How can I tell him that the sex isn't that great? Even when I love him?
440122
you have to talk and you have to hope he is mature about it and you have to be patient however i will tell you this a great time for a guy is at best a good time for a women he needs to pay more attention to what rocks your world and be willing to go further and it may still take adding sex toys \nhope you can get it to be better ..
350927
No, he's suffering from "inconsideration". He gets his and it's done for him. If you hadn't said "husband" i would have suggested you drop him like a bad habit. But since you're married, sit him down and in a non-accusatory tone tell him how it makes you feel. Tell him you'd like to enjoy sex too. Tell him Men are like ovens, they heat up quick. Women are like crock pots, the take some time to heat up. He needs to be attentive to your needs. He needs to give you a little foreplay. He needs to find out what you like and enjoy and then give it to you. Or you might want to consider not "giving it" to him until he gets a clue. Good luck.
723808
If you're normally more aggressive and he's more go with the flow...\nStart out by massaging his back, then work your way around his entire body.\nRoll him over and ride him. Very slowly at first and let him dictate the tempo.\n\nIf it's normally the other way around then talk him into reversing what I said above... Except when he rolls you over, you get up on your knees and let the chips fall where they may.\n\nAs far as being happier. One thing I always try to do is act clumsy now and then well before either of us gets too aroused. It eases the pressure on performance for both people. Be silly and laugh together (but not at each other.) Sliding off the edge of the bed is a huge trick that makes for some really good laughs. Then get in there and have your way with him.\n\nIf that doesn't work then corner him somewhere in your house and start undressing him.\n\nAs far as sexual activities, read up on how to do specific things you like, ask him what he likes or wants more, read up on that and go for it.\n\nGood luck!
923103
You could try a few things, some of which you might find awful, but I'll list a few.  Others can add to the list:\n\nMake sure he finds YOU to be good in bed.\n\nGet sex ed books, tapes, DVDs.  Read & watch with him.\n\nTry using porn.  Show him what you like on the movie.\n\nGo to sex therapy.\n\nGo to regular old marriage counseling.\n\nI wish you all the best.  I'm sorry if some of my answers sound crude, but sometimes, crude works.
501759
I think your man has issues...most of all, it sounds as if he is very insecure about his sexual performance.\n\nOften, when there are problems with sex, there are corresponding problems elsewhere in the relationship. \n\nI would want to ask you, are you happy with your relationship in other ways? If sex if the only area of your relationship that you are not satisfied with, then yes, it is worth giving him another chance. When you talk to him, it will help if you are very reassuring to him. Tell him the two of you are in this together and you would like to help him to work it out.\n\nIf there are other areas in the relationship that aren't working, I would say that you seriously need to consider leaving. Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship. But if you feel that something is missing, you will be unhappy unless you resolve it one way or another. And that won't help you or your man.\n\nHope this helps and wishing you good luck.
24179
Don't look elsewhere, this is actually pretty normal.    Try talking to him and telling him that you'd like to be more intimate.  DOn't make things into a chore, like "eat, drive to movies, blah, sex"... Usually, I find that a good makeout session will be enough to rev up your latent sex drives!
185071
if you love him whatever dont just tell him straight out that he sucks in the sack because you will leave him emotionally scared for life try making suggestions during tha act of how he could make it better for you most guys like to know they are doing a good job and will try to pleasure best they can thus not take offence to the suggestions just don't make to many at once or he might get frustrated
462039
Well, you should talk with him openly about how you would want your relationship to function on the sexual department.\nYour main problem is probably lack of communication.
663841
well this is complicated. and dont listen to anyone that tels you to leave him just becase his sexual performance is lackin. do not cheat on him either, taht will end horrible. and the doing it yourself, you could do that. or you could entice him, seduce him. make im want you so much that he would be willing to do anything just so in the end he can get off. or you can tell him he is doing nothing sexally for you, and if he doesnt sart putting forth an effort he can sleep ith himself.you can try makeng him jealouse, that is classic but it generally works. so tose are just a few. if you ned some help comng up with how to do some of thesejust mail me.
1122297
Sit him down and develop a clear line of communication with him. You have to tell him how you feel and establish boundaries for what you are willing to do. You might want to give in to some of the simpler ideas, but he needs to understand that you don't want to be a human sex pretzel. Clear communication is what you need. If he can't understand have him take a good long look at your cast again. He needs to accept your feelings the same as you need to accept his, after that you compromise. That doesn't mean you give in, that means you look for an area in between that will work for both of you and go with that. Sex should NEVER result in broken bones!
407003
Well he he is happy enough to have sex with you, and I'm sure that he wants to make sex as wonderful for you as it is for him.  So talk to him and let him know what you like, but don't tell who taught you this and that.  (You're so good, and I wanna try something new with you.  Can you try for me please.)  Not as blunt but go positive on the performance and put in the new.  Or while in action try to place the new trick in.  Try it out for a while and if he isn't into it then try something else.  Don't overload the guy with new techniques because he'll feel insecure about his performance.
1022889
If you're really concerned about it, suggest to him that you spend a few weeks without it... to build the excitement.  Tell him while you're not having sex, you can get into other things in your relationship... whatever suits you guys.  You could just hang out and play games (cards, board games, etc) and talk/snuggle.  You could go to amusement parks or go hiking.  You could go to museums, go to church... just whatever it is that fits you guys.  If you all can make it through that comfortably, and you actually CAN fill your time without sex... then I think you might be alright.  =)
239981
Coming from a guy's point of view.Well the best ways w/ out hurting his feelings. Altho you haven't stated his age or yours. Is thhere a big age differance ?\n\n1. Hey honey lets try oral and tell him HOW GOOD IT FEELS. Soon as he see's the reaction from it. He should take the hint.\n\n2. Try getting book's or dvd's on the subject. Most book stores carry book's on this subject.\n\n3. Hell just get a hotel room and break out or rent some adult movies and say " hun let's act like kids and have some fun."\n\n4. Try just sitting down and let him know how you feel. But don't approch it in a hostile tone or action's. All that will do is cause him to bottle up.\n\n5. Take charge.  You be the boss. Tell him what you want and want right now. BE VERY AGGRIVES and tell him he's a bad boy and his punsihment is this or that.\n\n6. If the problem is " he's getting done 1st ". Try longer foreplay. Tell him to use his hands more. Touch, kiss,etc.. Make him switch from inter to oral, back to inter back to oral.\n\n7. Try new things. \n\n8. Make him wear a vibe condom ring. you can find them at any condom store, wal-mart or online at www.gotvibe.com\n\nGood luck.Hope this helps out
157749
Sometimes a guy needs something a lil different be what he wants but only during sex , you may be surprised at how good your sex life will get . Just try it once youwill see . Talk to him during intercourse make sure he is also gettin satisfied .Intercourse is very awesome if both are into it .
338362
hey sweetie sex won't work believe it or not it's just the opposite however if he gets frustrated and bugs out because of the lack of nookie he was not the guy any way. cudo's to you for standing on your moral principles. my best to you and your relationship
183482
Ask him what is it he feels low for. When he is explaining it to you, start kissing him madly. After that, tell him that you love him whatever happens!\n\nFollow it. It will work!
1180084
Try cuddling up to him after sex and telling him how good it was for you. Maybe he is going quiet because he has lost his confidence, it happens to all blokes sometimes. Just give his confidence a boost and see if that helps.