Where and how do I find a nice man? I've tried the internet and bars, but I just don't seem to find him.
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I agree somewhat with Katrina, that men can be intimiated by independent and strong women.  But, as a guy, I would say "put off," not exactly intimidated.  For example, I recently dated a gal who I was very attracted to, although she wasn't stunning- she just "did it" for me.  But, she spent too much time telling me about her degrees from MIT, how she worked for Steve Jobs, etc..  Relationships are about humanness to me- life's little problems, emotionality, sensuality.  I talk shop all day at work, and want something deeper in a relationship.  It just got to a point where I didn't want to hold a conversation with her, since we just couldn't connect.  I guess the point is maybe revisit the guys you like with a deeply human approach, and see how that works.  I agree with the rest of the posters-  it's hard to meet someone you like.  It's true for me, too.  I live in the middle of nowhere.
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Nice guys tend to be in nice places. You won't catch a brook trout in a storm sewer. Join a church or the Young Democrats or the Young Republicans or the Sierra Club. Volunteer for a work day at Friends of the River. Join a gym. Look for single dads at your kids' activities. Stay clear of bars.\n\nTake it very, very slow. Assuming you are past 35, from the list of problems, you will probably have to settle for someone 10 - 15 years older than you. It is an ugly fact of life that there are about 2 nice women for every nice guy out there, so the guys can pick and choose.\n\nMy wife works in a large medical building with a lot of nurses. We belong to a large church, and I work for a meduim sized-corporation. The lack of reasonable men is astounding. I know just 2 single men I would not hesitate to introduce to anyone. I know a dozen women I wish I could pair up with nice guys.
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In regards to the last answer. There are guys here that are looking for the same. In some ways this is the only way they can get the courage to talk to others. I can reconmend eharmony.com is a good way to go. Surely you can find an interest there. Not all people are bad. But you can tell by the ones who's talking more than they should. ;-)
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THANK YOU!!Women are constanly saying they want the nice guy but the nice guy get's nowhere.What's up with that?
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Take a cooking class or how about a church social.  There a TONS of great men out there, but I know they aren't at bars.  I met my husband online, I don't suggest this to everyone, but you never know.  I NEVER would have thought in a million years that we'd end up married, but it was meant to be!
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i can't tell u how to find him...but i can tell you not to base "liking" him on looks! i know i wasn't much help. . . but there you go!
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The perfect man doesn't exist, but there must be thousands of reasonably good ones.\n\nKeep looking!
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The obvious place is the gay bars (yes, I'm gay), if you're not into the bar scene try internet dating sites...go to yahoo search and type in " gay personals " and see what you come up with\nor type in " free gay personals "  you can email me at kenp_30@yahoo.com  My name is Ken
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stop looking. one day Mr. Right will find you and treat you the way you ought to be treated. Just sit back and relax and let God do his work.\n\nand they aren't all drunks. maybe your lookng in the wrong place. its hard, b/c there are a lot of men by the name of Mr. Wrong!
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Nice guys are normally gay.  What you need is a guy who is generaly not nice, but is nice to you.
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That's funny, there are so many nice, friendly well balance women out there without children  wondering the same thing about a males.  The problem is, where do you find eachother....at the nice, friendly, well balanced singles without children club? That's cute. Good luck hun.
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Get off your PC, get out the door and get into something you enjoy doing. Find something that men like doing as well. You'll meet him there.\n\nGood luck, now go get em'!!!\n:)
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Find a nice SINGLE guy. Married equals not for you!
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I have met a couple of really nice guys on Singlesnet. Also, you can email a featured member for free, so if you find a featured member that you are interested in you don't need to join. I haven't paid to join, but have contact with the men I want to contact.
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One place for you to meet a guy(and take it from me b/c im a guy) is church or even the gym. You have nice men that go there. But the main thing you must know is not to rush it. Don't act desperate for a man,because if you act desperate then that would send out the wrong man radar and then you'll find yourself dating a rapists or something. Your priorty is your children first, but if you want guarentee great men, church. Or maybe even at your job. But dont be in a rush to get a man... the right man would come to you.. and there is a right man for you somewhere.. Just dont go out on dates by yourself.. go in like groups first.
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i would say nice guys don't have to be found they just come... you will find a nice guy just don't focus so much on looking for it.
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Most of the guys on these dating sites are the same ones you'll find in any lameass club--you know , the jerks who hang together and always go home alone!!! Ha! Ha! I also think that alot of them are just playing around on the computer anyway. Good luck, tho. :)