why cant i orgasm after 2 yrs and been wi boyfriend for 4?
83636
Maybe he isn't stimulating you enough anymore maybe your body is used to him. Try different postions. Trust me the one we did the other day I did org.
1179984
Hi dear, nothing is exccessive in love making, it is wonderful for u to have orgasm 3 times a day, u r one of the most luckiest person in this world, 'coz many of the girls never experience real orgasm in their entire life span, it is a fact and really hard to believe.\n\nU shud be proud of ur guy...:):) He deserves more enjoyment frm u now...;);)
794852
There is a way. It is a secret you learn from experience. You see orgasm is a physical thing with men. But women are a little bit more tricky its a mind and body thing both have to be on the same page. Try on top if you are waiting for him you will be sixty by the time you orgasm. On top you can accomplish clitoral and cervical stimulation by a rocking back and forth motion you will have to determine how slow or fast. but again I say you have to be mentally motivated. Good Luck.
804012
Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.\n\nRead this, good advice:\n\nhttp://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html\n\nAlso, just my opinion, but stop faking it.  You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
844949
I don't think its because you had a baby two yrs ago, but I don't know I'm not a doctor. maybe you should ask your doctor. but before doing that lets ask you this. when your having sex do you get on top most women that do have orgasms by riding him? or when hes on top most men do it the 'norm" in and out what most guys don't do is side to side moving there hips to the right to the left they just go back in forth in and out. tell him to move his hips side to side to right then to the left when a man does it like that it gives most women the best orgasms. and if that don't work try playing with yourself and buy some k-y jelly you can buy that at targets, Wall-marts its usually were they sell KO-TeX to let papers,powders etc...if still nothing ask your doctor it could be Hermon's
675920
What you are going through is not weird and it's definitely normal! i had the same problem...I had sex hundreds of times but I could never have an orgasm. I always thought something was wrong so I just faked it all the time. My boyfriend now and I have amazing sex and by experimenting I have found the only position that I can have an orgasm! I hope this isn't too graphic but here is what we do...\n\nHave him lay on his back and you climb on top. While he is inside of you move your legs to the inside of his and make sure they are straight. Slide yourself up and down this way and I can almost guarantee you will have an orgasm! This position rubs me the right way everytime! It's the best feeling in the world when you have your first orgasm during sex! Good luck and I hope this works!
287832
when you are having sex ,just imagine your past foreplay.if it doesn't work then, meet sex therapist b/cos you may have organismic dysfunction.
1157635
Tell him how you feel about the pressure.Then, you both need to make an argreement that that's NOT the reason you are having sex.You are having sex to feel closer to each other, to show your love, and enjoy each other.Don't concentrate on the orgasm.If it happens, it happens, if it dosent it dosent.Take your time.Maybe have one nite of just cuddling.One night just oral.ETC,ETC.Enjoy each other, not what you get out of it, then it will come.Also, you need to let the past stay in the past.If you dont, your ex is getting even more satisfication that it is messing up your new relationship.Most people do NOt have orgasms through sex.That's a proven fact.But the fact you had it many times before during sex, is a problem now.Let yourself relax and get rid of the past!!
777021
I DONT KNOW WHY YOUR HAVING THIS SENSITIVITY U MIGHT NEED TO GO TO YOUR O.B. GYN AS FOR THE ORGASM... NOT ALL WOMEN EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM...HAVE U EVER REALLY HAD ONE? ALOT OF WOMEN THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. YOU NEED TO REALLY RELAX AND KNOW HOW TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE ONE ITS NOT JUST UP TO YOUR PARTNER/BOYFRIEND HE'S THERE TO HELP,THAT'S FOR SURE BUT IT IS ALSO UP TO U
1023041
Many women go through this more than you know! I actually went through the same thing. First of all, it could be a number of things that can trigger this, stress at home or work,is one factor, having a job, kids, house cleaning, cooking dinner, trying to pay bills, it all adds up, so having sex to some women is more of a chore than anything else. You need to ask if your boyfriend is turning you on? Do you need to try different positions? Different places? Is he Romantic? What makes you get in the mood, he would probably would like to know that. Also some women don't feel sexy enough or don't like the way their bodies are so that may be another factor, but i would talk to your boyfriend as he may be able to help, communication is one key factor in a relationship,  he needs to know that you need to be pleased in bed not just him. also your diet could also be another factor, be sure you are eating properly and get the recommended amount of excercise. so i would try new and different things, my husband and i have been together for 13 years and i ended up being the same way until i realized what turned me on and i learned i like it rough and i enoyed it when he spanked me and pulled my hair. You never know what will work with you until you have tried it. Hope this helps Good Luck!
296471
Well, let me tell U that I was in your shoes for many time, I had sex and it always felt good, I had orgasms but not during sex, I was so desperate, and frustrated, but one time I had sex with my bf and nothing happened that time, still he didn't give up, and continue doing things to make me get the orgasm.  After three months of having sex with him, and we had tryed almost everything, he told me that I needed to focus on the point, I mean, when I was doing it, I always was thinking in something else, and that didn't make me feel good.\nI found that the way to get the orgasm was being on top, so I did it, in the beginning it was really difficult, but at the end it happened.\nSo, my advice is: focus on the point that U're gonna get it, think that U can get it, no matter your past experiences, if U trust on yourself U'll be able to experience it.\nI'm telling U this, because now I can enjoy it, I have an orgasm during sex and in other situations, like o.r.a.l. sex, been m*stur*b*ated by my bf or myself. and it feels really great.
632424
No.  Mostly, it's a matter of finding what stimulation gives you an orgasm.  Explore yourself, and then let your partner know what pleases you.  If you have a caring partner, he will do whatever it takes to make you have an orgasm.  If not, get a new partner girlfriend!!  My partner makes sure I have mulitple orgasms before he ever lets himself have one.  Also, if you are young, don't worry; the older you get the better you know yourself and the more orgasms you will have.  I think that I was too self-conscious when I was younger to let myself go and have an orgasm.
538479
really? I think u have some disorder. Its either medical or between your ears. If its not medical you live in a fantasy world. Dream about it but dont post it here. If you realy horny u can overflow precum at night, but I dont think its sperm after 3-4 ejaculations.
501793
I'm 30-something yrs. old....and I still mastubate from time to time.  It's not possible to ruin your sex life by mastubating all those.  You say no man can please you, I don't think that's possible.  You just haven't found the right man to hit that certain spot yet.
592669
...When I was with my boyfriend I'd play with my clit while we were in action. It took me 4 years to cum with him. Get totally immersed in what your doing. Body, mind, soul, with an environment to match your deepest fantacies. Maybe do a little yoga to get your mind off of every day life. Watch a porn before you go at it. Have a little chocolate or, better yet all three! If you're having sex just to get an orgasm, it won't come. A little trick I've learned... when he's on top of you, move your hips up and in towards him so he's totally inside you. Keep moving your hips wherever feels best, play with your clit while your at it, stare at his body and into his eyes and keep telling yourself how sexy he is and how much you want him. Use a vibrator while your at it. If all else fails, get a book to better educate yourself or even call a sex therapist. Life is too short to have limited O's.
1108364
It's the sex.\nIf you aren't having orgasms, the sex can be better.\n\nYou aren't doing anything wrong though. Most women don't have orgasms just through plain sex. \nTry getting your partner to stimulate your clitoris as well - you could try investing in a vibrator and trying a few different positions.
691156
Beleve me...you'll know.  And if you doubt whether you did, you probably didn't. Get in touch with yourself!  What it feels like is something that can only be experienced. Even more amazing when you really love and appreciate your partner. There are no words on this planet for it...in fact an orgasm almost takes you to a different one.