what i if i like my best friends ex? should i ask him out?
91751
Talk to your friend first, then if she is okay with it, then go ahead
421685
It's up to the best friend to be honest.  But if you go for it, be prepared for some serious backlash from your ex.
699096
O god you poor thing this happened to me and the only thing i could do was try and get over him. If your friend likes him and he likes her chances are they goin to get together so you have to decide if you can support them and be happy for them and if not you should tell your best friend how you feel and see what she says.if she nos that if they got together it would hurt you she probably stay away from him. there are loads of lads out there who will love you back so try not to beat yourself up bout it
430017
Go with the flow.  If you still like him, get back together.  If you don't, make sure he knows and move on.  But tell your best friend to be careful.  He might get upset and go out with her just to try to make you jealous.
717202
Go out w/ him! Who cares who his ex is as long as she isn't a good friend of yours then it really doesn't matter. If he makes you happy then go for him. If you just want to get revenge on the girl (his ex) just b/c you don't like her then just go out on one date w/ him, and at least see what he is like. Who knows you may end up really liking him in the end. Just remember who cares what she thinks, if you don't like her and they are broken up then he is fair game, and you shouldn't feel bad in the slightest.
686998
Okay, you like him, and you don't just like him........you LOVE him, and deep down inside, you feel REALLY upset that he likes your best friend, even though they go together, you still want him, but I guess only patience is your only option, I'm going through the same thing- except I don't know if my crush likes my best friend, I don't think he does either. But yeah, only time will tell. Hope this helps.
611852
if your ex's friend is willing to go out with you then he isn't much of a friend. there is an unwritten rule that you don't date your friends ex's. that goes for both men and women. it can create problems down the line and hassles that are just not worth it. now having said that you cant help who fall in love with. so if you both feel the same way and are ready for the possible consequences then go ahead and see where it might lead. he could be your soul mate. good luck to you witch ever way you choose.
55966
don't even think about it! if you think about him in a cushhy way,don't! wait,and if they break up you should ask her if it's alright to go out w/ him.\nBut otherwise if you make a move on him or flirt and you bff sees than your in trouble,and then iono she might do something like say i hate you! or i can't believe you did that!something like that but try not to do anything bad.
748171
move on...dont get mad at your best friend...but still be nice to the guy!
1186188
well first decide within yourself ...if you were to start dating ...and you broke up...do you want to risk losing your best friend... if this is a risk your willing to take...then go for  it.\n\nif not...then dont ... my male best friend and i joked about this a long time ago ...what if...and such...then we thought of the past relationships we both had...most of which .. well...most dont get along with their ex's so we decided it would never happen..and mind you we were just joking around.  \n\nsometimes...being best friends for a very long time...years and years can lead to romance..but by then you have done it all ..and both of you know all that has happened to each other...but for now ..i strongly recommend you sit down and think..about the what ifs... i personally would never want to risk losing the one person i can talk to about anything...and we never pass judgment on each other...and we never believe hearsay..cuz we know better...etc.\n\nthis is all based on personal experience...i have 2 female friends in my life...the rest are men...\n\nask yourself this...are you going or just recently went thru something in your life where your best friend was there in everyway for you?  if so....could you just be thinking ..wow...how come i have never noticed how wonderful you really are?  \n\nhoping this gives you something to consider before making the leap...and hope that it all works out for you in whatever you choose....good luck
597526
I'm in an identical situation only i am a guy. And the guys in your story are girls in mine. I'm not gay. Just wait it out and eventually they will break up. However you need to know what your best friend would do if you were to go out with her ex. If she was really your best friend, she would understand and she would let you go out with him-but come on thats never gonna happen. You need to find out who you like more, this guy, or your friend. It sound to me that he sorta like you, and if your friend knows he flirts with you, and shes not jealous shes\n- in it because the guy is popular\n- is a whore that just wants to sleep with her boyfriend until she is bored\n- is trying to tell herself shes being uptight\nYou need to know if he likes you before you do anything about your friend. Ask one of his friends or a brother or sister of his. It will be hard, but if you loose a friend, how good of a friend is she?\nP.S. Do not go out with this guy directly when he breaks up with your friend. She wont like that, and he wont think your much of a friend. Wait at least two weeks, by then your friend should be interested in some other guy.
687650
Sounds like a great friend. Don't rush things, it's better to have a great friend than an ex-boyfriend. If he decides to change his way of thinking and date friends, I'm sure you will be the one he comes to. but for now just be happy you can spend time with him.
593760
you should stay with him ok. im dating my bff's ex boyfriend. i like him and he likes me just because he's your bff's ex dont mean you cant like him
1099879
Depends on if you want your friend to really be your friend. You could ask your friend, but they would still get mad about it even if they said no. If you like the ex more than the friend then go for it. Good luck.
1079193
"My ex-girlfriend dumped me cuz I was being a jerk" SO you wanna date her best friend, and continue the jerk saga LOL...\n\nCode of friendship is you never date your best friends ex, so if her best friend is wanting to date you, then she isnt your ex's best friend.\n\nAnswer to your question, is no do you really want to ruin their friendship?? is it just revenge? dating her bf will not turn into a good thing, steer clear of her whole social circle it will keep her and you apart and sane
679859
Do not end the friendship with him, but don't pursue him romantically either. Guys come and go, but best friends should be forever.  \n\nHowever, if he likes you and HE makes a move, talk to your friends about this and ask if they think it would be okay, because they would likely say yes, and you get to be with him and keep your best friends.\n\nBut if you make a move, your best friends may not like you so much anymore, and if he doesn't return the feelings, then you have no best friends and no boyfriend.
979058
Wow.  Well, there is nothing you can really do to control the outcome of this situation, that depends on who truly has feelings for who.  I think John probably really likes you and not Haley, because if he still liked Haley he would probably be already trying to get back together with her by now.  I think Haley just wants to believe he still likes her because she likes him, and people can make themselves belief what they really want to believe.  \n\nIt is kind of disturbing that you would date your friend's ex especially when you know she still likes him.  Maybe you two aren't truly friends?  I guess you can just stop hanging out with Haley.  And she can't come between you and John if John truly likes you and not her, right?\n\nSo I guess just tell Haley that you think she is kind of obsessed with John, and John is with you now, and you are sorry but you really have feelings for John, so you think it's best if you and she don't hang out for awhile.  This will hurt her, but I guess she needs to get the message that John is taken now, and she needs to back off.