what to do with a bully?
84914
Don't even argue, and don't talk about other people.  Treat all people nicely, even the ones who are mean to you.\n\nFirst, treating people nicely will keep you out of trouble.  Second, it is no fun to bully someone if they won't get mad.  If you get mad, she will keep doing it.  If you don't, she will eventually feel foolish and stop, because it is not working.\n\nBottom line--be nice to everyone, even to her.  If you offer candy, offer her some.  If you play games, invite her to play.\n\nAny other solution will just lead to more trouble.  Even ignoring her won't make it go away, because she will see that it is bothering you, and you will eventually explode.
717571
what an idiot.... he is hanging on to unresolved issues.. probably that you moved on and lived great without him.. He's a bully, and he no longer, and hasnt for ages had any hold on you, but being a bully, still feels the need to hurt you, IGNORE HIM at your sons graduation, he dosnt exist, its a shame you have to be at the same venue, at the same time, maybe just a nod in acknowledgement, nothing more, dont, for gods sake get into a convo with him, he will try and bring you down, cause he's still an arsehole, and that will make him the WINNER, cause his bullying has worked again... so IGNORE HIM....please
656636
She is more likely to be bullied! You can buy hair wax or hair bleacher for that problem!!!
20173
I would contact your local police station often times police departments have a program in place where they travel from school to school and talk about safety, not to mention bullying. I would also see if my local or reference library has a video. Also participating in role plays with kids demonstrating the do's and dont's is highly effective since it is hands on.
817042
MIx them up.\n\nOrganise a team activity of your choice with a good prize.  They have to be in pairs or 3's.  Put bully's with bully's and the bullied with the bullied.  Try not to have friends together.  Each team has to work together to win. \n\nEach group will benefit.  The bully's will have some conflict with each other as they battle for the alpha role in the team, and maybe realise how to negotiate and work together.  Ultimately, have respect for one another and understand how their actions have consequences.  \n\nThe bullied will automatically work together, suddenly each person has more confidence, they will know they have just as much chance to win as the other teams.  This can only work in their favour.\n\nI am a team leader of 25 in a call centre.  My team HATED each other.  We had cliques, snobbery, bullying and bitching and a very  high sick rate.  Now they have more consideration for each other, no more bully's and bullied.  Most of them have confided in me they actually quite like people they had hated before. \n\nIt is hard work, but well worth it.  Good luck
288247
Very carefully.  I had a child that was bullied and picked on at school.  I discussed the situation with my child at length, and together we decided not to go to the authorities as it would make the situation worse.  However, when the bullying became physically damaging (he came home with visible injuries), I went to the school and had a conference with the administrators, and the teacher of the class in which the abuse took place.  Their reaction was that it was up to my son to handle it.  However, when I threatened to get a lawyer and file harrassment charges . . . they changed their attitude.  The situation was defused . . . and there were never any problems.  I suggest talking to your child if it is a minor abuse and teach them coping skills . . . and if it becomes major, go to the school or facility.
638309
its not you its him.. he has major issues.. he doesnt think to much of himself so he has to feel like better by belittling you..I think you are much better than having to deal with this jerk.. get rid of him before he totally destroys mentally and physically all your self esteem.. this guy needs some major growing up and a good kick s###t kicking.. he is nothing but a worthless bully.. send him to the curb find someone healthy
605279
Unfortunately, having to interact with persons that you do not like is good training for the "real world".  We all have to work, at some time, with someone that we do not want to work with.  The best way to deal with such a person is to treat them with kindness.  If he's looking at you in a threatening way, then smile, and say "How's it going, Man!" and then go on about your business.  If he insults you, then say something like "Hmmm.  I see where you're coming from!" then go on about your business.  In other words, don't feed the fire, and by being "cooperative" you will confuse him when he does not get the reaction that he expected.  On the other hand, if he is threatening you with physical harm, then do not walk away but look him dead in the eye and tell him to "lay off".  Hold your ground, and your eye contact.  Most bullies will run when confronted with determined opposition.  And do alert your teacher or principal if you feel that you are in real danger.
316978
remain loyal to her.  Defending her just gives the jerks a sense of accomplishment because it got to you.  Find ways to emphasize both of your good atributes and time will and I promise it will pass and they'll find someone or something else to pick on.  They are really the insecure ones.  when people pick on others its to keep people from looking to closely at them.
665518
As annoying as it is, the bickering kids do with their siblings really helps them to develop the skills to hold their own with other people. So as long as no bloodshed is involved, leave them to work it out on their own. Intervene if you think somebody is being a bully, but if it's just a stupid argument, turn a deaf ear. Getting drawn into their arguments will only encourage them to argue more, because it wins them attention. They will eventually argue less as they get older.
777753
Stay quiet and stay out of the way.  Witty comebacks and smart-assed remarks don't work because the bully is rarely smart enough to understand.  You can't win with a stupid person because they are too stupid to understand they've lost.  Just stay under the radar until you are out of school.  Then, when you're their boss, you will have the last laugh.
1142631
Believe me, the only effective to stop them is fighting back, if you can beat the crap out of them, it's best, if you can't, it's better to get beaten up by bullies than just sitting there doing nothing, resort to cop/parents/friends can only provide temporary relief, if you want to end it, you get to stand up for yourself, there is no other way around.
1160628
hide.  Seriously, though, the key is self-confidence, if you're confident about yourself, or even if you pretend to be confident and ignore the people who are bullying you or even laugh at them.  I used to be bullied at my old school, I realise now that most bullies are motivated by bad feelings about themselves and they try to boost their ego by making other people feel bad too.  It's pretty hard, but don't let them see that they're making you feel bad.  Stand up straight, ignore them, laugh at them, and don't let them see that they're hurting you.
893115
Except no favors! Allow no one to bully you.  Better to go down fighting...than just go down.  Keep your mouth shut, big talkers dont last long...hope you never have to go...what a ? lol
260706
You should go to a school councilor. When I was in school I had someone threaten me, and one day they slammed my arm in the locker (that wasn't fun) and I am now 25 and it still stays with me.  Don't let people bully you, at least tell a councilor.
219792
Depending on the atmosphere and administration at your school, there's a good chance the counselor, vice principal, or principal can "do something" about the harrassment thing.  She (or one of her friends) should just tell the truth, and shouldn't be afraid to go back to the counselor or principal if it continues.  Nobody should have to put up with that.\n\nFrom the perspective of the person being picked on, if this person shows they are hurt or can't face the people picking on her, the jerks will keep being jerks.  But if she can turn straight to them, look them square in the eye, and calmly say "go pick on somebody else", and then calmly walk away - it should help.\n\nAs for talking to her... that's easy.  She should be just like talking to anyone else.  I'll guarantee she just wants to have a normal conversation with a normal person.  The guy just says hi, and talks about whatever he wants to.  Just like getting to know anybody else, the first conversation doesn't have to be any more than a couple seconds.
1142347
How long has your friend been jealous of you?  You're entitled to be hurt and annoyed, but if a straight forward request of your friend to please stop doesn't work, then perhaps this friends should seek other company.  Do not respond in a like manner - how do two wrongs make a right?  Do not expect your teachers to get involved unless you're in actual physical jeapardy from this "bully".  Sounds to me more like jealousy, not bullying.  I'd feel sorry for this "friend".  And probably distance myself from him as well.