How can I stop being shy around girls?
95045
well, u just have to make way on ur shynessor ur never gonna get to hook up w/no1.....just be nice, smile, make sweet jokes..just go for it dude! in the nicest way u can, have that in mind, cus we like to be approached nicely, dont be shy but dont u ever try to get our attention ridiculizing us in front of others, for a change, thats completly not correct if u want to get through ur shyness w/chicks...just be urself in the nicest way u can ok!
460914
Its hard to get confidence enough to girls.  Take it in small steps. \nFirst find something about yourself that you like and are proud of.  You don't need anyone to know about your achievements and they probably don't care, but they aren't good at what you are good at and that makes you unique different in your own right.  Knowing that in the back of your head can give you the pride and confidence you seek in yourself.  When you can see that in yourself others will and those others will be girls.  \nWhy would someone want something when it’s thrown at them. Value comes when there ain't enough to go around. So let them take interest in you for you, instead of you trying to convince them that your worth it let them see it before you give them the chance. That’s a rookie mistake.\nNext up, start with a "Hi". Say "Hi" when appropriate to one girl you know each day. Start with ones you know then get used to making eye contact with and saying "Hi" to girls your don't talk to. Don’t go stalker there. Just a normal “Hi”\nThis will help you get used to talking with women.  The next up is talking to women.  The best is to talk to women your not into, just as people.  Then work your way up to women who are decent and finally to women who seem out of your league for now.  A good starter is “Hey do you know what the time is?” (Don’t be wearing a watch or have a phone on you.\nOnce your talking with women they will see you as a decent guy and not a serial killer.  By the way have guy friends. Other wise you might end up a yip dog boy. The guy friend to all the girls that doesn’t get laid and isn’t gay.\nThe next step is showing interest and asking them out for coffee. Start slow and keep moving. Soon you will be gaining the confidence that will enable you to have the "Game" you desire.\nOnce date around have some experience under your belt, you will be strait pimping.  Then it’s to the next level of women.  The right girls for now girls.  Then to the last level the right girl.\n\nIt all starts and ends with you.  Remember it’s all about you, until you meet a cool chick that you dig a lot and then guess what. It's all about you.  When she starts being not worth the time and doing you wrong.  You are back on the scene.  Master the game my friend, it will pay off.
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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So just ask out the girls you think are interesting. The worst thing that can happen is they can say no. Eventually though, someone will say yes. Then take it slow and really get to know them. If you rush things you will freak them out and scare them away. Stay cool and you will have a gf in no time.
442691
Ask a girl out. Just cause you're shy doesn't mean you can't ask her out. It just means you'll be a little nervous doing so. That's just fine.
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
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let the girl be shy not you. u do what u want.
210195
smile, say hi, and think to yourself "they aren't judging me, they are interested in me if they make eye contact, I shouldn't shut them out." it's all about confidence. be confident in yourself and think positively. i used to be very shy and would always have my head down. but i started feeling more confident as i started a new job, or a new class or met more new people. everyone is sorta thinking the same thing. you have nothing to lose!
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Tired of being the shy person in the back of the crowd? Become the center of attention at an easy, personalized pace! \n\nSteps \nBe confident. Tell yourself that you have great qualities, and don't let anybody bring you down! \n\nSet goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily goals, and gradually become more daring. E.g. try to speak at least once every class period. \n\nIntroduce yourself to new people each day. Most people are nice and will be welcoming to your advances. It is also great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to cute people. \n\nHold close bonds with your friends, they can be there for you when you crack out of the shell! They'll be glad to help. \n\nTry doing stuff you never dreamed you would. For example: Talk to that cute boy in study hall that you thought would never notice you. Wear something very flattering and colorful to show what a fun person you really are! \n\nLaugh often, at your own jokes and those of others. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling. \n\nLie on your bed and take 3 deep breaths. Then visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now in that situation make yourself confident. Do this for as many situations as you can think of. Do this daily. Do this in the morning. \n\nRepeat positive affirmations using I statements. " I am a wonderful person". "I am a good looking person". Do it even if you don't believe it. Do it daily. \n\nMake a list of things that make you feel shy that you want to try and work on. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations start working through them, one-by-one. The first few "easier" situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes -- take it at your own pace but do make an effort to push yourself. \n\nTips \nThere's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either! \n\nDon't go overboard, and just be yourself! Life isn't a competition! \n\nShyness is sometimes seen as classy. \n\nDon't be afraid to seek professional help -- group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way. \n\nIf you are intelligent enough to know when to keep your mouth closed, then there is no advantage to being shy. Rid yourself of shyness, you'll thank yourself later. \n\nOften, being shy is a result of feeling inferior to or otherwise "less than" other people. Think about it, this is almost never the case. A positive self-image is the key. \n\nWarnings \nIf you were known for being shy amongst family members, watch out for the harmless teasing. They mean well. But don't let them scare you back into your shell! \n\nSame goes for people at school, if you are still at school. Some may be uncomfortable with you existing outside the categeory they've put you in, in their own minds. Ignore them.
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It's really hard to be shy, I know.  The best thing you can do is be yourself, always.  The next thing is eye contact and smile.  Eventually you will work up enough nerve to say "Hi".  You'd be surprised, a lot of guys really like shy girls!
740220
shyness should never stop you -- go for it -- it's the only way to find out if she cares for you - her shyness will go away once you start talking with her and she realizes you care.  good luck.
483280
Just be yourself. don't pretend to be anything you're not. Be kind and polite. Don't use corny or cheesy pick up lines. and just have fun and enjoy yourself. Don't think badly of yourself. i mean just go up to her nice and casual and start a friendly conversation with her. I mean the worst that could happen is that she turns you down. Or you freeze up and she starts laughing in your face.  But i mean at least you know that you tried. Don't go hide under a rock each time a girl turns you down. there will be alot of that in your life. Just learn from your mistakes.  There are plenty of girls out there that will accept you for who you are. You just got to look. Good luck with your problem though. I wish you the best, and know that you will find luck eventually. Just don't stop believing.
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Hey, don't sell yourself short!  Just the way you explained your situation was wonderful.  You knew what to say, your charm and energy comes through, you expressed your feelings very well, and it was as "convesational" as posted question can be.\n\nI know it can be scarier to talk to girls without your friends around, but you know what?  The girls aren't all that sure of themselves either!\n\nDon't necessarily approach someone for a conversation thinking of it as a "date conversation" - just be yourself and start talking about whatever, and as the conversation progresses you can always say you would really like to continue and would she like to go out sometime.  Be casual and don't sweat the small stuff.  Remember, she's probably as nervous as you are!  You already are the kind and funny guy who can speak up and talk to girls for dates.  Sometimes we keep ourselves from doing something simply because we're nervous about it.  Life's too short for that, and I can guarantee you that the girls are wondering what they can do to get you to ask them out!  Just relax, be yourself and you've got it made.
493425
i was really nervous around guys until i realized that they weren't jst these big intimidating things, that they could be thinking the same thing i was! if u see her in the hall, say what's up, or something and she'll think ur friendly and be more comfortable around you. make sure u get 2 know her before u become committed. patching things up w/ her sis can't hurt either. and if she turns u down, move on! i know u've probably heard that a ton, but if u get over it quickly, other girls will appreciate your independence, and who knows, it might even help u get the girl!
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Find some confidence.\nIts pretty simple if you can overcome fear of rejection.\nBe fairly direct. Just ask.\nSecret:  Girls(women) are attracked to self-confidence.\n\nBut also be real, dont lie.  It is much easier to be yourself than someone else.
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its all about practice the more you talk to other girls the more you'll be able to relax. that what i try do, i'm can get very shy around other guys