Is it normal for a 1 year old to cry when grandma leaves?
80496
Yes it is normal, The child feels the loss of that energy being there. It's a great thing that the child cries, it means that the child is expressing emotion
374494
I understand how you feel I lost my grandmother the same way. We were close and I am sure you were with your grandmother, she just wants to comfort you and let you know she still loves and not to be discouraged because she will all ways be there to watch over you. Don't be afraid it will all be okay.
28658
HI Grannywinkie!\n\nDid your mother tell you that? I hope not. If so, it's definitely emotional and verbal child abuse. Absolutely.\n\nTake care!
1009845
Depending on the personality of the child has alot to do with their nature. He may just need more attention from you than some children need from their parents. I have raised 2 children and they each were as different as daylight and dark. Your attitude toward him also has alot to do with his whines and cries. If it upsets you and he knows it he may whine more. Sometimes the more attention you pay to something the more the child will do it.
1031345
I really do sympathise with you but you gotta let her go - if you don't she will end up resenting you.   If you let her go, the older she gets, she will realise that Daddy ain't all he's cracked up to be.  Good Luck xx
809865
Yes, my Daughter at the age of 7.\n\nShe died 16 years ago on Nov. 18th.\nThe pain is still there and always will.\n\nI miss her terribly.\n\nI have also lost both sets of grandparents and an Aunt.
285034
I'm sorry for your loss, Puddin tain. I think that everyone grieves in their own way, and there are many responses people have to a loved one's death. There may be a time when you will need to cry about this, but it may not happen for a while. I don't think that you are a bad person.\n\nIf you are concerned about others' opinions of you because you are smiling, I wouldn't be. If you loved your grandfather, don't worry about smiling. Perhaps he gave you many reasons to smile. If you feel the need to, share with others how you feel about your grandfather. They will understand your words, if not your facial expression.\n\nWhen my grandmother died, we played some polka music at her graveside. I got up and started dancing. Others joined me in dancing to it. She LOVED polka music and it gave her joy to dance to it. Was it cold to dance "on" someone's grave? Not in this case. It was done out of love and respect, not anger or revenge.\n\nAre you "cold" for not crying but smiling? No, I don't think so.
1024142
you're lucky you were close to her. Many people don't get to experience that. This is perfectly normal. You must be pretty close if you feel bad about stuff you may not want to tell her. Kids go through this stage all the time. It doesn't get better until you are both older and wiser. Be grateful. When I was 17 my mother and I used to fight all the time, because we were so different, and the fact that she just got remarried, had a kid and I no longer felt like part of the family. bit crap really!
361726
It will take some time.  Maybe even a week, by the 2nd or 3rd week, she will still cry some and may not eat much or play long with the other children, but she should not cry all day long.  Have her sit with you as much as possible so she will bond with you.  Remember that all babies develop a stranger fear around 10 months and don't like to be with people they don't know.  And they realize that Mama can leave them and they don't like that, so part of it is age.    Keep communicating with parents, they may have suggestions. Hang in there.  Thank you and God Bless you for taking care of children.
620244
I know exactly how you feel and yes it is normal to feel sad and maybe even a little angry that she had to die in a such a terrible tragic way especially being a young mom... I lost my friend in a car accident a long time ago and still think about her often she was too young didn't even have a chance to have children and she would have made a great mother. But the pain does start to go away eventually and you should just try to remember the good times and if possible try to be their for the children she left behind and tell them what a great person and friend she was to you and everyone else.... That way no one will ever forget her....
1088396
Oh hon, what you just experienced is completely normal :)\n\nEveryone has emotional triggers. These triggers are usually our heart-strings. They are the things or areas in our lives w/unresolved issues or feelings.\n\nAlso, since you were crying about the death of your grandmother from 3 yrs ago, it’s not unusual to be experiencing another stage of the grieving process. Sometimes it can take yrs. Each person grieves differently & at different rates. In today’s society where we have more demands of our time, emotions & resources more than ever, it’s not uncommon for someone to not have finished the grieving process, even several yrs later. Often we don’t allow ourselves the time TO grieve so that we can complete it so that we can heal from it.\n\nAllow yourself to grieve. Also, don’t be afraid to explore w/your therapist why this is effecting you so. It sounds like there could be another reason there, under all this, that you may need to work on. \n\nIt’s not unusual to have one thing lead to another. Like w/what happened w/you today. You were discussing one thing & it eventually lead to talking about the death of your grandmother. The reason this/these things happen like that is because of the reasons that link them. These are your triggers.\n\nBest of luck to you!\n\nBtw, I’ve spent a few yrs in therapy myself & have had this happen MANY times ;)
98246
i cried for my aunt recently.\nher husband past away last year and she is going through a very rough time in her life-she is a second mom to me and it causes me great pain to see her hurting.
1130115
baby ur too young 4 all this.strong girlz dont cry.cheer up baby n hv some chocolates!
117257
Sounds all too familiar with me.  My grandmother, who basically raised me also and was also my friend and support system, passed away almost two years ago...and I still haven't let go.  I still find myself sitting and thinking and ending up in tears because I miss her so much.  It is very difficult, but you have to remind yourself that she is still with you everywhere you go, and no matter who you become.  She will always be with you because it was she who helped to shape you into who you are today...you'll never forget that.  How do you get over that?  You just deal with it day by day and it will get better.  You might also want to keep something near you that she'd given you, or something that reminds you of her...if you need to talk to her, hold it, and speak your mind.  I know it sounds stupid, but it works.  \n\nIf you do, however, feel that things are getting way out of hand, maybe you should consider therapy.  I probably should have!  :)  Just keep your head up and remember the good things...you'll be fine.  My condolences....
930366
It sounds like she has serious emotional problems. Something has made it hard for her to lower her guard and trust  others. Just go about your life as if she didn't exist. That way, she can't hurt you. Talk to her if she talks to you but keep your distance.  It is very unnatural for a grandmother to treat her grandchild like that. And it's amazing that she raised a normal son.
871512
My husbands family tends to ignore my childrens birthdays also, but always buy things for their other grandchildren. I haven't figured out why, but now that my children are getting older they are noticing and I'm sure my 16 year old will someday confront his grandparents as to why. In the meantime I try and compensate for their lack of affection by letting my children know that I love them. My husband won't say anything either because he feels as if he is in the middle. The most important thing is that you are there for the children no matter what his family does. I figure someday they will look around and be alone due to the fact that they have treated everyone so poorly for so long.
1166750
Sure enough grandma will be heart broken I think you should talk to her let her know what's going on how your 5 year old is acting and how is it bothering you since his just a 5 year old. I can some what relate to you I have a 4 year old boy, that acts like my 16 year old brother talks like him and some times even wants to dress like him but you know what I am the mother and he will do as I say. I spoke to my moms since she the one who takes care of him and she also talks to my son and tells him the difference between both he is just 4 and his uncle is 16. Good Luck.