Has anyone been able to get their ex to drop Child Support charges?
78593
Maybe you should try to get custody of the kids, and then make sure that she has to pay just as much as the court says you have to pay. I think that it can no longer be dropped, because it is money to support your kids.
401029
Yes.  Speak to a family law attorney.
1130032
You need to be more specific in your question. I don't think you can stop child support unless on or the other parent gives up all rights to the child.
378701
With my state Mo.--go to child support enforcement, or the county you were divorced in to the prosecuting attny.
136684
Sounds like a dead beet Dad. I think that Texas is the worst in enforcing child support. Too many macho men. The court order will not help if the authority's do not enforce it. You need to call your District Attorney
1027668
My ex-husband refuses to pay support or visit with our special needs daughter, because ha says that she is not his.  His new wife (that he just married a few months ago) says there is no way that my daughter is his (my daughter is 6 and he had dated this woman for 2 months before marring her).  DNA tests aren't cheap, so I decided to go ahead and call and see if they could help me.  I have tried to get on this show like 10 times.  One time they told me if I knew all the information they could help me, so I gave it to them.  Then they said someone would call me back, they never did.
118931
Send her a certified letter about your intentions of picking up the kids. Actually show up at the designated time and have a witness.  Bring your written visitation decree along with you and notify the local sheriff's office of your intention to enforce the divorce decree.  Keep a written book of all of your attempts to visit your kids. If you find her new phone number, record all future calls.  Gather your child support receipts in a shoe box if you don't pay through the Court.  File contempt of court charges.  If you can't afford a lawyer, be willing to represent yourself in court.I spent $40,000 to get visitation for my husband.  I was the new wife and I kept good records and tape recordings and if I had to do it again, I would have represented him myself.  After 2 years he won visitation and it was very complicated...Don't stop paying child support and read the Book of Psalms in the Bible....
902942
File a Petition in court to justify a decrease in the support being charged you and cite valid reasons.  Regarding custody, prove in court that you have to right to have more time with the kids in order that they will have a good future.
459704
Yeah, it may be a shady way of doing it, but if his child support is not coming out of his paycheck, I mean, if he goes and pays it, stop paying it.\n\nSave the money and put it away so that when you go to court you can pay it right away.  \n\nOnce his ex quits getting money, she will call the court and file papers.  He will get served to appear in court.  She will be required to show up too.  When he gets there, and the judge asks what is going on, he can tell the judge he was trying to find his kids.  He can tell him he has all the back money he owes, but that he had no other way to find his kids.\n\nThe judge may get a little mad, but technically if he has the ability to pay the money he owes, they won't do anything to him.\n\nAlso, if he has court ordered visitation every other weekend or whatever, and she never had that changed while your husband was going through depression, she is in contempt of court for not letting him see his kids.  But like you said, it would require a lawyer to find her.\n\nHere are some other ideas.  Try doing some google's for her or the kids.  (If I google my name it goes right to the website of where I work) Check for school web sites.  Does she have any family?  Do you have any idea what city or even what state she may be in?  \n\nAlso, you can mail a letter to her old address and at the bottom you put "Address correction requested."  Make sure your return address is on it and make sure you write the request big and bold and put some extra postage on the letter...I forget how much extra it costs.  If she left a forwarding address with the post office, they will put a sticker on the envelope with her forwarding address and mail it back to you. :-)\n\nThere are some less legal ways to go about it, such as if he has her SSN and birthdate he can try to obtain a copy of her credit report (like through the annual free credit report thing) and it will have her most recent address.  \n\nAnd you would be surprised how a little being nice can help you.  You or your fiance can try calling places she used to work.  Make up a story that sounds good, say you are with a charity or something and call her previous employer.  Say something like, "Hi, my name is So-and_so and I am with the American Red Cross.  I am trying to reach So-and-so"  They will say she no longer works there and you can ask if they know where you can reach her.  You will probably get farther than your fiance with this type of stuff because people will be more suspicious of him looking for a woman.\n\nOr try calling some of the children's old friends.  Or anyone you think might have contact with his ex or the kids.\n\nI am quite good at this type of stuff, feel free to e-mail me and I would be happy to help you.\n\nGood Luck.
1113296
Yep!  My sister had it done to her ex.  He never paid for their now 13 year old son.  They took back support, current support out of his disability checks, and also gave her his entire income tax refund for the year.
63395
I do not think that is possible, there are people who can do the paperwork for you and you do all the filing yourself,then show up for the court date. but this only works if it is uncontested by your spouse and no question of who gets custody of the kids. I got my divorce this way, but it is not free, way cheaper than getting a lawyer tho. If you see advertisements for DIVORCE!! 198.00!! this is one of those people. you just have to look for those advertisements, most of them are not under divorce or attorneys in the yellow pages. good luck.
145064
Also don't know Washington law, but agree that the State will often pick up DV charges if the victim recants or withdraws.  \n\nIf you want the charge dropped, you need to speak with the prosecutor, not the courts or anyone else.  It's the prosecutor's office that's doing the prosecution, so they're the ones to talk to if you no longer desire prosecution.\n\nWhere did the no contact order come from?  In California, the judge can issue one from the bench on his own or at the request of the prosecutor.  You might have sought one out as well.  In any event, most likely a judge is the one who actually issued the order, and it takes a judge to rescind it.  If you asked for it, get yourself back on calendar and tell the judge why you don't want it.  If the prosecutor asked for it on your behalf, ask them to ask the judge to rescind it.\n\nGood luck with whatever you do, but I really, REALLY encourage you to leave the no contact order as is.  Up to you what you want to do with the DV criminal charges, but there shouldn't be any harm leaving the no contact order in place if you've moved out of state anyway, right?
466358
There is nothing fair in a custody battle for anyone, regardless of who gets what ultimately someone loses out, most times its the children.  I would have to agree with you on the attorney issue though, it takes money to get a good attorney, and it can go to ungodly amounts of costs.  Every phone conversation is subtracted as well as everthing else.  I feel for my husband, because his ex is now dating an attorney who seems to have nothing better to do then take him to court.  Of course its no out of pocket expense to her so she finds anything to bring him back into court for. I guess all I can say to you is Good Luck, Do alot of praying.
542301
The answer is not a straight yes or no.  More information here is needed.  What state do you live in?  Do you currently have a child support order that he has violated?\n\nLet's take California for instance.  If you do not have a child support order already in place, then you and your daughter are screwed.  Constitutionally, the California courts are without authority to order back support which pre-dates your filing of a motion for support.  The court only has jurisdiction to order support from the date you file the motion forward.\n\nIf you do have a current child support order that he has not been paying then there are many ways to enforce the back support.  It does not vanish when your daughter turns 18.  He owes it all plus interest at 10% per year.  The best way to enforce is it to obtain a wage garnishment order from the superior court.  In addition, contact your local District Attorneys' office.  People who skip out on child support are akin to murderers in the eyes of the law.  It is serious business.\n\nFeel free to contact me through this service if you'd like to discuss the matter.
182183
Honestly, your best bet is probably to set up an appointment to meet with a divorce lawyer in your state if you want good advice.\n\nIn AR, child support can be based on imputed income.  In other words, it can be based on a parent's ability to earn rather than their actual earnings.
1085225
You need to file a petition with the court.  If they ordered that he has visitation rights and she is breaking that order they can haul her back.  They also can suspend her child support payments until those visitation rights are restored.  Just don't do anything without going through the court.
1153820
I don't know where you live but in GA they will go after any father who doesn't pay.  It is called ABANDONMENT and is illegal.  Look in the phone book under the county that you live and see if there is a number for the main county switchboard and ask them who you should be talking to.  As last resort, you could call an attorney and press charges for non payment of child support and abandonment.  Or hell, go file a small claims case against him.  At least you could get something from them.  Also, it would go on his credit and it would be judgment against him throught the court, so if he didn't pay, then a bench warrant would be issued.  I am a child of a father that didn't pay and spend any time with me, so I know how that feels but don't put up posters or fliers, because you child will see that and its not fair to the child.  Be the good parent.