if the married man spends more time with the s/f not at home ww ppl think?
90688
What does it matter what people think?  What matters is what his wife thinks because there is a marriage at stake here.   Why is the man spending so much time with a single female?  Why is his wife allowing that to happen - if she knows?  \n\nIf it were me, I would follow him and find out what he's doing away from home so much and if I find him with a single woman more than once, it would probably be the end of a marriage.
553913
He had an "emotional" connection with this person, so...by definition, he already cheated, hence a "real affair".  Sometimes it is worse than when it is just for physical gratification, with no emotion attached.  Don't know if he would have a physical relationship with someone other than his wife...some men prefer to not go beyond the cyber thing, as that is what their turn on is, so it's just a matter of who and how he is, and how sound the marriage is.
443642
some of them do think like that...i guess married men got more experience on how to handle women emotion.they are more caring too...
413031
Honey, you are better than that and you know it. That's why this is bugging you. Tell the guy to go home to his wife, and then go out and have a good time without him. You know there is someone else out there just waiting to meet someone just like you.  Be strong and remember that this could never go anywhere good. Good luck to you.
38385
i would forgive the 1st time, afterall we're married, no matter how long he has been doing it...we gotta work it out for our kids, right? it would take time to 4get things, though...he does it the 2nd time & bam! he's out the door.
258144
it is definitely not the right thing.  he is married.  if if he gives you the time of day, he is still married. 9 times out of ten he is not going to leave his wife. and if he does what goes around comes around. it would probably happen to you. find you a single man.  you don't want to be second. you deserve better.
434278
Maybe, he has become more maturer with more life experiences and with age.  Also, when you are married to someone, you have more expectations from them then you would have from a friend.  Sometimes, with friends there is more emotional separation so you are more able to make clearer and better choices.
579997
Stay away from the married woman. If she cant be Faithful to her husband what makes you think she would be faithful to you.
67352
To keep the relationship alive, you have to need sexual contact with your spouse but sometimes, it isn't going to happen such as illness,tireness or depression will come into play. Ask yourself this before you do something crazy like destroy your marriageof 20 years/ IS she tired from raising the children,paying bills,errans,school meetings,doctor visits,preparing holidays with family members,cooking,cleaning the home and perhaps working full or part time.Taking care of those responsibilities could be very exhausting to one especially if she is the one who does everything in your home.Why waste 20 good years with your wife for someone on the side? It is selfish and ignorant.I do applaude you to ask for advice before trying to hook up with some "woman" as you are trying to save your marriage.
336430
Depends on if a "hoe" is involved.  With your wife, ok!!
246873
When the married man has discussed it with his wife and they both agree,\nor\nwhen the married mans wife is so ill that he no longer has any kind of relationship with her, ie she is in an irretrievble coma, has alzhiemers ....\nwhen the couple have been seperated physically or/and mentally for years and he is in love with another person.\n\nof course these are just my opinions and I respect that other people think very differently so I mean no offence to anyone.
293801
Absolutely NOT! If a man cheats it is ALWAYS his wife's fault. If she were faultless he would have had no reason to cheat.
279374
Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
505349
Maybe you need couples counseling.
768742
Yes, I am sure that after 10 months of not introducing you to his friends, family, or anyone else while banging then going home to his wife/gf he must care bunches.  \nI would stay with it. It sounds like a relationship that could really go places.
610245
This is very individual choice. If the man is making the effort to satisfy his partner that's great. Would you keep him? A guy has to be good in bed and out of bed. You spend more time out of bed together so if he doesn't cut it out of bed forget it.
196054
Ask his wife if in doubt....K