why is it that families fight more with each other then they would with friends ?
87344
They are around each other all the time and sibling rivalry has a lot to do with all the fights.  Mine fight like cats and dogs, but are very loyal to each other.  Go figure.
241456
I think the fact that we have more YOUNG parents (teenage mothers and fathers) is what is causing our children to be parented by "friends" more so than traditional parents.  These kids having kids are not old enough or mature enough or have enough experience to understand what being a parent truly IS about.  My mother was 24 when she had me.. she made a few mistakes and for a time tried the friend route - then realized I had plenty of friends and needed a mom.. and I am better for it.  I think parents need to have open communication and honest dialogue with their kids - which I THINK is the goal of these "friend/parents" but they can't forget that the primary role is that of a parent.
416505
If they are constantly fighting or even if there is just constant tension then that's worse for the kids in the long run.\n\nIf they are happier apart then it will be better in the long run for the kids. I just wish people would think more seriously about the state of their relationships before leaping into having children.
292941
It's either the trust issue or something deeper. Do you bury or repress fights when you are together? How do you fight when  you are apart?\n\nI've heard alot of terms for this, passionate, full of emotion, whatever. In the end if two people can't get along, it's best to part ways.
655944
Don't pick a side.  Fights are little glitches in friendships and in time they work themselves out.  Real friends will not ask or make you to choose sides.  And as for the friends that are mad at you.  It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for something you are not.  They will get over it too.
919215
the real problem is to have faults and not to change them.\n\nfear has more power in a person's life than any weapon; or the mind and what it fears is more powerful than a gun or any other weapon; fear can destroy easier than a weapon.\n\nthe family one is basically every family thinks it is different from everyone else, but we all share the same kinds of problems, just think that we are all unique.
638588
Because people fight over territory and resources (which may be divided by a political boundary).  A good example is the conflict between Iraq and Kuwait over an oil field.
261959
Because family is all about love, respect, protection, and caring for each other.  These things are important but because of the closeness of a family they often get in the way of us being individuals.  Family members do what they do because of the above things and often forget that you sometimes need to experience life for yourself, and the forget that sometimes they are wrong.  Love them anyway though because they are your family.
141818
I could never hate my sisters, sometimes I wanna beat them yes that is for sure... but the older we all get the more we appriciate eachother, and the more we appriciate our time together because now we all have our own lives and familys that we're not together as much anymore! I wish that when we all lived in the same house we didnt fight as much! so be nice to your siblings no matter how rough it is sometimes... enjoy your time together!
722410
Well, it obviously depends on the people involved.  If they are in the habit of being well-mannered, and are basically liberty-oriented, they can have a very stimulating discussion which is of value to both of them.\n\nThen again, there are those who are sufficiently limited in their vocabulary that when they run out of words, they start to use fists and weapons.
1144941
They don't sound like very good friends.  Your free to do what you want with our without them.  But also,  If you start doing stuff exclusively without them all the time they could think that you don't want to be friends anymore and be angry.  I lost a friend once because I wanted to spend time with my family and didn't stop by her house when I was in town.  But I figure we must not have been that good of friends if she would ditch me over something like that.
42081
I think family is more important because,their gone to be there when no one else has your back and unconditional love.DO U KNOW ANY FRIENDS LIKE THIS?
688023
I know exactly how that feels. I have 3 girls aged 11, 10 and 6 and a 13 year old son that fight all the time. I also would love for them to find a common ground and share better experiences with one another, although at times it seems impossible. We have a family night where we order pizza and rent movies. Try making a family night on the weekends and let the kids pick the movies and watch them together as a family. Good luck
281484
well...that's what is happening to me and my friend\ni think that when people fight they get a closer friendship... so i  think that fighting is just normal in friendships!!\n\ni hope that made sense to you!!
6014
Well.  This is a very subjective question.  I must say, that for many youths today, they are simple victems of their parents having to earn more money, and spend more time apart from the family in order to make ends meet.  The simple fact of the matter is that money requirments are just raising each day if not exponentially each year.  The more time the parents stay away from their children, either intentional or by necessity, the children must look to other places for guidance.\n\nFor many children, simply talking different, or behaving different is ascribed to what is 'cool' at the time.  And, what may you ask defines what is 'cool'?  Well that is a social interaction between children.  What they percieve as cool for others can often be percieved as what is cool for themselves.\n\nParents in general are concerned about making sure their children are safe, and are learning, as to how the child develops, ect, they usually leave that to the schools or the doctors; both of which don't really have the resources or time to spend to make the child into a more 'acceptable' adult.\n\nHowever, the aspect of violence is often subjective in today's day and age.  Many times it is just a responce to a given stimuli that the child has to face.  Because of the competitive nature of our society, those children that do not 'fit in' or are of a 'minority' group tend to be faced with many challenges from those within the 'popular' or 'majority' crowds.  Because of this violence is one of the main answers.  It is, after all, a base instinct that drives our need for survival.\n\nIf one is directly a threat we respond with either a flight or fight responce.  For many children, the fight responce is the primary.  The flight responce, due to the nature of today's society is considered cowardly, and is not looked upon by children of substantial age (those over 13).  Because of this, violence often happens, as do fights and prejudice within the social culture of children and teenagers.\n\nThe problem here is that once it has begun, it is very difficult to change the child for the better.  Mainly this is because once the stimuli has taken place, and the resonce has taken hold in the child, and the child has no other options given at the time, their brain and thought process is to work with what they are given.  In this situation it is simply the aspect of fight without any other choice.\n\nIf the child is given another choice besides fighting, or flight, but to talk, and try to disarm, then the situation is different.  But, too few parents today can see the merit of talk over fighting.  Indeed, many parents are just like their children, seeing fault in many people and then training their children to behave in a similar hateful way.\n\nReligion is also not the answer to this, because many types of religions, to include christianity, teach you to be intolerant of those who are different.  AFter all, you MUST change them into what YOU are to make them feel needed and accepted.  As this is the case with many religions out there, the aspect of religion is not the cure all.\n\nWhat can be done?  Simple accountability of the parents in regards to the child's life.  If the parents take a more active stance within thier childrens life, even if they are unable to direct the time, they can at least make some sort of effor tin other ways.  if the child doesn't feel trapped, or hindered, they won't resort to violence on the average.  Instead, they will resort to seeking out the aid of their peers and parents to resolve an issue.\n\nBut, who knows.  The social dogma today is to be a conforming christian.  If you are not one you are a minority.  If you are already a minority then you are 2x damned, and somtimes if you are of a minority of a minority 3x damned.  \n\nUntill the social stratus changes to allow for the variances within the human society, and to allow for true freedoms, then w
665518
As annoying as it is, the bickering kids do with their siblings really helps them to develop the skills to hold their own with other people. So as long as no bloodshed is involved, leave them to work it out on their own. Intervene if you think somebody is being a bully, but if it's just a stupid argument, turn a deaf ear. Getting drawn into their arguments will only encourage them to argue more, because it wins them attention. They will eventually argue less as they get older.
202668
Nice thought.  Do you fight with your siblings?  I think it's a little more complicated than that.