How can I get a life partner, loving, God fearing & a loving father to my children?
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It's nice that you can think of someone between 45 and 60 as young.
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REAL TRUE LOVE. THAT OF A PARENT FOR THEIR CHILDREN. THE KIND GOD HAS FOR YOU.
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That's two different types of love, my friend.\n\nYour children don't necessarily come first -- They just need and deserve "you" for all of their life.. not just now but forever.\n   You, on the other hand, need and deserve, to find happiness also.\n   This really isn't so much (about the other woman)  OR the children wanting to be "first", is it?    \n    \n    You don't really appear to be ready for a lasting relationship with another adult.   And that's ok.  Maybe, now is the time to just enjoy "dates" without any commitment.  \n\n    If you are, in fact, the type of person that you say that you are, you will first take care of yourself, health and finance wise.   You will continue to always be there for your children, and you will (in time) should you choose, find another individual that shares your interests, \nand respects your opinions.   \n\n     We have in our hearts the ability to love in many different ways.. our love for parents, our mate, our children, our friends, and even our pets, are all different types of love.   We don't "run out" of love, or use it all up.\n\n    These "dates" you refer to... are being selfish, when in fact, should see you as the good person you are, caring for your children.   But if you are starting relationships and yet, giving the impression that they won't last.. what do you expect, but to be left alone..\n\n     I can't stress enough that I respect you for your question --- but I "read" more inbetween the lines... than you actually wrote ---  You are the one that is not ready.\n\n    It's sort of like why they say:  \n"If you and your child is flying and the plane loses cabin pressure --- YOU should use the oxygen first..."  the reason is so that YOU can take care of your child.. \n\n    So -- be there for them.. now and always.. AND when you are ready, find someone to share your life with, your children will grow up with a father that loves them, and will love the person that loves (them) and their father.\n\n   They will want YOU to be happy, also.
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it's easy to answer this. i have several for you to consider:\n\n1) if you're a God-fearing woman, you would let him back in the family as he IS your husband (considering neither he or you got re-married). a marriage, in God's eye, is sacred.\n\n2) if you don't care about God, and all you think about is you and your child, let him out of the family. he's hurt you and your kid already...what are the chances of him hurting you again?\n\n3) if all you care about is yourself, seek professional help.\n\n4) if you also care for your child growing up with a full set of parents, invite your husband back. do whatever it takes to make it work, keeping your child in the center of your relationship.\n\n#4 worked for me and my wife. we had a terrible time but we both agreed that our kids (ages 5 and 2) don't deserve not having the other parent. we love our kids so much that they helped us withour marriage, believe it or not. of course, I prayed to God everyday to help us inprove our marriage and I'm sure my wife did too!
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u need God in your family lifes for the positivety and the strength and everything good and positive go to church is a great plus  you will see a difference promise
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there's more than 4 models, i don't get your question quite clear but let me see if I can help, I believe communication is the main key in any relationship, you need to communicate your kids about your believes and thoughts, rules to follow and role your kids play in the house and society, discipline; your kids need to know who's the boss at home and they need to know to respect adults at your house and why not mention on the street as well, love; we all need to feel love and tough love is another way to love as well,persistence; they need to learn that they can achieve anything they want by being persistent and you need to be the best example for them...good luck and I hope you get something from this
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&^&^&^\n\nWhat you are looking for is an egg donor.  Maybe you can be the sperm donor and look for surrogate mothers to incubate your children.\nGod Bless you and your family.\n\nThe only other logical answer was provided by Blink-182madness
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I would suggest You PRAY. Prayer is VERY Powerful!\nFind a Christian church close to you and go and ask for prayer. It will help you tremendously and your children & marriage. The Lord restored my marriage. You can also get free Godly counselling from the Pastor.\n\nYou see satan wants to destroy our marriage, children & you. DON"T let him. \n\nThe Bible says:\n10 The thief’s(satan) purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My (The Lord)purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.\n\nYou need to be in a group of believers. The prayers of believers avail much. They also can offer you support, encouragement, uplift your spirits etc...It really helped me and I got alot of hope.\n\nIf you can, read "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omarian. Very good. Your life will never be the same once you accept Jesus in your heart. My life changed all for the better including my children. I'm living testimony. \n\nHere is a verse for you.\n\nJer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.\n\nHis Word never returns void. Here's another verse for you.\n\nPhil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; \n\nI believe the Lord can restore your marriage as He did mine.\n\nGod Bless!
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Read the Bible, Talk to God for real. It works for me. Find a quite place,and build a relationship with God . It really does work. Have faith.
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If you really care about the kids .. this is the absolutely BEST resource online that I have found! Enjoy ..\n\nhttp://www.landoverbaptist.org/
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Love your kids first.  Always.  An ideal man for you will love you and your kids.  I know it is hard not having a father figure around and I also know it is hard not having a spouse around to help.  Take your time with it.  Find a man that treats you and your kids like royalty.  As for the guy you kicked out...good move.  You can do better for you and your kids.  Pray about it.
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I think you have just answered your own question. But don't give up. If you just enjoy each other now, then see what father time gives ya!
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u r a nice dad..iam sure u will find an amazing person too...
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When the time is right you'll find the perfect person for you and your son. In the mean time just take time and enjoy your son. He'll only be little for a while and when you least expect it love will find you. Good luck with everything
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My dear friend, you have nothing to worry about because THERE IS A GOD! Oh yes!! \nHe is a father or mother to us. Just get close enough and you'll realise. You know what, sincerely ask Him to show Himself to you and it'll happen. Ask with a genuineness of heart and spirit. I shall be here to hear your wonderful story.\nAll the best
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the only advice i can give is none.  Your kids are adults, they'll have to learn from there own mistakes.  Just don't judge them or treat them different.  Only thing you can offer is your love.
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speak of his good qualities and how you need him around as you have dependant children etc... speak from yr heart good luck