My wife left me after 8 years of my chronic illness me were together 14 years with 2 kids why?
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I have fibromyalgia too, as well as cancer, But here is my advice. STOP RIGHT NOW USING YOU DISEASE AS AN EXCUSE FOR ANYTHING ESPECIALY FOR YOUR WIFE LEAVING.Your body has a disease not your mind or emotion, that is what you need to get your family back. Get out side yourself and see what your family is in need of from you and give it. Don't let the pain run your life. Take your life back right now and let your mind and intelect run your life. You are in charge, if you want something you can have it if you believe you can. Quit being such a whiny cry baby. That right there is why your wife left. It is time to stand up and bee a man. You decide. If you keep doing what you are doing you are going to keep getting what you are getting. If you want to get something different you are going to have to be different.\nWhat treatment are you getting for you fibromyalgia? My reumatologist is of the belief that Fibromyalgia is a sleep disorder. I use a sleep aid and a c-pap machine and the flareups are not as severe, as well as a pain management system. Smoking dope is not a good treatment for fibermyalgia. It does not aid in good sleep habits or good nutritional habits. good for the dying and the neaseated but that is not us fibro's. It will also flush the rest of your life down the toilet and all you will be left with is your fibro.
527003
I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
599764
I would have arranged to meet my current wife(my 3rd) when I met my first wife. Then she would have had my children. First wife lasted 6 years, current wife has been with me for 27 and still going strong. It took me three tries to find true caring and love.(Oh yes, #2 lasted for three months!)
550098
why do you still love her? How long have you been divorced? If you loved her dearly, and your devorce was mutual and you have children together, maybe thats it. I need more info to give you an educated answer...
389707
i married my first girlfiend at the start of the year we have been together for 6 years and have 2 kids i liked her at school she didnt like me we were best mates but now we are married so she was my sweetheart but i wasnt hers
310016
You've obviously dedicated yourself to your spouse if you've been married for 35 years, so congrats on a very successful marraige. It's a perfectly normal part of human nature to reflect on what could have been. It sounds like you left a small part of yourself with this other person. There is no shame in remembering happy times with another person, but if it gets to the point of obsession then you should think about speaking with someone in the mental health field. If you aren't that far gone just enjoy your fond memories, while focusing on the good memories you have with your spouse.
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You would have broken up even if you weren't sick.. She was honest with you and obviously she doesn't wish to support you in your bad times. You must feel very bad now. I think it's better like this, because if she was supporting you, she wouldn't have been honest with you..(and she would break up when you feel better)..Try to search the support of your friends and family or even a psychotherapists. \n\nI'm sorry to hear you're ill - have you considered to start with macrobiotics?
100137
It took ten years for my poor poor heart to mend after I divorced my husband of 13 years b/c he had a baby with an aquaitance of mine and I felt sorry for her not being married and all gave her a baby shower and gave her all my childs things (i did not know it was his child til later). It just takes time. I dove into my work and made new friends (seeing as how all my old friends knew it was his child and did not tell me) and spent some quality time with myself. I got to know me really well and decided I really liked the new me. Just give yourself time to heal and get involved with work and friends. It does help. Oh and try not to drown your sorrows in alchol and drugs. I tried that I lost everything I had AGAIN and had to start over. Good luck to you and try and hang in there the world has a lot to offer if you will just stop and look around. I am happily married now to a wonderful and caring man that adores me! I am living proof that your heart can and will mend. I may stil be cracked but it will heal.
806639
I suffer from major depression, ptsd and bpd last year and I have a 7 year old.  They wanted to hospitalize me, but I refused and agreed to a 5 day per week intensive outpatient therapy, and a cocktail of psych meds.  I am now back to work and functioning quite well. I assume you are single and that is why your daughter was taken away.  I have the luxury of being married.\n\nAnyway, my point is this...my little girl has seen me cry, sleep, lay around, ignore her, irritable, and at my worst.  I kind of wish I would have just been hospitalized and got it over with and not have her see me like that.  My husband and I were recently cleaning her room and found some of her writings and she wrote stuff like "mom is sick all the time" and "mom is sad".\n\nI really think that until you are better, your daughter is better off where she is.  She can be your motivation.  Whenever you think that life isn't worth living, just think of her.  That is what I did.\n\nYou are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you and so does your precious little girl.  You are sick.  Let the doctors treat you.  Get better, and get your daughter back!\n\nBest of luck to you!
208704
to stay together for life.we have 4 sons and 9 grandchildren.we did have a daughter[32]who passed on in jan and will always have a part of her with us.if i didn't have my husband these last 41 years i don't know what i would do.we have our problems but we work through them and solve them the best we can.we still disagree sometimes but thats ok.we cherish the time we have together and pray to god that continues for as long as god sees fit.nobody is perfect.i tell my husband i love him several times a day.all these years haven't been easy but we managed to get through those times.god bless you.
512205
I have been through a divorce for this reason. I think if you have children and fight in front of them all the time, its best to go seperate ways so they dont have to suffer.
255280
coming from a woman point of view that has been where your wife is,"yes the same reasons get tiresome to the ear and heart,we have to leave with the kids somewhere safe until everything dies down and you calm down from being so angry! when we go as far as a restrain order,trust me it's not because we don't love you it's because were afraid,and we do what we can to protect the children as well as ourselves. I'm not upholding you for your wrong doing,yes you need time to get yourself together and give her time to regroup,and maybe she'll forgive you,but remember time brings about a change!get yourself together keep your hands to yourself,stay in counseling and let GOD work on you too!I am a firm believer that she hasn't thrown away 13 years overnight with kids.I pray that it works out between the both of you,but she has the say,now she's in con troll!! good luck "T"
486499
I'm really very sorry that you have to go through this  type of situation because i have.Right now I know that it doesn't seem like it will ever get better,but trust me it does.I had been married for 10yrs, together with the same man since high school.He broke my heart left me with a 8,6,4,3month old.To make a looooooong story short(lol)I've been remarried HAPPILY for 7years now.My husband treats me like the Queen that I am,and I most definitely treat him like a King.GOD Bless you and your children(your husband too,he's going to need it)
748563
i feel your pain brother, and yes it is true. my ex did the same s--t to me. i have3 kids. pay more than that per week and also provide medical,dental,and eye care.\nthe real kick in the ass will be when her NEW boyfriend(unemployed also of course) moves in and you end up supporting his ass too.\nkeep your cool and remember that the children come first.\nGOOD LUCK
848177
I have been with My Husband since we have been 15.I am 36.yes there has been time when I wanted to leave and same for him we got married for better or for worse.We have God in our life and that has helped us out ALOT.we have 3 kids 21,14 and 10 and a Half.
944412
The longest relationship I had was with my late husband, we were married for 35 years, we knew each other 2 years before we wed, it was very fulfilling because of our mutral love and respect for each other and the 3 children we together brought into the world made it more fulfilling. he lived to see out first grandchild but sadly passed away 2 months later, 3 more have come on the scene since.
238939
It happened to me. My husband and my sister no less.  It ruined my marriage, even after 28 years I haven't forgiven him.  He ended up with a terminal illness- Multiple Sclerosis for 15 years. He passed away in 2004. I felt like I had to stay and help him.  His actions affected my relationship with my older son and my sister...not that she was worth a second chance. But, I did try.  My mother, father, and baby sister didn't talk to me for 15 years- yea, like it was my fault. My brother and I remained estranged until he passed away. All I did was stay with the guy.  Big mistake! My younger son is not really part of the family every one shuns him because he looks like my husband. My sister's daughter ended up being an outcast and tried to commit suicide twice. What should you do?  Move on...make a life for yourself, find someone that respects you and loves you for who you are now... don't wait it will only hurt you! I am 53 back in college and making a life for myself for the first time. I have never been happier. I plan on traveling and staying alive! With as much enthusiasum as possible..If you need to have someone beside you I am sure that there will be that certain someone around the corner.  For myself, I just love being myself. One day maybe I'll meet someone but, for now my happiness and peace of mind it what counts to me.