How Long does it take to get over your first love?
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Thoughts stay with us until someone keeps us company the time you think of him is when your alone and have time to think. One think about people they always want what they have not got. So stay busy it will work ever time.
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How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
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Wow, your situation sounds like mine!! My ex was older than me and he got over me way too soon. I wasn't ready to see him with his new girlfriend and i got upset. After being in a situation like yours, i think you should move on. It will be hard and the feeling of love with still be there, but i would forget him and just move on. You never know what is out there unless you go for it and forget about your past!! It sounds hard and you may not want to do it.. but seriously get over him and give yourself some time to heal before finding someone else. Don't just jump into a new relationship either. Really deal with the situation and make sure you're feelings are gone before getting with someone else!! Good luck :)
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Sweetie, every woman has gone through this before in life... at least I think so. Ive found that yeah it does take time for me to get over a person but as soon as I do and become myself again someone else comes along that is better looking and has a better personality. Dating should be an experiance that you learn from...take the things that you done and the things that the other person done and figure out what things you want in a mate. Also take the time to think about what that person could have done better and what you could have done better and try to apply it to the next relationship. For example you may have not communicated effectively in the last one....so in the next one try to communicate better. Get rid of the baggage now, dont judge the next person from the last persons mistake! Its all a learning experiance....belive me and the pain that you are going through only makes you stronger!!!! Love yourself there isnt anything wrong with you just keep going-there's something better in the future!!! I promise! Just be strong!!!!
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You can get over the pain of them hurting you,but its alot harder to get over actually loving them if it was true love!(Its been 3 years for me and i've forgave them for hurting me,but i can't stop loving them even through the other guys i've seen)
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You could start by reading the million other posts and responses on how to get over someone.  Most of them will tell you the same thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel better is time.  Forgiving is easy, just do it, forgetting however, is a different story.  You will never forget him or the good and bad times you shared, it's impossible without the assistance of a labotamy (sp*).  So forgive, take all the time necessary and do your best to keep your self respect and move on.
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There will always be a portion of me that is still attracted to my first love.  For some wierd reason, it's the purity of the feeling and it's new encounter.  It's like remembering your first kiss or a first lay.  You will remember it.  Why?!  When you first love someone, there's no bagging to bring you down.  It's all pure and new.  These days, before I can fall in love, I'm burdened by lots of factors.
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time is the only thing that can heal u,i spent 12 years with a person and then i was forced to divorce the person i loved the most ,it hurt for 2 1/2 yearsand i have rarely dated or been with another person but just a few times in 16 years,,, im over it but the scars run deep. but some people get over it in fifteen minutes
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It can be the worse pain you'll ever feel, until you realize its not going to kill you and it ends up making you stronger...its just that first love gone wrong puts you in unfamiliar emotional territory..you know its not going to stay this bad but not knowing for how long makes it seem like there is no end to the pain it causes...any broken heart hurts...but that first one...ooouch!
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When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
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ummmm heart transplant takes roughly 15 hours. \n\nnaw look I know your hurting and that's pretty normal. 3 years is a long time to spend with someone for it to fall to floor. Not all guys are like that but sadly some are. \n\nIf your out of this relationship that's good because you deserve better. take some time and know that this was none of your fault then slowly pick up whats left of your broken heart and move on. but always keep in mind those things you have learned so not to follow your past. best of luck.
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I have been broken up with my boyfirend for 9 years and i still miss him. If this was your first love you will never get over it. You never get over your first love.
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keep your head up.that's what happens when u lose your first love.but don't worry,it will be hard to get over her but you Are capable of finding someone Better.Trust me.the world hasn't ended Brother.Keep you head up.and don't call or contact her EVER!.KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!
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it takes a long while to get over someone especially if that was your first.  take your time.  cry all you want.  let it all out.  some people might tell you to try and surround yourself with friends and family.  it might cheer you up, but i think it's okay to feel down for a while.  because no matter what you'd do, you might think about your ex like what did you do, what could you have done, or why your ex left you.   i really do not think it's better to suppress or cover up your feelings by having your mind occupied with something else.  but it's better if you get rid of anything that would remind you of your ex, and if you cut off all the communication means to your ex such as phone number, e-mail, and IM.  delete them all, so you wouldn't be able to talk to him at all.  also, i don't think that finding someone new too soon is such a good idea.  rebound is only rebound.  just think that it's not the end of the world although it feels like it right now.  just take your time and rest up.
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only after you both have gotten completely over the break-up...It could take a month maybe even a year
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I really know what you mean, and it is so hard. \nRemember that this is all from within you, thus you can fix it yourself too. \nYour broken heart will be whole again in the near future. \nTo speed this up you can do a few thing, and believe me they have helped me.\nDon't see the person if you can manage it at all, in a book they say about 2 months. I had to see my ex every day, and even make small talk with him on occasion. At the time I wanted to see him but looking back it has just made the whole process agonisingly harder. \n\nDon't wallow in self pity, go out, see your friends, excercise this will really help and when you see him in passing in the future you'll look great, but overall do this for yourself, because you must love you.\n\nIt always depends on you personnally, but I reckon that if you don't see him for a good amount of time, you will realise you can get along just fine by yourself. If you do see him or hear about how he is doing, this will make things ten times harder, so don't. \n\nHe missed out on you not the other way around, and you never do no what is around the corner, \n\nYou know you will eventually forget and move on\nI hope you don't suffer too much\ngood luck
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If it's truely a first love, you will never get over it.....or at least to the point of forgetting anything ever was there.  Time will pass and eventually you'll lose the desire to or urge to be with him........but he may always be there at the back of your mind or pop up in thoughts every once in a while.  Love is something you can't just forget, it's a life experience.  But to answer your question in a more helpful way.........dating other people helps to ease what ever pain is left behind, and keeps your occupied and your focus on being happy.