how do I ask for a divorce from my husband who is seemingly good but we really dont have much understanding.?
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I too read that those couples who stick it out are happier 5 years after the issue than those couples who divorce.\n\nIf you are having a hard time telling him you want a divorce, I have to ask if you have had a hard time communicating your needs and wants in a way he is sure to hear and understand.\n\nRemember, most of you ladies speak a different "language" than guys, and then get upset when we don't understand.  Your difficulty in telling him leads me to believe you could learn to improve your part in the the communication cycle.
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I'm in the same boat as you, I've been with my husband for 5 years and things are getting worse and worse, the happy life we had went down the toilet along time ago and all we do is fight. It's not easy i don't know how to tell him either, but the person I'm seeing makes me feel like I'm worth something, not useless. maybe we can figure out something, my email is under my info
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I can give you the below link, but that's really just dipping your toe into the pond of this issue. I would check out some psychology books or divorce advice books. Either of those two types should give you a much more indepth knowledge on what this issue is all about.
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Divorce him I think you are awesome darlin .\n Oh yes how's it hanging ? LOL !
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yeah .. sounds like you're ready ... \n\nYou might need some time to save up some $$$ of your own ( if possible )\n\nStart looking for a divorce lawyer ( I would highly recommend one if you have any kids, property, equity, loans, ... etc.... with him )
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Tell him to stay put.  \n\nSee if you can get you and the kids on an even keel. See if he can get on an even keel.  \n\nIf he can call, come by, treat you guys with respect, maintain his job, his car and his home, his bank account, and take the kids sometimes to give you a break, then you might have something.  \n\nPay attention to his decision making skills.  Can the man make a decision and stick with it or is he all over the board?  \n\nDate for awhile.    DON'T let him sleep over at your house, unless you want your kids totally confused.  Give yourself enough space to objectively evaluate his behaviors.  Then decide if this is a healthy, loving, family relationship for everyone involved.
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Stop whining...Is life good for you?  If yes, then let it go, it's only been 1 1/2 years.  I could see if you were past 3 or 5 years.  Give the man time.  You have obviously never been through divorce before.  He's gone through it twice!  Do you know what that does to a person?  Give it a rest for a little while and if it's meant to be it will be.
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Go get yourself a divorce, and file for custody and child support. The courts are usually behind a woman who wants the best for her child. If he's a truck driver and on the road a lot, I have a feeling everything will go in your favor. Just remember, get yourself a decent lawyer, one who works in your county and knows the judges in the courthouse. Most importantly, do not slander your soon to be ex- husband, be calm, cool and act intelligently. Sounds like he has an anger management problem... you will not have to tell anyone but your own lawyer, chances are he will become angry in court and he'll be his own worst enemy.
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Get a good lawyer, ask him what to do. \n\nI had several friend talk about how having a lawyer makes all the difference or how knowing how to act in court makes all the difference. If you have a clean record, many times how well things work out depends on how you act and what you say in court.
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Call a lawer and ask if you can get the divorce on the grounds of abandonment. He doesn't have to be there if you can do that.
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Your situation appears to be one of your husband using very poor judgment.Other than what you've already done to remedy the drama he has begun is to start being mindful of every aspect of your relationship.Then after a reasonable period of time ask your self if you want to continue in your marriage.I apologize in advance if my advice is blunt,but LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE DUMB stuff.either he makes some serious changes,and seeks help and your forgiveness or.........only you can fill in the blanks.Take care an GOD bless you both.(ps I don't knw if you can find out about other accts,but i hope some 1 can help}
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I would suggest a good marriage counselor- All marriages have their problems, but if it is to the point where it affects your everyday life and/or your children's lives, then yes, you should seek a counselor.  Many couples who fight daily about trivial things, have an underlying, much deeper problem (i.e. someone hasn't fogiven someone for something, etc.)  OFten times too, the problems lay in a communication breakdown- one member might think he/she is getting their point across, but the other member either might not be willing or truly might not be ABLE to REALLY HEAR what they are saying- Again, a good marraige counselor can give you the tools you need to get to the very root of the problem and begin to solve it
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You won't convince him ,all you can do is file for divorce and let your lawyer know that he won't believe it's over ,once the divorce is in pipe line then aqnd only then mite he accept it really is over,i would suggest you keep contact to a minimum that way he will start to get the idea you ae not coming back,if you have been in contact on a regular basis he may feel he still stands a chance but you can't turn the clock back and if you don't love him you will only be even more unhappy if you return out of guilt because he is miserable without you,GOOD LUCK
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I starte to write something else, but couldn't do it.  If you are that unhappy, get a divorce and do this thing the right way.  Cheating on him is not the answer.
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of course first of all you must talk to your husband. tell him all that you know about his computer "games" and tell him how he makes you feel and how he has been treating you. give him time to talk. be open honest and blunt. if you are blunt to him he will be to you. don't spare andy feelings this is your life if things don't work out with your husband then take it from there but don't betray him even if things turn for the worse (divorce) my advise is spend less time with the friend ( i know it will be hard) and more time with the family. Try to salvage your mariage before you indulge your short term desires. Be patient and have will power. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
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Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
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Ask for goodness sakes!  How are you going to be able to find out if things are going to get better if you don't take the next step.  Are you going to wait and depend on him?  He is probably totally oblivious.  You might have a long wait.  SOMEBODY needs to make a decision.  Good luck!