do u think its worth to continue the relationship with a married man? his separated already for long years.?
88667
I can`t tell you about your relationship,but I am a married man and have been separated for over a year,I am in a relationship with a much younger lady and I would get a divorce now if I thought she would have me.But I know that it would be too much to ask of her,with our age.\nLazyman614@yahoo.com
604588
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
428958
Please reiterate your question . . . to . . . I called it quits this morning?  Because he want to try to make it work . . . and you are trying to decide yes or no.\n\nI have a few questions about this . . . \n\nWhy did he cheat on you . . . . ?  There is always a reason.  Did you two marry too young?  Did you change?  Did he change?\n\nIf you feel that you can not trust him . . . then end it . . . and tell him why.  He may still love you . . . but the thing is . . . he might have felt that you kept pushing him away . . . and he felt lonely.  And guys has needs . . . so instead of bothering you about them (because he felt that you possibly didn't care) he went elsewhere.\n\nThe most basic reason why some people cheat . . . is because they felt pushed away.  I know that is not a good reason . . . \n\nPlus if you stay married for at least 10 years . . . he will have to pay you alimony for the rest of your life or until you remarry.
810216
You should not even have gotten started with a married man...\nQuit whenever you get tired of it...
341057
You are wasting your time with this man. Even if he does leave his wife and kid 4 you, how do you know that he won't leave you for someone else later? I think you deserve better. There is someone better for you out there waiting 4 you. GO OUT AND FIND HIM.
425721
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
468279
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
37132
That all depends on you. Do you love him enough to wait for him to grow up? Unfortunately, some men never grow up--especially if they were not even there when their own child was born (unless there was a good excuse). I can't say for sure about your husband. Only you deep down know if he is worth waiting for. On one hand, you did take vows and you do have a son together. On the other hand, he cheated on you (gut feelings are almost always right), and he doesn't even see his own child. You technically shouldn't be seeing others while you are still married but if this person gives you the support you need then I don't see why you shouldn't. Do what you think...and I mean REALLY think would be the best for you and your son. Good Luck.
589075
Maybe get engaged.  Have you lived with this guy yet?  Man alot of factors go into this.  I wouldn't get married yet.  Anymore I would say you should live with someone before getting married.  That sounds crazy to some but i think if you had to live together for a year before getting married the divorce rate would go way down.
1058963
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
219336
I would bring it up with him. You are already living together which is a huge part of marriage and so what's the holdup?
257813
There is a reason why you split, just cause he is going away is not a reason to get back together.  The details you are giving are slim,  how long were you together, was there ever any talk of marriage, how old are the 2 of you.\n\nI would say, stay in touch, but move foward with your life not backwards...
117844
Probably not...He has no insentive to move on because he has you on the side and still gets to stay married to someone else.  If he is having problems with one of you then there is the other so why would he need to ever choose.  The longer this goes on though the more likely it is he will break it off with you and return to his wife.  In the end your the odd one out and the easiest to get rid of.
618100
its only 12 years, i know couples with a larger difference. if you put the time and effort into the relationship, anything is possible....as a older guy, i say go for it!!
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
95590
Leave him...He needs to deal with his marriage before you and him can have a chance at a relationship.  Right now you are blocking his chance to try and work out his marriage.  By leaving him he will be forced to either make his marriage work or to get divorced and move on.  You deserve a guy who is dedicated to you and a relationship with only you.  If he can't do that then you should find someone who can.