i have this boyfriend who is married andi dont know what to do should i leave him or still go out with him?
95590
Leave him...He needs to deal with his marriage before you and him can have a chance at a relationship.  Right now you are blocking his chance to try and work out his marriage.  By leaving him he will be forced to either make his marriage work or to get divorced and move on.  You deserve a guy who is dedicated to you and a relationship with only you.  If he can't do that then you should find someone who can.
125570
If he is married & flirting with you, what do you think he's going to do when/if he's with you? DUH! He's going to be flirting with someone else. Find your own man, don't mess with someone else's!
1106383
You showed him that you are not totally over husband and not strong enough (or smart enough) to leave him and go on living a normal happy life.  Divorce him. Talk to W and tell him that you defiantly do not want anything to do with H and see what happens. Just be real with W. If he still strays then wait for the next Ideal man to come along. There are plenty out there sister. Been there 2. Walk away and never turn back to your H, it's not worth your life. Hope all goes well and take care.
354095
If you chose to go out with him that is your choice. However know that you might get hurt. Go into it knowing what your expectations are and let him know and do not expect more out of him then you think you can handle.\nI think it would be much easier to be with someone you can trust though that is just my opinion
53252
Why not? hes your best friend. My best friend and me are closer than her boyfriend.  Its best if i know other issues involved but for the question alone, i dont sense any reason why not go out.
24016
He can be in some emotional turmoil. If that is not a case then leave him,he is not worth you
1072494
Let him go. He's married. What about the wedding vows he made?\nIf people can break these vows whenever they wish...then they meant nothing.  How would you like it if you were married to a guy and he left you like that?\nSomeone wonderful will come along for you. And you'll be glad \nyou waited...
556068
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
777653
I am happy that you found someone that you can give your whole self to.  No hiding no secrets.  Since you've known the married guy for a while and I'm sure you love him - I know it will be difficult to tell him, but if he really loves you he would want you to be happy.  There's no easy way to break up with someone you care about. In your heart you know you're doing the right thing.  Tell him how much you appreicate all he's done for you.  Tell him that you are going to take all the good that he's given you with you.  You got to tell him - you pass this chance for love.
413031
Honey, you are better than that and you know it. That's why this is bugging you. Tell the guy to go home to his wife, and then go out and have a good time without him. You know there is someone else out there just waiting to meet someone just like you.  Be strong and remember that this could never go anywhere good. Good luck to you.
390151
well u can tell him to meet somewhere, without c ing u, check on him & decide leave or stay. and go with someone else!its safer & u ll have more fun. just keep in mind that the world is full of psychos.
363859
And he hasn't left his wife? well it doesn't  look like he feels the same even if he says he does he is just saying that b/c his heart is still with her, there are billions of men out there, why one that is married. You should end it, have more respect for yourself that you are implying that you have, you are portaying yourself to be a homewrecker.
39650
If he is already separated from his wife, this is one thing.  However, if he is still married and has not yet filed for separation, this is a bad situation to be in.  I would get out of the situation and put some distance between yourself and him.\n\nHe needs to decide whether or not he wants to be married.  It's even worse if there are children involved.  These situations are difficult and, in a way, he could be using you to convince himself to get out.  In the worst case, he's just stringing you along so he can have his family and a mistress on the side.  He might consider this "the best of both worlds".\n\nConsider also that this married man is cheating on his wife with you.  So, what will happen if you marry him?\n\nIf, after this man has separated from his wife and has gotten things figured out, and you have not found someone else, then, and only then might it be worth rekindling the relationship.
65042
being married, i believe that he should realize that when he married you, he GAINED a new best friend.  HOWEVER, there are things that i do with my buddy john that i don't do with my wife...football games, baseball games and my wife hangs out with her "homies" doing what women do.  But, everyday is ridiculous.  Bored you ask, yes...bored it is.  Plan a "date night" for the two of you.  Like every saturday or friday, whatever is convienent.  go to dinner, to a movie, go dancing at the club, have drinks at a bar, go to a comedy club, go see a concert...WHATEVER, the point is return to your roots of spending time together.  he is content to believe that you will always be home waiting for him, when he returns from where ever he goes. This is not petty, it is unfair.
442948
If she is married, get out of this relationship.  There is nowhere for the relationship to go.
1090832
If he hangs out with his friends while you are out with yours that's ok. But never in a bar. That is where men meet girls and even if he is not trying to meet someone a girl will probably hit on him. He may get to drunk to remember to say no to her. He if wants to go there you go with him. You should like being together for most of the time or have other married friends so all of you hang out together.
322075
Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.