is it ok to betray parents upto certain limit?????
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Situational ethics?\nI’m not sure what you mean by betray your parents.  I assume you have heard the “honor thy father and thy mother,” so I will leave that out of my reply.\nIf your parents (or even one of them) is abusing another family member, perhaps you should do something about it.  If they are running a meth lab in the kitchen, then perhaps this might require a phone call to authorities.  If one of your parents is slipping next door and having wild sex with a neighbor, then you might need to at least let that parent know that you know.\nBut generally speaking, you have no right to lie to them or otherwise deceive them to avoid punishment or to get your own way.\nRealize that this is not a chatroom of your peers, who would be more than willing to feed you some BS about how to manipulate your parents so that you can do as you please.  Most parents do want what is right for their children.  Your friends would just as soon pity you if something nasty happens because you used their advice.\nThe word betray carries a lot of emotional baggage.  It is a strong word.  The only advice I would give you about any relationship is be open and honest.  Hide nothing.  You actions on earth will be judged eventually.
673729
If you mean "allowed", I would say "NO".  Don't do it.  Note the date, time, witnesses, then report it to the police, the principal, and your parents.
690882
Same kinda thing happened to me. I listened to people who said do it the correct and legal way. I have nothing of my moms. So go get. Chances are your sister isn't going to take the time and money to take you to court over it. If it's value is mostly to you. If you could make some kind of written deal with her. Have her sign it. I'm sure she would agree to it. If she gets enough to get the next high with. Life is like cards. You gotta know when to hold-um and know when to fold-um. And sometimes you just got to walk away. Good luck. And my condolences.
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what the hell... of course you should tell your dad!  You don't want him left in the dark.. and god forbid your DAD finds them later, he'l be heartbroken, and you'll feel badly you didn't tip him off earlier.  you should definitely say something, you are betraying your dad's trust if you don't!
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Hi young lady.  You're bound to get a ton of responses to your question, both from parents and from other teens who consider you either very lucky, or very unlucky.  I suspect that something happened this evening that upset you and probably prompted your to ask the question - perhaps they turned down a request or simply said something at a moment when you really weren't feeling happy with the state of your life.  Regardless, being a successful father myself (my son is now married and working on his master's degree to be a teacher), I can tell you something you probably don't like to think about; that is that raising a child . . . I'm sorry . . . a young man or woman, in today's world is a VERY scary and challenging thing to do.  Particularly in the case of young women, if you follow the newspapers or TV news at all, you'd see that the prevalence of sex crimes in our country is at an all-time high.  The Internet itself is being used as a tool by predators who want nothing more than to take advantage of gullible or naive young people who are too ready to trust, and not ready enough to protect themselves.  Your parents sound like they love you very much . . . enough to want to protect you from the very nasty and ugly side of humanity, for as long as they are able.  When you believe they are simply being mean or too strict, they are actually struggling with the choices they must make as you grow older, regarding how much freedom you should be allowed to have, as opposed to how much risk and danger could be waiting for them to allow you too much freedom, or perhaps more than you are fully equipped to handle.  Parents have a terribly difficult job, and very often they have to be the "bad guys" as far as their children are concerned, in order to ensure that their children remain safe and secure until they are old enough, and hopefully well enough prepared, to step out into this very brutal world on your own.  I don't want to put you to sleep here with a long message (I might have already done so:-), but I believe you will find in the long run, that in order to earn more trust and more freedom from your parents, you're going to have to demonstrate to them how responsible and how trustworthy you can be.  And if you attempt to mislead them, or you abuse a trust that they give to you, you shouldn't be surprised or angry at them if they back off and require you to earn their trust all over again.  As a retired military person, I can tell you most assuredly - freedom is everyone's right, but it is a right that we all have to earn, not once, but every day of our lives, but doing what is right (not just what is the easiest), and by setting a high standard of honesty and integrity for ourselves that no one can put a hole in.  I suspect that when you have become the kind of upstanding person your parents want you to be, you will discover that they will endow you with increasing levels of trust, and freedom, so long as you continue to prove that what they are doing is the right thing, not just for you, but for your entire family.  I apologize for writing so much, but I saw in your note some feelings of disappointment and frustration with your folks.  Try not to only consider their actions from your point of view.  To really understand what is happening in yours and their lives, broaden your point of view and try to consider what they're feelings are, and what they're reasons are for the decisions that they make on your behalf.  Don't be in too big a hurry to be out on your own - it's a far scarier and more dangerous world than you can possibly imagine, and your time in it will come all too soon.  Good luck with your question, and with sifting through all of the many wide-ranging opinions you're likely to see.  Use your brain, and not your emotions to determine who's advice is the most honest and the most intelligent, and don't just choose those answers that suppor
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I think that you should respect your parents call on this one hun...sorry.  You are only 13, and your parents love you and are protecting you from experiances that you are not yet ready to handle.
171250
That depends on why, In some states minors 12 and over can tell the judge if their is a reason why you want to stay with one parent over the other. On the other hand if you do not like your mother because she makes you do your homework and doesn't let you do some of the things you want then you should stick with the parent that makes decisions based on what is right not what is popular you will be glad of that 10 years from now.Trust me it isn't always as easy for a parent to not let you stay out that extra hour or let you ride in a car with a friend that has had his/her licence less than 6 months when your are 15 but they do out of love and experance we have done some of the same things our chidren do mistakes included, that fine line between trust and guidence isn't always easy to see we make mistakes too.
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You mention the word "respect". Check out the meaning in the dictionary.  I would not do anything my parents wouldn't approve of. Think of the consequences before you react. If you have to lie about something you know it's wrong even before asking someones opinion. And...this 22 year old MAN could be incarcerated for being with you.  You two are breaking all kinds of rules. You say you are mature. This will not be a mature move on your part.
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It is definitely not a racial crime. You need to get your mom to explain herself: why does she think your a traitor? what is so bad about it. If she disagrees with your choice you may have to tell you agree to disagree about the subject and tell her that you expect her to respect your life choice and show your girl respect. Perhaps she will warm up to your choice and you can change one ignorant persons point of view.
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"Too much" is a relative term, totally subjective.  It may be too much to you but barely enough to your parents.  If they expect that you pass all courses with a decent letter grade like B and do your fair share of chores at home then they are not expecting too much.  Kids tend to think their parents' expectations are too high as soon as they see a possibility of losing playing time (Internet, friends, TV, sports....) but in reality those expectations are just right.  Talk to them.  Define with them what "reasonable expectations" are.  If you disagree with them, relay the information to your counselor for a second opinion.  If you and they agree, work on the means, time and resources to help you meet their expectations.  I am sure you will be rewarded.
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I believe that deep down inside, you know what is right for you to do.  I think you should forgive her even if she excepts it or not.  God knows your heart and the blood is no longer on your hands if you do all that you know to do.  I also think you should love and serve her in anyway possible to help her in her time of need.  The Bible speaks on loving in spite of or having the agape or the God kind of love, especial towards your parents (even if they have not been so good to you).  God will honor you obedience and your reward will be great in the end.
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Got Parents ??? Use them, thats why they're there. Otherwise talk to a trusted adult. Don't rely on your friends for misinformation.
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Well its not right to force anyone for anything but just look it like this our parents do so many thing for our hapiness which they dont want to do so we kind of force them aswell and if once in a while they ask us for something i think we shouldnt turn them down just try to be there for them much as you can it will give you inner beauty and alot of blessing in life.I think if you can keep your parents happy you will end up being happy or else your kids will do the same with you and i know you wouldnt like that.so yea go on and try to enjoy it if you can.
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It is the parents' responsibility to prepare our children for the future and let them stand on our shoulders to reach higher.  We do this because that is what we are supposed to do and none of us can expect payment for it because it is our children's birthright.\n\nYou do not owe your mother anything except for the respect that she earns from you by taking care of you and being a good example for you.  Unfortunately she has failed you in both regards. You do not have to overlook her actions and you do not have to forgive her.\n\nWhat she has done to you is illegal.  She has stolen from you.  She has committed Identity Theft against you. You should contact the police and file a police report and have your mother prosecuted for fraud.  Then you can take the resulting documentation to all 3 credit bureaus and clear your name and begin the process of repairing your credit.\n\nOnce you have gotten a handle on things, please finish your education and have a successful life.  Whether you keep your mother out of your life from here forward is a personal decision, but I do know that she won't mess with your credit anymore after you see to it that she is disciplined for her illegal and offensive behavior.  What ever you decide from now on do not loan her any money and do not allow her to borrow your credit with your consent. Keep family and finances separate.\n\nGood Luck!
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She told you because she does not want to do this thing.  She told you knowing that you'd help her not do it EVEN if that means telling a parent or counselor or some other adult.  That's what she asked of you, otherwise she would not have told you at all.  \n\nIt's a tough place for you, but don't feel like you're betraying her.  At some level, that's exactly what she wants you to do.  Get her help.
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FIRST OF ALL I HOPE YOU ARE A RESPECTABLE AND RESPONSIBLE 21 YEAR OLD !!!\n\nHAVE AN IN DEPT TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS; COVER THE TOPIC OF TRUST !!!\n\nSHOW THEM AND TELL THEM THEY CAN FULLY TRUST YOU !!!\n\nBUT DON'T EVER FAIL THEM OR YOU'VE RUINED IT FOREVER !!!\n\nGOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!
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Yes, my family tried that sh*it on me and I rebelled, the guy was totally wrong for me.....I'm with the right one now...follow your heart not your parents