Should I get rid of him after four years?
88680
You need to decide what your beliefs and boundaries are.  If you don't mind living with someone for the rest of your life without a legal marriage, then do it, if not, then give him an option, marriage or you are gone. Most states have the policy of common law marriage anyway, after 5 years (varies per state) of living together you are considered legally married anyway.
921399
I really don't think so. If you have been together for four years, are moving out of state together, and he hasn't asked up to this point, why would he ask now? He doesn't see the need....he has everything he wants, without marriage.
650990
It will go on for as long as you allow it.  He obviously has intimacy issues and since it's unlikely that he'll change, it's up to you to decide if you want to put up with it.  Tell him that if he leaves again not to bother coming back.
992282
Leave it for a while, 4 months really isn't that long. Leave it till your one year anniversary.\nYou would make any normal bloke run away by talking of living together after 4 months especially a commitment phobic.
288441
leave him- you deserve better
1122820
yes, get rid of him. \n\nThere is so much fish in a sea. Dont waste your time. I wasted my time few times and trust me, it is not worth it. \n\nThere is a saying: The Man who is worth it will never make you cry (or ignore, or .....)
478604
Personally I think that is old history and should just stay in the past.  However the real question here is can you truly forgive him and not let this haunt you?  If you can't then this relationship will eventually crumble and you might as well get out now.
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
537079
Get rid of him!  It will just get worse!
552751
I would definately get rid of him cause I been tryin to for two years now anyway!
896712
The numbers of years difference would not be so bad if you were 33 and he was 48. At 18 you are far too young to be involved with a man that age.... He's lived and you haven't. You have dreams and he should already achieving his... Too many differences to over come. yeah he might treat you very well...but you will come to resent him eventualy and angry for having wasted your time.
792114
forget him and get on with your life
711398
Hell no!!!!! Leave him alone!\n\nIt will be tough for a while at first, but you will get over him maybe. If he placed the relationship on suspension, then cease all communications with him.
229829
Well if you love him so much whay do you want to get rid of him?
328979
For your sake and that of your children, move on. He obviously likes having the two relationships and that is not likely to change. The sooner you leave the sooner you and your children will heal. With all the lies this man has spun its amazing either of you are still with him. He has proven he has no intention of leaving. Don't waste more time on a relationship with no future. Find yourself a respectable man and live a happier life.
169841
I would have to agree...get rid of him!
521178
If you have a sensible head on your shoulders and know how to handle yourself then why not? It may be illegal for him to have sex with you where you come from though and he'll be the one that could get a criminal record if it is! But generally speaking, four years age difference is nothing! Just be very careful, is all I can suggest. Many older men have desires for young girls that are not altogether healthy.\nJust use some good judgment and keep safe!