O.k i need to know what i can do to make my mom help me with my problmes?
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Maybe go back to your guidance counsler and ask her what your alternatives are.  If you attend a church the priest/pastor might also be able to help you.  There has to be other alternatives for you out there.  Knowing that you may need help is the first step.. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.  Keep it up and stay safe.
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Being open with your parents is the best thing. Sit down and talk to your mom or dad.  Tell her you love her and you would like to talk things out. When she tells you things that she expects out of you, try to be understanding and help her. If your mom is sensible, she will come around. Don't talk back to your parents in a disrespectable tone since that will only make things worse. It will take a great deal of control on your part to sit and listen and when you talk, don't get emotional and keep your head. Talking to them when everyone is calm is the best thing. Level heads come to an understanding. Being a teen is hard, and being an adult is even harder. Trust me on this one. With age come a great deal of responsibility. Show your parents your maturity by talking to them. Its ok to stick up for yourself but do it in a mature way.\nDon't forget, things always change, hopefully, by being open with them, it will be better for you!!
639671
At this point in time you have done all you can, or at least all you've had time to do.  You can try, but don't alienate her.  When/if it goes wrong she will need you. You may be disappointed but you're a good mom and that's your job.  Teach her what you can, some people are hard learners. But *if* it goes wrong, she *will* need you.  So don't put her in the position of not wanting to come to you when she needs help because she doesn't want an "I told you so."
735056
speak to your parents, or you could speak to your teacher about getting help... you can do it!
883487
Get sam or the carrot to do it for you. maybe your crazy mother will help.
683269
buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
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if you wanted something new and she knew it confront her nicly, instead of being on the defense try saying  mom, i feel left out because you gave my sister what she wanted but i got her old _______. I just want to be treated equally.    that works for me and im 13 so it might work for you   good luck!
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For sure you must support her as much as you can,( and im sure you are) always make yourself available if she needs someone to talk to. Talk to a social worker at school, your local police department, maybe even visit a church. Dont close any doors,or avenues, you never know what might help her. Gather all your information and along with her and whatevr else you come up with, try to make a decision. Sometimes we are not even aware of the types of help their are for us untill we begin to look into it.  Its kind of like shopping for stuff, sometimes you dont know who has the best sales and best clothes that are just right for you untill you get out there and start looking around.
119880
You need to get joint counseling with your mom. DO IT SOON!
726884
Tell her that you both be on your best behaviour and perhaps even suggest that you two mate will prepare supper and/or breakfast for her.  Be honest with whatever promises you make to your mother and perhaps she will allow this to happen more often.  Good luck and I hope you are able to get your way and have your friend spend the night at your house.
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Ask your mom how her friends are.  You might find out that they have done something to hurt or anger her, which is good because then you don't really have to worry about your mom not being "ok".  Maybe she has new friends that are kinder or more fun to be with.  \nDuring this conversation, you should be able to get your own read on your mom, so you can see for yourself if she seems to be her normal self to you or not.  \nIf she does not seem normal, then you should pay her a visit.  Make sure she is not depressed or something.  If needed, help her find the help she needs (just like, I hope, she took care of you when you needed it).  \nGood luck!  I can tell you care about her.
260589
she loves and cares! enjoy! sometime u'll get a freedom of being not dependent from your mom and her opinion what to wear and u'll miss it with a smile :)
817992
Be yourself! If you meet her dressed in clothes you normally don't wear and behave in ways you don't normally behave there will come the day that you will grow tired of the false you. So be yourself. Be kind and polite.Offer to help with the cooking "if you are invited to a meal" and be sure to help with the clean up.Those are two things a mom will look at more than what you are wearing!
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If I were you, I'll talk to her mom/dad, even if she gets mad at you and stop talking to you.  She'll thank you later!  You can't handle that by yourself, you need an advice from an adult.  One day she'll understand that you did it because you loved her and cared for her
601494
Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.
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keep in mind that she has your best interest in mind when she says no to your requests.  \nI think it is awesome that you realize it is a problem and that you want to change.  It shows you care about her and want to have a good relationship with her.  \nMaybe you could try making a list of all the good things she has done for you in the past week, and then make a list of all the good things you have done for her in the past week.  \nIf your list is shorter maybe you should go make her a cup of hot chocolate and tell her you are sorry.\nThis may sound weird, but she is, after all your mom and knows an awful lot about you, why don't you ask her why she thinks it is that you yell at her..  and tell her you want to get along.\nIts never easy to apologize, but doing so will show her you are growing up, and possibly you will earn some privileges by doing so.
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Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.