Should boyfriend for ten years give money to girlfriend as allowance. Am asian he is euopean.I have no money?
89627
No.  If you have no money, get a job and make some.  Don't depend on anyone else for anything you need in this life.  Parents give allowances to their children -- boyfriends don't give allowances to their girlfriends.  Support yourself and learn to be independent -- it's the best gift you can give yourself.
181907
U have a big problem on your hands. Spoiled and pretty don't mix in a relationship. You should WANT to give her something not HAVE to, i.e. if you feel pressured to give her something all the time, sooner/later you won't WANT to do nothing for her at all. Nothing wrong with asking, but girlie needs a reality check. You can't always get what you want (unless you're filthy, stinking rich). Tell her how you feel and her reaction will better help you make a decision. Oh by the way, try and drop out of her manipulation 101 class.
975253
being abused by your mate is unacceptable. your best bet is to get your child and leave. it doesn't matter if she is a woman and you are a man it isn't right that she is being abusive to anyone. please go. if need be use the check to get a new start. i am not sure of how much money it is compared to us dollars...but you can not stay with her in that environment.\ngood luck my friend.
795224
Stop helping him out financially. Financial help is something that you should dedicate to a husband, not someone as transient in your life as just a boyfriend. Save your money and your dedication for someone who is worthy of it! Have a good, happy life, sweetie!
266909
You should leave him cause he does not have anything going on his life he has a lady paying for his stuff and might do the same thing to you...it's better off without him and find yourself a guy that has something going on
927301
Remember, it's not the cost of the gift that matters!  If your boyfriend truly loves you, he will be pleased with whatever you give him.  It is so sad that the world we live in dictates that we should spend large sums of money to try and impress those we care for.  Don't buy into that mentality.  Do your best with what you have.
679850
You should be honest with the person your with. Why can't you leave? Due to maoney or kids? Remember the kids will adjust and if for money it's not the most important thing in the world...
360969
He has been with you for two years, so this must mean something. He says he loves you and I am sure he does. Is he a generous and  thoughtful guy as this is an indication why he gives money to that girl. She is probably in a difficult situation and has no one else to turn to. Is he replying to a text rather than sending them which is a bit different. Give him a chance. Dont throw away the time you have been together. Play it by ear for now.
490670
If at the beginning of the relationship the guy starts asking for money.  I can barely support myself, I don't need someone else asking for money!!
670810
No, as I have no idea who you are.  A man's money, or lack of it, doesn't matter to me when I first meet him. His willingness to improve his financial position, for his own self-respect, does.  Women usually marry to have children so it's better if the man is able to contribute towards the family.  \nThis is such an odd question, I can't help but think that you are either desperate or else you are a wealthy guy who is trying to ferret out golddiggers in some way.  Good luck anyway.\nP.S.  Ultimately, character traits like honesty, integrity, faithfulness are much more important than how much cash a man has.
172256
No, absolutely not. The entitled to 1/2 rule applies only to married couples and surprisingly enough it only applies after you've been married 10 yrs. Of course people married less than 10 years can still have battles over entitlement to property especially if they've acquired a lot during the course of a marriage or had children. As far as an unmarried couple though, neither of you is entitled to half of anything. You leave the relationship with what you went into it with.
400688
This is interesting.  Sounds like a one way relationship there.  I am sorry but gifts should not be asked for, they should come from the heart of the person buying them.  A gift is a gift is a gift it should be given out of love not pressure.  Don't feel bad.  There is definately some selfishness going on and you need to decide whether you want to live the rest of your life in a relationship like that.
171812
You need to provide details, is your partner the only one working? Did you know that when the two of you were getting together?\n\nIf it was the money that you got together for, you can never have enough, that I assure you and you can never meet anyone who can make enough for you.\n\nYou may be asking this question, I am speculating, because you may have found your interest in someone else and money is only an excuse, since you are not able to find anything else -may be.\n\nI doubt you are interested in a detailed answer.
938299
No, go ahead and give her your gift. That was really sweet and thoughtful of you. I'm sure she'll think the same and appreciate your gift. Some guys are not into buying gifts, your boyfriend may be one of those guys. My husband doesn;t buy his Mom gifts. I usually take the money from him and do stuff like that and then it's from the both of us!!
113473
Well, waiting for him to offer money first would be your best bet.  If you ask before he offers, he might think you are a gold digger.  Hint to him you are broke and you need a jump start until you can get on your feet.  Or maybe borrowing the money would make you look more responsible.
749624
The term "allowance" is usually used, in the US, to describe money parents give their kids for pocket money -- to spend on video games, save up for toys, or buy soft drinks and snacks when they're out with friends.\n\nThis may explain some of the shocked reactions you've received to your question -- it's not common for adults to give each other allowances.\n\nNow, having said that, it's a VERY good practice for married couples to have three accounts -- his, hers and ours.  (This can be easily set up with the payroll department at your husband's work, to have the money automatically deposited in whatever amount you guys work out.)\n\nHere's how it can work with a single-paycheck family (that's been us, for most of the last 20 years).  The majority of the money goes into the "ours" account, and that's used to pay for common expenses -- housing, utilities, food, school supplies for the kids, gas for the car, etc.  \n\nThe rest of the money is split -- according to a scheme that works with your budget and income -- between "his" and "hers."  Once money is in one of those accounts, it's yours to do with as you see fit.  If he wants to donate the money in "his" account to a political cause you disagree with, you can't stop him; if you want to save up for months and buy a wildly impractical and ridiculously expensive pair of shoes with the money in your "hers" account, he has to accept it.\n\nThe good thing about such a scheme is that it gives each of you the freedom to have a certain amount of money that's ALL YOURS -- there is nothing like having money that nobody can tell you how to spend. \n\nNow, how much should that be?  That varies with your income, expenses, and goals.  If you're just starting out, and especially if the "ours" account covers housing, food, utilities and the rest, then 3% may be all you guys can afford at the moment, especially if you're trying to save for a house or some other major expense.  I encourage you to save as much money as possible, putting it away either for major purchases (like a house or business), as an emergency fund, or of course for retirement.  (No, it's not too soon to start saving for retirement, no matter how old you are.)  If you have a little more flexibility, you might consider working up to putting 10% into each of your "his" and "hers" accounts, and putting the remaining 80% into the "ours" account.  \n\nThe key, though, is as several other people have said: communicate about your goals, your needs, and the reality of your situation.  If all your financial needs are being taken care of out of the main account, or if you are aggressively saving for the future, a 3% "allowance" might be just fine.  But don't be surprised if your American friends give you a funny look when you talk about your husband giving you an allowance.
1117215
Unfortunately, I would have to say you hit the nail on the head.  All too often, people shower those they love with monetary gifts as a show of affection, & it backfires.  Even if the object of their affection had no intention of using them, it becomes all too easy to do, & they do so, sometimes without even realizing it for a while.  Therefore, it may sound elitist, but I would recommend you set your sights higher, & date someone more on your social & financial level.  Next time, look for someone who would be a good partner for you, rather than a man you have to support.  You can really do better.  This may also prevent the hurtful arguments, because I believe a man like this wanted to hurt you because he blamed you for the times he may have been ashamed of himself.