I need to send a get well card to someone who is dying of cancer. What do I say?
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You are always in my prayers.
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Be honest and straightforward. He probably already knows you aren't the wordsmith and anyone else's words won't be authentic. If you're really stuck, quote a poem, song  or movie line that you feel really explains your feelings. And call it out! \n\nLike "I'm not always the best with words, so I'll rely on the experts to express how i feel about you..." \n\nYou could even plan the song (if its a song) just as he opens the card to make it a little more fun.
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My deepest condolences for your terrible loss.\n\nYou have my heartfelt sympathy at this time.\n\nI regret that I am unable to attend the funeral services.\n\nPlease know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.\n\nPlease let me know if I may be of assistance in the future to you.\n\nWarmest and Kindest Regards.....
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Tell him: "I am really sorry four your loss (insert name here). Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or your family in your time of need, or if you just need a friend right now." This is kind, and formal, yet personal, and shows you truly care for your friend, and feel for his loss.
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try this ok i don't no if this is what you want or not. you are very thoughtful we need more like you cause i had cancer but not no more. thanks for your thoughtfulness! http://www.cityofhope.org/ccc/db/
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I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with your brother you and his family.\n\nDo not stand at my grave and weep\nI am not there; I do not sleep.\nI am a thousand winds that blow,\nI am the diamond glints on snow,\nI am the sun on ripened grain,\nI am the gentle autumn rain.\nWhen you awaken in the morning's hush\nI am the swift uplifting rush\nOf quiet birds in circled flight.\nI am the soft stars that shine at night.\nDo not stand at my grave and cry,\nI am not there; I did not die.
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One day at a time. Just remember they want you to enjoy your life so get out there and have some fun. Go do some volunteer work in the name of your loved one. Take on a good cause in memory of that person. Plant some trees.\n\nHave a good life!
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How good of you, Jason, to ask such a considerate question. If you knew the deceased well (and, for example, he loved sunsets), you might mention the sunset tonight was made especially beautiful for (name of deceased), and he had the best view from heaven. I think Robert said it best, depending on how well you knew the person. Also, "I'm sorry for your loss. \n\nPlease let me know if there's anything I can do to help." is always appropriate. Depending on how close you are to the grieving person, a gentle touch on the arm, shoulder or a gentle hug is usually welcome. Your heart will guide you.\n\nThe comment, "it will get easier with time" I think is not appropriate, not sympathetic, and will sound heartless to the grieving person. Older people seem to say that sometime; it's not out of cruely; they just don't know what to say.\n\nwanabelong.com had this to say:\n\nBut what do you say to the family? What can be said, other than, “I don’t know what to say?” and “I’ll keep you in my prayers.”  Sometimes it better to say less than more, or to just be there, with a hug and a cup of tea. Why is it we are uncomfortable with death, when it’s probably the only thing we all can guarantee will happen to us in our lives?\n\nOur awkwardness often leads to saying stupid things trying to fill the space of our discomfort with empty statements that still leave us feeling stupid.  When the person grieving does not hear, their hearts breaking with the grief, their energy taken in a journey to revisit every laugh, every argument, every memory, and the words often lost in a sea of internal thoughts.  \n\nThe most profound thing someone can do for another person when someone dies is to listen, to hold them, to just be there, to give comfort and to resist having to have something to say. \n\nYou'll help a lot of people with your question, Jason.\n\nPeace.
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Just tell them when they need some one You will be there. Show them loves. and talk about cause and effect on drug.
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I am about to have a tumor the size of a cantalope removed from my body this Friday.  I also have a mass on a kidney.  I would be leaving behind three great little kids.  I care if you live.  You don't know what you have until there is a threat that it will be taken from you.  When I was younger I admitted myself to a psych hospital for three weeks because I didn't see any more reason to live.  Back then I really couldn't see any future for me.  If I had only known all the good things that were down the road.  Life is a gift and the best is yet to come.   Even if things are tough now, believe me, better days are ahead.  I care very much.  I don't want to die, and it hurts me to think of someone not understanding what they are throwing away.  Please seek help if you are serious.  Your are worthy of a wonderful life.  You deserve good things.  I don't know you, how old you are, what your situation is or if you are just bored and typing this question to see what people say but no matter what your reason for writing, I can assure you as someone facing some scarey stuff, I care very much that you CARE that you live.
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Well the answer is it depends on you - you can make it last your life OR you can decide that you were puton this earth to do good and have a fulfiling life.\n\nThe best way to address a loss of a loved one , is to plant a tree in that person's name and nurture it. That way you can use the sadness and make it constructive, I have lost three uncles who were all very close to me to various diseases, and for a year or so I was quite upset and sad.\n\nBut once I decided that I will make them proud of what I will achieve, the sadness lifted and I also met so many nice people along the way.\n\nAbout trying to fit in, give up on that. You don't need to waste your time on that. You are who you are enjoy that, enjoy whatever you do passionately. I'm sure you will meet someone like minded taht way.\n\nTake for instance I love playing tennis and racket games. And ever since I decided instead of saying I liked it to actually join a club and play it regularly I've met so many interesting people, and often we go out to see plays and concerts etc...\n\nAbout your kid, make sure he or she has a strong foundation in integrity and justice and you have done your part. Why don't you spend sometime like taking your kid to meet up with someone you really admired, so that your kid could also meet someone who has achieved something.\n\nAlways have a smile and you'll be surprised how many people would be drawn to you. Oh yeah, also try to remember a person's name, birthdate and their favourite pastimes. If you send anyone a birthday card, you will be good freinds for life...its that extra touch people want in thsi busy world...\n\nGod bless\nrgds\n*gazer
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We would like to extend our deepest sympathies for your loss.  You are in our thoughts today and in the days ahead.\n\nSincerely,\n\nThe staff of (your name here)
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Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
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Yeah you should defintaly send her some flowers and a card that says I"m really sorry.  You know make her feel like shes the only person in the world that matters to you!
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do a google search with the last name and city and state in quotation marks.  \nAnother thing that is okay to do is to call the co-worker and offer your condolences then ask either where to send the card or which place is taking care of the service. I would avoid telling them you are sending flowers as most people will say "ahh you don't have to do that"  but deep down the effort is appreciated.
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Personally I would want someone to tell me. I mean really you could be saving someones life by telling them that. If they get an attitude just apologize and figure you probably won't see them again so who cares but I would definitely say something if I were in your shoes.
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Did you know the woman personally, or anything special about her (hobbies, collections, etc., especially ones you might share)?  If so, you might want to throw in a happy memory or something like that.  If not, his thought that YOU thought enough to send  condolences will probably serve.