what should i do if i have to have an orgasm before my girl?
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This is a case where it's a good thing for a guy to be pig-headed. Don't let yourself accept that you're going to blow first...insist SHE gets to orgasm first and mean it. (You've got to be stubborn though or she'll take you out!)Make yourself believe that you're not going out like that.Here's some practical tips that will probably help, too. First..oxygenate your body thoroughly before you even think about having sex, for example, earlier in the day go for a good run, shoot some hoops or do a bunch of pushups...anything to get the heart pumping oxygen-rich blood to the main vein! That's the principle key to your erection and good staying power. Next, get rid of that first nut privately, and pretty close to the time you're going to get with your lady. ( In the shower before you get with her is a good, discreet time and no one is any the wiser.) That first nut is mostly mechanical anyway; getting rid of it will calm you down to do some good, inspired thrusting and grinding. Lastly, don't do a whole lot of drinking...it weakens you more than you might think. And, if you know she's going to wipe you out when you take her from behind (for example) for God's sake don't start out like that; start in a position where you can maintain a good holding pattern without getting overstimulated. It's all in the planning, DAWG! Good luck.
1156111
Try foreplay! Too many times you guys are in too much of a hurry...the ladies like it slow and easy...give her time....and try the new KY Jelly with the little "tingle"... its a warming massage.
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practice by masturbating, when you are about to come, stop masturbating.\n\nwait until you do not feel the sensation anymore, then start masturbating again, stop, wait then masturbate again\n\nThe effect in the long run is that you will ejaculate longer than expected.  \n\ndo it with your gf too. while doing sex, stop when you are about to come, restart when it does not feel good anymore\n\nyou have to ask her to bear with you, she will understand it \n\npractice makes perfect...
515832
You really don't need medicine! Just learn to control your pace. You can practice with masturbation. You just go until you are close to cumming...but stop short and take a break until that feeling subsides...and then continue again. You can really learn to go as long as you want...and oh that ejaculation will feel good when it finally happens (which is whenever you and/or your partner want it to!). Of course when you are f---ing, you need your partner's co-operation in stopping the friction (her moving too!) when you tell her you are getting close. It takes some practice but it works! As a short term solution I would suggest jacking off a couple of hours before you have sex with your partner. The second ejaculation should definitely take longer.
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If your question is about finishing too quickly when you are with a girl, there are two easy solutions.\n\nFirst wear a condom, which unless you are in a monogamous relationship with someone you know is healthy and want to have children with you should be doing anyway.  It will make prevent you from feeling as much, and as a result you will be stimulated less, you will take longer to reach orgasm, and will last longer.\n\nThe second is to do what Adam Collrolla refers to as “taking a bullet out of the chamber.”  Masturbate, or Give yourself a bit of that good loving a few hours before you intend to be with your girlfriend, it takes the pressure off, and makes things last longer and makes it more enjoyable for both of you.
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Foreplay.  Touching.  Women almost never orgasm by penetration only.  Rubing and touching is necessary, or a nice position that stimulates the clitoris.\n\nMost of the time, honesty is what works best.  If you are making love, and dont know if shes enjoying it, ask.  Or better, act.  Touch her and watch her reaction.  Gentle touches work marvellous!  \n\nI hope this helped!  And good luck!
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do more foreplay to her and try not to touch your penis to anything.  you could use your tongue to make her so arouse and if she is almost there, then put it in so the two of you could come together.  nothing is better that coming together/shouting together.\n\nif you come earlier than her, then continue with tongue playing till she comes.  good luck!
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Be honest with your partner. You're only fooling yourself. Not every woman can have an orgasm through vaginal penetration. There are many other ways to help orgasm. If it's harder for you to reach orgasm, you and your partner should spend more time on you before penetration. And here's a thought, masturbate WITH him. Guarantee you'll have one that way. If not, you'll sure have fun trying.\n Betcha he won't mind either. Come clean now before it gets too deep.
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after the first orgasm, why not get into fore play and use other way to get her come? by than u should be ready to go for second round. you might not feel like coming the second time but at least you can maintain the erection to continue.....
913040
There is nothing wrong with you! It it very common for the guy to climax before the woman. Try things to make it last longer don't let him quit till your done. Or  try more foreplay before sex or try doing whatever works for you when your alone. work it into the sex with your boyfriend. He'll like it too!! Good luck!!
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Personally, I think the best way to please me and to have simultaneous climax is to make sure you're stimulating the clitoris while you are having sex. I've found the two best ways for me is with the man on top if he moves upward so that his pelvic bone is stimulating the clitoris and I move my hips up that way he can feel me getting more excited and I can feel him and then we find a rhythm together. Since it's usually harder for women to orgasm the man usually has to wait for the woman to start and then kinda let themselves go when they feel her kinda tighten and make more noise. The other position that works for me is spooning. I can keep my legs together which gets more stimulation and he or I can also use our hands to help stimulate the clitoris.
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so you are looking for balance ....\n\nplay games that require both to participate. \n\nAlso, when you get her almost to the point of orgasm, stop and let it calm down, then do it again, stop and let it calm, finally the third time let it go all the way.\n\nI have also been told that spontanious is a HUGE turn on.\n\nTry anything that sounds good, but remember they won't have fun if you aren't having fun too.
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the best orgasm ever was from anal sex.  you should do it int he spooning position with a lot of lube and make sure that you go in very slowly.  an inch at a time  good luck she should be fine  but make sure that you clean your self right after to prevent infection as well as do not enter her vagina until you are clean
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Well, size does matter but it's not the only thing that matters in sex. The first rule of great sex is foreplay. Play with your girlfriends breast, kiss her body, rub your hands on her body. The point of foreplay is to arouse the senses and get them excited. Try different things and experiment. The second rule of great sex is motion. Instead of the boring in and out try moving your hips in a circular motion. Also it's important to keep a nice steady rythym, not to slow but especially not to fast. The third rule of great sex is experiment. Try different things like games, toys, food, and even other partners(if your in that sort of thing).If the only thing you want is for your girlfriend to have an orgasm try fingering her before and after penetration. Make sure your nails are well trimmed. The best way to get your girlfriend off is to rub the G-spot. Simply stick your one or two fingers in her vagina.Then simply make the come here motion with your fingers.
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Well, there are many ways to make a woman have an orgasm easily...first of which is attentiveness...be attentive to her and build a rapport....then play. Play with her clit, her vagina, and for God's sake man, make sure you pay attention to her if she indicates she like something take note of it, and be gentle ....unless she likes it rough but she will tell you all of that through her body language.  But most important....ENJOY her and you will enjoy yourself when she has that mind blowing orgasm you want her to have.
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Start with lots of forplay and make sure she's ready before-hand. Then let her start on top and in control.
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The more intercourse you have the better you get at things. If there comes a time where you are about to orgasm, pull it out and place your thumb over the head. It sometimes works. Have you tried foreplay first? Give that a go as well. Sometimes that makes you orgasm sooner than expected as well but if all fails there is always viagra.  It could come down to yourself being too eager as well. Take things slow and in time you will get better at it. All the best and hope you find the right solution to your problem.