I am falling in love with my bestfriend, how am I going to express my feelings to him? What should I do?
91167
I'd listen to BRONZI because all these other people's advice will compel this person to have a sudden reaction.  If you want your best friend, smoothly transition into it as he wrote.  Don't jolt him into any situation by coming out and saying "I love you" he won't be prepared and you might end up hurt.
597284
Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
598708
I haven't been in EXACTLY the same situation, but I'll give you the benefit of my advice, anyway! \n\nFirst, don't do anything until he breaks up with his current girlfriend. That might mean you have to wait a bit, but it's the right thing to do- and besides, you'll put the guy in a bit of a tight situation if you say anything now! (And his girlfriend won't exactly love you for it...) So, wait til they break up. I know it's tough, but wait! \n\nAnd THEN, go for it! Don't worry about it ruining your friendship, because it sounds like you two really are best friends, and a friendship that strong, isn't going to be hurt by something like this. Tell him how you feel. \n\nThe best relationships are between people who start out as best friends- I know, from personal experience!\n\nGood luck!
636896
i think that it is imoportant for you to tell him how you feel.you never know, he might like you too.but what you really should do is to do what you feel is right in your heart =)
1157610
It must suck to be in this position.  If I were in this sticky situation, I would be too scared to tell my best friend that I'm in love with him/her.  But hey, it's not like your best friend in with anyone right now.  Technically, he/she is single.  You can try to make yourself more noticeable and drop a few hints how you feel.\n\nIf you're confident enough, it would be great to confess.  Don't worry, if you guys are best friends, it totally wouldn't ruin the friendship.  I've had two best friends who confessed that they liked me, but we were such good friends that we didn't let that affect our friendship.
51620
Before you rush into a decision, let time pass. He will realize his feelings for you, whether or not it is the one you wanted him to feel. An idea from a magazine stated that you ought to spend time with him for a good amount and then suddenly stop. He will realize how much you have meant to him and he would want to spend time with you.\n\nIf he is a friend, then more power to you both if you do end up in a relationship. Friends, especially best friends, know each others' weak points and strong points. Therefore, they can fully support one another.
16529
well search your heart and find out if you love him or you want to get down with him.  its very goood to clear things out of you or you will hate your self if you don't express your self or you will blow up. but if you love him then this is a way to tell him:\n"i really like you and you have been such an inspiration to me.i don't know if you feel the same way and i hope what i am about to say dosen't ruin our friendship because i like being your friend. i don't know how to put this i find you very attractive and i think i begining to fall in love with you." what about that. sorry i could not help much
30931
so you think you're in love with your best friend, huh?  well, a lot depends on how old you are, how long you've know him, etc.  is he in a realationship right now?  could it be that you are jealous that someone is taking his time away from you?  there are a lot of things to consider here.  the best is to be honest.  if he is really your best friend, then hopefully he will listen to what you have to say and take you seriously.  who knows, maybe he loves you back.  telling someone you love them is something that cannot be taken lightly.  and if you end up dating him, you can never go back to being 'just friends.'
31678
don't "do" anything until you've found out if your friend is cool with it.  just be open and honest with him and if he's your best friend he'll understand whether or not he feels the same way.\n\nif you both DO feel the same way then just go with it and see what happens.  it sounds like you're probably young so just do whatever feels right.  just remember to respect each other and don't hurt one another (physically or emotionally!)
815319
No your not being stupid at all. That is so common. If, you feel you two are good friends, just try (it will be hard) to talk to him about how you feel, and too see how his feelings are towards the situation. Tell him, how you feel and just say if you don't feel the same way that is fine I don't want to ruin are friendship. The worse thing that could happen is that he doesn't have feelings for you that way and he just loves being friends with you and hugging you and making you laugh. That is still a great relationship to have. \nBest of luck to you!!!
108946
answer to ur original question-no it's not bad n it doesn't make u abad person..UR HUMAN!!\nif i was u ....i wuld tel her,but also at the same time make sure that she understands that ur not trying to pressure her to fall in love with u too just cos she's ur bestfriend.u really shouldn't b expecting her to feel the same way if she doesn't...U SHUD JUST TELL HER FOR THE SIMPLE REASON THAT U CULD B CONTENT AFTERWARDS AS SHE WULD KNOW HOW U REALLY FEEL FOR HER...good luck!!
657297
It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
448866
i have been dating one of my bestfriends ex-boyfriend, and weve been together for 3 years, we also plan on getting married. You cant help the person you fall in love with, and who are you to stop something that could be one of the best things that could happen for your best freind? if she really is your best friend then treat her as such dont let something like that bring your friendship down. let them try and see if it wroks out for them, if it does just be glad she found something a lot of people dont get the chance to, and if it doesnt work dont give an i told you so, compfort her as you would if you didnt know the guy. Keep smiling and find you someone who you can have fun with a be real with.
199270
Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
859213
This is a tuff situation to be in, you want him around yet you dont want to hold him back from something great.  I think you need to be honest, tell him how you feel.. have no regrets at all.  If he is someone you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with then you do need to talk to him about a plan on keeping the romance alive or next steps.  I am a firm believer in destiny and fate and I think if its meant to be then things will mold into shape soon and you will see what your next steps will be.  Always be honest with your feelings and you will have no regrets.
624251
Just tell him how you feel. Make sure it's from the heart and your not saying it just because it sounds good.
171014
Hey dont feel bad!! \nYou deserve someone very nice. So wait for the moment. Prepare yourself for meeting someone special so that even he can say that he is with the best girl.