I realize i am to needy with a man. How do I control myself?
87382
Knowing the problem is 70% of the solution.  STOP BEING NEEDY!  Like yourself and depend on yourself so that you don't need to "need" a man....then you'll ENJOY a man's company.  They stick around longer if you do this!
298639
If he isn't crazy about you on his own....forget it!  No man, no relationship is worth "congering" up some way to "get a guy".  Keep yourself "open" for that fella who will be crazy for you because YOU are YOU!!!
490133
Just be honest. And learn to let go if he doesnt respond. Being cool or being sexy doesnt help holding on to a man, you can just have one for some time. Honesty sure works.
918956
trust your instincts honey he is emotionally unavailable to anyoen you should tell him ty for his honesty but you have more respect for yourself than that, and you deserve so much more, pray about it and know that God made some one for everyone you need to concentrate on you and he will send someone to you, you can trust that!
225514
You have to be open and expressive to attract but to snare you have to wait and catch.  Patience, it is hard.  When a man puts out a little , give  a little.  Some men are shy but I am not sure shy men aren't so selfish with their energy that they will be able to satisfy you.  Puzzle for sure.  Men are visual, look attractive if you want to attract, keep in shape, eat healthy so you have nice skin your whole life, live and eat like an actress, You want a man who can initiate and take control, otherwise you will have to be the bitch and take control if you do not trust his decision making.  Find an equal.  Ask him to call you when he says call him, don't let him relinquish, unfortuntely the rules are all screwed up.  Have your own money, offer to pay, if he insists, offer to tip.  He is not buying sex, just your time to show you he cares.  Do things that don't cost money.
1010407
relax and give him some space. if a man feels smothered then he will leave you!
911044
I'm sorry, but it is clear to me that you have a self image problem.  You want him solely because you can't get him and you have dropped out of school because of him.\n\nYou are intelligent enough to realize the underlining problem.  Are you mature enough to act appropriately?\n\nIf he stayed with you, knowing how you feel, he would probably (human nature) take advantage of you and there is a very good possibility that he would sexually and physically abuse you.  This would further decrease your self image.\n\nSTOP NOW!\n\nIf you can not do it yourself, seek professional help.  This is not to belittle you.  I am impressed that you recognized the problem and am taking steps to seek help.\n\nWhat I did in a similiar situation was to recall something stupid that the person did and everytime I found myself thinking about that person I would force myself to recall the stupid things that person did.  After repeatedly laughing about the stupidity (we all do stupid things) of the person I found myself free of my self imposed connection to the person.\n\nI have since found a person that I truly love and who loves me.  The person respects me (and I respect myself) for whom I am.\n\nRemember everyone, no matter who they are, have good qualities.  You are a very special person.  No one else is exactly like you.  If you thought about it you would realize all that you contribute to the world through the people you know and those you don't realize you know.\n\nRemember the movie "While you were sleeping" with Sandra Bullock.  She was a ticket taker on the subway.  She convinced herself that she loved a man who did not know she existed, but in the end, she found her true love who loved her.\n\nBest of luck.
402403
Stop being so needy and let him do the chasing - right now you are a sure thing...ignor him for a while or be just too busy for him
1072885
First, change where you hang out.  If you keep finding losers, then you must hanging out where losers hang out.\n\nSecond, change the way you choose a boyfriend.  It's obvious the system you have right now keeps landing you in the same place.  Insanity in action is repeating the same process and expecting a different result.  It just doesn't work that way.\n\nThird, ask yourself this question, "Why do I want to date him?"  If you cannot come up with anything other than a superficial answer (he's hawt, he smells good, he's rich, he's mysterious/exciting, etc), pass.  Your answers should be more like, "He makes me feel good about who I am," "He makes me laugh," or "He challenges me to be a better person."  Did you notice where the focus shifted?  You are no longer focusing on what makes him attractive, but on how he makes you feel.\n\nFinally, understand that the end game for dating is to find someone you can sepnd the rest of your life with.  Don't use it as a tool to just have company or someone who will pay for everything.  The latter will expect something in return, and the former are called 'friends' not boyfriends.  Use the system to do what it was made for, not to fill a void in your life.  No person can ever do that.  Lonliness can only be cured by you.
824236
The best thing to do is not rush anything.  That is what freaks guys out the most. You can paint paintings but do that kind of thing in moderation.  Don't smother or be clingy.  Resist the temptation to go all goo goo gaa gaa over him right off the bat.  It isn't wrong to feel that way about someone just keep some of it under wraps for right now. If it lasts there will be plenty of time for that later.  Just take a deep breath and relax. If you get some big bubbly surge of lovey dovey feelings just bite a pillow or write it in a journal.  Don't call him and go "I looooove you much I don't know what to do!"  Don't go to the extreme of pretending you don't like him either. It works for some guys but to others it is a turn off. Good luck.
1105653
I know what you mean, I am in the same sitution. I try to find things to do to keep him off my mind watch tv, go for a walk etc. As I see it if your unable to be together you need to stop wasting your time and find someone that you can be with and sooner or later you will feel secure to talk to that person (Thats what I am trying)
898378
Just try to keep your problems to yourself until you two get more serious. Life has a way of working itself out and this guy might be the person that can get you out of the funk your life is in right now.  Don't ruin it by being moody around him. Let your worries go and try to be fun and outgoing and you will see that you won't focus on your problems as much when you keep yourself busy with other things. You might want to go to your Dr. and see if he can recommend a RX. I take Xanax every day and it helps.
620516
Stand up for yourself, and don't be passive. If you make your good qualities stand out (maybe you are a good dancer, or singer, or maybe you make a great spaghetti dinner...) then he will definitely notice you. \n\nIf he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then move on. You don't want to be the nagging, clingy girl who just wouldn't let go. \n\nGood luck to you, and remember that the MOST attractive thing to a man is a woman who is confidant in herself!
611743
I kind of think that if you have to ask yourself, "Am I being used?" Odds are, you ARE being used.  If someone does not make you feel your full worth, and if the energy he is putting into your relationship does not match your effort, then you should seriously re-evaluate the situation, because honey, you deserve one hundred per cent and no less. We all do.
791332
Hey, i see this problem as a problem inside YOU. You don't need to please every women. So, stop being too needy. Evict the need that you need "your soul-mate" and feel that "she's the one." In my experience, I just LIVE my OWN LIFE. I date women and if a certain woman doesn't like me, no sweat! I have a plenty of choices. Ironically, more women will be attracted to me.
310710
This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
819829
Try explaining to him that you are busy sometimes, that doesn't mean that you aren't into him it just means that you don't have the time to give him the attention that you think he deserves.  He might be happy with that and it will keep your relationship honest.