why do people cut me down and then say i am depressing.how can you be any other way why do they do this?
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I aggree. Real friends are not just for going for a walk.\nFirst try to identify that this depression is not so serious that maybe need pharmacological treatment.\nHow will you identify?\nThe best you can do is to visit a doctor and describe what you feel. If not, there are several sites in the internet describing the symptoms of the disease. Usually the pharmaceutical companies selling this category of drugs, have also this kind of questions in their site.\nIf the result is negative, try some simple tips, like the ones described by me in a previous question, entitled:\nIs there any medicine for removing social anxiety?\n\nAll the best for you and your loved ones\n\nKaterina
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because people feel bad about themselves so they treat others worse so they can feel better. It is terrible and mean, but poeple feel like they always gotta come out on top.
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Insecurity is a good guess. Many of those that try to make themselves seem better than others have real issues with themselves. They can not ever believe someone can do something better than them, make more money, etc. What they do is right and what everyone else does is wrong. Unfortunately I  know many many people like that. I have learned to tune them out of my life as much as possible and when I can't I do my best to keep my mouth shut. It really is a shame because I know some that are worse than those they are knocking and it makes me so ill at heart to see a loved one get hurt that way
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I can't answer that, because I try to be considerate of peoples feelings.  You appear to be having a bad day.  I'm sorry for that.
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Here's my answer to that:\nHumans pick on it because it's become a fad and a cliche. Of course everyone feels - but you'd be surprised how many people are openly emotional without having to dress it up in nailpolish and expensive eyeliner. Cutting has also become a fad - if you're open about it, and showing it to the world, honey, you're not actually depressed, you just want attention. I have seen so many people who cut themselves, I've become very good at identifying who's genuinely in more pain than they can handle, and who's just doing it to be cool or get attention they feel they need. And, believe it or not - not everyone thinks that goths worship the devil. Most people think WICCANS worship the devil though. That's completely different - a religion versus a clothing style. You're probably going to dismiss everything I say, but hear you this: I used to dress the same way, so I know this line of thought. By the way - you're being rejudiced by assuming that "everyone" is fake and that they presume the things that you have presumed they do. A tad hypocritical, yes?\n\nAlso, not everyone else is fake. Wearing trendy, gothy clothes (but only the ones that are in fashion in the goth world, mind you), painting your nails and doing your hair in funky dos to fit in with the label isn't exactly being true to yourself. Being true to yourself involves rolling out of bed because YOU want to, putting on clothes that make YOU happy, that YOU like - not clothes that others say you should wear because it's part of your label. And you cannot deny it, you are labeling yourself. And if that's who you truly are, and you're happy with that (which you can't possibly be (happy, that is) if you're a cutter. And, don't get me wrong about the cutting thing: I do understand. I've been there, and I've watched others go through it - hell, I still AM watching them.) Normally I would say hey, do your thing, but your post is technically a direct attack on everyone, and thus it's an indirect attack on me and those I love, and I feel a need to defend us. So thus I'm doing my best to cut down your argument. I'm all for allowing yourself to feel, but I don't think that you should make a show, or a style, or anything but emotion out of it. Bear in mind you also might not truly be "emo" - you're only labeling yourself as such. And, back to the cutting, if you cut yourself only because your label states that's how you must cope with how you feel, then I must confess I feel a large amount of ire towards you. You take help away, you cheapen it, from people who really do either need/want help, or are in more pain than is natural, just so you can have someone say "awww I'm so sorry! you must be so sad!" and fawn all over you. To drive this point home: I'm not saying that's what you do, but it is what some people do. I have nothing against the styles, some of them are pretty cool - it's the exploitation of others through your own so-called "unbearable pain" that drives me up a wall to the point where I'd want to poke fun at the stereotype.\n\nOn top of that, cutting is dangerous. I'm sure you know why, I'm not going to assume you're stupid and don't realise that there are lots of arteries and veins you could hit, a large risk of infection, etc.\n\nHumans also pick on it because it's inherant in their nature. Not that I'm not human, and I'm guilty of picking on the stereotype as well.\n\nAnd as for my sources - I don't know if you're going to prejudge my education in the field of psychology, but I'm going to set up my response in defence to that prejudgement pre-emptively, to save time if you do. Psychology isn't what media or stereotype makes it out to be. It focuses mainly in learning how people work, not merely on psychopathology. It's truly fascinating.\n
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Some can be extremely sensitive and try to inflict their pain on other people.Some might have been mistreated,but that is no excuse  for some of their ways.There is someone I know of who goes around and tell people they are going to hell,calling them names,and demanding how they should behave.I don't feel sorry for these type of people.\n\nI used to stay in a rooming house when I was a 18.There was a mean bitter lady named Elaine.She said the most cruel things to me.I responded by saying"You're just mad because I have a girlfriend while you're sitting in your house deteriorating.No man will ever want you.You have no breast,you're ugly,you have no teeth and you have one leg.What man in their right mind would want you".She was shocked that I said that,but she got just what she deserved.After I said that,I went about my business while she sat there all alone deteriorating.I had no regrets about what I said.If you judge someone,you better be ready to be judged.\n\nSome cope with their pain by believing in heaven.People like Elaine will not go to heaven if they continue to act this way.
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They are afraid to upset you or make you feel bad.  They also probably heard gossip or wrong information about your breakdown.  The best thing to do is act like you usually do and they will stop acting weird after a while.
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Think about it, you're angry you hit a wall.  Well some people can feel so miserable (and for a good secret reason too) that they feel the need to do so, thus letting all the pain break free.\n\nIt's like a small pain.  Eat candy and you're suddenly better.  Cutting is a destraction of one's life that can be controlled. Not suicide!\n\n\n-Alexis
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I don't know why, but it seems that there are many people who simply enjoy hurting others.  I suspect it stems from them feeling powerless and insecure, so they get a small charge to their own egos when they can make someone else feel bad. \n\n There are, also, others who simply take advantage of people - they see goodness and kindness as a kind of weakness they can exploit for their own means.\n\nDon't let this turn YOU bitter, though.  Remember to tell yourself that those people, in the end, will suffer for it when they find they lack solid, real and loving friendships in their lives.
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Something sad happened in your past. And i am sure you got all  the pity you could take from close and not so close people. But life goes on. You have new sorrows and new happy moments. So there is really nothing weird in telling people about it. I am sure you appear fine to them, so they have no reason to feel sorry for you.
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Well I'm no expert but I think you may have a problem, and I don't mean to sound cruel but I mean a mental one. There are people who just feel it gives them some kind of relief from stress or anxiety or anger when they do harm to themselves. I hope you don't actually hurt yourself though. Next time you feel that way my suggestion is call your closest female friend and just spill it all out, and yes that means cry too if necessary. You will feel a lot better I promise!!! Good luck and Take care
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Because they have problems of their own and they don't understand that you need help too.  People are very self-centered, its part of human nature, and many times other people don't know that you have a problem, or they don't realize how serious it is.\n\nThe best way to deal with it is to flat out tell people exactly what's going on.
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BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO SENSITIVE.  NOW SHUT UP!\n\n\nhehe, just kidding.  I dunno why people are mean.  Who's mean?  On here?  They're bored and looking for a rise probably.
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I know how you feel, been there and done that. And still am feeling that way. I need friends pretty bad myself and I am a very depression person right now. But it is not worth killing your self over it, I promise you!!!  There are people out there that do love you and care about you. Some people are just really dumb when it comes to being involved with someone and the other person don't realize what they have. You really do need a friend to talk with when you are really down in the dumps. I'm here to listen if you need someone to talk to--who knows--we might be able to help out each other!!!
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just ignore them, those people are trying to make ur self esteem down, have confidence in urself. and don't allow anyone to degrade you.\nIf you had to answer then tell them:  Yes I am mad because I allowed myself to talk to someone silly and  shallow like you.
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I would simply say - they are trying to, but you don't have to let them!  Try to surround yourself with people who are positive.  Maybe you are simply hanging out with the wrong crowd at your digs... try making some new friends that build you up instead.  A lot of people try to bring others down when they feel insecure about themselves.  Obviously, you have recognized this in others and want to avoid it for yourself.  I think that is great!  \n\nWhen people make negative comments to you, you can always counter them by saying something positive immediately - either about yourself or about the topic.  Failing that, tell them that they are coming across as negative and a bully and that that is unacceptable to you in a friend.  If you are feeling depressed about all this though, please try to talk to an adult about it.  In many cases, there are things they can do to help and the people looking after you care about you, I am sure.  \n\nGood luck with your circumstances and don't let negative people in your life affect you too much.  When you are grown and out in the real world working, you will find that they exist everywhere and very often it is nothing that you have done to make them that way.  It is their own failing and none of yours.  Go out and succeed.  Be happy.  *hugs*
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While I see your point that its harder to find people like this, I can still empathize for people.  I have been hurt alot, starting at five when my dad walked out, and i just dont want to see others hurt like i have been hurt.  I go out of my way to make sure i never hurt anyone.  And i often find that people are more than willing to take advantage of that.  It makes you sad to know that no one looks out for other people anymore, and its all about themselves.  This is definetly not me-i would go without to make someone happy, and if i see someone in pain i will do whatever i can to stop that pain.  I got a forward from someone about the perfect heart that i think you would really appreciate.  I would tell you, but it might be a little long-I know this might seem weird, but if you wanna email me at wyzeone2000@yahoo.com, ill find it and send it to you.