My ex boyfriend broke up wit me cus I'm too shy so how can I be less shy?
439657
Why do you want to change who you really are? You should never change who you are for a guy. For starters, many guys PREFER a shy girl to a girl that blabs and tries to be the center of attention all the time. Try to find someone that compliments your personality and accepts you for who you truly are.
596445
Well, before you make a move, look back at the main reason why do you broke up at the 1st place.  Is that problem settle? Or did you overcome it?  If your answer is YES.  Then go a head.  Take a shot.  Who knows, like you said he still like and waiting for you.  But better be prepared for the NO answer from him, as you the one who end your relationship last time, right?  Anyway, GOOD LUCK!!!!
221877
Overcoming shyness is not easy, but can be done. I used to be really shy too, but I started hanging around people who were outgoing then myself and I started noticing the positive attention they gained by being outgoing. I just worked on walking up to people and introducing myself and I learned that if I want something I should ask, the worse someone can ever say is NO. \nPractice makes perfect, the more you do it, the easier it gets. :D\nI now have lots of nice friends and I have been out on a lot dates. :)\n\nOh and as far as getting a boy to notice you. Don't overcome your shyness just for that. :) \n\nThe best way to get someone to notice you is just by being yourself. :)\nGo up to him, start off with a simple hello. :) Introduce yourself. \nLittle by little and believe me, it will take a snowball effect, before you know it, you just may have yourself a nice friend,if not, well, there are many others out there. :D\n\nHope it helped good luck
500652
hey sweety,i know how u feeling.. how to move on? think about yourself! u deserve so much joy, ur killing yourself with the anxiety. fight it, keep that friend connection. grow as an individual, improve n develop yourself in the mean time. sounds to me like u will get back together!! wake up each morning n look in the mirror tell yourself that ur the best thing on the planet, dance n hear James Brown wen u walking.. Aaah, feel goood!!!\n\neven if things arent the way u want them, so wat? live life the fullest n enjoy yourself each moment. stop pinning away, be optimistic about yo ex- u will get him back!! relationship issues need time, be patient n it will come to u!! maybe your differences are being worked out by the space n at the same time look yummy for him (eat yo heart out, dude!!) n any other guy out there. u never know..Morris Chestnut, or Brad Pitt (ha!!) maybe watching!!!\n\nlove yourself to death, ur beautiful, talented n he thinkin of u twice as much! why else wud he keep in touch all this while?don feel sorry or wrong, u were right to discontinue yo relationship-u did say twas inevitable, ain it? so enjoy life girl!!\n\nu can do it!!! don u know u unstoppable girl??!!! hey- u got a cute smile..do that often!! smile, i mean!!
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
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well it would help if you figured out why you are shy around him and than work on that. So if you are shy because for example you are scared what he might think of you than think well if he didnt want to be with you he wouldn't be so there isnt anything to worry. You are who you are and thats the way you find the one for you is by being true to yourself. Also let ssay you want to say something to him.. dont stay thinking about how you should say it or if you should as soon as it comes to mind say it so  you dont hae time to wonder if you should or should and your nerves would be there to torture you because you did it quick and got it out of the way.
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well, you can't really remove "shy" from a girl. SHyness is something people need to learn to overcome on their own. \nI can give you suggestions that may help her break loose from her shell. \nI used to be very shy and I overcame it. I hung out with people that were just the opposite of me they were quite outgoing, so if you are outgoing that can break a shy girl out of her shell. I would see them socializing and making friends and this and that, now that I am not so shy, I have had more dates and I have lots of friends and I am not afraid to get out and have a good time. :)\n\nNow as far as style every girl varies. So it is hard to say what they like. If you are referring to men's styles, I like for my men to be clean cut. I like casual, I like to see men dressed up, I just don't like the sloppy look. T shirts and jeans are okay as long as it doesn't look sloppy. \n\nMy own personal style is simple. I am not into the fancy stuff. I like some of the things that are in style, I am a modest dresser. I like capri pants, sandals, casual skirts, blue jeans, nice t shirts and on occasion I like to dress up very nice if the occasion calls for it. \n\nLittle cat likes his blue collar with the bell and he thinks he's cool because he just got his rabies tag renewed so that he can fly to New Hampshire with me and he thinks he's even cooler because he gets to fly free. :)
1124218
Don't feel guilty.  Get up and have a fantastic time with this new guy.  You aren't mourning, sweetie, you just broke up with someone!  Enjoy yourself and do what makes you happy!  Never feel guilty for doing something that makes you feel good!
840692
It's over.   Pick up your pride, move on, find someone else.  He's breaking up with you but playing the coward by not coming right out and saying it.
809120
it probably means that hes not happy, depressed, or just feels bad about the whole breaking up thing.... or he might just be shy around you now that you guys are broken up he might feel weird talking to you
856694
You need to start coming out of your shell. You think you are shy, but I guarantee you that most everyone else is too. Just be your happy outgoing self and the right guy will notice you. BUT, don't forget, he is probably to shy to approach you too. So you may have to be the one to break the ice. Good luck. GaryT
310710
This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
930350
cause you were shy first, then you got jealous, not your embarassed. Its normal. You like the guy but were shy and just didn't have enough courage to talk to him.  Listen don't feel akward, lift your head up high and tell how you feel and ask him what he thinks about you.  You broke the ice already now you can continue.
496749
Grow the nerves to talk to him or get over it. your only hurting yourself
458296
try a love note and flowers.  sorry; i don't know a cure for shyness.  I used to be, but it's been fading recently.  Just try diving in and doing it.  If you start hesitating, just do it without thinking (worked about 50% of the time for me)
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you know what you're made of..get over your shyness, you deserve happines..and you have to fight for happiness. start by taking in a deep breath and go to talk to one of them. your heart may be beating out of control, but it is better to try, than not to try and wonder what could have happened.  my hubby was exactly the same as you..but if he hadn't taken the chance and given me a very shy smile, we never would have met. trust me, it's worth the risk.
207827
If you want to have a relationship with another person, you must try very hard to get over your shyness, or whatever it is that keeps you from going up to him and converse with him, and telling him how you feel about him. ALL relationships, from the most casual to the most intimate, require communications between the couple. Without mutual communications, relationships cannot exist.\nGo and talk this person you like, before he finds someone else, and you'll be left standing alone with your regrets.   Good luck.