why is it so hard to get over guys that you had a relationship with?
446085
It hard for some of us guys to get over relationships too.\n\nYour used to having that person there, talking to that person.  \n\nIt's hard to get ready of an old pair of jeans or an old pair of shoes.  Your used to them and they became a part of you for a while.\n\nJust give it time.  Meet people.  Do things. It helps.
178665
It's simple...You want what you can't have. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you can't have that guy from the past. I'm saying that you know he's no good for you and in a sense, that's what attracts you to him. You want him to want you. Meanwhile you have someone who adores you. So you feel like he's not going anywhere and this other guy is a challenge.
1055733
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
338706
not to sure about the other stuff but it takes 1 week for every month that you were together to get over him. I heard this on Dr. Phil and a couple other times i read it not sure where though... I am so sorry to hear this, it makes me so sad because i may currently be going through the same thing... :'( sorry for you and i hope it gets easier soon.   Good Luck
658243
There's a reason you broke up. If you broke up once, who's to say you wouldn't again. You broke up recently? That's probably why you can't stop thinking about him. You just miss him, but you'll get over him after a while. You'll find someone else.
939537
i have found the best way to get over someone is to think about them as though they have died.  that way you can keep the memories you have about the good times you had with him but accept there will be no more.  stay busy and go different places and do different things than you did when you were with him.   try very hard not to see him or hear about him.  it's a cliche but time does really heal and every day gets a little easier.  don't stay home and be sad now even though no guys measure up right now.  the next one who will measure up is out there and you won't meet him while you're at home feeling sad.  and once you meet him you'll wonder what you ever saw in the guy who made you sad.  good luck!!
390236
It's a situation of comfort versus the unknown.  If you date someone new, there's no familiarity.  With an ex, you have a certain comfort zone.  Also... our minds are hardwired to mute the bad memories and bolster the good ones.  It's a psychological coping mechanism.  So a person remembering their ex will remember the good times and, especially if it has been a while, often ask themselves why they broke up in the first place.  After thinking about it for a short time, though, that same person will remember the REASONS for the breakup.  But... it's a lot harder if they broke up with you, easier if you broke up with them.
395462
it is prolly hard to forget your ex because it is either a relationship that has just ended or that you have many good memories of the time spent together. Or maybe you still have feelings for your ex.
972603
if your still thinking about your ex then you have not given yourself enough time to get over him and have rushed into another relationship....its not fair on your new partner!
61190
i know that it hurt and it way take time to get over him. it hurt because you put your feeling inside this relationship an you thought that yall was going to be together. you will be ok. so smile.
154320
truthfully your ex's never get over you entirely. in any relationship with a true connection there will always be something that reminds you of why you were together. even in bad breakups and relationships you never really get over it you just find something or someone else that lets it fade away but i know when im reminded by someone of when we were "together" my mind rambles on about them for a while.  you just can tell when they have gotten over you enough to feel comfortable around you without wanting or wandering why everything is the way it is now. hopefully you will remain friends. then you cant say you lost anything.
614690
I understand your situation. I dated someone for awhile then I broke up with him for a really dumb reason. Went through a few transition guys and then realized I still loved him, even more than I did when we were together. I wrote him letters, but he just was not that into me. I cried, and was depressed and felt like everything was wrong in the world. What made it even worse was that we hung out together every single day.  It all changed when I stopped throwing myself at him and other guys that hung out with us were interested in me. I would flirt a little with these guys and it really go to my ex. Then one day soon after he got into me again, and I started crying tears of joy instead of tears of sadness. So just don't be desperate, make him sweat over you a little. It works, I am living proof of it :)\n\nP.S. This may work for you, but it may not. If it doesn't, please do not pine over this guy's affection for too long. Move on, live life. There will be plenty of other guys even though right now it may not seem that way now. Do not waste your life trying to get one guy, because you may be so focused on him that many oppertunities, friends, and even relationships may pass you bye.
400766
I feel the same way. My boyfriend broke up me last week and I just can get over it. They don't have an effect on it because they probably didn't love us like we love them and we gave them to much of our love. U love him and that's why u can't get over him. Try 2 be friends with him and I know that might be a hard to do.Just pray on it God will bring someone in your life that will appreciate you like u want 2 be appreciate.
213925
get over him and move on
263068
Whether it had been 1yr. or 10yrs. it's hard to let go of someone you have gotten used to being around and doing things with and now it seems like everything around you make you think of this person. I and millions of other people can relate but you are simply dealing with something called CHANGE and it is hard for you to move from one comfort zone to another because you are not allowing yourself to. Let go of the past, that is all it is now, and find new people to be around, do things with other people, family members, and friends, learn to be comfortable with being single for now, get a life. And when you get involved with another continue to still live a life of your own.
870044
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
393845
I think it is something that will just take time.  If your goal is to forget about him, it won't happen.  Rather, be greatful that you had an opportunity at such a rewarding relationship - not the most common thing.  Maybe you are not ready to be with someone else, and need more time to heal from the break.  Time does heal all.