is it wrong to be in a relationship with someone 20 years younger than you?
85496
It's a matter of personal choice - love has no boundaries... my dad is married to someone 16 years younger than him... his wife likes older men, and he likes younger women.. also, when you are in high school, you may think that it's wrong to date someone who's 3 years older, but then as you get into college you may start thinking it's ok to date someone who's 5-10 years older.. It all comes down to personal preference. So long as it's not like you're under 18 years old or dating someone in your own family! That's considered unethical in many societies.\n\nMore answers to your question in the link below.
851295
Yes. There is too much age difference. I wouldn't do it
673607
I will tell you, in my own experience that it is. Not because it's immoral or the guy is a sick person, but the maturity issue. and people do change.\nAnd don't think it's because a guy can't get a girl his own age. i actually had quite a few girlfriends before her and they were all close to my age or older. \nSadly, I am now divorced, kept the children and am good friends with her. Actually, after five years of separation we are considering getting back together. I still care for her and she for me.\n All in all it is wrong if it is for the wrong reasons.
129408
What's wrong with that? If you are both mature and responsible individuals, then there's no problem for as long as you love each other.\n\nWhen you both work on it, you can have a lasting relationship.\n\nBest of luck
639587
as long as you are both of legal age, then yes there is nothing wrong with having a relationship with anyone, no matter what age. good luck.
852404
nahh..in love age doesnt matter..besides if the two of you are experiencing true love well theres nothing wrong with it.
406402
I am 27, and my husband is 40.  When we started dating I was 20 and he was 33.  While there's not anything wrong with it, my experience has been that we are at very different points in our lives.  For example, I am just getting settled in a career job (teaching), and thinking about starting a family; he is not sure about a family at this point (looking ahead to retirement) and wants to start travelling the world.  So it can be difficult in a lot of ways.  But that being said, he's a wonderful guy and I wouldn't trade our relationship for anything!\n\n(Huh, apparently judging by the comments above, we must be some sort of sickos....who knew?)
102529
I believe age has no difference when it comes to loving someone. If you're married and have no intention to part with your present wife, don't make any promises to that girl which you can't keep. If you're single and this romance might develop into something else, do go ahead and don't let this chance pass by you. I have a son with a man who's 20 years older than me. He was lying to me about being divorced and we spend 2 years living together as man and wife. When I had a baby, I found out he was married and had a wife in another country. We're no longer together, but I tell you age has nothing to do with this. I love every moment we spent together except for his lies that screwed up my whole life. Don't do this to the girl you liked, but definitely enjoy every moment of this feeling if it's rightfully yours regardless of the age difference. Good luck! Nika
180598
As long as you are both of leagal age. There is no problem with it!
1015046
No, it is not illegal to continue dating your girlfriend. She is considered your contemporary (meaning she is in your age group) because she is less than 3 years younger than you. Thats great if you guys are not having sex but if you both decide that you want to, I don't think thats a problem either. It depends on the age of consent in your state. Sometimes it is as low as 14. In the majority of states it is 16. That means she takes the responsibility for consenting to having intercourse with a contemporary whether or not he is minor like she is.
852736
I think that you should wait until you do reach 18 before getting romanticly involved with him because too many bad things could happen if you guys get into a fight since you are still a minor. But after you turn 18, you should go for it. I'm 26 and am dating a 42 year old. Most of them still act like they're 15 not matter how old they get. lol
756793
nothing wrong with you. I dated a guy for 8 years who was 18 years older than me.... it was a wonderful experience.
482946
no, i was with someone that was 10 years older than myself. age is only a number, & in the long run there should be no problems, because you both would be mature enough to know that age is only a #.
1117798
Age should not matter in my opinion...Just as long as you truly love each other,you should push everything aside and know that you're meant to be.
329367
When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26... it was fine for awhile but it didn't last.  I say if you feel like you're on the same level maturity wise and he treats you right, go ahead!
832347
There's nothing wrong with it, especially if your feelings are genuine, but keep in mind that you could get hurt pretty bad given you start up a relationship. He could use you, or date you for a while but then flat out tell you that he's uncomfortable. Six years is not that big of a difference, but even age differences like that could result in some professional frowning-down on his part (like if he has a big corporate job and they find out he's seeing someone younger). But like I said, six years isn't that MUCh of a difference to be worried about. I knew someone who was about 19 or 20 and she dated a 36 year old guy, but they broke up because of the age difference.\n\nI just read your edit...I have to tell you that twenty is a whole different world from fourteen. So like I said, be careful!
1080586
when i was 21 i was going out with a girl who was 16. we had a great relationship for almost 2 years and if i had a chance to do it all again i would. the only problem was that as she got older and matured we drifted apart but that can happen with any relationship no matter what age you are. give it a try but don't let him use his age and experience to get you to do anything you don't want to. good luck, hope all goes well