Is it bad that me and my husband crack each others backs every night?
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Yes and no. All it does is release air from the joints in the spine. However, if you are not careful you can do serious damage to eachother's spinal columns. You could rupture a disk, etc.
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it doesn't sound to good, he sounds like he's a nightmare to live with. my advice is leave him before you get hurt anymore.
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ok, if you have to ask then you already know. NO IT"S NOT RIGHT!!!! Ugh, you are destroying your own family out of selfishness. Women like you are called house-breakers. Ever heard of that? Your husband obviously loves you, he married you!! It's clear that the feeling isn't mutual though. You are causing so many problems for yourself and you don't even know it. I feel sorry for your husband...he deserves better and you deserve a reality check. Wake up....you're wrong!
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My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
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Yes actually. I keep trying to get my husband to go and work out of town and just come home on the weekends or every other weekend. We fight too much and maybe if we didnt have to see each other everyday we might look forward to spending time together!
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i think that there is nothing wrong with expecting him to stop.  i suffer with the same problem.  and it IS a trust issue.  especially when they say they will stop.  i find my husband to be more aggressive in bed since the start of it.  it does effect me.   though i may not have an answer for you, i would like to give you some peace of mind that you are not alone.  and i do not think you deserve to feel the way you do.  marriage should be based on respect!  there isn't an excuse for it.  its dirty and i do not think that you are over-reacting.  so don't pay any attention to the negative feed-back telling you that you are and that you should just accept that your marriage isn't everything that you want it to be.  it can be but you BOTH have to be willing to work at it.  maybe talk to him about why he feels he needs to do it.  and meet him half way.  i hope that helps you!!  be positive.  you are deserving of so much!
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My husband always bites the skin around his nails, and while hes doing this slurpy noises are being made at the same time.  Arrggghhh it drives me nuts.  The worst is when he sits right next to me and we are watching a movie and all you can hear is these noises in one ear.  I have actually cuffed him a few times and pleaded with him to stop, but to no avail,  my husband his my husband flaws and all, I love him.lol
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Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
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SOME men don't like to show weakness. For me, if it hurts, I'll find a solution to my problem. If your husband wants to be in pain, then let him suffer for being an idiot.
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First off, yes Oh my gosh I get so pissed at my husband for the smallest things.  I think it is because we become so comfortable with them, and they are constantly in the same living space as we are, that you can't bottle every little irritation up you have to let it out otherwise you might explode one day and not be married anymore.
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This is terribly WRONG behaviour on the part of your husband.  It is a clear warning sign and you need to be vary careful.\n\nCheck out the link below, and the rest of the site, about domestic violence and the warning signs and the path of escalation.\n\nUnless he has specific reason to suspect you are cheating on him, which I assume is not the case, then you need to be very very careful.\n\nCounselling may help him and I suggest you propose that to him if you wish the marriage to continue.
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My husband and I talk a lot during. Sometimes it's just a matter of telling the other what we want at the moment and other times it can get a bit dirty...LOL...It just has to do with the moment and what we are feeling.
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well coming from a man, im not saying he isnt lying, but usually when we lie its so we dont hurt the person we love, or because  our spouse will kick our ass!  we're made from a different cloth, some smooth some rough,but you have to take the good with the bad. sounds like he needs to grow up a little though.
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My husband and I have been married for a year and have been together for 5 years.  The first year was fine...2 months after we started dating I moved to Texas with my parents...9 months later I moved back to where he was and we moved in together I'd say about 6 months later is when it started.  He would get really angry because I was complaining too much about his job or that he wouldn't do the dishes when I asked and he would throw chairs...at the time we had those little plastic picnic chairs...and clothes at me or near me.  He would yell and scream at me and get right up in my face.  I don't remember him ever laying a hand on me during that time though.  About a year or two later we ended up breaking up mostly because we needed to be our own people for a while considering I was 17 when we moved in together and he was 20.  We were apart for about 2 months then we got back together and I moved in with him and his roommate at the time.  About a month or so later we got our own place and soon after that is when the major abuse started.  I never chalked it up as abuse though until I was watching some show and realized that my boyfriend was abusing me.  When he would get really mad at me he would grab my neck and pin me to the wall or throw me to the couch or the bed or where ever we were.  He has only slapped me twice and I've gotten a few bruises on my neck.  After I realized it was abuse I started to fight back and when he would grab my neck I would kick at him and push him away...I only did that a couple times because it made him even more angry.  We did end up getting married about 6 months after we got back together.  A lot of the abuse happened soon after we got married.  I only remember actually losing my breath and struggling to breath once...and that was a couple of months ago when we were in a car and arguing about he wanted to change his oil in front of an auto parts store but there was a guy outside that when my husband was in the store kept walking past the car looking at me in a weird way so when my husband came back to the car I told him I wanted to leave and told him the reason and so he got all upset and acted like a total baby and so on the way home I told him that him being my husband should want to protect me and want me to feel safe and whatever and I guess I said something wrong and he reached over and grabbed my neck and didn't let go right away like he normally did.  We got home soon after that and I went in and started to pack my things to leave and he came in and threw me on the bed and told me I wasn't leaving so I decided to leave my things and just leave and he just kept stopping me grabbing my wrists and he pushed me and I fell over a foot rest and hit my head.  I don't remember why I didn't leave.  but since then we have gone to a counselor I think two times...but now he works so much that we argue on the phone.  He never did this when he was drinking...we don't drink very much.  I don't know how he could do this to me either...he always said it was because I knew what made him mad but I still did it.  I have changed because of this...I don't say as much anymore and I pick and choose my words...I can't say I am afraid of him though.  I still say what I want when I'm really angry.  I know hes more afraid of my step dad than I am afraid of him though.  It use to happen at least once a week to twice a month.  We don't have kids...we have animals...whenever he kicks the dog I kick him...so see I'm not that afraid of him...I am for a couple weeks after the events happen though but normally I'm not.  He is intimidating though because hes a foot and a half taller than me.
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Is he your husband, or someone else's? \n\nNo matter.\n\nHusbands can be insensitive, crass, rude...etc, etc, etc. \nBe insensitive right back. See what happens.\n\nUnless, of course, he's not your husband. In that case, shame on you! \n:-P
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me and my partner each do
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no my husband is definitely not my best friend.he is though very loving  but he considers everything  in utilization of time. he cant waste his single minute on silly talks  or talks which can not provide him any knowledge.he spends his every minute productively  and so i have made few chatter friends  n they have really proved helpful in my solitude