Is it illigel to keep child from seeing parent when such has visitatationrights but is abusive?
97240
it depends on the state but where i live you have to turn the child over until the courts say that you don't have too. Make sure you write every encounter (seeing the other parent, phone calls etc.) down and keep track of how the kid is and take pictures
854623
The birth mother has a right to reasonable visitation. Sometimes the terms of the legal guardianship indicate that the parent may have reasonable visitation "as determined by the guardian."  If visitation cannot be agreed to informally, the birth mother or guardian can ask the court to make a visitation order. The court will be guided by what is in the best interest of the children.
822559
yeah leave it - let him see them if he wants its up to him.  When they grow up the main thing is you never stopped them seeing their Dad and they'll know it was him thats wasn't bothered.  get some money out of him though he should be paying child maintenence.
150805
I'd continue to politely request that the parents control their children, padlock the gate, post no trespassing signs and finally alert the police.  If you are absent during these trespasses, hopefully you can enlist your other neighbor to make the call.  At the very least they should send a patrol car.  Your privacy is being violated and it is an issue you have every right to stand up for and expect no retaliation.  I would also suggest to the parents that your property may have hazards on it and you would be stricken should a child be injured on it.  BE careful not to sound threatening, but more like an ocd individual.
142282
You can go to court and have partial restraining order done. That would give him visitation, most likely under supervision.
27270
not to make the father out to sound bad but i would be a little worried as well. check the child for signs of abuse. make sure they know that it's okay to tell you anything even if you have to make up a little game to play (i.e. get them to tell a toy what they do on the weekend with daddy). like i said i don't want to make an innocent man sound bad but they arent' always innocent. if my child behaved that way i would not let them see the father again until i knew for damn sure why. check it out.
863577
Now how would WE know who is using?\n\nWhy don't you ask him.  You have a right since your daughter spends time over there.  If he refuses to tell you, then get a court date and get his visitation suspended.
542443
NO ONE SHOULD BE ABUSED IN ANY SHAPE FROM OR FASHION, VERBAL ABUSE IS JUST AS BAD AS PHYSICAL ABUSE. YOU SHOULD NEVER THINK OF KILLING YOURSELF TO GET OUT OF A WASTELESS MARRIAGE. THEN ON TOP OF THAT YOUR DAUGHTER DOESN'T NEED TO STAND THERE AND SEE ANY OF THIS. WHAT PEOPLE FAIL TO REALIZE IS THAT CHILDREN FOLLOW WHAT THEY SEE. YOUR DAUGHTER DOESN'T NEED TO THINK THAT THIS IS OK, YOU DON'T WANT HER LETTING A GUY OR ANYONE AT THAT TREATING HER THAT WAY. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE THINKS THAT IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE, BUT EIGHT YRS OF ABUSE IS ENOUGH. LEAVE HIM, MOVE OUT, AND FILE FOR DIVORCE
857925
If he ever threatens you with bodily harm or anything, file for a restraining order or protective order.  Given his criminal history, it may be possible for him to only be allowed court supervised visitation of the child.  You were right to demand that he only see the child during the court oredered visitation.  Do not feel one bit guilty about that.  As for the money, if the child is old enough to listen to what he says, the child is old enough to listen to what you say as well.  Tell the child that the money is what he is required to pay for supporting his child and it is not stolen, but is his responsibility to pay so you can feed the child.  That is honest.  Don't bad-mouth the father to the child.  Just state the facts without emotion.  Kids are pretty smart and can put it together. :o)\n\nDo be careful.  You might consider making sure you have good locks on your home and keep it locked all the time to protect yourself.  The law is on your side, so stick to it.  Don't play his game.  I told my ex that I wasn't his wife anymore and didn't have to fight with him, but that he could contact my attorney and/or the state child support office.  They get paid to deal with him so I don't have to.  You don't have to fight with your ex either.\n\nIf he ever threatens you bodily in any way.... take legal action immediately.  Do not hesitate to call the police and file a protective order.  We all have heard the horror stories of what twisted men do to women they supposedly "loved" at some point.  Be careful and use wisdom.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
146966
There's got to be more to this story.  I don't know the circumstances but you have a right to see your grandson.\nWhy in the world won't whe let you see him?  Get yourself a good lawyer and sue her.  That'll make her love you even more.
288671
Go to your court house and file a complaint for visitations, and go to court and well go from there.  If it is something that you want then you will do what it takes.  I have been through similar things and the best thing that I can give you as advice is go to your county court house and file for visitations.  If you are fit and stable then you will get visitations through court and she will have to let you see your daughter...if she don't then she will be in contempt against a court order.
455627
Personally, as a parent, I think they are a bad idea. \n\nI do not know your situation, but if there was a reason I was estranged from my parents, its probably enough of a reason that I would not want my children around them either.  My child is mine to care for and raise, and I should not be forced to let him visit with people I do not want him visiting with.  Not to mention the complications it would bring for all the partied involved because of the feeling between you and your children.\n\nAlso, my son has a deadbeat father who is not a part if his life. He does not know his biological father and never will.  Should the court be able to force me to allow tha parents of his deadbeat father to visit him?  Then I have to explain who those people are and why his father is not around...\n\nBUT, I don't have grandchildren, so I can't give you an opinion from that perspective.
1011518
you need to go back to court to re due the child visitation..you must have it in writing in court order super vice visits only no family and friends are to attend the visit ..make sure that you put it in paper work ..remember to look for the location near you that provides this kind of supervising don't use family or friend use a agency.. they have one in California called haven house the agency is for parents that use drugs or unable to be alone with child.  and used by the cps..always keep a Daley log book on your child of all expenses and things that happen in order to have proof of your accusation you  must prove him unfit to have monitor visit of drugs or any abuse ..police reports do help in this case..next time don't Waite to long file your abandonment paper work ...go to court let them know you have no address or phone number on him ....why is it that a father disappears and then comes back and won ts to be father of the year.....
165745
A child can be removed at the discretion of the relevant state agency, but is unlikely to be removed from a home because another member of the family is being abused.  Often a parent of multiple children will abuse only one of them, and often that child is removed from the home and her siblings remain with the abusive parent.  You don't have much to worry about if the child is not being abused.  \n\nHOWEVER, an abusive home is no place for a child (or an adult) even if he is not the victim of the abuse.  I strongly recommend you leave if you have not done so already.  It is quite common for the victims of domestic violence to remain with the abuser; abusive husbands/boyfriends/parents manipulate their victims to make them feel dependent upon the abuser.  It is not your fault that you stayed with him so long, nor is it your fault that he hurts you.  Remember that.  And please leave him, if not for yourself, then for the sake of your son.\n\nAbusive spouses/boyfriends are often denied visitation rights, but his abuse of you does not automatically terminate his parental rights.  Basically, a family court judge will have to decide that the child's father in an unfit parent.  If you have to appear in court, remember that the judge only cares what's in the best interest of the child; he doesn't care at all what's in your interest (even though you were the victim of abuse and ought to be protected as such).  If he hit you in front of your son, be sure to mention that, but try to only talk about your husband/bf as a father, not as a boyfriend/husband.\n\nFinally, in mosts states an unborn child is not considered a person.  Therefore his hitting you while you were pregnant cannot be considered as child abuse (even though I think it should be, this would create some complicated legal issues).  So it is unlikely to be useful in denying him visitation except insofar as it demonstrates his desregard for your physical well being.\n\nGood luck!
386166
If you had a divorce the Judge should have spelled out in writing what rights you do have. And if he awarded you rights to visitation then (as my uncle used to say) "By gum" exercise  those rights.\n\nIf he never gave any rights or any mention of your rights - YOU NEED TO GET THEM!\n\nTake her to court. Unless a judge rules against you, you have rights to see your son.\n\nHOWEVER - Please note this does not entitle you to just any time you want come over and see him because she does have a life. Judges look down on an intrusive ex husband as much as a ex-wife who deprives  the child of the father.\n\nFIRST try to make a written agreement when  you can see your son. Tell her unless she signs and abides by it you will take her to court to get visitation rights and  that wont be a fun experience. Be nice as possible, and have a NEUTRAL WITNESS if you do this.  Elsewise, just up and have the judge take care of it.\n\nBeen There - Done That.  The Judge gave a fair ruling of every other weekend and six weeks in the summer. My daughter at the time was about four so I dont know how they will treat a case with an infant involved.
83316
Probably yes.  After completion of anger control, domestic violence counseling, and any jail time.  \n\nBut if mom can show that ex is a threat to kids, she can take out a restraining order against him.  \n\nIf ex can convince the judge that he's changed, he is sorry for what he did, and still genuinely care and love the kids, he may be able to get supervised visitation rights.
176469
I would think only if the child is at risk because of the visit.  \n\nYour question would be easier to address if you could give examples or describe the circumstances you are concerned about.\n\nConsider that a grandparent's love is a very special gift to a child.  If it is possible to maintain that, I would do so.  I did not get along with my children's grandmother, but she was still special to them.