my ex wife is telling me that i will not know about my girls for a while, what should i do, i'm in iraq?
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Your base is likely to have an office to deal with family issues and concerns of servicemen. Ask around, or try the website of your branch of service. Your efforts to serve your country should not cost you your relationship with your children and you are likely to find support from the government should you choose to engage your ex-wife in a custody battle.
1115491
Why don't you just shoot her now?  Don't send your daughter to boot camp; sounds like you've been that route and look how your kid came out- try something new- talk to a real counselor and find out what it is she really needs.
177622
The game playing has to STOP!! The two of you need to sit down together and talk without yelling just talk about everything and then try and decide what is the best for the both of you! It a serious matter you have a child involved and need to figure it out but please don't get back together just because you have a daughter because if you and your ex wife aren't happy its going to cause alot of problems and its going to be a real bad environment for everyone! My closet friend is going through this right now I have so many friends that are in the same situation, You have to remember that you as a person deserves to be happy! You and your ex need to work it out so you can see your daughter more no matter what happens because she is the most important person RIGHT NOW!!! You can always try counseling maybe you and your ex could go work together not against each other! GOOD LUCK i hope that i helped
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if she wants you to know,she will tell you.you know we all have skeltons in out closets.maybe she likes to forget about the bad times.well if she brings it up and ask you what you think,then you should tell her,but be nice about it.just dont go digging into her past and telling everyone you meet,thats between you and her,and not anyones elses business.
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good on you for telling her off.\nThey are probably continuing more discreetly.\nFace it, they both lied to you until you found them out.
204280
This is not some nighttime soap pilot for Fox is it? No, well then woman up and ask Ashlee if it's okay. If she tells you no, tell her you respect her for her opinion, but do what your heart tells you. If she's a friend (which I question because she was sneaking behind your back with your ex) then she'll be there with you no matter what. But if she's not one, then good riddance to her.
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By law, she has to inform you of her new address when she moves.  Look at your divorce decree and find out how many days she has to inform you.  \n\nWorst case scenerio, she could take the kids and not return them, then you really will have to find that new house if you want to see them again.\n\nYou have the right to know where the kids are and have their phone number in order to call them in case of emergency of just to call them to check on them.\n\nYou can either find her in contempt of court or go back to court and amend the divorce decree to protect your rights.
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I think she has an integrity issue and I think you should leave her alone.  It also occurs to me that if anything came of you and her, wouldn't everyone know?  I think she's toying with you and seeking a little more gossip to spread.\n\nSorry sweetie.  There are really good girls out there and you deserve so much better than this.
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You are probably not ready for a relationship right know, you have to heal first, and that takes a lot of time.  If you are strong enough, try telling yourself that this woman is not like the last, she deserves a chance.  It is not your fault your ex wife cheated she just took the easy way out instead of talking to you about whatever the problem was.  Don't run a potentially good woman away because of your LOSER ex-wife.  Good Luck.
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My husband was deployed for 14 months so I know what you are going through. Thank goodness my husband is home now and I wish your husband a safe and quick return also. You can e-mail me at thetravelingmartins@yahoo.com. I will be more than happy to talk with you. I few suggestions to make the time pass are send your husband a care package every week or every other week. Take a calendar and put an X through each day that has passed by. Use the time to discover more about yourself. E-mail me and I will give you some ideas of what you can send him to show that you care for him. Trust me, your husband will appreciate this. Many of my husband's friends came home from Iraq and discovered that their wives had left them and taken all of their money. Anyways, I hope this helps.\n\nNote- to the person who wrote about the FRG. Not every FRG is a good group. Mine was nothing but a gossip and husband bashing group.
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In hide site you should have been telling them all along that it could and probably would happen. Maybe you did. I told my GF the minute I found out. Just sit you spouse down first and tell them. If you have kids your spouse doesn't need to be surprised in front of them. As far as everyone goes. Tell them and then tell them as much as you can or are allowed to. They have a right to know. Make sure your company/unit has a FRG and that your family is involved with it. I've been to Iraq and I'm in Afghanistan now. I send pictures home as much as possible. And get pictures back. Call when you can. Write and email as often as possible. Make sure they know there might be times when you can't call or email and not to worry. Tell them to stay busy. Good luck.
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Confront her. If she really is cheating, dump her. I'm sure you deserve someone much better than her. She's not worth your time. You deserve someone who will support you when you're away and not be talking to other guys. \n\nP.S. Thank You for serving our country. :)
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I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
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Tough! You had the child, you have responsibilities! If you new girlfriend isn't interested in your children then she isn't worth bothering about.  What happens in the future if you two were to settle, marry, have kids? Drop it in the conversation casually - yeah, this is my second kid? Stop the lies before they get too bad. If you are lying to your girlfriend by not telling her the truth about yourself, she can't love you for yourself, just a fake image you created.
946183
Wait till she goes out and pack up and go. I did that to my ex hubby.
488859
she may be controlling but she is your sister and when she is gone you will miss her because she wont be there to talk to (boss you around LoL joke) spend as much time with her as you can before she leaves trust me i had a friend i was not close to before he left to go to Iraq and he has left and i feel bad that i didn't get to spend much time with him before he left hopes this helps
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There are no promises that you will be safe....  so how do you make that commitment to her that you will be.  The men in your platoon(or whatever) will be trained to do their very best and obviously you want to come back in one piece if you are deployed.  But it takes a while to get training.\nYou can tell her that God will be watching over you (because he will) and that you look for