how does it feel being the other woman, i have been for ten plus years?
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10 wasted years when you could of had someone all to yourself and loves you and only you and is faithful to you.
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I can't speak for all older women, only for myself.  I agree with you, there IS a human need for "company".   I find what I miss the most when I'm not partnered isn't the 'physical intimacy', it's the 'emotional intimacy'... the closeness of being with another.  \n\nAs for older women going lesbian, I've done that.  And for me, it wasn't due to not being able to find a decent male partner. It was because of my life experiences with the men I've chosen in the past.  I've been married twice to men who turned out to be violent.  Neither of them seemed to me to be the violent type when we were first married tho.  When my last marriage to a man ended, (and I got the heck outta dodge), I made a promise to myself that I would never - EVER - pick another man.. No matter what!  That was 19 years ago... I raised our 3 sons alone, and didn't look back.  \n\nThen when my sons were nearing their late teen years (about 6 years ago), my thoughts began turning to my future.  Did I truly want to be alone for the rest of my life?  I missed the emotional intimacy of being in a relationship.  But I was still as determined not to choose another man, because for whatever reason I chose the wrong ones each time.  I was in therapy and working on my issues too.  \n\nAnd it suddenly dawned on me.  LOL  I had sworn to myself not to choose another man, but uhhhhhhh... ermmmm.. who did that leave then??  Unless aliens were landing on earth, that only left women... The more I thought about it, the more comfortable I was with the idea.  Of course I questioned myself, questioned my therapist... Would it be right for me to be with another woman?  I spent a few years tussling with it all.  \n\nI didn't go looking for a female partner, it just.... happened.  My first relationship was with a woman who was a very good friend of mine.  And I realized that it did feel right to be with her.  After several years I moved in with her.  My sons were on the verge of being on their own, and they were very happy for us.  Life was just fine... until she suddenly died from a blood clot from her leg to her lung.  Then booooom!  My life fell apart... I spent a few years wondering - what the heck??  \n\nMy second relationship with a woman - I went looking for her.  (I wrote about that in another question in here).  That was a disaster waiting to happen.  sigh.  \n\nBut I learned some very valuable lessons.  Among other things, I learned that relationships are relationships, no matter who that is with.  I didn't just choose the wrong men - I chose the wrong partner, period.  Back into therapy to learn how to choose the right "relationship".  I realized finally that men aren't inheritently evil, neither are women.  I simply had issues where I (unknowingly) chose the wrong person, the one who would end up being totally wrong for me.  I did that over and over, male or female.  So now I'm learning to deal with my OWN issues, so that one day I'll be able to recognize the right person when she comes along.  \n\nOh yeah, I still prefer women over men for a relationship, but now it's for the right reasons, for me.  \n\nAnd thru the years, in talking with other older women who've 'gone lesbian' later in life, many have chosen this lifestyle because of their earlier life experiences.  Some because they (like me) have been hurt by men so much.  And they (like me) have learned the hard way that women can hurt women just as much (if not more) as men can.  Some of these older women have realized that they've 'bought into' the pressures and/or expectations of society, and have gotten married to men because of that, only to realize they weren't happy, they weren't being true to themselves.  It has taken some of those women quite some time to realize or admit that to themselves.  The lucky ones are those who realize it early on and avoid years of misery.  \n\nWell.. I g
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real, i am a 34 yr old lady, and its for real
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Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
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I have fantasized about being with another woman. Yes, my husband was the first to know. And it was more than one occasion, however, I have never been with a woman, physically. Not the one friend I have fantasized about or the celebrity/entertainer in our area.
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It was something I dreamt one night actually, there were two of me and we were both enjoying the same woman together. This was a woman I didn't know at all, but she was good looking and in her early forties. I am in my late forties. Suddenly a third me popped up and well the woman's mouth was full too. At that time it seemed erotic and I could feel all the sensations that the three of me were feeling and we all had an orgasm at the same time. The woman seemed to be enjoying it too, because she came along with the three of me. When I awoke I found that I had ejaculated and my night clothes were sticky.\n\nLater I felt that maybe I was sick or something because I love my wife whom I have been married with for twenty five years and after marriage I have never touched another woman sexually. My wife was just 18 and I just 22 when we married, and neither of us have ever had complaints on the sexual front.  \n\nI know it sound's weird and maybe too narcassitic (I hope I have the English right) and chauvinistic.
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"You are as old as you feel" or as a friend of mine once said, "You are as old as the woman you feel".......but I think that theory only comes into effect once you hit 40, so no worries.
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How do you know what an 80year old woman feels
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What you are experiencing is simply the thrill of "dating" your husband without the strings attached.  It is exciting because you are now the other woman and he is the other man.  It is like you're living a fantasy.  You two no longer have to share responsibilities and obligations.  It seems as if you are really in love, but that is not the truth.  You are the same people you were in divorce court.  Frustrated, bitter, and tired of each other.\n\nMove on with your life.  If he really loved you nothing would prevent him from getting back with you.
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YES IT HAPPENED TO ME WE WERE APART FOR 10 YEARS AND HAVE BEEN BACK TOGETHER FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS AND IT IS THE BEST.
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10 years older than you are now
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Tough question. Normally I would so no. But to be honest, I have never been in that position so I can't know how it really feels. I hope I never find out...
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I'm in the same boat as you, I've been with my husband for 5 years and things are getting worse and worse, the happy life we had went down the toilet along time ago and all we do is fight. It's not easy i don't know how to tell him either, but the person I'm seeing makes me feel like I'm worth something, not useless. maybe we can figure out something, my email is under my info
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No its not wrong! I was with my husband 10 yrs and had 2 lovely kids,we got married then within 18 mth of the marrage he slept with 2 others and moved out! He said he felt diffrent since we married and to tell you the truth so did I! we are working through stuff but we both agree that we wished we had left things the way we were! If you's are happy why take a chance and spoil things? Good luck to the both of you!!
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You have every right under the sun to move on- leave and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Ten years is a long time to be with someone who's not that into you.\n\nBut you sound as though you are using your partner as a saftey net - someone to be there when you get home from work, but not actually someone you want to be with.\n\nIf you're ready to move on, then move on, even if the idea is intimidating. Don't keep him around just so you don't have to face being alone until you have a replacement. \n\nNo matter how little you respect him or love him anymore, he probably doesn't deserve the pain and humiliation of having his woman sleep with another man while you're still together.\n\nAfter all, you'd want him to have at least that much respect for you if the tables were turned.
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The best way for us to forget a woman is to find another woman. Then you'll realize how much better you have it with the new woman than the old one
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My wife and I have been married for over 11 years and it's better than ever! I'm happy to hear that someone else's is going that way also!