Does anyone know if there are any adhd help groups for parents of children with this condition in virginia?
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Check out sites below.  One shows Fairfax, VA.
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Im not sure where you live, but  in North Carolina, USA, in conjunction with "no child left behind", children with special needs, such as a medically diagnosed ADHD, qualify for an Individualized Education Program.   IEP children are not necessarily taken out of the classroom, but the parent, principal, and teacher all get together and make a written statement of goals and how to achieve them with your child.  in the iep, the parent must also help the child in the afterschool hours to learn.   ADHD isn't an excuse for doing poorly.  You might also try an afterschool tutoring program like Sylvan leaning centers.
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I have a 26 yr old son with Autism and ADD and he is the biggest blessing in my life.  Try to find support from other parents in your community.  Check out www.PHP.com (there are groups like PHP all over North America.\nAlso I love the books  "Laughing & Loving with Autism" by R. Wayne Gilpin.  Also read "Ten Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew" by Ellen Notbohm.  I also used prayer to help us through the rough spots...there is light at the end of the tunnel..  Autistic kids are truly wonderful...write down what they do and say...we used sign language until our son could talk and it worked very well.
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Your child's school system should have some programs in place to start you out. Do not hesitate to go to the guidance counselor,school psychologist or social worker, his/her teacher, and the principal---they have a vat of resources before them. They will probably recommend that you consult your child's pediatrician who will place your child on some sort of medication to start managing his/her behavior. \nIf you have found that you are getting nowhere in the education arena, don't give up---your child can get help elsewhere. The Easter Seals Society, a local Child Study Center, the Mental Health/Mental Retardation(MHMR), your county hospital and any disabilities assistance program in your state are good sources of help. Also, don't leave out websites that address these conditions--just type in bipolar, or obsessive compulsive disorder into the search box and it will lead you somewhere. Don't give up, it is a long road, but you can get the help you need. I used to work with teens who had emotional disorders, and although it was difficult, they were getting help through the program they were in. It does take a lot of footwork, however. You can get to the place of normalcy,it just takes time.
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Good Luck! I have a 15 yo with the same problem. He is ADHD with severe impulsivity and it has been a continuous battle to do any kind of school work. He would come up with all kinds of excuses about not doing his school work. I also didn't know what to do. So I started NOT letting him do anything. No TV, no video games (on TV or portable), no friends over, no going anywhere, nothing. He finally got the message. He told me he was going to give me "The Mean Mom" award because I wouldn't let him do anything or go anywhere. The thing was he knew most of the work, just had a hard time putting it on paper. He is in high school now and being homeschooled (which really works out much better). But the 'doing nothing' still stands if he doesn't do the work. He still has a problem with taking it out of his head and putting it on paper (he can tell you anything you want to know about his subjects, orally). But he has to put it on paper. But now he will sit down and do the work. I told him I was not having this foolishness anymore, I know he can do the work and if he wants any free time he'd better get it done.
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I FEEL SO BAD! Where's the time for you? I didn't see anything for you at all. I didn't see any counseling for yourself. My fiancee has ADHD also and I know how that part of what you're going through. We're not married yet, but it's taken quite a bit to get his mom to finally accept our relationship but, your mothers treatment is UNACCEPTABLE! You ever watch the Nanny on tv? She says a childs behavior is UNACCEPTABLE quite a bit. She's not a child (which would be more Acceptable) she should be showing you more respect. You can only do what you can handle. You're first priority is to yourself and your immediate family. Meaning you, your children and your spouse. Your husband needs to stand up to the plate. (as my fiancee finally did) He needs to back you when it comes to his mother. His first priority is with you and your children. He also needs to be helping you with the children and around the house as much as possible. Even though he doesn't work, you two need to have a night out once-in-awhile by yourselves. Maybe, you can talk to your mother-in-law about a limit of times to help her and she in return watches the children for you night out. By this I mean EQUAL TIME. As far as the bills, reality isn't that your mother-in-law is going to pay the bills. First off, I don't see if you're living with your mother-in-law but, if you are that's going to be a majority of the problem. Which getting your own place would be greatly advised. There are places that can help with deposits and financial resources. In all, it makes me believe you are living with your mother-in-law and that's going to be a very hard and stressful situation. My advise is to move. Your husband may be ADHD (so is my fiancee) but, he still needs to know he is to be responsible. Write down what he needs to do and try to involve the children in all the chores. Watch "The Nanny." Or go online if you can't get that show in. She helps not only the children but, the relationship with the parents towards how to keep everything together. You're not a work horse and no one should treat you according. Good Luck!
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I was diagnosed w/ ADHD 4 years thru college lol. I found the best tool was a pocket organizer/datebook, just write everything down in it, which I had never done before. That helped a lot.
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That's a dang good question. I have never heard of support groups from the childs perspective before. If your local groups cannot put you in touch with any, you may have to form one yourself. Check out this website and talk to these people, they may have good advice for you.\n\nhttp://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/site/comm_calender.htm
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Don"t worry there is alot of help out there. I took my daughter to the Regional Center in KCmo. They referred me to Childrens Mercy for testing and diagnosis. You can apply for Medicaid and SSi and they will pay for therapists and doctors.The Regional Center will send therapists to your home for behavior,ot or whatever your child might need!Here is the number for the Regional Center 816-889-3400 Premier Therapy 816-363-2052 . Contact person for the Regional Center is Wendy Snow. Also go on line and type in adhd and it will give you all the medical info you need. My nephew has Adhd and he was on Ritlin for several years,it"s a behavior med also several others available if needed. Good luck if you need to talk leave your EMAIL addresse.
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Check with national autism parent support sites like\n\nhttp://www.autism-society.org\n\nor\n\nhttp://www.php.com/\n\nGood luck!
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If cutting caffiene (e.g. sodas, teas) IMPROVES behavior, the child DOES NOT have ADHD. Someone with ADHD will visibly calm down when given caffiene.\n\nAbout 5% of kids who are hyperactive are really having a food allergy.\n\nhttp://www.nutramed.com/Foodallergy/fachildren.htm\nhttp://www.nutramed.com/children/hyperactivity.htm\nhttp://www.healingwell.com/library/allergies/kaemmerer6.asp\n\nSensory Integration issues also contribute to hyperactive behavior:\nhttp://www.sensoryint.com/\n\nADHD is a MEDICAL condition...in spite of all the debate. And, I can tell you from personal experience that without the right doctor, his treatment can be messed up very quickly.  Your parent(s) need to ask around...find parents of kids with ADHD, and ask them about whether they are happy with their child's current medical treatment for it. Remember that they will run into people who have been burned so badly by inept doctors that they won't medicate their child, no matter what (instead, their kids are in constant trouble at school, not academically achieving like they could be, and may not have many friends). We went through five different pediatricians until we finally found someone who was really able to help our son.\n\nIf the doctor feels that your brother may benefit from medication, your parents may have to go through trials of different medicines and dosages before they find something that works for him. Always keep in mind that medication is a tool...if something is making him sick from side effects, or he's groggy all the time, or it's just not working, they need to go back to the doctor and insist that dosages and/or medication types be changed. If you're lucky, the first medication prescribed will work wonders. \n\nOr your parents and the doctor together may decide not to start trying medication until he's older...the doctor will have management and parenting tips for them.\n\nIf the doctor diagnoses ADHD, they need to take a written letter (not a prescription) from the doctor to your school district's special education office (YES, even at age 3 or 4, you can get specialized services free through your school system). This will get them started on getting him specialized help, including a school social worker who can help them find good community resources, therapies, and specialized preschool programs that have teachers who are highly trained in helping your brother start to build good school skills early.\n\nHere are some additional links to help:\n\nhttp://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/adhd.htm\nhttp://www.genetics.ucla.edu/labs/nelson/adhd.htm\nhttp://www.chadd.org/\nhttp://www.adhd.com/family/index.jsp
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There is a great camp in NE Pennsylvania called Camp Shohola for boys they have been around since 1941. I know that they have kids there with ADHD and they enjoy themsleves while at camp. There website is http://www.shohola.com
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http://www.autismtoilettraining.com \nI have not looked at the site myself, but it came up on an ad for something else I was looking at, hopefully it will help! I had my autistic son completely out of diapers by the time he was 27 months old, but your situation is more normal with autism. It just happened that Tim was oversensitive to sensory input, so he HATED wearing wet underwear. I don't know how much of this will apply to you, but I'll tell you what I did anyway. Everyone on here that said to be really consistent with a reward system is right on target, that's about the only way to get through an autistic brain, and the sillier you are, the better! Find a treat that he really likes and by a bag, and only use it for potty training, no other time. Skittles was what we used. He got three skittles for sitting on the toilet and I spaced them out so that he was sitting for about five minutes. NO pullups or diapers during the day at home, only underwear, and I ran water in the sink while he was sitting. If he actually did something, he got another skittle, and we made a huge deal out of it! Then, he got one sticker put on a chart for sitting and one for going. If he doesn't go,then he still gets SOMETHING just for cooperating with you. I took him as soon as he woke up and every hour after that, and I asked him all through the day if he had to go. That's all you can really do, unless the link I sent you to has other ideas. Hope this helps! I do my own therapy with him, he's never seen a professional, and he is doing WONDERFULLY. I will be homeschooling him, and we're officially starting pre-school next month. We spent last year just working out behavior problems so that we could focus on academics this year. Contact me if you just need to vent!
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First, I'd talk to his pediatrician and/or see a neurologist (I'm sure he's had one in the past with this sort of problem).  Second, ask the doctor (or look into it yourself) about enrolling him in sometype of therapy-- I'm not sure what type would be appropriate- in addition to typical therapy (emotional type- to help him find better coping strategies)also maybe you could enroll him in something like physical therapy or occupational therapy-- where at least they could maybe fit him with some type of helmet or device or install something on the walls to protect him.  Not sure if you live in an area where this is available or how affordable an option it is (I'm from a small town where these things just don't exist) but I would strongly recommend seeing the doctors and considering some sort of therapy.  I truly wish you and your child the best of luck.
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Hi, Kelly!  I am a Reiki practitioner and an Herbalist, and a mom of 2 boys who have ADHD, one of whom was agressive - much, much less now. \n  I agree with the Oatstraw (Aveena Sativa) and the dietary recommendations.  Since there is very little way to stop all preservatives (school lunch, parties, etc) I also give my boys Flax Seed Oil as it has been proven effective as a blood cleanser.  It also has the Omega 3 fatty acids that people with neurological problems are deficient in.  Cinnamon is wonderful also...it helps keep their blood sugar stable, and helps metabolize any extra sugar.  Other than that, I just make sure their multivitamin is high in B, C and Zinc as those are deficiencies in People with ADHD as well.  \n\nI am at windstarhealing.com if you have any questions.  Good luck!
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i am in the same situation...i have a daughter that has adhd with mood disorder and she is on the highest medication you can give someone...(adult doses) she is on so many meds for morning,noon and night...it sucks...but she is truely out of control if she isnt on them...and yes we are extremly disciplinary so its not a parental problem....if she wasnt on the meds she wouldnt be able to go to school...the teachers cant handle her if shes off of them...if we took her off we would have to put her in a special school and that would probably be worse on her...embarressing and everything that goes with that!   i hate the fact that we have her on so many meds it could kill a horse but i dont know what else to do.i sometimes let her go without it...when shes out of school like now,but sometimes its just to much...i am not very patient with her sometimes and i hate myself for that!  but anyways i have never heard of anything outside of meds that can help with this...but i do commend you for not letting them push meds down his throat...but depending on his age and the severity of it the school may force you to or put him in a special school...
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help,\n\nI'm not sure you'll find many articles out there that addresses ADD and/or learning disabilities as an inherited condition.  I've never seen any, so I can't begin to answer what the chances are for a child born to one or both parents who have suffered the same.\n\nI would say that all one can do is to pay close attention to the child's development, and to take quick action if any developmental problems present itself.  I know this isn't much help...best of luck.