what cause someone to sexually abuse someone else?
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There are lots of studies on that and seems to be none that are concrete evidence of why.  So, take all of them into account.\n\nThink of a young boy who goes to church and his whole family respects the Priest, reverand, pastor, whatever.  This kid see's the respect.  So when he's molested by him he has no where to turn, he can't tell anyone because he is sure they won't believe him.  This eats away at his young mind and causes him to develop a personality where conflict builds.  He's taught that it's unnatural, evil, gross, etc. to molest young people but at the same time here's this highly regarded person who's looked up to by all doing it to him, then preaching on a Sunday morning all the good of the Bible.  This is very common in our society so I use it as an example.\n\nSo this boys developing mind has all of this going on in it and when he grows up he has deep seated emotional problems because of all the conflict instilled on him throughout his Developing years, and he finds himself with the overwhelming desire to molest little boys.  In this case it's a training.\n\nThere's evidence that these molesters are also having actual physical brain malfunctions as well.\n\nIt starts somewhere, but usually (not always) reverts back to something that happened in childhood, during the years of mental developement, that cause this.\n\nIt's an unforgivable sin no matter who you are, no matter why the molester did it nothing outweighs the fact that it's right on top of the list of the worst things you can do to someone.  Our world makes available many ways to help potential molesters when they start to develop, but how many people are going to actually seek help before they do anything and keep the ball rolling?  Not many.  So, in the end it turns out they are caught and spend their life in and out of prison and mental hospitals while they cause this same effect on more younger people who grow up with the problems this causes.  Like a never ending cycle.\n\nA way to stop it may be to really loudly educate people when they're young that no one on Earth is above the laws against molesting, raping, murdering etc. and make more available programs in confidentiality for potential molesters who are fighting the urge.\n\nI have three kids and know in my heart that if this were to happen to any of them, no matter who did it, I would end that persons life because the law does not protect people from them.
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This is an example of an emotionally abusive relationship.  I believe that there are some conditions that make a relationship absolutely flawed and abuse is an example of this.\nWill the person seek counseling in order to change this behavior?  If the person doesn't see the need to do so, I'd suggest getting out of the relationship altogether.  Living in a situation like this will warp you.\nGood luck to you.  I will pray for you.
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maybe she has real hangups with sex due to abuse. or maybe she is a closet lesbian
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newstudent is right. You should report the abuse right away to the police, Social Services, CPS, a teacher. Whoever is appropriate for the type of abuse should be notified. There is NEVER a reason for any type of abuse!
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Depends on what they did... my first guess would be that they feel guilty about doing what they did... and since you seem to know about it, you could be a constant reminder of the thing this person did.... bottom line, your friend needs to come clean and tell someone about it before their guilt consumes them... and you need to be a true friend and stick by their side... no matter how much you think this person hates you. Whatever you do, dont take the blame for something someone else did... make them be responsible and mature and make the right decision.
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I have in the past, and I have known others that have had various experiences with demons.  I don't understand the connection, but it has been my experience (both in my own life, and from discussing with others), that this has occured most often when sexual sin was rampant.
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How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
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most often times when a person is sexually or physically abused a fundamental level of psycological development is missed, not fully cycled through or a person simply stops developing at that point.  Leaving them not only emotionally damaged but psychologically damaged as well.  This damage leads to a damaged idea of self as well as not only an often jaded but confused view of the world around you.  For example if a person is abused when they are preteens then developmentally they can remain there and so when they are older their mind identifies with and is attracted to people of a similar developmental stage, hence preteens... and so on... it is amazingly sad how prevalent sexual abuse is.  I once took a self development class of 88 people and out of the whole room only three had not been sexually abused.  One thing that helped me was to sit and think about and look at the even from an outside point of view and see it for what it was, with out emotion and with out blame.  I came to realize that I knew, there were several points when I knew what was happening was wrong and that it was not what I wanted and that I continued putting myself in the situation out of the desire for affection and the relationship that led to my abuse.  I realized that I had such a hunger to be loved that I was willing to put myself in a bad situation in order to get it and that was where the blame came from, I blamed myself becuase I knew and I allowed it to happen anyway.  Once I was able to sit it for what it was for me, then it was different, but I had to learn, to accept and to move on after that.
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It may have been a completely unrelated incident. Have you experienced it more than once? If, not it probably had nothing to do with the sex. It was just a coincidence.
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Please go slap whoever told you that....if there is proof that the child (no matter what its age) is being abused in any way shape or form, both parents can be charged. even if only one is doin the molesting.
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Somebody 16 or over having sex with somebody 15 or younger.
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if you are serious, report this to the police immediately.  this is borderline molestation/incest.
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Probably a behavioral problem.....unless you believe sexual predators and child rapists are born with their  condition......We have grown up with so much sexual stimulation around us it is easy to believe it is genetic...remember people have been homosexual for years hence the term sodomy from Sodom and Gomorah, those cities had so much revelry and nastyness that God destroyed them
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Hello icheeknow... :)\n\nIt is because you have reported for abuse..just because sometimes..I know..I have been where you are now.. :(\n\nIt may help stop some of the wrong full abuse, if we knew who was reporting us and let us know exactly what caused the abuse..\n\nIn Jesus Most Precious Name..\nWith Love..In Christ.. :)
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First off let me say that I have never sexually abused anyone but I was sexually molested 2 times as a child. Now, to answer your question. If I was to abuse someone sexually, then ya, it maybe could have made a difference because I had it done to me and sometimes the cycle never ends. That is the same way with mental or physical abuse, someone has to end the cycle. I would never do this to another person because I know what it is like to have it done and I would never wish that on another person, never! It is painful, scary, and it haunts you for the rest of your life. Hope this helps.
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The MENTAL ABUSER uses “mind games”. He/she is very clever at twisting things around to blame you, the victim, for everything that goes wrong. People who abuse others mentally are wickedly suspicious and jealous. They need to be “in control” of you, of your mind, body and spirit. That’s why they always have “to be right” all the time, never, ever giving you credit for having a working brain in your head.\n\nThe VERBAL ABUSER is more than just a loud mouth. He/she is a TALK DICTATOR. …yelling, swearing, “dissing”, and always interrupting when you try to get a word in. Worst of all, this kind of abuser uses his mouth to “put you down”. By ridiculing, embarrassing and threatening you, both in front of other people and when you’re alone, the verbal abuser makes you feel much smaller and weaker than you really are.\n\nThe EMOTIONAL ABUSER is like a clone of the verbal abuser, but much more quiet about it. He/she doesn’t scream or swear at you but, instead, criticizes everything you do. He/she often makes cutting little comments about how stupid or incapable you are. Emotional abusers never take what you say or do seriously, rarely listen, and show no respect for you. They make you feel that they “know it all” and you “know nothing”.
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There are several other reasons they might not like sex.\n1) They could have been a victem of molestation as a child.\n\n2) They could have been raped as a teenager or adult.\n\n3) Maybe they just dont like you.