I have cheated on my wife, is there anyone in a similar situation?
449605
I feel sorry for you and your wife. The male hormones forces you to think from your .... Well it's too late to ask why you couldn't stay faithful, so I would suggest that you get counseling. Also stay away from friends who push you into adultery. One thing I can tell it will take a long time for both of you to get over. It will always be there, but marriages have survived and thrived on worse. Take care and hope things resolve.
804574
I have cheated everytime I am with someone. I think its because I haven't found someone who I CANT cheat on! When I do find this person I think that I will NEVER cheat again!!! BUT I will say I have NEVER BEEN CAUGHT!!! So NO ONE HAS been hurt!
244303
I have! TONS of times. I'm married. :)
130066
well its really hard to get back the trust..be patient..just give her time to think..be sincere of all ur actions and all ur saying...... and assure not only to ur wife but also urself that u will not hurt her again
1063192
You may never regain the trust she had for you. You can suggest counselling and also don't try to rush it. You have a lot of bad marks against you and really need to prove yourself to her. Also have you thought about what will happen if you get back with her? What made you get into the affair in the same place? Will this reoccurring bad behavior surface again. I'm don't deny that she loves you but just doesn't want to go through the pain of betrayl again. Take some time and get your priorities straight. Good luck
306402
You perpetrated the ultimate betrayal!  You betrayed your wife with her own sister.  You not only have destroyed your marriage, you have destroyed the relationship of two sisters.  And, chances are, the news will become known to the family and you will have devastated them as well.\n\nYou need to confess to your wife immediately.  Let her move on to someone who deserves her.  She will never be able to trust you again.  You can have the sister...I think you deserve each other..after all, she betrayed her own sister.\n\nYou know it is only a matter of time before you are discovered so it is best to come clean.
507084
The choice is all yours. If you feel you can trust your wife than go for it if not than tell her she done screwed up. She's returning for a reason maybe she knows your involved with another woman and that made her jealous or maybe her parter that she left you for left her and she feels alone. Let her know you will remain her friend but thats about it. Either way just remember she cheated once she may do it again. Good Luck.
159786
Nope, I've never cheated. I think it's not the right thing to do. You should just break up instead of just cheating on them...
649917
i've NEVER cheated nor ever will. but what really got me mad once (besides others cheating on me) was i once went to caribbean by myself to relax; didn't even look at another guy. a week or two after i came home by boyfriend ended it. what a jerk... i could've had a better time...!!! grr.
1043224
This happened to me with my husband of 21 years, a little over two years ago.  I thought I would die.  Amazing how God knows what is best for us.  Be thankful that someone else can take the bum off your hands.  I know it seems like the end of the world, but it isn't.  You deserve better.  Cheaters SUCK!  Get counseling, go have fun.  And remember, what goes around, comes around.  Move on!
782195
Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!
1058337
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
785852
I think you aren't being fair! all men don't cheat. My wife is the one who has cheated on me! And I thought I was being the Ideal husband but I found out wrong. I'm sorry that you think all men are cheaters, but keep in mind if it wasn't for the willing woman out there men wouldn't be able to cheat.
821267
I fit your description.  However, I now have a serious problem and am in therapy.  I have never cheated on my wife nor do I want to, but the urge to go do someone else is so intense it is disrupting my life.  \nI had a fairly attractive woman very openly hit on me at a restaurant today (a rare occurence) and holy smokes it took all my strength to not play along.\nIf you are feeling this same way you are not alone.  Therapy will likely help you.  If you don't address it, it will eat you up inside.
424192
I have cheated on past gf . . . but never on my beloved (rest her soul)
1043413
First of all, don't lower your standards to hers, don't cheat...I understand the love connection and you both have been together for a fair amount of time, but her being unfaithful now doesn't make for a good choice of a wife later...they always say they were going to stop, but allow to continue an affair until its discovered and not voluntarily revealed.  I find that important when it comes to determining if you should continue in such a relationship..I recommend ending it, but to answer your question, it would take a love that thru sorrow and regret for what she has done...that could convince you that this will never happen again...talk to her, find out why and how this happened , take all the information you can get and determine if your heart can forgive and forget in order to make such a shaky relationship last...good luck.
293793
No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K