how can ı help my friend who's got no self confidence. he is not happy wt himself at all.??
82754
Self esteem can be gained with encouragement and nurture from one to another, however the person lacking such must have the will in which to attain it. It is possible at any age...depends upon how many knock backs the person has suffered and how much they are taken to heart. Take the person out somewhere and away from overbearing situations to begin with and then gradually introduce them to a problem solving situation and go with THEIR idea and see how it works....just a thought, good luck :-)
1004037
Ignore him.  He obviously doesnt like himself.  People who dont like themselves are the ones who will say nasty things about others and try to spread rumors.  You cant control what other people say, so ignore him, go out and live your life.  Laughing always helps too.   Laugh at his immature behavior, look at him as a little kid and laugh - you will feel better in being the mature adult.
327206
People usually put other people down due to their own insecurities, personnally I know a lot of people like that and cannot stand it. Tell him a few things that are wrong w/ him next time he does that, see how he likes it. PHB
71462
Tell your friend she deserves to be happy and she will probably need a therapist to help her through this.
907237
You just need to boost your own self confidence a bit. Think to yourself that you are more then worthy and the best thing out there. When you believe this there will be no problem.
861057
Play on a man's ego, you cannot go wrong ever by doing this. Look at his physical attributes and compliment him on ones that he may feel unsure about. Like if he is overweight some, use reverse psychology.
351237
Just give it to him, Show him your ""self confidence"" and he'll think good thoughts about you.. I promise!!
858822
just drop some hints that he looks at everyone else.. other than that I say that whatever she does don't let her make a fool of herself in front of him.  your friend might have a lot of self-confidence. or maybe tell her that she deserves better?
268036
Lot's of experiences like that one... well, one thing that would really help your friend is to constantly praise his/her work. commend everything that was done right. if there are things that must be corrected, do it in a constructive way, and a suggestion will do. In this way, you are building up confidence without making your friend dependent on your opinions or praises. Remember, it's just a balance of praises and constructive criticisms. In the end, your friend will learn how to judge things about her all by herself. Best of all, SMILE! Your smile could actually mean everything.
764248
How about a makeover for the friend? Or suggest a less-shallow guy?  Either would be a nice thing to do.
56927
Shy guys usually lack self confidence. Even the thought of going up to a girl and talking to her fires off all these negative thoughts into their heads\n"what will she think of me?!" "what if she doesnt like me?" "oh why did i wear this shirt today it doesnt make me look nice" "what will I say... what if we find nothing to talk about and she finds me totally lame and pathetic"\n\n*sigh*
1039802
darrrrrrrrr lagta he, to chhod do use, its all abt confidence. be a man, buddy
611899
well someone that anxious to prove herself is definately insecure - I think that is what you have to focus on - what is it that she thinks she is lacking in that she needs to make up for it in other areas - you are her friend so I think you may already know the answer - if you know what the problem is, I think it will be easy to solve the problem - just be a bit subtle about it
455814
i had this fear myself.  i took a public speaking class from a university.  speaking in front of small groups, then building up to larger groups really helped build my confidence.  speaking about something i was truly passionate about helped as well.  i constantly had to force myself to speak at some sort of public function to overcome this fear.  now i emcee large events with ease, because i have done it over and over.   if that doesn't help him, he actually may need to seek help from a professional for possible social anxity disorder.
226417
Because he does not know how to do it...do things in common like a sport or a hobby for example, and he will always have a topic to chat with you about...or maybe he´s shy and feels inadequate to start up a conversation with you..In any case, make him feel comfortable about you being with him...that will boost his confidence.
1004660
I'm willing to bet that you aren't friends with him because of what he looks like, but more how he acts and treats you.\n\nIf HE is serious about losing weight, then do what you can to encourage him. Exercise with him, take walks with him, play basketball or baseball with him. \n\nThe worst thing you can do is tell him he needs to lose weight just to make you happy. This will seriously hurt his self esteem, and destroy a friendship.
546122
Have you thought of counselling? That may be the 'easier' road you are looking for. Ultimately though, you will have to talk to others in social events to be able to learn to do it with confidence. Experiencing life like travelling, can be a good way to build your confidence, for the more you know about something, the more you can talk about it with passion.\nGaining a better view of ones self (self esteem) can also come when presented with challenges that one overcomes, so challenge yourself-give yourself tasks that you know are hard, but that you are able to overcome. Do you have a fear of spiders for example? Overcome that and you will certainly want to tell people about it! I did!!\n If you would like to chat more about it, feel free to email me from the link at my avatar and I'll try to help.\n\nbest of luck