my ex and I are trying to be friends... good idea?
449837
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
311548
They don't want to ruin the good relationship they already have. If you break up, then who's to say that you won't be friends anymore. It's all about trust and how well they know each other!
264511
just be completely honest with your feelings. It will hurt him either way.\n\nDon't lead him on thinking that nothing will change and that you guys will still be friends, because thats what my ex did when she broke up with me, and it hurt a lot, but it hurts even still today because I still am hoping that what she told me was true, that we are still friends and that I can still talk to her, but its not.  however when she told me I couldn't ever loose hope.  I miss her a lot, and I still love her, and having to hold onto something that I know isn't true hurts the most\n\nSo just be 100% honest, don't try to make him feel better about the situation, because it just makes it that much harder in the future.
591213
He's your ex, none of your business.  Being friends after relationship is hard enuff without adding something like this to it.  Just stay out of it and let him learn on his own.
799550
if u two have been together for a long time he is not over you, maybe he just wants to be friends with you so that he can do his own thing and you can do your own thing i think you should call and talk to him so that you can see where the two of you stand
651448
I think not for reasons of the heart,cause deep down inside you still have those memories of the good times you had together.Which then could lend to things happening between you two.If you are in a new relationship,the person you are with could get hurt or may not like the idea you are friends with your exs.So leave exs alone and move on.
636790
The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
164142
question is...  what do u want from him now?  if u want to possibly start a romantic relationship w/ him then call him back.  but if u just want to be friends...  if he's not over u, then it would hurt him more for u to be makin ur way back into his life.
19905
No, you shouldn't especially if you had strong feelings for her.  I recently broke up with a guy I've been dating for almost 3 months.  He wants to continue the friendship but I told him no, not this time.  I said maybe later when I'm completely over him, and it will all sort of happen by itself if we're meant to be friends.  Good luck.
481226
If you do not want to get back with your ex then you should not be involved with him and his present partner as just a "FRIEND".\nThat may be the root of the problems that they are having that send him running to you for "ADVISE".\nHe feels comfortable with you because the two of you have history and he maybe testing the Waters to find out if you are willing to forgo a friendship and try a relationship once again.\nThe best thing you can do is steer clear of constant contact with them as a couple.
943243
just like Usher said, you gotta let it burn...i don't want to judge your ex, but it seems to me that she kept you in her life as her emotional crutch.  she would meet other guys with a certain confidence because she had you in a glass case and in case of emergency, she'll break the glass and use you.  the best thing to do is just move on.  being friends is all good but for your sake, try to keep it as informal as possible (emails, texts, etc).  you obviously care about her deeply and that's good but you have to take care of you first.  the best way to move on is to live your life to the fullest.
661824
Dont says its your fault unless it really was. Lets-just-be friends.. um.. ok, if you seriously think thats going to workout. Oy.. third option is so out of the question. Girl, the past is the past. What happens,happens. You gotta move on, there are plenty of more fish in the sea. Believe me.
734067
It's totally cool to have your ex has a friend.  Just because two people aren't right for each other romantically doesn't mean they shouldn't be friends.  Those who don't comprehend it too bad for them, you and your ex are extremely lucky and rare so don't change a thing.
675332
well i kinda had the same problem... i always say keep ur friends close but keep ur ex's even closer... he shld know ur x is ur friend and that he shldnt control who u hang with or who u talk to.. tell him that ..
465214
It depends on who broke up with who but you could contact him, but just don't sound too desperate. Just act friendly, ask how he's doing and maybe you two can hang out at some point. Then let him make the next move.
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
919020
what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.