My ?friend? has been talking behind my back ............ Help?
89377
she made it easy for you ,she is not your friend loose her
1066851
You should tell everyone what really happened. your real friends and family will believe you. But let the friend off the hook too. i mean, he is your freind, right?
791647
dont go it's a setup, he has most likely told her everything but of course just from his side so just be cautious about any phone calls you get from her....
240483
Its not what your saying hun....It`s who your saying it too!Some people cant keep secrets and those are the ones you talk to obviously,sorry but its true...:(
140466
i would talk to her about the situation and see why she has changed.  you can't ignore it, especially if you guys were the bestest of friends.  i mean i would want to know if my friend didn't want to hang out with me anymore, i think i would deserve some sort of explanation.
468494
he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to go persue this relationship with your friend and possibly chat on her with you, going back and forth between the two of you.\nget rid of him.
310810
well, try talking to her.  if she won't let you, then dont worry about her. if she's a true friend, she'll want to hear your side of the story. if she's true, she'll come back to you. if she doesnt, oh well. get a new friend.
253215
I think your instinct is totally on. Let sleeping dogs lie. Now, how do we stop the propaganda that happened years ago? You have to prove to these people and show them the real you. Your peers must be part elephant, for them to remember and hang on to, 2 year old gossip! Are you sure that someone isn't keeping the gossip alive by some chance? That may be your problem. Any how, talk is cheap. Action speak louder than words. When you go to school Monday, you raise your head high, brush your pearly whites and smile. Make eye contact and start saying hi. If the chance presents itself, do favors or small tasks that could help them out. Waiting this long to try to correct a problem has put you in a bad position. But not a permanent position. Following this simple guide line, you will be alright. As far as your friend, the next time something like this happens, talk to her right away. It sounds like to me, she could be jealous of you, and want you to be her friend alone. But you can change that too. Just include her in with the things you and your new friends will be doing. Now its all left up to you, to take charge and end this once and for all. You go Girrrl.........!
270688
Hmmm... Really sounds strange huh? Well, I'm a Man but I think I can answer your question... Maybe you're right about what you suspect for the reason she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but you really have to talk to her because there can be many reasons for this situation, maybe you can ask her if someone was backstabbing you and telling things about you against your friend... Right? Losing a friend like yours is very depressing because both of you have been to lot of ups and downs... For now, try to take time for her to think it over, same to you as well, think of the things that possibly you've done that hurted her feelings too... Because if she was your friend for 12 years already, jealousy is not a big factor and she should be proud of you as her bestfriend... Maybe jealousy to other friends of yours is a reason... Try to talk to her ok? But at the right time... Goodluck to your friendship and I'm sure you will get her back...
206249
She's probably jealous of you, if I were you I would confront her. If she's a backstabber you have no friendship to lose. She's already ruined it.
844031
I think she has an integrity issue and I think you should leave her alone.  It also occurs to me that if anything came of you and her, wouldn't everyone know?  I think she's toying with you and seeking a little more gossip to spread.\n\nSorry sweetie.  There are really good girls out there and you deserve so much better than this.
1024647
Well, I understand its a painful and a complicated situation for you. On one hand when she is nice to you, you cannot imagine she can be talking about you behind your back. I know it from my experience, where one of my online friends was being nice to me and talking ugly things behind my back to a person, who was my friend but whom she did not even know. Its really painful and could not get it out of my head for almost a week. But the thing is we have to get over it. Now the question is how?\nFirst thing, is to analyse the kind of relation with your friend. Is she really close to you that you cannot go away thinking about her? If she is really really close as a friend and intimate with you, you should confront her. And it should not be a harsh confrontation, it should be a subtle one. Because close friendships are brittle, since we take the other person for granted. So, be very nice at the same time firm when you talk to her. \nIf she is more of a acquaintance than a friend, minimise your talking to her. Because, there would always be negative people, who are trying to pull you down. If you are too close to them, they would try to do all the more. So, try to avoid such personalities, it would affect you ultimately. \nAlso, try to divert your mind to other activities or meeting other nicer people, people who are positive and dun worry much what people are saying behind your back. When you give it attention, they do it all the more. So, ignore them and they would stop on its own. You dun even have to give justifications to anyone, because if you do, it indicates you are weak and vulnerable, which you are not. \nBest of luck, and may you resolve the issue before it affects you any further. God Bless u.
216990
Well if he hasnt really said anything to you, I would just continue to be a good friend. Dont ignore him or anything like that. If he brings it up, just let him know that you would like to continue to be friends and at this moment nothing more. He should understand and continue to be cool with you..
623226
Either someone (a friend of his) is just being messy because they knew that it was you on the phone, or he is lying. It's time to do a little investigating. Don't mention it to him or talk too much about it. Find out on your own in what ever way you can. The truth will come out. If you talk to him too much about it he will go to more lengths to hide things from you. Let him think that everything is OK and he will be careless and make a mistake that will expose his self. IF he is cheating.
534602
I would ask her why her friends do that and have a talk about it. i think she may be jealous of you and this is her way of dealing with it! and if she gets worse after you talk to her then she does deserve you as a friend.
1002746
If she is being deceitful behind your back then she is not a true friend. A true friend would be there for you and accept you for who you are and not make fun of you for your choice.\n\ni would tell her but in a slightly confintational manner, show her that you are proud of who you are AND tell her that you know she is being deceitful behind your back and tell her that is she was a true friend she would not be doing that. \n\nIf she at first rejects you and then later on wants to be friends again, tell her that she has to earn your respect back\n\nbest of luck to you
150203
I wouldn't ever tell her anything else again.  I've learned over the years that if you don't want people to know certain things, don't tell them.  It's really hard for some people to keep quiet about something "juicy".  Why was she talking behind your back about you anyway?