For 10 years my husband has put his work before everything else. Is this grounds to leave?
91711
Talk with him . . . see if he's willing to change (even if just a little) -- if not, then leave.
239940
If there was no written contract stating terms and conditions of the arrangement - you have no obligation on how long you have to keep his stuff.  However, before you toss them out, you probably should ("should" protecting you against the legal debate of he said / she said) give him written notice of removal with a reasonable deadline to protect yourself from any legal issues.  If you don't know how to reach him, post a notice in the local papers.  That way you have proof you made every effort.
781047
Your lawyer was a crack pot and gave you some bad advice. SInce your husband was here on a work visa then he would have been able to adjust his status while remaining in the U.S. after you got married. There was no reason for you to leave. Even if his visa was expired he still would have been able to stay in the U.S. and adjust status. As far as advice for you now, I don't really know what to tell you. Have you already filed the I-130 for your husband? Did you leave before your husbands work visa expired or after? If you would like you can send me an email to answer my questions. I may be able to help you. My husband is also a Mexican citizen and we are working on this process now.
1148650
Find out if there was any type of form signed at the time of being hired first.  There are companies that have themselves covered for things of your husband's nature in some matter, most of the time.  Unfortunately, they could even use his job performance, although he was under doctors care.  They could have had spy's who've taken pictures of your husband during his time off.  You won't know this until you get an attorney, or file for unemployment.  Believe me, these days, most companies have it covered not to have a lawsuit.
500101
I was in the same boat with the Army.  I toughed it out.  My wife pushed me to stay on, and it worked out.  The last couple of years were the hardest, and easiest, of them all.  I won't say that it was a cake walk, but knowing that I ONLY had 10 years, 8 years, 1 year to retirement made a difference.  If I had gotten out, I think that I would be kicking myself for not staying.\n\nMy brother got out of the Navy after 10 years, and went to work as a contractor.  He and his family have moved 4 different times since he got out, so the moving part is still there.  BUT, he is happy with his decision.  I told him he was nuts, he was half way there, etc.  But, he had had enough.\n\nThe ultimate decision on this is between you and your husband.  You will have to weigh the pros and cons.  I, personally, think that if your halfway there, and don't have your degree yet, then you should stay.  But, then again, I've already passed the hump.\n\nGood luck, and thank you for your service.
1022859
Don't jeopardize a lifelong career over this. It would be wonderful I know, but you can't afford to take that chance. You've worked too long, and too hard to risk it. Later, something might change, but  for now, NO!
223805
Of course not...you think you've been perfect for the last 20 years...and would it be fair for your husband to trade your imperfection for someone who doesn't have them...if you think the grass is greener on the other side...start watering your own lawn more!
292778
I have had the same problem with my husband.  Here's how I've handled it...\n\n1)  Don't nag.  He'll just resent you for it.\n2)  Suggest that the two of you go out and buy the tools and other items you need to start a project.  Nothing makes a man happier than buying new tools!\n3)  If he doesn't start the project after he's bought the necessary equipment, then YOU start it (even if you have no clue what you are doing).  Once he sees you about to "mess" something up, he'll HAVE TO HELP!\n\nGood luck!
38385
i would forgive the 1st time, afterall we're married, no matter how long he has been doing it...we gotta work it out for our kids, right? it would take time to 4get things, though...he does it the 2nd time & bam! he's out the door.
655907
Sounds to me like Mark is dragging is feet, afterall, you has his cake and is eating it too.  You divorced for one reason or another.  What makes you think that it will work this time.  The past will hinder any happiness that you two may have together.  You should think real hard on this issue and decide if you can go thru with it or not.  If you can't, leave before it's too late.
809202
You are in a family business and you're not family, at least not blood.  Sounds like Tim is the youngest, and as such has been given wide latitiude, while your husband John is the oldest, and has has a stricter upbringing, with emphasis on responsibility.\n\nAt this time your husband is under considerable stress, he knows that Tim is not pulling his weight, he knows that problems at work, with the job/ customer/ vendors, with his brother, with the family, are causing problems at home. He is seeking solice from the bottle, when he should be getting support, comfort and empathy from you. \n\nI would recommend that you stop bringing up "things with his parents", because while you don't think anything is going on, John is the one who is bearing the brunt of their response, and is forced to defend you against his parents.  That's tearing him apart, and could be the underlying cause of the domestic strife.\n\nAs far as the pay issue, I think that you are being taken advantage of.  If you are not "family" then you are an employee who has rights under The Fair Labor Standards Act. Among those rights are to be paid accurately for the time worked, and if non-exempt, to be paid time and one-half for all hours worked over 40. Discuss the problem with you husband, not "Helga" and let him take care of it.
1015964
my dear girl you need to start thinking about yourself for once. he obviously has no respect for you or your decisons about your career life. you need to let go as hard as that may be 10 years is a long time but you only have one life to live make it worth your while not his. you deserve to be happy so get rid of that JERK!!!
159046
I think you need to bring it up to him now .. don't put it off.  Maybve see if your husband can bring it up in casual conversation as they are working.  I think it is reasonable if he is getting paid a reasonable wage for his work from you and your husband that he should expect to pay a reasonable sum for baby sitting fees, unless you agreed to the baby sitting as part of the payment for the work.  But don't spring it on him as a surprise.
794069
It is truly sad that poverty has become so bad that in many places families are broken up because one has to go abroad to work.  I've seen this with many Filipino families that I have known. It is truly sad to see the husband or the wife move away to accept a job to ensure the family at home survives.\n\nI think you are very caring and brave to make such a sacrifice for your family.  However, I think you should discuss this with your husband before doing this. I understand you feel your choices are limited, but if your husband sees what you are willing to do then maybe he might come up with something else. Whatever you do, God bless you.  I hope for the best for you.
510373
I hear your frustration, but I also hear someone who is still in love with the person they married.  Sure, you don't feel for him the way you used but some of that is normal after 10 years, and some of that is from the financial frustration that is dragging you down.  Some times life just doesn't work out the way we had planned and we have to decide if it is best to adjust our expectations or change our lives.  This isn't easy as you have stated because you may find out that nothing changes or things are even worse without him.  Divorce is a huge step and a risk because it doesn't guarantee you that everything will get better.  I guess the big question is, can things change financially just because of a divorce?
840395
each state is different, but if he is making a lot more money than you spousal maintenance should be awarded for a period of time...you get half of all assets and half of all bills in most states and if you have been married over a certain number of years you are entitled to half of his retirement...an attorney would need to go into more detail with the exact laws of your state.
746263
You're not going to like this, but I agree with your husband.  My husband works in construction, so there are always people that I know that want a quote or want to get some work done.  I learned to tell the people that I will have to talk to my husband first.  Why?  Because by me suggesting or agreeing on behalf of my husband gives him a task to do, and he feels obligated to do it because it's family or friends.  I learned that it's best not to give him added responsibility without his consent.