please help with my marriage?
451722
People stay in relationships long after they do each other any good because by nature no one wants to be a quitter.  Especially as women we are nurturers and want to fix everything.  That takes cooperation though, you can try marriage counseling if he is willing to participate, breaking up a family is nothing to do lightly, but don't waste years trying to fix something that your partner has no interest in fixing either.  Move on and build a stable but separate existence for you and your children,(sharing custody) the courts will tell him how much child support to pay.
657563
Maybe you should continue to stay separated but start "dating" again and work on your issues. Having children in the relationship I feel it could be detrimental to them to have him continually coming and going into the home. I would continue being involved in your church, praying for him and your marriage and continue marriage counselling. If after a few months and giving it 100% there are still no changes in him/willingness from him to work on his issues then I would sit down and seriously contemplate if this situation is right for you and your children. But hopefully with prayer and God in your life you will see some changes. I definitely think baby steps is the way to approach this situation. God be with you.
556148
You didn't mention how long you have been married but it really doesn't matter too much.  I think some marriage counseling is in order.  Marriage is a team effort and she deserves your support in getting the extra help that you both need.  Go check out the site listed below.  Great site. Lots of insight.
279374
Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
784309
You need to pray my friend! Prayer is very powerful. Read "Power of a Praying Wife"\nGo to a Christian church and ask for prayer. It is free and best thing you can do for yourself. Trust me I know. Prayer has restored my dying marriage. Praise the Lord!
959598
You all ready know what to do, you answered your own question: "There are so many issues that need to be resolved." You both need to sit down & have a discussion about these issues. Get to the root of them in order to resolve them. Sometimes things can't be resolved & you have to live with them the way they are, because you are 2 different people & that's just a part of life. However these other issues you mentioned seem to be trivial, but why the fight? Counseling may be necessary to help you both over come obstacles in your relationship & perhaps see things from a different point of view. So before planning any more wedding things, get those issues under control first & foremost. It may take several months to get things ironed out, but in the long run you'll both be happier for doing so.
1117431
It sounds to me that he just needs time to think things through and that is ok. Let him think and give him his space to do so. Yes you should call him to say you are sorry and ask him for forgiveness but at the same time dont bug and pressure him! Give him the space and time that he needs. Dont pressure him or nag him. Just pray for him and trust God for your marriage. May I suggest the book the power of a Praying Wife to you by Stormie Ormartian. It is a great book and they sell it at Walmart. Since he wants his space you take time to think things through too and try to change yourself and learn from your mistakes and learn how to become the wife you need to be for him. I am here if and when you need to talk. I understand why you are confused and hurt but so is he. Why don't you try to find a person or counselor to talk with and also ask him if he is open to going to a marriage counselor with you. See if he wants to work on the marriage or stay apart for a while. But do what he says and wait till Saturday afternoon. Respect him for this and give him this time and he will love you for it. Hope this helps some. I hope things get better for you and your marriage soon. Here comes hugs your way today.\nhttp://www.marriagetoday.org
121113
Divorce is the easy way out. But it is a BAD choice.\n\nDo EVERYTHING that you can to make your marriage work.
967088
Hey, you have my name!  J/K, glad to see another believer has my name at least.  My thoughts and prayers for you are that you truly seek God's face during this time.  Getting married will not solve your fiance's situation.  In fact, it might compound it with the newness of marriage and everything sexual involved with it.  I commend him for his want to overcome his situation, and I truly believe he needs to seek Godly counseling through the pastor or another strong believer with experience in these areas.  You, also, should attend counseling.  Don't let co-dependency conform you to "accepting" his addiction because your love is all powerful.  It can happen and that I believe is not God's will.  We should love God first, and our spouse second.  In this be on your face seeking God's will for your life.  Another thing for your fiance to keep in mind is that he doesn't have to prove anything to God, God knows every hair on our heads, I would think he knows what is in the depths of each of our hearts too.  He really has to live a different life daily and dissociate himself from everything to date that has caused his situation.  Counseling, support and accountability are what he needs big time.  Prayers and love =)
26696
You and your wife should see a counsler because something is not right in the marriage.For Real!!!!!
1168903
First off, what did you do to make your wife leave? Because you probably did something wrong. Second, praying probably won't help you at this point. She's gone, homie.
770867
Good job with going to counseling and sticking it out, I think alot of times marriages end so quickly because people get hurt then they decide "I'm done".  What can I say mistakes happen and unfortunately infidelity happens, forgive your husband and forgive him and forgive him (the bible says to) then talk with him and let him know how you are feeling, being married myself my husband once told me that I could talk with him not at him to get him to understand me, so try this.  I know you have been through alot but I also know you must love him to have been with him currently and to have accepted the baby as your step daughter.  No one is perfect, so work at your marriage and if this counseling isn't working try reading your bible a little more, and communicating with eachother. (know one knows you two better then you two)
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I would suggest You PRAY. Prayer is VERY Powerful!\nFind a Christian church close to you and go and ask for prayer. It will help you tremendously and your children & marriage. The Lord restored my marriage. You can also get free Godly counselling from the Pastor.\n\nYou see satan wants to destroy our marriage, children & you. DON"T let him. \n\nThe Bible says:\n10 The thief’s(satan) purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My (The Lord)purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.\n\nYou need to be in a group of believers. The prayers of believers avail much. They also can offer you support, encouragement, uplift your spirits etc...It really helped me and I got alot of hope.\n\nIf you can, read "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omarian. Very good. Your life will never be the same once you accept Jesus in your heart. My life changed all for the better including my children. I'm living testimony. \n\nHere is a verse for you.\n\nJer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.\n\nHis Word never returns void. Here's another verse for you.\n\nPhil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; \n\nI believe the Lord can restore your marriage as He did mine.\n\nGod Bless!
791334
Sounds like your husband should go to counseling with you.  Try and ask him if he'd go to marriage counseling with you.  It might just save your marriage.
349551
You are both very fortunate in your happines.  Dont worry about what the world is doing.  Because it sounds like you BOTH are doing everything right.  Continue to love, respect, communicate and enjoy each other.  It takes 2 to make a marriage and a home.  I simply made a poor choice, and the problems erupted early on.\nSome of us dont get it right the first time.
1047234
You need a professional marriage counselor!!  You are dealing with mental abuse.  Jokes won't do it.  Neither will anything you can find out here.
1138307
look sweetie go to marriage counseling pray about it things will work out i promise