my boyfriend of 4yrs. told his ex that he was leaving her to be with me because i was going to buy him a truck
86275
ouch. sorry but it sound slike you have been lied to and played. that boy is having his cake and eating it too. he is screwing both of you over and probably making up different stories to tell both of you. you should find a way to call her and ask her. but i would definitely confront him, but he will probably tell you more lies. it sure sounds like he is with both of you, why else would he have made something up to tell her instead of just telling her it was over? and why does he spend time with her and go places with her and call her??? that is just crap!
1031963
How about a bad break up story? \n\nI was waiting for my b/f to bring me my boom box to teach a dance class. He was supposed to be there by 8pm. We waited and waited for him. At 2am when the place closed, I walked out with my students and friends to find a note on my car. He said that he had waited for me but since I didn't come out (like I was supposed to know he was outside!), he had to leave a note. What it came down to was that he was a coward and couldn't break up face to face and in front of my friends. \n\nAnyway, after telling me that afternoon that he loved me, he told me in the note that it wasn't working out........what a loser! I am better off without him!
1054581
He has an insecurity complex. He's hoping if he focuses all his attention on her that she will never leave him. Most of the time this behavior 'smothers' the other person & it backfires on them. It has nothing to do with you personally. It is his own insecurity. Just let it run it's course & when he comes to you bummed after she dumps him, tell him how it made you feel & how it needy he looked to all his friends. He'll agree, but prob continue the pattern the rest of his life. Sorry
98228
Okay, I was in a similar sitution. This girl at my school, who happened to be my boyfriend's (at the time) ex, tried to break us up. It worked, also for like a day, and we got back together. Then she was saying stuff like she wanted to kick my a s s and run me over with a truck and crap like that. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that if she did anything to me, he would make her face unidentifiable. Ha! She never did anything about it, I think she was just trying to sound tough about it. I'd tell your boyfriend and he can tell her off, and I'm sure he'll keep you safe.
942812
He is keeping you as a back up sorry to say.  Plus why would you want to break this girls heart by getting him to leave her?  Don't think of only yourself but her feelings too.
613871
If it hurts you that he is talking to his ex, and you have told him this calmly and rationally, and he is still doing it - there is something wrong.  In a healthy relationship, he should understand your insecurity about it and possibly decrease or eliminate contact with her until you feel better about it.  \n\nSeek some sort of couples counseling to \nA. Find out why he would do this\nB. Work out your trust issues from your past relationship.  \n\nIf you don't address these issues now, they certainly won't magically disapper once you are married.  Take the time to solve them now so that you have a clearer plan for your future.  \n\nGood luck to you.  : )
561707
To a certain exstint it is. Considering that he is moving anyways. She deserve someone to treat her better than she is getting. No woman needs the drama in their lives. But on the other hand how does the ex feel about the situation? Is he ok with it? Is he willing to let her go? If so, then i say girl just be happy, and i wish you the very best of your new relationship.
869839
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
651095
Yes, I agree with the fact that it's his responsiblity to tell her himself, that is was inappropriate, late at night, and disrespectful to you. He needs to confront her, tell her these things, and also, he should actually agree with how you feel about it, because it should just be you that's upset. He should feel discusted with her, as well. That chick needs her own damn boyfriend or husband, and needs to stop messing with yours!
469555
It sounds like he still loves his ex and obviously can't take the hint that she wants nothing to do with her. I would say you need to ignore him awhile then try to talk to him again about the ex, if he gets mad then straight out tell him that he either stops with the cards and flowers to the ex or you will be gone, why stay with someone when their heart is with someone else!
569993
It will not last long. Let it go and yes he is more to blame then her because he is the one who took the vows with you. She is a no good woman who doesn't care about herself. Never lose your pride by trying to get even with someone.....
723655
Uh, no.  This guy's a loser.  He leaves you for someone else, gets her pregnant, then leaves her and wants you back?  What are you thinking?  Well, maybe you're not.  Let me do it for you, tell him to take a hike and get out of your life.  You don't deserve him.
852422
DROP HIM SWEETIE! IT SEEMS LIKE TO ME HE'S PLAYING GAMES.  IT'S OBVIOUS HE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR HIS EX AND I BELIEVE HE WANTS TO CUT YOU LOOSE BECAUSE HE WANTS TO TRY AND WORK THINGS OUT WITH HER.  YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT.  YOU SHOULD HAVE SOMEONE WHO IS DEDICATED TO YOU AND YOU ONLY.
774963
Austin she is a guy!!!!  Dump him as soon as he gets back in town!!!!
40912
its bothering you because you know that you wouldnt want to be in her shoes. if he truly wants to end it with her, he should... and then he can pursue you!!
189954
oh no, your in for it now. I won't go back with him or else you might have lots of drama. I know I've joked around a bit in here but for all seriousness. Your boyfriend will be pissed off and you'll never hear the end of it.
244905
No. You need to let your girl handle it. Tell her you support her and that she is more than welcome to ask your help if she feels she needs it. My question to you though is what is your girl telling her ex? Is she making it known that she is seeing someone else and is happy in that relationship? Let your girl know that you have no problem stepping in to take care of the situation if her ex won't listen to her.