Hi. I think i'm a lesbian and i like my best friend . What should i do?
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You think you are, but you could be curious about trying things and you believe your bestfriend is the closest person and female, to try this on. Take time to think about it, tell her that your having these feelings (about being a lesbian).
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honesty is good, but are you reallly sure you're bisexual? think about it. If you are, then tell then you're still the person they are friends with and it shouldnt change ur friendship just becuase you have a different sexuality preference. Unless she feels like you're going to like her, then explain to her that just becuase you like girls too doesnt mean you like every girl, just like she doesnt like every boy. Tell ur bf. Hes gonna be mad most likely...cuz no one wants to share their gf... but its unlimately up to you. do whatever feeels right.
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Well if you're not what u say you are then just be honest and tell her who you are.  But this is the Internet so there are two possible situations in which you might want to take greater care.  1.) if you're a lesbian, fine.  but if you're a lesbian and you have feelings for her- don't tell her about it.  I mean, she can know about your sexuality but if she's straight there's no reason to try anything with her.  that's like a four year old who has a crush on his teacher.  What's the point in saying so?  she wouldn't date him anyway.  \n2.) if you're really a man?  she'd probably not speak to you again.  if you want to continue being her friend, keep pretending.\n\nif it isn;t either of those, then spill the beans in a non confrontational way and don;t offer excuses for not telling her sooner- just apologize.
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If your best friend is really a true friend, she'll be happy for you. There shouldn't be any problem between the two of you. She's probably happy that at least one of you two got him. If you like the guy, then maybe you should accept.
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Look: there are two ways: talk to her, see what she feels.\nConsequence: A good friendship might be destroyed\nOr you will lose a friend and gain a soulmate(surely you're in advantage)\nBut it is not healthy for you two to just be best friends, if you say you love her. Trust me I've been there. And maybe she loves you to but she may lack the courage to say it.\nMy opinion: go ahead-stop torturing yourself with this good friendship-it's a fake(nothing good will come of it) tell her, gently and carefull what you feel. It worked for me !\nReally, you have nothing to lose. It is better anyway that she knows what you feel about her ! May God help you in your whish !
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you are in a very good situition right now. What u can do is to be her best friend. Let her know that she can tell u anything and u will always be there to listen. Then one day she may have a fight with her bf and break up with him so u can tell her that you have been waiting for so long to tell her that you really like her.
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Oh, definately tell her!  Whether or not she feels the same, this is the type of thing you can regret years later if you don't take the courage to tell her how you feel.\n\nThe best ever relationships start out based on friendship.  I hope this works out great for you two!!!
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I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
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Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
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nikki,\n\nI assume she doesnt know you're a lesbian?\nWhat you should do is raise the subject and see how she feels about it. Maybe watch a movie about it ("But I'm a Cheerleader" is a good one) and talk about it. \nIf she is curious she'll let you know. If not, she's not worth your energy, move on, find the one with whom you belong. More power 2 u for being proud of who you are. :-) \ngood luck with the girl, but know that if it doesnt work out, there are many brilliant girls out there that passionatly love other girls. I should say women really..\n:-)
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I love it...but I am a lesbian.
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Hi angel. I am sorry that you are going through a tough time with your mate, and that your friend is also. \n\nI want to start by warning you that I am a lesbian, so I may be a bit biased on this matter. If you are looking for opinions from straight people, feel free to move on.\n\nIt sounds a lot like you are feeling real emotions and a connection with your friend. I can't tell without meeting her whether she is feeling the same way about you, but I would definitely suggest following your heart. Don't let society's ideas keep you from doing what your heart tells you is right.\n\nI would suggest not just coming out and saying "I want to be with you", or by kissing her. You really dont want to destroy the wonderful friendship that you have.\n\nAn example of a more subtle way, would be this: Next time you are talking together, and you are discussing your troubles with your mates, find a way to give her a hug, and hold the hug for a good bit longer than you need to. Then, pull back and look her in the eyes with tears in your own eyes, and a smile on your face, and just say. "Thanks, I needed that, and I love you." Then, hold her gaze with your own, and see what her reaction is.\n\nThis way, if she has no feelings for you in that way, she is free to consider it as simply an in-need-of-comfort hug, and she won't be insulted by the action. However, if she is feeling the same way, she shouldn't be able to resist the eye-to-eye look you will be giving her, and she will kiss you.\n\nI hope you have a wonderful experience with your friend, and whatever happens, please don't let your friendship suffer.
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I would say it's just like kissing a boy, but if you are a tradionalist who wants the "guy" to make the first move (like me) I know how confusing it can be.  Just wait 'til the moment's right, when y'all are alone.  You can compliment her or do something to get a little closer (the dumbest thing I ever did was take off my glasses and say, "look, they're broken," and as soon as she looked up, puzzled, I kissed her) and then just let things take their course!  Of course, all that is assuming you know she's be ok with that, because, not to burst your bubble, but it's one thing to be ok with your best friend being attracted to you, and another for her to feel something back.  If everything is go, just don't force anything, and have fun!  ; )
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I take it dat u dont dig d best frienhd.in an ideal world d best friend shud back off,n let her friend b happy.d girl dat u like wuld probably b feeling guilty if her going out with u wuld break her friend's heart.or she might just take u.\nu might want to wait n see how things work out for a while..until d bst frriend finds sumone else to like?den ask ur dream girl out.GUD LUCK..
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I was in love with my best friend and I told him. He didn't feel the same way as I did but that didn't hurt our relationship either, it actually brung us closer and our bond grew because of it. It's a huge risk to tell her but if you really feel strong enough, I say go for it. Who knows, your best friend could always become the best girlfriend you ever had and if nothing else at least she will understand how much you care about her.
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damn! baby damn!\ngood gracious God!\ni suppose u r a girl and in love with another girl.\nin one word, lesbian.\ni usually dont like advicing gays and lesbians because they never listen. but girl ur case calls for attention.\nok, \nask urself this question,\nwhy do u like this boy?\nif u cannot come up with up to seven good reasons why,\nthen it is not worth jeopardising ur present (happy) relationship for him.\nu might be happy for the first few days, but it wouldn't last, trust me. ur girlfriend seems like one that holds u down, satisfies u in every single way possible.\nr u aight with her? if yes then stick to it. because mark my words, if u leave her for that boy u say u like,\n"it wouldnt last".\nfunny, do u tell ur girlfriend every single detail of ur life? dont u have secrets? dat should've been one of them.\nanyway,\nglad she didn't react negatively to that one.\n n/b\n    dont let her know u did this.
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Girl...If you and your best friend are like "paper and glue" close, I think you should think it over. Think "Would she/he do that to me?" Make sure you know whats good for you. A Girlfriend/Boyfriend come and go, best friends are for LIFE! (If you have the right one)