best way to heal from getting fired?
96037
If you get right back out their and find a job right away and not try to touch your unemployment it looks good to future employers,  as an employer I always check the unemployment files before I hire them and find out if they were slackers and did not try to find a job right away.  It would be more theraputic to get right back out their and not get depressed about not having a life or a job.  So get out their and keep trying until you get it right.\n\nI did I am on my 112th job within 6 years without getting on unemployment and now I am an Operations Mgr for a big company.\n\nGood Luck\n\nDon
350172
Start by being as honest as you can. Write down your experiences to make sure you have an accurate picture of what happened and to communicate the story as clearly and accurately as possible. Collect any necessary documentation, including any paperwork you have from your EAP counseling, any bad reviews or written warnings you recieved, or email documents regarding those things that you may have saved. Your employer is legally bound to give you copies of all things they have on file. Request this be sent to you via certified mail, and have those nearby when you have the initial conversation with EDD. If they do not send those to you, tell the person you speak with the date you requested copies of your file and tell tha person you have not recieved copies of the documentation. You might want to see if you can get a letter from your EAP counselor documenting your visit(s) to that person, particularly if it was because you were suffering from workplace stress. The burden of proof is on your former employer to show that you were terminated with just cause. If they did not create any paper trail (bad reviews, written warnings about your performance or absenteeism) they will have a hard time to show that you were fired with just cause. I would not mention during the phone call that you have a pending lawsuit. There may have been harassment and/or a hostile environment, but that doesn't necessarily have any bearing on your being fired, and it might make you look like you are, indeed, out to get someone, or at the very least, make some money.
118320
In today's litigious society, I suggest you document, document, document. Make sure you have at least three reasons. If it is time clock related, it is time theft or an attendance issue, you can fire right away for the first but need to fit the latter to your companies policy for attendance. And so it goes, document everything, always have an answer for your reasons and make sure those reasons fit your companies policies.\n\nTo actually do the firing, take the person into a private space, bringing with you the next down in management or position that is of the same sex as the offender. This will protect you on so many levels. Then, start by stating the companies policy's that were broken and inform that person they "no longer have a job" with this company. I suggest you do this first thing when they come in or they will hear rumors. Be prepared for outbursts of anger or denial and maintain your cool. Hold to the facts and if the person yells or raises Cain, inform them they will be escorted to their locker to collect their things (or where ever their things are) and walk with them to the door. \n\nFiring someone has to have really good back up because they will 9 times out of  10 file for unemployment which costs your company money. Save the money and your raises will be a bit easier for the company.
333676
PANIC, have an all out emotion fest, crying laughing.......\nthen get back to work\nI promise you will feel rejuvenated!
270803
You are probley too nice. Show them you wont take anymore mess in a way that wont get you fired.Call off a couple of times. If they feel you are a valued employee they should cut you some slack. If not quit.
691764
If the company fires you for any reason other than intentional misconduct then you can apply for and can win your unemployment benefits.You may have to file an appeal but if you win you will collect a lump sum of your weekly benefits owed to you.The burden of proof is on the company.Remember "intentional" is the key.If you are layed off for lack of work you can draw and under certain circumstances you can quit and draw benefits.
727808
Got fired once cause I didn't show up enough.\n\nGot another job cause there's tons of work here.
238330
Complain to management.\nI sympathize.  You are working in a poisoned workplace.  The stress from this kind of person can be crushing and take all the good feelings of accomplishment and interest out of the workplace.\nI worked with a great team of people at one workplace and one of these people was hired.  Within a year, half of the people quit.(myself included)  The person was fired right after I left.\nPeople like that are usually VERY good at manipulating managers.  If you wind up having to quit, make SURE to specify the bad behavior as your cause for leaving, in terms that relate to those actions hindering your ability to do your job.
331953
Have you thought about going into business for yourself, say human resources consulting given your experience?  Given the amount of information needed to start your own business, that search will keep you occupied for a few weeks minimum.\n\nAnd if you're like most people, there's always the "I'd like to start a business in..." something totally unrelated to what you've been doing before.  Now's the time to get busy!\n------\nI have to agree with other posters who say that getting fired over trivial mistakes over employment dates is a crock.  That's a sign the employer is firing for some other reason, possibly discrimination.  If you think that may be the case, talk with a lawyer....
624035
Perhaps you could try asking your former supervisor how you could avoid putting yourself in the same situation at your next place of employment.  If you live in a right to work state they don't have to give you a reason.  Good luck to you.
997293
First, if you got hurt at work then see if filing for workman's compensation benefits are appropriate.  If that's not the case, apply for unemployment and disability.  You are going to need a Doctor to declare you disable or partially disable. Check out the Social Security Website for how to apply for disability.   If labor type jobs are what you did primarily, your unemployment office will direct you as to how about being retrained.  Third, do not wait for your money to run out, apply for assistance, food stamps and the like.  Never be to proud to eat.  And last consider going back to school, you are never to old to learn something new.
1014339
This is a difficult situation for you. I think it is of the utmost importance for you to realize if you are mature and professional enough to work in a position where you are in constant contact with people. You have shown a great deal of immaturity here by referring to a caller as a "*****." Therefore, tomorrow ask for a meeting with your supervisor. Outline a plan to improve your customer service skills. This plan could include training provided through the company, and smiling while talking on the phone (this tactic actually makes you nicer to people and sounds friendlier). Admit your mistake and agree to whatever sanctions are imposed upon you. If you are fired, you are fired. Chalk this up as a learning lesson and move on. If you are given a second chance, attempt to do your very best. And remember, going from job to job (a.k.a. "job shopping"), not only looks bad on a resume but can prevent you from getting future jobs. If you feel you are annoyed by the callers, then it is time to find employment that is not related to the services industry. Perhaps, you could become a typist and have no contact with people?
242728
Most companies will council with you to let you know you are not performing and give you an action plan with sometimes 45 days to meet all the standards.\nIn that case, use the time to find another job and leave before they terminate you.  Their mind fix is to only meet legal requirements. Your are history in their minds already.\n\nIt's easier to find work before termination than to explain why you were terminated.
1033074
You are a very lucky person! I have been fired and it is not a pleasant feeling but you can get over it if you realize that they\nlet you go because they had to not because they wanted to.\nDon´t sell the Winchester, borrow some money from relatives\nso that you can get by until the next job comes along.  Trust\nme.. I´ve been there.
182498
Just keep working and wait 'til you get home. No sense getting fired, which of course would provide you all the time you needed to surf.....'til it was time to get back to work to pay rent, utilities, grocery bill, etc.
70755
I think most states are "at will". Which means the employer doesn't need a reason to fire anyone. They just say, "it's not working out, I have to let you go."  It's very difficult for an attorney to fight for you. Unless you can prove with hard, hard evidence that you abused in some way. File for unemployment and see what happens because if you were fired, they have to pay you or fight it. If they fight it you'll find out why they really fired you. Most employees pay it, unless you were at fault.  Everything happens for a reason. You'll find something better that will make you question why you ever stayed there 8 years! Much Luck to you!
448494
I went through this with one boss.  I was so stressed out that I was sick at work, then had a death in the family.  It was an awful time.  In the end, they fired me.  As it turned out, though, they were in the wrong.  Bad on them.\n\nIt can certainly happen.