Why are white parents more likely than any other race, to let their kids abuse them?
81631
I am black and grew up with a lot of white friends, and let's just say that the parenting techniques are different. I grew up with "that look" (lol!), and I did indeed see my white friends walk all over their parents. It was as if their parents were afraid that the kids would hate them if they were disciplined.
34579
You have a good point.  And I totally understand if maybe you don't want to have children with a white man.  I have heard that kids with mixed races have a harder time in society than that of one race.  I don't know if thats true or not, but Either way, its your choice and your life and none of their business.
1131182
I agree but parents don't think about what they are doing in those terms.  Most claim to only want what is best for the children,  as they sit on their independent high horses claiming the "best" to be their selves.  It's turned into a "how can I get back at or hurt my ex",  the children's needs are rarely considered.  You are also correct that most often, it does seem to be the mother's doing this.  It actually makes me ashamed to be a female at times.  Women are often very bitter and vengeful when they have been hurt but feel they are "right" in their behavior because they have been "wronged".  It all boils down to little more than the fact that mommy and daddy forget how to behave like adults,  therefore their children suffer.
991035
self preservation can be an answer but i believe that racist behavior are educated on to children at an early age you put a black baby an a white baby together they don't know their racial group until parents get involved
267129
That's an interesting question . . . I think it's becuase of the enormous investment in money, energy, time, emotion, etc.  Parents don't want to see their kid "screw up" becuase they want to see their "investment" payoff. By that I mean they want to see their kid become happy, educated, successful, etc. That doesn't mean that parents know what their doing, but it does mean that right or wrong, they typically do try.\n\nBut there's another theory that claims that we're just animals that instictively take care of children because we want to pass on our genes to the next generation.
361213
That's is true white kids only cussing out their moms they call em b*tches and call em whores and all they don't listen because they need they a*s beat. What type of kids do you see on The Nanny. White kids, you wouldn't see a black family on there one day in life because we don't need help you just gon get yo as* beat. so do get me that black kids do it too. I don't wanna hear it because it's a lie. You will get backhanded if you even say a little thing smart
569019
Please don't take it personal, but chances are you are the root of her defiance. Don't take this personal, but are you White? And this is just an observation that I had, many white people allow their children extended freedoms, and this can cause a child to feel like they are the ones that are in control. Let me open my mouth in an even slightly disrespectful undertone, my mother would've put a fist, belt, extension cord, mopstick, telephone cord.......(you get the picture) on my behind. And to all those who say don't beat their children remember " spare the rod spoil the child". This is just a general response. I also must say that it sounds like she has a lot of resentment towards you, and it sounds like it stems from whatever kind of relationship you had/have with her father. Her fighting with her younger bro is something that is common, but it could be BC of jealousy(do the two of them have the same father?) It kinda sounds like she is crying out for attention, you must remember to children attention is attention, whether it is positive or negative its the attention that they desire
4942
I'd say it has a lot to do with culture. Asian parents expect their daughters not to marry out of race, so they don't want to get even remotely involved just in case. There's probably a bit of prejudice in it too.
310432
Some would call us Crackers.\n\nUs white folk feel entitled to automatic success because our white guy fore-fathers built this country politically and financially.  We don't try to learn about other races because we don't have to associate with them to make money.  We also don't like other cultures because we are afraid they will 'steal' our legacy.  It becames a self full-filling prophecy that is taught to the next generation of whities.\n\nTwo more notes:\nI don't think they are lazy, they just have never been exposed to other cultures and are confused about how to fit in.  When in doubt, people give up - because it is better to cling to your closed off world than look foolish.\n\nEveryone is looking to fit into a group.  And generally what you learned in high school applies.  Groups put down other groups and peer pressure is relentless.
566104
i am white and i am proud...f what they think...they say worse about us all the time...they are more racist than we are...how many times have you seen a bunch of white kids jump on 1 black kid? (none unless your 84)\nbut how many times have you seen blacks/mexicans jump one white kid? (to many to count)
671230
I think it's because the parent has lost control and can't stop themselves.  It's pure frustration, and it is sadly all too common.  These parents just need to learn how to control themselves and they will get the best out of their children.
111909
Maybe you grew up too sheltered. Some parents will try to protect their children from anything harmful and in return the children only learn fear from the things they were protected from. I've heard of cases like that.\nCould also be past experiences.. but there are alot there.
787346
Unfortunately not anytime soon racism has been around since the beginning of time. I commend your wife for sticking through her devotion to the children even in times of adversity. I know when people talk about racism they assume that a minority has been the victim of the discrimination but they don't seem to understand that non minorities do experience racism from minorities that is just as hateful and mean. I can relate from that experience because  I am a mixed race person and i have experienced racist remarks for being too white and then the other side being to dark there seems to be no neutral ground. I guess what is so appauling is that these children are being taught to hate at such young ages which will damage them later in life. If only the parents of these children could understand that your wife is only there to help their children because someone needs to help them the parents seem to reject that help.
403639
Maybe for the same reason that parents with an ADD child judge other people who judge parents with an ADD child.\n\nWe all judge others and this is a free country.  So get that chip off your shoulder and get on with your own business.  Nobody likes a cry-baby.\n\nWhoops!  There goes my chance of "Best Answer" on this one.  Shoot!  Did it again!
753898
Because people who hate want their kids to hate. For example, family A hates black people, they have a daughter and they fear she might grow up and marry "one of those........" so they teach her hate to "protect" her.\n\nStupid, I didn't say it wasn't, however that is about the best way I can explain ignorance.
641439
Well, out here in California, it really doesn't seem to matter what color the Mother, Father, or Children are!  There is a growing trend of violence and total disregard for the feelings of other people that seems to be coming from the old "keeping up with the Joneses" philosophy!  Our world grew too fast to keep up with the changes in family structure or vice versa, causing a lot of confusion and dysfunction in the way we view what is "necessary for our survival" in our daily lives.  We seem to want it all & pass this on to our children. Factor in the lack of spiritual (& false spiritual) teaching, a failing outdated school system, & television programming that wrongly portrays life & culture in general, along with rising costs for what used to be a given (gas, utilities, rent,food), & you pretty much have a society in confusion & stress.  Most parents do not possess the life skills to pass on to their children, nor do the teachers in our classrooms.  The children are suffering the most, due to the fact that all they have to look forward to is what they see in front of them & that ain't much without bucks.  Many certainly aren't afraid to die or spend their lives in prison because the movie industry has glorified this type of lifestyle for their own greedy purposes.
637172
That bothers me to. I am white & honest to goodness most black people have been better to me than whites have. i am good to people that deserve it regardless of their race,age,size or sexual prefrences. But I also had a great Mother & Father that taught me that ! Alot of racism is from people not being taught that everyone is equal !!!