I have a friend who asks all kinds of questions about ME, but won't answer personal questions about herself.
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I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
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Some people are just like that ya know...it's probably nothing personal...and she probably doesn't even realize how annoying she may sound to bring that up.It may sound hypocritical of her to say that when in fact she had/has her own obssesion.No biggie...just mention in a fun way..."well what about you & whatever his name is"...\njust tell her "so what" when she replies back "yeah but he's hot...and that show isn't all that"... or something like that.\nI don't think the situation is personal...just something for her to say...so say something back...that makes sense.
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When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D
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I have asked friend (of various ethnic groups) to NOT use any words around me that they wouldn't like hearing ME use.
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well someone that anxious to prove herself is definately insecure - I think that is what you have to focus on - what is it that she thinks she is lacking in that she needs to make up for it in other areas - you are her friend so I think you may already know the answer - if you know what the problem is, I think it will be easy to solve the problem - just be a bit subtle about it
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If you don't feel that you can be honest with them about how you feel, I think you should find other activities to do, getting too busy to support your friendship. Friendships will dry up, if you don't water them regularly with visits, phone calls and notes. If you are too busy to fit her into your schedule, she'll either ask you up front what's up or she'll slowly move on to someone else. If she asks, that's your cue to be honest, even though it might hurt. Without knowing how she "makes" you feel bad, it's hard to know if you're not bringing on some of this treatment yourself, actually encouraging her that it's ok to treat you this way. Some people think it's better to have a "bad" friend than no friend at all. If she is truly a "toxic" friend, move on to more positive people. In time, she'll fade away. I would rather that she knows exactly what's causing you to not want to be around her. Maybe she doesn't have a clue that she's treating you badly. Maybe she does this to everyone. If not, you have to ask yourself why you? Letting her know will give her the option of changing...or not. If you have body odor, and everyone avoids you, not wanting to be around you, wouldn't you want to be told? You might think everyone hates you or maybe doesn't like your clothes or something. No one has the right to treat you badly. You give them that right. You can take it away. <*)))><
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Your friend doesn't respect herself, your body is a beautiful thing and should not be abused by anyone, And sometimes if you feel it so not your place to tell her about herself,do it anyway sat her down and explain to her has a friend that what you are doing is wrong an unnecessary and if she is your friend she would take your advice and respect that you care so much and value the friendship she will think things through and take it in consideration.
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She has to learn not to be nosy. She is not aware that she is being nosy. Take her to the side and tell her that sometimes you wish not to share certain information with people. If she still doesn't get it, tell her straight forward but still nicely. Don't embarrass her in front of others.
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NEVER GIVE HER A REASON TO LIE TO YOU!\nUsually, you're wanting to know something that isn't your business, so she will just WITHOLD THE INFORMATION, not lie.
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Make her comfortable and let her know that she can be herself, that she doesn't have to change to be someone she is not, for you.  Turn conversations in her direction and ask her basic questions that she won't feel weird about answering.  Most likely she will ask you the same question and then you will have the opprotunity to show her who you are too. Good Luck!
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If she is and you push her about it she will not tell you b/c she would probably be afraid of what you might think. Give her some time and if she is she'll tell and maybe she might just be a little curious. If you are into hard core investigations try setting something up for her and see what she does....idk!
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Your friend just creates negativity in your life, you've done your part and she will never change her mind.  You should leave her alone and make friends with more intelligent people.
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If your friend talks bad stuff about you...she's not really your friend
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Simply don't ask for her advice or help anymore. If she tries to pry into your personal life of wanting to dish out advice, tell her you have confided in someone who listens, from an objective point of view.
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i have a friend who is exactly like that! well first of all, you should not confront her abrubtly saying something that might sound attacking like, "You are the most self-centered person I've met!" because then she may feel self conscience and blame some of that on you. or she make think you are jealous. SO, what you should do is maybe casually point out to her to think about others once in awhile. the process may take longer than you have hoped for but if they are a friend worth keeping than it is totally worth it. \n\nif she persists on being selfcentered than maybe you shouldnt be friends with her anymore. sometimes you just have to let people go and if she keeps acting like that then you should be the bigger person! so if she keeps to only thinking of herself then i say you should tell her bye-bye.
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If she thinks that you not understanding something and having to ask a friend for advice is laughable, then you don't need her!  That is really mean of her.  Your conversation between you and the other dude should have been private.