Were you 100% sure you wanted to get divorced when you did, or sooner??
94612
I didn't want to divorce at all.  She had other plans and they did not include any real (or fake) efforts at addressing the problems we had in our marriage.\n\nInstead, she just created new problems by opening a second household, adding more expenses and keeping my daughter away from me.\n\nPersonally, I feel divorce should be considered ONLY after you've exhaused every profession means to work on the marriage and can perform your role as husband or wife perfectly, but your partner will not give up her affair, or his addiction or refuses to be treated for anger, control, whatever.\n\nOnly after the person repeatedly refuses to get help for themselves and you've done everything possible to address your issues (since none of us are perfect) should you resort to divorce.\n\nI can tell you divorce solved very little in our case and only added to our issues, since we had a child involved.\n\nIf the choice were mine to make, we would not be divorced, but would have "gone to school" to learn how to make our marriage work.\n\nUnfortunately, the choice was not mine to make.\n\nHTH
1016177
I filed for divorce.  My attorney told me that it would make a better case in my favor (as a female) if I did so since my Ex was dragging his feet.  It did work out for me.  The judge granted me  sole custody of our child ( we were going for joint custody) and my ex was told to pay my attorney fees.
773440
Me. My wife's tough but she's a good girl deep down and I've never been happier. Now I'm ten years married so that's some statement..... Though the first few years weren't like that as I spose we're both tough and we fought like cat and dog. But now I just go, 'sure honey' and there's no-one for her to fight with. haha.\n\nLol, I must have told her 100 times, 'I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you'. haha, but after a month or so we both calmed down. I'm not kidding when just married we could carry a grudge for months. Lol. Especially her.
41425
and are you sure that you do now?
704185
It sounds like you're already doing the right things - you have moved out, you have initiated divorce proceedings.  Go through with the divorce, and then look to the future.
218721
I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
628881
I did stay married for many years for my kids, but if I had it to do over....NO WAY! The biggest relief for them came when we got divorced....no more fussing, arguing, etc. They were more relieved than we were. Good Luck!!
578693
I guess it depends on the stage of one's life.  I am having a hard time accepting that my husband wants to seperate and probably divorce and I think I need him more.  It is pretty obvious to me that he does not need me otherwise he would not be able to ask for this.
506055
My husband and I met in late October 2004.  Within two weeks, I knew we were going to marry.  We moved in together almost immediately.  Although, I did keep my apartment until we were married, but never went there.  We took several road trips together.  We were engaged on May 13, 2005, and married on July 27, 2005. We are expecting our first child in October of this year.  I cannot imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone  else.  We are both 28 years old.  I have never been married, though have been engaged a couple of times.  I have never been more cetain of anyone or anything in my whole life.  Yes, we get on each other's nerves every now and again, but Phillip is my family, my best friend, my lover and husband.  I can tell him everything and talk to him about anything.  I have no doubts, regardless of what may come, we can work it out.  For me, divorce is never an option.  I will stand by Phillip whatever comes because I care about him and I am certain he will never purposely hurt me.  I would rather experience the grandest love and then lose it than never have known it at all.  I say go for it.  If you feel it deep inside yourself, take your love as far as you can.
785858
I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
820856
I don't want to be critical, but I want to be honest in my answer.\n\nI had this same fear after my 2nd marriage ended.  Thank goodness I had a dear friend who saw what I was experiencing and helped me rebuild my self-esteem and helped me "find myself".  I realized that I was not happy with myself and that I needed to be before I got involved again.  This was not a quick process.  And it was a lonely one.  But I thank God every day that I went through it.  When I quit looking and found out that I actually liked myself, I found a great guy.  He and I are no longer together, but I found that I am a complete person without a man.  This has given me a whole new perspective on life and relationships.  Since then, I have met and dated a much higher quality of men.  The man I'm seeing now is a wonderful and thoughtful man who is a good father and is concerned about the people around him.  This is want I wanted and what found me.\n\nI hope my experience can help!
565859
It depends on who the person is and if they are ready to settle down, I am 35 and I am ready to settle when I was younger no way not ready, but now I feel I am ready for that long term commitment. my reason for waiting so long i didnt want to marry and than 1yr end up in divorce, when i marry I want it to last.like the vows dill death do us part...
740294
Not at all!\nSince I broke up with my ex of 10 years my life went from going nowhere to me being the happiest I have ever been. It was the best decision I ever made...I wish I didn't wait until 10 years to break it off.
631544
my husband and I waited about three weeks. I knew I really liked him, and I didn't want to be too easy, so I held out. I wanted to right away.\nwe have been married 4 years now.
751813
I'm going through the same thing. And I know someone who went through it and is happily married now. So that makes me optimistic. I guess what I'm saying is NEVER SETTLE... Don't u want to b happy.
1051073
I married a pert... now... we're divorced...\n\nNOW she's an expert.  I think the same is true of you!
1105218
Very possible...when I was married I loved my husband dearly however I could not stand that asshole..soooo I divorced him and I'm happy again...:)