What is a good way to tell your family you are a homosexual?
437797
The best way is to say nothing and keep it to yourself.  When is the last time anyone who is straight came out as straight?? Be discrete, they will all figure it out sooner or later.  The anouncement is unecessary, awkward, most always backfires by immediate changes in people's opinion of you.  Say nothing, be kind, be discrete, be safe, and have a decent and productive life.......
22953
Telling your parents that you are a lesbian is an open acknowledgement that you are a sexual person, enough to have made a definite decision about who it is that you identify with sexually.  Coming to terms with the fact that "their little girl" has sexual urges and feelings AT ALL is difficult and uncomfortable for most parents, and is even more difficult when those feelings are directed toward people of the same sex.  It's a double whammy.  \nJust gently letting them know about your sexual preference is enough, without hitting them over the head with the fact that you are sexually active with women.  \nAlternately, if you are currently in a relationship with another woman, you might introduce the subject by introducing HER.  It will make it more real to them, and also make it awkward for them to make a scene.
6653
hey there I totally understand where you stand because I was there myself at one point and time. But first you have to evaluate everyone in your family to figure out how much they care for you as their child/sibling. your best shot would be to tell the family member(s) that you are closest to and most comfortable around in order to see how they accept it. you would be better off starting out slowly; however this approach may not exactly work for everyone. so all I can really say is start slowly, telling a few people at a time, and then find an approach that works for you. maybe have a friend (NOT a f*ck-friend) that knows (and is cool with it) present when you disclose. worst comes to worst, have someone else tell them when you are not present. I had a great deal of difficulty coming out to them myself, but all I can really suggest that you find a way that works...for you. I do not know your family, but if they really love you, they will accept you for who you really are.
1098228
Be who you are. You will not expect to be accepted by the society easily. People will see you as queer, that is definite, but don't force yourself to change in order for the society to accept you. I would say take things as it comes. I too, lives in a country where gays are not accepted in society. I told myself, I will show them that we are no different from anyone because we both loved. I have a few friends know that I'm a bisexual. Well, I do not tell them myself, as in initate the topic, they started it first. They would ask me: " You have not got any gf yet....as you gay?" I would smile at them and say I'm a bi. You would be surprise of teir reaction. They are all my good friends now. They have known me long enough to know what my character is. Time tells all. You need not need the whole world to accept you, most impt, you accept yourself. As time goes, your friends who treasure you will accept you too. \nI think the hardest part is how to break this news to your family. I would not forget the nevousness I had that time when i confess tis to my parent. I knew this would break their heart, but the last person I wouldn't want to keep in the dark is my parent. They have accept it....I guess. Though I believe they still pinned on the hope that i would get a gf instead (haha).\nBottom line is: Don't brood over it. If you know what you want to be, then be the one whom you want to be. Be true to yourself, and gradually you will find friends who will be true to you. I shared your woes, and I hope to share my joy with you.
312875
there is no easy way to tell them. If you know for sure that your parents will accept that you're bi, then it should be a problem telling them. They probably already know and just waiting on you to say something.
195556
1)  Parents once told me when we were teens that if we turned out to be homosexual, they would still love us and accept us unconditionally as their kiddos. :-)  I still remember it 18 years later. :-)  And I am hetero.\n\n2)  I am adopted.  Mom told me once that when they found that I am deaf (2 years old at that time), social worker came by and asked Mom if she wanted them to take me back.  8-o   I was "WTF?!?!?!"  I was THIS close to being in an orphanage / foster home system????  I counted my blessings each time I remember that. Watching "Adoption Stories" on Discovery Health Channel reminds me of that often. :-)\n\n3)  Was in ICU for suicide attempt years ago.  Nearly died. Glad I am here, tho!  :-D\n\nThanks for the reminder on how blessed I am!  *hug*
748346
When I came out it was very difficult but only because I was afraid that I wouldn't be accepted anymore. \nBut that all changed. I first sat my mother down and explained it to her and waited for her reaction. She hugged me and kissed my cheek and said "Whatever makes you happy, makes me happy." \n\nAlthough I don't really care what other people have to say to me - my family is a major part in my life and I just wanted to know that they were behind me with my choices. They love my current girlfriend and are happy that I have never been happier in life! \n\n\nAfter having my mothers approval, I went on and told the rest of the family and got the same reaction from all of them.
563104
Deal with it. \n\nAccept it, and say that you are not gay(unless you are...).\nTell him to accept you as a hetero.
700020
First of all, there's no reason to belive that your brother is gay just because he hangs around with a bunch of theater guys.\n\nBut if he is gay, it's probably best that you let him tell you when he's ready rather than confronting him on the subject.  Create a welcoming environment.  When you discuss gay issues, make it clear that you are accepting of gay people and that you support gay rights.  Then be patient.  If he really is gay, he'll need some time to come to terms with his own sexuality before he's ready to share with his family.
867233
You don't have to tell anyone.  Your mother may have already guessed.  Talk about gay people to her and see how she feels.  If she doesn't understand you may want to wait until you are an adult to tell her.  It's not like you need to make an announcement about your sexual orientation.\n\nYeah, it does.
298460
Telling someone that you're gay can really help a lot, just because you don't have to carry around your secret all by yourself anymore. Probably the best person to tell that you're gay is a female friend, since they will likely have less problems with it than a male friend. If you're gay, chances are that you'll have more girl friends than guy friends. However, pick carefully! Don't tell it to someone that you've had a fight with recently or that you're not totally comfortable with them knowing. Think about whether this person could use the information to get back at you for something. It's your choice and depends on your family, but maybe you want to tell your parents. However, if you think that they'd react badly and still depend on them, give this some thought. Parents can react better or worse than you'd imagine. Another option might be a sister, if you have one. Be very careful before telling people at work or school. And before telling anyone, ask yourself: a) Is this person a religious fanatic who would be violently opposed to gays and set me on fire with kerosene? (If so, not a good choice) b) Would this person use me as their 'gay friend' to go shopping and get fashion advice? (If so, and this might be surprising, also not a good choice. You need a friend that will love you for you, not for your gayness). The people you tell should be people that will just say 'okay' and you can move on with your lives and you can feel better about it.
952223
you are what? gay.......just tell her.....if she loves u she'll understand.
790617
Introduce him as your slave.  That should pull the wool over their eyes.\n\nSeriously, why hide who you are?  Are you ashamed of being gay?  [If you still live at home, you get a "bye" about telling your parents until you can support yourself.]\n\nGood luck!
320251
There is absolutely no easy way to tell family these things.  I think it's easiest just to be honest.  Ultimately, the decision is yours not your family's.  \n\nDon't be nasty about it and say something rude.  Just ask that they give you a chance to tell them how you feel about this person.  But remember to let them share their feelings as well.
985282
Learn to take orders, and kill your family if that's what they want you to do.\n\nThe way things are floating up to the surface of the Washington cess pool, being gay might be a plus.
329606
Look for support before you come out, so you don't find yourself totally isolated. Also, you can get ideas from others who've been in a similar situation, and be ready to address any concerns that your parents have.\n\nWhile I hope for the best for you when you come out to your parents, I'm sure you know that this can't be assured.\n\nSupport groups include Affirmation, a group for gay mormons: http://www.affirmation.org/ . Also, get in contact with your local PFLAG chapter. If you live in an area with many mormons, it's probable that there are others in your area who've had similar challenges.\n\nBest wishes to you.
463455
Dude, its never easy and been where you've been. Lot of internal struggle huh? First, consider your age. You don't say but I assume a minor. If you are solely dependant on them for shelter, food, education and everything and you are unsure to what extent the risk factor is of them throwing you out, wait. Minimum wage will not support your housing, food and basic necessities. You'll be turned out to prostitution in no time. Unless they have a better than average idea that you are gay (parents know but can live in denial) ie ever have girlfriends, have "the accent", effeminate, etc. (would you just be saying the obvious) If that is not the case, and even if it is. Go to the library or if you have some money. Buy a couple of books in the GLBT section on coming out to parents, and parents who have been come out to. These will answer questions for them that you might not feel comfortable answering, and they might not want to ask. They usually say things like being gay is normal, homos are not perverts, the misconceptions you have about homosexuality are wrong, etc.\n\nSecond the act of coming out. People usually gauge their reaction on how you react or act. Do not do it on a holiday, or family event. This is kinda a personal thing that you might want to sit them down (take a breath you're a man who's doing something that's hard for men twice, three times your age) Try not to get emotional, and calm them if they do.-for crying, anger you can't do much about except stay calm. Have an honest conversation with them. Ask them questions to lead up to it. (have you ever wondered why I've never had a girlfriend? etc) If you're catholic, there's something to download called "always our children" I think. \n\nThe conversation is going to go where it's going to go. But if you remain calm. Hold your head up. Answer questions honestly yet non graphically. Soften the blow and make them feel as comfortable as you can (books, the right answers to their questions, etc) They'll probably have concerns over AIDS so relay that you use or plan on using condoms. (go buy some) Just be ready to dispell some stereotypes and misconceptions on homosexuality. Relay that you are their son, you love them and because of that you find it hard to lie to someone you love about who you are, and you feel that they have the right to know the person they love.\n\nGood Luck, wish you all the best in the world. \nKeep your friends close, you'll probably need their support.