What is on her mind if now she wants to be both with me and her husband?
438894
You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
357456
Honestly she's trying to get your attention about something.  She probably doesnt really want to split if she doesnt have a good reason.  We women want your attention and when we dont get it... we say what we can to get to you... try talking it out, I'm sure she's got a lot she wants to get out.
183985
She's afraid to be hurt again, obviously you both had problems that led you both to separate. Have you both discussed these problems? Are you both willing to change whatever it was that led you to split up? Or maybe she is afraid to let go entirely, I know that is what happened to me. Sometimes it's better to be with someone than to be alone. You both need to sit down and discuss these issues. Have you tried any counseling--together or separate to try to figure all this stuff out, love and marriage are very complicated things and most times we need a third party to be objective. Good luck and God bless.
1001270
you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
641363
I think if she is married you need to leave her alone and let her deal with her realationship first if she can think about cheating on her hubby with you then she'll do it to you too hun. If your sick you dont need the drama and heartache anyways. good luck to you and leave her be till she decides to make a choice not play with your head.
678532
My advice would be to wait a little longer (just a couple of months) before asking to have her hand in marriage.... but that's just me. You may come on a little strong if you ask her now and that may put distance between the 2 of you if she isn't ready for it. Something that you could do is find a way to bring up the topic in conversation and see if you can get her opinion on the subject (just to get an idea if she is on the same page with her emotions before actually popping the question) or see if one of her sisters can ask (or girlfriends) what her opinion may be on the marriage subject. But regardless of what your decision may be I wish you joy and happiness in the future..... and I really hope that the 2 of you do get married.
346003
hmm... she sounds a bit nuts. you certainly aren't the crazy one!! maybe now though, that she has 3 names to pick from, she likes yours best. \n\nshe might be doing it to spite the other guy. or maybe of the two husbands he has had, she sees you as being better and maybe wants you back, (at the moment, i'm sure not deep down. certainly do not go back to her!!).
824901
AK,\n  This is ALOT like the situation I was in before, ONLY reversed------------------- I can't speak for "your girl", but from a gal's point of view, I'm seeing from all you described, SHE is confused and she got caught up in you, probably feels guilty, and is in a tough spot about what to do with her marriage..............................\n  She is going through alot emotionally and I'm sure she does love you.  It's a confusing time for her with alot of emotions going on.\n  Don't drop her, 'cause we all need someone in our lives who care and if you disappear, she would be lost, I can tell you that!\n  I'd say it would be good to get out there and date, but stay in touch with this girl too.\n\nWhat you "should do" is all up to you.  You said she is the girl of your dreams, THEN, stand by her--------------LOVE is PATIENT.\n  That;s it right there, how much she means to you!\n\nNext, I'm wondering maybe "your girl" doesn't exactly know where she stands with you.  Does she know you love her?  Have you offered her a future with you?  Maybe she needs some reassurance so that maybe she can have that strength to leave her husband, if she knows she "fits in" your life!\n\nDivorce isn't easy as you already know, and maybe for "your girl" she is having a hard time with the idea of fully "letting go" of her marriage for whatever reasons, SO I wouldn't take her hesitation personal cuz she is dealing and going through alot all at once!\n\nTalk to her, be there for her, just be her friend right now, and you might be ok with that if the both of you are secure in your love for each other, see?   Please don't turn your back on her.  That's all I wanted to say.\n\nGood luck to you both and with your support she will get through her problems, you will see!
124457
if he is thinking about another woman, then you need to rephrase your question,YOU are trying to work things out but he is thinking about another woman. if he is doing that then how can he concentrate on you and the relationship.you have to think about how long you want to keep trying.it takes 50/50 on both parts.do you think that is the case with you and your husband? maybe both of you should talk to a counselor
20887
Ask her if she would feel more comfortable having a 3rd GUY there, instead of your fantasy of having another woman.  She just might say yes!
752151
1st - If you'll fulfilling your husband then you should be okay.\n\n2nd - That's just a situation you have to be careful with because she could be just a kind and generous person who feels money is not an issue...but on the other hand watch out for her just to make sure, don't get to comfortable with the whole thing because if she see you kind of take the guard off that give her space to step in.
837276
no one can be talking for him. so i don't think she is putting those words into his mouth. i have dated guys that were separated and i had nothing to do with their relationships with their wives. just because he slept with someone does not mean that he is moving on for her. it was probably just sex. my guess is that he really does want to move. regardless of the other woman.
13268
Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
567265
Sounds like she wants you to be decisive, not to take a long time to make a decision. She can always reject your decision, but tell her want she wants, don't go back and forth on this
906318
If working on your marriage is out of the question then set her free.  She made her choice.  I know u don't want her to get hurt by the other guy but it looks like she will just have to find out the hard way.  What more can u do?  Like I said, she made her choice.
918361
Sounds like you are getting some of your own medicine there buddy.  Why was it ok for you to be with both of them while you made up your mind, but not ok for her to be with both of you while she makes up her mind?  You say I alot in that paragraph as though you have given up something you wanted, and the decision is soley yours if you spend your life with Jen.  It's not.  It's up to Jen too and since you started this, you kind of have to wait for her to figure it out the way you did.\nI'm sorry you are hurting, but this is what you wanted, time to decide if she was the one.  Now give her the same courtesy.
457326
She could be like a lot of women...meaning that eventhough she's in a sh*tty marriage, she's still gonna be faithful to him because the bond of marriage does mean something to her. If you try and push the issue with her you're only gonna make her uncomfortable and she'll push you away. I say just bide your time cause eventually she'll realize she's with a d*ckhead and leave his *ss. We all smarten up at some point :D.