i had a debate in school and now i am very angry with all my friends!?
84620
Hi! You should not be angry at your friends just because they didn't pick you to be in your group. It is a little silly that your angry at your friends because of something really simple. You and your friends have a real friendship don't let things like this get it the way! Hope this helps!
1107686
That all depends on what's at stake. I would not jeopardize any friendships just to be right. If it is a debate or something, I might defend my position more vigorously. Sometimes it is good to be right, sometimes the cost is higher than the value of winning an argument.
707023
This isn't about fair. It's about two different perspectives of what happened. It's about getting through this and getting the best grade you can while keeping your relationship with your teacher intact (you do have to stick with her for a while, right?)\n\nThe best way to handle this, in my opinion, is to ask the teacher which assignments are missing, and ask if there is a way that you can either do an oral re-cap of what you wrote on your assignments, or if you can do them over and turn them in a little late. Or, perhaps she can come up with another solution, especially if you seem intersted in working with her.\n\nDefinately don't try to make this into and "I'm right and you're wrong" situation. And certainly don't cry "not fair." Try to negotiate and find a middle ground where you can both be happy. Not only will this be a happier way around the situation, your teacher might actually be so impressed by your maturity that she'll be really nice and give you the benefit of the doubt! (Don't count on it tho :)\n\nIf you find that talking with your teacher is upsetting for you, ask a friend or family member to role-play with you before you go in and talk to her. I know, it sounds lame, but it really does help. In your role playing, you not only will you get a chance to practice steering the conversation to the positive, but you might also come up with some other ideas on how to work everything out.\nGood luck!
745768
Your friend just creates negativity in your life, you've done your part and she will never change her mind.  You should leave her alone and make friends with more intelligent people.
881507
You should be excluded from this forum. And, I hope within 2 days, you are out!\n\nUntil then, peace.\n\nAlso, you asked this question earlier: "I fear to talk in front of class mates..." COWARDs like you post that type of question. If you think you are courageous, come out and shout out loud. \n\nFraidy-cat!
785126
If your parents beat you, and its not just a little punishment kind of thing, you need to talk to a counselor at school and get this taken care of. You shouldn't talk in class a lot. You are there to learn. You have many hours in the day to talk after school. I know talking is fun and great, but in school, you can't. Don't give your parents a reason to be mad.
639730
this is tough... you should just try your best to get a possible anwser and if you still can't get it, ask your teacher that you cannot manage to answer the question either today or tomorow or when your next class comes... if its your holidays, then make plans to contact your teacher and ask him the question...\n\nif there is no possible contact that wait for school to re-open and ask him the question immeidately in the morning... teacher's won't be angry if you can't anwser some questions... they will be angry if you don't try.
625466
This entire situation is so middle school that it's best to just let this person show his/her own ignorance and the less said the better. In time, people will learn that this person has poor judgement, no manners, no character of his/her own and most of all, very poor taste. To say anything back does nothing but let people like that know thay have struck a nerve and that will not only open you up to more of their insults but will shine the same kind of light on you as well.\n\n... don't argue with drunks, children, or those who refuse to grow up!!
526532
There's actually a funny saying that all my teachers have hung up in their classrooms. It says "Everyday I give special attention to one person... today is not your day..... tomorrow doesn't look good either." You don't have to say that, but I thought that is pretty funny... but in all seriousness you should approach them and be like "Listen... you all are very close to me, but there isn't enough me to go around." Then if two of your friends get into a fight you simply say... "i'm sorry... but I am NOT taking sides." Sometimes... unfortunately... you have to take a stand with your friends like that. Good luck!!!
353421
Just listen, don't say much unless you REALLY need to defend yourself. Wait till they cool down and THEN discuss your opinion. I've found this is the best way to handle this situation. Because after you let them cool down they are MUCH more likely to agree with you.
1036694
don't worry about what she said. you know whatever it is isnt true and if the people she told are your friends, then they also know the truth. she's obviously very insecure and jealous and starving for attention. people might take her side for a little while but dont get too upset because they'll learn what a little liar she is and you will have all ur friends back. just keep on being nice to her and it will make her look stupid.
175205
Spend a little less time with them at a time, until you just don't see them very often. If they ask you to do something with them and you don't want to go, tell them that you're doing something else. Eventually they probably won't ask anymore. Meanwhile, find some new friends to hang out with. If you spend more time with your new friends, your old friends will get the picture. Don't walk up to your friends and say "I'm not going to be friends with you anymore," because that will just make them mad, they won't listen to you, and you'll sound like you're in the first grade.
628313
Well what I would do is first of all, tell my friend the truth.  Tell her that I only said it because I was jealous of the time she was spending with the other person.  If you don't really dislike the other person, go to them personally and apologize and try to make amends.  Let them know you were jealous of the attention they were getting and maybe you guys can work it out.
687082
omg, you have a big problem my dear.. just don't talk to anybody in school anymore so they won't hate you. don't open your mouth either.\n\nnope, seriously, don't even try to force yourself on people who doesn't seem to like you. it's just a waste of time trying to impress them, 'coz they're losers
707229
No but I was accused of it.  That was really insulting, I mean its as if the teacher didnt believe I was capable of high calibre work so I must have cheated.  I was so angry honestly because I would never have done that and there I was having to prove myself when I'd never ever given anyone a reason to think that.  Im still holding a grudge obviously lol.  I never even got an apology after I showed tons of my rough work.
422049
"I can't help what I believe in"? I know you did not mean this the way it came out, but come on- YOU are in charge of your own beliefs.\n\nDid you see Numbers last week? The one professor (not the math genius) said he would love to tell high school kids one piece of advice, and I agree with him totally on this...\n\nHigh school is ephemeral. It may seem like a big deal and a long time, but it is not.\n\nIgnore your mockers as long as you have the courage of your convictions. If they want to have a real dialog, great. Otherwise, take away their fun by just pretending to not be bothered by them. Smile and nod and go on. Politely point out their more stupid errors in what they say about you if you feel like it, but do not get drawn into conflicts, shouting matches, 'he said, they said' pointless debates, etc.\n\nEven the Bible warns against pointless arguements and debates. Not bad for a book that many people here say is 'full of lies'.\n\nIt will take a lot of work at first, but after a while the tormentors will find a new target, someone who feeds into their games. (Assuming you are not egging them on somehow, such as a big bumper sticker posted on your locker or something. Rethink anything like that if you want the **** to stop!)\n\nBy the way- this is the same advice I'd give pretty near ANY student being tormented for being 'different'.
747849
Let me tell you about friends babe.  Most people confuse acquaintances with friends.  If you have 2 or 3 friends that last you over a life time you are a very rich person indeed.  Only your family will be there for you.  Talk to your mom or dad but don't expect a lot.  Teachers don't seem to be the same standard as when I went to school.  Their behaviour leaves a lot to be desired, especially in maturity.  I say to you , you are on the right track.  Study hard and don't let offence from immature people worry you.  They have a problem not you.  You are not a loner either.  You are simply a mature person.  Congratulations on being you.