how do you get over your first love ?   ( my frist  jason  m.)?
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hey, lemmie break it to you gently....people rarely or never get over their first loves....it always has a nice feeling to remember that time and why should you forget it, we should treasure good old memories....as long as those memories dont get in the way of your marriage dear keep them....... i still remember my first love like it was yesterday, its unfortunate though that many people dont get to marry their first loves probably due to age, finances or other reasons but i woudnt want to forget that coz my past made what i am.....
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I can tell you that time will lessen your pain, but you will never forget the person.  I still have a place in my heart for my first love, and while I don't cry over him or technically still "love" him, I will always remember him.  \n\nTime will make it better.  I promise. :)
830339
Must be your first love? It's going to happen more in your life so get used to it. Everything passes in time.>
1015208
I fell in love with a guy last year, but when I asked him out he said he can't, and that I was going to University... I wondered if that last comment was because he'd said that he had a girlfriend who moved away to Italy, and that his experience was affected by that. Anyway, I was heartbroken, and it's been a year, but I still think of him with love. \n\nI've done the whole trying to meet other guys, but none of them make me feel the way I felt about him. There may be plenty of fish in the sea, but most are a bunch of red herrings! \nI think he is a fool for not realising how much he means to me. \n\nI said this to someone else, that it's all very well people saying "move on and get on with your life" but if you love someone it isn't that easy. I think you should avoid her, as she is spoken for - give yourself a break. I had no choice, as I moved away. \nI now remember that guy with love - the way I see it, the love was floating around like a cloud, where I'd breathe it in all the time, whether I meant to or not. I now imagine that cloud of love to be sealed inside a large glass jar. Sometimes the essence still comes out, if something reminds me of him, but I have the lid, so I keep those feelings safe. I still wish we could be together, but I also hope that I might fall in love again.\nWhoring yourself is not going to help at all. Give yourself all the time you need to get over it - I speak from my experience, but yours may be different, but it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. \nJesus still loves you!\n\nI recommend this a lot: See the film "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind".
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I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
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that already happened to me...its very difficult to get over this guy...specially if he always talks to you..i bet he only thinks of you as a friend, so when he comes talk to you, always smile and be nice (because someday..act like a friend...but you should try to replace him... look for some new guys and eventually kiss them...make new friends and go out with them.... be sure to always be occupied and try to think of him the least possible... each day that passes you will see that your love will decrease...
736374
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
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1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
509055
Me too. your first love is always going to be part of you. He was the first person who cared for you and the first you cared for. You will always think of him.
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hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
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Well I hope you don't let him fool you a third time.  My first love did this to me. Guys can be very tricky. He befriended me for a year before I decided to have sex with him. He was my best Friend.  After we had sex he dumped me.  Guys like the game especially as teenagers, so becareful.  I grieved the relationship for quite some time.  I got together with my girlfriends who let me cry. I concentrated on my work and having fun.  With time my heart healed and so will yours. Just be patient with yourself and don't keep in touch  with him. He is not a real friend.
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I know how it feels, I am in a relationship now with the best guy i could ever be with we have been together almost 5 years, and I still find myself wondering about my first love. Me and my first love were together for only 2 and 1/2 years and he was my first everything. I know deep down i still have feelings for him and i always wonder about him. I know i shouldnt be doing that, but i cant help it, i guess he still has some place deep in my heart. As for you i think that you still have a special place in your heart for this guy. Dont let it bother you i think its all part of how special this guy was for you, just be thankful and happy that he is having a great life, and that he is married be happy for him. I am sure that he probably still thinks about you as much as you do him. Maybe you never know what holds in the future. SO dont lose hopes of this guy and dont lose hopes on finding another guy. god only knows whom your soulmate is. I wish the best for you. god bless you
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i have found the best way to get over someone is to think about them as though they have died.  that way you can keep the memories you have about the good times you had with him but accept there will be no more.  stay busy and go different places and do different things than you did when you were with him.   try very hard not to see him or hear about him.  it's a cliche but time does really heal and every day gets a little easier.  don't stay home and be sad now even though no guys measure up right now.  the next one who will measure up is out there and you won't meet him while you're at home feeling sad.  and once you meet him you'll wonder what you ever saw in the guy who made you sad.  good luck!!
633750
You will get over it.It takes time.Try to do something to help yourself get on with life.You will never love the same way again.Each time will be different.But you will find another wonderful person to fill that void.If you two broke up I am sure that you can find someone who will be the girl friend of your dreams.It all takes time.
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I'm going through the same thing. So you're not alone. It's awful....But you're extremely fortunate. My guy friend never came back!!!! He's been gone for a while now...(a month maybe?) and slowly, very slowly, I'm coming back to reality. So I guess all you need is some time. \nI believe that your heart is made up of people. So when someone leaves, the people are ripped out of your heart, leaving a huge gap. A painful gap. And the only way to heal it is to replace it with new people. So try to find someone new to fill in that empty space in your heart. I haven't, that's for sure. It's hard to find someone as special as those guys. \nWhenever memories of those guys come back, just shut it out. Replace those memories with bad ones. Try to forget them.\nOk, I know that's an awful thing to do, but at least it'll help you concentrate for another hour. \nI hope this helps, sister. Good luck. I wish you the best.\n\nP.S. Thanks for your Q. I finally found someone I can relate to.\n\nOooohh! Here's something to cheer you up:\nIn a world of cheerios, be a fruit loop.\nHaha, sorry, I'm really random. But this quote has helped me. It might do the same for you!
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just start working on building back your friendships with those he wouldnt let you contact. concentrate on moving on. i know what its like to date someone who didnt treat you right and kind of left you humuliated that you ever let them get away with those things. as hard as it is, try not to dwell on it, keep doing the things that make you happy and most importantly when you feel ready to date again remember that not all guys are going to treat you like that. it would be so much easier if we could just go back and erase things like that  but since we cant all we can do is rebuild it all and get past it. hang in there :)
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Sorry to hear that but you have to get over him honey. He has a baby and he has to be there for his kid. Besides wouldn't you want you first kid to be your man's first kid as well. Get over him or you will get hurt.GOOD LUCK!