Why do nurses not show any sympathy when their spouses get hurt?
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I don't know what it's about  but I know that is true with a lot of professions.\nThe plumber-has leaks in his home\nThe mechanic-won't work on his wife's car\nThe roofer-has a leaky roof\nThe cook/chef-doesn't cook @home
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Some can be extremely sensitive and try to inflict their pain on other people.Some might have been mistreated,but that is no excuse  for some of their ways.There is someone I know of who goes around and tell people they are going to hell,calling them names,and demanding how they should behave.I don't feel sorry for these type of people.\n\nI used to stay in a rooming house when I was a 18.There was a mean bitter lady named Elaine.She said the most cruel things to me.I responded by saying"You're just mad because I have a girlfriend while you're sitting in your house deteriorating.No man will ever want you.You have no breast,you're ugly,you have no teeth and you have one leg.What man in their right mind would want you".She was shocked that I said that,but she got just what she deserved.After I said that,I went about my business while she sat there all alone deteriorating.I had no regrets about what I said.If you judge someone,you better be ready to be judged.\n\nSome cope with their pain by believing in heaven.People like Elaine will not go to heaven if they continue to act this way.
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Can't let Ophelia just win!\n\nAs an RN you may appreciate this TRUE story that happened to me 5 years ago.  I'll try to keep it short.\n\nFell off a ladder, and was knocked cold. Ambulance takes me to the hospital.  Wife takes for ever finding me when she arrives (I gave them only part of my name). She hears me screaming out as they are checking my bleeding head wound and catches up to me.\n\nShe says 'how are you?', and I say, "Fine, wanna give me a BJ?'  Of course, she declines. ;(\n\nAs they wheel me down the hall I ask the aide his name and when he tells me, I ask for the same favor. He declined.  ;)\n\nAs they are scanning my head, I ask the tech the same questions, name and bj?  Again, declined.  \n\nFinally, I get to my room, and my nurse comes in.  Older woman fairly heavy set.  I am NOT to be deterred.  "What is your name?", I ask.  She responds Sr. Mary Margaret!\n\n"God Bless You, Sister".  (Whew)
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My wife works with people with disabilties funded partly by the state. \n\nSurprisingly, these people are given excellent care. But i do see your point. \n\nI guess some of the human race forgot what compassion meant, unfortunately.
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Very likely such a person does not see herself as morbid -- which she is -- but as caring and concerned.  What she doesn't realize is that every single time she brings it up, it's like she rips the scab off a wound that is still tender.\n\nYou need to be direct and say, "When you mention this incident, it brings back bad memories and makes me feel bad.  I'd rather move on and try to heal my life, and to do that, I'd appreciate it if you didn't mention it again."  That's a very reasonable request.  \n\nIf she can't abide by it, then she may be passive-aggressively hostile and looking, in a morbid way, to bait you.  She may thrive on being a "foul weather friend" -- ie, someone who loves to be there and be depended on when people are low, but who hates it when people start getting better.  It's not a functional emotional response at all.\n\nShe simply needs to be told, but practice saying this a few times first so your voice won't betray too much emotion because she's likely to feed off this.  You're going to have to confront her.  Obviously she's not picking up your non-verbal cues of emotional discomfort that I'm sure you send out.  \n\nDon't allow her to turn this around.  Don't allow her to become a martyr, or to claim that she CARES about you.  If she uses that line, then tell her that if she really cared, she'd respect your feelings and not mention it because it makes you uncomfortable.  That's all a reasonable person needs to hear to change her behavior.\n\nIf and when you run into this person again, be prepared.  She may "accidentally forget" (which is passive aggressive hostility) and try the same thing on you.  In that case, without saying a word, turn and walk the other way.  There is no better way to let someone know that what they said was unwelcome and intrusive than to turn your back and walk.  It's non-confrontational but it sends a powerful message.  And I'd bet you that she never does it again after that!\n\nGood luck.  Sorry you have to deal with a boor (boar?). \n\nCheers, K\n\nP. S.  I had a best friend who constantly brought up how I should have a baby after she had hers and was over the moon.  I have never wanted a kid.  I tried all the above, and we are now no longer "best" friends, but more of long-term acquaintances.  \n\nSounds like this woman isn't a best friend, but just someone you see occasionally, so maybe you won't have to suffer through having to hit her over the head with any major confrontation.  I had to confront my friend and tell her that her happiness would be my personal hell, and things were never the same after.  But such is life, and it's her loss that she didn't realize that not everyone lives their lives the same way.  I wish she had been more respectful of my life choice.
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I am a nurse.. i would never assist someone to die but i did stop someone's morphine so they could go!! i felt horrible the next day i was working in Labor and Delivery.. it was hard
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They provide comfort measures, such as pain control and nutrition, and other nursing care that any patients would get, but the difference is that they don't do life saving measures such as CPR or defibrillation or other "code" measures.  They are allowed to die peacefully.  As far as where they put them - they can either be in a hospital as a DNR patient, or if a doctor certifies that they have less than 6 months to live, they may be admitted to hospice, which could involve home care, so they may be seen by a home health nurse and given pain meds, etc. at home.
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Let things cool off...maybe she's having her own little hell inside her head. Why was she in the hospital? Maybe your fight with the security embarrassed her. What was that all about? It's not easy seeing the one you love be incapacitated, but think about her. She's the one who's in the hospital bed. Ease off, lick your wounds, and take her flowers.
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Because they don't go through it. It's that simple. Women, even those without children can empathize because the very thought of pushing a 7 pound baby out of their body through that little opening is painful. And the problem men have is that they don't have anything to compare it to. If men went through something just as painful as women, they would be able to sympathize with them, but it's hard for men to do that when they don't expierienc the same thing.\n\nThe only thing close to child birth for a man is passing kidney stones. Many men, after they pass stones, will suddenly have more empathy for what their wives went through.
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People are very selfish. They don't care about your friends mom.\n\nThey care about their car and their hospital bills.\n\nAlot of people see car accidents as easy money. \n\n\nI know how you feel. My sisters and I were hit by this dude. And my sister was ejected 30 feet from the car and hit the pavement. While my other sister and I sat watching what we presumed was her dying, the asshole stood over her and told her if she dies it was our fault.\n\nBut we went to court over it and he was found guilty.\n\nNo matter what the circumstance... the world will fix it. Whether your friend and her family knows about it or not. \n\nThe One that created you knows and he makes sure that the bad in this world recieves what they put into it.
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Probably because of the way they are acting. Or maybe he just loves you and wants you to be there and be a part of his life. And it's possible it's because you are a RN and he feels safer with you doing it.
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The most basic example I can think of is when a doctor, unwilling to deal with a grieving family, tells them that a patient who is terminal will get better.  This offers hope to the family, but if the patient will not survive, when he dies it just hurts the family all the more because they didn't have a chance to say goodbye or prepare themselves for the worst.  The doctor in this case did something evil, even if it was for the good intention of providing hope and comfort; because all it did was crush them even worse when it was over.
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its not necessary for u to fell sympathetic... infact the last thing she would want from u is sympathy.. she would probably want u to treat her like everything is fine just be normal and when she does start talking about her grief listen to her and comfort her help her if she needs ur help but dont sympathise just understand her grief and be there for her she need u now the most.. u DONT HAVE TO FEEL SORRY just make HER FEEL HAPPY. The fact that she threw her wedding ring is actually a good sign cause she is trying to overcome the grief and start over there is nothing wrong in it. just be there for her
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Im RIGHT there with you girl!  I have a docotr and he NEVER EVER has a nurse in the room with me!  When my husband goes with me he is all business and very stiff and formal.  When i go ALONE this man laughs, giggles, touches my leg, arm and side when he talks to me.  Insists on walking me to my car- cuz of traffic!  And at the last visit he was putting stitches in my neck and he was actually BLOWING on my neck while he was doing this!!!!!  THESE r definetely over the line as far as Im concerned and now if I have to go my hubby goes with me.  Good luck to u!  Take a friend with you or find a new docotr unless you r into him too!
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I think about all the other patients that have lived because of the care I've given them.  I try to save those in my care with all the newest equipment and knowledge I have, and know that even doing my best will not work all the time.  In the end, I get down on my knees and pray for strength to work the next day to a profession that clearly requires a heart full of compassion for the sick and which some times is not fully appreciated by others. So, from a NURSE....Thank you.
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cause others arent as compassionate
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Well, just think of it this way. When your patient is on his or her death bed, or you know for a fact that they arent going to make it, you tend to take your work home with you, especially if you care about that patient. So it's not always easy being a nurse. Its fun to help, but you see a BUNCH of bad sh-t. As for a teacher, it depends on what grade you go into that you would get the most enjoyment from. But just think, as soon as they graduate to whatever grade, you're left with that perfectly ignorant bliss that they are making it someowhere in their new lives because of you.