If someone dates exclusively within their race/religion and wants to preserve their culture, are they hateful?
83687
its selfish....  you choose who you wish to date, but given your reason-- it is also racist....
113651
Not at all.\n\nIt makes me think that you are familiar and pleased of your history and your parentage, and that you wish to cultivate it and teach it to your children.\n\nIf you say it in the context of exclusivity, then maybe someone would think you were being hateful. But being proud of your heritage is nothing to be ashamed of.
286476
Race doesn't come into play for me when meeting, having friends or dating.  Everyone is a human being and the color on the outside has nothing to do with the person on the inside.  Everyone is the same physically on the inside, but race, creed or religion has nothing to do with "who that person is".  It's all about what jives and what doesn't.
1124077
Well, it's not a bad idea, but do you really only want to elicit responses from people who think and believe exactly as you do?  I know the ignorant answers are annoying, but I actually enjoy reading different points of view from other cultures.  I like to learn from them.  Even when they are being vehement and fanatical I find that I can learn something about their culture and beliefs.  And what category would you put someone like me, who identifies with no specific religion.  I just follow my own spiritual path, made up of beliefs from several religions, new age spirituality and my own gut.
509461
Yes! All the Af-Am automatically think I hate them. I don't care what someone looks like or what religion someone is, treat me with respect and I'll like you.\nAlso, people frequently stare or make rude comments when I'm with my girlfriend. I never do more than hold her hand in public. I don't stare at straight couples when they do PDA. Rude!
857730
because they have issues, they cant condemn you for doing the same thing that their doing, people are  free to choose to date who they want as well as love who want regardless of the color, don't worry about ignorant people, you're not going to make everyone happy, its your life that's what matters so as long as you're happy with your choices then who cares about what others think....
1064247
Absolutely not...I can tell you that I have never said a cross or mean thing about a white person, as a matter of fact a majority of my friends are white. It's funny, some people in society assume that whites should hang with whites and blacks with blacks, but in my eyes I don't believe that should make a difference, and no I don't resent or hate white people, nor have I ever and I hope I never will, but that goes with almost anybody in life. You shouldn't assume that everybody that's black is racist or mean to white people or vice versa (sometimes black people can get on my nerve but hey, that's life)...my point is you shouldn't judge a whole race by some ignorant people's actions. There are some intelligent, sweet, kind, and loving black people out there and I hope you get a chance to meet and talk to somebody like me...
1042621
Does it matter if your black, white, yellow, brown or otherwise? Let's think about it, when it all comes down to bone structure and level of mallamon (not sure of spelling!) in your skin, then why do we see people so differently? We are all people sharing this planet, it's our belief structure and how we act that differentiates us from one another.\n\nSo may answer is you is 'Yes' because you are dating the person not the race! Cultural backgrounds sometimes need to be considered, but really the same rules would apply if you were dating someone of the same race.\n\nMy wife is Asian and I am Caucasian. I am attracted to the beauty of the person and my wife.
138590
why not?  skin colour is crap, anyway.  all humans came from africa!  the colour of one's skin is simply an adaptation to light levels that humans as a whole have evolved with.  any bastard who tries to make y'feel bad for "interracial" dating, just ignore them or throw a small dog at their heads.\n\nwith each passing generation, people become more tolerant.  look back at our culture.  there was some 60's song that went "jeremiah was a bullfrog, but he was still a good friend of mine".  (for all you younger people, "bullfrog" was another, Not so nice, way of saying "black".)  by today's standards, that sounds quite racist, but back then, it was progressive.  in another 8 generations or so, interracial dating won't be as big a deal in this country...  well...  at least between whites and blacks.  i hope for better, but human nature does suck, so i can't be too optomistic just yet!
119976
It's a cultural thing still with a lot of people. I'm caucasian (White) and I've dated African-American women and I know that a lot of AA women are uncomfortable with dating someone of a caucasian part of the race. AA men dating caucasian women is a male "look at me, I'm dating a white girl, are'nt I a stud" kind of thing. It will take another generation before "black" and "white" are truly comfortable with one another. The sad part is that we are are all genetically the same, skin color is meaningless. Slavery did not help relations between human beings at all. But the genetic history of the human race is that we ALL came from Africa and that the caucasian skin color was a fairly recent  (about 3000 years ago) in the scale of human history.
820918
I never understood that either.  I think it's bold to be interested in other races and cultures besides your own.  A person is only as good as his/her heart.  Thanks for bringing an excellent question!  Godloveya.
888850
I don't think you need to see it as a problem. I think you are open minded like I am. Society always tells you to limit yourself to your own race, but you refuse to folow your own preference.\nWell I am a black guy, foregin black guy, and my parents are actually open when it comes race. For them we all bleed red.\nBut again the society I lived in doesn't even accept dating/marriage within diferent ethnic groups. Being from Africa, there are around 84 ethnic groups in my country alone. \nAnd society doesn't accpet it with open hand the marriage of ethic group A to ethnic group B, and mind you we all look alike, dark brown, light brown or black. yet just because you speak additional languages you are considered unfit to date other ethnic groups...Let alone a white or a major different racial group.\nBut guess what I am interested in white girls. well I had my conflict within me as to I had to remain within my country girls.\nWell I came here and all I see are the wonderful white americans, why settle for something else I really am not interested deep inside. I mean it is not about race or anything, I just find myslef attracted to certain types of white girls.\nAnd let me tell you this I have never followed the norm of society.\nSo girl go for your choice, don't feel like you have to date what society expect you to date. After all it is your own love life....right?
934993
You need to dumb down your questions if you want the multi-racialists to notice and get enraged.  Afterall the multi-culturalists and pro-miscegenationists don't understand big words like miscegenation.\n\nAnd no you should not engage in miscegenation.  There are lots of white guys like me who aren't aren't too keen girls who have done that previous to meeting them.  Many of them are far too forgiving of this, but not I.  \n\nIf you consider it akin to beastiality can you really forgive it so lightly?  I cannot.
449845
Well why could'nt you date outside your race?  There's no reason why you could'nt or should not.  I believe if you had the right frame of mind, about why you are doing what your doing regardless of race, because we are all God's creation, one drop of blood has made all nations.  If you can have the wisdom to know how to handle this world we live in, concerning the thoughts, ideas, opinions, and feelings of others, not to mention lies, and deceits from generations of races, and those who don't have a clue whats really going on.  You can be in control of what you think, and feel about what others say.  Go with your pure heart, after you have renewed your mind!!!  Honey listen I'm not one to go dating to find out if I'm compatable with someome, I did that when a young girl, and didn't have no sense, don't let the world, people, and whatever else dictate your undefiled love life, that's between you, that man, and God!!!    \nHope this Have helped you girlfriend.
999186
I don't attack their character. I love all my people. For me it is a question of law.I have been blessed to know and spend time with/in the homes of many races in my 46 years and find that there are positive things to take from any experience. Peace.
365350
Personally, I think you love who you love and if that makes it a bi-racial relationship then so be it! Unfortunately, ignorant people in this world don't like it. The thing is, there are alot of people who don't like to see people date out of their race. For instance, Oprah had this whole show on how black men don't like to see black women dating white men. But, black women say there aren't enough professional, elligible black men out there. As I said, I think you love who you love and that is life.
440516
hi,\n it is difficult to answer this without sounding judgemental.... please believe me when i say that i am only putting myself where they MAY be.... It says in the Bible not to be unequally yoked, but that means in plain English that as a christian if you date a non christian it may become difficult for you to stick to your christian beliefs, personally if my sons where to date a non christian that had never had the chance to know the joy of Christ my priority would be to give them that opportunity.\nPraying that God will bless you in your search for answers.\nGod be with you\nShaz\nx x x x x x