How should one behave when ones wife comes to know of ones close relationship with another girl?
450397
What do you mean by close relationship, and if you can't have good sex with your wife and have to do other people, you should leave and tell her.  jerk.
215602
Yes it is,and I think that you know it is.However,it doesn`t seem to be as serious as if you had actually touched the other woman.But I think that even looking at someone else with dirty thoughts is a form of betrayal.Since there was no physical contact,and if you really are sorry for it,then I see no cause for you to tell your wife and hurt her.Just don`t do it any more,and don`t mentally abuse yourself over it.Learn from it,ask God to forgive you and go on.
311300
here's a little secret. if you have a pet name that your wife thinks is special to her, than it makes it very unspecial when you call other people it. sounds silly but women feel insecure very easily. reinforce that you say it to women you respect and feel are equals to you intellectually and as good people, than let her know you didn't realize how it hurt her to feel like her pet name wasn't special only for her. than say your sorry and you love her and respect her feelings and wish her to feel secure with you, so you'll try your best to not do it again. than give her a big hug and kiss and listen to her talk for a while with any concerns and basically repeat what you just said with a few changes so you don't sound like a recording. don't make her feel that her feelings are invalid or stupid or silly, they're her feelings and that's all that matters. respect her for having trust in you to share them with you.
62094
You can't forget her because you're always thinking of her. Then why you have a new girl at present? You still love her but you have a new one. You're already married and you have to be faithful with your wife. But if you can't, then what's the use  of staying at your present relationship if you're not happy?
155381
Sounds like your wife si coming around to make sure you are still going to be her back up. Just incase the one guy doesn't go so well she'll have you around. She can't let her little doggy get to far away on his leash. She has to snap you back. Since you have been talking to this other woman now, she has to make sure she reels you in. If you are the honest no gaming guy then she knows you'll tell this other girl. If you don't and reject her, well she gets the pleasure to break it to the woman. I would suggest you tell the other woman and send the wife back to the alley. Stay clear away from her ro you'll end up on a choker chain like a good little dog.
1122872
I would let her know where you are coming from. It also depends on what level you are with this person. Are you married? Girlfriend? Dating? In any case, you should let her know where you are coming from and that you want to come to some kind of understanding on how you are going to resolve the issue. \n\nP.S.\n\n2 wrongs do not make a right. Communication is key here. Talk it out.\n\nAdditional Details\n\n1 second ago\nOur relationship is very good because we communicate and everything its just sometimes she says the wrong things and I let her know . . . . eventually\n\n\nMy response: It appears as though she is not to sure how to communicate her feelings and in turn says things that hurt you. She also could be saying these things because she is unsure of how you feel so she is trying to get a REACTION out of you. SHE NEEDS REASSURANCE. Communication is still key.
576283
OK, in the perfect world, if you want to have a healthy marriage, you should not contact this other woman and just go on living your every day life. And that is just fine and dandy, if only your mind didn't keep drifting away towards this other girl. Maybe it keeps drifting because it's a new and exciting part of your life you don't have anymore, since being married can get to be "boring" or just not as adventurous as it was in the beggining. That is totally understandable. \nWhat you didn't mention, is that if this girl is still contacting you? Has she given up on you? If she has, then it means that she just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing, she's not interested in you in any other way. \nI think you will always wonder "what could have been", until you have some closure in this part of your life. If you do decide to contact her again, you should meet face to face and tell her what she meant to you and how it felt to let her go. But remember that you are a different person now, as is she, in totally different circumstances.\nI don't think an honest luncheon to clear the air, and to put your mind and feelings at ease would be that bad.\nAs long as you know where to draw the line, and as long as you understand that you are a married man with different obligations now.\nGood luck man. Tough call.
229650
If she has mentioned it, might want to, and you mentioned it.  There is enough said.  The ball is in her court and if you push things, a) it probably will never happen and b) even if it does she is going to resent you either way.\n\nFor most people, leaving it as a fantasy can be a great way to spice up your intimate lives.  It can also be the safest most prudent, moral path to take. \n\nIf you two decide to go there together.  \n- Make sure you discuss what is and is not acceptable (i.e. rules), \n- either one of you can say stop, at any time, with no need to explain or discuss it further,\n- Can not ever look back and make it a bad thing\n- Your wife is in control, and dont you forget it.  She determines what happens, when, and how.  \n- Have a safety word, either one can use, that means stop, do something else, or take a break\n\nMany people have gone there, it can be an incredible experience or it can have disasterous consequences - understand that.  Do you want to risk your relationship and your marraige.  Once you cross that line, how far will you go.  Will either of you go there alone, without the other (oops)\n\nAlso, the third person is just that, an outsider whom you have let into your private lives (to spice things up).  Your wife is the most important person in your life, as you should be to her - dont forget that for an instant.  It also helps if your wife has some curiosity or desire about being with another lady.
185831
Try playing in Candlyland.  The answer is obvious: If you love the girl you get along with, then thats that.  If you want an affair at the cost of ryuining what you have with your girl, then get with her friend.  But trust me when I say if they are best friends they will know about you hooking up with both of them.  Problems can only arise when 2 women get involved.\n\nFollow your heart and ignore the friend.
351930
Always have open communication with her meaning, talk to her about any and everything! She should not only be your wife, and lover but your best friend! Just cause you say I do dont give either one of you the right to treat each other different! To keep the spark in the marriage always keep suprize in the relationship like with cards, flowers, sweet gifts like perfume (just because)! Then after ya'll start a family always make sure to keep a date once a week at least every two weeks just for you two to have some alone time that is much needed. When you introduce a family which is wonderful this, is when husband and wife tend to grow apart because they are just caught up in everyday life! I know that my husband and myself have just started date night two months ago because we never had anytime for us with three active children and it has worked like a charm. Lend a hand around the house too even, if she dont work keeping a house and tending to errands are a job among themselves! Also, remember when the good turns bad work through it together even the small stuff cause, like it or not there is no perfect marriage and things will happen just work through it together!! Always remember why you fell in love with you financee that made you want to spend the rest of your life with her and you two will be just fine! If you want to do something really special for her next week on your wedding day send her on a scavenger hunt the day before the wedding to different little stores where you have already went in and made a small purchase of you undying love for her also leave a nice card with the next clue to the next stop! Make the last card and the last stop be the day of the wedding where you leave her a card professing your undying love and a gift certificate in the card for the two of you to go and have a casual picture made for the new home! Its nice to know that these days guys are concerned when it comes to saying I DO!! Good Luck to you and your new bride and may yall have many good memories to come!Oh yeah LAST BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT always keep the good LORD in your relationship because he is the one that blessed us with life and forgives us of our sins!
717867
You gotta come out and tell her.  But before you do, consider what you're risking.  Is she worth losing just cause you want to have sex with others?  \n\nYour wife deserves care and protection.  She entered into marriage expecting you to love her, forsaking all others.  By engaging in risky behavior, you're exposing her not only to heartache, but potentially deadly diseases too.
1038430
1) Not at all.\n\n2) Instinct.  No males in the animal kingdom will let any other male to associate with his female.  What, you're not an animal?\nOkay, so we're a little more evolved than that.  But considering that you feel deprived of her attention and time, it's a valid reason to feel slighted.   \n\n3) Tell her only about how her speaking with her ex makes you feel.  Don't say anything about how wrong she is or what a dork her ex is, and etc.  She must know how you feel inside without you or her getting defensive or judgemental.  Your feelings should not be a secret to come between you two.  You're seething and at the same time, feeling guilty for not being a man enough to tolerate her male acquaintance.  This is not a \npositive feeling to harbor alone.  Once you communicate how you feel about her talking to her ex, she will understand how valid and right you are and should stop doing what makes you ill at ease.  \n\n4) Disassociate away!  I completely agree with you.  Personally, I tear up all my ex's pictures and leave no trace of them lying about, a courtesy to my husband to spare him of thoughts you are experiencing.
836277
Tell her. Explain to her that you did not know that they were together and that you wanted her to know before she walked down the aisle with this jerk. \n\nImagine how she is going to feel if you don't tell her and a couple years down the road they have kids together and he is still cheating on her with other girls.
1055271
I've been married to my wife fo 10 years and we have had a girl friend for 3.  Its a moral thing, So for the record not wrong.
828024
maybe you should sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels if you assume to much it could come off as an insult if you dont assume enough you will always wonder for the simple fact that you are married could be the reason that she is not coming straight out with you COMMUNICATION!!!
1000221
You need to be honest to both women, You just got back with your wife, don't let her hear this from anyone but you. This is the fastest way to ruin trust. Be nice to the Friend, tell her you like her but only want to be friends. You can also tell her that you may be working things out with your wife. Don't let both women think you have been leading them on. you can loose your wife for good and that doesn't sound like what you want. Tell HER Now. Marriage is a blessing and your wife's feelings should come first. if the friends gets mad then so what. At least your wife knows you're not trying to play games with her.
841027
The night before, think hard and make a list of things you can ask her in the hallway, maybe related to the activities she has for that day.  Also, if you know what she's interested in, maybe you can learn more about those topics on your own, and then you can share your experiences with her or ask her what she thinks.  This might sound dorky, but it really helped me talk to the girl I liked, who is now my wife.