how do figure out who i really want to be with?
81051
It's really your decision but girl the one in jail leave him alone that's just drama waiting to happen.The other on e your dating does he make you happy can you tell him stuff.  I say gurl follow your heart don't be scared it will always lead you in the right direction.
659764
you have to make a choice....decide who is going to be your lover and who isn't....it may be hard but write down on paper all the things you want out of your relationship and then write down all the things that match up between your two candidates...do pick one and not ruin both of them by playing them along.  Good Luck
231587
Just be urself, the right person is out there somewhere for you, never give up on finding true love!\nWhen you find that special person you will know and every thing that you dreamed for will come true
27953
By discovering who you are and pursuing what interest you. Before you can find true love you need to be a whole person well rounded and completely comfortable with who you are. Many people make the mistake of looking for someone to make them whole when another person can never make you whole. Keep your eye open for a person that compliments who you are that makes for a healthy long lasting relationship that will fair all the storms.
1150786
It sounds like right now you shouldn't choose either.  You need to take some time to yourself and figure out what you really want. Otherwise you're going to end up getting hurt or hurting them in the process.
1160368
Hon, what you have to do is search 'em out, and take matters into your own hands. BUT---once they have agreed to go on a date with you...remember to revert back to "you're the one who wants ME" role. At least until you get the results you're looking for.  Hope I was a little help to ya....good luck!:)
889400
Get in touch with what you REALLY want in a relationship.\nWrite on a piece of paper what you desire in a relationship.\nBe reasonalbe, don't look for absolute perfection in another.\n\nKnow yourself, your needs and desires.\nUse the Visioning Process to envision what you want most out of your life.\n\nBe very honest and truthful in your relationships, communicate on a high level and really LISTEN to your partner and what their hopes and needs are. \n\nWork on knowing yourself so that you become as completely self aware as possible.\n\nWhen you discover who you are and what you really want, you will find who and what you really really want.\n\nWhen you find it, you will commit out of joy.\n\nGood Luck.
951256
Follow what's in your heart.\n\nChoose what to believe in, and just make your choice.
220686
Dont do anything jus continue being you, if you do things out of the ordinary then your getting the girl for being what your not and you gottah constantly live up to that and be who you arent everyday to keep that girl. Plus when we go out and try to find people you will always end up with the wrong ones, the best thing to do is to let them come to you, i am in a relationship now going on a year we've been together, took me a while to find him, but truthfully he found me, and comforted me. You will get a girl jus stop waiting and looking the girl thats for you is the one you least expect to be and wasnt evern thinking about trust me. I been there done that.
406677
You should follow your heart. Date both for now... time will tell which one you are supposed to be with.
132375
Set a standard of who you would like to be with, and then search for him. But never lower your standards for anyone!\n\nAnd DON'T use yourself either!\nUse HOPE of finding the right person to keep you going thats what I do!
177130
If this is an internet romance then you can fall in love with the idea of the person you think they are.  I can pretend to be anyone I want sitting here behind my keyboard.  It doesn't mean that it is me.\nGet to know someone in person first.  If you fall in love, it will be with the real thing.
1038898
In the end, the choice you make is the one you have to live by. I say choose which one is right for you who can help you to grow mentally, spiritually and that you are attracted to. Don't get played and be true to yourself because in the end, its you who has to live with the final decision.
499262
You just do. You use the experience to find out who you really are, what you can do, and who you are going to be tomorrow. Some people come to your life for a reason, others for a season, and only a few come for a lifetime. You can't always control who is in which group. It is good that you can still have good feelings for him. That will serve you well in the rest of your life.
262248
you can't. You can drive yourself mad trying to figure it out! Just be yourself and see what happens.
255761
Somone who treats you with the respect and the love that you deserve , and someone who puts a smile on your face without him/her not even doing anything..!\nYou will know when you have met the right person..! Trust me you can't miss it..!
745504
How would I know what your choice is?