Is there an Army Regulation that states how far my husband can be away from me if I am 2 weeks from delivery?
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If you would like a better understanding of such regulations and help in finding them visit you ACS (Army Community Services) in such situations it is normal for the army to send the soldier back from the field or a deployment. At least from my experiance. I would have sent one of my troops home for the lucky day.\n\nIf you are having a hard time with the chain of command you can always speak to the chaplain or Army Family Team Building. \n\nGood luck
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ten to 16 weeks with a break after boot
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My rule is 2 days but my husbands is 3. We usually freeze left over just to keep longer if we know we won't have them in 2 days.
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During basic training you are allowed certain privileges after about 2 weeks. Up until that time as the saying goes you and your ass belong to me. Well that is the drill Sgt in your first couple of weeks no matter what day it is.  \n\nAfter your first couple of weeks you will have access to a telephone near where you are after your training day has ended.\n\nI hope that this has been of some use to you, good luck.\n\n"FIGHT ON"
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If I understand this question there are 2 issues - the first is that you are having difficulties coping and the other is that he is suffering and has just returned or is enroute back to his unit and is also having adjustment difficulties. I am also going to assume that, based upon your description of not living near an installation you are a Guard/Reserve family. As long as this is accurate, my first suggestions is to contact the Family Support Group (FSG) leader and see if they have formed a support group of spouses yet. If they haven't, contact your rear detachment and get the name/number of your state assigned Chaplain. Even if you are not religious - he/she is the one the Army has given all the answers and resources to. Tri-Care will also cover counseling services for you, but there are a lot of little details you must take care of before going to see someone (go to the myTriCare website for full details for the region you live in). Once again, your rear detachment can assist with all of that if it is confusing. As for your husband, every FOB, CSC and Base Camp has certified combat counselors stationed on them or nearby. If his symptoms are severe (suggestions of harming himself etc.) contact his chain of command through the rear detachment ASAP!! If his symptoms are mild, find out who his downrange chaplain is and contact him/her and ask them to speak with him. You can find out who this is either through the state chaplain or your rear detachment. Your FSG may also have this information. If all else fails, AND THIS GOES FOR ANY SPOUSE WHO READS THIS please feel free to contact me directly at sofgrant@hotmail.com and I will specifically address or provide contact names and numbers for you.
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Absent Without Leave (AWOL)
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hun, no matter what you do it will be in the back of his mind that hes gonna have to leave you guys in 2 weeks.  just plan fun things to do with him.  you want to try to plan time for each of the kids to spend separate time with him as well.  But make sure you have lots of fun together no matter what.  when hubby came home for his 2 week R&R i made a welcome home banner and put it in a door way downstairs that way he saw that he was being welcomed home, not like he was about to leave.  good luck hun.\n\na military wife
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Lots of soldiers do get R&R leave (2 weeks of uncharged leave) in the middle of a year-long deployment.  This, however, is not guaranteed, and I don't think you can request.  I'm pretty sure it has to just be given to you.  SO, it depends on many factors, but yes, it is possible.
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Now. \n\n2 weeks notice is a formality, NOT a requirement. If the environment is as bad as you say it is, say goodbye ASAP.
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One week is tooooo long I could not stand two weeks!!!  What does your husband say about the whole thing?  He should stand beside you and talk to his parents.  He can tell them two weeks is way too long due to you being pregnant.  Maybe after the baby is born you can meet your in-laws at a neutral location as a vacation.
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They pretty much work with you and what you want as much as they can.  However, you shouldn't need a "break" from BCT.  It's only 9 weeks and it's better to get it over with.  You'd be better off to try to work it so you can go to BCT, have Christmas at home and then start AIT.  Honestly, you don't want to be forced into taking Christmas exodus.  I don't know if it's changed, but exodus used to count toward your leave.  Kinda like mandatory leave.  If you take exodus that soon after joining, you'll be in the hole for leave days.  I know, because this happened to my hubby.  Then, when he came down on orders for Germany directly after AIT, we had no time together because he had no leave saved.  He went strait overseas and it took me 6 months to get there.  Just something for you to think about.  Ask the recruiter if exodus counts toward leave because if it does, you don't want to start in the hole.  \n\nAlso, in all honesty, you and your family need to learn to spend time apart.  Especially holidays.  I know you don't want to hear this and some will think I'm mean, but it's the Army life.  Our daughter is 9 and hubby has been home or able to help for 2 Halloweens.  He's been gone about half of her Christmas' and in our 18 years, I can't even tell you how many missed holidays or special days.  It takes a special and strong family to be a military family.  I hope you and yours are prepared for the lifestyle.  It's a hard life, but it's a good life.\n\nGood luck and thanks for your willingness to serve!!
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Sorry.  There's nothing you can do...just remember that your husband has made a commitment to his country.  Remember that what he's doing, he's doing for the good of you, your unborn child, and the entire nation.  \n\nHe chose to serve his country - be proud that he has the courage to do so, and pray for his safety.  \n\nThat's all you CAN do.
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NO WAY they cant do that ie on the basis you are pregnant!!!! dont be silly\n\ndoesnt matter if you knew at the time or you didnt want to tell them when the job was offered.\n\nthe main thing is you have to be employed for a certain time think its 41 weeks in total thats from when you started to the week when your baby is due for you to be entitled to maternity pay if not then you can take your 26 weeks off without pay but u can claim from the DSS
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To join the military is a big adjustment period.  Let alone with a child already.  First you have to realize that there isn't one job in the Army where you can say 100% that you will not deploy.  Now deploying means anywhere from Kosovo to Iraq.  I have two children of my own.  I didn't have any when I joined.  Due to training, Temporary Duty in places where I'm not stationed, and Deployments I have missed both child births, both first steps, and both first words.  Is it hard?  Of course.  Is it worth it?  I believe it is.  Now also realize I'm an Active Duty soldier.  When I deploy it involves a lot of training before hand which means weeks away from home and long hours before I'm gone for a year.  For NG and Reservists deploying means "mobing" at an Army base for up to 6 months followed by a year long deployment.  As far as the push ups and the climbing goes. Ask your boyfriends father to teach you the correct push up form and start working on it before hand.  The minimum you have to reach by the end of training is 40 pushups, I believe, for the age group you're in.  Basic Training is hard but not impossible.  When things get hard just remember that you aren't the first female to go through it and you won't be the last.  I'm also an Army Brat.  My dad served two tours in Vietnam as well as Panama, Somalia, Bosnia, and the first gulf war.  I'm extremely proud of him and he helps me in my current carrier when I have leadership challenges.  Your boyfriends dad may or may not tell you what you want to hear.  He has a tough job though and I couldn't really blame him.  However my recruiter worked for my dad at one point so I got straight answers.  Ask him and when he tells you see how it makes you feel.  This is a decision you have to make for yourself.  You are responsible for raising your child and if this is the best way you can then go for it.  Is it better for a child to have a homeless family who's there all the time or a taken care of home who's parents are gone for periods at a time?  Granted that there are in betweens but I hope this kinda puts things in perspective.
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My husband was deployed for 14 months so I know what you are going through. Thank goodness my husband is home now and I wish your husband a safe and quick return also. You can e-mail me at thetravelingmartins@yahoo.com. I will be more than happy to talk with you. I few suggestions to make the time pass are send your husband a care package every week or every other week. Take a calendar and put an X through each day that has passed by. Use the time to discover more about yourself. E-mail me and I will give you some ideas of what you can send him to show that you care for him. Trust me, your husband will appreciate this. Many of my husband's friends came home from Iraq and discovered that their wives had left them and taken all of their money. Anyways, I hope this helps.\n\nNote- to the person who wrote about the FRG. Not every FRG is a good group. Mine was nothing but a gossip and husband bashing group.
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I'm guessing that you are talking about FMLA rights.  The 12 week count starts from the time you leave work to have the baby.  However, I'm going to give you more information.  If you have used FMLA for your pregnancy at the beginning of this calendar year, then that time is taken off of your total 12 weeks.  You only get 12 weeks per year, not 12 weeks per condition.  As a Union Steward I deal with FMLA all the time.  I suggest you do NOT use the whole 12 weeks.  You may have problems later in the year that are FMLA qualified and you will need that protection.   I don't suggest staying out for more than 8 weeks.
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When my husband was in the military, about to get out, and I was pregnant with our second child, we agreed it would be best if I moved back home to his parents to have the baby and he stayed in the state he was stationed in.  It was around mother's day and he told me I should expect a surprise from him, I was expecting flowers or something.  He called me and asked me if I had looked outside for my surprise, I said I hadn't, but I would, and so when I looked outside, there he was, he was my surprise!  He had gotten 30days leave and had kept it secret from me, even his parents knew, but I didn't have a clue! That meant the world to me, because I felt so alone without him, it really cheered me up and helped me through the rest of my pregnancy.