Help I want to break the tension for the first time in my life?
82916
if you're afraid of rejection, you're not ready.  Be casual.  Offer coffe or lunch or something, or invite him along to this or that place under the pretense that you're bored and/or lonely (but not pathetic).  You buy.  Get to be friends.  Maybe he'll look at you a little differently once he gets to know you a bit  :-)
494802
Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
34418
I am currently going through the same type of situation. Basically you have to ask is the stress worth it. If it is meant to be then it will happen. Don't force it. If not, there are more fish in the sea.
653042
Relax. Everybody goes through it and almost everyone is nervous, especially their first time.
473609
live life and enjoy every moment,thats the biggest stress buster.if you love doing everything theres nothing to hate.all in all indulge in yourself...holidays to pedicures do it all.as a part of your life.\nand never do anything you dont want to do. say no you will be much happier.
423188
first off how old are you? and the answer is always going to be if you feel ready to do something then go for it never force yourself to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable!
1091206
Take a long hot shower, try to inhale from your nose and exhale from your mouth and think about how difficulties make us stronger by overpassing them. Wear something nice, go out with some friends, talk about it with them. We've all been there and believe me, it will be allright before you know it.
244754
First, make sure you're not ignoring something that genuinely needs your attention. People need validation, and if this is true with casual aquaintances it's doubly true of spouses. But if you've eliminated constructive dialog from the equation, then you have to find your "center" and zone out until the wave has passed. No one can argue by themselves; it takes (2) to sustain the conflict. Realize though, that what I just said is a practical tactic to handle things while you're in that moment and feeling pressure to respond or explode. During cooler moments, you need to find a strategy to deal with the main source of the communication difficulty. It could be as simple as turning off the television and looking her straight in the eyes while she's talking, or it could be a matter for a counselor to walk you both through. People usually raise their voices when they don't feel acknowledged or heard in any other way. Once you're sure that's not the case, get some competent help in developing your communication skills together. Good luck.
1131529
if u are already physically prepared theres no need 4 u 2 get nervous\nthinking of it will make u even more nervous\ni suggest u do something really different 4 now like playing a videogame or watching tv\nu 'll feel relaxed later
745131
Get your mind of it no matter what it takes. pre-occupy yourself with something that'll keep you busy. You can try talking to different people about it to see their perspectives which may give you some new thoughts on the situation. also the more the think about it the more you're likely ot give in so try your best to avoid dwelling on it. If it's something you want to control at an exact moment (like in your example) i advise you rather keep it to yourself for the time being. Its not good to bottle up feelings, so let it out when you're not around that person any more. This way you feel no regrets. Sometimes I clench my fist or bite by teeth to get rid of some of that anger temporarily... well hope I helped!
139939
I'd suggest that before you go, do something to ease your tension... a little self-love, if you know what I mean. ;)  Then after you get nude, wrap a big towel around your waist like you've just gotten out of the shower.  Then sit back and wait to see what your manhood does.  If you're lucky, you can make it to the water, and it may probably be pretty cold.
478721
You can find healthy outlets to relieve your stress.  You can take a break from the stressor by pursuing an alternative activity temporarily.  You might try reading, exercise, watching TV, listening to music, or any other activity that you enjoy doing.  You can feel refreshed afterward, and return to the original activity with a new outlook on it.\n\nAlso, don't overlook the possibility of talking it over with others.  Sometimes other people's insights can really help you.
63640
Realise that you are not in control of your life and be okay with it. Knowing that there is something out there stronger than you holding the world together is always helpful, also make yourself some tea, and/or then take a bath/shower and wash away you tension
3293
start talking even if it is VERY broken.\nI came through that successfully.\n\nof course, you need somebody who will listen in the very beginning stage and will enjoy listening.\n\nhave fun.
1012155
I'd stay quit. When you feel your mood changing, go for a walk or do something different. Maybe find a radio station that plays some slow jazz, or music that helps you to relax.
371177
Let me rephrase that for you: How do I ease my nervousness?\nNow that that's settled, just drink some milk, watch some tv, think about pleasant things, imagine the audience in their underwear, breathe deeply, empty your mind of all thoughts...\nthat should tide you over, right?
246713
relax and be urself. u will feel less shy later