how do i get my 30year old wife to do what she's told?
440564
First YOU have to get a clue, then you need to beg her for forgiveness, that you are so backwards and pre-historic, then you have to make her dinner for the next 12 months, then you need to take some sensitivity classes, THEN you need to ASK her to do something for you.
616295
if you figure this out let me know. I've been trying for over 16 years now and can't get her to change her mind.
61642
Tell her to respect herself more and not get involved with a married man. It is a recipe for pain, all the way around. \n\nThen, tell her to set aside some time to think about the kind of man she really wants in her life. Have her list at least 25 characteristics about her hopeful beau. For instance: Honest, good humored, professional career, financially responsible, good health, and spiritually mature. Then, tell her to start “being” those same things that she desires. Like will attract like. \n\nAlso, tell her to stay away from this man. If she works with him, tell her to quit her job and go someplace else. We don’t play with rattlesnakes because we know they can bite us with the venomous poison which could lead to our death. The same thing goes for a married man. Flee right now! There is some one out there for her. She needs to respect herself enough to wait. Why settle for okay and miss the best.
259677
ive been married 3 years one thing ive learned is just when you think you figured them out, the rules change.\nHere is what i've found maybe it will help you.\n\nnumber one be honest. it may maker her upset but she will get over it and be glad you told her what ever it was.\nnumber two be understanding. Dont get me wrong this is not a bad remark, but women are very emotional. Dont let yourself get out of control cause she melts down. Sometimes they just have to vent and are ok.
46352
I don't know how or why she's being a "beach", but I can tell you that you can't MAKE anyone do anything.  The only person on this earth you can change is yourself.  So my advice to you is make sure you are being the right kind of husband, no matter what she does or says.  Don't let her provoke you into behaving badly.  I know, easier said than done, but that is about your only option, other than ending the marriage, which it doesn't sound like you want to do.  Get yourself some good books on marriage and how to be the ideal husband.  Work on yourself.  It just might do her some good!
1021678
hey dont be so panic....there must be some reason why she is behaving that way...are you a nagging hubby( for a change...hahaha)...well it happens when person keeps complaiing about everything ..and when he is never happy with things....do you complain about the food she makes?? do you complement her if she prepares good food for her?  do you try to prove how she is wrong in bargaining?  may be because of some reason she must have lost her confidence...\n\njust talk to her and ask her..everything will be ok....you know what when we cross 60 we again start behaving like kids.....may be she has started behaving little early...so handle it patiently and as both of you dont have kid...you got to care for each other...\n\nso best luck!!!
879704
Just explain that sometimes you would like to do it a bit gentler. Do it her way sometimes and your way other times.
16860
there is a generation gap between the 2 of you.  she was 23 and you were 52 when you got married.  her interests, goals, values etc are probably different than yours.
199593
Sounds like your marriage really needs work.  Not just wishful thinking.  You have to show her you genuinely care enough to rebuild the marriage and she has to decide to stop looking elsewhere for what she's not getting from you.  There's a book called "His Needs/Her Needs" by Harley and it outlines that when specific needs are not being met that one of people may go looking elsewhere.  It doesn't mean they should do it but it can happen.  There is always hope if both people want to work through it.
861937
Ask her if she's made a New Year's resolution.  She'll rattle off some things, then will ask you what you resolve to do.  Tell her that you resolve to be a faithful and loving husband; you resolve to honor and respect your wife; Just tell her you resolve to do all the things you would do if the two of you were married; it could be a combination of the serious and the silly (I resolve to grow old with you, I resolve to always put the seat back down...) then tell her that you need help keeping your resolutions, but not just this year, but for a lifetime- then ask her if she'll help you.
736455
To me it sound like she is just old and thing that she does should be done in her way so you could try already having them done for her. Sometime thing just have to be done for people and you tell a little lie and you tell them they have already have done it. I know you don't want to have to lie to the people we love but their is times we have to. That and people at that age don't want to think that they can't do thing their self. So if you make her think that she is doing alot  by herself. And you could give her thing to do that you know that would be easy for her like at dinner have her get the drinks for everyone thing like that. Yes she old but in her mind she not. so try to find something easy and the hard thing you do.
807293
Talk to your wife. If she really does love you she will listen but you have to do some work. Give it your all!!!!
738082
the wife gets this but she is a lot older than you .....
1128273
simply surprise her on several occasions.you know your wife better and know what can do the trick.
1089855
get older, then tell her.
247995
You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do.  The only thing you can do is let her know how you feel.  The rest is up to her and you have to respect her choice.
52600
First off congratulations on 22 years, that is an incredible feat in today's society.  I can't wait till I hit that mark with my husband.\n\nThere are several courses of action you could take.  If you think  your relationship is strong enough just simply sit her down and tell her how important it is to you that you need a change.  Be honest with her.  Be specific about what you'd like her to do more often.  Give her examples of what you'd like her to try, and make them easy ones at first.\n\nMaybe suggest to her that you see a sex counselor.  I'm guessing that your wife is at least in her low if not mid 40's.  For women of that generation we were told to be sexually free but not how to go about it.  You'd be suprised at how many middle aged women need to even learn the art of self pleasure.\n\nAnother route would be to lead by example.  Set up a romantic evening and introduce a new toy, or a soft core video.  Maybe a massage with some lotion.  Maybe once you help her to discover her sexual self she'll be more open to initiating it.\n\nBe patient and hang in there.