Why do I feel so guilty about wanting safe borders in all countries? To many now with no visas It has to stop!
443487
you shouldn't feel guilty...no country just lets ppl come right in. usa needs to protect it's economy, schools and hospitals. what is happening in ca will eventually be occurring throughout the nation if nothing is done to keep out illegals. http://ailf.org/ipc/fairdistortion.asp http://humaneventsonline.com/article.php?id=13889
1042585
well no country is indeed totally free , but if you came with political asylum because your life a thread in your country makes no sense that you want to go back to a place you state was dangerous for your self.  i some times spend 14 hours of my days at school and i only have official vacations 1 week a year since i take every session  at school to go fast . but  is  not only hard here every other people need to work hard in every other country to be able to succeed you need to be patient and see things more logical
767971
Hi "Dog" (cute nickname.) Right off the top I would have to say that not only do you have too much on your plate, but perhaps you're assuming too many responsibilities. There's no reason for YOU to feel guilty because your sister's husband isn't there for her. You CANNOT be responsible for everyone. You seem a very sensitive person--& only 16! Gosh. Do you have anyone you can talk with, preferably someone who isn't critical, judgmental, dictatorial--from whom you could get input & hopefully, some reinforcement? I believe you need this more than anything--except--that your well being is the very most important thing with which you must cope right now.  A freind would help. There's nothing intrinsically wrong with caring about others, but not at you expense. I hope someone will give you some thoughts that YOU can implement, & my very best to you.
323711
Even though you know it is the only way for happiness, you feel guilty due to regret.  You regret that things had to end, that there was no happily ever after, that things didn't work out and for love lost.  This is all normal so please don't beat yourself up over it.\n\nThe guilt will pass in time.  I wish you my best and hope you find the happiness you want and deserve!
1163807
Good question.  Keep the pressure on the politicians.  There are millions that feel as you do, you are not alone. In fact this may be the one issue that brings US citizens together.  This issue crosses all parties and most are mad as hell.
979816
This is the country of free speech. I feel sorry for the people who are trying to escape to a better place but they\nneed to do it legally. The people who are pro-illegals\nalready have it good. They live here. I say if they want to\nsupport illegals then they should whip out their wallets and let the\ngood times roll.
351697
i don't agree with coming here illegally. it is hard to get visas because people all around the world are applying for visas. so it is unfair to others to come here illegally.
1054723
I spent like 3 months in grmany for doing an internship , i was feeling the same thing that you may be feeling . Kind of Lonely/depressed/confused.Discombobulated is the word if i may say. Actually this decision is for you to make.Are there other people from your country there ? Do you really like them ? do some introspection.Remember ,your mental health is more important than economic well being. Because ,if you do not ,things may go out of hand too.For me , I just cut short my trip & came back.
437454
why? I tell you why. When you apply for the american visa (the passport is really easy to get) the u.s. goverment ask for WAY TOO MANY things such a: prove you work in mexico, how much you get paid, do you own your house, what kind of job do you do? etc etc. Last time I had to apply for my visa they even asked the name of my freaking dog!!!! seriously, it doesnt matter if you have a great job, if you own your house, if you rent, if you are a decent person,  if the customs officer thinks you are ugly, if he is hungry, if you dont speak enough english to be able to answer their questions or just because he is moody, then they  wont give you the visa! I hate the fact that "gringos" think that the illegal people in the US are only mexicans HELLO???? what about people from el salvador, argentina, peru, etc? I'm mexican and I'm very afraid to cross the border these days when I see in the news that stupid gringos (not calling everyone stupid ok?)are burning mexican restaurants up, are burning my mexican flag and talk s*hit about all mexicans like we all want to be working in the united states. BS! I have a great job in mexico, I'm staying in the US at the moment because I'm staying with my bf for a few weeks(yeah, I cross the border like 4 days a week and yes i have my permit to stay in the states for six months) and believe me: I love my job and I dont want to be in the states working as a secretary or even worse at mcdonalds!  I think people from my country go to the US because their local goverment dont do s*hit to improve their situation and all the want is a better life for them and their families and for some reason they hear great things about US that they want to live "the american dream". I feel so bad for all those who work with a fake ID because they live afraid of the border patrol but in the other hand, they think that is the only way to make some money to have food on their tables and yes, send some money to those who are still living in mexican hell. it really depends on the state you live in. I'm in Baja California and life here is better, there are jobs for everyone but if those who go to the states dont stay here is because they didnt even finish elementary school and unfortunately that is a requirement for the simple jobs. so, if they cross the border to go to US, they dont even have to read to pick up tomatos or corn... And for those who said the illegals dont want to pay taxes... how are they going to pay taxes if the have right for nothing in the states? and I dont think they are bad for your country or your economy at all. they do all the job that people in the states refuse to do :)\nyou should get those terrorists that want to destroy your country instead of the poor people that are making posible for you to have fresh veggies on your table or making burritos for you.
721432
Guys...the way this is being described (even in this forum) reminds me of Nazi Germany. Language like "round 'em up". We have to find a safe way for people to extend their visas, get visas and travel between the border if they want to. As someone mentioned, border jumping is scary. And it is not like these are bad or immoral people. They just want to work--build a life for themselves and their familiy at any cost. That is very American if you ask me. Very nobel. Lets do this the right way. If an employer hires an illegal worker we need to really hit them hard. People wouldn't come and stay if they couldn't support themselves. Lets target the places of employment.
1024132
I, too, am a sensitive person and an American.  I understand what you are saying.  There are some people in this country who see only the mistakes of our own natioin but not the ATROCITIES of the terrorists.  I can not comprehend how their minds work.  If it is THAT bad here, why don't they move to a country that better suits their beliefs?  I mean this sincerely.  I'm fairly certain that someone will bash me for this last statement.  I am not saying to "go to hell."  I am sincerely asking a simple question.  I choose to stay in my homeland because I love my country. That doesn't mean I agree with everything . That would be unusual to agree with EVERYTHING.  I'm saying that if it is THAT awful for some people, why not choose to be happy and go where you will find peace of mind and contentment?  Here's the deal as I see it....these people take for granted all the freedoms that they have in this country. They take for granted all of the opportunities that are available to them.  They are looking for Eutopia, I can only imagine.  Well brothers and sisters, "this is the last best place on earth" and I for one ain't going nowhere!!!!
503055
I agree with you. I think many of them come here for the exact reasons you stated. I know there are war torn countries and whatever but Britain is only a small island and there are plenty of safe countries in between us and their own country. They come here because they are practically guaranteed a good life and a job, if they feel like working, though they don't have to. I get about £300 a month in tax credits to help me stay at home with my own kids. There are people who have a problem with that when these illegals are coming in and being given brand new houses, some built for them, then they were getting those food voucher thingys but that's not good enough is it, they want the cash so they can go and buy themselves a corner shop and rip us off some more. I am all for the BNP on this one. It's not racist. It's fair. It doesn't happen in other countries. If I went to another country, they wouldn't just hand out free stuff just because I was foreign so why do people think it's racist if you don't want to do that?
1091896
No u shouldnt. Feeling guilty is not a solution to anything. Be a woman!
713549
I don't know, but we are all to be blamed for having close our eyes and shut our mouth while tousands were slaugters.\nI'm only 19 y.o. but I feel guilty for this anyway. Even the United Nations didn't act in order to stop the genocide. We ought never to forget what happened.
329391
I feel really down with all this mess. I'm mexican and my bf is from MA and I'm staying with him in the states but I work in MExico because I have a really good job here and there's no way I'm going to go to the states to work at mcdonalds. but it really hurts when i see in the news that white people is burning mexican restaurants just because they want all the mexicans to go back to mexico. I'm afraid one of these days I'm going to see a stupid racist in the street and that he/she is going to hurt me. We are human beings for god's sake!
387230
Im a caucasian male, should i be proud, my country is dominent, although tyrannical...im not sure if i should be honorored for being an american citizen and not suffering through all the hardships of other people, it doesnt seem fair. i feel bad when i realize that i have more freedoms then most people in other countries and i take advantage of them. I feel bad when i realize that while im struggling about which job i should get or which girl i should try to go out with, people from other countries are worrying about there next meal, or if there going to be able to raise there children, or if there even going to make it through the next day...there is so much pain in the world and i feel bad for neglecting it and living my own little life of seclusion and happiness, and i feel worse because like everyone i have my problems and they seem so pathetic and miniscule in comparison the others, it seems wrong to live like this in the U.S. and not help other people, we are all the same and yet we act as though we are all different. \n\nIdk why i went all out and said all this but congrats!! you got me to think and express some emotion, it doesnt happen very often so you should feel proud\n\nbanshee_370@yahoo.com
94943
if its your career at stake, NO. dont feel guilty at all. Go find a better job. there's hundreds out there waiting for you.