Why are people so judgemental when it comes to a woman not being interested in marriage?
445049
I guess because it departs from tradition and what people are used to.  The women's movement was only 30-40 years ago, and a lot of people still aren't conditioned to the fact that a woman can find happiness and success on her own.  I am 27, rather attractive, own a business and make more money than most married couples my age, yet some people treat me like I've got one foot in the grave and had better hurry up and get married because 30 seems to be the magic deadline.  The truth is, I would love to get married when I'm damn good and ready to find the right one, whether it be tomorrow or when I'm 75.  I'm just not going to get married for the sake of marriage, which a lot of people seem to do (hence the divorce rate today).
277944
Its because women dont see a married man as off limits, they see him as a challenge.  A women would so call "take" a off limits man in a heart beat for the satisfaction that they won.  Women are down right disrespectful to eachother.  Its sick.
220985
Because all people not just married people have become so self centered and self absorbed they believe it's their RIGHT to do whatever makes THEM feel good regardless of the consequences to them or others.  People are so cavalier about marriage and sex anymore.  Nothing is more important to people than their own twisted wants and desires.
398202
If youre asking why so many men seem to be afraid of marriage? I think it's because in this day and age, we are all brought up to believe that we should get perfection, and that we shouldn't settle for just anybody and should wait and wait until the absolute perfect person comes along, so we end reasonable relatioships and re-start new ones again and again, continually searching for the right person.
366883
It all depends on the man. Some men are built for marriage and commitment, some men just aren't. More and more our society is encouraging men to nurture their anti-commitment tendencies. Even empowerment of women (something I think is great) is having unintended effects in this direction. As more and more women are feeling it's okay to be promiscuous and casual in their relationships - men get even more reinforcement that this is the best way. It surprised me, but I've even had the thought "where can I find a woman who wants to settle down?" run through my mind.
584569
ahhhhhhhhh. You're going to get reamed for stating this truth, my friend. :) It's MAJORLY politically incorrect. Even though it's the honest truth. \n\nWomen choose a**holes to marry, becaue they crave excitement and mystery. But, the qualities that attract these men to women, make them extremely poor choices for an LTR. but women think they can CHANGE ceratin aspects of the man, thereby having their cake and eating it too. In reality, the male will use the woman for what he will, them leave her when he becomes bored with her. WHY? Because he knows he can easily go find another. The majority of women WANT the personality traits that these individuals possess; confidence, arrogance, bad-boy attitude. And then the women will complain bitterly when they are left high and dry. \n\nNot all women are this way. JUST the majority. Conversely, not all men are a**holes. But the minority in both cases, seems to be getting smaller and smaller every day.
366439
People just don't take marriage as seriously as they used to.  People are just more selfish now, I guess.
1032172
Women, generally speaking, suck. Equal rights!!!!! But you better open my door and treat me like a lady or you're a pig. Women don't know what the heck they want, and that's really nothing new. As far as marriage goes, that's the fault of both sexes. Used to be, people got married and spent their lives trying to make eachother happy. Now, people get married because it seems the logical next step in their relationship. Then, they spend their time talking about how they're unhappy and wanting to know what the other person is going to do to fix it. It's no longer, "I love you, what can I do to make you happy?"... it's.. "If you love me, you better think of ways to make me happy or I'll just divorce you!"\nPeople don't realize that you get what you give. If you dote on and love on someone, and do everything in your power to make them happy and feel loved.... you can bet the farm that they, in return, will dish it all back out to you.\n\nIn short, women are friggin NUTS and don't know what the heck they want..... and in general, people marry for the wrong reasons because all they have to do is get a divorce if they change their minds...\n\nPS. I'm female
1013357
because they know what is best for us.  they are able to see the full picture.  they can base a judgement on your relationship without feeling the "love" you feel for the person.  these people, however, should not allow you to lose the love of your life, only help you to make decisions.
169164
Because some women think with there Hearts first instead of with there heads.  They fall in love with the ideal of being in love.  They let there emotions get to them and all logic goes out the door.  I am only saying that some women are like this not all. Some still hold on to the belief of this knight in shinning amour crap.   And some just don't know how to date and have fun, as soon as they meet a guy, they are already picking out wedding invitations and names for their 1st born instead of getting to know a persons character.
868006
so true, I agree with that and have found myself in that position but becuase my parents braught me up right I know not to go after a married man, or even in a relationship, there are plenty men out there that are just as good as the married ones or taken ones, leave the ones that are married alone and if they have difficult times in there marriage they should be telling there wifes before looking at another women, so to the females and males when you know someone is with someone else just be a friend not a sex friend and find someone else that may simulate that one you want, and thanks for making this one so much better then the rest of the questions on here and you know something else we were all born with a brain and taught how to use it wisely, we know right from wrong so come on, were not stupid people in this world, just remember to use what was given to you from the time you were born!
577569
It's not pre marital sex if you don't plan on getting married!!!!!!!!1
985878
what elae can we judge women on? Give me a break. For your own quality of life and the relationships you have in your life, please don't be so judgemental.
328172
People need to stop believing EVERYTHING they read! Marriage is for any person that finds someone that will marry them. The article is just there to sell newspapers. The older ANY woman gets, the better the chance that she will not get married. The older we get, the fewer men we have to choose from. Women outlive men still, so that will reduce the numbers. Some older men are only looking for younger women, so that will reduce the numbers, and the other men are either gay, too young or already married. It is only natural that as women get older their chance to marry would be reduced.\n\n@--->---
653942
It is not necessarily just wedding bands.. anything that is evident that they are emotionally and physically unavailable. The women who are attracted to such men have deep seated issues that involve trust and commitment. At some point in their life they were either abandoned or were mislead in a direction that caused them to lose a part of their emotional stability to a point that now they avoid any attachment that could possibly become permanent. It is actually a fascinating study to read about, you wouldn't imagine the lengths that some of these women would go to to achieve non-commitment.
1121229
Really depends on the guy though doesnt it? I mean women freak out as well.\nIt also has to do about the way it is brought up.\nAnd well, women do seem to have, at the back of their mind, this reminder that if they want to settle down and have kids they need to do so by age of (am a guy forget what age that was again) while us men half the time think that we got all the time in the world. So it might not even be not wanting to commit to you, just really feeling rushed.
747728
Yes, reading through many of these questions (and answers as well) can make a person cynical.  Unfortunately, there's a lot of cluelessness---not only about making a commitment that will last, and putting in the effort, but also about what men and women need at the deepest levels.\n   But if you look around in the "real" world, not just on this site where so many problems are discussed, you'll find plenty of people still married, raising families, and then enjoying grandchildren.  I've found that it's best to make your closest friendships with people who are, like you seem to be, committed to keeping their marriages intact.