I really need advice on this relationship....?
86651
ur mum maybe already knows that u r a lesbian but maybe she just wants u to admit it to her.... u should sit down calmly n talk to her tel her exactly how u feel.... if age doesn't matter to the both of then its done already.... a relationship only happens betweem two person other people's opinion doesn't matter.... like me i m a butch but i dun care... no matter how people look at u it doesn't matter.... wat matters most is how u look at urself n wat ur gf thinks... bout the distance u should organize who should take turns in visiting each other maybe once a month... my gf n me live in two different countries but we can still stay loving.... try to talk on the phone more often or even going on9, exchanging pics... it'll be even better if u have a webcam... trust me n believe in urself n ur gf... it'll workout....
474622
you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. it sounds like it is time to slow things down, alot. you both need to sit and talk about what the 2 of you want out of this relationship. when the 2 of you are on the same page it will be alot easier.
445198
It sounds like the both of you have a thing for each other. Slowly get to know each other. Have fun & be honest with each other. Best of luck.
775074
It sounds like he has major issues unrelated to you... but you are paying the price. You need to talk to him about this compassionately, but firmly and tell him he needs to treat you with more love and respect. You might be financially dependent on him for now, but you deserve to be treated with respect. You'll be okay if this relationship ends. Do what is right for you and be proactive... don't just sit and wait for him to figure it out. You'll only stay stuck in a bad situation.
284875
Honestly, it appears that neither of you are mature enough for a long-term relationship.  Break up.  See other people.  Get some experience and learn what you want in life and in a man.  Then try again.
635786
It sounds like you need to talk to your man. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him where do I stand in this relationship? Then come right out and say Do you still love me?
849048
Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.
627278
Sistah, you just gotta be honest and tactful in this situation as someones heart is involved. Treat him in a way that you would appreciate if the situation were reversed.  Good luck to you!!!
692517
You are still learning about the relationship and how to act in it give it time\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
460587
It sounds to me that you should try talking to gregory, (instead of hitting; that's immature).  Make sure to give him some space and try to sort things out.  If you have been with him a year as boyfriend and girlfriend, then Davion's comment should have not affected gregory that much.  He should already know he likes you. Let someone you trust, and who can give good advice (even if it hurts) know what is going on.  This will give you more insight on what is really happening.  If you do decide to go out with gregory again, see if someone can help you and gregory get through the bumps.  Just remember that whatever happens, it is your decision to stay in the relationship or get out.
68724
Do what your heart says to do, dont waste time on someone you obviously dont care much about, dont make it a routine with someone, when you could have the real relationship you want! Go for it man!
934856
i've often been in this situation! the best thing i have done is just kind of flirt around, if he feels threatened, stop, and either move on, or wait til they (prolly sometime) breakup, \n\nif he flirts alot back just tell him "listen i know you have a girlfriend, and i don't want to get between you 2, but i just waned you to know that i do like you"   then see what happens from there, if he's for it (to date you) don't do anything til he breaks up with his girl, you don't want to be that kind of 'girl' if he's not for it, MOVE ON!\n\n\n\n\n\n---if you need any more advice on this situation or any other one you have DON NOT hesitate to message me!!!----
953988
Ask for goodness sakes!  How are you going to be able to find out if things are going to get better if you don't take the next step.  Are you going to wait and depend on him?  He is probably totally oblivious.  You might have a long wait.  SOMEBODY needs to make a decision.  Good luck!
64654
I like Toby's grow some nuts advice. If he's afraid you'll hurt him he souldn't be with you in the 1st place. Usually the "i'm afraid you'll hurt me is a bunch of bs anyway, he's keeping his options open. Bottom line is you're more commited than he is. If the guy really has had some kind of fear for the 3 years of his relationship with you he sould have taken ownership and fixed it for YOUR sake because he loves YOU.\n\nSuggest counseling for him as a couple to help him with his "fear". If he says no you need to find someone else who suits your needs and goals in life because as it stands now you have a 3 way relationship- Him, his last gf, and you. Notice you're 3rd in the pecking order?
817989
well...ur situation is just like mine now..lol\njust think carefully....do u still wnat this relationship to continue?
817226
IF YOURE NOT SURE THEN DONT DO IT. YOU WILL REGRET IT INTHE END. IF HE KEEPS TRYING TO PRESSURE YOU THEN DUMP HIM FOR SOMEONE THAT WILL RESPECT YOUR WISHES. HES JUST TRYING TO GET HIS D*** WET.
658268
i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed