How do you guys feel about casual intimate relationships vs. commitment relationships at the age of 27??
95857
At the age of 27 i think that casual relationships shouldn`t be done anymore.  You`ve supposed to have already had the ruthless fun . . . time to settle down.  That is . . . unless you didn`t have any plans to settle down at all.
789366
I live with my bf now, I'm 39 and he is the first serious relationship I've had in 15 years. In those 15 years, I've RAN from 3 marriage proposals. Not really sure why, not so much the commitment, it was that I knew I didn't want to be married to those men. At this point I don't really care if I get married or not. This bf is the best and I'm happy. \nListen to your gut. It may not be commitment that scares you.
565859
It depends on who the person is and if they are ready to settle down, I am 35 and I am ready to settle when I was younger no way not ready, but now I feel I am ready for that long term commitment. my reason for waiting so long i didnt want to marry and than 1yr end up in divorce, when i marry I want it to last.like the vows dill death do us part...
360675
Sometimes it's true that women's maturity level progresses faster than younger men's. In your case you might be feeling a bit uncertain because that statement does not apply to you. \nRemember: Age is only a number. So is salary.\n\nIf you can love him no matter what and want to work things out with him, no matter what, then he is the one for you.\n\nEveryone has differences in taste, his is 80's music and an early bed time.. so what? At least he isn't a drug addict and abuser. Take it for what it's worth... if he treats you well, is financially stable and willing to work on your relationship, you've got a winner!\n\nGood luck, and look out for yourself--
837833
Well, i guess it's normal to feel that way. I'm 28 and my husband is 38. He's having the same problem. So what we did is that after all the girls are in bed we spent sometimes in front of the TV and watch movies that we like. At the same try to flirt around with each other. Kissing and touching and hugging...etc. At this moment do not have any limits or borders towards each other. Just do what ever you like. Even if it's in the kitchen!
333118
Depends on what you mean by "serious." If you mean "exclusive," then that's fine. Our school-age relationships are part of the way we learn how to treat others later in life, and you're both learning about commitment.\n\nIf by "serious" you mean "sexual". . . it's definitely unhealthy, no matter how long you've been seeing each other!
1157497
when i was 20 i dated a woman who was 32. well we didnt really date all she wanted to do was hook up with no commitment. im not really that kind of guy but it was the best sex id haver had. we were both free to try whatever we wanted with eachother. we called it quits about 4 months in because we started have feelings for eachother.
260957
24, recently married.  I feel that you should be over 20, also have some direction in life before you drag someone else into it.  But if it is true love you will know with out any doubts.
645996
Yes, I did have that at the time. I'm 25 now, so I still remember it very clearly.\n\nI'm not quite sure what you mean by mature. Do you mean sexual, or deep? \n\nIf you mean deep, well, take her for walks and talk to each other, get to know each other's innermost thoughts and desires. If you open up a little bit with her - talk about your hopes and dreams, etc. I'm sure she will with you too.\n\nAs for the sexual side - I don't know you from Adam, I'm not going to even try to help you decide if you're ready or not. What I will say is this: You know how so many adults warn you to wait until you're very sure, not to rush things, etc? It's because many of us regret what we did when we were younger. Being in love at 15 is the most powerful thing in the world, and it's hard to think about what you really want when your feelings are so strong you feel like your heart and skull will explode with the power of it all. Some people (I daresay many people) make a decision they later regret.\n\nI don't know whether you and this girl will last the course or not, but I can tell you this for free- you will always have a little space in your heart for her. Your first love will always be important to you.
57769
Interesting to hear the female side of this one...I was 25 and she was my good friend at the time.  She was experienced and we were both well liquored.  Afterwards I wished I had started a bit earlier since sex is very nice.  I had one additional partner before getting married and still feel lacking technique-wise.  Looking back it did impact our relationship but after some time passed we got back to almost normal.  But the one night was not a topic of discussion (yes only one night..I don't know what I was thinking when I said we should chalk it up to experience and stop there).
1175898
as long as you're both at the age of consent or older... you're cool... 27 is more than an appropriate age
1067881
A relationship goes through many stages.  It takes time to develop a sense of togetherness.  You may want to be with him all time at first and then if you do you will realize soon enough and you won't have to wonder or ask others.  It is harder to wait when you are younger, whereas older people have a little more knowledge of relationships and seem to be able to wait for that final commitment.  \nIf he feels the same way you do, you will end up talking about it, not just wondering.  Relationships seem to go in directions every three months or so.
987700
You thought you were falling for a 27 year old so it sounds like you have an age limit in mind.  He might deceive you on the number of sex partners and so forth just because he has had more experience in life.  If you want to be with someone who will die long before you do, then go for it, if not, then you should move on.
73621
As long as you are honest about your intensions up front. I am recently divorced and dating several men. But they all know I'm not looking for a committed relationship I'm just looking to meet people and see where it goes.  I don't talk to them about the other guys, but I do keep it casual. It all depends on the people your dating and where they are at in life. If they are mature, they understand the difference of causal dating and "cheating".  But be aware... if you see someone is really starting to develope strong feelings for you... be fair to them!\n\nGood luck and have fun. There is nothing wrong with getting to know several people.
604461
I have to agree with Y Stroke 28. I think its a blast to be single, going out with girlfriends, partying, and just having a really good time. However, I think it does get a little old, and eventually you want that person to come home to, or like y stroke 28 said, just having that companionship of knowing someone really cares about you. I on one hand would like to get married, and eventually have children someday, so I really do not want to stay single for too long. I love to be single, but it does get old to me. But I don't think being single is a bad thing...I just like to know that I have someone to care about and share things with...and cuddling!\nGood Question!
221727
I don't know how old you are, but that DOES make a difference.  \n\nWhen a couple first gets together, they both have their best "faces" on....when they have been together over a longer period, they tend to relax and be themselves.  The original "butterflies in the stomach" feeling can fade pretty quickly.\n\nThis is the difference between an immature and a mature relationship.  In a mature one, you realize that FEELINGS are different than a commitment and TRUE LOVE.  Feelings come and go, like a roller coaster.  Do you FEEL you love your job/school EVERY day?  Probably not.  But do you enjoy it most of the time, is it rewarding...that is the difference.  \n\nA really mature relationship entails understanding of good days/bad days.  \n\nThe good news is that he's still JUST your boyfriend.  Even though you have invested a lot of time and your body (unfortunately), that doesn't mean you are totally committed to this relationship...If you love him (not that funny feeling in your stomach kind,  but even when he's laying on the couch in his underwear, needs a shower kind of love), don't let fickle feelings get in your way.
1041699
Are you ready to be married and be alone?  This isn't about money or status, it is about two people that can handle staying commited and true no matter what and at your age that is a lot to bite off.\nI bit it at 18 and found at 30 that I really felt I had missed out on lots of fun.\nIf your love is real it will weather the time in the airforce and still be strong when he returns.  I suggest waiting so that you both still have the freedom without regret to experience the rest of maturing.