I have a job offer in Vietnam, wife hates there but money is great, stay in stable life or go?
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im off to thailand for 6 months in a few weeks, i say DO IT!
1051009
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
112102
Depends on your situation and the available of housing.  Sometimes going back home is the best choice since you can save money and be able to afford to live in a "nicer" place.
867475
Depends on your financial situation.  Many people stay w/ the job they have until they have another secured- happy or unhappy.
653511
I think you should possibly consider leaving the country.  The heat is on now.   But seriously, don't sweat it.  Face up to it and don't make a habit of it.  It'll all work itself out.
460162
If you inherited, then keep the holdings. \nThe situation is hard to predict, who know when the situation in Iraq or Iran will be stable.
211409
i think always go for a happy enviroment in a job , because you would only end up depressed and felling worthless in an unhappy enviroment.But if your dessperate after money then go for the well paid one !!!
151881
suck it up, and stay where you are.  enjoy the money, and look for another job in the meantime.
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Ramesh you would not like this piece of advice i am sure...but why to you wanna go to abroad when you are not payed well...i feel you should stay whereever you are and try to work for your country rather than working for some foreign country...hope you like this advice...cheers!!!
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You may be safe in changing jobs now. But do you really want to take a chance Immagration may  take offense of your doing so while in the middle of your application process? I personally think you should be able to change your job when ever you feel so inclined. However, why take a chance that somebody may take it as a sign of immaturity, insecurity in the work force or worse just plain instability?\n\nSo, even though you may be able to change jobs, I would reccomend you just stay put for now, finish your application process, then change jobs. It just seems much more safer than risking anybody attempting to use your change of job as a negitive sign of instability. If you are not in terrible work conditions, being abused emotionally, taken advantage of, or any other situation which creates a hostile work enviroment, just stay where you are. Unless the job you are considering is a much better paying, which would demonstrate an upward mobility and an increased ability to pay taxes, which the government would love!\n\nWhat ever you decide needs to be your own decision though. You can get advice, listen to what others have to say, but in the long run this is your life and what you decide will effect your life, the lives of you family and loved ones. So, evaluate your life situation, compare different scenario's and make the best decision you can. That is all you can expect of your self or anybody else, just to do the best with what information you currently have.\n\nGood luck in choosing the best path you can, and much happiness always.
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There's a trade-off for everything. I moved a lot for career purposes and in my experience, you make new friends whenever you go somewhere. It really expands your mind because you get to know so many different kinds of people.  My family was a 6 hr flight away. The second move was a 12 hour flight. That was hard, but nowadays there are webcams with free voice, etc. Re the love of your life. If she really is the love of your life, marry her and take her along.  I also have a flat in my hometown that I have rented out. Today, I'm 45 and don't have to work anymore, whereas most people have to work until they're at least 65. That is the trade-off.  Whatever decision you make, consider this: Imagine you're 60 years old and looking in the mirror and asking yourself what your life was like. You don't want to be in a position where you'll say: oh, I wish I had done this and that, because then it'll be too late.
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I am a military wife, and I can honestly say take all the time together as you possibly can with your husband. The life style isn't that bad, sometimes they are gone to the field, range, and schools, but then you have the deployment, which everyone goes through I swear. The moving isn't too bad, the military moves you for free, and you can get on post housing and just loose the BAH ( your housing allowance) and just have to worry about phone, cable, internet, and bills like that. \nTo me the cons are: them being gone for the field, range, possible deployment, and whatever else the army wants the soldier to do. \nTo me the pros are: steady job, you get to go to new places, see the world, steady paycheck, free insurance, and to be able to walk with the pride of being an army wife. I have been to 2 duty stations in 5 years, Ft. Stewart and now I get to live in Hawaii for 4 years. \nIf you need to talk to anyone you can IM me, my yahoo is always one
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No.  Would you stay in a 'lover' relationship you don't like?  Participate in a club whose values you don't care for?  A job is no different.  You said you lost respect for the company but need the job.  You need the money...not the job.  Either quit and look for another job or discreetly look for another job while still employed with them.
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That is certainly a decision that you and your family need to do some serious thinking about.  My husband, and I were also in the military, so I know how hard it can be when you are deployed.\n\nDo you know what you will do when you get out?\nWill you have to serve another tour over in Iraq?  How long will it be?\nWould you like to make a career out of the military?\nThere is a lot more information that I would need to know, and how you feel about them, before I feel like I could give any amount of decent advice on it.\n\nThank you for your service to our country!
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That's a tough call.  It's easy not to leave a job when you feel safe....\n\nAt your current job there's a chance things may change, people may leave, opportunities may arise...seems like workplaces are ever evolving...\n\nHowever, that's a maybe, and how much more time do you want to spend being less than satisfied?  \n\nDoes this new place offer health insurance?\n\nIf you go for it, you may really love it!!!  Or, not...  However, there are more jobs out there if things don't work out at the new place.  If you leave on good terms, your old place may even take you back.\n\nI think they recommend to have about 6 mos of savings for living expenses in the bank while your changing careers....just in case.\n\nLife is so short.  Work sucks most of the time!!!  At least it would be something new, right?  \n\nIt comes down to how risk adverse you are, I suppose.  Is the uncertainty going to cause you a great deal of stress?  If so, you may be happier staying put.\n\n\nGood Luck to you!!!
475116
I've done the same and was glad I did. Your  work life is a huge chunk of your week. Better to be in something you love than in something you would not be as happy with. Money is only money. Happiness can't be bought.
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You seem to want to come back home.  You may get paid well, but you are in a dangerous place where internationals are kidnapped and killed on a semi-regular basis.  What good is the job and good money if you are dead?  You are also risking the loss of your girlfriend.  How long will she wait while you are over there?  You need to evaluate what is important to you, most important to you and decide from there.  Do you miss your kids, girlfriend and family....really?  You can probably get a job back here if you look for it.  It may not pay as well, but at least you will have what is most valuable to you close at hand....your loved ones.