Could a woman begin living again at the age of 53 after being separated or is life really over at this age?
93552
YES.. you are still alive. You never died, right? Life ends only after one's death. So, never lose hope while you are still alive. \n\nRemember, yesterday's the past and today's a gift, that's why it is called PRESENT!
480085
the rest of your life to live. turning 41 doesnt mean you cannot do the things you done previously to that it just means  your 41 yrs more expericed at doing it
183591
If she is in her upper 40's and says she is too old to work, then tell me how it is I am working at the age of 51?  There are jobs for anyone.. even lazy good for nothings who only want to take advantage of their soon-to-be ex-spouse.. that just stinks to high heaven.  Personally, I would say to keep the med retirement and get by on the 20K for now.  And talk to your lawyer about why she can get by without working when she is perfectly capable..if she is, of course.  sorry, but that just ticks me off.. she puts a bad name on the rest of us women who DON'T try and take advantage of our exes..  I wish you good luck.
841969
living to be 100,would be OK,as long as you had your mind,didn't have to be in a rest home,or at least be able to take care of yourself pretty much . no machine hook-ups to keep you alive.
989286
"If you are divorced after at least 10 years of marriage, you can collect retirement benefits on your former spouse's Social Security record if you are at least age 62, and if your former spouse is entitled to or receiving benefits.  If you remarry, you generally cannot collect benefits on your former spouse's record unless your later marriage ends (whether by death, divorce, or annulment)."  (www.socialsecurity.gov/gethelp1.htm)  There is more information at this site!  Good luck to you!
197625
Yep it is hard to get back out there after being with the same person for a long time.I Have been divorced for over 3 years separated for over 6.If you just got a divorce you probably should not jump right into a relationship.But is hard to be alone so find yourself some old friends and hang out.If you are interested in a certain type of activity hang out there and find people with same interests.I myself cannot wait for the racing season to start at the dirt tracks....And am looking forward to going to hang out and drive the go carts in cottage grove.So hang where you are interested like baseball game... and find someone female that is interested in same things and build from there.I am also from Minnesota. Good luck.
584497
No more than 10 years.  I'm not saying it's BAD to be farther apart, but any more than 10 years, and it doesn't look "normal."
295702
No my mother went through the change of life when she was in her late 30's.  She ended up having a hysterectomy at 38.  There isn't a set time for your body to go through this.  Every woman is different.  Make sure you get some meds so your hormones will get stabilized properly.  It also helps with bone density lose and with mood swings.\nHope this helps.
891118
After all this time the reality may not be quite as romantic as you imagine.......there is little point in disrupting both your lives after all these years!!
1091364
I was divorced & remarried after 3 years. \nI have now been remarried for 26 happy years. \nA marriage has to be worked at. \nThere are always going to be bad times but the trick is to work through them together & to support each other.
530760
I am 74 and started a new career last year. They asked me how long I will be staying there and I said "at least till I am 80". I am charming. Don't know about the sexy but life is what you make it. I never feel my age and I work very hard at least 10 hours a day and I do go dancing with my grandson now and then. I had more fun in my life than my children. I feel bad about that. I went to dances with my mother when I was young and I had a blast. I did not know back then that you HAD to have THINGS. That made a big difference.
532445
I know that it will be hard to start over again after spending six years with a person who you think is a soulmate, and having things backfire on you. Regardless of how old a person is when this happens, it hurts deeply.I don't know if you are religious at all, but I believe that the Lord will make all things turn out ok, regardless of how dark you view your  situation to be. I live in New Orleans, and during Hurricane Katrina, when I evacuated to a shelter, I see people on the verge of cracking up, because they have no faith, nothing to fall back on. As concerned as I was about what lies ahead, because of my faith in God, I was at peace with the situation and can continue to function normally.There is light at the end of the tunnel for you, if you would just be patient and have a little faith. Time heals all wounds.You will be able to love again, and you will find that special someone who can make you life complete. My prayers and best wishes are with you.
263440
My parents got divorced when i was about 22... the way I handled it was to just look at their marriage the same as any relationship... people break up! - its not that big a deal & life goes on... \n\nObviously its sad, but at least, after years of not talking, they've finally managed to become friends again & that makes a big difference too!\n\nOf course it depends on your age... for younger children its a little more complicated...
666855
I don't know if that's true...it's more of a case by case basis.  For example, I remarried shortly after divorcing, and my ex is still single 12 years later.  It is harder for women who have children to find men who are willing to accept them as package deals, though.
630182
it is never too late to find love. my mom got re-married at 62.
414212
There are many happy re-marriages after divorce\n\nIf you're interested in finding a website which has many happy reports of successful remarriages go to http://rejoiceministries.org it's a website specifically for people who are interested in reconciliation after seperation or divorce\n\nhttp://marriagebuilders.com is a website that has lots of suggestions by dr willard harley on how men & women's needs differ & how to identify the needs which are lacking & most importantly how to go about getting those needs met - a very good book to get is His Needs Her Needs but he also offers other resources as well as some free questionaires which are taken from his book which i suggest that you print up 3 copies of all 5 questionaires they'll help you to know where to start on your road to ReMarriage\n\nhttp://midlife.com is a website that dr jim conway has which discusses mid life issues & how to deal with them - he offers a chatroom where he goes in to answer questions weekly on wednesdays\nhe wrote the book Men in Midlife Crisis & his deceist 1st wife wrote the book Women in Midlife Crisis - women go thru MLC at an earlier age than men & many marriage issues & divorces come to a boiling point during this time period in life\n\nanother place to try is http://divorcebusting.com which is the website board for readers of michelle weiner-davis\n\na great book to read while you're seperated from your wife is the book When the One You Love Wants to Leave by dr donald harvey
887539
I believe there is an exemption from the statute of limitations in cases of this sort.  You absolutely have the right to do this and it may bring you some measure of healing and closure.\n\nGood luck.