please help!!! im 16 and im pregnant...with a married mans baby...?
89118
Holy lord. That man is messed up. You need to tell your parents first, and then you need to tell him. He might lose his job and his wife, but he made a mistake in messing with a teenager.\nAnd then if you havent already, get you to a doctor! remember that this guy needs to help pay for your expenses, too.
1165732
Okay, how about you stop worrying about what he wants?  What about what you want?  How old are you?  Have you even had a chance to experience life?  It really sounds like he doesn't know if he wants to be with you or not but is going to continue stringing you along until he can make up his mind.  What are you going to do if he comes home, gets you pregnant and then decides he's not ready to be a husband and father?  Where does that leave you?  Can you be absolutely sure that he will not do that?  If the answer is no, then maybe you need to tell him that you need things to slow down. You don't have to let him call all the shots.  You are a person as well.  You have a right to decide, for yourself, what you want out of this life. There is much more to experience in life than being someones girlfriend/wife/mother.  Don't get me wrong, I am married and have a beautiful little boy, but I experienced life for myself before I did so. And we were married 7 years before I got pregnant so we could experience life together.  I wish you luck and hope you make the right decision for you!
254545
If he truly loves you he will not care one bit if you tell him the truth- it is too risky to be in this situation. Please stay a virgin!! I got pregnant when I was only 16 and if I woukd have been a smart girl like you and thought things over my life would be much better right now.If you decide to go through with this just be sure you have condoms and talk to your mother!! it is much more embarrassing to tell about that have not yet happened than when something does happen.
998303
Think long and hard about this. If he knows you're pregnant there's got to be a reason he's holding out. Communication is the key... find out where is head is first. You never know, he may be planning to ask you.
506924
Well, you decide what is best for you and move on. \nUnfortunately, there is nothing you can do about the father. He is apparently not ready to become a parent and own up to his responsibilities. \nIf you are planning on having and keeping this baby it sounds as though you may be doing it alone. You never know, the father may come around later.\n\nGood Luck to you!
696679
Be as honest with yourself and others as soon as possible... I know it is awful to be where you are at right now, but telling someone in your family or hers that you have the best relationship with is going to be your best bet long term.  You need support.  Since you are both minors, it is unfortunant that you have this in front of you, but I don't think it is a crime... If one of you were an adult that would be a problem.  Be as strong as you can.  This will get better.  There are other choices.  There are many families out there that wish to adopt a child.  But still at least be there as her friend and make sure she gets the proper medical care and emotional support.  Please don't wait any longer to tell an adult... Time will make matters harder to deal with.  I suggest not to break up with someone because of her medical condition.  She's got to be emotional too right now.  If you have other problems than the pregnancy, consider doing so because of that.... But you should really be there for each other since you both created the dilema.
444877
what an a$$hole, dont ever get back with him. you can do it on your own, im a single mother, i've been alone since i was 8 months preg. and get him for child support you dont need a boy like that in yours or your childs life. and i say boy, because a real man would not leave his pregnant girlfriend. good luck and be strong, you deserve a real man.
576604
Ask him if he really loves you. If he loves you enough, he will want to have the baby with you. Sometimes, life has its own surprises, he may find it a piece of good news too.\n\nJust in case, he does not. Both of you better see a counsellor first. If there are monetary problems, see a financial advisor.\n\nBy the way, congratulations!
133103
How does he feel? That is perhaps the most important question here. Since you are pregnant, your baby coming from a broken home is going to be determined by your relationship with this boy. If he is agreeable to it, why not make a commitment to raise your child together by getting married? Normally 18 is a bit young to be getting married because people change a lot from 18 to their mid-twenties and since for most of us that is the age that we get our first taste of freedom, this could spell disaster when we realize that our husband/wife has a right to be involved in our life to a great extent. This can feel like a lack of freedom. Also, having a baby can make people feel trapped, especially males. It will be hard but if you two are in love and he's a good guy, know that statistically you would be doing the best thing for your baby if you were married. \nTry to give to your partner instead of only giving as much as your partner does. Tell him about that resolve. Giving can be very contagous but so can being hurtful. A loving word can stop anger dead in its tracks in a marriage. It takes two to fight but only takes one to defuse a bomb. Try to make your first instinct to defuse the situation. Take care of all 3 of you, and I hope our e-opinions help you.
905225
Wait until both of you finish school. You don't want him to end up just being your baby's daddy, do you?
434717
Congratulations, you have managed to use up your lifetime supply of sperm before you reached 16.   Hard luck, that will teach you!!!!!!!
640552
one of my friends is pregnant and she's only 15.. the best thing for you to do is take the test.. best thing is it tells you your not pregnant and you can let go of your worries... if you are pregnant than you really should tell your parents.. u might think they will be tough but im sure they will try to help you as much as possible... and for high school and college i would say the best thing is adoption.. my friend is keeping her baby and i know she doesnt realize how much her life will change
873141
i am very sorry to hear that.  But you have to be patient.  Keep your baby, and try to keep your marriage.  He needs to stand up to his mother but it may not happen because she is ill, sit tight and be patient.  Give him time to think
411852
I think you both need to have a long talk and find out where you both stand.  Maybe a counselor will help you talk out your problems so you can find out what he means.  In the meantime, I wouldn't consider getting pregnant until you both feel the timing is right.  It sounds like your husband has some issues and adding another baby to the family before you have worked through his issues isn't fair to you or  the future child.\n\nGood luck!
433106
tell her, 7 months pregnant or not, he's a sleeze bag. tell her and an authority figure too since he threatened you. dont live in fear because of that loser!
557753
Well, a tough situation for you, but you should tell him that you are pregnant with his child only because it's fair for him to know. If he chooses to be there in support of the child that's great!!! If he is not, then you have to decide for the child what's going to be best for him/her and if that means getting money from this guy then that is what it will take. Good Luck!!!!!
270653
Morally, you are obligated to tell him.  This child is not just your child.  This is something you both created.  You must BOTH make some life changing choices.\n\nAbortion to me is totally out of the question.   I think the baby needs a chance at life rather you can do it or not, there are many families willing to adopt.\n\nMy preferance is this:  If you are old enough and both of you love each other for what is inside, then get married and start a real life for this child.  ALWAYS communicate, and NEVER goto bed mad.  Even if you have to be the first one to appoligize.\n\nNow if he is not man enough to take on the responsibility, then maybe your parents can help you make the choices you need to make.\n\nGood Luck!\nJames McDowell\nFather of 3 wonderful kids. (I was once in your shoes)\nMarried to thier mother for almost 17 years.