what to say to a friend who is in a bad relationship?
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['Violence is never ok.', 'I am afraid (or concerned) for your safety.', 'I am here for you when you want help.', 'You do not deserve to be treated this way.', 'You did not cause this.', 'You cannot change your partner or the way they choose to act.']
1191509
['“Though she be but little, she is fierce!” ... ', '“The course of true love never did run smooth.” ... ', '“Lord, what fools these mortals be!” ... ', '“And yet,to say the truth, reason and love keep little company together nowadays.” ... ', '“Lovers and madmen have such seething brains,']
793469
“Laura, I value you immensely, but I want to be honest. I feel like I'm not the same person I was at the start of this relationship, and I can't give you what you deserve.” Instead of using harsh phrasing like “I don't love you anymore” (which will come as a shock), explain that your feelings have changed.
959340
["“I don't know exactly what to say, but please know how much I care.”", '“What can I do for you?”', "“I'm always here if you ever want to talk.”", "“I'm so sorry this happened to you.”", 'Use humor, but only if you know it will be received positively. ... ', 'No words, just listen.']
260687
If they're very upset and you don't think humor would be appropriate, text them to ask if they want to talk about the problem, and offer genuine support by saying things like, “I'm so sorry that happened to you,” or, “I'm here for you.” Remind the person of the things you love about them, and invite them to hang out ...
669850
['No worries.', "It's fine.", 'No problem.', "Please don't let it happen again.", 'Apology accepted.', "It's okay.", "Don't mention it.", 'You should be, but I forgive you.']
580316
Don't belittle her feelings by saying things like "well at least you still have X" or "it's going to get better" — instead, tell your friend you're sorry she's going through a tough time and let her know that you're there for her.
161359
Talk to your friend about the betrayal. Communicate your feeling to them and explain why you felt betrayed. You can say something like, "I felt betrayed and felt like you didn't care about my feelings or well-being. It really put me in a negative space and made me feel like I didn't want to be your friend anymore."
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["I'm so sorry to hear the news. I know how much time you devoted there. ... ", "I understand how scared (or angry, frustrated or sad) you're feeling. ... ", 'Do you want to talk about it?', 'Do you want to get together?', 'What do you need from me?', 'How can I help?', 'Everything happens for a reason.', "That's horrible news!"]
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['Thank you. ... ', 'I appreciate your perspective. ... ', 'This conversation is now over. ... ', 'Why do you feel that was necessary, and do you really expect me to answer? ... ', 'That almost hurt my feelings. ... ', "You're right. ... ", "You always have something negative to say, don't you? ... ", 'I love myself, and I love you, too.']
717324
Admit you're not sure what to say, but that you support your friend and love them even when they're sad. Tell them that in good times, too. You don't need a reason to show a friend you value her.
1119562
["I need to process that we're no longer together — can we take a break from talking and texting every day?", 'Can you walk me through what happened, from your perspective?', 'Moving forward, what do you need from me?']
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["I'm sorry for this trouble.", 'Please tell me more about …', "I can understand why you'd be upset.", 'This is important — to both you and me.', 'Let me see if I have this right.', "Let's work together to find a solution.", "Here's what I'm going to do for you."]
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['Cheer up! ... ', "To be honest with you, I don't have the words to make you feel better, but I do have the arms to give you a hug, ears to listen to whatever you want to talk about, and I have a heart: a heart that's aching to see you smile again."]
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To start a conversation, it can help to say things like 'I know this is very difficult, but maybe it would help if we talked about how we feel, and what the future may bring'. Let them know that you feel sad too. Sharing feelings will help you both cope better.
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['Say good-bye in person, face to face. ... ', 'Choose the “least worst” time and place. ... ', 'Practice saying the words that will end your relationship. ... ', "Talk about your boyfriend's strengths. ... ", 'Allow yourself to grieve and feel guilty. ... ', "Tell the truth: you don't know what to say."]
533469
['"I Love You" ... ', '“Pack Your Gym Bag. ... ', '"Let\'s Try To Stay Off Social Media, OK?" ... ', '“Just Wanted You To Know That I\'m Thinking About You" ... ', '"Things Might Suck Right Now, But Everything Is Going To Be OK" ... ', '"Anything You Want To Do, Let\'s Do It" ... ', '“It\'s OK To Be Sad"']