about 1 hour ago i told my childrens father of 5 years that 21/2 years ago i cheated on him w/his freind......
446669
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
570011
WHEN I SIGNED MY DIVORCE PAPERS!!!!!!!
880020
It will get better. Same thing happened to me same week the youngest turned 18 See ya later!!! It happens nothing you can do about it. Keep yourself as distant from it all as you can if not you will never heal. If the children still want a relationship with you then be there for them.. Stay busy get lots of friends maybe a good time to find a good church.. Your free to do what you want take advantage of it make yourself have fun start your quest to find that one that is your best friend and wants to be with you for you not because you have a pay check.....Good luck
852113
Don't let your kids call someone else Dad unless you are married to that person.  You are jacking up you daughter.   Shame!
1052013
dude thats a horrible thing a parent could tell their child....id be pretty pissed, hurt, and confused...
1182397
I would tell him what is going on, but ask him not to say you are the one who told him. To have him kind of "spy" on the situation when he is around and for him to see his g/f not caring for the kids and being on the computer all the time. This is not healthy for the kids. No one should leave a 2 & 4 year old child outside alone! No matter where you live. I think you would be doing the right thing by telling him. Personally, I know I would tell him, if it was me.\nGood luck.
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None .  I'm sorry you have to go through something like that . I will remember you in my Prayers tonight . My kids went through that and now they don't speak to him b/c of empty promise's on his part .But my kids are fine and they have a awesome father in there life that Loves them more than words can say . I pray that is what will happen in your life . May God Bless and Keep you in his warm embrace . Rest in knowing that he is the one missing out not you.
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look i dont know the nature of that boy and neither the age..cuz older they r..they bcom a bit more sensible...so..i dont know all that but i know ur situation.....u did a good job..telling him all that truth..cuz the better it is if it comes bfore from u then anyone else.....so u did 100% correct thing.........\nnow bout the thing that whether he'll talk to u or not.....just stop worrying bout that......go ahead and talk to him if he does not comes to u.....dont feel any guilt...cuz that wass right wat u did...jst initiate a talk about anything else and if u feel the things getting right at their original way then resume this matter...just try to take this matter in a calm way and u'll understand it in a better way then...\nbelieve me.....ive seen many such cases and i know ur condition..have faith in urself..u did the right thing.....just stay clam and do all ive said...best of all ur luck !!!!
218005
tell him you will tell your perents next time and if he comes back call the police
570614
Counsler....now! I went through that and nobody cared if i did it or not. My parents simply did not care...I'm so glad that you care enough to help! Get him/her help now! I'm sure they will greatly appreciate it!
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Yes I did.... I was 19, he was 42. It lasted 11 years. He didn't work regularly, was abusive, unfaithful, and couldn't tell the truth about what he ate for lunch, let alone something important. BUT, he gave me a gorgeous, intelligent, sweet child. So, I have what I have and I am who I am, in part, because of that relationship,...so no, not one single regret.
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I am 62 years old and my children are well settled. I sit alone and recollect all things happent in my life right from my age of 6. I feel for all bad things I did and repent for them.
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I did.  Nothing to be proud of but i did.  Well he was a mean and hateful person.  He was even mean to one of my kids and the other he favored.  Everything had to go his way!  When we ran out of food at the house on time, he went to get a hamburger and fries and came home and ate it in front of us!!  We were hungry!!  What a caretaker he was!!  That still doesnt make everything allright enough for me to go cheat, i know.  But i wanted out and first chance i got, i did it!!  Now i seem like the bad guy, huh?
542014
Don't hurt him if you do not have too. It sounds like you have already turned your life around-you do not and have not cheated for a long time. You have already changed.  A past mistake (we all have regrets) is haunting you-it is ok to feel regrets. If you were still cheating-I would say you have a problem-but you have corrected that behavior. You are a different person now-enjoy this person and hopefully you will not revert back.\n Hindsight you have already paid for that mistake-years of guilt. And you already know the hurt it could bring. Now work on making your life the one you want to be. Do you want to be the cause of pain to someone now? Admitting this without cause will create much hurt-don't do it. Is there a reason for this?  Move on and be the person you really want to be, the past is the past nothing can change that-not a thing.\n Rather you believe in the Bible or not-there is a man named Paul(Saul was his given name-change to Paul)-who in the beginning killed many Christians-later he change and became a very strong Christian. Did he have regrets-many-but he worked on a better man-and continue on this way-few mention his past mistakes-but many remember his good works. He didn't boast or bring up his past sins-but continued on a fine course. And I bet it help him in his dealings with those who did error. \n Get busy(and stay busy) with proper actions and thoughts-there is plenty to do there. Best Wishes
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He's worthless.....so start weaning your kids from him.  Never talk bad about him in front of the kids.....they'll eventually will learn and have their own opinions of him.  Any father who doesn't want to spend time with his children is a worthless piece of sh*t.  If worse gets to worse....you could always tell the kids that he moved far away.   Best of luck to you..........
506266
Still?  As in, he has admitted to it before?  Are you sure?\n\nIf he has done this in the past, or is STILL doing it, you need to address it right now.  Send the kids to grandma's, make a big pot of coffee, and prepare to talk all night.\nIf he has done this before, don't let him put a guilt trip on you by claiming you don't trust him.  Tell him that you need to know the truth so you can make your decisions for your life.  \n\nHoney, this is just too complicated to discuss on the net.  You need to call your best friend, or better yet, your mom, and spill your guts.  Then calmly talk to him.  If need be, tell him you're taking a night away from home to think.\n\nBut if you're not sure, and he hasn't done this before, tread lightly.  \n\nGood luck, sugar, God Bless.
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You made a mistake how can telling him correct the mistake?  Is your purpose in telling him to help him or attempt to lessen your guilt? Perhaps you want him to feel as bad as you do.  Perhaps you want him to assume some of the guilt and responsibility for your actions.  I would not want to be told because once you told me there is nothing I could do to fix it.  \n\nI suggest you try and get your lifes back to normal as soon as possible if you want to continue the relationship.  You say you have a " fiance".  I am sure you are aware that in several States you have a "husband".  In Texas living together, purchasing and or estasblishing a home together, having a child together, living together for over a year, allowing someone even one time to believe you are a married couple are all ground for the State to declare your relationship a "Common Law Marriage" if ever you separated. \n\nPerhaps you will recall the guilt you are suffering the next time you are tempted to cheat and will not do it again.  You made a statement that is very confusing to me, "... this relationship couldn"t get any better!" obviously it could.  Why would you be tempted to cheat if the relastionship was so perfect and you were aware of it.  I believe a problem exist and the two of you should try to find it.  You have an emotional need that is not being met and that is what you should have communicated before you cheated.  It is not too late to begin communicating those needs now becuase those are the things you two together can fix.\n\nThe time you would spend telling him about somthing neither of you can change should be spent trying to discover the real reason you cheated in the first place and fix it.  I do not think perfect relationships exist and good relationships are hard to come by.  It seems to me your relationship is worth saving and protecting and I do not think telling will make the relationship better or preserve it.  Good luck.