whats the best way to enhance sex life after 5yrs of marriage?
96851
Marital aids @ ExtremeRestraints... I'm especially fond of the stockade.
229139
Don't be concerned you are adjusting to married life, and it is normal to have a slow down in sexual desire, just keep it fun...spontanous and romantic!! Surprise him...impress him....tease him.....
59178
I married my best friend and our sex life is STILL Fabulous after 5 years!
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Remember to always keep some spice in the relationship. Don't get comfortable and fall into the routine of marriage. Try new and exciting sexual positions, as well as places. Surprise each other with small forget me nots and gifts. Most importantly, remind each other how lucky you are to have found a love that most people search their whole life for and never find. Congrats!
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1)Both of u take a break and go for a holiday somewhere exotic...the change in scene might do good.\n2)bring in an element of mystery in your sex-life...play sex games.\n3)get sexy lingery and initiate sex.
1051292
I used to have sex ... then I got married
1170815
Marry her, then she'll lose her sex drive. ( Ask any man that has been married for over three years ).
1115836
well you can try to mix it up alittle. try role playing or throwing some toys into the mix that usually makes it interesting. if you are seeing her lose intrest as well you could change your outlook on see how many times you could get her off or even tease her till she gets crazy. diffrent things you can do go to some websites and look up fun weekends or games to play will add alittle spark here and there to peak your intrest and im sure your wife will greatly appreciate it as well.
1152005
I am a wife for 20 and sometime can be! try goin to the sex store together, see if anythin gets your at. also try candles and a beach at nite with no one around or just the blanket dont need to see! baths together or showers and just be open with eachother and see what you end up with sometimes fe.will agree with alot more than you think, good luck!
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Any exercise will give you more energy, thus increasing sex drive. A healthy balanced diet will do the same thing. Spicy food gets your blood pumping, try roleplay, foreplay etc. If it's endurance you're after, then ask your ladyfriend not to touch you intimately until just before penetration. Also try focusing on giving her pleasure, and not yourself. Good luck!
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Ok, Ive been with my wife since 1997 she had never used sex toys until I got her into them. It is a great way for you or the both of you to increase your sex life and learn new things. Experiment as much as you want! go to Xandria.com they have a nice selection of toys lubes and oils.......\ntry something called the nubby I think it is. Im in the Army and in Iraq and my wife loves that sucker lol \n\nGet your parnter to use them on you. And dont feel ashamed if you just want to go to your room alone and get yourself off, there is nothing wrong with that.\n\nAnother thing you might want to look into if you havent already is Kegel exercises. This will make you able to squeeze in more. And increase your orgasims. Once you learn to do this and either you our your partner plays with your g-spot you can have a female ejaculation (squirt) Which is different feeling from normal orgasims. I had my wife learn this and she and I both love it. \n\nHave fun hope this helped
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You've already gotten a lot of good (and bad) responses.\n\nThe key to any relationship is communication. And I think this is obviously where you think you have some problems. I assume you guys are comfortable talking about everything else. \n\nFor one, you need to talk to him. Pour your heart out and let him know where you stand. After 5 years, things do get stagnent. He may think your sex life with each other is fine where it is. You need to share with him your desire to spice it up.\n\nSometimes what holds a guy back is stress. If you have an opportunity, get a babysitter for the night/weekend, cook him a romantic dinner, turn off the phones, play some relaxing music, and talk the night away. Give him a back massage. Let him know he is loved and that he's appreciated. Ask him what he would like in your sexual relationship from you, to spice things up. \n\nBring up some options: Role Play. Having sex in a different part of the house (having sex in the same bed for 5 years can get old). Getting dressed up. Watch a porno together. Have sex with the window shades open. Turn up some music. Turn off the TV. Candles. Clean sheets. Go dancing. Go on vacation. Go to a Bed & Breakfast. Go to the beach. \n\nI've also seen a statistic once out of Europe that found that men find their partners more attractive when the household chores have been done. This maybe more related to stress.\n\nThere is sooo much you can do to help spice up a sexual relationship, that I think you should make the first move.\n\nAlso, don't make him feel bad for any fantasies he has. He's a guy. Sometimes you can even play into his fantasy. If he wants to have a 3rd party, but you don't, then by all means do not. But you can pretend:\nOne night, while you guys are about to have sex. Undress him completly. Tie his hands to the bed post and blindfold him. Once you've done that, tell him that you have a surprise for him. Tell him you've invited a female friend over to join the two of you, but she doesn't want him to known who it is, so he must keep the blindfold on. Pay a neighboorhood kid a dollar to ring your doorbell. When it rings, cover him up in a sheet, and tell him to keep the blindfold on.\nThen you get changed into a lingerie, put on some different perfume, put on makeup, change your hairstyle, etc. Go to the bedroom and tell him you're letting your friend in and that you just want to watch. When touching him, change your style. Have fun. Remember, the brain is the largest sex organ.\n\nOnce you've gone through some sort of process to spice things for him, tell him your fantasies you'd like for him to help fulfill.\n\nBest of luck to you. If nothing else, just remember to "talk".
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Ok so you would like to know how to keep your love fresh after 6 years together? I take it you dated for 3 years and almost got married for 3 times or 3 years? We have been married for 20 years now. And the way we keep our marriage fresh is make dates and keep them; in romantic out of the norm places. Give each other little sex toys or items. For that hint of play tonite. Send cards to each other at home or work. Surprise each other with secret love notes. Have him/her follow a riddle trail through out the house or even city. Meet him/her for surprise lunch. In other words...to keep things happenin, ya gotta keep things happenin.
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have not had sex in  5yrs-- I forget-- what do I do?
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have sex! it releases stress and exhuastion and is a great way to have fun
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Buy a house.\nMy wife's hobby is doing things around the house she can do and making lists of things we need to take care of she isn't capable of alone. Mine is executing those jobs on the list only I can do. In our free time we tackle jobs from the list we both are capable of. We also spend a lot of time in the bedroom. Actually, now that the kids are grown and gone, ANY room we feel like...\n\nBut then, we might be considered wierd. After 30 years of marrige we still find each other incredibly sexy. We like spending time together and have our "causes" we support. Both of us are passionate about children's rights. We have been foster parents for 17 years and are on about every child care panel in existence.  We also teach parenting and alternative discipline classes together for our state's Dept. of H&W and I am on various boards and am the governor's appointment to our state's Children's Trust Board from our district.\n\nAnd, oh yes. In my spare time I also am writing my second book. And am public relations director for my Shrine Center. (you know, we support the free hospitals for kids)\n\nAnd when we're home, in the evenings we sit out on our deck in the spa and sip wine or tea or maybe hot chocolate with cinnamon schnapps. Yes, naked...
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There are lots of things you can try.  Read a book about sex and sexual techniques and try new things.  Be open minded.  Share your fantasies.  Agree before hand not to get upset about anything that's brought up and that both partners have veto power if they are uncomfortable with a suggestion.   Play games, like make believe.  \n\nAfter a lot of years together, I think you should feel comfortable enough to try things that you might not try with a "new" lover.  \n\nAnd yes, sex still is important, even if it's not the end-all and be all of your universe.