My son just referred to an acquaintance of his as a "tool".?
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Basically a synonym for "idiot"\n\nhttp://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tool
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Go ahead - talk to him.  Makes good practice and don't let anyone else's comments affect you.
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Support your son.  Let him know that you'll be proud, no matter his occupation.\nAs far as the bad attitude, listen to what he's saying.  Try to listen without judgement, without forming your responses while he talks.  Paraphrase back to him his thoughts/concerns, to make sure you understand.  Once he feels understood, he will be more likely to listen to you.  He may not agree with all you are saying, just as you may  not agree with him, but you'll be communicating!  That can't be wrong.
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Call him a "squid" <--- Kinda like calling a Marine a "Jarhead" or "Leatherneck" Or an Air Force guy a "Fly Boy". It's not an insault. It is kinda the same thing you and your brother do except it is brothers (& sisters) In Arms.
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If you can't find him I would say call the police if it has been a long time. Also, maybe you could try to talk to his son, and since he sounds greedy it might not work, get a good lawyer, but make sure you know all the facts before hand.
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It's not a friend, it's a tool. If someone calls it their friend, they don't mean it literally.\n\nRawlyn.
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Take courage and confront him.  Ask him to explain exactly what he meant by those comments, or tell him that you will be forced to report him for sexual harrassment.  Under no circumstances do you report him without first asking him to explain (as it MIGHT be possible the comments were misunderstood... he might just be a poor joker)!
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You need to work on your question.  \n\nCan your son be arrested for trespassing on mall property?  \n\nYes.  (and he was, so that seems like a no-brainer).\n\nCan he be arrested for trespassing on mall property for ordering a meal to go at an independent fast food place?\n\nSee above.  \n\nCan he be arrested for doing what you've described above, when he was (according to you), only asked to stay out of the inside of the mall?\n\nWell, again...he *was* arrested, so evidently he *can* be.  \n\nBut I suppose this is the crux of your question, right?  Since he wasn't actually inside the mall, and was only in one of the fast food joints that are in the parking lot (and it's not attached to the mall??), is he actually guilty of trespassing?  I would suggest not.  If the fast food joint is attached to the mall, and especially if it's got an entrance into the mall proper, I'd suggest he's guilty, even if he came in through the door that's facing the parking lot.  Ridiculous, really, what the law can sometimes hinge on.\n\nWhat can you do?\n\nHire an really expensive lawyer, and see if you can get your son off on some minor technicality.  That'll show him that when he does what he's been asked not to do, someone will find a way to keep him from being held accountable for his actions.\n\nOkay, that's a little tongue-in-cheek, but I stand by it for the most part.\n\nYour kid got told to take a hike.  My reasonable assumption is that he was told that because his behavior wasn't consistent with behavior the mall owners want their patrons exposed to.  Your kid is a knucklehead for coming within a mile of the place after he was told to go away.\n\nBut kids are knuckleheads sometimes, and that's part of being a kid.  The thing is, at 16, this kind of thing really is going to be a very minor speed bump in his life.  You and he probably don't see it that way now (your kid wanna be President some day?) and I understand that.  Assuming he's never been in trouble with the law in the past, and assuming you have all the facts, I'd be surprised if he got anything more than a slap on the wrist...maybe some community service time or whatever.  \n\nSo what you can do is talk to your kid now about what he did, and what would have been a better way to deal with this situation.  When you get to court (and are you sure you're going to *court*, and not just the Probation Department for what's often called a "cite hearing"?) you can explain that you and the little devil have talked at great length about his offense and he understands what he did wrong and knows a better way to deal with this in the future and blah, blah, blah...tell them what you think they want to hear, and get your kid to be a little smarter in the future about things like this.\n\nYou can hire an attorney, or you might be able to qualify for the public defender.  \n\nYou can throw yourself on the mercy of the Court, ask to be publicly flogged, and insist on taking your son's punishment for him.  It won't work, but it will humor the heck out of everybody there.\n\nLook: I don't want your kid punished unfairly any more than you do.  I've got three of my own, they've all done knucklehead things themselves at one time or another, and I've stood up for them if there was somewhere reasonable to stand.  If your kid really was told only to stay out of the inside of the mall, and he wasn't *in* the mall, then I think that's a real reasonable place for you to stand and support your kid...if they didn't want him on the property at all, that's what they should have told him.  \n\nIf he truly didn't understand where he could and could not be, then advocate for him.  If you think he knew he was pulling a fast one, let him get spanked for it...he needs to be held accountable for what he's done, if you think he did what he knew he wasn't supposed to do.  He's not going to
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ill ask my son about that
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not to make the father out to sound bad but i would be a little worried as well. check the child for signs of abuse. make sure they know that it's okay to tell you anything even if you have to make up a little game to play (i.e. get them to tell a toy what they do on the weekend with daddy). like i said i don't want to make an innocent man sound bad but they arent' always innocent. if my child behaved that way i would not let them see the father again until i knew for damn sure why. check it out.
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Sounds like someone got a hold of him and told him something nasty about you.  You might to want to set the record straight.
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He's obviously an @ss, I would get some psychological help for your son as soon as possible so he doesn't end up with abandonment issues and blaming himself for his biological (only) father not wanting to see him. Good riddance to him, sorry for you and your son.
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Often times children mimic what they know. You've established he was abused... so unless someone helped him as a child (counseling) this person now probably has a distorted view of sex, boundaries, etc. This child may one day pay by doing something to someone who not only will speak up, but PRESS CHARGES!
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I have told friends personal info over the years.  Nothing like "I was rapped as a small boy" type things.  More along the lines of "wow your mom is banging dude!"  They took it pretty well, and after a few days the swelling on my face went down, so everyone was happy :)  Hope that helped you.  But if you are looking into something like "I'm gay" just go ahead and tell them.  What's the worst that can happen?  He won't like you anymore?  Well, if he is a homophobic and you are gay, well them he wasn't a good friend anyway and you are better off without him.  Have I helped yet?  I hope so.
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uve got a son and ur 14? and ur sons friend wants to know? think bout what ur typing b4 u do it
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Listen to him more and convince him that he does not need friends, seriously, or convince him that everybody are his friends. BTW how old is your son? I know about this kind of thing cause I suffered this before.\n\nContact: rateofspeed@hotmail.com
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Hello!! :o) Like some others who have already responded - I'm also curious as to how you know. But lets just assume that you 'accidentally' saw your son and his friend give each other 'hand jobs'. Contrary to what some guys say - a LOT of guys [especially young guys like your son] 'experiment' with each other. And more often than not - it goes no farther than 'mutual masturbation'. It's not a 'sign' of anything insofar as sexual orientation is concerned. [If it was - than MOST guys would be GAY - because MOST guys have had at least SOME same-sex 'experience'!!] But should you DO something about it?! Well... like what?! You certainly can't make it stop. You could - I suppose - threaten him or shame him. But that would just backfire and destroy whatever relationship you have with him. A parent always wants to keep the doors open [Emotionally speaking] and a sure way of closing those 'doors' is to make a child feel ashamed for being HUMAN. IF [and this is a BIG 'IF'] you have a good relationship with your son - and HAVE in past talked openly about things, including [perhaps] sex - you COULD bring up the topic in a 'round-about way. Without actually talking about him [and his friend] specifically [at least not at first] you could mention how normal it IS for kids to 'experiment' sexually with their friend. And let him know that THAT is OK. But also let him know that it's important to be careful about not getting carried away and doing things that maybe he [and his friend] shouldn't BE doing. THEN let him know that your 'door' is always open and he CAN talk to you about anything. AND that anything he tells you will be kept private. [And keep that promise!!] Saying anymore to him at this stage would probably just confuse him. I hope that helps. Craig!! :o)