do american men give importance to virginity?
90539
yes there are guys in america who care, i have meet a few and hang out with alot, they think it is sad that the fact that some people don't think so.
638613
I think it depends on the guy. If that is what his morals and values are... then yes... he would respect a virgin more than someone who is not. But, not everyone has those beliefs. Personally... I would rather try the milk before buying the cow, and I'm a woman. I haven't experienced any disrespect because I am not a virgin. I feel that as long as you are not screwing any and every one... and that you are actually being selective in who you give your body to. That is what gains respect.
919662
No hes not a virgin anymore just half a virgin.\nVirgin its just a word for guys is not the same as for woman man can say they are or there not but cant actually prove anything but woman can.
592210
Your virginity is a wonder gift to give a husband. He knows you truly are committed to him and this is only for him. (guys love that) He will never have to wonder if you are comparing his performance to someone else.\n\nAnother good reason: Most relationships grow in intimacy and communication until the sex starts. Then everything stops or at best grows slowly. If you want to be married to your best friend for life, wait for sex until you marry him.\n\nThere are religious reasons as well, I'm sure others will cover that angle and you probably already know what they are going to say. So all I will say about that is you already know the answer, follow your convictions.
869976
You're on the right path. Hold on to your virginity and be honest about this. Most of them are jerks, but this will weed them out and you'll eventually be likely to come across a decent man.
508460
it depends on what your reason for being a virgin is.  if you are saving it for the ONE then keep him at arms length until you think he is the ONE.  if virginity doesnt matter to you then I'd evaluate if he's really the kind of guy youd want to lost it to, keep in mind its an emotional experience and lots of guys can be dicks.  i personally waited for my husband and its the best decision i ever made. and dont forget to make him wear a condom, you dont want to get cooties your first time!
58693
Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!
1124771
it differ from country to country in America girls become no Virginie anymore after 15 years old   but American guys lol  loss their virginity after 25 years old good guys
23648
nope not a virgin, Not being a virgin is classified as penatration process. If it goes "in" your not a virgin anymore.
152531
Sure are.\n\nSome baby girls are born without a hymen.  Also, because girls are more physically active today than they were historically, the hymen is often torn or stretched during childhood (from bike riding, martial arts, etc.)\n\nDefinitely not a reliable method of determining virginity.
1021316
Men only care if the woman is a virgin on there wedding day.  It may be more expected today that a woman is not but if you talk to most good men when you can catch them at a serious moment you will find most feel the same way.  They will have sex with most anyone that will let them but when it comes to marriage they want a woman who has NOT been areound.  I have 2 sons and on my sons wedding day he said the best gift his wife was giving him was her virginity.  He was absolutely glowing when he told me, he said she saved herself for the man she would marry someday he was shocked and touched beyond words.  So now you figure it out for  yourself.  Good luck
614357
I've spent the majority of this week looking over surveys and reports of behavioral research dealing with sexuality, and specifically dealing with virginity and virginity loss. I would estimate that I've gone through six hundred pages of written material, give or take a bit. I've examined statistics from the USA, Canada, Ireland, the UK, Finland, France, and Germany, and from the 1950s to the present.\nHere's what we know, in a rough outline, about virginity loss (NB: when "virginity loss" is defined as "first experience of penis-in-vagina heterosexual intercourse) in the industrialized West, with an emphasis on the USA (since that is where the lion's share of the available researches have been carried out):\n\n\n\n\n-- A relatively small proportion of people experience sexual debut prior to the age of 15, but percentages vary distinctly by population. Males are more likely to have intercourse prior to age 15 than females. In the USA, African-Americans of both sexes are disproportionately represented in this group, with males outnumbering females handily. Both in the USA and elsewhere, girls and boys from poorer families are more likely to experience earlier sexual debut than those from wealthier ones.\n\n\n\n-- Socioeconomic status of families is directly linked to age at virginity loss in general. The higher the family's socioeconomic status, the more likely the daughters of those families are to lose their virginity relatively late. Males of high socioeconomic status families, however, are not likely to have a delayed sexual debut, but it is also not necessarily likely to be earlier than the average.\n\n\n\n-- The vast majority of people lose their virginity somewhere between the ages of 16 and 20. There are some local variants on the average age, for example, in Ireland, the average age for women to lose their virginity hovers around 19, while in the USA, it hovers around 17.\n\n\n\n-- About 50% of US high school graduates have had sex at some point prior to finishing high school. This rate hasn't changed substantially since the early 1980s -- it has hovered between 50 and 55% since 1984, depending on what survey one consults.\n\n\n\n-- More of the US under-20 population, percentagewise, was sexually active in the 1950s than is sexually active today in the same age group. The difference? Marriage. During the decade 1950-1959, the United States had the highest 20-and-under marriage rate in the West. Since 1960, however, the average age of first marriage has gone up and the number of under-20 marriages have gone down, as well as the overall rate of marriage declining by close to 10%. Whereas in 1960, the average age of marriage for first-time brides was 20, it is now 26; for grooms it has gone from 23 to 27. In short, the ages at which people begin having sex haven't necessarily changed, but the ages at which they are likely to marry (if they marry at all) have changed quite a bit. It is now common for there to be a gap between the two, whereas 45 years ago, that gap was far less commonplace.\n\n\n\n-- As of 2004, it is estimated that throughout the industrialized West, approximately 90% of heterosexuals who do marry will have experienced penis-in-vagina intercourse prior to their marriages. This appears to hold true across all demographics.\n\n\n\n-- Women whose first experiences of penis-in-vagina intercourse happen before they are 15 are substantially more likely to have sexual partners who are 5 or more years older than they are. They are also substantially more likely to describe their first experiences of sex as being coercive. Their first sexual experiences are less likely to involve the use of contraception or safer sex practices than are the first sexual experiences of women who lose their virginity at fifteen or older. Women who lose their virginity before age 15 are at higher risk of unplanned pregnancy or STD infection. Women who lose their virginity before age 15 ar
1046175
no... you really can't. Sorry about your sitch, but that's... not even close to the truth. Even if it was only ONE guy, it still counts.\n\nOn the other hand, who cares? virginity ain't all it's cracked up to be anyway, and it's really nobody's business except for your next partner, and if you two really care about each other, it won't matter.\n\nBe honest. don't even try to fake this one.
892315
Sex before marriage is a total no-no for me. Virginity is the most prized possesion for a women and the most deserving man can get the most prized possesion.
262123
I think it depends on you personally. If you are a Christian, or have some type of religious affiliation, in the Bible it says that God wants you to remain a virgin until you get married. Many people feel that their virginity is special and should only be lost to someone as special. In some cultures, if a girl is not a virgin, and she is not married, then she might not be accepted in her society.\n\nBeing a virgin is a good thing. It is the only thing that can guarantee you that you are not pregnant, and that you do not have any STD's.\n\nBut whether being a virgin is something that a person thinks should "count" is entirely up to the person. If you are or aren't a virgin, it is up to you, it is your choice to lose it or not.
1041567
1) Guys only marry virgins?  Not true.  Some cultures may still prize it and encourage their males to seek virgins for marriage, but not every culture is so narrow minded.  Historically, marrying virgins was the only known way to ensure a bloodline, and since hereditary laws, not to mention religious laws, supported the blood heir, it was imperative to do so.  However, now days we can do that through DNA tests, and our laws are not so archaic anymore.  Additionally, since so many marriages end in divorce - those women, being virgins no longer, are still getting married again.  So, to answer your question - NO guys do not just marry virgins.   \n2. Girls judge guys on any number of things, not solely on the size of thier manhood.  Are they funny, considerate, generous, hardworking, etc.?  After that, if the relationship becomes intimate, then we consider if the guy was actively considerate of our turn ons, not just his own.  How he uses his manhood is more important than it's size.  So, no, girls do not just judge guys on the size of thier penis.\n3. Older people certainly do know how younger kids think.  We were not always old.  If the kid is really talking to us and vice-versa - not just blowing each other off - we can even understand what it would be like to be young at this day and age.   \n4. This question is a bit extreme.  I believe that for some guys, sex is a daily thought process. However, as guys grow older they discover that they enjoy so much more in life and therefore think of sex less.  If a guy has no hobbies, no friends or family, work or other activites to engage thier mind, then they might spend more time on sex.  \n5.  This question is really a throw back to question #1.  Humans learn sexual behaviors by habit, practice and environment (what we are exposed to).  Girls are not immune to that - we know what we like and don't like.  It is still true today that guys are more likely to be sexually active than girls, and as such gain more experience.  However, the girls they are having sex with are gaining it too.  \n6. That too is an extreme statement and completely untrue.  It may happen more often than not, unfaithfulness, but it is not the standard that we should judge one another by.  Expect better, be better and you will get better in return.
8885
Being your first is a great priviledge for a man, so just make sure that he deserves it. And you have to be old enough to understand all the possible consequences of a sexual relationship: children, deseases and all that fun stuff. Just don't think that your virginity is something you have to get rid of until a sertain age or else...