I love a man.Military,and he is going on mission next tuesday.I dont know how to tell him about my feelings?
90696
Girl, you better tell him while you've got the chance!  From the sound of it..he feels the same so tell him your feelings and don't take a chance on him finding someone else.  If you want that man and need him then make him yours!
887186
talk to him a month isn't that long. the worst thing to do is sweep it under a rug. enjoy the time you will spend with him until then and then you will really enjoy when he comes home. look on the bright side, at least he is not being deployed into war. that would be even worse. take what you can.
192327
just tell him what u feel about him.i know it's easy to say than to do but u  have to be honest with him and to YOURSELF. good luck =)
614573
You should talk to him & tell him how you feel...that's the only way he's going to know.
537580
sorry, but im exactly like that.\ni guess you could sit down and talk to him, and then tell him how you feel. or you could watch a romantic movie with him, and in the middle of a love scene you could kiss him and tell him you love him. hell respond appropriately\n\nGood luck
847172
Keep this one thing in mind. Actions speak louder than words. Forget what he says, pay close attention to what he does. Good luck and God bless****
763615
well, for starters...open your mouth and practice the art of communication! What you said here is perfect for letting him know!\n\nGood luck!
629730
You're thinking a bit too far ahead. Just have faith and let things run its course. If you keep on worrying about this, then it might subconsciously affect your actions and behaviour or the actual relationship.\n\nTo answer your question though, just tell him honestly and in person. Don't make any empty promises like "We'll still be friends" or, "I will always care for you", because most of the time it doesn't work out that way. Plus, it hurts the dumpee a LOT more when you promise those things and later abandon the promises.
1109461
Enjoy the trip! Stop focusing on what CAN go wrong, believe me if you continue to worry about it, it will. Take it as it comes, if the two of you love each other and are willing to honestly try, there is no reason it can't work out. My husband and I were both in the Navy on constant back to back deployments when we were dating and made it through, though it was a struggle sometimes. Now, he's in Iraq and I only see him ever 4 months for 2 weeks per visit. It's still hard, but our faith in each other and our love for each other hasn't and won't change. You simply have to be willing to trust each other and let the small things slide. Be grateful for the time you have together and when you do see each other, focus on that.
707189
Try to contact his FRG (family readiness group). They can keep you up-to-date with what is going on with the unit. However, some units have restrictions on who can receive information, and there may be certain things they can't/won't tell you (since you are not married yet). There should be some people who you can make friends with and talk to though. If moving is an option, move near his base so that you can really be near the FRG and also be there when he  gets back. However, you cannot live on the base until you are married, and the military will not pay you an allowance to live off-base, like they would if  you were married. \n\nWhen you think you can't take it anymore, remember why you love him. It sucks when he's gone, but it will be so worth it when he gets home, trust me.
478204
Tell him in person.  It will mean more that way.  And try until you get a chance to say what you need to say.  Good luck sweetie.
412975
just tell him how you feel
398061
Do you have an FRG Leader you can ask?  If not, I sent my son the following and he loved it.\nBaby wipes, poptarts, canned spaghetti(with poptop lid), Vienna sausages, crackers, sunflower seeds, puzzle books, sun screen (very high SPF), more baby wipes (can't have too many of those) and LOTS of love letters from you.  Your letters mean the world to him right now.  It is hard having him so far from home, but stay true and keep writing to him and letting him know you will be there for him.  My prayers are with you both and my hat is off to the both of you.  Being a soldier is hard, but so is being the woman behind the man.  You get the bad times too, but none of the recognition
1105150
If you really love him, tell him. How could you live the rest of your life wondering what could have been. He might still go in the Air Force but he might come back to you. If you are as good of friends as you say you will not lose your friendship for being honest even if he does not feel the same about you, it might be awkward for a while but you will still be close friends. Good luck
135799
Write to him all the time! I'm sure he'll be happy to get your letters. And if he's engaged in Iraq or another high-stress zone spend time doing research on post-traumatic stress syndrome. You will be well equipped to lovingly guide him back into civillian life when he gets home. You don't want the wonderful feelings to fade when the reality of his war-fed deployment-induced emotional thirst comes in full-contact with your peace-fed warm and fuzzies. \nBest of luck! He's lucky to have a sweetie praying for him!
999731
Think about the stress he's going to be under. He will see a lot of things he wished he wouldn't and do things that might stay with him forever. God forbid, but he might get wounded or worse.\n\nI really think you should ask him if he wants to take the lead in this. Would he like to stay in contact with you? Would he understand your feelings of confusion?\n\nSince you aren't in love yet, it seems like you should see how it goes. He might be over there a year before he comes back, and he might or might not have changed in ways neither of you can predict.\n\nI guess the main thing is to establish how you are going to stay in contact, and above all promise that you will be honest with each other in your communications.\n\nGood luck to both of you.
252975
tell him how you feel