When alcohol abuse is similar to physical abuse?
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I sure do feel for you.  Just remember that a zebra cant change his stripes.  You dont need to change your phone number or anything unless he is threatening you and then in that case, you need a cop.  I was married to an alcoholic and it turned mentally abusive.  Please be careful and watch every step you take.  Also remember that your life is more valuable than his alcohol.  If he cant get help then you need to get out and FAST.  You will find someone who is 1,000x better.  I promise.
680987
I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years, during my teens. Throughout the relationship, I was physically tortured (not just beaten, by any means), sexually abused and raped on a regular basis, and forced to watch atrocious acts toward animals. When I finally got out, I immediately started smoking pot very heavily, and I assumed I was pretty much fine, except that I had clinical depression. A couple years later, I got pregnant and abruptly stopped smoking pot (and cigarettes, alchohol, caffeine and antidepressants). Suddenly Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder set in. All of these seemingly unrelated (to the abuse) sounds and sights began to bring on strong physical flashbacks of what it felt like to be sexually violated. 7 years later I am still fighting this every day. I have been to therapists, psychiatrists, counsellors and doctors and, although they have been able to help me with my other issues (depression, anxiety, self-esteem isues, etc.) they haven't offered any effective treatment for the Post Traumatic Stress. About 7 or 8 minths ago, I tried Reiki, and it has been the only thing to give me ANY releif from my PTSD symptoms. It's a lot better, but still there, and it REALLY sucks because when I get triggered, it actually feels like I am being touched "down there" against my will. Of course there is a lot of tension, anxiety, depression and anger as a result of reliving (and desperately trying to AVOID reliving) the physical sensations of being raped each day. I have never been able to work, because of this, but I've been told I do an excellent job of raising my daughter, who is almost 7. Though I may not have many conventional accomplishments under my belt, I feel like just having survived this, and also overcoming my addictions are HUGE accomplishments, and I don't know if many other people could have made it through what I have, and still have a positive attitude, and hope for the future. So, I'm proud of me!
1124693
yes - it's called emotional abuse.
103508
bremerton washington ... 19 yrs ago...someone dropped something into a beer I left unitended... think it was acid or something like it ... happened to several people there.. one second a good time next conan the barbarian waves at me from a poster.. the radio is making noises....and poof three days of pure hell... so watch your drinks.. dont drink anything you left for awhile....
205572
beating and humiliation
1149976
Sounds like he's doing drugs.\nIf he has been physically abusive it is time to get out no matter how much you think you love the guy.\nThere is someone else that will treat you better.
164230
If he's not actively seeking treatment by his own choice, yes.  It only gets worse not better and if he's not willing to help himself their is not a single thing you can do. Doesn't matter how much you love him or how much he loves you, the alchohol will always come first.
1126830
With long alcohol abuse they will have broken blood vessels looking like tiny red veins in their face, sometimes a bulbous nose.  a true alcoholic detests sweets of any kind.  Some have a swollen midsection even though they rarely eat.
582247
you may be allergic to alcohol
1005569
In a word:  NO\n\nI think your friend's story of a man having an accident the day after he stopped drinking is pure coincidence.  Alcoholic problems are usually described in the sense when drinking effects (poorly) other areas of your life.  So if you are talking about drinking in excess before you go to sleep and likely suffering a hang over or having not enough real sleep, it will likely make it very difficult to perform your job the next day.  \n\nStudies have shown that drinking a glass of wine a day keeps the doctor away.
858209
certain alcohols disinfect open cuts and scrapes which are positive physical effects of alcohol but when it comes to drinking alcohol there are no posistive effects. it is a depressant and slows down heart rate. it gets into the blood stream and when the blood passes through the liver(where blood is cleaned) it builds up and if you dink a lot it destroys it. alcohol causes people to think they can do things they cant and causes blurred vision and you can crash your car or get violent with people and those are not good at all
919720
There could be a whole lot of things here. The shaking and diarrhea are especially troubling. If this happens a lot, you could have some liver damage. Go to the doctor and get some blood tests, etc.. Get a check up and talk to him about your ailments. If you are drinking too much, at least admit it to yourself, and get some help - that is 99% of the battle. Sounds to me like you have a good friend here, so don't blow one of your few "second" chances here by not listening. A true friend helps even when it isn't pleasant to do so, so count her a good friend and let her help you out of these problems. You have to be the one to Respond to treatment and Accept the help, and then DO something. You are not acting normally, so get with the recovery already.
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Both are bad situations.  If I had to, I would say Mental abuse is a little worse.  Physical abuse can leave "physical evidence" that abuse is actually taking place. For example, If you see a child with an unusual amount of visable scars, you may take action to help that child.  But if somebody is being abused Mentally, There are still scars, but they are on the "inside"... The average passer-by usually never notices the victoms of mental abuse, thus The abused person is forced to deal with the situation "on their own"  I truely hope this was a hypothetical question, and you are not the victom of any type of abuse.  If you are in a bad situation... Seek help!  The longer people wait to report things like this, the worse they can get.  Oh, by the way, thanks for your answer reguarding a question I asked about depression.  You seem like a wise, and compassionate person.... God Bless.
842540
Be direct and force a choice.  You stated he is your boy friend.  \nThe choice will be to stop his abuse of alcohol or you will dump him.  I know this sounds harsh but you have the advantage now of not being married to him.  If you two do not have any children between you then this is yet another incintive to be assertative now.\nIf he refuses to stop his abuse of alcohol after you let him know how much it upsets you then he is not for you.  The heartache and problems that come from a disfunctional relationship only grows much more worse the longer you stay in that abusive relationship. Just imagine the grief, the financial hardship, and the emotional toll this relationship will have on you if he chooses alcohol over your pain from his destructive actions?\nAs one phrase says, "You can see the hand writing on the wall."\nDo not be gullable.  Do not allow yourself to be minipulated.  Either he will be willing to get some help concerning his alcohol problem or he will love that alcohol more than you.
290732
Having a physically abusing wife is serious and dangerous not to mention demeaning to you.  While it may not be reported often, because of the stigmatism associated with a man being beat by a woman, it doesn't mean that its not as serious.  \n\nDomestic violence of any kind is very serious, and there are support groups, shelters, and counselors that can help you.  \n\nPlease seek a family counselor to help you get over your physically abusive wife.  You will either help her to stop abusing you, or you will need to leave the marriage for your safety and protection.\n\nPlease call a counselor, speak to your religious leader, or go to a support group in your area.  \n\nDo not ignore this or try to handle it alone.  You should talk to someone about this.  \n\nPraying for your safety and peace.\n\n:o)
934936
Being a retired mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, I can tell you from all that psychiatric and counseling care I provided that one who is diagnosed as having a bipolar disorder SHOULD NOT be "getting hammered", if by that you mean drunk from alcohol or other drugs, whether they are on medication or not.  Alcohol and other "street drugs" offer no long term remedy from a long term illness.  Contrarily, they offer only severe cyclic affective disorders which only exacerbates the problem.  I have had clients who came to our clinic who have used alcohol to "self-medicate" their bi-polar disorder, but finally turned to a regimented care since they could not control their alcoholic intake and the destruction caused by self-medicating with alcohol and other illegal drugs really made a mess of things.  I hope I have made this clear for you without being too wordy.  God Bless you.
757768
Why are you still there?  Verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical, maybe more because the wounds never truly heal.  First if you know you have a drinking problem, get help.  No doubt in my mind you are numbing yourself to the abuse, drinking to make it thru each day.  The problem is you're giving him a reason to belittle you and your kids are going to turn on you as well.  Drinking brings nothing but heart ache in the long term.  There are good counselors and idiots as well, remember they are just human beings with crap in their lives as well.  The guy was obviously screwed up to generalize abuse.  The worse part of this entire situation is the setting up of your children to think this is what relationships are....abusive and tragic.  They will look for the same and get the same.  Help yourself so you can help your kids.