should i call my dad an idiot, cuz he doesnt take care of me only my mom does my dad is useless?
93174
of course you mustn't you can only hope that god 'll repay your mother for her caring and you can just speak with him only if nessary
1081660
Sounds like your dad needs to grow up.
820298
well.. she wont understand till either something big happens or till somebody tells her exactly what she needs to listen.\nbut the good point is at least you understand what is right and what is wrong. do not forget that. \nu seem to be a smart person - just try to help her handle the situation but dont try to prove urself smarter than ur mom after all she's the mom way better than u could be and yes --- respect her. she might be a liar, cheater to somebody but atleast she loves u and takes care of u.
1147271
Same, my dad wasnt there for me and havent seen a dime from him, and no i dont celebrate it for him, they dont deserve it, be a better father then he was . Good luck and god bless. Be strong, i know its tough to see perfect fathers and then reflect on yours.\nI love my mom soooo much , she took my dads role too.
625840
Depending on how old you are, you move out.  He's older and he's never going to change.  My father is the same age and is like this.  Our relationship got a lot better after I moved out.  He's very protective and critical of his little girl.  So I grant him that.  I'll give him the respect of listening to the important stuff and asking his advice on important stuff.  But if he busts me on stupid little things, I just say, yeah, yeah, yeah and ignore him.  Pick your battles and don't rise to the bait.  He's probably just trying to show his authority.  If you give him some authority in your life and simply let it roll of your shoulders on the stupid stuff, he'll get the hint and will appreciate the times you do give him control.  He's your father, and it's hard for father's to let their kids grow up.  He will get the hint though.  Eventually, children and parents reach a compromise.  Good luck!
1178239
Don't answer the calls.  He is obviously confused and reliant on his mother.  You want an independent guy, don't you?
400937
depending on how old u r and even still lol no matter how old u r ur dad cares and no one is good enough for his little girl....u seem pretty close though so sit him down and tell him that u r growing up and he has taught u to be sensible and u wont do anything silly...as much as he tries to be a mate to u he still has his daddy instincts to him it was only the other day u were running round in nappies and running to him when u fell over ...its kinda hard for him to accept that he cant catch u when u fall and he cant always just kiss the wound better and put a plaster on it...its totally different he has to adapt as well u just have to persuade him that he has brought u up to be sensible and responsible and u will not do anything till u r ready......take it easy on him even if it is hard on u he is learning to and it is pretty heart breaking to know his little girl is growing up lol but he still has to learn and ur the only one to teach him despite his tantrums....lol do u feel older than him yet??because now ur the teacher??
697104
you poor thing. no parent should treat their kid that way. or act that way around their kid. tell your mom that you love her, but your relationship is being strained. you are acting as the enabler. if the roles were reversed, would she seriously let YOU "mooch" off of her?
1000073
Some men are jst that stupid. their mothers sheltered them too much. You may have to show him how to use them correctly.
1057042
you are doing the right thing. if you let him bully you where do you get into the same house with a moron? if he's willing to hurt his children to get back at you he's just as bad a dad as he is a husband. stick up for yourself and dont take his crap.
364847
my dad verbally abused me (he said he wished i was never born in his own "special" way and said i was a terrible son, husband, father, provider, etc).  i promised years before that i would scatter his ashes in an open waterway but if he doesn't leave me money for this deed, i will be glad to flush him down the toilet.  after all "all water ways lead to the ocean" (from finding nemo), right?\n\ni haven't spoken to him since and i don't intend to no matter what he brings to the table.
726090
Your mother lied to you, your probably an idiot!!
1023278
How insensitive!!! It's days like that that you just want your mom to come and take care of you like only your mom can and that jerk brings that crap up?!
153869
I am a parent but I only have six years experience.  Still, you need to kick his little a** out.  I know he is your kid, but dang.  He is taking you for granted, you need to teach him how to take care of himself.  What is he going to do when you aren't there?
529843
my father was the same way.......a punk......thats why I  call my step-father, DADDY!!!! He's thinking, hmmm, No worries, someone else can care for her, pay for everything she needs and , hell, she's still young, and stupid, she'll never know what a jackass I am for being so selfish with my time...........
214280
Well he kinda does pay the bills and support your whole family and face it you wouldnt have those designer jeans on if he didnt drag his butt out of bed everymorning and go to work, i think your the spoiled kid in this situation, maybe you need to look at everything your dad does for you instead of everything you wish he would be. I bet he wishes he had a daughter that got better grades and didnt want to spend so much money on retarded things constantly but he got stuck with you..... sucks huh?
727791
DON'T YOU JUST HATE WHEN PARENTS USE THAT LINE LOL......\nmy mother and father were the same when i was living with them they would both say that to me and i was like shut up let me learn things for myself but they would still put in what they thought.... even if i didn't want to hear it. I'm 20 and now living out of home and they don't interfere don't get me wrong if you are still at home i'm not telling you to move out cause it's not easy belive me, but you really need to put your foot down. i belive at the age of 20 you are old enough to make your own decsions whatever they may be wheatehr they like it or not. parents always worry and try to take control i think it's just in them lol. you have to tell him that he would have once had to learn for himself and now it's your turn and it's time for him to let you grow into being a good man, tell him that you were raised to do the right thing and he sould trust you.\ntalk to him mate\ngood luck and i hope your dad realises that you are old enough to make your own choices \nmel