why cant i have have an orgasm?
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well it could be because you are nervous, some women may have the sooner than others some only require physical touch others require mental stimulation.\nif you are with your partner experiment or don't be afraid to tell him or her (if that's your case) what to do what feels good  or where to go. there are many reasons, if you cant with your partner try exploring with your self first then make suggestions  based on the things you tried while alone.\n\nthe main thing is be comfortable and relaxed.\nI dont want to go to deep into it here, if you like to hear more e-mail me \nmy e-mail addres is \n\ndj-roland808@hotmail.com\n\nif you have messenger aol msn or yahooo also let me know can add you and speak live
596573
all your energies are focused tooo!!!!!! much on da orgasm... creating too much anxeity...and too much expectation... which creates a block... Next time you have sexs dont be in a hurry...and dont search for orgasm somewhere in your brain or any other part... just realx and have sexes as if orgasm never existed...just wait and watch...it will come as surprise guest!!! all da best...
844949
I don't think its because you had a baby two yrs ago, but I don't know I'm not a doctor. maybe you should ask your doctor. but before doing that lets ask you this. when your having sex do you get on top most women that do have orgasms by riding him? or when hes on top most men do it the 'norm" in and out what most guys don't do is side to side moving there hips to the right to the left they just go back in forth in and out. tell him to move his hips side to side to right then to the left when a man does it like that it gives most women the best orgasms. and if that don't work try playing with yourself and buy some k-y jelly you can buy that at targets, Wall-marts its usually were they sell KO-TeX to let papers,powders etc...if still nothing ask your doctor it could be Hermon's
107428
An orgasm can be two things.  \n   1) for men it is a spasm of the pelvic muscles followed by semenal ejaculation.\n   2) for women it is a uncontrolled spasm of the pelvic muscles.\n   3)  If you had one...you wouldn't ask...you would be smoking a cig right now.
211559
part of the reason for a woman to have an orgasm has to do with her own ability to turn herself on...in addition when the woman is being touched by the guy and she feels how much this guy desires her...that also makes her feel very femenine thus contributing to her potential to have multiple orgasms (5 to 8) in a lapse 1 hour.I mean there are many things in play here. to desire and to be desired, to love and to feel loved,romance(not for everyone),foreplay, fellatio,cunnilingus, touching, teasing each other...etc,etc.(if a woman is not in touch with her femenine animalistic drives that makes it a bit difficult for her) but there are also guys who really dont know how to please women so you get what we have here with you. Reciprocal attraction, sexual communication are very important to a healthy sexual and orgasmic relationship. then there is also that idea that to some women matters. meaning that some women girls...you know what I'm talking about (Size)...so I don't know how the shoe fits on you...good lick...i mean luck...I hope that you areable to get many orgasms.practice with yourself.
169542
Sometimes a woman cries from the sheer enjoyment of an orgasm.  If it has been a trying day or week, the release of an orgasm can open the floodgates of emotion that may have been held back previously.  It is rarely because of the act itself but because it is a time when your mind and body are relaxed and so you no longer have control over your emotions for a short period of time.  It is nothing to worry about. Just be happy that the orgasms are that satisfying!
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There are literally HUNDREDS of books about female orgasms and how to get one.\n\nThere is no way I could type long enough to help illuminate you to your own potential.\n\nIt does have to do with the guy(s), however. \n\nIt's probably your relationship with them and their ability to be both patient and SHARING with you.\n\n\nWhen you feel safe and you feel love..........and guys stop treating you like their own hand or a science project.....you'll begin to FEEL the differences......\n\n\nNow you are worried, up-tight, pushing, searching.....\n\n\nThat's not love, surrender, bliss, celebration.......\n\n\nRelax...........really.........breathe.........
647028
Did you get a euphoric feeling after you were done? Did your body shake or quiver? You may have experienced an orgasm or maybe just climaxed- but didn't have a mind blowing orgasm. I masterbate and it doesn't always feel the same way everytime.
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probably because of the sudden rush of blood flow due to orgasm in your body\n\nBut may also be due to improper methods of cleansing..
186319
You'll be one of those sad sad women who never orgasm.  \n\nIn order to come during sex you have to figure out how to make yourself come.  That means you need to spend some quality time with your right hand (or left if you're a leftie) and your brain.  Think about what YOU like, what turns YOU on, and how it makes YOU feel.  It has been my experiance that women who do not orgasm do so because they have no idea what they even like.  They see sex as something you do for someone or with someone, not something you do for yourself.\n\nBuy books on the subject, from fantasies to anatomy to technique.  Get a hand mirror and check yourself out down there.  Look at internet porn.  Read some erotica or Harlequin romance novels.  Spend a lot of quality time with your hand between your legs.  Think about buying a vibrator.  Learn the shower head trick.  Take mental notes on what works and what does not.  \n\nYou have to take a certain ammount of responsibility for your own sexual pleasure.  You're the only one who can make it happen.
405532
Well, there are many ways to make a woman have an orgasm easily...first of which is attentiveness...be attentive to her and build a rapport....then play. Play with her clit, her vagina, and for God's sake man, make sure you pay attention to her if she indicates she like something take note of it, and be gentle ....unless she likes it rough but she will tell you all of that through her body language.  But most important....ENJOY her and you will enjoy yourself when she has that mind blowing orgasm you want her to have.
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What you are going through is not weird and it's definitely normal! i had the same problem...I had sex hundreds of times but I could never have an orgasm. I always thought something was wrong so I just faked it all the time. My boyfriend now and I have amazing sex and by experimenting I have found the only position that I can have an orgasm! I hope this isn't too graphic but here is what we do...\n\nHave him lay on his back and you climb on top. While he is inside of you move your legs to the inside of his and make sure they are straight. Slide yourself up and down this way and I can almost guarantee you will have an orgasm! This position rubs me the right way everytime! It's the best feeling in the world when you have your first orgasm during sex! Good luck and I hope this works!
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Reaching an orgasm varies in women. Personally, it all depends on if your partner is experienced or not in getting you there, OR if you know your own body well enough in assisting him or you doing it yourself. Most women I know, DO NOT have orgasms often. I would think that its harder for women.
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It's the sex.\nIf you aren't having orgasms, the sex can be better.\n\nYou aren't doing anything wrong though. Most women don't have orgasms just through plain sex. \nTry getting your partner to stimulate your clitoris as well - you could try investing in a vibrator and trying a few different positions.
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Why are you scared? What is it in particular that scares you about it? Is it that you feel like you won't be in control? Are you afraid that you might embarrass yourself when you have an orgasm in some way?\n\nYou need to work out why you are scared, and work on the underlying cause. All I can suggest is that you try to relax. A glass of wine, a nice bubble bath......try masturbating while you're in the tub and feeling relaxed. Maybe even ignore that fact that you're crying and scared and continue anyway???\n\nHonestly, there is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's such a good feeling, and I feel bad for you that you're missing out on it!! If you're scared of embarrassing yourself, then try doing it on your own, where no-one will see your reaction. If this continues, you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist as someone else has suggested.
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It depends.  Was there sex involved?  If so, there's a condition called orgasm retardation.  It can be caused both physically and psychologically.  Have him see a "bone" doctor.  If that doc doesn't solve the problem, then have him see a head doctor.
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everyone is different.Some women never orgasm at all.Some women only orgasm through external stimulation some only through penetration.You just got lucky. Wish it was that easy for me