How do I get over my ex if he lives next door?
437341
get yourself a BF or just ignore his presence
162810
Lean on friends and family.  Do not use drugs or alcohol (it makes it worse).  Keep yourself as busy as possible and don't be alone if you don't have to.  If you do this, you will eventually get over him.  It will take a long time, but it will work.
938797
Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
901745
sounds very similar to my problems of the past.  If he is that controlling then my guess is he can manipulate you some too.  so confronting him head on might not be the best way to go.  What you need is space.  time to think about what you want and where you want your life to go.  I know its hard but i think you might just have to sneak away like i did.  distance has a way of putting your own thoughts into perspective.  if you can go to your family or any close friend and DO NOT SEE OR TALK TO HIM.   I know this sounds like oh its easy for her to say that, but trust me, I had to do the same thing and with 2 kids along for the ride.  my family was 500 miles away but i left my ex and came home.  alot has happened between then and now, but i am so glad i left when i did.  i am now 34 yrs old and he almost took the best years of my life.  dont ever let anyone do that to you.  you are a remarkable creature, unique and no one should be made to feel abused even emotionally.  I put up with it for 12 years.  everyone of us has inner strength and you will find yours and find the right path for your life.  good luck.
150202
He has already broke up with you. So dont call him, email him go over his house or nothing.  Just know next time he see you, you must look the BEST, The Bomb, the Freshest.  Stay FLy.  He will want to call you, watch.  Or, you can let him see you by being somewhere you know he will be.
1129279
Go sleep on his doorstep!...haha just kidding (sorry) I'd say keep yourself busy. Especially if he's not trying to contact you. Hang out with your friends, rent movies (not romantic ones), pick up a hobby you used to have, etc. Or do like I do, go dye your hair and get it cut in a new style. It always makes me feel like a million bucks and it's my ritual after a break up. It literally turns you into "a new person" and you feel prepared to face the world.
53630
Well, if he's moved on, you should do the same. It takes time, so don't think it's gonna happen overnight. Just try to be positive, and eventually, things will be OK in your life again.
1152575
I honestly think that you might need some distance in order to move on with your feelings. It is going to be hard to forget her if you are still close as friends.  How will you feel knowing that you are no longer together and being in the same room as her? You would feel like crap and distance will minimise that feeling.\n\nUltimately it will take time to move on.  Love hurts like hell when you break up and it takes time to get over that 'worst part' pain. If you keep your distance and keep contact  minimal, plus keep going on with your own life, you will eventually find that the pain will subside.\n\nI hope you make it through this emotional roller-coaster we call  relationships.
602550
get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
571759
It's perfectly natural to compare what is known and familiar (Your ex) to what is still being learned and unfamiliar (Your boyfriend), and everyone does it consciously or not. Your ex is part of your past that became a familiar territory, you know what makes him tick. If it's the material things that matter to you in life, chances are you might still be with your ex, but there's more to it since you've got the children and you know your current boyfriend is loving. The best thing you can do is to forget about the past, and what your ex has or had (if possible) and concentrate on your new relationship and being happy together with him. It might even seem that though your ex has some of the things you'd love to have (the new audi and 2nd home), you have something that he wants also (your children, and for you to be miserable). Don't give him that power over you! As they say, kill him with kindness... If it's his intent to make you jealous of his new car and 2nd home, brush it off and attempt to be genuinely happy for him! (Remember, he's the one stuck paying all those bills). This should get easier in time.
480948
Get out and do things that won't remind you of the ex. Go with friends and have some fun and when you think of him or her think of the reason they are the ex...............
651699
Probably a subconscious thing. Even though you consciously have gotten over him, there is still some subconscious pain that you don't even realize. But if you just hang in there, you can get past even this. It may just take time.\n\nYou might try sleeping on your couch for a while, to prevent reinforcing that subconscious hurt anymore. Rearranging your room some might help too. But the more you push past it, the better it will get. Just be patient.
607064
Get over him.  Get out.  Good riddance.  There was a reason your broke up in the first place.  Remember that.
493516
Hold on you live with him still? First off I've never heard of that arangement before in my life. Also what do you mean by living with are you two still together but still sexually active? If so he's using you no wonder you feel lost. You need to get yourself outta there and if your parents won't take you in find a place foryourself. In times of need there are several places like main stay suites that offer cheep extending living. Once you've done that try and find a really decent guy i'm not talking about going bar hopping, i'm talking about a place like church (by the way if you don't have religion at this poin that's another reason you feel lost, there are many christains like myself that are here to help you if you need some with comming to Christ ;) ) I know you most likely love this guy but the sooner you come to relize its time to move on you'll feel bad at first but it will get better. Don't think its not because you won't love the ex because yes you will love doesn't go away, but you have to save whats left of your heart and mend it together for that guy who's still out there you haven't met yet.
249258
well...just cut him out of your life...\nrecall your friends and start hangin out again specially if you haven't seen em for a while because you were too busy dealing with the jerk you're trying to ditch then.\nor better still...try your family...they might've missed you just the same.\nor be with yourself and try to see what you REALLY want and get it!\nDo some changes if you want, like, get a new hair do or update your wardrobe...just keep yourself busy and you'll eventually forget anything happened.\nGood Luck and Enjoy!\n\nohh...by the way...getting over him doesn't necessarily mean you need someone new...just yourself is enough and everyone else around you to share new moments with wont hurt.
851194
find another one. One better than your ex.
349701
it takes a long while to get over someone especially if that was your first.  take your time.  cry all you want.  let it all out.  some people might tell you to try and surround yourself with friends and family.  it might cheer you up, but i think it's okay to feel down for a while.  because no matter what you'd do, you might think about your ex like what did you do, what could you have done, or why your ex left you.   i really do not think it's better to suppress or cover up your feelings by having your mind occupied with something else.  but it's better if you get rid of anything that would remind you of your ex, and if you cut off all the communication means to your ex such as phone number, e-mail, and IM.  delete them all, so you wouldn't be able to talk to him at all.  also, i don't think that finding someone new too soon is such a good idea.  rebound is only rebound.  just think that it's not the end of the world although it feels like it right now.  just take your time and rest up.