What one must do when , at 63, he keps on thinking, eating, sleeping and dreaming raw sex only?
97648
Todays 60s are yesterdays 40s.  Go get you some.
137662
Age is only a small factor in a mans sex drive.  At 43 depending upon his job and if there are other factors in life stressing him out he may only have time for sex a couple of nights a week.  On the other hand if life is good and everything is going great he may feel like having sex every day.  At 43 though unless he is in really great shape his body is starting slow down a bit and while he enjoys sex just as much it probably takes more time to get him excited and he probably doesn't recover as fast after.\n\nNow after all that I have to say that your decision to marry him shouldn't be about sex unless there is a major difference in your sex drives.  I think there needs to be some compatibility in sex drives but it shouldn't be even in your top 5 of things to consider when deciding to marry someone.
196073
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!   Don't deny your sexuality.  There is NOTHING wrong with you.  There is something wrong with our society if we think it is wrong to have a sex drive when you aer old.  KEEP FEEDING THOSE DESIRES!!!
504764
Ya like other answers..hes trying to find a mother figure in his life. Did he have a good relationship with his mother??? Im guessing not. Its basic phsycology really...in early development of children, in the phallic stage, boys have sexual tendencies for their mothers and vice versa. Im guessint that his mother did not nurture him and therefor he is still trying to get that source of fufillment there. Even in your relationship it seems you were a little old, but 56 is down right weird. The unwritten law is that u must divide ur age by 2 and add 7....that is around the age you shud be..of course with a slight leancy to either side. You do not make it and a woman of 56 CERTAINLY does not make it. I would say that this man is having an identity crises and a sense of loss.
719535
sexual maturity at 25 and live to aprox 80 years
1063546
don't think about sex
458852
I hope you're still reading answers.  This is more common than you probably think.  Dr. Phil did an entire episode on this and has an entire section on his website.  After reading many psychology and relationship books and going to 4 years of therapy plus couples counseling with some very renound doctors in Los Angeles, I realized how many people have issues with intimacy.  Sex is intimacy.  Many men result to porn because there is a disassociation with having to get really intimate.  They can just get to the point.  In most societies, men aren't taught how to become intimate (vulnerable).  It's viewed as a weakness.  Only in relationships through a strong women's leadership does a man learn a lot of those behaviors.  I don't think your problem is physical as much as it is emotional and mental.  The categories we fall into as far as priorites are the following: for men it's Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual.  For women it's Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual.  you can see that we are clearly programmed different.  The key is trying to find a good balance.  Trying to get in touch with each other's vulnerabilities.  I totally disagree with the comment of look at it with him.  That only distances you more.  Not an option.  You have to gently lead him and teach him (without him realizing he's being taught) how to get into the mental and emotional part of intimacy (sex).  You can do this several ways:  when you're NOT in bed, ask him "what was the worst thing an old girlfriend did to you?"  this gives you insight into his fears or insecurities and then acknowledge that that couldn't have been easy for him.  Second: what do you like most about sex?  Really important to pick up clues here.  He will either describe very physical things OR things like "I like to see you naked, I like to touch, I like this, that".  This says that he is in touch with the mental-good!  And learn to play on those likes.  Also, do not feel ashamed to say "listen, I have to say that it bothers me when you look at porn because I feel inadaquate as a women, I feel like I'm not good enough, I feel threatened that I can't measure up and I'd really like you to stop".  The Harville Hendrix book (NY Times best seller and on Oprah all the time) is a fabulous book.  changed my life, Oprah's and many others!!!
298656
Something fishy here Charlie : why does you want to hear from women only?   And how come no sex in your dreams?  The degree of repression required to achieve this staggers the mind of a simpleton like me.
690495
sounds like he`s not sexually conservative no more.hope she don`t have a mid-life baby-women can be very fertile at this age.
251528
1st off if you have to asked that question sweetheart don't have sex with that older man...  a week isn't time enough to be sharing something that special with him. 2nd go to his house for dinner and then invite him to your house... Go on more dates... drinks only... he is using you.\n NEVER GO TO A HOTEL especially if you both have homes.
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YOU'VE HEARD THE EXPRESSION "IF YOU DON'T USE IT YOU WILL LOSE IT."\n     I'm 67 went thru various difficulties,injuries,etc. hormonal levels decline with age...\n     sometimes medication will supplement to a degree...\nreally didn't notice much decline until about 63 but it's still there... the drive can still be there ,but if diabetes,nerve damage,testosterone levels and many other factors, all taken into consideration,including mental effects which are usually blamed first,but not always the case continue to plague the situation then other action may be taken...\n\nHAVE YOU TAKEN YOUR VITAMINS ?\n\nRESTORED CONFIDENCE AND SELF ESTEEM AND A YOUNGER PARTNER CAN DO WONDERS , AND A INFLATABLE PENAL IMPLANT CAN DO WONDERS...
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No... he is dreaming.  You have no more control over your own dreams as you do your spouses.  For all you know, he could be talking about his 80 year old neighbor that used to terrorize him as a kid, so now she haunts his nightmares.\n\nJust let it go.  It means absolutely nothing.
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I believe indefinitely, for a woman.  I lived at the hospital with my husband for 3 months, 9 yrs. ago.  The thought of sex was not there.  He did die.  When you don't think about sex, there is no problem.  I could go on indefinitely without sex.  And I don't need to masturbate.  Keep busy at all times.  Life is more interesting and fun that way, anyway.
238702
Oh, God, yes, I am 41 and totally gone over a 53 year old.  His experience is what I need most.  After the immature last one the older man is so hot!
1059612
stop having sex at all. he goyya learn some lessons. no apologizing, no happy hours. and no offence, but only a deepshit do like this. man always gotta apologize, no matter if he's right, or wrong.
510664
WHEN HE DONT WANT TO AVE SEX NO MORE
505026
Seriously, take a break from sex, for now. Get a book on massage, or something, and work on being intimate without the sex. But don't back him into a corner because he's trying to be honest with you, without hurting your feelings. (Like all men, he's obviously very bad at it.) Don't take it personally, either. I used to take it very personally because my ex didn't want sex, but when I look back, I realize we had a great sex life, and he probably was just tired!