How can I overcome frustrations.....like hurtaches or loveless?????
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Maybe you both need space. For you to enjoy other peoples company like your friends and family. For him to attend important matters that most needed of his attention. If you really are for each other then destiny will make a way.
550527
Go for a walk and just have time on your own.  Talk to yourself about what got you so pissed off, what you should have said, what you are going to say, but without screaming or yelling so they could know that you really mean it and that you are not just talking because you are mad.....  I think that is the best as it will prevent you from getting physical with the person who caused you to get the way that you are and you will avoid saying something that you will or may regret....
174962
hey, hello :)\nseems like you know you have some issues to overcome, i say you are almost there!\ndon't be miserable. everyone goes through this kind of emotions @ least once in our lifetime.\ni know this feeling too. sometimes, you feel so empty, miserable & unworthy. and every time,when you try to take 1 step forward, you end up taking 2 steps backward.\ntry to start a routine of exercizing, mix with positive people & read joke books.\ndon't ever indulge in self-pity & regrets. the darkest hours are just before dawn. life is a grindstone; and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him depends on what stuff he's made of.\nif you really look around you, everyone has problems too. what makes them happy is that they try to overcome their problems one @ a time.
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Communication & patience. Always be open about how you feel and be willing to work out the problems that come along, because there will always be problems, no matter who you're with. But if you're both on the same page about what you want and are willing to give what the other needs, you will be able to conquer anything. Love is not enough, it takes work! :)
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The good news is that time is on your side. So you'll surely get over it.\nOne way to speed things up a little, could be if you focus your memory on all the things that you didn't like and that made you upset.\nAnother good way of making it easier, is to go out and see all the others who are looking for a relationship themselves.
481980
Well, after about 4 years of therapy and couples therapy with some amazing, top therapists in Los Angeles, I'm happy to say that I've learned incredible tools on communicating and I was amazed at how hard it is and how many people don't know how to do it.  We really should be teaching this in schools.  Anyhow- most people vent and don;t really listen.  When one has an issue, you take it up in a three part communication: what, why and what you want.  So 1) start by saying something positive that relates to the issue, 2) bring up your feelings (which does NOT imply that you are correct or that the other has to agree) and 3) what you want from the outcome.  Example-let's say you get jealous or she gets jealous alot: "honey, listen, I know you're an attractive girl and guys are gonna check you out and i don't blame them but, i feel threatened or jealous when they do cause it just  i feel insecure.  I want you to try and be considerate of my feelings and try to  be cool talking to guys in bars".  The key issues to communication is first of all, NO ONE MAKES you feel anything, people are going to feel what they're going to feel so you can't accuse someone of making you feel a certain way.  This is huge so make sure you understand that.  It's the number one common mistake.  Second is when you or she speaks your feelings, the other just needs to acknowlege and be empathetic.  It does not mean you have to agree with what they're saying but you need to understand "I understand what you're saying and I can appreciate the way you feel" is not saying"I agree with you and i accept blame".  Thirdly, be specific and consistent and most of all. be clear on your boundaries.  Many fights start because boundaries aren't clear and when they're crossed, people get pissed.  Boundaries are things like "don't kiss other dudes, don't flirt, don't bad mouth me, whatever.    if you want more specifics, feel free to write specific issues.  :))  plus, be prepared, it takes a lot of practice.  I meant email me.  I am happy to share my knowledge. God knows I spent a fortune for it!!!!  But it is life changing.  And the best part is that it gives you such great control over your own life.  It's very empowering to communicate effectively.
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based on your question I don't know if you are frustrated or complete.\n\nIf you are complete you can congratulate yourself and move onto new goals.  Perhaps you can try helping others, family, friends.\n\nIf you are frustrated because you can't do enough try doing baby steps.  If things seem too tough try breaking them down into smaller goals.  Stop feeling bad for what you can't get done, concentrate on doing a few things and feel good about what you do accomplish.  If it's still too much try meditation and don't forget to take time to relax.\n\nGood luck :-)
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Often times, anger is hard to get rid of because it stays there until it comes out in some kind of physical way. At least that works for me. Here's something you really might want to do. Don't take an anger management course just yet, but find ways to relax. Stress usually eats at you until you get angry at the world. Relax and enjoy life because you only get to live it once. If that doesn't work, go vent your anger in a way so that you can get stronger too, like swimming or tennis. Just don't use your awesome skills on someone else, just your own stuff. :)
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Tony Robbins says that pain either breaks us, or motivates us.  Try to find out why you were dumped, and do something to fix it.  Work on self improvement projects - look better, work out, get a good hair style, read self improvement books, etc.  Anything you can do to improve yourself.  It will make you feel better.  You will become more attractive to the opposite sex.  Don't focus on the problem.  This will not cause it to go away.  Force yourself to think positive.  Eventually you WILL be thinking positive.  Set goals.  Set a goal to go on a date with someone new in the next month.  Improve yourself everyday in some way.  Get OUT of your house and DO something.  I've been there myself, and it is tough.  You have to BREAK this pattern in radical way.
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I guess you need to talk to.....YOURSELF!\nAsk yourself a few questions like:\nWhy do I want to be with someone who brings out my anger?\nWhat makes me hold onto a failed relationship?\nWhere is my anger coming from and who is it really directed at?\nWho else makes me feel so angry?\nDo I want to keep this pattern going or am I ready for change?\nIts really hard to change choices in men, and it takes a great deal of personal insight, so get to work!
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I highly recommend a book called Feelings Buried Alive Never Die.  There is a simple emotional release technique described in the book that, when done each day for 5-10 minutes, can help ease extreme emotional upsets and even some physical ailments associated with emotional problems.\n\nI've used this example before in another answer, but I'm going to use it again:\n\nI live in small, cramped quarters and often find myself bumping into things.  When I bumped into things in the past I would immediately become OVERWHELMINGLY ANGRY.  The anger troubled me greatly, much more than the momentary pain from bumping into things.  I used the emotional release technique in the book and I've not been angry from bumping into things again.  \n\nAlso, I used to suffer with chronic, ever present anxiety/guilt feelings.  I used the technique for that as well and I've felt peaceful and content with my life and circumstances and relationships overall since.  \n\nI believe I will have to continue to use the technique, but it's totally worth it!  Please look into it!
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More than likely, someone or something is bothering you that you have been unable to resolve. If you can figure out what that is, you've solved half your problem. Try to find constructive ways to express your anger --- work out, play a sport, write letters to people your angry at (you don't have to necessarily send them or share them). Try to talk to a good friend who will understand if you are moody right now.
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Try Confidence Club.com, the cds they sell may be useful, either that or try a confidence coach, maybe even some counselling.  I know exactly how you feel and I have tried all the "positive thinking" techniques but sometimes you do need a little help.
745131
Get your mind of it no matter what it takes. pre-occupy yourself with something that'll keep you busy. You can try talking to different people about it to see their perspectives which may give you some new thoughts on the situation. also the more the think about it the more you're likely ot give in so try your best to avoid dwelling on it. If it's something you want to control at an exact moment (like in your example) i advise you rather keep it to yourself for the time being. Its not good to bottle up feelings, so let it out when you're not around that person any more. This way you feel no regrets. Sometimes I clench my fist or bite by teeth to get rid of some of that anger temporarily... well hope I helped!
114200
If love is true, then I would suggest counseling and possibly anger management classes or something.  You certainly don't want that to happen again and lose control for either of your sakes!  Good luck!!
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Find something that alleviates stress like running and playing an instrument. Cry when you need it and dont convert sadness into bitterness.\n\nGoodluck it's common....\n\n\nhttp://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/
784945
Encourage him to get some counseling and some anger management classes. Unfortunately, there is nothing else you can do. He needs to make strides to get himself emotionally better. And the pain is not going to just go away, he needs to talk to a trained professional that will assist him in dealing with his feelings and moving forward with his life. Good luck and God bless*