How do you comfort someone at a funeral?
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I think one of the most appreciated ways to comfort a grieving person is to tell them how the deceased had touched your life, such as a short story or a character quality about the person. And then close by telling them that you are sorry for their loss and that s/he will be in your thoughts and prayers.\n\nKnowing their loved one was important to others is like salve to a wound.
983406
Lord bless this grieving person Lord fill her with your spirit to see them through what it is they are facing's them to fill your presence Lord around them and bless them with a peace in their heart knowing that you are their for them what ever their needs are fill them Lord with your love and compassion.And allow them to know that he will never know more to ever suffer again.The Lord will see you through this just call own Him and He will come to you.Talk to Him like you would anyone else...God bless you for I have been were you are at and with out Jesus I could not of made it..What ever you need Jesus will fill you with.Ask Jesus for strenght.And Love your Father and do all you can to make Him comfortable.Spend every minute you can with Him...Talk to Him ask Him things....And above all make sure He is saved and ready to meet our Lord....God bless you And you and your Father is in my prayers...May the Lord shine His light own you and guide you through this...
588742
There is little much a person can say or do when someone they love is suffering the pain of a loss.  Many factors play a role in how each party reacts to a death including if the husband is suffering the loss as well, or perhaps the circumstances surropunding the nature of the death, as well as the level of intensity of the relationship with the person that has died.  No one is capable of doing someone else's grief work, you just need to be there for them if they need you to.  When some people go through the process of grief, they want to do it in private, and others need to talk about it more.  It is helpful to be there to take care of the everyday things like cleaning the house, running errands, and cooking.  When a person is suffering grief, these normal tasks have a way of becoming much bigger responsibilities to handle which can in turn complicate the grief process.\n\nThere are many support groups to turn to where one can find people to talk to about what they are going through, people just like them that really DO understand how they are feeling.  You can get info about the programs by contacting your local mortuary or funeral home, hospice, health facility, or clergy. There are also many online grief support websites...google has plenty...simply enter the keyword grief.
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I am so very very sorry for your loss.  Ive lost a lot of family members so I know exactly what you are feeling.  One thing that got me through the tough times was actually talking to the person as if they were right there in person with you.  Tell her how you are feeling and about your day and that.  Find a nice place to take a walk in and just talk.  She is still with you.  She is watching over you.  She knows you love her.  And she loves you very much.  Im sure she doesnt want to see you so sad.  It will take time sweetie.  But, the pain does get easier.  I promise.  And by talking to her, it helps to ease that pain a bit more.  You will be ok.  I promise.
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If these people were dear to you, you can't expect to "get over it" in such a short period of time.  When someone we love dies, the mourning period could take a year or more.  The best advice that I was given after my mother died was to not try to rush the grieving process.  That way, when I ended up in tears, I knew that the healing wasn't complete yet and that that was okay.
1001422
Pre-paid funeral!! Kidding..something nice and with a nice scent..perhaps a small pillow with scented lavender in it to help her sleep at night (put under her pillow)..and not to forget the nicest thing..a hugg!! :) Good luck :)
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Be there.\nFor times that are tough.\nFor times that they need a shoulder, for when they need reassurance and confirmation.\nTo see a smile and know it's meant.\nTo see things that need doing when they are too upset to see them.\n Most of all, BE A FRIEND.
75538
First of all, my condolences go out to you. Try remembering fun things you did with your pappaw. I do it quite frequently, as my grandfather passed away just before Chritmas. Did you fish, go to the movies, go to the park, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, anything memorable with him. If so, try to think about the most exciting things you did together. If you are religious, try prayer or meditation, depending on your religious preferences. If he was suffering before he passed, think of how comfortable he must be now that he is not suffering. If you have a pastor, mentor, or close friend, try talkin about your feelings with them. I truly hope you gain some comfort in the time to come.
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You are using a coping mechanism right now...by reaching out to others. We cannot say the right words to you to make everything all right. You need time to process your loss and allow yourself to greive. Things will never be the same but in time it will get easier. \nAlthough this is hard for you, believe that God had a bigger plan for your relatives. I believe everyone has a plan in life and God decided that it was time for your relatives to come home. However, that is not to say you will never see them again. They will be waiting patiently for you when it is your time. \nHang in there!
155825
Well, I would have to say that the grieving process is different for everybody and while I agree that you should pray for the dead, they understand that you cry because you're saddened at the loss of a person you loved. I see it as an expression of love, that someone cared about me enough to cry over my passing.
858288
you should watch a cemetery for a few days, When someone dies the ground workers dig the hole the night before the person who hole it is gets buried. Wait until night time, bring body and shovel. Dig the hole deeper, put your dead body in, cover up. The next day they will put the other dead person's casket over it. NO WORRIES!:)
688505
Well to be honest you can't-- once a person has died thats it--\n\nI'm in no way religious but i would like to think that my mum would be there waiting for me when i leave this earth i find comfort from that \n\nBut i cant say it's there because i dont know
673038
Try to follow the tradition of the deceased's religion. It shows your respect for him or her. You might go and combine both colors carefully - e.g. your color of mourning is black, their color is white, wear something white with black accents.
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Funerals are about closure. The pain to the people who are still around after a person has passed is able to end, or begin ending.  The present becomes the past and painful experiences become painful memories. \n\nIf you needed to be to your friends funeral because you were immersed in grief Id say go there. If you were ok with your friend dying I would go to  the other funeral to support those who needed you more.
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Well, life has it's tough roads. But the man upstairs will always guide you. You may feel lost and all alone, BUT YOU ARE NOT! As for the girl, GOOD RIDDENS! Remember, IT IS HER LOSS!!! NOT YOURS! Contact your lung associtionabout support groups in your area. As for the funeral, there was a reason you were kept from attending Only god knows the reason. If it really bothers you, write a nice letter to your dad telling him how you feel about missing the funeral. Then fold it up, Place it in an envelope and put away for safe keeping. Everytime you feel bad about dad, Pull out the letter and read it! DON'T GIVE UP!! keep going with school... Everything else will fall into place.
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Be there for her.  Let her talk and talk and talk.  But don't force it.  If you know any of her anniversaries (eg. this time last year mom and I went on hols, this would've been mums birthday, etc.) then mention them to her.  These are hard days and she'll be comforted that you remembered and realise how tough it is for her.  As time passes her pain will lessen and she'll really appreciate your friendship.\n\nMy mum died and even tho she's no longer with me she's still a big influence in my life.  Your friends mum will always be with her too.\n\nEveryone needs a friend at times like this.  Thank you for looking after your friend.
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yes you should. Why? when a person dies the family is going through so many emotions and everything is a fog.  They are so hurt and sad and at times don't remember who all came to see them and it's not because they are being rude, they are just so consumed with not having the loved one there anymore.  So, yes you are doing the right thing and they will be very happy to know you care.