why dont he like to hug me and touch me and kiss me why is the marriage so dry and cold like i am just here?
81584
Sounds like it's time to hire a private investigator
172031
some men are romantic and sentimental.. MOST ARE NOT... looks like you have found a needle in a haystack girl.. just love him and be thankful. you sound like you have a real winner.. good luck on your marriage.. may it last eternally..
240429
I know when Ive been kissed and felt NOTHING then I never went any further with this person.  I liked being his friend but there were NO sparks there at all.  Maybe its just the way he kissed you.  U did say you felt something when you hold his hand so take charge of the kiss.  KISS HIM dont wait for him to kiss you.  Give this kiss YOUR ALL!  Put your heart and soul into it and if there is still no spark- Id say move on until u find that special magic-that spark with another guy!!!!  Life is way too short to settle for a relationship without spark!  Good luck to u!
376016
hahahaha!! we got exactly the same problem... well, i guess he really loves you but just can't express it the right way. Talk it to him.. tell him what you feel. I guess i have no doubt for his love but maybe he just don't know how to take care of you. so talk it to him so that he will know what you feel. I did that and my fiance is making progress.. i can see that he is doing his best to show his love to me and to attend also to my needs.. just give him a time don't pressure him..
670009
He sounds like a total loser. Sure you're in love with him and don't want to leave....oddly enough that is what a lot of abused wives say before they get beaten to death.\n\nOh well I guess that is natural selection at work, knock yourself out!
736959
I would imagine that part of why you guys are so close is that there is little chance of anything happening between you.  You are married, he is gay.  There is a line between you that keeps you honest.  \n\nI have always been more flirtatious with women who are attached because I didn't feel anything for them and I knew that they didn't feel anything for me.  I didn't have anything to worry about.  When I was with a woman who I had feelings for, I acted differently, didn't want to make too big a fool out of myself.\n\nYou may want to work on strengthening things with your husband.  Try flirting with him, like before you were married.  Surprise him with a romantic candlelit dinner one evening.  Maybe you can turn things around on the home front
370726
This is just the opposite with me and my man! I don't feel the need to have all the kissing! He is the one always with the, "Why don't you kiss me anymore?"
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
1179273
People just don't do this for some reason. Sit down with him and truly tell him how you feel and what you want from him. Ask why he does not show you as much love as you show him. Some people are just like that and it's hard for them to express themselves. I think the two of you shoulf prolong the wedding date until this is figured out. If not then you won't be happy by this time next year.
463732
Most wives tend to give thier husbands plenty of affection. If your wife isn't doing that, then you shoud sit down with her and find out the reason why.
128337
Maybe he ...\n\n.. doesn't want to hear all sort of opinions about it from your close friends / family\n\n.. is afraid they will not accept you and he wants to let them know after you get married and there's nothing to do about it anymore\n\n.. he doesn't actualy love you and he doesn't want to tell them couse he's unsure of your relationship and still lookin'..\n\n.. he thinks you are bad for his image/reputation but he loves you so he just keeps you as a secret\n\n... or another 10 million reasons.. :P
308497
Thats exactly how me and my husbands relationship started!  Thats so crazy and I always thought that I was the only one.  \nAnyways, you can simply ask him what does he like about you and if its not strictly sexual, he should be able to tell you with no problem.\nIt also sounds like he's scared of commitment, and you can be patient if you feel he's worth the wait, but dont allow yourself to be hurt in the process.
493974
interesting question.  Everyone is different.  Sometimes its sex.  Sometimes its comfort.  Sometimes its just plain impossible.  Just treat him well and show you care for him.  Have him hold you and talk lovingly to him find out what makes him tick.  And have fun with him.  He will open up.  Look into his eyes instead of kissing all the time.  Your lips can say what your heart feels.  But the eyes can tell what your soul is longing for.  What we all are really love completion.  Complete him if you can.  BEst of luck and may the elements be with you
859464
okay well this guy is head over heels for you. i think he is trying so hard because he thinks you feel this way about him deep down and your afraid to get out your feelings. what you can do is be sensitive with him. tell him that your more than flattered and surprised that he proposed to you, but we can only stay simple friends right now. im not ready top get married right now and believe it or not i have dreams and goals i want to make come true. and i know you do too. and dont tell me that the only dream you have is to be my husband. i know you have things to accomplish in life. so thats why. we can still be really good friends b ut thats all we are going to be. if you liked me this much you would accept it and move on."if after that he still doesnt understand then maybe you shouldnt talk to him anymore. try avoiding him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. if he does understand then thats one less thing to worry about in life.
689885
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
610099
Marriage is about compromises and mutual respect not about who has what "personal rights and satisfaction". You both sound like you are frequently disrespectful to each other and quite frankly, If you or he always wants to do what you want to do with no regard for the other person's feelings you are not ready for marriage. \n\nTry this for a couple of days, fulfil his needs to the best of your ability and have him fulfill your needs to the best of his ability. I guarantee when each person tries to make the other happy without being wrapped up in their own desires, EVERYBODY is happier.
699080
He likes his bottle of booze or beer which ever .....and that's as far as he can see. It's time for you to leave because for him it's over. There are men out there just wanting and waiting to find love, lovers what have you. You don't need to stay in a loveless marriage go have fun and find your self a new love one that loves you and not the bottle. \n~Best wishes~