What would you do if your 9 year old son was battered by his 15 year old half brother.?
91247
why would you even leave them in the same room together after the first time? councling, councling, councling for the 15 year old, before he really hurts someone or him self for that matter.the 9 year old may need councling over this matter also. Call your local youth program threw the state and they can help "child welfare"
467785
get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
1038982
It's against the law in all states.  I am sorry that your brother did this to you.  You are doing the right thing for him as well as for yourself.  There will be healing that will come with this.  Keep you a head up.
374737
It sounds like you guys could use some family therapy.\n\nIt also sounds like maybe your husband and older son don't really understand your younger son's disability. I wonder if maybe they have been too lazy to learn more about it. Either way, their behavior towards your younger son is unacceptable. What they are doing to him amounts to bullying, pure and simple. Stand up for your younger son, and let your husband and older son know that their behavior will not be tolerated.
478951
He is your son...call the cops and child protection services,unless you have something to hide?
175807
Oh, I really feel for you. It's very hard to face this sort of situation.  If you know where he lives, send him a letter telling him exactly what you have told us; that you love him and miss him dreadfully, that you miss his friendship and him being in your life.  You don't say how old you both are, but if he was quite young when this happened it may be that he is regretting his hot-headedness (you might find that out when you establish contact with him, but not initially), and he may later welcome the chance to get back in touch with the family through you.\n\nBut if you want to contact him, you need to make it plain that if he doesn't want contact with his parents, that's regrettable but perhaps understandable, but it isn't his relationship - or lack of it - with them that bothers you, it's the relationship between the pair of you that you want to heal.  However, you will also need to be very careful about your own relationship with your parents.  It could hurt them dreadfully if they find out that you have been in contact with your brother, and hurt people tend to lash out.  It may be that your brother felt very hurt if you seemed to take their 'side' rather than his in whatever happened when all you were trying to do was mediate, or just got caught in the crossfire, and he lashed out at you.\n\nJust spend some time putting your thoughts down on paper, don't condemn him in any way at all, and tell him you will always love and miss him.  I hope it all works out well for you.
964576
This is terrible situation, but I know you already this.  I feel really bad for you and your son because I do know what it feels like to be at your wits ends.\n\nI suggest you continue to talk to the people at the school, but also send them letters identifying the problems along with the date and time of the incidents.  This will create a paper trail.  A paper trail will help you in two ways:  documentation so that when you take this matter to the school board or higher no one can say I didn't know; and, in the unfortunate event that the bullying gets so severe that you must seek legal action.\n\nAlso, did you try contacting the parent of the other child involved.\n\nI wish the best for you this is a really tough situation and it is hard to think when you and your son are being impacted so greatly.\nRegards...
513440
It depends on what the abuser did.  If I saw a child get a spanking when they were acting out, I would probably frown upon it but that's almost overstepping boundaries if it was a simple spat on the butt.  Yet if I saw a parent just physically abuse their kid, I would definitely call the cops, testify and do everything I could to help that child.  I have seen what child abuse can do to a kids mind and how it affects them even when they are adults, so hell yeah I would do something.  If not walk up to them and tell them to take their hands off the child and inform them that the cops are on the way and prevent them from leaving.
282901
Tell your parents, tell the principal, kick their ass..Do you have any brothers.
904887
First of all, this isn't your fault it happened. And don't worry about your mother. YOU have to do what you need to do to help and take care of your own children. And if that means taking them to counseling or reporting them to the police-then do what you need to do!!! \nIt's up to you whether or not you report your son, but either way, I'd keep him away from your daughter. I would also seek counseling for your daughter if she isn't already. This is a very sad and sensitive issue. But she probably needs to talk to someone.  You may even need to talk to someone yourself. This must be terrible for you as well. I couldn't imagine going through something like this. It's always best to hear the victim out-and that is your daughter. Good luck in what ever you chose to do. You're in my thoughts.
1137089
depends on how old the brother is. if he is a child then please speak up for his sake to your parents and the cops. \nhttp://pediatrics.about.com/cs/childabuse/a/reporting_abuse.htm\n If the brother is older then talk to him about it! \nand  when asked questions, answer as facts that you know and try to avoid emotion as it only confuses the situation. if this is true there may be other victims that you could help by speaking up and stopping him. \ndo not confront the peson doing this as you don't know how they will react. \nalso, him being gay or straight has nothing to do with this-both gay and straight people molest boys. \nI know you love your uncle but you have to do the right thing and be strong.
1126721
I think it's ridiculous that this guy is getting what amounts to a slap on the wrist. I have no child, so I can't say for sure what I would do, but I would be pretty upset if this were the outcome.
230212
Either hit him back . . . or use the great equalizer . . . \n\nI have you scratching your heads. . . don't I.\n\nLet me explain . . . my dad had two bigger brothers that picked on him . . . and beat him up.  One day his mother said . . . "Stop it or one day . . . he will pick up a great equalizer . . . and put it to use."\n\nOf course . . . you know kids . . . they don't listen.  One day . . . . my dad's brothers were yelling "Help, help . . . he's going to kill us."  My dad's mom walked outside . . . and saw my dad chasing his two brothers swinging a 2x4 . . . and she yelled out "Told you so"  walked back into the house laughing.  They never picked on him again.\n\n- - \n\nYour brother may be younger . . . but you may not have the physical strength . . . to teach him this lesson . . . if you need to . . . pick-up an equalizer . . . and print this out and give it to your parents . . . they may punish you . . . or after reading this . . . they will probably laugh their A** off.
317605
I was raised in a lot of violence. I once (the only fight I have ever been in) beat up my father. It was the scariest thing I have ever felt, like a blinding rage. Neither of us won, as far as I can tell there is no winning in violence. My brother walked in and stopped me, I was so crazy in that moment that I didn't even know what I was doing. I just knelt down next to him and wept. No victory was won that day, I felt no better, had not gotten even.
772307
Bonjour, and so sorry, how hard it must be. You have been through a lot of hardship, and your boys. Your question stated that your boys are anti american. But really you know that this is a symptom of a larger problem not about America. This is about your boys' grief which boys are not socialized to express or handle. Your boys were abused or witnessed abuse. They are suffering inside. They have split loyalties between you and their father. How terrible it must be for them to feel that torn. This points to the amount of denial your boys are in regarding the abuse. Kids love and idolize their parents and blame themselves often for the problems of the parents. This is a survival mechanism of the human. On top of this they are taken away from anything they felt they did have control over in their environment-their old schools and friends. Their way of life. Their language. Their culture. You cannot make them love America, or love your new husband. I think you all need family therapy (excluding your new husband for now) or maybe the school counselor can help. Ultimately, do not oppose them or give them Shoulds and musts" but join them in their sorrow, their pain, give them the words that they have been denying. Honor their reality. It is as real as yours. Not wrong. Just different. You are trying your best to give them a good life, I am sorry they don't have the emotional maturity to understand this. But actually, if they are behaving badly it is because they feel safe with you-an honor and a privilege, but very difficult. They are communicating their deepest and darkest pains with you in the only way they know how. Love them in and through this, and seek counseling for yourself if no one else will go. Love yourself for being courageous and the mother that is there for them when the father was being abusive. Good luck sister.
1006149
no, i do not think you should.. how would you feel if some real damage happened to  your brother... and there very easily could be.. you do not know what could happen and neither does he...people jumping on your stomach can do great damage.. he wants to prove he is tough .. for why... i would not go along with it and have it on my consious anyway...but you are the one that has to live with it if damage is done... so i hope the best for you all..
815763
Give it a few years. Your brother is very aggrivating right now but after a few years, perhaps you will be the best of friends.