My heart was borken today by a man who I loved with heart and soul. In pain now! How do I heal my broken heart
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Okay first breath...It hurts but you will grow so much more then you will ever know once you move pass this...Where were you on Saturday...My heart was so broke...I was told today to hang my head high and walk with pride and no matter what always know that you are better then that and you will hurt for a while and then you will see day light...Its not a matter of loveing to much or not enough its a matter of selfishness on the other persons part...Or just know that life moves and breaking up is part of that move and it hurst yes but time will heal all...Good luck
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If you have a broken heart, Jesus can heal it, only if you trust him and let him....All healing takes time...but knowing that someone loves you can make a big difference. Jesus does love you, and if you can accept that love, then your healing has begun. Read the bible, especially the new testament and the psalms. I think you will find some strength there....jesus heals you through his word, by bringing other people to help you, and by giving you his peace.
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It is hard to move on and most of us have been there.  The worst thing you can do is dwell on the man and the situation: what could I have done differently, maybe if I had....STOP.  \n\nFigure out if the emotions are in fact toward him, or the rejection.  Sometimes sadness can be overwhelming and you cannot differentiate between, was he really right for me and I miss him so, or damnit I was dumped and I feel horrible.  \n\nSTAY BUSY and surround yourself with people who can make you laugh, keep you preoccupied with an activity as opposed to your thoughts.  Try not to be alone...everything will remind you of him.  \n\nWork out.  I know it's one of those flippant answers like "get a makeover," but it really does help.  Not only can you release the frustrations, tension, you will look better!  \n\nSay to yourself: Ok, I'm going to allow myself one more day to wallow in my misery and that's it.  That's enough.  I'm better than this and he will not get one more tear!!!
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WELL YES I HAVE....YOU JUST HAVE TO PUSH ALL THE HURT TO THE SIDE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SELF AND HEALING YOUR SELF...AND THAT CAN BE A LONG PROCESS....BUT YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANOTHER....I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE HEARD THAT BEFORE BUT IT IS TRUE...AND THE OTHER THING IS TO NEVER BLAME YOUR SELF FOR ANY THING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH....JUST KEEP BUSY AND TRY NOT THINK ABOUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED......FIND HOBBY'S TO GET IN TO AND JUST TRY TO STAY BUSY...EVENTUALLY IT WILL BE EASIER BY THE DAY AND BY ONE NIGHT YOU WILL BE READY TO GO BAKU OUT ON THE FIELD AND PLAY BALL ONCE AGAIN....HOPE ALL IS WELL FOR YOU....KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH.....
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I'm sorry your heart is broken.  Break up with him, and thank goodness that you found out now instead of later.  Your heart will heal with time.  Take that time to heal and move on.  You'll find somebody new.
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I think you need to be honest with yourself and bring everything out in the open.There are reasons why you hurt so deeply,the only way to ever move past it is to go through it.The first thing you need to do is to know your worth,that yes things have happened in your life as they do us all some more than others.You have to take it as a learning experience it will only make you stronger in time,sometimes we can help others through our own trials,its not always easy you have to keep going though.Drinking and partying or any of these things you are doing its not healing your pain it wont its a bandaid.Get real ,loose the crutch,try to find positive people to surround yourself with,then you will see a positive outcome.If you really want things to change it will also help you to know that,God is always with you even when you are not with him,I hope that you can find the light to lead you out of such a dark place,I know its there I found it so can you,you just have to reach for it.May God keep watch after you.
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Your heart and soul feels bad because you are missing the most important lover of all time. The lord Jesus can heal ur broken heart and pain and weakness of the spirit. Learn his ways, speak and pray to him, and he will guide ur path.
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He wasn't ready for what ever reason to commit to you. Don't beat yourself up over this, there are people that will come and go in our lives, some for the good and some for the bad... it just makes us stronger people. Obviously you invested more in this relationship than he did, and it's going to hurt for a while trying to get over it. Grieve for a while, if you want to cry and feel sorry for yourself, do it.... it's all part of the process of loss. Just always remember your self worth, and that we are not the lessor of our selves, we are the sum of ALL of our parts, and that is something phenomenal. There may be more men like him in your future... and then again you may meet your soulmate tomorrow.... just don't let life get you down...it's too short to waste the energy on negative people. God bless you, good luck, Peace.
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Part of life and dating is finding out exactly what you are looking for in a man.  All of us get hurt at one time or another, some of us more often than others.  The heartache comes from having a strong connection with the individual, and then one day everything is gone, and IF we are lucky we may maintain a friendship with that individual (but how often does that happen?).  I know, I'm dealing with this now.  Yes it hurts.  Those men that have greatly impacted my life and are no longer in it....I never really forget them, they are just not always in the forefront of my mind, but I still think of them, some more than others.  It's ok to never completely let go of them in your mind.  I have had to write in a notebook to him, at least I don't feel so overwhelmed with my thoughts this way.  Be strong, it's hard, but we all go through this.\n\nLike they say:  It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved before.....\n\nand: Things come and go from our lives, it's how we loved them and how much we loved them the time they were here that counts.\n\nIf you care for this person and have showed it to him....he won't forget you, he will use you as a comparison for his next relationships, and that can be a good thing.
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its normal to feel the pain because you have truely loved him. i suggest you go out w/ your friends, get a hobby, keep yourself busy so you dont have time to think about him. \ni hope sonner you'll get over him
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I was in your shoes, my friend, years ago. And this is what I did and learned:\n\nI waited & waited to be loved in return... five years as a matter of fact. I had many sleepless nights, I had a whole migration of butterflies in my stomach everytime we spoke over the phone, whenever i saw her, & even a simple thought of her. Not a single day, night & moment went by that I did not think of her. I was there for her emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually... & evermore optimistic for her to one day feel the way i felt. Yet, she did not reciprocate the same intensity & desire as i did. Mind you that nobody knew that i was feeling soo ga-ga over her, so i had no one, not one soul to talk to for advice or direction of what i should do. \n\nSo what happened? What did I do? \n\nWell, one nite i finally broke down, emotionally, like i had before and got down on my knees and prayed to help get over her. A warm blanket of feeling came over me and realize that I was just alone, too lonely & barking up the wrong tree. In that instant my head was clear & had enough gusto to say myself & her "no mo". I moved on. Since then, I had many friends to count on and goals that kept me busy.\n\nThe Truth is: I was infatuated. I "loved" someone who did not loved me back; who did not reciprocated... for five long years! It was a waste of my time, energy & not to mention financially. In that instant in the dead of night, i realized one love is not enough... it takes two.\n\nSo my question to you, my friend, how long can you wait?\n\n-Taz-
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I'm so sorry to hear about your painful experience. Losing someone you love that much is so diffucult. My heart is going out to you.  \n\nI don't know when this happened, how recent it was, but there is always a mourning period where you need to let your emotions out. Sadly, you didn't have the time you wanted with him.  Your future plans are turned upside down. I know a little about that myself. So, I'm sorry for your pain. If it's recent, it's going to take a while to move past this, but you will move past it.  In time the pain will dull and you may try to love again. It's so hard to think that right now, but love can happen again for you.  \n\nRight now your life may seem pretty aweful, it's hard not to have dark thoughts when you are going through what you are going through.  But your life is important to many people, your friends, your family, and especially your late boyfriend.  He loved you and would only want the best for you. I'm sure he's looking down on you and loving you from heaven right now.  And if he knew what would happen to him, he'd want you to be happy for the rest of your life. \nYour long life.\n\nYou don't have the worst life ever, it's just the worst it's been for you as of yet, and probably the worst it will ever be. If you're having trouble coping with the pain, talk to someone- a professional grief counsler can help. They can help you express the different stages of mourning in a healthy environment, and help you keep focused on how to keep your own life on track.\n\nSorry sweetie, this is so rough for you. I'll pray for you tonight.
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You were hurt, and you pushed him away. That can happen to anyone in your situation, but I agree that you should tell him how you feel. Don't drag it out. You should know where you stand and let him know where he stand with you. If it doesn't work out, you will have closer and the ability to love someone else. That may not necessarily be what you want to hear, but YES sweetie you can love again.
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at this moment, i am thinking of my future soulmate. I really wish i was in his arms, to be cuddled and loved. So sad i'm still single and I have to go thru my life alone. I hope that good souls would pay tht i find my mr. right who loves me sooooooooo much, soon.. tc, thanks for your question. really made me speak out what i felt.
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Maybe nothing. Since he's been treating you like this, I don't think any word you say would carry any weight. He just won't listen or care. Try to bury the past in your heart along with your grief and hurt. It will take you a while to heal, but you will be fine. THis man is long gone, even though he's still around. I just hope that this experience will make you a stronger and more loving woman. Best wishes to you and your children.
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How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
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You are hurt now.  \nIf you want to be hurt again, then forgive him.  \nIf you want to get over the hurt faster, then dump him and find someone to be happy with.