if  you and your best friend had make love many times..is it the be love in the relationship?
439547
marry him and see how long that remains, LOL.
235660
Threesome... just kidding Who do you love more? Is he worth losing your friend over and vice versa? Have you ever heard the phrase you can't make all the people happy all the time? 1.think of how you would want to be treated and 2.figure out how you're happiest.
518913
It depends in what context. Love of a friend, probably not. More than that, most definately.
134693
I married my best guy friend and we were married for 8 years.  We had EVERYTHING in common.  Same taste in movies, t.v. shows, food, friends.  Only one problem, no sex.  We never had the chemistry that you can only have with true love.  We were always just best friends.  He never treated me poorly and we got along great and everyone thought we were the perfect couple.\nWe finally parted ways and are still very good friends.  I am re-married and he is engaged and both realize what we had was never really a marriage.  We got married for the wrong reasons.  I mean it's great to be with someone you get along with, but if there's no spark it's not going to work.  You will both be unhappy and always wanting more.  I am with a guy now who I enjoy being around and that challenges me.  We don't have the same interests, hobbies and friends but I am happier than I ever was in my first marriage because I am truly in love with him.  Sure I love my ex husband and always will but it's more like brotherly love than anything.  Hope this helps!!
1128919
Sure. Many. But then I always wondered what it would have been like if I had had a relationship/marriage with one of them. I think It would be like any other intimate relationship. When you step out of the friend zone, things are bound to change.
992606
Trust me, I know EXACTLY what you're going through, I was in Love with my best friend and after we dated, it wasn'tthe same for a while, he actually dated my female best friend and somehow, I managed to stomach it through their entire year and a half realtionship still being best friends with my first love. It could just be that you "gave him your body" so to speak, if you were a virgin before it, you may be tricking yourself into believe he;s the one for you because of that, sex can really mess with your head. Tough it out and see what happens with his girlfriend, try to stay close friends without letting your emotions hurt your friendship.
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i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
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I diagree with the first responder.\n\n\n\nSex with your best friend doesn't always change anything.\n\n\nMy best friend (I met him in my fall semester of College), and I have recently become,well, to put it bluntly...\n\n\nSex buddies. But our relationship stays 100% the same. NOTHING at all is weird between us.\n\n\nI live by a motto:\n\nThe best friends make the best lovers.
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Yes, we all can be in love with many aspects of a person and not lust for them...it is an unsatisfying affair, at best. Your "friend" is looking for someone to take care of him, not a whole lot more. Relationships are built on less, I suppose. Not for me, not my diea of an affair...to each his own.
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Its good to be in love with the best friend because they can understand our feelings emotions and thoughts.If I was experiencing the same,as he is my best friend and understands me very well I will dare to talk to him about this.If he is not interested also we will continue to be best friends forever.I would like to advise you to do the same.BEST OF LUCK!
1079849
if it is love the time to wait doesnt matter. I was best friends with a guy for 2 years and we finally realized we loved each other and finally moved forward. He never pushes sex on me and I don't on him. We are just glad to be together and taking it slow. Love takes time and you should never rush into anything unless you both want it.
180455
No, I love my friends very much. You do not have to be in love with someone, to love them. A friend is not a true friend in your eyes unless they hold a special place in your heart. Choose your friends wisely, but love the good ones, it is really hard to find a good friend but when you do there is nothing better.
186679
The best relationships are usually ones that comes from being best friends first!  I say tell your best friend and hope that a beautiful and wonderful relationship comes from it!
319194
From what I can tell I've been in love twice.  Love is when you care for someone so much you would do anything to make then happy, even if that mean them not being with you.  It is a very vulnerable and self sacrificing emotion whch is why it only works when the other person feels the same.
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happens all the time in long term relationships.....some times your in love..... other times you know you love them, although they're being a pain in the ass,,,...if when you wake up in the morning and the first thing you want to do is roll over and hug them then your in love......
540348
yes, bestfriends can become lovers...i even think that it's actually better because you know each other really well, you care,trust and respect each other and you have the strongest bond: love... i think that you may not have heard from him because he is as confused as you are...he doesn't know if what he did was right and if you feel the same way for him...this kind of thing can be confusing, you see...you want to have this relationship but you're both so scared that if something goes wrong, you lose the friendship you have...since you love him too, i suggest that you do the thing that you said you didn't want to do: confront him...he did the first step of telling you how he feels...it's your turn now...tell him you feel the same, tell him you're scared too but if you talk about it, you cand find a solution together...tell him you don't want to lose your best friend even if things might not go the way you want them to...tell him that you want that 2nd kiss too...hehe!good luck!i hope you work this out... ^_^
61460
that sounds familiar...yes, its still better that you have loved, no matter how many times you got hurt. Love after all, molds us into the person that we are, and regardless of how many times we've fallen out of love, is still remains the most wonderful thing we can have and give.