If you are saved, has a boyfriend who isn't. The necking, kissing stuff... is that a sin?  How far to go?
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What were you saved from?
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You should definitely dodge the Christian you have gotten close to. He's already laying a guilt trip on you, what's next?\n\nFollow your desires as you see them and date the non-Christian if he seems like a decent guy.\n\n((((( r u randy? )))))\n.
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Go for it, touch yourself, f**k the h**l out of your gf.  To get into heaven is like putting an elephant into the eye of a needle.  It all can't be perfect.  You must answer to your urges because no matter what you do in life, there is going to be something that is wrong.  All you can do is live life the best you can and hope it's good enough in god's eyes.  I don't think that having sex is something that is going to get you sent to hell.
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This sounds like some freaky cult not to be insulting but wow. You aren't going to go to hell for dating. You aren't going to go to hell for considering someone for marriage if they are not fully converted (what the heck are you converting into?) As long as you do not have pre-marital sex then you have no worries of going to hell. And even then our lord is a very forgiving lord and he will never stop loving you no matter what you do.
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My opinion about your situation is...\n\nIN God's eyes you are already married by virtue of having fornicated.  Thus, if you  make it legal by civil marriage, then in the eyes of God, technically you are fine.\n\nYou have already asked forgiveness, and God does forgive.\n\nIf you saved yourself for your boyfriend, and you have been with no other person, and in love you have fornicated, as you say, then you ARE married, by God's definition.\n\nNow, in the eyes of the "law" you are not married, but that can be solved once you give yourselves to eachother legally on paper.\n\nOf course, I don't know your age, and this advice is given with the understanding that you are of age.  Else, I would advise against such activity, until you are an adult.\n\nOf course, you already feel guilty and are giving in to his desires.  Yours may not be as strong, or might be once the guilt is removed by virtue of marriage.  ON the other hand , he should respect your wishes to be chaste, until you are married.  That will truly determine his love for you. This is a hard thing, because you love him, and the unknown is whether he would wait and also be faithful in the process.  \n\nI hope it works out for you..
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if he was a christian he would respect you for your decision. I think you are doing the right thing.  Think about this...Dont worry about why he's doing it.  Its the Devil talking. God would love for you to be around Christians, and of course the Devil would not.  Don't put God after your boyfriend. God first, ALWAYS! God Bless You!
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as far as I know it is not considered a sin to live together according to the Bible, but it is a sin to have sex before marriage and I don't know many people who live together that don't have sex, so it is up to you to draw the line to be able to stay away from sex before marriage
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My little sister please hear me out.\n\nMatthew 6:33 says "But seek you first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things will be added unto you."\n\nThere is nothing like just spending time with Jesus, in His word, in prayer, and in worship, all at our masters feet. Yes there is a bit of pleasure in kissing or in the other drives that God has made us with, though all in His time, it is like a beautiful flower that blooms. Love is patient and it is kind. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together then in God's perfect time, by His perfect will, then you both will be together. If it is not God's will then know this that God has someone so much better for you then you could have ever imagined. Please don't just read God's Word, the Bible as just another book, for it is 66 love letters from God to you, and for you to grow and mature by. The love of Jesus for you can't be compared to by anything else, no human relationship or even what we have, for all will seem dim when I am with Him. Seek to really know God first, and in His proper time, You will see that the love that waits will be rewarded. \nTrust God and obey your mom and dad. \nYour in my prayers. God Bless You<>< + ><>
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Don't you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which belongs to Christ, and join it to a prostitute? If a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her?  "The two are united into one in spirits. (Good & Evil Spirits)\nBut the person who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.\nRun away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
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Ok, I am looking at your history now.....\n1. "I agree with the first girl what have you got to lose besides time itself. Jesus Loves and Adores. "\n    this answer was in response to a girl looking for her godparents on line. I thought it was a good answer but you didn't have much to add to what had already been said. I like to do research on my answers and try to say something that hasn't been said if I can.\n\n2."Christian and a good person in general. Not what you wanted to hear right and I am 15 fyi. Jesus Loves and Adores. "\n    So that is what you look for in a girl. hmmm\n     If it is true great answer, but again, kinda short. I would explain what you mean by good person.\n\n3. "I never had a job on account of my age but try fry cook. Jesus Loves and Adores. "\nAgain a short answer but this time it was about something you knew nothing about. Why did you answer? I answered this one too but I have years of summer job experiences to draw from. That is what makes a good answer. \n\n4. "They are not true friends. If you hang out with them you will become like them and do you want to be like her. You should stop being friends with her and tell her why. Good Luck God Bless and Jesus Loves and Adores. \nI actually really liked your point on this one. If she hangs out with girls that can't be trusted then she evcentually will learn to lie too. Good answer!\n\n5."You already know your boyfriend very well stay with him and don't take the chance of going for this other guy and figure out the love he has for you is just temporary. If you take a chance like this you could end up with no one and be left alone with a broken heart now if your current boyfriend is abusing you physically, mentally, or in anyway dump him but don't overreact and make something actually pretty insignificant into something catastrophic so you could just be with the other guy or it will probably lead to a broken heart and most of all pray for guidance from Jesus Christ our Lord. Good Luck, God Bless, and Jesus Loves and Adores. \nSo this is an answer you can be proud of. Great explanation with advice that is true to life.\n\nI closing I would say try to answer stuff you can answer based on your life experiences. There are a lot of people on here that take this stuff seriously. If you go around giving advice just to get points you could hurt somebody. \nHope this helps, it was the toughest answer I have ever given. \nLOL
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Oh my word!  It is not a sin.  I would make sure you both believe the same religiously!!  Make sure you are both christians before you marry.  If you do.
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look I'm not into by sexuality or anything like that. but I'm human . and religious. god makes no mistakes, its a cross that he has put on you . deal with it in the best way you can  remember , god will love you no matter what , is what you do that counts in his eyes
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The bible says LITERALLY that lust is a sin.  Your reasoning is very good...  It is ok to appreciate someone for their body, but not to follow up on it.
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Is it right, might be reworded as, "is it a sin".  The short answer is yes.  However, let me clerify the christian viewpoint on sin.  All People sin.(Romans 3:23).  Sin has a penalty(Romans 6:23) God sent his son to pay the penalty of our sin (Romans 5:8). If your heart is right, God forgives your sin, through the death of his son (Romans 10:9).  Now to the fun stuff.  Jesus died for all your sins, even the ones you'll do in the future.  If that were not true, he would need to come back and pay for them again.  So all your sin has already been covered.  All your responsable for right now is to grow as a christian (1 Corinthians 3:2 & Hebrews 5:12).  If you are a christian asking this kind of question, then God will reveal your answer through his word. until that time it is a sin what you are doing, but that doesn't stop God from loving you, or prevent you from getting into heaven.  As you grow in other ways, God will deal with your 'self love' too.\n\nIMHO
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Real simple: MARRY HER! What you're implying- SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE- is called "fornication" by God, which is SIN! You are VERY SELFISH! All you want to do is USE HER for your own gratification! The fact that you say you want to "convince her to go farther" PROVES this! You need to REPENT OF YOUR WICKEDNESS! See yourself as a LOST, GUILTY, HELL DESERVING SINNER! You are guilty of breaking God's law! "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Jesus said that if you "look on a woman to lust after her", you've "committed adultery with her already in your heart." (Matthew 5:27&28). Dude, you are A SLAVE TO YOUR PASSIONS! You are CONSUMED WITH LUST! Sex and all of the wonderful feelings that go with it are GOD GIVEN, and therefore "very good" as He pronounced after He had made Adam and Eve. But they were MARRIED! And that is why they were "naked and not ashamed". I would dare to say that your "girlfriend" is not your FIRST "fling", IS SHE? Are you still A VIRGIN? Even if you are OUTRIGHT, it's obvious you're not IN YOUR HEART! And I can guarantee that you are hooked on PORN, right? That stuff is DEADLY! You fill your mind and heart with ALL SORTS OF FILTH AND PERVERSION AND WICKEDNESS, and then you wonder WHY you have NO CONTROL over your passions! You're a slave to SATAN! The Bible rightly calls the devil "the god of this world". He ALWAYS takes what God has created as good and right and beautiful and perverts it into something very UGLY AND WICKED AND WRONG! That is what SIN is all about! The Bible speaks of "the pleasures of sin FOR A SEASON." You can "go all the way" or "part way", but EITHER WAY, it's still S-I-N!!! And it's basis is PRIDE! Notice how BOTH of those words have the letter "i" in the center! That's your problem: you are SELF CENTERED! You need to REPENT (turn from your sin and yourself) and TRUST IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS AND THE WRATH TO COME! One day you will die, and then you'll have to face the inevitable: ACCOUNTABILTY TO YOUR CREATOR FOR EVERY THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED! God loves you, and that's why Jesus Christ died on the cross for you! I beseech you sir: TURN FROM YOUR WICKED, SELF CENTERED WAYS TO CHRIST! And you need to do so TODAY! Tomorrow is too late! (You do NOT know when you'll die, now, DO YOU?) Quit being like so many OTHER guys today: A SELF CENTERED WHOREMONGER! Stop having this SICKENING mentality of just USING GIRLS for your own selfish pleasure! It really IS disgusting how so many guys will just SAY "I love you" to a girl SOLELY so they can "get what they want"! Love is A COMMITMENT! Everything else is LUST! And that is DESTRUCTIVE and ultimately leads to DEATH: Death in your body (STD'S); Death in relationships (resentment, mistrust, disrespect, divorce); Death in eternity (Hell fire for ever!). THINK ABOUT IT, AND TAKE HEED!
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ask the Lord. but if it is considered a sin as most really religious people do. Just remember Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins... because he knows everyone makes mistakes. you will be forgiven. no doubt.
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From a Christian point of view, I have to say no, because it is sin.  However, if you are not a Christian, then this is not a factor.  So weigh the pros and cons.  Do you love the person?  Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with this person if you end up having a baby together?  \n\nWhat ever you decide to do, always be safe.  Practice safer sex, and after marriage, you should wait for a couple of years to make babies.  Take time to enjoy each other before you bring another person into your new family.