My sonsfather wants me to marry him?
94821
No, you don't love both of them.  You may like both of them but you don't truely love both of them.  The fact that he is your sons father shouldn't play a role in this decision because your not currently together.  So do what is really in your heart and what is best for your life.
51623
If he's living with you and hasn't offerd to marry you, he's keeping his options open just in case someone better comes along. She may be prettier, cook better, be more willing to let her life revolve around his son, or just look better in a tight sweater.\n\nOnce (if) you are married, you've got 6 more years of coming in second to his son. Once the son turns 18, he will go live on his own, unless he doesn't.\n\nThis guy must have SOME good features or you'd have left him long ago; that or you are desperate.\n\nTake a deep breath, remind yourself that he isn't going to change, and ask yourself if life with him (an UNCHANGED him) is better than life without him. \n\nIf so, learn to live with it and stop complaining, because - guess what? he isn't going to change. If not, leave him.\n\nBoy, other people's problems are easy to solve, aren't they?\n\nYou have any ideas about an 18-year old daughter who considers me evil because I eat meat?
903075
You should make the choice.  I understand where your family is coming from - but I hear the love you have for him in the tone of your letter.  This is going to be one of life's "not so fair" choices.  You are 18 now.  You have a very grown up decision to make.  My best advice is to make completely sure that he is as wonderful as you think he is, cause this could separate you from the family who has loved you all your life.  I have an 18yr old son and it would kill me if he went against my wishes and married someone I didn't approve of.  Just BE SURE before you do anything.  Money and status are wonderful, but cannot replace a family.   Think long and hard.  Good luck!!
1012401
well, i agree with you totally.... you should not get married just because you have a child with someone..... a child doesn't make you love another person.... the relationship will only become worst in time... do what's best for you first.... i feel like to be a mother and a wife you should always love yourself first.... take the time out to see if marriage is what you both want.... maybe he already wanted to marry you but now he feels like it's more of a reason.... good luck and congratulations on the baby....
624601
If he is now your husband, that boy deserves it.\n\nGive it to him!
111528
If you feel you are ready take the offer.  You are marrying him, not your family.  You may kiss many frogs to find your prince.  If it feels right and you are sure about yourself and have confidence in this relationship after getting bashed in the last, then why ask?  Good luck!
89175
He will ask you to marry him so that he can spend the rest of his life with you. You, in turn, will want to spend the rest of your life with him. He will consider your happiness to be more important than his, and you will consider his to be more important than yours.
557850
When the time is right you'll find the perfect person for you and your son. In the mean time just take time and enjoy your son. He'll only be little for a while and when you least expect it love will find you. Good luck with everything
878399
Wise? No. Love is never wise. Love is madness.\n\nIf he can tolerate and respect your religion, and you can tollerate his, it's all good. The one thing you DONT want to do is convert to his. I know that would give your relationship more understanding, but that would KILL your parents. \n\nIf he asks you to convert to be w/ him, dump him. YOU certainly aren't asking something so drastic of him, why should he care?\n\nAs for parents, if they're very conservative, it won't be pretty, but if it's a very serious relationship, then don't worry about it. Parents usually come around for things like weddings! I would, however, make it clear to my parents that I had no intention of deserting my own customs and beliefs. And that the man I was dating understood that as well and was not making moves to convert me!
733099
sounds like the two of you have grown apart. to keep a relationship strong, you have to spend time together and he needs to spend time with his son as well. I'm sorry for your situation but if this continues, maybe you need to move on and find someone who will put you and your son's feelings first. love is putting the other person first.
327100
Sounds like he wants you to be his mother.  I would just go seperate ways.  Good luck.
961411
He will regret that for the rest of his life. If you really love him marry him and support his mission. Look at all the benefits you get and think positive. Why do  you want him to get out? Does he have a career lined up is he a college graduate? \nGetting out that way is not the answer. You want him to do that for you? What are you willing to sacrifice for him? Comon Think Straight!
45549
I understand that you would like to have your family unified on your religious beliefs, as well, as the little grandchildren to come.  Who wouldn't?\nHowever, if he already knows your feelings, and they are still getting married, you have to put your feelings about this aside and just accept her.  I'm sure you don't want division in your family.  It isn't what you wanted for your son, but he has made his decision.  If she isn't a criminal, or will hurt your future grandbabies, or something like that, you just have to love her, and accept her in your family.
282600
Hold the bus!!  "love him for who he is" sounds like a nice, feel good statement, but let's anylize what that is really saying.  It is saying to forget God's command not to be unequally yoked, that denouncing Jesus as the Son of God is ok, and that "human love" can overcome God's knowledge of what is best for us!!  \n\nAbout marrying someone who isn't Christian: you are not going to have an easy road.  What church are you going to go to?  Is your husband going to want to tithe to a Christian church?  What are you going to teach your kids?  Who is right, Mom or Dad?  Are you going to teach them that any religion is ok- and then they are going to read that Jesus is the ONLY way to Heaven???  How are you going to explain that?  \n\nYou are choosing to become one flesh with a man that has not asked Jesus to pay for his sins.  There are consequences for that- like not spending eternity with God.  Since God is also Jesus and the Holy Spirit, and this man has said no to Jesus, then God isn't going to make him sing praises to Himself for eternity, and this man will go to Hell.  You will be sleeping with a man that you know is going to Hell.  That might not sit well with you.  \n\nGod has a specific plan for you.  This guy might be a part of this plan- just not until he surrenders his life to Christ.  I know how it is to be in love here on earth.  It is probably not easy to hear that this man isn't your Mr. Forever right now.  What can you do??  Talk very openly with this man about your convictions.  Chat with God daily about your feelings- He understands!!!  He just might have a plan that is bigger than you can see right now.  Ask God to start convivting this man and opening his eyes to the love of Christ.  You can give reasons for why the Bible is the ultimate authority if your boyfriend asks, but living a Christlike lifestyle is the biggest way to show others that you have let the Holy Spirit run your life.  Have a daily quiet time reading your Bible and praying with God.  I can see how this is possibly one of the biggest temptations you will face- should you marry the man that you love right now, or should you follow God's command even if you don't understand it right now???  I have already been praying for you.
1005526
Yes I do.  Do you want your son asking if he's suppose to marry a man or woman or dog,cat,goat??\nMarriage is between a man and woman,You change that and we are in trouble!
576089
The good news is, only one week.\nPut yourself in their situation,... What would you want to know about your son?\nAlso, marriage is a family affair. Share your joy with them.\nWhen something good is shared, the happiness doubled.\n\nWhatever you're thinking would happen, is not the reality. It's only your own imagination. So, don't imagine anything negative. Put off all your defenses and embrace all the good thoughts of love that they want to share with you.\n\nMy prayers are with you.
525976
Your parents have no say about it, as long as-\nyou are of legal age, and are READY: \nemotionally, (stable or consistent enough to stick to marriage)\nmentally, (ready for what marriage is all about)\nsocially, (you've met enough people to know for sure that you want to be married to this person)\nand personally, (you've done what u want to do for yourself and have reached goals you want for yourself, this is important, coz in marriage some sacrifices would be made regarding personal goals and pleasures)\n...then go for it!\n\ndo assure your parents of your love though, and claim full responsibility for this decision.\n\nbest wishes, pastor's wife\nhttp://mwfrc.blogspot.com