my boyfriend has asked me at marry him and i said yes but how do i kno if he is right for me?
92038
If he agrees with you in the following issues:\n\n1) Who is responsible for cleaning and maintaining the household\n2)Who is responsible for economic support of the household\n3) who is responsible for paying the bills\n4) How clean the house is going to be\n5) Rates of saving\n6) Use of intoxicants (coffe, liguor, cigarettes)\n7) Confinement of sexual intimacy to the couple\n8) What to inform each other about your behavior\n9) separate vacations\n10) Children\n11) Religion\n12) Holidays with the different families\n\nand of course, if he is capable of consistently satisfying you in the intimacy.
2566
if u have to ask then i dont think your ready to marry this guy. dont give up on him though. everyone says you just know, thats true but its easier if the feelings are explained.when you can look at him and know that you would give up your life for him and if a bullet was going towards him you would be the one to jump in front of it then you know.when you know that his face is the face you want to wake up to for the rest of your life then you know. when you can look into his eyes and know that you can trust his word no matter what then you just know.
34484
If he shows up at the alter. J/K.\nPurchasing the ring, putting it on your finger and telling you he wants you to be his wife are very sure signs that he is ready.  But if you are questioning things, then maybe now isn't the right time. You should have a talk with him to straighten the whole thing out, because total strangers can not help you with one of the most important decisions of your life. Best of luck.\nK.
553427
It depends... is he everything you wanted, or everything you needed.\n\nWhen I first started dating my husband, he wasn't exactly what I thought I wanted.  But as we got to know each other I found he was what I needed to be both happy and a better person and truly a "gift from God".\n\nIf you're engaged or contemplating getting engaged, you need to go into it as a forever thing and not looking at it as something you can easily get out of it it isn't exactly what you thought it would be.
1176141
Obviously he doesn't want to marry you.  Most likely it has nothing to do with you.  He is probably not man enough to tell you how he feels so he just keeps delaying.  Ask him if he wants to rethink marriage for a while and see what he says.  If he jumps all over the idea, there is your answer.  If he still insists you get married ask him to set a date and keep it.
370707
If I was dating someone for 7 years and they haven't popped the question yet,.I would start to think if I am waisting my time or not.  No offense but If this man doesn't want to get married and you do,..then maybe he's not the right one for you.  You need to just be strong and try to tell him that you want a life long partner, not a life long boyfriend.  You only live once so take the time you have and make the most of it!!  good luck
1161814
Since you have so many doubts, you also know in your heart that its not time to get serious. Since he is so sweet, he will not try to rush you into something you aren't ready for either. I suggest you just keep the relationship on a slow pace and really get to know each other before worrying about a real commitment from either of you.
564882
How much time has passed?  If he's not willing to commit, then he's probably not right for you if that's what you are ready for. You can hang on for years with him, or get on with your life and find someone who will really value you, and want to make that committment.
1042040
Instead of him telling you that if that's what YOU want then go ahead and do it, which doesn't sound very convincing on his part to me, he needs to actually say directly that yes that is what I want to do too, not if that's what makes YOU happy because he isn't including himself in that equation and that kind of leaves him room to get himself out of it if he up and decides to take off before hand. So no I wouldn't make plans just yet not til you hear him say He is ready and wanting to and he buys you an engagement ring. Then if that happens you can probably be more sure of it being a true thing.
26544
See a marriage counselor.  They are pretty good at letting you know if it will work out.\n\nIf you love him, he is probably right for you.\n\nBelow is a fun Mr. Right quiz...
485660
Tell him how you really feel (be straight faced), and that you need to know if he wants the same things that you do.  If he really truly wants to wait until marriage than you have to respect that!  If you can't wait than you need to leave him or gain some self control!
487879
I say, propose to him, and if he accepts, go looking for rings together.  Many wedding rings have engagement rings that fit or go together.  By shopping together, you'll get his input on what looks nice and what he'd like for you to have.  If you want to buy him a ring as a surprise, go ahead!  Who has to stick to anything traditional?  Whatever you may feel makes you happy- GO FOR IT!!
62396
You have to look at all aspects of your life, not just age. Take into consideration finances, future goals (school), and even all the details (where you'll live - apt or house -- will you still have separate bank accounts or share your money -- do you want kids together?) Then make sure of how much you love him too. Sometimes just because you're ready for marriage, doesn't mean that he is either. When the time comes to talk about it make sure to cover all the bases and find out what you agree and disagree on. It'll give you a much better chance of staying together.
1054186
Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
135100
This one is a challenge. First I think you might be asking How do you get your boyfriend to propose to you.  The answer, Take a reasonable amount of time to get this answer and allow him the same. Its an excellent idea to find out where his heart is, in the matter. Perhaps without him even knowing  So here.\n\nStep one:\nStart journaling, write down things that he says about love and family try to find out when does he think its an ideal time in life for a man to get married. What you're after here is will he marry you. \n\nIf he does not have lots of money does he think he can get married before making a lot of money.\n\nDoes he love little children? See how he behaves around them does he play with them or avoid them.  This is an obstacle it reveals his level of comfort with getting married now.  My best friend avoided little children - he's still not married.\n\nWould he die for you? spend all his money on you. Sleep out in the rain if you say that how it ought to be - does he love you?\n\nStep two:\nThe journaling and questions that you ask should reveal the answer to will he marry you.  Be sure not to blast him with all these questions at once. its best to recall situations you have previously encountered and be alert to others that occure.\n\nStep Three: \nBe aware of obstacles Which could be,\na) he does not want to get married \nb) not at this time in his life\nc) he requires education\nd) he does not love you \ne) he does not know what he wants\nf) he requires adequate income\ng) he's scared\nh) Other (well, you did not expect I would think of all of them)\n\nStep four:\nDevelope a plan to overcome all the objections that might arise. If he requires education then let him or persuade him it will be ok to marry first however you must overcome his objections.\n\nOnce you know what his answer is on the question (what a place to be in a relatinship)  be sure no obstacle/objections remains. You can suggest that you both get married. At this point there is only one anwer and you already know it.\n\nyou can ofcourse skip all the above and just suggest that you both get married.  Good luck
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I think the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. In many cases, when people find themselves in front of one of the most important decisions in their life: MARRIAGE, they tend to get afraid. The reason i think you saw that dream in the first place is because the thought of being married scared. I bet you really love your boyfriend, but you need more security. \n\nThere's a milion ways you can see to find out if your bf is cheating on you, but even if that's so, do you really think he would be proposing you a marriage ???\n\nAnyways, i think you should take some time, go spend a weekend somewhere where you can take your time and think everything through. All the answers to your questions rely in the bottom of your heart, you just have to search for them.\n\nYou're about to make a very important decisions, if i were you, i'd jump out of my shoes from happiness, but i would also take the nescessary time to think this through and see if you're both ready or not. After you've set things right in your mind, talk with your boyfriend. See how he reacts to your questions, the way he talks, the way he looks at you etc.
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Don't move out there unless you already are serious, sure that you love him, sure that there are no hidden problems that you can't deal with, and sure that you will either marry him or be able and happy to build a new life there if marriage plans fall through.\nIt sounds like he is not the one for you.  If that's so, don't try to fit him into that position.  Wait for the man you feel good about.