How do I get past the sadness?
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I just answered your other question and I felt the need to answer this one too! Girl you are in a very emotional state right now, you need to cut all ties to this other man, this is why you are being so hard on yourself! You need to FOCUS! Stick to the topic at hand and that is that of your marriage! You need to start talking more to your husband and let him know you feel no emotional support from him and let him know how you are feeling (if you haven't already)!\n\nThere are alot of people that both of you have involved involuntarily, they did not ask to be in the situation, you need to be the adult here and finish what you started right? Do what YOU KNOW is right not what every one tells you too! I hope you do get some answers here that will help in your decision making, but ultimately the decision is yours to make. Good Luck to you!
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write down how u feel on a blank white paper..be clear of how you are feeling. when u do this, u'll know what's really bothering you.\nWrite down what makes you sad, and what makes you happy, and then focus on the one's that make u happy. most of the time, its the past that's holding one back. always remember its your present that will determine you're future, and you have to make sure being alone does not come as something that is bad...lots of things can be achieve even as you are alone, and trust me..as you write down what makes you happy, u'll realize life is worth the while\na heart can be broken, but not your dreams. rediscover it
577653
the best way to deal with the grief is to allow yourself plenty of time to heal.  There's no easy way to make it stop hurting, but just take one day at a time, remember how great you are and that you deserve better.  In time things will get better.  Good luck!
788116
Sadness is a very real emotion, and there is much in our lives to feel sad about. If it is something we can do nothing about, it is best to let it go and concentrate on the positive aspects of our lives.
458452
Look through old photo albums! That always cheers me up. Also, go somewhere with lots of orange like a park with lots of flowers. Orange is proven to improve mood. Go for a long walk. That will clear your mind or whatever your sad about. Hope you feel better.
925322
you need to sped more time with some of ur friends .. just hang out with them or talk to them\nand please dont listen to those love songs... they will make u feel down\ndo some activity... sports always help
744227
i recently went through something similar to this myself. i know you probally feel horribly depressed right now, and thats because you're heartbroken. i can tell you that eventually the pain does go away...take some time to grieve and then try to forget about him. someone once gave me a piece of advise that really helped me:\n\nbeing heart broken is like being in the dark.... and everytime you think your getting close to the light switch you just stub your toes. and you have to start all over again. but there is a light switch there. it might take a little bit to find it. but one day you will get there......... it might take awhile to get over this guy... but always remember... through all those stubed toes there is a lightswitch
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Identifying the problem is the first step towards solving it. You're on your way. The key to enjoying life is deciding to. Spend time every night reviewing and appreciating all that is good about your life. Make a list if it helps. Review that list when you're feeling down. Then, start small. Pick something you'd really like to do and do it. It can be as small as striking up a conversation with a stranger or as big as sky diving. Remember you're always in control of the choices you make. Good Luck!
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The best ways to rid yourself of sadness and loneliness:\n\nJoin clubs any hobby you are interested in (chess club, astronomy club, bridge club, womens club etc) you will make all kinds of friends.\n\nGet out of the HOUSE often. You need contact with people, any people (like at the store, library, swim center etc)\n\nGet lots of exercize, it promotes serotonin for good feelings (go swim at a pool, jazzercise, biking, hiking, walks, tae bo etc).\n\nEat healthy, very important to nourish the mind so you wont be depressed (lots of fruit and veggies and lean meat) Also take supplements (vitamins and minerals and herbs) Talk to someone at a herb shop or health food store. They have amazing stuff.\n\nRead Books (fiction for pleasure and non0fiction to learn about health, wellness, hobby, and more)\n\nGet involved (community service, find something you can help with) My best days were spent helping others. Very important for your well-being.\n\nMake contact with family and friends (make the effort to visit them, talk on phone and email them asap) See your child more often you are her mother and she needs you.\n\nHere is an important book I want you to read. It can change your life for the better.\nThe Luck Factor by Dr. Richard Weisman (amazon)\nTells you the steps to make your life better, more luck in every aspect of living, even how to pick a mate. This is one of the best books I have ever read. Please read it too.\n\nGood Luck & keep you chin up.
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Sadness is an emotion that generally accompany's loss. It sometimes overcomes us especially when we lose a love one or something we really like.  Sometimes we need to grieve for a while then let go of the loss and move on.  For most people this happens naturally with time. For others they may require assistance.  \n\nThe best thing for the blues is spending lots of fun times with friends.\n\nOtherwise rearrange your room. \n\nGo shoe shopping.\n\nGo to a restuarant you always wanted to with friends.  \n\nJoin the track team and chase those blues away or better yet join a choir, singing is great cure here. whatever you do just be with lots of people.
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Do whatever makes you the happiest.  Whether it be going dancing or sitting down and reading a book.  It's hard to get over but that's what friends and family are there for... to support you and help you through tough times.  Always remember tomorrows a new day.
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just try to change ur life\nur life is the main cause of ur sadness\nu feel like u miss many things like family and love or work or whatever\ntry to find who really take care of u and love u like this women\ntry to find a job \nengage ur time  try to do useful things to all and to urself
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listen to some good music... *\ngo out with friends\nGo to some quiet place and enjoy the nature *\nTake some time off from work so that u dont get depressed in first place:)\n\n* these are the things I do
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Find someone knew and get distracted.\n\nI know it sounds trite, but remember when your hampster (or other pet) would die and your parent's would buy you a new one to make you feel better? Well, it worked, didn't it?\n\nA new love will distract you from the pain while you heal. Next thing you know, you'll be over it.
64893
Just be true to yourself and you'll be fine.  If you ignore your feelings or fight your desire, THAT's when you'll be depressed.  Good luck.
820562
well RAmbo lol i'd say all you have to do is dont think about what makes you depressed....go and do something to get your mind off of it! either that or you need to start off fresh and just forget about it....try at least....depression is a horrible thing!
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Don't give in to feeling defeated. You'll find bliss in this crazy world one day. God's just seeing if you're strong enough to handle all the pain. You can do. If you keep pushing you will find that you could go father than you thought you were capable of!!!!:)