When you know you've done something wrong, and everyone is in your face, how do you get out of it?
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I'll give you a couple of little things, then a recommendation.\n\nFirst, keying on the "everyone is in your face" part of what you said. If "everyone is in your face," then they might not think you are taking it seriously. They may be waiting for you to validate their feelings of being wronged. True or not, one way to do this is to overact! That's right, I said act. Publicly, be harder on yourself than they are. That'll get them to shift from dealing with "this whiner who doesn't want to own up to his wrongs" over to supporters of this righteous person who is truly sorry and wants to correct the situation.\n\nMy story: I do contract work where I go into factories and empty their trash barrels -- just a couple of hours several days a week.\nI was called by the contractor and asked if I had thrown out some boxes that were next to one of the 20 or so barrels in one factory. I said I couldn't recall, but probably had if they were placed by the barrels. He then said that everything in the factory was videotaped, one of the boxes held about $10,000 worth of electronics parts, and they saw me on tape picking it up and throwing it into the cart. They had gone out to the dumpster and retrieved it, but I should be more careful. I agreed.\nNext time in that factory a supervisor came over to me and started to ride me about the incident and referred to the videotaping. I grinned at him and said "Yeah. Proves I was working, didn't it?"\nI've never heard any more about it since then, except when I bring it up. Among other things, *their* evidence showed I wasn't stealing. I had made a legitimate mistake and admitted it even though I didn't remember it. I didn't blame it on them, their sloppy workers, or anything else. Boom. Now lets move on.\n\nThere are a few authors and books I constantly recommend. David J. Lieberman, behaviorist, is one of the authors. The book for you is "Make Peace With Anyone" (Breakthrough Strategies to Quickly End Any Conflict, Feud, or Estrangement.) We don't need any more people telling us *what* we should do. It's refreshing to run into someone who writes about *how* we can do it.
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doing something wrong
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Hang out with different people, ones who you want to be with. If they still bug you, just ignore them. They just want to push your buttons and get you to jump on them, getting you in trouble. I know it's hard ignoring people who constantly get in your face, but the alternative is to get in trouble by physically getting their face gone. If they won't leave you alone, after asking them nicely, maybe ask them why they're bugging you. Most times, you'll get some lame excuse, like because they like it, or because I want to. Those kinds of excuses tell you they're just trying to make you mad and get a reaction. After that, don't react to them, no matter how bad it gets. Try to always surround yourself with positive people, keeping your goals in focus. Don't lose your stride to a bunch of posers. Their own lives are miserable, so they want to bring you down past their level of mediocrity. Rise above it. Don't give in to their taunts. I had years of this kind of experience in grade school, the worst being in middle school. Something happens to some kids when they get in middle school. It's like they left their brains somewhere else and living the life of a moron. It will get better, in time. Though it seems hard right now, just keep your focus. <*)))><
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I'm going through a similar situation because of things I did years ago.  They never really trust you again. Not fully anyway.  It is always there, waiting for the opportunity to show up and force you to feel guilty about something.  I've been going through this for 13yrs.  It hasn't gotten any better.  Maybe you need to learn from your mistake and move on. I don't know why I stayed,but I wish I hadn't.
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When you find that something is making you upset, just pause and take a deep breath.  Step outside, whetever you have to do to escape the situation for however long you need.  Breathe slowly and deeply, and count in your head.  When you have calmed down enough to think rationally about the situation, come back to it.  Don't rush...sometimes you only need to count to 10, sometimes you might need to count to a jillion.  I'm no expert, but this is what I do.  Hope it helps!
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Alright, slow down and write down what it is that you did or you think you did. Then, write down what you should have done. If you did something bad then you need to ask for forgiveness. Communicate to your friend. Sometimes, we do stuff that is hard for someone to forgive. Your job is to ask for forgiveness. Don't expect forgiveness right away. If you care about the friendship then give it your best try. Wait, and then see what happens while taking care of yourself.\n\nOne of life's meanings is that you learn from your mistakes. You will grow from this if you choose to learn.
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If you like doing something that is wrong, then you've got serious issues.  Quit hurting other people because what goes around, comes around.
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I would pick something that you have done in your life mistake or not, that has some how changed you for the better. People relate well with situations they are familiar with. Try something along those lines
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tell them you didnt do it, tell them the truth, and if the person who did do it is just getting you in trouble, tell the person who really did it. then again if you want to take the blame, then just go with it and the other person might owe u one for sticking up for them
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If it is at work, maybe go to the personnel department and talk it over with someone....or talk to people who are completely out of the situation and will not tell what you say.\n\nDevelop a plan to get out of there...document everything you do in case they accuse you of something. Carefully develop an alliance with someone there getting their approval of you, without telling them you have a problem..for example if your boss is mean, and there is someone else that has authority there too, impress them with how nice or good you are, and get their approval.  Sometimes one authority figure will speak positive things to the other and help to change their mind.\n\nSit tight and be careful...ask God to help you..
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Make a list of their bad habits or traits that irritated you so much...\nRemember all the bad things about them and be glad you have another chance at happiness in life...\nThis is a blessing in disguise...\nI have been there and done that...\nIt seems terrible at first, but later on, you look back and think, what was I worried about...\nAnd you find yourself in a better place than before...\nBest of luck...
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dint get to mad with yourself you got caught up in the moment nervously it happens and you forgot to say something just try harder next time and yes i do do something but yet again a racist person will always be so whatever you say or do wounts change them just make the target fell better knowing someone cares enough to speak up behalf of her and what not
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Walk upright with your head held high.  Look people in the eye and be willing to laugh at yourself.  Since everyone must deal with embarrassment sometimes in their lives, what's important is how you respond to it.  By responding positively, you can turn this obstacle into an opportunity.
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What is your fear which stole your confidence away? Talk about it... speak to someone if you have a person whom you trust. \n\nIf you don't have anyone to speak to, try self help technique. you can write in your diary or record your voice as you talk about it. Then read what you wrote or replay what you've recorded and hear it as though it was your friend who wrote/ spoke.\n\nMost of the time we know the solution to our problem, but being in the hole ourselves, we fail to see the bigger picture and feel really helpless and stuck. The irony is when someone came to us with their problem, we can immediately see the solution. Therefore, by using this technique you can be your own "friend" and help yourself out of it. \n\nIf none of the above helps, list down your achievement in life, something you feel good/ proud about yourself, happy moments. Then try to recall/ visualise those moments. You will feel better.
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Tell the people that you may have hurt that you are truly sorry, make restitution if you can, ask the Lord for forgiveness. If that doesn't work talk to your preacher/minister about it.
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Its hard to see people you love make these mistakes. However unfortunately everyone has to live their own lives and make their own mistakes. \nYou can give your opinion but that is all you can do. You can not change them no matter how hard you try.\nAll you can do is distance yourself no matter how hard it is and do better for yourself and prove that you are stronger then the evils that are holding them back.\nGood luck!
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you should never run away from your problems. that only makes them intensify and makes you look cowardly. the best thing to do would to confront your problems and learn to deal with them. that might not be the easy way but it's the right way. and you could learn alot this way to.