If you wanted to adopt a child, would you look for specific qualities?
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I dont know.  I know that I want to adopt but I do not know how I will know that child is for me.  I will just pray that God will show me.\n\nI am going to adopt from overseas and I will not specify if it is a boy or a girl or health.  I would prefer a child that was not mentally handicapped but if that is the one God wanted to give me then I would take it.  All babies deserve someone to love them.
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I think it would depend on what kind of man their father is. Generally people look for the good qualities they have grown up with, based on the morals and character they have been taught. Unfortunately this  (what they grew up with) is also why so often people who come from an abusive parent end up with abusive partners, or even become abusers themselves. \n\nThink about this: Who wouldn't want a man who is caring, compassionate, intelligent, and loving? And who really wants someone who is a drunkard, abusive, and stupid?
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yes,but it differs from the  way your looking for a personality,like behaviour,body,attitude & knowledge.\nif your intersted to more about the person,you must have to know, that person must have these qualities.but i am  not clear about what kind of personalities you mean
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abortion and adoption... that might work
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When you adopt a baby, it will grow to know you as a parent, and have your beliefs.\n\nAdopting a child, or teen, is wonderful as they desperatly need to be adopted, but they come with a crapload of problems, are you ready to deal with that?\n\nIt is a question you will have to answer yourself.
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i'm sorry but i have no idea what you are trying to ask, are you talking about adoption? which means adopting a child that isn't biologically yours to treat as yours?
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There are agencies that enable you to make yourself publicly known in case the children are looking for you. This can be useful in case a child needs you for some medical reason (tissue or organ donor, genetic testing, etc.). \n\nBut otherwise, I would not try to locate them if I were you. You could upset them, their adoptive family, and yourself by doing so.
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Check with the adoption company he went through.
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Yes. In fact I know! I just went to that website to see. Only it's probobly not the way you mean it. I think it's a website for adopting children.
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I pick: Had a great heart and morals, a good job, would make a good father, etc..but had a really small d#$, sucked in bed, and not charismatic\n\nI would not seek out the other items in another person or thing. But, size really doesn't matter. If they weren't good in bed, it's probably mostly due to a lack of communication. If you let them know what pleases you then they can become a wonderful partner.
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JewJew, never mind the immature answers from some of the previous entries. \n\nLook, there are other alternatives to your situation.  It is wonderful that you and your husband have the love that you do for children and want to have more in your family.  Some families out there don't care enough for the children that they have been blessed with.  You can see that play right out on your answer list by those that probably were not brought up with a lot of morals.\n\nWhich brings us to the next point I am going to make.  There are a lot of children already out there that need loving families.  Such as yourselves.  Adoption would definitely be something to consider, without taking the medical risk that you are willing to.\n\nThis would be worth your time to look into, and as I already stated, don't be bothered by some of the other previous answers because they undoubtedly do not have a clue on what good parenting is all about, whether you have an entire house full of kids, or just one.\n\nGood luck to you and your husband's decision, Make it an act of faith!!   God Bless you and your family.....
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It really depends. I'm an adopted child and I have some issues with finding my biological parents. In the case of your baby, it really depends. Some adopted children feel abandoned and don't want anything to do with their birth parents. Others just want information and a sense of who they are. Only time will tell.
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I don't think there is a BEST quality . . . I think that several qualities combined make a person special.  Specifically, honesty, compassion, sincerity, caring, and a good personality . . . all combined.  Just one doesn't do it!
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and even more. Most adoptive children receive more love because they are truly wanted and worked for than those natural parents that had an accidental "piece" of themselves. A person who has saved and prayed and pondered on having children whether they adopt or have their own is more likely to be a more loving parent in general.
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I myself look for someone with a common outlook on the major things like children, religion, morality.  Traits like honesty, compassion, honor, and respectability.  My husband is not perfect by any means but in the areas where it really counts we are on the same page.
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Hey, I was thinking about a similar question! I know some people can't love children who are not their own 'blood', but I feel all children are the same and I'd happily adopt any orphan. I don't know about the expenses, so can't comment on that, altough I had a school teacher who wasn't even very rich, but he had an adopted child....? So maybe there are different ways of adoption, from less to more expensive.\n\nThe 'problem' is that people find it more logical to have their own child. It's more unique, has their features and their genes. It's a symbol of their love and relation with their partner. Till some extent, I can understand this and I feel there's nothing wrong with it either. Bearing your own child is a unique experience and why would you deprive yourself from it? It might sound egoistic, but it's rather logical and a matter of emotional attachment. \n\nHowever, when a couple can't have children for some reason, why would we prefer to go for IVF, surrogate mother or other treatments? In this case, I do believe adoption is a far better option and a way of accepting it as God's wish, while you still get the pleasures of nurturing a child. Also when you can afford it, I think adopting an orphan and giving him/ her not just your money, but your love also, is one of the most nobel things we can do as human beings. \n\nA solution to overpopulation in my opinion is stopping the birth of an unwanted child by taking sufficient precautions (abortion is not option imo!). Besides, people need to realise that it's not important to have many children, instead it's more important to give enough love and care to each of them. I don't know why people who can't afford it decide to have many children. I'd rather have one or two and take proper care of them! And last but not least, giving birth to more and more children just waiting for a son to be born, is something that needs to stop also!
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Yes! Anyone can legally adopt someone who is over the age of eighteen with their consent. I know of several instances whereby a person in their sixties adopted a son or daughter who on paper was the child of somebody else but were actually biologically theirs. I also know people who were childless and adopted a young adult unrelated to them by deed poll. You just go to a solicitor and he will do the paper work.