Is unsatisfaction of sex  is the only reason for a marriage break-up?
88934
For some it is . . . yes . . . some are a little more detailed than that . . . like misrepresentation . . .
253737
Sex is important in a relationship and obviousley most people would not get married or stay married if there was no sex involved. I would not marry someone who did not give me sex either. I do not think it is offensive to think like that. I just think you should tell her and see if she will change, ultimately you might not get what you want and you might and up divorcing her but would it hurt to try and make it work first.
931296
There is nothing wrong with you. Actually, if the world were more like you, there might be less drama. I don't think you should change that. You seem to have a moralistic outlook on things, and when it comes to sex and love. If you are married, then you will have no problem staying faithful...which is a good thing. You take the words "making love" literally...so don't change because the rest of the world doesn't value it. :)
1128529
There's nothing  wrong with being sexual and expecting it in your marriage.  It is a necessary part of a marriage.  But you shouldn't consider cheating or leaving.  Of course since you don't' feel satisfied, you may turn your head at other women, but please.....cheating isn't the answer.  You vowed better or worse.....for now this is the"worse" and can be fixed if you get to the root of the problem.  For a woman, there's probably a reason for low sex   drive, probably something in the relationship.  Together, you both need to get to the bottom of the problem.  Medication may not be the answer for your wife.  Be patient and help her.  Find therapy, it does help.  Don't make her feel like there's something wrong with her, cause it's normal.....and if she feels bad it'll make the problem worse.  Make her feel like you'll stick with her through this until things get better......that's what a marriage is.  It's hard, but if you run every time there's a problem, you'll never hold a relationship together.  Do NOT cheat.  think of the future.....do you want your family to say one day, "yeah, he left cause he wasn't getting enough sex".  You deserve a good sexual relationship, but it's BOTH your problems, not just your wife's.
374663
The men I have spoken to feel alienated and rejected both mentally and physically from their wives.  Apparently sex once or twice a year is considered normal for this stage/age of marriage.  Loneliness would probably be the best way to explain it.  They feel that they can fulfill their needs while still maintaining the quid pro quo of the marriage and family.\n\nWrong as it sounds that is what they tell me.  They actually feel like they are sacrificing their own happiness to maintain the responsibilities they have for family.  They see an affair or usually casual sex as a necessary evil.  Most have no intention of ever leaving their wives and they make that perfectly clear.  To them  a marriage that is tolerable is better than divorce.
959267
Yes, something is wrong.  It doesn't matter how often you actually have sex- every day, every week, every month- as long as both of you feel contented. You are unhappy enough about it to be asking this question, so something is going on that isn't quite right.\n\nI've been in a low sex marriage (sex less than once a month, sometimes no sex for six months + at a time) for years and years and believe me, it isn't going to get better over time.  You'll end up being the "pursuer" sexually and emotionally, as I am with my husband.  Seek outside assistance now, while your relationship is still fresh enough for you both to invest in addressing this issue.  Otherwise you'll end up like me- wondering if you chose the wrong mate, wondering if it's still possible to fix it, wondering if platonic friendship is going to be enough for the next 40 years.
450107
i'm a spouse and i think that sex is very healthy for the marriage. And when you get married it should get better because there are no rules , you are married now and you should do more than you used to because thats you partner for life in the eyes of God. And God says that when you get married the bed is under file nobody's watching and you can get nasty and dirty as much as you want, thats the beauty of beeig married, there is no sin in it.
135719
First off let me thank you Trillian for the statement you made about my answer to "blowing in the ear". It made me laugh as well. Just in case you ever want to chat away from here. My addy is bye my profile. If not, it's still cool and thanks.\n\nNow about your question. I have heard of sexual incompatibility. I've heard of some couples that have seen doctors, therapists, and even specialists. Some of the problems are size, over-sensativity, sexual interests, and too much or too little of a sex drive. Most of the couples that I've heard of, are so much in love with each other and have made a life long bond. Find a way to deal with these problems and still stay together. Unfortunately, there are those people that can't see the relationship past the bedroom and end up seperating. So far in this life, I've learned that almost anything is possible. That's why it's good to keep an open mind about thse sort of things. Especially when love is involved.
809620
What you should ask yourself and each other, is if its a lack of sexual desire for each other, or is it just that you both have a low sex drive? Do either of you have sexual needs that aren't being met within the relationship, that you think someone else could fulfill, or is this just the way the two of you are? Have either of you cheated because of the lack of sex with each other? \n\nSex doesn't define love, and there are far more important ways to show someone you love them. People put alot of emphasis on sex within a relationship, and think that its a big part of intimacy,... and for most couples it is, but there are other ways to be intimate as well.... communication, fun, mutual hobbies, laughing together, just enjoying each others company....sex isn't the most important thing in the world, and you don't have to be going at it like rabbits in order to be in love. Not everyone defines the strength of their relationship or the validity of their love for a partner by how much sex they have.\n\nIf you or your husband feel that there's something missing, or that there are desires that you have that can't be fulfilled by each other,.... then you have a problem. But if you're both content, satisfied with how it is, love each other in spite of it, and its not affecting other aspects of your relationship at all,.... why worry about it? Maybe neither of you are highly sexual, and you're just lucky enough to have found a partner that's the same. It's alot better than being married to someone who's sex drive is the complete opposite of yours... thats the complaint most people have.
236660
I think it is modern society.  The media?  On tv people just have sex and fall in love.. \n\nThe reason why people change their partners are different for every person because not every one wants the same things so you can't just say that every one breaks up with their sexual partner because they were not sexually satisfied, I mean that is a highly possible option, but if they are in love, they should just practise sex more.. practise makes perfect! ;)\n\nIf some one had a bad sexual experience, like they got raped they would probably be scared of having and anything like that.  But sex is a normal thing and if you love some one, you may or may not be having sex with them if you two are together.
321146
You can indeed remain wihout sex, it never killed anyone, not in the short term anyway. Maybe you need to seriously consider finding a wife rather than looking for a less committed type of coupling. I'm sure a lot of your issues have to do with culture, so you should respect that culture and stay within the bounds of its mores. You will encounter a lot less anxiety if you do.
906598
I think your looking for an excuse to not have sex. J/K Don't let a little laughter spoil a good time. You know your are completely comfortable w/ someone else when you are able to laugh at each other's imperfections and not be offended. Relax I've been laughed at in bed many many times.
1171842
You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
176683
Absolutely not. The husband should find out why he's unhappy about sex with his wife and try to remedy the situation. Some women may not know how to do sex and please the man. The same goes with men. Excellent sex, usually comes natural "after" learning your likes and dislikes and the likes and dislikes of your partner. Some like rough sex. Some like gentle sex. There are many positional variations that will make you happy or unhappy. Discuss them with your wife and explain to her that sex is a wonderful thing and can be enjoyed. So, start working for a common goal, finding out what works and repeating it. Accepting defeat and running away from your life partner is not the solution.
381973
You should see that you are physically compatible. What if you found out on your wedding night that the sex between you, for purely physical reasons was not ever going to be any good? It would mean for a potentially unhappy marriage. I say go for it!
989709
I see nothing wrong with knowing what you're getting into.  I know others would disagree, but sex is a part of marriage.  If it's not enjoyable because of who you're with, you won't want to be procreating with them (which is the whole biblical point of having sex in marriage).
91354
No. That's only considering yourself and some (probably temporary) emotions.\n\nAsk anyone who has had a successful relationship (>15 years) and they will tell you there were times when they were not satisfied with each other. When they worked through it and waited it out, they found it was just like a passing storm.\n\nIf you break or injure this relationship it will not get any easier for you. Even with the 'perfect' partner it will be almost unmanageably diffucult at times.\n\nBy bailing out each time it gets difficult you are dooming yourself to a life of constantly moving around and never being satisfied.\n\nThey will also tell you that any relationship requires both to actively work on building the relationship and that in the end it's worth it.