My family is pressuring me to "dump" my BF of five years b/c he is a couch potato and has little motivation...
97792
I just noticed your other post and you left out a fact in this post that all he wants to do all day is "play video games and sit and watch T.V." It is interesting to me that you left this fact out of this post and only focused on the employment issue. I think you realize what a ridiculous situtation you have worked your way into and are now floundering about trying to get your legs back under you. He undoubtably loves you totally because he now has no job, has video games, no responsibility, a woman that will work to support him, a roof over his head, food to eat, and someone to have sex with on a daily basis. What boy wouldn't love that. I refer to him as a boy although I don't know his age but based on what seems to be important to him.\n\nTHINK about it! Do you come home to a dirty or clean home? What is he teaching your daughters by example? More importantly, what impression of men is he sending to your daughters? Are you planning on marrying him? Are you able to accept the responsibility as breadwinner in the family? What will he do if you get pregnant again and cannot work, can you rely on him? Sometimes the feelings in our heart outweigh what we already know in our minds. Think it through carefully. \n\nDecide what you want to do based on your responsibility as a mother to your daughters and the unspoken promises you made to them when you brought them into this world. Their experiences in life will shape their future choices. Don't you want better for them?\n\nMy true thought, dump him. Live on your own with your daughters. There are several government programs to help the three of you. This will undoubtably be a huge change in their lives and they will need counseling which the government can provide. There are rent subsidies, food stamps, help with utilities, and so much more. You can even go to college for free. Get a better life for you and your daughters. Forget your heart for a while and think with your brain, you'll hopefully make much better choices in the future.
404041
im in the same position right now. my partner is at least 100lbs overweight and im disgusted with him on many levels. not just the physical part, but his whole attitude. plus sex is unpleasant because i have back problems. i exercise, watch what i eat and am very conscious about my health. he his completely opposite. unfortunately, i cant go anywhere because im completing college and am financially dependant on him with my two children. its tough to be in this situation, i dont even sleep in the same bed with him because theres no room. we should hook them up together.
362048
i think you should stay with your family until you are off to college - that way you can get away from them, and they will still have your back. blood is thicker than water, and your boyfriend is still just water. two more years baby, hang in there.
486589
tell ur bf and tell his cousins to back off
771968
Honey\n\nYou and your hubby need to move out!\n\nEven if you have to live in a small dump, its better than putting up with the stress!!\n\nMove out soon!
921745
Your sis and his aunt have beef on each other.  That's their problem, not yours nor your bf.  \n\nIt's unfair for them to put you and your bf in a difficult situation when you both didn't do anything wrong but love each other.\n\nI say continue on dating and be happy with your boy.  Soon enough your sis and his aunt will cool off.\n\nIt's your life.  Live your life how you want it.  Don't let others make you live your life how they want it to.
292878
Depends why you think this is neccessary.  Does your family not like your guy?  Or does your guy not like your family?  You should consider why your family/your guy is asking to give up the other.  If they loved you they should be willing to except your love or your family.
766343
I would'nt worry too much if i was you even though i know you're heartbroken i bet you any money he'll be back begging for forgiveness from you very soon.I agree with the rest that he's being controlled by his family it's pathetic just look at it as a blessing in disguise that thankfully you learned his true nature this early on: that he's a spineless toe-rag.Now you can look forward to meeting a real man with a bit of backbone who will appreciate and love you and treat you as you should be treated.Goodluck hun.
798829
Move out and move on.  You are obviously not happy with him and you need to do what is best for you.  Be positive and strong and discuss the situation with your family.  Good luck.
357977
dont break-up.it sounds ur perfect(or almost) 4 each other.eventually, they will hav to accept u. o, and if ur bf loved u soo much, then how com he doesnt defend u wen his family is rude?
914598
He kind of sounds like a creep. Think about it, he has a kid and is with some other girl everyday. He is not thinking about you. I know that hurts, but please realize that you can do better. Try to find a nice guy who can be respectful and loving to you and your child. This man obviously has no family values. He does not listen to you, does not care enough to be a full time father and also does not listen to his own family's opinion. Dump the loser!!!
332847
He sure sounds like a spoiled brat to me. Have brother with the same problem.  Well, 1 thing is for sure: cuddling him like a baby will only reinforce his present behavior.  Forgive me for saying this but his attitude reflects the way he was being brought up.  You might want to explore a different approach than the 1 you guys are used to...probably a firmer approach? you can't be wishy-washy about your decision 'coz he won't take you seriously.  Be harsh if you have to be harsh...if you really love him, find the courage to hurt him for his own good. you can't be there for him forever...if you ask me, son or not at his age he should stop living a parasitic life and should be kicked out of the house. good luck.
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Congratulations!\n\nIt's perfectly normal to be nervous.  It's a big decision, but I'm sure that after 4 years, you know in your heart that you're making the right one.\n\nIt would be great if his parents get onboard with the idea, but if they don't, it their problem.\n\nThey have a choice to make, embrace you and welcome you to their family, or try to manage their son's life for him and risk alienating themselves from him, you and their grandchildren.\n\nYou can't make that choice for them, just as they can't make their son's choice for him.  Hopefully, with time, they will realize that.\n\nLife is too short for petty crap, honey.  You have your life to live and your bf has his.  You've chosen to live your lives together, and that's that.  His parents can accept it or not.  If they feel there isn't enough petty bickering in the world, then unfortunately, that's life.\n\nRise above it.  Be a good wife to your husband, a good mother to your children and live life to it's fullest and be happy.  Don't let other people pressure you.\n\nGood luck to you both.
955778
Like you said babe, you're more than worthy. Its HIS family and thats it. Not everyone is going to get on, but like you said, you and your boyfriend are strong. Ignore it, Ignore how they make you feel babe. Its probably jealousy on their part. I wouldn't let them see they upset you, you're better than that. After the reception, just keep your distance. Your friends will be there for you, so just make sure you have a good time. Don't let people like that grind you down babe. Good Luck x x x
863778
bring your own food  or you can cook your own meal and explain that you are on a strict diet.  they should understand, if not dump your bf.
771225
Yes, my family tried that sh*it on me and I rebelled, the guy was totally wrong for me.....I'm with the right one now...follow your heart not your parents
498641
First of all he shouldnt be living with you all anyway!Next\nas long as u continue to except it he's gonna do it. Through his cheap, mooching, unconcerned ass out of that house and let it go. You dont need it and certanly your parents dont need all the extra stress on them. You need to be woman enough to handle that situation.