Sould I be concerned that my 10 year old son likes barbie dolls and pictures of bodybuilders?
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no cause maybe he will grow up and wanna f98k a chick that looks like barbie and he likes the body builders cause he sees himself becoming one, and attracting barbie
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Look at all the crap on TV, music, and in cartoons. I saw a Bratz Doll commercial where the girl couldn't have been older then 11 or 12, and she was getting ready for a date, wearing tons of makeup, a micro miniskirt and high heeled boots...oh and her date pops in her window while she's putting on her gigantic earrings. I also saw a Barbie My Scene cartoon that came in the box with the doll, and the My Scene characters are all 14-15 years old and obsessing over "does he like me??", who has the hottest boyfriend, and chasing boys. It's a sad thing, young girls start to think that's what life is all about. \n\nAlot of the girls that post those kinda questions are pre-teens and teenagers and barely decided to put away the Barbies in favor of chasing boys.
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try asking him for a wishlist. that should help. one thing a boy would want is probably legos star wars or something.
737879
Remember those troll dolls?  I think they are creapy!  I never had one as a kid.
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Not necessarily, but she probably is buying into suggestive media that makes her think she is inadequate in some way. At 11, she is really young and probably just beginning her female development. Her body may change after puberty. Make a pact that you won't look at beauty magazines and compare your bodies to those of others--especially the highly manufactured images of the media. That will help with her misperception.
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While having an active imagination is no crime and certainly shouldn't alarm you as a parent, you might consider what these friends provide for your daughter.  It seems like she has experienced some instability in life right now and if she is feeling detached from her father, then she may be concerned that you, her mother might also unexpectedly leave or disappear.  She is only 3 and is limited on her ability to communicate and understand these abandoning feelings and may have created an abundance of imaginary friends because she knows she can count on them not leaving.  She may not be able to say, "Mommy, are you going to leave too?"  But she can create a fantasy of dolls and imaginary friends that support and validate her feelings.  So while I wouldn't say that you should seek clinical therapy for your 3 year old, I would suggest that a sincere heart to heart with your daughter, and some invested mommy time, you could really help your daughter reconnect to the real supports in her life, you!\n\nSuggestion:  Find a way to validate her feelings.  Having a drawing party!  Allow her to draw, and invite her imaginary friends to draw also.  Sit at a table that is age appropriate for her (or sit on the floor) and allow her to describe to you the drawings of all the friends, as well as her own drawing.  You might suggest to her drawing a few pictures.  Maybe one of "our new house". Have another drawing of "our family", and her school/friends, room or house.  You will learn a lot from her and it will allow her practice in expressing her feelings to you, her mom, rather than dolls and friends. Find age appropriate ways of bonding with your daughter.  I would love to hear what you try and how it turns out! Good Luck! emailjacquisoon@yahoo.com
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Hello!! :o) Like some others who have already responded - I'm also curious as to how you know. But lets just assume that you 'accidentally' saw your son and his friend give each other 'hand jobs'. Contrary to what some guys say - a LOT of guys [especially young guys like your son] 'experiment' with each other. And more often than not - it goes no farther than 'mutual masturbation'. It's not a 'sign' of anything insofar as sexual orientation is concerned. [If it was - than MOST guys would be GAY - because MOST guys have had at least SOME same-sex 'experience'!!] But should you DO something about it?! Well... like what?! You certainly can't make it stop. You could - I suppose - threaten him or shame him. But that would just backfire and destroy whatever relationship you have with him. A parent always wants to keep the doors open [Emotionally speaking] and a sure way of closing those 'doors' is to make a child feel ashamed for being HUMAN. IF [and this is a BIG 'IF'] you have a good relationship with your son - and HAVE in past talked openly about things, including [perhaps] sex - you COULD bring up the topic in a 'round-about way. Without actually talking about him [and his friend] specifically [at least not at first] you could mention how normal it IS for kids to 'experiment' sexually with their friend. And let him know that THAT is OK. But also let him know that it's important to be careful about not getting carried away and doing things that maybe he [and his friend] shouldn't BE doing. THEN let him know that your 'door' is always open and he CAN talk to you about anything. AND that anything he tells you will be kept private. [And keep that promise!!] Saying anymore to him at this stage would probably just confuse him. I hope that helps. Craig!! :o)
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ummmmm no, they are dolls, like barbies. and barbies are clearly for girls. so, no, not alright
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Honestly, I never had to discourge my son from playing with barbies and kitchens. He never had any interest in them. (Unless, he was antagonizing his sister, then he might hide them or something.) \n\nAlso, as a parent, I never purchased toys for my daughter with the sole purpose of teaching her to 'bring home the bacon',  and I find that claim to be very offensive and short sighted. I, like most parents, buy toys for my children because they want them, they jump up and down in the stores with glee at the thought of them (no matter what the the toy is) and that makes me smile and want to get it for them.\n\nso I think you are exagerrating the situation just a bit, do you?
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well, first of all, its entirely natural for your kid to be curious about sex, and nudity at this point. and yeah, you need to know where the cards came from. but dont overreact. explain to them that such things are for adults, not for children. nor are they appropriate for school. i assume that the cards have been taken away. its sort of hard to know how to punish a child who doesnt realize that they have porn, and are bringing these things to their friends because they are curious. i personally dont think punishment is appropriate. just make sure they understand that certain things are not for children, and not for public consumption. and this is definately a sign that you need to have a serious conversation with your kid about sex. better it comes from you than one of their enormously misinformed friends or the internet. dont be angry. they didnt do it to disobey. they did it to satify curiosity. so satisfy it in a more constructive way.
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Most boys this age like video games, play station games, match box toy cars, gameboy hand helds.  You could also buy books on subjects that the child is interested in.  Does he like to draw or do artwork?  There are very nice starter art supply centers for young artists.  Models of cars/planes and other kits are often popular.
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ask their friends parents if they have heard anythingabout what your kids want i wouldn't normally give this advice but just incase you have no idea alot of times kids want what their friends are getting or ask their teachers its worth a shot if you are not a parent you could always look for a sight with the results of the most wanted toys for kids at the ages of 12 and8 boy and girl results id suggest asking www.ask.com if there is such a sight in your own words also if you are aparent go ahead and try this then if you see something you like price it just a suggestion
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news of the weird is a good site.  check it out for yourself though before sending your son.  Though it's not an offensive site, not everything may be appropriate for young people.
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is it really safe to give your child a plastic toy??
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Bribery might help, give him something to look forward to at the end of each nine weeks and if he does well you could take him on a mini trip or buy him a game he wants. Some kids are motivated in diff ways so don't worry it might be something personal in his life like friends or girls, hope all goes well!
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I think he's self-focused. I wouldn't be so worried that it was porn, would you feel less abandoned if all the sites were sports?  But, the fact that you needed him, and he would rather stay away than do what needed to be done for your child shows a very self-centered, unsympathetic action. \n\nDo you have other examples?  Do you know if this is the usual response, or if this is unexpected?\n\nMy advice is to talk to him, not with accusation, but just tell him you needed him and you feel hung out to dry.  You are hurt, angry.\nStay always in your own reactions, not putting him on the defensive or assigning motive to him, ask his motive because you are hurt.\n\nGood luck
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No absolutely not. Your one of the few parents that would accept their children for who they r. \nThe fact that u r supportive is fantastic, it shows them u care, and since u know your son and his partner really well there would b no reason to worry.\nYour proud of your son. There is nothing wrong with that. Most kids would kill for a parent as supportive and understanding as you. \nI would just like to ad, that dont do that whole aaagghhhh cute and ask questions and stuff like that. It freaks kids out, no matter what age they r. Its embarrassing, besides if they wanted to tell u something they would have.