my wife is supposed to a maid of honor, but the bride is listing her maiden name as the maid of honor?
86271
This is probably not what you want to hear, but let it go. Don't sweat the small stuff and everything is small stuff. The freind doesnt sound like much of a friend. You might have to let your wife find that out by herself. Also Good for you for not breaking up with you wife/girlfreind when you where called to duty.  I saw it happen so many times, before a deployment. So many broken hearts :(
1003615
Shouldn't. I lived with my husband for almost 2 yrs. before we got married. Only thing that's changed is I carriy his name. We just celebrated our 30th anniversary 6/4. The only thing different is a piece of paper! Why should that change a damn thing? However you do have to work at a marriage it's not easy and some people aren't willing to do the work. Other than that I don't know what else to tell you!
788655
Worry.\n\nWhat type of respect is she expecting for herself with a picture like that posted in the first place. She obviously thought about whether or not she wanted it posted and decided to do it. She is advertising herself to perfect strangers for whatever reason she came up with for doing it.\n\nI am sure she had a good explanation for it, did she not?\n\nShe is also showing no respect for you, her husband.\n\nThink about it.
520161
Hi, welcome to the honors ceremony.  Apparently there was a mistake, and I was invited, even though I can't spell a simple world like "greet".  Have some refreshments.
1030982
This is so funny me and my husband was discussing this same question with my younger sister who wants to retain her maiden name and have her married name. \n\nI never thought that it was anything wrong with it considering that I am born a Thomas I figured that wasn't a problem, but that is not what my husband felt he feels that once a woman marries a man then that maiden name is no longer what your name is and that your new last name should reflect his last name.\n\nPersonally I told him I didn't see where there was any harm in it and so did my sister but my husband the man that he is felt that it is only right that a woman carries her husbands last name and not there maiden name.\n\nFrom my point of view I found nothing wrong with a woman who carries her maiden name I still don't think that is nothing wrong with it the reason I say so is because as long as the husband knows that we love them why should it matter at all. Really it shouldn't matter at all. You are from your family name and you are simply married to a new family line and that is all. Women who do this I see nothing wrong with it.
48665
One way you can answer this question by yourself is to ask "Would I invite the husband to come along?" If you answer yes, then your intentions are probably not bad and you will not disrespect this woman or her husband.\n\nIf you don't want the husband there, then you want something else... and that is just wrong.
499921
No, dear.  See, what is happening is she is letting you think you are right just to make you feel good.  She is wise, your wife.  It is one of her many clever ways, to once in a while "admit" to being "wrong."  Of course, she is never wrong!
828024
maybe you should sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels if you assume to much it could come off as an insult if you dont assume enough you will always wonder for the simple fact that you are married could be the reason that she is not coming straight out with you COMMUNICATION!!!
309541
Absolutely. People will sometimes call them "men of honor" or some other clever name. Talk to a wedding planner even if you don't use them. Just tell them you need help with an etiquette question and you don't know what to call your best friend who is standing up for you at your wedding. \n\nAs far as if it's ok or not..yup. It's your day and you can do what you want. I've seen wedding that have had men be the "maid of honor" so to speak.
856473
In the United States, the bride might have several bridesmaids, but this is the position held by the bride's chief attendant, typically her closest friend or sister. If married, the title Matron of Honor is used.\n\nThis person is usually responsible for helping the bride to dress and prepare for the ceremony, to carry the groom's wedding ring to hand to the bride during the ceremony, and similar tasks.
535334
Well, I think since she is inviting you and your wife to her wedding, there is no chance that your ex still wants you. I'd say something casual like, "I just got an email from xxxx, and she invited us to her wedding" and laugh. You have no reason to feel guilty about the situation it seems.
980065
You have a right to change your plans that were made through the eyes of a young girl years ago.  Back then your cousin was someone you most likely were with quite a bit, and you felt kind of like sisters.  It is perfectly fine to want your sister-in-law as your matron of honor.  Go for it.  Ask your cousin to be a bridesmaid if you want to include her in the wedding, and if there is any trouble just tell your family that you wanted to honor your brother and sister-in-law in this way and you are still having your cousin in the wedding.  They should respect your wishes as you are the bride and it is your wedding, not theirs.  If feelings do get hurt, they need to think of the fact that you were both little girls making promises when things were different, and that now you are rethinking things logically.  Even if you did all bridesmaids, there would still be an issue of who is standing where, so don't even bother with that.  Enjoy your special time, and do not worry if someone is petty enough to fuss over it.  Best wishes!
1016359
A friend of mine met a guy and give him a fake name.  They dated for a couple months before she worked up the courage to tell him she'd lied to him about her name.  But since that's what he'd always called her, he still calls her that today and they've been married for almost 5 years!!  So unless you want to be called by another name for the rest of your life, you might want to go by your real name!!
1063967
So, just a perspective from the other side...My mother has always been very liberal, and insistent that she is an independent person from my father...To the point that my wedding invitations couldn't say "Mr. & Mrs. invite you", they had to say "Jim & Carrie invite you".  \n\nI remember, as a kid, my friends trying to call her "Mrs. Smith", and she almost yelled at them to call her by her first name.  I think she likes to be identified by her first name, because that's how she has idenitified herself for her whole life.\n\nI was raised to address all people by their first names.  When I didn't know what this was, I asked my friends what their moms wanted to be called...For the most part, these were first names, although there was the occasional Mrs. Someone.  I think that it may be somewhat regional...Are you from the South by any chance?  And perhaps moved away from there?  From what I read in Dear Abby (the obvious all-knowing resource) and such, addressing adults using their last names (or with a title in front of their first name) is a tradition that has been very popular in the South (although I certainly apologize if this generalization doesn't fit your reality).\n\nHonesly, I don't care what people call me, as long as there are no swear words involved.  I have a first name, and it's how I identify myself to everyone.  I also have a last name, but as a woman, it's not the same one I grew up with, so I'm not quite as connected to it as my first.\n\nI think that the only way you can stop it is in your own home, and within your own family.  When your houseguests instructed their children to address you by your first name, it would have been entirely appropriate to say, "Actually, in this house, children address adults more properly.  Please call me Miss Elizabeth" (or Mrs. Jones, depending on what's most appropriate for the manners you were taught).  Also, raise your kids with this expectation, and encourage them to do so with their kids.\n\nGood luck - and thanks for having manners...It's a rare thing these days!
1065731
It can be anyone not related to the couple.  It used to be the maid of honor's responsibility, but people have moved away from that tradition I think.  My husband's family lived in a different state and a friend of my, now, mother-in-law wanted to give me a shower.  They were very close friends and it was a nice shower, but I knew about 3  people there.  I think I had 4 showers and only one was given by a bridesmaid.  Also, they're not just for women anymore.  I've been to several couples showers where men are invited.  And I had a friend whose husband had a tool party, a manly version of the bridal shower, hahaha!  Anyway, hope that helps.
468221
Call her and ask her why your husband has her number?????\nThen go from there.
311300
here's a little secret. if you have a pet name that your wife thinks is special to her, than it makes it very unspecial when you call other people it. sounds silly but women feel insecure very easily. reinforce that you say it to women you respect and feel are equals to you intellectually and as good people, than let her know you didn't realize how it hurt her to feel like her pet name wasn't special only for her. than say your sorry and you love her and respect her feelings and wish her to feel secure with you, so you'll try your best to not do it again. than give her a big hug and kiss and listen to her talk for a while with any concerns and basically repeat what you just said with a few changes so you don't sound like a recording. don't make her feel that her feelings are invalid or stupid or silly, they're her feelings and that's all that matters. respect her for having trust in you to share them with you.