how to get rid of an abusive boyfriend?
438450
Well there are a couple ways to take care of it. If he lives with you, you can force him to move out (call the police if necessary). If you live with him, then you should move. If he hits you, then you should file charges on him and get a restraining order. Abusers were usually abused as a child so they don't see what they do as wrong. If he is young enough, some success has been found through drastic counseling measures. Maury Povich and Montel both have done the shock treatment on men like that. Taking them to see women in morgues who were abused to the point of death. If he loves you then he would stop. But you deserve much better. No woman deserves to be physically, verbally, emoptionally, or mentally abused. My advice is to send him to jail for awhile to see if he changes his ways.
885087
The Mr. Nice Guy stuff is classic abuser behavior. Contact a domestic abuse center. Educate yourself. Get as much emotional support as you can from your friends and family. They can help you keep your head in the right place when you're having ambivalent feelings. These situations don't typically get better, they get worse. Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
586686
Get rid of him.  If he won't let you be your own person he's not worth it.  Also if he doesn't trust you then you have to ask yourself if you can trust him.  Believe me you can do better!
1153493
Absolutely NO ONE deserves to be abused, no matter what the abuser says. Get out ASAP before things get much worse. Go to a shelter. Go to your parents, if you can. Go to a friends place, if you can. Go to your church, if you go to one. If there are kids involved, take them to the shelter with you because without you there, he could abuse them in your place and blame them for you leaving. There are always ways to get out, with or without money. There is NO excuse good enough to stay in a relationship where there is abuse. I know. I have been in that situation.
1111219
you teach yourself to live without them, learn to love yourself, ask God for strength and pray.  think of all the bad that you dont want from that man and that relationship and be strong!!  good luck!
1099272
Tell him your sick of his annoying antics and he needs to get a life.  Tell your bf that you dont want him hanging around you anymore and if he loves you he should respect that. =)
1134339
just leave him\nu deserve sumone better\nhes not worth the trouble u r taking
161727
Dump him.  Boyfriend not trusting means he is insecure.  It is a sign of abuse.
800569
There's some good articles on how to leave an abuser in lovefraud.com\n\nMy husband is a stalker too but I've gotten numb to his ridiculous accusations and constant threats. He took every dime of my retirement account and left me destitute in hopes I'd be too dependant on him to leave. I left 2 months ago to stay with family. \n\nKnow this- you are a target, not a victim. Abusers use your compassion, humanity, and commitment to the relationship AGAINST you! They are not human. They have no empathy. They are empty and hollow INSECURE people. They need to control you, own you, in the worst way.\n\nNever look back.
1036579
Sadly there is not much you can do to cool him down or even prevent an episode of rage in him.  If you want to cope so you don't end up terminating the relationship all you have to do is when you sense his temper tantrums coming, leave immediately if possible.  Simply refuse to be around him because you know that his negative attitude will affect you...I'm sure it always does.  And if his temper is as quick as you say, then you may just be running away from him more than you stay around him, but that is the only thing that can keep you safe from his poison.
955774
Don't bother. It's not your problem. You need to get rid of your boyfriend. If he is going to take a crack heads side over yours it's not worth it. Get them out of your life and let them deal. Cut your losses and move on. If you're bipolar you have your own issues to worry about rather than crackheads and crappy boyfriends. Call CPS, they will investigate and take her kids away (hopefully). Then tell them to f*** off and move the f*** on.
310685
being abused in any way shape or form is always a difficult thing to get through.\nIt took me a long time before i got help, but do you know what? when i did, i came out thinking, "well that was a waste of time, it didn't change anything."\nThe secret is keep going.......and do go, make that decision, make that choice to take charge of those feelings.\nNo they will never be forgotten, and yes you might get upset sometimes, but at least one day you will be able talk about it with out crying or getting angry. Talking to someone on a regular basis, is the best way to get over your fears. Talk about this with your boyfriend, tell him that you need to talk with someone, if he loves you he will understand. Good luck, it does get better, but you have to make the first move, and don't give up.
1144292
PLEASE GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nTHE SIGNS OF AN ABUSER ARE DEFINATELY WHAT YOU DESCRIBED!!!!!!!!\n\nIT CAN ONLY GET WORSE!!!!!\nHE CAN GET HELP BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD STAY WITH HIM.\nYOU TWO NEED A TIME APART WHILE HE GETS HELP THOUGH.\n\nI DON'T KNOW ABOUT ANY PARTICULAR PROGRAMS BUT I'M SURE YOU CAN FIND SOME ON THE INTERNET OR IF YOU ASK AROUND.\n\n\n\nBUT GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!
716051
Be strong and get out right away--but make sure you can do it safely and that he can't follow you.  Best to lose yourself in another place and, if he's really crazy, change your name as well.  Install security wherever you go and always, always leave at the first sign of abuse.  It is NOT you and you DO deserve better; keep telling yourself both of those things rather than "it will get better" or "I really love him" or "he's trying"--those are all self-deluding signs that land women in hospitals & morgues.  It will tkae time to get adjusted; you may need to get a guard dog/gun license (and practice on a range so you get really good!).  Just remember, any man who derives his power and sense of self-worth through abuse (esp. of people he supposedly loves) is sick and will hurt you and others again.  At least you've recognized the abuse and considered leaving before it's too late; some women can't bring themselves to leave.  Their lives are short, miserable ones filled with terror, even if to the "outside world" they seem fine.  Don't become a statistic!  There is always a way; there are free legal advice/churches/clinics that are willing to help.  It won't be easy, but it is best in the long run.  For one thing, it ensures there will BE a "long run"!
622163
do it like this, you ass act crazy and let it be known who do bitch in this now over relationship. you better start stalkin him and waitin outside his door trust me it'll get rid of him.
864883
Why?  Has your boyfriend been beating you?  If you want to get rid of the evidence, there isn't much you can do in a short period of time.  Hell of a lot easier to get rid of the cause.  That will only take about 30 seconds.
1156045
You don't need to be in that kind of marriage, you can do better than that, take pride in yourself, and get out, get away from him, because he may be emotionally abusive right now, but it can turn to physical abuse later, and then it may be too late to get out except by way of a coffin, please, don't make the same mistake I did, I left only after my ex- cut my throat with a piece of barb wire wrapped around my throat, and shot a double barrel shotgun off by my left ear(hard hearing in that ear now) in front of our children.  I thank God for nosy neighbors, that heard everything and called the police, so, I send out praise to all the nosy neighbors in Manchester, Tennessee.   Get out now while you can, ask a friend to help you get out, or you can call the domestic violence shelter, and ask them to help you,, don't become a VICTIM of domestic Violence, be a SURVIVOR.  Best of luck to you and God Bless, I will keep you in my prayers.