what do you think about this philosophy? don't love much, won't miss much?
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Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.\nWhen you get a chance, love with all your heart and passion!\n(and hope that you lose)
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You are one of the few people who actually understand the true nature of a Hedonistic Philosophy.  Yes, following God's will is the greatest joy, so to a true Hedonist, that would be the ultimate life style.  God Bless.
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#1 = Unrealistic expectations.\n\nWorks like this. I think this person SHOULD _______ (fill in the blank) but they don't - what's the matter with them??? Meanwhile the other person is thinking the same unrealistic thing about YOU. \n\nWhat is real is what exists, not what we would like it to be, or what we thought it was. I don't mean to sound hard, but the clearer about this anyone is the more it will help. \nThis leads right into ....\n\n#2 = Confusing infatuation with love ( love involves acceptance; infatuation does not).\n\nInfatuation involves an imagined, perfected image of someone which only ever existed in the mind, nowhere else. Love involves a "real" person and relating to them, understanding and accepting  their imperfections and not trying to "fix" them like some broken peice of machinery.\n\n#3 = Cultural B.S.\n\nRelationships are something people do. Like everything else we do, they involve suffering, only somewhat more so than most things. In the US there is a widespread view that happiness is to be found within relationships.  This view is just plain nonsense.\n\nI am not anti-relationship, but relationships work best when people have realistic expectations (and as few of those as possible), practice acceptance & kindness (yeah, good old kindness goes a long way) and instead of looking for one's own happiness from the relationship, instead, look for a friend from the relationship & happiness will come from whatever spiritual practice you have.\n\nGreat question!\n\n;-)
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Love asks for nothing.\n\nA long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it. \n\nAfter a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.\n\nJudging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.\n\nI thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.\n\nI realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do. \n\nIf I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.\n\nI still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.\n\nLove and blessings \n\nYour brother \ndon
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Not at all.  Just because something instills pleasure, it doesn't instill love!
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i think that the idea of loving and being loved is not the real purpose of life.  personally, i think that love is just a part of it.  Happiness, i think, is the real purpose of life, and therefore balance.  i think that balance is all, you need a little bit of everything...
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this is good not sickness. if you don't care it's your choice. when there is something really important that you care about you will change. it's just a time you do not find anything or anyone important.
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Did it ever occur  to you that people don't do everything to gain something for themselves but only out of love?\nPeople who are interested in helping you believe in God only want to share what they have found with you. \nYou are still free to reject it and they should respect your choice.
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Never thought of it that way, but your philosophy is quite accurate in my world, deep too...  Hmm, makes me wonder!
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It is morally wrong not to enjoy ourselves. What about people who are blind, does that mean I should not want to see, or people who are deaf, does that mean I should not want to hear?\nWhatever it takes to enjoy life and as long as it does not hurt anyone else, it should be done.
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I was reading this book and it really made me think about my actions and the actions of those around me.  This guy had a near death experience and he talked about having his life review, during it he talked about experiencing his actions on those around him. He said that he felt what they felt because of his actions. With that said, I would rather not have to feel pain that I caused on another person even if I was justified. I think that in the end as long as I do the right thing everything will be as it should. I know how I have felt when others have wronged me, it hurts, sometimes physically and sometimes emotionally. I don't like it. I think that the wisest thing to do is turn it over to the Lord, he will be the perfect judge. It's not for us to do, especially with our limited knowledge.\n\nAlso I think that it just feels good to do that, I have had to find forgiveness with a few close friends who have hurt me badly. The great thing is that I sleep good at night. It's not good to carry that burden around, holding on to a grudge. Letting go of it gives you peace.
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It's great. I'd adopt it as my own motto if I didn't already have a good one.\n\nMine's "Thole and think on", by the way. If you don't understand it that only means you need to use the dictionary more often.
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With neither a belief nor a non-belief to back me up, I think there is the potential to do good or to do harm in each of us. \n\nI believe that we should do as much good as possible for its own sake, for the benefit of other peope, and for the our own benefit.\n\nI think there are more people who are capable of more good than the evil others do.\n\nDespite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart. --Anne Frank
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It would be nice to have material wealth & have no worries about paying the bills, keeping a roof overhead & food on the table.\nHowever, money & possessions do not equal love & ultimately give no comfort.\nI'd be much happier in the long run loving & being loved, rich or poor.
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I believe the correct quote is, "the love of money is the root of all evil". But there is plenty of evil in the world that doesn't involve money. And bartering is cool. I don't have any advice for about it though. I'm not really sure what you are asking.
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I have to agree with the previous poster that no, Christians do not love as they ought.\nThe fact that we fail however, does not negate the commandment, or mean that we don't make it our goal in life to love even our enemies with a perfect love.\n\nNow, this begs a question, what does loving your enemy look like in real life? Does loving your enemy mean that you put yourself in harms way by trusting them not to hurt you? I don't think so. Does it mean to have warm gooshy feelings for them? again, I don't think so.\nLoving your enemy means that you wish the best for them, as a Christian, the best we could possibly wish for someone is that they too would come into the relationship with God that we enjoy. If that is rejected, the next best thing is that they enjoy good things in this life because they will surely have nothing to enjoy in the afterlife. (Luke 16:19-31) Not only does loving your enemy mean that you wish the best for them, but it also means that you activly engage in things that will directly benefit them.\nIn the case of Bin Laden, I also have to weigh out the fact that I am commanded to love the other 6 Billion people on the planet, and since Bin Laden is actively engaged in harming many people (he has never done anything against me personally), I should support efforts to express love to my fellow-man by putting a stop to Bin Laden's activities.\nPersonally, I desire to see Bin Laden come to a saving and redeeming knowledge of Jesus Christ, but failing that, or until that happens, the most loving thing I can do is desire to his terrorist activities halted by whatever means possible.
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I remind myself every day to remember to enjoy the time I have left instead of worrying about small things...that I should enjoy life rather than stress out about stupid things.  I believe I have found love, both now and in the past, but many different forms of love exist.  I have found some things in life which make me happy.  I am always trying to find happiness...and when something happens to bring me down, I just keep on going, until I reach my destination.  I love my family and friends and of course my sweetie.  I am constantly searching, seeking, and educating myself.  I try not to waste the time I have left.  I sometimes think back on those who I have lost in the past.  I remember certain things from my childhood.  Sometimes I think I missed something, but I have no regrets because I truly believe that everything happens for a reason.  I do believe there are others in the universe and I care because I find it facinating.  Nothing is a waste of time.  I don't really wish I could travel back in time, but I do wish I could play back moments of my life like in a movie.  I don't really wish I could change my life, I like where my life is heading, it's an adventure and it's not always good to know everything about what the future holds.  Sometimes I wish I had more money.  I try to live my life in a positive way to be a positive role model for other people to make this world a better place.  I'm just me and if someone doesn't accept me for who I am then it is their loss.  I don't mind the job I have currently, but I know there is something more for me out there.  I don't mind my current living situation, but I think that it will change in the near future into something better.  I definitely wouldn't want to live forever, but I know my spirit will live on long after my physical body has deteriorated.