Why do people date and then wait so long to married that person (ie5 years)?
91515
It all depends on the couple. Some people may feel they have moved too fast and think they should hold off on planning a wedding just yet. Sometimes a couple who is engaged a long time may be holding off because of their job, they  are moving around and don't have time to plan a wedding right away, or they are needing to finish college. There are lots of reasons. Money is also another reason--some people may not be able to get married due to financial reasons.
389526
That all depends if she or he only wants a friendship or are they looking for a steady relationship.  For example, my friend and I have been dating over 8 years and we are comfortable with that.  My friends are saying what are you waiting for. I tell them that I am not looking for a marriage.
657561
When you become engaged you have said "yes, i will marry you."  The engagement should last only so long as it takes to plan the wedding.  \n\nI don't understand engagements longer than a year really - but then I think one should live with a person before deciding to marry them (so you truly know what you are signing up for).  \n\nBest wishes my dear, for a long and happy life together!
249471
People make mistakes, they marry the wrong people or for the wrong reasons.  Some people are fickle and fall out of love easily.  Others love the feeling of "falling in love" but when the honeymoon is over, it' over.  Others develop problems farther down the line.  As many divorces as there are, there are reasons for the divorce.\n\nPersonally, I don't want to restrict myself to a number, because as soon as I do, I'd break it.  I'd like to not ever want to marry again.
536960
By nature, a lot of men are hunters and have the need for conquest.  Once they achieve the goal, whether it be to mate or marry, then something clicks in their head and it might be time to find the next challenge.  This trait is problematic in a marriage.  Some times we think that because we take the vow, that the deal is done, then don't need to try as much and take the relationship for granted.\n\nMarried for 10 years, then divorced for 5.  I find that sharing my freedom and independence with a special woman allows the relationship to remain fresh and alive.  I won't say never, but I'm liking being without the assumed obligations that go with marriage.  If I'm with someone, I enjoy making that choice more than once and if we find that its just not working for us any longer, it's simpler to part ways.  \n\nI say enjoy the gifts life has to offer and although it may be remote, if one day you happen across a keeper, then just don't close your mind to the possibility.  I certainly won't rush into anything and would live with someone for a good couple of years proir.  Let's see what we're like when all the pretending is over and learn if true compatibility exists.  Make sense?
814086
It's all about the person and mostly timing.If they're ready for a serious relationship and you have a strong connection they will settle but that doesn't mean it will last forever.
88646
It's a sign of self respect for both you and the person that you choose to be with for the rest of your life. It is so much more special when you save it for the special someone that takes your hand in marriage. \n\nIt's not old fashioned thing, I think really it is common sense and remaining abstenent until the "right one" comes a long really says a lot for your character. :)Believe me, it is well worth it to wait.
628663
You can't "Get" a man to marry you until they are ready, or mutually like yourself, think the relationship is ready to take it to the next step. Think about it, would you want to force someone into marrying you now just because your ready only to find out later (after a divorce) that they weren't ready to be married?
885841
The idea, in hindsight, appears logical and the answer seems clear.  Anyone would likely say "Just wait" if they could be assured that her love would be waiting for him after that time.  But the real issue here is this:  Would you have still felt the same?  What if you'd waited for her and, in so doing, denied yourself the chance to find love with someone who was ready?  We cannot know the future.  All we can do is live each day the best way we can and enjoy every bit of happiness that we are lucky enough to find.
590416
Probably true, because people don't take the time to get to know each other before either getting married or hopping into the sack.  Most importantly however, is that they are not committed to each other and to the marriage.  A little bit of trouble comes & they say, "hey, it's not worth it, I'm moving on" instead of working out the problems.
911992
Dear Friend,\n  Thank you for asking .As per my research i have found that many marriages fail because people rush.marriage must be buid on love and true love waits.So it is important for any person intenting to marry to take enough time in dating   ie NOT LESS THAN 2 YEARS so as to prove true love in his or her mate hence have a perfect marriage.thank you and may God Help you find a good marriage,bye.
1072329
Because alot of people out there don't think teenagers know about commitment and relationships, but they don't know how wrong they actaully are.  I know where your coming from because I got married at 19 years old and people though I was crazy and not ready for marriage, or that i was pregnant and getting married before the baby was born.  I'm 21 now and been married for over a year and people are shocked it even lasted that long.  What they don't know is age has nothing to do with it.  People in their 30 can have just as much trouble in a relationship as a young teen.  Its about maturity which you can have at a young age and its about willingness to commit.  i have a friend whos only 19 and been with the same guy for over 5 years now.  People are too quick and eager to judge on everything.
753716
I think some people just know. they meet when they are young and know they will marry by the time they are five or something. they are jsut sole mates. if your questioning it makes me wonder if thats your case??  are you two headed in the same direction for your lives have you talked about that? Where do you see yourself in ten year, twenty years. etc
420896
Because we tend to have preset expectations of where we are "supposed to be" at any given age.  And those expectations often have very little to do with what might be best for us at that particular stage in life.\n\nWe're living longer and longer.  27 is *young*.  You very well could have at least 70 more years to get married and settle down. What's the rush?  Enjoy yourself and spend time getting to know who you really are.  There's plenty of time ahead for romantic relationships.
223030
Quite frankly they should wait to get married. This isn't because they aren't able to or aren't mature enough. It is because the pressures that come with a "marriage", even though it is just a piece of paper, could actually split them up. Encourage them to stay together. There is no reason that they can't. However, getting married at this age may not be the best thing for them.
1022791
it generally is..."attraction" but everyone has a different thing that attracts them to each other. When you marry the attraction is said to only last for 3 years then it fades. leaving a togetherness that should last
929854
I guess that goes to show that long dating/engagements aren't a guarantee that you'll know the person.  I dated my wife for two months before marriage, and we're doing great after already 5 years now. \n\nIf you married him, try to work it out.  Find common ground.  Pray to the Lord for help, He will do it.  \n\nDon't drag those children through the mess of a divorce.  Pray for help.