what would you do if your partner has become very controling in certain aspects of your relationship..?
81816
IF THE PERSON IN QUESTION IS CONTROLLING YOU IN SOME ASPECT'S, THEN YOU NEED TO LEAVE THAT PERSON BECAUSE THE PERSON'S GOING TO WIND UP HITTING YOUR OR POSSIBLY WORSE.\n\nIF YOU'RE STAYING JUST FOR THE KID'S, THEN GOTO  AN AGENCY THAT WILL HELP YOU AND THE OTHER PERSON WITH THE PROBLEM'S THAT YOU BOTH ARE HAVING DUE TO THIS NATURE!\n\nTRY TO GET THEM TO GOTO COUNSELLING, MAYBE, THAT'LL HELP FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO GET BETTER AND BLSSOM.
508241
THE ONLY SOLUTION I CAN COME UP WITH IS TO PRAY. WHEN YOU FEEL THAT THERE IS TO MUCH YOU CAN'T CONTROL, JUST GET ON YOUR KNEES AND PRAY, AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE IN HIM EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS WORK OUT FOR THE BEST!!
1096476
You should stop acting like a sex slave. If you are not in the mood...Don't do it! Are you a partner or property?
441782
in all relationships , one seems to have the "power". dont threatn to end it ... just act like it doesnt bother you & do a lil ignoring & soon the power is yours! he'll get REAL interested in your " change of attitude" !!
127514
Girl, I know how you feel. If this is occuring on more than one occassion then slack off. Don't hound about it. And first and far most PLEASE YOURSELF. You deserve that first of all. Take the time off to PAMPER yourself and then he/she might take notice. If that doesn't work then it is some questions you need to ask about your relationship and where it is going.  I feel you should at least have or get an answer so you can better understand and deal with this issue.  Peace
947971
Let him know how you feel if things remain this way get out while you can. If he loves you he will change his ways. Things will only get worse if you done deal with them now.
179319
You shouldn't let your boyfriend control you like that.  It's a sign of things to come.  Now it's a party, but in the future he'll be telling you what friends you can and cant have, what to wear, places you can and cant go, etc.
726820
He probably has changed, and you have changed too even if yo don't realize it. People change, you just have to change with each other and adjust to the changes as a couple.
428106
I was ALMOST in that situation...\n\nFortunately I realized BEFORE things got too bad (he was just starting to become possessive) & ended it little by little.\n\nI don't know what to suggest - other than what I did - which was winding down the relationship VERY slowly - which will eventually end it & hopefully he will have adjusted to your not being around anymore.
718056
Why are you letting this guy make you crazy?  Why is he the one making all of the decisions?  You're smart, if a girlfriend of yours just told you what you've told us, what would you say to her???  Maybe it's time to move on...
172674
Altering a persons values is tough.  He may even be uncooperative on purpose, maybe he thinks it gives him control.  Anything you do is probably temporary.
475891
Well he is stepping up the control and the abuse. Almost like testing the waters so to speak. He seeing how much he can get away with. He may have realized he took it too far, and my regret his actions. Unless he gets help he is not going to change.  You will change though.  Each time he abuses you he is taking apart of your soul. You won't even realize it. Before you realize your entire life will be based on his reactions. The cycle of abuse is hard to stop. The only thing you can do at this point is get out while you still can.
1164160
Nope.  Frankly, I'm the same way.  My gf let me know it bothers her, so, I'm trying to make adjustments.  But, if you keep asking him, it'll just take longer and make him more irritated, maybe to the point where he can't deal with it anymore.  I'd let him know it bothers you, and leave it.  If he's going to change, he'll do it on his own.
153723
I have the same problem.  Someone told me I need to control it... but it isn't as easy as it sounds...
761082
In the short term they manage fairly well, then the separations, travelling and expenses become too much.\nIf it is a serious relationship or if it could become one I suggest one of you moving closer to the other.
693699
realize that he/she is controlling on a small scale now, and will move to bigger things later. if you don't want to be walked on, dont act like a doormat.
505349
Maybe you need couples counseling.