I am a really shy person and now I am in college w/no friends from home, how do i make new friends?
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Do you go to church?  A lot of churches have clubs that you can join for free.  Or how about joining Big Brothers/Big Sisters?  Again, free and you get a rewarding experience out of it.  I am shy too but there are always ways to meet wholesome people like us out there.  You just gotta look.  Good luck
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Start talking to other people in your classes! And hung out with them.... be open and be yourself. and don't tell them that your friends are running away from you. Be nice and fun!
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
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Learn to talk to people.  I think many people are painfully shy when it comes to talking to all but their closest friends.  I think that shyness stems from a lack of confidence and the idea that no one wants to look foolish in the eyes of others.\n\nYou must realize that everyone has the same concerns, even if it seems that they don't.  When you are in a group of people, pick out someone who also seems to be in the same boat as you, and start a conversation.  Share your interests and you will be amazed at how quickly you will make friends.  \n\nBest wishes.
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I have also been in that situation before. Moving to a new school is quite intimidating, but don't fret. The more that you have confidence in yourself and your situation, the faster you will be able to adjust. The best thing to do is join school clubs and volunteer for activities in your school. Being part of a group is a fast way of bringing people together and bonding with one another. Also, surf the Internet and look for local hangouts in your town, most cities have a website advertising the local hangouts...etc. Also, don't hesitate to speak with your guidance counselor at school, they are trained professionals there for your help, whether academically, or personally, they can help give you tips about coping with your move, and even give you good advice about how to meet some people at your school, I guarantee you that they know the local hangouts from hearing the teens talk about it in school. Of course, don't hesitate to talk to your peers, you can initiate a conversation with someone next to you in one of your classes or at lunchtime, lunch is designated as the social event of school!! Good luck, you'll be fine and have a kicking social life in no time!!
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How to make friends!\n\nBelieve it or not....... You can make more friends in a shorter time by becoming interested in other people \nrather than trying to get other people interested in you.\n\nSit back and think about it! Why should people be interested in you, unless you are first interested in them?\n\n \n\nMaking Friends\nMaking friends can be difficult, especially these days with so many peer pressures. You're the odd one out if your clothes are different, your hair is the wrong cut or colour, your shoes are bought on a budget and don't display the designer label, you happen to enjoy listening to the wrong kind of music, your folks are not as trendy as they should be, etc....etc...\n\nLet me tell you a secret!\nIf you want to develop a more pleasing personality and make friends.......... become genuinely interested in other people. Show kindness........ you may be wearing the latest designer label clothes, the hottest brand shoes and the coolest jewelry but if you display sourness and selfishness you'll have a battle ahead of you to make good friends.\n\nSmile\nSmile.....smile and continue to smile. It costs nothing, enriches those who receive it, happens in a flash but the memory lasts forever, it creates happiness in the home and classroom. A smile can not be bought, begged or borrowed, it comes from the heart. If you want other people to like you....... make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely!\n\nArguments\nSome people thrive on arguments, it gives them a sour disposition and creates a depressing atmosphere around them. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. If you are wrong admit it quickly and apologize. If the other person continues in an argumentative manner, excuse yourself and walk away. Don't bite..... as the saying goes.\n\nDoing the wrong thing!\nChoose your friends carefully. If others try to persuade you to smoke, take illicit drugs, steal, gamble, fight etc... dare to say NO. Doing the wrong thing is the quickest way to lose friends.... honest, good and upright friends. Stay on the right track and be a respected citizen with a sincere reputation. Remain on the right side of the law! Deep down in your heart you know what is right and good. You know when to say 'no' and you know when its time to walk away.\n\nBe Strong!\nBeing mentally strong is not always easy but let me assure you..... the more you practice it the easier it becomes. Soon those who thought they were trendy will want to dress like you, talk like you and be with you because you have a personality which is different. People like being different! Think about it.... if you dressed and acted like 10 million other people, are you different? NO........ So be yourself and don't give in to those horrifying peer pressures.\n\nDanger!\nIt is dangerous to follow a crowd. Crowds get lost in even bigger crowds. By being an individual with your own personality you can achieve the very best experiences in your life. You may not ever have many friends but let me tell you that it is better to have one good friend than ten dishonest friends who will stab you in the back at the very first opportunity that arises. You're treading on dangerous ground if you mix with the wrong type of 'friends'.\n\nGood luck
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start writing a journal, reading it back will help you discover more about yourself.\nread a lot of books.\ntry and start overcoming your shyness, meet other people and realise that you are fun to be around.
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Join a club or something at school. It can help you make new friends.
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This is a difficult one if you are in a foreign country and not too familiar with the language.  Firstly, homesickness is not a weakness - it is perfectly natural and human to miss what is familiar.  Secondly, get to know your new community.  Are you in college?  Join a group of people with similar tastes, interests.  Get more familiar with the language by joining a discussion group - your local library may have English discussion group notices pinned up.  You are obviously computer literate, so you could still stay in daily touch with some friends back home, whilst looking for new friends.  Good luck, Samir.  And keep smiling.  You will look back on this downer with nostalgia one day.
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When I was in college I hung out with a guy I worked with in the library. He was about ten years older than me, and had children of his own already, but he was fun. Just get involved in campus activities, join clubs, get a campus job, chat with people in your classes. Be your charming self.
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Talk to people in and around where you live.\nSee what they think of you.\nTry and get friends that really like you for you, not online.
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get your own place!\n\nI discovered early on that I don't like sharing space with other people and so I lived on my own through college. Life was much easier - a little more expensive, but worth every penny.
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go to online communities that interest you.  Or volunteer outside the home...that way you can meet new people and your parents wont give you a hard time
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You just need to have patince. Joining a college club may help but that doesn't agrantee that youl meet good friends there. Good friends you usually meet when you dont expect it. When you go to school go with a big great smile and say hello to everybody. And im sure someone wil come and to you. I dont have allot of friends but the one i have are good ones. Im studying in another country and in teh almost 2 year that im here i only made 1 good friend. Friends you can have allot but good friends are hard to make. So just take it easy. Better go slow now, so you dont get hurt later. Choose wisely. You don't want someone who wil betray you later. \nIf you want we can be online friends. if your interested look me up nice_dutch123@yahoo.com
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Socialization.  The shy person must try to stablish conversations with people how like to do the same things for example, you like to read, you must visit a library and start talking with the employers then compare books with someone, ask for references...if you like shopping, ask for details of what you are going to buy...if you are in a party talk about the person how invite you but with others person in the party, avoid answers like yes or no...try to be more detailed in the conversation...I used to be shy and nobody can believe me...good luck, start talking
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why don't you try joining a group like the college paper or a team? something that helps you and others meet new people. just make sure it's something you like, if it isn't then you wouldn't make friends that you would want to hang out with.
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Going to a new school can be a lil scary. But it can be just as exciting! \n\nSometimes making friends can be a challenge - especially if you're shy! So first off - you need to think of who you want as friends. Most people like to make friends with people who like to do the same things as they do.\n\nSmile! When you smile, people think you are nice and easy to talk to. \n\nStart a conversation by saying something nice to someone. "Great answer to the teachers question"\n\nAsk your new friend questions about themselves..."Whose your favorite singer?" Make sure you have plenty to offer a conversation to keep it going. (personal experiences, likes/dislikes...)\n\nA great way to meet new people is to get involved in an extra curricular activity. Wether it be signing up for something in school or outside of school!\n\nAs far as teachers go...it's their job is to teach you and your job as a student is to learn. Most teachers are approachable and willing to help you when you need it. If you are confident - you can introduce yourself but if not - in time they will get to know you and you them!\n\nIf you happen to bump into a bully: Try not to show them fear because they love that.\n\nIf you start feeling scared because someone has hurt you (punch, kicked) tell an adult right away!\n\nOtherwise, just be yourself! You are wonderful in your own ways!\n\nHave fun and good luck...