do you think its right for a man to keep a relationship going because they have a baby together?
90591
No, it is only unfair to all the people involved. Your friend is not going to be happy with the baby's mother becauce he does not love her, and they are going to be an unhappy couple so they will not be able to provide what the baby really deserves which is a comfortable home. As long as he does not abandon the kids mother and is there to be his father it is if not alright at least best
152885
Well, from a legal stand point it is perfectly fine to be dating him. You do need to consider though, his experience in life vs your own. Chances are he has done a lot more living then you have. In the begining your age differences may not effect your relationship much, but in time he could become possesive and controlling and try to stop you from living your young carefree life. Wanting to settle down ect... I watched this happen to my sister, and before she knew what was happening she felt stuck, and had a baby, and he had her convinced that she was nothing without him, often using his experience in life against her youhful ways. She did finally get out, after a few years, but now she is a single mom trying to make a life for her and her child and this guy is still a thorn in her side and will be for the rest of her life since she shares a child with him. While you might be thinking this would never happen to me, once upon a time my sister thought the same thing. Be careful & good luck.
929725
I think you may have left something out, here...\n\nUnless you're really shallow, you won't dump him just because he had a child with someone else before he met you.  Now, if he lied to you about the kid or the baby's mother, that's something different!\n\nMake sure that whatever decision you make is based on HIM and your relationship with HIM, not on the simple fact that a baby is now also involved.
550220
No it wasn't your fault. I didn't see how you could think that! It was his fault that he didn't act like he cared about you! You did the right thing! \nGood Luck with your baby and your new relationship!
866367
It's nice to hear a single father going through what most single moms go through, well the thought would be just like any guy they do not want to settle down with someone who has kids, there not ready yet, keep looking you'll find someone who will love you and your daughter no matter what!
236689
You need to decide what is best for you and your child. Is he a caring person who will welcome the baby? Do you think that he would be willing to support the baby?? I think every child should know their father and the father has the right to know he has a child, what he does with that information is up to him.
100735
I belive that if the man is mature enough he will be more than thrilled to find out that you are having a child and want to join in on the bonding experience of rearing a chld.\nUnless you did this behind his back with another partner...
303051
Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
1046344
Ok, my boyfriend now, would consider me his baby-mama. I have a child from a previous relationship that considers my current boyfriend her daddy. So that's what it means. Some guys could have been in a realationship with a girl who already had a baby, but they consider the baby theirs, even though it's not. Or sometimes they could be referring to their future baby-mamas!!!!!!
568433
It's not a good sign.  You should have a heart to heart and put everything on the table.  If this is not the right relationship, it's time to move on before you invest any more time and energy into it.
164943
You are poor girl,you know that he has a gf and she is pregnant and will give him his baby..what is your place between them? I think he is just using you for his desires
960429
Most people would say dont stay because of the child, but I disagree. I love children, I think they deserve both a mother and a father in their lives and lets face it. Most men dont see their children that often when you are separated. I'm not assuming this, i'm speaking from experience. She has no job, or money, if she would leave now it would be selfish of her for not putting the childs needs before their own. If she feels very strongly about it, then i suggest she get it together so she can make it on her own, but until then, she should stay put and try and communicate with her mate to make it better. Communication is the key here.
1084606
If you feel this will be an issue that can cause problems in a relationship, it would probably be a bad idea to stay together. I know you will have issues if you get married and have kids because you'll want to instill one set of beliefs in them, and he'll want another set of beliefs instead.
785136
It sounds like both yours and his priorities are noncommittal. Seeing each other when convenient should be enough for now. If this was love you would not have to ask this question.
459147
yes im with one but it shouldnt matter whether hes got kids or not as long as he loves you and loves kids and doesnt put his own needs before your kids. good luck
357390
If I am correct you are a hot single mother who can not keep a man because of your son. Atleast that is what I think you are saying. If I am correct you must remember you are a package deal. If one is not accepted the other is not accepted. Men who are immature will not stay with a woman with kids. You need to find you a nice stable man who is very mature and confident in himself. That kind of man will not only accept your son but be the best provider for your new family.
219726
He has right to know its his child he has to know it doesnt matter if he does want to be in or out he has to know hes a father.You can make it clear you want nothing from him not even getting back together(however bad you want it)so he knows that its not a trick to get him back.Other things dont matter he has to know about the situation then the ball is in his court.you got knocked up and now your baby might not have a father congratulations!