A Man's mother-in-law cannot marry his son because she would be his grandmother.?
444742
Not if the son was from a previous marriage, then the son would not be a blood relative!
432372
Patience is a virtue, I always say. If you live with them I feel for you. Just a few things to remember, 1)if you love him then you will learn to appreciate and deal with the family that you married into. 2)Although, everyone disagrees sometimes try to bond with your inlaws and things will go better than being upset. 3)Get to know your mother-in-law as mother than just a mom but a friend or gal-pal. 4)Do something as a family together. Go out and do something that you all will enjoy.
923437
Well, I completely understand where you're coming from. You want to be loved and welcomed, but unfortunately, not all in-laws work out that way (no matter what the race, religion, etc.). My grandmother's mom HATED my grandfather for years, and he wound up eloping to marry her.  They are both the same exact religion and ethnicity too. Eventually, the mother grew to appreciate and respect my grandfather and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. \n\nThing is, you shouldn't have to deal with going someplace where you are "tolerated", but again you don't always have control over that. All that you can do, is just suck it up for your wife, kids, and be the better man. Eventually, I would say talk to your wife about having your OWN holidays though and if her parents want to visit YOU then that's fine, this way they are on "your turf" now so to speak and if they disrespect you, you can ask them to kindly leave your home.
267799
I have had 2 mothers in law.  I was equally nice to both at the beginning.  I wanted to make a good impression.  The 1st one HATED me.  But then her son was a spoiled cry baby and she never wanted to give him up.  He's 40 and still lives at home.  The 2nd one LOVES me.  Her son is a MAN.  He treats me well and we have a lovely family.  I think it depends on several things.  Whether the mother has any intention of ever giving up the son.  Whether the son has enough spine to stand up for his wife.  The wife needs to accept "helpful advise" in a kindly way.  Say "Thank you, I'll consider that.  I appreciate your help".  Treat your mother in law how you would wish to be treated.  I think it comes down to what type of person she is.  I thank God for my new mother in law.
857269
Only if the mother has remarried and the new husband wants to adopt the child.A child can not be made "fatherless" in the state of Pa.This is what my lawyer told me.
1166720
Marrying someone for their money is not fraud, and there is nothing you can do about this woman taking your dad for all he has. He deserves it if he is going to be stupid. You need to get your son back and sever ties with your dad and that devil woman ASAP. Contact a lawyer NOW. If this woman is neglecting your son you cannot as a mother afford to wait.
1073746
It's not wrong, but please, make sure he is seperated from his mother as well, there are too many guys out there with THAT issue.
566282
That is really depends on you. Why is your son with his grandmother at the first place? Are you employed? If you cant provide your son, chances are the state will have someone else to look for him until you can.
115420
Goodness.. seems like you are an in-law in an outlaw situation.\n\nThat's sad that your brother-in-law is not supporting you and your wife with helping out with your mother-in-law in her difficult times with cancer, and on top of it, he's taking advantage of your mother-in-laws good nature with taking the car then not paying her for it properly as he promised.\n\nNo, I personally would not allow my son to treat me this way, or at least I would like to think I wouldn't, but my son is quite young, and has a diagnosis that may prevent him from being gainfully employed in the future...he's smart as a whip, but he has social skill challenges... so I can't say I wouldn't bend my own words when he is older.\n\nI have a simular situation with my grandmother-in-law, she has a family member that lives with her and doesn't keep a job, and does some unacceptable things, but it is her choice alone that allows for him to be there and to take advantage of her in this manner.  Even if he ends up putting her into bankruptcy, it is her choice to support him, and I really can't say or legally do anything about it.  \n\nIf your mother-in-law accepts this behavior from her son, that is her choice, it's not right, but still her choice. She is the only one with the power to change how he treats her, not you or your wife, but I'd love to see you get a second set of keys and repo this vehicle and then see how fast he comes to see your mother-in-law !!
694372
My mother in law didnt like me either. She said it wouldnt last a year. Well its been 32 years and we no longer speak to her because she pulled some rel nasty stunts on our children. I say stay with him and ditch the mother in law too.
848772
Well it is all up to your son to get through to her. He seriously\nneeds to sit down and have long talk with her. He is the father \nof his child and has every right to take his child to visit  both \ngrandparent. It would be different if the grandparents were \ncontrolling, then yes she can have a say so. If she is a compulsive liar, then it hard to believe anything they say, as you \nalready know. They believe in their own lies. It hard to bring them back to reality. It's are up to your son to put his foot down as the\nother parent. They live together and there should not be a one \nparent rule. I'm a Mother and a Grandmother and I only have 2\ndaughters, but one of them is married and if he was a controlling\nyoung man, then I would have a say so. You as a grandparent \nhave every right to see your grandchild.  You say already you \nhave spoken to her already, well you need to keep at it. Maybe she'll give in. For what ever reason she has and as you said \nshe is jealous of you then keep asking the same question, WHY.\nThat is Good that you don't interfere in their lives or tell them what \nto do, and that is what you need to keep telling her. Sit down with\nboth of them and tell them you would be happy to spend quality \ntime with your grandchild in the week-ends. I sure do hope thing\nchange for the better. I told my daughter if my son-in-law was\nto ever keep my grandchildren away from me, then I would\nseriously take them to court for visitation rights. She told me, I\nhad nothing to worry about. Our relationship between my son-\nin-law and myself was rocky in the beginning. But after our \nbig argument, he had found out it was his own mother that was\ndoing are the lieing and turning  the story around. So now I'm\ncloser to them, then his own family is. I help them with the children to where his family doesn't help at all. So I wish you\nthe best of luck.
774847
You have to find out of your grandmother has a will. Everything will go to whom ever she names. You will not be able to do anything about it.
731698
why don't you start with this:\n\nhttp://genealogy.about.com/cs/adoption/a/adoption_search.htm\n\nWe just found out my mother in law had a baby in the late 50's.  She was contacted by her son (who lives in Australia) and they've been corresponding ever since.  She was 'forced' to give up her child, and no one knew about him except my MIL and her siblings.  It was a very scary thing for my MIL to 'confess' to her family there was another child before them.  But it's a great weight off her shoulders.  She is happy to know her son had a good life and is not angry with her for giving him up.
601800
Sounds to me like you have a mamas-boy problem. Is it her drawing him to her home or him that is unable to break the ties?  \n\nIf he is a Christian you may want to consult your clergy. In the Bible it is written that when a man marries he leaves his mother and father and "cleaves unto his wife" then he becomes head of his own house hold." (The man of the house.)  \n\nA friend of mine once had a mother-in-law problem. The mother-in-law would not leave them alone. She would butt into their business. Drop in unannounced. They never had a moment’s peace or time alone together. The in-law was a believer in Voo-Do. So my friend decided to set up a bunch of candles throughout her home and made some makeshift doll out of rags and cornhusks. She really had no idea of what she was doing. She made it look as much like her mother-in-law as she could and left it by some lit candles on the table.  The next time her mother-in-law came in it spooked the heck out of her. She ran out of her house declaring not to step foot in her home again.  Now that was one smart lady.  Of course my friend didn’t believe in any of that stuff. But in that instance it sure worked.
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her husband made a committment to her and she to him--and you honoured that committment-- \n\nthe son has no such commttment--he has responsibilities perhaps and choices and evn an honour to keep-- that relationship is defined through time-- and your friendship is the based very much the same to your friend-as the sons is to his mother\n\nhowever -at no such time was there an unwritten rule that you must honour some committment of fidelity between son and mother. And nor can the mother equate the two as the same.\nshe can have dissappointment with son or you and even see it as a wrong,but she can not say it is the same as sleeping with her husband.It is different .And therefore,must be talked about on a different level.\n\nsanctity of marriage vows or the marriage itself was not compromised.\n\nthis is a personal matter - not a matter of all that is holy.\n\nand that is the way it should be discussed.\nmy view anyway\ncheers\n\np.s--things happen-- i don't think you are stupid -you could be many things(good or bad)-- however- the only wrong i could see-- other than son being under the age of consent(which i doubt)-- is if you don't consider your friends feeling-- even though mother-son relationship may not be actually sacred-- you can't blame her for seeing it as so-- therefore,it would be good if you cansee her sense of hurt and loss and possibly betrayal-- perhaps if you understand this feeling - you will be able to explain that your action was not meant as a betrayal -even though it may seem as one-- but rather -- a situation which occured and hurt her--rather than one that was planned to hurt her.\n\nperhaps some form of acceptance can be found--\nbut it may tAKE TIME or at least a clear understanding and bnot a conversation that turns into debate of right and wrong.\nand in truth-- if he is of age -- then morally and legally  you have done nothing wrong\nin terms of ethics and choice--well opiions will differ. i think the motivation would be an important factor - and the consideration of anothers feelings-- if it was something callous with disregard-- or something by hapenstance and events.\nmy view--again\ncheers
233338
Speaking from experience, my current husband (32 yo) is the same and his mother....well I'm sure you understand .... bascially, it's not his mother, please listen when I say this...IT'S NOT HIS MOTHER....IT'S HIM! If he doesnt want to an adult and think and do for himself as an adult....he WILL NOT change. Do yourself a favor......move on!
1022195
The mother-in-law is not the problem it is the husband.  If he is not standing his ground and telling her to butt out of your business that is the problem.  If the man allows her to make your life hell, you should get out or learn to accept it because it will not get better.  I had this problem, realized my husband was not telling her to keep out of our business and now I am happily divorced from both my husband and his family.  I have a loving fiancee and his mother is not a problem because he does not allow her to be a problem.  live and learn.