How do I make him pay, make him feel the pain without going to jail?
84539
What goes around...comes around.\n\nDon't do anything bad, or wish anything bad to anyone.  Just wait and see what happens.  Nobody really gets away with anything.\n\nI have seen it over and over.  Someone does something that they think is no big deal, like stealing office supplies from work, then they get a broken windshield from a pebble or a traffic ticket or a root canal.\n\nIt could be fate paying them back.  The penalty is usually way more than what they thought they got away with.
922312
Huh....you sure you're in love?  It's going to be tough being alone while he serves time...and he seems aware of that fact.  That's a big sacrifice--waiting for him I mean.  If you chose that route--best of luck to you.  But even if you don't decide to wait it out--you could still be supportive by communicating with him while he's incarcerated.  Life with a convicted felon is not going to be easy after he serves time either--and your options will be limited because of it.  Just be aware of the sacrifices required to remain with this person.  It sounds like you'll have lots of time to make up your mind.  Find a support group that can assist you.  Good Luck
1129377
F************HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!\n\nTELL HIM TO FILE A POLICE  REPORT!!!  \nLET THE AUTHORITIES HANDLE IT!\n\nYOU WERE NICE ENOUGH TO LET HIM STORE HIS 'HOME' THERE!!!!\n\nHE NEEDS MONEY!!  \nUNDERSTAND THIS!  BUT IS IT WORTH \n'YOUR FRIENDSHIP'?\n\nHE SEE'S AN EASY PAYDAY!  \nHE WOULD!\nHE LIVES IN A TRAILER!!!!!!!!!\nGIVE HIM SOME PORK HOT DOGS AND BEANS AND SEND HIM ON HIS WAY!!!!!\n\n\nYOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE!!!!!!!!!!
813980
Why not just give him the $5? Why do you feel the need to humiliate someone? You better hope you're not in his shoes some day.
103503
You need to get some real free legal advise. Are you saying you can't afford to pay for one either? If you have no major ties to him it shouldn't be too difficult. Go to your local court house and start asking questions. I don't think it will cost as much as you think.\n\nI would not worry about your dignity right now. You would not believe what others are going through or have gone through. If they are true friends they are not judging you.\n\nIf you pay for it think of it as you leaving and not him letting you go.
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Hello:\n\nI gather from your question that you have somebody close to you who is in jail.  Call the Captain.  Be polite.  If you don't get him, call again, and again.  You must be agressive about your friend, while at the same time not being over the top.\n\nJailers will treat an inmate differently if they know he has outside support.  Good for you.\n\nexcon
307648
Tell him he's right.  That you'll have to let the judge determine how much he should be giving you and his wages should be garnished for it, that way when he is too busy, he doesn't have to stop the important stuff he is doing to go give you the money.
204956
You can offer to pay - but do it discreetly. Most guys like to be a gentleman and pay for everything - but it does get expensive! Maybe, let the guy pay. Then discreetly give him the money to pay for something - so it looks like he's paying. He will think you're thoughtful - you've considered his finances and understood his pride! \n\nOf course you can take it in turns paying. You also have to take into account who has the higher income - if he does and he insists on paying - maybe you should let him - if there are no strings attached. But some men see paying for everything as "buying" you and you then feel under their control. Don't let that happen.
272251
nothing just try to teach him thats all u can do \nif done properly he will get over his feelings being hurt its a cost benefit thing
1033211
In the interest of you not going to jail (don't shoot him)...maybe you can make the area unappealing to him so he has to either (1) find a more aggressive way to get into your space thereby garnering police intervention or (2) make him go away completely.\n\nAssuming you are not in a position to move...I'm not sure what is workable, but some ideas that came to mind are:\n\n* Barbed wire fencing around the area.\n* A large dog that bites (preferably with rabies j/k)\n* Sprinkle itching powder or plant some poison ivy under there.\n* Ask a male relative to come visit you or stay over every now and again.\n\nAs a person who was once stalked, I understand your dilemma. To everyone else we just seem paranoid and irrational. I don't believe people understand how these situation pervades every moment of our lives in trying to stay safe and on the right side of the law simultaneously.\n\nAbove all, please stay safe.
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He's CRAZY you cant expect him to be logical.  Hes in jail and cant do anything about it, but still has the right to be upset you did something you didnt want him to do.  Get the rest of the $$ and be more responsible next time.
528748
Well there are several kinds of "hurts"\nphysical\nemotional\nmental\n\nWhen it comes to physical there are a ton of possible ways to torter people. I would probaly try to give some one an upper spinal injury. That can cause a constant pain without killing.\n\nWhen it comes to emotional you can tell some one that you love them then tell them you don't then you can always tell them lies, like that there bf or gf is cheating on them\n\nwhen it comes to mental all you have to do is make sure that they are in a constant state of fear. \n\nthis is what i would do......\nnot that i would.......\nunless some one was cheating on me..........&#92;\nand in that case i would do all of the above and kick him in the nuts\nthen i would cut his you know what off when he is sleeping,\nthen i would kill him
1001286
he needs to be a man and take responsibility.  He needs to stay out of jail.  Get a real job and send the money he can  most importantly be there as a father not just a paycheck.
402380
I am not a lawyer, but I have some experience in the law.  \nDon't know which state you are from, and that would make a difference.\n\nWith jail budgets getting tighter and tighter, many institutions are opting to pass some of the costs on to the inmates in the form of fees and such.  Whether this is legal in the jurisdiction you are from is whether there is a state law and/or county ordinance to permit it.\n\nOn the second part of your question reference punishing loved ones, it depends on what "punishment" is done and how it is being done.  Contact the Sheriff or jail administrator as they may be able to explain what is going on.  Don't go in making vague accusations of corruption without some evidence and supporting documentation. Ultimately, you may have to contact a local attorney in your area.\n\nDear Old Dad
866915
Get help take his ass to court, you have nothing to lose. You should also go to your parents and make sure you go to the hospital they have ways of checking these things. Dont give up, and even if there is no court justice, he will pay, there is karma you know. good luck, sorry, and dont give up.
793895
Call your local police department they can send you in the right direction.  Your doing a very good thing,  people like that make it hard for people who are really in pain to get the care they need.  Good luck and God bless
845983
Insist you be paid. Call your clients yourself and explain without too much details and without being catty. If you let it slide, he will keep on doing what he is doing and do it to someone else in the future as well