how do i confront a guy i thought was being honest with me?
98185
If you have some way of "proving" his deceit, engage him in conversation and see how deep he'll dig his hole before you confront him.  This is best done in a group, or at least with someone else around.  Sometimes you can teach someone like that a lesson, or at least let his peers know of his true colors.
734703
just talk to HIM about it...be HONEST.
1159748
LOL!! That was a beautiful way to handle that situation!! <bowing humbly>  There is nothing wrong with what you asked him and if he's never talked to you like this before, I would be a little suspicious.  Why is he so defensive?  It was an innocent question, nothing clingy about it.  Something doesn't sit right with this...I could be wrong...but it sounds like he's trying to hide something.
896538
you have to confront him and ask him honestly if he loves you and thinks you have a future together.  Only then will you know the truth, even by his reaction.
160455
Im a guy and ive done the whole internet dating thing and to be really honest, most guys are really dishonest and talking on the internet gives them a chance to be even more dishonest. You really have to talk to a guy over the phone to try to form a better opinion on him. I really think the best way to tell whats up with him is to talk to him on the phone a few times and then meet him for the first time but not as a date, just to meet him for maybe 15 minutes and see what hes really like. At that point you can make a better choice on whether to go out on a date or not. good luck.
1033896
You should just casually confront him about the situation and show him the evidence that you have to be suspecting that you believe he is cheating.  While you are confronting and he begins to get really upset for no reason that usually means he is lying.  Ask him to gently tell you the truth and that is all you want to hear.
724933
Maybe you can talk to him and try and get him to tell you what he did without telling him what you did.For example: tell him you did something and it's really bothering you...He'll most likely say what...Tell him I rather not say..Say I don't know have you ever done something wrong and wish you didn't.If he says no keep the questions going..Like you never done anything you regreted or you never done anything your ashamed of.If he tells you then tell him your feelings on the matter. And make him promise he'll never do it again...Tell him he can go to jail.He'll most likely want to hear what your problem is and make up something say you lied to a friend and you want to be an honest friend one who is trust worthy.Technically it's true because your not coming out and telling him the truth about what you found out
98987
Hmmmmmmm, In your story it did sound as if he was still intrested. well being that you haven't heard from him he is either not intrested or something has happened to him.\nI really wish guys could be honest it would make life much easier, but if it'll make you feel better just keep in mind what goes around comes around.
923075
Ask him upfront and openly. If he gets mad and leaves you for asking that question, he was cheating, so you saved yourself.
910702
You have every right to ask him how he really felt.  Go ahead, ask.  Make sure you tell him you aren't interested in getting back together, but that you just want to know how he really felt.  If you feel like it was all fake though, I'd trust your instincts.  Can you trust him not to lie to you about how he feels now that it's over?
282243
Be honest with him. If your friendship is ended just by asking, then it really wasn't worth having in the first place.
446490
Just be straight with him.I've been in a similar situation before and my b/f was just happy that I was honest with him.He didn't get mad about the lie at all.Honesty is the best policy,no matter the consequences!
191417
We can't tell you if it's true or not without more details. Why do you feel this way? If you have a gut feeling that something is going on,then ask him. You should be able to tell by his reaction if he is being honest with you. If you don't feel comfortable with that,then,let it be,and hope for the best,I guess. You have to be careful how to approach this subject though if you ask him. Men don't take kindly to being accused of something they didn't do,and it could also put a wedge between the two of you. Called TRUST!! Be inconspicuous and just ask some innocent questions,that should get you somewhere for a starting ground,and a feel for his relationship with his ex. Good luck!
925403
Just ask him and tell him to be honest with you.
539739
Just ask him about it, usually if there is nothing to hide he'll just answer you... but he may not want to answer because he thinks your accusing him of something... if that's the case just drop it until you have proof something is happening... Its probably nothing to worry about :)
670470
i would ask him what he is afaid of -- if he tells you the truth?- tell him if its nothing to worry about he should tell you everything -- the only reason for a person to lie, is usually because they have something that they don;t want you to find out, for lots of reasons, to protect you, to make sure you don't get mad, for fear of you getting so mad that you would leave   i say confront him and if he cant tell you the truth-- he dosn;t trust you-- thats my personal opinion  i have dealt with this before and ultimatly i left him-- I never got the truth out of him unless we faught then he told me and as allways it was never anything big- tis jsut the fact that he never respected me enough to confide in me--- i think its  a power trip- so they feel like they have some sort of control
232839
You are honest enough to realise that you have done something wrong to someone, which itself shows u have taken responsibility of it. You cannot immediately confront him as iam sure he too is just recovering from whatever it is you have done to him. You have to wait, be patient. Once when the time is right, when things are a bit silent, you have to talk to him and get it over with. Meet him alone in person and in the first instance, start apologising  and then u owe him an explanation on why u had to do it. And last, tell him how awful you feel about what u did. And wait for him to react, listen to him, positive or negative...it doesnt matter..as much as you have admitted your mistake, give him a chance to let whats in his mind to come out. You have to take it from there, i guess. If that person has forgiven you, then great..but if he hasnt, and goes on abusing or accusing u and making u feel that you have sent him to hell, well...listen to it and simply walk away..you cannot force him to forgive you...\n\nYou did your  part and i'll bet u will feel a lot relieved. It wont irritate you in ur mind that you didnt clear it up, so well done, you have done ur part! pat urself for being brave!!