I am married,My chatmate and I fell in love with each other but no plan to meet in person. Is this infidelity?
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Remember, physical touch is not the basis for love. We can get physical with someone yet have no real love for them. Love is a commitment and a sacrifice (Remember those vows you made to your spouse? "Til death do you part.")Though you may have no plans to meet with your chatmate you have obviously developed a bond with this person that is reserved for you and your spouse alone. So, yes this infidelity.\nDump the chatmate and reignite the passion for your spouse!
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Yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone without ever seeing them. I actually like to think of it as one of the purest forms of love. :)\n\nAs far as your secret goes, it really depends on the secret. If you're married, you probably shouldn't have been talking to him like a love interest in the first place. If you have a child or something, that's nothing to worry about. If you are both married and have a child, CEASE COMMUNICATION IMMEADIATELY! lol Anyway... \n\nI would have to say that you should tell him this secret. If you can't be completely open with him, then it really isn't meant to be. Trust me. Lies and secrets will ultimately destroy a relationship. Someone eventually finds out. Just tell him, otherwise you'll be stuck in this situation for a while. If he doesn't want to talk to you anymore, it really wasn't meant to be. If he still does want to talk to you, you two will be much better off for it. :) Either way, my point is that you cannot fight what will inevitably happen. If you don't tell him, he will find out eventually...\n\nSo go do the right thing. :)
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No, I wouldn't let it come between us. Eventually, one person would relocate, but that's just logistics. Hummm...about meeting someone online? I guess it would depend where you met them. Typically people you run into in chat rooms or on free sites don't tend to be of the same quality (or want the same things out of a relationship) as people who use paying services.
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You are taking your affections outside of your marriage and that is cheating.\nHe was trying to be understanding with the first escapade but now it is becoming serious and you need to listen to him or your marriage will fall apart.  \nIf you abslolutely cannot control your need to be with a woman, you will have to stop telling him about it......
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maybe..until u meet him!!  love is @ FIRST SIGHT well at least!!!!!! NOT meeting online sweetie. Best Of Luck!!!!!
193459
I think it maybe possible but may take awhile looking and getting to know people here. I have a good friend here on Yahoo that I chat with and she met her future husband online. So it's possible just don't give up yet you never know you might meet your mate here or elsewhere. hang in there!
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Are you really in LOVE with HIM?  Or is it the idea of new love and that feeling of new love, that you're in love with?  Especially being a married woman, after a little bit of time you lose that new love/lust euphoria.  Perhaps there are some things that you are missing in your marriage that you are looking for in this new guy.  I know it doesn't answer your question, but perhaps you should work on the marriage that you're already in and see if you can improve it, because you must have LOVED your husband at one time
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Yes, there is SUCH a thing as a 'connection.' I met a buddy online, I have never met him in person, he lives in another country, and over the 6 years we have been chatting we have learned a great deal from each other, he can even tell when I'm having a bad just by my style of writing.  We have exchanged family pictures through the course of the 6 years, we have grieved, rejoiced and celebrated many wonderful events, all through the YAHOO medium.  And sex was never an issue, it was never first nor foremost in our relationship.  We exchanged many stories regarding sexual content, but it was never what kept us together as friends.\n\nI also have a wonderful online connection with my college sweetheart, he writes and chats with me, going on 4 years now.  Yes, we reminisce about the OLD days, but again, sex is not the issue, we share a common connection, the past.\n\nMy current partner, and I have a wonderful connection, we have grown together through the bad times and good times, compromising for the best.  I think the key is patience.  The person you are meant to be with, will eventually come your way, don't force it--it will happen eventually either online or in real life.\n\nGood Luck and prosper...;*!*;...
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It does not sound like you are in love. Just because you have the same morals and great sex does not make it love. One of the best things about marriage is laughing and if you don't have that, you can't make it. It sounds like you are in for a very dull and unhappy life sweetie, I hope you can find a way out.
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Yes.  You can fall in love with someone over the internet.  It is like meeting a guy from a bar.  You really don't know what their intentions are or if they are who they claim to be.  Love is a risk.  You have to be willing to take that chance.  Don't live the rest of your life what if.  If you get your heart brok- so what, move on with life.  I did.  I used to talk to someone that I never met.  I was falling hard.  We talked about everything.  Then...poof kramarillo_1 was no more.  He disappeared.  I did not even have closure.  But I got over it.  I dust myself off and gave it another shot.  I started talking to this other dude.  He sounded mean when we spoke on the phone.  It sounded like he had no emotion in his voice.  He came by plane to see me.  After that...game over.  Soon after that, I was selling all I owned and traveling with only what could fit in my car to start a new life with him.  I truly feel like Cinderella.  I have never been more in love.  I remember when we started talking.......we would have 5 hour conversations and talk periodically throughout the day.  We could not get enough of each other.  Even though we were different in many ways.......we completed each other.  I am so glad I took that chance.  Just imagine if I listened to my friends and family.  I would probably be single and lonely once again.  I found my other half.  But you do have to be careful.  There are many crazy people out there.  By talking to this person on a regular basis the true side will reveal itself sooner or later.  I have experienced the most mannerable person turning into a complete stalker.  You will feel it.  You know what's good.  Good Luck.
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Let's summarize:\n\n1) We are not friends\n\n2) We are not together\n\n3) I don't have anything to say\n\n4) I found my perfect match\n\nSomething is not adding up.  Give me a break.  You are infatuated not in love.  My advice, move on until you find someone you are friends with and when you are together you can talk for hours about nothing.
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Yes, people can fall in love online. Does it work out? Sometimes. My brother and sister-in-law met in a chat room, about ten years ago. They have been married since 1998 and have 2 kids.\n\nSometimes they are worth it. Sometimes they are not. You really can't get a definite answer with this question. If both people are willing to put into the relationship by treating each other with respect, trust, honesty, understanding, and the willingness to compromise and communicate thoughts and feelings openly, then things have a high chance of working out.\n\nThough sometimes the most perfect matches don't work out. Other things get in the way, like time and distance. It's up to the two people involved to judge whether it's worth it to continue. But I think it's worth giving it a try.
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Get on messanger and have your do same you can chat to each other about all the little things that happen daily that you are missing by not being together. It is also a lot easier to be honest about feelings in writing, maybe when she hears how you are really feeling you'll find out she feels the same and decide to stop having a long distance marriage. Find out what your priorities are. Your family or money. If you can find time to have a "FRIEND?" You have time for your wife. Remember your sacred vow to love her till death. Would you want her doing what you are thinking of, because you know  looking for a friend may sound harmless but it won't stay that way. Please try and be more realitic.
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Hi! I would be very very careful about how you meet this person. I am not trying to be negative. My husband and I were matched and engaged from a matrimonial based website. We are very happily married now. \n\nBut you still don't know this person very well so it is important to be careful and protect yourself. Meet him at a safe location (like the mall, busy restaurant, public place) in the DAYTIME. Don't meet in a parking lot or anyplace where he could possibly follow your car. This way if things go badly, then you can excuse yourself to the ladies room and leave by yourself. \n\nDon't take a ride with him alone. Having a friend come along with you would not be a bad idea. But if you decide to go alone to meet him then let someone know where you are going and what time you will be back. Have some change for a phone call/cell phone in your car so that you can call someone if anything happens. \n\nHe may seem like a nice person but you really never know. My courtship to my husband lasted several months and before we were engaged, I corresponded with his friends and family to be sure that he was a sincere person. If he is really interested in starting a serious relationship with you, then he will be patient and will also be willing to answer your questions about him and his background. If he is defensive and acts irritated by this then he is not the right kind of person for you. Go by your judgement but don't rush anything and certainly don't go to his house unless its to meet his mother.
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Oh dear... My husband and I meet on yahoo chat... We both fell in love with each other, but were very busy with work and school... we were two stats away from each other... we didn't want to beak each-others hearts, so we decided to be friends... two years went by, and he ended up driving to meet me. It was suppose to only be for a week, but he ended up staying and moving in with me... \n\nYou are not being selfish. Long distant relationships are hard. A large part of being in love is the physical connection with each-other. It is only natural that you want to meet him, to hold his hand and to kiss him. His schooling is important to him, and it shows how much you care for him by understanding that.\n\nI say be friends... continue on with your life... if it is meant to be that you two are suppose to be more than friends one of you will end up with the opportunity to get on the plane so you two can meet.
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did you get married? only then you are life partners.\n\nuntil then you are "seeing each other"
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Yes. You are not doing your marriage any good by chatting with other women. How would you feel if your wife did that to you.\n\nInvest your time in your wife and family and stop looking over the fence. The grass is not greener and you will be sorry if you lost a good woman.