In Love with somebody's wife.... rephrased.?
82235
I agree with most everyone here about one thing. You need to remove yourself from the situation NOW. If their marriage is going to fall apart, it will do so without any help from you. Give her a chance to see things for herself without your infulence whatsoever. This will undoubetedly be difficult for you but it is the best interest of all involved. Should she wind up divorced (which it sounds like just may happen) then you can be there for her, be her friend, confidant and maybe even lover. Trust me....she will not know her true feelings for you until she has rid herself of any bad relationships. The last thing you want is to find this woman seemingly falling for you simply because she's unhappy now and you just happen to be the "fall back" guy. She may be looking for an "out" and you are the easiest way for her to accomplish that. Let her get out on her own, be her own person, make her own decisions, start a new life for herself and then, and only then can you be absolutely sure that it is truly you she wants and needs in her life. All things happen for a reason, so allow them to happen all by themself. If it was meant to be....then you two will be together. If not, then at least no one got hurt very badly. I know what it feels like to be in love with someone who is off limits at the moment. Follow your heart and instincts, but also listen to your head. Good luck to you my friend.
826639
Fine -- you can't control your feelings.  But you CAN control your behavior.  Feel whatever you feel, just don't touch this other woman.  Go to counseling like you had the idea of doing, and figure out how to fall back in love with your wife.
905383
On the occasion of your marriage, why should shower and strain yourselves to search for good words. It is their turn to do that upon you. Here is one, as you wish.\n\nWelcome You all,\nOn my decision to\nTake plunge into a \nDifferent world , in the \nCompany of xxxxxx, my flame,\nAs desired by the Elders.\n\nWish me well, as I wish you well.
194822
Tell her husband that your having an affair with her.
528722
why did everyone take the extreme and is trying to give the guy lots of warning,, dear listen to me, i'm sure you love your wife and what ever is going with her sister is probably just an infatuation that will pass, or maybe u have feelings for her but ur a bit confused about how ur feeling,, maybe its not really being in love, maybe its admiration , what i'm trying to say is don't just think ur in love and act according to it, but if it really was true love then there is 2 thigns u can do\n1 - try to figure out what do u love about her and try to find that in ur wife, or if she doesn't have it try to find something equivelant\n2 - try to remember why u marreid ur wife, take her somewhere far from her sister and try to revive ur relationship ,, fall in love all over again with you wife\n\ni really hope this helped, but whatever you chose to do with the relationship, make sure u can justify it ,, otherwise u won't be doing the right thing:)
1110926
Wait...a widow's husband would be dead\n\nor did you phrase this wrong?
824901
AK,\n  This is ALOT like the situation I was in before, ONLY reversed------------------- I can't speak for "your girl", but from a gal's point of view, I'm seeing from all you described, SHE is confused and she got caught up in you, probably feels guilty, and is in a tough spot about what to do with her marriage..............................\n  She is going through alot emotionally and I'm sure she does love you.  It's a confusing time for her with alot of emotions going on.\n  Don't drop her, 'cause we all need someone in our lives who care and if you disappear, she would be lost, I can tell you that!\n  I'd say it would be good to get out there and date, but stay in touch with this girl too.\n\nWhat you "should do" is all up to you.  You said she is the girl of your dreams, THEN, stand by her--------------LOVE is PATIENT.\n  That;s it right there, how much she means to you!\n\nNext, I'm wondering maybe "your girl" doesn't exactly know where she stands with you.  Does she know you love her?  Have you offered her a future with you?  Maybe she needs some reassurance so that maybe she can have that strength to leave her husband, if she knows she "fits in" your life!\n\nDivorce isn't easy as you already know, and maybe for "your girl" she is having a hard time with the idea of fully "letting go" of her marriage for whatever reasons, SO I wouldn't take her hesitation personal cuz she is dealing and going through alot all at once!\n\nTalk to her, be there for her, just be her friend right now, and you might be ok with that if the both of you are secure in your love for each other, see?   Please don't turn your back on her.  That's all I wanted to say.\n\nGood luck to you both and with your support she will get through her problems, you will see!
394880
If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////
995926
Someone said: "Tell me you love me"?"\nYou responded: "I love you".
1064905
The key word here is "your wife" if shes happy then stop being insecure, she loves you..you have what most people only dream about.
160000
i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
962366
As quoted by Stephen R. Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Many forget that love is not just a noun but a proactive verb. Loving someone isn't just a state of mind. It requires effort, time, resources, money and action. \n\n"So love her" he advised a man who has lost feelings for his wife. "My friend, love is a verb. Love- the feeling- is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?" Conclusion-Habit 1 (Be Proactive)
388655
I don't think it is possible to love two people (romantically). If you lust someone else, you probably don't love your wife at all.
397434
Really, cut your ties with this man, he's not a future for you. You continue to see this man and you will continue to get lied to and cheated on too. He doesn't know how to be honest or faithful. To love someone like that isn't really love. Your feelings for this man hon, isn't what you really think it is. I don't know you, but I see that your taking who ever says nice things to you. Shoot, I could feed you with all kinds of nice words, but doesn't mean I really mean it. I wouldn't even give a another second to this man. Let him and her work through their own problems. Take your loss now and bail out sweetie. It's not worth it. Staying on with this guy or telling his wife, what will you gain from it. The satisfaction of telling her. No, wrong! Maybe for a while but later down the road. hhhmmmm Trust in your self and move on. Good luck to you.
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Coming from a woman married to a man,,,That statement is TRUE,,,sometimes I cannot live with myself!!!..But it can also be said about a man so watch out..Just remember if you TRY to make you woman happy then there is not anything we wouldn't do for ya'll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Everyone . . . I think she knows that she mispelled it.\n\nAs for the meaning . . . \n\nHere is my meaning . . . finding someone who is your heart and soul . . . your purpose in life . . . marrying her.\n\nThen have her go away . . . not by choice . . . leaving you to raise your newborn son alone . . . while she is in heaven . . . if there is such a thing.\n\nThat is my meaning.
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If you love someone, set them free. \nIf they come back to you, \nthey're yours forever. \nSubmitted by: Anonymous \n\nIf you find love, let it go free. \nIf it doesn't come back, \nIt was never meant to be. \nSubmitted by: Jason