how do I break up with someone without hurting their feelings?
81092
sorry , it can't be done -unless they want to get rid of you also-just cut the ties quickly and completely
512991
break up with them and go out with someone else
181560
You shouldn't. That person could really feel strongly about you, and you're using their feelings to get to someone else.\n\nYou should stop befor someone gets hurt. Pleas,e just break up with them, but give the honest answer WHY. A liar is less appriciated than a truth with bad consequences, trust me.\n\nGood luck. ^_^
1095976
You should probably cut it off. If you know you are the only one with serious feelings then you also know that you are going to be the only one hurt in the end. If you are hell bent on staying with him, then try to use him for something as well. Then you'll both be okay in the end, because you acknowledged early that it was meaningless.
1170270
Yes break up with him. He is not good for you.
227768
How you break up with your boyfriend is entirely upto you.  You must realize that it has to be done.  Now, when you do should be done ASAP.  The longer you stay with him, the more it will hurt.
32191
You should learn to be more mature and not resort to childish and harmful games. If you want to break up, then break up, but don't cause more damage than is necessary.
1180972
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
322973
Meet him at a public place, like the food-court at a mall. Bring one or two friends with you. And tell him face-to-face. Thats the mature way to do it. You owe it to him to give him this chance to ask you, directly, what went wrong and why you are breaking up with him. Doing it with notes or email doesnt let both you and he say what needs to be said.
733871
Theres no simple way of telling her how ur feeling its going to hurt both of yous but its best if u just tell her the truth, straight out.. If youre at the point where u wana break up with her or spend time apart i think maybe its time to move on.. If it is really meant to be with you and ur girlfriend love will find its way in the end.. Good luck n be strong!
1128184
It's always going to be heard to reject someone kindly. The best advice I can give you is to be upfront, honest, and sincere with your reasons behind not wanting to be together. Tell him your true stance and feelings and he will have to accept that. He will, of course, feel hurt-that is unavoidable. The thing is that he will at least respet you being honest with him and won't  hold a grudge.\n\nIt's all about method and choice of words. If you can express your thoughts in a manner that isn't cruel or demeaning, he will feel like you respect him enough to be considerate with his feelings.\n\nNaturally he might distance himself from you for a little while, but he will eventually bounce back and get over this hurdle.\n\nGood luck and remember: Be kind with your words.
41171
I have done that.  I hate to hurt someone's feelings and to say "I'm just plain tired of you" or I'm sick of your whining about everything", would do that so instead I've told him we need time apart to reevaluate our feelings. \n\nThe better way for me seems to be to say "I just don't feel we are meant for each other". "There are just too many issues we disagree on".  That seems to work without doing too much damage.\n\nIt isn't hard for me to make the decision to end a relationship because if I really want it to end, there is a reason and I just remember that reason is important to me.
65492
Simply apologize.  Let him/her know why you are sorry.  Anyone can be sorry and not know exactly why they are.  It has to be sincere.  You have to allow them to let you know how you made them feel and not be defensive.  Own up to the mistake you made.  They will see that you really mean what you say.  If the person values your relationship...they'll look at the circumstances and may be willing to make peace with you.  This does not guarantee that your relationship will be the same.  If it does not return to the same relationship; know that you did everything you possibly could to resolve the matter.  Respect their decision.
167484
I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
628608
dump him he does not care for your feelings
841688
You don't have a rel'ship with this guy, no matter what he may think.  Tell him so.  If you try "breaking up" with him, you are saying you DO have one.
268683
You can tell him that you dont feel the same way anymore. you can stop calling him and seeing him until he gets the message. you dont return his messages. you tell him that you think it is not working out the way you wanted it to be. you write him a letter/email telling him of all the things you want in the relationship that is not there. you tell him of the things that he did/did not do that hurt you. you tell him the reasons why you think splitting up is better for the both of you.