me and my dad argue all the time......?
96487
Probably because he loves you and thinks that would be best for you. Parents can be strange like that sometimes. :)
196632
I really know what u mean cause I have the same problem with my parents and sometimes when they start the fight I just ignore them and try to go out or do something else instead of staying home and listening to all the rubbish they say and if they try to tell me that I am wrong I just try to prove that I am not or I just try to forget about it.
141052
It is not your fault.  This was between the two of them, and to be honest, is it possible that they are breaking up because they love you, and don't wish you to suffer their arguments any longer?  It still wouldn't be your fault, and this way you can get to experience each of your parents in a completely different and loving way with you.  I hope it works for you.  It's difficult but you can get through this with an open heart that your parents are doing the absolute best they know how.
590709
If your daddy genuinely thinks that then he's just as much of a moron, in fact, the village neighboring Bush's called, they're both missing their idiots, I think one of them is your dad!  Have you ever heard of sarcasm?\n-Duo
905725
i dont think ur doing anything wrong. maybe its just him. maybe hes cahnge over the years and try not to start the fights. wen fighting arises change the subject and try to have fun.
228166
Have you mentioned this to an adult that you trust? It is very possible that your father doesn't realize that he shouldn't be talking like that to you and doesn't realize how it is affecting you. Is your mom around? Try to talking to her if she is. Or talk to a close family member or teacher/guidance counselor about it. It's ok for your dad to get mad at you, but he shouldn't be saying obscene or scary things to you.
27182
I don't know your situation, can you just talk with your father and say "dad,pop,father whatever you call him, I need your support"?  \n\n without yelling at him just try talking in calm voices and if he raises his try not raising yours but speak in a calm voice, sometimes people get in the habit of being loud and it takes one of them trying to remain calm to break that cycle.
285987
Are you at his house? Is he at your house? Are you two living together? By reading your question, I will say that you put too much weight on this matter.  My mother is like that.  She will stay up all night waiting to see when my father or me will come home if we said something wrong that day.  This is normal human behavior. However, I like to caution you that a relationship which consist of arguing and one person staying up all night until the other person coming home (so that they can talk) is no real relationship.  He is probably seeing someone I'm sorry.  A man is not a REAL man if he can't be precise.  Men tends to excused themselves to get some free time or some space.  Sweety, in the long run, you are going to be the one who loses at the end.  You will never feel any better in the morning, trust me.  There are many other nice guys out there.  However, please look at the situation carefully and see why are you two arguing.  You may be the problem.  All your worries at night will just push him away instead of bringing him closer to you.  If I were you, I would talk to your girlfriends and your family about this.  This is SERIOUS matter.  A sweetheart like you does not need to be staying up all night and worrying like that.  Instead you should be sleeping well and warm and waking up to beautiful flowers next to you, from him.  Do not do anything more to stress you..   Serpeanta@yahoo.com
1149933
You can't get your dad and his mom to forget their differences.  Some things are out of your control, including how other people act.  OK, that's not totally true, but you've probably done what you can do already by this time.\n\nIf your relationship worth it even if you have to accept how your dad reacts and everything else?\n\nMaybe you need to put this on the backburner too - not make any decisions yet, but be a little lighter about it and let your boyfriend come to you more.  You might find that changes the dynamics a little and shifts the power you have in your relationship and in your life as a whole.  If the relationship has it's own strength it can withstand some time of uncertainty (just don't do anything stupid - be patient and trust that if it is meant to happen, it will).  Do some things that are fun for you and help you remember your own strengths and how you care for yourself.\n\nAre there other problems between you and your boyfriend that aren't about your parents?  Sometimes factors like parents can be a big distraction that lets you avoid being fully honest with each other.
699162
Ok....  you have two choices.....  get involved or not get involed. You can confront your father and tell him how angery you are or you can ignore it. To the sounds of it, you dont want to ingore it. Look sweetie, no one get through a divorce with out some type of heartache. Just remember that both parents love you and this isnt a reflection of how things will be in the future....  Im sorry honey and good luck!
883614
dang, your dad sounds either really up tyght or this is your first detention.\n\nDad- just tell him. every parent wants thur "darlin" to be perfect, if he lectures you, just agree to everything he says and try not to fill in the details as much as possible. You might get grounded or sumthin, but thats lyfe. Besides, I guess it builds character.. or sumthin lyke that.\n\nFirst Time- There's a first time for everythin. If your dad rats all on you, just say to him "like YOU havent ever been in trouble" or say your not perfect and that nobody is. It's the truth.
132821
As the saying goes "Money is the root of all evil."\nYou have no control over your parents behaviour.  I hope you don't feel their fights are your fault in any way.\nI'm sorry to hear that they fight in front of you, causing you pain, that is selfish and irresponsible on their part.\nYou could try letting them know how much these arguments upset you by saying something like, "Please, if you feel  you have to fight could you spare me and do it some place else, or when I'm not around?"  Tell them it hurts you to see them fight. It MIGHT do some good if you bring to their attention how it makes you feel. However, I wouldn't get my hopes up too high because I doubt if they will change, especially if it has been going on for a long time.  \n\nHaving a spiritual relationship with God is what I suggest for bringing you peace of mind.  Prayer is what works for me. Find a special scripture in the Bible and think of that in times of stress, and when you have a troubled (sad) heart.\nGood luck,...and God Bless you.
151875
This was in response to the other question that you removed:\n\nIt sounds like your parents have a lot of their own issues, and they may be taking them out on you.  You are just a kid -- IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.  Of course, if they ONLY yell and curse when you have done something against their rules, then you need to realize that they will get frustrated with you.  But they should NEVER threaten to hurt you.  If you really get scared for your safety or for someone else in the family, you have to tell someone.\n\nI would recommend talking to someone you can trust outside of your family (school counselor, priest/minister/rabbi, teacher, family friend or neighbor), who can help you learn to cope with what's going on.  In time, you'll want to find a way to approach your parents with your concerns; but that will take some preparation for you to think of a way to talk about it without setting them off.  Or maybe, in a moment of calm (riding in the car seems to be a good time for my son and I to talk) you could say that you are tired of fighting all the time, and suggest family counseling so you can learn better ways to communicate with each other.  \n\nRealize that you and they are humans, and we all make mistakes.  They probably do NOT WANT to hurt you, but they may have their own stress or pain inside of them that they haven't learned to deal with.  For now, try to behave within the rules and don't act out of rebellion (you won't like the result).  Hang in there and remember that with time and patience and love it can get better.
474072
Really difficult.......it sounds to me that he is fighting you all because it's easier than trying to get along for him right now.  I would sit him down and without getting angry just explain that there are going to be rules in your household from that moment on.  One of them being that no bad language is used.  I wouldn't give him random jobs to do but set a weekly agenda so he knows exactly what is expected of him.  Also have job lists for the other children.  Get them all to agree that they will complete there tasks, then he won't feel picked on the moment you ask him to do something.  You will just have to accept that his time spent in his other home is going to be his 'fun' time because his girlfriend etc is there.  Don't allow him to use this as a stick to beat you with.  The facts are he lives with YOU in YOUR house and must obey the house rules.  \n\nThe sitting in his room alone sounds a little worrying.  I think he wants people to come in to try and coax him out - it may be for attention or it may be that he just likes sitting on his own doing his own thing.  If there is someone in the house that he gets on the best with then send them into him occassionally to just chill with him for 5-10 minutes, stick your head around the door and just ask if he's OK.  \n\nHe is proably unhappy about his situation - every kid would prefer to be living with his real mom and dad.  He will get used to it but the more you fight with him the more you lose!  Set the rules and stick by them - not just for him but for everyone.  Good Luck.
1136865
YEAH SORTA.. CUZ U BOTH COME OUT FRM THE SAME DAD..
97739
You should step up and be that medium. Be the peace maker. Let your mother have her way. She loves you and only wants to protect you. If you feel an argument coming on about something try to listen to what she has to say. You don't have to believe her or even understand her. Parents just want their kids to listen to what they have to say. I thin kthat it is possible to get along with your parents. I do most of the time. Find something you both enjoy doing and do t together. Like shopping!
358598
You really should tell them how you feel, and find out what the fight is really about. It may or may not actually be about you. Maybe it's more they are fighting over you. There could some deeper issue involved. Yep, it's official, I've been watching way too much Dr. Phil.