what is the disadvantage of choosing your own happiness than your family?
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sometimes when u are grown u have to make decisions and then everyone has to live with the one decision that u made.  are we talking about ur parents or ur children??  because if we are talking about ur parents then they will love u unconditionally, but ur children can grow to hate u.  i guess it all depends on the choice u make and who it is going to affect.  like i said u didn't specify on which family member or what??
739044
Sometimes you just have to swallow your differences to make others happy.  Especially is that other is your family. \n\nI don't think it's too much to ask to share in your family happiness.
399531
i'll choose my family's happiness.cos if my family is happy then automatically i can b happy..
249046
Because they want to protect you, and because they want the "best" for you. \n\nYou have to show you family that you can be responsible, sensible, take care of yourself, and be independent. Don't fight with them, as in most cases that'll lead to larger problems. Demonstrate to them that you're a smart, responsible, and mature person and assert that you are capable of making your own decisions in your own life.\n\nI also understand, that some families are very strict and/or very traditional in their heirarchies, however that doesn't leave you powerless to do anything. It may strain your relations with your family sometimes, but if you're adult about it you'll be fine.
698642
Of course money is an important factor in deciding the happiness. But money is not alone the reason for their fight. There are many other factors like \n1.  lack of understanding between them, \n2.  lack of a good philosophy in life, \n3.  the life situations they had grown,\n4.  lack of good friends,relatives                       \n     and neighbours\n5.  unexpected incidents
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Unfortunately, even though it is wrong to reject family members for that reason, it happens alot. But tell them anyways. Don't ever hide who you are! Don't ever feel like who you are is wrong because they do not agree or approve! You never know, they could be cool with it. You can not change who you are and if anyone, family member or not, can not except you, then it is better off that that person is no longer in your life. Good luck!
512932
I have always found that friends are more important for me because you cant pick your family.  You select your friends based on your own needs.
1015385
man prefer his family over any other relations
547201
sometimes you have to do whats best fo you.  would it really be that bed to be disowned by a family who probably traded you hand in marriage for $$$ or some other compensation?? you gotta do what will make you happy or you never will be.  the kids thing is the real complication, but if sex was a chore for her and she feels no connection to her husband, the kids aren't getting the parenting and support they deserve.  either way go do what you want to make you happy, b/c if you don't make yourself happy no one else will make you happy either.  fact of life
1150048
I'm not a qualified therapist or any thing so I can only offer an opinion...\nI think that regardless of what anyone says you feel this way and you have to acknowledge it.  There is no such thing a a wrong feeling. We have feelings whether we want them or not. Ever like someone (or dislike someone) for no real reason?\nWe all have that "moral obligation" embedded in us but there is a point when you can not overlook your own health (mental, emotional and physical). You probably need to discuss these feelings with your mother. Sometimes the simplest answer is also the hardest.  I suggest that in a reasonable manner start a communication with you mother. It may take time but communication  can often work things out better than drawing ultimatums. Start slow and work into the heavy stuff. \nI get the feeling that if your mother had a job and could support herself (or help pay her own way) things would be easier for you. This might also be a starting point for her to regain her own independence. She is not a child and would likely prefer independence over being dependent.\nTalk. Open lines of communication. While you may feel an obligation to family, you are no good to them if you don't take care of yourself. Trust you instincts.
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the phrase "actions speak louder than words" comes to mind, I was once told that sometimes your own family can be your worst enemy, their are some mistakes that you will make in life that will be so bad that you can't fix them, all you can do is make amends, set things right as best you can and muddle your way on through, and that's life!!
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It's unfortunate if you are put in a position where it is necessary to choose.  The only way to weigh the question would be to see which side is forcing the choice:  I would favor the side that is not pressuring.  If you love someone that your family disapproves of, try to honestly hear their reasons why they disapprove, and evaluate those reasons as objectively as you possibly can.  If a loved one is trying to draw you away from your family, listen carefully there, too:  does your lover have reasons for feeling your family is not good for you, or is it just selfishness?
427850
If you live long enough, you'll have your share. It comes  with disappointments & failures, usually from someone you care for. God gives Joy, and it is better than happiness. Happiness is linked to "happenings" & you can be unhappy. The joy of God has no opposite, It is beyond reason. You can't be "unjoyed."
624198
Happiness is a choice. Your circumstances don't get to decide if you have a happy life or not. Only you do. The people you are referring to just haven't figured it out yet. They're still blaming the world, circumstances, others for their problems. If they would just learn to appreciate what they do have and be happy more good things would continue to come into their experience. Dr. Wayne Dyer says "what you focus on expands" and he's right. I've tried it and compeletely turned my life around.
220385
When you self sacrifice for the benefit of others, but only those in your family.
665793
To be honest Happy Families have found that "thing" that makes them happy. I think that they realize that happy is relative. They realize that they are not always going to be "happy" they talk, they allow cool off time and realize that in the end they are all they have. Another thing I have noticed is honesty. Parents of happy children are normally honest with them they know their limits and make sure their kids know them  there are no unreal expectations. I think that knowing the ppl in your family helps you know the things that are important to the members of your family respect them and help them flourish in them. In essence yes u will fight but hey u also get over it, emotion over material. Hope this helps
112173
Every relationship is different and it should be between the two people involved to decide who provides what to the relationship.  I personally who not be able to live with myself if I wasn't able to provide a loving, safe, and confortable life for my family.