ANSWERMAN, I am taking all my kids, Im the custodial parent, he has made every pymt, leaving is safer for us?
93378
I sincerely wish you luck.  May you and your children find the happiness that you so deserve.
966659
6 kids in 8 years??  And he can't get off his butt to support his family??\n\nYou'd probably do better on your own.
1039702
I'm not in favor of leaving children at recreational places without responsible supervision.  If they can come and go without anyone in charge, it is not safe to leave them.  You need to stay there, or find someone who will agree to be responsible for them.  You need to spend some time at the facility yourself and judge if you think it is a safe place.\n\nIt is never safe to drop children off anyplace you don't know about.
901988
staying for the sake of the kids will not give them any benefit, as time goes on and your kids grow they will notice things arent how they should be and will in time feel awkward, and often end up rebelling against both parents, some even leave home asap, i know quite a few old school mates who had done this, growing up in the kind of environment that you have at home now.......
101656
Once he left his kids,he proved to everyone,that not only does he not want to be a father,and take on his responsibilities,but he "Moved in" with someone,who is paying the bills,and not him!. Free room and board,is right up his alley!. Having someone's children,does'nt mean committment to the mother,but It does mean he is responsible for the welfare of his children. Don't be foolish enough to let him back into YOUR personal life,because you'll end up with baby No.3,and he'll be shacking up,with his next victim.
206765
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
860374
This worries me. Why do you feel you must send a 6 year old off to boarding school? Could you give more information?
692292
You haven't said anything that makes it sound as if you should take him back.  And as Dr. Phil says, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  Why on earth would you want to take him back if he hasn't been good to you and your kids?  And what's the story with your husband - are you still with him or planning on leaving him?
244620
There is no doubt you should leave.  You need to because it is what is best for you and for your kids.  It also may be the only way he will reach rock bottom and truly work on his problems.  You and the kids deserve a life as hard as it may be that isn't lived around him and his problems.  You've given all you have to this marriage but he obviously refuses to give as much of himself.  You deserve more, and your kids deserve more.
244628
I don't think so.  If the parent is not neglecting the child or endangering the child in any way, it is not likely.  A child is taken away usually only when the child's physical or emotional well being is at risk.
618249
Do what is best for the child, you have been selfish in many ways, which does not make you a bad person but the time has come to make some responsible decisions regarding your role as a parent...if it is better to be a parent without living with the child then do that, you are still family.It may even strengthen family ties.You don't want to live with the child and leave again.  Maybe you should not get back together with the mother, remember one thing, as you get older your child becomes your legacy not your relationships with your girlfriends/partners/wives. Take your time and make a decision you can live with...don't rush, be a good parent and don't put yourself on the spot by agreeing to something you really don't want, be a good parent and you will find peace and a more fulfilling life,which will include doing the best thing for your family.
28845
I would go if I were you .Your condition alough painful is not life threatning and downs children are very loving and need routine .So go.
300617
Well one thing is certain - you are going to have to get the hell out of there for your sake and the sake of your kids.  This guy sounds like he has the maturity of a seven year old, he is pure selfishness.  Sure he wants to go with other girls, but I bet he'll sit around drinking beer, playing with himself and watching TV.  You're better off without him.  You obviously have a lot of love to give, and you want love in return - you're NOT going to get where you are - so you have to face up to that and move on.
252331
It just depends on how much you are willing to take from him.If you can't take anymore then leave.He obviously isnt going to quit doing whatever he keeps doing. Its been 5 times. Maybe you should seperate for awhile. Just to get away from the crap. I
72950
I think you should leave and divorce him.It is an emotional strain on your kids as well as yourself.If you won't do it for yourself then do it for your children.It might be hard at first because it will probably be hard for you to make a change after being with him for so many years.A lot of people have a hard time making a change because they are afraid of the unknown even though they are miserable and deep down know that it would be best for them and their kids.You and your children deserve better.Just do it and get on with the rest of your life.
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
107187
Are you bound to the state you are in because of being the custodial parent and your divorce decree states you must get permission from the court? I would suggest you speak to your divorce lawyer for correct advice. \n Or If you are on probation or paroll or something like that, in which you would need very specific permission from the correct authorities .\n Otherwise, I don't think there are any prison states... at least not yet, so we are still 'free' to move anywhere in this country, reguardless of our maritial status...