Should I keep a relationship while the guy has been in another relationship for the past 4 years?
448225
Obviously he satisfy your emotional needs, and you probably does the same for him, by way of comfort i mean. He still is with the "other" young lady which could mean that he thinks there is hope, or he's waiting until she's financially stable to let her go. Some guys can care for a young lady so much that her well being really does matter.\n\nThe question to you is, why are you still in this 'relationship" with the fella? It could be that you see something meaningful as a possiblity between you two. If that's the case, and you really think it's worth hanging in there, then by all means stay. But while patience is a virtue, procrastination is bad for you. Not that you are procrastinating, however you may wanna weight the positives and negatives and give them a good review  before you make a decision. Love has many ways of coming at you. But only one way is the best outcome.\n\nIt's really up to you to decide what's the best to do at this point so that you can avoid any complications, and drama. heaven knows we all got enough drama in our lives already. Who really needs more?:)\n\nBest of wishes to you...
1168260
well its up to you, you can always turn a blind eye, but the problem is not going away.  you will always will have trust issues with your boy friend.  I know its hard when you have been with someone for four years but maybe get rid of the looser and find someone who can give you the respect and trust that you deserve.  kick his a$$ to the gutter so he can have all the affairs he want, and just move on.  Believe me, there are plenty of fish out in the sea that can treat you so much better. good luck and I wish you well. ; )
646474
Depends on variables. Goals, communication, honesty, etc., it takes a lot of hard work to keep a relationship going and going and going, for the next, what, forty years? If you can envision yourself and this man forty years from now, all wrinkled but still smiling and holding hands as you take your daily walk, well then, there you go!
1149228
Hey gurl!\nwell if u like the guy and belive things will work, then i suggest u stay together!!\nface problems as they come...\nthis relationship might have more to offer than u may think....so why end it before it starts?\nJean
261661
You make the rules, not them.  They are trying to force the situation, but if you just play it cool, you can continue to date anyone you please for as long as you like.  Trust me, if a 30 year old guy is getting it from a 20 year old chick, he's not dumping her just because.  They will both stick around, where you will have plenty of time to figure out what you may want in the long run.  Until then, tell them to relax and enjoy the gifts that life has to offer.  However, you may wish to keep the other guy to yourself.  That's your business, not a love triangle.  You are free not to choose.
1064937
well marriage is just a piece of paper after 4 yrs together you should know that he is  committed to you.   IF he is going to ask you to marry him it should something is wants to do and make a surprise  you don't want to him ask just because you are forcing him to.  i say go with him.
109627
If the two of you have decided to have an "open relationship", it's not a problem, and you can "chase guys" if you want to, too. However, if what you are looking for is a committed relationship, then no, it's not all right, and why are you still with him?
537901
from what i do is i spit the days from your last relationship last. And whatever those days are equal to i think its time to move on. but if you really really like this guy i say just go for it, you only live once and just live life to the fullest. :)
428527
That is totally normal.  If you've been with someone for that long, it's time to start talking about the future. So of course you want to know if he's the "one".  Both of you should take a break, date other people and decide if you guys are right for each other.
946762
I'd be cautious with the old flame, sounds like he's scared of commitment.  You could renew a friendship, but keep it VERY casual.  You still need alittle time to see if you trust he's telling the truth and to see where this new relationship is going.  One of these fellows might be the ONE for you, you just can't tell yet.  If I was in your situation, I would hold the old one as a friend right now (you already know what kind of lover he is--and you do not want to cheat on your new one)  and explore the new one to it's fullest.  The old one let you go first.  If he really cares for you as he professes, he will wait with/for you.  You need alittle more time to sort things out, and this could test the old ones mettle.  He could be rebounding from a crushing relationship and just be looking for a familiar place to hang.  Time will show you this, do not be blinded by emotions, protect your heart and health.  Good luck.
645313
Communication! I have been with the same guy for 7 years and I am just realizing since we moved in together that its one area  we need work in.  Its so important!  Also keep dating each other.  People always seem to get "comfy" in a relationship and it gets boring.  Keep things exciting.
1119027
I know most people will tell you no, but I think it is possible to care deeply for more than one person, and isn't caring deeply about someone what love is about? However, the problem here is that if you truly love both people, you will have to come to accept the cold truth: you will have to hurt one or both. If you love them both, then this will be a difficult decision. If you don't choose, though, you will hurt both people by default. I would think that you would want to save the love of one person, instead of losing both, so you had better come to a decision before it's too late. My recommendation would be to save the 11 year relationship. At least you know that love has staying power, but what about this new one - will it only be thrilling when it's new?
223537
tell him yore problem.. talk to him.... and then.. if he still doesn't .. then well.... i think its better if you went yore way.. but since you've been with him for 4 yrs.. its hard.. but try it....good luck (^_^) !
564882
How much time has passed?  If he's not willing to commit, then he's probably not right for you if that's what you are ready for. You can hang on for years with him, or get on with your life and find someone who will really value you, and want to make that committment.
233222
ive been with the same guy for 3 years, and we have been living together for almost a year. there is nothing wrong with it as long as its for the RIGHT REASONS!!! BUT it is a huge step in a relationship (u learn A LOT more about the person) and its a good idea only if youre pretty sure it will work. Personally, it works great for me- then again my guys like my best friend- we rarely fight and we get along really well.
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
395483
well i say if you both want to then go for it.\ni had a one night stand and we are still together 4 years later so it worked for me.