why does my husband has a big pride?
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It's common in men. Just smile and nod at appropriate times to feed his ego.
1024698
I am most flattered when my husband looks at me and tells me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am to him.
172031
some men are romantic and sentimental.. MOST ARE NOT... looks like you have found a needle in a haystack girl.. just love him and be thankful. you sound like you have a real winner.. good luck on your marriage.. may it last eternally..
101538
Is your husband the jealous type?\n\nBelieve it or not,I've had 2 different guys ask me this one!!
674474
I think it is fine too, is your husband the super possessive type and insecure ??
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There is a class of individuals called over achievers. Your husband sounds like he fits the bill nicely. It is not that he does not love you. I expect that he does. It is just that he has a fear of failure and so works is rear off to prevent that. Anyway, that is my take. Men also are not good communicators, at least that is what my wife tells me. So it is up to you to communicate with him. Tell him in a caring way that your home life is suffering and that you are worried that he is not enjoying the other things in life. That you would really appreciate it if he could devote one day a week to his family. See what he says to that.  Since he is an over achiever, that to get the message across that he is under achieving in his family life and needs to improve his performance in that respect. \n\nOver achievers are results oriented also. Put a chart on the wall showing his performance in his family life so he can see how well he is doing.
778771
it appears that he is deeply hurt, but that he loves you and is willing to put aside the hurt for whats special about you. you are lucky!
1008195
He's not jealous....he's insecure about his own worth, particularly as a man in our society. And, yes it's quite normal for men to feel this way, because it's only been a few years since it's even been possible, but it's not at all acceptable. Men still have the sense that they should be the bread winners in order to be 'real men'. It's taught to them their entire lives by their fathers and grandfathers, the media, and society. Your guy needs lots of reassurance about how wonderful his own efforts are, but if he's more than just a little bit annoying about it, ie: if he's obsessed with it, the two of you need to work it out either together, or with a counselor, until you resolve the problem, and before it causes serious damage to your relationship. He needs to understand that it's making you truly unhappy to constantly have it 'thrown' at you. Good luck.
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Could be he's insecure since you loved someone else so much  that you married him, and maybe he's worried that you'll always have some lingering feelings for the ex...  especially if your ex lives in town, or if you have children (if you get serious, at some point he will have to "deal" with your ex...)    Or if the guy is looking for the "righteous" type, it may bother him that you made vows once to somebody else, and for whatever reason, those vows are no longer being honored.   Every guy I've seriously dated since my divorce has at some point been insecure about my ex, who is my son's father and lives in town. Those are just some possible reasons.  Good luck to you and remember you can't depend on anyone else to make you happy!
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Your language implies that you are highly critical of him appreciating other women. Perhaps if you relax and join him in acknowledging and appreciating other women he too will relax and not feel that he has to sneak looks. Your tension indicates a lack of self confidence. As long as his appreciation is mature and he looks at these women as one who looks at a beautiful painting or sculpture then what is there to be concerned about? If he doesn't, then perhaps you can help by directing him and upgrading his level of maturity. My wife often points beautiful women out to me...
71696
may be husband is too good..but u r also good for understandin all this..just love him with all heart n soul..always keep him happy..god bless you both
622994
You should be thankful to have a husband who works too much instead of a bum.  Men have their own reasons why they work too hard, in my situation my husband's reason is it is for us, his family.  He works hard so he can provide whatever we need and want all through out our lives because he loves his family so much.  He also works for self-fulfillment and I may say that there are people who are naturally born workaholic.  You see, when my husband is at home he never stops working, he cleans the house and does all household chores.  At first, it drives me crazy to see him work too much but as time passes I learned to accept the fact that he's a hyperactive man who needs to move all the time.  When it comes to our children, I explain to them that their father works all the time because he loves us.  That's why they should understand why they seldom see him because what he does is for all of us.  I don't know if your husband kisses or hugs your children but you see my children are very satisfied with my explanations to them and whenever my husband comes home he makes sure he kiss and hug our children even when they are already asleep.  I think it is very important for children to feel their father's love by simple gestures even if they seldom  see him.
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That may be his sense of humor.  Something he thinks he is expected to do around "the guys".  There is a stigma around marriage that it should be miserable.  Your hubby may be one of those who wants to fit in so he subscribes to the stereotypes people hold of him and his life.  (I could be wrong)\n\nIn private I would tell him that what he said really bothered you.  Ask him if he really feels that way or if he was just trying to be funny.  Inform (gently not confrontationaly) that it wasn't funny and jokes as such really hurt you, especially around other people.  If he really feels that way it may be time for some marriage counseling.
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I say that if you have no prior history of homosexual behaviors, then it probably just has to do with your husband's inability to express his emotions. Women tend to see other women as emotional creatures. If you are wanting your husband to be more emotional or expressive in bed, then you may wander  how it would be if you were intimate with a woman.
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Yes, because my husband has shown me true love. He has been there through good and bad and always protects me and our children.  I've ran from his protection at times because I have felt sophicated, that's until I realized how blessed I am to have someone who cares about me so much.  He has every reason to be the way he is because our world isn't safe at all.
637045
if your husband doesn't mind and you like it more power to you. don't worry what other people think. it's your life do whatever makes you and your hubby happy.
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keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Don't do this with negative intentions or malicious reasons - like i'll show you. I can relate. I used to give my man shit all the time for no reason. The only thing jealousy leads to is wasted energy and will only leave you feeling worse. I hate to say it , but this boils down to insecure feelings on your part and you know how you hate it when he says " you are just insecure". focus on spending time w/ family and friends, job, goals...this behavior will bring you and your husband closer.  Just communicate, don't give up, You just need to love your man smarter not harder