i wanna have sex with my boyfriend but he doesn't wanna do it with me. why not???
93569
You seem to me to be a confused young lady. You want the guy b/c you feel threatened by other girls that they may makke the first move and take him from you. Young men say alot of things in front of peers to act macho that they wouldn't try alone.He may say to his buddies, "I would really like to see her naked", but in reality he would be scared or embarrassed. Given your age, I would advise you to hold off on offering anyone sex just yet. Especially since it seems like it is a game to you to try to win the boy over from another girl. You don't "HAVE TO" have sex because "EVERYONE" is doing it. Most young adults who say they are really aren't. Please save yourself for someone who truly, deeply cares and respects you b/c once you lose it, it is gone.
335685
Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
567891
if ur not ready then dont do it! coz u should be aware of the cosequences that would happen if ever you will get involved into sex and if he loves you then he will respect ur decision and wait for the right time..
1178976
His problem is that he cannot be honest with you, he wants sex, if you don't give it to him he'll probably leave you.  After you give it to him, he'll probably leave you anyway, so unless YOU want to have sex with him, let him go.
384910
you got me confused,but I think I know what you mean. U wanna do it, but you have regrets (conscience). I personally think your too young, so wait on it. U mentioned you both respect each other and that makes the relationship reasonable. Why don't you both wait. Sex will always be there and in high school you can't turn the clock backwards to make things right.
144026
Honey, if he'd not willing to wait. Then he dosen't love you and respect you. Remember you are a woman no matter what anyone tells you, sex dose not make you anymore a woman that what you are right now. Be smart, kick snoopy to the grib.
438891
not at all...i cant believe that u know him that well to see if you are ready and a question...do u think your ready?? and if not then why are you letting him talk you into this?...i didn't have sex wit my boyfriend until a good 6 months into it...but then again it may have been taken too slow..but 2 months is def. to fast...good luck
1168116
All males want it.  If they have never done it before they may be afraid to ask.  The real question is do you really want to do it????  Look at all of the pros and cons and whatever else remember SAFE SEX.  If the thought of AIDS, SYPHILIS, GONORRHEA, CLAP, and all of the other STD's out there don't scare you enough to wait until you really really know your boyfriend then go ahead.  Once you do it, you can't take it back.
605168
sex, for me, is a very sacred thing.it's only done when u both love each other.actually, there were many times that i & my boyfriend were together.i'm a female & as myself, when i'm with my boyfriend, i just feel like being with him.i don't care where we go or what we do.i don't even care if we don't have money to spend when we're together.what matters to me most is the time we're together, coz this soon will become memories bet.us, & it's healthy.even if he's been my boyfriend for about 3 yrs.,i don't invite him to make love.i just wait for him to say it 1st.when he does, then we do it..maybe u talk to ur gf about this issue.tell her that making love is with someone u love is normal.but make her understand that it's not always like that.it's not even the most basis of love.i mean it's a matter of showing love in other ways like showing u care for the person u love.tell her that the what makes a relationship bet.two people stronger are the memories u are together, & i don't mean having sex all the time.it's more than that.i know u know what i mean.sex is only for physical aspect, but the showing of the person that u care for him a lot is something most valuable & priceless.it's something not all can offer, especially when it's true.
1109723
He might want you to, and maybe even expect you to, but you are not obligated.  If you want to do it, then that's fine.\nBut if you wait to have sex until you are in a committed relationship, then it will be much easier.  You and your husband could talk about these things and know exactly what each other expects.  And you will probably want to do it if you love him and that's what he enjoys.
630446
Explain to your boyfriend how intense your feelings for him are. My guess is he feels the same way that you do. Trust me if they guy loves you and you and him are both ready for sex hes not gonna turn down an oppurtunity...or u 2 could take a road trip to a snowy area and have sex there...tht could always work 2 :)
990533
He's gay.  Just kidding.  Does he know that you want to?  Maybe he is scared because he isn't sure if thats what you want and he doesn't want to lose you.  You should ask him WHY don't we have sex.  Start the conversation, you never know what you'll find out until you try.  Good luck.
194846
From what I can see he wants you for sex only. and seeing as you don't like sex why would your consider having sex with a guy like this? This is a guy wants sex not a relationship. Stay clear and forget this guy. I hope you can find a guy that does like sex either. Good luck
414193
If your boyfriend is used to having sex with you, and you stop giving him sex, he will probably leave.  Maybe you should try asking him out on dates since he isn't doing it, or just breakup since you don't seem very happy.  Maybe the 3rd time will be the charm.  (It took me 5 tries to find the right one)
21148
well have you had sex before and now its stopped if so maybe he wants to wait till you get married or maybe hes cheating or maybe he doesnt think you enjoy it just talk to him ask him why he doesnt want to
440000
If you feel you're not ready, don't let the feelings of 'loss' cloud the way you actually feel. If you're being pressured to have sex when you're not ready for it, and he's leaving you because he disrespects your choice, he's not ready for someone like you! It might hurt now...but if having sex with you is the ONLY reason he wants to be with you, sorry, dear girl, but there's probably someone out there who will treat you with at least the same respect that you have for yourself.
92013
In a guys point of view. Just relax, tell him No. I guy wouldn't force you to do it if you tell him NO. Don't be sad, guys are just like that, its a biological thing. Even guys in a seminary are having a hard time controlling themselves. Honestly speaking I went thru the same problem, I had a girlfriend who did not want to have sex. And that's fine with me. She said no and I respected her. But I still tried. Boys will always try, and you should only say No. If he doesn't agree then dump him, he doesn't love you or care for you if he forces you to do it with him.