how to maintain a positive frame of mind even if people around you are being partial and not so good.?
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Sometimes people in our lives can be toxic to our emotional wellbeing.Learning to set boundaries for people and giving yourself time to just be alone,journaling your feelings and centering yourself really helps.Being positive is a choice you make,if people around you choose to be negative,try to bring a cheery disposition,if you feel uncomfortable around them,maybe its time to ask yourself whether you feel they are toxic in your life or not.
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Humble yourself under the mighty hand of God.  If you just go about the day saying good things about people and not getting caught up in gossip as others, you will turn things around.  Let your light shine that they may see your good deeds and works and soon others will follow.
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better than you i see!  just kidding. Just answer politely. If youve been good...say good...or fine. Or if youve been sick, say you had a bug for a few days but feel great now. And about this person who causes you problems...i have 3 people who cause a lot of problems..not just with me..but with the whole family and then some. Only one i see on a regular basis now. And when they start into their stuff...i try to always stay nice, unless they get nasty, rude or mean. Then i am firm. And that makes her quit. I dont stoop to her level, because that would make me look as bad as her, i go above her and just let her know that how she acts is not tolerated by me. And she ends up looking like a fool, and i get satisfaction knowing she made herself look bad in the process and trying to get to me.\n\nYou've probably heard the saying "kill em with kindness"?  It really does work.
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you don't. it's natural.\n\nor, on the other hand, you could try and be sensible, and just block it out from your mind. or you can just change your attitude from i'm-mister-super-caring-all about  what-people-think-of-me to i-dont-give-crap-and-i'm-gonna act- as-though nothing's-bothering-me.\n\ngot it?  now that's how you gotta stop carin about wat otha ppl tink of ya. alrightty?
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just try to have a good mindset
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try your best to keep a positive attitude at all times...
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don't worry for a second what other people are thinking of you .Just listen to what they are saying.Get the focus off of YOU
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Speak your mind. Always.\nNot speaking your mind will continue to stab you inside, all the time. Make you feel worthless because you do not change anything, don't make yourself heard. \nThere is time to be cheerful and pretend to be happy, but doing that all the time is a disguise that will break someday. Bring out your true self. If people don't listen, speak louder. Don't cave in and pretend to accept others opinions just to make them happy. Listen to what they say and change your mind only if they convinced you. \n\nThis means you cannot please everyone all the time. You might even be viewed as a b*tch sometimes. Don't let that scare you. There is only one person you need to satisfy, and that is you. No one else. \n\nGood luck. I know you will be much happier and feel much stronger.
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Always be positive and smile. Say good things about yourself that are true. For example, if you get along with other people well say this. If you are a hard worker then say this. Whatever you can say about yourself that is positive is always good to say.
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you have to try as much as you can to maintain a self emotional balance, imagine yourself as a filter. and try to keep good things inside the filter, and remove impurties ( negative thoughts outside).\nI use a very effective way to deal with emotions. I try to focus and concentrate on something that will help me to become better like reading an article about people who faced so many bas things in their life and yet they became great.\nHelen keller was an examples for me to charge my emotions and go on.\nyou cannot make the world perfect, what could be perfect in your eyes might be imperfect in other people's opinion. always try to accept things and people the way they in order to avoid dissappointment. \nGood luck :)
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BELIEVE in yourself.  Feel good about yourself.  Know yourself. LIKE yourself.  Think of all the great things you do, and say. ENJOY your own company.  I bet you could easily think of a lot more things. \nTo start with, it's all about YOU.  Then you move on to others. Making others feel good about themselves.
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First of all just know that your intention to be happy and cheerful is half the battle. If you want it bad enough, with practice, you will absolutely succeed. \n\nYou say you've been this way since childhood and that your mind tends to go in the same direction all the time and right there is the key. After so many years of your mind running your life in a negative direction its now time for you to take over.\n\nYour mind is replaying over and over what it has learnt and now its time for you to retrain it. It takes time and vigilance but with practive you can make it happen. As soon as negative thoughts come up exchange it for something positive. Remind yourself all the time that life is filled with great things going on all the time. \n\nStay away from negative situations and people. Cling to the positive with all your might. Your mind will fight you but after time will learn to let go. Lets say for instance tomorrow you awaken and it raining. Your mind will tell you what a horrible day its going to be. Stop and say out loud "No, its going to be a great day. I am grateful for the rain and all the wonderful things this day holds for me" Everytime you exchange a negative for a positive you will see the change and be encouraged to continue.\n\nI was there, now I am here. Just keep looking forward. Forget about what you did in the past, its gone and can't be repeated. Today is all you have and you can make it a great Today, every single time.
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Just Smile and say to yourself like this "Hey! there's nothing matter, I'm in a good mood." I think, if you have made a good spirit on yourself, you'll get it.OK!
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If you'd do anything, how about believing in yourself?\n\nChallenge your thinking. When you think about yourself negitively, think, is this true? Do other people really think this? If someone else was like that, how would you think about them? A lot of the time, it's not as bad as you really think. Do things that you enjoy. Meet up with friends, go shopping or simply sit in the sun and read. Whatever you do, make sure you enjoy yourself and reward yourself for being special!!
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get more active, be energetic and love everyone... that will help you think good thoughts of them and yourself.
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It is very common to have these feelings of insecurity about yourself. Almost everyone thinks like this at some point in their lives.\n\nThe only solution is to try and think positively all the time, anytime you start to feel bad about something just tell yourself to stop... and remind yourself that you are a good person, you look great and you can do anything you put your mind too.\n\nAfter a while you won't have to keep reminding yourself, you will just know that you are ok. Think positive and believe in yourself!!\n\nGood Luck, you can change they way you think and act if you really want to, being positive is the key.
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preoccupy your mind a little will make you not become so edgy and nervous around others. place two marbles in your pants pocket and roll them around. sound stupid doesn't it but you may be surprised at how they will help.