I'm a green-eyed monster- can you help me get over jealousy??
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Come on honey, you are too young to be worrying about this stuff! You're not even a teenager yet and there are going to be many other relationships for you before you find the "right one". So just have some fun and don't worry about boyfriends for a few more years. Hang out with guys as friends and holy cr@p, maybe you should try being a "prude" for a while longer! Forget about this guy, he sounds like a big waste of time, boy wh*re, jack@ss anyway!
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You can justify jealousy if you want to, but if you are this persons friend as well - you should turn the jealousy into envy.\n\nEnvy her good luck and wish you had the same but dont let it affect your behavior.  My best friend is Rich and I am not.   I Envy her good fortune (she worked for it very hard) and still love her.   I tell her, you are my Rich Friend and tease her but she has me to keep her real and down to earth, by commenting.  "You just spent what I pay a month for rent on earings..... you can afford to but why do it chickie?"  "Time for you to volunteer at the free clinic and get perspective my friend."\n\nEnvy can be loving and still a positive emotion.  Jealousy indicates a selfish and mean mentality.
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Be happy for your friend. Let her have her own time to shine....like you had your time. I can totally see why you'd be upset, though. It'd make me the same way. The only thing I can tell you to do is to deal with it. You may cause a fight if you show your jealousy. Let her have her time in the spotlight, and soon, her time will fade as well. Good luck!
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Weeell, i've been there before. it upset me a lot because he didn't just "look", he gave "several glances" to "several girls" "several times" whenever we were out.no matter what anyone says, its awful.its also absolutely rude to you.i'll guess, not only were you jealous, you felt insulted.the thing i worried most about was, if the girl and other people noticed what he was doing,they'd ask themselves why and check me out, too.maybe even feel sorry for me.i didn't like that thought one bit.i'll tell you what, there are men who are real gentlemen who wouldn't do that.if you're he's girl, he should give you undivided attention, have eyes only for you when you're together.that's what he'd also want from you.no, its absolutely normal that you're upset.i think its just really rude what he's doing.you wouldn't want to be rude enought to check other guys out infront of him, would you?although he does deserve an equal dose of his own medicine.honey, if you're beginning to feel insecure all the time, its not always because there's something wrong with you, although you can help yourself and do something about it.but most likely there is something he's doing to cause it
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I know exactly how you feel. My bf thinks I'm looking, I'm not. I just find the people watching is relaxing, that's all! I told my bf that he should know that if I wanted another boy, I'd be gone, but I'm with him and I really enjoy his company. I don't know how to make your gf realize that this is a pastime you like to do, but all I can say is reassurance is always the key. So Watch On!
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Jealousy is a character flaw, I personally think that you are a mature person , whom has moved past  the initial bad feelings, this is a good thing. Your new girlfriend needs an attitude adjustment and a reality check, she is your current love interest. The only reason she told you to break off your relationships with your Exes, was to try to control you.
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Jealousy is a heck of a demon to fight. Start maybe with trusting yourself and then your man. As trust is one of main cornerstones of a relationship. Sometimes jealousy is warranted, does he flirt alot when you are right there? That can be uncomfortable. Let him know what he is doing, if he does that and how it makes you feel like a piece of garbage, that he pays attention to another when you are right there. Then again some guys are born flirters and heck they don't even know they are doing it until they get in over their heads and someone takes them seriously.. Your self confidence, is by far the most important thing and has nothing to do with jealousy. It is believing in yourself, your dreams and ideals. It really isn't all that difficult and though so many will try to knock you down in life, you just have to get right back up and know that you are who you are and if they don't like it to friggin bad.\n To many are falling for this idea that there self confidence is no good, it is a way to get you into therapy. There are alot of great websites that will just give you a thought a day. It is thinking positive, yeah negative stuff is going to happen, but you know you can pull through it and that is what counts. Never let anyone tell you different
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Jealousy is referred to as the "green-eyed monster" in a Shakespearean play.  I'm not sure which play it is right now, although I want to say it's Othello.  It might be a reference to Shakespeare.
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i think u should get over her first, but that can take some time.and why being jealous?, u sure deserve better.good luck
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The fact that you see your fault in your current marital problems indicates that you are NOT crazy.\nI do think, however, that you should maybe see someone about your jealousy issues PRONTO.\nIn what I've seen here, it doesn't sound like you don't trust her, just that you're making your own self crazy, and making her a little crazy too.\nYou need to fix what you can, and fix it fast.  \nWhat you CAN fix:  You, anything that has to do with YOU, what it is that YOU do, what YOU think, what YOU feel, etc.\nWhat you can NOT fix:  What someone else does, what someone else thinks, what someone else wants, what someone else feels, etc. (someone else = your wife)\nIf you're smart, you will get off it & keep your mouth shut, before you do have a hand in driving her into someone else's arms, be it this guy or anyone else.  FYI, you stated yourself that their relationship is more professional, and again I say...you've not indicated in the slightest that you do not trust your wife.\nGet your head on right, and stop pressing the issue before it's too late.\nAnd to answer your initial question:  They're only friends.
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This is usually a test that goes against your interests but you will know for sure.  Try to push him towards another female whom he may be interested in... when he shows interest, check out if the green monster appears.  If you get jealous, you can be pretty sure that it's more than platonic feelings that you feel for him.\n\nDISCLAIMER:  If he does fall for the other girl and leave you heartbroken, that's the risk you take in this test ok?
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I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
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Wow, that is a tough thing you are going through! It is always hard to go through relationships. People are not perfect and we all have our issues and quirks. If you are really unhappy with your living arrangements, then try to find something that better suits you. \n\nThere is nothing wrong with having lots of friends. If there is jealousy involved it could really be an issue of feeling insecure. It is best to not put "all your eggs in one basket" in relationships. The more positive people you have in your life, the better.
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Ask yourself why you are attracted to them? What do they have that you admire? Maybe you just need to feel that way about something that you do very well, and have others admire you the way you do them. Find something that you love. It can be anything that's good for your heart, mind, body and spirit. As a young woman you are "raging" on the inside to get out and find something that defines yourself as being that charismatic! You have what it takes to begin to find something unique about yourself that others might look up to you for. Pride is not always a bad thing, as long as you have compassion.\n\nI  have learned that I don't obsess about my body but to look and feel great takes special care to myself. If I feel good that makes me nicer and happier about other people: they can really suck too! The more you obsess too much about others, it means YOU are the one you should be really focused upon, not anyone else. \nTake a closer look at what perfect really is, the definition is insanity. Normal, there's another word that reminds me, "Is normal such a good thing? Why not be different." I love going out to try anything new, that's the reason I don't need a PICTURE OF PERFECTION. My definition is much different than yours.\nYours truly,\nHOLLIE
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Trying to make u feel jealous!Go get her!
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Sweety slow down....Envy is a natural feeling, you are not a bad person.  Try looking and thinking about the things that you do well.  I'm sure that you have talents everyone does...She , although you think she's perfect, probably has things about herself that she doesn't like.   I'm guessing that you are a young teenager, so hormones and depressions are part of the deal.  But if you are crying all the time, tell your mom or dad and go see a doctor.  If you can't talk to them tell your guidance counselor, and maybe she can help you a little.  Teenage years are hard, but hang in there baby, life does get better.    Remember think about yourself and what you do well, and what looks good about you.   God Bless
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All women are jealous, regardless of how in love or attractive they are. Just tell him point blank that you dont appreciate him talking about other women like that. Just make sure that you say it calmly, or he will have an adverse reaction and think that you are trying to control him.