Why is there still such a stigma about Mas---B----N? Why is it still considered taboo?
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brat,\n\nYeah, when you consider that you can't even SPELL the term properly here without getting "starred," it's easy to tell that the stigma lives, alive and well.\n\nWhy?  In the U.S., though we see ourselves as freewheeling and sexual, the populace is quite puritanical.  Go to any country in Europe, or even Japan in Asia, and you'll see more skin than you ever thought you could legally see.  See, to the rest of the world, skin does not equal sex.  It's part of being human, nothing to be ashamed of.  Here in the U.S., we sexualize things so much that folks automatically twist things into being sexual when it ain't.  I mean, look at the superbowl a couple of years ago...it took thirteen one-hundredth of a second of a flashing breast to make a commotion that lasted a month, and was talked about two years later...over a BREAST...every woman (almost...sorry) has 'em, right?  What's the big deal?  Just like M**T**B****N, (I might as well do it for 'em...) everyone does it...what's the big deal?\n\nMr. Lancelot:\n\nPoint taken Sir.  However, I think you've misunderstood the intent.  If you would take the time to read the post, I think you'll see that I made the comparison as a matter of fact, not a 'right or wrong' matter.\n\nThere is no way I would ever espouse the 'pros' of living elsewhere in comparison to living here in the U.S., especially to bad mouth the land I love, to the point where I've taken a few bullets wearing her flag on my arm.  So, in that respect sir, please try to refrain from waving the flag in my face.\n\nRegards.
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I'm gay and I'm not offended by the word itself. When it is used as a descriptive term for my sexual predisposition I am not bothered by it. When it is used as a derogatory insult then I am bothered, but I also consider that the person using it that way is an uninformed individual who probably has some serious insecurities concerning his/her own sexuality. I feel sorry those people and their sexual partners. \n\nSincerely,\nTerry
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I say to each their own.I don't think that they're nasty and there's nothing wrong with being gay.People at a young age are discovering their sexuality and some are straight while others are gay.I have had gay friends before and I treated them equally as I did with my straight friends.As long as they don't go into detail about their sex life,that's fine.Some people prefer their own sex instead of the opposite.
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I applaud you for finally trying to replace the vulgar word, and with the right media, like yahoo, it could reach many in some time, but you have to be patient. On account of kids today and they're love for the N word, they will try to protect it, because Bushaka is not 'cool' yet, but you made a wise decision on spreading it in "Riker's" because most 'street/gangsta' trends came from there, so it could catch fire and blow up soon. And don't be put off, by the man who answered above me, unlike him, I read the whole article and I know that Bushaka is inclusive which means anyone can use it it actually unites better than any other word. BUSHAKA, lol
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Who said that it was a curse? I just read something about Native Americans using the term of having two-spirits. Some people have both living in them. Maybe it is not a curse. Maybe it is a "gift." All of the people that I know that are gay, bi, or whatever you want to call it...are some of the most caring people. They have a heart for others. They are not mean. They are not resentful. They do not "bash" people. They have a lovong, caring, genuine heart of love for others. Hmmmmm, does that sound like a curse to you? I don't think so.\n\nMaybe it is time that society looks at it in a NEW way.
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What's taboo for one person may be commonplace for another.  Everyone is different.\n\nGenerally, sexual taboos are often the source of great eroticism.  Our culture has many sexual taboos (which give us pleanty of things 'not' to do sexually).  This has the effect of making many people want things that are not allowed.  Basically, its human nature to want what you can't (or shouldn't) have.\n\nIf you're not sure about something sexual, you should not be forced or coerced into doing it by anyone other than yourself.  You are in control of your life, and you have the power to make your own decisions.  You should make that clear to anyone who tries to challenge you.
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On average, yeah...it's about the most offensive word in the entire language.  I've been called many names affectionately, that most would consider offensive, and yet didn't bother me at all.  The c word is in its own category though.  I don't think any amount of affection while using that word would be enough to make it acceptable to me.
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My black friend told me it was okay for his white friends to say nig-ga, but not okay to say the other. It was just his view. I think one is a more affectionate term, an attempt to take the sting off the origonal racist slang. Wether intentional, or accidental, it seems to have been effective. The more it's used and the more creative dirrivitives that arise, the less we are reminded of our divided past. Keeping the term taboo only allows it to keep it's stinging power. I don't prefer the black culture at all, but I couldn't imagine america without it. Keep it loose and friendly, we can get along famously forever.
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I'm sorry, but your use of the word thinking is far too liberal (sorry, I can't find a thesaurus to come up with a less tasteless word and I really don't feel like firing up Microsoft word right now.)\n\nAnd if someone is "alright" with gays, as in they believe that gays deserve to be treated equally, then why are they attempting to use the word as an insult? Is that hypocrisy or irony? Or is it just sheer stupidity?\n\n\nAnd I see yet another S.B.S.N. has struck. I'm going to start counting now as I browse your questions.
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I think it is because it is constantly being shoved down our throats, it gag's us!! I mean , yes we speak out against all sexual sin, but the gay revolution tries to protect and project and promote themselves and their sin as something we MUST accept and approve of, or else we are "biggoted" You don't have that occuring with adultry or fornication! THAT is why it happens. NO People like having things rubbed in their face. If Gays kept thier sin private, as others do, well then I would keep my opinion private also!
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As long as it's a mature relationship, then it is perfectly fine. Taboo is over-rated!  Don't let anyone dictate your actions, so long as you harm no one.
92633
UMMM...HELLO!  What's wrong with society??  Why isn't the guy considered a whore?  Isn't he just as guilty?  OK, so maybe we don't use the word whore, but I hate this double standard we still have.  It's the 21st century!  Jeez!
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Simply hugging is considered TABOO in countries such as KOREA AND JAPAN especially with the older generations. So if that's considered a TABOO can you imagine what it woould mean to kiss someone.  BTW ,,, I work in the USA and kissing is/can be considered SEXUAL HARRASSMENT.
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I did not know about this issue in the Netherland or the NVD... \n\nCan I add a comment/ question to this- I know there is a group here in the US called Gay Man Boy Love or something like that.  I first heard of it on South Park and I thought it was a joke but then found it was for real.  \n\nFrom what I understand, they feel that pedophilia can be natural and is acceptable, like the NVD does.  I don't know if they are currently taking actions to legalize it or lower and eventually eliminate age of consent.  \n\nBut I wonder- how can the existence of these groups even be allowed?  Not to be crude, but I am sure there is some sharing of graphic pictures and websites- I doubt they can have many intellectual conversations on the topic.  \n\nJust an extra thought- albeit somewhat meandering and unfocused- I wanted to add to your question... hope you don't mind.
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In societies where a caste system is still in practice, I would guess that it is offensive.  Or maybe it's an accepted classification.  In America, where there isn't an acknowledged caste system, one could probably get away with it.
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It reflects the conservative and puritanical double standards here in America: sex is everywhere, but no one should do it, see it or talk about it. We see half-dressed women on MTV, but tell our daughters not to dress or act like them and that sex is bad and their bodies are something to be ashamed of. You can blame the right-wing Christians here in the states for this.
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Yes of course ... that's why it was made taboo! Everything arousing is taboo to someone.