It is scary for a 26 years old woman to tell a guy that she is virgin? She should tell him?
97644
I am 24, and a virgin.  I told my bf early on in the relationship.  I think the longer you wait to tell him, the harder it will be.  If you are waiting to have sex, it's definitly important to tell him.  He will know not to pressure you.  If you just haven't had sex yet and are willing, tell him that too.  Either way, it is best to just tell him.  It can be scary, but if he's a great guy, he won't care.
146027
Hi As a guy I was glad my gf { now my wife} was a virgin. Dont let a guy pressure you into losing your Virginity. You only have one first time and it should be saved for your future husband. If a guy can not handle that, I would find a new guy.
1186458
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18.  Sex is not something that should be taken lightly.  Tell her that she shouldn't have sex until she's ready and that if some guy cant' accept that, he's not worth it.
844418
I would, for a number of reasons. First of all, the fact they haven't had sex shows that they have a lot of self respect, which is extremely sexy in a guy. It's also nice to know that if you sleep with him, you'll be his first, and not just another girl in what could be a long list of them. Thirdly, if a guy who has kept his virginity decides he wants to sleep with you, then he obviously has a high opinion of you, which is really nice to know too. Fourth, they won't forget you because everyone remembers their first. Finally, you make the experience amazing for them, and cause none of you are sure what to expect, it creates suspense - pure turn on.\n\nXXX
78368
No there is nothing wrong to being a virgin at 18 and you shouldn't be concerned about what guys think be secure with yourself in being a virgin.Losing your virginity is not a race.I lost my virginity at seventeen and I wish I had waited because I lost it to the WRONG guy and truely regret it.But it is just my opinion that guys like virgins.You are fresh and un-touched.You have got something going on that alot of girls don't.Guys like the idea of having something that nobody else had.My guy knows I am not a virgin but just the thought of another guy that has been up in there causes him to cringe he doesn't want to think about it.Be proud you are not a hoochie that gives it up to every body that gives you a second look or shows interest and be very selective to whom you give your virginity to.
129493
What difference does it make whether she was a virgin or not?  You did it anyway.  You weren't trying to save her in a pristine condition were you?  Get over it.  You don't believe her, don't trust her, then move on...
69567
if you have never seen a penis and he knows this and is still wanting to have sex with you then his care or you is not very deep. He may care for you kinda. But not the way he should to have the right to take your virginity. This is a fact. YOU WILL NEVER FORGET THE PERSON WHO TOOK YOUR VIRGINITY! Is this the guy you really want to remember when you are 40 and married and have kids running around the house? When you and your college girlfreinds talk about your frst time, is your story going to be one of compassion and care, or one of you not knowing anything and being at his mercy to hope he doesn't hurt you, because YES it will hurt the first time. What is your value? How much are you worth? Are you a good person who is nice and tries to do her best? Then you are very valuable and your virginity can only be given away once. Is this guy so great to you that you want him to have something that you can only give to one person in all your life? When you are young it is very very very hard to tell a guy no. Guys have a way of saying things that make our insides melt. and some will pressure us and accuse of us not caring about them if we don't have sex with them. But if they think we don't care about them, then why are they trying to have sex with us??? hmmmmmm   some will even threaten to spread rumors about us if we don't have sex with them. and i'll tell you how to handle those guys....you tell them if they say anything bad about you that you will tell everybody you DID sleep with them and they had a tiny penis. That will shut them up! As for seeing a penis before you have sex, go to the library and look under books on human sexuality. You can find proper pictures of both a mans body and yours'. This is a decision that will be your first step into making big decisions that affect your life for the rest of your life. If you think you want to wait a week or two and go see some books at the library first to know more before you have sex, then tell him you have decided to wait for a few days. If he says that it is not fair or wants to now why, tell him it is your decision not his or anybody elses and you will let him know when you are sure you are ready.
664892
Are you saying she's a virgin? If so, you have to take it slow and easy. There's no way for it not to hurt the first time.
957651
Uh no I think you are a person in need of some confidence and My ex hubsand was a virgin at age 35 until he met me ! what I liked about him is that he was sweet and didn't try to hard and had some confidence no matter what women like men that are confident and not sucidal or depress get some mental help too while your at it ! HUGS
440058
well if the girl isn't virgin well that is kind of bad that means she couldn't wait any longer so there you are 19 yrs. virgin with her. so if i was you i would lie to her but believe me once she looks at it she will know you are virgin so i think you deserve someone better someone that is virgin. by the way if i had a boyfriend that is 19 and is still virgin wow i'll get  all excited i am virgin and i would have sex with you so both would be virgin so if you wanna talk to me as a friend and tell me your real problem i would gladly do so www.billypapi@yahoo or call me 9565726222 and my name is marisol yes this is my real number people!!!!!!!
921605
Look....you have to decide, were you with her because you thought she was a virgin?  I am pretty positive that there was much more to her than that.  So, her not being a virgin should not make a difference.  Women are funny when it comes to relationships....they almost sort of WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN after each relationship.  Not just with the words they say, but they actually do it mentally.  Men like the notches on their belts to show off and brag about, but women literally like to FORGET it ever happened, especially if it was not a good relationship.  So, maybe in her mind she had a bad experience, and did not want it to count.  That does not make her a bad person, because if you look at it, that could be a plus for you.  At least you know it is her past, it is over, and she does not even want to think of it.  Maybe if after you were together longer, she would have come out and told you, you never gave her that chance, you went snooping in places you should not have been.  Maybe it was just internet talk also, you do not know that she did not say all of that online, and then chicken out when it came down to it.  Talk to her.  You want honesty and trust, then trust her an talk to her, and own up to the fact that you snooped through her private stuff.  You BOTH need to be honest to each other.
636288
No, it wouldn't bother if she wasn't. A woman that is a virgin would probably piss me off due to her "inexperience"\nI would rather be with a woman that knows what she wants out of a man in the bedroom, not a "little girl" who doesn't know how to be sensual or demanding. When it's time to "do da nasty" I want to be pleased in every, not play "teacher"
212604
definitely tell him. age is just a number, and i really don't see why women like to hide it. i have no problem telling how old i am!
886983
On the contrary, there are plenty of men who prefer an INexperienced woman. It's 50-50 really, just a matter of preference. 25 is a suitable age for a woman to lose her virginity, if that is your inclination. Personally I see it differently, but I will not judge you by my standards. You want to wait for awhile so it is something more special than it would be if you did it when you were younger. That takes a lot of discipline, especially with peer pressure. Stick with it, but it will be hard. A lot of men say mean things when they find out that they cannot get any from a girl. Real mean things, even when they were sweet as sugar before. Men can be such surpreme assholes to women sometimes, so be ready for it, and stick to your guns. There are few things as satisfying as sticking to something so extremely long term that you proclaimed you would stick to, and other people look up to that, even though they say degrading things about it just because they are jealous they don't have the resolve you do and may want you to fail to validate their own perspectives. Good luck.
1024892
It's not that hard to believe - I actually know a couple people who are in their late 20's and mid 30's who are virgins.  If you are waiting for marriage or the right person there is nothing wrong with that.
211974
I am in the same position, but (without wanting to get into a competition) probably far more into the many side of things.\n\nBasically you don't need to tell them. You don't make out that you're a virgin, but much as it's none of a guy's business how many guys his girl has been with beforehand, it's not a girl's place to ask you.\n\nJust make sure she knows that you have seen girls before her but they are no longer important and that she's the only important thing. Another thing to prove that the others aren't important is that they are exes. If they were so great they'd still be around...\n\nTough one, but you're likely to see a lot of reaction to this one from pre-teens. They have no experience in such matters so their opinion should be disregarded.
660130
No, they can't tell.  They can talk, accuse, call names, etc., but when you boil it all down... they're only guessing.\n\nYou're right.  It shouldn't be a big deal.  Most people who tease others about being a virgin are really virgins themselves and are sensitive about the whole thing.  I think it's a shame that so many people these days allow themselves to begin having sex when they're in their teens.  It's much more precious to have one's honor to share with a spouse on the wedding night.  Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex until you're absolutely, positively ready.  Once a person's purity is gone, it's gone forever.\n\nYou're also right about personality.  Your personality is part of who you are.  That won't change as a result of having or not having sex.  As you get older, there will be parts of your personality that evolve a little, but the basics will always be with you.\n\nHope this helps.