As an 18 year old is it normal to feel unwanted and/or paranoid about things such as a social life?
79251
Fotunately it will pass. The rediculous social structures self imposed on young adults tend to produce this feeling of self doubt. It is normal. You can overcome it by bettering yourself. Educate yourself in the ares that interest you. Gain confidence through experience. Try things that are out of your comfort zone. Only by getting to know what you're capable of do you know what your self worth should be. Confidence is a hard thing to know if your life is confined to such small circles. Don't fret the current paranoia you're going through. Many people around you who may have it all together now may crash and burn one day. You want your best days to be ahead of you, and not to be in  the "glory days" when you're 18. Life is long. You should always strive for self improvement. Do that and one day you'll realize that somewhere along the line you develope a healthy self respect...
707474
I would approach someone and talk about this. You may have depression (which can manifest itself as paranoia). Don't wait to talk to someone. If it isn't anything serious you can stop worrying about it. If it is something a little more serious, you need to get help as soon as possible.\n\nThese things are common in many people. The important thing is to get help and work through it.\n\nGood luck to you.
878035
Well yes for once i do feel like you. And the week that passed i was in the eye of the storm, loosing my cat and watching my puppy die. Since i have no friends either in the country i live the last 3 years, i lost my 2 precious "babies" that kept me some company, altho im only 26 and not bad looking.\n\nIn previous summer i had a horrible incident of panic attack , i could not breathe. I went to Hospital but nothing was organically wrong with me, it was psychologicly caused from anxiety and feeling awful all the time.\n\nSince then, and becouse i hate having panic attacks i try to relax and never let anyone spoil my personal moments.\n\nIn this i want to to point out how much important it is to focus on your life in case you have been focusing on making other ppl's lifes better and neglecting your own. (just in case)\n\nAlso, friends are easily made if you make an effort. I grew up travelling around and i know how hard it is, im not good at it either. But i have learned in practise, if you are happy to make friends, you will at the end! It is natural.\n\nJust dont expect too much from ppl, and always be easy on yourself...especially if u feel bad...take your time, cry or be lazy, dont ponder and dont ask "about the future"\n\nEnjoy your ,even lonely, moments. You are definitaley, NOT ALONE in this.
751013
PLEASE DO NOT GO ON DRUGS (AKA MEDICATION) FOR THIS!!!\n\nI used to be like that and many grow out of it as they figure out life.  It is actually VERY normal to an extent.  I am nervous about having to be around all these people at this gathering I have to go to tomorrow! -- I still haven't fully gotten over my self consciousness and paranoia!  But..\n It's normal.  It's important to stay focused, relax, be at peace.  These people can't harm you without your permission.  Take control.\nIt's your hormones most likely, especially being nervous around the girls.  \n\nPeople don't care AT ALL about what you look like or who you are, I swear to god~!\nPeople look at you, then they look away and carry on about their business, you think everyone is talking about YOU, out of the millions of faces in the crowd!?!  GET OVER YOURSELF! LOL\nPeople don't give a crap, people are shallow and fickle and into THEMSELVES! not you!\nThey are probably looking at you looking at them and feeling paranoid and self conscious themselves, \npeople are naturally focused more on number 1 than anything you are doing.\n\nPoint given:  Even people doing the most RIDICULOUS and absurd things on the street are given weird looks , laughed at, then people go right on, not obsessing, not caring! \nthere are photos of a dead man lying in the street with people stepping over him!   \nso you could even be DEAD lying there and way more people than you think wouldn't even stop to look...\nas mortifying as that sounds it's true!\nJust keep in mind that people only care about one thing: THEM!
970632
At the age I've reached, I have little concern for that. It concerned me quite a bit when I was younger and more sensitive. Now, 'tho, I'm happy--for the most part, anyhow--w/who I am. I am not going to like everybody. Nor is everybody going to like me! Just the way life is.
423188
first off how old are you? and the answer is always going to be if you feel ready to do something then go for it never force yourself to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable!
113411
No, its very normal.Everyone of us is having comfort zone.The range of which is directly propotional to the extent of intimacy. For example you may not mind your brother standing closer to you but would definitely feel uncomfortable if it had been your bro's friend.\n\nDon't worry cheer up!! Try to avoid these negative thoughts,you are perfectly alright deer.
632659
It is very common to have these feelings at your age, I know people who have gone through the same thing, I don't think it is a phase either but you do need to talk to someone about it.  If you don't feel that you can talk to your parents talk to a teacher, a doctor or you should be able to get a phone number for a confidential hotline from either your school or doctors.  One thing I will say, if you don't want your parents to know you would be better not going to a teacher.  Doctors and the helplines cannot tell your parents against your wishes, but, a teacher can tell them if they feel that they need to know.\n\nI hope that I have been some help to you and good luck in finding a solution to your problem
1034056
i think everyone goes through that stage but usually when they're younger and only for awhile, you know? just try and remember that the world never revolves around a single person. psychologically, we are prone to think everyone is always focused on us, but in reality people have their own lives to worry about. do you constantly make fun of other ppl in your head? probably not. you have other stuff to do. so it's the same w/ other people. other things are more important to them. if this doesn't get better for you though, i would seek a professional. this sounds like a very consuming problem. good luck :)
935958
I'm 17 and I had never had a girlfriend. Sometimes I feel that I need to share with someone but when I analise the ending of my friends' relationships I feel it's OK to take the time to choose.
769164
I feel when you get a FEELING about someone or something you should listen to it. It is your inner voice telling you what to do. Listen to it. You also are too young to be worried about this...be friends with a variety of people and have some fun! Hang with upbeat, positive people and get rid of the riff raff they will only bring you down. Good luck!
651035
i dont feel comfortable among strangers... i dont get anything to do that time...so i start feeling uncomfortable...
10930
I probably felt like I was an adult when I moved out of my 'rents house at 19. I'm 28 now and still don't feel much like an "adult".
808216
Oh how I long for the days when I was treated like a teenager! Believe it or not some day you will look back on this as the good old days. Life was sweet when I got carded at the bar! Enjoy it while it lasts! By the way you sound very mature for 20 so I can understand why it frustrates you. This too will pass.
344360
It is normal to feel down about yourself at this age and during your life. Everyone needs someone that they can be with and vent to on occasion but besides that you need a friend.  Not just someone to talk to but a genuine friend that will laugh with you, cry with you, and be there for you when you need them to be. Not some person that is jsut there because of something you have and or could give them. First you must find what is making you feel so depressed. Once you have found that think about why you feel this way and telling yourself "I don't know" isn't the answer.  I mean who can you be honest with but yourself first, huh? I did a journal when I felt really down and that nothing was going right and then I tried this.  It helped me so much that I started letting go the bad feelings and bad thoughts and started living without a care about those thoughts again.  If you still are depressed then you may want to find out why and instead of being unhappy start thinking of what got you to this point. Everyone has to hit rock bottom before they can start climbing outta the hole. You aren't there yet but I don't want you there. I want you to be able to be happy and content with everything you do.\n\nGood luck my dear!
823394
hey sweet girl, b/f g/f r only a craze in school times. it's n't ur mistake , in ur age these tye of feelings r normal. when i was at ur age, i don't have b/f, and i don't want to b, but honestily speeking sometimes i also feel bad when my frd talked about their b/fs dates, gifts, etc. etc. even when i was in college i face the same situation....iat college time my frd force me to do friendishp, but i refuse, even now i m in uni situation is same, but u know now i m hapy on my decision....bcoz now the fact come in front of ne and ny age group.\nthat b/f r like a dream which never come true, but on the same time it gaves u lot of problems like main is daiting.im sure u know others.\nnow those girls r crying who had b/f. how can u trust on a person? believe me babay mostly boys  most of the time want only one thing from girl thats physical relation.\nlike glamour world it's a myth that if u want 2 papular then u want a b/f. i don't have b/f still i m popular, coz i have my own id, i m different from others. boys give more respect 2 me. they r good frds.\ni think u must take advise from that person who have b/f, who is older then u. two whom u know. who have life xperience. what ever i told u it's my exp.\nremember one thing if ur frds r true thren they will accept u as u r not as they want u.
842903
Hmm. Of course its not weird. You are used to feeling a certain way, and there was a degree of safety in that. What you have now sounds like hope. Hope for the future, and in a way that can be a little scary. That goes for everyone. Its uncertain when you dont know what is coming.\nWell done to you for leaving your past behind you. You will now be able to empathise with others who feel like you once did - there sure is a lot of them!\nHow you feel is how you feel. Dont doubt yourself!