how can i stop yelling at my mom?
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keep in mind that she has your best interest in mind when she says no to your requests.  \nI think it is awesome that you realize it is a problem and that you want to change.  It shows you care about her and want to have a good relationship with her.  \nMaybe you could try making a list of all the good things she has done for you in the past week, and then make a list of all the good things you have done for her in the past week.  \nIf your list is shorter maybe you should go make her a cup of hot chocolate and tell her you are sorry.\nThis may sound weird, but she is, after all your mom and knows an awful lot about you, why don't you ask her why she thinks it is that you yell at her..  and tell her you want to get along.\nIts never easy to apologize, but doing so will show her you are growing up, and possibly you will earn some privileges by doing so.
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You definitely have to sit down with your Dad, and explain to him.Did we have this much trouble before Grandma came to live with us. I need to talk to you. Don't forget this must be hard for your dad also, its his mother and no one wants to go against there Mom, especially when they are getting old, Your father may be stressed out also.  So you have to get this out in the opening with no yelling and screaming. Good Luck  (isn't there any other kids that can take her)
250488
Ignore her and talk really animated with other people.  That will make her miss you and want to forget about whatever trivial thing you are fighting over.
348846
Do what's called the Broken Record thing...every time she starts in--think of something like.." I appreciate your concern, mom, but we have it handled."..........say it Every time...and she Will stop---it worked on my dad...see...when us mom's spens at least 20 yrs rasing kids..and being needed...and then we find one day that the kids are grown..living on their own--meaning we did our job well...suddenly we have nothing to fuss over..and that can be a lonely feeling.  I'm not saying it's okay for her to over step her bounds, just have a little understanding and compassion ... cuz, one day, you, too will have worked yourself out your job..\nhang in there
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I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.
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Do not comment on the subject when your mother begins to question or criticize, especially if you are not a part of it.  You might try going to another part of the house or sitting on the porch or in the backyard when they get started.  Practice answering only questions or statements made directly to you.  You are really not required to finish arguments started by other people, parents or otherwise. If she has a legitimate gripe with another family member, let the two of them settle it.
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Talk with her, let her know how you feel and ask her to stop doing it. Word it in a way that doesn't sound critical and she'll be more apt to listen.
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Laugh My Mother F*cking Butt Off
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The whole situation doesn't really make sense.  Ask yourself what you did to make her call you that.  The other posters are right in that you should have respect for your mom and not call her names but she should also be teaching you respect by not calling you names.  The two of you need to talk about this and resolve the underlying issue.  Whatever it is that you did to make her call you what she called you, that's the root of your current situation and that needs to get addressed.  Why did you do it?  Why was she so angry at you that she forgot you're her daughter and call you names?  You reacted to her calling you what she called you but something precipitated that situation and you two need to hash that out.  Then, you have to apologize to her for doing what you did and calling her what you called her.  Only then, you can then tell her that you didn't appreciate what she called you.  It's not right, but she is your mom and she's going to look at you as the less powerful of the two as long as you continually act like a child and react and cause her to react.  If you talk to her like an adult, woman to woman, in a calm, assertive, respectful manner, hopefully, she'll see you maturing and mature herself.  Then you guys won't be calling each other names and you won't be grounded.  However, if that doesn't happen and in some future point she does call you a name, you take a deeep breath, DON'T say anything, turn around and walk away.  She's your mom and you have to learn how to deal with her in a respectable manner and if you want respect, you have to demand it by treating others in the way you want to be treated.
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I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
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No I don't, but that hasn't stopped her from sticking her nose into my business. Always listen to mom out of respect. You are an adult simply say Yes you are right or no that is just not me. Say I love you Mom thanks for the advice. And change the subject. (have one ready at all times)
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Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.
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try to get along with her. i know it is difficult but your mom is always going to be your mom. unless your health and safety is in compromise work things out
824434
Yells at you MORE when hes with his family? Why is he yelling at you EVER??? This is totally disrespectful and you should not stand for it. You need to implement a "No YELLING" rule, none is allowed in the house. If he ever starts yelling, just turn and leave the room, leave the house if you have to. He will learn that it does not accomplish anything to yell. He is teaching your child bad things, and this should not be allowed. You need to come up with a better way to communicate. Counseling can help here if you don't feel you know any strategies to improve communication.
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It is great to let it go but it won't work since the underlying resentment will remain.  The best thing to do is try to calmly explain to your mom how deeply her words have hurt you and how they are detrimental to the children.\n\nYou need to clear the air.  After that, you can then decide how much or how little contact your children and you will have with her.  \n\nYou were right to remove your children from such a negative environment.  It is wrong of your mother to degrade you to your own children.  The good news is that your children will love you and won't pay attention to what she said...especially since you are removing them from the situtation.\n\nGood luck!
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Same age, similar problems.  Still at home.  moved out for 4 months, mom liked it, I moved back in and she's been really nasty to me ever since.  I'm also doing stuff she never did, like break emotional traditions that r in this family.\n\nBe interesting to see what other opinions come out of your question.  I read a brilliant book - the dark side of the light chasers.  Read it, it shed some light for me and helped me understand why I get so irritated and angry I could scream or see my hand on the other side of a wall.\n\nGood luck.  Be patient with mom if you can.  It's usually mom and dad/family that teach you your greatest lessons.  I try and take my own advice so I hope you don't think I'm opinion bashing so to speak (like bible bashing).  so many of them on this site!  amazing!!!!\n\nMy mom was a little older when she got married and pregnant I think.   She was 27 when she got married and like 32 or 33 pregnant with my 27 yr old brother.\n\nSee ya.  Email me if you'd like to exchange ideas about what can be done, what works and what doesn't.  smirti_n@yahoo.com.\n\nCheers. :)
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tell yo mom to stfu. it is not ur problm. if she has a prblem talk to the causer