can anyone help me prepare custody pappers for my son????
96193
Have u contacted an attorney or legal aide?
1152076
Contact a lawyer. Short of that How busy is your Courthouse? You will likely have to file the papers there and that is where you would proably get them. If you have a Courthouse that isn't like overly busy or at least has good people then I'd say go talk to them about what papers you need. I think it is great to hear you want to do what you feel is in the best intrest of the child. Not enough people do that these days.
406878
Well, you need to talk to an attorney on a consultation and tell him what's up.  Usually consultations are free.\n  Second, today, may states and courts will give joint custody to parents...at the very least.  This is common and what it means is joint physical custody being that you hav ethe child for two weeks, then she has the child for two weeks, or she has the child all day, and when you get off work, you pick up the child and keep her till school and drop her off.  With joint custody, this is where you are to make decisions in the child's medical, school and so forth decisions.\n  In this generation, as long as you can prove you are the child's biological father, the court will grant you visitation at the very least.\n  Usually, if your name is not on the birth certificate, they will order a paternity blood test.\n   She can not keep the child from you and at the very least you should have an attorney petition the court for this visitation immediately.\n   To win custody/ physical custody, where she would have only visitation you would need to prove you are stable, have a good living environment for the child, child care that is sufficient to the child's needs and a good job where you can show you can support your child and yourself.\n   I mean, you are the father, you will be or should be paying some support for the child now, but to have full custody is just a bit different as you need to show stability.  \n   Hopefully you have no criminal record, speeding, and stuff like that, because this could go to character and lets face it , it you get lots of speeding tickets, well I wouldn't want my child in your car.\n   As for the mother, as long as she is taking care of the child and the child isn't harmed, starved, and so forth, it's kind of hard proving up sole custody.  I think go for setting up a fixed visitation, with a fixed support order while requesting joint physical custody.  \n   YOu must love the child very much...and I commend you for wanting to take on the responsibility.  don't let the child be used as it sounds likewhat your ex is doing.  Love her and show the court you love her and can care for her and go for it.  The very least you'll get is visitation........but that's a start.\n   Hopefully what ever money you have given for the child's support is verifyable.  In other words, do not give cash to the ex for the child's support and needs, always give in a check or money order so you can prove up what you have done, at all times..................\nHope this helped, go get an attorney to file and OSC for sole legal and sole physical custody and/or visitation..........good luck
519936
No such thing as a good and cheap lawyer.  Sorry.\n\nOtherwise, I suggest checking www.martindale.com for qualified family law lawyers in your area.  \n\nRemember that you get what you pay for.  And when you're talking about custody, you don't want to skimp on quality.
1149624
First, get off the racial kick. It will only make you look worse in court and to everyone else.\n\nIf you are trying to get custody away from someone who already has the child, then there is the problem. Courts are not normally willing to take the child away from one parent and just give to the other without significant legal evidence (not just you and word of mouth). Do you have any solid evidence of the drug use and dealing? If not, you are out of luck. To the courts, every Tom, Dick and Harry and female counterparts yell "he's on drugs" when they want to be the custodial parent. They hear it a thousand times a day with no evidence to show for it. Now, if he gets arrested for it and you can get CPS involved, you may have a chance, but you will be investigated too, to make sure that you are living clean yourself. For your sake, I hope you are.
181663
Contact a lawyer!!! It's not that difficult of a process, and they don't charge much for the legal paper. They type it up, and both parties sign it and have it notarized. You can state how long or short the custody will be for in the agreement.
840761
Yes, fight for your rights, and don't give him any sex (charge him, just kidding, had to say that in the moment), the most important thing of course is the welfare of the children, and remember, documentation, documentation, I hope you have paperwork on everything that has happend in your life, and witnesses, he has to pay child support no matter what, he is their father and has to support them (like it or not/wage garnishment).  And don't question yourself if you need financial help, you do and you deserve it.  Good Luck and I hope things work out for you and your children.
413198
have you tried your local bar association in your state. or even legal aid in your state. your son has a right to get an education like all the other kids. also look on the IDEA website for your right. also www.wrightslaw.com. i hope this helps.
104806
Sounds like the only one creating issues here is the ex. She is trying to control your life, if you let her do that now it only unleashes her to have control dangling your son as the means to keep you doing what she wants. That relationship is over. DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CONTROL. She cannot keep your son from you. Hire an attorney and through the courts establish a visitation schedule. If she goes against it she will be in contempt of court and could possibly face jail time. As for your current girl, be completely honest with her about whats going on, be prepared for angry outburst. She loves you and will be angry about the threat that the ex has made. Communicate and come up with a game plan, the attorney, court, visistation etc. If you cannot afford an atty. contact the legal aide services in your area, they will provide you with one sometimes for free but most likely a fee in accordance to your income. Unless the child is endangered under the care of his mother, you should not take custody away from her. A child needs both parents and this traumatic event may scar him for life. Instead keep your cool, no matter what, let the ex be the dramtic physcho, do things according to the law. Pay your child support and follow any guidance the judge imposes and it will serve you well. Again it is important to maintain a calm composure, air out your frustrations with friends. When you have your son for a visitation, keep it positive, loving, and within a secure comfortable surrounding. The important thing here is that you are happy and being a positive role model for your son. So if this girl you want to marry makes you happy, go for it. Do not let the ex know your intentions it is none of her business. When you apply for a joint custody hearing she'll find out through the papers she recieves. I would have as little contact or communication with the ex as possible. You can also set up to have a chaperoned drop off sight when you pick up and drop off your son. If teh ex wants to act this way let her suffer the consequence for behaving like an immature person. For future reference, check the legal age at which your son is allowed to declare which parent he wants to reside with, in my state it is 12 yrs old. If you handle this right your son may feel more comfortable with you than with his mother and when he is of age you can ask him if he'd like to talk to the judge about living with you. One more important word of advise, NEVER badtalk his mother to him. Regardless of how you feel, that is his mother. A child will become confused and be mentally and emotionally damaged when the parents bad mouth each other. If the ex bad mouths you, there is nothing you can do for it, but again be the bigger person. Your son will learn from the experience and determine his own opinion of each of you by the relationship he has with you both. Be strong, you've certainly a rocky road ahead of you, but it will be worth it in the end if you do things this way. Good luck to you.
685305
Listen very closely to what I'm telling you.  It's good advice.\n\nFirst, if your soon to be ex-husband is having dangerous affairs, if his lifestyle puts your children at risk, you could go to the CPS (Child Protective Services).\n\nDo you belong to a church?  Make an appointment during the week to tell a priest what is happening. He may know someone in the system who can help you.  Don't overlook this resource.\n\nWhen it comes to the justice system, forget about what is the truth, and what is right or wrong.  Lawyers are often working in their own self interest.  Everyone involved in the case is apt to make decisions based on what is easiest for them.  No one is going to risk their careers for you.\n\nIf you have accusations to make, you must be certain they can be substantiated:  names, dates, places, etc.  Do you have witnesses?  Will they testify under oath?  Will they sign a document certifying what they say is true?   There are RULES OF EVIDENCE, and judges will sometimes even forbid a person from making statements he considers irrelevant.\n\nRemember... people are going to do WHAT IS EASIEST for them.  If they're acting against you, stop making it so easy for them to ignore the truth.  Everyone has a boss.  You can always take this one step higher.\n\nI noticed you misspelled a few words.  Are you from this country?  Do you live here legally?  Do you have an education and can you support these children?  All these are very important factors that a judge will consider.\n\nThink very carefully before you act.  If your husband is actually a decent man, and could care better for the children, make the unselfish decision not to oppose him.\n\nBest of luck.
751531
Try to harvest this side, you may be able to change an existing form.  (e.g child custody and visitation right).\n\nBut I would let a lawyer formulate this: especially in a life threatening situation (surgery) you need a lot more (and there is maybe also the sons mother involved).
631926
I am in the same situation.  I paid the money to have the father's parental rights terminated.  However, it not cheap and not easy. (I had an ok time because my son's father signed a release and I also knew the atty's, guardian ad litem, and the judge)\n\nHowever, more than once I was told by the atty's as well as the GAL that terminating parental rights was not the only way to go about making sure my son's father didn't end up with him if something happened to me.  But for me, I didn't care.  I wanted him gone.\n\nThere are certain forms of wills and other paperwork that can be filed with family court.  There is sort of a contingent custody plan you can get the court to approve. But you will need an atty. to help you.  This is something you need to do right, because you won't be here to fix it later if something goes wrong.\n\nYou should be able to get a free consultation from someone, and ask then what options you have in your state.  It should only take a few hundred dollars if you file the contingent custody paperwork.  The termination of rights cost me about $5000.\n\nGood luck.
487992
from my experience, he is in contempt of court by not following the judges orders.  this is pretty devious but it was done to me and it worked wonders...have an order of protection put on him and request custody of your daughter.  order of protection are much more than a restraining order.  police action will be taken anytime you request.  of course all you have to do is tell your lawyer or just go to the special victims unit and that you feel your life is in danger or has been threatened.  he will be screwed.  it still haunts me.  police used to call my cell phone and ask we i was at the moment.  all because she said i drove by the house.  none of what she told the police was true, and it didn't matter.  that order of protection sucks.  anytime he violates it, automatic 10 days in jail.  its dirty but its one way to stick it to him.  good luck.  oh, and there was no investigation to see if she was even telling the truth.  they just issued it and enforced it.
486514
You are going to have to set some rules. He is going to be in your life, on a limited basis, for years to come because of the children, but you need to set a few things straight. One, he MUST pay child support. Two. When it's his visitation, he picks the children up, and brings them back. Don't let him run over you on this. Stand your ground! He can pay a visit to the jail house.....then he WILL obey the rules. Good Luck!!
798359
find a lawyer file for a divorce with full custody of your child and child support. you should be fine because your lawyer can get him for abandonment since it has been so long since he contacted the child. i went through it myself. good luck!
869712
You need to leave, taking your son with you. If your s.o.'s prior domestic violence was severe enough to land him in jail, you and your son are in danger! But I think you know that. You need to go to your version of the Family Court and apply for an ex parte Protection from Abuse order to start with. If it is approved, this could give you temporary custody of your son and even possibly give you possession of your place of residence (depending on a lot of situations, of course.)\n\nOnce you have done this, get in touch with your version of the Legal Aid Society. They should be able to advise you about the legality of the recordings you have and help you at no charge. Also, check out the Domestic Violence Center. If you have nobody you can live with until this comes to a full hearing, they may be able to find you a safe shelter.\n\nOnce you go to a final hearing, if you get a FULL Protection from Abuse order, you can try for custody. You MUST try to do this, despite the threats. If you don't, you KNOW there will be more trouble and possible violence. If you DO this, you will at least have SOME chance that things will get better and you will have what you want and need.\n\nPlease -- take care -- but get help soon!
490812
You probably need to be speaking to your lawyer about this. He can guide you in your options and how best you can help your child. You child shouldn't be used as a meal ticket by your ex. That's just wrong.