Is virginity a sign of self-respect/self-restraint or an obsolete old-fashioned mindset?
88646
It's a sign of self respect for both you and the person that you choose to be with for the rest of your life. It is so much more special when you save it for the special someone that takes your hand in marriage. \n\nIt's not old fashioned thing, I think really it is common sense and remaining abstenent until the "right one" comes a long really says a lot for your character. :)Believe me, it is well worth it to wait.
1106918
Not at all. It shows someone who is in control of their lives and makes choices for them not because other people. Or just have not found the person they wanted to lose their virginity to.
462008
Abstinence is the way to go.  There can never be any physical, emotional, or spiritual regrets when abstinence is the choice.  Sex is a wonderful and serious form of bonding between a man and a woman, and something this important can wait until marriage.  \nThere are plenty of men out there who would try to persuade you to give up your virginity to them, but it is only for selfish reasons.  Any man worthy of your affections will respect your decision and admire you for it.\nHang in there, it will be worth it.
487773
Since the girl has her himen intact, even if she masturbates, or have anal sex, or orgasm, or she puts the finger or other objects into her vagina, she is still virgin. Virginity referes to the integrity of the himen only.
194030
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 20. You should have sex when you feel ready, not when you feel you are the "right" age
789304
i love virgins.  there is nothing wrong in saving your self for the right person.  i feel that there is moe to life and a relationship than sex.  i would love to meet a virgin my self because ther is no presure to have sex and you can have all the fun you want and have a real relationship with the person you are with. I must be the only guy but if you want to chat just im me.
705212
Why are you still a virgin?If it is a religious meter i understand,but in any other case.....Anyway if you think that is wright,than O.K.(but since you are asking this question i assume that you also have second thoughts).
1120741
Yes, actually it's called your Second Virginity. We learned about it in school actually. I went to a Catholic School in case you're wondering. If you're abstinent and haven't had sex in a long time and plan on waiting for the right one before resuming relations with somebody, then yes, it's valid to say you're a "born again virgin" if that's the term you like.
422194
I married and worship a girl who was a virgin when we met.\n\nIf she hadn't been, I would have treated her as just another girl and never married her.  \n\nWhat I mean is that she was far more special than other girls I had dated.  Why?  Because I knew that when she gave herself to me, it was something very valuable and a big step for her.\n\nAs I said, I still worship her.\n\nOh, and she has a personality and innocence that far exceed those of other women I know.  I view her as a rare angel.\n\nI think her willingness to stay a virgin indicated how amazing of a person she truly is.\n\nGirls who don't keep their virginity?  Well, they get divorced every day.  Why not dump a girl who has had another penis in her?  She's not THAT special
836296
Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex.  There is no good or bad when it comes to virginity.  It is entirely up to you.  If you have to ask yourself whether or not you are ready to have sex, then you are not ready.
1095511
So when you are masturbating, you are playing with your sexual organs. This is a sexual activity and thus yes, it can be called sex. Granted it is not sexual intercourse but it is a sexual act in some form. \nThe word "virginity" has a strong image of "abstinence." You may decide you had sex too soon or rethink your decision to be sexually active. Becoming a second-generation virgin is one way to strongly state to others and to yourself that you have decided to abstain from sex. \n\nRegain a feeling of control - For some, virginity is a state of mind. The origin of the word "virgin" is from the Greek word "Virgo," often associated with goddesses of power. For some, second-generation virginity is a reclaiming of power and control over one's body. \n\nReclaiming your sexuality - When someone forces or pressures you to have sex, or makes you feel your virginity was "stolen," it doesn't feel like that should be your "first time." Your first time having sex is special, and no one has the right to take that from you.
738169
I married a 28-year-old virgin... and yes, she was still a virgin up until our wedding night.  Any woman who can hold onto her virtue that long in today's world deserves respect.
427929
Good for you for standing up to your beliefs. You have very strong character and it will serve you well in life. I waited until I was 17. I had a lot of boyfriends and PLENTY of opportunity to lose my virginity but I didn't want to give something so precious to a man I knew I wouldn't be with the rest of my life. You will know when you have met that special someone and only YOU will know when the time is right. It won't feel yucky or dirty and you shouldn't feel like he just wants you for sex. If he is THE ONE he will be respectful and you will feel a connection much deeper than just a physical attraction. Trust your gut. It is different for everyone. Men and Women are so different when it comes to their sexual needs. For men it is like a necessary physical urge. Much like hunger. They feel they need it and there brain tells them to fulfill that need. For women it is something much more emotional. Even girls who express a need for sex are feeling that need on an emotional level rather than physical. They feel a need for love or desire or just to feel wanted or attractive. Men just need the physical release. I wish I had waited until I was married because even though I loved my first and felt I would be with him for the rest of my life we got married but divorced 3 years later and have a daughter together. I'm glad I waited as long as I did but wished I had waited until we were married first.
870966
Please, stay a virgin! I'm one and I'm proud of it even though some may consider me a loser. I'll bet a lot of your friends secretly regret losing theirs to some idiot boy that didn't really care about them. Do not feel pressured to lose your virginity; you're too young and boys at that age are very immature.
887055
Why would you stop valuing your virginity???  Once it's gone, it's gone for good.  It ain't coming back! Save yourself for marriage!
78368
No there is nothing wrong to being a virgin at 18 and you shouldn't be concerned about what guys think be secure with yourself in being a virgin.Losing your virginity is not a race.I lost my virginity at seventeen and I wish I had waited because I lost it to the WRONG guy and truely regret it.But it is just my opinion that guys like virgins.You are fresh and un-touched.You have got something going on that alot of girls don't.Guys like the idea of having something that nobody else had.My guy knows I am not a virgin but just the thought of another guy that has been up in there causes him to cringe he doesn't want to think about it.Be proud you are not a hoochie that gives it up to every body that gives you a second look or shows interest and be very selective to whom you give your virginity to.
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.