what should i do when the girl i loved got a baby by one of my close friends?
92085
She proved to you that she did not love you when you were away. Your best friend also proved that he could not be trusted. You know once you take her back and if you move in together that you are also responsible for the raising of the child. In my opinion you would be better off to find someone else for you. She has already screwed around on you once and by being with her you will feel that evry day when seeing their baby.
173020
this is a personal thing for me to discuss, but hey, you asked the question.\n\na few years ago, i gave birth to a baby girl that i knew i couldnt afford to take care of. my ex b/f wouldnt get a job, wouldnt help me at all through my whole pregnancy. when i was about 6 months pregnant, i found a wonderful family to adopt her. the mother had always wanted to have a little girl they have 3 boys (GREAT kids) and after thath she was unable to conceive. so i began talking to her on a daily basis, they flew me to the state they lived in to give birth to their daughter. the whole time i was in the hospital, the mother (name withheld) spend most of my stay in the hospital with me. \nto this day, i wonder what my little girl is doing, and things like that..i havent talked to the family since i got home from basic training and ait,but i know, that my little girl is receiving all of the attention, and love that she deserves..both of which are things i could have (and still in my heart) gave her, however there is no way i could have afforded to give her the awesome life she deserves.
356938
If he's such a good friend of yours why hadn't you met his wife before the party? I don't know that I,d tell him right away I,d ask her first if the baby is yours. But before you are all set to be babies daddy you better request a blood test to make sure its yours. Chances are you and her husband might not be the only  ones who could have fathered her baby if shes that fast to have sex with someone shes never met with her husband that close by.
57023
Yes, support her and help her through this pregnancy.  If she decides to keep the child (which will be difficult, but possible) help her finish high school by getting her homework for her.  If she decides to give the child up for adoption (the best choice) help her through this time by being there for her.  If she decides to end this childs life, pray for her, but don't give up on her.  This is not a good choice, I have been through it and I still regret it to this day. I am forgiven, though......
572484
Be her friend!  Help her plan for the baby first of all and then help plan the wedding.  Just buy her something wherever she's registered.  I think right now she could probably use moral support from you than material things though.
229612
Unfortunately you have no control over what someone else does.  If your baby's father cares about your feelings, he will ask that girl to stop calling him.  Otherwise, you probably need to look for a new man in your life.
40227
The sooner she tells her mom, the better. For the sake of your friend's life and her baby's, she should be getting prenatal (before the baby is born) medical care.  \n\nIf I were her mom, sure, I'd be...pissed off. Then, after I cooled off, I'd remind my daughter how much she's loved, and tell her that we would face this together.\n\nBut that's just me.. :)
215250
You both still young, maybe take a abortion. Taking care a baby is not easy and huge responsible. If you both haven't confident to raise the BB up. Then don't bring to earth for suffering.
784938
Suck it up and go. Stop being selfish and be happy that those two people have found love. Of all the people they know, they invited YOU, be grateful for that. It's their day and you're being a big baby about it.
1068763
This should be the woman's choice. She has to carry the baby, then ultimately has to raise it. Not telling her guy might save her from being bullied into something she doesn't want. Maybe she felt that if she told you, you would try to change her mind and she really didn't want you to. If you want a relationship with her , respect her decision and get over it. The time for a baby was not right for her.
1182123
Don't know if this is going to offend you, but I suggest Praying for her.  God works in mysterious ways and he has a plan for her and the baby.
707897
You did nothing wrong.  When you have a chance, talk to her alone, face to face.  It's her fault in the first place for playing baby games.  Tell her you can't apologize for something that wasn't your fault.  That you hope you & she can be friends.  Let her know what she did wasn't cool & you felt awkward when confronted.  You actually stuck up for her!
460165
Whoa....nasty scenario. Not sure I'm qualified to answer this, but let's see...\n\nIf the baby is yours you should definitely take care of it. I have an 18 month old girl and she is the center of my world.\n\n If you are considering an abortion you need to ask yourself if you can live with that. Some people can't, and regret it for the rest of their lives. Depends on who you are I guess.\n\nIf it's not yours, you need to decide how much you love/want the mother. I'd be concerned because she's not only having sex, she's having unprotected sex. You could catch something very nasty if she keeps that up. Also ask yourself, how would you deal with it if she did this again??\n\nIf you love her deeply, and the child is yours, see if you can work it out, but remember that you may not be able to trust her\n\nIf it is not yours, then decide if you can handle that and stay with her. If not, she's history, and no regrets. Find someone who won't cheat on you.\n\nIf you can't stand her anymore and the baby is yours, fight for custody. It will be worth it in the end.
1039333
Tell her that even though she may not want you, thatyou are going to be there for your baby. It is the right thing to do. You dont have much control over wether she wants you back, but you do have control over being involved in your childs life. Be a big part of the childs life regardless, you will find out what unconditional love is. That decision is up to you. congrats!
689314
i think maybe he is starting to feel something for you since u r having his baby,..but if u are with someone else dont blow it.. let ur friend make the first move as to his feelings for u
318164
Be their for her! I got pregnant at 15, and basically all my friends bailed on me. She has got to tell her mother cause she will eventually find out, and I'll bet she would rather hear it from her that from somewhere else.plus she HAS to get prenatal care if she wants a healthy baby. her mom will probably be disappointed but parents tend to roll with the punches. she'll get over the hurt and anger and it will be OK. as for her BF If he's an asshole like that than she don't need him anyway. You can be a perfectly good single parent just make sure she files for child support.\nIn a weird way all babies are blessings. I don't know where I would be today if I didn't have my son. but from now on tell her to wrap it up even though she is already pregnant she can still catch a disease.
369914
It's so hard when a child is involved,you are always going to be second best to her baby(it's the same with single dads,I know from experience),but if you truly love this lady and you want to make it work,then tell her how you feel,share your thoughts on children and suggest that you and her son should spend some lads time together,this way you score brownie points and give him a little male input as well.Don't ever change who you are for someone else and if she insists that her son is the ONLY  man in her life,let her go.\nGood luck