I was send back to my country though i was not wrong. my sister is more depress then me.?
85162
reading your explanation....you have answered yourself...you\ndid go for a different reason....sorry about all the luggage you are facing now!
254173
Wow, I'm really sorry. You have a sister?
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all you can do is reassure your mum that this is what your sis wants, she is looking for a new life elsewhere, tell her that the perks are....a free holiday, when my son joined the forces i cried my leg off for weeks, i missed him so much, and still do but he;s making a man out of himself serving for his country and he loves every minute of it, since he was 9 he always wanted to join up, and he studied hard to get where he is todayeven though he is only 19, just be there for your mum, i know how hard it is to let one of my kids go, but your sis knows what she wants and you and your mum should be happy for her, once your sis has gone your mum will be fine, theres lots of ways to contact her now, technology gives us the ability to do so....give her a hug from me too, i know how hard it is to let the kids fly the nest, bless her and you, and your sister,
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There's really nothing you, or your sister can do until your children turn 18.  I suggest you try to wait it out, and if all else fails, tell your sister how you feel.  Ask her to tell them where you are, so they know where to find you.  \n\nBe careful not to let them sneak out of the house they live in now though, to see you.  If you talk to them, urge them to ask their adoptive parents what they think.\n\nI'm very sorry this happend to you.  I couldn't possibly know what it was like to lose my children.  You're in my prayers.
650402
Be careful what you wish for. You might get it.  My little brother was killed in Iraq, and trust me, I would give just about anything to have him back--even for just a few minutes.  Be happy you have her.  As much as it may suck sometimes, the alternative is much worse.
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I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
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i dont understand how in the world he took the kids away from their mother...that is something that is extremly hard to do in the courts...but i think that if she wants her family back that bad and feels like if she dont have her family back that theirs no meaning in her life then support her but also remind her to becareful and try to save some money on the side for herself just incase...maybe he really does love her and realized that the grass wasnt greener on the otherside and now he wants his old happy life back....just try and help her secretly save some money as a just incase fund....i wish your sister the best
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I just lost mine 2 days ago and I hadn't seen her in 11 yrs. I had left my home country and have not gone back since then. Also I am not able to leave right now to attend the funeral, it is tearing me up so much.  I feel your pain and understand where you are in this.  As hard as it may seem we simply have to think of the good times in memory and how much joy she brought into our lives.  Life is never the same when your mother passes away, however you must go on.  Maybe you can do something together with family that will keep her memory alive.
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It's called burning your bridges behind you. You made your decision and now you need to stick with it. Even if you were accepted back you would never be treated the same again as they know that they can no longer rely on you. Just move on and you will find something better.
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Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
100099
u probaly have 2 live wit the fact that u can't live in  this society and that be looked at as ok maybe if u moved 2 another country but not here it just wouldn't look right but ultimately what matters is how you and her feel just be ready 2 face alot of grief
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You have to take care of yourself and not worry about what others expect from you.\nAsk your parents to speak with your sister and explain your situation.\nIf your sister continues to call and upset you, dont take her calls.\nShe sounds like a very selfish person and not very considerate.\nPlease take care of yourself first, and dont allow anyone to upset you.
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have you ever tell you dad how you felt about his attitude?\nhave your mum ever spoke to you of how she felt about the situation?\nyou know,i advise that you'd better see a counselor .Pour our your feelings to the counselor.He/she will be able to help you cope with the current situation you' re facing.\nI know your family must have meant a lot to you.And I suppose you're a growing up child.I agree the current situation affects your life and you other family members but please remember one thing do not let those things to pollute your mind or affect your studies.\nMost importantly get a professional help.\ncheer up ok.I wish you all the best.
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I'm truly sorry. Just make sure to support  ur sisters and be there for them, thats all u can do. I know it must be hard. Just remember thet u wilk all get through this and remember that ur mom is in a better place now.
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I feel your pain, really I do.  And I understand.  Obviously, your sister has self-esteem issues.  For that matter, she may even have some mental health issues (as does my own sister) that run deeper.  \n\nHaving gone the route of trying to show my sister that she was taking the wrong path, and making improper choices concerning the men in her life as well as other decisions, I have finally given up.  Unless a person is legally and or medically determined to not be responsible or in control of their own actions, they are capable of making their own decisions.  As long as you try to provide direction to her, you will likely be frustrated in your efforts.\n\nDetermine what is ultimately important.  If you want your sister to include you in her life in spite of her decision-making, then you need to really try to keep the lines of communication open.  As long as you're trying to tell her how to live her life, and as long as she disagrees with you, you will be at odds.\n\nThe better thing would be for you to be a loving supportive sister, even when she fails.  Be there to encourage her.  Ultimately, these decisions are hers to make, even if her loved ones know that they are bad ones.  It is a hard thing to take, but it may be better for your relationship if you step back a bit.  She will, unfortunately, find out sooner or later what kind of man she's dealing with.  Sadly, any action that she takes must be hers, and hers alone.  They say that, "Experience is the best teacher, and for some there is no other."  She's just going to have to find this out for herself.
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I think there is a chance that she hates you for leaving the country. I think she enjoyed the fact that you were around her, lending a hand when she needed it and when you left, she missed that helping hand and your company. That could be her reason for saying that she hates you.\n\nYou should call her to see how she is doing and talk about stuff. Dont talk to her about what you heard from your friends...dont even bring it up. If she doesnt want to talk to you, then what I said in my previous paragraph is wrong and what the others said in their answers is correct. (the "she is just an inconsiderate B*tch stuff)
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Don't be afraid of your feelings - they aren't wrong. The difference can be how you react to them. You shouldn't have to pretend to be more upset than you. When I lost my dad, my siblings were all upset and a mess, but I felt like I knew it was coming although it was quick and sudden, and I loved my dad a whole lot. Hang in there, you'll feel better in time!