I have a friend who has  LOW SELF-ESTEM? What should I tell her?
89842
Tell her that she's beautiful. Make her laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. Take he out to a movie. Make her feel like a queen.
374385
Bring it up in conversation. Let her know you are concerned about her without accusing her of anything. Tell her how much you love her and how you don't want her to see her hurt herself. If she does have an eating problem (which she may not), she probably has low self-confidence and it will help her to know that someone cares about her no matter what happens. Eating disorders are serious, so keep an eye on her. If you get concerned, don't hesitate to tell a teacher or one of your or her parents. She may be mad, but she will come to see that you were just trying to help her, and by telling someone she will be able to get the help she needs. Just please be sure she does have a problem before you do tell someone. Maybe something else is going on besides an eating disorder. Just talk to her. Good luck. Let me know if you need anything.
352382
Dont talk too much about stupid boring boy stuff like football, cars etc.  Ask lots of questions & sound really interested in what ever she tells you, make sure you listen coz she'll test you to make sure & if you arent paying attention she will get upset.  Tell her that you love giving massages & if you get the chance to do it pretend as if you actually do like it.  Take notice of her, if she looks cold (is hugging herself) offer her your jacket.  Always ask if she would like a drink, or something to eat.  Make sure you find her a seat before yourself.  Open doors for her , a lot of girls will say they dont want you to do it but they secretly love it & tell all their friends how much of a gentleman you are if you do.  Give her compliments coz we LOVE them, we just might not show it.  Tell her what ever she is wearing that she looks beautiful in it .. or say she looks very glamorous.
611899
well someone that anxious to prove herself is definately insecure - I think that is what you have to focus on - what is it that she thinks she is lacking in that she needs to make up for it in other areas - you are her friend so I think you may already know the answer - if you know what the problem is, I think it will be easy to solve the problem - just be a bit subtle about it
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You have no way of knowing whether what she is saying is the truth, you'll just have to trust her.Need to realize in life, no matter how close you are to someone, you'll never really know what they're thinking, that's just the way life is. I don't think any of her "excess skin" ,as you put it, is from too much physical recreation. It's probably something genetic, and if it doesn't bother her{like in a painful, medical way} it shouldn't bother you. A couple things women pick up on quick is  jealousy and insecurity, and it's generally not perceived by them as positive traits. It sounds to me like you should have ONE long talk about this with her, and then drop it,'cause if you keep bringing it up, she's going to drop you.
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Its a very delicate situation. Depends upon the friend too. If she is "No-B.S" type then u can tell her straight up in a polite manner.\n\nIf she is a "sissy"-type then u can find one excuse or other to avoid her. "Head-ache" is a traditional excuse.\n\n.:Fishie:.
301521
I would continue to be her friend. Realize that she is not going to be able to put as much as you put into the relationship, due to her current mental state. You now know that that because of her condition that you won't be able to believe what she says. Keep the relationship fun and light. That way you won't get caught up in the emotional drama.
1184692
Sounds like she is uncouth. why lower yourself to her level?\n\nor if you just have to tell her:\n\n"I may be just a little overweight, but I can diet and lose weight, but you will still be rude!"
173689
I would act normally around her concerning this self inflicted disease, she already is in a confused mental state so love and trust would be my sustenance for her.\nShe needs to see a doctor as soon as possible and the medical authourities will help her BUT she has to want to be helped.
1077426
Don't make her feel bad, you will ruin her self-esteem. Talk to her nicely and tell her "Honey I think you are beautiful but I like the way you look before when you ate healthy, Try to exercise and eat healthier for me and for your self-esteem"\n\nBe nice, if you tell her that she looks like a cow she is going to care less.
267683
she is your friend but aparently she cares tooo much about herself..so much that any little thing u say she takes it as an insult ffrom you to her...when she says somethin like that u shoud quickly tell her, " i wasnt talking bout you, your make up looks cool and ur my best friends if u looked bad i would tell you" and tell her u were just giving an opinion ...but dont let her bit*h at you...because if thats what she does you may consider getting a New BEst frieNd
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Advise her to go to therapy, and as support, go with her. Remember that people with this disease are sensitive, so be careful. And always let her know that her illness is a disease and she can be cured with time and the right help.Take very good care, and let her know how much you care.
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Tell her that she doesn't need to be perfect or rich. Mess up her hair. lol Drag her into playing a sport! Maybe not football, but force her to play..... basketball! etc. When you have a sleep-over, hide her make-up! Or just don't let her put it on in the morning! muhahhhaaa!! Be creative and show her that she doesn't have to be a girly girl for you to be her friend. :D Good luck!
579834
Too bad we can't tell her just how much you don't deserve her. For all you know she could be the most loving person you ever met. If she isn't your type, just say so. Don't slur her, it isn't called for.
29657
The most important thing is that she tells him. Many people down talk shows but it is better to tell him than not. I suggest an e-mail. But if she wants it to be confidential, she should type a letter, or get an e-mail address specifically to tell him. She can get a close friend like you to do it as well. Some people may consider her a punk but the most important thing to do is tell him. The disease is not fatal.
1049912
Yes because you have to respect her for who she is. I did that for a friend who had diabetes and she was also shy. I still respect my friends for who their are. That is Friendship.
693813
Well I think that you can help her a lot by being a friend and being accepting of her no matter how she reacts. I think that it is a big deal to her, although you might be correct that it won't be as much of an issue for others. But, its sometimes difficult to convince others about this.\n\nThere are a couple of other things you can do to be helpful. Talk with your school counselor to see if your school counselor has any ideas of how to help her.\n\nSuggest that she join a support group for people with vascular anomolies. If there isn't a local group there are online support groups for persons with port wine birthmarks. See the information below:\n\nhttp://www.birthmark.org/port_wine_stains.php\n\nMore information from:\nNational Congenital Port-Wine Stain Foundation, 125 East 63rd Street, New York, NY 10021