i have a 5month old baby and her father won't do anything for her should i put him on childsupport?
80994
Yes, get a lawyer and sue for child support.  Just because you opted not to have an abortion doesn't mean that he isn't responsible for this baby.  Get a lawyer and do what is right for this babies future.
215250
You both still young, maybe take a abortion. Taking care a baby is not easy and huge responsible. If you both haven't confident to raise the BB up. Then don't bring to earth for suffering.
768925
You're right, it's not fair to him at all. He should not be responsible for this child unless he is aware that the baby is not his and he still wants to take care of him/her. I would talk to your friend and tell her that she needs to come clean with him or you'll do it for him. What she's doing isn't fair for him, the biological father, or the child.
207026
Honestly explain to him first that you feel like you're not trusted with the child and let him know how that makes you feel. If you two are in agreement then you can approach the mother in a non-threatening way and let her know that you'd like to be more involved. you are a step-parent here and should be.
226481
Some new mothers find it hard to part with their new born infant in the beginning, eventually the newness will wear off and if you continue to be supportive the mother will see this and most likely lighten up some.  also you owe it to your daughter to try to be a part of her life even if you don't stay with the mother.\n\nI commend you on wanting to be there for your daughter... keep it up Daddy!
579447
He is not worth your time. Leave him and don't give up or kill your innocent baby, who by the way didn't ask to be brought into this world. You need to stop being so selfish and make arrangements so that this baby will have a loving family. You can raise this baby alone, a lot of women do it every day. can't you see he is using you, he like the sex but he don't want the responsibility of raising a baby HE help make. God has put someone on this world for everyone, he will find you and love you with or without a baby.
440641
You have to ask yourself do you really want this person raising a kid? It sounds like he can't even take care of himself. He's not doing it to you. He's doing it to himself and you just happen to be part of it. Yes, this situation is awful but you just have to accept it and move on. Try and lean on friends and family. Look into non-profit programs to get what you need (whether it be food, housing, day care, or just someone to talk to). Him being in your life and the baby is going to bring you nothing but trouble. So you'll just have to trudge thru this. It will be hard but you and your kid will be better off without him and his problems.
250691
I would stay clear of him for a looong time.  Clearly, he has some growing up to do.  You are WAY too young to be involved with someone like that.  And if he's not stepping up and being a man by supporting his baby, don't think twice that he wouldn't do the same to YOU.
231334
The last thing you want to do is pu him in a situation where he is uncomfortable to have a child.  don't push him.  It will come in time.
236689
You need to decide what is best for you and your child. Is he a caring person who will welcome the baby? Do you think that he would be willing to support the baby?? I think every child should know their father and the father has the right to know he has a child, what he does with that information is up to him.
618682
tell her to leave that is not a life for a baby she should not stay just for the baby if she isnt happy it will just make things worse for her and the baby
587446
Oh, honey! This man means you no good at all. You need to ask yourself, do I want my child to be raised up by this man who I know in my heart wishes that this child of mine was never born? You baby needs to be brought up in a Loving stable, and supporting environment. Always do what is best for your child, because they depend on you, and they are the ones that need you the most!! cut him loose. For the marriage thing, he could have had all of that taken care of by now if he really wanted to! Please believe me I went through something very similar! keep your head up, and raise your baby the right way with lots of Love! It will take a minute to get over him. It took me awhile, so I do know! Have him court ordered to pay support, that will help you out with medical bills, and all other things that your child needs! I wish you, and your child the very best!! You can do it!! I did!!
576099
Tell her that Mommy and Daddy just didn't get along any more and have to live separately. This is pretty common nowadays so you may be surprised to learn that it won't affect your child that much so long as you are straight with her without being accusational toward the other parent. Tell her, that you are sure that her Daddy loves her, but if he doesn't ever make contact or show interest in contact, there isn't alot you can do about that. One day, she will be able to confront him on this on her own. Good luck to you.
761277
i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???
78165
I beleive that both people are equally responsible for the baby regardless of what they decide to do . However if he refuses and you are dead set on getting one then you will have to pay for it on your own . Sorry . But that would go to show how much he would take care of it anyway .
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
226776
If the father has visitation right and has not been abusive to the child, yes, I would. I believe that fathers are very important in a child's life. Just because parents get a divorce, they should neither one pull away from the child. If the father can't come to the child, you should take the child to the father. A 5 year old is not mature enough to make this kind of decision. It's up to you to do what is in the child's best interests.\n\nIf the father has been abusive to the child, under those circumstances I would be more reluctant to insist the child see the father. You didn't indicate why the child doesn't want to go. Is it a fear of hospitals? Is it fear of the father? Do you put the father down in front of the child? Is there any valid reason that the child shouldn't see the dad? These are all questions that could relate to the issue.