why do i still want to give the guy a chance?
81760
because you want him to be a better person and just because he treats you like that doesnt mean that you dont see something in him that makes you care for him deeply.
1177319
I think you should give it more time. I can understand what you are talking about when you say you wonder if you should go for something. But me  I try to just wait awhile before I jump into something, but just give it more time. Then if you want to follow your heart, just think it though carefully with whatever decision you make.
1040579
well, think about it... if it didnt work out last time, how do you know it wont end up badly as the time before? if you go for it, you could risk getting hurt AND as well as wasting your time. you already gave your Ex a chance, dont you think this new guy should deserve a chance to to prove himself to you too? your ex had his chance and screwed it up. Besides, if you give this new guy a chance and it doesnt work out, you could always go back to your ex. I mean if he really did love you or like you, he would definately take you back. If he doesnt, then he doesnt like/love you ENOUGH and is obviously not the type of person you want to marry for "future reasons." \n\nI hope that helped you and good luck! =]
11924
If you want a sort of casual approach, get tickets to something and tell him "I have an extra ticket to ______ and I was hoping you'd like to go with me, if you're fee that night."\nBut, trust me on this, sometimes the guy you think is out of your league, is actually afraid to approach YOU.... I missed 20 years of having someone quite amazing in my world because when we were young, I thought I had no shot at all to be anything but his "pal"....came to learn just this year, he never understood why I had the time of day for him, thought I couldn't possibly be interested.\nBelieve me, Darlin', there are things in life far more painful than being shot down.
506883
Hey you missed a chance. I will suggest not to run behind him. Life is too big. If he is not interested, forget it. And allow him to concentrate on somebody. ;)
149813
It's possible he gained some experience. If you  believe he's worth another shot, then do so. Otherwise, let him grind at the thought of having messed up what could have been the best thing of his life.
303227
If you have doubts about it, then that probably means that your not ready to find "the one", and if you don't think that this guy is the right one yet, then he probably won't be.  There are so many other men out there and you have your whole life to find "the one", don't rush into things, it's not worth it to get hurt in the end.  You have to know that you can trust someone, have awesome communication, and respect for each other.  If you feel that you have these and your still having doubts, then maybe he's not right for you and you need to keep looking.\n\nGood luck!
821762
Everyone deserves a first chance. If he hasn't given you any reason to not trust him then give him the chance to prove himself.\nNot all us fella's are jerks. There are some pretty responsible& caring men out there .So if you think you've found one, take advantage of that. The best advice is to follow your heart. Let it be your guide. Your thoughts will only confuse you. You've obviously been through a lot so why put yourself through anymore. This could be your chance for a family of your own & a lifetime full of happiness. You will only get hurt if you allow yourself to be hurt again. Romance is an adventure. You ultimately decide how the story will end. Will it be a drama full of heartache & fear or a Fairytale full of answered dreams & eternal happiness? Based on that; the answer should be simple.\n\nGo ahead my Dear give him a chance so that you have a chance.....\n\nGood Luck.........
1002857
ammmmm believe the girl!!!!! and then if you still wanna give him a chance (which, he doesnt deserve) then stay with him, or... if you want to be treated right, walk away
477675
only you know him ... and you should know what is he capable of ...give him a chance .. follow your heart
121104
Go for it... You already missed one chance... You don't get a second chance everyday!!!
707523
I say that you should never wait for a guy. Whether it is to call you or  for him to ask you out. Take the chance and learn from it, whether the results turn out the way you do or don't want it. Life is about taking chances and living it to the fullest
601027
I think he's interested in asking you out, it just hasn't worked out with his schedule yet to be able to do it. Don't give up hope yet. I think he will ask you just as soon as his schedule permits!
743815
It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
204700
YES: YOU LIKE HIM BUT WHY WAIT FOR HIM TO COME AROUND? THERE ARE SO MANY GUYS OUT THERE. WHY DENY THEM THE CHANCE TO BE WITH A HOT FEMALE LIKE YOURSELF?
1154312
At least give him a chance, stop being so suspicious!  His true colors will come out, be it good or bad, and the only way to find out is to get to know him.
235846
In this case you are lucky because you had a chance to see for yourself what kind of man he is.  Based on what you witnessed I personally would not ask him out, instead I would get close to him, be his friend and then hopefully he will get the message that you like him.  Sometimes guys do not like girls that make the first move.  So, it is in your hands, you decide.  I do agree with the first person that answered you should ask very discreetly why their union did not last.