my spouse abandon her marriage,do i have legal rights for custody of my child?
96538
Any parent has legal right to there children.  The best thing to do is to decide who would care for the kids the best due to your situation.  I would say my husband would be better because I am still in college and very busy and being a single mother can be hard.  Right now my husband is done with college and already making money. Also the children should stay with who ever gets the house.  They shouldn't be moved.  You could also just share.
1184693
unfortunately, even if you had sole custody of your daughter, you may not be able to leave the state without a court order specifically stating that you have permission to do so...\n\nsad but true
1074011
If you have legal custody then you probably do, provided there isn't a stipulation in the divorce decree saying you may not do so.  \n\nYour ex-spouse may naturally go to court and sue to stop you, though, especially if it represents a significant burden which would interfere with your custody and visitation arrangement (and the court may re-evaluate where the best home for the children is in light of the fact you are willing to take them away from their friends, their school, all their other loving relatives, etc).\n\nHowever, if the issue of custody is not settled, then not only should you not leave the state, but it's probably inadvisable for you to leave the CITY with your children, or even moving across the street, at least not without providing your ex with the exact whereabouts of the children (especially if you're permanently moving).  Simply leaving with the children can very easily be construed by the other parent, and law enforcement, as an attempt to unlawfully deprive a parent their rights to access to their children.  That's generally considered kidnapping in the United States, and would be a federal offense the instant you crossed a state border.  The Feds are VERY good about prosecuting for it, too.  It's not worth running the risk.
443353
Here is a good basic info site \nhttp://www.weblocator.com/attorney/ca/law/c17.html\n\nAlso I would suggest consulting a lawyer directly regarding your situation or questions about abandonment issues. Search for lawyers (box on the left side of screen - choose family law specifically) http://public.findlaw.com/
18133
You need to have a job which could support you and the child, and file for the childs custody through the court. \n\nYou will need to prove that you are fit to keep the child and have overcome the problem  because of which they took the child away in  the first place.
51852
I am not sure but I imagine that it was unlawful for her to leave the USA with your son without your consent.  Follow through with the court filing. Go to the police department and file a report if they won't file a complaint, do not leave the police station until they let you file a report. Get a lawyer or look up online the family laws both for USA national and international and Canada national and international family laws. Do not give up, don't let anyone discourage you, it will take time but you will win your son back fully or to some degree.  You can bet that she is looking over her shoulder every minute.  And every time someone is knocking on her door she is thinking that it is the FBI. Again DO NOT GIVE UP KEEP AT IT, even if all seems useless. And if she could do what she did I quite well imagine that you could do the same except in the opposite direction, from Canada to USA with the child.  What nationality is the child?  Does the child have an American or Canadian passport?  That might make a big difference.\nAlso take classes (parenting,or whatever) or get counseling, tape phone calls and get everything documented and bring it to court or to your lawyers. Every little bit helps.
889110
You should discuss this with a lawyer.  Your wife should not be able to keep you from seeing your children without some sort of legal protection.  And from what you described, there doesn't seem to be any reason for that.  Definitely get a lawyer.
922197
if your exwife cheated on you during the marriage and conceived a child in many states you are still responsible for that child. many states(almost all) consider any child born during the marriage to be that of the marriage.  I see numerous cases a day where men are forced to pay child support for a child that is not his.  it is messed up but that is done everday. unfortunately you cannot sue her 4  trauma or bad dreams because those are not compensatory.  if she had a child previously to you getting married to her than the only way you would be responsible for child support is if you adopted that child.  you can repetition the court and have her ordered to find the real father-but chances are in the mean while you will have to pay and then recoup those monies from the real father in a civil suit. good luck
1165308
Talk to that attorney of yours and have him get you out of the marraige but MORE IMPORTANTLY make sure you have him draw up papers regarding your children!
926292
It sounds like you can VERY EASILY proove that he is an unfit father!  I don't know of any judge that would give him any kind of rights to your daughter.\n\nYou need to see a lawyer!
231368
They do and if the attorney you are using does not seem to be helping, fire that one and find another. Unfortunately it sounds like you never adopted. However, if you supported the child for seven years, you have a strong case for either reimbursement of expenses, which could be used as a weapon against the father to get her back. I know that sounds crappy but you may have to play dirty to get the best interests of the child met. Check your states judicial website, most states have them, and prepare for a lot of research and find what the laws are in your community. Most of it is pretty cut and dried. You can get visitation rights at the minimum, especially since she spent so much of her life with you. Start making phone calls and pleading your case for advice from folks who deal with thiese issues regularly, social services, free legal services from your county etc. Plan on being creative and doing a lot of soul searching. Best of luck to you and to her.
200495
You need to contact the county court or family court in your area.  They can talk you through how to terminate the parental rights of your son's father.  Good luck!
605698
honey, here's some resources, but this is serious legal stuff & noone who is here unless they are a lawyer specializing in family law in your particular state can help you....you are really going to have to seek true legal help from a professional.\nbest of luck for you & my thoughts will be of you\n\n♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀
522100
In your situation I'm not quite sure that there is a right thing to do. My suggestion would be to talk with her and if she too feels that the relationship is over, then maybe you two should consider joint custody. That way, you never have to live without your child in your life. Find a solution where the least amount of pain is caused. It's a tought situation and I wish you all the best.
315198
I have shared custody with my exhusband with our sons.  I can tell you right now that as long as he pays child support and its in their court papers she will have to let him visit with his kids.  She cannot deny his rights no matter how much she wants to.  There is a thing he needs to know about called father's rights.  There is an organization for the rights of fathers.  With my situation my exhusband shares custody and we have always talked about it with our kids because they are involved with this too.  There is something he can do too because i could not keep my exhusband from seeing his sons.  Of course now he chooses not to see his sons because of his retarded alcoholic girlfriend.  Sometimes if you step back and let things happen the way they do it works out better than what you think.  The more he argues with her the worse off she will become.  My advice do like i did let the courts handle it dont fight the decision and let things take its course.  Also keep in mind that since he is still married and he is living with you that can count against him.  I hate to say that but its true.  She can hold that against him in court.  I know about all of this my exhusband was not allowed to live with his girlfriend until after our divorce.  In the divorce is where all things should be stipulated and rules set forth.  If he pays childsupport she will have to let him visit with his sons no matter what.  Don't let it stress you to the point it gets out of hand she is using the kids as stomping ground for him.  She is mad because he has decided to move on without her see what i mean?  After awhile things will work itself out.  I promise on that one.
31300
I agree, give her very little if she is unwilling to be an active participant in your marriage.\n\nShe won't let you see your daughter.\n\nI'd get an emergency child custody order in place.  What she has done may be considered kidnapping.\n\nSpend the money on a lawyer to gain access to your child.\n\nOr better yet, have her bring the child and give her a one-way ticket back to Thailand.\n\nNow that I've given my emotional answer, consult a lawyer for a recommended course of action.
107187
Are you bound to the state you are in because of being the custodial parent and your divorce decree states you must get permission from the court? I would suggest you speak to your divorce lawyer for correct advice. \n Or If you are on probation or paroll or something like that, in which you would need very specific permission from the correct authorities .\n Otherwise, I don't think there are any prison states... at least not yet, so we are still 'free' to move anywhere in this country, reguardless of our maritial status...