Can anyone tell me how are who I can talk to or contact when my husband is being mistreated in the military?
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I suggest you try the the Ft Drum Inspector General.  Bulding P-10, 720 (room A2-75)  (315) 772-5492
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Thank you for your kind heart and sensitive mind.  I have a son in Afghanistan, but he has plenty of correspondence.  I am going to list several sites below for soldiers with whom you might wish to correspond.\nThanks again.
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First of all, congratulations to your husband for choosing to serve his country by enlisting in the Army.  He chose to do a tough job that is certainly needed and I hope that you and your family support him in this decision.\n\nYes, there is a chance that he will be deployed somewhere during his time in the Army.  Some get deployed to Afghanistan, some to Iraq, some even get deployed to Hawaii; soldiers go everywhere around the world.\n\nIt sounds like he is in a career field that is considered to be a  "non-combatant".  That means while working he would not normally carry a firearm but would be one of the people to treat those that were injured or wounded.  This is a respected position in the Army.\n\nI wish both of you the best as you enter the Army family.  Please take a look at the Army website, paying particular attention to the posts and installations that he may be stationed.  At the bottom of the Army home page there is a link called "A to Z".  From here you can find the sites to all of the forts.\n\nGood Luck!
414186
Go out and make friends with other navy wives. Join their clubs and ask them the same question as this one and see how they cope when their husband are overseas
744894
When someone leaves on a deployment it's like you hit a brick wall.  They keep moving forward and you can't go along for the ride.  You have no idea what he's dealing with, and you can't relate when he tells you about his day.  You just have to listen, but chances are you won't understand.  You'll be worried sick while he's gone and stupid things will make you break down in tears.  Don't kid yourself.  Being over there and knowing your job is a lot different than being the one that sits at home waiting by the phone...Hoping that the conversation with him you had the other day wasn't indeed the last one you'll ever have with him.
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yes try the Army Of Salute its an associan which helps people with all kinds of problems.. i hope it works out
301642
You say you are a Christian and so am I... one of the symptoms of PTSD is victimizing others. I believe this is what he is doing. I suggest that you insist on two things - first, that he get out of the military the next chance he gets, and two that you go to counseling - TOGETHER. God does not allow for divorce in very many cases... adultery is one of them - if he gets physically abusive, that would also be an exception. If you are interested in saving your marriage, which you seem to be, then I suggest you try this. Your husband is going through something that you cannot understand, but he is dealing with it very poorly. So the solution is for you to understand, for him to get help, and for you to get help healing your heart. You have to get back on the same page. By the way, if you don't get help and the situation escalates, you could be at risk for PTSD, too. Best of luck and God Bless.
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My wife is deployed. It' a little different for a husband most of the support groups in my area say they are for wifes. It's lonely not to maention we have 2 small girls so It's also scary knowing that I am all they have for now. I just write or E-mail daily and count the weeks till Oct. when she gets home.
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Get His Address And Mail Him A Letter Everyday.\nYou Tell Him You Miss Him.\nYou Keep Him Informed About Whats Going On In Your World.\nNothing Means More To A Military Man Than A Letter At Mailcall
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Call the Veterans Administration and find out what programs they have available for helping vets who are struggling and write that information down.\n\nTell your brother that you love and are concerned about him. Give him the information that you have obtained from the VA. Encourage him to contact them for help. Tell him that you will do whatever you can for him, if he needs help. \n\nYou can put it in writing if you have difficulty talking to him. Meet with him and give him your note and ask him to let you know if he wants to talk.
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Contact your state representative office, senator,i have found that they will get involved with these kinds of matters. While in the service we knew if we had a problem that was being ignored we would go to our state representative, all the sudden the problem got more attention than those trying to hide it or ignore it,so problem got fixed, took a while. it is sad though that army is ignoring this problem, this is not the kind of attention they need and the PFC needs to spend some time in military prison for his behavior.
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deployments are hard...i'm going through my first right now.  We're 8 months in....and it's going really smoothly besides the loneliness factor.  I'm by no means a professional at this, i'll just give you some tips that have helped my husband and I through so far.  \n\nFirst off...i try to send him something twice a week.  Whether it's a package with beef jerky and books and games, or just a card with some pictures in it....it keeps him going. He loves getting the mail, and it gives him something to look forward to.  \n\nUnless he's a big writer, don't expect too many letters.  There honestly isn't that much to say about what's going on over there. Either he can't tell you...or he doesn't want to.  Leave it at that.  Don't question him.  It's hard.  \n\nThis first deployment will make or break your marriage.  You need to be strong and supportive of everything he does.  Just remind him how much you love him, and miss him, and how proud you are of what he's doing.  Being a military wife is the hardest job in the military, because you're the home base and the shoulder to lean on.  Again, just be strong.  \n\nIf you leave on or near base, there are FRG's you can get involved with.  That's a family readiness group in case you didn't know.  They personally didn't help me much, but they'll keep you up to date on deployments and things happening around base that you might be interested in.  \n\nMAKE SURE you have power of attorney.  It's next to impossible to do anything without it.  3 words...power of attorney.  \n\nNow what to expect...expect sleepless nights.....alot of worrying about where he is, what he's doing, when he might get the chance to call again.  There are blackouts CONSTANTLY, sometimes my husband can't call for a week.  Again, if you live on or near a base, from my personal experience, you're just another military wife....they aren't that sympathetic.  \n\nIf you have any questions, or just feel like you need someone to talk to....feel free to contact me, i don't know much, but i'm going through the same thing you are.  Good luck, and god bless....you'll do fine!!!
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Your best bet is to call local law enforcement. If he his truly AWOL then he will be picked up and brought to jail. He will wait for extradition to the post to which he is assigned. As far as the abuse I would do the same thing. After the Army gets him they can try him for abuse or let the civilian courts take care of that.\nEither way contact local law enforcement.
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I'll pray for you, and your sanity, and your loneliness at your time of need.  There is no advice I can offer that will ever make you feel better about not having your wonderful husband by your side and in your arms each night, so I pray you have enough to carry you until you are able to be with him again.\n\nSince everyone so far has expressed support for you and him, how about your own personal fan club?.. For the both of you, we could all send a nice letter every now and then showing our prayers and thoughts are with you both, of course that would concern giving out your e-mail address, so I understand if you wouldn't want to.
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Do you have an FRG Leader you can ask?  If not, I sent my son the following and he loved it.\nBaby wipes, poptarts, canned spaghetti(with poptop lid), Vienna sausages, crackers, sunflower seeds, puzzle books, sun screen (very high SPF), more baby wipes (can't have too many of those) and LOTS of love letters from you.  Your letters mean the world to him right now.  It is hard having him so far from home, but stay true and keep writing to him and letting him know you will be there for him.  My prayers are with you both and my hat is off to the both of you.  Being a soldier is hard, but so is being the woman behind the man.  You get the bad times too, but none of the recognition
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No, it certainly isn't enough to keep a relationship going. You have to have lots of patience and be able to communicate. Communicating certainly is tough right now and that's where the patience comes in. (Patience is also absolutely necessary when it comes to stubborn people as well!) Plus everything going on around us is bringing a lot of confusing feelings into play right now. That's not helping the situation and deployment just complicates matters. You guys are the only ones who will know if you can get through these tough times, but he mostly needs your support right now. He's physically in a world far far away from the life he's used to... and mentally, who knows where?
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There are many places to go.  One website i suggest is http://www.sarahsmiley.com/military_links.htm#Support_Links  This place helped my friend when her husband went away.  Good Luck and God bless your wife and your family.