how do you get the one you love to see that you wont hurt them like their last g/f?
86999
Romance starts in the eyes of the seeker.\nLove starts in the hearts of the couple.\nFoolishness starts in the mind
1165938
mitr says.... if the person is close to your heart, he/she can never drift away....\nfollow this.....\n1. be different... probably he/she is bored of the same routinely YOU....\n2. do something creative for him...\n3. do something very special for him... which only a person does when the other one is close to your heart... \n4. be a surprise to him/her... it will bind the interest...\n5. give importance to that person, more than anythign in your life and make him/her feel special......\n6. say in a very romantic way that you wann be with him/her, more often than you use to... \n7. do not bind him /her... give space... loosen the grip.... \n8. FIND OUT THE REASON WHY THE PERSON IS DRIFTING AWAY FROM YOU........ if possible, cure it......
769688
If you find out it is her he's interested in, make him choose but don't say "her or me". Here's how you do it. \n\nStart "losing interest" in him....start making it noticeable that you might be interested in one of his friends, or talk to one of your friends to set this up. Make it appear in front of him that you are losing interest in him and gaining interest in someone else. See if you can get 1 of your friends to play along...that would be safest.\n\nTheres only 2 ways he can react. He'll either go for your cousin, if indeed he even likes her. or he will get jealous and be protective of you...and come back to you. Thing is you won't be able to keep him from going to your cousin if he does like her but if i know guys and if i know myself, I will be twice as likely to act out of jealousy and go back after you. See you are his "territory" so to speak, in guy language, and once he sees it being invaded on, he will most likely drop everything to protect what he has. Only don't be too flirtatious so as to cause him to get very angry. Just a bit of interest in someone else should spark his jealousy. But don't make him choose by telling him. I have a rule for myself........I'm never the first one to fall in love....never. This way I have a lot more control to do these sorts of things in order to protect what I really want. It will be very hard if you are already in love with him.\n\nSome guys won't react because of fear of confrontation. If this is your man, observe him out of the corner of your eye whenever you start showing interest in someone else. If you can see he's starting to sweat it, go back over to him and stay with him and make him feel secure. Do it however many times it takes until you get a reaction. Then do it 2-3 more times after that but no more. Once he realizes that what he has is in jeopardy, you've got him.
141302
you don't.  you will know when its happen and there will be no doubts. you love this person for who they are not what they have, who they are or what they look like. they will love you as much and as the same.
710981
she has been hurt before and is afraid you will hurt her again --- dont push it --- she knows how you feel and you know how she feels --- care for her love her and be there for her
296216
I would respect her for the person that she is and be a good friend to her and not take her where shes not ready to go yet. I wouldnt want to taint whats left of her childish wonder and innocents, or whats left of it. I would do everything possible to let her know you think shes a amazing person but yet keep healthy boundries, what would her parents do if you crossed that line? Probably bannish you from ever seeing her again. At this point i would stay close to her, but not close enough to touch, she has alot of growing up to do before shes ready for the kind of relationship your ready for. Just let her know that you care and she can come to you with all of her problems. But make sure you dont create any problems for her by showing her how you feel completely. I know its a complex situation, but you can handle your feelings being trapped inside for a few years that what she can handle knowing how you feel and not being able to act on them, at least with out any serious consequences. I hope it all works out for you in the long run, but make sure you stay far away from romance for another 5 years or so :) for both of your interests, but by all means be a good positive influacne for her journey threw adolecance, it can be a rocky road :)
562059
Be firm with them. Set clear boundaries and let them know that you do not wish those boundaries to be crossed.\n\nIf they cross those boundaries, then remove yourself from their presence. Terminate relationship with them if needed.\n\nCordially,\nJohn
1017900
ACT FRIENDLY.  Don't remind them of their visciousness.\n\nBut don't trust them about anything.
1066238
treat them like you love them.\n\nbe there for them always\ndo them favours (legal moralistic ones of course)\nhelp them out\ntell them you love them\nrespect them\ncare for them\nlisten to them\nbe sensitive of there needs\nlisten attentively to them when they talk\nbe faithful\nbe strong\nbe kind\nput up with them when you have to\ndont argue, talk about it.\nbe honest always.\ndont critisise or tease them\ntell them how much they mean to you\nput them first, before yourself\n\nthere is alot you can do. but DO NOT do anything that would lower your personal standards/morals/beliefs... do not break the law.\n\nfor example. i would not have sex with my boyfriend just to "satisfy" him. im a Christian and its against my morals and beliefs. He will either show me he loves me by respecting that, or he can leave.\n\nsimple.
1180972
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
847533
Tell him how you feel about what happened and that you're willing to come back, but he owes you an apology for what he did.  Hopefully he learned from his last gf that he should consider you first.
21966
dont be dumb enough to even think you know what he or she is feeling. YOU DONT! best advice, leave them along for a few days and let them ask for what they want. no pressure, and NO QUESTIONS. let theme tell what they want, when they want and remember, time will help heal. NO PRESSURE AND NO WAR STORIES.
16002
Treat your love like they are the most important treasure in the world. Make them feel needed and necessary. Put their needs before your own.......love them with ease. Laugh with them.....share with them. Don't hover and smother......embrace and celebrate!
727203
In order to truly love someone, you have to let them get close enough to hurt you.
18229
Chances are you are going to hurt them, so just accept that.  Best approach is quick, swift, straightforward, and make a clean break.  Tell them it's time for you to move on, and that you will always wish them the very best. Don't answer all their questions, just tell them it's not a love match for you, and leave it at that.  Do not try and stay friends, you will only hurt them more.  Just move on and cut off intimate contact.
71255
be kind to her,become her friend and win her turst.\nand eventualy she'll be bound to she how much you care for her.\nand maybe feel the same way you do.
371631
by your actions... make him/her feel that she's important to you and you care for him/her a lot... as people say actions speaks louder...