what do you do when you have family members that just can't handle their money, nor pay their bills?
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When you find out let me know.  To some of my family members, I am the First National Bank.  They always want to make a “loan”, but they don’t want to pay it back.  I calculated that if had charge them interest for all the “loans” I would be a millionaire.\n\nTo be honest with your question, don't bail these family members out.  They need learn how to stand on their own two feet.  If they can’t (or won’t) pay the bills then the can suffer the consequences.  If they know that you help them out then the will continue in their ways.  \n\nOne example is when my brother told me that he had no money to pay his electric bill and wanted a “loan” to pay it.  The week before my brother bought over $100 of computer equipment.  He got mad at me when his light got turn off.  I don’t feel bad about it because it was his fault.  He should have paid his bills before buying computer equipment.  Anyway I would have never seen the $200 again.  By the way my brother is 50+.  Some people never learn how to handle money.
1055325
You have to do something.  You either have to put an end to it, which hopefully is possible, or you have to notify the authorities.  You can't let your one family get repeatedly stolen from.  And if this one family member will steal from another, who knows what they'll end up doing to you.
82725
What you should do is talk to them and explain your situation... Also I would look into going through a debt consolidator... That is what I do... and I was in your situation and now all I have left is less than a year and I am debt free!!!! I had to go to court for one of my bills... and when I did that the person said that they couldnt take money I didnt have, so they worked with me so I am paying a very low payment... SO your best solution is to talk to all of them... They may be able to help you out...
219869
He can't pay you back and isn't man enough to tell you. If you want a relationship with him forget about the money it's gone hope it wasn't allot. When loaning money to family never loan what you can't afford to give because it is usually what it is and you will either loose the money or the family member. Only other way is a contract to keep from having money coming between family members it is the best way that their is no Misunderstandings if it's in writing
672025
You shouldn't have to pay your parents debts after they passed away it isn't your responsibility the bills and such should be gone talk to the creditors they will help you. As for you and your sister its going to be hard to raise your sister but you can do it don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it and take a break or if its too ruff for you if you had family around maybe they can help too. Ill pray for you and God Bless you and your sister.
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I can't answer for others, but I can speak for myself.  I have more money than the rest of my family and I have worked very hard for what I have.  Members of my family are always coming to me for money.  I am tired of it.  I have a sister and a other family members that do not work and look at me like a bank.  I do not mind giving a hand up, but I am sick of giving hand outs.  I now refuse to help those that refuse to help themselves.  However, that doesn't mean I don't help others.  Two weeks ago I paid for an eye exam and a pair of glasses for a woman I didn't know.  I met her in the doctors office and she was crying, they wouldn't accept medicaid as payment.  I talked to her and heard her story.  I then told the lady I would pay her bill and I did.  It cost a few hundred dollars, but I felt it was the right thing to do.
852059
My sister-in-law has a son who sever ties with her because he felt she didn't give him enough money which he feels is his inheritance!!! \n\nIf you are in this situation, let him go.
640265
most funeral homes understand that people sometimes need help with final expenses.  don't wait till the bill is due, go talk to them and explain the situation.  i'm betting they will come up with a payment program that works for you.  sorry for your loss.
870355
Trying to teach them you can't spend more money then you have. Even though the average family is in Debt therefor spending more then they make.
920160
don't end your precious life so easily, your family will feel sad, think of them. money is not everything in life. yes, without money we can do nothing. talk to the banks, tell them your situation, banks cant do anything if u have no money to repay, but at least, when u tell them your situation, they can help to work out a payment plan. banks just need u to continue payment although is over a period of time. they gain nothing if you declare bankrupt cos it is very "troublesome" for them too. dont worried sure there is a way out. ( from my experience, i accounted the same situation too.) i did not end my life cos i dont want to be a failure to my family, we have to care for our families' feeling if we commit suicide. just being curious, 1. how u  get hold of credit card with your monthly income 2. u gamble? so the debts is snow-balling ?
989169
I would say contact your local Department of Social Services....they may assist in the bill, or pay all of it...or even suggest a location where this service may be free or at least on a reduced pay plan?  Good luck!
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Check with an attorney to see if you can get her declared incompetent and you should seek power of attorney to make financial decisions on her behalf.  It sounds like your brother has started this process already.  So discuss with attorney the possibility of courts deciding which of you have her best interests at heart.  \n\nI'm really sorry about what you are going through, when money gets in the middle of family affairs sometimes it gets complicated.  \n\nBest of luck to you and your mother!
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You can not take a deduction for them. If they had a social security number and lived here and you pd 50% of their support you could. You might see if there is a non profit (like a church) org that you could donate to that would help your family. That would be the only way. Bless you for taking care of them!!!
1101431
You should always put your needs and the needs of your family first.  It is very nice to try and help out but not on your account or your families.  Why don't you try fundraising or something.  I'm sure there are people out there who would be willing to help out, especially if that person is a good person and they know of his/her situation.  There are also programs to help with financial aid.  Do some research first before you do anything drastic like that.
754008
your best bet is to pay them off yourself.  If its come to the point where you can't pay 'em, negotiate with your creditors, if they threaten you, threaten them back by replying that you are going to file bankruptcy because you can't keep up with interest payments, and they should be able to just all of a sudden come up with a payment plan....
700226
I am sorry for your loss and my condolences to you and your family.As long as you or any family member has not co-signed on any of her debts the creditors will have to just eat that debt, as far as their constant harrasment you may want to provide them with a copy of the death certificate or mark the correspondence deceased return to sender and that may get most of them off your back .
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You can contact your public assistance office, The good will, the salvation army, or catholic services may help. Been down the same road you are now. Good luck! Also if you call the power company, most times they will be willing to set up payment arrangements.