my boyfriend is scared of having sex because he doesnt want any of those diseases! what should i do?
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get him a condom and tell him that u got nothing so hes not going to anything from you
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Maybe tell him you have to forgo kissing for awhile until the infection in your gums heal.  You're only thinking of him; you'd hate to see him get this disease also!  Tell him you'll let him know when it is safe to kiss again.\n\nGood luck!
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Tell him that you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, but want to be safe and responsible about it.  Tell him you think it's a good idea that you are BOTH tested for AIDS (unless you're a virgin).  That way it's not putting it all on him.
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Do not have sex until you are ready.  If he truly cares about you, he will not pressure you to do something you are uncomfortable with.
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Don't hold your breath hoping this guy is going to change.  Women have to keep thier options open.  Don't settle for this creep.  If you two are intimate, do you really want to be with him?  There are too many diseases out there to keep people like this in your life.  Ditch him.
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Hep C is easier to catch than AIDS..Bodily fluids like \n\nsaliva and tears can do it if exposure is prolonged.  Seek \n\nmedical advise and find out what your boyfriend is doing \n\nabout treatment.\n\nGood Luck\n\nJimmy
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Tell him about  the risk like even though he wears condoms he can still contract stds like hiv/aids. maybe if he hears that he will think twice at least some people do.
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Realistically, You should MAKE him use a condom, bu if that denies him having sex with you, you should at least take steps to protect youself by using a femidom of some sort. Many are free from clinics, just  like condoms can be easily obtained. Alternatively, find someone else.\n\nIt is most definetly NOT SAFE
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Chances are if he is getting new ideas about sex they are coming from somewhere. But don't assume the worst! It could be adult magazines or videos. Have a real conversation with him about your fears. Make sure he knows if you are open to expanding your sexuality, but do it as a couple. Let him know you if are not comfortable with him springing new ideas up in the bedroom. Communicating is the most empowering thing you can do for a relationship.
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I totally agree with alcaholicdemon! Don't take drugs because he hates sex! Don't punish yourself for a problem he has!\n\nYou better talk to him and tell him this is important for you. Discuss how you can  solve the problem of the lack of sex in your life. Maybe he can seek professional help to find out why he hates sex. Or maybe you can make an appointment in which you have some more freedom. If you have a good communication and a lot of love for each other, you will find a way out of this.\n\nYou two have a problem. Drugs or antidepressants are not the solution here, they will not solve the problem but instead giving you only more problems.
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Don't have sex with him until he has it checked out. Insist that you speak with the doctor yourself about the test results.\n\nThis could be nothing, but it might be something that could change your whole future. So be careful.
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Try snuggling ONLY. Tell him (nicely, make up some excuse) that there will be NO sex, only kissing, cuddling, etc. for the next 7 dates or so.\n The pressure will be off and it may work wonders because he is having performance pressure for some reason.\nThe cuddling, hugging, loving, will give him time to become more relaxed with you. Most likely, he will be more than ready (and able) for sex before the end of your "no sex" dates are over.
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That's something you do need to talk about with your partner. It is a very important topic, especially when it concerns sex, STDs, and your health. Slowly bring up the subject, tell him that you two can get the exams done together. But if he gets angry, avoids the subject, and refuses to get tested, you will then need to re-evaluate your relationship.
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i'm so sorry for you that u have taken on all the burden of your boyfriend's health issues..for some reason, some people just cannot accept it. part of his ill-temper may be caused by his high/erratic blood sugars. getting them under control would make him feel better both physically and emotionally..another thing..uncontrolled blood sugar will cause impotence due to nerve damage..apparently he is still interested in sex..tell him that he may soon be unable to get an erection. it might sound silly, but i am serious..diabetes is one of the main causes of blindness, kidney disease (leading to transplant), heart failure, loss of limbs, nerve damage/which leads to erectile dysfunction, and any number of other complications. i agree with the others that u can lead a horse to water, but u can't make him drink...in other words..it's got to be up to him. he knows you are concerned, but unfortunately, has chosen to do nothing about it. make sure that he is educated about the complications of diabetes and the effects on his body that HE ALONE is causing...i know that u love him dearly, but is it worth staying with him? and at what cost to your emotional and physical health..just an FYI, i am a type 1 diabetic and have been for 41 years. i value my health and my life, and i would not skip a dose of insulin EVER...best wishes to you and know that you have done the best you can to encourage him to lead a healthier life. his health will only deteriorate if he chooses to do nothing..please look after yourself.
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wait!!!!! do not ever do anything that you are uncomfortable with. go with your feelings, or you'll wind up doing something you'll regret for the rest of your life, girl. only been together 2 months? he's a little eager to jump the gun. sex should only occur between two consenting adults who know exactly what they want and have had a long time to get to really really know each other. and that line about "well, if he aint getting it from me he'll get it somewhere else" ? forget it. if he's doing that, then he really doesnt care about u in the first place. don't let him pressure u into something that you don't want to do. trust me, you will regret it later. you will know when the time is right for you, and always and without fail, use protection. no protection is 100%. are u ready to face the consequences of sex? pregnancy, STD, etc ??? just remember that a condom is not complete protection against ANY STD. skin-to-skin contact can often transmit disease, and i read somewhere that latex condoms have poor structural integrity, meaning that they have small holes in them (too small for sperm to pass) but that the holes are 50 times bigger than the actual aids virus. once is all it  takes to catch ANYTHING. please be careful, and wait until the time is right for Y O U.
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i know someone that is in the exact same situation as you and it sucks for her too. since getting pregnant is his big worry -tell him you are getting on birth control -if there is no sex after getting on birth control -there is obviuosly something else wrong-my friend's husband had to start using viagra after getting off drugs -because drugs messed up his sex drive and it took her forever to get that he had a problem with a erection for months-becuase it was embarrsing to him -all you can do is ask and if that still does not work you should find someone who wants to give it up to you
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If you are under 18.....you probably shouldn't be having one night stands.  Talk to your parents about your impending, potentially life draining nymphomania.  You may need to make an appointment with a therapist.\n\nHowever, if you are over 18, this is fine...if he is cool with it.  You are an adult.  As a guy, I'm thinking....."this is one of the best things that's ever happened to me.....no strings attached....good, semi regular sex....this rocks!.....wait until I tell my boy Brian"\n\nOnly things to worry about are his friends....do not get involved with them.  That is a bad move, because (hopefully) you respect yourself..and to some degree, the guy who you're having (obviously) brain cell reducing, fluid draining, Olympic quality sex with.  \n\nThe other thing is the guy.  He may or may not respect you at this point.  I mean, if you are willing to give up the kitty for basically nothing, he may think he can do or say anything to you........although he probably won't.  What wants to be cut off from dynamite sex?  Still...be somewhat careful...make sure he is single!......wierdos are officially out there.  \n\nAnd use condoms - herpes doesn't go away with a bowl of chicken noodle soup.