my ex is ready for us to have sex but doesnt tell me he loves me anymore is he just using me?
83383
I've been there, done that. If you don't want your heart ripped out, don't do it. He probably thinks you'll jump everytime he comes around. If he gets mad because you won't do it, just remember, he'll get over it. My ex is a very stubborn man, but when I told him I have too much self respect to do this anymore, he was extremely mad. After a while, he got over it!! Good luck!
872791
Either he wants to continue having sex with you or he wants to be in a relationship but either way  his timing was a little off. See if he treats you like a girlfriend (phone calls during the day/night, coming over to see you,dinners etc) good luck
503259
you should have asked before the first time you guys had sex after the break-up. you need to ask now because he might just be looking for sex and you will get attached again and will go through the same cycle as before.
755853
The person above is right, he is just using you.  Besides if he talks to you like that when he wants you back, how is he going to treat you once he has you.
401906
I was in teh same boat kinda of I started dating a girl who was almost 10 yrs younger. There were times that I just wanted to stay home and be by myself. It had nothing to do with her. She and I lived in different states and saw each other about every month. I moved down here for her things went awry we broke up. I distanced myself from everything and did not want to be bothered I waited a year before I ever dated again. regardless of skin color it should not matter if he loves you truly. I doubt he is using you just for sex. Talk to him or his friends was he hurt in a past rleationship? I hope this can help you out
887689
If your like my ex my friends are more fun to be around ,they don't want to know when I'm coming home,where I've been, who I've been with etc..etc.. quit riding him like a mule , maybe you should give him sex more then once a month so he doesn't have to beg you for it, and then he might want to hang with you more ,unless he's gay and screwing his friends
667675
You should seriously ask yourself whether you truly believe that he wants you not just sex! Why did he pursue you for so long yet flee the coop at the first sign of trouble!! That is truly immature! He showed that when he couldnt have you the chase was good but as soon as he got you it wasnt good any longer! You should consider whether he is worth the trouble!
1086534
This guy sounds like a jerk and yes he will use you and then dump you. If he does not love you enough to respect your wishes you need to get rid of him. I'm very proud to see someone who waits til they are married to have sex. You Go Girl!! I know it must be hard because you love him but you will find someone who respects you and your values. Don't let this man pressure you into something you don't want to do.
934357
If you guys haven't been together that long then probably. Men also tend to say things because they  sound good. There is really no telling in this situtation. And another thing, sorry to say it, he could just want sex, and feels he will get it if he says he loves you.
857417
i think what you are trying to get at or say is that guys wont move on from their girlfriend whom they can get regular sex from until they find someone else or some other means of getting regular sex. this guy sounds like a tool. end it now, save yourself from the heart arche and from being used.
967512
You should hold out until you feel it is right to have sex with him.  If you have sex with him right away becasue you really like him and think he will be with you because you gave into him, there would be a good chance he will dump you because he thinks you sleep around.  If you hold out to long and he leaves you, then he was using you and he isn't worth being with.  You will know in your heart when it's the right time.
1146264
asked him why he hasnt left his gf yet if he truly loves you. He might be just using you or just making you a "in case" person.. If he cant give you a definite answer, you should just tell him that you cannot wait for him anymore and that you are moving on..
874556
You are entitled to withhold sex whenever you want.  I think, however that Love is not demonstrated just in sex.  Does he do other things that make you feel like he loves you, does he care about your well-being?  about your interest? does he treat you with respect and affection?  If he loves you he would not want to hurt you and confuse you.  If it was me, I would stop having sex, and would start simply dating.  I just want to say that you want a guy who is certain that he wants you and wants to work on the entire relationship not just sex.
241313
He is definitely using you for sex. How do you not get that? My goodness, what are they teaching kids in school these days that they can't figure something like that out?
798890
He is just using you to get laid. He is telling you this. He does not want a relationship. He just wants to get his rocks off with no strings attached.>
768082
What help do you want?  To know if he's interested in you?  I'll assume that's it.\nWell, it sounds promising.\nBut think, does he want to have a relationship with you or just have sex with you?  Is the chasing ever going to amount to anything?\nHave you talked to him and at any point told him you're not ready to date or you're not interested in a relationship?  If so, that could be why nothing has happened for him to show real interest in dating you.\nIt's a good sign that's he's not accepting free sex from anyone else, yes.\nThink hard, if you told him you were ready for another relationship, would he cringe or look hopeful?  Not sure, try telling him something along these lines, without directly involving him in the question.  See how he reacts and gage by that.  Or, just have a conversation about it.  \nI had a similar situation, except when I made a move back, he totally stopped wanting me.  Until I hadn't seen him for a year and had finally given up and started dating someone else who I love.  Then he saw me and couldn't stop trying to hold my hand and telling me how he made a mistake.\nSometimes guys who chase do it because they don't know what they want and, when they're confronted with it, they don't know what to do with it and turn into jerks.  They might come around later but you don't want a guy like that, trust me.
494406
Well young lady first of all if you are really concerned about him using you...just say no and see where the relationship goes from there. If he is just using you for sex...then you are enabling him by allowing him to do so.  I mean is the experience pleasurable to you, or do you feel like after the deed is done he's less attentive and affectionate. In your heart I think you already know the answer to this question you presented.  Cut the sex out of the relationship and then you'll see his true colors.