Never dated in my life at 20 years. I think there's something totally wrong with me. Appriceate any advice.
84185
nothings wrong with you. That right person hasnt walked into your life yet. It takes time to find love, it doesnt just happen over night.
519813
I am 44 now very succesful in business and couldn't get the real love or the intimate soulmate woman .. and got divorced after 22 years of traditional marriage .. \n\nLucky in work unlucky with women ..
356545
It sounds like you are a really sweet, sensitive girl -- in other words beautiful.   And yes, beauty is everything.  Alright, so you are pleasant to look at.  I know from experience that is a plus when attracting the opposite sex.  There is nothing wrong with being shy, either.  There is a lot out there to be afraid of, it is good to listen to your instincts they will protect you.\n\nJust do me a favor, be a little picky with the guys you will date (you can afford to be).  Don't go for rich, as they will treat you like another possession.  Don't go for beautiful, as you will always be another conquest.  Don't go for arrogant, in a decade all of your peers who did that will either be single moms or bitter women.  Go for the guys who want to get to know you and for whom the physical is a nice bonus.
419561
I'm only a few years older than you but I would never have sex on the first date.  You need time to know each other and see if the relationship has possibilities before jumping into bed.  Even at 50, you can get a reputation as a sl*t.  How do you know that this guy would keep his mouth shut?  You don't know something like that until you know the person.  Definitely not what I would do but to each their own.
1090102
Hey Hun....No you're not alone....I am also young but have never been interested in just getting laid...I've always been more interested in a strong long term relationship...For me...The relationships always start off like they will last forever...and then BAM! all the effort and love I put into those relationships are taken for granted....I'm dealing with this sort of thing now with my boyfriend of almost 1 yr and half...He just up and decided he needed a break...now when we talk it's awkward...and there is no love in his voice...it breaks my heart and I too feel afraid that one day I will wake up and be 40 and have no one....no kids and no life...and end up hating myself for not being able to find a real relationship where both people love equally....it's scary...but alot of people say "you're young and you will find someoen to respect who you are...and WANT to be with you as much as you WANT  to be with them" I know it's hard to believe that there is someone out there for everyone...But as hard as it is...what other idea can we really hold on to? I hope you find someone to share your life with too...GOOD LUCK hun....feel free to e-mail me...if you wanna chat more...or add me to msn....hoffababe@hotmail.com...caio
513002
Wow, a gentleman over 50 who wants to date.  What a rarity you are and I get the idea that you don't even know it!  She appears to need to spread her wings a bit and find out what the dating life is all about these days - trust me, it is a LOT different than when she was 20!  Let her find out.  You can't change that and you can't rush it and you can't even influence that, except, perhaps, to make her leave you alone completely.  You might want to consider doing the same thing - the spread the wings kind of thing.  See others!  Go out and DO things!  Meet people - again, trust me, there are ladies out there who are looking for you!  You will find companionship out there that will perhaps exceed what you have had with her.  You may even find passion!!!  (And if you do, practice safe sex.)  There is a world out there beyond exclusivity with her - take a look at it.
290624
there's nothing wrong with never having been on a date or never having been kissed at the age of 13. i'm 17 now and i still haven't been on a real date or gone out with anyone for more than a month. i didn't get my first boyfriend or my first kiss until last october when i was 16. don't rush into going out with someone just because other people think that you should. your first kiss should be with someone that you really care about so that you'll be able to have pleasant memories of your first kiss for the rest of your life. you don't want to regret kissing the first person that you kiss. don't listen to what other people tell you to do. you still have plenty more years to find someone special that you want to share your first kiss with. good luck!:)
464181
Yes i've always been exactly the same.  I've really no interest in guys my own age, and i've always been like this even since when i was at school.  Don't really know why though but it's not a problem at all.  Plus as the saying goes, there's many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle.....  I'm 29 and seeing a guy of 51 who is the sexiest guy i've ever met in my life and is well fit (and looks about 35).  Good Luck!
262447
I actually never had a relationship.Although I did have a crush on a girl in my school when I was a kid I just could'nt workup enough guts to go tell her.I have changed a lot since then.\n\nLOVE FROM MAURICE
710458
Hello from New Zealand:)\n\nLet nature take its course. Perhaps you are trying to hard. There is no time or age limit on when Mr or Mrs right appears in your life. You know the saying...You never know what is around the corner! You can give yourself a helping hand...mix with people with your own set of morals and interests...be adventurous and do things you have never done before..travelling to interesting places( NOT the Costa Brava etc. ) Go off the beaten path. Your options are limited only by yourself. Let yourself become FREE!\nAll the best ! Kind regards.Why would you want, and in fact it would be impossible to be to be friends(?)  with anyone with those traits you hate!! Don't sell yourself short my friend. God Bless
1180249
b/c u were once content/comfortable with ur situation and u don't like change.  but that's part of life, if u don't take that chance then u will never know the outcome.  plus ur heartbroken and it scares u b/c u don't want to go through it again, and u're thinking 2 urself is this going to happen again?! U said u've never been single, there's a first time for everything.  word of advice --- quit looking for someone (enjoy time to urself/w/friends), let that someone find u. cause sometimes if ur not looking 4 love its looking for u. and don't be so negative @ moving on. good luck
851567
If your not attracted to either sex, don't worry about it.  I didn't even start dating until I was 30.  I wasn't gay, I just wasn't interested in hooking up with anyone.  One day I met the perfect woman for me.  You don't have to seek out your ideal mate.  Perhaps for you your ideal mate will be a guy, or a girl.  They will fall into your lap when you least expect it.  Perhaps you are just more suited to a solitary life.  Nothing wrong with that either.  You will figure things out.
467643
It's perfectly normal to be a virgin at 20.....my advise??? Wait till you've found the right person for you.Somewhere out there is someone for you...find this person first, it is worth the wait, believe me.
957651
Uh no I think you are a person in need of some confidence and My ex hubsand was a virgin at age 35 until he met me ! what I liked about him is that he was sweet and didn't try to hard and had some confidence no matter what women like men that are confident and not sucidal or depress get some mental help too while your at it ! HUGS
792556
Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't.  You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.'  I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself.  Do you really not want a relationship?  Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship?  What is it?  If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it.  You're not a lemming.  Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to.  Also, are you fairly young?  If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet.  Don't worry about what other people think.  Worry about what you think.
511572
I'm going through exactly the same!! I'm 34, divorced for 5 yrs.  Used to weigh 235, now weigh 166.  I'm 5'10" blonde hair, green eyes.  But I have 2 kids, and can't find a date to save my life.  What's wrong with me??? Yahoo personals wasn't the answer- I haven't gotten a single response to my profile!  Maybe I'm just destined to be single, I don't know.... Good luck to you!
89930
If you are not married and I will assume you are not then date other people...tonight....call a friend a woman or an aquantance and go out on a date. Talk to her and seewhat others are like.  Date 3 times a week.  Go date crazy and you will find a  kind generous woman who loves you for you.  She is out ther really she is.  The woman who cuts you down is not the right one. I am sure you love her and maybe you will always love her in your heart in a burning way that no one else will ever understand but she is not good for you. Love is natural and easy for both, love is generous and kind.  I tried for three years to love a man who did the same thing.  In the end I took it very hard but now that I look back I see how miserable it was.  Why did I stay...because I did not have the courage to leave.  Do not be like me.  Fight for yourself and start dating other people.