I am a black woman dating a white  man. He comes in late from work, but only works part time!? Is he cheating?
91271
As a black woman myself, I have to ask why in the world are you dating a man who only works part time???  It will be hard enough with society with him being white...but a broke one at that???  Sheesh!  Now, to answer your question...possibly.  I have learned from experience to trust your instincts.  If you feel he is or might be cheating then you are probably right.  If you are really concerned, just ask him.
318691
mmmmmmm A man who will not get a job and work to support his family or himself is saying alot about himself and his character!  And on top of it he feels he is too damn good to help around the house which is an even bigger crock of crap!  My hubby and I have been together 22 years and has worked 12 hours a day 6 days a week for the last 10 years in a row!  On weekends he helps with laundry- does dishes every Sunday just so I can have a day off.  If I ask for his help- he jumps right in with no hesitation!  This so called man of yours- well not a man!  Your feelings are correct!  Give him the boot big time!  You deserve sooo much better than that!  You deserve a man who is going to love you and respect your feelings and needs as a woman!  Life is too short to waste on this loser!  There r alot of men out there looking for great women!  and u deserve to have one of them!  Good luck to you!
97792
I just noticed your other post and you left out a fact in this post that all he wants to do all day is "play video games and sit and watch T.V." It is interesting to me that you left this fact out of this post and only focused on the employment issue. I think you realize what a ridiculous situtation you have worked your way into and are now floundering about trying to get your legs back under you. He undoubtably loves you totally because he now has no job, has video games, no responsibility, a woman that will work to support him, a roof over his head, food to eat, and someone to have sex with on a daily basis. What boy wouldn't love that. I refer to him as a boy although I don't know his age but based on what seems to be important to him.\n\nTHINK about it! Do you come home to a dirty or clean home? What is he teaching your daughters by example? More importantly, what impression of men is he sending to your daughters? Are you planning on marrying him? Are you able to accept the responsibility as breadwinner in the family? What will he do if you get pregnant again and cannot work, can you rely on him? Sometimes the feelings in our heart outweigh what we already know in our minds. Think it through carefully. \n\nDecide what you want to do based on your responsibility as a mother to your daughters and the unspoken promises you made to them when you brought them into this world. Their experiences in life will shape their future choices. Don't you want better for them?\n\nMy true thought, dump him. Live on your own with your daughters. There are several government programs to help the three of you. This will undoubtably be a huge change in their lives and they will need counseling which the government can provide. There are rent subsidies, food stamps, help with utilities, and so much more. You can even go to college for free. Get a better life for you and your daughters. Forget your heart for a while and think with your brain, you'll hopefully make much better choices in the future.
210303
Any man that has sex with you once a month, there's something wrong with HIM. I wish you had stated how old your boyfriend is.  You are a better woman than me because there is NO WAY that I would trust my man to work in a place like that.  All I can say is good luck and I hope you're wearing condoms EVERY time you have sex!
730799
Why is just the weekends you see him?  He could be married. If you know he isn't and it's just a question of schedules or locations then you should talk about moving in or changing something that will fit your needs.  You don't need to move in together as its only been a year but maybe moving closer together or spending a few nights over at each other's place would be in order I would think. \n\nAs you guys aren't exclusive yet go see the other guy there's nothing wrong with seeing if you are making the right decision.  But I'd also but the boyfriend on notice that you aren't happy with the way things are and that you seeing other people isn't out of the question.  As I'm sure it's in his realm of probabilities as well.  I don't know his line of work or why you only see him on the weekends so I can only speculate.\n\nHowever one thing I'm sure of.  If he knows of the situation and hasn't done anything about he doesn't plan on doing anything about it.
1048563
I have read all your questions and answers, it seems to me that you have had a traumatic childhood with your white father and his white mistress' and you have lived the rest of your life as a racist and a mean feminist. Not all white men are cheaters or get the best paying jobs....and not all white women are whores........your 32 years old....grow up and get over it, life is too short.
992953
Yes!  I don't know what anybody else is thinking, but I don't think they are trying to be nice to you.  Maybe you should reconsider who you are sleeping around with....  work is not the best place to be meeting people for relationships like that.  \n\nCheers!
747916
O.K. first of all an Hour and a half is not that far.  Second there is no man alive that would give up on his woman that easily.  Thirdly why would he tell you not to come there?  Frankly it sounds very suspicious to me.\n\nMy husband works all over the state and when he is only an hour and half away he comes home on the weekends and sometimes every night.  Please don't be fooled, call him on it and then move on.
1043488
Well the simple fact that the two of you are working  two jobs each is a big part of the problem. Why are you? He's tired, your tired and it becomes something else to be done sometimes, instead of being a fun part of your relationship.\n\nIf it's possible try to cut back some of your hours, so that you guys can have some quality time with each other. Or at least a day off together. That will hopefully lead to sex. \n\nTry to sit down and talk to him about how you feel he might not really realize how much your sex life has gone down.\n\nI'm still going through this madness with my boyfriend only the roles are reversed. \n\nDrop me an email if you neeed someone to talk to.
323023
i think he is cheating to but if he's not why deal with that. remember when you was growing up you had to answer to your parents where you going what time will you be back and had to be home at a certain time why go back to that you might as well be at home. and don't never let a man tell you where you can or can't go. that is to much control, and believe me it don't get better only worst. you need to sit down with him and tell him look i am not your child and you can't tell me what to do if he don't like it then you need to get out before it is to late.
803297
I can understand both your sides. If you can't trust him, you need to figure out why - is it him, or is it you? To me, it sounds like it's you. STOP trying to make him justify himself to you. He is not your son - he is your boyfriend. If it's him, and you know FOR A FACT you can't trust him, then leave him!!!! Either way, stop making him account for his time - he is his own person. \nCould he have called you and told you he was going to be late? He probably should have apologized, and perhaps didn't if you jumped his sh** right then and there. \nRemember, men and women react differently - likely, he is not trying to hide something, he just doesnt appreciate being treated like a child and is trying to reclaim some autonomy.
1111198
Your leading question and the details don't seem to have anything to really do with each other.  I am a white woman and have been in relationships with blacks and whites. While dating blacks, the people we got the most stares from were the black women. I believe that we should be free to date whomever we find compatible and have an attraction to, and I am glad to be in America where I can do just that. \n\nAs for your "friend", I hope he and his management were careful in signing that contract to retain creative control.  I find your proposed scenario a bit unbelievable, because he would have been signed to the record label based on his existing works, so they would have known what he was about.  Not all hip-hop is sexist or gansta, but that does seem to be what is currently selling the most.  You mention Will Smith and Hammer -- do you realize how long ago that was?  Current artists that maintain their creative independence are a little harder to find - but they're out there.  CHeck out: http://www.okayplayer.com/
401906
I was in teh same boat kinda of I started dating a girl who was almost 10 yrs younger. There were times that I just wanted to stay home and be by myself. It had nothing to do with her. She and I lived in different states and saw each other about every month. I moved down here for her things went awry we broke up. I distanced myself from everything and did not want to be bothered I waited a year before I ever dated again. regardless of skin color it should not matter if he loves you truly. I doubt he is using you just for sex. Talk to him or his friends was he hurt in a past rleationship? I hope this can help you out
1024227
I think your man of three years will understand that you have to work.  No one can switch with you at work tho?  I think you should just tell him that you have to work and you can't wait to get back to him hopefully naked in bed waiting for you!
691992
Sweety you're mad because you do not know or understand what is going on with him. It very well may be that he is trying to pack and work at the same time and trust me it is not easy.I did this one day and the next thing I know there was a female officer in my face in the middle of the night because I did not hear anyone knocking at the door. My boyfriend at the time had them kick the door in so that he could see if I was okay. Personally I think it was something else. Plus, I had children to take care of.
840939
Dating your Boss could be a real bad career move. I know several women that have done it & regret it today. One of them can't stop dating bosses. She now goes from job to job & sleeps her way to financial gain. However, all she is really a Slave to these ego maniacs. If you do it, be in control 100% of the time. Now for the Boyfriend. Follow your heart. Money isn't everything. Take it from somebody who had it all. With one wrong move it's so easy to lose both love & money. I'm not sure how old your boyfriend is but money comes with time. Keep your dignity. It's worth more than all the money in the world. God Love You!
465382
Sure there is no time to communicate?? I work overnights, I've been there. In my past relationship, we used to communicate during dinnertime, and the time remaining before I went to work. Also had some time to do so after I came home, and before she went to work. It is trying, but it is possible. Also, take advantage of his night's off. If you can get him to "reverse" his schedule on his night's off, that'll help out too. Good luck!!