opinion on resident abuse.?
437194
If you're talking about nursing homes & group homes, I think it's very, very wrong.  Disgusting in fact...in every form, whether it be verbal or physical abuse.  I used to work in a group home & I'm very passionate about such a topic, I guess.  But I won't go off on a rant here.\n\nIf you're speaking about residents as in tenants being abused by landlords, then I would wonder about the circumstances of the situation.  I now work in real estate/rentals and know from first hand experience that some people will cry "abuse" when you try to enforce the rules, no matter how fairly you enforce them.  For instance, I don't think it's abuse to tell a resident that they can't use the pool at midnight when it's in the lease & rules that the pool is locked at 11 pm.  But if you're talking about a landlord whacking a tenant with a lead pipe...that's a whole different story.  :)
663374
If it's ongoing, absolutely.\nIf it happens more than once......ZERO response along with one cold, glassy, look. \nThat person is a pig.\nIf it's in the workplace, go immediately to your Human Resources Manager.  Not to some employee in there.  You go immediately to the Head Honcho. Bang on the door if you have to.\nI'm a "Take No Prisoners" sort.  You are being abused and it's unacceptable.\nDon't let anyone tell you differently.\nNot one person in this world deserves being abused in any way, shape or form.\nYou take care of yourself and good luck.
1065428
I can understand what you are going through. The first call I made was the day my granddaughter was born. My daughter was using drugs and leaving the baby with whoever would take her for days at a time. Everytime I called to report her, I was told that they would have to catch her in the act. Even though she had been caught in the act on more than one occasion, the baby was not taken from her until she was ten months old. That was almost six months ago and now I'm fighting the foster care agency and child welfare. There are times that I wished I had never made those calls because now my grand baby is worse off than she was with her mother. She's been moved ten times in five months and has developed a fear of men. \n\nNot being a blood relative, there is little you can do legally but you can be supportive of your boyfriend.  He will need an attorney to get through this tough time. Perhaps you can suggest to the daughter that the two of you would be willing to keep the children until she is in a better position. I found out the hard way that attacking my daughter for her abusive behavior made matters worse. I finally accepted her the way she was and she slowly started to see that what she was doing was harmful. We are now working together to get the baby placed in my home and our relationship has blossomed.\n\nThere are many resources online that may help you. Try a search on kinship care and grandparent's rights in your area. I wish you all the best.
130331
I am a teacher, and they tell us it is high.  Any type of abusers were usually abused themselves.  Talk to a psychologist or psychology teacher for more insight on this.
759249
Your last question said it was your grandfather abusing you.  So now I'm confused.  Anyways, if this person is still living with you then go to a school counsellor, trusted teacher or even your medical doctor and discuss the problem with them.  They have a legal obligation to report such incidences to the police.  That way you don't have to report it yourself, but of course the police will want to talk to you later about it.  Even if you have been in trouble in the past, the police are obligated to investigate your allegations.  Don't be afraid to tell and when you have to give your story make sure you tell them everything and be clear about it all.  If necessary ask to be put into a foster home or move in with another relative or even a close friend for awhile.
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You don't say anything about your homelife.  You have to have a very good reason for it.  If you could get a job w/in walking distance, I think they consider that reasonable.  I put up with a lot of physical and mental abuse until I was old enough to leave home .... and I still recommend staying at home as long as you can.  If it is your homelife that is the problem, get Social Services involved.
1103411
I agree with you and I don't believe we should dismiss these kind of blatant abuses under the catchall idea that the person being victimized is old enough to know better. Clearly, your mother has some serious self-esteem issues if she finds any of what you are describing as not only acceptable, but forgiveable. Until she addresses whatever inside herself tolerates such bad behavior, she is doomed to repeat the same mistake in the next relationship even if she left this guy. Unfortunately, society also forces women into this position because, truth is, an attached woman (regardless of what kind of man she is attached to) is considered to be better than an unattached one. Sad, but the reality we live in.\n\nPersonally, if I was in that situation I would move out and tell my mother that I can not bear witness to her self destruction. It might be harsh, but sometimes people have to feel the void in order to realize how their actions negatively impact those around them.
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I'm an pediatrics resident in New Orleans. I worked during and for 3 days after the hurricane at Children's hospital.  Our program is back up and running, and I've been working @ Children's since it reopened on Oct 10th.\n\nI have never heard of this cold shoulder - it sounds rediculous.  I have only received praises for what was actually a part of my duties.  It was a learning experience that I will never forget.
609533
One of my buddies used to work in housekeeping at a HOSPITAL.  Now think about that for a while and see if that would be worse than housekeeping at a hotel.\n\nI think housekeeping at a hospital would be worse.
257630
Yes, as a matter of fact I have.I was 17 years old at the time and the experience still give me nightmares.However psyhciatric wards are not as bad as they are often made out. The staff was really friendly and helpful and held on to  hope for me when I couldn't myself. They saved my life and I am eternally grateful to them. THe nightmares are of the seclusion room...but I won't go into that.
335344
Well. From a canadian point of view, I am personally a fan of Public Health care. When working properly, it is fantastic. It's not working well now, but that's beside the point. I am not a big supporter of the American system, however. I went there for a camp last summer, and my brother made friends with a little boy. One day, when they were playing, the top of the tire swing came off and hit the little boy in the head so hard that both of his eyes were looking different ways. His family simply bundled him up and raised his feet up, and refused to take him to the hospital because they couldn't afford it. I don't know what happened to that kid, but I expect he had some serious damage done to his brain. It could have been prevented if his family had been able to pay for a doctor. Hence, I think your system really sucks. No offence intended.
82480
yes i have been in most of my life and it's not what others expect depends on the state and the facility u are put in along with the care u recive there i agree some of them should be closed down due to the things that happends in there i was rped and locked in rooms, chained down to the bed and given muscle relaxors just because the nurses didnt want to be bothered with me other places actually listened to me and what was going on so it just depends on the place and the people that are running it
991602
Definitely, no one deserves that kind of disrespect. PLus, it takes such a toll on you physically and mentally. It's not worth it.
451581
a friend of mine was wrongly committed to an institution. he told me that the electric shock therapy that he received would render him unable to talk, he could hardly move afterwards, they woke him up every morning at 5 and strapped him to a chair and shocked him. His family would come to visit in the afternoon, he would sit in a chair unable to talk to them, unable to sit up straight, they would ask the doctors what was wrong with him, the doctor would shake his head, and they would walk away and cry and he would cry. \n\nI feel deeply sorry for anyone who has undergone this sort of thing.
600128
well done, it needed to be said.  but look you said it yourself too 'i was in an abusive situation once...it took me some time (as i was younger and less experienced)'  \n\ndo you realize that a LOT of people on here are teenagers who are at that 'younger and less [life] experienced' phase that you were at?\n\nit's good that you are here to shout sense into people..sorry to hear of your abusive encounter before. hope as many people as possible read your post here today and get some thinkin going on!
164556
I had this private years ago who disobeyed a lawful order. I told him 3 times to do someting while we were in a truck. After the 3rd time I told him, he sucker punched me and was flailing me pretty good. I reached up, took the good old angle flashlight off of my LBE(it had one extra ring on it from an old flashlight) and hauled off and smacked that dude into next week with it. He got court marshaled,I got transfered out of that crappy unit that babied him to the point he thought he could get away with such things.He had a blsck eye for 2 months and a bad conduct discharge. THATS the best use of an angleheadflashlight I had.
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at the time\nage 15\noccupation school\nsex female\naccident fell of a horse and awoke under a car\nkept in for blood in urine and concussion as well as lot of cuts and bruses mainly to my back\nadmitted to the old manor hospital a&e Nuneaton warwickshire nr coventry (old cos its now closed) hospital was very old and seemed to consist of 2 wards childrens (too old for) adults so admitted to mixed adults ward\ndidnt care very scared, upset and wanted to go home slept fitfully through the night discarged 10 am next day after they had moved every single item in there and cleaned it, wonder if they still do that or just clean round it. they wouldnt even let me go to the bathroom them made me use a bed pan i tell you it would have hurt less to walt to the loo then use that thing they are really not designed to be used laying down\nnow 30ish still nuneaton taxi driver\nwould rather be on a female ward cos men snore lots and i am a very light sleeper but would discharge myself at earlist oppertunity because of mrsa and things\nBTW have been treated in out patients this year, recovery was a mixed ward but i react badly to the injections they give you to put you to sleep i wake up panicing and crying and sick so they just left me to sleep it of and i was so doped up i didnt care i just wanted my hubby and to go home\nhope it helps