor can they refuse delivery. It has to be taken care of by him. Make sure that you fill out the envelope that you want him to return it in also as a certified letter etc. and keep a copy of the tracking # that is on there. That way he cannot say he sent it when he did not, because then you can track it online. Good Luck!
626096
No she does not. An engagement ring is kind of like a trade or a deposit or something. When the man gives it to a woman, she is to marry him. If they don't marry, she has to give it back.\n\nAn engagement ring isn't a gift. It must be returned. Plus, those things cost an arm and a leg.
632593
Confront him and Break your engagement, his not worth it, you deserve better. Dont let him sweet talk you, he did it once, he'll probably try again if you give him a second chance
142179
Ultimately, it is up to this girl to do something about this situation.  SHE must tell her parents how she feels, and break it off with the man she is engaged to.  Are you sure she truly loves YOU?  If she truly loved you, she would do these things, or she would run off with you and marry you.  If she goes ahead and marries the other guy, GIVE UP on her.  TRUE LOVE LOVES BACK IN THE SAME WAY YOU LOVE.  Remember that.
1000419
Id really wanna know what his intentions are...  Its definitely not done out of love, so, Id watch out if I were her!  I wouldnt keep the ring either!
255538
you need to make a decision...is this person going to marry me and will it last forever. These arent questions that you can hope for but must be 110% certain that both answers are yes. Now this is probably very unlikely. Friends are your family, usually closer than family. You tell more to your friends than you do your family so they must be preserved at all costs. The way this situation has arisen then you must make the choice now and not later as there may be no later. Your friend is feeling betrayed even if you didnt mean it that way. You need to fix things with your friend first and maybe they will give you their blessing which would work well for everyone. If they dont call your new relationship off immediately.
327493
i don't think you can but remember you didn't give them that gift for getting married you gave them that gift for getting engaged which they did. i would wait and see if you get it back but i wouldn't ask for it unless it is a family heirloom and you want to make sure it stays in the family
186671
Ok i'm not a guy so I can't give you a guy's point of view but, from my point of view, I think that's really sweet what you are trying to do. And she must be an amazing woman because it sounds like you really love her and don't want to lose her. Please don't take what I'm fixing to write to offense, but I think if yall are in college I wouldn't give her the promise ring. Reason being, yall aren't 15-16 years old anymore. Yall are in college, old enough to do what yall want live together old enough to get married. A promise ring to me is for teenagers. If yall already talked about what you want when you get of college and including getting married, go with the engagement ring. Trust me, well I'm not your girlfriend, but I'm sure she will feel and understand what I'm telling you. Now because I said don't get the promise ring for her get the engagement ring doesn't mean you have to do that. This yall's life you make the desicion I'm giving you my and many other womens point of view. I hope I was able to help.
531257
I say follow your heart.  I am actually in the same exact situation at the moment.  But it is her ex fiance.  I am going to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope I do not get screwed over.  Each situation is different follow your gut feeling and see what happens.  Good luck.
1140157
Wait until you've pawned your wife's wedding ring. I'm sure you'll still have some money left over after bailing out your girlfriend.
1083193
Surprise....its the best, do it while you are doing something you are always doing....like if you two jog in the morning stop suddenly and act like you are tying your shoes, while she waits and chit chats, pull the ring out and propose.....its all about the surprise.
869261
Charge her.... if you are going to fix it then charge her. Yall are not friends and i dont think that she is worth your friendship. so if I were you dont get too close to her again or you will be in for another heart break.
1075294
She should return the ring. If he refuses to take it, she should sell the ring and give him the money--but tell him first that that's what she's going to do. The ring was a symbol of a promise that has not been fulfilled. Unless he gave it to her as her Christmas or birthday present, it was a promise and not a gift and now MUST be returned.