Does one love adopted children like ones own?
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Yes! I have an adopted daughter and I have twin girls. I love all the same but there is a difference in the closeness I think because I gave birth to the twins
1151765
adopt a child then focus on finding love
452115
I agree with Raffalo. Specially if they were good parents. It`s important to be loved. Whatever happened with your real parents, the ones who took their place are kind people, I`m sure. If they didn`t tell you before, you must try to understand their reasons. Discuss this with them if you haven`t done it yet. We all make mistakes, so we must try to accept other people`s.
421509
I HAVE 3 MY SELF AND LOVE KIDS ....... NO PROBLEM WITH ME
687552
I don't think you necessarily love the parent of your children... Many things can happen to turn your feelings around, and make you lose your love for that person. If one loves their children, you will always be thankful for them; but probably more thankful to life than to the person you had them with.
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Yes, I do. I get along with them really well. \nI live very far from my real family, and I honestly feel much closer to them than my real parents. And they treat me like I`m their daughter - I can call them up and talk to them any time. I`ve stayed at their house for weeks before when my husband was on business trips and I was lonely in the empty house. They`re great.
215685
Yes. In fact I know! I just went to that website to see. Only it's probobly not the way you mean it. I think it's a website for adopting children.
1113150
Anger is common in adopted children. Anger for a number of reasons. Its ok not to like her. And its ok to love her even though you don't like her. The reason you "love" your new mother more is she is there to support you when you need it. You will have lots of disagreements with your "new" mother too and you will then wonder why you can't be with your birth mother. Blood is still thicker than water and you will always be attached emotionally to your birth mother. You have to understand that that will cause conflict in you. The best thing I can tell you is you need to talk to a professional and get counseling. Very few people can relate to you because they have not been there. You are VERY lucky to have a "new" mother to help you. She will be a great asset to get you through a challenging time in your life. Know one thing--- YOU CAN MAKE IT and be successful in life (and HAPPY). The challenges you face should only make you stronger.
1007635
Depends on what kind of love it is.\nAnyway, do u love your parents?
849163
I have 2 kids and would love more.Unfortunately my partner can't have kids.I have accepted it.We would have liked our own child,but he treats mine as his own.
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Absolutely whether you like them or are still with them. you should always respect her for being the mother of your child. One day out of the year show her how much you apreciate what she does for your child.
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My daughter and son are both adopted (daughter's parents still living, son's father still living) so I understand what you are going through.  What seemed to work was explaining to our kids that you can love lots of people lots of different ways.  There's Bio-Dad and Mom love, and Adopto-Dad and Mom love, and Big Sister love and Little Brother love, and kitty-cat love, and puppy-dog love.  And, just because they played differently with the kitty-cat didn't mean they didn't love the puppy dog,and vice versa.  They loved both of them, but loved them diffrently, and that was OK.   Using the dog and the cat as examples was more expressive to them and helped them grasp the concept of it being OK to love different things differently and not feeling guilty about where (and to what/whom) their attention was focused.  What you do need to be careful about is any jealousy your ex-husband undoubtedly has, because any subliminal expression of this could add to your son's guilt of loving a new dad. It would also help if you could possibly get your ex to explain that it is OK to love his new daddy.  I think one of the things that also helped both the kids through that was they were both in the same boat so they did have each other as support mechanisms.  Perhaps there is a support group or other parents and children who are going through similar adjustments that you can connect with, as it may help your son to know he is not alone and other kids are going through the same thing he is.    Good luck...I'm glad you and your son found a good man.
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peace and love to you and yours !! no bashing of anyone here - except unthinking uncaring people who bring children into this world and leave them to their own way because it is an inconvenience to their lifestyle... I'll stop now..before I get really worked up.... thanks to all who adopt !!
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why dont you find some thing in life that makes you happy,do you have kids if so do you want them to be like you or do you want them to be happy and full of life,is this a cry for help if so find some you can talk to love love xxx
836090
that is sick you can love who you want but come to family you realy need to becareful\ni had a cusin that had a baby from her family member and the kid did not trun out ok.
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I am not adopted. But adoption is an issue close to my heart. Trying to share my thoughts here:\n\nIf you really are bothered by this question, I think you should explore this;  no one can blame you for it! As midn'tsmokerchic says, it might be a good step for you.\n\nBut the responses, in short term and long term, might depend on the personalities of the other people involved. Would there be a way to contact your birth-mother's parents, siblings or friends first? This might not only let you learn more about her but also help you learn about her husband and other children before meeting them.\n\nGoodluck to you!
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It depends on the individuals involved. \n\nIf it is an adopted or foster child, I think it's a wonderful thing!  The children will adjust and the parents need to focus on treating the children with equal importance.  Twice I have had another child live with us for a while while their parents got things straightened out.  It went very well, for the most part.  Of course you have to deal with jealousy issues and the craziness of having another kid around, but after a couple of weeks it went rather smoothly.