Why my boyfriend has no backbone to fight for me from his family and he is avoiding me because of his family.?
447947
you didnt mention the culture. if there is something like hindu involved then you are fighting a losing battle, family is first and foremost, to disagree with that causes alot of friction for him and you in and out of the relationship.
242419
i dont think your boyfriend has any control over what his family says. what he has control over and what you should concern yourself with is what he does with his family's "suggestions", cos that is really what they are. does he take them to heart and when these suggestions come, does it affect your relationship with him? there really is no clear cut answer, its only "you" that can sort "you" out. dont be too hard on him or yourself, the answers to these things just dawn on you when you least expect.
798829
Move out and move on.  You are obviously not happy with him and you need to do what is best for you.  Be positive and strong and discuss the situation with your family.  Good luck.
817289
Sounds like a young love problem.  Long distance relationships are always tough.  If he is away doing things with his family and other friends it would be very not to call.  This does not at all mean he does not like, or even not love you.  He just needs his own time, and sometimes talking on the phone for hours every day can be too much of a strain on his life.  As you get older you will see that just because you dont talk to someone for a few days doesn't mean that the love is gone.  You have to have security in your relationship and trust him. You are also young and need to live your own lives first.  GOOD LUCK!
1164246
Could be he does not know how to deal with people, also it could be that he is having a bad time right now. Don't be too quick to judge him. Remember he is just like you and I trying to earn a living and support his family. He just has alot more pressure to deal with on an everyday basis.
1008264
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
530543
If he is giving you that ultimatum, then hes a jerk. Family is blood, they will always love and be around you. A man asking you to choose, is not a man.
172164
Kukm kum you donot say why your family donot accept him?\nIf they have a real reasons that is ok but thier reasons are silly go with your man
818918
Sounds like there is alot more to the problem then u r saying but i can understand u not wanting to go into it. I have a problem with trust and i tend only to befriend my family i have no friends either but choose not to cause down the track they will only stab u in the back. Good luck.
523565
When you return, and if he ever hints again at the possibility of being violent, get away from him as fast as you can. Then get a restraining order. He clearly has a violent streak. And if he can punch his sister in the mouth, then I would take him seriously if he says he'd kill you if you break up.\n\nDon't put your life in danger. No matter how much he says he loves you, he WILL hurt you eventually.
495482
Yeah, thats tough...it sounds like you two are younger and are having some insecurities about one another. His family and friends are being dicks if they make him feel like they are in competition for you. I guess the best way (if you havent done so) is to come out and tell him that you love him. Tell him how much he means to you and do a few extra special things for him to show him that it is more than just words.
1023042
Sounds like he is very controlling.\nIf he separates you from your family them you will be all his to gain control over.\nAsking you to do that is also very ignorant and dissrespectful to you. If he has any love, concern and respect for your feelings he wont expect you to do that.\nMen come and go, families do not!
188168
No, it's not fair.. but then it sounds like NONE of it is fair.. it sounds to me as though your family has much deeper problems than whether they should accept your engagement or not.  That is a very minor thing, I think.  There are problems there that should be faced and they have absolutely NOTHING to do wtih your fiance or your engagement.  Try to look at your relationship with your fiance objectively.. and your relatinship with your family also..  as harsh as it may sound, being disowned in some situations is not the worst that can happen.  I hope that is not the case with you.  Listen to what they have to say.. hope that they listen to what YOU have to say.. and then think it through with an adult and responsible mind.. and do what you feel is best for YOU. No one else.. you have to look out for yourself, ok?   Good luck.
955778
Like you said babe, you're more than worthy. Its HIS family and thats it. Not everyone is going to get on, but like you said, you and your boyfriend are strong. Ignore it, Ignore how they make you feel babe. Its probably jealousy on their part. I wouldn't let them see they upset you, you're better than that. After the reception, just keep your distance. Your friends will be there for you, so just make sure you have a good time. Don't let people like that grind you down babe. Good Luck x x x
1092737
Forget him. It's one thing to to argue, it's another thing to be talking about your "friend's" family. Family first, dorks second! If he'stalking bad about them, imagine what he's said about you when you  weren't there.\n\nPeople need to understand that just cuz they forgot a bout a fight doesn't mean that it's over, or it doesn't hurt still. You need to surround yourself with positive people, not idiots.
535704
it's in his eyes.  If when he can't look at you and stay angry he loves you,  If you can see your future when he smiles at you, if he tells you...those could all be very good hints that he loves you.  Also, the way his family treats you.  If they treat you like family, he probably loves you.
380301
Yeah, unfortunately, some people thrive on fighting. Or look at your relationship, how long have you been together?? Is he trying to get you to break up with him so he doesn't have to be the bad guy?? Did you do something he hasn't forgiven you for?? If he always has to fight with you then I'm guessing he's not the type to talk about it. Are you?? What do YOU want?? Are you happy like this?? Try talking to him