how should i stand up to my mother, without causing her to react HORRIBLY?
85137
YOU CAN'T UNLESS YOU WANT HER TO SAY I BROGHT IN THIS WORLD I WILL TAKE YOU OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
348846
Do what's called the Broken Record thing...every time she starts in--think of something like.." I appreciate your concern, mom, but we have it handled."..........say it Every time...and she Will stop---it worked on my dad...see...when us mom's spens at least 20 yrs rasing kids..and being needed...and then we find one day that the kids are grown..living on their own--meaning we did our job well...suddenly we have nothing to fuss over..and that can be a lonely feeling.  I'm not saying it's okay for her to over step her bounds, just have a little understanding and compassion ... cuz, one day, you, too will have worked yourself out your job..\nhang in there
593583
Do not comment on the subject when your mother begins to question or criticize, especially if you are not a part of it.  You might try going to another part of the house or sitting on the porch or in the backyard when they get started.  Practice answering only questions or statements made directly to you.  You are really not required to finish arguments started by other people, parents or otherwise. If she has a legitimate gripe with another family member, let the two of them settle it.
87704
Hi! If you want to do the good thing, tell your mother. Tell her all the FACTS, don't tell her that you believe him because you love him, that you think that he will change, or that kind of stuff. Just keep straight to the facts. If she asks you for your opinion, go for it, tell her what you think.\n\nIf you go to her in a fact/positive/non BLINDED way, she might respect your opinion, at last, you'll have more chance of getting your point of view of the situation. It will also be helpfull to tell your mother how you are dealing or going to deal with the situation. Also, share with her the letters. She'll see that you are honoring her, respecting her, and that you are looking for a wise answer for this situation. Good luck.
233486
Turn her in!  No circumstances about it.  If you punched someone you would be charged with assault.  The rules do not change because it's your mother.  In my opinion, it's worse!
919000
Moms always like to have their rules followed. When you break them, they feel that you're not listening to her and you don't care.\nStaying up till 11:30 is not that bad! So what you should do is have a serious talk with her.  Tell her how important it is for her to trust you, and that you really want to obey her. Make it up to her by spending some time together as mother and daughter.  She will soon regain trust on you if you stay on track the next time your boyfriend calls you!\nGood luck!
843251
You have to tell someone. If you are worried about the way your Mum may react you need to get another adult family member that you trust  to talk to her. If there is no family member that you trust then maybe a teacher etc. I can tell you as someone who was raised with abuse you need to break the cycle. Silence will not solve this problem. hope this helps and I hope even more that this problem is resolved
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Treat her with respect and equality.  Don't ask her to do anything you would not do yourself (except childbirth).  If you are sitting still and she is doing something, get up and help.  When having a dispute, attack the issue not the person.  Communicate your needs, wishes and dreams, and be open and receptive to hers.
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Show her that you are mature enough to know what you are doing fashion-wise.  Do not argue with her on the topic.  Learn to discuss items without arguing.  Leave you friends out of this.  If your mother’s attitude is that you are too young to be showing off what you have, listen carefully and ask if age is the issue or the level of maturity the issue.
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No I don't, but that hasn't stopped her from sticking her nose into my business. Always listen to mom out of respect. You are an adult simply say Yes you are right or no that is just not me. Say I love you Mom thanks for the advice. And change the subject. (have one ready at all times)
295292
I think Mothers know best SOooo if you tell her all the reasons you feel it's a great idea and allow her to rebut any of them freely without being defensive, you'll get a positive result.  In her rebuttal she may point out great reasons why you shouldn't; maybe things you didn't previously consider and you may change your mind, or she will see your point, acknowledge your passion for the idea and agree with you freely and give you her blessing.
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Your mother is still a human being, she may think you hate her, and imagine if the person you love more than anything started hating you.  How would you feel?  My mother and I have a very rocky past, but In the end, a simply, tear-filled, "I love you" gets the point across.  It sounds like she has her hands full with the house, and is hurt about how you acted.  On the other hand, it also sounds like she isn't quite as forgiving as she should be.  But like I said, she is only human.  I think it is the hardest part of growing up when you find out your mom isn's SuperMom, but a person with her own doubts and feelings.  Hug her, tell her you love her, and walk away.  Just walk away and let her calm down.  Clean a bit, but do it when she isn't looking, since you don't want her to think you are only doing it to get on her good side.  You aren't.  You are doing it because you care...
1036503
you got to obey her she is your mother but try to convince her that this something you really want to do and that if you love it that much you will risk spraining your ankle and getting sunburned tell her it wont kill you
503669
It took my husband 15 years to be able to tell his mom exactly what he thinks, and only now with me backing him up. If your mom is controlling, there is no NICE way to handle her. You  have to just come out and say what you are thinking because if she is anything like my mom-in-law, she won't take you seriously. Be Very blunt. Tell her you are not TRYING to hurt her, but that this is how you feel. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
61013
First let me say WOW! First your mom should know that you love her and that you always will. You should be totally honest and let her know how you feel. You are her daughter and blood is thicker than water. Her boyfrind can leave her tomorrow but you will always be her daughter. Your mom has to find to courage to tell this "douche bag" to take a hike. all you can do is support your mom and be there for her. you are a good daughter and you deserve a hug
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Talk to her...first you need to be honest with yourself if you your usually a bad kid, acknowledge that and tell her how much it hurts you to see you dissapoint her and therefore want help to change. If your whine alot and complain about the world, and claim everything is everyone else fault (which if you are your probably like nope...not me =)) lol, but if she says you are talk to her about the future and how you're maturing and realized that you have to take control and except responsibilities. If your a pretty decent kid though but I guess she doesn't like your BF I honestly think you should listen to her reasons why whether you think she "knows him", if thier superficial reasons like he's not your race or too poor or some bull like that then your mom's an @-- (sry to say) but therefore has no more credibilty on her opinions of people. If it's because your BF is too old, a dog, something like that, your mom has wisdom and experience and trust me she IS right. I don't really know what you n your mom's problem is so I tried touching on random things, hopefully some of thoserandom thing's hit you and it helped, thanks and I hope you and your mom works things out, a girl no matter how old, can never live without her mother =)
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You can be assertive while still honoring your father and mother. Politely but firmly remind them that although you still love and honor them, this is YOUR household, not theirs. They are guests in your home and should act as such. If they still behave badly, show them the door and tell them to leave. If you give them all of these chances to act properly and they still cause trouble, it is THEY who are acting against God's commandments, not you.\n\nShortly after the fifth commandment, the Bible also says, "Parents, do not provoke your children to wrath." God wants you to respect your elders (especially parents), but he also realizes that sometimes it is the young who are right and the old who are wrong. Don't be afraid to make them leave if they keep acting badly; God will understand.