Is it healthy to keep in touch with your EX FLAM?
85193
It would be un-healthy if you were in an un-healthy relationship before. It would also be a problem if one or both of you were in a committed relationship now. But other than that I can't see how it would hurt.
140648
If you have not even attempted to try and contact this person in a month why is it so important now?  I believe,if you haven't needed her in your life for the past month you don't need her at all. I would just leave it alone. It not nice to use people, if this person was really someone that you cared about you would never have asked ur question!
1155121
Do not reply to his message. The emotional baggage that would ensue from you two remaining friends will blur the boundaries of having a friendship versus a more intimate relationship. If you do feel the need to reply, reiterate to your now ex-boyfriend that you wish to end the relationship and that being friends is definitely not an option. If her replies further with emails, phone calls or person to person visits, do not respond. If you see him in public, speak and go about your merry way.
1250
Not necessarily. I bring up my ex sometimes to people and its not that I am not over her because I totally am, but its just that most of his experiences in relationships(good or bad) may have been with her and that is all he knows. I know this be the case with me. I know I am over my ex because we still keep in contact and when she calls me or I call her I have nothing to talk about. Just lots of awkward silence. Ask him and see what he says. Have a heart to heart.
768221
Its very immature of your ex to take it out on the child.\n\nKids need to see their Dads.\n\nTry and sort it out, otherwise if he doesnt make contact then just let it be
488114
It depends on the situation. If you were still dating him when they got together, that's messed up and that's not a friend. But if it was an ex boyfriend, I think that's okay. As long as she comes and talks to you first about it. Not asking for permission, just letting you know what her feelings are. That's a true friend. I don't see anything wrong with friends dating other friends exs but they have to remember that friends come first
1043071
well of course its going to bother your new current girlfriend because we first wouldn't enjoy the fact that you still converse with your exgirlfriend.  whether if she gave you a small gift or a bit gift, it still bothers us the fact that you accepted it without thinking it'll hurt us.  think about it, her macho exbf giving her flowers on a random day, how would you like that?  ever thought about being in her position for once?
132566
i think its okay if you're okay with it. do you want to go back to your ex?  if so, talk to him about it first. commmunication is key.
549976
Best bet? Mark it as spam on yahoo. Next time he send and email, yahoo will write to him back that "the email address you are trying to reach is not available"\n\n--> BTW, I like your policy about the ex. X is X. Otherwise it leads to emotional threesomes, a huge turmoil.
1121196
Understandable that you would want to keep something to "remind" you of your ex and the good times. But if you enjoy the company of your new guy; I would put the picture away for the sake of any argument. How would you feel if he held on to a picture of his beautiful ex?
624845
Don't cut off your booty call.  Give her a call every other day or so to keep her online.  Peace.
370258
Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
512889
depends on how good of a friend this person is to your ex. If they are best friends then that's breaking the unwritten rule and is pretty bad. If they're just casual friends, I don't think it would ruin the friendship.
144545
GOOD question. It all depedns on both of your levels of maturity and self-restraint. If you had a good freindship before you might be able to keep it up after. Just be willing to distance yourself from him/her in the event you find someone to be intimate with. It never works out with your current man/woman to be spending too much time with the ex. Too much opportunity for "heart string pulling". As long as you have rules and bounderies things should work. I'm fine with my ex. She has the kids, her new girlfriend...No reason to be bitter. It's just how life panned out. Good Luck!
651448
I think not for reasons of the heart,cause deep down inside you still have those memories of the good times you had together.Which then could lend to things happening between you two.If you are in a new relationship,the person you are with could get hurt or may not like the idea you are friends with your exs.So leave exs alone and move on.
939084
LOL i emailed one of my ex's that i hadnt seen for 4 yrs just to make sure he was ok, and now we are gonna be living together soon!!! :O) its not freaky unless you really dont like this person!
565318
no.but if u dont keep in touch regularly things may go awry.so travel and keep the love going GREAT.