How Does a girl get over a fear of meeting or dating a guy?
86259
get to know plenty of guys..and jus talk to them ...and get to know them..\n\nin this way, ull get used to it.\n\nand dun expect anything in return...jus take it easy
856752
well if you guys talked before i wouldnt be so afraid to come out and take the first step, try texting him and see what hes doing over the weekend you dont have to come out and "ask him out" just see what hes doing get him talking to you again and see what happends thats  my advice
958351
Ok hun...I told a guy in high school years ago that I liked him.  He told me he liked me back - and then he got all shy and I ended up feeling rejected.  Yes you CAN just ask her out!  She already said she liked you - she's just dying right now to have you even talk to her!  You have NOTHING to be afraid of!\n\nAsk her out to a movie - see how it goes then ask her out for a second date - add dinner this time.  Once you get to know her better, there is a ton of fun stuff to do in the winter!  Sleigh rides, ice skating, etc.
724836
oh lord. I know what you mean. been there done that. and let me tell you girl.. unfortunately.. it's always going to be awkward at first. there's no escaping it really. I mean you can make a list of things to talk about.. and though it is quite helpful.. it's not going to make that anxious feeling in your stomach go away. but that's the beauty of conversation. it's like writing an essay or a story.. once you get started it's easy as pie. keep in mind that the guy is prolly nervous himself, but you're never going to get to know anyone by avoiding them. just be chill.. try not to show you're a lil scared (I know yeah right huh? lol) and keep that list near by. \n\nhope I've been helpful!
70952
just tell yourself that any guy would be lucky to have you. if you have confidence, it will be much easier. pump yourself up before you know you will see him. try not to look nervous...just go up to him like he's your best friend and be like.."hey, what's up" be casual and let things happen naturally, don't rush it.
640332
well as long as you play safe! you can make some good friends that will boost your confidence and help you face the doubts you may have about dating again! good luck!
208298
It depends really on your, resources and how old you are. Like if you can't drive yet, if there is a school trip or something, hang out and sit close. Or if you want like a more datish situation I'd start with just going out with some friends. (Or hint, hint an older sibling, if you have one.) Like a group or double date. You might want to pick somewhere were you're comfortable and can talk first, instead of jumping into the movie scene, where there would be major pressure and little emotional connection. \n  As for how I acted towards them, hmm... can't I just not answer? lol. *blush* At first I would so destroy the conversation, I got massively nervous, but some how I would manage to find something to say. Oh well, he was shy too so we would end up laughing at eachother. But then you get used to eachother, so even though they still give you butterflies to where you lose all ability to think, you aren't as worried about how you act, and are more normal towards them. \n  What I did was started to call him several nights a week to get to know him, and figure eachother out. Yall I know it's so much easier to say than do. But after awhile you get use to it, he'll call you, and you won't be able to go to sleep without talking to eachother first. Eventually, you'll know if you're right for eachother and your going out just kind of happens, you just need to confirm it with eachother. It worked for me, and we've been going out for over a year or two.
592860
I, like you, was hurt by rejection or having to go separate ways from a relationship that would have been more taxing for myself and the girl to keep going with.  This caused me to be reclusive and not wanting to meet new girls.  I had a wall of sorts up for quite some time that kept me secretive and guarded -- with no entertainment at all of the notion of sharing myself with another.  In time, somehow, you will have the confidence to take the chance and try again with someone that encourages you to let out all your good qualities to show what a good person you can be.  Somehow, you will know when you meet that person.  I can't tell you how you will know when that happens -- that's the stuff no one can easily explain, I'm afraid.
845078
Hey, don't sell yourself short!  Just the way you explained your situation was wonderful.  You knew what to say, your charm and energy comes through, you expressed your feelings very well, and it was as "convesational" as posted question can be.\n\nI know it can be scarier to talk to girls without your friends around, but you know what?  The girls aren't all that sure of themselves either!\n\nDon't necessarily approach someone for a conversation thinking of it as a "date conversation" - just be yourself and start talking about whatever, and as the conversation progresses you can always say you would really like to continue and would she like to go out sometime.  Be casual and don't sweat the small stuff.  Remember, she's probably as nervous as you are!  You already are the kind and funny guy who can speak up and talk to girls for dates.  Sometimes we keep ourselves from doing something simply because we're nervous about it.  Life's too short for that, and I can guarantee you that the girls are wondering what they can do to get you to ask them out!  Just relax, be yourself and you've got it made.
794334
ok, what you need to do is just try and start a conversation with him. i have a friend that has a real fear of talking to guys she really likes. i tell her the same thing just start a random conversation. i am the type of person who can just start talking to any one without being scared.
67897
you have so much nerves in you that makes you feel kind of a stage fright feeling,major butterflies.maybe someday you will be able to not have those feelings and actually talk to him or he will talk to you.if you dont talk to him,you might be loosing your chances with this guy.you never know.just try to say a simple hey,or hi or what ever you say.
1118005
I would have to know you to say exactly. My sister was a beautiful girl in high school and never got asked out. Then at graduation, a lot of guys said they thought she was already taken. If you walk with confidence, some dudes are intimidated. If you don't show much skin, you send a signal that you're not easy. Just believe in yourself, spend time by yourself, be good to yourself, get to know yourself, and be glad you don't have to deal with all the b.s. that comes with relationships. I can tell you this, a guy that is special to you will come along when you're not expecting it at all. That's always the way it works.
116205
Try one way, and another, and another; until you learn how to get to know a girl without making an idiot out of yourself. But certainly, you should first lose the fear of making a fool out of yourself, and that's 50% of the battle won. The rest is practice.
427194
All I can say is don't be afraid. If you are, overcome it by spending more time with him directly (like studying with him) or indirectly (like hanging out with him and his friends) etc... get to know him better, let him get to know you better and move on from there.\n\nIf you aren't afraid, then what are you waiting for? Just invite him to a party or something. If he likes you and wants to take it a level higher, he'll make it clear.\n\nGood luck!
2241
My advice is find a girl who has similar issues and personality type so she can relate to you and establish some trust. I think that would eliminate the fear componet if she has been though what you have. Finding her is a whole other issue and let me know if you can figure that one out.
605936
It is okay to have some time between relationships with guyes.  Hang out with your girl friends, be nice to yourself and  treat your self.  Work on your shyness by voluteering for things that gets you out of your shell,  talk to people.  \nThe best place to meet nice guyes is in church.  God loves you and if you go to church, God will bring nice guyes into your life.  You are probably a nice girl, dont settle for a scum-bum over the internet.
163588
There's no easy way to do this.  But I'd try to keep two things in mind:\n\nFirst, you're under no obligation to like someone just because they like you.  \n\nSecond, you are under an obligation to be honest, direct, and kind.  \n\nAs a guy who spent a lot of his teenage years getting turned down for dates, I'd say the way to go is to be polite, direct, and firm.  Don't express revulsion, or hold out false hope.  Just say "I'm sorry.  I don't feel the same way about you that you do about me, and I don't want to go out with you."  There's no need to be mean, but at the same time don't be apologetic about your feelings.  Don't tell him "maybe later", don't tell him it's because you're seeing other guys, don't tell him you can just be friends.  Break the news to him calmly, politely, and then -- this is really important -- LEAVE.\n\nLeaving is very important.  Guys have a nearly infinite capacity for self-delusion.  If you tell him "no" and then hang out with him, he might convince himself "Oh, she's just saying that, but really she likes me!  That's why she's spending time with me!"  Believe it or not, the kindest thing you can do for this guy after you break the news is to get out of his life and stay away from him for a while.  That will help him get over you more quickly.\n\nGood luck