Should I tell my boss to stop calling me hun & darlin'?
81377
Yes- ask him what do you think OTHERS would think if they heard this. You need to try harder to keep this a professional setting - for BOTH of us. I don't want anyone to get any funny ideas about us, thanks. (hun...) LOL\n\nNo- everything but the hun should be said to this man. Especially if he apologized but then never changed his actions!
696129
No...screw them, just get another job that's better than the one you had....then when they hear about you, they will kick themselves in the ass!!  ;)
866456
You were 100% correct.\nYou are a professional and should act as such.\nIf I was your employer and I heard you call someone "Daddy" I would question you and remind you that many times you are the first impression of the business and is that how we would want to be represented.\nNow if you are developing a professional relationship with the customer and they requested to to call them by a nickname and you were comfortable with it without losing yours or the companies image as professional then go ahead.
1045610
The stock answer is that the law in this matter should cut both ways. Rea;ity is that this is not always the case. Some will find it hard to believe that any man can be offended by the actions you describe, so be ready for some flack if you go through with filing a complaint. Realize that to make your position unassailable that you should first let your boss know that you find her actions totally inappropriate. If she persists drive on and do what you have to do.
1000132
Oh my gosh!  Now, I love my job and there is noting else I would rather do but...my boss is a micromanager to the nth degree.  She is prolific with the e-mails and has no problem storming into employees' offices to harangue them about the smallest thing.  She is always right and will claim she never said "...xyz..." to you if it comes back that it truly was a mistake. When I came to her and told her I was pregnant and wanted to set aside some time to talk about maternity leave she said:  "You know.  You don't have to keep it."  Yep.  That's right.  Upon returning from vacation, from where she calls multiple times a day, she will inspect the entire building and then send an email outlining the most innane things.  For example:  "Folks.  Upon my return I noticed the mat outside the side entrance was askew.  It should be flush with the door.  Also, it seems that someone cannot flush the toilet properly.  There were toilet tissue flakes floating in the bowl.  Please flush twice to make sure all tissue is disposed of.  For whoever used the stapler last.  Please replace the staples.  The refrigerator in the staff area has a cherry yogurt on the top shelf.  I am not sure if everyone is aware that the top shelf is for my salads.  Please keep all yougurt on the middle shelf."  No lie.  This is almost verbatim.  At one point I had to tell her that a practice that she wanted me to employ was frowned upon by funders.  She told me:  "Do it until someone questions you about it."  Against my better judgement, I did.  It was the board who questioned me about it.  I said  "I have discussed this matter with my superior and was told to continue it."  When she was questioned she claimed to have never had the conversation.  Oh this happens all the time....and not just to me.  Oh I've got enough stories to fill a book.
852415
Touching your back/shoulders and stroking your neck? Making perverse comments? Sweetie, this is called sexual harrassment. As for why they act this way, basically, they're idiots. Don't write them off as just "goofy." There is no excuse for their behavior. One guy went on a date with you and then told everyone? Is he still in high school? They think it's fun to embarrass you. They way immature men like this think, it wouldn't surprise me if they have some sort of bet going as to who can get you to give up your choice to wait until marriage first. The first thing you need to do is not date any of them. That's just a good policy wherever you may work in your life. If it ends badly, you still have to see that person every day and it can cause a lot of problems. Second, when they say inappropriate things to you or touch you or make you feel uncomfortable in any way, you need to tell them they're behaving inappropriately and ask them to please stop. If they don't, or they just think that's part of the game, you need to go to your supervisor and ask him/her to intervene. Just know that if the boss does intervene, this may make for a hostile work environment because then you'll be the girl who "can't take a joke." Sad, but it happens. Conversely, the boss may think you're overreacting and not do anything. At this point, you'll have to make a decision: file a complaint with the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and let them handle it, again possibly making for a hostile work environment; quit and find another job with mature, professional coworkers; do both. Unfortunately, there is no easy solution to this. If it were just one or two guys behaving this way, it might be easier because they'd be the minority. But if all the guys you work with do it, they'll be more apt to stick together and form a united front against you, saying that you're exaggerating or even making stuff up to get them into trouble. If there are any other women who work there, talk to them and see if they're having similar experiences. If so, it will corroborate your claims and give you more credence. I'm sorry to sound so cynical and/or pessimistic, but this is an all too common situation for many women in the workplace. We've all read and heard about things like this. There's even a movie based on a true story about the first lawsuit against a company for condoning sexual harassment called "North Country" with Charlize Theron. It's a disturbing, sad movie, but it shows what some women have had to go through just to earn a living. Finally, don't let yourself be intimidated. Stick to your values, know that you don't deserve to be treated this way and you don't have to put up with it. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your permission. Be strong and stick up for yourself, and someday, if you have children, you can pass that strength on to your daughter or teach your son to have the proper respect for women. I wish you the best of luck.
368926
I assume ur tired of contact/conflict with jane and john doe... dealing with john q public is not very fun... the thing to remember is not to let the bastards get u down... who cares what some loser who ruined his own stuff thinks about you, as long as he comes back as a customer ur doing ur job... ALL GOOD THINGS MUST COME TO AN END and that means the current assignment ur on, even if u liked ur job at some point u will move on.. just do the best u can with what u got and keep the issues real and don't let the average idiot bring u down
237446
The only thing and the best thing u can do if u dont want to leave ur present job is that u have to ignore her(him).  I guess u dont have any other option other than this.. Just have a good professional relationship with her and nothing more.. Dont let her antiques bgo to ur head coz otherwise it will harm ur performance. If ur boss gossips abt u then u canm politely clear the things out with her and say her whats the truth. And for the sleeping part, u cant do much!\n\nBut if u r ready to leave this job(provided u have secured  some other job) then u can do loads of stuff...fun stuff.. U can mess up her papers :) get mad on her if she does something to u.. Tell people that ur boss is a deperate bimbo..etc..i m sure u can make such stuffs happen..\n   But again i know u wont leave ur job.. so..
455371
when i started working in a shop, i had this old guy call about somethin or other, well was just chattin away as you do and he said somethin about alcohol! I replied "oh i wish someone would take me out!" just messin about and bein flirty! if i did!!!!\n\nhe said oh you would would you and put the phone down.  over the next few days the shop was bombarded with calls from him and he kept comming in and wouldnt leave me alone. I was tryin to be polite but this guy just couldnt take a hint!!!\n\nIn the end my manager had to tell head office and they said i wasnt allowed to answer the phone anymore! anyway, he finaly came in with a very long letter explaining in detail why we should be together, after which he gave up on me!!!\n\nit was scary at one point. it was really bad because at the time i was only 22 and very goodlooking, and he was about 62 and really bad looking! i cant work out why he thought i would be interested!\n\nThe moral of the story is!!! Dont flirt with customers at work, no matter how innocent you think you are being!\n\n\nPaul....
387751
What is she crazy? It's a win/win situation. These situations never backfire and always work out!(Can you feel my sarcasm?)Or maybe your female bosses are afraid that once they have a taste of you they will always be craving you and it might interfere with work. I,m the same way with your questions, I can't stop answering them! \n\nIs there brown on my nose? Don't pick me for best answer again or people will think I,m your "answers pet". Ahh who cares, pick me! Pick me!
1068789
I know that I'm going to sound like a prude, but it would have to be hanging up on my boss while she was in mid sentence!! I was being called in on my day off (after just working 15 days straight without a day off and double shifts at that). I told her in no way shape or form was I coming in that day, that the restarant would have to survive without me for the next 3 days and hung up!!
193526
Ask your boss. They aren't yours anymore!\nWhy quit something and keep trying to control it?
930207
Aww don't worry about it .  Just remember your boss didn't become a boss by sitting in one branch stagnating. Even if she is annoyed, it will simply be because you are a good worker, she will still understand you have to move on for your own career. Ignore the idiot above. ;)  Good luck!
266148
You should stop worrying too much about your EVIL boss and continue on with your work... She'll get what she deserves from ABOVE... hehehe
1062666
If you are friends than go for it, let him know that the proper way is to cover the mouth and then apoligize.  If he is just a peer and  you are not his boss than my guess would be say nothing, why cause yourself heartburn over something that is not your problem.  I don't know that I would turn the guy in but maybe the boss could put out a newsletter that is addressed to everyone with a dress code plus manners in certain situations.  No one else would be the wiser and it could solve a problem without causing any hard feelings.  Good luck
871951
It should be, but nothing is ever fair...especially at work.  Just remain completely professional with her and don't let her distract you. You maybe could submit an anonymous complaint to HR also.  You didn't mention the size of your company, but I can't see any organization tolerating that type of behavior from their management!!
150773
I think it depends on if you enjoy your job or not, I mean, if you dont like it than quit! that is if you have another job. If the time schedule is inconvienient, talk to your boss.