How do you know when you're in a gay church?
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A Church is asexual.  Now you've really amazed me with how dominated you are by your Napoleonic complex.  \n\nIn the fields of psychology and psychoanalysis, Napoleon complex (or Napoleon syndrome) is a colloquial term used to describe a type of inferiority complex suffered by people who are short. The term is also used more generally to describe people who are driven by a perceived handicap to overcompensate in other aspects of their lives.\n\nAlfred Adler pioneered the psychological work on inferiority complexes, and used Napoléon Bonaparte as an example of someone who he thought was driven to extremes by a psychological need to compensate for what he saw as a handicap: his small stature (though in actuality, Napoleon's particular shortness is a myth; he was in fact slightly over 168 cm, or 5 ft 6 in). Typically people with this complex will compensate in many ways, reaching beyond their personal performance. A person with a Napoleon Complex may set pictures in their home to lower levels and make other such accommodations which will enable them to feel taller in their surroundings.\n\nCompensatory behavior exhibited by those with a Napoleon complex may also include being overly aggressive or argumentative and a need to over-achieve, which all serve to give the person a sense of greater self worth.\n\nAn example of somebody with the Napoleon Complex is the character Curley in John Steinbeck's "Of Mice and Men". Curley finds the need to prove himself by fighting larger men, such as Lenny.
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I have no idea but I'm gay
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Alot of people go to church to observe and to see what is happening there.  I appreciate your openness and not going there to mock them but to here and see if what is happening truly is. \n\nAssemblies is good, although you may be a little uncomfortable if your looking for the cold religious style church.  AOG and Apostolic are a very lively bunch at times and you could say "on fire" for Jesus.  Be careful of Apostolics though.  Depends on the what type of Apostolics they are.  Some are very heavily legalistic, like the woman cannot cut their hair and must wear dresses.  Some even believe that all other Christian churches are not true, they they are the only ones.  This is sad to say.  But I do believe that God works with all of us, even when we do get a bit judgmental and error.\n\nGod Bless, and I pray you have an opportunity to taste and see the Lord is good.  He is real, tangible and very active in our lives.
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When you come out of the closet
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Not many realize it. It is what the Bible calls the "apostasy" in the end times and the basis of it is deception, that is why so few see it. Many do recognize it but are hindered by the question what to do about it. God told us that there would be four signs that indicate that the church had apostatized, \n1) The Church would become a "singing" church (Which it has)\n2) The Church would lose interest in the Bible (Which it has)\n3) The Church would become worldly (Which it has)\n4) The church would believe that everyone has the right to worship God in his own way. (Which it has)\nDon't be surprised if the church fights you on this, God said that in the last days they would not endure sound doctrine. They will throw you out, and many have been thrown out. You are not alone.
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I have a number of gay friends who do - one is even the Australian leader of a worldwide christian youth movement. It was hard for them to reconcile the two lifestyles though. They are all Catholic and have been told they are wrong for a large part of their lives - luckily they found support within the church. I don't go to church myself but support them as I know how.
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you can visit a church and asked them or call a church and ask them
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Take your church with you, in your deepest heart...it is but the manifestation of your seeking and finding the truth of you.  You are loved unconditionally whether you enter a church, or not.
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well, it kinda depends on what your issues with that church were.  Is it a church where you feel that you are being spiritually led and where you feel the leaders of the church including the pastor are looking for God's will in the church?  Those are the most important things...if you feel God's sincere presence there and that they are doing God's work.  Then you can overlook or work with them to solve other petty problems.  Good luck and God bless.
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before joining the church,make sure that it is everything you are looking for in a church. Make sure that there believe is the same as your own. There are no rules that state you must join in order to go and be a part ofit.
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Wow that's a bit "abnormal" for a pastor... \n\nIf that dosn't settle with you, then by all means find a church you are overall comfortable in!\n\nSimply put!
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Contact the national headquarters of your church and see if they are hiring
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Since I don't know more, I'm gonna say in a Church.
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god and your church if your religious.\n\nfriends, family.
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Most Christians will tell you no. They will also tell you that being gay is a choice. In some cases, perhaps homosexuality is a product of environment, but in most cases, I think it's something that you are born with. \n\nThis is one of the issues I considered in my decision to leave Christianity. The Bible says it's wrong, but never says why it's wrong - like a lot of other things. I think that you can still be a Christian and be gay, personally. But I'd have to wonder what gay person would want that, as there's nothing they can do about being who they have been since birth. Seems to me that it's a sad thing to join up with an ideology that says you are evil simply because you don't love the "right way."\n\nI have never seen anything inherently wrong with being gay.
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Of course there are gay Muslums, Jews, and Christians.  While I have been raised Christian I can most identify with the latter of the three, but all gays and lesbians have encountered issues with these religions because they are all Abrahamic and therefor take many similar opions on the subject with one another.\n\nThe one religion I was brought up-Christian-is becoming more gay friendly in these devisive times.  While Catholocism has taken a strong stance against homosexuality-it still has followers who are organised to fight for gay rights within its church.  The American Episcopal Church of course has appointed a gay bishop in Massachussets which makes a bold statement on how that denomination is prepared to include gays and lesbians.  Also the Prespyterian Church has recently voted to allow gays and lesbians to be ministers and lay-people at the local level  (See link below).\n\nAs for personal experience, I have to admit I am feeling less Christian as I experience more rejection and hatred from Christian communities.  While there is progress being made, I find that while most churches are teaching inclusion-it is under the pretense that being homosexual is still wrong and that gays and lesbians should be accepted out of pity with the expectations that they should repent for their sexuality.  I disagree with this as gays and lesbians should be accepted into a Christian community free of the supposed guilt and stigma attached to their sexuality.\n\nThere are pro-gay Christian oranisations operating-though I have never attended their services.  The Universalists I have been told are very supportive of their gay followers.
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What a great question! This is something that gays and lesbians wonder all the time. Can someone tell if you are gay or not? Some people believe there is such a thing as "gaydar." Gaydar is a sixth sense that gays and lesbians have to distinguish gay or bisexual people from heterosexual people. \n\nIs gaydar for real? Some people will swear it is. Personally I think that we gays, lesbians and bisexuals develop gaydar as a type of survival intuition. We need to be able to suss out who is and who isn't gay because hitting on the wrong person could be big trouble for us! \n\nYou will find some people who are convinced they just can't tell who is and isn't gay--even ones who are gay themselves. And then there are those people who fool everyone--even the ones who think they can tell. \n\nTo answer your question: Can people tell if you are gay or not? My guess is that they just sense that there is something about you that seems open. Maybe they are just hoping you're gay. You may even be giving off signals that you are not even aware of because now you ARE open to such kind of flirtation.