why do people get divorced?
97173
I can remember a song by Patty Smyth which best summarized it.\nSometimes love just aint enough.
1044045
It happened...  Ulitmately we got divorced...
234877
people cheat and get divorce because most of them think marriage (relationship) is and always will be a fairly tale... and its not... its a lot of hard work and effort... problems will always be there and instead of just quitting everything try to work them out... the other thing is that in today's world the morality is very low... marriage or a serious relationship is a commitment, a big commitment... you dont just back out on something or someone because you thought it would be different or easier... we need morality people and to set out principles straight... just my point of view... :)...
191995
studies have shown that if youre in your mid twenties youre the least likely to get divorced. (also if you are both college educated, and make greater than 50K/year also helps). but statistics aside, its really whenever they meet the person they're truly ready to commit to for the rest of their lives. i know success stories from people who got married when they were young and old, as well as people who got married at all different ages who got divorced.
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
1094101
People can give you all the statistics in the world. You have no idea what you are talking about unless your are speaking from your own experience. \nYes I did live with my husband before we were married and no we are not divorced. \nI think living together before you are married is an excellent way to see what you are getting yourself into. \nYou don't know who someone really is until you are around them 24-7. \nReasons why the statistics are misleading.The majority of people who get married do live together first.  This means their is a higher percentage to account for.  People who don't live together before they get married are highly religious therefore they do not get divorced.  Also lower class people live together before they get married because they cannot afford to live on their own. Divorce is more common amount the lower class. All of these facts contribute to divorce. There are many other reasons why people get divorced that have nothing to do with living together before marriage.
873794
get a divorce  why does either woman put up with it
769034
Not sure i get your point, but to me, divorce means the end of someone's dreams.. and that's sad.
1104645
Well, I believe that you are generalizing here. There are cases of cases and I can see from your statements that you haven't been there and don't know how difficult it is to have the nerve to get a divorce, specially when children are involved and you lstill ove the other person.\n\nThis is NOT the perfect world where everyone does what is supposed to be done in a timely manner. Consider the facts:\n\n-Divorce is EXPENSIVE\n-Divorce can take YEARS if contested\n\nIs it fair to put your life on hold while you soon-to-be ex drags their feet and don't show up to court?\n\nDo you know when love will knock on your door?  If so, give love an appoitment to show up exactly when your divorce is final. Come'on, get real.\n\nPeople separate, some can work out their issues and others can't. Don't put everyone in the same bag and judge others because that is God's job and not yours. Divorce is a painful experience and it takes a lot of courage to go througt it, everyone suffers, specially if there are children.... some women are scared of being on their own and stay for financial reasons because they have nowhere else to go.\n\nHopefully, you, the one that knows it all about life never have to go thru something like this and learn to un-love someone that you love and start over.\n\n\n------------------------------\nDear asker,\nPeople don't chooose to get married so they can cheat and be miserable. People are not perfect.....Are you???  Why are you so upset to have someone elses perspective? If so, you should have posted ... "only people that agree with me can answer". \nYou responded that I don't know what happens in your life, well, in your initial statement, you said that you haven't been in that situation, LUCKY YOU! so your is just an opinion, just as valid as mine, or you possess the almighty truth stick? Your question is "how do you rationalize" and then you go after me for answering your question...\nLife is long and you have no idea what lies ahead... there is a difference between the perfect life and reality, if you are in a happy healtly relationship, cherish it, but don't point  the fingers at others that doens't. Don't be insentitive towards people that are suffering.
147216
my parent's divorce, for many different reasons. Because of their divorce, I vowed once I got married it would be for love and commitment, and not just something to do. Living with just my mom affected the kind of parent I want to be. And learning why my parents split made me lose respect for my mother.
263572
It means you were right to get divorced.
578158
yeah sometimes they do, but that relationship often doesnt work out either. i see your dr phil nickname,, i watched a program of his a couple years or so ago where they stayed in touch with people where they met when one or both were married, had an affair, and then eventually left those marriages and moved in together or got married. the divorce rate of those new couples was HIGHER than the country avg of about 50%. it turns out that the trust issues transferred into the new marriage because they both already knew how deceitful they could be and started wondering if the same would happen to THEM now. it usually spells disaster. if the married person is unhappy they should leave the relationship and be on their own for awhile before starting something new. instead of stringing everyone along.
920146
I'm never going to marry again.  It is better to stay with someone because you want to than to stay because divorce is expensive, or there are children, or you don't want to go through the whole ordeal or some other reason.
568840
My dad (my parents have been married for 57 years) says that divorce is not an escape from your problems, just a new set of problems. That's why second and third marriages have a higher divorce rate then first marriages. Divorce is sometimes the only way to address certain relationship issues, but it needs to be as a last resort. Too often, people give up without investing any real effort.
1113130
They almost always end in divorce if they ever do get married/ bitter breakups.\nHate, unfaithfulness, etc...\n\nI have never seen one last more than a few years. It is quite sad really.  God's design is ALWAYS the best.
439618
I hate to look at things this way, but I'm a factual person. The stats show that ppl who live together before getting married are more likely to get divorced. I waited until I was married to have sex. This brings a real sense of security to our relationship. I could go on about the other benefits, but I'm tired.
1073186
The obsession with always having to be "happy".  People think that you have to always be "happy", sometimes things get rough and instead of working it out and sticking it out when things aren't going your way people quit.  There are so many reasons people give for divorcing but I think the one you here the most is " I just wasn't happy anymore".  Well who is happy all the time?  It's OK to have a bad spell of time.  It's OK to have a problem in your marriage that lasts a few months even a year or more but you can't just say this isn't fun I'm outta here.  We live in a society that put to high of a value on fun.  Don't get me wrong I love a good time and I love feeling happy but you can't base your whole life on if it's not fun I don't want to do it.  How would anything get done?  Children need to see parents stick it out they need to see that life in general isn't a cake walk.  They need to see that you don't always get what you want.  Maybe then people will stop looking for the easy way out of everything and learn to cherish the fun happy times instead of taking it all for granted.