why i have to be gay?
91834
With a question like that, I think at this time in your life, your starting to question whether you really want to be gay or not.  Maybe your finding out that your missing out in life something you want, and about having an affair to find out if you want to change, or not.  If your not happy, then, I guess, it might be something like changing job's. If your not happy as far as where your at in life, then your the only one that WILL make that decission...   Dr Checko...   (Nickname)
994411
you cannot change your sexual orientation despite how many morons told you otherwise. Trust me they are many gay men would have just switch under pressure just like that...if it's a choice there would not be that many gay men left in this world.\nIf it's not being gay , it can be fat , ugly ,short , skinny, race, religion. There are many bullies in these world would just pick on you regardless what differences you have. But your existence does not depend on them. You exist for yourself. Until you take care of your self, appreciate yourself and ignore what these bullies said you can't begin to face the world.  Life is not a popularity contest, you do not have to please everyone to gain votes. In reality some people gonna hate you without you having to do anything. The more you react to these bullies the more they gonna pick on you.... feel indifferent, ignore the rest just be who you are.....What can't kill you will make you stronger cause you need it ...there might be time in your life the challenge can be much tougher. See it as your early challenge to overcome.....Check out your local communities support group ...should be listed under gay and lesbian. ask for youth counselling or peer support group...they are many out there just like you facing the challenge. many can help you overcome these obstacles....Have you by any chance watch any of the Xmen movies?  What do u think the message is about? The first two were directed by Brian Singer a gay man himself. They are many sucessful gaymen in this world from all walks of life that I can't even begin to tell you. Instead of seeing it as a hindrence in your life ..use it as a catalyst to propel you to do great things with your life that could influence the society!! You are 16 and the world is your oyster!!
959875
Hi there. I agree... these people answering can show more respect towards u as an individual! Man ppl... it's just a question... ANSWER IT!!! Anways, I read ur question and personally, u maybe have a tendency to lean towards bisexuality... however, since you didnt mention ur age or anything, it might be hormones. I do believe no matter your sexuality, people need to show 'respect' & 'dignity' (as these p-r-i-c-k-s didnt), you need that! It doesnt really matter on ur sexuality, I personally do not think being bi or gay is morally right, but it is a choice ppl make. I hope this helps u and i hope u find out more soon!!!
266992
Actually, you can be gay. There's no law against it.\n\nI think that being gay is weird, and slightly freaky (no offence to anyone; this is my opinion). Of course, I realize people in the world are gay; there's nothing nobody can do to really stop it.
454256
I don't know why I'm gay. I don't remember being given a choice. Perhaps you could tell me when you chose to be straight?
1005560
There is nothing wrong with being gay, be proud of who you are.  \nNow search for a GOD that you want to worship and who will accept you.   GOD is all loving\n\nDEMOCRACY IN HEAVEN
87485
I think you're secretly attracted to him and are using this question as a way of finding out if it's ok to be gay. If you want to be gay, be gay, just don't brag about it ok? fudge packer.........
1067809
When you're gay (like half the people who commented on this probably arent, so they dont get it) you don't choose it.  Theres a point where you realize you are different... and its usually kinda scary.  So yeah, its natural.  If not then why do most upper forms of mammalian life do it?  Hmm?  \n\nHello?  You idiots out there with no idea what its really like to be gay?  Tell me something,.. do you think we would CHOOSE to be something that gets us beaten up, politically isolated and denied some of our basic human rights?  Get real... telling us gay is not natural and we should get with the opposite sex is like telling you to hook up with someone of your own sex.
1025711
I played with GI Joe when I was growing up but so did my best friend and He is as straight as an arrow . Nothing can make you gay you are born gay . Sexual orientation is determined before birth and no one  can choose to be gay or straight . Nothing can make them gay or straight .  A straight man can't decide he is gay and change his attraction for women and a gay man can't decide he is straight and  change his attraction for men .
851388
You could be gay and you could be bisexual.\n\nIt's up to you to figure it out.
928142
No, you are not gay....you just want to experience it......In my opinion a truly gay person.....not just wants sex with a person of the same sex, but they also want to be involved with the person romantically.
553019
"becoming" gay does not sound correct. Either you know inside that there is something different when you look at either a male or a female which ever one you prefer. You can't just become gay,,,you actually feel the desire to be with that particular sex...now what you do afterwards to either keep it going or difuse it is totally up to you.
498137
Why is it ok just to be gay, but when a gay person wants to be responsible, like marrying, buying property and insurance, then it becomes an issue?
1036135
First take a deep breath. Now repeat after me..."Just because I'm not a jackass about homosexuals does not make me gay". I belive you are putting way to much pressure on yourself. You could have issues with women from your childhood or something or you could just not have met the right woman. As to your question  I don't put people in boxes, you don't have to be gay, bi, or straight. I'd say more but this is an open disscusion, so if you want to talk just e-mail me.\nPS Ignore the gay bashing that will probaly be in some of the answers.
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the need to be accepted is human nature but really if the don't accept you for what you are they are not worth it, do you want to be a part of this type of closed minded society, i no i wouldn't. a society where gayism is not really accepted does such a place exist in today's world, maybe you should be the one that changes the way your society looks a gays. there is no need to be scared just be yourself maybe they might surprise you and not be so closed minded. good luck
797025
Welcom to the wonderful world!\n\nDont worry u are normal and fine - we are all intrigured by homosexuality but few of us admit to it....
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I would say it's a combination of genetic disposition (being born that way) and the environment one grows up in.  But as it is now, there has been minimal research done to prove whether one is born gay or not.  Of all the homosexuals I know personally, none have told me that they "chose" to be gay.