I am in love with a married man 33 years older than me too. He too is my attorney. Why does he cheat?
439748
cuz of his caracter ...its not  anything ab him,,,what is with u to wanna like a man 30 yrs older than u ?!?!?!?
360384
Well, look at it this way, it shows that feelings for him run deep and that he understands love is eternal.  Just because one still loves someone doesn't mean that they feel they can have a relationship with them.  I love the man who I was engaged to before my husband, and I'll love him forever.  That doesn't mean I"m going to sleep with him or leave my husband for him.  It didn't work for us, we both knew that and moved on.  We've remained best friends for over 25 years and go to lunch every Tuesday.
171380
admiring a teacher and being infatuated by one is two totally different things, I see that you are very young,so telling you my opinion and your heart telling you what to do is going to conflict;however here goes!\nFirst if he is married,I strongly reccommend you let this go, breaking up a marriage is not good, Secondly, I see that you are under age, this will create a serious legal problem for him that could possibly lead to some jail time and if you care for him, I don't think you want this to happen, finally, he would lose his job, so if you give in to your heart you will cost him all of this, and drive a wedge between the two of you that neither will probably never recover from. so weigh you decisions carefully, perhaps after your 18th birthday if you still feel the same, AND HE IS SINGLE, you can pursue it with a clear conscious.
403976
Sounds like a loser to me. Get out why you can. If he cheats on her, why won't he cheat on you? How can you respect yourself when you sleep with a married man? \nAnd then you actually can not figure out why you can't find a great guy and have real love? Have some respect for yourself and your relationships. Go find yourself a single and available guy. How can you look at yourself in the mirror after coming between a man and his wife? If he wanted you so bad before then why did he marry someone else?
1167813
My husband is 17 years older than me and had just gotten out of his 13-year marriage when we met.  He had been deeply hurt by his previous wife.  You just need to love him.  Let him know constantly how you care for him.  We have been married for 3 years, and only in the last year has he finally come to believe that I love him and am not going to hurt or leave him.  It takes time.  Just reinforce how much you love him.
397434
Really, cut your ties with this man, he's not a future for you. You continue to see this man and you will continue to get lied to and cheated on too. He doesn't know how to be honest or faithful. To love someone like that isn't really love. Your feelings for this man hon, isn't what you really think it is. I don't know you, but I see that your taking who ever says nice things to you. Shoot, I could feed you with all kinds of nice words, but doesn't mean I really mean it. I wouldn't even give a another second to this man. Let him and her work through their own problems. Take your loss now and bail out sweetie. It's not worth it. Staying on with this guy or telling his wife, what will you gain from it. The satisfaction of telling her. No, wrong! Maybe for a while but later down the road. hhhmmmm Trust in your self and move on. Good luck to you.
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
385349
First of all, I don't see what the big deal is.  What is the difference between 30 and 37 really?  Does it matter to you?  If it is the fact that he lied that is bothering you tell him that, just confront him about it.  If the age thing doesn't bother you and you still love, or at least like, him then just let him know that and tell him you just don't appreciate being lied to and not to let it happen again.  If the age difference bothers you even still after being in a relationship with him...it's probably time to just move on.
121507
Ladies, stay away from married men!!  They just want a little on the side, and have no regard for your feelings.  If he truly loved you he would not ask you to share him, or he would leave her for you.  If he truly loved his wife, he would not cheat on her.\n\nOf course he says he loves you. He knows by saying this, he'll get to keep you at his beck and call.  He does not mean it.  He has no morals.\n\nIt's time to get a backbone, dump his cheating behind, and make YOU your number 1 priority.  Find someone who is available to be 100% yours.
718828
Get the hell away from him... He's bad news... He either likes to flirt or wants to seduce you into an affair... He probably has no intention of leaving his wife... You need to find yourself a nice UNATTACHED man... This loser is not worth your time...\n\nRemember, if you do get into a relationship with this man and he leaves his wife for you, whats to stop him from doing it to you??? Once a cheater, always a cheater...
462707
How can you love someone that you know is willing to be unfaithful to his wife?  Most likely he was only using you to fill a void that might not being answered by his wife or he just is a player that got married and you are just another play thing.  Either way bad choice.
306611
I was married to a man 22yrs older than me.  We divorced, through no fault of his, because I was young and wanted to party.  He has since died, but I'd give up everything to have him back again.. I'm 59 and he would be 81 this year.  I miss him very much and still love him.
561487
Hon, you need to take the blinders off.He is trying to have his cake & eat it too.He is treating you like you have no sense.Do you honestly,in your heart,think he is living with his wife & not having relations with her.You know he is lying to you & do you want a liar? Get on with your life & you'll find the right person.This guy is the wrong one!!
946007
I don't know what state your in.  Some states, I think, cheating still means something in court.  If there are assets, you want to make sure you get your fair share.  I don't know how long you have been married.  But make it easy on your attorney or yourself if you file yourself.  Make sure you have all the information you need, pay check stubs.  Pension plan, 401 k plan he might have.  What ever.  Deed to the house, pink slips if you own any cars, boats, motor cycles, etc. Any community property.\n\nDon't forget copies of all bills, credit cards etc. And if you can get your hands on the cards get them and don't run up bills that will be an issue. Immediately file separation papers so you will not be liable for any bills he create after that point.   \n\nSorry you have been hurt by your husband and neighbor.  It happens a lot.  It is too bad people have no respect for others or themselves.  Remember that it is NOT your fault. Your husband made this bad choice.  Not your fault at all.  He would like to blame it on you but don't you listen.  You are the good person here.  You are not the dishonest cheat.  He is.  Be good to yourself.\n\nIf you can chose to live happy, chose happy.
211593
Do you think you would have the same feelings for him/about him if he was closer to your age?  Society puts a lot of stipulations on this type of relationship.  My first love was a man who was 12 years older than myself (with whom I had a child) and I was married to a man 17 years my senior.  The age factor didn't bother me, but it did bother my husband.  He felt a little insecure with our age differences - he thought I would wake up one day and want to be with a younger man.  That wasn't the case at all.  We had fun together - laughed, good experiences - and not so good (like all relationships).  We had differing viewpoints on some issues, but nothing we couldn't agree to disagree on.  You need to ask yourself if you feel as if you would be missing out on something in life if you decided to stay in a relationship with this man.  Are you compatible in other ways?  Do you both want the same things out of life?  Are you happy?  Where do each of you see yourselves in 5 years - together or apart?  What about children?  No relationship is a piece of cake and with an age difference it makes it a little more difficult, but not impossible.  Follow your heart, do what makes you happy.
1043224
This happened to me with my husband of 21 years, a little over two years ago.  I thought I would die.  Amazing how God knows what is best for us.  Be thankful that someone else can take the bum off your hands.  I know it seems like the end of the world, but it isn't.  You deserve better.  Cheaters SUCK!  Get counseling, go have fun.  And remember, what goes around, comes around.  Move on!
285761
You first need to address the reason you were willing to settle for his infidelity in the first place. He has had no incentive to stop, so it's very likely that his is continuing to do it. You need to really find out why you are selling yourself short, and I don't often say this, but I agree with the earlier post. You need to have some counseling if only to help you learn to demand more for yourself.