what is the best way to get over a man you love after you break it off with him?
79683
It's a hard time you're going through.  It's important to maintain your self-esteem and self-worth in this period.  Give yourself time to heal and be with friends and family who can reassure you.  If you're feeling guilt over it, try to come to terms with it and move on.  Go out with friends or join church groups who can help you.  Don't let yourself get tied up in needing someone else right away.  Just try to rebuild your life and your own self esteem for a while, and above all, don't get into a rebound relationship.\n\nThink long and hard about what went wrong and use it to make sure that the next time you contemplate getting into a relationship you are not making the same mistakes - either in the choice of your partner, or in how you related to your partner in the past.  \n\nGood Luck!
590704
You need closure. Tell him how you feel and explain that if you did not tell him, you'd explode. Then tell him that that's just it, that you're willing to give him the freedom he wants and for your part, you are doing your share of getting over him soon. This transition "rite" would formalize your breakup and should clarify things for both of you that you don't have to play the waiting game anymore. Afterwards, forget about him and move on.
499054
The best way is to make your life into something special that you are proud of.  Nothing hurts an ex more than seeing that you were able to move on and make your life better without them in it.
746950
it depend on the nature of getting out.were u heartbroken? if yes then the best way to get over a broken heart is to get under another relationship. but if u were tired of the affair and thoughtfully decided 2 chicken out i will advice u to give urself time 2 rest b4 starting anode.remember not 2 compare ur next victim or guy 2 the previous 'cos guys are not thesame and while planing 2 start another, remember dat u also have a weak point, u might be responsible 4 ur broken relationship.be wise, think well and enjoy ur next encounter, u will not regret it!.
322973
Meet him at a public place, like the food-court at a mall. Bring one or two friends with you. And tell him face-to-face. Thats the mature way to do it. You owe it to him to give him this chance to ask you, directly, what went wrong and why you are breaking up with him. Doing it with notes or email doesnt let both you and he say what needs to be said.
11123
If you want to get over your ex-fiance, you need to take affirmative action that will gradually take him out of your mind and allow you to start your life again. I recommend the following:\n\n1. Spend more time hanging out with your friends and less time alone. Friends, as well as family can be a great support when you are in pain.\n2. Get more deeply involved in your hobbies and interests.\n3. If your ex-fiance gave you an engagement ring, you do not need that reminder.....give it or throw it away. And do the same with any gifts he gave to you.\n4. Destroy or throw out any pictures you have of the two of you together.\n5. When you feel ready, start to date again.\n\nIn a nutshell, you need to start to purge your ex-fiance from your mind. It will be hard at first but, little by little, you will think about him less and less. Eventually, he will be a distant memory and you can have your own life back again.
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.
403659
The best way to get over a guy is probably by hanging out with your other friends.  Staying busy and have few friendly dates with other guys ( no strings attached ).  If you are pregnant well, that can be a different story.  Think about it. If this guy is going to do you wrong while kind of dating and lying to you. Do you think he will be good for you or to your child?  Think of it this way.If he can lie to you and possibly even cheat on you then you really don't need him.  You deserve someone better. Life is too short to be stumped over someone who doesn't love you the way you love him.
591822
Break up with him again permanently and find yourself someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
247691
Be sure that you want to be with HIM, not with SOMEONE. Nothing has changed about whatever the situation was that broke you up.\n\nAside from that, just think of any excuse to call then see him. It will go from there.
568071
The best way to get over someone is to LET IT OUT! Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. Cry it out if have to,shout it out if you want to. Most people may tell you to divert your attention, but that will only be running away from what you feel. You can't cry over a guy all your life. You will love again. It happens all the time. And there will be someday when you will think back and just laugh at it, or if not laugh then just smile at it. For now, just accept your feelings of hurt/hatred and chill, its okay.
138916
You probably will not be over him completely until you are involved with another man.  There is, as you know, a man-shaped space inside your . . . heart . . . that you need to fill.  Choose wisely this time, and you won't have to go through this again.
1061973
My best advice when it comes to breaking up is this:\n\n1) Why would I want to be with a man who doesn't respect me, trust me, be honest to me, or who is unwilling to communicate his thoughts/feelings or to compromise with me? What I want is a man who is always ALL these things.\n\n2) It's impossible to try and forget him. Stop trying. The more you try, the more you'll think about him. Just remember the good times. They made you feel good and they are a part of your life. Treasure those moments, but also acknowledge the bad memories. Learn from them and then the relationship was not for nothing. Use them to pinpoint the perfect man for you... what you want and don't want in a new man- the right man.\n\n3) Rely on friends and family. Use their support and love to get through this time and get your mind off of it. They are people who really do love you and will always love you, no matter who the new guy is that is breaking your heart.\n\n4) Know that it takes time. Even all the advice and words of support that you listen to don't sink in and make their impact until you are ready for them to. One day, when you break out of the mindset you are in during a breakup all of the love from your friends and family will make its impact.\n\n5) Remember that it's worth the risk! If you don't take the chance, you won't be able to meet that guy who is your perfect match. He is going through the same pain as you are now, because everyone must go through break-ups before they find the right one.\n\nHere are some books that I recommend for getting over a breakup:\n\nHe's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo\n\nBe Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either : Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve by Ian Kerner
476642
Hmmm...the best way to get over your ex???? Get a group of friends together and go out and have a good time! Go dancing, go to a movie, even invite them over to hang out. Do anything you can to keep your mind off the ex. Then, throw out anything the ex ever gave you. Get rid of it all, burn it if you want. Have a "cleansing". Take a nice long shower, indulge in some bubble bath even, do something nice for yourself. Go spend some money if you've got it, and then, when you are ready, go shopping for another person to be with!:) GOOD LUCK!
805793
The best way to get over one man is with another.
721223
Just let him go and dont think about him. Let it happen and make sure that he tells you a great reason why he is breaking up with you and see if you two can be friends and talk to you.
1010435
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone