How do i ever find a boyfriend who thinks it;s okay to not have sex before marriage?
92013
In a guys point of view. Just relax, tell him No. I guy wouldn't force you to do it if you tell him NO. Don't be sad, guys are just like that, its a biological thing. Even guys in a seminary are having a hard time controlling themselves. Honestly speaking I went thru the same problem, I had a girlfriend who did not want to have sex. And that's fine with me. She said no and I respected her. But I still tried. Boys will always try, and you should only say No. If he doesn't agree then dump him, he doesn't love you or care for you if he forces you to do it with him.
1037317
I believe that you should be married before you have sex. And when I say married I don't mean the little piece of paper saying that you love someone. I mean the marriage that takes place in each others hearts. And at whatever age that takes place it does not matter. But at least learn about using a condom I have so many friends who get pregnant because there idiot boyfriend does not know how to put it on properly, so do your research.
950307
He might have some moral issues about premarital sex.\n\nHe might have another girl friend.\n\nHe might have herpes or HIV.\n\nHe might be gay or bisexual.\n\nAsk him flat out. If he can't give you an honest answer, you have to find another boyfriend. He sounds like a wimp.
401713
sex before marriage means to know ur self and what u are going to affront before u take an important step in ur life. sex is not the only thing to do before u get married. and there are things much more important to "try" and taste before u take a final decision, it's just that the world is built on weightless things in a way that we are getting lost in the needs of society instead of caring for our real needs.
840099
I have no idea. Personally I don't have a problem with sex before marriage as I would want to know what I was getting before I got married to a man for life. Not that sex is all a relationship is but I think it's an important part. I don't think you should sleep around indiscrimately regardless of being married or not though.
795909
well, I think everyone is definitely entitled to their own opinion, but let me ask you all this: Say you have been dating someone for a long, long time, know all about them, and think they are your perfect match, your soul mate.  I'm talking, that one person that is perfect for you in any and every way and you know you could never live without. Then, the first and only time you have sex is a horrible experience for one/both of you and you decide that because of that one time, the future between the two of you is doomed.....? To me, that sounds like a really stupid reason to not want to marry someone...if you really loved them, you would be able to "work" on it and look past it. Of course it would be diffcult to be with someone that cant please you the way you want them to, but with time and a continued strong relationship, it will happen.\nI, personally, am saving myself for marriage for both personal and religious reasons.  I'm not going to lie and say that it has been easy to remain a virgin, but I know that by doing so, I am saving a wonderful experience for my husband and I to share, as well as avoiding a number of problems that can come along with premarital sex.
335685
Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
203078
stay strong.   If he really loves you and just doesn't want another notch on his belt, he will honor your desire to keep your virginity until marriage.   What you can do to help is go out with other couples; do really active things together and change the subject.  You did not say how old you were nor how old he is.   But your desire to save your virginity until you are with the man you marry is really mature.   Is he ready for a life time committment for you?  If he is, get married and have sex forty times a day (ha, ha)  If he is not, then his pressing you for sex all the time shows he is more into getting something for himself than into caring what you are about. Kinda selfish, no?
505211
Well are you a christian couple that does not believe in sex before marriage? If so it will be hard. Many people say you should know a person very well before you get married. However studies have shown that people who shack up usually end up not getting married or divorcing when they do. DR. Laura has shacking up as one of the "ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives". But if you feel it need to be done do it. That feeling is coming from god.(or the devil)You should know.Let the relationship progress step by step. It's in the Bible, II Peter 1:6-7, TLB. "Next, learn to put aside your own desires so that you will become patient and godly, gladly letting God have his way with you. This will make possible the next step, which is for you to enjoy other people and to like them, and finally you will grow to love them deeply."
633640
7th grade???? thats wayyyyyyy to young, sweetie u have a whole long life ahead of u to experience it, wait, and if ur boyfriend refuses to wait then dump him. i hope ur boyfriend didn't give u ideas to have sex, and don't let him pressure u if he does, trust me just wait for the right guy to come along, but really u should wait till after u get married, that would be the most moral and best thing to do. i hope u make the right decision, good luck.
1177408
Girl, whats the problem? You said you wanted to wait until your marriage, then wait. Why the fuss about feeling sad for your boyfriend, most guys don't want you to wait for your marriage day, or is he just saying that to still get in your pants, so he can get you to think that he's the "perfect" boyfriend in the world, you know boys pull those kinds of tricks. Be that special person and wait, and its gonna be worth while, when you do get married, it is a blessing to be a virgin.
467221
Why did you marry him then?\n\nMarriage is more than a way to have guaranteed sex; there is an emotional committment there as well.\n\nIf there is no hope that you will change your mind, then you are both living a lie. he loves you, but it will never be honestly reciprocated. Your mind is elsewhere.\n\nInitially, get counciling to help with these feelings.\n\nYou need to be honest with him, which starts by being honest with yourself.
513841
I think you have to be careful and use protection - but I think that, even if you are married, if you are not ready to have children and do what it takes to raise them for 18+ years, you should still use protection.\n\nI think it's a good idea to know if you are sexually compatible with someone before you make a commitment to be with them for the rest of your life.  People say it's not important but you hear so many people use the excuse that their partner couldn't satisfy them or they were on completely different levels when it came to sex when explaining why they cheated...obviously, it's more important than people want to admit.\n\nAt least TALK about it and make sure you are both into the same things before making a commitment to marriage.
154184
it depends on your beliefs, i believe that you should only have sex when u know that you really love the person, and before you have sex u should become friends first and really get to know and trust each other, its not about marriage its about maturity and commitment,
871899
Do you have moral or religious reservations about premarital sex? If you think it's wrong or dirty or sinful, that can cause a big problem. If this is it, you need to either get counseling or get married.
1104126
It's sex before marriage. Some people are for it, some against it. I believe you should try before you buy.
233691
I belive that love before marriage is essential to enable a life long loving marriage. Apologies if I wrong, but are you actually asking about sex before marriage?\n\nThis is a totally different question - and the answer must be, as far as I can see, that it is totally up to the two people that are in the relationship.\n\nYou are correct that nowadays many youngsters (and, of course, some 'oldies') have casual sex - this is their own choice and as long as they protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases who are we to judge?\n\nUltimately, we all have our own cultural and personal morals and standards to live up to and as long as we are comfortable with our individual choices and do not cause intentional pain or suffering to others we should do as we see fit. \n\nLove and sex do not have to be entwined, but in my experience the latter without the former is never as satifying to the body or soul.\n\nGood luck in the choices youu make..