Do you find difficulty in saying "NO" ? I do... which is the best way not to hurt someone?
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Well, it depends on the situation.  There are usually "nice" ways to say no.  However, it comes down to the fact that you need to remember yourself too.  If you aren't happy or don't want to do something, you don't owe it to anyone to explain why.  Just say "no" and be confident in yourself and your answer.  I think the difficulty comes when you doubt yourself and feel like you "should" want to do something.  OR you are worried how the other person will react or might be mad at you for a long time.  The fact is, people forget things fairly easily.  Things we usually think are a big deal are forgotten before we know it!\n\nI do have trouble saying no sometimes.  For me, it's because I can't seem to make up my mind at times.  What helps me is taking time for myself and learning about myself.  As I understand my own needs and feelings more, it's easier to express myself and feel confident in my answer.
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Not at all. \nNo problem actually means you were glad to do that favor without causing any problem for urself. \nNo problem is not offensive reply.\nWould be slightly better to reply as " No problem at all". and with a smile.
1154983
Practice saying no.\nYou can't please everyone.
401243
Honesty is your best tool. I was on sales once and I hated people that gave me an appointment just because he/she was shy to tell me "no" on the phone. They make me waste my time and I make them waste theirs. So a polite "no thanks" (because he/she is only trying to bring food to the table) is more than enough.
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If she refuses, then RESPECT IT! To refuse something in a soft voice still means refusing, and forget the old stupid rule that when woman says No, it means Yes. You certainly don't want her to accept sex under the pressure. Just take your time.
546464
Easy - do it in a way that wont make it look like you're in feet first. If you know her reasonably well and get talking why not suggest a coffee or a drink one night. Then if she says no, you could say something like "oh, no problem, just thought it'd be cool to catch up" - no harm done!
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Tell him that you're not ready to say it and put that sort of label on your feelings. But that you feel for him. That you care about him. When my man first told me, I din't say it back. I told him That I feel for him. It made me really nervous. I told him never to say it unless he means it, because I would never say anything empty.
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politeness can be a form of pretentiousness... like most politically correct thnigs, you're taking into account the feelings of the other person.  it's okay in my book to be polite.  \n\nin your details though, it looks like you're leaning towards asking about those 'little white lies' we tell to spare someone's feelings.  i know when to mince my words, and i have no problem doing this as needed.  it's a valuable social skill (sometimes a survival technique) to have and to be able to use, as long as it doesn't become a habit.\n\nreconciliation::: if what i truly feel will be hurtful to the other person, i tend to err on the side of caution, especially with people who i don't know very well.  i'll bite my lip and pretend to be polite, all the while knowing that no real harm is being done.
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You're asking me?  Then I say NO, you don't.\n\nAm I right?
859679
Hi!..excuse me...are you new around?or if you touch her..Pls excuse me:did I hurt you? try not to be tensed.Be yourself..and words will come naturaly from your own soul.
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A better way to handle it would be to either avoid the aggressive person or assertively state "I am not going to answer that question".\n\nWhy have someone force you into doing something wrong?  Just because that person's being aggressive is wrong does not mean that you need to do something wrong to correct it.\n\nYou know the saying "2 wrongs don't make a right".
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if you find it offensive just smile sweetly (but make sure they can tell you are anoyyed!) if you dont find it offensive, say "none taken" thats the most polite way to say it in either scenarios, but if it really ticks you off, you should use the first one!
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I'm gonna give you two answers on how i would deal....my carnal(fleshly) answer and my spiritual answer\nyou can choose which one to use\n\nCARNAL: hey  I scratched your back, now its your turn to scratch mine.. and if he refuses, say fine, then don't come to me the next time you need something\n\nSPIRITUAL: (this one is harder to do) keep my mouth shut and just don't go back to him for ne thing, but still lend him a hand when he needs it..... when you do the spiritual thing.. God tends to bless you in ways you cant even comprehend
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As honestly as possible.  If there were uncomfortable circumstances, then politely decline to answer. It's best NOT to lie, because lies can get found out.
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I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
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The best way for anyone to say they are sorry, and it seems the hardest way also....\n"I am so sorry."\n\nThere is nothing hard about apologizing except letting your pride down and doing it.
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JUST SAY NO, go on try it!  Again, and Again, see it gets easier as you practice. learning to say No is much easier than learning to be a door mat.