How long do you wait after a breakup?
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Just be a friend to her for the meantime. Women are vulnerable at those times, and usually just needs a friend, not another boyfriend. Just let her know that you are willing to wait whenever she's ready to date again.
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Well I am guessing you mean after you get back together.\n\nIf you are only broken up for a little while and are not serious with anyone else during the brake then usually no. Unless they specify that they want to "start over" in that case yes.\n\nIf you break up for a long while and find someone else and get serious with them then decide that you want to get back together with the other person... that is usually concidered starting over. So in that case you would change it.\n\nOnly change it after talk to the other person first. You don't want to get confused.
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I like to meet people that are busy....you know, working somewhere. For instance, the grocery store, post office, gas station, etc. The obvious places also are clubs, bars, etc. the important thing after breaking up is to get out! Don't sit home, alone, and crying! Good Luck!!
654372
Are you sure you want to break up with her. Sometimes we think we want more without knowing what we want. ask for a cooling down period. See how both of you really feel. Just go it without for 2 weeks. If by then you don't miss her. then nothing is lost. and finalizing the break up is easier since she's gotten use to the idea. \n\n I've had guys break up with me and then try to get back together a couple of weeks later. but it depends on how we broke up. That's why I'm suggesting you ask for some time apart.
392468
It's the thrill of a new relationship.  Give it some time and you two should be back together soon enough :)
348010
I think that most women go through what you are describing (I sure have!). It's almost impossible to imagine dating someone when you have just broken up with someone else. Especially if you loved that person, which it sounds like you did.\n\nThe answer is, dont worry about dating right now. Just take care of you and your girls and do what you can to make you happy. Take care of YOU for a change. The dating thing will come around eventually. There's no hurry. That isnt important right now. Just take it day by day.\n\nAnd when you ARE ready then opportunities will present themselves. There is no hurry, though. If you get upset thinking about dating again, then dont think about it. You'll be ok.
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Someone once told me that it takes 2 times the length you had feelings for the other person to get over that person.  If your feelings lasted 4 years, it will take 8 years to heal!!\n\nI agree that time is really the only remedy for a broken heart.  Take some time to think about how life was before you started the relationship.  Think back to those "happy" memories.  Do things on your own or with a few close friends of yours.  Keep yourself busy.  If you can find lots and lots of thing to do, the time to heal will flash by in a blink of an eye.  There are many things to do to keep a mind occupied!! haha
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I think it depends on how long he was your boyfriend. A long term relationship breakup takes longer because usually the other person has strong feelings for you and needs more time to get their head around it.\n\nIf you didn't date for long then it shouldn't take as much time, since you'll just get it over with and move on.\n\nIf he is really someone you care about but not in that way anymore, maybe he deserves to know why. It can be useful for the guy to know why this is happening, especially if it was his fault, because in that way he can learn from his mistakes and try harder the next time he's in a relationship.\n\nI think the time depends on each relationship. It took yours 3 hours to be over because you have an ex boyfriend that loves to point out flaws; you said so yourself: " i finally told him to leave because i was sick of hearing all my supposed faults". \n\nI don't think you were rude. I think nothing good could have come out of listening to him. You sound patient enough to me! Good luck, and don't fret about it!
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How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
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If they broke up with you, and you still have feelings for them than if you try to be "friends" with them you are only lying to your self. It is too soon. It is like breaking your leg on Monday and then trying to run a race on Tuesday, you are only going to make the injury worst. \n\nRight now you are still in a place of "I need him in my life." You need to get way past that point before it healthy to have him in your life. \n\nThe hardest thing is you are right now blinded by the pain of the break up. It is normal to want to hold on, but just try to look past the pain, try and remember you are a wonderful person and their are a lot of guys who do like you and would want to go out with you. Try to remember that what you do now you will have to live with for the rest of your life, so don't do something pathetic like try to hold on to a relationship that is gone.\n\nGood Luck
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If you care and love the other person it's not easy to get over a breakup but if you have no feelings for the other person then we do get over a breakup easily. But from a first hand experience my ex broke up with me five months ago and I'm still a nervous wreck but she's moved on quickly. Even though I drove two hours to take care of her while she was sick.
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No one can answer that question for you.  Only you know whether you are emotionally ready to commit to someone else yet.  I would be suspicious, however, if it was less than six months or a year after a relationship as important as the one you describe.  But people vary, and maybe you just lucked out and found the right guy.\n\nHowever, ask youself these questions:  \n1) Are you sure that you are not just looking for *anyone* to love you, after the hurt and rejection of your breakup?  Would you love the new guy if you had met him first?  IIn other words, be sure you are not grabbing for validation.rather truly in love.\n2) Is there any chance that you are attracted to the new guy because he is the opposite of the old one?  This is trickier, because you certainly don't want to end up with another guy who is just like the one you broke up with.  But some people swing too far in the other direction when they are on the rebound, and you need to watch out for that.  Obviously, there were *some* things about the ex that you found good, or you would not have been together for so long.  So decide whether the new guy is a real improvement over the old one, or just very different.\n\nGood luck!
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If you were really in love with them, and you cared for them deeply, I don't think you ever "GET OVER" them.  What a lot of people don't do is to take time out for themselves.  When you break-up with someone after being in a long-term relationship, you really need to take time to heal before you move on to another person because you can't give your whole heart to him/her fully because that other person is holding a part of it.  How long it takes....Well that depends on you.  You have to ask yourself "How long am I going to allow this person to hold my heart?"  Take time, Heal, enjoy being single, and when you feel no presence of the other person then you are over them.  Of course when you see them with some one else for a split second, you will go back there but if you do and when you are able to say, well good for them then you are definitely over them.  I hope this helped because I've been where you are and that is what I did.  Take care and be HAPPY!!!
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Why did you break up in the first place? How long have you known each other? How long has it been since you broke up?  Do you want him back?  These are all questions you should be asking yourself.  Then perhaps you'll know if it's right for you to pursue him again or to just forget him and move on. :)
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I wait until I won't regret it at all.  Even if my body says otherwise.  I wait until I'm positive that if he dumped me the next day - I wouldn't feel disappointed about the sex. (Feelings are a separate issue.)\n\nWith each guy it's different.  For some guys it's weeks, others it's months.  But I always feel right when I do it.  Take your time, and wait until you know you're confident about it.
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yeah my guy and i just had a fight..and I am so devasted..I love him soo much..but then again he is an as*hole...if you feel like you need time..then take time..but if you feel like you can move on with someone else then go out with friends and make new friends..usually after a break up..I like to take time for myself and get back to me...good luck\nps..if you still love him then call him and try to work things out
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I think there has never been a concept of 'right time' in break ups. You just say it and he takes it as a man. There are few exceptions such as that he loses a loved one or his job and is devastated, it is better for you both to wait a little!