What are the dynamics of the relationship in a long term marriage?
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Compromise, compromise, compromise. My husband and I are both very stong willed, hard headed individuals. But when you learn the art of compromise it a breeze! It is hard not to always be right all the time, but then how fair would that be if you were all the time? Good luck!
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of course it can work. it just depends on the commitment and love and trust, just like any in-person relationship. in a way, the long-distance has the benefit of not having to deal with the daily in-person details that sometimes weight relationships down.\n\nmy husband and i maintained a long-distance relationship for more than two years before our situations allowed us to be together.\n\ntalk about it.
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If you and your spouse are willing to put in the hard work it takes to make a marriage last then it will last.  The biggest tests of the strength of a marriage are children, buying a home, toughing it out when finances are thin, etc.  If you can stand by each other and work together instead of against each other in those situations then you are doing great.  Also the ability to compromise and give in sometimes.
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I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
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Marriage is a partnership....if there are things he's better/smarter at let him take the lead...If there are things that are your strong point you should take the lead...but this should be openly discussed so there is no resentment...which can fester & grow & become an even bigger problem.
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the 1st thing is wot coz the tension? both of u guys shld sit down and talk abt it. let each other say wots on their mind without the other interruptin, then come up wit a solution together, a common ground. well if they dont seem to co-operate, respect u, than mayb its best 2 re-think the relationship, coz how can it work in the future wen ur marriage?
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There are 3 keys to staying married: 1. You need to be able to trust each other   2.  Always have good communication   3. You both need to be willing to do anything to make things work.
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Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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As far as a marriage relationship, two should take time with lots of questions, endurance. Friendships they come and go, it just depends if your in it for the fame or fun. Yet, the ultimate relationship, is the one that lasts. It can only be obtained through (Agape Love). "Go Figure!"
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1) Do you share similar ideas about children?  Make sure you both want the same number and lifestyle for them\n\n2) Religion, do you share that or can you agree to disagree?  If so, what religion are the kids going to be raised in?  Both?  One or the other?  Know before you tie the knot.\n\n3) What do you both like in bed?  Divorces happen over sex and money, you can't always control money problems, but you can be a conciencious and informed lover.  Keep in mind, if you can't handle talking about things like orgasms, anatomy, fantasies, etc, you're not ready to get married.  You don't want to be in a situation where you only find out afterwards that your partner likes things you are uncomfortable with.\n\n4) Finances, they don't have to be perfect, but do you have a plan?  DO you have reasonable spending limits per month?  Do you have similar ideas on proper credit card use?  Do you have similar long term goals, like buying a house, boat, property, business, etc?  If not, can you live with the differences?\n\nThats all I can think of off the top of my head.... I'll edit this post if I think of more
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your marriage is what you make it. both of you bring honesty, trust, respect,love,communication, and commitment and you will be fine. good luck
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I understand. I don’t know what I’d do if I wasn’t married, but let me share some of the things I have learned in almost 20 years:\n\n1) Courtship is important. And long courtships are best. In our fast-paced world, especially as young adults, we are always rushing around. The best way to divorce-proof a marriage begins before you ever meet your mate-to-be, during the dating process. Serial dating, especially when it involves premarital sex, is a course in how to get divorced. We end up hooking up and then when things go sour we run away. Don’t get involved with someone who isn’t a friend. And date at least 2 – 3 years before getting married. That way you can get over the initial 18 month crush where everything about the other person is fascinating and the whole infatuated view of “The way you eat is so cute – it sounds like bells ringing,” to “If you clang your fork off of your teeth again I’m gojng to shove it through the back of your throat.” Not kidding – real conversation between my wife & I in the first year. I’m glad to say she never jammed the fork through my throat and I learned to use my lips as a cushion between my fork & teeth. \n\n2) Keep Christ at the center of your marriage. It seems obvious, but it is essential. Every time you notice that ring on your finger, pray for your spouse. It doesn't have to be long or even audible. Just a quick mental thanks to God for your mate, or a quick thought of, "God be with her/him." \n\n3) Love is NOT give and take. There is no take in love. Read 1 Cor. 13 (the love chapter). Love is giving. I give to my wife. She gives to me. If both are giving no one needs to take. Develop this mindset and remember that this is what marriage is meant for. Eph 5 takes a lot of heat for telling wives to submit to their husbands. But it also tells husbands to submit to their wives. Give + give = love. Give + take = selfishness = unhappy = divorce.\n\n4) Never use derogatory names for each other, even in fun. Husbands, if you call your wife "old lady" that is what you will see in her over time. I call my wife "my bride", especially when I am upset with her. That way I remember that wedding day, all those dreams, etc.\n\n5) When kids are involved it is easy to place them in front of your spouse. While time with kids is important & shouldn't be neglected, those kids will grow up & move out one day. Your mate will still be there and you'll need something else to talk about besides the kids. Make a habit of dating. Guys, even ask your wife out on a date. Arrange the babysitter. Often couples in church can provide a wonderful service for each other by trading Fridays (or whatever day is appropriate).\n\n6) Get to know and socialize with an older Christian couple or two who have a happy long-term marriage. Learn from how to treat each other from them. Remember that we all face similar adaptation issues when we are first married & they have worked those issues out. Talk with them about what they had to work out in either early married years and how they resolved things. This can be one of the biggest benefits you ever have, especially if you come from a divorced family or a family with strained relations.\n\n7) It may seem obvious but pray together. Have individual quite times, but have a shared quite time as well, at least once a week. And no matter how much you think it will hurt or bother your mate, talk. Holding it in doesn't make it go away - it only makes it fester until you explode all over each other. Talk and if agreement needs intervention, see your pastor or a Christian counselor.\n\nMarriage is very frightening - especially for those of us who came out of dysfunctional families. But the single biggest cause of dysfunction in my experience (and in my family) was selfishness. Give to each other & to the Lord, and you too can have a happy marriage. God bless you & best wishes!
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Jealously, dishonesty, resentment, and lack of communication makes marriage unstable. Trust and honesty makes life stable.
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A relationship changes in many subtle ways after marriage, especially because you're with the person almost all the time instead of only a few hours.  It takes a great deal of commitment and understanding in order to make it work.  One of the first things to do is talk about who will manage which aspects of the daily routine, and go from there.
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I love mine and I know that A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.\n\n      Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
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I like my marriage, sometimes it is not easy and it is lots of work but i love it, we have so much good time and I do not even like to think of me with out my husband.\n\nA good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.\n\n      Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
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Key factors to making it in marriage:\nHonesty, Faithfulness, Sacrifice, Compromise, Communication, Willingness to accept things, Affection, Patience, and Remembering this is the person you chose to marry no matter what and that you can work through anything cause the good times will out weigh the bad and all couples face the time when they will argue and bicker and it will seem to never end.  If you stick with it you will find that things will work themselves out and you will have a happy life.\n\n\nAlways be honest and remember that it is a full time job.\nNever put each other down for having different tastes and styles and compromise is the biggest part.\nExpress love and always try to stay affectionate, holding hands or cuddling in front of the TV.  When things cool down and become regular and predictable try to spark things up.  \nNever go out of your way to insult tradition or family of your new partner.  Be patient with all the quirky things that may annoy you when you start living together that you may have never payed attention to, you will get used to them.\nNever wait for an apology in a fight, always communicate and try to work things out and try to apologize even if you feel you are right if things get heated.  Never go to bed mad.\nDont try to make your partner jealous and stay away from altimatums.  Good communication will always work better then an altimatum.\nRemember you are married and partying with your single friends is not a good way to start a marriage, you should want your partner with you.\nDont be afraid to tell him when something is bothering you, its better to work through it before it blows up into something big when it could have been resolved early on.\nNever ask the person to change all their ways to appease you or to change anything that you are not willing to change about yourself.\nDont ever make your partner feel that this marriage is one sided and about only you.  Try to make your partner feel like an equal: as simple as asking how his/her day went can show interest in their life.\nGood Luck on your marriage, take it slow and it will be fine.  Communication is the key to any good relationship.