How do you ask a girl 14 years younger than you out without feeling like a pervert. She is 20 years old.?
98269
This question appeals to me because I have always been interested in men a lot older than I am. I really don't think age matters if the people involved are mature and interested in one another. I always tend to think of the great romances where the men were much older than the women: most of the heroes of classical literature were 20 yrs older than the heroines! 14 yrs is not that bad. All I can say is, whenever I've been interested in a man who is older than me (at least 10 yrs) I have always worried he would think I was too young. I didn't even give a thought that he might be worried I would think him too old! So if the girl seems attracted and interested in you, just go for  it. If she really likes you, your age won't bother her a bit. Good luck! ;)
443372
I'm not sure I understand. Do you want to fascinate her? The answer would be, you have no business doing so. If the question is, you have fascinated a 16 year old, and you don't know how you did it, as I was 16 once myself, an older man is always more exciting. Because to a 16 year old girl, 16 year old boys are childish.
39715
well ,you must treat her like a person more than of her age.. \nyou must also consider her opinions....
703296
Jae Is wrong it is not to young im 11 and im thinking of asking a girl out too
1178883
K .. YOU'RE NOT YOUNG.. YOU'RE GROWING UP TO BE A TEEN.. BUT SHE'S ONLY 11.. LEAVE HER ALONE.. GO FOR SOME1 UR AGE... NOT A 11 YRS OLD GIRL.. I'M NOT COOL W/ THAT.. OH YEAH.. YA WATCH OUT.. SHE MIGHT TELL HER PARENTS AND YOU'LL B IN TROUBLE.. \nMY 12 YRS OLD CUZ TOLD ME WHO BOTHERS HER IN SCHL.. WHO ASKED HER OUT.. BLAH BLAH BLAH... SO AGAIN.. YA BECAREFUL
1109125
Smile at her. Talk to her. Be friendly. Ask her about HER interests. Ask her if she needs help with her yard work.\nAsk her if she is seeing anyone, if not ask her out for a cup of coffee. \nWork up to it slowly. Being neighbors, it could get awkward and she could worry about you turning into a pervert or something.\nI am assuming you are both old enough to date and free to do so.\nThe fact that she is black and you are white makes no difference when you realize that you are both people with hearts and feelings.
923107
whoa! not trying to bash you but the age difference is probably the reason why you cant have a conversation. plus you need to be carefull talking to minors online and on the phone. Yea you may love her but dont go to jail for it! another thing is the fact that you may be too mature for her as far as the mindset.
845958
dont be like me and wait for 7 years....ask her out!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1185155
I dont want to grab him.\n\nMaybe you should think more mature and ask him out?\n\nAnd respect your body.
5445
The 2 year age difference don't matter because i am dating a girl who is 13 and I am 15 unless you are thinking about sex and he is too but your nor his parents will let it happen unless you have a dad like mine is and he dose too so age really don't matter to anyone unless it comes to that
1081674
If she's a minor and you are a lot older than her, move on and find someone your own age.
666400
As long as she is of legal age I don't see an issue with asking AFTER she graduates.\n\nThough I've found that these types of relationships rarely work, because the female attraction is almost always either fake or based on a false perception of authority that quickly fades.\n\nIt's also often the case that once a girl experiences the freedom that comes along with college she's must less likely to tie herself to one guy. Much less an older guy who is tutoring at a high school while she is off making a life for herself.\n\nI have nothing against relationships with an age difference. I think though that this type of relationship is often unfair to the younger person.\n\nIs it really fair to be with someone who is going to have to watch you die while they should be enjoying their retirement? Is it really fair they are going to be working wihle you are retired? Whith age differences of 5 years or more these problems tend to pop up.\n\nIn this case though, what about when she goes away to college and you are working?\n\nThink about it this way... if you really care about her, do you really want to put her through that?\n\nMaybe the best thing to do would be to let her have a normal college experience, and find yourself someone your age. Odds are it wouldn't last anyway... and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
925999
A lot of it depends on the peoples ages.  If a 14 year old wants to date someone 3 or more years older than them then that is a bit much.  But if a 35 year old wants to see someone 40 it would be more appropriate.  Most of the time it comes down to maturity, experience and norms of the society.
47504
You think a 25-30 yr. old female would want to date you? Here's a free dating service: Go to a senior citizen's dance, they are more your age. Maybe someone there can teach you how to grow up.\nP.S. If women your own age don't want you, what makes you think a younger one would? Geesh!
243708
Depends on how developed she is for 13.  It is a little young to be sexually active, though it was fairly normal behavior for young girls even 150 years ago so I wouldn't think much of it.  \n\nJust play along BUT keep things safe.  Neither one of you is old enough for a real sexual relationship, so just fool around until then.  You sound mature enough to know where the boundaries are.\n\nFunny how many people on here want to pretend they were never 13 and horny as heck all the time.
917928
this will always be a grey area. Some 14 year old girls go out looking like 20 year olds looking for sex. Other 14 year olds are still quite immature and not be at all interested in sex. Its about protecting those who need protecting and although I don't condone underage sex there must sometimes be mitigating circumstances.\nI kind of get where he's coming from but there is always that question in the back of your mind. Can't decide whether he is brave or just stupid for bringing it up at all!
948772
It's hard for someone young to understand about dating but its really simple.  I wish I would have known what I know now back then.  Simply just walk up to her and ask her is the most easiest thing to do.  Don't worry about the answer or work yourself up over it.  Just walk up and say hey "NAMEGOESHERE" I wanted to know if you wanted to go to the movies next weekend and wait for your answer.  I know at that age its very nerve racking to do but you just need to do it.  If she likes you in that way then she will say YES, if she wants to be friends then she will say NO, simple as that.  Don't worry about the movies being cliche, do what you want to do or ask her if she would like to go out sometime then if she says yes discuss it with her on your lunch break or after school etc.\nBest Wishes and hope you get up the nerve to just ask her!!!