ok my question is the man i was seeing is married in the middle of divorce we went to bed now he is confussed?
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He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
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Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
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IM BISEXUAL AND LOVE A MARRIED MAN. STRANGE RIGHT? I KNOW. NO SEX INVOLVED. THIS IS A STICKY SITUATION AND ONE THAT SHOULD NOT INVOLVE YOU. IM NOT SAYING THAT YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH HIM. HE NEEDS SPACE AND HE MADE THIS PART OF THE MESS AND PROBABLY DOESN'T WANT TO SUBJECT YOU TO THE FUCKING DRAMA.MY ADVISE IS TO LEAVE AND MOVE OUT. HE NEEDS TO BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT HE WANTS AND YOU LET HIM. IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THINGS WILL WORK THEMSELVES OUT. IF NOT, THEN YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE. EVER HEARD "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR"? I GUESS IT IS.YOU WALK OUT AND SAY GIVE IT A YEAR, CAUSE DIVORCE IS MESSY.AND IN THIS CASE IT DEFINITELY IS. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE LET THEM GO. IF THEY COME BACK TO YOU THEN....THEY ARE YOURS..{SMILE I KNOW YOU ARE SAD} . BE STRONG GIRL,LOL HOPE THIS HELPS.LOL MEXXXI
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Good thing you aren't together any more... That story has the makings of a good episode of 20/20 or Prime Time Live!\n\nSome people crave sympathy. They'll go to any lengths to get it. \nThis man really needs help. \nI just hope he's not one of those con artists that marries women and takes everything they own and disappears.\n\nGlad you're rid of him.
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Well, It seems he is with her for benefits when you both have problems . He goes to her. It sounds little funny in the picture . unless if it was his sister or Aunt house to crashed in. Then u are fine but a woman with a married man staying at her house. It seems lot of benefits for him to get away from you.  I think u better get straighten out with ur marriage before it becomes uglier! So, be sure not to be a blind wife to let him be free from you.  U are stil his wife and u have EVERY right to know whats going on with ur HUSBAND. Remember the VOWS!
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Funny you ask this, someone else asked me the same thing today.\nI guess I didn't but in my defense, my husband and I switched sides of the bed last night.  He said he liked my side better.  I'm not too sure about this.  I'll give it another shot tonight.  Ask me again tomorrow.
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Sorry man... you married the wrong woman. It's either divorce or time for the wipe, and I don't mean physically.
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Thank you "Divorced Dad", or at least I assume so. We need someone to talk to on occasion that understands, or someone to answer questions that we don't kow the answer to. Good Luck!
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Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
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your going out with a guy thats getting divorced? I would wanna take a break while thats happening also. there is no easy way to tell him especailly in his time of need. just be straight up.
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Absolutly. Go see him, rekindle the fire. See how things play out...
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Stop whining...Is life good for you?  If yes, then let it go, it's only been 1 1/2 years.  I could see if you were past 3 or 5 years.  Give the man time.  You have obviously never been through divorce before.  He's gone through it twice!  Do you know what that does to a person?  Give it a rest for a little while and if it's meant to be it will be.
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Richard, I realize that you are upset and losing sleep, but you've got to simply stop posting the same question over and over and let people answer it.  Otherwise, you'll just get a lot of stupid answers from people who just want to get easy points.  Also, if you are really sure, and I mean SURE, not just suspicious about your wife lying to you and you feel she was with another man, perhaps this is not a match made in heaven and you should consider other avenues.  Like a trial separation.  Or marriage counseling.  Divorce is always an option, but as a last resort (unless you know in your heart you are in a truly loser relationship as I once was 16 years ago and made a hasty exit).  Again, try to relax and let your answer get some good responses and give some more details about why you believe she is lying to you.
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I am thinking that he's become abusive because he really isnt back to where he was....in his eyes.  And that would be something that HE needs to deal with.  Perhaps he needs some counseling on how to do that.  If that is impossible than it may be time for you to return to MT to have some form of life for yourself. But in there, you too should have some outside help, sot that you can release any feelings of guilt. I can certainly understand your frustration.  He seems no longer the person that you orginally married. However, that's not abnormal either.  We all change, both mentally & physcially, thus the high divorce rate.  I sincerly wish you luck in finding yourself again. Please include YOURSELF in your care giving! :)
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He won't get a divorce because it's easy. THAT'S the excuse he gave you???? HAHAHAHA! Now I've heard everything and I will think about this one when I need a good laugh. Be smart and dump the loser.
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A lot of people are focusing on whether or not they were actually sleeping together, but I'm not so sure that matters. It's really difficult to understand a lie that continues and builds for that long, isn't it? There is a way through everything - the real question is whether or not this relationship is worth going that rocky route.
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She is using her own chilrden to get back at you.  For some reason, people do that.\n  If the new guy is spending the night, call your lawyer.  I know in my state, she'd loose custody read quick for allowing another man to spend the night, even after the divorce is finalized.  If they're not married, then he shouldn't do any over night stays.