How can I grow spiritually and maintain it? and how can I manage my negative emotions?
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Thorazine, lots and lots of thorazine.  See when you are so spaced out from the tranquilizers that you become a mental patient window licker type, you won't be able to feel feelings anymore.  =)  Either that or just accept the fact that you are only human and may have negative emotions.  If we were made to be flawless, then we'd never have to live or learn.
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You can be spiritual w/o attending church. If you feel uncomfortable there but wish to worship God in the way you see fit, then explore different faiths. Do research, visit different holy places, churches, temples, synagoges.(sp?) etc.\n\nIt is likely that you will find comfort, faith and belief somewhere at some point. Do what you feel is right and dont allow anyone else to ever steer you wrong.\n\nJust because you are still "finding yourself" doesn't mean God will shun you now. Pray at home and pray to the Father to guide you in the right direction. Eventually...you will end up exactly where you're supposed to be my friend.
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Controlling your feelings takes practice. You start with making a decision to do it. Then, every time you feel a certain way, you remember that you want to stop feeling that way. Then, you replace that feeling with something positive. For instance...you want to stop feeling shy. You find someone who's not shy and see how they are. If they are someone you want to be like, you do like they do. Hopefully, it's a person who is mature for their age and a positive influence for you to follow. Then, you start making the changes that are needed to overcome your shyness. Join a club at school, like chorus. Join an after school club, like 4H. Get involved with volunteer work, where there are lots of people. Fairly soon, you won't feel shy around others because you'll be too busy enjoying their company. You will have conquered your shyness. Now, if your problem is anger, that's something a little more difficult. You'll have to try to understand why you're angry and how it happens. Anger usually happens when you feel out of control of a situation that another person caused. You have to first realize that you can't control another person. You can try, either hitting them or some other extreme thing. But that puts you in their control because they just caused you to do something you didn't need to do. You could have walked away, ignoring them. Anger is a choice, just like any other emotion. You can choose to not________ (fill in the blank with whatever emotion you have). It's a want, not a need. Feelings come and go. The person you "fell" in love with a month ago, you can't stand now. They did something that made you mad. Actually, YOU chose to be mad...no one can make you anything you don't want to be. If someone calls you a dork, that doesn't make you one. It's someone else's feelings, not yours. If you then start feeling like they're right and you are a dork, you just accepted their feelings as yours. You see what I'm saying? By choosing to change, you don't have to feel any way that is less than great. After all, God didn't make junk. You are a wonder of God's creation. <*)))><
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You must love yourself. Everyday when you get up, think of one thing you love about yourself and tell yourself. If you find something negative, think of a way to fix it, and do it. I am sure you are a wonderful person, you just need to remember that.
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I would suggest that you sit down and have a frank discussion with either your doctor or a spiritual leader like a Priest.  Either one will have had specialized training that can help put you on the right road and neither one will judge you or belittle you.\n\nGood Luck! and Good for You! for recognizing that you need help.
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First of all just know that your intention to be happy and cheerful is half the battle. If you want it bad enough, with practice, you will absolutely succeed. \n\nYou say you've been this way since childhood and that your mind tends to go in the same direction all the time and right there is the key. After so many years of your mind running your life in a negative direction its now time for you to take over.\n\nYour mind is replaying over and over what it has learnt and now its time for you to retrain it. It takes time and vigilance but with practive you can make it happen. As soon as negative thoughts come up exchange it for something positive. Remind yourself all the time that life is filled with great things going on all the time. \n\nStay away from negative situations and people. Cling to the positive with all your might. Your mind will fight you but after time will learn to let go. Lets say for instance tomorrow you awaken and it raining. Your mind will tell you what a horrible day its going to be. Stop and say out loud "No, its going to be a great day. I am grateful for the rain and all the wonderful things this day holds for me" Everytime you exchange a negative for a positive you will see the change and be encouraged to continue.\n\nI was there, now I am here. Just keep looking forward. Forget about what you did in the past, its gone and can't be repeated. Today is all you have and you can make it a great Today, every single time.
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1. Breathe. Yes! It's that simple. Breathe deeply, but don't hyperventilate. Inhale as though you were sniffing a delightful scent. Then stre-e-e-tch your arms high over your head as you slowly and completely exhale.\n\n2. Set boundaries. Just like the stressed-out mom who sat in the playpen to keep away from the children, you can erect some barriers. Decide what you will do — and when. Better still, decide what you won't do and dare to say "no." Try to avoid anything, and anyone, who wastes your time.\n\n3. Clarify your goals. Decide exactly what needs to be done, and plan a smart way of accomplishing each task. Oh, and give yourself a pat on the back every time you achieve even one of your goals, no matter how small.\n\n4. Put yourself first. That's right! If you aren't functioning at your peak, your work and your relationships will suffer. Find time for yourself, and try to do at least one relaxing thing each day: Take a bubble bath, or read a chapter of a favourite book.\n\n5. Give yourself a break. It's okay to goof off, cancel a lunch date, or miss a deadline now and then. In six months or 10 years, who will remember?\n\n6. Get spiritual. Get in touch with your spiritual values, and align your plans and activities with them. For instance, read an inspiring book, then figure out how to incorporate what you learned into your day-to-day life.\n\n7. Take five. Right now stop what you are doing to cherish the moment. Savour whatever you're drinking or eating. Or go outside and smell the air, the flowers and the trees. Feel the wind, sunshine or rain on your face. Listen for tiny sounds. Take a moment every day to marvel at the wonders all around you.
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Hi Fragile,\n\nI'm sorry that you have not experienced Happiness in your life. You sound young, so you still have many things to learn. You are becoming a Woman, and that is not always easy. \n\nI have been happy in life, and I've been sad too; and I'm 30. Here are my tips for happiness:\n\n1. Get a Relationship with God\nThere is nothing more important in this world than your relationship with God. God is the beginning of each and every thing. He is the Reason why you are here. He created you, and placed you on this earth for a  reason..Fragile, nothing in life lasts forever. Parents can get divorced, people pass away, your best friend can leave you, your husband can leave you--but God will Always, Always Love You and Be There for you. If you Love Him--he will Love you 100 times more. Happiness comes from Him. He is your Strength in the worst times of your life. He is also a source of Peace...Whether you become a Christian or a Muslim--you will not be complete as a woman until you get God in your Life.\n\n2. Love Yourself.\nWhen I was growing up, my family thought I was the strangest thing. At first I tried hard to fit in: but one day I decided that I liked myself. And it was the best feeling in the world. I didn't look to them for approval--although I still loved and respected them. I didn't look to schoolmates for approval. You have to do the same. \n\nYou say you feel pressure to be skinny--well you should look in the mirror and realize that you are Beautiful. When I was growing up, people made fun of my high forhead, my lips. But my mom told me my features were beautiful--and she showed me beautiful African women who looked like me. You can start to admire women who arent a size 4-there are many plus sized models who are beautiful with curves...\nYou have to first accept yourself. When you do that, nobody can come along and make you feel bad about being you. That song, "The Greastest Love Of All", talks about that. \n\n3. Dont Depend on Man, Boyfriend, or Husband for Happiness.\nThat is the biggest mistake that  most women make. They make a man to be their God. If a man loves them, they're happy. If that same man leaves them, they want to cry and die..The truth is that the Greatest Love of all comes--loving ourselves..We women give men too much power in our lives. Our worlds revolve around them. No, your world must revolve around you. Fill your life with things that make you happy--volunteer at a local Boys & Girls Club, learn how to sew or speak Spanish--the point is to Get a Life!\n\n4. Follow Your Dreams\nSo you feel pressure to get grades. Realize that your parents only want you to suceed, thats all. You are just preparing for your future....Realize that if you get good grades, you can get a scholarship to a good College and move away from home. There, you can have space and become yourself. .But, most important, when you get a little older--you will start to have Dreams. You have to follow your Passion. Whether you want to be a nurse, doctor, florist, or business owner--you have to make a plan to make your dreams come true. Do what you have talent for, do what makes you happy.\n\n5. Dont follow the crowd. Be an Individual.\nI know peopl, right now, who are hooked on drugs because they were afraid of the "cool people" who made fun of them for not smoking and drinking..My 25 year old cousin is a drug addict because of that..Fragile, people will make fun of you for not smoking weed, not having sex, etc. You have to be Strong--be a Strong Woman. You cant follow those people off a cliff. Only the Strong survive.\n\nGood Luck and I hope this letter want too long! :)
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Do not care about what happens to you -- the little crazy-making ego-you:\n\nLive fearlessly and defenselessly, because who you really are can never be harmed or degraded in any way, by anyone...even yourself.  You are wholly love, Now.\n\nSo much of our lives are driven (and held back) by fear, and this distraction severely impairs us from knowing how powerful we truly are as a god-made Spirit Being.  So many of our behaviours centre around checking to see if we're OK, rather than recognising that we already are..."made in the image of god". Really!\n\nI don't mean to go all religious here, (and I'm not) because I don't see this as a matter of conforming or even believing, rather as a frame of Mind that steps into recognising and claiming our spiritual (True Nature) birthright.  So it's not about seeing yourself as more than you are or less than you are...but accepting everything that you are.  Observe yourself with curiosity.\n\nUntie yourself from the drama that so causes miserable self-doubt and discouragement, and moment by moment you'll learn to Live in acceptance, and release the fear -- regret, worry, projection, judgment -- by living with 99% of your focus in the Now. \n\nRemember who You truly are, and step into Being your Higher-Self here and now!\n\nMy words don't do this re-framing work justice, but I swear it has changed and liberated my life.  I really hope this helps you.\nLove & Light!
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IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU AND WHAT YOU ENJOY. IF YOU ENJOY WHAT YOU DO CAN IT FEED YOU SPIRITUALLY . YOU CAN BE SPIRITUAL IN A DEPARTMENT STORE IF YOU DO IT WITH A SPIRITUAL INTENT. EVEN IF IT IS JUST A SMILE YOU HELP A SOUL TO HAVE A HAPPY MOMENT. I AM A MOTHER OF 3 . JUST LAST YEAR I WAS A COOK FOR A COLLAGE AND I LOVED IT AND FELT SPIRITUAL JUST BY KNOWING I COULD HELP IF WITH ONLY A SMILE THEN YOU KNOW THAT YOU HELPED THERE SPIRIT A LITTLE IT MAY HAVE BEEN THE ONLY ONE THEY HAD THAT DAY .
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Prayer and Praise.\nIf you're heavy hearted praise the Lord. Put some Christian music on and sing away. After about 1/2hr. you'll have forgotton your problem and be on a spiritual high.\n\nReading the Bible and going to church helps alot along with having fellowship with other believers.\n\nhere's a verse for you:\nMatt 7:7-8\n7 "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.\n\nGod Bless!
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you have to try as much as you can to maintain a self emotional balance, imagine yourself as a filter. and try to keep good things inside the filter, and remove impurties ( negative thoughts outside).\nI use a very effective way to deal with emotions. I try to focus and concentrate on something that will help me to become better like reading an article about people who faced so many bas things in their life and yet they became great.\nHelen keller was an examples for me to charge my emotions and go on.\nyou cannot make the world perfect, what could be perfect in your eyes might be imperfect in other people's opinion. always try to accept things and people the way they in order to avoid dissappointment. \nGood luck :)
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Be a good person.  Help others when you can.  Thank God for your blessings whenever you can - it doesn't have to be a long prayer, just a devoted thought.  Live as He would want you to live, and trust in Him.
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Try putting post it notes around your house that you'll read. On these notes, put positive things about yourself. Start telling yourself when you wake up and before bed that you are a wonderful, smart person and you deserve happiness. The mind is a powerful thing. If you believe it, then its reality. So constantly telling yourself positive things should help give your self-esteem a boost. On another note, don't keep people around you that are negative. Start trying to find a silver lining in everything. examples...\nYour car won't start that morning...at least it failed at home, and not while you were out and about!\nIts raining on a day you planned outside activities...gives you a chance to read a good book or see a movie.\nA person you love died....at least they are no longer in pain.\nA person you really liked dumped you...better to know now than before marriage and a painful divorce.\n If you wake up every morning and try to be a confident, happy, positive person, one day you'll wake up and no longer be trying. It'll just come naturally. Its all about what you want, and how hard you are willing to work for it. And not letting people take your power from you. Others can only make you sad or upset if YOU allow them to. Life is all about how you spin it.
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HAVE FAITH..be happy...recognize what you DO have...and know above all...Jesus loves you and doesn't want you to be miserable...ask for His help!!
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Get a feeling sense of what you wish to accomplish.Think from it, as if you already have it. Do whatever it takes to feel as though you already have it. React to it as if you do. Write "I am so happy and grateful now that _________." and list what you want in your life, in every area, That has been especially powerful to my life. It adds subconscious divine universal help to your efforts to better your life. It helps you control your own luck. It helps your thinking. But thinking alone isn't enough. Truly believing it in your heart Will definitely control this power. You can tell the difference by Saying "the Sun exists" and feeling the truth of that, and compare that to saying, "We have two suns" When you know the difference between those two feelings, you'll know the feeling of real truth in comparison to something you make up. That way, you'll know when you truly believe what it is you're going to manifest as comparison to simply only thinking it. Always remain positive, look at the positive aspects of life, ignore the negatives. ALways think about what you wish to experience and never what you fear. What you think about most and feel will be, will be. So this makes sure what you're making to be, is going to be something that you like. How you feel about something, good or bad, will always tell you directly how you'll feel when you get there. So if something feels good, or makes you feel good, keep doing it, or if something makes you feel bad or afraid, don't do it or think about it. Always experience joy in your life and focus only on it. No matter what. When you feel down. Start singing or Do whatever it takes to keep your positive outlook, it doesn't matter how much like reality it feels like your avoiding or being out of touch, you create your own reality so when you remain happy no matter what, you will be happy and eventually incapable of becoming sad or discouraged. Be happy no matter what, and do this with conviction. A standard as though breathing is a standard for living. If you do not breathe you die, this is how you will think of this standard of remaining happy and positive, and truly your life will be one of legends. Biblical and Amazing. People will look at you and wonder how you have everything you want, what do you do different than me? And you'll be different because you live with a secret. A magic secret that gives you anything, ANYTHING, you want. If you'll let it.
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u can. it's just u made radical change, but hasn'i got used yet. and it's also past effect, u used all ur energy to perform this change and now u feel emotianally exausted and it couses deppression and fear. give urself a short break and then procedd to develop urself and make more positive changes. be in action, don't relax too much and reflect too much on the situation. act, act, act\n\nand the last but not tyhe least, what is done is done and u should never regret.\n\neverything will be ok. believe me. don't afraid and be courageous.