When the love turn into illusion, how can we forget it and try to find some new?
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just give your self things to do to let time go by so that you want half to think about this person. after you do that you should be able to look at other people and know that there is someone else out there for you..\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!
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Create new brighter memories with someone else or you alone.\nDo something that is the real "end", final step, the last door or makes you feel that way - send back their stuff or a present they gave you, say the last goodbye, bon voyage.\nStart smth new (a new sport, travel,attend a painting class)\nTalk about it.\n...and as the people before me answered, give it some time. \nI think it was Oscar Wild who said that when you love yourself, you are happily in love for your whole life...
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there is no replacement for love. its unique and nothing can be substituted for it. however here's some thing that might be handy- \n'My heart skips a beat at the thought of you'
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No.  A new love can easily fix it.  New interests and pastimes can make you forget the old love.  What you take from an experience that broke your heart is: Greater knowledge of who you are, what you want in a partner, and how you deserve to be treated.  Move on---best wishes!
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:) forgiveness. it is not gonna be easy. but if you love him, it is possible. concentrate on your own life, live your life beautifully and earn back all the confidence, trust through yourself before you try work things out with him again. you definitely need time to make it happen. and if you were to always remind yourself about that lie, you'll never get over it because you have made it a part of your life. I've experienced unfaithfulness of my boyfriend, it happened about half a yr ago but everytime i think of it or when i see the girl, i can feel the hurt so fresh. it won't be healed fast but i believe that you have to start with forgiveness then only you can try forget. don't remind yourself about it, when the thought comes, push it aside. you don't need to familiarise it to help you to forget.
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cheer up shinny star,shit happens but we must mourn our losses,dust ourselves up and move on with our lives.a wise person once told me that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all,if it was really meant to be he'll be back,but if it's not dry those tears and brace yourself cause love is hard babie.4yrs is a long time,take your time to heal don't jump into anything on the rebound,forgive yourself cause you're blaming yourself.life goes on and that dreadful feeling will fade away with time,most importantly,forgive urself
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Depends on the person.  Some people can brush of feelings like turning off a lightswitch.  Other people can't.  Work through your emotions but make sure you get out and meet new people and move on with your life.  Don't get hung up on what might have been.  It's nice to think It would have been nice if... but thinking too much, dwelling on it too much only consumes yourself with doubt and fears that you will never find something like it again.
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The point is most of us don't know we are in love or we  understand it too late! The reason for getting heart-broken is that we get used to some one so much and for such a long time that it's so hard to imagine life without that person. I always relate this to losing some one because of death.I believe that both sutuations are the same. We feel lost without that beloved person and it's hard to accept you won't hear the voice, you won't see the face or you won't see that person any more. The duration depends totally on you. You will eventually forget it but it's easier if you find some hobby or meet new people and totally be willing to forget.
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lol, chill out, you'll find better love, i just went through something kinda like that, and it hurt at first, but you will gain confidence by saying no.
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You will never forget him.  Right now it hurts but everyday it will hurt less and less.  You won't think of him as often.  And one day you will meet a man that seems to have walked out of your dreams and when that happens you won't remember the name of the one that hurt.
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Here's the thing. When you fall in love with someone, there is no getting rid of them or forgetting them. They will always be there in your head. Now yes you do get over the fact that it hurts eventually, but you never forget them. Love is that special thing that when you share it with someone it essentially is always there. \n\nNow i know that everyone will tell you things like: relax, just get over it, take a bath, read a book, or go to God. More or less you just have to figure it out on your own regardless of what people will say here. Because dealing with heartache, its a natural part of life, its the bad side effect of love. But if i was to offer my best advice, i would say that you should chalk it up to experience. Count it as a learning experience, so every time you start to think about him just think about what you learned from the situation, how it will make you a stronger person, and how it will help you in the future. Love is a big part of everyone's life, and it shouldn't be forgotten, even when its bad. Best of luck in your hard times...
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1st off, what what is that make to forget the someone you "truly" loved. I you love someone, truly, u should make adjustment acc. to 'em. Well! think about what was that, that made you seperate. \nDo not remember the good times u've spend, insted thing about the bad time u'll had. This how, his absence has helped you.\nAnd ofcouse you wont forget some you loved for all these year, in a sec. you need time. \nMake new frnd, who have nothing to do wiht your relations. Be creative, spend more time with people who are funny!
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The hurt never goes away... sometimes if your lucky it will ease.. but there will always be a song, a voice, a scent..etc.. that will remind you of your lost love... the wounds may ease but the scars upon ones heart never heals.
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Sometimes people take a while to show their true colors and you realize you fell in love with an illusion.
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Read Plato's Symposium for a better understanding of love. Whatever it is, love is often nothing.
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Try not to dwell on it. The more you spend time thinking about it the worse the situation will become. Loving someone doesn't always mean being with them so be as supportive to him/her as possible without becoming more emotionally involved. Focus on other aspects of your life that get you out of the house and spend time with other friends. It won't be easy to get over not having your love returned in the way you would like but you'll have to or you might risk losing your best friend.
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What won't we humans do for love?  Think about this, love can be transitory sometimes and when we find love we want to hold onto it with both hands and never let go...because what if it went away?  \n\nI'm sure most of us have known "love" in one form or another and I think I'm correct in assuming that a lot of us have had that love taken away.  Whether a relationship ends, we loose a friend, family member or even a pet.  Sometimes love  just goes away.  So when we find it we don't want to loose it and because these feelings are so strong within us it can bring out the best and worst in our behavior.\n\nSo love in any shape or form is a glorious thing but without it in our lives it's truly a great tragedy.