if my wife cheated over me,,and she admitted that,,and i really want to divorce her, what i'm ganna do ?
93181
If you can prove she cheated (talk to a lawyer first), then she may already have broken your contract by having the affair, depending on the wording you agreed to.  Good luck. Too bad you didn't marry someone with ethics to begin with.
1021286
If you really want to save your marriage go to counseling. Personally, I could never trust him again, so I would have to make tracks!
4110
Not knowing the details, it is tough to answer, but there are various types of women out there, and for some, trust is everything. If you did enough to make her leave you, it must have been pretty bad. I would assume (since I don't know the circumstances) that either there have always been trust issues, or that your infidelity (of whichever type) was long standing and ongoing, and so she felt betrayed. In both cases, I don't know if there is anything you could do. If she left because of pure emotional reaction, you might have a chance, but if it was an intellectual decision, it is not likely to work. Emotion can be reasoned with - an overreaction can be dealt with, but logic is usually rock solid.  You could offer therapy for you both, however if you are already 'divorced', it seems a little too final to try that. Apologies alone won't really get you anywhere. Not much of an answer, but without any details, it's the best I've got. My main advice though is to know when to give up. Some battles can't be won. At some point, you might have to just count your losses, consider this an expensive learning experience, and don't make the same mistake next time.
21348
If your husband kissed another woman what would you think.  You have already cheated yourself since you got to that point.  Now is the time to feel guilty.
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i would be plotting revenge....just remember, in a marriage.......WHAT'S HIS IS YOURS, AND WHAT'S YOURS IS YOURS. \ngood luck.
96786
I don't think you really love someone if you can cheat on them! if you really loved this woman you are about to marry, you wouldn't have done it. my advice, tell her, so she can dump your sorry cheating a**.
1126489
You have to now figure out if this is good for you.  She apparently doesn't know what she wants.  Either she's fearful of the life that could include being with the same person until death, or she can't handle being faithful.  She's hurting you, but does she realize it?  Have you ever just sat down with her to figure out what the deal is?  I'm sorry to say that I think a divorce would be the best thing.  She obviously has some issues, and no one can get through to her.
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TURN THAT EVIL COLD HEARTED VICIOUS LIFE SUCKING BIT** X WIFE OF MINE IN TO A SLUG THEN DROP A LARGE HEAVY ROCK ON HER\n\n\nYES I HAVE ISSUES
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That's a sin some where. And any way would you like you wife to cheat on you? "Do into others as you have them do into you" Get it think about that  for awhile!
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I think the answer depends on a lot of things.\n\nThe two biggies I see are did you have any children and what do you want?\n\nPersonally, if you have kids with her, it may be worth taking at least a wait and see approach.\n\nIf not, and you really don't want to continue, be honest and tell her that you accept her apology, that you wish her well, and that you are unable to see a scenario where you want to get back together with her.\n\nI wouldn't be mean, but I would be honest and say that the events between you killed what love you had left for her.  That you wish her well, but cannot be romantically involved with her.\n\nI would be polite, but candid about what you want.\n\nI think I would also be gracious, accept her apology and admit that you made mistakes too, perhaps enumerate those that you are aware of and apologize for what you believe you did wrong in your marriage and wish her all the best in her life from here on out.
1074234
lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!
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Firstly: tell your wife if you are certain now. You don't want to try to figure this out alone. I wonder why if you told your wife about her friend's behavior your wife didn't respond well... Odd. Secondly: Are you SURE that she wants to get with you? Maybe you're misinterpreting her. But if you're definitely sure, then, after telling your wife, just avoid the other woman. \n\nAll of the above is assuming you don't want to cheat on your wife. If you do, then....I guess you don't have any problems then, do you?
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I think your only mistake was not telling her. You need to let her go to be able to continue and have a happy marriage, you have the best thing though, memories.
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My opnion is I think you should tell her. What if she doesn't know...what if she doesn't think her husband is a cheat? I mean, I didn't. I had no idea until he told me. I'm glad I found out.\nYou have to follow your heart and choose what you feel is right.\nBut remember if this was you and your husband had a side dish, would you want to know?
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so they would hurt her? because of you?\nwhy would you think of marrying her.?\njust tell her right now, that you cant. either lie or tell the truth!!!\nI would tell her truth and let her go.\njust tell her now!!!!
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I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
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I would leave her...once a cheater always a cheater....Apparently she doesnt love u like u want her too. Say goodbye and find better