How will u help a person suffering form social phobia????
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I have this! I also have Painic disorder with Agorabia.  "fear of being in public".... Be understanding to them... One step at a time. When with this person talk with them the whole time. Dont leave their side, until they tell you they are ok. When they tell you they want to leave now, it means NOW, not 5 min. from now, but NOW!!! Sometimes holding their hand will help. Show them that they are with you, and that no one will try anything, or say anything unless you want them too.  Never get mad at them, even if you dont understand. The more you know the more you'll understand. The more you understand the more you can help them.
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Firstly be very careful who you try to speak with, second try speaking with your mouth closed, it might not help your shyness but it sure as hell will be a fun turn at a party!
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Some people think scaring someone wokrs, but it doesnt really(at least not for me), and they say to drink water..but that does not help either. You need to hold your breath as long as you can(dont pass yourself out) and as many times as possible, and it should go away. : )
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Hey if u want to talk-- msg me and we can chat .\n\nHope u can survive the scared thoughts , do let us know will definately help if we can
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Honestly there is no easy fix for this. You just have to put yourself in a situation where you have to talk. If you are really that uncomfortable with it and you are in school consider taking the dreaded speech class. It will force you to get up and talk in front of people. The best way to get over a fear like this is to tackle it. Hope that this helps and I wish you luck!
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See a counsellor who knows how to help you become desensitized to your fear of flying.   A good counsellor will know how to work with you.   Phobias are really quite common and can be cured without medication or booze.  When you are looking for a counselor, ask what is their experience with helping people get rid of phobias.  It will probably take about three sessions.  Then go and enjoy your trip.
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My suggestion to you is tht take part in activities,being lonely & just thinking abt it will not help u in anyway so make frnds or if u have c tht u meet them daily for somtime go for gym or look out for job or activity tht keeps u busy all the day.Try to b active go for morning walks or play interesting game or u have sister sit down with her & discuss this she also may b in a state to help u to deal with it. U r not deep in relation with people tht is not a justified reason for u to b depress . try to understand tht there is time & situation for every thing to happen u will get things but b bold to face everything
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MY FRIEND UNLESS U TELL SOMEONE WHAT UR PROBLEM IS HOW R U GOING TO SOLVE IT?LIVING WITH A PROBLEM THAT HAUNTS U LIFETIME IS VERY TOUGH.EITHER U CAN TALK WITH A COUNCILER/A PSYCHARTIST OR U TELL IT UR CLOSEST FRIEND. IF U FEEL LIKE U WONT BE ABLE TO MAKE IT FACE TO FACE U MAY MAIL ME(helenlisse@yahoo.com). LET ME TRY IF I CAN BE OF ANY HELP COS SOMETIMES U GET A BETTER PRESPECTIVE TALKING TO FACELESS FRIENDS
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I feel sorry for your anxiety caused by your phobia and for the other people writing about their phobias in your answer column. I to have suffered with many different phobias; as a child it was injections (both dentists and doctors), and Dogs; now it is the feeling of fear itself that I fear. (Because of years of panic attacks)\n\nI can tell you what helps, if you need to take an oral pill (tranquilizer) if you are really bad (one every night before going to bed for a short time) or (half an hour before you need to go to the doctor for an appointment involving an injection). \n*However this will not teach you too become brave or help you cope with your underlining fear which has become a phobia. \n\nI suggest you learn to relax through different sources.\n\nFirstly you can do positive self talk as your fear comes from negative thoughts causing you to have a chemical release in the brain which in turn causes the physical sensations of heart racing, sweating, feelings of faintness, fear, anxiety, nausea, light headedness, numbness, and so on…..oh yeah feelings of unreality is another one.\n\nNext learn relaxation or meditation either through physical participation in yoga classes or by listening to these sorts of cd, tape, or videos. There are hypnotic and relaxation available through JB Hi Fi stores designed to relax and strengthen your subconscious.  Cost $22 on average per item.\n\nYou can see a professional hypnotist or a physiatrist who will help you work you through your fear in a safe non threatening environment.  However this option is the most expensive and time consuming because it takes many sessions and time to feel you can trust or open up fully to another person.\n\n\n\n*If you use drugs as a crutch you can become addicted and that would start a whole new problem. \nP.S. the side affects of many tranquilizer drugs are feelings of anxiety and panic which you don’t want anyway.\n\n*The body is affected the same with legal and illicit drugs (downers or relaxants) like tranquillizers, sleeping pills or (marijuana, heroin, and alcohol) \n*Stimulants which are (speed, & cocaine) (cigarettes = nicotine), (tea & coffee =caffeine), and (ice & ecstasy which is often a combination of both stimulants and relaxants). \n*Cigarettes, Alcohol, and Marijuana are most accepted by the general public however they cause the most disease related deaths. Through internal organ diseases, like *Cancers and Blood clots (causing amputations, strokes and heart attacks) \n*Lung diseases from asthma, bronchitis, emphysema, and cancer.  \n*Liver diseases from damage trying to alienate the body of toxic poisons and chemicals associated with medications and alcohol over years. \n*Hepatitis, sclerosis, and cancers of the liver.  \n*Marijuana has a chemical THC which our body has receptor in our brain and we also store for long periods in our blood and fat cells; (up to one month each time you smoke just one joint). Regular bong smokers and users will cause many different chronic health problems including lung disease (as the same toxic chemicals are in tobacco and marijuana excepting nicotine which is a stimulant) mental health suffers with paranoia, anxiety, fear, loss of memory, loss of appetite or increased appetite for sweets, loss of motivation, poor health, poor sleeping patterns and a dependency to use marijuana to get to sleep. Personal hygiene problems like sweating, bad breath and rotting teeth and the best for last you only feel mellow for a short time the rest of the time you are short tempered and unbearable to be around.\n*All drugs both legal and illicit have one thing in common the same side affects which is anxiety and withdrawal symptoms.
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Socialization.  The shy person must try to stablish conversations with people how like to do the same things for example, you like to read, you must visit a library and start talking with the employers then compare books with someone, ask for references...if you like shopping, ask for details of what you are going to buy...if you are in a party talk about the person how invite you but with others person in the party, avoid answers like yes or no...try to be more detailed in the conversation...I used to be shy and nobody can believe me...good luck, start talking
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Hi there!\n\nI was terribly shy all through elementary school, middle school and high school. I think the main causes for mine were partly it was my personality, but also we moved alot, my dad was in military and i suffered some serious abuse from a young age...\n\nThese are some things that helped me and I hope they help you. First, I forced myself to take a public speaking class in high school and to get a job dealing with the public. It was very scary at the time and hard, but it did help me to start overcoming the shyness. Don't stay away from social situations, place yourself in them so you get used to talking, socializing etc...\n\nDon't think you are weird or strange for being so shy. Many teenagers and grownups as well suffer from shyness to some extent. Mainly it is caused because we want to be liked, want to say the right thing and are afraid we won't. I know when i was a teenager i was very afraid of boys because i didn't know what to talk to them about, when i finally started talking to them i found out they weren't that much different from the girls i was talking too. As you get older, you tend to lose some of the shyness, because you are working, maturing, extending your experiences and with confidence developed out of those situations you lose that insecurity. \n\nI know that you must have hope. If you had seen how shy i was at your age (I couldn't even go to a store and make a purchase that is how bad it was). I never looked anyone in the eye, etc...And now I am 49 years old, never meet a stranger and a people person! \n\nMy friends say that people gravitate towards me and everyone likes me. You know why? Because i always remember how it felt to feel uncomfortable, shy and out of control/insecure - those feelings have made me an empathetic person and i try to put people at ease when we meet. I give them a big smile, am friendly, ask questions about them to show i am interested in them and this makes them feel good! So use your shyness as a tool. First, remember that we are all insecure and scared in certain situations - I mean how many people do you know that hate public speaking? We all want to be accepted and liked and then just get out there and take chances and try to turn your shyness around - don't worry only about you try to focus on the other person and make them feel at ease...see what happens!\nIdentify the reasons you think you are shy and wk on changing them as well...\nDon't give up you sound like a great person and it takes time.\n\nsincerely,\nalaska friend
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A friend maybe just what she needs,if you feel you want to be nice and help ,by all means talk to her.\ndont be afraid of that ,just be normal and yourself,say you want to understand and be of help.\nthe best advice always is to point out the pleasures of being alive and the oppertunities still awaiting.\n bad feelings are not permanent ,
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How about anything that will put you in social situations. Im not saying that to be mean, Im just saying that shyness is not something you need to just live with. Break free of it. I was extremely shy just a few years ago. I overcame this by becoming an xray tech. I know its not a glamorous job, but I it has helped. When you are around people screaming in pain all day long, the last thing on your mind is saying the wrong thing. I can talk freely to anyone now. Think about it.
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if your feeling a bit apprehensive but would still like to me them, make sure you bring a friend along or meet in a public place like a restaurant or cafe. you could even get a friend to ring you at a certain time so that if things are not going well you can get out of the situation. always make sure  someone you know, knows where you are going to be. you can never be too careful with someone you dont know well. good luck...
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Heres a list od phobia's.... Maybe reading this will help.. Maybe showing her that its just in her head. I know its hard cause I have more than 10 phobia's myself.. TRying to help someone is a great thing, it takes time... Maybe try getting her to take a weight gainer when she does eat, and make sure that she is eating healthy foods...\n\nA-\nAblutophobia- Fear of washing or bathing.\nAcarophobia- Fear of itching or of the insects that cause itching.\nAcerophobia- Fear of sourness.\nAchluophobia- Fear of darkness.\nAcousticophobia- Fear of noise.\nAcrophobia- Fear of heights.\nAerophobia- Fear of drafts, air swallowing, or airbourne noxious substances.\nAeroacrophobia- Fear of open high places.\nAeronausiphobia- Fear of vomiting secondary to airsickness.\nAgateophobia- Fear of insanity.\nAgliophobia- Fear of pain.\nAgoraphobia- Fear of open spaces or of being in crowded, public places like markets. Fear of leaving a safe place.\nAgraphobia- Fear of sexual abuse.\nAgrizoophobia- Fear of wild animals.\nAgyrophobia- Fear of streets or crossing the street.\nAichmophobia- Fear of needles or pointed objects.\nAilurophobia- Fear of cats.\nAlbuminurophobia- Fear of kidney disease.\nAlektorophobia- Fear of chickens.\nAlgophobia- Fear of pain.\nAlliumphobia- Fear of garlic.\nAllodoxaphobia- Fear of opinions.\nAltophobia- Fear of heights.\nAmathophobia- Fear of dust.\nAmaxophobia- Fear of riding in a car.\nAmbulophobia- Fear of walking.\nAmnesiphobia- Fear of amnesia.\nAmychophobia- Fear of scratches or being scratched.\nAnablephobia- Fear of looking up.\nAncraophobia- Fear of wind. (Anemophobia)\nAndrophobia- Fear of men.\nAnemophobia- Fear of air drafts or wind.(Ancraophobia) \nAnginophobia- Fear of angina, choking or narrowness.\nAnglophobia- Fear of England or English culture, etc.\nAngrophobia - Fear of anger or of becoming angry.\nAnkylophobia- Fear of immobility of a joint.\nAnthrophobia or Anthophobia- Fear of flowers.\nAnthropophobia- Fear of people or society.\nAntlophobia- Fear of floods.\nAnuptaphobia- Fear of staying single.\nApeirophobia- Fear of infinity.\nAphenphosmphobia- Fear of being touched. (Haphephobia)\nApiphobia- Fear of bees.\nApotemnophobia- Fear of persons with amputations.\nArachibutyrophobia- Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of the mouth.\nArachnephobia or Arachnophobia- Fear of spiders.\nArithmophobia- Fear of numbers.\nArrhenphobia- Fear of men.\nArsonphobia- Fear of fire.\nAsthenophobia- Fear of fainting or weakness.\nAstraphobia or Astrapophobia- Fear of thunder and lightning.(Ceraunophobia, Keraunophobia)\nAstrophobia- Fear of stars or celestial space.\nAsymmetriphobia- Fear of asymmetrical things.\nAtaxiophobia- Fear of ataxia. (muscular incoordination)\nAtaxophobia- Fear of disorder or untidiness.\nAtelophobia- Fear of imperfection.\nAtephobia- Fear of ruin or ruins.\nAthazagoraphobia- Fear of being forgotton or ignored or forgetting.\nAtomosophobia- Fear of atomic explosions.\nAtychiphobia- Fear of failure.\nAulophobia- Fear of flutes.\nAurophobia- Fear of gold.\nAuroraphobia- Fear of Northern lights.\nAutodysomophobia- Fear of one that has a vile odor.\nAutomatonophobia- Fear of ventriloquist's dummies, animatronic creatures, wax statues - anything that falsly represents a sentient being.\nAutomysophobia- Fear of being dirty.\nAutophobia- Fear of being alone or of oneself.\nAviophobia or Aviatophobia- Fear of flying.\n\n\nB-\nA B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z | Top \nBacillophobia- Fear of microbes.\nBacteriophobia- Fear of bacteria.\nBallistophobia- Fear of missiles or bullets.\nBolshephobia- Fear of Bolsheviks.\nBarophobia- Fear of gravity.\nBasophobia or Basiphobia- Inability to stand. Fear of walking or falling.\nBathmophobia- Fear of stairs or steep slopes.\nBathophobia- Fear of depth.\nBatophobia- Fear of heights or being close to high buildings.\nBatrachophobia- Fear of amphibians, such as frogs, newts, salamanders, etc.\nBelonephobia- Fear of pins and n
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I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
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i had this fear myself.  i took a public speaking class from a university.  speaking in front of small groups, then building up to larger groups really helped build my confidence.  speaking about something i was truly passionate about helped as well.  i constantly had to force myself to speak at some sort of public function to overcome this fear.  now i emcee large events with ease, because i have done it over and over.   if that doesn't help him, he actually may need to seek help from a professional for possible social anxity disorder.