i feel like my friend isnt my good friend anymore.what should i do?we used to be tight?
79164
You can still treat her like a friend and hang out with her, unless she's doing something really rotten to you.  But in the meantime, you should find hobbies and things that you're interested in where you can meet new people as well and expand your horizons.
54020
i can undersatnd why u feel so......i myself hav felt so very often.\ni think u ought to go and talk things out wid ur frnd.coz if u dont do so, sometimes if someday u lose ur friend, u shall regret abt not having given the relationship the care and treatment it needed. no dont avoid her coz of ur pride. but if she avoids u too much even if u hav been a very gud frnd to her,then if i were in ur place i dont think i wud hav continued seekin her attention. i think in suach a cse it wud b better to try and presrve the other frndships tht i hav........
444275
Chris you don't say how old you are but I used to feel like this in my teens and early twenties. I matured much faster than my "Friends" and they did not hold the same ideals as I did. I used to get really frustrated by so called friends not treating me in the same way that I would treat them. As I have got older I have made a few really good friends. This is preferable to many shallow friendships.\n\nA good friend sticks by you no matter what, through the good and the bad. They will be honest with you, without being offensive, will listen, make you laugh, maybe make you cry too if they are hurting. A true friend will make you feel good inside, love and accept you for who you are and when you come away after being with them you feel great. I also find my friends bring out different aspects of my personality but each is treasured in their own right.\n\nAs you get older and become more confident in your skin you also begin to care less about whether people like you or not....they can like you or leave you.  \n\nHang in in there, treat people as you would like to be treated and in time you will make real, true, loyal friends and yes you will know when you have them.
1060303
I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
291542
It sounds to me like you need a new best friend.\nIf he acts like that toward you then he is NOT a friend.\n\nI doubt if he will change back to how he used to be.  I've never heard of THAT happening.\n\nSince the two of you were freinds for SO long, that tells me that YOU are a great friend to have.\n\nIt should be VERY easy to replace him with someone who will appreciate having you as their friend.\n\nLeave the loser alone, move on and find new freinds so you can go back to being happy!
33449
If you don't feel that you can be honest with them about how you feel, I think you should find other activities to do, getting too busy to support your friendship. Friendships will dry up, if you don't water them regularly with visits, phone calls and notes. If you are too busy to fit her into your schedule, she'll either ask you up front what's up or she'll slowly move on to someone else. If she asks, that's your cue to be honest, even though it might hurt. Without knowing how she "makes" you feel bad, it's hard to know if you're not bringing on some of this treatment yourself, actually encouraging her that it's ok to treat you this way. Some people think it's better to have a "bad" friend than no friend at all. If she is truly a "toxic" friend, move on to more positive people. In time, she'll fade away. I would rather that she knows exactly what's causing you to not want to be around her. Maybe she doesn't have a clue that she's treating you badly. Maybe she does this to everyone. If not, you have to ask yourself why you? Letting her know will give her the option of changing...or not. If you have body odor, and everyone avoids you, not wanting to be around you, wouldn't you want to be told? You might think everyone hates you or maybe doesn't like your clothes or something. No one has the right to treat you badly. You give them that right. You can take it away. <*)))><
1141843
thats kinda sad for u and him. if hes supposed to be ur friend he probably cares about ur feelings
1107005
I know that feeling (the terribal feeling not very well)\nTry to be nice, if you are not feeling what he is... Just be honest, your friendship will change of course but he knows it will, he took the risk by saying he loves you...\nDo not be rude he is just been honest, but you do not share the feeling so be clear state it correctly... \nRelation will change so be prepare you will never look at him as it was before, but you can be mature enough to go over this bad feeling you have and time will put you back together again and you will someday laugh about, if you both are real friends OK... sooner or latter you will accept him as he is.
957447
tell it to him straight like you have been - that you dont feel about him that way - expect him to be angry for a while but this is where you need to distance yourself from him for a bit....if he's a true friend he will eventually understand and then seek your friendship once again...but if he doesnt he is so not worth it...good luck
1165904
If he wont be your friend anymore because of that then leave him alone. Dont put yourself in that uncomfortable situation again.
664258
I think he is. Did you try to explain to him how much it hurts you when he withdraws from you? He needs to tell you when you do something to upset him so you can work it out and get it out in the open. He is holding things in which only makes it worse. Make sure he understands that he has to be open and honest with you in order for your friendship to last. That is part of what being a good friend is. I wish you luck and hope you two work things out. Good friends are hard to come by so that makes it worth trying to work things out.
1076197
Sometimes friends just need their space...Don't worry, give them a little time to vent, they will be back to being friends again soon. If not, carry on, Don't sweat the small stuff.
445652
Maybe you should try talking to them. Tell them how you feel, but make them promise that it won't afect your friendship if they don't feel the same way.
1177846
It's sounds like for now that's all you guys can be is friends. You can't make someone like you, I know that's tough to swallow but it's so true. There is no magical voodoo spell that you can do, it's either there or it's not. I'm sorry that he doesn't feel the same way that you do but if you want to remain friends you are going to have to let it drop and just value the friendship. You never know what might happen down the road but if you've told him how you feel mulitple times and he has replied with the only friends thing there's not much more you can do without throwing the friendship out the window.\n\nGood luck with everything, I hope it all works out for the best!
982364
Well, this seems to be a tricky situation. I have been in a similar, yet not so intimate situation, with another friend. Now let me tell you what I did to solve the situation. This answer may give you an idea as to what your next step should be. \nI didn't feel the same way because I thought it was forced. I love my friend in lots of ways but when it feels forced then it is hard to get past the idea that we are not friends. At that time I felt uncomfortable. He likes me still. But I told him that we could just be friends. Now we are still friends and we're glad for it. Sometimes the timing may not be right or she feels it is forced. At this moment cherish the fact that you guys are friends. When the time feels right she will automatically open up to you. At that time, it will not feel forced and you will not have lost a good friend. Remember people feel uncomfortable and forced in many different ways.\nSee, differences between individuals are evident in any relationship, but it is how one handles those differences within the relationship that matters. Are you willing to lose a good friend over your desire for it to be more than that? Decision is up to you.
653392
I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
169321
Sounds like she feels left out and her feelings are hurt. Talk to her, let her know you value the friendshship and make plans to do something together. \nMany people will come and go in your life but a true friend will leave footprints in your heart.