My bf of 3 years has decided we need to take a break from sex he is still affectionate and with me but what up
88724
Even if a guy's wife is Ms. Universe, he cant handle sex all time with full of passion. Come on, its also an exercise, where you hard work. Men need rest. So, wait for that. You also shouldnt post such a question online. Try to understand human feelings. Dont think alien.
531985
I was in a your exact position, and my advice to you is say bye to him.  I am also a very sexual person, and when my ex and I had very low amount of (like once ever couple of months) sex I tried to talk to him about it, he would ignore me as well.  So I tried to work it out regardless, and after three loooong years, it just had to end.  If you two do not have a satisfying sex life, it becomes a major issue.  It's not a matter of how many times  you have sex month, it weather or not you are both happy with it.  It sounds like you are not happy with the situation, just like I wasn't, and my self esteem went down year by year.  I felt like it was my fault that he didn't want sex, and it hurt.  In retrospect, I realize it was not my fault.  We just didn't click sexually, and even though we cared about each other, it wasn't enough to hold together a relationship.\n\nSo in brief, my answer to your question is, sex is not important as long as it is present in the relationship.  If it is absent, it becomes a major issue. If you have already tired to talk to him about it, and you feel like he is ignoring you, walk away.  You need to be with someone who understands  your needs and tries their best to fulfill them.
228721
I ask yourself. Can you accept this for a long time? If not, you should talk about this to him. Dont easy to ask break with someone you really loving to. Except, he always ask you to make love with him. Because that means he just like your body, not your heart and personality!
510664
WHEN HE DONT WANT TO AVE SEX NO MORE
372837
You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.
39062
WOW. I am sorry. It sounds like he had a hell of a time over seas and isn't quite home mentally yet. It really sucks that he broke up with you, but you don't live in a house with a swinging door. Tell him that you'd like to work on your relationship with him, but don't attack him. I'm sure he's had enough attacks on him over the last 6-18 months. BUT... also let him know that you can't just be around for sex. He needs time to heal his mind. The best thing you can do right now is to give him all the time he needs. Just don't get played. Don't have sex with him anymore whether he gets mad or not.
720575
He's trying to feel you out and see what your like now since he hasn't seen you in awhile. You never know he might want to see if anything develops. Good luck!
631725
i wouldnt break up with him over that. relationships are more than just sex. if i loved him and cared about him it would just be a little obstacle that i would overcome. love, as they say, conquers all!!
595000
Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
83636
Maybe he isn't stimulating you enough anymore maybe your body is used to him. Try different postions. Trust me the one we did the other day I did org.
229311
your going out with a guy thats getting divorced? I would wanna take a break while thats happening also. there is no easy way to tell him especailly in his time of need. just be straight up.
232254
Hello;\n  The best advice I can give is to explain to him how much you care and tell him all the things you admire about him. Then explain that you would like more out of your relationship than just sex. Then see how he reacts. If he is agreeable, then you can relax and enjoy new avenues of your relationship. If he still insists on having sex as his main concern, then you need to look at yourself and decide if you want to be used in that way.
280988
It sounds like you are being pressured into sex. No guy who really cares for you would make you feel this way. Save yourself for someone you have been with a long time and you know cares for you.
359803
If you love him don't leave him but you do need to find out why you are having these feelings.  I think alot of people go through stressful times and become uninterested in sex.  It is also possible you may be having some hormonal issues.  If the problem doesn't get fixed soon though he may start to have a wandering eye.  I hope everything works out for you.\n\nGood luck and God Bless!  :)
94264
Leave him he is saying that he is not in love with you...and on a different note tell him he should not be having sex if hez gonna be so high and mighty he should wait til he is married instead of playing married and not want the responsability that may come along with it ...and if you are pregnant its called child support...or jail for him.
670273
i think you need to have a heart 2 heart talk. lay you cards out and be open with him. just because you dont spend time together like you used to dose not mean it should be over. in relationships things change and the only way to keep the rship alive is to adapt to the change. maybe he thinks you are the one who is changing. you will never know if you dont find out. if you care about him you wont let him go. good luck
208505
What's the problem?\n\nYou wanted to break up and then your Bf wanted to break up?  That's great. What we call a clean break.