with me being pregant(21 weeks) when my husband makes love to me after words it hurts?
81724
Depends on where it hurts.  It could be a lack of lubrication.  Or he could be hitting your cervix with his penis (since your organs are changing de to pregnancy your cervix may be easier for him to reach).  Mention it to your doctor at your next appointment.
354585
He is probably uncomfortable with u being 9 months pregnant.  Things will change.  Some men fear that they might hurt the baby.  Some men just feel that it is wrong to have sex with u when u are pregnant.  Just talk to him and ask him what the problem is.  Communication is the key without it u won't last.  So don't go assuming to many things and upset yourself for nothing just ask him o.k.
542123
it sounds like it..just talk to him about whats going on...ur married and i hope everything works out..congrats on the new baby
636132
If you can control yourself, anything past kissing is too far. Even just feeling up is intimacy, and can easily lead to other things. Waiting for sex is meant to protect us, not to torture. Now saying all that, I didn't wait. I had a baby and married the guy right before the birth. But the great part is forgiveness. Thank you Lord for forgiveness! But asking forgiveness means you'll try your very absolute best to not repeat your past mistake. So try to find a guy that thinks the same way you do. It'll make it easier if you are both trying to stay pure. I asked for forgiveness, I'm still married (happily) to the only guy I've ever been with. So even mistakes can be turned to good. The hardest part is being human. And since we all are, its hard. So just pray for a great forever kinda guy to come your way. Then you don't have to worry so much. And when you get to the marrying part, make sure he wants forever, just like you do.
1099950
Its like no pain you have ever felt in this world,however when they lay your baby in your arms the pain diappears and you will feel a love like you have never felt before!Good luck from a mother of 2.
919963
You have a couple options.\n\n1.) You can continue to feel sad and bad and mad about it.\n2.) You can point out some of his short commings when he makes those comments.\n3.) You can accept the truth, If you are gaining a few pounds, you can say, yip, i'm gaining some weight, thats what happend when your prego. If your not gaining weight you can say. Sorry, but your mistaken, i'm not gaining, then move on.\n\nSticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. If someone calls me Stupid, or fat, etc... even if its someone that i love, it doesnt bother me. Because I KNOW its not true. If my wife calls me smelly when i get back from the gym or if i just smell, I still dont get offended if i do smell because its the truth. Truth is Truth. no point of feeling bad about it.\nThe bad part is that i am Male and you are Female, and we are wired differently. but i hope this helps!
266579
It is more then normal I used to have the same problem. I Was told from my Aunt that its your body getting you ready for the real pain during child birth the same pain you feel is less but around the same lines though. Well I learned over time that doing sit-ups even in bed or crunches works for the pain the muscles in your belly need to contract and release from time to time if it hurts worse then just do one or two then wait then a few more then wait over time your body gets used to the movement. It took me about 6 months but everyone is different. So do what you can bend over walk a bit give it time. If you feel very concerned then talk to someone near you and adult you trust enough to talk to. Then see if you should see your doctor. You can learn more if you write down all your questions so nothing is left out and the doctor can teach you things that you never learned in School.
121345
The physical part of the pain is a burning pressure feeling deep inside your vagina.  The emotional pain far outways the physical aspect... Is he going to tell everyone?  Will we be together forever?  Is he just after P****?  What will tomorrow be like with him?  What if everyone finds out I had sex and now they think I am a sl**?
94016
The baby is probably just pressing on that side. There isn't that much room in there you know.   The little bugger is already being a pain!  LOL   Just kidding.  My son used to make me so uncomfortable because he'd move around so much and it was like he was stretching out.  I'd see his foot or hand pressing out.  It was kinda gross, and really uncomfortable.  And he kicked all the time.  Later in the pregnancy he pressed on my bladder alot.
753644
at some point something happened,,it may have been because of the baby,,not in a bad way but some men do go off on a tangent after the birth,,,saying he doesnt know why and doing it anyway may just be him thinking it is better to hide the real reason than hurt you with it,,,you have to tell him it is the not knowing why that really hurts,,the porn isnt really a problem but it is something involving his reasoning. get him to see he can and for the sake of your relationship just spit it out,,dont keep it bottled up and put your mind at rest,,if you and he are not sleeping together it will start to cause communication problems within the marriage and he at least needs to come to bed,,it is important for the sake of the emotional connection you have,,it will start to suffer as not considering how it effects you and him will become a habit and it will effect your usual routines,,the way you talk to each other,,the way you just interact with each other,,the way we think of 'we' instead of 'i'. if this does go on without him saying anything to you ,,you may just start to feel 'whats the point,,i feel single anyway' and the end result wont be any different than it is now.
313914
I am a mother of 2 and I was very emotional also. I would cry at the drop of a hat. Your question about not feeling love towards your baby yet is totally normal.You just found out that you have a baby growing inside of you,it takes some getting use to.Once you get passed the first trimester which is when you are usually feeling super nauses and hormonal.I promise once that baby starts to grow, It is amazing how much love you start feeling for baby
680677
it is obvious that you want to please your husband and you should feel confidant that her cares if you hurt or not during this time of expressing\nthere are many things to consider\n   *his weight vs. your body size\n   *the quality of the bed you may be using\n   *the position of your arms\n   *the intensity of his thrust\nNever the less Let Him help you Get comfortable\nHe will feel special that you are sharing this with him and going to Him for help...if no relief is found check with your doctor - it could be serious
943011
Sometimes I get a stabbing pain if its a really vigorous sneeze...but then I am pregnant...so its just one of those things...not to say that your pregnant...but if your concerned go see your Doc
981113
well there could be many factors.\nfirst off, he could have popped your cherry (wether ur a virgin or not because mine wasnt popped till i got with my fiance)\nor he could have just been to rough and tore some tissue in there and the pain above ur hip bone could be from him being to rough or maybe u just havent had sex in a while because i still have that pain from time to time when my husband is too rough. you shouldve told him to stop when u were having the pain. becuase if ur not able to talk to him and let him know how you feel and when somethings hurting then ur not ready to have sex yet (atleast with him that is) now if it was unprotected sex u could have gotten pregnant and ur having implantation bleeding (which is when the sperm implants, but that depends on how much your bleeding) and last factor could be that maybe you started your period today. but to be sure maybe you should ask you doctor.\ngood luck with everything.
227611
Many words inspire me to love or smile.  But my husband calls me baby and for the first time, he called me "my lover".  Very sexy and touching.  I could get used to it after almost 8 yrs of marriage.  Whoopee.
1014733
Yes it is very normal, when I first started having sex with my now husband my stomach would hurt so bad I could hardly walk. It will get better with time, I think it lasted a couple months for me can't quite remember though as it was over 7 years ago. Good luck
178422
Your going through a lot of changes not only your body,but your emotions are more sensitive as well,I went through the same thing when I was pregnant with my kids,it is natural to love them one minute and ready to strangle them the next!!!