how do you challende a divorce?
446603
you can't\nmost states are  no fault, and the only way to contest them would be for money and child support / custody, but once papers are filed, the dissolution of marriage ( as it's known in legal terms ) will be granted, it might take longer if it's contested, but eventually who ever filed will get the judgment and you cannot stop it. He also does not have to give a reason ( hence the term no fault ).\n\nNew York Has A Version of No-Fault Divorce\n\nNew York does not have no-fault divorce as such. Instead, New York's version of a no-fault divorce requires that the spouses live apart from one another for at least a year before a divorce can be filed. The parties must execute a Separation Agreement, which must be filed with the local County Clerk before the one-year period begins to run. The spouse suing for divorce must prove that he or she has substantially performed the terms of the Separation Agreement to obtain a divorce. If you obtain a divorce based on a written Separation Agreement, you don't have to sign any papers or give any testimony about reasons for the divorce. In other words, no personal allegations against either spouse are necessary. There are other grounds for divorce in New York which are explained below.\n\nThere are several steps that must be completed before you can file for a divorce in New York State.\n\nResidency Requirements\n\nFirst, you must satisfy the residency requirements set forth in Domestic Relations Law §230. To file for a divorce in New York you must satisfy one of the following residency requirements:\n\n1)The marriage ceremony was performed in New York State and either spouse was a resident of the state at the time of the commencement of the action and resided continuously in this state for one year immediately before the action began;\n\nOR\n\n2)The couple lived as husband and wife in this state and either one is a resident thereof and resided in this state for a continuous period of one year immediately prior to the commencement of the action;\n\nOR\n\n3)The grounds for divorce occurred in this state and either party is a resident thereof and lived in this state for a continuous period of one year prior to commencement of the action;\n\nOR\n\n4)The grounds for divorce occurred in this state and both parties are New York residents at the time the action is commenced;\n\nOR\n\n5)If you and your spouse were married outside of New York and you never lived together as husband and wife in this state and the grounds for divorce did not occur in this state -- either you or your spouse must presently be a resident of New York State and have resided continuously in the state for at least two years prior to bringing this case.\n\n\nServing the Summons and Complaint\n\nSecond, you must ensure that the court has jurisdiction over your spouse (the Defendant) by arranging for him or her to be served with a Summons and Complaint or a Summons With Notice.\n\nStep 1: Your divorce action begins when you purchase an index number and file the summons with the County Clerk’s office.\n\nStep 2: Your spouse must then be served with a copy of the summons by being personally given the document. It is important to determine where your spouse is located. If he or she lives in New York State, the server must be a resident of New York State, over eighteen years of age, and CANNOT be a party to the action (this means you may not serve your spouse with the summons).\n\nIf your spouse is presently residing outside of New York State you must still ensure that he or she is personally served with the summons. It is preferable to have this service accomplished by a New York resident, although this might be costly. If you use a non-New York State resident to serve your spouse outside of the State, the server must be a qualified attorney, solicitor or the equivalent in that state or nation. Otherwise the person must be authorized to serve papers pursuant to the laws of that state.\n\n \n\nThe person
157649
I've been divorced twice. I wish I had done a "do it yourself divorce" the second time, it would have saved me a lot of cash. Anyhow, as long as the two of you are in agreement and ther are no kids from the marriage, it should be pretty simple.  never had to provide any info regarding my first marraige to my lawyer during the second divorce. Good Luck!!
459055
The best way to help your ex get on with his life is by getting on with your life. Show him that there's life after divorce, and happiness. Be courteous, but not over-friendly. Discuss what needs discussion, like the kids, or whatever, then have places to go, and things to do...don't spend time in useless dialogue. Also, as far as property goes, settle that as soon as possible. If you and he have no possible reconciliation, no need to spend a lot of time together. Move on!
146154
pack your stuff and leave while he is gone. leave a note or what ever you like. file for divorce and a TRO at teh same time
90078
Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
153744
See if your state has a summary divorce law.  Faster, cheaper.
1023943
yeah .. sounds like you're ready ... \n\nYou might need some time to save up some $$$ of your own ( if possible )\n\nStart looking for a divorce lawyer ( I would highly recommend one if you have any kids, property, equity, loans, ... etc.... with him )
376246
DIVORCE, so just b/c she does wrong you will too, word of advice, 1. two wrongs don't make a right and 2. Your going to bring yourself down to her level and I garuntee she will beat you with experience. You wanna-be PIG.
640330
Try this:\n\nhttp://www.onlinedivorcepapers.com/divorce.html
12995
at your local court office you can get a divorce packet,both of you take it to a parralegal have it filled out before you and stipolate a agreement,noterise it and enter it into court, as uncontested ("both") parties .you should receive a short wait for a court hearing, if both parties are still in agreement the judge can order it "so" there and then.just make shure that you are inagreement , whith all issues , such as children ,money or holdings, and dedts.
694376
just seperate, isnt a big deal, why file any paperwork, if you think you  are going to work it out,  most times it isnt worth it, just get a divorce
734848
You ask "how do I know WHEN to call it quits"  as if you assume it's inevitable.  Instead ask, "What do I need to do to work this out before it gets worse?"  The same way you would with a sibling or another family member.  You want it to work because they are your family, and you should view your husband the same way.  With a few rare exceptions, divorce shouldn't even be a consideration.  I don't hear anything in what you've said to indicate yours is one of those rare exceptions.
363440
first of all congradulations on your divorce-i am divorced too-when it's not the right one it sure feels good to be free-get involved in your community-i feel this is the best way to meet decent people-community theatreor go to local chamber of commerce or city hall and check out their events calander-get involved in something you enjoy-not only will you meet people but you will be doing good things for the community too-
213507
check out your divorce papers \nmaybe your custody papers \nif there isn't either you need to file a custody suit
179451
You have to file for a divorce in the county where you live.  If the divorce is final, then you might be able to change where the county if you have moved.  It depends on how long you have lived there.  You should contact the court directly and talk to the workers there about a change in venue.  If both parties agree and if you live somewhere different it might be easy.\n\nSee website http://divorcenet.com \n\nmight be of some general help