what do you do when u dont make love and your abdomel is paining you due to sexlessness?
97991
these pains don't come from sexlessness, I advice you to go see a doctor asap
598304
Well if your not having sex, unprotected.Then you have nothing to worry about.Have someone go with you and be your comfort.Its not as bad as you think.
884754
If you are not ready for sex...don't do it and stop worrying about his blue balls.  He can go home and take care of himself.  Don't let him make you feel bad and pressure you into anything that you do not want to do.  Good Luck.
1100595
go slower and more foreplay and just enjoy yourself and be glad you have someone to have intercourse with...i could of course but i want to love and care about someone before i go there...
1039504
the first thing I suggest is to get a thorough work up by a doctor to see if there is a physiological reason for this. \n\nI also sugggest you take the pressure off of yourself and do not try to have sex again until you find out what is going on with you to cause the impotence. No point in setting yourself up to feel inadequate again.\n\nYou can just be honest with the girl you really like and tell her you are not ready to have sex until you find out what's causing the impotence.\n\nIf she drops you for that then she wasn't worth it.\n\nIf the doctor finds nothing wrong physiologically then it sounds like a physchological issue. \n\nAt that point I would go talk to a counselor or therapist.
869097
If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.
131866
I perfectly understand, and it is not a matter of the year we live on. I know for experience that this can be really hard to manage but you have to realize that the reason why you are not going to have sex is by choice, not prohibition, if you think you are missing something or have such a hurry but dont want to get "punished" or loose privelegies, you have to sit and make a self exam where you can settle the reason. M********* i dont recommend, you'll feel guilty, do some work, exercise, read, get out of bed when you feel like doing it, find out the facts that make you urge... hope this helps
894475
If she has a lower sex drive because of a condition such as pregnancy then going without sex for a little bit longer won't hurt you.  \n   If you're becoming unhappy in your relationship because of this sex drive difference, then you might want to rethink things before they get any closer to marriage.  You can't turn back once you take the plunge and if she's not pleasing you now, it won't get any better once you're married.\n\nGood luck!!!
510664
WHEN HE DONT WANT TO AVE SEX NO MORE
637925
Stop worrying about coming and just think about how good it feels.  I am a woman, but I think it is probably about the same.  I have to think about how good it feels even when I don't feel very sensitive.  Think whatever it is you think right before you come and I think it will help.  However, I don't know if you have tried other postions or what, but my hubby loves me to be on my stomach with my legs together and his stradled over mine.  Whenever he's getting too tired to shoot he just flips me on my belly and puts it in and then puts his legs outside mine and is usually off in a minute or two.  I think it works cause I squeeze my muscles together around him, which is only easy to do in this postition.  Best wishes
150682
Be content when you are not having sex, and when you have sex enjoy it.  Then, you'll be happy having sex, forever. I would suppose.
1067179
Try keeping mobile phone in Vibrating mode in ur vagina when ever u feel like having SEX....... \n\n\nI think u need to wait till u get married or atleast have sex monthly once and then 3 months once and then U understand wht i am telling .....\n\nONE more impt thing is Stop thinking abt tht often ,,,,, U have lots of things in this world apart from tht,,,, Try visiting Blind school or ORPHANS school involve in helping them ,,, and divert ur mind for few days and every thing will go righttttt...
379676
Use your hands and your mouth to give your partner pleasure. Lots of hugs. Massage. If you don't want penetration, try watching each other m**turbate. Libido is in your head. Eat properly, cut out junk. Lots of soy products. No sugar or sodas. Cut out wheat. Reduce salt and meat. Get fit. Read sexy books, watch sexy movies. Have fun.
550421
Hi!\nWhat really helps is keeping your weight down and your abdominal muscles up (you don't have to have a 6-pack, or a hard as rock tummy, just excercise it enough). I've discovered that if I control those two, the pain and crisis just go away. \nREALLY.\n\nGoodluck!
133588
don't make sex. No sex no pain
805393
First you should make an appointment to make sure your ok and no infection is going on, I would say use a sensitive skin soap down below when you wash, and only use cotton underwear, they really help, lets you breath down there, and maybe take a quick shower before you are gonna make love, just so you can feel better, but for sure get to the doctor!!
959232
This is an awful situation. \n\nYou lie there with an erection, emabarassed not knowing what to do.\n\nYou have to ask her if you can kiss her, and see what happens.\nIf she says no, then you have to ask yourself what the point of the whole exercise is.\n\nThere are a good number of women who don't like sex out there.