People think me and my best friend(girl) are gay just cauz we hold hands when nervous? What do I do !?
94394
Absolutely don't worry about it. If people do say that to you then just laugh it off. It's good that you have a best friend you feel close to, a lot of people won't understand/be lucky enough to have that.
678395
You should be there for him! He has been honest to you and you need to support his decision! Thats what friends are for.  Thats so cool actually because id like a guy friend that was gay.  They are so sweet and caring and make the best friend out of everyone.  Accept his decision and carry on with your friendship as normal.
1014542
I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
545061
Listen closely, you don't want to lose a valuable friendship.\n\nGay people (or people who are confused about their sexual orientation) tend to think that ANYONE who is sweet is gay. That is NOT TRUE. I have a teacher, who seems VERY GAY. He's way tooooo sweet to seem straight, his voice even has that little tone to it.. i swear i would have finished his class believing he was truly gay. Then one day, i was out, and went to give him my excuse, and he said, "don't worry about it, I was out to, I cancelled class. My wifes aunt passed away so we had to go to her funeral in Flint." I was like, oh, you're married? and he said, "yes.. here you can see her picture" and she was a she.\n\nMORAL OF THE STORY: not everyone whos nice and seems gay is gay. People now have a adefinition of being gay.\nGay= a guy whos nice and sweet, and has a certain ring to his voice, and in most cases is hot.\nbut that is not completely true, as a matter of fact it's completely false. Society tends to give false images..\n\nBe careful. If he's gay, he's gay. If not, then he's not.\n\nWhat you can do is, confess that you're gay, or you think you might be, and tell him you don't want it to ruin your friendship.\n\nIf he's gay, he'll be comfortable enough to say he is. If not, then he'll probably get freaked out at first, but then come around to accept you for who you are.
421889
You need to be upfront and honest with your Best Friend. Let her now how you feel.  But you are still calling her your best friend so maybe if the two of you talked about what makes you uncomfortable about still being friends, it can be worked out!  But make sure you are honest with her.  Just because you don't have the same beliefs as her doesn't mean you need to disrepect her and her disrepect you.  Good luck to you!
251734
Best friends.  Two people.  Gender unspecified.  All you can do is continue to be a friend, and let the situation develop.  You can't force anything, as the assumption would be that you wish to get in between them.  Hang out together, maybe make it a point to discuss various different forms of sexuality, bring up the subject of triangles.  No pressure, but find out where each of them stands on the subject.  In the process, they may get the hint.
907099
Hi,, I've been in your position when i was in senior high i know exactly how you feel. But time and experienced have proved me that those "awkward" feeling and silly acts around her are useless. Instead of getting her attention, you even may scare her and make her feel that you're weird. So, my suggestion is these:\n\n1. Think as if you don't want to date her, but you wanna be her best friend.\nBy thinking this way, you will lose all of those nervous feeling and can be yourself around her, which is maybe what she's looking for. Be there for her, care about her, listen to her, help her, just be the best friend she can have.\n\n2. When you two get closer, and you know that she feels comfortable with you, ask her out, but not for a date. Ask her to go shopping together, see an exhibition or anything neutral. Don't forget to dress up and act nice.\n\n3. After 3 times going out together, it's time to ask !\nAfter spending time together, you may feel how she feels about you (is there any romantic feeling or not). If you still can't feel it, ask nicely. \n\nEven if she says no, don't feel sad, it's nothing personal. Maybe she's just not the one. At least you've tried your best and be a gentleman.\n\nGood luck! :)
533838
how old r u 5? homosexuality means u love some1 of the same sex it has nothing to do with being nervous
497440
if you guys are best friends then there might be a chance that he might be thinkin the same way as you. build the courage and just tell him your feelins. if he's really your best friend then he wont hate you, or avoid you.
555785
Stop being scared. You should just tell them. You will feel a lot better getting it off your chest. They might love you too and are scared to say anything as well. Then you both will be missing out. So go for it...You never know.
829734
Oh, kind of an embarrasing situation. I would first talk to my best friend about it. Have her pave the way and tell u if he fancies u or not. If u get a positive feedback, start by taking him out to a movie or something along with your friend, once things are cool, u guys can start the real dating
626046
im a very shy person and id never tell him that. i suggest you to tell your best friend to tell him or send him a note and if youre shy like me, tell him to keep it a secret
225099
well apparently you are not straight.  You might scared her if she does not have the same feelngs.  so lose a good friend or tell her how you feel and she feels the same way.  vey scary.........maybe ask her questions that might help you to decide how to make a move or not.  good luck
871750
no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.
135052
They're right, you're not gay. You're just feeling a Special Bond, with your friend that you've never felt for someone. He's your BEST FRIEND and your FAMILY now, and you're depressed, insecure, and your feeling vulnerable, therefore it causes you to want to cling to him. You don't want to loose him, like you did your parents. All these things are making you confused because you've never been through so much at one time in your life. Thank god you had such a wonderful friend. That kind of friend, you'll love for the rest of your life.\n  You'll be in my prayers. Good Luck.*\n\nAddition:  MIKE92111, below, gave you a GREAT ANSWER.\n   Loving something or someone, is not the same as being  'in-love' with someone.
418304
This always seems to happen. Best friends are best friends because they like the same things...including guys. She isn't doing it to hurt you, she can't help the way she feels. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. See if he has any friends that she may be interested in. If you have a strong, open relationship with your friend, maybe you could talk to her & find out her intentions, tell her how much he means to you & warn her what it could do to your friendship if she tries anything on with him. Don't be mean about it though, not unless she intends to steal him from you.
15481
If your best friend tells you he is gay, you can still be best friends. However, you should tell him if you are not interested in that kind of relationship with him and if he can't seem to accept this then two things will most likely happen. Either you will work through this or the friendship may end. P.S. Try not to be judgemental of his situation, that's just my personal opinion.