why cant i stop think about someone that i loved at one time and know i hate them for what she did 2 me?
91048
because u were sprung off the sex
79895
you can't stop thinking at her but you must do something else. follow my advice and will be pas this\nproblem. trying to find somebody else.Trying to consolate with idea :it's something human will be pass or " the man it's a man"or "follow the heart" or "pls :keep going ma man /it's my word in my contry/"(noroc)!
972603
if your still thinking about your ex then you have not given yourself enough time to get over him and have rushed into another relationship....its not fair on your new partner!
379828
Because you never ever forget your first love. It will always be special no matter how many relationships you have. In fact, you can't really forget anyone you've been in love with. Love is a feeling you can't just switch off or leave behind. When you have been that intimate with someone and that close, no matter how badly the relationship ended, the good times will always be remembered and looked upon fondly. What you do instead is move on in life and focus on other things and other relationships. Go out, do things you enjoy, surround yourself with friends and realise that love can and will come again. However, if you believe that this girl was more than your first love, maybe you think she was "the one" then why not get in contact with her again? See how she is and see if your feelings are still there.
586193
you cant.  You cant help who you fall in love with.  You can try to stop liking them but you can never stop loving them
31921
Honeesstlly? Bad bad bad idea, coz one time or the other you'll keep getting to see your ex, and thats not too good unless you have something else on your mind ;)
896464
Well ask your self why you cant stand being around them? Is it them, or is it everyone? Is it a sensible reason? Does it make sense to get that feeling? If not, and your having second thoughts, it could be physiological.... Do you have extreme highs and extreme lows? Maybe its a form a Bipolar. But whatever it is, if you feel that its preventing you from living your life, and you find yourself unhappy, then don't wait to figure out what it is, because in most cases, it will get worse. Ask a Doc if you can. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. Trust me. Then again.... if your just referring to certain people, then that's happens to everyone! I myself cant stand certain people, the ones that try to bring you down with them, so if that's the case, just avoid them. Or just tell them like it is. Hope this helps!
393168
I will make myself believe that I will start hating her as fast as I fell in love with her. That will give me some time to go slow and think more cautiously about my feelings.
376457
divert your attention to someone else who can fill the space that belonged to the person you want to get rid of. Let go of all grudges, pain and don't you ever think about getting a revenge because this will make you more attach to him/her.\n\nForgive and forget. If you can't forget, don't make every memory of him a big deal.
558353
Hello nic@nite! This sometimes happens wen we are missing something in our lives that we once cherished a lot! This is a way by which our subconscious lets us know that we need to do something to fill that void. It may or may not have anything to do wth that girl, but it surely has a lot to do with how you felt wen u were with her. Pls do a bit of intropspection and find out wat aspect in ur life is 'suffering', be it emotional, n so on.. I'm sure dat u wont be hurting again if you do dat, as it is just a reminder to let you know that u need someone or maybe just urself to fill that void. Blessings!
736374
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.
251351
I deal with this daily.\n\nYou move on until you find someone who makes you feel the way "the one that got away" did. There could be any number of reasons that the first one got away, but the fact is that she did, and has likely moved on with her life - you should, too.
556994
I would rather take a beating and get it over with and to listen to someone i love hurt my heart with their hateful words against me.  It weakens the mind and heart.
973583
you are simply attached to ur ex..... hopefully, after some time, you will forget about her.  since it just happened its still fresh in your mind.  relax yourself and let time pass.  Open your mind to new opportunities and see wat happens.
229869
That's exactly what happens to me with a close friend of mine.. \nso i've been thinking about it hard lately .. esp after i tried every way with her.. i talked to her about it many times .. i got mad at her.. i forgave her a thousand times.. so the last thing i decided was to tell her for the last time the way i hate it when she does things that hurt my feelings and told her that now she knows what bothers me and that im not gona talk to her or call her until she thinks deeply about it and realizes that i really get hurt and make sure she wont do it again and is ready to change the way she treats me in order for the past not to repeat itself
1013012
Because deep down no matter how much you say you hate the person you at one time had feelings for them and it hurts to know that the feelings they had for you are now being transferred to someone else.