I am going to marry, and I never try sex before,so please would you help me?
96709
If your concerned then buy a book. There are plenty of books designed for people who want to know or improve this area of their lives.\n\nI think they are in the relationship sections of most book stores.
552221
Nope......you're still a virgin.  Hand jobs and fingering aren't sex.  They are great thing sto do to lead up to sex though.\n\nAnyhow, keep that in mind for later, k?  Since you asked you probably need to educate youself some more before going through with doing anything more.  Just a thought!
1035814
i will not have sex until i find the right one, and if i never get married then i will die a virgin, there is more to sharing love than just sex u noe. and this is coming from a 13 yr old.
401713
sex before marriage means to know ur self and what u are going to affront before u take an important step in ur life. sex is not the only thing to do before u get married. and there are things much more important to "try" and taste before u take a final decision, it's just that the world is built on weightless things in a way that we are getting lost in the needs of society instead of caring for our real needs.
103934
Wow this is a tough one but I know you need help so here's my advise:\nHave sex,but be very cautous about what you're doing because remember that it can bring a child into the world. I STRONGLY SUGGEST THAT YOU REALLY THINK THESE QUESTIONS OVER. DO YOU LOVE HIM? ARE YOU WILLING TO RAISE A CHILD WITH HIM? AND POSSIBLY EVEN GET MARRIED JUST IN CASE SOMETHING GOES WRONG?\nWell I think you're gonna have a lot of thinking to do, but please do remember that something may go wrong and you will have to take responsibility for it sooner or later!!!
100653
While I'm not a guy... I had to respond on this one..\n\nWhile waiting to have sex until your married is a honorable decision, it doesn't make sense.  You have to be happy in all parts of your marriage.  Since you'll be with that person until 'death do you part', wouldn't you like to sample the wares before buying them?  I know that sounds crude, but waiting until you get married can cause a lot of problems in the marraige...\n\n-Doubts and daydreams over what it might have been like with another person.  Could it be better?  Could lead to cheating.\n\n-Sexual problems - this one can be open ended and limitless.\n\nSo while you shouldn't go sleep with any Tom, Dick, Harry, or Jane... you should probably consider having sex with your fiance/girlfriend/boyfriend before you get married...
241216
Here's a start ask about where did i leave my remote control or what should i wear tomorrow or even ask if i have sex without protection will i have a chance to become pregnant or recieving a STD.There's a starter kit for you.-lol-
755381
If your asking than your not ready.  Don't do anything.  Trust me, there is time enough later when your more comfortable with the idea and the responsibility that sex brings.
164988
you need to relieve yourself by thinking of her or even better ask her to help you. You can do it without having sex. Ask her to watch you. It's fun!!!Or just ask God to help you until you are ready for marriage.
751889
Do what feels comfortable to you and him.  Take your time and work up to it.  He should spend time with foreplay so you will be wet and lubricated and/or use a lubricating jelly such as KY Jelly.  He should work in slowly the first time.  It may or may not seem a little uncomfortable, but if you relax your muscles in that area, it will be easier.\n\nIf your hymen has not broken, since you are a virgin, there is likely to be a little blood.  Do not worry about that.  It's normal for a virgin because of the hymen breaking.  Sometimes it is broken anyway because of sports, etc. and you won't bleed.\n\nAnother young gal once asked me what it would be like.  I told her that I had seen how her intended looked at her and he adored her. I knew that he would be gentle and loving and she would be just fine.  When she came back from the honeymoon, we had a little reception for them.  She took me aside and said, "You know that little conversation we had?"  I said, "Yes...."   And she gave me the hand gesture that meant everything was wonderful, with a big smile on her face and a wink.\n\nIf your intended loves you, it will be just fine.  Relax and enjoy becoming one.\n\nBest Wishes for your future as man and wife.  God Bless!\n\nSue
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First of all, SEX is not everything!!!  Sex is like Food.  You can have too much of it and when you do, you can get sick of it.  There is a rule that I have about sex.  Save your body for the person that you plan to marry.  You avoid diseases and you can say to your wife that she was so good that you saved yourself for her.  If you have slept with say 100 ladies, what can you say to your future wife?  Boy, you are so good that it took 100 tries to get the right person?
225550
I'm a 20 year old female and still have not lost my virginity.  Saving sex for marriage.  And honestly, I'm a little afraid of it.
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I am all for abstinence.\n\n\nThis is how I feel about it ...\n\nYou should stay a virgin till you're married.\nGod intended it to be that way.\nBut many, MANY people abuse that.\nAnd God looks down on those people.\n\nYou don't just give your virginity to just anybody.\nIt is the best present you can give your future husband.\nIt is you... it is all of you.\n\nIf you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.\nYou'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.\nIt won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.\n\nSex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.\nIt takes two very mature people.\nYou do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.\nMost people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.\n\nI am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of more than 9 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
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YES, have sex before you're married!  Trust me, play the field.  Just make sure that you are responsible and mature enough to make good choices (like who you choose to be with and that you always use condoms, etc).  \n\nImagine that it's like your first car... when you first get behind the wheel of your car you're so excited and it's so thrilling to have freedom, etc.  Then you have your car for a couple of years or so and the excitment has worn off a little.  You might start to wonder what it must be like to drive your friend's car... or what about an SUV or a truck?  Would you be happy NEVER knowing what it would be like to drive any other car, FOREVER?  Great metaphor, huh?  Yet strangly true in my experience.
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i think it's good your still a virgin. I'm 25 and still one. I'm one who still believes you need to be married to have sex.
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I think you'll be fine. You've just built it up in your mind a bit too much (which is only natural whatever your age).\n\nI also think that you have a lot of stress in your life right now. Even good things like buying a house and getting married cause stress because they are big, life-changing events. Look at the facts:\n\n1- getting married\n2- buying a house\n3- having sex for the first time\n4- Losing your religious faith\n\nAnd probably more things that you haven't mentioned. You have a lot going on right now and it's only natural to be nervous. you are not messed up you are just under pressure. \n\nNobody is forcing you to have sex on your wedding night. This is YOUR marriage, YOUR wedding, YOUR life and YOUR rules. You and your partner are the ones who make the rules and when you are ready for the next step it will come naturally. Just try not to put pressure on yourselves. Relax and go easy on yourselves. You two make the rules here.
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Yes and No.  If you save yourself for marriage, you won't have anything to compare it to, so sex will be great.  You also won't have to worry about getting pregnant and being some baby's mama.  And you'll also be at less risk of contracting an STD.