Do you have friends with benefits?
84574
Not now, but have had. It seems to only lead to the end of a friendship or things get really weird.
725495
Sounds like he wants a friend with benefits.  He's probably messing around on you.
683852
Men & women can be friends. Just be careful not to let it go any further than that. Eg. I am friends with my male colleagues at work, but I make sure I get to know their wifes or GFs as well so they do not get the wrong ideas - aka they need to know I am not a threat. And I never put out wrong signals with colleagues - some may hint at something more but I always made it clear where I stand. If I am not interested, I am not interested period - particularly in married or men who are already with someone else.\nAs to why it does happen? Well, men tend to think of sex most times (read relationship books - it is a primal thing with them). They find opportunities for it to happen and at times end up jeopardising real friendships cos of it. If a guy friend pushes it, I let the friendship go. Maybe that's why folks say plutonic friendships are not workable. But I have good male friends who are absolutely faithful to their spouses so I am glad to know that such men, however rare, still exist. I for one would want my man to be exactly that - faithful to me and only me and I would be the same for him too.
310232
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
1084181
It partly depends on your age and marital status.  If you're young and never married, it may be thoughts that your energy and sexuality should go only to the one you marry.  \n\nIf you've already been that route and are now free to do what you want with your life,  I see nothing wrong with being Friends with Benefits if part of the benefits are mutual respect.\n\nYou may be feeling some guilt because society tells us this is bad.   Don't fall into that old cycle.  Sexuality is as natural as eating.  We are born to share love and that's what you're doing......\n\nIf you feel fear because it won't be a permanent situation, keep moving forward with your life.   Work on your career, hobbies, sports, new friendships, whatever is of interest to you.  Don't focus too much beyond 'now' because doing so causes anxiety and takes away the joy of this minute.  Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring so enjoy today as best you're able.
1038374
It's okay as long as you don't bring up feelings and emotions. This is when I freaked out when she started saying she loved me and asking me how did I feel. When you're friends with benefits you don't expect anything, you don't want to hear none of that moo-shy woo-shy stuff!
523725
In my experience, it has a been a really good thing. It was good because we were both honest, and up front about it. We established that our friendship was the most important thing, and that we didn't want to ruin it. (Of course, there was an exception) but for the most part, even if one of us started feeling a "crush" or something, we talked it through. The one thing that I have to be CLEAR on is that we BOTH were honest. That we could be close to each other, and there were limits, and you had to stay within those limits. I don't know if I am just weird, but I have had some very special friends, and it worked. Most have moved on, but if we saw each other again, (in face I called one just the other day and we had a fantastic conversation) I know we are still friends, and they know I am still their friend as well. I KNOW there are times when men use that as a line, and I KNOW there are women who say they can do that, but they think I can change the guys mind. The reason I know this is because my guy friends told me that women did this, so I don't know if I'm just bizarre, but in my own personal life, I've had some FANTASTIC friendships, and they were friends with benefits.\nI forgot to tell you that when it worked this way with me, 98% of the time, we were friends First!! =o)\nBTW I thought I invented that term LOL
187912
how long have you been friends?
359282
Don't have any.\n\nWill you be my friend?
88065
would you ever date any of my friends
968281
yes you can.....get knew freinds
989050
I think friends with benefits is a good thing. Alot of people are afraid of committments these days. As long as everyone knows the rules then there should be no hurt feelings. If one person has stronger feelings than the other than that should be discussed so that no one gets hurt. i have had many fwb relationships over the years and have never lost a friend because of it when you both know the scoop. But there are also peolpe who are my friends who i would never sleep with because i would lose that friendship. Everyone concerned has to know the rules. We all have needs and sometimes need that itch scratched.
269467
Some of us can. I have a girlfriend I am completely happy with. The ONLY interest I have in any other women is as a friend. As for those who can't, they're probably wondering why you can't just accept that they don't want to just be friends. If you just want to be friends, and a guy wants to be more than friends, don't bother with him. You have different ideas about where your relationship should be headed. Or if you do choose to spend time with a guy like that, make it very clear that you're only interested in being friends, that you're not comfortable with him trying to be anything more, and if he makes any advances on you, don't tolerate it.\n\nAdded:\nIf you don't hear from them after you've made it clear that you only want to be friends, the only interest they had in you was as more than a friend. They weren't willing to settle for less, and they have as much right to make that decision as you do to decide that you just want to be friends. Simple as that. What you wanted wasn't enough for them, what they wanted was too much for you. Best to go your separate ways.
1160299
i've hooked with several girls that ended in the "friend zone."\ni,ve also hooked up with girl in that zone just to get closer to her \nfine friend,most of the time,IT WORKS.\nin some cased while in the "friend zone" things have happen and we continued to be friends. that why they call it friends with \nbenefits.
46024
I live with two incredibly gorgeous and endearing women, and not to toot my own horn, but I'm a fairly attractive guy.  We've been friends for the better part of ten years.  Although I admit I fantasize about them every now and again, that doesn't really make them any different than any other attractive females.  I know I'd never want to complicate what we have as friends.
595804
I'd say that depends on the depth of your friendship.  If you're truly great friends, the friendship *can* survive.  But I'd really recommend talking it over thoroughly first.  One of you might want a strict "friends with benefits" arrangement while the other falls in love, and that ain't gonna end up well.\n\nI've had several "friends with benefits" relationships, and they ALL ended up remaining good friends.  But, of course, your mileage may vary.  It's up to the two of you to evaluate your friendship - is it worth the risk for a little fun on the side?
923023
I have before, yes. I wouldn't say I do it frequently though.\n\nI usually go with friends because it's nice to have someone to chat with.