How do u leave a person that u love and they love u back but yall r in an affair and know it's only right?
449229
There is only one way to do that.. CLEAN! You need a completely clean break, no contact of any kind. If you are truly in love, but are going to end it (which, BTW, is the right thing to do if it is an extramarital affair), then you need to cease all communication and just try to move on.
616296
The most smart thing 2 do would prolly b 2 leave em cuz dat sayn "once a cheater alwayz a cheater" but errebody iz diffrent...But wen u love sumbody it ain't as easy as errebody say...But if u love him & wanna give it anotha try id say go 4 it cuz errebody deserve A 2nd chance but don lisin 2 nebody follow ya heart gurl do watchu feel iz rite!
264425
drop him once a cheat always a cheat..unless your ok with him cheating on you.
18658
Wow tough crowd sweetie!  Don't judge the man, what's done is done.  And he never said he was going back to his wife, he just said he wanted to dump the affair.  Well it takes one to know one (I'm in the same boat dear but on the other side) and you need to sit down and talk with the girl you are having an affair with.  If you explain to her that you care about her and love what you had, but can't go on like you are.  Be honest with her...hopefully she will be mature enough.\n\nAnd by the way, the next time you ever plan to have an affair, have it with another married person. This way the playing field is equal.  You obviously have never been to my website or blog and read the rules of smart cheating (see below)
338084
Telling might ease your conscience but it could ruin your spouses life. I'm so glad you came to your senses and ended the affair. It's refreshing to see someone take the responsibility. What a blessing you are still in love with your spouse.\n\nYou need to talk to someone, I just don't think it should be your spouse. How about your minister? Everything you tell them is confidential. Or another professional counselor. You need to get to the root of why you started an affair to begin with. If you continue to live with the guilt your marriage will suffer for it. Talk to someone. Work through it and let it go.\n\nI pray you'll be able to forgive yourself and have a happy life with your family. God Bless!
1063192
You may never regain the trust she had for you. You can suggest counselling and also don't try to rush it. You have a lot of bad marks against you and really need to prove yourself to her. Also have you thought about what will happen if you get back with her? What made you get into the affair in the same place? Will this reoccurring bad behavior surface again. I'm don't deny that she loves you but just doesn't want to go through the pain of betrayl again. Take some time and get your priorities straight. Good luck
720004
i've been wanting to tell my husband that i am having an affair & i want him to help me to get out of it before it's too late but i can't tell him that 'coz it would really hurt him so much & i don't want to loose him & so i am trying my very best to get out of this mess...  = (
289086
If you cheat your hurting everyone involved including yourself. Be good, also if you are considering cheating then maybe you should just break it off. Find someone that makes you forget about everyone else around! That's when you will find love.
57694
This is going to end badly for everybody.\n\nIf the person with whom you're cheating also knows you're cheating he probably is going to be very happy about seeing you re-commit yourself to your boyfriend, especially after having been with him for four months.  On the other hand, if the boyfriend finds out (does the other guy know him?  if so, he may tell your boyfriend about your illicit relationship)from someone other than you THAT is going to be really ugly.\n\nSo, if you want to stay with the boyfriend then tell him what's been going on, and then break it off with guy #2.
333235
be honest and dont cheat again
996314
It certainly doesn't sound like she's better off staying with him, and it is not in the children's best interest for her to stay.  Having an affair only distracts from the real issue at hand and solves nothing.  If she is no longer in love with this man, she should leave him.  If she still loves him, she should get counselling.  Having an affair is a temporary fix to her emotional roller coaster.  She may feel that an affair will not only boost her ego, but it would be one thing in her life she can control.  I'm not judging her, but I do feel that she will regret this decision and it would be like throwing gasoline on a fire.
570283
dont feel guilty.\nits none of their monkey business\nface this one of a kind challenge in your life\nlet the people know how much you love your boyfriend\ndefend your relationship.
532590
Let them work out their love life themselves. Spare yourself the guilt if it does not work out.
340825
What makes you think you are the only one he is screwing around with?  He is a cheater!!  Even if he did leave his wife, chances are he would repeat the process with you.  Haven't you ever heard the expression "if you love someone, let them go?"  Let his ass go...you can do it. He obviously doesn't love you enough to leave his wife. But we both know this isn't what you want to hear. You are looking for ways to make him leave her...and if anyone on here has a conscience, they won't even offer that up. This isn't love, it is an obsession.
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You have to ask yourself " do I want to stay friends with one or both of these people " If so stay out of It , They have issues in the marriage and if you get involved you will be in the middle of this mess . the one who is cheating will take offense at anything you say and will be angry for taking sides . The cheater will feel betrayed and angry that you don't understand their side and listen as a friend should . The one that is not cheating will be angry that you have caused trouble in the relationship if the affair is brought to light if the affair isn't brought to light you will be blamed for not telling . If the relationship ends both people will blame you for the whole mess . The beat thing you can do would be to explain to your friend the cheater that you would like it if the affair remains quiet and you wish to remain ignorant of the details so if any questions are ever raised by the other party you can act as if you know nothing . Also explain that you are being placed in a very hard position and wish to remain friends with both parties and if the affair comes to light and the relationship should end you will not be able to do so , Ask the cheater to respect your wishes as a friend . If he/she is a true friend he/she will understand ,and respect your wishes .
835429
Ask yourself if you can live with that person, can you ever trust them again? Can you forgive them? Otherwise you will live a life of always wondering, and checking in on that person. Make sure you are not just avoiding the obvious- to dodge the pain now. It may hurt to let go now, but later you will be grateful, when you meet the right person who wouldn't cheat on you.
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love with friend or having an affair is good only if u r faithful and honest to each other. \none should love at least once in life, as pure love makes a person a good human being and a loving soul