I am 40, used to have sex w/M neve FM, but I married , after 10 years & 2 kids, still want men, what to do ?
445857
Well Zain boy, it seems you have married to hide your sexual reality. You probably done that to go with the flow of your society. \n\nIn my opinion, you have chosen to conceal your needs not to be outed. Therefore you should honor your commitment. \n\nThink about your wife and kids. What fault is it of theirs that you should cheat on them simply to satisfy your desire? How would you feel if your wife cheated on you?\n\nBe a man and honor your marriage and family.
562876
After reading your question and additional details, I wondered whether your wife is a person who may, at some time in her life, have heard negative comments that caused her to develop insecure feelings about relationships with men.  For example what if she heard her mother say (in a moment of despair) that men want women only for sex.  And that if you give men sex, they'll be nice to you, but if you don't then they won't have an ounce of interest in you.  I think that as a result, she may, later in life, in her search for a good husband, have tested those words.  You may have had sex before marriage, but you also may very well be the only person she ever met who, at times, showed her love and affection without sex being involved. This probably happened without planning on your part.  You just loved her so much, that you found that being with her was great even if you didn't have sex on some of those occasions. As a result, your actions may have (in her mind) disproved the negatives she heard, and that may have caused her to look on you as someone with the qualities of an ideal husband.  After a couple of years of marriage, it's possible that your relationship has become one where (not by plan, but by habit) you show her the most loving and affectionate attention right around the time when you usually have sex--such as at bedtime.  Hey, this can happen very easily.  But, such an innocent turn of events, could be what triggered your wife's old insecurities, and caused her to want to re-test those negatives she heard many years ago.  If so, this should pass soon as you continue to show your love for her.
876637
You are actually in a position to experience what every divorced man at 40 wish he could. My advice, don't take it too slow. But dont be the proverbial bull in a china cabinet either. Stock up on vitamin K. Its good for the protein drain you are about to experience. Cialis is only a dr. appt away! Go for it buddy, and if you can, have a kid. This time you won't be as strapped for cash as before. Enjoy your youth while you can. Eventhough, we now live longer, the one's here, don't care!
1160804
My sex drive has declined slightly over the years (I'm almost 52).  I've been married to the same incredibly beautiful woman for 31 years and we still go at it like teenagers.  No, strike that, no teenager ever had sex as good as we have.\n\nI have to say that the reason is probably looking at you in the mirror every morning.  From talking to my friends, the reason most men lost interest is because their women lost interest.  Keep it up and don't be afraid to experiment.  A recent experiment with my wife and I has had unbelievable benefits.
421963
I had that problem before and some one told me that it is because there is something inside of me that makes me to mature for my age. I act older than what I am so therefore i attracted older men. I don't know what to tell you as far as how to change it but i hope you find happiness.
61250
orgasm..thats the key..evidently you have the wrong mate ..if your not getting anything out of it,then dont do it...if your a woman leave them little boys alone and if your a man get an older woman thats efficeint...lol
238702
Oh, God, yes, I am 41 and totally gone over a 53 year old.  His experience is what I need most.  After the immature last one the older man is so hot!
647710
Its high time. You are 28 and i am sure your husband would be in 30's. In males as the age increases the quality of sperm decreases. This might sound funny but that's true. I dont mean if you wait for next 5 years u'll have problems or your kid will have any major problems but try to understand as the age passes by the quality decreases. My personal suggestion is wait no more start planning for a chubby kid with your hubby. According to me its high time. Best of luck.
897415
Sex=Make love @ 25 after I was married.
406824
When I was married with one child and a Home Daycare (18hr a day with 32 children throughout the day, 3 employees) I kept my roles in order. First I was His wife;a mother and a Business woman.I kept making love to him on my mind throughout the day.So, when he get home I was always HOT for him.Sometime women put the mother thing first, that's not so. Keep your sex life on your mind and your mind on your Husband everything else will get in line.You're going to fill real good ,try it.
552831
do what makes you happy and fulfilled, you don't have to please anyone else or society anymore.  I am 39, never married & no kids and I prefer that over ever being divorced and putting kids through hell because of my own not so good choices.  I desire to be married someday, just not to the wrong one.  It's cool to be unique and different anyway.  Follow the road less traveled!!  & your heart!!
838073
Men are often depicted as shallow and only interested in sex.  I am male in my mid-30's.  Men want to have fun.  Fun can be great sex, travel, a good hobby... What we want is a woman who will accept us, not try to change us (too much), and try to have fun WITH us.  It's not a matter of the man's age.  It's a matter of the relationship.  Over time a relationship has to become comfortable and enjoyable.  He has to be comfortable and happy with her, and she has to be comfortable and happy with him.  However, being comforable does not mean predictable. There has to be a chance that your mate will suprise you (AKA romance).\n\nI've been married for nearly 16 years.  We have had some bad times, and we have both changed mentally and physically.  We accept eachother as we are, we make an effort have fun together, and we try to stay out of any ruts! That's the only way it can work in the long term. Age doesn't change anything if you build the right relationship. Men are still PIGS, but in a good relationship they keep their perverted minds to themselves (unless they know for sure their thoughts won't offend their mate).
307014
ok hun kinda know where you are coming from but need a little more info. First of all men and women hit their sexual peaks at diferent times in life so if there is an age difference that could be a factor. another thing is lifestyle changes new job or later hours. another thing to consider is the baby, how old? most men go through a stage that they feel the baby is taking all the time from them and begin to feel deprived so they withdraw themselves. and a final thought is that you are in a rut it is common in most relationships, have you been together for a long time? It is a very good possibility that he is just comfortable in the relationship and is just not as passionate as before... It is not that there is no attraction between the two of you because if i had to guess when you do have sex it is GREAT, right? I have been married for 8 years there is a 4 year age difference between the two of us and I have been in your shoes. I thought hubby was cheating and he didn't love me and so on and so forth. Almost lost him over my insecurities ao don't jump to conclusions talk to him about it and I hope I helped a little. WISHING YOU LOTS OF GREAT SEX.
199870
its not 2 late im in my forties as well and very good on the eyes but as i get older i seem to want to be with someone who wants to live their life as the days go on.  i have been married 2x as well and i think that was 2x 2 many so i am just looking for someone to be with with no committment envolved.  i think that if i get that that would make me happy.  im not saying that when i find that person, that i wont be faithful, i will be that 4 sure.  but the thought of marriage again just turns my stomach.  i am getting older and i want to experience life with someone who wants to have fun and do things that we didnt do when we were younger.  so dont worry he is out there 4 u trust me.  he might b me haha holla back if you would like to know more.
102602
well,when first married it seems like two,three times a day. but,after a year the male feels more comfortable and feels no threats.Then it usually is three to four times a week. Then after children ,which scares the hell out of the male maybe twice a week. It could be more if he knows you have a good contraceptive. After 20 years once or twice a week. After the children are out of the house the male rejuvenates and you may have sex three to four times a week again. After all that i want to say really , it all depends on the couple.But, remember do'nt roll to your side and get upset when he does't try to have sex. Be the better lover and initiate it yourself. Trust me,it will be better because it was different and strange for you to do this and that makes a man ''WILD'' good luck.
921307
There's nothing wrong with you at all. Lots of women complain about less sex drive after having kids and being settled.\n\nI suggest that you make your husband horny for you. I'm guessing that sex has become somewhat of a routine for both of you. I think it will turn you on when you see that he's hot for you and can't wait till he's with you. Write him a dirty message. Rent some porn. You have to make sure that you really, really want to have sex, then it'll be easier getting an orgasm. I don't know what kind of stuff you're up for. Dirty talk is always good. Have your husband tell you how bad he wants you. \n\nBy the way, your clitoris can NOT be overstimulized by a vibrator. The nerve endings there will be intact unless you have some disease or accident that affects your nervous system.
492842
Haha. Someone discovered something new. Hey man, your wife is misinformed. And you, obviously have not thoroughly explored your body...till now. We all have played with ourselves. Though, some slightly more than others. There are lots of ways for a guy to have intense orgasms. Anyway, the media and the gay community is always perpetrating that a man who dresses well, who's too good looking and goes to the gym is gay. And that such men should stop pretending and come out. This hype causes these type of men to question themselves with questions like "I like it when I/my gf/my wife plays with my anus so am I gay?" or "I do envy other males with better physique than mine so am I gay?"...etc. This is overblown. And it doubles as a strategy to confuse and turn the fashion conscious, good looking, gym going men, gay. Yes it works. There men who are "recruited" gays. Truth is there's always a reason a man becomes gay. No one is born gay. Anyway the percentage of hetero men is higher than our homo counterparts. Whatever it is, the numerous other reasons n questions that you have, can only be answered by yourself. Some men do experience this phase of self questioning. Some don't. If you like men, lust after men, wanna have sex with men, wanna develop relationships with men or marry or live together. Then you are gay. If you don't, then you're not. Having questions doesn't make you gay. Looking at other guys doesn't make you gay. The decisions and choices do. Simple.\n\nWell now that you've added the details, its certainly more complicated. ok so you've probably had a sort of a gay lifestyle back then. But think of the reality, which is now. Are you happy with your wife and marriage? What about children? do you have children? Do you love your wife? why did you marry her in the first place? think of all the moments that both of you shared. If its all good. Then ending the marriage would destroy her and your children (if you have any). Not ending the marriage, will mean that you're not being honest to your wife and yourself. Either way someone will get hut. It boils down to you. Yes, its really difficult. Think about it and weigh the situations. You could talk to your wife about the problem, maybe with a counsellor too. I wish you good luck.