what do you do when you think your husband don't love you anymore but he say he dose but you don't feel loved
440558
thats a terrible situation to be in.  i agree, i would sit him down and tell him how you feel.  you may be surprised and find out that there is something going on that has nothing to do with you.  he may be stressed at work, worrying about family, who knows.  but if it comes down the the fact that he doesnt care, then you should get out of the relationship.  someone once told me that the one that loves the most get hurt the most, and you dont want to be in a relationship like that.  good luck!
1010407
relax and give him some space. if a man feels smothered then he will leave you!
721271
well just let him know how you feel  and if he really loves you thn he will understand
881767
He does not love you,nothing indeed.Find a a man, who will love you indeed.
90089
I feel for you! \nYour husband should undersatnd that without communication between you and him, things won't get better. He needs to open up and share his feelings. You will have to let him know how you feel about your relationship with him. Tell him how you hurt inside and you need his emotional and mental support.
816869
Hi, has he always been like this or is it just the spell you've been arguing.\nMarriage is hard work and needs constant nuturing from both sides to feel loved by the other side.\nSome people (men and women) have difficulty in expressing themselves, is this your husband?\nIf so, maybe you accepting this as him and noticing the other ways he does express love will help, but there is nothing like a hug and hearing how we are loved so do understand where you are coming from.\nA husband and wife will either knit together over the years or move in opposite directions (like my ex and I) but for it to work you must be moving in the same direction. \nTalking to him and continuing to express yourself, your love is all you can do really, and hope he hears you before you change, because you will in time.\nMaking time for those special moments will also help, there is always another little trick we can pull out the hat to surprise him, reveal another mystery about yourself-try it-remind him of why he got with you. ;)\nJust keep trying until he either wakes up or loses out with the woman he fell for and married, I wish you both luck xxx
418874
Its possible that both of you are trying to fill the roles of wife and husband. What I mean is not seeing each other as people,not dealing with things as they are but trying to do things as you think they should be dealt with. Maybe he thinks he should be in charge, telling you what to do what to spend. I think its time you 2 have a good long talk and find out how each of you really feels clear the air. Oh one other thing to think about your at that stage in a relationship where your past the first glow of love and seeing him as he really is, time to work at the relationship build it up or see if it can be worked out.
421897
DON'T  do anything!! hoepfully you have not acted on these feelings, but if you have, you need to come clean with your husband. Sit down and talk with him and tell him how you are feeling,and what made you go out side of your marriage. I am telling you now, it is not going to be an easy task. But there is always hope. Pray about this situation and ask the Lord to restore your marriage.\nDon't Let the Green Gress fool You!!
697112
Do you really think you should be on here saying this? Maybe you should be going to talk to your hubby about it and you never know he may feel the same way. How would you feel if he saw this and found out that way before you even talked to him? Think about it.
1138966
Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
251281
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
688340
Sometimes, we tend to get too busy that everything becomes monotonous.. It's important that you talk with your husband about how you are feeling... He may not be aware that he is or the relationship you have with him is causing you so much emotional pain.. \n\nI remember one time, my mom told me how depressed she was, and disappointed she was with my dad. Good thing, she has good friends who told her to see the other sides of him. My dad is not the showy, romantic type of guy but he'd do everything for us - if he had to work day and night just to support us, he'll do it. For him, that's how he shows his love for us.\n\nLet me share you a story from someone:\n\nMy husband is an Engineer by profession, I love\nhim for his steady nature, and I love the warm\nfeeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.\nThree years of courtship and now, two years into\nmarriage, I would have to admit, that I am\ngetting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him\nbefore, has now transformed into the cause of all\nmy restlessness.\n\nI am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive\nwhen it comes to a relationship and my feelings.\nI yearn for the romantic moments, like a little\ngirl yearning for candy. My husband, is my\ncomplete opposite. His lack of sensitivity, and\nthe inability of bringing romantic moments into\nour marriage has disheartened me about love.\n\nOne day, I finally decided to tell him my\ndecision, that I wanted a divorce.\n"Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired, there are\nno reasons for everything in the world!" I\nanswered.\n\nHe kept silent the whole night, seems to be in\ndeep thought with a lighted cigarette at all\ntimes.\n\nMy feeling of disappointment only increased, here\nwas a man who can't even express his predicament,\nwhat else can I hope from him?\n\nAnd finally he asked me: "What can I do to change\nyour mind?" Somebody said it right, it's hard to\nchange a person's personality, and I guess, I\nhave started losing faith in him.\n\nLooking deep into his eyes I slowly\nanswered : "Here is the question, if you can\nanswer and convince my heart, I will change my\nmind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the\nflower will cause your death, will you do it for\nme?"\n\nHe said : "I will give you your answer\ntomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to\nhis response.\n\nI woke up the next morning to find him gone, and\nsaw a piece of paper with his scratchy\nhandwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the\ndining table near the front door, that goes....\n\n"My dear, I would not pick that flower for you, but please\nallow me to explain the reasons further.."\n\nThis first line was already breaking my heart. I\ncontinued reading.\n\n"When you use the computer you always mess up the\nSoftware programs, and you cry in front of the\nscreen, I have to save my fingers so that I can\nhelp to restore the programs.\n\nYou always leave the house keys behind, thus I\nhave to save my legs to rush home to open the\ndoor for you.\n\nYou love traveling but always lose your way in a\nnew city, I have to save my eyes to show you the\nway.\n\nYou always have the cramps whenever your "good\nfriend" approaches every month, I have to save my\npalms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.\nYou like to stay indoors, and I worry that you\nwill be infected by infantile autism. I have to\nsave my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to\ncure your boredom.\n\nYou always stare at the computer, and that will\ndo nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my\neyes so that when we grow old, I can help to\nclip your nails, and help to remove those\nannoying white hairs. So I can also hold your\nhand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy\nthe sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you\nthe colour of flowers, just like the color of the\nglow on your young face...\n
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u dont need JE to tell u if u loved ur husband, u already know that u loved him very much and i'm sure he felt the same about u. death is the worst thing in the world to deal with and i think u need comfort and understanding. talk to family and friends about how u feel. sorry i cant help with the JE thing but good luck anyway.
632844
You need to talk to him.  Let him know how you're feeling.  Sometimes our spouses don't read our minds even when we think they should.  It doesn't make them insensitive just not perfect.  He may not realize your depression or the level of it.  If you're able to tell us you're depressed then TELL HIM.  Men and women have a different makeup and we don't understand each other most of the time.  Sometimes communication helps in understanding.  Just try to tell him how you're feeling.  ((((HUGS))))  Sorry for you loss.
585962
If he doesn't love you then move on because you sure can't make him love you. Wasting time trying too//////////
176247
Have you ever heard the saying ' If you love something let it go, If it comes back it was meant to be"? I had tears in my eyes as I read your question, I can feel your despair!! If he wants to go, let him. There really isn't anyway to stop him anyway. Sometimes is takes men longer to realize how they are feeling and if he truly does love you he WILL be back. You need to ask yourself what it is that you love so much about him, Is it the challenge that he wont give you wnat you want, or does he really make you feel like your floating on a cloud and makes you feel loved and beautiful?( which if he is saying the things you have mentioned I dont see how that is possible). I have been there, and he came back, but for me it was too late. I realized that if he didnt feel he loved me before and couldnt reciprocate my feelings knowing how desperately I felt I loved him, he was using me for sex until he could get in the other womens bed. Follow your gut not your heart in this situation. God is telling you what you need to do, just take the time to listen. Fighting for him is going to make ooh SOOOO much harder on you. The pain will be devestating at first but God is there for you to lean on, "He wouldnt bring you to it,if he couldnt lead you through it"!!! I wish you the best!
476530
Think by yourself, don't lie to yourself and see if you still love him or not. Maybe you miss him only because you used to see him often and now you lack something. This is definitely different from having feelings for him. Time will resolve the problem.