Problems in relationship, lack of passion says wife. What can i do?
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Well if she is preggers, sex in the first trimester is kinda icky, to say the least at least it was for me and some other women ive talked to, if she thinks its lacking passion, maybe thats because she has it in her head shes not making love to you anymore shes making a baby with you, maybe thats how your treating it lately, Tell her if she wants passion,youll give her passion... make love to her like you did when you were first together, rediscover every inch of her body, remember that now you probably know how to get her from 0 to 60 in 5 minutes, take your time like you used to, get her to the point where shes close, and start to do something else, tease her with the idea of getting off, dont just hand a orgasum to her on a silver platter, think **here it is but you cant have it** trust me when my better half gets this attitude OMG its MINDBLOWING when he finally lets me have it ;) i hope that helps i know it works when this mentality gets used on me hehe :P
678194
How would a marriage with this lady work, if everytime she hears about something she does'nt like she shuts you out?Every relationships NEEDS communication whether its about something good or bad. Try finding a way to talk to her and let her know your sentiments - e-mail her or write her a  letter or something. Hopefully she will come around and you can sit down and discuss your future, what it will be like and what you want out of each other. If she does'nt, save yourselve any further heartache now and forget it. If she shuts you out for something so small - marriage with her would just be torture. You deserve to be happy!!!!
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How many men present this morning have a neighbour or a friend with a wife who is more intelligent than your wife? She's a woman who has common interests with you, interests that your wife finds boring. She's talented, a classy dresser who cares for her body and carries herself in a noble fashion. You ask yourself, "Why doesn't my wife sparkle like that chick?"\n\nFriends, comparison is a deadly game. Don't do it! It leads to coveting, adultery and divorce. Coveting blinds you to your spouses positive character qualities. Coveting makes you despise your wife's humility, meekness and virtue. Coveting robs your spouse from the position of Top Dog in your life. She is no longer your most cherished possession, she is "The Wife." Coveting tears-up families like useless scrap paper. Don't do it!
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First off if you love your wife then why would you leave her?  A marriage is built on trust and understanding, not ignorance and dropping out when the times are rough.\nAre there physical reasons for your wife's inactivity in the bedroom?  Perhaps she should see an OBGYN about it.  Is it your jobs? Find a way to spend more time together.\n\nI guess I'm saying take a few steps back and look at the situation from every aspect, with your wife.  If it's only low libido then try somethings to spice up your love life, massage, games, strip tease, make out in the back seat of the car, sex toys, etc.  Find what gets both of you hot and bothered and use it.  Instead of masturbating, masturbate each other.
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Hi Friend\n\nI think its good question.\n\nwhy do not you discuss your problem with her.so you can come to a conclusion.were things are not the same.whether communication or you both have lost interest in each other.Try going out with other friends. go with them where you would have preferred to take her and not anybody else.(some good movie etc) Because they can be many reasons.\nI personally think you should give each other some space and latter share your feeling with each other and check-.once you are sure about your feeling then only decide about Marriage.
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Why don't you love your wife anymore, and how long have you been married? It seems like their is someone else in the picture & you are cheating on your wife. How long have you been married. Have it been 10 or more years? & Do you have kids? If so, you are a very selfish person with no heart because you are hurting ALL of them. Because you did not just fall out of love, you found a new toy!! You say you don't want to hurt her, but you are hurting her by cheating (if you are indeed cheating) and giving her love and attention to some home-wrecker who doesn't care about no one but herself. If you loved her before, i am a true believer you can grow to love her again. It looks like she love you? You both should talk & really get help and work hard on saving your marriage. Place your FAMILY FIRST, and spend time together and you will see the love again. Don't be selfish, ask GOD for strengh and patience and your marriage and family will not be a staticiaic. Somebody please place GOD & FAMILY FIRST. I feel you left out a lot of details so, feel free to e-mail me i welcome your response. GOD BLESS YOU
1005258
You are very strong for asking this question. You are certainly not asking for too much. This is not a problem she has with you, but a problem she has with commitment. She, for some reason, is not prepared to be as selfless and giving in a relationship as you have been with her. Maybe something is going on with her that is , creating this distance between the two of you. All though you probably already have, I suggest that you confront her and ask if their is an outside issue. If there is an outside issue and you help her through it, then you're relationship will be sstronger than ever. Best of luck to you!
201876
You cant and you shouldnt have done that in the first place. Thats called adultry and your wife can devorce you for everything that your worth for that. So break it off now with her.
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I am an indian gal living in US, though I am not sure if that adds much value to answering this question. It is difficult to answer this without knowing the length and problems of the marriage. \n\nTo start with, I dont mean to scare you but if she has left home and if she is independent, I am not sure if she will come back. If she (and here the indian thing might apply) left the house, I am sure she must be very frustrated with the relationship. You really have a lot of damage control to do. \n\nI am not sure of the details of the problem but I can give you a woman's perspective:\n\n1. Show actions (not just words) - change your ways with her. Women respond to supportive actions from a man.\n2. Listen to her problems and not defend yourself - she is not attacking you, she is merely stating the problem. Fix them if you are the reason.\n3. Pay attention to what she likes and dislikes. Maybe she said it before but you never paid attention to it. \n4. Go to counselling - its better to do it now than to do it later. I think, as indians, we tend not to look at this option but this really does help. If the relationship has reached this stage, you need this.\n\nIf both of you have been fighting for a while in the marriage, actually staying apart is actually a good option - it will help you figure out your feelings for each other. Anyway if she wants it, you will have to do it. \n\nFinally, I would say, for the next 11 months, treat the relationship as priority 1 else it will not work.\n\nFeel free to catch me on yahoo messenger if you would like to talk more details. Hope this helps and things work out for you.
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Marriage is a series of highs and lows.  You sound like you are at the low part.\n\nWhy don't you take the initiative and put a spark back into your marriage?  Do something unexpected.  Take a weekend trip together.  Do something to save your marriage before you get so bored that you start looking elsewhere.
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ive been married 3 years one thing ive learned is just when you think you figured them out, the rules change.\nHere is what i've found maybe it will help you.\n\nnumber one be honest. it may maker her upset but she will get over it and be glad you told her what ever it was.\nnumber two be understanding. Dont get me wrong this is not a bad remark, but women are very emotional. Dont let yourself get out of control cause she melts down. Sometimes they just have to vent and are ok.
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First and foremost, did you talk to her about this? If you have done this and many other things to save the marriage but nothing has changed, show up with divorce papers and tell her you want a divorce. But I suggest you talk things over first.
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I don't know how or why she's being a "beach", but I can tell you that you can't MAKE anyone do anything.  The only person on this earth you can change is yourself.  So my advice to you is make sure you are being the right kind of husband, no matter what she does or says.  Don't let her provoke you into behaving badly.  I know, easier said than done, but that is about your only option, other than ending the marriage, which it doesn't sound like you want to do.  Get yourself some good books on marriage and how to be the ideal husband.  Work on yourself.  It just might do her some good!
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I think you should talk to your wife and explain to her how important sex is to you in your relationship.  Tell her you need to have sex in order to make you happy and even keep you there.\n\nAlso, ask her what are her feelings and views on sex and why she turns you down.  Try to figure out if there are things you can do differently (don't automatically assume she is satisfied) and most importantly, encourage your wife to explore her own sexuality so she will feel comfortable opening up to you and having sex with you more often, not simply out of her obligation to you, but because she enjoys sex and enjoys you.\n\nIt takes time to build a healthy sexual relationship with someone and you both have to explore what sex means to you individually and together.  It seems you want a more sexually spontaneous wife and there isn't a thing wrong with that to me.  Life is to short (or too long) to go without something vitally important to your happiness.  Most women don't grow up with a healthy sense of their own sexuality and it sounds like your wife doesn't have a sense of her own and she needs to work on that within herself.\n\nAfter all that, if things still don't work out, you need to realize that sex is important to you, there's nothing wrong with that, and you might not be able to sustain your relationship with her if you can't work it out.  \n\nDon't have an affair though, you need to learn how to work with a woman you actually love to learn how to sustain a healthy sexual relationship in the long term, affairs are only short term solutions and never deepen a sexual experience, just distract you from dealing with the hard stuff.
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Sounds like your marriage really needs work.  Not just wishful thinking.  You have to show her you genuinely care enough to rebuild the marriage and she has to decide to stop looking elsewhere for what she's not getting from you.  There's a book called "His Needs/Her Needs" by Harley and it outlines that when specific needs are not being met that one of people may go looking elsewhere.  It doesn't mean they should do it but it can happen.  There is always hope if both people want to work through it.
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You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
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Stop over thinking this.  It sounds like your wife has been very honest with you about how she feels.  The fact that you two are only separated but still living together and still spending time together hints that she is honestly there trying to figure out how she feels.  If she didn't have some feelings for you then she would have left by now and filed for a divorce.  You just need to be careful and not go over board focusing on pleasing her all the time.  She is probably looking for a lot more than just your attention.  She is probably looking at your life as a whole and where the future might lead.  Take time to make sure the rest of your life is as good as possible.  Love is more than just emotions, it encompasses all of life.  Be patient with her and don't push too hard or all your work may have the opposite effect and drive her away if she feels smothered all the time.  Remember, what you do for her now needs to be things that you can continue to do for the long haul for the rest of your life, and not just for the moment to fix things between you.