how working mother affects chilfd behavior?
81815
It depends on a lot of variables... How old the child is, how long you spent with the child if you were not working before, and if there is personal support for you on your decision which reflects onto the childs view point. \n\nYou are not the only one in the childs life, right? We are not just a product of our home environment, but our outside one as well. As long as you are involved with the child, constructively communicate, set aside quality time one on one, and lead by example in standing up for what is right and true...then working shouldn't have anything to do with your child's behavior. \n\nNow, if the child is of school age and is showing signs of negative behavior, then you might consider the public school system. It is actually set up to encourage (often not directly) bad behavior in kids today. Read: The Underground History of American Education by John Taylor Gatto (a teacher in the public school system), or see the book: Dumbing Us Down, for more information on the subject.
295953
Yikes! First of all, even though what she did is very wrong we have all don't things in our lives that we are not proud of.  Now knowing your financial situation I will not condemn your mother. Secondly, this is a very serious situation and I am not sure what will happen.  In most cases the boss would not ever consider keeping the employee.  However, the fact that she is family is a very good thing for her. This may really work to her benefit.  You should just relax and don't worry about things that are beyond your control.  Say a little prayer to God and just be there for your mom.  Everything will work out! Good luck and God bless!
109329
Mothers working outside the home can be very good role models.  I taught and had one caregiver in my home for five years.  Later I taught one of my children.  They saw me as a hard working career person, a graduate student, and a fully involved loving mother.  It takes a lot of planning, prioritizing and staying the course but it certainly can be done successfully.
697104
you poor thing. no parent should treat their kid that way. or act that way around their kid. tell your mom that you love her, but your relationship is being strained. you are acting as the enabler. if the roles were reversed, would she seriously let YOU "mooch" off of her?
1030454
My mother.  She is 71 years young and still works 16 hours a day at a real job.  She is a private duty with "old" people.  Her words not mine.
136435
Oh my gosh, did you work at the same place I did?  Your story sounded exactly like the situation I had.  Management and supervisory positions had changed at my work and from then on, the nightmare began.  The witch who rose to power was a narcissitic, egotistical backstabber who made it so unbearable for everyone. She continuously found it amusing to berate, belittle and degrade each and every employee in the company by telling us that we were underworked and so grossly over-paid (we all made more $$$$ than her). Someone who is in the psychology field said that this supervisor's had low self-esteem issues (she weighs close to 300 lbs.)and it is satisfying to her to put others down in order to feel better about herself.  She can't control her weight so she tried to control others.  Unfortunately, confronting this supervisor only compounded to the problem, as she could not take constructive criticism from ANY employee...and talking to the owner of the company proved to be useless, as he always avoided any type of problem or confrontation issue.  Since I did not have an advocate or anyone I could really turn to, the stress of going to work every day was taking it's toll on my health.  For peace of mind and sanity, I gave them my two weeks notice but did not burn my bridges upon my resignation. It is a good idea to have something lined up to go to, especially if you need the income and medical benefits.  You really don't want to be at the mercy of your current employer when it comes to recommendations or verifications.  Good luck.....
483840
I understand where you r coming from.  Both my parents are that way.  Just remember that she loves you and has always wanted the best for u and want u to have a better life than she did.  Respect her opinions and tell her so.  She can't expect you to do exactly what she tells you and I'm sure she doesn't.  Make it clear that you respect and appreciate her input but in the end it is your decision to make.  Maybe dont share as much personal info with her as you have been. Such as the example you gave about your job.  Would it be possible to keep discussions about your job to a minimum when talking to your mom. You don't want to tell her to back off because someday you are going to need her, need her advice, and that's what she is there for.  She just wants you to know that she'll always be there for you.  You can still be close to your mom without talking about the life decisions you have made or need to make. Good luck!
467244
Talk to her...tell her how much you value her as a worker, and all the reasons why you do; but explain that it would be helpful if she adopted a little bit more of a professional behavior on the emotional part. Ask her to practice at expressing her problems in a reasoned, unemotional way; and to consider that there are other people working with her who can not keep trying to adjust to her varying needs. \nGood luck.
506506
I think if my OSD were my bio kid, she would be WORSE behaved!! And don't underestimate the power of just talking with them and being there for them to talk to. They may get that glassy, glazed look in their eye, but I do think some of it eventually filters down to them. The big thing is allowing them to make mistakes. No, not standing by and watching them make mistakes, but realizing they are still kids (no matter what THEY think about it) and they are gonna make mistakes, and our job is to help them pick up the pieces when they do... to listen and guide as much as we can, and just be patient with them. There comes a point in time when we are no longer "responsible" for their actions, and they have to suffer and face consequences when they do certain things. There is no getting around that.
310393
There have been studies that show that a hormone irregularity in the mother may alter the part of a person that determines sexual attraction.
249087
She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
589737
I guess mothers (over their sons) are really nosy...and in terms of the opposite...protective behavior aside...maybe she's looking into how to make herself feel young again? Not too sure...but either way...my gut tells me you should confront the issue and find out what she's really getting out of it...
830098
Of course, it would be. They can't say anything formally but they will treat her as if she is a liability. Your lawsuit would be against bothe the party responsible and the hospital. While the case was going on they would have to watch what they said and did around your mother as she could be a witness against them. So, yes it would hurt her working environment, at least for a while.
710550
I think June is certainly the most commonly used icon to represent that type of parenting. \n\nI absolutely know that you can work and be a good mother.  Staying at home doesn't guarantee anything.
364711
There are plenty of people who want to work.  When you hired her to watch your son, did you give the days and hours?  Did she tell you then she could not watch your son on Mondays?  If she didn't, I would let her go and find a lady in her 60's who would love to watch your son, a grandmaw type who could use the money to supplement her income.
197084
Most all people have some sort of mental illness. The key is are you being affected emotionally or physically by this person. If the answer to this is yes then take it from an middle aged person suffering daily from a boss and mother that are mentally ill. This has had a HUGE affect on my life and my children. So MY advice is to look for another job in an organized manner and make the move if you have any of the above issues.There are bosses that donot get off on power struggles.I have one now. BEST TO YOU.
655557
I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!