i'm 18/F & i wanna masturbate but i'm just not feeling it. what's up?
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Your male partner is obviously doing it wrong.  Virgins have a layer of skin that protects the vagina called the heimin.  The pain and pressure you are feeling is from the penis pushing on it.  One of the resons it hurts so much is that you are not relaxed enough... and because you are not ready to give away your virginity.  Another reason is you may not be wet enough and the penis is just ripping you inside.  You should just wait to be married first, this way you know it is right for you and you will be able to concentrate on the act of making love.  Oh, and the heimin will be much thinner due to the fact your body will have produced the proper fluids to help disolve it.
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Please do!  Masturbation is  a wonderful  tool for your own sexual health.  You will be surprised to find out how differently sex with someone else feels after you have masturbated, and have a different understanding of your  own body.  Be creative with yourself, fall in love with YOU first!!!!
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Hopefully not. You will get more satisfaction out of it when you're at least 5 years older and with somebody you care about and that cares about you. Just finding someone to have sex will leave you feeling empty.
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You don't!!\n\nAND for all those answers that have given you the advice that you SHOULD anyway, they are OBVIOUSLY in the wrong forum to give advice!!\n\nYou don't want sex....DON"T HAVE IT!\n\nLet the person you'd be involved with pleasure themselves...watch them do it even, that could be a turn on for both of you.  Maybe then you'd like to.  Voyeurism is really erotic.  Watch and see what turns them on, maybe turn yourself on...but if you aren't ready, you aren't ready.  Don't have it unless YOU want to.  IT"S 2006 FOR God's SAKE!! \n\nRESPECT YOURSELF!!
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try to masturbate if u ae comfortable with it.. it helps..
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It's normal to be horny! Their are several options. You can just make sure you are with the right person. Not with every person you meet on the street.Just be careful.There are a lot of those diseases going around. You can also purchase a vibrator and take care of your self in your room or you can carry a bullet vibrator for those little emergency's. Their is also another option you can purchase the underwear with the built in vibrator for when they walk by you can just turn it on with the remote and their you go. I do all of the above mentioned. It's up to you how you deal with it. Being that horny is normal. So good luck and make what ever choice is right for you.
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Yes I've had sex and it's great once you loose your fear of it.  If u masturbate, then think of sex being 10 times more satisfying even if u don't orhgasm...Nothing better than to have a guy in you...How old are u?  U might want to wait till u r older though...I started at 13 and maybe that was to young but I was always to curious for my own good...
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First of all, don't try. If you expect yourself to orgasm it will be harder to do. Just lay back and do what feels good, and eventually you'll learn how to get yourself off.
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Absolutely!!! Most women get a better orgasm from themselves than from a 'foreign touch.' You know best what feels good! The average amount of female masturbation is 2-5 times a week, so you're NORMAL! When you'd rather masturbate than have sex, then you have a problem--but you can always do it during sex too!
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How long have you been trying? Both in the sense as to how long ago you started masturbating, and how long do you mastubate for?\n\nIf your clit is starting to hurt, then you are applying to much pressure. Just rub it lightly, you can also try using a lubricant so that your fingers just glide over it. Try vasiline, or lotion if you don't happen to have any KY around the house.\n\nAlso you need to have plenty of time, trying to rush yourself to an orgasm will always leave you frustrated.
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It's all up to you. I assume you're young, I have a great feeling you are. But understand, It is natural for a guy to want to. It's pleasing to males also to know it makes you feel good. But do not do anything you're unsure or very uncomfortable with. You ofcourse will be unconfortable with it being as you're unsure but it shouldn't stop you from trying it. If YOU want to, that is.\n\nBest of luck.
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for my life yes it is.  masturbation is not enough for me i would go nuts if i couldn't nut with someone.
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First it sounds like you are really stressed out about it. I think life would suck if I couldn't have an orgasm so I feel for you honey. I think if you want a drug, call your doctor and make an appointment. Try different positions, different lubricants, and different toys. Something else that might be causing your inability to orgasm without yourself involved is if you masturbate a lot. If you feel comfortable with it, google orgasm problems and read some articles about it. That might help you figure out what it is.
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First of all ignore what catsclaw89 said! None of that is true at all! Our bodies really tell us when we are masturbating too much and we just don't feel like doing it for a while...we need to "re-charge our batteries" so to speak. Unless you are obsessed with masturbating (very rare!) or ignoring other aspects of your life, like doing homework or socializing with other people...you can't do it too much! One of twice a day as teenagers (boys especially!) is completely normal and healthy. I wouldn't even worry about it. I've been doing it all my life and haven't worn my weenie out yet!
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I THINK ORGASM CAN BE DIFFERENT B/C SOMETIMES I DON'T NOTICE EVEN THOUGH I AM PLEASURED I DON'T FEEL MYSELF *COMING* BUT  SOMETIMES I DO AND ITS LIKE THE WORLD TURNS UPSIDE DOWN, AND I HAVE HAD ONE DURING SCHOOL OUT OF NO WHERE, WELL I WAS THINKING OF WHEN I GOT MY BOYFRIEND ALONE NEXT, BUT I WAS JUST THINKING.
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Maybe you want to feel looked after or even to be dominated?  Age shouldn't matter really (even tho it can cause certain problems ie lack of understanding). Don't let it worry you, just go with it, it may only be a phase anyway. You are still finding yourself.
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I'm going to start by assuming you're genuinely curious and not a pervert. :-)\n\nMasturbation is perfectly normal whether you're a boy or a girl. It's safe, pleasant, and cheap - what's not to love?\n\nAs for achieving orgasm, there are lots of different techniques and toys you can use, but it all really boils down to touching and stimulating your clitoris and vagina. Start by sticking your hands down there and touching/rubbing until you find what feels good, then keep doing it.