Is it normal to be depressed when your birthday is near and you think your life revolves around your work?
79720
It is normal. Children may feel excitement when their birthdays are near. Some adults still feel it. But most adults don't feel great become older. If you think your life there won't bring you any good, please don't be scared to change it. Try new things, don't let work be the only thing in your life as you only live once. New activities may bring you to new friends. Moving to another place could be a good option. Good luck.
986470
First of all you're not alone, know that there are people out there feeling just the way you do.  So you are normal, you just need to go out more.  Join a dance club or yoga class, do something out of your league. If an office job is not fulfilling, try something else outside four walls, where you'll always be on the road, who knows, you might meet an interesting individual whom you'll use as a stepping stone out of your depression.  God bless you!!!!
877917
yes i find that as soon as Fall gets closer i start to feel very different and find myself saying the holidays are coming next, u can get thru it just for a couple of months then the sun will start shining again and it will get better. but it's so hard for some of us just to get thru those winter months. for me it's a time when family and friends get together and enjoy each other and express their love for one another. unfortunately, my parents and grandparents have all passed away and i live away from my other relatives so this time is especially hard. it seems that the two friends that i do have sometimes may not want to spend as much time with me cause they know i get the "blahs" during this time. sometimes u can't let urself think that way cause u know it's ur depressed mood that causes u to see things differently. i'm currently on disability which has helped me a great deal cause there are many days that i can't function properly and can not hold down a steady job. this has lead to isolation though cause i don't have a car currently so i spend allmost everyday in the house alone and this can cause the depression to get worse. what i find that helps is at least making contact with someone everyday whether it's on the phone or trying to get out of the house to run some errands. it's true that the more sunlight that shines into ur eyes helps decrease depression. i've had a doctor tell me before to lay in a tanning bed for the ultraviolet light with extra sun screen, but that costs money and unfortunately can cause skincancer if ur not careful. i also find that if i can at least go to church or watch spirital programs on tv that helps me get through it knowing that God will not place anything on u that u cannot bear. i'm not sure how spiritual u r. and believe it or not, i find that getting on here and responding to some people's questions has helped me alot cause if i can help someone with something due to something i've gone thru myself then that makes me feel better. hope i've helped u some. Good Luck and God Bless:)
340665
Age is just a number sweetie.I am 36 and don't feel a bit like it... I used to think that was old, but now I'm like nahhh... Your only as old as you let yourself be.... Always have fun and do right in your life and you can feel young forever... Happy belated birthday!!! God Bless you!!!!
572870
Probably because you are not exactly happy where you are at in your life now. Things outside of you connot truly make you feel better, you should spend some time each day, even if it is just for a few minutes to allow yourself to think. Whenever I'm not feeling quite right ( whatever that is ) it is usually some unresolved issue that I've been avoiding!
635251
Yes, psychologically for me it was a big deal.  I had this whole idea in my head of what a 30 year old was supposed to be and what a 30 year old was supposed to have accomplished.  By the time my 30th birthday had rolled around, I wasn't any of those things I had invisioned.  Anyway, I was all stressed and partied big time on my birthday.\n\nIt's 6 years later and I'm where I want to be.  All that stress 6 years ago was a waste.  \n\nEnjoy!
1085928
I feel several things when a change is imminent for me....\n1. Resentment towards your boss, or anyone you come in to contact with at work.\n2. Bored\n3. Dread coming in to work\n4. Feel unappreciated\n5. Feel capable of more but limited by scope of work\n6. Restless, Irritable, and Discontent\n7. Or the big one is if you feel yourself drawn in to the classifieds, then you know. \n\nI am on the verge of a career change too so all this is fresh in my head. Good luck!
755726
Well, although your job seemed to be "stressful", it sounds like you enjoyed it. You probably felt very useful; maybe even essential for the smooth functioning of the office. Now, because of your injury, you can't seem to do the same things you used to, so you feel a bit depressed, because you may not feel as though you're playing a useful role.\n\nPerhaps, if your condition allows it, you could have your own business being an "organizer" -- you know, like, organizing people's closets, or their own home-office files, or other things that need organizing, but you won't have to do a lot of physical work that may strain your back / neck. Use your mind! \n\nIronically, some people feel "less stressed", when they're working at something useful and productive, even if it is "fast-paced". Some stress is caused, when we feel life is passing us by....\n\nYou have more emotional strength than you probably realize. You are a thoughtful and caring person -- try to brainstorm, and think about how you might use your talents!
813920
I was out of work for a while and it was awful. I was so broke and so bored. I hope you will find something soon. Just don't give up and start hanging out. That is the slow road to more unhappiness.
273340
It is not the saddest thing dear....don't follow solar calender follow lunar calender and in that you won't find days like these. Follow indian or chinies calender and celebrate your birthday
1168617
I try to think "It could be worse". Look around at what you have and think about the people who've made an impact on your life so far. Don't dwell on the bad things, and lastly always hope.
892293
Well this is part of our life. In our life nothing is plain sailing and all these are part of our challenges and it depends on how you take it.  I used to feel the same way as you are but after giving some thought I feel that we should face the challenge. No matter what sort of working environment you are in, you face the same problem.\nYou really heve to take it positively and take things at a step when it comes. You can give it a try and I believe you can do it.\nAll the best to you
808713
At times I do.  Sometimes I feel like life is just an endless cycle of work weeks and weekends.  Mondays thru Fridays, then Saturdays and Sundays.  Mornings, afternoons, evenings, and nights...then it starts all over again.  Same with the seasons.  Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall, then Winter all over again.  We have to do exciting things and change up our routine and be careful not to fall into too much of a routine or things in our lives become mundane.\n\nI don't necessarily feel that some other force is governing my life.  I feel I have control over the events in my life for the most part (other than circumstances I that are beyond my control).  I believe we only let ourselves go into auto pilot.
652169
When I really think about it all of my bad days in work have been down to b) colleagues:\n\nAnnoying colleagues who drop you in it so you look bad and/or have to work overtime \nColleagues who make stupid or sexist remarks. \nManagers who take praise for your work and blame you when their own projects go wrong. \n\nThose things have caused me so much grief that I have felt sick at the thought of going in the next day. Normally I deal with it by quitting. More recently I have decided to raise these issues with management. That brings me on to my final point:\n\nMy bosses's perception of me even though he's never spoken to me or seen my work. This is important because this decides whether or not you are going to get a pay rise.\n\nSo bad colleagues affect everything on your list. Remove the annoying people and work would be great.
502729
it all depends on my mood at the time
321757
Very possible.  You need to re-connect with the people you care about.  Could be beyond just a feeling too...meaning that perhaps it actually depression and maybe you need to see a doctor for "help" or medication.  \n\nEither way, I would address it as quickly as possible.  It can really impact everything around you.
1057010
First of all, talk to a psychiatrist.  It's entirely possible that what you are feeling has nothing to do with your career, but rather, with tiny chemical imbalances in your brain that can be corrected with medication (in most cases, treatment takes several weeks, and you may or may not need it ever again).  It doesn't mean you are "crazy"; about 8% of people encounter major depression at least once in their lifetime.  \n\nWhen that is out of the way, find a career advisor in your area and explore your options.