my soccer coach fust died, how do i get over the pain?
91997
When I was 14, my basketball coach committed suicide. This guy was almost like a second dad to me. He drove me home from practices, fed the team after practices, very nice, really funny, someone that everyone liked. I was close to his family, my brother was best friends with his son, and his daughter was a year younger than me. It was really hard to get over him dying because of the closeness I had with that family. It took a lot of time and I still miss him. But time does heal most things, you wont ever forget your coach, but you eventually do accept that he is gone. Just always remember the good times you had, what your coach taught you, and apply everything to your life. I'm sure your coach taught you life lessons along with soccer skills. It did help that I kept in touch with the family and saw how they were doing. I did cry at his funeral, especially when I talked to the family. That by far was the toughest part. Never forget about your coach, and remember something good comes out of every situation, even death.
9224
Express your grief and then move on.  Stop living in the past, you can not change that.  Become more aware of what is going on around you right now.
1074091
Live a life that is worthy of him being your friend!\n\nNo easy way to get over a loss, but I am sure he would be glad to know he is missed!\n\nHE would not want you to be crippled by this though, so by living a life of honor, people will reflect that to the friends he had. People associate you to the people you are friends with so be a great person and honor his memory!
610683
I'm sorry for your loss, many Holidays must be very difficult for you. If you don't feel this is too strange , when you go to visit her on Mothers Day bring a blanket with you and just sit there for a while. My Dad died when I was 13 months old, so when I need to feel closer to him, I take a warm summer day {Hopefully Mothers Day will be warm} a blanket, maybe a book or photo album and visit. Its amazing how peaceful it might make you feel. I'm sure she loved you very much and I'm very sorry your still so sad. I hope the rest of your family is a support to you. Take care and best of everything to you.
242491
I'm sorry for your loss.  It's going to take some time to get yourself back to feeling normal again.  You should keep yourself busy with activities, visit with your friends, try a grieving support group, take up a hobby, find things that interests you, talk to a good friend or someone you haven't seen in a while.
513429
Only thing that I can tell you is take it one day at a time. I just lost someone too so I know the feeling. I can't say it's going to get better but it will get easier. It is OK to cry and know that the one that you lost is still with you even in death and they are also watching over you. Cat it will be OK in do time just ask God to take away the pain and then you will see that you will start to feel better one day at a time. God Bless You and I'm sorry for your lost.
54083
I think we grieve over relationships that die just as we would for people who die.  There are certain steps you go through before it's resolved emotionally.  Denial, anger, grief and acceptance.\n\nNo matter what someone tells you to do you're going to do certain things at each stage and only realizing the next or final stage will get you over it.  To lessen the emotional pain have a good support group you can call at the drop of a hat to talk to.  Reach out to friends and family for support.\n\nRemember though, don't let yourself dwell on it.  Try to get on with life.  Take up new hobbies, join new clubs/societies.  Do the things you couldn't do because the ex didn't want to do them.  Try to embrace the change instead of fighting it.
120447
Take a deep breath and grieve. then start with the small stuff. pay a bill or dust a piece of furniture. then see how you feel. try doing just one thing a day until you feel you can handle more.
574959
If you don't know that,concentrate on other sports.If you are an argentinian, you don't need people rememberig him. Just keep enjoying the memories he left for you, for ever.
218114
If this happened to you, I'm really sorry. Allow yourself to grieve - that is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are sad and don't try to hide it. You have every right to feel sad, angry, sick - whatever it is you feel. Just know that with each passing day, it will get better and you will learn to cope. You will never stop missing that person, but the thoughts of grief will slowly be replaced with fond memories.
1115218
Allow yourself the time to grieve, but don't let it consume you to the point where you are in a rut of self pity.  Tyler would have wanted you to go on with your life.  If you find yourself reaching the "feeling sorry for yourself" stage, then get out of the house, and find something to do.  Talk to others about it, especially those who also knew Tyler.  There is always a balance one needs to achieve when in this situation.  Do not deny the hurt you're feeling, but, at the same time, don't let that hurt overtake you to the point where you just shut down and don't care about life anymore.  Again, ask yourself, what would Tyler had wanted you to do?  \n\nI am deeply sorry about your loss.  My prayers will be with you.  May God give you his strength and comfort during your time of grief.
219671
thats really really sad. i kind of know how you feel. one of the guys who went to my school got killed in a hunting accident and my great grandma died a couple of years ago. i know it really hurts i wasn't even really that close to the guy who got shot and i still am not really over it even though it was way back in november... i will pray for you and if you need to send someone something you can use the contact me thing in my profile.
883733
Keep yourself busy doing something good for others and take it hour by hour. Time is the only thing that helps ease the grief-- but there will always be a part of you wishing for the happier moments with the one you lost.
1103341
without feeling suffocated...lol, good luck. you are better off inviting friends over to watch it at your home...the dorms here at C.L.S.G. are already planning on parties during the World Cup. GO ROONEY!!  KICK SOME ARSE BOYS!!
241350
I am sorry to hear that. That is a very painful process.  Every minute it's always the person in your mind.  I know how you feel.  Well, I would suggest a few ideas, they might not be the best.  However, time will eventually heals and I hope soon. My suggestion would be: (1) go out and meet new friends.  If you can't find new friends, at least hang out with the old ones (2) take a break and go for vacation with some friends if possible (3) take on hobbies - gymn, dance classes, swimming, meditation, etc .... (4) volunteer working at nursing homes and hospitals because sometimes seeing the others who have worse situation than you will make you realize how fortunate you are compared to the rest (5) watch movies, DVD's, etc ..... (6) if you believe in GOD, then you should also start praying. The bottom line is, you must keep you mind occupied most of the time. Therefore there is no room for him to bug your mind.  You must take courage to accept it and move on with your life.  I hope you find these tips helpful.  Meanwhile, I wish you the best.
384109
I'm sorry you lost your father in such a tragic way. You never get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. I would go to a bereavement therapist or I would join a bereavement group in your area. It sounds like you have a lot of pain and you really need to vent instead of holding it all inside. May God bless you and may you find comfort in this hard time. Don't feel because it was 16 years ago, that you shouldn't grieve.
75538
First of all, my condolences go out to you. Try remembering fun things you did with your pappaw. I do it quite frequently, as my grandfather passed away just before Chritmas. Did you fish, go to the movies, go to the park, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, anything memorable with him. If so, try to think about the most exciting things you did together. If you are religious, try prayer or meditation, depending on your religious preferences. If he was suffering before he passed, think of how comfortable he must be now that he is not suffering. If you have a pastor, mentor, or close friend, try talkin about your feelings with them. I truly hope you gain some comfort in the time to come.