Race, Religion. Why can't she see past that?
84489
You should talk privately to her parents. If not, seek advice from a psychologist perhaps. Be sure to repeat to her that you love her no matter what your religion. However, I find it a bit sneaky that she comes onto this after 5 years. She's losing a great guy, as I see it. I say take matters into your own hands and try and check a bit if she's cheating on you. You're not the one losing her, she's the one losing you. \n\n\nAll in all, good luck! ^^
1154848
I hear you!  A little more tolerance would go a long way towards a much more peaceful world.  Unfortunately, many people just can't seem to see beyond their own limited point of view.  They have taken the word of someone who has taught them their religion like sheep instead of doing any real research on their own to find out what it is that they personally believe.
257405
I dont believe that it is diffcult...I just think that she may be looked at more because it's not really seen for a black women to step out of her race(down south).....But she might hear a lot of negative remarks from the black male community but they cant talk because they do it all the time....And normally they dont want to hear you say anything negative about there decision so they really dont have any say in that department.
749472
It might have something to do with not offending the giver.  Or it might have something to do with an inherent inconsistency in how a religion is practiced.  Something all religions suffer from, unfortunately.
270807
you really are hung up on the law and grace thing aren't you?\nGrace isn't a scapegoat, that you can just go around and do and say what ever you please and then say I have grace to cover me. Grace is not the license to ignore the parts of the bible you don't like or agree with,and do as you please. \n    We are held accountable for the words we speak, even the words we speak about ourself. Words sting the heart, they wound the heart, and after a while of hearing something said to you, about you, you will start believing and behaving in that manner, yes we have the power to do that in our own life, God said so.
621831
Some people have one set thing in the mind and are not open to others beliefs. I am Christian but on the other hand try to be open minded about others religions to.
608355
Let her come to Cairo and see for herself how things are, sometimes things sound better than the actual thing. She has the right to choose but only after seeing the true side of things. If she insists then she's free to do what she wants.\nI am a Muslim Egyptian, but it seems to me from what you said that her ideas do not have the correct foundations.
161231
She is a die hard wing nut and does not represent us as Christians. It's her kind of "christianity" that turns people away from their faith. She is at heart, the same kind of christian that takes money from poor old women and disabled people on a limited income and lives a luxurious lifestyle with these poor people's grocery money. Don't judge Christians by her.
330908
Well, go ahead and make her mad, if that's what it takes to get the point across!! She sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do, if she changes her mind about a lifelong belief, just for overhearing a conversation about your belief.  I think that what your friend is going through is finding herself and establishing her own truths through experience. I think we all go through that at some point in life. But, I feel you should talk to her at least to let her know to be her own woman and not just another gulliable follower. Just my opinion.\n-Reggie
771271
I read half of it (should probably have finished it, which I might do in the future.)  She had some good point, mainly highlighting the institution of 'Ishdihad' where Muslims themselves can keep an eye on whats going on with their religion; free thought.  This is applicable to todays world where some people are wildly misinterpreting the religion, hence the result being nasty attacks on INNOCENT civilians, which it totally condemned in Islam.  \n\nOne thing I will hold against her, she goes to say that she is openly a lesbian with a girlfriend.  My understanding of Homosexuality in Islam is this:  The religion takes sexuality and sex as two different and independent things.  So, If your straight, this doesn't give you the right to have sex with many women before marriage, you can only have sex within the marriage.  The Quran acknowledges that people can have homosexual thoughts and tendencies but these should not be acted upon sexually.  Now, if she researched the religion to the extent of being able to write a book about it she should have known this, which she either does know and disregards or doesn't know.  This is quite hypocritical in my opinion.
389202
im sorry to hear that . maybe she should get a shorter haircut ?? why are those so people so primeval??? its hard not to be racist when you hear these things
1125686
She is not, I am Muslim and I can say that. maybe she really loves you but your relationship seems impossible. in our book male Muslim can marry Christian,Muslim and Jew woman, but female Muslim can't marry but Muslim man. so she is probably if she told her family they would prevent her from seeing you at all. so she keeps finding excuses to be with you as long as possible. talk to her outright and tell her what I just wrote and she can't deny! good luck.
777437
I certainly can, in our civil society religion shouldn't matter.  In fact however, it does and I prefer to know not so much the religion but how devout the politician is--the more devout, the less I like them because the more likely they are to let their religion color their decisions.  I don't want anybody forcing their religion or the implicit results of their religion on me.
597211
you do understand that she is under-educated and ignorant to the many different types of people out there, and not mean spirited in nature. so that is good. she needs to grow and be made aware, more concious. this is not something that will happen over night, but you can help develop her awareness and open her heart. \n\njust continue pointing out her mis-perceptions in a non-confrontational way (noone likes to be told they are bad or wrong) and offer a new viewpoint. you should say that some of the things she says can hurt your feelings, she should be made aware that it is disrespectful to use the term Jewish in that way. you can say that Jesus was a Jew, and that Christianity is built on the the foundation of Judiaism. \n\npoint out that stereotyping is something an emotionally lazy person does that does not want to get to know each individual. it is also a sign that she is a very harsh judge on herself, so she probably is looking for self love and acceptance. \n\neducating her on the negative power of racism- how Hitler got a whole country to agree in his evil by seperating and de-humanizing people. it is a very serious thing. \n\nThis may take some time, but you are doing a great service for her, and the people whos lives you both touch.\n\n*peace
1147646
she's female..... so where's the question?
880017
Take some time and read a little about her beliefs.  Then you can make an educated decision about wither or not you could support her religious decision.  If you can live with what she believes, even if you don't share the same beliefs, then go for it!  If what she believes truly bothers you then kindly back away.
560042
Sorry to hear that. My guess to that question would be that she liked/loved you but could not get over the race issue. She couldn't be at ease with it and maybe family/friends/society  had issues with it too and she was more on their side. She sounds like she was confused and let others make her decision for her. Maybe in time she can accept it and if u still care for her u 2 can work it out. Good Luck!