should we stay toghether for the child?
437143
If you two arguing is upsetting the child, which it clearly is, then you should split up.\n\nThe child will be upset at first but thats cos its all she knows, as soon as she sees that you both are happier by not being together, which makes her happy, she will come around to the idea.
252851
stay together for the kids man
88935
Absolutely.\n\nI usually have to remind myself that my daughter is capable of getting her cereal in the morning, because I'm usually on autopilot til she gets to school. \n\nI think allowing kids to do things for themselves, provided it isn't anything that could be dangerous, is a good thing in helping them build their confidence and independence.
311810
Hi, I'm from Carolina, and I'm not sure if there is a law for that what you asked. I think common sense plays more a part than anything. I think it is safe when a child reaches 10-12 years old. Of course there are 10-12 year olds who are dependable, and some that are not, I think it depends on your kids. I know of a 12 year old who was in daycare because his mom couldn't trust him enough to stay at home and not burn down the house, or let strangers in while she worked. Generally around that age, they should be able to stay home by themselves until a first shift working parent(s) come home for the evening. Most of the time the child is only there for 2-3 hours alone before an adult get s there, which is not bad. As a child with both parents working, I remember staying there for an hour and a half until my mother got off work. We walked home from school, me,my brother and my little sister. My bro was the oldest at  10, I was 8 and lil' sis was 5 or 6. We were good kids and me and lil' sis listened to our bro. We would not answer the phone, go outside, cook anything, or watch t.v (until homework was done) no tv until homework was done. He would threaten to tell if we didn't listen to him, and we did since he was the oldest and in charge. I am 28 now, and I'm still alive and well. That is my point. It depends on your kids! My bro was responsible at 10 years old, so my folks knew they could trust him to watch over his baby sisters!
469516
Doing the right thing is doing what's best for the child.  Your child deserves a good life and if, as you've said, you can't provide her with that, you did the right and brave thing by giving her an opportunity to get a good life.  You're a better mother than most in your situation.  They keep their kids and then their kids grow up to resent their mothers and themselves for the life they have.  I think you should be proud of yourself, and since you still get to see your daughter, be honest with her about what you want for her.  She'll be proud of you, too!
131488
Check with local probate court if there is such a legality.  If child is a very responsible person, might be okay, unless that child is babysitting babies.  You know your child better than anyone.  How long would parents be out?  Most children that age are too immature to be left alone.
592216
the children are our future someday they will run this place as well as they will take care of us. think about kids become adults !!  well some ..lol so if we teach them the ways of life and keep them strong they will grow to be great.
618249
Do what is best for the child, you have been selfish in many ways, which does not make you a bad person but the time has come to make some responsible decisions regarding your role as a parent...if it is better to be a parent without living with the child then do that, you are still family.It may even strengthen family ties.You don't want to live with the child and leave again.  Maybe you should not get back together with the mother, remember one thing, as you get older your child becomes your legacy not your relationships with your girlfriends/partners/wives. Take your time and make a decision you can live with...don't rush, be a good parent and don't put yourself on the spot by agreeing to something you really don't want, be a good parent and you will find peace and a more fulfilling life,which will include doing the best thing for your family.
227451
You were once obviously, thats why you have the child.  If having his kid wasnt enough for him to stay with you, I don't know if there is much more you can do.
550005
You know who the responsible parent is....YOU! Just continue being what you are, and the problem is solved. Kids are smart, and they KNOW! They want to live where there is stability, security, and love! You give them all that, so you have nothing to be concerned about! Relax!!
294003
The child obviously. If he were mine, I would save him first. \nA child is a part of the mother and her main reason to live. A person that dares to consider herself a mother should feel that protective instinct that even animals have.\nAny true parent would give his life in order to keep their child alive, healthy and happy. No matter the country.\nSometimes the education from other continents makes some difference between people's attitude.\nBut when it comes to a child. The most basic instinct should arise-protectiveness.\n\nI'm not a mother, but if he were my child I would rescue him.\nP.S. I'm European.
214240
Although you need to do what is right for your child you should be with (girl B)  If you stay with the baby's mom you will most likely end up in divorce or resent her for not being the one you love.  If you are only with her for the baby it is also not good for the baby.  Learn from your mistakes though and make sure you children do not suffer.
505515
The parent needs to decide when it is comfortable for them.  Some parent can hire a sitter to care fo a child even before birth.  Others may feel best to wait until the child is 5 or more so the child can tell the parent if something inappropriate occur.  But I think the bottom line is the parent needs to do what is in that parents heart and feels to be right.
199872
I personally think it depends on how old the child is.  I did live with my boyfriend when my child was 2-3.  We eventually broke up and no harm was done b/c they didn't remember the situation much.  I am now dating someone new 8 years later.  We are even talking of marriage but I refuse to live with him until we are married.  If something does happen and we break up it will definitely send the wrong message to my child.
393643
Are you and she ready financing to handle something that life shaking? It would be terrible for the child to be brought into the world and they can't be properly taken care of. It is one of the biggest steps in your life.  It should be something that both of you think about and consider every option of before you jump into it.  Remember its someone else's life you're affecting.
717787
I have 2 little ones, and I would think that it would be easier for me if someone took the kids away for a bit.  Talk to your daughter about her feelings, then make a decision.
924537
Heck no!\n\nParents aren't parenting well if that's the case.\n\nJust do the right thing and ignore the parents in this case.