My mom says its our religious culture to only wear skirts.?
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I grew up (in the US) in a very strict Christian church, where women didn't wear pants, men didn't have beards or mustaches, and all elbows/knees were expected to be covered.\n\nThis was based on a couple of things (based on my opinions, mind you, I'm no theologian). General modesty, and the Biblical passage stating 'a woman shall not wear that which pertains to a man.'\n\nNow, while I respect the intent of these teachings and the people I've known that teach them, I don't feel that the Biblical passage in question necessitates that women should not wear pants. The passage clearly pre-dates the clothes we wear today, and I simply don't believe that God expects us to live at the whim of the times. Taken to its logical conclusion, the idea that women can't wear pants simply because it is the fashion for men to wear them suggests that if all men were suddenly to begin wearing dresses, women by necessity would have to start wearing pants. I don't believe God expects us to live at society's whims like that.\n\nHowever, clothing is a very personal choice. If there is one thing I learned from growing up in that kind of church, it is that I am in no position to impose my own religious convictions upon another person.\n\nI don't believe it is a sin for a woman to wear pants, but when in doubt, I rely upon James 4:17 "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin." If you believe something, based upon what you have read and what you have been taught and upon your own relationship with God, that is what is right or wrong for you. No one else's personal beliefs or experiences take the place of that.
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Nope.I've been a Christian for 22 years and I make sure I go to a Church where we can wear shorts and Ts,and tennies.Calvary Chapels are good for that.Plus they are great churches.
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this is one of the statements that are made out of context. there is one quote in bible that says to woman wear woman dress and men wear men dress. but this quote was made by the Hebrews, into the social context of them. we are not Hebrew neither Jews. We are from a different socio-cultural context. no one in our time will be dressed like the old Hebrew. tell her that and live happy.
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They can wear wigs, weave, or whatever they want in their hair. Their religion has nothing to do with their hair. Don't take that scripture too literally. It didn't mean women couldn't put things in their hair or wear wigs, weaves, etc. Your hair is at the top of your body, your body is supposed to be your temple and the head is where the crown would be.
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Be very honest with your mother about your spiritual beliefs.  You must have some reasons for choosing to be a Christian.  Tell her the things you believe.  I would emphasize that being respectful the whole time is key, as I am sure you know once someone is offended they will shut off from what the other person is saying.  Highlight the common beliefs between the two of you first, and then mention the differences.  I would point out that she doesn't make your father and brother go to church with her, and since she respects their decision you feel that you should be able to have that same respect.  God is ecumenical.  Wouldn't your mother feel better knowing you were going to a faith service where you actually got something out of it, instead of just going through the motions?  \n\nI definitely recommend doing this at "the right time" whatever that may be for you two.  Perhaps you guys have excellent talks in her room while she is picking out clothes for the next day.  Maybe you chat really well over dinner at a cafe.  You will know what feels right and I really feel that talking to her at the right time will be key in getting her to really focus on what you are saying.
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My grandma was catholic and i remember she would wear a silk kerchief or a lace one even my mom used those they used to say it was a sign of respect to the church ,I guess with time that tradition got lost as there isn´t much discipline in the churches and most of things are done thru free will....
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...................... I think skirts................... pants and jacket .......... is OK
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I would not go so far to say that she does not like anything about you.  She just wants the best for you even if it is just the way you dress.  My mom was the same way when i was a kid (not that long ago, i am only 25) and i wanted docs also.  I wore ripped up jeans that were baggy, long tee shirts, flannel shirts and boots. (the pearl jam grunge years) and my mom wanted me to wear cute skirts and dress more fashionable.  It is true that parents just don't understand, but they do love you.  As long as you are a teen living in her house you will but heads about your clothing, friends, music and everything else.  If you don't get anything from this answer i hope you get this.... The minute you move out of the house to college (you better go to college) you will miss your mom so much and she will be your best friend.  You will look back at your teen years and laugh about how you dressed and what you guys argued about.  All parents hate the way their kids dress and it is because they are parents and that is what they are supposed to do.  Don't take your mom's criticism so seriously and just do your own thing (when it comes to clothes). This will change as you get older.  When you are a teen, no one understands you, you don't even understand you and that is perfectly NORMAL (or what ever that is)  Just let it roll off your back and be yourself.  It is good that you don't want to be like everyone else, it shows that you are an independent thinker that doesn't follow the crowd.  The teen years are rough but just be happy that your clothing is all you have to worry about with your mom.  Trust me, so many kids have it much worse.  Your mom needs to understand that your clothing is not a reflection on her, but an expression of who you are and what you represent.  She may be scared that you are trying to represent that you are a druggie (i hope you are not) but sometimes that is parents fears.  You just have to be open with your mom and try to talk to her objectivly about what you wear and what you are doing and let her know that she should be thankful that you are only dressing like a druggie, heheheh, and not one.  I am a mom myself to a 9 month old little boy and i love dressing him like a preppy little man and dread the day when he says he hates the clothes i pick for him and he wants a pair of docs (even though docs are cool) because he will be showing how grown up he is and he is not my little boy anymore.  That is probably how your mom feels to.  Hang in there for a few more years and you will be suprised how different your relationship will be.
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It is a twist on scripture. My wife grew up in the same kind of church, a preachers daughter. If these bunch of legalisms would read the bible they would find out that that scripture ends with, "But we have no such customs in our churches." The original intent of this was concerning the Jewish law where women were supposed to cover their heads as a sign of subservience to God and their husbands. It's pure legalism. I have argued on the hair being a coverings also and how ridiculous this is. If hair is considered a covering, then men can go to church without pants on since we have hair covering our legs. It is legalism plain and simple.
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you could wear a flowery skirt w/ a cute top. by the way, i do not agree with abortion nor do i like it! so chill out!
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Hi, I am 63 and a spiritualist and I have been wearing my crucifix as a statement of my faith, my belief in God, the Divine Spirit and Christ for many years now.  My crucifix is  made of mother of pearl and, I believe, is french.  It is very precious to me, not only because of my beliefs, but because my dear Mum bought it for me.  She passed to spirit 3 years ago.  She made such an effort to buy it for me.  My sister pushed her in her wheelchair to the local antique shop where she bought it for a Christmas present.  I only take it off when I shower as I am frightened of damaging it. Otherwise it never leaves my neck and if it slips behind my clothing I put it on show again.  I would NEVER take it off for anyone.  BA have no right to ban crucifixes.  If they do that then those who follow other religious denominations must also adhere to the rules.  This could really get out of hand - what next?  We all have a right to which faith we follow, and as such should be allowed to wear a symbol of that faith.  It is now getting ridiculous - not allowed to say certain words in case they offend, can't wear what we want.  The whole world is going mad and I am sure God did not want this divide.
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As a child of a serious Christian Mother I think that you just have to tell her or let her think what she wants. I converted to Islam last year she knows but does not want to admit it. I let her live in her dream world but know deep inside she knows the truth.
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well, im a muslim woman, well girl, but i have regular clothes like u and ur frineds. my mom has some traditional clothing but most of the time, she wears normal casual clothes. some families are reely relioigous and they always wear the traditional clothing, but of coarse, most of us wear the scarf. i started wearing it 4 a year now, and since i have to wear it in school, trust me, its not hard, wen i become like 30 i will buy some of the traditional clothing to actually wear, but th ones i have now i wear them 4 like culture day, or stuff like dat. trusst me, i have the same thing u might have. i have all kinds of generic and name brand clothing and im hoping to get the new puma's. if u wanna noe more, instant message me at : chimp_lover93@yahoo.com
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Personal preference! Some religions have codes about jewellery, for example I *think* in some orthodox churches it is traditional for girls to have their ears peirced very early... but most people who wear anklets etc. just do what they think looks good, or what their friends do. *you* can do whatever you like, my sweet.
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It takes practice.  Start with low heels and progress to higher heels.  Ask you mother since she's the one who started you down this cross dressing road.
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Yes, they have every right to condemn such a law. What a person wants to wear is up to a person's personal choices, as long as it levels to decency. That country is violating rights to religious freedom. No one has any right to interfere into other people's faith's.
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Another fine example of how Christianity and Christian parents can wreak havoc in their children and completely ruin their mental health. I am completely DIGUSTED by your mother.\n\nNo you will not go to hell, don't let your mother brainwash you like this. It's perfectly natural to have an erection, it's part of a healthy body well alive.