i need some leagal advice about my abusive 15yr.old niece.i'm 48.?
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you can always take her to the middle east where she can be flogged.  i think you'll have a hard time getting a entry visa because of the state warnings and all. you can always try mexico
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file an unruly on her , that way if any violence happens they will see that you are trying to get help for her. they will place her on probation, give her community service and send her to anger management. hopefully she'll learn that there are consequences for her actions and some sense of responsibility on how to deal with other people. if she goes out in the world with that attitude she is going to get hurt or wind up in jail for hurting someone else. you also may get some counseling established so they can find out why she has so much animosity towards you and you can gain control back in YOUR household. good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.
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man o man i agree with you. I mean im almost 15 and i agree that your mom shouldn't get in trouble. I have an abusive brother and they told my mom and dad that they were only aloud to restrain him, but it sounds like its only your mom doing it and its even hard for just my dad to restrain my bro so i couldnt really see how your mom could do that to your sis. and people who dress gothic and crap just look like fricken retards. they need to get over themselves and get a fricken life! they wonder why nobody likes them and its b./c of all that nasty crap they put on themselves. i know its a way to express yourself but come on find a different way to do it!!!!! also there has been many time that my bro has tried to kill my mom and i think yall should try getting her tested for ADHD and also maybe get her a councilor
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how to you associate with this lady? if you have no obligation, then just avoid being around her, if that fails then speak with the mother, or do something about it yourself, it is your right and duty to protect your child, so maybe you can talk to the ten year old, it'll make her mother look stupid for not disciplining her own child
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try talk to her, tell her that you support her and that you are not trying to interfere with her relationship. put your veiws across but with sounding like you are biased or that you are accusing anyone. my best friend went through this and we could all see what was happening, we tried to speak to her but she wouldnt listen, it all came to a head unfortunatley when he threw her down the stairs (she was 16 weeks pregnant) her brother was there and phnd her dad, we never said i told you so instead we supported her. unfortunatley abusive men break the confidence of their partners so that they wont leave!good luck
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First off *HUGS*!\n\nSecond off, unfortunately there is nothing youc an do to make them stop.  Be it your mom, dad, step mom or sibling, that choice has to come from them.  And remember, its not your fault.\n\nHow old are you?  It really sounds like you are in an abusive situation.  I would talk to a councelor at school and let them know whats going on.  Are you living with this family member?  Is there anyone else you could stay with?  As far as your step mom goes, can you talk to your dad?  If you can't talk to him or her, you need to let her comments go.  Realize you are none of the horrible things being said to you.  Sometimes, its unfortunate but you have to take a mental break from the people in your life.  Your step-mom or dad if they are the ones that you have the issue with.  You are a strong young person and this is a very short yet impressionable time in your life.  \n\nTell youself you are your own person and you will not let the rest of you're life be the summation of this small time frame.  And that you will not end up like them in your future.  I know this is hard though and you don't always have to believe it in certain moments, but when always remind yourself and eventually it wont be so hard to remember. \n\nAre there other activities you can do?  Maybe take up volunteer work or a sports activity to get you out of the house as much as possible?  Its always good to have someone to talk to.  Like I said, go see a councelor at school.  If you feel you can't do this, there are Alateen meetings all over.  They are connected to Alcoholics Anonymous in the fact they are for family members of alcoholics.  You can meet other people in your situation and it can be a great support.\n\nBe strong love, you are your own person and can get through this, and there is NEVER anything wrong with yourself or asking for help.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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The next time you hear a ruckus going on next door, call the police immediately. Even better check to see if there is a help line for kids to call in your area and use it to report the abuse NOW! Call your Social Services Office or Children's Aid Society and report it to them. They have to check out all reports of abuse. If you are not sure who to call, phone a school or hospital in your area and ask them for a number to use. You can remain anonymous and the woman next door will never know who reported her if you are worried about retaliation on her part. Do this. You'll be glad you did. These children need help.
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She knows but she needs time to soak up all that information,and  she needs time to figure out how to tell you how much you will be missed.And she needs time to figure out how to apologize to you, then on top of all that she will then have to figure out how to let you go and grow up without it breaking her heart. Give her a break you just gave her a lot to think about and probably in a short amount of time. but alas i think things will work out sooner than you know, you have a very special Aunt. count your blessings.
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i have 2 sisters both can be quite bad so i no were you are coming from one is older than me as one is younger i would ask her what is going on try and sort it out but dont be to hard treat her as a friend and she might open up to you in a good way good luck any more advice needed you can email me on your friend waiting  lauzmargretjones@yahoo.com
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Be there for her. Listen to her when she complains, help her understand that its not her fault. Try not to make judgements on the family. Support her.
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Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
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First of all, it's nice to see someone who really is concerned about family!!!!  I wish you the best of luck in all you do, I know your grandma would be proud.\n\n     I'm not very good with legal things like this, but I'll try to offer some ideas for you.\n\n     1.  If you are taking care of your uncles welfare, check out becoming there power of attorny over finances.  This would give you legal ground to care for them and their money.  \n\n     2.  There might be some form of assistance for you, check out the social service programs in your area.\n\n     3.  Your younger uncle my be trying to deal with the death of his mother still, which can cause many changes in attitude and social behavior.  Try to be open and honest with him, let him know you're there to help.\n\n     Above all, be good to yourself, don't let this cosume you.  If you need a break, let them know. You are dealing with alot.  Make sure you have someone to talk to, maybe your religious leader (pastor, priest, etc.)
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Oh Kirk - you need to get out of there as soon as you can.  You deserve better.  There is help and support out there. No one has the right to treat you like that.  Are there any agencies you could contact ? And please contact your mom or another close relative or someone you feel you can trust.  I guess you much feel totally alone and scared and adults have not exactly been a source of trust for you.  Believe me you need to get out.  I wish I could help  I truly do.  I am in Scotland.  I am not surprised that you feel so bad about your life.  IT IS NOT your fault please believe that.  Contact someone and get yourself to safety.
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Without the parents support, good luck. \n\nThey really are doing her a disservice by not having her help out.  She is getting a misconception about how real life is as well as not gaining the confidence that being a capable, contributing member of a family brings.  \n\nIf you also live with them, a family meeting might be in order.  You might try spending more time with your niece and encouraging her, but she probably won't respond too well.  It's a tough situation because you love her and probably aren't liking her too much right now.  \n\nGood luck.
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My dear ,i have 4 dauthers and ive been through hell with them.and i can surly tell you that hurting your self well make your life worse\nyou well understand that as you get older,But think for a minute if you had a little girl and she was running around with a boyfriend what would you do ,ive had so many nights sitting up scared to death one of my girls would get hurt or pregant,and it did happen one of my twins did get pregant,but since then she has become a nurse so it all work out good.and she hurt her self a few times,it broke my heart to see her do ing this to her self.so many nights i would stay up all night driving around looking for her,the police would have raids on her boyfriends house\nover and overone night they had 3 raids they,they found her in the attic.with this iam just trying to say its hard to be your age and alot of things do not make since.ive tryed to teach my girls some rules to reamber.1.depend on no one\nbut your self.2.your bestfriend is the one that will hurt you and destroy all the trust you thought you had.3.look at your future and find out what you need to do to make your life happy\n.because your the only one that can make your self the happiest.4.And show everyone that you can make it without there help.\nyou will need help but get the right help.\ni know at your age it seems like everyone is against you.and that no one understands you,if you cant talk to your mom and you dont have a sister try and find someone that you can realy trust.i hope this help you a little,my girls are 35,21,20,20 and one boy whos 25.GOOD LUCK,youll make it dear just dont hurt your self it wount help at all.barbaratoo@yahoo.com
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get a life little girl\nstay away from her, don't call or even speak to her\nIf your old enough to fight your old enough to act like an adult\nIf you want a restraining order you can apply for one but that does not mean a court will issue one! Proof, proof, proof, no proof no restraining order!
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is everyone so paranoid?  i took this to mean "childern that are the same age as mine".. please add the rest of you question, so we can be more helpful...\n\nTry looking into church groups or local community centers.  You may also help your childern find new friends by getting them involved in a 4H program, Scouts, or sports (like AYSO Soccer or t-ball)  \n\nIf it's a smaller commnity, check bulliten boards... around my area events are posted on bulliten boards at post offices and grocery stores. If you find something that interests you, go.  \n\nSince you are fleeing an abusive relationship, a local shelter or simmilar service that provides conseling for people in your situation may be able to help you readjust.