In a relationship do you like being the submissive or Dormant partner?
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Did you mean dominant? DOrmant is bordering on necrophilia!\n\nNo, I believe that there is no relationship happening without reciprocity - i.e. you take turns in taking the iniative. As a feminist, I try to assert myself (both sexually and nonsexually) without going to the point of aggressively dominating him.\n\nthat's the ideal anyway! like any human being I need the other person to take the lead too... everybody wants to be wanted!
847876
i like to be in a relatinship
1169968
it is only pleasurable if my lover likes it too.  if done right it is enjoyable for both. i love feeling her going wild, no matter what we are doing, is fun to have her peaking from so many different things, this is only one little part of lovemaking.
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Not calling just makes me think they've moved on and if I find out it's been a head game, that just ticks me off. Honestly what works for me is just being nice to be around. Nice isn't the word I want, but seems to fit the best. You also may have a partner who has a personality that is content with certain levels of partnership and this is something you'll have to think about if it applies. I'm very independent, and am not comfortable with someone who wants to hang all over me. I don't do that myself, and for me it's a bit creepy and makes me feel suffocated. Just my take on things, if you really want to know, ask your partner he knows himself better than anyone else. Good luck!
630212
If you really like your partner then at some point of time, you are into it, sooner or latter. It is unavoidable and a way to show that you shed all of your sexual ego.
1003311
part of being in a relationship is working together and if you rally want this to work then go for it
362604
Definitely the top.  I would say cause I'm in control then.  I can hold his hands down and it feels so sexy.
428335
Be open, responsive, and willing to compromise. It isn't always easy, but if u can do this, your relationship will stay strong
852334
If your partner doesn't, neither should you.  It's hard if you're partner is passive in that aspect, though.
579094
depends on the intimacy of your relationship with him...
951968
Choice number 2 would be more intimate because you are allowing your partner to watch you do something that is normally done alone.  You are being open and trusting in sharing something so personal and private.  When you allow yourself to be so vulnerable it brings you closer together, almost like sharing a special secret that you share with no one else.
581936
The only time I am submissive is when my man gives me erotic spankings. Other than that I am totally in control and far from submissive!
168504
ican get slightly submissive when he doesn't step up to the plate, but i would prefer the man to take charge... not really into the S&M thing though...
682291
I do. I will usually know or find out their likes and dislikes before engaging in sexual play, so I don't have to take time out to find out if what I am doing is pleasing them. I enjoy sensually petting my partner all over while leading up to sex. I tease them by only briefly touching, kissing or simply avoiding the obviously erogenous zones. I breath deeper when getting nearer the neck or ears. Once I have them actively engaged in receiving pleasure I move on to more heavy petting and slower deep breathing accompanied with low toned sounds of delight. I might then move directly to an erogenous zone and continue to "mmm" or otherwise pick something that I know they will enjoy me doing to them. I might take it slow and tease all the way and pick on them using this a a basis for some nasty talk or sometimes I will turn the heavy petting into a total control and move them to my will. I might go slow and teasingly easy or I might delve into deep holding penetration accompanied with hair pulling, throat grabbing, or shoulder grabbing deep thrusts instead.
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Some of it and some of the time.\nMy partner and I prefer to keep it simple, a few ropes, a few objects. Most of sex is in the mind anyway, at least for me.
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its all about how you feel i the relationship.. \nhow comfortable you BOTH are.. do not be pressured into something you dont want to do..\njust take it easy and enjoy the relationship for what it is now.. \n\nthen when the time comes.. make the descision
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In every relationship, there is a person who likes to dominate, and a person who likes to be taken care of.  There is nothing wrong with either type, it takes both to make a relationship work.  In this case, it sounds like you both want to wear the pants.  It's going to take some compromise on both your parts.  The man is traditionally the one who provides, and he enjoys doing this for you, so why not sit back and relax a little and let him take over?  It takes a lot of trust to let this happen, which will only bring you closer together.  I'm an independent woman so I used to have the same issue that you had...it took me a while to appreciate a man who opens doors, pays the check at the restaurant, and takes care of me...now I wouldn't settle for anything else.  Good luck to both of you.