is jealousy and possessiveness good in a realationship...?can it work out wen one is insanely jealous??
86719
it will never work. there will never be any trust and it will eventually lead to you being abused. trust me. i was in the same situation. get out while you can, girl.
393654
Are you jealous or do you want it?
265300
Have you asked him what you could do specifically to ease his jealous mind? This is a hard thing for insecure guys, but I think you may need to boost him ego a bit. How about telling him what it is you love about him just out of the blue. Compliment him on his UNIQUE qualities that cause you to love him. It is very important that he feel that no other man has the qualities that you love in him. Once he knows that his is the only one you ever met that can make you feel the way you do, that should really help.
743044
I don't think that sounds like cheating at all; however, I can totally see why you would feel jealous because I'd feel that way if I had a gf like that! I think that they just happen to have very similar schedules, so they tend to be around each other a lot. Unless he constantly talks about how amazing she is all the time, or goes completely out of his way to make plans with her instead of being around you, then I'd start to worry and ask him what's going on. Until then, I don't think you need to feel threatened.
212923
Perhaps, just perhaps, you are being a tad bit possessive and jealous. \n\nPS. I can come over and sit in the hot tub with you on Sunday?  If so, that might change his thinking on the matter.
367308
from my experiences i can surely say that it's not easy to chance men -especially one who is possessive.\ntry talking to him about how much you love him but still you've got work to do.if possible invite him with you.\nbut i don't think these would work.\nso the last thing would be changing your partner completely :(
440064
Not sure about her,but I can tell you any guy who tries to make me jealous ends up losing me immediately lol\n\nI figure if he wants her he can have her I will move on to a man who knows what he has :)\n\nSo only do if you are ready to lose any chance with her.
604412
All men are not what you described. I was reading this and shaking my head thinking....this sounds like warning signs of an abusive relationship. I don't mean to be accusatory, but I would just like you to recognize signs...like....\n\nPossessive or jealous behavior toward girlfriend\nWhether in public or private, possessiveness and jealous accusations often precede and follow violence. The abusive boyfriend will often attempt to socially isolate his girlfriend by "forbidding her" to see or talk to others or by making frequent accusations of infidelity which force her to limit her social life in order to appease him. \n\nSee link below for other signs. Be honest with yourself and if this sounds like your BF I suggest you leave or get counseling. Easier said than done...I know. \n\nGood luck!
1059182
Sounds like a loser to me.  The more comfortable he gets with you, the more likely he will start to abuse you, physically or verbaly.  It doesn't sound like you are in a very good situation.  You should get out of it.  Nobody should tell you what to do all of the time and the jealousy thing, it kind of makes me scared for you.  Good luck!
371322
No, you're not the only one. I don't understand people who are clingy and possessive in relationships--or once the relationship is over, can't cope with the breakup and start acting like stalkers. Jealousy is strictly for losers.
914489
Jealousy is a wasted emotion. It makes neither one of you happy and doesn't prevent the other from doing what they want, or what you don't want them to; so what's the point?
139750
Not really, she is 3 states away though. I feel confident he loves me, so it is all good. As to if I was the one that the jealousy was directed at, I imagine I would feel fairly apathetic or maybe even a little sorry for the girl who couldn't just feel good about herself.
542473
You sound like you are trying to justify breaking up with him.  From the way you describe yourself, I would say that you did do the right thing.  If you are a flirt and he is the jealous type it would never work.  I wish you the best in the world.  May you find happiness.
271370
Well that depends on what you mean by over possessive. Do you stop him from dating? Well at any rate , whatever you mean, just take baby steps and get rid of it one baby step at a time and day by day. Remember this, To recognize ones error is a jewel of a personality trait. Keep up the good work. Good luck and much wisdom.
1066383
you're not expecting to much, but everyone is different..i'm friends with several of my exes to..but if a significant other really had a problem with it i'd do my best to come up with a comprimise..generally exes are exes for a reason....he should also respect your thoughts and feelings...and not just say it's being jealous...
192765
I have a sexy boyfriend of 4 years.  It's like ALL chics go for him.  The reason why he went for and kept with me I think is b/c I'm not the jealous type (guys like to have a 'pawn' to play against their mates when it comes to bargaining the relationship if anything goes wrong, and jealousy can get dangerous and irritable, causing a rift).  He LIKES that I'm easy-going and not jealous, so that gives me extra confidence points he can appreciate.  If I were to act out of jealousy, it may just wear my mystery out instead of confirm my love for him.  If we get into stupid fights, I act as if I don't care if he thinks he can just go out with somebody else (he threatens to at worst, but then he chooses not to on his own)!  My point is, ACT INDEPENDENT, so that he has something to respect you for.  DON'T be at his beck-and-call so that he thinks "oh, I can just have her anytime I want; that chic is always available to me".
688883
no, im sorry there isnt, the only way to not be jealous is to not know or not be there, so if you cant take the jealousy you will have to stay away untill you dont feel the same things.