why do u think im so annoyed with my sister in law to be?its very obvious that sheis competing wid me.?
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because you want attention?
966367
Talk to her and tell her that she is annoying, if she does not care than leave her alone!!!\n\nI have a sister-in-law that is annoying and we have tried telling her but she will not own up to anything!!!!!\n\nSome people are blind to their faults!!!
879424
I hate my in-laws. They are always in my marriage. They expect my husband to cater to their needs and forget that he has a family on his own to take care of. I undrestand that he is suppose to help them but they call him for any and everything like when they went out of town they wanted him to stay in their house for two weeks without his family.
748209
Remember this is your battle with the inlaws not your sister in law's.  Do not make her choose sides.  Be happy for her that she has a better relationship with them than you do because I'm sure you wouldn't wish what you are going through on another.  Maturity is called for here.  Stick to your guns for yourself, don't expect other's to choose sides.  She sounds like she's attempting to be neutral.  If you don't like hearing about what's going on with them, simply ask her not to go into detail about them or what they do or don't do.  Keep your friendship.  That's more important than allowing the in laws to drive a wedge between you two...and likely, that's what's happening.
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I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)
865556
Mom in Law is experiencing a new life and as everyone else goes thru it, it'll come as being routine in time as well.  Things will settle down and she'll see the light again.  Give her a chance to live a little..... life's too short.  You sound a bit selfish, sorry to say. Most people WANT their inlaws out of their business. What's wrong with the brother fixing up her house? Nothing. Not to be critical but you remember how it is when you feel so alive when you first start dating someone? Well?  It's your mom in law!  She is feeling alive and beautiful.  She loves your children I'm sure and in a couple of months when the newness wears off she'll be back. :))))  Take care!
505814
Because they are way too nosy (the inlaws and insecure) this seems like you are hurt by this sit down and talk to her about it so it doesn't cause any gaps in your relationship good luck
1058787
unfortunately, my husband's mother is the same breed. I just avoid the woman at all costs. fortunately, my husband agrees, but I don't know if yours will. \n\nI doubt confronting her would help, if she is as childish as my mother in law, but you could try talking to her, tell her your daughter feels left out and it hurts her feelings. goodluck whatever you decide
163496
I have the same problem with a sister who also phisicly hurts me. You could get revenge or try to ignore her (good luck with that) I really wish I knew.
1176240
LOL\nYour husband pissed you off or something?
665247
I understand that this was important to you, but more important than money is the relationship between you and your sister-in-law.  \nJust take a deep breath and ignore it.  Seriously, that's not gonna be easy.\nBut peace in the family is worth 20 bucks, dont ya think?
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FOR SHAME on your father in law!  Doesn't he know that by not encouraging her, that he is actually DISCOURAGING her and sabotaging her ability to reach her goals?  He doesn't need to be "mushy" just to say, "I'm glad to know you're happy about the progress you've been making".  SHEESH!\n\nSo, I'm gonna recommend that you go to the store and pick up a whole bunch of greeting cards.  They don't need to be expensive, and they don't need to necessarily have wording that's related to the weight loss.  Just cards that let her know you're thinking about her.  Send one off to her every two or three days...If you need to, address all of them in advance so that you can just drop them in the mailbox.  But if you have time, include a note inside each one, letting her know that you're proud of the fact that she's working out...or that she lost one more pound.  Don't forget to remind her that the weight she has already lost is a great accomplishment, and that she doesn't want all of her efforts to be in vain.\n\nAlso, maybe your father-in-law can recommend a neighbor or someone from their church who might be interested in taking a walk with your mother-in-law once a week, or something.  Alternately, does she use the computer?  She might enjoy spending some time in the chat room on Richard Simmons' site...she might even find someone in her area who has had success, or needs a work-out cohort.\n\nI'm proud of you for being so concerned.  You can also let your MIL know that I'm proud of her for doing so well!!!
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Wow!  Sounds like my family.  My brother married her, and we still don't get along, 2 years later.  I try to just put up with her because of my brother.  But I don't see it getting better. \nMaybe your bro doesn't see her faults.  If you say something now, he might take a closer look and decide he doesn't like those things about her, either.  He might get mad at you, but he'll get over it, won't he?
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U R IN A VERY VERY DELICATE POSITION.I FEEL HE IS "ACTING" CHILD LIKE. IT WOULD BE BETTER IF U LIVE SEPARATELY FROM UR IN-LAWS IF IT IS AFFORDABLE
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This will be a big test of your love for your spouse if you can pull this off without wanting to get out of the family completely.  I would suggest that you go in with an open mind and a servant heart.  Show interest in the things they find interesting--especially if it is in doing things a different way than you do.  Be willing to help out with chores--not to take over--but to go along side those working to show you are wanting to be with them and learn how they like things done.\n\nMost importantly, find time for time alone with your spouse and don't vent your frustrations to him, even if he is venting his frustrations to you.  And find time alone where you can clear your mind, re-commit yourself to being a learner and servant and have a cell phone so you can call up a friend you know you can vent your frustrations to!
641440
Yes, I do. I have a sister in law that is like that. She can be a very nice person, but she cannot stand it if she cannot have her way . People like that bring out the stubborn nature of me. I know what they are doing and I will not budge. She hates when I do it, it really makes her mad, but she learned to have respect for me.
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Possibly she is trying to help and also wants to be a part of the family.  The best way to deal with it is respect.  Show her respect at all times and remember that the person you married was raised by this woman so she cannot be all bad.  You may also want to consider that it may be your attitude that is the problem.  Try to approach her not as your mother in law but as you would any other person you deal with.