my fiancee thinks I'm mad at him when the majority of the time I'm not if I'm quite he won't leave me alone !
87547
When you do get angry address it right away with him and don't walk around stewing over it till you pop....to him it probably looks that way and if you no longer approach your anger that way he will see the difference and realize your just not feeling chatty. Is there something on your mind when your quiet like that? If so just tell him what it is even if you don't think he will care. If nothing else it will put his mind at rest.
1043647
when he tells his family that the wedding is in 6 and a half years... JK that's what i was hit with today. You can normally tell if you don't fight a lot, if your both forgiving, you compromise, and you care about one another. I'm not saying that you don't make each other upset b/c that still happens with people who have been married for 30 years, but if you always work it out and no one ever leaves upset or stays upset then you know you've got it good! Btw if he's mad he should NEVER raise his hand to you, even if he is just threatening.... he just should never do it!!!
1136032
I have the same problem and this is what I do tell him and if he gets mad then tell him you need a man who respects you.  But like they say you have to worry when they stop looking because that probley mean that they are cheating on you.  Ask him why he stares and hits on other girls and ask him to stop.  If he gets mad or deosn't stop then he never respected you and you don't belong wasting your time on a guy that doesn't respect you.  Jamie
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
574689
not sure how to answer you sounds like you are married to a jerk. He would probably leave you if you did the same thing. Get out and get a life
645633
Those are his insecurities that are surfacing. It tends to happen when the relationship is at a point where it either needs to progress or end. \n\nI have been with my fiancee for 8 years, and issues such as this still arise every once in a while. Just reassure him, as best as you can, that you are still the same and that you love him as you always have. He will eventually have to come to terms with his insecurities, until they rear their ugly heads once again! \n\nBe patient and tolerant if that is what you choose to do. I am sure that you, as I have shown to have, also have insecurities that interfere in your relationship. You get through them somehow, and so will he. If he does not and he always gives you the third degree, take this as an "alarm" that something may be up. Make sense? I hope all goes well!
39741
Ask her if you can move somewhere,tell her the situation. you do not have to put up with this.Don't let him know you are annoyed by him, it will only cause him to bother you more.
855262
NO NO NO, YOUR NOT WRONG FOR BEING ANGRY, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ,WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD SUPPORT AND UPLIFT ONE ANOTHER NOT TAKE PEOPLE FOR GRANTED. STOP TAKING CARE OF HIM SURPRISE HIM AND DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
315527
wow- you're angry.  Sounds like you picked a wrong partner.  But I bet you're no picnic to live with either, especially if ANY of this hostility comes through.  Hopefully you just had a bad day and needed to vent, if not- call a lawyer before there's children involved!
815871
I hate it when they won't respect or listen to you, but still ask your opinion and want your approval and won't leave you alone about the topic unless you say something affirmative.  Erg. I'm sorry for you, but there is nothing more you can do but continue being his daughter and hope for the best.Treat him well.
214768
You will have to just tell them this is what I want and you are alienating the person I want to be with and the person I love. Say to them you don't have to agree with this but show me some respect and be civil to my soon to be partner. If you stand firm and maybe come a little clean about your part in the problem, this should help, but some people just are stubborn and you'll have to deal with that.
890937
fiancee??  4 years?  Hmm.  blaming.  Hmmm.  throwing, slamming, yelling.... Not good.  He needs to learn how to manage his anger.  If you don't leave, then this may very well escalate into another domestic violence statistic.  Go explain your situation to the battered women's shelter.  They will appropriately advise you.  It's hard for you to see and understand that YOU DO have options.  Go tomorrow and find out what they are before you get physically hurt.  I know the emotional part is bad enough.... So go tomorrow.
336296
maybe that's coz u can't spell... lol nah kidding. Anyway, this question is pretty vague. Either u have done something to piss him off, he's busy with his own personal life, he is guilty of something that he thinks might have made u mad, he is ready to move on to another stage of his life without u, he is busy with his girlfriend, he wants to tell u something that he thinks might bother u (like sexual orientation maybe he is gay and he thinks that would make u mad)... just talk to him!!!
807034
Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
545784
Sounds like he still has some growing up to do before he can commit to a relationship with anyone.  Just make it clear to him that if he is going to get mad and jealous then he needs to either make a commitment or walk away because your not going to keep going through this same old dance with him all the time.
788238
leave while you still can before he tries to sucker you in with i'm sorry ect, if he was mad enough to hit you once more than likely he will do it again...
831949
Maybe you two should seek couple's counseling.  His anger is alarming.  It could escalate into something worse.  Do yourself a favor, and try to get help for this.  He should not explode like that and say those hurtful things.