Why does my mum side with my stepdad.?
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If all that you said was true, why would you and your stepdad be arguing? Give us an idea what the last argument was about and we may be able to help.\n\nI saw your addition. From what you said, it looks like he just doesn't trust you. There is no quick fix. He's new to the family and you are an unknown. As to why your mom sides with him, that makes sense. Too often teenagers try to play the parents against each other, especially if one of the parents is a step parent. You may not have done that, but they have to show a unified front.\n\nIf your stepdad is reading your diary and such, he probably believes what is written in there. Why not write your feelings in it? You can write how you are trying to be the best you can be but are still being mistrusted by your stepdad. Don't be overly negative. Just say how much you want a chance. It might work.
446015
Your mum grew up in a different era.  What is right for you is not necessarily what was right for her.  Understand that she can't understand why you'd want to do that.  Agree to differ.
208702
It's strange you know such particular and since they are so known, I don't realize why your g/f, her mum and the whole family is doing nothing about. The first to be the basic cause is the mum and so she just ought to act in consequence, talking with her strange son and avoiding some occasion or situation......\n12 years are too many for such deviations and it just means that mum did nothing till now, evidently!
611195
let him flip out all he wants you go on living your life and loving your baby but please be careful you never know when he may be dangerous. Ive seen this behavior in both men and women its hard to explain or understand but heres my opinion about it anyway. I believe some people dont want the person they were with but want that persons attention anyway and when that person starts seeing other people they dont like it thus making them mad. its jealousy plain and simple regardless if they are with someone else or not so I wish you luck in getting rid of him and his step mom
437203
You will have my prayers... It is so nice to see a step-family situation where the love is there.. I am a step mom but love my kids and hope they love me as much as you seem to love your step dad.. I am sure he is a lucky man to have the support you are showing to him in this time of his need.. Remember that Our Lord and Savior is in control and loves you and your family.. Prayer and laughter is the best you can give your Step dad.. when things calm down rent a funny movie and sit down and laugh with him.. God Bless You and Your Family.. :)
559955
She is JUST your step-sister.  It sounds like you're both consenting ADULTS.  Sheesh, these idiots who say/think you're blood related or it is against the law, OMG!!!  There is NO blood relation in step-sister/step-brother.  Two people who aren't related get married and their kids are step-brother/sister.  What fools!!!  I say go for it!!  Life is short!!  You might regret it later if you don't!!  Good luck.
984853
Your not a horrible person, I know this because my mom and step dad fight about the same thing. There is still hope for your relationship and not to worry about a thing for a bit. Things will brighten up soon.
838247
Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.\n\nI didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
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i went through a very similar experience, though my parents were just divorced, but my dad was with my stepmother before my parents separated. she's this woman who completley changed him, in every way. he knows this because he cant be himself around her totally. im not sure how to give you advice because it sounds like your dads wife is just as crazy. i basically gave up the fight after awhile and havent really seen my dad. maybe some family therapy? im not sure, i just know its hard to deal with and i understand what you're going through. i hope that things get better! sorry this wasnt so much advice, as a comment but thats all i got.
1024542
My step father because he does nothing but cause pain to my family...he has complete control over my mom, is abusive to both her and my younger sister..but there is not much i can do becaue my mom choses to be with him.
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You are an adult so why are you allowing your mother to dictate to you whether or not you have a relationship with your father?  I have been in that situation too and although my kids dad was NEVER involved I didn't stop her from seeing him when he finally decided to remember that he had a child.  A mothers true love is unconditional and if your mother has that for you then she would not hurt you this way. Your fathers other children are your brothers and sisters and you shouldn't be forced to stay away from them because of your mothers bitterness. You should see your father and give your mother her time to accept the fact and if she can't then there's no unconditional love for you.  You have to live your own life now and it's her choice whether or not she's in it.
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You might wanna try finding out why he feels that your mom is mental.  It could be something serious.  Or it could be some silly little thing in his head.  But you DO need to communicate with each other if it's to be resolved in any way.  Dont get caught in the middle of conflict between two people that you love.
201023
treat her like your own child.  if you do not have a child, treat her like who would your own child.  my step dad does not treat me and my brother the same as he treats his daughter.  he use to, but now he does.  it has made me not like him, and now that i do not live in his household, i rarely go over to see my mom, who i miss.
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Try to be kind and understand that she loves your dad and wants to live a happy life.  She can be a great ally.  Being a step-parent can be horrifically difficult, she must really love your Dad. Ask her advice from time to time and really listen.  That does not mean that you have to take the advice, just that you value hearing her opinion.  It can really open up the relationship.  Take it easy, no need to rush.  If you rush, it is easy to make a misstep and get hurt feelings that can harm the relationship.
880381
Your poor mum...5 years is a long time. I hope she gets rid of him as its a real cheek if he says he can't stop seeing the other woman !!!
901885
You ask her why she's being wicked.\n\nOf course I'm speaking on behalf of wicked stepmoms everywhere.  It would help to know a little more about your situation.  Maybe she's wicked, maybe she's not.  There's not enough here to give you a clear answer.
604679
Honey its your life and  you like anyone else deserves to be happy, most people look there whole life to find some one that loves them unconditionally don't throw that away because its not making your step mom happy, you are 29 you are a strong independent woman who can make her own choices, your step mum doesn't need to accept your life style she just needs to learn to live with it.Good luck sweetie.