how do I help a woman i love who lives with an older man who takes her money?
98033
Show her that you can be trusted by offering support and guidance, if she is able to co-sign I guess she cant be all that bad with money as she must have a decent credit rating.  Perhaps its more she has a carers instinct and wants to look after people.  Obviously she needs legal help to get out of the notes and perhaps some professional emotional help too.  Just remember to look after your own heart in all this, something we too often neglect.
397117
So he aint in love with her, just her money he admires.your better off without him if its the material things he likes money dont always bring happiness. Give it a few years he maybe sad and lonely
978863
What is needed is that you tell him to stop blowing the money or go sleep in his car that he bought the speakers. Let him know that you two are to be more responsible for the money that God has bless you with. Next pray for him and ask God to help you stay calm until he changes because we can't change a person they have to want to change themselves. We can pray for them and allow them room to change. God bless you.
1088050
I have that problem every time I win millions.\nSeriously, what does she love, you or your money?  This is a good test for her.  Have her sign the pre-nup or leave.  If she loves you, then she will sign it.  If she just wanted the money then she will go.  If you really want to give her the money then put her in your will.  Good luck.
746872
Check with an attorney to see if you can get her declared incompetent and you should seek power of attorney to make financial decisions on her behalf.  It sounds like your brother has started this process already.  So discuss with attorney the possibility of courts deciding which of you have her best interests at heart.  \n\nI'm really sorry about what you are going through, when money gets in the middle of family affairs sometimes it gets complicated.  \n\nBest of luck to you and your mother!
1128276
The situation to me is whether or not she is able to do stuff.  If she has medical issues, does this prevent her from being able to do basic stuff?  If not, then it comes down to what you and her son are willing to put up with.  You have two possible solutions.  First is to sit down with her and lay it all out for her.  Her son has to be behind this also, because it won't do to have you saying one thing and her son saying something else.  Let her know that she will be required to do her own laundry, assist with cooking and /or dishes, she will be asked to help clean around the house.  If she cannot, or will not, assist in these matters then let her know what will happen - she will have to find a new home, she will be asked to leave, she will have to pay rent, etc...  Whatever the penalty or solution that you two come up with to deal with the situation.  Solution #2 would be if you do not wish to live like that - contact the other 2 sons and everyone have a family meeting to decide what needs to happen with 'mom.'  It may be that it is time to find a retirement home for her.  If it is too much of a physical, emotional, and financial burden for you to take on - then the entire family should get involved.  It doesn't mean you don't care for her, but you can't live your life around her entirely either.
1138406
Talk to her and give her a deadline. Tell her that she needs to move by a certain day, no exceptions! If it doesn't work, remove all of her personal belongings and deliver them to her mother. \nBy reading what you have typed, sounds like you are the type of person who gives in easily to others distress. She needs to understand that you will not take any excuses. Sometimes tough love is just what people need.\nIt is hard to advise on this because we who reply do not know the full situation.\nMaybe the person you are helping is a moocher. Maybe she's afraid to move in with her mother. Without knowing the person's age and situation, it is hard to say whether this person needs a reality check, or compassion.
1110859
It is truly hard when one person makes more money than the other . In some cases it can give the other person a feeling of inadequacy and it can also affect their self esteem . You can only reassure her that she has worth in the relationship . Explain to her how much she means to you , let her know that she has many talents that contribute to the relationship . Maybe she does more of the house work or she may buy the groceries or she may do many of the things that you can't do due to work . Compose your thoughts and figure out what she adds to the relationship and ask her what she need from you to help her to feel vital in the relationship , then let her know what you feel she does that contributes to the relationship . Try to show her that the things that she contributes to your life together is worth more than money to you .
1051679
A man, usually older, who provides financial support to a younger woman in return for her companionship and sexual intercourse.
1023710
If you want to give all your grandmother's $ to Banker's Life, then put it in an annuity.  You used to be able to protect $ that way, but not any more.  It might make her money last a little longer, but in the end the insurance company will get it all.  You're better off, at this point, keeping her money and then IF she goes into a nursing home, use her money to private pay.  This way you'll have more say in where she goes, what type of room she gets and the care she receives.  Of course, if you keep her money, you may be able to keep her at home, and that might be the best and cheapest option.
890349
as long as it takes for her to get most of his money
1079734
If you could give examples of the mooching it would be better.\n\nAnyway, be firm yet fair.  Don't give in about letting your money go.  Let the person know, in no uncertain terms, that you are not a money tree and that they can not keep coming to you.\n\nIf you go out to eat with the person, ask for separate bills in advance.  Only pay for your self.
750443
She can't legally hold your belongings, but it sounds like you owe her money even if nothing was in your name.  Pay up and be a grown up and then get your crap outta there.
397684
tell him your worried about the utilities being turned off and you dont wanna pay late fees and\n you can't float his half cause you are strapped for cash as well. \nmention that you know he needs money for cabo but he needs to take care of his responsibilites as well. or give him the option that if he is so strapped for money is there anything he can give you that he wants to sell and put it on craigslist.com and sell it for him and take the money for the bills. \nact like you'll work with him but by no means can he leave you strapped and sweatin' the bills while he's kickin' it in cabo. thats so selfish.!!! \n better yet let him read these answers to your question! maybe he'll then  pull his head outta his a$$. you must be firm cause he'll just walk all over you from here on out. \nif you cant talk to him write him a note and give him a couple of options as how to pay, with no option of NOT giving you the money. \nif the shoe was on the other foot he'd have no problem asking you for the money i'm sure. \ngood luck! \n**if he doesn't pay you,  I hope it rains the whole time he's in cabo or he gets montezuma's revenge, \nkarma is a bitch!!!!***
436209
dude, if she is  bitching about $ then she doesn't love you! Did she love you to begin with is the question? Did she marry you thinking you were rich i wonder. Did she marry you for convenience...? I have to wonder about that too....sorry man but if she loved you she would not care if she was on a deed or not and wouldn't honder you to get the house remodelled when you two cannot afford it and lastly....she SHOULD be helping with the bills......she wants her cake and eat it too.....Divorce her butt! Tell her to find another life and tell her " I love you but not enough to put up with crap baby...bye". IF you say that you will see a turn around. You will be calling her bluff sorta speak....hahha she will fumble over herself so fast...trust me. Just do what you want of course...but know if you two bring a kid into this world....it will only get worse. Take care dude and good luck........You deserve better.
1166720
Marrying someone for their money is not fraud, and there is nothing you can do about this woman taking your dad for all he has. He deserves it if he is going to be stupid. You need to get your son back and sever ties with your dad and that devil woman ASAP. Contact a lawyer NOW. If this woman is neglecting your son you cannot as a mother afford to wait.
750761
Quite a lousy situation.  However, my take on it is this.  Sounds like your boyfriend holds some of the cards here.  Unless his ex had a signed contract with him regarding the money she had loaned him, she would be hard pressed to get it back unless she is willing to go through some major legal wrangling.  And yes, he was being used as a "storage unit" so he should definitely be entitled to the market rate of what that would have cost the ex had she done it properly.  I know what I would do.  Don't pay her a cent and dare her to try to take it to court.  In fact, you probably would have a better chance to prevail in a lawsuit you would bring against her considering the lack of 30 day notice as added ammo as well.  You may want to consider small claims court, since you could most likely do this on your own w/o lawyering up.