What do you do when you know its love but the other person is afraid to give it another chance?
87936
It sounds like he's feeding you a line.  Are you sure he's not just saying he wants to get back together?  It's been my experience that a little fighting once in a while is OK.  You don't want to fight all the time, but every now and then it's just fine, plus making up is great fun:)  If he's really that afraid of a little conflict maybe he's not the right guy for you.  Find yourself someone who's mature enough to know that a real relationship is not just a bed of roses.  There will be rough spots and bumps in the road, but as long as you take the journey together then you're fine.
359242
MAY BE SHE WANTS TO GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE IF SHE DEPENDS ON YOU SO MUCH - JUST TELL HER THAT YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPENED AND COULD WE PATCH UP - A RETURNED LOVE IS MOSTLY BIGGER THAN THE FIRST LOVE AS IT COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING AND A SENSE OF LOSS
239129
I'm not saying I have all the answers, but it is pretty humiliating when someone doesn't want you. You're afraid of falling in love again; ok, you've been in love. Has anybody told you they love you, or has it been all theoretical and one-sided so far? You're afraid of love; have you been loved, manipulated, used or just misunderstood? How have you been hurt? These are questions you need to determine before you can decide what to do next. I'd say talk to a counsellor. Figure out what actually happened, what you want to do eventually, and what you can try next to achieve your goals. If you are still nervous after that, try to work your way up to it gradually. Start with just caring about people, maybe neighbors, children, the elderly. Do you know anybody in need? There are many ways to express love. Are you looking for a tender, warm caring love, or a rough, wild, sensual love? We all need various things from the ones we love at different times. Some people express love by sharing, some by providing, some by giving gifts or surprises, some by being romantic, some by being reliable, some by challenging their loved one to excell. Try to meet up with the pople who are looking for the same thing(s) you are. Good luck!
488758
I say listen to your heart. Be true to yourself. If that other guy really loves u then i wouldn't take my chances messing that up for this one that just wanna come around all the sudden.
141608
If you really love him and you are sure in your heart he won't cheat again there is no reason not to give him another chance.  We are all human and make mistakes.  The key though is has he really changed, and can you truely forgive him.  If either of these isn't possible then move on.  If they are, then give it a try and be careful with your heart.
424037
trust takes time... once you have lost trust in someone, it takes awhile to trust them again... if your heart sees that you can trust a person again, then a lot of times it is harder to get your mind to agree... your heart is more trusting unless you have been hurt a lot in the past, then your mind might say it is ok, but you heart gets in the way...\n\nbottom line, if you can't get your heart and your mind to agree to trust someone again, even if you know they deserve another chance... the best thing to do is just walk away...
123910
There is always a chance, at the moment give that person some space, and you need space to to think about what went wrong and see how you can get past this hurdle, then try to win the person back, cont push it though because thne you will be rejected. but you will know if there is a chance..... and if there isnt.... try and move on dont just by stuck on that person\nHope everything works out for the best\n\nXoXo\nme
987903
I know how it is sometimes even difficult to reject someone's love. But we have to keep in mind that, if we proceed to accept his proposal only because we don't wanna hurt that person, we will later end up hurting him even more.\n\nSo the best is to be upfront and honest with him, just kindly and gently reject his proposal with full respect. Don't criticise him, just tell him nicely that you just can't accept his love, and hopefully he can give out that love some other time to someone who will mean more to him, and that one rejection only brings him closer to The One
337009
i have been down the same road on both ends of the relationship. what you both must realize is that a strong relationship is built with time. the more time you two give it the more you will build the trust, and respect for each other. it is really great that you understanding that his life has hit a rough spot in life and are willing to be that understanding and help him through it if he needs your help. i would give it a second chance because without second chances who knows what you could be missing out on he could be the right guy for you and you could never find out until it's to late
583480
cos the feelings are too strong.... all u have to do is feel the person is horror himself.or think him in a bad way and u will hate him.... but i will suggest that if there is any means having that person u just have to try cos  ... its good to follow the heart he may be the one 4 u and don't just give up. but if u insist on giving up it OK.. cos if u don't give up u are only killing ur self a given passion or emotion that can never be re_given by the other.there is not determinate answer cos, he May be the one, and he may not be the one. if u can bear it wait for a time and see if things will change. but if u cannot wait then forget him and believe that, if he is for u he will come back sooner or later alone.
414935
Unfortunately we don't usually get the choice. If it's headed to a bad place you can try and salvage at least a descant departure. However, if it's from someone you really loved you can't help but be hurt regardless who ends it. Sometimes it's just not meant to be!
371213
The answer to your question is forgiveness...You must learn to forgive the love of your life...There had to be a possible reason why that person ignored you...You get past the hurt and pain by giving em another chance...I think you don't love that person..if you did u would of not given up on love \n\nI know what you are going thru...The love of my life is far away from me...but I still love him...Nothing can make me stop loving him...not even distance or time...Love is not easy..Love is a battlefield..
1008847
Just because you handled the 2nd loss more easily doesn't mean you loved them less. It's because you knew what to expect. There are always ups and downs with love. If it were all an even road it would become boring. And when you find the right love, where you both work at making the relationship work, the love will grow stronger. Don't give up hope.
217880
If you and he have real feelings, wait until the timing is right. Good things are worth waiting for. And if neither of you can wait, then it isn't meant to be.
835166
I personally feel like if it happens once shame on them if it happens a second time shame on you for letting it happen. Trust is a hard thing to build once its lost you can take that friend with a grain of salt because even if you do give her a second chance this incident will always be in your mind
200914
I gave one guy a second chance and he did it again.  Proceed with caution.  If you're faithful you absolutely have the right to expect the same from return. He's accusing you because he'll feel better if you both did it.
393614
Love, and life actually, is about taking chances...not risks, although those are to be taken too sometimes, but a chance is different i think....sure she might get her heart broken, but if she isnt willing to take that chance, she will never allow herself to know love either...being afraid is normal, hell we are all afraid that something might be too good, or too perfect, and it turns out usually that nothing is really perfect...but the fact is you will only know what good can really come from a situation by being a part of the situation...so unless he beats her, or treats her badly emotionally...i would say she should at least be open to the possibility that she will get something really great out of this relationship...i have found out that if the only thing you have to suffer is a broken heart, its well worth the chance...broken hearts come and go....love will be with you always...