what to say to a friend who is going to have surgery?
148707
['“Hope you get to feeling better soon!”', "“Looking forward to seeing you back at practice when you're ready.”", '“Wishing you well.”', '“Take extra good care!”', "“Here's to you—steadier, stronger and better every day.”", "“We hope you're taking it slow and easy right now.”", '“Take your sweet time getting well!”']
1373565
Keep it simple - "I'm so sorry for your loss." or "If there's anything you need like dinner/a ride/an errand done, please let me know." Stay away from stuff like "he's in a better place now" or "at least he's not in pain anymore" - those are little comfort to someone who is grieving.
877765
['What kind of surgery do you recommend for me?', 'Why do I need to have this procedure?', 'How much of my breast will be removed?', 'What are the risks and side effects of this surgery?', 'What are the risks if I decide not to have this surgery?', 'What are my options for anesthesia?', 'What are the risks of anesthesia?']
1327810
['Do I need to have surgery? ... ', 'What would happen if I wait six months? ... ', 'What complications can occur with this kind of surgery?', 'How many of these surgeries have you done?', 'What is the expected recovery time?', 'How many days will I be in the hospital after surgery?', 'Will I have physical therapy?']
1329179
I agree with /u/1leggeddog. This is the best way to express your condolences in my experience. If you know the person well enough - just do shit for them without them having to ask. Cook, drop by with drinks or to take a walk.
199311
If you are responding anyway, about another matter, you could say “I hope you and yours are well too.” If it is someone you feel closer to, and want to talk about any issues in your life, you could offer a little information. “Fine, just fine. Thank you for asking.” “And, how are Martha and the kids?”
1092079
['Listen to what your loved one is really saying. ... ', "Remember that it's not your fault. ... ", 'Be an advocate for your loved one. ... ', "Make sure the patient's physical needs are being adequately met."]
1364391
['Listen. ... ', 'Give advice only when you are asked. ... ', 'Educate yourself about cancer. ... ', "Support your loved one's treatment decisions. ... ", 'Remember the caregiver. ... ', 'Stay connected. ... ', 'Keep things normal.']
3249
['Why do I need this operation?', 'How will the operation be performed?', 'Are there other treatment options, and is this operation the best option for me?', 'What are the risks, benefits, and possible complications for this operation? ... ', 'What are my anesthesia options? ... ', 'What can I expect before the operation?']
1326547
"Know that I love you very, very much. My prayers and love will help carry you through this difficult time. And, when you come back, we're going to take that trip to Belize." If you're very close to the person having surgery, telling them you love them will always be the way to go.
1078217
A simple but heartfelt “I'm so sorry” is often the best thing to say. Steer away from platitudes, like “everything happens for a reason” or “this is a blessing in disguise.” A phrase like that might come across as trivializing your friend's pain. “It totally negates the feelings the person is having,” Machado says.
865240
['"That\'s how it is for girls. ... ', '"I hope that wherever you go next, you feel peace [and] you feel safe in a way that you never did here." ... ', '"F.M.L." ... ', '"Losing a good friend is never easy." ... ', '"It must be possible to swim in the ocean of the one you love without drowning."']
861819
['How will this operation help my child?', 'Is the surgery an inpatient or outpatient procedure?', 'How long will my child need to be in the hospital?', 'What type of incision will be used?', 'What medications will he need?']
1075117
['It can be hard to directly express deep feelings to someone else, but now is the time to do it. Tell your friend you love her and will miss her.', 'Sometimes "goodbye" is too hard to say. A hug and a sincere smile will tell your friend everything she needs to know.']
772094
['I want to help you. What night can I drop a dinner off for you?', "I can't imagine how you must feel. I'm always here to talk if you need me.", "You're handling this with so much courage and strength. ... ", "I'm thinking of you.", 'I know someone whose child also has/had cancer.']
6998
['I am wishing you the best possible outcome.', 'May you find comfort and peace in your situation.', 'Though you may feel overwhelmed now, I hope things will get easier as you go on.', "I'll call you soon to find out exactly what I can do for you.", 'I am here for you if you need a friend.', 'You are in my thoughts and prayers.']
58312
["Don't say, “It's going to be OK” ... ", 'But do say something. ... ', "Do make clear that you'll be there for them. ... ", "Do be careful about saying, “I'll pray for you” ... ", 'Do try to create a semblance of normalcy. ... ', "Do ask how they're doing — today. ... ", 'Do be a good listener. ... ', "Don't get squirmy at the end."]