Why is someone a "Step Mother" Instead of a "Mother in law"?
443612
I completely agree, some people that answered don't understand that you KNOW what they mean, just that they should be reversed. I think if someone had a father that remarried, then she should be your Mother-in-law, like the person before me said, "mother-by-law", that counts here too, because she would only be your mother by law. Good question!!
1034673
I think the only way a stepchild is "entitled" to any ss benefits would be if the Stepfather went through the adoption process. Even so, if you are still in your mothers home she will receive those benefits on your behalf.
865556
Mom in Law is experiencing a new life and as everyone else goes thru it, it'll come as being routine in time as well.  Things will settle down and she'll see the light again.  Give her a chance to live a little..... life's too short.  You sound a bit selfish, sorry to say. Most people WANT their inlaws out of their business. What's wrong with the brother fixing up her house? Nothing. Not to be critical but you remember how it is when you feel so alive when you first start dating someone? Well?  It's your mom in law!  She is feeling alive and beautiful.  She loves your children I'm sure and in a couple of months when the newness wears off she'll be back. :))))  Take care!
613996
awa but mooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo\nok its a family with 1 original parent and kid(s) and a step parent or w/e lol im confused now
952618
Unfortunately, some states have mandated that if a child is born within a marriage then the husband is the father regardless of who the biological father is. Good men end up paying for kids that belong to some other deadbeat.
326823
She's not your mother.  Let your husband do it.  It's his mother, he needs to do it himself.
1076001
Your mother-in-law is as good as your own mother.  She is a religious mother after you married her daughter.  If you can understand the bond between you wife and your mother-in-law, you need not be explained anything further.  It is always rewarding to help a sick person irrespective of your own relative or somebody else.  A sick person always needs help.  You must support your mother-in-law during her sickness considering she is your own mother.  You will be rewarded by the God for this act of kindness.
674466
Inlaws are bullies against their daughter inlaws usually because their sons don't stand up for their wives.  Any man worth his salt should stand up for the committment he made to be joined with his wife.  That means he has to let go of being tethered to his parents apron strings.  Good luck.
938138
I am a step mom to my husbands three children and he to my 3 children.  We both felt that when we married the other would have that right.  We each feel that if done in a proper way that the other should have that right.  We went thru the you are not my mom or dad things and that's ok but in the end what ever punishment was handed out was still there.  I do so because I want them to turn out to be responsible adults.  That's how we learn in life is by the punishments and rules in life are handed down by our parents and weather they are biological parents you will find rules suck but they have to be followed.  That's what works for us. I am mainly the one at home most with our last son at home so even though I am his step mom I punish more than his dad.  He does not like it sometimes but does abide by what I say.  Wish you lots of luck sweety!
248152
A mother is very connected to their children and they spend a lot of their life protecting and nurturing them.  That creates a bond that is very deep and established over a very long amount of time.  It is hard for a mom to let go because that bond has become such a large part of who she is.  Mom's come to rely on that bond to always be there for them and as a part of their lives.  When a son gets married, that bond is broken and the moms life and relationship with her some are forever altered.  Sure she wants him to grow up and be happy, but she doesn't want to be disconnected and shut out of her sons life.  Some times though that is what happens, but most of the time eventually the mother and son establish a new bond and share that bond with the daughter in law.
956005
Your mother-in-law is'nt a psyco case. in fact you are very lucky to have such a caring mil and you should be greatful to god.\n\nshe stops you from going around the house wihtout a bra because you are a young girls. your mom in law has been with the men in the family for a long time now and they wont think about her in any other sense. but you being new to the family will attract attention easily.\n\nshe is following her meternal instinct of prevention is better thatn cure. why even take a chance of your being in trouble?\n\ninstead of abusing her like this be glad that even after marriage you are getting the same love and care of a mother.
729685
Yes it is, studies show that men not only hate their mother in laws, but they dream of having sex with them. No one's exactly 100% sure on why that is, some say it's because men marry women like their mothers, and their mother in law is more mother like than their wife. Or maybe because of the fact that it's forbidden. As long as you don't actually give in to these urges you'll be fine, they eventually go away.
914107
Your husband should have stuck up for you! \n\nBut he was most likely scared to offend his mother by doing so...\n\nI would just put on a happy face in front of her, because when it comes to unruly inlaws--noone wins!
84957
I think it revolves around the fact you are still in the "Wife" frame of mind. Well the children, Still married and the rest of the phrases you say. \n\nThree times? you are more commited to your role as "Wife" then your role as yourself or mother. Might watch that. Been known to be dangerous.
862876
That is a good question! I have had it happen to me all my life and have never understood it. My Mother-in-law for instance treats my wife like a step child and her other two daughters like true daughters (kind of reminds me of Cinderella). What scares me most is that I might be doing it to my kids as well - I really try not to be that way and they have never said anything to make me think I have any favorites - but, it still concerns me. The thing is that these people (when you bring it to their attention) do not see that they are acting this way. One of my biggest hang ups is Christmas - buying gifts for people that I could care less about. Well, guess what? This year, we are not spending on these people - not even a token gift. I am in the dog house for it, but I am going to concentrate on my kids and grandkids who I love and cherish - I am going to let the others celebrate without me this year! It makes me feel free, and my wife is warming to the idea, but she is having withdrawal symptoms. I say no more of the fake behavior to impress these duds.
67388
I am a step parent myself, along with my husband.  The both of us had children from previous marriages.  My husband treats and cares for my (our) children as well as I do his (ours)  We have custody of all of our children.  We actually took custody of his from their mother because a judge decided that our home was the best place for them.  In my eyes, they are MY children.  I feed them, I wash their clothes, I sit up with them when they are sick, I take them to their sporting events and school activities, which is more than their natural mother does for them.  And my husband the same...the father of my oldest daughter didnt show up to any of her school activities until my husband started going with me...my ex-husbands family had to throw it in his face that her step father went to watch her and her own father didnt.  So in my opinion, YES, a step parent is a family member!
888339
Maybe she feels threatened that you are entering the family and may take her place so she wants to make sure you know she is on the inside and you are not.  Maybe she was caught up in the emotion of the event and never meant to hurt your feelings. Depends on the sister-in-law.