what to say to a friend who has cancer?
16165
["“I'm not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.”", "“I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this.”", '“How are you doing?”', "“If you would like to talk about it, I'm here.”", '“Please let me know how I can help.”', "“I'll keep you in my thoughts.”"]
703990
["I'm so sorry to hear that. ... ", "Whatever you're feeling is perfectly okay*. ... ", "I've been there. ... ", 'Have you got people you can talk to? ... ', "I can recommend a counsellor if you'd like one, although I know it's not for everyone. ... ", 'Here, have some food. ... ', "How's work? ... ", 'Have you watched this boxset?']
58312
["Don't say, “It's going to be OK” ... ", 'But do say something. ... ', "Do make clear that you'll be there for them. ... ", "Do be careful about saying, “I'll pray for you” ... ", 'Do try to create a semblance of normalcy. ... ', "Do ask how they're doing — today. ... ", 'Do be a good listener. ... ', "Don't get squirmy at the end."]
1226026
["“Whenever you need to call, I'm here.” ... ", '“I wish I could be there right now.” ... ', "“You're still in my thoughts. ... ", '“Your family is lucky to have you through all this.” ... ', "“Maybe I can't be there, but there's definitely something I can do. ... ", '“Hey, get well soon.']
1131690
["Don't wait. ... ", 'Be honest about the situation. ... ', 'Offer reassurance. ... ', 'Keep talking. ... ', "It's okay to laugh. ... ", 'Crossroads Hospice & Palliative Care provides support to terminally ill patients and their loved ones.']
754063
['later.', 'wait for her.', 'talk to you later. phr.', 'i hope.', 'till we meet again. phr.', 'peace be with you. phr.', 'until we meet again. phr.', 'respectfully yours with sincere gratitude. phr.']
675112
['What can I do to help?', 'What do you need from me?', 'You are strong. I believe in you.', 'Do you want to meet up?', 'Would you like to talk about it?', 'I understand how you must be feeling. ... ', "I'm so sorry. ... ", 'How are you feeling?']
569167
["“I know this wasn't an easy decision to make. ... ", "“I don't like this, but we're going to do our best with this time.”", "“I'm sad, of course, but I'm also glad you're in a place where you don't have to fight so hard anymore.”", "“I'm praying for you to feel at peace and to know how much you're loved.”"]
103588
["All good things must come to an end, but here's what I want you to know. ... ", "I'm sorry I hurt you. ... ", 'I cherish our time together. ... ', "I hope you've found an amazing BFF. ... ", "I don't regret it. ... ", 'You helped make me the woman I am.']
409975
['“Thank you.” ... ', '“Thank you for coming.” ... ', '“I appreciate that.” ... ', '“I was lucky to be able to share my life with him/her.” ... ', '“Thank you. ... ', '“Thank you for all your support during these difficult months.” ... ', '“Thank you for reaching out to me. ... ', '“Thank you.']
1318439
["I hear you have an illness in your family, I'll be thinking of you all. ... ", "I know we never really talk, but I wanted to let you know I'm here. ... ", "If you ever need a listening ear or want to grab a coffee, I'm around."]
28935
['Thinking of you during your difficult time. ... ', "I am so sorry you're going through this. ... ", 'Sending all of our love and support your way.']
370560
["I'm so sorry to hear the news. I know how much time you devoted there. ... ", "I understand how scared (or angry, frustrated or sad) you're feeling. ... ", 'Do you want to talk about it?', 'Do you want to get together?', 'What do you need from me?', 'How can I help?', 'Everything happens for a reason.', "That's horrible news!"]
116214
["Chronic disease: It sounds dire, but it's actually quite common. ... ", "“How's your pain?” ... ", '“Wow, that sucks.” ... ', "“You're spending more time in bed, and I'm worried.” ... ", '“If my plans need to change, no problem. ... ', "“You need to tell me what's going on.” ... ", "“I'm getting coffee. ... ", '“I have gossip.']
457477
['Be intentional, show sympathy, and offer a listening ear. ... ', "Instead of trying to come up with the perfect words, express your sympathy with a simple, “I'm so sorry for your loss.” Then be quiet and truly listen to your friend. ... ", "Even if you've sent a sympathy note, call to express your condolences."]
53285
['“I am so sorry to hear about your loss. ... ', '“May (name) rest in peace. ... ', '“Thinking of you in these difficult times.”', '“My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ... ', '“Thinking of you, wishing you hope in the midst of sorrow, comfort in the midst of pain.”']
514174
["Don't ask 'How are you?' ... ", "Don't just focus on their illness. ... ", "Don't make assumptions. ... ", "Don't describe them as 'dying' ... ", "Don't wait for them to ask."]