My 8-year-old son has regressed in his potty training. He was fully potty trained when he was 4 or 5, then slowly stopped. Now he won't use the bathroom at all.   He's in second grade and has to wear diapers to school. Even kids making fun of him at school didn't push him to try to potty train again. We have seen doctors, specialists and a therapist. Nothing has helped.   The only thing the specialist did was put him in hospital and clean his intestines of all poop by doing a complete flush out of his system. The doctors just said he was being lazy and they couldn't find anything wrong in x-rays either. We even had him tested for autism and ADHD, but he doesn't have anything.  My son says he can't help it, but the doctors keep telling me that nothing was wrong with him. Punishment doesn't work. Reward charts and bribery don't do anything.  I'm going crazy. I just want him out of diapers already. He's going into 3rd grade soon. Is he ever going to be out of diapers? Is there a reason why he does it?  Another thing that the doctors ignore is how many times a day he poops and the fact his poop looks like baby poop. It doesn't come out as turds or logs.
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My 12 year old daughter has been dealing with retentive encopresis since age 6. She avoids going to the toilet at all. This results in soiling and the production of an amazing huge toilet-clogging log-like object every week. We have been trying for years to get her to talk about this, but when we do talk about this, the response is ALWAYS "I don't know" despite what her pedi, GI doc and psychologist tried to do or suggested we do to get her to talk about it. We switched psychologists last year after a year of not talking about this, no luck.  We have tried so many treatment plans since diagnosis, specifically tailored to her, such as enemas, scheduled toilet sittings, rewards, consequences, psychologist, etc. she just keeps holding it in. Right before summer, her pedi and the GI doc laid out a clear treatment plan of laxatives, regular bathroom visits, and a rewards program. She did take the Miralax (2 table spoons) but she just kept holding it in and soiling her pants. She avoided going to the toilet. I made her stay at the toilet and told her "if you poop, I will buy you XYZ" (something she REALLY wants)" you can do XYZ only after you poop" and not letting her do things "you can't do XYZ until you poop" and XYZ would be something she LOVES to do. I wouldn't let her leave the toilet until she pooped, so she sat there for hours, no luck. When school started, she refuses to take the Miralax.  Now we laid out a new treatment plan. We TRIED to involve her, the response is again "I don't know." She is supposed to take an enema every morning and sit on the toilet, but she fights daily about taking it. When she does take it, she holds it in and won't sit on the toilet. There is also a diet plan she refuses to follow. She is not supposed to drink dairy, but drinks milk at school. Now the past 2 weeks she refused all treatment which we fight daily about. She refuses to sit on the toilet, no matter what we try. 2 years ago we tried ucanpooptoo, didn't help.  We asked her why she holds it in. Does pooping hurt? Does it scare you to poop? Does it feel good to hold it in? The answer is always "I don't know" and you can question her for hours and hear "I don't know". We explained to her digestion and she knows why she needs to poop. We ruled out any physiological reasons for retention. Luckily her friends don't notice, but one day her friends might smell her soiling, and I talked to her about this, how it would affect, boys , high school, etc. Her response was "I don't know" and she would not talk about this.  Does anybody have suggestions how to get her to start pooping in the toilet regularly?
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My daughter is potty trained during the day and is currently sleeps with pull-up. For the past few nights she has been peeing so much that she wets her bed. We have tried to restrict her liquid intake before bedtime, but that doesn't seem to have helped. Please help!
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In the first book, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone, just before the Sorting ceremony, all the first years were quite terrified. No one had any idea what was going to follow (even Ron who came from a wizarding family). Why is this?  The ceremony itself is not a secret since most of the wizards in England went through it. Even if there is an unofficial rule not to talk about it, at least some of the kids would probably have heard about it and spread the news.
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I have just moved into a new apartment and I found the toilet does not have a very powerful flush. After thoroughly cleaning the entire toilet – inside and out –, checking the water valve is fully open, and tank water level is correct, I still found the toilet to not flush properly.  I believe I have traced the issue to grime and dirt under the toilet rim that must be clogging the rim jets. I tried a few different household cleaners with a toilet brush as well as pouring vinegar through the overflow tube. I have removed quite a bit of the dirt; however, about 35% of the toilet rim still does not provide water when the toilet is flushed.  As many online guides suggest, I tried to use a mirror to look under the rim of the toilet and a wire to clean out the jet holes. However, the space between the bowl and the rim is quite narrow and I am unable to see any jet holes under the rim even when using a good mirror and flashlight. I do see a lot of dirt however and I cannot seem to get rid of it. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to restore full flushing to the toilet despite the hard to reach area under the rim? Is it possible that this toilet does not have any flush jets?
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Here's what I remember:  The boy is 5 years old, and has been for some time, because there's a bit in which he recalls turning 5 (celebrating his 5th birthday) many different times  There's a robot nanny in the apartment with him that he learned to disable so that he can hang out with the girl, who he isn't supposed to know. (In my mind the nanny bears somewhat of a resemblance to Muthr from the Wondla series... however I definitely read this story well before reading Wondla)  There's a neighbor girl who teaches him to read (I think she's like 9), and when they first meet she asks how old he is (5 is the last age at which growth/development can be successfully (and safely?) suspended) and he lies, saying that he's 6, but doesn't know why he does.  When a child whose aging process has been stopped learns how to read, they begin aging normally again, so the parents don't want them to learn to read.  The children who have stopped aging are kept apart from other children who grow normally-- they have separate playgrounds and the like  The injection/serum used to halt the aging process was developed by a scientist, who when he first shared his findings had a 5 year old son and injected him, then told the onlookers/potential buyers/other parents to come back in 20(?) years. When they did, their children were adults and no longer needed them or were ungrateful layabouts, and the scientist's son was still 5 years old, cute, needy, etc.  The main character has a discussion about how he wants to turn 6 with his parents and they agree but only because he's already learned to read and it's irreversible.  It's kinda dark and emphasizes the need that parents have to feel wanted. Please help! I remember it so vividly and I'd love to read it again!
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I work at a nursery and I have a hard time managing the toys that the kids play with. I watch them put things in their mouths, cough and sneeze on the toys, and throw everything on the ground. Even though I see all of these things, it is hard to find the time to clean all of the toys, simply because there are too many and I do not have that much time. Any input would be appreciated!
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My son is 17 months old with a regular routine in a nuclear family.  0700 awake 0745 in nursery Full day of nursery 1730 pick up from nursery 1800 relaxing time with mum and dad 1830 bath time 1900 story / quiet time 1920 bottle of warm whole milk 1930 bedtime  As a family we have the usual toddler tears you would expect with bedtime and handle them accordingly but the real reason for this question occurs between the hours of 2300 and 0500. Randomly, for 4 to 5 minutes, he will wake up in absolute hysterics screaming for his mother.  His eyes are closed and when picked up to be soothed he will not recognise us and continue the episode.  He is, as far as I can tell, still asleep during these periods but the screams are deafening. I don't know if this qualifies as a night terror? Sometimes the episode will manifest itself with him pushing himself away from us to the floor and running into other rooms (asleep).  Normally he will settle by the stair gate clutching it and shouting as if he has been abandoned and we (parents) are downstairs instead of next to him. The only remedy we have found is to have one or two bottles of milk on hand to give to him which normally soothe his distress until he falls back asleep. Context His mother is a fairly normal sleeper but I am a  sleeper; dreaming/hallucinating as soon as I close my eyes and not waking for any amount of noise or distraction.  Often my dreams are in full colour and my partner can have full, lucid conversations with me whilst I sleep which I cannot remember.  However, in 32 years I have never had a nightmare that I can recall so I don't know how to approach my son to help him deal with this sleeping problem.  I always found Hynagogic sleep a pleasant experience. Do any parents or medical professionals on these forums have experience and/or advice on how to support my son?
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My 2-year-old son won't fall asleep without having someone in his room with him. He doesn't want to be touched or held. He just wants you to sit in the chair. And after he does go to sleep he wakes up about 4 to 5 hours later, crying and screaming and is out of his bed and by the door. I go to him and give him a hug and put him right back in his bed. If I walk out he screams and won't go back to sleep for the rest of the night. If I stay he goes right back to sleep. But he wakes right back up when I walk out of his room.   I'm at a loss as to what to do. I've tried lots of stuff and nothing seems to work. It's almost as if he is having separation anxiety. I dont know what to do. Please help.
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I teach engineering at a community college in the US. I currently have a student with very poor hygiene. He stinks pretty badly, has obviously greasy hair, doesn’t change his clothes frequently, and I usually seat him in the back of the room (during exams and labs, when I have power over seating arrangements) so I don’t have to smell his (relatively strong) body odor.  This student has also spoken with a colleague of mine about his low self-esteem. He’s worried that he isn’t making friends, and doesn’t know if the people he hangs out with are hanging out with him because they want something from him (help with classwork) or because they are truly friends.   In my opinion, this student follows me around like a puppy, and he tries too hard to impress people (students and faculty alike). I am a young-ish female faculty member and I try to create very large boundaries, especially with my male students. As an example, he frequently finds the need to explain to me (in way too much detail) why he gets questions wrong on exams (I don’t care, and I don’t need to know, which I’ve told him several times with no success).  So, I would like to mention to this student that his hygiene is off-putting and isn’t helping him out in the friends department. However, because he already follows me around like a puppy dog, I don’t want to encourage any more interaction from him. Additionally, it frankly embarrasses me to have to bring up hygiene issues with somebody in their late teens / early twenties. How can I bring this issue up while still maintaining my boundary as a female faculty member who doesn’t want her male students following her around and asking her for advice all the time?  I was hoping that I would be finished up with this student by now, but I am the only professor who teaches Electrical Engineering courses, so I can’t recommend that he take classes with someone else, or ask another colleague to discuss this with him. He will be taking another of my courses next semester and I don’t personally know any of his other intended professors for next semester to ask them to bring it up.
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My 3-month-old son has started sleeping through the night, with a vengeance. He sleeps for hours. And when he finally wakes up and I expect him to be starving, he's often still ready to happily play for a bit - say 1/2 hour to 45 min. Now, I know this isn't such normal behavior for a 3-month-old, and I'm definitely appreciating having my nights back, but I'm also a bit concerned - how long is the longest I should let him go without eating?  Edit (more details):  I used to try to stretch him and make his last feeding right before I went to sleep, so that I could take full advantage of his sleep-time. So we used to put him to bed about 12:30-1:00, and then head to sleep ourselves. He started off going about 6-7 hours... But a couple of weeks ago he started sleeping longer, and longer, and longer... Now he goes nearly 12 hours. He'll go to sleep at 12:30 AM and wake up at 12 PM or later. And he'll then happily play for another half hour, making about 12 hours of no-eating. I generally trust that I can rely on him to tell me when he's hungry, but I was wondering if there's a limit to how long I can let him go without eating...
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My 22-month-old daughter absolutely hates getting her hair wet.  At bathtime, she complains (crying, but without tears) when I pour water on her head in preparation for washing her hair (even if I'm careful not to get the water in her face and ears). She doesn't mind when I wash the hair. Rinsing is the same. Wetting her hair by having her lean back into my hand and dipping the back of her head is the same...she's very emotionally uncomfortable in this position. (Once, I even put her on her back in the empty bathtub before turning the water on, and she panicked and got up very quickly.)  I imagine this goes back to something we must have done earlier - my wife suggested that we might have gotten water in her ears when she had ear infections. Either way, the real question here is, what can we do to help her overcome this?
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Baby is 2 years 2 months old.  What will happen if we don't stop and at what age should we stop? Why?  From: What to Expect The Toddler Years (Arlene Eisenberg, ‎Heidi Murkoff, ‎Sandee Hathaway - 2009)     Even if a child doesn't show any such interest, family nudity could become a problem by age three, when it's believed that some children unconsciously become sexually stimulated by parental nudity, and are confused and embarrassed by these feelings. So it's probably wise to start donning bathrobes and segregating showers by your toddler's third birthday. You can explain such a change by saying, 'Now that you're older, you need to have some privacy, and so do I.'
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When the shower is running and someone flushes a toilet, why does the shower get cold (or sometimes hot) in some houses, but not others?  More importantly, would fixing that require replacing the water heater, or re-doing the piping in the entire house?  Or is there some cheap/easy way to fix it?
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Our 21 month old toddler will use the potty when we leave her bottom bare - she has been successfully doing this for a month. Tired of cleaning stinky diapers, we leave her bottom bare when she is home.   She doesn't particularly enjoy wearing diapers, and when we put one on her, she doesn't take the initiative to tell us that she has to use the potty. However, when we have company over, we put a diaper on her.  We are trying to transition her into wearing panties; however, she is very opposed to them. She equates them with pants and doesn't want to wear them. While she is fully capable of dressing herself in pants, she hasn't mastered taking her pants off yet.   How do you introduce underwear to your child? When do people normally introduce underwear to their child? How do I explain the concept of having to take her panties off before using the potty?  We in no way want to discourage her use of the potty, as she seems to really enjoy pooing/peeing outside (she claps for herself whenever she uses the potty). But if she is interested in potty training herself, I do want to show her the concept of an underwear.
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I was reading the news on Yahoo and found a mistake (as per my opinion). I need your valuable feedback to make sure if it was a mistake or I am wrong! It is a paragraph on Yahoo. Please check and let me know.  On Yahoo:     There has been a shift of power, control and decision making from the   parents and elders of the family to the individuals themselves. That   is not saying that parents and the family is not involved in the   decision, but there is much more emphasis placed on what the   individuals want, what they are looking for and who they will be   compatible with.   As per my opinion:     There has been a shift of power, control and decision making from the   parents and elders of the family to the individuals themselves. That   is not saying that parents and the family are not involved in the   decision, but there is much more emphasis placed on what the   individuals want, what they are looking for and who they will be   compatible with.   Thanks in advance.
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My youngest (14 months) has started showing signs of either strabismus or ambylopia (both commonly referred to as "lazy eye", where one eye seems to track differently than the other when the child is tired or isn't focusing).  We're going to see an ophthalmologist once the pediatrician weighs in and recommends one, and I'm interested in suggestions for what I should look for in an ophthalmologist, and in what we should do to prepare for the visit.  Particularly, how important is it that we find one that specifically mentions these conditions as things they specialize in?  They're fairly common conditions (affecting over 4% of children), so I would expect most pediatric ophthalmologists to have as one of their main purposes helping to diagnose and treat lazy eyes; but many do not mention them in their list of specializations.    And, in terms of preparation, do we need to keep track of time or length of lazy eye bouts?  Should we take any videos?  Our pediatrician hasn't noticed this in her periodic checks, but I suspect that he's more focused during these visits (a person he's not that used to, who is talking a lot to him).  I worry the ophthalmologist will have the same problem - not be able to diagnose because of lack of presentation during the visit.
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Finn tells Han that he worked in "Sanitation" on Starkiller.  FINN The flooding tunnels are over that ridge. We'll get in that way. HAN What was your job when you were based here? FINN Sanitation. HAN Sanitation? Then how do you know how to disable the shields? FINN I don't. I'm just here to get Rey   It just occurs to me - the "I was in sanitation" line given to Han seems to be the only actual canon evidence of "Sanitation" job.   But was it the truth"?!?!  Finn is always trying to create a positive impression of himself with the Resistance, from the get-go:   He tells Poe that he's rescuing him because that's the "Right thing to do" (with Poe quickly seeing through the fib: "You need a pilot!") He tells Rey that he's Resistance (she buys that because she's a romantic 19 year old still playing with X-Wing pilot helmet) He tells Han that he's Resistance (that one lasts about a minute - Han was not a romantic 19 year old even at 19 :)   In reality, we know that he was 1% of his class, model stormtrooper cadet, personally groomed for promotion by Captain Phasma (; ).  However, I am pretty sure telling Han "Hey, I was 1% of my class, model stormtrooper cadet, groomed for promotion by Captain Phasma"  isn't high on his list of brand management plans.  Far better to pretend to be a lowly "sanitation" worker than top-flight cadet that he really was.  So, my question is - do we have any direct canon evidence proving that the "sanitation" job was real and not a fib to make himself look better to Han/Resistance?  Knowing where trash compactor was isn't direct evidence, though it is circumstantial one.