Is marriage still valued these days?
452948
I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
936717
Getting married changed my life. Now I have someone who loves me when before I was lonely and sad. I can deal with people on a much higher level than I could before because living with another person makes you more aware of how other people think. I'd like to pass on how to love to my children.
265162
A couple theories here.Decades ago as unromantic as it sounds, women had more things to tie them to a marriage. Along with love, women usually weren't highly educated as they are today and most likely did not work out of the house. They were financially dependent on the husband.Also they had kids early in the marriage which solidified that bind even more. In todays society we are go-getters, we are educated, more often than not women are out there making the money and don't need the man to provide for them. WE also take responsibility for our reproduction and sexuality. We decide when we are ready to have a baby and don't just do it out of pressure to start a family. Also, women have more access to birth control methods that werent advertised decades ago.So sometimes we aren't as dependent on the man and have a desire to get out of the marriage and have the resources to actually do it. Also, marriages tend to last shorter because divorce has become more acceptable in our society. Not like decades before when you were looked at like scum if you had a divorce. Several reasons that marriages don't last. But there are always the ones that stand the test of time. I love my husband and would like to say our marriage will be the one that does last but in the society we live in today you just never ever know.
354995
I would definitely consider it.I have no interest in having what is not mine,nor do I have an interest in losing all I have acquired should a marriage fail.\n\nThe only thing I would insist on is that it be spelled out what if any changes will be made should children become part of the picture,as I believe that changes things and it should be made clear in an agreement as well.\n\nWe all want marriages to last or at least that is what we all SHOULD want,but reality is that lots of marriages don't last and it should not result in losing everything you worked your whole life for on top of the heartbreak.
932193
Marriage has it's advantages, it's not always fun but it's not always bad either. It is a compromise, a give and take sort of thing if you will. There are always going to be problems with any relationship and marriage is no different. The main thing is the two people involved have to be compatible for it to work. Marriage can be wonderful thing. It's nice to always have someone to rely on and to comfort you but it is a two way street.>
550198
are you talking about marriage? because people go through lots of relationships that come to an end for one reason or another. My theory on marriage though is this. We live in a very different world then past generations much faster and mobile. My grandparents barely imagined leaving their immediate area much less being able to jump on a plane and be in Europe by the end of the day or talking to someone in Asia from their bedroom computer. My point is this people have far more options today than ever before. A census is taken in the United States every ten years. They ask about jobs and homes and cars. In ten years probably a very large percentage of people drive a different car and probably a large percentage of people have a different job and live in a different home. Are we so suprised then that they live their with someone else. Our whole lives are constantly changing and we are constantly switching to adapt. If we do that with all the material things why do people feel that our relationships would be immune to this?
608396
Marriage.  Sadly, even that isn't 100% secure for some.
898841
They should be.  Plus a zillion more.  We are so caught up in the romance of marriage, we forget that it is s-e-r-i-o-u-s.  We don't want to talk about these things.\nAnd we can always get a divorce, right?  Even when both parties agree it isn't working out it still causes immeasurably emotional damage.\n\nHere are a few from my arsenal:\nWhat will you do when you find you cannot agree?\n\nWho will be responsibile for paying the bills and keeping the checkbook?\n\nWhat is your attitude toward children?\nWhat would you do if you cannot conceive children of your own?\n\nHow often do you want to invite people to your home?\n\nWhere will you spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter? How will you decide?
450409
I don't think that marriage will be so important as it is nowadays, and even nowadays the importance has dwindled down. Less people are eager to get married, and less women want to have children. So, in the next 20-25 years I think that the birth rate will have significantly gone down, and so will the marriage rate. Maybe more dads will be staying home and taking care of the kids, while moms will be the ones bringing home the bread.
1013419
Yes I meant it. 12 years of a not so great marriage, but now it is better than ever. I am glad I have the commitment and morals that helped me hang on for 12 years to where things are better. You are a great guy don't sell yourself short for anyone. Keep your morals and you commitment, you may not know it, but, they mean so much to you and always will.\nCongratulations and keep up what you have.
891118
After all this time the reality may not be quite as romantic as you imagine.......there is little point in disrupting both your lives after all these years!!
1126825
No I think it is an archaic tradition of backward People desiring to remain so. I believe marriage is something that should be decided between to people that have enough love to get them through. Marriage is tough enough in the busy world we are in today. A man & a women need to be like minded for this decision.\nIt takes a very high level of commitment, and trust to give it ago.
432422
NO! marriage is a special thing a man and woman do together because of love and deep devotion, not something a money-hungry person does!
909467
Yes, I truly believe in courting; yet we're living in a "I-want-it-now-society." Trust that there are still "old school people" who believes in those same morals, standards and values in dating. \nGod Bless You\nP.S. I haven't heard that term since my belated father, he would've been 82 years old today...that's where I got that from...
1048928
We have a pretty steady marriage but no marriage is perfect at all times because no two people are perfect that are in it. Marriage takes work devotion and care. And you must work at it to make it successful and last. Marriage can be heaven on earth if you treasure it and make it top priority in your life. I have seen Jimmy and Karen Evans series the Rock Solid marriage and i love it. It has taught me alot and my wife loved it too. In the beginning i got weak and did things on the internet i am not proud of but my wife was a very forgiving person and a praying wife and we worked through it together and now are stronger then ever. I love my wife more and more every day. Marriage is what you make of it. The more work and time and dedication you put into your marriage the better it will be but if you dont put the time and dedication into your marriage it will fall apart and it will be sad and not happy.
1101811
Doesnt seem that we have ruined marriage without the help of gay marriage. Look at the divorce rate...could be possibly screw it up anymore. Maybe gay marriage might actually benefit the divorce rate.
592705
The differences in men and women are what make it so neat to be with each other. People today don't try to make a relationship last. The trend today seems to be-get what you can out of another and then when things get rough-drop them.Honesty-trust-care-loyalty-understanding-compassion and love are the keys to a great relationship.My wife and I weathered many bad storms in our marriage,and are still together-in love- and will probably stay this way till I die. Oh,by the way,we have been together 21 years!!!!!!