6 months of dating...can I leave my 17 year old son?
452403
I agree with the first two gals.  Have a neighbor keep an eye on the house and you can call to check on him.  Make sure to set the ground rules before you go because I remember when I was 17 and my parents went out of town I was ready to do some hard partying.  Keep in mind that is highly likely with a 17 year old.\n\nGood luck!  :)
651402
Move on. Having a non standard family is very common nowadays, and as long as your son knows he is loved then its ok to date. It is worse for the child if they grow up in an environment where the parents are not happy together, so as long as your sensible about it then go out and date to your hearts content.
152885
Well, from a legal stand point it is perfectly fine to be dating him. You do need to consider though, his experience in life vs your own. Chances are he has done a lot more living then you have. In the begining your age differences may not effect your relationship much, but in time he could become possesive and controlling and try to stop you from living your young carefree life. Wanting to settle down ect... I watched this happen to my sister, and before she knew what was happening she felt stuck, and had a baby, and he had her convinced that she was nothing without him, often using his experience in life against her youhful ways. She did finally get out, after a few years, but now she is a single mom trying to make a life for her and her child and this guy is still a thorn in her side and will be for the rest of her life since she shares a child with him. While you might be thinking this would never happen to me, once upon a time my sister thought the same thing. Be careful & good luck.
130646
For an eighteen year old being in a permanent relationship is a scary thing especially when there is the added pressure of having to be a dad.  It would make me feel vulnerable too.  He's got some growing up to do before he's ready for that level of committment.  That doesn't mean that he won't mature and be with you.  He should be if he's your baby's dad, but don't rush into the committment just because you have a child together.  In the long run that could be worse for the child.  Both of you are going to change a lot in the coming years and that dynamic aspect of your personality will leave anyone feeling vulnerable.  It sounds like he might be on the right track though.  He's got himself in college and he's willing to express his feelings concerning his vulnerability which is really hard for a guy to do.  Give him some time.  Give yourself some time.  It sounds like you might have winner in a few years.
518724
Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
917805
17 is still considered a minor. She can "date" older men that is not illegal. Sexual contact would be illegal. However, you would be hard pressed to get a prosecutor to bring a case considering she is 17.
894745
IT IS ABSOLUTELY NOT WRONG!!! 1 year is NOTHING. It is much more about how you 2 connect with eachother than how close you are in years.  I once had a thing with a guy 2.5 yrs younger than me, and we are still great friends, cuz he was an absolutely AMAZING person, and was super cute, and quite frankly was more mature than most guys my age. Guys the same age as me were always pressuring me to do things I didn't want to, but since I was older than him, this boy was SO respectful of me and my decisions and feelings. And what a sweetheart... as you can see, I could talk for hours.  Obviously dating a guy like 5 years younger than you is kinda weird, but just a few years is NO reason to hide feelings for a guy. If he treats you well, who cares how old he is? And if you're worried about being made fun of, then DON'T! YOU like him, and it's YOUR business. End of story. Best of luck with him! <3
384014
ok calm down in the child support ofice they are going to make a test, there u are going to find out if is hes or not, if you were in love enough to forgive him maybe u can work this out is a part of him what are u talking about(meaning if if his baby) so take the good thing about this and enjoy him and the baby. ok is been 6 yrs are u ready to live him for the same mistake that you already forgave him. think about it and be honest to your self.... do you really love him? and care enough to go through thtis with him? is a big test u know?
673024
If you are 18 and in school still, it's that old rule \n\n"as long as you're under my roof you do as i say"\n\nif you're 18 and live on your own, date anyway.\n18 is too old to not be dating, my fiancee and i talk that when our kids reach 18 then it's fine for them to start dating... any younger, it's just a huge no no.... \n\nshe may not have felt you were ready for that, but let her know kindly that how will you ever find love , or learn to love and lose if you never get to experience it, let her know (if you have a close relationship) you will keep her up to date on your relationships, not all details because some are personal like kisses and such... but still if that will get her to let you...\n\nif all else fails, date anyway, tell the guy the situation, and he may enjoy it because you're both dating and sneaking around with each other behind your mom's back....\n\ni know that's somewhat disrespectful but by law 18 years old is an adult... so good luck with that :)
686312
A complex problem, but I would say you have to cut one loose to start with.\n\nI wont flame you for the age difference, because to you it probably does not make a difference, but it does to him, he will be wanting a lot more than you should be willing to give, I of course mean sexually. Which is wrong, he shouldnt be dating you, I was 17 once, I know what 17 year old (or 16) guys want I can say I wasnt as desperate, but all of my freinds were only interested in one thing and you shouldnt be considering that.\n\nI think even if you decided on taking things further with an older boyfreind, you will not be as ready as them, but more importantly he could be arrested for it, and if that happens that could really mess things up for him, he would be labelled as a sex offender and that could ruin his future. In terms of a job or life, it would be on his criminal list, perhaps a sex offenders list, where he would be put with dirty old men, it really could be very serious.\n\nIt could also mess things up in your life big time, you have a bit of time, so take your time enjoy life, but try to find a boyfriend closer to your own age, where there will be less problems and you both will have a lot more in common.\n\nAs for the talking on the phone, maybe you both are a little shy which is undestandable (I am guessing he is closer to you age, you didnt say), when you just talk it can be hard to think of things to say, try asking a few questions how he feels about something, talk about common interests, maybe movies, music, friends etc.\n\nAlso there is nothing wrong with being single either, you are young you have a really long time to worry about boyfriends in the future.\n\nI hope this helps and that you take my advice regards the 17 year old guy.\n\nAll the best\n\nArmand.
1022663
Hard to say, since I don't know the background, but my intution says walk away. I also have a feeling that you might not be able to walk away any more than he has. He may keep coming back, but you keep letting him...what's up with that? If you two had a relationship based on true respect and understanding, then there would probably not be the back and forth stuff.  One thing is for sure, do not let him back just because of your daughter. Kids watch us for a model on how to handle their realtionships. You would be surprised how many things get planted in those little brains...... You know how much you've hurt over this on-again-off-again stuff, and you wouldn't want to see her with any man but one who loves her and is dedicated to her for life right??\nSo, then you must model that in your own relationship.  I am a single mother, and I had a very up and down relationship with a guy for awhile. I found it hard to walk away from it, because I loved him, but in the end, the love for myself and my son won out.... it can for you too.  \nGood luck, and don't expect things to go smoothly either way. This has obviously been a very important person to you, so if you stay together, you'll have alot of work to do, and if you walk away, you'll have a lot of healing!! You can do it though-- put yourself first!!
640628
Your "boyfried" has other, much more serious, things to be doing and taking responsibility for right now.  At 18 he's an adult with a family of his own - why would you even consider dating him?!  Is this what you want for your own life - a guy who has a baby to you then is off to the next 15 year old?  I doubt this will remain a friendship - if it does encourage him to support the baby and it's mother as he should.  Get YOUR priorities in order!!  You deserve much better!  Figure out what you want from life, work hard in school to get it, and stay focused.  Boys at this stage will mess up your goals much more than help them!  Good luck to you and God bless you.
1087103
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
39853
It doesn't matter,even if you are 6 months apart, if one of you is over 18 they can go to jail for being with a minor. It happend to my son, who was only 6 months old than his 17  girlfriend and he still went to jail for dating a minor.
407966
Six months is definetly too soon. If he really cares about you then all you need to do is tell him that you aren't ready for this because you think it's just to early in the relationship. Tell him that maybe after you've been together like a year and a half, you might move in with him. Don't be afraid to tell him the truth. If he's got a problem with it then he's not worth it. \nJust remember that you are still young and a committment like this is too much. Work on the relationship before taking it to the next level.
637945
AB NOT. Though I do not know about your family , etc...I do not think this is appropriate, not because it is dirty or anything scandelous like that, but we need to think about the greater picture - you do not want your child to be rideculed or anything further because of something like Prom. You should do other things to encourage your son to seek his own date, give him some ideas on how to attract/approach a girl (or boy depending on your son) - remind him how special he is and that there is most defintely someone out there for him!!! Worst comes to worse, find someone to go with him - do ANYTHING to find him someone worthy or someone who will make him feel special :) Good Luck!! (p/s i dont know what kind of financial situation youre in, but here is an ad a mother put up for her son....it may be a place to start!, if not, read the blog under it about peoples thoughts on this)
408821
You have to be patient. He probably just has cold feet, 18 is YOUNG. If you keep pushing you well chase him away for good. You want him to be sure don't you? Or do want to push him and then after a couple of kids you break up. BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT!!!!   Being with someone til death do you part is scarey and he just wants to be sure, he well be back.