I am adopted, should i find my birth mom?
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Considering how young she was, I would think that she would like to know about you and how your life has been.  Most reunions seem to be happy ones, but I'm sure there are also risks for some hurt feelings as well.  So you need to be sure you're really up to handling all the possible outcomes of contact with her.  Also, it is good to have some knowledge of your biological family's medical history, especially for when you want to have kids of your own.  It may take a while to find her, so be patient.  Good Luck!
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Try doing searches of the local phone directories using the given name.  I'm thinking it is really possible that you might find something that way.  Try: http://www.verizon.com or even Yahoo! People Finder.  We have located a number of missing alumni with these types of searches.  Good luck.  But, it really can be a big, and sometimes unwelcome, shock for an adopted child to hear from a birth parent.  Be prepared for disappointment.  Mr. Robinson may not be as anxious to hear from you as you are to hear from him.\n\nIt is also likely that he was adopted by someone and now has their name.  An adoption search might be more helpful.  Try the free Adoptee & Birth Family Registry at http://www.birthfamily.com/registry/ .  This might be a better way to learn if he is interested to find you.\n\nAgain, good luck in your search.
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here are lots of adoption support groups online that can help you. Never Give Up! \n\nwww.zabasearch.com \n\nwww.ussearch.com (the first part is free)..and this can tell you where she lives..(city and state)\n\nwhite pages to find listed people\nwww.theultimates.com\n\nGreat Articles\nhttp://www.adoption-help.org\n\nSupport Groups:\n\nhttp://groups.msn.com/theforgottenpeople...\n\nYahoo! Groups\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com\n\nSearchingRegistry\nfamilytiesadoptionsearch\nadoptee-support\nsoaringangels\nusaadoptiondatabase\ntouchedbyadoption\n\n\nGoogle Groups\nalt.birthright \nalt.support.adoption\nalt.support.adoption\nSource(s):\nNever Give Up!
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Anger is common in adopted children. Anger for a number of reasons. Its ok not to like her. And its ok to love her even though you don't like her. The reason you "love" your new mother more is she is there to support you when you need it. You will have lots of disagreements with your "new" mother too and you will then wonder why you can't be with your birth mother. Blood is still thicker than water and you will always be attached emotionally to your birth mother. You have to understand that that will cause conflict in you. The best thing I can tell you is you need to talk to a professional and get counseling. Very few people can relate to you because they have not been there. You are VERY lucky to have a "new" mother to help you. She will be a great asset to get you through a challenging time in your life. Know one thing--- YOU CAN MAKE IT and be successful in life (and HAPPY). The challenges you face should only make you stronger.
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Im 16. I was adopted when i was 4. My parents didn't tell me that i was adopted until i was 13. (almost 14) I felt abandoned, sad and confused because my biological mother didn't want me. I was depressed for awhile. But my parents explained to me that they loved me and that my biological mother loved me too, she just wanted to give me something better. (she was a druggie and was always out partying...) My parents also explained to me that they chose to take me, and that meant the world to me. They chose me, and they didn't have to. Now, i feel a little better about it. I talked to my biological mother for 3 years before i finally got what i needed out of her, reassurance that giving me up was for the better. So, if you plan on adopting a child, make sure that if you're going to tell them that you don't wait unti lthey're 16 or older (it hurts worse....) and make sure to explain to them that you chose them and that being with you is for the better for them. that's what helped me a lot. And just be there for them. If they want to find they're real parents, i would let them. Because it gives them reassurance and peace.
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well if you know where the adoption taking place they may be able to help you .i went to the place where i was adoption and they came me some info but they couldn,t give me her name on the place
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Birth records are kept on a county by county basis.  You will need to call or visit the county seat where you think you may have been born.  If you're lucky, you will find the right county on the first try.  You may be able to contact birth records office in each of these states to determine if they have this info on a state wide basis. Chances are, this info is available on the Internet through their web sites.  Someone here will come up with those web addresses, so stand by.
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Here’s a link  to search resources\n\nhttp://www.adopteerights.org/search/internetresources.htm\n\nbest wishes and God bless
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can you give a little more info on what your circumstances are? where do you live, where were you born, why were you seperated from your birth mother, etc? that will help to find the appropriate site.\n\n\n(just a note to anyone else in this situation... don't forget, the people who raise you are just as much your "real" parents as your biological ones. it's important to know where you came from- but think about who made you who you are. Don't mean to preach, but... spare a thought for the folks who loved you for your whole life and who might feel hurt if you appear to reject them, make sure they know you love 'em, ne?)
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1st thing - I am adopted too! I have 2 siblings that were also adopted through catholic charities, but in NJ. I was adopted privately so my situation is a little different. I know my medical history, because I met my birth mother about 6 years ago and my full-bro & 2 half-bros that live with her. She is a wonderful person, who made the right decision and gave me a better life, were such good friends now.  \n\n * CAll Catholic charities - they can help you. They may not be able to tell you where you sibling are though - they need there permission. The best I could do is have letters put in there files incase they ever want to look for me. I'm pretty much stuck their - there's nothing else I can do - becasue I don't know there adopted names. I must say, I know not everyone has good expiences when searching for biological family - so be prepared for rejection, but dont take it personally - they dont even know you.
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Talk to your mother it first, she knows who he is.  Tell her how you feel.  She might have listed him as the birth father on your birth certificate.  If you don't get any help from her talk to other family members until you at least get a name.  It's a start but it will be a long road to find the right person.  You can ask people where you live, or where your mom used to live if they know him or his family.  Go on line to the white pages and type in his name and contact the people that come up as a match.  start by asking if they knew your mother and take it from there.\n\nBest of luck to you.
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That depends on how much information you have about him.  In my case I am adopted and have no information.  And as I was born in NY and it is a sealed records state all I can do is post with the adoption search boards and registries and wait and hope.  But if you know his name you have many other options.  internet phone search of the area where he last lived and such.  IF you truely want help you will need to give more information.\n\nBut please note.  You are not likely to find the reunion at the end you are hoping for.  You may forgive him but he is not likely to forgive himself.  From what I have seen that is what makes many parents who abandon kids stay away.  It is easier to pretend you dont exist than to face you and have to deal with the guilt for what they have done.
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God did not choose you to be adopted. Your birth mother did.  Your birth mother did the most unselfish act by giving you to a person that she thought would be better for you than her.  It is too bad that your adopted mother didn't have disciplinary  skills.  Hitting a child only promotes hitting.  Don't get me wrong a light spank on the bottom when children are to young to reason with is OK.
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Start with an online search, including places like Classmates.com, if you know where he went to high school.  Check the town he was from, and check for other people with his last name. The Mormon Temple has excellent databases of records - birth, marriage, divorce, death, phone books, etc. Once you start searching, people along the way will help you.  Keep a notebook of all your leads, because information sometimes comes in a non-linear fashion.  There are many searchers out there who will help for free.  You don't say if you are adopted, or if this is a case of divorce or abandonment, or if you are unknown to your father.  But you will find him.  He is likely not far away from you.  Many birth children find birth parents close by.  Ask your mother detailed questions and write down the answers.  A notebook will really help you stay organized.  God Bless.
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My brother and I both grew up knowing from the start that we were adopted.  Yes we are biological brother and sister.  I don't feel that it affected me at all rather than the void of not knowing where I came from.  I think that I keep people at more of a distance now that I have been reunited with my birthfamily (due to alot of deceit and unanswered questions).
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It sounds as if your actual citizenship, adoption and work status are questionable.  You will need to contact the court or attorney who handled your adoption. They may be able to help you trace your documents in order to get a Guatemalan Birth Certificate.  Many children in the US when adopted are issued new birth certificates listing the adoptive parents as the new birth parents. \n\nIs it possible that your adoptive parents told you that you were legal, when that was not really true? The combination of "lost documents" and the social security card with INS restrictions make it all seem suspicious.\n\nIf you ever once had citizenship then you would not need to "get" citizenship again, though you might need to replace your documents. I would start with a visit to the online US embassy, they have information and contacts regarding gaining citizenship. These contacts may be able to help you work through your paperwork step by step to get your desired result.\n\nYou can visit the local Social Security office and get a new Social Security card issued, though it is likely to still have the INS authorization restriction. \n\nYou may benefit from the services of an immigration attorney.
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There are agencies that enable you to make yourself publicly known in case the children are looking for you. This can be useful in case a child needs you for some medical reason (tissue or organ donor, genetic testing, etc.). \n\nBut otherwise, I would not try to locate them if I were you. You could upset them, their adoptive family, and yourself by doing so.