how do you think god feel about divorce?
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I think he doesnt want you to suffer through a hard and bad relationship so I think that he would think it was ok.
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Should they divorce and remarry their extramarital lovers?  I don't know.  It's not for me to judge another person's life or marriage.  I feel that the problem doesn't begin with the affair; the problem begins with whether or not they should've married one another or not.  It's a step "not to be taken lightly", and those aren't just pretty words that the preacher says at the wedding.  He really, really means just that.  Are they really ready for a lifetime of putting another person ahead of themselves?  I doubt it.  \n\nThe man and woman are both at fault...the other woman and her marriage are beside the point.  We're concerned mainly with this marriage between the husband and wife you speak of, right?  The woman, being Christian, shold be striving to find focus and balance in her own life, knowing herself and where she stands, knowing her own shortcomings, and bravely turning around to face her demons.  Unless you have a good foundation (one's self) anything you build outwardly will just crumble.  So she needs to take a long hard look in the mirror and see that she is not filling out her potential.\n\nThe man, regardless of his religious beliefs, still knows right from wrong.  His wife, haranguing nag though she may be, is still his wife and deserves his honesty and a measure of respect.  If for no other reason than to appease his own conscience that he has done all he can do.  She needs to be given the opportunity to change.  He needed to tell her that her behaviour is making him so unhappy and lonely that he wants to find another woman to take her place.  We all want and need the close companionship of another special person as we go through life.  It is unfair of her to deny this to him.  If she truly cannot offer that to him, it is her responsibility to let him go.  Same goes for her, if the husband had been maltreating her.\n\nPeople are imperfect.  If we base our marriages on the expectation that the other person will always behave honourably and kindly and selflessly, we're in for a shock.  Our spouses will screw up.  WE will screw up.  If you don't make allowances for the frailty of human nature, and prepare yourselves for the eventuality of needing to forgive them for their mistakes, you're stacking the deck against yourselves.
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SINCE %57 OF CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE. I WOULD SAY THAT MOST  DON'T CARE BECAUSE THEN THEY TURN AROUND AND REMARRY. Mark 10:11,12\n11 So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. \n12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."
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This depends on what religion you are talking about.  As a (conservative) Christian myself, I would say that one cannot necessarily help their feelings, but they must learn to control them.  To ACT on your love for this married woman would be a sin.  The basis of this is that God created one man and one woman to be together forever; they screwed it up when they fell into sin, so no one can have the perfect marriage anymore, thus divorce exists.  But we also hold the belief that God has a plan for everyone, and this is also true for you, so if you are meant to be with this woman it will happen, but not right now.  Just be patient.
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The only Scriptural grounds for divorce is adultery.\nSpeaking as a divorced Witness of Jehovah,I can say from personal experience that life goes on.What do you mean what happens?There is no other ground for divorce as far as Jehovah is concerned. There are various situations that may warrant seperation such as physical/emotional abuse.\nBut each congregation has a body of loving elders who are there to shepherd the flock with kindness,warmth,spiritual guidance and love.And these brothers are always available to be called on in any spiritual matter.\nI hope this information helps clear up whatever misunderstanding you may have told or heard.
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"Desperation is a stinky cologne"... I was desperate about 3 years ago.  It was the ugliest thing you ever saw.  Divorce is always ugly... but let me tell you that if a woman has made up her mind about a divorce... its made up.  To make it worse, she decided a long time before she actually told you so it's set in her mind and it won't be undone.  My ex told me we wouldn't be getting divorced if had done this or hadn't done that and the more I worked on those things... the angrier she became.  Why, because she made up her mind a long time ago and and she doesn't want you screwing up her justifications.  Let her go do what ever she is going to do and you just work on getting back to God... because that could be all that saves you from doing "something very stupid"... I can hear it in your voice.  I could go on, but I really just want to answer the question you posed "what to do when my wife loves another and kicks me out but i still love her?"... You have to pray for God to show you what he wants you to get out of this and to pray for her and the well being of your children.  Don't worry about her love right now... just God's and you will be in a much better place a year or so from now.
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I "believe" in divorce.  It's all around us.  ;)\n\nOther than abuse or infidelity, I don't "believe" in divorce.   You took vows and they have to mean something.  \n\nMy neighbors (who are our best friends) are in the middle of a divorce.  I told my 8 year old daughter about it because I knew she was probably getting bits and pieces and I wanted her to be informed.  I told her that this is something she will never have to worry or stress about...that Daddy and I truly meant our vows.  She looked at me - straight in my eyes - and said "Thank you" and hugged me. \n\nIt shouldn't be easy to divorce.  Why get married with the notion "If it doesn't work out, we'll just divorce.  I deserve to be happy".  That's not what marriage is suppose to be.
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Hold on, I'll read it.\n\nOK. The entire chapter is a prayer to God. It starts with the caption "a prayer of the afflicted, when he is overwhelmed and pours out his complaint before the Lord."\n\nThe person in Psalms would have been a Israelite (or Jew), not a Christian, but the purpose of this chapter is still relevant. \n\nWe have a relationship with God, and we are allowed to tell Him how we feel, but should do so respectfully. There is nothing wrong with telling God that you are mad, sad, hurt, or whatever. And when you think about it, what's the alternative? Lying to God? I wouldn't try to. \n\nTo answer the second question, this verse is not about a Christian (or a Jew) turning his back on anyone. There are situations when a Christian is entitled to sever ties, end a friendship, even end a marriage. If someone murders your child, God does not expect you to be around that person or support that person. If your friend constantly gossips and back bites you even after you have talked about it several times, there is no requirement that you maintain a relationship with him/her. If your spouse has sex outside your marriage, you are permitted to divorce him/her. \n\nThere are a few things a Christian must do in cases like these, though. One is to forgive. The other is to not judge the person, only the behavior. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to trust, nor does it mean you withhold consequences (like jail, or divorce). It only means that you release the person from the spiritual punishment of holding a grudge, and in doing so, you free your self from the burden of holding a grudge.
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Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
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I don't think there is any easy way to adjust and go through a divorce without some questions, hurt, anger and thinking you are a total failure for not being able to save a marriage. Just pray a lot....Nicole
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I haven't the answer to your question, but something else that has helped others who found themselves in the shoes you find yourself wearing now ...\n\n... When a Mate is Unfaithful : \n... Infidelity - Its Tragic Consequences \n... Is Reconciliation Possible? \n... The Option of Divorce \n... Meaningful Support \n... Why Some Stay Together \n... Who Is Responsible? \n... Does God Hate All Divorce? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm
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I would have to rust God completely.  And let Him give me peace in my life to let Him reign.  We don't do that, we think we can rule ourselves, and then you get divorce, and frustration, and malice and everyone ends up hurt.  You end up with medical problems.  Look at society today.  It is amazing the things people have, just because of stress.  Jesus rules, and He should reign in ours lives.  We need HIS peace.
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God loves His children. God hates divorce. Why? Because it breaks the type that God setup as a model for Christ and the church. Jesus will never leave us or forsake us. A divorce ruins that beautiful picture. God also hates divorce because it is the result of hardness of heart. The aftermath is bitterness, heartache and pain.\n\nNothing changes God's love for us. Divorce destroys a marriage. And who is the one who targets marriage for destruction? Who is called the destroyer?
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What Jesus said about "divorce and remarry" would apply to everyone.  But the Ministers just look the other way, why?  Because if they enforced what Jesus said, they would have very few at their meetings, & there would be no money coming in.\n\nDIVORCE AND SEPARATION\n\nGod, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry.\n\nIn addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?\n\nOne is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.\n\nAnother is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.”—Psalm 11:5.\n\nAnother ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality—one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate.—Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.\n\nHowever, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.”—Matthew 5:32.\n\nThe Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not.—Matthew 5:32.\n\nAfter telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)
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That is not right. Not right at all. You don't give up God\njust to please your man. He's married. He'll never leave his wife. And if he marries you without divorcing his wife that is bigamy. He can go to jail for that. If you are a \ntrue christian then you know God is not pleased with you right now. Do you want the wrath of God to come down on you?\nIt will come if you don't quit messing with a married man. \nTime is short and we don't have time playing around and doing all this foolish stuff. We need to get our house in order before Jesus come. Why have you forsaken God? After all He has done for you and you want to leave him. God said put no other gods before him.
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Young Pastor with your heart in the right place:  God is not a thief that He would steal the hearts of man.  Accepting Jesus as our Lord and Savior is a choice that each one of us must make from the heart.  \n\nAs you can tell from most of the questions and answers here very few people are ambiguous about how they feel about God.  It is to those people you should share the Gospel of Jesus.  Show them hope and the promise of salvation.  \n\nBe blessed in your walk with God.  I am.
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you guys should never get physical. one of you should have left the room.\n\naccording to the Islamic Shari'a you have the right to divorce him.\n\nbut i just wanna give you a little piece of advice, try to work things out especially if you two have kids together. give him one more chance to change, if he didn't change then divorce him. but for the sake of your kids try to work it out.\nI'm sorry this is happening to you sister.\n\n---\nedit:\ni read the second part, like i said give him just ONE more chance to change after you tell him how you feel, get it all off your chest. \nif that didn't work\nget a divorce..\n\nmay Allah guide you both and grant you wisdom.\n\npeace.\n-----------\n\nEDIT:\n\nbroken bones??!! oh my God. there's no more chances sister!!\nI'm afraid you should get a DIVORCE ASAP.\ni want you to ask a scholar about Khul'. he should tell you how it's done whether there should be something done from the religion perspective or just go by the Law of the Land (filing for divorce in court).\nsee here\nhttp://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?cid=1118742803355&pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/Page/FatwaCounselE