should i walk away from love so he can see his daughter everyday?
79653
Just because he wants to be with his baby doesn't mean he wants to be with the Mother.  You should first determine what it is that he really wants before you make a decision.\n\n*If he only wants the baby, visitaion rights can be obtained.
428185
It is a good idea that he doesn't meet her till you are both sure where your relationship is headed. You don't want to confuse your daughter. Your daughter could also become attached to him and if you both decide to end the relationship it's one less thing you have to worry about.
517678
I would. I will do anything for my daughters and my son and I know there is no chance of us getting together. Now, I know that's not what you meant, but the type of love you have for this person needs to change to the same type of love that you would have for your family members. I say that because I don't want you to miss out on having someone love you the way you love them and it sounds like you love this person very much to put their happiness over your own. But don't you think there is someone out there that deserves that type of love? And more importantly, don't you think you deserve to be loved like that? Continue being there for this person, but keep your eyes open for that other person out there that's waiting not only for your love but to love YOU in return....
94890
1.  Move on, buddy.  Buy some roses for a blind date that you get set up with on Valentine's Day.\n\n2.  If things were going to be "worked out", you two would've done that previous to the divorce.\n\n3.  You need to explain to your daughter that her mommy and yourself are not together anymore, and that is okay.  Your encouragement of her prayers for your reconciliation is,  quite frankly, disgusting.  You say you're a wonderful dad...it is time to act like it.
959739
wow it sounds like he doesn't have a life.. and your was the only one he ever knew. .... Maybe getting or hinting around you have someone  may hurt him enough to ( move on for a better word) maybe that is the hurt he needs to move on. But it sounds like his self esteem is low enough that he may not get the message.  Does your daughter have a clue or is she enjoying the fact that this "dad" figure makes her life easier because she has MAYBE  no dad or no spouse. ...  It sounds like this guy plays a big part in her life...  Does he like her ?? Sounds gross.. but sometimes weird things happen. or is he just not able to let go ?  I would tell her ... this is hurting you .. Or better yet get on with your life .. go out .,, not be home and just live and he and your daughters relationship may not have as much bang as it used to .. if your not around as much ... there is not a lot for him and her to have to analyze and talk about.....  I say get out of the house ... even pretend to have a life.. and pretty soon .. you will .. and this will be part of the past .. not the present.  \n\n BUT you didnt specify if that was her dad .... if it is ... well that is a differnt story... and she needs her dad.. and you still need to  get on withthings...
475274
Girl, you are an adult. If you love the man and you handle the age difference and his daughter, go ahead.
1133284
Sounds like the best thing would be all of you have family counseling together, especially to support the teenage daughter.  If you move, who's to say the the ex won't move also?  I also think it depends on how old the teenage daughter is........it is sad that children have this magical thinking regarding a parent that is unable to give them what they need.  They give them way too much power when it comes to their feelings.....very sad.  The child might be at the point where she says "No thanks" to whenever the mother feels the notion to see her.  I would suggest the family counseling and get feedback regarding the idea of moving.
396411
I know how you feel.  My son chose to stay with his dad after my divorce.  I have our daughter.  The distance is near 1000 miles so, I am not able to see him much.  I do call him every weekend and see him at least 4 times a year.  It is still not enough and I am frustrated since I am unable to do anything about this.  (Work, money, ect...)  My son knows that I love and miss him so much.  It hurts.
750848
He may well love his daughter but you say you've been together 7 years which have not been good so, maybe he's thinking about the long term and would rather be an absent loving father than a present one in a less than pleasant scenario. Test of the situation will be if he maintains her and has regular visits and contact. As a mother, I could not have done that but some do from the very best of motives for the well being of the child they have to leave. To be a tad harsh.........I get the impression he is leaving you, not your and his daughter. Sometimes a loving but absent parent is kinder to the child in the long term.
530500
WITHOUT TRUST THERE'S NOTHING. IF HE HAS BEEN DOING IT FOR 3 YRS THEN BASICALLY HE MAY KEEP DOING IT. IT ISN'T FAIR TO YOU TO PUT UP WITH WHAT HE'S DOING TO YOU. SURE HE'S YOUR BABIES FATHER, BUT IF HE'S A REAL DAD IF YOU LEAVE HE WILL STILL TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD RIGHT? YEA YOU WILL STILL LOVE HIM BUT EVEN IF HE SAYS HE WILL STOP THERE WILL ALWAYS BE DOUBT SOMEWHERE IN YOUR MIND BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT HE'S DONE IT ALREADY AND IT HAS BEEN FOR 3 YRS. DON'T STAY WHERE YOU FEEL YOU AREN'T LOVE. DON'T BE NO BODY'S DOOR MAT TO THE POINT WHERE THEY CAN FEEL THEY CAN STEP ON YOU AT ANYTIME!!!  GOOD LUCK!
717227
That certainly is a tough situation.  If he isn't willing to stop seeing her in a romantic capacity and he isn't sorry about what he did then yes, you might consider divorce.  You also need to consider if you are going to be able to forgive him and also if you are going to be able to be ok with him having a baby and/or you being some kind of stepmother if thats what happens.\nWhat he did is not excusable and he had no right cheating on you.  Talk things through with him and see where you both stand.
761085
say goodbye and move on.  Sounds to me he's obsessive about it and this isn't a good thing.  For all you know he could even be watching child porn....be concerned for your daughter and get out of this relationship.
880219
He is a jerk and he knows how to make you suffer.\n\nForget about the gifts. You gave them to him, and that was it. The greatest present he gave you, aside from your darling daughter, is the opportunity to understand what not to look for in a guy.\n\nRespect yourself and move on.
1169280
I would say it all depends on the situation. Since you all have so much history and two beautiful daughters, I would think it'd be better to get back together, but that may just be me. Don't do what people on here say, just take the advice and build off of it. Maybe he got scared for some reason and pulled out of the relationship because he didn't know what to do. If you love him and you know he loves you, then I would give it a second chance. If it was meant to be, it will be. I know that's probably the worst advice line I could give you, but I've found out that it is pretty true. No matter what happens, I promise you both will be okay. Good luck and follow your heart.\n~Grace
576170
Go for it.... But before you do make sure your affairs are in order, make sure your bills are paid. MGive your daughter to someone who thinks straight and will be alive to take care of her.  In rea;lity this man might be a rapist a killer-- but hey throw caution to the wind and see if you can be another another number.
481120
My heart really goes out to you, I can't imagine what you are going through with your daughter. It sounds like you have made a great start with the day to day stuff and i think this is the best thing to do -concentrate on each day and don't look too far ahead. Rely on your family and friends and don't stop talking about it, play with your baby and wait. The waiting is the hardest part, but if you take it slowly and don't set a time limit - don't say for example that by next week you will have stopped crying, or that by next month you will be over him and don't judge your own 'get over him' time by someone elses, everybody does things in their own way. But i promise you that if you keep doing what you're doing it will go away, it really will, you just have to wait. Wishing you all future happiness xxxx
399678
neither work out a comprimise if you really love this man you need to order him to go see his daughter or else it will keep coming back on you don't leave him it just doesn't make since