If i'am getting abuse at home what should i do not so much of touching but words that are being said?
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I agree you should Tell your school counselor, Or if it gets really bad call the cops!!! Especially if it get worse then verbal!! \n\nAlso sarcastic had a point, put it in a different category but I'm sure there isn't to much rif raff answering 360 questins but I'm sure we're not experts as much as the right category would be.
471000
Be assertive. That means, use "I" statements and be specific about the behaviors that are "pesty." \n\n"I get irritated when you call me six times in one night."\n\n"I don't like it when you follow me from room to room."\n\nAgain: use "I" statements and describe the specific behaviors that are a problem.
811759
We're all human, & stress & frustation can make you have periods of being a bit nasty. Letting it out maybe the healthiest thing in fact. Holding it in can be the wrong move. I don't mean it is okay to be abusive, physically or mentally. Still once in while it will come out verbally, & knowing enough to apologize for the slipup caan make the difference. Most people recognize human reaction when they see it & most often will forgive if you make amends.
569288
Tell them whatever they are doing is hurting you emotionally. Be honest and don't overgeneralize. If you say "You always do this" then you will get nowhere. Also be specific, if you say they are a mean person then that will get you nowhere. Don't bring up past arguments, it will only make things worse. Stick to a specific problem you have and seek a compromise. Either you both are winners, or noone win's at all.
613164
Much better to laugh than to abuse. It lets you get your steam out without saying hurtful things that will make the situation worse.
1029837
I suggest being straightforward with the people and tell them right off that they cannot use those words around youre children. whether theyre youre friends or not(i dont know) you should still tell them immediately to stop
517400
Sounds like you're going through some tough situations.\n\nNO ONE has the right to hit you or abuse you-- if this is happening, you need to seek help.  It sounds dangerous for you and your children.
79529
what were the actions that lead up the the abuse? Were you having problems for awhile. Remember when you are fighting and hurt you will say things that you dont mean in the heat of the moment...........
1116466
ROFL !!!!!!!!!!!sorry but I have raised 3 of those little tigers....... and yes a beating is a natural reaction on your part, but I do not think it would work..... it would prob make it worse......  you have a boy that is turning into a little man right before your eyes...... the hormones , mood swings the talking back are all NORMAL things..... don't let him get to you sister !!! the more you react to it the more act he will put on for you..... they have a job to do, and that job is to drive us crazy or as close to it as they can get....... write down the house rules on a board along with the punishment that goes with each rule if broke.... explain it to him in adult language, that is what he is needing, to be treated as a young adult, remember he is between worlds right now.. so tell him you will treat him as he acts...... he acts like an adult he gets treated as such....... if he acts like a child he gets treated as such...... do NOT argue or yell or show fear or anger.... they are like wild animals at this age....... ROFL, sorry again, but I just had a flash back, and it is NOT from drugs !!! take a deep breath and plane your strategy, and get Dad involved if possible... a united front is what is needed here............ a big hug and a bigger GOD BLESS
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Explain to them, if they are old enough to understand what you are saying, that what they did was wrong and if they do it again, there will be consequences for it.  Time out, no tv, no games, no playing outside or having friends over, are some suggestions.  Also if the kids are near your home, don't let your child near them if they are a bad influence.
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Well, you have already nailed it pretty well, and under the circumstances you are doing a whale of a lot better managing this that I ever would! You're further ahead of the game than you realize. You are also tired and need a breather. You need to schedule some down time for just you. You are the one that is important here. And self care is job one. Always. You have been ambushed, so when that happens you always step back and regroup. And the best way to self care your way through this one is to be by or hang around yourself a little more. Find your center once again. Centering. A wonderful concept. And correct, too, on every level. Diet, bubble baths, rest, fresh air, cleaning your bedroom, checking your wardrobe and getting free of old stuff you will never wear again - in other words, spend a little time reinventing yourself. You are already pretty strong because you have a good mind with which to sort out all this foolishness and get your bearings, but the unfortunate truth in life is that when we are tired, anyone can take a whack at us and it is like they could blow us over with a feather. You can feel that sensitive, and it is because you are smart, really. It is the downside of being smart. You can be too sensitive. So when you find your center once again you will also find more strength to call this what it is: abuse. Others here on Yahoo! Answers are giving you some fine answers about actions you can take, but I am focusing solely on you taking care of you. Self care. Make more time to pamper yourself and start feeling good about who you really are, because look at what you are doing here: you are  working on your degree. I mean, my God, all this other chaff is just fuel. Be very alert and see it for what it is - a prime distraction and begin - just begin, to look for a better place to bring yourself for work. That does not, fortunately, need to be put in place before the end of the week. If worse comes to worse, you can just walk away. A social worker once told me, "Chris, sometimes all you can do is walk away." I never forgot that one. Under most circumstances, I get the impression you are normally extremely self-reliant and independent of mind, so it is probably just because this whole mess has worn you down a bit that feeling it is a lilttle rough on you right now. I am sending you good energies and my heart goes out to you hoping you find the perspective to see the bigger picture and put you back into it in the dignified and self-respecting way you rightly deserve. Get your self-esteem back intact and believe in who you really are. And for God's sake, get some rest. None of us thinks well when we are exhausted. The other thing is emotionally draining, and only time will heal that one.  God Bless You, too.     - Chris.
1077880
i think that you are mandated to report any abuse. even if you aren't if you know some one thats being abused you should tell anyways, mandated or not
246787
Verbal abuse is still abuse.  You need to get help and get out of the situation.  Find a support group or halfway house for abused women.  United Way can proabaly help:  http://national.unitedway.org/myuw/\n\nYou are not alone...this happens more often than you think.  You don't have to accept his abuse.  You will be okay, but you need to get out of that situation and take care of yourself.  You deserve better and you CAN have it.
1179254
I know you love your mom, but, keep your children away from her. No one should have to go through that. Not only will you have physical scars, but also mental scars. She really sounds like she needs help. Just love her and respect her and try to keep her away from anyone that you think she might abuse. When you see her hit or even be mean, say something to her. Yes, she'll say something like I did it to you and you turned out ok, but when she does just remind her of the scars she's left on your body and your heart. But, remember, she's still your Mother. Lots of Luck to you. I know it can't be easy.
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Assuming that there is no abuse...\n\nYou are probably still living at home and hopefully that means you are still in HS or early college.  You will find that after you move out things get much better.  Not only because you aren't around all the rules, etc. but also because you begin to see where they were right.  \nI always got pissed about chores, etc. but now realize that it wasn't even a big deal.  One day you will see how trivial some of the fights you have were, and you will regret lots of things.\nI suggest that you do your best to not let it set you off, and try to do what they ask.  Generally the hour that it takes to do what they want is much better than the fight and the aftermath that is your other option.
885087
The Mr. Nice Guy stuff is classic abuser behavior. Contact a domestic abuse center. Educate yourself. Get as much emotional support as you can from your friends and family. They can help you keep your head in the right place when you're having ambivalent feelings. These situations don't typically get better, they get worse. Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
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It's not nessesarily violence. It's more like harrassment. If it bothers her you should really stop.