i lost my soul mate because i was young minded and jealous but i grew up how do i get her back?
86085
If she is your soul mate, nothing can stop it from happening.  However, from what you said, it appears as though she's moved on.  Learn from the mistakes you made in this relationship so that you can be a better man in your next relationship.  If nothing else, let her always hold a special place in your heart as the woman that taught you how NOT to be, because now you know what it is to lose what you once held dear.  Go forth, forgive yourself, and let her go.
532445
I know that it will be hard to start over again after spending six years with a person who you think is a soulmate, and having things backfire on you. Regardless of how old a person is when this happens, it hurts deeply.I don't know if you are religious at all, but I believe that the Lord will make all things turn out ok, regardless of how dark you view your  situation to be. I live in New Orleans, and during Hurricane Katrina, when I evacuated to a shelter, I see people on the verge of cracking up, because they have no faith, nothing to fall back on. As concerned as I was about what lies ahead, because of my faith in God, I was at peace with the situation and can continue to function normally.There is light at the end of the tunnel for you, if you would just be patient and have a little faith. Time heals all wounds.You will be able to love again, and you will find that special someone who can make you life complete. My prayers and best wishes are with you.
915427
I'm not gonna lie to you, that is a pretty tough thing to deal with at any age.  Just remember that you two broke up for a reason, and that you are better off without her.  But to be perfectly honest, the hurt probably won't go away until you find someone new, so start looking.
1110527
oh dear.. this has happend to me too. The best thing to do is try your hardest (though challeging) to move ahead with your life. Time to look for new friends! Be confident, and calm. In a month or so, call up your old friend again, maybe by then she will have missed you, and ask to be friends again. If not, well, there are plenty more fish in the pond. It is the cold, hard truth!
441608
I've been in your shoes and you have stated in your question exactly what the problem is. "I gave up everything for her all my friends and everything" The problem is just that. You gave up everything. Now you have nothing left, not even yourself. You invested everything in her and she took it and ran. The best I can tell you is that it's gong to take some time. This might sound crazy to you right now but it will make sense later trust me. First forget her!! This is the hardest part. Constantly remind yourself that you deserve better.  2nd forget dating others for awhile. The last thing you need it to jump in a relationship with someone when your still hurting over the first one. Your pain clouds your judgment and you may get into something you wish you hadn't. 3rd and most important, try to get back the things you gave up. Find your old friends and make some new ones as well. Start doing things that you enjoy. Find yourself again. It takes time man but we have all gotten through it and you can too.
746275
okay so you say you used to be obsessed with her so i'm assuming you did go out there and get over her, or try anyway. \none of my mates had this exact same problem and alot of it just came down to the fact that he was insecure about himself and lacked confidence and self esteem big time.\nhe also felt alienated by people around him so the best thing to do is talk about it. find someone that cares about you enough and talk till your blue in the face. - i listened to him for hours for a very long time, then i realised that i wasnt nodding off in convos cos he was coming out of his shell\nthis may take some time but as long as your getting out there with people you like to be around and talking to your mates about how your feeling - girl mates are best for this you will eventually move on. my mate - he doesnt even think about her anymore. and he is alot more confident too.\nh did try to date other girls initially but they were either too similar to the girl or completely unsuited to him i think he just wanted someone who wouldnt dump him and be there for him. and nows hes with the perfect girl for him.\n\ndon't hate yourself or kick yourself for lost opportunities. everything does happen for a reason and if it wasnt your lucky day that time it will be sooner or later. and if you did get to talk to the goirl your obsessed about properly (assuming you havent) you'd realise that you'd just set your ideal women criteria in your head and put her face to it and in reality she probably dont even match up.\nseriously. its not wasting your time over.
866558
It sounds like you are separated and she is an ex, so that part is good .. .\n\nNow you have your anger to deal with . . .\n\nTry seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . .it might help you clear out some of those emotions, and you will be ready for a new relationship sooner . . .
112072
Ask yourself if why you want her back.  Ask yourself why you left.  Is it because you feel guilty?  Did you desire someone else and now that it is over you want her back?  Examine your love for this person.  If you truly love her then you will be concerned about hurting her again.  Maybe it is best that you don't go back.
902044
sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.
832676
you know her better than anyone. go get her, but your powerless if she has stopped loving you. :-(. what a sad situation for you, i hope it is all a mid life crisis and hope she comes to her senses and realises how much you miss her! good luck! if you know where she is write her a letter
142642
shes there, shes always been there youve just been looking to hard. Give it a little time and b4 u know it ur soulmate will find u!!! I promise
1061839
I can relate and I know where your coming from. It is hard to pick up the pieces of your shattered dreams and get on with your life. \n\nYou first need to tell yourself that life can be hard but you can over-come. \nThan you need to tell yourself that no one is at fault. not her not you. that sometimes things just dont work out. \nYou need to amend this by sending her a note or talking to her and without making her feel your pain say good-bye. \nTake a good long look at yourself. Forgive yourself for any promises you made and never kept. This is called cleaning the soul. \nSit down and write only the positive things you can see in your life. never list negative things. \ntake a few days to get away from your life. I usually go to the mountains and nature outlets do a little camping and fishing. Tell yourself that when you get back your going to make new goals and work hard to build a firm lifestyle. \nonce you get back call some friends and have a get together and just have some fun but make sure you do not mention any problems and inform your friends the same. all these things will prime your mind to get started - the rest wont seem so hard but you must keep in mind that life does not end when something goes bad but restarts. \nFor every door that slams shut on you another opens up. \ngood luck
658466
I'm sorry for your lost i hope something will help you to move on and your heart will heal soon. When i lost may love ones i went to my friends and hung out. Played bingo now that did take my mine off thing trying to keep up.\nAnyways best of luck.
1182837
you have to think about why she left you in the first place.\nMaybe you weren't affectionate enough or you were to affectionate and she felt smothered.\n\narrange a date with her and ask her on a serious level what went wrong.\nOnce she tells you you may be able to realise and look back and see that she is or maybe right.\nTell her how you have been feeling and how your willing to make it right if she is willing to come back to you.\n\ngood luck
442901
u have to try to be strong...think about why she broke up with u if u dont know ask her. try to stay on her good side and fight to get her back but dont allow her to see how hard u r tryin if she is takin u for granted cuz she will never take u back she will keep playin with your emotions but if she needs to see how hard u r tryin to get her back let her see. if there is no way u can get her back then seek help from a pro. meanwhile talk to someone about it cry if u have to and make sure u think about the good times and not the bad cuz that will make u feel worst. if u really love her then i think u should put up a fight its better than not tryin at all. as time passes u will start feelin better u will not see it now bcuz she just broke up with u but as time passes u will see things gettin easier. its not gonna happen over night at all this is a healing process. if u wanna talk further about it ill be there for u. email me at jbhola87@yahoo.com...till then feel better. PRAY!
334570
the best thing to do is go separate ways , find a hobby , read, go shopping. i don't think someone else is good right  now. u ha vet gotten over this .give yourself time to your self . plenty of fish out here in this big sea of love. what u do is find a younger gal reminding u of her.
451847
she outgrew you probably. u can either grow up or find another gf