should i arrest the 12yo who bullies and molested my 5yo. and a 5yo boy on the bus? And what should school do?
93864
Yes, and you should do it immediately.  Most likely he himself has been abused, so some intervention is needed now.  You also need to get your daughter in counseling - immediately.  Personally, though some may think it is drastic, I would change my daughter's school and probably drop her off too.  How would you feel if you had to see someone that did that to you everyday?
30632
newstudent is right. You should report the abuse right away to the police, Social Services, CPS, a teacher. Whoever is appropriate for the type of abuse should be notified. There is NEVER a reason for any type of abuse!
1173616
Mr Chris: you should start keeping a log of all your activities, report all your incidences to school officials, they are there to create a safe environment for you. If at any time you do not feel safe report it to your principal or counselor. If you need to sue the school district because they failed to protect you, your log you kept will help you in the court of law!!!\n\nPS. your log is like a diary!
708529
You need to talk to the authorities at your school.  "spying" and "being picked on" are not criminal offenses.  This is kids being kids and it needs to be handled by the school.
257610
Well first thing I'd do is make sure the kid that pushed you stops messing with you. I would start by letting one of your parents know about the problem or you could go to the Principle of your school since it happened at the bus stop.  Which ever you decide I think the guy who caused the problem should have to pay the price not you. If nothing else works I'd open a can of whup-ass on the fool who pushed you. You might still have to pay for the torn pants but the guy might not mess with you after that.
789614
I suggest the school counciler or maybe someone in your church. The best thing that could happen would be if they did tell. What if this same person has moved on to another child now? And you can be the one to help that child. God Bless you and have mercy for what some jackass has put you through.
83112
I went through a very similar situation and after months of being told by the teacher and the principal that there must be a problem at home, I found out another child was having the same problems mine was.  The other mom and I got together and came up with a plan.  We each got our child to tell us why the other child was having so much trouble.\n\nTurned out there was another child in the class bullying and intimidating ours so badly that there were days they spent all their time huddled under their desks.  \n\nWhile I still could not get the school to admit to a problem, I did find a sympathetic vice principal who allowed my child access to her office at any time he felt he could not handle being in the class anymore.  \n\nIt wasn't the perfect solution but it got us to the end of that school year and I made sure I had some say in what class he went into the next year.  Things improved after that.  \n\nIf you truly are not having discipline problems at home and the only place there really seems to be a problem is at school, then I would be looking very hard at why there is a problem at school.  Don't take the teacher's word for anything...that teacher may very well be the problem.  Talk to other parents and find out if anyone else is going through something similar to what you are.  Make sure your child understands that you know there is a problem and you are doing your best to help.  Let him know he has you on his side.  \n\nGood luck.  Sure would like to know the outcome of this one.
632018
Ok here is what you do.  I am a school bus driver and if the bus company has cameras on the bus they can pull the tape to see if any of the things you say are going on. Also, tell your dean or counselor at school they can help you. My daughter has the same problem and I nip it in the bud real quick.  Your mom is not over dramatic she is just trying to protect you.  Please do the right thing. Fighting him back may feel good at first but if he does not get caught and you do, all you will feel is more angrier. See if your school has a cease and dissist order to sign. That also works very well.
1051590
Ok, I am a gay man. I have no kids of my own, but I have lived with a partner who had children. My partner worked long hours and I took up the role of being the main parent. His children referred to me as their other daddy. I was proud to be this to them. Here is what I advised them.\n\nFirst, any type of fighting or physically violence is wrong. If at all possible teach yourself and your brother to walk away from the fight. If certain bullies persist tell your principles. They have to act upon it. If they do nothing your parents can go to the school board and have it acted upon. If the school board does nothing then you can have the school board, and the parents and the kid in courts. You need to be brave and stand up for you and your brother and your fathers. Be proud of them and who you are. A family.\n\nThey other thing you need to do is continue to talk to your fathers and tell them about your fears. They will listen. If the situation is bad enough, one or both of them will take some sort of action to help you and protect you. If it comes down to moving away then so be it. But running away from a problem has never solved the problem. Be strong, and God will be on your side, for you are in the right here.
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since you are at school for all of this... and yes you arent going to like my answer but it is the truth... you should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor about the bullies... after that eventually if they do anything else to you, tell on them and they will have to stay away from you... if they have to stay away from you then you can walk right up to your friend...
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I myself had these situation before.Here what I did \n1.I ask my child who is the Bully?ASK Your kid every detail\nand write it down.\n2. Contact the teacher and Principal and communicate with both at the same time.\n3.Talk to other parents and see how many time this boy or girl attack other children.\n4.I went to the Principal and file a paper with her or him.\n5.Give the Principal a chance to act.Then if not go to the school District and tell the superintendent and see if he or she wants to stop.If not Call the attorney and One PAPER FROM THE LAWYER WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE.\nMAKE SURE YOU TEACH YOU CHILD ABOUT BULLY.\n6.ADVOCATE EVERYONE IN YOUR CHILD CLASSROOM ABOUT BULLY KID.MAKE SURE YOU CAN VISIT YOUR CHILD OFTEN ESPECILLY BREAK TIME AND LUNCH HOUR.
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hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
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If they were dumb enough to get involved with a gang fight. They deserved to be arrested. Maybe they will wake up.\n\nYes, you should at least tell you school counselor or your principal. Or at least a parent. Your friends destructive behavior needs to be curbed before someone gets hurt or killed. \n\nHow would you feel if something happened to one of them and you hadn't said anything?
791120
Yes you should. I know you don't want anything to happen to that little girl. You're probably not the only one he molested.
94827
I agree you should Tell your school counselor, Or if it gets really bad call the cops!!! Especially if it get worse then verbal!! \n\nAlso sarcastic had a point, put it in a different category but I'm sure there isn't to much rif raff answering 360 questins but I'm sure we're not experts as much as the right category would be.
459756
Have her talk to someone at her school (teacher, counselor, etc.) -- they have to take action if she reports abuse. Separately, she can call child protective services or, for an emergency situation, the police.
953072
I taught at a school in Ca.  It is true that the schools are limited in what they do to protect other kids from being bullied.  Several of the answers were very appropriate.  Most important thing would be to document each and every incident.   I would then (as someone said) write a letter to the school with pictures of marks, along with any statement of your child.  Send it registered or certified mail to the school, the teacher, and the superintendent.  If there are marks on your child, I would immediately file a police report and send that in the certified letter.  Request a response to the letter and a meeting with all parties involved to find a way to solve the issue.  What many people do is complain and try to resolve it on their own, but nothing will happen until someone gets really hurt.  You need to demand that a  plan be put in place to protect your child.  If this does not happen, you will file suit.  Make sure everything is in writing.  Have your child seek counseling (not through the school).  if you do not have the money to pay for it, then find a place that charges on a sliding scale or will give free services.  Bring the counselor to your school to represent your child.  Do not wait for the school to take any action.  It could take forever or not happen at all.