Do feelings even matter anymore? NO matter if you Male/ female!?
95563
I am not sure that feelings change. Situations change and that affects the intensity of those feelings, but not the actualy quantity. You can love someone and learn to hate them, but you never actually stop loving them. If things are not good, unhappyness accrues and in some cases outweight the love feelings, which is why relationships are a lot of work. I also think that attraction diminishes and many people mistake that for diminished feelings, but it's just attraction. It's there, you just need to work hard at it.
84351
hmm, not all men and women feel that way.  You should get some therapy.
85124
no there is no way...however ..feelings is one thing...and action is onother thing thats totaly diffrent....you can only change your actions but not your feelings....good luck
884187
What difference does it make? If two people like each other who cares?
181757
No, it is not something to be worried about. When the time is right with the right person you will be able to express your true feelings.
229360
yes people to change!\nthe feeling doesnt sound like a mutual one you inticated, so my dear you should move on
418386
yes it does..ask me..put on some weight in an relationship...bot dumped pretty soon..or say became friends!! you think it doesnt matter..until it happens agai  and again and again
255254
DUDE-since when???!!!
431163
sometimes it dosent matter.this time it did....we only know the difference when we fight.\ninfatuations dont weather fighting well.\nlove does.
1152001
You deserve more. Find someone that makes you feel happy, not confused and sad. Is this only a one -time thing.....?
782517
It was hard for me when I recently got in touch with an (THE) ex. At first it was just friendly, and then we talked a few times and I was hit with so many emotions it felt like I was punched in the stomach.  He was my first true love (at 18) and I realized that I still have feelings for him almost 20 years later-- and we are both married to others with children.  I told him how I felt and it was not great/emotional/embarassing to be feeling and acting like a teenager, though he let me down gently and we are still friendly.   So its been a tough few months. With other exs it has not been an issue, simply friendly, occassional correspondance with guys I knew in middle school, high school.  I think its not an issue if there are not any feelings left but friendly, fond memories.  If you discover, like I did, that the feelings are as fresh as they ever were than its much more complicated.  Good luck.
28909
DO WHAT YOU FEEL! enjoy if you find yourself enjoying both what the hell the labels matter? i think also that your desire may change.. also both gives you different things another important thing:\nDo not make a decision based on someone else's opinion, this is  of the most intimate thing we got.
676874
I believe thats partly the problem in todays society where it seems no-one has RESPECT for anyone or anyones feelings anymore.. marriage or relationships henestly mean nothing like they use to... easier to get out of it rather than work at it, majority of people are all conceited and only think of themselves, so in other words, nobody cares!!
988485
I really hate questions like this that generalize all guys into stereotypes.  Just because you have dated the wrong type of guy, don't lump the rest of us in with him.  The only comment I see which may hold water is that guys aren't as emotional as girls, & I even disagree with that to an extent.  I believe men don't express their emotions as readily as women, & that is part of our nature, but we do still feel as deeply as women.  However, most of your questions could as easily be turned around & asked about girls, as many of us men have been put through similar situations by women.  Many of us have felt lead on by girls.  Many have felt girls started something & then changed their minds, whether it was sex, dating, or even a relationship.  A lot of us have wondered why girls don't care if they hurt us.  I think all of us have wanted to know at one time or another why women can't be open & honest with us about their desires, preferring to beat around the bush & making us guess what they are thinking to prove we really love them.  I'm guessing some guy recently hurt you, but it isn't fair to vent on all of us because you got hurt by one scumbag.  You deserve better than the way you were treated, & men in general deserve better than to be lumped together with those of us who happen to be jerks.  It's akin to racism, in that you are chastising everyone in the group for the actions of a few bad apples.  So, learn from the experience, see what it is that this guy did that hurt you, decide you deserve better & settle for no less, & look for one of us who will give you what you deserve, because good men are out here.  You just have to look in the right places.
1137309
I don't know that you can stop having feelings for someone you've loved. I still have feelings for every guy I've ever dated. I feel differently now than when I dated them. At the very least, my feelings are less powerful, more mild.\n\nThe guys that did me wrong- I still feel unkind feelings- Hate and anger have become more like dislike and avoidance.\n\nThe guys that were good to me- I like, rather than love...\n\nNow I'm married (going on 7 yrs), and any passion I may have felt for other men is gone. My hubby is my passion.
287757
Am I suppost to care???
288142
does it really matter>??