When is a person ready for a relationship after being divorced?
78659
Actually, it depends on how you handle yourself emotionally.\nMarriages, and divorces tend to give you alot of baggage to carry or get rid of. In this process of healing and becoming whole again, there are some materials I have seen that would say it takes about 3 years to really get over it.\n Butr that's entirely up to you how well or how fast it goes.
172010
Never heard of a "rule" before hopping into a new relationship.  You should give yourself some time to heal from the last relationship before jumping into another.  If not, you're just going on the rebound looking for some substitute for what you had.  You'll just end up hurting the potential relationship.
194744
A guy getting a divorce isn't probably looking to jump right into another relationship.  He likes you and having you as a friend with the potential for more at some point is good for his ego and is probably helping him feel better about being able to move forward with his life after this divorce.  If you really like him you will probably have to be patient and put up with the fact that he may need to explore other relationships before he is ready to settle on just one again.
655954
When they have made it clear that they have moved on. If they have new activities and new friends and are happy.\n\nYou are best off doing the same. Ironically if you are independent and happy and out doing interesting things our ex may find you more attractive, but you should do these things for yourself.
717935
You've got yourself a rebound woman and she will be the next Ex if you are not careful.  My suggestion is not to date while separated because any woman that gives you attention, you will fall in love with.  \n\nThe most wise thing I've ever heard about love is, "You don't fall in love with a person.  You fall in love with the way that person makes you fell about yourself."  This new person is giving you lots of new attention and your Ex hasn't paid you any attention in years.  Of course you feel love, but it is most likely to be temporary.  You need to find time to be alone and find out who you are.  For so long you have been part of a couple and you still are.  You need time to figure out who you are as a single.
726517
Oh course you have to wait. He's getting divorce and doens't matter how bad things were in his marriage, getting divorce is never easy. Let him feel free again. Let him enjoy himself. Give him time. I don't think he's ready for another relationship
175704
Yes that is normal.  You need to have time for yourself and to get rid of the bad feelings.  I am not divorced (yet) but it has been a year since we seperated and I have no desire to be with anyone.   \nJust relax and don't listen to people who tell you you need to be dating, you will when you are ready.
73621
As long as you are honest about your intensions up front. I am recently divorced and dating several men. But they all know I'm not looking for a committed relationship I'm just looking to meet people and see where it goes.  I don't talk to them about the other guys, but I do keep it casual. It all depends on the people your dating and where they are at in life. If they are mature, they understand the difference of causal dating and "cheating".  But be aware... if you see someone is really starting to develope strong feelings for you... be fair to them!\n\nGood luck and have fun. There is nothing wrong with getting to know several people.
1021277
Don't have the relationship UNTIL everything has gone thru the court systems. That way HUBBY/EX-to-be can't use anything against you. \n\nTHEN go slowly starting a NEW relationship. Take it slow and easy.
682566
I think when you have finally let go of the fact your marriage did not work out and are peace with the fact it didn't work and are not carrying around any ghosts.\n\nThen you will be ready to put your time and energy into a new relationship or be ready to date. I think if you are not over the past, then it will ruin even fun dates, because your heart just won't be in it.
562586
Alls I can say is....rebound relationships. You both just got out of long term relationships, which probably means you both got your hearts broken. Now you are leaning on eachother for support and that's fine, but you are confusing support and friendship with love. It's nothing new and that's why so many people that have been divorced once, get divorced twice. I suggest you don't move and just keep a friendship up...it's only been 2 months...that's not long enough to make a life changing decision. Good luck in whatever you decide.
288177
Two weeks is a short time.   I have been separated for two years now and my divorce should be finalized in two weeks.  LOL... it is always two weeks.  I still don't feel ready to date yet, but I am.  What ya gonna do?  Turn down people when they ask you?  Where have I met people, lets see... at the grocery store check out lane, at the car dealer waiting for my Van to be repaired, at Johnny's New York Style Pizza parlor, my neighbor, on yahoo... gosh, everywhere.  Only go out tho when you are ready.  I worried for the longest time that I just wanted to go out with guys to prove that guys would still find me attractive.
436878
You can start dating as soon as you want, but concentrate on dating rather than finding a new relationship right away.  Give yourself some space to rediscover who you are without your ex.  You may find that during your long relationship you gave up activities that you enjoyed because your partner didn't.  you may find that now is the perfect time to reconnect with friends.  It's pretty lonely right after you break up with someone, but it's very freeing to go out and do new things/meet new people.
1153223
I did the same thing many years ago and we finally got back together after about a year apart and got married but ended up divorced before our 8th anniversary.   The problems that were there before were still always there, but I thought he would change and I was lonely and I hadn't gotten into another relationship.  He was my first love!   But 5 years after our divorce, I met a really wonderful man and we've been together now for 16 years and I can't even picture being with my ex anymore.  Sometimes a new relationship does the trick after you've had time to heal from the last.  I didn't think I could move on but I did and life has never been better!
628663
You can't "Get" a man to marry you until they are ready, or mutually like yourself, think the relationship is ready to take it to the next step. Think about it, would you want to force someone into marrying you now just because your ready only to find out later (after a divorce) that they weren't ready to be married?
46763
It depends on the two of you. I know a ex married couple that stayed friends after 24 years of being divorced. Thats a long time and a rare occassion. They are my parents lol. Now if you ended on bad terms and are trying to get along then probably not. Or maybe he is still into you and just wants to end it before he gets caught up into the feelings all over again knowing that you can never be together.
348010
I think that most women go through what you are describing (I sure have!). It's almost impossible to imagine dating someone when you have just broken up with someone else. Especially if you loved that person, which it sounds like you did.\n\nThe answer is, dont worry about dating right now. Just take care of you and your girls and do what you can to make you happy. Take care of YOU for a change. The dating thing will come around eventually. There's no hurry. That isnt important right now. Just take it day by day.\n\nAnd when you ARE ready then opportunities will present themselves. There is no hurry, though. If you get upset thinking about dating again, then dont think about it. You'll be ok.