I have been separated from my cheating husband for 9 mos. I plan to get a divorce by month 12.?
84957
I think it revolves around the fact you are still in the "Wife" frame of mind. Well the children, Still married and the rest of the phrases you say. \n\nThree times? you are more commited to your role as "Wife" then your role as yourself or mother. Might watch that. Been known to be dangerous.
534696
just one word of advice! You sound young, i got married at 19, and am about to get divorced (i'm 20) we rushed into things wayyyyy too fast. We barely knew each other well enough to move in together and be married. Take things slow! Stay engaged awhile!
161352
I'm not one to really talk since I've been divorced twice, but still, I think that unless he's abusing you or your kids, give him a chance to remind you of why you married him in the first place. "For better or worse" There is nothing worse than regret, and if you decide to end the relationship without serious counsuling or prayer (if you're religious) that you may wind up regreting leaving the man whose stood by you all those years. And 9 is a big number, so unless you've been lying to yourself and him for that long, you're marriage deserves a lengthy examination.
671560
Talk to your divorce attorney.  It is a simple matter of filing the paperwork.
414753
you need to divorce him...NOW!!!!
1167238
You weren't very serious about your marriage vows, were you? Five months married, and you are ready to ditch the minute some has been rings you. Divorce your husband. He doesn't deserve to be married to you.
603316
Not likely....you were only married for a year and you came into the marraige with these things.  Get a good lawyer and you should be fine.  Find a flat rate divorce attorney....it will cost you more up front, (and possible  a little more in the end) but you won't get nickel and dimed with every phone call, email, and paper that needs written/filed.  Good luck....and it really does gt better!
670117
I understand that you say you don't want to get divorced right now but this situation is not only bad for you but also for your kids. You need to get away from that. Yes, you should definitely document what's going on. Go get a lawyer and find a counselor or a shelter. Don't let him control you like this. Do you have familty you could go to or at least talk to? How about someone in your synagogue (sorry if I spelled that wrong)?
556345
This is serious matter. You need to refer to a marriage counsellor, he can guide you through the whole process and refer a good divorce attorney, if required.\n\nTry to contact some government agencies in the area you live, which deal with family matters.
636207
You can get a legal separation, but do everything right so your entitled to half of everything, even if you were only married for a short time.  Also they may use cruel & inhuman treatment, sounds horrible, but dont focus too much on that.  If he wants a divorce to it should be a breeze, if not, do what you have to and cover yourself financially. A good lawyer, good-luck.  They are theives...be carefull. Do some reading first, because the less you no the more they will take advantage of you and guess what that means $$$$$$$$.
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
386371
Talk with a divorce attorney before doing it . . . they have free consultation . . . ask them . . . you kidnapper.
489378
You will be held liable for it.  What you should have done is gotten an anullment!!!  If you wanted to wait around to give her the benefit of the doubt, you should have filed legal seperation forms that way you would not be responsible for anything she does from the date of filing.  It's six yrs now....file for a divorce!!!  If you cannot find her..there are other ways of divorcing her without knowing her whereabouts...such as file the divorce but have your attorney file (as a public announcement) in the legal section of the newspaper.  She will have so many days to respond.  You sound like my ex...LOL...still married to a woman for eight years been seperated for six of them!!!\n\nEnd it now before it gets worse!!!  Not to sound harsh but if you passed away (lord forbid you don't..) she would be entitled to your benefits!!!!  \n\nEnd it.
966228
As much as I'm against divorce it really seems to me that you should have never married the person you are with.  Did he ever make you happy?  Anyway\n\nThe truth is you are wondering if this considering the situation could grow into a real serious committed relationship.  Unfortunately it probably won't, the guy you are with will always know and remember that you met him while you were cheating on your husband.  He may like you enough to really think in his heart that it won't matter but deep down it always will it will come out later.  I'm really sorry.\n\nHonestly you need to do something about your current relationship before anything else. You need to either get a counselor (what i would recommend) or get a lawyer (what others may recommend).  As someone else said right now anybody looks better than your husband in his current state.
595893
Enjoy it while it lasts, cause ur up sh-t creek. Get a Lawyer.
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
535799
Wow,\nAlot of other husbands would have loved to have been married to you.\nNow you basically have been doing everything already on your own. Now it is time for you to step up to the plate and find you another place to live or move him out and get a divorce.\nThere are others out there that would love to be a part of your life.\nWhy put yourself in prison the rest of your life.\nGet off your duff and go out and enjoy life start over\nBlessed be