what to say to a person who is diagnosed with cancer?
16165
["“I'm not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.”", "“I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this.”", '“How are you doing?”', "“If you would like to talk about it, I'm here.”", '“Please let me know how I can help.”', "“I'll keep you in my thoughts.”"]
174262
['1) “Talk to me about it.” It helps to offer a lending ear to someone who wants to chat. ... ', "2) “It's okay to be sad.” ... ", "3) “I'm here with you.” ... ", "4) “I'm here to listen.” ... ", "5) “Let's solve this together.” ... ", '6) “Call me when you want to talk.” ... ', '7) “The same thing has happened to me.” ... ', "8) “Don't be afraid to seek help.”"]
675112
['What can I do to help?', 'What do you need from me?', 'You are strong. I believe in you.', 'Do you want to meet up?', 'Would you like to talk about it?', 'I understand how you must be feeling. ... ', "I'm so sorry. ... ", 'How are you feeling?']
151787
You'll be fine! Instead say: I'm so sorry to hear that. What a shock for you. I know that there have been a lot of improvements in breast cancer treatments. (Try to stay away from the word 'progress' because it is used in such a confusing way in cancer services – disease 'progressing,' for example.)
28935
['Thinking of you during your difficult time. ... ', "I am so sorry you're going through this. ... ", 'Sending all of our love and support your way.']
686475
['Thank you for telling me about your illness. I know it must be difficult to share this with people.', "This is so hard. I wish this wasn't happening to you.", "I'm here in any way you need me. ... ", 'How are you holding up? ... ', 'Thank you for all you have done for me. ... ', 'I love you.']
1092079
['Listen to what your loved one is really saying. ... ', "Remember that it's not your fault. ... ", 'Be an advocate for your loved one. ... ', "Make sure the patient's physical needs are being adequately met."]
652621
['"I love you so much."', '"Thank you for teaching me...."', '"I will never forget when...."', '"My favorite memory we share....."', '"I\'m sorry for....."', '"I hope you\'ll forgive me for....."', '"It sounds like you\'re seeing...."', '"It sounds like you\'re hearing...."']
577561
['Answer the Question. ... ', "Don't Ramble or Go Off Subject. ... ", 'Be Specific About Your Symptoms and Limitations. ... ', 'Be Ready to Explain Gaps in Your Medical History. ... ', 'Be Prepared to Explain “Bad” Facts. ... ', 'Paint a Picture of Your Daily Living. ... ', "Don't Be Embarrassed. ... ", "Be Honest and Don't Exaggerate."]
282011
["'It's not that bad'", "'Things will get better'", "'How could you be so selfish?'"]
235104
['Can I help by doing x y or z? ... ', 'This is a temporary-yet-painful situation. ... ', 'It IS hard to imagine a way out of this mess. ... ', "I'm here to listen whenever you need me. ... ", "I'm so glad we're friends. ... ", "I'm sorry you have to go through this."]
90004
["13. ”I'm here for you.” ... ", '“You are so strong.” ... ', '“Today was a really tough day.” ... ', "“I've been thinking of you.” ... ", "“I'm only a phone call away.” ... ", '“I have no words to express my sadness.”']
1177316
Talk to your loved one and ask if this would frustrate them, if so talk about how else you can explain your respect for them. Instead, do say: “I wasn't sure what to say but I just wanted to let you know I care/I'm here for you".
772094
['I want to help you. What night can I drop a dinner off for you?', "I can't imagine how you must feel. I'm always here to talk if you need me.", "You're handling this with so much courage and strength. ... ", "I'm thinking of you.", 'I know someone whose child also has/had cancer.']
199311
If you are responding anyway, about another matter, you could say “I hope you and yours are well too.” If it is someone you feel closer to, and want to talk about any issues in your life, you could offer a little information. “Fine, just fine. Thank you for asking.” “And, how are Martha and the kids?”
184392
Do say – “It's good to see you.” Let them know you have been thinking of them. At a loss for words – It's okay to say, “Mary, I don't know what to say or do, but I am here and I care about you.” Listen – If the person talks about being anxious, listen quietly. Don't try to change the subject or silence the person.
602137
['Encourage honesty. ... ', 'Help them put their feelings into words. ... ', 'Legitimize their feelings. ... ', 'Offer support. ... ', 'Keep yourself healthy. ... ', 'Keep the details in check. ... ', 'Get help.']