MY friend is will and he is afraid to fight  his bully what shall he do?
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Hmmmm .... be careful about some of the advice yu have been given here.  Some of it is good ... do be assertive, but your friend is probably not strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them.  Bullies don't go away.  It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge.  I don't know how old you and your friend are, but this problem needs to be dealt with.  Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better.  If this is happening at school, most schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidnace counselor, a teacher youtrust, the principal, someone.  Can your friend go to his parents and tell them?  If the bully has actually attacked your friend, go to the police.  The bully can be charged.  This is not a laughing matter.  No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL.  Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n1.  If you are bullied, TELL.  Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling.  It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2.  Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult.  You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3.  Do not retaliate or get angry.  This could make things worse.\n4.  Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5.  develop good strong friendships and support each other.  Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6.  Act confident.\n7.  Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible.  For example, take a different route to school.\n8.  Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9.  Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10.  To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that.  Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11.  Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends.  \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do.  I think this website might really help you figure out some good positivbe things you can do to deal with this.\n\nI hope this helps you.  Good luck with sorting this out.  Don't give up.  There is help out there. Take care.
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don't put him in that position . . . be his friend even if he is friends with your enemy
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Tell your parents.  No one deserves to be hurt like that.  Your parents will most likely talk to his parents.  And if his parents are little stupid babies about it, then they are probably the cause of their son's behavior.  Now, see, if this was a girl bothering you, it would probably be because she would like you.  But in this case, the bully is a rich snob that don't now squat that's a boy.  Ask him why the heck he does this to you, and I just bet he'll say " Cuz it's fun."  If he says that, tell him it's not for you and that you're seriously bothered.  He most likely won't listen, so tell people that will listen.  Weather it's the school counselor, or your parents, just anyone who will take charge of the situation.  The best of luck to ya!
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That's a tough situation.  I had a bully in 7th grade.  Ultimately, and it will be the hardest thing to do, but you have to tell an adult.  Someone that will listen.  A parent, or a teacher.  Someone that can watch your back and put the bully in his place.  I know it sounds like tattling or ratting on this person... but think about the news stories.  There's violence out there and you just can't keep quiet about it.
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You should talk with your friend about the situation...if you aren't doing anything to provoke the situation then you shouldn't worry but I would definitely encourage you to talk with your friend.
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How long has your friend been jealous of you?  You're entitled to be hurt and annoyed, but if a straight forward request of your friend to please stop doesn't work, then perhaps this friends should seek other company.  Do not respond in a like manner - how do two wrongs make a right?  Do not expect your teachers to get involved unless you're in actual physical jeapardy from this "bully".  Sounds to me more like jealousy, not bullying.  I'd feel sorry for this "friend".  And probably distance myself from him as well.
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Ask your friend if everything is ok and explain your fears to her.Tell her you are concerned for her safety and you dont want anything bad happening to her. Tell her that if he is abusing her then you and her can go and get help together as a team and that everything will workout for the best.\nI hope everything works out.
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Firstly tell your parents, make sure they are aware of the situation. Don't fall for any of this "You mustn't tell the teacher" nonsense. The guy sleeps happy at night, so why shouldn't you? And don't apologise to anyone for sticking up for your rights, they are your rights, people fought for them, and this bully shouldn't be allowed to take them away.\nNext time he threatens you tell him there will be trouble if he tries anything, but, and this is the important part, don't tell him or even hint what actions you will take, let him guess. His imagination will do the job for you. Just smile. \nNext, get some witnesses to back you up.\nIf they guy touches you then lay a complaint with the Police, and if they ask why you didn't speak to the school say they refused to protect you.\nAlso learn a few basic self defense moves, like kicking him "where it hurts most". If he tries anything, do that, and when he's on the ground crying his eyes out ... like I said, don't apologise.\nSince the Principal won't do anything, write to the school committee asking them what their policy is on bullying (it will be they don't allow it, but you have to ask the question) because you are being bullied and the Principal won't address your concerns. \nIf the bully is threatening others, which is probably the case, make sure you state this as well in your letter. \nThird, next time it happens, go down to the school office and tell them you are going home because they are unable to provide a safe environment for you at school, and tell them to ring you when it is. If they try and stop you ask them why they don't stop the bully. Tell them to call the cops and walk out. \nAlso, can do you know of any "dirt" on the guy. For example, does he bring cigarettes to school or is an illegal immigrant? \nShop him. \nAnd lastly, always look confident when he sees you, not frightened. Look like you are a person with power, because you have something he doesn't have - the law is on your side.
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If he is always talking to his friend you should try something unusual...:)Try to talk with his friend about this:P. You should take courage...Life is not  meant to be easy.
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how long has it been going on?.....usually if you "dont do anything" it gets old and he'll back off and move on to someone with a reaction...but im afraid if you do punch him, that will give him more of a reason to never back off. If you have to do it, Iunderstand you need to take a stand try and do it infront of administrators so it cant go too far, their job is to bring down violence.....but remeber for someone to abuse someone else by picking on them it is because they feel inadequate and need to feel better about themselves. He must have serious mental problems and insecurity.
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You need to face your fear, or else your friend's going to get him. Where a skirt with a cute shirt. Look HOT and flirt with the boy. GO FOR IT!!! YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!
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Hi Jani!\n             Bullys are usually cowards.\nIt is best to ignore them pretend that you have your hearing aid turned down they only continue this type of behaviour if they can see that you are intimidated.\nStand your ground hold your head high smile and move on through.\nCarpe Dieme "sieze the day it is there to be enjoyed.
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You would need a support network. Tell as many people as you can that someone is bullying you and you need help.  Name the bully.  If you are a kid tell as many adults as possible. ONe adult may do nothing.  Name the bully.  A bully is generally a coward and will be afraid of a group of people that confront him or her and tell them in no uncertain terms that they will not be tolerated.  Don't go anywhere alone and make a friend that doesn';t take crap and is larger and stronger than the bully.  Take a digital camara photo of the person or persons ...like a mug shot and hang it up all over school or work and it should say on it ...Danger if you see this Bully ..Do not approach.  Or wanted Bully...Do not approach Danerous bully.  If a bully is know to the community and suffers public humiliation then they have too many witnesses to carry on with their sadistic ritual of bullying other , weaker individuals who have done nothing wrong, and don't deserve this kind of treatment and it has been proven that the individual that is being bullied is usually a more intelligent or in some way superior individual. Arm yourself with knowledge. There is an infinite amount of literature in the library on the psychology of bullying. Know your adversary.  Take martial arts .  Be very very confident and don't let your weakness show externally but be brave.  When you talk to the bully talk in a loud firm confident voice and show no fear.  Remember a bully is the ultimate coward.  Good luck
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It does sound like drugs.  Can't you get him to a better school?  Do something about the bullying : see the headmaster and if possible get a big man to kick some @rse.
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Talk about it with your friend. When you do, don't start a fight because that will make the problem worse. Think about this. What's more important, the guy or your friend?
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Kids are always being bullied but tell your best friend but do not let her tell her son directy tell her to bring the subject up in a indirict way . Beacuse if she tells her son directly the bulling might get even worce . Sorry but that Is the life of kids at school .
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just be his friend. because if you pressure him you might lose his friendship.