are little lies in a relationship okay?
451504
Relationships are based upon honesty and trust. I could not lie to my husband about anything even when i know that it is going to get me in trouble, the reason is is because I love him and he deserves to know what is going on and to lie to him is to dishonor him. \n\nShe is probably embarrassed about her habit, but she needs to realize that it is not okay to lie to you about it. It is not very honorable to lie to someone and I can understand where you would not trust her.  You probably almost feel like she is hiding something. \n\nI would suggest having a long hearted but gentle and calm talk with her and maybe counseling may be necessary as well
1115655
you make him stop lying to you by leaving him.... if you arent there anymore he cant lie to you. If you think staying around will fix it you are wrong. If he compulsively lies to you he will continue to.
445759
There really no such thing as little white lies, a lie is a lie no matter what way you look at it. He is becoming good at lying. You thinking its a little white lie, is helping cover up his actions. The people he is hanging out with could be other women, since he lies about it anyway. If you are loosing your trust in him from his lies, than how can you trust the marriage. Let him know that you love him and let him know that he needs to come clean with you or your going to separate, not divorce. But, being separated from him may make him realize what he has at home. It will also improve your feelings for him. Right now its confusing, please don't keep making excuses for him. Cause those lies will become an everyday thing for him.
357468
no. bad idea dude. restraining order and relationships are a disaster. let her go. \n\n\nSeriously, if there is a restraining order on you by her.  Even if she comes to you... you can get in some MAJOR trouble if caught.  Even if it's her lie verses your truth, the courts will normally go to her side since she's the one who filed the restraining order to begin with.
445998
Tough! You had the child, you have responsibilities! If you new girlfriend isn't interested in your children then she isn't worth bothering about.  What happens in the future if you two were to settle, marry, have kids? Drop it in the conversation casually - yeah, this is my second kid? Stop the lies before they get too bad. If you are lying to your girlfriend by not telling her the truth about yourself, she can't love you for yourself, just a fake image you created.
412961
You don't. Everyone lies. Some peolpe lie to protect the ones they love others lie to protect hemselves. And then there are the ones who lie for no reason at all. These are the worst type of liars. Unneccesary lyin gis uncalled for and you should talk to him about this. Honestly though I don't think it is something that will change so you should look fo ra more honest relationship.
393762
The consequences of lying have to exceed the benefits of lying.  She lies to avoid consequences or make herself appear better or more interesting than she actually is.  \nWhen caught in a lie she needs to face the person she lied to, own up to the lie, and promise not to lie to them any more.  Be persistent and consistent...habits die hard.
966090
It's impossible to never lie.  The idea that total honesty makes you a good person is false.  If your best freind is dating someone that they are extremely happy with, and this friend asks if you agree that their new love is attractive, what do you say if the answer is "no"?  You lie!  Your friend isn't taking a survey, they're just looking for affirmation of their happiness.  If we were all made with built-in lie detectors we would all hate each other.  Being a good person isn't about telling the truth all the time.
1128264
move on if she lies she is not so much inlove with you as she says. a relationship is based on trust and honesty
74592
yes - less then a year - and you could lie and say you never consimated the relationship - if the other party agrees
326913
If you are talking about little "white lies" that smooth over situations or make people feel good, with no harm done, then I see nothing wrong with a little untruth on occasion. \n\nFor example: My mother-in-law once dyed her hair a deep burgundy color and it looked awful at first, until it lightened, but when she looked at me with anxious eyes and said, "What do you think," I never missed a beat. "It's amazing! Whatever made you decide to do it? It really does things to you!" I wasn't exactly lying. SHE chose to interpret it as a positive reaction. \n\nHowever, the person who told me that the new skirt I had just bought made my butt look two axe handles wide, was being unnecessarily truthful, in my opinion!
1019107
No,\n\nI believe that when you lie to someone your only lying to yourself and you loose respect from others and eventually loose self respect.\nLying is almost as addictive as smoking...\nBeing honest with others will mean that your honest with yourself.
204062
Love and Respect go hand and hand. Wouldn't you feel disrespected if you found that your partner lied to you?
226413
Lying is not just not a guy problem as I know many women that lie as well. I personally do not get why anyone has to lie, I am one of those people that will tell you the truth even if it gets me in trouble. I hate liars, I would rather live with a thief than a liar. The relationship that I am in now, lying is a big problem and I am ready to throw it all away because it is hard to regain the trust back that was lost because of lying.
558252
well there really is no way to really tell other than a lie detector...but women's intuition is usually right...at least that has been my experience...besides if you think he is lying to you about something serious you probably shouldnt be with him
704166
They don't all lie.  There are lots of guys who are honest.  \n\nJust me, but I figure if it's a little thing, then there's no point in lying about it unless the liar is looking for control, amusement, self-aggrandizement, or is just a compulsive liar.  If it's any of those things, how does anyone possibly trust him?  Without trust what kind of real relationship can you have?  Not much of one, for sure.\n\nIf it's a big thing he's lying about, the fact that it's a big thing is all the more reason to tell the truth!\n\nThe issue is much deeper than lying and it's not something you can fix.\n\nThere ARE guys out there who are honest.  As long as women continue to date liars, they'll continue to lie.
1130815
If there was absolute proof he was lying, i would confront him about it.... If there is one thing in a relationship I cannot stand is someone who is not honest...  No one deserves to be lied to.