Why does it take Valentine's Day to make men care about having a relationship?
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"SHERI":\n         No problem with this one.....!\n         Valentine's Day contains all of the hooks,snares,bells and whistles that men feel confident with as a means of "getting a foot in the door".Also,it gives them one day out of the year in which material extortion (candy,flowers,etc.)are perfectly alright are needn"t be thought of as gratuitous......I"m a man, I ought to know!......
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There are some guys out there that just do not feel comfortable when it comes to the opposite sex.  It is not that they are gay, but they are not wanting to offend the person they really care for.  There is nothing wrong with taking a relationship slow.  A relationship is build on trust.  The more trust there is in a relationship, the longer the relationship will last.  Good things come to those that wait.
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Nothing special as my hubby and I don't believe we need a special day to show our love to one another. Or a commericial reason to buy something. It is actually our rule to not buy flowers during the months of Feb and May as they jump the price so much as to make it ridiculous..Why does everyone have to have a special day to say I Love You! Should not this be done daily in a relationship? This is a day to make those with no partner feel alone and I think it is so sad to see so many feel like that because so many fall for commericial bulllll.
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St. Valentine's Day falls on February 14, and is the traditional day on which lovers in certain cultures let each other know about their love, commonly by sending Valentine's cards, which are often anonymous. The history of Valentine's day can be traced back to a Catholic Church feast day, in honor of Saint Valentine. The day's associations with romantic love arrived after the High Middle Ages, during which the concept of romantic love was formulated.\n\nThe day is now most closely associated with the mutual exchange of love notes in the form of "valentines." Modern Valentine symbols include the heart-shaped outline and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, the practice of hand writing notes has largely given way to the exchange of mass-produced greeting cards. The Greeting Card Association estimates that, world-wide, approximately one billion valentine cards are sent each year, making the day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year behind Christmas. The association also estimates that women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines.
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He may have a lot of issues or feelings unresolved that need dealing with on his end.  Some men find it hard to relate their emotional feelings to their partner especially when they feel overwhelmed.  If he doesn't want to communicate with you in a few days I would definately be thinking you need to have a long talk.
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sometimes it dosent matter.this time it did....we only know the difference when we fight.\ninfatuations dont weather fighting well.\nlove does.
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Men have a natural driven desire to have sex , Most guys are not interested in a relationship they want to satisfy their carnal lust and move on to the next person . I am having a hard time finding someone that will get to know me and take the time it takes to build a relationship . Most guys are so superficial they just want to have a one night stand . Good luck
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Valentine's is celebrated on February 14, celebrated in various American and European countries by the exchange of valentines or love tokens.\n\nRoman Roots\nThe history of Valentine's Day is obscure, and further clouded by various fanciful legends. The holiday's roots are in the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia, a fertility celebration commemorated annually on February 15. Pope Gelasius I recast this pagan festival as a Christian feast day circa 496, declaring February 14 to be St. Valentine's Day.\n\nValentines Galore\nWhich St. Valentine this early pope intended to honor remains a mystery: according to the Catholic Encyclopedia, there were at least three early Christian saints by that name. One was a priest in Rome, another a bishop in Terni, and of a third St. Valentine almost nothing is known except that he met his end in Africa. Rather astonishingly, all three Valentines were said to have been martyred on Feb. 14.\n\nMost scholars believe that the St. Valentine of the holiday was a priest who attracted the disfavor of Roman emperor Claudius II around 270. At this stage, the factual ends and the mythic begins. According to one legend, Claudius II had prohibited marriage for young men, claiming that bachelors made better soldiers. Valentine continued to secretly perform marriage ceremonies but was eventually apprehended by the Romans and put to death. Another legend has it that Valentine, imprisoned by Claudius, fell in love with the daughter of his jailer. Before he was executed, he allegedly sent her a letter signed "from your Valentine." Probably the most plausible story surrounding St. Valentine is one not focused on Eros (passionate love) but on agape (Christian love): he was martyred for refusing to renounce his religion.\n\nIn 1969, the Catholic Church revised its liturgical calendar, removing the feast days of saints whose historical origins were questionable. St. Valentine was one of the casualties.\n\nChaucer's Love Birds\nIt was not until the 14th century that this Christian feast day became definitively associated with love. According to UCLA medieval scholar Henry Ansgar Kelly, author of Chaucer and the Cult of Saint Valentine, it was Chaucer who first linked St. Valentine's Day with romance.\n\nIn 1381, Chaucer composed a poem in honor of the engagement between England's Richard II and Anne of Bohemia. As was the poetic tradition, Chaucer associated the occasion with a feast day. In "The Parliament of Fowls," the royal engagement, the mating season of birds, and St. Valentine's Day are linked:\n\nFor this was on St. Valentine's Day, \nWhen every fowl cometh there to choose his mate.\n\nTradition of Valentine's Cards\n Over the centuries, the holiday evolved, and by the 18th century, gift-giving and exchanging hand-made cards on Valentine's Day had become common in England. Hand-made valentine cards made of lace, ribbons, and featuring cupids and hearts eventually spread to the American colonies. The tradition of Valentine's cards did not become widespread in the United States, however, until the 1850s, when Esther A. Howland, a Mount Holyoke graduate and native of Worcester, Mass., began mass-producing them. Today, of course, the holiday has become a booming commercial success. According to the Greeting Card Association, 25% of all cards sent each year are valentines.
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It is so right for many reasons. I say go ahead especially if you guys are in love. Men are not accustomed to being treated special, they have all the pressure of having to be sweet and romantic because society has labelled that their role, so when u do a simple thing like open their door, or pull out their chair, or give them a nice massage they feel so pampered.\nGo for it , May God bless you both
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That we meet all of your needs. We have an inate biological chemistry that tells us that we should provide for their partners and make them feel safe.\n\nMany male dysfunctional emotional issues that stem from guys often arise from the feeling of not being able to provide for needs on many level, and the shame that accompanies that-- whether it be physical or emotional.
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Nothing, because valentines day is a lame assed holiday created to make money for the greeting card/chocolate industry and make people think they're entitled to be treated extra special.  If he wants to impress me he'd do something nice for me on a random day when society didn't tell him he HAD to.  ;)
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The people who break up on Valentines day over a gift(or lack there of) are destined to break up anyway....Valentines is just an excuse.
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men who treat dates like they do buying a car. Women, and men, should not have to try and sell themselves and impress the other person on their dates. It's a chance to get to know each other on a deeper level, not judge the other person's worth.
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Sometimes women like to get people to care about them. If you actually do things for them, they really appreciate it. If they don't you will have to let them know how you feel about it. You might say that men needs care too but women are more fragile in the sense that they're not as mature as some men even if I say so myself. Women is just hard to understand so you have to take time to get to know them better. That's just life.
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Most men don't know how to give because it doesn't mean the same thing for them as it does for you.  20 years ago I received flowers from a female friend and it has been one of the fondest memories that I can remember.\n\nWhat did you get him for Valentines?  Show him an example and he may get the picture the next time.
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Valentine's Day is a celebration of love associated with St. valentine.  It a holiday now trivialized by cards, chocolates, and gifts.  The original message is still carried over as union of two people.  As for your personal views, the commecilization of the holiday puts soo much emphasis on being with someone.  No you shouldn't change your attitude to mix in with the common view some people share.
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It's supposed to be so happy because it's a day of love and mush, and love is happiness.  But for single people, they don't really have anyone to love, and seeing all the people in love, especially on this day just makes them sadder. If you focus your attention on somehting else besides your lack of love, it can be happier. I've found voulenteering at an old folks home, showing your family how much you love them, and then buying yourself chocolate and something shiny helps.  Especially the chocolate part.