should i think of marriage or should i wait?
81301
It is going to be hard since the two of you are now apart.  Sounds like you are a little unsure about the stability of your relationship.  If you want things to slow down, tell him. Marriage is something that you take slowly to ensure the success of it. You don't want three years from now to end up in divorce... or cheating. take a deep breath and talk to him about the situation.  Maybe you will realize that the two of you are ready, or perhaps the two of you will make the mature decision to take things slowly!  6 months is not very long to be getting engaged!
1052469
God will let you know when the time is right or the person.  God does things on His time for us.  Not on our time.  Maybe God knows that you may get hurt so he wants you to wait a bit.  Maybe there is someone else God had in mind that will come along.  Maybe God wants you to be more financially secure before heading into a marriage.  Maybe God wants you do to other things before getting married.  There may be various of reasons but if God is not ready for you to get married, then by all means wait.  He has His reasons.  Be patient!
381233
love is trully a strange thing....\ni'd say if its good let it be....\nAs for marriage, u'll know when the time is right.\ni m sure that they will meet face to face soon
664062
Well it depends on how ur moral standards are, I wanted to wait until marriage, but that didn't happen. If your a frim believer in Christ, you know that he'd rather you wait until marriage, but most people need to see if they are compatible in the bedroom. All in all the sex is sooooo much better after your married.  You follow your heart. I'm sure you'll make the right choice. Good Luck!
170710
If you're not sure, then don't. Marriage is a big step and commitment. You don't want to half-a$$ it.
205212
I agree, it's probably not the most logical place to ask "is it a good time to get married"... only YOU can answer that.  well, you and your boyfriend.\n\nYou are on the right tracking thinking about finances and feelings.  Continue to discuss things with your boyfriend.  Where will you live?  Does he have a stable job?  Does he have or want children? Do you?  When?  Who will care for them?  How will you raise them?  Discuss reglion.  How will this come into play with children.  Have your families met?  Do you have the same goals and values?\n\nMarriage is awesome!  It's important to really think about it and plan for it.  So while I may have teased you a little for asking "should I think about marriage"- I think it's good you ARE thinking and planning.  Go with the flow and let things happen naturally.  If it's the right time to get married/engaged, you and your boyfriend will know it.  In the mean time, start talking about goals and longer term plans with him.
1016755
i think the question here is, do you have someone who you think you may want to marry? never say no to anything that may bring you happiness. love is the best thing in life. if you find it, GRAB IT AND RUN!!! always be open to love. \n       best of luck hun......."E"
660025
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
185620
It would be best to wait until you are married.  Then you will have that perfect connection with the man you love and who loves you.  The man who truly loves you would be willing to wait.  Also a man's feelings develop deeper before having sex.  So waiting until you are married gives the man time to develop stronger feelings for you.  Finally, you want to have a spouse who you can do more than have sex with, so waiting until you are married will be a good way to make sure that you and your spouse connect in more than the physical.
907914
Sure.  Why not?  If you truly love each other, I just married my husband in August and he is 14 1/2 yrs older than me.  Some times these things just work out that way.  I think it is a great idea to wait a few years to make sure things work out.  He and I were together for 3 yrs first, and yeah a job would be in order, those weddings are very expensive. And, sure, if you want to wait until your wedding night, then that is your choice.  Don't let him, or anyone else tell you that you have to.... if he truly loves you he will respect your decision.
787457
I think that whatever the reason for your intereste in this other man, it is telling you one very important thing: you probably arent ready for marriage. as much as you probably do want to get married, maybe this is a way of telling you to give it a bit more time. it doesnt mean that you dont love your partner. perhaps you should just take a bit of time before deciding on marriage, and spend it on analysing your relationship and if this is really what you want. marriage should be for life. so your partner should be the only man in your life, when you decide to marry. perhaps just for now, take time to enjoy eachothers company and maybe you can look forward to a Valentine's Day Proposal in a few months time!\nWhatever you decide, follow your heart. The decision either way has to be right for you, as you are the one living your life.\n\nMaybe discuss with your partner your concerns? &#92;\n\nBest of luck in your relationship
577233
We waited till marriage\n\nWe havee now been married for nearly 14 years and are very happy together.\n\nI think being able to wait did encourage us to put our relationship into areas that we could build our friendship on - and that i find to be the most important part of marriage is being able to like and respect one another and being able to relate to one another.\n\nSex - great - but if that is all the relationship is based on then it wont last very long.  Also if you hav waited and the first night isn't the best then you still have commitment from each other to work on it rather than on relying on it to pull you through.\n\nResisting temptations - if that is really difficult then don't have a long engagement - bring the date forward if need be.  The marriage is more important than having a 'big' day after all.  But meanwhile - resisting temptations - try not to take long periods of time alone indoors (chaperones?) - that is when temptation can strike most often.  also avoid heavy petting - and bear in mind if you haven't got one then PAWZOFF until you are married (and NO i am NOT referring to not touching his car or her microwave!)\n\nI hope that some of the above helps\n\nand God bless your upcoming marriage\n\nwhen is the happy date?
336259
you should always marry for love. you should love the one you marry. your love will grow as the years pass.
437306
Only get married when your ready.  It could take 5 months or 5 years.  Don't rush it because you'll regret it if its not the right person.
507076
I wish I *had* waited, if that helps. I think you're doing a wonderful thing, although I'm sure both choices can come with their regrets. A lot of people might say you will miss out on experience, and your married sex life won't be as fun. As long as you have great communication and honesty, you will have a good sex life once you are married. Good luck!
599479
It's a good thing.  That is something special you can give your future husband.\n\nI waited way longer than you because it took me that long to find the right man to marry.  I don't regret waiting for him.\n\nDon't let anyone pressure you into going against your beliefs or try to make you feel less than you are because you're waiting.  Besides, it's no one's business but yours.
107046
I didin't wait. Every now and then I think about what it would be like if I had chosen to wait and how special that would be to the girl I marry. I believe that most people don't wait cause of rebellion, or cause of the need for immediate pleasure (which is not as good as long term plesure for sure) or because someone forced them or made them feel guilty. I would imagine it would be better to wait, going on the fact that I fell guilty about the previous girls. You can never feel guilty about waiting if you are true to yourself and don't listen to anyone who tries to pressure you into it. It's got to be worth it to lose a friend/boyfriend/girlfriend because they are telling you they want you to have sex with them and you don't want to. It's YOUR life and no one else's. Don't give in against your own will!!!