how are u supposed to react if u find out that u are adopted?
82896
There is no one right way to react.
665089
Ask your adopted parents. And/or the adoption agency.
157675
You should tell them as soon as your ready to handle their reaction. Good Luck be strong remember its your life :)
284942
no, I'm not adopted, but my heart goes out to those who were and are unable to locate their biological parents.
561400
For me personally it was through a letter. I think they already knew but I had to take time to make sure I was sure and then I went ahead with it.\n\nIn the letter I just told them that they've done nothing wrong - this is just who I am. It doesn't make me love them any less. That I understand that there will be issues but when they are ready to talk so am I.\n\nI just told them about my partner and tried to let them know as much as I am feeling.  I find it easier to write a letter because that's how I can usually get all my thoughts out.  \n\nThere is no easy way to do it. There is no 'right time' because if there was you wouldn't be asking this question.  You have to feel comfortable within yourself so that you are able to handle the situation - whatever may arise - just kidding. \n\nLet me say that my mother needed a cooling off period but I suspected that because she is religious. I think that was the hardest thing on her. Now they wouldn't have it any other way. They know I am truly happy and that I have been able to love them more since I have been true to myself.
756634
Why wouldn't your parents tell you.  If you weren't I would think they would tell you of course not so you very well may be.  They will probably tell you when you are old enough to handle all that entails.  Don't think you could find it on the web especially if it was a closed adoption as most are.
529939
Your adoptive parents should have copies of the adoption papers/amended birth certificate, which would tell you where you were adopted from (agency, state, etc). Then I would contact that agency/state and see what they can tell you. There is a number on your birth certificate which correlates to a number on your original birth certificate. You will probably have to fill out paperwork stating why you are wanting this information and then hope that your birth family has filled out the same paperwork saying it is ok. If the adoptee has made contact with the agency saying that he is wanting to be found, then the agency will make contact with you
617920
Everyone goes through this. Don't worry. You are what you make yourself and you will find that out when you are ready.
591114
My brother and I both grew up knowing from the start that we were adopted.  Yes we are biological brother and sister.  I don't feel that it affected me at all rather than the void of not knowing where I came from.  I think that I keep people at more of a distance now that I have been reunited with my birthfamily (due to alot of deceit and unanswered questions).
630741
Adoption from my own point of view means helping someone who needs a parental help(care). Therefor, I urge you to go ahead and adopt one for God's sake. Most especially when it concerns a starving child from an underdeveloped world. You must surely be rewarded for that by the Almighty God.
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There's really nothing you, or your sister can do until your children turn 18.  I suggest you try to wait it out, and if all else fails, tell your sister how you feel.  Ask her to tell them where you are, so they know where to find you.  \n\nBe careful not to let them sneak out of the house they live in now though, to see you.  If you talk to them, urge them to ask their adoptive parents what they think.\n\nI'm very sorry this happend to you.  I couldn't possibly know what it was like to lose my children.  You're in my prayers.
766601
I am adopted, possibly from a rape.  I agree that it violates the mom's rights, and could torment the child from this sort of situation.  I am grateful she gave me up to a family that does love me. I am sorry for what she went through, and once I found out about it, I stopped any further searching for other family.  There are families out there who want children and cannot have them.  Adoption is a great answer, not abortion.  Sorry, my opinion.  I  am glad I was not sucked down a sink!
496363
Check your State laws to be sure of what applies to YOU.\n\nWrite to the Human Resource Dept of the State where you were adopted from - if you know that much information. They should have "non-identifying information" on your birth family that can be sent to you upon written request.\n\nAny "identifying" information about your birth family - genealogical and medical histories and records will have to be requested through a petition of the Court.\n\nIf your petition to the Court is approved, you can ask that a Court-appointed Intermediary find your birth family. Know in advance that it is up to your birth family to agree to a possible meeting with you.\n\nIf your adoption records are opened, your attorney can give you the info on your genealogical and medical history/records - depending on what's in your records.\n\nCheck the internet for an adoption triad group for MN - there's a Yahoo group for those searching in New Mexico and other Yahoo groups for other states. I helped a local man find his relatives in South Dakota but he was adopted as a child, not as an infant, and remembered enough details to help him.\n\nDon't give up, it can be tedious, time-consuming and sometimes seemingly impossible ... just hang in there.
232884
That depends on how much information you have about him.  In my case I am adopted and have no information.  And as I was born in NY and it is a sealed records state all I can do is post with the adoption search boards and registries and wait and hope.  But if you know his name you have many other options.  internet phone search of the area where he last lived and such.  IF you truely want help you will need to give more information.\n\nBut please note.  You are not likely to find the reunion at the end you are hoping for.  You may forgive him but he is not likely to forgive himself.  From what I have seen that is what makes many parents who abandon kids stay away.  It is easier to pretend you dont exist than to face you and have to deal with the guilt for what they have done.
135631
I found my birth parents for free and my records are still sealed to this day!!!  I'm 26 years old and found them when I was 19.  It only took me 6 months because they still live in my city that I was born in.  And don't worry if you don't have any names or whatever.  All I had was my date of birth!  Please Please don't be discouraged by these people who tell you that your records are sealed and to just move on!  Obivously most of the people that say this are NOT adopted.  I am living proof that it is possible and can happen for you.  First thing you need to do is find out if you were adopted thru a agency or if you are like me you went thru the court.  If you went thru the court like I did I can give you the steps you need to take to track them down.  Remember everyone has a paper trail this day and age!  It's a long process to put into this forum.  If you need help or would like help let me know!  My email address is lanoviaweddingflowers@hotmail.com  And remember to have an open mind.  The people that birthed you have feelings too.  Perhaps they may not want to be found.  So make sure you are prepared for the worse if this should happen...Anyway let me know if I can be of help and good luck!!!
492466
peace and love to you and yours !! no bashing of anyone here - except unthinking uncaring people who bring children into this world and leave them to their own way because it is an inconvenience to their lifestyle... I'll stop now..before I get really worked up.... thanks to all who adopt !!
206925
you know...this problem is so deeply rooted in our society (etc:you have to look a certain way be a certain way )and ,unless you love yourself enough not to care what their opinion is of what God gave you, you will spend the balance of your life trying to figure out who or what you should be to whom.  I'ts hard ,I fall into that trap a lot  I HAVE TO REMEMBER who i really am. a very unique child of God,  God bless.