im 23 and still hate my parents so much, is this so bad?
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u just said they are good people!! did u ever think why they didn't give u the "right" descipline? it could be bcz of ignorance only
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Man what a tough choice to make at your age,hell that's tough at any age! Have you thought about moving your parents to Cali with you? Maybe to an assisted living facility close to you so you can be there for them and pursue your dreams. You sound very mature and well put together for a 23 year old and I would hate to see you miss out on great opportunities and the woman you love so much,both are hard to come by. Do you have any other family that could help with you parents? I'm very close with my parents and I can see how hard of a decision this can be.\n \nGood Luck
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You have some problems in your past that is ruining your future. You need to figure out why you are so angry. I hope you find some help before your family falls apart. Get some counseling and have a nice life.\n\nGod Bless.
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You did not tell your age.  Why expect your parents to support you?   If you are an adult, and you chose to break up with your husband, stand up as an adult and deal with it.\n\nYes, it is stressful.  Life is stressful.  It's hard.  I know because I've been there and was left with no income and two small children to support. I worked hard, cried sometimes, and raised them alone. You can survive this if I did!  :o)\n\nChin up and all that!  Hang in there!  It will get better.\n\nSit down with a piece of paper and figure out what you want to do with your life.  Set some goals and write out what you need to do to achieve those goals.  Focus on reaching them.  \n\nYou can go to college on government grants for example.  Look into it.  See what local colleges are available and what you might want to study.\n\nLook in to technical schools.\n\nDo something with your life.  That is your choice.  Not your ex's and not your parents.\n\nBest Wishes,\nSue
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I know exactly what you are talking about. My parents did that with me all the time at that age. I'm 21 now, and they know I am free to do what I need to do, but every once in a while they act like they don't want me to go. I can tell you exactly what it is: Your parents are having a hard time accepting the fact that you are no longer a child, but an adult. It is normal for them to seem a little overprotective because of that, they just want the best for you, no matter what your age is, and they still want to be acknowledged as important in your adult life. Even with a full time job, and with my friends and boyfriend, I still try to find time with them, kind of my way of saying that I understand how they are feeling, and because they are my family, no matter what. Before you leave to go somewhere, give them a hug and tell them, "I'll get home safely. I love you. See you later!" Just let them know you appreciate them, and I promise, as you grow older the more they will continue to learn to let go. Good Luck
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Yeah your parents think you are still a child! And to them you will always be a child. Just let them know in a nice way that you are not a child anymore.  \n\nI am 26 and a mother and my parents still treat me like a baby, sometimes I just want to scream but I don't.  I just say to them, I will take that into account and leave it at that.  \n\nI am their last child so I try to understand them.  I love them and I would hate to miss out on time with them cause I was mad and acting like a baby!
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Wow your parents are being very selfish.  It sounds like you've made up your mind about your boyfriend and leaving him his not an option.  My advice is to move out asap.  You're 25, they can't stop you.  You're parents shouldn't hold that over your head...they are saying all that stuff to CONTROL you.  Trust me, sounds like something my mother would have said to me when I lived at home.  We get along a lot better now that I'm not living with her.  I don't think you're parents hate you but they are not being fair.  \n\nThis might sound out there but did you get your college degree yet?  That might help you get a better job and be able to afford living on your own.\n\nAnyways, I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you have to put up with that.  Again, move out asap.
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Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
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You might want to look in your neighborhood for some employment idea. Cutting grass, washing cars, walking dogs etc. You are such a wonderful person to try to help your parents. Just remember that those are adult problems and you are still a young one and you should try to enjoy your childhood. It goes by so quickly. Good luck to you and your family
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have you ever tell you dad how you felt about his attitude?\nhave your mum ever spoke to you of how she felt about the situation?\nyou know,i advise that you'd better see a counselor .Pour our your feelings to the counselor.He/she will be able to help you cope with the current situation you' re facing.\nI know your family must have meant a lot to you.And I suppose you're a growing up child.I agree the current situation affects your life and you other family members but please remember one thing do not let those things to pollute your mind or affect your studies.\nMost importantly get a professional help.\ncheer up ok.I wish you all the best.
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
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ur parents still love u hun.no matter what stupid selfcentered things they do it has nothing 2 do with u.u need 2 relize that what ur parents do is not because of u acutually its just there selfishness.they did something without thinking n ruined there lifes,they did not however stop caring about u or do this 2 hurt u even though it does hurt u.be strong hun and know that u r a good person,so r ur parents there just misguided right now.
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I know I have the same prob. It makes me feel so unwanted to the point that I cry all the time, but never in front of them.I even tried ignoring them for a couple days and it works (most of the time). Look what I do is not spend time with my parents AT ALL. This way they'll want to spend time with you more and they will want you to spend time with them more.
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It is a terrible thing being abused by a parent.  You can deal with it andthough you think you have toughed it out, you still should get some professional help.\nYou just need to remember, that none of it for any reason was your fault.  You need to know that the abuser had issues and unfortunetly didnot deal with them except for lashingout at you.  Maybe as a child growing up, this parent was brought up in an abusive home.  Only she and possibly you will ever really know that but the deal is to forgive that abuser, and forgive yourself for there was nothing you did wrong and nothing you could have done to prevent it.  I am so happy you are out of that situation and would really like you to join a support group, or seek professional thereapy with a specialist because many times the cycle of abuse passes from one generation to the next, and many times, we don't realize this until it's too late.  These people help get inside of your head and really get to the core, and that does go a long way to being able to cope with it and not pass it on into your generation.\n  confronting the abuser is usually done at a certain point of the therapy and I would suggest not doing it until then.  It is very probable that you still have contact with this person and this person may still have an abusive nature, such as that which will come out more as verbal, emotional abuse as you are older now.\n  Please get someone to help you deal with it...they are trained and although you say you have pretty much dealt with it, you really haven't and you need to.............\n  Good luck and I am so sorry for what your parent did to you.  You were helpless and felt so unloved and so wrong all of the time, and believe me, this is not lawful and it is certainly not fair.  Good luck and stay tough.............
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Do not loose yourself to tensions my sister. If already nothing has gone wrong, try to get a job first. Be positive. When you have a job you will have some authority. Then it would be easier for you to convinvence your parents. Parents too love you more than anything. Therefore you will succeed no doubt. Good luck.
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For your own metal health and well being you need to find a way to move. Rent a room with some other college students, check out the dorms, apply for grants and loans. Get a part time job.\n\nYour dad sounds like a very angry and unreasonable person. From the little you have said his treatment of your family is psychologically/emotionally abusive. The man sounds much like my own father. Moving out was the best thing I ever did for myself. Reading the book "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner helped me resolve many of my feelings about him.\n\nAbout talking to your GF, there are plenty of public computers. Your college should have some and your local library. Yahoo Messenger has a web based version that does not require you to download so you can use it on public computers.\n\nGood Luck and take care of yourself.