Is it natural for a man to have difficulty orgasming on the first times????
83681
No it's not really psychological.It was your first time,you were inexperienced,probably nervous,and you didn't completely trust the person you were with.Sounds pretty normal.You'll learn with time and experience,and it will get better.
486922
lol!!  \nIam so glad you asked that question because I always believed that woman has no ideal how good it feels to a man!...lol I asked a women how does it feel when they are  about to climax and she took my hand and start rubbing it real softly!! If that's how it feels before they are about to climax then that SUCK!!!! big time..lol  For me to describe how it feels to a man would be very hard to do but I will say this, if there is anything a lady want from her man then she should ask him right before he cums! 9 times out of 10 she'll get a yes!
1102551
There may be a medical problem and it's always best to see the doctor as early as possible.  But in general, as men age it takes them longer to ejaculate and they don't recover as quickly.\n\nTo shorten the process, you might want to try finishing him with a hand job.  Use a lubricant and he shouldn't complain.
829149
I'm 23, been married for close to 5 years, and in this whole time that i've been married, i've only been able to keep on going after ejaculating maybe 3 or 4 times. It's normal to go down after ''release'', but i'm confused about the not feeling it part. i've personally never had a problem with not being able to feel anything, sometimes i feel it too much and cum too fast (cries quietly to self). anyway the answer to both of your questions are, it's all in your mind, it all has to do with how turned on you are, how comfortable you are with the person, etc. hope this helped
1076612
that's caused by sexual deprivation for too long after sexual fulfillment. He couldnt possible have it all the time, since it is about a 1-2 day experience after not having been sexually fulfilled for a while, and it doesnt come back untill a while after you have orgasmed again.  Tell him to suck it up and let it pass and it wont come back until after he has another orgasm and then doesnt have one for a while.  If he cant handle the pain, tell him to masturbate.  And tell him to stop complaining, because even tho it seriosly hurts, noone wants to hear about it.
254473
It depends.  Was there sex involved?  If so, there's a condition called orgasm retardation.  It can be caused both physically and psychologically.  Have him see a "bone" doctor.  If that doc doesn't solve the problem, then have him see a head doctor.
777021
I DONT KNOW WHY YOUR HAVING THIS SENSITIVITY U MIGHT NEED TO GO TO YOUR O.B. GYN AS FOR THE ORGASM... NOT ALL WOMEN EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM...HAVE U EVER REALLY HAD ONE? ALOT OF WOMEN THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. YOU NEED TO REALLY RELAX AND KNOW HOW TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE ONE ITS NOT JUST UP TO YOUR PARTNER/BOYFRIEND HE'S THERE TO HELP,THAT'S FOR SURE BUT IT IS ALSO UP TO U
142866
I aswered this one already, but we do have orgasms just not like men. When you have one you will know it.
835284
My best advice would be that you should try having an orgasm on your own first. When you are with a man, you might become so concerned about the orgasm-matter, that you will not be able to relax and give in to the pleasurable feelings.\nIn order to enjoy masturbating, and getting an orgasm, it is first and foremost important that you think it is OK to masturbate! There is noting wrong or sinful about getting to know one's body - and thereby becoming a better sex-partner.\nMake sure, you have all the time, you'll need without disturbances. Pay attention to the setting; perhaps you'll enjoy a long bath first, put on your favourite lotion, your favourite underwear or maybe light a few candles.\nSpend some time finding a good place to be at - the bed would be an obvious choice. Try touching yourself in different ways, what feels good, what doesn't? Take it slow and enjoy your time with yourself, getting to know yourself. Perhaps you won't achieve an orgasm the first time, you try; but you'll definitely learn something about how you like to be touched.\nRemember, the main goal is to become comfortable with your own body and your own sexuality, this will heighten your chances of achieving an orgasm. On the same note, I'd hold back on porn, dildos etc. until you are certain what you like, until then they might only serve as distracters.\nBest of luck!
439508
welcome to the world of womanhood, darlin'...you are SO not alone...unless and until you teach him all your own little tricks and then some...and he's good and willing...it'll stay that way.  just be glad you are in tune with yourself enough to experience orgasm easily by any means...some women don't have it that good.  now just teach him to be as good at pleasuring you as you are!
366594
Greetings,\n\nMen can.  The reason most men can't is simply because they are either too eager to please themselves, or don't have enough practice.\n\nAfter a man ejaculates he will begin to lose erection, however with stimulus and practice, he can regain his erection and go again.\n\nThe good news is practicing is fun.\n\n-matt
908215
Well.well, maybe time to come out of closet, I ejaculate like I'm peeing but it's not, just like you guys we can cum just as much if not more than you do....\nI have never thought it strange cos all my life (sexual) it has happened , funny tho cos partners have asked if I had wet myself LOL, I call it being a healthy robust woman who has great orgasms...so there is a bit of  trivial info ..LOL
241023
Dude - just relax when having sex, and don't get caught up in how good your c.o.c.k. feels during it.  Concentrate on pleasing your partner!  Try spankin it until just before you c.u.m. and then stop -- don't allow yourself to shoot. It may be difficult at first, but with practice you will learn to control you orgasm. Happy f...ing!
555030
no he can not.. when a man starts to cum or has already started to cum he can not stop it..i am 53 years old and not met a man yet that could stop after he has started to cum..
353612
Oral is usually a sure bet for most women who have trouble climaxing.  You should try having your man use a vibrator on you, or incorporate it into your sex life.  I'm sure he'll do whatever it takes to get you off, because most people love seeing their partner climax as much as they like it themselves.  \nSorry I can't be of more help, I can't really relate too much...I'm very blessed in that department.
692088
I hear this statement all the time. I think what happens is that when women are young, they don't understand their own bodies themselves, so they don't know what to ask for or how to direct their partners to help them reach climax. Therefore, it's not uncommon that a girl never reach orgasm with her first boyfriend or so. As she gains a little more confidence in her sexuality and a little more knowledge about how to direct her boyfriend/lover to help her, her chances are reaching climax with him improve.\n\nOf course, the best way to ensure that you're able to tell your boyfriend how to get you off is to learn how to get yourself off without him! If female masturbation were as commonly accepted as male masturbation is, this wouldn't be a problem!!
1004966
lier lier is all i can say.. even for a guy when losing his virginity it is kinda a nervous-ish experience. i am sure not as indepth as the ladies BUT STILL AN EXPIERIENCE..why? well there is a stereotype for guys and this dude you speak off seems to be exemplifying this stereotype... more than likely his first time was shorter than that.. maybe 5 to 15 minutes the most... why well even if he was with an experienced female... she probably would have orgasmed by then... with me and my virginity it was like 5 minutes.. i didn't have an orgasm and the primary reason for the above turn out was because i was doing it with my girlfriend and it was her first time as well... in all honesty after like 30 seconds of actual penetration and trust we stopped because it was painful for her... the first time usually encounters physical obstacles... the pain of your hymen breaking... I have had this same experience with 3 more young ladies where they were losing thier virginities. A couple times went by like this until they had healed up, gotten over the psycological fears of pregnancy and all that.. and actually got into enjoying the feelings actually generated by the act of intercourse/making love...after those initial 2 to 3 times ...well it's all climax from there!!!! no pun intended.. hoped this helps.. \n\none more thing.. don't be in such a rush to loose your virginity... it makes a big difference in your life... i guarantee it.. picture yourself at 21 or 27 and a friend asked you about your first time... the answer can either go one of two ways.. ohh its something i'll never forget cause it was with a great guy.. boyfriend of mine where we had a good and long relationship OR i regreted my first time... it was wack... i didn't really feel anything (emothionally or otherwise) i don't even remember that guy. i wish i had waited longer...  when that time comes.. i guarantee you'll remember The Thinker!