Okay, I am a drug addict who just lost his job. What should I do ?
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First off let me say that lilred should refrain from answering questions that obviously have never been dealt with in her personal life, secondly, the only way you will get clean and stay clean is if you really want it.  Alot are saying rehab, that isnt always the way for everyone, my husband currently is not in rehab nor does he attend any 12 step meetings.  He has chosen however to attend a bible study every thursday, have coffee afterwards with a good christian friend of ours and read spiritual books and follow the 12 steps his own way. He currently has been clean off crack,weed and alcohol for over a year now. In closing let me say again that you must really be sincere about getting clean in order to do it, and noone can tell you what the best way to do that is, you must find yourway.  Maybe rehab, maybe church, maybe detox, only you will know what will keep you clean.  Start looking into diffrent things and find what works for you.  GOOD LUCK  GOD BLESS!!!!!!
153824
Since you won't be able to get a real job, do odd jobs for other people. For exmaple, you could babysit or mow lawns if you live in suberbia. But if you live in a city like me, you're way better off working illegally at a store where your friends already work at, doing jobs lke sweeping or something, and they'd pay you themsleves. Or, if you're really pathetic (also like me) grab a guitar, head to the nearest bus/train station and play your heart out.
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If you are in physical danger, seek help from the proper authorities immediately. If you are a substance user, find someone to turn your life over to, until you have kicked the habit. If you are just bored and confused with life to the point that it seems like theres no point. Then step back and take a look at what you are doing. Does it really make you happy? Do you really want this job/career? Are you folowing your dream or is someone else living their dream through you? To be successful in "Life" you don't have to work a 9-5 punching a time clock. Find what makes you happy.\nIf what makes you hapy doesn't harm yourself or others, or deprive anyone of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Then go with it. Until you find your smile you won't be able to give anyone else a smile. Life is to short to not enjoy it while you can. Don't let material things be the measure of your happiness. Sometimes it is the abandonment of these things that will lead us to our smile. Hope your day gets better.
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There's no easy answer for this one, unfortunately.  Since you are an adult, it may be in your best interest to remove yourself from the situation, i.e. move out.  \n\nAs for your parent, most drug abusers need to hit bottom before they're willing to get help; telling them what they're doing is wrong usually doesn't help.  You could try an intervention, but I would definitely get a professional involved.  Is there a pastor or a doctor that knows both of you?
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move on to another company.  \n\nThis is a case of "what part of banned do you not understand"? By trying to get re-hired, you set yourself up for lower pay, permanent probation period, no advancement opportunities and serious employment problems.\n\nYou need to move on.  There are thousands of call centers, you just need to recognize your mistakes and responsibility in your firing, and spin your skills in a positive manner.\n\nGood luck.
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Congratulations for wanting to heal yourself of an addiction!  Contact a doctor, also look into narcotics anonymous, or alcoholics anonymous, they offer awesome support!  Do it one day at a time!  Best of luck to you, you are young and have a life time of possibilities waiting for you...
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My boyfriend's family is full of drug addicts, so I have lots of experience in this.  They are past the point of getting help.  It sounds like your loved-one is not.  I would tell him right now that he needs to go get help.  I would not ignore the problem.  It only gets worse.  You need to stand strong.  Don't feel sorry for him.  But, do not let him just run- you have to let him know that he is cared for.  Most importantly, DO NOT lend him money (he will only use it to buy more crack).  DO NOT let him use your car for any reason.  DO NOT let him live in your house- he'll steal things from you to pawn to buy crack.  This is out of his control- he's an addict now and he needs to go into rehab.
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I am a recovering heroin addict 19 months sober. Anyhow usually when you suspect someone you are close to is using your RIGHT. You know his behavior and patterns better then anyone. On the other hand i found drug related caps needles cotton spoons and stuff FOR MONTHS in my house in my coat pockets or old purses sometimes that stuff lingers after you are done. I use to do coke to but i never cared for it like Heroin i still found straws and rolled up paper after i had stopped using. You have to relise he can't promise not to use again he's A ADDICT!. You can ONLY take care of how you handle his issues. You can't make him go to meeting you can go get support for you. He may never stop untill he loses everything including YOU. It has to be his choice you can't want it or force it you'll fail every time. There are boards online where you can get a better answer from recovering addicts and family of addicts. LOOK UP THE ADDICTION RECOVEDRY GUIDE online they have a family message board and a coke board i think it would help you a lot.
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Maybe you want to consider starting your own business.  When I lost my job a few years ago, I felt about like you did for about 1 day. After that, I made a decision that while searching for another job (which is Just Over Broke) I would search for something I could do to start my own business. \n\nDid you get what I said? I "made a decision" and then took action.\n\nIf you can't do this then don't expect things to get better any time soon. Should you consider your own business, you can get some ideas on this site.\n\nWhatever you decide to do (and you have to decide yourself) \ndo it with great passion and you will succeed.
1000518
You can't fix his problem. A drug abuser has to stop on their own. You just have to do what is best for you and your child. LEAVE! If you don't have the money to get your own place, do you have family or friends you can turn to for help until you are financially stable? It's time to swallow your pride and ask for help. Good luck.
412431
Wrestle your life back into your control. Find your purpose and get busy with it. Do not isolate yourself from friends, call them "now" and get some plans in action. Talk to your friends about a new job for you. Probably one of them, could hook you up where they work, or at least, tell you about something you might enjoy doing that you have not thought about. Embrace life and life will reward you for your efforts. GO!!!
517714
Do it now while you're still young enough to "start" over.  If he hasn't changed now, he never will, even if he quit the drugs.  Drug users are self centered and blame the world for their problems.  Get out now.
778156
drugs.  find a cheap alternative to your current method of investigation.  asking total strangers online is not the way to plan your life.  drugs. that's the ticket!
841148
Congratulations.  You're no longer homeless!!!\n\nIn your other question postings, you were homeless, and had a 20 year old pregnent girlfriend.  Clearly you've corrected that.  And you are clearly a very smart 11 year old, since you make so much money playing blackjack despite your mental disorders, so I'm sure you'll be able to work through this problem.\n\nOh, and I hope you cleared up that Walmart theft problem you had the other day, where they "tackled" you in the office.  Heck of a thing for an 11 year old to go through.
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The worst thing that you can do with a problem is ignore it.  Something happened... it sucks, but time goes on, and if you make wise choices now, you can get back on track.\n\nFirst contact the bank, be proactive. Explain the situation and that you lost your job - specifically ask for them to put you on either :\n\nA Hardship plan (a repayment plan with lower interest rates and a lower monthly payment usually 3-12 months of time is allowed on a hardship and it is designed as a temporary fix to a short term problem or financial change)\n\na Workout (workouts are designed to help recast loan terms and place missed payments at the end of a loan - this can be done with credit cards as well - car loans, mortgages. You agree to make a fixed number of payments at a specific monthly amount this is again designed as a fix for a short term problems, and banks are pretty likely to work with you if you have been a good client up until this point.) \n\nAll lending institutions base  their willingness to help on one factor "risk"  If you default on payments and make no effort to contact them your "thermometer of risk" starts to boil.  However, if you are proactive and solution oriented you appear like a responsible borrower who got slapped with an unfair dose of hardship.\n\n\nThere are also plans such as Debt Management or on the end of complete financial insolvency Debt Settlement that can help you to quickly and safely (debt management) pay your debts off.\n\n\nAlso, i suggest you apply for unemployment... and if turned down, appeal.  the squeaky wheel gets the grease (or oil, i forget... but I know it gets something)
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You might want to call your local American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and ask them if there are any non-profit groups by you that help people get jobs. Or you go back to school (trade school, college or special training) to make yourself more employable. Good luck.
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Check with your local mental health department or department of human services to see if there is a local rehab he can go to.  He needs help.  I work in a pharmacy and I see so many people come through that are addicted.  You see it first hand and I know it is not pretty.  Get him help.  He might be mad at first but he will say thank you in the end.  Good luck!