why do guys expect women to be perfect and them to be able to sit back and relax?
78842
Not all men are like that. I'm a weird guy, so I won't make any general statements. But I will say this: when I'm in a relationship, I don't expect to be the recepient of everything and the giver of little.  It's not right. It seems to me that it's emotionally draining (and just plain unfair) to be stuck in a relationship like that. You have to talk to him about your feelings. That way if you know you've tried to work things out. If it can't be resolved maybe some time apart might help. As for your brother...I've no idea.
411185
They're just feeling insecure because standing next to you it would be even more apparent THEY don't work out. Most men wouldn't want a woman who is stronger than them or earns more than them or has a better career. We've got to be very subtle about these things lest we offend their fragile ego!
613814
Actually there are NOT a lot of nice guys out there.\nIt doesn't take BEING NICE to fulfill ALL the needs required!\n\nWomen aren't getting what they want, besides the obvious!\n\nI feel it is mainly the sensitivity woman have and want!\nAlso the appreciation we require!\nWomen are sensitive to all aspect to many things at one time. \nMen seem to be able to focus on only one thing at a time!
722842
Quite important.  It's the same thing for guys... they like confident women.
35278
I cannot speak for most of the women out here, but what i like is a guys personality and they have to have a good careing heart. Maturity also plays a factor. The way they look and dress is not that all important, you have some people that are less fortunate than others. Hey some of the women are not up to par themselves. That's basically what i look for. Even if they are less fortunate, still i like a man thats very clean about his hygiene. They also have to show me respect, and treat me like the woman that i am. They also have to have a sense of humor.
607995
Cuz its the special time in a woMAN's life when she PAUSES and wonder what the hell men are really good for?  LOL
995957
It's because women are so much more emotional than men and for some reason we sometimes like to know if our man is thinking something good (or bad) about us. I know it probably gets annoying to men, but just have patience. Women are just wired differently than men, emotionally. And we feel the need to do things sometimes that feel perfectly normal to us but seem silly to men.
400433
Finally a man who appreciates the hard working woman.  It's just in our nature to get things done.  Women are the complement of men and the backbone of families and that means not resting until everything is in its place.
703940
Women have been put in a place where we are expected to be pure and totally giving of ourselves. It is set up in things like the virgin mother.\nIt is a way to keep women down and control them, something men seem driven to do.\nThe expectations for woman are always higher, even now we are expected to have a beautiful germ free home, be wonderful mothers who prepare healthy meals and do art projects with our kids and hold down a great job. Woman discuss trying to have it all, while men do whatever the hell they want, because it was set up for them like that a long time ago. Even their mothers make it worse by doing everything for them and treating their daughters tougher.\n\nLook at how many people HATE Hillary Clinton just because she said she does not bake. \n\nWe woman perpetuate the problem, and when we stop being our own worst enemies we shall overcome.
275791
We don't only think of your private parts. We enjoy spending time with you. We think about your eyes, your hair, your feet, everything. Why do women complicate things. We would love to go shopping with you or take walks or do the dishes, etc. You spoil it by thinking we are hard headed or complicated. Men are not complicated, they like to eat and scroo. Do that for them and they will do anything for you.
434418
As a guy it is better to please than to be pleased, because we will get off regardless.  It takes much more work to please a woman and it is much more rewarding.
233196
Definitely! The only reason girls don't sleep around as much as guys do (or at least as easily!) is because they have different priorities.
1143380
Because people nowadays in general don't have consideration for other people. Pure and simple. This is not limited to men, and is not indicative of all men. \n\nThey think that this makes them cool or a tough guy. I would simply say excuse me and squeeze in next to him if you really want to sit.\n\nAs an aside,  daddysangelsfire I see you have a real healthy attitude toward men. Come on every man can't be that bad, you really need to lighten up.
892530
I admire men who have good control over their impulses and demonstrate good charactert their strength is an attractive and admirable thing.  I think very little of women who have to resort to offering sexual favors to get what they want. Being smart, clever and respected is far more effective. (unless you are bribing your husband to take you to the ballet..that is an altogether different matter and great fun.)
1004310
I don't know what's wrong with men. They swear they want a girl filled in all the right places but  they got straight to the sticks. Some men like a little thickness but most prefer the bones. They go for them cause they can't handle a full woman.
1136567
We are all striving for perfection because of all the tv ads, the magazines showing perfect women.  Men make up feel we have to be perfect also.  They check out the perfect ones, not the anorexic or heavy ones.  It is all because of our culture.  We should accept ourselves for who we are and if no one likes us, they aren't worth knowing.
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A wise man one asked me, 'what is the perfect woman's body shape?' I didn't know of course, so he replied, 'the shape of the woman whom he loves'.\n\nPeople can be easily influenced by what their friends think, men as well as women. It seems to me that men want their friends to think highly of them, perhaps even jealous of them. One of the ways of doing this is to have a 'desirable' girlfriend. Unfortunately, (especially in the US it seems) men are very fixated on having a 'hot' woman, I suppose to make themselves to be seen as successful, or more desirable-\n\nIt's a pity that people can be so shallow, life is not about looks it's about having fun!\n\nSo, it sounds like this guy probably did like you, but then was influenced by others, and instead of being strong about it he succumbed to his own feelings of inadequacy.