If one of your bridesmaid quits on you, do we have to invite them to the wedding?
79234
Friendships are very important. Even if she isn't being the most supportive friend to you at this crucial time, you can walk the "higher road" and be a better friend. Later, I bet you'll find out why she backed out on you. There might be a story behind that. Don't do anything to alienate a friend, if it's within your power not to. \n\np.s. Oh, and most important of all - best wishes and congratulations!
1125832
It's DEFINITELY up to the bridemaids/maid of honor to pay for their OWN dresses. You shouldn't feel guilty at all for having them pay for their own dress. I know I got married last October and all these thoughts go through your mind what if they don't agree with me but you know what at the end of the day it's YOUR DAY, YOUR WEDDING. People are always going to be opinionated. Don't worry it will all fall into place.
24943
You can't, if you are worried about hurting feelings because of who you don't invite, then  just go elope.  That's what I'd do, it's your day, not thiers.
675145
Try to stay as far away from her as you can.  This person is clearly not a friend.  It's understandable that y'all miss your other friend (the one that passed away) and everything, but she's in a better place...and LIFE GOES ON as hard as that is.\n\nAlso, it seems too 2-faced to be doing that - telling you to your face she'll go to the wedding and telling other people she won't do it.  You sure don't need somebody like that in your life.  Death is part of life and she needs to move on, just like you're moving on now.  Good luck, girl friend, and congratulations on your wedding.
977568
no, just include your name in the gift of your friend.  it would still count as one invitation.
324225
Maybe you should both go to a coulselor and put the wedding on hold. That's what I would do. No need to rush into a wedding if you cannot get along.
129211
Granted, it sucks that you did not consider her husband.  He could have been assigned a needy relative to escort...\n\nSince it is YOUR wedding and not hers, I would select a new matron.\n\nSend an invite to the old one, and her husband.  You don't want to start a marriage with hurt feelings...
1145951
I would say this is failry true. Maybe not HALF, but I would say a good amount lose friends over something having to do with a wedding, which in hindsight seems stupid, because you would think that the bridesmaids would WANT to do everything for the BRIDE! Who knows, I lost a friend due to a stupid dress disagreement. (Not to mention she was my bridesmaid!)\n\nGood Luck!
684086
Yep!  I wouldn't invite her.  Just be prepared to answer her when she asks why.  I think it is VERY INCONSIDERATE when friends cancel plans with friends for a better deal or for other non-emergency reasons.
980065
You have a right to change your plans that were made through the eyes of a young girl years ago.  Back then your cousin was someone you most likely were with quite a bit, and you felt kind of like sisters.  It is perfectly fine to want your sister-in-law as your matron of honor.  Go for it.  Ask your cousin to be a bridesmaid if you want to include her in the wedding, and if there is any trouble just tell your family that you wanted to honor your brother and sister-in-law in this way and you are still having your cousin in the wedding.  They should respect your wishes as you are the bride and it is your wedding, not theirs.  If feelings do get hurt, they need to think of the fact that you were both little girls making promises when things were different, and that now you are rethinking things logically.  Even if you did all bridesmaids, there would still be an issue of who is standing where, so don't even bother with that.  Enjoy your special time, and do not worry if someone is petty enough to fuss over it.  Best wishes!
952112
I'd still send a thank-you card.   If these two  individuals find out that you sent every other guest a card except them, they could cause you even more trouble in the future.\n\nMore importantly, you'll be taking the ethical high road, and who knows, maybe jar their consciences a bit -- maybe even enough to make them apologize to you for their inexcusable behavior at your wedding.  \n\n.
353024
No.  This is the day you MUST look your best.  You need to have a trial with each one and see which one you like best.  I would do this about a month before the wedding.  That way, the one you cancel will have time to fill the space.
239143
Sorry, but welcome to being a stepmom...yep, you'll have to invite her and pray she declines, unless the kids are old enough for their father, not you, to explain that it might not be such a happy thing for their mom to watch him get married again.
399795
Depends on the wedding and what the bride and groom want.  I've been in weddings that did it both ways...  When I was a Maid of Honor, I gave one along with the best man.  When I get married this fall, my Maid of Honor will be giving one, too.\n\nTalk about whatever feels right to you...  I'd stay away from just saying, "Congrats, good luck, I love you" because that makes it seem like you didn't put any time into preparing something.  Talk about your friend, when she met her new husband, something funny about her or the two of them (be appropriate, of course), and offer good wishes for the future.  Spending a minute or two talking shows that you care enough about the two of them to spend some time preparing a speech.
839881
I had exactly the same problem. A 'friend' of mine got married and I was her bridesmaid (she was the bride from hell). She really is the rudest person I have ever met. \n\nWhen I got engaged I was really stressing over having her at the wedding and I certainly did not want her at the wedding. I started to lessen the amount of contact that I had with her (not returning all her phone calls etc). In the end, she confronted me and I was honest and told her that I did not find her behaviour acceptable and that since I was worried that she would be rude to people, I was not able to invite her to the wedding.\n\nShe was upset and has not spoken to me since. But, I have to admit it was one of the best things that I have ever done. I did not realise how much she upset and stressed me. The wedding plans were easy, the wedding was relaxed and I do not have to deal with her anymore.\n\nSo, although it will be hard - she needs to know and I think you will feel better afterwards too!\n\nPS Congratulations on your wedding!
1005685
Explain your situation to Erin.  If you are close enough friends that she picked you to be her maid of honor then she will understand.  You can't spend the money if you do not have it.  When I got married, my maid of honor did not come to my bachelorette party.  We went to St Louis to party downtown.  She is already married and has a son and is in her 30's.  Partying is just not her thing.  I completely respected that and did not expect her to come.  She did not come and we are still best friends to this day, 5 years later.  It did not hurt my feelings or bother me one bit that she did not want to come.  Your friend will understand too.  Good Luck:)
881485
Think of it this way - you save yourself money in not having to buy her a wedding gift.  I think it was rude on her part to invite some co-workers but not all, that's why it's best not to invite anyone from work - it saves this kind of thing from happening.  Don't get upset about it, look at it like it's one less thing you have to do.  It sounds like your work "friend" is really more of a friendly acquaintance.  I had the same thing happen to me - my boss and I get along really well but when she had her annual halloween party, she didn't invite me - and instead invited a woman nearly 30 years older then us.  I was shocked but I didn't let it get to me.  Just do your work and don't worry about her.