Why am i so angry at my friend because her family died?  I feel really bad that it happened but im really mad.
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perhaps it's more frustration or helplessness you feel?  That this bad thing happened and you care for your friend but you really don't know how to help, what to do, or to say?  Maybe you are thinking as well that this is going to change your friendship in some ways, that things are not going to be the way they were?\n Or possibly it has made you aware of life's fragility, that nothing is guaranteed and somehow shown you your own mortality and that of those around you
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i remember i was so upset when one of my schoolmate's died. she died in a car crash, and this was only a few years ago. even though i didn't know her, i cried for hours. what upset me even more was that, no one seemed to care! everybody continued to do there everyday stuff, no teachers talked about it or anything. a year before, another student died. she was a senior, a very popular one at that. when she died, the whole school was in mourning. this girl, mentioned above, was a freshman when she was killed (along with her mother in a car accident), and no one seemed to mention her. i will never forget how angry that made me feel....\ni think everyone should realize that death comes to everyone. it doesn't matter how old you are because people die at any age. it's very sad, but it's a fact of life. everyone should realize that
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You have some problems in your past that is ruining your future. You need to figure out why you are so angry. I hope you find some help before your family falls apart. Get some counseling and have a nice life.\n\nGod Bless.
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You miss your friend.  Thinking of her, remembering things from the past keeps her alive in your heart and mind.  \n\nA lot of people go through a long life, and when they are gone, they leave nothing in anyones heart.  She left you with memories, which will live on with you forever.\n\nEventually the sadness  will ease, sorry for your loss.
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you mean expired as in died? my condolences to you. may you find solace and comfort in her absence. give yourelf time to heal and to grieve. everything happens for a reason which you may not understand (yet). but for it's worth, i am sure your sister will be disappointed if her demise is causing you too much pain. think of the good times and how she will be happy for you if you get good marks.
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If this happened to you, I'm really sorry. Allow yourself to grieve - that is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are sad and don't try to hide it. You have every right to feel sad, angry, sick - whatever it is you feel. Just know that with each passing day, it will get better and you will learn to cope. You will never stop missing that person, but the thoughts of grief will slowly be replaced with fond memories.
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Hey your story touched me so i thought i would take the time to answer it, at least as best as i can! x\n\nFirstly, it must be dreadful to feel empty and lonely-as in a sense, perhaps you feel like you have lost half of your identity, as obviousley your mum is half of your biological makeup-and half of you!\n\nBut on the opposide side of this, is the fact that in that sense, she will always be a part of you, as you are half of her, which should give you some comfort. You are one of the closest people to her; so when you feel lonely and down think about this!\n\nAlso Never say Never either, and keep an open mind! Who is to say there isnt an afterlife? Its best not to think pessimistic, and say that you will never see her again. If she died, perhaps she died for a reason and is no longer in pain and is in peace.\n\nTry to talk to a close member of your family who would perhaps understand. Try not to dwell on the past and embrace the family that you have presently. At the end of the day your mum is in your heart and is a part of you, and that will never fade.\n\nxx
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Learn to love her, because you should never hate your family. Be glad your sister is around. Someone decided to kill my sister. I would give almost anything to have her back here with us. Be glad you have her there! Hope this helped you!
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I know you already feel awful about the situation so i won't tell you how wrong you are.  Too late now anyway.  Personally, I wouldn't tell her.  She is definitely gonna be mad as heck and the friendship is gonna be over.  If you don't care about that-then tell her.  If you do care ask God to forgive you, keep your mouth shut and NEVER DO IT AGAIN!
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Hi hon!\nThis happened to a friend of mine also.  He was 19, had cancer.  Was on some serious medication, but was getting by.  Then we all stopped hearing from him.  Visited his house, but his mom said he had died.  But his shoes were in the hallway.\nSo we all grieved, and moved on.  \nYears later he showed up on one of my friends doorstep.  His mom had told all his friends that he had died.  What a bitch.\nMaybe he didn't want people to see him like that.  Maybe his mom thought his friends would stress him out.  I don't know.  All I do know is we aren't friends with him anymore, we wish him well, but what a terrible thing to do to your "friends".\nSo I shared a little something with you there didn't I?  Take it for what it is, an experience.  Perhaps you aren't getting the whole story either!\nHave a great week...
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it is okay that you don't want to be a pall bearer. I think they will understand that you are just not up to doing so. may her memories comfort you at this sad time. \n\nTake Care!!
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I am sorry for your loss I know it hurts  My best friend of 35 years and I claim to be sisters. I don't think you have any legal standing even though you lost a big part of your life.
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its not necessary for u to fell sympathetic... infact the last thing she would want from u is sympathy.. she would probably want u to treat her like everything is fine just be normal and when she does start talking about her grief listen to her and comfort her help her if she needs ur help but dont sympathise just understand her grief and be there for her she need u now the most.. u DONT HAVE TO FEEL SORRY just make HER FEEL HAPPY. The fact that she threw her wedding ring is actually a good sign cause she is trying to overcome the grief and start over there is nothing wrong in it. just be there for her
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I had lost alot of young (between the ages of 20-26) and i had lost an Uncles that was 20 in December of 2003 in a car accident traceling from Wisconsin to Wyoming to work. I can tell you, tell her your sorry and to always remember the good times. It really helped when everyone of my friends just sat and talked about the good times we had partying and stuff. It will take her time, i am still sad and not the same. Its a very hard thing to deal with. Another thing is, sometimes i just wanted space and noone around, and my friends thought i was being rude but thats just how i felt..Hope it helps u out.
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Life is too short to hold a grudge against a person.  I lost one of my best friends to a car accident a few days ago.  A friend can be there one day and gone the next without you even thinking it's possible.  Think about it.  Tell her why you are mad and make up.\n\nGood luck hun.
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Yes,  its disturbing to me, but not for the same reasons. I feel sadness for everyone involved. The murderer, the murdered, and the families and friends of all of them. This is a tragedy for everyone involved. I am also concerned about you. If you have thoughts like this, and are aware that they are dangerous, please get help, now, before you do something impulsive that will destroy many lives. I don't want you to be part of another tragedy. Do you know where to get help? If you want more information please feel free to e-mail me, and I can give you resources if you are in the US. Don't wait. You are miserable now, living in fear of what you might do. Don't  let it get any worse. I'll be thinking of you. Take care.
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First, I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy. Your family didn't deserve this pain. You are a good mother for wanting to seek help and in no way was this incident your fault.\n\nhttp://www.shakenbaby.com/ is a support group for adults.