me and my mom and dad dont get along at all we always argue and their is never a happy medium what do i do ?
97739
You should step up and be that medium. Be the peace maker. Let your mother have her way. She loves you and only wants to protect you. If you feel an argument coming on about something try to listen to what she has to say. You don't have to believe her or even understand her. Parents just want their kids to listen to what they have to say. I thin kthat it is possible to get along with your parents. I do most of the time. Find something you both enjoy doing and do t together. Like shopping!
9669
hi there... i suggest you talk to them. have an open discussion about your problem. its ok because they are only your family members. if you dont talk to them, then who else will you talk to in order to solve your problem... so talk to them, be very open and frank and i'm sure things will get solved. all the best.
153428
Try talking to them one at a time probably when the other one is gone. I dont know how you parents are but if its a serious problem you dont wanna make it worse you know so just ask at different times. Good luck mama!
933367
It's hard to be the middleman and I hate to see you get involved. If they fight in front of you, tell them both to grow up and resolve their fight like 2 grown ups. And then give them both a time out!! Good-luck sweetie!
1156247
have you ever tell you dad how you felt about his attitude?\nhave your mum ever spoke to you of how she felt about the situation?\nyou know,i advise that you'd better see a counselor .Pour our your feelings to the counselor.He/she will be able to help you cope with the current situation you' re facing.\nI know your family must have meant a lot to you.And I suppose you're a growing up child.I agree the current situation affects your life and you other family members but please remember one thing do not let those things to pollute your mind or affect your studies.\nMost importantly get a professional help.\ncheer up ok.I wish you all the best.
944651
Explain to your Mom what your feelings are.  If she does not understand, just do not answer her phone calls or answer the door if she comes to visit you. \n\nYou are an adult now and have a right to set boundaries with anyone including your parents.
503205
First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
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well talk to them to find out why u r in trouble then pray that God gives you the ability to continue to respect your parents.they are there to help and protect you so please make it easier by listening and trying to understand what they are saying. it will come in handy when you strike out on your own.my mom & dad were the meanest parents in the world. and i thank them for it thier disipline & love is what made me the person my husband fell in love with. if i can be even half the person my mom is i will be lucky.
314599
I have just moved in with my Gran and it is hard, Just try and be understanding with her and if she is upsetting you calmly talk to her.
681020
oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
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Can you talk and be honest with your Dad and Mom? Maybe you have tried and failed.... you say "secretly you cry". so your mom and dad don't know what is really happening? please try to talk to them again....\n\nDads can get so busy, thinking they are doing what they doing for their family... all the while losing touch with their family!!\n\nI know it sounds pretty weird, but God can help. God will give you strength and help,  God will comfort you in your troubles and help you to be strong. God will show you what to do.\n\nGod is the best counsellor, the best friend, the best therapist, and the best family-putter-together there is!!\n\nJust talk to God. He is there with you now and He wants you to pour out your heart to Him. Tell Him your sorrows, your pains, your failures, your disappointments.. Be honest with Him and He will help...\n\nGod bless,\n\nPlease email me if you like....
1071655
been through the same situation what i did was spoke with  the littles girl mother and very nicely i told her that i felt bad that they werent getting along they started off good and now they dont talk and they argue and she spoke with her daughter and i spoke to mine and we resolved the issue we told them both that they are going to be neighbors for a very long time i wasnt moving and they should just try to be friends and get along and it's ok to have little disagreements but it's more fun when everyone get along and no one should try to be a leader and tell the other girls not to be friends because that should be their choice. and i stayed out of it when my daughter would come complaining to me of what the other one said i would tell her i dont want to hear it i wasnt going to argue with the little girl and i wanst going to go and get all loud and stupid with the parents cause kids will be kids and if they couldnt resolve it then they should just ignore one another. but thanks god they are now friends and it all will pass dont worry to much about it try to ignore it when they come to complain to you and just come up with a plan with the other mom it'll work out just fine .
265225
It's tough being young. you might not want to hear it, but in the majority of these situations parents want what's best for there kids. i'm 25 so i'm still young and only within the past 2 years have i had a good constant relationships with my parents.  i'd say develop patience. deal for a year or two. by all means have fun and experiment but realize that you are human and YOU ARE NOT INVINCIBLE. take what mom says with a grain of salt. if you choose to do drugs, which I AM NOT SUGGESTING, don't use them to get f'd up, use them to learn, and carefully. As long as you keep in mind that mom and you are fighting most likely because she's concerned, you should be able to breathe it off, when you get in fights with her. you're both human, it happens. don't let the snags off adolescence scar your relationship with someone very important. good luck kid.
845057
From what you described, this is not a good marriage at all. It is clear that you two are unhappy. It appears that little to no communication is going on and communication is the key to all relationships. If you two want to save the marriage, this is what I recommend that you all do;\n\nFirst talk, talk, talk. Get the kids out the house for a while and you guys need to talk to each other and find out what has gone wrong in the relationship. Tell him  things that makes you unhappy in the marriage and ask him to tell you the same. Do not argue. You two need to have an honest, adult conversation\n\nDo not hear each other, but listen and understand each other. It is important that the words that you all are saying do not go in one ear and out of the other. Listen and understand. If you don't understand, ask questions.\n\nOnce you all have gotten your feelings out in the open communicated, & listened to each other, then talk about ways that you all can make things better. Date night, movie night (at home with children) take a trip together every now and then are some ways you all can rekindle the romance. \n\nNext, talk about his time with the children. Sometimes, people may not know that they are doing something wrong because they are not being told. So tell him how you feel about him not spending time with the boys and girl. Let him know that he plays an important role in their lives and he does not want the children growing up saying "I was never close to my dad/ stepdad".\n\nAs for the sex, well..you can tell him what you like done to you and what makes you feel good doing sex. Ask him, what turns him on. Again that goes back to one important word, Communication. \n\nNOW\nIf you do not wish to save the marriage, just be honest with him and let him know. If two people do not wish to stay in a marriage and do not love one another, then there's no need in living in a dysfunctional household. I see no need in allowing the children to witness the unhappiness and distance relationship that there parent's have. It may hurt the children, but you all would have to explain to them that you all love them and this is the best decision at this time. Counseling for the children (especially the daughter) may be necessary if you all decide to divorce. I wish you well. 17 years is a long time to throw in the towel without really trying to work it out. Good Luck.
277579
Honey, I'm so sorry.  It all depends on if they work things out between them, but the truth is they may not even know at this time.  Please don't think it's your fault.  Adults have a lot of issues to deal with.  I'm sure your Dad loves you and misses you very much.  Include them in your prayers. I will too.
1044301
Well you could try explaining to them how it makes you feel and how it affects you. You may need to speak with them separately and when they are calm, Tell them how it makes you feel and that it hurts to hear them fighting and arguing as you love them both. It may help calm the disagreements, but it probably will not eliminate them.
159735
Do not loose yourself to tensions my sister. If already nothing has gone wrong, try to get a job first. Be positive. When you have a job you will have some authority. Then it would be easier for you to convinvence your parents. Parents too love you more than anything. Therefore you will succeed no doubt. Good luck.