my boy friend wants another girl to join us how do i pick one?
82041
Its normal.... Most guys want this.... I have tried it and have enjoyed it. You should pick somone you are comfortable with. I am straight also but have had a 3sum twice both with 2 of my best friends. Its just exploration and should be fun. It doesnt mean he isnt dedicated to you he is just curious. and its good he came to you about it and explained his fantasy. Just try and find someone you can both agree on that you dont find threatening. Ask him if he has any ideas but make sure you stay in control ;) its better that way
601341
follow what your heart tells you to. just dont lead all three of them on because thats a way to get nasty rumors started about you. especially since boys tend to talk more than us women do.
95172
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.
121632
just tell him that she already likes you and reccommend another girl who he might be good with possibly someone who already likes him
436459
I've kind of had a similar problem (although vice versa cause I'm a girl) in the past..First you need to to figure out your feelings for each girl, and decide who you want to be with. If you choose your girlfriend, you need to be honest with your friend, and tell her that she had her chance, and now you have a girlfriend, and she needs to respect that. And she doesn't have to like her, but for the sake of friendship she needs to tolerate her.. And then tell your girlfriend, that YOU chose her, you chose to be w/ her.. and she needs to respect your friendship with someone else, and its not fair of her to tell you who your friends can and cannot be.. \nIF, however you choose the friend, you have to be honest with your girlfriend, and tell her that you need to explore whatever the connection to your friend is.. and that you're sorry..\nThe thing is, even though there is a connection with your friend, It sounds as though she likes the chase, because she could had you at one time and she chose not to.. and NOW that you're taken she wants you.. just because there's a connection, doesn't mean she isn't playing a game, even if she doesn't know shes playing a game.. she is..
1010828
what a biatch, sounds like one of those teasers. She might tease you forever. But you still have a  chance buddy, make her jealous. Invite her to join you and another female friend. Ask her to help you out.
30802
It's not proper to be in such situation and its not easy for her too, she was in love at first then you came, you got closer and now you are both in love but at the same time she is with her boyfriend, may she likes something in you and another in her boyfriend, but soon one of you will win, so to be honest with yourself and to avoid doubting that she might do it with another person if she left her boyfreind for you, give her enough time to decide but you have to be away from her she must choose only one person in order not to be hurt or to hurt her boyfriend if he discovered that she is cheating on him
142524
are you guys even together? I mean if your not then GO FOR THE OTHER GIRL! because this one is obviously playing games or not interested. If she is talking to other guys and you are together and you think its more than just polite conversation get rid of her its not worth the trouble
1052484
the best way to choose between them is to sit them both down at the same time and explain ur feelings. next, ask them if they would b OK with u going out on a few dates with each one b4 u make ur final decision.  most guys are cool about it and if one of them isnt cool with it, go out with the other one. another way that might help u is if u make a list of all the things u have interests in and then separate lists for each of the guys. seeing how many interests they have in common with u will help u decide which one u might have more fun with
622021
girls come and go but a friend is hard to find and a good friend is the hardiest. Tell your friend that this might come between the two of you and if he still wants the girl then he's not a true friend and go for the girl.
205235
if he knows u like him and he likes u back then he'll choose between u or his gf. give him time it must be hard to pick between two woman. if he likes u as much as it sounds he'll leave his gf and be with u. just dont push him and give him some time to think it thru. \n*Good Luck!* =)
309173
Pick whoever you like more, pick the one that complimets you the best and will be there for you when you need her. Sounds like miss x needs a boot.
820054
No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
362137
i think you should spend some one on one with each of them. don't be in a very big hurry to choose or you could choose the wrong one. if they don't understand that you need to make the right decision they should understand and give you the space you need.  good luck and, god bless you!!!!
235683
If she likes you more then he other bf then she should dump him, and your not a girl stealer, me and my friend both liked the same guy and she asked him out like three times and he said no all three times then I did and he said yes. thats just who he picked you can't control who she likes, just who you do, go with who you like if you get with someone you don't like then your keeping your self unavilabe to people who do.
243787
Woo, how on earth did you ever think that getting in a situation with two girls was a good idea? (unless they both gave you permission before ;-) then you're a lucky man!)\n\nYou know deep down you can't keep seeing both. That's just not fair to them, and it compromises you, and adds pressure and stress to your life, as you are effectively living a life of deception! So make a decision, make it fast, and finish with the other girl as kindly as possible. Make sure the ditched girl never finds out, as you are a dead man. \n\nThat really is the only thing you can do!
62271
May the best friend win!  But if he picks her, still be friends with her!\n\nAnd if he picks YOU, have him select one of his friends to introduce her to.