I have a boyfriend who I love very much but I find another guy attractive. What should I do?
78996
It's perfectly normal to find other men attractive, you will experience that for the rest of your life. I say as long as you don't cheat on your mate with this other guy you have no reason to feel bad.
556491
to start with, i know you have a stronger feeling for one of those two people, it just so happen that maybe, just maybe, you found something that you needed in one guy but you really love the other and now you confused yourself that the love the other where in fact, you only see something about him that you like but you not specifically love him. assess your feelings and start to weigh things out. \n\nand if it happens that they both weigh equally in your heart just like the other, then its tme to take chances on one which you think loves you more, then drop the other. in loving someone, its not necessary that you are sure, what matters is that you loved all the love you can give, and then who gives a damn if it doesnt work. what matters is that once in your life, you do a crazy thing and feel loved like no one had ever felt before and that feeling will be enough to sustain you for a long time.\n\nand see after sometimes, you would just reminisce the old feeling and just laugh about how carzy inlove you have been for the two guys..
923332
welllll i dk  really i mean ur in one big predicament.umm i mena its really up to u i mean go with the one who u feel like you would be more happy with and u like more
626109
If you and your boyfriend we're truely happy you wouldn't be checking out other guys, there has to be some underlying relationship problems if you have fallen for another guy. Its only fair that you are honest with both guys, and more importantly yourself. You need to do what's best for you, if your unhappy with your boyfriend you need to get out of the relationship. Even if your feeling for the other guy pass (and that's highly unlikely that you will suddenly not like him anymore) there will be other guys after that. Reevaluate your current beau.
500396
dont break up with him, but ask him for some time off for a week or so. if you think about the other boy more, break up with your boyfriend because you don't like him anymore. but if you think about your boyfriend more, stay with him. if you dont think about either, well, just see where it goes.
49206
One can feel attracted towards other persons while you are in a relationship. What matters is if you act about those feelings or not. Think about what you currently have with your boyfriend, do you really love him, do you see him as part of your future? If your answers are yes, then nevermind about the other person you are liking, just stick to your love. If the answers are no, well you should have a sincere conversation with your boyfriend to see where are you going with the relationship.
727120
you need to take a deep breath and think about the reasons you care about these two people, then figure out what qualities you are looking for in someone you want to date...sort out your priorities and choose who you care about more..in the end you will make the right decision for yourself good luck =]
1147710
simple. If you tell him everyhting you did. you will never hear the end of it. He will be constantly comparing himself to the other guy. It will cause friction and jealousy. don't do it. for your sake. Its not his business
506303
Well it seems 2 me that both of them really like you, the second one more than the first. In fact from what you have said about both of them i wud say that this second guy may just be in love with you but may be scared that you dont feel the same way. Talk to them both and see where you stand. Be careful though because if im right... then youre goin to have a choice to make
340623
try to find something common between them. are they good to each other? if not then talk to the more flexible one about it and how u would like them to be friends or at least adjust. maybe doing that with ur boyfriend is easier cz if he really loves u he will do anything to make u happy (especially that it's a simple thing). if it doesn't work out and u used all the possibilities, just ignore the whole thing and treat each one alone. there's no need for all of u to exist in the same scenario
1170636
You aren't really in love then.  You are infatuated. It's that butterflies in the stomache feeling that is most often deplicted in movies as love.\n\nI think you should dump them both and spend sometime figuring yourself out.  \n\nDefinately dump the guy who you've had 'problems' with. You're too young for 'problems' in any relationship.  My guess is that you are too young for a serious relationship anyhow....I mean if you are refering to infatuation as love, then you have a long ways to go before you settle down. \n\nI say get out there, date a lot, and don't get tied down.  Live it up while you have the chance because if you stay tied down now, you may never have another opportunity to experience all these great aspects...\n\nTo me, it sounds like you just like being sought after. I don't think you love either of them, you just like being the object of affection.  \nDon't jerk your boyfriend around, think about if he were doing this to you...\n\nOh by the way, don't misuse the word love...it cheapens the word...and in the eyes of more intelligent men, it cheapens the user. \n\nBe wise! Good luck!
471700
STAY WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND, GIRL!!!!  You should totally stay with a guy that you know is good.  You don't know this other guy, and just because kissing him felt good, that doesn't mean that it was right.  What if you end up dumping your BF, and going with this guy and finding out that he's not the right guy?  I mean, all this is up to you, but I would definitely stay with your first man.  Just try to forget the new guy.  Spend more time with your current BF.  You might regret dumping him, so forget the new guy.  Stay with the old.
196498
You have to choose one.\n\nThink about it carefully. Who would you rather lose, your boyfriend or the new guy? Once you make your decision, you can't undo it.\n\nIf ever you choose to leave your boyfriend, just be honest to him. It's better to tell him the truth that cheat on him.
692716
so first off since you already have a boyfriend your not suposse to be out lookin at other guys tryings to even give them the chance for anything more than friends. a relationship is meant for 2 people to like each other and to see how far it can take them, and both of you are suposse to be honest with each other and your not so that is somehting that needs to change for you to have a healthy relationship(atleast i think so). but if you like another guy than its only for you to decide. but you should get a pen and paper and put both of there names on it and under each one have what you like about each one and then write what you DISlike about each one and out of what you write down and you think is the best you decide. and if you choose the guy that is not your boyfriend then i think that you should tell him the truth just in cas something doesnt happens with the guy you like and you maybe want to be back with what would be your ex and if your not completely honest with him now then i doubt later on(if there is a later) he wont think that your honest to him, so start now. but dont cheat that just causes everything to go wrong, and once a cheater always a CHEATER
173649
Yes it is normal. I really don't think it is a sin to think other men are attractive.  There are some really attractive guys out there.  But the thing is you care about your boyfriend.  You love your boyfriend, and you will never cheat on your boyfriend... Everyone looks at other people, it is called human nature- My advice is look- just don't lust or derive.
136933
Honstly I dont think that you know what being in love is.It is apparent to me that maybe you are attracted to both men for different reasons but your actions by cheating dont spell love.\n\nIf you really did love either of these men, then in no way could you play one guy against the other like you are doing. When you really love someone you dont cheat on them. I dont mean to be blunt but reading your question made me feel sorry for the guys, this isnt fair to them what you are doing.\n\nMaybe you need to re-evaluate what your concept of love is, because when you deeply love someone, their best interests come above yours.\n\n             Here is a good model of REAL Love;\n\n            Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.\n                 1 Corinthians 13:4\n\n\n    Something to think about:\nReallove has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what you are expected to give — which is everything. \n\n     When you are truely in love, you will see that is is so consuming and wonderful, there is no way possible that you could feel that way for 2 men. From what you wrote, you are speaking about attraction, not love.
392047
"To thine ownself be true" i think that you are young and need to do what you think you need to do. If older men are attractive to you, then by all means go out on a date with one, or have a sexual relationship with a few of them. You don't want to stay with your b/f if the only reason is because you two have a long history, or you are afraid to hurt his feelings.  You have to do what is right for you.  And you are still so YOUNG! you have plenty of time to find that special someone. Go out and have fun so when you do end up with the person you are suppose to be with for the rest of your life you are not looking back and having second thoughts about what you should have done. Life is the ultimate experience, live it up, because you only live once.