Nagging grandmother, Please help?
437699
She is not really asking if you are alright. She needs the security of hearing your voice and knowing you are nearby. Either because of a responsibility she feels towards you, of knowing you are there in case SHE is not alright.
204395
I am sorry, but you are not clear on several things:\n1. What brought up the fight about your mom needing to go to a nursing home? \n2. Where do you live? Are you living in your mom's home or do you have a place of your own?\n3. What are your mom's health/mental conditions? \n4. If you are doing the work, why would your siblings care where she lived? Does she need a safer environment?\n\n    I think you need to find someone who would be willing to arbitrate this problem without bias. You may check with a local church to see if the pastor/priest/etc. would be willing to help arbitrate it. I think you need the honest opinion of someone who does not know any of you to come to a solution.
398364
Hi grumpy. What a nice thing to say and do. My day will be happier because of you. Thank you so much. You just have the best day! Do what your granny tells you to do. Nice talken
693661
stop her more frequently and call her attention to mistakes more often. you might also suggest to her parents or her teacher that she may have a learning disability and that you'd like her to get professional help if you don't feel anything you are doing is helping her. my grandfather is like that and at 72 years of age he still can't do much more than sign his own name. it's wonderful that she at least has someone attentive to her enough to notice a problem.
2819
May be a grandmother!
403981
What a terrible situation!\n\nThere is a site you can visit that will tell you what your rights are in your state.  The link is:\n\nhttp://www.grandparenting.org/Grandparent%20Visitation.htm\n\nHere is some of the advice from that site:\n\n"If you have specific questions concerning rights in your state, contact:\nwww.grandparentsforchildren.org \nG.R.O.: Grandparent's Rights Organization, (248) 646-7191.\nThe National Coalition of Grandparents at (608) 238-8751\nwww. grandparentchildconnect.org \nThey'll give you up to date information concerning the laws in your state.\n\nGeneral Suggestions:\n\nYou can find out about a local contact by logging on to \nwww.grandparentsforchildren.org, Learn about the laws in your state by logging \non to www.aarp.org. or www.gu.org, or calling GRO at 248-646-7191. Also \nsee www.grandparentchildconnect.org.\n\nIt's always a good idea to consult a local lawyer to learn about your specific rights \nin your state. Try legal aid or the local bar association if finances are a problem.\n\nAlso consult Dr. Kornhaber's book "The Grandparent Guide" for specific advice, \nsupport and guidance. You can get it from your local bookstore or library or \non-line at www.amazon.com."\n\nGood luck to you and your family.
781961
Well it happened to me last night. I told her to get back to the retirement home and stop bothering me. I said that I'd be by to see her on Mothers Day but only if she stopped calling me more then once a year. That woman needs a hobby other then complaining. "The Nurses are stealing my money" "I have Bed Sores" and Blah Blah Blah
273129
Plan some cooperative games, like passing the parcel, musical chairs, chinese whispers, etc. That way, everyone will be involved, so noone will feel left out. And if your grandmother doesn't want to participate in the game, she can be a sort of a judge. You can also do this:-\nSit in a circle, and everyone tells five qualities that the one opposite to him/her has. That way, you can get to know each other very well.
130754
call the child services and report kiddnapp. grandma do have rights, but the child has no voice or choice. You must report this before he leves country. In Calfornia there is lots of help, especialy, free-legal aide. But if YOU DO NOT WANT TO CAUSE PROBLEMS, then you really do not want this child back. Their always help for children, step up and take action.
47792
Sounds like she could have some sort of dementia.  I work with people like this.  It never helps to argue with them!  Go along with the stories, try to keep her busy and distracted from things that upset her.  People with dementia live in a pretend world, mostly disconnected from reality.  Run a search for Alzheimer's services in your area, there should be social workers you can talk to for help.
638219
Write your feelings in a letter.\n\nDon't be rude or mean to him.  If you have been in the past, apologize.  Showing him that you are above being mean and rude might make him realize that his behavior is inappropriate.  If you have never been mean or rude to him, point that out to him.  Ask him, "Have I ever disrespected you, Grandfather? Then why do you disrespect me?"  Even if you think he isn't taking it seriously, it might make him think a little bit.  \n\nTalk to your grandmother first..see if she can talk to him.\n\nAbove all, STOP CUTTING YOURSELF!  Respect yourself and your body, no matter what is going on.  Believe that you are better than that, because you are.
1021678
hey dont be so panic....there must be some reason why she is behaving that way...are you a nagging hubby( for a change...hahaha)...well it happens when person keeps complaiing about everything ..and when he is never happy with things....do you complain about the food she makes?? do you complement her if she prepares good food for her?  do you try to prove how she is wrong in bargaining?  may be because of some reason she must have lost her confidence...\n\njust talk to her and ask her..everything will be ok....you know what when we cross 60 we again start behaving like kids.....may be she has started behaving little early...so handle it patiently and as both of you dont have kid...you got to care for each other...\n\nso best luck!!!
712528
you can't all you can do is try to get her to cut down, pray, talk to a older person see how they can help you, other than that I say pray because that is just something you just can't deal with
1078197
First of all, it's nice to see someone who really is concerned about family!!!!  I wish you the best of luck in all you do, I know your grandma would be proud.\n\n     I'm not very good with legal things like this, but I'll try to offer some ideas for you.\n\n     1.  If you are taking care of your uncles welfare, check out becoming there power of attorny over finances.  This would give you legal ground to care for them and their money.  \n\n     2.  There might be some form of assistance for you, check out the social service programs in your area.\n\n     3.  Your younger uncle my be trying to deal with the death of his mother still, which can cause many changes in attitude and social behavior.  Try to be open and honest with him, let him know you're there to help.\n\n     Above all, be good to yourself, don't let this cosume you.  If you need a break, let them know. You are dealing with alot.  Make sure you have someone to talk to, maybe your religious leader (pastor, priest, etc.)
629012
I agree with naNa, that would be the best way to hint... or tell her that her feet stink, okay im a little blunt. =S Thats what i would do.
1043812
If money is tight, I would suggest contacting a local Legal Aid center. Usually, free legal clinics like that will have you meet with a volunteer lawyer there, who will assess your factual situation and determine whether the center can do something for you or, if your situation is particularly complicated, refer you to a lawyer who has a referral relationship with the center. At least, you may be able to get some information that will help you better formulate how to go about resolving the problem you're having with your grandfather's daughter. Sometimes, all it takes is a demand letter (i.e., a threat to sue) to prompt people to solve a problem without ever going into litigation.
660843
I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather. It's very unfortunate that some nursing homes are either lacking in good help that they can't possibly take care of the patients that they have or else just don't have the compassion that it takes to care for the patients. I swear that my dear mother will never go into a nursing home because I've seen one too many homes in my life that treated the patients poorly. \nIf there is someone who is in charge of your grandfather's affairs, then you should consult with them and together go to the D.O.N(Director of Nursing) at the home where your grandfather is at. Let them know that your extremely upset over finding him sick and lying in his own body waste and that you plan on taking action. Tell them that when you admitted him into their facilities, you expected the best of care and am very disappointed that it's not up to even the lowest of standards. Be sure to follow up with whatever action you've chosen to take. I would also consider talking to an attorney.