why is it so hard to find a good man or to be found by a good man?
81147
Every single person in life is unique. You are, I am, the person living two doors down, everybody. What a good man is to you isn't to another. You have a unique preference. You just haven't found the right match yet. It will come. Love tends to turn up in the most stunning of places. You would think with almost 7 billion people on the planet there would be at least one man that would be just write for you...
689965
Maybe it's true that you haven't met the right guy yet.. but i always look for where i went wrong..is it the guys or me? if they were bad, u wouldn't have stayed that long with them.. so it's not entirely them.. U have to understand that there are steps to finding the right man for you...that's by knowing who u really are and what your looking for in a relationship.....most of us don't know it, but we want someone who's just like us in many aspects.\nNow lets go to the happy part.....huns i don't believe that anyone can make you happy if you're not happy yourself.. i always say that men are a source of happiness, but the main source should be me....if i didn't make my self happy, no one else will be able to make me happy.
1141842
I understand totally. I have the same problem. Only the other way. I can't find a good man who appreciates a great woman.
1063331
Quality men are hard to find nowadays.  Most men are either gay, taken, or like one lady said here, too brainwashed by the women they see on tv and in magazines they don't realize that most women don't look like that.  Women have realized that they don't need to rely on a man to take care of them, so they take care of themselves and in doing that they don't settle for any crappy man that comes along.
567410
I AGREE WITH YOU IAM 25 AND A SINGLE MOTHER AND LOOKING FOR A MAN TO BE WITH ME THE REST OF MY LIFE BUT I TOO SEEM TO HAVE THAT PROBLEM I BELIEVE THE BEST THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT.  YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.
387519
There's not a sure way to find the right person.
304616
There are thousands of good men out there, you just have to look in the right places for them. If you look in a bar, and find a man, what you have is a man that likes to go to bars, and will continue after you marry them. Look for a man that's working, making a living, because after you marry him, he'll continue working, providing a living for his family. Look for the "work horse type", not the show horse. A "show horse" is only good during the show!
858992
It happens, finding the right guy isn't easy, takes a lot of time. It's basically trial and error. I have the same problem with girls, a lot of them are basically the same and boring.
1131145
Finding a decent guy isn't that easy. I'm speaking from experience here. I'm 25 and in less than a year will finally be finished with my Ph.D., and have found that most guys are untrustworthy. But I do know that there are a very few decent ones out there. Maybe try looking in different places, like museums, church, the theater, etc. If you ever want to chat about this or anything else feel free to drop me a line
153938
because love is hard to find when you're looking for but when you aren't it won't leave you alone. Yes it is true, as strange as it is. But just have fun, enjoy life and trust me love will find you, you will meet someone special when you least expect it.
445501
I am afraid that it is a two way road on that one. A lot of woman dont appreciate the good guys and a lot of men don't appreciate the good women I have had guys tell me how good and sweet I am and this and that and then they drop me like a hotcake. \n\nI see that problem with women and I wonder why the heck they dropped the guy like they did. \n\nI think everyone needs to grow up and appreciate what is good. Honestly. \n\nI know that there are lots of good guys out there and there are lots of good girls, it's just a matter of them meeting one another.
437006
Yes there good men out there!! Just keep being yourself and Mr. Rigth will find u. Enjoy yourself but be safe finding him!!!
146341
Instead of looking for a good guy, let him find you. Do this through volunteering for a local charity or a political campaign. This way you can find someone with similar interests and philosophies. You can also try the internet where you can chat until you feel comfortable enough for a face to face meeting. You can also only answer or ask what you are comfortable asking or answering. That is how I met my fiancee and I wasn't even looking for a relationship at the time.
641697
You sound like a great guy to me! We can appreciate a good man but the problem is we may not have good men around us, so unless you live anywhere around any of us we will still go around saying that we can't find a good man.
395523
It is a matter of knowing what you want, what you need, and what your bottom line is.  If you know exactly what it is you refuse to settle for, then you will not settle for anything less than that.  Where to find a good man to spend your time with is usually a direct result of the circles in which your travel.  If you hang out with people who lack direction and have little boundaries, then you are likely to find someone who will not stick around very long.  If you change your environment and spend time with people who are laid back yet focused on progressing their lives forward, then you have made a good start.  \n\nEveryone is basically intelligent enough to know when the person they are dating is a "loser" or not.  If you make excuses for that person...then you are only lying to yourself.  Dont settle for less than what it is you want and demand the best..then you will get it.  If you let people take advantage of you, you will not earn their respect and will not find a man you want to be with.\n\n~M~
490166
I have a history of long-term relationships but lately have had trouble finding someone interested in something long term.  Hard to find a good man sometimes.
917867
My best advise is this... make your own choices and build your life. You can't plan for a man to come into your life, and when he does it will probably upset your apple cart a bit... that  is what love does. To meet a nice, good, and strong, man you should try looking in quieter places and not night spots. Bookstores, libraries, coffee houses... those are good places to just relax and attract a few fellas. Good luck!