met a great guy online, we have been talking for a year he wants to meet why do I get so nervous and back out?
86509
Because now its the first meeting face to face. It's almost like a blind date type of feeling. If you meet him do so in a public place were you are comfortable and make sure you have your own way back home.
495656
i think maybe hes changed his mind ,if he comes back on and your online let him make the 1st move ,then you will know but if he dosnt contact you again ,dont worry about it ,people have all sorts of issues of their own to deal with ,sometimes you make great friends via the internet other times its a case of fly by night and you never hear from them again ,but which ever please dont end up harrassing him
224942
on a date is usually the best place.  agree to meet somewhere and then just be really nice about it and even if you use the cliche line "you're such a great guy, but this just isn't working for me."  he'll respect that you told him to his face and not just like a coward over the phone.  it might not seem like it at first, but he will respect you in the end.  it is another plus to building your confidence and becoming an adult.
777887
It's perfectly okay to be nervous. Sometimes we worry "Oh god, what will he say or think of me? What if he doesn't want to talk?!" Just breathe, relax, and tell yourself that if he didn't want to talk to you then you wouldn't be dating. He's interested in you, so go ahead and chat it up!
1066597
my bf i met on answers. it's going great. other guys i've met online....and we went out for a while. so i'm not opposed to meeting someone online as long as you know in time you'll meet each other. it IS possible to fall in love this way. :)
647968
Well, you cannot take away the nervousness.  That's natural.  However, you should meet him in public.  Don't let him pick you up.  Pick a place where there will be lots of people, and make sure to talk to him about how you will recognize one another (pictures can be a little deceiving).  My favorite place to meet is the coffee shop at Barnes & Noble.  There are usually a lot of people around, but you can sit alone to chat privately.  Also, have a friend call you 20 minutes after you are supposed to meet him.  If he's a creep, that gives you a way out.  Just tell him your friend has an urgent situation and that you must go help her.  If it's all going well, then tell your friend you'll call her later and just have fun!  Make sure you meet him publicly two or three times before you do anything private.  If he's not willing to chat with you in public, then he's probably just interested in sex.
396466
This is the classic reason why people should NOT put faith or MONEY into online dating: the Internet simply is NOT a solid foundation for such social interaction to lead into any degree of romance.\n\nLet this guy go and learn from the experience. You want to meet a man? Do so in person...one on one (1:1).
676023
U may not want to go that route, meeting  people online can be dangerous, even for guys.
1007538
He's probably too scared that you'll reject him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens!
774765
I'm sorry to have to tell you that meeting people on the internet leaves you open to so many risks as many people have ulterior motives. Some like to turn a guy on and leave him cold, some do it for fun, e.t.c. so its always advisable to have an open mind when going into such sites. Remember that everyone on sites are strangers so you don't expect them to just open up to you like that.\n\nIts best to date face to face in real life.
640589
if you feel confortable, get each others phone numbers. \nYou can talk to him and see what he is really about. \nI personally met my boyfriend of so far 2 years online, we talked online for 2 months, and things have been going perfectly by now. \nIf you decide to meet him, make sure you know enought of him and feel comfortable. Bring a friend along for safety
193463
I think that might be his way of testing the waters with you, I had a guy friend do the same thing with me "I want to meet someone like you" You have to ask yourself if you would want to persue something with him or not, from the way it sounds not. \n\nThis is one of those time when subtle wont work I think you just need to come out and ask him if he is hinting that he wants more. Just tell him you have been getting a different vibe from him lately and you want to know.
423601
He is being nosy and wants to see if you found someone else.\n\nHe also may be doing it to torment you, some guys are sick that way.  They are hoping that you will beg him to come back.
1094934
Dating, especially online dating for the first time can be nerve wracking!  I tend to get a little nauseous beforehand!  But, I remind myself that it's not that big a deal and that if we click great, but if not, he's not the last fish in the sea.  Having high self esteem and the awareness that even if it works out badly, it's not YOU.  He's just not right for you nor you for him.  You're not marrying him, so relax and have fun!
536660
Guess he's getting cold feet. Tell him it's fine that he wants to wait because you'd like to spend more time getting to know him too.
372276
Well, there are a lot of things which could be driving him to avoid certain subjects.  Perhaps he is holding back a bit to avoid being totally vulnerable.  If he's been hurt before by allowing himself to be totally vulnerable to someone you could be paying the unfortunate price.  While I understand you don't want to run him off you also need to be able to figure out whether your relationship has a strong foundation upon which to build something more than conversations about sex, food and currente events.  If he's not willing to meet you half way then perhaps you both need to re-evaluate what you each want, need and expect from the relationship.  If those lists are not consistent or, at the very least, complimentary, you may have to re-examine whether you want to stay in the relationship.\n\nOf course it's very easy to write all of this not being there but in the long run it's a conversation you're eventually going to have to have with him.  Try to find out what other subjects are open for discussion and go there first....try to help him open up by sharing a little something you might be holding back.  Start it by saying "you know, I may not have told you about this but...."  Perhaps by sharing and showing a bit of your vulnerablility he'll do the same.  Just be careful to pick something which won't bare your soul completely and leave you hung out to get hurt in the end.\n\nAll the best "ma'am"   ;)
708062
Well.. It also happens to me.. I'm a person who talks to guys a lot online.. When I'm talking to someone for hours and getting to know him better, I feel like there's a connection between the two of us and that he's worth talking to. On the other hand, when I'm talking to other guys on here, I feel that I'm just wasting my time talking to them and that they're not worth talking to.. But yeah, Its hard when you meet people on the net because of the time difference and it's really hard to catch up with 'em when you're busy.. I am not really sure if my answer will help but yeah, I'm just sharing y'know.. =)