my husband has another woman pregnant it is causing alot of devistation how can i deal with this?
95396
That's a lot for any woman to have to handle.  I would dump him and move on with my life.  If he can do that to you, do you really think he loves you?  I just don't understand all this.  Have you no pride?  Just kick his butt out and be done with it.
373901
Look I went through the same thing with my ex wife ....I started to realize it wasn't any thing I could do.... Cause it wasn't just up to me it was up to her too.....You can only carry some one for so long before you end up being the same person....I know it will be hard but maybe it is time to move on ....Don't be anybodies fool... You need to start a life that gives you some comfort and happiness..Sounds like you need it....And I know you have a child ,but wouldn't you rather have you child have all the love he/she could get from you ? Rather than you being so worried about what your husband is doing late at night.When you woory about what your husband is doing you take away the focus your child needs .... Hope that helps a little\nEXPLAYA here
1075792
You both need to decide what you want.  He should NOT under any circumstance marry this other girl if he is telling you he loves you more than her.  I understand she is pregnant, but in the end I'd rather be pregnant and alone than a divorcee who's ex husband cheated on me because he still wanted to boink his ex.  When you still love someone who has found someone else it is hard, but you will eventually get over it.  Keep your hands off the guy though, she may be pregnant, but I'm sure all 5 of her closes friends aren't, and messing with her man might entail an ass beating.
611092
Tell the wife everything. Be prepared for her to hate you. Let her know about the kid, how you found out about her and when, and how long you've been with him. If she wants to, then the two of you should confront him together and see what he says. I don't know how you didn't know this when you've been with him for three years, but that's not the point. It doesn't matter if he knows it's you. He SHOULD know it was you who told. he had no right to play you the way he did. You never signed up to be the other woman or a homewrecker.
673992
sounds like a mess. im going to tell u the same thing i have told my daughter. u have got to become a strong woman! the time is gone for u to be acting like this, u have a child on the way, and that comes first! we, women just dont see the power we have inside of us, our spirits. u are no longer a girl, but a strong women, just get rid of his ass, and just take care of u and the baby. I AM WOMEN, LETS HEAR U ROAR!!
1001270
you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
1084218
The wife has NO rights to the child of another woman.  Her husband may, if he chooses to claim paternity, his claim holds up. and a court grants him something more than just a financial obligation.
538655
You should be more careful who you take to a bedroom. If she is pregnant, and your the father, you should take care of him/her.
1094690
I think I figured out what u are saying!\n\nI think you are a very good friend for trying to help your friend through this.  It sounds serious so she may need to go and talk to a counsellor about it.  The counsellor will help her and whatever is said will be confidential.\n\nIf the woman is married and the man is also married, its just asking for problems.  The best thing for her to do is to sit down and evaluate how important her marriage is to her and how important the other man is. \n\nIf she decides she dosnt want anything to do with the other man, then she should change her phone number and move away from him.  She should make it impossible for him to contact her.  It will be hard but she will have you for support and also a counsellor (if she chooses to talk to one).\n\nEither way, she needs to decide what she wants, she cant go on like this, its not only affecting her and making her depressed but its upsetting you too as her friend.\n\nDont tell her what to do, because its her life and she has to suffer the consequences.  Just try and be there for her and be her friend no matter what she decides.  \n\nI hope it all works out well in the end
326823
She's not your mother.  Let your husband do it.  It's his mother, he needs to do it himself.
1067218
Honestly it is your body ... your choice!\n\nYet be responsible if you get preganant ... it is no longer you alone we aretalking about ...\n\nHow to get him out of His pants ....\n\ntell him upfront ... " Baby ... I know you respect me and stuff ... But I am only human ... I need you .. (inside me)."
299503
if this is the first time it's happened during your pregnancy try to stay off your feet and call your doctor first thing in the morning.  If not call your doctor and make a first available appointment to discuss the problem.
80729
The question is, how much you love her? What are you willing to do for her love?\n\nAnd the other thing that you should know, how much she loves you? What is the state of your marriage and relationship overall with her?\n\nLets take a logical approach.\n\nIf this cheating was done by you, and say your act had gotten someone else pregnant, what will she do, and how will you feel about it?\n\nThe fact that she is pregnant now has nothing to do with the act of cheating. If it was an inadvertant instant that led one thing to another or was it something that she wanted to do all along and then the result is loss of trust between the two of you.\n\nIs she likely to break the trust again, provided the same circumstance or will she remember not to hurt your feelings?\n\nLove does not chain you to something, it is just the fear of loosing someone or something that you cherish. You do not want to do anything that will rock the relationship between you and the person you love.\n\nAbortion or no abortion, that does not seem to be the solution. \n\nIt is all in you two, you will have to see how you want the family to progress in future. What are the priorities and what will be the understandings. You have to learn to respect each other more and share the responsibilities too.
551470
Eek...I've been there done that...actually quite a few times!  you know it's wrong, and I bet that when you're at home by yourself you get really upset thinking about how wrong it is...and then you're with him and all of that flies right out the window, right?  That's what always happened to me.  It never worked out in my case, he never left his wife no matter what he had told me...and in once case, I got pregnant and he still stayed with his wife.  I don't regret it because I have a baby, but it's hard to do it on my own...so just keep that in mind as well.  You'll have to reach a point where you just get fed up with him being with another woman (his wife).  I hated to share him with her...but to make it stick, you'll have to break it off when you're really ready.  Good luck...and e-mail me if you want.  I know what you're going through!
987204
Be supportive. If you attack him (verbally or any other way) you put her in the position of defending him. It happens every time. \n\nThe first two years of a baby's life is the hardest on a marriage (statistically) and when the most divorces happen. I think your hands are tied and all you can do is let it play out, and be there when it ends to pick up the pieces. \n\nWho knows .. maybe they will get some sort of help and be able to work it out. She has to decide for herself.
984997
Your husband and his lawyer will say its wrong for you to be pregnant by another man but,It is wrong for a man to be abusive to his wife.Causing her to have to go in search of a better life to begin with.\nI was married to an abusive husband for 20yrs.So I commend you for getting out so soon.\nYou need your own lawyer.Most towns have abused women's shelters that can help you with issues of divorce from an  abusive spouse.They can help you find a lawyer with experience in such cases.If you are low income.They can help you find programs to help you with that also.\nWhat better way to bring a baby into the world.With two parents that love each other.Don't let people make you believe you are wrong.The marriage was not working.No one deserves to be abused.Good Luck with your guy and your new baby.
1164933
Get a lawyer - some will take your case & get payment from your husband plus attend some type pyschological counseling.  You  are being screwed here.   You are entitled to  spousal support; plus visitation.  File an OSC & ask attorney to go ex-parte to get  you temporary financial support until the hearing.\nYou can also fill out paperwork online if CA,,, use this website \nhttp://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/  \nChild needs counseling & when you go to court demand child get it.  No child has the right to pysically abuse their parent & you as her parent should not be penalized by losing your home or the other daughter.\nSeems husband is not doing right by you...  you need to get angry & start standing up for yourself &  your rights