why we feel too unsecure to whome we love the most?
436818
Yeah, generally you don't wanna do something that might upset her/him or turn them away from you. So you feel insecure. Nothing wrong with that, it shows they're too important to lose.
571599
If it feels so right, nothing will scare you, you will have a connection that you will both feel. The problem is whether you both will be prepared to admit to them. And if one of you 'is' scared off, it simply wasn't meant to be. Trust your heart, its a very useful tool.
145770
they feel insecure, that's why they need a great deal of assurance. \nlisten to him/her, don't cut him/ her down or use logic to rationalize with him/her @ this moment. he/ she need you to listen to him/ her.\nthen give him/ her a hug & assure her/him that you'll be there for her/him.\nstay by his/her side, til he/she calms down. then encourage him/ her further.
239129
I'm not saying I have all the answers, but it is pretty humiliating when someone doesn't want you. You're afraid of falling in love again; ok, you've been in love. Has anybody told you they love you, or has it been all theoretical and one-sided so far? You're afraid of love; have you been loved, manipulated, used or just misunderstood? How have you been hurt? These are questions you need to determine before you can decide what to do next. I'd say talk to a counsellor. Figure out what actually happened, what you want to do eventually, and what you can try next to achieve your goals. If you are still nervous after that, try to work your way up to it gradually. Start with just caring about people, maybe neighbors, children, the elderly. Do you know anybody in need? There are many ways to express love. Are you looking for a tender, warm caring love, or a rough, wild, sensual love? We all need various things from the ones we love at different times. Some people express love by sharing, some by providing, some by giving gifts or surprises, some by being romantic, some by being reliable, some by challenging their loved one to excell. Try to meet up with the pople who are looking for the same thing(s) you are. Good luck!
609917
Depending for what reason you feel they dont love you, you can only be yourself and give it time.Maybe they are just scared.At the end of the day you want someone to love you for who you are and not what they want you to be,dont let these worrys ruin the happines you feel cus in the end, what will be will be.
461994
You are correct, if you cannot trust someone than why be with them.  Trust is so hard to get, yet so easy to lose and next to impossible to ever completely get back.
1076916
I know what you mean. I have someone right now that I feel like I don't deserve but I love too much to let them go for their own good. Sometimes we just need people who have different qualities then us, stronger ones I guess. It doesn't make them better then us, just different personality wise. \n\nJust keep looking and maybe the one you 'don't deserve' is the right one you really do deserve.  : )
746489
yes it is harder...we do it bc were afraid that if we give the next person our trust  that the same thing is gonna happen...it sucks to have ur heart broken...bc it makes u wiery in the rest of relationships to come...once that trust is broken...u put a wall up...thats the only way we know how to protect our hearts from shit like that...
152937
There are two kinds of love.\n\nOne that makes you feel safe and secure, in which you may\n\nhave to give up some of who you are to obtain. And one in\n\nwhich you recognize yourself in the other. This kind of love\n\nyou need to give up nothing, but will recieve safety and\n\nsecurity because you're in your natural state. Which is love.
204981
Yes I AM, THERES NO BETTER FEELING KNOWING THAT THE PERSON YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM, LOVE IS A  GAMBLE THOUGH YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPPEN SO U NEED FAITH TRUST AND COMUNICATION FOR IT TO WORK......
125305
Yeah, cause you never know what going on in their mind. Next thing you know, they get really possessive...then they go psyco on you. So you have to be really careful. But then there's the kind of love that scares you cause you're afraid to love them back for the fear of getting hurt. So, good luck...
313329
Yes, because my husband has shown me true love. He has been there through good and bad and always protects me and our children.  I've ran from his protection at times because I have felt sophicated, that's until I realized how blessed I am to have someone who cares about me so much.  He has every reason to be the way he is because our world isn't safe at all.
507088
Yeah, unfortunately, many of us feel that way, though our loved ones usually think we're crazy when we say so--and they often feel the same way about us. We should love ourselves more than that. We should think often that we're fabulous and that no one could do better than us. Imagine what we could do if we thought that way as much as we think the other?
102027
It is a commitment issue . . . since they are already committed (supposedly) to someone else . . . you are not afraid of them getting too attached to you . . . or you hope not.
704845
I understand you completely because for me it usually does and that's why I'm afraid,but not everyone is the same. You have to give it a chance. Believe it or not life is about talking risk. If you didn't you'd be in the same place forever and who knows you may end up happy but there's not garentees!!!! lol Oh yeah and your definately not weird it's called "love"
286788
No sometimes I find it the hardest.  When we love someone we like to give the benefit of the doubt (at least I do) So I have hidden from the truth when I should be facing it.  Wait so maybe then it is easy? Oh I don't know \nI have learned that you should follow your gut instinct no matter what!
649366
You can't.  If you feel pressured to prove your love, then nothing will ever be enough for that person.  It's a reflection of their own insecurity or feelings of worth, of feeling "loveable" and you can't change that no matter how hard you try.