how can i improve my self confidence?
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A tried and tested technique to improving self-confidence is as follows:\n\nLook in the mirror every morning and tel yourself you are beutiful, you are clever and you can achieve anything.\n\nLook in the mirror every night before bed and tell yourself that you have done your best today in everything you do and tomorrow you will do better.\n\nDo one thing each day that scares you.\n\nBe with friends that value you for who you are and remember you are a human being and as such you are special.\n\nYour family loves and values you and if you smile the world smiles with you.
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Figure out what your problem is. Realize your problem isn’t who you are, it’s what you have used to protect your physical and emotional well being. It’s hiding who you are: a beautiful human being, a wonderful source of awareness, knowledge, creativity, love and joy. If you practice self-esteem based on the faith that this is who you really are, then your problem will dissolve. \nFigure out who you are. Take self-evaluation quizzes. Learn as much as you can about who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. Self-knowledge is a key to success. \nDecide what you can and can’t control. Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control. \nAccept responsibility. Finding self-confidence requires accepting responsibility for your own happiness, and recognizing that you are a product not only of your genetic code and your environment, but of the choices you make. Begin your day with the words "I am responsible." \nMake anxiety your ally. Write down your worries for 30 days. Nagging concerns that loom so large in your imagination lose their power on paper. Amazingly, after writing them down the anxieties begin to fade. \nRecognize that mistakes are opportunities. Keep the setback in perspective. Most mistakes are not personal tragedies; rather they are problems you now have the opportunity to solve. "Success," is often a string of failed attempts to get it right. \nCompete to improve yourself not to beat someone else. \nBe ambitious. When setting goals, remember that you are distinct from what you have and what you seem to be. If you let others define who you are, you may not find happiness. Pursue your own dreams -- not your parent’s, mate’s, or your best friend’s. \nBe brave and take risks. Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Risk-taking builds confidence. When considering any risk: define a clear goal. Review the positive, practical and potential losses. Determine whether the risk is one of trust, identity or something larger. When you focus on risks that have a larger purpose, you can’t go wrong. Even if the risk doesn’t turn out as you hoped it would, you will gain from it. Act. Take a risk. Be confident -- you have earned it. \nThink and speak positively. If you hear a compliment or positive statement about someone you know pass that compliment on to them. An Arabian proverb puts it neatly: Blessed is he who speaks a kindness; thrice blessed he who repeats it. \nLearn something new. Create a new hobby. Increase your vocabulary one word a week. Take on a new physical challenge or activity. \nSpend time investing in your personal growth. This enables joy to flourish amid the fears and difficulties of life. Read self-help books and act on the knowledge. \nDecisions: the next time you ponder a decision, think of everything that could go right and say to yourself, "What do I have to lose, really? \nSmile and be courteous. Use the words please and thank you consistently. \nBe aware of media’s messages. Their goal is to make you feel bad about yourself so you will buy what they are selling. \nKeep good company. Positive feeds positive and negative breeds negative. If you choose to be around positive people you in turn will become more positive. \nReward yourself. Give yourself and others positive rewards for being and doing well. \nDon’t accept messages that damage your own self-esteem. It is much easier to improve or change your behavior when you believe you are lovable and capable. \nBe aware of the different messages that you hear in your head and remember to turn up the volume on the messages that contribute to your positive self-esteem and to turn down the volume on any message that encourages you to think negatively about your worth or ability. \nYou can improve the quality of messages you have in your head about being lovable and capable. Use "how to" statements in your head and take action on the answers you rece
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Find some confidence.\nIts pretty simple if you can overcome fear of rejection.\nBe fairly direct. Just ask.\nSecret:  Girls(women) are attracked to self-confidence.\n\nBut also be real, dont lie.  It is much easier to be yourself than someone else.
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When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind. \n\nDeveloping self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.\n\nSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...\n\na) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.\n\nb) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to: \n\nfind out if you like the other people in the situation \nmake others feel comfortable \nfind out some information \nmake business contacts \nand so on...
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Well your obviously seriously lacking self-esteem, which means that you need to start building some. Here is a magic trick with socializing... 90% of the time, if you have complete confidence in yourself as you are saying something, people will simply see you as cool simply based on your attitude and the way that you carry yourself. But the biggest weapon of all is to not even worry about how others judge you so much. \n   Maybe you didnt say the coolest thing in comparison to the other hotshots around you, and maybe you dont have the latest athletic shoes or the newest video game, but it doesnt matter. Most of the men and women within our American society are heavily influenced by the latest fad or the newest trend. You have a champion within yourself, and you need to locate it. Find self confidence by discovering something that you are passionate about, and then challenge yourself daily. Let the other chumps follow a trend, you will follow your dreams. \n   When you find self-confidence, you really wont care what others think of you, and you will naturally attract people and convince them that you are a "cool" person. Good luck.
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Well, concentrate on your confidence that you already have--and then you will grow more confident as you do well and it will just flow when you meet the right person.
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You gain confidence by believing in your abilities.  By succeeding in things you do.  They don't have to be big things, little victories count too. What qualities do you possess that others admire? Make a list if you like.  \n\nIf you can see yourself succeeding, your confidence will grow. Put yourself in a position to succeed in whatever you do.  Good luck!
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I don't like that I am always so unsure of myself.  I need more confidence.
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You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.
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Think of how much you mean to your loved ones. Another way to raise self-esteem is to volunteer someplace like Habitat for Humanity, you help others and that makes you feel good about yourself too.
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Best thing you can do is appear cool and calm. That makes you appear confident.....
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Just believe in yourself. Once you believe yourself then you will have confidence and other people will also believe in you.
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Varies by the person. The best way to raise self-esteem is to try to focus on the things you like about yourself. Keep any compliments you receive in mind too as that will help you feel a little better about yourself. The more you focus on the good, the less you will look for the bad. Unfortunately, it's not an easy issue to fix, but focusing on being happy should help. As for a timeline...depends on the state of self-esteem to begin with and ability to cope and adapt. I wasn't too bad, but was very shy because I always felt stupid. Instead of pushing that out I just accepted it and now use it as a way to make people laugh. It only took a month for there to be a noticeable improvement in my self-esteem. And I always felt better. But it took 3 years for me to be practically entirely comfortable with myself. I hope that helps, if not I apologize.
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the best way to get confidence in your self is to confront your fears head-on.  even if you fail, at least you tried, and you can take solace in that.\n\nby the way, not all girls can read your mind...  but most can.  hee hee!  :)\n\nif you stop looking at them like "girls" and start seeing them as "people", you will find it much easier to deal with them!  ;)
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Confidence in yourself is good ,cockiness will get you shot down .You need to be put in your place
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Heres what you do. Be an existentialist. Forget that neing nervous is the problem and try to accept that neing nervous is just there, that you WILL be nervous and thats to be expected, then you will find that you notice perhaps that others are too. Being nervous isnt a character flaw, its part of life, its to be expected. SO then what are you left with once you take that out of the equation...just you right, being outgoing isnt something that you can just be, it takes a little confidence. The catch is that the way to get that confidence it by just doing it....so force yourself, make conversation with people you normally wouldnt, be friendly to people, talk to them but dont stress too much.  You will find that you feel better as time goes on and you will notice the nervousness less and less. \n\nI know that probably didnt help, but good luck anyway!!
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try a few new things. as you bebecome sucessful at small tasks your confidence will grow