I Wasn't A Virgin When I Married My Husband, Is There Anyway God Can Restore My Cherry? Even If I Repent?
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you know thanks to you i went to bed thinking about cherries and laughing!!!! in answer to your question you could just pop to the shop and buy somemore!!!!!!!! xx
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Yes, you have some pain; it's just like trying to break into something that has been closed, and yes it is pleasureable, but if you are not married, please wait.  You will be very grateful.  It will only be disappointing when you began to have sex, and it's not with your husband.  You will start having sex with any tom, charly, and harry that comes along.  If possible, stay a virgin until marriage.  It is only diseases and death when you take a chance.  You never know where someone's mouth has been.  Try to meet someone that has the same mind-set as you do.  Be ye equally yoked.  You will not regret it.  Your body is precious, don't let others abuse it.  It may be the popular thing to do, but it's not the safes thing to do.  Do not let your peers pressure you, and if the do, cut them aloose because they are not your friend!  Save your body for that special someone.
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I completely kow how you feel I went through the same thing with my husband the only man I was ever with and still with. I couldnt wait for him to marry me so I could finally enjoy our sexual relations,I even remember crying during sex the guilt was so bad and I'm not even Catholic but in my faith along with most this is a major sin.  I dont your stat with you boyfriend but it wont get better until he marries you .  I bet you had parents who made you feel like everything you did you go to hell for.  I will end it saying this even though it will only help if you can truly belive it yourself "God is mericiful,and his mercy out weights his wrath",also I bet you boyfreind thinks your parents brainwashed the hell into you to make you feel this way and he probably hates your religion because of that..Good Luck I hope you can have a wholesome satisfing relationship soon and feel good about your relationship with god.
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Well, it would have been nice had you used spell check first...\nYour question is hard to read for those of us that actually speak and write in English...\n\nSo my answer to this is, which marriage were you speaking of???\nI am on marriage number 3 and at my age it would be foolish to act like a virgin this far into my life...\nI know others that are in their 5th marriage;  you think they should wait too???\nJust exactly how much holier are you than the rest of us???\nMy previous 2 marriages had the exes walk out on me because of cheating, and I was not at fault...\nSo we should study that aspect more don't you think???\nI do not agree with your logic or attitude... Sorry...\nYou could never make it work...\nHow would you ever prove it???
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I would suggest You PRAY. Prayer is VERY Powerful!\nFind a Christian church close to you and go and ask for prayer. It will help you tremendously and your children & marriage. The Lord restored my marriage. You can also get free Godly counselling from the Pastor.\n\nYou see satan wants to destroy our marriage, children & you. DON"T let him. \n\nThe Bible says:\n10 The thief’s(satan) purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My (The Lord)purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.\n\nYou need to be in a group of believers. The prayers of believers avail much. They also can offer you support, encouragement, uplift your spirits etc...It really helped me and I got alot of hope.\n\nIf you can, read "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omarian. Very good. Your life will never be the same once you accept Jesus in your heart. My life changed all for the better including my children. I'm living testimony. \n\nHere is a verse for you.\n\nJer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.\n\nHis Word never returns void. Here's another verse for you.\n\nPhil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; \n\nI believe the Lord can restore your marriage as He did mine.\n\nGod Bless!
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If you can control yourself, anything past kissing is too far. Even just feeling up is intimacy, and can easily lead to other things. Waiting for sex is meant to protect us, not to torture. Now saying all that, I didn't wait. I had a baby and married the guy right before the birth. But the great part is forgiveness. Thank you Lord for forgiveness! But asking forgiveness means you'll try your very absolute best to not repeat your past mistake. So try to find a guy that thinks the same way you do. It'll make it easier if you are both trying to stay pure. I asked for forgiveness, I'm still married (happily) to the only guy I've ever been with. So even mistakes can be turned to good. The hardest part is being human. And since we all are, its hard. So just pray for a great forever kinda guy to come your way. Then you don't have to worry so much. And when you get to the marrying part, make sure he wants forever, just like you do.
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Real simple: MARRY HER! What you're implying- SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE- is called "fornication" by God, which is SIN! You are VERY SELFISH! All you want to do is USE HER for your own gratification! The fact that you say you want to "convince her to go farther" PROVES this! You need to REPENT OF YOUR WICKEDNESS! See yourself as a LOST, GUILTY, HELL DESERVING SINNER! You are guilty of breaking God's law! "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Jesus said that if you "look on a woman to lust after her", you've "committed adultery with her already in your heart." (Matthew 5:27&28). Dude, you are A SLAVE TO YOUR PASSIONS! You are CONSUMED WITH LUST! Sex and all of the wonderful feelings that go with it are GOD GIVEN, and therefore "very good" as He pronounced after He had made Adam and Eve. But they were MARRIED! And that is why they were "naked and not ashamed". I would dare to say that your "girlfriend" is not your FIRST "fling", IS SHE? Are you still A VIRGIN? Even if you are OUTRIGHT, it's obvious you're not IN YOUR HEART! And I can guarantee that you are hooked on PORN, right? That stuff is DEADLY! You fill your mind and heart with ALL SORTS OF FILTH AND PERVERSION AND WICKEDNESS, and then you wonder WHY you have NO CONTROL over your passions! You're a slave to SATAN! The Bible rightly calls the devil "the god of this world". He ALWAYS takes what God has created as good and right and beautiful and perverts it into something very UGLY AND WICKED AND WRONG! That is what SIN is all about! The Bible speaks of "the pleasures of sin FOR A SEASON." You can "go all the way" or "part way", but EITHER WAY, it's still S-I-N!!! And it's basis is PRIDE! Notice how BOTH of those words have the letter "i" in the center! That's your problem: you are SELF CENTERED! You need to REPENT (turn from your sin and yourself) and TRUST IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS AND THE WRATH TO COME! One day you will die, and then you'll have to face the inevitable: ACCOUNTABILTY TO YOUR CREATOR FOR EVERY THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED! God loves you, and that's why Jesus Christ died on the cross for you! I beseech you sir: TURN FROM YOUR WICKED, SELF CENTERED WAYS TO CHRIST! And you need to do so TODAY! Tomorrow is too late! (You do NOT know when you'll die, now, DO YOU?) Quit being like so many OTHER guys today: A SELF CENTERED WHOREMONGER! Stop having this SICKENING mentality of just USING GIRLS for your own selfish pleasure! It really IS disgusting how so many guys will just SAY "I love you" to a girl SOLELY so they can "get what they want"! Love is A COMMITMENT! Everything else is LUST! And that is DESTRUCTIVE and ultimately leads to DEATH: Death in your body (STD'S); Death in relationships (resentment, mistrust, disrespect, divorce); Death in eternity (Hell fire for ever!). THINK ABOUT IT, AND TAKE HEED!
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The best advice I can give on this is that marriages are not perfect but i can tell that my friends marriage is more blessed, powerful and stronger than most I've saw becuause they waited. Its not that God is not wanting you  to to enjoy yourself, He's trying to prevent you from so many heartaches and problems that you can't see or understand. My friend and his wife I don't believe will ever know haft the struggles that alot of couples go through. Also if you wait God says He'll give you the desires of your heart. If someone tells you not to wait, they are living for the world and the truth is not in them! They are Liars. I did not say it.... God did!
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O.K., I love to tell this.\n\nWhen I became a Christian, I could no longer tolerate my unsaved, drinking, running around husband.\n\nI prayed, "God, please, give me a Christian husband instead."\n\nI knew God doesn't like divorce, so I didn't have any idea what He would do.\n\nYa ready?\n\nHe saved my husband. God is great all the time.
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Here are a few ideas to ponder:\n\n1. God gave you sexual desires to help in your future marriage and ultimately to glorify Him. The desires aren't bad, but pointed in the wrong direction, as thoughts often are, they become sinful.\n\n2. Treat these desires like the habit of over-eating. The right kind of food is good in moderation, but when you binge or constantly crave food, it becomes your drug or even your god respectively.\n\n3. Think of the particular females who are currently the object of your lust as people who need your unselfish, godly love. Ask yourself what their greatest needs are, and minister to them. I wish I had done the same when I was in your stage in life (not long ago).\n\n4. Since the problem is bigger than you are, don't keep it a total secret. Confide in God and in a friend or two you can trust, who will hold you accountable.\n\n5. Don't just stop thinking about girls and sexual stuff. Replace these thoughts with godly thoughts. Carry around a stack of memory verses, for example.\n\n6. You're already so far ahead of most Christian men your age because even to strangers in this forum, you can express the problem honestly. Way to go, brother!
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I was just having this conversation with God yesterday with the same question?  I didn't know it was for you.\nThere is only one reasonyou are feeling this way.  Everything, believe it or not, was created for a purpose-- even you. \n          " For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, not harm you.  To give you a hope and future."  Jeremiah 29:11\n Sex was for made for the coming together of a man and a woman but not outside of the marriage guidelines.  Sex is a beautiful thing and even more beautiful when it is with someone who loves you despite your bad breath, messy hair.  It is even more beautiful when that person is someone God has especially chosen for you and has strengths that you do not have and sees that a relationship with God is first priority and being everything that God has created him for as being part of that (loving husband, good provider, great father).  This person does exist.  Now that i know the truth of the matter in those people who might seem like they are happy are not happy they just have not been told by someone how special they are and that they are loved and accepted no matter their flaws.  So they go with what everyone else or so they think, does.  Sweetie,  you are special and there is no reason for you to sell yourself cheap.  You have been bought for a high price already and no one can pay as much as He can for your life.  I wasn't a virgin when I got married,  but everyday I wish that i could have waited.  God didn't set up laws to punish us, but to protect us( needless hurt, pain,  wasted time, disease and baby mama/daddy drama).  There is no such thing as separating love and sex unless you have a heard heart or no heart at all.  Don't try to fit into the world's standards-follow God's and he'll send you your true mate.     \nJesus loves you.( now smile)
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i am an 18 yr. old female who is still a virgin as well, and i totally charash it. it is the most preshes thing to me. being a  virgin(keeping your verginity tell your married) is very rare now days. and trust me i have had many chances to brake it several times, but i just cant do that because i would be just like all the other people. i might even end up with an unwanted pregancy, std's, aids, the shame of loosing your verginity to someone who you really dont love and care to spend time with every day of your life, for the rest of your life, ect..... i could go on all night and day listing things but i wont.\nI also agree with you. i would charish it tell your married and have that be your first time. hopefually that will be her first time too. and that way you both will have something special to look forward to, and you wont really have a clue if your bad or good the first time. stay strong and keep your virginity. i know that it's hard but its possible. dont let people bolly you into it. I personally would prefure someone who is still a virgin when i marry him. best of luck. remember if you have sex just one time their is no being a vergin again.
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Learn to commit your marriage to God. Be honest and open with your husband. Encourage him to do the same. you both have been hurt so deeply... but God can heal those hurts and restore the love in your relationship.\n\nLearn to pray. Pour your heart out to God. don't use nice polite prayers. Express your anger, your fear, your disappointments... God  wants you to be honest with Him.\n\nRecognise that you will only do more damage if you leave. admit that you need help and seek counsel - godly counsel. Is there a minister you know? A friend who is a Christian?\n\nDon't give up! Don't walk out!\n\nGod can make your marriage stronger than it has ever been!!!\n\nReally!!!
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PLEASE FOR GOD'S SAKE ... NEVER DO IT .. YOU WILL FEEL JUST LIKE WHAT I FELT WHEN I GET USED TO IT .. THAT I BECAME A MERE ANIMAL.. IT'S UNNATURAL .. SEX IN MARRIAGE IS HOLY SUPPORTING THE MARITAL HOLY LOVE .. BUT WHAT IT WOULD BE FOR TO DO IT IN 3 SOME.. MERE ANIMAL ACTION .. \nBELIEVE OR YOU WILL REGRET .. \nIT'S MERE DEGREDATION AND HUMILIATION OF YOUR HUMANITY
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Your virginity is a gift given from God to everyone.\nThat same God spoke about fornicaton, that it should be avioded. My advice to you is wait untill you are Married,  I wish i did.
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Why would you stop valuing your virginity???  Once it's gone, it's gone for good.  It ain't coming back! Save yourself for marriage!
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Met my husband when I commenced voluntary work in a Christian organisation .....wondered why God had called me there but it soon became very obvious why He'd called me...so I could meet my gorgeous man :)\ndon't forget the Bible says, "Seek first the kingdom of God and then all of these things will be given to you".  Jesus was talking about giving all the blessings God has for you.......seek God, not a woman & then see what God does with that.  God bless you as you seek Him.\nI'm praying that God will provide a Godly wife for you......