How to be more talkative?
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for me... NOT POSSIBLE ask anyone who knows me, has ever met me or spent ANY amount of time with me.\n\nIt's sooo very easy... just move you lips and words will come out... if there is sound you are talking... if no sound you are just thinking... verbalize your thoughts... how else will anyone know what you are thinking.\n\nDon't worry about what people are going to think... if it's your opinion it deserves to be heard.
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Tips For "Shaking Your Shyness"\n\n1.Conversation topics-never leave home without them.\n2.Let people know you're shy.\n3.Reward effort not outcome!\n4.Make things easy for the other person.\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time\n6.Take classes \n\nConversation Topics-never leave home without them.    Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare.  Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day.  If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending.  Before returning to work on a Monday, they think about the activities their colleagues had planned for the weekend.  They brush up on current events, the weather and anything else that might be the small-talk they need to get a conversation going or to keep it going.  Never leave home without at least a half-dozen things to talk about.\n\n   2.\n\n      Let people know you're shy.  This is a controversial subject.  Some people recommend that you never tell people you're shy, because people will use that information to label you.  Then again, if you avoid people, look down instead of making eye contact, stammer and stutter or turn three shades of purple when you're uncomfortable in social situations, people are going to draw conclusions of their own and odds are they'll be less favorably impressed with you than if you just tell it like it is---that you're nervous or feeling shy.\n\n      I think the problem arises because there are two ways to be shy---the obvious way and the not so obvious way.  The obvious way to be shy is to blush, tremble, twitch or otherwise physically manifest your shyness.  The not so obvious way is to avoid eye contact with people, not have much to say or decline offers from others you'd like to accept, but that are too far outside of your comfort zone for you to feel comfortable attending. \n\n   3.\n\n      Reward effort not outcome!   Memorize this one, because it's absolutely critical for conquering your shyness---or anything else you want to master, for that matter.  The only thing we can control in our life is our self---and even that can be a stretch sometimes.  We can't control other people and we certainly can't control how other people react to us and the things we do.  Nevertheless, most of us define our successes and failures by the way other people relate to us.  If we smile and they smile back, well good.  But if we smile and they don't smile too, we see it as a failure.  WRONG!!!   You won't get very far that way. \n\nIn fact, at least  in my book, what you did was a smashing success.  You tried.  You made an effort and that's all you can be responsible for.  You can't control how other people respond to you.  Sure, you can look back on your effort and speculate about things you can do to improve your performance next time, but at that very moment--at the precise time that you smiled, you made an effort and it's your effort that needs to be rewarded.\n\n   4.\n\n      Make things easy for the other person.  This is a tuff one, because as shy people, most of us are too busy worrying about ourselves---about how we look, what we say and whether other people will like us--- to stop and think about what we can do for other people.  But really, that's what being social is about---the other person, not us.  Dale Carnegie knew that.  He built a career on teaching people how to make other people feel good.  In his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, he lists principle after principle for putting people at ease and helping them feel special.   \n\n5.Pick one social skill to practice at a time.  You don't need to become a social butterfly overnight--and it's unlikely you could if you tried.  What you can do
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Urs is a typical problem. If u dont mind, Il suggest u 1 thing. Consult a Psychiartist and get solution to ur problem. It will definitely help u. If u dont like the above suggestion, then I can suggest u a few things. First of all observe all types of conversations around u and get an idea how the people are talking (If they are ur friends or relatives, its better). Just start interacting with people by saying hi, how r u? How is ur work going on? For the people whom u dont have any conversation, just smile and say how r u? It forms a good impression to that person on u. At the same time dont talk unnecessary matters and dont make kidding. Just ask abt their future plans and a best one is u can adopt flattery also, but in a decent way. Be positive & appear positive in every word u speak. Ur postures and gestures should be good while ur speaking and u should be bold and confident enough. I think this would definitely help out u.\n\nIf u also think like that vote me as best. All the Best.
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I have that same problem.Just don't thick about something to say.Just relax and before you know it you will find yourself in a great conversation,unless he's quiet.Quiet people are really hard to talk to.Maybe you should go out for a drink.People loosen up when they drink.
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Nearly the most important thing to the content of your speech is that you speak slowly and as clearly as you possibly can.  Also, stand up nice & straight and don't fidget or sloch. Try to project your answer all the way to the back of the room.  Try to use words such as "like" or "um" as little as you possibly can.  Good luck - you'll do great!
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I dont know how old you are but i went through a phase of not having a lot to say i was happy to just listen.\n\nMy parents interpreted this as me being rude or a sulky teen. But i felt that where i didnt have anything particularily constructive to say or add to a discussion, there was no point.\n\nJust be yourself when you are comfortable enough and confident then talk if not, just enjoy life as you please.\n\nAt the end of the day it its your life. You are NOT boring you are a thoughtful individual with your own ideas.
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Ask questions and let them do most of the talking if you're not comfortable with your conversation skills.  You'll more then likely find some common ground with which you're comfortable by just listening to what they have to say.  People like when someone is interested in them, even if just in the little things.  \n\nThe best way to start a conversation with someone you'd like to know better - simply smile and say "hello".  If they smile and say "hello" back, you've pretty much got the "green light" to continue.  However, know when to just walk and "move on" if you don't get the response you are looking for.
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Talk. If you just smile and stare people will wonder about you. In your mind, make talking an art form. Eventually, you will speak beautifully.
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the more you talk the more you will know, be subtle and give subtle hints that you are interested!
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Eye contact is very important when you are listening to someone else talk especially if you are shy.  Nod your head and try to smile if the person says something funny.\nDon't forget to add in small little bits of conversation even if it is just one or two words.  You get better at adding in little bits as you go along.  Ask more questions as long as it totally fits the convo.  Sometimes small talk is better than nothing.\n\nGood luck\n:-)
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Read for better conversation. Socialize regularly for public speaking.
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First of all you need to work on improving your perception of yourself. Get a higher self esteem. Then you could try reading newspapers, magazines, books, and watching documentaries on TV. So, maybe next time the conversation is about space travel or the life of the blue whales, you will be able to participate.\n\nAlso, you may just be too shy. So, try to speak or even make questions during a conversation.
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Slow down and don't say the first thing that pops into your head.  Think before you speak and think before you act.  Learn about and talk about serious matters.
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talk with an attitude.\ncreate a positive impact.\nhear before you speak !!
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Just be normal and ask normal stuff, i.e. 'hi, how are you'? You are more likely to get a nice flowing conversation this way.
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Yes, you can help it.  Conversation is talking AND listening.  At the next opportunity make a focussed effort to talk as little as possible.  This will be hard.  Very hard.  Don't start talking just because no one else is speaking.  When you do talk, keep it short and to the point.  When you think you need to say just one more thing, Don't!  Save it for the next time you talk.\n\nThis will be excruciating the first time you do it.  But as you do it more you'll be amazed by three things: 1] other people are [almost] as smart as you are;  2] people will pay greater attention to what you say; and 3] other people will say what you were thinking, but when they say it, it sounds kinda stupid.  Which it would have sounded had you said it.\n\nIt only took me about 15 years to figure this out, but it's made a huge difference in both what I can get done, and the respect I [and my work] get.
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Hi maybe join group who do things that you are interested in, that way you will meet and become more outgoing as time passes.\n\nI'm sure there are social groups nearby who hold meetings regularly same thing as you get to know ppl then anxieties will slowly fade.\n\nYou are not alone believe me, many others feels same, it's hard to go up and talk but with alittle practice it will become 2nd nature.\nPpl love talking about themselves so that is a good ice breaker to ask what they like to do in general.\nThen it is easier each time plus you meet plenty of different ppl ,but remember you have to give info also, as is not one way street..best of luck cheers..