I am living with grandparents who always seem to annoy me, how to tackle them?
87560
If you're really frustrated living there, I would look into a different living situation, if financially possible.  Maybe live with friends/roommates if money's an issue. (That seems to be the main reason most ppl live with family.)\n\nBut while you're still there, work on communication with them.  Suggest a time when you guys can talk, and tell them about your concerns.  Using the "I" language helps reduce defensive behavior.  So, instead of saying "You never listen to me", try saying "I feel I'm not being listened to".  The first version can come out sounding accusatory, whether you mean it or not.  They'll hear the second version as you communicating your feelings.  \n\nGood luck!
314599
I have just moved in with my Gran and it is hard, Just try and be understanding with her and if she is upsetting you calmly talk to her.
161981
Sorry but your living under their roof (always hated hearing that) but its true. You'll have to get your own place to have any kind of real peace. The more they know it bugs you the more they'll do it.
1076492
just try to remain calm and stay away from it as much as possible, if certain people are doing things that you find frustrating tell them about it, they may not know and it may do some good to get how you feel about it out in the open so that they can correct what is frustrating you so much...
315035
They are in your house and will just have to deal with who you are. I know you feel like it matters what they think, but if you're already married to the guy then he obviously doesn't care what his parents think. Be yourself, and just try to be nice to them. If they talk down to you, etc, get your husband to talk to them and explain that he doesn't appreciate them disrespecting you in your own home. Stand your ground!
1002414
Sounds like you've got an evil bitch of a land-lady, there. Get everyone in your apartment block to move out all at once, make her go bankrupt! LOL
857594
Tell grandma to relax and let someone else chew up the air for a while. She's your grandma, she's older and deserves courtesy, but she isn't made of glass so she won't break and she knows better than anyone when she's overstepping the boundaries, unless of course, she's been running amok for so long she doesn't recognize them anymore. In which case, point them out.  Say to her "This is my wife, she is here because she enjoys your company, I am going to do some chores for you and I expect to get her back in the same cheerful mood I am leaving her with you.  Got it Grandma?" and then smile, wink or kiss her on the top of the head or the cheek, so that she knows you love her, but that you aren't letting her blacken you or your wife's mood.  Give your wife a flag to waive if you have to, but bring grandma down to earth once in a while.  Leave if you have to, in the middle of your chores or your wife's visit, if she doesn't heed your warning. \n\nExpect from  your grandma the same as you would from anyone else.\n\nEverybody loves to run amok, older people, young people, we all do what we want until someone tells us no. Say no.
923437
Well, I completely understand where you're coming from. You want to be loved and welcomed, but unfortunately, not all in-laws work out that way (no matter what the race, religion, etc.). My grandmother's mom HATED my grandfather for years, and he wound up eloping to marry her.  They are both the same exact religion and ethnicity too. Eventually, the mother grew to appreciate and respect my grandfather and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. \n\nThing is, you shouldn't have to deal with going someplace where you are "tolerated", but again you don't always have control over that. All that you can do, is just suck it up for your wife, kids, and be the better man. Eventually, I would say talk to your wife about having your OWN holidays though and if her parents want to visit YOU then that's fine, this way they are on "your turf" now so to speak and if they disrespect you, you can ask them to kindly leave your home.
516468
Tell them you don't appreciate their negative behavior, and if they continue, walk away.  Some people LIVE for nagging and carping, and they are often better known as "psychic vampires".  They can suck the energy right out of you.
134763
Try talking first; give them the benefit of the doubt that they don't know they're bothering you.  I always say something vaguely guilt-inducing like "I'm sure you would never intend to be loud, but these buildings are really old and the walls are thin, and I can hear a lot."
148006
my grandma...she gets mad
925211
If I was you I think I'd do whatever it takes to avoid these people, even if you have to move. \nMisery loves company and they are trying to make your family just like theirs. \nFind better people to socialize with before your hindsight tells you you should have.
338082
ignore them or just simply tell them to leave you alone. if that doesnt work then maybe just giving the cold shoulder will give them the hint.
747125
Yes, this is very juevenile on their part, and very disturbing. Not at all funny, very pathetic, they must be very unhappy and miserable human beings. I am sorry you are having to deal with them, however, greatful I don't have them as neighbors. I would contact my landlord and also make notes and take photos of their actions. This sounds very anal retentive, however, incase you have to take them to court. You will need the proof for the courts and also for the landlord. This hopefully, will be resolved by the landlord. Good luck to you! The world is full of all kinds and unfortunately you have got some of the most miserable individuals as your neighbors. God bless
869810
I know how it feels to be in thst kind of sistuation, my best advice to u is to sit down with them and tell them how u feel. your father just want the best for u, but he dont realize the more he tries to protect u, the more u r going to withdraw from him. If u think that u would be better living with ur grandma then go live with her because life it too short to live in misery. Good luck!!
415113
I have the same problem, My neighbour is also, very arrogant and thinks that she(and her family of 6) is better than anyone.  She seems to think that she owns the whole damn street...cause her hubby (a stupid stupid little man) and her kids are always on my property, I have now found a way to deal with her...I called the cops on her and now they have a record of their families stupid behavior, like terrorizing my dog, painting my truck, tresspassing on my property etc...now if the dumb bitch trespasses i will hold her for citizen's arrest and charge her and her whole family for trespassing....and if they piss off my dog once more I am seriously thinking of letting her go and get the S.o.b. that's teasing her...which is of course one of the younger children.\n\nFind out what your legal rights are...like I did, I found out that there are really good rules for neighbors everywhere and that you should look at your own by law place for answers...
70965
call a relative .. grandma is best and have them contact your mother to tell her that .. her daughter? .. needs her or whatever the situation is .. tell the relative to tell your mother .. if you cannot stay with him because of abuse or something you need to contact an authority .. tell a relative what's going on and that you need to get out of the house