My boyfriend has a female roommate read the rest and please help me???
444520
Trust your boyfriend, is there anything wrong for you not to trust him? If he has his own bath and room and knows he has a girlfriend then she should respect that. Just make sure the girl roommate understands he's taken. Your just going to have to trust your man and spend time at the house in the begining so you can put her check.
1108096
hmmmm....that's a hard one in a way because it would depend on whether or not you were VERY SURE that that is what she's trying to do....I guess if she was being blatant about it, I would have a talk with the boyfriend and see if he couldn't possibly talk to her and let her know that he's simply IS NOT available...he's with the one he loves but if this is something he won't go for..I say..tell her yourself....you don't have to be overly overbearing or mean about it ..just let her know that your not giving your man up and that there are names for women like her that try to steal someone else's man.....slut.....pure and simple....let her go for someone who isn't in a relationship at the moment...there are plenty of men out there like that....but of course it's not entirely her fault either especially if she's flaunting it and your man is simply going along with it....he needs to be sat down and you need to have a heart to heart with him...letting him know how badly this makes  you feel and how would he like it if you had some guy all over you and your were just going right along with it??   Honesty is the best thing in a situation like this...your boyfriend needs to be a part of the discussion and decision because all three of you are involved.\nGood Luck!
275821
When I was in college I lived with this girl who was also my coworker at an adult bookstore.  She wasn't very popular with the guys, but I never thought anything of it.  At the time I had just gotten involved in a LTR with a guy who was in some of my elective classes.  Well, needless to say, one thing lead to another and the next thing you know, he and I had embarked on a physical relationship.  This, isn't that big of a deal, right?  I didn't think so.  She was incredibly jealous of our relationship, however, because (as I later found out) she had been trying to lure him into her bed for several semesters, to no avail.  I remember she would make snide comments once she had discovered he'd been staying the night with me.  I didn't understand her anger.  Then one time when he and I were doing what new couples who are enjoying each other do, I heard this moaning in the very next room.  Her room.  She had left the door open and was purposely making the noises of woman in the throes of ecstasy, while letting both of us know that she was taking FULL ADVANTAGE of her employee discount at the adult bookstore.  It was really embarassing.  Somehow, even though I think she was attempting to make fun of me, I was really embarassed for her.  To this day, I don't understand why she acted that way.  Anyway, I moved out, soon after this incident and while I was on my way out, I accidentally-on-purpose threw her favorite pet goldfish in her bed in the tradition of that movie The Godfather.  Shucks, it was the least I could do.  Hehe.
995238
Your boyfriend should not want to be in a realtionship if this is the kind of behavior he likes to do with his female friends. There is no way you will ever feel better about what he is doing. Sound like he doesn't have to much respect for you or your feeling.
476216
There's two people you need to talk to.  First person is him.  Explain how you are uncomfortable with her always calling him and you feel she is interfering with your personal time.  Tell your man that if he really wants this relationship to workout, he has to set boundaries with this girl because obviously she doesn't get it.Second person is her.  Tell her you know what a great guy he is because you and he are together.  However, you guys need alone time.  And if he wants to hang with her, HE will initiate it and schedule a time where all THREE of you can hang out.  Maybe hook her up with a guy you know.... Yeah its palming her off on someone else but you do need time alone with your man.  But just let her know that you are uncomfortable with the amount of times she calls a day and that every now and again is okay but not 12+ times.  \n\nIf she does keep calling and he's uncomfortable, you might want to look into having him get a TRO or something.  She may or may not be after your man (She could be bored or something and not have anyone that wants to hang with her cuz she sounds a bit clingy), but make sure you keep a level head about you because how you react to her clingy-ness could make you look bad.
263908
First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
151129
I'm sorry, but this isn't your choice.  It is their house and their rules.  You can ask them but you need to respect their decision.  If you don't like their answer then you and your boyfriend need to get a place of your own.
892490
Women, eh? She likes you. Enjoys your company. Is obviously jealous of your other girlfriends. Doesn't want to add the physical. No, I don't really understand either. \n\nDoes she have other boyfriends? Perhaps she's afraid of spoiling what you have.... Or perhaps she's immature; enjoys the power of knowing that you fancy her, keeping you dangling?\n\nIt's not fair to you for her to say 'No' to you-know-what, but go into a strop if you go out with someone else.\nThe 'other woman' thing was good, gave her something to think about - she was definately jealous, or hurt. \n\nMy advice is to back off. Maybe you're smothering her. Give her a bit of time & space; let her come to you. It might take a bit of time. But I believe that the best partnerships are based on friendship that develops into love. It sounds as though all the elements are there in your relationship, but she needs a bit of time. I hope so. All the best!\n\nI had a very good friend once. I didn't fancy him, didn't want to take it further. Then, one night, when it was time for him to go home, I realised that I didn't want him to go...  It was as much as a surprise to me as to him!\n\nP.S. Don't wait for her forever.
565407
I think you did the right thing by letting your boyfriend know how you felt about it. If he wants to have a moocher friend over, fine, but let your boyfriend foot the bill. If your boyfriend has a problem with that and wants you to pay for his moocher friends, perhaps a new boyfriend would be in order. Good luck!
388189
Here's what really happened.  We'll call your boyfriend bob and you Jane and this other chick Sarah.\n\nSo Jane and bob are dating and Bob sees this chick Sarah who he thinks is really really hot and he's like OMG i would love to have sex with her.  But bob does love Jane and doesn't want to hurt her.  How do i have sex with Sarah and not betray Jane??  Bob asks himself.  Then he comes up with a plan.  "Jane" he says "me and you needs to take a break"\n"ummmm OK" Jane says :(\nring ring\n"hello?" Sarah says\n"this is bob.  OMG i want to have sex with you!!!!"&#92;\n"OMG Bob you are a total loser- aren;t you dating Jane??"\n"yeah but we took a break"\n"yeah, like YESTERDAY.  You loser!" CLICK\n\n\nomg.  bob thinks.  i AM a loser.  \n\nRING RING\n"hello?"\n"Jane this is bob.  i want you back."\n"but i heard about Sarah you loser."\n"oh i was just calling her for some other dude"\n"oh OK!  I love you!!!"\n\n\nPOSSIBLE ENDING:\n\nJane decides she's not so sure about bob.  she gets on yahoo answers and people let her know that bob is in fact a LOSER.\n\nRING RING\n\n"hello"\n"bob this is Jane,  i want to take a break.  A PERMANENT ONE."  :)\n\ntHE END\n\nand Jane lived a happy- loser free life.
835121
GIRL dont u dare move that girl into your house!!! Your man wont be just yours for long if you do. That's like a personal invite for her to come in & take all that she sees & they'll swear up & down its "just sex", no strings attached. PLEASE. Dont let them play you. Be a woman & stand up for what u know in your heart is right & do what makes u the most comfortable. If your man outs up a fight with this decision, then there u go. U already know sumthing isnt right if he's that insistent on moving her in. I wish my girlfriend would try to move another chick into MY house....HA!!!
810093
Some people can be extremely convincing and have mastered the art of the mind game. However, these people are relatively easy to beat if you do your homework. What you need to do is make this woman come forward with some proof of this cheating and if she can't do it, then she has nothing to go by. Also, if your boyfriend is willing to accept the story from this woman and has completely disregarded what you've said, then either he's been likewise brainwashed by this woman or has some trust issues with you. Rumors are rumors and are always started by someone with interests...perhaps this woman is after YOUR boyfriend!
142810
Show your boyfriend why you are better for him than she is. Be attentive to his needs, laugh at his jokes, be there for him and avoid places that the witch will be at.
298413
I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.
783397
hi sorry about your girlfriend if she realy is cheating confront her tell her you know about the other boyfriend ! tell her how she hurt you and then say you think it would be best if we split. if she calls you after this don't pick up it . if she comes to your house don't answer the door . she is unfaithful  even if she says she will break up with him i know its hard to hear but she is most likely lieing to you she does not love you if she did she would not have cheated you deserve better . i'm very sorry about what she did to you . if you are good guy you will find some one who loves you and would never cheat on you ! Hope every thing works out ! God Bless!
230367
go with your gut feeling, trust that you will be better off in the long run and also listen really carefully to the context of her conversation to see if she shares anything intimate about her feelings about different things she may have done or things that she would never do. If you don't tell your boyfriend how you feel how is he supposed to know unless he is a mind reader.It takes two to play games.
828732
Invest in some Rubbermaid storage containers for your partner.  I guess the best thing to do would be to wash your own dishes after you cook.  By kicking her out of the kitchen, you may make her feel unwanted and there may be some resentment there.  I feel your pain.  I had a roommate that I love to death and he was pretty clumsy.  But you have to love the person more than you do the bakeware.