how do you differenciate between luv and lust?
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Love is a process, perhaps born out of lust and/or hopefully when in love, or even in marriage in love, we can still lust for our mate.\n\n  Lust is a physical reaction to a form of attraction,,,IE: Arousal.\n\n  It may pass as rapidly as getting rejected?\n\n  Love, by popular opinion should be lasting, emotionally involved, respectfully expressed, joyfully shared and not taken for granted.\n\n   It's also an irrational emotion, often causing pain in the same heartbeat as joy. It may have many definitions, and all may fit with respect to the Two who are personally involved.\n\nRev. Steven
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Time will usually tell...lust is when you look at someone and all you can think of is having sex with them...love is looking at someone and seeing yourself walking in the park...having childres...dinners at the inlaws...and caring more for that person than you do for yourself...their needs outweigh yours...you would want to be with that person even if you couldnt have sex.
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its lust... love is something u gain when u get to know that person...\nlust can grow into love...
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While there's no clear, fool-proof way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are certain ways to make this distinction clearer for yourself\n\nWrite down everything that you associate with the person you're feeling strongly about. For example, love, butterflies, sex, holding hands, etc. \n\nCircle each attribute with a different color such as red for lust, yellow for infatuation, and green for love. \n\nSee which of the three feelings dominates the page. If one doesn't stand out (like if the distribution seems pretty equal), move on to the following steps for more insight.\n\nRead literature and scriptures on the topic. Questions about love are timeless questions that have consumed mankind throughout the ages and are a major theme in many scriptures, tales from mythology, and literature. Read the story of David and Bathsheba from Jewish scriptures, 1st Corinthians from Christian scriptures, the story of Ali and Fatima, Narcissus and Echo, or Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet\n\nAsk your friends or, if you find it easier, ask a complete and utter stranger, so that you get an honest opinion and an outsider's point of view. Tell that person how you feel, and ask them if it sounds primarily like love, infatuation, or lust. \n\nWatch a movie that relates to your situation like "Cruel Intentions" (which is about lust, and wanting what you can't have), "Down to You" (which is about love and leaving it all down to the other person), "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" (which is about none of them really but it's about making a mistake and putting it right), "The Phantom of the Opera" (which is about both lust and infatuation) and, finally, "Titanic" (which is about holding on to someone forever until you die - that is love - bittersweet love). \n\n\nKeep in mind that in most relationships, you're feeling all three (love, infatuation, and lust) all at once, to some degree. \n\nSometimes the person that you love isn't always the person that you want. \n\nTo help you make tough decisions about your relationship, ask someone you trust who has lots of experience with the kind of relationship you want for yourself. For example: \n\nSay you want to be happily married to one person for life. \n\nIf your parents have both been bitterly divorced three times, then they are probably not the ones to talk to. On the other hand, if they are about to celebrate their 50th anniversary of bliss together, then they may be ideal to learn from. \n\nLasting relationships are the those that are built on love -not infatuation or lust. Imagine the person you love in 50 years when they are old and fat. Would that change how you feel about them? If yes, then what you feel now is most likely lust/infatuation - not love. \n\nFriendship should also weigh into your decision to commit. \n\nIn 50 years, if you don't genuinely LIKE your mate, you're going to be miserable. \n\nWarnings \nIf you're not sure about your feelings or your relationship, take things slowly. Spend time apart and see how you are feeling while you are away. Do you miss the person? Or are you more attracted to others when you are apart?
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For me it's always been about pure, unadulterated, lust! Well. that's not entirely true, I think it's really about how I feel about myself and when your spouse doesn't make you feel like you're desireable, you seek that feeling elsewhere. Okay that and unadulterated lust ;-)
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When you find true love.Hmm love is something really unexplainable.its a feeling that we feel when we want t love another person. its beyond all our control we cannot explain it. its what makes us human.When you meet ther person for youj then you will realise what love is really about.\n\n\nTrue love? or a lustful kind of love? There is a difference.\n\nTrue love? The world stops around you when you look into the eyes of the one you love. No one else, nothing else seems important, but the connection that is you share with this person. And you can feel it in thier eyes. As if when they stare back into yours, that they are saying without speaking, "I adore you, respect you, desire you, admire you". True love is when you connect on a level that makes you want to do everything you can to make that person happy, and that they do the same in return. It is a powerful feeling, when the world stops around the two of you. You will know it.\n\nLustful kind of love is much different. Its the feeling that omg I have to have that person, they are so very attractive, and that I think I am in love with them. Its a false true love.\n\nYou will feel love for him in time.\nThat love is connection.,YOu can tell him by passing him notes.or leaving him a message.! take it slowly my friend.do that if you are shy.talk to him ,call him,,,relate your feelings towards him.he will start to understand and like you.\n\nremember\n\nBeauty is in the eyes of the beholder
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The difference between love and attraction/sex is when you love someone you are comfortable being around them and you are willing to put up with their worst habits and you love being around them even when sex isn't the main priority anymore. Love is letting someone see all your bad habits, too!
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Lust is a carnal desire, a fleshly thing, it fades with nuturing, satisfaction complete, move on.\n\nLove is more spiritual, not of the flesh, but of the mind, and it flourishes with nuturing!
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"Lust tingles, but Love lingers."\n-GMarieP\n\nAs humans, we are attracted to what we SEE first. So, it becomes natural for us to long for (lust) after a pretty face, a knock-out body, and beautiful features. Love comes after we know the person a little better.\n\nThose "electric shocks" or "warm flushes" you feel is Lust.\nThose "strong, deep & moving emotions" you feel is Love.\nI wish you an ample flow of both. (smile)\n\nGood Luck to you!
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Lust is when you let your body do the talking and after 30 minutes or so  you feel uncomfortable. Love is when you let your heart and spirit do the talking and after that you suddenly finds that it is the year 2056 and  still madly in love.
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You can be in Lust with two people at the same time, but not actually in love.
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first, realize that lust is only shallow.  then recognize that what your instincts are trying to tell you is that this person has the immediate traits you find to be good for propagation. Don't controll your emotions, they are there for a reason, just control yourself & don't get swept away.
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lust is that 16 year old teenager want to always be together, a 2 hour non-stop make out session, and 8 hour phone conversations...\n\nlove is when after that infatuation ends, there still a level of adoration, passion, companionship, and respect that endures
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trust your instinct-i mean the woman instinct in u.and more importantly what matters is if u luv him.keep luving him and see the change-i mean if he dint he will.so dun wry and keep luving
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NO, YOU CANNOT ACHIEVE THE TWO AT THE SAME TIME. LOVE COMES BEFORE OBSESSION. LOVE COMES OUT OF PURE FEELING BUT OBSESSION COMES OUT OF GREED AND DESIRE TO CONTROL THE PARTNER TOTALLY. MAYBE LOVE SHOULD BE ABOUT LIBERTY AND FREEDOM TOO.
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I used to think that it was one way or the other. But after considerable experience I think the passion is the product of the desire of the two people. If you are in love (which to me implies that you are best of friends) and you nurture that love and work to be that couple, the energy that you've invested resurfaces as passion.  I think that the reward for investing your self in the couple this way is intense passion, and though it is scary to give of yourself in this way, it is the only way to achieve real passion, ie that isn't sourced in lust or infatuation.  If all you have is lust and infatuation, you'll notice the passion going away when the infatuation period wears off.
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The sexual attraction is there for starters, if its strong flirtaton! But love come with time , lust comes first I think, but there is a saying LOVE at first sight , so are you in love with him or is it lust? There is a difference but you got to be in a relationship for a while my opinion is , so the lust grows into love and that could take from a day to a week , to a month , and it's good to find out if you got the same interests and beliefs early in a relationship. When I met an ex of mine we were in lust , but we played a game one day down on the beach , it was a great setting and we asked each other what our favorite coulors were , till we practically new each other inside out and it was great fun to see if we liked the same things, that relationship lasted ten years but alchol made us grow apart. So go out some where like a quiet cafe , and start chatting , play the game , ask what he thinks about love and then he could ask you and maybe you will find your answer just like that and have fun the same time laughing when you both kissed when you were little and did you run like hell or was it fun and ask child hood pranks you both got up to , you will end up having a whale of a time and it wont even cost a lot of money , just a couple of coffee's . You could find a nice quiet pub, and have a few glasses of wine to pluck up the courage to ask questions, say you saw this survey in a magizine and would he like a laugh and have a go at playing it, what have you got to lose, I hope at the end of it you have a good relationship and you will FALL in love . Best of luck , go for it lv D, jones x Ps. I gave the same advise to a similar question b4 and had good feed bk frm it .... so have fun x