How can you feel the void when your kids move out of the home and how can you fulfill your motherly desires?
94344
Get a pet!  And even when your kids move out that doesn't mean you can't still talk on the phone or visit.  Keep in touch with the kids and get a dog or cat (or both)!  Also, this is a chance to spend some alone time with your spouse and get to know him again (assuming there is a spouse)
938491
You are only feeling the way you do because of the idea of leaving everything that you have come to know and love. I am alot older than you I am sure, but I have moved about 8 times when I was young. We as kids had no say in where we were going and I for one hated everytime we moved I had just made new freinds. If your father feels like this is the best thing for the family and it will improve whatever lifestyle you have I say relax , go with the flow and when you are old enough to get out on your own and you really don't like where you are you can make that change. But as for right now, If it is going to make all of your lives better I say go for it. Seems like your parents are doing whats best for the whole family and KUDOS to DAD for including everyones say in the matter. Good Luck!
1143673
My word.  That is a lot of people and stress.   Is it possible for you to move into a place away or maybe down the road form your relatives, just to get you out of the chaos?  There are usually places that offer low/reduced rent for fixed incomes.   Maybe your children can do things to help around the house so when you come home you have some peace and don't feel like you have to race around and clean, cook, do laundry etc.  Good luck.
1160151
I feel like I left myself behind.........with raising a family and working full-time.  Sometimes I regret it, other times not.  I guess it's called being a responsible adult.
250757
I was in the same situation. I didnt know how to tell my parents i wanted to move out.. I started buying things i would need and starting saving money. I also would tell everyone else yet not them...then one day someone brought it up in front of my mom and she was like...what you want to move out. Then I came out and told her....Its not that i dont want to live with you anymore..its just it is time for me to leave and begin my life as an adult. They were sad at first but you know what... my parents told me after that they understand and as long as i am happy in my decision they are happy too, even though they miss me.\n\nThis is my story maybe it can help you.
408171
1st , if this some one your father or mother try to find your own place to live a lone , and better travel to another city and make a new life \n2nd always thing to make a good future for your self you need to be on your own and drive your life not others , and you control your life when you really feel this way you will start to be creative and make your own way of life , it is not easy but if you want you must fight to make it , life is not easy
110071
NO there isn't a way to get your life back because now you need to keep your kids' welfare in mind for every single decision.  BUT that doesn't mean you cannot still enjoy yourself.  A lot of it is getting your priorities in order and making decisions WITHOUT worrying about what other people think.  Of course, that's as long as your marriage is going well and your kids are healthy, happy, and safe.  If you are the type that doesn't mind leaving your kids with a sitter/caregiver so you can go shop, work, get your nails done, hang at the beach, party - whatever - then find someone you trust and do it.  If leaving your kids with someone while you go somewhere makes you feel rather guilty or just not right, then don't do it.\n\nYOU decided what your life will be like, to heck with critics.  If you are taking care of yourself, your husband. AND your kids, then you have got things going well.\n\nI have 3 kids and I am married.  I admit I chose to give up a lot to stay at home with the younger 2 b/c we can't afford for me to go back to work!  But I did keep my volleyball playing - which I NEVER intended to give up.  People tell me all the time I should be home with my kids instead of v-balling and others tell me I should go back to work b/c that's what should be done.\n\nAs long as you remember you're a mom and do not go overboard, you should be fine and happy.  Good luck!
1144592
i used to feel the emptiness when i didn't know God that much. but since he came into my life, he's filled it up with his love and presence.\n\nif i feel empty, it's more of a yearning to be filled spiritually - as in a desire for spiritual growth, but not longing for friendship, money or lack of God in my life.\n\nif u feel empty, talk to God. tell him you know he is there for you, and he's the only one who can take that emptiness from you. guess what, he's the one who has to occupy that empty place in you. just ask him to take his place in ur life to make u whole, and fill u with his peace.\n\nu'll sleep soundly, walk with ur head high, cos u know u have someone to depend on, u know where u r going after this earth life, and u know what u r doing with ur life.\n\ntry it. it works big time. and it's unregretable!\nMAY GOD'S GRACE BE WITH U.
691791
Moving back to your hometown can be hard after you've been out in the "real" world.  Many people associate home with certain things - like childhood, which can cause them to feel they aren't accomplishing what they should be.  \nIf you feel that these feelings you have aren't because of him and it's because of moving back home - you might try talking to a trusted friend or counselor to help you sort it out.\nEither way you should talk to him and tell him what you are going through right now, so that he knows you aren't trying to pull away from him or that you aren't unhappy with him.  \nAnother idea would be to maybe move a bit further away from "home" - like 30mins, close enough to everything but far enough away so you feel you have your own life.
535092
OMG, i know what you mean, my house is a wreck and i feel like all i do is cook and clean, so how does my neighbor with 5 kids have a spotless house and well-behaved kids and still find time to do fun stuff.... ??? i was stay at home and now i have a job, its hard either way.....\nAnd when hubby doesnt help... i am too darn tired to be meeting him at the door with anything lol\n\nPlease email me when you find out :) \n\n((((((HUGS)))))))) i don't feel so alone now...lol
24052
I am actually helping a young mother through this very thing. I've been trying to convince her that filling her life with more waste of space guys are not the way to being less lonely, especially since the guys she's attracted to have no life. I'll tell you what I told her. Finish high school. Then take some college courses. Get a job. In between times, surround yourself with a healthy circle of friends...ones that aren't after you for money, a place to sleep, or smokes. Find other young mom's who are doing the same thing. Find a MOPS group...Mother's Of Pre-schoolers. It's a mother's group, who meet regularly (weekly) and get together with their children, sharing tips, recipes, cleaning ideas, and each others problems. Once a month, they hire a babysitter and do something together, like go to a movie, bowling or a number of other fun, wholesome activities. Getting involved with a volunteer organization will get you out of the house and helping others with bigger needs than yours. If your child is old enough (as young as 3), you can enroll them in Headstart. There are lots of activities for the parent to get involved with there, along with being with other parents who are going through some of the same things. Some people will find an grandmother-type person, who is still very active, and you help each other. She can help you with your child, being a surrogate grandma, and she can teach you what she knows. You can help her with some of the chores that are maybe a little difficult for her. The thing is to do something with your life that's meaningful to you and your child. When you get involved, you teach yourself and you teach your child, and you'll end up showing your child how to give of himself to those less fortunate. <*)))><
551691
find out where they moved. Form a family. Be part of them as much as possible to make up for lost time.
331382
Contact the school board in your area they will have the procedures and guidleines in a packet for you.They will tell you what curriculums are acceptable for the state in which you live. Then ask yourself why do you want to home school? If it is for selfish reasons like you don't want your five yr old to leave you.Or you think they will learn bad habits, you need to think again. These things will happen anyway and your not really helping them. Ask yourself is your child already shy or outgoing? Keeping them home because they are shy is not good it only sets it in stone. I home schooled my youngest son it's not an easy task and it is a very big commitment. You just can't pick and choose when you feel like teaching and what you feel like teaching( although many do). You must teach even when you don't feel good or they are in a bad mood. What kind of relationship do you have with your child? Does he listen well? You'll only be hurting your child if you don't do it the correct way. Many home school children fall very far behind because mom is not very consistant or tough. My son is now in Public High School and in Honors programs but my friend who is home schooling her children do nothing but crafts and play games and seem very behind for their age in all their academic studies.She won't get out of bed until 9:30am and stops teaching at Lunchtime. They go shopping everyday. Is this teaching her children?? You also need some support people, parents  or friends who can lend a hand now and then to give your child a variety of teaching techniques. And you must absolutely get them involved in other activities in the outside world, such as soccer or ballet or some type of group sport. Not a homeschooling group. It keeps them too sheltered and they never learn how to put up with negative people. Which the world is full of. Hope this helps feel free to e-mail me if you have any problems and good luck.
354089
You do have a void in your life. You miss the parents you wish you had. My father passed away more than twenty years go when i was a little girl and i still am having a hard time with it. I don't remember conversations and never got to know him. I miss what i could of had. There is no real getting over it. It's more of accepting the way things are. I know i can't bring him back and it sucks. One thing i read recently i wish i could remember where. The article was about making a patch work quilt in your mind with the people in your life that have the qualities that you would want in a mother or father. Say you have a friend who is really good at listening, that can be a piece of what a mom is to you. Someone else in your life who encourages you is another part of what a mom is to you and slowly you piece together a mother. Instead of getting all of a mom in one person many people end up fill the void that is empty. It will never be the same as the real thing but that is where acceptance is a huge part of learning to cope. You will always miss them and wonder what life would be like with them. I wish i had a better answer for you. Sincerely,if during my journey in finding acceptance with my fathers death i learn something better i will let you know.
758834
sit down and tell them youre moving out, whys it so hard?  explain why youre moving out, with whom if its somebody, where youre moving to, be mature about it.  they should be happy for you, but your mom might be kinda sad because her baby is moving out of the house, but thats a parental thing, youll understand when/if you ahve kids that move out of the house.
973404
The thing I want the most is to stay at home with my children and raise them (which I do). Financially my hubby and I had to sacrifice not having the newest or best gadgets or clothes or car so that we can give more to our family. It is very much worth the sacrifice.
1096604
I am sorry that you feel this way, how terrible for you.\n\n I think you need to sit down with your mom and have a dicussion--not a screaming match-- and tell her honestly how you feel. It may be that she honestly has not realized that the situation makes you feel like this. Nomother would deliberately make their child feel like that on purpose, but Moms are people who have have feelings  too, and of course they makemistakes like anyone else.\n\n I hope you can have a good talk about this, and work it out.