if your friends sister has cancer and thyour friend is scared,how do you help her?
92074
First thing is to talk to your friend, \n1- What ype of cancer her sister has?\n2- In what stage and what was the doctor's advice\n3- Find out more about it together, depending on your friend's character; I would say she would need support. Someone to talk to, realise steam and basically just be there...\nPeople et very scared when "cancer" is mentioned but many has cures or can be controlled, knowledge would be the best relieve. And then sometimes, there s nothing much in our hands, what will be will be; we can do much but to accept it.\nIf that is the case, she'll have a hard time. Terminal cancer is very hard on the patients and their family members.
670326
don't underestimate the power of just being there for support for your sister and her family.  Your presence in their lives is likely worth more than you know.
825339
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848246
Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
231752
Sometimes you may have to do more, like talk to the therapist yourself, Tell someone what your friend is doing that makes her a danger to herself or someone else. It isn't easy to get someone in the hospital, but my sister helped her friend and she was hospitalized, my sister spoke to her therapist and they had to go to court. She was cutting herself and doing other things. She really needed the help. I wish I could tell you more of what my sister did for her friend but I don't remember.
740170
All you can do is be there for her when she needs you. Death is a really complicated thing to deal with. I was that girl about 2 years ago, except it was my husband that passed away due to an accident at work. It was extremely difficult for me (and I'm sure the people who had to deal with me) to deal with. All she needs is a real friend. There was one person in my life at that time who was a true friend to me, sat up with me for nights on end when I'd get drunk and cry all night, try to make sense of everything, and hated everyone around me. So, just be there for her, there's nothing you can do to make it better. Just be a good friend. Good Luck! And it's nice to see someone out there who has so much concern for others. God Bless.
392824
You can pray for her. Make sure that she knows tha you are there for her. Be a really good friend to her. Maybe you could talk to her on the phone a little. Maybe she could get some help, it could be from you, God, other friends, or even a counselor
63197
I'm sorry about your friend.  Find some articles about success stories of people who have fought the disease!!  There are tons of stories out there from people who have been successful in chemo therapy, etc.  This might give your friend some hope!!
832610
I am so sorry to hear this because a good relationship with your sister is a precious gift from the Lord. I was 10 years older than my sister and we always got along beautifully although sometimes I felt more like a second mom than a sister until we became adults. Finally, we became the best of friends but she died of cancer a few years ago. Thank God I was left with some beautiful memories of our great love and friendship. Please work things out between you and your sister because "tomorrow" might be too late. I wish you well.
190383
man, take care of her , be there when she needs you , have patience , try to rise her self-confidence , don`t let her see  your worries and be the supporting shoulder when she needs one. try to talk to the doctor and find out exactly what her status is , there are many forms of cancer that can be treated  and in chase something bad takes place...be there for her...forever...  you`ll have a lifetime to know that you did something well. take care man and hope for the best
33480
You need to tell her family.. Your friend needs mental help before she does something too extreme, and dies. Tell,...because you care, you know you do or you wouldn't be posting this question if you didn't. But tell someone that can HELP. Good Luck.
547872
The best thing u can do is just be there for them.  Dont push it too much, let them know you are there to listen and wait for them to tell u how they feel.  It shows that u must be very close to them as they obviously trust you with their secret and are probably in shock about it themself still.\n\nMy ex-boyfriend had cancer and I know it can be a very very difficult time, not just for the person suffering but also for those around them and close to them.  Your friend is probably feeling a range of emotions at the moment and maybe just needs someone to confide in.  People can sometimes get very angry or very quiet when they find out something like this, so if your friend starts acting wierd, try to not to take it personally.\n\nI really feel for your friend because I know what a hard time it must be for them.  You also need to look after yourself too, its not easy news to hear and although u may not be experiencing it physically, u will prob feel just as emotionally upset and shocked.  The best advice i can give is just to be there to listen and keep their secret.  There is nothing that you can say that will change what has happened. Sometimes if u really want to help them and get them to talk, just talk about the facts of the illness (eg.what type of cancer/treatment/stage of progression etc.. )sometimes by the person talking about the facts, it helps them to come to terms with it themself and also brings out their feelings.  \n\nHope this helps you in some way
405843
Tell her that you love her as a friend and if there is anything you can do to help. Trust me i thought about sucide and that helped me when my friend said that to me and made me feel loved. Tell her you don't wanna do this just think of all the people you will meat later on in your life and there r so many thing to look forward to. I hope this helped you and i wanna wish you the best of luck
657201
You should talk to her and try to help her because soon it could be too late. I was in the same predicament because I use to cut and my friend knew so she started talking to me and telling me that we could fix the problem some other way and that cutting wasn't the answer for it and well I listened and stopped for a while but the thing is I still have doubts in my mind of what would have happen if I didn't stop. SO talk to her and then get her help. You don't have to tell anyone she doesn't want to but you and her should work it out which would be the help I'm talking about.
385940
Well the only way I know is to confront them straight up and tell them that you think they have a problem and you need help and that you will be there for them if they need it. Tell them that you are afraid of them hurting themselves.
486182
Just letting her know that your there for her will be a comfort. there's not much else you can do.
71462
Tell your friend she deserves to be happy and she will probably need a therapist to help her through this.