i was wronged like 3 yrs ago. i was hurt sexually. should i move on and forget or try to deal with the pain?
437966
sometimes we cant do this alone, we need someone to talk too. if you are member of a church group or if you can go to a womens health centre, they will put you in touch with people who are specificaly trained to help people in your situation. we are not professionals here and all i can do is offer this advice and hope you take it. good luck with everything.
15020
Whatever you do don't listen to people who say- have sex with someone else- I had friends that took that advice and it wasn't good. Give it time, the heart does heal over time, and I know it's hard but you learn from the experience and move on to better things.
971805
I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
820589
WELL YES I HAVE....YOU JUST HAVE TO PUSH ALL THE HURT TO THE SIDE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SELF AND HEALING YOUR SELF...AND THAT CAN BE A LONG PROCESS....BUT YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANOTHER....I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE HEARD THAT BEFORE BUT IT IS TRUE...AND THE OTHER THING IS TO NEVER BLAME YOUR SELF FOR ANY THING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH....JUST KEEP BUSY AND TRY NOT THINK ABOUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED......FIND HOBBY'S TO GET IN TO AND JUST TRY TO STAY BUSY...EVENTUALLY IT WILL BE EASIER BY THE DAY AND BY ONE NIGHT YOU WILL BE READY TO GO BAKU OUT ON THE FIELD AND PLAY BALL ONCE AGAIN....HOPE ALL IS WELL FOR YOU....KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH.....
12411
Yes, you should apologize first...It's a sign of forgiveness and maturity to deal with relationship issues, even if it's not your fault..
360923
Honestly, time heals all wounds. It may hurt now, but you will see that this was a good thing in the long run. Please don't dwell on it. Get out there & do stuff with your friends etc & keep your mind off it.... you will wonder why you spent so much time thinking about it...
155942
If you really feel bad for what you did apologize to her..but if you are just asking because you know what you did is wrong but do not feel bad about it then do nothing because you will hurt her again, eventually.Hope this help!
902669
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
1112417
Having gone through such a traumatic event, the side effects aren't easy to handle. You may either go one way or another, to the extreme promiscuous act to having nothing be done to you sexually at all. You are probably trying to fill a void that you feel you have since your experience, and by doing these things you feel satisfied yet completely guilty that you "have done this to yourself again".\n\nIt isn't your fault, and you have nothing to feel guilty about. There are crisis and support lines that you could call in your area..that would be a great help if you need to just vent and talk. They could give you information that you may need, as well as counseling that is provided in your area. Therapy could do a world of wonders and maybe you should consider it. What is there to lose? \n\nTake care of yourself and your life, and remember you are a survivor not a victim. Make sure and put yourself first always, and if you feel something is wrong (which you clearly do) do something about it, there are plenty people who will support you out there and not judge you. So go for it! \n\nGood luck!
467410
Whatever you did happened in the past and you can do nothing to change it. I happened. If your deed involves hurting someone you love (that most likley the reason you feel bad about it) then it might be a good idea to talk with the person about it. If that person cares about you he or she might forgive you,especially since you didn't do it intentionally or without planning. \nIn any case it was something you did "without thinking" therefore you didn't plan, there was no "intent" more an "Impulse". Learn from the expereince, file it under life happens and go on.
883467
Time heals all, eventually.  \nFrom this there is still a lesson to learn.  Remember since actions speak loader than words, only your actions can repair the damage that was done by your accidental words.  Eventually you must face the reality of what was spoken.  Yes, more than likely it will bite your backside.  How you chose to respond now will mold you for the future.  Next time when you talk about someone else, remember to treat them the same way you would like to be treated in the same circumstance.  More than likely you will spend some time repairing this indiscretion, so pay your dues and recall the "golden rule."  Treat others the way you would like to be treated.  Maybe you can escape some of the trouble of this action, but it will come back to haunt you sooner or later.  Actions speak volumes loader than words.  My advice would be to stay calm, confront the problem head on, Apologize/explain yourself,  and then stay to myself quietly, hope for the best.  Good luck!
327199
well it matters how u did him wrong and if he has fully forgiven u. you should have a talk with him and let him know not to worry u r his one and only and make him understand that u wouldnt hurt him again and give him a reassuring kiss
100268
Okay, I know first hand that love hurts. No matter what happened in your last relationship if it is meant to be then it is meant to be. All you really need to do is pray to God forgiveness for ALL of your sins and mean everyword. Just ask God for his help. That is what I did and i'm married with a set of Twin boys! things WILL work out for the best. And don't degrade yourself into having sex with all of those guys. And i have something personal to tell you also. When you have sex alot with other men you can accually lose some sensation in your vagina. So i encurage you to seek in answers from the Lord our Savior!!!! Good Luck and God Bless you!!!!!!!
1175968
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)
223302
You know this happen long ago, and it hasn't change your life to this point. Yes it hurt to find that he had done such a thing to you. But he may have figures out that it was not the answer to what he thought he needed at the time and he figured out he made a major mistake, he may never do anything like that again. I would think he learned his lisson. Now you have to figure out can you forgive him?? If you can't you may want consuling to help sort though this. If you think you would be better off with out him or you can't forgive him, don't torcher each other just go your own ways. I would work by this and go on with your lifes.\nGood luck I hope you can forgive in this case... But truely forgive not to be used as a torcher devise,
1120867
Well if he really hurt you, then you should leave him alone. Find someone who is more considerate to you, and your well being.
416493
"BEEL®" U R AN IDIOT! GOD FORGIVES EVERYONE. THATS WHY HE IS GOD!\n\nNow, and speaking from experience, it will be hard but it is not impossilbe and it will take TIME. For those who have never been tramatized sexually or any other way it is easy for them to say "Get over it". I would not say that they were being insensitive but that they are not able to deal with you on that level b/c truely unless you have been through IT, whatever the IT is then you can not really give any type of advice. \n\nI would suggest that you pray a whole whole lot and let God bring you to the place that you need to be. Also, try to look up a 12 step program for abused women in your area b/c talking to others that have been through it will help a great deal. \n\nAlso, if you ever get to this point, then confront him. Express yourself, whether it be anger, sadness, hurt  that you feel. be sure that he knows how you feel and let him know that an apology is necessary. \n\nNot that you can't go on w/o one but he needs to admit and acknowledge that he has wronged you.