What should I do with a 16 yr. old step-son, who is a sociopath, to keep him from my 16 yr. old daughter?
96351
1st and foremost GET YOUR DAUGHTER OUT OF DANGER!  If that means leaving then do it!\n2.) get him help NOW!  Talk to his dr. and tell him what you are telling us.  If that doesn't help call children and family services and they WILL get him help. Or they will place him somewhere where he will have to deal with his problems.\n3.) family counciling is a MUST for ALL of you not just him.  It will give you ways to help deal with this.\n4.) Put up a united front, ALL of you.  And stick to boundries you make.\n\nHe doesn't sound like a sociopath or the sociopathic personality but he does sound like a young man in alot of pain and doesn't know how to deal with this.  Drug abuse doesn't just effect the abuser but the rest as well, expecially children!  GET HELP FOR ALL OF YOU!
543171
if you are an extreme minor as in below 16 yrs old call him a pedophile and tell him to find someone else, I think of it this way kinda of my guideline to life....\n\n" life is too short to worry about the petty things in life; you live too fast, too hard and die too young."  \n\nin other words- blow this guy off, and LIVE your life.  Often do we make our decisions off of tomorrow and not today- don't live life everyday like its your last; but, make sure what you do today wont hurt you tomorrow...\n\nwithout the mistakes you will never learn to succeed in life-- but remember  YOUR MOM WAS IN YOUR SHOES ONCE AND SHE HAS KNOWLEDGE BEYOND YOU SHE IS TRYING TO SHARE...
1000224
I'm going through the same thing.  Stay strong.  Stick with your gut feel.  She very well may be a sociopath but that's entirely up to her to get professional help.  My therapist outright told my wife to get help.  My wife insists there's nothing wrong with her.
611195
let him flip out all he wants you go on living your life and loving your baby but please be careful you never know when he may be dangerous. Ive seen this behavior in both men and women its hard to explain or understand but heres my opinion about it anyway. I believe some people dont want the person they were with but want that persons attention anyway and when that person starts seeing other people they dont like it thus making them mad. its jealousy plain and simple regardless if they are with someone else or not so I wish you luck in getting rid of him and his step mom
412186
Apparently talking and being nice and putting up with him, doesnt work. Maybe you should get the police to ask him to leave. Or you could throw his stuff out, not sure if you could get a restraining order- if you can go for it! It's quite evident that he's brining you nothing but hurt. Make a stand now for you and your kids.\nThe sooner he is out, the better you will be able to get on with your life. Once that's done, for GOD's SAKE, DONT LOOK BACK!
940265
First thing is to call the police.  I know he's ten but call the police.  They'll have procedures to follow and get the perpetrator treated.  Second, make certain that your daughter has counseling available to her.  Here is a web site: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764\n  Second, here is a child abuse web site that will have help available:\nhttp://www.childhelpusa.org/\n  Do whatever you need to do to protect the child.
468693
I'd say that the best thing to do is sit down all together and try to hash this thing out.  I went through a period of really not liking my stepdad when my mom got remarried, so its a normal reaction, particularly if she was close to her mom.  But the answer is no, do not divorce your husband immediately.  The best thing to do is to try and and figure out what you can do in order to make life at least tolerable for all three of you.  I realize that yes, step-children can be a pain, i know, i was one of them, but really, its possible to work it out.  You just need to sit down between the two of them and figure it out.  And if your step-daughter refuses to engage, just acknowledge how she feels, but tell her that you're not planning on going anywhere, so it would be best for both of you to make this work.
480434
Call the police.  If he put his filthy hands on you, that is assualt.  He might be on probation, so I would look into that.  He couldn't so drunk one of these days and no telling what he might do.  And your daughter is witnessing this behavior?  She might think it's okay for a strange, drunk man to be treating you this way.  Do something immediately.  I worked in  a prison for 8 years, I know how those offenders act and I would not want any of them living next door to me.  I'm not saying all of them are the same but he haven't seemed to change.
314172
You leave your boy friend right now and never return...\n\nHe got you and still talks about 16 year old and his own daughters girl friends..this guy is out of his mind and disgusting. \n\nIf you continue with him you will not only put your own future on stake but also, yours if any born daughters teenage life..Think seriously you are young you deserve much better than this leave him now before its too late.
962508
Well first I will comend you for taking care  of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.
526708
Girlfriend you are a true Christian, but come on. You are going to have to confront her and let her know that she really needs to increase her circle of friends. It is commendable that you open your heart and home for your husband's ex, for the sake of your step daughter but you have to set some boundaries...because she is totally taking advantage of you. I would take her aside and  tell her Enough is Enough! You would rather her take the responsibility of dealing with the child as a parent. While you want to be there for the child you are in essence enabling this woman to pawn of the reality of her personal responsibility off to you. She obviously knows not to engage your husband so she gets in any way she can.  Think about it.
191787
Absolutely.  If his father is a drug dealer, than he is always running the risk of being involved in violence.  Users will do anything sometimes to get their drugs, including violence.  I used to deal drugs when I was a teenager, but I grew up and found the Lord.  I would never put my children in that situation.  I would say keep him away from his father as much as possible.  Kids are smart.  Don't expose your child to lifestyles that you don't want him to grow up and live in.  Plus, on top of that he is abusive....make the smart choice for your child.
219124
No way. Now if the family removes the sick step brother from the home, the child could safely go back. Make sure you report this to all authorities and keep you/or the child away from that step brother and press charges. He a rapist! I am so sorry.
787612
I would think any child that is not you sons would be hard to accept. If they are back together tell him how you feel and have him talk to her. If he wont talk to her then you tell her and tell her that you will not be a part of this child's life if she doesn't stop acting this way. If they are not together then you don't need to accept the child and it doesn't need to be in your life. Sorry to say it that way but it is true. Also I think once you see that beautiful baby it wont matter anymore. GOOD LUCK.
578957
I would have him investigated. Seriously talk to people who really know him. Maybe he's just trying to ease his guilt of being a deadbeat dad for 7 yrs. What ever his intentions are he is not doing it for your child. I've never seen a child that could not sense good intentions in an adult, they are very perceptive. Your right in being concerned. Talk to your attorney. about keeping him away...and I would not put his name on her  birth certificate. That is something she will have her whole life. Doesn't sound like she would like to see his name anywhere near hers.
458098
Deal with it as best you can.  She is a manipulating woman and won't change.  The kids are old enough to come to their own conclusions.  But watch out for the kids playing "mom vs dad" to their own ends - which happens with teenagers.  They will grow.  Let his kids know both you and he love them, and never speak badly of their mom in front of them.\n\nIf you are up to it, a little polite confrontation with her may be helpful (or not), but think about it.  Good luck!
1094632
You have made the right choice. I was once someones 21 year old son, and I am sure she had to go through the same thought process as you. He has to hit rock bottom, and be really scared, then he can start to crawl back. Just give him love, no money, and wait, when he really needs you he will come back to you.\nMy mom and my grandma were there when I did hit rock bottom, and they are the only reasons that I am alive, or not in prison, today.