MY partner suffers from a low libido. Any idea how to raise it. She is lovely, but has a low sex drive?
444991
First of all it is not because of you.  Does she suffer depression?  There could be a lot of answers for this but, she needs to find them out on her own.  Have her ask her doctor.  There are things out there that her doctor can suggest.
697998
She really needs to go slow. Sex is one of those things that \nyou can't know how your going to feel about it, til after.\nIf she is having so much trouble with bad self image...she \nshould wait and do more talking with the object of her intentions.\nIf he really loves her, he can help her get past these bad feelings.\nBecause, he doesn't see her that way at all. She needs to hear this, and from him.
178074
Well what age are we talking here? \nIf you two are too young then I totally agree with her - but if not then perhaps you must decide what is most important to you. Do you love her enough to stay by her side despite the absences of sex, or do you weigh heavily on sex in a relationship. Now, I am assuming this is what you are talking about, (the sex I mean) because if she does not let you touch her at all - then you definitely need to talk/help her or probably best to leave. She must have some serious personal issues.
395002
You can't decrease your desire, you will just have to satisfy yourself when she's not willing.\n\nThere are a couple of questions I have though.  Is she perimenopausal?  Or through menopause?  What about hormonal changes as a result of having kids?  \n\nMen do not understand these things.  When we become unable to have children our desire for 'sex' goes down the tubes.  It's hormone related ok?  If she is on any medication, that can be causing side effects that are increasing this issues.\n\nThe best thing she can do is go speak to her doctor and see if there is anything that they are willing to try medicinally that will help her desire.  Remember it's very important that she not feel pressured and that THE VERY BEST WAY to get her 'into the mood' is by meeting her emtoional needs the best you can.\n\nI'll say this over and over.... Men need to 'get' that if a woman is not emotionally satisfied in their marriages, the sex stops.  It's much like a man can't have sex because he can't get it up!  She can't have sex if her emotional needs are not being met, and that is so hard for men to understand.  By nature they are providers and fixers and that kind of thing.. but you need to learn how to be her friend, support her and pamper her and cherish her.  Massage her back, thank her for the fabulous dinner.. spontaneously say you know, I don't tell you enough how thankful I am that you do the laundry all the time and take such good care of me.  I love you for doing that for me.  Those things make women in the mood :)  I wish you the best and that you are able to work it out hun!!
509776
Before you blame the pill, look a little more into the problem.  Most sexual issues are mental, not physical.  Maybe you were using the balding thing as a crutch to explain why you were having problems with relationships and now that it's not longer a concern, you're hunting for a new problem.  The best solution is a caring and understanding partner that is willing to go through some low-drive periods to see if the problem corrects itself.  Everyone's sex drive waxes and wanes.  Be patient.
1149268
its from a lack of something in the home. We got along with everything else, except for sex. We could play and tease all day then at night I would be all worked up and she would roll over in bed to sleep like nothing had happened. I tried talking with her about how I felt and about her lack of interest. She would acknowledge her lack of sex drive but would never do anything about it.
873467
How about less pressure from you? Many times women lose appreciation for sex when the "spark" has faded and their partner just becomes a horny jerk who sees her as a recepticle for his own self-gratification. If you really care about her, you'll stop trying to get her into the sack and take her to a nice restaurant, enjoy a romantic getaway, be attentive and a good listener. Be the man she fell in love with in the first place.
243080
By now you should know what drives her crazy physically..so, start the seduction sooner than that...do a chore that she normally does, clean the house, do the dishes. Start wooing her with those things before you get frisky. Then when you do get to that point she will be much more relaxed and open...maybe ask if she has any fantasies you can fulfil or just explore her body and ask along the way what she likes. Good luck!
785743
sometimes its the stress of having to care for the infant that causes her not to be aroused.\n\nTry getting a relative/parents to take care of your kid while you and your wife go out for a date. Try flirting with her like the both of you are on your first date, nice dinner out, movies etc.. and have a suprise of soft music at home that you 2 could dance to.. thereafter, with foreplay .. \n\nhopefully she will not take hours to arouse and that the both of you will have a more pleasurable time..\n\nall the best!
894475
If she has a lower sex drive because of a condition such as pregnancy then going without sex for a little bit longer won't hurt you.  \n   If you're becoming unhappy in your relationship because of this sex drive difference, then you might want to rethink things before they get any closer to marriage.  You can't turn back once you take the plunge and if she's not pleasing you now, it won't get any better once you're married.\n\nGood luck!!!
201321
Communicate and then communicate more.  Different people have different ways of feeling secure and loved.  Which does she respond to best?  Gifts?  Doing a favor for her without being asked? Words of assurance and acceptance? \n\nHer way of having her "love tank" filled may be different than yours.  Find out what kind of fuel she needs and I suspect your sex life will improve too.
84204
This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
259217
it's true it sounds like your wife doesn't want it as much as you do, but she is so spoiled and blessed to have such a good husband who is considerate to that. i admit i don't always want to when my husband does, but i rarely tell him no. even if i can't do it i'll be considerate to him being in the mood, and help him out orally.
107734
There are 2 things that can be done.  You must first ask yourself a question.  How important are my sexual needs?  Can I live without them?  If you are looking at getting your sexual needs fulfilled and your partner isn't satisfying them, then you need to talk to him/her about them.  If you have been patient and your partner still isn't willing to satisfy them and it's very important to you.  Then break up with him/her.  If you love him/her too much and are willing to sacrifice your satisfying your sexual needs then stay together.
858821
My sex drive goes down when I'm stressed as well. But my girlfriend is quite creative in making me feel relaxed enough to have a go with her. Do what she does to me. She gives me a light massage, just to rouse me enough. I tend to give in in no time at all. G'luck!
641553
You may have lacked the best part of lovemaking, which is foreplay. It becomes mechanical because you don't observe the 1st commandment. Try doing it a little bit slower from the bottom up. Plenty of VCO/ virgin coconut oil will help. Lather your partner's body from the toes to the thigh up to the up and try massaging, But be careful with it because massage may led her to sleep. Gentle and exploratory manner will do the trick. But again the bottom line is the mind. Control your mind and start undressing her in the mind.
1170815
Marry her, then she'll lose her sex drive. ( Ask any man that has been married for over three years ).