How to improve your sex life after a long relationship?
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Try dressing up in some lingerie, not to go to bed, but to go out.  Get a nice garter belt, bra and some really nice stockings, and wear them out with a nice skirt or dress.  They make feel very sexy, and it usually shows.  Go out on a date again all dressed up.  Dinner drinks whatever, just get out, have i good time, and break the boredom.
1033432
Please hear me out!\nGET OVER IT! \nPlus dump the guy you are with now while you are "getting over it".  It was not fair of you to drag him into a relationship knowing full well you got it bad for the last one.\nBUT FIRST...\nIs it the actual guy you are into or the sex you used to have?\nLemme find out your d*#k whipped.\nIf this is the case please remember that your current sex life is what you as a woman make it.\nIf you are not giving the relationship your all that will definitely play out in the bedroom.\nKisses!
667939
Don't struggle too much in taking the sex life to a higher level. Act naturally and you and your guy will grow together, experimenting and learning and understanding each other. There are no laid down shortcuts to "put you over the edge".
473280
Stay. There is sooo much you can do to improve sex. Maybe just talk to him, give him gentle hints. Maybe add some toys or videos. Maybe you both can learn alternate ways to please each other. Go on line, maybe Dr. Ruth has a website that can be helpful.
227108
Well, depending on what parts of the relationship you would like to spice up, all call for different answers. Try new things that you never thought you would.  Surprise really helps to spice things up.  Try just doing something spontaneous. Heres a good one.  Make a little treasure hunt for them.  Put clues around the house or where ever you would like, you can even use a map and have it end  with you as the treasure.  Its just something different. Make it kind of sexy treasure hunt to really get them going. Hope this helps alittle bit.
407139
Take the time to do the things you enjoy that you maybe didn't get a chance to do before.  Now you only have yourself to consider. Date.  Have fun.  Go out with your friends.  There is life after couplehood, and even another love.  With what you've learned from this relationship, probably a better one!
1002375
First, you need to explain to him what he does and how it makes you feel.Honesty and communication are the most important part of any realtionship.Next, the bedroom.Spontaneity and variety.Always mix things up.Never plan it.Try different things and if your open to it, toys.Life is short and a marriage is very important.I think keeping it fun will keep you both interested and actually enhance your sex life.BUT, you need to communicate there too.Talk to him and see what he likes, what he dosent, and where he draws a line.Maybe find out what his fantasies are(doable ones).This will definitely keep your sex life interesting.For toys, try online ordering(very discreet) or if you want to go look, try Spencers or Priscillas.There are many adult stores  that have womens interests in mind too.Have fun and congrats on your preganancy.
481208
practice.  try things for yourself.  your body may have changed over the years.  have your partner do different things or do them yourself.  don't give up.
827448
This makes me laugh... lol.\nOkay, sex doesn't last for a few mintues I'll tell you that.\nYou can make it last a long time... enjoy it.\nWhat is normal? I don't think there is a standing time for normality... just do it till both of you well.. how do I put it? Feel satisfied.\nSex is something that is for the both of you remember that.\nHow many times should you start over? Depends on you and your partner. Does she want to do it again? Can you still keep on going? Ask yourself and your partner these questions.\nHope this helps. ^_^
399976
I am 71... and I have loved one person througout my married life for 48 years... (now through death, am single again) and I can tell you that over those 48 years, sex had started out as the "seed" of the loving relationship, but it developed into the "fruit" of the relationship... and the blending of our two personalities and souls into a working relationship became more important than just the sex.  The first 7 years of a relationship are sexually based... Called the "Limerick Stage of Love" (spelling may be wrong...) then that starts to evolve into a deeper more lasting relationship, and this is what builds over the years into a solid foundation that carries you both through the bad, difficult and trying times together.  You each have to decide what is important to you and based upon your decisions, you will then know what is best for you both... and can work things out for each partner's growth and benefit. Hope this helps... Blessings!  \nPS... With the waning of this strong bond of sexual love in those first 7 years... people usually make the mistake that they are "falling out of love" and it is time for a divorce.  They do not follow thru and endure... and have faith that something more wonderful will develop... most loving relationships today are totally sexually based... and as the loss of interest in sex wanes... so goes the relationship... Not the best bases for a 50 year lasting relationship... don't you think???
290146
You have to have good communication, intimacy and genuine love/admiration for each other. And don't mess up like cheat and lie to one another. You also should make plenty of time to do activities you both enjoy together. Don't forget to have sex regularly even if you are tired or bored. If you don't use it you lose it.
193253
Hopefully, it's because you've both moved on from that stage of your relationship, and have begun a more advanced understandaing of one another, far more intimate than sex, in which you truly understand how the other thinks, and you can hold a decent conversation. I always found that the sexual aspect of a relationship detracted from that.\n\nSo, to answer you question simply: Why has your sex life died? So that you can become closer, and true man and wife.
379676
Use your hands and your mouth to give your partner pleasure. Lots of hugs. Massage. If you don't want penetration, try watching each other m**turbate. Libido is in your head. Eat properly, cut out junk. Lots of soy products. No sugar or sodas. Cut out wheat. Reduce salt and meat. Get fit. Read sexy books, watch sexy movies. Have fun.
1124776
Start of by asking your significant other to go out to dinner with you. Wear something that you know they find sexy on you. At dinner keep things positive and sexy! Talk about the things you did with each other when you first got together. After dinner, at each stop light or stop sign, kiss and touch each other, once home, remove each others clothes then start doing some of those things you talked about at dinner!\nOther things you could do is fantasy role playing, doctor and nurse, cop and hooker, naughty school girl and the principal.\nUse your imagination and think sexy thoughts about each other.\nSend each other dirty e-mails!\nI'm sure this will help you get that lust back.    Good luck
75834
My husband and I have been together for 8 years now.  I think the sex between us has just gotten better and better.  We do just about anything ot keep the sex alive that you can think of.  We use toys, and look at toy catalogs and stores together.  We watch adult movies.  But I think what keeps it good is the fact that we both know we can talk to each other about any of it.
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it's probably very normal at the beginning of a relationship, but I think after a time you need to do other things.  Every relationship needs stimulation, you have to have things to talk about, outings and events, activites outside of the bedroom to build a foundation for a varied and interesting relationship because sooner or later the sex will become less and less and then what are you left with?
1073042
relax, take it slow, respect each other's nervousness, be gentle, and just enjoy each other without worrying about the act, it will happen when you allow yourselves to realize that what you waited for was well worth the wait.  It was for us and we are still married 34 years later.  Oh, I brought a deck of cards along, and we played a bit at one point to break the tension.  It actually helped, and it was a very satisfying night.