how does a married couple find friends after their children are grown and gone?
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Find the things you enjoy either separately or together and join some clubs - a bowling league, poker night, ballroom dancing, gourmet cooking classes - whatever you like. When you join these activities you will keep yourself occupied even if you don't make new friends, but meeting people that enjoy the same things as you do will no doubt end up in new friendships. :)
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Yes!  My good friend chatted along time and talked on the phone for awhile.  Then they met.  Spent the weekend together..  Got married 6 months later.  Its been 9 yrs and still going strong.  I also know that my babysitter met her now husband on the net and they have been married for 5 yrs now and also still going strong.  And all had kids from different relationships and now both couples have a large extended family. Its been awesome for them all.  My private joke to them both is The Internet Love Family!  LOL
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Try looking up their details on Friends Reunited or Genes Reunited?! Good luck x
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Married with 2.4 kids
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Well, I'm not going to lie and say it's easy, but when I was 31 I was just getting divorced from my first wife, and dating a girl I met in a Burger King (of allplaces) for a while. That relationship ended kind of mutually.\n\nThen I met my current wife online. And here I am. By the way, did I mention that this marriage involved emigrating from England?\n\nAnyway, I didn't rest on my laurels for one minute. As soon as I was free and clear from wife #1 I was out every weekend going to my favorite club and meeting people all the time. I  just relaxed and had fun. It's true that when you try too hard it kind of shows and I guess it's offputting to some extent. In both cases, the girl and my wife, I wasn't trying at all. It just came to me.\n\nI suggest finding a few night spots that you like. Go with friends or go alone, it's all the same. Just enjoy yourself and someone will just show up and change your life.
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Try military.com under community (I think) there is a buddy finder option. If they are singed up you can find them.
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Hi lady, Ya know I am kinda the same boat. Ive been married twice, the first one for 14 years. She is a great lady and all but we just grew apart. The second one was right after my first!!!!!!!! Bad judgment on my part! I found my second wife, I think too soon, because I was so lonely. Ive been divorced from her for almost 4 years and Im very happy. I said all that to say this, I dont know your whole situation but after my second divorce I realized it was my turn. I didnt have a lot of friends and found myself at home a lot cleaning or reading a good book. Now that sounds boring , but I was content at that time. I needed more, as well as you, I wanted to have some fun , as you I didnt get in the bar scenes so I thought I was limited. Well guess what , the few friends I did have were waiting for me to ask the same question you asked.  First I started going to football games with friends then to some races and now we have a group that meets every saturday at rotating houses to watch the races and socialize. Ive really found a great group of friends both new and old and havent been to a bar yet. My advice to you is to turn to your friends and tell them your delima. I guess my answer is FRIENDS!  By the way Im 43 and now scuba dive, play tennis and many other things all due to my few friends! good luck , you sound like a great lady
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finding a best friend and a best spouse
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Well people change and grow apart as they grow mentally, physically, and spiritually.  Everyone, even families, drift apart.  Since it was a row they had with each other, you may just have to wait it out until they simmer down enough to reconcile.  If they decide they can't work past the row, then there's really nothing you can do.  Just take heart in the fact that they are still your friends.  Good luck!
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Dating sites are great ways to meet people.  I met my husband on seniorfriendfinders.com, and there is match.com, Dr. Phil is on there now helping, also friendfinders.com - some give you free trials.  I'm so glad i did it, I met the man I love more than anything.
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This is a normal part of growing up.  It happens to all of us.  I remember crying my eyes out with a friend because we hadn't spent that much time together, and now we're graduating and won't see each other in a while!  I have seen her twice since then; 14 years ago.\n\nYou'll miss your friends at first, then you move on.  If you go to college, you'll make lots of new friends, and they'll have a lot more in common with you.  If you work, you'll meet friends at jobs.\n\nKeep in mind that if you were very best friends, you will remain very best friends.  My friend since I was 10 and I talk every now and then, but we live in different cities and are in different points in our lives.  She's a single mom now going back to school, and I'm married with 3 kids and already graduated from college.  But we still talk, and I'd still consider her my friend!\n\nRelax and enjoy this moment in your life.  There are many big events to follow soon!  Your life will start changing dramatically as you grow up!  And you are ALWAYS growing up!\n\n(Your e mail address isn't confirmed so I can't write you back, so I'm editing this...)\n\nI'm sorry.  This is a normal part of growing up.  Changing friends, changing lives.  You met these friends, you will meet more!  Being sad is alright.  Let them know that you will miss them, and that you wish them luck.  Maybe in a few years after things cool down you'll see them again!  There is the internet, after all.  When I graduated, there was no internet or cell phones.  Getting in touch with people was much more difficult.  I've recently gotten in touch with some old friends; and it's nice because it's been so long we have so many stories to share!  I had lunch with a girl I haven't seen in 7 years a couple weeks ago, and I'm having dinner with a friend I haven't seen in 17 years Friday!  I'm really excited, and I'm bringing all kinds of pictures!  We met when we were 12, and now I have a daughter about that age!  Funny!\n\nLife is fun.  You'll enjoy it.  I'm glad to see that you are so aware of your feelings and not afraid to talk about them.  That's the first step in being an adult!  So many adults have trouble because they can't understand their feelings, and if they do, they won't talk about them!  You'll do well in your life!
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I don't think married men are the only ones who have problems in this area. I think men AND women feel loss as they age.\n\nYoung people have a combination of hormones, urgency, risk-taking, idealism and the feeling of immortality as major drives in their personalities and relationships. After 50 years people of both sexes get more contemplative, desperate, depressed, settled, bored, lazy and their hormone levels don't really help them "push forward" into life from the INSIDE of their bodies. \n\nIf a person has made enough poor decisions before 45-50 years old they, many times, just give up on trying to re-invent their life and they begin to "settle". They become less "giving" and less spontaneous. They feel more emotionally fragile.....and sometimes "needy" at the same time.\n\nIf your wife was ever your best friend she should remain that way into old-age. Many couples were never REAL  friends to begin with....they just got a certificate declaring that they are married. Friendship lasts longer than certificates.\n\nYou cannot expect a woman who was having sex out of "obligation" to wedding vows to ever be a lover for life. The emotional/spiritual longings that you are writing about SHOULD still be there at any age, between friends. If you simply want a woman to stay as young and eager as a 30 year old, forever,  then you are going to be sadly disappointed.\n\nThe friendship aspect of a loving/married relationship is the most important building material in the foundation of a long-time relationship. Age will take away many things. Cross words and misunderstandings can hurt couples for many years. In the end, it is the friendship that will last.\n\nAnd a good friend will always be there for you to talk, touch and share intimacy.................on some level.\n\nJust don't expect things NEVER to change...........all things change.\n\n\nIt's how we respond to change that makes us available to/for the people we love and who love us.
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personal story  Where i used to live there were two people a couple of doors away who we used to see and who never talked or really acknowledged me or my then wife(i am divorced now). We were friends with the people next door and they thought the same thing.  A year or so later their son starting playing with our kids and we met them and they turned out to be a couple of the nicest people i know and very good friends who would do anything for you ....lesson learned is that sometimes its easy to judge people to quickly maybe she is just shy. i suggest you try to break the ice and see if she responds
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Joe, that was sort of the basis for my question about anyone having a "real" friend.  Seems the older we get, our "friend" connections come mostly from work or socializing with our children's friends parents or work.  It used to be that all your neighbors were your friends and you kept in touch with people for long amounts of time.  Not anymore.  Its a throw away society and I think that has spilled over onto personal relationships as well.  I have been housebound for several years now due to a slight handicap and have lost all my "friends" (most acquaintances from work).  It really is hard.  Hope that helps.  Barb
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You know i have been through this situation myself.  I'm not proud.  We just kind of drifted apart after the same amount of time as you, but were only separated for about 2 months.  I really liked the feeling of freedom and meeting other people.  I still think of a certain someone now and then, especially when my husband and i get into arguments about petty stuff.  I think "why did i even come back"?  Then i realize that he has put up with all my crap and it would be so hard to start all over and put effort into a new relationship.  I also think about my kids and in today's society kids need the guidance of both parents.  Anyway, i really do love my husband, it's just sometimes its fun to think of what could have been.  \nI'm not saying all marriages are to stay together for the sake of the children, it's just if you really love each other, you need to try and get passed the other man.\n\nTry to do things with your husband, take time for yourselves.  Go to the movies out to eat, or even spend time at the park with the kids(if it applies).  And just when you feel an argument coming on think and sometimes prayer comes in handy(if you are religious). \n\nGood luck. i wish you the best.
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Try eHarmony. I loved the site and I found alot of friends and one great husband.
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try some matrimonial site made for divorsed people -by the way why u wanna find them ??