How can u tell if a guy cares when he doesn't show it, and is controlling, but acts as if he does not care .
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The problem with some guys is, they don't like to acknowledge the fact that they are in love and are in every way normal. Some of them prefer to be "discreet" about it - afraid that they might be the butt of jokes with their other guy friends and because of that, sometimes it's hard to read their feelings...\n\nBut sincerely, I can tell you that he likes you. But he just doesn't know how to show it. You can dump him, that's easier said than done. But if you choose to have a relationship with him, you have to ask yourself this question: will he change and perhaps show his love for you? Or will he remain the same, and mask his love behind his "cool-ness"? If you can answer that, you're done.
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If he doesn't seem interested in you, tries to avoid eye contact, starts using different aftershave, spends less time with you, starts making or receiving mysterious phone calls.  There are so many different things, but if you really want to find out, maybe you should try following him.
622358
There are guys that are defined as Service To Self personality.  They care more for themself.  If you want a response from a guy that cares, find one that likes doing things for others.  He looks beyond himself first.  A good sign.
55951
Usually when a guy acts like this it is either because he has a guilty conscience or the woman is giving him reason to believe something may be going on like acting flirtatious with other men or even by not being as caring towards him.  If this has been a recent change in his behavior and you are not doing anything that could explain his actions, I would be suspicious of what he is doing.  I hope that's not the case and that it is simply a misunderstanding that will be worked out.  If he has always been this way, it may just be his personality or he may have had some bad relationships before you.  I would suggest changing your behavior to see if he changes.  You won't be able to change him but by changing your own behavior (in a positive way), you can elicit a better response from him.
111989
If it turns him off, then you don't need him.  Someone who cares about you isn't going to let that get in the way of how they really feel about you.  If he came to you with the same problem, would you feel any different twords him?
796682
if he does not believe you then you have problems --- you dont have to prove to him --- he has to prove to you how much he cares
461521
u just know that is how.... there is no way of telling but if he is mean or runs around on you then it is obvious that there is a problam.... remember actions speak louder than words.
408068
No offence, but don't their advice. You'll know when he doesn't show as much interest in you and when he starts acting different with you. If you think he's cheating, but he's acting the same, get advice from a friend or family member who know them a little.
570742
Dont ever tell a guy how you feel it just gives him the upper hand.  Next time your around that way stop in to ask his oppion about something you want to do. Maybe a tat. You can tell if he wants to talk or if he just blows you off.
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so why does it matter he told you right? so that means he's honest and caring... then he cried and told you sorry, caring and emotional. and he shows signs of regert ! are you complaining? you porably have an amazing man who was honest caring and sincere you are say how can i forgive him???? the trust oh okay well he stoped her didnt he? yeah exactly! he did so now you know that he wont go out and cheat on you!  so whats the problem here?
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Its not selfish to let someone know what you want or feel. Just don't get upset if he doesn't agree with you.\n\nfrom your question I don't know if he is the type of guy that is always taking off with his friends or he spends most of his free time with you, that's something to consider also
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there are very visible signs like does  stay out or work later than usual...constantly,is he secretive on the phone, has he lost interest in sex,is there money unexplained and missing,is there a strange scent on him like dial soap after 18hrs of working,or cologne that you don't wear,is he hangin with the guys alot.  ya'll really need to go to a counselor or your pastor and discuss this
643251
When he pulls away emotionally and physically, doesn't answer the phone when he normally would, starts arguments over small things or nothing at all and then leaves for a while. When he doesn't want to do things that he would normally do (hold hand/cuddle), gets defensive/evasive when you ask where he has been or what he been doing while out, who he talks to, your feelings. More often than not your gut is right, if something feels wrong it usually is.
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when he/she doesnt care about your opinion or what your going thru,your wants/likes/dislikes/needs etc., or/and especially when she/he only comes around when he/she wants/needs something and knows YOU will give it up cuz You into him/her.
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I don't think a boyfriend is going to care.\n\nBut if you don't want to do that stuff, then keep it quiet, or he might expect you to do it.
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Just be yourself and if he doesn't pay attention to you, then it's his loss. Being someone that you're not to get a guy's attention is not a wise thing to do, because then he really doesn't like YOU.
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Don't Know, ask the guy himself. only him can really give the main reason for not showing his emotion. maybe his afraid you might break his heart or you might take him for a ride if he shows you how he really feels about you. he just scare, doesn't wanna get hurt