My man Cheated on me, With one of his friends. He says he loves me not her Do I let it go?
94564
Sounds like he loves you, just not enough to care if he's hurting you or exposing you to STDs. Sounds like his friends are really highly moral people too. Are you married and do you have obligations that make it worth going through humungous struggles? If so, go to counseling and see if he can learn to make appropriate and healthy boundaries (He should not be having one on one time with any non-relative females ever again). You can forgive without forgetting. He will have to learn that your trust has been broken and he will have to make lifestyle changes. He has proven he is not trustworthy alone with women. As long as he is not alone with women he won't be in a situation to cheat. As long as he's keeping himself in a safe invironment and keeping you appraised of it you will have no reason for suspicions and wont have to rub it in his face. It's a whole new level for your relationship, but it can be done and you can go on to be happy. If you don't have mutual kids, property, business, or a mariage license you should drop him like he's hot. Oh yeah, in either case, you'll both need to be screened for STDs.
324718
OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
397434
Really, cut your ties with this man, he's not a future for you. You continue to see this man and you will continue to get lied to and cheated on too. He doesn't know how to be honest or faithful. To love someone like that isn't really love. Your feelings for this man hon, isn't what you really think it is. I don't know you, but I see that your taking who ever says nice things to you. Shoot, I could feed you with all kinds of nice words, but doesn't mean I really mean it. I wouldn't even give a another second to this man. Let him and her work through their own problems. Take your loss now and bail out sweetie. It's not worth it. Staying on with this guy or telling his wife, what will you gain from it. The satisfaction of telling her. No, wrong! Maybe for a while but later down the road. hhhmmmm Trust in your self and move on. Good luck to you.
340825
What makes you think you are the only one he is screwing around with?  He is a cheater!!  Even if he did leave his wife, chances are he would repeat the process with you.  Haven't you ever heard the expression "if you love someone, let them go?"  Let his ass go...you can do it. He obviously doesn't love you enough to leave his wife. But we both know this isn't what you want to hear. You are looking for ways to make him leave her...and if anyone on here has a conscience, they won't even offer that up. This isn't love, it is an obsession.
186277
stay with this crazy friend of yours and dont let him do anything stupid, and tell him i said to get over it, move on and find someone better.  Think of it this way, if she was all he had, he has nowhere to go but up.
293656
Well you better prepare yourself to leave your man but stay away from the friend for a while. If this friend really likes you and is willing to give up his friendship with your man then time will tell and he will wait. But I would get out very soon before someone gets hurt - think of your child first how will all this effect her? Just remember - once a cheater, always a cheater. Good luck
508836
Dont feel lost broken or confused.  These things have a way of working themselves out.  If he sees you for who you are and her as the cheater, then hopefully he will make the right choice.  You can always remind him of your loyalty.
370144
I say get rid of him...if he cant show u the affection around his friends just cuz he wants to appear single then he doesnt love you...if he did he would want to show u off. hes using u.  he wants his cake and wants to eat it to...looking single to the world but behind closed doors hes taken.\nto me that sounds like a reciepe for cheating.  get rid of him and find a guy that cant wait to show u off. u deserve better
211345
I would leave her...once a cheater always a cheater....Apparently she doesnt love u like u want her too. Say goodbye and find better
981481
Oh my gosh. That cheating little....!!! is how most people would react but be above that. Sit and talk with him and if he truly loves you then he will let HER  go to be with you. You are probably better than her anyway but keep level headed and you will most likely steer clear of trouble. Good luck and I wish you the best.
586159
Forget him and just move on to someone else. You shouldn't be with someone like that anyway. And your friend is also immature what doing what she did, are you sure she was telling the truth. I wouldn't trust her again.
283531
first . . . your question didn't make sense . . . and if I get the gist . . . he cheated on you with her . . . \n\nSecond . . . you are to emotional . . . . calm down and relax and don't do anything stupid.\n\nThird . . . . dump him after you calm down
863977
He sounds like a duetschbag to me. Just move on. You don't want to get involved with someone that's going to see multiple women. Notice how he ducked out of things when you asked how he felt and obviously tried to move the relationship a little further. He's a snake. Find someone else. As for the girl, There's nothing you can really do about it. Just move on, find different people to be around.
807244
If you think that he is cheating on you and he says that he wants to sleep with your friend, he probably is. From what you described, his behavior seems pretty shady. I would move on from the both of them. If he can't commit himself completely to you, the relationship is doomed. You should never have to doubt your significant other in a healthy relationship. Also, if your friend is sleeping with him or anything else, then she is not your friend. Find people that respect you and your relationship.
631121
Leave him and find somebody else. If he cheats on you he doesn't love you and so he doesn't deserve you honey!
1060552
i say forget about him. yeah, it'll be hard, but this guy obviously is not interested in a serious thing with you. i know it sucks hard core but if he's been cheating that long, and on top of that having other girls answer for him and lie to you he is just plain and simple not worth the effort. someone who loves you would A. not cheat on you, and B. not add insult to injury with flaunting other women (most likely ones he's hooked up with) in your face. this guys a loser, and if you continue to play his games and cater to his immaturity then you're no better off. best of luck, stay strong. oh and "chicanita, your friends a hoe.
747860
If he isn't into his girl, then that sure says a lot about him. I wouldn't worry about hurting your friend's feelings, just tell her. She will be hurt more once she finds out the truth about what a jerk he is. You said you are interested in him? Why? He knows you're taken and you're happy with the one you are with. I would stay where you are and forget about this other guy if I were you.