is my boyfriend telling me the thruth that he doesn't have that much money to go out?
437152
Yes, it's probably true.  Stop making him feel like crap by asking him to take you out.  Find things you can enjoy that don't cost a lot or crack open your own wallet to pay for the 2 of you.  Men arent' just meal tickets.
171812
You need to provide details, is your partner the only one working? Did you know that when the two of you were getting together?\n\nIf it was the money that you got together for, you can never have enough, that I assure you and you can never meet anyone who can make enough for you.\n\nYou may be asking this question, I am speculating, because you may have found your interest in someone else and money is only an excuse, since you are not able to find anything else -may be.\n\nI doubt you are interested in a detailed answer.
820543
You don't have to suggest anything to him. Isn't this season supposed to be about giving rather than recieving? I know, the dude has nothing to give for you....but if you don't have anything to suggest to him, then you have everything you could possibly want. Right? So basically, you can just tell him that you already have what you want, and that is your boyfriend. Of course, only say that if that is the truth. Don't lie to your boyfriend.
1168797
Are you kidding me? You have a dude who is working his butt off to save for a house, and a RING, i'm sure, and your future, and your complaining he is working to much? Do you have any idea how much a decent house costs, and down payments, and the list is endless about how expensive it is to start a new life? Right now is the time to work your butt off while you are still young and able to do so! There are so many girls in your position that would love a guy to be doing all that for her. You are lucky and need to stop complaining. I bet when he puts a fat rock on your hand you won't be complaining then. Then  you will move on to how much you can spend on your wedding and you will be wondering where the money is going to come from. If you keep nagging him, I can gaurantee he will drop you and find someone who WILL support him in his work. \nIt's not a test, he is who he is. If you can't take it, then break it off and let him be with someone who will support him and be happy with him, and secure. \nSounds like you need a man that works 8-5 Monday thru friday and lives to wait for you!
1100263
Talk to him about it, because money is not everything.
141698
i think you should pay for her sometimes. i mean its nice to have you boyfriend pay for you when you go out. but i dont think you need to pay for her all the time. tell her straight up that you dont have the money to pay for her all the time and that sometime she needs to pay for her own crap.
715027
Total up all your costs on paper and divide it by 2. Highlight the amount an leave it for him so that he can see what you are talking about. You are not the only person who lives in your home - you both do. You both are responsible for the household. If you feel strongly about it, let him know that if he doesn't pull his share, he can do it all on his own - as a single man.
1002792
Hell no!  LOL!  I know, I know... some women are into that, but it ain't me.  Dating is an interview for marriage imo, and if he can't support me on a little thing like that... why would I expect him to be financially stable on anything else?  Now, later on in the relationship... after you've been together say, at least 6 months... then I could see helping a dude out if he needs it.  I've given my man $20 here and there for gas when he was having a rough time.  But in general, he knows how I feel about those things.  Luckily for me though, he feels the same way... has pride about providing for "his woman" or whatever.  heh.\n\nP.S. Why are you asking this?  Is it out of your own concern, or is it because he *refuses* to pay more than 50%?  Cause I think that makes a big difference in how it should be addressed...
941925
If you need more than he can offer, you should sit down and talk it over with him.  If you cannot come to a compromise and he cannot at least answer you once in a while.  Tell him your expectations of a relationship.  If your expectations are not being met and he isn't trying to a point, then you can tell him in person that you need more.  Nothing wrong with what you need.  If you don't constantly call or IM him, I do not see why he can't take a few seconds to IM you or call you.  If I had a boyfriend, I would make time, and call him.  After all, if he is busy, it can be just a 30 second call saying.... I am busy, just wanted to say hi and to have a good evening.  It sounds like he really isn't interested if he isn't even talking to you at school.  I think it is better to talk about it in person versus over the phone.
952735
I don't know his or your financial situation, but I would like to know how come it's OK for you to spend money to get there and not him?  and how far is it?  I would ask myself this question:  How many times has he NOT gone out of his way for you; then decide if you want to go to the trouble of taking the metro.\n-good luck
353676
Occupy yourself with other things.  If you know that he is not the one that you want to be with, go out and do the things that you have always wanted to do.  If you don't have money, that is fine.  There are more than enough things out there that you could do without spending money.  It's going to be tough but sitting around and just thinking about it won't make it any better.
652306
You should sit down with her and your boyfriend and decide what you are going to do. Paying her something is right, but you need to know what for, how much and how often. If you can't afford it you and your boyfriend need to decide if he will help. If he can't you need to look for a good job or move. Your boyfriend has to make a decision on whether or not you're worth the extra effort. If not you need to find a mate for your future.\nNext time don't move in until he pays out.\nThis answer is from a man.
758870
We always find something wrong with whatever situation we're in- your boyfriend sounds like he needs some room/latitude to check out things. Don't suffocate him. He probably loves you very much but right now is feeling constrained by the relationship. Best thing you can do is let him know you love him and allow him some opportunity do what he wants. It maybe doesn't seem fair, but it's a chance for you to do some thinking/living for yourself ,too. It is said ,"Set it free and if it's real, it'll return to you sooner or later". That's what good love is- trusting, enduring, and patient as well as self-sacrificing.
970661
He is probably "up to" is wanting sex but maybe just a fun night out. Go to the concert with him if you want to but don’t let him pressure you into doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with. The price of a concert ticket and a trip out of town are not worth the price of your self-esteem and self-respect. Bring enough money with you to get you home in case of an issue of conflict of interests but that is good advice for any date if it is close to home or far away.↔
647669
You are a minnow in a big pond, an inconsequential thing that he might consider if it is convenient.  He perceives your offer is right on the edge of inconsequential.  Now if it looked like you could be very valuable to him, you would have a higher priority.  Right now, he's got piles and piles of things to juggle space and time for, almost all being more valuable than you.  Figure out an advantage (to him) or blow it off.  He's not lying, he's just busy and your value isn't perceived as high enough to merit nailing down the time and effort.  Sorry.  It's like dating a gorgeous woman who can have almost anyman she wants, why would she want you?  You've got to be worth it to her somehow.  This is different from desperate plain Jane's--right now you are behaving like the deseparate plain Jane who is mad that some guy who smiled at you hasn't called.
917237
Well for the first thing...don't be presured by how much he is spending on you. For you to have to come up with that kind of money is crazy.....men like to do that because it comes from there sense of manhood of being a provider and doing nice things...what I suggest for you is something thoughtful and sweet that doesn't really involve material value....LIKE a back massage or tickets to his favorite little band or something the two of you can do..make him something.....a picture in a cool frame or get creative!! His parents can get him electronic crap.....only you can give him truly personal cute things.
911312
Well, it sounds like maybe he needs a little prodding...maybe you should get him a gift that signifies something meaningful to the two of u, and then plan a night that he wont soon forget.