what should i tell my friend that is getting made fun of and they say she is fat?
445258
Tell her those guys are jerks........ but try to encourage her to lose weight.\n\nA lot of people say that we shouldn't care. Many say that we should love people loke they are. But, it is just more healthy to be fit.... period. Also, it would most likely be best for social reasons (even if being judgemental IS stupid) for a person to be fit and attractive. That's not to mention the psychological effects geing fit could add.
1036694
don't worry about what she said. you know whatever it is isnt true and if the people she told are your friends, then they also know the truth. she's obviously very insecure and jealous and starving for attention. people might take her side for a little while but dont get too upset because they'll learn what a little liar she is and you will have all ur friends back. just keep on being nice to her and it will make her look stupid.
1184692
Sounds like she is uncouth. why lower yourself to her level?\n\nor if you just have to tell her:\n\n"I may be just a little overweight, but I can diet and lose weight, but you will still be rude!"
553312
I am weak that doesnt mean im anorexic since im not pencil thin neither fat so it just depends maybe next time eat alot of stuff in front of them so the rumor/gossip goes away;)
1052668
That is hard to answer. She already knows she is overweight, and is probably unhappy about it. Sometimes, it's hard to get motivated. If you are fit, offer to work with her. If you just tell her she's fat, you'll hurt her feelings and maybe hurt your relationship. Be cautious and be NICE. Don't tell her to 'stop shoving food down her throat'...she only eat more in response.
1117853
1st, nice avatar!\n2nd, anyone who makes fun of another's appearance is a loser\n3rd, might try some neck-stretching type exercises\n4th, IF you are overweight - only IF - try losing a few lbs.
960790
It is hard to deal with pressure from your "friends" believe me i've been there. my once "friend" talked about one of my other friends behind her back because she didnt have a BF so we made one up for her and it backfired in our faces and then they made fun of her even more. the best thing to do is tell your friend you are tired of her comments, and if she doesnt stop then try not talking to her or not getting upset when she says these things. usually people will stop joking if they know it doesnt bother you. The main thing is to NOT make up a BF it will backfire. \nHope i helped!
604172
Best thing to do, seriously, is not ignore it. It only makes you look like you are mad. Just laff it off with them and make a joke back. No big deal. Alot of people make jokes at other's expense because they feel insecure themselves. It makes them feel bigger, better. It's lame. Just smile and laff, and know inside, they feel like a loser.
642500
You should give her the opportunity to know how you feel and what is going to happen if she doesn't change the way she is behaving.  She is probably in actuality a very insecure girl that feels that she needs to put others down.  Tell her that a friend doesn't act that way, and that just as you would for her, you are defending your friends and their feelings...that is what friends do.
388517
do not say she is fat.  just say your are not interested.. You have other interests...
1026974
Your friend doesn't respect herself, your body is a beautiful thing and should not be abused by anyone, And sometimes if you feel it so not your place to tell her about herself,do it anyway sat her down and explain to her has a friend that what you are doing is wrong an unnecessary and if she is your friend she would take your advice and respect that you care so much and value the friendship she will think things through and take it in consideration.
841006
My sweetheart is in the same shoes but since i met him that way and began dating him that way I have accepted it but YES, it is the good thing to do to try and help the ones you love.  HOWEVER, overweight people are extremely sensitive about their weight and are very conscious indeed.  They are sensitive to people's piercing stares and inconsiderate comments.  Before you say anything, you must be aware of this sensitivity and DO NOT USE THE WORD FAT.  Try starting the conversation like "name of friend here, you have been a great friend to me and i really care about you.  I hope i have you in my life as a friend for a long time.  There is something that I am concerned about and wanted to talk with you about it though.  I noticed that you've put on some weight since college started...is everything ok...I think you are a beautiful person just the way you are and this has NOTHING TO DO with your LOOKS, but I am worried about your HEALTH.  I just want us to be friends for a long time to come.....is there anything I can do to help you?..."  Be supportive of her and let her know you are just trying o help.
1023897
Please God ~ If you can't make me thin  make my friends fat!!
1068386
His or her mom is fat.\nIt could be your mom if you were using the Usted form, but I can't imagine you would be addressing someone respectfully as Ud. while insulting their mother.
678751
Tell her the truth. Let her know that the other individual is your friend and that you don't want to talk negatively about anyone. If she can't respect that, she doesn't respect your friendship.
317092
It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
697891
Well the best way to deal with her is by just being her friend. If you are truly friends then don't let it bother you so much.\nShe is trying to "copy" you because she thinks you are better, prettier etc.. Take it as a complement.\nHelp her build confidence in her self and self esteem. Be an encourager, lift her up. When she does something nice... tell her. When she where's something that looks good.. complement her