Well why would a guy then sleep with you if he doesn't want to be your bf, if he's controlliing.?
94615
You shouldn't sleep with him. He probably wants to just to reinforce his "control", to help make him feel superior within himself. AVOID sleeping with this guy!
798890
He is just using you to get laid. He is telling you this. He does not want a relationship. He just wants to get his rocks off with no strings attached.>
503295
Well if he wants to have sex with you, he might get kinda fed up eventually, dont you think? Why do you want to keep him but not have sex with him. Sex is part of love. Is he a potential lover or just your sugar daddy or something?
535033
I think it's the oppisite of what you may think it is.\n\nYou said that he's grabbing your butt, I doubt that that would mean that he doesn't find you attractive. I think it's obvious that he does. \n\nI think that it's possible that he is interested in having sex with you, but doesn't want to interrupt your sleep by waking you up and then feels embarrassed because he doesn't want you to catch him doing the most personal intimate thing you can do with yourself.\n\nMy boyfriend has done this to. I asked him about it and he said that he does it because he doesn't want to disturb my sleep. He also said that sometimes he does it, because it's the only time he gets to only think of himself, but that it didn't mean he wasn't "into" me, just an opportunity to be selfish, because he usually (always) puts my needs first before his own.\n\nWe all know that men think differently than we do, and they don't always openly communicate their feelings.\n\nYou should talk to him about it, especially if this is something that really bothers you. I'm sure you will find out that there is nothing to be worried about.
702634
He probably does like you, but not the way you want him to.\nIf you weren't in a committed relationship there isn't much you can do.\nI am a firm believer in NOT sleeping with someone until he/she is committed to only you.\nOf course, if you're okay with just having casual sex, then there is nothing wrong with it...but if you think you have feelings for the person, and they haven't told you they want to be in a real relationship with just you, then you can't fault them if you sleep with them anyway.\n\nIf you're looking for more than a casual fling, then keep dating hun...you'll find the right guy. Just hold off on sleeping with them until you're sure its for real!\n\ngood luck!
601305
He's just trying to convince you to have sex with him.  The truth is there are a lot of people out there who date and don't have sex.  Next he'll probably tell you,"well I guess your still a baby since you don't want to have sex. I'll go find someone else" LET HIM!! It's just another ploy to try and get you to have sex with him.  People who love each other don't try to force their partner into doing something they don't want to. Besides this guy is already a loser, do you want to be the next girl he got pregnant and doesn't have a realtionship with?
480884
Given the circumstances, I'd say he was just wanted a quick peice.  If you've been friends that long then I'm sure hes pretty comfortable and confident around you so he saw you as a perfect candidate. He must've been a bit drunk or thought for some reason you would be cool with it(did you invite him to stay the night?) Guys can have a hard time reading signals unfortunatly. But chances are hes pretty embarassed about it now and regrets what hes done. I've seen the most honest guys cheat, just some guys cant control themselves in certain situations. I know I've felt the pressure before, sex is a big deal to alot of guys.
285201
It means that he's a DUMB ASS!! he's a jerk, he doesn't deserve U and just wanted to play with U and your feelings, I guess he realized that U like him too much, and maybe he just wanted to feel that power on U and after that just leave U with no explanation.\nFORGET ABOUT HIM!!!\nFind someone else, a real man.
775073
He had his fun with you and then went back to his girlfriend.  He knows you like him.  He is just not interested.  Stop sleeping over and you will forget about him when you start dating someone else, preferably his best friend.
1004450
Thank yourself for being smart enough not to sleep with this LOSER.  Move on!  Move on! Move on! and find people who will truly love and cherish you.  You deserve it!  BTW, dump the "friend" too.
274307
yes it partially your fault\nyou enable him\nyou do not set boundries\nthis means he can manipulate you\nyou have no or low self esteem to put up with that\ngo out and get another guy\nand never look back with regrets\nif you are good as you think youare\nthere will be a guy who want you and can commit\nnot some child of a man who plays mental games
189000
Is this guy telling the truth about not having sex, or is he just trying to sleep with you?\n\nDo you like this guy or have "feelings" for him?  If no, then I wouldn't sleep with him.\n\nMaybe find a date for him, or an escort to boost his self-esteem.
547859
Sounds a little over protective to me!!,If your questioning this sort of behaviour, why would you want to be with him??
630078
No that's why he is called an ex cause things didn't work out so that means that you do not sleep with him or her at all.
181488
why frat about this one bf if he's doing this its because something happened that night,don't waste yr time on him find yr self someone that's grown up and that doesn't play games and show him yr better then that.that u do have to sit at home wall he's out fucking what ever walks.
62497
Probably because you let him into the relationship without realizing his true motives or his true self.  Most guys go into a relationship to play ball.  To see how far they can advance around the old bases.  And in today's world sometimes the girls are just as bad.  When you date a guy, don't get physical, like at all.  If he likes you for you, he'll stick around.  If he just wants to bed you, then he'll leave and all the better for you.  Yeah, it will be a little lonely, but at least  you won't be hurt.
788565
I wouldn't sleep with him yet. 1 month isn't long enough to be able to judge what his true motives are. Make him sweat a bit longer. If he likes you, he'll wait. If he waits, you know he's with you because he likes you, not just because he wants to get it on.