i want to have a boyfriend but i'm afraid to go out with anyone???
92363
just make a move after all the worst u can get is a no and u if u do recieve a no move on to the next person that catches ur eye
245702
Woah, girl. You dont have to do anything to have a boyfriend. dont change yourself...you are most likely perfect the way you are.  Besides, men will ALWAYS believe you are sexy, as long as you do!!!:)
498741
Just be yourself, stay happy, and dont let it show that you are too worried, just a bit and the person that asked you out should be able to see and understand, most people have ways to make others more comforatable, so talk, be honest, and i hope it all works out for you!  :)
763113
Dont worry! Just ask the guy you like out and take a chance!Itll be okay! And boys are usually nervice that they might get a rejection. If you really dont want to ask anyone out,be Mrs.Nice Girl and be kind and hang out often.Make him notice you. And then when he feels he understands you he will ask you out!And of course be yourself! Good Luck
42770
Don't ask him to be your boyfriend. Just ask him to go out with you somewhere.  Meet for coffee and hang out.  If you hit it off ask him to go out with you again, and if it still is going good then ask him if he would like to "go with you". Then you have a steady boyfriend.  Good luck!
271951
First off, good for you. Don't let other people pressure you into finding a boyfriend, that will only trap you in a pointless relationship. They pressure you because they feel like they're helping, it's hard to tell them all their interference makes the situation worse. Tell them, 'I will have a boyfriend when I find one I like.' If that doesn't stop them, tell them you're thinking about becoming a lesbian.
10225
Take time for your self, in every relationship we are in we seem to lose a piece of ourselves, we need to gain that back before we have anything to offer in a new relation, find out who you are, grow from the experience. Some times I think people are afraid to be alone with them selves for awhile, it's ok to be single. I think I got your question right if not good advice any way I think.
390620
i dont think its a big problem on how to have a boyfriend... maybe ur a GAY that's why??
527031
my best advice would be to just go out on a date...it doesn't have to be with someone you're attracted to if that's easier...maybe a male friend...someone you know will me nice to you...so you can see how it should be.  Maybe meeting someone someplace like church would help...or a group in your area for people who've had abuse in their lives.
489304
You don't need a boyfriend. If you want a companion there is no fool proof way to avoid being hurt. Buyt know how to deal with break ups.
983377
I know exactly how you feel!  I've avoided relationships for a long time because I was afraid of getting hurt.  I've been with my current guy for a little less than a year now and it's been the most anxiety-filled year that I've had in a long time.  There were many times when I almost felt like running away because the fear was overwhelming.  But the thing that makes me stay is the realization that in order to get the things I want most in life (not just in relationships) takes an amount of risk.  If we play it safe all the time, we'll never get hurt, but life would be bland.
169139
for those who got a boyfriend or girlfriend.... you can go out with them.... for those who have not... just have fun with your friends and family........ and if you have no one to count on just stay in your house the safetiest place...
1136631
Don't go after anyone. Let them come to you. There's no reason why you shouldn't go on out with other people now since you weren't in a serious relationship.At least go out and have fun.
529127
I have found that 80% of the time you can find one of your friends that feels the same way and is just scared to admit it to anyone. Try be open with some of your friends and see if that helps you. If not than if you go out to bars (and not just guy one) you may be able to find someone.
949840
first you are not alone in this. i know plenty of people whos never had a date in high school, it doesnt matter really because everyone's situation is different.\n\nlook, would you date someone because there is a mutual connection between you two or would you rather date 'just because' you've never had a boyfriend? do you want a relationship because you are in love or because you are desperate to PROVE you can get a boyfriend? \n\nANYONE CAN GET A DATE IF THEY WANTED TO!!! im sure you are really sweet and nice, and you want to see how it feels to be in a relationship. but dont just surrender to peer pressure, its not worth it. wait until LOVE finds you, you are still young, have your first date SPECIAL and REAL then you can go show off and make everyone else jealoused! \n\nnow calm down, theres no need to go 'omg' its perfectly natural. if you really want a boyfriend despite what ive said so far, then be more sociable and join some clubs and activities outside of school. that way you'll meet new people and increase your likelihood of getting a date :)\n\ngood luck and listen to your heart!
972133
Hey don't feel down. I don't have a boyfriend either. Do you want a boyfriend? And do you need one badly? If so go ask a guy out that you think that he's interested in you. It's either you that's having a trouble finding a boyfriend or you are not sure if you want one. Or it's either the boys? You have to venture out more in the world if you're shy or quiet. Trying too hard can also be a problem. But either way good luck, just find out what you want.
35516
I agree with the previous poster, I was abused in two of my relationships, and recently my boyfriend killed himself, and since then just the thought of dating any guys makes me extremely uncomfortable, I'm even uncomfortable being in the same room with a guy that would most times be near my type. And of course I've had intensive therapy for a very long time, and have yet to not freeze up around even guy friends, and it has destroyed many friendships because I am unwilling to open up and share my feelings, and am often called cold, or unfeeling. The best advice, give it some time, when the right one comes along then you'll most likely have feelings of attraction for them.