How can you forgive yourself  after you hurt someone you loved very much?
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Forgiveness is tough, but it liberates us in the same way that God's forgiveness frees us. If you never say "I forgive" then you will never let go of the hurt. The past will haunt your present and your future. Forgiving does not erase the hurt, but it will free you from the threat the hurt will stick with you for life. You can pray this prayer "Help me learn from you, dear Jesus, how to forgive, so that I might live fully and freely. Amen"
50976
i'm sure it's quite possible to forgive but you will never forget especially if it was very painful or some type of betrayal,hopefully oneday i could forgive some family members of mine.
1127211
You can't do much if they won't forgive you and let it go.  You can apologize to them from the bottom of your heart and tell them how sorry you are - thats your part to do.  Their part is to forgive you and really mean it and move on.
213462
honey let me tell you something ok if you blame yourself stop doing that it ain't your fault ok. let the pain go away and remember the good times you guys had together keep the memories in your heart and never let them go. always see it this way God needed him to be an angel and that is what he is always now he is in a way better place and looking down on you and the family. I am really srry you had to go threw this and my heart goes out to you and your family and you all will be in my prayers as well take care of yourself.
120948
Realistically, you can't completely forget someone you used to love. At least, I can't. Everyone I've ever loved will always be a part of who I am. They are part of the influences in my life who have made me a better person. Even if they were horrible people, I've become better by the lessons learned. Don't try to forget...just open your heart to yourself and your own strength...and allow your life to "absorb" the hurt. Then the moving on will happen naturally, without the effort...and you will be a finer person for your experiences. (if you choose to be)
844002
I tend to forgive - even the worst things that have ever been done to me because people don't realize that moving on takes forgiveness. Even when it seems impossible to forgive those who may have done horrible things to us in our lives, we should forgive them - not so much for them as for our own sanity and well-being. It takes courage but it is possible to forgive even the worst things that have happened. It helps me get some kind of closure and peace inside which holding onto things never provides. Holding on and never letting go makes everything stay ao alive - so real and so unforgettable.\n\nOf course, there are those things that I cannot forget - unfortunately... words said, things that have happened. The human mind just does not seem to forget these things no matter how hard you with it would - we remember... I remember. And that is why the forgiveness is so essential - because we remember and everytime we do, it is not healthy for feelings of hate, anger, or sadness to overwhelm us. It is living in the past and that is not good for anyone.\n\nI was never the one to hold onto things, never apologize, stay in an arguement, etc - it is just not in me. I do not cope well with any conflicts so I am the one who apologizes even when I am not the one who should.. I just can't stand tension - escpecially with those that you know you love and who love you.. I see it as so pointless and such a waste of time - I always did. And I think I forgive people too easily sometimes perhaps.. just so we can move on and so no one stays hurt any longer. I am just that kind of person. \n\nSo, I don't forget - because I can't. But - I do forgive, sometimes just for my sake - to ease my own pain and to try to let go and move on.\n\n:o)
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i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)
974954
To put yourself first and stop worry about the person that hurt you.  The only person that you have worry about is your feelings and making yourself whole again.  Everyone in life makes choices and you have to deal with them and realize that you can move on and be happy on your own.   And like momma always says LIFE is not fair. \n\nIt also take alot of time so don't think the pain will go away just stay focused on YOU! \nI wish you better days!
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dear broken hearted,you have to understand the difference between a lie and actually physical harm.i know what physical harm is.i loved someone and because of this i trusted him.but i really found out the hard way.i was almost killed due to an accident he caused because i was letting him go for his lies.so be thankful you only have a broken heart to deal with.i forgave him but i can never be with him again .my life is worth more than that.so you will heal in time and find someone who will treat you good and you can trust.i have .so anything is possible.take care and move on.
1097728
Act the way you did before unless u did somethin really hurtful
566045
All I can say is that time heals wounds and you will think you are never going to get over him but time will do it. Try not to think of him if you start to think of him start thinking of something else. Stay busy all the time. Put away anything that has to do with him like stuff he gave you and don't listen to the same music that the two of you listened to. Put pictures of him away in the attic or somewhere its not easy to get to. Then one day you will be able to look back and it will be a lot better. All of a sudden you will not think of him as much and you will then be on your way. Good luck I know its hard. It is one of the hardest things but if you ever get hurt next time you will be stronger.
325148
First allow yourself to grieve and own up to what went wrong without blaming another person.  That is how we grow up.  Then start to dream again.  The past relationship wasn't right or else it would have worked out.  So, start dreaming about that perfect person.  What would they look like, how would they make you feel, what would you do together.  The more you can let go of the old and welcome the new the better.  Look at it as having a white canvas where you can begin to create once again.  Enjoy the process and do a lot of nice things for yourself that make you feel good.  Start looking for the joy in your life from other ways.  Good luck.
591325
You are hurt now.  \nIf you want to be hurt again, then forgive him.  \nIf you want to get over the hurt faster, then dump him and find someone to be happy with.
744034
Make yourself hate him, or try to remember things that he had done to hurt you. This helped me a lot to forget my exbf. \n\nAnd it took me 6 mths to move on and many years to let go of him. But at least it helped tremendously.
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1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
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the greatest revenge is success. do some special things for you, perm your hair, buy new cloths, and listen to music you never herd before, then go out and flurt. Tell the girl you will forgive but never forget, and that chis dick was small so you were going to dump him any way. Then move on, and forget them. It hurts, happened to me, and I am still not over it, but I moved on. you have to wait until some else comes along to take your mind off it completely.
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Do not listen to his voice. Do not call him. Do not answer or return his calls.  Throw away cards, letters and all things that remind you of him.  Make yourself busy and take meticulous care of yourself.  Give your time to your other friends and family members whom you may have been distant with.  Catch up on some hobbies and volunteer work.  Make appointments for yourself to do the things you enjoy every day in the week. Every night, have someone to talk to who understands what you may be going through. Whenever your thoughts stray toward him, think only about the way he disappointed you and hurt you and remind yourself that you deserve the best. The longer you were with him, the longer it may take for you to get over him.  Nevertheless, you WILL get over him.