what to do when husband is cheating ?
447623
Is getting rid of the computer an option? Also, do you think that the computer is the ONLY place he flirts? Most likely not I'd say. You deserve better. Maybe try a trial separation - do you have family that you can live with? Make him realize what he has in you.
570486
cheating is cheating... and what's to stop him or her from doing it again with someone else?
1021286
If you really want to save your marriage go to counseling. Personally, I could never trust him again, so I would have to make tracks!
403471
Leave him.\n\nChances are, it wasn't his first time, nor is it likely to be his last, especially if you let him "get away" with it.\n\nIf you think there might be a way to salvage your marriage, and possibly might be able to forgive him and forget it, and not let it come into your mind for the rest of your lives, you might try to work it out.
596259
Now he's cheated on you, so if you marry him he will still cheat again and again. Next thing you know you have a woman\ncalling your house saying your husband got her pregnant. Or\nladies caling hanging up in your face because he didn't answer the phone. Is this what you want to put up with? \nDisrespect in a marriage? No you don't. You need to think twice before you marry him.
572623
Yeah, just sit back and watch your spouse have an affair, have one yourself, or try doing porn, see how fast an outsider dissolves your marriage.\nIf the two hearts aren't married, then be on alert, anyone with 1/2 a reason can do it.
1166815
dump his azz....he IS cheating
739412
Learn to commit your marriage to God. Be honest and open with your husband. Encourage him to do the same. you both have been hurt so deeply... but God can heal those hurts and restore the love in your relationship.\n\nLearn to pray. Pour your heart out to God. don't use nice polite prayers. Express your anger, your fear, your disappointments... God  wants you to be honest with Him.\n\nRecognise that you will only do more damage if you leave. admit that you need help and seek counsel - godly counsel. Is there a minister you know? A friend who is a Christian?\n\nDon't give up! Don't walk out!\n\nGod can make your marriage stronger than it has ever been!!!\n\nReally!!!
71766
Get out.\nFriends or family you can go to?\nI know.\nYou don't know whether to laugh or cry.\nThanks for the response to my cheating \nwife question.\nThat is over and done -\nshe's someone else's problem.\nPsychological problems on your husband's part?\nCertainly sounds like it.\nGood luck!\nRemember - You've got friends you didn't know you had!
714645
No one can answer this question except for you.. It is wrong to cheat on your husband, you should just divorce him instead of cheating on him....Security with your husband???????you are cheating on him what security do you have
901375
My opnion is I think you should tell her. What if she doesn't know...what if she doesn't think her husband is a cheat? I mean, I didn't. I had no idea until he told me. I'm glad I found out.\nYou have to follow your heart and choose what you feel is right.\nBut remember if this was you and your husband had a side dish, would you want to know?
1141719
Anything that you would not do in front of your partner is cheating.\n\nI suspect that most wives put up with it. They kick up a fuss the first time but react less and less with every subsequent offense until they're on anti-depressants or straying themselves.\n\nDon't think that it is you. Bad men happen to good women 99% of the time. \n\nIdentify the things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one a day. get some friends. get involved with in life. set yourself some goals, action them and try to stop yourself obsessing about what he is doing or thinking.\n\nPutting up does not make you a failure, it may mean you are shrewd. But if you know you can not accept it. Get out before he destroys you - that may be the only thing that jolts him to change
458633
Just ask how that person would feel if it was done to them.  Cheating is cheating no matter how you look at it.
664201
Emotional cheating hurts just as much. But, I don't have enough information to tell if what you did was emotional cheating. \n\nYou have a decision to make... you can stay married and miserable. You can try to get your husband to counseling, stay married, and have a chance at being happy. You can get divorced and try to go back to this guy and find that he wants you, too. You can get divorced, go back to this guy, and find that he doesn't want you. Or, you can get divorced and leave both of them in the past. \n\nI recommend that you try to get to counseling with your husband. Think about it... if he wasn't the way he is, and if you weren't the way you are, then wouldn't you be a lot happier? Wouldn't there be a good chance that you wouldn't think about the other guy so much?\n\nThere are bigger problems in your marriage than a guy that you still think about.
493983
#!----VERY IMPORTANT.  I know from experience.  If you suspect your guy is cheating, don't...I repeat, don't let him know you are suspcicious.  If you confront him, he will take his measures to hide the cheating to a higher level, and it will be more difficult for you to find the truth.  Cheaters get lazy after a while.  Solid clues will come to the top and you will be able to find out the longer you let him think all is well.  Take advantage of his laziness and carelessness.  It will happen.  Then, when you have solid evidence, throw it in his face and give him all the HE!! he deserves.  Don't commmit a crime though.
662119
lover or husband or wife ?? there is a difference ya know.. if you dont want the divorce thing, then talk to your *lover* about it.. tell them NO MORE and go from there... councelling is an option.. groups , lots of ways to get thru this.. but the *lover* has to be made aware that YOU will NOT tolerate the cheating EVER !!!!!!!!!! God bless
1115788
Ok, you are totally in the wrong; cheating on your husband. You need to resolve the issues you have in that relationship first - the issues that led you to the cheating, THEN examine what you really feel for this guy. He is completely right for not opening up to you all the way, but you both have crossed a line you can never go back over.