why would a woman call her husband all sorts of names, swear and insult him? When is divorce an option?
79529
what were the actions that lead up the the abuse? Were you having problems for awhile. Remember when you are fighting and hurt you will say things that you dont mean in the heat of the moment...........
997617
ASAP get a divorce...\ndid the boarder sign a lease with all property owners agreeing?\nThe boarder might be able to get a restraining order. If hubby is harassing you you can get one too.\nI'm just guessing here but could the boarder be male?
1128402
Oh man, this one is tough!  I have told numerous women to get out of their homes, like right now, in situations like this.  I want to go and kick their heads in for what they do to their wives/girlfriends.  They need to go to jail and they need to be sentenced for each case of abuse and have the prison time set up so it doesn't run concurrent.  These guys need to be in there for a long time.  I would also like to have the prison population know what they are in for too.   I also like the idea of giving the wife free reign on the jerk before they send him away.  Abuse like that or raping your spouse needs some harsh penalties.  I hate them...they are bound to kill someone.  Every 3 minutes in America, a woman is killed by their partner.  I heard this on the news last week.  It is staggering and scary.  These women need to get out and seek help before it is too late.  Good question!
558110
I am thinking that he's become abusive because he really isnt back to where he was....in his eyes.  And that would be something that HE needs to deal with.  Perhaps he needs some counseling on how to do that.  If that is impossible than it may be time for you to return to MT to have some form of life for yourself. But in there, you too should have some outside help, sot that you can release any feelings of guilt. I can certainly understand your frustration.  He seems no longer the person that you orginally married. However, that's not abnormal either.  We all change, both mentally & physcially, thus the high divorce rate.  I sincerly wish you luck in finding yourself again. Please include YOURSELF in your care giving! :)
170993
I have a friend who's husband talks incessantly. People have asked him to stop, but he can't seem to. He doesn't seem to have a clue. He really gets on my nerves.
396230
time to call it quits. you have to tell yourself no more. \nNo more will you take this mess from him. No more will you \nkeep arguing over stupid stuff. Tell yourself you are a \nwoman of success. This is 2006 and it's time to get it and\nthe rest in order. A woman can do bad all by herself. We\ndon't need a man to do bad or give us hell. We are the mothers of the earth who bare children in pain. We deserve\nour respect. Gone girl friend and let him know that the mess\nstops now. Gird up loins and put your foot down. You ever\nseen Diary Of A Mad Black Woman? the lady put her foot down.\nDon't hurt your husband just let him know what's up and leave. Don't get depressed because God is about to show up\nand show out.
786273
Boy, are you down on women or what????  Man just chill out a little bit here. I see no reason in all the name calling here. She might have been a witch from heck, but geezzz.........\n\nAs far as the alimony goes, there are some women out there that have never worked out side the home a day in their life. And IF they have children she should stay with the children if the family can afford for her to stay home.  Now if there is no children, then I think she should go to work.  In some cases with the alimony, a judge might order the ex to pay her alimony for a certain amount of time until she will be able to find a job and is able to support herself or until she remarries, then it is cut off.\n\nI do feel like that the women do need to find a job to support their selves. But you don't have to bash women the way you are doing here, sorry. We are not all alike, just like you guys are not all alike. I am down on men right now, BUT I'm not bashing them the way you are bashing us.
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I agree with incan princess ...\n\nThe problem is really YOU !!\n\nFirstly ..you go snopping around his things . you have no respect for other peoples privacy... dont you have a job or something to do instead??\n\nWere you thinking that you where helping a realtionship by doing so ??\n\nNext ,you put out this question up on Yahoo answers and lable it for ladies only.\n\nI am married too .. do you know that i too know many things. My wife is beside me write now ..\n\nwe both agree that you need to change your attitude towards things and your relationship. Show some respect towards your husband. Its probably your behavior that lead him to do what he is doing ... in the first place !!\n\nAnd yes .. for gods sakes .. dont bring a baby into this world  - then go for a divorce. Poor child ...\n\nDisappointed with you !
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It sounds to me like a little boy asking for mommy's permission to be bad ... that way he has all the pleasure of playing with matches, but evades the responsibility.\n\nGuy's have this way of being real cowards about ending a relationship. Instead they push their wife ... and push and push and push until she is backed into a corner with no option BUT to say "I've had it -- no more!" and then ... they go around saying "Well, SHE wanted a divorce." Once again, a little boy evading responsiblity.\n\nIf you want to keep this marriage, get some counselling. He needs to hear an outsider tell him he's being a jerk and not just you. If you'd just as soon be free to find a man who will honor and cherish you, then call his bluff. Tell him no way is a third person joining you in your marriage bed and when is initiating that divorce and moving out?
130745
Where in the world do you live?  I have never heard of a man being able to kick a wife and 3 children out of their home.  Have you talked to a lawyer, are any of your children also his biological children, if not you could have problems, bless the little children who have to go through emotional pain caused by care less adults.\n\nBlubla
645445
Unfortunately the beaten wife syndrome has got a hold on her.  Its very sad to see these women who do this on a regular basis.  But they are the only ones who can change this.  Sure, you could have your buddies whoop on him, but then you are lowering to his level.  Until she realizes that she needs to make a change, this will continue.  Some women never get it and end up dead.  Maybe suggest that she go and see a counselor about it.  Then once they are no longer together, Have 6 of your Buddies kick the shyt out of him.
820970
Stop posting the same question over and over again.  I answered it already.  Leave your wife if you can't stand living with her.  If it's abusive, you'd pack your bags and find a better life.  Otherwise, stop sitting around in your undies at the computer trying to figure out how to get back at her!
1156045
You don't need to be in that kind of marriage, you can do better than that, take pride in yourself, and get out, get away from him, because he may be emotionally abusive right now, but it can turn to physical abuse later, and then it may be too late to get out except by way of a coffin, please, don't make the same mistake I did, I left only after my ex- cut my throat with a piece of barb wire wrapped around my throat, and shot a double barrel shotgun off by my left ear(hard hearing in that ear now) in front of our children.  I thank God for nosy neighbors, that heard everything and called the police, so, I send out praise to all the nosy neighbors in Manchester, Tennessee.   Get out now while you can, ask a friend to help you get out, or you can call the domestic violence shelter, and ask them to help you,, don't become a VICTIM of domestic Violence, be a SURVIVOR.  Best of luck to you and God Bless, I will keep you in my prayers.
315527
wow- you're angry.  Sounds like you picked a wrong partner.  But I bet you're no picnic to live with either, especially if ANY of this hostility comes through.  Hopefully you just had a bad day and needed to vent, if not- call a lawyer before there's children involved!
758952
i too went through this, 10 years of it, whenever we were having any discussion he would turn it around and i would be made the problem, it escalated into name calling, fat hog, slut, really bad names. whenever he did not get his way or wouldn't stick up for me to his son, no matter what the problem, he would change the subject and suddenly i became the problem. after awhile our communication suffered, actually i was too afraid to even bring anything up, did not feel safe, knew i would be the focus, and if he couldn't find a problem with me, he would make one up. just causes resentment and eventually someone will get so angry that they will stray from the marriage. think the problems stem from a more serious thing, it's never about what they say about you, or the names u get called, it runs deeper than that, think it's about something they feel they are not getting out of the marriage.
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I am always amazed at the number of women who put up with this type of behavior. You deserve much better than this type of treatment.\nYou are basically taking care of your self now, with the minor exception that you are supporting another child (your husband)!!!\nBut I have to be blunt and ask you this question. Wasn't he this way before you married him? People don't change, and you can't change him if he doesn't want to change. A zebra never changes his stripes. \nListen you would be wise to dump him and move on. The next relationship you get into make sure he is a hard worker and is able to support you and your daughter. You both deserve it! \nNever allow someone to put you down and then ask you for money. If you aren't good enough before hand then you aren't good enough to support his lousy butt either! \nI'd kick him so hard to the curb, and never look back. \nI would have had reservations before I married him!!!\nGood luck to you! I wish you the best!
574496
I'm sorry but that was really funny. I mean when you read the question and then click on it. I was expecting a big explanation and then it popped up, "I hate my husband" I'm sorry, I'm not laughing at your situation at all, just the bluntness you used to get to the point. Classic.\n\nAnyway, if you really hate him why don't you get the divorce papers ready and when he is preoccupied ask him to sign it real quick. Then when he leaves the house pack up, leave a copy on the table and go. Good luck!