What should i do if i'm feeling insecure about the relationship i have with my girl?
436729
build up some confidence you little sh**
470139
u should stop doing wht ur doing w/that new girll.. if u still wanna be with ur gf.. cuz its just not right!!imagine ur gf doing the same thing to u.. how would u feel??
782195
Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!
70796
Really the best thing would be to have an honest heart to heart with your girlfriend. Let her know what you are feeling. It sounds really lame I know, but it's something it sounds like you really should do. It might be hard, but sometimes we girls need a little help when it comes to knowing what men want from us. :)
946457
Ahh I'm occasionally insecure about this kinda stuff too and what my girlfriend does really helps and makes me feel better.  She takes me aside, looks in my eyes, and explains how everything is all right, and that nothing happened, and that she loves me, and kisses me.  Make sure you're truthful though that's the best way to build trust.  One lie can ruin all the trust someone had in you.  Don't jump to sex as a way for him to trust you, of course it's a good way to show you love him, but it's not always the best option in these kinds of situations.  Just be truthful with him always, and love him with all your heart  and things should work out =).\n\nhope this helped and good luck =)
1030773
Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
399092
IT DEPENDS ON HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN SEEING EACH OTHER...IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING FOR OVER 6 MONTHS AND STILL DON'T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE , THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG AND THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT AND TRY TO OPEN UP TO EACH OTHER. IT MAY BE THAT YOU ARE SO IN LOVE WITH HER THAT YOU ARE SCARRED SAYING THE WRONG THING MIGHT END YOUR RELATIONSHIP, BUT IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION IT MUST BE WEIGHING ON YOUR MIND. JUST TRY TO TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL AND HOPEFULLY SHE FEELS THE SAME AND YOU BOTH CAN START TALKING ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL WITHOUT BEING SCARRED.
390800
Your well being is more important than anything! Don't let anyone make you feel this way, specially for a girl she isn't worth it. Life goes on and you deserve much more.\nPS:I've read your past questions and you should stop being with her, this is the reason of your swollen neck problem also it seems that is been piling up so now it got to a point to your physical being. Take good care of yourself ONLY from now on.
552447
Be sensible. She's your girlfriend, not your possession. Do you have a reason not to trust her? Can you talk to her about it? If not, and it bothers you, you shouldn't be with her. Does she have good reason you'll beat a male friend for looking at her? If so, maybe she isn't the one with the problem!\n\nPossessiveness makes an intelligent gal want to cheat. Girls like showing off their bodies- it's what we do. If you have a faithful loving relationship with this girl, then talk to her about your insecurity! There's a good chance it is founded in nothing. If you do not have a good relationship then what are you staying in it for?\n\nThe issue here sounds like a lot more than her going swimming with her friends! Ask yourself what it really is, and then deal with it.
801313
we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
1165491
Jealousy is a character flaw, I personally think that you are a mature person , whom has moved past  the initial bad feelings, this is a good thing. Your new girlfriend needs an attitude adjustment and a reality check, she is your current love interest. The only reason she told you to break off your relationships with your Exes, was to try to control you.
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
987489
trusting people takes time. especially when you once had it and then lost it. i think that you should be VERY patient with her. don't turn her insecurities into an argument. try to understand where she is coming from. i think that if you don't lie continuously, she'll eventually trust you. believe me...
22869
If when the relationship started you wanted to please her (for what ever reason). But now you are together you don't make the effort to show her how you feel, in a way she understands.  \n\nYou can't take affection on trust, it has to be demonstrated.  It might be you are not demonstrating it anymore.
532784
If you don't think the relationship is going anywere and you don't love the girl than you shouldn't be with her anymore, however if there is somehting there then just stay with her and see where things get you
576436
relationships r tricky n they would neva b the same from the moment they start n as time goes by .. so if u asked her n she told u dat she hasnt lost love 4 u then dont worry , but u cant expect a person dats under lots of stress 2 b all lovy dubby wit u r any 1, dat u need 2 understand ... but if she doesnt call as much as b 4 dats just cause dats how relationships work , not every 1 can stay the same from day 1 dat everythin starts... but u can call her instead n let her know u still there n anythin she needs she can come 2 u .. but with out u tellin her how u feel then she wont have any idea of wats goin through ur head .. good luck hope it works out 4 the best
592401
Are you insecure? Do you feel worthy of love? Could be why you don't trust her. Or have you been hurt before. You know she loves you if you have good conversation, she listens to you and talks back. YOu have good communition and can tell each other anything. She is attentive and loving towards you, and intrested in you sexually (if you are having sex yet, you didn't say your ages). You have fun together ,and laugh together. When you are together, you feel like her mind is 100 per cent with you, and she's not distant. YOu feel important to her. She is reassuring if you need it. YOu feel totally happy in her company.