why cant i move on when it seems she did?
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I've been in your shoes and you have stated in your question exactly what the problem is. "I gave up everything for her all my friends and everything" The problem is just that. You gave up everything. Now you have nothing left, not even yourself. You invested everything in her and she took it and ran. The best I can tell you is that it's gong to take some time. This might sound crazy to you right now but it will make sense later trust me. First forget her!! This is the hardest part. Constantly remind yourself that you deserve better.  2nd forget dating others for awhile. The last thing you need it to jump in a relationship with someone when your still hurting over the first one. Your pain clouds your judgment and you may get into something you wish you hadn't. 3rd and most important, try to get back the things you gave up. Find your old friends and make some new ones as well. Start doing things that you enjoy. Find yourself again. It takes time man but we have all gotten through it and you can too.
260315
No. move on you may find someone you really love and that really loves you!! Someone may be waiting for you to move on.
330803
im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!
15750
One year!  She's not your girlfriend anymore.  She's probably avoiding you.  Didn't you ask this question yesterday?  Give it up man.\n\nhttp://www.despair.com/persistence.html
556276
She could have been in a relationship or just getting over one without lying.  If she was even close to him any she might need a breather before making an attempt to another one.  However, from what you're saying, she's definitely interested in you.  I would hang in there and keep on trying if you're really interested in her.
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Give her plenty of space, shes obviously not emotionally ready for a very serious relationship.  \n\nBest advice is to put things on hold, and both of you see other people.  Doubts like this cannot be wiped clean without other experiences.\n\nIf, after you both have some new experiences, you both get back together, then thats great, and if not, you don;t wind up in a relationship either of you regret\n\nEdit .... Ok, I read a little more, and this girl is finished with you.  Make ZERO attempts to contact her for the next couple of months, go out, date other women, have fun, DONT TRY TO GER HER BACK.  It will only push her further away from you.  \n\nIf you move on, and life your life for yourself, then good things will happen
415414
yeah its not the end of the world i went through the same stuff but at least she wasnt keeping you around to spend cash on her like my ex did...All you need to do is move on you didn't do anything wrong she did...
566215
sorry that things didn't work out.. I am 27 and had a relationship i soooo wanted but it didn't happen for me.. but now i have an even better relationship.\ni believe no real relatioship should be complicated.. i try to stick with the "if someone wants to be with you then they will" It sounds a bit like she is keeping you emotionally hanging on by talking to you each day and that's very unfair, i think you should take some time to distance yourself from her and ask her not to contact you every day, she doesn't need to know ya business, she gave up that right when she split from you she probably only wants to know it to stop you from moving on.. but you really should, once she sees you doing that then she will either realise how crazy she is being and jump at the chance to be with you for real or she will move on also.. either way you will know how she really thinks and feels and move on to better times with or without her.. good luck
80691
The first part I can't help you with.  Perhaps things weren't moving in the direction she wanted them to.  You'd have to ask her.  The second part is that she didn't want reminders.  This tells me that there's something deeply troubling her about your relationship.
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maybe she has feelings 4 u still
645880
She either wasn't ready to get involve in a serious relationship or she is seeing someone else. in either case she was looking for an excuse to do that.\nI'm sure you done every necessary thing for her but there are always people around your GF will have something to talk about and poisoning her mind.\nunfortunately it doesn't end there, after breaking up, you will be accused  about stuff you never did and you never said, and most of it about stuff you never meant it that way, so they start lying and making accusations in order to have a proof and good excuses for their act among their family and friends, and that's where all nicest things you have done for her, all wonderful moments you had with her, all pain you took for just being with her, fades away just like that. all of a sudden you become this cruel and nasty person in eyes of others,who hurt her all these times and now you better be away from her, because you are noting but pain for her.\nI have one thing to tell you: Don't blame yourself, she is an idiot. we all fall in love, we learn then we should move on.
360244
It could be many of things, no one knows for sure just her, it was immature of the way she handled the situation. If I was you I would pick up the broken pieces and go on about your life, because obvisouly she wasn't the right one for you. Let your heart heal and then go out there and find the women that is worthy of being with a nice guy like you. Good Luck Baby Boy
266618
You don't do anything.  You missed your chance for now and you can't know for sure that you will get another chance so you need to move on with your life.  The reason you do nothing is that if you were in her place or this other guys place, you wouldn't want someone ruining what you had.
715726
think your still hurt about what happened and are reading too much into what she says, maybe she didnt mean to say anything like that, best thing is to try your best not to think about it.
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maybe its time for you to move on then! or maybe she has had enough of your dick and getting a fresh and better on from someone else!\n\nNo offence, anything can happen and you need to talk to her than puting such a question here. Cheers!
120552
The best advice I could give you is to keep your mind busy on anything else but her. Keep yourself active, busy. I know its hard, believe me, I do. It will pass with time.
559322
sounds like she used you.  she could see how you felt about her by how you treated her.  some girls/women are idiots & don't realize a good thing when they have it.  just move on & find someone else.