my ex gets to see our granchild so why can't i?
91522
In most states, grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren. You should talk to a lawyer.
1176361
Hopefully your ex isn't being a total B*&%$.\n\nMy kids did the same thing to their dad when we divorced. I literally had to pry them off my neck to make them go with him. I sat them down and talked to them and things got a little better. \n\nIt is hard for kids to understand mom and dad not living together anymore and the child prefers to stay at the home that is their main residence.\n\nMake sure that when you do have your child you spend plenty of quality time with them. Taking her for a day at the park and playing is free and makes for some good quality time together. Also a nine year old child usually does not place a lot of attention on fathers day like they do mothers day because they are not in school at the time to make that sweet little card or gift.\n\nTry talking to your ex and voicing your concerns to her. If you can work together for the good of the child that would be a great thing.
989355
Your child is still a child until age 18, and until then your ex can file contempt charges against YOU if your children do not go to him on his legal visitation dates.\n\nYou really ought to encourage them to go.  You'll be the one in legal trouble if they don't go.
1023132
I am in the same boat as you are.  I'm 17 and i've never seen my dad.  I think that if you really want to go see him then nothing should be holding you back.  Let your heart be your guide.
203029
You can be emotionally free of that person, but you will never be freed of the responsibility of the child you both made. You owe the other person respect as the childs parent, but nothing more. Tell him your relationship is over, and other than conversation about the child and the childs needs, you have nothing to discuss. Do not argue, do not meet anywhere. Drop the child off at his mothers when it's time for visitation and pick the child up there. You have to separate your personal life from him.
357534
If you have concerns, I wouldn't send the child. \n\nThere are ways that grandparents can legally obtain guardianship of grandchildren. They can file motions to protect, motions for emergency guardianship, etc, by claiming that you are an unfit parent. Then, while they would have the burden of proof, it would still be a lengthy and expensive proposition for you to contend with. Your attorney would have to be located in the same state that the petitions were filed.
1177414
As a previous single mom of 2, I was in the same boat.  I am now remarried and had to deal with my current husband going thru that as well.  Unfortunatley, child support and vistation are 2 different things.  Ask yourself why his ex is refusing to let him see his daughter?  If there is a court order, he can call the police or take her back to court to prove that she is not abiding by the court order.  He can not just stop paying support cuz he doesnt get to see the daughter.  There may be a lot more to this than the surface shows.  Think carefully.  Is this the type of man you want to father your child? He should want to build a relationship with the daughter.  If not, he needs to go thru the legal system to sever his ties to the child, regardless how long it takes.   Good luck.
1039072
My ex pulled stuff too. Your ex will probably get away with it. Just concentrate on the custody. People like your ex will find a way of getting out of paying and you don't want someone like him raising your child.
1170061
if you'll excuse the fact(s) that i am not english and hardly know an english law why can't you get together with an EX-teacher ... emphasis on EX just as you displayed in your question\nso she's your EX-teacher therefore making you her EX-student so um, go fer it!
1158511
I would certainly try to get full custody in that situation, but the courts might not think it warrants taking the child away from their father and merely tell him not to let them be alone with their grandfather. Also, I would look into getting a restraining order on their grandfather.
202926
OUCH. \nWow that sucks. Yeah if she is dating someone else already then she should have had enough time to put some things together for your child to have. I would go about it gently so as not to pi** her off, where then your child may not get anything, but I would really try to maybe talk to her and say, you know, *insert child's name here* really misses their dad and it would really mean a lot to them if they could have some things to hold on to to remember them with. That's a tough one, sorry I don't have any brilliant advice.
433556
Alway's think of the child first.It look's like your ex-gf is going to make your life a living he** anyway.If you really want to be in your child's life,take your ex to court,and get visitation right's after the birth.Sometimes,but not always it help's to know wheither her parent's are on your side somewhat(IT MIGHT HELP YOU).I've been through this kind of crap before myself.Good luck to you.
1176256
These days laws and the enforcement of them is just Crazy. Anything seems possible, but as long as the daughter is not subjected to any unhealthy situations I don't think his ex has a leg to stand on. Good Luck!
771957
My ex-husband does see my daughter (3yr) but definitely not as often as I would like him to and esp not as much as my lil girl would like to see or hear from him for that matter. She has said things to me like "Daddy doesn't like me" and other random comments that should never come out of a child's mouth esp at that age. It literally breaks my hear to her think such things and it drives me crazy for the fact that I am powerless to do anything about it. I have made several attempts to tell him that he needs to spend more time with her and even told him what shes been saying...The girl has called my dog Daddy and even one of my female friends...You would think that would've been a wake up call to him but it wasnt. So I always tell her that he loves her very much and that he's just at work right now and would be here to see her if he could. I know it's a lie (well at least that he's at work and coming to see her) but the child does not need to know he choices and actions and if he continues on this path, she will learn it on her own in time. Don't say anything to a child this young about his father not wanting to see him. It will just hurt him and he doesnt deserve that. As much as it will probably kill you to do, just say positive things and at least for now make this child really believe that his father does love him and is there for him at least in spirit. It is your job to make this child happy and I know it is a tough burden to put up a facade to your lil one for someone who doesn't deserve this child's love or attention but it is his father and you have to do what's right. Once again I am deeply sorry that you are going through this and I am esp sorry that your son has to go through this too. I sincerely hope that his father comes around for him and stops being a selfish inconsiderate asshole. Good luck and please be strong not only for you, but for your son...youre all he's got and you need to be the better person in this.:)
941310
What can you do? Apologize and if that doesnt work, its not like you can NOT let your child go there if he/she wants to... ya know? I think your family should DEF forgive you for things that are that far in the past, but its not my call... Good luck sweets.
92378
Slimeball isn't good enough! It is apparent that he isn't interested in seeing the daughter but uses her as a tool to get to you. It would be difficult i would think to have his rights revoked but may be worth a try seeing that he is dating children. I would at least try.
1058119
Go to the BBQ and let your daughter meet her uncle and half siblings. You and your daughter are the invited guests and it doesn't matter why your ex won't be there although I wouldn't be a bit surprised if your ex's brother deliberately did not invite him to keep the peace with you. Give it a chance and you and the ex's family can agree to not disgree. No matter what has happened between you and the ex, your daughter is still a part of that family's flesh and blood.