why do women try to change their boyfriends after they get married?
79323
then she didnt have to be with you until deah did you part but now she does tell her it hurts your feeling it hurts you tell her she will probably understand if shes cool
904761
For the same reasons they married the first time, and possibly some new ones. Each person has his/her own reasons. I don't think there is a single answer to this.
606041
I cant answer this question because Im trying to understand that also.To many times women will stay with the guy that doesnt treat them right or make them feel cared for etc. and they dont want to find that guy that is waiting to be given a chance to treat someone with everything thier heart can put out.They would rather sit at home and complain than do anything about it,just so you know,that wonderful charming guy is trying to find you but cant because you are still in a relationship..... best wishes
895151
I agree with you. People tend to believe that the things that drive them crazy about the other will change or try and make them change once they're in a relationship.  Once they realize it doesn't get any better they move on feeling defeated. If they would have listened to their mind instead of their heart it would have told them the outcome and saved them a lot of pain.
158599
They started as lies to their previous spouse, an affair.\n\nClose relationships depend on radical honesty, and affairs are built on deceit.\n\nWhen the fantasy world is exposed to the day to day issues that couples deal with during marriage, it crumbles and the two partners now have to realize that they didn't learn a thing in their last marriage, that it wasn't their partner that made their marriage "bad" but how they responded to the daily issues of living with and deciding to love another.\n\nInstead of learning the skill of loving another, these folks bailed out when the road got tough, trying to put all the blame on their betrayed spouse, only to find out that it wasn't a new spouse they needed, but better skills.
9898
Because after getting a man or woman to provide them with all these thing, especially when they get all this without helping out in building up a relationship , they believe they can find some other fool to give them better. And alot of the time they are right. But check back with these pathetic souls a little later in life and you will find them lonely and alone. But they still end of with a substantial amount of money and security from the previous marriages. Not a bad gamble on they're part. I really think they plan it before they ever go on a date and smarten up guys, they DO. Just like when you were a teenager thinking about one day settlling down with someone and giving them everything, these leeches were planning on their first divorce and how much they're gonna get. The secret is to never give a girl or guy every thing they want unless they are truly giving you every thing YOU want and please guys (and girls) want more than to spoil a full grown eventually blown partner into telling you those faithful words.... I'm not happy. Make them WORK for your love to. Watch out
1147945
because some women are immature enough to think that they can change a man. You obviously hooked up with someone who has some disillusions
225484
I don't know honey, I feel the same way, its like they are programed to be that way.  It seems that they feel after they get married than they don't have to keep things the way they were before marriage cause they've already got claim on you.
169164
Because some women think with there Hearts first instead of with there heads.  They fall in love with the ideal of being in love.  They let there emotions get to them and all logic goes out the door.  I am only saying that some women are like this not all. Some still hold on to the belief of this knight in shinning amour crap.   And some just don't know how to date and have fun, as soon as they meet a guy, they are already picking out wedding invitations and names for their 1st born instead of getting to know a persons character.
372919
Usually she either finds someone better (better sense of humour, better hygeine, better job, better bank balance) \nOR\nShe has stopped loving you because you have been a sh*t and you have taken her for granted, put her down, or generally just been a real ar*e.  Sometimes its because she wants to change her life or have other experiences but in truth women are more loyal than men and will hang around unless you have done something to really hurt her sense of self or self esteem.
233561
maybe she married the wrong person
726820
He probably has changed, and you have changed too even if yo don't realize it. People change, you just have to change with each other and adjust to the changes as a couple.
126779
Because they know they are inferior to us.\n\nUnderstand that if he is this way now, he will be this way when married, do you really want to have to deal with someone like that?
1056040
no, dont go into a relationship thinking you can try to change someone
543253
They wanted to spice up their lives. If a married woman have an affair with a single man, it complicate things. The man may do something to break the marriage- what if the woman just need a fling- married men are easier to handle, have more experience can easily understand DISCREET.
602854
we "modern humans", both men and women, i have seen have started getting such tendencies to seek a relationship outside even if they are satisfied .\n\neven in countries like mine - India - which is much more conservative and where marriages are by and large done once in a life and they survive till both die\n\ni attribute 2 reasons for it - greed and the need for change.\n\nGreed because man & woman want more and more out of life in the area of sexual and emotional fulfilment. Meaning they want such things from more than 1 people\n\nChange because like every other thing, many people have started taking relationships as a commodity, which should be changed frequently. Instead of understanding the partner, they just live them alone for self-good.
684890
Because the ex often is a huge source of problems for the new woman and vice versa.  Most women want to be number one and don't want their man involved with any other woman period, because they are a threat.