An honest question for those with weight and or physical appearance concerns.?
84989
I'm actually in pretty good shape but I still think this question applies to me. I find it is extremely difficult to maintain physical fitness due to work and family obligations. I work long hours and I have to care for a child and aging parents. That being said I still find time to exercise. However I completely understand how people have difficulty doing what is necessary to stay in shape. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't party - so basically I don't have much of a social life. For those with active social lives I can imagine it is next to impossible.
971821
average? IT'S WAY OVER YOUR WIEGHT!! hell what are you worrying about? you are just fine. Ignore what people call 'fat' it's just loose skin!
1148152
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.i personally think some over weight chicks carry their weight well some dont.just because your fat or skinny dont mean your going to look good or bad.
1076127
Yep i just want to ask you somethin are you FAT or UGLY
217772
Up until the 50's, there was no such thing as a size 0. Marilyn Monroe was a modern size 10 and is still considered to be one of the most beautiful women of all times. During the French Revolution, the ideal standard of beauty was considered to be a size 20.I think that as the standard of beauty changes, so do women's self image.Meeting someone elses standards has never been a priority for me.Me personally, i feel it depends on the individuals body type. I'm of average height, but i have a large bone structure (Damn my German heritage!)and put on muscle very easily.At 170 pounds, I'm a size 10, believe it or not.I can also bench 150 and leg press over 300 lbs. I was once very sick and lost 20 pounds (chicken pox) and i looked unhealthly, even though by weight standards i was considered "normal".I think the "perfect size" is the weight at which one feels and looks their best and completely dependant on the individual.I'm at what i call my fighting weight, and my doctor assures me i'm in good shape.So as society is concerned, I know I'll never be the toothpick ideal, but that still doesn't stop 3 of my last ex-bf's from trying to get back together with me!
479078
No. The only time someone makes a comment about your body is if they are uncomfortable with their own body, or they are jealous. I've been told I'm too thin, but I am happy with my body. I eat right, and dance alot and I believe this is how I am meant to look. If you don't like it tough. It's my body, not yours!
684334
HONEY, \nLET US STOP BEING MYOPIC ABOUT WEIGHT. WHO SAID THAT ONLY SKINNY GIRLS ARE BEATIFUL OR ATTRACTIVE. BEAUTY IS A PACKAGE WHOSE CONTENTS CAN BE APPRECIATED OR DISLIKED BY THE MASSES. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING THEREFORE BECOMES WHAT IS MY INNER PACKAGING MADE OF? AM I A PRODUCT OF HIGH QUALITY WHICH LACKS PACKAGING OR AM I A PACKAGING OF HIGH QUALITY WITHOUT A BRAND NAME OF SKINNY ATTACHED TO IT.
27655
No not at all you're a healthy weight for your height... of course their are many body variations to concider in health: your total BMI (body mass index) how active you are, how muscular your build is or isn't... but most importantly how healthy do you feel? If you feel you're struggling with your body image most times it's better to be safe than sorry and consulting a physician is never a bad idea. Having a clear and healthy perspective of yourself is important and there's a healthy way to be a look healthy. How you feel is what's most important, but make sure it's based on a healthy self-image.
4121
what you have to ask is how unattractive is it to have to worry about disease. protecting your heart and your body from all the crap that can happen is a worth while thing. nothing wrong with not just doing it to do it.
340415
Looks matter to a certain extent. I'll be honest and say I wouldn't date someone incredibly homely and 600 lbs, and most of you would agree. Personality is immensely important to me. He must be a good listener, and can't be arrogant.
1174304
No, life is what you make it sweetie. I'm deformed, at least by society's standards. I'm overweight, and my clothes are above a size 16. I'm looked at as a piranha, but you know what, who cares? It's upsetting at times, but the way I look at it is, NO ONE IS PERFECT! Stay confident sweetie, and know that God loves you. Take care.
862050
i think it depends on your relationship with the person and the situation...\ni had put on some weight once and ran into an aquaintance and at first i felt kinda wierd cuz i had gained the weight and kinda embarrassed....but then the girl said "it's been a long time since i've seen you...you look great, you've put on some weight and you look so healthy and so much less stressed out"\n....you might ask how she's doing...maybe she just had a baby or maybe she has  a health issue...\nor maybe say "wow you've changed so much since i last saw you..." and then add a compliment like "i really like how you're wearing your hair now, you look great"
111645
No, perosnality is at least fifty percent for me, of course a great body does'nt hurt ;) Of course if you've got a great body, most of the people who are atracted to you only care about looks.
841006
My sweetheart is in the same shoes but since i met him that way and began dating him that way I have accepted it but YES, it is the good thing to do to try and help the ones you love.  HOWEVER, overweight people are extremely sensitive about their weight and are very conscious indeed.  They are sensitive to people's piercing stares and inconsiderate comments.  Before you say anything, you must be aware of this sensitivity and DO NOT USE THE WORD FAT.  Try starting the conversation like "name of friend here, you have been a great friend to me and i really care about you.  I hope i have you in my life as a friend for a long time.  There is something that I am concerned about and wanted to talk with you about it though.  I noticed that you've put on some weight since college started...is everything ok...I think you are a beautiful person just the way you are and this has NOTHING TO DO with your LOOKS, but I am worried about your HEALTH.  I just want us to be friends for a long time to come.....is there anything I can do to help you?..."  Be supportive of her and let her know you are just trying o help.
1060594
I wouldn't any more, I am married.  But, If you are caring and have a great sence of humor, your size and beauty are trivial to the topic.\n\nIt sounds like you are concerned about your shape.  If I were not married, I would not hesitate to ask you on a date.  Other than being a little self conscious, (and who isn't) you need to like yourself first.  Others will respond to you as you project a positive or negative image.  Don't be phony, but don't just settle for anyone.  You deserve better than that.
95078
Well I am larger than average and I have a very good man who also is larger than average...\nBut I wouldn't say we are exactly fat...\nJust a little overweight...\nHe loves my cooking...LOL...\nHe picked me and I was already overweight...
1144310
Well you are enjoying that, and thats good. People will always have their ideal standard of what they think physical beauty is, and as women we tend to aspire to that a lot of the time. I don't think its always because someone else thinks its pretty. I think its because deep down inside, we do too. I would say lose it if you feel comfortable in doing so, and if it will make you feel better about yourself. I know I am trying to lose for that very reason, because I know I will feel better about myself once I do. I'm glad you're having fun, and I know that you will be very proud of your accomplishments by the end of the summer.