how can you take someone out of you life and not to ever think of that person "ever"?
96617
Short of developing amnesia, you will and should think of that person. Even if it is a bad memory, it is an experience that you learned from. There is not one person that doesn't have someone that has been removed from their life. It doesn't matter whether that person was a cause of pain or pleasure..they should be remembered and thought of as either having been a blessing to you or as a valuable learning experience of what you want to avoid or change in the future. Key word here is "life"..you can't live without having memories of people. These memories build the fabric of who we are and who we will become.
289709
Sorry mate you can't - especially if you truly loved that person. It does get better with time but you still have your bad days and good days.I lost my soul-mate 2 years ago and I still miss him to this day even though I'm with someone else now.I know I will never love anyone like I loved him - I just don't think its possible.If you ever need to talk plse feel free to contact me thru my e-mail
318753
In past experience, I've learned that the best way to get over someone is to give yourself an allotted grieving time...I say a week or less, and then start doing something to take your mind off of the situation, or at least alleviate the thought of that person. I have found one of the best things is exercise...or try something you've never done before...a new hobby or sport. It's a great way to distract you, plus you might meet some new interesting people as well.
531119
Try to find it in your heart to see this person as just a sad someone who will never be as fabulous as you are.  Cultivate compassion and forgiveness for him or her, and be happy that you are nothing like him or her.\nDo not forget this person though, or the harm he or she has done to you, and recognise the lessons that this person has taught you about your own feelings.  \n\n"Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do".\n\nLove is always the stronger force, and hate leads to your own personal destruction.  Let go of the anger and find the peace and you will be all the more a better person for it.
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
10075
You cant, the only thing you can do is move on from it. If you really love someone, you will always love them no matter what.
1057106
When you know that without this person nothing in your life would ever be the same, food would loose all taste, the birds wouldn't sing nothing would ever feel right. Its that person who you want to share everything with from who there is no secrets the one person you would trust with your life.
667842
If you were a victim of this person, contact the police for advice.\n\nIf not, I say stay away from this person for your own well being.  By the time that a person is old enough to be sent prison, they are already pretty much set in their ways, and rarely change their thinking, habits, or life styles.\n\nFind someone who has better values.
120948
Realistically, you can't completely forget someone you used to love. At least, I can't. Everyone I've ever loved will always be a part of who I am. They are part of the influences in my life who have made me a better person. Even if they were horrible people, I've become better by the lessons learned. Don't try to forget...just open your heart to yourself and your own strength...and allow your life to "absorb" the hurt. Then the moving on will happen naturally, without the effort...and you will be a finer person for your experiences. (if you choose to be)
351513
thats just a crazy and creepy situation...and doesn't sound good at all.  with time u can get over almost anyone...
746727
Find someone else to think about.\n\nSeriously it's the only way.
269568
How awful. I guess you can probably help him best by not avoiding him. A coworker of mine lost a son and when I wrote a sympathy card (on each anniversary of his death) she wrote back, "It's so nice to hear someone mention his name, finally. Everyone else is afraid to bring up his name, but seeing his name in print, acknowledging his life...helps me to remember his life."\n\nDon't avoid him...that's the best advice I have. And don't feel as if you have to come up with a "hallmark sentiment" every time you cross paths. Just give him a quick squeeze on his arm, move along with life, look into his eyes, cry along with him...don't avoid his pain.\n\nHe'll never forget your courage and friendship.
767770
Because we are always afraid we might not see that person again. Plus we're softies! I have a very hard time saying bye to anyone too. From now on just say, "So long for now" and maybe it might not seem to final. See ya! (for now)
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you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
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mitr says.... if the person is close to your heart, he/she can never drift away....\nfollow this.....\n1. be different... probably he/she is bored of the same routinely YOU....\n2. do something creative for him...\n3. do something very special for him... which only a person does when the other one is close to your heart... \n4. be a surprise to him/her... it will bind the interest...\n5. give importance to that person, more than anythign in your life and make him/her feel special......\n6. say in a very romantic way that you wann be with him/her, more often than you use to... \n7. do not bind him /her... give space... loosen the grip.... \n8. FIND OUT THE REASON WHY THE PERSON IS DRIFTING AWAY FROM YOU........ if possible, cure it......
376457
divert your attention to someone else who can fill the space that belonged to the person you want to get rid of. Let go of all grudges, pain and don't you ever think about getting a revenge because this will make you more attach to him/her.\n\nForgive and forget. If you can't forget, don't make every memory of him a big deal.
776624
Forcin' yourself 2 believe that this person is actually a bad person is really doing nothing but fooling yourself.\n\nEverybody that we meet has some form of impact on our lives...this one particular "person" just had a very BIG influence on you.  Of course, it's going to be hard to "get over them", but you have to come to an acceptance that it's over between the two of you.  It'll be hard, but that's the only way you'll ever TRULEY move on.