How do you deal with a 15 year old headstrong DAUGHTER?
438129
Man.  Good luck to you both.  I was a willful teenager too, and so was my sister - my poor parents!  They handled it well, though.  They always made sure I knew they loved me.  They invited the guys I knew around and got to know them and their families.  \n\nThe going to motels thing is scary - is that legal?  Could the motels get in trouble for allowing it?  If so, you could distribute a picture.  \n\nMake sure she knows the consequenses of sex, all the things that could happen to her if she continues - stds, pregnancy, etc.  Tell her how you feel about her having sex.  Be honest, but loving.  This is going to be difficult, but don't be affraid!  You can do it!\n\nThe smoking will be the hardest part - the only thing I can think of is to offer her treatment if she wants it.  \n\nIf she knows you love her and will always be there for her, she will feel safe with you and come back when her headstrong teenage years are over.
1130859
You can do a few different things - tell her the truth that you are scared of her dad, make up some reasons why you can't stay over,  or just invite her to your house even though your parents think she's weird.\nHonesty is usually the best way to go - you could try staying at her house one night and seeing how it is - if you don't like it you don't have to stay there again, it's just one night.  You might be surprised to find that her dad is a really nice person or if worse comes to worse and you still don't like him then just tell her the truth and don't stay there anymore.\nJust because your parents think she's weird doesn't mean you shouldn't have her over to your house.
53238
you dont spank them,talk to them and give them trust and love just be thier parent  spanking them at that age will cause your daughter to rebel,treat her like a real person
712736
first, point out the wierd things and tell her people are going to make fun of her and think she's wierd. if she still do esn't care, ignore her. she'll get over it eventually or live as an outcast.
1084603
I think he is a piece of crap and you daughter has gotten herself into a bad situation.  Unfortunately she is old enough that she can make her own dumb decisions, but things like that make me wish I had a bag of common sense that I could use to beat the crap out of people who do dumb things.
361263
don't let her bother you. what grade are you in? eventually everybody matures, and for those that don't, the rest of the kids will realize what a bitc* she is. Just ignore her completely, fly under her radar, but don't do anything that will make her feel like she's controlling you. \n\nJust take it with a grain of salt. Eventually she'll get her commuppins, and you'll be all the better for it. \n\nThis is probably the answer you don't want to hear because it's not easy to do, but the harder things are the more they're worth doing. Good luck.
1076183
Play mind games with her. Stare her down when she insults you, say "is that all you've got?" and come back with something snippy/sarcastic. But don't be so bluntly mean that she has something to tell an adult about. Or you could just not talk to her, and pretend that she doesn't exist.
552712
Ground her. Tough love. Don't sneek. She is your daughter, take a stand.
1131311
very 2 faced and needs to grow up.she maybe doing the same too you!
1014267
"Whenever I (her mom) try to talk to her, she reminds me that she's 20 years old and doesn't have to listen to me."\n\nSeems your daughter is quick to take your help when she needs it but then shows no appreciation or respect for it or you as her mother. She's right, she is 20 and she doesn't have to listen to anyone. It's also true since she 20 that she's of legal age so my suggestion is this. The next time she spends the night at her cheating boyfriends house, who she left to move home, then pack her things, call a local mom n pop mover and have all of it delivered to her boyfriends house. When she looses it and calls you or comes home, which she will, advise that you're also of age and don't have to listen to anyone, especially her. Send her on her way with one last thought and that is when she's ready to grow up, act like an adult and treat you with the respect you deserve then you're willing to sit down and listen.
773176
HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
761548
This is difficult.. Legally you need to send her..\n\nBut we must get to the "root" of the problem so you can find relief and she can be happy and spend quality time with her daddy. It would be terrible for you and her to Have to dread him..\nSo, I Guess it depends on your relationship with the dad.. Can you discuss your concerns with him?  \nWill your daughter open up to and explain why she's so upset she has to go and see him?  There could be a real serious reason she doesn't want to go there. Or, it could be one of the simple worries of a child and she just needs your help to heal the worry.\nMost kids aren't direct and since she's 2, you may have to use pictures, or speak through dolls to get her to explain..
233505
I'm going to assume you're an adult figure in her life.....\n\nFirst of all, children deserve respect - they shouldn't be overlooked in this regard for being "just a kid." Respect is not an age-related entitlement. Children have feelings as well and they understand when they're being blown off. That's not to say you do that, but make sure you don't. It doesn't mean that you have to let her walk on you, either - set boundaries and respect hers as well. Talk to her as though she's a person with hangups, fears, etc. instead of as a kid. Teenagers are "young adults" and are trying to learn what it means to be an adult because they want to be prepared for it. That preparation is a parent's/guardian's OBLIGATION and extends far beyond food, clothing, and shelter.\n\nShe might be feeling some puberty-related hangups, perhaps about physical beauty, weight, etc. - assure her that it's truly irrelevant regarding what kind of person she can be, though I don't know how well all the old cliches will work. Be honest and say, "I don't know if anything I can say will make you feel better about this, but I love you and you'll always be special to me," or something along those lines. Don't do that with her friends around, though - that puts her on the spot and only increases anxiety. But the teenage years are going to be the most anxious times of her life - as an adult, you're already well aware of this.\n\nIf she's bummed out about school (grades, class standing, etc.), just encourage her to always do her best and to make sure she's learning *something* from her classes. Don't let her coast after learning something, though, but praise her when she brings home a good report card. The whole point of us having a scholastic structure is so high school graduates can function independently (as necessary) in the real world. And a little pat on the shoulder with a "Nice job" goes an awful long way.\n\nIf she's desirous of a new wardrobe that you just can't afford, be frank with her and let her know that it won't be possible. Naturally, she's still growing and you'll have to provide new clothing as necessary, but show patience in reminding her that a label doesn't make her cool, regardless of how many of her peers try to pressure her into thinking so. If you take off a Dolce & Gabbana outfit and put on something from Wal-Mart, you're still the same person but wearing different clothes.\n\nThe whole point of having self-esteem is to realize that you *mean something* somewhere to either yourself or someone else. But that self-esteem/self-worth should come both from within oneself and from others - if others aren't providing it, you must tell yourself you still deserve it. Then go out there and show it.\n\nGood luck - I hope you can inspire her.  : )
77089
If you care about her and understand that it's tough, because she's going through an important stage in her life, you've got to have empathy for your daughter, she's going to be starting to like boys, you must give her space, and love her at the same time, she might get mood swings but she'll get over it and she'll still love you, but make sure you set limits, believe me she will thank you, get her into some activities if she's never out, and if she's always out make sure you know where she is going, get her a cell phone and call her when you are in doubt, don't worry to much about her, make sure you have good influences around her.   \n\nWhat makes the best dad is empathy, and love, that's what I think. Good Luck! :)
490304
how to you associate with this lady? if you have no obligation, then just avoid being around her, if that fails then speak with the mother, or do something about it yourself, it is your right and duty to protect your child, so maybe you can talk to the ten year old, it'll make her mother look stupid for not disciplining her own child
1054247
Talk to her. Communication is what is needed. After 7 years and a DAUGHTER, you cannot walk away. Find out what is bothering her. You have a family together.
690984
Keep the lines of communication open.  Be purposeful but be certain not to judge.  Yes - God yes! - it's her age... 13-14 are the worst for girls.