Messing around for the first time.?
454827
It entirely depends on the girl, I know Im younger than who you wanted to answer but all my friends and roommates are in that age range. Some girls like a guy who is more confident and will make a move sooner, others like a guy to wait. The big key is body language, read into things, I know that feels dumb, but you learn a lot from watching, and having the confidence to make a move when it "feels" right.
163134
hopefully you dont get scared, but just have fun with the guy and keep a close eye, just playing but for real enjoy yourself
1139649
Prepare him for it let him know you want to try something new. We like new things. Don't go crazy at first and take it as far as you want. Truth is he'll probably like it that you can get dirty.
194417
Have her come over and have arrows leading to the bedroom, then go to suriseparties.com, check out what they have, order something different, and have a good time.  Try drawing a nice bubble bath for her, and wash her hair,etc. Make a nice dinner in the nude. Just spend a nice nite together watching movies, drink a bit of wine, or beverage of choice, and let things go. I did the arrows and IT WAS GREAT, had the wine, chocolates, and well we got a movie and just got up to eat lunch.  Had a great time. The surpriseparty.com, has a LOT OF GREAT ideas.  LUCK and have fun.
931313
Sounds like fun. You sound like someone who really tries to think outside the box. Good luck and I hope she enjoys it.
780870
Don't you worry! We all started out not having any experience. It's practice. Have fun with it.
562796
keep being a good gurl and save your first time for someone very special.  otherwise you will probably regret it.
430349
try it gurl in de first time it would hurt a bit and then u gonn like it
754281
I'm assuming that you're NOT going to have an experienced person with you to show you the ropes (no pun intended!), so here's some very basic rules:\n\n1.  READ AND FOLLOW POSTED RULES at the club.  If they say "no cellphones" (a common example), or "no penetration permitted",  they _do_ mean it, bigtime.  \n\n2.  Don't touch anyone without their permission, or touch their play items ("toys").\n  \n3.  Be polite---to everyone.  You may see scenes involving ALL SORTS of diversities---straights, skinny people, gays, redheads, transgender folk, folk with eyeglasses, people wearing all kinds of unusual clothing.  If you don't like what you're seeing, turn your head.  Comments of "eeEEWWWW!" may get you thrown out.\n  \n4.  Don't interrupt a "scene" (which is What It Is That People Are Doing) with questions, or by getting too close.  (It's distracting, and can actually be dangerous.)  Ask your questions, or to see that neat "toy", later.  Most kinkyfolk are delighted to talk with newbies.\n\n5.  You don't have to "play" with anyone, and no one has to play with you.  Thou Shalt Not Hassle or Harass Others, especially if they've said "no" already.\n\n6.  If you see something that flat-plain-out unnerves/SCARES you, _don't_ interrupt the scene.  Look for a dungeon monitor (they may be wearing pretty obvious traffic control vests) or ask a staffer at the bar if things are OK.  \n     (Kinkyfolk often do things that look very, very scary---it's called a mindf*** ----- but are actually set up to be as safe as we can make them.  Actually harming someone is Not Good.)  \n\n\nBasic black or dark colors are great to wear.  Wear comfortable shoes or boots; 5 inch heels are hot, but they're misery.\n\nDon't go in drunk or stoned; don't get drunk or stoned when you're there.  In my experience, BDSM folk will very rarely use intoxicants before or while playing, because you do _not_ want to have anything interfering with your control.  The club, if it's strictly BDSM, may not even HAVE a liquor license.  (Swingers are a little more willing to have the social drink or three.)\n\nYou're probably going to be astonished at how "normal" (that is, "vanilla"---everyday) kinkyfolk look and act, when you get up close.....eavesdrop on a few conversations among regulars, and you'll hear chats about remodelling the kitchen, the computer acting up, and how great it is to have the kids off to college.\n\n\nIf more time was available to you, would suggest getting Wiseman's SM101 (which is a great intro book on BDSM); he's got a whole chapter on SM organizations (including party/club behavior), plus a lot more good stuff.  \n\nHave a great night!
130784
Spice it up. Try a little strip tease, along with some PRINCE music. Don't forget the feather......
1160837
You need to be yourself, don't expect too much from your first time, sometimes it can be painful, sometimes it is not enjoyable, you need to be totally relaxed, Try some slow music, dim the lights, make your surroundings as comfortable as possible and take it slowly.\n\nI am sure that your man loves you very much to have been willing to wait for 8 months, so I know he will be careful with you, bu the main thing is not to worry, just go with the flow and savour every moment, as you will never get it back again.\n\nI hope that everything goes well and that it is all the experience you want it to be.
1155229
Its okay. Everyone has probally done that at least once. Have fun and be safe.
670830
first time on the mike
219854
never tried it .. is it fun ??
121648
try something new. be open to more stuff. maybe a little oral... a little anal... a little s&m... a little roleplay... a few 3-ways... and trust me, he'll be happy, dont be afraid to be a freak.
509488
def go for it. have funnn!
1158999
use anal play items first (butt plugs, etc., graduate to bigger sizes over time).  Make sure to use lots of lubrication.  Relax!