what to say to parents of disabled child?
6823
The most important thing to say is I'm here for you. Call/text me anytime. Offer to bring food to the hospital and ask what else they need which might include helping with other children at home, taking care of their pets temporarily, etc.
1011358
['Start by talking about what your kids think is happening. It helps to get an idea of how your kids think things are going. ... ', 'Talk about treatment. ... ', 'Use the right words. ... ', 'Know what reactions to expect. ... ', 'Be prepared to repeat this conversation.']
1134452
['Pick your battles. If your child tries to defy you in a fairly trivial situation, it can be helpful to let her do what she wants. ... ', 'Avoid saying “no” too often. ... ', "Know your child's triggers. ... ", "Don't give in."]
36990
['“So happy for you two! ... ', '“Ahhh! ... ', '“You two deserve every bit of happiness this baby is going to bring you.”', '“So many happy and wonder-filled times ahead for you… ... ', '“Warmest congratulations on the birth of your sweet baby girl!”', '“Love just got real. ... ', '“Welcome to the world, little one!']
1000722
['I Love You. ... ', "You're Not Alone. ... ", 'Everyone Needs Help Sometimes. ... ', 'How Are You Feeling? ... ', 'How Can I Help? ... ', "Let's Hang Out. ... ", "I'm Proud of You. ... ", "I Know You Are Struggling, But There's Always Hope."]
1421429
['Duty of care. A parent has a duty of care over their child to ensure that all their needs are met. ... ', 'Setting limits. ... ', 'Discipline.']
210152
['May I tell you about my child? ... ', "May I tell you about what's going on at home? ... ", 'How is my child doing socially? ... ', 'How is my child doing emotionally? ... ', 'In what areas does my child need improvement? ... ', 'What do you think my child is particularly good at?']
772094
['I want to help you. What night can I drop a dinner off for you?', "I can't imagine how you must feel. I'm always here to talk if you need me.", "You're handling this with so much courage and strength. ... ", "I'm thinking of you.", 'I know someone whose child also has/had cancer.']
1172230
["Encourage honesty. Kids need to know that their feelings are important to their parents and that they'll be taken seriously.", 'Help them put their feelings into words. ... ', 'Legitimize their feelings. ... ', 'Offer support. ... ', 'Keep yourself healthy. ... ', 'Keep the details in check. ... ', 'Get help.']
360817
["You're Doing a Great Job. She may not believe you, even if it's true. ... ", 'I Love You. ... ', 'Think of the Baby. ... ', "You're Going to Be a Great Mother. ... ", 'Awesome! ... ', 'Keep Going. ... ', "I'm Here for You. ... ", 'Just a Bit More.']
912326
['Start by simply asking how he/she is.', "Explore what it's like for him/her to have a sick family member.", 'Ask the person what would be helpful to him/her.', 'Follow up; more than one conversation is likely not enough.', 'Say simple yet supportive things.', "The number one rule is don't try to fix it."]
958487
["The court may order the parent of a disabled child to pay indefinitely, well beyond the child's 18th birthday. ... ", 'If a child secures emancipation, the parent may request an order terminating their obligation.', 'If the parents marry or remarry each other, the couple can request the court terminate the order.']
272409
["Talk to our kids. A lot of people, especially adults, don't directly acknowledge our kids. ... ", "Please don't act like the parents are invisible. ... ", 'Step in and help. ... ', 'Ask the “right” questions. ... ', 'Invite me for a coffee. ... ', "Don't bring religion into it, or make a comment on how amazing we are."]
918666
['Nothing. ... ', '"You only get given what you can handle." ... ', '"He/she is God\'s gift." ... ', '"I could never handle what you handle." ... ', 'The "R" word. ... ', '"Did you get genetic testing?" ... ', " ' ... ", '"Everything happens for a reason."']
199311
If you are responding anyway, about another matter, you could say “I hope you and yours are well too.” If it is someone you feel closer to, and want to talk about any issues in your life, you could offer a little information. “Fine, just fine. Thank you for asking.” “And, how are Martha and the kids?”
510720
["Please don't attempt to comfort by saying the following:", '1." It was for the best; something was wrong with the baby."', '2. " ... ', '3. " ... ', '4." ... ', '5." ... ', '6." ... ', '"I don\'t know how I would go on if that happened to me."']
701294
It is okay to use words or phrases such as “disabled,” “disability,” or “people with disabilities” when talking about disability issues. Ask the people you are with which term they prefer if they have a disability.