why do you comfort someone at a funeral?
98288
Because they are grieving. We grieve the loss of love, comfort, companionship and support when someone we care about dies. \n\nI know this vessel that is flesh is only temporary and my spirit will go where it may when the vessel no longer works so there will be no grieving for the loss of it but there will be grieving for everything I stated above for my spirit.
396649
There is nothing wrong with having compassion for people, you feel how you feel , you cannot change the fact that they die but you can have sympathy for them and their familys.You cannot dissconnect your feelings from them, that is the human part of you and you should feel honored to have that, alot of people dont.
833707
Most families would be honored and appreciate your just being there.  These days, you don't have to just wear black to funerals, but I would consider each individual family. In some cultures, people do wear black. Again, the most important thing is being there!  \n\nI'm sorry for your loss!!!
923085
=I am sorry for the loss of your classmate. The guidance counselor is always there to help you as well as keep talking about it because it helps process the grief you are feeling.  Try to go to the wake and maybe the funeral with someone.  It would also be a nice gesture on your part to send the family a sympathy card telling them why their loved one was so special to you.  God Bless.
878379
Some people are at peace when they die.  They understand that this life is about how you treat and care for other people.  They have lived every day to the fullest and have no regrets.  Their life has been treated as a gift.  As they are dying, they are still trying to care for others by being brave so others are not sad.  They may even believe they are ending this life going to a better place.  \n\nOthers may be afraid of death or feel like they have not had a good life.  These people may have lived a selfish and destructive life and this is how they face death as well.  \n\nI would also imagine it has a lot to do with what disaster or death you are facing.
559338
Sounds a little fishy to me, however, if it is a close relative or someone they really cared about they might realize that person would be gone forever, and needed that time to deal with the reality of it all.  When my sister died I didn't want to leave her side at the funeral home because I had lost my best friend, and I was so distraught I wanted to be near her as long as possible.
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I figured I'd be buried for a long time, but lately I've been considering cremation.\n\nIt's more cost effective for one (cremation urns are commonly 10 times less expensive than coffins). Plus I'll be safe against grave robbers. :)\n\nSecondly, my main reason for wanting to be buried was so that my body could naturally decompose back into the earth, only it'll be damn difficult to get back to the earth if there's a coffin in my way.\n\nThirdly, not only in Pagan religions (one of which I follow), but in many others as well, there are rituals that include burning things (like food offerings, written wishes, etc.) in order to send them to the gods. Well, that's certainly where I'm hoping to end up, so perhaps burning my body will assist me in my journey there.\n\nIf I decide to be cremated, however, I'd still like a memorial stone set up somewhere that my family and friends can visit and leave flowers by. I feel it helps in the grieving process for many people to be able to visit the grave of their deceased, and if it so happens that that would help someone come to terms with my passing, I would not want to deny them that.\n\nHowever, if all goes well, I have a very long time to think about it.
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The standard practice is for the remains to be returned to the grieving family. Beforehand, an individual soldier may make other arrangements (during Vietnam, one Navy pilot requested to be buried at sea if he was killed in action).\n\nA detail is assigned to assist at the funeral. A friend of mine was killed in Iraq, and at her wake there was an active duty sergeant assisting.
912284
Because of that human fear of death and dying. Most people seem to think morticians are weird. When working full time as a nurse (Only work part time now) I looked after the dying and naturally did last services, preapring a person for families last good byes in the hospital then of course the mortuary. So i met many people working in mortuaries! Most of them were decent, caring people who looked after someone's mum/dad/chil/grand-mother/grand-father etc! With respect and dignity, and were definitely not weird!
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You should feel the way you feel, and not how anyone else tells you to feel.  That's the only possible answer. If you worry about a lack of feeling upon this persons death, you must understand the psychological shock of such an incident.  It takes time to come to grips with it. If you were truly close to this person, the grief and pain WILL come-believe me.  The most important thing is not to repress it.  You must let it come, you must grieve, and you must deal with it.  Don't ignore it, or bottle it up.  Let yourself feel it.  To ignore it is to harm yourself, and disrespect the memory of your lost one. God bless, and my condolences.
476651
this can mean several things, it could be that they are wacthing over you so offereing you some comfort or support, could be that you are thinking about issues in your past good or bad\n\nDead\n\nTo see the dead in your dream, forewarns that you are being influenced by negative people and are hanging around the wrong crowd.  You may suffer material loss. This dream may also be a way for you to resolve your feelings with those who have passed on.\n\nIf you dream of a person who has died a long time ago, then it suggests that a current situation or relationship in you life resembles the quality of that deceased person. The dream may depict how you need to let this situation or relationship die and end it.\n\nTo see and talk with your dead parents in your dreams, represents your fears of losing them or your way of coping with the loss. You may want that last opportunity to say your final good-byes to them.\n\nTo see your dead sibling, relative, or friend alive in your dream, indicates that you miss them and are trying to relive your old experiences you had with them. In trying to keep up with the pace of your daily waking life, you dreams may serve as your only outlet in coping and coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.
132521
Yes, it would mean a lot to the family and also would give you a feeling of closure. You will not regret going. Years ago, children and young people went to funerals as well as weddings regularly. It is a part of life to go and you will gain strength from going.
25188
I believe one of the "values" of prayer is that it provides a measure of comfort to people.  If it gives you comfort to pray for the deceased, then it can't be wrong.
1024706
I went to a funeral service for a man who was cremated once.  They had the urn on a table with a nice photograph of him with it.  It was a lot like a regular funeral.
866502
Are you talking about death? If so you have to think about what is best for the person you love. Are they in pain? Will they be better off if they die? Do you want to keep them alive for you and not let them go so they can finally rest? Losing my grandma was horrible but it was best for her. Its hard to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. I grieve before and during the funeral. After I remember the good things and talk about the person. I still feel sad when I think about her and sometimes tear up but I know she is better than she was.
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People have a funeral to remember you, hopefully they'll say good things about you, and that's it. No afterlife, no heaven, no hell. Just the world going on without you.\n\n\nLong Live Jambi
1033565
I think that's a Jewish practice.  When a family member or friend dies, they cover all of the mirrors so that they only think about the deceased and not worry about looking at themselves in the mirror.  I think that's right.  Every religion has different ways to behave when someone dies.