How Do you stop rumors when they've already gotton around?????????????????????????????????????????????????????
86868
well they already spread around. so it is good if you hold your head up high. as long as you know that it is not true. then you shouldn't even buy in to all of that. if somebody asks you is it true, then tell them no. if they start all these questions like well she/he said that you did this or you did that then just ignore them. just try to lift your head above the clouds. but, not too high as if you are conceited. before you know it you will no longer be in their conversation. there would be no more rumors about you and you will be able to go on. then you will be able to go on in life and not have to worry about them anymore. just be patient it will happen and you will be ok!!!!!!!!!
932150
Tell her to stop then because it is hurting your feelings.  If she don't want to stop, then you should stop hanging out with her.  Friends should respect each other.  Stick to your decision, no matter what the consequence maybe.  Don't worry about her gossiping about you, the most important thing is you stick to who you are as a person.  Eventually your action will speak louder than her words, if she retaliate like that.
940992
Just tell her it was a rumor, and that she should not be mad at you. If she's a good friend, she will understand.  Rumors get started and can spiral out of control, unless you take care of them early on.
1104695
I read your question and your answers.....no one attacked you. I was expecting to read some evil, vulgar things....but no.  There was one or two in which they were quite blunt with you, but all the others were quite sensitive and informative.\n\nBut, on this thing people are going to be jerks. Even to the most legit questions get a$$hole remarks. \n\nPersonally, I think you should have confirmed the rumor with him, before just dumping him. I mean, you've known the guy for  4 years, so you HAVE to know how is with women......right?\n\n To avoid that happening again is kind of an impossibilty. Because, most people put on such a facade in the beginning of a relationship.
51866
usually these rumors start for a reason.  if it's true, there is NO way he will admit it.   talk to the people from whom you've heard the rumor - but if I were you, I'd steer waaaay clear.  seriously.  keep yourself safe.
275173
It depends on the type of rumor.  You heard he's a mass murderer or rapist - steer clear of him.  You heard he lies sometimes and cheats on girlfriends - go ahead and see for yourself, but keep the rumors in the back of your head.  Maybe stay guarded for a little while.\n\nIt also depends on where you heard the rumor.  If you heard it from Chatty Cathy, you can probably discount it.
640482
Flash the audience -- then lie about it and claim it didn't happen, even though the world saw it. Oh, wait a minute, I'm starting to sound too much like the real one!!! :)
1088732
dont worry ... u can get rid of all these just be ignorin them...and its good u have not spoken to him....don't talk to him in future as well cos uptill now ( when u have not talked ) he has spread wrong rumours then think wat will happen if u talk to him...\n\nso just ignore such nonsense....dont go for looks go for inner beauty.
253215
I think your instinct is totally on. Let sleeping dogs lie. Now, how do we stop the propaganda that happened years ago? You have to prove to these people and show them the real you. Your peers must be part elephant, for them to remember and hang on to, 2 year old gossip! Are you sure that someone isn't keeping the gossip alive by some chance? That may be your problem. Any how, talk is cheap. Action speak louder than words. When you go to school Monday, you raise your head high, brush your pearly whites and smile. Make eye contact and start saying hi. If the chance presents itself, do favors or small tasks that could help them out. Waiting this long to try to correct a problem has put you in a bad position. But not a permanent position. Following this simple guide line, you will be alright. As far as your friend, the next time something like this happens, talk to her right away. It sounds like to me, she could be jealous of you, and want you to be her friend alone. But you can change that too. Just include her in with the things you and your new friends will be doing. Now its all left up to you, to take charge and end this once and for all. You go Girrrl.........!
112309
Stop going to family events ... when they ask "why" you aren't or weren't there ... tell them you didnt' have the energy for their drama ...
997483
I think you should start by keeping your distance a bit.  I think you should make other friends and spend time with them.  Just try to get out of it little by little.  Less calls, less get togethers, maybe even take a class dancing or in something else that she will not join you in.  \n\nThat way the distance will become more and more, until the day you guys don't' get to hang out very much.  \n\nIf she confronts you in a very angry or whatever tone, just be calm, nice & friendly.  Tell her that you guys have drifted apart and maybe you don't have much in common anymore.  But you still like her and consider her a friend.  This may still bite you in the butt, if she decides to spread gossip there's not much you can do but just ride it out, hang out with new friends, whatever.\n\nWhatever damage she could do, you're so much better off without her being around you, you will be happy and it will be worth it, just be strong.  You deserve good, positive, supporting friends in your life.\n\nTake care.  If you need a good defense to fight rumors, or whatever she throws your way, you can always contact me, or post another question, just be ready.
1025324
I don't think there is anything YOU can do to make THEM stop.  You can remove yourself from every situation when they start gossiping.  Or you could also state that you are not comfortable discussing people who are not here  to defend themselves. \n\nWish there were more people in this world like you.  You are setting a great example for others.
103971
All u can do is tell them that ur not doing anything at all. The only person u really have to be accoutable to is urself(and God,if ur religious). I know it's hard to ignore all the gossip and rumors, but that is where fresh air comes into play. It's always good to clear ur head. IF it's possible, let ur parents know where u go when ur not at home(if it won't get u in trouble). When u are out of the house, and on ur own(especially if u get hitched), that kind of gossip will stop(I assume).\n\nMy own relatives think I'm a skank(In my culture, dating isn't allowed), and my parents believe a lot of what they hear. The only advice I get from people is to go on with my life and deal with it. People who gossip are bored, and they want exitement and drama in their own lives, so ur the scapegoat. Others are miserable in their own lives and want company. I know it's hard, but try to be happy no matter what, and one day, God will see ur pain and deliver u from it. Good Luck!
1004037
Ignore him.  He obviously doesnt like himself.  People who dont like themselves are the ones who will say nasty things about others and try to spread rumors.  You cant control what other people say, so ignore him, go out and live your life.  Laughing always helps too.   Laugh at his immature behavior, look at him as a little kid and laugh - you will feel better in being the mature adult.
1145342
If you've seen this guy you would already know he's fine. Mojofilter: don't go freaking people out, this is how lame rumors get spread. I want you to know that I hold you personally responsible for the years dumbest rumor if it isn't true.
1173418
get someone to feed them some false information (or do it yourself) but something that they could believe, something small and trivial. if you hear the stuff that you made up back from someone else then you'll know. people can be really jealous of others and unless you hear the same thing from two people that don't know each other then i suggest that you take it with a grain of salt.\ntry the suggestion above, it works. a real friend should come right to you and tell you. or keep your trust.
318173
Never ruin a relationship over a rumor.  There are tons of people out there that say things just to hurt others for the fun of it.  Let rumors just be rumors and trust your man till gives you a reason not to trust him.