would it be ok if i had a relationship with my stepsister?
87262
Even if it is legal where you live, it is never a good idea.  The worse problems caused would be the additional stress this would place on your parent/step parents and their relationship.\nYou are better off loving her as a sibling.
1173592
well, i'm only 13 yrs. old, and i'm kinda not married, but i don't see anything wrong with that either. unless you had kids with your ex, you should be fine.
567710
If you have never lived as brother and sister, then it is ok. If you were brought up as brother and sister from a young age, no it's not ok.\nWith the additional details you have said, then no it is not ok. I think "growing up together would normally mean from the age of around 13/14 or under. Personally, I would say under 16/18. If they both consider the same man to be their father then it is wrong for them to date because that would be like dating a half brother or something.
449424
if we will be basing it according to your age, it will be fine , however, you have the same blood as hers coz your in the  same family. besides, she's getting married in a few weeks so.. maybe she should wait til that time comes. and, if she wants you as her partner, tell her just to imagine u.
435565
Yes its OK providing you are over the age of consent. There is nothing wrong with relationships between older men and younger women providing that both are old enough to consent to what they are doing. \n\nYou are probably not old enough to consent to a relationship so it cause problems. I would leave it until you are both old enough to enter a relationship legally. You or he may have found someone else and have moved on by then. If not, you might want to see how you feel about each other then.\n\nMy brother married a girl who was 13 years younger than him and they have three kids.\n\nBest wishes to you for the future.
515181
Why not? theres no problem with that...unless your in a relationship with that person..
1080484
Hi!  I am sorry about the situation you are in.  I used to be a step-mom but now I am an adoptive mother.  When I married my daughters dad I automatically became step-mom.  I then adopted them (by the way, my husband had to adopt them with me even though he is the biological father).  My name is now on the girls birth certificates as if I was the one who gave birth to them.  The natural mother loses all rights- even her name on their legal birth certificates!  I hope you can give your step-mom a chance.  It'll be hard, I know.  I was lucky, my girls were very little and I'm the only mom that they know and love.  Is she mean to you or jealous of you?  Are you jealous of her relationship with your dad?   Please figure out why you don't like her and maybe the both of you can work it out.  You are not being disloyal to your mother if you like the step.  You didn't mention whether your mom is still in the picture.  I assume and hope she is still alive.  If not, I'm sorry.  Please, for your sake give step -mom a chance.  The more allies you have on your side the better.  Besides, I know you must love your dad and there could be no worse heartache than seeing the two women closest to him feeling that way.  See it in your heart to be happy for him.  There must be something worth liking about her if your dad picked her for his wife.
370213
It's that my ex-stepmother? Sounds like it. Here's the problem: manipulative, controlling, possessive, and selfish.\nEvery good man needs a good woman. Not a headache. Time to\npull yourself out the relationship and move on. She has no\nfeelings for you at all. Real love is pure and genuine. you\nneed a real woman. A virtuous woman. One who knows how to \nlove a man. One who will support you and stand by your side.
954789
Well, I read the follow-up question (at least, I think that was you), and gave this some thought. Not that I know the answer, but here are things to consider:\n\nHow close are you to your step-sis and half-bro? Can you talk to your step-sis calmly, tell her you know she suspects you're having a relationship with her boyfriend, but you really don't find him attractive - you only tolerate him for her sake - and then, if she accepts this, ask your half-bro if she can come?\n\nIf not (or if she won't accept it, or your half-bro is determined she shall not attend), then when your step-sis asks, you tell her that you're going to your half-bro's. When your step-sis asks "what about me?" or words to that effect, you tell her "you'll have to ask our half-bro."\n\nThen you tell him, and his mom, that you know your step-sis is difficult, but you love her, and you love them all, and you aren't getting in the middle of this.\n\nThen you  back out.\n\nBecause it's up to him and his family who they invite into their grandma's house (it's technically up to his Grandma who's invited). It's also up to them to tell your step-sis why she's not invited, if they choose to do that.\n\nUnfortunately, family tensions do arise from time to time, but you can't control what other people think/do/say - so all you can do is be honest with kindness, try not to make things worse, and let people work things out for themselves. \n\nIf you get between people (for example, trying to explain to your step-sis why half-bro doesn't want her there), you'll end up building up the problem (the more people involved in a problem, the bigger it gets), and eating dirt from both sides for Thanksgiving. Good luck!
408735
Yes. It is normal and should be a rule never to date any of your sisters ex boyfriends. For that reason. Once you were ever involved with someone..that should always be yours and sisters should never tress pass onto your territory. Even though you are not involved with him any more..it is your memories not to be shared with a sister in that way. If my sister was to get with any of my ex's..that would be to uncomfortable,with good reason.
297748
Ouch, I never thought I would say this, but you need to talk to a priest/rabbi/cleric/personoffaithhere.  I would have a problem with her taking my biological child over there, but is that what is best for your stepchild?  Seriously, seek counseling you are going to need help getting over this one, I know I would.  Peace be with you.
942749
If you put what others had said before me, and consider that I is okay to not be sure, but to date and see what happens, and not pull back, then you have it half licked. \nIn my case, I had parents who did not fight and argue, and stayed together, and I think really loved each other, but pretty much did their own thing. \nWhat has put me off from relationships, and what I am just getting over, is all my friends who had parents who divorced. Worse, friends with horrible step parents, the kind the beat with belts and all kinds of crap. I am holding out for the love of a lifetime, and want to raise my own kids, if I have any.\nSo, I see your ideas as really rational and normal given your background. As one person has said, the best way to do it is to not judge the situation or a future mate before even meeting her. \nIt can be done, I am just learning myself. So can you. And, when you meet the right one, you can tell her these things, and she will not be offput, as long as you tell her you really want to get to know her before committment. \nI have been interested in the same person now for a couple years. This time it may work. She hangs in with me, and I with her. No we don't live together, but are slowly learing to trust. \nSo, hang in there, and let things happen slowly. Just because you kiss, or even shag doesn't mean that you are about to be in a trap, as long as you are careful. \nBe good to yourself, and realize that sometimes it is the unknown that makes life exciting!
594989
I've done it before.  Again, it was a distant relation through marriage.\n\nTo me it depends a little on how close your family is.  If it is going to cause some odd family dynamics, you may not want to let the relationship create any problems in the family.  But if you do not have a close family and you don't think it will be a big issue, go for it.
395101
what you just said in the question sounds like a good start to me.  you have the right to be happy and if the relationship you are in right now does not make that happen, then you shouldn't have to stay.  it doesn't matter if your significant other is related to hers, you should do what makes you happy.  just try telling her what you wrote here.
1065241
As long as your mom stays away from your step brother, then it's ok.
1104971
If you've talked and both feel it's right, make the move. Sounds like you could be starting a beautiful family together.
549447
Absolutely. The general rule of thumb is whether or not you would feel comfortable if it were the other way around. Put yourself in your partners position, and then consider the consequences of your actions.