How do you teach romance to a husband who has no clue?
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Maybe start doing for him and he will do in return?  Talk to him, maybe something is on his mind.  Guys sometimes don't know how to treat a woman.  But it is the thought that counts.  Don't knock him for trying.  He did manage to get that last bouquet of flowers right?
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That is sooooo AWESOME and selfless of him.  THE BEST thing you can give him is yourself, meaning, write him a meaningful poem describing how good he makes you feel & how much you appreciate and aknowledge what he's done for you, how happy he makes you, how you have no regrets marrying him, and how much better than you expected your marriage turned out to be.  \n\nThen, if you're artistic, re-write it on some fancy paper in caligraphy-or have it done for you, have the poem professionally framed and matted and include a photo of you & him, and don't forget to put the date of this Anniversary, so when you look back at it in 50 years, you'll always remember this Anniversary.  (THEN you can smack him upside  the head, and cuss him out asking him where the heck did the romance go, you nit-wit as you notice his dentures fell out into your cup of tea.)
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Think of five things that he really likes to do and take a day off to do all of them.  After each activity, tell him that there is something more that will be better than all the rest of it, and at the end of the day, lean in and whisper in his ear to ask him if he's ready for the big suprise.  Most men at this point will think sex. (By the way, don't use sex as one of the five activities, ruins the anticipation.)\n\nInstead, give him a loving kiss and then stand a few feet away from him, and propose.  Look deep in his eyes and speak true words of love.  \n\nMay sound corny, but it worked for me. :)
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That is easy...Love and Romance...Sex and Romance...Romance Your Your Lover With Feeling and Thoughts From Your Heart...Use Words Like Love...Use HallMark Cards...Use Flowers...Use Sex...And There All Kinds Of Differant Ways To Have Sex...Styles and Positions...Oral Seems To Be A Favorate For Most Men and Women...Set The Mood With Candles,Dinner,Bath,Low Lights...And Do All These Sugjestions Regularie Not Routinely...
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I understand. I don’t know what I’d do if I wasn’t married, but let me share some of the things I have learned in almost 20 years:\n\n1) Courtship is important. And long courtships are best. In our fast-paced world, especially as young adults, we are always rushing around. The best way to divorce-proof a marriage begins before you ever meet your mate-to-be, during the dating process. Serial dating, especially when it involves premarital sex, is a course in how to get divorced. We end up hooking up and then when things go sour we run away. Don’t get involved with someone who isn’t a friend. And date at least 2 – 3 years before getting married. That way you can get over the initial 18 month crush where everything about the other person is fascinating and the whole infatuated view of “The way you eat is so cute – it sounds like bells ringing,” to “If you clang your fork off of your teeth again I’m gojng to shove it through the back of your throat.” Not kidding – real conversation between my wife & I in the first year. I’m glad to say she never jammed the fork through my throat and I learned to use my lips as a cushion between my fork & teeth. \n\n2) Keep Christ at the center of your marriage. It seems obvious, but it is essential. Every time you notice that ring on your finger, pray for your spouse. It doesn't have to be long or even audible. Just a quick mental thanks to God for your mate, or a quick thought of, "God be with her/him." \n\n3) Love is NOT give and take. There is no take in love. Read 1 Cor. 13 (the love chapter). Love is giving. I give to my wife. She gives to me. If both are giving no one needs to take. Develop this mindset and remember that this is what marriage is meant for. Eph 5 takes a lot of heat for telling wives to submit to their husbands. But it also tells husbands to submit to their wives. Give + give = love. Give + take = selfishness = unhappy = divorce.\n\n4) Never use derogatory names for each other, even in fun. Husbands, if you call your wife "old lady" that is what you will see in her over time. I call my wife "my bride", especially when I am upset with her. That way I remember that wedding day, all those dreams, etc.\n\n5) When kids are involved it is easy to place them in front of your spouse. While time with kids is important & shouldn't be neglected, those kids will grow up & move out one day. Your mate will still be there and you'll need something else to talk about besides the kids. Make a habit of dating. Guys, even ask your wife out on a date. Arrange the babysitter. Often couples in church can provide a wonderful service for each other by trading Fridays (or whatever day is appropriate).\n\n6) Get to know and socialize with an older Christian couple or two who have a happy long-term marriage. Learn from how to treat each other from them. Remember that we all face similar adaptation issues when we are first married & they have worked those issues out. Talk with them about what they had to work out in either early married years and how they resolved things. This can be one of the biggest benefits you ever have, especially if you come from a divorced family or a family with strained relations.\n\n7) It may seem obvious but pray together. Have individual quite times, but have a shared quite time as well, at least once a week. And no matter how much you think it will hurt or bother your mate, talk. Holding it in doesn't make it go away - it only makes it fester until you explode all over each other. Talk and if agreement needs intervention, see your pastor or a Christian counselor.\n\nMarriage is very frightening - especially for those of us who came out of dysfunctional families. But the single biggest cause of dysfunction in my experience (and in my family) was selfishness. Give to each other & to the Lord, and you too can have a happy marriage. God bless you & best wishes!
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As a Teacher I'd suggest that you try to arrange for him and a peer from that class form a study group.  Have one read while the other places the info into their own words, they can take turns doing this and then talk about the meaning.  You can have the husband do it or even take a day off from work and sit in on his classes.  You can also contact other parents and petition for a change or simply talk to the teacher.
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Okay, so i'm back ..hehe...i was so intrigued by the thoughfullness and sincerity of your last question I went to see if you had any others.  And you do...and some really sweet ones at that...\nSo heres my two cents:\n\n* CUDDLE!!!!!(issue addressed though...do it do it do it!!!)\nAlso plant sweet kisses on her...its especially sweet when she's sleeping...it implies so much....you think she's sleeping and unaware..but she is!\n\n* Introduce her to new things!  This will score big points and make a lasting impression...every time that event or occasion comes up you will be forever imprinted in her memory and associated with it.  (I was introduced to football!  of all things...and became a huge Steeler fan...cant look at football now w/o associating it w him.  Also shared my first Symphony w/ him, first baseball game, first game of mini golf....GO FOR THE FIRSTS!!!!\n\n*Be a gentlemen.....show her chivalry isnt dead.  Even someting so common as holding her elbow or hip when opening the door...or standing when she gets up from the table, warning her of puddles or cracks in the sidewalk, or standing on the side of her thats facing the street....just says so very much.  Girls like to feel like they are being taken care of...and that is SEXY!!!!!!!!!!\n\n*Make her dinner....may sound unoriginal or common, but if done right can be so very....sigh sweet!  Especially when you take it to her at work.  Presentation is key.  Throw in some fresh strawberrys and grapes for the desert and a box of chocolates......(writing this I can see Ive been spoiled)\n\n*Compliment her....don't over do it though....say it only when its warrented...that way she knows its genuine.\n\nOkay, so my two cents turned into a novel..but the above really has made a huge impression on me...and that says alot.  But good luck to you...sounds like you are already on your way to being pretty damn awesome.
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oh...get him to teach you.  If he is the kind of guy who likes that...has the patience for it..lol.  He will love that you are taking an interest in something that he loves, AND that you are looking to him, not to a book for help.  It really isn't that complicated of a sport.  If anything, just sit and watch...have a book or a magazine handy...and ask as you see things you don't understand...or wait...better..ask on the ads.
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Hey I dont blame you for feeling that way.............but honestly some men have no clue..................I would just tell him, sometimes hints just dont work you have to spell it out!!!!!
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Hello, send your hubby an e-mail or call him and tell him that the two of you are going out one evening on a sexy date!\nSet it up in advance so that the two of you both know when it will be and can look forward to it. Pick a restaurant you both enjoy.\nWear something you know he finds sexy on you. At dinner talk about the things the two of you have done sexually that he enjoys and that you enjoy. Get him to talk about it and stay positive.\nAfter dinner, at each stop sign or stop light, kiss him and touch him! Once home, you can remove all of his clothes and tell him to lay on the bed. He can now watch you slowly remove your clothing while you tell him what your going to do to each other once you lay in bed next to him. \nYou can take it from here! \nPlan date nights together! They can be at home making a romantic meal together. You don't always have to go out.\nLight some candles, play romantic music. There are a number of things you can do. \nGood luck and have fun!
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How cool that a GUY is asking a question like this.  Hats off to you, bro.  You sound like a real romantic.  This being the case, why not break the mold?  Don't just go to WalMart, and pick something up for her - CREATE an afternoon for her!  I did this for my wife on our first anniversary.\nCreate a custom day-spa for her, made up of all kinds of things that she likes to do, print it up, and give it to her.  An example would be:\n\n9:00am - Tennis at the courts where we met\n10:00am - Go for a walk & talk about our dreams\n11:00am - Spend some time playing with her little sister\n12:00pm - Customize picnic in the park, featuring her favorite sandwich\n1:00pm - Non-sexual backrub on the beach (women really dig "non-sexual" affection - it makes them feel loved and comfortable, as opposed to a tool that you are using to meet a need)\n\nYou get the idea.  Finish it all off by cooking her a special dinner.  Even if it doesn't taste that great, she'll love the fact that you thought enough of her to get a cookbook from the library, and arrange a candlelight dinner!  The key to the whole day is to focus your concerns on her needs.  Stay away from expecting anything in return from her.  Make this day about making her feel like a princess.\n\n*Also, as a side note, something that I did with my wife because I could tell early on that she was the one...secretly start a journal.  Write down loving thoughts that you have about her (and DATE every entry).  Write down notes about things that you do together & dates that you have.  Continuously write down why you love her, and why you are so excited to be with her.\nThen, on your wedding night, GIVE IT TO HER AS YOUR WEDDING GIFT!  I was SO glad that I had done it.  My journal was packed with stuff that I had long forgotten about, and she absolutely melted!
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Faint heart never won fair lover.\n\nGet inthere and tell him yourslef, honest and direct
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Not knowing is the worst.  But have faith.   What are his reations to you?? any kind words, flirting?    Just tell him if it gets too hard.
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I always try to look good for my hubby.  Even from the get go.  I always acted like myself.  When we were a little deeper into the relationship I did romantic dinners and rose petals down the hall and to the bed with candles lit everywhere.  I always try to impress him by trying new things and getting focused on what he's talking about, whether it be work or cars or whatever, even if I could care less.  If you truely love someone you will know how to impress them.  If it is a new relationship or one you're trying to start, just look your best, be confident and be yourself.  You want them to love you for who you really are and not who you are trying to pretend to be.
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You could try a few things, some of which you might find awful, but I'll list a few.  Others can add to the list:\n\nMake sure he finds YOU to be good in bed.\n\nGet sex ed books, tapes, DVDs.  Read & watch with him.\n\nTry using porn.  Show him what you like on the movie.\n\nGo to sex therapy.\n\nGo to regular old marriage counseling.\n\nI wish you all the best.  I'm sorry if some of my answers sound crude, but sometimes, crude works.
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Knowing he will always be within your heart, he taught you bow to love. Now it is destined for you to go on with life experience different loves, there is always something to learn or to teach. This time you were learning, maybe now it is your turn to teach someone what you've learned from loving him. Consider this carefully...
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You can write them a note, or leave a voice message, expressing your 'absolute inability to positively comply with their affectionate entreaty, due to an intricate web of mental restrictions self-imposed upon yourself due to prior, primary plus totally voluntary commitments'.\n...It will take an average person at least 2-3 minutes to get the gist of what you've said, and by the time he finally understands that you are only asking him to go vamoose, he'll actually feel relieved : 'Thank God, I would never have understood her anyway !'\nHowzzat ?!