How does one get over guilt from childhood experiences?
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What you need to do is find some local groups that you can sytart attending. Find a dr. to go to and talk things out. One thing i have my clients do, Is i have them write a letter to whom ever, using any type of language they want. Then place it in an envelope seal it then THROW IT AWAY!!!! You will be amazed on how much better it will make you feel. Find a counseling group also. Good Luck!
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you can compensate somehow.\n\nafter that you need not feel guilty.
4615
You don’t have to forget something or someone to move on.  The past is what makes us who we are.  Even the bad things in the past help us develop into the people we are.\n\nThe past can be painful.  The best thing to do is talk with someone you trust.  Discuss what it is that is bothering you, and then decide on what you are going to do to fix it.  By taking an active roll in your healing process you can “move on” sooner and feel better about it.
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I read this book called Women who love too much and I also attended women's groups at church. You need to find out what you enjoy and do those things. Write your feelings in a journal and read them every once in awhile just so you know that you do not want to feel those feelings ever again. Find people who comfort you-- make them people you would not normally hang with-- because people in childhood situations that were rough tend to flock to people who treat them the same way and we accept it because it is what is familiar. Step away from familiar and become the person you need to be.\n\nStay strong and do not let anyone take away your happiness. God will see you through. Pray! \n\nGood luck and God bless you!
1085782
You need to deal with your demons, your past is making it impossible for you to enjoy your present. Sounds like you need therapy.
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Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
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I have pondered this same thing..\n\nI can forgive someone for treating me poorly, but I will never forget how I felt when that happened.. \n\nI think it has to do with a little self preservation, and more to what you want to surround yourself with, and  not wanting to put yourself in a position to face the same types of offenses.\n\nForgetting it a very hard thing to do, because you naturally associate some things together.. like a favorite song from high school that instantly makes you feel a certain way when you hear it again, or the first time you laid eyes on your first born, or the first time your heart was broken.  You retain this data (I think) because it's all a learning process that later will help you value what is and isn't important. And the emotions tied to those things are memorized with your heart.
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I know I'm going to sound like a parent, but you need to just move on.. make new memories.... do things for you... it will get better with time even though right now it doesn't feel that way... I've been there.. and it sucks.. but you will get through it.. and you will be stronger because of it.\n\ndont dwell on what was.. focus on what can be.
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If you really mean it.. let your emotion go in a personal one on one conversation and cry. \n\nAllow your heart to let your eyes weep and feel the remorse in your soul so you will never make that mistake again by remembering the pain it brought you and the person you are sorry to.
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well i cannot erase the past nor spend time wishing i could and yes i wish i could too. No do-overs in life. so what i am left with is how i chose to deal with these issues in life that will get me through. carrying around mental baggage is a stumbling block in life. freeing ones self is the key to absorb the better things in life i need to concentrate on.
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Well, I can understand your feeling, but you don't have to be paralyzed by regret.  Even the worst events in life can be turned into positives depending on what you've gleaned from it all.   \n\nYou can't undo the past, so the best thing to do is ask yourself what you can do *today* to be a better person.  What can you do today that will cultivate a sense of purpose in your life?  What gives you joy and satisfaction?  Do those things and you'll eventually forget that you spent a lot of time in useless pursuit.  \n\nAnd here's something else to think about:  the experiences you've had in your life (all that partying brought into your life) don't have to go to waste.  Think about what you've learned as a result of how you've lived.  Use that to help someone else make wiser choices.
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This might sound really stupid, but I used to and still do a little feel the way you do. When I was seeking help about it, I was told to write my little disappointments or things I regretted on some paper, wad up the paper, and throw it away. It's like I needed that visual to realize that the past is the past, there isn't anything I can do about it except maybe learn from it and do better next time around. What good it is doing you just sitting around nursing these things ya know? Make up for it however you can.
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although i wasn't abused as a child, i had a terrible experience when i was a teenager, i was date raped. i understand what you're going through and i know it hurts alot but you need to find the strength to move on with your life. anger and hate won't take you anywhere, it'll just make you bitter and it won't give you peace. i know what i'm talking about cuz i too dwelled on with my past for the longest time and i almost ruined my life. \ndon't worry though, better days is just around the corner, you just have to hold on and work on to getting well again my friend.\ni'll pray for your recovery!\nGod speed\n\np.s.\ntry to read this book: your past does not define your future by bo sanchez (this book is published in the philippines). this book has really helped me alot.
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it sounds like you had a bad expierence in another life time. when you go to bed tonight, keep saying that you want that part of your past lives not to bother you anymore. you might have to do it a few nights. but it will help
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definitely hypnotherapy works in your case. it will completely eradicate the traumatic experience you had as a child.
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First let me say you are not the only one who has been through such things.  I too, have done things which I later regret but at the time I refuse to think about the consequences because at the time it feels right.  You can avoid making the same mistakes twice by learning from your first mistake.  Before you do something on impulse..evaluate the situation, think about the pros and cons and then decide if it's worth it.
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He will stop bringing up your past when you stop feeling guilty about it. If you expect him to get over his insecurities, then you're going to have to stop telling lies (big or small). Because it is the "lie".. and not what we do that hurts the most. You are doing good by not bringing up his faults, now start working on making sure he has no (reasonable) reason to bring up yours.\n\nSincerely