affection or real problem?
455157
I just wanted to encourage you. I have serious dating anxiety. I really like people but I always just give and give and so therefore I have trouble even considering dating anyone right now.
483152
I would suspect that if he doesn't know that you exist, then what you have is not love but affection, or perhaps infatuation.  that is okay, there is nothing wrong, but it is important to recognize the difference.  Regardless, there is but one thing you can do.  talk to him.  You must put the question in the light and let the dialogue lead you.  If you cannot do this, then you must recognize the crush for what it is, and regrettably move on.  Likely, there will be many more to consider and further oppurtunities to embrace.
587441
its psychological. talk to him about it a bit...it could be just a phase. we guys are wierd...all sorts of stuff affects us in all different ways. I would say just talk to him about it.
1010924
So it is ok when you are tired and not interested, but not ok when he is tired and not interested?\n\nMaybe there is something going on here that isn't about you and your needs...
19053
i think the arguing is a clue that there is a lack of love somewhere. remember actions speak louder than words. only you will know if he truly loves you or not
415057
just bc you stop having sex it doesnt mean you guys are losing affection... there are plenty of other things to do... other than sex to show that you love each other... dont worry about.. it if you guys stop having sex and end up losing affection then you guys need to rethink the relationship.... was it the fact that you guys love each other??? or was it the sex...
434508
Yo9u are dealing with two different people, with different emotional feelings, thoughts, etc.  If there is absolutely no physical attraction for either, I would say yes, if there is then "no".  Tough question, because you have to know the people involved.
552534
You have to decide is this forever problem.. or a "Im just not feeling it" problem.\n\nIs the root of the problem.. you.. him... outside inclunces.\n\nIf you are not feeling it.. and then not being there for him in the bedroom.. things will become damaged.\n\nMen very very often equate love to sex.  Right or wrong.. its a reality.   If you are able to share yourself with him, then you will at least give him a belief that things are ok.\n\nIf you think the problem is not a forever, then I would recommend having relations..but also let him know there is a problem.. and try to work with him about it.\n\nIf you think its all over, then stop the sex and get yourself out the door to move things to where youw ill be happy.\n\nIts better for him and its better for you.  You don't want to be feeling like a "whore" having sex with someone you do not love just for a life.  (Please understand I am not saying you should feel like that.. but that is the natrual next feeling).
796331
A few more details would be nice.  Sexual love? Friendship love?  Long term?  I guess I can only tell you that only you can discover what the problem is then judge the effort needed to correct it and decide if it is indeed worth the effort.  True love is.  Anything else should be let go.
668195
Since you people are close enough why do not discuss with him? Once you talk it out definitely a solution will arise.Let it be in such a way that both of you are happy with it. By the way true love does not fade by distances . So also being together definitely brings mental satisfaction in true love. As for the conditions in India it will definitely not be a problem if you take the decision whole heartedly.
1057971
Yes, I have that way, and, yes, it is normal and natural.  The problem is when a person feels unlovable for too long or that they are obsessed with the thought that nobody could ever love them that those thoughts and feelings can be a serious problem.
777434
Why not? Physical or emotional handicap? If it's medical see a doctor, if it's emotional/mental you may need to see a therapist, if it's your relationship then you need to work on renewing that. It's as simple as do you both still enjoy each other's company?
843107
Yes if the feelings for each other is sincere and everything else is in place, surely you can't knock someone back because of where they come from. Except you are saying it might be a problem because of the distance, I can understand that but then you can work round that provided both of you are committed to travelling and ensuring that the relationship works. Finding true love is not something that happens everyday and as such if you are lucky to find it,  enjoy it.
117739
it might just be a chemical love. I had that back in the day once haha but you should wait awhile before you tell her and give it some time to see if it is really love.
628288
You're describing what essentially are problems all people cope with simply because two people can never always be on the same emotional level all the time. There will always be times in any relationship when two people will be experiencing completely different moods and emotions and it's at these times when our relationships are truly tested for compatibility, sincerity and mutual respect. It's also each persons responsibility to that relationship to acknowledge the other for their patience, love and understanding during those times of test. If we can do this together then those times when we're not on the same 'playing field' of moods and emotions then the relationship will survive and ultimately grow stronger. \nHowever, if your relationship is experiencing an increased frequency of these varying moods and arguing is becoming more prevalent between you then my opinion would be that this could simply be because in reality, you're not compatible enough in personalities, beliefs and common goals to be in this relationship to start with.\n\nI wish you the best!!
394297
I think there might be some mental disturbance. Both of you need to see doctors, it happens sometimes in such relationships, as you would admit its kinda different then normal. More over are you sure you are completely healthy?
156080
I don't believe you can love someone too much but you can be so attentive that a person can feel smothered. It would depend on what he considers too much and the actual circumstance. If you are devoting 100 percent to him, then its too much. If you are not taking care of yourself and spending time focusing on self then it is way to much. Sometimes what your giving is great but sometimes it is not received like that. I would spend time really looking at the situation, maybe sharing your thoughts with family and friends who know you both and see what their assessment is as well.