why are relationships hard?
86899
because we are just difficalt
654332
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789580
Yeah, but you have to be sure to keep the relationships seperate. If they hurt one another you have to be able to be neutral amd not let either relationship suffer.
1093791
It's both.  Any really intimate relationship shared with another tends to be complex.  Some of the  compromises/things you do for love are very easy and fun.  But, the issues/problems that can arise can become very difficult.  The trick is to choose a person who is just as commited to your needs/pleasures/dreams as you are to theirs.  Also choose a person who is willing to work thru the hard times.  Relationships are seldom 50/50.....but the balance should be close.
1041736
Its hard to describe, I guess its just a part of life, we cry when we are happy and sad. Love is just complicated nobody really knows what to do. Maybe it hurts to be happy because you are with someone you love and hope nothing will tear you two apart and in your mind you are wondering if you two will stay together.
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Intense attraction, caring for someone, fondness, someone you would give you life for, a union or bond...\n\nand some say it does not exist.\n\nWhy is it hard?  \nTo love someone completely is to give up "you" completely.  Meaning you must put your heart into it, your soul, your very being.  There are no "time outs", no breaks in love.  Any divisions cause cracks in the bonds of love that can be so painful in a loving relationship, for both parties.  \n\nBut love is the greatest thing a human being can know.  It can transcend time and distance.  It can give hope to the hopeless, it can make people do things more extraordinary than thought possible. IE the Taj Mahal.  \n\n“Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
399527
I would think that most people have to be flexible in your situation. If the person is feeling rejected because of the situation I don't think that person should be in the relationship to begin with.
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It feels like many different things.  It can be exciting and romantic and beautiful.  Its wonderful being with somebody you care so much about.  but being in a relationship is also very scary and nerve racking.  Its about giving up a part of yourself for somebody else.  Its about going into the unknown and hoping they dont break your heart or you dont break yours.  Basically sometimes in relationships you have to be willing to take a chance.  It may turn out good, it may turn out bad.  You never know.
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yes it is harder...we do it bc were afraid that if we give the next person our trust  that the same thing is gonna happen...it sucks to have ur heart broken...bc it makes u wiery in the rest of relationships to come...once that trust is broken...u put a wall up...thats the only way we know how to protect our hearts from shit like that...
1184364
Trust, and commitment, and good communication. People have to be willing to stay together through thick and thin. If things get hard most people leave. A strong relationship requires a lot of time, patience, and hard work.
209442
Love is difficult for the reason is that you might not understand clearly deep inside your heart. You have to understand by searching the answer deep inside your heart where you as the only person can only understand the whole circumstances. Love isn't difficult, but some part it is like forgive your enemy or other peoples and give loves not sex with great support. Love could be meant in many way that can or can't be fully express.
583041
maybe it goes deeper than the relationship, worst case maybe they did something wrong set a mood and try to talk to that person maybe they just don't know how to talk about it
1051202
Relationships are always tough. I have found that the way to make them last is to not worry about the longevity. If all we did was focus on when something was going to end, why bother starting? At any rate if you have a good thing going cherish it. If something goes wrong with your mate, try and help them as best you can. Remember some of the best things about being in a relationship are not only sharing good times but having someone there for you in the bad. And if the relationship doesn't work, cherish that, you experienced something, which is better than nothing at all.
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Love is difficult and a pain in the ass. It's up to the two of you to make you love last. Love is work. Work to get it and work to keep it. Make sure your arguments are not petty but of some legitament reasons. Jealousy and insecurity are like cancer to relationships. Trust is the cure. Trust in God and yourself.
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i cant think of any. when you have sex your brain releases chemicals that help you form attachments and like everything you can build a tolerence. when you develop that tolerence it is harder to attach yourself to another person and relationships become harder to form and to make them last.
667624
Because they make it that way. It never should be that hard to love someone, but for men and some women they need a lot of drama in their life. Also some want to blame the other sex for their problems. If a man thinks a woman did him wrong he will blame all women..............
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Because most of us out there are scared to death of committing. If you base a relationship on superficial things then there is alot less to lose than if you invest emotional ties. It sounds hard and callous to say that, but I truly feel that this is closer to the truth than most of us want to admit.