Has anyone ever been stood up and how did you deal with it?
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I think everyone deserves a chance to make a mistake.  If the person forgot about the date (I did once) don't worry about it.  They at least should apologize.\n\nIf you get stood up more than once by the same person, then it's good byre Charle, as they say.\n\n\nBest of luck,\nJeffrey
1148901
You don't have to be afraid of it happening if you stand your ground.  Say it does happen.  When you see them next and they say, "It was a joke, I would never do anything with you,"  just look them in the eye and say something like, "I'm sorry that you have nothing better to do with your time than to pull jokes at someone else's expense, because I certainly do."  If you carry an attitude that demands respect, they won't pick on you anymore.  And if you start having that attitude now, it isn't going to happen at all.
627449
straight up tell him that it bothers you that much and you wont stand for it.........\nif he cant be on time, then have the decency and respect to call.......\nits all about respect
9854
Haha... the last one is right on the mark.  Well, I'll tell you something.  Although I like someone, because she treated me like shit and broke up without warning, I'll never go back or ever look her way.  I simply ignore her.  At first, because we were co-workers, I tried to return to status quo -- ie, treat her like anyone else and say hi like I do to everyone.  But, I got the attitude problem from her and she showed it by snapping at me.  Then, I ignored her and it got her really pissed off and she embarrased me at work by being rediculous and immature.\n\nSo, don't worry about it.  It depends on who dumped who.  Since she dumped me, I'm not going to look for her -- it's her terms if she wants to talk again.  And then, it would be upto me whether I respond in anyway or continue ignoring her.  \n   She was extremely disrespectful to me.  Therefore, she doesn't exist to me.  She does not deserve any respect or any recognition of any kind.  Anyone with self dignity would not go back to person who's like that.  Although, I do think of her from time to time -- but thoughts are private and they pass as my attention shifts from one thing to another.\n\nYou know, I'm sure he'll think of you from time to time.  We have brains and unless we were doped up, we'll remember things like I remember everything from the time I could remember my first thoughts to now.  But, beyond that, nothing.  \n\nI don't think you should worry about that.  Unless he was as ugly as a troll, he's not going to dwell on you too long.  I know I wouldn't.  There are plenty of beautiful women (personalitywise and lookwise).  There are a lot of handsome guys.  Most of all, there's a ton of things everywhere to preoccupy the time.  Go out, have fun, and think about paying your internet bills or how to move out mom's house if you haven't.  Try to conjure up a butget plan so you could have financial stability.  There will be more ex-boyfriends.  It will be a pain in the butt if you have to keep repeating the same question about the subsequent ones.
791309
I had a boyfriend that I never invited over because he would make fun of wood paneling, and my house had wood paneling. I was silly, and thought that he would think it was lame. Maybe, just maybe...he is embarrassed about something? If not, maybe he something that he doens't want you to know about.\n\nBy the way, we dated for 4 years and I never invited him over!
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It's been years. Not too much ever p*sses me off.\n\nI had an exboyfriend a few yrs. back that was extremely jealous, and he would accuse me of crazy things that I couldn't even dream of doing. I had a couple hissy fits in that relationship because he would frustrate the hell out of me. But since then...none.
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though it may take time[ depending on your existing reputation] this is very simple if you do the right things: 1st trust is earned, always! be trustworthy, dont lie , dont cheat, be fair in all you dealings and always do what you say your going to do! ive met many people that are undependable, cut corners in everything they do "white lie" for a living... sure they can rationalize everything, they got a reason for everything, they can [ in their mind] justify everything....  but would you trust them... to be a "stand up person" you gotta "BE A STAND UP PERSON"  ps your friends MIGHT not like you for this... beware
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I have one for you.  I used to live in Columbus, Ohio, and I'd put an ad in a Single's Magazine.  There was one lady that replied that seemed relatively nice, so we agreed to meet at a restaurant one day.  When we met she was so nervous you could cut the tension with a knife.  I don't remember what we talked about or for how long we talked but after the date was over we never saw or heard from each other again.  She was relatively nice looking and had a pleasant personality, but no matter how hard I tried I could not get her to relax.  I  could honestly feel the tension so bad that I felt I was being pushed against a wall.  Definitely a very strange experience because I don't think I'd ever scared someone so bad in life as much as I think I scared this poor woman.  Oh well, I chaulked it up as one for experience.
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Maybe I'm cold but I say either ignore him or  be quick and polite. You aren't together for a reason so why force any sort of relationship or acquaintanceship on it at all.\n\nI've had many people who treated me like rubish come up years later and want to be all nice and friendly, looking for a bit of closure to ease their soul. I don't harbor a grudge, but I don't forget either.
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been there done that...and all i can say is that no matter what others say this is really something you have to get over yourself\n\ni went out with the same guy three different times over two and a half years. he cheated on me every single time and still i kept going back. finally after the third time something clicked. i was ready to marry this guy, i had the ring and everything. after the third time, i would hang out with him because i figured i could be just friends but that didnt work.\n\ni still think about him, i still love him, but i am happily married to the greatest guy in the world. the only thing that helped was time, and my own determination.\n\ngood luck
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I think it is best for you to find inner strength and show some dignity and respectfully dismiss someone in person. You both have better closure that way.........But I gotta ask, wow is there really such a thing as a rejection hotline or online? Curiously humorous.
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By my fellow classmates, yeah. Never by teachers.\n\n\nWith the classmate issue... by ninth grade I realized that if I didn't stand up for myself, highschool would be four miserable years of memories... and that I'd be a "victim" for the rest of my life, never standing up for myself.  I finally "stood up" to (Threatend is more like it - I'm ashamed to say) the main instigator of my misery and was never mistreated again.  In fact my friend base by, the time of graduation, was quite large.\n\nNaturally, this taught me that it's okay to stand up for myself.... and that people only mistreat me because I LET them.  And I NEVER tolerate abuse (physical, verbal) from people around me, either toward me or toward others.\n\nI'm not sure if this is what you were looking for.  Hope it helped.
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Did you talk to her/him?   Ask them out if they reject you, get over it- but try not to stare that definitely freaks a person out!  good luck
183038
It really depends on the way it is said. It has happened to me twice. The first time, the girl just kind of walked up and blurted it out at me, it took me by surprise and I really do not think I handled that as well as I should have. We are still acquaintances but nothing ever happened. However, I was once asked out by a girl I had casually seen passing by. I accepted, of course, and we had a nice little lunch together. Near the end of the lunch she told me that she had been noticing me and trying to "hang out" around the places she knew I had been at. Then she said, "And I just wanted to say that from what I've seen, I love you." I still call her up to go hang out, but our relationship has (and probably always will be) just a friendly one.
535652
MAYBE you should have CALLED him cause MAYBE he thought he was getting STOOD UP duh!
515367
Sounds like a good fix.  Good job!  Way to stand up for yourself!
1085454
I had this girl come up to me and say that we should hang out sometime. I knew that she would go out if I asked her and she had not asked me out so she had nothing to lose. \nShe scored a date and we ended up going out for a little while. \nOpen the door doing something like that without putting yourself all the way out on the line.