i've never get laid b4 , im kinda shy guy i get confused infront of gallz , im 22 yrs , what should i do ?????
446461
I know people older than you that never got laid. Why rush. There can only be a first time once. What you have is priceless and you can never go back. Don't throw your treasure away, it's so much better to share it with someone special.
26582
Dont' worry girlfriend!I was in the same boat as you before.I did the bar scene, all my friends were in relationships, and that's what i wanted desperately.So, i would settle, and i got losers.Alot of guys would hit on me, but i just wanted to date, than i would call them back after, and they had a girl.Too late.So, in that time, I just felt out who i was, what i wanted, and focased on my career. That's when i thought, hay, i can just weed out these guys who just wanted a good time.Well, it worked.I wasn't looking for a guy.My true love had found me.When you are least expecting it, it will hit you in the ass.What i am saying is, relax, and it will come.Do not be desperate, and settle. He will find you! Get out there and do stuff that you like, and he will be there waiting for you.Good luck!
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
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your not a loser for being a virgin.  Machoism is over rated and normally held in high regards by idiots, morons, and ignorate people who just accept machoism as the one truth in life.  At most no sex can cause sexual frustration or even over whelming curiousity about how sex feels like.  I lost my virginity to a prositute not because I wanted to be a man.  But because my curiousity was driving me nuts.  I am also bit of a odd ball so I suggest to wait for a girl you like before losiing it.  It would probly feel better then my experience.  My experience only lead to my thinking whether meaning ful sex feels better then hollow sex.  If you dont want to be a virgin forever start dating.  If your having trouble with that read books on the subject.  Hopefully you will have better luck then me.  Well good luck
379695
Stop having sex w/ the girl & talk to her!  You were just looking to get laid, you need to find someone that you can spend time w/ and not just screw.
739443
wow!! your a much better man than any i know if you have been around for 7 months and no sex! i just turned 28 and i dont know how you do it!!! yep, you love this one for real!  i would sit down and have a deep conversation with her about your feelings.
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well, it is not so bad to be shy, many girls like guys who are shy and who are not pushing it too hard. but if you still find it a problem maybe you should practice, at first try it in front of the mirror and then maybe on some girl who you are not attracted to, also try to be more talkative with your friends, that will help you to develop your speaking skills and after a while you could easily talk with girls (at least i hope so!)
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well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
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As a matter of fact, I have the same problem. But I don't really mind as those people aren't even my type, so i just regard them as not even worth it. I don't know if that helps for you though. You sound terribly shy and lonely, so perhaps you should socialise more and if you do see someone you like, make the first move.\n\nBut don't try too hard though, I know this girl who was really desparate for friends, so much that it showed and she was ostracised by her classmates (who were a really mean bunch to begin with).\n\nDon't look for online friends, it's only a way to meet perverts who prey on lonely young people, and even if they aren't, no on e is sincere about online relationships because on the internet, you're just an avatar.\n\nTo be honest, if you haven't got friends, you cannot do very much about it. I suggest you just find another hobby for yourself to take up your time and sit out this awkward period in your life.
528006
aww..don't give up, just stop trying so hard.  Be confident and outgoing and the right girl will come along, you will see.  Meanwhile spend more time out with friends and family so you aren't so lonely  Have a great day hun!\n\n:-)
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Hey Hun....No you're not alone....I am also young but have never been interested in just getting laid...I've always been more interested in a strong long term relationship...For me...The relationships always start off like they will last forever...and then BAM! all the effort and love I put into those relationships are taken for granted....I'm dealing with this sort of thing now with my boyfriend of almost 1 yr and half...He just up and decided he needed a break...now when we talk it's awkward...and there is no love in his voice...it breaks my heart and I too feel afraid that one day I will wake up and be 40 and have no one....no kids and no life...and end up hating myself for not being able to find a real relationship where both people love equally....it's scary...but alot of people say "you're young and you will find someoen to respect who you are...and WANT to be with you as much as you WANT  to be with them" I know it's hard to believe that there is someone out there for everyone...But as hard as it is...what other idea can we really hold on to? I hope you find someone to share your life with too...GOOD LUCK hun....feel free to e-mail me...if you wanna chat more...or add me to msn....hoffababe@hotmail.com...caio
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Used to be there bro, so listen! Wussy nice guys finish last! Confident nice guys win everytime with chicks that are worth it.\n\nBe YOURSELF (not an arrogant ass) BE CONFIDENT (if you aren't confident in yourself, then fake it till you are) Everyone fails at some time... deal with it and move on. :)
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think what you would do.. you know guys and gales aren't that different... would you just come out and say to a guy that you really liked them.. im guessing no as you fear rejection, just the same with guys. \n\nThe only difference is that if a girl just want sex all they need to do is lower their standards and you are sure to find a guy that wants some...\n\nIf you are good looking then the guys will constantly think that you are out of their league...even though you are giving all the right signals.. and the fact that you are a virgin is something to be held until you find someone that you feel is right.. not something to give away to get someone... your first time is something that can effect how you think about sex so you want someone who... er lets say will be gentle as it is not like the movies... you need someone who cares enough to help you warm-up for the main event.\n\nI have been the guy side of what you described.. and found out that some girls that i thought were way out of my league (as i dont think im that hot) did actually like me and would have said yes if i had asked... as the guy side of it i just didnt want to stick my neck out to be shot down by a good looking girl and possibly lose a friend (good looking friends are a bonus as they make you feel good)... i know that sounds wrong and sexiest but you must admit if you;as a girl, have a good looking guy with you, you feel good.\n\ni think i can garentee that if you are good looking girl, you may have to be the one to stick your neck out... as i think the only guys that may actually have enough confidence to ask you will be people who do it alot, if you know what i mean... not someone you could stick with for a while... but you can judge that when they are standing in front of you.\n\nyou dont say how old you are but dont push it..... remeber just like i would find a "nice" girl at a club neither will find a guy... they dont really hang out there.. things like house parties are the best.. you generally know the people, you can be relaxed, you dont have to shout, can get TALKING with a guy and if it goes well you can stand a little closer, you can tell the signals from there.. do they back away or stay close...after a little getting closer you can use the old trick of quiet talking.. this means that you both have to lean in cheek to cheek etc... just dont make the mistake of giving IT away.. stay safe not drunk... \n\ngood luck!!!\nps:if you drink dont over doit and dont leave it unattended..... sorry i dont mean to sound like your dad..
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Get over this!!\n\nYou're better than to worry about being kissed. So you're 22 and never been kissed. SO? How does that make you less of a person?\n\nThe more you focus on getting a kiss, the more desperate you are going to seem to everyone. You know those friends who always whine about something? Do you know how annoying that is? If you want to chase off a guy FAST, become desperate.\n\nLove life! LIVE life! Don't be so concentrated on what you haven't done. Go skydiving, go on a cruise, LIVE! The more you get out, the more people you're going to meet.
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trust me this can not be a problem...i have guy friends who were scarred to have a girlfriend because they really never had one...when i advised them if they were ready i told them to go out in groups and when your guy friends talk to girls get in the mix and talk to them back...ask for a number....and trust me although you have never been with a girl it is ok...not all girls like it when a guy tries to make it seem like he know it all...as for me good guys are the ones worth being with...take your time and get out there and mingle and dont be scared to just talk...
869976
You're on the right path. Hold on to your virginity and be honest about this. Most of them are jerks, but this will weed them out and you'll eventually be likely to come across a decent man.
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You need a self confidence make over, my friend.  Unfortunately the less confidence you have with women the more they will reject you. They are like rabid dogs. They smell fear a mile away and will track you down in packs - swarm in for the kill.  I think step one for you is getting over past rejection. It is in the past - it's done.  Throw it in the garbage and don't think of it again. Don't use it as mental fodder to beat yourself up.  If you don't like you - chances are others won't like you much either.  Have you examined looking for women in different places?  I don't know where you have contact with them but if you are trying to pick up stuck up chicks in bars you are going to get a lot of rejection.  Keep in mind that hot women are overrated.  They are people too - but you have put them on this huge pedestal.  Once you get a girl you'll go "All that for this?"  The fact that you have women on the brain 24/7 is part of the problem.  The moment you stop caring about what they think of you is when some bubblicious honey will strut right into your life. Good luck.  Keep your chin up with the babes.