I need advice if you have ever been in this situation. please don't joke on this one.?
441661
Rent Brokeback Mountain and after you watch it talk to you husband and see how he feels about the movie and then break the news to him gently, maybe he will surprise you.
742868
I had a friend like that, and one day we just acted on it. It was the greatest relationship I ever had. Circumstances beyond our control came between us, but I will never forget how good the times together were. We don't see each other any more, as both of us are married to someone else, but we talk about once a year.\n\nI say go for it. It's going to drive you crazy otherwise.
128480
It's time for you to call her bluff.  Tell her you're uncomfortable with the situation as-is & get some distance from her.  If she ends it with her current BF, go-for-it...otherwise, get away from her.\n\nSHE has got a choice to make.
853407
say it an inderct way, don't make it sound too much serious although it is. best of luck.
151127
If you think she will change and life is going to be better this time, after another apology check out codependents anonymous.  It's possible that both people need counseling.  If there is realistically no hope then you must leave to save yourself.  You deserve soneone nice and who respects you.
731231
If you're not torn up about it, let it go. If you tell them "this person said you said this..." the situation may resolve itself.\n\n.
297879
I have a similar situation. But it is SHE in my case. Plz..help us both(the asker and me).
222196
This is the wrong place...\n\nI honestly believe you need counselling.\nPlease seek professional help before you get hurt...\nYou life is going to depend on this, so please don't think about the cost.
724562
I WAS WITH YOU UNTIL YOU STARTED MAKING JOKES ABOUT SOMEONE THAT HAS NO CONTROL OF THE SITUATION THEIR IN. THANK GOD FOR THEIR COURAGE TO TRY AND LEAD NORMAL LIVES AND IN THE SAME PRAYER, PRAY IT DOESN'T HAPPEN TO YOU. YOU SHOULD BE SHAME OF YOURSELF.
627278
Sistah, you just gotta be honest and tactful in this situation as someones heart is involved. Treat him in a way that you would appreciate if the situation were reversed.  Good luck to you!!!
595026
Be honest and just come out with it. Why drag this out? This way he can move and find someone who loves him and won't be sleeping around on him. He deserves that much!!!!
622189
That's a tough one!\n\nI was actually in that situation about a year and a half ago. I tried to tell her that her man was downtown with some skinny blond girl sitting in his lap, basically all over him. She bascially said that I was jealous that she had such a good long-term relationship with such a great guy and that I was making things up to try to break them up because I didn't like him.\n\nWe didn't talk for a while. Then she started to see that maybe he wasn't the right guy for her. Then he broke up with her (even though they called it mutual) right after christmas (as in, before new years!). She still thinks that he's a great guy and that any woman would be lucky to be dating him! And after all of the things that he did to her (he ruined her credit, helped hig dig herself into a massive debt hole, and basically made her so dependant on him that she couldn't make her own decisions. He even had her stop hanging out with her best friends of oever 10 years!) she still thinks that he's a wonderful guy and that he never really meant to hurt her and that they will be friends till the day that they die because they are so close.\n\nSo I guess what I have learned is that sometimes people do want to shoot the messenger. But that doesn't mean that you should stay silent about something you know is going on. Another friend of mine found out that her long-term boyfriend had been cheating on her for months - from the time that she went away to university and he stayed in their small town - and she was the last one to know about it.\n\nBasically, get your facts straight first. Are you sure that the woman wasn't his sister?Cousin? or other family member? Are you also sure that they were on a 'date'? Could it have been innocent?\n\nThen, drop a line to your pal like 'hey, I saw ________ at ______ the other day with a really professional looking woman. Is he applying for a new job or something?'\nMAke it sound casual and off-hand. Then drop it. Chances are, if she doesn't know who the woman was, she'll ask him about it the next time she talks to him.\n\nOr you could also ask her if they broke up and when. And when she asks you why or says no, tell her you saw her man doing something that an attached man shouldn't be so that she can confront him with the news.
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You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
565232
that's a good one\ni really don't know, i don't think anybody would know in a situation like that....\nmaybe gather your most intimate friends and laugh it out, move on.\nplan your new life better.\nalways remember the do's & dont's of the game
955973
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
1116610
Don't force it, bro.  Don't even try to put yourself in a situation.  When the time comes, you'll just know.  \n\nSorry, this must seem like lame advice, but trust me, it's better that way.  I'm speaking from experience...
849048
Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.