my mom doesn't like my boyfriend what do i do?
439191
I think she is just afraid of losing you, and she knows that Joe is a good guy and things could progress to the next level. just try not to let it bug you, she likes him she just is worried to things will get too serious before she is ready,lol or she is afraid for you to get too serious and if things don't work out you will get your heart broke and she just is trying to protect her baby.
327035
I know this is not easy on you, but there is really NOTHING you can do, except try to see the good thing in this man that has made your mother pick him for her new husband. Try not to argue or interfere...they will resent you for it. Keep your chin up and hope all will work itself out. Support your Mama and remember who YOU are and that you may find this guy is good to your Mom and O.K. after all.
1131817
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
639434
You have a child now so the stakes have completly changed. If she is hateful and you have no parental control over your child, then you have ever right to want to leave. I understand you love your boyfriend, but sadly sometimes as a mother you have to choose between your and your bf personal happiness and the happiness/well being of your son. I think you should explain to your bf how you feel and tell him he can leave w/ you or you can go on your own. Then follow through w/ getting a place of your own, if he understands then he will come with you. You two can still go over everyday & check on her, but you need your own life as well!!! I hope everything works out for you and your family.
946427
Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
725552
tell your mom he makes you feel uncomfortable- you like him and everything but sometimes he gives you a weird impression that doesnt seem right. ask him if she will tell him to give you somes space for awhile.  also. when you are home alone be careful- if he does make you uncomfortable tell him strait up that you feel awkward.
1149013
I'm going to hazard a guess based on your typing and grammar and say that you're under 15 or so... and in that case particularly (but at any age really) mom's usually know what they're talking about.  I know it sucks to hear that, but trust me, it's true.  (I'm 19, btw.. I've been there very recently, so I'm not out of the loop here.)\n\nWhat you should do is sit down with your mom and say "Hey mom, I don't want to get in to an argument about this, but I really want to know what it is you don't like about ____."  Listen to what she has to say.  Most importantly, do not get defensive.. the minute you start yelling at each other, you don't stand a chance of working things out.  Take the points she makes (and ask her to be specific.. point out specific examples of how he's controlling, not just say that he is) and think about them for a day a so.  Tell a close friend (*not* your boyfriend, very important) what she said and see what they think.\n\nIf after that you still think she's wrong, tell her you really thought about it and got a friend's perspective on it, but you don't agree with her, and ask her to respect your opinion.  That being said, do not disobey your mom.  Boyfriends come and go.  Your mom will always be your mom and it's more important than you can possibly imagine to keep a good relationship with her.\n\nAnd, as an aside, just my personal opinion, if you are young, as I guessed, you really don't need to date one person for that long.  I dated the same guy from the age of 14 to 17, and thought it was great at the time, but now, I really wished I wouldn't have done that.  It's kind of hard to explain, but just take it from someone who's been there.
984831
You should just be a good girlfriend and do not let her get in the way of your happiness. Remember to always respect her and that she loves your boyfriend so she will back off sooner or later. Do not try to compete with her, let her look bad and your boyfriend will cling more to you because of her negativity, then she will realize that she is pushing are son away from her and closer to you. Then she will back off for sure.
1167466
I've been there and done that. Except he was 7 years older. I'm guessing you are more mature than your age group. And seeing as how I have been in this situation I am in no position to judge you. It is hard. My mother did not agree with it. But she also knew that if she wouldn't allow me to see him in front of her, and at least give her peace of mind knowing that we were watching a movie in the living room, that I would somehow get to see him one way or the other. And she gritted her teeth and let us hang out at the house together for several years. Until I was about 16 or 17. Then I decided that it wasn't worth ruining my relationship with my mom, family, or friends for. It really is a personnel decision to make. I knew the relationship wasn't right, but I did it anyway. Talk with your bf. If he goes to college, what about you? You still have 4 years left of school. If he cares he will put you and your education as a priority. I am now happy with someone that is closer to my age and better for me and we have a beautiful daughter together. If your bf isn't the one, there is someone out there for you. Good luck honey!\nO! sit down with her, explain to her that you want to discuss something very important with her. Tell her not to get angry or start yelling if she does get up and walk off. If she doesn't get angry, continue to tell her what;s going on in your life, and your side of things. If she seems interested, later in the conversation she will ask questions, more than likely his name. if you don't feel she is comfortable with this don't tell his name. He is over 18 and can be charged with staturatory rape if you and him have had sex, even if it was mutual, because you are under 18. Really good luck
1078620
First I would open communications with mom to find out what she doesn't like about them.  Consider her opinions and maybe take a closer look how you act when you are with them.  It may be how you act when you are with your friends that she doesn't care for.
589512
1) You're under NO obligation to explain yourself to your girlfriend's mother. The woman stepped over the line.\n\n2) If you truly adore this woman, then work it out in spite of the controlling mother. You're a man, and you have to put your foot down. Don't lose someone you love because of an outside factor - you'll regret it.\n\n3) Explain the truth to your girlfriend, and let her have time to work through it. Relationships are tested all the time. Don't fail the test, and ... again ... remind yourself and your girlfriend that this is between you and her. Nobody else.
887045
Go live with him and live happily ever after. Your mom is being ignorant. Your mom needs to realize your an adult and you will do whatever makes you happiest and she can take it or leave it.
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
1135218
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
323167
He is in the wrong in this situation. It is not your fault that your mom got in the middle of something an could not control her words. If he is mad at you for something as small as this then he is not worth it. Even if you do love him, he does not have the right to make you feel bad like this. just make sure that his cuz understands that it was not you. You also have to remember that you are a strong, beautiful woman and the he should be honored to even be friends with you! :)
222979
Let me tell you this, I'm am not your mother. But, if there is a reason she doesn't trust your boyfriend then there's something about him she doesn't like. When you are in love you are blind to everything. Don't have sex with that boy just because he wants you. My mother was 16 when she lost her virginity, to a guy she was in love with and had dated for a few years. No, you don't have to wait to sex untill you are married. I think of it like this, I wish I would have saved my virginity till I married my husband, but being so young when I got married (18 years old) I'm kinda glad I didn't because some of my friends that got married to their high school boyfriend (whom they lost their virvinty to) have wound up cheating on their husband because they only been with one guy and they wanted to know what it was like to be with other people. So, not to step over what your mother has taught you, but in some cases maybe it's best to at least try it once before you get married. I did and I know what it's like to be other guys besides my husband, and my husband knows what it is like to be with other girls besides me, so we aren't worried about cheating on each other. Wev'e been there done that and now, we are happy with each other.
493560
Don't tell her. You're only 17 the chances of you and this guy being together beyond HS are slim to none. Why go thru an unneccessary battle with your mom now? Wait until you're own your own and have a new boyfriend.