Is it right to expect that if you bring up your child in India, s/he will look after u when ur old?
90421
In India - yes, it is fair to expect that. And it will continue to remain that way for some more time to come. "Westernization" is eating into our traditions, but not at a rate fast enough that these values get forgotten in today's scenario. \n\nFor example, in the US way of things, the parents actually want their kids to leave home at some point in life (as I have deciphered based on some questions that have been posted here) so that they learn to take care of themselves at the earliest. But this is not the case in India, where parents go all the way to take care of their children right till they get into their 20s when they can take care of themselves. A lot of their lives revolves around trying to give the best formative years that a child could have. The least these children can do in this case is to reciprocate when their parents are in need. \n\nHowever, that said, the rules are not so valid for women, as it is for men. Women are, and will continute to be considered "others wealth" for quite sometime to come because of the stereotypical image attached with women.
558319
It depends on the boy....he should respect your mothers wishes!
439639
Don't you think it all goes back to the parents, and how they raised their child?  Obviously, since your son is still alive, you, yourself, are on the right track.  RAISE UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO, AND HE WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.  Does that sound familiar?  That's exactly what you have done, and I congratulate you for it!
1107144
of course he has parental responsibilities he made that child he should help you take care of it.
76582
I say you are now in a civilised country.. whilst parents are important the world over, you are the one that has to live with him, have sex with him, have children with him. Sounds to me that you need to marry your parents if you are so concerned
657342
Yes, if it is in the child's best interest.
457694
NO YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT LIKE ANYONE TO GET HELP IF THE ABSENT PARENT IS NOT THERE,BUT IF YOU GET GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE IT CAN.
1079463
No, of course not.\n\nEveryone has a right to live his life as he wishes, as long as he doesn't interfere with someone else's.\n\nUnfortunately, parents want their children to be how they wish THEY had been. So it shocks them when their children choose a different road, whatever this may be.
177022
I'm not old enough to have a granddaughter.\nI wonder why you are asking this question...seems that you are frustrated.\nNo, I would not ask my parents to look after my kids for such a long time......they have their own life and they should enjoy their new-gained freedom. I would not treat them like free baby-sitters.\nBut then I don't know your circumstances either.
1097146
Depends on what state you live in.\n\nMost States do not have regulations or laws about when a child is considered old enough to care for him/herself or to care for other children. Currently Illinois and Maryland have laws addressing this topic. States may have guidelines or recommendations. These guidelines are most often distributed through child protective services and are administered at the county level.
511718
ancient system, i think you can marry her if you leave india for another country
412292
Wow!  Look at all these answers!  The truth is that you HAVE to check what the law is where you live... It does not matter what the law in India is and 3months may or may not make a hill of beans where you are.  In Indiana for example, where I am located, you would have to give them a one month notice.  Twenty miles East of here, in Ohio, the law is very different.  Be very careful about the advice you get here.
132699
i think in some states if you are on the birth certificate as the father then you are the father. live in a commonwealth state chances are this is the case.\ni feel badly for the child he/she shouldn't be made to suffer the consequences of the mother. i hope he/she doesn't feel unwanted in any way.
591217
Absolutely whether you like them or are still with them. you should always respect her for being the mother of your child. One day out of the year show her how much you apreciate what she does for your child.
785971
First, I would like to make one thing clear that whether you would do it right with your Son's/Daughter's marriage.\n\nThe answer is : because in India, we live in a society that bothers more about what their friends and neighbour does rather than what they do.\n\nWhy this matters is more important? is what you imagine.\n\nYes it matters, Parents always want to get a good name to the family and not that Guinness book records or those that make to the pages of Newspaper headlines. Also the society is ready to put a gossip about such a marriage involving a bad brought up by your parents.\n\nIt may be education or marriage or Organ donation... They want us to be their children and not ourselves. They simply ignore what we want to show this world.\n\nI suppose atleast you would not do this to your children.
1149200
Yes. If she files a claim for back child support. You as the Father should have volunteered to help take care of your child.
5500
Definitely yes - just imagine the last hope of children left by their parents. \nBut this is a fragile question: God says you must love and respect your parents. I think we must meet this demand till the point of not giving ourselves up. Being a parent means such great responsibility that it's easy to develop some features of a behaviour of owners or rulers. And besides, there may be some rivalry between the ex-rulers and the more and more independent growing-up personality... Try not to forget what a lot you have been given in your childhood, but keep an eye on your independent developing peronality - and you may find the proper ballance. Terrorists are never right either fathers or sons...