Selfinjury and a mother?
87642
Understand why you hurt yourself.  THere is a lot of pain that you have.  The cutting makes you calm and/or you enjoy the rush.  In any event, you have to find a healthy way to express the inner pain and quiet the mind.  \n\nThere are many paths to that.  THere is mediation.  Playing a video game.  Talking to a good friend. Excersise.  Remember that you are now responsible for this baby.  Don't give him/her the pain you suffered in life.  Eventually, it will affect the baby.  Do you want that?\n\nYour best bet would be to talk to a professional psychologist that specializes in behaviorism.  Tell them you cut yourself.  They will give you alternatives to the pain.  No need to hurt yourself in another way by be addicted.\n\nAlso, remember that eventually your kid will find out about your issue when they are older.  Do you want that?  You know kids like imiatation.  If you can't do it for yourself, do it for the baby.  \n\nAgain, seek professional advice.  This is serious\n\nIM me at onlineguyinsac or email me at onlineguyinsac@yahoo.com  I know a few things about psychology, my major.  I can help somewhat
994252
Yeah.After all she's my mother.My mother did that to me once.She chased me and my daughter out of her house. It took me almost 3 months to recuperate and my daughter(she's only 4 at that time) who's obviously traumatized by the whole thing refused to speak to my mom ever since. After almost 2 years only we started talking back to my mom.It was hard and painful at first though but we managed.Good Luck whatever your problems are.
275428
Yes I was a wild child.  I didn't like to listen to my mother.  I'm not that way anymore.  I guess I finally realize how bad I was treating my mom when I saw her cry.  I'm a mother of three now.  I'll have my turn coming to me.
970957
Perhaps she is ashamed of her mothers illness, and thought you may think differently of her if you knew. Try not to be to hard on her, I am sure it was not an easy thing to do keeping this a secret. She probably thought she was doing the right thing. She may even be in some state of denial of her mothers illness. Good luck and God bless. And do not keep beating up on yourself, you did not know. The two of you need to have a talk, and explain to her that you want her to be honest no matter what it is.*
510001
You have to talk to an adult you trust.  (minister, councilor, police.)  This sounds like a very bitter divorce situation.  Your father is punishing you're mother as a punishment to you.  Depending on the child custody agreement, he could be breaking the law.  If your Mom has joint custody, and he won't let you talk/see each other than it could be considered, (still depending on the agreement) as Child abduction (kidnapping)  You must get help.  Even if you did something dumb and crazy to piss him off, this is still wrong!
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
959391
No one can make you feel bad about yourself unless you allow it.\n\nThe next time your mother starts, say excuse me, but if the point of your diatribe is to make yourself feel better by attempting to inflict damage on my ego, then I suggest you seek counseling.  In the meantime, excuse me."\n\nThen get up and leave.
377724
Nasty problem that you will not be able to solve. Your ex sound bitter and bound and determined to punish you for something or other. Unfortunately, all you can do is remain constant in your affection for them, and hopefully, with time, they will see things as they really are...no guarantees...they may or may not turn against you ... time will tell. But, no matter what you do, what you say, if it is negative towards their mother, they will swear their mother is right. IF, on the other hand, you are sympathetic towards the mother's plight, do not bad mouth her, and, in gereneral, behave nobly, your chances are slightly improved that they will come around. Been there. IT is a very sad thing when one parent uses children to "get even" with another...all concerned are badly damaged, including the offending parent...but that is of no consolation to you. You have my deepest sympathy in this...I have seen this happen time and time again. Such a waste, and seriously sad. You are in a loose-loose situation, short of gaining custody ... and that won't happen unless you can prove she is unfit as a parent. Good luck.
704509
Oh I'm sure. Every mom loves all her children. She knew she would hurt him, but probably convinced herself it would be okay. When she realized how devastating it was, she was probably mad at herself for fooling her son and husband.
238658
Yes, I think it is important that you tell your mother. If she doesnt believe you and/or she doesn't help you, you need to tell someone else. A minister, councler, family doctor, or any adult that you trust. And you keep trying until someone listons and the abuse stops. My heart is with you.
498956
No you are not one sided you have a voice of concern he needs to be told about what he is doing and to be made to understand the consequences behind his actions or else. That simple!\n\nIt sounds like to me that mom's is giving out excuses for his behavior and she too needs a reality check to or else she will be in for a lot of heartache herself.\n\nMy best advice to you is if mom's don't want to handle the problem then you step in and let him know what the score is!\nBut he needs to be told and told soon before he goes to prison for a long time or wind up dead somewhere.\n\nBut somebody has to step up to the plate on this and help him because he sounds like he is in some real problems, and he doesn't know it yet.\n\nYou be that person to do what has to be done, just to save her and him from pain.\n\nGood luck:)
578606
Love comes in many shapes and forms but how a person shows it is the real answer here. Obviously she is has issues that she need sorting out wheter it be mental or addiction and once these are resolved maybe you would find the mother you desire. But this is not an issue you can address to her. I think she should be not a part of your life until she gives you the respect and love you deserve otherwise she would be a bad influence on your outlook in life. I had similiar circumstances and no longer speak or have contact with mine and I have found it easier not to look at the what the problem with me, but realise she has the problem and she wont confront her demons. I have turned out ok but the real problem was it took years for me to realise that ther was nothing wrong with me and I did deserve to be loved without being self destructive. Believe in yourself and have faith that early in your life you have managed to learn and handle a truely difficult situation without doing harm to yourself and those around you.
146176
I really don't think something like that can be forgiven easily, your mother put herself before you and your sister and when something like that happens you you cant help but fear for your own kids.  Lots of people talk about unconditional love but I think there is exceptions and this is one of those.
873197
Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.
369397
That's a really tough question. I know in my grandmother's case she absolutely refused to have anyone do anything for her no matter how exhausted and/or hurt she was from doing things on her own. She was an extremely stubborn woman. We couldn't force her into accepting the help but she eventually got it whether she liked it or not. As it turned out it had devastated her to even the need the help. She was a very proud woman who had raised all eight of her children on her own. She couldn't ask and yet didn't have a problem refusing. She did come around though and realized it wasn't so bad afterall although not without many complaints as to how we weren't doing things correctly. I guess I'm saying if you're mother is hurting help her anyway but do it in such a way that it doesn't invade her privacy or stomp on her pride. It's hard getting older and needing things you didn't need before. Be patient with her. Good luck I hope it all works out. I have to admit I wasn't much help.
995575
As I understand that your intention was for the sake of your mother and taking care of your mother is something that God advises and rewards you for.\n\nYet, you made a mistake to threaten another person, and you with the good heart you have can go appologize to that man and this will be rewarded by God too and surely your mom who did not do anything that God would not like will be happy for you because you are obeying your God through asking for this man understanding and forgivness for what you did and I am sure he will understand.\n\nAlso, let it be a lesson that Good cause would always need to use good means to achieve it although sometimes it is really hard and I feel sympathy with you and Let us pray that God bless your mothers soul as well as yours.
1065788
OK no bad words, how about we learn how to play your Mother?