How can i get my wifes sex drive up to match mine, she can go weeks without where i want it daily?
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This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
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Women's wants and needs change over time. Life gets busy and sometimes we don't get a chance to tell each other how much we love our spouses, maybe she looks to this kinds of sex as a way for her to feel loved.It would be good for ya'll to spend the day together expressing your love. maybe then she will come around and realize that just because she has had kids and gained a little weight you still desire her and need her.
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To find a way for my wife to become healthy and happy.
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
750773
Why dont you discuss it with your wife.  You said that she is a sweetie, work it out with her.
259848
Stop getting any further, Love your wife and honor her. No good will come of an affair.
870637
dont want wife pg in her 40.s
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You can't decrease your desire, you will just have to satisfy yourself when she's not willing.\n\nThere are a couple of questions I have though.  Is she perimenopausal?  Or through menopause?  What about hormonal changes as a result of having kids?  \n\nMen do not understand these things.  When we become unable to have children our desire for 'sex' goes down the tubes.  It's hormone related ok?  If she is on any medication, that can be causing side effects that are increasing this issues.\n\nThe best thing she can do is go speak to her doctor and see if there is anything that they are willing to try medicinally that will help her desire.  Remember it's very important that she not feel pressured and that THE VERY BEST WAY to get her 'into the mood' is by meeting her emtoional needs the best you can.\n\nI'll say this over and over.... Men need to 'get' that if a woman is not emotionally satisfied in their marriages, the sex stops.  It's much like a man can't have sex because he can't get it up!  She can't have sex if her emotional needs are not being met, and that is so hard for men to understand.  By nature they are providers and fixers and that kind of thing.. but you need to learn how to be her friend, support her and pamper her and cherish her.  Massage her back, thank her for the fabulous dinner.. spontaneously say you know, I don't tell you enough how thankful I am that you do the laundry all the time and take such good care of me.  I love you for doing that for me.  Those things make women in the mood :)  I wish you the best and that you are able to work it out hun!!
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16 years and NOW it's causing problems?\n\nIs she wanting it less frequently because you want it so much? She is just sick and tired or the incessant demands?\n\nYou both sit down and discuss this.\n\nLet her know that you enjoy the carnal aspect of your marriage and realize that she is uncomfortable with three or four times a day (Don't you have a job?)\n\nSee is she would be amenable to four time a month.\n\nMarriage is give and take. See what you can work out that makes both of you happy,
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try eating fruits for a few days and see what happens. Eating canaloupe is good for the sex drive. SO find out what fruit she likes the best and have fun. Oh avacado has something to do with sex drive too. Good luck
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Start light :)\n\nSmile at her. Tell her you are going for a nice evening walk and ask her if she wants to come with you. In that order. Repeat often~  \n\nAlso, if you have a small yard or a park nearby Bocci Ball is a fun way to get yourselves standing, bending and walking back and forth in the open air. It's a good low impact activity (like a quiet sexy elegant italian version of bowling) that could inspire more physical fun in your day to day life. If you have kids they can join in. It's so fun. If she won't play sober add a glass of wine to the invite. She'll like that. And one glass of wine a day has health benefits. And can spark romance. Ohh La La. ;) Go for it!\n\nIf you have a yard plant a vegetable garden with her. It's nice light physical work and spiritually healing. You'll be eating more veggies which means more energy, less sleeping.\n\nWalk to restaurants instead of ordering in. If you live in too rural an area to do that, drive to the restaurant but park a few blocks away and walk over.\n\nPose these things as small little daily romantic adventures that you have planned for you and her. These are things you are doing for her, and you as a couple so you can both continue to find joy in being alive and well together for a long time.\n\nMore motivation techniques:\nHold hands, kiss her in the kitchen, hug her in the den. Just small acts of physical affection will make you both feel more energized. Plus the chance that her husband may sweetly flirt with her will make a woman want to do more things to make herself more attractive.
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No sex for 8 months is BS.  Talk to her about it calmly and find out what her deal is.  Be ready to compromise.  If she still won't EVER have sex with you then something is seriously wrong and you need to escalate the situation (counseling, divorce, whatever).\n\nGood luck, bro.
359852
Walking and sex worked for me.  Unfortunately, sometimes you will stay at that point for a couple of weeks.  Don't worry...it'll come...promise!  :)
1055549
Don't believe these guys who say women want it less.  I have a high sex drive and I wanted sex a LOT more than my husband did.  To me, two days without sex was two days too long!
930820
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
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As often as you both want to go, can afford to go or when don't feel like cooking. Setting a specific # of times you must go takes the fun out of it if you ask me. If this is a question based off your wife saying you never take me to dinner type of deal and you cannot afford taking her to dinner as often as she would like, try cooking for her once in a while, if you have kids try to get them out on sleep overs or set an early bedtime for that night serve thier meal early and serve dinner for your wife at around 8pm. Don't forget the candles
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Dude you cann't make chicken soup out of just water. The point being you can't make her something she not. Seems your sex drive is no where close to hers. It could be you two just don't match up.\n\n It will not get better, maybe you jusy don't turn her on. With a lady its about all things the way you treat her and talk, how you make her feel. Its also maybe your just not  sexually incompatible. You need to think she is not enjoying the sex as much as you.\n\n There is alot more to this then can be talk about on this short note.\n\n Also you could try this, either cook her a nice dinner or take her out to dinner. when you get home just put on some good music just make the connection that you once had. \n\nIts not good to have her think all you want is sex. \n\nHave a nice day Don