Has anyone ever had to deal with a bf/gf being away in the military, if so then how?
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Yup... Did it for years. It's not easy. You just take everything day by day. If you're looking for some support, check out Yahoo Groups and other Blog sites like MySpace and Xanga. They usually have groups, and you can link up with people in similar situations. If you need to chat, drop me an email: krustaccean@yahoo.com.
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Move on honey. Unless he's in the military, he chose to be in another state
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long distance relationships are really hard to hold together but if you try hard enough it'll be alright.  i had a boyfriend that lived in germany because he was in the army.  i really thought he could be faithful to me because the whole time while he was gone, i def was.  i mean, it might not be big but i read some stuff on this girl's profile that left a comment on his myspace and it was pretty discusting.  that just let me know that he really wasn't that into me and that it just wasn't meant to be.  good luck girl.  sometimes it does work out; just very seldomly.  ♥ a l y s e
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Hi, I'm an Air Force wife.  So far I have been very lucky not to have my husband overseas at all.  The longest he was ever away from me is 6 months.  Now most of the time it is just for a couple of weeks at a time.  Stay strong and I'm sure you can get through it, I'm sure he is worth it.  At least that is how I feel about my husband.
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it depends on you, as a former Navy man i can tell you that it's not easy when the husband/boyfriend is deployed for months at a time, i've also seen the cheating on both ends (her at home and him in the field).....your relationship has to be strong or it's not going to work, and even then there is always a chance that one of you will stray when the strain gets to be unbearable
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That's a difficult one. Sometimes the military has restrictions of what can be sent to service members. You can always send cards and letters though. Make sure you ALWAYS say you love him. Once he is in his final destination, he can let you know of the acceptible mail.
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My nephew in law is already there.  Sweetie?  Take your camera if you have one and make sure to see him off.  Let him know how much you love him and that your thoughts and prayers will always be with him.  Let him know now how much you need him to come home and why.  Sometimes, your words will be enough to carry him through the fire. Spend as much time with him as possible before he goes and create some lasting memories with him just in case...know what I mean?\n\nI talk to my Creator every day about all the young men and women who are in Iraq, and for the ones whose lives ended there also.  You have to accept the fact that there are going to be casualties and prepare your own self for the worse.  I pray it doesn't happen to your Dad. Pray to whomever it is you pray to and be confident about his safe return.  And write him lots of letters and send moto-mail. I cannot stress enough to you how important it is to spend every minute you can with him before his deployment.  Okay?  I hope this helps.  ((((((Sheri)))))\n\np.s.  Try to put together packages of stuff for him like, believe it or not?  Baby wipes, beef jerky, lotion, soap, foil packages of single servings of tuna for sandwiches, easy to open/preparation type foods that require no cooking., candy bars, vienna sausage, etc.
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My hubby was deployed for a year and I know how hard it is.  What got me through it was getting a full time job that allowed me to take his phone calls during work hours, and sending alot of email and packages.  Just keep in mind that he will come home safely and make sure you have a good support group at home for you.  If you stay strong and supportive it will help him more than you will ever know.  Even though you aren't married you can also call the FRG (Family Readiness Group) that will be set up.  Also if at all possible try and go to see him off.  It'll be good for you to meet some of the women in the FRG and you might get to know a few you really connect with.  If you want to talk or have any questions feel free to email me and I will try to help.\nAlso, from being a military spouse for 4 years, don't worry about the deployment thing until he actually has the orders.  In the military, alot of rumors are spread around (my husband was originally suppose to go a year before he was actually deployed) so don't worry until he has the orders.  Hope this helps.
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If he is regular army (RA) you can expect him to be deployed quite a bit in the next few years as the operations tempo is probably going to be pretty high. So, at least for the time being, get used to him being away. \n\nAlso, if he wants to make this a career, get used to moving around a bit. You will have the opportunity to live in different areas of the country as well as different countries, not always of you and your husband's choosing. It's a difficult lifestyle, one that many civilians don't and really can't understand. But take comfort in the fact that other military wives (and husbands if the female is a soldier and the husband is a civilian) are in the exact same boat as you, friends are easy to make.
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i tink she is jus leadin you on...\n\nif she told u that she cant be attach becoz she got to go in army, than y did she get a new bf?\n\nnow that there isnt anyone, and u are still there, i guess, she is jus goin back to u?
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from what i understand, the guy got somebody pregnant a month after leaving his girl to join the army. if he can't control himself while he's away, then the relationship might just as well go down the drain.
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My husband used to be in the army so used to be away a lot, I tried to treat the time he was a way as time for me, and try to do things I wanted to do, evening classes, long pampering baths anything that is purely selfish that you don't usually have time to do.\n\nHe's no longer in the army but still works away occasionally, If we spend too much time together, especially when he works from home sometimes, it drives me mad, as I appreciate tme on my own as well as time with him.\n\nHe's been working from home for the last 3 weeks or so but is going on a course for a week tomorrow and much as I love him I can't wait, cos he's starting to get on my nerves, nothing major just a bit of treading on toes.\n\nI'll get loads done this week and feel much better in myself and closer to him too when he comes back.\n\nTreat Yourself, and think of it as ME time xx\n\np.s. we have been together 20yrs in all and it has always been a factor for us too, I guess it does get better, it did bother me more at first though
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The first few days will be the hardest.  My husband and I have been married for a year.  Out of that year, we've spent 6 months together. My husband  was in Missouri for 2 months, we spent 2 weeks together, then he was off to Germany.  Now, I'll get to Germany next month, and he leaves for Iraq in August, for a year.  You'll get used to it after a while.  It's all part of being a military wife.  Don't let yourself think about it too much. Keep busy!  Hang out with friends or do something with your family.  Try to stay occupied at all times.  Trust me, things will be great once he gets back!
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Ah, yes... I've dated an Army guy and later a Navy guy.\n\nIt's a common situation, but it can work. When they are away, they are surrounded by mostly other guys. If he has a pic of you, he'll probably post it up and brag to the guys.\n\nI am confident it can work, if you have a strong relationship to start with. If you love each other and stay faithful, it can most definately work.
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Being in the military, especially the Marines, is a high stress position currently. You're going to have to allow him some room to be stressed and to find a way to eliminate or blow off some of the stress somewhere.\n\nIn regards to him blowing up at the kids... be prepared for him to flip when he hears this, but record him. Find a time when it's just the two of you and play it back for him to hear. Do not approach him in an accusatory manner but simply, "Honey, do you have a moment to listen to this?" He may not realize that he's going off the way he does. Talk to him as a friend and confidante (you should be anyway since you're married). Be prepared to listen in a non-judgmental fashion and let him know that you feel the family needs help through this. Don't put everything back on his shoulders... sounds like he's already got a full burden. \n\nGood luck!
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me and my guy was online and i read him you question..this is da answer he gave me ....\n\n"We almost are in the same situation as you..I'm gonna go to another country for 4 years for my higher studies and she will only see me few times a year.. the thing is this is not as difficult as it seems.. dear sis you are not the first one to go through this.. there are loads of people who came through this or if not you have us... even we were pretty much worried in the first place as what to do... but let me give an advice to you... don't let go... just hold on...we are going to have a harder time than you even... cos it's a way longer period and we are both in seperate other countries which is not our mothercountry... so sister the distance doesn't matter...the only thing you have to do is to have a long distance dedication..... the key thing is to keep in touch as much as ppossible... not seeing your guy is tough... i know... but with time you may be able to adapt to that... just keep him in your heart..i'm just saying.. "so close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart, forever trusting who we are , and nothing else matters.." goodluck sister... this will be posted by my girl who's in a country so far away while i'm writing this...\n\nhy im his gal hear ..darling  im teling u pls go ahead i dont regreat..taking the chance caz my guy is da best no matter how far he is his jus near my heart..and his all mine ..dont b scard i ws scrad my self....belive me ...i didnt know wht to do but jus go aead ..its better dan nt knwing wht u 2 wil end up with.
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This is probably not what you want to hear, but let it go. Don't sweat the small stuff and everything is small stuff. The freind doesnt sound like much of a friend. You might have to let your wife find that out by herself. Also Good for you for not breaking up with you wife/girlfreind when you where called to duty.  I saw it happen so many times, before a deployment. So many broken hearts :(