i didnt tell my boyfriend about a relationship in the past because it was an abusive one.he found out about it
448775
I believe he's just saying it.He probably needs to clear his head.If you get him back,please tell him everything because he sounds like a good man....
930879
you can't change the past, so you have got to think about ways to make the future work. try to see him again in a casual setting, one that will highlight what a "good" girl you are. don't mention what happened. he probably doesn't want to talk about it anymore than you do.
574521
if he initially lied to you there's a problem. put yourself in his shoes, would you have just told the truth or tried to lie? it sounds like there are some underlying issues anyway because even if he didn't have anything to hide he should've felt comfortable enough to come clean. for this reason, ditch him girlie! the only 2 reasons he can have is that either something was going on and he lied, or he wanted to not upset you in which case he should've felt comfortable enough about your relationship to tell you the truth - either way he's gotta go! good luck hun, you'll find someone better :o)
391535
It is wrong not to let him know.  It is better to break up with him and experience life than to do things without letting him know.  It doesn't mean your a bad person, only that your human and have needs.
1175945
Perhaps he thought when you said your the "bad guy" meant that you have done some naughty things as well which made him upset. Your revelation might have brought confusion in his mind. Doubts might have stepped in.\nSo, you must reassure him that its not because of it (like you cheated or what). Just make him know that its about an attitude issue. Ask for space and time to rebuild yourself and tell him that your doing it for him, and your relationship. If he doesnt agree of asking for time, then why not make him a part of your rebuilding process. Ask fof his help and guidance. In this way, he will feel appreciated and that you trully want him to be a part of your life. :-D
815897
Maybe you have deeper problems in your relationship that you don't want admit. Are you sure is everything ok with your bf? Sometimes we use to substitute a relationship with another 'cause we know there's something wrong, so, in your case, I think you need to think about the whole situation and be honest to yourself. Maybe it would help if you look for some professional advice. Good luck, God bless!
588564
If you weren't together let the past be the past guys never want to hear ab ought you sleeping with any one besides them even though you may feel guilty forget about it you did no wrong,and even though you weren't together he'll still get upset with you and I'll notice a Chang in the way he acts towards you trust me I've bee there many times before telling him won't make things any better for you.
240320
Hello, i think he is not telling u about his past life, because you are the only one he wants, and do not worry if he does not tell u, your the girl he wants, so don't worry
645595
At some point you're going to have to face what you did, I mean were there other people who saw who could tell your man, or do you think this person you kissed will take it personally. I understand what happened, we all have done some stupid stuff drunk. I would talk to the guy you kissed, no matter how uncomfortable it maybe, the last thing you need is this guy thinking it meant something and harassing you, you need to draw the line and say it was a mistake (who knows maybe he thinks it was a mistake too). As for your man, it's up to you whether you tell him, although IF there is even the SLIGHTEST possibility he will find out from other means then YOU need to be the one to tell him if you hope to stay with him, he will think more of your honesty if you come out with it than he will your dishonesty if he finds out through someone else. ALTHOUGH IF there is NO possibility he will find out I would say keep it to yourself, there's no need to drag your guilt out and punish him, believe me I know my boyfriend told me about some girl he had sex with then afterward he said, I feel SO much better for getting that off my chest, yeah well then I felt horrible and I wasn't the one who had done anything wrong!
8115
Ok, first of all, your bf/gf isn't your husband or wife, so he or she has no obligation to tell you something like that unless you guys live together. IF you a courtesy note would have being nice on his/her part to let you know where he when so you wouldn't be worried. \n\nAnd if he or she didn't tell you, well. Get over it, he/she has a life, and independent life. You are just part of that life. \n\nNow, the question is are you mad because he didn't tell you? or were you pisst because you didn't go? what ever your reason is. Get over it, something like that would be a good enough cause for a break up. \n\nThats just me, i like to be independent and have my space and time respected by anybody. You should respect his time alone or with his friends
242465
Confusion is not good. :) I can tell you that now, it's not good. You have to know for sure or not know. \n\nThis one is a hard one. All i can say is if he says that he loves you and if you really love him, you will trust him. Trust is a very very important key in a binding relationship.  I am thinking that he has told you about his past because he wanted to be honest with you which is very noble. It sounds like you have a little bit of jealousy going on your behalf. Be careful with that because that can cause problems in a relationship. You have to buckle down and learn to trust your boyfriend. If it really troubles you talk to him about it, if he loves you and if you are really good friends, then he will listen with understanding and love. If he gets angry with you then you know that there is a real problem\n\nI hope this helps. Good luck to you
668520
If he hasn't asked then he's prob just having respect for you and your past and doesn't want to invade. He prob feels it's up to you if you choose to one day tell him. If he tells you that he isn't interested then don't be offended, after all the past is in the past and why is there a need to tell him about it. He's interested in what's going on in the present and not what happened in the past. Don't think to much of it.
21925
i found out 6 months ago; he seems more attentive to me, but only because the truth was told. the relationship doesnt seem better because he cant go out anymore, so he sits around and pouts and its ME trying to make him feel better instead of the other way around.\nyou have to Choose not to think or mention it; otherwise you will drive yourself crazy and the relationship will end anyway. as the old saying goes you have to forgive but not forget, i dont know if i will ever trust him again!
43078
Well it depends on if you are...repentant about the mistake you made.  if you are, yes. you should. he'll find out someday and it's better to come from you with a real face of repentance than for him to find out and ruin your relationship because of it. \nIf you aren't repentant and you could care less if your b/f knew, then tell him and break up with him.  'cause if you 'cheated' on him, whats the point in being HIS     friend?
142260
yes you should be mad for not telling you, think about it. if he didnt tell you that thing being so small and simple and something that he didnt even initiate then image what hes NOT telling you! keep asking and be persistant
1088514
If thats your boyfriend, then you should be discussing problems with him, not telling your friend to send messages to him. If you arent comfortable enough to communicate with him then why are you together?? It sounds like you need to take a step back and get to know each other first or this relationship will be a waste of time.
914810
i have a girlfriend? boy! my boyfriends goingto get mad when he finds this out..