I want to know what to do about how to get over my x she was the best freind and the best lover .?
96555
WHew thats quite a story indeed. I think the best medicine for you is a night at the strip club. After that you should keep your eyes open and find someone new. Once you find someone else you like. It will be alot easier to get over her. However, I'm sure you'll still think of her from time to time, but it won't be as hard once you someone else to love.
991170
Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three  months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.\n    I really think that you'll win her heart.
284735
hey well one sorry to hear that. two well the best thing i think you can do is go talk to her. find out exactly why she broke up with you. if the chemistry just wasn't there for her you will have to find a way to move on. if it was something else that can be fixed well than talk to her and maybe you can fix it. goodluck and i wish you all the best.
312726
She is you ex for a reason. No don't give her another chance. Tell her that you can only be her friend and if you have ever been intimate with her then just get sex from her until you find that special someone that interest you.
186277
stay with this crazy friend of yours and dont let him do anything stupid, and tell him i said to get over it, move on and find someone better.  Think of it this way, if she was all he had, he has nowhere to go but up.
120552
The best advice I could give you is to keep your mind busy on anything else but her. Keep yourself active, busy. I know its hard, believe me, I do. It will pass with time.
258382
okay...first of all let her be...its hard at first but you will get through it...if you ignore her maybe she will realize what she lost...and if she doesn't then that's her lost ..it hurts but dont bring yourself down ...if you tried to mend things and she didn't then you know she was really not a good Friend....;)
945351
keep your head up.that's what happens when u lose your first love.but don't worry,it will be hard to get over her but you Are capable of finding someone Better.Trust me.the world hasn't ended Brother.Keep you head up.and don't call or contact her EVER!.KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!
48894
My advice is to get over it. You could try to get closer to her through her friends, let her know the real you! But don't push it! Some things are not meant to be. Nontheless, there is plenty of fish in the sea!
286057
Love hurts and you will get over her. Time heals all wounds. Everyone who has loved has felt what you are feeling, you are not alone. It is just how it is. It sucks, but just remember:  It is better to have loved, than to have not loved at all!
22730
Your used to someone, used to having fun with them, used to loving them and used to just generally having them around.  When you get your heart broken, its unlikely you can remain friends with someone you've had such a deep understand with and thus its more then like that you've got to start from scratch.  Mainly, its the fear that you'll never have that again and never be happy again.  The best way to get over a break-up is to tell yourself that "she/he wasn't worth my time and that some other lucky person will be worth it in the future".
173684
you can't i just lost my husband in oct. and it's been 5 months and you don't get over it. unless you throw yourself into something. and sometimes that doesn't even help. and of course friends mean well but they don't understand how you feel. it's up to you and you alone. you just live and take life day by day and that's all you can do....
633750
You will get over it.It takes time.Try to do something to help yourself get on with life.You will never love the same way again.Each time will be different.But you will find another wonderful person to fill that void.If you two broke up I am sure that you can find someone who will be the girl friend of your dreams.It all takes time.
274165
Broken heart is not easy to heal.\nBut life doesnot stop, ask her to move on in life. I know it will not be easy for her; but to live in past memories will not heal her wounds.\nSo ask her to keep her self busy in other works like... New Hobby, develop New work interest, New part time job, Cooking etc. Being a good friend of her be with her, go out for movies, hang out here and there. Just try to make her a bit happy.\nI know it is not easy but atleast try to get out of that i m sure with time she not even forget him but also find a true love.
614903
how long have you been friends??? frankly, it really should be okay because you've moved on, right? unless, your friend is your bestfriend and she knows how you still feel about him, then maybe that's another question...so, maybe you need to ask your friend what is going on...you know, talk to her or something...but if she's not that close, leave it! like i said, you've moved on right? go find someone else better...someone who deserves you... ^_^
88515
You don't.  She has made a choice that you need to respect.  The best thing you can do is move on and concentrate on you.  By making your life the best it can possibly be without her there is a slim chance she might realize what she lost.  The key is that you deserve to be happy and you can't be if all you do is focus on getting her back.  She doesn't want some guy who begs to get her back, she wants a guy who has his act together.
616605
Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!