a guy has been asking me out for four years now but i see him as only a friend. what do i do?
82001
My goodness he is persistent!! Apparently your responses during the past four years have not been strong enough to discourage him.  It is really hard to have a guy friend, because in the back of his mind is: "hey, there is always a chance..." in the back of your mind is: "hey, if I get desperate.."  (everyone needs a backup plan...sounds mean)If he's putting his life on hold waiting for you, it is only fair to firmly end the hope for him.  The candle is still burning....time to extinguish it (unless you are interested).
979989
Tell him \n"I'm sorry I am not interested in dating you, but i would like to go out with you sometime just as friends."\nIf he doesn't want to be friends after that, then you know that he was only befriending you because he liked you.  That is not what makes a good friend.\n\nOUCH "LALA" that is the opposite of what she wants to do.  B**CHY much!?
951979
so technically you're just friends with benefits until he figures out what he wants to officially do with you. he's definitely into you, and you're definitely into him, but the relationship ain't happenin (been there)!!! it's excellent that you have separate lives...so maybe eventually you two will make it official someday. i wouldn't rush him, he definitely has a crush on you. go with the flow since you both just came out of bad break-ups. maybe you both feel the comfort of having each other during this healing process and a new serious relationship is the last thing on his mind, you know how guys are...
283212
He asked you out last year and you havent talked in 4 years?\nI didnt understand that.\nMaybe you meant 4 months so Im going to go with that, and say just call him and tell him that you were shocked he asked you out and you should of said yes. Us girls always change our minds, its ok. :)
181142
Always remain a good friend...and always retain an air of mystery...who knows, he may have feelings for you and if you keep being a good friend, when he finds that "that something special" he is looking for is not where he's looking, one day he'll look at you and finally find it in you.  Don't push, don't rush it and don't say or do something you will regret because things are not going the way that you'd like them to. Good things come to those who wait.  Hang in there.
820493
It sounds like he does like you but isn't ready to make it more evident yet.  Relationships that are built on a solid foundation of friendship last longer than those that are just built on passion.  Invite him when you are going out and let things develop as they do.
871010
sounds like he does like you. usually if someone is asking that and they are not your friend yet then that means they are interested...\n\nor they are finding out for someone else but that rarely happens with guys
287898
I'm in the same situation. I'm thinking about just letting him come and ask me out. Do you think he likes you? Send a note if you don't think that will work then get a a trusting friend to ask him if he likes you more than a friend. I don't get the blame if it turns out wrong!!!
191083
it sounds like he just wants to be best friends for now.......;)...hang out some more and maybe your luck will change....
286508
I would say carry on as you are cause what would you rather prefer him as a friend and seeing him or not at all? Who knows what will happen in the future,you can be his shoulder to cry on when he becomes single again.Sneaky but your stil there for him
409608
you said he is a guy friend...so he is your friend.  \n\nit's like you are putting him in a situation which he does not want to be in.  it seems that you asked him that question because you want something more to come between you two.  do u? \n\ndon't embarass yourself to ask the same question over and over again.  once is enough....read between the lines.
969562
This is a very tough situation, so please handle it with care.  First thing is, does he have a girlfriend, or something that he is currently seeing?  If he does, please do not make a move because it could jeopardize your friendship completely.  Second, you say you haven't spent a lot of time together until a few months ago, why is that, if you have known him for years?  I think if you are seeing more of him recently, you should just try subtle hints and see how he reacts... ie touching his arms more, flirting a little.  If the subtle hints do not work, you can just try being honest with him.  If he is your best guy friend, he will appreciate your honesty, and will respect you for it.
799550
if u two have been together for a long time he is not over you, maybe he just wants to be friends with you so that he can do his own thing and you can do your own thing i think you should call and talk to him so that you can see where the two of you stand
1133684
if he says no it means he only wants to be friends. you asked him out and if he wants to go out w/ you he will ask you. obviously, you don't want to wait for him to come around cause you seem to really like him... maybe you should show intrest in other guys and he will ask you before they do! good luck.
157443
Bide your time.  If he is the guy for you, time will reveal all.  Be his friend, but nothing more.  If he's right for you, he will realize what an awesome chick you are and that he wants to be with you.  It sounds to me that he may have got tired of waiting for you and that's why is with someone now.  But as long you stay friends, the better your chances of his realizing how right you are for him.
762561
I would just ask him.  if you have been friends for 5 years, then it should be okay.
661790
Sorry honey, guys must do the first move, and if he did not do it it means he wants you only as a friend.\nNowdays women are becoming too open and agressive, and guys miss the magic of hunting and courting!!! we are cutting off their attributes.\nSo, sorry, but step back, keep him as friend and put your interest somewere else, in the meantime be sweet and nice to him, be always very well put together when you meet, so in this way, did not work with him sentimentally, you always will have a great supporter on him. Please, remember, be a real femminine woman "NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE"