I am 17 years old and my mom is psychotic, what can i do to move without much money, my mom is abusive ?!?!?
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You need to report the abuse. You can also file for adult status. This will allow you more options. You will be able to rent an apartment or buy a trailer. Please tell someone about the abuse.
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i believe a 15 year old would have alot of say in california.  has your mom filed an order to show cause why she can't move?  does she have good reason other than your being a performer? after all, there is L.A.  how far from LA do your live? there needs to be good cause for her to move and take you with her.  there is much case law on the subject. check out "findlaw.com", search Cal cases and codes, search words "move-away"
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Wow, I can only imagine how stressful this must be for you!\n\nI think that the psychiatrist will be able to give you some answers.  If there WAS sexual abuse the Dr. will be able to tell--even is she lies about it.  Psychiatrists are trained to deal w/ these situations.\n\nPlease don't feel that this is your fault.  And please don't let the stress overwhelm you.  \n\nBest wishes.\n\nEDITED TO ADD:  In light of your additional details, I'd definately encourage you to just go ahead and take her to the hospital.  DO NOT feel guilty.  And don't listen to her when she tells you she hates you or that you're a bad mother.  YOU'RE NOT. \n\nOK, straight up talk here:  It takes a **** of a lot of courage to be parent sometimes and this is one of those times.  You need to get help both for her and for yourself.  It will be hard and things will get really rough for a while but you deserve a normal life and she deserves to have the most normal life she can have too.  The longer you wait, the harder it'll be.\n\nTake care.
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Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
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you can become emancipated from your parents, which something like divorce.  why don't you see a lawyer.  you'll probably need a ride from mom or pop.
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Get help.  If you are in an unsafe situation contact the police immediately.  \n\nPlease understand that you are not the only person that this is happening to.  \n\nYou should speak to someone you can trust.  I would start with your mom and then move on to your grandparents, teachers, pastor.\n\n\nPlease comment and let us know if you are okay.
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Just Pray to your God who ever you believe in Your mom just say these thing because she doesn't want to loose you. She needs you around just move it's that age your mom will miss you alot for the first few months but she will get over it. You are her baby the only one that she has now so she don't want to see you go so whatever she is saying to you she doesn't mean she loves you and need you but she knows deep in her heart that it's time to let you go and live your life. So don't worry just move and start your new life.
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wow. you're right. she is psycho. she's going to have lots of problems later in later if she can't handle and control herself.....hurt herself???If i were you, I'd worry about her hurting YOU FIRST!!!....keep your parents appraised of what's going on... try to avoid contact with her, if possible...hopefully, with time, she will move on.....hopefully, she'll move on to a THERAPIST REAL FAST!!
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First of all I would get my 17 year old sister out of that situation,if your Mom wants to be stubborn,let her be,but get your sister out! She didn't ask for that. Nothing is free in life,if it was,trust me I'd be first in line!!! Its time your Mom puts the needs of your sister first instead of her own!!!
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Maybe it is time for you or one of your Brothers to go visiting with Mom and Sis. I think it sounds like there needs to be more communication between you siblings.\nDoes your sister have anyone that relieves her ever? Is she stuck there 24/7, 365 days a year?\nDon't get me wrong, I love my Mother but she came to visit me for a month and I was so ready for her to leave. She is in good health but she lives in the past. She tells the same stories over and over to the point that I had them memorized myself. \nMaybe it is time for your sister to take a long break, since she is verbally abusive to your Mom. She might be feeling that she is entitle to any money because of the time that she has put in.\nSomeone with suicidal tendencies shouldn't be in charge of any one else, little lone a person in ill health.
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Wow. you don't have to be a genius to realise what a bummer of a situation you are in. I had a friend in this situation. Except your mom seems to be sticking in the middle of the U.S., and that is curious to me... usually if people are on the move it is toward bigger and better, and I have actually been to every single town you have lived in (just visiting, I have always lived in TX) and they aren't so great. Have you tried sitting down with her and describing the need that you have, or asking her what compels her so much to keep on the move? What is she running from or what does she gain in being a rolling stone. Try to convey to her what a turmoil it is putting you in to not have a stable environment to become a well-adjusted normal person. Try to understand what her logic is to moving all the time and at the same time convey to her that you need more stability. Let it sink in, and then let her know how you feel about Durant, OK. Good luck.
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Mom???  J/K.  My younger sister threatened my mother like that not too long ago, sister said she was going to move in with me or her dad.  Well, I heard this and told her there was no way in hell I would put up with her crap and if she thought for one second that she would just move in with me she was sadly mistaken.  If your daughter really feels that way, let her move in with sis or dad and see what that's all about.  It sounds to me like it's just a threat, if and when it comes right down to it she's not going to move in with dad or sis.  If that was a viable option, don't you think she would have done it by now?  She's bluffing, call her bluff.  If you want to move to a better area she needs to be adult enough to realize that you are making a decision that will better your life and hers, and at 14 she should be able to wrap her little self-absorbed head around that.  You are still the adult in the relationship, she is the child and that's what she's acting like....a complete child.  Maybe you can try to include her in choosing where you two will live if you want to try to reason with her that is.  Sit down with her and tell her that you know she's upset about moving to a different area but you would really like her to go with you, blah, blah, blah, do the mom thing.  Maybe if you level with her and speak to her like an adult she will realize that you're not doing this to like totally ruin her life and she will come to her senses.  Good luck.  God, I can't wait to have children!  Hasn't anyone figured out how to skip right through those lovely teenage years?  Alcohol, lots and lots of alcohol.  I'm gonna make a great mom someday, don't ya think?
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From living in a similar experience, I know that you need to break away from your mom, both physically and emotionally, but especially emotionally.\n\nWhat she did is legal if you were threatening her, abusing her, or doing anything that affected her physical or emotional well-being, so as you can guess a lot of actions can be part of that definition.\n\nI know this is harder to do than to say, but I'll say it anyway: Just start living your own life.\n\nWhat doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, I know from experiences that almost killed me.\n\nPray to God that He will show you the path you need to take to become happy and at peace with yourself.
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WOW, i know what you mean. I am sure you feel unloved, unwanted and scared to be like her. I am living proof that you don't have to be like her. I grew up with a horrible mother who abused me every single solid day, emotionally, mentally, physically I mean the works! I am now a loving, NEVER HIT MOM, and I do NOT scar my child in her ways. I am proof that you don't have to be like your mother. Ok? Email me if you want to talk sometime...i totally understand how you are feeling.....Missiowa2004@yahoo.com. Good luck and know you are not alone okay?
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Seems like you need to get away from your mother and boyfriend.\nI also think you should tell them that they are at the point of driving you insane.  If need be, get a boyfriend that will cause you less stress. Since you can't get a new mother, just limit your contact with her.
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even if you can you better think long and hard about that! i moved out when i was very young and by doing that you make decisions that you may regret later. my advice is stay where u r and go to school unless you r being abused if so seek help
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Talk to her and give her a deadline. Tell her that she needs to move by a certain day, no exceptions! If it doesn't work, remove all of her personal belongings and deliver them to her mother. \nBy reading what you have typed, sounds like you are the type of person who gives in easily to others distress. She needs to understand that you will not take any excuses. Sometimes tough love is just what people need.\nIt is hard to advise on this because we who reply do not know the full situation.\nMaybe the person you are helping is a moocher. Maybe she's afraid to move in with her mother. Without knowing the person's age and situation, it is hard to say whether this person needs a reality check, or compassion.