Do you believe in past-relationship retribution?  Does what go around truly come around?
98125
I don't exactly believe in carma. I believe it's not exactly the way that we vision it. Of course, everyone meets that person that's there match. Someone so much like them, bad or good, and it's kind of wierd. Obviously, you've been meeting those people. I think the badness in relationships aren't based on "Oh, carma will get you", but eventually it'll happen to you because everyone meets that person, hopefully, that will open their eyes.
100997
It is quite possible that she really does regret her actions and will never do it again, especially since she told you.  But, having been in your situation before, I've found it extremely hard to "forgive and forget."  Both of you have to be really committed to make the relationship work after a major setback like that, but if she is truly sorry and you think you can trust her again, it should all work out.
125706
Yes, I have had many love/hate relationships.\n\nFor example, I may love the way someone looks but hate their personality and/or intellect (or vice versa.)\n\nI think my last relationship was a kind of love/hate situation. We both cared for each other deeply but also annoyed the hell out of each other.\nIt was fun.
1090139
I used to have a very close friend who turned out to have a very nasty temper lashing out at whoever was closest.\n\none day the target was me - and such thing were said that were totally unwarranted that the trust we had was destroyed (before this it was only rumour i had heard but hadn't seen anything like that in the 2 years i had actually known him)\n\ni still miss the friendship i thought we had but even though it was said in a rage i found that trust could not be regained\n\none can forgive the person but it takes two to rebuild trust again.  part of that process is the rager to acknowledge the harm that their outburst does without trying to downplay it - if they cant do that then your relationship may never be the same again\n\nbest thing then is to learn from it several things\n 1 - something once said cant as easily be taken back again\n 2 -  don't bottle things up until it all goes off bang - keep a shortish account of things you need to sort with people\n 3 - don't keep company with bad tempered people - either it rubs off on you or they will turn their anger onto you deserved or not
917182
We all get hurt, welcome to the club. Letting a past relationship affect how you treat other relationships is called "baggage." Release the bags as soon as you can and start fresh. You'll eventually get over it. \n\nIt's not a question of whether you deserved it or not, but more like what kind of motivation this guy who left you has. He may be a lying player, or he may be a nice guy who found someone he relates to better. It's hard, but dwelling on it hurts more and delays the process of getting over it.
209639
I had a ex of my get it once. it was about 2 years ago.  I thought about it the other day, brought up the "what if" question, but i wasn't in the position at the time to devote everything to a kid, so I think of it that way.
957356
Rarely! that all depends ,I guess,on how the break-up occured and if you both have totally resolved whatever it was that broke you up before.Trust me, if you are still angry about something from the past,it will come back to haunt you.Also, alot of times people fall back into the same bad patterns of behavior that may have broken you up the first time..So there is really no right or wrong answer here .It's totally an individual choice!
78633
Does it make you any better than the person who wronged you? I believe the best revenge is to succeed despite them. Banish them from your personal kingdom, and move on.
894829
I think that if you get f*cked over by someone once then that reflects badly on them...........if you let them back into your life, you should be guarded against making the same mistakes. If you blindly follow where your heart leads you and it turns out to be deja-vu then yes, the shame really does lie with you.\n\n"Once bitten, twice shy."
120443
Yes, I have played this game. First, I truly believed I was not worthy of being treated any better! Please, trust me when I tell you this...YOU ARE A VERY IMPORTANT SOMEBODY! You are worthy! You deserve the best because you are a Queen, and anything less is unacceptable!\nSecond, these kind of men never, ever change! They only get worse. It's almost like they must know, "Hey, she let me get away with that! I wonder if she'd do anything if I ________ !"\nThird, love does not hurt...ever!
180926
LOL is it revenge on an ex?  I have baked in the pleasure of getting sweet revenge.  Let me  know if you want any ideas
95009
I believe. This is because there is always a result of what you did in the past. That's the fruit of what you sowed in the past.
890711
2nd chances are a scary thing...I've found...through experience...they usually don't work out.  But everybody is different and people do change...so if you feel really strongly about them...why not.
571953
I have not, however it always comes to say 'what goes around comes around'--- The past is something that will always come back to you in one way or another!! People need to be more careful in what they do in the spur of the moment, it may not find you today, tomorrow, or next year, however, it will come back for you in one way or another!! God will never forget anything that you have done, and keeps track of EVERYTHING!!! Good Luck for what found you!!
599147
I had two, and one was a complete jerkoff!  He abused me, for instance, verbally and physically.  I kicked his butt to the curb!  The next one was the sweetest thing ever.  We stayed together for 2 1/2 years, and split up, but we are still friends.  You just have to find out the character of the guy, not his past.
397098
I beleive so...some don't want you to know the "real" them so they only let you see what they want...when things start getting deeper...they seem to want to back off...I truly beleive in my last relationship, this was the case.  He had too many secrets he didn't want to reveal.
713971
Short answer is no.  Revenge leads to an ever expanding round of retribution for the last wrong.  There is no end to it.  Just look at the middle east.