How can i help my family? I have a brother In-Law addicted to drugs and he steals from his family that?
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He needs to be put into rehab as soon as possible.  One of my old roomates had a brother on drugs.  He would get off drugs, to make people believe he was clean, and then start again.  I remember her making excuses for him re how he will get help and he never did.  In fact, he had to come live with us, because he got kicked out of his house.  He had a wife and two children, but that didn't help matters.  He loved the drug.  I wanted, so badly, to move out after she let him stay with us.  He would go out late and knock on my window, at night, to let him in the house.  He basically would sneak out, so his sister wouldn't know.  Instead, he used me to get back in.  One night, I ignored the knocking and she found out.  She finaly called a few people to come make him understand that rehab was the best thing he could do with his life.  At that point, he decided to go.  \n\nI don't know the details of what is going on with your brother in-law, but if he doesn't get help soon, it may be too late.  You can help your family by convincing them to get help.  \n\nI don't know if this answered your question?  I hope it helped out a little.
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you should not believe him. i am a recovering addict, and i don't believe in using occasionally. it doesn't work that way. before long your bills and every thing will be behind. it is an expensive habit. i don't want to tell you to just leave your husband because that will make it worse for him. when my husband found out i was using he did tell me that if i didn't stop he would leave me and take my daughter. him and some of my other family has got me into Church and i have given my life to the lord. pray about it, God leaves no prayer unanswered. but we have to remember he doesn't answer them right when we want he answers them when it is the right time. now im not telling you to stay with him if he continues to use either. really open your heart to God and pray and he will put the answer in your heart what you should do.good luck and GOD BLESS YOU!!! if you need anyone to talk to you can email me or IM ME. MY im name is tootsjrfan.
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I smoked for 7 years everyone tried to get me to stop but i loved it only because it helped my depression and made me not think so much but as years went on i did nothing and let things go it has messed up everything i ever wanted to be cause it made me lazy and sleep all the time.you should get more involved with him go hang out and eat with him let him know you care and show him pictures of what it can do to your lungs.If that does not work then put your foot down tell him he will stop and you will know cause you can buy home drug test at wal-mart or drug stores.You must not give up or he will get up hie future and could end up in jail or as well as the cops coming to your home for a search if some neighbor calls.There is hope just try hard.It takes time to get over the withdraw but he can do it!
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First of all, I wanted to say that I'm sorry about your situation. Sounds like ur in a hard place because you love your husband and even though he did wrong, your family should let you be happy and if being with him makes you happy, they should accept it. I think, however, you may never get them to fully understand or accept the situation until he is out of jail. It probably won't matter to them how sweet or lovable he is behind bars. They will have to see for themselves if he continues to be the great guy you say he is once he is released.  If they don't accept him after that, I don't know what else you can do about it but pray they will and continue to have a healthy and blessed marriage. Best of Luck!
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Have you tried contacting a local clinic or rehab center for advice? Maybe attending a Narcotics Anonymous meeting?\n\nUnfortunately, I don't think you can force anyone to do anything they don't want to do. Your addicted loved one must want to quit themselves. Also, you should look at ways you may be enabling their addiction: lying to employers about their absences, being ok with them staying up all night, giving or lending money to pay bills. \n\nI was addicted and eventually became homeless. I called my parents asking for help, if I could live with them. It was the hardest thing for them to do, but they said no. I lived in a residential hotel for awhile and they paid my rent but gave me no more money. I had to eat at soup kitchens. Eventually I managed to find a job and work myself out of the situation, but it was very hard.\n\nNow I own my own home, own a car, have 4 cats, a pool, and a good job. No more meth for me.
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YOu don't have to be mean or you will scare them AWAY and may pushed to do more. Sit down and have a talk with him. Many people turns to drugs and alcohol when they are having trouble communicating their problems with family. They hang out with peers who are doing the same thing - drugs and some commit a crime or two. This is very sad but is true to most people. When you do the conversation, be sincere and firm. Offer help. They may need somebody to listen to. A shoulder to cry on. Make yourself available for your son and be his friend. The effect of such thing is only temporary but having self-respect last forever.\n\nI personally made someone QUIT smoking weed. He had done it since 13 yrs old, now he is in his 30's (but was 27 when he stopped). The sincerity of your  voice and being true to what you said to him is the key. When you say you will be there for him, be there for him. No need to yell, scream, ground or whatever punishment is there. COMMUNICATE with him!
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I'm sure there are organizations around your area where you could go to and get help in what you should and what you should not be doing.\nas one the other people here rightly said, you can only help your brother if he wants to be helped. Meanwhile however, you should also have some one to turn to! Because seeing a loved one go down on the road of addiction, can be very damaging.\nand you're not the first one in this situation. Therefore find these organizations with people who can help you to hopefully help you brother..
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I would probably try to get a hold of something personal of his...and tell him he can have it back when you get your $300!\n Going to court will teach him a lesson...but it may leave you out of pocket!\n Could you get another family member to talk to him about it?
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get your name off this lease by legal means.\nif you are worried about your credit you had better act fast.\nother than that he is grown, chances are he is not ready to change, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! I mean you could try intervention with friends and family but the reality is sometimes you have to bottom out (get worse before you get better)\nI know it is painful but what can you do?\nYou have to protect yourself.\nIf you let HIS addiction ruin your life what will he have to come home to when he does get better?\nIf you let HIS addiction ruin your life will you be able to get over the bitter feelings left over when he wants to come home (to you)\nThe fact is you didn't raise an addict, he knew better when he started this, how much can you take?
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Your mother-in-law will be sued by the mortgage company for the amount of the loan.  She'll be paying it off for the rest of her life even though she no longer has the house.\n\nHer best bet would be to evict the two drug users.  She'll have to go through the legal eviction process with the courts, but it could save her home.
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My brother died of a drug overdose so let me explain something to you that most people answering your question can not relate to. My brother was in denial as well. His drug of choice was Vicodin which is a commonly prescribed pain killer and he didnt see anything wrong with it. Drug addicts are the biggest mainipulaters you will ever meet. They drain you of all of your emotion. Now a lot of people are saying to let your friend get help on their own, that there is nothing you can do. If you are truly concerned for your friends life, I would suggest staging an intervention with other friends and family members in an effort to reach out and let your friend know how serious you are. \n\nMy brother is dead and I live every day with the guilt of not doing something to try to help him or to get him help. I always think there is something I could have done. I do believe that drug addicts can only get clean when they are ready to, but maybe your friend needs to know how serious you are so that they take a look in the mirror and see what they are doing to themselves.\n\nTrust me, you have to do something. My first step would be to get in touch with your friends family and find out if they are aware of how serious the problem is. Your friend needs professional help. You can't just lock an addict in a room and let them experience withdrawal. It is just too painful and it doesn't work for the long haul.\n\nGood Luck
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Yes.  But if it goes on too long and it affects his life and the family's, it's a problem you have to address.  Addictions come in various forms.  You need to keep conversation lines open.
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I learned as a first aid responce that it is my will to help. People dont have to help unless they want to. Im so sorry this happened to your sister. It almost sounds like you blame the people around her for what happened to your sister. But... In fact she was the one taking the drug and did it to her self. \nIt might be against the law not to call 911. I would check that out better. I am so sorry this happened to your sister and hopefully all her freinds and family learn from the mistake she made. I hope none of then start on it ever. It is a very addicting drug and I am so so sorry your family has to deal with the pain.
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You can't fix his problem. A drug abuser has to stop on their own. You just have to do what is best for you and your child. LEAVE! If you don't have the money to get your own place, do you have family or friends you can turn to for help until you are financially stable? It's time to swallow your pride and ask for help. Good luck.
197557
well try to watch his alcohol consumption \n\nwe learned in school that alcohol addicts are short tempered with their family and take everything out on obviously innocent family memebers.\n\n( also diabetes will do this to you )
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i found out that he is an addict, and i stayed continually looking for a the bigger picture, when he was gonna stop and we could be a happy family. But it's an open, ongoing lie. Truth is he's not ready to stop and i've wasted all this time with him. i love him but I am suffering the consequences now for HIS addiction.
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I am truly sorry for you and your sister, but sometimes the only thing that can be done is to wait for her to hit rock bottom, and ask or accept your help.  It may come soon or never, all you can do is be there for her, try to keep her fed, but do not give her money for drugs or a place to stay until you know she is clean.  I am also sorry to say but when you see her you need to make sure she is not holding any drugs, because if you get busted your life will become really crappy, real fast.  Good Luck, I know we never met, but I have strong shoulders so if you need to talk e-mail me, just click on the avatar and my e-mail is there.