y are friends such back stabers even though you never would have thought they whould be?
86774
Good loyal friends are rare. But most people are just selfish.
977955
That 'friend' wouldn't be yourself now, would it??
252080
Yes, I do.\nI used to have a friend who was very dear to me. She was my first friend, and was my best friend.\nWe shared everything in common - our mindsets, our thoughts, our interests, our future - we even planned to live together as 'bachelorettes', independant and free from the trappings of society, and just live our lives happily as best friends.\nTogether, we thought we could 'take over the world'. Her dad hated me. Most adults did when I was younger. They thought I was a rebellious punk - we studied at an elite school and there it just wasn't accepted if you didn't exactly conform - the worse thing was, I wasn't even that different, I dressed like any other student, geeky with specs - I just thought differently.\nAnd that difference costed me my best friend. Her father wanted her to be a doctor, lawyer - whatever that earn her lots of money.\nWe wanted to help design video games - it was something we used to create a fantasy world from our dreary lives and sort of like a 'beacon of light' for us. :)\nWell...we were really close the first two years we met because we were in the same class. \n\nOne day, we were having remedial class, and instead of studying what we already knew the teacher was going to teach, I suggested we go to our sister school (A prestigous High School most from the school we were at aimed to score into) to study because of the good atmosphere.\nAbout an hour later, some of our friends came walking past us, and one of them spotted us sitting by the pavilion poring through our books.\nThey were like, "Oh, We just saw your Dad at the school!" \nMy best friend was really scared. She's terribly afraid of her dad. He can get pretty violent and abusive with her. But frankly speaking, she never actually told me he hit her - mostly verbal abuse. It's not exactly considered "child abuse" there, most officials would just close an eye because her dad was a rich, influential man.\nWe went over and he assumed I was the one who "led" his daughter "astray" despite the fact that we told him and even showed him the half-completed notes we were going through.\nHe yelled at me and forbade me to see his daughter again.\n\nShe later went on to a different secondary school, we keep in contact through letters, 'secret' meetings (because her dad forbade her to meet me.) to play video games and view each other's drawings (we both love art!).\nLater, as our ideals started to differ, she started to fall under her father's pressure and started to think that it was okay to just give up her dreams to live her father's dreams.\nI tried to talk sense into her, but she had become so scared of her father, nothing would work.\n\nWe argued. I was going through heavy family problems and not to mention the final semester exams of my high school was coming up at the time, and over the phone one day I cried to her. That was the first time she had ever heard me, the strong one, cry. I was always her emotional support.\nThat time, she fell silent.\nI received an email a week later, she wrote some really hurting, harsh words to me, scorning me. I cried again, reading it, she really hurt my feelings.\nIt seemed like under her father's mental abuse, she broke, she changed, and when the time came for her to lend her strength to me and a shoulder to lean on, she had given up and even scorned me verbally.\nI was hurt beyond repease.\n\nI have always missed her because we shared our dreams and our cloistered lives together living in each her own family with somewhat similar, but such different problems.\nAnd further more, she was the one I confided in so much. We could almost "read" each other's thoughts half the time.\nIt never became the same after that fateful day. We did come back several times, but we were both so changed, so distant, so cautious of one another - she had given up completely and transformed into a bitter, sad
102415
You'd never believe it.
612889
A few years ago I had suspicions that my b/f and best friend were seeing each other and I came home early one night and there they were,together just as I thought,needless to say there was a big blow out and now I hate them both. But he got paid back because she done the same thing to him. If you suspect, investigate and if it's true tell them both to go to hell!
349920
Yes they can, if they don't fancy each other. I've had lots of male friends that I haven't fancied for a second.
640998
They are not your real friends if they aren't prepared to listen to your side of the story.  Tell them you succumbed in a moment of weakness.  You never know, they may have done the same thing but you haven't heard about it yet.
878289
Putting my trust on some people.  who in return abused my naivety, and hurt me.  Yes, I admit, I am to naive, that I believe some people don't have hidden agenda, and they stab you in the back.
613493
how do you say so??? maybe you just dont give them a chance... no wonder. if they do really wnt to... \nwell im in search of a friend too.. if you are interested\njust email me as avrilfreak_jermaine@yahoo.com
631131
yea but they are friends
148812
Its not wrong. Its understandable. You are hurt in your friendship and embarrased because you feel like a fool in front of these other people.
971989
its normal 2 feel  tht way but v all know tht smethin has 2 b done, i think u shud trust those people only who r very close 2 u or whom u know frm quite a lot of time \nhumans intend 2 do many mistakes\nbut only those r succesful who after falling rise , overcome fears & move ahead 2 face the wrld wid renewed strength & more experience\nbest of luck****
426228
I think eventually one of the "friends" is going to develop stronger feelings if they haven't already and are just acting like they don't.  It is hard to be intimate with someone without romantic attachments....maybe not at first but in the end.
1072756
Well, I have not done so, since I always keep close to my best friend! If some do, I will not judge them negative
1117927
Hope you find them and others that will be true friends to you....\nYour question/ post really touched me.
127955
A real friend doesn't stab someone in the back. Maybe your friend is confused since you were the only one told but friendship is also based (should be) on trust also. If you confront your friend and have a good honest talk with him and if he still refuses to listen, then forget about him and ignore him. You'll find some other friend who deserves your respect. It's difficult to find a good friend but there's always someone out there for another. Good luck :)
473372
Why would you wont to be friends with them? Unless you still wont to f**** them?  Be honest about it.  You people kill me with this Sh**!