how do you tell your husband that you need space?
80354
You need to first figure out WHY you need space. If you just want some alone time, tell him. If you absolutely can't stand him, get counseling or talk to him about what you can't stand. Make sure you're not just going to ignore him if there are deeply-set problems (like something he does often that you can't stand).
698362
Seeing that your husband is at fault an open conversation is the only way you could hope to change this situation, that's if you and your marriage are important enough for him to be willing to participate! It could be worth a try, especially if perhaps he's not aware of your unhappiness. \n\nIf he is not willing to listen to reason, then a tempory separation might do the trick for both of you. It will not only give you a break, but also a chance to decide if you really want to go on with your marriage. And maybe it will give him time to get his act together! \n\nI hope it helps a bit. Be strong and don't let him run you over!
189658
Just because she asks for space doesn't mean its over, she just has to find peace with her insights about you. you should still call her and go see her and love her. maybe even going to see a marriage council may help. and yes they do offer help to engaged couples. to make her more at ease about you, invite her out with you and your friends and anything she needs to find peace. but still give her her space. If all else fails and problems seem to get worse, maybe it wasn't meant to be babe. all will work out in the end and good luck in your relationship, you deserve a good lady by your side!!! :P
372442
I told my mate that I needed a lot of space in the beginning.  I just prefer to have quiet time for me.  It's been 7 years and he still gives me the space that I want and need.
1082031
You both have to meet 50/50.  Talking about it is the best way.  Do other things to fill your time but if you feel like he isn't giving enough then move on.
566977
he probably has some really heavy stuff on his mind right now. if you talked of getting married and starting a family, then he may just be in a place where he has to think. i would say that all you can do is honestly tell him how you feel, not angrily or accusitorily, and give him room.
218182
Sounds like he want to play around. Tell him he can have his space, but you're not going to be in it!
460629
leave him alone. he wants a break to think about stuff, give him a break to think about stuff. Go do whatever you like to do. Run, swim, read, shop, bike ride. Whatever. Give him the space he is asking for.
561665
Us guys sometimes like a bit of space. I often close myself up  to get away from the world.\nThis is often linked to clinical depression as well, this might be the 'illness' he is referring to. If it is then it is likely he thinks you will not understand (which you wont unless you have depression yourself).\n\nRelax... give him a bit of space. He should come around soon.
470453
Man needs space. Man must eat. Man stupid.\n\nGetting him to see a psicologist is a great move. He needs it.\nIn the meantime, talking to him about it will help. It always does help to talk about it. I tip my hat for you, you are there for him in his hour of darkness. You need to be strong and patient as well, this might take a while. Good Luck to you both.
879329
He means he doesn't want to be totally involved with you, he wants to keep some space.
7927
if your boyfriend needs space, give it to him before he cheats on you. (i would've cheated on you anyway)
595760
Give him the space.\n\nTell him that you'll both go your separate ways for a year, then meet up after that year and see how things are.\n\nIf he still says he needs space, then tell him OK, this time for 6 months.\n\nIf after this, he still isn't sure, then it wasn't ment to be.\n\nIt will be hard for the first few months, but it is well worth it as you will both grow because of the experience.\n\nGo see the world in this time, do YOUR thing and don't worry about him.  Get out and enjoy life.\n\nIt will do you both good.  And you never know, could both end up getting married to each other because of the break. :)
664774
Go with the flow...\n\nI don't like to be interfered with.  I like to be left alone, and for the b/f just to do what he is told, like go shopping, make me a coffee, and not to argue with me.  It doesn't last long!\n\nYou got it, the analyst!\n\nInstead of asking all the other ladies here, it would be best to ask your wife what SHE would like you to do - and ask her in between her periods!
900734
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
576397
well it sounds to me like u guys spend way to much time togehter that right there causes fights. ur right u need ur time and he needs his as well. as far as the friends thing sometimes marrages done work if friends are to close. rather having friends u both can go out with together. id say find a new job where yall arent together all the time. u say u love ur husband and u probably do and u say ur not inlove with him anymore, it isnt that ur not inlove with him u just never have time to feel the feeling of missing him . distance makes the heart grow fonder and if there isnt any distance well then it makes u want to get away. as far as his jeliousy...well thats because he is insecure about hisself. it is nice to have a man show a  little jeliousy once in awhile cause it lets u know he cares but to much then it creates problems. have u thought of maybe some marrage councoling for the both of u? maybe that would work. but if u truely are not inlove with this man which deep down i know u love him and want things to just feel right again. then id file for a devorce. but i would definatly try finding a job away from him, try some counciling. start there first. good luck to u hun
771968
Honey\n\nYou and your hubby need to move out!\n\nEven if you have to live in a small dump, its better than putting up with the stress!!\n\nMove out soon!