I need some black guy to date, but my girls say that they treat ladies not right. is it true all the time?
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It depends on the type of black guy, I know some horror stories of what black men have done, but most are fine. It's just a negative sterotype that we do lots of crimes(one guy in my class did a essay on me going to jail). I treat girls right, my dad (he's not married) does, and most of the people I know do. But as with any man you still have to be careful.
988485
I really hate questions like this that generalize all guys into stereotypes.  Just because you have dated the wrong type of guy, don't lump the rest of us in with him.  The only comment I see which may hold water is that guys aren't as emotional as girls, & I even disagree with that to an extent.  I believe men don't express their emotions as readily as women, & that is part of our nature, but we do still feel as deeply as women.  However, most of your questions could as easily be turned around & asked about girls, as many of us men have been put through similar situations by women.  Many of us have felt lead on by girls.  Many have felt girls started something & then changed their minds, whether it was sex, dating, or even a relationship.  A lot of us have wondered why girls don't care if they hurt us.  I think all of us have wanted to know at one time or another why women can't be open & honest with us about their desires, preferring to beat around the bush & making us guess what they are thinking to prove we really love them.  I'm guessing some guy recently hurt you, but it isn't fair to vent on all of us because you got hurt by one scumbag.  You deserve better than the way you were treated, & men in general deserve better than to be lumped together with those of us who happen to be jerks.  It's akin to racism, in that you are chastising everyone in the group for the actions of a few bad apples.  So, learn from the experience, see what it is that this guy did that hurt you, decide you deserve better & settle for no less, & look for one of us who will give you what you deserve, because good men are out here.  You just have to look in the right places.
563351
I'm a 22 yr old black girl and i dont date black guys. I used to like them when i was younger, in my teens. But i find them very boring and not very intelligent and they dont seem very articulate. I find it hard to have a decent conversation with a black my age. Alot of them are about rap music, sex, and cars and nothing else. \nI find white guys more attractive and intelligent. I like their pale skin in private places!! White men are just alot more interesting to me. \n\nHowever I dont think white guys treat girls different to black guys, men are men regardless. You have to judge the individual on who they and how they behave. \n\nI agree that there are more white guys with black girls and they seem to be quite possessive. If i walk past a girl with her white man she give you evils lol. Like i care,the girls ive seen are uglier than me anyway. each to there own.\n\nI would marry a white man, my family are from jamaica and i will never on this earth date a jamaican man! Black men are a no no for me. As for sex, white men are far more gental and understanding.
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Because those boys are jealous and insecure. Pay them no mind and date whomever you want.  Personally, I think that 16 is a bit young to be receiving gifts (other than minor tokens) from a boy, but that's an issue for you and your parents. \n\nThe idea that women"belong" to the men of a particular group is hardly new or unique to black men.  When I was in high school, one of my friends was dating a white girl and he had to deal with some of the same nonsense from white boys.\n\nIt's a tired old idea and the truth is that with more and more black women taking care of their business and doing well, more are going to date inter racially.
216674
perhaps so, perhaps not. i dunno. what i do know is that i hate the guy. don't take what he said in the song literally. he said it because black women are quick to say that as soon as a black man gets rich he gets with a white girl. although this is not necessarily true, some black women do say this and say it often. this line is a play on that concept. if any black girls answer, please do not front like you haven't had a conversation with one of your girls pertaining to this, i know i've been in and heard many. and no, i do not have a white girlfriend.
149921
Theres nothing wrong with that.A lot of girls like older men.They usually know how 2 treat a lady.
274182
Speaking as a Black female I think there is a very strong double standard in our (African-American) culture.  Black men will date a white female in a New York minute, but cry foul the minute they see us with a white or any other man.  We tend to get hassled more by other Blacks for dating outside of our race.  Also, many (not all) white men are raised to appreciate a more Euro centric standard of beauty (blonde hair, blue eyes, big boobs, skinny body, small butt, etc); in spite of the "browning" of America this beauty standard still dominates.   Black females don't fit into that particular beauty standard so I think it's hard for some (again some not all!) white men to see our beauty.  I also think it's hard because of the painful past that Black women have with white men.  When white men do approach us, some of us tend to be suspicious of them.  This is just my opinion for why you don't see more  Black females with white males.  If you're really serious about interracial dating, there are websites that are dedicated to this.
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I am a strong black woman, and I'm 30--and I will tell you that you should NOT only like black men. \n\nThere is a shortage of available black men in America--because many of them are in prison, are gay or bi-sexual, or the ones who are straight  have 4 kids by 3 different women...So, the black men who are available--like the ones in college and the guys working at good jobs--they KNOW that black women are desperate for a man--so these men wont deal with you unless you sleep with them after 5 minutes of knowing them, move in with them, pay half their bills, and do every sexual act under the sun before he even thinks about marriage...The "good black men" also tend to sleep with several different women while they are dating, and they feel that is their right. (not ALL black men are like this--but about 70% of them are). \n\nHoney--if you are smart- you will realize that you should date and marry men of ANY race--Latino, white, East Asian, Arab, whoever. You should be open to men who treat you with respect and kindness, no matter what his color or race is.\n\n--------EDIT---\nHi I Race Relations! Just saw your Post on my question :) I am just keepin it real, thats all. I been around a long time and I seen it all! Not ALL Black men are like this--but MANY are...Trust me, when you get to be 30, you will see that my words are true. Peace!
802732
Too bad you are in another part of the world. I love to be treated like a Lady and very few men know how. One of the problems is that just like you, you treat some one that way and they don´t want to be treated that way. Is it old fashioned? I don´t think so. I think it is sweet.
618774
No, there are lots of gorgeous dark women.  Beautiful women come in all different shades.  I think that everyone should be happy with what God gave them and work it to the best of their advantage.  I think that boys are attracted to confidence.  Be proud of who you, let them know that they would be lucky to be able to go out with a girl like you, and they'll come flocking.  It sounds cliche, but it's true.  If you believe that you are beautiful, then so will others!
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Most Black Men I know think he is guy.  He currently deals with alot of girls.  He tried to pick up a friend of mine in the Gucci store here in NY.  So maybe he is Bi.  I wouldn't put it past him.  Alot of Black men in the entertainment business are short and gay.  I attend alot of industry party and work i fashion and let me tell u, there are always more men there then women!!  And he does NOT have a wife and kids.
482220
You found the wrong woman.  Mine likes a healthy, stable relationship.\n\nNot all women are like that.  It sound's sexist.
283177
As a girl I want to tell you that you are right. Most girls don't want to date a nice guy because they are not exciting. If they treat you like your not that important to them it makes them a challenge. Girls have a fixing complex. It makes us feel good when we have the power to change the way a guy feels or acts. You need to find a girl that has learned that lesson and has matured a little.
901900
I am a woman also and I too have a problem with certain types of women and the way they treat men.  You will find someone that fits the type you are looking for and try to look into the reasons why you are attracting the "wanna be" women who think they are God's gift to this earth, when in fact, they are God's rejects!!!!
840438
Seems like you have met some good women, and from the way you phrase your question, have not met "many black men". There are plenty of black men that are building, if not already on, a successful career path and place family values at the same level that the "dignified" women you have met do.  You might want to expand your associations to include some of these men.
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=sounds to me like she is trying to put others down to get ahead.  Sh tattles on others, EXCEPT her boyfriend. \nGuess she lives by her own rules.  Be wary of this one.  I think she thinks cause you are black you are an easy target as well. You are probably a nice guy and I feel bad for you.  God bless.
740245
Unfortunatly that happens quite frequently.At first men do everything in their power to attract you and to make sure you notice them. They treat you like a queen etc. Then as soon as they know that you are theirs and ain't goin' nowhere, they stop trying. What to do in this situation, is to show him, that you are still desirable to others and if you wished you could have any man you want, and you won't hesitate to trade you b/f! Perhaps that will scare him into showing you more attention, and make him work to keep you!