why is the love you give your children different from the love you give your husband.?
96116
you dont have sex with your children right?! lolz!!! just joking... the love that you give to your children is familial, its more of a protective and motherly kind of thing... for your husband its more on the romantic side
201465
if you had a kid , would you want it to love you because it loved you or because you made it love you .that's why God gave man free will to choose. because He wants us to love Him, because we love Him.
517748
better for both if you move on, your kids will love you, but this will cause them to have bad relationships if you stay in a bad situation just for them. they will do as they see you doing, to keep, the general psychological health, of all concerned, in good or fair condition,except for the husband, get out, you will find some one who cares for you for you, not just for the sake of the kids, i came from an adopted family and mother stayed with my father for this very reason, i wish she had done what i am telling you, good luck with your new life!
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
1078938
I've always felt that because you choose your husband it is natural to be closer to them. You also share things with your husband that you can't share with your parents, like your sexuality. I don't have a lot in common with my mum and we aren't that close at all.
76953
Why can the two things not coexist?  Perhaps it depends upon your definitions of loving, supporting, and independent.  I don't see whereas a wife can not be independent while still being loving and supportive of her husband.
800826
I am in that situation now...my wife kind of has always disrespected me and now she is the one who has left me (ironic). Even though she never really loved me %100, I still love the good things and my heart aches for the good times. For me, I tend to love people that don't love me back because I guess I see it as a challenge or maybe I feel like I am the better person for giving more than I receive. Whatever it is, its not right and just like me, you need to just take time and get to know what your are without that person, then you will love again. Hopefully someone who loves you the same amount.
546196
the way we want to spend our life its so much alike, the way we want to raise children, and we are a young couple who still believe it the old ways. we have our differnces but we are so in love.   nice question.
496868
God is love, if you are one of His children, He chastizes you if you do not obey His Word, same as an earthly father.\n\nGod's love is not the same as the way we love, we can love money, material wealth, love of self. there are many different kinds of love.
840477
some people don't know how to show love, mainly because of the way they were raised, but that doesn't mean they don't love.  The best thing to do is to talk to them about this it is always better to ask a question and get an answer, then to dwell on assumptions.  GL
911077
This is really hard. The most important thing is not treat the kids differently. They all nedd the same ammount of time from both of you but they need time with you that is just theirs individual too. It's also important that thjey each have their own space and don't feel left out. As for your husband, I would make it very clear to him that he better respect your time with your kids as you do his or he'll be finding himself a new mommy!
46314
Give your children all the love you can and forget the loser that walked out of their life. Same thing happened to me. Father left when they were very young and never came back. If the father does a huge turn around and becomes worthy to provide them the love they need then you might consider easing him back into their life some time down the road. In the mean time be happy and live your life the best you can. Only thing you can really do. If you feel your children really need a man figure in their life maybe a grandparent or big brother program could fill the gap?
1035522
This is a tough one.  Your original question reminds me of Matthew 10:37-39.  I had trouble with that passage as a child.  I couldn't imagine loving anyone more than I loved my parents.  And frankly, I knew it wouldn't be okay with them, which was threatening.\n\nWhat I've learned is that what we sometimes call love isn't very loving.  Sometimes we condition it such that it is merely a means of control or selfishness.\n\nI believe God calls us to love Him most, because if we love on His terms, we love everyone else better.  When we learn to define love as patience, kindness, truthfulness, hopefulness; having endurance and belief; able to bear all things; lacking envy, pride, rudeness, self-gratification, evil thoughts; not easily angered, not gloating over the failures of another, and neverending - when we define love as serving others instead of demanding that they please us, we love them to their highest good.\n\nMy husband and I both come from dysfunctional homes.  Abusive homes.  What we learned about love in our families, we knew we didn't want to pass on to the children we hoped we'd have or to incorporate into our relationship.  We promised to help each other love God most - even more than we loved each other.\n\nAnd that's hard sometimes.  But loving God most, helps us keep our family patterns out of our relationship.  It helps us love each other in ways that would not naturally flow from what we learned in our upbringing.
681150
Not the same.  I love my wife and will do anythign for her however there are days and times during the day when we do not particularly "like" each other.  IT does nto mean we still do not have deep feelings of commitment and love- it means at this moment the relationship is not what it could be.  My wife once gave me a note after an argument  " I don't like You right now, Love me"
938138
I am a step mom to my husbands three children and he to my 3 children.  We both felt that when we married the other would have that right.  We each feel that if done in a proper way that the other should have that right.  We went thru the you are not my mom or dad things and that's ok but in the end what ever punishment was handed out was still there.  I do so because I want them to turn out to be responsible adults.  That's how we learn in life is by the punishments and rules in life are handed down by our parents and weather they are biological parents you will find rules suck but they have to be followed.  That's what works for us. I am mainly the one at home most with our last son at home so even though I am his step mom I punish more than his dad.  He does not like it sometimes but does abide by what I say.  Wish you lots of luck sweety!
92832
Sure there are.  There's a love a mother and father have for their children, then there's a love you have for a good friend, then for your neighbor, then most important is the love that you have for your husband or wife.
1035296
First your stupid for wanting to give the husband another chance..he will not change.\nAs for the other guy you really don't have any feelings for him and he's just there to pick up the pieces.You will be doing him a favor.\nHopefully through all this your kids will be somewhat normal.