My husband has ED and doesn't seem interested in treatment. Is there a way to convince him?
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Tell him that sex is a key aspect of your relationship.  Be completely honest with him (and yourself) about how important it really is to you.  My husband's doctor told him that ED is VERY common.  He should know it's nothing to be ashamed of.  If he still doesn't come around, you may need to make alternate arrangements down the road.
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It could be diabetes.  Check out http://www.diabetes.org/diabetes-symptoms.jsp\n\nDepression: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/depressionmenu.cfm\n\nHigh Blood Pressure:  http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml?identifier=2114\n\nand any of those things can lead to erectile dysfunction:  http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/impotence/\n\nIt may be an affair, or that he's not as invested as he should be, but it could be a signal that something medical is amiss and needs to be checked out.  Of course, you must be sensitive in how you approach the subject.  He could very well be avoiding you because he's embarrassed about it.\n\nUnresolved anger or repressed anger may be an issue.  How well do you communicate with each other?  Would he be open to counseling?\n\nI hope you find the cause and have a resolution soon.  For the sake of his health, try to find a discreet way of getting him to the doctor, just in case.  It could be a sign of a serious health concern.
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I believe that Mild ED is caused due to "sexual rush". As I man I can tell you that the best way is for your partner (a woman in my case) to take it easy and do not rush me into having an erection as soon as she gets undressed. Conversation should be kept a a minimal, unless is related to the beauty of your partner's body and sexyness. A woman should help the man by being as sensual as posible and softly caressing him (the man should do the same to her!)... You'll see!!!... patience has its rewards and then .... a long lasting erection...!!!!!!!!
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Considering the additional information that you have provided, I do think you have reason to be concerned.  Maybe you could help him find another doctor or therapist.  You may want to cinsider joint counseling as well.
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Sit him down and develop a clear line of communication with him. You have to tell him how you feel and establish boundaries for what you are willing to do. You might want to give in to some of the simpler ideas, but he needs to understand that you don't want to be a human sex pretzel. Clear communication is what you need. If he can't understand have him take a good long look at your cast again. He needs to accept your feelings the same as you need to accept his, after that you compromise. That doesn't mean you give in, that means you look for an area in between that will work for both of you and go with that. Sex should NEVER result in broken bones!
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You didn't say how old he is or how long you've been married.\n\nYou should talk to him about how much you miss the physical closeness because you love him so much, and ask that he please see a doctor, if not for his own sake, then for yours.  ED is probably a lot more common in men than they will admit.\n\nWhile stress or external factors can interfere with sexual desire and performance, it is also possible that a serious medical condition exists.  Perhaps it's something easily treatable, and getting a diagnosis can relieve his mind and improve the quality of your marriage.  On the other hand, it could be due to a serious condition, such as prostate cancer, and delaying a diagnosis because of assuming it's just stress or because of fear of hearing bad news can be deadly.  Problems only get worse when you don't face and resolve them.\n\nThis is one time when it's okay to nag your husband.  Men are notorious for neglecting their health by failing to seek appropriate medical care, and trying to "tough" things out.  It's not just about the sex; it's about his health.\n\nBest wishes.
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Could be stress, and he did say he has a lot on his mind. that could be overpowering him to ejaculate. And taking meds can reduce sexual things too. Look into the side effects on his meds. And try not having sex for a day or two, seems like you both need a rest and maybe his member just needs a rest. he's not as young as he used to be.
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get him put on a different medication
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No, you need to get to the root of this problem.  Force him to talk about it.  Let him know that he can tell you anything, and you will not judge him.  Ask him about his fantasies, favorite positions, favorite things you do to him, etc.  If you think the problem might be physical, tell him there is no embarrassment about going to the doctor.  Keep talking until he opens up and talks back.  Do not give up!
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Yes. I've heard from personal stories. Everybody's different. He may be one with low sex drive, or yours higher. Could even be psycological issues, though I don't think that is usually the case. Happy bed time!
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You can talk to him calmly about the ways medication would help.But,don't yell or criticize.I don't think that would help.Good luck.
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Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
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SOME men don't like to show weakness. For me, if it hurts, I'll find a solution to my problem. If your husband wants to be in pain, then let him suffer for being an idiot.
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I don't think age is the determining factor. Maybe it is the meds he takes or the severity of his condition. Maybe he also has other medical problems,and takes other meds.If he doesn't have a heart condition maybe the doc could  prescribe viagra. Anyway...tell him this is important to you and ask him to talk to his doctor.
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The fact that your hubby doesn't want to have sex is a SYMPTOM of something else. You need to figure out the cause. It could be a PHYSICAL problem. There are herbal pills that you can look for at health shops which are safe and might help if he needs a physical/hormonal boost. Read up about Damiana and see if it might help. Then, it could be something like an EMOTIONAL problem. Something could have happened to him when he was a child. Often people who were abused are very sexual before they get married and then after they get married they don't want to have sex anymore. If this is the case, you need to be very supportive because they have feelings of guilt and low self-esteem. If it's not something that happened in his past, then it could have something to do with the INTIMACY between the two of you. Maybe he has an unmet NEED. STRESS also affects a man's libido!! Mabye his work is putting too much stress on him and he needs to do something about it. You need to find out the source of the problem. Counselling can help you.
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I know it is not what you want to hear, but what you need to do is tell this  man that unless he gets off his butt and goes for help, you are dumping him.  This situation has no future whatever if he wont talk about it, and is not willing to help himself by seeking medical advice.   While you are trying to build his self esteem, you are losing your own, and I think you are a very sweet, gentle and caring person to have let this go on for so long.  I'm afraid you just have to be strong, or your life will pass you by.  I know he can't help his condition, but he can't be bothered to make it better, so he just doesn't care enough about you, otherwise he would get treatment.  He is just wallowing in self-pity, like all men do, and really hon, you deserve a lot better than this man. It isn't easy, I know, but I think you knew the answer before you asked the question; you can't help someone who doesn't want help., and this man is just enjoying being babied....move on, and very good luck to you.
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Clinical depression nearly always results in a diminished sex drive, plus apathy and a general slowing down of everything.  I know it must be hugely frustrating having your sex drives at opposite ends of the spectrum at the moment. But I truly think it would be wise to let the sex take a back seat until he's on his feet again. That way he'll be free of any feelings of pressure or of sexual failings in his part.  His muted sex drive is not because he no longer finds you attractive, but is a result of chemical changes in the brain caused by his depression.  By giving him all your love, support and patience, his depression will eventually lift and his sex drive will be restored.  Good luck and best wishes.