My gradmother just died. Should I buy my mum a sympathy card?
437302
I would attend the funeral and support your mum through it. You should also speak to your Grandad who I am sure misses her terribly. Sympathy cars are for friends and acquaintances who lose a loved one.\n\nCondolences on your family's loss.
502792
Yes. The last moments of someones life is very precious. I was with my mother when she passed away. I would suggest you go, don't live with regret.
801701
Sorry for your loss! It's hard to decide what is good enough for a special family member during times such as these. I didn't write a obituary but I read to "To Where You Are" by Josh Groban at my mother's memorial service. Very beautiful!
19645
I would continue sending the cards (as long as there is nothing hateful nor taunting written in 'em...).  \n\nRegardless of whether they bring a warm feeling in her heart or make her cringe, I'm guessing either reaction would bring a smile on your face - so, why not?  ;)
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wait on her hand and foot, let her know you love her every day you dont know   what youve got untill shes not there no more i took care of my mother from the 1st time she got sick untill october 8th the night she died and im still not over her i feel so lost and alone tell her everyday you love her
285128
You just need to be there for her.  Sometimes feeling like you have to say something can be uncomfortable for the both of you.  When my father died, I just appreciated my friends being there for me to talk to, I had enough people talking to me about what happened as it is.  Also, she may need time to grieve and sort things out.  If she wants to talk about it, she will.  Don't force her.
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Oh, please, my greatest sympathy to you.  My oldest is 33 years old and I would also be devastated if something happed to her.\n\nHospice is a great organization; it helped my father during his last days.  But there should be community mental health practitioners - go to your county health department and ask them for a list of names; they usually work on a sliding scale depending on your income.\n\nPlease talk to someone.  Your question pulls at my heart strings because you seem to be such a good-hearted person.  We can't know why things happen the way they do.  And I don't think we can ever accept the death of a child.\n\nTry not to spend too much time alone right now.  If there are any small children around, sitting and holding them - getting hugs and comfort from everyone around you is necessary.\n\nPlease do call your county health department or senior center or hospice to see what counseling they have for you.  And be very, very good to yourself during this time of sorrow.  Your daughter is watching you from heaven and she wants you to be happy and go on with your life.
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I'm afraid that that would appear callous and discourteous, ma'am.\n\nBeing a Friend, you'd be expected to display concern for the unfortunate loss.\n\nBesides, it would be unnatural for someone to try to look away from it, ma'am.\n\nI'd say, be natural and don't hesitate to show you care.\n\nHave a nice day.
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Well first of all let me say I am sorry about the death in your family.\n   If I were in a situation like yours, what I would do is make a photo album of all her pictures and everything that was apart of her life. Or I would plant a bush of her favorite flowers. \n   I hope this helps!!!\nGood luck to ya!
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you could say:\n\n'i am sorry for your loss'.\n\n'i love you.'\n\n'if there is ever anything you need to talk to me or write to me about i will always be here to listen.'\n\n\nmaybe encourage her to write about the things she remembers fondly about her parents.... so she will have happy memories to hold on to....\nencourage her to write about her feelings and not suppress them\n\nif i lost my parents i would want to hear that somebody loved me\n\n\nGet her a book that deals with her loss,,, bibliotherapy style-\n\ntreat her the same as the others so she doesnt feel like a freak of nature\n\ndo some research----- here are some sites:
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My step-father was dying of cancer and my mother was taking care of him the best she could.  They were really strapped for cash and because he was so sick, they seldom left their modest home.  They lived 650 miles from me, so I couldn't help much.\n\nThe first week of December, I sent a Christmas card and wrote of a happy memory inspired by the picture on the card.  I put a dollar in the card, and on the back of the envelope I wrote,"On the first day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me....".  The next day I did the same thing, using two cards (mailed separately), each with a dollar.  The personal notes were always well thought out, some were funny, some were sappy, but they were always from the heart.  I made sure that every card was different.  By the twelfth day, I had a little extra money and I put fives in each card.  They needed it more than I did.\n\nAlthough the money was needed, it was the personal notes that they liked the best and the joy of being flooded with Christmas cards.  My mother told me that my step-dad looked forward to getting the mail every day to see that days cards.  My mom hung them everywhere!  It was a way of not only making one day special, but rather almost every day for almost a month (it took a while for some of the cards to get there).  Only a few years later, both of them passed away, but I still have the pictures they took of all of the Christmas cards that filled their home that year trying to express how much they meant to me.
976667
I think this would be a good time to pass on something precious to you, to her.  If you were given something from your mother or grandmother, maybe you would want her to have it.\nKeep it in the family!
764067
It is a sad thing to loose a parent.  It leave a mark on you and a pain that you really never get over.  I happen to be a funeral director and when I lost my parents, I went through the exact same thing.  I know it is of no comfort to you, but as time goes by, you will find that other things in your life keep you occupied.  You will never forget her, but in time God works a miracle in which the sharp pain associated with your loss gets a little less and you can reflect upon the joyous and happy times with a feeling of love and appreciation.  I know you probably find this hard to believe, and so did I, but it does happen.  My father died in 1987 and my mother in 1999, and at times is seems like it was only yesterday.  I hope you are able to find peace and understanding very soon.
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do a google search with the last name and city and state in quotation marks.  \nAnother thing that is okay to do is to call the co-worker and offer your condolences then ask either where to send the card or which place is taking care of the service. I would avoid telling them you are sending flowers as most people will say "ahh you don't have to do that"  but deep down the effort is appreciated.
342548
That's a tough situation and I'm so sorry for your loss. You should definitely talk openly about this with other family members and friends. You should also consider seeing your doctor for depression. Since you can't bring your mom back, try to focus on how to celebrate her. Put together a memorial with her pictures, hobbies and guest speakers. Did she have any dreams? Live out some of her fantasies for her. Feel her passion and feel her spirit inside you. The mourning period needs some closure so you can move on with your life. Try talking with more people like teachers, counselors, and even strangers. Cry a lot. Also...go ahead and talk to your mom. Ask her for advice and let your heart guide you. But don't ever give up!
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I am so sorry for your loss.  I would like to say that I think your mom would be proud of you and would love knowing that you love her and you miss her.  Instead of spending today being sad at her loss..spend the day rejoicing for the woman that she was and for the memories that will live on in your heart forever.  ((((((((hugs)))))))))
1046968
Yeah you should defintaly send her some flowers and a card that says I"m really sorry.  You know make her feel like shes the only person in the world that matters to you!