? For the guys...why when you are in a committed relationship do you feel the need to have a "secret" profile
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I don't.  A committed relationship means just that.  Seems like this guy isn't committed, and he lied to you about it.  Wow, what a catch...
830508
Why are you asking this in singles and dating?
284209
1) standard commitment phobia?\n2) your "list" of desirable traits is too long or inflexible?\n3) you're just using this as a trick to get e-mails from women who'd swoon over a guy looking for a soulmate?\n4) you've met several would-be soulmates already, but were too absorbed in yourself to notice?\n5) you're a great guy, and you just have to keep looking, it will hit you when you least expect it?\n\nladies... #5 - and e-mail this poor man.
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I agree that it's when you've agreed to be exclusive.  I understand though why girls might get upset with you.  No one wants to feel like they are in a competition and they might feel that if you're seeing other girls at the same time they are not getting your full attention.
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not necessarily, but I would not tell any of my secrets to anyone who I do not know really well. You need to trust him first, know him and feel comfortable to talk about it....
259350
Why so secretive?  If you like him and he likes you, what's the problem
997665
if you met him in a chat and talk regular. maybe texing and as you say haveing sex by calling. the jelousy you probabily feel is a insecure feeling because you know you met him on line. and you know how easy it is for a guy to get this pleasure in a chat this way. so (cyber sex) for both sexies is easy. and now i guess that you both meet on line you feel he is talking with other women why he is talking to you. what ever happens youll never stop him from doing this why hes not with you because if hes going to do it he will. so i suggest 1 thing. make up an i.d. for you and him to talk in private itll make you feel better because you know he will not be talking with any one else on this id. and the same goes for you to. but yes the feeling of jelousy is normal.
685659
Why start you relationship off lying...
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If you're in a trusting relationship, it all depends on expectations.  Obviously, he should respect you enough not to cheat, but if you let him know that you are uncomfortable with his actions, he should care enough about you to at least tone it down.  It's natural to admire people of the opposite (or same, if you swing that way) gender, but it's not okay to be overly gawking if you are in a commited relationship.  I always try to join in on the action by agreeing with him.  Is it enough to know at the end of the day that he's going home with you?
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If you feel like you need to keep it a secret from  him, then yes it is wrong.  If you do it for more than just casual companionship, then it is cheating even if its not in a physical sense.
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Actually I did something like this once for a friend of mine. She was dating this guy and she wasn't really sure how sincere he was. So, I put up a personal ad incognito of course and snagged him. It was fun to play an alter ego of mine! She got what she wanted and I got to have some fun.
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Hmmmm...interesting screen name.  Insecure perhaps.  Have more confidence Nasty Girl.  Men DIG confidence.  No need to snoop when you know you are TOGETHER!  I am sure you are wondeerful...show it :)
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Keep them to yourself.  Never share personal info. out of a sense of obligation or turnabout.  They like you for who you are and what they already know about you.  You won't win them over any more than you already have by divulging info that can compromise you.  Sensitive info doesn't put you further in the circle and can sometimes backfire.  Trust your girls to watch your back, but you watch your own first.
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Unfortunately...yes.  Somethings are better left undisturbed and kept private.  Granted doing so might tear things a part but in situations like unto that letting out the secret would probably have done the same anyway.  In reality everyone has secrets.  You can only hope that you can develop a deep enough relationship with your spouse to where the content of them matters less then the keeping and thereby renders secrets moot.
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Yea I think that they should be real with you. I dont understand and this goes for both girls and guys...whats the point in pretending who you are. Its better to be yourself. If your a B*i*t*c*h or an A Hole then just be real about it no need to pretend the truth ALWAYS COMES OUT!
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Does it really matter? If you are already there then its probably working out for ya. As a guy answering this, if you are going to get that personal with someone then its not going to matter now will it?
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first of all it is hard, but what is harder is if you find the one you love does have personal profiles running! so think about that before you start digging.  I had a boyfriend that I too was wondering if he was running personals on line and so what I did was went to some different single sites and started searching them out.  most sites give you the chance to limit your search to age location smoking/non  I put in all his info and started searching.  I bet I found him at least five times.  I am no hacker and this takes time and yes it gets old. but If you have the feeling someone is running a personal and leaving you in the dark about it, chances are your right.  happy trails