moral dilema , stay or move on ?
79210
If quitters never win, well, what exactly will you be "winning"? Get out while the gettin is good, its only gonna get worse. You havent fixed this situation in 3 years and it aint never gonna be fixed. IMHO you have been very foolish to flush tons o' cash down the toilet on this deal. You obviously didnt "buy" nor EARN respect from anyone involved here.
779416
Time to move on.  You have been led on by a jerk, but you have said enough (and probably more than enough), and there is nothing to be gained from beating a dead horse.
825493
Move on.  Life is too short to waste your time & your heart on someone who does not value you enough to be honorable & to be truthful.  You should value yourself enough not to waste your time on someone who is out shopping around for something better than you.  You cannot get upset if you choose to play stupid because you will be "settling" & this is what you can expect for the future.  Cut your losses while you are ahead.  Move on.
129744
You don't need to. Just believe in youself. Believe in things you consider are morally right. Believe in what your heart says.
713224
A teacher shouldn't be talking about morals in the first place.\n\nFirst question: definitive yes.\nSecond question: biased no, but more practically, yes.
1025729
Keep doing the good thing. Consider a reward as an unexpected bonus.   \n\nRespect is earned at every turn, but dis-respect is forever. \n\nWhile loyalty sounds like a good thing, if you become unhappy, look for work elsewhere.  But don't make any desperate moves, as the grass is not always greener on the other side.
227257
I think you are doing the right thing and just to let you know it will end soon. If you were to back off now that would defeat your whole purpose and have wasted yours and his time. I know you did not want to hear this but, there is always a but isnt there? But If you cant see him changing or being flexible enough on this subject then you may have to let him go, if you fold and let the relationship go back to what is was it will be worse than it was before. I would hang in there, but not for too long.
616766
if you feel you will be bitter then counselling will help but if you stay then you have to completely forgive him and not bring it up everytime you have an arguement...that means that you have not truly moved on....if you feel you cant get over this then you should leave...i know that if it were me it would be very hard for me to stay. so take your time to decide.  dont live with resentment!
1160542
If you feel like you REALLY should leave, I say go. Unless you want to go through the hassle of counseling and such (which some men will not even consider). I dont know how I would just do whatever is in your best interest.
92452
in opinion,  do what's right for you. there's no right or wrong answers. it how to feel about the whole situation. don't doubt your intuition.
688190
That's a tough philosophical question.  It's akin to this situation:  Your neighbor regularly beats his wife, and you know about you. One day you bring it up to her, and she insists "Yes, he beats me, but I love him and I probably deserve it."  What is your moral duty?  To leave her to live her life as she chooses, or to decide that she is unable to make that choice, and call the cops.  If that situation doesn't ring your bell, how about a freind who is addicted to drugs?  Do you force him into rehab with the thought that your judgement is better than his, or leave him to live his life as he chooses?  It gets quickly into the idea that one person or group of people are better able to decide how another group should live, or how they should act. Now, saying it like that, it sounds horrible, and an automatic reaction is "Nobody can judge better than anyone else-nobody should tell another person how to live"...but if the exact opposite of that statement were not true, could we live together?  We make these sorts of judgements all the time, in the name of law- Drugs are illegal, prostitution is illegal, various religions decide what is right and wrong, we personally intercede in our family's and freind's lives, even when they don't ask for it...\nHow you answer those questions will in large part determine whether or not the US should impose freedom and democracy on people, even when they profess to not want it.
1147487
Try to make peace with enemies I may have made over the years. Being somewhat stubborn at times, this would be a good thing. Try to clear my conscience and ask forgiveness for  not so nice things done over the years, this could be done by 'clearing the air' with others. Get my personal business in order, so that others won't have to clean up the mess. Enjoy the remaining time with those who you love and respect .
1129622
I agree you should life your life to the highest moral standards you can.  Do what's right to the best of your knowledge and ability.  judging and preaching others is not part of that however. Who told you all this?  Can you speak from experience?  And what does this question have to do with imgration??
1107418
Ya most of the time the truth does come out,the only thing you can do is day your sorry. Balls in his court then. Me personally depending on what you said. I'd probably dump ya.
665421
Yes it is....it not only violates moral ethics, but may also violate your workplace ethics as well.  Speak to your superiors about this situation because it may have been going on for quite some time....
257996
Well normally I would say run to the nearest exit and so on! However you've continued the relationship with this man, and what's more you've been best friends for a long, long time! That's a lot of invested time/energy/love. I can only assume that the lie you're referring to was a cheating on his part. You had decided to forgive him, but cannot forget. (If this is not so please give more details) Why do you want to leave him now, is he continuing in the same way? - If this is the case, RUN! If not, if you just can't forgive him - then you have to decide whether you can go on without his friendship/love/companionship whatever the case may be! One of my favorite quotes, which I found very true in my case is, "It's not that I can't live without you, but I'd rather live with you." All the best in deciding!
516507
I am probably the wrong person to answer this, but I wish it was like it used to be, (not that im an old man, but actually it has gotten bad in such a short amount of time)I have always trusted people, and believed in people, I have been screwed over so many times and lost alot of things in my life by trusting, but I feel like I am a better person because the times I have not been screwed over, it was so worth it. I would say go with your gut feeling!