What can I do about a coworker who is very arrogant, cocky, and thinks they know everything?
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let them go on without helping them...tell them you know what to do and walk away from it, it's not really your problem unless it effects the dynamic of the group, so if he/she falls, they are to blame not you, and they have to take full responsiblity for it, and if they try to blame it on you solely then make sure you get the way that they treat you on tape...\nalso if they get upset about the fact that you knew and didnt tell then you need to tell him/her that if they need or want your help then they need to ask for it next time
1089022
When you know she is wrong about something, get the proof and put it on her desk 9don't let her know wher eit came from.) Or, get a couple of people to work with oyu on this, but when she is beeing to interruptive, take her to the side (liek a professional should, witha stand by if need be, then she can't freek) and say. I am sorry to tell yo this, but I do not apprechate the way you talk to me or the way you interrupt (really anyhting that is on your mind.) She wil be embarressed, promise. Also, have other people do the same. Be sure to stay professional. Also, the best thing is when you knwo she is wrong about soemthing and you have proof. If you can stay consisten, stay professional, don't back down, and have other people do the same, I promisse she wil stop that soon (she wil be more uncomfortable than she makes you). That is not beeing rude, or not nice, it is beeing professional. You have a job and it seems that your interrest is in having a good work environment and therfore, for the better of the business or job. Remeber, take her to the side, with oneother person max, if you do it infron of people she will might get divensive and it can back fire. She might anyhow, but just start aut your conversation with:\n"I am just taking you to the side to tel you something and really do not want a reply, but rather have you think on it. So please listen and no hard feelings. This is a work place and it is for the best of the business (Unit, Team, whatever it is) that we have a good work environment and  this and that is not helping. SO please think on it and maby we can talk about it. (Always best to havea third person there, just so she cannot say you did or say something bad or wrong to her.) Hoep this helps,\nCole
50851
Patience is the best partner. Try to do everything she asks you to do and give her more respect in front of other co-workers(call her something that shows her elder to you) so that she will try to understand what you really MEAN. \n\nIf this does not work, talk to your co-workers and advice her in all their presence. If she fires you for this she cannot work in peace with the other workers.
1069999
Just put it to him plain and simple (but try not to place the blame back on him - he clearly can't handle it).  Say something like: "This is such an unusual request, I'm sure I would have remembered if you had asked me."  Then just move on.  Ask him what he wants you to do and when he needs to get it done.  Try to be gracious.  Unfortunately, it sounds like your boss is a jerk.  We've all been there...
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Best thing would be to talk about it with him.  If he has that big of an ego he will correct his behavior and be more into it with you.  Let him know when he is doing things right by becoming more passionate and louder.
41713
Try communication with him/her, if that doesn't work then get another job.  This may help him/her or they may not care and go through workers like underwear.
1064293
Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
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Firstly you should know that when anyone behaves like that they are being completely unprofessional. Never ever ever ever get drawn into that kind of behavior. You cannot win an argument by yelling. Remain calm, look the person straight in the eye, smile, if you can, and say.. I get the feeling that you are upset, would you like to talk about it, I am sure that whatever it is, it can be resolved.  This will catch them completely off guard and will probably get them to stop behaving badly.\nIf it is a job that you don´t care about, and you were going to quit anyway, let him have it..say something like..Who do you think you are talking to,you cannot speak to me like that.  If they have a superior even better, add that you will be speaking to thier superior. Stand up for yourself, because if you don´t, you will run the incident over and over and over in your mind wishing you had said this or that.. but never lower yourself to their level.  Stay calm.   and then slash his or her tires..lol just kidding
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I can imagine how complicate it is to have such a person in your environment. Sometime it could be a member of your family, your spouse, and then it is much more complicate. \n\nIf you have such a person in your workplace, just remember one important thing; DO NOT feel sorry. \n\nHe/she is not so poor and weak and self-victimizing persons survive in this world very well. They use their "victim position" to manipulate with people, to emotionally and morally blackmail them, what is very exhausting. People in their surrounding usually feel confused, guilty, exhausted. They feel like they cannot help them, cannot do or say the right thing...\n\nDon't let him/her drag you in his/her vicious circle. If you find yourself feel sorry or sad, stop it. Don't empathize and don't try to help or offer the solution. Try to concentrate on your work and let her know it from the very beginning of your working day. If she starts to talk about problems, listen to her politely to some extend, then show her that you "accept" and "understand" what she told you and then either change the subject or tell her that now you have to concentrate on your duties. You can eventually tell her that she is the one who has to resolve her problems and that you cannot help her, but don't let yourself be a part of her problems. And don't be surprised if she reacts on it as if you are not empathic enough, you don't understand her or something like that. This is a usual strategy to make you feel guilty, because SOMEBODY HAS TO BE GUILTY, for her. Stay out and remember that it is not easy. If nothing helps, talk with your superior to eventually move you to another office.\n\nadditional details:\nYou obviously know him very well. You said that those persons are like chameleons and are very good in that. That is exactly the characteristic of manipulator. Don't blame yourself for feeling sorry and offer a support. It is normal human reaction and every normal person would do that. But if you feel permanently guilty and exhausted in communication with him, stop it. YOUR guilty feelings and exhausting are sure signs that you have a problem with manipulator. NOBODY HAS A RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THAT.
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Each person is different. Be very quiet around the person until you size him/her up. I once worked with the most gruff person in the world. He was superior to me, as he was in a management role with the company who owned the company I worked for. He was always chewing people up. I was in my early 20's. One day he called me and said "I am going to come down there and break your G.D. arm off". (because he thought I made a mistake on our payroll). I was tired of his behavior and I said "you come down here and break my G.D. arm off, and see what I break off of you". He was really quiet for a second and then burst out laughing. Apparently, no one had ever talked back to him like that. He decided he like me, and we remained friends for 20 years until he passed away.  \n\nSo don't give up, make it your goal to turn this person into an advocate versus and enemy.
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It sounds like you have a micro manager who want her hands on everything that goes on in the office....\n\nA pleasant way is to call a meeting with her and explain to her that you have the experience and professionalism to deal with clients and it undermines your abilitity and confidence when she interupts....Not that she isn't helpful and infact you learned a great deal from her doing it but you would appreciate it if she gives you the chance to grow...\n\nThen, if she doesn't stop and interupts your conversation with a client just say out loud, not too loud but loud enough so that others would hear "Excuse me would you stop micromanaging and allow me to do my job?!
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He can't tell you who is saying it but you can ask him to talk to this person.  Perhaps they have a personal vendetta against you.  Your boss should have enough experience to help this person get over whatever it is they think is wrong. Just let your boss know that you feel attacked by all of these false charges and that you want people to take the open door policy more serious, not just complain whenever they want to.
107888
Let go of the selfish gossip.  The team player sounds like they have the right attitude to be trained into being a more productive employee.  You can teach skills, but not attitude.
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Well, first of all, find comfort in knowing that she is the one with the problem, not you.  People like that can make you judge your own sanity, but be assured that she is the bad guy.\n\nAvoid her as much as you can.  When you do have to interact with her, have all of your questions/projects lined up and ready to go, so you can go right down the line and move as quickly as possible in getting your work details done.\n\nIf the problem escalates, calmly tell her that her behavior is inappropriate, and then document her behaviors in case you need to provide them to HR.  Unfortunately, this might not work, because these types often see their behavior as completely normal, either due to a psychological problem, or just plain immaturity.  My guess is that she'll tell you that you need to "lighten up".\n\nI truly do wish you the best.  I work with a guy who has Asperger's, and every single day is a struggle with him.
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I realize, being a employer that people think we all like to have people doing everything for us.  WE DON'T.  I will fire someone for not pulling their weight.  I will fire someone for being rude to customers.  \nHowever in the corporate world today things are way different.\nSounds like he's the type who likes to keep you guessing.  Great, do your job and he won't guess about you.  He also knows he has you intimidated, believe me, he knows.  So, you have to get the self confidence about yourself to know and believe that you are the best in your field and at the job that you do hands down and that will show and eventually he will relax when he realizes he's not intimidating you anymore.  Sometimes I think that's a form of bullying, they learn it young and it never totally leaves, but you can change that by holding your head up and facing your fears of him.\nGood luck, you have what it takes to make a good employee!
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There are 3 ways to handle a problem like this:\n\n1.  ignore it.  If it's minor, this might be the best option.  There are no consequences for ignoring, except the behavior may continue.\n\n2.  Speak up about it.  You have your choice of speaking directly to your coworker, or to your boss.  The risk of speaking to your coworker is they may become offended and the behavior escalate.  It's best to find a quiet time to speak to them.  If this doesn't work or you feel you can't confront them, speak to your boss.  If it's your boss causing the problem, speak to their supervisor.  I would do everything possible to resolve the situation without involving lawyers.  Using the law should be a last resort.\n\n3.  Quit and find another job.  Use this tactic if you can't resolve the situtation, or if you can find a better job.  Remember that you might want to use this position as a reference, so don't burn any bridges on the way.
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Are you hotter than them? Maybe it's jealousy. Do you actually do a better job than them other than the few mistakes you made? Maybe they are intimidated. Its sounds like they are immature. I'm not sure why this job is so valuable to both of you but maybe you could consider transferring to another department? Maybe contact your human resources or equal opportunity section, if you have one, to see if they have any advice. If not then maybe mediation is the only option. Tell your boss and the other two that its not a healthy work environment and you think production in the office would improve drastically if something were to change...maybe more solo projects or moving cubicles to allow a little more privacy. It can be hard confronting superiors but what it sounds like is they are threatened that you might outshine them, my best advice is to keep doing your best, eventually you will get recognized and hopefully their bad attitudes will get recognized too (in a not so good sort of way)... GOOD LUCK!!