how to forget someone even relationship ends up 5 years back but still it holding me back? suggest me.?
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ask him for coffee it is likeley you will see he is changed /or maybe he feels the same way.
765690
Sorry to hear about your loss Victorio. \n\nYou have to give yourself time to heal. You can't expect anyone else to compare to your ex. 13 years is a long time. The friendship and comfort level that you build up over that time is enormous. Any new person you meet is going to seem so distant, you're not going to feel that same bond. Give yourself time. Maybe don't date for a while, or if you do, just don't have any expectations. Just talk, get to know the person. Maybe you'll like each other & keep dating. Maybe you won't. Just go into it with an open mind.\n\nIt's very hard to let someone go. Especially someone who was in your life for so long.\n\nIt will get better. If she was the right one for you, it wouldn't have ended. That means the right person is still out there. So give her a chance to find you. Don't close your heart to someone new.\n\nTake care.\nGood luck.
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bigskullfan doesn't know what he's talking about. Consider yourself lucky to have gotten rid of those who've done you wrong and look some more. Remember love happens when you don't expect it b/c you're not trying too hard. Or try forgiving those who've done you wrong. Good luck!
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I'm happy to hear that you've moved on with life, but maybe you have to ask yourself what do you want for yourself as well as in a man, but mainly focus on yourself now...after five years (well almost), just think of what's good for you and what you will/won't tolerate from anyone!
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It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
220333
Its best not to dig up old wounds. It has been 5 years. he has probably moved on. Id find a nice guy close by where you can talk to him face to face and not across an ocean.
566045
All I can say is that time heals wounds and you will think you are never going to get over him but time will do it. Try not to think of him if you start to think of him start thinking of something else. Stay busy all the time. Put away anything that has to do with him like stuff he gave you and don't listen to the same music that the two of you listened to. Put pictures of him away in the attic or somewhere its not easy to get to. Then one day you will be able to look back and it will be a lot better. All of a sudden you will not think of him as much and you will then be on your way. Good luck I know its hard. It is one of the hardest things but if you ever get hurt next time you will be stronger.
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Everyone has a past, even you, don't choose to dwell on the negative.  There is a reason this person is with you now, and if you want to keep this person with you, you must realize that anything that happened before you was BEFORE you.  Y
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Why do people stick with the past? I don't get it. Maybe humans are creatures of habit and resist change, but in your case, I think you should erase, format and delete your ex- from your brain. History should not repeat itself, especially since you broke up once with that person. I know, it's tempting, it's easy...but you won't be happy knowing that there are other guys lining up for you.
519015
How about instead of forgetting... remember the good times. Only time with help you with that sorry. However after awhile it wont hurt so much and you will be fine.
512958
The problem is that you're living with a fantasy, which is always going to be better than reality because you aren't dealing with the facts of the relationship.  Take a notebook and right down all the good things about this former beau at one end of it and turn it over and upside down and write all the bad things about the person.  When you can realistically look at the good and bad you can free yourself from your long standing issues and move on.
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Hon, from what I am reading you really aren't ready for another relationship right now if you are still hanging on to the memories of your previous relationship with the hope that things will happen for you both someday. Honestly, the chances are that they will are pretty slim to none, especially if you both are not on speaking terms.\n\nYou need to take some time to yourself and sort out your feelings for this guy. You need to make an honest assessment of what was good in the relationship, as well as what was bad, so that you have a better idea of what kind of relationship you want in the future. You need to determine what you will and will not accept in a relationship in the future, as well as assess what you both did wrong in the relationship that caused it to fail. This is especially important because one person is never solely responsible for a relationship's failure; both people are and to move on successfully you have to take responsibility for your own actions. Additionally, you will eventually need to forgive your ex for his contributions to the failure of the relationship, as well as forgive yourself. If you don't, you will carry that baggage into the next love affair you have and nothing will ever get resolved.\n\nIf you rush into another relationship now, while you are still reeling from the other one, you are getting involved for all of the wrong reasons: you don't want to be alone, you are afraid of being alone, etc etc etc. It will be a classic rebound situation. You won't be getting involved because you really like the new guy. You are getting involved because you can't handle being alone or you want to replicate what you had (when it was good) with your ex. Relationships like this are DOOMED.\n\nTake some time for yourself. Relax. Read, or hang out with your friends. Write your feelings in a journal; get to know who you are, sort your feelings out, and then, when you are ready, forgive your ex and yourself. When you feel positive about things again (including yourself) then and only then are you ready for another relationship.\n\nHow do I know this? Life experience. I am 50 now and I had to learn the hard way. When I was your age I was involved with a guy who I THOUGHT was the love of my life. It didn't work out, so in my panic, I rushed into a relationship with a guy who paid lots and lots of attention to me. I thought HE was the love of my life, too. What did I do? 2 years later we got married. OY! What a mistake that was. We were married for 10 years, and after 10 years of his craziness I finally was brave enough to get out of the marriage and get a divorce. He was NUTS - verbally abusive at first, and then he became physically abusive. When we dated I saw these things in him, but ignored them. I ignored my intuition - my gut told me he was nuts and that he was troubled, but because I was scared of being alone, I married him anyway. Why? Because he was romantic. Ahhh, nothing like lessons learned.\n\nI stepped back, assessed my wants and needs, forgave him and myself for our mistakes, and decided what I wanted. 4 years after my divorce and a few lousy relationships later, I met my second husband and married him 6 months later. That was 6 years ago and we are happy. In the end it worked out for me, but the stress of a miserable marriage because of my fears of aloneness made me sick. So don't do it. \n\nTake time for you, and sorry this is so long.
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The good news is that time is on your side. So you'll surely get over it.\nOne way to speed things up a little, could be if you focus your memory on all the things that you didn't like and that made you upset.\nAnother good way of making it easier, is to go out and see all the others who are looking for a relationship themselves.
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the more u try to forget her , the more u will remember her. lost love is like sand , u cant hold it ...\nso get along with your current gf... i am sure u dont take her to places u visited with ur 1st gf .pls go to all those places and enrich ur heart with the new experiences. u cant delete the old memories , but u can fade them away by new memories. All the best !!!
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You have to remember that it was really a one-sided relationship which is actually a contradiction in terms. It's not like you actually had a long term relationship with her. Most of it took place in your own heart and mind.\nYou've tried to get over it, but maybe you're trying too hard. We've all been there. If you keep obsessing on an illusion, you'll miss every opportunity you have for a real relationship now. Chances are you may have had someone right under your nose but missed out because you're so mesmerized by this other girl who didn't feel the same way about you. Ask yourself if this is really the kind of future you want. You're 28, you sound intelligent and romantic and fun. Don't waste all this on a person who can't love you back. And don't blame yourself for it.It's just a fact of life that chemistry doesn't exist between everyone. Write her a goodbye letter but keep it. Then get out and start living. Life's really too short.
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If you are fighting all the time and you truly feel that there is no fixing it then maybe it is time to end things. It will certainly not be easy but in the long run I think both of you will be happier. I don't recommend, however, jumping into a relationship right away with the girl that you have known for a long time. Take some time and be single for a while. If the girl you have known for a while is truly someone you would like to be with then wait until she won't be just a rebound girl. Go out and have fun and give yourself time to get over your five year relationship.
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you never know how good you have something until you give it up.  and then you regret it the rest of your life.  if you truly like this Tim guy, stick with him, if he actually has a future.  as for your other ex-bf's/guy friends, u might want to start talking to them less.  u can date someone and then break up and not see or hear from them for 10 years, but when u do see them the memories come back and it plays with your head.  the only way i can move past ex-gf's is to remove them from my life.  that might be what it takes for you too.