Can we un-ask one of our groomsmen to be in the wedding?
96011
You have a great opportunity on your hands.  Ask your sisters bf to be an usher.  Explain that the mothers need escorts down the aisle.  He would still be a part of the wedding in an important position and you get to have your friends that you know in the bridal party.  If you do it politely and excitedly they will be more than happy to serve in that way.  And your sister needs to understand that being as you dont completely know her bf that he is still there and welcome and helping but after long talks, you would feel more comfortable w/ the other person in line instead.  Remember, tact and kindness goes a long long way.  Good luck and congratulations on your wedding.
995862
I wouldnt.  Its not like u are going to forget his name.  Besides, what does it REALLY prove and if you are married, what else do you have to prove?
315435
If you're resorting to asking strangers it doesn't look good. If you're both happy then who cares, but if you want to get married and he doesn't then the best thing to do is end it.
180019
NOt if you don't mind.\nIt would be wrong if he is married though.
31188
By "Future In Laws", I assume you mean your future husband's family? His parents and siblings? Yes, you must be willing to have them present unless your mate is of the opinion that they should not be invited.\nThere is always the chance that a decent relationdhip can develop with these people but if you exclude them from the wedding, that slim chance is gone forever...besides, you don't want to spend your wedding day answering questions abour where the Groom's family is and why they are not present.\nGood luck.
526254
Why even go.  I mean, if you're friends with one of the people getting married, wouldn't it make MORE of a point not even to show up or send something mean?\n\nPlus, they get to save the cost of your plate that they'd otherwise waste on someone who doesn't support them.\n\nGrow up.
440051
Just sit him down and be totally honest, do it before the wedding plans get too far advanced, and might cause a financial conflict...GL;)
152729
OF COURSE "NOT". WHAT EVER GAVE YOU THAT IDEA? IF YOU DON'TBELIEVE ME, ASK MY WIFE. ON SECOND THOUGHTS; DON'T ASK MY WIFE. ASK ANOTHER MAN.
326998
Do it anyway you feel comfortable and can afford. Unless you have children. Then please do it quietly and discreetly.  I am getting sick and tired of attending weddings where the kids are in the ceremony.
1121778
most men really don't care about the details.  just ask him if he wants anything in particular.  Then do the rest yourself.  You can't make him be interested in the wedding part...  Just set a date and do it.
140776
If you are the best man, then you are  very close to the groom, reach deep within yourself..Speak of the kind of man he is, and the reasons why he would be a great husband.  If you read something prewritten that would be too lame..your his bestfriend...speak from your heart, not from someone elses...
231749
Why not???  Do what you want to do.  Forget wedding ettiquette.  I think it's wonderful that your family wants to do something for him as well.  I'm sure he will appreciate it...the only problem might be the finances.  Anyone who went to the first one may not be able to go to the second one because they can't afford it.  That is really the only thing to consider I think.
626236
If you have to ask us then the answer is no. You obviously are not comfortable with it. Tell him you don't like
333438
No it is not rude. In this case it is reasonable weddings can have rather strange time frames. early wedding reception later? wedding immediate reception? pictures? cocktails, food, receiving line? it could take hours with set times between or not. But it is not bad manners to ask when any party is expected to end, especially if it is not stated on the invatation. It allows not only for the guest to plan for themselves, but it insures that they do not overstay their welcome. After all we all have had the "GUEST THAT WOULD NOT LEAVE". you know the one that thinks you  could not possibly be tired, have other things to do and so forth.
430433
Postpone the wedding with M untill you resolve your issues (youll only make a bigger mess of yourself if you dont) Leave john the hell alone HES MARRIED, if he really wants you he'll get a divorce.
390526
Tell them exactly that - That you are having a very small intimate wedding and unfortunately you can't invite everyone, you don't have to go into details as to why if you don't want to - untimately it's your day!  Easier said than done I know - Im struggling with the exact same for my wedding. But your friends will appreciate hearing this from you rather than someone else. If they are true friends they will understand.
551853
not once they're married