why am i not loved by people?
95168
Why on earth do you think that?  You have family that loves you, I am sure.
307445
I might be wrong, but I believe that the problem is that you are trying to behave the way everyone wants you to. What I am about to say is such a cliche, but nevertheless true: just be yourself. If those people don't hang out with you anymore, than they haven't been very good frineds to begin with. You are better off without them. \nAnd the fact that you are lonely is not necessarily related to the fact that you are alone. You can also be lonely in the mids of a crowd. Hope I gave you some food for thought........
1016887
You do not need people to make you happy and I know that you think this might sound crazy but all you need is God. God will be you friend and he will love you far more than any man will. You are beautiful and smart so brush yourself off and keep going. Please do not let people get you down because people are forever changing. Put you trust in God and he will take care of you. Just believe in him and pray that he will mend you broken heart.
324723
sometimes we are afraid to be left out and try to please everyone just to be accepted. But remember that "we can't please eveyone."\nSometimes you find it hard to say "No" to people becauseyou don't want them to feel bad. Just remember that you don't need    to please everyone to be accepted, there are people who loves and cares for you these are the people that you should think about.
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Human beings are wired to seek acceptance from others.  It is not quite so simple, but since we are social animals evolution has put social wiring into our brains so we can get along and improve survival for the species.  Read "Social Intellgence" by Daniel Goleman for more about this.\n\nThe problems that you discuss are not just an abstract question about acceptance from others and so are not so easy to answer.  There could be many things about your particular life, family, friends and genes that could be involved.  Sometimes people play with others trying to control them by withholding their acceptance.  Many people who have not gotten out on their own or grown up and detached and gotten a more objective perspective of life can be caught up by dishonest or manipulative people.\n\nI would give yourself from time to grow up, and forgive yourself for not being perfect.  Trust yourself, from your post you sound senstive and intelligent, so as you go forth in life look for those people you seem to connect with and let go of people who want to manipulate or use you for some reason.\n\nSometimes it is hard to find out the truth about one's self, so it might be useful for you to either find a good friend and talk intimately if you can trust them, or to get some counseling.  Ultimately you will want to move into a place where you trust your own self, your gut and have the strength and confidence to be yourself ... don't worry, it will happen.\n\nIf you think you are really depressed or sick you should see a doctor, but remember that in many ways doctors are still in the early days of really understanding this kind of thing, so be careful and do not do anything you do not feel comfortable with or do not understand\n\nThat's my advice.
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You're not alone.\nI absolutely understand what you're saying as I'm going through it myself... =( I used to be naive & gullible only to have it blow up in my face.\nI tried changing to adapt as to how people would like me to be... but it wasn't easy & a losing battle at the end.\nFor every person you try to please there's gonna be tons more that don't like you for the same reason. After a while it got tired & I stopped, stayed true to myself & adopt a like me/ hate me attitude. To me it's their loss rather than mine.
238033
There is probably nothing wrong with you. How old are you anyway??? Maybe you need to be a little more open, but just being yourself and trying to be nice and friendly to people, might help...
687002
Perhaps you attract people that are like me? I am childlike, when I like someone I either push them down or smack them..... That gets their loving attention, so take it as a compliment, you have friends, they just dont realize it
279424
No, it's bad for you to care about what people think about you. You are your own person. Love yourself.
102520
maybe your sensitive and emotional.and im sure there is someone who can understand you.try to understand exactly how your heart feels that way it will be easier for you to tell people how you feel.so you wouldn't get hurt that easy.
177619
Because if you are like me, when I'm around people I don't seem to fit in.  I am not very sociable mainly because I am shy.  I am not not good with small talk.  When I am home I am not under all the pressure of trying to fit in and be sociable.
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This will be hard but if you put your mind to it you can...just think of yourself as higher than the situations you come across...try to not get so upset over things that won't significantly effect your life...view yourself as a treasure that if people don't like you (or are snobs around you) than they are missing out...\n\nRemember though that being sensitive is O.K.  The real problem is if you are over dramaticly sensitive.  Good luck and remember this will take a little time so don't give up!!!
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Most often people feel lonely because they haven't learned to love themselves very much. Often it's because they spend so much time trying to please others or to be all things to all people that they don't take the time to learn what THEY need themselves. It's hard, but you need to learn to be happy with yourself, about yourself, and by yourself. If you can do this, then you will not find yourself lonely, or needy. In turn, others won't be turned off by you because you seem lonely, and sad, and needy. You will suddenly appear more interesting and desirable to someone else. It may sound contradictory, but I think you will find many people will agree with me.
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Maybe you have not lived on your own enough to know yourself. One must learn to know & love themselves before they can love others. \nI do not like being alone all the time, but I like my own company enough to know that I would rather be alone than with someone that is not right for me or that is going to treat me badly.
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maybe your personality/look just isn't compatible with the people you are surrounded by. i dunno i think that's my problem. everyone here hates me or treats me bad but people i meet from the other side of the country are nice and interesting. i'm definitely moving one of these days.
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I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
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The only reason why people may find you boring is because you put that image on yourself by thinking that way and putting yourself down. Thinking negatively about yourself is what keeps people away from you, they can tell your self esteem is very low. I think a good way to get out of your shell is to keep talking with those colleagues at work. If you get to know them better, they can invite you places and introduce you to new people. To start conversations is easy. A simple "Hi, how are you, how was your weekend? I did this and this over the weekend" usually gets the ball rolling. To get your self esteem up, write out a list of hobbies you enjoy, topics that have meaning to you, or write down things you like to try. Apply that list to your life and conversations and let that motivate you. And if that doesn't work, you might want to see a counselor about this and your breakup, you could be going through depression and they can help you boost your confidence. Good Luck!