why do guys act like they care and them go behind your back and cheat on you and break your heart?...:(..?
454332
simply because,,, their  main concern is themselves, they are selfish little insecure boys! they have an ego the size of an abyss that is more important than any ones feelings especially a lowly woman , no matter how well u take care of yourself ,sexy, beautiful (inside and out), you can even give birth to their children!!! their insatiable need to feed their egos because of  a low self- esteem, lack of respect and honesty
499002
Its because those guy who plays the heart of girls are sick of their lame lives don't worry they are not worth it maybe they are not used in long term relationship and a lot of guys are like that...so don't focus your attention to them because your life will be miserible if you always think about them and as a matter of fact many girls are surviving w/o boyfriends
800678
while sometimes i do care when a guy cancels or doesn't call back, the truth of the matter is, a lot of times i really don't.  how do you get that "i don't give a crap attitude?" ......always have a plan B.  easier said then done.  but i always have a back-up plan like a movie i've been wanting to see or something else to do instead.  sometimes the guy's behavior is inexcusable and i'm an unforgiving person.  shame on you if you fool me once......shame on me if you fool me twice.  so i give them the benifit of the doubt once....but strike 2 their out.  remember also that the more you freak out....the more they get pleasure from it.....when you don't care .... they worry.   food for thought.  good luck and hope that helps.
504724
so why does it matter he told you right? so that means he's honest and caring... then he cried and told you sorry, caring and emotional. and he shows signs of regert ! are you complaining? you porably have an amazing man who was honest caring and sincere you are say how can i forgive him???? the trust oh okay well he stoped her didnt he? yeah exactly! he did so now you know that he wont go out and cheat on you!  so whats the problem here?
721914
Because guys don't spend TIME discussing their FEELINGS aloud.  Men don't demean their personal "relationships" by feeding an obsession to "discuss" them.\n\nUnless.  They are seeking to manipulate a woman they don't care about.  If they are this kind of Casanova, then, yes, they are articulate about how they "feel."\n\nSo the guy who speaks long and eloquently about how he feels is very likely to rip you off!
169527
guys are odd!They act like they like you to look good in front of other people(to be cool or desirable)but most of the time they're clueless!get over him and move on to someone else!
943290
Good grief girl, run from this loser!!!!  He doesn't care for you!!!  I'm sorry honey, but you have to get some self respect, not allow anyone to treat you like this and get on with life!  This creep doesn't care for you no matter what he says.  His actions do all the talking!!   If he cared for you he would act like it, not just talk about it.  Doesn't matter if he's still cheating.  He did cheat and will again.  But he doesn't care for you.   Get far away from him.  The hurt will heal and someone who really does care for you will come along and treat you the way you were meant to be treated.  Good luck, honey.
405110
reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
877674
You mean, do guys always lie when they're in love??? Always cheat?? Always lie??? Only the guys that are NOT worth keeping!! And there are a shitload of them. When you come across one?? Dump him!! They do not change!!
1156360
A guy wouldn't break up with you if he was really into you. His sad looks and text messages are just a way for him to keep you in his back pocket.
406007
Because the guy sounds like a jerk.  If he really cared about you, he wouldn't have found another the same day.  He sounds like he had it planned for a while.  \n\nBut I do disagree with some of the other posters.  Not all men are devoid of feelings.  I kinda got the same thing you did. \n\nMy girlfriend goes to NYC for Spring Break, I stay home because my cousin died and I went to his funeral.  \n\nBut she comes back from NYC, and says that she met someone up there she "connects" with, and wants to be with him instead.  She knew him 3 days.  She knew me three years.  \nThis happened about a month ago, "he" is still in NYC, she is back home in NC.  Hasn't seen him, but still wants him.  \nThis was the worst thing for me, because I really loved her.  And my heart was broken, into many pieces.\n\nI guess that some people can be heartless, and don't care about those they hurt, just as long as they get a brief good feeling.  \nBut I hope that for you (and for me) better, more pure love is waiting out there for us.\n\ngood luck.
496216
I think it is because he REALLY likes you. When a dude likes you, they act as if they want you to be mad. Act like it doesn't bother you and then he will probably stop.
386292
You have a perfectly valid reason for being upset. If he loves you he should respect your feelings. He basically lied to you. You can do better.
6991
They usually act nice towards you because they don't want you to kow that they are cheating.  They also ask you if you've been cheating because subconciously, they are preoccupied with the thought of cheating.<---Just my personal opinion.
942812
He is keeping you as a back up sorry to say.  Plus why would you want to break this girls heart by getting him to leave her?  Don't think of only yourself but her feelings too.
174527
he is lying...screw him...such a liar...main thing is guys do not get into the true love...if you want to have fun...then go ahead and have fun..but if you going for his true love...then screw him...he is liar
910665
I don't like doing long answers ... so i'll TRY keep this short .\n\nMOST WOMEN LIE TO THEMSELVES....\n\n...and not just to men ... they actually make excuses for what they do because they are conditioned to believe that cheating for pure physical reasons is something that only men do ... but those days are long gone...  all this nonsense about an emotional connection (b4 a woman cheats) does not fool real men like me ... \n\n...men just admit that they are weak where this is concerned and accept the guilt that comes with it...  ownership.  \nguys nowadays are too busy being bullied by women ... to pull their heads out of their A$$es, ...stand up and be MEN\n\nDr Bad\nNo one bashes BAd\n\nps. you have been asking some really good questions lately ... this is one of them... keep it up ... or i'll lose concentration.  ;-))