What do I do if I feel lonely even when surrounded by lots of people?
448668
It's a feeling I'm all to familiar with.  I'm an oddball.  I don't like to run with the pack.  The pack I run with today might decide we're lemmings tomorrow.  I've had a great deal of success at being myself, and as much as it pisses off the world, I'm not ****ing changing.  I find that as much as I've heard that Christians are strangers and aliens in this land, just as much I'm finding it's the truth.  I feel alone much of the time, and it's a rare thing for me to find someone who thinks and feels the way I do.  Hope this helps, as I don't really know where you're coming from.  From a psychological point of view, perhaps you simply need to find your center and connect with people who have more similar interests.  Or perhaps you should do what I find myself doing much of the time...hanging out with my dog.
899634
Go out and do things with friends.  If your friends suggest an activity and it doesn't sound like a bad idea, then accept the invitation.  Otherwise, think of an activity and suggest it to a friend.  Just go for it even though you feel unsure about the activity.  Go skiing, hiking, dancing, golf, drinks, movie, shopping, concert, campus party, etc.  Join a club and get involved.  Make friends and then make sure you maintain contact.  Once your life is filled with friends, you will be super busy and you will no longer be a loner.
256147
If you surround yourself with people who make you feel bad... chances are that some part of yourself thinks that this is acceptable. \n\nWork on doing things for yourself that make you feel good, and try to make some more friends that like the things you do, and who help make you feel good. Notice the difference between the old friends, and the new friends.  \n\nWhen you value yourself and the things that you are doing, when you have a good opinion of yourself, you start to have a very low tolerance for people who treat you like crap! \n\nThere are plenty of people out there who are looking for fun, good friends, get out there and find them. You are a fun and good person who has a lot to offer, if someone is trying to make you feel bad, don't let them, they don't deserve your friendship!
1148494
Oh goodness, I did that.  My advice, KEEP BUSY and ACTIVE.  Get involved by volunteering, school, playgroups, book clubs, something!  Try to stay in some kind of social group or you will feel lost.  Follow some of your same routines.  Still get up, shower, get dressed, makeup if you do...  \n\nGood luck!
592716
well everybody had ups n downs. don't be frustrate, and dint feel shy about to meet people. and dint underestimate itself. everybody is beautiful, u r beautiful too. just meet the people, talk to them, share ur thoughts. don't afraid  they r also human beings like u. if anybody not coming to u then u have to take a initiative.
155379
WELL THE PEOPLE YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH ARENT REALLY YOUR FRIENDS BECAUSE A FRIEND WOULDNT USE YOU FOR PERSONAL GAIN. IF YOU DONT HAVE EMOTIONAL BONDS WITH THEM YOU CAN FEEL ALONE IN ROOM WITH A THOUSAND PEOPLE IN IT. JOIN CLUBS THAT HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR INTERESTS AND TRY TO START CONVERSATION WITH POEPLE WHO HAVE SIMILAR INTERESTS. AND I WOULD DITCH THOSE LOSER FRIENDS TO START
685804
Hey, people are not destined to be alone. There is someone out there in this world who is destined for you. Sometimes, they are just right infront of you but you didn't see them! \n\nWe have to meet the wrong persons before meeting the right one. Apperance doesn't count. Its better to read a book than to judge it.\n\nI feel empty, too, at times, but come to think of it again, I have my family and friends who loves me as much. A few of them are also people I could confide it.\n\nSo feel blessed, and don't feel empty.
99258
I am sorry you hear that you are lonely.  There are churches that help out lonely people. Find a good church and make friends. Or better yet, go to the home for the aged or old age community.  There are many old people who go there to find company. Good Luck my man!
260713
Yes it is bad what u should do is sit that friend down and ket them know that you cqan befriend them and other people at the same time. You should never make a friend feel left out. Take all of them out oneday and see if they are a ggod pair then u all can hang out together. Just remember you cant please everybody just be yourself and Im sure you will find a true friend.
557104
This isnt the place to meet people, go out be social join a group...there is no reason to be lonely unless you choose to be like that....good luck
480034
Being alone and being lonely are two totally different things. If you are alone and get bored, try a hobby or call a friend. If you are lonely, that is a different matter. Still you might try getting out and doing something and maybe meeting some new friends to have dinner with, see a movie, etc.
1051836
Get out and meet some new people. Take a class, join a club, try a new hobby, join a gym, etc...\nAnything to help take your mind off your troubles.
98396
Everyone i guess, always gets the feeling of being lonesome. It usually happens when you tend to act on your own and it seem that you don't wanna trust outside. You lock yourself in your own world. TRY TO OPEN UP TO LIFE; TO THE WORLD itself.Celebrate life at the moment, by seeing the presence of others. Once you do this , you will find people around you who accept you, recognizes you and loves you just the way you are.
60530
play the numbers game.\n\nmeaning try to make friends with everyone.\neveryone won't be your friend, but some will. out of those some, you'll get a real friend.
393859
i completely understand. i have the same problem. i think you have to be happy. just because there are people around doesn't mean you can't be lonely. like something is missing and you're not quite sure what sometimes. doctors sometimes help but i think it's all something that can be worked on by ourselves it just may take awhile. i'm sure this isn't really an answer but at least you know you're not alone in this aspect :)
455204
I just have to get out of the house when I feel lonely, once you're out you can meet new people and most of the time I end up having a conversation with someone I don't know, even if I'll probably never speak to them again. I go out to a pub or cafe and sit at the bar or a table just watching the world go by. Sometimes I take a book and it's suprising how many people will come over and ask what I'm reading or say that they've already that and it's good.  I also like to take my rollerblades to the park or the seafront if it's nice out, although wish I could skate better. Or I go to the cinema, even if I'm on my own I love watching a great film and for a while you're not really on your own cos there are loads of people around and no one is talking so you're not the odd one out. If you're out enjoy yourself, and just do things that make you laugh or that you used to do as a kid, even when you're on your own cos people will see you laughing and chat. (Just not to look like a psycho, laughing at your own jokes! :)) If all else fails when I'm lonely I call my mum, she lives 12000 miles from me and it's great talking to her.
653968
Sometimes it's good to feel lonely. Sometimes it's your heart's way of seeing you need some interaction with people.\n\nTake the rest of the day off and go walking where there are people. Call a friend or family member. Talk for an hour. Call up someone and offer to make dinner or take them out for lunch. Give of yourself and you'll find that the loneliness goes away as your gift is reciprocated.\n\nOh, hugs are nice, too. **HUG**