What do I do when my 14 year old friend is mad at me for me trying to help her stop smoking? And what can I do
439667
She has to WANT to quit, and if she doesn't, nothing you say can get her to quit. Smokers have an "I'll do it if I want to, dammit!" reflex that makes them get pissed off if you try to help them and they don't want help. This is true even if she tried to quit and then decided it was easier to keep smoking. There's not really a lot you can do other than drop the subject.
431175
I would tell my friend what this girl did to me and see what she says. But I have been in that situation before. My friend liked this girl who smoked and was really bad. I just ignored it though.
860551
Ok..you need to talk to them. Ask them why they have such a problem w/ you. Tell them that youre not talking to the devil & thats crazy anyways. Tell them that you have asthama & would never encourage your friend to do something that would hurt them in the long run. Tell them that youre actually trying to make her stop. Theres nothing you can do if they dont listen then. Even have your friend be there to help discuss so she can back you up on it. Good luck hun.
906856
Nicotine addicts rights end at the tip of my nose. If they don't like it, to bad. No one should be forced to share a smokers rude and deadly habit, especially children and the elderly, who don't normally stand up for themselves.
653466
Who cares if he smokes just let him and tell him that you dont care as long as he doesnt do it around you. You cant make someone quit it is a hard thing to do so dont waste your time good luck
519833
u need to tell ur friend thats gettin mad that there really isnt a reason to be mad...if there is a reason...its stupid...and juss tell them how u feel about it.
868406
Every kind of smoking is dangerous, even second hand or directly inhaling it. If you haven't asked to stop I would try and ask her to stop smoking. To much smoking can cause Bronchitis, bronchitis is a condition, (if you don't already know), when her bronchial tubes(which bring air to the lungs) are inflamed. Severe bronchitis can lead to pneumonia, which is a sharp increase in the amount of fluid in the lungs. If pneumonia isn't treated it can be fatal. If she doesn't listen to you I would try and call a doctor to try and help her stop smoking. I'll pray for you to.\n\n, Good luck, and God bless.
680425
Is there some way that you could get some anti-smoking pamplets and put them around the house where she could see them?  Possibly from school or a community area.  Also, you might try writing her a heart felt letter or writing a page in your mock (pretend) diary for her to find (maybe accidentally leave it open)  You could say something like: I love my mom but I feel that she is killing herself and she is affecting me.  It feels like I can't breath and I am afraid that I will get cancer from her second hand smoke.  Something like this might help.
558989
First grashopper, get rid of your own ignorance, then you may smash the ignorance from others,\n\nalso consider, why are you mad at a stranger over the internet who is probably a teenage boy with a bong and a hairy back and braces and a stack of daddys pornography
971831
This happened to me when I was 13. My parents gave me the anti-smoking talk and I got yelled at very badly. They also never let me see my friends again. Taking friends away doesn't stop smoking. I know you made a bad decision, but everyone has to make their own decision and feed their curiosity. I never really made good friends with anyone in high school after my parents decided to take mine away. When I come home from college, I don't really have much to do. My mom regrets her decision of taking my friends, because they really help your development into who you will become. None of those girls that i was banned from smoke today, and neither do I. It was not our punishments that kept us from smoking, it was our decision to live healthy. everyone must have their first cigarette at some point, and in my case, my first cigarette convinced me not to smoke. The spanking your parents gave you was appropriate, but stealing your childhood friends was not. They need to sit down with your friends parents and have a discussion on how to keep you out of trouble, not just cage you away from trouble. you are growing up and making decisions and your parents need to recognize that. If you are not allowed to make the right decision over the wrong now, you may never be able to.
452838
Sorry hon, but this is a case that you can't do much with. THey are messing with stuff that will get them in trouble and messup their entire lives. You may just have to decide that you need new friends, before they bring you down too.\n\nI had a friend in hs like that, SHe was always messing with older guys and trying to get me too. I finally had to tell her that I couldn't hang out with her if she wsa doing those things. It really hurt, because she choose the drugs and the boys over our friendship, but I am glad I did it. \n\nShe has like four kids with four guys and is always high on meth. I am glad that my life isn't like that. But I am really sad when I see her like that.\n\nBottom line, you have to do what is best for you, your pot-head friends will drag you down.
419047
ok first off...your 15 and he's 16 and you both smoke? yea thats your first mistake..its bad to smoke at 30 much less 15 when your lungs arent near as strong..first you gotta stop smoking..are you selfish to ask him to and for you to keep doing it..YES..as long as you do, he's going too..As for what you can do..Nothing really..Just be there for him..Lung cancer is a tough and usually unpleasent thing..But its not necessarily an immediate death sentance..Just be there and be supportive..AND STOP SMOKING..STOP SMOKING EVERYTHING
981199
go to a school counselor or a teacher and tell them what is happening. They can take it from there. Your friend may get mad at you and never talk to you but will have you to thank for it later when she has a life. She can be doing a lot of damage or could kill herself from it. Be a true friend and seek help for her.
674817
let her know that smoking is really bad for her health and let her know that it bothers you when she smokes...explain to her the type of health problems that caused by smoking...my mother used to smoke..and we always tell her to stop smoking...we let her know that its a bad habit...that we care about her..and not ready to lose her as our mother..and its been 4 years that she's a smoke- free...
542020
Similar story myself with smoking and not listening to parent, so I think you are doing the right thing not going crazy, as it didnt work for me. I think maybe she may be smoking as she thinks it is cool and out of subtle peer pressure to fit in with friends.  Perhaps you could try bribery.  It is best to deal with it now so that she does not get addicted.  What is her weak spot, is she very concerned about her appearance? Cos you could talk about her ageing faster is she smokes.  I dont know as kids dont see themselves as ever getting old and they think they are immortal.  I would explain that young people can get lung cancer too and they can also get cancer of the tongue and mouth which is becoming more common, and this would be awful, and not glamarous at all.  I do think bribery may be the best option, I do sympathise, every parent wants to protect their children, if only they could learn from our mistakes. good luck.                 Also the other comment gave me an idea you could get her to exhale smoke out through a tissue, it will come out yellow and will give her an idea of how black her lungs will turn if she keeps smoking\n\nCould I add  that I dont think you should be buying her cigarettes (if you are), that is sanctioning it and you cant appear to be that in favour of it.      Maybe she doesn't even like smoking and it is all show.  My guess is like most kids she may not be inhaling smoke properly anyway - (lots of kids do grow out of this phase)                                        \n\nIf you want to stop smoking yourself I found Paul Mckennas hypnotheraphy dvd combined with 4 mg nicotine gum made it suprisingly easy to give up (you still need a bit of will power, but the dvd helps you forget as long as you listen to it for 1st week or 2 once a day.  I failed 1st time as I did not listen to it enough but 2nd time it worked brilliantly and that is after 14 years smoking.
227246
The wish to stop smoking has to come from inside. Nothing you do will make your mom stop if she doesn't really WANT to.\nYou can, however, keep telling her how much you love her, how you want her to be with you for many years to come. Never fight, never confront her: just let her know.\nI was a very heavy smoker (three packs of cigarettes a day), and I quit 14 years ago after various unsuccessful attempts. What worked for me was the nicotine patch.\nI do believe that, when you are a smoker, your body becomes addicted to a certain amount of nicotine in the blood. The patch took care of that addiction, and then I only had to fight the sensation of not having something in my hand or my mouth. That is easier to fight than the physical addiction to the drug, because that is what it is.\nIt was not as excruciating as I thought it would be, and I have gone through very stressful situations in these years without resorting to a cigarette for comfort.\nI am so proud of my achievement that I dare put myself as an example in this matter.\nThere are many new products she could try: patches, chewing gum, ask around. Quitting cold turkey is extremely hard. I know I couldn't have done it.\nShow her my answer. Let her know those things do help. They do.\nI hope you will all succeed. The smells, the flavors, the deep breaths you can take without coughing, the stairs you can climb without suffocating, it's all worth it.
1069446
To be open and give her your advise is better way.\nYou can make her understand that she made other people upset with her attitude this long. and what has she done can put her in trouble someday and maybe will make her friends stay back from her soon or latter.\nTry to open her mind about this, choose a sweet way and polite words to avoid irritating her. \n\nIf you do this way, means that you have change your friendship...to a better and quality one!!! coz this whats friends are for....\nGood Luck.