what will you do when you wife cheat on you?
88186
Yhis statement is so wrong\n\nFirst your assuming something that may not happen. \n\nIf you understand how to treat a lady, and your willing to make the effort a woman will not stray. but it takes work, and a willingness to invest time and energy daily for the rest of your life. \n\nIf it is a two way street then neither party has a reason or even the modivation to cheat.
782195
Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
1111370
I had an a-hole cheat on me. He's now my ex-husband. Cheaters suck and they are cowards.
1156925
Look im gonna be straight w/ u .... If u cheated on her apologize and go leave her alone. If you beg 4 forgivness u just mite get it, BUT she will NEVER trust u again. She may not say it she may cry ask why and take u back, but wait a few months things will slowly change she mite bite ur head off 4 something small, she may start calling u 20xs every two hrs. Follow u... its endless, but the worst part will b all this time u r thinking things r getting better, she is blowing up w/ resentment over the "mistake" i figured u called it and one day you will wake up and see a different person and you wont understand where all this hate/ mean/ bitchy snaps r coming from, cause u forgot about it and moved on, believe me she never did she just had time to get over the shock the heartbreak, the broken trust, and now she hates you for what u did but don't exactly know how to handle the situation. One day things will b fine the next she will just look at you eating and want to smash your face in. I am so not kidding on this, IF IT WASN"T CHEATING....Go with the whole truth a sincere apology, let her know you love her and only her, ask HER how she feels, listen to every word and tell her, if you mean it, u will do everything you can to make things right 4 her. Do not lie and just take responsibility for what you did, b4 some jackas* rats u out. If u feel shes the kinda girl that would want something, get her something she likes so she knows you really know her,  you listen and of course remember what she says. Good Luck
352674
Welcome to the world of liars and cheats.  They will tell you anything to get you in bed.  How their wives don't understand them, how horrible she is and they have no intentions of ever leaving their wives.  Take this as a lesson learned and leave married men where they belong, with their wives.
211345
I would leave her...once a cheater always a cheater....Apparently she doesnt love u like u want her too. Say goodbye and find better
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
21348
If your husband kissed another woman what would you think.  You have already cheated yourself since you got to that point.  Now is the time to feel guilty.
1074234
lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!
1180370
Leave his @$$. He is cheating. That's why I left my husband and I am doing much better.
1114386
TAKE HIM FOR HIS WORDS.\nThe only sign that a spouse is cheating is when he/she becomes cold and seems to be lying a lot.\n\nJUST BE A GOOD WIFE (sexy, presentable, decent, smart, skillful, etc.) and pray for your husband that God will protect him from being tempted by other ladies out their.\n\nI wish you a happy marriage.
353795
well fist off he may have realized what he did to his wife was wrong. that should have been enough to send him running from your cheating ass! you both are dirty rotten cheating ass*holes. your spouses are to good for you guys. go home and treat the man you married better.
128949
Settle down.\n\nThe correct answer which comes from years of experience is -\n          Never add your wife to any account
528709
That's a sin some where. And any way would you like you wife to cheat on you? "Do into others as you have them do into you" Get it think about that  for awhile!
556068
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
379820
If you end it she will tell your wife. So you loose any way. So it is up to you.