Why do I fight with my girlfriend even though we both dont like it?
89604
because its natural. we all argue. it's healthy seriously. but not excessive amounts. we get to know eachother better
674067
if you do it, she just get what she wants. if it bugs you talk to your boyfriend about it. if he doesnt want you DONT waiste your time\n\ngirl you deserve better so be strong and confront him and if you have to knock that bitch out. it's your man not hers so show her you can keep him happy.
1064054
Have you tried to talk with your girlfriend about how you feel? When my sweetie feels like nothing is special, she talks with me and says "I miss when we used to ..." or "I feel like we are in a rut, do you think so too?" She usually gets the ball rolling and brings her dissatisfaction with the status quo to my attention. You can do the same. \n\nAnother idea is for each of you to list all the things you like and don't like about the relationship and compare your lists. You probably already know this, but when sharing your lists, do so in a positive and non-confrontational way.\n\nThen again, if this all sounds like too much work, figure out what you would like in the relationship and talk with her about that.\n\nJC
566613
Don't worry about the cause, just get out of the situation. If you're just dating and you fight, then it probably wont get better as the relationship continues. Sorry, but at this point in your lives, he's not the one for you.
399092
IT DEPENDS ON HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN SEEING EACH OTHER...IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING FOR OVER 6 MONTHS AND STILL DON'T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE , THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG AND THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT AND TRY TO OPEN UP TO EACH OTHER. IT MAY BE THAT YOU ARE SO IN LOVE WITH HER THAT YOU ARE SCARRED SAYING THE WRONG THING MIGHT END YOUR RELATIONSHIP, BUT IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION IT MUST BE WEIGHING ON YOUR MIND. JUST TRY TO TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL AND HOPEFULLY SHE FEELS THE SAME AND YOU BOTH CAN START TALKING ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL WITHOUT BEING SCARRED.
812239
Just be honest and explain to her exactly what you just said. Well maybe in modified girlfriend terms...if she doesn't like it or get mad at you for it, that's her problem because it's not like you're trying to be mean, and it's not like you don't want to talk to her. She'll get over it, she has to. Don't take any crap for it later either. Not saying that she does that, but if she does. Be the dominant one and don't let her control you!
18448
No one can answer that except her. You need to sit and communicate your feelings to her and the expectations you have of your relationship. Maybe she feels the same way but there is something else going on in her life that you do not know about. Or maybe, she is no longer interested in you and is trying to find a way to end things without hurting your feelings. Either way, it is best that you both find out where you each stand.
314683
I'm sorry as this is very immature of your girlfriend.  She should understand that you can't always be together.  Just explain to her why and she either accepts it or she doesn't.  If she doesn't, it might be time to find someone who is more understanding.
173276
Instead of fighting her on it go out and do something yourself, instead of worring about what she is doing. Relationships that have these problems dont last, so if you love her you need to love everything about her or move on.
506344
obviously there are a LOT of issues there. u r already unhappy and ther is no legal commitment yet, imagine how it will change when the "I DO" is said.   and u talking to us will not solve the problem.\n\nu are too depended on her. no one should be sucked into the life of another person. u r to compliment not complete each other. u need a balance and other perspectives in life. she may not like others that u like, but if she loves u ( which i doubt or mayb she ahs commitment issues or issues expressing feelings to significant others) she will like them because of u.  \n\nto be honest, sounds like she is just using u, and guess what, ur letting her.  abuse is abuse
1014236
~~Talk to her about it, and tell her how it made you feel.  Communication is important in building a solid relationship. Sometimes out of anger people do things to make the other person angry as well.  That isn't an excuse for it to happen, that is just a fact that it happens.  Tell her how it made you feel, be honest with her, in a non-accusing manner, assuring her that you love her and want to make things right.~~
1120218
OH MY GOD !!\nDeja Vu, You remind me of me and my ex girlfriend. \nWe were together for 3 plus years. We used to fight so regularly that in the beginning our friends used to be shocked by the anger and in the intensity. But we used to end up kissing and making up. But as we moved on, our fights became a forthnightly event, and our friends just ignored it like it was a 'normal thing'\nBut I used to do all the things, you mentioned in your Q. Go in front of her house, we used to give each other missed calls and sometimes prank calls, we used to have our friends call eachother and find out how the other person was doing, and so on a so forth.\nBut fights in a relationship are NEVER healthy and mind you, it will get old and you will sometimes cross that line of sensitivity, therefore inadvertantly hurting the other persons more than you thought you would.\nHe (like my gf) might be of the false impression that fights are 'normal and important' to keep the love in a relationship.\nTry and convince him that this is not normal, NEVER.\nYou should set some ground rules and learn not to overstep eachother.\nI understood we fought as often as we did, because we lacked trust and respect for the other.\nTake one day at a time. You will never go wrong.
1147592
I think you hurt her. The thing about this situation, is you messed with a girl who cared for you and now that you showed her your bad temper, it made her realize that she doesnt need that in her life. Men dont understand that half the reason why women leave them is because they have said something that offends their girlfriends. Girls have mixed emotions that get hurt easily. It seems like you hurt her feelings. Just keep calling, she may or may not answer. But next time you need to listen to her side of the situation first, unstead of jumping to conclusions and yelling at her before you even know why she didnt call back. Good Luck
494709
It's clear that your ex is very jealous or wants to revenge or something like that and wants to brake your relation with your actual girlfriend. The best weapon u have is YOUR GIRLFRIEND. If you really love each other speak all things you re feeling now about the situation and give her an example with the same situation but with the players inverted. If she really loves you she will understand and will stop your ex.
309352
i don't know what's wrong with her, but if i were you i would get out now. how many more years of this crap are you going to take? if you have given her no reason to treat you the way she does and she still does it, she has some issues and you deserve better. in relationships where you have been together for a while and it seems like nothing will change, something drastic has to happen before anything will. take some time apart and reevaluated your feelings and the situation.
21963
If your girlfriend went to a christmas party and then came back and said that its not working out ask her why.  If she says its just not then let it end at that.  The less you annoy her the more you will get along.  Trust me, I dated a guy and he did the same thing to me.  I learned that the less you keep on asking why the more they dont want to tell you.  Just ask her once why and if she doesnt say then leave it alone.  She will eventually come crawlin back to you if you are/were good to her.
157827
Well...it probably has to do with the fact that you are supposed to be in a committed relationship with her and ONLY her, unless of course you two had a before mentioned agreement to having an "open" relationship, but I doubt this is the case...  Put the shoe on the other foot bro, and think how you would feel if the roles were reversed and she was the one cheating on you.  Maybe if you see things through her eyes for a few moments you will be more careful with the way you are treating this poor girl’s emotions and heart.  However, If that doesn't convince you to change your ways, why don't you just do her a favor and cut her loose now to save her any future heartbreak.