How do I know if my husband is or has cheated on me and if he really wants to still be with me?
447662
First of all its NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Men might play stupid sometimes but they arent. He could have told you no and been a man ...you would have gotten over it. Of coarse he didnt cause most men have this ego thing. And no hun hes not gonna admit cheating because that lets you know hes weak....a real man will take responsibility for his decisions. You are also not goin to know if he is cheatin unless you catch him...play it right and you will see if he is....give him enough rope to hang himself   :)\n\nPlus he would not have told you no about the marriage cause he needs something stable to fall back on..He knows as long as he has his safety net he wont fall. You told him right women shouldnt waste their valuable time on a man thats not gonna commit... either take the dive or get off the board....you did right.
408068
No offence, but don't their advice. You'll know when he doesn't show as much interest in you and when he starts acting different with you. If you think he's cheating, but he's acting the same, get advice from a friend or family member who know them a little.
476832
you can tell if he is cheating on you, if he is acting strange when you ask him questions, if he isnt spending as much time with you as  he use too spend. only you can tell if she has changed since you started your relationship. if you are questioning his honesty now, then maybe he is cheating on you.
447759
Ask him.  Tell him why you believe it may be true.  Tell him everything you see that leads you to suspect.  If you know the woman you think he is cheating with.. confront her too... in front of her husband/BF if she has one.  \n\nIf he isn't cheating he will tell you why the things happened that led you to think he is.  If his reasons sound phoney or far fetched hes lying to ya.\n\nIf he's cheating, it's his secret to keep.  Not yours... put his @ss on front street!
231228
The question is why did you cheat?  Something has got to be missing from your marriage to make you cheat.  Yes you can still love him.  And I think you might feel a little guilt because you asked this question.  You need to fix what's wrong in your marriage.  Is is something he has done or something he is not doing?  If so, maybe you should tell him you cheated and why you did it and see if you two can fix what's wrong.  Or is it something you have to settle with yourself?  If it's nothing he has done (or not done) then don't tell him, and settle with yourself.  Good luck sweetie!
1139044
Well, if I had a husband and I suspected him cheating I would first come out and ask him! Heck with pretending to be someone else. It's pretty much how well you know him also, a woman will always have to trust her instincts if you suspect him being a cheat then look for clues, if he keeps cheating it won't be long before he gets caught, no matter what a cheating spouse sooner or later WILL get caught. That's why I'm divorced now, but I was the one that cheated and yep! I got caught.
316907
just trust your husband - if he cheats, there's no reason for staying with him...there's probably hotter guys out there, u know?
119912
If you doubt he loves you now than it is probably true. Also I would not want to be with someone who cheated on me. He will do it again if given the chance
235242
If he is cheating on you after 3 years you really need to find a real man one that wants you and no one else. But if you want to try to fix it find out if he still loves you and why he is doing this to you.
394254
Ask him. By his response, you can tell if he is lying or not. Look for signs that he is cheating. He is loving you or avoiding you? Follow your heart, but don't be afraid to play the field too!
838076
That he is cheating does not mean that he does not love or find you attractive. It does not mean he wants to end the marriage either. It is just a male thing. The more the merrier. He is just seeking fun adventure and something different.\nHave someone talk with him. Someone he respects and will listen to. It might help. Keep your head and remain cool even as he seems to have lost his.
458445
This is DEFINITELY cheating.  He is witholding true and faithful committment from you.  I would confront him, insist on counseling, and set some ground rules until he has proven that he is once again worthy of your trust.  Good Luck!!!
458633
Just ask how that person would feel if it was done to them.  Cheating is cheating no matter how you look at it.
647357
he is either cheating on you or he thinks you are... you can stick it out or you can not... its really up to you.
116781
Wow, I'm so sorry about that.  I think you should consider your feelings for him carefully.  If it were me, I think I would call off the wedding if you were planning on getting married soon.  You definitely should confront him on this but before you do, I would try to find out if he's done something like this before and if he has indeed cheated.  You can try going through his email and his cellphone/pda/dayplanner, etc. to look for numbers that don't look familiar.  It's a shame that you have to go snooping through his personal things but if he's cheating, he could be gambling with his and your life because of STDs etc.  Best wishes to you.  Your mind and heart will help you do the right thing.
247951
You can never know for certain unless you walked in on him..  But if you have a feeling that he is and you aren't usually paranoid or prone to jealousy, then something is wrong with the relationship.  Whether or not he is cheating.
494046
Confront him with your insecurities. But don't go about it in an accusing manner. Rather, ask if everything is right between you two. Trust is everything in a relationship. If there are more signs that come up, then I would definitely look into it. But insecurities from your part needs to come to a resolution of if you do trust him or if you don't.  If there is real proof he is cheating on you then confront the issue. If not, let it be. Showing your lack of trust in him can be hurtful especially if he's been loyal to you all along.