My husband has a son and I have a son from previous relationships, if my husband and I divorce...?
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Everyone can get along after a divorce unless they decide to act like a bunch of fools.
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My opinion would be: start to once again see your ex. But on a "haven't seen you in years so what's up" type of seeing him. Get to know him once again. Maybe even do some volunteering that you can do with bringing you child (if their old enough, have them help out too). Invite your ex to come & volunteer too. While volunteering you can see what he's like around people he doesn't know and in an environment he's not used to. Plus you can see how he acts around your kid & if your kid likes him (most important). \n\nAfter everything has had time to "settle" and you know if you could have another relationship (after going over everything that you have noticed and if your kid likes him), then you can contemplate whether or not if you'd want to be with him. If it's mutual with you both, then that's when I would bring up the point with your current husband. Talk to him about you & him only (don't bring up your ex AT ALL). From his answers and reactions to what you're telling him (with you saying he's becoming to controlling), then you can decide if you should get a divorce. If that does occur, then you will have your ex that you can go back to. He will be there for both you and your kid. Plus if a divorce does occur, and everything works out, then you can get married. \n\nWouldn't know, but maybe when you talk to your husband have some friends &/or family with you too. For many reasons such as support, their side of the story, and if anything happens...hopefully not (DON'T have your kid there. have them with say your mom, out for the day)\n\nIf your husband does find out about you seeing your ex, he can’t accuse you of cheating, if you spend time volunteering with your kid, or participate in events that you work with other people, but also work with your ex too. So you truly won’t be cheating\n\nHope whatever happens, everything works out!!
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do what is best for you and your child...i was with my older sons dad for 9 years and he was a cheater and a liar too... i finally left when i found someone i thought i wanted to be with.... it didn't work out in the end.. but life is funny.. it always works itself out .. i never went back to the kids dad i was much better off without him....and much happier on my own.... don't stay because of your child... you will be a better person and mother if you are happy. follow your heart and don't look back!  things happen for a reason... i believe that.
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In all honesty, I hope that for the sake of the kids, you make the right decision. Being that you have two of his off spring, your decision will be one that will not only affect you, but him too, and most of all it will affect the two boys when they get older, but also at the same time as a mother your first order of conduct is to protect your children regardless of whether he wants to be with you or not, in addition, if he loved you that bad to tell you that you should of stopped him, then he should of never left in the first place.\n\nAlso being the fact that he has children from another woman and is married to her, then I can honestly tell you that she will probally be the one to keep him and until he leaves her you will have a major problem getting any kind of support from him to help with the raising of the two boys.\n\nIf I were you I would forget about getting with him, regardless if you love him or not, as I said earlier, your first responisibilty is your two boys, for their sake and for yours too, you should file for sole custody of the two boys and also file with your county for child support, in addition to that you should find yourself another man, one who will accept your children and you too, there are plenty of men who can not have children and are always looking for females that have kids already.\n\nI hope and wish you the best of luck in this matter, and if you would like I would like to stay in touch with you to give you moral support, in addition to that I can also give you my friendship, and see where it goes from there.\n\nplease email me back and let me know how things are going for you from time to time.\n\nrichardaguilar402@yahoo.com\n\nGood luck and Congradulations on your two boys.....
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Hi introvertedb, Pls this is not a class room to correct English Language, answer the question or let go. so, if you have divorced, you better go back to your spouse or remain unmarried 1cor 7:11. sorry, no second chance for you as a christian.
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I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
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I'm divorced, with 2 kids of my own, that live with me, and I'll tell ya, until HE is right with himself, there is NOTHING you can do.  He has to figure out what the deal is himself.  And you may need to find an alternative.
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Your husband needs help.  He is a child predator, and his behavior will pass on to your son.  It is your duty as a parent to protect your child...at any sane cost.
1100054
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
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call the courthouse in your area.\nlaws differ from state to state.\nyour son might GIVE you custody if you ask.
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My Ex Boy Freind ,,, and my mother
670512
Sweetheart you have more than shown love and respect for your husband...feel free to start living YOUR LIFE again.. but be smart..you can go on living and still be in control of who, what when and where you will do what you do!!\n\nSorry to learn of your loss, I lost a son 8 years ago and can sympathize with you and your sons tremendous loss..
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YES! Getting a divorce was the best thing I ever did! My husband left me for another woman and it was the BEST decision HE ever made!  I finally found out who I was and it was the best few years I ever had (after I finally got over him leaving). My son was 3 and it was difficult for him, but he is 8 now and is a very happy little boy! I am now engaged with the love of my life and couldn't be happier!
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You and your husband are separating because you couldn't get along being married to each other, so there shouldn't be any problems now. You sound like you may be a little bitter, get over the fact that he has a new female friend. It was bound to happen, unfortunately it was a lot sooner than you would have liked. Learn to get along with your ex for the sake of your son, he is the only person that should matter to both of you in this situation. Don't let your anger or hurt of him having a new female friend get in your way of good parenting. If you have concerns that your son may be confused about daddy's new friend you should discuss this calmly with your ex-husband about how the two of you should approach this with him. Let him know your thoughts and concerns about how this may affect your son. Also, if him having someone else is upsetting your feelings don't be afraid to be honest with him about that. Let him know that this is not easy for you, but that you are trying and would appreciate him acknowledging your feelings during this difficult time. If the two of you can learn to get along it will make for a healthy and happy life for your son and eventually for you too. Good luck to you through this difficult time.
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I'd hire a hit man!!!! No really I would pursue ever legal avenue I had and make his life a living hell. Nothing worse than a woman scorned. If I didn't have money I'd go to legal aide or petition the courts. You have a right to child support and he should provide it. Then again if you're making it and don't need him get on with it. It all depends on how much you want him in your life. But boy is he's tangled up with another woman, there would be heck to pay at the very least. I am so sorry that the father of your son is a dog and that your son does not have a good roll model. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. There are great men out there, although I'm sure you'll have to learn to trust them again. Hang in There.
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No Way!!! If they did... although I would never want to go through a divorce, that is a great reason. If you are cool with it, then that is between you and yours. If not... It is time to do some serious reevaluating of your relationship!!!
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Talk to a lawyer, If he has to pay child support.  As far as your son is concerned, Your ex obviously doesn't care.  If he was a good man and father he would make an effort.  I hope your new husband is a good man and is trying to make an effort.  Any man that doesn't care about his children or his wife's children is not a man.  \nBe there for your boy he needs support and a father figure, whether it's your father or husband he needs a father figure.  Not a replacement, he already has a dad, even if he is a dead beat.