My (Our) daughter ( 16 yrs) says I love my husband more than I love her, is this wrong? is this common?
91689
Well, I am a teenager so I am guessing she says that to you because you probably dont pay enough attention to her. Sometimes when we say things like this, its like we are screaming to be heard, that why we rebel. Its common that we do this, but it is not common why. So you need to talk to her.
771957
My ex-husband does see my daughter (3yr) but definitely not as often as I would like him to and esp not as much as my lil girl would like to see or hear from him for that matter. She has said things to me like "Daddy doesn't like me" and other random comments that should never come out of a child's mouth esp at that age. It literally breaks my hear to her think such things and it drives me crazy for the fact that I am powerless to do anything about it. I have made several attempts to tell him that he needs to spend more time with her and even told him what shes been saying...The girl has called my dog Daddy and even one of my female friends...You would think that would've been a wake up call to him but it wasnt. So I always tell her that he loves her very much and that he's just at work right now and would be here to see her if he could. I know it's a lie (well at least that he's at work and coming to see her) but the child does not need to know he choices and actions and if he continues on this path, she will learn it on her own in time. Don't say anything to a child this young about his father not wanting to see him. It will just hurt him and he doesnt deserve that. As much as it will probably kill you to do, just say positive things and at least for now make this child really believe that his father does love him and is there for him at least in spirit. It is your job to make this child happy and I know it is a tough burden to put up a facade to your lil one for someone who doesn't deserve this child's love or attention but it is his father and you have to do what's right. Once again I am deeply sorry that you are going through this and I am esp sorry that your son has to go through this too. I sincerely hope that his father comes around for him and stops being a selfish inconsiderate asshole. Good luck and please be strong not only for you, but for your son...youre all he's got and you need to be the better person in this.:)
768453
Well for me it does not matter how long you have been in a relationship when you say i love you, i think you should ONLY say it when you mean it. I think all the teens and dont Think i am some adult thinking bad of teenagers actually i am in the 8th grade so i am basically talking about my friends they toss around '' i love you'' to anyone and everyone and i dint think that is right you should only say '' i love you'' when you truly do. If you love him then just say it but go with you hart if you think it is too early or he might not ''love'' you then dont, other wise say it.
835035
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
209588
It sounds like love.  It also sounds like the 1st year of marriage.  You don't talk about why you are arguing, but would counseling help?  I did not live with my husband before our marriage, so during our 1st year there was a lot of...he said, she said...each of us repeating back what we thought the other person said.  Often times, we would have to explain several times until we got it right.  It was not easy, but after the 1st year things got better.  We have been married 8 1/2 years, now.  Sure, we still argue sometimes, but we work it out much easier.  Good luck!
1054764
My husband and I have that kind of love. People say they can see the love all around us when we are together. When we make love it is like our souls are making love. We have been together for 17 yrs and we fall deeper in love each passing day. We are each others soul mates. It is real hard to describe how much we really love one another.
757342
Honestly, I am touched by your story. It is the power of love!\nI am fourteen now and I am also experiencing love now. I really love and care for her and believe that I would do everything for her. However, she told me that she didn't have that special feeling towards me. Maybe she has not realised how much I care for her. What I hope now is for her to wake up someday and receive me in her heart.\n\nSo, yes, follow your heart, if you really love her and she also feels the same, then you deserve that.
1115332
When I was 16, my boyfrind was 20 ...and my parents said the same thing...but I stayed with him...they still disagree, but now im 19 (and living with him)and hes going on 23...its not as bad as parents think. As long as you are with someone you care about and he doesnt hold you back at anything, then i would say you are fine. I have been through the same thing. And am still going through it. Parents will be parents i have come to find out. Just go with your heart feelings and dont let anyone take that away from you-ever....if u neeed to talk you can im me or email..either way. i'd love to pass on some advice...
689577
Just because you get married does not necessarily mean you love your parents less.  The way you love your husband is obviously different from the way you love your parents.  You should love them equally.  Different, but equal.
1035652
i think u might be over reacting just a little. if he's still telling u that he loves u then no worries. through the  days, months, years ppl change and that's wut he's doing . but the one thing that izn't changing is the love he haz for u.
16860
there is a generation gap between the 2 of you.  she was 23 and you were 52 when you got married.  her interests, goals, values etc are probably different than yours.
1035293
I know it's hard to sometimes show love and affection when you're not used to saying it or have been shown love, But she is ur mother and consider ur self lucky..My mother died when I was 2 1/2 yrs old and I had my father who wasn't very loving, I knew he loved me, but he never told me until now ... I'm 20yrs old and Everytime we talk he says I love you....but it took us long enouf to say those three little words...which I hoped I had that when I was growing up. Love you're mom no matter what ...say I love you to her....be thankful and lilttle by little things can get better!!!
754360
It seems he is using getting close to your daughter as a way to stay in your house (maybe not intentionly) Sit down and talk to him, tell him your not ready to live with him full time. If your ready for try having just stay over at weekends. If he loves you he will understand, but be prepared if this is not what he wants to hear this may break upo the reletionship. First think clearly about what you really want and when you approach him with the subject just be prepared for what your gonna hear in return. \n\nGOOD LUCK!
298093
I am in love with my husband and I have been for years.  Is it child love?  Much better than first love and we will always be each others only love!  We are the beginning and the end to each others lives.
1126313
Let me get this straight: you're married and you have a girlfriend? Ok. Got it. Well, if you valued marriage, then you wouldn't have violated it by having an affair. However, it's too late for that and now you're asking for your girlfriend to say 'I love you'? First of all, there's no point in getting her to say it if she doesn't love you. Second of all, get a divorce and then maybe she'll come to love you and be comfortable with saying it. Personally, I don't think you deserve to be with either woman. Your girlfriend is just as guilty as you are though because she knew you were married and yet still carried on. But that's just me.
853076
I'm sorry to hear this. Your daughter should not treat you this way. I believe she is blinded by her feelings for her husband that's why she is one sided. \n\nShe knows deep inside her where she stands and how her husband feels and she knows it is wrong ! but she would rather defend her husband rather than her own mother because of her "blind one sided love". \n\nYour daughter loves you but she sucks... ( I'm sorry ) she doesn't know how hurt a mother feels when feeling abandoned by her own child.. don't worry because your dauther will feel it if her own dauther will do it to her. \n\nI'll pray that God will give you enough courage to hold on to love your daugther despite what she had done and i hope she will realised that what is she doing is wrong.
583495
If you're younger than 18, then you should probably tell them.  As a parent of daughters, it would be very important for me to know who my child is involved with.  This day and age it is the safe thing to do.  If you care that much about him, then your parents should understand .. they really do know a little about being in love! ;-)