Why do women always have to fall in love with men they cant have and ruin friendships???
89787
I think it's just human nature for people, any people, to want what they can't have.
627156
Women always want men that they cannot have. It's a challenge to them, especially if they think they might have a good chance at fooling around with them. Some women thinks this is a good way to get a man without all the commitment and attatchment. They simply think it's exciting to be with a man that's totally off limits. A lot of women do it to prove a point about men, period.
1017381
uh, why do either of you need your own friends of the opposite sex? Any friends me and Hubby have, are both our friends, (usually other cpls) but we never have over friends of the opposite sex that we are both not friends with. He is 'friends' with everyone @ his work, (male and female) but never hangs with them other than at lunch, or the 1-2 times a yr their is a work party, or Christmas party, both of which I go to with him. One chick tried to get some alone time with him, but he told her no. (this was a few yrs back) I know what she was trying to do and it made me mad as heck, but he thinks she meant nothing by it. Wrong! Guys are very naive sometimes. Sounds to me like she's trying to wedge herself in there. I wouldn't suggest you getting a 'friend' too, I would suggest counciling to figure out why either of you feels the need for seperate friends. I can totally relate though, cause men always assume if you talk about another guy, (like oh so and so did this) or whatever, even when it's nothing, just you mentioning another guy's name, even in telling a story, makes them think you want the guy. But yet they can't see that when a woman hangs on to their every word (like she appears to be) or tries to spend time with a married man, that she is up to no good. A good councelor may be able to help him see that. Make sure you go to one that believes in manogomy though, because I know there are some strange councelors out there that swing and all that though, (saw one on Montel) so be careful where you go. I would definitely put an end to it, though.now.
181216
I had a best friend for like 2 years and we did alot of great things together and I use to get so mad at my hubby cuz he kept saying " this guy wants more than u as a friend" over and over and over.  Well he was always great and never once hit one me.  BUT my hubby WAS right- all that time he was just hoping and praying my hubby and I would seperate- and he was just kinda waiting in line!  It broke my heart when I found out.  He was my FRIEND!  I have trouble believing a guy can just be a girls friend without occasionally WANTING MORE from her.  Its just natural for guys to be attracted to girls.
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some ladies are "traditional" like that. It is all about what the man wants. \n\nsome ladies just are insecure and lose themselves in men. \n\nsome ladies just want to be loved so desperatly that they will do whatever it takes to keep this mans attention.\n\nsome ladies treat guys the way they want to be treated cuz no man is treating them this way.
698383
Because women are typical.\n\nThey know they will marry the good guy, the sweet guy, who will have a good IT job, always provide for them and never cheat or leave em.  Knowing that's their fate they fight against it.\n\nThey hook up no matter how briefly with a loser or a creep who rides motorcycles or leather or whatever they perceive as a bad boy.\n\nPlus women tend to be quite delusional when it comes to their men.  They will never accept what their friends and family are saying and why she needs to leave that creep.  Women are great at lying to themselves about seeing something in him that all of us have missed, that he really is changing or even just glossing over the bad parts and cherishing the good times (as scant as they are).\n\nIt takes more courage for a woman to fight and want and be patient for a guy who will treat her like the queen she truly is then to be typical and idiotic and waste time with any guy who will treat her badly just because she's lonely or feeling insecure or desperately wants to be in a relationship.\n\nOurs is a world in desperate need of strong beautiful women.
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I've come to realize that this is the biggest, most unrecognized quandary in dating that I know of:\n\n*** Almost everyone universally agrees that people should be friends before being romantic.\n\n*** And almost everyone universally agrees that love can hapen when you least expect it.\n\nYet....everyone has that deer-in-the-headlights- look when someone, who is a friend, falls in love with them!\n\nlol\n\nIs like the most natural thing that can happen!.....yet no one seems to realize this.\n\n\nDear one...you are probably a very likable, easy-going, appealing to the eye, and of such good hearted type person that the guys can't help but adore you for your qualities. \n\nIt's a natural thing to have happen!\n\nYou're just being yourself...which is the advice I give on here over and over and over and over again.....cuz it's true!  ....lol. Being yourself, being relaxed, being happy, fun, funny, intelligent, caring, and on and on is a sugary spice that cannot help but attract.\n\nYou just unwittingly have done this, and it has done what it DOES.....it worked!\n\nNow, along with this you have to *continue* being a friend to your *friends* and tel them how *you* feel. You can't love everyone....lol. So, you can choose whom you'd like to hang with and try and caringly explain to the others that you love them as a friend....but no more.\n\nThey may be hurt, or disappointed, but that's OK! It happens, and if you do it as a friend, with concern for *them* and their feelings, you will indeed minimize their hurt, and later when they get past it all, they will love you more for having ben such a good person and sweet friend.\n\nA friend we should all be so lucky to have in this world.\n\nYou are rich.....and this is exactly what people mean whe they say....you are rich when you are a good person to them.\n\nNow....go do what you need to do, and I hope all goes well for you.\n\n:)
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Women seem to but men never do... It takes them much longer and in the meantime while you are falling head over hills for them, they are decideing that you aren't the one for them. Be careful with your heart... take your time and never love a man...more than he loves you.
317376
a girl always want a guy that she can't have, it's weird that way. i'm not like that because i can't share a man with anyone.
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dunno love. you obviously care a lot about him....\nleave him alone for a while, perhaps he'll decide that just being friends is good for him... there again maybe he'll decide you're a cow and he hates you. you cannot control what goes on inside his head or try to second guess/pre-empt it.\nthat's the trouble with men though aint it? they seem to think that just being friends means they've moved down in your estimations somehow, when in fact it just means you wanna know them forever, without all the messy stuff that gets in the way of that.\nmaybe he's low in confidence and looking for love.... thought he'd found it with you... perhaps if he gains some self esteem and meets someone else he'll appreciate how important and precious a good friendship can be.\nunfortunately, i don't think there's anything you can do to make him feel any better about it all though, he'll have to get there by himself.
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My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
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I think they can work for people wjho have been togetehr long ewnogh to develop a very deep love.  Not that new I lvoe you im still giddy over you kind.  Distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder.\n\nif this really bothers you friends or not, and she doesn't respect it, than its time to move on.  i had TONS of male friends before getting serious with my now fiance, and I stopped hanging with them at his request cause I valued our realtionship more than those friendships.  \n\nI always tell girls you should only give up male friends for a man you're going to marry...temporary BF's won't last as long as your friendships have.\n\nim not saying these guys aren't truly friends, but if you ask my man, and you knwo as a man, men are only frineds with women that aren't attratcive, or they know they can't have sexually.  (Doesn't mean they don't want to be, they just know they don't have an opportuniy.)  It's rare that ment truly value a friendship more than the possibility of a physical relationship
344707
For the same reason that men like you wind up with those kind of women. It's your fault that you wound up with someone like that not every other womans fault.
4825
its not that its impossible but in some cases the male friend may have been somebody that u have already dated or had sex with and if you meet a new a guy natuarally he would feel uncomfortable for negative about him being around u, because just females they dont like other females and as far as guys they dont like other guys especially if its a relationship involved
1147945
because some women are immature enough to think that they can change a man. You obviously hooked up with someone who has some disillusions
599580
I think that we have all negleted a friendship when a man came into our life.  It sounds like she is the kind of person who has never had a boyfriend, or someone who really cared about her, and she wanted to do anything to hang onto him.  Forgive her, she just wanted someone to love her like your husband loves you.  You will always have a special place in her heart and now she realized that she screwed up by not being around
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It really depends..and someone is always bound to get hurt because its emotional, and then what...you're just friends?\n\nP.S. Its really demeaning to women...makes us feel like hollaback girls or just plain whores.\n\nDon't do it, man, its the lazy way out.