what do you do when your 12 year old soon doesn't want to live with you he would rather live with aunt ,uncle
92807
Get to the root of the problem.  Find out what doesn't make him happy living with you. Listen to him acknowledge him his voice. Try to work it out between both of you.  There is an answer.
498641
First of all he shouldnt be living with you all anyway!Next\nas long as u continue to except it he's gonna do it. Through his cheap, mooching, unconcerned ass out of that house and let it go. You dont need it and certanly your parents dont need all the extra stress on them. You need to be woman enough to handle that situation.
763217
It seems apparent to me that this child doesn't have a good fatherly figure in his life. Be someone that he can look up to and talk to (even if you're only a couple of years older than him). You did the right thing by telling your mother and her telling his mother. He couldn't have been into this stuff for very long, considering his age. Now your aunt will be able to get him the help that he needs. Good job! :)
503666
You handle him by being polite, but firm in your rules regarding your children.  But don't make it a drama on your part.  You might be surprised to find his brother a very charming individual, and you may choose to bend the bed time rules by 30 minutes or so.\n\nHowever, the tone of your question sounds more like you are using the bedtime rules to avoid doing something YOU are unsure about.  This is really wrong, but it does come in handy if you need to extract yourself from an uncomfortable situation.  So, again, don't make it a big dramatic issue.  Just start with 6-8 and then you make the call from there.\n\nRemember also, how would you feel if your favorite Aunt were coming to visit for the first time, and your husband decided HE didn't want to spend any time with her.  Family peace is mostly what you make it.
81801
If you are in full custody, the first thing you want to make sure of is that there is a separation between your neice and her parents.  If you don't have custody, get it!\nIf your niece is still under 10 or so, the transition of authority should be easier...I'm not saying it's easy, just that it's much much more difficult to get a teenager to listen to you or see you as an authority figure.  This also is affected by the relationship you have with youe niece.\nUltimately remember that children thrive in a structured environment.  You don't what to be too controlling because then the child will reber.  Just be real.  If you love her and care about her tell her that.  Be honest with her and talk to her like a person not like a kid.  Let her know she can trust in you.  And be patient.  You know she is going through a hard time and she is not going to change overnight.  You may also consider going to group counseling with her.  It will show her that you are involved and that you want what is best for her.
716867
Talk to your aunt and talk to your cousin.  Tell them you've noticed there reactions and ask them what is going on, why are they behaving this way.  Then tell them straight out that you are not interested in him and never have been.  Best way is to be direct and hope it works.  good luck!
882066
Ignore them. Your family is more important.
934944
Send him a letter? Dont you dare. He should always back you up - you are the one he is married to. I think you need to find alternate arrangements for babysitting. Quietly, with dignity, make other arrangements. If the grandma and aunty are not respecting your wishes, what makes you think they wont be disrespecting you infront of your kids? Try to put some distance between you and his family, so you and your husband can form your own tight knit unit. Then when you want to, you can see them on your terms. As dr phil says you teach people how to treat you - dont put up with it. Demand a higher standard of behaviour from them.
948250
he sounds like a jerk but the fact that you settled doesn't mean anything you were involved and could be called as a witness. If you want to make his life difficult make a complaint with the bar association. you can't make a complaint w. the police for harrassment, your aunt can if she told him to go away and he won't
625840
Depending on how old you are, you move out.  He's older and he's never going to change.  My father is the same age and is like this.  Our relationship got a lot better after I moved out.  He's very protective and critical of his little girl.  So I grant him that.  I'll give him the respect of listening to the important stuff and asking his advice on important stuff.  But if he busts me on stupid little things, I just say, yeah, yeah, yeah and ignore him.  Pick your battles and don't rise to the bait.  He's probably just trying to show his authority.  If you give him some authority in your life and simply let it roll of your shoulders on the stupid stuff, he'll get the hint and will appreciate the times you do give him control.  He's your father, and it's hard for father's to let their kids grow up.  He will get the hint though.  Eventually, children and parents reach a compromise.  Good luck!
968017
You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
584847
why are you living there in the first place???\n\nsounds like you have a problem.\n\nfirst, you should be grateful to them for giving you a place to live.\n\nsecond, you should get your stuff and try to find a relative or family member you can stay with.\n\nthird, eat crow and apologize to his family and ask for their forgiveness, if you were being a brat at THEIR house.\n\ntake care
57082
Wait a while.  When he's gone (out of the house)you'll end up with a lot more freedom as your parents relax.  Plus there'll be more allowance money for you!\nDon't hate on your older brother.  Be responsible and always come home on time.  Have responsible friends, then your parents will feel more comfortable and maybe extend your curfew.  Remeber, you won't be a kid forever, don't screw up your relationship with your parents by trying to act older than you are.
427218
I'm not sure, but my friend, who is 17, got to pick who she lived with when she was 13 I think; ultimately, she chose her mother's house because it was closer and she preferred her mother, but if the child has no immediate family, then I don't see any reason why he/she shouldn't be able to live with another relative.
374774
Tell him to STAY out the next time he leaves...  that way you can have a more stable life for yourself & your kids.
198029
Dump the boyfriend,and straighten out your cousin. Remind\nher that blood is thicker than water,or at least it should be.
984524
I think it depends on many factors.  If she already messed up with your family and you are living under their roof, morally you need to tell her that because of her behavior you don't have the say anymore to let her stay.  On the other hand, what are her reasons for needing to stay a day?  If her reasons are important, like she has no other place to go and is not a chronic wanderer (not really staying anywhere although she has the resources to) then maybe you should have negotiated how to behave while in your home.  The $85.00  should probably not come into play for this favor she is asking of you.  \nI guess it all comes down to how close the two of you are. Also, your age.  Generally speaking, females are more catty between 15-24.  At this age group, there is a constant tug of war with emotions (hormones) and all of them are constant companions when they feel slighted.  Perhaps she feels like you are choosing your family's side over hers and she is jealous.  who knows?\nThis probably does not explain much, but I hope it helped.\nGood Luck.