Im more than in love with him. Should I let him take my virginity before he goes to Iraq??
449294
Let him TAKE it?! You've got to want to give yourself to a man! Wait. Don't let his deployment set a deadline for something this special. Only you know how you feel, but don't confuse an eagerness to please, or an eagerness to learn, with love. If you have to ask if the timing is right, it's not. Listen to your mind and body, find out if YOU want it, or if your hormones do. Good Luck!
854309
HELLO?!  If you lost your virginity to him, then he should rightfully be yours.  Losing one's virginity is a mark that you belong to him, and vice versa.  If she knows that you two have already "marked" each other, then she should know to stay away.
347613
I will never say that you dont love him. He might truly mean the world to you. But you have to look out for your best interest. You are 13 years old and have a lot of great experiences and 'firsts' ahead of you--homecomings, proms, driving, more dates, making captain of a school team-- i wouldn't limit yourself to one guy who is past all these life changing events. I also dont think that it is healthy that he is in jail already. He might bring you down with him one day.  My only suggestion is to be his friend.  That way you can still care about him as much as you want, but you also have the ability to go out and do what you want. There are going to be so many guys in your life throughout high school.  I am sure that you are ready to handle an adult relationship, but I would have as much fun until you absolutely have too. I was tied up with one long relationship after another. And now I am 23 looking back and wishing that I had given myself the chance to go off and have fun.  So, be his friend, and if later on in life, you are still in love with him, then make the commitment to each other.
1005638
dont hold back now.\nin all things, hiding your true feelings never really gets you anywhere that you wanna go. you know? cause if where you're going is based upon your true feelings, then you shouldn't wanna go there...nevermind. :-D\nanyways, yes, you should tell him you love him, because nothing is going to change that. and you could wait a million years...but what good is that gonna get you??? tell him- guys are more mellow than you first think. if he doesn't feel the same way, i'm almost positive he'll take it all in stride, if he does the feel the same way-then well, you've got a match!\ngo ahead, don't hold back. they're your true feelings, what harm are they gonna do???
170920
You tell him the truth about how you feel and should respect your choice.  If your under 18 though I encourage you to wait and not just jump into this.
172449
First of all, he is 17 and if you are too old (legally that is) then just say no. But if that's not an issue, then you have to deside what's more impotant to you:\nA) that you were there for a friend in his time of need\nor \nB) that you gave him his first time as a "pity f*ck"\n\nIt should be a gift of love, not from pity.\n\nLook, it's obvious by the sound of things that he already loves you but you don't sound like you're attracted to him in the same way. Otherwise you wouldn't have posed the question here.\n\nLet's face it, he's a nerdy 17yo virgin. There isn't much hope for him on his own. So maybe you can introduce him to some of your nerdy 17yo girlfriends and hopefully nature will take it's course if they meet. Maybe they'll date, fall in love, etc. But if he's got a problem meeting girls, then that might be where you can help most.
522068
If you really loved your boyfriend in Florida, you wouldn't even be considering the possibility of having sex with someone else.  This guy is not really your friend.  He just wants to get into your pants.  If you're having all these doubts you need to reconsider how you really feel about your bf.  It's not fair to him if he really loves you.
654107
Most guys aren't like him... I think he's a real catch, honey.  Maybe he'll propose to you before he leaves for Iraq.  I hope he'll stay safe there!  If you want, you can email me or something and keep in touch, because I'd like to know how this turns out.
759131
Negative\n\nDont loose your virginity, if he said he can wait then perfect! Dont ruin the relationship because your horny. Hell you can masterbate to solve that problem. \n\nYou only have your virginity once, so cherish it and who know maybe in a couple of years you two will break it off and you will be thankful for not going through it. Hell maybe years to come you two will get married, then you should loose your virginity.\n\n-James
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i can see his side ---of wanting to come back, full force, make mad love----it sounds very romantic...especially since he's coming back from war. \n\nhowever---i don't think it's wrong to ask him to wait. as romantic as the scenerio in his brain sounds, in reality, you are not ready for it. you are not nearly as intimate as before---however---if you still love him, it will come back. it will take time though. it might even feel weird to hold hands at first----but sooner or later, it'll seem natural, and just keep going from there. \n\nhaha, one thing tho, is that all this might fly out the window when you see him get off that plane. it will be a big flood of emotions and you just might get caught up in the moment....then, anything goes....
594164
Sounds like he likes you.  He may be thinking of you when he says he doesn't want to start a relationship before returning to Iraq, in that such a relationship can be very difficult with the distance, not to mention the looming specter of death.  I say appreciate it for what it is, enjoy the time you do spend with him or talking with him, and let it be for now.  If he returns, you will be able to see pretty quickly about striking up something more serious if you both want that.  Or maybe you'll fall for someone while he's gone.  Don't try to plan too much, just let it happen.
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Yes my dear, I know what you mean. If you're scared, don't go. \n\nDoes he know you're a virgin? You didn't say how long you two have been dating. If you've dated him a long time and he knows you are a virgin and has been respectful, never questioning you or pressuring you, then it MIGHT be okay. I still think if you are afraid or it makes you uncomfortable, then you should do what feels right to you and not go. If you feel you might be pressured to have sex and you are not ready to, then do not go. \n\nI am not a virgin any more, but know how this feels. Let me share a story with you:\nI am a single woman (previouly married many years ago). I was dating a guy for a few months and I really liked him, but had not had sex with him. We kissed on our dates, and it was very hot, but kept it at that level, just kissing, no "heavy petting". He invited me on a ski trip for a week. We had not travelled together before, or even spent a weekend together, so I was a bit hesitant. (I should have paid attention to that feeling; that was my intuition.)  I really did not think he would pressure me. He had been very well mannered. I would not have gone otherwise. I knew spending that much time together would let us really get to know each other. We got along well and it would be fun, especially because we both like to ski.\n\nOn that trip, he started by wanting me to sleep in the same bed with him. I actually didn't have much choice, the room only had one bed. I should have known right there that a real gentleman would have made sure there were 2 beds or asked me if I was okay with the sleeping arrangements. I felt a little uneasy about it, because I was not ready to be so physically close to him. But I figured it was okay, and kept my gown on. Well, it just got worse each night. By the 4th night he was pissed off that he had "paid to take [me] on this trip and [I] wasn't being accomodating". He got more and more demanding. He flat out told me he "deserved" to have sex with me! He was a real jerk about it! Rather than a really great time, it became a degrading experience for me.  Needless to say, we stopped seeing each other after that. \n\nThat was years ago but I learned a lesson. For me: I would never go on a trip with a man unless we were crazy about each other,already in a commited relationship, and had already made love before that trip. I turned down several trips, but I did not want to be in that position ever again! Yuck!I did not go on a trip with a man again until all of my criteria were met, and what a difference! It was worth the wait.\n\nI commend you for being a virgin. it's a rare thing these days. If you are not ready to lose your virginity, don't!\n\nJust because a man pays for a trip, no woman "owes" a man sex in exchange. I have asked several men (yes, all kinds, including wealthy, well educated, well-mannered upper class men, like the man I had gone on that ill-fated trip with) about this and unfortunately many men seem to think that accepting the invitation of going on a trip is some unspoken code for "there will be vacation sex." They assume "the woman knows [he] wants sex on a trip." So don't go unless you want that too.\n\nYou do what feels right for YOU, not your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will not pressure you. He will understand. If he doesn't, then break it off. You are special and need to be with someone who truly understands and appreciates you. Good luck!
1086652
Ideally your husband. But remember, your virginity can only be given away once. So whomever you choose to give it to make sure it is someone that you can reflect on the experience with love and fond memories. You will be in "love" with whomever your choose forever so choose carefully.\n\nIf you choose your best friend it may change your relationship with him forever because he could start getting jealous when he sees you with other guys, or you could start getting jealous seeing him with other girls. Then you might not be friends anymore. That would suck.\n\nif you choose your boyfriend, he might take it for granted. Or if he really loves you he may become insanely attached to you. Or you may become insanely attached to him and then he could totally blow you off. That would be bad. \n\nYour ex doesn't deserve it. I am sure he is your Ex for a very good reason.\n\nI say don't give it to any of them, but if you have to choose one, make it your best friend.
567891
if ur not ready then dont do it! coz u should be aware of the cosequences that would happen if ever you will get involved into sex and if he loves you then he will respect ur decision and wait for the right time..
27706
If you like him enough and you're not morally opposed to premarital sex, go for it. Give him the best experience a 15 year-old's ever had!
465864
If you aren't ready, DON'T DO IT!  You'll regret it, trust me.  And honestly, sex doesn't make a relationship, so if you're boyfriend is begging you, he only wants you for sex, not the relationship.  A real man (one you deserve) will wait forever if he has to.  Tell your man to shape up or ship out!  Don't give in just because your guy has no self-control.  That's his problem, not yours.
327659
please do this and take my advice: do not get back with him. you seem like a really nice girl and you should be with someone who appreciates you. if he's being a jerk to you, for any reason, then do yourself a favor and give your time, your patience, your love, YOUR VIRGINITY, to someone who deserves it. you will come across many jerks in the world today, just please stand strong as a woman and don't give them the time of day. i know its hard considering you've known him for a year and a half but if he treats you like this now, then think about how it will be a year from now or 2 years from now. if you want to keep him around to "mess around", trust me sweetie, there will be thousands of guys that you will have the chance to have fun with. dont break your own heart and get attached to someone who will end up hurting you. if you give him even a little bit of you, then you will feel closer to him because you have shared an intimate feeling, from there, it will escalade and your feelings will become more attached to him and sooner or later, you will give in and then you'll regret it when he starts treating you badly or hurting you in other ways. keep your morals, be strong, and trust your instincts.