Is  getting married a solution to run away from family problems, hopping that things will get better?
88582
I think they'll add to the divorce statistics. Running away from the problem never works. And getting married to do so only adds new ones.
351834
Everyone gets off on different things - but if you have issues with it, maybe you should try to figure out if you can handle it. There is no point getting married unless you are 100% sure, otherwise it is a recipe for disaster
439602
If you are having family problems, searching for God is a good thing to do.  However, most religious people would say that the best way to address family problems would be to see a psychologist or social worker.  Family therapy would be an excellent option.  In familly therapy, they work on the problems of the whole family, not just one or two people.  To find a family therapist, ask your family physician, minister/rabbi, or school counselor.\n\nBest wishes to you!
693731
It could go either way, just realise that marriage is a serious thing and requires tons of hard work to make it succeed.
925096
if your skin crawls...even sometimes...you just answered my first question...you don't want to be married to this guy.  Possibly you have a fear of the unknown and what may or may not lay ahead for you.  Maybe you feel you deserve this and no better.  Maybe it's financial fears.  Whatever they are, when you hit rock bottom with him, you'll know it and then, in your own time, you'll make your decision to stay and live with it or go.  There won't be questions or fears once you choose.  It's really not so bad on your own.  The trade offs, even if financial, are worth it.  I love coming home to peace and quiet and never having to wonder where the land mines are in my own home.  I wish you the very best.
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The most important thing in this case is you. You have to ask yourself, "are you ready for marriage?". Most people do more planning for the wedding that they do for marriage. They'll fuss over the bridal registry, invitations, location, religion, and WHO is gonna be invited. But ask yourself.... what do you want for you? Have you accomplished your goals...Are you happy with your job and your money, do you have YOUR world in order? Marriage simply a legal contract bringing two people together. Nothing is gonna change once your married; sex isn't magically gonna get better or more frequent, all the bad habits of the other person aren't going to suddenly go away and those fights aren't gonna be more understanding now that you're married.  If your credit sucks... it screws BOTH of you up. If you hate your job... then the financial burden is on you both. Be happy with you...Have your affairs in order and enjoy the other person and the times you have together. NOTHING IS CERTAIN!!! and right now the percentage of divorce is over 56%. and if the couple is under 25...the percentage is 80%. PLAN PLAN PLAN! If you were handed a parachute and told to jump out of an airplane...but you have a 56% chance that your chute would open...would you take that gamble?
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I WAS married for a long time and it took me a long time to get the strength to leave him. I should of done it sooner. If you are scared find some sort of support group or email me. \nOnce I was away from him, I realized how crazy things and it was way worse then I ever imagined. I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment. But, it can be broken if things are bad enough.  Find a friend who you can depend on to do what you must do. If you have exhausted all hope of improving things, then you need to gather your wits and be strong and do what you need to do. I stayed way to long and it really harmed my two youngest children. They paid a huge price.
679040
Well...I have to say...you are not the first to be in this situation...so, good news, there is nothing wrong with you.  It is called being human...and you are allowed to be.  PHEW!  So, now we have to worry about the actual situation, honestly, you have to ask yourself a question.  First, who is more important...you, or your family.  Because I hate to be the one to say this to you...but that is the real question.  Do you brake up your family?  Do you hurt your family, friends and loved ones?  Because, that is exactly what is going to happen.  The hurt will not last forever (well, your husband's hurt might last forever)...but everyone will be okay in the long run.  Good news, time heals all. OR-are you more important.  Do you do something that makes YOU happy?  Do you go after what YOU want?  Going after what you want (this new guy)...will TAKE A LOT OF ENERGY AND A LOT OF WORK...this will not be an easy transaction.  But then, you have happiness.\nYou can't make your kids, family and friends happy...if YOU are not happy, right?\nI know this is a vague answer...but, honestly...there is only two answers.\n1) Stop seeing him and continue with your unhappy life...\n2) Keep seeing him and start a new hard life...
364596
PEOPLE GET MARREID FOR DEFFERENT REASON'S SOME IS MONEY MINES WAS LOVE. I WANTED A FAMILY BUT I DID NOT WANT TO BE SOMEBODY'S BABY'MAMA SO I GOT MARRIED AT THE TIME I DID NOT WANT ANY KIDS BUT THEY CAME OUT OF THE MARRIAGE. I ALSO DID NOT WANT TO LIVE IN SIN I ALREADY GOT A HISTORY OF SIN I DID NOT WANT THAT TO BE ONE OF THEM. BUT ALL IN ALL MARRIAGE IS ACCEPTING THE THINGS THAT SOME ONE CAN NOT CHANGE AND IF YOU CAN LOVE THE PERSON FOR WHO THEY ARE INSIDE THEN GO FOR IT.
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no i wont marry you! but yes i most certainly believe in it!  the fact that people dont think they need to marry has led to the breakdown of the family and the problems we see now are the results of selfish people who have kids and then think they are under no obligation to stay around! i can say this cus i have done the same in the past myself. if we would have been marryd and committed to each other we would have work on our relationship instead of parting!
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You are both very fortunate in your happines.  Dont worry about what the world is doing.  Because it sounds like you BOTH are doing everything right.  Continue to love, respect, communicate and enjoy each other.  It takes 2 to make a marriage and a home.  I simply made a poor choice, and the problems erupted early on.\nSome of us dont get it right the first time.
547201
sometimes you have to do whats best fo you.  would it really be that bed to be disowned by a family who probably traded you hand in marriage for $$$ or some other compensation?? you gotta do what will make you happy or you never will be.  the kids thing is the real complication, but if sex was a chore for her and she feels no connection to her husband, the kids aren't getting the parenting and support they deserve.  either way go do what you want to make you happy, b/c if you don't make yourself happy no one else will make you happy either.  fact of life
588456
Marriages do not just happen they are like a motor vehicle they need maintenance. Its very easy to get into a rut or a boring routine. You need to put a sparkle back in your lives if you have kids get a child minder and book a naughty weekend somewhere in a nice hotel and health spa and pamper yourselves. Get a new outfit and dramatically change your hairstyle. I really hope it works out all the very best  Dirky
298395
This is hard, and it amounts to what do you really want to do.  There are many benefits to marrying in the military.  However it is going to be a reality that you will have to move away from your family.  Listen to what your heart tells you.
32127
You may need just strait counselling .  I don't think your going to find any better help for that than a one on one w/ a doc and later you get your family in on it to.  This sounds like its going to take some time and work from you and your family
328395
You're marrying her..not the family. Yes, families can cause problems in relationships, but if both of you sit down and talk with her family, maybe you can clear things up. Get their viewpoint on the issues that are bothering them but make sure they listen to yours as well. The family more than likely will not disown her....but it's a very good threat for someone who's hurting.
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most women do feel guilt when they marry and leave the family. it's best now to be a little selfish and do what you know is right for YOU. it's not your responsibility to wait to begin your life until your sister has started hers. you are a grown woman, do what feels right in your heart. if anyone gets upset THEY WILL GET OVER IT! families have issues, you can choose to let them know that you are doing what you believe is right and don't let them make a huge dramatic issue about it. as for your age difference. it's 7 years, it may seem like alot now, but if things work out and you're together when you're 35 and he's 42 the gap will seem much smaller. he'll be able to teach you things, and help you with problems he's already been thru in life. i say follow your heart, you can fix any hurt feelings that your family has, with love. i'm sure you won't get married and never speak to them again or never visit. you're not leaving your family behind, youre adding a new family member, and if you approach it correctly, your family will accept him as such. good luck sweetie