How do I get over her,  even though I don't want to be with her?
82106
How long were ya'll married? Getting over a spouse is hard. Sounds to me that it wasnt you wanting to end the marriage. I know I struggled with it for almost five years trying to get over my ex. Dont look like it would have been hard seeing how he left me for a woman 26 yrs older than us when I was 3 months pregnant with our youngest son and he got remarried when i was 6 months pregnant with him. The way I finally done it was by not letting him know that things bothered me! If we had to be some where at the same time I was very friendly and nice. Then I decided to move on and that really got to him. If your with someone a long time its hard not to recall memories. So start by going SHOPPING!!! Go and buy you a new wardrobe one that you picked out...some new cologne. Hint Very Sexy for men by Victoria Secret is a good choice!! If you ever need advice or just someone to listen you can reach me on im at melissa_4573.
605636
Only time and the realisation that you can live without her will stop your heart from hurting,surround yourself with friends and family and keep yourself busy sweetie,good luck.
542886
u should ask her what she wants and if she is willing ot let go then let of her and for the meanwhile have her phone number and talk ot her from time to time eventually u would get over it
334000
Get him out of your life and take time to get over him. Don't talk to him at all! That's what worked for me!
725293
You will not be alone for ever..you are hurting just now but you will get over her and meet someone who will love you...
369173
Well, in all truth, the most mature way to deal with it is to accept her wishes.  You can still be friends with her, and maybe if the relationship she's pursuing doesn't work out, it might move toward a romantic relationship between you and her.  You can always let her know how you feel, but if you try to hold on, you may only be disappointed.  And even worse, you might create ill feelings between you and her.  But by learning to accept her decision and keeping her as a friend, you may make a better impression on her.  After all, if given the choice, would you rather have her in your life (at least as a friend), or not at all?
890317
if you really can't get over him, then i guess you'll have to learn the hard way and hear it cold from him. call him and hear his rejection and that should make you get over him. if it doesn't work the first time, keep dfoing that until you are over him and have moved on.
269951
If you really car about her. Wait. Get to know one another better and when she feels more comfortable/connected with you it will happen. \n\nIf you don't care about her then move on.
418262
Don't feel guilty... she's the one leaving you remember... Just move on, if she really loves you or even likes you she will come to you. And find someone else to love or to hang out with, not someone that goes in and out of your life like nothing.
536846
stay busy with other things. Find someone of the opposite sex to just hang out with. Don't date someone else, just a friend. Try to think of something unattractive about the other person and dwell on it. Eventually it will seem bigger than it was and will help you get over it.
72260
I think you need to let her down easy.  Tell her you appreciate the time you've had together, but this is just not what you want right now.  You have things on your mind and need to be alone.  Once you break it off, stick to it and don't give her any false hope.  Once you break it off, YOU CANNOT SLEEP WITH HER...if she's crazy, you'll regret it big time.
111410
It's kinda hard to forget some one you loved but if you still care about her in to some extent then don't try to forget about her keep talking to her (as just a friend) and remember the good times but keep an open mind and start dating new people. If you just completly hate her all of a sudden and want to forget about her for good the best thing to do is not think about how much you dislike her and just don't think about any memories of her. Continue on with your own life. Date new people, go out for a few drinks with your buddies, just have a good time.
958669
Wait, you might want to give her some time to get over her boyfriend first. It would be better to approach her once all of this mess has cleared up. When it does, simply come up to her and say "hey, I'd really love to catch up with you- did you want to go see a movie this Saturday night?" and take things from there. Be patient with her- it might take her a while to get over her previous relationship, so you just need to give her time and an open ear, so that she can talk to you about what she's going through. Good Luck!! :)
251351
I deal with this daily.\n\nYou move on until you find someone who makes you feel the way "the one that got away" did. There could be any number of reasons that the first one got away, but the fact is that she did, and has likely moved on with her life - you should, too.
96555
WHew thats quite a story indeed. I think the best medicine for you is a night at the strip club. After that you should keep your eyes open and find someone new. Once you find someone else you like. It will be alot easier to get over her. However, I'm sure you'll still think of her from time to time, but it won't be as hard once you someone else to love.
534456
its hard but if you just cant do it then your probably not over her and still want to be with her. was it her or you who broke up
785385
I feel your pain!!!  Keep busy and hang with close friends. Honestly the best way to get her out of your head is to find another. Plenty of us females out here that would love to be on there guys mind 24/7. Just keep looking.