my problem is i often lie to my mom.i get my pocket money from my dad.Often i spend my money without teling?
97513
if you want your mother to trust you (vital for dates in the future) you have to show her that you WILL NOT lie to her. Tell her you got the funds from your dad. mom might be afraid you are stealing. then promise not to lie again. it is hard but if you keep this from her, it will get bigger and harder to tell the truth. nothing beats honesty - especially with your parents.
1164107
Most cell phone companies offer a free long distance, hence why I chucked the idea of having a home phone long ago. I could sit on the phone for hours with my brother who at the time lived out of state (now he lives in another country) and not pay one cent. If your plan is like this, she'll see all those calls, but you guys won't be charged for them. If it isn't, level with her. She'll probably be pretty upset with you for running up a big bill, but tell her you're sorry and you would like to make it up to her by paying off the bill. At 14, you're probably too young to get even a mall job, but you could earn your keep by cleaning the house (no doubt, a giant help to Mom there) or babysitting. It will show her you're responsible enough to own up to your mistakes. As for the boyfriend she doesn't know about, let me ask you this...do you think it's really healthy for you, a 14 year old with no mode of transportation, to have a boyfriend that's not only 17 but also lives so far away that you can't have a real relationship? And how do you know he is the age he says? Maybe he's some 40 year old perv! Gross! Have you even met him in person? It's not so wise to invest so much time (and so much money if your cell plan isn't like mine) on someone you know in such a superficial way (meaning you don't know each other in 3-D). I'd try to meet guys in your area that are around your age and try to forget about this guy. Your mom probably won't like this one bit. If she asks who you were talking to, you really can't lie. My dad would call the numbers I had to make sure that's who I said I was talking to. Fess up now before you get yourself into more hot water that you can't get out of.
59185
I am going to assume that you are a teen still living with your mom.  \n\nThe sooner you tell her, the better!  Be sure that you go in to this conversation without an attitude, and do NOT fight with her.  Apologize for dissapointing her and tell her that you will do your best to make it as right as possible!  \n\nI wish you the best!
541284
You need someone to take your check from you and give you allowance for you to spend on whatever. Yes a shrink could help but you get pleasure out of getting new things and that might not go away. I think you need to tell yourself if you spend alot of money on whatever do you ever actually use, wear, or need those items you bought?
767294
if the person has a lot of cash all of the time and don't have a job, they are likely a criminal. if your dad is good to you and your family, why bother. if he is not good to you, go for it.
78169
This is a family issue. You know you are innocent so, I would allow your mom to know whats going on. Yes even your father. They can be your greatest allies here. Sometimes parrents can be a true blessing and in this case, maybe MOM has a few tips up her sleeve that can really help. After all she was once your age and had her best friend too. I would goto them with everything and let them in on it. That way your relationship to your folks is greatly inhanced and they may even have the solution you need. Its worth a shot.
1070530
Is your dad a thief? No this really isnt a chat up line if thats what your thinking.... its just that I think i may have r a p e d him in prison. \n\nworks every time
1124955
I think you already gave yourself the answer.  Stop doing favors for someone who is ungrateful.  Don't be giving her money anymore.  Hang up on her if she is unpleasant on the phone.  Leave if you are together and she gets mean.\n\nIn other words, make it clear you aren't her doormat and you won't take it anymore.\n\nYes you can ignore her if you have to.  Families have a way of healing in time but first you have to break this bad pattern.\n\nDon't let your mom guilt you into putting up with it.  If your sister tries to use your parents to guilt you into doing what she wants, explain the situation to them and tell them you aren't going to be her dog anymore.\n\nYou are only suffering because you allow it to continue.
130520
Well I was seventeen when i got my first cell phone my parents were like yours they did not think i needed a cell phone in fact my dad thinks i do not need one now and I am 19. I think if you really need one its good for you to have one because if you have one you will have a way to call home or call someone when you are out somewhere. Trust me having to find a phone is hard as hell to do i hated when i had to do that. Explain to your parents your reason for wanting a phone. There are plenty plans out there that would be good for a 14 year old like yourself. My sister is 15 and my parents want let her have a phone unless she has the money to pay for one. So if your parents have to pay for your cell phone bill just wait until you are able to pay for one yourself. My parents have never had to pay for my cell phone bill. I had to wait until i got a job to pay for mines. but if you are dire need of a cell phone just explain to your parents why you need one.
276617
I think she is having the independant woman syndrome. Have her realize that you are are not giving her money for you own expenses, but assist in the raising of your kids. Maybe if she feels less like you are helping her directly and more like it is for the kids she will take money from you.
893893
This isn't your fault.  Your mother should have protected her credit card information better.  You're doing her a favor.  Teaching her a valuable life lesson.  She should know to trust no one.  \n\nIf that doesn't keep you from doing a couple of years in jail, quickly check yourself into a Twelve Step program for Shoppers Anonymous and hope you get a liberal judge who will place you on unsupervised probation when you get out of the program.\n\nWait - I'm getting a message from the beyond.  It's a little fuzzy, let me look into my crystal ball.  Oh, could this be an attempt at spam?  Are you getting paid everytime someone clicks on those three links you provided?  Yes, the vision is getting clearer.  Spam it is.
126886
No, it's not just your family.  I think it has something to do with knowing your family, and what is behind them wanting you to do something for them.  The history is there to draw from, and with a stranger, we never know what to expect ... We've all had family members that only need us when they want a certain thing from us.  That grows tiresome after a while and your less likely to give freely, without resentment.\n\nBut I find I don't ask my family for much EVER, because I don't seem to be given to freely without a big hassle of them pretending they want to, then complaining about how it put them out for minimal reasons, I don't impose on them, now if I really need something, or get into a tight spot with my schedules I rely on friends to back me, as I would for them, it's much more freeing to give and receive without someone keeping track of who owes who what.\n\nBut I have seen families that were worse than mine, like a family that had the understanding of "anything I do for you has a pricetag, and I expect you to pay me for it"....I couldn't imagine having a family member needing to move and if I had a truck telling them the rent on the truck was $30.00 a day and the gas needs to be on full when it's returned. Or helping them sell a car by giving your telephone number to someone and expecting a finders fee of half the profits, when you already paid them to help you fix the car up...I find those things odd.
163396
First, do you really need one? Do you go places and need to stay in contact with your parents? Do you just want to talk to your friends, if so that can be pretty  good bit of money. Talk it over with your Mom and tell her why you want or need a phone and discuss how or who is going to pay for it. Then leave it up to her. I feel she will do what she thinks is best. Then support her decision.
1156481
Well you didn't say that money was an issue and I don't know your age but alot of thought can go into this suggestion. My daughter did this years ago and her dad loved it.\n\nBuy some nice index cards and make 'coupons' for your dad to redeem when he wants to use the coupon. For example:\n\nThis coupon entitles you to 1 free car wash.\nThis coupon entitles you to a free lawn cut.\n\nThis is just examples so you have to think of what your dad would really like done around the house and make coupons for this. If he usually takes out the garbage or walks the dog, stuff like that he would love some help with. \n\nMake up the coupons and decorate them and put them in his fathers day card. I promise he will love it. He will know how much time you spent on the gift.\n\nHope this helps!!
103023
You sound real young also.You need to understand that she looks up to you .And you need to be her little friend.And for your cell-phone if you show your parents that you can be trusted and responsible than you'll have a better shot.
1080787
Honestly!  As a parent, I can tell when a young man is lying or being honest, because I was young once and know the games young people play.  Don't just say what you think they want to hear.  Speak the truth boy!
191366
I know exactly what your saying! A person in my immediate family does this constantly, and it gets to the point where you don't know what to believe and what not to. And in my experience, if they are habitual/pathological liars, calling them on it has little effect. Sometimes I wonder about the things they lie about ( in particular a card game that never occurred). If I were you, I would reevaluate my friendship/relationship with that person and consider if it's worth the time and effort...Hope it works out for you ..