How do you go about asking your male spouse if he's cheating without me being the bad guy?
91333
I could always tell by his answer. If I asked and he became confrontational and accused me- I knew it was his guilty conscious.
363826
I saw on some tv show or another that if you suspect your partner of cheating, then they probably are.\n\nBUT:         Don't accuse him without proof!!!\n\nIf he's "working late" then find an excuse to call him at work.\nIf he's going out with his buddies and staying out late then go to where he hangs out and see if he's really there, and who he's with.\nIf he's disappearing and you can't track him down, and don't believe him when he tells you where he was then don't go screeching that you don't believe him.  Next time he's disappearing, follow him.\n\nDon't go asking his friends though, that would put them in an awkward position, and what if you're wrong...
1115110
Say "are you cheating"?
493983
#!----VERY IMPORTANT.  I know from experience.  If you suspect your guy is cheating, don't...I repeat, don't let him know you are suspcicious.  If you confront him, he will take his measures to hide the cheating to a higher level, and it will be more difficult for you to find the truth.  Cheaters get lazy after a while.  Solid clues will come to the top and you will be able to find out the longer you let him think all is well.  Take advantage of his laziness and carelessness.  It will happen.  Then, when you have solid evidence, throw it in his face and give him all the HE!! he deserves.  Don't commmit a crime though.
447049
If you have absolute proof I would present your case to him. If you were in his shoes, wouldn't you like to know that your guy was cheating on you? Make sure you are absolutely sure though! Don't just go off of what other people have said.
315357
Ask him. Point blank, out of the blue, look him straight in the eye and say: "Are you cheating on me?" His reaction will tell you exactly what is going on.
61157
Since i've never been unfaithful, i can't speak from experience. But, saying that, my ex-wife was unfaithful to me, alot. I big give away is lack of intimacy. If he doesn't want to touch you, there's something wrong. Strange phone calls that are secretive and at odd times. Does he have a good female "friend" or "mates" he often hangs out with, without you? Can you contact him at ALL times while he's away? Alot of mistrusting females i know check their man's mobile phone for odd calls and texts. Credit card statements for purchases is also a common one. I'm assuming you've talked to him about your concerns and he's denied all. You're still suspicious and don't quite trust him. A private detective could help if you're that concerned. I hope i've helped a little. :)
552851
I would first confront him with it and then tell her I knew about the affair just to see what she would have to say about it. Trust is an important part of a marriage so if you don't have that you need to think about what you want out of life...............
460023
ok since the married man is your husband,,,,you should keep talking to him until he understands that you are serious and you 2 get an understanding,,\n            ,it seems he is a good guy, and his ego is not threatened,, he may let you without freaking out....you know him,,, think about it...you could lose him,,\n           ,i do not condone cheating,,,but i do know some women who have turned to other women because there husbands are impotent and will not seek help.\n               as far as the morals, etc,, you must judge that for yourself and be ready to deal with whatever consequences arise. whether from others, your husband, the woman,
1141719
Anything that you would not do in front of your partner is cheating.\n\nI suspect that most wives put up with it. They kick up a fuss the first time but react less and less with every subsequent offense until they're on anti-depressants or straying themselves.\n\nDon't think that it is you. Bad men happen to good women 99% of the time. \n\nIdentify the things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one a day. get some friends. get involved with in life. set yourself some goals, action them and try to stop yourself obsessing about what he is doing or thinking.\n\nPutting up does not make you a failure, it may mean you are shrewd. But if you know you can not accept it. Get out before he destroys you - that may be the only thing that jolts him to change
149839
yes. just don't ask if i'm cheating on my wife
1139044
Well, if I had a husband and I suspected him cheating I would first come out and ask him! Heck with pretending to be someone else. It's pretty much how well you know him also, a woman will always have to trust her instincts if you suspect him being a cheat then look for clues, if he keeps cheating it won't be long before he gets caught, no matter what a cheating spouse sooner or later WILL get caught. That's why I'm divorced now, but I was the one that cheated and yep! I got caught.
309347
Honestly, if he was cheating you can tell by the smell. He may smell too clean or like he put on an extra dab of cologne. There would always be the last dead give away, his sudden need for "privacy" about his work, or outings at night or afternoons. I think that the best way to know is to flat out ask him. I have never once had a guy try to lie to me about it. Mostly because I give him "the look" if you know what I mean. As for a female cheating, there is always the same common need for sudden privacy in their situations like that. They wil avoid looking directly in the eye and come up with excuses for going places, secret conversations with other men or women, whichever is their preference, and at top most, wearing more make up and dressing up for work more ...provocativly than usual.
891572
I think there is more to the issue than what has been shared and suggest that maybe going to a marriage counselor might help in discovering all the real underlying issues affecting both of your behaviors.  A lot of men say you can 'ask them anything' when you have concerns but often become defensive or unable to express themselves.  Perhaps a third person who is objective might be able to help find out what is really going on in the relationship.
293793
No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K
1139301
Your insecure about your marriage. You and he need to work to make it stronger for your sake. It doesn't mean he is cheating, just you have some doubts...
193311
My husband, just ask him if you don't believe me.  I am not being a smart ***. he really is