my ex just broke up with the girl he cheated on me with. How am i supose to feel?
94051
I know I would probably be be happy in some twisted way...  Like - Ha!  you cheated with her on me.. and now you are both broken up too.... \n\nI don't know... it is a very emotional thing to have someone cheat on you.  Of course it is natural to not want them to be together even if you no longer want him any more.  So you may feel like I would.
910611
Hello:\n\nFirst off, I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and I spent more time fighting than we did simply being happy with each other. It just got to be so frusterating. Ultimately I just decided that something wasn't working because we were arguing about the same few things. \n\nWe decided to sit down and have a serious talk about it. One of our main problems was that he was an incredibly jealous person, and I usually am not. He would get upset if he saw me talking to one of my guy friends. I have never ever been unfaithful to anyone and just could never do that to someone, and yet he always assumed that I was messing around behind his back. \n\nAnd then he would get frusterated that I was such a trusting person, and that I would never confront him for talking to another girl. So he started pushing the limits a little bit in order to make me jealous, and boy did it work. It just seemed that we were spending so much time hurting each other. And we agreed that the relationship wasn't working out. \n\nNow we are both in relationships, and we remain friends. And both of our relationships are much more successful than we ever were together. Some relationships just aren't meant to be. It was through that experience that I realized it isn't enough to simply love someone, there is more to making a relationship work. \n\nI would suggest having a serious talk with your girlfriend. Figure out which things you are fighting about most often, and I'm sure you will find a common thread. Then you need to decide if it's worth it to make an effort to fix the relationship, or if it's time to move on. \n\nI wish you the best of luck, and I hope this helps!
32496
Oh, you will get over hit and you'll get over him once you get rid of him.  There are so many guys out there that will treat you so much better.  Just staying with him is saying that is okay that you cheated on me.  You won't be able to trust him and you'll just be beating yourself over it. If you have any self-esteem left you'll leave him and show him you're over him.
219384
First off, you didn't cheat.  You were broken up and living your life and moving forward.  Personally I think it was a bad choice for you to get back with your old boyfriend.  He guilted you into it, and the truth is that nothing has changed.  You deserve to be happy and I don't think you will ever be happy with him.  End this relationship and realize that if he wants to lay in your yard and cry that is his choice and your not responsible for him.  You should never feel bad for doing what is best for you.
607477
Ok, so you weren't really cheating on him in the first place? But now you've told them that you were, just to make them stop being immature? Wow.\n\nOkay, lemme tell you a secret. Boys are more immature than girls. They will continue to be immature, even into their late 20's, especially about relationships. And some never grow out of it.\n\nNow that we've got that out of the way, what to do about the current situation? One, you could try talking with your ex. One on one, face to face. Tell him the truth. Honesty is the best policy (in this case). Ask him why he feels like he has to do these things? And I'm sure that the answer is that he feels hurt on the inside, even if he doesn't admit it. He's hurting or his pride took a huge blow, and that's why he's doing these things to make you upset. Kind of like revenge.\n\nTwo, you could try ignoring him. Don't give him the satisfaction of letting him know that it bothers you. Show him that you're above all that and have moved on. Tell him so.\n\nThree, you can beat the crap out of him... it will make you feel better, but in the end I don't think it will resolve anything. It might make things worse.\n\nWell, those are your three choices. Try and see it from his point of view. Then act accordingly. Choice one is ideal. Two is a little more realistic. Up to you. Good luck.
421996
Nope you're not a bad person.  I had a similiar thing happen, my ex calls me all the time too, we cannot be more than just social friends and I honestly don't feel pain or sympathy when he breaks up or fights with his new girlfriend.  I listen and say I'm sorry for him but I don't feel alot of sympathy.   When people hurt you like that by breaking up, you learn and grow and we've grown past our feelings for them and moved on.
561707
To a certain exstint it is. Considering that he is moving anyways. She deserve someone to treat her better than she is getting. No woman needs the drama in their lives. But on the other hand how does the ex feel about the situation? Is he ok with it? Is he willing to let her go? If so, then i say girl just be happy, and i wish you the very best of your new relationship.
843925
What do you feel? What do you REALLY want to do?\nThis is just about you, and no-one else. If you're happy about going out with this new guy (being scared is completely normal) then you should go. It doesn't mean that you cared any less for your ex, there's a reason why you broke up and maybe internally by the time you broke up you had already made up your mind about not being with him. Maybe internally you knew that it wasn't gonna last long.\n\nAs said above, life is short so you should do whatever makes you happy.
943358
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
182361
Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
813498
Well hon you are certainly in a rough spot. It seems like the best course of action would be to end things for now at least. \n\nI think the best thing to do is tell her how hurt you are over her cheating and that despite everything you still care for her. Then make it clear that you arent prepared to forgive her for cheating just yet and that you will talk sometime later. Minimum of 3 or 4 months preferably 6 months later. Then after several months of cooling off time you two maybe in a position to be friends, but right now you need to be away from this girl. \n\nS
508836
Dont feel lost broken or confused.  These things have a way of working themselves out.  If he sees you for who you are and her as the cheater, then hopefully he will make the right choice.  You can always remind him of your loyalty.
941054
So let me get one thing straight does your ex think youre gonna be with the guy till the end with him or is it the new guy I think you mean the new guy  just tell him straight forward how u feel\ndont beat around the bush! be sraightforward with your feelings!
218653
Sure, why not...I'm mad at my ex, but he thought I liked a friend of mine(and thought I was cheating with the guy) when he was cheating on me!  Long story, but just use your intuition on this one.
412225
This is a tough situation.  He needs to address the relationship he has with this other woman.  Of course, the fact that he's been cheated on, is a terrible sign for him and whether he has you there or not, he needs to get out of that mess (once a cheater, always a cheater).  I think you need to tell him your concerns about the relationship he is in.  As far as your feelings, I think you need to be careful there.  You don't want this guy to end up with you only because he's rebounding.  You need to be his friend through his (hopeful) breakup and then through the recovery.  I'm thinking that time will take care of the rest.  My advice, let nature take it's course with both things and don't be in such a hurry.  Good luck.
973456
They are probably telling you that because they love you and they can see you are hurting.   Hell yeah, you have every right to be angry.  Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.  It nips at the core of your self esteem, it tells you that you are not good enough.  It doesnt matter whether it was a mistake or not because things do happen in the heat of the moment and mistakes still get made, but it doesnt change how the person who is being cheated on feels about themselves.  I guess the big question is....do you still love her?  That is the hardest part to get over and it is going to take a bit more time than 2 weeks to get her out of your head and your heart.  Depending on how much you loved her will determine how long you will grieve for.  And you do grieve when you lose someone you love.  Just know that not all girls/women are the same...so dont carry her betrayal into another relationship....treat it as brand new....you have to trust because your next girlfriend is not the old girlfriend and you dont want to start any relationship off badly because of the things that happened to you with someone else.  Distrust and jealousy is the quickest way to lose someone....so you need to come to terms with what has happened and when you are done grieving, move on and leave what she did where it belongs....in the past.\n\nI hope it wont take you long until you start to trust again.  Try to not blame yourself....it was not your fault she cheated...it was just the relationship was not meant to be...she was not the girl for you.\n\nI hope you feel better soon....You wont always feel angry.  With time you will just put it down to experience.
862863
If i were you, because this guy has cheated on his girlfriend he will also do the same to you and disregard your feelings in time to come by going off with someone else....best advice i can give you is to protect your heart.