How would you react when your husband tells you he is splitting your joint income tax return his mother?
441712
I say the money is yours and your husband's to do with what you wish.  If the house and payments are in his name, he is accepting the full risk in the case of default on the house.  Basically, your mother-in-law could stop paying and you would have no recourse.  I say that this added "risk" to you and your husband is due back to you in the form of a higher return.  Legally, your mother-in-law has no claim to that refund.  But if you both decide that she is entitled to some of the money, then that's great.
836790
you don't sound mean but you should really condense your question. and if it was me i would take my son and go back were you came from. then file for divorce if you don't take your son she will just use your him for a paycheck.and if you saved those emails were she said he was a burden and the others were she cheated on you it will go a long way in court then she will get nothing god luck.
852059
My sister-in-law has a son who sever ties with her because he felt she didn't give him enough money which he feels is his inheritance!!! \n\nIf you are in this situation, let him go.
767822
I agree with what several answerers commented: make mommy-in-law pay 1/3 of the mortgage and bills if everything is supposed to be equal. If she were on her own she would be responsible for 100% of her own expenses - therefore this is a great set-up for her. \n\nHe sounds very selfish and/or uneducated. If his mother isn't insisting on covering a portion of the expenses (medications, groceries, rent, utilities, etc.) she is nothing but a leach. He may be a predator and his mommy dearest may be his partner in crime. If I were to try to bring my mother to live with me she would absolutely refuse unless I agreed to let her handle some of the expenses. My dad is the same way - he carries his own weight and would want to make sure he did his part. It's all in how you are brought up, dear. I would never feel comfortable in a situation like yours - his mother is a bigger priority than you are. I'm not sure how old she is but if she is drawing social security, a pension, public assistance, or whatever she could still have a life of her own, unless she is an invalid or has debilatating health problems. She could move in with a widowed friend and have someone her own age to converse with and do things with.\n\nThe only time I ever paid a portion of the house payment was when I made more than my husband did. We sat down, made a budget, and figured out where monies were to be allocated. I was the saver and he was a spender so I kept a separate savings account that I had money automatically deducted out of my check for. If we needed to draw on that money for emergencies or special expenses we did so only after discussing it. It was never a control thing - it was just a smart thing to do in this day and age. We both agreed that it was smart for me to have my own account (we also had a joint account) once he started earning more than I did, just in case something were ever to happen to him. I also built up credit in my own name - it's just an intelligent thing to do in case anything were to happen to him and I was on my own.\n\nAnother point to ponder in your relationship (you may want to bring this up now before you have a mortgage payment) is what happens if you decide to get (or accidently become) pregnant? What if, for some unforeseen reason, you are unable to work? What about child care expenses, etc.? Kids aren't cheap. Is he going to be able to handle all of your joint expenses alone, if need be? When my husband wanted me to quit my job after I was diagnosed with breast cancer, we agreed that he would pay for 100% of everything for several months while my checks went into savings, just to make sure we could make it on just 1 paycheck.\n\nThere are always options - you just have to consider them.
525904
yeah it is but you always have the option of splitting assets. or get your money right and offer her a lump sum all at one time. buy the greedy b*#@$ out of your life.even if she raised the kids and worked when you split it's time to hold your own and move on.women lokk at this and learn have a career of your own. being a housewife is not a damn career. washing your husbands feet will not get you paid when he divorces your ass
1137323
who lives closer? You or her parents?  It is hard to split things sometimes but if they are closer well all you can do is move so things are more even.  I see my husbands side of the family more than my own because when we come home for holidays they want us home so much they pay for it.  My family doesn't help with a dime unless I come right out and ask if they will then I hear this hour long story on how things are tight bla bla bla....\n\n\nJust talk to  your son and find out why he spends more time with them.
376068
My mother-in-law has never borrowed money from me, but has actually lent my husband money.  She and my father-in-law allowed us to repay the money with no interest.  They are a gift from God, even though we don't see eye to eye on everything.  If she ever did ask me for money, I would give it as that would mean she really needed it.  Also I could trust her to repay me.\n\nEach situation is different and as long as she pays you back, you shouldn't feel awkward.  If you cannot lend her money, then you need to tell her so.
815127
First of all, don't listen to anyone who says everything gets split exactly in half.  That's not how property division works.\n\nIn a divorce, your dad and step-mom will be negotiating who gets what.   If they can come to an agreement that they are happy with, the judge will grant the divorce, even if one person gets more dogs than the other.  (The idea is for items with monetary value to be divided fairly equally. IE  one person gets the house, the other person gets other property that is worth approximately the same as the house.)  If you live with your dad it would make sense for him to keep Jack since it's 'your' dog.  Maybe they will decide that the dogs spend half time with her and half time with him.  But if you live with your mom full time, it might not be reasonable to expect your dad to take on the responsibility of a pet.  Talk to both of them about how you feel about the dogs.
715027
Total up all your costs on paper and divide it by 2. Highlight the amount an leave it for him so that he can see what you are talking about. You are not the only person who lives in your home - you both do. You both are responsible for the household. If you feel strongly about it, let him know that if he doesn't pull his share, he can do it all on his own - as a single man.
695031
My husband and I both have our own separate savings and checking acct as well as one joint acct we both contribute money to as we're both employed.  All the household bills and mortgage payments are taken out of the joint acct.  Personal spending is taken out of our own accts.\n\nThe reason ours is set up this way is because my husband is the bigger spender between us two and we want to have emergency money for "just in case" as u never know if something will come up.  This was an agreed upon arrangement prior to getting married.
501084
IN MY OPINION, YOUR MOTHER WOULD BE ENTITLED TO THAT MONEY, NOT YOU.  SHE'S THE ONE WHO HAS DONE WITHOUT TO RAISE YOU.
593710
You mother is just being mother to you...trying to prevent your pain and suffering.  However, so long as your husband was not abusive toward you, then reconciliation is possible and certainly in the best interests of your son.  Stay calm with mom and let her know this.
1055563
Run Run away.  This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.  This has all the signs of being a future lawsuit against both the business partner and your husband, by the girlfriend.  You have answered your own question.  This women is not trustworthy so why put your business and your money at risk.  Say no even if you have to dissolve the partnership.  You will be better off financially and stress-wise.
353550
First of all, when did you guys officially become husband and wife - you made no mention of that in your question.  If your wife is a grown woman and is allowing her mother to act that way, what can you do.  It is sounding like she has given control to her mother.  Check yourself.  Make sure you have not done anything to offend your mother-in-law, if so then get it right.  Try talking to the mother-in-law.  Ask her why she is acting out so bad.  Coming to your job is definitely over the top and you should definitely ask her never to do that again.  Get in touch with your wife.  Explain to her that you cannot go on like this.  Her not coming back on her own is sounding like she doesn't want to be with you.  Ask her point blank what her intentions are.
1120177
I think it's great that your fiance wants to do that!  Have HIM tell his mother...you should just stay out of it and let him do it or it may cause resentment (well, more than usual).  Just have him explain to her what you just explained on here.  Good luck!
582798
Why did your Mom tell you this? Is he telling her these things,and if so,why? I would tell him to lay off or you will slap a slander suit on him for telling others, lies about you.
763380
My wife was good at manipulating me when I believed what she said.  Now I don't put any value in anything she says and the funny thing is WE are happier.\n\nA while back we seperated (she was having an affair).  She said she wanted to be fair so I took the word "fair" to heart.  She moved out so I took over all the house hold bills because I was using everything, but her student loans, her car payments were hers.  We also consolidated our debt and she paid me half to which promptly paid.  She had access on the internet to see it was paid every month and never late.  So things seem fair right?\n\nI don't need much free spending cash to get by so all the sudden I had more money than I needed.  My wife however, had to pay a seperate rent and other bills so her cash flow was pretty low.  She then said we should go into mediation and discuss child support.  She already said that she didn't want allimony.  Now I don't go into negotiations blind so I read up on child support.  As we were waiting to meet the person who would mediate my wife & I she was telling my how money was so tight.    \n\nWhen we actually meet with the mediator I took charge saying that I just want to make sure what we were doing is "fair".  Then I Iaid out how we had already divided up the bills and that my wife did not want allimony.  The mediator agreed everything seemed fair.  Now my wife brought up child support and restating she didn't want allimony.  I then pulled out what I had learned that in the state I lived in child support was a simple mathematical calculation based on the percent of time each parent had the children.  The look on my wife's face was priceless when I told her from what I found she would have to pay ME childsupport.  My wife grabbed those papers so quick I almost laughed.  The mediator glanced at them and said if the numbers where right then I was correct.  The look on my wife's face was priceless and I think this was also the same time she started to realized that the fantasy life she was hoping to have was never going to happen.  \nI left the meeting feeling happy that my life could only get better.  I continued seeing a few new friends with benefits for a six months or so and my wife found out that her lover was not as stable financially as she thought.  We did get back together, but I always try to be fair.