What do you think of a son who listens to his girlfriend who says he can't talk to his mom?
80569
Wow I can't believe that first answer. If you guys used to have a close relationship with him, and now you don't, that is awful and heartbreaking. Obviously she doesn't want you to talk to him because you have an obvious right to really dislike her, if not worse. I would definitely try to talk to your son, and when you can, explain to him how much it hurts and that you can't understand why he is treating you like this for her. Hopefully he is just in a happy phase, will wake up and realize how dumb he is, and will then return? And dump her? I'd try that first... just don't call him 10 times a day... that can be awful...
1136007
Sounds like something's definitely not right there and I doubt it has anything to do with you.\n\nInitially I was going to chalk it up to perhaps your g/f's mom was paranoid that perhaps your mom knew about her cheating.  But if your g/f also got mad, well that can't be right.  She wouldn't be mad at YOU if her mom were cheating so...\n\nThe only thing I can think of is there is something really wrong with your g/f's mother and no one's told you what it is yet.  Could be psychological, could be medical, who knows?  But my advice is that if your g/f gets mad at you without explaining the reason behind why she and her mom are so angry at you and your mom over a pleasant invitation, it's time to rethink if you really want to be in this relationship.  \n\nAnd remember it WAS none of your business when they didn't involve you in whatever was going on, but now that it's directed at you and your family is involved, it IS your business.  On the same side of the coin, not being able to communicate with your g/f about this is no way to have a relationship for either of you.\n\nThere is no reason you should be treated this way and from what I've seen here, you haven't done anything to deserve it.  So ask your g/f what's really going on with her mom.  What's behind the way they freaked out over a simple invitation?  Then pay attention to the answer you get.  Is it vague?  Are they somehow blaming you?  Can you see that you're only being told part of the story?  The way the answer is given has as much to do with what's going on as the answer itself so pay attention and...\n\nGood luck!
208002
Assuming he is under the age of 18, you should accept it.  He is supposed to obey his mother.  Did you realize that the way he treats his mother is a very good indicator of how he will later treat his own wife?  You should be glad if he chooses to honor his mother.
425222
Depends on the situation.  If the mother is a crack wh*re (or some other similar shortcoming), then many dad's would never stop fighting and nothing would work.  If the dad is just mad and trying to make the mother's life h*ll, then you have to chill him out someway, or make the battle seem so uphill and costly that he'll just give it up.  Also, if the father is being denied his inherent rights to play a part in his child's life, then it would be evil to try and deny him these rights.
389414
I've been going through that issue for like 5 years.  There's no easy answer.  The advice I would give you is to not back down from this woman, and to have your g/f speak to her mother about it.  Don't be rude to her unless she is rude first, however don't allow her to speak to you like you're nothing.  Just because she doesn't do it in front of your g/f, doesn't mean that your g/f should allow it to go on.  And if she doesn't believe you, then there is a problem in your relationship that needs to be fixed.
1149013
I'm going to hazard a guess based on your typing and grammar and say that you're under 15 or so... and in that case particularly (but at any age really) mom's usually know what they're talking about.  I know it sucks to hear that, but trust me, it's true.  (I'm 19, btw.. I've been there very recently, so I'm not out of the loop here.)\n\nWhat you should do is sit down with your mom and say "Hey mom, I don't want to get in to an argument about this, but I really want to know what it is you don't like about ____."  Listen to what she has to say.  Most importantly, do not get defensive.. the minute you start yelling at each other, you don't stand a chance of working things out.  Take the points she makes (and ask her to be specific.. point out specific examples of how he's controlling, not just say that he is) and think about them for a day a so.  Tell a close friend (*not* your boyfriend, very important) what she said and see what they think.\n\nIf after that you still think she's wrong, tell her you really thought about it and got a friend's perspective on it, but you don't agree with her, and ask her to respect your opinion.  That being said, do not disobey your mom.  Boyfriends come and go.  Your mom will always be your mom and it's more important than you can possibly imagine to keep a good relationship with her.\n\nAnd, as an aside, just my personal opinion, if you are young, as I guessed, you really don't need to date one person for that long.  I dated the same guy from the age of 14 to 17, and thought it was great at the time, but now, I really wished I wouldn't have done that.  It's kind of hard to explain, but just take it from someone who's been there.
595874
it depends on his relationship with his mom.
143403
Lol..lol.. Maybe he, like myself is confused in what heck you're talking about? Are you trying to get rid of him too? That's his mother, and honey, you might be treading deep water on this issue, and drive him away with her...lol
963938
Son's DO NOT owe their mother's anything besides love and respect...even though it doesn't sound as if she's too deserving of the respect!  Thank God your fiancee sees what's going on.  Yeah, you would think that at her age she would have reached a certain level of maturity...apparently not.  If she can't control herself she's out of the picture.  Stand your ground!!
136423
Be very careful here.  You haven't said how old your son is but I'm assuming he is still probably a teenager.  This is an experience he needs to learn from but not that he needs his mother blowing up into a big deal.  The best thing you can do is just tell him that you feel really bad about how this girl reacted and that you know a lot of girls that would have been simply thrilled to have gotten flowers from their boyfriends.  If he wants to continue to pursue the relationship though that is his choice and all you should do is support him and let him know the actions that he takes that she puts down are things that other girls would be thrilled by and that it wasn't a mistake on his part.
647972
It is time to let go. Four years has given you your answer. She'll never change even if she claims she will. She sounds paranoid to me in fact, endangering her young son. You're trying to do the right thing but it is time to realise that the right thing to do now is to divorce her, get custody of your son, move on and find another woman worthy of your trust, respect and love. Don't stick around and let her scar you even more for that's just too convenient for her to do. It is not something you want your young son to think - that his dad cannot stand up for what he thinks is right and let a woman (even if it is his mom) put him down over and over again & cheat on him. I am sorry if what I said have offended you. I know you are doing this out of love but she does not deserve it and your son deserves a better mom. She lost her right to be his mother when she did what she did. Sorry. And Good Luck to You!
1126803
I'm not sure about the law, but I think this is something between you and your boyfriend.  The way I see it, as a fiancee - and especially as a stepmom - you have the right to discipline them and have some input.  However, most of these things are best left to the mom and dad.\n\nI'm in the same situation, so I understand that it is often hard to understand exactly what your role is when it comes to the kids.  I always leave the big things to my fiance and the mother of his son.  If his son does something wrong, it's okay to say something to him.  If it's something major, I make sure to tell my fiance and leave it up to him to deal with it.  He and I have frequent conversations about his son and I tell him my opinion on certain issues, tell him what I think should be done and leave it at that.  \n\nEven though you're not the mom, you do play a role in the kid's lives.  When they are with you and your fiance, it should be a team effort - but always know the boundaries.
849583
Incredibly rude.  "Shut up" is fighting words.  He also brought more attention to what you were saying when he said that.  IF he didn't want his dad to know he was going to visit his mother....he should have said something to you about that before you went to visit his dad.  You were just being conversational.  I would have been hurt by those words to.  I don't think "shut up" is EVER a nice thing to say to someone....especially someone you love.
407269
Guys are often kinda slow on matters of social etiquette and especially when it comes to relationships. They are often so afraid of saying or doing the "wrong" thing that they don't act at all. Sometimes this makes the girl feel left out or ignored. Please don't be offended by his neglect, he is probably confused as to what to do. Give him some help by gently letting him know that you think it might be cool to meet his mom. Hope I helped. Us guys Can be a bit backwards at times.
799482
all I can say is if you are uncomfortable with it just let her know. she is a mom, she loves you regardless . she will understand. The best thing for a relationship is communication , don't matter if is friend, lover and family. So talk to her.
268805
In a wierd way yes cuz your dating him, but at the same time no cuz you gotta respect his mother just like he does to yours. Find out y she yelled @ you.
1014558
Your son is your #1 priority, despite ANY pressures you are getting from your family. You are a grown man and if you love this woman and you want to be a good father to your son, you stay with them.  It is NOT your family's choice as to what you do with your life.  It is also not your family's place to judge the woman in your life. Who do they think they are? GOD?