If your so called "best friend" is spreading rumors about you at school what should you do?
80055
confront her in private 2 get the whole story.tell her if she can't be trustworthy !loyal 2 u az a "best"friendthan she most take ya friendship 4 granted.if she keeps taking advantage of ur friendship & bad mouthin u then its time 4 u 2 drop th person az a friend.u don't have time 4 that drama!!!!
589836
You are right to be concerned. The easiest thing you can do is to report the situation to your Guidance counselor at school and let him/her handle it without you being involved. She is lucky to have a good friend like you. Good luck.
686555
You could go your entire life trying to squash rumors.  My thing is that I would address folks that approach me ONLY.  You dont have time for the rest of it.  People are going to think what they are going to think.
569767
ha, she wouldn't be my best friend anymore! yeah, just tell her your mad. if she's your bff, she'll know better than to keep it up. she should pick u over the guy, and if she doesn't, shes no friend. good luck!
994097
What do you want to do? How about the person that told you whatever what said? Was the info. true or not? Do you believe in your friend?\nOne thing I do know from experience is that a true friend will never two face you. My sister, mom, brother, dad true friends have said things about me but in real concern. Sometimes it pisses me off but they have the right to love me. And if someone came to me and repeat their private conversation to make it gossip I would dump their butt, because i do trust "MY" judgment for a friend. So where do you stand with these friends.
823858
take anything anyone says here with a grain of salt. we're not in the same situation so we can only speculate based on the info you've given us, and even then this is your decision and you will have to live with the consequences. That being said, you are operating from hearsay, so I think before you act perhaps you should talk to these girls and ask about these rumours you are hearing which may not even be true. Once you've talked to them you can gauge their attitude towards you and based on what they have to say I think the decision might become clearer. Keep in mind friends come and go, and real friends would not tread lightly on your emotions and would try to do good by you.
56423
are you a teacher? If you make students feel that they are your bestfriend, you have to show it to all people or else it could be misunderstood as favoritism or something...\n\n\nI am close to my teachers but they don't seem to consider us as bestfriends while we are insidde3 the classroom...outside maybe...
676878
The guy (friend) is spreading rumors because he wants you to break up with your boy friend so he can get a peice of YEAH get rid of the shlt talking SOB all will then be fine!
428159
You need to tell your friend! It is going to hurt her more knowing that everyone a school knew the truth and you all feel sorry for her and didn't tell her! If you are a true friend to her please don't let her get hurt anymore!
997483
I think you should start by keeping your distance a bit.  I think you should make other friends and spend time with them.  Just try to get out of it little by little.  Less calls, less get togethers, maybe even take a class dancing or in something else that she will not join you in.  \n\nThat way the distance will become more and more, until the day you guys don't' get to hang out very much.  \n\nIf she confronts you in a very angry or whatever tone, just be calm, nice & friendly.  Tell her that you guys have drifted apart and maybe you don't have much in common anymore.  But you still like her and consider her a friend.  This may still bite you in the butt, if she decides to spread gossip there's not much you can do but just ride it out, hang out with new friends, whatever.\n\nWhatever damage she could do, you're so much better off without her being around you, you will be happy and it will be worth it, just be strong.  You deserve good, positive, supporting friends in your life.\n\nTake care.  If you need a good defense to fight rumors, or whatever she throws your way, you can always contact me, or post another question, just be ready.
20608
I agree, it's wrong. But if this person is really your best friend, then you should talk to them about it. If they have no good excuse, then obviously they aren't a very good friend, now are they?
134824
Don't let it get to you and just ignore him, you HAVE to be the better woman and hold your head up high! For real, rumors are nothing....especially if he's spreading bogus stuff about you-you know the truth and that's what's gonna stick with you the rest of your life. All thoses people in school that pay ear to the rumors and think things about you will stay right there where they started in school....after you graduate you're GONE, not even a handfull of people that you associate with will you want to keep in contact with after your gone and that's including him! but like I said before even if there's not bogus rumors and he's just trying to get at you for whatever reason...give him the cold shoulder.....IT'S ALL ABOUT THE CHASE-ONCE YOU GOT IT, YOU DON'T WANT IT  remember that and don't let him use you
576777
It would depend to me based on who was accusing me, if they weer spreading rumors, and what their relationship meant to me.  \n\nIf it's someone you don't care for, I'd say ignore and cut ties, since they can't be trusted.  If it's a group of people, you're better off not socializing with people that spread false rumors.\n\nIf it's someone closer, and it could be a misunderstanding, I would confront them, one on one.  If they ddeny, just walk away.  But if they apologize, give an explanation, you could probably still have a friendship, but I'd say keep your guard up, don't trust too quickly.\n\nLike I said, it really depends on how close you are to a person.  If they're not that close, cut ties, but if they are close, and least ask for an explanation, the rest is up to you.
665503
If you really like him..than explain the situation to your bestfriend..she might be upset..but its better than lieing to her and than finding out..
149097
Don't be too afraid about that.  If he/she is your best friend, you won't be able to say almost anything to offend him/her.
191896
I went through this myself, and the best advise I can give you is to let it roll off your back.  If your friend who is/was your  best friend believes someone over you than she was never your best friend to begin with.  The other girl who is lying, sure it would be nice to call her out, show who she really is, but then again, your friendship with BF will never be the same anyway, now the trust is broken.  As hard as it may be you should just try to get past this betrayal and find another healthy friendship with someone else. Sometime when we are in relationship rather they be romantic, or just friendships, we discover one side has stronger feeling than the other.  Never sell yourself short.  You seem intelligent, I doubt you will have any trouble finding a new buddy!! Good luck to you!!!!
446580
well if its only one class that she does that.. BUT still that is not wat a friend would do! If i were you i would talk to her alone like at one of your houses or even during lunch at skool. just say " i need to talk to you privatly" and then she'll understand that its important and you can just tell her that u dont like her leaving you behind. if she is your friend, she'll understand.