y r parents soooo doubtful on teenchildren?
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GOOD POINT..\nLiving at HOME, isnt REAL life.\nGoing to school has nothing to do with real life or what sociaty IS'.\nParents are there to TEACh you(they HOPE), and for you to learn..\n\nUntill you reach 25, and have spent AT LEAST 5 years on your own, paying ALL your bills, and HAVE a job, and NO DEBT.  Your parents will not/should not acknowledge that you are a success, and THEY have done there best.\n\nYOU, are their experiment.  IF they did it ALL right, you will leave their home, and be suited to life life WITHOUT THEM, and they wont need to worry about you.
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afraid? i dont think so. it is just that adults know that the kids are just not grown up to undestand the complexity of the whole thing.
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Teens need to learn that there are limits and boundaries to what they can do.  You just talk about them and don´t expect them to accept it on face value. Tell them what will happen if they don´t respect those limits, not in terms of threat but in terms of reasoning with them.  They understand that out there, there are traffic lights, bills to pay and other "real-life" limitations to comply.  Don´t become a police for them.  Teach them that everyone is responsible for order and good keeping of the places they inhabit.
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What are your parents' concerns?  If you can help answer or address their concerns, then maybe they'll let you go.  Or maybe they have legitimate concerns that you have not considered.\n\nI hope you can work it out with your parents.
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No as can be attested to by the spiraling teenage pregnancy rate.  It's wishful thinking on adults part that they will, nothing more and certainly not realistic.
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It's called rebellion.  I had 3 teenage girls at the same time.  A teen feels they are old enough to make their own decisions and don't need their parents telling them what to do.  You don't realize that your parents were once teens also and they know and understand what is going on with you because they went through it to.  truth is, you are not old enough to know better.  You think you are, but you are not.  Parents only want what is best for their children no matter what age.  As hard as it may be, try listening to your parents.  Sit down and talk.  Ask them why they are being so forbidden on certain liberties that you want.  You will be surprised how understanding parents can really be.  Don't give up...it gets better, believe me.
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I am a youth counselor at a detention center for at risk youth and I see this alot. Now I am only 23 years old so I don't know how much I can influence the crowd here but here it goes. I think with the kids I deal with there are 2 main things that add to the equation. Parents and Pop Culture. With parenting I think people arent willing to put in the time and also agree with the fact that parents are trying to be friends. Also I don't know if there is any connection but I would say with the number of single parents increasing and the age at which people are impregnated. A irresponsible youth can't raise a responsible person. By the time the kids I work with get to be teenagers, the parent usually wants to make up for the teenage years that they themselves lost leaving a kid to fend for himself. As far as pop culture goes I just isn't popular to be nice anymore most music is about being depressed or being a gangster, alot of the movies my youth watch when not in program have to do with the same or with sexual acts. Well that's all on this matter for now any questions feel free to write.\n Timmy
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Maybe you grew up too sheltered. Some parents will try to protect their children from anything harmful and in return the children only learn fear from the things they were protected from. I've heard of cases like that.\nCould also be past experiences.. but there are alot there.
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COULD BE TO MANY PROBLEMS AND NOT ENOUGH SUPPORT AT HOME FROM THE PARENTS, AND TEENS ARE JUST REACTING ON PAIN INSTEAD OF REACTING THE THE GUIDENCE AND LOVE THEY NEED
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lots of love an effection. They need to be expose to society to. Alot of parents want to keep hem away from it, but its not good.
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No, no, a thousand times no.\n\nLeave parents in their little dream land about this.
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Teenagers these days need morals given by their parents and enforced. A lot of parents don't open up to their child by these issues until its too late. Not only do teenagers deal with this problems, but so do pre-teens. Some parents think, "Oh Jonny is only 11 years old. We don't need to talk to him about that yet." Unfortuantly, many of them are very wrong. Most kids are learning about sex and drugs before they are a teenager.\n\nSociety & the media plays a huge role in a childs mind. There are more bad infuences than great role models out there. A child gets confused. \n\nMorals aren't set into the childs mind. Discussions about sex, drugs and its concequences. Its not taught in school until after a child has had its glimse of drugs and sex. They are already tring to figure it out on their own because they are not getting other help from anyone other than their friends who are already experiencing this issues. \n\nParents need to open up with their child and visa versa.  Family discussions and meetings can connect a family is positive ways. Its not only beneificial to the child but the parent. Sometimes family counciling is very helpful to families with difficult issues. \n\nWith all that aside, A teenager (or pre-teen) who feels threatened by the peer pressures of drugs or sex. Just say "No thanks".  Its not worth the concequences. Enjoy your life as a kid, follow your dreams and reach them. Be knowledgeable and make something good for yourself. If you fall into the traps of peer pressure, you lose yourself. There is only one "you" out there. Make "you" someone good, someone great.
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I'm sorry.  You got a really hard road ahead.\nThe infant yrs will be the worst, teens will lighten up.  They really hate novel situations, they like their lives predictable.  Best thing you can do is "push the envelope", expose him to new experiences at a rate that won't freak him out.
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well it is probably both. I to, had to do chores or i did not get to do anything!! Also, parents today dont have enough discipline, and they let there kids walk all over them. Which to me, is a crock of shit. I think that a teen needs boundaries, and there needs to be rules set. If a parent just gives in, then they need there ass kicked!! and people wonder what the world is coming to- today, teen have no respect, no morals, and are lazy as hell./
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dude, i dunno wat ur tryin 2 say, but i think i kno and i think its no- ya alwayz have 2 have ur freakin parents permission these dayz.
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Well, have you spoiled her in her earlier years? Not anything bad about your parenting or something like that, they are adorable and sometimes you can't help but give them everything, lol. My friend did this and when he started asking for help around the house, his daughter felt she didn't have to do it because she never had to before. It went on with a month and he had to talk with her about it every few days. She finally got annoyed and started helping out though, lol. Then again, 11 is near teenager...and we all fear the teenage daughter...and/or the teenage daughter's boyfriend.
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Sorry to hear that, sweetie.  Maybe you should find another adult to talk to that will LISTEN to you and be there for you.  Parents sometimes get so self absorbed that they lose touch with their teens and think that the teen just wants independence and no longer needs guidance.  You really should point this out to your parents and let them know how you feel.  They just might not realize how much you truly need them.  Hope this gets better for ya!