how do i tell my very religious christian parents that i am a lesbian?
448244
Oh man! That is probably the toughest things to face. You need to just sit them down and explain everything you feel. You need to tell them your fear of them not being able to love you. If they truely understood they would love you for who you are. I'm sorry but that is about all you can do... explain your feelings and why you waited to tell them. It will do you better then just ignoring it. Good Luck! Know that we are here for you!
69469
Best thing is to only tell people you trust, like a close friend preferrably a girl, they seem to be more understanding than a typical guy friend. I wouldnt tell your parents just yet I would hold off until it feels right, it seems to me your learning about yourself right now and you found something that interests you, and it may be something that passes and it may not so I wouldnt alarm anyone just yet. Take a deep breath and think about what it is your looking for and go for it. When the newness wears off and your sure you will always be this way, then tell your family because then you will be more confident that this is how you are and they have to accept you. I have seen alot of parents go to the extreme when finding out their child is not as perfect as they hoped, or they have different looks on thier life than their parents expected, just something to think about. Lots of luck bud...
525976
Your parents have no say about it, as long as-\nyou are of legal age, and are READY: \nemotionally, (stable or consistent enough to stick to marriage)\nmentally, (ready for what marriage is all about)\nsocially, (you've met enough people to know for sure that you want to be married to this person)\nand personally, (you've done what u want to do for yourself and have reached goals you want for yourself, this is important, coz in marriage some sacrifices would be made regarding personal goals and pleasures)\n...then go for it!\n\ndo assure your parents of your love though, and claim full responsibility for this decision.\n\nbest wishes, pastor's wife\nhttp://mwfrc.blogspot.com
702600
Since you say that mom would probably kick you out of the house, do you really need to tell her? Coming out does not have to be something that is done in a single week. You told your boyfriend, and that is what is important. You should tell people about your sexuality that you are sexually involved with. For your family, it is only when you are comfortable telling them and aren't in a position of being dependent on them. If you think your friends won't accept it, are they really your friends? If they don't accept you, find better friends who are more supportive.
512728
My atheism is mostly a private affair with myself.  I only share when asked and if I trust the person enough to tell them.  Religious discussion is not a big issue in my immediate family, so it was unneccessary to "tell anyone".\n\nOnly person I may not tell is my 88 y.o. paternal Granny.  I would only tell her if she asked....but other than that, no.  I do not want to upset what GOOD relationship I have with her, and I want to make our love for each other count for while she remains.
380258
Why tell everyone.Your sexual preference is no one's business,but yours.Family I can understand,but everyone will eventually fgure it out.If that is you,then who cares what they think. They will accept you or they won't.
1095113
This may be the hardest thing you have to do so far in your life and I wish you the best of luck!\n\nHopefully in 5 years you will look back and laugh at how scared you were to tell them. \n\nI don't know your family but if I were you, I would take my mother to a neutral location such as a park and go for a walk. Tell her how much you love her and that you would never do anything to hurt her. Tell her that you need to talk to her about something very important to you. Then tell her in a way that's best for the both of you. Give her a few minutes to absorb this new information. Ask her if she has any questions. Tell her that it is nothing that she did or didn't do. Tell her that she is a great mother, and that you were born this way. Tell her that you are still her daughter, still the same loving girl you always were. Hopefully she will come to accept this in time. It may take a while. (She may already know) Either way she may be able to help you tell your father and the rest of your family. In time they will learn to accept you for who you really are, and love you just the same. Best wishes!!
1081605
You are absolutely right. You have been very considerate to your parents, which shows your family culture. There is no hurry for marriage, now. Maintain good relationship with her and rightly no co-habitation till formal marriage. But tell your parents that if they want to see you married you would marry only her and none else. After all they are your parents, they will not like to stand on the way beyond a certain point. All the best.  God's delays are not God's denials. Patience is genius.
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I, even as a christian, do not believe that you NEED to say I am a christian or any other religion to be close to God... actually I hate to admit that I am a christian because belonging to a group like that seems ungodly in and of itself, just because I do not want to put any group above God.  But I do kind of know what you mean because I feel very differently than either of my parents about religion, however, the one thing I have going for myself (and my parents ARE ministers) is that they accept, because that is what God taught.  They like it that I have come to my own understandings, they would never deny me on the free will that God gave.  I do not usually suggest arguing with parents (even though sometimes it is ever so much fun)... but I might suggest that you let your mother know that you are God's creation and not your mothers, although thank her for providing you with life and love along the way. (I know that brings it in to the realm of believing again, but at least you will be challenging her on her terms).  Also, if she brings up the bible in ways that are meant to say you should live like this and this, let her know that that is not your relationship with God, we are all different because God created us that way and you will not slap God in the face by living the way others do because God's plan for you is not the same as your mothers, and for the bible, make sure you let her know that while it is a wonderful teacher, you are not going to put an idol above God, that is idolatry and you have a relationship with God not a book.  Again, I know that is still not getting you out there saying you are a non-believer, but while you consider what it is that you do believe this may help take the heat off of thinking and looking at religion differently than your mother.  God created us each uniquely, your spirituality is not going to be the same as mine, or your mothers.  God gave free will to be used, so yeah for you for using it and thinking instead of following blindly without knowing your relationship with the God you may know.
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Be honest.  Hopefully she will respect your honesty.  Remember that she is your mother and you can tell her anything.  Just tell her.  Trust and open communication between you and your parents are the most important things you can have with them.
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me bcuz i have gay parents
156718
Well Sweety, honesty is in most cases the best policy. Don't you think that she will find out one day? I would sit down with her and tell her that you need to tell her something that she might find shocking or that she might be upset about. Then, tell her, "Mom, I want you to know how much I love you and what a good mother you've always been (if this is true), and I need you to hear me out and try to stand by me, because I really need you now." Something to that effect. You may want to pick up some literature on parental understanding and support for parents of gay children. There's no real easy way to do it but I can tell that it's something you must do for your own peace of mind. I'm a mother and I can tell you that for most mothers, there is nothing that will change their love for their children, even if they are upset. The bond is so very strong between mother and child that I'm willing to bet that she will not stop loving you. She may be upset and unaccepting at first but if you keep the lines of communication open, you will work things out. Good luck, Honey. Here are some websites that might help you:\nwww.gayfamilysupport.com\nwww.outproud.org/brochure_for_parents.html
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just tell her the wuts up tell her that ur not gay and that she is ur sister in law and u dont want to be an imbred
1008190
Effing brilliant. I nominate you for question of the day.\n\nThis is on par with "My parents are atheists. How do I tell them I'm straight?"
948568
Sounds like you're a Christian of the truest sort - the kind who doesn't judge. Also, you're probably pretty smart if you don't believe every word in the bible. I'm a Christian, and a lesbian, and I try hard to do the right things in life and to treat others with kindness and love. If God is going to punish me for loving someone - same sex or not - then that's not the God that I know and love. You should be proud of being such a good - and non-judgemental Christian. Good for you (and the world)!
41007
You know your parents better than I; can they handle the news? Will they toss you out of the house?\n\nGet some support for yourself first. PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) is a good place to start and they have some coming out resources. See if there's a gay youth support group near you, where you can get some additional support and understanding for what you're going through. Maybe there's a Gay/Straight Alliance at your school or another nearby that can lend additional support.\n\nYou'll want to go into the conversation knowing it probably won't be pretty. They will probably throw every dirty and disgusting gay stereotype at you, and you will have to remain secure in the knowledge that stereotypes are often created out of fear and revulsion rather than truth, and that you aren't any of those things. Most of all, be secure in the knowledge that you're a good person, no matter what they may say.\n\nI came out at 16 and it took my parents a couple years to adjust to the idea. Then it just became another part of me. They ask about boyfriends and how things're going, inviting anyone I'm dating over for dinner. Its a non-issue now.
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Remain Christian.\nKeep your beliefs. \nQuestion your friends friendship. \n\nHoney, if she beliefs you are WRONG for that. Then she is also "half christian". Because as a Christian, you are taught a sin is a sin. Regardless. Isn't it a sin to cast judgment on someone else?