Why do women think that a man can't be both nice and fun, sexy, and confident?
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It's simple. Some women just don't know what they want. They always want the fantasy, the romance, the trumpets. I'm a woman and I think it's a lot of bull. I'm with a guy who is nice and fun, sexy and confident. He may be just an ordinary guy at times (sit in front of the TV, feast on pizza) but when he wants to impress me or be romantic he surprises me!
343145
oh many. most men who are not goreous (and that is about 70% of them) tend  not to be arrogant and nasty. they can get with real women and not the barbies that the other fellas are gushing over. They are kind and real. don't sweat it sweetie. you're too hard on yourself. Only 2%  of people in the world are gorgeous and they are too busy trying to be perfect to bother with.
695120
A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
637010
you know, and this is not meant to offend any of the nice sounding people that have answered this question already, but i agree with you.  i have very few women friends because they always seem so competetive and bitchy and catty, they just make my skin crawl.  i get along better with men.  i'm quite sure there are nice women out there, i just hardly ever meet any.
76653
whatever, no women really want a "nice" guy. We say we do, but I've been with nice guys and I walk all over them. The balance is getting a guy that is mostly nice but has boundaries and will not let you walk all over them. a guy that has enough self confidence to stick up for himself and you know that he would be ok without you but he really likes being with you. Men that are like this are married. Men that are gay, I agree with one of the other comments, they are 'safe' and therefore we are more attracted to them. If they are not available you can't have them, and if you don't have them you can't lose them, and they can't hurt you.
501681
You're right, sometimes people throw the word confident around. Well, a girl wants confident, but not cocky, cocky is a turn off. We want a nice guy with a good head on his shoulders. The confident part means that we want him to be a nice guy and know that he is a nice guy.  Especially when approaching a girl. Like, we want him to know that he has something to offer us, and if given the chance he could make us happy, that is what we mean by confident. Let a girl know that you chose her because she is special, that you know she is special, and despite that, you still know that you are good enough for her. That you would be worth each other, you know.
109117
CONFIDENCE always attracts but\nfor a woman she may really want a honest man then she can trust him with her heart every thing else will come\nfor a girl she worries or wants things that don't matter like bling-bling the car he ride n maybe the size of his dicke but shi#t when she get some experience she'll learn that it takes more than the size of his package to please a woman i know guys with the package u know 12 inces and don't know how to use it so size don't matter i rather have a honest man over a rich big di#k as# who has no respect any day any day.
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Why is it the moment a guy acts like a gentleman, not an ape, some [expletive deleted] has to propose that he is gay.  As if the poor girl would not have guessed by now if that was the case!  Give us a break!\n\nA man does not show how much respect he has for a woman, how much real devotion he is capable of, by crawling all over her like a mindless animal, dominated by his passions.  And he certainly does not convey a sense of having self-control, which is, after all, important to being a man.  Self-control, I mean.  Surely you can think of plenty of reasons why that is true.\n\nSo don't fault the guy for not trying to mangle you in a tango.  He was nervous, you were nervous, but you managed to do something like dancing anyway.  And it apparently meant enough to you to spend your points here asking the same plaintiff question over and over again!\n\nGentle men are to be encouraged and rewarded.  The nicest reward of all, of course, would be the love of a woman he wants.
511240
Confidence in yourself and how you look is sexy, but arrogance is a turn off\n\nIf you think you are too pretty its a turn off - if you think you are pretty you are hot!
635038
it is almost always annoying.  men think women go out to be hit on...we dont...we go out to have fun, not be a piece of meat
696157
Women have the impression that guys are jerks and thats why they cannot trust any guy. Maybe it's because they have had bad experiences with guys. Not all guys are bad but you even know that guys think with the wrong head
687327
I don't know why so many men think that resorting to physical force or violence makes them appear more of a man.  In reality, a woman wants a man who has the ability to control himself.  Men who have to use physical force to get what they want are ultimately insecure.
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the average man is controlled by pride and ego and by being a chauvinist it boosts their self esteem. they want to be in controll of their affairs and want to be in command therefore they prefer women to either be or pretend to be less important, intelligent or able than they are.
366681
girls don't really go much on secretive guys  cause we think that they are up to no good... and too confident is when you are just way too cocky .. you laugh at your own jokes too much.. you think everyone thinks your hot .. you have a bad attitude towards people who may not be as rich or good looking as you.. confident is when you are pretty happy with the type of person you are and you are considerate of others
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Sounds like she has it together, could be a possiblity of her confidence within herself.  A person sometimes is also attracted to a person cause of how they carry themselves.  If she has doubts and worries and expresses them to men it could be a turn off.  A man likes a woman who is sure of themselves.  If she takes pride in who she is and how much she has accomblished so far then that would show to others and therefore appear more attractive.  She needs to find away to cure her depression that does not envolve men and what they may or may not think.  Take time to know yourself and find the things that make you happy and then after that you may find a man who enjoys the same things and share your joy together.
315381
This is natural human mind, according to a survey mens are 9 times sexually excited as compare to woman so that is the reason guys can't control them selves. I can't provide you with the information of that survey.
475578
many women are simply not used to being around guys that are nice and, therefore, aren't sure how to act. It does not mean that they don't find this a turn on, you simply might have made them feel flustered, which is usually a very good thing. Take a risk and ask a girl out that has caught your eye. You may be pleasantly surprised at the answer you receive. Good Luck.