Unlucky in Love, please help!?
97505
Find someone else. Accept his contacts but keep moving forward yourself. He needs to know you're not waiting forever.
1084362
that one person is rare and u really have to get hurt and heart broken many times before u meet them.\n\ngood luck.
442420
Fate is cruel, Faith is inspiring... yet Love can be confusing. \n\nLive your life and in the course of living you find him again, great. But don't wait... Good things come to those that wait but better things come when you go get them for yourself. And the Best thing may just be around that corner.
1086191
How can I say this...um....GO GET YOUR MAN!  You need to track him down, tell him why you screwed up and hope for the best.\nRemember...you weren't ready then and you have to accept the fact that he might not be ready now. Rejection cuts deep.  Another point is you need to work out your own issues about why you wouldn't except that kind of love.  I mean if it's the kind that spells true committment, are you ready for that now?  And if you are not, leave that man alone. Don't drag him into a dead end situation. I mean let's face it...it takes two to make it work not one giving it all and the other hardly giving.
859213
This is a tuff situation to be in, you want him around yet you dont want to hold him back from something great.  I think you need to be honest, tell him how you feel.. have no regrets at all.  If he is someone you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with then you do need to talk to him about a plan on keeping the romance alive or next steps.  I am a firm believer in destiny and fate and I think if its meant to be then things will mold into shape soon and you will see what your next steps will be.  Always be honest with your feelings and you will have no regrets.
527647
I have never fallen in love so cannot help. But, as far as I listened from my friends the best way to get sure that one is in love is to check if u have similar feelings towards other guys like him and what life means to you without him ;)
731364
Joycelyn, don't be surprised if he has enough information about you already. Why should you underrate yourself in love? Try and give him a chance, at least to see the direction which is towing in starting a relationship with you. If at any time he's not doing it right according to your standard then you back out. But the greatest mistake you'll make is NOT to give him a chance at all. Good luck and have a fulfilling relationship. Cheers!
546727
OOOOOO this sounds like unrequited love and that's not good especially when you're the one that's doing the caring! Look, if the feeling is not mutual then you need to stop before your feelings grow any more. The best thing for you to do is nip it in the bud.
736374
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
507020
this is the same probs with me also.\ni dont love the guy who loves me soo much!!\ngirls are like that,.. tooo choosy and stuff. they always want something thats out of reach.\nso my advice is.... be with the guy who like u , than the one whom u love,\nhard to follow, but easy to advice
241775
love can hit you anytime anywhere... you dont have to meet the person to feel the love... I wud say yes, you can find a soulmate on net.. \ngood luck
159653
Love is strange in its own magical way. Love is like a dam. Once it's released, you never know when the flow will come to an end. Right now, your love is still flowing all these years. If you really want to forget her that much, then do something different to approach this thought process. If you know she loves you as well, then go get her. Don't waste time crying in your hear...in your soul. If know she doesn't feel the same way, then think differently about how you feel about her. Think of it as best friends kind of love: you love her because she matters to you greatly and that your friendship for her will never change. Accept this "new" change of yours and think that everyday. Better to be friends than to be in that hell hole of unforgiving love. Sometimes to have a friend love you is just as loving as having that special someone by your side. Try to move on each day if you can and just remember you loved someone who was wonderful and great, but with conditions couldn't happened. Some where in life, you are bound to find someone new. It might sound a little stupid, but maybe the person who you been looking for could be right in front of you. Just keep a clear head and watch for hints. Maybe the person has already been hinting they have feelings for you and you just haven't realized it. I hope I helped in some way.
239129
I'm not saying I have all the answers, but it is pretty humiliating when someone doesn't want you. You're afraid of falling in love again; ok, you've been in love. Has anybody told you they love you, or has it been all theoretical and one-sided so far? You're afraid of love; have you been loved, manipulated, used or just misunderstood? How have you been hurt? These are questions you need to determine before you can decide what to do next. I'd say talk to a counsellor. Figure out what actually happened, what you want to do eventually, and what you can try next to achieve your goals. If you are still nervous after that, try to work your way up to it gradually. Start with just caring about people, maybe neighbors, children, the elderly. Do you know anybody in need? There are many ways to express love. Are you looking for a tender, warm caring love, or a rough, wild, sensual love? We all need various things from the ones we love at different times. Some people express love by sharing, some by providing, some by giving gifts or surprises, some by being romantic, some by being reliable, some by challenging their loved one to excell. Try to meet up with the pople who are looking for the same thing(s) you are. Good luck!
846832
There's nothing wrong, I'm sure you didn't mean to fall in love. If your feelings get any stronger try telling her but things might get awkward. Sorry that's probably not much help.
645346
Ge to know him more and let your heart take care of the rest---you can't MAKE yourself love someone.\n\nGood luck!!!
443519
Just follow your heart. If you are sure that it was a mistake and will never happen again then go for it. But you have to make sure that you are comfortable enough not to throw it in his face in the future. Good luck!!!
368455
what a tragic story! you should just leave them be if they seem so happy. if i were you, i would try and be happy for her. you can't force a guy to fall in love with you, it's almost impossible. try writing a letter to him about how you feel [don't send it of course], i guarentee it'll help ! you aren't being punished and beaten up everytime you turn around, life is just pieces of a huge puzzle and you've just placed the wrong piece in the wrong place. take it out and look for a place where it fits =]