how can i get over my fear of opening up to a man? i may be missing out on a good one?
438719
- Hey.. dont worry\n- dont fear.\n- Its mans nature to beg on women to get the love.\n- all the best.\n---------------
11924
If you want a sort of casual approach, get tickets to something and tell him "I have an extra ticket to ______ and I was hoping you'd like to go with me, if you're fee that night."\nBut, trust me on this, sometimes the guy you think is out of your league, is actually afraid to approach YOU.... I missed 20 years of having someone quite amazing in my world because when we were young, I thought I had no shot at all to be anything but his "pal"....came to learn just this year, he never understood why I had the time of day for him, thought I couldn't possibly be interested.\nBelieve me, Darlin', there are things in life far more painful than being shot down.
917867
My best advise is this... make your own choices and build your life. You can't plan for a man to come into your life, and when he does it will probably upset your apple cart a bit... that  is what love does. To meet a nice, good, and strong, man you should try looking in quieter places and not night spots. Bookstores, libraries, coffee houses... those are good places to just relax and attract a few fellas. Good luck!
625422
Your either scared to get into a real relationship for fear of getting hurt so you pick men that are emotionally unavailable OR maybe you dont like yourself and question any  man who does ??
722471
I would consider not believing one or the other if I were you.  You probably didnt have the best of relationships and the ones that you did have you probably got hurt or belittled.  Maybe you just have had so many bad experiences its hard for you to respect guys.\n\nAlso consider the fact that if you have not had any good relationships that have worked for you, then why would you be attracted to the guys?
153928
I don't understand the bit about fear that he'll get better, but look at it this way:  you seem like an outgoing talkative type and that makes you a good match for a quiet, introverted guy.  He doesn't have to strain himself to keep up the conversation, and you're probably entertaining to be around.  And you like having someone listen to you.  Two people who both want to talk a lot can wear each other out.  So opposites attracted, and it works for the most part.  It's no big surprise that--guess what--you're different.  Not every man is like your partner--some will talk your ear off and others are puppy dogs.\n\nIt's not a matter of being too affectionate.  If you want more sharing you might have to adapt to his style, and he might have to practice at it.  Try drawing him out, with follow-up questions, and realize that quiet types need time to think through an answer before they say much; if they feel rushed they resort to short answers, or aimless rambling.  \n\nThere's an interesting book called "You Don't Understand Me" that talks about the different ways men and women communicate.  Maybe that would be helpful.
1075842
U r nervous and that is in fact good because that indicates your eagerness to have him as a Friend, you are conscious and you are being sensitive. Don't get too anxious and try and be around him whenever  you get a chance. Get used to his presence and i a sure after a while you will overcome your nervousness
381763
You might be afriad of opening up to people becuase of hurt in your past. Friends really are the best thing life, treat them that way and you will be fine. Don't let your fear of opening up ruin that for you. Good luck.
112558
I used to be the same way. What helps is coming into contact with more guys in a friendly setting. If there are guys you see regularly at work or somewhere else, just be friendly and say "hi hows it going?" Dont approach it like you are going to marry the guy, just look at it as if he's a cool guy that you'd like to talk to more. Comfort only comes with practice, and remember...those little butterflies you get when talking to a guy you like arent always a bad thing;-)
367115
maybe some things have happened it your past that make u feel u are not worthy of being happy and giving a guy a chance, you probably havent met the guy that you want to fully be with...it's a click that you feel almost immediately...keep being honest & kind....the right guy will come along and you DO deserve him......
495885
Just dont be so picky. alot of good guys out there. i promise. just keep an open mind and heart. smile more and approach. youll see .
790755
Don't be afraid! Do you want, one day to look back on your life and say: I wish I woulda..... No so just tell him that you like him and are attracted to him and see what he says. Life is short, you have to go after what you want and if it is meant to be it will unfold as such. Its like the lyrics to a Rolling Stone's song " You can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need. "  Take a chance!!!
924082
Saying that openly on here is a start.  Find a counselor (many are free) in a gender you'd feel safest with, and try starting with small steps.  Tell them you don't feel comfortable opening up.  They know how to help you.
738919
Definitely. You already know that you are able to talk to him and that's a big hurdle to have crossed in itself. I know that you would like to meet him. Please don't be afraid that you'll disappoint him because I know you won't. Did you know that he has fears too. Please don't let your fears hold you back from meeting new people. It's normal to be self-conscious about meeting someone new, but think about him, instead, and try to make him feel comfortable about meeting you. That's really what it's all about anyway. Being comfortable around someone is what will bring you together. If you were just beautiful and not comfortable to be with, your beauty isn't going to hold his interest very long. Having good self-esteem is very attractive to other people, since so many of our problems revolve around low self-esteem. Think positive thoughts about yourself and you will radiate. Reach out and shake his hand when you do meet him and make him feel  as though you've known each other a long time, remember he is the one that you've been talking to via emails. Say to yourself over and over what a wonderful person you are and what a good friend you are. Tell yourself that people love to be with you because you're such a caring individual. How could he not like you? Good luck. Let us know how it turns out.
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Hello, Im not a freak...yet I find it hard to find decent women. I dont look at appearances but the heart and soul...You can change that by being yourself ...sean. Ps. and when a quite guy like myself is afraid to approach you,maybe because im shy, maybe because im normal...go and talk to him....he may be the love of your life although he may not drink or dance like the other guys...
662393
I used to be like that around guys eventually u will open up and ur relationship will be so fine! say YES!!
1057129
try your nearest library or bookstore if you like to read too, and just plainly start up a conversation that makes sense to the one person that grabs your attention. or similarly, wherever you like to hang out. That's what a guyd would do, and if you think that is courageous, pls, you are already a single mom, what could be more courageous already! think about it, you are strong woman and can do this on your own too if you had to, just be selective and go sensible about it. rejection is no big deal, not interested is no big deal, chance to make "just friends" a real plus, chance to find that good man, well hey, that's BINGO