Is it bad to have sexual relationships before marriage? If so am I condemned?
453722
you are now an easy target for chistain marketing. however, in my opinion, no. but i wouldn't go around unprotected
293971
Personally I think it is wrong. It is something so personal that it should only be shared with your husband/wife. I think having sex before marriage only leads to complications and jealousy
558673
Sex before marriage is not a good idea. I would rather have waited till I got married however, I was young and foolish and wanted experience. Well, after you're experienced what is there to experience more? You keep on having sex, right and so if I were to change this I would have waited for the right time. But this is just my opinion. Different people have different opinions.
1007622
Of course it's wrong, but who listens. Everybody's having sex before marriage, they don't care. And alot of people aren't planing on getting married, so why wait. And alot of people loses their virginity before marriage which they planned on getting married, so I guess the world don't really have much to say about that.
930523
I don't think that 'marriage' should come before sex; I think a true, loving commitment should come before sex.  Marriage is just a piece of paper or a ceremony that represents that, but a lot of marriages are made without that commitment.\n\nPeople can have casual sex and do well, but generally, having sex first before a relationship and dedication can muck things up.  That's my two cents!
1038221
why is it when we buy a car we test drive it first? why is it when we buy fruit that we eat, we pick it up and sqeeze it to make sure it is good? we do this to make sure it is good right? so why cant we test drvie our relationships and sqeeze our future spouses? i think it should be ok t obe with this person fully before you get marreid, what if you marry a pervert, that wants sex all the time, or what if he like to watch porn all the time.or what if you married a guy who deosnt sleep at night and loves to be on the computer all the time,make sure you married what you want and not what you have to deal with. thats what i did.
237705
NO! The bible says that is fornication-! Plus you could get pregnant! Get a disease! I wish I had waited untill I got married! You can never get the first time back ! You know it is really not worth all the other problems it brings! I can tell yo it is much better to be married! God created sex- it is a wonderful thing! You cant believe how great it can be when you are married ! I am the mother of four now- I have sex before marriage -trust me wait!!!! When the right man came i had already given all that up!!!was so sad about it and then we had to talk about all the other ones we had been with-had we had tests!! ETC> not fun when you are for real in LOVE!!! thank God He forgave me!!Good luck!
795909
well, I think everyone is definitely entitled to their own opinion, but let me ask you all this: Say you have been dating someone for a long, long time, know all about them, and think they are your perfect match, your soul mate.  I'm talking, that one person that is perfect for you in any and every way and you know you could never live without. Then, the first and only time you have sex is a horrible experience for one/both of you and you decide that because of that one time, the future between the two of you is doomed.....? To me, that sounds like a really stupid reason to not want to marry someone...if you really loved them, you would be able to "work" on it and look past it. Of course it would be diffcult to be with someone that cant please you the way you want them to, but with time and a continued strong relationship, it will happen.\nI, personally, am saving myself for marriage for both personal and religious reasons.  I'm not going to lie and say that it has been easy to remain a virgin, but I know that by doing so, I am saving a wonderful experience for my husband and I to share, as well as avoiding a number of problems that can come along with premarital sex.
161773
Where did you get the idea that sex is wrong?..There is no written rule there. The bible says "you can be married if you feel you need to be , but you don't have to be".. It actually says "pick one and stay with them" That is Gods own personal advise on that subject!..You don't have to be married, just monogamous. quit kicking your own arse and be in love for pete's sake!
302978
No it is not.  It is called the sin of fornication.  That is what sex before marriage is called.  Certainly a true Christian would not be actively engaged in sex before marriage.  A true Christian, who made a mistake, would be repentant and try not to be doing it anymore.
211612
Yes, of course I do. I don't particularly agree with marriage so it would make no sense for me to disagree with premarital sex.\nWhatever floats your boat.
840099
I have no idea. Personally I don't have a problem with sex before marriage as I would want to know what I was getting before I got married to a man for life. Not that sex is all a relationship is but I think it's an important part. I don't think you should sleep around indiscrimately regardless of being married or not though.
59105
It's up to you and your boyfriend/girlfriend.   I was married when I was 18 and now I am 20.  My husband and I decided not to have sex before we got married. I know that some people regret having sex before they are married becasue it causes problems in their future relationships. But this is what worked for us.  You would have to talk it over with your sigificant other to decide what will work for you.
166921
well you really shouldn't do it. I wish I had saved my virginity for my husband.... No you should do it because then you get it out of your system.... no you shouldn't do it what will you tell your children.... DO IT!!!! How else will you get the experience... DON'T DO IT!!! Let yourselves learn from one another. This is how I feel but as for the rest of society I really have no clue. It is something you will have to figure out for yourself. It is one of those things that you know what is right but tend to do what is "wrong". If you believe in God, He thinks that pre marital sex is wrong.
123972
I think both are extremely wrong.\nPre-marital sex and Adultery is one of the reasons why we have AIDS and HIV rampant all over the world. \nOnce a person has premartial sex, he or she starts the ball rolling, and many move on to Adultery.\nWhy?\nAfter having sex with different people, some even with strangers, will he or she appreciate his or her loved one's body? Will the temptation of no strings sex lure them into having an affair?\nThere has to be something sacred in marriage and in a person's body and that's his and her virginity. This may sound antiquated but would you, want your boyfriend and girlfriend to have had sex with 10 people and marry them? \n\nWould you appreciate this person more if you knew he or she fought of temptation EVEN BEFORE they met you because they are governed with such strong belief and respect for their future spouse, in all seriousness, they knew the marriage up ahead would be no joke, a lifelong commitment where both would share mind, body and soul?\n\nThis is not to say it should be a law where pre-marital sex is forbidden, but it should be a personal choice made, to have self-discipline and self-control, not to let loose like a crazed animal in heat.\nAll this gives rise to disgusting sexual conduct like bestiality and so on, because no one appreciates, or respects sex as a sacred act between two, married, committed people.\nIt's not a game, it's not something you can play with.\n\nThat's why our world is full of horrible pornography where women are humped and co-erced into sex, treated like animals by the men.\nIt's disgusting. And before someone tells me, how would you know the person's sexual preferences before meeting them, or he or she has the right to do that because they are two consenting individuals - \n1. You wouldn't know your own sexual preferences if you hadn't had sex. That's why marriage is so wonderful, two loving, innocent people can explore each other legitimately and their sex lives and preferences evolve together as they live their lives together.\n2. It's true. Two consenting adults, go ahead, do it. However, wouldn't the two of them appreciate each other's deeds and thoughts of them? Wouldn't they know how commited and how thought out the person's beliefs were because this was already thought out before they met each other?\nCan a man feel comfortable hearing about his wife's ex-boyfriends? He prefers not to hear it and pretends it doesn't exist because he can't look at his lady knowing she has been with another man! And a woman, can she accept that her boyfriend or husband is a cassonova in his days of youth, can she absolutely say she knows he won't go out where his lust leads him? Temptation is all around, look at the amount of sexually permissive people around the community, the world, even, and say you're sure. Would you love him better knowing he has saved himself for the ONLY woman he'll ever have sex with, knowing how sexually active men are? This deed itself presents so much to appreciate and love in your man.
372610
are you asking if someone has had sex before getting married in general?  or are you asking if someone has had sex before marriage with the person s/he are married to?  or are you asking if someone has lost their virginity to the one person they are married to?  those are all very different questions and have very different answers with different meanings.\n\ni can say- yes, yes and no.  i am very happy i did not marry the guy i lost my virginity to.  i was too young and dumb.  i am glad that i have had some experience before i met my current husband.  do i wish i had waited until marriage to my husband to have sex, not necessarily.  but i do wish i had waited a lot longer.  \n\ni am happy that my husband and i lived together and loved together BEFORE marriage.  we were married a little over a year after we met.  we've been together several years now.  the marriage is AWESOME, our sex life is great (7+ times a week- no lie).  but we were not virgins when we met, but we did have sex out of wedlock and became married.  it all depends on your heart's intent, level of religiousness (interpretation) and commitment level.  it CAN and DOES work (against my strict protestant upbringing)!
1183236
I don't agree....some relationships just aren't meant to be, it has nothing to do with moving in with each other before marriage. I honestly think living together before marriage is a good thing because you get to know the person and figure out if you are going to work out. It better than running off to Vegas getting married in t-shirt and jeans to someone you barely know. Marriage is sacred, it should not be rushed.