How can I forgive my stepdaughter for burning down my house while she was drunk?
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Wow, I dont think I could. Thats a Crazy thing to do.\n\nhowever you do need to remember she was not herself when she did it, she was drunk which impares judgment and all over common sense. Try talking to her about it, maybe she can explain to you that she doesnt remember or how sorry she is. Then put her butt to work to help build you a new one.
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Anything you "do" is going to force her to defend him.  I know how frightening the situation is.  It could build in to full blown abuse. If this is what he does when drunk it will only get worse.  Sounds like you have already been through plenty with this relationship. It is so hard to stand by while our kids make big mistakes.  Been there done that! Just be there for emotional support, she will need you.
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hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
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No matter what happened to cause this, it's up to you to get in touch with her and fix the problem.  You have to be willing to forgive and go forward.  You start out by letting her know that you love her and that are willing to have an open mind about whatever choices she had made in her life and go from there.  Now if she's not willing to talk right then and there, let her know that she can always call you no matter what.  One other thing, never pass judgment on her.  Give advice, but let her know that it's her choice.
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honey let me tell you something ok if you blame yourself stop doing that it ain't your fault ok. let the pain go away and remember the good times you guys had together keep the memories in your heart and never let them go. always see it this way God needed him to be an angel and that is what he is always now he is in a way better place and looking down on you and the family. I am really srry you had to go threw this and my heart goes out to you and your family and you all will be in my prayers as well take care of yourself.
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You know it would be nice if we weren't adult and we could go around beating the crap out of people's faces..... This would be a perfect time to beat the crap out of someone....lol\n\nWhat I would do is call her. Tell her it's none of her business who you do or don't marry and you could careless if she thought your new hubby was a hunk or not. Tell her to keep her mouth shut around your daughter. That is very RUDE that she said that too your child no matter her age. I would tell her that. You might need to have a talk with your EX's and find out what the deal is. No step mother or girlfriend has the right to say anything about you. If that don't work beat her tail!\nI done got mad and can't type now.\nGood Luck!
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Depends on what you did to her. Give it time: she won't be able to get over something major overnight. Write her a note telling her how wrong you were & sorry you are. Give her flowers. Good luck!
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I'm not so sure it would be a good idea to call the cops on your mother in-law it will just make the wife mad and do you want that.\nI do recommend you go get it checked out though you may have suffered a concussion so best to be safe check it out if they ask tell them you slipped and wacked your head on a table.  God Bless and Good Luck.  But really find out why she hit you some how it would be good to know your wife must question and do not leave until you have an answer.  Maybe it's because you didn't clean up after you made your breakfast?
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Yes you did over react a little but I'm sure it's all those hormons flying around.  hehehe  I'm glad you apologized to your stepmom because she is doing her best for you and is looing out for the family.  She probably needs a little help and is trying to help make Tracy feel like part of your family & you can get to know her better if she's around.  I was afraid you were going to say she had un-invited her which would have given you a reason to blow-up, since you had already invited her.  Your step mom sounds like a nice & caring person.  She is doing this for you & for your baby.  Let her know you appreciate everything she is doing for you & that you are happy she is there for you as well.  Be happy that you like Tracy & that she's coming over to help, get to know her...you never know, she might be your future sister-in-law!!!  CONGRATULATIONS!  Good luck in the party & God bless.  ;o)\n\n~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~\n\nFree helpful Baby Magazines for a new Mommy-to-be:\n\nhttp://www.americanbaby.com\nhttps://subs.timeinc.net/BY/by_newbiz03.jhtml;jsessionid=Q43OUZOPQV4ROQHMGARRHOQ?experience_id=119170&source_id=30&_requestid=222655\nhttp://www.verybestbaby.com/user/regp00pa.asp?OPTI=RI&offername=&Next=%2F
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Get her out of there.  I'm sorry about the money, but you don't sound like you're having that much fun.  Alcohol destroys brain cells.  You want to see her sober again while it's still possible.  Like you said, she has a problem.  You don't.  How fortunate she is to have a compassionate son!  It's not your fault that she's drunk.  But, this is a situation you might be able to do something about.
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I'm really sorry about this. Usually it's harder to prove this kind of stuff when it happens to a guy. My step dad sexually abused me, except it was touching so it was his word against mine. There was no penetration or semen to prove that he had wronged me. The only reason it came out was because I told my friend who ended up telling the school counselor because she was worried. The police took my statement and she asked if I wanted to charge him. I said "yes" and she told me that I wouldn't need to go to court because all she needed was my statement. I guess he must have gotten charged because I overheard in family court that he was doing community service and that he got pyscologically assesed. He was considered low risk, but for a person who took university classes in psycology he probably knew how to answer questions the right way. It boggled my mind that they let him live in a house full of children. My mom had two girls with him and she also cared for three foster children. My social worker couldn't quite understand either why they were still living there, but she said it was probably because he was considered low risk and that the claims weren't against my mom. I ended up in foster care because my mom never wanted to see me again and she didn't want to believe it. I would even take a lie detector test but it is not considered evidence if it were to show I am telling the truth. The only other person that could possibly prove his guilt,  would be my foster brother who was 5 at the time. I thought that if I kept my foster brother by my side that my step dad wouldn't try anything. I wrapped myself in a blanket and told the boy to sit beside me and not to leave my side no matter what. We were sitting, watching TV on the bed and my step dad came home.  He came behind us and lay down. He was rubbing me as the little boys eyes were glued to the TV. He was rubbing my legs and reached into the blankets wrapped around me. He reached to my shorts and tugged at the crotch about to go in. I grabbed his hand and flung it away and started yelling and him as I was crying. The little boy got up and was watching me cry and he asked what was wrong and why I was crying. My step dad started to appologize and was trying to get my attention, I couldn't even look at him, he kept asking for forgivness and I kept ignoring him. My step dad asked for the little boy to leave because he wanted to talk tome in private. I told the boy not to go because there was nothing to say and he listened to me and gave me a hug. He pushed him away from me and kept asking me to forgive him. I told him not to ask me. I told him he should ask God for forgivness because I couldn't do that. He said "I can't live with myself unless I hear it from you". The boy was there,  but I don't know if he understood what was going on. At the age of five he already had a very good memory of things that happened far before. I don't think they used him as a witness though, it wouldn't be fair to put that kind of pressure on a 5 year old boy who already had an unfair life. Later after the boy was gone my step dad told me that we could tell my mom, but I didn't want to tell it with him there. I was scared he would try to twist things around, so I said no. I tried to tell her myself, but he never let me be alone with her. I slipped a note to my brother telling him what happened and I asked him to tell my mom because my step dad wouldn't let me be alone with her.  He was in shock and didn't do it. The next day as I was getting ready for school he said he would drive me and I told him I could walk. I told my brother I was scared to go and he said I would be fine. My step dad didn't drive me to school, instead he just drove around trying to talk to me and parked the car in a parking lot. He told me that he was going to leave the country in a year and told me not to say anything. When it all came out he
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I dunno, I came home so hammered last night, I think I nailed my sister in law. Oops.
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Yep... it wasn't such a good thing to do... & you will have to learn to forgive yourself long before anyone else will. I would suggest writing to your (I'm assuming) ex-wife & tell her all these things that you're saying here. Apologize for your actions, for hurting her, for straying. You can't do much else past an apology. Your ex is trying to figure out what SHE did wrong, to cause you to stray from your marriage in the first place. Perhaps you can help sort that out for her. Being an outsider here, you are taking responsibility for your actions, but she needs to know that you realize what you did was wrong.  \n   Remember always, hind-sight is 20/20. Don't do anything you think you might regret later, because regret is a horrible thing to have to live with.  Once you learn to forgive yourself, time will take care of the rest. Your guilt shouldn't keep you from living your life.. it should prevent you from making mistakes in the future, by causing you to stop & think before you act.
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believe in christs love for you!! dont be vendictive, god will give her the consequences to her actions, revenge isn't the answer.  do as god asks you to do and he will take care of the situation.PATIENCE AND PRAYER. he will bless you
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I feel sorry for both you and your husband. Here is what I would do If I were in your situation:\n\nFirst of all you and your husband need to put up a united front. Once you set your rules and advise her of them, put your foot down.  If she chooses to disobey, then she must suffer the consequences, and if she calls the cops, have her bags packed ready and waiting by the door when they get there.\nAs for the ex, we all have to put up with them on behalf of the kids, but that does not mean that you hve to be a push over and let her destroy your marriage. Let her know where you stand.\nGood Luck.
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just explain to him that u had a little too much to drink, and in ur point of view they were being quite rude to your husband!! apologize for overreacting and try to let it go.  \n\nat this point it doesn't really matter who's "fault" it is, because u both acted as u did at that time, under the influence of alcohol and a party atmosphere.  sometimes people get upset when someone kinda "ruins" the mood... =T.  try to loosen up a bit.. u could've complained to ur hubby (oh i can't believe those people, so rude!!) u didnt' have to cause a scene... u know? but u were defending him, so it's not like u intended to do anything wrong.  it's over and done, try to let it go, and promise to try to stay "Positive" and deal with things together instead of giving strangers a piece of ur mind for no important reason. good l uck
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You don't say what you did to make her mad. If the perceived offense was 'bad' enough she may never forgive you.\n\nTry being as nice as you can to her. (but don't go overboard and be annoying) Try to make up for what you did. Eventually she'll forgive you or you'll get tired of trying.\n\nYou can't make anyone forgive you, unfortunately. You may just have to chalk it up to experience and move on. And don't repeat the mistake with someone else. Learn from it!