is it wrong for me to date a guy about twenty years older than me?
85131
Nothing wrong with dating someone twenty years older if it works for both of you.  And you are at least 18.
470270
There's nothing wrong with you, it's normal to be attracted to an older guy. However, going out with him now may not be an option. Depending on certain laws, he could get into big trouble messing around with you even you want to, especially since he's probably 18 or older.
705614
I too have a preference for older men and have been there. First off don't be offended when your family starts in with the what does he want someone so young for. Most occasions when an older man is interested in someone so young it is because there is something wrong with him. That being said there are some relationships that do work out becuase both are really in love and only time will tell this. I suggest that you tell your parents that you know that there is high percentage of varying age difference relationship problems and the two of you love each other and discuss the topic often and want to do your best to work through that and feel it is worth it. More than likely you will get oposition concerning this but don't get angry. There is reasons for their concern and respect that. There does have to be a point though after your family has met him and he has proven time again that he does love you that you need to take a stand and say that's enough he has proven that he loves me regardless of my age and his only negative aspects are normal and I can live with them so I suggest everybody else to just accept my relationship and get over their expectations of me finding someone your own age because it's not going to happen.\n\nOn the other hand if their fears eventually get confirmed then don't be so hard on yourself. We never see it for ourselves until it is too late and going through what ever you may go through could have ended up being a wonderful relationship but you wouldn't have known unless you tried.
57390
No . . . young women date older guys alot . . . \n\nBut ask yourself this . . . why am I really dating him . . . \n\nIf it is true love . . . then don't worry about it.  If it is his popularity, money, fame . . . then you are dating him for the wrong reason.
629785
All the girls I ever have dated were older than me. Nothing wrong with that, as long as he is old enough to day anybody. Now if you are like older than 18, and he is like 16, then don't be doing the nasty with him till he is 18 too!!!!
85496
It's a matter of personal choice - love has no boundaries... my dad is married to someone 16 years younger than him... his wife likes older men, and he likes younger women.. also, when you are in high school, you may think that it's wrong to date someone who's 3 years older, but then as you get into college you may start thinking it's ok to date someone who's 5-10 years older.. It all comes down to personal preference. So long as it's not like you're under 18 years old or dating someone in your own family! That's considered unethical in many societies.\n\nMore answers to your question in the link below.
174782
Of course it is okay.  I have dated someone nine years younger than me, and now I am married to someone nine years older than me.  Nothing strange about either one.
852463
I'm in my 30's and to be honest I wouldn't consider dating a man under 30, and not many of my friends would either.... I don't think I would have much in common with someone 10 years my junior.
777105
Kinda have to laugh at that one. I don't even think of late 20's as a age difference. I'm 36, recently dated a 28 yr old. We would occasionally laugh and he'd call me a cradle robber, and i'd call him a silly boy, but it's all in play. As long as you are emotionally responsible, then the conversation should flow naturally. (I'm into 80's music and star wars~~ yes geeky, I know, but typical of the ladies my age....).... Try starting with stuff like that.
511096
I am 41.  I would NEVER EVER date someone younger than myself.  It has taken me this many years to be a complete, content, mature person, to raise a child, to have a successful career.  I don't want to be with someone who still has those things ahead of him.  It is important to me that a man be in the same life stage as I, and a younger man is unlikely to be there.\n\nBesides, men tend to remain somewhat immature - going out drinking with their friends all the time, thinking farts are funny, etc. . . until they are at least 40 (some never get past that).
987700
You thought you were falling for a 27 year old so it sounds like you have an age limit in mind.  He might deceive you on the number of sex partners and so forth just because he has had more experience in life.  If you want to be with someone who will die long before you do, then go for it, if not, then you should move on.
1167580
As long as you don't act like an old fuddy duddy and have similar interests, why not.  I've been known to date older men and we got along fine.  As long as both of you know what is expected of each other then it should work out.
1033437
Ofcourse!!!!  There is nothing wrong with that!  I'm 24 & I'm attracted to a woman who is almost 30...   we have been dating for the past two months & things seem to be working out!!!  I have a much more interesting time with her than I do with a girl of my age... some of them seem to be a little imature!\n\nGood Luck with your situation!!!
629057
The older the man is the better for you because women tend to look older than men especially after giving birth. So dont worry about that guy being 3 years older, in fact up to 10 years older, it still ok but not more than that. Meanwhile, let him make the first move, inviting you out for a first date. Then you see how things will work out. You both have yet to know about each other better than to just plunge deeply into a relationship. You should try and know about his past. He may have certain weaknessess you may not know off. So just go slow and takes things slowly. If hes willed to be with you, he will be, otherwise you just like chasing in the wind. May God Bless you with the will to decide wisely to pursue the relationship with him.
133857
I'm attracted to older guys. I don't see a problem with it, honestly. Just make sure you both have similar goals for a relationship. If he is wanting to settle down and lead a nice, quiet life, and you want to go out on the town and party, it won't work. Make sure your priorities for the relationship parallel first.
329367
When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26... it was fine for awhile but it didn't last.  I say if you feel like you're on the same level maturity wise and he treats you right, go ahead!
105571
I do. Guys my age (19) and younger are usually idiots when it comes to relationships. Am I going to go for a guy over 35? Unless you're talking Liam Neeson or Sean Connery, not too likely. But I'm more likely to go for them than your standard 18-year-old college freshman who thinks it's hillarious to talk about getting so drunk he puked on his new shoes at last night's frat party.