my friend got killed on 4-5-06 i'm still having a hard time understanding why? am i wrong to question god?
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A very close friend of mine, Teresa, died a while back from cancer. She was young, just starting a teaching career, full of life, enthusiasm and love for people, especially kids. She was diagnosed with cancer a few days before her wedding (not to me) and died a few weeks after their first anniversary.\n\nAt her funeral I absolutely expected God to raise her from the dead - God had done it before after all. Then we were at the graveside and still no knock on the coffin lid.\n\nWhen her coffin was lowered into the ground and I tossed my flower in on top my world collapsed. I hated God with an absolute passion. I cursed God, swore at God, I told God just how big of a b*stard "he" was. I kept going to church but I wouldn't sing or pray (although every time I abused God I was actually praying, ironic hey). I went to church for the sake of appearances - I was a longstanding youth leader at my church. I kept asking all of the WHY questions but didn't get a single answer.\n\nEventually (a couple of months later), still in my anger and bitterness, God spoke to me (understand that however you like) and said ... \n\n"Will you trust me even if you don't understand?"\n\nI didn't expect that response from God. But here I am a few years later, finally able to talk about Teresa without crying and studying to be a pastor of the Lutheran church. \n\nTime does help to heal these wounds. But being honest with God, even in your anger or confusion is also helpful. Ultimatly you probably won't get an answer to the why questions. But I hope that you can eventually receive the peace that God is offering to you in your grief.
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when i was 15, 2 very close friends were killed in a car accident, i was miserable and confused. i discovered that it wasn't that god had abandoned me, he never existed in the first place. i have spent a lot of time reading about it and discovered what a bag of shite religion is,\n\nsince loosing my faith, my life has improved ten fold, instead of wasting time on a false deity, i am living life for me.\n\nconsequencially my fiance wants to get married in a church, but i refuse.\n\ni kinda upset my parents as well!
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God always loves you no matter what you do. He knows that we're all human and we make mistakes that is why Jesus died. He paid for our sins for us but we do have to ask God for forgiveness and if you can, apologize to this man and tell him that you were afraid. Ask his forgiveness as well but if he doesn't forgive you, then don't worry about it. That's his problem. Be very careful about meeting people in person from the internet. It could be very dangerous. You never know what a person might be like in person. It's very easy to lie on the internet, especially since you can't see their body language. Again, be careful. =)
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Have you ever read about Job.  He went through many many many trials and he still prevailed.  I know life can be rough at times and unfortunatly you will continue to go through hard times, they really never end.  But remember, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.  Turning away from your faith would be the wrong thing to do.  It's not that God isn't listening or answering your prayers.  He does listen and he will answer them.  God loves you very much, even when no one else seems to.  You should try talking to your preacher or someone in your church that you can trust. Tell them how you are feeling.  I suggest getting a prayer partner, someone who will help you pray for your needs.  Try smiling as much as you can today.  That will make you feel better too.  Good luck and God bless.
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Wakin_marman answered a few of my questions as well.  He isn't right in the head.\n\nI am sure that your friend once went to a school, you should have a specialist explain the situation with the death.
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I see this poem as a heart felt poem with a lot of deep sorrow, If this is your life experience I am very sorry that this has happened to you.\nLoosing a child can be very painful, which I'm sure it would be for you if this is what happened, for you but I would also like to say to you that the true and Almighty God is aware of and feeling your pain in compassion and that is also the reason for his promise, many people who have gone or are going through a similar experience, and asking why?This promise I just spoke of is found in Revelation Ch21:verse4)and it is a very heartwarming one where God promises to wipe away every tear from mankind's eyes, and that he will actually swallow up death, mourning and sorrow,and pain will be no more.The dead will be resurrected to life again becoming conscious again, is this not a wonder full promise from a very loving God, who cares very deeply for us, and our pains even past experiences will have gone from our minds, and the ones that caused those pains will be punished, so any who have perpetrated pain to others, will be dealt with justly
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Omg...ur such a tease. What about life and death and I no I haven't died and came back before but I would like to know what the hell you saw. Life is confusing and sometimes I don't even know why we exist if we're gonna get killed off in the end. It sucks if you ask me.
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The same thing I always ask to gave my children safe from harm and to let them die a natural death when their time comes with someone who loves them at their side. Now i still ask that even though my 28 year old was murdered by her Bf 11 months ago. for whatever reason God chose to take her home this way and though it hurts so much at least i know she is no longer in pain on this earth as she was for so long. i don't know why God allowed this to happen but i still believe in him and he gives me strength to survive this. I guess Satan once again slipped in when we weren't looking and took a life. I am also pretty ill with a life threatening illness and maybe God took her home so she wouldn't have to deal with my death which she would not have been able to handle even more so than her brother and other 2 sisters
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FIRST, I WANT TO SAY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, TO LOSE SOMEONE IN SUCH A TRAGIC WAY AS URSELF, IT IS EXTREMEMLY DIFFICULT FOR ALL THOSE CLOSE TO UR BROTHER\ni feel that it could be for 2 reasons...\n(1) youre having a very difficult time with his death , as anyone would, and it may help to talk to a family member or close friend about ur brother and see if that stops the dream, or...\n(2) which i feel more stronger about...i know most people dont believe this stuff, but your brother may be trying to tell you something. my guess is if someone in the family, close to you ...or you yourself, may not be feeling well,  he may be telling you  to get checked out by a dr. IVE HAD THIS EXPERIENCE...ive also lost someone close to my in a mva, and she gave me a "spiritual message" and i wound up being very ill..i am not a religous person, and i dont go to church on sunday, however i am very sprirital.
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well, maybe one could say that without thought...but prehaps a better view is not that HE killed them but rather didn't save them. I't may sound like the same thing but try it this way.  If I told you to get out of the road, and you chose not to...when the car hits you, does that mean I killed you? Or perhaps its the cars fault? Or just maybe its your own fault?  \n\nNow I do seem to remember that there was this lifeboat...and all we've really been told is that Noah's family got on it with a bunch of animals. \n\nI've never seen anywhere that it tells us whether or not he offered anyone a ride, or chased anyone away either...But from what i can tell it was a big boat.  So he probably wasn't hiding out secretly building it in his garage. Just maybe people could have actually seen him building it for the last 100+ years or so...Add my guess is that his lifesyle was probably a good example that he just might have know what he was up to...just maybe...so just maybe people were to busy to care.  \n\nSo Just maybe when God decided to take a break from holding weather paterns in check...maybe a lot of people decided not to get out of the way, until it was a little too late.
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Truth? I tried to kill myself. I was about 30 years old. My cheating husband called and told me he wasn't coming home that night. She was 17, and she wasn't the first or the last.)  I was so depressed I was screaming in pain inside. I just needed the pain to stop, so I took every pill in the house and chased it down with a fifth of Tequila. I remember praying and telling God that I wasn't sure if suicide was a sin and if it was would he please forgive me.  Then I lost consciousness. Later my cheating husband said he just had a bad feeling and came home to check on me. He found me having non stop seizures and called 911. While they were pumping my stomach, I died from a heart arrythmia. They tried several times and finally revived me. I was on a heart monitor in ICU for 3 days after that, but I don't remember any of it. The only thing I remember is having to have my bed linens changed several times until they finally put tubes in everywhere. No bright light, no memories, no feelings at all. Just like blinking out of existence. I guess God didn't approve, because it was SO unlikely that my husband, (now my EX), would suddenly decide he had to come home. I didn't feel very lucky, since I was still very depressed. I still wanted to die because of the pain, but I realized God didn't want me to die. Later, "Mr. Wrong" divorced me. It was the best thing anyone ever did for me, because after that I was alone and I prayed and told God that I was lonely, and I had tried but I realized I couldn't make it alone. About 3 weeks after that I met my current husband. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, and we have now been married 16 years, and we are still very happy. The main lesson I learned from these 2 events in my life is that God hears my prayers and answers them. I know that sometimes the answer is "NO", but I know he is there and he listens.\n\nAlso, I lost consciousness and almost drowned in a pool when I was about 7. I was swimming near the bottom and a boy jumped off the diving board onto my head. My head hit the pool bottom and I was almost knocked unconscious. I came to and tried to make it to the top of the water, but got really disoriented when I was about 3 feet from the top, thought I was in the air and took a deep breath, but it was of water, not air. Then I lost consciousness. The next thing I remember was waking up on my side coughing and vomiting. The lifeguard tolld me I almost drowned. I was grateful for the lifeguard, and I felt small, vulnerable, and helpless. Plus my chest, throat, ears, eyes, and sinuses were sore and stinging. Somebody wrapped me in a towel and I had to wait until I could walk. My parents weren't home and they had no way to notify them, so I had to ride my bike home with my little brother on the fender, and I don't think I ever told my parents. I was afraid they would never let me go to the pool again.
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Hi itstight38@s...,\nI'm sure your grandfathers friend knows how you feel and all is forgiven. My answer to your question is on the day my 12 year old son was killed he asked me if he could stay home from school and I told him no. There are times I wish I could take it back but in my heart I know that when God calls you home there is nothing we can do but except it. I know where my son is and I know he's in a better place than I am and I hope God will let me see my son again when it's my time to go home. Thanks: Blueladybug
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Interesting.  The Lord has put many in my life. Right now, I have a group of late teens, early twenties... I am preparing them for college,  by training them in Christian apologetics. This will help them defend their faith against the worldliness of college. My ex-wife... without her I may not have gotten to know the Lord and not be doing what I am doing now.  I had a wonderful class a few years ago and was able to teach science from a Christian perspective. One of the students, Sarah died last week. I believe she is in Heaven. This is rough when you see this happen to a 16 year old. But I hope I was able to make some difference in her and her families life.
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I'm sorry for your loss.  The first verse that comes to mind is Ecclesiastes 3:2, a time to be born and a time to die.  I can't say it brings much comfort. Verse 4 says ' a time to mourn and a time to dance.'.\nI found the 23 Psalm to be a comfort when my 16 year old daughter died.\nColossians 3:3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. (4) When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.  \nI was wanting an answer as to why my daughter died, and this was the verse I came to when I opened my Bible.  It has brought me comfort\nAlso, Psalm 139:13 - 16.  All our days are known by God before we are even born.\nI hope these help.  We just passed the 15 year mark on our child's death, and things will get better.  I have always felt that God took on most of the pain when she died; I know that is strange. \nGod bless your family, and also your other son.\nMy daughter was saved,; I think that's what got me through it.
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No, it wasn't God. I am truly sorry for your losses and pain. I would definitely be angry at him too. But it wasn't the work of the devil either. You and your family were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. It was nothing personal. If he wanted your family dead, he would strike them all dead. Most accidents have a cause, and what makes it an accident is lack of intent. As for your house, that kinda stuff happens everyday. You cannot predict that either. Have faith that there are bigger, better things for you. Do not wallow in your grief. Stand strong and everything will be okay.
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He died for your 'evil doings' too. \nAnd I would like to know why you wouldn't want to believe in Somebody Who would let you have eternal life and live in a paradise forever?\nIf somebody had told me when I was younger that there was no Jesus or God, I still would have believed because my life is richer and fuller because of Him. He took my world, rocked it a few times, then set it back down, cradling it so it wouldn't fall. I still would believe because I would rather live with the belief that I was going someplace better when I died and find out I'm wrong than live with the belief that I was going nowhere and find out I was wrong and live in a burning pit of pure torture for eternity.\nBy the way, I'm 14 and believe with all my heart that I'm going to be in heaven with my Jesus someday. \nI'll be praying for you.
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I lost my oldest son just over 5 years ago.  He was murdered.  I am still not over it & never will be.  The best thing I can tell you is turn to your religion.  That has helped me.  I think God gives us answers on how to go on without our loved ones in everyday things.  Like, this might sound wierd to most, but sometimes I hear (in the back of my mind) my son talking to me or answering a question that I've only asked myself.  I take it as he's giving me advise.  I think I'm living life as my son would have wanted me to live it.  I'm making decisions that if he were here & I'd asked him for his advice, they are ones that he's tell me.  I don't know hon, life goes on & so must we.  Sorry to hear about your loss.  A son, aunt, mother or father, its never easy & nobody has all the answers.  Just take it day by day.  You'll have good ones & bad one.  I've learned to deal with it cause all the tears & sorrow or angry feelings isn't going to bring my son back, just make me a bitter person.  He wouldn't have wanted that.  He was a good young man, 23 at the time & had his whole life with a wonderful career in his sites.  He was brutally murdered.  We just had the trial back in September '05.  It still hurts but like I said... he would want me to do just what I'm doing... trying to be the best person I can be.  Good luck to you sweetie!