My wife cheated on me and she is pregnant, she doesnt know who's it is? what should I do ??
80729
The question is, how much you love her? What are you willing to do for her love?\n\nAnd the other thing that you should know, how much she loves you? What is the state of your marriage and relationship overall with her?\n\nLets take a logical approach.\n\nIf this cheating was done by you, and say your act had gotten someone else pregnant, what will she do, and how will you feel about it?\n\nThe fact that she is pregnant now has nothing to do with the act of cheating. If it was an inadvertant instant that led one thing to another or was it something that she wanted to do all along and then the result is loss of trust between the two of you.\n\nIs she likely to break the trust again, provided the same circumstance or will she remember not to hurt your feelings?\n\nLove does not chain you to something, it is just the fear of loosing someone or something that you cherish. You do not want to do anything that will rock the relationship between you and the person you love.\n\nAbortion or no abortion, that does not seem to be the solution. \n\nIt is all in you two, you will have to see how you want the family to progress in future. What are the priorities and what will be the understandings. You have to learn to respect each other more and share the responsibilities too.
556068
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
717867
You gotta come out and tell her.  But before you do, consider what you're risking.  Is she worth losing just cause you want to have sex with others?  \n\nYour wife deserves care and protection.  She entered into marriage expecting you to love her, forsaking all others.  By engaging in risky behavior, you're exposing her not only to heartache, but potentially deadly diseases too.
55414
Why are you with her? Get out of that relationship. No one deserves to be cheated on. You deserve someone who will come home to you and only you. Please don't keep hurting yourself. They aren't worth losing your self-esteem and self respect. There is someone out there who can make you so much happier than the person you are with who insists on cheating on you. The only way to help you stop hurting is to get together with a bunch of friends after kicking her to the curb and keep the good times flowing. I am so sorry you have to go through this but once you're done with this relationship you are going to be so much happier. If you feel like she is remorseful about her cheating and says she can change give her one more chance. Lay down the law and say this is the last time you are putting up with it and if it happens again send her packing.
673501
I feel sorry for you.My advice is, identify the reason why she did it,also ask your self I am faithful and am I the person who she feels comfortable and secure?After you answer these questions, you can decide.If there is any weakness on your side,(I am not talking about the sexual thing) you better forgive her from the bottom of your heart and leave peacefully.
1006104
Wow this is a hard one, First you cant expect her to forgive you right away.\nShe's probably still hurt at the thought of you cheating. I mean she just had a baby. She's probably got a lot of things going through her head. Its good that you want to make an effort to get back together. I think you have to work harder on that eye-balling other girl thing you got going on. You wouldn't like It if she was checking out other guys. Put yourself in her place. Would you accept her if she cheated on you. Just give it some time and try to assure her that you want her and only her. If you really want this to work out, you gotta really work to keep your relationship. You love her don't you. Be a man and get your Sh*t together. Remember you're the one that messed up, you got to make her feel like you really want to work it out.
793489
You are a moral corruptor and your wife doesn't deserve you. Stop talking to this friend of yours and focus on sex with your wife. How would you like it if you found that your wife was talking to her friend whom she really wants to have sex with?!
471592
It's all about love and forgiveness. If you love her and if you can forgive her (and let me say contracting that illness is punishment, you don't need to hold it over her head, she'll have a constant reminder of her affair now) If you can forgive her then stay with her help her through this. As the disease progresses it will sap her strength, her spirit, she will lose who she is after a while to this illness. If you feel that you cannot forgive her then you need to discuss that with her as well, maybe not leave her yet, but at least talk things out with your wife let her know how you feel. I imagine your torn right now or else you wouldn't be posting on this website, asking for others advise. Nothing anyone can say will be the right answer, all you can do is listen to your heart and do what you feel is right. Don't let the anger of her affiar conflict with the thought in your mind. Also, take into consideration her feelings if she has remorse good if not and she really doesn't care then it might be best for you to continue on without her. If you really feel you need outside advise, discuss this with a trained councelor or therepist. someone outside of the relationship who can shed a different light on the situation and maybe help you see things in a way you didn't before. Good Luck, Budda bless you, and Take Care.
721604
I'm sorry to hear that your husband is cheating on you because you're pregnant and this should be a happy moment. the easy answer would be to leave him but you have a child , perhaps a house and a commitment made before god through good and bad .\n\nSo you have to weigh your options\n\nmake a lis pros and cons, is he working? does he help with the kids? is he wiliing to consider counseling? will he do it again ? and if he lies when confronted thats a problem. if you chose to forgive your husband he has to be willing to work with you because trust has to be rebuilt ...rebuilding your marriage us goign to take alot of work are you willing to put the time and effort in having kids and being in love is not enough if your self image and ability to look yourself in the mirror is compromised
211345
I would leave her...once a cheater always a cheater....Apparently she doesnt love u like u want her too. Say goodbye and find better
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
292287
There is no gentle way of dealing with this.  After 15 years of marriage to find out that you don't really know who your partner is is quite a shock.  Why get mattied in the first  place if you were not going to be honest with her.  15 years of her life for nothing.
95330
Do you really want to know? that could be the end of your relationship. If you suspect she is still cheating then thats diffrent. nip it in the bud. but if it was in the past and things are ok now, let it go.
611092
Tell the wife everything. Be prepared for her to hate you. Let her know about the kid, how you found out about her and when, and how long you've been with him. If she wants to, then the two of you should confront him together and see what he says. I don't know how you didn't know this when you've been with him for three years, but that's not the point. It doesn't matter if he knows it's you. He SHOULD know it was you who told. he had no right to play you the way he did. You never signed up to be the other woman or a homewrecker.
985495
You have a big problem, get help. Any addiction and you called it an addiction first is bad. If you love your wife talk to her show her you care more about her then the smut. She is having your kid and studies show that one of the most common times men cheat is when the significant other is pregnant. Good luck bro.
857513
Wow, buddy, it sounds like you really did screw up.  That sucks for you.  If you truly want to try and make things work with this woman, slow down.  She's probably really hurt right now, and she doesn't feel like she can trust you.  Start with little things, like a sweet email.  Send her an ecard to apologize.  Show her by your actions how much you regret what happened, because we all know actions speak louder than words.  The biggest thing, though, is to back off if she asks you to.  It may hurt like Hell, but you could earn some of her respect back if you comply with her wishes.  Best of luck in finding your answer.  I hope this helped even a little bit.
615166
maybe nothing did happen...but..sitting and thinking about it  .. guys are pigs women are bitches..so go with your gut cuz wondering about it will drive you mental.. and sometimes even worse than catching them in the act.. move on.. there is a trust issue as well.. you have to ask yourself .. 4 hours??? and if you did the same what would she say??? tell the wife she should know