are we really inherently selfish as human beigns when it come s to love?
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Love is not a noun.  It is a verb.  You choose to love someone. And when you choose to love someone, you act on it.
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Love is not love until it is given away. Love is not an emotion it is an act. Love in its simplist definition gives expecting nothing in return. It is the complete absence of selfishness.\nIn the word of God, it is Gods greatest commandment. 1st Corinthians 13:4  Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.\nMany people think the opposite of love is hate, but in truth the opposite of love is selfishness. Love always gives and selfishness always takes. (whats in it for me?)
180117
yes...you let them go. It would be selfish not to. After all when you truly love someone you want their happiness.
518706
The word "Morals"  in our society has become a joke, because some people try to 'impose' them on others. But if you live your life so that you do not purposely hurt someone, either physically or emotionally, then that is all the morals you need. That is how I try to live. Our actions always affect other people to some degree. We can bring heartache on our Friends and family, or joy. To "Love one another" is not a burdensome command. It is a formula for success.
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well for a short answer - we're human!\nand if we didnt have wants and desires we wudnt be working to achieve or strive for it.\n\nif ppl werent materialistic...it wud be an perfect world..but wud a perfect world actually be an ideal world?
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No, I think forgiveness is hard in any respect. However, the knowing that we empower forgiveness upon ourselves according to our forgiveness of others does encourage me to do so. Selfish. Perhaps.
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Well, Life is about chances and so is love...  Some people hurt us intentionally, but some don't..\n\nI think that the people we love hurt us, because they don't know how to appreciate it.  Take it for granted and take it as a vulnerability. (So they take advantage of us)\n\nBut don't give up on it..  We have to go through a few bad seeds, before we finally find the right one..  : )
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I think that when you feel love for a person, you want that person to be happy no matter what. Meaning, if that person isn't happy with the relationship, you will give up the one thing that means everything to you, THEM. Just so they can be happy - even if it's with someone else.\n\nLove is not selfish, love is not material or demanding. It's just there. No one can control it and no one knows when or where it will strike.
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Lust is selfish and love is selfless. If you can't tell the difference, then it's lust. You'll know when you are being loved.\n\nQuote:\nLove is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
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You can't change other people, especially if they don't wanna be changed. Good people are out there, and true unconditional love DOES exist, but nowadays people are really selfish and out for themselves.
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Even if someone were to perform a self-sacrifice for someone else, with the exception of suicide, you could look at it as selfish, as it would still reap benefits for the sacrificer: that good feeling you get from helping other people.\n\nOther than self-sacrificial acts, there is always some benefit, even if whatever is being done is being done for the benefit of someone else. Say for instance, I took you out for ice cream. It would make you feel good, but I would get some ice cream also, so it COULD be considered selfish.\n\nI suppose not.
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Thinking of ones self will take you very far in life in some areas. It maybe a lonely ride to the top but it is a surefire way to get there. If you count out how much doing the right things for others has cost you or people around it almost makes it seem stupid to consider anyone other then yourself but if you can remember how you felt in lending a hand or sacrificing something it really does mean something. To each there own and however it helps you sleep at night being selfish or generous are up to the indivual and there needs at the time.
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NO DEAR PEOPLE LOVE THE PEOPLE WITHOUT GETTING THEIR LOVE.  ONLY THAT IS CALLED LOVE.
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We DON'T have to. It happens naturally. LOVE is what rules the world. That's the connection we all have with one another. We, human beings, at the end, ALL we want is to be LOVED.
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Yeah pretty much.  \n\nAnd while we're at it, let's let this one fall out of the bag.  \n\nA lot of us never really fall in love with our hearts.
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No...Sometimes things are meant for us but we can screw it up. I believe that we all control our own fate and if you want someone or something go for it...you don't leave it in the hands or anyone or anything else... Because while you are waiting for someone to come back there will be someone else who will get in the way of that and change the path. If someone loved you it was for a reason and if their mind changed from that you can change it back...nothing is written in stone. Don't wait for fate to come to you make your own. Don't hold on to the love theory of letting things go...if you drop a priceless gem into the ocean and you sit on that shore do you really think you are ever going to see it again...NO....If you let go someone who is priceless to you there is a ocean full of people for them to meet and love do you really think if you just sit there and do nothing they will just float on back...NO!
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You are really selfish.