How do i mantain a long distance relationship?
85576
I understand that you are a busy person. That likely won't change, even when you're done with your undergraduate studies. Your girlfriend wanting to see you is a sign of how she feels about you and that she wants to maintain that closeness. Therefore, if I were you I'd definitely schedule time to be with her in person, even if not regularly.\n\nThere are some things you can do, in the meantime, that will make huge impressions on her.\n\nFor example (see Source where these came from):\n\nPut together a care package for her. Take some time to buy her several little gifts along the lines of things she likes. Write a couple of love notes and include them in the package. Don't tell her you are sending it. Let it be a surprise.\n\nSend her some handwritten letters via snailmail. It's a lot more personal than email and she'll appreciate the extra effort you went through, particularly with your busy schedule.\n\nSchedule a date to participate in the same activity in your separate location. For example, plan on seeing a particular movie at the same time. Just knowing you're both doing it at the same time helps the closeness. Then afterwards talk about the movie like you would had you actually been together.\n\nIt's important to maintain that closeness even when you're apart and even if you absolutely can't meet her on a regular basis, you can do things that still show her how much you care. But try to do both. Your relationship will grow a lot closer.
868796
My dear, i am in the same situation as you. my BF is 600km away. we are still studying and only meet once every 4 to 5 months. we keep our relationship more like a best friend relationship rather then a love relationship. The most importand of all is the word TRUST. with it you will be sucessful. We have been in a long distance relationship for more then 3 years now and we will be getting married end of next year. \n\nMy dear, I really want you to suceed. many people around you will discourage you saying that because he is not by your side,you will break up soon. dont believe it.  if i can make it. you can too. just trust him. do more emails to him. sms him more. call him more. send you pictuers to him via MMS or email. let him know how much you love him.\n\nI wish you all the best.
987331
It's really difficult to make a long distance relationahip work. It takes a lot of time, effort, sacrifice and money. My friend was living in London, had a boy-friend in Canada and parents in SE Asia. She was constantly having to answer and make phone calls to all aspects of the globe at really odd times. She also had to deal with life in uni. It was really hard for her get much of anything done besides talk on the phone or send emails. Eventually though she decided to stick with the boyfriend and got transferred to an uni in Canada to be with him. She loved him too much to give him up. That's eventually what all long-term relationships come down to. If you really truely want to be together then you'll find some way to amke it work. If you are not that committed it's best to break it off before one of you inadvertantly does something to hurt the other.
692234
have respect for the girl and for her boyfriend. you can't change somebody's feelings. you can't make somebody like you. if you care about her, think about her feelings. respect her feelings and leave her alone. find another girl who is not attached.\n\nit's hard for two people to carry on a long distance relationship. it doesn't help when other people are trying to break it up either.\n\nyou'll find another girl that you're attracted to. i guarantee it, ok? if not, then the right girl will find you, so don't sweat it. but this girl is off limits.
1078385
i don't think i can give you a solution to your problem.but i greatly agree that it is not really easy to have a long distance relationship. if you really feel that she is the right one for you, just keep on praying, have faith and do all your best to find a way to meet that special girl. if trials always come your way just stay strong and always keep your communications flowing for each other because from there, you can make her feel how much she means to you even if she is so far away. i know how hard this situation is because i myself have the same experience as yours. but i just keep my faith and hope that soon someday him and i be together.
57969
it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
1179643
I've been long distance with my girlfriend of four years for the last two years. Nothing in my entire life has ever been more difficult than keeping our relationship together. It's like holding your breath for weeks and months at a time until you can see the other person again... it's like only being half a person, but I digress...\n\nWe have had alot of fun playing World of Warcraft together, you said you play online together, and an MMO is highly social and interactive, so you might give it a try.\n\nAlso, we'll try to watch the same TV program together and talk about it afterwards. Just like watching a movie "together", it can be nice, but it's never the real thing.\n\nHowever, really and truly, you need to accept that you are now living different lives. You need to find enjoyment in your daily life and realize that he is not going to be able to share in that. If your relationship is strong enough, this will be better for you in the long run. Try to set aside a little bit of close, "together" time each day, but try to live a normal life otherwise.\n\nIf your lines of communication are open, and if you can maintain a strong, honest relationship, you may just make it.\n\nGood luck!
387019
Yup long distance relations can work..\nYou can do all you can you keep in contact..\nAnd you can make it work..\nAnd in this growing age with computers and net you can always keep in touch.. Even if its not possible there are thousands of ways..\nIts all up to you
385769
It all depends on how committed you two are towards each other. You have to have that amount of respect for each other not to hurt the other one. My husband and I had a long distance relationship before we were married and although it was hard, we worked through it. You have to have that love and respect for your partner to make it work. If you don't then do not even attempt it. Good Luck!
587727
Tell him! Most long distance relationships don't work out anyway.
192917
What you need to do is get together with him and discuss a plan.  Now if its because he is far away then decide when will he be moving closer or plan a set schedule of when you can get together and visit.  If he is close then you must decide on a schedule of what days you guys will hang out on.  If you dont let him know that not seeing him is bothering you he will never know... trust me Im a guy and we think differently.  And eventually you will both lose feelings for each other and it wont be at the same time so one of you will defintely get their feelings hurt.  So in short, Make A Plan. (mutual plan that is)
937771
first you must remember that there are many kinds of love, second if you were hoping it was the kind of love that could bring you two together you may have a lot of damage control to do after your constant begging (your own words) remember Patience is truly a virtue. \n\nlong distance relationships are tricky because the lack of contact breeds and multiplies many emotions that don't accompany traditional relationships due to mystery anticipation and many other factors my advice to all who are considering  LD relationships is to truly evaluate the reality of what would be invovled in eventually closing the gap because one requirement for success is that the gap must eventually be closed one way or another
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Call and talk to him about it first off.  \n\nThen you need to find someone close to you because long distance relationships never work because there is always that thought that they maybe with someone else in your mind.  Relationships aren't worth the headache in that aspect at least now when you can find a comforting one close by.
1089265
A long distant relationship can work, it both parties are truly committed.  However, it all depends how long you will be apart from eachother...  If it is just until school is finished, that's different, but if it's because you both just live in different states, then that is something to think about... \n\nSometimes one person will get tired of being lonely and tired of not being able to see each other on a regular....\n\nIt can work, but will take a lot of hard work....\n\nGOOD LUCK
514745
long distance relationships almost ALWAYS work because they are much easier than REAL relationships where you gotta deal w the person each day. Long distance is easy cause you go visit for 3 days or so, and just when it starts getting tough...it is time to come home. How to keep it working? Just talk once in a while, maybe send a card once in a while...nothing should ever really come up that breaks you up...it can last forever without too much work.
231247
Long distance relationships are very hard, but I know couples who are married and are still long distance. So nothing is impossible. It just depends on how much you love and Trust each other to be apart but still stay together. But warning: long distance relationships are Tough. You both need to sit down and talk about the possibilities and if you both decide to stay together, talk about how you'll both deal with it. Make sure you're both prepared for all the hardships to follow, such as missing each other, trust issues, traveling to see each other, etc... Goodluck on your decision!
1161024
I know how that is...my boyfriend lives 9 hours away from me! \nThe most important thing is staying i contact, call each other as much as possible, say little cute things all the time, send each other things in the mail, little surprises to let each other know your thinking about them. I send my boyfriend cookies and letters all the time, the little things truely make all the difference.