What should I do?  I'm 18 dating a 23 year old and I think I want out of the relationship because she has kids
450115
If you honestly feel as if the relationship is something you can't handle, then you should get out. Just be sure that if you do decide to leave her, make sure she understands why you are leaving. You're leaving not neccessarily because of her kids, but because you aren't ready to be a father figure and you'd like to travel. Make certain she understands this and be sure to use "I" statements so as to not put her on the defensive side of things.
522100
In your situation I'm not quite sure that there is a right thing to do. My suggestion would be to talk with her and if she too feels that the relationship is over, then maybe you two should consider joint custody. That way, you never have to live without your child in your life. Find a solution where the least amount of pain is caused. It's a tought situation and I wish you all the best.
303051
Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
1076996
That's just wrong.  How would you feel if you knew some 40 yr. old was messing with your 19 yr. old daughter.  I would have a fit and be ready to kick some ass.  That girl is just a kid.  She hasn't reached true maturity in any way, shape, or form.  Leave the kid alone and go for a real woman.  She can never do anything for you as young as she is.  Don't ruin her life and make her a bitter young woman already.  End it as peacefully as possible so she can be with boys, yes boys, her own age.
508223
They say that if people waited til they could really afford it before they had a baby, no one would have any children, ever.\n\nHowever, 24 is very VERY young. Other people having children around you should not influence your decision.  The guy you're dating, although you don't say much about him, has alot of children already that he presumably doesn't live with. Perhaps not the best support,having a baby is hard work.\nAsk yourself\nWill you live with your partner for 18 years or more?\nIs he a good father/do you want him to be the father of your children?\nCan you be completely selfless?\nCan you give up your life as you know it?\nCan you give a child the very best start in life?\n\nIf you can answer yes to those questions you are ready. If not, or if you just want a dolly that will call you momma, you're really not.
591907
Well,I now understand your second question you asked,but I'll answer this one instead. Any time that someone needs a break from a relationship,there is an underlying cause to why this person NEEDS time away. Even if it's just to think through where their life is going,if their on the right track. Most of the time though I truly believe that if the relationship is a stable one that the 2 people involved should be able to communicate their thoughts,feelings and hopes,dreams,wishes,whatever...to each other.\nI don't know your age,but I am assuming that you're younger,because this tends to happen a lot more in young love. I'm older so this answer may not suit you.\nMy advise would be to let her go,obviously she was the one who wanted out of the relationship in the first place. Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Get out and do things that you enjoy and live life to the fullest. There is so much more of the world to see than what is right outside your own back door.\nHope this helps if even just a little. You are a real person with real feelings and you need to take care of YOU first and foremost. Good luck.
642320
Man, 23 is too young to get married.  If she loves you, she'd stay in relationship with you.  If you want to prove yourself to her dad, then be patient and wait until your 30 to get married.
779385
That's quite an age difference. My only concern is that she becomes bored with the housewife routine, as all women get from time to time. she starts looking elsewhere for the fastlane she gave up to be a homebody.\n\nI would proceed cautiously. Divorce can be very messy especially with kids, and you know it will not all be bliss. I suggest you date and keep your options open...after all, your only 23...
238958
Wow. Um, depending on where you live, if she's 18, she can do whatever the hell she wants, so if she' snot 18 yet, ride it out, and then run away together. Do what you have to do to be happy with the one you love.
458794
I think that if it were me... You would be the better choice... less numbers in the equation. your kids and hers wouldnt have to get along since you dont have any. the only thing i can think of is that she might not want to have anymore children and you do. Just talk to her and tell her you want to be a stable father and husband. IF your not to that point tell her what you feel about everything and i mean everything write down questions and answer them and talk to her about them to see how much you have in common.
195193
Well assuming you have a child I would say lay off dating and try and take care of that baby.\n\nYou are too young to have a kid in the first place but now that you do you are too old to be dealing with silly teenage crap.\n\nYou need to grow up and be a mom instead of worrying about some silly boy feeding you a giant load of crap.\n\nHe just wants to get in your pants...that is all teenage boys want from girls and it sounds like you don't need the complications.
919553
I am 23 and just broke up with someone who was 52 why do you want someone younger? i think its fine as long as both people are okay with it you can email me if you want allison_buchanan2003@yahoo.com
445998
Tough! You had the child, you have responsibilities! If you new girlfriend isn't interested in your children then she isn't worth bothering about.  What happens in the future if you two were to settle, marry, have kids? Drop it in the conversation casually - yeah, this is my second kid? Stop the lies before they get too bad. If you are lying to your girlfriend by not telling her the truth about yourself, she can't love you for yourself, just a fake image you created.
528211
wow.  I can't believe you would separate yourself from your kid.  I want to be around my kids all the time.  Sounds like you are being selfish.  You must see your kids as being too much work, so you send them off half way around the world.  Maybe you shouldn't breed anymore.  Save the little love you have left for the 18 month old.
296010
Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.
712770
No i'm the same way. Theres a girl my age interested in me who has 3 kids at 22 and honestly i just don't want the headache.\nI dated a girl with a kid once and it was nothing but baby daddy drama.
1183566
Clean and clear. Cease all further contact with him and move on. If he still loves you he would be with you. To say it's because of the kids etc is a cop out. It seems like he doesn't know what to do and you don't need the confusion in your life. Learn from your mistakes and take your time with your next relationship. Good luck.