i know my guy isnt cheating. but he doesnt say much. how do i spark conversation with someone far away?
79986
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Has he always been like this?? Let him know that you care about what is going on with him and ask him to trust you with his heart. Assure him that you will not use it against him or take it for granted...you just want to be let in. I hope this helps! :)
170325
What is your rush?\nHave a serious talk with him.  Ask him what his intensions are.  Ask him if he knows why he hasn't asked already.\nIf he is serious, he should at least talk with you.\nIf he stringing you along, better to find out now than later.\nSame if he has serious doubts.
45416
let it come naturally, just discuss the obvious around you without making it much of a big deal. depending on the response u get which can lead to a conversation. but dont push it if the other is not interested in talkin with u.
244012
First off, I think you are putting too much emphasis on time. You could be with someone for 11 months or 11 years and know them equally. The best way to get closer to someone is obviously through talking. The easiest way to approach this is by doing something you both enjoy or try something new to both of you. This way, there will be plenty to talk about. If you start talking about a topic that is more general and less personal, it is usually easier to then slide into a more serious or personal one. Also, if you love him and he loves you then he will want to hear what you have to say and learn more about you. You just need to relax and not put so much pressure on yourself. You are looking for that comfort level that all couples want...but it develops gradually. In the meantime, have fun and you'll see that it will get easier to open up.
199961
Start off with, "hi" and let it go from there.  You can't force chemistry, you either got it or don't got it. If you don't have it, then you have to think to yourself, "he's not good enough for me cause he can't even talk to me." If he can't talk to you and he doesn't have anything in common with you, then he must be boring.
971962
First of all you should actually talk to him. That was not a very productive conversation. So you should give him a call when you are by yourself, in your room, and see what he has to say. Always rely on yourself though, not what other people say. If Zack said "Kinda" then you probably have a good chance. So like I said, call him when you are both alone, with no one else around or nearby and talk about whatever it is that you want to talk about. Remember it's always good not to talk about yourself all the time. Ask him questions, figure him out. Ask him have he likes to do on his spare time, what he likes/dislikes etc. (e.g. ask him about his day and what he plans to do the next day). It might be a good idea to invite him out for a movie or something if you really like this guy. Personally, If a girl that I like askes me to hang out or whatever I'd really like that, because guys have all the pressure to take the initiative and ask the girl out etc.; that really sucks; is not cool cause some guys are really shy. Very important: Be urself, dont try to be someone that ur not. However, it's ok to lie here and there but keep it minimal. Good luck girl!!!!
152353
you need to be honest with him. open up to him dont lead him on if the relatoinship is going down hill and u want to save it you need to tell him how you feel and what you want to work on. its better to tell the truth than to lie and lead him on, unless he knows its in a runt. anyways just open and be honest. remember communication is the key to a relationship, thats why so many people cheat on their loved ones cause they can up and front tell them they are happy anymore put yourself in his shoes, how would you want to be talked to bout this,, really think bout that good luck
438109
Conversation with your bf should come naturally. You can't really ask complete strangers what to talk about. No one can solve awkward silences but you, and if you can't solve 'em, maybe it's best to leave it be.
417599
comment some guy when ur with him.\ntrust me, ull know
516866
if it were me i would just make conversation and bring it up...i think guys like it more if its just straight forward...so just tell him.....say it like..this is gonna sound stupid but i really like u'....he will say somthing back...
763615
well, for starters...open your mouth and practice the art of communication! What you said here is perfect for letting him know!\n\nGood luck!
636907
In the same boat with ya miss lady. My guy is overseas though. It's difficult because they figure once they 'got you' they don't have to keep trying, but interest can be lost at any point and he has to do his part to keep you happy as well. An email, phone call, text message, hey...even a post card is just a simple and quick way to say 'hey, I may be busy, but your are on my mind and I want you to know that." It doesn't take much for someone to make you feel like a million bucks. But lack of communication leads to loss of interest which makes you distant from him mentally as well as physically. He needs to step his A-Game up. You should worry a little, but I've noticed with men, you have to constantly TELL them what you want, unlike women we think back to the last point of our conversation before things went downhill. Men move on and don't worry, just send him a signal that he should worry and that you are losing interest on his part. Be subtle and smooth with it, he'll get the picture, nothing major to make him overly jealous but a red flag to get his heart beating a little so he'll know you might be out of his grasp if he continues....Good luck miss lady!
369177
Perhap's you may never be able to comminicate the way you would like to be able to...but don't let that stop you from trying! You didn't say how old you are,but if you are young (younger than 18,say)you might try finding out something about  the other person and do some research on it so you can bring it up in conversation sometime. Maybe it could be something about his childhood..almost everone likes to talk about themselves!\n If you are older (an adult) you may have to face the fact that being distant may be the only way he knows how to handle himself. Or you could try taking him out to a function that you think he may enjoy,something that he is interested in. This would give the two of you some common ground to discuss. Maybe this would open the door to other conversation!  Good Luck. And try to remember something I had to learn some time ago...if you can't make the people in your family love you, let the people who already love you be your family.
273688
I believe in "open" relationships, not the open kind where you date others. Ask him what reason he has for not opening up to you and if there's something you can do to change that. Being honest is the way to go. You can't spend the rest of your life with someone who keeps things from you. You want to be able to share "everything" with each other. That builds a strong foundation within the relationship. \n\nYou can try to temporarily forget about this for a while. Start doing fun stuff with him instead. Go on mini vacations, take trips, spend nights together away from home, do the things he likes like taking him to a baseball game, going to the beach, etc. You know, guy stuff. That way he'll be able to relax and you two can talk casually. Maybe then he'll feel more at ease about being with you and who knows, he might even start telling you things. \n\nYou can "trick" him by asking "have you ever" questions just to get him to say something. If you know he's going through something, ask him subtle questions relating to that specific thing to give it a nudge. But at the same time, be "generalized" and not make him think you're trying to "get information" or smother him. Just be smart about it. :)\n\nGood luck to you.
107645
I personally would be who you are...when you want to ask him to go to a place to hang out...just be casual-calm-cool-collective-confidence is the key. Guys get turned on like that...and than when your on the phone call for not chatting but casually seek him out...to what are his plans  towards the end of the weekend/like Thursday call. Guys really don't like many plans only because they are more comfortable knowing your willing to just hang out at any given time...\nPretend that you have things you can do if he says "No" that it's not counting on him for your fun! Believe me he will think your interesting this way...speak high of yourself, when he makes a comment say I already knew this about me but thanks for the compliment.Be supportive when he seems stressed, relate to a experiance you had in your time that would relieve him in to trusting you more as this person of love that you say-but seek out those times and listen then bring input-guys love this when you show some wealth to their ego when they are hurting or happy say what you love about him but not in a mushy way...sincere straight honest truth about who they are to you-people love to hear about themselves a lot...when your close the better it gets!\nMuch luck!-Tina
1139635
Hold Up!\n You met this guy online how long have u been talking to him for? \n\nIf you ever choose to meet anyone off line all I could advise would be to not travel alone, take a friend and meet in a public place like a shopping centre.\n Your friend doesnt even have to be with u but they can watch u from a distance. U have to be very weary. And only meet him when u feel comfortable. \nIf u dont wanna meet up keep dropping excuses he will get the hint1 Becareful :)
284212
Let him do some talking! If he aint talking about nothing move on cuz you don't want nobody boring and lame in your life and that'll also be another way to make sure he likes you just as much. I know that now a days, women are being more aggressive with men but you've done your part now let him do his and if he don't, let it go and move on because there are plenty of fish in the sea and when you do, I bet he'll wanna holla at you then!