my 22 yr. old husband not wanting sex a much 1-2 times a week is this normal?
94650
It sounds like you really want some sex.  Just ask him if something is wrong.
395443
well one of 3 things could be the source of the problem 1. he doesnt actually care about sex all that much and is just happy being with you 2. feels insecure in bed 3. just might not beable to keep up with or sex drive. just let it lay things will change plus only 4 months in a relationship dont let sex rule the relationship cuz then it will fall apart
1182222
Was he like this when you first got married? Has his sex drive dropped or stayed the same? Some men don't have a very active libido. It's usually hormonal.\n\nIf it isn't satisfying to you, try to suggest seeing a medical doctor.\n\nA person's sex drive is an individual thing. But for the record, your husband's does seem rather low for a newlywed guy. I had a friend who's husband was the same. He got help--against his wishes--but it worked.\n\nYou can't compare yourself with other couples, really, but  the average is about 3 times a week. We do it more often because my husband is a horn dog. As he ages, it is lessening though. We've been married for 20 years.
531951
Not normal to me and I've been with my husband for almost 20 years. To each their own though. I have a friend that only has sex when she wants to have a baby and thinks that this is the only time they need to have any intimate contact. Funny world sometimes.
403035
Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
795225
There is no normal amount of sex per person or couples.  Everyone is different.   Sex is a very important part of marriage and those who think not are those that end in divorce or unhappy.   I have been married for 22 years and our sex life has increased if anything.   We cant keep our hands off each other.  We play head games and flirt all the time.  By the time we are alone we are all over each other.   As my wife says sex is 24 hours a day.  Phone calls, emails text messages and flirting  never stops.   \n\nStart flirting with your husband, Grab his butt when he goes by and just smile.  When you walk by him rub up against him slow and sexually.  Just smile.   Give him a kiss for no other reason than because you want to.   Say something about wanting him to yourself really bad.\n\nIf you want a sex life then you both need to live it.   Do your part and I am sure he will start doing the same.
739919
If there is no physical reason for his loss of interest, then you need to rule out other reasons (stress, depression, etc.). If that does not explain why he has lost interest, then you all need to have a good, long heart to heart discussion... \nEveryone has a their own idea about how much sex is enough per day, week, month, or even ever.... You will need to openly discuss your needs with your boyfriend. If he is willing to up the frequency then great! If not, you may want to really think about whether or not you want to continue the relationship. Other people may write and tell you that sex is not as important as love, blah blah... but sex is the #2 reason for divorce in the U.S., so I think it must be important to some of us, lol!
830287
I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...
845984
He has a lot of excuses, none of which strike me as sincere.\n\nI would guess that he has met someone new, or is out of love with you but finds some aspects of your relationship worth hanging on to (financial, maybe?)    Or maybe he just doesn't have the guts to say none of it's what he wants anymore.   If that's the case, then don't make it worse for both of you by hanging on until it's a disaster.    Go while you can still stand each other.\n\n Not wanting sex has nothing to do with him getting older.   I'm in that older bracket myself, and age has nothing to do with THAT.    Have you ever met one that didn't want sex (except this one)?   Exactly. \n\nYeah, they get bored easily but so do we, especially with those younger ones who think they are Sex Machines but have a lot to learn.   If he's already exhausted his sexual imagination, maybe YOU should move on :-)   \n\nHe's working long hours?   Are you sure he's at work? \n\nToo many excuses.    If he's mature and really cares about you, the sex should always be good.    That's not an age thing, a weight thing, a beauty contest, or a 2 1/2 year thing.    Go the mall and look at all the weird unattractive couples who are obviously crazy about each other.   This ain't no beauty contest, this is real life.   Not everyone is pretty.   A good relationship makes sex good.    \n\nThere is the slight possibility that he could have a physical problem causing a low sex drive, but that's not what I'm seeing here.    I've never seen a man turn down an attractive, caring partner.    THey could have just ridden a bicycle cross-country, and can still find the strength to do the wild thang.   So hire a private detective or do a little snooping on your own.   \n\nGood luck to you.
503726
Maybe it's not that he doesn't LIKE it, maybe he CAN'T have sex that often.  Some men can't, it could be a medical condition.  Just talk to him about it.  Let him know that you have needs.  If he can't have sex maybe he would be willing to stimulate and pleasure you some other way.  Communication is very important though.  Let him know how much you desire him and wanna be with him.  Sometimes guys gotta hear that stuff too!
1182217
Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
1086030
Well I don't know exactly what to say cause I'm male. But your body is changing (As you well know) Your reproductive organs are getting ready to shut down ( Sorry your baby mak'in years are about over) Hormones that once made you want to reproduce.Are in ever decreasing amounts by your body..Causing your mind alittle stress..Hot flash's , Mood swings, Sudden crying, are all affects but there are also others,, A loss of the desire for intimate contact, facial hair and gaining weight are others. This loss of wanting to have sex is very normal..If you're husband Loves you he will understand...Not that any of us guys are able to understand it anyway..If you go to the Doctor he may recommend hormone replacement therapy.or maybe some Smiley pills to make you feel better....My wife has gone thru this for about 3 years <So it is a long process, Sit down with your Husband and tell him you have to have a talk.....Explain to him what is going on...He should be understanding........Almost all married men have to experience it ( I laughingly call my wife Mrs Jackal and Hyde........
749185
I've heard about 1-2 times per week is average.  That's my husband, usually.  I can get him every 2 days if I play my cards right...but my sex drive is MUCH greater than his...I would never cheat on him, and he would never cheat on me...but sometimes regardless of how um...satsfying it is for me...I want more.  So for some people it is stronger and for some people it is not strong at all...and that is normal.
163836
sweetie you are not a nympho...you are perfectly normal and so is he...a males sex drive goes downhill as they get older and a females sexdrive just keeps going and going and going...no matter what age you get hun you're gonna wanna do it all the time...thats just you...he just dont wanna admit that he cant handle your sexual appetite
986230
Let's see... We have been married for 4 years and we have two children and do it 1-2 times a week. I think that is normal for most couples. Since you have no children I would aim for 2-3 times a week. But the question is not how often should we but how often do we WANT to have sex.
45512
I see no problem.  If he's been losing weight or exercising, that'll increase his libido.  Libido is a good thing.
952684
I understand he might have fears about the baby, but other than that, I'm confused.  My husband actually requests more sex when he's stressed out.  It relaxes him.  I think he's being selfish personally.