why is it that nice people always end up getting hurt?
97419
That's an awesome question and I wish I had a certain answer for it, but the best I can think of is because nice people are the only ones who can endure the suffering they receive. But knowing the pain is there shouldn't stop any person from learning as it only leaves you richer for the next experience. We learn more from our failures than any amount of successes can teach us. So maybe all the bad stuff that comes your way is there to help you better be the person you're meant to be. I know because I have often been the one cheated on, that I'd never cheat on anyone else because I don't wish anybody else to feel the same way I did. So perhaps things that like help mold what it is you look for, the things you want to be like; the things you don't want to be like and before long when you're no longer concerned about finding somebody, that somebody will be there.
727167
you are right. We should be nice to people even if they are over weight because over weight people always get a lot of shit and hardly anybody stands up for them
544484
because thay are different from the average person.\nbut don't give up, always be nice to everyone you meet.
848089
The  problem with  that   question  is  in the  definition of "nice".    Lots of times  people  are  described  as "nice"   because  they  are  always   r eady to  just  "go along"     They   don't  want to "argue"   or "say  no"      "Will you  watch  my  kids?"  sure.   "Can   I borrow  your car?"    OK.     Can I borrow some money?   Oh,  all right.    Those  kind of people are not being "nice"  they  are being  stupid  and they will   forever be taken  advantage of.      Yep,  they   always finish  last.\n\n                               It  is   possible to be a  TRULY  nice person  and still be  strong,     and   confident,  and alert   to  situations  where    somebody is  trying to "slip one over  on them"   They  stand  up for  themselves, smile,  and  say NO.       Soon others  see them    as "leaders"  confident,  well  organized in  the  way they live  and  deal with the situations of life.   BUT -  they keep  the smile on their  face,  do not lose their sense of compassion for  the  REAL situation when a  person is genuinely i n  trouble  and needs   a  leg up, and  they  are clearly  alert, well informed,    and    very  very good  a t  analysing any given  situation to  know   if it is  genuine or not.       You can't put  one over   on that kind of person,  and  anybody who  tries will go  away disappointed.    But  everyone will  agree on one thing.   That person is not only smart..  but  NICE with it.     And that  person,  guaranteed, will never finish   last
761760
Because if someone is too nice they can get walked all over. Example; being so nice they can't say "no" to somebody because they don't want to hurt their feelings. Some people will take advantage of that and continue to use that person.
31994
because they were not a real good friend to begin with\n\nreal good friends go out of their way to help and do what's right.\n\nthey will either confront you with the problem so you can work it out\nor just hold it inside and not bring it up so not to hurt you.\nbut they will not stab you in the back..\nby the way you are awesome...totally awesome...
1143958
Of course! People are usually on their best behavior until you really get to know them.  Sometimes they turn out to be really nice other times they can be really big jerks.
179390
Because humans are weird and have a mean streak. But truth is, no one can really help laughing, sometimes the way a person goes down is just too funny. We are not laughing at the injury (if there is one) just the way it happened!
359888
because people feel bad about themselves so they treat others worse so they can feel better. It is terrible and mean, but poeple feel like they always gotta come out on top.
242330
I believe there are several possible explanations for this.  Bad things do not happen to everyone for the same reason.  In one case, it may be a way that God is strengthening the person, or in another, it may be atonement for past karma, or it may be a lesson.  It could be so many different things, and I believe it is important to never point a finger at anyone who is suffering and say, "You've brought this on yourself."  Perhaps they did, but perhaps they didn't.  In any individual case, I don't think we really know.\n\nThere is one major issue here, and that is how do we define "Bad things"?  I have come to believe that events in themselves are neutral.  It is only our interpretation of those events that makes them "good" or "bad."  We can learn a skill of reframing, which is to change our thinking about a matter.  We can choose how we are going to evaluate the event.  Our gut reaction may be to think of it as bad, but you do not have to let the reaction rule over you.  You can find positive ways to look at it.  Of course, sometimes this is easy, and other times, extremely difficult, or maybe even nearly impossible.  But we can find ways of coping nonetheless.\n\nMy father was drafted to go to Vietnam, and before leaving, he took a last ride on his motorcycle.  He wrecked and broke his leg!  This actually prevented him from having to go to Vietnam.  Everytime I see a Vietnam veteran who is struggling with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, I praise God that my dad wrecked that day!\n\nSo, what has helped me more than anything is to say to myself a little Hebrew phrase I learned, "Gam zu letovah."  This means, "This too is for good."  And I have found this to be very good to say.  Even over the little things!  I break a fingernail, and I say, "Gam Zu Letovah."  And if you say this whenever some little annoyance happens, instead of cussing or huffing, you'll be amazed at the end of the day how much better you will feel.\n\n;)
996783
You need to get some self confidence and I don't mean that in an ugly way.  That is all that you need in order to hold your ground.  You need to know that you can keep it together when someone is putting you down and realize that it is just words and like the saying goes, sticks and stones break my bones but words will NEVER hurt me!  Listen to what they have to say and if its something that you did, apologize, then just stand there and take what they have to say with a stone face.  Show no emotion!  Some people will keep doing hurtful things to people because the other person will take it and get upset and hurt.  The person that keeps doing it is usually a sad person themselves and needs someone that is "smaller and weaker" than their own selves to make them fell better.  Remember that the next time it happens and maybe they will stop.  If they don't stop doing it to you, then at least you will have walked away with the self respect and self confidence that is needed to conquer whatever the rest of the world is going to dish out.
31873
baby, some people are just plain mean. they are not good people and you should not take their character flaws personally. try not to take it to heart. ignore them if possible. some people outgrow meanness and see the error of their ways and become good people, others, i'm sorry to say, leave this world as mean as the lived. don't be one of them! be one of the good guys. hang in there. you'll end up the better person.
354316
i had the same problem,and it wasn't good hey. maybe someone you trusted hurt you in someway(just an example) and now you find it hard to open up to others and let them in. well you have to learn to accept the fact that you are an amazing person who deserves friendship and love. you deserve good people around you,you deserve the pleasure of being yourself around others and forming relationships with people you care for, because you are your own person,you owe it to yourself to form relationships with people you feel for.
676398
i don't think you can be too nice.... there's not enough nice people out here in the world as it is..... but you can't let people run over you either.... people tend to see niceness as a weakness.... but whatever.... continue being yourself.. and if that's nice.. then be it.... just don't take no crap from nobody
328818
It's because some people never heal.
355977
By observation of the chooses that they make and how they treat other people, especially people close to them. A person could be really nice, but beat his wife behind closed doors. Or a person could be sour and cranky, but spend time helping at-risk teens. Everyone has good and bad in them, some more than others.
162472
Of course I do.It bugs me because there are some people that you could just be hanging out with and then they do something that is just horrid so they say sorry.  Then the same thing happens again.  Some time or another it just gets old and thats when i wonder why they just don't think before they act.    This doesn't mean that everyone doesnt think before they act it just means that sometimes people get a little carried away.