How do you break the ice in the gay dating world?
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Well, if you know for a fact that the person is gay, start a conversation with them. Get to know them, and what they like and stuff. There is a great website to go to. Its adam4adam.com You can meet alot of guys there. Thats where I met my current boyfriend, whom I love soooo much.
934578
The best thing to do is to steer the questions ever so subtly to the gay without saying it. If he knows you're gay then it'll be a little trickier, but if not just say compliment a guy and see if he agrees... Worked for me in high school... it's just so much harder cause so many guys have "gay" mannerisms and gays usually play the "straight" (if there is such a thing)...
1138063
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1146847
Become a whole and complete person.\n\nGet a hobby or two, or six. Learn new things, travel to new places, spend time meeting and hanging out with new people. Do all of this for you, not to get a boyfriend.\n\nInevitably, one of the many new people you meet will be a boy whom you find attractive, and who finds you attractive. Since you'll have these hobbies, and you will have been travelling, you'll be a very interesting person as well. This will interest him, and he will ask you out.\n\nOr, you'll learn how to be bold enough to ask him out. Either way.\n\nOh, one more thing: for the love of all that is holy, stop using the word "like" in the middle of sentences. I guarantee that at least a couple of boys who would have asked you out decided not to do so because of that annoying habit, just like if they saw you biting your nails.\n\n"I want a boyfriend, because my friends are going away. What do I do?" is the proper way to say it, and that'll attract a far better class of boy.
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Participate in activities and organizations of interest to you.  The guys you'll meet there will have similar interests, they will be outgoing, and you both won't feel like you're in a situation like the bar scene and other miserable ways of meeting singles.\n\nFor instance... like skiing? join a ski club. Like to bike, skate, walk, read books, study tarot card reading, whatever?  Seek out groups based on the same interests.  No group?  Start one.  You'll be busy (no waiting by the phone or staring at the TV) and you'll be meeting a higher quality group of singles!\n\nGo get'em!
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How small is the small town? And how old are you? If you live in a town of say 2500 people in western Iowa or South Dakota or some such (beautiful) place, then you need to make friends with as many "ordinary" guys as you can, both to extend your "reach" and for your own protection, once you are outed (which is inevitable in a place where everyone knows everyone else's business).\n\nIf you are in such a small town anywhere in the East or the South or the eastern Midwest, then you should have little trouble finding prospects using Internet sites like gaydar and Yahoo Personals.\n\nIf your idea of a small town is say 40K to 100K in for example a 40-square-mile area, then you will have many more possibilities using the Internet.\n\nIf you live in a remote area but are in or near a college town, and if you have good social skills, then enroll in a course or two in the evenings and summers. Then you have an excuse to be on campus, where you can meet all kinds of (usually) open-minded people with whom you share interests. In such a setting you can form a few new acquaintances, including teachers and other staff, and let them know you are gay, and then you can see who likes to socialize with you, and, well, I think you can take it from there!\n\nSimply create a network so that you can in a very natural way let it be known that you are single and seeking. This takes time, so don't expect to get dates immediately. Homophobia is less acute when people (the prospective homophobes) are well acquainted with the gay person(s) in their midst. And more people will help you identify dating prospects if they know your character.\n\nI know the problem you are speaking of very well, having lived in small towns all my life. Maybe my advice seems overly cautious to you, but that is based on my experience that homosexual activity is more taboo where there is less anonymity (i.e., in rural areas, where everyone knows everyone else's business). So, unless you want to be ostracized or even victimized, you have to work within the social norms of the area where you live.\n\nAnd forget about trying to seduce straight guys (like by getting them drunk and watching some porn together, as some other persons have suggested), because that kind of behavior will get you talked about or worse and will cause other people to feel suspicious toward or dislike gay men in general.\n\nSo just take it easy, be yourself, and form what seem to be real friendships, and soon enough other (including straight) people will be happy to help the really nice gay guy they know to meet someone else they know in the area.
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There are no rules.  When you feel comfortable, then you're ready to date.  Dating can actually be very healing because it will help you reaffirm that there are people out there with whom you can have a genuine relationship.  It helps to talk with other people who have been through the same thing.  There were two books that helped me: "Happily Even After" by Alan Cohen, and "Spiritual Divorce" by Debbie Ford.  My ex read them, too, it helped both of us and we have a good relationship now, which is important because we co-parent our kids.
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Any and everywhere.  Set aside, for a moment, the idea of looking for your next relationship and focus for a time on having a good time.  Strike up conversations with people you find attractive in line at the movies, at bars, restaurants, in the grocery store, book store, or wherever you go to pursue your interests.  \n\nMeanwhile, ask your friends to set you up with dates and go with the express intent of "practicing" dating - in other words, go with zero expectation of starting something.  If you have fun, great - you've met your goal.  \n\nSet goals for yourself like, "today I will talk to nine strangers I think are attractive" and go out and hit those goals.  Eventually, you'll meet someone with whom you really click.  The secret is giving up the attachment to having a relationship.
103436
If you don't want to try the dating sites, I guess it depends on where you are, but maybe your local gay bar? In L.A. there's all kinds of places to meet people who are interested in same sex relationships.....So try that!
1004195
Don't try too hard, be yourself and your date will feel more relaxed and not as if you're trying out a stand-up comedy show on him. Be mannerly, use body language to your advantage. Subtle mirroring of your date can make them more attracted to you as "we like people that are like ourselves." Eye contact- but not so much that your date feels stared out. Have a positive attitude about the datm not like "this one better last as the others haven't been successful" but more of a cool attitude: "if it works it works, if not, there's somebody else out there for me...." Be interested in your date, but don'e annoy them with too many questions. Don't be over-enthusiastic about what your date enjoys as this could be intimidating. Don't move too fast, its okay not to kiss etc on the first date as you're only getting to know the person, go with your instincts, not the so-called "rules" of dating as they are made for ppl who are too afraid to be spontaneous. Be YOU more than anything, and best wishes with it! :)
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rather than get all tongue-tied asking him on a date,why not work on a friendship first? tell him you're bored and ask him if he'd like to go somewhere with you just for something to do.let him know that if he follows you to another part of the state it'd be great going knowing you're not completely friendless to start a new chapter in your lives.it'll be alot less scarry for you both.start there and keep working on staying friends and being casual until you get over the shyness or he does.somewhere along the line somethings gonna happen to show you whether you're wasting your time or not.if it turns out he's gay at least you'll have a friend to lean on in a strange place.
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First be careful, do not leave with him/her.\n\nSecond, be yourself and get to know them.\n\nThird, take your time, do not rush the relationship.\n\nOnline dating can work, I married mine!
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Just be yourself and smile. Ask about the weather. That is always a great ice breaker, Yeah I know it sounds dumb but it works!
807180
Sigh. This is an easy one. Go and buy an icecream. Say hello, tell him a joke, ask him what time he gets off work, ask him if he'd like a drink. Hint that your knickers will be hitting him in the face about the same time his backside hits the bar stool. Now, if he refuses he is gay, but you've got an ice cream so there is something positive about the experience.  Next question?
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All you gotta do is not be so shy.  Step up to him and say, "Hi." to break the ice and then go on from there.
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Hon, what you have to do is search 'em out, and take matters into your own hands. BUT---once they have agreed to go on a date with you...remember to revert back to "you're the one who wants ME" role. At least until you get the results you're looking for.  Hope I was a little help to ya....good luck!:)
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Instead of looking for a good guy, let him find you. Do this through volunteering for a local charity or a political campaign. This way you can find someone with similar interests and philosophies. You can also try the internet where you can chat until you feel comfortable enough for a face to face meeting. You can also only answer or ask what you are comfortable asking or answering. That is how I met my fiancee and I wasn't even looking for a relationship at the time.