I really want to date a guy I dated 10 years ago, problem is, he thinks I am lesbian. What should I do?
91281
Prove to him that you're not a lesbian(If you know what I mean).
315240
I would do it right now! I have done it before and found out he started up an account for a dating website. I got on there and changed his preferences to males rather than females!\n\nIf you are curious, go for it but brace your self for what you might find....
797236
You maintain your self and still be a nice person. Others will see that you are mature about it. You and he may want to date in the future but in the meantime you should start looking for another fellow. ○
130221
You should ask him to be straight with you be like: "Look it's not fair for you to just change your mind about how you feel. Just tell me the truth so that we can both just move on if we have to."
764967
You might want to really consider a relationship with this person.  That he dated your mother, previously, and now that you are dating him, makes for situation in which he has to operate with some deception.  I wouldn't worry if he was straightforward with you but given that you suspect he lied to you and you haven't discussed this with him, you're relationship might be in trouble.  If you aren't able to communicate to him freely and he with you, then you will need to reconsider your relationship.  Is he lying to you?  Most likely he is, but you have to ask him yourself. Consider the state of your communications in your relationship and consider his answer to your suspicions.  It will tell.  If he comes clean then its ok.  If not, then you might want to consider other options before getting more involved.  Good luck, cheers!
702132
Well I can tell you really like him by just listening to you babble on about how your suppost to tell him... lol. If I was you I would find an easy way of just letting him know your interested in him. you don't want to come out and say I have had feelings for you for years. That makes him believe you want a relationship and since thats not what your after now. Just try maybe bring up a past relationship of his or yours and when your discussing it and what went wrong in it. (works really good if its his old relationship your talking about) Just kind of casually drop in there "If I was her I wouldn't have done you that way" or something like " I know how great of a guy you are and I would have felt blessed to have you" things like that let him know that you see him for something more than a friend. if our talking about your old relationships then something like "I wish he would have been more like you" or something. you get the idea. little hints to let him know you could like him as more. and if the conversation doesn't get to ackward then try saying I wish we could get to know each other better we might find we could be more than what we are. and then go on about your visit and let in sink in his brain. Sometimes with guys just a suttle hint is like a bomb. just be cool relax and enjoy your time with him. and by the way I like the idea of a walk when your talking about it, gives your privacy and relaxes you both. Good Luck
339174
The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
667571
Sounds to me like part of you wants male companionship but deep down inside you want a lesbian relationship.  Can you not find a balance and have male friends and female lovers?  I have had kind of the same experience when I was younger and had to find a healthy balance.  Sometimes we just want to be with males because it is what is "expected" of us.  Spend some time with your thoughts and feelings and be honest with yourself to find the answers!
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u knoww... i think u should waitt.. cuz it seems like shes not ready as well..... i think u should be seeing eachother.. but dont make it official.. 10 years is a long time.. its like meeting someone new...soo first share all the time that u guys have avialbleee..but u shouldnt go for it as well.. and it wouuld make her feel really weird as well.. knowing u just got out of a marriage..and u have moved on so fast..it just looks not right.... im not telling u to wait like a year...just wait till u feel and she feels u guys are ready!!!good luck!
105949
Ask your friend if she would mind if you dated him.  If she says it's okay with her, then you're in the clear.\n\nI had the same thing happen when I was in high school.  My best friend liked a boy.  Then I went away for the summer.  When I came back, she didn't like him, but I did.  She was TOTALLY cool with me dating him.  \n\nIf she didn't want me to date him, I wouldn't have.  She is more important to me than any guy could be.\n\nThat was so long ago!  That boy and I dated for a long time, but eventually broke up.  She and I are still best friends and we're now 30!!!
935795
tell him ur a lesbian because of him
452042
youre married. right, email him why not? you missed your ten years then rebond again but talk to him. make sure he respect you as a fren and only a fren. youre married remember that. and be happy for him if he has a soulmate already
456843
hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
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looks like you've gotten some good advice already.  \nlooks like ya done made your move too.\n\ni'm sure you done right by getting rid of him, especially if he became rebelious or defensive or even if he acted like you were the nut.\n\ni'm gonna assume that ya (now x-) bf was at least within 10 years of your age.  now with that info, i ask you to think for a minute... has he been stand-offish, less attentive, communication getting (well,) different maybe even less, then it was best to jump out now.  after all ya not kids any more in high school playing with teenage emotions.\nbut.....\n\nif things haven't changed to the worest or haven't been getting boreing, then maybe this guy is telling the truth or maybe he does like the name andrew or maybe he does have a gay attraction, that maybe he, himself hasn't realalized.\n\n\nnaaah...  stick with the breack-up and find you a real man that doesn't want to play headgames, because that is exactly what he's doing to you.  i'm sorry if it hurts your heart/feelings, but it's better now than a few months or years down the road.
854641
first of all, i am so sorry you are in this position.  i was in a similar situation not too long ago.  i dont think it is a bad idea to date someone.  you just have to be sure you are honest with the guys so that they know what they are getting themselves into.  i dont think you should stop living because this guy was a creep to you.  asfor the trust issues, i think it takes a long time to feel safe again after you have been betrayed (believe me, i know) take your time and dontr rush into anything.  God bless you and you baby.
76184
You are just being allowed to date this year?  Dear lord...  welcome to the dating rollercoaster ride of ups and downs, highs and lows.  In this day and age, don't expect to settle down for at least a good decade or two.  I don't like anyone either right now.  Don't worry, the odds are that you will like many, many guys sometime between now and death.  So my advice would be to relax, and enjoy having your heart before someone comes and snatches it away.  I hated hearing this when i was younger, but it's true, there is plenty of time.
1169319
Don't worry about it. If you've done nothing wrong then they can't get a restraining order. They can't get one because you're lesbian and They don't know what your intentions are. Like you said, They've no evidence.\nThey are just bluffing. Take no notice and try not to worry about it.