what should I do to make my husband work littel harded of what ever I ask for?
452679
You can't make him. He doesn't work for you. Change your attitude and maybe he would gladly do it for you.
580227
why should You have to try to get him a steady job, He IS an adult right! Give him a month to get his affairs in order, KICK HIM TO THE CURB!
749311
one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
292778
I have had the same problem with my husband.  Here's how I've handled it...\n\n1)  Don't nag.  He'll just resent you for it.\n2)  Suggest that the two of you go out and buy the tools and other items you need to start a project.  Nothing makes a man happier than buying new tools!\n3)  If he doesn't start the project after he's bought the necessary equipment, then YOU start it (even if you have no clue what you are doing).  Once he sees you about to "mess" something up, he'll HAVE TO HELP!\n\nGood luck!
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Every now and then ask him what he wants to do. It might be getting on the floor and playing blocks or going to the beach, cooking ANYTHING! As long as you are doing it together and you show interest in what he is doing then THAT is quality time.\n(you sound like a great Dad, he is lucky to have you)
353445
check out what he needs most nowadays...buy it no matter how expensive it is because the happiness for your husband matters only on how you express your love and affection. Happy Birthday to your husband...good luck
897088
hon. I'm afraid that all the DVDs in the world wont mean a darn thing if your husband  cant make time for him self. and second if he got time to watch a DVD then he got time to go work out. I'm sorry he works long hours, trust me i know the feeling. but it is matter of wanting it.
724302
FIRST !  -Talk to hubby-if you value that relationship \nSecondly -  make arrangments for hubby to bowout during the course of the evening and check into a hotel. Don't make reservations , be spontaneous
889768
Dont forget eyeliner. Oh, and a maid's costume. Cleaning is womans work? Dress him like a female maid!\nGet some payback ladies!! :)
297771
Try to talk to him. Tell him he has to work.
478968
Does your man work?  Are you receiving child support?  What are you doing for work now?  Do you have any talents that your friends keep complimenting?\n\nIf your married and your man works... he gets a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th job and you eat rice and beans (but you eat), buy your clothes at the thrift store (but you still dress decently) and downsize the car (but you still get around).  Maybe you take in babysitting.  \n\nIf you are a professional/semi-pro, maybe you take your work home to do on the computer.  If not, maybe you have a special talent that people are always telling you that you should persue.  \n\nThere are At-Home-Mom magazines that talk about this thing as well as entreprenurial magazines that could give you some great ideas.\n\nGood luck mom!!!
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Try new things!!!  Anything outside whatever.  Do spontaneous things men like that.  Such as giving him a BJ while he's driving or watching TV.  Just drop drawers whenever.  Thats how my wife keeps me going spontaneous acts of sex that come from nowhere.  Hope this helps.
715027
Total up all your costs on paper and divide it by 2. Highlight the amount an leave it for him so that he can see what you are talking about. You are not the only person who lives in your home - you both do. You both are responsible for the household. If you feel strongly about it, let him know that if he doesn't pull his share, he can do it all on his own - as a single man.
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If you are a spirtual person try reading THe power of a Praying wife. Working on yourself is the best way to work on a relationship. Your husband is responding to you non verbal ques. Its will be hard to "fix" your relationship if you don't figure out what it is you want/need
735146
I have a hard time understanding this kind of thing...men not helping around the house. BEFORE my husband and I were married, I told him I wanted us to be EQUAL partners. That meant, we'd both work, we'd both do housework, and we'd both pay the bills and raise the kids TOGETHER. I didn't want him to HELP. I wanted him to SHARE the responsibilities. He agreed, so I married him. Yes, I do a bit more housework, but he does a bit more working outside the house, and we do share the childcare. You need to sit down and TALK to him.  It goes like this: "I want us to start sharing more of the work. I am getting exhausted doing all the housework myself. If you don't want to do your 50%, then YOU need to hire me a cleaning service. It's your choice."
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I've been married for 3 years now, and let me tell you it has been hard at times.  My husband is very very compulsive about cleaning.  I however am the opposite.  He will come home from work and nag and complain NON STOP about everything about the house. When I do the dishes, he'll come in and yell at me because I'm not drying the right way, or I'm not stacking the right way.  We really had our breaking point when at 530am he was getting ready for work, and he took down the curtains because he wanted me to get a start on cleaning and making him breakfast.  Now I work full time too, and my alarm was set for 7am.  We had the biggest fight. I finally told him I couldn't take it anymore, he was bringing me down so much that I was starting to hate my self.  Just saying that too him killed him.  He had no idea that I was so unhappy.  After getting so much out he now makes an effort to make me feel better, he makes me breakfast in bed every Saturday.  And when he gets ready to complain or nag he holds back and simply offers the advice "take it or leave it"
432826
Do more activities together so you can bond more and don't boss him around so much :P