I am having trouble climaxing when me and my spouse have sex is it just me or what?
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I can tell you that alot of woman DO NOT have orgasims from intercourse.. some woman can only climax from  forplay or ORAL stimulation! but you also might try a c.o.c.k ring with a marble on it.. it rubs your clit. while you have sex! I think it would help!
1132510
has he tried any foreplay? i have learned that foreplay is important for my wife to have a pleasurable experience. \n\nalso, distractions could definately be an issue because i am in a similar situation as you are. my wife has mentioned that she was uncomfortable with the living situation so its hard for her to "be herself" at times...i have learned that the atmosphere has to be just right  for a woman.
998479
Keep at it...actually, she is trying too hard and needs to relax.\nGet her to give you guidance...have her tell you things like "just like that"  when you're doing what she wants. \nIt's not unusual that she could take a long time ... but she enjoys it the whole time. So don't just concentrate on the climax ... it's ALL good.
471755
Did you have an orgasm??????? Then yes,you got what you wanted! It shouldn't be called sex anyway. If you want sex, then masturbate yourself and wait until your wife is able to "makelove" with you.
130706
The actual climax is hard to prolong past 10-15 seconds.  You can slow things down and prolong the buildup which can cause a bigger climax(same length).
694186
Sounds like it has been stretched out from over use. Slow down. Try less partners. Use pelvic exercises to strengthen the muscles. Most of the time the female orgasm is reached from the exterior stimulation anyway. Focus more on this and less on the actual intercourse.  F1sTing is always an option! Let me know if I can help!
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
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This is a hard question to answer when it comes across as a general question. If you are not having any medical problems then you might want to look at some possible emotional problems. You can try different positions. Maybe your husband is to large or to thick, ask him to practice not having a complete erection which would help. Yes a man can have intercourse and a climax without having a full erection, passing this on just as information. You didn't say what type of pain so if this is pain caused in any other area than the vagina then you might want to see a neurologist.
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No. Not every person feels the same during orgasm. I don't know how you feel during orgasm... but I feel different at different times. It is always pleasent... but sometimes it is Great... and sometimes it is Greater... Thankfully I have hit the Greatest many times.  The person you are having an orgasm with plays an important part in just how Great you feel!!!
172011
'the answer to achieving orgasms with a partner is this:\n\nIt depends on the sensitivity of your partner towards your erogenous\n\nzones - if you share sexual intimacy with an experienced, inept or\n\ngreedy lover, you are always pretty much left out in the cold.\n\n\n\nOne of the most difficult things, it seems, for women to do during\n\nintimacy is to clue in their partners to what they want.  For some\n\nreason, men seem to have no problem asking for particulars during\n\nintimacy but women seem to be shyer about it.  The first thing I would\n\nsuggest you do is to be verbal with your lover and communicate to them\n\nwhat you enjoy.  The best way to open a conversation about this is to\n\ninquire the same of your lover.  Thay way, you open the door to be\n\nable to communicate what pleases you.  Tell your lover "Do this" or\n\n"Linger there" or "Slow down!" so that he will know what he is doing\n\nthat makes you feel warm and relaxed.  Don't be shy about saying what\n\nis pleasing to you during sexual intimacy (or what is not) - contrary\n\nto popular belief, men can't read minds. Lol\n\n\n\nUnfortunately, many men (especially younger men) seem to operate under\n\nthe assumption that penetration during sexual intercourse is the most\n\nfulfilling thing they can do for a woman when, actually, the act of\n\npenetration is usually the ultimate goal of the male's satisfaction.\n\n\n\nAlso, men may sometimes rush to fulfill their desire for penetration\n\nand not think to be sensuous with a woman.  There is an old saying\n\n"Men give foreplay to get sex and women give sex to get foreplay." \n\nThis is certainly not true across the board but, by far, many women\n\nseem to enjoy the sensuous intimacy that precedes sexual intercourse\n\nwhile men seem to be running for the penetration goal line.  Lol \n\nPlus, foreplay is what enables a woman to relax and be able to achieve\n\norgasm.\n\n\n\nI don't want you to think anything is "wrong" with you, either,\n\nbecause you don't experience orgasms everytime you have sexual\n\nintercourse.  There are other factors to consider regarding this such\n\nas fatigue, emotional stress, etc.  If you happen to be in an\n\nout-of-the-bedroom situation such as stress on the job or having had a\n\ntiff with a friend, these experiences can affect your ability to relax\n\nduring sexual intimacy - even the thought "I should have washed those\n\ndishes first…" removes your mind from the intimate situation. \n\nConsider these factors and others as being the reasons you sometimes\n\ndon't experience orgasms.  Relaxation is a big key to this.  Sometimes\n\na small glass of wine might do the trick, too, to relax you.\n\n\n\nAs far as tips on experiencing more or frequent orgasms, here are some\n\nlinks that may be of interest to you:\n\n\n\nImtimate Fitness - The Kegel Method\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/sex.html\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/orgasms.html\n\n\n\nTantra and Tantric Sex \n\nhttp://www.oztantra.com/whatistantra.html\n\nhttp://www.tantra.com/\n\n\n\nA book is available here for $14.95 titled "Pathways to Pleasure - A\n\nWoman's Guide to Orgasm"\n\nhttp://female-orgasms.com/pleasure_4_women.htm\n\n\n\nWomen's Sex Health - An online pay site with intimate secrects for\n\nwomen regarding orgasm - $9.95 for one month accesss\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/orgasms_learn_more.htm\n\n\n\nGo Ask Alice - regarding women having more orgasms\n\nhttp://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0117.html\n\n\n\nMyths About Female Sexuality\n\nhttp://www.ualberta.ca/HEALTHINFO/Decisions/mythsf.htm
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Why can't you have an orgasm with him?  Is it something he is doing or not doing?  In that case tell him.  If not, maybe it is in your head.
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There is nothing wrong with you! It it very common for the guy to climax before the woman. Try things to make it last longer don't let him quit till your done. Or  try more foreplay before sex or try doing whatever works for you when your alone. work it into the sex with your boyfriend. He'll like it too!! Good luck!!
100602
try showing your partner how to touch you, how you like! Sharing how to turn each other on even more makes the experience better AND the orgasms more regular!
502641
I assume you mean climax? sounds like you're trying too hard, theres no need. Just relax and enjoy it and it will happen naturally
529266
well, for a little while and then let him get involved.  Not just sit there and watch you go to town and make yourself orgasm.  When I'm going down on my wife, she will sometimes push my head away and do it herself for a while.  It"s hot, but then I want to finish what I started.
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I hope women don't have organisms when having sex with there partners. Orgasms on the other hand are nice to have but am not sure of an honest answer as it really depends on the woman and her partner. Some women may have multiple orgasms during sex and some may not, but I don't beleive that having orgasms are that important as just being with that person and enjoying the moment. Life is prescious and short so enjoy yourself and be carefull, if you are looking to have an orgasm I'm sure that you will eventually but don't think that there is anything wrong with you or your relationship if you don't. Good luck, have a good and safe time.
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Yeah my husband does too.  I didn't think about it till it happened.  Now we do it every once in a while so we keep it not boring.  Plus, it's intense sex.  You guys take turns, she can go on and you guys take breaks and watch.  It's live porno and it's you wife which makes you want her more.  I think it's normal.  Enjoy it and have fun!